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Does texting take away from romance?
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
“Gr8 time last nite…dinner 2nite?”
In the world of modern dating, how you say something is just as important as what you say.
AJC reporter Helena Oliviero wrote about the widespread use of texting in the dating game.
No awkward silences to fill anymore.
A 2007 Cingular survey revealed 12 percent of singles have used texting as a conversation starter, according to the article.
Texting is “A technology-aided crutch to dip their toes in that sometimes chilly and uncertain dating pool. No sweaty palms or intricately rehearsed phone calls. No Seinfeldian attempts to retrieve a poorly recorded message,” Oliviero writes.
What about you? Do you feel more comfortable texting or talking by phone with a new romantic interest? Or are you old-school and only a phone call will do?
Comments
By Joe
June 9, 2008 1:38 PM | Link to this
I like the convenience of texting for some uses (in a meeting, etc), but I must admit that I find it too impersonal when it comes to dating. I have several women friends who insist on communicating only by text, and I find it infuriating. Why anyone would think that ten minutes of texting back and forth is more convenient than a 30-second phone conversation is beyond me. I think that it is indicative of how impersonal our society has become.
By stacey
June 9, 2008 2:02 PM | Link to this
I think that texting can be romantic depending on the conversation being sent, but at the same time it can be destructive because sometimes the text doesn’t imply the person’s true mood or tone and what’s meant to be taken light heartedly can sometimes be taken rather personal that can lead to conflict.
By cy
June 9, 2008 2:34 PM | Link to this
i think it is wonderful. the more you are able to communicate with a that lover interest the better. but i do believe that you have to be able to speak their mind.
sometimes, just getting a little flirt in the middle of the day via text is sooo sweet. or even if he is running late to meet you and u and you get a little note saying that he is on the way. my favorite is when he is busy or somewhere that he can not speak and i get a little text reading something like ” thinkn o’ u” or “can u 4get ur plans, n let me cook 4 u?”
seems guys can be more sweet and sincere in a text, because someone is not going to overhear them and it is going directly to you.
but speaking in person….is still best.
By JOHN
June 9, 2008 2:38 PM | Link to this
I PERSONALLY LOV TO TX, AND DO IT QUITE ALOT, BUT AS FAR AS TXING TO ASK SOMEONE OUT OR AS A ICE BREAKER, DONT DO IT! ITS FINE WITH FRIENDS AND FAMILY TO TX BACK AND FORTH QUESTIONS AND WHAT NOT, BUT FOR DATING, NO!!!! WHERE IS THE ROMANCE IN THAT. NOW IF YOU HAVE BEEN DATING AWHILE AND WANT TO TX SOMETHING TO BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND THAT IS KINDA FUN YA KNOW!!! YA’LL KNOW WHAT I MEAN…HAVE A GREAT DAY
By JOHN
June 9, 2008 2:39 PM | Link to this
I PERSONALLY LOV TO TX, AND DO IT QUITE ALOT, BUT AS FAR AS TXING TO ASK SOMEONE OUT OR AS A ICE BREAKER, DONT DO IT! ITS FINE WITH FRIENDS AND FAMILY TO TX BACK AND FORTH QUESTIONS AND WHAT NOT, BUT FOR DATING, NO!!!! WHERE IS THE ROMANCE IN THAT. NOW IF YOU HAVE BEEN DATING AWHILE AND WANT TO TX SOMETHING TO BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND THAT IS KINDA FUN YA KNOW!!! YA’LL KNOW WHAT I MEAN…HAVE A GREAT DAY
By Soulfinger
June 9, 2008 2:46 PM | Link to this
Let’s put it like this….I have 1000 minutes on my phone plan each month, on average i use 200. I send however over 1000 texts a month…..hmmmmmm……
By Lynette
June 9, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this
In my opinion texting, or even and email asking for a date is rude. It says that the other person is too lazy to actually make a call or that the other party is not important enough to take the time to call. I don’t mind a “hey can you meet me at __” from an established partner. If you don’t respect me enough early on to actually dial the phone then I will decline.
There is a guy now who would like more of my company and he has not caught on to the “pick up the phone and call within a reasonable time limit” rule. I have to wonder how long it will take him to catch on.
By Lynette
June 9, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this
In my opinion texting, or even and email asking for a date is rude. It says that the other person is too lazy to actually make a call or that the other party is not important enough to take the time to call. I don’t mind a “hey can you meet me at __” from an established partner. If you don’t respect me enough early on to actually dial the phone then I will decline.
There is a guy now who would like more of my company and he has not caught on to the “pick up the phone and call within a reasonable time limit” rule. I have to wonder how long it will take him to catch on.
By Bosseswife
June 9, 2008 4:27 PM | Link to this
I luv to txt my man and tell him something naughty. I don’t over do it, I just briefly give him visual of what’s 2 come. Verbal communication is overrated!!!!!!!
By Sarah
June 9, 2008 4:31 PM | Link to this
Just when we thought we were at an all time high for gray matter loss…when we couldn’t get any dumber….along comes John and others…dumbing down Amercia. Unless you are like 15 and like talk like this and like you know are like you know…..grrrrr, don’t text. You’re dumb enough already.
By Textless
June 9, 2008 5:12 PM | Link to this
A text saying you’re thinking of me or confirming something is fine.
By DeacinGA
June 9, 2008 5:40 PM | Link to this
My fiance and I live in two different cities, 6.5 hours apart. Texting has been a part of our relationship since we were in the getting-to-know-you-as-a-friend stage 2 years ago before we began officially dating. It works nicely along with phone calls, emails, & IMs to get us through those days till we see each other again.
I imagine we’ll keep texting after we get married this fall…nothing like a flirty text to let your guy imagine what you might have planned when you get home from work. wink
By Big Juicy
June 9, 2008 7:34 PM | Link to this
Anyone silly enough to desire to start a relationship via text message is crazy and not worthy of a date anyway! If they’ve got communication issues now, they’ll only get worse…
By Beautiful
June 11, 2008 7:16 PM | Link to this
something short and sweet is cool and romantic. but i would love to hear your voice instead. call me.