Misadventures in Atlanta

July 7, 2006 08:38 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers I prefer being in Love…than falling in Love I don’t think Men feel uneasy about falling in love, it may take them a minute to share there true feelings.

I’m getting a lot of emails about that “Yahoo Group” stuff and i don’t know what’s going on peeps so i can’t help those that are asking, i’m still trying to figure it out myself ;)

Staff/breaksfast meeting so i’ll check back later, have a nice day y’all

July 7, 2006 08:59 AM | Link to this

Staff/breaksfast meeting

Corporate translation: Y’all are FK/N up! Now sit and eat, we’ll tell you all about it…

By Cee

July 7, 2006 09:03 AM | Link to this

Good Morning!

IMO falling in love can be quite easy. Everything’s new and exciting, and you fall in love with the idea of maybe you’ve found the one. It has a fantasy feeling to it. Being in love means you’ve excepted that person as they are, flaws and all, and the blinders are pretty much gone. To fall in love is such a quick and passing thing but to be in love is much more lasting.

July 7, 2006 09:04 AM | Link to this

Morning people, it’s Friday.

I agree that being in love is much better than falling in love because it’s lasting over time. Falling in love can be a moment or a specific time frame while being in love can last a lifetime.

I have some off beat movie ideas for lasting love because I’m not into the typical chick flicks and they don’t stay together throughout the film either…LOL.

Forest Gump had some serious love and devotion in it. He grew up with ol girl, tried to protect her from her abusive father, fell in love with her, followed her around the country, never forgot about her and took her back after she had his child and never told her and came back with a fatal disease. She passed, he buried her, mourned her, and raised his son in her memory. That’s love because she put him through some mess!…LOL.

Braveheart is another one I can think of. They met as children, William Wallace and his love, he moved away after his father was murdered and she gave him a flower before he left. He came back as an adult with her on his mind all those years, held on to the flower, gave it back to her after all those years and married her. She was killed and he mourned her and led a revolution with her death fueling his fight. He was finally caught and is put to death but he’s at peace with it because he sees her coming for him right before he dies.

By janae

July 7, 2006 09:04 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

July 7, 2006 09:08 AM | Link to this

Lord Demi, that was’nt nice!

By SheSpeaks

July 7, 2006 09:19 AM | Link to this

This is a good one Wise. I’ve fallen in love time and time again but never stayed in it for various reasons. It takes work! Falling in love is easy and organic but to stay in love one has to work to maintain throughout the revelation of flaws, challenges, stamina and other outside interests. I’ve never stayed in love and have only had one psycho/head case to stay in love with me another Oprah. Hard to say which one is better, I guess it depends on your goals.

By SeanJohnson

July 7, 2006 09:20 AM | Link to this

Rather be in like…my decisions are more rational. Being in love is TOOOOO much being on crack.

July 7, 2006 09:22 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

@Wise Diva I would say anything staring Spencer Tracy and Katherine Hepburn Their story is classic both on screen and off screen. Also anything with Ruby Dee and Ozzie Davis again a classic love story on screen and off screen that shows the endurance of true love to the death.

By jraw

July 7, 2006 09:23 AM | Link to this

Which do you think is better: falling in love or being in love? After being married for about 10 years now, I would say being in love is better. Why do I say that, It is because we have been thru it all good times and bad times. Our love has been tested and has stood up to the test. Now don’t think that being in love doesn’t require hard work but it something that I enjoy doing. I still date my wife and will continue to do so in order to keep things new. How do you think these differ? IMO Falling in love is what the majority of people like to do. Just like the movies. When it gets tough they bail out. When it gets boring they bail out. Being in love normally means that you have put in some time.

By SheSpeaks

July 7, 2006 09:25 AM | Link to this

OH dang, guess I should’ve read first. I see that I said the same thing Cee said.

By sJeaSexyCool

July 7, 2006 09:30 AM | Link to this

falling in love is like riding a rollercoaster…being in love is like taking a cruise…

By G

July 7, 2006 09:31 AM | Link to this

Love topic on a Friday? Oh, that’s right…..date night. Single Guy please help! LOL!

I guess love is like drinking. Falling in love is like ordering your favorite drink(s) from the bar, and getting drunk. Pretty good feeling. Staying in love is like staying inebriated, so you drink more, spread it out with a little water, and enjoy the moment. Probably the best feeling of the night. You don’t have a real care in the world.

However……the high has to end sooner or later. When you crash……..you burn. Much like love and drinking, the hangover makes you never want to go through it again.

July 7, 2006 09:38 AM | Link to this

Dang Kym you went ol skool with the movies…lol.

LOL @ G and the bad love hangover.

Off topic: The Falcons are going to hold a $5 practice session at Piedmont Park.

July 7, 2006 09:40 AM | Link to this

Vanilla1 I know sweetie. I’m senting over some Blog’s Roses singing: Baby PPleaseeee forgive Meeeeee, Yeahhhh!!!

By NoStress

July 7, 2006 09:42 AM | Link to this

its funny how we can prefer one over the other when love must first be established before it can be maintained. A lifetime of love is the realization that we never stop falling in love with who we are growing to be. To say that there is a stopping point to falling in love with a person is what makes maintaining love so difficult because falling in love became falling into a moment of a person and now you must try to recapture the moment over and over to keep that love alive. That moment should be celebrated for what it was and used as the anticipation of many more moments to come. If you try to make the moment the foundation then the “moment of love” won’t last because time will exhaust the memory and the feelings surrounding it.

My great aunt Grace who has been married to my Uncle Jerry for more than 60 years told me that love is a leap of faith and though things get hard my faith can never have me reaching back for the edge. The great part about them is that they’re not just married but they act like they just got married.

as far as movies go - On Golden Pond is a good one as far as lasting love is concerned.

July 7, 2006 09:47 AM | Link to this

diva a movie

which way is up - Pryor…o lot of lovin in that one…..now sit down fo i but this glove on your a$$

July 7, 2006 09:48 AM | Link to this

Wow, like being on crack or hungover?..hmm guess that answers the uneasy question.

ha ha @ date night, oh please @G, I doubt any day would be ideal for guys to talk about love. S’ok, we know ya’ll secretly want to be in love! LOL

Single guy will be back soon though, no worries!

By Tazzee

July 7, 2006 09:48 AM | Link to this

Great topic Wise Diva!

Like you, when I envision a relationship I get more excited about growing old together, traveling the world together and simply ‘loving on’ one another. Sure the dates and initial stages are great, but I know that all that will fade eventually. It can fade into a nice friendship, a horrible break up, or the above items I mentioned.

I have said before that love is not a feeling, it is a decision. When you truly love someone, you have decided to stick by that person through thick and thin, with all their faults. All that other stuff - the butterflies - is temporary. And I think one of the problems with marriages and divorce is that so many people are concentrating on being ‘happy’ - happiness is determined by circumstances and once you’re in a ‘til death do us part’ relationship, those circumstances are bound to change. In marriage we should seek to be content in those times when happiness is not there. Meaning that we’ve learned to accept the situation as it is and make the best of it.

Now if he’s beating, cheating or drugging - I gotta go. oh and I forgot if he’s messing up the money - j/k, ummm no I’m not

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

July 7, 2006 09:53 AM | Link to this

that is tight nostress…hoping er body is taking notes….stop all the junkfood love….

July 7, 2006 09:53 AM | Link to this

@Runnin they should do it for free, because that is about all they are going to be worth this year.

By darkbuty

July 7, 2006 09:55 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday Everyone

I’ll miss blogging with you guys next week…on vacation

Anyway, for me falling in love is both scary and exciting…the idea of putting your trust and being vulnerable to someone that you are only beginning to know can be quite intimidating..yet wonderfully intoxicating. I just had a conversation on this topic last night and discussed the idea of having someone that you know has your back no matter what…when you’re dating you would like to believe that they’ll be there for you know matter what..but reality sinks in. My BF said last night that if I got caught in the drug sting and was taken to jail…he may/may not bail me out…But if I was his wife he would..LOL…that’s the difference between falling in love and being in love to me.

July 7, 2006 09:57 AM | Link to this

Falling in love is so easy to do that sometimes it happens by mistake. Being in love is a state of mind and emotions. Staying in love is a full-time job. I like being in love so I am willing to put in the necessary time that it takes to stay there. One mistake people make is thinking if I am not feeling the warm fuzzies then I must not be in love. That is so far from the truth. It just means you are human. That fuzzy feeling comes and go so you have to make an effort to maintain during those empty moments.

It’s a kind of funny because I will be sitting in bed watching TV or reading and hubby can walk by and I will get that warm feeling. It’s feel like new love. Sometimes he’ll ask what are you smiling at and I’ll just say “Nothing” and sometimes he’ll wink at me and climb into bed and we will cuddle up and go to sleep. No sex just love. Then there are those days he’ll walk by and I’ll throw a pillow at him telling to get from in front of the television. No warm feelings, but I still love him.

Can’t think of any movies right now, I have to come back when I do.

By itsmorenamorena

July 7, 2006 10:00 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday to all ((waving))

I just watched a movie that showcased “staying in love” last night.

The Incredibles….

Mr. Incredible and Elastigirl…their love story was woven throughout that movie. Actually, alot of strong family themes are woven throughout that movie. But he even says at one point, he is “not strong enough to lose her.” Ahhhh love…..

Oh, and Love Affair with Warren Beatty and Annette Benning. It was an enduring love, even if it was a remake.

I’ll take being in love over falling anyday. The initial giddyness is great, but I want something that endures.

By NoStress

July 7, 2006 10:00 AM | Link to this

@Rell - preciate that homie @runnin - sup dog

got to give a shout to the ladies - sup Cee, She, Tazzee and of course her majesty Queen Wise Diva

By Jesse's Girl

July 7, 2006 10:01 AM | Link to this

Its easy for 2 people to fall in love at the same time. The trick is to NOT fall out of love at the same time. That is where true commitment lies.

By Jeff

July 7, 2006 10:02 AM | Link to this

Going on a first date Saturday night with a lady my aunt hooked me up with. Hopefully she’s not reading this!

Anyways… I PREFER being in love. But I also COMPLETELY enjoy falling for her and winning her over.

Only prob I have is that I am constantly torn between her and work. I want to give BOTH my absolute everything…. FAR too often in the past, she was sacrificed.

In the words of Michael Douglas in The American President: “I’ve been too busy keeping my job to do my job. Well, that ends now.” (Some very romantic lines if you know the movie, and in general they are PERFECT lines for the workaholic that decides he will give up his job rather than lose his love…)

By SeanJohnson

July 7, 2006 10:08 AM | Link to this

@ WD..i guess saying it was like being addicted to crack or something was overboard…But love..being in it or falling in it…so much of your emotions and feeligs are not totally controlled by you……its over rated…

By Gerald

July 7, 2006 10:09 AM | Link to this

Remember, when you fall, you are temporarily out of control!

By Big Vince

July 7, 2006 10:09 AM | Link to this

I agree with Savon from Love Jones, falling in love is easy. People do it every day but staying in love and maintaining it is the real thing. I believe its more than just a feeling though. Its a choice and decision to do those things that keep the flame burning.

July 7, 2006 10:10 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

Said while entering building and kicking “Love” in the Ballz

Guys don’t talk about love because it can leave us vunerable…The quickest way to get an azz’kicking is to say something bad about someone we actually love.

Being in love is better than falling in love…”Being” implies making a decision, you want to be there and make it work out for you and your mate…”Falling” implies you have no control over it, you just slipped into it…Sometimes your emotions can lead you to thinking it’s love when it’s not…After the hormones cool down you make a choice as to if this is right for you or not…..

A love movie that I like has to be “Gladiator”….I know it’s an action packed movie…but at it’s core it’s all driven by love…A hero defies the king to get back to his wife….Wife is killed by King…and Hero does all in his power to whoop king’s azz

By Cee

July 7, 2006 10:11 AM | Link to this

Hey NoStress!! loved your post. I don’t remember you being that smart in school!…joking.

July 7, 2006 10:12 AM | Link to this

they should do it for free, because that is about all they are going to be worth this year.

Blog translation: Falcon are a Shytty Team, Period.

July 7, 2006 10:12 AM | Link to this

LOL @ warm fuzzies, they can play with your mind.

darkbuty Nobody asked if your azz is gonna be on vacation, keep that to yourself and stop trying to rub it in!!….LOL.

Good one NoStress!

Kym I see that you are still crunk…lol.

By Holly

July 7, 2006 10:14 AM | Link to this

As a Christian, I want God’s best, and I will only be married to a Christian. I am 37 and never married. I will be joining eharmony. You and stay in love by letting God have true headship of your marriage. As husband and wife, you will endure hardships and difficulty. When God is in control of your marriage, you and your husband can weather the storms; it will make you appreciate each other more.

By QC

July 7, 2006 10:14 AM | Link to this

Hello Have a nice vacation darkbuty I love “being in love” it’s like drinking a nice hot cup of cocoa with my pink slippers on & watching my favorite show on tv Grey’s Anatomy…falling in love is like drinking my favorite juice (apple) well have a great day y’all

By danielle

July 7, 2006 10:23 AM | Link to this

A great movie to watch is “Legends of the Fall.” Brad Pitt was excellent in that movie and he found lasting true love. Great, great, great!!!!!!!!!!!!

By G

July 7, 2006 10:27 AM | Link to this

Good observation Wise. Man Law allows us one hot stove to get burned on. Anything after that results in fines from the MLB.

One more thing……..Guys always talk about love. We love to talk about money. We love sports. We love sharing stories of memorable “horizontal tagos”.

Wise……I’d love for you to get me a beer. Take your time when you open the frig too. LOL!!

By QC

July 7, 2006 10:27 AM | Link to this

Good Luck on your date Jeff

Holly that is so true & very well said

By darkbuty

July 7, 2006 10:28 AM | Link to this

Thanks QC…I will runnin a picture from the beaches of Los Cabos with a strawberry daquiri in hand…LOL

By G

July 7, 2006 10:33 AM | Link to this

Man Law recommends “She’s Gotta Have It”. It’s about this love triangle…..or triad……or this love thing between a woman and three men. Man…….After that movie, I really had respect for the choices some women have to make.

July 7, 2006 10:33 AM | Link to this

Love is when he makes you so angry that you could spit fire, but you still get up and cook his favorite meal - minus the cyanide, LOL.

Love is when he endures your verbal slap to the face and still comes home at the end of the day.

Love is when you weren’t readily available to lay under him for 6 straight months and he resisted the temptation to stray.

Love is when you can say I’m sorry and mean it.

Love is when you can ask for forgiveness and be forgiven.

Love is when I’m not liking you to well right now, but I am not going anywhere.

Love is what you do and not what you say.

By darkbuty

July 7, 2006 10:34 AM | Link to this

I can’t think of any films so how about examples of tried and tested loves in the eye of the public…Samuel Jackson and his wife Tonya, Denzel and Pauletta, Bill and Hillary Clinton,(I don’t want to hear it),Ossie and Ruby, and the list goes on…

Oh did I forget to mention Bobby and Whitney… LOL

July 7, 2006 10:38 AM | Link to this

Good day…

I like the thrill of the chase.. Once the chase is over and the newness wears off I become bored.. I am extremely flaky when it comes to love and after a few attempts at it I realize I am better off without relationship love Family Love, Love for my child is a different kind of love.. I am one of those people that thinks being in love is truly overrated..

As far as a good love story in movie form would be Natural Born Killers cause Mickey and Mallory were in love and wanted nothing but to be with one another.. Twisted yes but absolute love none the less.

By QC

July 7, 2006 10:39 AM | Link to this

^5 NoNonsense

sniff, sniff…that’s so sweet

July 7, 2006 10:39 AM | Link to this

Hey Nostress - good to read you!

Nononsense, I like that list, awww.

It’s funny that when we complain and gripe about dating we have plenty to say, but when it comes to the gushy stuff, it’s like yea yea, love..whatever! LOL. I hope we aren’t getting jaded!!

@G - um didn’t She’s Gotta Have It have a rape scene?

July 7, 2006 10:42 AM | Link to this

dark you forgot

James and the no neck monster Florida

George and Wizzy

Cliff and Claire

Thelma and Kieth

Mickey and Minnie

Fred and Wilma

lol

By Randyt

July 7, 2006 10:42 AM | Link to this

Morning all

Being in love is definitely better…every day is pretty much great.

Falling in love is like getting really drunk and having a great time…only there is often a ‘morning after’.

Worst of all worlds is to fall in love with someone who doesn’t fall in love back with you…or thinks she is, but later on realizes she isn’t. Hurts worse than a Brazilian Wax and the pain lasts even longer.

“Notebook” was touching, just never met anyone that ultimately loved like that. From a chic flic standpoint, I really liked “Notting Hill”. Still waiting for a Julia Roberts clone who makes $16mm a film to fall in love with me, and am beginning to get concerned.

By Tazzee

July 7, 2006 10:48 AM | Link to this

Hey NoStress!

danielle Legends of the Fall is one of my favorite movies, but in the end I thought it represented the love between the brothers more than anything else. That slut threatened to mess it all up, but in the end Brad Pitt came through for his family - I absolutely love the end of that movie!

Another love example would be Billy Dee’s love for Diana Ross in Lady Sings the Blues and Mahogany. Hmm, I wonder if Mahogany is out on dvd yet - lemme go check…

By Cee

July 7, 2006 10:49 AM | Link to this

lmao @ no neck monster Florida! you wrong for that Rell.

July 7, 2006 10:49 AM | Link to this

Betty & Barney

George & Weezy

July 7, 2006 10:50 AM | Link to this

LOL @ Randyt waiting on Julia Roberts!

July 7, 2006 10:51 AM | Link to this

danielle Legends of the Fall is a great movie but Tristan was only with the first girl for a year maybe, then he went away, came back and married another girl. They were together for about 6 years then she dies and his first love committs suicide. That’s a tragedy, not a love story…LOL.

darkbuty I’ll be throwing darts at that pic until I take a vacation…LOL.

Only DK would bust out with Natural Born Killers…..lmao.

By INTOWN

July 7, 2006 10:53 AM | Link to this

YUCK YUCK YUCK YUCK YUCK…Please learn grammar, diction, morals and etiquette.

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

July 7, 2006 10:53 AM | Link to this

Love is patient, Love is kind

and iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii will always love youuuuuuuu, will always love uuuuuuuuuuuu!

i’m feeling real silly this morning

July 7, 2006 10:55 AM | Link to this

@Runnin saying the Fakecons is stating a fact.

July 7, 2006 10:56 AM | Link to this

NoStress I agree with you about your aunt and uncle. My dad recently retired and he and my mom are acting like newly weds all over again. They hung in there, endured the hard times and are now enjoying life together. No kids, no debt, no worries. She just tries to tell me to much info that I’m not trying to hear,ewww, but I understand where she is coming from.

She told me that it’s like they have gone full circle and are back at the beginning except with a lot more experience and knowledge under their belts.

July 7, 2006 10:58 AM | Link to this

Wise I sent you an email, don’t know if you received it yet. But if you haven’t I was just thanking you for that info.

By abc

July 7, 2006 10:59 AM | Link to this

Feelings of falling and being in love are the byproduct of a chemical reaction in the brain, the initial cause of which is unknown. The caudate nucleus portion of the human brain has a dense spread of receptors for a neurotransmitter called dopamine. In the right proportions, dopamine creates intense energy, exhilaration, focused attention, and motivation to win rewards. It is why, when you are newly in love, you can stay up all night, watch the sun rise, run a race, ski fast down a slope ordinarily too steep for your skill. (That’s mostly pasted from a National Geographic article.)

Love’s dopamine infusion wears off over time. That’s why you feel like you ‘fall out of love’. It’s speculated that the 3-5 years it takes to wear off is evolutionary, and suits the purpose of raising kids to that age with both parents present.

Attachment of emotional descriptions to such chemical reactions is the realm of women. Men who subscribe to such romanticism are simply whipped.

July 7, 2006 10:59 AM | Link to this

why was issac the only brother on the love boat?

July 7, 2006 11:02 AM | Link to this

LOL @ Randyt..what would you give up to have Julia’s clone? Your comment reminded me of a question Q100 radio asked callers, would you sacrifice sex for one year for just one date with someone famous?

so what say you Randyt? giggle

I think I would do it for Maxwell, the singer!

By danielle

July 7, 2006 11:02 AM | Link to this

Tazzee

You are right, in “Legends of the Fall” the enduring love between a father and his sons and the brothers between each other was the highlight of that movie, however, Brad Pitt fell in love with his brother’s fiance and stayed with her until the end. Their relationship was tried, tested and lasting.

By SheSpeaks

July 7, 2006 11:03 AM | Link to this

Hey NoStress.

By Sidelines

July 7, 2006 11:03 AM | Link to this

GM everyone, I love your topic of the day Wise Diva…yesterday was funny though, lol!

Tazzee, I totally agree with your 9:48post.

Like Janet Jackson says, “like a moth to a flame burned by the fire, my love is blind can’t you see my desire…that’s the way love goes…

ok, so they (104.1) happened to start playing it as I was typing…the timing was perfect…lol!

By Red Kool-Aid

July 7, 2006 11:04 AM | Link to this

Why is it that an Etiquette Azzhole has to come out of the bushes!

By Thick

July 7, 2006 11:05 AM | Link to this

Morning All,

I have really never been in love, but I have watched alot of love stories.

Hopefully I will exprience such bliss one day.

Most Love stories I like are usually related to how hard it is to make love last.

Mahagony is a good love story, I’ll never forget the line “Success is nothing without someone u love to share it with.” or “Mr. Congressman, I just wanna know if you can get me my old man back?”

Just Married where she’s over protected and he’s living life free and footloose. After a horrible honeymoon and breakup he still came back to get his new wife.

Love, Sex, & Eating the Bones where he has a habit and is’nt really ready for responsibility or love.

Sweet Home Alabama, one of my favorites, she get to the alter to marry another guy and realizes that she has not signed her divorce papers that she initiated, talk about us women. Like she said “At least I’m not afraid to go after what I want.”

Brown Sugar, “She is about to marry your man, girl say something. Ssshhh, be quiet.”

Guess Who, three words, “Bump, Bump, Bump” It was nice to see the older couple renew their vows while excepting and affirming the younger generation.

My last one, Love Comes Softly, has all of that patient, kind, protective, caring, and we have a business arrangement type stuff in the movie. All I can is that it’s really sweet.

Thinking about those movies, I’m just smiling over here, dang, I hope love feel even better than this, he,he,he!

July 7, 2006 11:08 AM | Link to this

This is as mushy as I get.. Grease was one of my favorite mushy movies.. And Gasp The Sound of Music is a good one too..

July 7, 2006 11:09 AM | Link to this

GTFOOH Now the MLB is recommending shyt? Go head with y’all bad selves!

By Jeff

July 7, 2006 11:10 AM | Link to this

abc:

Such pessimism!!!

a couple of lines come to mind from The Man in the Iron Mask. If I remember correctly, D’Artagnan is the Captain of the Guard and is love with Marie Antionette, the Queen Mother. Anyways, the lines:

“I believe one man can love one woman all his life and be the better for it.”

“To love you is treason against France, but not to love you is treason against my heart”

By Brown Sugar

July 7, 2006 11:16 AM | Link to this

Hmm…rubbing chin Do I feel uneasy about falling in love? Do I? Naah. I’d have to say no. I absolutely LOVE being in love. Grant it, it’s not always peaches ‘n cream. But you know….it’s definitely a good thing. It can even be a great thing. I think it all boils down to the chemistry between two people. You know? Funny you referenced Love Jones. That is by far one of my most favorite movies. sigh

By Randyt

July 7, 2006 11:18 AM | Link to this

@Wise

HMMM, sex for a year or a date with Julia Roberts (question, does the 16mm come with the package???)

How much sex are we talking about???, and is it great sex, or good sex, or just mediocre sex (hey, I still remember the last years of my marriage…if it is like that sex, Julia may have an edge here!!!).

Tough question. I may still fall back on the old standby:

“I’ll look and look until I find the girl I’m looking for she’s deaf and dumb and oversexed and owns a liquor store.”

Seriously, I am a hopeless (hopeful) romantic. I like sex, I like love, I like sex with love the best. (Hey, I even like chic flics, as well as the man type movies…and before you guys start thinking I’m a ‘wooose’ for watching chic flics, I have skydived, rapelled, bungeed, been in bar fights, and done most of the extreme things…just have a softer side).

By G

July 7, 2006 11:18 AM | Link to this

Wise…Honestly, I can’t remember. I admit I’m not the biggest movie buff.

By abc

July 7, 2006 11:19 AM | Link to this

I’m not pessimistic; I’m pragmatic.

July 7, 2006 11:20 AM | Link to this

Men who subscribe to such romanticism are simply whipped

YOU DAMN RIGHT!

now fly over to QC’s Office Space

By Brown Sugar

July 7, 2006 11:21 AM | Link to this

I don’t know what just happened to my comment. I guess it’s lost in cyberspace. sigh Anyway, I was saying that I LOVE being in love. I absolutely LOVE it. There’s nothing like it. Grant it, it’s not always peaches -n- cream. I think that it honestly depends on the chemistry between two people. But here I am, currently in love and I’m talking about how great it is. I’ll get back to you in a couple of months. LOL But….for now, love is not an uneasy thing for me right now. smile BTW, Love Jones is one of my most favorite movies!

By Thick

July 7, 2006 11:21 AM | Link to this

Oh my InfamousDK what do you know about The Sound of Music, it is a good one, but let me add Sparkle, to me it shows different views on what love is and what love is not. Adn the Sparkle soundtrack is awesome, it’s old and I still love it.

This stuff was done before I was born.

Infamous acting like he intelligent humph, whatever, u learn somethin new everyday.

By DJ Rob Gordon

July 7, 2006 11:21 AM | Link to this

Been broken hearted by someone who continues to love me, but claims she can’t be with me. And the Notebook is a constant torture/inspiration to those of us who like to think the one we love will come back. But, alas, I always find High Fidelity, She’s the One, and Singles strangely inspiring when it comes to love.

By Brown Sugar

July 7, 2006 11:21 AM | Link to this

By Sexione

July 7, 2006 11:24 AM | Link to this

Morning All…..Happy Friday!!!

darkbuty….ENJOY!!!! I will be en route to Punta Cana exactly 7 days from today….I can hardly wait.

IMO, being in love is much better than falling in love, and a lot harder. Long story short, friends with dude first, grew into more romantically, dude goes away, stick by him for 8+ yrs, made his time a h3ll-uv-a-lot easier, all the while he’s professing his love for me, talking about how we want to spend the rest of our lives together, soon as dude sees the light at the end of the tunnel starts to switch up game, communication dies, all else starts to fall apart, try to work it out, help him to mature, enlighten him to as much as possible, in the end dude, now extremely immature dude (or at least, it is now more visible) can’t match his actions to his words. Sexione tired, tired of being tired, says NO MORE!!!!!

Have to keep it moving……as the infamous Al Green says…”I can do bad by myself, I don’t need no help to starve to death!!!!”

I shall have to come out of L’ville more often.

July 7, 2006 11:24 AM | Link to this

LOL@ would you sacrifice sex for one year for just one date with someone famous?

Hubby and I were making plans to go see Little Man and he told me that he would leave me for Kerry Washington. LOL

Then I started thinking I need to get her number for future reference because sometimes I wish someone would come and take you, just kidding. But you better believe I would move Todd Smith (LL Cool J) in in a heartbeat.

By Sidelines

July 7, 2006 11:25 AM | Link to this

Ok, k, k, movies…Love Jones is one of my favorites, I also love The King and I, that movie was about the only woman the king ever loved and loved him back, but because of their cultural differences they could not persue that love, but the love and bond they shared was beyond reason. It was a beautiful love story…sniff, sniff

By Jewel

July 7, 2006 11:26 AM | Link to this

Good morning Everyone!

Great topic Diva! Being in love is definitely better than falling in love. Falling in love is momentary. Being in love is more fulfilling. Being in love says that I am committed to you; I love the good, the bad, and the ugly about you by choice8. Love is not based on feelings. Everyday, you have to choose to love, knowing that he may say or do something to anger, upset or disappoint you. And why not? You are subject to do the same. Being in love means you choose to do what is best for the person you love, even at an inconvenience to yourself. Being in love is risky. You risk not having your expressions of love reciprocated.

Three things God taught me about love through my relationship with my daughter:

1) Love unconditionally; 2) A person’s expression of love may be different from yours, but that does not mean he/she doesn’t love you; and 3) No matter the argument or disagreement, it always comes back to love.

Diva, a good love story: “Somewhere in Time” starring Christopher Reeves and Jane Seymour.

By chink

July 7, 2006 11:31 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All

Love is Grand

I have falling in love a couple of times in my life. Two of them I think I could love forever but it never happened. I have never been in love.

I want both (I am spoiled) to fall in love with a man and stay in love for the long haul. I pray he will come soon.

July 7, 2006 11:31 AM | Link to this

Kym I’m not a huge Falcons fan but they’re in a watered down division so they only need to finish ahead of Carolina to make the playoffs.

July 7, 2006 11:31 AM | Link to this

Hey BROWN SUGAR!! - you could have told me you were back to blogging, hmph. Congrats to you!

LOL @ Randyt! You crack me up!! Let me ask you something, (not picking on you, but your comments are just sparking me to think random stuff! - and this is WAY off topic)

Do you think pop culture today has made heterosexual men feel as if they have to show that they are a guy’s guy. You know like, men want to distance themselves from that whole metrosexual image or anything too polished, groomed, or close to sensitivity perception?

I was reading Instyle magazine and that actor from Entourage (and Devil Wears Prada), Adrian Geneir said that he was a feminist. That caught me off guard because I don’t often hear men say that.

What do you guys think?

We have Jack Bauer on 24, Superman movies, and different images that seem to promote the “testorone and masculine” thing a whole lot lately. Is it just me? Am I reading into things? Do men feel like they have to overcompensate in some ways these days to show their strength and manhood? And in the process, do you think guys turn women off with that?

By Sexione

July 7, 2006 11:34 AM | Link to this

NoNon…..I used to feel that way about Todd myself, but lately he just doesn’t look as “hunky” or sexy or “manly” as he used to. What’s up with that?

By Randyt

July 7, 2006 11:36 AM | Link to this

If you want to open up a real can of worms, ask if anybody has ever fallen in love (or thought they were) with someone else’s spouse…that one is really tough.

July 7, 2006 11:39 AM | Link to this

I got it!!! My all time favorite love movie is House of Flying Daggers. Loved that movie.

(I promised my boys that they could have Mickie D’s for lunch so I guess I better go upstairs and take them. I believe my sitter is going to soon ask me for a raise, LOL. I wouldn’t blame her if she did, however the boys will be going to daycamp starting next week (sigh), but anyhoo, I’m gone.)

July 7, 2006 11:41 AM | Link to this

There is too much estrogen in here…Hearing about all this love is making me queasy. It’s like “Man Kryptonite”….“Feeling weak….need to see football for strength…or naked Woman that looks good….Urghhhh”

By Randyt

July 7, 2006 11:45 AM | Link to this

@ Wise re: Do you think pop culture today has made heterosexual men feel as if they have to show that they are a guy’s guy.

Hey I think logging into this blog does (a lot of machismo and testosterone flying around in here), much less the rest of culture. Yes, absolutely.

I do not worry a lot about it for me. As I implied before, if you want to challenge my masculinity, I can provide references from the ‘extreme’ things, can show you pics from the times I spent at Ft. Bragg and other Army posts, get affadavits from ex-lovers, etc… My point is that I am okay, because I have proven myself many times, but others probably are under a lot of pressure to maintain that masculine image.

After having said this, I am very emotional…shucks, I cry at wrestling matches and roller derby even.

July 7, 2006 11:50 AM | Link to this

oh boi, hush.. if it weren’t for estrogen you wouldn’t be here and you wouldn’t get laid, LOL

July 7, 2006 11:50 AM | Link to this

Do men feel like they have to overcompensate in some ways these days to show their strength and manhood?

They really shouldn’t have to. God has made them as MEN, so there is really no need to walk around with your chest puff out, like the 1950’s Superman….

July 7, 2006 11:52 AM | Link to this

Wise No its not the media its these dudes out here masquerading and pulling double duty on both sides of the fence.. Its women so afraid of the DL man that they have to question every mans position.. Its women trying men because they think they dont need a man.. Its dudes that dont want to be associated with being DL they try and act like Alpha Males, but truthfully there are only a few of us Alpha Males out there..

By Jewel

July 7, 2006 11:52 AM | Link to this

Kym I agree with you. Ossie Davis and Ruby Dee’s love is SO INSPIRING!

NoNonsense Loved your 10:33 post!

Rell LOL! @ no neck Florida!

ABC Did your Love Train crash and burn? LOL!

July 7, 2006 11:57 AM | Link to this

Falcon born, Falcon bred and when I die I’ll be Falcon dead.. Yeah I ride with the Falcons.. My parents have had season tickets all they way back to the Fulton County Stadium Days and they have been transferred over to their son and they will be passed down to my son.. What!

July 7, 2006 11:57 AM | Link to this

MusingLee

I feel you, heading to Strokers after work to get my head right. Yes I would like a dance…just turn around, touch your toes and dont move until the songs is over…leaning back to enjoy the view. Yep, life is good…

By storm

July 7, 2006 11:57 AM | Link to this

Randyt I normally love your posts and you usually make lots of sense, but today you just sound like any other silly man! This stuff you refer to makes you sound insane, not macho. Well, maybe those two are one in the same? sigh Anyway, all the other stuff you talk about, like what you want in relationships and how you treat a woman, that’s what makes you a man, sweetie. Don’t let anyone tell you anything different! Don’t get me wrong, I got what you are saying, but there are women who have done the things you’ve done. That does not make them men, right? Yall kill me with all the flexing of muscles! LMAO! back to lurking

July 7, 2006 11:58 AM | Link to this

Wise I think the reason Men act in such crude ways is because Women like that and Men respect it…Women think Jack Bauer is the shizznit, and Women wish some Superman would swoop in and fly them off to some coconut filled island. Men respect a guy that is not soft or wavering. A guy that will dive right in and have their back if it came to it. Guys don’t like other guys that are p/wussy’s any more than Women do…LOL

By Thick

July 7, 2006 11:59 AM | Link to this

I do believe that some men striving to prove the point that they are a guy’s guy, and very masculine. But I don’t always think it’s necessary, men should be allowed to show a kinder, more gentle side of themselves without the backlash of other insecure men who can’t handle their emotions.

I likes it when a man shows his soft side, watching love stories while holding my hand (we both in tears), hehehehe, that’s a good one. It’s just a joke guys don’t get upset.

July 7, 2006 12:01 PM | Link to this

so what is the definition of an Alpha male, and can he be a feminist?

July 7, 2006 12:02 PM | Link to this

Storm Are you really qualified to say what makes a man a man? Or are you going by what you think a man should be?

By storm

July 7, 2006 12:03 PM | Link to this

By the way, apparently, there is now a need to let folks know that if you are female and you issue a compliment to another female, you have to preface the compliment with a disclaimer about not being gay. The last time some females issued this disclaimer, I told them I don’t giva dayum what cho like, you aint getn nuna dis! LOL!

OK, back to lurksville for real

By D Dub of the ATL

July 7, 2006 12:03 PM | Link to this

This is my first time posting up in here, so I have to start off giving props to everyone - the past few days, I’ve been stuck to my screen reading as it seems the topics have been exactly what’s on my mind - special props to Wise Diva.

I tend to watch a lot of movies, and DJ Rob Gordon stole my thunder bringing out “High Fidelity” - it shows the humbling effect love can have on you when you realize you may have just screwed up one of the best things that could have happened to you.

Personally, I would take being in love over the falling in love anytime. I’m quickly approaching 30, and quickly losing the desire to chase, juggle, or do anything that isn’t conducive to a committed relationship. I decided several years ago that whomever I end up spending the rest of my life with (if that person exists) that we need to be friends first… after reading from a couple of days ago, that means that the awkward “morning after” can’t happen. No rabbit-dancing until the foundation for friendship and a committed relationship has been laid.

There are too many posts for me to single out here, but I will say thank you to everyone that are speaking their mind on here because sharing your thoughts make us all look at things in a different light about ourselves and our situations.

By abc

July 7, 2006 12:03 PM | Link to this

@Jewel, whatcha talkin bout?

I’m certain that pop culture hasn’t influenced me all that much. I never watch TV; I almost never suspend my disbelief when watching movies, instead taking note of lighting, sets, costumes, direction, editing, etc.; pop music is nursery rhymes. I recall in the ‘70’s that Alan Alda inspired a lot of ‘sensitive male’ hipness, but that faded away 15-20 years ago.

“Guy’s guy”… that would be a gay fella and his boyfriend, right? Ha! I have never heard any man refer to anyone as a “guy’s guy”.

July 7, 2006 12:04 PM | Link to this

Randyt I think you need to visit an Asian Spa for treatment…

July 7, 2006 12:08 PM | Link to this

D Dub of the ATL - welcome!! Thanks sooo much. It’s comments like yours that keeps me writing on here. I appreciate that. I hope you stick around!

By Randyt

July 7, 2006 12:11 PM | Link to this

@Storm I hear you, just don’t want the men here to think I am a ‘girly mon’. LOL

By SeanJohnson

July 7, 2006 12:12 PM | Link to this

Not hatin on the Falcons…but it might be a long season…yall have a TOUGH schedule…one key injury and its a wrap. Plus yall didnt sure up the offensive line during the offseason..the defense will be a lot better though. i’m thinkin 9-7 or 8-8.

July 7, 2006 12:13 PM | Link to this

abc..it’s like a man’s man, I thought it was pretty common when describing a grunting, beer guzzling, sports-loving, type of man. They like things that “manly men” like.

or were you being facetious and I typed all that for no reason! LOL

By Randyt

July 7, 2006 12:14 PM | Link to this

Lord Demi* the thought is not unappealing…have to admit have never tried that, but thought about it a timeor two.

July 7, 2006 12:17 PM | Link to this

I have faith in my Falcons!! I can’t wait for the season to start, goodness gracious the NBA playoffs were a great distraction but now I am feigning!!

By JustMe

July 7, 2006 12:19 PM | Link to this

Afternoon all For me (JustMe) Falling in love is fun right up to the point you realize that I have fallen for this guy. When the light comes on and I come to the realization that I must decide, I get scared, my stomach gets all twisted up in knots and the butterfly effect starts. The only thing that helps is if he has already laid his feeling on the line and I know that my feelings are leaning in the same direction.

I haven’t stayed in Love long enough to say I like it better. I’ve enjoyed some of the time I spent there (In Love), but since I’ve never been married, I guess I’ve spent more time falling in Love than being in love. Does that make any sense?

Anyway my favorite love story is Ghost with Demi Moore and Patrick Swazey (sp?)

Blog Question

Who should be the first to say I Love You in a new relationship?

Going to lunch……. looking for some help here folks, please be ez on me today.

BRB

July 7, 2006 12:23 PM | Link to this

just don’t want the men here to think I am a ‘girly mon’.

Nope you’re cool…and you will enjoy the Spa.

By aam853

July 7, 2006 12:24 PM | Link to this

A few of my favorite movies that have love overtones:

Pride & Prejudice (BBC version) Jane Eyre Thomas Crown Affair Dance with Me

Falling in love is thrilling; being in love is satisfying…. sigh….

By abc

July 7, 2006 12:25 PM | Link to this

I was kiddin, although I’ve never heard anyone referred to like that. I can’t count beer guzzling grunting sports fans among my friends, they’re almost all musicians and engineers, or both.

What would a man admire about another man? I think the only way most men offer such respect is in return for being very good at what they do. Acting tough is stoopid, projecting machismo is just dumb. I’d actually regard such behavior as being gay camouflage.

July 7, 2006 12:27 PM | Link to this

SJ Yeah the O line gotta protect Dat Franchize Boy.. They almost let him get killed last year.. Hopefully the can get mobile with him and the receivers can get their heads out of their buttocks and catch something.