By Hot Sauce

September 12, 2006 08:30 AM | Link to this

Morning

By ImAPeach404

September 12, 2006 08:35 AM | Link to this

Morning all!

I have been very fortunate to never have experience with this type of man. And my girlfriends & family members have been equally lucky.

I guess I’ll sit back and check everyone elses comments on this and learn a thing or two from the guys.

As far as advice for the men… never trust a big butt and a smile.

By 3rdwheelflunkie

September 12, 2006 08:36 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone! It’s Tuesday….. I think the best way to safeguard yourself is to just stop dating and join a nunnery convent and give your life to God, or you can watch the tv show Cheaters and take some good notes, or you can do a background check on the person and use google.com It’s scary to date out there…. I think some women are so desperate these days for love that they are willing to put up with psycho men. It’s like a bad lifetime movie. I do know some pyscho girls too… but I will go into that later….

By JustMe

September 12, 2006 08:42 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Wise and All

Ladies, could you give the men a few tips on the difference between normal women, who can be unstable creatures (not like crazy, belong in an asylum), and the women that could possibly be too fixated on them and the relationship?

Guys, if you meet a woman who dragging you to the bed to make a baby or to the alter to get married and she barely knows your name, run as fast as you can in the opposite direction. Also, if you just start dating a woman and she claims to have her own birth control and does not want you to suit up before diving in……… wear 2 suits instead of 1. A good way to gauge a woman emotional stability is to ask her about past relationships and how/why they ended. Aske her about sibling rivalries and family relationships and find out how many real friends she has.

By Napoleon Patrol

September 12, 2006 08:48 AM | Link to this

Guys, can you offer ladies any insight on what types of male behaviors could be red flags?

Any man, no matter how tall or short that shows signs of Napoleon syndrome.

If spotted early, you will save yourself from a drama fill relationship. Remember God Bless, but not you.

Thank you,

NP

By Raqi

September 12, 2006 08:49 AM | Link to this

I think surefire signs for both men and women would be someone that’s Too clingy, have constant mood swings, extremely possessive and dominant.

By kevmoor2005

September 12, 2006 09:04 AM | Link to this

A couple of years ago I had worked with a very nice attractive, smart female coworker whose husband was constantly in and out of the PEN. When he was out he treated to kill her many times if she didn’t take him back or do as he wanted her to do. It was very disturbing because I used to ask her many times why doesn’t she just leave town. Well he eventually did take her life in front of their two kids. The point I’m trying to make is if someone threatens to kill you more than one, please take it serious and move as far a way as you possible can. Chances are they WILL.

By danielle

September 12, 2006 09:19 AM | Link to this

Ladies, could you give the men a few tips on the difference between normal women, who can be unstable creatures (not like crazy, belong in an asylum), and the women that could possibly be too fixated on them and the relationship?

Any woman that feels that her whole world revolves around her SO is too fixated on him;

Any woman that needs to know where her SO is at all times is too fixated on him;

Any woman that can not keep girlfriends because she spends all her time worrying about her SO is too fixated on him;

Any woman that throws tantrums, has a bad temper, makes violent threats, carry out violent threats and withholds children/sex is not emotionally stable for any relationship.

Now a normal woman is mature enough to handle any situation that arises with dignity and grace, she’s self-maintained(meaning she a life of her own) and self-respecting. She’ll never allow a man to change who she is unless he’s progressive and the change is for the better.

By Tall'n'Handsome

September 12, 2006 09:20 AM | Link to this

As far as advice for the men… never trust a big butt and a smile.

Or in your case A 6’2 brother and a smile

By Hot Sauce

September 12, 2006 09:22 AM | Link to this

If a man is always calling you and bugging you, showing up @ your job, hell just blowing your phone & cell up, always asking you when can he see you, etc; get rid of him or do like i do criminal background check

By 4theLongHaul

September 12, 2006 09:27 AM | Link to this

OH GOD!!! What a topic. I thank God that I’ve never been in relationships like this. I do have a young lady that is one of my “little sisters” from church that is definitely (or was, depending on what day of the week it is) in a very unhealthy relationship. She thrives for attention (good or bad unfortunately). So he has hit her, threatened to do stuff to her, forces or strongly coerces her to do CRAZY stuff “in the name of love”, etc. He HATES me because he knows that I challenge her to think for herself and slap her into reality but I don’t seem to be making a dent. Things will change temporarily and she’ll get out of the relationship and months later, she’ll slip and say, “oh yeah, I went with Mr Man last night and….” Then she’ll realize that she just told on herself. I feel helpless. I mean, I try to be there for her but it’s gotten to a point where she knows she can’t talk to me about him anymore because it’s like I’M DONE!!! YOU DON’T WANT TO LISTEN so all I can do is just pray for her. I mean, this fool would have her doing the UNTHINKABLE, things demoralizing herself, etc, he’ll cheat on her, etc and she’ll still come back for more. And she’s just in her early 20’s.

By LorDemi

September 12, 2006 09:29 AM | Link to this

It’s scary to date out there…. I think some women are so desperate these days for love that they are willing to put up with psycho men

Coming from 3rd…good morning sweetie

By 4theLongHaul

September 12, 2006 09:31 AM | Link to this

Hot Sauce I’ll have to piggy back what you said. Any man OR woman that is calling you every 30 minutes to know what you’re doing, who you’re talking to, where you’re going, etc., etc. is a RED FLAG!!! RUN! Unfortunately, a lot of ‘needy’ women will go into a relationship like this, thinking, “wow, he really cares about me or is really into me”. NOT. And don’t let that same woman ask him where he is or what he’s doing! Oh, that will be World War III!!

I’ve been fortunately to have actually had time to know any past SOs for significant amounts of times BEFORE dating them. Seeing them amongst friends, church folks, family, etc. So don’t let love BLIND you to the obvious. Now my ex-husband?? THAT was another story! But fortunately, it wasn’t an abusive or controlling relationship. Just one that should’ve have never happened.

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 09:35 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone!

Personally, I think anyone is capable of anything under the right pressure and stress. People can snap and in a moment of extreme delusion do something they may regret! Given that…

Some signs that would identify those who are more prone to that behavior:

By D Dub of the ATL

September 12, 2006 09:36 AM | Link to this

Great topic Wise Diva

I don’t really have any ground-breaking advice to hand out, but I will refer to two of my ex-girlfriends, which always said that I was unemotional, or considered me very cold towards them especially when we broke up.

I have always been a very even-tempered person - it takes a lot to get me angry… I was named “Mello-Yello” when I joined my fraternity because I always remained, calm, cool, and collected regardless of the circumstances.

How does that translate into my personal life? I think Crimson said it best weeks ago - try to find your compliment. Having said that, people need to realize that if your life is full of drama, and if you don’t handle your temper well yourself, then chances are you are going to attract someone that suffers from the same affliction.

Get yourself in order first - mind, body and soul… then your compliment will find you and fit just like a glove

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 09:40 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

Ladies, If a Man “collects” handguns it could be a sign…LOL

If a Man just shows up at a place where you didn’t tell him you would be and says “Ohhh, how did I know you would be here???”…it could be a sign

Also, if a Man ever says “Get yo’azz in the dayum car”…that could be a sign

By 3rdwheelflunkie

September 12, 2006 09:44 AM | Link to this

good morning Demi What’s shakkin??

By LorDemi

September 12, 2006 09:45 AM | Link to this

Straight drop kicking Aun T 4th’s office door and removing the Caps Lock button from key board…Now George Jefferson dancing my short a$$ from her office…Moving on up, to Southside, finally got a price of the piiiiiieeeee!

By 3rdwheelflunkie

September 12, 2006 09:48 AM | Link to this

Danielle I know a woman like that and men FLOCK to her….. My friends and I think she is pyshco but guys love it. She gets these guys to propose marriage to her in a month and we shake our heads and wonder why? So some guys like for a woman to be pyscho, needy, and stalkish.

By Hot Sauce

September 12, 2006 09:51 AM | Link to this

Thanks 4th

Great points ^5 DarkB & DDub

I always tell my men friends if you ever raise your hand at me you better be waving at somebody behind me If anyone ever has a “domestic violence dispute” and don’t press charges, don’t worry cause the state will pick it up automatically.

By Thick

September 12, 2006 09:52 AM | Link to this

Characteristics I have found in lady’s that are poisonous: Women that behave this way are always wanting something but never trying to aquire what they are talking about. She is not able to do anything on her own, she needs you to be involved in every aspect of her life and truly does not have a social life or friends that she spends time with. She is in a hurry to start a family, but has no skill at all on how to take care of a home, she has not yet had a apartment or home of her own, and consequently is a lazy housekeeper. A lady who does not have a good relationship with her own family and actually spends more time if not all her time at your parents house. Women who are always telling their man that they are not happy, as if the man is a clown or something who is merely suppose to be entertaining. A lady who seems always feel as though she needs your undivided attention, you know calls you all the time, always trying to move in with you, and create this pre-marital atmosphere.
Most of all watch not to marry a lady who does not have any personal financial responsibiltiy of her own, these women tend to not appreciate a man who is financially responsible and truly end up secretly resenting him because they feel he is never doing enough for them.

By Thick

September 12, 2006 09:58 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone

Have a Great Day

By abc

September 12, 2006 09:58 AM | Link to this

Kind of an odd topic… you think you can tell that someone’s going to become murderous by their reactions to normal stress? I would think that the percentage of postal people is so small that to try and apply that kind of logic to normal dating is kind of paranoid. Or, maybe I’ve just been lucky to never bump into that level of psycho.

By 4theLongHaul

September 12, 2006 09:58 AM | Link to this

D Dub You sound like my SO. He is the most calm, cool and collected guy I’ve EVER met in my life. NOTHING unravels or frazzles him (except me!! ha!) He has calmed me down a WHOLE lot because I know I have challenges in handling my reactions/emotions, etc and my attitude, upsetness is easily shown and he’s the type of person that his car could blow up right in front of him and I’m screaming and hollering like OH MY GOD!!! And he stands there and says, “it’s okay. We’re still living and a car can be replaced. Just God setting us up.” It’s almost unreal but he’s ALWAYS been like that. It’s a GIFT! So I’m working on my end and have come a long way!

By Thick

September 12, 2006 10:02 AM | Link to this

LOL @MusingL, all are definitely signals of a problem. haha

By 4theLongHaul

September 12, 2006 10:04 AM | Link to this

Demi You funny. Sorry. I’m just very passionately expressive. You know….want you to feel what I’m feeling. And the caps, bold and italics are the only options to express passion on the blog. Now GET OUT OF MY OFFICE!!!! hahahaha! (unless you’re bringing me food!)

By danielle

September 12, 2006 10:04 AM | Link to this

3rd Initially, they think it’s cool that she’s so into them until she’s smothered them to death and has become a fatal attraction on the loose.

Be very clear in your mind of what you’re looking for in a person because the quality that attracts you the most can become the same quality that kills you later.

By LorDemi

September 12, 2006 10:04 AM | Link to this

Lady 4th 15% of the women need/want that type of loving…why? I have no idea…

By SeanJohnson

September 12, 2006 10:07 AM | Link to this

I think Darkbuty made a good point….under the heavy stress and pressure anyone is capable of snapping…A childhood friend I grew up with..walked to school with daily snapped and killed both his son’s mothers, his supervisor then committed suicide..Dude was laid back and quiet..never though he would go out like that.. Things I look for and avoid are needy women..Women that have previously been in abusive relationships…Women who are men haters and challenge men..Women who are jealous and possessive..Women who just pop up at your door. Things I do or dont do to protect myself…If its any signs of a crazy ex..we cant kick it…If come to visit..I come strapped…I dont play with females feelings or tell them I love them…If you have kids..I dont comment about their behavior or discipline them….

By 4theLongHaul

September 12, 2006 10:08 AM | Link to this

Demi because they didn’t get it from a father. So they don’t know what healthy love/affection from a man is. So any attention from a man becomes what “normal” is to them unfortunately because no one gave them ‘filters’ while growing up to know what’s acceptable and unacceptable. Sad. Girls want to feel special to their daddies and when daddy ain’t around, the first man that gives them compliments and sometime becomes their teacher of what “special” is to feel like, no matter how wrong or warped his version of “special” is.

By Hot Sauce

September 12, 2006 10:09 AM | Link to this

Hey Demi & Musing

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 10:10 AM | Link to this

Ladies if your Man leaves you at the Burger King cause “You took too long”..that could be a sign

If your Man comes to your job to yell at you for any reason…that could be a sign

If your Man has forced you to tattoo his name above your “cooch”…that could be a sign

Ohh, you’re gonna put my name on it…WTH you means NO!…&Itch didn’t I tell you?!?!?

By melo

September 12, 2006 10:11 AM | Link to this

Wise Diva, the regulars have been slow in responding.Could that be a sign of who they are, what they know, their like/dislike for the topic or is it just a busy day for a lot of them?

I wonder, wonder!!!

If i see a lady/girl with a tatoo on a breast or neck, i am always suspicious of their mental capacity. Just me!

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 10:13 AM | Link to this

Hey Hot Sauce

Hello out there QC

By Cee

September 12, 2006 10:13 AM | Link to this

I’m a firm believer if you go looking for trouble you will find trouble. We all have been blessed with an internal voice that tells us when something just ain’t right. We know when we meet someone who is tempermental or short fused yet we throw on the blind fold and stay involved.

By Blue_Kolla

September 12, 2006 10:18 AM | Link to this

What up good peeps?!

Stay Safe Tips:

Ery’body: Stop hooking up with people because you see them as your potential “come up”.

Females: (Big one right here yoll ===>) Let people know that you have brothers/sisters/cousins that don’t mind kickin’ some azz for their family!

Females: Never tolerate anybody putting their hands on you in a violent manner. And if it happens, even if you can’t beat the dude, never show fear. If it’s going down let’s get it on. (All that play-fighting is bullshyt BTW; fools are just feeling you out to see how far they can go)

Dudes: Let it be known to any dude dealing with ladies in the family, that shyt gon’ get ugly if your peeps roll in with their face bruised up.

Ery’body: Have/demand respect for self.

By Candidly Speaking

September 12, 2006 10:20 AM | Link to this

Well…I’ve ran into at least two crazy females over the years.

I must say that I saw signs…but did not take them seriously. But since then…yo azz even look like you having some crazy azz thoughts…I’m out. If you are overly emotional…I’m out…to clingly, wanna suck up all of my time…I’m out.

By QC - Too Much Work 4 a Tuesday

September 12, 2006 10:22 AM | Link to this

Hey Musing, Demi, Gyrl Power, Errbody

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

September 12, 2006 10:29 AM | Link to this

Honestly, I think Musing is hitting it really well. There are way too many women that somehow seem to think that they can change a possessive, angry man…that they will be the one that wins the prize by teaching him that ‘love and affection’ will make him see the light. It just does not happen that way. That is why ‘Musing’ is hitting it on the head. Every little angry comment, every time he needs to push someone around to feel more ‘manly’ is bringing the lady one step closer to being the final victim.

Live long enough and you WILL see this kind of thing and it is just as common in all socio-economic areas (read about ‘Barton Corbin’ if you don’t believe that).

Bottom line is this, if he is angry and shows it, run as fast as you can or sooner or later you will be the one that is ‘blooded’. It is what it is.

By LorDemi

September 12, 2006 10:30 AM | Link to this

Also, if a Man ever says “Get yo’azz in the dayum car”…that could be a sign

Oooohhhh! That sound soooo Pimpish! *said in my Mr. brown(from meet the browns) voice.

3rd another beautiful day…Ya hear!

By danielle

September 12, 2006 10:31 AM | Link to this

Just a side note When I went to the MJB concert a couple of weeks ago, she was telling the audience about how she’s had to get over some very traumatic events in her life, mainly relationships with men.

She was also on Intimate Portrait and you got to see where it all started. Her father set a bad example before her by the way he treated her mother (abusive), his abandonment and subsequently anger, disappointment and low self-esteem.

She’s been messed up for a long time, but it good to see her determination to not allow her past to continue to hold her back from becoming a better woman.

It shows that in a lot of cases family environment/upbringing and even rejection by a parent can play a major role in the way women and men respond to love/affection/attention and how they view themselves.

By 4theLongHaul

September 12, 2006 10:31 AM | Link to this

Musing You are STUPID!!!! hahaha!!! What’s the issue with Burger King? Can any other restaurant be substituted? Hee hee!

Blue MAN, you had me over here laughing like a darn hyena!!!

Girl Oh, so you think you just gonna hit me like that?

Guy Damn right b@tch! I run ish up in here!!

Girl Oh, so you think it’s just gonna go down like that and that’s it?

Guy Yeah b@tch! Now get out my face!

Girl as she goes to the back room Pookie! RayRay! ManMan! Shanequiofia! This fool done hit me over here! We at 523 Jackson Pkwy. How long it’s gonna take yall to get here?….alright, see ya in a few.

Guy B@tch! Fix me a chicken potpie!

Girl OK baby, give me about five minutes…..

five minutes later, as the screeching of tires are heard outside with the clattering of house speakers in the back of an old Impala, vibrating the whole car and neighborhood.

KNOCK! KNOCK! KNOCK! BAM! BAM! BAM! OPEN UP THE G.D. DOOR N@GGA!!!

Pooky What up sucka! So you like to box and hit girls, huh?

*Then they commence to whooping his a@@@ hollering HOODY HOO!!!!

**MORAL: Don’t @#$! with Shantay cause her family don’t PLAY!!!

By abc

September 12, 2006 10:33 AM | Link to this

…then again I did have to constantly remind ex-GF that hitting was not allowed and would result in my prompt permanent exit… and she did keep a loaded glock on her all the time. Psycho beeyotch.

By Blue_Kolla

September 12, 2006 10:33 AM | Link to this

SeanJ If its any signs of a crazy ex..we cant kick it

You ain’t bullshyttin. Can’t jeopardize my freedom because you wanted to kick it with Broad-beatin-Billy and now can’t get him to stop coming around. Not you Billy LOL

Candid Crazy azz heffa #2 didn’t post those signs up in Dekalb did she, ‘cause if so, I might’ve been laughing at ‘em while sitting at a light some years back.

By 4theLongHaul

September 12, 2006 10:34 AM | Link to this

Candidly Now YOU got me over here laughing like a wild hyena! Are you serious!!!!! Baby I just wanted to talk and I had to do something to get your attention!!! I LOVE YOU!!!

By Bre'

September 12, 2006 10:34 AM | Link to this

D Dub great point.

I can’t weight in to much. I’ve never dealt with a crazy dude that I can recall. I grew up around alot of unstable people I can spot signs a million miles away. Then I start running the other direction. I know a sista that lives in BK she is a model for like urban clothing lines. Beautiful sista, great personality, everything. But she attracts crazy dudes and we have taken her into of womans circle and tried to help her over the years. However its her choice in the end to keep going back to these abusive relationships. So at the end of the day all we can do is leave it up to the highest power to watch over her.

By ImAPeach404

September 12, 2006 10:36 AM | Link to this

@Tall… Or in your case A 6’2 brother and a smile

So, if you say you’re 6’2… that probably means your 6’0. I always remember to subtract those 2 inches off whatever a guy says his heigh is :-)

By ImAPeach404

September 12, 2006 10:37 AM | Link to this

@Tall… Or in your case A 6’2 brother and a smile

So, if you say you’re 6’2… that probably means your 6’0. I always remember to subtract those 2 inches off whatever a guy says his heigh is :-)

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 10:38 AM | Link to this

If your Man ever says “&ITCH Please…Pwsssst(air bursting from lips sound)….that could be a sign If your Man ever hits you and then says “Baby I’m sorry, but you know you made me do it…talking all crazy and stuff, that ishh just riles me up and I have to quiet yo’azz down”

If you Man ever grabs your pet cat and threatens to “Throw his’azz out this dayum window” and then throws your cat out the window…that is a sign

By crimson esq.

September 12, 2006 10:42 AM | Link to this

good morning everyone

if you see someone 3-4 times a week and they complain that you aren’t spending enough time together then you’re dealing with a needy individual..

If someone dies or is ill in your fam.. and your SO complains about the fact that you aren’t spending time with them then let them go…

If someone expects you to remove your friends of yrs (of the opposite sex) out of your lives then they have issues with envy, jealousy and control…

Men.. if a woman won’t offer to pay or won’t set up some romantic events for the two of you then 9 out of 10 not only is she a gold digger.. but she lacks true interest in you…

If a woman constantly gives her “I’m an independent woman” speech to you.. then trust that you will have issues in the future if you don’t already

If a woman complains about how her dad messed up her life.. and or how all of her exes were horrible men then it’s obvious that she has man issues..

If a woman tells you she loves you in a month and throws a fit if you don’t respond in kind… then she has emotional issues..

Women. .if a man won’t hold the door open for you then he lacks respect.. and chivalry…

If a guy constantly picks an argument on some trivial ish… (like where to go for lunch for example) then I think it’s a red flag for potential emotional abuse..

If a man curses around u like he would with his boys… again he lacks respect…

If you’re involved for 5 yrs with marriage on your mind.. and the man doesn’t propose.. then you need to evaluate the relationship..

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 10:43 AM | Link to this

4 You are too silly…LMAO @ the five minutes later, as the screeching of tires are heard outside with the clattering of house speakers in the back of an old Impala, vibrating the whole car and neighborhood.…

Guy: Ahhhh, Dayum…that sounds like Pooky and Dem…

Now jumping out of 2nd story window to safty…LOL

By LorDemi

September 12, 2006 10:43 AM | Link to this

Or, maybe I’ve just been lucky to never bump into that level of psycho

And this is coming from ABC man…in my 9 year old Jackson 5 voice…A-B-C…quick spin…1-2-3…

Hotsauce yes, the state will pick those charges up…faster than you can say hotsauce on Popeye’s chicken…you be like, WTF!!!???

By Raqi

September 12, 2006 10:43 AM | Link to this

Another thing, do not press the issue. If you and your SO are having a disagreement and one state that they would rather deal with it later, Don’t press it. Don’t demand that they address it NOW. NOW just may cost you your life. Whether it’s one hour or one day, give them the space they need to be able to have a calm, level headed discussion. A perfectly normal person can be pushed beyond their limit.

By 4theLongHaul

September 12, 2006 10:43 AM | Link to this

Musing If you Man ever grabs your pet cat and threatens to “Throw his’azz out this dayum window” and then throws your cat out the window…that is a sign

Reminds me of the scene from “Why Do Fools Fall In Love” when Lorenze had Vivica’s dog hanging out the window, then the dog bites him and he drops him! LOL!

By Blue_Kolla

September 12, 2006 10:45 AM | Link to this

LongHaul My pops drilled into my sister, “Never let anybody put their hands in your face!” And I got checks to bet that say that any dude, I don’t care how big, that puts his hands on her is gon’ have a serious way to go, long before I get there. And when I gets on the scene, I’m falling through with Louisville Sluggers, cold steel, Timbos, and a nice brassy set of knuckles.

By Kym-Honorary Cheetah Girl

September 12, 2006 10:46 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

Very Dark Topic…

Ladies, calling you anything but the name your mother gave you is not cute…or a sign of affection, hitting you, play fighting, or any other name you want to call it is not a sign of love or affection. It is a sign that there is something seriously wrong with the man. Now there are other what I call “undercover signs” that there could be something wrong..he is sweet and nice infront of people, but alone he is distant and unaffectionate..this is a sign of someone who is just not quite right.

Men folks…if she is following you, tracking your moves, and threatens to die if you leave..it is not cute or affectionate..she is NUTS!! If she is pushing to hard to be apart of your world..bring the kids around you after date number 2, then there is something wrong.

Now to just be real we live in a world with people who have psychopathic behavior. They wear an outside mask, go to church, on the deacon board, scout leaders, all around outstanding citizens of the world. But below the surface..they are nutty as hell…coming to mind is the BTK killer who functioned for 30 years yet was a killer.

Single Mamas and Daddies!- Pedophiles do not wear badges, they pray on people with children to get close to the kids. While most pedophiles are men, women are out there.

Yes our world is scary..but you cant live in fear of running into Joe nut job or Jane nutso..you just have to be cautious.

By Candidly Speaking

September 12, 2006 10:47 AM | Link to this

I’ve never been the possesive type, prolly just the opposite. I’ll trust you 100% til you give me reason not too. I don’t have to talk you all day er’day. I don’t wanna know what you are doing er’minute of the day. Go out spend time wit you friends and family, have some “ME” time.

I’m real low maintenance. My carefree dating style seems to frustrate a lot of females. And since I own my own business….I’m always working, trying to make that paper…networking…checking up on my shiid…making sure they running my shiid right, making sure nobody’s stealing outta the cookie jar.

So dating is not always my #1 priority. So I tell’em hold baby girl…Imma get to you. Some get wit it, some don’t. Such is life.

By Hot Sauce

September 12, 2006 10:51 AM | Link to this

Demi you are soooo right; i don’t like hot sauce on my popeye chicken, now church’s yes

Candid, see when females start the “hanging/following you around stalking you done put that “thang on em” too good

remember people Ga has a “stalking law”

By D Dub of the ATL

September 12, 2006 10:52 AM | Link to this

If a woman complains about how her dad messed up her life.. and or how all of her exes were horrible men then it’s obvious that she has man issues..

Crimson why did it take me 2 years to figure that one out??

By 4theLongHaul

September 12, 2006 10:53 AM | Link to this

Musing You inspire the fictional writer in all of us dude!

By ImAPeach404

September 12, 2006 10:55 AM | Link to this

@ Thick

I believe that what you said was more inline with characteristics to look for when you are choosing a mate… however, you have brought up some good points. I feel these traits are important in men as well, and I’ve often wondered if im being too picky when it comes to men who don’t have bank accounts. Like, that really bothers me. How in the world are you over the age of 21 and do not have a bank acct? Its a huge turn off

Quote of the day: Everyone seems normal until you get to know them

-k

By DuShawn

September 12, 2006 10:56 AM | Link to this

Good Morning all, I have dated two women that have turned out to be mentally unstable. The signals were apparent from the beginning. One woman cried on our first date. We were discussing our childhoods and she told me how hers was traumatic and abusive. I ignored the warnings of the big head and decided to listen to the other head and slept with her anyway. Big mistake! The second chick was just trying too hard to get with me. We worked in the same building and she was friends with some of the girls on my staff. She would often invite me to lunch and I would decline. I finally accepted one of her invitations. The conversation drifted to the topic of sex. She started talking dirty, describing the freaky things she would do. My stupid azz couldn’t resist and slept with her. Both of those situations turned out real ugly.

By Blue_Kolla

September 12, 2006 10:57 AM | Link to this

Candid I’m real low maintenance. My carefree dating style seems to frustrate a lot of females.

Yeah dude, I hear “nonchalant” a lot myself. Hmmm… So is it me just chillin’ or females showing signs of being dangerous?

By 4theLongHaul

September 12, 2006 10:58 AM | Link to this

Hi MsKym Man, you just have to be prayerful and discerning nowadays because anybody, like somebody said previously, can snap at any time given the right ingredients. But you can’t live in fear BUT trust your gut…Always best to be safe than sorry. (but not paranoid)

By C tha 1

September 12, 2006 11:03 AM | Link to this

Ladies If your man has too much in common with R. Kelly (i.e., older guy who likes women way too young for him; trouble with reading and writing skills; speaks in third person alot; can sing his azz off but can’t figure out if he needs to do it at church or the strip club!?) You need to leave him. I don’t care if dude is rich.

By Blue_Kolla

September 12, 2006 11:03 AM | Link to this

HotSauce see when females start the “hanging/following you around stalking you done put that “thang on em” too good

So let me ask you, is that to say that every woman has the potential to be a stalker? Because every woman has the potential to have that thang put on ‘em REAL good. And if so, what do you recommend, not hitting it so good. And what would those consequences, dissatisfied women?

By C tha 1

September 12, 2006 11:06 AM | Link to this

Ladies If your man has too much in common with R. Kelly (i.e., older guy who likes women way too young for him; trouble with reading and writing skills; speaks in third person alot; can sing his azz off but can’t figure out if he needs to do it at church or the strip club!?) You need to leave him. I don’t care if dude is rich.

By crimson esq.

September 12, 2006 11:08 AM | Link to this

@ D dub rather late than never right?

By Kym-Honorary Cheetah Girl

September 12, 2006 11:10 AM | Link to this

@4th I am not been paranoid, just making honest statements. I read a NY Times article on the whole pedophile culture and they actually have jewelry and symbols to identify themselves to other pedophiles. Because I love the law, I read about the cases where alot of these nutso are looking to make pedophile some type of lifestyle.. The Man Boy or whatever their name is have been around for years So no I am not beening paranoid, just staying well read and would advise anyone else who is not to do the same.

By Candidly Speaking

September 12, 2006 11:12 AM | Link to this

BK Nawh…Mayne it was Gwinnett. She was crazy as H3LL. Me and my boy took all the signs down…so we thought, next thang I knew she had them all on the cars at mall. Then gon start crying “I’m sorry….we just need to talk, can you forgive me?….I was just hurt and feeling ignored.” I told her…you ain’t seen ignored YET.

On my part…I was a tad bit trifling at the time, yah know young and dumb. Yeah the kat was good…but so good I wanted to stop my persuit of the ULTIMATE KAT.

By LorDemi

September 12, 2006 11:14 AM | Link to this

Demi because they didn’t get it from a father. So they don’t know what healthy love/affection from a man is.

Lady 4th sorry sis, but this is a poor exuse…there are too many fatherless women who are doing very well. Reguardless of your past, by age 22/23 you should have moved on…

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 11:14 AM | Link to this

Men if think you see your Woman’s car outside of your house, but when you call her she says “I’m at home watching TV”…and the person in the car hangs up their cell phone the same time you do…that could be a sign

By Candidly Speaking

September 12, 2006 11:16 AM | Link to this

Should read:

Not so good, that I would stop my pursuit of the ULTIMATE KAT!!!

Hot Sauce

You know I handles mine!!! Always leave’m wanting/begging fo mo.

By JustMe

September 12, 2006 11:21 AM | Link to this

4TLH My Capricorn Brother is the same way………… Nothing rattles is chain and I mean nothing.

When my car blew up in my driveway, I was mad for about 2 minutes….. then I thought about that Allstate premium that I pay errrr month.

4TLH Your skit was toooo funny……… Hoody Hooo - ROFLMAO DAYUM!

By Blue_Kolla

September 12, 2006 11:23 AM | Link to this

Kym Sidebar

By 3rdwheelflunkie

September 12, 2006 11:27 AM | Link to this

hey * ImAPeach404* I got to add on to what you said…how about a guy who is 38 years old still living with his mom and brother and his 16 year old son and works at Mcdonalds… could that be a bad sign too?? People say I am being too picky……

By 4theLongHaul

September 12, 2006 11:27 AM | Link to this

Kym I was simply saying hi to you. The other comments weren’t directed at you. But it does make you wonder, based on the many comments here, that dang, you gotta be leary of everybody because everybody got some degree of crazy gene in their DNA, just waiting for the right situation to spark it! Lord have mercy! So I was just saying we just gotta do what the Bible said, “WATCH as well as PRAY”.

By Candidly Speaking

September 12, 2006 11:28 AM | Link to this

BK

Yeah dude, I hear “nonchalant” a lot myself. Hmmm… So is it me just chillin’ or females showing signs of being dangerous?

I haven’t completely figured it out. I guess some women are used to dudes smothering them, falling all over them. That’s not my style. I think that they get a joy outta feeling like someone is “jocking” them. You know what they say, “Girl he gettin on my nerves, calling all the time, he’on want nothing.”

My resolve: This is me, this is my style…either you wit it or not.

By Hot Sauce

September 12, 2006 11:32 AM | Link to this

BK to answer your questions no and no comment

Candid I’m sure you leave your mark like Zorro lol

By 3rdwheelflunkie

September 12, 2006 11:33 AM | Link to this

Musing I had to laugh out loud on that one….. I love when people do drive bys and they get caught and try to play it off that it’s not them…… I know your car because you got all of those dints and dings on there from your last relationship that you ran off….. pyscho…..

By Jazzyone

September 12, 2006 11:35 AM | Link to this

Never Trsut a big Dyk and a smile!

By JustMe

September 12, 2006 11:37 AM | Link to this

Candid and Blue Being laid back and reserved (sometimes called non-chalant) is not necessarily a bad thing, but when you are at the point that you NEVER display ANY emotion, good or bad with a woman who thinks/hopes that an emotional bond is being created, it can be taken the wrong way.

By Blue_Kolla

September 12, 2006 11:38 AM | Link to this

Candid I guess some women are used to dudes smothering them, falling all over them. That’s not my style. I think that they get a joy outta feeling like someone is “jocking” them. You know what they say, “Girl he gettin on my nerves, calling all the time, he’on want nothing.”

I see you’ve been reading my book. I’m one of them, take it how it comes, brothas myself. And it dayum sure ain’t gon’ be none of that bugaboo type shyt eiva.

By Tall'n'Handsome

September 12, 2006 11:38 AM | Link to this

ImAPeach404 Nuh girl, sometimes it is what it is. In my case 6’2…enjoy

By C tha 1

September 12, 2006 11:45 AM | Link to this

Everybody

Keep a close eye on people who do not know how to check their competitive nature. In other words people who do not handle losing in anything well at all! Hell, I love to compete, but if I get beat in a game of golf (which I don’t/can’t play)I can’t let it drive me crazy.

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 11:46 AM | Link to this

Men, if your Lady meets the Women in your office and and tells them “This is mine! Now fk wit it” (said while grabbing your ballzz and clutching)….that could be a sign

By Thick

September 12, 2006 11:47 AM | Link to this

Thanks, Imapeach404

I know a lady like this perosnally and she just acts really crazy at times, crying and being emotional. I think it is due to her upbringing. The bahavior drives her man absolutely nuts. This guy has had a baby with this girl and she uses that baby to try to control him all the time. I hope men and women would just really be observant when getting involved with someone.

By Hot Sauce

September 12, 2006 11:51 AM | Link to this

^5 Jazzy that’s one of my favorites songs Poisennnnnnnn

By QC - Too Much Work 4 a Tuesday

September 12, 2006 11:54 AM | Link to this

@Ctha1 I feel you on that, i need to send you these 2 competive emails i have and they are addictive but fun

By QC - Too Much Work 4 a Tuesday

September 12, 2006 11:57 AM | Link to this

Dayum Musing lmao! you sick

By Stinky Sullivan

September 12, 2006 11:57 AM | Link to this

Most women have NO problem when they are with me. Because I know how to treat ‘em, if you know what I mean…I know how to take care of thier womanly needs!

Winks at the ladies, SS

By ImAPeach404

September 12, 2006 12:02 PM | Link to this

@Tall… Thats great! I often wonder if they make tall men anymore :)

Throwback comment I was so busy yesterday I didn’t get to post… but about the virgin thing… What if you decide you will wait for marriage to have sex, and then yall don’t even get married. Now you’ve gone 2 years w/out sex FOR NOTHIN’!!!

Back on topic

This is so distrubing to me My girl works at Charter-Peachford, and she was telling me that b/c of insurance reasons, a lot of crazy people are walking the streets. Either their insurance wouldn’t pay for them to stay in the hospital anymore, or either their insuranced lapsed, or there were no beds for them at the hospital so they let these people out on the street with a pat on the back. Watch your back out there…

-k

By ImAPeach404

September 12, 2006 12:03 PM | Link to this

@Tall… Thats great! I often wonder if they make tall men anymore :)

Throwback comment I was so busy yesterday I didn’t get to post… but about the virgin thing… What if you decide you will wait for marriage to have sex, and then yall don’t even get married. Now you’ve gone 2 years w/out sex FOR NOTHIN’!!!

Back on topic

This is so distrubing to me My girl works at Charter-Peachford, and she was telling me that b/c of insurance reasons, a lot of crazy people are walking the streets. Either their insurance wouldn’t pay for them to stay in the hospital anymore, or either their insuranced lapsed, or there were no beds for them at the hospital so they let these people out on the street with a pat on the back. Watch your back out there…

-k

By Tee

September 12, 2006 12:03 PM | Link to this

Beware of the “pity man”. The one who life and everyone around has done wrong. He is always looking for sympathy and always has a sad story and is emotionally needed. I have found that there are more emotionally unstable men out here than women and those are the ones to look out for. That’s my story and I am sticking to it!

By ImAPeach404

September 12, 2006 12:03 PM | Link to this

@Tall… Thats great! I often wonder if they make tall men anymore :)

Throwback comment I was so busy yesterday I didn’t get to post… but about the virgin thing… What if you decide you will wait for marriage to have sex, and then yall don’t even get married. Now you’ve gone 2 years w/out sex FOR NOTHIN’!!!

Back on topic

This is so distrubing to me My girl works at Charter-Peachford, and she was telling me that b/c of insurance reasons, a lot of crazy people are walking the streets. Either their insurance wouldn’t pay for them to stay in the hospital anymore, or either their insuranced lapsed, or there were no beds for them at the hospital so they let these people out on the street with a pat on the back. Watch your back out there…

-k

By ImAPeach404

September 12, 2006 12:03 PM | Link to this

@Tall… Thats great! I often wonder if they make tall men anymore :)

Throwback comment I was so busy yesterday I didn’t get to post… but about the virgin thing… What if you decide you will wait for marriage to have sex, and then yall don’t even get married. Now you’ve gone 2 years w/out sex FOR NOTHIN’!!!

Back on topic

This is so distrubing to me My girl works at Charter-Peachford, and she was telling me that b/c of insurance reasons, a lot of crazy people are walking the streets. Either their insurance wouldn’t pay for them to stay in the hospital anymore, or either their insuranced lapsed, or there were no beds for them at the hospital so they let these people out on the street with a pat on the back. Watch your back out there…

-k

By Cinderella

September 12, 2006 12:04 PM | Link to this

Hey All, I haven’t read all the posts so these may be repeats:

By Bre'

September 12, 2006 12:22 PM | Link to this

BK You are so right, I let guys know from the jump. I have six brothers and they are country as all get out. I’m the little sister so they have to decide how to proceed. It takes one phone call and if they can’t ALL make it Boogie(childhood/neighboorhood thug) and the crew will be showing up ASAP.

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 12:30 PM | Link to this

Peach Throwback Comment My Ex and I waited 8yrs and didn’t get married. We met when we were 18yrs old. To say that we waited for NOTHIN would not be an accurate statement. It all depends on your objective. I was trying to keep myself pure (from a biblical sense based on my interpretation). I don’t regret it…if anything…at times I regret NOT being a virgin!

By floyd

September 12, 2006 12:31 PM | Link to this

Don’t be fat and your man won’t hit you.

By 4theLongHaul

September 12, 2006 12:32 PM | Link to this

Bre You sound like my dad’s family. Seven boys and eight girls and SHE had the nerve to be the baby. Guys never stood a chance.

By Kym -Honorary Cheetah Girl

September 12, 2006 12:33 PM | Link to this

My motto is if you hit you better kill me, or run for your life, and dont go to sleep, because I promise you there are places to bury bodies in Georgia that all the demons in hell cant find you.

By Jazzyone

September 12, 2006 12:33 PM | Link to this

I look out for the red flags. Doesn’t take me years or even months and I’m out if the flag is thrown on the play. Not calling couzins or friends or brothers or even my Father to get atcha’ and jeopardize our happiness and freedom.

If you skipped the classes on Respect self/others and how to treat a lady I’m not the one to teach you and you will learn the hard way. Getting at me is like trying to get thru Fort Knox when Im done playing the games withcha’

My first call is to the law, my second call is to my attorney. Both take less than 2 minutes and the drama is flipped to his side of the field, as I continue to tiptoe thru the tulips.

By Candidly Speaking

September 12, 2006 12:39 PM | Link to this

Women

If IKE Turner is yah boy’s hero…RUN

Men

If “Monster” is yah girls favorite movie…RUN

By 4theLongHaul

September 12, 2006 12:40 PM | Link to this

Kym LOL!!!!

By Page1908

September 12, 2006 12:42 PM | Link to this

LOL Kym

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 12:46 PM | Link to this

Anybody have something else to discuss??? Any lurkers out there have something to talk about, cause this topic is a wrap.

By Tee

September 12, 2006 12:48 PM | Link to this

If you break up with him and he takes the hamster still in the tunnel in the cage and crashes down inside the dumpster before he makes his exit, you need to RUN!!!

By Tall'n'Handsome

September 12, 2006 12:49 PM | Link to this

Jazzyone LOL…that was mean!

By GBI not MusingLee

September 12, 2006 12:49 PM | Link to this

Kym this information has been logged and will be kept on file for future reference.

By QC - Too Much Work 4 a Tuesday

September 12, 2006 12:50 PM | Link to this

What’s up Page

By QC - Too Much Work 4 a Tuesday

September 12, 2006 12:52 PM | Link to this

Musing, lawd have mercy…you need to take your show on the road

By Page1908

September 12, 2006 12:52 PM | Link to this

LOL Musing! You gonna get in trouble!

By LorDemi

September 12, 2006 12:53 PM | Link to this

Not so good, that I would stop my pursuit of the ULTIMATE KAT!!!

Does it really exist? now in pursuit of the ULTIMATE KAT

By Jazzyone

September 12, 2006 12:53 PM | Link to this

By Tall’n’Handsome September 12, 2006 12:49 PM | Link to this Jazzyone LOL…that was mean! Nah not mean just to old to play games and too busy to deal with the self inflicted pain and drama.

By Hot Sauce

September 12, 2006 12:55 PM | Link to this

What about people who go through all this drama with someone breakup with them and turn around only to get back with that person what do you call them??????

By Candidly Speaking

September 12, 2006 12:56 PM | Link to this

Fellas

When you go to ole girls house…always peep in the kitchen…make sure no grits or grease is on the stove.

IT’S A THIN LINE BETWEEN LOVE AND HATE IT’S A THIN LINE BETWEEN LOVE AND HATE

IT’S FIVE O’CLOCK IN THE MORNING AND YOU’RE JUST GETTING IN YOU KNOCK ON THE FRONT DOOR AND A VOICE SWEET AND LOW SAYS “WHO IS IT?” SHE OPENS UP THE DOOR AND LETS YOU IN NEVER ONCE ASKS WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN SHE SAYS “ARE YOU HUNGRY? DID YOU EAT YET? LET ME HANG UP YOUR COAT PASS ME YOUR HAT” ALL THE TIME SHE’S SMILING NEVER ONCE RAISES HER VOICE IT’S FIVE O’CLOCK IN THE MORNING YOU DON’T GIVE IT A SECOND THOUGHT

IT’S A THIN LINE BETWEEN LOVE AND HATE (REPEAT)

THE SWEETEST WOMAN IN THE WORLD COULD BE THE MEANEST WOMAN IN THE WORLD IF YOU MAKE HER THAT WAY YOU KEEP HURTING HER SHE’LL KEEP BEING QUIET SHE MIGHT BE HOLDING SOMETHING INSIDE THAT’LL REALLY, REALLY HURT YOU ONE DAY

I SEE HER IN THE HOSPITAL BANDAGED FROM FOOT TO HEAD IN A STATE OF SHOCK JUST THAT MUCH FROM BEING DEAD YOU COULDN’T BELIEVE THE GIRL WOULD DO SOMETHING LIKE THIS, HA YOU DIDN’T THINK THE GIRL HAD THE NERVE BUT HERE YOU ARE I GUESS ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS

IT’S A THIN LINE BETWEEN LOVE AND HATE (REPEAT)

Words to live by….LMAO

By Kym -Honorary Cheetah Girl

September 12, 2006 12:57 PM | Link to this

Dear GBI not MusingLee,

Georgia has 159 counties, and over 400,000 acres of Okefenokee swamp land..gators tell no tell.

By Tazzee

September 12, 2006 12:59 PM | Link to this

Afternoon folks!

This is a good topic Wise Diva and I honestly don’t have much to add because I’ve never been in a dangerous dating situation. I always look at the little things a guy does and try to see how that would be on a larger level.

I too am fairly even keeled when in relationships. But I’ve found that some guys are accustomed to dramatic women. My motto is - I say what I mean, and I mean what I say. No need for all the accompanying histrionics to get my point across.

By Page1908

September 12, 2006 01:01 PM | Link to this

Hey QC!

LOL @ Peach

Another sign that a male/female may be dealing with a real wacko is how they treat animals…whether or not they abuse them. If they do, RUN!

By Tall'n'Handsome

September 12, 2006 01:02 PM | Link to this

ImAPeach404 Hahaha…Yes, tall men are rare and the ladies don’t mind sharing…which is sad

By Hot Sauce

September 12, 2006 01:02 PM | Link to this

Why do men call the *women’s private part - “Kat”?

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 01:03 PM | Link to this

Now doing pushups with one arm, trying to entice the lurkers to post….Women lurkers my shirt is off and I am sweating all over my muscles and I think one ballz is out….Men lurkers I am doing “pushups” on top of a lovely lady while drinking a Corona

“Lets see if that makes them post!”

By danielle

September 12, 2006 01:04 PM | Link to this

Hot Sauce I call that co-dependency.

By Jazzyone

September 12, 2006 01:05 PM | Link to this

Hot sauce its called living in the fog of your own reality.

By Page1908

September 12, 2006 01:05 PM | Link to this

LOL Candid…awwwwww shyt that’s my jam right there! LOL

LOL Kym again!

By GBI not MusingLee

September 12, 2006 01:06 PM | Link to this

Now calling “Gator Whisperer” and logging additional conversation with said suspect Kym for further analysis

By LorDemi

September 12, 2006 01:06 PM | Link to this

but when you are at the point that you NEVER display ANY emotion, good or bad with a woman who thinks/hopes that an emotional bond is being created, it can be taken the wrong way.

JustMe it is called weak minded women and the same can be said for the men…

By 3rdwheelflunkie

September 12, 2006 01:07 PM | Link to this

Can we talk about If it is accetablr to date a man who is 39 years old and still lives with his brother, mother and son who is 16 years old and works at Mcdondalds for a living and mooches off of friends???

By Candidly Speaking

September 12, 2006 01:07 PM | Link to this

Hot Sauce

Cause if you stroke it right….it’ll purrrrrrrrrr!!!

By Page1908

September 12, 2006 01:09 PM | Link to this

LOL Musing, dude is it spongy? LOL @ doing one arm pushups in your cubible.

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 01:09 PM | Link to this

Candid LOL…hahahaha…

“The sweetest Woman in the world, Can be the meanest Woman in the world” (Said in my Ashy Larry voice)

You ain’t neva lied man!

By Jazzyone

September 12, 2006 01:10 PM | Link to this

Tall men are not rare whoever you are. and the ladies are posting on thier own blog. have you not figured that out yet??

By Hot Sauce

September 12, 2006 01:12 PM | Link to this

Candid now i’ll have that song in my head for the rest of the day;

By Jazzyone

September 12, 2006 01:14 PM | Link to this

3rd is this your man you are speaking of? There isn’t any discussion if thats what you like thats what YOU like.

By Lah Lah

September 12, 2006 01:14 PM | Link to this

Musing You got me out of lurkesville with the “one ball out while doing one handed push ups!”

By Hot Sauce

September 12, 2006 01:15 PM | Link to this

Candid, nuff said

Musing stop it!

Thanks Ladies, somebody need to tell these females i know that cause they need help already

By Kym -Honorary Cheetah Girl

September 12, 2006 01:16 PM | Link to this

@GBI not Musing Lee

Swim around, Swim around, Swim around, remember that Gators will even eat their on young.

By Page1908

September 12, 2006 01:19 PM | Link to this

LOL 3rd! WTH?? What do you mean mooches? On the West Coast the word mooch is slang for what you guys call kat…LOL…clarify for me, please! Are you saying that the dude likes to get the mooch from his friends? making confused face and shrugging shoulders

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 01:19 PM | Link to this

3rd Dude is a busta, and No, you should not go out with him or you’ll be a “Busta by association”.

Page No! The one ballz is not “spongy”..Dang…You and your love of the “spongy ballz”! LOL…I’ll neva understand…hahahaha

BTW: 3rd is this dudes son his McDonald Manager?…cause that could be awkward at home..justsaying

By abc

September 12, 2006 01:20 PM | Link to this

Yall are kinda crackin me up with all your warning signs… like if they have ‘crazy’ tattooed on their forehead… reminds me of Foxworthy’s ‘you might be a redneck if…’ only it’s ‘you might be a psycho if…’

Actually that reminds me of something my mother told me long ago about love: ‘if you’re shaving in the morning, and she comes in with her hair in curlers with a bag over it and sits down to take a pee, and you’re not completely disgusted, then it might be love’. Uh, mom? Gotcha! hahaha

By GBI Cutie

September 12, 2006 01:22 PM | Link to this

GBI not MusingLee, YOU will delete those files NOW!

Ms.Kym, your comment has been approve by W.A.A.B.(Women Against Abuse Board)

Ladies, your safety first!!!

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 01:22 PM | Link to this

Now switching pushup arms with a mid-air clap and tucking ballz back into shorts leg

Also popping bottle of Colt 45

By Page1908

September 12, 2006 01:24 PM | Link to this

LOL Musing stop! LOL, you never know if it is or not, epecially if it’s hanging out hitting the floor each time you go down to do the push up. YUCK

By Hot Sauce

September 12, 2006 01:28 PM | Link to this

out to lunch

By Page1908

September 12, 2006 01:28 PM | Link to this

MUSING!! LOLOL….you got on them daisy dukes? LOL

By GBI not MusingLee

September 12, 2006 01:30 PM | Link to this

Now wondering who the hellz GBI Cutie thinks she is telling me to delete my files…..Now starting file on GBI Cutie…also receiving anonymous tip that Cutie has a big ole booty

Say what!

By JustMe

September 12, 2006 01:31 PM | Link to this

QC Musing, lawd have mercy…you need to take your show on the road I’ve been telling Musing that for a while now. He is str8Stuuuupid!

Tall N ImAPeach404 Hahaha…Yes, tall men are rare and the ladies don’t mind sharing…which is sad That’s not true for all women. I only date men 6’0”+ and I’ll be dayumed if I share!

Demi JustMe it is called weak minded women and the same can be said for the men… I used to think that too, but over the years, I’ve learned that some folks are just out of touch with their emotions, so they just don’t react to anything.

3rd It’s safe to say he is a SCRUB. If you want to date a SCRUB, it perfectly fine, but don’t be surprised when they mooch off of you too.

By LorDemi

September 12, 2006 01:32 PM | Link to this

Candid you made me think of the movie Misery

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 01:33 PM | Link to this

LahLah how did I know that would get you out of lurksville?!?!? LOL

Page You are too crazy…LOL…I’m not wearing any “Dukes”…But this one ballz keeps falling out the nest.

Now doing lunges…Ballz smacking together like “click-clanks”

By danielle

September 12, 2006 01:35 PM | Link to this

To All Bloggers Since we’re talking about abusive behavior, has anyone heard about Jay-Z slapping a female photographer for taking an unauthorized photo of him. They said that he tried to pay the lady off quickly so that it didn’t get out. Guess they were too late

Do you think he’s abusive to Beyonce? If not, it’s definitely a sign that he has the potential to be abusive?

By JustMe

September 12, 2006 01:37 PM | Link to this

Musing When you finish those 1 handed push-ups and lunges, come on over to my window and “walkitout’

By JustMe

September 12, 2006 01:38 PM | Link to this

Wise When are they gonna fix thing crazy thing, I have to log back on to AJC everytime I post!

By Page1908

September 12, 2006 01:39 PM | Link to this

LOL Peach yeah you are right. I think we discussed this before on here, how when dudes are less than 6’0 tall, they usually add on 2 inches, so women usually have to subtract the 2 inches so they can know what their real height is.

LOL Musing glaring at the smacking ballz with googly eyes ..LOLOL

By Lah Lah

September 12, 2006 01:39 PM | Link to this

Musing LMAO while spewing unsweet tea!

By LOST & LONLEY

September 12, 2006 01:41 PM | Link to this

OK HELP ME PLEASE!!!! I AM A SINGLE MOM OF TWO CHILDREN THAT DOESNT GET A CHANCE TO GET OUT MUCH. I AM FRESH OUT OF A 6 YR RELATIONSHIP WITH THEIR FATHER. I AM ON THE DATING SCENE AGAIN. SOMETHING THAT I HAVE NOT DONE IN A LONG TIME. NOW I NEED SOME HELP. I AM NOT SURE I KNOW HOW TO DATE ANYMORE… I STARTED DATING THIS ONE MAN AFTER KNOWING HIM FOR LIKE 2 MONTHS. HE HASNT SAID ANYTHING OUT THE WAY BUT I AM WONDERING IF HE IS STILL INTERESTED OR NOT. I THINK I HAVE TURNED INTO ONE OF THOSE CLINGY FEMALES. I AM SO USED TO KEEPING TABS THAT I AM BEING A PUSHY PERSON. I AM NOT MEANING TO BUT THAT IS HOW THINGS HAVE TURNED OUT. CAN THE LADIES & MEN PLEASE GIVE ME SOME DATING POINTERS? GEE I KNOW I SOUND REAL DESPERATE… THANKS!!!

By GBI Cutie

September 12, 2006 01:42 PM | Link to this

GBI not MusingLee watch yourself child…*said while cleaning .45 loaded/w non-police issue Rhino bullets

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 01:44 PM | Link to this

Now sitting indian style in front of JustMe’s office window meditating…While the cool breeze whips through the 1950’s gym shorts and causes the ballz to retract

By Lah Lah

September 12, 2006 01:48 PM | Link to this

Daniel No I didn’t read that story. I can only imagine how sick and tired celeberties get of photographers. still thats NO EXCUSE.

By 3rdwheelflunkie

September 12, 2006 01:49 PM | Link to this

Hey Jazzy That is not my man. He wants to be my man but I am not having it…. People call me snob because of it…

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 01:50 PM | Link to this

Lost & Lonely First rule…Lean up off that “Caps Button”…Second rule- Get used to having your own life again before jumping back into a relationship, do stuff by yourself, get back in touch with YOU!

GBI Cutie Files have been deleted! But, I’m keeping photos of big ole booty.

By Jazzyone

September 12, 2006 01:50 PM | Link to this

Musing sounds like you have a fond relationship between you and your ballz.

Lost if you are fresh out of a relationship of 6 years with a man. Thing is you might need some time to reconnect with the kids and yourself and maybe the dating scene can wait.

By 3rdwheelflunkie

September 12, 2006 01:51 PM | Link to this

Hey Page LOLOL Mocches mean he doesn’t pay for anything and wants people to do for him…. That’s funny…..

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 01:53 PM | Link to this

Lost If you are fresh out of a six year relationship then you may want to chill and do some introspection before hitting the dating scene. It’s okay to feel a sense of loneliness after such a long relationship. However, you must deal with those emotions because you will be very clingy, and emotionally unstable with the next person. Take the time to find out about the things you enjoy doing and do the things that you keep putting off! Become a healthy whole person first and let that be your priority! You definitely sound anxious to fill that void…which could be very dangerous!

By Tall'n'Handsome

September 12, 2006 01:53 PM | Link to this

how when dudes are less than 6’0 tall, they usually add on 2 inches, so women usually have to subtract the 2 inches so they can know what their real height is.

I fell you page, If you are over 5’10 why lie about your height? That is some weak minded Shyt

demi what about the ankle breaking scene, LOL

JustMe lol, heard that before…each to their own

By Jazzyone

September 12, 2006 01:54 PM | Link to this

Who cares what anyone else thinks. If thats what you like thats what YOU like. a snob??..nah you aren’t a snob. Its all about what your standards are and anyone that doesn’t like how you do your grown woman can suck a cumquat..or kick rocks ya’ dig??!!

By Lah Lah

September 12, 2006 01:55 PM | Link to this

Lost

Girlfriend, you said you are FRESH OUT of a six year relationship. Give yourself some time. I know you prolly don’t wanna hear that but take my advice. I’m 28 and a single mother of two as well. I was with ex for 8 years. YOU NEED TIME. Date, go to the movies, go to dinner or to a concert, just don’t be trying to replace your ex and don’t be trying to get serious with anyone right away. It will(more than likely)never work. Trust!

Enter your next relationship in a place of strength and independance not desparation.

By JustMe

September 12, 2006 01:55 PM | Link to this

Musing Don’t meditate too long, I wanna see ya booty shaking!!!

3rd Run, Run, fast as you can, he’s just a moochin man! IF folks call you a snob because of that, I can only wonder what their life / life style is really like. The guy obviously has no desire to “come up” on his own. He is what I would call a “bytchazznikka” - Oooo my bad, I hope you don’t like this dude too much, but he is what he is!

By 3rdwheelflunkie

September 12, 2006 01:55 PM | Link to this

LOL Musing No his son doesn’t have a job……

By abc

September 12, 2006 01:56 PM | Link to this

@3rd, everyone wants what they want, if your preference is a 6 figure guy, that’s your preference and no need to rationalize or justify it to anyone.

@Lost, turn caps lock off! Then step back, take a deep breath, and relax. Let the dude come to you and date other people for awhile.

By danielle

September 12, 2006 01:58 PM | Link to this

Lah Lah I agree with you that it must be aggravating to have a camera in your face all the time, but that comes with being famous. But like you said It’s no excuse

By abc

September 12, 2006 01:58 PM | Link to this

I’m 5’10”, why should I lie about it? Then again, chicks lie about their age ALL the time…

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 02:00 PM | Link to this

JazzyOne I guess I kind’a do love my ballz…

Singing: My ballz and me, only thing that could be better would be to have three…They stick with me through thick and thin, they like to hang out with my lady friends….Left up the ballz and sing with me….

By LorDemi

September 12, 2006 02:00 PM | Link to this

LOST & LONLEY stop post in caps please!

By Page1908

September 12, 2006 02:02 PM | Link to this

LOL 3rd Ohhhhhhh, ok I gotcha! Thanks for the clarification. Well, if you don’t mind dude doing those things, then it shouldn’t be a bog deal. Plus, dude may be living like that now, but you never know what may happen in the near future. Some women kill me when all they see in a man is what he has now versus what he may have in the future. If you like him, try it and see how it works…you never know, girl. Good luck!

LOL Tall yeah I don’t know why. Like if a dude says he is 5’9, I just know he is 5’7. I think they add the 2 inches from their shoes…lol…I’m like dude, you ain’t gonna be wearing Timberlands 24/7 so you might as well keep it real! LOL

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 02:07 PM | Link to this

Standing in front of JustMe’s office window…Now snapp’in to the left…Joc’in to the right…all while walk’in it out….Until security shows up and forces me to leave the property for bringing sexy back and getting the ladies in the building moist

By Kym -Honorary Cheetah Girl

September 12, 2006 02:08 PM | Link to this

Speaking of people snapping, does anyone know what more happen with the minister’s wife in Tennnesse that took him out with the double barrel shotgun. Perfect example of a person who just snapped.

By Wise Diva

September 12, 2006 02:09 PM | Link to this

Hey Everyone! Justme, I will send an email to someone, thank you for your patience.

Welcome Lost and Lonely! All caps is considered yelling.

I agree with others, you would probably feel better with more balance in your life. You and the kids first, a little romance, when you have time, especially right now.

By Candidly Speaking

September 12, 2006 02:11 PM | Link to this

abc

Mayne, they lie bout size and weight too. Can’t fool the kid, I have a sister, I know sizes. A size 14 and a 14W is two different things.

Does the “W” stand for wide?

Going from a size 2 (on the phone) size 12 (in person)…Nawh try again!!!

By LorDemi

September 12, 2006 02:11 PM | Link to this

abc I often date older sisters, once the bra comes off…their age will be known…dem thingy hanging a bit low huh?

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 02:12 PM | Link to this

Page *Some women kill me when all they see in a man is what he has now versus what he may have in the future. *

At 39 you should have something that speaks to your vision, ambition, and integrity besides a son, working at McDonald’s, and living with your mother. He has to demonstrate that he has potential…

By Lah Lah

September 12, 2006 02:14 PM | Link to this

This guy I was seeing would always say I’m 6’2” to 6’2” 1/2 but 6’3” on a good day.

WTH does that mean?

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 02:17 PM | Link to this

Kym she’s out on bail…

By Jazzyone

September 12, 2006 02:18 PM | Link to this

Maybe that is his Vision. Can’t hate that if its not for you keep it moving.

By Page1908

September 12, 2006 02:18 PM | Link to this

Darbuty yes, you are right. If he shows potential, then it’s at least worth a shot. The only way she would know that, though, is to get to know him. shrugging shoulders

By Bre'

September 12, 2006 02:19 PM | Link to this

@Page not only Timbs they have those black boots that have a sneaker bubble in it….giving dudes like two inches… And then they come with, “we the same size when we lay down”…yeah okay put that in a memo.

By LorDemi

September 12, 2006 02:19 PM | Link to this

Page1908 dude is 39 and working for Mickey D’s…3rd you can do better…

By Candidly Speaking

September 12, 2006 02:22 PM | Link to this

The Kind and Gentle Side of Candid

Lost, babey girl, take awhile to breathe and heal. Six years is long time to be involved with someone. Spend time with your children, make sure that they are OK, get to know yourself again. When you are truly ready to date/pursue a relationship you’ll know. Stay Strong My Sistah!!!!

By Lah Lah

September 12, 2006 02:23 PM | Link to this

page If a dude is working at a fast food joint @ 39 unless he owns a chain of them bad boys…. I ain’t interested in his future.

Would YOU holla at a 39 year old dude dropping fries at McDonalds? Just asking

By Jazzyone

September 12, 2006 02:23 PM | Link to this

At least he’s working…

By Candidly Speaking

September 12, 2006 02:26 PM | Link to this

Bre

And then they come with, “we the same size when we lay down”…yeah okay put that in a memo.

LMAO!!! 2Funny. But we stoopid shiid like that.

By JustMe

September 12, 2006 02:26 PM | Link to this

Musing LOL, com’on back, I tole the sacurrrrity that Hot Sauce was coming to protect the window with a few of her buddies. THey skr8 now.

Do Yo Thang baby, shake what yo mama gave you, drop it like it hot, get you swerve on, lean wit it, rock wit it, drop wit it, now slide, now walkitout I’m headed to the bank to get a roll of pennies……. brb

Kym I saw something on the news about her a month or so ago, I think she posted bail and is awaiting trial. You right, ole gurl just snapped.

Thanks Wise

Lost & Lonely You have been given sage advice. It will be quiet and lonely at times, but sista’ you have to find yourself again before you can even begin to start to wanna be in a new relationship. If you do find yourself in a new relationship real soon, just be sure to re-read this entire blog from today to make sure you ain’t missing a few signs and red flags.

By 4theLongHaul

September 12, 2006 02:26 PM | Link to this

Now what if *3rd’s man in question is at his mom’s house taking care of her??????

By Page1908

September 12, 2006 02:26 PM | Link to this

LMAOOOOOOOO Bre’ LOL oh yeah I forgot about those Pump Up Reeboks or whatever they are called..LOL @ sneaker bubble in the boots.

Now see Demi I will say this about your comment: If dude wasn’t working, then he would be a no-good sorry azz…but dude IS working and he is still a no-good sorry azz? WOW! Ya’ll men just can’t win for nothing. Work is work. Besides, it’s my understanding that 3rd also lives at home. So, what if a dude looked at her like she was a moocher? If she lives at home and is trying to get out or whatever, should she only be trying to get with dudes who make 6 figures, etc? I think not.

By Nymph in Training

September 12, 2006 02:27 PM | Link to this

Yep she would.

By DJ

September 12, 2006 02:27 PM | Link to this

I have been dating again for about 3 years now after ending a 7 year relationship and I have been on a lot of dates. Some of the things I discovered.

• Find out if she has been convicted of a felony. I dated a woman who had a felony and a 1 yr old and could not get a job. She was way too forward and fast.
• Watch out for women who say you are just ‘dating’ after you have been having sex for a few weeks. You are not the only one and she likes the other guy more.
• Women who need to be intoxicated to make out or have sex.
• Women who cannot hold a regular job and are always having their phone disconnected are going to be a problem in a relationship.
• If she doesn’t ask for you to use protection or says that she is allergic to latex - RUN and fast!!
• Women with children who do not put their children above everyone else have the wrong priorities.

By abc

September 12, 2006 02:27 PM | Link to this

On the other hand, I’ll bet that men wouldn’t be anywhere near as concerned about a woman working at McDonald’s, as long as she was pretty.

There it is again!

By Lah Lah

September 12, 2006 02:29 PM | Link to this

Yea you got a point Jazzy ok so he’s working. He also lives with relatives, mooches off of people has a teenage son that will be needing to go to college soon. He ain’t got time to be dating, he has work to do.

By Lah Lah

September 12, 2006 02:31 PM | Link to this

Candid that was so beautiful. Mama proud of ya. Thought you were going to tell her to woman up or something.lol

By Kym -Honorary Cheetah Girl

September 12, 2006 02:31 PM | Link to this

@Dark I want to know why she shot him. Meek, Mild, Lady, snapped and took him out of here. There is a story there.

By LorDemi

September 12, 2006 02:31 PM | Link to this

Well Dayum Tall, God has bless you, but dont start the ‘slicing the short brothers down’ riot from the ladies, lol…

By Page1908

September 12, 2006 02:32 PM | Link to this

LahLah that’s the difference between me and you. Dude at least has a job. For me, a man’s job doesn’t determine whether or not I would holla at him. If dude was hella funny and I felt like we were equally yoked, then yes, I would go for it. You never know.

If a dude has a 6 figure job and was a real jerk, then would that be better?

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 02:33 PM | Link to this

If I’m working at McDonalds when I turn 39, Hellz I’m turning to a life of crime…LOL

Busting into the McDonalds front door holding sock loaded with nickels…

Musing: Gimme dat cash playa…

McDonald Manager: I ain’t giving you ishh..

Musing: Don’t make me hit you ova the head old man, give up the cheese.

MM: Ain’t!!! Musing is that you? Shoal sounds like you?

Musing: Man shutup, That ain’t my name!

MM: Nicca, you late for yo’shift..I’m gonna dock you 4hrs…Now get back there, we backed up on Fries MoFo.

By JustMe

September 12, 2006 02:35 PM | Link to this

Dark At 39 you should have something that speaks to your vision, ambition, and integrity besides a son, working at McDonald’s, and living with your mother. He has to demonstrate that he has potential… That should have been in all caps - LOL ^5 on that ish!

Lah Lah Sometimes I am 5”13” just because - LOL I have fugged up a few heads with that line.

Page a line from Kanye West’s Goldigga - This week he’s moppin flo’s, next week he doin’ fries - GTFOH If he’s not in Manaement, he might be lazy as he!!

Jazzy I want of cup of your sunshine. I can not look through that muddy water and spot dry land!

By Candidly Speaking

September 12, 2006 02:35 PM | Link to this

3rd

If you feelin’ it, git wit it, if you ain’t it’s OK.

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 02:39 PM | Link to this

At least he’s working…

So is the bum on the corner with can coming up to your car (he’s working my nerves)…let’s not forget about the drug dealer…he got a job too!!

Kym/Anyone have you ever seen the show Snapped? It profiles women who just snapped and kill their husbands.

By Lah Lah

September 12, 2006 02:39 PM | Link to this

Page Pipe down lil mama, like I said, I was just askin.

Clearly there is a difference between you and I. Goes without saying boo.

By Page1908

September 12, 2006 02:39 PM | Link to this

LOL nymph, girl, you kill me. Knowing you have no room to talk…LOL your alter ego is funny because seriously, I know who you are LOL

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 02:42 PM | Link to this

Question for the Male bloggers Foots mentioned the silver bullet yesterday…would you have a problem if your GF/Wifey bought one? Would you take it as a hit to your male ego or would you be like Do you!

Or..join in on the fun!

By Wise Diva

September 12, 2006 02:43 PM | Link to this

Kym, I wondered the same thing, she certainly appears harmless in the pics. You never really know what goes on behind closed doors, especially when it comes to ministers, reverends, and bishops. When they get the story behind the story, it will be in a Lifetime movie event. SAD.

By JustMe

September 12, 2006 02:45 PM | Link to this

Page I would think that if the mother were sick, the she would have moved in with him and his son not him and the son moving in with her. Nice try, but dude sounds like he wants just enough to get by on; the rest he can beg for and borrow!

Musing I didn’t know it was dat bad fo ya bruh, I’ma change these pennies in for dimes - LOL

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 02:47 PM | Link to this

Kym She claims that he was verbally abusive…she shot him and then looked him in the eye and said that she was sorry before stepping over him and getting the hell out of town….who knows the real deal!

By abc

September 12, 2006 02:47 PM | Link to this

Yeah, men wouldn’t care so much about occupation as women do. McDonalds, waiting tables, bartending, being a maid, whatever, they’re not much different… we could all be 70 years old wearing a red smock and greeting people at Wal-Mart in spite of being high falutin this year, shiite happens, ya know. While being 39 and having a menial job is certainly less than impressive, judge not lest…

Just the same, if you have a problem with his occupation, leave him alone for his sake as well as yours, ain’t no need to apologize or turn up your nose, just do it or don’t do it.

By LorDemi

September 12, 2006 02:47 PM | Link to this

Page in my mom house’s I am the slowest of the her children, but by 23 I own 3 home…sorry brothers such as him get no love from me…NONE!

By Hot Sauce

September 12, 2006 02:47 PM | Link to this

Ya’ll been off da chain on here since i left for lunch; Musing if you don’t stop imma have somebody come pick you up and put you in hand cuffs, i’m sure you’ll like that

Candid & DJ, that was some real advice for LL

Good luck to ya baby girl just learn to love YOU and you be allright

Musing, how you gone make up a song about your ballz & you I was laughing so hard till my coworkers are lurking just to read what you’re saying

By Hot Sauce

September 12, 2006 02:49 PM | Link to this

Oh i love watching snapped

By Tazzee

September 12, 2006 02:50 PM | Link to this

3rd - if you seriously want advice about this guy then I say you need to consider the following:

• Does he treat you well

• How important is a man’s job title to you

• Does he treat you well

• Since you live with your parents and he lives with his parents, where would you guys go if you wanted some privacy

• Does he treat you well

• Are you ready to get married or just looking for some companionship, and finally

• Does he treat you well.

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 02:51 PM | Link to this

DarkButy I’d be pretty cool…As long as she don’t show up with something 16 inches long…LOL…I’d be like “WTH…you freak’in elephants or something…where is that gonna go…You sure tyrone and dem not hiding up there”

By Nymph in Training

September 12, 2006 02:52 PM | Link to this

You couldn’t see me with a birds eye view and 100 yrs to catch up. Miss pay for a man all over the blog. Everyone on here knows all your ‘bidness’ and all your friends bidness. I ain’t even hiding from ya’ ma.

By LorDemi

September 12, 2006 02:54 PM | Link to this

On the other hand, I’ll bet that men wouldn’t be anywhere near as concerned about a woman working at McDonald’s, as long as she was pretty.

Sorry bruh, McDonald’s uniform works magic on some sisters

page yes he is working…would you date him?

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 02:54 PM | Link to this

4th If he’s home taking care of mom…then let that be stated. I mean…we can go through tons of scenarios…but the GIVEN information makes dude a buster…we’ll appeal the decision when we have more evidence. LOL

abc men aren’t looking for women to be the financial backbone…main provider, etc…for the most part…y’all looking for a pretty face and tight bod…that’s how babysitters can come up on a Tiger Woods

Page it’s not about the 6-figure job…it’s about what he has demonstrated the 39 yrs he’s been given…NOTHING! but a sperm donor.

By Candidly Speaking

September 12, 2006 02:56 PM | Link to this

LahLah

I knew you could appreciate my softer and gentler side. wink/wink

The catch to it is…I only speak gently once about a matter. Next time…you gets the full uncut version.

By Thorn

September 12, 2006 02:57 PM | Link to this

Alan Walker AKA BIG AL. RUN RUN RUN. This man is dangerous. He is married but you will never know it because he keeps 3-4 girlfriends at all times. He calls all the time only to find out where you are so you will not be able to catch him with his many toys. It took me only one time of being slapped around that I ran as fast as I could. He owns a moving company and is a very big spender. Please BEWARE!!!!!!!!!!!!

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 02:58 PM | Link to this

JustMe I’m just saying…that if I’m 39yrs old and I in a situation where I need to work at McDonalds…Watch Out!!! LOL

Heading to job interview

Interviewer: So Musing why do you need this job?

Musing: Cause If I don’t get this job, I’m skrait jack’in yo’azz when you get off work! (now laughing like 50 Cent) Hahahahahahahahaha

Interviewer: You’re hired!!!

By JustMe

September 12, 2006 02:58 PM | Link to this

Hot Sauce You and the ya lurkinazz friends can be sacurriittyy for The Musing Show Please don’t make him stop. - LOL

PS, bring ankle chains too - LOL

When does Snapped come on and on what station?

Way off topic The ankle chains reminded me of the time me and my best friend duct taped and tied this dude up in my house. Dayum! That ish was too much fun….. Another time, we had this dude put on my Red Move somthin’ dress and 1 ear ring, we took pictures - errr now and then I come across those pictures and I die laughing all over again! Life was soooooo much fun in my 20’s!

By 4theLongHaul

September 12, 2006 03:01 PM | Link to this

Dark Yeah girl, you’re right. I was just trying to give ole boy benefit of the doubt….

By abc

September 12, 2006 03:02 PM | Link to this

@darkbuty, I think that’s the first time I’ve seen a woman on the blog outright admit that women are looking for a man to be the financial backbone. I usually refer to that as ‘a wallet with legs’.

By GBI not MusingLee

September 12, 2006 03:04 PM | Link to this

Now making note of JustMe’s confession to kidnapping dude in her 20’s and having “young monkey style” lov’in with him

By Hot Sauce

September 12, 2006 03:05 PM | Link to this

Oh no JustMe i don’t want him to “really stop” i just need to remember not to drink & read what he posts, lol I love reading his posts he should’ve been on that reality show america’s funniest comedian or whatever the name of it was that guy with the dixplexia (sp) won i think

By Blue_Kolla

September 12, 2006 03:05 PM | Link to this

Hmmm… Looking around at all the High Post chicks on the blog, showing little compassion or empathy for another’s struggles.

Listening to Mike Jones’ Back Then and thinking, “These are the same broads that’s gon’ wanna let Mickey D’s dude hit when his pockets get on swole.”

By Wise Diva

September 12, 2006 03:05 PM | Link to this

OH SNAP, did you just put that dude’s name out there!? oh my! we just turned into “dontdatehimgirl” blog, hahahhahah!

that’s messed up yo

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 03:06 PM | Link to this

Just Crazy schedule…but it comes on Oxygen…you can go to their website and see the next airing…but Saturdays at 1pm or sundays at 10pm are decent times.

By JustMe

September 12, 2006 03:07 PM | Link to this

Musing You could make more $$$ waiting tables in buckhead showing one of your sweaty ballz than you could make in a week at McDonalds unless you pulling 18 hour days and getting paid OT at McD’s! - I’m Justsayin’ if the best he can do is McD’s - Dayum he betta be gettin SSI too

By abc

September 12, 2006 03:08 PM | Link to this

…’course I’ve always been the wallet with legs myself, it seems the natural order of things. It does seem though, that over time, a chick’s perception of a man can narrow to being not much more than that alone. Just the natural order, dontcha think.

By 3rdwheelflunkie

September 12, 2006 03:10 PM | Link to this

JustMe I like him as a person that’s it…. LOL you are too funny!

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 03:10 PM | Link to this

abc would you consider that to be a gold digger? I would like to know that a man can hold it down financially if need be….I’m working as well.

Will the male bloggers answer my question please? Thanks Musing

Where’s SeanJ, runnin, blue,jraw, Ddub, etc?

By Capt.Pepper Sauce - Hot Sauce's coworker

September 12, 2006 03:12 PM | Link to this

Now i know why she sits here laughing partially through out the day & spitting out her tea, i can’t believe i’ve never came across this blog. How long has this been here? You all are having too much fun! We’ve put our work to the side for now and are reading all the comments. Musing if you ever come through DCP let us know so we can meet you personally, oh my goodness you are so funny. love your sweaty ballz song take care guys i’m going back to lurking

By 3rdwheelflunkie

September 12, 2006 03:12 PM | Link to this

Thanks for the advice Page we are just going to be friends… I mean for God’s sake he is almost 40 living at home…… If I wait till he is 60 to move out I will be close to my retirement… :o)

By JustMe

September 12, 2006 03:12 PM | Link to this

GBI Not Musing Lee Neva said nuthin bout no luvin with dude! Besides, we cut him loose after about 45 minutes. The kicker was he was laughing too. I guess he thought he was too tough to get over powered by two females. I wonder how he’s doin these days……. hmmmmm

By Just plain tired

September 12, 2006 03:13 PM | Link to this

@Musing I tried to lurke today but are you crazy or what? You are too funny for me. That McDonald’s story was off the chain.

By GBI Cutie

September 12, 2006 03:14 PM | Link to this

MusingLee please do not jog around the GBI’s headquarter…pulling out 20in whip

By 3rdwheelflunkie

September 12, 2006 03:15 PM | Link to this

LorDemi you crazy mad with that 2:11 post….. LOL Darkbuty Thanks for backing me up! He should have something besides a car!!

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 03:16 PM | Link to this

Blue where does it sound like he’s struggling and not complacent? That’s how I read it…a man with no ambition. Otherwise, 3rd left out the part how he has an education, but unable to get a job..or that he was working with a company for X number of years and they laid him off for no good reason….just sounds like a buster. AND A MAN CAN’T TREAT YOU WELL IF HE CAN’T TAKE CARE OF YOU…and it doesn’t require a 6-figure job to take care of you! A man should have a job that can provide for his household. But blue I know you believe this already!

By Kym -Honorary Cheetah Girl

September 12, 2006 03:16 PM | Link to this

@Dark I have never seen that show…I just know that perfectly normally people go nuts and take folks out of here.

Okay at what point did the blog turn into blast central? Thorn..Dont date him girl.com has the spot where you can put men folks who have done you wrong on blast, post pictures, heck I have even seen address over there. Funny stuff!!!

By 3rdwheelflunkie

September 12, 2006 03:17 PM | Link to this

Lah Lah you crazy!!! Would you like fries with that?? I am glad that he is working but I can’t imagine bringing that home to meet my parents they would commit me to Charter Peachford!

By Just plain tired

September 12, 2006 03:20 PM | Link to this

now that Musing has gotten me started just wanted to say that while I was getting my hair did I was reading this article in Essence and the guys were saying why they date white girls (there were three reasons but of course I forgot #3 or did she call me from under the dryer, anyway).

1) These guys said that white chicks were more aggressive about approaching them and asking them out on a date.

2)White chicks date the average Joe - hence the reason why I brought this up since so many seem opposed to dating someone working at a fastfood restuarant.

Just thought I would share.

By Alan Walker AKA Dyck "Got the Draws" Johnson

September 12, 2006 03:21 PM | Link to this

Alan ain’t my real name anyway, silly rabbit. Thanks for the boody though. LOL

By LorDemi

September 12, 2006 03:23 PM | Link to this

Darkbuty not to sound disrespectful…Some women tends to give better BJs when a foreign object is enter into neither region…*a toy or the real thing

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 03:24 PM | Link to this

Running pass GBI headquarters wearing 3700 dollar Linx coat, purple gators w/white socks, and a Burger King Crown….

“Catch Me if you can, I’m the MusingMan”

Now trying to jump over sign infront of Ga. Perimeter College

By abc

September 12, 2006 03:24 PM | Link to this

@darkbuty, no, I wouldn’t say golddigger, not at all! Just the way it is… as long as it’s out there, all men understand that if you’re not at least a moderate financial success you won’t get the girl. That aspect of relationships doesn’t apply to women, a double standard, sure.

By 3rdwheelflunkie

September 12, 2006 03:25 PM | Link to this

Musing You have me crying at my desk…. I have to put my head down now… You crazy!

By JustMe

September 12, 2006 03:25 PM | Link to this

3rd A smile a day keeps the prozac and zoloft away - LOL

Hot Sauce That sounds like “Last Comic Standing” I told him to go to the Exec’s at Comedy Centeral - They need a replacement for Dave Chapelle and he would do a dayum find job indeed! Heck, I might even make a guest appearance to Moon a few folks for him - LOL

Cap’N Say it ain’t so…… we need you here with us bloggin’ not lurkin’

GBI Cutie Crack dat whip!

By Blue_Kolla

September 12, 2006 03:27 PM | Link to this

Dark You’re right, 3rd left out a lot, but the point is that most here didn’t even inquire, they just assumed that he was a sorry ummm, bytchazznikka (Thanks JustMe ). Hell he could be the same dude that got out of jail for a rape that he didn’t commit and therefor have no hotshot education or he could be some fatcat, checking a sisters mettle, before he discloses his true multi-million dolla bank account.

By Jazzyone

September 12, 2006 03:27 PM | Link to this

Justme That story was auesome. You wanna know where he is now??. He’s prolly tied up right now married to a DOminatrix. See what you did! ;-))

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 03:28 PM | Link to this

I missed Thorn’s post…too funny!

Kym I will be checking out dontdatehimgirl.com…LOL…didn’t know this stuff exists.

Now what do I do if I find my MAN on there?? hmmmm….

By SeanJohnson

September 12, 2006 03:30 PM | Link to this

@Darkbuty…whats your question again?….

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 03:33 PM | Link to this

Capt Pepper Sauce WTH is DCP…Is that Dekalb County Police???? Helllzzzz Nawwww, I ain’t neva eva, eva eva, eve neva eva, coming to see y’all!

Talking bout “come through and see us”…Yeah, so they can whip my’azz and be like “dayummm he funny, hahahahah” hit’em again officer Hot Sauce

By Lah Lah

September 12, 2006 03:33 PM | Link to this

Purple Gators with White Socks!!!LMAO

By Tazzee

September 12, 2006 03:33 PM | Link to this

Darkbuty - a man does not have to take care of you financially to be able to treat you well. If that is the case, a woman that can take care of herself doesn’t need a man. There are many ways that a man can take care of a woman that aren’t financial. For instance, if he notices something is wrong with your car - does he offer to fix it (or take it to get it fixed) without you having to ask him? Can he comfort you in your time of sorrow? Does he treat you like you are God’s precious creation?

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying she should date the guy. But if she is self sufficient and not looking to get married right now - why not spend time with the guy. If he makes her feel like a queen when they are together - that should count for something. I would assume that dude isn’t looking to get married either seeing as he can’t maintain a household.

By Lah Lah

September 12, 2006 03:37 PM | Link to this

Blue I would just have to take my chances.

By GBI Cutie

September 12, 2006 03:38 PM | Link to this

He should be passing out right about now

Ladies get him!!! But the coat is mines!

By Blue_Kolla

September 12, 2006 03:38 PM | Link to this

Dark Now what do I do if I find my MAN on there??]

You go for the Jedi Mind Trick. That ain’t me on the site Baby. Homie does look like me though don’t he? Ain’t that a trip?! LOL

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 03:39 PM | Link to this

SeanJ my question was…does it intimidate a guy or hurt his male ego if his girlfriend/wifey has a silver bullet? In other words, will he feel like he’s not taking care of business if she likes her bullet?

By SeanJohnson

September 12, 2006 03:39 PM | Link to this

@ Darkbuty…you lost points on your last comment…but i guess everyone has their price.

By Capt.Pepper Sauce - Hot Sauce's coworker

September 12, 2006 03:42 PM | Link to this

Musing Yes Dekalb Co Police Dept we don’t want to lock you up, i mean if you’re ever around Memorial Dr during the day or weekend, we’re not going to hurt you. You can sit in a holding cell and entertain the weekend guest just kidding, but we really do enjoy reading your comments for real

By Kym -Honorary Cheetah Girl

September 12, 2006 03:44 PM | Link to this

Okay as for this subject of dating a man who worked at the fast food joint at 39. Look if he is working, not gay, not abusive, can get you free fries, I say go for it. There is no age limit on success…. period. What you think is successful… your job, your car, your house blah blah. Is not really successful to say Bill Gates or The Donald. You would be considered lowpost.

So to down play someone elses success is wrong..period. We dont know what this man had to do to get this far..everyone of us has a story. So would I date him, yep, and if we hit it off and got more serious I would talk to him about owning his own store. Because if you check the Mickie D’s site and dig deep you will know that a majority of the folks who own the Mickie D’s started out working there, who better to run a successful operation than one who has to work from within.

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 03:45 PM | Link to this

Tazzee I do believe that a man has to be able to provide for his household financially….Call me old-fashion!! But unless he is sick or disabled…he needs to be able to take care of his household. And in that case…love your family enough to make provisions…even in your death (with life insurance)!

A man is not treating me well if I’m hungry, cold, and homeless! Of course, I’m talking about a marital situation…that’s the only scenario that I’m looking for a man to be the financial backbone. I can make more than him, but our expenses will be at a level that HE can afford.

Of course there are ways to show that you care…but if we can’t pay for that car note…it doesn’t matter that it doesn’t work…they comin to get it!

By JustMe

September 12, 2006 03:45 PM | Link to this

Blue wake up, wake up Blue, get you azz up Blue

Blue WTF JustMe; dauym why you shaking me like that?

JustMe Blue you azz was over here dreaming that you was a multi-millionaire and got busted eating fries on your job at Mickei D’s. Dude you was talking mad trash in ya sleep!

Blue Word up? What did I say?

JustMe You said some ish like What? I’m fired for eating too many fries on the clock? I’m Rich Itch! I just wanted to be a regla dude to get a real ride or die chick!

By Hot Sauce

September 12, 2006 03:46 PM | Link to this

Hey SJ I was wondering if you were going to chime in today, how are you??

By Hot Sauce

September 12, 2006 03:48 PM | Link to this

Hey SJ I was wondering if you were going to chime in today, how are you??

By Blue_Kolla

September 12, 2006 03:48 PM | Link to this

Dark AND A MAN CAN’T TREAT YOU WELL IF HE CAN’T TAKE CARE OF YOU

I don’t know how I missed that. Now you trippin’ for real.

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 03:48 PM | Link to this

SeanJ you are absolutely right I have my price…it’s called a mortgage payment, grocery bill, gas bill, etc..

I’m confused or maybe I’m confusing y’all…a MAN who loves his family will provide financially.

It’s the same concept about a deadbeat dad…if he loves his child he should send child support!

By SeanJohnson

September 12, 2006 03:50 PM | Link to this

@ Darkbuty…it wouldnt intimidate me…silver bullets are so common these days i am sure most of the women on the blog have one…and if i am not mistaken its for clitoral stimulation..so that could free up one of my hands…who knows she may end up squirting from the experience.

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 03:51 PM | Link to this

Now acting civilized…wearing 3 piece suit, Johnston Murphy limited edition gators, platinum cuff links, and speaking in a British accent *(like rick the ruler)

“Hot Sauce and Capt. Pepper, you two don’t have to worry about me crossing the law”

Now only crossing the street when the light says so

By Foots

September 12, 2006 03:51 PM | Link to this

Of course a man offers something other than financial stability, we all know this. But the original point was that we would do better to be involved with someone who has a vision for their life, not just someone blowing in the wind. It’s not the amount of money a man makes, if a man can tell me where he is going in life, then I am more likely to want to commit to him, all other things being equal (meaning, being treated well is not negotiable). If he’s not there yet, fine, but does he have a map? If so, I will offer my support wholeheartedly.

It takes you a while to maybe “find yourself”, but a real man should eventually have a plan and purpose for his life, just as a real woman should.

By Kym -Honorary Cheetah Girl

September 12, 2006 03:52 PM | Link to this

@Dark girl you will laugh, cry, and just say well I just be Dayum. The women who post on that site post it all. If you find your man out there, tell him to post a rebuttal.

She is just mad cause I wouldnt give her my whole paycheck…that heffer is a golddigger

By Officer "Lay Low"

September 12, 2006 03:54 PM | Link to this

Is this blog like this everyday? I mean is it this funny all the time? I like this you can just get on here make comments, and talk back and forth to people you don’t even know. Wow, well i’m jumping in for a minute so be nice to me. I see the ladies have made some good comments and yes Musing i’m a female office so make me laugh before i pull out my “joy stick” on you lol

By LorDemi

September 12, 2006 03:54 PM | Link to this

Darkbuty half the bills or all?

By Blue_Kolla

September 12, 2006 03:56 PM | Link to this

LahLah I would just have to take my chances.

Do you. But like SeanJ said last week, you run the high risk of being like the over-priced crib in the hood, just sitting on the market forever.

Kym What you think is successful… your job, your car, your house blah blah. Is not really successful to say Bill Gates or The Donald. You would be considered lowpost.

Go’ead on slim… reestablishing yourself as a ride or die chick.

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 03:57 PM | Link to this

Okay, if any of y’all been married before…AND went to marriage counseling…did your preacher tell you that a MAN should be able to take care of his family and to provide for them?

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 03:57 PM | Link to this

Now taking job at McDonalds in order to disguise true millions of dollars worth of wealth from SO…also borrowing bum that stands at I20 & Candler Rd’s clothing to further complete metamorphosis

Sorry BK I couldn’t resist!..LOL…hehehehehe

By 3rdwheelflunkie

September 12, 2006 03:57 PM | Link to this

Alright he only has an high school dipaloma and has been working this job since he left high school…. And no I am not lying or making this up… He has not been to jail or anything and he was dating a white girl and had a son and she left him with the son but he was still living at home while all of this was going on…..

By JustMe

September 12, 2006 03:58 PM | Link to this

Jazzy He was kinda freaky, I was dating his boy at the time.

Tazzee But if she is self sufficient and not looking to get married right now - why not spend time with the guy. If she starts spending too much time with dud, he’s gonna thinks she’s diggin him. Next thing you know he’ll be at the pawn shop trying to by a diamond chip to propose with……. he!!2daNaw!

Kym Dude would have to blow a whole week’s salary with OT to take you to a Steeler’s game……. BTW you’ll have to pay for the transportation to the game - still wanna date him?

By Wise Diva

September 12, 2006 03:58 PM | Link to this

but Darkbuty, if you are self-sufficient and self-reliant, wouldn’t you be willing to build with a dude if his character is such that he is worth BUILDING with? Of course you don’t want to be with someone who is not ambitious, but if they happen to be on their way to getting it together, why would you penalize them for that. What would you do if the guy who is so “together” lost it suddenly, would you break out on him?

By Lah Lah

September 12, 2006 03:59 PM | Link to this

I didn’t think about dem fries! LOL

But there are great guys who aren’t abusive, gay and can get you french fries that don’t live wit relatives and who are well established. I understand folks go through things because I go through things, all Gods chiren go through things. However, it’s a personal choice as to what bullshyt you wanna take on. I need minimal in my life.

By D Dub of the ATL - not only a client but the playa President.

September 12, 2006 03:59 PM | Link to this

So to down play someone elses success is wrong..period. We dont know what this man had to do to get this far..everyone of us has a story. So would I date him, yep, and if we hit it off and got more serious I would talk to him about owning his own store.

Kym, much props… it truly takes a grown and sexy woman to say and believe in that… if you’re gettin’ hitched for the material, don’t be mad when that’s all you have and nobody wants to be bothered with your materialistic #@%^@.

returns to lurker status.

By Foots

September 12, 2006 04:00 PM | Link to this

SJ ^5 on the Silver Bullet post!

Musing Would it be a conflict of interest to sell Bullets at the “Good D” Booth?

By SeanJohnson

September 12, 2006 04:00 PM | Link to this

@ Darkbuty….i understand…its how you came across/said it…And trust me..if a man loves you ..you will be taken care of..he doesnt have to be reminded…I dont know if you are aware of this or not.. but the way society/system is…its not really designed for a black man to earn enough money to take care of a family soley on his income..They will pay black females more and give yall more promotions…My motto is..i dont care who brings home the bread…lets eat..

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 04:02 PM | Link to this

Demi I’m working….So we’re both contributing to the household. I just need to know that he CAN provide for his family….I’ve ALWAYS been told that a MAN will express his love for you…not so much in him telling you that he loves you all the time or sending roses, BUT that he will provide for you!

A man who is not willing to work hard to provide for his family is someone who does not care whole heck of alot for them to me!

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 04:02 PM | Link to this

Ain’t this a &itch…

Looking around at the chaos

“Who the hellz called the cops?!?!”

Now jumping out of back window and landing inside “patty wagon”

By Lah Lah

September 12, 2006 04:05 PM | Link to this

Blue Not hardly. I’m the prize nicca.

By SeanJohnson

September 12, 2006 04:06 PM | Link to this

@ Hot Sauce..I am good…took a day since i was up late …been home all day watching lucky # slevin

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 04:08 PM | Link to this

Wise Of course I would be willing to build something with him, I won’t marry anyone where we can’t continue to build and grow. Did I say something to suggest otherwise?

I’m talking about dudes who can’t provide for their families because of their lack of vision, ambition, and dedication to hard work!

With the exception of my current BF…every guy I dated before was based on potential because they were either just out of school, just coming up in their career, etc…

By crimson esq.

September 12, 2006 04:08 PM | Link to this

@ 3rd… so is he in management now? Aside from that there has to be something about him that intrigues you otherwise you wouldn’t even “question” what to do.. nor would you know the details of his personal life to the extent that you do… what about his character? What kind of man is he in your opinion? What are his goals? And since he is a single parent.. who’s to say that he’s not living with his mom to ensure that his son has a maternal role in his life that he can not provide?

I sincerely hope that you don’t enter relationships thinking.. “what can he purchase for me?”

By Blue_Kolla

September 12, 2006 04:10 PM | Link to this

Dark I’m confused or maybe I’m confusing y’all…a MAN who loves his family will provide financially.

That’s sounds like an excuse to be an undacova golddigga. You too LahLah.

Musing You ain’t gotta get no go-aheads from me champ. Ery’body knows that you’s a fool. LMAO

JustMe You’s a fool with Musing. That was a crazy azz story; but foreal foreal… if I don’t find my Ride or Die Chick befo I hits the big league, I’m gonna have to do some drastic shyt to determine a babe’s realness. Feel Me? ‘Cause I ain’t tryin’ to hear no shyt ‘bout Half!! just because I got the azz for two years. H3ll to da Naaahhhh!!!

By Kym -Honorary Cheetah Girl

September 12, 2006 04:11 PM | Link to this

@JustMe…If he is a good man, and treats me well, and is loving me the way I need to be love, then I would be more than happy to say..”Boo, you get the popcorn..I got the tickets..lets go watch the Steelers kick the Fakecons azz. Money dont move me like that….EMPLOYMENT IS SEXY AS HELL!!!. A man with a job, taking care of his own, doing for his own, and not on the system, trying to beat the system, crying and whining about how the system is holding him back, and is willing to shovel Shyt in the snow on the coldest day in history to feed his family can get with me any day. Why because in the end I will encourge him to want to do more, and if he is willing to do all that then most likely he has the mindset to do more.

As my late Aunt always said..You have to deal with what you got until you can get better…an baby always, always want better.

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 04:11 PM | Link to this

Foots that’s a good idea…bullets wouldn’t cut into my business cause my services will get you to a place where that bullet can’t take you…LOL

Officer “Lay Low” Well, lay down here my dear… Grabbing “box-o-wine” and pulling out baked Cheetos to feed to the lovely officer like grapes

“Is that a billy club or is that a billy club…I hope that’s a billy club”

By Officer "Lay Low"

September 12, 2006 04:12 PM | Link to this

Musing don’t run wait, wait!

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 04:12 PM | Link to this

SeanJ if a man loves you ..you will be taken care of

Thanks…because that’s what I was trying to say.

By SeanJohnson

September 12, 2006 04:14 PM | Link to this

@ Musing…you might need to take one for the team bruh…Get all of your cases sealed…tickets erased from the system…and we MIGHT be able some contraband up in the county to distrubute…I see golden arches..but it aint McDonalds..lmao

By Wise Diva

September 12, 2006 04:14 PM | Link to this

oh ok Darkbuty, yea, I interpreted it differently at first.

By Lah Lah

September 12, 2006 04:15 PM | Link to this

My dream is to be with someone that I can grow with in every aspect, spiritually, mentally, physically, financially. I want us to build an empire together, have somethings stacked up “maturing and appreciating” There should always be room to “upgrade” one another. But at this point in my life I can’t be starting all the way at the bottom with somebody.

By I'm not an Officer i just play one on tv

September 12, 2006 04:15 PM | Link to this

Oh i love this, i’m blogging, i’m bloggin. Where were you guys when we were bored? HS been keeping this on the “low” too late now cause the secret is out!!!

By Blue_Kolla

September 12, 2006 04:16 PM | Link to this

LahLah Not hardly. I’m the prize nicca.

Oh yeah?

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 04:19 PM | Link to this

Alright he only has an high school diploma and has been working this job since he left high school

Kym he’s not going to be too receptive to that entrepreneur talk

blue If it was something more positive to say about dude….I knew 3rd would have posted it originally…no need to ask additional questions when you can see straight through it. He’s a bytchazznikka

20 yrs on fries….umh, umh, umh…

By D Dub of the ATL - not only a client but the playa President.

September 12, 2006 04:19 PM | Link to this

I sincerely hope that you don’t enter relationships thinking.. “what can he purchase for me?”

Now why am I going to be hearing Eddie Murphy imitating Um-Foo-Foo for the rest of the night…

“Eddie… what have yoooooooou done for me lately???

Ladies, if this is something you have contemplate, then you don’t need to be in a relationship. Personally, if a woman ever asks me that question, all she’s gonna get is an appointment with Dr. Dial Tone.

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 04:21 PM | Link to this

LMAOooooo SeanJ LOL…hahahaha…Don’t put me out there to handle that…hahaha

See they have the Golden Arches, I have the Golden Arch, They have two all beef patties, special sauce, lettuce cheese; my bun has no seeds LOL

By Lah Lah

September 12, 2006 04:21 PM | Link to this

Blue Shuddup!

By Blue_Kolla

September 12, 2006 04:22 PM | Link to this

SeanJ/DarkButy if a man loves you ..you will be taken care of

And to append to that… a dude like me ain’t gon’ do shyt for you if he feels that him doing for you is the only thing that’ll keep you around. Be on your way, is what I’ll say.

By Thick

September 12, 2006 04:22 PM | Link to this

Okay 3rd I know a few people who have been working at a fast food for about that long so I know he is making a little change, he’s definitely not poor. But he sounds like he might be stable and you say he’s a good guy so date him. He may decide to own his own McDonalds one day and from what I know I have seen several guys purchase their own. All possibles partner don’t come rich. You know the answer to your question.

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 04:23 PM | Link to this

Blue If you got a problem with what I’m saying then….

That sounds like an excuse to be an undacova busta

By Wise Diva

September 12, 2006 04:23 PM | Link to this

Lah Lah, do you think that a guy could consider where you are, all the way at the bottom? oh well, actually, it really comes down to compatibility, I guess.

By crimson esq.

September 12, 2006 04:25 PM | Link to this

But at this point in my life I can’t be starting all the way at the bottom with somebody.

a person will never start at the bottom..if they start to build on their own independent of someone else…

ladies stop waiting for a man to provide you with a house and a car and all that jazz.. do well for self… if and when you get married.. turn one of those properties into an investment property and continue to grow together..

By Kym -Honorary Cheetah Girl

September 12, 2006 04:26 PM | Link to this

@Dark..You are only seeing the darkside now how about some light.

If he has a high school diploma and wants to do more then ask him what, can he fix cars, carpentry, mason work.. if he is responsive to any of that.. then I would send, heck take him to see the folks that can help him get federal grant money to become a mechanic, plumber, carpenter, brick mason, and any other trade. Again if he is treating me right then I will help him out…I didnt read 3rd’s post and to be quite honest I would have to here his story before I wrote him off.

Knowledge is power, and if he is lacking the knowledge but has the drive and know how then I am going to help him on the way. Again we only have half the story.

By Hot Sauce

September 12, 2006 04:27 PM | Link to this

Musing, come on up here and bring us some fries

By Blue_Kolla

September 12, 2006 04:27 PM | Link to this

Darkbuty He’s a bytchazznikka

You don’t know that, and basically you’re just stereotyping, which simply is not fair. Hell, how do I know that just because you ain’t working Mickey’s that you got some bread. I don’t, now do I?

LahLah So ummm, what kinda ends you got to add to my stash, so that we might grow our lot?

By D Dub of the ATL honestly thinks some of you have lost your mind.

September 12, 2006 04:28 PM | Link to this

Kym he’s not going to be too receptive to that entrepreneur talk

Dark are you serious? How do you know that he won’t be receptive? I’m sure he won’t if he has to think about taking care of you, but life is all about choices - if two people decide that they are going to work towards a common goal, and then execute that plan the sky is the limit…. if you come in thinking negative, you will get just what you think up.

By Blue_Kolla

September 12, 2006 04:32 PM | Link to this

Darkbuty That sounds like an excuse to be an undacova busta

Now you know wayyy better than that. We ain’t new to this. We’re dialogueing right? I just sounds to me that you’re making some questionalble statements. So I’m asking you up front to make sure that I’m not misunderstanding you. And even if I don’t agree, that should be cool as well.

By Kym -Honorary Cheetah Girl

September 12, 2006 04:33 PM | Link to this

Oh and so that we can have an example of this…AJC staff correct me if I am wrong.. but was there not just a black gentleman who just retired from the Varsity and managed to raise a family of 6 or 9 kids on that salary…NO DRUG ADDICTS, COLLEGE BOUND, DOING THE DAYM THANG children at that. An was married to his wife for several decades before she passed away. An unless some of your families sprang up rich like Rockfeller, someone in your family had to take in laundry, mop someone elses floor, nurse their kids, and clean their toilets all so you wouldnt have too. Dont get uppity now, and think that those jobs are beneath you or the people performing them are..someone had to pave the way so you could get that uppity attitude

By crimson esq.

September 12, 2006 04:33 PM | Link to this

@ kym u know people aren’t ready to hear that lol….

By Lah Lah

September 12, 2006 04:34 PM | Link to this

Wise There are plenty of people who would consider me to be at the bottom of the food chain. That’s fine, they don’t have to approach me. They don’t have to date or marry me either. Just like I don’t have to approach, date or marry a dude that’s been on fries for 20 years.

By abc

September 12, 2006 04:34 PM | Link to this

@darkbuty, yeah, been married, been to counseling, that’s not at all what the preacher said. He said it’s a collaborative effort, that responsibility for all aspects of maintaining the home and providing for children should be shared without gender roles. That wasn’t exactly the nature of our problems, but it touched on it.

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 04:36 PM | Link to this

Wow! You guys are reading the Lifetime version of 3rd story. He sounds like several men and women out there with no ambition or vision. If I’m wrong…then we’ll appeal it upon further evidence. I could be just as right in thinking that he is a busta as you are in thinking that he’s just a bubble of opportunity waiting to burst. I just haven’t read anything to suggest ambition….again, if I’m wrong….then I’ll stand correct. But based on what was posted, we’re talking about a dude who has worked at mickey d’s for 20yrs and lives at home….where is the ambition to own his own assets?

By Blue_Kolla

September 12, 2006 04:36 PM | Link to this

How many of you “a dude needs to take care of me” females are from the south?

By LorDemi

September 12, 2006 04:37 PM | Link to this

Darkbuty you are on point…

By Kym -Honorary Cheetah Girl

September 12, 2006 04:37 PM | Link to this

@crimson esq. Well honey that is what my job is all day long to tell them just that type of stuff.

By Wise Diva

September 12, 2006 04:38 PM | Link to this

you know Lah Lah, you got a point. I wasn’t trying to change your mind, just offering a different perspective.

By Hot Sauce

September 12, 2006 04:38 PM | Link to this

Kym you are correct i saw the interview on tv and i thought was so special

By Lah Lah

September 12, 2006 04:38 PM | Link to this

Blue what kinda ends you got? I ain’t asking for nothing that I don’t have myself, getting, or have the potential/mindset/layout to have for myself. Trust.

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 04:39 PM | Link to this

DDub A MAN should ALWAYS have on his mind that he will need to take care of his family….no one is suggesting that the woman doesn’t work as well.

By 3rdwheelflunkie

September 12, 2006 04:39 PM | Link to this

Crimson I’m not a gold digger… I can provide for myself I am just saying he doesn’t have any goals for his life. He is just living for the hour… I can’t live like that. He is not in management either…….

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 04:39 PM | Link to this

HotSauce No fries for you! Not gonna catch me that easily.

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 04:40 PM | Link to this

Y’all got me laughing for real….because blue will be the first one talking about…where y’all be meeting these cats at???? LMAO while shaking my head at you!

By Big Money

September 12, 2006 04:43 PM | Link to this

That’s fine, they don’t have to approach me. They don’t have to date or marry me either.

LMAO Well don’t cry about a nicca not callin’ then.

By Mark

September 12, 2006 04:43 PM | Link to this

Re: EMPLOYMENT IS SEXY AS HELL!!!. A man with a job, taking care of his own, doing for his own, and not on the system, trying to beat the system, crying and whining about how the system is holding him back, and is willing to shovel Shyt in the snow on the coldest day in history to feed his family can get with me any day. Why because in the end I will encourge him to want to do more, and if he is willing to do all that then most likely he has the mindset to do more.

And takes care of a puppy too…

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 04:45 PM | Link to this

Blue Of course it’s cool to disagree…that comment was in response to you saying that Lah and I are undercova golddiggas because of our statements…. it’s still cool!

But who says we need a dude to take care of us!?! I said that a MAN should be able to provide financially for his household…

By MusingLee

September 12, 2006 04:45 PM | Link to this

I’m out good peeps….Have a great evening.

By Kym -Honorary Cheetah Girl

September 12, 2006 04:46 PM | Link to this

@3rd then why bring ole boy up in the first place? Was this to open debate, did you need help with something, or are u just trying to put this man on blast for a laugh? I mean have you screwed fry guy and now you feel like you lowered yourself or something?

By melo

September 12, 2006 04:46 PM | Link to this

So if the lady has a house, the guy must have at least 1 to date Ms Lah!!

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 04:48 PM | Link to this

He is not in management either

The story gets even better!!

Kym I’m not suggesting that working for a fastfood restaurant makes you unsuccessful in life. I would like to see some ambition from someone who does work there. The guy I dated for 8yrs worked as a bartender…I thought he would one day be in management. I was cool with that! I bet the guy who worked at the varsity moved out of his mother’s house.

By Lah Lah

September 12, 2006 04:49 PM | Link to this

KYM for a self-proclaimed impatient person, you sound like you would have a lot of patients with a grown azz man whose hand you would have to hold to get him to do something with himself. A man with a job is sexy but a self motivated man is sexy as hell.

By 4theLongHaul

September 12, 2006 04:51 PM | Link to this

I keep trying to jump in on the convo like trying to jump into the DoubleDutchRope. Shoot, y’all done said all that needs to be said on GoldenArches boy and RideorDie chicks (which I happen to be one of!)

By crimson esq.

September 12, 2006 04:52 PM | Link to this

@ Kym you do it well =)…

@ 3rd I never said that you were a golddigger..where did that come from?

and if you can’t live like that then why even consider? you’re just wasting time…

By Big Money

September 12, 2006 04:52 PM | Link to this

Darkbuty Yeah I do wonder where yoll find them dudes but I also don’t condone looking down on a person because they happen to be working a particular job. I was on community service and wondered what those chicks thought about us 4 dudes working in that spot. Two cats drove 100 grand Porsche’s. Hell, I was probably the poorest dude in there and I’m a long azz way from working the fry station.

By D Dub of the ATL honestly thinks some of you have lost your mind

September 12, 2006 04:55 PM | Link to this

dark let’s just agree to disagree, I hope that the day comes where you look at the glass as half full instead of half empty as you currently are.

By Thick

September 12, 2006 04:55 PM | Link to this

Now 3rd, why are you even dicussing a guy who does not have goals for himself. The only thing you can do for him is to encourage him to do better for himself.

By Kym -Honorary Cheetah Girl

September 12, 2006 04:56 PM | Link to this

@LahLah I am impatient with triffling. Never impatient with any person who is trying or needs help or encouragement, because not everyone has the support network, or knowledge bases that I have, and if I know it then I am going to share it. I know some wonderful men in my life who based on your talking today wouldnt be consider worthy to shine your shoes, yet they have managed to build 4 bedroom brick homes by hand themselves, have trades that pay more in one day then some of us make in a week, and were all those come up brothers no one wanted but that my aunties, cousins, and family members loved, looked at and encouraged. Honey at some point in life we were all someone’s throw away…no good so-and so. So I look at them and other men as examples and I use them to encourage others.

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 04:57 PM | Link to this

Big Money Again, it’s not about where you work presently….but what ambition or vision do you have!

By Wise Diva

September 12, 2006 04:57 PM | Link to this

Everyone have a great night!

Diva OUT

By abc

September 12, 2006 04:57 PM | Link to this

While I understand that women (for the most part) would expect to be supported, especially after having children so that ideally they could be stay-at-home-moms (if for no other reason), and while I acknowledge that men (for the most part) accept that as simply the reality of the situation, plenty of people are happy without having much money. A successful life is one filled with happiness and everyone knows you can’t buy that. Expectations of much success from a man who doesn’t necessarily consider a successful career or big income as priorities is a dead end. What about artists, musicians, actors, writers? Many of the finest of these throughout history died penniless. Everyone has a different muse.

There’s nothing wrong with knowing what you want, but I don’t think it should give license to be so hyper-critical of someone you don’t even know just because they choose, or are otherwise compelled, to accept a menial job for an occupation. That does sound golddiggerish.

By Lah Lah

September 12, 2006 04:58 PM | Link to this

melo or atleast the potential,credit and finances to buy himself one.

I got boy’s to raise, two for that matter, I don’t really have time to be raising no grown azz man. I don’t give a ish how nice he is. No one. I mean nan person has met my boys but when they do, my kids are going to meet a great role model not a dude trying to get it together.

By Darkbuty

September 12, 2006 04:59 PM | Link to this

Big Money I just don’t look to favorably upon men or women who wants another person to subsidize their living….I tell my family members that if I have to work…so do you!! And you have to live within your means….this man should have aspirations to own his own place…what example is he showing his son??!! Shaking my head again!

By 3rdwheelflunkie

September 12, 2006 05:02 PM | Link to this

No Kym I have not screwed anyone. I just wanted an open debate on the matter….