By Vanilla1

July 7, 2006 08:38 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers I prefer being in Love…than falling in Love I don’t think Men feel uneasy about falling in love, it may take them a minute to share there true feelings.

I’m getting a lot of emails about that “Yahoo Group” stuff and i don’t know what’s going on peeps so i can’t help those that are asking, i’m still trying to figure it out myself ;)

Staff/breaksfast meeting so i’ll check back later, have a nice day y’all

By Lord Demi

July 7, 2006 08:59 AM | Link to this

Staff/breaksfast meeting

Corporate translation: Y’all are FK/N up! Now sit and eat, we’ll tell you all about it…

By Cee

July 7, 2006 09:03 AM | Link to this

Good Morning!

IMO falling in love can be quite easy. Everything’s new and exciting, and you fall in love with the idea of maybe you’ve found the one. It has a fantasy feeling to it. Being in love means you’ve excepted that person as they are, flaws and all, and the blinders are pretty much gone. To fall in love is such a quick and passing thing but to be in love is much more lasting.

By runninatl

July 7, 2006 09:04 AM | Link to this

Morning people, it’s Friday.

I agree that being in love is much better than falling in love because it’s lasting over time. Falling in love can be a moment or a specific time frame while being in love can last a lifetime.

I have some off beat movie ideas for lasting love because I’m not into the typical chick flicks and they don’t stay together throughout the film either…LOL.

Forest Gump had some serious love and devotion in it. He grew up with ol girl, tried to protect her from her abusive father, fell in love with her, followed her around the country, never forgot about her and took her back after she had his child and never told her and came back with a fatal disease. She passed, he buried her, mourned her, and raised his son in her memory. That’s love because she put him through some mess!…LOL.

Braveheart is another one I can think of. They met as children, William Wallace and his love, he moved away after his father was murdered and she gave him a flower before he left. He came back as an adult with her on his mind all those years, held on to the flower, gave it back to her after all those years and married her. She was killed and he mourned her and led a revolution with her death fueling his fight. He was finally caught and is put to death but he’s at peace with it because he sees her coming for him right before he dies.

By janae

July 7, 2006 09:04 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone

By Vanilla1

July 7, 2006 09:08 AM | Link to this

Lord Demi, that was’nt nice!

By SheSpeaks

July 7, 2006 09:19 AM | Link to this

This is a good one Wise. I’ve fallen in love time and time again but never stayed in it for various reasons. It takes work! Falling in love is easy and organic but to stay in love one has to work to maintain throughout the revelation of flaws, challenges, stamina and other outside interests. I’ve never stayed in love and have only had one psycho/head case to stay in love with me another Oprah. Hard to say which one is better, I guess it depends on your goals.

By SeanJohnson

July 7, 2006 09:20 AM | Link to this

Rather be in like…my decisions are more rational. Being in love is TOOOOO much being on crack.

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

July 7, 2006 09:22 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

@Wise Diva I would say anything staring Spencer Tracy and Katherine Hepburn Their story is classic both on screen and off screen. Also anything with Ruby Dee and Ozzie Davis again a classic love story on screen and off screen that shows the endurance of true love to the death.

By jraw

July 7, 2006 09:23 AM | Link to this

Which do you think is better: falling in love or being in love? After being married for about 10 years now, I would say being in love is better. Why do I say that, It is because we have been thru it all good times and bad times. Our love has been tested and has stood up to the test. Now don’t think that being in love doesn’t require hard work but it something that I enjoy doing. I still date my wife and will continue to do so in order to keep things new. How do you think these differ? IMO Falling in love is what the majority of people like to do. Just like the movies. When it gets tough they bail out. When it gets boring they bail out. Being in love normally means that you have put in some time.

By SheSpeaks

July 7, 2006 09:25 AM | Link to this

OH dang, guess I should’ve read first. I see that I said the same thing Cee said.

By sJeaSexyCool

July 7, 2006 09:30 AM | Link to this

falling in love is like riding a rollercoaster…being in love is like taking a cruise…

By G

July 7, 2006 09:31 AM | Link to this

Love topic on a Friday? Oh, that’s right…..date night. Single Guy please help! LOL!

I guess love is like drinking. Falling in love is like ordering your favorite drink(s) from the bar, and getting drunk. Pretty good feeling. Staying in love is like staying inebriated, so you drink more, spread it out with a little water, and enjoy the moment. Probably the best feeling of the night. You don’t have a real care in the world.

However……the high has to end sooner or later. When you crash……..you burn. Much like love and drinking, the hangover makes you never want to go through it again.

By runninatl

July 7, 2006 09:38 AM | Link to this

Dang Kym you went ol skool with the movies…lol.

LOL @ G and the bad love hangover.

Off topic: The Falcons are going to hold a $5 practice session at Piedmont Park.

By Lord Demi

July 7, 2006 09:40 AM | Link to this

Vanilla1 I know sweetie. I’m senting over some Blog’s Roses singing: Baby PPleaseeee forgive Meeeeee, Yeahhhh!!!

By NoStress

July 7, 2006 09:42 AM | Link to this

its funny how we can prefer one over the other when love must first be established before it can be maintained. A lifetime of love is the realization that we never stop falling in love with who we are growing to be. To say that there is a stopping point to falling in love with a person is what makes maintaining love so difficult because falling in love became falling into a moment of a person and now you must try to recapture the moment over and over to keep that love alive. That moment should be celebrated for what it was and used as the anticipation of many more moments to come. If you try to make the moment the foundation then the “moment of love” won’t last because time will exhaust the memory and the feelings surrounding it.

My great aunt Grace who has been married to my Uncle Jerry for more than 60 years told me that love is a leap of faith and though things get hard my faith can never have me reaching back for the edge. The great part about them is that they’re not just married but they act like they just got married.

as far as movies go - On Golden Pond is a good one as far as lasting love is concerned.

By rell da ruler

July 7, 2006 09:47 AM | Link to this

diva a movie

which way is up - Pryor…o lot of lovin in that one…..now sit down fo i but this glove on your a$$

By Wise Diva

July 7, 2006 09:48 AM | Link to this

Wow, like being on crack or hungover?..hmm guess that answers the uneasy question.

ha ha @ date night, oh please @G, I doubt any day would be ideal for guys to talk about love. S’ok, we know ya’ll secretly want to be in love! LOL

Single guy will be back soon though, no worries!

By Tazzee

July 7, 2006 09:48 AM | Link to this

Great topic Wise Diva!

Like you, when I envision a relationship I get more excited about growing old together, traveling the world together and simply ‘loving on’ one another. Sure the dates and initial stages are great, but I know that all that will fade eventually. It can fade into a nice friendship, a horrible break up, or the above items I mentioned.

I have said before that love is not a feeling, it is a decision. When you truly love someone, you have decided to stick by that person through thick and thin, with all their faults. All that other stuff - the butterflies - is temporary. And I think one of the problems with marriages and divorce is that so many people are concentrating on being ‘happy’ - happiness is determined by circumstances and once you’re in a ‘til death do us part’ relationship, those circumstances are bound to change. In marriage we should seek to be content in those times when happiness is not there. Meaning that we’ve learned to accept the situation as it is and make the best of it.

Now if he’s beating, cheating or drugging - I gotta go. oh and I forgot if he’s messing up the money - j/k, ummm no I’m not

By rell da ruler

July 7, 2006 09:53 AM | Link to this

that is tight nostress…hoping er body is taking notes….stop all the junkfood love….

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

July 7, 2006 09:53 AM | Link to this

@Runnin they should do it for free, because that is about all they are going to be worth this year.

By darkbuty

July 7, 2006 09:55 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday Everyone

I’ll miss blogging with you guys next week…on vacation

Anyway, for me falling in love is both scary and exciting…the idea of putting your trust and being vulnerable to someone that you are only beginning to know can be quite intimidating..yet wonderfully intoxicating. I just had a conversation on this topic last night and discussed the idea of having someone that you know has your back no matter what…when you’re dating you would like to believe that they’ll be there for you know matter what..but reality sinks in. My BF said last night that if I got caught in the drug sting and was taken to jail…he may/may not bail me out…But if I was his wife he would..LOL…that’s the difference between falling in love and being in love to me.

By NoNonsense

July 7, 2006 09:57 AM | Link to this

Falling in love is so easy to do that sometimes it happens by mistake. Being in love is a state of mind and emotions. Staying in love is a full-time job. I like being in love so I am willing to put in the necessary time that it takes to stay there. One mistake people make is thinking if I am not feeling the warm fuzzies then I must not be in love. That is so far from the truth. It just means you are human. That fuzzy feeling comes and go so you have to make an effort to maintain during those empty moments.

It’s a kind of funny because I will be sitting in bed watching TV or reading and hubby can walk by and I will get that warm feeling. It’s feel like new love. Sometimes he’ll ask what are you smiling at and I’ll just say “Nothing” and sometimes he’ll wink at me and climb into bed and we will cuddle up and go to sleep. No sex just love. Then there are those days he’ll walk by and I’ll throw a pillow at him telling to get from in front of the television. No warm feelings, but I still love him.

Can’t think of any movies right now, I have to come back when I do.

By itsmorenamorena

July 7, 2006 10:00 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday to all ((waving))

I just watched a movie that showcased “staying in love” last night.

The Incredibles….

Mr. Incredible and Elastigirl…their love story was woven throughout that movie. Actually, alot of strong family themes are woven throughout that movie. But he even says at one point, he is “not strong enough to lose her.” Ahhhh love…..

Oh, and Love Affair with Warren Beatty and Annette Benning. It was an enduring love, even if it was a remake.

I’ll take being in love over falling anyday. The initial giddyness is great, but I want something that endures.

By NoStress

July 7, 2006 10:00 AM | Link to this

@Rell - preciate that homie @runnin - sup dog

got to give a shout to the ladies - sup Cee, She, Tazzee and of course her majesty Queen Wise Diva

By Jesse's Girl

July 7, 2006 10:01 AM | Link to this

Its easy for 2 people to fall in love at the same time. The trick is to NOT fall out of love at the same time. That is where true commitment lies.

By Jeff

July 7, 2006 10:02 AM | Link to this

Going on a first date Saturday night with a lady my aunt hooked me up with. Hopefully she’s not reading this!

Anyways… I PREFER being in love. But I also COMPLETELY enjoy falling for her and winning her over.

Only prob I have is that I am constantly torn between her and work. I want to give BOTH my absolute everything…. FAR too often in the past, she was sacrificed.

In the words of Michael Douglas in The American President: “I’ve been too busy keeping my job to do my job. Well, that ends now.” (Some very romantic lines if you know the movie, and in general they are PERFECT lines for the workaholic that decides he will give up his job rather than lose his love…)

By SeanJohnson

July 7, 2006 10:08 AM | Link to this

@ WD..i guess saying it was like being addicted to crack or something was overboard…But love..being in it or falling in it…so much of your emotions and feeligs are not totally controlled by you……its over rated…

By Gerald

July 7, 2006 10:09 AM | Link to this

Remember, when you fall, you are temporarily out of control!

By Big Vince

July 7, 2006 10:09 AM | Link to this

I agree with Savon from Love Jones, falling in love is easy. People do it every day but staying in love and maintaining it is the real thing. I believe its more than just a feeling though. Its a choice and decision to do those things that keep the flame burning.

By MusingLee

July 7, 2006 10:10 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

Said while entering building and kicking “Love” in the Ballz

Guys don’t talk about love because it can leave us vunerable…The quickest way to get an azz’kicking is to say something bad about someone we actually love.

Being in love is better than falling in love…”Being” implies making a decision, you want to be there and make it work out for you and your mate…”Falling” implies you have no control over it, you just slipped into it…Sometimes your emotions can lead you to thinking it’s love when it’s not…After the hormones cool down you make a choice as to if this is right for you or not…..

A love movie that I like has to be “Gladiator”….I know it’s an action packed movie…but at it’s core it’s all driven by love…A hero defies the king to get back to his wife….Wife is killed by King…and Hero does all in his power to whoop king’s azz

By Cee

July 7, 2006 10:11 AM | Link to this

Hey NoStress!! loved your post. I don’t remember you being that smart in school!…joking.

By Lord Demi

July 7, 2006 10:12 AM | Link to this

they should do it for free, because that is about all they are going to be worth this year.

Blog translation: Falcon are a Shytty Team, Period.

By runninatl

July 7, 2006 10:12 AM | Link to this

LOL @ warm fuzzies, they can play with your mind.

darkbuty Nobody asked if your azz is gonna be on vacation, keep that to yourself and stop trying to rub it in!!….LOL.

Good one NoStress!

Kym I see that you are still crunk…lol.

By Holly

July 7, 2006 10:14 AM | Link to this

As a Christian, I want God’s best, and I will only be married to a Christian. I am 37 and never married. I will be joining eharmony. You and stay in love by letting God have true headship of your marriage. As husband and wife, you will endure hardships and difficulty. When God is in control of your marriage, you and your husband can weather the storms; it will make you appreciate each other more.

By QC

July 7, 2006 10:14 AM | Link to this

Hello Have a nice vacation darkbuty I love “being in love” it’s like drinking a nice hot cup of cocoa with my pink slippers on & watching my favorite show on tv Grey’s Anatomy…falling in love is like drinking my favorite juice (apple) well have a great day y’all

By danielle

July 7, 2006 10:23 AM | Link to this

A great movie to watch is “Legends of the Fall.” Brad Pitt was excellent in that movie and he found lasting true love. Great, great, great!!!!!!!!!!!!

By G

July 7, 2006 10:27 AM | Link to this

Good observation Wise. Man Law allows us one hot stove to get burned on. Anything after that results in fines from the MLB.

One more thing……..Guys always talk about love. We love to talk about money. We love sports. We love sharing stories of memorable “horizontal tagos”.

Wise……I’d love for you to get me a beer. Take your time when you open the frig too. LOL!!

By QC

July 7, 2006 10:27 AM | Link to this

Good Luck on your date Jeff

Holly that is so true & very well said

By darkbuty

July 7, 2006 10:28 AM | Link to this

Thanks QC…I will runnin a picture from the beaches of Los Cabos with a strawberry daquiri in hand…LOL

By G

July 7, 2006 10:33 AM | Link to this

Man Law recommends “She’s Gotta Have It”. It’s about this love triangle…..or triad……or this love thing between a woman and three men. Man…….After that movie, I really had respect for the choices some women have to make.

By NoNonsense

July 7, 2006 10:33 AM | Link to this

By darkbuty

July 7, 2006 10:34 AM | Link to this

I can’t think of any films so how about examples of tried and tested loves in the eye of the public…Samuel Jackson and his wife Tonya, Denzel and Pauletta, Bill and Hillary Clinton,(I don’t want to hear it),Ossie and Ruby, and the list goes on…

Oh did I forget to mention Bobby and Whitney… LOL

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 10:38 AM | Link to this

Good day…

I like the thrill of the chase.. Once the chase is over and the newness wears off I become bored.. I am extremely flaky when it comes to love and after a few attempts at it I realize I am better off without relationship love Family Love, Love for my child is a different kind of love.. I am one of those people that thinks being in love is truly overrated..

As far as a good love story in movie form would be Natural Born Killers cause Mickey and Mallory were in love and wanted nothing but to be with one another.. Twisted yes but absolute love none the less.

By QC

July 7, 2006 10:39 AM | Link to this

^5 NoNonsense

sniff, sniff…that’s so sweet

By Wise Diva

July 7, 2006 10:39 AM | Link to this

Hey Nostress - good to read you!

Nononsense, I like that list, awww.

It’s funny that when we complain and gripe about dating we have plenty to say, but when it comes to the gushy stuff, it’s like yea yea, love..whatever! LOL. I hope we aren’t getting jaded!!

@G - um didn’t She’s Gotta Have It have a rape scene?

By rell da ruler

July 7, 2006 10:42 AM | Link to this

dark you forgot

James and the no neck monster Florida

George and Wizzy

Cliff and Claire

Thelma and Kieth

Mickey and Minnie

Fred and Wilma

lol

By Randyt

July 7, 2006 10:42 AM | Link to this

Morning all

Being in love is definitely better…every day is pretty much great.

Falling in love is like getting really drunk and having a great time…only there is often a ‘morning after’.

Worst of all worlds is to fall in love with someone who doesn’t fall in love back with you…or thinks she is, but later on realizes she isn’t. Hurts worse than a Brazilian Wax and the pain lasts even longer.

“Notebook” was touching, just never met anyone that ultimately loved like that. From a chic flic standpoint, I really liked “Notting Hill”. Still waiting for a Julia Roberts clone who makes $16mm a film to fall in love with me, and am beginning to get concerned.

By Tazzee

July 7, 2006 10:48 AM | Link to this

Hey NoStress!

danielle Legends of the Fall is one of my favorite movies, but in the end I thought it represented the love between the brothers more than anything else. That slut threatened to mess it all up, but in the end Brad Pitt came through for his family - I absolutely love the end of that movie!

Another love example would be Billy Dee’s love for Diana Ross in Lady Sings the Blues and Mahogany. Hmm, I wonder if Mahogany is out on dvd yet - lemme go check…

By Cee

July 7, 2006 10:49 AM | Link to this

lmao @ no neck monster Florida! you wrong for that Rell.

By Vanilla1

July 7, 2006 10:49 AM | Link to this

Betty & Barney

George & Weezy

By MusingLee

July 7, 2006 10:50 AM | Link to this

LOL @ Randyt waiting on Julia Roberts!

By runninatl

July 7, 2006 10:51 AM | Link to this

danielle Legends of the Fall is a great movie but Tristan was only with the first girl for a year maybe, then he went away, came back and married another girl. They were together for about 6 years then she dies and his first love committs suicide. That’s a tragedy, not a love story…LOL.

darkbuty I’ll be throwing darts at that pic until I take a vacation…LOL.

Only DK would bust out with Natural Born Killers…..lmao.

By INTOWN

July 7, 2006 10:53 AM | Link to this

YUCK YUCK YUCK YUCK YUCK…Please learn grammar, diction, morals and etiquette.

By Vanilla1

July 7, 2006 10:53 AM | Link to this

Love is patient, Love is kind

and iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii will always love youuuuuuuu, will always love uuuuuuuuuuuu!

i’m feeling real silly this morning

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

July 7, 2006 10:55 AM | Link to this

@Runnin saying the Fakecons is stating a fact.

By NoNonsense

July 7, 2006 10:56 AM | Link to this

NoStress I agree with you about your aunt and uncle. My dad recently retired and he and my mom are acting like newly weds all over again. They hung in there, endured the hard times and are now enjoying life together. No kids, no debt, no worries. She just tries to tell me to much info that I’m not trying to hear,ewww, but I understand where she is coming from.

She told me that it’s like they have gone full circle and are back at the beginning except with a lot more experience and knowledge under their belts.

By NoNonsense

July 7, 2006 10:58 AM | Link to this

Wise I sent you an email, don’t know if you received it yet. But if you haven’t I was just thanking you for that info.

By abc

July 7, 2006 10:59 AM | Link to this

Feelings of falling and being in love are the byproduct of a chemical reaction in the brain, the initial cause of which is unknown. The caudate nucleus portion of the human brain has a dense spread of receptors for a neurotransmitter called dopamine. In the right proportions, dopamine creates intense energy, exhilaration, focused attention, and motivation to win rewards. It is why, when you are newly in love, you can stay up all night, watch the sun rise, run a race, ski fast down a slope ordinarily too steep for your skill. (That’s mostly pasted from a National Geographic article.)

Love’s dopamine infusion wears off over time. That’s why you feel like you ‘fall out of love’. It’s speculated that the 3-5 years it takes to wear off is evolutionary, and suits the purpose of raising kids to that age with both parents present.

Attachment of emotional descriptions to such chemical reactions is the realm of women. Men who subscribe to such romanticism are simply whipped.

By rell da ruler

July 7, 2006 10:59 AM | Link to this

why was issac the only brother on the love boat?

By Wise Diva

July 7, 2006 11:02 AM | Link to this

LOL @ Randyt..what would you give up to have Julia’s clone? Your comment reminded me of a question Q100 radio asked callers, would you sacrifice sex for one year for just one date with someone famous?

so what say you Randyt? giggle

I think I would do it for Maxwell, the singer!

By danielle

July 7, 2006 11:02 AM | Link to this

Tazzee

You are right, in “Legends of the Fall” the enduring love between a father and his sons and the brothers between each other was the highlight of that movie, however, Brad Pitt fell in love with his brother’s fiance and stayed with her until the end. Their relationship was tried, tested and lasting.

By SheSpeaks

July 7, 2006 11:03 AM | Link to this

Hey NoStress.

By Sidelines

July 7, 2006 11:03 AM | Link to this

GM everyone, I love your topic of the day Wise Diva…yesterday was funny though, lol!

Tazzee, I totally agree with your 9:48post.

Like Janet Jackson says, “like a moth to a flame burned by the fire, my love is blind can’t you see my desire…that’s the way love goes…

ok, so they (104.1) happened to start playing it as I was typing…the timing was perfect…lol!

By Red Kool-Aid

July 7, 2006 11:04 AM | Link to this

Why is it that an Etiquette Azzhole has to come out of the bushes!

By Thick

July 7, 2006 11:05 AM | Link to this

Morning All,

I have really never been in love, but I have watched alot of love stories.

Hopefully I will exprience such bliss one day.

Most Love stories I like are usually related to how hard it is to make love last.

Mahagony is a good love story, I’ll never forget the line “Success is nothing without someone u love to share it with.” or “Mr. Congressman, I just wanna know if you can get me my old man back?”

Just Married where she’s over protected and he’s living life free and footloose. After a horrible honeymoon and breakup he still came back to get his new wife.

Love, Sex, & Eating the Bones where he has a habit and is’nt really ready for responsibility or love.

Sweet Home Alabama, one of my favorites, she get to the alter to marry another guy and realizes that she has not signed her divorce papers that she initiated, talk about us women. Like she said “At least I’m not afraid to go after what I want.”

Brown Sugar, “She is about to marry your man, girl say something. Ssshhh, be quiet.”

Guess Who, three words, “Bump, Bump, Bump” It was nice to see the older couple renew their vows while excepting and affirming the younger generation.

My last one, Love Comes Softly, has all of that patient, kind, protective, caring, and we have a business arrangement type stuff in the movie. All I can is that it’s really sweet.

Thinking about those movies, I’m just smiling over here, dang, I hope love feel even better than this, he,he,he!

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 11:08 AM | Link to this

This is as mushy as I get.. Grease was one of my favorite mushy movies.. And Gasp The Sound of Music is a good one too..

By Lord Demi

July 7, 2006 11:09 AM | Link to this

GTFOOH Now the MLB is recommending shyt? Go head with y’all bad selves!

By Jeff

July 7, 2006 11:10 AM | Link to this

abc:

Such pessimism!!!

a couple of lines come to mind from The Man in the Iron Mask. If I remember correctly, D’Artagnan is the Captain of the Guard and is love with Marie Antionette, the Queen Mother. Anyways, the lines:

“I believe one man can love one woman all his life and be the better for it.”

“To love you is treason against France, but not to love you is treason against my heart”

By Brown Sugar

July 7, 2006 11:16 AM | Link to this

Hmm…rubbing chin Do I feel uneasy about falling in love? Do I? Naah. I’d have to say no. I absolutely LOVE being in love. Grant it, it’s not always peaches ‘n cream. But you know….it’s definitely a good thing. It can even be a great thing. I think it all boils down to the chemistry between two people. You know? Funny you referenced Love Jones. That is by far one of my most favorite movies. sigh

By Randyt

July 7, 2006 11:18 AM | Link to this

@Wise

HMMM, sex for a year or a date with Julia Roberts (question, does the 16mm come with the package???)

How much sex are we talking about???, and is it great sex, or good sex, or just mediocre sex (hey, I still remember the last years of my marriage…if it is like that sex, Julia may have an edge here!!!).

Tough question. I may still fall back on the old standby:

“I’ll look and look until I find the girl I’m looking for she’s deaf and dumb and oversexed and owns a liquor store.”

Seriously, I am a hopeless (hopeful) romantic. I like sex, I like love, I like sex with love the best. (Hey, I even like chic flics, as well as the man type movies…and before you guys start thinking I’m a ‘wooose’ for watching chic flics, I have skydived, rapelled, bungeed, been in bar fights, and done most of the extreme things…just have a softer side).

By G

July 7, 2006 11:18 AM | Link to this

Wise…Honestly, I can’t remember. I admit I’m not the biggest movie buff.

By abc

July 7, 2006 11:19 AM | Link to this

I’m not pessimistic; I’m pragmatic.

By Lord Demi

July 7, 2006 11:20 AM | Link to this

Men who subscribe to such romanticism are simply whipped

YOU DAMN RIGHT!

now fly over to QC’s Office Space

By Brown Sugar

July 7, 2006 11:21 AM | Link to this

I don’t know what just happened to my comment. I guess it’s lost in cyberspace. sigh Anyway, I was saying that I LOVE being in love. I absolutely LOVE it. There’s nothing like it. Grant it, it’s not always peaches -n- cream. I think that it honestly depends on the chemistry between two people. But here I am, currently in love and I’m talking about how great it is. I’ll get back to you in a couple of months. LOL But….for now, love is not an uneasy thing for me right now. smile BTW, Love Jones is one of my most favorite movies!

By Thick

July 7, 2006 11:21 AM | Link to this

Oh my InfamousDK what do you know about The Sound of Music, it is a good one, but let me add Sparkle, to me it shows different views on what love is and what love is not. Adn the Sparkle soundtrack is awesome, it’s old and I still love it.

This stuff was done before I was born.

Infamous acting like he intelligent humph, whatever, u learn somethin new everyday.

By DJ Rob Gordon

July 7, 2006 11:21 AM | Link to this

Been broken hearted by someone who continues to love me, but claims she can’t be with me. And the Notebook is a constant torture/inspiration to those of us who like to think the one we love will come back. But, alas, I always find High Fidelity, She’s the One, and Singles strangely inspiring when it comes to love.

By Brown Sugar

July 7, 2006 11:21 AM | Link to this

I don’t know what just happened to my comment. I guess it’s lost in cyberspace. sigh Anyway, I was saying that I LOVE being in love. I absolutely LOVE it. There’s nothing like it. Grant it, it’s not always peaches -n- cream. I think that it honestly depends on the chemistry between two people. But here I am, currently in love and I’m talking about how great it is. I’ll get back to you in a couple of months. LOL But….for now, love is not an uneasy thing for me right now. smile BTW, Love Jones is one of my most favorite movies!

By Sexione

July 7, 2006 11:24 AM | Link to this

Morning All…..Happy Friday!!!

darkbuty….ENJOY!!!! I will be en route to Punta Cana exactly 7 days from today….I can hardly wait.

IMO, being in love is much better than falling in love, and a lot harder. Long story short, friends with dude first, grew into more romantically, dude goes away, stick by him for 8+ yrs, made his time a h3ll-uv-a-lot easier, all the while he’s professing his love for me, talking about how we want to spend the rest of our lives together, soon as dude sees the light at the end of the tunnel starts to switch up game, communication dies, all else starts to fall apart, try to work it out, help him to mature, enlighten him to as much as possible, in the end dude, now extremely immature dude (or at least, it is now more visible) can’t match his actions to his words. Sexione tired, tired of being tired, says NO MORE!!!!!

Have to keep it moving……as the infamous Al Green says…”I can do bad by myself, I don’t need no help to starve to death!!!!”

I shall have to come out of L’ville more often.

By NoNonsense

July 7, 2006 11:24 AM | Link to this

LOL@ would you sacrifice sex for one year for just one date with someone famous?

Hubby and I were making plans to go see Little Man and he told me that he would leave me for Kerry Washington. LOL

Then I started thinking I need to get her number for future reference because sometimes I wish someone would come and take you, just kidding. But you better believe I would move Todd Smith (LL Cool J) in in a heartbeat.

By Sidelines

July 7, 2006 11:25 AM | Link to this

Ok, k, k, movies…Love Jones is one of my favorites, I also love The King and I, that movie was about the only woman the king ever loved and loved him back, but because of their cultural differences they could not persue that love, but the love and bond they shared was beyond reason. It was a beautiful love story…sniff, sniff

By Jewel

July 7, 2006 11:26 AM | Link to this

Good morning Everyone!

Great topic Diva! Being in love is definitely better than falling in love. Falling in love is momentary. Being in love is more fulfilling. Being in love says that I am committed to you; I love the good, the bad, and the ugly about you by choice8. Love is not based on feelings. Everyday, you have to choose to love, knowing that he may say or do something to anger, upset or disappoint you. And why not? You are subject to do the same. Being in love means you choose to do what is best for the person you love, even at an inconvenience to yourself. Being in love is risky. You risk not having your expressions of love reciprocated.

Three things God taught me about love through my relationship with my daughter:

1) Love unconditionally; 2) A person’s expression of love may be different from yours, but that does not mean he/she doesn’t love you; and 3) No matter the argument or disagreement, it always comes back to love.

Diva, a good love story: “Somewhere in Time” starring Christopher Reeves and Jane Seymour.

By chink

July 7, 2006 11:31 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All

Love is Grand

I have falling in love a couple of times in my life. Two of them I think I could love forever but it never happened. I have never been in love.

I want both (I am spoiled) to fall in love with a man and stay in love for the long haul. I pray he will come soon.

By runninatl

July 7, 2006 11:31 AM | Link to this

Kym I’m not a huge Falcons fan but they’re in a watered down division so they only need to finish ahead of Carolina to make the playoffs.

By Wise Diva

July 7, 2006 11:31 AM | Link to this

Hey BROWN SUGAR!! - you could have told me you were back to blogging, hmph. Congrats to you!

LOL @ Randyt! You crack me up!! Let me ask you something, (not picking on you, but your comments are just sparking me to think random stuff! - and this is WAY off topic)

Do you think pop culture today has made heterosexual men feel as if they have to show that they are a guy’s guy. You know like, men want to distance themselves from that whole metrosexual image or anything too polished, groomed, or close to sensitivity perception?

I was reading Instyle magazine and that actor from Entourage (and Devil Wears Prada), Adrian Geneir said that he was a feminist. That caught me off guard because I don’t often hear men say that.

What do you guys think?

We have Jack Bauer on 24, Superman movies, and different images that seem to promote the “testorone and masculine” thing a whole lot lately. Is it just me? Am I reading into things? Do men feel like they have to overcompensate in some ways these days to show their strength and manhood? And in the process, do you think guys turn women off with that?

By Sexione

July 7, 2006 11:34 AM | Link to this

NoNon…..I used to feel that way about Todd myself, but lately he just doesn’t look as “hunky” or sexy or “manly” as he used to. What’s up with that?

By Randyt

July 7, 2006 11:36 AM | Link to this

If you want to open up a real can of worms, ask if anybody has ever fallen in love (or thought they were) with someone else’s spouse…that one is really tough.

By NoNonsense

July 7, 2006 11:39 AM | Link to this

I got it!!! My all time favorite love movie is House of Flying Daggers. Loved that movie.

(I promised my boys that they could have Mickie D’s for lunch so I guess I better go upstairs and take them. I believe my sitter is going to soon ask me for a raise, LOL. I wouldn’t blame her if she did, however the boys will be going to daycamp starting next week (sigh), but anyhoo, I’m gone.)

By MusingLee

July 7, 2006 11:41 AM | Link to this

There is too much estrogen in here…Hearing about all this love is making me queasy. It’s like “Man Kryptonite”….“Feeling weak….need to see football for strength…or naked Woman that looks good….Urghhhh”

By Randyt

July 7, 2006 11:45 AM | Link to this

@ Wise re: Do you think pop culture today has made heterosexual men feel as if they have to show that they are a guy’s guy.

Hey I think logging into this blog does (a lot of machismo and testosterone flying around in here), much less the rest of culture. Yes, absolutely.

I do not worry a lot about it for me. As I implied before, if you want to challenge my masculinity, I can provide references from the ‘extreme’ things, can show you pics from the times I spent at Ft. Bragg and other Army posts, get affadavits from ex-lovers, etc… My point is that I am okay, because I have proven myself many times, but others probably are under a lot of pressure to maintain that masculine image.

After having said this, I am very emotional…shucks, I cry at wrestling matches and roller derby even.

By Wise Diva

July 7, 2006 11:50 AM | Link to this

oh boi, hush.. if it weren’t for estrogen you wouldn’t be here and you wouldn’t get laid, LOL

By Lord Demi

July 7, 2006 11:50 AM | Link to this

Do men feel like they have to overcompensate in some ways these days to show their strength and manhood?

They really shouldn’t have to. God has made them as MEN, so there is really no need to walk around with your chest puff out, like the 1950’s Superman….

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 11:52 AM | Link to this

Wise No its not the media its these dudes out here masquerading and pulling double duty on both sides of the fence.. Its women so afraid of the DL man that they have to question every mans position.. Its women trying men because they think they dont need a man.. Its dudes that dont want to be associated with being DL they try and act like Alpha Males, but truthfully there are only a few of us Alpha Males out there..

By Jewel

July 7, 2006 11:52 AM | Link to this

Kym I agree with you. Ossie Davis and Ruby Dee’s love is SO INSPIRING!

NoNonsense Loved your 10:33 post!

Rell LOL! @ no neck Florida!

ABC Did your Love Train crash and burn? LOL!

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 11:57 AM | Link to this

Falcon born, Falcon bred and when I die I’ll be Falcon dead.. Yeah I ride with the Falcons.. My parents have had season tickets all they way back to the Fulton County Stadium Days and they have been transferred over to their son and they will be passed down to my son.. What!

By Lord Demi

July 7, 2006 11:57 AM | Link to this

MusingLee

I feel you, heading to Strokers after work to get my head right. Yes I would like a dance…just turn around, touch your toes and dont move until the songs is over…leaning back to enjoy the view. Yep, life is good…

By storm

July 7, 2006 11:57 AM | Link to this

Randyt I normally love your posts and you usually make lots of sense, but today you just sound like any other silly man! This stuff you refer to makes you sound insane, not macho. Well, maybe those two are one in the same? sigh Anyway, all the other stuff you talk about, like what you want in relationships and how you treat a woman, that’s what makes you a man, sweetie. Don’t let anyone tell you anything different! Don’t get me wrong, I got what you are saying, but there are women who have done the things you’ve done. That does not make them men, right? Yall kill me with all the flexing of muscles! LMAO! back to lurking

By MusingLee

July 7, 2006 11:58 AM | Link to this

Wise I think the reason Men act in such crude ways is because Women like that and Men respect it…Women think Jack Bauer is the shizznit, and Women wish some Superman would swoop in and fly them off to some coconut filled island. Men respect a guy that is not soft or wavering. A guy that will dive right in and have their back if it came to it. Guys don’t like other guys that are p/wussy’s any more than Women do…LOL

By Thick

July 7, 2006 11:59 AM | Link to this

I do believe that some men striving to prove the point that they are a guy’s guy, and very masculine. But I don’t always think it’s necessary, men should be allowed to show a kinder, more gentle side of themselves without the backlash of other insecure men who can’t handle their emotions.

I likes it when a man shows his soft side, watching love stories while holding my hand (we both in tears), hehehehe, that’s a good one. It’s just a joke guys don’t get upset.

By Wise Diva

July 7, 2006 12:01 PM | Link to this

so what is the definition of an Alpha male, and can he be a feminist?

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 12:02 PM | Link to this

Storm Are you really qualified to say what makes a man a man? Or are you going by what you think a man should be?

By storm

July 7, 2006 12:03 PM | Link to this

By the way, apparently, there is now a need to let folks know that if you are female and you issue a compliment to another female, you have to preface the compliment with a disclaimer about not being gay. The last time some females issued this disclaimer, I told them I don’t giva dayum what cho like, you aint getn nuna dis! LOL!

OK, back to lurksville for real

By D Dub of the ATL

July 7, 2006 12:03 PM | Link to this

This is my first time posting up in here, so I have to start off giving props to everyone - the past few days, I’ve been stuck to my screen reading as it seems the topics have been exactly what’s on my mind - special props to Wise Diva.

I tend to watch a lot of movies, and DJ Rob Gordon stole my thunder bringing out “High Fidelity” - it shows the humbling effect love can have on you when you realize you may have just screwed up one of the best things that could have happened to you.

Personally, I would take being in love over the falling in love anytime. I’m quickly approaching 30, and quickly losing the desire to chase, juggle, or do anything that isn’t conducive to a committed relationship. I decided several years ago that whomever I end up spending the rest of my life with (if that person exists) that we need to be friends first… after reading from a couple of days ago, that means that the awkward “morning after” can’t happen. No rabbit-dancing until the foundation for friendship and a committed relationship has been laid.

There are too many posts for me to single out here, but I will say thank you to everyone that are speaking their mind on here because sharing your thoughts make us all look at things in a different light about ourselves and our situations.

By abc

July 7, 2006 12:03 PM | Link to this

@Jewel, whatcha talkin bout?

I’m certain that pop culture hasn’t influenced me all that much. I never watch TV; I almost never suspend my disbelief when watching movies, instead taking note of lighting, sets, costumes, direction, editing, etc.; pop music is nursery rhymes. I recall in the ‘70’s that Alan Alda inspired a lot of ‘sensitive male’ hipness, but that faded away 15-20 years ago.

“Guy’s guy”… that would be a gay fella and his boyfriend, right? Ha! I have never heard any man refer to anyone as a “guy’s guy”.

By Lord Demi

July 7, 2006 12:04 PM | Link to this

Randyt I think you need to visit an Asian Spa for treatment…

By Wise Diva

July 7, 2006 12:08 PM | Link to this

D Dub of the ATL - welcome!! Thanks sooo much. It’s comments like yours that keeps me writing on here. I appreciate that. I hope you stick around!

By Randyt

July 7, 2006 12:11 PM | Link to this

@Storm I hear you, just don’t want the men here to think I am a ‘girly mon’. LOL

By SeanJohnson

July 7, 2006 12:12 PM | Link to this

Not hatin on the Falcons…but it might be a long season…yall have a TOUGH schedule…one key injury and its a wrap. Plus yall didnt sure up the offensive line during the offseason..the defense will be a lot better though. i’m thinkin 9-7 or 8-8.

By Wise Diva

July 7, 2006 12:13 PM | Link to this

abc..it’s like a man’s man, I thought it was pretty common when describing a grunting, beer guzzling, sports-loving, type of man. They like things that “manly men” like.

or were you being facetious and I typed all that for no reason! LOL

By Randyt

July 7, 2006 12:14 PM | Link to this

Lord Demi* the thought is not unappealing…have to admit have never tried that, but thought about it a timeor two.

By Wise Diva

July 7, 2006 12:17 PM | Link to this

I have faith in my Falcons!! I can’t wait for the season to start, goodness gracious the NBA playoffs were a great distraction but now I am feigning!!

By JustMe

July 7, 2006 12:19 PM | Link to this

Afternoon all For me (JustMe) Falling in love is fun right up to the point you realize that I have fallen for this guy. When the light comes on and I come to the realization that I must decide, I get scared, my stomach gets all twisted up in knots and the butterfly effect starts. The only thing that helps is if he has already laid his feeling on the line and I know that my feelings are leaning in the same direction.

I haven’t stayed in Love long enough to say I like it better. I’ve enjoyed some of the time I spent there (In Love), but since I’ve never been married, I guess I’ve spent more time falling in Love than being in love. Does that make any sense?

Anyway my favorite love story is Ghost with Demi Moore and Patrick Swazey (sp?)

Blog Question

Who should be the first to say I Love You in a new relationship?

Going to lunch……. looking for some help here folks, please be ez on me today.

BRB

By Lord Demi

July 7, 2006 12:23 PM | Link to this

just don’t want the men here to think I am a ‘girly mon’.

Nope you’re cool…and you will enjoy the Spa.

By aam853

July 7, 2006 12:24 PM | Link to this

A few of my favorite movies that have love overtones:

Pride & Prejudice (BBC version) Jane Eyre Thomas Crown Affair Dance with Me

Falling in love is thrilling; being in love is satisfying…. sigh….

By abc

July 7, 2006 12:25 PM | Link to this

I was kiddin, although I’ve never heard anyone referred to like that. I can’t count beer guzzling grunting sports fans among my friends, they’re almost all musicians and engineers, or both.

What would a man admire about another man? I think the only way most men offer such respect is in return for being very good at what they do. Acting tough is stoopid, projecting machismo is just dumb. I’d actually regard such behavior as being gay camouflage.

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 12:27 PM | Link to this

SJ Yeah the O line gotta protect Dat Franchize Boy.. They almost let him get killed last year.. Hopefully the can get mobile with him and the receivers can get their heads out of their buttocks and catch something.

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 12:30 PM | Link to this

I am quite surprised I havent seen any for Breakfast at Tiffany’s.. That was aight.. And of course Rebel without a cause. I the like old movies..

By Randyt

July 7, 2006 12:30 PM | Link to this

to all have a great day…am off to climb Stone Mtn…these 4 1/2 day weeks (actually 3 1/2 this week) are tough but somebody has to do it.

I’ll try to check in later to see what wisdom comes in from cyberspace.

By Jaylynne

July 7, 2006 12:32 PM | Link to this

Being in love is much better in my opinion. Falling in love is a wild ride and very exhausting always wondering does he or dosen’t he. As for movies “The Notebook” that is my husband… He will do anything for me. He os such a wonderful man I don’t know how I got so lucky.

By QC

July 7, 2006 12:34 PM | Link to this

I love the Titanic, Gone with the Wind, Love & Basketball, Jerry McGuire oh i could go on & on…

By runninatl

July 7, 2006 12:38 PM | Link to this

DK that’s a nice tradition passing down the season tickets, much props! I have all girls so that’s not in the plans for me (said as I sit here and question my own chromosomes…lol)

Diva I think pop culture has a lot of people out here frontin. People are scared to be who they really are and are trying to imitate what they see on tv or read in magazines instead. And then you have the DL folks out there pretending to be straight and adding to the dilemma. Eventually, you always show you true colors even though a lot of people are scared to show who they really are. Stereotypes and labels are getting out of control.

Randyt I don’t think you have to prove your manhood to anyone and the people in your life who you might actually care to prove it to should already know you well enough to not ever question it. I’m emotional and short tempered. I cried when Miami lost to Ohio State in the Rose Bowl back in 2001 out of frustration and anger, nothing girly about it (plus I lost some $$$). I think women appreciate you more if you are real from day one rather than start off one way and change a few months later. And that works both ways.

By Lord Demi

July 7, 2006 12:39 PM | Link to this

What would a man admire about another man?

Yep, he actually type this line head down, my people are lost…

By Vic

July 7, 2006 12:39 PM | Link to this

QC you type faster than me. I was going to suggest “Love and Basketball” because we saw the relationship grow from the childhood phase (friendship) and eventually blossom into something else (life long committment).

I think when you’re falling in love, you’re taking a chance on someone you don’t know as much as you could, but after time has passed and the love is still there, you’ve seen more sides of the person, and you’ve decided to do the necessary work to keep the relationship going.

By MsFortune

July 7, 2006 12:41 PM | Link to this

hey everyone I just got out of jail lol…Just kidding I missed you guys. I’ve been travelling alot for my job and finally had an opportunity to post and what a great topic…I am so in love and loving it

And yes I rather be in love than go through falling in love all over again. Being in love, I know where we both stand and no nonsense said it well being abble to be accepted for you and accept a person for who they are is beautiful

And yes you are going to have rough days as soon as that IN LOVE FEELING WEARS OFF but to know that you love that person in spite of your differences is a beautiful thing.

By Page1908

July 7, 2006 12:42 PM | Link to this

TGIF Everyone!

Ok, so we are talking about movies?

By JustMe

July 7, 2006 12:42 PM | Link to this

Diva ^5 on the Falcons All you nay sayers remember whacha said…..

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 12:45 PM | Link to this

If you say Love and Basketball you have to say Brown Sugar

By MusingLee

July 7, 2006 12:48 PM | Link to this

Does anyone remember “the Inkwell?”

By Randyt

July 7, 2006 12:51 PM | Link to this

@runnin I got ya.

The people that know me know I really am the so-called ‘both strong AND sensitive’ type. Just concerned that the people in the blog here might not know that I have BOTH sides. Actually, it should not matter, but I guess I do care some about what impression others might get.

Well, off I go…have a great day all.

By MusingLee

July 7, 2006 12:53 PM | Link to this

I also enjoyed “Meet Joe Black” with Brad Pitt…I thought it was a great take on love.

By nancy

July 7, 2006 12:54 PM | Link to this

i think i fall in love too fast…

By Thick

July 7, 2006 12:55 PM | Link to this

Vic & QC I like Love & Basketball also, he’s been the immature ballplaya along and she’s been the rebelous, successful driven B-ball player in the Women’s League. My favorite line is “I’ll play you for it!”

I love “Stormy Weather” by Lena Horne and Harry Belafonte’, the song is really cool too.

Another old movie that’s a love story and funny, “Let Do It Again”. I absolutely love the song by the Staple Singers.

I went way back that time, I guess that’s part of having them ol’ Temptation, Ojays, musice listeners for parents.”

By Lord Demi

July 7, 2006 12:56 PM | Link to this

DEMI is sitting here jealous of ALL MOVIE WATCHERS

page’s mugginlikamuthaF/Ker in the cubical

By JustMe

July 7, 2006 12:57 PM | Link to this

Musing

I remember that movie…

By Jewel

July 7, 2006 01:05 PM | Link to this

Hey, it’s BASEBALL season, not FOOTBALL!! LOL! What about Hitch? It showed what can happen with love if we are willing to break down our personal barriers…

ABC Your scientific and detached description of love… and suggesting that men who subscribe to such romanticism are simply whipped.

By chink

July 7, 2006 01:08 PM | Link to this

I got a question

When the person ask you if you love them? Without telling you how they feel. What does that mean? What do you think?

By JustMe

July 7, 2006 01:10 PM | Link to this

Is this ride broken?

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 01:10 PM | Link to this

Ohhh we on favorite love songs.. It would be a close tie between Adore or If I was your girlfriend by Prince and Simply Beautiful by Al Green

By Vic

July 7, 2006 01:10 PM | Link to this

Thick you did go way back to the black and white era.

Wise Diva to answer a question you asked a while back, I think the dude from Entourage said he was a feminist is becuase he knew that lovely women like yourself would hear about it, and he would get laid…. some more.

By Hating's Demi

July 7, 2006 01:11 PM | Link to this

Taking a puff of natural greenie *clear by MLB of course

the Inkwell…was the shyt…now passing out

By D Dub of the ATL

July 7, 2006 01:12 PM | Link to this

@MusingLee… The Inkwell was one of the best damn movies I’ve seen… and that’s not because I feel like I spent my 4th this year like Larenz Tate did on Jada Pinkett’s porch because this young lady I’m trying my best to spend some time with had “other plans already”… that’s why I hate chasing now… I like you, either you like me or you don’t - let’s move on to bigger and better things … I hate the guessing game!

By D Dub of the ATL

July 7, 2006 01:14 PM | Link to this

@chink… it means they aren’t ready for love - if you have to ask, then you can’t afford it, right?

By Sidelines

July 7, 2006 01:15 PM | Link to this

chink, IMO if someone asks if you love them, indicates that they may have feelings for you as well, but may be afraid of revealing what they’re feeling for fear of you not feeling the same way, or risking revealing emotions too quickly!

By SheSpeaks

July 7, 2006 01:18 PM | Link to this

OK. Off topic. I’ve missed some days blogging so pardon me if I have overlooked the explanation but Demi…what are you going through? Why do you keep changing your name and having conversations about yourself? I’m SOOOO confused! LOL!!!

By Page1908

July 7, 2006 01:20 PM | Link to this

OK, some love movies that are so bananas to me are 1) The Best Man and 2) Something New (with Sanaa Lathan)

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

July 7, 2006 01:20 PM | Link to this

As a native Atlantan I have the right to not like the Fakecons just like those who migrated here from wherever have the right to latch on to the Fakecons bandwagon.

@SeanJ if they manage to go 8-8 I will be extremely surprised. An Vicky is going to have to get better fitting pantyhose and work on his passing game. I still remember that game they played in Chicago-last year the Bears used him for tackling dummy-it was too funny

By rell da ruler

July 7, 2006 01:21 PM | Link to this

yea “happy endings” are always good

By chink

July 7, 2006 01:22 PM | Link to this

D Dub

What if they acted hurt/different after a no response?

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

July 7, 2006 01:22 PM | Link to this

An if we must talk about love conquers all movies There is always Jason’s Lyric -my favorite line: “How can you save a brother that dont want to be saved?”

By QC

July 7, 2006 01:30 PM | Link to this

Page, mail call

By Hating's Demi

July 7, 2006 01:33 PM | Link to this

SheSpeaks it’s fun to do so, my personality is pretty wild, lol

By QC

July 7, 2006 01:34 PM | Link to this

Vic & Thick oh yes Love & Basketball is one of my all time favorites, i’m a sucka for love

By NoStress

July 7, 2006 01:35 PM | Link to this

@Kym - LOL at the “Fakecons”

@DK - man if you want to talk about favorite love songs - “Distant Lover” by Marvin Gaye and you have to have the live version and the best love song instrumental is still “Moments in Love” by the Art of Noise.

@Page - sup girlie -

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 01:35 PM | Link to this

You know what the best love story was.. I had to bring this one out last.. Star Wars Anakin Skywalker and Princess Amidala.. Oh and Han Solo and Princess Leia. Oh yeah Thats right.. In that dude from MTV Yo Momma’s voice who won “Am I right”

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 01:43 PM | Link to this

Demi There are clinical diagnosis for your personality..

By Page1908

July 7, 2006 01:45 PM | Link to this

NoStress Heyyyyyyyyy boo:) I missed you! You are not allowed be to away from the blog for more than 2 days at a time without notifying me! LOL wink

By D Dub of the ATL

July 7, 2006 01:45 PM | Link to this

@chink

I think that goes back to that conversation from two days ago with the morning after business… if you were honest and diligent in your efforts to establish the relationship, then that question should never have to get asked. If they ask you if you love them, they are fishing for affirmation that they should already know the answer to. My late grandmother left me with all kinds of sayings - I will share two:

If I have to ask you if you love me, then there must be some doubt there, and I need to be prepared to hear you say “No”. The other saying is:

Someone quoted Confucius the other day saying that we learn wisdom 3 ways - the third being experience, which is the bitterest. We are all adults - at least supposed to be. So if they want to act different, it means they haven’t learned to know the difference between expectation and desires… and you can only do so much for someone - they have to grow up for themselves and get their own sense.

(sorry for the long post - I got caught up in some of the things I’ve been reading the past few days…)

By chink

July 7, 2006 01:45 PM | Link to this

Diana Ross …Missing You

By NoStress

July 7, 2006 01:46 PM | Link to this

@chink - that is just a “feeler” question they are just trying to find out where you are to either ease a certain level of insecurity within themselves or to make sure you aren’t getting to far ahead of them. That is pretty much it.

I had a female ask me - “do you think it is possible for you to love me?” I had to stop myself from laughing initially because the forming of the question took some thought and I recognized that so to get out of the question without answering took some quick thinking - which was met with a tad bit of higher degree of difficulty since she decided to ask soon after the sex was over. Had to give her 10 cool points for nostalgia’s sake just for carefully choosing her words.

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 01:46 PM | Link to this

Kym You better stop all that Blasphemin.. Talking about the Vanglorious Falcons and the Grid Iron God himself Michael Vick.. Mr Vick to you..

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 01:48 PM | Link to this

Chink Ok chink he loves you but knows you dont love him back.. He just wanted to make sure and ask you how you felt..

By chink

July 7, 2006 01:48 PM | Link to this

Nostress

= http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RIcmIhOesaI

your song

By abc

July 7, 2006 01:49 PM | Link to this

@Jewel, aha, I see… everything’s fine with me and girlfriend.

Don’t you wonder why you feel that way? There’s been quite a bit of research on the subject. Once there’s a concrete and proveable cause, there’s not so much mystery about it. It’s like, who’s in charge here, my mind or my body? I’d like to think it’s my mind.

Besides, it serves to illustrate that once the dopamine effect wears off (it always does), all that remains is commitment, character, talents, intelligence, respect, etc. If that’s not sufficient, the relationship ends. Better to evaluate new relationships in those terms up front than 5 years down the road, without romance-induced chemical reactions clouding the view. I think men understand that better than women do.

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 01:54 PM | Link to this

NoS What up Home Skillet? What cha know?

By chink

July 7, 2006 01:54 PM | Link to this

Nostress

What did you tell her?

By G

July 7, 2006 01:54 PM | Link to this

Whew! I see this topic has taken a turn. Thanks Diva!

A man’s man? No one I know uses that term. We either are or not. We use Man Laws. They’ve always existed, but Budwiser decided to leak the goods and profit from it.

Next on the MLB agenda is this “metrosexual” thing. It’s acceptable, but there are stipulations. I’ll check on the regulations. brb

By chink

July 7, 2006 01:57 PM | Link to this

D Dub

Very good observation …so if that person knew he was doing everything he could to make me fall for him …he wouldnt have to ask ….he would already know the answer….interesting

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

July 7, 2006 02:02 PM | Link to this

@DK please that is Ronnie Mexico or whateva he is calling himself these days. Ronnie Mexico and the Fakecons sounds like a Drag Rock Group

By JustMe

July 7, 2006 02:04 PM | Link to this

D Dub

“By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.” - Confucius

*”Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” - Martin Luther King Jr.

By ALVIN

July 7, 2006 02:05 PM | Link to this

THE INFAMOUS DK aka proud owner of shytty Falcon’s tickets

**I dont give a don’t Dayum about no medical term! Them F’Kers crazy too! *diagnosing mad people for a living…h@ll type of career is that?

By Jewel

July 7, 2006 02:09 PM | Link to this

Oh Yes! NoStress “Moments in Love” is a classic! Right now, I am loving “A Song for You” by Christine Aguilera with Herbie Hancock. My favorite line: I love you in a place, where there’s no space or time…

By JustMe

July 7, 2006 02:10 PM | Link to this

Kym You are too funny. Who your fav team this year since it’s obviously not the FALCONS!!!?

By Tim

July 7, 2006 02:13 PM | Link to this

Falling in love with my wife was fun, being in love and staying in love is much, much better! I have been able to open my life to her without fear of my opinions or points of view, and she has been able to do the same. The best part is that the more often we do that, the closer and more in love we get everyday!

By NoStress

July 7, 2006 02:13 PM | Link to this

@DK - man just tryin to get through all these transitions at work - trying to find another job and keep from killin some folks here at the job - been driving back and forth to Greenville, SC doing training classes for this transition of responsibilities so I haven’t been able to get out here in a minute. So a bruh is tired man and just glad I’ll be on vacation next week well starting thursday of next week.

By G the Falcon Fan

July 7, 2006 02:16 PM | Link to this

I’m placing my bid in for SuperBowl tickets to see the Falcons. The defense is much improved. As long as they stay healthy, we’re going to the SuperBowl. The offense averaged about 21-22 points a game (decent), and we the leading rushing offense for two years straight. Our passing game will improve, but not because of Greg Knapp.

My bad, on topic: I have fallen in love with NFL Sunday Ticket. I can keep up with all of my fantasy league players. Falling in love with Sunday Ticket was easy. I’m still in love. MAN LAW!!!

By Ren

July 7, 2006 02:18 PM | Link to this

I think initially what people feel at the beginning of a relationship is lust or infatuation which is usually rooted in physical or some other superficial attraction.

What happens is that people get so caught up in the infatuation, they “fall in love” based on those feelings and create an ideal of what they want that person to be and not what they really are; so they plunge into a relationship based on an ideal rooted in infatuation and not reality or a person’s true behavior or actions.

After the infatuation wears off, that couple is left with the reality of who their partner is and often-times discover they don’t really like the person, they are not compatible, or the person is not so nice after all, and that’s when the “falling out of love” takes place.

I think that what people initially feel is infatuation not really love because true love takes time to develop after you’ve truly started to know a person and you can genuinlely accept him/her unconditionally. I think being in love is better because love needs to be cultivated and love starts with building true friendship, respect and passion for a person. If any of those three elements are missing there is no love there and it takes getting to know person to cultivate all three feelings for them.

Being in love is better because it has been earned.

I think men are uneasy about commitment, not love itself. Men like freedom and always want options. Many men don’t like the idea of being tied down. I think if a man is truly in love, then it’s all good. I think men tend to keep emotions at bay until they are ready for a commitment.

Until they want commitment, they avoid emotional attachments.

By NoStress

July 7, 2006 02:20 PM | Link to this

@Page - they’ve had a bruh covered up ova here so I haven’t been able to speak but ya know I won’t go anywhere without tellin you

@chink - my response was - “love is always a possiblity, but possibilities ain’t promises so why speak on such things”

By Foots

July 7, 2006 02:20 PM | Link to this

@Jewel You have to hear “A Song For You” sung by Donnie Hathaway. It will bring tears to your eyes. Just about anything by Donnie will though…like “I Love You More Than You’ll Ever Know”, “You Were Meant For Me”… (Kinda says it all…) Just lovely…

By JustMe

July 7, 2006 02:20 PM | Link to this

Heaven by Kem is one of the sweetest songs I have heard in a very long time.

“We are made wise not by the recollection of our past, but by the responsibility for our future.”- George Bernard Shaw

By SeanJohnson

July 7, 2006 02:21 PM | Link to this

@ Kym…i was being optomistic..the schedule is tough and i think carolina is gonna sweep them and they will split with the bucs..and thats 3 loses right there…who do you like? i live and die with the dolphins…

By storm

July 7, 2006 02:23 PM | Link to this

ALVIN *diagnosing mad people for a living…h@ll type of career is that?

I would think it a fun career! And look at the access one would have to some good drugs! LMAO! Not that you need any!

By JustMe

July 7, 2006 02:24 PM | Link to this

G Is there a spot on the bandwagon next to you?? We can laugh at Kym together - LOL

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

July 7, 2006 02:27 PM | Link to this

I am a die hard Steelers fan and have been since I could say “1st and Goal” That’s a phrase Fakecons fan rarely hear. I also like the Eagles and the Giants. Overall I am a fan of the game..I love football season the men in tight pants running down the field, the tailgating, the men in tight pants, the crack of the helmets, and did I mention the men in tight pants.

By JustMe

July 7, 2006 02:28 PM | Link to this

Then there’s I can’t Stop Loving You by Kem. I love to hate this song, it reminds me of a taboo relationship that I was involved in.

By Tim

July 7, 2006 02:28 PM | Link to this

Ren, you’re almost exactly right. Men don’t completely avoid emotional attachment, but for lack of better words, avoid ‘opening up’ to the person they are dating until they are ready for that commitment. Starting a relationship usually comes from the pysical attraction, etc. and men see that first, and the mind and heaart later. In almost any realtionship (some of my own included) men usually wait for the women to open up first.

By Tazzee

July 7, 2006 02:28 PM | Link to this

Runnin why can’t you pass those tickets down to your daughters? Shoot, if you raise them right they’ll be football lovers too, LOL

Infamous you must have some really nice seats.

And while I’m not Falcon born or Falcon bred - I’ve already scheduled my flights back to Atlanta for half the home games this year. When I accepted my offer for this job I told my boss that it was contingent on me not getting any flack for taking off some Mondays during football season.

And to all you Falcon bashers - I don’t get into the trash talk, I just let my birds do the doggone thing.

By chink

July 7, 2006 02:28 PM | Link to this

It seems some people are so used to people falling in love with them without doing a darn thing or because of good sex.

What happened to Real Love ..what is real love….oh well

Just reflecting on something ..dont mind me

By chink

July 7, 2006 02:31 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Nostress

Nice response …you are pretty clever with your words …figured that

By storm

July 7, 2006 02:34 PM | Link to this

Hey, runnin. Have to cosign on your movie choices. While I found Braveheart a bit gorey, it was a good movie and the love story is awesome.

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

July 7, 2006 02:35 PM | Link to this

Well preseason starts Aug 7th so we will get a preview of all of the teams. We will see if the Fakecons Piedmont Park practices are working.

By Jewel

July 7, 2006 02:37 PM | Link to this

Actually ABC, I have never wondered why I ‘feel’ that way. I do agree with your other statement about commitment, character, etc. These are the things that last. I think that is what a lot of the posts today on being in love have alluded to. Certainly mature, settled women are fully aware of this. This understanding is not for men only. I guess your point is that men are generally more rational thinkers than women who are led by their emotions.

By SheSpeaks

July 7, 2006 02:38 PM | Link to this

OK, Demi.

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

July 7, 2006 02:38 PM | Link to this

Sorry preseason is Aug 10 Regular season Sept 7

By SeanJohnson

July 7, 2006 02:40 PM | Link to this

@ Kym…i hear you…steelers finally won one…Big Ben is a paper champ though…yall play us the first game…I am taking ALL bets..yall lost crucial people….let me know if u wanna lose some money.lol

By Jewel

July 7, 2006 02:41 PM | Link to this

Foots I agree! What about “The Closer I Get to You” with Roberta Flack!

By storm

July 7, 2006 02:42 PM | Link to this

BIG SIGH How true, Chink, how true. Or is it love getting confused for something else, like whipped?? Hmmmm…

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 02:43 PM | Link to this

Alvin, Lord Demi, Demi Ga Ga Goo Goo or whatever you feel like callin yourself today.. Yes Sir the old folks used to say when you answer yourself you are certified.. And I dont mean Gangsta.. Stamp that forehead of yours and ship you off to Ga Regional. StraightJacket with 5150 for Demi in hand I think you should seek professional help cause we dont want to see you on the corner at Five Points doing the motorcycle bucky naked talkin bout “its going down”

By G the Falcon Fan

July 7, 2006 02:48 PM | Link to this

Justme….Yeah, there’s plenty of room. It’s funny how all of these (fill in the blank) fans show up after the trophy is hoisted. Here’s a secret…..I have picked at least one of the championship participants in NCAA,NBA,WorldCup,& NFL Championship games. I’m 2-1 until WorldCup. I’m going with France.

My bad, on topic: I love sports like I love women in the ATL. You can’t date just one. Just love all of them until someone loves you back. That’s a song right? Melvin and the Bluenotes? Teddy P? Which one?

By chink

July 7, 2006 02:48 PM | Link to this

RFLMAO @ DK

By Page1908

July 7, 2006 02:50 PM | Link to this

OMG Infamous! LOLOL @ *Demi being a 5150 doing the Motorcycle Dance! Hahaha that’s like my favorite dance now!

By NoStress

July 7, 2006 02:51 PM | Link to this

@Kym - if I weren’t already married I would propose right now - Die hard and I do mean Die hard Steelers fan - that is where the fam is from (though I was born in Cleveland, OH) but every year we would go to the Steelers training camp - I was scared to death of Jack Lambert when I was a kid so my dad had to get his autograph for me. one of my uncles is close friends with John Stallworth and A.C Greenwood.

Did you notice how many more Steeler fans there were after the Colts game last year as was it just me?

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 02:52 PM | Link to this

Kym Well I never!!

Tazzee Indeed I do have excellent seats.. I have been offered quite a bit of money for them..

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

July 7, 2006 02:52 PM | Link to this

@Sean yes I know we play the Dolphins…I have faith in my Steelers. Even though we lost a few people. We still have my cutie Hines Ward, and fast Willie Parker. And you know Tornado Troy P is always willing to knock the hell out of anybody. God I love watching him hit someone with that hair flying behind him.

By NoNonsense

July 7, 2006 02:52 PM | Link to this

@Chink what is real love Very few people will recognize real love because it is displayed through such simple gestures. While they are sitting there waiting for the big bang love is passing them by.

By D Dub of the ATL

July 7, 2006 02:53 PM | Link to this

See, don’t even get me started on the music… Top 10 songs NOT to listen to when you’re sitting around waiting for that special someone’s attention that you don’t think you’re getting:

walks away from the keyboard

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

July 7, 2006 02:56 PM | Link to this

@G I am no fair weather fan, I loved the Steelers even with Kordell Stewart. An I think Bill Cowher is a awesome coach. Tough, in your face, firm but fair.

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 03:01 PM | Link to this

Chink Ok Lil Mama you aint gotta be acting like you got some SC now.. Like you done threw it off ol boy’s head, his elbow, down his back, off his sacrum and illum..

By storm

July 7, 2006 03:02 PM | Link to this

NoNon - always on point! Love your posts!

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

July 7, 2006 03:02 PM | Link to this

Oh god I just remembered Love will make you do some crazy things, it turned me into a Bengals fan for about five mins.

By NoStress

July 7, 2006 03:07 PM | Link to this

@chink - hey back in the day runnin game you had to be choice with the convo had to keep people enough in the dark and off balance to keep things where you needed them to be - the more intrigue you create the easier it is for the nature of curiousity to not just kill the kitties but to open them up. Past lives I tell ya glad those days are done though.

By chink

July 7, 2006 03:07 PM | Link to this

please dont pass me by…..

not looking for a big bang …..maybe a card…maybe a poem…..maybe a rose….dont need money…..dont need a dream …just want something real that I can feel

By QC

July 7, 2006 03:08 PM | Link to this

All these love songs is making me think of my all time favorite>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Loving You by Minnie Ripperton

By Lord Demi

July 7, 2006 03:08 PM | Link to this

I keep on fallin eaasssyyyy, nononononoooo, It was you…Sometime I love ya, sometime I feel use…

This song turned me on to R&B. Oh and another thing…I’ll settle for a blow-blow, recieve from a female of course for a date with MS.keys or with one of my favorite porn stars, for one year. I can’t do the no sex thing though, sorry.

Alvin: no doing the do for a year? just blow-blows? Demi, you crazy!

By Page1908

July 7, 2006 03:09 PM | Link to this

LMAOOOOOOO D Dub @ walks away from the keyboard LOLOL come back boo:)

Ahhhhh yeah, I love Love Songs. Tonight I will be front and center at the Jon B. show! fainting

By Jewel

July 7, 2006 03:09 PM | Link to this

“I Feel Good All Over” by Stephanie Mills “Livin’ for the Love of You” The Isley Brothers Ladies “Giving Him Something He Can Feel” Aretha Franklin “Loving You” Minnie Riperton

D Dub So how many times have you played that list? LOL! What about “Love Is” by Brian McKnight & Vanessa Williams, “I Wish It Would Rain” The Temptations. That song was actually written by a man who committed suicide because his wife left him for another man…

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 03:11 PM | Link to this

DDUB Man any Sade or Anita Baker song just stops me in my Tracks.. Saw Anita at Chastain and it was one of those “Nah man my eyes are just watering” moments..

By NoNonsense

July 7, 2006 03:12 PM | Link to this

Yall know something that I have noticed, when my sons do something wrong they want to come up and hug me or kiss me on the cheek. Dead giveaway for their transgressions. The first thing I ask is what did you do? I think they got it from their dad because during our early dating period he would usually come bearing gifts when he screwed something up. Something about that guilty conscience that makes them react.

My day has come to an end. I hope everyone have a beautiful weekend.

By Lord Demi

July 7, 2006 03:15 PM | Link to this

…it turned me into a Bengals fan for about five mins.

Yep, love is scary…

By D Dub of the ATL

July 7, 2006 03:17 PM | Link to this

Jewel you can blame iTunes - I had it on random, and this is what it decided to play back to back to back… without me trying. I had to create a playlist of some other stuff after that - I couldn’t take much more.

And I bought the soundtrack to Beverly Hills 90210 back in the day only because that was the only place I could get “Love Is” by Brian and Vanessa back in the day before MP3’s and such. Does that tell you how much I like that song?

By Lord Demi

July 7, 2006 03:20 PM | Link to this

THE INFAMOUS DK, Well I’ll be dayum Satan.

we dont want to see you on the corner at Five Points doing the motorcycle bucky naked talkin bout “its going down”

Funny,funny h@ll is is only a blog

LOL

By D Dub of the ATL

July 7, 2006 03:21 PM | Link to this

DK… saw Anita at Essence a few years back - did the same thing to me too. Still can’t listen to “No one in the world” without having issues…

By JennyD

July 7, 2006 03:21 PM | Link to this

There is a song by Ben Folds called “The Luckiest” that I think says it all about being in love:

Next door There’s an old man who lived to his 90’s and one day passed away in his sleep. And his wife she stayed for a couple of days and passed away. I’m sorry I know that’s a strange way to tell you that I know we belong. And I am… …the luckiest.

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

July 7, 2006 03:21 PM | Link to this

Well if we are going to talk love songs I love the words to Walter Beasley’s Things I do for Love.

Each night I pray for you, cause that’s how much I care for you. I want to make your dreams come true. There nothing I wouldn’t do. Place a rose beside your pillow, hold you close whenever the wind blows. These are just the things that I do for love.

By QC

July 7, 2006 03:23 PM | Link to this

Strawberry Letter 22 by Brothers Johnson

oh i can hear this other song in my head…”the sooner you give, the sooner you’ll get to have>A love of your own”

can’t remember who sings it

By chink

July 7, 2006 03:27 PM | Link to this

LOL @ DK

I never said that …..but what I was trying to imply was guys always expect woman to fall in love over some good D….which isnt the case for me personally….takes more than that for me to fall over….

Anyway my skills are not well known but I promise you they are always satisfied ……and then some….

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

July 7, 2006 03:29 PM | Link to this

I absolutely love “Amazed by You” by the county group LoneStar. The words of that song are just touching. My taste in music runs the gambit.

By NoStress

July 7, 2006 03:31 PM | Link to this

@QC - not Strawberry Letter 22 - okay you reached back for that one - but “IF” by Pattie Labelle is still one of my favorites -

By Lord Demi

July 7, 2006 03:31 PM | Link to this

…it a good time for love , is it true, is it true…

or

water falls run throught mine, when I think of you

QC good pick!

By D Dub of the ATL

July 7, 2006 03:36 PM | Link to this

Average White Band @ QC

By abc

July 7, 2006 03:36 PM | Link to this

My current favorite love song is Gnarls Barkley’s thing… ha ha ha, bless your soul… you think that you’re in control… well, I think you’re crazay!…

By DASvenus

July 7, 2006 03:38 PM | Link to this

wassup bloggers

Been lurking all day…. house of flying daggers and Gladiator were all good movies mentioned in my opinion, I also liked the interaction betw Joaquin and ol girl in the Village….. I agree with all the musical selections too…. But I have to diversify them a bit….. Dido – white flag (that’s some serious love)…. Or Mary’s in India (how love happens)….. ColdPlay ‘Fix U’ – who can deny the beauty in the song despite the depressing circumstances (loving someone at their worst is real) …. Heather Headley’s Man song evokes shyt in me that ….. whoa! I gotta be careful who I let in the door….. lmao

Basically to sum up…. Listen to country to get over a breakup, R&B to pull you back in and start again, Alternative to keep yourself pragmatic (Using ABCs word from earlier), Rap to give it that ‘fire’ – do or die level, ….. ok I cannot finish this because someone sent me an email and now I am crying at my desk and cant see to type……. STORM!

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

July 7, 2006 03:38 PM | Link to this

An of course let us not forget “As” by Steve Wonder.

As around the sun the earth knows shes revolving And the rosebuds know to bloom in early may Just as hate knows loves the cure You can rest your mind assure that Ill be loving you always

As now cant reveal the mistery of tomorrow But in passing will grow older every day Just as all is born is new Do you know what I say is true That Ill be loving you always

Until the rainbow burns the stars out in the sky Always Until the ocean covers every mountain high Always Until the dolphin flies and parrots live at sea Always Until we dream of life and life becomes a dream Now that’s love

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 03:40 PM | Link to this

What about these Slow Wine and Lay your head on my pillow by Tony Tony Tone?

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 03:42 PM | Link to this

Whatever you want is another one of my favorites..

By JustMe

July 7, 2006 03:43 PM | Link to this

Kym, We may not like the same teams, but we do like dem tight pants on those os so muscular menzes, all hot a sweaty, playing their hearts out for the love of the game.

Good luck to all ya teams, but y’all won’t be getting rings this year….. such a shame :-)

Demi Let me know if you make it to 5 points, I’ll come out with a camera.

Kym, for the life of me I never knew that guy’s name. I just called him Hair - LMAO (U know who I’m talking about)

G We know the real! I’ll be at every home game and hopefully the game in NO

By DASvenus

July 7, 2006 03:46 PM | Link to this

OK… composed now… as i was trying to blog… music, movies, visual arts, etc will move something inside us each that causes a chemical response creating a ‘connection’ with whatever we associate with that feeling, generally a person. if you want someone to fall in love with you, have some really good times together and the good feeling that they have from doing what they enjoy they will associate with you….. case-in-point, why after doing the do woman most times wake up ‘in love’… men dont cause they have that good feeling too many times to associate it with one person, they think its them, thus the male ego is born. be you man or woman, you just have to know which side of the card to flip face up…….

By QC

July 7, 2006 03:50 PM | Link to this

Thanks D Dub

Hey DASv

NoStress, i love that song by Patti

Is today going by slow or is it just i’m ready to go!

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

July 7, 2006 03:50 PM | Link to this

@ JustMe That’s sexy Troy Polamalu. You will see him on October 22nd when he knocks Vicky out of his pantyhose. I am going to that game. An I dont normally pay for anything involving the Fakecons.

By DASvenus

July 7, 2006 03:50 PM | Link to this

KYM i am with you on that country selection and ‘you just might make me believe’ - Sugarland…. gets me every time. i just cant give up on finding ‘him’

By Jewel

July 7, 2006 03:51 PM | Link to this

Did somebody say Anita Baker!!!!! “Sweet Love” “Just Because” “Body & Soul” “It’s Been You All the Time”

“Through the Fire” Chaka Khan “Feel the Fire” Peabo Bryson “One in a Million” Larry Graham

By BC

July 7, 2006 03:55 PM | Link to this

Being in love is simply delicious!

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 04:04 PM | Link to this

Dont forget I could die for you - Red Hot Chili Peppers or Wild Horses - Mazzy Star Version

By Slim

July 7, 2006 04:04 PM | Link to this

I prefer being in love. Being the romantic I am, I love the thought of being with one man that gets me and understands why I do what I do and love me regardless. Thats better than first date jitters, sweaty palms… etc, etc

By QC

July 7, 2006 04:05 PM | Link to this

SILK, There’s a meeting in my bedroom

everybody, put your lighters up and wave them left to right….yeah that’s it!

By lynn

July 7, 2006 04:06 PM | Link to this

I beleive being in love is more fulfilling then falling in love, not better. I think they both feel good. I believe men are uneasy about falling in love. I think after they’ve come up with every reason why they aren’t in love or why they shouldn’t be, they finally succumb to how they really feel. When there is no out.

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

July 7, 2006 04:06 PM | Link to this

@DASvenus I will look that one up.. I am really starting to develop a fondest for country music. I like that one song by Sugarland words are “Down to Mississippi and up to No Good!”

By chink

July 7, 2006 04:07 PM | Link to this

I like “November Rain” by Guns and Roses…..

By MusingLee

July 7, 2006 04:08 PM | Link to this

Stacking up er’piece of love music and movie that has been listed….Pouring gasoline and lighting match, and crashing through first story window to safety….

“Gotcha Beatchhh”

Escaping by knocking 12yr old off of skate board and grabbing the bumper of passing Marta Bus

By SexyLeggs

July 7, 2006 04:09 PM | Link to this

Good afternoon everybody. Now that my divorce is final (one week), I am looking forward to being in love and falling in love. I never was when I got married and I guess that’s why I not married now. Back to the issue - it’s easy to be in love because the heart takes over. Falling in love takes work and the end result sometimes is never reached…..

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 7, 2006 04:10 PM | Link to this

Slim Yeah it sounds good..

By chink

July 7, 2006 04:12 PM | Link to this

= http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JgumzeKaBH8

November rain love it

By Cee

July 7, 2006 04:15 PM | Link to this

@SexyLeggs- my condolences or my congratulations on the divorce. Best of luck in jumping back into the dating scene.

What’s the topic now…I’m bored at work and need these last 45 mins to go QUICKLY.

By Thick

July 7, 2006 04:20 PM | Link to this

I’m sure everyone will mention all of the new love songs out so let me reach back one more time, Day Dreaming, Baby, Baby, Baby, Dr. Feelgood, Do Right Woman-Do Right Man, Areatha Franklin I’m young but I’m a big fan

Summertime, Sam Cook

Isley Brothers everything, hehehe

A new guy that I like alot is Frankie J, quite surprise by his delivery and sultry sound. Ohhhhhh, la, la

I Sparkle, loving the way that I do, it is true it makes me feel so good just having you

By QC

July 7, 2006 04:20 PM | Link to this

Musing, where have you been????

I love that slow song by Shania Twain, of course once again i can’t think of it…but i sung it at my cousin’s wedding 3 years ago….the video to it was nice and she wore a beautiful dress…..i know somebody blogging/lurking knows the name of that song..

By Lord Demi

July 7, 2006 04:26 PM | Link to this

looking forward to being in love and falling in love. I never was when I got married

Then why did you marry?

By abc

July 7, 2006 04:28 PM | Link to this

@QC, is it from this moment, as long as I live I will love you, I promise you this, there is nothing I wouldn’t give, from this moment on. I don’t dig her singing very much, but Shania is goooood lookin.

By MusingLee

July 7, 2006 04:28 PM | Link to this

Bus is slowing down…Now hopping on back of passing scooter riding 007 style with fine honey driving….Realizing that fine honey doesn’t want me on scooter…I Kung Fu flip onto passing car…Now jumping Matrix style car to car on way home

By 5150's Demi

July 7, 2006 04:33 PM | Link to this

QC I didnt know you smoke…

By Wise Diva

July 7, 2006 04:37 PM | Link to this

Thanks to the fellas for responding to my question…very interesting.

I really appreciate you guys checking in! Even the people that tried to punk me out, this week. LOL.

I will see/read you on my next time up to the plate..

I hope you guys have a WONDERFUL weekend.

DIVA OUT

By D Dub of the ATL

July 7, 2006 04:38 PM | Link to this

What really bothers me is do I even know what love is? It’s one thing to tell your mom or sister or grandmother that you love them, but someone that you’ve only known for a short time… how do I get to that point where I can just sit at the table and be content with watching her eat a piece of toast? Everyone tells you that you will know, or you would have made that decision… but this isn’t what color your car is going to be - this is by far one of the most life-altering decisions anyone can make. While being in love I’m sure is no small task, getting there is much harder and gut-wrenching than anything I can think of.

sidenote What about “Take Me With U” by Prince… remember in Purple Rain when he was taking Apollonia out to purify herself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka? ahhhhhhhhhh

By QC

July 7, 2006 04:39 PM | Link to this

Betcha by golly wow…you’re the one that i’ve been waiting for forever, and ever will my love for you keep growing strong…keep growing STRONG

Have a safe, cool, relaxing weekend everyone…HOLLA PEACE!

By Cee

July 7, 2006 04:45 PM | Link to this

ok, who sings and what’s the name of the song that goes “as long as the stars shine bright, from the heavens, as long as the river runs, through the sea, I’ll never get over him, get it over me” or something like that. it’s pretty old.

By Thick

July 7, 2006 04:48 PM | Link to this

Good Night you guys have a great weekend.

By SexyLeggs

July 7, 2006 04:49 PM | Link to this

@Cee, congratulations are in order. I am so very happy. Long time in the making and I am so proud of myself for kicking fear to the curb and doing what’s right. Woo Hoo!!!!!

By Alvin

July 7, 2006 04:50 PM | Link to this

D Dub of the ATL

Dont sweat the small stuff young homes…

My ATL’s CyclesRYders be safe…coppie out, LOL

Demi: F/K Them, see me run on the 750 Gixxer

By chink

July 7, 2006 04:51 PM | Link to this

D Dub

I have pondered that question too on many occasions………

By SexyLeggs

July 7, 2006 04:52 PM | Link to this

I so love LeAnne Rhimes’ BREATHE. When you feel like that about another person the world is a beautiful and sensual place.