By D Dub of the ATL

August 7, 2006 09:09 AM | Link to this

Happy Monday all…

No news worth reporting from over here… I hope everyone else had a great weekend - I await some good stories!

By Randyt (aka Been there, done that, got the t-shirt)

August 7, 2006 09:22 AM | Link to this

Can’t add to this. Around Friday afternoon I was driving in my convertible when I realized that at 100 degrees, you can’t drive fast enough to cool down. I decided that it was just too dayummmmmmmm hot for romance (prefer to make my own heat). So spent my time indoors and alone this weekend, and liked it.

By abc

August 7, 2006 09:35 AM | Link to this

I hibernated this weekend, last week was quite busy and taxing at work. I got some housework done. I was happy to chill and play boxing and football on XBox 360, not very dating-minded lately.

I think yall shutting the blog down on Friday was rather poor form. Your censorship will kill the blog, IMHO.

By abc

August 7, 2006 09:40 AM | Link to this

So, withholding posts! Bless your heart! Best of luck to you!

By Tess

August 7, 2006 09:42 AM | Link to this

I bought a copy of “He’s Just Not That Into You” and stayed inside where it was cool and read. I’ve been carrying a torch for someone for far too long. He’ll go out with me if I ask and we have a blast together, but he has no initiative when it comes to asking ME out. The book says I shouldn’t call him, he should call me (sounds outdated, but as a 40+ woman who is, frankly, sick of being a “modern” femme, it would be nice to be pursued-call me romantic, but there it is).

So, I’m reading and trying to muster the energy to get out there and try to meet someone else. The heat does make that not as attractive as staying in though. : (

By Skegee(formerly SheSpeaks formerly Skegee)

August 7, 2006 09:43 AM | Link to this

I actually did hook up with a guy I’ve been seeing. He was ghost for one weekend…I mentioned it last week. The case was, indeed, a blast from the past actually did “have a talk” with this new guy…small town.

I don’t know exactly what was said but I do know they talked. New guy now says “its all good”.

Question, should I confront old guy about his discussion with new guy?

By QC

August 7, 2006 09:44 AM | Link to this

Morning

By Skegee (formerly She Speaks, formerly Skegee)

August 7, 2006 09:48 AM | Link to this

Did anyone see the pics from Visions in the AJC?

By darkbuty

August 7, 2006 10:05 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone

I was on vacation on Friday and y’all shut down the blog!?! That is too funny….now I have to go and read Friday’s happenings!!

By Rain

August 7, 2006 10:05 AM | Link to this

I just looked at the pics Skegee i was expecting more than the few they have

It was very childish to shut down this blog on friday because of someone who’s known to be “out spoken” came on and very candidly spoke his mind, something he’s known to do at any given time

Have a nice day all

By Laney

August 7, 2006 10:06 AM | Link to this

welcome Tess! What did you think of the book? I’ve been meaning to read it but am afraid it will just make me depressed =)

Skegee, do you know what old guy told new guy at all?

By Socialite

August 7, 2006 10:19 AM | Link to this

Morning- went to Vision. 1st time in over a year. Good time mostly. But I don’t think I’ll miss it.

Results: I went on a date with a guy I only half liked. And now that half is gone. But at least I tried!

By Tazzee

August 7, 2006 10:22 AM | Link to this

Morning all!

Hey Skegee! I don’t think you should confront old guy. Just leave him alone because I doubt you could change his mind. If new guy is cool with it, then focus on your future.

I didn’t take part in the date challenge this past weekend. But a guy friend is coming to visit this weekend. I know he is attracted to me, but he is rather slow expressing it. So I think I might have to put it on him this weekend…

By SuperTim

August 7, 2006 10:22 AM | Link to this

Laney - please don’t read that book. I absolutely hate every aspect of it. I had an ex-girlfriend (girlfriend at the time) who had a copy and I would read it when i was over there. I absolutely hated the book. It really doesn’t give you any actual insight into the mind of a man or how we date. I wish I could site specifics, but I haven’t been dating this girl in a year or so. Maybe I will hit the bookstore today and enumerate the problems I have with this book for you. But it may be a topic for its own day (I am afraid it might dominate this board). So to stay on topic, I didn’t have a date, but I started talking to a girl - we will see how it goes (great accent - from South Africa).

By Rain

August 7, 2006 10:25 AM | Link to this

I told this guy i’d been dealing with for about 4 weeks i did’nt want to try pursing any type of relationship with him cause of his 5 kids i’m not trying to be a “step mom” and his 8 yr old just constantly stayed in the room with him saturday while he was on the phone with me; that just got on my last nerve. The child keep asking him what we were talking about, asking who was he talking to; i mean he just would not leave, then ole boy kept talking to him and his brother every time they came in the room. So i decided to just cut him off cause he does’nt have any time for me, besides he finally told me he was’nt working but waiting for a settlement from his car accident that he was not going to share with his “ex wife” yeah right, ok buddy you go ahead and wait cause i’m moving on.

By storm

August 7, 2006 10:27 AM | Link to this

GOOD MORNING! I went to visit my parents out of town, so I made no attempts at dating. As for shutting the blog down, if that was the only way to prevent someone from airing personal business, then I’m all for it. Shutting the blog down was no more foul or poor form than the bashing that was going on. Such matters should be between the involved individuals and handled privately. I seek fun and the occassional pearls of wisdom found here. I gain no pleasure witnessing the humiliation of one individual by another.

By sJeaSexyCool

August 7, 2006 10:27 AM | Link to this

2 C P T G’S ACCESS TO THIS SITE HAS BEEN BLOCKED

UNTIL HIS ACCESS IS RESTORED, I WILL NOT PARTICIPATE ON THIS FORUM…AND I URGE OTHERS TO DO THE SAME

EMAIL ME FOR THE ADDRESS OF AN ALTERNATE FORUM TO BLOG ON…(soon as i set it up)

WHAT THE FCUK EVER HAPPENED TO FREE SPEECH ON THIS FORUM? SEEMS LIKE IT’S ALLOWED ON ALL OTHER AJC FORUMS SAVE THIS ONE

By Tom

August 7, 2006 10:29 AM | Link to this

Gee, they shut down the AJC Blog and people actually had to work at work on Friday. Horrors!!! It must have been terrible!

By Cinderella

August 7, 2006 10:30 AM | Link to this

Had a heart to heart with my prince this weekend. Me thinks marriage is in the air. I can’t decide if they are true signals or only wishful thinking…

By Skegee(formerly SheSpeaks formerly Skegee)

August 7, 2006 10:36 AM | Link to this

Laney,

No I don’t know what Old told New. I’m sure the only thing bad that Old feels happened in our relationship is that we stopped seeing each other. But that doesn’t mean he wouldn’t stoop to some craziness. He’ll still call every now and then trying to see me but I haven’t even told him where my new house is.

By Candidly Speaking

August 7, 2006 10:37 AM | Link to this

Speechless

By Randyt (aka Been there, done that, got the t-shirt)

August 7, 2006 10:38 AM | Link to this

I’m with Storm.

By Cinderella

August 7, 2006 10:38 AM | Link to this

Hey Socialite! Move on to the next one, I know you got’em lined out the door.

By Skegee(formerly SheSpeaks formerly Skegee)

August 7, 2006 10:41 AM | Link to this

Hey Tazzee

So what do you think about me doing some sort of damage control? I want the opportunity to tell my side of the story. I think New Guy was concerned about at first, which means he may still have some concern in the back of his head.

We haven’t talked about it at all. Friday New mentioned that Old was coming by his house and when I said “OH Lord!” New said, it’s all good…and changed the subject. We just kinda left that alone but I do want to clear the air.

By QC

August 7, 2006 10:45 AM | Link to this

Cinderella that’s so sweet…good luck!

Hey Socialite

By Skegee(formerly SheSpeaks formerly Skegee)

August 7, 2006 10:46 AM | Link to this

I, too, am with Storm.

By Tom

August 7, 2006 10:47 AM | Link to this

See ya sJeaSexyCool! What I saw on Fri was just plain bad form by 2CPTG and if that is the type of people that you associate with then nothing on this blog will help you.

Sorry, it was too hot for romance this weekend.

By Tazzee

August 7, 2006 10:50 AM | Link to this

Socialite you get some points for trying.

Skegee if anything, you should ask New Guy what Old Guy said. Or you can just leave it alone because if New Guy doesn’t want to find out for himself what a great woman you are - then do you really want to be with him?

By Tess

August 7, 2006 10:50 AM | Link to this

Laney,

The book is funny but not to be considered a bible of any sort. It’s basically just entertainment, but it did open my eyes. I keep making excuses for this guy I mentioned…he’s just extremely shy, he’s too busy with this big project at work right now…I maybe intimidate him…intellectually I know what all of this means, so why don’t I just let go and move on (ignoring the fact that we’re perfect for one another)?

It made a difference to me (somehow) to see written in b/w, that people (i.e. men) make time for what truly interests them and if he was that into me, he would let me know it. I wouldn’t need to be making excuses for him b/c he’d be PRESENT. He does call me and makes time to come by to see me at work, but the weekend comes and….nothing.

I just hope the book will go into what to do once I’ve truly let go. I’m not an “out there” person. I don’t do church and I don’t do clubs, so where to meet men?

I so don’t want to become jaded and cynical like a lot of my women friends, but I’m finding myself more and more just enjoying my own company and feeling stressed/hassled when the angst of a relationship gets into the mix. Maybe I’m getting lazy?! : )

By LahLah

August 7, 2006 10:53 AM | Link to this

Storm ^5 girl I totally agree with your 10:27 post.

Sjea Are you serious???? shaking my head

I didn’t have a date this weekend. I did a whole lot of cleaning and a whole lot of shopping for the boys(tax free weekend). I watched Leagally Blonde and Father of the Bride for the umpteenth time and comsumed about 30 freeze pops which is really just frozen kool aid OOOHH, and I went to Ikea for THE FIRST TIME!!! What an experience. That place is so cool but they make you put in some work in order to make a purchase. Couldn’t believe we had to pull her merchandise of the shelves ourselves. LOL

I actually turned down spending time with King. I am soooo almost over him……..hehe

By Jewel

August 7, 2006 10:54 AM | Link to this

Good morning Everyone!

Storm I agree with your statement. I read the blog on Friday and was about to thank a few people for their suggestions, when I realized I could not post. I read the personal attacks, saw where the discussion was headed and knew I would not continue to read it that day anyway. Yes, we are entitled to free speech, but some things are best left said at a different time and different forum. This forum is a dating blog and should be used for dating related topics IMO.

Anyway, thanks to the persons who suggested salsa lessons, pajama party for 2, and Fernbank’s Chocolate Exhibit. I went to the exhibit and gained five pounds just reading about cacao! LOL! My sweetie went to visit his sons and take them on the annual back-to-school shopping spree, which is really another opportunity to spend quality time with them. One of the things I admire about him.

By Redd

August 7, 2006 10:56 AM | Link to this

It did kind of get hot on here friday, if 2 can’t get back on here “regularly or in disguise” i’m sure he’ll start his own blog.

at least he can lurk

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

August 7, 2006 10:56 AM | Link to this

@Storm

I dont think the shut down came about because of 2Can’s comments but because there was general outrage that they would even ban him to begin with. Not only that but on the chatter blog there were far worst things beening said in regards to minorities and other ethinic groups(I think that is the term they batted around) with no reprecussions at all. In fact the ajc has a lovely Norcross talk blog going now in regards to the illegal population I am sure they will have no problem striking up controversy there. So why is it this particular blog is suppose to not be without controversy or tension? We are dealing with matters of heart and lets not play stupid here folks I am quite sure in the lenghth of time on this blog some of you, if you are lurking or actively blogging, have hooked up for a personal meet and one on one greet. An I also would wager a bet a few of you have done the horizontal tango, so lets get real there is going to be controversy, and bad language and everything else. If the editorial staff feels so offended by the whole thing then I say close the whole blog down..do away with it all together, or better yet hang a header at the beginning of each blog and say hey we only want the following populations to response to the topic I mean it is pretty obvious from day to day reading that the ajc.com, at least in relation to this blog. is not aiming for a diverse population, so at least be honest enough and forthcoming and say who is wanted in responding and who is not.

By Green Eyes

August 7, 2006 10:57 AM | Link to this

My weekend went exactly as I wanted- The guy I have been dating for over 5 years asked me to marry him. I said yes, of course. And I realized just how perfect we are together… I took a chance and brought up the subject of marriage, and it was brought to my attention that he had been thinking about marriage for over a year. Every month he said he kept returning the ring for a bigger one!!! I must say he did well because I am wearing a 2 1/2 carrot diamond ring on my left hand!!!

By Green Eyes

August 7, 2006 10:58 AM | Link to this

My weekend went exactly as I wanted- The guy I have been dating for over 5 years asked me to marry him. I said yes, of course. And I realized just how perfect we are together… I took a chance and brought up the subject of marriage, and it was brought to my attention that he had been thinking about marriage for over a year. Every month he said he kept returning the ring for a bigger one!!! I must say he did well because I am wearing a 2 1/2 carrot diamond ring on my left hand!!!

By Laney

August 7, 2006 10:59 AM | Link to this

I just hope the book will go into what to do once I’ve truly let go. I’m not an “out there” person. I don’t do church and I don’t do clubs, so where to meet men?

I think this is the question of the hour — any suggestions, ladies? Guys, where are you hiding?

By Laney

August 7, 2006 11:01 AM | Link to this

Green Eyes, CONGRATULATIONS!

By Skegee(formerly SheSpeaks formerly Skegee)

August 7, 2006 11:01 AM | Link to this

I see your point Tazzee. I may give that a try. It’ll all work itself out.

By Fyrestarrter (on Location at CL having a good time cuz the rads here are COOL PEOPLES lol)

August 7, 2006 11:02 AM | Link to this

sJea While I agree that censorship in ANY form is one of the most oppressive things that those who are in power can do to retain control, I do feel that THIS forum is NOT the place for what transpired last Friday. There were WAY TOO MANY personalized & threatening attacks that were made on people last week. AJC could have legal action take against them & THEN we would not have the forum to express ourselves at all. Just because the message got scrambled in the delivery doesn’t male make the original message a positive one or one that all need to hear/see.

On Topic Yes I called the guy that I have been thinking about making overtures to this weekend & he seemed very receptive. In fact he said he was flattered & we talked for quite sometime. Had my young adult niece with me this weekend for a SERIOUS heart to heart so our first date is NEXT Friday. Any suggestions anyone? He says dinner, I say Piedmont Park for evening picnic…. hmmm

By Redd

August 7, 2006 11:06 AM | Link to this

Congratulations GreenEyes i hope you enjoy your 2 1/2 carat diamond ring

carat not carrot lol

By Fyrestarrter (on Location at CL having a good time cuz the rads here are COOL PEOPLES lol)

August 7, 2006 11:08 AM | Link to this

Green Eyes CONGRATS GYRL!!!

By "Longtime Lurker"

August 7, 2006 11:12 AM | Link to this

@Tess Welcome, I don’t know your nationality, but if you are a African-American woman, throw that book in garbage!

I have read it and it was written from the perspective of a white male. Their dating experiences are far different than ours and black men communicate differently than our white counterparts.

The best thing you can do is reach out to some of the bruh’s on here or a male friend that you already know, about different questions you might have.

Sit tight, I am still thinking about writing that book of my own “Using Some Common Dayum Sense, when thinking with your heart ain’t werkin” Look for it in hardback for $59.95 and a soft book version will be around $39.95.

Release date fall of 09!

By storm

August 7, 2006 11:14 AM | Link to this

KYM, censorship aint cool, for sure. I wasn’t speaking to that. However, if ever I care to act a fool, I will consult one of those other blogs to do so. Thanks.

GREEN EYES, CONGRATULATIONS! That’s beautiful!

By Peach

August 7, 2006 11:14 AM | Link to this

Skegee,

I think you should tell New about your curiosity. See what Old had to say about you, and then remind New that you aren’t the same person you were when you were dating Old. It’s so important to keep those lines of communication open, but if you’re nervous about asking, just bring it up casually. “So did Old give you anything juicy on me, or did he jsut reaffirm how great I am?” A little self-confidence never hurts!

My sweetie and I were both so exhausted from work last week that we took time out from coupledom to focus on “me time.” I always put myself in the top 3 most important things in my life, but sometimes I need to be number 1, you know?

Good luck Skegee!

By Ms. Newark

August 7, 2006 11:14 AM | Link to this

Hello Happy People

Laney, I met my SO at a spoken word parlor. He was one of the featured poets. Later that night, and few drinks of liquid courage. I went to compliment him on his piece. That led to an hour long conversation, we just hit if off and it has been wonderful since. We both are art buffs we have a lot in common.

By NoNonsense

August 7, 2006 11:14 AM | Link to this

I actually had a pretty nice “DATE” this weekend with hubby. For the past couple of weeks he had stating that he was tired. I don’t know if it is the heat or what but he was feeling rather fatigued. As long as he is at home he will be up doing something so I got us a room at the DoubleTree and stole him away for the weekend. It was much needed. He got to sleep til 10 on Saturday morning and we had a late room service breakfast. After breakfast we sat in the middle of bed talking and laughing about any and everything. I can’t remember the last time I laughed so hard about something other than what a curious 5 yr old would say. We were on our way to Sports Authority and he convinced me to stop at Sears in Cumberland, ugh huge mistake. With all the construction going on it and limited parking it put a slight damper on my mood. But all in all we had a nice relaxing day just lounging around in the room and having some adult alone time.

By SeanJohnson

August 7, 2006 11:16 AM | Link to this

I agree wtih Kym…

By PD357

August 7, 2006 11:17 AM | Link to this

I just want to say that i did not come on this blog friday to start any mess; there were some very nasty & false things said about me and he (2) knows they were not true, also he knows what really happened between us ;) I really do enjoy reading/responding on this forum and hope to continue. Again i want to apologize for anything i said out of term they may have caused this forum to be “shut down” on friday. Storm i agree 100 percent with what you said, hopefully everything will pick back up and the laughter i use to get from reading different posts will soon come to pass once more.

By Randyt (aka Been there, done that, got the t-shirt)

August 7, 2006 11:21 AM | Link to this

I cannot speak for everyone, only myself, but frankly when the blogs turn to anything other than dating, i.e. personal attacks, personal opinions about racism, etc….I just don’t waste my time reading them. The key word is “waste”. We all have our angers, we all have our biases, and we all have our ingrained beliefs…but that has little or nothing to do with a ‘dating blog’. I respect and enjoy most of the bloggers here, and am constantly amazed and fascinated at the wit and the clarity of thought beneath some of the humor…but again, IMHO, if you aren’t blogging about dating, then maybe this is really not the blog for you…or if you are right, then maybe this is not the blog for me.

By PD357

August 7, 2006 11:22 AM | Link to this

NoNonsense that sounds like the best weekend i’ve heard of someone having in a very very long time kudos 2 you both

By PD357

August 7, 2006 11:23 AM | Link to this

NoNonsense that sounds like the best weekend i’ve heard of someone having in a very very long time kudos 2 you both

By Skegee(formerly SheSpeaks formerly Skegee)

August 7, 2006 11:25 AM | Link to this

Oooh Peach. I like that. We’ll see and I’ll let you all know what I decide. What I really wanna do is knock *Old upside his head* LOL!

By Ms. Newark

August 7, 2006 11:30 AM | Link to this

Congrats Green Eyes Have you guys set a date yet? I got my ring (1 1/2 carats)3 weeks ago. We will be married on February 17, 2007.

By G™

August 7, 2006 11:32 AM | Link to this

Point of clarification: Rell or whoever trying to direct negative comments about “G”, was not refering to me. Don’t know where that came from.

This past weekend, I attended the W, Shout, Strip, and Verve. That’s usually a pretty routing weekend for me. Everything was pretty hot b/c of the hair show. A phone number here and there, but I don’t expect anything to materialize. Just going through the motions.

By mickiedee

August 7, 2006 11:33 AM | Link to this

Longtime Lurker, can you remember what didn’t apply to African-Americans in the “He’s not into you” book? I thumbed through it when it first came out. I am black but was raised mostly with & around white people so I am wondering if I saw what you saw in the book.

By Starr

August 7, 2006 11:35 AM | Link to this

The regular men bloggers have’nt showed up so far, are they protesting cause the 2can can’t post or are they just lurking and afraid to post like a real man??

By darkbuty

August 7, 2006 11:35 AM | Link to this

I do not believe personal attacks are necessary or warranted on this blog…BUT on the same token…you can’t bait someone who is known to be outspoken and not expect harsh consequences….

I am disappointed to see that they shut the blog down on Friday and they banned someone for explicit fake foul language. I guess they wanted to let us know who is really in charge….

By Tazzee

August 7, 2006 11:36 AM | Link to this

Cinderella I almost missed your post. Marriage, huh? I’ll wait until its official before I congratulate you - I’ll just say I’m happy for you.

Congratulations Green Eyes

Skegee we all know what you want to do, LOL. I would want to do it too - but Old Guy really isn’t worth the energy.

By David

August 7, 2006 11:40 AM | Link to this

Dear sJeaSexyCool,

THANK YOU for leaving this forum, and promising not to participate in the future.

This forum is for people to make intelligent comments about a dating topic, not to (1) ask somebody what they are having for lunch today (2) selling Falcons tickets (3) making random comments that have absolutely nothing to do with the dating topic.

If you are too much of an idiot to understand this, PLEASE LEAVE THIS FORUM AND TAKE YOUR IMBECILE FRIENDS WITH YOU!!!! THANK YOU FOR LEAVING!!!!!!!

By the way, sJeaSexyCool, since you are such a genius, you must realize that “free speech” stipulates that “Congress shall make no law abridging freedom of speech…” The AJC editors can censor, delete, or omit ANY comment they choose, but I guess you wouldn’t know this since you never finished grammar school.

By jRock

August 7, 2006 11:47 AM | Link to this

Morning folks.. Nothing to add on topic since I don’t date, but some good reading today.

Just wanted to say hello to some of my favorite bloggers and people I enjoy reading on here.

Hey Cinderella ;-), Socialite.. Cee, Like I’ve said very recently, don’t make us crash and please don’t have that darn wedding in LA (Lower Alabama.

Ms Tazz (i’ve seen your blog and it’s been a blessing), and the rest of the old heads on here.

Back to Lurksville..

By storm

August 7, 2006 11:48 AM | Link to this

if you aren’t blogging about dating, then maybe this is really not the blog for you…or if you are right, then maybe this is not the blog for me. I’m feeling that, RANDY.

By Skegee(formerly SheSpeaks formerly Skegee)

August 7, 2006 11:49 AM | Link to this

Tazzee You know it! That’s typical of me trying to control situations. This time I’m trying to take a sit back and let it happen stance. But I’m itching to say/do something.

So what’s been going on with you and Texas?

By olderandwiser

August 7, 2006 11:49 AM | Link to this

Good morning, y’all. This is my last week here due to a full plate of life chnages and upcoming commitments, so I’ll try to make the most of it.

Sidebar: I’m with you, storm. Let’s keep this thing in perspective. Gutter language, envelope-pushing sexual innuendo and personal vendettas against faceless strangers are not embelmatic of free speech, just masquerading as such. Those things just don’t fit into a public forum on dating in a family online newspaper supported by commerical advertisers. Let’s just have fun and perhaps learn something doing it.

On topic: I regret I have nothing to contribute as I’m engaged. Perhaps another time, Laney.

Tess, I am an advocate of the He’s Just Not That Into You school of thought. I too am a 40+ lady — actually, well over that — and have had the most fun and success in being pursued rather than being the pursuer in dating. Some things haven’t changed over thousands of years and are not going to; men chasing women is one of them. IMO the book is helpful to women in learning to recognize the men who are sincerely attracted to them and how not to waste time in being a doormat for poseurs and slackers.

I would also suggest Sherry Argov’s two books about dating for women, the titles of which include a word that won’t get past the language filter. (It describes a female canine in heat. Enough of a clue?) Both are hilariously funny reads and absolutely on target in how to hold your own in a dating relationship with sweet and polite resolve, aka the steel magnolia approach. Look them up online via amazon or barnesandnoble and see if they are for you.

I spent too many years learning by trial and error what these books spell out simply and clearly. Perhaps they will help you younger ladies cut to the chase, not to mention help smart guys sharpen up their game.

That’s all for me today. Take care, y’all.

By storm

August 7, 2006 11:49 AM | Link to this

*SUP LAH!

By jRock

August 7, 2006 11:50 AM | Link to this

Morning folks.. Nothing to add on topic since I don’t date, but some good reading today.

Just wanted to say hello to some of my favorite bloggers and people I enjoy reading on here.

Hey Cinderella ;-), Socialite.. Cee, Like I’ve said very recently, don’t make us crash and please don’t have that darn wedding in LA (Lower Alabama.

Ms Tazz (i’ve seen your blog and it’s been a blessing), and the rest of the old heads on here.

Back to Lurksville..

By Starr

August 7, 2006 11:53 AM | Link to this

^5 David - very well said and welcome

By "Longtime Lurker"

August 7, 2006 11:55 AM | Link to this

@mickiedee The whole book in my opinion is flawed! While some of the things or actions of men as a whole may be on point, the majority of that stuff I read was like hell naw!

I just think females need to listen to their own gut and think before leaping. I attended a wedding over the weekend and had a long convo with this asian-black woman who was hella fyne!

Long story stort, she met this dude, moved him into her crib 6 mos after she got a divorce from her ex-husband and you know I was lookin at her like WTF were you thinking!

We continued to talk and I was like why you move the dude up in your crib and then complain because he is sorry and never has any money? No answer..

She then tells me that she went out on a date with her friends one night and had to pay a $200 tab and dude never once reached in his pocket (shaking my head).

I just don’t get why the most successful sistah’s settle for some of the sorry of sorry dudes, then ask us men what we think about their situation.

By crimson esq.

August 7, 2006 11:57 AM | Link to this

Congrats GREEN EYES… love is a beautiful thing…

By THE INFAMOUS DK

August 7, 2006 11:58 AM | Link to this

OK

Ya’ll are funny most of ya’ll thought 2 was a GOD out here and now he’s gone ya’ll wanna throw him to the wolves.. Well I for one respected him because of his honesty.. He was one of the few who appreciated my honesty and thats just it we respected each others opinion to know that is was just that an opinion.. The thing I always said from day one is I have no problem looking at myself in the mirror and I’m sure he doesnt. I would say to all of you that have something negative to say about dude keep it to yourself because you know you wouldnt have ever said it while he was on here. So instead of being fake, be yourself, have some principles and stand on them no matter who likes them or not..

PD Youre wrong let it go, because you shouldnt speak on anything you couldnt take care of when it was in your face.. Not being mean but telling you the truth..

Oh yeah and if ya scared you got 2 options 1. Say ya scared 2. Go to church..

I’m about to roll over to one of the other blogs and see if I can be called a NWA before the day is out, shouldnt take to long all I gotta do is say I think George W Bush is a blithering Idiot. I should be getting hate mail and scathing remarks immediately.. Or that the war on terrorism makes us less safe than safe and that our foreign policy sux… Or that an Oil man is in the white house gaining profits at our expense and that he has committed so many crimes he sould be impeached.. I could go on and on and on but who cares

I guess the patriot act has been applied to the blog and you dont have as many rights as you once thought.. Dang that is so Kim Jun Il-ish..

By tee513

August 7, 2006 11:59 AM | Link to this

He is just not that into you is indeed a good book for any woman of any race. It’s a given that you can’t take everything you read/see/hear to heart — that doesn’t even need to be said. The basic premise of the book - If a man doesn’t seem to be interested in you then he just isn’t so stop making excuses and keep it movin is a good one to follow.

I didn’t participate in the blog challenge but I hope to soon!

I lurk quite a bit and it was indeed a good move to shut the blog down on Fri. I think some people that come here take this blog entirely too seriously. Maybe some of them are new to the blog world so somebody needs to school them. The writers and/or publishers of a blog own it which means they can delete any comment they want, ban any visitors they choose, etc. The publisher OWNS this, not you. I’m feeling the vibe here today - no drama & nonsense.

By Tazzee

August 7, 2006 12:01 PM | Link to this

Hey jRock! Thank you man, I didn’t even know you were reading me.

Skegee Texas is growing on me, shoot if I can stay out of Atlanta I might even get to the point where I can say that I truly like it here. I’ll cut the cord after football season.

ummm David I was trying to stay out of this whole debate - but I feel your comments were totally out of line. While I don’t agree with some of the nastiness that had been taking place on this spot for the past few months. I also don’t agree that this blog should be what you are campaigning for. I’m hoping we can have a happy medium on here because your name calling is no different than that which took place last week. And if you really cared about the content of this forum, you would have been adding your meaningful comments before today. Wait a minute - the comment you made today has nothing to do with the topic, so I guess the fact that your post has nothing to do with dating means you should leave too.

Oh and if anyone posts on here about the Falcons, I will be one of the first people to stray away from the topic and jump right in on the conversation.

Speaking of, did any of you guys attend the function at Piedmont Park and Grady this weekend?

By LahLah

August 7, 2006 12:03 PM | Link to this

Hey Storm. Ya know Gavi is coming back this week???

Hey Fyre!

By mike

August 7, 2006 12:05 PM | Link to this

As a single 28 year old guy I can honestly say if I knew were good, HONEST women hung out I would share the knowledge. It appears that women are feeling the same thing. I gave up the club scene two years ago. I have tried the online personals with some luck but the women on there always seem to be hiding something. So I usually spend the weekend in doing work around the house, or trying to build my home business. When I want to get out I take the dogs out to the lake or take the dogs out hiking.

I guess what I am trying to say is I don’t know where the good women hang out, and the good women don’t know where the good guys hang out. Its all rather frustrating ;)

By Raqi

August 7, 2006 12:05 PM | Link to this

I wish you the best Cinderella.

Congrats GreenEyes

By Jewel

August 7, 2006 12:06 PM | Link to this

Laney some time ago, I think you asked for topic suggestions. How about a topic centering on the communication differences between men and women? And not just the differences, but ways that we can improve and close the gap. That would probably be a week long series…

By itsmorenamorena

August 7, 2006 12:06 PM | Link to this

@Jewel…you made it to Chocolate Sundays? I tried to go — couldn’t find close parking, let alone get in the parking lot. Besides, I saw all these kids groups in line when we drove the turnabout circle and opted NOT to go. I’ll have to hit the Martini’s and IMAX this coming Friday….

@No Nonsense…that sounds like the perfect weekend! Good stuff!

Weekend Update — So, I did take the Bruster’s Ice Cream suggestion and went on a date with a guy I have mixed feelings about. He’s worthy of another date, but he needs to suggest it!

Went to the Battle of the Jamz — loved Troop, Ready for the World, Mint Condition, but was underwhelmed with Tony Toni Tone. Date or not, it was a good show. But if Mr. Bruster’s doesn’t pan out, I’ll need a date for the Roy Ayers, Jean Carne, Ronnie Laws concert next month :)

By Ms. Newark

August 7, 2006 12:07 PM | Link to this

Tom & David

Let’s not attack sJea. She said her piece and made her point. So let that be that. This is not the forum for personal attacks (send that via email, IM or whatever). This blog is about dating.

All of that jazz that took place on Friday, was not cool.

Yes we are entitled to freedom of speech, but that right to speak should be buffered with compassion and sensitivity. But at the same time you cannot provoke someone and expect not to get a reaction.

I feel that as bloggers of a certain demographic we have to conduct ourselves in a responsible manner. Because to the masses we are all the same, so why give them a show?

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

August 7, 2006 12:10 PM | Link to this

Well I am staying around while I agree personal attacks are not alwaysnecessary, what else would two lovers who met on this blog, and then obviously it didnt work out go to vent their frustrations at each other but on the blog where it all began. I wonder does all this we are only going to talk about dating extend to no longer doing morning shout outs, and no more sexual talk about what you do in the bedroom and with whom and how many? Will the cheerleading squad discontinue to set up meetings via the public forum and then feel the need to come back and report to the rest of blog and atlanta where they went and why? Will I continue my customer service rants, or Blue his daily lunch observations? If the forum is only going to focus on just dating then I say cut it all out, dont pick and choose.

By PD357

August 7, 2006 12:10 PM | Link to this

What ever DK i’m sooo over that mess and only we know the truth so you let it go; and for your information i’m in church every Sunday i can speak on anything i choose to. How come you could’nt just read what i said without responding like eveyone else

DK, do enjoy the rest of your day

By storm

August 7, 2006 12:12 PM | Link to this

LAH, I was thinking she would be back in time for your event.

By QC

August 7, 2006 12:12 PM | Link to this

I’m glad Gavi is coming back!

Hey MsStorm & LahLah

By abc

August 7, 2006 12:13 PM | Link to this

Again, the banning mechanisms are so weak as to be pretty much completely ineffective. I thought the shutdown on Friday was simply banning the whole darn group.

Now, I don’t go for all the personal attacks either, all the head-bobbing and furthermores… I’ve been the target of that often enough, and I find that calm rationale will carry the day… and I acknowledge AJC’s ownership of the portal… but censorship is BS. The dating topic of the day never lasts long. Topics aren’t strictly adhered to on other AJC blogs either. I consider the propriety of the Misadventures blog to be a bit over the top.

By will c

August 7, 2006 12:14 PM | Link to this

My date went well this weekend. I took her to the Falcons fan day. Morris Day and The Time performed and it reminded me of old times. Man, those guys still have it. I will ask her out for date 2.

Oh, many of you may not know but since you’ re reading a book about dating and relationships. I created a book about where to take a date in the city of Atlanta. It’s titled, “101 Dating Ideas For Atlanta Singles.” If you need any ideas on where to take a date in Atlanta, then this book is for you.

http://www.lulu.com/content/59240

By THE INFAMOUS DK

August 7, 2006 12:17 PM | Link to this

Most of the people that comment regularly were here from the beginning when Mia started it, remember her and understand that the blog could go from a dating to a cooking to a current events to a falcons blog or a heated discussion in a heartbeat because of the passion it invoked.. It was and is a beautiful blend of everything that surrounds dating not just bland topics about a horrible subject pertaining to dating and someone monitoring what you said.. You guys are trying to take the passion out of the blog.. Stop trying to regulate because you havent up to this point.. Its almost like you not raising your child all these years and now that he’s coming home from his first bid from prison you wanna give him a spanking.. To late the monster has been created.

By Sidelines

August 7, 2006 12:17 PM | Link to this

^5, Ms. Newark, well said…

On topic: Wasn’t able to participate in the weekend challenge, had a house full of family and did the family thing!

CONGRATULATIONS, Green eyes…crimson is right love is a beautiful thing

By Tazzee

August 7, 2006 12:20 PM | Link to this

olderandwiser I’ve read that book with the title that you can’t type and I thought it was very good and true.

As it relates to other book - he’s just not into you - I guess I think a lot of that book is common sense. You know that if you want to spend time with someone you will make the time, so why do you need a book to tell you that a man will do the same. But I guess some women just need to see it in print. To me, that’s similar to some of these basic books on money. Most people know what they need to do to get their finances in order, its just not going to happen until they are truly sick and tired of being broke. The same is true with dating, most women aren’t going to stop making excuses for men until they are truly sick and tired of getting dogged.

By SeanJohnson

August 7, 2006 12:20 PM | Link to this

What is the difference between David and 2can? If David can attack sJea…and not be banned or have his post removed… how can the moderaters justify banning dude? Before even having a topic today the moderators should have addressed what happended friday. And just like DK said in his post…when things where boring yall are the same females that wanted him to get things stirred up…But i see when things get real and things were brought up that really happens in dating…reputations and so called fake personas get compromised.

By Sidelines

August 7, 2006 12:21 PM | Link to this

^5, Ms. Newark, well said…

On topic: Wasn’t able to participate in the weekend challenge, had a house full of family and did the family thing!

CONGRATULATIONS, Green eyes…crimson is right love is a beautiful thing

By storm

August 7, 2006 12:31 PM | Link to this

Hey QC! Looking forward to GAVI’s return, as well.

You make an excellent point, KYM. On the other hand, when I read you voicing your opinons in the very forceful way you do, you still manage to do so with a certain amount of class. There is a way to say anything. As for the off topic convo, I find it entertaining and amusing. I just don’t care for negativity. I don’t even read posts full of venom. brushing shoulders off And I do not engage them. I do not judge, either, as I just dragged a new chase lounge ova to the cooling fans and I expect to be there for quite a long time! LMAO

By LahLah(Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006

August 7, 2006 12:38 PM | Link to this

Storm I’m glad!

By Juggernaut Demi

August 7, 2006 12:41 PM | Link to this

JUGGERNAUT

hello QC and Storm

THE INFAMOUS DK: You know SOME women on here are weak.

Starr preach on Satan, I am close to being banned anyhow.

David your future looks bright in Hellsville.

Randyt most topic don’t last pass 12noon, ‘cause the other 19,945 are still lurking

PD Thing happens sweetie, but life goes on…but it’s good to read you again**

Sex on an airplane is hard work, dont believe the hype

Attention Demi’s Enemies: Do not respond to any of my postings, but I will respond to yours as rudely and timely as possible. Thank you and remember God bless!! You may return to the dark side now….

By Raqi

August 7, 2006 12:43 PM | Link to this

For those looking for a quirky way to pick-up a guy, this weekend a girlfriend and I were on our way to lunch and we passed a man wearing a dress shirt and slacks changing his tire on the side of the road. He entire back was wet from sweating in that unbearable heat. My friend had me to pull into a gas station, she went in and bought him a bottle of water and we took it back to him. He must have been thankful because they exchanged numbers. Now we will see what becomes of it.

By LahLah(Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006

August 7, 2006 12:45 PM | Link to this

Hey QC

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

August 7, 2006 12:47 PM | Link to this

Well storm I will continue to voice my opinions,beliefs and feelings as forceful as possible. This blog has shown me the true nature of people actually one particular person in fact, and I am grateful for it I was particularly blinded but thanks to the blog, I am aware of just the type of person they truly are. So thank you AJC.com!!!

By QC

August 7, 2006 12:49 PM | Link to this

Demi what’s up Baby-Boy

By FYRESTARRTER (Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006

August 7, 2006 12:49 PM | Link to this

RA RA REE, KICK THEM IN THE … (WELL YOU GET THE IDEA!) I disagree that we should NOT be able to discuss other things as long as we do not get out of control or so far OFF TOPIC that there is NO REIGNING us back in. HOWEVER I do feel that personalized attacks & constant use of extremely foul language & dragging ones personal business out in the streets parading for all others to see is NOT appropriate for a public forum at all. Whether or NOT a relationship occured is IRRELEVANT, what is indeed relevant is whether or not each person is mature enough to keep what occured between them AND not use this PUBLIC forum as a place to humiliate & belittle someone (something I have noticed that a few people on here subscribe to as their daily routine of choice). It’s ok to get angry but when you bring that pain expect some in return.

By STORM, I guess I'm a cheerleader, too, right??

August 7, 2006 12:50 PM | Link to this

DEMI, my sweet! How nice of you to show up! Would you like some candy? hehehe

By Ms. Newark

August 7, 2006 12:51 PM | Link to this

Although I am engaged, I still meet a lot of nice guys at the grocery store and the car detail shop.

By Skegee(formerly SheSpeaks formerly Skegee)

August 7, 2006 12:53 PM | Link to this

Stop trying to regulate because you havent up to this point.. Its almost like you not raising your child all these years and now that he’s coming home from his first bid from prison you wanna give him a spanking.. To late the monster has been created.

But DK what’s to say that kid home from his first bid from prison shouldn’t be disciplined? He’s supposed to get a pass just of past learned behavior? That Monster still needs to be dealth with.

Regardless of how much of a staple in the community AJC has proven to be. The paper is owned by Cox Communications. They can do whatever the hell they want to do with respect to their newspaper. If you wanna spend your day blasting people like you have nothing else better to do, get your own. Want passion? Make some.

How many times have you heard parents say, “I brought you into this world and I’ll take you out”? This blogs last name is Cox.

By QC

August 7, 2006 12:53 PM | Link to this

Raqi now that’s what i’m talking about…do keep us posted!

By FYRESTARRTER (Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006

August 7, 2006 12:55 PM | Link to this

DAYUM HERE WE GO WITH THE PERSONALIZED ATTACKS AGAIN!! I’M GOING TO START BEING LIKE THE NUNS I GREW UP WITH A RAPPING KNUCKLES WITH A WOODEN RULER OR SPOON EVEN!

*HEY MISS QC, STORM, LAH, RAQI, PD357, TAZZEE, THICK, AND ALL NEWCOMERS! DAS (YOU OUT THERE GYRL? PAGE WHERE YOU AT? WE NEED YOUR WIT TODAY! *

By FYRESTARRTER (Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006

August 7, 2006 12:57 PM | Link to this

RAQI Aww that is TOO sweet! Hopefully there WILL be a connect there sounds like something starting up!!!

By QC-Let's all cheer for Gavi coming back.....yipppeee!!!

August 7, 2006 01:04 PM | Link to this

Hey MsFyrre

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

August 7, 2006 01:07 PM | Link to this

Is that cursing I see, Ohhhh Ban patrol are u on alert?

By DASvenus

August 7, 2006 01:07 PM | Link to this

Good afternoon ppl

I didn’t participate in the dating challenge but I plan to contact someone today. In fact, I would appreciate some blog help….. I have to contact the optometrist that my children saw last week. I need to obtain the pprwk needed to registrar my little one for school. Now his secretary could proly handle my request, but I want to speak with him. And when I do how do I segue into ‘are you currently dating anyone?’

H E L P

Re Friday boycott? why?

so what if you cant intelligently articulate your feelings when you feel personally attacked, and resort to name-calling and cussin

so what if your height is a sensitive issue with you, and you lose control when someone insults your ability to sit on the curb and swing your legs

so what you schemed someone out some money and took advantage using deceit and distorted charm

so what you are censored for your ‘fight the power’ mentality you spew on a dating blog

so what you obviously need anger mgmt classes, or a really good lay

so what this blog is a trivial part of a persons real life, though perhaps discussed for its entertainment value after 5pm

so what there are still narrow-minded individuals using the ‘n’ word and even know how to type and post it

so what if everyone else equates maturity with being able to say whatever, to whomever with civility

*ppl it is not about @ cussin or his attacks on ppl, its that he was contacted and asked to pull up….. but instead he chose to ignore the request and attempted to incite others to follow in his chosen course of action. Its not what you say, its how you say it… how many times we heard our mamas say that? Come’on, you all don’t know what was said in the emails between 2 and the ajc. He could very well be wrong….. and maybe the blog wasn’t shut down, maybe there was ajc technical difficulty…… don’t play into a conspiracy theory. Its NOT that serious. Too often, Too many times, with Too many ppl 2can deliberately insulted, demean sarcastically questioned ppl on the blog, causing embarrassment, hurt feelings and anxiety for ppl who might not have anything else going on in their lives but this blog…. Not that might be sad, but whats more pitiful if we’re above giving love and good vibes from 8 to 5

By LahLah

August 7, 2006 01:08 PM | Link to this

Hey Fyre I guess you all didn’t go out Saturday??? Baby daddy leaves for Paris tomorrow so the “free time/me time” is really over! But I will be able to hang every other weekend! Yippee!! Oh and an occasional Thursday.

On topic Going forward, I promise to minimize the amount of fake cursing I use on this blog. I’m known to use bad words too often in “real life” and I’m working on that so I will work on it while bloggin as well. Girl Scouts Honor

By Laney

August 7, 2006 01:10 PM | Link to this

SeanJ, I don’t think any of us wanted to spend all day today reliving the unpleasantness that was Friday. If you have any questions, I can try to answer them - I don’t have the power to ban people or shut off discussion, but I can try to help explain if you want.

However, I am enjoying today’s comments, everyone is (mostly) keeping their language completely appropriate, and I’d rather just dwell on that!

By Cinderella

August 7, 2006 01:11 PM | Link to this

thanks for the well wishes but I only think a proposal’s coming, I could be totally wrong (sigh)…but I have to say…that man has me thinking about moving across the states, having his babies, and washing his drawers. LOL!

By Tess

August 7, 2006 01:11 PM | Link to this

Raqi: Perfect! Thanks for the tip. If he was in a dress shirt & tie, I would have offered to change the tire FOR him since I’m usually in shorts & tees.

Longtime Lurker: What does race have to do with dating or books on dating?

NoNonsense: What a SWEET thing to do! I hope he deserves you!

OlderandWiser: Thanks for the tip on the reads. I’ll be checking those out.

I’m outta here, but thanks for sharing everyone!

By Tazzee

August 7, 2006 01:13 PM | Link to this

Raqi - your friend gets points for that one. That was real thoughtful of her.

By FYRESTARRTER (Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006

August 7, 2006 01:16 PM | Link to this

Lah Lah Nah we didn’t meet but Gavi will be back REAL soon so you know it’s on lol! I ended up having my niece for the weekend so we could have a SERIOUS heart to heart. It worked out well.

By runninatl

August 7, 2006 01:17 PM | Link to this

Good afternoon people.

It’s too dayumn hot in the A to be arguing today. Not sure what happened on Friday, sounds like a real mess though…lol. So from what I’ve read today, I gather 2CPTG got banned for speaking his mind and misspelling some profanity but you can go on other blogs and say whatever you want without any repercussions? That’s life so what’s the big deal, it goes on in other segments of society so why should we think that the powers that be won’t show their might on here as well. No one pays any money to come on here and it’s just the internet so if 2CPTG wants to come back and continue to keep it real then he will, believe that. He’s a grown man and he doesn’t seem like the type to be censored if doesn’t want to be.

On topic: No dates, closed Vision down this weekend, still recovering…lol.

LOL @ Kym’s, Storm’s & DK’s accurate insight of the blog.

By DASvenus

August 7, 2006 01:18 PM | Link to this

…. and further more… do you mayne, but bottomline: do it somewhere else…. so w h a t

hey Fyre Lah Storm QC Kym errrbody!

lah imma join you in that phasing out cussing thang….. does dayum count?

By QC

August 7, 2006 01:19 PM | Link to this

Did anyone besides me see the real & true version of Flavor of Love Season 2?

I could not stop laughing!!!!!!

By Laney

August 7, 2006 01:21 PM | Link to this

hey runnin! thanks for our topic!

By Mr. B

August 7, 2006 01:21 PM | Link to this

I was supposed to have a date this weekend, but as often happens with online dating, it turned out to be a fake - she backed out once and then dropped from sight. I suspected this was going to happen, her pictures looked fake and didn’t match her voice. My experience is that about half the women I meet online are married or committed - they’re just playing for the attention. And of the other half, a good percentage are mentally unstable or emotionally damaged.

My online dates have ranged from the woman with 3 dogs who hadn’t dated in three years (a sure sign this is going nowhere) to the never-married lady who, on the advise of her shrink and ‘trying’ to date. That one couldn’t make it through dinner without popping a Zanex.

Sadly, I’m beginning to think that any woman who’s worth it and sincerely open to a new relationship isn’t lookinig online.

By Blue_Kolla

August 7, 2006 01:22 PM | Link to this

What up yoll?

What’s up, ery’body on their good behavior now? Yoll kill me - apologizing… turning over new leaves… basically backsliding on a blog… Now ain’t thata beyotch!

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Dayumn

August 7, 2006 01:22 PM | Link to this

@Laney why not? I was unpleasantly surprised by the comments made by a blogger on another blog site, and I sure in a sec when I go over to the Norcross site I will be equally offended at the immigration talk there. Does the editor from the blogs take comments like the regular editor to the paper does? I have no desire to play nice, as a matter of fact today I am taking great pleasure in not playing nice at all and may not play nice for the rest of the week.

By FYRESTARRTER (Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006

August 7, 2006 01:22 PM | Link to this

Das All you have to do is tell his assistant that you really have an urgent matter that you need to speak with him about & do it in a nice way. Or you could even go at it like you want to compliment him on the way things were handled during lil man’s last appt. Feel the assistant out first to see which approach is best. Also it also helps to bribe the said assistant (gateway lol) with chocolate lol.

By Thick

August 7, 2006 01:24 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon Good People

I have been dating mostly every weekend, sometimes I just don’t feel like going out on dates, and truly I have passed up summer sweetie advances. Just to position myself for lasting relationship, ya know some good investment and settle down action.

Got-a-life. Make Peace, not War

By QC

August 7, 2006 01:24 PM | Link to this

Hello DASv hope you’re having a great day!

By FYRESTARRTER (Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006

August 7, 2006 01:25 PM | Link to this

runnin nah boo, PLEASE go back & read & then re-assess! I promise the show is worth the price of admission.

By Starr

August 7, 2006 01:28 PM | Link to this

Running you need to go back and read up on friday’s postings yep he’s a grown man, yep he’s outspoken. But if he does come back it won’t be under his same blogging name for sure. My work day is over now; it starts @ 5:30am have a good monday

By Laney

August 7, 2006 01:28 PM | Link to this

Kym, if you want to contact the blogs editor, send me an email and I’ll give you the address.

By LahLah

August 7, 2006 01:29 PM | Link to this

QC Ew…. I didn’t watch it but I heard about it. Gross!

What up DAS yes dayum counts.

fyre I’m glad you had a successful heart to heart with your niece. Yea I got Gavi’s email this morning….. I didn’t get the picture though so if one of you has it, please send it to me.

By DASvenus

August 7, 2006 01:30 PM | Link to this

QC thanks sista-girl. i am… hope you are too!

Fyre LOL…. ok. so once that is done, what to i say to ole boy without sounding total stupid? i can be a bit corny though… cause he is. but its so cute on him

BlueK errrday is about turning over a new leaf, being a better you than what you was yesterday…. come’on! get with the program….. LOL

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Curse word not to be mention on this particular blog

August 7, 2006 01:30 PM | Link to this

Had to update my name..

By Page1908

August 7, 2006 01:31 PM | Link to this

Hey Everyone…hey Fyre. I wasn’t aware of what happened on Friday because I have been out of town. Anyway, Happy Monday.

By FYRESTARRTER (Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006

August 7, 2006 01:33 PM | Link to this

OK OK Das DAYUM counts jeez lol.

By THE INFAMOUS DK

August 7, 2006 01:34 PM | Link to this

Skeegee I said prison not juvenile.. Prison denotes said individual is of adult age..

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Curse word not to be mention on this particular blog

August 7, 2006 01:36 PM | Link to this

@Laney now now, you have my real email address, just click the link next to my id.

I always wondered why my email addy displays here and not on Wooten, or Mom-mania, or any other blogs? HMMM.

By FYRESTARRTER (Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006

August 7, 2006 01:36 PM | Link to this

BK as usual…. Anyway, don’t think of it a backsliding boo, think of is a GROWING UP. In other words change comes in all forms & either you can say your peace & live with it, or go home & pout, stomp, snort. It’s up to you luv.

By FYRESTARRTER (Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006

August 7, 2006 01:38 PM | Link to this

Page Gyrl you miss a trainwreck the likes of Amtrak!! Check it out!!

By Blue_Kolla

August 7, 2006 01:41 PM | Link to this

DAS True that about the “being a better you” but do it because it’s the right thing to do and not because of some clown behind the curtain is doing a rain dance.

So here’s a program for you - Since bold moves happen everyday (citing Ford), use one and walk straight up on dude and tell him that you’re interested in the vibe that he’s emitting and if he’d like to have lunch to discuss it in further detail. Save the game shyt for the old you of yesteryear.

By FYRESTARRTER (Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006

August 7, 2006 01:42 PM | Link to this

hmmph I see someone is riding the crimson wave this week. DUCK everyone, just duck!

By storm

August 7, 2006 01:44 PM | Link to this

KYM, I would expect no less of you and would be disappointed if you weren’t your often spicy self. Spice is a season, bitter is not. As I said, you do so in a way that exudes some class and that is how it should be done. I agree with everything you said, pretty much. Continue to do you.

Hey DAS! You IS a HOT MESS! I vote you go see ol boy about that paperwork you need and gently say what’s on your mind.

By DuShawn

August 7, 2006 01:46 PM | Link to this

I just read some of the post from Friday. I didn’t read anything that warranted being banned from future participation. Was the blog actually shut down or were there just technical difficulties which prevented posting as we have experienced in the past?

By Jewel

August 7, 2006 01:47 PM | Link to this

Itsmore I know. Parking was ridiculous. I live in Stockbridge, so I was not about to drive back home “empty handed!” LOL! I arrived after 12 and pulled into a spot directly across the street.

You know, if someone says or does something that I disagree with and we make no progress in communicating, I choose to walk away. Depending on the level of the relationship, perhaps we can discuss the issue later in a more civilized manner. It is best for me to ignore them if that person wants to argue. My grandmother told me that the hardest time to keep your mouth shut is when you know that you are right. Life has taught me this on many occasions because I had to be heard and I had to be right. I have also learned that there is a time and place for everything. A couple of bloggers have attempted to attack me, but I chose to ignore them. I have a life and trying to prove myself to faceless bloggers is not on my priority list. I do not think the moderators are against topics that spawn from the main topic. They are justifiably against personal attacks. I think this is the main point. Personal attacks serve no meaningful purpose on a blog or anywhere, for that matter.

By DASvenus

August 7, 2006 01:47 PM | Link to this

KYM BECAUSE ITS A FREAKIN DATING BLOG, AND ALLOWS PPL TO PRIVATELY CONTACT OTHER BLOGGERS THEY MIGHT BE INTERESTED IN…. DAYUM!!!

sorry LAH… imma have to support to tomorrow it looks like… LOL

By "Longtime Lurker"

August 7, 2006 01:48 PM | Link to this

@Tess Race in dating could be another blog topic, that we could elaborate on all date long!

There are clear differences in how people from different ethnic backgrounds date and the communication is definitely different in each case.

By FYRESTARRTER (Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006!)

August 7, 2006 01:50 PM | Link to this

I don’t really have a problem going after then one I want. But there are times when the method in the madness get misconstrued. So I falter a bit. I did however schedule a date with someone I would not have NORMALLY decided to go out with. And my backups will be back in state so if THAT doesn’t work out then WHO KNOWS what’s in store lol.

By QC

August 7, 2006 01:50 PM | Link to this

Hey Page

Sup BK

i see you were asking me for some popcorn friday, i’ll save a bag for you

By Randyt (aka Been there, done that, got the t-shirt)

August 7, 2006 01:50 PM | Link to this

It is too hot for romance, and too hot for making war on this blog, but just how hot is it???? It is so hot, I cooked three meals this weekend on the hood of my car. i would have cooked more, but it was too dayum hot.

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Curse word not to be mention on this particular blog

August 7, 2006 01:51 PM | Link to this

@Fyrestarrter please feel free to address me directly I am sure everyone was aware that you were the person I was addressing as revealing their true nature on this blog.

By "Longtime Lurker"

August 7, 2006 01:51 PM | Link to this

@QC This season of Flavor of Love is gonna be off the chain!!!

Where did they find these broads??? That scene where the girl went on his self was classic!

By FYRESTARRTER (Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006!)

August 7, 2006 01:54 PM | Link to this

DuShawn D—-m bruh what blog where YOU reading? I’m sorry but the train derailed just after lunch & there is NO way that one was going to get back on track. We are in the matrix & Agents are everywhere, sometimes the best policy is to act accordingly & live to fight another day.

By Blue_Kolla

August 7, 2006 01:55 PM | Link to this

Fyre Come on now sistahgirl. You start shyt just like everybody else. But when you get to be the Bull in the Ring, you get funky. Now you’re over there singing spirituals as if you’ve been keeping watch on the Holy Candle all this time…

On the 2Can deal, all I have to say on that is for those with the newfound courage to throw salt, if you didn’t have the balls/ovaries to talk the talk when he was here, why do it now? That’s just weak.

By FYRESTARRTER (Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006!)

August 7, 2006 01:56 PM | Link to this

Das Gyrl I FEEL YOU TRUST!!!

By Randyt (aka Been there, done that, got the t-shirt)

August 7, 2006 01:56 PM | Link to this

Last word and then for sure back to ‘dating’.

When I was a student at UT, there was a Greek deli on the Strip I ate at many times. There was a poster on the wall that showed two people “yah yahing” at each other. The caption said, “never argue with an idiot, bystanders can’t always tell which is which”. Good advice and I wish I had remembered it every time I got in an arguement with someone.

Just a thought, now back to work for me.

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Curse word not to be mention on this particular blog

August 7, 2006 01:56 PM | Link to this

So Das does that mean that 2Can turn you down offline and is that why you are spitting fire today. I mean a while ago you were offering to do everything but bear his children? So dish girl it after all a dating blog!!!

By runninatl

August 7, 2006 01:58 PM | Link to this

Hey Laney, sorry I didn’t particpate in the challenge but I had too much fun this weekend…lol.

Okay, Friday was off the meter and then got cut short, that’s classic…lmao.

DAS Not trying to start anything, just clownin as always but I thought 2 was your boy? Now you got words on the blog about him? Hmmmm….sounds suspect….LOL.

LOL @ Frye & Starr, ya’ll were right…hehehe.

By THE INFAMOUS DK

August 7, 2006 01:58 PM | Link to this

Skegee I’m not blasting anyone.. I am just sitting here looking at most of ya’ll who were on 2’s bandwagon goo-goo’n and gah gah’n and now that he’s gone ya’ll wanna talk bad about him.. Now you know me I am not the one to mix words here but if you take offense to it then thats you.. Besides I dont even come on here with the lonely hearts memos either, I have a very healthy passionate sex life because thats who I am and what I like. I dont have problems meeting women and the rotation is always up to par but I tend to humor most of you.. Come on Skegee of all people I got love for you cause you went to my alma mater and we share something deeper than words itself… The Chicken Coop

Oh and for those bashing 2 you shouldnt have slept with him or contacted him on sidebars looking like a desperate babe in need of a man he wouldnt have anything to talk about if you hadnt participated in the Real Sex marathon.. See the reason I can speak on it is because alot of you hit me up on the side and we chat a bit but I’m never interested in meeting anyone from the blog because I am old fashioned and leave the internet dating for people that need it.. I like to meet my new prospects face to face.. Imagine me on the internet taking some babe from a dude that would have never met her unless he sat behind a computer screen and made himself out to be someone else.. I’m already Internationally known, nationally recognized and locally accepted.. So from this moment forward I will no longer be accepting anymore indescent proposals via e-mail.. I will however start a website for public meet/greets and autograph signings for my fans.. Chuuuuurch!

By Tess

August 7, 2006 01:59 PM | Link to this

@ Longtime Lurker: Maybe you’re right, that just hasn’t been my experience. I’ve dated all races and there are good guys and bad guys in each set. It seems racist to me to label an entire ethnic group so narrowly.

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Curse word not to be mention on this particular blog

August 7, 2006 02:06 PM | Link to this

@DK amen everything except the internet dating..I am a supporter of internet dating.

By sJeaSexyCool

August 7, 2006 02:08 PM | Link to this

oh…and just for the record…i wasn’t onblog on friday…and have not gone back to read it…IF the board is even still there…

i just know that i have known 2 for more than 2 yrs…sometimes, he is WAY LEFT and sometimes he is WRONG for how he goes about the things he says and does but since i don’t know anybody who’s perfect, he’s a good enough dude for me…

i was contacted this morning and when i learned of his blocked access, it was decided to put up another board…

and i while i don’t ALWAYS agree with some of the thing’s that 2 says…i support his freedom to say it…

saying to self…Self, what have you gotten yourself into?

By FYRESTARRTER (Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006!)

August 7, 2006 02:08 PM | Link to this

Nah Blue See the difference? The object of the bullfighter when it gets in the ring is to AVOID BEING killed & to killed the bull. That does not mean DRAG the bull all over the ring & deface the sanctity of that which is the legend. In other words, EVERY DEBATE is GOING to end eventually & whether or not there is agreement, there is still the spirit of the debate. Hence the saying “agree to disagree”. It’s really that simple.

By Skegee(formerly SheSpeaks formerly Skegee)

August 7, 2006 02:08 PM | Link to this

Skeegee I said prison not juvenile.. Prison denotes said individual is of adult age..

I guess I’m still waiting on you to make your point DK. That wasn’t it, was it?

By runninatl

August 7, 2006 02:09 PM | Link to this

I see DK, Blue, & Kym picked up on the same thing I was reading, some folks have done a complete 180!!….LMMFAO! Oh boy, if there is one thing this blog rarely lacks it’s entertainment and laughs!!

“I will however start a website for public meet/greets and autograph signings for my fans.. Chuuuuurch!“…..that’s classic, you are a nut. I know you ruffled some panties with that post! LMMFAO!

Sup Randyt.

By Page1908

August 7, 2006 02:09 PM | Link to this

I am also wondering why Das is now throwing salt at 2. LOL, it’s funny how a couple of weeks ago 2 could do no wrong, etc…lol how funny

By QC

August 7, 2006 02:11 PM | Link to this

@LL i don’t know where they got dem gals from…but this season is not to be played with! You know they’re bringing NewYork back also….yes, now she was my favorite from the 1st show cause i knew Hoopz was in it for the fame only.

By FYRESTARRTER (Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006!)

August 7, 2006 02:14 PM | Link to this

runnin, DK, BK actually I think the majority of the people who are speaking out regarding the train wreck called friday were the SAME people that on Friday did not have much to say. The inmates were running the asylum & some people just aren’t comfortable in that scenario.

By "Longtime Lurker"

August 7, 2006 02:14 PM | Link to this

@Tess It’s not a racial situation, unless you make it into one. If you really check out the landscape of dating in America, you will see that different ethnic backgrounds date differently and communicate different, that is all I am saying!

The guys who wrote that book, wrote from their personal exp. in dating, but did they address dating a black woman and asian woman, etc. NO! They gave an overall answer to dating, which did not scratch the surface with common issues we face, while DWB (Dating While Black).

By DuShawn

August 7, 2006 02:16 PM | Link to this

@Fryestarrter The last post in the archives for Friday is at 1:49 PM. Unless some things were said after that, I stand by my original statement regarding his comments not warranting the consequence. It appears that 2 said he beat an anonymous girl out of some bread….so what. I must be missing something.

By Skegee(formerly SheSpeaks formerly Skegee)

August 7, 2006 02:18 PM | Link to this

OH, I got mad love for you and the Coop DK, when I spoke of passion, my intent was to get people to make some positive things happen in their life not about making love. Seems a better use of time and energy than putting so much energy into somebody else’s blog. See what I’m sayin’?

Also, I’ve never been one to goo or gah over 2. Go back and read up. Not me.

By Blue_Kolla

August 7, 2006 02:18 PM | Link to this

LOL @ DK killing the scorned broads.

By "Longtime Lurker"

August 7, 2006 02:18 PM | Link to this

DK I went to GA Tech, but boy I remember going down to homecoming at T.U. and eating at the Chicken Coop and hittin on all y’all fine women back in the day! Man, that is the best chicken I have eva had and that place has been around like 90 years!

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Curse word not to be mention on this particular blog

August 7, 2006 02:19 PM | Link to this

@LL you are not the guy going to be in the one man show next year at 7stages are you? Me and my friend are going to see the play Called Disposble Men. Talking about how Hollyweird and America view Black men.

By THE INFAMOUS DK

August 7, 2006 02:20 PM | Link to this

Skegee After he has gone to prison its to late to whip him then cause he might be whipping you instead.. He’s too old for the discipline you should have given him as a child.. The Blog is too grown to try and chastise people now when its been becoming a monster way before most people knew it was here.. I guess its time to chastise its members for being so DIRRRRRRTTTTTTTTYY

By "Longtime Lurker"

August 7, 2006 02:23 PM | Link to this

Kym Hummm, now there lies a thought…

By Jewel

August 7, 2006 02:23 PM | Link to this

Ditto RandyT. My grandmother also told me that people look stupid arguing with themselves. Somebody has to know when to shut up.

LOL Mr. B!!! I have heard of some online success stories. In fact, a close friend is engaged to someone she met online. He does not live in the ATL.

By Cee

August 7, 2006 02:25 PM | Link to this

@LL I feel the same way Tess feels. I too have dated other races and I see no difference. It’s a just a myth. Interracial dating is on the rise. Catch up!

By THE INFAMOUS DK

August 7, 2006 02:25 PM | Link to this

LL But it was a beautiful thang at the ole coop though huh.. Yeah GT was a source of major babes alot of dudes didnt know about.. I loved your campus as well because I was an engineering major and studued there many weekends while at home..

By FYRESTARRTER (Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006!)

August 7, 2006 02:26 PM | Link to this

DuShawn Since when are you one of those people that thrives off of inflamatory, demeaning, dehumanizing statements instead of useful, communicable dialogue or even humorous banter? C’mon Dushawn I expect more of you than being a fan of “Cheaters” & “jerry Springer”. You know that is NOT the way to TRULY get your message across. As you have seen today MORE people will shy away from such message than will be intrigued or enamored by it enough to listen AND support.

By Randyt (aka Been there, done that, got the t-shirt)

August 7, 2006 02:27 PM | Link to this

Hey runnin how ya doing? Sidebar: I still have to go back and listen to Voddie’s third sermon. Was it as good as I heard?

By Blue_Kolla

August 7, 2006 02:28 PM | Link to this

Fyre Point 1: Wrong game. I said “Bull in the Ring” not “Bullfight”. Bull in the ring is where you stand alone or pretty much alone while everyone else lines the circle and takes shots at you, for and aft. And on this blog, EVERYONE gets their chance. Bullfighting, however is a one-on-one man against beast (actually beast against animal) type of affair.

Anyway, Point 2: I think the majority of the people who are speaking out regarding the train wreck called friday were the SAME people that on Friday did not have much to say.

Are you suprised? Ponks ain’t got nothing to say until the cops show up and somebody’s in cuffs.

By DASvenus

August 7, 2006 02:30 PM | Link to this

KYM and RUNNIN 2 is still my boy… will be cause thats how we are. and i throw my panties at errbody on the blog, kym… nothing new so what i still got mad love for 2, but he knows wassup… he even knows how i feel bout his temper, and my desire for him to be comfortable being soft in public…. he gotta start on in private first tho but since you all missed my point and i am sure he DIDNT I will speak plainly, but nicely: so what if someone got booted for alleged infractions… tell me what i need to say to the optometrist when i call, since this is a DATING blog!

By SeanJohnson

August 7, 2006 02:30 PM | Link to this

@ BK…i was thinking the EXACT same thing…and i am willing to bet..none of them even comment on what LL said…

By Skegee(formerly SheSpeaks formerly Skegee)

August 7, 2006 02:31 PM | Link to this

And what I’m saying DK is that the commentors don’t own this blog. Not THIS one. It’s not government owned. I believe two little old ladies owned Cox Communications and my guess is that their worker bees wanna run this blog the way they wanna run it.
When you own your paper, blog or whatever, you/they/y’all can run THAT.

Anyway…you going to Homecoming?

By Skegee(formerly SheSpeaks formerly Skegee)

August 7, 2006 02:34 PM | Link to this

LL there were two Chicken Coops for a while but after the owner died, his wife closed one…and his Mistress kept the other open. HA! It’s still good though.

By FYRESTARRTER (Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006!)

August 7, 2006 02:35 PM | Link to this

Sorry Blue I grew up overseas, neva heard of such a game. Thanks for the info. BUT am I suprised, NO, to be honest I think there are scenarios where the gang up mentality prevails & scenarios where it will not. Some people walk away head held high, some people cower.

By "Longtime Lurker"

August 7, 2006 02:38 PM | Link to this

@DK Come on bruh, you know ain’t no dad gone way you can compare GT and TU! We had nerdy broads over at the Ramblin Wreck, while you guys had O.D. do I need to say more! And what about that freak list down in the valley every year and Costie McNair?

Cee I don’t think you realize that I have prolly dated more than just black women! Trust that there are a lot of differences in communication and makeup.

By runninatl

August 7, 2006 02:42 PM | Link to this

Randyt I missed it as well so I will be online listening to it later on!

“Ponks ain’t got nothing to say until the cops show up and somebody’s in cuffs.“….boy it’s funny how things turn out Blue…hahahaha.

Fyre If the asylum analogy is how people took it then that’s cool, but it definitely did not read like that to me just now. All I’m saying is that it’s funny how some of the same people who were co-signing and giving 2 his props everyday are now brand new and talking about how he’s a short dude with anger management problems. There’s nothing to read into that, just someone flippin the script, plain and simple. And rest assured, proof can be provided, it’s just a copy and paste away into the blog archives….lmao.

By FYRESTARRTER (Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006!)

August 7, 2006 02:43 PM | Link to this

LL I have interacially dated in the past & I have to agree with you that there IS a difference regarding the interaction between the sexes/races.

By Page1908

August 7, 2006 02:45 PM | Link to this

Hey QC. Fyre I went back and read Friday’s comments, and I see what you mean now. Dang!

I actually agree with LL in that there are many differences in communication and make up when dating people of other races. This can also be applied to other demographics as well.

By DuShawn

August 7, 2006 02:48 PM | Link to this

Fyrestarrter I don’t understand the basis of your 2:26 comment. My point was that I didn’t read anything in 2can’s post that was “dehumanizing”. I’m not even going to address the “C’mon Dushawn I expect more of you” statement.

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Curse word not to be mention on this particular blog

August 7, 2006 02:49 PM | Link to this

@Das and I think you missed my question, you are throwing fire and going off on him when he is not here to defend his actions, when just a while ago you were throwing yourself at him, so since this is a dating blog and you brought up the fact that you apparently have this intimate relationship with him, I would (and I am sure a few other bloggers who are nosy like myself)like to know what cause this turn about? Did the dating go sour, did you do the beast with two backs, did he have funky breathe, because surely something had to cause this tremendous change of heart? After all like you said this is a dating blog. Give us your side then when he comes back when can get his side. See that is how they did it on Love Connection

By Blue_Kolla

August 7, 2006 02:50 PM | Link to this

SeanJ mayne, you remember back in school when the teacher would step out of class for a few minutes? When she came back you always had some folks acting like they had been quiet and doing their work… when all along, they were talking, running around, shooting spitballs, and flying planes… JUST LIKE ERY’BODY ELSE!!! That’s the scene that I see playing out right here.

By FYRESTARRTER (Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006!)

August 7, 2006 02:53 PM | Link to this

runnin luv I really think it’s all about perspective. Notice, how except for a few upstarts it mostly runs along gender lines.

By THE INFAMOUS DK

August 7, 2006 02:54 PM | Link to this

LL I wasnt saying it compared but there were some real beauties in the nooks and crannies of GT.. Ahhhhhh the freak list That was a masterpiece unless of course you showed up on it.. The ladies were terrified of that list and it usually was filled with freshmen that had no idea it existed until it was too late.. Oh and the usual suspects who were of course freaks and didnt care what list they were on..

By Jazzyone

August 7, 2006 02:54 PM | Link to this

Umm Its’ 3:00 in the afternoon and days have passed since Friday, why is it still being referenced??, I mean really why all the drama ALL the time??????? Gee wiz.

By Skegee(formerly SheSpeaks formerly Skegee)

August 7, 2006 02:54 PM | Link to this

OH goodness LL. I used to work for Costie McNair. Sounds like you spent a lot of time in Tuskegee.

By Cee

August 7, 2006 02:54 PM | Link to this

@LL I’m sure you probably have a colorful dating memoir. The world is full of different kind of people from all kinds of background and up bringing and even things learned from life lesson. I have dated white collar, blue collar, and no collar, some where good guys and some had their game and color has absolutly nothing to do with their games. Can you please tell me what is the difference between dating a Black man compared to a White man or a man of other race? I want to know what is your take.

By FYRESTARRTER (Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006!)

August 7, 2006 02:57 PM | Link to this

DuShawn I am sure you did not see anything dehumanizing in’s 2’s last post. After my recent observation (see note to runnin) it seems that clearly it you would NOT. (not throwing salt-truly just making an eye-opening observation)

By FYRESTARRTER (Active Member of the Cheerleading Squad since 2006!)

August 7, 2006 02:59 PM | Link to this

Jazzy I think the reason it is still being discussed is because most of us don’t have the ability to call the debate a draw & let it to. (I am guilty of that myself at times)

By THE INFAMOUS DK

August 7, 2006 03:01 PM | Link to this

Skegee It is going to be funny when we find out who is who because I am sure we know each other.. That is going to be a great laugh and you are probably going to be like I should have known it was you.. You aint changed..

By "Longtime Lurker"

August 7, 2006 03:03 PM | Link to this

@Skegee One of my frat went to skegee, so I was down there often. Less just say it was like a second home to me every homecoming.

Costie was sumthin serious and I loved going to Top Flight back in the day. If I had gone to T.U. I would not have finished, due to all this distractions and prolly be pushin a broom right about now..LOL

By THE INFAMOUS DK

August 7, 2006 03:06 PM | Link to this

Hey Ok I have to answer a question posed a while ago.. Yes I saw Flava of love and spit my beer out when Ole Girl Boo boo’d on the floor.. That whole show was crazy from the fist fight to the drunk chick all the way up to Flav looking like a clown with those suits of his. That show is horrible but i cant help but to watch the trainwreck..

By SeanJohnson

August 7, 2006 03:07 PM | Link to this

@ BK…believe it….and when the teacher came back…the class clown took the blame for everthing when it was the majority of the glass cutting up..its cool though…

@ Kym…i know you are still heated…but i got a question…my fantasy draft is tonite..NOT that i need pointers from a gyrl..but who are your sleepers?

By QC

August 7, 2006 03:08 PM | Link to this

Hey Jazzy

By Blue_Kolla

August 7, 2006 03:09 PM | Link to this

Running boy it’s funny how things turn out

I’m always amused by the things some people do.

Fyre Sorry Blue I grew up overseas

Oh really? So what does that have to do with anything for real? I just gave you a very basic understanding of the game. Now if you’d just parallel that to this blog, then the skill level needed for understanding should be minimal. Ya think?

By Blue_Kolla

August 7, 2006 03:17 PM | Link to this

SeanJ NOT that i need pointers from a gyrl..but who are your sleepers?

Man, don’t give ya girl any Head Helium. You can bet cho azz, that she’s at the desk sporting the big azz kool-aid smile on. LMAO

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Curse word not to be mention on this particular blog

August 7, 2006 03:19 PM | Link to this

@Sean no you didnt say help from a girl??? Well lets see..sleepers I was checking out Huggy Bear’s son last night from the Raidars..Fargas(I think that is right spelling). He looked good, and to make Blue happy check out the Redskins, I am not jumping on board Blue but they did pick up Randle-El-who I think is a awesome player.

By runninatl

August 7, 2006 03:19 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Kym and her nosey post, but I feel you….hahaha.

Jazzy My bad but I’ve been ghost for a minute and missed all that went down on Friday so I’m trying to catch up and get these blog cliff notes…lol.

Fyre I see the gender lines but it wasn’t my gender that brought up Friday? So tell me Fyre, why do some women like mess, drama?…lol.

DAS Okay, if you say so but your post came off real shady. As far as the dude you want to holla at, don’t do it over the phone. Tighten up your thong and approach ol boy in person!…lol. Slip him your card on the way out or something and tell him you’ll be expecting his call.

By DASvenus

August 7, 2006 03:21 PM | Link to this

kym 2 and i have not dated, are not dating, might date in the future. nothing went sour, nothing went bad. YOU ARE MISSING MY POINT…. 2 sometimes needs to calm his booty down and chill, the world does not revolve around him and his stints with the ajc i.t. dept…. at least not this blog he knows i think that about him, we’ve discussed it… its alll love btw us, at least on my end. i got mad love for all you blog-heads, geez. 2can, when he thinks and looks at the bigger pic and considers the gift he has to dialogue,… he acknowledge his lesson learned here on the blog and be back bigger and more beautiful…. trust meh.

now go kick rocks fo you get me censored

By SeanJohnson

August 7, 2006 03:25 PM | Link to this

@ Kym and BK…just trying to cover all bounderies…I am thinking about taking the Redskins D….Kyms mind seem so abstract she my luck up and be good at fantansy football..

By Blue_Kolla

August 7, 2006 03:26 PM | Link to this

Runnin Slip him your card on the way out or something and tell him you’ll be expecting his call.

As long as the broad… or female/chick/woman/lady is half-way decent, and dude isn’t tied up, that approach ‘ll warrant at least one phone call. LOL

By Chink

August 7, 2006 03:26 PM | Link to this

Weekend Date ..Nope …last term in Graduate program ..No life

Depressed not even the blog was able to get me out of my rut even with all the drama

Can I go back on vacation?

By aggressively witty

August 7, 2006 03:27 PM | Link to this

Hailllll to the redskins haillll victory. They WILL win it all this year. With jason campbell not brunell. I said it, so it shall be.

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Curse word not to be mention on this particular blog

August 7, 2006 03:33 PM | Link to this

Da dont get mad I mean if you and ole boy had a falling out then you had a falling out. I mean you have come on the blog and went bolo on him calling him short and everything but a chile of god and then talking about but I have love for him when the blogger point out that your stuff is a little foul. It cant all between you because see you have brought it here, as for me getting you censored, it would be my pleasure to assist you in anyway possible in getting kicked off, but I dont think they kick folks off for being phony. Otherwise I bet some folks would be right behind you, but then again they are on your cheer team so birds of a feather babe birds of a feather.

By Blue_Kolla

August 7, 2006 03:33 PM | Link to this

Takes note at how ery’body handles Kym ,as if she’s Mrs. Big Badd.

By Jewel

August 7, 2006 03:34 PM | Link to this

So, there is a communication problem between men and women, no matter the age or race. What is the problem? Do we remain on opposite sides of the fence, or are we willing to find some common ground? Is the man/woman ALWAYS right, or is someone willing to compromise? Is it because women have 100 words for every two words spoken by a man?

Fellas Why do men say “nothing’s wrong” and a week (or several months) later BRING IT UP AGAIN? What? I thought we were past that!? Where did that come from?

Ladies why do we need to analyze each and every moment, rather than take things one…day…at…a…time?

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Curse word not to be mention on this particular blog

August 7, 2006 03:37 PM | Link to this

Sean dear I won my league championship last year. I am quite good at Fantasy thank you.

By Randyt (aka "Been there, Done that, ot the t-shirt)

August 7, 2006 03:39 PM | Link to this

@ Aggressively Witty…don’t know about the Redskins, but if Jason Campbell could take that Auburn Offensive Coordinator with him, I’d give them a fighting chance. Borges did the best work I’ve seen turning a ‘potentially good’ quarterback into who I thought was the best in the country his senior year (am a Vol fan, and he worked us over twice in the same year…Campbell was great in both). I hope Cutcliffe can do the same with Eric Ainge at UT this year.

By QC

August 7, 2006 03:42 PM | Link to this

I was sooooooooooo excited to see a football last night i thought i was dreaming!!!!!!!!!!!! i am sooooooooooo ready for some football

GO FALCONS GO FALCONS GOOOOOOOO FALCONS

By runninatl

August 7, 2006 03:43 PM | Link to this

Somebody get agg some oxygen and water, he’s obviously suffering from heat stroke…lol. If Culpepper is 90% then my Dolphins will win the AFC East and make it to the conference championship this year and SuperBowl next year. The Redskins will have another year with a huge payroll and not enough victories to justify it…lol.

Fantasy draft Aug 20th!

Blue No doubt. Even if ol boy has a girl, if she’s cute enough that approach will definitely get a curiosity phone call at least!…lol.

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Curse word not to be mention on this particular blog

August 7, 2006 03:43 PM | Link to this

@Blue I am not Mrs. Big Badd. I have no desire to be phony, my big sister told me something one time a person doesnt respect you if they feel the need to lie to you-I think I am quoting her right-anyway you get the idea..I am just myself.

By Blue_Kolla

August 7, 2006 03:44 PM | Link to this

SeanJ/Kym Kyms mind seem so abstract she my luck up and be good at fantansy football..

Not this year boss.

Agg Don’t sleep on Brunnell man. Ol’ head is nice. Besides, we don’t want the brother coming out doing a Vic and getting his head cracked. And you’re right, there will be another Lombardi Trophy in the case this winter.

By Jewel

August 7, 2006 03:48 PM | Link to this

Why all the FOOTBALL talk when BASESBALL is still on? You guys should be cheering my CARDS to a World Series WIN! LOL!

By FyreStarrter™

August 7, 2006 03:50 PM | Link to this

runnin most of us don’t like drama but there are always the ones who LIVE for the stuff because otherwise they have NOTHING going on in their lives (very few friends, dead-end job, no love life, you know the usual suspects). It was true last week, last month, last year & it’s still true today. If I make drama in everyone else’s lives then I can live through them because mine kicks rocks! And runnin, I also think that some people are so confrontational that they would sooner dies than leave well enough the f alone!!

By lmichelle

August 7, 2006 03:51 PM | Link to this

I’ve read this before and due to the topic I have thought I would post. Even if I wanted to do things diferently this past weekend or any weekend upcoming, I donlt feel that I would get any diffenet action. I can’t remember when I have had a date. To change my proactive actions for the weekend would cause me to become a street walker or a stripper and I have no intentions of doing so.

By SeanJohnson

August 7, 2006 03:52 PM | Link to this

@ Kym and BK…i dont think she will when this year either…probably the only thing she is good for is a sleeper or two…lol..thats why i asked her…

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

August 7, 2006 03:54 PM | Link to this

I do apologize. Maybe we should have a discussion about watching a football game with a date…my problem is after a few too many beers, I might say something that would not be allowed in this blog. LOL

By runninatl

August 7, 2006 03:55 PM | Link to this

Blue as far as handling Kym, does her 3:33 post answer your question…..hahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.

“Why do men say “nothing’s wrong” and a week (or several months) later BRING IT UP AGAIN? What? I thought we were past that!? Where did that come from?”

That’s because most men no better. In the heat of the moment, most women want to be heard but don’t want to listen. Even when some women do stop talking for a split second, long enough for a man to get 3 words in, it’s just long enough for her to catch her breath and speak some more. So a lot of men have adapted the art of biting their tongue until they feel the timing is right and the woman will not only hear but listen to what he actually has to say. Sometimes it’s about knowing when to pick your battles.

By FyreStarrter™

August 7, 2006 03:57 PM | Link to this

Randyt that is too funny luv! You hit it on the head for real!

By SeanJohnson

August 7, 2006 04:01 PM | Link to this

@ lmichelle….well if you ever change your mind let me know…i will me your agent/marketer/accountant

By QC

August 7, 2006 04:05 PM | Link to this

Have a nice evening everyone!!

By runninatl

August 7, 2006 04:07 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Randyt, you are clownin now….hahaha.

Fyre I feel what you are saying but all that you said still amazes me. I can have drama on television 24/7 so I definitely don’t need it at home or on the internet when I’m just looking to joke around and laugh. I guess that goes back to the Men-Venus/Women-Mars theory. Now I can relate to the confrontational people because I’m very opinionated. I got into an argument with my 10 year old about how good the movie Cars was and I just I had to make her see it my way. I know, I need therapy!….LMAO.

lmichelle Does it really have to be that drastic?…lol. What about something simple like a movie and cards night with your homegirls and some of the fellas they know. Try a little social networking and maybe step out your comfort zone.

By QC

August 7, 2006 04:07 PM | Link to this

Welcome Imichelle

By storm

August 7, 2006 04:10 PM | Link to this

Ladies why do we need to analyze each and every moment, rather than take things one…day…at…a…time?

Jewel, I wish I knew! I used to do it without realizing it. Now I know it, but I STILL do it! Still learning to sit on my hands and put tape on my mouth and let go, let flow. I do notice that if I’m not particularly into him, I have NONE of those thoughts! LOL!

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Curse word not to be mention on this particular blog

August 7, 2006 04:10 PM | Link to this

@Blue now now dont start the smack talk just yet. As for confrontational people Frye since I am the prime candidate for that position I readily accept. But then some folks feel like they can buy a life to fill in the empty spaces of their own lives.

By THE INFAMOUS DK

August 7, 2006 04:11 PM | Link to this

Runnin I would venture to say that since Ike Turner-ing has been outlawed women dont have the healthy dose of fear they used to have.. Just Kidding before ya’ll call Peta on me

By SeanJohnson

August 7, 2006 04:13 PM | Link to this

@ lmichelle…i was joking…dont pay me any mind

By lmichelle

August 7, 2006 04:14 PM | Link to this

I will never change my mind on the street walker option but I am giving myslef a birthday option for the stripper option :)

Seriously, what does a well educated, business owner, straight black woman have to do to get a date?? Please let me know so I can do it and get a date. I have learned to live without the anticipation of a gentelman asking me out but I have not given up hope.

By Sunshine

August 7, 2006 04:19 PM | Link to this

Sounds like Imichelle would be a perfect match for Blue_Kollar where you at BK you up for the challenge?????

By THE INFAMOUS DK

August 7, 2006 04:20 PM | Link to this

IMichelle First off lose the ho hum attitude and shake things up a bit.. Find your Mojo, start to put that confidence to work and watch how things drastically change.. Get out of the house and do things that make you feel good cause the better you feel about yourself the more people will recognize its in their face..

By FyreStarrter™

August 7, 2006 04:20 PM | Link to this

runnin You have spoken some true words today. Pick your battles boo you know how SOME of us women are lol. Also I forgot jealousy as another reason why people stir up drama. Sometimes we cannot try & be happy for others when things are going well.

imichelle sometimes I think it has to do with changing demographics. Or stepping outside your comfort zone. Sometimes it’s just a matter of stepping to them yourselves because many men mistakenly assume that all educated straight women are stuck up when in fact we are NOT.

By runninatl

August 7, 2006 04:21 PM | Link to this

“Now I know it, but I STILL do it! Still learning to sit on my hands and put tape on my mouth and let go, let flow. I do notice that if I’m not particularly into him, I have NONE of those thoughts!“….Storm you are a trip but at least you are honest…lol.

LMAO @ DK. You might be right though and now they cutting kats in their sleep and running over them with their cars, the game has changed…lol.

By darkbuty

August 7, 2006 04:28 PM | Link to this

LL I can’t believe you sold the females out at Georgia Tech….that’s my alma mater as well!!

By crimson esq.

August 7, 2006 04:30 PM | Link to this

@ Mr. B how does a person sound different than how they look in their pictures?

By NCgirlfromATL

August 7, 2006 04:30 PM | Link to this

Sorry I’m late today. Laney I have found that the gym is a great place to meet guys. In fact, I read an article somewhere this weekend (MSN, I think) talking about how to meet guys in the gym, and w/o even having thought about it, I was already doing it. It said to go in the evening when there were aerobic classes, and then DON’T GO TO THE CLASS! That’s where all of the “competition” goes (i.e. the other women), and then you’re left in the weight room with all of the guys. I’ve met several guys in the last few weeks without even trying…which is something extremely new for me! lol!

By lmichelle

August 7, 2006 04:35 PM | Link to this

OK, more info. this is home but I have lived in DC, Detroit and NYC so I have gotten out of my comfortable Atl zone. As for getting out of the house and shaking this up, I have done that also but to no avail.

As for the MoJo, I have not had a date in a a while so I have not had any physical mojo in a long time (another subject for another day). I am pretty confident young lady but just getting a little down on the lack of companionship.

As for stepping to them, I tried to do that recently and it was a bust.

Can a sista just get a date??? :)

By FyreStarrter™

August 7, 2006 04:37 PM | Link to this

NCgirlfromATL lol yeah, that works for me too I find lol. Good looking out, I had forgotten about that one lol!!

hey can somebody send me those links for the Salsa lessons again? Thanks!!!

By runninatl

August 7, 2006 04:41 PM | Link to this

“Seriously, what does a well educated, business owner, straight black woman have to do to get a date??“….interesting intro…lol.

Frye & DK Peep game and them I’m off to play ball. Frye you said “many men mistakenly assume that all educated straight women are stuck up when in fact we are NOT” but it’s all about the presentation. If you come off the rip hollarin your credentials it’s a turn off to most people, male or female. No one really cares, we are all doing our thing whether it’s in corporate america or we out there hustlin. So Frye if the presentation is all wrong then it doesn’t matter because few people are going to want to stick around to hear the rest. If the first words out of your mouth are patting yourself on the back about what you got then most men aren’t really mistakenly assuming a person is stuck up, now are they?

DK if a person’s confidence is only tied up in what you got and what you’ve accomplished then it might make sense that a person might lack the same confidence in who they really are without their possessions and accomplishments, feel me?

LOL….I’m out, ya’ll be easy.

By DASvenus

August 7, 2006 04:43 PM | Link to this

kym you aren’t confrontational as much as you are confused. My post was FOR 2 (except what was italicized) I spoke to the behavior 2 exhibited on this blog, not to who he is…. …. So if you see my post as foul, cool. It wasn’t meant for you to understand.

You miss so many points on this blog, Kym. Errrybody knows to walk on egg-shells wit you, cause you’re so angry at something or maybe self…. Who knows. No cares. We know what to expect when you come on the scene…. Nothing BUT dirt-flinging and double-dutch moves. Its obvious life been hard on you because you take EVERYTHING so dayum serious.

You brag about being honest and being yourself, but my momma and daddy schooled me on those who have no vulnerability ——- otherwise you just a loud gorilla making noise, saying nothing.

By JanetJackson

August 7, 2006 04:43 PM | Link to this

I use to have the same problem Imichelle but i just stop trying to make my men happy and found someone who really makes me happy and that’s you JD that’s why i’m wearing a navel piercing with your initials, i love you so much!!!!

By SeanJohnson

August 7, 2006 04:44 PM | Link to this

@lmichelle…you really need self confidence and swagger…try dressing up really sxy and just going out alone…to nice bar, lounge or spken word spot…doesnt matter how you look…if you are alone and give a smile…someone will aproach you..trust me

By Jewel

August 7, 2006 04:46 PM | Link to this

Good point Runnin. I understand what you are saying and can relate it to real life. I am very direct and if we have an issue, I think we should try to resolve it. Maybe take a break and come back later. But if we do and you say “nothing is wrong”, I am going to believe just that, not expecting it to resurface later. So when it does, my interpretation is that you are not being honest with your feelings. Therefore, we now have two problems.

By THE INFAMOUS DK

August 7, 2006 04:47 PM | Link to this

IMichelle I say get in the car and ride.. Any location, restaurant or bar with a nice crowd stop in and check it out.. You are bound to find a few spots to frequent and come up.. Babe just keep trying new things the only way is to be out there marketing yourself.. Campaigning to be elected to office.. Lets do it… Give more people the eye and it will be on..

By Chink

August 7, 2006 04:48 PM | Link to this

LOL @ DK first real laugh I had all day healthy dose of fear

By Page1908

August 7, 2006 04:52 PM | Link to this

LOL @ let go and let flow Hahaaa

LOL @ everyone stealing my go kick rocks phrase. I still think it was funny when Redd took it to another level and told someone to go kick rocks at your car..LOL.

Are we still on topic? Sheesh! LOL popping gum

By lmichelle

August 7, 2006 04:55 PM | Link to this

LOL!!! Been there, dressed up, gone out (confidence and all) and done that.

I am going to try again but I just think it’s hard out there for a lady trying to get a date.

By Kym aka Queen of the I dont give a Curse word not to be mention on this particular blog

August 7, 2006 04:56 PM | Link to this

Da dear I am far from confused because why you are on here throwing your panties one day and mud the next at least I am honest enough to be myself 24 seven . No one has to walk on egg shells around me except those who are phony and fear having their dirt exposed. As a matter of fact honey I love a challenge and welcome those who dont like what I say to speak their mind. I dont do things in life or on this blog for form, fashion, popularity or drama. As a matter of fact you missed the point. If you didnt want anyone to know about your business then why bring it up? I want Fyre and the rest of the bloggers to know that I found her phony ways offensive because it was on this blog that they were exposed. See honesty and vulnerablility Because I am willing one to admit that I was fooled and that I was wrong. Trust me my dear I am not serious all the time just when I have to be. But then again you are too busy riding on someone jockey strings to know that.

By DuShawn

August 7, 2006 04:56 PM | Link to this

@SJ that was good advice you just gave. I was at Barnacles the other day and this lady was at the bar chillin by herself. She smiled at me; I smiled back but did not approach. However, I watched as several brothers shot their best shot. She got a lot of attention and she wasn’t even all that hot, but her smile and the way she carried herself made her approachable for most guys.

By FyreStarrter™

August 7, 2006 04:57 PM | Link to this

Page I’d forgotten that was yours. Now I properly attribute that great kiss my a phrase to you! LOL

By lmichelle

August 7, 2006 05:00 PM | Link to this

LOL!!! Been there, dressed up, gone out (confidence and all) and done that.

I am going to try again but I just think it’s hard out there for a lady trying to get a date.

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

August 7, 2006 05:00 PM | Link to this

Just caught the references to the dating scene at GT. They were discussing this a year or so ago in the Vent in the AJC. Some lady wrote in regarding the pros and cons of dating in a shcool where the men outnumbered the women by such a large margin. Her comment was great…she said, and I quote, “the odds are good, but the goods are odd”. Don’t know that is true, but I do know for a fact that one of my coworkers son got interviewed for “Beauty and The Geek2” at Georgia Tech this summer. Did not hear back from them, but apparently the interview was a scream…things like “What is a French Pedicure” etc.

By lenair2006

August 8, 2006 12:49 PM | Link to this

My best advice about meeting guys/potential dates is to find a social activity you love. I love to shoot pool and i’m an attractive single woman, so I get to meet many men. I’ve only been in ATL for about six months, so there are other activities i would like to try also. But pool is so much fun for me, because i am passionate about it. The only thing that bothers me is running into sore losers.

By udon'tneed2know

August 8, 2006 02:25 PM | Link to this

Nothing but a bunch of shuck & jive losers on this blog …… all tryingto be cool, but not even able to speak correct english. No need for anyone with brains to waste any time on this site.

By Landlord

August 8, 2006 02:27 PM | Link to this

Soo..where is a nice place to meet women over 35? 43 yo professional blk male here…Race is no issue…just professional and fine!!

By Alvin

August 8, 2006 03:20 PM | Link to this

Gwinnett County police today charged two teenage girls in the death of their mother after a physical altercation that the county Medical Examiner has ruled a homicide. Police spokesman Cpl. Darren Moloney said today the two adopted 15-year-olds were charged as juveniles in the death of the 57-year-old Buford woman.

This is why, some people shouldn’t have kids…sad