By kiera

January 9, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

hey i hope de dont

By WTF?

January 9, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this

Again, AJC is spotlighting bullshyt!!!! Why continue to put this mess in the spotlight?!!!! Such ignorance!!!

By Huh

January 9, 2008 12:09 PM | Link to this

Is this woman married?

As for Soulja Boy, somebody’s parents are gonna fvck him up if he keeps that mess up (I would)!!!! What ignorance!!!!

And thanks AJC for spotlighting it!!!

By Tasha

January 9, 2008 1:19 PM | Link to this

Congratulations Monica!!! You’ve seen so much struggle in your life- you happiness is deserved and overdue! I hope Baby Rock is excited too! Love, life and live!!! :) Um. I have no comment about Souljah Boy. No reason, I just don’t.

By Patrice

January 9, 2008 1:41 PM | Link to this

Monica is not setting a good example for the youth keep having babies out of wedlock that is not cute!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By notagain

January 9, 2008 1:42 PM | Link to this

@huh, who cares if she isnt married, Are You? Congratulations. People put too much stress on these horrible marriages, and its mostly single unhappy people. I am sure her paycheck is more than yours.

By woman

January 9, 2008 1:56 PM | Link to this

Congrats Monica!!!

By Deana

January 9, 2008 2:00 PM | Link to this

I agree Patrice, how great of an example…. What is really going with this generation? BTW notagain, I am dissapointed by the fact that this generation cares nothing about respect for themselves or anyone else for that matter and I don’t care how much her paycheck is, it doesn’t substitute for those children being legally called b******* because their parents aren’t responsible. No amount of money can remove that title.

By What?!

January 9, 2008 2:03 PM | Link to this

notagain, you are seriously what’s wrong with the black community, sista. I can only assume you, like me, are a black woman.

SHE should care that she’s not married and her paycheck has nothing to do with it. Money doesn’t replace responsibility, queen. All her money does is perpetuate the stereotype and vicious cycle that she will undoubetdly pass along to her sons that it’s “ok to breed without a foundation”. That old saying “but I take care of my kids” is a joke. That’s what you’re SUPPOSED to do! That’s not impressive. You want to do something for your children?… don’t send them to Spelman or bank roll their pipe dreams of becoming the next big rap producer or singer. GET MARRIED AND SHOW THEM WHAT RESPONSIBLE ADULTS DO!!!

People who say “they have more money than you” or “you’re just jealous” or “don’t hate, congratulate” about something like this are ignorant, ghetto, and uneducated. And like you said… probably unhappy single parents.

By michelle Smith

January 9, 2008 2:03 PM | Link to this

Congrat, Monica…..so what is she married or not with the number of broken marriages…..you can be married today and divorce tomorrow… and still end up a single parent…

an example of a bad example is the continue practice of racism

By michelle Smith

January 9, 2008 2:03 PM | Link to this

Congrat, Monica…..so what is she married or not with the number of broken marriages…..you can be married today and divorce tomorrow… and still end up a single parent…

an example of a bad example is the continue practice of racism I love all of her music

By Tiffy

January 9, 2008 2:11 PM | Link to this

Stop hating on Monica. Because if it was not ment for her to have this little bundle of of joy, she would not have him.

By flower

January 9, 2008 2:12 PM | Link to this

When is enough, enough. Please quit glamorizing those in the spotlight who continue make poor decisions. There is no difference between Monica and anyone else who continues to have children out of wedlock, except maybe you continue to publish it. She eveidently is afraid to make a commitment to herself and to family.

By Single and black

January 9, 2008 2:13 PM | Link to this

Thank you yet again super moralists for arguing and overshadowing the fact that SHE HAD A BABY…A PRECIOUS MIRACLE. Not suprisingly, her joy turns into a debate on unwed mothers…like she doesn’t know she’s unwed OR even cares what you think. Congrats Monica.

By Deana

January 9, 2008 2:15 PM | Link to this

You’re right Tiffy, God must be so proud…..

By Kim

January 9, 2008 2:15 PM | Link to this

Patrice:

While a married couple may provide a child with a traditional upbringing, that does not mean that child will turn out any better than a child who is raised by a single parent. Many people choose to raise children on their own; in this age, the traditional family structure just doesn’t work for everyone (like gay couples). Ultimately, it is better to raise a child alone than to see them suffer from the effects of a divorce (remeber divorce rate is 50% in US).

By What?!

January 9, 2008 2:18 PM | Link to this

Ms. Smith - that is a weak argument for someone, rich or not, to get pregnant without being married.

Being married takes work, dedication, commitment, tears, sweat, and unequivocal LOVE. If you can’t do that with the person you’re laying down and giving your body to, why are you laying down and giving your body to him/her?

Don’t bring up racism. Has nothing to do with the topic at hand. Some of my people kill me with that - don’t have anything substantial to say in defense of out-of-wedlock child bearing, so the subject gets changed to racism, money, or “it’s going to happen anyway, who cares?”

Please black people… wake up. There’s nothing fashionable, cute, or womanly about being pregnant without a ring. You think just because someone can afford maternity clothes, they should bear children???

Sheesh. My head hurts.

By Ihatepoiliticalcorrectness

January 9, 2008 2:19 PM | Link to this

Just another incident where “money can’t buy class.”

You can take the girl out of the ghetto, but it’s hard to get the ghetto out of the girl.

By Rocky

January 9, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this

Congrats, to Monica. She’s a awesome singer, and what’s really important is the blesing she has brought into this world. Lets all recognize that!!

As for Soulja boy. I have a eight year old son that loves his song mainly for the beat and dance. Let’s give him some slack and hope that he can out live the rumors, and continue on his journey, with dancing songs for the kids!

By Shaunte'e

January 9, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this

Congrats Moncia, on your new baby! I agree with Michelle you can be married today and divorce the next. What really matters is that the children are being loved and care after. Being married is not everything it is cracked up to be in the first place. I know the proper way of doing things is to get married first before having children. But, in life things happen out of order. Monica is NOT setting a bad example for other young women. Because she can take care of her kids. Sitting a bad example would be if she was having kids and could not take care of them. That would be a different story. BUT THAT IS NOT THE CASE!

By brion

January 9, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

WELL WELL WELL, ANOTHER B******* CHILD BORN IN THIS WORLD….CONGRATULATION MONICA, IVE BEEN ONE FOR 30 YEARS..LETS POP A FEW BOTTLES AND BRUSH OFF THE HATER..LOL….

By Rhonda T.

January 9, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

CONGRATS MONICA on your new addition. And she doesn’t have to married to have a child. Most times they’re better off without the second parent anyway. The mothers do all the work and provide the services while the men play games. Marriage doesn’t make things happy all the time. It’s your own choice to make. YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!

By mimi

January 9, 2008 2:23 PM | Link to this

It does not matter if she is married or not, as long as her children are well cared for, which I’m sure they are. Getting married just because you have children is wrong and more times than not ends in divorce or the married couple being miserable which they pass down to their children. Some of the most powerful, most influential people of our time have been raised by single parents.

By One

January 9, 2008 2:23 PM | Link to this

I see this blog is filled with ignorant, uneducated (and I don’t mean scholastically) folks with that ghetto mentality that we can just sit up and spit out as many children as we want without ever having sense enough to try and give them a firm foundation. Everyone keeps saying “who cares what you think”, but guess what, that includes YOU!! Who cares what you think?! In God’s eyes, two should be wed before procreating. But of course, all our little ghetto mentality cares about is how much somebody makes, or what celebrity status they have. IGNORANCE!!! Same goes for TI and his drug addicted baby mama, Tiny!! Just further perpetuating the ignorant stereotypes!!! “Lay up and make babies without any regard for anyone but self, have unprotected sex without regard for anyone but self!!!” And then society grins and eats that nonsense up!! IGNORANCE!!!! I’m glad my child does not idolize any of these ignorant people!

By lavender

January 9, 2008 2:23 PM | Link to this

Monica has two kids out of wedlock and several years back she had an abortion. She’s no role model at all.

By Kinsman Redemmer

January 9, 2008 2:23 PM | Link to this

Planned Parenting at it’s worse. And as for Soulja, dude you better start wearing a tube sock. Dont want to end up on one of those HIV billboards.

By Kinsman Redeemer

January 9, 2008 2:24 PM | Link to this

Planned Parenting at it’s worse. And as for Soulja, dude you better start wearing a tube sock. Dont want to end up on one of those HIV billboards.

By Truth Teller

January 9, 2008 2:24 PM | Link to this

Soulja Boy is going to end up 4-F (that’s the selective service designation for medically unable to serve for you dummies) if he doesn’t stop messing with these young girls!

By JT

January 9, 2008 2:25 PM | Link to this

Congrats Monica!!!! How unique and awesome of you to have a baby out of wedlock!! That’s so fine! And a boy too? Will you be grooming him to join the Crips or the Bloods? I need to know so I know whether to send something blue or something red…..

Such ghetto lifestyles are the misery of our people.

By What?!

January 9, 2008 2:26 PM | Link to this

Babies are precious! I couldn’t agree more! But a miracle… c’mon. That’s stretching it. She’s had one before, so it’s not THAT miraculous. Now if she were a virgin - THAT would be miraculous.

By TEE

January 9, 2008 2:28 PM | Link to this

I agree- although motherhood is a beautiful thing- continuing to procreate outside of wedlock is unacceptable. We are accepting anything in this day and age. I am glad that my mom taught me to first be able to have a real, sustainable relationship ( as in marriage ), with a good man BEFORE I started popping out his babies!

And WHO in their right mind would want to sleep with a little boy who loves to “supaman dat *&%!”. the lack of respect these young girls (and sometimes not so young women) have for themselves is mind-boggling!

THE NUMBER ON UACCEPTABLE THING TO DO IN 2008…DRUM ROLL PLEASE………

BE SOMEONES “BABY MAMA”!!!!!!!!

By Pooh

January 9, 2008 2:29 PM | Link to this

A miracle? How is it a miracle? She’s young and fertile. She didn’t have virgin birth - That’s a miracle! To call her getting knocked up out of wedlock a miracle is blasphemy in the name of our Lord, who was a virgin birth to his mother, Mary. His birth WAS a miracle. Surely you’re not equating some ghetto hoochie mama spreading her legs with the birth of our Lord?

By sharon

January 9, 2008 2:31 PM | Link to this

I thought the question/topic was whether or not we are ready for a new CD from Monica and what did we think of her last one? Oh well, I guess people will do what they do best (judge and criticize). Personally, I don’t care if she have children out of wedlock or not as long as she raises them to be good and productive citizens. I am not her judge or jury. Marriage does not guarantee you healthy, happy, productive children. Half of all marriages end in divorce anyway and most times the children suffers badly.

By What?!

January 9, 2008 2:35 PM | Link to this

One parent is better than two?! On WHAT planet?? The women who say that base it on their own failed relationships with Pookie and Tyrone! Sisters, start getting to KNOW these men before you let them enter your sanctuary! What happened to waiting a month or two to see what the brotha is really about? Oh no! Never that! It’s d*… he has a BIG one! (And that can mean his “junior” or his wallet!)

One parent is NEVER better than two! I don’t know what warped person started that. When a child is in trouble at school, with the law, or at home, what is the first thing people ask? WHERE’S HIS FATHER? (Sorry brothas, not trying to play the sex card, but that IS the prevailing question. But that another blog!)

Yes, single parenting CAN be done. Monica’s obviously proven that! But SHOULD it be done???? A resounding NO!

Can I get an amen?

By truthbtold

January 9, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

@notagain, Someone should care-with over 70% of Black children being born out of wedlock (B*******), and those children growing up to repeat the process (not learning from their parents mistakes), there is a tremendous amount non-planning going on. What’s the plan? To have a baby by Myself, raise the child until the child is grown, and has it’s own baby by his/her self to do the same thing? These are not even families being produced by the generations of young, starstruck, money hungry young people permeating society today. These are broken households, producing more broken households at an alarming pace with no fear of contracting STD’s (as if AIDS didn’t teach anyone a thing), or having an unwanted pregnancy.There used to be a time when it was Shameful to have a child out of wedlock, but in today’s society there’s no shame about anything. I mean people actually congratulate a b******* birth, and no one like the sound of that phrase. Just look up the definition of a B*******, and see if it has a celebratory tone or not? The size of her paycheck is irrelevant also, money can’t buy everything, especially Values and Morals. This is her “Second” child, so this is The Path and The Example she chose to set for her own kids. So let’s applause and celebrate another addition to her family.

By Romeo

January 9, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

I am so HAPPY for Monica!!!! Wishing her the best for her and her family. Cant wait for her new Cd to drop.

By Elroy Cohen

January 9, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

“God must be so proud”? What bible are you reading?! Evidently your copy doesn’t mention anything about fornication. In any event, if Monica wants another kid, I’ll gladly give her what she deserves. I can be reached at 281 330-8004. Peace.

By So Sorry...

January 9, 2008 2:39 PM | Link to this

I see a lot of ignorant black people on here, glorifying out-of-wedlock births like its a good thing.

As a black man born out of wedlock, and as someone who is aware of the disadvantages of being raised by a single mother,I say shame on you for your pathetic ignorance.

That kind of pathetic mindset is why 65% of black kids are now born out of wedlock…and the social consequences are ENORMOUS.

By travis

January 9, 2008 2:39 PM | Link to this

I am sooo sorry the Martin Luther King, Jr. and so many other black leaders who gave their life for these young black kids/adults to behave the way that they do. Kids out of wedlock, fatherless homes, boys wearing pants saggin’, lacking education, high A.I.D.S. rate, high dropout rate, high incareration rates, gold tooth having’, solja boy dancin’…Lawd have mercy!!!

By TMC

January 9, 2008 2:40 PM | Link to this

Correction Rhonda T, most times a child is better off with both parents. Not the opposite as you say. A child is better off with just the mother only when the father is abusive, useless, irresponsible, etc. But then again, what kind of woman would lay down with such a man and make a child? The woman chooses who the father of her child is. If she chooses badly, its her child who suffers.

By Tonia

January 9, 2008 2:44 PM | Link to this

Congratulations Monica!

By truthbtold

January 9, 2008 2:44 PM | Link to this

Even this blog is screening out the word bstard which demonstrates the Negative connotation. Definition Bstard: a person born of unmarried parents; an illegitimate child.

By AN EDUCATED BLACK MAN

January 9, 2008 2:45 PM | Link to this

It amazes me how the black women here just brush off having babies as a blessing of God. I personally believe God is not pleased with none of this. The evidence of the baby not only shows that Monica is a person of know morals. But it also shows that she is easy, loose, and just a ghetto “hoochie Mama” (x2). I don’t care how much money she has, money can’t buy morals. Monica can’t even at this point say she didn’t mean to get pregnant. THIS IS HER SECOND BABY !!!!. She’s just a Ho with money. My friends and i were in the presence of Soulja boy when he made the statement ” that baby aint mine. I didn’t get that Ho prgenant. I did hit it though !!”. Monica and all of you loose women like her are the reason other races call you things like “nappy headed hos” and other, in my opinion, very befitting names. The reason a man of any substance don’t date women like all you Monica admirers, is because when WE meet you, you always have 1,2, or 5 kids and never been married. I might consider a woman with 1 kid. But she better have a damn good excuse for not that one. But I will NEVER date, screw, kick it, hook up, or even socialize with a woman with 2 kids. You women are stupid.

By seriously

January 9, 2008 2:46 PM | Link to this

who cares if she is married or not…im pretty sure she would be if her long time boyfriend was still here (RIP). Just because you are not married and you have children does not make you less of a person to the next person. Monica do your thing…all single moms..do your thing and don’t listen to the hype about marriage. Think seriously about marriage before you jump into it. The percentage of failed marriages are getting greater and greater…it’s nothing to joke about. Monica is old enough to make smart decisions. She knows what is best for her so why bash her for it?!?!? Now if she was still a teenager or something that would be another issue.

As far as soulja boy…whether it is ture or not…BOY STRAP UP and focus on your career before it is all taken away from you….

By What?!

January 9, 2008 2:46 PM | Link to this

No Sharon, the question at the end of the BABY ANNOUNCEMENT was about her upcoming CD! Check out the title page - Atlanta BABY BUZZ!

Please someone help me to understand the women who say 50% of all marriages end in divorce and they wind up hurting the children anyway. Do they mean they fail from a lack of understanding? Commitment? Judgement? Maturity? What??!

If that’s a problem for you, then don’t get married! And DON’T procreate! End of story!!!

You know before you open your legs or say “I Do” that many marriages DO fail. But when you take that man/woman’s ring, you are promising to COMMIT! To leave the juvenile crap you were doing BEFORE marriage BEHIND! If you can’t do that, then don’t jump over the damn broom and DON’T spread ‘em while sipping chardonnay and listening to Luther!!!!

By seabreeze

January 9, 2008 2:46 PM | Link to this

Monica is very talented and I wish her well. The last CD was excellent and just not promoted.

Giving birth and becoming a mother is a beautiful experience. Ideally, it would ge great if she was happily married before becoming a mother. However, I applaud her for choosing to have her child.

By seabreeze

January 9, 2008 2:47 PM | Link to this

Monica is very talented and I wish her well. The last CD was excellent and just not promoted.

Giving birth and becoming a mother is a beautiful experience. Ideally, it would ge great if she was happily married before becoming a mother. However, I applaud her for choosing to have her child.

By seabreeze

January 9, 2008 2:47 PM | Link to this

Monica is very talented and I wish her well. The last CD was excellent and just not promoted.

Giving birth and becoming a mother is a beautiful experience. Ideally, it would ge great if she was happily married before becoming a mother. However, I applaud her for choosing to have her child.

By Mark

January 9, 2008 2:47 PM | Link to this

WELL, really don’t care about Soulja…who? no comment on him. However back to MONICA’S MUSIC, I did not like making of me. I know that she comes off hood, but she is like 26 or 27 and maturity should be shown on the album. After the Storm was a mature album and good music. the making of me lack that. the first single was wack and not for her. I want her to talk about real issue and not hood, ghetto stuff. Although Brandy is not have great success, her music continues to flourish and become more intimate with her fan base. Monica is not. It is all over the place. So, the question was Am I ready? I have to hear the first single and then get back to me :)

P.S: Half of you guys are not setting an example for people so stop talking about her. Some of you guys probably had a one night stand last night, get over it. Congrats Monica!!!

By trudat

January 9, 2008 2:52 PM | Link to this

Soulja is the baby daddy of Monica, and every other gul in Atlanta it seems, wasn’t he shot in the face recently?

oh…and she still is a recording artist? Can’t tell by the shwag she has been putting out recently….

NEXT subject please!!!!!!

Y A W N……

By Bob

January 9, 2008 2:54 PM | Link to this

What a wonderful role model for young African Americans…..I know I would want my young children looking up to a fine young man like Soulja Boy….(Insert sarcasm where you would like)…Way to go AJC!!!!

By T

January 9, 2008 2:54 PM | Link to this

Congrats to Monica. I hope that Soulja Boy doesnt have any kids. What he needs to do is enroll in an English and Grammar class!

By TruthHurts

January 9, 2008 2:54 PM | Link to this

How many of these babies are being born out of wedlock? Get married and legitimize these kids. There is no excuse for 70% of black babies being born out of wedlock!! You people need to get mad over that instead of Mike Vick, T.I., and who knocked over your drink at the Velvet Room!!

By DolemiteMfker

January 9, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

Cracnk that Child Support and Baby Momama/Daddy Drama? Sorry, “I Never Meant to Cause You No Pain”

By DolemiteMfker

January 9, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

Crank that Child Support and Baby Momama/Daddy Drama? Sorry, “I Never Meant to Cause You No Pain”

By What?!

January 9, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this

Seriously - I’m not going to put too much stock into your username, because you can’t be serious when you say: “Think seriously about marriage before you jump into it. The percentage of failed marriages are getting greater and greater…it’s nothing to joke about.”

And having children is a decision to be made lightly and with reckless abandon??! If you get knocked up after having unprotected sex, then oh well!

Wow. That sort of ignorance astounds me.

By Twindivamomma

January 9, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this

This is coming from a public school teacher. THIS IS WHY OUR SCHOOLS ARE FILLED WITH CRAZY CHILDREN BECAUSE OF THIS TYPE OF MENTALITY. DON’T BLAME THE SCHOOL BECAUSE KIDS ARE CRAZY! BLAME THEIR CRAZY MOMMAS AND THEIR DADDYS WHO ARE NO WHERE TO BE FOUND. Not all children have these issues but 90% of them DO!

By lala

January 9, 2008 2:58 PM | Link to this

WHY ARE WE DISCUSSING THESE PEOPLE? DO THEY KNOW WHO WE ARE? SO WHAT? SHE’S NOT THE FIRST AND DEFINITELY WONT’ BE THE LAST! I DON’T RECALL ANY POSTINGS ABOUT THE SPEARS SISTERS AND THEIR SAGAS?

By Readgodsworddaily

January 9, 2008 2:59 PM | Link to this

Everyone that posted a comment on this site is a hypocrite! You cannot follow one part of the Bible to accommodate your lifestyle. Waiting a few months before laying down with someone is still wrong. NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE, that’s exactly what’s stated in the Bible (1st Corinthians 6:9, 10, 18). No one wants to follow God’s instructions and have a relationship without sex, therefore, you suffer the consequences (divorce, diseases, single parents). This clearly is not the lifestyle of a TRUE Christian.

By TEE

January 9, 2008 3:01 PM | Link to this

Her last cd was okay- a few good tracks, a few to pass over. Monica is a talented artist with a beautiful voice. I think she needs better writers and more powerful producers to bring her back to the status that she had as an artist back in the day. I’ve bought all of her music and will continue to do so.

No one is judging her as a mother- she is probably a very good mom. Yes, she and her “babies daddy”(Rocko- Imma do me), both have decent incomes and can economically raise a child. But where is the solid family structure? Truth is if you marry the person that God has for you instead of who you “think” is for you- your marriage will last and you will be able to raise a family the way that God intended.

And while the jury is still out on what type of relationships produce “better kids” ( is there even a such thing? ), I have never heard a troubled child say ” I have problems because my mom and dad are married and they are both always around”.

By font1

January 9, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this

It surely DOES matter that a woman is married before she gets pregnant. It’s about planning your life, not simply allowing life to happen to you. Children need a mother and a father in their home. I am the product of a two-parent household. I was married at 29, and had the first of my two children at 32. I have been happily married for 14 years. Yes, it does happen for black people who understand what commitment and sacrifice means. All of these broken families are destroying our country. How can a child raise a child and set a good example? Why are men fathering babies, with no plan to take care of their financial and emotional needs? If women thought more of themselves, they wouldn’t give these men the time of day. And they would practice birth control religiously, instead of counting on what a man tells them. It’s not a game, people! It’s not a game!!!

By WeedMan

January 9, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

Monica, you are no Britney Spears. However you both need a “HIT”

By Please

January 9, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

IGNORANT GHETTO MESS!!!!!!!!!!!!

By Mat

January 9, 2008 3:07 PM | Link to this

Some people should just be quiet. It is ignorant that she is popping out babies, and she is not married.
The previous comment about broken marriages was plain stupid. With your logic, I guess you don’t shower because you are just going to start stinking again anyway… why bother? Dumb. BTW - Racism has nothing to do with it. Sheesh!

By What?!

January 9, 2008 3:10 PM | Link to this

LaLa - why should Spears and her ilk be “our” concern? Name a black child that listens to Britney Spears???

By dustyred

January 9, 2008 3:12 PM | Link to this

To What?! and everybody else that’s critizing Monica. At least she’s mature enough and old enough to have a BABY…remember UNDER AGE JAIME LYNN SPEARS!!!!! Congrats Monica, a responsible and rich grown a$$ woman!!!

By tc

January 9, 2008 3:12 PM | Link to this

Ghetto is as ghetto does.

Were any of the “preening hoochies” from the Chingy/Ludacris video there for Monica’s most recent ba$tard child’s birth?

By Ms. B

January 9, 2008 3:14 PM | Link to this

If you guys had as much passion about the presidential debate as you have about whether Monica is a good role model or not, imagine where we would be as a nation.

You guys are putting way to much thought into this blog. Examine yourselves before you judge others.

By Twindivamomma

January 9, 2008 3:15 PM | Link to this

As a teacher in the public schools, this mentality is the reason why we are B-minus in our schools. Who is watching the kids while Momma is working? Where is the support of two parents, it takes a village to raise a child not a million dollar single parent.

By H from Marietta

January 9, 2008 3:17 PM | Link to this

Monica is very boneable in my honest opinion… Stuff happens!!!

By Mommyto2

January 9, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

CAN YOU SAY BIRTH CONTROL, PEOPLE?

By ROAD DOG

January 9, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

Brit Spears is married so I guess her children are in a better situation than single Monica! Not!

By Chris

January 9, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

More typical thug stuff huh? How about she names him the normal black names that have to be different? Also, who is taking bets on when her new son will be arrested for the first time and when Soulja (what?) will go to jail? I pray for the day when the thugs finally wipe each other out and we can have a nice, safe country again. 95% of murders in this country are by you thugs. Just turn on the news daily and you can hear about a shooting in SW Atlanta.

By What?!

January 9, 2008 3:19 PM | Link to this

Readgodword… yes you’re right. We’re are all hypocrites in some shape, form, or fashion.

However, when a “baby announcement” is made on a public forum, we are allowed to comment.

I had sex before marriage, so that makes me a sinner. And this isn’t a matter of which sin is worse: fornication or procreation outside of marriage.

In my honest opinion, in this day and age (NOT biblical times when women weren’t supposed to show their knees!) this is more of a social and moral issue than religious issue. You CAN have morals and values and NOT be religious, you know.

By Alex

January 9, 2008 3:23 PM | Link to this

Look at that picture of him and how dumb he looks! Why do you thugs think it is “cool” to wear a hat with a flat bill, backwards/sideways, with the sticker and tag still on it? How on Earth is that “cool?” Why can’t you freaks be normal??????

By font1

January 9, 2008 3:23 PM | Link to this

Being from the hood does not guarantee that you’ll be an unwed mother. Again, I had both parents in my home, which happened to be in the “hood.” And they had rules. We went to school, we got jobs, we went to college and we were not going to adopt a hood mentality. We didn’t have a choice about it. When I go back to the old neighborhood, I can see with my own two eyes the difference having both parents who set boundaries made in my life and that of my sisters. The “hood” girls all got pregnant and are still paying the consequences. And the guys, are drugged out. They don’t work. They have babies all over the place, and that’s just somebody else’s problem. My sisters and I graduated from college and became working professionals who would not settle for hoodlums for boyfriends or husbands. We couldn’t. Our dad set the example. That’s what growing up with two good, committed parents will do for you. If you didn’t experience growing up with two parents,please don’t subject your children to the same lifestyle! You have a choice! Again, plan your life!!!

By ESR

January 9, 2008 3:23 PM | Link to this

Another unwed black baby momma. Have blacks ever heard of getting married first? What’s the avergae age a black girl loses her virginity, it must be at about age 10. The jungle has it’s own set of values I suppose.

By John

January 9, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

The difference between Monica and Jamie Lynn Spears is that black culture celebrates (and therefore perpetuates) out of wedlock marriages and white culture condemns it.

Black culture: “YOU GO GIRL”

White culture: “You made a mistake”

By ROAD DOG

January 9, 2008 3:25 PM | Link to this

Chris you are an idiot. How many blacck child molesters does dateline catch on the show weekly? Go to Georgia department of corrections site and see how many whites are in for murders….while you are at it check and you will find way more on welfare d*******

By Money

January 9, 2008 3:26 PM | Link to this

* QUit making excuses about having kids out of wedlock. Why do we have condoms* She should use some of that money and buy a pack. If I had her address I would send her a case. But it is too late anyway

By ROAD DOG

January 9, 2008 3:30 PM | Link to this

Alex you must be talking about the young white kids because you just discribed them to a T. The next time you hear loud music coming out of a car…take a look….yep…young white thug.

By What?!

January 9, 2008 3:34 PM | Link to this

Dustyred - you’re entire post was just plain…. what’s the word? Dumb.

“At least she’s rich enough…”?????

Wow.

And Ms. B - I personally can’t wait until Super Tuesday! I stayed up until almost 11:00 last night watching the NH results, flipping back and forth from CNN to Fox News. I’ve posted on the political boards - check them out! Some of those old white dudes on that board don’t know what to think when a black woman knows the issues and has strong opinions! They result to name calling just like everyone else when they run out of substance.

By Kacy

January 9, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

Angelina Jolie isn’t married or Halle Berry, so what!

People make to much of a big deal about the marriage thing, stop judging people, she is a great mom and she is not sitting around on welfare using the system, thats when you should have a problem, she is not the 1st person to have kids out of wedlock and won’t be the last!

Congrats to Monica and Rock

and the Jolie-Pitts Rock

and I lovvvvve me some Halle Berry.

you judge one judge all .. what works for one person might not work for the other .. marriage is not for everyone!

Get over it Brady Bunch!

By H from Marietta

January 9, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

Just wanted to say if there’s been any scientific research on what race is the most fertile. Has there been? Just wondering because it’s gotta be either the blacks or Hispanics…

By Clark

January 9, 2008 3:40 PM | Link to this

Another single mom, hardly something to celebrate….keep going Monica, go for three, continue being a role model for the people

By Sara

January 9, 2008 3:42 PM | Link to this

…and just why should she be different than seventy-one per cent of all black women who have kids without a husband? She is simply following cultural tradition. The amazing thing to me is how accepted this practice is. Yes, you’re correct the younger Spears sister is pregnant at sixteeen and unwed, we all know this because it was such a big deal inthe press. It’s not such a big deal when a black female does it.

By SteveO

January 9, 2008 3:43 PM | Link to this

Question of the day: Who ends up on welfare first, Soulja or his kids?

By Rebecca

January 9, 2008 3:44 PM | Link to this

Soulja Boy musta did to much Yahhhhhhhhhhhhhlllllll

By What?!

January 9, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

“People make too big of a deal about the marriage thing!”

That is just too sad for words.

Thank the Lord my FATHER taught me some sense. I’m 34, married 10 years, with 2 children ages 5 & 3, and I’m STILL scared of the wrath of my father.

Angelina & Halle are just as wrong, but sadly, this wasn’t THEIR baby announcement/record promotion.

By Janetta

January 9, 2008 3:46 PM | Link to this

H from Marietta

Just wanted to say if there’s been any scientific research on what race is the most fertile. Has there been? Just wondering because it’s gotta be either the blacks or Hispanics

Everyone that is too irresponsible to use birth control is fertile.

By Tilla

January 9, 2008 3:47 PM | Link to this

People are saying on here that it doesn’t matter if she is married or not, but it does. The family structure is shot to hell. She didn’t make that baby on her own, why should she have to raise it on her own. The reason why the family structure of so messed up is because people are selfish and irresponsible. People’s priorities seem to be everywhere but where they should be. Some people have children just to be having them.

By What?!

January 9, 2008 3:51 PM | Link to this

ESR - if you’d taken the time to read these posts, you’d know just how foolish, stupid, and unnecessary your post really is. But, I’m sure your goal is to create some sort of uproar of racism. Sorry troll - go back to the Home & Garden blog. That’s more your speed.

By JustMe

January 9, 2008 3:51 PM | Link to this

I hope all of y’all giving that Simpson girl as much greif as y’all are giving Monica. Not only is she 16 years old, and unmarried, she’s not African American. SUrely you all have drug her white-trash name through the mud!

By hp

January 9, 2008 3:54 PM | Link to this

why hasnt anyone mentioned the fact that (last i knew), monica and her childrens’ father were in a commmited relationship. and i had the impression he is very involved with their first son, so why wouldn’t her second son get the same involvement? just because they arent married doesnt mean the father isnt in the picture. you act like she got knocked up during a one night stand. unless they broke up, they have been together for a few years now. dont assume that because there is no ring on her finger that the man has dipped. and even if thet are no longer together, that does NOT mean he will not be involved. Dang people, tend to your own yards.

By My black peole

January 9, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

YOu can’t marry a man who doesn’t want to Marry you.. How about our black men stop Knocking women up and stick around after the birth. And how about black women stop wearing single parent hood as a badge of honor.

By lagirl

January 9, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

How ignorant for the AJC, radio stations/personalities, magazines or any other form of media to continue to glorify publishing this type of BS. In the eyes of the BEHOLDER and what the bible teaches us - people continue to live wicked lives. It amazes me! Just the other day in the AJC, I read that TI is having his second child with his longtime girlfriend and that this child with make #5. This is NOT current news to report. It makes me sick of the stomach. As the teacher wrote - children in school today are CRAZY, disrespectful, don’t care, don’t want to learn and the list goes on. My heart and soul aches when I see our young children cursing, dancing provocative, pants hanging to the knees, cleavage showing, tattoos and just acting a plain fool. Where are our morales and values in life?

You have to keep your children uplifted in prayer at all times.

By Angela

January 9, 2008 3:57 PM | Link to this

To “An Educated Black Man,” “Pooh,” and anyone else who called Monica harsh names like “ghetto ho” and “hoochie,” I agree whole heartedly that she should should have gotten married before she started procreating, but damn, ya’ll are really harsh with calling her all of those derogatory names. You are no better than Don Imus when he called those college basketball women “nappy headed hos.” I am a thirty year old married African-American woman who has NEVER been pregnant and would have been sooooooooooo ashamed to have become pregnant out of wedlock, so I do not believe in having children out of wedlock, but I wouldn’t go so far as to call Monica a “ghetto ho.” At least she was in her twenties before she started having children. I mean, look at Jamie Lynn Spears who is only 16. What would you call her? To “truthbtold” who said there used to be a time when it was shameful to have a child out of wedlock, I am only thirty years old and I think its extremely shameful to have a child out of wedlock. That is why I did everything in my power to make sure that I never became pregnant before I got married. I didn’t even want to get pregnant a few weeks before my wedding even though my parents viewed it like we were already practically married. I don’t want to be a “baby mama,” I want to be married with children. I am not the only one who thinks it’s shameful to have a baby out of wedlock in this day and age, I have five single attractive friends in their late twenties/ early thirties who have not had children out of wedlock. I will say this about Monica though, first time shame on you, second time shame on me. Monica, please let this be the last baby you have out of wedlock. You should think more of yourself and want more for yourself than to continue having children out of wedlock!

By Ithappened2me

January 9, 2008 4:00 PM | Link to this

Hi everyone! Congratulations to Monica on her new addition. OK on the hot topic here is my 2 cents. I am 35 yr old BW. I have been married and divorced twice, and just found out I am expecting my first child! My feelings….I was born without my father, and i swore I would never want this for my child. You know what? I make good money, and i can and will do this without being married. But it’s no substitute for a solid family unit. Family is important to me, and i want my child to know the value of a solid foundation. Its not a dream people…marriages don’t have to end as they do, many of us take for granted the hard work that goes into a marriage. Adversity will allways be there you have to know how to handle it and work together without that u have nothing and are living a lie. Children out of wedlock should not be glamorized. I just found out a few days ago and I told my partner it wasn’t supposed to happen like this. I want more for my child. But now I am resigned to what happened and determined to be the best influence I know how. It is not anything to slap someone on the back and be proud about. I knew better. It is that I have a responsibility to my child and I will be the best mother I can be.

By What?!

January 9, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

See Sara - I wasn’t going to go here with you but the cosmic forces say I must.

All you have to do is drive through the city of Covington, White County, Cherokee County, and Hall County to find your nearest white knocked up teenager.

At West Hall High School, there is a DAYCARE!!! I was a speaker there for career day and was taken to this separate facility for the students’ CHILDREN!!!

I’m sorry — you have to say what?? Speak up… I can’t hear you??

By Miss Manners

January 9, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

We should all learn that it’s better to lay down with a person we love who have the morals and values we desire to exist in our children. Having children out of wedlock doess tell us alot about the mother’s morals. Did not use protection and was willing to proceed with intimacy with all consequences. I wish her the best.

By TEE

January 9, 2008 4:05 PM | Link to this

Sara- the comment you made was just plain full of it. This is NOT a cultural tradition, and if it is, it’s definitely not ours. I know just as many white baby mama’s as i do black and personally i don’t give a rats a** what culture you are from- procreation should be done within the confines of marriage. That goes for Monica, the Spears chick, Angelina, Halle, my sister, and anyone else who has had an out of wedlock child. It’s always a big deal. this country publicizes what they want about who they want and they drop statistics on mostly minorities only. the wic office, welfare lines, unemployment lines, jails, and yes- the maternity ward is full of ALL cultures and believe me- hardly no culture has their ish together.

Everyone has their own beliefs of whats right and wrong but the bottom line is this- most of the time half a#$ parents, raise half a$% kids. And being a single parent when you could have just done it the right way is half a$%.

By Hubba

January 9, 2008 4:08 PM | Link to this

A bigger news story would be that a black man married the woman before having their kids. Can you imagine how many unwed babies of NBA players and rappers are out there. Before you mention Tom Brady, he’s one……I can name you five NBA guys on one team that have multiple children from women who are not their wives. They (the unwed women) look at this practice as a free check for 21 years.

By my black people

January 9, 2008 4:08 PM | Link to this

who cares about white young girls getting knocked up.. Lets take care of our own. I could care less that jamie spears is pregnant. Black or white Teen pregnancy, unwed moms its not right just pure trashy!!!

By Najeh Davenpoop

January 9, 2008 4:10 PM | Link to this

Can the AJC, for a change, write articles about good rappers instead of Soulja Boy and Yung Joc? It’s not like there are no talented MCs in Atlanta.

By What?!

January 9, 2008 4:11 PM | Link to this

Ithappened…. didn’t you think beyond birth control?? How about STD control? And you’re right - you’re old enough to know better.

And why do you have to bring up that you make “good money”?? Who the heck cares?! Now when you have your son or daughter and then… oops! “Um… Mom. I know I knew better, but YOU did it.”

There’s the cycle, queen. You were single and obviously of child bearing age. He should’ve wrapped it up - and if he did not do it voluntarily, YOU should’ve stapled those knees shut.

By Your Mama

January 9, 2008 4:11 PM | Link to this

As someone said both Monica and Britney needs a HIT - one a record and the other a crack pipe

By TruthHurts

January 9, 2008 4:12 PM | Link to this

Black people have no standards. Until these whorish women and these thuggish men learn some standards, no other race will respect you. These women only carry about how good some ghetto fool “put it on them” instead of having some morals and values.

By Najeh Davenpoop

January 9, 2008 4:13 PM | Link to this

If you can support a child on your own without getting married (like Monica presumably can) then go ahead. If you can’t, like most single parents, then you shouldn’t. It’s that simple.

By Mike

January 9, 2008 4:16 PM | Link to this

Why in the world would anybody would allow their child to listen to garbage that insults women? “Superman that ho!” Such stupidity and embraced by the ones with a ghetto mentality. Here again is another prime example of why the Black race is not taken seriously in anything but shucking and jiving. I, as a human being and Black man, am ashamed of all this mess.

I wonder what would happen if I called Soulja Boy’s mama a ho? What would he do? Women, stop being somebody’s fool and dancing your butt off to trash like this! Stand up and stop being a trashy w** wannabe!

If you are reading this Soulja Boy, just know that all of us of the human race would rather you keep your filth to yourself.

By ruben

January 9, 2008 4:16 PM | Link to this

Is this really news? Who cares about this kind of stuff?

By Mike

January 9, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

Why in the world would anybody would allow their child to listen to garbage that insults women? “Superman that ho!” Such stupidity and embraced by the ones with a ghetto mentality. Here again is another prime example of why the Black race is not taken seriously in anything but shucking and jiving. I, as a human being and Black man, am ashamed of all this mess.

I wonder what would happen if I called Soulja Boy’s mama a ho? What would he do? Women, stop being somebody’s fool and dancing your butt off to trash like this! Stand up and stop being a trashy w** wannabe!

If you are reading this Soulja Boy, just know that all of us of the human race would rather you keep your filth to yourself.

By WHO CARES

January 9, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

My question is why do people think we care. Heck if the press would leave these people alone to have a private life, maybe Spears would not be a psyco and Lowhan would not be a drunk and who knows. Princess Di might still even be alive. Their needs to be laws that protect the rights of stars to have a private live. Leave them alone.

By KlanTrader

January 9, 2008 4:20 PM | Link to this

TruthHurts,

I wish White people would just stop trying to cut everybody head off because they are miserable.

By Monica Fan

January 9, 2008 4:24 PM | Link to this

I am ready for Monica to hit the airwaved with another record.. She is my favorite artist and everyone knows that.. I respect her for putting family first and career second which a lot of people in the industry dont do, they hire others to raise their children. Way to go Monica god bless……

By Beautiful

January 9, 2008 4:24 PM | Link to this

Monica name him Brandon, Kelsey, Jonathan or Christopher. Congrats!

By Monica Fan

January 9, 2008 4:24 PM | Link to this

I am ready for Monica to hit the airwaved with another record.. She is my favorite artist and everyone knows that.. I respect her for putting family first and career second which a lot of people in the industry dont do, they hire others to raise their children. Way to go Monica god bless……

By LTS

January 9, 2008 4:25 PM | Link to this

Why spotlight this kinda garbage? UGH!!! How about some POSITIVE news? Having babies - being unmarried - is not a positive thing and sets a poor example for our youth!

By Angela

January 9, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

You tell ‘em, Tee. Sara and ES are just ignorant a@#holes! Like I stated earlier, I am a thirty-year-old AFRICAN-AMERICAN married female who has NEVER been pregnant and thus has NEVER had an abortion. None of my friends who are in thier late twenties/early thirties who are single, educated, and attractive have children. My sister did not have her first child until after she was married. My parents are still married. So don’t sit here and tell me that ALL black women have children out of wedlock becuase personally, I know more black women that do not have children out of wedlock than I know that do. To reiterate what Tee said, if you go to some of these white rural areas, you will find just as many white unwed mothers!!!!!!! Hell, you don’t even have to go out to the rural communities, you can find them in the cities and suburbs too!!

By Ithappened2me

January 9, 2008 4:27 PM | Link to this

LOL Funny you should say that What?! You must be one of those bible thumping idiots who doesn’t know what their talking about, and you sound very young. I am 35 and I do know better as far as doing nothing to protect against pregnancy but STD? I have a PARTNER Which means I am in a comitted relationship YOU MORON! That doesn’t mean we met last week and hopped in the bushes LOL Get your head on straight and lay off the judgement It shows your profound lack of intelligence. I personally don’t want to be married and children never factored in, but I will not shirk my responsibility. I mentioned money becasue some of you speak about how much Monica or any unwed mother makes. I can take care of my child and myself, but finances are no substitue for solid family foundation. (What?!)I wanted to help others with Common Sense understand that things like this happen everyday it is not how it is supposed to be, but what do you do? Get rid of the responsibility or take responsibility and be top notch about it. What?! You need to stop speaking if you dont have anything constructive to say, and reading comprehension self help books can help you with some of that problem you have.

By EW

January 9, 2008 4:30 PM | Link to this

Angela, simply put….you’re a liar.

By Carter

January 9, 2008 4:31 PM | Link to this

Funny how black women are labeled as “whorish” considering they’re not the ones featured in the billion dollar enterprise called “Girls Gone Wild”.

By Tina B

January 9, 2008 4:34 PM | Link to this

I am a black woman, 44, married with 2 children. I waited until I was married to have children as did my sister, my mom, her mom and her mom. Nothing bad to say about Monica, but this is what I got to say about this situation in general….Too many mamas…not enought wives. No further comments.

By dustyred

January 9, 2008 4:38 PM | Link to this

To What?! or to “Whatever” I suppose, you’re right she’s a grown woman and that’s her decision to have a baby w/o being married. ?Comprende? And opinion your still STINKS Now go to Perez Hilton.com and hash out with the knocked up 16 yr old

By BE aware

January 9, 2008 4:38 PM | Link to this

Rocky.. Do you know what superman lyrics mean? if not I suggest you google it and listent to the words before you support the lyrics for your eight yr old to listen to. I was loving it until I googled the lyrics!

By dustyred

January 9, 2008 4:39 PM | Link to this

To What?! or to “Whatever” I suppose, you’re right she’s a grown woman and that’s her decision to have a baby w/o being married. ?Comprende? And your opinion still STINKS Now go to Perez Hilton.com and hash out with the knocked up 16 yr old

By poetic

January 9, 2008 4:44 PM | Link to this

African American people are so quick to judge and the people on this blog who say that they are christians they should no that the mighty bible that tells you to wait and have sex after marriage in that same book it also tells you not to judge. Their are million of children in the world being born to single parent homes and they grow up to be productive members of society. The sin is in the sex and not the child. My people who are calling these children names shame on you and go read your bibles. All races have been having babies out of wedlock since the beginning of time and it’s not going to stop today or tomorrow. My people if we have more educated people like some of you cliam to be going out to the school and communities educating children on prevetion and showing them the positive side of life maybe people would wake up and stop having children out of wedlock. In order to fix a problem you must have a plan. So, Christians get to work!!!!!!

By SpidaMann

January 9, 2008 4:46 PM | Link to this

Just because Souja Boy say crank that hoe doesn’t necessarily mean he is talking about a woman. Sometimes we refer to being in a particular place as being off in this bych which doesnt mean literally off in one

By disappointed

January 9, 2008 4:46 PM | Link to this

People please. What bible are you reading? Have you pain any attention to the verse JUDGE NOT. Monica is human just as we are. No one on the face of this earth is perfect. He who is without sin cast the first stone. While people are judging this young lady, they should think about themselves. i’m sure everyone has done something in their life that they are not so proud of. Monica has 2 children our of Wed Lock. So What. We are not God and it is not our duty to judge her. Sweep around your our front door’s. Yes it’s good to marry before becoming parents, however, being born unto a married couple doesn’t make you any better or worse than someone that was born to a un wed couple. These day’s people are marrying for the wrong reason’s anyway. You negative judgemental people should be ashamed of yourselves. I am a single mother, and I know plenty of people who are doing exceptionally well in life and they were born out of wed lock. Good Luck to Monica, and we as a black race need to stop dragging each other down. Don’t worry about what someone else is doing, worry about yourself. Get a life!

By dustyred

January 9, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this

To ‘disappointed AMEN and GOD Bless. Have a great evening!

By Angela

January 9, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this

To EW, You don’t know who the hell I am or anything about me to call me a liar. I will give you my telephone number, you can call me, and we can arrange a time and a place to meet (with myself and my husband who is a 6 foot 210 lb black man) so that I can show you my marriage certificate, wedding pictures, and my wedding ring and band. If you want, you can go with me to the gynecologist who can tell you whether or not I have ever been pregnant or had an abortion. There!! you can kiss my a@# because I have no reason to lie. I am an educated black woman who is married, never been pregnant, and has a master’s degree. I can show you that too when we meet. Better yet, I’ll slap you in the face with my degree when we meet!!! A@#hole!!! So I guess Tina B is a liar too, huh??? You’re just mad because I have a lot more going on for myself than you do!!!!

By Shocked

January 9, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this

if the numerous racist comments posted on here are a microcosim of the true beliefs of some of Atlanta’s white population, it’s time for me to move back north.

“have blacks ever heard of marriage?”

For real?! Brief history recap: whites started out by keeping us from getting married in the days of slavery. Marriage is a sacred tradition in the black community. Babies are born out of wedlock in every race, and if you look at the numbers, white women (with babies out of wedlock) take up just as much of the welfare pot as single black women (if not more, because we often get hit at the red tape and end up living in complete poverty).

Jamie Lynn Spears gets pregnant out of wedlock (boyfriend does not equal married) and white people scurry around wondering how they’re going to tell their children. Monica (a grown woman) gets pregnant and y’all start talking about when the “thugs will kill each other off”

…and you say that because Barack won Iowa our country has come a long way. Sad. Just sad.

By Arlee

January 9, 2008 5:01 PM | Link to this

What makes you the judge of anyone. Nothing happens in our life that is not in the plan of GOD. Besides did she ask any of you to contribute any funds to raise her child.

By Angela

January 9, 2008 5:03 PM | Link to this

EW, better yet, I’ll give you my email address…bangieb77@yahoo.com because I am getting off of this blog. I have better things to do with my time. Email me so we can meet (I don’t even know why I need to prove anything to you because you don’t mean sh@$ to me, you are not my family member, my friend, my boss, and you are certainly not paying any of my bills, but you can still email me because I may be many things but a liar is not one of those things).

By taxpayer

January 9, 2008 5:13 PM | Link to this

I don’t give a crap how many illigits you ghetto rats are squirtin out long as i aint payin for it. but we all know thats not the case right? thats how yall gettin us right?

By Ms. Jones

January 9, 2008 5:16 PM | Link to this

One question: Do any of you who are taking time to discuss this girl’s business have any HEALTH insurance? I do think that is a bigger issue. Toddles!!!!!!

When was the last time you had a check up?

By blk-fit-1

January 9, 2008 5:20 PM | Link to this

Whether right or wrong, I am finally glad to see that there are still people with morals and not afraid to speak out against a generation gone wrong and wild and being glamorized for it. I don’t know what happened to parenting in our community. It is not good to be educated anymore. It is only good to have a HOOD mentality and with that mentality that is where we will remain, “IN THE HOOD” while the world continues to disrespect us, as we do ourselves, and continues to pass us by.

By Mark

January 9, 2008 5:20 PM | Link to this

Man, She’s loose. Maybe I could come down to the ATL after 6 weeks and get some.

By DLT

January 9, 2008 5:24 PM | Link to this

Congrats Monica and May god continue to bless you and your family! As for you haters, women who have babies while married a lot of times end up as single parents themselves with dead beat BABY DADDYS. It shouldn’t matter if you are married or not. What matters is the baby’s health, is this person capable of caring for this child, is this child going to be in a loving home. The people on these blogs make me sick you are hateful, racist, and just down right evil. I thought for a change I would read some positive response. But as usual those negative people have to turn something so beautiful into something so negative. That is what’s wrong with our world now. That is why we have so many wars going on now because everybody think that they are right. No one is perfect we all have our faults. So, before you judge the next man how about taking a look in the mirror first

By Baylee

January 9, 2008 5:27 PM | Link to this

First, Why does the AJC continue to post these topics that are so irresistable to racists?! Shame on you.

I had my first child out-of-wedlock, and my husband and I have now been married 17 years. I don’t think I am cut out to be a single mom — I am glad my husband and I decided to get married and set an example for our chidren. It is my hope and prayer that both of my own children get married FIRST before having children.

By Tomahawkin Since 74

January 9, 2008 5:48 PM | Link to this

Maybe if Soulja Boy would spend less time bragging about “supersoaking dat ho” he wouldn’t find himself in this predicament.

Here’s an idea, Soulja… work on your enunciation so we can understand what it is you’re saying aside from “super soak dat HHHHHOOOO” and - hey, here’s an idea - clean up your lyrics just a bit so that kids who look up to you can play your music w/their parents in the care and not get in trouble for it.

If you think you can claim you aren’t capitalizing on that pre-teen audience, you’re wrong. Please… guess who’s requesting your song(s) on radio station request lines?

Meanwhile, college and high school athletes across the country, heck, even between the hedges, do your dance like you’re some kind of hero.

No REAL hero spreads filthy lyrics to impressionable ears and profits from it. Now let’s add to it dodging responsibility from fathering a child.

Which way is, Mr. Brag Yourself into a new dnace? Are you super-soaking hoes, or are you clean?

By Baylee

January 9, 2008 6:12 PM | Link to this

bangieb77 LOL! You GO! I’m not mad at you!

Be careful, though, giving your e-mail address out on a ajc messageboard — there at too many psychos out there.

By Peaches

January 9, 2008 6:22 PM | Link to this

CAN WE ALL JUST LOVE EACH OTHER AND NOT JUDGE?

By evette

January 9, 2008 6:32 PM | Link to this

I have not read the entire blog, however I was wondering if people felt the same way about Halle Berry being an unwed mother?

By Angela

January 9, 2008 6:33 PM | Link to this

To Baylee, I appreciate it and I know I said that I was getting off this blog but I had to check and see if EW had anymore bullsh@!t to say!! That’s one thing I can’t stand… people who talk about things that don’t know anything about. I guess he or she is trying to say that I am lying about being a married educated African-American woman who has never been pregnant. Like educated African-American women in their twenties, thirties, or fourties who have never been pregnant can’t possibly exist. Well, I guess Condoleeza Rice doesn’t exist or maybe Condeleeza is a liar too. Or maybe he/she (EW) is trying to say that I am lying about knowing five African-American single, highly educated, attractive, women who don’t have children. He does not me or my circle of friends for that matter so he can kiss my a@#!!!! And if he/she (EW) wants to get psycho, I can get psycho too!!!! Real psycho. But thanks for the concern, I am glad to see that there are still people who care about others in the world.

By PYT

January 9, 2008 6:56 PM | Link to this

I am a HUGE fan of Monica. However, when you have young girls looking to you as a role model, you must lead by example. it does not look good for Monica being an unwed mother with 2 children and singing about life and speaking in communities about education and being successful. Monica is showing poor role modeling skills.

By Jp

January 9, 2008 6:57 PM | Link to this

Deana, you are not correct. It’s easy to legitimate a child in GA. It’s done every day. You don’t need to be married to have a child. Get over yourself. Those in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones

By Jp

January 9, 2008 6:57 PM | Link to this

Deana, you are not correct. It’s easy to legitimate a child in GA. It’s done every day. You don’t need to be married to have a child. Get over yourself. Those in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones

By C.Tate

January 9, 2008 7:00 PM | Link to this

Why should anyone care if Monica is married or not. I didn’t know people still use the term b—t—d anymore, except when they are in a heated argument.

By akirah

January 9, 2008 7:03 PM | Link to this

Congulation Monica

By BIGHICK

January 9, 2008 7:04 PM | Link to this

This having to be married to have a baby with someone is way overblown. With the divorce rate being as high as it is right now. Getting married is like having unprotected sex, you don’t know what your going to get. If your happy and committed to one another a piece of paper is not going to change it one bit. STOP HATIN!!!!!

By mslawful

January 9, 2008 7:07 PM | Link to this

This website has a new movie about newborn babies and missing fathers. There is a short clip of it on the audio/video page. Check it out: WWW.SEEDINTHEEARTH.COM

By mslawful

January 9, 2008 7:13 PM | Link to this

This website has a new movie about newborn babies and missing fathers. There is a short clip of it on the audio/video page. Check it out: WWW.SEEDINTHEEARTH.COM

By sunkiss

January 9, 2008 7:26 PM | Link to this

Congrats Monica And no it doesn’t matter if she’ss married or not as long as both parents are in the child’s/children’s life and can provide for the children emotionally and financially no one else should be concerned. Read up on Monica she tookcare of her ex’s kids/probably is still taking care of her deceased ex boyfriends children. Marriage isn’t everything and its definitely not built to last.

As for Soulja boy continue doing what you do be safe out there you are to young to get caught up.

By sunkiss

January 9, 2008 7:26 PM | Link to this

Congrats Monica And no it doesn’t matter if she’ss married or not as long as both parents are in the child’s/children’s life and can provide for the children emotionally and financially no one else should be concerned. Read up on Monica she tookcare of her ex’s kids/probably is still taking care of her deceased ex boyfriends children. Marriage isn’t everything and its definitely not built to last.

As for Soulja boy continue doing what you do be safe out there you are to young to get caught up.

By sunkiss

January 9, 2008 7:26 PM | Link to this

Congrats Monica And no it doesn’t matter if she’ss married or not as long as both parents are in the child’s/children’s life and can provide for the children emotionally and financially no one else should be concerned. Read up on Monica she tookcare of her ex’s kids/probably is still taking care of her deceased ex boyfriends children. Marriage isn’t everything and its definitely not built to last.

As for Soulja boy continue doing what you do be safe out there you are to young to get caught up.

By sunkiss

January 9, 2008 7:26 PM | Link to this

Congrats Monica And no it doesn’t matter if she’ss married or not as long as both parents are in the child’s/children’s life and can provide for the children emotionally and financially no one else should be concerned. Read up on Monica she tookcare of her ex’s kids/probably is still taking care of her deceased ex boyfriends children. Marriage isn’t everything and its definitely not built to last.

As for Soulja boy continue doing what you do be safe out there you are to young to get caught up.

By HUMBLE

January 9, 2008 7:42 PM | Link to this

I am just blessed that I only have to answer to GOD for the choices I have made. Come on people…she had a baby and wasn’t married. I choose not to condemn her because I have done things that I am not proud of. Because of my own convictions…..who am I to judge her? This is not a black/white issue. This is just an issue. And trust me, we all got issues. Our issues may not make Wednesday’s paper, but trust me…..we all got issues. Monica if you read this, I still believe in you and I love you!

By stokey

January 9, 2008 7:46 PM | Link to this

Sunkiss, you have to be on welffare to be so stupid. Let’s hope Monica runs over her kids and Soulja kids and him like she did out in L A. Promise me not to vote because stupid is free and you are the first in line..

By AnotherIllegitimateKid

January 9, 2008 7:49 PM | Link to this

Is it any surprise that the AJC is spotlighting another illegitimate child of another rapper? Does she even know the Daddy’s name? After all, the AJCs favorite son, TI, has 5 kids with several different women, and he’s only 26 yrs old. Ever heard of a condom TI, Soulja Boy,Monica, Diddy,so on and so forth…..

By I Understand

January 9, 2008 8:07 PM | Link to this

Sorry Monica, but when you first bady daddy is named C-Murder, who is currently in jail for murder, and you continue to date guys like Young Buck who make a living calling women “Bs” and “Hs” you shouldn’t expect people to be extremly understanding of another out of wedlock child. It’s not fair but you are a public fiqure.

Soulja Boy’s grandmother just needs as wimp his but since his mama won’t.

By Call Me

January 9, 2008 8:10 PM | Link to this

**Monica, FIRE YOUR PUBLICIST!!! SOMEBODY CLOSE TO THINKS ANY NEWS IS GOOD NEWS BUT THIS IS NOT

AND CALL ME 770.777.9311**

By Hopeful

January 9, 2008 8:14 PM | Link to this

It’s one thing to be a single parent. Add to that a history of low income, low or no education, a pay-check to pay-check or hustler’s mindset all while working for a record, movie or sports deal to break you out of what is really a generational curse only to repeat the cycle through your kids as a celebrity?

A better EXAMPLE than Monica? Close to six kids with five different baby mamas and you on house arrest w/the prospect of going to jail for 10 years.

That’s no way to live. That’s no standard to set. That’s no legacy worth passing on esp. if any one of those kids, repeat the cycle.

It IS not at all cute to be having babies and not be married regardless of the divorce statistics. Any kid can turn out OK less a parent but that should be the exception to the rule not the norm.

Ask ten kids raised by a single parent if they’d rather have a mother OR father; full-time OR part-time and see what the kids say.

My parents are divorced. Dad was around to include paying for us to go to college debt-free. My preference? Both parents, fulltime. I hated having to share my dad with three other kids who came w/two different mammas. It was stressful going between homes and building relationships w/people I only saw during school breaks and special events. Three of us turned out OK and get along OK. The other two are deeply scarred and distant. To my father’s disappointment, three of us repeated the cycle…

People who fail in their marriage do not make marriage a failed or even unnecessary endeavor. If it’s worked right, there are benefits to marriage that last a lifetime.

When people begin to see the value of commitment, responsibility, and family, so much will change not only in our communities but in society as a whole e.g. kids killing each other, child and sexual abuse w/children and youth, drug and alcohol abuse, promiscuity, perversion, incarceration, sickness, disease, early deaths….

By Danny

January 9, 2008 8:19 PM | Link to this

Do two people have to be married to be parents? Get a life. Just as long as a parent can provide love and support to the children, everyone else should mind their own business.

By John

January 9, 2008 8:29 PM | Link to this

Can’t we just ship all the thugs back to Africa? That would make the country such a better place! Look as time has gone on, black people are getting worse and worse as far as crime, murders, etc. They are more uneducated then ever, they have more kids out of wedlock then ever, they have no money, etc. Hopefully, they will kill each other off and this can be a good country again. We just need to take care of the illegals. Look how stupid that thug looks in his hat backwards/sideways with a flat bill and the tag and sticker still on it. Amazes me that it is considered “cool” to do that. Pathetic.

By Shamekia

January 9, 2008 8:51 PM | Link to this

Monica is Atlanta So that’s no question. A-town always and will foerever be ready for Monica. The Makings Of me was the best other then K-Cole. As for Soulja Boy tell em. Negative.

By catlady

January 9, 2008 8:56 PM | Link to this

I suggest those of you who can read check out the findings in “Promises I can Keep”, which details why women think having a child is a less serious committment than getting married.

By Hopeful

January 9, 2008 9:04 PM | Link to this

Danny,

The answer to your question is an obvious no. You do not have to be married to be a parent is why there are so many single parents today.

There’s a lot that goes into raising a kid. More than providing for them, being supportive, and saying “I love you,” is being a tangible regular example of what it is to maintain healthy relationships.

Learning how to relate to people in a healthy meaningful way is ongoing AND long-term. One can never experience the true benefit of a relationship if it is short-term, inconsistent or shared. A perfect example of that is foster children who go from place to place and rarely if ever get a true sense of belonging.

Both of my parents loved me but our relationship was strained b/c there was always contention between the adults as well as the different children. Dad could only be in one place at a time. Then we had to learn to get along w/half-siblings’ relatives who didn’t even know or like us….Sibling rivalry was high in all three households and anger difficult to manage.

The difference between the three w/o the regular presence of both parents and the two who lived w/both parents is enormous!

If kids were not involved in this high-profile situation, it would hardly matter. However, everyone is talking about the adults and forgetting about the psychological damage that will occur w/those kids.

Will those kids grow up to make a meaningful contribution to society—will Britney’s, Diddy’s, T.I.’s…Will Yours?

By mamaj

January 9, 2008 9:05 PM | Link to this

To: EDUCATED MAN—A real “educated” man simply does not talk like that, so you might just want to backtrack and add the letters “U” and “N” to your name!!

By JD

January 9, 2008 9:10 PM | Link to this

JOHN…instead of sending all the black people back to AFRICA, why don’t you take your ignorant ass somewhere. Like the nearest trailer park to cop some meth!

By Stay In Your Lane

January 9, 2008 9:25 PM | Link to this

I find it interesting that people will anonymously get on their soapboxes and judge and criticize people’s life choices. The last time I checked, it was judge not lest ye be judged. Is your life so upstanding that you have the room to berate and degrade a woman that many of you have never even met. Have you not committed any sins that you have the right to call her ghetto. There are plenty of single women that have children everyday. Some have had divorces, and some have been widowed. The only things that you know about Monica is what is released to the public. You don’t know the type of relationship she had with her son’s father. Who says they aren’t already married, or planning to be. All of you “enlightened” people out there should know that child is an innocent being born into a world of ignorance. There are so many other issues in the world to be concerned and bent out of shape about than the circumstance of the birth of son to an R&B singer.

PEOPLE PLEASE!!!!! **Monica if you happen to read this, some of these same people on here bashing you, will be up in your face grinning and wanting a picture if they saw you on the street. Be careful of those around you. Congrats on your baby.
Keep your head up.

By Justin

January 9, 2008 9:27 PM | Link to this

Well SONIA MURRAY I HOPE YOU GOT WHAT YOU EXPECTED BY POSTING THIS BLOG. THIS WAS INTENTIONAL JUST TO GET A NEGATIVE RESPONSE. JUST LIKE THE AJC ALWAYS DOES. NOW WHY ISN’T THERE A BLOG ABOUT BRITTNEY SPEARS’S 16 YEAR OLD SISTER BEING KNOCKED UP. OH MY BAD, SHE’S LILY WHITE THAT’S WHY**

By Kenya

January 9, 2008 9:27 PM | Link to this

For those sitting on this blog praising & promoting marriage and the American Dream…get real.

The same religion that you are holding true to which says marriage is right and the only way to be is the same religion that tells you not to judge anyway. Yet you are doing it anyway.

So Monica is setting the example she is most comfortable with and no one has the place to say otherwise.

On another note…Get a grip! Have you looked at the world today? The divorce rate and everything else criminal around you? A woman with decent money (not leaning on the system, therefore raising our taxes for welfare benefits and other public assistance), decides to have kids that she financially is perfectly able to provide for. What more can you ask for. She’s not in our pockets.

Would you prefer the married couple from Alabama with kids aged 3 to 4 mos. to keep having kids? They were living the American dream and guess what…he was cheating, things feel apart and now the authorities are fishing through the river for the 4 kids he threw off the bridge.

Don’t be so quick to JUDGE or you will be JUDGED!

By Tyler from Kennesaw

January 9, 2008 9:36 PM | Link to this

First off, Jamie Lynn Spears will be responsible for her kid, and will always pay for her mistake. She is in a stable relationship also. But for every white Jamie Lynn’s there are out there, there are 10-15 black celebrity’s having kids out of wedlock with no “baby daddy”…and probably 35-50 black women having kids out of wedlock overall.

Jamie Lynn is irreverent in this case as it has to do with the black culture acceptance of out of wedlock kids with no father. Jamie Lynn has a father that will be responsible. She also has the support of both her parents. Monica has had an abortion. Jamie Lynn is responsible enough to raise the kid in a good environment (Britney/Hollywood free) in Louisiana.

As for Angelina Jolie, 3 of her kids are adopted, and she is in a VERY STABLE relationship with Brad Pitt. If she wasn’t her kids last names wouldn’t be Jolie-Pitt. They have publicly made it known that they would be married, but will not get married until everyone has the right to get married (aka gay marriage)…It is their way of protesting I guess. They don’t want to rush to marriage with their past divorces (Pitt to Jen Aniston, and Jolie to Billy Bob Thornton) I see them getting married in the year 2008 though!

The fact is the black culture is digging itself into deeper and deeper into a hole that eventually will lead to a Al Sharpton and Jessie Jackson intervention regarding welfare, gov’t intervention for out of wedlock black kids etc.

You don’t see whites throwing the race card in people’s face. Quick name one White’s Rights leader ala Black’s Al Sharpton or Jessie Jackson…you can’t think of a logical one…and if you can its considered neo Nazi, racists, KKK, etc…

It is pathetic that responsible white AND blacks with steady salary paying jobs have to pay taxes that goes towards these black women who have children who rely on welfare.

Cut the women’s welfare, let them fight for their lives, and put the kids in responsible and steady homes. That leads to a whole other issue of adoptions of USA citizen children instead of foreign adoptions…

My post maybe controversial to many, but something needs to be said.

-Tyler from Kennesaw

By DJSTHEGREATESTDAWGOFALLTIME

January 9, 2008 9:45 PM | Link to this

Soulja Boy….what a Piece of s**. Who cares about this low life. Those that do are in themselves POS’s. No responsibility, crude and vulgar.

By Chris

January 9, 2008 9:48 PM | Link to this

I hate to say it but Monica is looking like she’s just a rich hoodrat from Zone 3… She needs to have a talk with her publicist…

By Justin

January 9, 2008 9:50 PM | Link to this

Tyler from Kennesaw You have no idea how ignorant you truly sound do you? First of all Jamie Lynn Spears or what ever they call her is 16 years old. How the hell do you know if she’s in a stable relationship when the guy who knocked her up is a damn kid himself! I’m white Tyler just like you guy and you my friend are one stupid ass!

By Kenya

January 9, 2008 9:55 PM | Link to this

And what does Brittany look like???

Pretty much a disgrace from the mock mariage down to the embarassment and shame since she’s had those babies.

Ask yourself would we want the Spears rich but EXTREMELY unstable family to continue to have children…OR…the poor black women from the ghetto who’s gonna bust her butt at 3 jobs to provide for her children???

Lets not forget that Jamie Lynn is also unweb and according to the media…not 100% sure of the father of the child (despite the boyfriend).

By Kenya

January 9, 2008 10:04 PM | Link to this

TYLER

You do not know these people personally and lets not misquote facts. Although Blacks have the higher % of poverty levels, whites make up the majority %age of races that receive the most welfare benefits!

Its sounds like you are closed minded so its understandable that you are only basing your opinion on what is pushed by the media or what you see on the streets in the town where you live but guess what…there is a whole world out there which you are obviously forgetting about.

By Tyler from Kennesaw

January 9, 2008 10:06 PM | Link to this

Justin

I didnt mean to make it sound like Jamie Lynn’s situation was alright. It is 100% completely WRONG what she did. But I bet she will step up and provide it a normal life in Louisiana, unlike most fatherless black kids.

Your right she is 16. I though she was 18. That was my mistake…And dating someone for 3 years sounds pretty stable to me, although they still are kids…I am 26, and have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 2 1/2 years. I would call my relationship stable, but as kids it is different.

Forget that one part on the basis that I was mis informed on Jamie Lynn’s age. I guess it is her boyfriend that is 18…

I apoligize.

By Alue

January 9, 2008 10:12 PM | Link to this

Tyler from Kennesaw: I assume that you are unaware of the many non-black women who are unwed mothers in the welfare system. I don’t know why caucasians assume the the welfare receptients are made up of blacks. All you have to do is watch Jerry Springer, Maury Povich and several of the judge shows to see America’s irresponsible people (both black and white).

Additionally, the welfare system also include those farmers (mostly white) who receive subsidies from the Federal Government. As a recent Federal retiree with 41+ years of service, there are numerous Federal grant programs (sometimes called “give away prograns”) which are obtained by more whites than black individuals and/or organizations. You can browse these programs in the “Catalog of Federal Domestic Assistance” at www.cfda.gov

You shouldn’t make statements about black people on welfare that you can’t prove. The majority of African Americans work for a living, pay taxes and want the best for their children.

In my opinion, you sound like an uninformed racist.

By MONIQUE

January 9, 2008 10:17 PM | Link to this

FIRST OF ALL MONICA SHOULD NOT BE SETTING A EXAMPLE FOR ANYBODIES KIDS . THAT SHOULD BE ON THE PARENTS NOT HER .AND IF SHE HAS CHILDREN OUT OF WEDLOCK THAT’S HER BUSINESS.WHO ARE ANY OF YOU TO TRY AND PUT HER DOWN .THAT’S HER BABY HER BUSINESS POINT BLANK. I’M PRETTY SURE SOME OF YOU NEED TO LOOK IN YOUR OWN BACKYARDS ,INCLUDING ME.

By k

January 9, 2008 10:26 PM | Link to this

I’m so sick and tired of people blaming others for their bad kids. Parents are responsible for their children’s behavior, not celebrities. What Monica does is her business, and I guarantee, her children will get the best education offered and be positive citizens. Some of the worst children I know come from homes where both (unqualified) parents are present. I am appalled at the derrogatory names hurled at this innocent child. The child’s not even a month old, and he’s being condemned. Remember, having a child is NOT a sin, but fornication is. How many of you were or will be virgins on your wedding night? Why can’t we stop being unqualified judgementalists? Congrats, Monica….Best Wishes…..

By ItDoesntSurpriseMe

January 9, 2008 10:35 PM | Link to this

Why cant these people use protection? Here comes another future rapper with a f—-ed up nickname. Thank you Monica. Thank you Soldier Blue or whatever the f—- your rap handle is.

By Martin

January 9, 2008 10:45 PM | Link to this

Isn’t it amazing how white people try to make excuses for their dysfunction, but are real quick to judge black people. Take “Tyler from Kennesaw” for example. This moron has the audacity to defend a celebrity who he knows nothing about. Jamie Lynn Spears and Angelina Jolie are in stable relationships, like he knows them personally. HAHAHAHA! Well Tyler since you are the only one that’s oblivious to the truth let me make you aware that Angelina had a baby by Brad PITT and they are NOT married. Jamie Lynn Spears is NOT married! And although they are married now, Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes also were Notmarried when their daughter was conceived. Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell are NOT married and never have been. Jessica Alba is NOT married and she just happliy announced she’s expecting. So check your facts Tyler. You are most likely a young & dumb kid who hides behind his computer like a coward.

By Kenya

January 9, 2008 10:45 PM | Link to this

ItDoesntSurpriseMe

It doesnt surprise me that you would mascarade behind such an idiot name but with ignorant remarks like this we really shouldn’t be surprised at all.

Get a grip…a name is a name and just like you are using your stage name, entertainers from ALL genres use fake names as well. It does surprise me that someone so againt rap and hip hop would even take the time to read and make comments on this blog. You may be more of a fan than you think :-)

By jason

January 9, 2008 10:48 PM | Link to this

Isn’t it amazing how white people try to make excuses for their dysfunction, but are real quick to judge black people. Take “Tyler from Kennesaw” for example. This moron has the audacity to defend a celebrity who he knows nothing about. Jamie Lynn Spears and Angelina Jolie are in stable relationships, like he knows them personally. HAHAHAHA! Well Tyler since you are the only one that’s oblivious to the truth let me make you aware that Angelina had a baby by Brad PITT and they are NOT married. Jamie Lynn Spears is NOT married! And although they are married now, Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes also were Notmarried when their daughter was conceived. Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell are NOT married and never have been. Jessica Alba is NOT married and she just happliy announced she’s expecting. So check your facts Tyler. You are most likely a young & dumb kid who hides behind his computer like a coward.

By TruthHurts

January 9, 2008 11:16 PM | Link to this

Jason- you are a damn fool, a complete idiot, and poor immoral, ghetto trash. Stop making excuses for the lack of morals in your community. You can bring up Jessica Alba, Goldie Hawn, etc, but the fact remains that it is not 70% of white babies being born out of wedlock. It is black babies…70%! Why cant you people do something about that? You probably have baby mamas all over South DeKalb. Go back to shooting dice, making excuses for poor decisions, and stay off of this blog.

By BAM SON!!!

January 9, 2008 11:56 PM | Link to this

damn…whatcha gotta say bout that?? guess someone has been to east point-tha “a” recently. I knwo a few baby mammas and not the white kind, ya heard. so whats up? Guess he’s got a point…

By doesitmatter

January 10, 2008 12:04 AM | Link to this

Ok, yeah maybe it’s not a good example and maybe 5 years ago I would of said what the heck is going on with our youth but I’m about to hit 40 and I’m the woman some rapper with the independent song is talking about … what is Monica or other women supposed to do when they want kids. Their clocks are ticking and the guys are still sowing their wild oats. What do? Women try and wait on the man to get on the same page butttt wait too long and then you have a high risk pregnancy. If you want kids, you can support them both mentally,financially etc than what business is it of mine … or yours for that matter? Do you! Be happy! Work it out!

By Tyler from Kennesaw

January 10, 2008 12:36 AM | Link to this

Alue

Call me a racist, or whatever you want to. I really don’t have a problem with you calling me that because it wasn’t said to my face. I know I am not racist.

My girlfriend is of mixed ethnics (black 50%/white 50%) and she has a huge side of the family I’ve met that is made up of kids with two parents and generations of people born with a mom and a dad who are married. One couple divorced, but the kid was born inside of their marriage…No baby mama’s or baby daddy’s, etc. Every kid has been born in a marriage from the grandparents down to the nephews and nieces. And that’s how it will be when my girlfriend and I eventually get married. We have the same morals when it comes to that.

Her family has had their troubles as we all have. I can’t say I have experienced the same type of discrimination most blacks have experienced. I have been discriminated against though based on other factors, just like most everyone else at some point in their lives.

In other words my girlfriend’s extended family has instilled great morals and values into their kids in a two parent environment. That is what these young black people need, but the values are not very strong when the mother’s and the few father’s set bad examples themselves!

Jason/Martin

Your posting the same stuff…so I assume you’re one mind and one person.

I have already stated I am 26, so I am not a young & dumb kid who hides behind his computer like a coward. I have stated my name and where I am from. That’s more info than most of these “names”…

I am glad you did some research…I won’t stoop to your level and name black celebrity couples that aren’t married, (same ratio as whites most likely) and there are a lot of inter racial couples also.

Like I stated earlier it’s not about the celebrities. It’s about the black culture. They have no problem with unwed, unplanned pregnancies and do nothing to condone it or make it unacceptable.

To whom it may concern

I’m done with this blog writing. I put in my two cents. Obviously it was controversial, so I will read what others have to say about my post.

In the end it’s all about morals and values, and it is mostly about race (black culture)!!!

Sonia Murray

All thanks go to Sonia Murray for creating this unnecessary blog when you knew it would turn into a racial issue…I hope you Sonia read every last post to see what you have created…

-Tyler

By daslicksta

January 10, 2008 12:55 AM | Link to this

who dat baby daddy?

By kenno

January 10, 2008 1:24 AM | Link to this

monica shouldn’t be proud of her child lol are yall serious? she should, she has been giving us quality music and been working hard since 11. Now she living her life like a normal young successful lady. She didn’t have a child under-age she waited until she was of age—that’s a great example to set. To become successful and remain your own person is a good example and she set those examples for young women. yall jealous, yes again yall are jealous. That’s the princess of soul and she is the only relavant r&b female from the 90’s and she carries Atlanta on her shoulders and yall saying this lol. Well just show ur defeat

By JJ

January 10, 2008 1:25 AM | Link to this

We as black people have allowed money, success(if you can call it that) and self made prestige to become our downfall.

The Civil Rights struggle was about equal opportunity, right to vote, right to be respected as men and women.

This new generation has made a mockery of “The Struggle”. During the movement we had out of wedlock babies, however, IT WAS NOT PUBLISHED IN THE AJC as if it were the news of the day.

Black boys/girls/men/women it aint ok to f(& and S_& then create another generation who thinks it is cool to say “its ok because my momma did it”

By the time Monica’s child is an adult we may be standing in the back of the bus again, because they sure as hell all want to be wrappers and ball players

By Peaches

January 10, 2008 2:23 AM | Link to this

LOVE - ALL GOD WANTS US TO DO IS LOVE I LOVE YOU

By Sugar Water

January 10, 2008 4:21 AM | Link to this

This took a turn for the worse in 92. It was our vice President Quale against Murphy Brown. Bottom line is it started out as women claiming they didnt need a man to have or raise a kid and they could do it all by themselves. Now this has been practiced since then and gaining steam. You took control of a situation and now have to give it back because you went agaisnt the grain then, and rallied around a WOMAN who thought she was doing good for all, but just really herself. Different strokes for different folks.

IF FOR NOTHING ELSE, DAN QUAYLE DESERVES POINTS for audacity. In modern America taking on a popular TV character, even a fictional one, is politically more precarious than taking a clear stand on a substantive campaign issue. And yet the Vice President dared to argue last week in a San Francisco speech that the Los Angeles riots were caused in part by a “poverty of values” that included the acceptance of unwed motherhood, as celebrated in popular culture by the CBS comedy series Murphy Brown. The title character, a divorced news anchorwoman, got pregnant and chose to have the baby, a boy, who was delivered on last Monday’s episode, watched by 38 million Americans. “It doesn’t help matters,” Quayle complained, when Brown, “a character who supposedly epitomizes today’s intelligent, highly paid professional woman” is portrayed as “mocking the importance of fathers, by bearing a child alone, and calling it just another ‘life-style choice.’ “

Entire article here: http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,975627,00.html

By Kimmie

January 10, 2008 5:10 AM | Link to this

another black child born out of wedlock. how wonderful.

By Kimmie

January 10, 2008 5:10 AM | Link to this

another black child born out of wedlock. how wonderful.

By Raye

January 10, 2008 9:33 AM | Link to this

I am not condoning having children out of wedlock, however marriage doesn’t equal responsibility. For starters no one on this page is entitled to pass judgement on Monica and her decisions (or anyone in any situation for that matter). There are many married couples that are not ready for children and that act irresponsibly towards and in the name of those children. Marriage is not a defining criteria for child bearing, sex, or responsibility. We should be happy for her and encouraging her to be the best person she can be.

If one iis dissatified with what is going around them they should strive to make a change in that area. Even if you only reach on person it will be a difference and that person is likely to pay it forward.

GOD Bless

By JAG

January 10, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

First let me say congratulations Monica, give those babies the best you have to give. Now to all of the better than Jesus people, you do the right thing and set the example for all of us still striving to meet your high moral ground. Please while you are reflecting on your perfect, flawless life remember us, that love our neighbors as our self weaklings. Lets see Brittany and K-fed were married how is that working for their children, makes you go mmmmmmmm. Children need love and encouragement, and as long as that comes from emotional healthy parents their marital staus is between them and teir God, We are responsible for setting the example for our children, and that means saying not everyone make the right choices, people make not so good choices, but there is someone that will forgive, and that is what love is all about. Be positive people a gift has been given, pray for that child’s life to be good and stop saying the child is less than because his parents are not married. PEACE!

By Stephanie

January 10, 2008 11:29 AM | Link to this

Its kills me how people want to judge one another as if they dont have a fault in their body. There is no sin greater than the other. And I do beleive I read in the Bible that all have sin and fallen short to the Glory of God! Just like my self im a single parent of 3 never been married however I know that i have gone to God asked him to forgive my action and I know He has forgiven me. And guess what i dont need nobody else approval. Aint none of you all payed the price for me and died on the cross for me. Like the lady that was commiting adultry in the bible nosey folks who should have been minding their own business was all up in hers and wanted to stone the woman to death for commiting an act. What did Jesus do brought the woman before the people and told them “he who have not sin cast the first stone” Guess what no one through the stone because we all sin. So he who have not sin cast the first stone at Monica. Congrat Monica!!!! Oh and for those who try to cross examine what i just said. yes Jesus told the woman go and sin no more..although I have three children which people will look on the outside they dont know that I havent had sex since I asked the Lord to forgive me and how I will wait now until He sends that Husband! Its a learning and growing processs for all…God Bless!

By stephanie

January 10, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

ps spell check threw. for those who look pass the important point which is the message, and look at peoples error.

By Tony

January 10, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

step that was on point!!

By Phil

January 10, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

As a black male talking mainly towards black people in this situation…Some of these logical white people have points. It is not racism, or dicrimination. It it what it is..numbers don’t lie..

please read what was said by JJ at 1:25 AM…

He has nailed it on the head. It says alot coming from him and I, responsible black males!

*We as black people have allowed money, success(if you can call it that) and self made prestige to become our downfall.

The Civil Rights struggle was about equal opportunity, right to vote, right to be respected as men and women.

This new generation has made a mockery of “The Struggle”. During the movement we had out of wedlock babies, however, IT WAS NOT PUBLISHED IN THE AJC as if it were the news of the day.

Black boys/girls/men/women it aint ok to f(& and S_& then create another generation who thinks it is cool to say “its ok because my momma did it”

By the time Monica’s child is an adult we may be standing in the back of the bus again, because they sure as hell all want to be wrappers and ball players*

-Phil

By Phil

January 10, 2008 1:23 PM | Link to this

Stephanie…as a fellow Christian, you can do nothing more than ask for forgiveness and move on in your walk with God! You are doing what the bible says to some degree, by now waiting for a new husband before having sex again. That shows your commitment to God. Everyone’s problems are ultimately between them and God…nobody else..I pray that you and your kids and family are healthy and you continue on your walk with our Lord and Savior! God Bless you Stephanie!!!

-Phil

By Greg

January 11, 2008 4:40 PM | Link to this

This newspaper’s website is a complete joke. Only in Atlanta would you see this type of ghetto, nonsense on a newspaper’s website. The NY Times, Washington Post, or LA Times would never indulge this ignorance or cater to the ghetto trash of the community.

By Terence

January 11, 2008 6:13 PM | Link to this

WHAT ABOUT HALLE BERRY

By Terence

January 11, 2008 6:13 PM | Link to this

WHAT ABOUT HALLE BERRY

By beyonce

January 11, 2008 9:20 PM | Link to this

What GHETTO names to give a child. I guess she is prepping them to be the next Ghetto hood rat rapper out of the ATL like her baby daddy…haaa. Monica, you have no class and your albums suck. Your last album only sold 4oo,ooo. Not even GOLD status. You need to fire your lame cousin Manager Linda Dancil and hire my father.

By Wise Lady

January 11, 2008 9:25 PM | Link to this

Monica,

Sonia Murray and Sandra Rose are not your friends. You put to much trust in Sandra Rose. She talks about everybody on her website: Beyonce, Tameka Foster-Raymond…you make her mad, she will talk about you next BE CAREFUL!

By Callie

January 11, 2008 9:45 PM | Link to this

Don’t forget about Brandy…she is a Ho too. She has a little nappy head out of wedlock and pretended to be married. Brandy, you are such a fake little liar too. You and Monica need to get together and sing a song,”The Baby Daddy Ain’t Mind”

By Callie

January 11, 2008 9:49 PM | Link to this

Oh, Solange Knowles is a Ho too. She had a baby at age 16. Ho, Ho, Ho…Merry Christmas!!!

By JT

January 11, 2008 9:59 PM | Link to this

Ain’t her step daddy a Reverend? I know one thing, her baby daddy spends all his money in the strip clubs. He better save that money and buy some condoms, diapers and wipes.

By Daisy

January 11, 2008 10:02 PM | Link to this

OMG! That’s bad. Her step father a Reverend and she is spreading her legs and having babies out of wedlock. That is bad. Not a good look Monica.

By Trojan

January 11, 2008 10:16 PM | Link to this

Monica & Rock,

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By Miss Brown

January 15, 2008 7:52 AM | Link to this

First of all, Monica is not from the ghetto. She comes from a nice family and I know this personally. Second of all, people put too much on these artists. Why should she be a role model to your kids? You should be a role model to your kids! She takes care of her kids and appear to be a great mom so why does her not being married has anything to do with you guys. Are you serious? WTF?!?! How many of you are married with kids. She has a great career and has seen the world which is way more than most of you can say. Let her enjoy her new blessing and stop hating on this beautiful woman. Monica congrats to you and Rock!!!

By toya

January 15, 2008 4:12 PM | Link to this

Monica is a grown woman taking care of herself. So what if she’s having a baby. Monica, keep on being a positive young black woman. As for Soulja Boy, that’s exactly what he is…a boy.

By star

January 19, 2008 9:26 PM | Link to this

congrats to monica, ignore these trailer park trashes talking about you having a baby, they mama,aunt,grandma and sister,cousin,baby mama aint married either and probably having kids. shut up hypocrites

By Greenskies

January 20, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

I am ready for Monica’s new album. You know just answering the question at hand here. I would like to add that it is so funny that all of these buffet Christians are on here judging and criticizing someone. ‘Those that are sinless should cast the first stone’, which we all know none of us are that. Sinless i mean. People are always putting the spotlight on celebs and the truth of the matter is … we are all role models in someone else’s life whether we know it or not, whether we want to be or not. Stop being so concerned with what other people are doing and pay more attention to what you are doing. Do you do everything right in God’s eye everyday? By the way, all this talk of God, who said that Monica herself believed in the same God that you do? Just some things for you to think about. In case anyone is wondering what a buffet Christian is …it’s a person that picks and choose what they want out of the bible to suit their own selfish needs. It is very convenient for them. No judging just stating facts.