Bitter Breakup Playlist
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I hate to be the bearer of bad dating news, but it needs to be said: Statistically speaking, many of us are going to dump or be dumped in the coming weeks. It is primarily because of the holiday trifecta that is rough on relationships (and “situation-ships”): Christmas, New Year’s Eve, and Valentine’s day.
That’s right, some single people feel the need to get rid of the shaky, expiration-dating relationships in order to avoid awkward gift exchanges, tense road trips, boring family dinners, or mediocre sex. It’s a tacky thing, I know! Sadly, there is nothing you can do to stop it. The best thing to do is to be prepared.
Music has a way of capturing emotions that people go through in relationships. The good, the bad, and the bi-polar, it’s all been written in a love song. You should get your breakup kits ready, starting with the best bitter breakup playlist you can create.
If you could compile a playlist of songs about breakups, what would you choose? Do you have a song that reminds you of a time when you were going through a break-up?
The Bitter Breakup Playlist is only good for 48 hrs, no need to wallow in self pity! What songs would you put on your Getting My Groove Back Playlist?
How do you get your groove back after a break up? Since we are on the topic of breakups, what is the nicest way to end things? Why is it that men tend not want to discuss the breakup? Why do we look back on a relationship so negatively when it ends, forgetting all the good things that actually happened too?
Happy Friday!
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One Night Stand
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I have nothing against the idea of dating multiple people, as long as you are being honest about it. If you have not met the person that compels you to shut down your rotation, perhaps you need more time to figure things out. However, if you have met that person and you both have had “the talk”, things change. The expectations of a relationship are such that you both agree to focus on each other exclusively. So when you hook up with random people, you are sending a clear message: you aren’t ready.
If you are dating someone, and they tell you they had a one night stand, do you continue dating them? Would it make a difference if you were not yet intimate when the one night stand happened?
A reader emailed me saying that the woman he was dating told him that she had a one night stand, but did not want their new relationship to be impacted. He said he appreciated her honesty, but he was not sure why she told him. His opinion of her changed dramatically because he thought they were both ready for exclusive relationship. Does the one night stand means she is not the one? Do you think she was wrong to tell him what happened?
If you were in a relationship, could you get past someone having a one night stand/fling with someone else? Honestly, I am surprised people still have one night stands! Oh how I look fondly on the good old days of random, inappropriate hook ups.
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Vanity, Thy Name is “Man”
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I tend to enjoy checking out the bachelor pad aka his bat cave - just because I am curious (nosy?) about his home life. After doing a quick scan for baby items and kid’s toys (don’t laugh, I’ve been burned before!), I generally can tell a few things about the guy. Most of which are things I already knew or gathered from the first couple of dates and conversation.
When I was at “Ed’s” place, I went to his personal bathroom and noticed his collection of products. I wasn’t snooping (yet), but I had arrived just as he was shaving, so he told me to follow him there.
I made a sarcastic remark about his amount of prep time compared to mine, and he said that his grooming game was always on point. Well, I have to hand it to him, when he goes out, he looks as if he stepped off a photo shoot. I appreciate it, so much too! Goodness, there is nothing like a good-looking, well-groomed guy.
Guys, exactly how much “manscaping” do you do? Do you own a lot of grooming products, aside from shaving cream/aftershave? How often do you get haircuts? How long does it take you to dress for work, or a date? Have you ever been told that you were “vain” because you took great care of your appearance?
Ladies, do you think men are more vain then women these days? In your opinion, what is “overkill” for a guy’s grooming habits? Have you ever checked out guy’s place to gather a little more insight on his personality? Did you ever see signs of vanity?
Let’s keep it light and fun, people Happy Wednesday!
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I Need a Man
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
I’ve been having good conversations with friends lately about relationships. We were debating want vs. need in two ways:
Should you be with the man/woman you want? Or is it better to be with the man/woman you need? Do you think they differ? I believe that the man I’ve always wanted probably doesn’t exist. Truthfully, science and technology nerds that sing like Maxwell are probably a figment of my imagination. Hey, a girl can dream! I want a man that adores me and wants me to be happy. I need a man that can tell me no from time to time, and not give in to me on every single thing. Do you know your need vs wants in a mate?
Do you think you it is better to need a mate or want a mate? I had a deep conversation recently with a man who wondered if I would make room in my life or even needed someone. Some people don’t like being single, but I happen to be the type that loves it. I think I do need a man to be happy, yet I feel as if I can be pretty content with my life being single.
I can admit, however that giving up some indefinable part of myself to be in a marriage strikes a little nerve. I think this is something most people think about before committing, though. If you are in a new relationship or marriage, how did you deal with this?
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Strong, Silent Type
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I’ve heard the line opposites attract, but a quick scan over my own dating history and I notice that I end up with guys very similar to me in personality. Turns out, this is a blessing and a curse. It’s a blessing when we both are in to the same past times, music, cultural interests, etc. This makes our couple “merge” fun and seamless.
The curse part comes in when I am matched with a guy who, like me, is not big on “emotional” stuff. When it comes to talking about the relationship, I tend to avoid it. I am the type that prefers not to drag out problems in a relationship to dissect and analyze.
Sadly, my conflict resolution usually involves me resolving the conflict by bailing out. Not good for someone who wants a meaningful relationship!
I know men are sometimes blamed for having intimacy issues, but I honestly can say that I definitely have my own. Have you ever dated someone who was emotionally guarded?
What do you do when the person you are dating is the strong, silent type?
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