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June 22, 2006 08:36 AM | Link to this

What up y’all?!

NO. NO. And No. If you cheat on me, you’re gone. That’s a double strike in a two-strike game. It doesn’t matter if it was 1 day or 10,000 days ago. I’m glad that you told me the truth though, but the fact is, “You’re contaminated baby.”

No cheating here because in years long past I was on both ends of the field. I’ll never forget that crushed look on my girl’s face when the truth came out that I had cheated. And I didn’t like it when I was cheated on. Can you say KARMA? Lesson learned…

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 08:37 AM | Link to this

Good Morning all,

Laney, you really know how to pick a great topic!

*Scenario 1: No it does not matter when the fess up, cheating is cheating is cheating and it is a deal break with me

Again, it’s a deal breaker if we were exclusive at the time the cheating took place. It’s never taken me a long time to figure out what was going on.

My policy is less than zero tolerance, and I make this known during the getting to know each other/pre exclusivity period. I have yet to forgive a cheating boyfriend, with that in mind I try to never say never. But I am not capable of imagining I would. It would be a schock to me, myself and I if I ever did it.

Scenario 2: I don’t cheat. If I’m unhappy enough to have an affair, I’m unhappy enough to leave. Can’t say.. I go back to my never say never policy. But as I stated earlier, I will leave if I am not happy as opposed to cheating.

It’s not very likely that I would be entertaining a one night stand no matter how many drinks I have, that’s “JustMe”. My goods are too good to be given away to a stranger who I would never see again.

By QC

June 22, 2006 08:37 AM | Link to this

Good point CJ, once a cheater, always a cheater…..

By janae

June 22, 2006 08:37 AM | Link to this

I always wondered, when the cheater’s cheat, do they think about their SO, and if so what is the thought and do they feel guilty afterwards? Just something I have thought about..

June 22, 2006 08:45 AM | Link to this

QC/CJ Naah that ain’t true. Otherwise once a ho’ always a ho’ and we all know that there are a lot of reformed ho’s.

By QC

June 22, 2006 08:48 AM | Link to this

Hey BK ;)

By janae

June 22, 2006 08:51 AM | Link to this

I agree Blue…People change..

By CJ

June 22, 2006 08:52 AM | Link to this

Blue, the seeds already there. It’s too easy. All you need is a little bit of water and some fertilizer and it’s back to blooming.

By stella

June 22, 2006 08:53 AM | Link to this

I’ve been on both sides, the cheater and the cheatee and both sides suck. When I was the one cheating, I felt guilty the entire time. When I was the one cheated on, I wanted to kill him. I took him back only to have him cheat on me again and that was enough for me. Never again for being on either side.

June 22, 2006 08:55 AM | Link to this

Hey QC Pass me the key to the Pool. I’ll be over there until somebody says something off the wall.

By Ms.Elusive

June 22, 2006 08:55 AM | Link to this

Good morning all, Wow, a lot of great comments already this morning!

but the fact is, “You’re contaminated baby.” LMAO @ Blue man, that tickled me

this would be one of those blaring red flags of what’s to come ahead ^5 Cee sooo true and about sums it all up

By QC

June 22, 2006 08:56 AM | Link to this

There might be some “reformed ho’s BK” but once you cheat….sure some may stop but not all of them, my ex called me on yesterday wanting to hook up with me and he’s in a relationship now….oh baby i miss you and the things we use to do yeah right “whatever buster, i ain’t trying to hear that” cause once “The Queen” is through with you, it’s over, done, that’s it, holla at cha BooBoo…i don’t get back with nobody i’ve broken up with in my past….

June 22, 2006 08:56 AM | Link to this

Morning (said as I lay my head next to the keyboard since I’m going off 2 hours of sleep).

I have to go back to forgive and forget. I could forgive but I could never forget. The scenario doesn’t matter because either way I’m going to look at my SO differently or they are going to look at me differently. Like other posts have already stated, if there is a need to cheat then something is missing in that relationship and it simply wasn’t meant to be. Zero tolerance. Plus, if I cheat for some reason and my SO forgives me and still wants to be in a relationship with me, then I’m going to feel like I can get away with anything in that relationship.

June 22, 2006 09:00 AM | Link to this

Stella I feel you slim.

CJ That’s an individual lesson that some get and some don’t. May I say that it also depends on the reason(s) for cheating. Life is never cut and dry, just like that.

By JoyMonique74

June 22, 2006 09:06 AM | Link to this

Good morning all. Great points CJ and Janae. Personally, I believe once the trust is gone from a relationship, it probably may need to end. I for one, ended a long term relationship(4 years together) with my ex-live in boyfriend, when I found out about his extra relationship in another state. He didn’t deny having the relationship, but at that point when I found out about it, the trust factor was out the window. I really had to struggle with the fact that my relationship was over, in a way, felt like a divorce. It’s weird though, we’ve become better friends and occassionaly talk on the phone during holidays and birthdays. He’s even come to visit last summer for a couple of days(He relocated to Tampa after our breakup), but nothing happened….we just hung out and became better friends….it’s still kinda weird how our feelings changed for one another, but I’m happy that point of my life is over with him and I’ve moved on.

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 09:06 AM | Link to this

True story…

I dated/loved this guy in my 20’s he was the perfect BF for the first 6-9 months. He told me he wanted to hang with his boys one w/e, I was totally cool with it. The next w/e and every w/e there after he did the same thing. He was still perfect Mon - Thursday (dayum he was good to me). After about 3-4 months of the every w/e MIA madness, I had had enough, we had spoken about this several times and nothing changed. My female intuition had kicked in already and I knew he was up to no good. I spoke on it. His response “It’s not what you know, it’s what you can prove”. I eventually moved him out cause he wouldn’t do it own his own. I started dating again within a few weeks. Ex-Dude showed up unannounced one evening….. new guy showed up less than 5 minutes later. I told my Ex I was expecting company, he laughed until the doorbell rang……. He left no drama ensued, new guy/Ex knew each other from HS - LOL. Then he started calling early in the AM, telling me to tell whoever I was dating that “Daddy was coming back home”. After a few months apart, we started hanging out again (we always had major fun together before the split), We carried on like this for a few years. We were never intimate again, nor did I consider us to be dating (more like hanging partnah’s). I didn’t date anyone for most of the time we were hanging buddies. Found out a few years later that when I moved him out a lady he had been having relations with during our “exclusive stage” had given birth to his child. When I found out I asked him whey he never told me even after we broke up. He told me “you would have never forgiven me, and since we never got back together, your friendship was all I had and I did not want to lose that.” As much as I loved this guy, I did not forgive him completely for cheating, I could not prove it when I suspected it, but I reacted based on my intuition and I was not wrong. That taught me to trust my intuitions at all times even when the proof is absent. It also set the stage for me to leave if I am not happy. I have been this way ever since. I really don’t think I could/would ever forgive a cheating mate

June 22, 2006 09:07 AM | Link to this

QC I hear you, but Mr. Brown doesn’t exemplify Mr. Blue.

By CJ

June 22, 2006 09:08 AM | Link to this

Blue, that’s true. Life isn’t cut and dry, but just like runnin said if he was forgiven, he’d feel like he could get away with anything. That’s all I’m saying. Once you let someone get away with something, the flood gates are now open. No, everyone won’t take advantage of it, but let’s be realistic. If you give some people an inch, they’ll take a mile.

By QC

June 22, 2006 09:08 AM | Link to this

Work it out BK the pool will be off the chain today i’m sure, feel free to start mixing some “dranks if you want, i’m sure i’ll need one later….”

By jraw

June 22, 2006 09:10 AM | Link to this

For me, I guess it depends. When I was single, if a girl cheated on me then she is history. Now that I am married it depends on the situation, I would probrably try to work it out, but it would be a big pill to swallow.

June 22, 2006 09:17 AM | Link to this

GoodMorning Ladies and Gents

Well said Blue-k about Karma. I’ve been played and know how it feels!! not nice, at all. And i guess people do change maybe but its hard to trust someone after that. Although i’ve never cheated on anybody, if it did happen i will no doubt let my man knw and will face the after-math. I rather be honest then lie. Nonetheless, cheating is wrong but so many folks do it all the time and feel ok about it. How can you go to bed, how can u face u’re self in the mirror is what i dont understand after u cheat on somebody..

June 22, 2006 09:18 AM | Link to this

CJ True that, ties must be severed because the trust is gone and will never be the same, plus “In my mind…” that cat ain’t gone feel the same no mo’. LOL

June 22, 2006 09:19 AM | Link to this

Since one of the most important qualities of a female to me is loyality…if she cheats..she gets the boot…if we are just dating i dont care what you do as long as its not in my face..but if we are a couple..you got to get from around me.

if I cheat..i expect a pass..plan and simple..but on the real..if i was with someone and was caught cheating..i would leave anyway…wouldnt be the same..without trust you dont have anything..

June 22, 2006 09:20 AM | Link to this

BK - bloody mary please?? extra hot sauce..yumm.

June 22, 2006 09:23 AM | Link to this

JustMe Now that’s a wild story. That dude actually does love you though, if he said all of that. And he realizes that he was having the wrong kind of fun with the wrong person. A dude that wasn’t feeling like he lost something real would’ve gone on with the new fam and not looked back.

June 22, 2006 09:26 AM | Link to this

mornin…..

June 22, 2006 09:27 AM | Link to this

LOL @ SeanJ f I cheat..i expect a pass..plan and simple..

I know you’re just joking dude but that sounded funny.

June 22, 2006 09:28 AM | Link to this

**Morning all”. scenario 1. just like the zero tolerance seat belt law I have a zero tolerance cheating law because in one way or another the guilt from the incident will destroy the relationship. Either I will not trust her again and always be supicious or she will be suspicious of me repaying her back for the bad deed. That innocent comfortable feeling of trust is lost forever.

scenario 2. if I cheated I would tell her and end the relationship. I am a believer that if you cheat you are not satisfied with what you have and will always seek more or someone else until that satisfaction is met.

scenario 3.goes back to 1 and 2. if we are suppose to be dating one on one. Its like game seven of the playoffs……its all or nothing, life is too short to not love and be loved in the correct manner. No need to BS each other with adultrious hidden feelings. Just be a real man or waman about who you are. I will respect anyone who is true to her feelings.

I think cheating is sort of like an addition and you have to be bigger than your feelings and desires you have to conquer it. A weak minded individual cheats easily!

By AngDawPac

June 22, 2006 09:29 AM | Link to this

Good morning all!! Laney - you excited for Superman next week? Any, on topic: Cheating is, in my mind, the most heinous thing that someone can do in a relationship. I don’t know if there is a more cowardly thing that one can do to another person that they “care” about. I had a conversation with someone about this one time, and I stated that I would be able to forgive (yikes - this might stir up some passion here) someone hitting their partner before I could forgive someone cheating on their partner. Now keep reading because I will explain.

First of all, you should never hit/beat your boyfriend or girlfriend. That is a horrible horrible thing to do. But at the same time, there are situations that you can find yourself in that you do end up hitting someone you care about. There are times when you can be overcome with rage and are unable to control it. Certainly not excusing this action, but I can forgive it (once). Now people will say that you can be overcome with lust/feelings toward someone, but I don’t believe that these emotions evoke the same type of blinding power that rage can in some people. With cheating, you have to consciously decide at some point “I am going to cheat.” Plus, you have to put yourself in the situation to be in a position to cheat. Whereas with hitting someone, you can find yourself in that situation wihtout even knowing it and it has already happened.

Now please know that I have NEVER hit anyone in my life. I will NEVER hit anyone in my life. It is right up there with cheating as the most evil thing to do. All I am saying is that I could forgive the violent act before I would ever forgive infidelity.

So, enjoy ripping me apart now :)

June 22, 2006 09:29 AM | Link to this

good morning, all…

i have noticed that the words never and not ever have been used a few times in this morning’s comments…

and to that i give my thought for the day…never say never because you never know…

the thing about each life that is most beautiful and most tragic is that you never know what kinds of situations your choices or even factors that are out of your control will cause you to have to deal with…

there have been many times when the exact thing that i said i would not do…i did…

the best thing you can do is to know what your dealbreakers are…and also know that sometimes…even your dealbreakers call for compromise…the trick is knowing how to make those kinds of compromises while being true to yourself…

June 22, 2006 09:31 AM | Link to this

@SeanJ - so u’re saying, if she doesn’t find out if planned accordingly, u would cheat?? correct me if i’m reading u wrong otherwise.

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 09:31 AM | Link to this

Blue I loved him too even after we split. We remained really good friends even after I relocated to GA. I think he set the standard for what I would be willing to accept in a relationship. Every break up I have initiated since that one has only gotten easier.

June 22, 2006 09:31 AM | Link to this

question to the ladies who have a problem with men cheating…how would you feel if we were like other cultures where its normal and expected for a man to have more than one wife/woman?

June 22, 2006 09:32 AM | Link to this

LMAO @ “that cat ain’t gone feel the same no mo’“….that’s part of the can’t forget thing Blue…hahaha.

jraw I hear you since, most likely, you have more invested when you are married but I’d have to let her go and if it was me, I would have to dip. That pill is too big to swallow for me. Like the scene in the movie “The Best Man” when Morris Chestnut is trying to recite his wedding vows at the end but he’s crying because he’s visualizing his future wife taking it from the back from his best man….couldn’t do it…LOL.

By kiesha

June 22, 2006 09:33 AM | Link to this

Cheating is not an accident or a mistake as we are all adults and can control ourselves. That’s why cheating is a deal-breaker for me. I would never let it go if we got back together and trust that dude would be miserable with me b/c I wouldn’t even treat him the same way. In fact I’d feel that I have a “get out of cheating free” card if I took him back. But that’s not the kind of relationship I’d want to be be in — single is much easier so I’d bounce.

June 22, 2006 09:34 AM | Link to this

Gavi Here you go slim. Goose work for you? And some of this hot azz Louisiana hot sauce…

Sends over a nice Merlot for QC

(Looking through the bar and thinking) Hmmm… Two extra 40’s in here… Is ol’ boy (Demi) sick?

June 22, 2006 09:34 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All

I don’t think it’s possible to “affair-proof” your relationship. A relationship requires a level of mutual respect that has to be shared by both parties. It boils down to a character issue. How do you value yourself? How strongly do you stand behind your own words and actions? There are alot of men/women who loves to boast about being “grown”. However, if you look people in the eye and tell them lies…you are a coward…simple as that! It doesn’t mean that you’re ALL bad…but you have a character issue that you need to work on.

Can I forgive? Absolutely…it’s the Christian thing to do. Forgiving doesn’t mean staying…

I could be wrong, but this is what I honestly think at times….some women stay with cheating boyfriends because they don’t want the other woman to “win”. They believe that if they kick the man to the curb and he goes to the other woman…it’s like…that other woman has the satisfaction of “winning”. I told a friend this….But look what she won…”A no-good, cheating, lying boyfriend with kids”…You can have it!!

By janae

June 22, 2006 09:36 AM | Link to this

Sedrick

if we are suppose to be dating one on one. Its like game seven of the playoffs……its all or nothing, life is too short to not love and be loved in the correct manner. No need to BS each other with adultrious hidden feelings. Just be a real man or waman about who you are. I will respect anyone who is true to her feelings.

That is how I feel….

June 22, 2006 09:38 AM | Link to this

@ JustMe - 9 am blog. U are absouloutly correct about intuitions. We really really need to listen to them even though it might seem wrong at times, cause in the end we regret not doing so. We had this conversation at our lunch with our “blog-divas” the other day. Trust me, from experience, i went through something similar like you did. I found out that the guy i was kinda dating then, had somebody pregnant as well and he just had that baby. ofcourse, i found out through others!! i would’ve never known otherwise. and I now regret now following my instincts!!

June 22, 2006 09:38 AM | Link to this

sJea no truer words have been spoken…

By janae

June 22, 2006 09:39 AM | Link to this

Sean

Hell No

I do not share (and knows about it), and I am not down with, OPP…Just me though…

By jRock

June 22, 2006 09:40 AM | Link to this

Good morning folks… LTNB..

Scenario #2… First of all if you regret it, repented and want to salvage your relationship, then under any circumstances do you tell the other person. You show them with your love and commitment (hopefully, its at a higher level then prior)… If she finds out down the line, she will know from your actions since that time that you’re really regret it and want the relationship.. IMHO

With that said, if I was to find out anytime or anyway I’d probably check out, because like my friend Ms. Cee said, cheating is deal breaker.. Hey Ms Cee ;)

By Ivy

June 22, 2006 09:42 AM | Link to this

Good Morning, everyone!

Another good topic, Laney.

Cheating is so touchy. Personally, I don’t think there’s a point to cheating. While I can understand why some people cheat, I still think it’s totally pointless.

First of all, the bar scene/one-night stand would never happen with me. There is just way too much going on out there from diseases to rapist/killers. I ain’t going home with anybody, nor let them come home with me. Never have and never will. and I do mean, Neva!

If my SO (my hubby) cheated, well, it wouldn’t matter if it was a long time ago or recent. I’d want to know. I’d be p** and it would probably cause us to separate, while not necessarily leading to divorce. I’d want to know how long did this secret relationship go on or if it was just a one night stand and there would definitely be trust issues. While I’m not sure if it would be the end of our marriage, it would definitely cause a great riff. Now, if he were to have a child outside of our marriage…….that would be a dealbreaker for me, no matter what the circumstances, it’s a wrap!

I wouldn’t tolerate cheating from a boyfriend, at all. Again, cheating is pointless and you should have self-control. I wouldn’t be understanding in the least and there would be nothing to salvage because whatever bond we were trying to establish would be broken for good. I know some would say, what is the difference. The difference is that my marriage is important to me and both my husband and I have established a bond before God and between ourselves, I feel that there’s nothing we couldn’t tell each other and while I’m confident that he will not stray, anything is possible. As for the marriage, I’m really in it for the long haul, good or bad, ups and down……..as long as I feel the same from my husband. However, if he cheated and decides to continue an affair, then of course, there would be nothing I could do other than be hurt, heal my heart, and move on. For a boyfriend, that hasn’t totally committed to me, well, he can keep it moving.

By Cee

June 22, 2006 09:42 AM | Link to this

jRock!! where da hell you been??!! miss you…

June 22, 2006 09:43 AM | Link to this

Sean I guess if that’s the culture and that’s all i know and see…it would be ALL good. I wouldn’t have the expectation of “exclusivity”. Here in America, these little cults that popup that practice polygamy, they can take that somewhere else!!

By QC

June 22, 2006 09:43 AM | Link to this

Thanks for the Merlot BK, oh nice glass too….it’s Pink…hey Gavi..”bloody mary” is it that bad this merning already

By Randyt

June 22, 2006 09:49 AM | Link to this

Simply stated, for me it is ONE STRIKE AND YOU’RE OUT. If I am in a committed exclusive relationship with someone then trust IS the biggest issue. If I cannot trust that other person then I absolutely am not willing to spend the rest of my life having to always look ovr my shoulder. Flirting, I do not like, but I can live with that as long as it goes no farther, but cheating…no way. I don’t and I refuse to be with someone that will or has. Her history (and mine) are in the past, but if someone is with me, then she dayum sure better be with ME. Frankly, I think if someone tolerates a cheater once, then they better be ready to tolerate that cheater forever becaue it WILL usually happen again….better you than me, hon.

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 09:49 AM | Link to this

Gavi His daughter was almost 3 when I found out. The kicker… I was at his house one evening, he invited me over for a bowl of his famous chili and I played Monoply with him and his brother for a few hours. While I was there, the babymama showed up unannounced and he cussed her out (they were never exclusive), he said she had a bad habit of doing that. I told him I would leave, but he insisted that I stay, I was who he had invited over…. I did not know who she was/didn’t know about the baby at this time either, but she knew who I was because of my car. When all the darkeness finally came to light and I asked him about this incident, he told me she never knew we broke up. She thought I was the reason they were never exclusive.

June 22, 2006 09:53 AM | Link to this

Runnin Man when I saw that movie I said, “Helll Naah” LOL

Keisha “get out of cheating free” card

Is that the same thing as a “free phuck pass”? If so, your’re right. That’s still lingering around in the background as well.

June 22, 2006 09:53 AM | Link to this

Go Ghana!!!!!

June 22, 2006 09:53 AM | Link to this

Well said darkbuty I have heard so many women say I ain’t gone let her have him…or some other silly variation…

Personally I don’t want to win someone else’s problem!

My thought on the whole thing is if you do not have trust, you have nothing Move On!

June 22, 2006 09:54 AM | Link to this

@ SeanJ - Do you really think those women are happy emotionally that they r not the only woman in the man’s life.. no i dont think so.. its only in the middle-eastern coutries anyways, and even that has been dwindling down. Thank god for the women over there.

June 22, 2006 09:58 AM | Link to this

@ Janae..stop being so selfish…lol

@ Darkbuty…good response..other cultures and other parts of the world are so different than here..even in the Bible i man could have more than one wife…a few concubines and some handmaids..must have been nice..lol

By kiesha

June 22, 2006 09:59 AM | Link to this

Blue Kolla - pretty much lol SeanJohnson - Probably the same way you’d feel if women had multiple men. If you are a cheating dude just be a cheating dude. Why all the posturing and attempts to justify? And you probably consider yourself a “Christian” smh.

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 10:00 AM | Link to this

Sean I met an African guy from Togo here GA shortly after I moved here. We went out maybe 2 times and I asked him about being married and having multiple wives. He told me he had a wife in his Motherland and another lady (not a wife) that he lived with in GA - WTFWHT?!?! He wanted to start “dating” told me his live in African lady would braid my hair for free if he told her to, and told me of all the wonderful things that I could expect from “dating” him. “I laughed at his azz like Cedric the Entertainer was doing stand up comedy in my livingroom”

A few years before that I met a Jamacian guy in Detroit. After “only talking” for a week or maybe two, this fine azz brutha started trying to check me on where I had been, who I was with, what time I came home, I didn’t check in with him yada, yada, yada, blazay splee…..

No more foreign guys for me! They are way too demanding, posessive and expect that they can have umpteen women in the USA like they can in their Motherland. To that I say - Naw Big Pimpin’ I ain’t the 1 and we ain’t the 2!

June 22, 2006 10:00 AM | Link to this

Randy dapps

JustMe Maybe you should give dude a call. Seriously doh…

By Foots

June 22, 2006 10:02 AM | Link to this

@Dark ^5 on your 9:34 post!! Forgiving does NOT mean staying!! Forgive and move on. I’ve heard women claim they stay because “I love him”. Some of the best advice my mama gave me in my early twenties is “You can love someone from afar”. Still holds true today.

Cheating is a BIG no-no for me, either as the perpetrator or the victim. Not saying that I haven’t cheated before…long time ago, long long time ago…but I hated that guilty feeling at first. Then what REALLY scared me was that I no longer felt guilty. That’s when you have to worry, when you can justify wrong to yourself.

And Good Morning everyone!!

By Danette

June 22, 2006 10:03 AM | Link to this

Morning Crew

Behind in reading… but this is a keeper. Have a great day.

By janae

June 22, 2006 10:04 AM | Link to this

LOL@SEAN I guess I am selfish when it comes to sharing a man….

June 22, 2006 10:05 AM | Link to this

2CPTG Sup, you talking about Ghana and the world cup? Let me go hit ESPN.com up…lol.

Blue More like but I said naw, b* I said naw!, from T.I.’s cd, The Breakup…hahahahahahahaha.

MysticMoni when women say “I ain’t gone let her have him”, that’s plain crazy. And what makes anyone think that if a person will cheat on their SO with you, that they won’t go and cheat on you once you become the SO???

June 22, 2006 10:05 AM | Link to this

@ Gavii..um i really cant speak on the emotionally stability of them…and i dont think u can either..not trying to get smart with you ..But if its part of their culture and they were raised that way, so to them its the way things are..like Darkbuty said earlier..exclusitivy is not expected. Now i know that some wives would be jealous of others but cheating wouldnt exist..no need for it.

June 22, 2006 10:06 AM | Link to this

Jenea, your’re on my level.

June 22, 2006 10:07 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Fam!!! Good topic Laney.

I forgave my ex hubby for leaving me with two babies to go back to his ex and I didn’t mention it again. What turned the tables was him keeping me on a very, very short leash. I guess he had in the back of his mind that payback would be a biotch. Anyway, after my infidelity he decided that he was p issed beyond the realm of p isstivity and I needed to be punished. So he took a weeks vacation and kept me locked in the house in our bedroom naked with a knife at my throat and humiliated. I had little cut marks all around my neck and bandages on eight of my fingers. After that week had gone by he decided that he would kill all of us, so he jumped on 285 after church that Sunday and he sped up to about 100 mph right on the bumper of a truck. I looked at him and told him that he was a hypocrite and he deserved to feel whatever he felt. He succeeded with this scare tactic twice. The third time, the police stopped him before he could leave the parking lot and the rest is history. I took my babies and we left the home. He called me at my moms house and actually had the nerve to be angry with me because he had no where to go when he got out of jail. Before I hung up the phone I told him to do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

By kiesha

June 22, 2006 10:07 AM | Link to this

JustMe — THAT is hilarious. I typically don’t date African/Carribean guys either b/c every single one has been on some “I know this is only our 2nd date but I love you and lets get married” type stuff. LOL I’ll pass.

June 22, 2006 10:09 AM | Link to this

Off topic… Did anyone see House of Payne last night? I don’t have a good feeling about it.

June 22, 2006 10:10 AM | Link to this

@ Kiesha…Sorry charlie..dont consider myself a christian…No offense to the christian folks on the blog..

By QC

June 22, 2006 10:10 AM | Link to this

Why cheat?, hell just leave me!

saying that as i walk over to BK @ the bar asking for the “whole bottle of Merlot”

Demi will you be joining us today????

June 22, 2006 10:10 AM | Link to this

good mornin everyone!

ON TOPIC: my conversation with a cheater him: i cheated. me: goodbye. (nope. not even ‘good’bye… just bye!)

ON SEANJ TOPIC: kinda inappropriate to come into a forum with a group of women that didnot growup thinking that their only destiny in life, only goal is to snag a decent man able to provide for more than one of us at a time…. of course, there is not one of us that will say convincingly that we would be cool with that. its said that there is a civiliation in the amazon where women are revered and more powerful than the men… so the same question could be put to you… could you comfortably share ‘your’ woman with another man or other men??

keisha (I gotcha back)

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 10:11 AM | Link to this

Blue That is not possible anymore. I dreamed about him in April 2004. WOke up found my old phone book wrote down the last phone #’s I had for him and tried to contact him later that morning. I ended up sending a fax because the only working # had a fax machine hooked to it. His Mother called me back a few days later, the phone # was to her home. We talked for a good hour and she told me he didn’t live with her but that she would tell him I had called/faxed next time she spoke with him and give him my phone #. A week after that, she called me again….. it was not with good news:(

June 22, 2006 10:12 AM | Link to this

@BlueK- delicious..just the way i like em.. @QC - girl..i’m still carrying the jerk effect from yesterday, but this drink will take it AWAY i hope!!

June 22, 2006 10:14 AM | Link to this

Good Morning..

I am pulling the old double standard card here.. Ok if I cheat I expect to be forgiven and taken back with open arms as if nothing happened. Now if she cheated she is erased from memory and banished to exile from the Temple of The Infamous DK.. She might not even be banished immediately, she will be around until I have punished her quite a bit.. Now me I should be forgiven with a smile and dinner, maybe a few days or months of schmoozing may be in order but eventually things should go back to normal.. H3ll I will even be on my best behavior for a while, its almost best to catch me in some mess cause I act better afterwards..

June 22, 2006 10:14 AM | Link to this

yep…..rootin’ for the real home team!!!

By Webster

June 22, 2006 10:14 AM | Link to this

QC, what is your definition of lurking.

June 22, 2006 10:17 AM | Link to this

@ MissUnderstood…dang..he was on some Brian Nichols ish

By QC

June 22, 2006 10:17 AM | Link to this

Hey DASv

Gavi, is starting early this merning, somebody must have gotten on her nerves already….

June 22, 2006 10:17 AM | Link to this

Miss U I missed that show what feeling did you get from. I heard a sound clip and it sounded kind of like dry humor. Probably got to watch it a few times and let it grow on me. But I give T. Perry his props for doing things on his own terms.

June 22, 2006 10:17 AM | Link to this

@SeanJ - yes even though, that how’s they grew up..its a woman thing.. poo ladies prolly dont have a say for that matter.. i know, i cant speak for them but its soo obvious i’m sure that even if they want to oppose, they can’t! And i agree with Darkbuty as well, “exclusitivy is not expected”!! sad but true..sighh.. ( as i shake my head ).. i know u’re not trying to get smart..thanks for saying that though..cho cute..

June 22, 2006 10:18 AM | Link to this

MissU is your Ex hubby Brian Nichols, the Courthouse shooter? smile

I’m glad that you and your kids are safe. It could have been a really tragic story.

I watched both episodes…I’m hoping that it gets better. I want to support our African American TV producers…but yesterday required alot of patience…

By Foots

June 22, 2006 10:19 AM | Link to this

@Kiesha and JustMe—I hate to generalize and stereotype, but I feel you. I was dating this guy from Barbados that I called the Island Prince because he was so sweet at first. Three months later when I couldn’t stand the smothering and the constant check-ins anymore and tried to break things off, he showed me printouts of the different rings he was looking at for our engagement. Okay…right…

June 22, 2006 10:20 AM | Link to this

2can come’on man…. i was proud of the good ole boys and the stand in the last game.. they even got a gift of a goal… but ghana killing ‘em now, huh?? (keep my posted.. cant post and surf espn too… oh! AND work…lol)

By kiesha

June 22, 2006 10:21 AM | Link to this

SeanJohnson - Oh okay neither do I. I’m looking at some of you (general you) dudes are funny though because aren’t you the same ones who talk about how a woman should submit and you should be head of household. Now you’re saying that you should also be able to cheat w/o consequence yet your mate should not. That speaks VOLUMES to your (general you) views on women.

By janae

June 22, 2006 10:22 AM | Link to this

MISS is that for real?

June 22, 2006 10:23 AM | Link to this

DK H3ll I will even be on my best behavior for a while, its almost best to catch me in some mess cause I act better afterwards..

Only for a while? smile So you will definitely go back to cheating? Once a cheater always a cheater is a true statement in your book?

By QC

June 22, 2006 10:25 AM | Link to this

Hey MissU, i missed it but my co-workers were telling me about it….jb said she liked it…sherry, said it was a waste of time…i’ll have to catch it on another day, when is it showing again????

June 22, 2006 10:26 AM | Link to this

Gavi You might wanna cap off the “G” in G O D. Not trippin, just sayin…

By Ms. Newark

June 22, 2006 10:26 AM | Link to this

I cheated once just to see if I could get away with it. I got away with it for almost a year. Everything ended badly on all sides.

By Jgirl

June 22, 2006 10:27 AM | Link to this

Morning all I agree with CEE! I think if you are in serious relationship then the cheater has broken trust. I personally in the past have cheated while dating someone seriously and I was honest and came clean and the guilt ate me up. I was out of town and it was an innocent kiss. I do consider cheating anything that you wouldn’t want the other to know about or do. If someone sleeps with someone else then that is it and there is nothing you can say or do. I used to feel that I’d rather not know if it was just a one time thing, but I am not so sure now.

Sc#1 If someone is honest and tells me upfront then I do have to take that into consideration, but it also depends on how into the person I am and how the relationship is so far. But if you get caught then you can forget about it, b/c I wouldn’t believe that the person would be honest with me.

SC#2 I am not really the cheating type, but if(and that is a BIG IF) I did and it was a one time thing and I really loved that person then I would probably keep my mouth shut and ask the good Lord to forgive me.

First off my man shouldnt be going to the club without me unless he’s trying to meet other girls!!! Duh… so if that was the case then he obviously didn’t respect our relationship enough anyway. And if it was a boys night out type of thing then where were his boys at and why didn’t they get a handle on the situation?? I don’t care what people say, You still have control even when your drinking and if you don’t then you don’t need to drink in the first place. People aren’t stupid, they know what they do and how they act when they drink so that is no excuse. And as I said before if you do the deed with someone else while your still with me, then that’s a wrap!!!

By jraw

June 22, 2006 10:27 AM | Link to this

@running

You are silly! It would be tough as hell, I probrably could handle it, if I didn’t know the details and it was a one time thing and the only reason I would do that is because of my kids. Other than that I would drop her faster than a bad habit and I love this women dearly (been married ten years now!). It’s too many women out here to be putting up with bull.

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 10:29 AM | Link to this

Foots & Kiesha We live, we learn.

By janae

June 22, 2006 10:30 AM | Link to this

just me, that is what I am saying life is to short and if you are unhappy in any situation, you need to get out of it, only you control your situation..

if you really and truly love someone tell them before is to late*

swallow that pride

June 22, 2006 10:30 AM | Link to this

@ DASvenus….being a realist..not knowingly i prolly already have. But if that is how the culture is..i will have to get in where i fit in. i wouldnt have a problem letting “her” go hunt, fish and to war..and wait for her to come home and feed grapes and cut. And its just not like that in the Amazon..i heard its like that in Alaska and most military bases.lol

By chink

June 22, 2006 10:31 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All

How do I feel about cheating? I really don’t know ….every situation is different.

Trust will be hard to achieve thats for sure.

LOL @ DK yeah I bet thats what you want but remember everything has coonsequences/ comes with a price. Sooner or later the cards won’t be in your favor.

No one night stands for me ..have I cheated yes and I told him and he felt responsible ..lol …I tell ya a guy knows when he has a good thing but he might not do anything about it….

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 10:32 AM | Link to this

Dark He already confirmed what women already knew…….. Letem slide once and they’ll do it again, and again, and again if you continue to stay.

June 22, 2006 10:32 AM | Link to this

again….Go Ghana!!!!

By jraw

June 22, 2006 10:32 AM | Link to this

@misunderstood:

Sorry, u had to go thru that. I hate to hear stories like that. This guy is a coward.

June 22, 2006 10:34 AM | Link to this

Oh Ladies… You all are sharing dudes whether you know it or not..

June 22, 2006 10:36 AM | Link to this

Sean He was straight trippin. His mother told me that I was over reacting and it’s not like he was abusing me. He was just upset about the situation he had caused. I told her that she was the reason he thought he can do what the h3ll he wanted.

sedrick- I thought it was very dry and too predictable. I figured out after the stank attitude ol girl had that she was probably on drugs. I am so hoping it gets better with time. Tyler Perry is a very talented writer and I know you have to crawl before you walk, I just hope this doesn’t bite him in the booty.

darbuty- they prolly cousins. lol It could have been extremely tragic, but I remembered my uncle telling me when I was younger that men who behave a certain way are punks. It probably fortunate that my hands were not free each time we got in the car because I probaly would have tried to knock him out and that wouldn’t have been too good since he was driving.

janae- yes ma’am.. when the kids asked him why I wouldn’t come outta the bedroom, he I heard him tell them that mommy didn’t feel well.

By kiesha

June 22, 2006 10:38 AM | Link to this

So, Infamous DK, are you admitting that all men are dogs?

June 22, 2006 10:39 AM | Link to this

QC hee, hee… @gavi. send her a drink on the house. when musing gets here, have him dance for her… that’ll help ease things…. lmao.

gavi you know i got your back though. fo sho!

By Foots

June 22, 2006 10:39 AM | Link to this

@DK— And what are the dudes sharing…their paychecks in child support and STDs?? The thrill just is not worth it…

June 22, 2006 10:41 AM | Link to this

JustMe :| sorry to hear that.

MissU I’m not laughing at your story ‘cause that was some for real wild shyt… but you husband’s name isn’t DK is it? LMAO

Keisha I’m gonna let that one ride…

By QC

June 22, 2006 10:41 AM | Link to this

MissU, thank God he brought you through it and all of you are allright

June 22, 2006 10:42 AM | Link to this

QC- I don’t know…I think I heard them saying an episode is airing June 29th.

jraw- thanks, like blue said you live and you learn.

There were times when it was hard for me not to compare one guys actions to his especially if something seemed similar. I always had to tell myself he’s not him.

Thank GOD I was able to clear my mind and get focused.

June 22, 2006 10:45 AM | Link to this

DK- I don’t think we’re all sharing… It’s not that much s3x to be had.

June 22, 2006 10:47 AM | Link to this

So do MEN reach a point/stage in their lives where they no longer will cheat? If so, what stage is that? Or is it strictly dependent on the female that their with?

By janae

June 22, 2006 10:47 AM | Link to this

chink true.

June 22, 2006 10:48 AM | Link to this

seanj lmao…. you stooopid! like that in alaska and most military bases so youve never been cheated on, to your knowledge??

June 22, 2006 10:49 AM | Link to this

2can 2-1. good ole boys trying to hang on…..

By Kym

June 22, 2006 10:49 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

HMMMM Cheating appears this topic comes up at least once a week on the blog and in ever variation. But I will go for it.

I have been in both incidents described. Either way it is not a good feeling. However I have seen some folks never going to stay or I would forgive and not forget. A wise woman once told me that if you love someone and they do you wrong….and you forgive them then you need to forget it. Dont keep it in the back of your mind for the times they come home late and you wonder, Don’t lord it over them and bring it up at ever arguement be in six months from the incident or sixty years! An I agree with Sean please dont say I never would or I couldnt because life hold surprises for us all, and you can’t predict how you would act when the only thing between you and that good time but air and opportunity.

In honor of this topic Now playing Frankie Beverly and Maze’s After the Morning After

June 22, 2006 10:50 AM | Link to this

Jgirl I am not really the cheating type

What does that mean. You’re flip-floppin’ slim.

Said as I pass DK the chain mail since he’s going against the grain today.

By Foots

June 22, 2006 10:51 AM | Link to this

MissUnderstood That is quite a story. You are a very strong and blessed woman to make it through something like that. I thought that the stress, strain, and pain I’ve been through in the past had made me strong, but trust, I’d be still rocking in a corner somewhere if I had lived through that.

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 10:52 AM | Link to this

Janae He died shortly after I dreamed about him in 2004 and tried to contact him. I guess that’s why I couldn’t shake the dream. I could have never taken him back though, he knew and I knew we had a “special love” for each other that never changed over the years. the only thing that changes was we stopped $exing each other up and down.

Infamous DK It’s when we find out that we act accordingly.

I had a cheating Ex send me letter from jail of all places trying to explain how wrong/sorry he was for cheating and being a str8 knuckle head. I unplugged the house phone and used the stamp he sent me for postage to write him back to pay a bill. Trust is a non negotiable

*”To be trusted is a greater complement than to be loved.” - George MacDonald *

“Experience teaches only the teachable.” -Aldous Huxley

June 22, 2006 10:53 AM | Link to this

jraw LOL…I’m just saying, whenever I think about cheating and forgiving, that scene in that movie pops in my head….hahahaha. My dad told me before my divorce that you don’t have to be married to be a good father to your kids.

chink…..”have I cheated yes and I told him and he felt responsible ..lol“….WTF??? Come on now, ol boy was whipped, a punk with no back bone, or what?…LOL.

Dang keisha, who p** in your corn flakes this morning…lol.

DK At least you keepin it real pimpin….LOL.

By sharon

June 22, 2006 10:54 AM | Link to this

if it was just a one night stand i would not end the marriage. but from that point on he and i would only co-exist as parents. if it is a full blown affair whereas he has emotionally left the marriage then i would kick him out.

By kiesha

June 22, 2006 10:54 AM | Link to this

Blue Kolla - You’re gonna let what ride? It’s the truth.

June 22, 2006 10:58 AM | Link to this

@ DASvenus…not to my knowledge..but i am different because of the way i define committment…starts with a ring with me…30 years old calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend is funny.

@ darkbuty..i certainly think so..each man is different but most dont really get the “dogg” out until they are between 30-35… you ladies please make note of that..

June 22, 2006 11:00 AM | Link to this

boy, dk….every now and then…you say some mess that has me shaking my head at you all over again….

your 1034a comment is just lies and garbage…

generalizations such as that add nothing to this discussion…it’s just an inflammatory statement meant to incite emotion and get a rise out of bloggers and you are wrong for putting it out there like that…

i would be just as wrong if i said…guys, you have at one point shared a woman if you know it or not…

wrong and pointless….

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 11:02 AM | Link to this

Thanks Blue

By chink

June 22, 2006 11:03 AM | Link to this

Runnin

I didnt tell the whole story but the bottom line is he did feel responsible he claims … he wasnt treating me right. And thats the truth.

So you see u can’t treat someone like S**t and expect them to take it all the time ..they will rebell….eventually. Not saying it was a good experience for either one of us but just something else to deal with in a relationship.

By jraw

June 22, 2006 11:03 AM | Link to this

@sharon

if it was just a one night stand i would not end the marriage. but from that point on he and i would only co-exist as parents.

Why don’t you just leave? Would you want you kids to see a loveless marriage and think that is how it is supposed to be for them?

June 22, 2006 11:03 AM | Link to this

lmao@blue- that was some wild shyt. It just showed me I wasn’t the p.a.m I thought I was. lol

foots- I was and I still am a praying woman. I told him that Jesus won’t let you kill me, no matter how badly you want to. He took the knife off my throat and walked out of the room.

QC- That’s why I praise HIM.
He’s living proof that all good stock has some bad seed.

June 22, 2006 11:03 AM | Link to this

We got action!!!

keisha Ummmm…..are you referring to the truth being that all men are dogs? Are you serious? Especially after some of the “mad for cable only” internet confessions from some of the women on here! Whether they are true or not, to even think of some of the confessions put out there makes you suspect…LOL.

Blue Get at your girl.

June 22, 2006 11:04 AM | Link to this

Kiesha your 10:21 post and wondering why you’re generalizing like that. All of us aren’t dogs you know?

June 22, 2006 11:04 AM | Link to this

@Darkbuty to answer your question do MEN reach a point/stage in their lives where they no longer will cheat? It depends on the man. Some never stop.

June 22, 2006 11:05 AM | Link to this

kym girl i agree.. this topic is visited every week in some form. i’ma break it down and then just copy + paste next week \ TO CHEAT = ANYTHING THAT MAKES ME UNCOMFORTABLE AND FOR WHICH YOU DO NOT HAVE AN ADEQUATE EXPLANATION \ IF YOU CHEAT = I FORGIVE AND WALK AWAY, FOREVER. THATS IT. THE END. BYE,BYE \ IF I CHEAT = I FORGIVE AND WALK AWAY, FOREVER. THATS IT. THE END. BYE,BYE

June 22, 2006 11:06 AM | Link to this

@ sJeaSxyCool….DK is telling the truth..especially in ATL…

June 22, 2006 11:08 AM | Link to this

Yall know people on Peachtree Street can’t drive. There’s a three car fender bender in front of my building now. Traffic is already bad. I guess I will be having lunch in today.

June 22, 2006 11:09 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone,

Interesting topic in more ways than one. I am a firm believer in never say never because you never know the situation or circumstances that you may find yourself in. For example, say that you weren’t dating, but married and have been for nine years. Your spouse during those nine years constantly fed you empty promises, made mountains out of mole hills, transferred all of the major decisions and running of the household over to you, never provided the emotional support that you needed, made excuses at every turn for why they weren’t the person that they know that they should be and that you need them to be and would do things azz backwards just to say that they did them. Like make you breakfast complete with scrambled eggs with peas in them just to say that they made you breakfast.

Now, you have told this person on more than one occasion and in great detail how they are making you feel and they even admit to the strains and stresses that they are putting on the relationship and the marriage. BUT, they never change. Talk a good game, and go right back to status quo within 2 weeks. Now, a couple of years ago, you were approached by a co-worker who was clearly flirting, and was everything that your spouse wasn’t but you wanted them to be. Now, at the time, you kept telling yourself “my spouse will come around,” “my spouse is going to wake up and realize what he is doing to me and the kids and to this relationship” but, they don’t – they keep feeding you the empty promises. Now, later they admit that they were pushing you away and ask if you ever cheated and at the time you say no, because you haven’t – and you tell them about the potential affair that you almost had.

Fast forward another 4 months – spouse still in the same state that they have been for the last 6 years at least. And, you meet some serious eye candy – who like the previous guy is clearly flirting with you – even has stepped it up a notch.

What do you do? Do you continue to have grandeur of delusions? Keep telling yourself that even though you have heard the speech before, that this time your spouse really means it – or, do you accept that invitation to lunch, knowing full well that things may be said that could possibly lead to something else?

I ask because my head is saying one thing and my heart is saying something else.

By kiesha

June 22, 2006 11:11 AM | Link to this

Blue Kolla and runnin - in my 10:21 post I didn’t say all I said “some.” In my all men are dogs post I was referring to Infamous DK’s post. He said “ladies are sharing your men whether you know it or not.” He’s the one saying all men are dogs, imo so take that up with him.

June 22, 2006 11:12 AM | Link to this

@runnin exactly!!! to those women i say be a fool if you wanna…that is your prerogative…

Think sistah!

By Ivy

June 22, 2006 11:14 AM | Link to this

DK, I’ll have to disagree with you on the all women are sharing their man type of thing. I have platonic male friends that are absolutely faithful to their relationships. All men/males aren’t chasing the cat, and for those males that are…….well, they need to stay single and not pretend to be committed to a woman.

June 22, 2006 11:14 AM | Link to this

Runnin Now normally homie, comments like Kiesha’s make me answer the bell. But I’m kinda layin low, and… at the present I am without my chain mail. Hold up…

DK Here dude. Take this shield and saber as well…

Anyway… Runnin you ain’t bullshyttin about the female confessions that I’ve read on this thing THIS week alone. PLEEZ! So Kiesha, what’s up with that?

June 22, 2006 11:17 AM | Link to this

okay…seanj…i said the generalization of the statement was wrong and pointless…no general statement can apply to any situation…EVER…

but…i’ll back down on this one…and let y’all be as right as you think you are…

By aam853

June 22, 2006 11:17 AM | Link to this

SeanJ - sounds like you assume that, where men are culturally ‘entitled’ to multiple wives/concubines/etc, that they are automatically sexually fulfilled and therefore have no interest in looking further afield. I seriously doubt that! First, keeping all those women has to have some down side (well, I hate to admit that but there it is); Second, a lot of people ‘cheat’ for the emotional thrill rather than the need for more sex. Too many issues involved. No woman raised in this country would willingly and happily accept a position in a relationship where she is one of many. And, I’m thinking no man would, either.

When I was young, I used to think cheating would be the absolute worst betrayal that my husband could perpetrate; now, with some age and perspective, I’m not saying I would accept that, and I would definitely feel betrayed…but I could see how a one-nighter might occur.. once! No repeat occurrences though; I’m not interestd in being a doormat..

June 22, 2006 11:18 AM | Link to this

DC in my opinion you are combining two totally different issues as if they are one. clearly the issues within the ltr needs to be addressed BEFORE the second issue of whether you indulge and explore anything with the ‘eye-candy’. questions like: why have you stayed for the six years and do you have a legitimate time-frame for your so to address his issues? have there been ‘baby’ steps of improvement? are you looking at it objectively or critically because of ‘eye-candy’?it takes two to do anything constructive in a marriage, only one to destroy it……. just some thoughts

By janae

June 22, 2006 11:18 AM | Link to this

LOL

June 22, 2006 11:19 AM | Link to this

sJea Now why is this man (DK) wrong for expressing his opinion, whether you agree with it or not, it’s his opinion.

Whenever somebody doesn’t follow the flow of the blog somebody always jumps up, arms flailing, as if they just shot the president. That’s part of being grown as well, listening to views different from your own. Get fuggin real. Don’t get me wrong slick, you always have good things to say and write beautifully. But you’re out of bounds on this one. And I respect you enough to tell it to you straight.

June 22, 2006 11:20 AM | Link to this

DC Native You can’t utilize someone else’s bad actions to justify your bad actions. Why is the option to have an affair or not? What will that resolve? Will that make you feel better in your marriage or about going home? If you want to resolve the situation…either leave or commit to marriage counseling. Having an affair won’t get roses delivered to you at work…

By chink

June 22, 2006 11:24 AM | Link to this

I agree with you Ivy

That is just another way for a man to get away with being scandalous…so it can be accepted by us.

Please spare me 1 guy is not a representation of what is out there, even though there are those who share your views …it doesnt make it LAW.

Woman do have choices………

By jraw

June 22, 2006 11:24 AM | Link to this

@DC Native

No offense, but it sounds like you are making excuses to dip outside the relationship. Everyone has a side of them that their spouse may not like, but my feel on this is, either you are happy in the relationship or you and he are working to improve things thru couseling. If not maybe you should get out of this totally. There is no valid reason to cheat. Once again either fix problem or dip. If the hubby won’t rectify the problem, then try counseling so he can learn how to solve the issue. If he is unwilling to do that, then you should consider leaving and make sure he knows why you are leaving.

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 11:26 AM | Link to this

Dark So do MEN reach a point/stage in their lives where they no longer will cheat?

Date: June 21, 2006 Publication: Atlanta Journal-Constitution,
Even at 79, great-grandmother Lena Driskell still fits the description that “hell hath no fury like a woman scorned,” a prosecutor said in the opening day of Driskell’s murder trial Tuesday. .”You will learn that Herman Winslow and she were a couple, and other than their being older, were like any other couple,” Fulton County prosecutor Fani Willis said during her opening statement.

SAME STORY - Previous day
Woman, 78, on trial in death of 85-year-old lover Date: June 20, 2006 Publication: Atlanta Journal-Constitution, The
Details of a geriatric romance that took a deadly turn last June will begin unfolding today before a Fulton Superior Court jury. .The victim, an 85-year-old man who lived at a public assisted high-rise for seniors and the disabled, wound up with four bullets in his head. Lena Sims Driskell, 78, who lived at the same facility, is charged with killing Herman Winslow after he broke off their year-long relationship and began dating another woman..Questioning of potential jurors began

Old boy was 85 and still cheating - blame it on Viagra and the other ED medications. H3ll blame it on the rain

DC Native Get a Divorce and Get on with your life!

June 22, 2006 11:27 AM | Link to this

DC Just drop ya less than zero husband, don’t do lunch with your boy, ‘cause… well I’m not gonna tell you all that. If all you want/need is the hit-off go’ead to lunch.

By Jgirl

June 22, 2006 11:27 AM | Link to this

BLUE When I was talking about me cheating, I was 16….long time ago. Just a kid having fun, I’m married now, but if I wasn’t I’d still not cheat cause I know how it feels.

By LahLah

June 22, 2006 11:28 AM | Link to this

When my ex and I were dating (we dated 4 years before marriage) I cheated on him with a married man, (separated but still married.)This was almost 10 years ago.

I felt horrible for it for two several reasons.

I stopped seeing the married man and went on with my relationship with my BF. Well a couple of years later my BF and his business partner started seeing each other and became intimate. I found this out because one year I took him out for his birthday and come to find out she had followed us from his house, to the restaurant and then back to his house. We had drunk a bottle of wine at the restaurant and we were both slightly inebriated so when we got in the house we immediately got in the bed. Well maybe 5 minutes later someone was banging on the door and ringing the bell so he jumped up to get it. I didn’t think anything of it because his little brother was in town so I figured it was one of his brothers friends well the next thing I hear are high heels “click clacking” on his hardwood floors then his bedroom door opened. And I’m laying there. That woman came in the room and introduced herself to me. I couldn’t believe what was happening. My BF was still at the front door scared to come back to his own room. So I’m talking to the girl and she started yelling at me “why the “f” are you here?” And I’m like “what?” “I been here for 4 years.” Mind you I was in my sexy PJs and that made her really upset so she pushes me and so I defended myself and beat her azz. Emotions, adrenaline, alcohol, ooh she was in trouble. I couldn’t believe I was fighting over a man. I would’ve never initiated a fight but I will beat a woman down for putting her hands on me. Well anyway after my BF and his brother broke us up. I of course got my things and left. I was so embarrassed, hurt, disappointed and every other feeling a person has when they find out that they have been cheated on. But I felt I got what I deserved for messing with that married man. So Blue I co-sign your comment about Karma. Well long story short, my BF apologized and apologized and finally presented me with a 3 carat platinum engagement ring to prove just how sorry he was and asked me to marry him. And I did. Another big mistake because that fool was unfaithful our entire marriage.

So you live and you learn and going forward cheating will be a definitive deal breaker. It wouldn’t matter if he told me or I found out on my own or if it was a one night stand or something long-term. And I hope that I’m never that selfish and deceive my SO like that because I now know how it feels to have it happen to me.

By Kym

June 22, 2006 11:28 AM | Link to this

For anyone who is about to write that I am attacking Laney or the topic…blah blah. I am making an observation which I can do. Also for the record on this topic..screwing around with others is not some new fad or fashion that just leaped on to the scene it has been going on since time began and will continue..hell Cleopatra had a kid with Caesar who we think and he thought was his but we all know that there was some freaky sneaky going on with his friend. No mobile DNA back then. An the list goes on and on and on. No matter the civilation or society screwing around is universal.

June 22, 2006 11:29 AM | Link to this

DASvenus reasons for staying before were because everyone who is in either same boat or simular boat will try to tell you that you need to stay. That, and the kids. You have people that will tell you as a married Christian woman, you need to work it out and that there is nothing God can’t do and that you aren’t praying enough. After a while I got to the point where I call bull! Seriously, in order for a change to take place that person needs to want to change. Right now none of his actions really line up with his words - yet he keeps saying them. Keeps saying he wants to get into the computer field - but it shouldn’t take you 6 years to study 2 books. Even this morning, he said that he’s going to read 20 pages a day to complete one book by mid July - he’s said this before too. So, no there haven’t been any baby steps to improvement.

I have tried looking at the situation objectively, rationally, constructively, from his side, from my side, from the kids point of view and then some. Trying to think the whole thing through and do what’s best for everyone. The problem comes in when what one person feels is best, the other person feels is settling for the worst.

Even with the kids - I am at the point I don’t want my son to view his father as what a man is supposed to look like. And I don’t want my daughter to think that her father is the example of what a husband should be.

June 22, 2006 11:31 AM | Link to this

@ sJeaSxyCool…to justify why i said that is because…most of the women in ATL want the SAME type of man..so if a man fits in that catergory he can have more than his share of women. Am i wrong?

June 22, 2006 11:32 AM | Link to this

SJEA No I’m actually serious.. I didnt say that to incite an arguement.. I really think I should be forgiven and taken back.. Now unfortunately it doesnt always work out that way and I have to push along, but I think I should be taken back cause most women give us breaks and take us back.. Seriously.. I have done it a time or two many..

Keisha No all men are not dogs the ladies just make it easy to cheat here..

FOOTS Not all men are sharing STDs and paychecks.. 1 I dont do it RAW and my tests are flawless… 2.My EX was trying to extort me for a minute with my son but then realized she would get more from me willingly than putting DFACS all in the business.. Besides my money is tied up in my Corp and Trust so she couldnt get much.. Guys if you are going thru a divorce start a business and Incorporate and open a trust.. She can only get the money the money you say you pay yourself.

MissU Oh its enough grown up being done down here now.. You might be missing out but its going down, especially since it got hot.. You know spring time means mating season..

Just ME Yeah you ladies talk real big when it comes to cheating but if you catch your Mayne out there and he comes at you right, most times he can come on back in..

Dark Buty For the most part.. Most cheaters may be reformed like drug addicts or sex addicts they can easily be swayed into their old ways.. I just enjoy the company of a woman and not necessarily the same woman..

Chink Yeah we pay prices with everything we do but I feel me lying to myself would be a bigger price to pay rather than being unhappily ever after.. I like to be free and do whatever it is I want and answer to no one.

I can say this though.. I am not a cheater anymore cause I dont even do relationships and tell everyone from the beginning what it is.. As long as you know I am not cheating..

My 2cents..

By Randyt

June 22, 2006 11:33 AM | Link to this

In my marriage, I flew ‘dayum’ close to the flame a bunch of times…but everytime I got close, I remembered the two rules of marriage. Rule #1 is if I screw up, I lose my children. Rule #2 is if she screws up, I lose my children…AND NO PIECE OF YOU KNOW WHAT WAS WORTH THAT TO ME. There are few things I value above getting ‘you know what’, but my children are way out front. It was never worth it to me (now when we got divorced anyway, I made up for lost time ‘bigtime’ for awhile)…but still was and am monogmous in any relationship. If it is right for the goose, it is right for the gander…and if that ‘gander’ isn’t enough woman for me, then I am with the wrong lady anyway.

By chink

June 22, 2006 11:33 AM | Link to this

I have 1 more thing to say

A woman can do the same thing a guy does (sleep with numerous partners) doesnt take much only have to be “selfish”.

Why do guys think they completely satisfy us …. we dont need anyone/anything else ….but its ok for them to step out …DK? Do we not have needs as well that need to be met? That maybe are not being met by SO. What do you think DK?

June 22, 2006 11:33 AM | Link to this

Jraw what if the person won’t let you go. Won’t go to counseling because they said that they aren’t that bad. Then later agreed to it, but wanted it on their terms. Then when you found something that was near their job, and could have worked out they then said, well - no, I am going to read books and get the tools I need that way - but NEVER read them.

I am not looking for an excuse to cheat-funny because he even said that if I did, he would understand why I did it.

I guess the question that I often wonder is when is it ok to say that’s it - I am done - and that’s an answer that I need to discover myself.

By Thick

June 22, 2006 11:35 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Good People,

just been readin this mornin…no comments to make…except for this one…on the point of having many wives “SeanJ”…I enjoy a book very much by Solomon Sjea…”Vanity is Vanity ALL is Vanity”…reading this story is like listening to an old man talk about all his soul searchin adventures in life just to tell you from a Wise perspective what all this pleasure will bring…Nothin.

June 22, 2006 11:36 AM | Link to this

@LahLah Mind you I was in my sexy PJs and that made her really upset so she pushes me and so I defended myself and beat her azz. LMA0

That’s what I don’t get….why the BF propose if he knew he wasn’t the faithful type..

June 22, 2006 11:36 AM | Link to this

um, okay…blue…you have just done the same thing that you turn around and attack me for…

MY opinion of dk’s statement is that he is wrong…pray tell…why am i SO WRONG for responding with said opinion?

for the record…i am not jumping up and down…and have never in my life flailed an arm…i promise…

i just think that general statements such as those with no supporting logic are pointless…the statement paints a broad stroke over EVERY relationship in existence…or specifically in ATL as seanJ so helpfully pointed out…

and i find that broadstroke unfair to those who choose integrity and faithfulness over the next easy piece of a ss…

i also think that it perpetrates a untruth that taken literally can instill doubt in some already insecure lurker / blogger or whatever…cause i do believe that some people take opinions shared in this forum as truth…and someone can read some bs statement carelessly thrown out there and take that mess home with them…start some sh it, start questioning innocent things about their SO…and next thing you know…this doubt is causing unnecessary confusion and an unhappy relationship…all because of a whisper of doubt caused by a generalization that had nothing whatsoever to do with their specific situation…

and yes, i know that’s stretching it…but i’m just saying…

when you put something out there like that…make it logical…because that statement was NOT…

June 22, 2006 11:36 AM | Link to this

Just but it says that he had broken the relationship off…. and the trial is centered around the woman being a scorned lover… not cheated on and she killed in a rage of anger

By Foots

June 22, 2006 11:37 AM | Link to this

@DC Native Two wrongs have never made a right. Like darkbuty have jraw have said, cheating doesn’t resolve anything. The grass isn’t always greener on the side; if you think it looks like it, consider that it might be that green because it’s full of shyt.

You are already involved with someone of questionable character, any man who is sniffing around you knowing that you’re married can’t be that much better.

June 22, 2006 11:40 AM | Link to this

@aam853 I look at your last post and are you saying he can cheat one time and it’s ok? if so, that one time he cheat might be the time he gets an uncureble disease and brings it home to you.

By jraw

June 22, 2006 11:40 AM | Link to this

@DC Native

First, I am not a professional marriage counselor but if my wife felt this way about me then I would honestly advise her to leave. I am not saying that is what you should do, but I can see the handwriting on the wall. If he is a bad influence on the kids, then holla. Good Luck

June 22, 2006 11:42 AM | Link to this

Kym, nah sis, damn near all of these topics are a regurgitation from days past…..

so ummmm, why ain’t Diva doing her thang this week? know she ain’t sick or nuttin; so what, Laney you just debo’d her outta the way cause you’re attending that conference? Inquiring minds wanna know.

By alvin_WTF

June 22, 2006 11:44 AM | Link to this

THE INFAMOUS DK: lol you wild

on subject: cheating is for punks, too afaid to let their lover know their needs are not being met or addict to cheating in all shapes and forms!

90% of the man are dog and 60% of the women are crazy!

off subject:

Holy Shyt! WTF! Demi, what in the h@ll you did to my clutch! Demi: I drifting, grifting, and blending curb’n. WHAT! Anyway, I was running 130mph and some old granny slice me off. alvin: WHAT! Man you crazy you know my car is old and mean to driven like Ms.Daisy. Demi: Well..your shyt is broke, so you need to fix it! ripppp Demi: H2ll naw, negro you rip my cape! Alvin: Boy stop! Now stay your a$$ still and take your whipping like a man! Demi: n——ga please!

demi is now put on a blackflash’s mini-me custume See demi run, run demi run!

June 22, 2006 11:45 AM | Link to this

*JustMe *Old boy was 85 and still cheating - blame it on Viagra and the other ED medications. H3ll blame it on the rain

Jgirl Aight slim, my badd.

DC Had to reread and nowhere do I see anything about “he laid hands on me” or “he’s steppin’ out on me…” so if you want to really keep it real and be a woman of your word, do and continue to do, till death do you part, or one of the prior scenarios plays out. Or if you think that your life has more value, roll out. Life is simple when you make it that way.

By jraw

June 22, 2006 11:45 AM | Link to this

@DK

Guys if you are going thru a divorce start a business and Incorporate and open a trust.. She can only get the money the money you say you pay yourself.

You are silly!

By janae

June 22, 2006 11:46 AM | Link to this

DK, damn that was good..

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 11:48 AM | Link to this

Sean U didn’t ask me, but yes U are wrong!

Infamous DK There are women who will/have taken their cheating partner back. I just happen not to be one of those women. If comin right is what his goal is……. He better drive up in his goal, and it should be fast, sexy and convertible! Then maybe I would get distracted and act like an idiot for him. - Yep I siad That and I meant it too

Chink Why do guys think they completely satisfy us …. we dont need anyone/anything else

Cause the last sista they were with told them that the Johnson was gold and they beleived the hype! Ladies if the dizzle ain’t fo shizzle, please tell him the trusth and not stroke his egoizzle

By janae

June 22, 2006 11:50 AM | Link to this

sedrick that is what really concern me is some shyt you can’t get rid of…UGH…

June 22, 2006 11:51 AM | Link to this

DC then i think that you have answered your own question… you know you need to leave but something is holding you back. and that is where your own personal demons come into play… are you trying to avoid the embarrassment that comes with ending a marriage… the explanation that has to be given to the children… the church… your parents and his… workmates … etc?? that was the case with me… i waited to leave, was in a way ‘afraid’ to leave because the stigma that comes with it ending and with being a blk single mother was at first too much. But if momma aint right, aint nobody right… so in the end i did was necessary for my boys… i left. our lives are happier, less stressed and conducive to positive growth individually… that person that was holding everyone back and down is gone!

By QC

June 22, 2006 11:51 AM | Link to this

Demi, can you just come back and stay the way you use to be..please?

Musing, are you hiding behind the old dusty “man podium” today?

June 22, 2006 11:52 AM | Link to this

sJea and someone can read some bs statement carelessly thrown out there and take that mess home with them…start some sh it, start questioning innocent things about their SO…and next thing you know…this doubt is causing unnecessary confusion and an unhappy relationship…all because of a whisper of doubt caused by a generalization that had nothing whatsoever to do with their specific situation…

I must admit…the statements here do play in my mind…simply because I get an opportunity to hear a broader array of male opinions than my SO and 2 good male friends that I can confide in…

But I do take them as opinions and not facts…And I wonder if my SO thinks the same way….When I go home and ask him questions about a topic discussed…he blames Oprah LOL.

June 22, 2006 11:53 AM | Link to this

Wassup y’all. (wow, I’m almost becoming a regular, huh)

Scenario 1: I think it depends on the situation. Did she cheat cause she went to Vegas, got drunk and had a fling. I might be able to forgive that cause there’s no feelings involved and sometimes attraction can get the best of you. But if this is like an ex-boyfriend or someone who she let herself develop a degree of feelings for, ITS A WRAP. Truth is I don’t wanna know if she did. If she can be respectful enough to keep dude away from me and it not interfere with our relationship, I’m not going to search for something wrong.

Scenario 2: Since I have, I can tell you that I AIN’T SAYING SHIZZ. Since most situations have been me listening to my non-thinking head and chances are that I’ve gone thru a deal of trouble to keep it as far away from my s.o. as possible, then I’m not saying anything. If you don’t have video surveillance, then I didn’t do it. I’ve been told that’s a bad attitude, but I feel that ignorance is bliss. I’m pretty positive that whenever I did it never hurt the relationship because when I did it was during free time and I would never sacrifice time with the main for #2.

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 11:53 AM | Link to this

Das I Think he did it to start dating the other woman. That being the case, they (Man and #2) must have had something started before he broke up with the other lady (#1).

By Jewel

June 22, 2006 11:53 AM | Link to this

Good morning Everyone!

Cheating, whether in a marriage or committed relationship, is a sign that something is wrong. If he chooses to cheat rather than communicate the issue to me, trust has definitely suffered a blow. Cheating is a violation of trust and respect. You can forgive, but you will never forget. The memory and the pain will always linger. Now, if the cheater is repentant and wants to work through the real issue that caused him to stray, and I have time and emotions invested, I would consider reconciliation. But the onus lies with the cheater. I was at home while he was under, on top, behind, or whatever position, with another woman.

DK You never disappoint me. There are some men in this world who are capable of being faithful. Some even reside in the ATL. I am sure you want the ladies of the blog to get riled up. But that’s all I have to say about that. You can have the last word.

MissUnderstood House of Payne was painfully boring. I chuckled once…the scene where the dad found out his TV system was stolen.

By olderandwiser

June 22, 2006 11:54 AM | Link to this

Hello to bloggers old and new. It’s been a very busy time and still is.

This is one topic I don’t have mixed feelings about. I have never cheated on an SO, and the three SOs who did that to me were dismissed immediately under my BS zero tolerance rule. Why be with someone who would sleep around on me before marriage? (Interesting tidbit: not one ‘fessed up front. Each was outed by someone else.)

In my experience cheating isn’t a surprise or a snap decision. It is a conscious and deliberate choice one makes long before the “act” actually takes place, regardless of whether you’re stoned or sober at the time. If you choose to have a sexual relationship with someone other than your SO, either once or 20 times, then you have deliberately chosen to deceive both lovers and degrade yourself.

IMO to betray someone with whom you have a mutually exclusive relationship is an immature and arrogant act of selfishness. Every time thereafter, when you look at, speak with or sleep with your SO, you are lying to him/her. You are also lying to that face in your mirror. What does this say about you? In what other ways are you cheating on them — and on yourself? Do you really think you’re getting away with anything? Your concience won’t let you. And then there’s that karma thing.

Life lesson: If you know you’re going to cheat on your SO, for whatever reason, then have the courage and decency to break it off before you do. If you care anything about him/her (and your own reputation and character), then don’t subject them to the unnecessary emotional pain and social humiliation of your future acts.

By janae

June 22, 2006 11:56 AM | Link to this

justme

ROTFLMAO

Cause the last sista they were with told them that the Johnson was gold and they beleived the hype! Ladies if the dizzle ain’t fo shizzle, please tell him the trusth and not stroke his egoizzle

*

June 22, 2006 11:56 AM | Link to this

When I say women are sharing men I mean this.. All women that have it together are searching for a select few guys, so at some point in the relationship you will share him.. He may eventually put his collar and leash on for you but while he is out there knocking over trash cans, chasing cars and sniffing skirts it is what it is.. See what ya’ll are not understanding is this.. A Man only does what you allow him to do and alot of mess has been allowed and now its trying to be cleaned up.. Well H3ll the horse is out of the barn and now you wanna close the barn door.. You gotta catch me first..

By alvin_WTF

June 22, 2006 11:57 AM | Link to this

Cause the last sista they were with told them that the Johnson was gold and they beleived the hype! Please, when mr.8,9,12in shows up, your girlfriends,co-workers, H2ll GOD know about it! Women are forever bragging about what their men got, which in return, allow most men to sleep with your friends. Ladies, thanks for the free promotion!

June 22, 2006 11:58 AM | Link to this

Just lmao @ Ladies if the dizzle ain’t fo shizzle, please tell him the trusth and not stroke his egoizzle

June 22, 2006 11:59 AM | Link to this

LMAO @ DK Man if that’s you, do you. I don’t see what the problem would be if peeps practiced “Live and Let Live”.

sJea You basically said that dude shouldn’t be posting his comments and that he was wrong for doing it. Then you justify all of that with it perpetrates a untruth that taken literally can instill doubt in some already insecure lurker / blogger or whatever…cause i do believe that some people take opinions shared in this forum as truth…and someone can read some bs statement carelessly thrown out there and take that mess home with them…start some sh it, start questioning innocent things about their SO…and next thing you know…this doubt is causing unnecessary confusion and an unhappy relationship…all because of a whisper of doubt caused by a generalization that had nothing whatsoever to do with their specific situation…

That sounds like TV to me, so what, ery’body needs to go home and throw away the tv’s and cut off the cable.

Sorry babydoll, but dayum…

By janae

June 22, 2006 12:00 PM | Link to this

OLD that is some good advice.

*Life lesson: If you know you’re going to cheat on your SO, for whatever reason, then have the courage and decency to break it off before you do. If you care anything about him/her (and your own reputation and character), then don’t subject them to the unnecessary emotional pain and social humiliation of your future acts.

By chink

June 22, 2006 12:01 PM | Link to this

RFLMAO @ JustMe

Aint that the truth !!! I never lie they be hearing crickets when they be like …you never have anyone better than me right…..I just be looking away ….lol…I cannot confirm nor deny that….hey I can’t be totally honest…break him all the way down to the last compound…lol

By LahLah

June 22, 2006 12:02 PM | Link to this

dark girl I ask myself the same question all the time. He knew in his heart that he had no intentions on being faithful, so why would he ask me to marry him? He told me once that, he knew it was the only way he could get me back (by proposing marriage )and he was really going to work hard to be with me and only me.

Ladies don’t fall for that ish!!!!

June 22, 2006 12:03 PM | Link to this

Speaking of money and extortion. What the h3ll is Michael Strahan’s wife doing? She accused this man of having an intimate relationship with his boi and then she wanted to take it back.

DK- I wouldn’t say I’ve been missing out. I’m just not interested in the tango at the moment. My baby takes very good care of me. I would be a fool. lol

I don’t have to cook if I don’t want to. I don’t have to clean if I don’t want to, and I don’t have to scream at any kids if I don’t want to. He’s got my back and I’ve got his.

June 22, 2006 12:04 PM | Link to this

Alvin Women are forever bragging about what their men got, which in return, allow most men to sleep with your friends. Ladies, thanks for the free promotion! LMAO This is so true…I’m terribly guilty of this..

By LahLah

June 22, 2006 12:05 PM | Link to this

DK

A Man only does what you allow him to do

Are you serious? A man does what he WANTS to do. It’s has nothing to do with what WE allow.

June 22, 2006 12:07 PM | Link to this

Corporate Did she cheat cause she went to Vegas, got drunk and had a fling.

Can’t get with that bruh. So what does that mean, you gotta keep your woman in site 24/7 to trust her ‘cause she might get drunk and fall on some dudes dyck?! Hell in that case “Vegas” might as well be the code word for Random-Dude-Down-The-Street. Think abou that…

June 22, 2006 12:10 PM | Link to this

a’ight, blue…i’ma let you have it…

besides…i’m not right all the time…i don’t know everything and i don’t have all the answers…all that i have are my opinions and beliefs based on my experiences and lessons learned…

and sometimes i am wrong…or out of bounds as you so quickly pointed out…and i don’t have a problem admitting that…

oh…and DK…thanks for the explanation of your statement…i can appreciate your logic….i may not necessarily agree but i appreciate your explanation of it…

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 12:12 PM | Link to this

Chink

The sad part is they already know they ish ain’t no bigger than a vienna sausage when it’s cocked and fully loaded, and they wanna ask if its good! Yeah Right!! Ask no questions and I’ll tell no lies!

June 22, 2006 12:13 PM | Link to this

@QC, DasV - thanks ladies.. 2 drinks did it for me!! and i’m still waiting for the dance here!! lol..

@Blu K - my bad.. i’ll make sure i’ cap the might one next time :)

By LahLah

June 22, 2006 12:14 PM | Link to this

Alvin

You are so right. Me and my girls are always talking about it. It’s just something we do. We have one friend who absolutely refuses to share her s3xual business with us and that’s fine. We don’t expect her to or ask her to but when we get in those type conversations we laugh and joke and ask questions and she be looking at us like, “I’m not telling none of you my business.” BORING!!!!!

By QC

June 22, 2006 12:14 PM | Link to this

2, who’s winning the soccer game?

June 22, 2006 12:15 PM | Link to this

Blue I was the resident MF many moons before now and all the stuff you go thru I have seen it ten times over from not only the ladies but some dudes too.. I’m used to it.. Some think I am just spewing mindless nonsense/psycho babble but I already understand some things I say will be frowned upon. The way I figure it as long as I can look myself in the mirror everyday I’m ok with whatever someone says about me here.

June 22, 2006 12:16 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Alvin Women are forever bragging about what their men got, which in return, allow most men to sleep with your friends. Ladies, thanks for the free promotion!

LahLah What’s up…

Another Truth: All P*ssy ain’t good.

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 12:20 PM | Link to this

Gone to lunch

BBIAF

June 22, 2006 12:21 PM | Link to this

LahLah Are you serious? A man does what he WANTS to do. It’s has nothing to do with what WE allow.

Pleasantly suprised that you said that.

sJea You still tops in my book chica. Must be the nurturing attribute shining through.

By chink

June 22, 2006 12:23 PM | Link to this

LahLah

I agree with you ..why is it my responsibility to keep a grown azz man in check???WTF

DK u losing points bro

I am not going to keep a 24 hr surveillance on my man so I dont “”allow”” him opportunity to cheat on me…..goodness gracious

Now you gonna tell us how to keep him from cheating huh…whatever do what you do

You cannot be an Adult without Responsibility. And that includes responsibility for your actions.

By janae

June 22, 2006 12:24 PM | Link to this

justme you are killing me, girl, but that is so true, but I have always been a firm believer of:

It is not the size of the ship, it is the motion of the ocean

June 22, 2006 12:25 PM | Link to this

Hai LahLah - i won’t fall for that ish.. My note-book is almost full here.. keep on bringing the advises ladies/gents

June 22, 2006 12:27 PM | Link to this

Lah Yeah you right a Man does what he wants and a sucker/buster does what he can..

MissU well you are spoken for and happily so.. This shouldnt be your conversation, unless….

Jewel Awwww come on its not that serious..

said with all the love and compassion I can muster..

June 22, 2006 12:28 PM | Link to this

and dk…i know you already know this…

but since it seems that this needs to be said…

the overall tone of most, if not all, of my posts…is rather light hearted…most of what i type is stated with a bit of or so that you know that i do not take myself too, too seriously…

i am not attempting to preach to anyone or convert them to my way of thinking…i’m just giving you a glimpse of the view from my window on the world…

ighten up, blue….dayum, dude…you’re killing my high…

June 22, 2006 12:28 PM | Link to this

“Cause the last sista they were with told them that the Johnson was gold and they beleived the hype! Ladies if the dizzle ain’t fo shizzle, please tell him the trusth and not stroke his egoizzle“…..LMMFAO @ DK!

“Women are forever bragging about what their men got, which in return, allow most men to sleep with your friends. Ladies, thanks for the free promotion!“….now Alvin/demi is going buck wild too…lol.

June 22, 2006 12:30 PM | Link to this

DK I hear you champ.

Ladies I’ve just got one question - If the dudes ain’t got their s** together, always tryin to get y’alls’, is nothing but a no-good MF ANDDD Dyck Johnson ain’t worth minimum wage… why are y’all still in the game? Is it because y’all basically just here talkin’ shyt for cameras? Or is it that you’re still holding out hope for something really nice in life? I’m just askin’…

June 22, 2006 12:31 PM | Link to this

dk- don’t go there….lol I was just making a statement. I told you, I ain’t no fool now.

June 22, 2006 12:32 PM | Link to this

QC US loss 2-1..

June 22, 2006 12:32 PM | Link to this

Lah Your girl know she got the secret weapon at the house.. The weapon of Mass Destruction at home.. Her BaghDad gets destroyed nightly and she is right to not tell ya’ll, cause somebody might want to do a missle launch test.. Then once the missle is launched blame it on the dude for letting his missle be tested.

By MistaO

June 22, 2006 12:33 PM | Link to this

Check it, since one likes to go, how shall I say it?, without appropriate protection (if you get my drift) Cheating is also a “deal breaker” for me!

Sans the trust factor, more important to me is my health. I am not trying to be walking around out here for years with that HIV, Aids, or herpes or any of them other nasty azz afflictions. On the strength!

But speaking from a realistic view point, I personally believe that folks who say they have “forgiven” their spouse or SO of stepping out, is at the core lying to themselves. To me, trust is like virginity, once it’s gone, it aint coming back. You can’t unring the bell if you know what I mean. And now a days, especially for brothers, having a woman you can trust is critical!

It’s like knowing you have to go to war every day with external enemies, but having an enemy combatant living unbeknownst to you in your very camp.

By LahLah

June 22, 2006 12:33 PM | Link to this

janae stop with the motion in the ocean crap!!! lol!!!!

chink say it girl.

what’s up Blue

And just to add to my 12:14 post…. I wouldn’t go blurting my business to every person I know. But my best girlfriends know a lot. lol!!!

Blue I’ve heard men say that before “all of it ain’t good.” We sure think it is though.

June 22, 2006 12:37 PM | Link to this

Chink You mean I still have some points left?

June 22, 2006 12:37 PM | Link to this

DK Some think I am just spewing mindless nonsense/psycho babble but I already understand some things I say will be frowned upon. The way I figure it as long as I can look myself in the mirror everyday I’m ok with whatever someone says about me here.

I don’t think the ladies understand that statement coming from a dude because since they have cats and we’re supposed to be dogs then we’re supposed to be mind-blown and chase whenever they step by with their tails held high. When the truth is that the neighborhood is full of “cats” that don’t want to run up trees and play games.

June 22, 2006 12:40 PM | Link to this

Lah Lah you are right. We all like to think that. I can almost see how every Chico Stick may not be good, But the Juicy Juice? I asked my boo what would make that bad to a guy and he just told me I would prolly not understand. lol

By onevoice

June 22, 2006 12:46 PM | Link to this

My spouse, to the best of my knowledge, has never cheated and I know I never have. But what do you do when your spouse says ‘no more sex’. This reason, that reason, whatever reason, but no more. It’s been about 4 years now.

I hate being ‘sexless’ but love my spouse.

By QC

June 22, 2006 12:46 PM | Link to this

thanks darkbuty

June 22, 2006 12:47 PM | Link to this

‘mericans, go home!!!!!!

not feelin patriotic at all - N Korea, what y’all waitin on to test them missiles? if ya scared, say ya scared!

By chink

June 22, 2006 12:48 PM | Link to this

LOL @ DK

Point left …yes becuz I cant knock you for what you do …if you being truthful about it

The problem I have is switching the responsiblity to us (women). We let things happen no babe I doubt it very much so.

I cannot control anyone but my da mn self

blue

Most guys dont have all those “negative” qualities at the same time ie same person….and you know what sometimes we are waiting for something better to come along and just passing times with who we with right now..sad but true…

June 22, 2006 12:49 PM | Link to this

LahLah The point I’m making is that even if it ain’t, when ties are severed we ain’t running around telling peeps that your shyt wasn’t good; ‘cause it was good enough for the time that we were hitting it.

I don’t understand, why ho’s do that though. You fuggin’ this dude for 3 years and now all of a sudden, the dyck wasn’t no good.

YRB?!

Disclaimer: If the shoe fits, wear it.

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 12:49 PM | Link to this

Blue Speaking for myself “JustMe” If his shyt ain’t tight in round 1 there will be no round 2. His azz gets’s KTFO in Round 1. IF he makes it to Round 2 but can’t hang with the bang; same result KTFO -NEXT!!!!!

June 22, 2006 12:50 PM | Link to this

Ladies The sad part is if you really pay attention to what I am saying, you will learn something about a man whether you like it or not.. I show you what to look for so dont miss the point of what I am saying.. I dont say anything to hurt anyone just to enlighten you, like a big bro would. I am giving free game, when I can put it in a book and make people pay for it..

June 22, 2006 12:51 PM | Link to this

Just how can you cheat when errrbody living in the same ‘house’??? and senior citizens are allowed to own firearms, but not drive?? wassup wit dat? i was under the impression that he broke up, had a bad time getting her to accept it and then started with someone else…. but your scenario is more probable… i was giving him the benefit of the doubt cause of his age. shaking head tsk, tsk, tsk

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 12:51 PM | Link to this

Fellas Have any of y’all told a female her ish wasn’t any good? Have y’all ever lied and said it was good when it was not good?

By janae

June 22, 2006 12:53 PM | Link to this

LahLah, i guess i need to speak for me, I never been a fan of A BIG/FAT AZZ JOHNSON…

Hmmmmm, what is considered small anyway?

June 22, 2006 12:55 PM | Link to this

Blue- I dont know why some women would say that unless it wasn’t but they stayed because there was nothing else to get at? Who knows, but that would open up a whole new can of worms.lol

June 22, 2006 12:55 PM | Link to this

DASvenus thank you!!! In more ways than I can go explain on the blog.

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 12:56 PM | Link to this

Onevoice Dig Deeper for the reason. If no reason is forth coming then try getting a BOB if you are a lady, if he objects to you having BOB around, then tell him to handle his biz and you wouldn’t have/need BOB to handle his light work. If you are a guy I can’t help you, but life as you remember it may be over and it could be time to move on.

By QC

June 22, 2006 12:58 PM | Link to this

@Janae “big fat azz johnson”

a baby johnson would be 6 inches or less

June 22, 2006 12:59 PM | Link to this

MissUnderstood I’ll get you started and somebody else can finish it up…

If you think that layin on your back with legs around my neck is all you gotta do? You might have some not-so-good ‘P’. I needs some serious interaction.

If, when I throw my fingers down there to do a moisture check, it’s Mojave all I can hear is Vernon Jones talking about drought conditions… either you ain’t feeling me or you got some not-so-good ‘P’. Either way, I’m going to get a sandwich.

*I say not-so-good because you gotta be jacked up for a brother to say that you’ve got BAD ‘P’. And a brother should be able to spot that from the street and stay far away.

June 22, 2006 01:00 PM | Link to this

JustMe……yep!!!

“Gal, that crevice ‘tween yo legs smells like a room full of granddaddies!”

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 01:00 PM | Link to this

Das LOL That Viagara must be some powerful shyt!

Who know’s where Granny got her gun, probably round the block in da hood.

In the word of the song I’m gonna write for Trina or Lil Kym or Foxy Brown to sing……. I don’t want no dyck like Dat

Janae I realize this is a To each his own type question, but if its shorter than you pinky and not wider than 2.5 fingers put together, it might just be itty bitty - LOL

June 22, 2006 01:01 PM | Link to this

seanj 30 yr olds cannot be gf/bf? explain that one. i havent been able to rationalize it for myself…..

June 22, 2006 01:04 PM | Link to this

LahLah Why you gotta talk so much to your girls….LMAO.

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 01:04 PM | Link to this

2CPTG I Hear Ya Loud and Clear - LOL

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 01:05 PM | Link to this

2CPTG Why did you lie to her?

By Wise Diva

June 22, 2006 01:06 PM | Link to this

you guys, please don’t get too carried away with this discussion. You give some people an inch, and they think they are the ruler..

some of us know how to word things appropriately, but some don’t. It’s not going to get too gully in here today.

June 22, 2006 01:06 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ JustMe & KTFO

Also, ain’t no dude gon’ tell a chick that her hot box ain’t really on fire. He’ll let that simmer on the back burner just in case…

June 22, 2006 01:06 PM | Link to this

Well I see the blog has taken a turn into the search for Good pudding and Is a Mandingo really necessary? Lawd.

Off topic: I got my fantasy draft yesterday.. how about I have both Dante(I didnt have sex with that hooker Culpepper) and Mike(candy pants) Vick in my draft, I think Vick is on my cant cut list too. Daymn it

June 22, 2006 01:07 PM | Link to this

BlueKollar: What I’m saying is some things are more forgiveable than others. A fling is more forgiveable than an affair. And it depends on the woman. Everything is based on the situation and the person you’re dealing with.

We can sit up here and be like “hell naw, I ain’t staying with nobody that cheats” and more than half of us have. Cause you deal accordingly. If its a 3 month relationship, yeah I can easily say, we done. But what if its 1 year, 2 years, 3 years? The answer may change.

Anyone that says otherwise is just trying to sound hard for the blog.

June 22, 2006 01:07 PM | Link to this

blue- I understand all that and yeh it’s kinda crazy that one would think all you had to do is lay there, but that’s not where I was going with that. Thanks anyway.

By janae

June 22, 2006 01:12 PM | Link to this

DK, I pay attention to what you are saying….Everyday!

June 22, 2006 01:13 PM | Link to this

Just Me- Only a baby would have on that bitty… I hope. lol

By Jewel

June 22, 2006 01:16 PM | Link to this

LahLah I have to agree with you-know-who…Oh Lawd, here comes the big one! ‘Lizabeth, I’m comin to join you honey! LOL! DK is right. Ladies really need to stop telling all of their relationship business to one another. There are some desperate women who will feel justified in sharing your man. They too have bought into the women to men ratio. I have two close female friends who I have shared some personal secrets with, but they do not know the intimate details of my relationship with my man. Neither do I know theirs. When I first met my SO last year, a former girlfriend said that he was not that handsome and wasn’t “my type.” Well, his physical attributes are exactly my type. He and I were having problems a few months ago and she said, “You know, he isn’t that mad looking.” So, I reminded her of what she said last year. She back-peddled, but I didn’t care. She didn’t know it at the time, but I was already weaning her negative behind from my life. The only reason I believe she hasn’t gone after him is because her biological clock is ticking and he can no longer reproduce…

By chink

June 22, 2006 01:16 PM | Link to this

I agree with you Corporate Thug

By Laney

June 22, 2006 01:18 PM | Link to this

how did we end up here? my goodness, y’all - these “imaginary drinks” are going to your heads. let’s tryyyyyy to stay on topic, shall we? =) play nice. etc.

By "Longtime Lurker"

June 22, 2006 01:19 PM | Link to this

@Laney You got me scratching my head on this one again…

First off, we are all adults and I think most of us are past the Vision, Eleven50 stage in our lives and I also think that most of us are mature enough to not go home with some random dude or broad, if we have a SO at this stage in our lives.

Let’s talk about maturity and communication and responsibility for a second and forget about childish and immature behaviors, which lead us to keep making mistakes in our day to day lives.

Let’s talk about what we are doing to cause that other person to cheat or to want to step outside of the relationship. Let’s talk about being what we want to attract!

Remember, you are what you attract!

Sometimes you have to be a better man or woman, to attract a better man or woman. It starts with you!

When people cheat, the majority of the time it is because they are lacking something in their mate and seek that quality in someone else. Communication is key to any successful relationship, as well as honesty, but first, we have to be honest with ourselves!

June 22, 2006 01:19 PM | Link to this

Corporate I got you man and I’m feeling you on your post and if I were 10 - 15 years younger that would be true for me as well. But at this stage in the game, naah bruh, my tolerance level is “Less Than Zero”.

If you haven’t seen that movie, check it out and you’ll see why I like that saying that. The skinny - you can do some bad, but some shyt is wayyy beyond recovery.

June 22, 2006 01:19 PM | Link to this

DC no thang…. rule is: spread the blog love. each one, teach one. just speaking from personal experience… thats what we come to do ——-> live, blog, learn and try to live some more from a better position. am i wrong bloggers?

By Hotlanta

June 22, 2006 01:21 PM | Link to this

The only way to affair proof your marriage is to have a picture of Johnnie Cochran on the wall, DVD of the “Burning Bed and the newspaper clipping of Loranna Bobbit. They always say that single gal such as myself needs to ask married women about how to stay married. From the recent episodes of Bill Campbell,no disrespect to wife Sharon, but I wouldn’t ask her for a glass of water. Men know who to marry. That’s all I gotta say.

June 22, 2006 01:21 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Blue it’s Mojave all I can hear is Vernon Jones talking about drought conditions… either you ain’t feeling me or you got some not-so-good ‘P’. Either way, I’m going to get a sandwich.

By QC

June 22, 2006 01:22 PM | Link to this

^5 DASv

June 22, 2006 01:24 PM | Link to this

runnin so guys don’t talk about the women their with????

June 22, 2006 01:24 PM | Link to this

Lied? nope. been almost 5 years since I lied to a female.

By janae

June 22, 2006 01:26 PM | Link to this

Good Words, Longtime.

June 22, 2006 01:27 PM | Link to this

THE INFAMOUS DK: This is your first and last warning: STOP PULLING OUT FREEBES FROM THE BLACK PLAYERS MANUAL! That shyt aint right! Messing up the game Homes!

said as I exit the Man Podium left

ALVIN, you can’t catch the BlackFlash’s Mini-me!

June 22, 2006 01:28 PM | Link to this

BK: I understand what you saying. I’m talking in general. I’m at that “Zero Tolerance” stage myself because I’ve been married twice and at this point understand what it takes to make a relationship work. You probably have been in your fair share of LTRs so you will understand this as well. But the question was posed from the dating stage. So I’m just speaking in general.

Also, while I understand the “ladies stop telling your girls so much” mindset, are we really trying to use that as justification for cheating with one of your lady’s friends? That’s BS. That’s like saying she was dressed like a hooker so I treated her like one. You are in control of your own actions. So regardless of who approaches you for whatever, the end result is wherever you wanna take it not because your girl told some broad you got good dyck.

Personally, I say tell her. And if she cute, maybe she can join us. :D

June 22, 2006 01:29 PM | Link to this

CorporateThug Sorry bruh, I gotta give you the but I said naw, b* I said naw! on that one…lol. I gotta go back to that movie “The Best Man”. I don’t care how much we talk about it, go to church, seek counseling or whatever, I’m not going to be able to forget her stepping out. I’m also not going to be able to stop thinking about some other kat hittin it, how he tagged it, how long, etc…lol. So for some, it’s keepin it real to say it’s a definite deal breaker and it’s time to step.

Kym Stay focused boo. Don’t want you brining up johnsons or mandingos while on the phone with a customer…LMAO..

Wise You think you are slick with the inches and ruler comment…hehehe.

June 22, 2006 01:31 PM | Link to this

lol@2- almost five years huh?….

By chink

June 22, 2006 01:33 PM | Link to this

@ DK

I feel you I have cousin who always telling me about the game ..finally 1 year I said SHUT THE HECK up. He was clouding my thoughts I could not progress in any relationship because of all the stories my Playa Cousin told me. I had no trust in men because my cousin boy he was bad and one of my best friends used to date him … I could devastate her with the things he did while they were together….

Its good but its bad at the same time and I do believe all men are not the same. So be gentle on us brother …we need to keep hope alive

thinking about relocating …lol

By janae

June 22, 2006 01:34 PM | Link to this

runnin that was slick of Wise LOL

June 22, 2006 01:36 PM | Link to this

darkbuty Men don’t talk about wifey or the #1 on the roster with the fellas. Now if you are just some cut, yes, you are talked about at the gym, at the club, at happy hour, on the flag football field, over email at work, online playing Xbox, while playing spades, at the fight party, at ESPN Zone…..well, you get the point. LMAO

June 22, 2006 01:36 PM | Link to this

Runnin: That’s cause men are nowhere near as forgiving as women. But trust me bruh, never say never. If Hallie cheated on you, you’d be like “Well….uhhh, put your clothes back on….wait…ok…just don’t let it happen again.”

By olderandwiser

June 22, 2006 01:36 PM | Link to this

@Blue_Kollar … Re: why are y’all still in the game? Is it because y’all basically just here talkin’ shyt for cameras? Or is it that you’re still holding out hope for something really nice in life? I’m just askin’…

A good question, BK.

Speaking for myself, it’s definitely the latter (although IMO I’ve finally found it with BF). I think men and women come here hoping to define, achieve and live the good life and with the best possible partner. So, my comments are made sparingly and carefully because I want to help y’all do that by sharing my own experiences, both good and bad. And I learn something new every day from all of yours.

I hope the men take away positive things from what I share about women and how to treat them with care and respect. I also hope the ladies won’t despair or give up, and will give each man an opportunity to prove himself worthy of her trust. The key, I think, is to accept responsibility for your actions and respect those of others. By dating responsibly we learn which actions to make and which people to choose – not just for now, but for a lifetime.

I hope that gets it for you BK. Have a great day, everyone.

June 22, 2006 01:38 PM | Link to this

Corporate lol now you know…. if she’s cute maybe she can join us. lol you’re asking for trouble. lol

Runnin- In the Best Man, he was stepping long before she stepped. Now two wrongs certainly don’t make it right, but she felt some degree of vindication.

June 22, 2006 01:38 PM | Link to this

real talk, MissU…..ain’t no need for it…..it either is, or isn’t with me….no gray area!

By alvin

June 22, 2006 01:39 PM | Link to this

Fellas Have any of y’all told a female her ish wasn’t any good? Have y’all ever lied and said it was good when it was not good? Nope, I tell the truth. Baby you need to perform the PPPs exercise to tighten your walls up! Or it could means ole boys wayn-wayn is too small. looking down Lucky me, Thanks the gods for magnums,heheheheheh…..

June 22, 2006 01:40 PM | Link to this

mista I almost forgot about you playing football without your helmet. Check that, it’s a contact sport! Before you end up 75lbs lighter with spots all over you and disappearing to waste away in some log cabin in the Tennessee mountains with your people wondering what happened to ya…LOL.

June 22, 2006 01:40 PM | Link to this

Blog Question? So if you’re S/O is a Nag and to keep trouble down, you step out, but not necessarily to be intimate with another babe, is that cheating? Just askin…

June 22, 2006 01:42 PM | Link to this

runnin I am dying over here: Now if you are just some cut, yes, you are talked about at the gym, at the club, at happy hour, on the flag football field, over email at work, online playing Xbox, while playing spades, at the fight party, at ESPN Zone…..well, you get the point.

June 22, 2006 01:43 PM | Link to this

I remember you saying that once before 2.

June 22, 2006 01:46 PM | Link to this

Demi They think I am spewing Tom Foolery out here.. I am like the drunk man in the corner.. Nevermind that I am giving all the answers to the string theory, time travel, quantum physics, what came first the chicken or the egg and other universal complexities..

June 22, 2006 01:47 PM | Link to this

so you know then, ain’t nuttin changed!

June 22, 2006 01:47 PM | Link to this

runnin yous a fool….lmao @at the gym, at the club, at happy hour, on the flag football field, over email at work, online playing Xbox, while playing spades, at the fight party, at ESPN Zone i wonder if you could be serious long enough to date??

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 01:48 PM | Link to this

Right on Das ^5

Runnin Is it thining about the competition that bothers you?

MissU I was shocked by this one guy. I laughed in his face and told him straight up, I can’t even work wit dad dude!

By LahLah

June 22, 2006 01:49 PM | Link to this

Hey yall I stepped out to lunch but *

Jewel and Runnin* you mentioned that it wasn’t right to share my business with my friends or runnin asked why I do that. Well the three of us (my freinds) have a bond like that. We always have. We laugh and joke and compare. It’s just something we do. Like I mentioned before, I don’t share intamate details with everyone, just them. What’s so wrong with that? Just the other day my friend was teaching the other to relax her throat. Sorry TMI I thought it was the funniest thing I had ever saw. That’s what girls do? I pray to God that we are never in the position where one friend has slept with the others SO…..

Blue all I can hear is Vernon Jones talking about drought conditions… either you ain’t feeling me or you got some not-so-good ‘P’. Either way, I’m going to get a sandwich.

TOO FUNNY!!!!

June 22, 2006 01:49 PM | Link to this

Blue: Absolutely YES! I just got off the phone with my girlfriend who is trying to get over the fact that her hubby committed emotional adultery. In other words, when things got rough at home, he turned to another female to listen, talk, and share. She checked the phone records..after finding out and they share the same plan..and found out that he was calling chica first thing in the morning, during the day, on valentine’s day, while they were on vacation, etc…My girlfriend feels just as betrayed as if he had put his *k in her.

June 22, 2006 01:50 PM | Link to this

blue- I think if your SO is a nag and you step out with another woman, you are planting the seed to cheat.

June 22, 2006 01:50 PM | Link to this

2 Boy I feel you on that no gray area thing.. Man I am black and white all day… Its either this way or that way no in between with me..

June 22, 2006 01:52 PM | Link to this

@ Blue I come here for entertainment purposes only. Oh because there is some good advice given from time to time. An to see my name in print. I have ego issues LMAO…

June 22, 2006 01:54 PM | Link to this

2 Yeah man cause you dont have to lie to women.. I have found they actually appreciate the truth, its just the way its presented that makes the difference..

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 01:54 PM | Link to this

Blue Would it bother you if YOUR S/O stepped out but was not physically intimate?

I believe an exclusive relationship is based on emotional intimacy as well as physical intimacy, so yes, it would bother me.

By janae

June 22, 2006 01:54 PM | Link to this

BLUE May not be cheating, but I think it is inappriopriate. Especially, If she do not know about her..

June 22, 2006 01:55 PM | Link to this

LahLah I was about to suggest that is one of the reasons why women share…we learn techniques from each other…eg: positions that prevent your cervix and uterus getting knocked out of place

June 22, 2006 01:56 PM | Link to this

the unfortunate thing about being your own publicist…is that you start to believe your own press…

June 22, 2006 01:57 PM | Link to this

“My girlfriend feels just as betrayed as if he had put his dyck in her.”

he did!!!! a mental orgasm is more powerful than a physical one……ain’t that right, Venus

By alvin

June 22, 2006 01:57 PM | Link to this

Ladies, if you really think runnin was just being funny, please think again….my closest friend know nothing of my #1’s. But #2,3,64,85,99, he has all details!

dk: me and my sister was talking about this today, even she is shock at how blind most women are….

June 22, 2006 01:59 PM | Link to this

LahLah I’m serious though.

Dark So my question is, “Is it better to listen to the Nag?”

June 22, 2006 01:59 PM | Link to this

MissUnderstood I feel you on that BUT you went way too deep on me there. My point is that visual he had and how difficult it would be to let that go. What led up to it and the circumstances don’t matter. If I was legit and my girl cheated then I’m gonna replay her cheating in my mind over and over, hence, forgive but can’t forget.

LMAO @ “If Hallie cheated on you, you’d be like “Well….uhhh, put your clothes back on….wait…ok…just don’t let it happen again“….okay bruh, you got me there…hahaha. Yes, I guess I can agree with that general statement that men can be less forgiving than women.

darkbuty My bad, too much info….LOL.

Blue You are trippin with that last question…lol.

LL You were just at 1150 and Vision a week or two ago, pimpin!…LMAO. Points heard though.

By alvin

June 22, 2006 02:03 PM | Link to this

LL You were just at 1150 and Vision a week or two ago, pimpin! Not to mention in VIP with the stars at that!

June 22, 2006 02:04 PM | Link to this

I have walked away from some lovin before and I will do it again.. Be lazy with it I’m gone.. Stinky Fish wont even get to ride the scream machine.. A Dried out raisin will get left too, unless the platinum wet can bring it back to life.. Oh and women if you got that Taco meat below the waist its time to shave and shave often, but that alone might not stop you from riding the scream machine..

June 22, 2006 02:05 PM | Link to this

Blue Definitely LISTEN…the scare has made them address so many issues in their relationship. I think sometimes, unfortunately, it’s hard to listen (and hear) when it’s coming from someone so close to you. One of my Exs use to tell me that I didn’t listen…my comeback was…but what makes you right. When all he was doing was telling me how he felt or his perception…I didn’t get it at the time. But..that other ear…she’ll turn into a nag after a while as well. Blue, why haven’t you called me? Blue, when can I see you? Blue, do you like her better than me? Blue, why don’t you just LEAVE her?

June 22, 2006 02:05 PM | Link to this

I’m just asking because the nag only comes every now and then. Thanks for the advice. I think that I’ll shoot this broad an email, as we speak, and inform her to get out of my ear with that nonsense. LOL

Kym You are stoopid. LMAO Who said that anyway? An to see my name in print. I have ego issues LMAO… You might want to watch out.

JustMe People do what they do, whateva’s cleva. I only react when it affects me in ways that I deem detrimental to my daily happiness.

June 22, 2006 02:07 PM | Link to this

Alvin my closest friend know nothing of my #1’s. But #2,3,64,85,99, he has all details! You guys are OFF the chain today!!

June 22, 2006 02:07 PM | Link to this

@ Kym…i feel you on drafting Culpepper…i am doing the same…u get points for being smart enough to draft Pep

June 22, 2006 02:07 PM | Link to this

dang JustMe, that’s just awful….

By Jewel

June 22, 2006 02:08 PM | Link to this

CorporateThug It is a matter of respecting your relationship. Some things are best when only shared between the couple. He does not have a free pass if the girlfriend approaches him. HE must choose what his response will be. And if he truly values our commitment, a man with integrity will just say no…

DK Some days I agree with you. Some days I don’t. It’s the same with some of the other male comments on this blog. But, the others take the punches like a man. wink And truthfully, most women already know the “secrets” that you share.

By alvin

June 22, 2006 02:08 PM | Link to this

Stinky Fish wont even get to ride the scream machine wise can he be nominated for best wording?

By LahLah

June 22, 2006 02:09 PM | Link to this

Blue I know you are serious!!! lol!!

And in response to your question…. Why not just leave the Nag? No matter what relationship you have with someone else the Nag is still there. Right?

June 22, 2006 02:11 PM | Link to this

Now that’s a differnt runnin. If you’re legit, then she should definetly be out. If you’re stank acting then you reap what you sow. He should have seen every piece of what he saw. lol

By LahLah

June 22, 2006 02:11 PM | Link to this

Dark positions that prevent your cervix and uterus getting knocked out of place

You are a trip!!!!

Alvin calling people out.

Gavi what’s up girl!!

By Tazzee

June 22, 2006 02:12 PM | Link to this

wow, you guys are off the chain today! I think everything’s been covered as it relates to cheating. I learn something new everyday. When Alvin/demi made that comment about women talking to their friends about their man’s sexual prowess, I thought to myself he has got to be kidding, women don’t really do that - then LahLah and darkbuty came and admitted to it.

I always view these comments based on my experiences and circle of friends - you guys have taught me something today.

June 22, 2006 02:13 PM | Link to this

Runnin Whatchu talkin’ ‘bout Willis?

DK Man you stupid, but ladies ain’t nothing wrong with taco meat.

Gotta put that out there ‘cause some of y’all might be trying to perm the cat tonight, f* aboudit watching girl friends, burn da joint up, then be at work scratching all day tomorrow. LOL

By aam853

June 22, 2006 02:15 PM | Link to this

Sedrick: absolutely not, I never think it’s okay to cheat on your partner. however, I do think that sometimes… stuff happens.. see Corp Thug’s 11:53 post. I never want my partner to tell me he’s been with someone else, or to find out on my own. However, if I did discover a one-time indiscretion, I would have to think carefully about giving up an otherwise good relationship based on one episode of falling off the wagon. BTW, I’d hope for the same lattitude from my partner if I was the one doing the falling…

June 22, 2006 02:17 PM | Link to this

JustMe Nah, it’s the fact that she gave her body and emotions to another man. Not saying I thought she was a virgin but it does something to the psyche after you’ve been committed to one another and someone steps out. Just can never look at you the same.

LahLah I was just messin boo, handle yours.

Kym You are such a mess with the ego trippin….LOL.

DAS I do date, just not very seriously right now…LMAO.

Alvin Please tell em we ain’t jokin….hehehehehe.

June 22, 2006 02:20 PM | Link to this

Jewel most women already know the “secrets” that you share.

Now I’m just curious, so don’t jump off the cliff, but if what you say is true, why is “He’s Just Not That Into You” selling millions?

LahLah No not all of the time. Most of the time, when we get together its cool. We ain’t all that significant anyway.

June 22, 2006 02:20 PM | Link to this

@Sean I didnt say I was keeping him. I know everyone is expecting him to go full throttle now that he is with Miami. PS @runnin superbowl in Miami doesnt mean the Dolphins will be there But he is still shaky to me. An there is the hooker factor, lot of hoochie coochie in Miami I cant have drama or distracted players on my fantasy team. I did get Santana Moss and Keenan McCardell I will be holding on to them. I got the Giants Defense again this year and Jacksonville’s. Not sure if I want to hang on to either one of them.

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 02:21 PM | Link to this

I hear ya Blue We can’t react to every situation we encounter, only the ones that matter the most!

Miss U Ole boy was like whhaa (no”t”) on it. I just told him, thanks but un uh. You know he offered to Go deep sea divin just to prove a point, but I didn’t want that either…. Ain’t no Half Steppin with me.

Fella’s Is it true that when it the first time you are intimate with a female y’all try to pull out all the stops, cover all the bases etc.?

June 22, 2006 02:21 PM | Link to this

2 most definitely! … mentally the two can ‘come’ together and when that happens it is indeed a beautiful thing…. and more powerful than the physical.

June 22, 2006 02:22 PM | Link to this

Blue Thats what I am about to do.. Open up a taco meat shaving shop.. I will whip out some sterilized clippers and put these ladies in the mix.. And they can work for a free cut… I’ll even put designs in it..

June 22, 2006 02:25 PM | Link to this

There yall go with the Taco Meat again.lol

By Tazzee

June 22, 2006 02:25 PM | Link to this

To answer Blue’s question - I’m still in the game because I don’t like the alternative (that being dating women). Point of clarification is that I don’t think of men in such a negative state. I just haven’t met one that gels with me, but I’ve met plenty of men with decent jobs and respectful personalities (can’t comment on the skills).

But I am changing the way I approach the game a little - because of some urging of friends (all but one) I have decided to try to expand boundaries and date outside my race. I’m still not sure if I can do it - I’m taking baby steps by responding to messages I receive from the white guys on this dating site. Now I need to take the leap and actually go out with one.

But yeah, I’m still in the game because I’m holding out hope that one for me will show up.

By LahLah

June 22, 2006 02:26 PM | Link to this

Blue Perm? Sounds dangerous. lol!!

June 22, 2006 02:28 PM | Link to this

We brag on our men in every other category (Job,house,car,philanthropy,etc)…why not in the throwin down category?

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 02:29 PM | Link to this

Runnin

I can buy that for a buck. I think women feel the same way, especially when we know what you like and how you like it. Then find out you’ve creeped with God only knows who. That means that errr time you came back to me after being with her, I slept with you, her and whoever else she’s been sleeping with cause trust and believe you ain’t gone be the only one she’s been doing. That’s to much batter mixin! Then you want me to do all “your favorite things 2U” I can’t even focus on making u feel good with some ish like that in the back of my mind!

By QC

June 22, 2006 02:31 PM | Link to this

No sense in trying to catch up cause now we got bloggers doing “stand up comedy”

So Alvin i guess Demi will never return to being the one and only, instigated, flying “Cape Crusader”?

By "Longtime Lurker"

June 22, 2006 02:31 PM | Link to this

@runnin,etc. Y’all know what I mean! Yeah, I was at eleven50 a few weeks back, but I haven’t been to eleven50 in like two years prior to that.

June 22, 2006 02:32 PM | Link to this

@ 2 Can - i’m proud of u..not lying for 5 yrs!!!

June 22, 2006 02:33 PM | Link to this

Kym What kind of fantasy league are you doing in June? Is it a mini-camp/preseason league?…lol. Hey, I can have dreams for my team, stop hatin.

JustMe Please clarify y’all try to pull out all the stops, cover all the bases etc.?

Blue Just clownin, you know how I do.

Tazzee obviously you haven’t been taught “positions that prevent your cervix and uterus getting knocked out of place”, by your girls yet…hahahahahahahahaha.

By QC

June 22, 2006 02:34 PM | Link to this

Preach darkbuty…Preach

if yo man is throwing down with his “thang-thang” tell ya girls he leaving his initials down there…shyt!!! ain’t nothing wrong with that…

June 22, 2006 02:34 PM | Link to this

JustMe I’ll say this, on the first-time shot, if a dude ain’t up to at least 95% strength (meaning he hurt his back at work, fell off the bike, coming off the flu, etc) he ain’t hitting it. Ain’t nobody trying to be talked about unless it’s for the Big Stroke Awards Nominations.

June 22, 2006 02:37 PM | Link to this

Just ^5.. i cosign that 229 post… thats why i say to just walk away… its over. there is noooo going back.

By Tazzee

June 22, 2006 02:38 PM | Link to this

LahLah I have to admit that I have sought advice from my girls on how to please a man. But we don’t share stuff about what he does. And I guess I am very technical with mine, its never a situation where we are all sitting around talking about sex stuff. I’ll call up my girl and flat out ask here ‘what’s the best way to do xyz’ and she’ll give me a break down. Afterward she might ask how it went and I might say ‘I need more practice’ or ‘it was great, thanks for the advice’

June 22, 2006 02:41 PM | Link to this

LahLah I put that disclaimer out there because sJea said that some peeps take this blog very seriously, and I want them to know that they don’t really have to shave. Matter of fact, baldies are a no-no, can get quite sharp on the initial grow-back. LOL

Tazzee Like somebody else told me, don’t give up on us like that. We’re not all like that.

DK I hear you dude. If it works out for you, you might end up trimming up ‘V’s for the “Baby Got Back” Series.

JustMe ;)

June 22, 2006 02:42 PM | Link to this

QC Speaking on initials…do you recall when Janet Jackson wore “JD’s” initials right above her putang? She wore a chain around her waist that drooped low in the front with JD on it….on National TV!! She let it be known that he was handling bizness!!

June 22, 2006 02:43 PM | Link to this

dark….didn’t yo’ momma ever tell you to keep some things to yourself?…everybody ain’t got to know everything that goes on in your head, in your house and certainly not in your bed…

and as to the dizzle technique conversation…any dude who ever came at me as if his mission was to knock my uterus out of place will get his butt

June 22, 2006 02:43 PM | Link to this

@ Runnin naw on Yahoo where I play you can sign up now, get in a Public league and draft your players. So that is what I have done. Some leagues are conducting auctions right now for players (yep auctions) but I am not that serious Yahoo is free and fun..you are talking to last year’s league champ thank you very much. An by the by preseason starts Aug 7th.

By alvin

June 22, 2006 02:44 PM | Link to this

Fella’s Is it true that when it the first time you are intimate with a female y’all try to pull out all the stops, cover all the bases etc.? If it is a one night wonder, no. If I’m trying to hit kitty more than once, h2lllllll yessss! Up in the air, upside down/downside up, I will be putting in the work! Dayumm the sheets, they’re on the floor. And if I’m really into you; Imma break the emergency glass for ya a$$ and bring out the whipacream/ice cream/pineapples/cherry and coleshaw!

June 22, 2006 02:45 PM | Link to this

okay…um…hmpf…i’m thinking i hit the post button too early…cause i don’t know what in the heck just happened to what i was typing…

oh well…

i’ll see what shows up and go from there…

By Tazzee

June 22, 2006 02:47 PM | Link to this

One more comment:

Kym I had to laugh at you getting Vick. He’s going to get you some major points this year, mark my words. And while I’m on football runnin vick is one of my least favorite players on the team. He annoys me sometimes and the one time I actually cursed during a game - it was because of one his plays (my seat mates were shocked), but I will defend him to the death against the haters.

June 22, 2006 02:47 PM | Link to this

JustMe Dang, you really broke it down there so you feel me. I co-sign that!

LL Bruh, undo just one button on your stuffed shirt, stop defending yourself, and just roll with the jokes for a change! We don’t really care where you hang, you grown…LOL.

Tazzee Love is blind…hehehe. Now if you’re going the dating site route (shaking my head but being supportive) then just roll with what attracts and stimulates you, physically and mentally. Like Blue said a day or two ago, don’t let me come up on a dimepiece “Becky” at Perimeter Mall that I can sport in public!! LMMFAO!!

By QC

June 22, 2006 02:49 PM | Link to this

Alvin….cole slaw

I missed that one darkbuty

June 22, 2006 02:49 PM | Link to this

@ Kym…i am rolling with Pep and the Dolphin defense and the Ravens..receievers are gonna be steve smith and Reggie Wayne..

June 22, 2006 02:50 PM | Link to this

Alvin Imma break the emergency glass

Man you are stoopid as hell, but dead on point LMAO

June 22, 2006 02:50 PM | Link to this

sJea that’s just it…my momma didn’t tell me anything about s*x…that’s why I talk to my girls…I don’t get it…what’s the hangup?? If my girls didn’t want to talk about IT…then we wouldn’t…But if we want to learn and I find them as a good resource then it’s all good.

The discussions have personally helped me…I don’t know…to each it’s own, but I KNOW my man is happy for the girltalks!!

By Tazzee

June 22, 2006 02:51 PM | Link to this

Blue - not giving up, just enlarging my territory…

June 22, 2006 02:52 PM | Link to this

sup LahLah

By stormthing sneeky's going on in heah

June 22, 2006 02:52 PM | Link to this

SeanJ You might want to look Kym’s choice of receivers and add Randle El to that mix.

By Jewel

June 22, 2006 02:55 PM | Link to this

Blue Because, those are the women who don’t know the secrets. That book is another opportunity for women to dissect the male psyche. They want their instincts validated…or maybe, just maybe, find out that the guy really is into them. See, my feet are no where near the edge. LOL!

By janae

June 22, 2006 02:57 PM | Link to this

Have a good evening, Everyone.

June 22, 2006 02:57 PM | Link to this

SUP BLOGGERS, GyrlPower, and my cousin who’s lurking!! This is a great topic and although revisited often, you never know when you might walk away with some pearl of wisdom or drop one for someone else. The fact that it is revisited is indicative of how prevalent a problem infidelity is in our society and, hopefully, indicative of how we are seeking to change that.

Yes, I’ve cheated. In fact,DCNative, the scenrio was simular to yours, strickingly so. Girl yo hu’band’s name aint Ron, is it? LOL RUN DC RUN from this man! He is stuck in his shyt and you cheatn aint gone fix shyt!

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 03:00 PM | Link to this

Runnin Please consult Blue and Alvin for an explanation. Actually I think Alvin’s explanation sums it up pretty darn well - U GO BOI!!!

Blue LOL @ Big Stroke Awards Nominations.

June 22, 2006 03:02 PM | Link to this

Kym cool, did a yahoo league last year too.

Blue You just putting Randle El out there because you’re a Redskins fan (pulling your card…lol).

Well, it’s time for me to go because the a/c in our building is malfunctioning and I’m laughing at my own jokes, cracking myself up…lol. It’s been fun ya’ll, everyone be easy.

June 22, 2006 03:02 PM | Link to this

Hey Er’body,

My job internet went down late yesterday and is just coming back…Dayum technology.

QC Here is your drink..And I got you some “Salt & Vinegar” chips.

I’m not trying to catch up…

Now sneaking into computer server room and blessing with holy water….Maybe this will keep the juice flowing

June 22, 2006 03:03 PM | Link to this

@Tazzee

I dont think I will keep him, going to look at him during preseason and if he is on my cant cut list then I am stuck with him. I will play him but I will just be cautious on who I play him against. UGHHHH!!

By alvin

June 22, 2006 03:03 PM | Link to this

She let it be known that he was handling bizness!! yea, with diamonds,pearls,and rolls royce….

June 22, 2006 03:05 PM | Link to this

Ok Newsflash… I have a friend who has a soap line a Sevananda named Gentle Planet.. Its a really good soap product and its au naturale..

June 22, 2006 03:05 PM | Link to this

@ BK…i was scoping her out..i am scouting ..the league i am in starts on the 8/7. she is on her shyt looks like..with her mean azz..only problem with getting Randle El or Santana Moss…who is gonna get them the ball? the redskins QB is garbage unless dude from Auburn is the real deal….on another topic…i see the weekend is started…with all this “i got platinum pssy” talk..lol

June 22, 2006 03:06 PM | Link to this

Puttin’ on my “They Live” glasses in an attempt to see the imposters.

June 22, 2006 03:08 PM | Link to this

oh…yeah…them dudes that take the whisper song literally…beat da pu88y up…later for all that…

whereas ain’t nothing wrong with some long stroking or a little deep d icking…you ain’t gotta hurt me to sex me right…i ain’t trynna take a trip to the gynecologist behind your foolishness…

oh…and for all of those wanna be lothario’s out there…if you’ve ever run into a dry one…it’s cause it wouldn’t get wet FOR YOU because guess what?…she just wasn’t that into you…

June 22, 2006 03:09 PM | Link to this

darkbuty I can understand your friend feeling totally betrayed because emotional adultery hurts as much as physical soemtimes…especially if you imagine your SO talking about your private matters in the street..especially to some other female…as others have said before women are ruthless and you never know if she is one of the hyenas waiting to go in for the kill when your man is vulnerable like a maimed rabbit….

By jraw

June 22, 2006 03:09 PM | Link to this

@DCNative - You probrably should bounce from that situation.

@runnin - you really like that movie the best man!

By Jewel

June 22, 2006 03:10 PM | Link to this

^5 SJea & Tazzee Some things are best left unsaid. Personally, I do not brag about the material things my man has. I am more impressed by the way he treats me.

June 22, 2006 03:11 PM | Link to this

@Sean J while I am not a Anits fan either.. I like Drew Brees, thinking about him or Matt Hasselbeck, I know the Manning brothers have already been drafted in my league, so they are done. Oh and Tazzee in the league last year Vicky’s points sucked big time. Bledsoe had more than he did… still cant believe I got Vicky Musing pour me a strong Coca-Cola please lite ice

June 22, 2006 03:13 PM | Link to this

Kym I’m putting El out there because he has 2 other wides and a fast azz RB working with him. Go look at the 4-piece combo that Warner had to throw to a few years ago. AND because he’s a Redskin.

Now the only problem that I see from the Fantasy side is that the NFC East is about to be head and shoulders over league like back in the day, which means that their stats won’t be as good as say a team like Seattle, who got 6 cheap wins and blown up stats off of scrubs.

By BUBBS

June 22, 2006 03:14 PM | Link to this

fact of the matter is,

If ya aint taking care of business in the home ya cant be p** off if yer mate cheats.

1st marrage I was a cheat to end all cheats..9 years

2nd marrage.. 17 years true blue

By LahLah

June 22, 2006 03:15 PM | Link to this

Tazzee in response to your 2:38 post. That’s a lot like what me and my girls do. It’s not like everytime one of us “get busy” we have to have a three way conversation. But take Tuesday for example we were watching the game, I was doing one of my girls hair, we had a bottle of Kendall Jackson and we talked and laughed about so many things including s3x. To me that’s what freindship is all about being able to talk and relating to one another.

By jraw

June 22, 2006 03:15 PM | Link to this

@Blue_Kollar - Puttin’ on my “They Live” glasses in an attempt to see the imposters.

That fight scene b/w Keith David and Roddy Piper was the shyt! That’s old school for real!

June 22, 2006 03:15 PM | Link to this

MysticMoni Her husband called me to talk about the situation and to give his side…not sure why..the only side I would take would be to put your marriage first Anyway, he told me that the other woman was helpful…that she actually gave him good advice…Of course I never told my friend he actually said some STUPID shyt like that!!!

June 22, 2006 03:17 PM | Link to this

@Sean Hold up did you just call me mean?

By QC

June 22, 2006 03:18 PM | Link to this

Musing…well dayum! BK gave a “whole bottle of Merlot” today and i don’t like those nasty “salt & vinegar chips yuk” if i eat chips they must be baked only…but thank you for my drank cause i just answered a customer service call and this man got on my last nerve so i’m “deep throating” this drank

June 22, 2006 03:19 PM | Link to this

sJea it’s cause it wouldn’t get wet FOR YOU because guess what?…she just wasn’t that into you…

That’s exactly what I said, AND why if such a thing happens, I’m off for the sandwich.

But since you say that, If I got the draws off and she’s just not that much into me, what is that? A ho’ right?

By alvin

June 22, 2006 03:23 PM | Link to this

…i’m “deep throating” this drank Dayum ma, thanks for info….

By Tazzee

June 22, 2006 03:24 PM | Link to this

Kym that was last year - trust me on this one, k? not that I’m planning to have him on my draft board…

BUBBS if someone isn’t taking care of things at home the other person needs to be man/woman enough to leave.

June 22, 2006 03:25 PM | Link to this

dark good call I would not have told my friend either…a comment like that makes me wanna put men like that in a corner with those big dunce hats from a back in the day…and don’t come out of the corner until you decide to use the head on your shoulders!

June 22, 2006 03:25 PM | Link to this

@ Kym….i am trying to do a good job of scouting right now..but Hasselback is a fo sho star…i was thinking of getting one if his receivers or his tight end..i wouldnt draft Vick..altough i have gut feeling he is gonna have a break out year passing…if he can stay out of visions and leave the green alone.lol

By Tazzee

June 22, 2006 03:26 PM | Link to this

Oh and runnin I actually went the dating site route to meet some folks in the area. My profile actually states that I’m not looking for a serious relationship, just some folks to show me around H-town. I’ve actually met 2 real cool guys.

June 22, 2006 03:28 PM | Link to this

we had a bottle of Kendall Jackson and we talked and laughed about so many thing… lahlah I’m running your way now with a bottle of MR.Jackson! So we can talk about…guess what, Many things!

June 22, 2006 03:28 PM | Link to this

@Blue ohhh hold on I love Randle El remember he was a Steeler last year.. so I know what he is capable of. I am hard pressed right now for a good tight end I though. Ohhh and just check my rooster my third reciever is Reggie Wayne from the Colts.

June 22, 2006 03:28 PM | Link to this

blue…if i was repeating your sentiments…sorry, sometimes, i’m just skimming over comments and not reading them in full…especially, if…well never mind…

and i should have further validated that statement with she’s just not that into you AT THAT MOMENT…

anTyways…draws off…and no love has come down?…whor ish? um, not so much…

and h ell…i find myself tired of typing…

June 22, 2006 03:29 PM | Link to this

I like when you ladies go runningback cause it always leads to secondary snatch.. All that stuff ya’ll be sharing with each other makes somebody want to test ride the scream machine and I aint mad..

June 22, 2006 03:29 PM | Link to this

Kym Your coke is under the umbrella tree. Take you shoes off and relax while I play these bongos for you.

Now performing various Isley Brothers songs on the bongos

By LahLah

June 22, 2006 03:30 PM | Link to this

SJEA 3:08 post.

Tell em girl. No beating it up!! lol!!

June 22, 2006 03:33 PM | Link to this

QC Now, thats what I like to hear…Please make your way over to the back of the bar I have something to give you.

Laying bongos on the ground and grabbing peanut oil and wooden spoon

June 22, 2006 03:34 PM | Link to this

@Tazzee if I have to keep him fine last year I had 4 QB’s on my team. Variety. I had Eli Manning last year, Brees, Bledsoe, or and Big Ben (got in the league late so I had to take the leftovers, but I won ) It felt so good to whip those men folks each week.-Telling me girls dont know football Who got the trophy nowwwwwwwwwwwwwwww Sorry having a flashback Musing where is my drink dear?

By BUBBS

June 22, 2006 03:34 PM | Link to this

KYM ..LEAVING IS NOT ALWAYS THE BEST ANSWER/OPTION WHEN CHILDREN ARE INVOLVED. Especially if yer an involved dad.

June 22, 2006 03:35 PM | Link to this

…if you’ve ever run into a dry one…

No problem here! I alway carry a bottle of wetty-wets,lol A funny statement huh? Remember fellas, for some reason magnums dried most women out, no matter how into you she is. And that is condom tip of the day, thankyou!

June 22, 2006 03:35 PM | Link to this

@ sJeaSxyCool…lol…although i have never had it happen to me…so older cats to me as women age…it no longer gets wet wet…i hope thats not what i have to look forward too in the future.

By jraw

June 22, 2006 03:37 PM | Link to this

once many moons ago b4 I got married. I was dating this girl and our relationship wasn’t serious but she thought it was. I told her up front what I expected from her in the bedroom, but she didn’t want to do that. So being young, I said okay, I kicked with her and I happened to meet this other young later who did what I want my girl to do and she did it well. So I started kickin it with both of them. I should have been honest with girl #1 but I wasn’t. To make long story short I got busted and mean cold busted. I took girl #2 over to moms house for dinner and girl #1 came over and showed out big time. She was straight trying to fight me like a dude. I finally got her to calm down and leave, as I walked into the house my mom said that she wanted to talk with me asap. She pulled me into the room and said you need to be honest with these girls or stuff like this will happen all the time. I got the message, I just didn’t get it that day. Me and girl #2 went back to my place as if nothing happened

By aam853

June 22, 2006 03:40 PM | Link to this

Blue - I’m sure there have been times when you hit the sheets with a woman that you ‘weren’t that into’ but you were happy to step up for the sex…did that make you a ho?

June 22, 2006 03:43 PM | Link to this

@Musing sorry about that dear thank you for the drink. Now sitting under a tree with my laptop wonder who I am going to have to sleep with to get Matt Hasselbeck, or maybe I will go with Carson Palmer, he is health now, and should be go before September.

By QC

June 22, 2006 03:46 PM | Link to this

Musing let me balance first, i don’t need that peanut oil…i have some of my very own personal “massage oils” imma use on you BooBoo

By jraw

June 22, 2006 03:47 PM | Link to this

conclusion to story. girl#1 did forgive me. I didn’t even say I was until years later when I saw her on the streets. Girl2 had the attitude I am not the one being cheated on. I dated both until I got tired of them. I can honestly say I am changed man (for the good).

June 22, 2006 03:47 PM | Link to this

@Bubbas I never said anything about staying or leaving. I said that cheating has been going on since time began, and that if a person is going to stay with a cheater then they cant keep hanging it over them like some tailsment of shame. Forgive and Forget go hand in hand.

June 22, 2006 03:48 PM | Link to this

just playing Kym

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 03:49 PM | Link to this

Jsea - Dayum Dayum Dayum, Ya got down! Drop down and get ya School’em on Gurl!

Blue You coulda been a victim for a night…… women ocassionally prey too - LOL He got used, abused and excused all in one night - Just kidding - LMAO

By INTOWN

June 22, 2006 03:55 PM | Link to this

This is the most disturbing ghetto blog I have ever seen…you people have not class and it is obvious what sect is participating…reading this trite garbage is like looking at a trainwreck!! DISGRACEFUL!

June 22, 2006 04:01 PM | Link to this

Jraw Man Roddy Piper was the man Joe. And that was one crazy story. LOL

AAM It’s my impression that dudes that work out with chicks that they don’t dig do so to relieve stress on the nutzack and women work out with dudes that they don’t dig do so for goods, making me dumb and her a ho’. If I’m wrong please explain.

By LahLah

June 22, 2006 04:11 PM | Link to this

Gavi girl you’ve locked up my personal email address. I was trying to respond to you but now it’s all F’d up. Thanks Alot! Just kidding. But to respond to what you said. In this instance the Thug gets no love.

By Vanilla

June 22, 2006 04:13 PM | Link to this

INTOWN well for you to be complaining we see yo azz all up in here, so if you don’t like it then start walking brotha this is a free blog baby, you don’t have to pay up in here speaking yo peace ain’t gone stop shyt! That’s not the first time someone has complained about our blog just to get some “attention” do you need a hug baby, well here’s one <>, no get you azz outta here and go take a bath cause you smell like “hateraid”

June 22, 2006 04:14 PM | Link to this

JustMe LOL I’ve only been the victim once. The stars were lined up that night and I was in position. Any dude that had rolled up at that same point in time could’ve probably hit. I rolled up to the spot all late. It was closing and slim was getting into her ride. I said some mess and the next thing, I’m smashing in the hotel. Come to find out, she was just excercising her “free phuck pass” ‘cause BF-dude had cheated. I felt kinda shiddy though. oh well… LOL

June 22, 2006 04:14 PM | Link to this

@Blue

Women just as men have pressure to release and it is not aways to get some money from him or something out of him. So lets not say that every woman who sleeps with a man is a whore and wants something from him. They could very well just want sex just as the man wants. Now I have to wonder what kind of women you are running into out there?

June 22, 2006 04:16 PM | Link to this

making me dumb and her a ho’ yes you are wrong blu sometimes we as humans, need that raw senseless, animal like s$x.

June 22, 2006 04:18 PM | Link to this

Vanilla, good to read you sweetie! how is your day going?

and QC is there anything I can get for you?

June 22, 2006 04:19 PM | Link to this

You online daters might want to check out this video and beware.

www.fox30online.com/mediacenter/?videoId=5814

By LahLah

June 22, 2006 04:19 PM | Link to this

Demi WTH is MR. Jackson? Is that Mr. Johnsons little cousin? What?

Musing What Isley Brothers song can you play on the bongo’s? lol!!!

By LahLah

June 22, 2006 04:23 PM | Link to this

Blue I thought men liked being used every now and then?

Why did you feel shiddy? Did you think you were forming a relationship or something?

It’s kinda ho-ish that you got with a chick you met in the parking lot of a club.

Goes to show you that some men have ho tendencies too. lol!!!

June 22, 2006 04:25 PM | Link to this

Kym Well y’all the ones that are always talking about some dude named “bob”. LMAO

And that was some years ago anyway.

June 22, 2006 04:25 PM | Link to this

LahLah Kendall Jackson the drank and I didnt know Mr.Johnsons had a cousin. I thought it was johnlittle!

June 22, 2006 04:27 PM | Link to this

LahLah I have been trained in the seductive art of bongo playing…This is for you.

Now playing “Spend the Night”….With sexy smirk on face

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 04:28 PM | Link to this

Blue LOL, There is a first time for errrrr thang. But like the ladies said…. sometimes we just might wanna get our groove on and if you tall enough, you breathin, and you don’t smell we just might choose you to be our “sweet meet of the night” - LOL

By alvin

June 22, 2006 04:29 PM | Link to this

Blu do you get any work done? Im off today, so im trying to keep this girl from raping me, hehehehehehe….

June 22, 2006 04:31 PM | Link to this

@ LahLah - my bad girl..oppss..what i do, what i do?? Cool, then Mr.Thug is just a good date person, when u’re bored..its all good… i need one of those.. Cute to look at but thats it, u know.. be safe in Marta this evening though chick..

Everybody have a great evening!!

By JustMe

June 22, 2006 04:32 PM | Link to this

Lah Lah ^5 and 2 snaps on that. Dayum Blue, you losing major kewl points for that ho move bruh - LOL

June 22, 2006 04:32 PM | Link to this

LahLah Plus at that point in time, I really I had less than zero responsibility other than going to work and really wasn’t giving a dayum. That’s how I fell into that situation. Since you asked…

By alvin

June 22, 2006 04:34 PM | Link to this

you tall enough, you breathin, and you don’t smell we just might choose you to be our “sweet meet of the night lol that is so true, I’ve met some great lovers through one nighters, turned 5 or 7 monthers

June 22, 2006 04:38 PM | Link to this

JustMe Well that’s what happened, ‘cause like there was maybe a 3 minute interaction at the ride and pieces were being placed. That was bitter-sweet though.

Vanilla You pounced on that didn’t you slim? Don’t waste your energy on a ghostwriter.

By QC

June 22, 2006 04:40 PM | Link to this

Hey Demi i’m good just came out of a quick meeting with my supervisor & co-worker…and i’m signing off for the day…have a great evening everyone!

Demi, i wanna read more of the real, true blue “Cape Crusader” 2morrow

Musine, you have’nt flown around lately either, so let’s fly 2morrow…HOLLA!

June 22, 2006 04:42 PM | Link to this

JustMe Kewl Points/Blog Points are about as worthless as a stack of 3 dolla billz. Besides, who here can say that their stat sheet is spotless? So big deal. LOL

By LahLah

June 22, 2006 04:43 PM | Link to this

Gavi Don’t know, it just happens sometimes when I email you. No big deal.

Blue Hope you didn’t take that offensively. You know I’m your #1 fan (today). lol!!!!

By LahLah

June 22, 2006 04:45 PM | Link to this

musing I can see you know playing the bongos with that sexy smile and your silk shirt unbottoned and blowing in the wind chest hair exposed and an awesome sixpack.