By H.I. McDonough

October 13, 2006 08:16 AM | Link to this

so once someone makes a mistake or does wrong, you decide never to speak to them again. I think I’m getting a pretty good idea as to why you’re still single. Maybe he was calling to apologize and thank you for setting him on the straight and narrow. Maybe he was calling to say he’s sorry as part of a 12 step program.

By Wise Diva

October 13, 2006 08:26 AM | Link to this

you are probably right H.I. I would rather stay single then be with the wrong person. No doubt about it. He can call back if its part of his program, and I would accept the apology, I just decided not to call him.

By 3rdwheelmourning

October 13, 2006 08:34 AM | Link to this

Good Morning People it’s Friday!!! When does the soul train line start? I can’t deal with drunk people…. My dad drinks but he can hold his liquor. My mom drinks and it’s like World War 3. My dad always told me if the person you are dating are smoking and drinking run the other way because they will never change.You know they have a problem when everytime you think about the person they always have a drink in their hand or they are stone cold drunk. Now don’t get me wrong I love to drink but I don’t do it every night. Some people have a real problem and don’t even know it……

By H.I. McDonough

October 13, 2006 08:36 AM | Link to this

dont get me wrong, I’m not saying you should be with someone, just so you can say you are no longer single. That’s actually the complete wrong reason to be with someone. Granted I dont know what was said in his voicemail, if he was looking to start things up again, or just wanted to talk, or what….but if you know you’re not going to start anything again and have no desire to see him anymore, why not call him back and see what he has to say….and if he says “i think we should go out to dinner sometime” you can just respectfully decline and say “i dont think thats a good idea”

but i do agree with you on staying single rather than being with the wrong person. It’s not worth the time and emotional energy to be with someone, if deep down you know its going no where. It’s alot like playing cards. Once you know your hand cant win, its time to give it up, and wait for another hand to be delt. (ya know what im sayin)

By SusieHomeMaker

October 13, 2006 08:49 AM | Link to this

People make mistakes — if it wasn’t for forgiveness where would we fallible people be? Hopefully you will never make a mistake in your life, so you won’t need any forgiveness.

By QC

October 13, 2006 08:53 AM | Link to this

Morning….hey 3rd

Have a great friday bloggers

3rd i’m sure Musing will get the soul train line started later on today, just remind him after lunch this afternoon

My cousin sent me an email this morning titled, “20 Reasons not to get drunk” and they are hilarious!

By G

October 13, 2006 08:58 AM | Link to this

WD, you sound just like me. We’re too picky to be with anybody. We want who we want. It’s hard to find all of those qualities you want rolled into one person, huh?

I don’t think I’ve ever dated a woman that had a drinking problem. Most women I have dated are minimal drinkers, which is cool by me. Designated drivers are hard to find.

By steve

October 13, 2006 08:59 AM | Link to this

I lived with an alcoholic woman for 4 years. I was convinced if I loved her enough, I could fix her.

Wrong

I finally told her that if she was going to act like a stupid drunk c%$t, I was going to treat her like one…..

She did, I did, she moved out.

Not that I have alot of ex GF’s but she is the only one I don’t talk to.

By Enabler

October 13, 2006 09:01 AM | Link to this

I am married to my second alcoholic husband. I was an occasional drinker until I realized that by me bringing liquor into the house, it was saying that it is alright to drink and my husband ended up drinking more of the liquor than I did. So, I quit.

His drinking has caused us many financial problems and many arguments. He drinks every day of the week. It makes our life a miserable one because he’s going to have his beer even if we only have a few dollars.

If this marriage ends (either in divorce or he drinks himself to death), I will never again be with anyone who drinks. Even a social drinker can turn into an alcoholic and I just wouldn’t take that chance. Alcoholics cannot leave the alcohol alone. So, stick to your decision and stay away from this guy.

By Jess

October 13, 2006 09:01 AM | Link to this

I think if he was that bad, not seeing him again was a good idea. I sometimes think it is hard to determine if someone has a problem though. I am 24, so right now in my life, everyone drinks. My friends and I plan our nights around “going for a drink”. A Friday night drink, an after work drink, whatever. I think people tend to plan more social things around drinking when you are younger and that you eventually grow out of it. How can you distinguish between someone who is a social drinker and someone who has a problem?

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 13, 2006 09:02 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

Sorry but this is just too dark a topic for a Friday…but to conform with the masses for 5mins, I agree with whoever said it, if you dont wish to be bothered with the gentleman then say so and be done with it. As for dating someone with a drinking problem I never have but I know people who have had drinking problems..and it takes a strong person to support and care for a alcoholic or for that matter any person with a illness..alcohol addiction is a illness, so if you are not that person then back away graciously and be done with it.

Motown Friday has been declared by me at my workplace..Now jamming Marvin Gaye’s Heard it through the Grapevine.

By Foots

October 13, 2006 09:02 AM | Link to this

Susie Forgiving a person is not the same thing as accepting a person back into your life. “I forgive you” does not mean “I’ll take you back”. Where did she say that she would never forgive him??

By Thick

October 13, 2006 09:06 AM | Link to this

Hold the phone, don’t call back, and because I didn’t call back either. One of my best bo’s had a drinking problem and when he drank he would subsequently become another person. That’s how I knew he had a drinking problem. I knew some drunks other than him so I knew what I was in for, this was not pretty. And I could not get him help, he was going to drink no matter what I said. I finally realized that he had to want sobriety help himself, I broke off our relationship. It was hard though because I am one of those people who think I can save the world, but I can not. I continuously reminded myself not to call him, and to let him work out his problem.

By Foots

October 13, 2006 09:06 AM | Link to this

Oh, and Good Friday Morning everybody!

By SlimOne

October 13, 2006 09:07 AM | Link to this

Thankfully i’ve never dated anyone with a drinking problem. However, that was one of my father’s vices and I can’t say I recall any good memories from those days. My father and I don’t really have a verbal relationship even though we do email from time to time. I guess we have a mental understanding of each other. He knows he messed up back then and I know he isn’t that same person anymore.

By Cinderella

October 13, 2006 09:10 AM | Link to this

Geesh, ease up on Wise Diva peoples! From what I understand of her post they were just dating and not serious. If the drinking is something she doesn’t think it’s worth her venturing into than that’s on her. Everyone’s got their deal breaker and this may be hers.

As for me, I’ve never been with someone that had a drinking problem. They had another problem that I would talk with them about but until that person realizes that they want to get help for themself you can talk til you’re blue in the face and it ain’t gonna work.

By abc

October 13, 2006 09:14 AM | Link to this

Yeah, she had a drinking problem, and a gambling problem, and some issues with her crazy family not to mention her own rage. You can try to help people like that, or you can get away from them to keep them from dragging you down with them.

By fk

October 13, 2006 09:15 AM | Link to this

I think you did the right thing. Some people dry out and sober up, others don’t. It’s not about forgiveness, it’s about trust and priorities. You can’t live happily in worry, dread, disappointment, frustration and doubt.

My husband sobered up in 1989. It was not an easy road. Our entire social scene changed. It worked for us, but it doesn’t work out for everyone. And, sometimes, as in the case of a friend’s dad, a dry drunk is worse! Be true to yourself.

By lovelyliz

October 13, 2006 09:17 AM | Link to this

Too much alcohol is a deal breaker for me too. It’s hard to to gauge sometime because they can drink a lot, just not around you, at least at the beginning.

Of course everyone is allowed to make a mistake. A few too many at a football game is one thing, but if someone is drunk driving, if the binges are frequent or at inappropriate times, get away as a date.

As a friend you can always help, but you have to look out for yourself too.

By Tiff

October 13, 2006 09:19 AM | Link to this

Mornin’ All. I dated an alcoholic years ago and will never do so again. I was young but I knew that the smell of alcohol that permeated from him everytime I saw him wasn’t a cologne that I liked. Also, everytime he came to see me he just HAD to borrow my car to go somewhere. I thought that was kind of weird (and yes stupid of me since he always smelled like alcohol but as I said I was young) but being the resourceful person that I am I checked him out on the public criminal system at the local courthouse and found out that his license had been revoked due to numerous DUIs. I then proceeded to revoked his priviledges to see me or EVER drive my car again.

WD You made the right decision. You know yourself and if him calling may weaken you into accepting that dinner invitation I say that’s what voicemail is for. You can forgive a person whether they know it or not.

BTW, I have to co-sign 4TLH’s experience at the Dominican shop. I went earlier this week and I absolutely LOVE my hair.

By MusingLee

October 13, 2006 09:20 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

I had an uncle who literally drank himself to death…We had no choice but to deal with him cause he was family…But best beleive, I will not go through that with an outsider…It is not my responsibility to solve my dates’ alchohol or drug issues…Sometimes it’s best to walk away…You can only help someone who truely wants to help themself!

If my date were to throw-up in my ride from being drunk, I’m gonna push her drunk’azz out

By "Longtime Lurker"

October 13, 2006 09:22 AM | Link to this

@Good Morning All

Wise Lurker I think you made a very wise decision to stop seeing dude! Alot of times, when the red flags are slappin us up side our heads, we ignore them and go with our feelings, but in the long run or short run in most cases, our choices to stay with that person come back to haunt us and often cost of for the rest of our lives! Life is all about choices and making wise choices, instead of ones that will come back to haunt us!

I learned a few years, after years of making poor choices, to always with my gut instinct and since then, I have made very few mistakes!

Our instincts are what keeps us out of trouble and are built in warning systems.

I remember something my dad always told me “Son, everything that looks good ain’t good for ya” You know the older I get, the more my folks make more sense!

By "Longtime Lurker"

October 13, 2006 09:26 AM | Link to this

Please forgive me for the typos, I am multi-taskin as usual! Is it Friday yet?

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 13, 2006 09:29 AM | Link to this

In honor of today’s morbid topic and because I happen to listen to all types of music I present to you the song lyrics to …Drunker than me by Trent Tomlinson.

Well, lately I been noticin’ a gradual escalation,In your inability to handle your libation. Go zero to sixty, When you get on the whiskey.

Well, used to be a glass of wine an’ you’d be fine all evenin’. Now I’m the one who says: “We’re done,” an’ tells us when we’re leavin’. Well, I miss the way that it was, Can’t even catch a good buzz.

‘Cause I keep worryin’ about who’s drivin’ home, Who’s got the keys, who’s got the ‘phone. Who’ll pay the bill, call a cab. I don’t mean to make you mad, But I don’t want that responsibility, An’ I can’t be with a woman, baby, who gets drunker than me.

Well, I never thought it’d come to this when I said: “Have another.” ‘Cause, baby, you turned into me, an’ I became my mother. Well, here’s what I’m thinkin’: You’re interferin’ with my drinkin’.

I think I have an answer to our present situation, ‘Cause you an’ me out on the town’s got built in limitations. So let me make this clear: Hey I’m the one who’s drinkin’ here.

‘Cause I ain’t worryin’ about who’s drivin’ home,Who’s got the keys, who’s got the ‘phone. Who’ll pay the bill, call a cab. I don’t mean to make you mad, But I don’t want that responsibility, An’ I can’t be with a woman, baby, who gets drunker than me.

I ain’t tryin’ to ruin your good time. But I damn sure ain’t lettin’ yours ruin mine. You ain’t gonna ruin my good time, baby.

By Deep Dimples formerly aka Darkbuty

October 13, 2006 09:30 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone

As you know when I met my BF he was drunk and he still does drink excessively(IMO)on occassion. We’ve fought about who’s driving because I refuse to get in the car with him after drinking so much. There has been several other examples of this type of behavior. We’ve talked about it and he doesn’t think he has a problem….just enjoys to drink when he goes out…which is probably once a month. He’s not a belligerent drunk….but he does get the attitude of I don’t give a F…but then again he has that attitude sober

By Blue_Kolla

October 13, 2006 09:31 AM | Link to this

What up Blog?!

Hahaha… some of yoll kill me, as if you’re walking hand in hand with The Lord, Jesus Himself… always judging people and running with the word of “someone” else.

I think that you didn’t return his call because you knew that you’d end up giving up the draws again.

By NCgirlfromATL

October 13, 2006 09:32 AM | Link to this

WD I don’t think you’re too picky. You just have standards, just like everyone else in the world. I have never dated anyone with a drug or alcohol problem, but I have family members who are dealing w/ both, and I know how hard it is when it’s someone you love…I don’t know if I could deal w/those issues in someone I was just going out with on occasion. Not to be cold and heartless, but it’s one thing to be caring and understanding when someone has a problem. It’s another thing to invite their drama into your life.

I agree w/ Foots and steve on this one.

Oh, and good morning, all! Happy Friday!

By 3rdwheelmourning

October 13, 2006 09:34 AM | Link to this

QC what’s up girl!! I got that same enail!!! LOL!

By Cee

October 13, 2006 09:35 AM | Link to this

Is having a buzz the same as being a drunk?

By Wise Diva

October 13, 2006 09:36 AM | Link to this

dang - cut me some slack Kym, I just switched entries, so yesterday’s lighter non-morbid topic was originally planned to go up today. LOL. I was having problems writing this up.

It’s a real issue that daters face, so it may not be “friday fun” but its definitely relevant.

I can admit that I may have a lower tolerance than most people. My parents nearly died during my sophomore year in HS after a drunk driver hit them head on. That was a VERY painful time that I associate with alcohol.

By 3rdwheelmourning

October 13, 2006 09:37 AM | Link to this

Enabler I am a social drinker and I am not hitting the bottle evey night or evey hour of the day…so you are going to have to take that comment back…..

By Foots

October 13, 2006 09:39 AM | Link to this

Tiff Did you go to the one on Windy Hill also?

By Wise Diva

October 13, 2006 09:39 AM | Link to this

ohhh you are SO right BLUE! One minute on the phone and my panties would DROP!!

haha! hilarious, that may describe the chicks you know, but I got options for dizzle, every day and all day, and he ain’t one of em. LOL

By Thick

October 13, 2006 09:40 AM | Link to this

And he loved to drive when he got drunk. For some reason he thought he so able and capable when he was ineberiated. I was so embarrased by his behavior, I don’t ever want to see him again.

Now if a guys drinks excessively I want date him. I try really hard to be aware of what surroundings I meet someone in and how the are acting at the time.

By Deep Dimples formerly aka Darkbuty

October 13, 2006 09:42 AM | Link to this

abc off topic: I had to go back and ask my SO about one of his boys breakups and how was dude feeling. He said he guess he’s alright…I don’t talk to them about their feelings. I was like damn the MLB was right for once! LOL

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 13, 2006 09:44 AM | Link to this

WD it yours and Laney’s blog we are just the sheep that follow. I didnt say the topic was irrelevant I said it was morbid for a Friday, I often wonder though with you topics are you writing a paper or using the blog for a study of some type.

By QC

October 13, 2006 09:46 AM | Link to this

BK mail call

Ok i need the Dominican Hair Shop information that’s something new for my sister & I to try

Hey Tiff

By Foots

October 13, 2006 09:46 AM | Link to this

Cee It’s not the same to me. A buzz to me is a pleasantly warm, relaxed feeling that you can get after one glass of wine. Drunk is slurring, stumbling, calling Earl like a mug while you gripping the toilet (for my DJ Quik fans).

When I was in college as a freshman, I remember seeing the women just falling out drunk and I remember how badly the men talked about them to each other before trying to find one to go home with them. I said then that it would never be me. So when I go out now, if I do drink, my limit is 1 and a half drinks or one glass of wine. That gives me a buzz. But when I’m home though, I’ve been known to drink half a margarita bucket at times

By QC

October 13, 2006 09:47 AM | Link to this

What’s up Thick

By Tiff

October 13, 2006 09:48 AM | Link to this

Foot Yes. I didn’t have an appt but I was in and out 2 hours. My hair is soft, bouncy, and it smells great! She didn’t even use a curling iron to curl my hair which is a new one for me. I have layers in my hair and she just used the brush and blowdryer to curl my hair and define the layers. The best part was not having that burning curling iron smell in my hair.

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 09:49 AM | Link to this

HAPPY FRIDAY ALL

Fortunately for me, I have absolutely no experience in this subject matter personally. I don’t drink and neither do my SO or former for that matter. (ok, maybe a glass of champagne on New Years or something like that, but that’s all.)

HOWEVER, my brother’s SO is an extreme alcoholic and he isn’t even 30. Extremely cute and talented young man and it saddens us to see him drink the way he does. He’s actually gotten numerous DUIs in the past and spent some jail time a few years ago because of it. Around New Year’s last year, my SOs mom called me, looking for my SO because his idiot brother drunk himself into unconsciousness and was hospitalized. He says he does it to ‘numb pain’ and I tell you, it’s sad because he has never had to want for anything because their family has always been pretty well off but I think they enable him to keep his problem up because everytime he gets in trouble, the ‘family’ bails him of his miserable state. I personally feel that he needs some tough love. We thought his months in jail would’ve helped him and actually, it did for a little while but old habits die hard, especially when you revisit the same hangouts and groups of people. And when he hits bottom, he can always ‘come home’. I’d leave his butt somewhere to feel the pain for a little while.

I’m not trying to sound unsympathetic, because I know that this really is a problem (spirit) and if it were that easy to kick, no one would be an alcoholic. But man! He is so blessed to have all that he has, have the family that he has, the money, etc, but he just seems to like to magnify how ‘miserable’ his life is, when it really isn’t!!!!

By recovering

October 13, 2006 09:50 AM | Link to this

Fk you are defiantly right, dry drunks are much worse than wet ones. Btw a dry drunk is an alcoholic that is stone sober, but acts like a jerk because he is not doing his program and craves alcohol. I am recovering alcoholic and addict, I myself am going thru a similar situation. My GF and I have been dating about 6 months; she knew I was a recovering alcoholic, also I smoke. Well I took her to the beach recently for 5 days. Our first alone time for a while. It was great, till we went to a 5 start restaurant. She asked me if I could have a couple of glasses of wine, to drink with her like A LOT of couples do. I was in a weak moment and I relapsed. Anyway a day later, we ate out again and I ended up drinking the whole night. She saw the way I was drinking. It wasn’t good. Anyway since then our relationship has been different; BTW I went back to the program and haven’t had a drink since. (She and I wanted this). She told me the other day, that the reason is not the drinking (of course she didn’t like it), that it’s from my smoking. And with her it seems like at times it could be more than that. She says she forgives me but I wonder. It’s funny, she had an operation on her leg and I have bent over backwards nursing her and helping her, but women forget little things like that. I know I have problems, but I make the changes for myself, not for anybody else, if this relationship goes south. The problems are mine.

By Blue_Kolla

October 13, 2006 09:50 AM | Link to this

Diva My comment had nothing to do with your other dyck-options, that’s a given. Every female will always have many options, just on the strength that it allows a man to get in and blow off some steam. LOL

As my cousin Peanut would say, “I ain’t neva seen a piece of pssy on the junkpile. SOMEBODY, SOMEWHERE is hittin’ it.”*

By Blue_Kolla

October 13, 2006 09:52 AM | Link to this

LOL @ DarkButy He said he guess he’s alright…

By Foots

October 13, 2006 09:53 AM | Link to this

I will never again be with anyone who drinks. Even a social drinker can turn into an alcoholic and I just wouldn’t take that chance.

Hey 3rd. She’s only speaking from her experience of having married two alcoholics, so alcohol is a sensitive issue in her relationships. Don’t come down too hard on her.

By Wise Diva

October 13, 2006 09:53 AM | Link to this

this may sound like an odd question, but how do you find out what your drink limit is?

By Tiff

October 13, 2006 09:53 AM | Link to this

Hey QC

By Yvie

October 13, 2006 09:55 AM | Link to this

I am an alcoholic. I have a couple of drinks just about every night before bed. I need to have a good buzz going to fall asleep otherwise I stay up and my head spins and my mind won’t settle down. Sometimes it’s okay and I can fall asleep, but sometimes I get anxious and start worrying. The drink lets me sleep.

My husband doesn’t like it, naturally. It doesn’t hit us financially. Together we make just over on the other side of 6 figures (starting this year!). And it never keeps me from getting up and going to work. In fact, I wake up in the morning feeling rested and refreshed. While I do drink socially when I’m having my alcoholism drinks they’re only at night before bed and never when I have to drive. If I’m out socially and there’s drink, I might only have one, if any, because I won’t get behind the wheel of a car.

The thing that it does do that really bothers my husband (and me, too) is that it makes any mood I’m already in just very enhanced. So, if we’ve had an argument where it was not resolved then after my couple drinks I demand a rematch and it gets ugly. It works that way, too, if we’ve been feeling romantic earlier…another re-match please. I guess it’s fortunate that we mostly get along and resolve arguements.

Anyway, I just wanted to say that it causes me problems in my relationship and I am jeopardizing my marriage. If he ever lay down the law I think I would seek help to stop because my family is most important to me. But he hasn’t done that. And I’m not ready to try to sleep at night without my “sleep tonics” yet.

This is the alcoholic denial thing talking…but I think a doctor would just prescribe to me some drug to do the same thing alcohol does.

Anyway, just a drunk’s perspective.

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 09:55 AM | Link to this

Oh, and Tiff YEAAA @ hair!!! The Windy Hill one? I just let my SO’s brother (yeah, the alcoholic) re-layer my hair last night. That boy got some anointed hands when it comes to scissors and color!!!! So he’s gonna hook me up tomorrow with the whole shampoo/set thing. He actually used to do what the Dominican’s did to my hair but he just got harder to catch up with. So I caught him last night and let him cut me up. But when I can’t catch him, I’ll be right back up in the Dom-Shop next time!

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 09:57 AM | Link to this

WHOOPS - TYPO I meant My SO’s brother

By Chink

October 13, 2006 09:58 AM | Link to this

Mornin

Yeah I have been down that road too many times.

My daughters father and I went to AA together …who knows if he still drinks.

Whatever is causing that person to drink excessively is not alcohol but some real problems …it is not recreation but a outlet to Not Feel.

Anyway I always tell myself I won’t deal with another person who drinks/smokes and it usually comes out eventually and I am like Dang! I thought he was different…

• Man so many comments I didnt know what to do with dude we argued yesterday ..then I called him this morning no answer …he called me back …I am like I don’t want to argue ..he is like you should of known…I apologized for being selfish and took back all my hurtful comments …I wanted him to apologize but then I realized he doesn’t have to …let me clear my own conscious.* I feel better ..doesn’t mean we back together just means I stopped being spoiled and stubborn.

By Blue_Kolla

October 13, 2006 10:00 AM | Link to this

Hey QC

LongHaul my brother’s SO

I hope that you meant your SO’s brother. LOL

By Raqi

October 13, 2006 10:00 AM | Link to this

Morning.

I would never entertain a relationship with an alcoholic, because I would not want to have to look a young mother and child in the face after my SO carelessly took the life of their husband and father because he was not able to make a conscious decision not to get behind the wheel of a car while drunk. I would never want to feel the anguish and despair of knowing I that I was a companion to that person.

The day that woman called me to say she was sorry I felt forgiveness; until she said that she should have made him get help. She never tried to make him get help or see the error of his ways. You can’t control the actions of others, but you can choose not to be apart of their irresponsibility.

By Thick

October 13, 2006 10:01 AM | Link to this

What’s up MissQC

I don’t find this to be a morbid topic at all, really I have some pretty good drunk stories to tell about some fellas, but I will try to be respectful of others.

Drinking can easily become other addictions to drugs and other types of bad behavior. Sadly, I truly know some drunks who have awaken and didn’t know where they were and who they had been with. And in college I have seriously says some of my girlfriends “Essence”. Because alot females can’t hold they liquour.

By MusingLee

October 13, 2006 10:03 AM | Link to this

recovering Your girl should never have asked you to have a drink, especially when she knows you’re recovering…I say if she really cares for you then she want even have you looking at her drink…If you don’t leave her, you are going to need to be extra strong in resolve not to drink, cause she doesn’t seem very supportive of your problem.

By QC

October 13, 2006 10:05 AM | Link to this

Kudo’s to you Chink

lol @ 4th

BK you on a roll early dis merning

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 10:05 AM | Link to this

Recovering Just my opinion, but if I knew my SO was a recovering ANYTHING, why on God’s green earth would I ask him to take even one hit of the thing he’s recovering from? That was just plain stupid on her part. You sound like my brother’s SO in the fact that there is no such thing as ‘minimum’ for an alcoholic or a recovering one. It can never be ‘just one glass’ or ‘just one beer’. So why would she even put you in that kind of position, so you can have one drink with her like the rest of the couples. I hope she realizes that she really was the catalyst for ‘things to not be the same’. In your defense, I’m sure you thought you could just handle one, to appease her and unfortunately, you found out that like I said, “there is no such thing as minimum”.

I commend you for getting back on the wagon though and I wish you the best. Hopefully, you know that this isn’t something you can play with. Bump a drink with a SO! This is a fight for your life man! Keep the faith and keep your head up.

By runninatl

October 13, 2006 10:06 AM | Link to this

Morning folk.

LOL @ Blue you know you wrong for that but you right…hahahaha.

I guess I’m going to be Bible thumping and casting stones today but oh well…lol. As I’ve gotten older my views have changed and I don’t do the same things now that I did when I was 25. My children have changed me, life experiences have changed me, getting older has changed me. I smoked and drank heavily throughout my first go around in college and in the military. I went 2 1/2 years without a drink at all and I haven’t smoked since 02’. I have an occasional social drink now but that’s as far as it goes. Of course I’ve dated women who seemed to be heavy social drinkers and some that smoked as well. It was definitely a deciding factor in not pursuing anything serious. We’ve touched on this repeatedly on the blog but we all have our own preferences and standards. So if having them means you’re a Bible thumper you cast stones then so be it…lol. We all have to set our own limits as to what we are willing to and not willing to tolerate.

As far as trying to get someone with a problem help, I’ve seen it work successfully one time in my life. That was with a crack addict uncle of mine who ended up partially paralyzed before he was ready to make a change. The thing is you can’t help anyone until they are willing to help themselves first. So for me, I’d have to cut my ties and leave that person alone.

Dang, this was kind of depressing for a Friday, back to my fantasy football leagues

By "Longtime Lurker"

October 13, 2006 10:08 AM | Link to this

@Wise Lurker In response to your 9:53, just sit down one day, all by you lonesome and keep drinking until you fall down. That will determine your limit!

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 10:12 AM | Link to this

WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME!!! I KEEP HAVING FINGER/MIND DYSLEXIA!!!! It is my SO’s brother!!!! Not my brother’s SO!!!!!!!

SO’s Brother SO’s Brother SO’s Brother SO’s Brother SO’s Brother SO’s Brother

OK, I think I got it now…..

By Thick

October 13, 2006 10:13 AM | Link to this

I have been on a roll with this bad spelling, that’s save some of my girlfriends “Essence”. Because alot females can’t hold they liquour.

By Bre'

October 13, 2006 10:13 AM | Link to this

Good Morning….ahhhh nice crisp air today.

I grew up with uncles that drank as much of the moonshine they sold. Then moved on to whatever bottle was near to drain further into a slump. I know the signs pretty good and can say I’ve never gotten very serious with a man that had the problem. I did however date a guy for a month or so that hide the fact he was more than a social drinker very well. All that you do in the dark does come to light. So when the little signs started appearing I did talk with him and asked him if he felt it was a problem. He said he had it under control…I let him go after the second time it came up. I’m pretty much a ride and die chick however the line is drawn when my life is in danger with another persons problem.

On the other side of the issue is that I like my Petron(chilled or in a margarita on the rocks) and I love my wine. And on occasion I can drink some men under the table it must be in the genes. However I know my limits very well, you will never find me passed out, calling earl, or stumbling somewhere with no sense of direction. On that men have judged me and that’s fine they decided not to date me because I do drink well. I don’t drink every day or try to reach my limit when I do.

By MusingLee

October 13, 2006 10:14 AM | Link to this

LOL @ LL

By Raqi

October 13, 2006 10:15 AM | Link to this

WTH did I just say in my post?

Edited: The day the woman whose husband killed my husband called to say she was sorry after her husband was hauled off to prison at first I felt forgiveness until…..(Now go back and reread what I previously said)

By NCgirlfromATL

October 13, 2006 10:16 AM | Link to this

Yvie Wow!
First, I’m certainly no expert on the subject, but having been thru it w/ 2 close family members, I have to say, you will only get sober when you do it for yourself! Making your family, your job, your money or anything other than yourself the reason to get yourself together is a recipe for disaster. My uncle (who is more like my brother) was newly married and his wife was 6 mos pregnant with his first child when he went into rehab. It worked for all of about 3 weeks before he fell off the wagon. It took him another 10 years before he got sober and made it stick. He lost everything and it still wasn’t enough to make him stop…even jail didn’t do it. He had to make the decision that his life was worth living.

I can’t tell you how to live your life, but I hope you will find that you deserve better for yourself and will get the help you need.

Best wishes!!!

By runninatl

October 13, 2006 10:17 AM | Link to this

“I got options for dizzle, every day and all day, and he ain’t one of em.”

Hmmmmm…..what woman doesn’t? Is this a new revelation that men will hit it when given said opportunity?

Now playing in honor of Ms. Diva…

“Conceited”, by Remy Martin. Just kidding but I couldn’t resist, now back to lurking…lol.

By Raqi

October 13, 2006 10:21 AM | Link to this

I know my limit. After not drinking a drip of alcohol for 12 straight years, my limit is a 1/2 glass of wine and I limit that to the privacy of my home. A light buzz is all I am willing to get. The 2 times I have drank outside of my home was at a party of a neighbor that was walking distance from my house, but I never go over a 1/2 glass.

By "Longtime Lurker"

October 13, 2006 10:22 AM | Link to this

I just thought of a couple of funny stories I will share with ya’ll, about ya boy, after reading Thicks last post.

I told ya’ll earlier, I could write a best selling novel about my life,trials and tribulations.

When I was in college, I think Freshman year, me and my best friend til this day went out and got slizzerd!

Well,its after midnight and we’s hungry as a mug. We drive up to Mikey D’s and we in the drive in, I am driving of course. There was this long azz line, so we get all comfortable. Next thing you know, both of us are outtt! Cars start blowin and ish and ya boy or his patna ain’t heard ish!

When we woke up, there were about 4-5 people banging on our windows, cursing us out! We drove up, got our order and bounced!

We get to a red light on Old Nat’l and go to sleep again! Same thing happened with the folks knocking on the window and we sped off!

Second story - I went to this party and got so drunk that I fell asleep and my boys put me in the closet standing up and I slept there all night. Next morning, someone heard me snoring and opened the closet and I fell flat on my face and was still sleep.

Boy, those were the days man!

By mimi

October 13, 2006 10:22 AM | Link to this

I have several ‘deal breakers’ which I apply to my relationships and drinking to excess is a big big big deal-breaker. If he looks forward to the weekend just so he can get drunk, that’s a deal-breaker. If he drinks and drives, that’s a deal-breaker; if he calls me drunk, that’s a deal-breaker. Life’s too short to have to put up with this kind of nonsense.

By Candidly Speaking

October 13, 2006 10:24 AM | Link to this

I don’t like being round folks who can’t hold they likka.

You have happy drunks and you have disorderly drunks….but drunks nonetheless.

My dad’s side of the family are big drinkers male and female. A female drunk is UGLY!!!!

By abc

October 13, 2006 10:29 AM | Link to this

Yvie, I don’t think a couple of drinks or a glasses or wine per day makes you an alcoholic. Moderate consumption of wine is actually good for your cardiovascular system, and red wine (Cabernet, Merlot, Shiraz) in particular has beneficial antioxidants.

I’m not advocating consumption of alcohol per se, but an uptight teetotaler will have their own related health problems. I’m familiar with alcoholism, my old man is recovering. But a couple glasses of wine a day is not alcoholism.

Regarding drinking and driving, just don’t do it. Most everyone has at one time or another. Everyone knows better. Drinking and driving is a sure sign of drinking problem, obviously. If you see someone driving drunk, call 911 and report them.

By MusingLee

October 13, 2006 10:30 AM | Link to this

Yvie The longer you let a problem hang around the harder it is to quit and the more problems you cause in the long run…You admitted to having a problem, and your husband knows it’s a problem, so get yourself some help…You seem to have everything right now, but things change…One bad alchohol day and the money, house, husband, kids, could all be gone!!! Reading you sounds like, “I have so much going for me financially that I can buy my problems away!”…I don’t think it works like that.

By aggressively witty

October 13, 2006 10:31 AM | Link to this

Best way to find your drink limit is to:

1) pledge - this way you will not only find your limit, but also create new ones and risk death

2) get a group of dranking partners that are just as insane as you are and make sure at least ONE kicks the drinking up to another level. In school when I was a freshman I was taken under the wing of these 4-5 dudes who just DRANK. We had drink called a power outtage and it was basically on nights when the likker fund was low we would take whatever was on top of the fridge and mix it all up in a cup.

3) If you ever hurl so much that you burst a vessel in your eye…theres your limit. This is a surefire way to tell where your limit is.

By Cee

October 13, 2006 10:33 AM | Link to this

@Foots LOL, well in that case no I have never dated a drunk but I have dated a few buzzers.

By gavi1126

October 13, 2006 10:33 AM | Link to this

Hello

@WD - I know my limit. Redwine - 3/4 glasses. Martinins - 3. Other cocktails 3-4!! But i mostly drink wine and stop at 2 glasses!

@LongL - too funny.. i needed the laugh. i like the closet one!

@3rd - how r ya

By "Longtime Lurker"

October 13, 2006 10:35 AM | Link to this

@abc I have been confused for months, with you! Are you a dude or a girl! I can’t put my finger on you.

By gavi1126

October 13, 2006 10:36 AM | Link to this

Its really annoying and sad at the same time, when i see a grown man drunk!!

By Yvie

October 13, 2006 10:37 AM | Link to this

One reason I spoke up was to show how people like me, ie extrememly high functioning alcoholics, most likely exist all around you. But you won’t know it. Not one of my co-workers would describe me as an alcoholic. Some of my friends would, close friends. Definitely my family.

But then, out of all 5 of us siblings (I’m the middle of the 5) 4 of us drink like that. Funny thing is…our folks don’t drink like that. They’re social or occasion drinkers (ie, it’s a wedding!, it’s Christmas! Pass the wine!), but not daily drinkers. However, my mom parents are alcoholics. They’re in their late 80s and light themselves up every day. If you go over to MawMaw and PawPaw’s house they’re a bottle of bourbon sitting out.

But it’s not like I grew up with parents that drank a lot. And they are good parents…not abusive or unloving. Yet, at least 4 of us kids became alcoholics. I’d say it’s a good argument for that whole genetic idea.

Last night I decided I would not drink. I lay in bed until 4am with my mind going a mile a minute. I was thinking about the big old water oak on my neighbor’s property that is dying. My neighbor won’t cut it down because it costs too much. I worry about it falling on my house because the side of the tree that’s rotting faces my house. That tree would fall on my son’s bedroom.

I was also thinking about school shootings and how I am helpless to protect my son.

Then I started thinking about finances and how great we’re doing saving up enough money to buy a house intown. I just don’t want one of our old cars to break down so we don’t have to take from our savings to repair or replace.

Lastly, this isn’t a mind spinning thing, but my neighbor behind my house has a motion-sensor flood light that comes on about every 10 minutes or so and it freaking FLOODS my bedroom with light. I need to go talk to him about that….

Mostly what my minds spins about is my son and my husband. After my son was born is when I really started drinking. I think because I started developing so much anxiety about something bad happening to him and to my husband to take them away from me.

Psychoanalyze that!

I imagine most drunks have something similarly pathetic that makes them drink.

By Blue_Kolla

October 13, 2006 10:39 AM | Link to this

LOL @ LL Man I did that same thing in a Krystal’s line one night. The only thing was that I wasn’t up to the window yet, so instead of knocking on my window, nikkas just drove around me. Man when I woke up that joint was closed and I and was like 4 car lengths from the window looking wayyy out of place. I just thanked The Lord that no cops had driven by… and kicked it on to the crib.

By Raqi

October 13, 2006 10:39 AM | Link to this

Longtime I am a M.A.D.D. and to your first story you, if those people had any sense they would have made you have found yourself waking up to a stone-faced cop knocking on your window.

By "Longtime Lurker"

October 13, 2006 10:40 AM | Link to this

Oh man, I got many stories of waking up next to strange chicks the next morning, after drinkin and not knowin what happened the night before. Can’t talk about those though on the public forum though! Don threw the johnson on the crap table many a night!

By Hot Sauce

October 13, 2006 10:40 AM | Link to this

Hello good people: I’ve never had to deal with someone drinking too much; hell i can’t even drink a 4 pack of wine coolers without falling asleep, i know i down have the “art of drinking” down yet - so you can say i’m an “almost social taster not drinker

Hey Musing

By aggressively witty

October 13, 2006 10:41 AM | Link to this

Oh here is a sure fire way to tell if ya dude got a drinking problem. If he passes out with the knowledge that some sex is imminent, there are some issues with the vino. I passed myself out of a menage once. Damn Captain n coke with a goldschlager back

By Hot Sauce

October 13, 2006 10:42 AM | Link to this

LL now that’s a funny story - lolololol

By QC

October 13, 2006 10:44 AM | Link to this

Hey Gavi

By Yvie

October 13, 2006 10:44 AM | Link to this

I don’t mean to sound like I can buy my problems away. I only said that in response to the poster who said their SO will drink even if they are short on funds. I just meant that the financial impact of drinking doesn’t exist for me right now. The amount of money I spend on drink is insignificant to the amount we make together. It doesn’t hurt our savings. That jsut contributes to the problems because it’s one LESS obstacle. So….perhaps you’re right…I am buying at least one obstacle.

But we certainly don’t make enough money to pay if I HURT someone!

But that’s another obstacle to drinking that I don’t have. I don’t get behind the wheel after drinking more than a single beer/wine/cocktail. I have no problems controlling my intake in social situations. My real drinking only goes on at home.

Why do I think I am an alcoholic? BEcause I NEED alcohol to sleep. I CRAVE it every night (I don’t start craving it until about 8pm, but then it slams into me). and because people I love don’t like it.

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 10:45 AM | Link to this

Man, I have such low tolerance for alcohol. It makes me go to sleep (that buzz y’all were talking about). If and when I drank, ONE GLASS of red wine was all it took for me to lay down and go to sleeeeep! Last year, someone brought this rum cake into the office around the holidays. Man, you could SMELL the rum, which should tell you how much freakin rum was in that mess. I had a small piece and the first bite, I felt IMMEDIATELY in my body.

One time, I called myself trying to see what I could stand one pitiful birthday when I was alone at home and depressed because I was still married to the loser in prison. I went out, not knowing jack about buying liquor, and bought some fruity wine, because I didn’t like bitter stuff. So anyway, I think I bought some blackberry or mulberry flavored crap. I had one glass and of course, the first gulp went straight to my head. But I realllly wanted to see how it felt to be drunk. So I drank a second glass and wanted to see if I could still walk okay. Then onto the third glass and my head started hurting and I felt very dizzy. I laid down and took my drunk azzzz to sleep. I woke up about two hours later SICK AS A DOG!!!!! I was throwing that crap up!!!! Man, I can still smell the smell of that nasty ‘fruit wine’. UGH!!!! NEVER AGAIN!!!!

By ImAPeach404

October 13, 2006 10:46 AM | Link to this

Hey all

Dag… I don’t think I can catch up on all the post, so if i repeat…

But uh… I don’t really drink. If I go out I may have an amaretto sour and if I go to a sports bar, I have to have a glass of draft beer (preferably Killians Red, if its available)but other than that, I don’t drink much. So, I don’t really mix well with guys who drink. I think being drunk is disgusting and unattractive - especially for women. I couldn’t seriously date someone who is an drinks excessivley, its a turn off.

Hey 4th, going to the Dominicans tomorrow!

By abc

October 13, 2006 10:46 AM | Link to this

LL, what the hell are you talking about?

By Raqi

October 13, 2006 10:48 AM | Link to this

I don’t get people drinking because they have a problem. Hell drinking itself is a problem. When you sober up the problem still exists and you have lost valuable time that you could have tried other means to fix your “problem”. And besides you probably did some dumb crap while drunk that created new problems for you.

By Blue_Kolla

October 13, 2006 10:48 AM | Link to this

Note to Self: Not buying broads drinks helps them to keep to their two drink max; don’t want to encourage any unresponsible drinking, which may lead to alcoholism.

By abc

October 13, 2006 10:48 AM | Link to this

Yvie, sounds to me like you’re self-medicating some other kind of problem, you may wish to consult a doctor about it.

By gavi1126

October 13, 2006 10:49 AM | Link to this

@ LL - so if somebody asks you , if u have any kids.. U’re response would be.. umm..not that I know off!!!

By gavi1126

October 13, 2006 10:50 AM | Link to this

sup QC

By Blue_Kolla

October 13, 2006 10:52 AM | Link to this

Raqi/LL they would have made you have found yourself waking up to a stone-faced cop

seeumsayin…

By Sweet Tea

October 13, 2006 10:53 AM | Link to this

While in training on the night watch, we stopped this guy who was DUI - he could’nt pass any of the tests given. Once we taken and put into the car, we’re on our way back to the station and “Max” was talking on the radio and the guy we’d arrested was repeating everything he was saying and it was sooooooooo funny. LL your story was funny but if that were to happen to you out here and a cop pulled up you & your boys would have went to jail sleep, that’s so dangerous so everyone please be careful and get a designated driver for your safety and everyone else have a great day bloggers, i’ll be lurking as usual Hey my favorite blogger MUSING if your ever out drinking and can’t drive to your destination, just let us know we’ll come save you ;)

By runninatl

October 13, 2006 10:54 AM | Link to this

Blue I know you gotta be talking about the Krystal’s on Piedmont that everyone use to go to when the left Vision, Kaya, Liquid….back in the day. Man, those little burgers and hot fries use to taste like a 16oz ribeye steak at 3am with a good buzz!!! That line would get so daymn long with all the people either passed out in their cars in the drive through drunk or all the late night booty call/text messaging going on! Those were the days….LMAO.

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 10:55 AM | Link to this

LL Man, HOPEFULLY, you have outgrown that foolery but that junk is madddddd funny!!! I remember one time while growing up, we had a half brother (father’s son) who came to live with us for several years. (woo, now that would be a great topic WD or Laney. When you find out that mommy/daddy stepped out and had another baby and still remained married and how the family interracted with the ‘love child…)

Anyway, I’m the middle child of 3. Then he made 4th child, between me and my baby sister. Anyway, he moved to Atlanta to love with ‘his father’ because he was getting into a lot of trouble back home. Y’all remember ZIMA? Anywho, he was about maybe 14/15 and me and my brother found a pack of ZIMA hidden in the hall closet under stuff. Now mind you, NOBODY in our house drank!!! So we knew it was his stuff. Me and my brother took the bottles, opened them all up, poured the alcohol out and refilled it with water!! hahahahahaha!!! Of COURSE he wasn’t gonna say nothing to nobody about it because how a 14/15 year old gonna say, “Hey? Who emptied out my liquor?” hahahaha! It wasn’t until we were all grown that we finally brought this up to him and we FELL OUT LAUGHING over this!

Then one time, he came home from being out with some bad friends and he was sleep on the couch downstairs. Me and my brother put his hand in a bucket of warm water. Of course when we checked on him hours later, HE HAD PEED ON HIMSELF!!!! hahahahahaha!!!!! Oh the fun we used to have at his dumb expense!

By 3rdwheelmourning

October 13, 2006 10:56 AM | Link to this

Ok Foots I will let off of her. I just want it to be known that not all social drinkers turn into alochilics…. I know when to drink and not to drink… I know about being an alochic from watching some of my family folk…. This topic is sad for a Friday… I was hoping for the Soul Train line to be started this morning!! Can we talk about if you are a fat girl where can you meet the hot men at???

By Tiff

October 13, 2006 10:57 AM | Link to this

Note to Self: Not buying broads drinks helps them to keep to their two drink max; don’t want to encourage any unresponsible drinking, which may lead to alcoholism.

BK You are a trip!! LOL Keep counting those pennies man.

By MusingLee

October 13, 2006 10:58 AM | Link to this

Yvie It sounds like you have conditioned your body to Needing alcohol to sleep…Your body has developed a dependancy that you really should try breaking…Just like sleeping pills, if you take them too often your body needs them inorder to sleep…You eventually need more and more of it to get to sleep…Then you start needing more of it just to function during the day, the alcohol starts to affect your brain and chemically drives you to crave it inorder to make it through the day.

By Sweet Tea

October 13, 2006 10:59 AM | Link to this

Where is this Dominican Hair Shop cause i need a “new look” i would love to get my hair cut, styled, colored, layered and all that stuff. I would love to get a “cute short cut” with color or streaks maybe, just let me know where i need to go and who i need to see…thanks! :)

Musing you wanna hook up so you can pull my hair before i get it cut, let me know

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 11:01 AM | Link to this

ImAPeach We’ll be having “Testimony Service” with you on Monday. So you’ll be next in line to testify of the goodness of the Dominicans!!!!! Hey glory~

Raqi Yes, what you’re saying is very rational to a rationally minded person. But to an irrational mind, it makes perfect sense. I’m sure no alcoholic meant to become an alcoholic. So once they’re there, all they think about is THIS MOMENT RIGHT NOW. And for their ‘right now’, they want to ease the pain. Of course in their irrationality, they ain’t giving two seconds thought about when the liquor/drug wears off, remembering that the last time, they were so miserable afterwards.

It really is a real illness that’s more mental than anything.

By gavi1126

October 13, 2006 11:02 AM | Link to this

@ 3rd - u betta stop..lol. But one good spot..LA fitness by camp creek!! I wanna see that gym as well. but its just too far.

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 11:05 AM | Link to this

3rd You sure you ain’t been hitting the bottle this morning with the way you keep jacking up the spelling of a-l-c-o-h-o-l-i-c!!!!

Sorry couldn’t resist! Just messing with you in fun dog!

By MusingLee

October 13, 2006 11:07 AM | Link to this

Sweet T Ohhhh my….I hope your hair doesn’t fly off your scalp if I were to give it a tug?!?!?!? LOLOLOL

By Thick

October 13, 2006 11:08 AM | Link to this

I don’t really know my limit, probably because I never allowed myself to find out.

When I go out and I know that I am going to be drinking, espeically in my twenties I would go with my girlfriends, about two or three of us. We would always assist each other, whoever became drunk first. I was usually the designated driver. They all know that I mostly drink during the holidays, and even then I don’t like being out of control.

LOL @Longtime Luker you crazy!

By Yvie

October 13, 2006 11:08 AM | Link to this

I think it’s true that I am “self-medicating” my anxiety and that’s I’ve created a dependence for sleeping.

But I think I’d be in bigger denial if I tried to innocently pin it all on just that. Because if it was just that I’d have no problem breaking the habit. I break other bad habits all the time.

I think I will need help with this one.

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 11:09 AM | Link to this

Sweet Tea with lots of Ice Girl, you a messsss!!! trying to have blog sex with Musing

Anyway, the Dominican salon I went to is out here in Marietta. Someone else last week spoke of one up 85 north off Jimmy Carter. So depends on which one you wanna drive to. And someone might know of another one too.

By Tazzee

October 13, 2006 11:09 AM | Link to this

Morning folks!

This is a deep topic for a Friday but I think its awesome that we’re getting input from folks that deal with this issue. Thanks for bringing it up Diva.

Both my parents are alcoholics so I really can’t be around anyone that drinks too much. I refuse to date a man that might have a drinking problem. The most recent guy I went out with had two drinks at dinner. Then while talking about what he likes to do for fun, he kept mentioning hitting up bars. When I talked to him the next day - after I left him, he said he went and hung out at some more bars - but went back to his hotel room before he got too drunk. That concerns me - but I won’t put him down before we get a chance to really talk about it.

I will have a drink every now and then but I don’t drink and drive - I mean if I’m driving, I won’t have one drink. I haven’t been drunk since college because as soon as I notice that I’m talking more than usual - I stop drinking. I never drink alone, I have so much wine and alcohol in my house from when folks bring it to a party - you would think I was a drinker, but it looks good on my bakers rack.

While I don’t believe I’ve inherited alcoholism, my younger sister is one and my older sister has a very addictive personality. So I work extra hard to make sure that if I have any of that deep within, it doesn’t come out.

By Tazzee

October 13, 2006 11:09 AM | Link to this

Morning folks!

This is a deep topic for a Friday but I think its awesome that we’re getting input from folks that deal with this issue. Thanks for bringing it up Diva.

Both my parents are alcoholics so I really can’t be around anyone that drinks too much. I refuse to date a man that might have a drinking problem. The most recent guy I went out with had two drinks at dinner. Then while talking about what he likes to do for fun, he kept mentioning hitting up bars. When I talked to him the next day - after I left him, he said he went and hung out at some more bars - but went back to his hotel room before he got too drunk. That concerns me - but I won’t put him down before we get a chance to really talk about it.

I will have a drink every now and then but I don’t drink and drive - I mean if I’m driving, I won’t have one drink. I haven’t been drunk since college because as soon as I notice that I’m talking more than usual - I stop drinking. I never drink alone, I have so much wine and alcohol in my house from when folks bring it to a party - you would think I was a drinker, but it looks good on my bakers rack.

While I don’t believe I’ve inherited alcoholism, my younger sister is one and my older sister has a very addictive personality. So I work extra hard to make sure that if I have any of that deep within, it doesn’t come out.

By Blue_Kolla

October 13, 2006 11:10 AM | Link to this

Tiff I’m just lookin’ out for a sistah. LOL

By Raqi

October 13, 2006 11:10 AM | Link to this

BS longhaul taking the first drink is your first step to becoming an alcoholic. If you know drinking made you end up in a jailhouse on Monday morning when you should be at work for the past 4 weeks, why the hell you are going to go get drunk again next weekend. Bull.

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 13, 2006 11:12 AM | Link to this

Yvie sounds like you have let society’s ill cause you to worry about things you really cant control..If your employer has it and most do check into their EAP program (Employee Assistance Program) The one I know of deals with alot of corporate employers “Cameron and Associates” and normally the treat is free to start, confidential and you can start by talking about your worries and frustrations and then your drinking. Check it out..besides you have already conquered the first half you know you have a problem.

By NCgirlfromATL

October 13, 2006 11:12 AM | Link to this

Yvie If you think you have a problem, then you probably do. You don’t need someone else to confirm that for you. Alcoholism is a subjective problem, b/c everyone’s tolerance for alcohol is subjective. It takes a lot of courage to admit that. It takes even more courage to do something about it.

LL/Blue Many of us have stupid college drunk stories, but let’s be careful not to glorify drunk driving incidents. I agree w/ raqi, b/c LL’s story was only humorous b/c one got hurt. Hopefully, we are all grown enough now to know better and to do better.

By Yvie

October 13, 2006 11:13 AM | Link to this

OK, I’m outta here for the day. I am starting a new job on Monday (it’s a move up, a better opportunity, with more pay and responsibilites, in case you’re wondering about it being related to my drinking). So I need to pack up my office and hand in my keys, etc.

Thanks for letting me confess. I know they say alcoholics live in denial. I’m one who doesn’t deny it. I know I have a problem. And I feel better when I talk about it, especially with strangers who have no preconceptions. I promise you, if you were a co-worker or a casual friend and I started talking about this you would blow it off because you wouldn’t believe me.

But strangers are more likely to believe you when you say you have a problem.

I need a therapist….talking to stranges is another form of self-medication, I guess…

By Bre'

October 13, 2006 11:16 AM | Link to this

@ST No don’t go get all that done at the DHS. They are just good for roll, set, blow out.

By Sweet Tea

October 13, 2006 11:21 AM | Link to this

Musing nope sweetie all this hair is all mine, lol @ 4th

By Blue_Kolla

October 13, 2006 11:23 AM | Link to this

Raqi You M.A.D.D.’s really have jacked up this drinking game. It’s yoll’s fault why a 19 y/o vet that just got his leg blown off can’t go and buy himself a beer.

This mass-punishment mentality instead of holding each one accountable for his own actions is the real BS.

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 11:23 AM | Link to this

Raqi Girl, put your guns up. I don’t drink. So I really can’t answer your question. I was just trying to make some kind of sense out of it. A FIRST drink doesn’t end you up in jail. The scenario you just created sounds like someone who ALREADY has a drinking problem. I was talking about from the very start.

That’s like how we look at a very obese person and say, “now they should’ve known they were blowing up over the years! So why didn’t they just stop eating!!” Easy for us on the outside looking in to make it sound so black and white, but I’m quite sure that is never the case. By the time someone realizes they have a problem, they’re already so far gone and don’t know how to function without it. Kind of what Yvie is speaking on. And what my SO’s brother talks about.

He has sat up with us (or moreso my SO) at 3am, crying, saying that he hates being an alcoholic and hates himself, etc, but he just doesn’t know how to live without it. It’s really sad.

By Foots

October 13, 2006 11:25 AM | Link to this

I have so much wine and alcohol in my house from when folks bring it to a party - you would think I was a drinker

Tazzee I have the same thing going on at my house! When my friends and I have a party, we severely overdo it with the amount of alcohol we bring. But none of us drink much, so we have all kinds of stuff left over. Shoot, I still have Corona left over in my refrigerator from the last guy I dated (it was his favorite, so I kept some at the house). It’s been five months, so I guess I can throw that away, huh? Deep Dimples does the SO drink Corona? Maybe I could pass it on…

By mickiedee

October 13, 2006 11:28 AM | Link to this

Tazzee, how do you define addictive personality as it relates to your sister? That might be a topic that Wise or Laney could use: How do people with that disorder function in relationships?

By Sweet Tea

October 13, 2006 11:28 AM | Link to this

@Bre’ are you serious! roll set/blow out i can do that myself, thanx girl!

Guess i’ll be pulling my hair back into a ponytail for a while

By NCgirlfromATL

October 13, 2006 11:35 AM | Link to this

Raqi I hear ya, and I agree with the no-drinking and driving stance. I am not a huge drinker myself, but I will have a glass of wine or a shot of tequila on occasion. Blue couldn’t get w/ me and the Patron, but that’s aight…more for me. I might have a drink, but someone sober is at the wheel. But, I don’t believe the first drink leads to alcoholism. Alcohol addict is just as much a chemical addiction (meaning there is something physicologially that makes you crave it) as it is a mental addiction. I might have a drink once every 3-4 months. I can live w/o alcohol (and do, the majority of the time.) An addict can’t.

4th guuuurl, you are bringing me back tho! ZIMA CLEAR MALT and a lime! lolol!! Reminds me of my days in Chapel Hill. It was the Corona of my college dayz. Now, I can’t stand the smell of that rot gut! lolol!!

By Raqi

October 13, 2006 11:36 AM | Link to this

Because I need to avoid getting myself emotionally worked up before heading to the mountains at freakin 4:30am in the morn I am leaving this alone. Can someone please give me the 411 on these movies? I am looking for something to take on my short adventure.

RV - Robin Williams

Lucky # Slevin

Ultra Violet

16 Blocks

Running Scared

Which 2 would be the best to take? I have never seen any of them. It gets down to 30 degrees at night up there this time of the year and we will be there Sat. and Sun. night. Gots to have something to do.

By Foots

October 13, 2006 11:36 AM | Link to this

Okay, I have one college drunk-ish story. A few friends from Tech came to visit me and my best friend. After we had rode around Athens looking for something to get into, we ended back up at my apartment watching videos. Dudes suggested that we shoot Screwdrivers, so that’s what we did. Now, for those that know me, it don’t take much for me to dance stone sober, but I was a little more than tipsy so it didn’t take nothing. My girl convinced me that I should dance for everybody, so she put my high heeled shoes on for me, stood me up and put the music on. It was so funny that she went to get my roommate/cousin who was asleep in her room to watch the show. I didn’t take anything off y’all. But that may have been the beginning of my pole fantasies… LOL!!

By aggressively witty

October 13, 2006 11:37 AM | Link to this

shiiid this just tells me I need to start hosting more events to get my likker cabinet stocked for free.

Next party at my house!

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 11:37 AM | Link to this

Sweet Tea roll set/blow out i can do that myself, thanx girl!

So can I but TRUST ME!! It ain’t the same! They seem to specialize in long, flowing hair and I’m not about to bore everybody again about how my hair felt when they did it last Friday night…but it’s worth it and it’s only $25 girl. It’s like washing your car. You can do it yourself but it’s nice to pay somebody else to do it and not spend all your money.

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 13, 2006 11:40 AM | Link to this

I guess this kind of falls inline with what Blue is saying.. not that I have a problem with MADD great cause, however we have a serious lack of personal responiblity going on in our society as a whole. If some drinks and drives, it is not the alcohol that is at fault, it is not the bartender that is at fault, it is the idiot who was 12 sheets in the wind that cause the accident that is at fault. Period. I can understand underage drinking laws, and all of that but once a person reaches the age of reason and knows better (18 or so) then that person should be held responsible for their own actions. PEOPLE KILL PEOPLE

By Blue_Kolla

October 13, 2006 11:40 AM | Link to this

Sweet Tea Guess i’ll be pulling my hair back into a ponytail for a while

I don’t see a problem with that.

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 11:43 AM | Link to this

Raqi Sorry girl. I forgot this topic hits too close to you.

As for the movies. RV IS A MUST!!! HILLLLLARIOUS w/ Robin Williams. I think that was the last movie I saw at the theater. Dang. But yeah, that’s a great one.

By Raqi

October 13, 2006 11:44 AM | Link to this

Ya know what longhaul I will be sure to tell my son that the man that killed his father couldn’t help himself. ‘kay?

Like I said you can’t become an alcoholic until you take that FIRST drink. That’s my last comment on it.

By aggressively witty

October 13, 2006 11:47 AM | Link to this

Slevin and 16 blocks are good flicks. slevin more so than 16 blocks. I have not seen the other ones and i would NEVER watcha movie in which robin williams is the primary actor.

By MusingLee

October 13, 2006 11:48 AM | Link to this

Any other blog Confessions from the lurkers among us????

Now doing my impersonation of Usher…and letting it “Burn” while grinding hips on file cabinet and opening dress shirt for all to see

By Raqi

October 13, 2006 11:48 AM | Link to this

longhaul apology accepted. And I apologize also for my last comment to you.

By Sweet Tea

October 13, 2006 11:50 AM | Link to this

Thanks Blue_k you’re sweet ;)

4th you’re right it won’t be the same and besides i want a nice cut/style with color to bring my “eyes out” it’s bad enough people think i wear contacts but these are my “real eyes” my hair is pass my shoulders and i want something new. I’m always pulling it back and putting on my Laker’s Cap on the weekends, i really want a “new look” for 2007 so maybe i’ll try them. The most i’ve paid to get my hair done was $110.00 which still isn’t too much for the amount of hair i have, but we’ll see.

By brown eyed beauty

October 13, 2006 11:53 AM | Link to this

ya’ll remember putting a jolly rancher in the Zima? yup, those were the days…

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 11:53 AM | Link to this

Raqi Dear, I said nothing of the sort and I’m not going to make excuses for the irresponsible people who drink and then make foolish decisions that affect another person’s life. So please don’t come at me like that because that’s not where I was coming from at all.

HOWEVER, everybody that does drink is not irresponsible nor are they an alcoholic.

I really am sorry for your loss and I certainly am not trying to be insensitive or minimize that.

By aggressively witty

October 13, 2006 11:54 AM | Link to this

On topic, I have never dated a broad with a drinking problem. I have smashed some and this is probably why I never DATED any. Broads with drinking problems have a tendency to be harlots. And while that is fun for the night, it will get on your damn nerves if you try to wife one up.

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 11:55 AM | Link to this

*>>>>>>>> <<<<<<<< BLOG HUG FOR RAQI!!! We love and support ya!! Have fun in the cabin! Try not to ‘clock’ monster-in-law!

By Tiff

October 13, 2006 11:56 AM | Link to this

Raqi My 2 cents…

Lucky # Slevin - Ok but not a great one. If you can take something else instead do so.

Ultra Violet - Her worst movie yet..skip it

16 Blocks - a good one..u can take it with you. I may be biased though because I really like Mos Def.

Running Scared - another good one..definitely take it with you.

By Wise Diva

October 13, 2006 11:58 AM | Link to this

no runnin, I wasn’t bragging on my looks or skills, that was my point..women always have options, we can yell out our door I’m horny, and then duck, some dude would start running after her.

it’s an exaggeration, but you get my point. I don’t need to NOT call him back out of some fear of being weak in the knees for past dizzle, are you kiddin me? umm no.

By Blue_Kolla

October 13, 2006 11:59 AM | Link to this

hmmm… didn’t know it was personal… either way though, my position remains the same.

ABC shiiid this just tells me I need to start hosting more events to get my likker cabinet stocked for free.

Dayum sure worth considering. LOL

By Tiff

October 13, 2006 12:01 PM | Link to this

ST I don’t know where you’re located but my favorite salon (and the only one I would EVER let color or cut my hair) is Nseya on Roswell Road. I recommend Melissa or Michelle if you want to get your hair cut or colored. They are expensive but the results are worth it. Then you can go to the dominicans to maintain it for almost nothing.

By 3rdwheelmourning

October 13, 2006 12:05 PM | Link to this

Gavi what’s up girl?? I am hanging in there! How are you?

By Blue_Kolla

October 13, 2006 12:05 PM | Link to this

BTW… why don’t we just get rid of all cars anyway. People changing stations on radios, talking on cell phones, running over nails, falling asleep, and looking at chicks all kill people.

Your life does not even belong to you. Tragedies happen. It’s up to you to call on some of that faith that you say you get on Wednesdays, Fridays, and Sundays and continue to flourish… instead of condemning everyone around you.

By QC

October 13, 2006 12:06 PM | Link to this

the devil is so busy today…..geesh, urgh!!!!!!!!!!!!

By MusingLee

October 13, 2006 12:09 PM | Link to this

Now running towards Lady Wise’s office only to have door slammed in face again….

“That’s the forth and last time I fall for the coody call!”

Now trying to look beneath the office door and see if any male shoes are in Wise’s office

By 3rdwheelmourning

October 13, 2006 12:11 PM | Link to this

Gavi I work out at Camp Creek and All I have seen is mean mugging women and mean mugging men…. The gym is very nice though… I’m going to miss it when I start my new job….. I will be going to one off of Akers Mill then…

By 3rdwheelmourning

October 13, 2006 12:12 PM | Link to this

Well 4th I have been hitting the bottle… I only have two more weeks in prision and I just have to let it out…. Ain’t nothing wrong with some coffee and Kuula….. Just think I am going to be a school teacher in less than 3 years…… :o)

By Raqi

October 13, 2006 12:13 PM | Link to this

Thanks for the movie info.

Does anyone know who sells zip-off pants for women or if they are even sold? I figure it may be cold starting out on our hike but it may warm later. My oldest offered to lend me a couple pair of his, but I can’t bring myself to put on anything that he has done only God knows what in. I taught the boy to bathe but I just can’t be too sure.

By QC

October 13, 2006 12:17 PM | Link to this

Where’s Page i know she would’ve enjoyed yesterday’s blogging

Hey Page

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 13, 2006 12:18 PM | Link to this

At what point did the dating blog become Christian central? I am sorry but did it occur to any of you bible thumpers,holier than thou types, that others reading or participating in this blog have different faith based beliefs?

By Blue_Kolla

October 13, 2006 12:19 PM | Link to this

QC Can I… I mean… May I get some working mail please?

By Blue_Kolla

October 13, 2006 12:25 PM | Link to this

Kym My commentary is universal. So what is your point?

By QC

October 13, 2006 12:27 PM | Link to this

Aight BK i don’t know why it’s not showing up but i’ll try it again…sorry :(

By NCgirlfromATL

October 13, 2006 12:28 PM | Link to this

Now trying to look beneath the office door and see if any male shoes are in Wise’s office.

Musings ROTFLMAO!! You just had me thinking of the verse from the Digital Underground song, “Freaks of the Industry” Well, D is what I do, so, yo, listen up: I put a towel on the floor by the two inch gap under the door Now they can’t see me any more. Check the locks so they can’t clock, but they can listen. There’ll be no bargin’ in and there’ll be no dissin’ [Dissin’]

By Say What?

October 13, 2006 12:33 PM | Link to this

Herrrrrrrrrrrrre we go….Kym Are you atheist? Is it a crime to mention God/christian values? dang. You are one hateful, bitter B! Move to a non-christian country for goodness sake……

Somebody mention one christian-based word and you go slithering like Linda Blair. Probably one christian based quote out of 150 and YOU have a problem with it.

now back to lurkville..but you really get on my nerves

By THE INFAMOUS DK

October 13, 2006 12:35 PM | Link to this

Good afternoon

I was raised in a home with a functioning alcohlic.. The fact that my Dad was a alcoholic makes me govern myself accordingly because i dont want it to become apart of my being.. I was going thru a tough time with the split and found myself finding the bottom of many bottles. I was also saying I need a drink to think.. I used to drink at home to settle myself and help me sleep at night. All excuses to drink and smoke.. I withdrew from everyone only to fall deeper in my hole.. As the song says I was down in a hole of my own making. After a while I noticed the pattern was becoming self destructive accompanied by way too much Kush.. I had to dig deep and remember who I am and what I am thus curing my problem.. I wasnt about to let my Son watch his father become a raging alcoholic like I saw and besides I would never give the EX the satisfaction that I fell off because I wasnt with her anymore.. I pulled myself up by the boot straps and got it together becoming a better INFAMOUS..

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 13, 2006 12:39 PM | Link to this

My point Blue is that not everyone attends services on any of those days, or they may not attend them at all.

By Tazzee

October 13, 2006 12:39 PM | Link to this

Foots I still have some Grey Goose from my housewarming party in February 2005 (Hey Teddy if you’re lurking)

mickiedee what I mean by an addictive personality is my sister seems to become addicted to a lot of things. For instance, she’s been diagnosed (I think) with an eating disorder. I’ve watched her sit and eat an entire ‘milk carton’ of Whoppers. She feels she needs caffeine so she can drink a 2 liter of diet coke in a day. And if she doesn’t have it, you would think caffeine was crack. She’s always had a man in her life (she’s married now) - in summary, I’ve never seen her do anything in moderation. I’m not a psychologist or anything, but I’ve heard that term before and I immediately thought of my sister.

By Wise Diva

October 13, 2006 12:43 PM | Link to this

For pete’s sake, we have bloggers that keep their hunting knife out, it’s called INSENSITIVE and it’s 14-inches long. Seriously, I don’t know any old people who say “I’m glad I talked so much trash about people! That made my life better!” Pray for the trash-talkers to realize that all the time they spend talking about you, insulting your beliefs, trying to change your mind about yours…. they could be working on making themselves happy.

By Tazzee

October 13, 2006 12:44 PM | Link to this

I missed it - who started preaching on here? I didn’t even see a scripture quoted. I’m a little confused by Kym’s post…

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 13, 2006 12:51 PM | Link to this

@SayWhat?

No I am a person that knows the country was founded on the values of religous freedom for all. But apparently that is becoming religous freedom for only those who believe just like us. You sit there under a phoney name typing a message to me about something you apparently believe so highly in and yet you do it wearing a blog mask as oppose your “regular blog name” hmmmm it would stand to reason that if you think so highly of your faith and beliefs you would do it without the cyber hood. But then again what more could you expect from a coward.

By Raqi

October 13, 2006 12:57 PM | Link to this

What’s really ironic is with all the football talk that goes on here…..!

By Lah Lah

October 13, 2006 01:02 PM | Link to this

Hey ya’ll. I can’t relate to the topic and I’ve just been lurking a little today. Hope everyone has a great weekend.

Kym bless that little heart of yours…. Have you ever tried ignoring the posts that you don’t like? We ignore most of yours….Is it your business or your job to make sure no one mentions anything remotely close to being religous?

I don’t know what GOD did to you or why you’re such an angry person but I hope you work that out.

By Tazzee

October 13, 2006 01:02 PM | Link to this

Thanks for the reminder Raqi I almost forgot:

Happy Falcons Friday everyone

GO FALCONS - CRUSH DEM GIANTS!!!

By Lah Lah

October 13, 2006 01:04 PM | Link to this

Raqi I know. I didn’t even know what Fantasy Football was until Kym mentioned it on the DATING BLOG

By MusingLee

October 13, 2006 01:08 PM | Link to this

Let the fights begin!!!!

Almost spilling my Coke as I shimmy past NCgirl to get to my ringside seat

By Sweet Tea

October 13, 2006 01:12 PM | Link to this

Thanks Tiff i’ll come up with something before the new year comes in

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 13, 2006 01:15 PM | Link to this

@Raqi and LahLah

When the topic of football came up it was mention during a dating topic on men, and watching sports, and women leaving them alone. But it is my understanding from some of the old bloggers that they even had a fantasy league going last year. So no I was not the first to bring it up here.

Tell you what I wont bring it up anymore you can have whole come to Jesus meetings if you like but I dont want a word said if I post anything from other faiths outside of Christianity which doesnt match up with the beliefs that any of you sometimey believers have.

By Foots

October 13, 2006 01:21 PM | Link to this

Tazzee Oh, I got you… I have an unopened bottle of wine from my sister’s closing in 2001! Might be vinegar by now though… LOL!!

By Deep Dimples formerly aka Darkbuty

October 13, 2006 01:26 PM | Link to this

Foots Girl, you know he drinks anything…so next time we have a party, bring the corona!

By Raqi

October 13, 2006 01:26 PM | Link to this

Exactly Tazzee. LOL

That’s your thing. I have yet to post a complaint or even see one posted about the football comments just because I don’t care for it. We all have our thing that we talk about.

Hell, ya know what my kid did the other day? He….LOL I am justing kidding.

By MusingLee

October 13, 2006 01:26 PM | Link to this

This is a classic example of when people drink too much….Somebody always wants to fight…LOLOLOL

Drunk fights are always the best though…Especially Women fighting, cause a boob will always find it’s way out!!!

Now tossing baby oil into the ring and sitting back to see what happens next

By Wise Diva

October 13, 2006 01:27 PM | Link to this

stop trying to regulate the blog Kym and enjoy the forum for what it is. Opposing beliefs happens every day in life, so if you are that fragile in what you believe that someone challenging it causes you to twitch, you would fare better isolating yourself. I actually like debate but it doesn’t have to get personal and become a name calling session, it’s pointless to do that with virtual strangers. We can be a big gumbo of ideas, adds flavor. There are boundaries that are set to keep it from getting out of hand but there are people and features in place to do that. Chill and relax, keep discussing and debating, put away the hunting knife, slicing up anyone that opposes you. That’s all I ask.

By Foots

October 13, 2006 01:33 PM | Link to this

^5 Diva. Ding… Round 2…

By MusingLee

October 13, 2006 01:34 PM | Link to this

runnin We Got Action!!!

Instigators GO!!!

Where the heck is demi when I need him?!?!?!

By Wise Diva

October 13, 2006 01:37 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Musing..you toss in the jokes at just the right time, hahaha..I can’t even keep a straight face long.

@Kym - FYI, I have no plans for a paper nor am I conducting a study. Maybe I should. What kind of study or paper could it be?

so are you using the blog for your skills with debate, sort of like practicing when you are arguing cases as a lawyer?

By Lah Lah

October 13, 2006 01:37 PM | Link to this

Musing/Runnin

Kym, *Wise, 4, nor I will give you all the satisfaction. At least not today.

By frank123

October 13, 2006 01:42 PM | Link to this

You are wise. Stay away from even moderate drinks (everyday) and any smokers.

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 13, 2006 01:43 PM | Link to this

@Diva as I said before it your blog along with Laney and we are merely sheep…so like a good sheep I will say BAH, BAH.

I am not fragile in my beliefs rather strong in my opinions.

By kinderbabe

October 13, 2006 01:46 PM | Link to this

i know that y’all are WAAAAYYYY off topic by now…lol…but i’ll chime in and give my two cents anyway. i did date someone who i considered to be an alcoholic. the funny thing was that we were pretty good friends before we started seeing each other romantically and i didn’t notice how much he drank then. in retrospect, of course, i connected the dots on a lot of his strange behaviors that i couldn’t make out at the time. the relationship was brief b/c he was at a point where he was in total denial about his “problem.” personally, i think that anyone who can drink 8 beers in under two hours may want to attend an AA meeting A.S.A.P.!!! he didn’t see it that way, so we broke up…

By Wise Diva

October 13, 2006 01:48 PM | Link to this

if you feel like a sheep, that’s on you. I write the content, and try to uphold AJC’s guidelines. You may be looking a little too deep into this whole blog concept, but hey. It’s whatever. Right?

By Blue_Kolla

October 13, 2006 01:48 PM | Link to this

How about not wanting to hear the truth being too-sensitive?

Lunchtime Observations:

By MusingLee

October 13, 2006 01:49 PM | Link to this

Leaning back in brown leather chair, wearing white socks, polka dot boxers, and a buccaneer hat….Holding a can of whipped cream and a bagel

LahLah Please give me the satisfaction! (said in my Billy D. Williams voice)

“Now take this whipped cream and bagel and come up with something sexy!”

By SeanJohnson

October 13, 2006 01:49 PM | Link to this

Sup Blog…too much to catch up on…arriving 6 hrs late to work with a hint of heinken and peppermint on my breath…avoid direct contact with coworkers asking where have I been

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 13, 2006 01:51 PM | Link to this

@Wise Diva,

I am naturally combative always have been and believe that a good offense is a good defense. But I am going to law school to study public interest law.

You could do a study on Human Development. Ask your blog husband he is writing the book.

By Wise Diva

October 13, 2006 01:51 PM | Link to this

oh please Blue, what truth, whose truth? Your truth? There is my truth, your truth, and the actual truth…but let me stop before it gets too deep and morbid. LOL

putting on my dumb girl hat

By Raqi

October 13, 2006 01:53 PM | Link to this

Kym (to your 1:15 comment) I am just pointing out that I don’t care that you all talk about something I don’t like. We are all here on free will. We don’t get paid to do this. You all believe that football is the greatest thing since the invention of the wheel, but in MY opinion, who cares. That’s all I am saying. Difference of opinions and different beliefs.

(Now I will find something else to talk about.)

By Foots

October 13, 2006 01:55 PM | Link to this

Musing Whipped cream creativity, yes. Bagel…NO. The hole in the middle is way too small (hopefully).

By Bre'

October 13, 2006 01:55 PM | Link to this

@SJ no worries about co workers….blog inquiry where you been?…….

By Deep Dimples formerly aka Darkbuty

October 13, 2006 01:58 PM | Link to this

Let’s talk about SeanJ rolling up to work 6hrs late with beer on his breath….what’s the definition of a functioning alcoholic?

Just kidding!!

By Lah Lah

October 13, 2006 01:59 PM | Link to this

Hey Blue you were probably right behind them in line waiting to put the lightbill money on the Million Dollar jackpot. LMAO. just kidding with you

By Foots

October 13, 2006 02:00 PM | Link to this

I am naturally combative always have been and believe that a good offense is a good defense.

Kym This is very off-topic, but I’m just curious… This is a good trait to have as a lawyer, but how does this fare for your personal relationships? Can you turn it on and off depending on the situation?

By "Longtime Lurker"

October 13, 2006 02:02 PM | Link to this

Man, back from meetings and lunch..

Got one more drunk story to tell y’all, I used to date this girl and one night she called me around 2:30am, talkin bout she want me to come over real bad.

I was hanging with the bruh’s in my frat, wasted and talkin ish. Couldn’t tie my shoe if you asked me to.

Anywho, she kept saying I wanna see you real bad and I was drunk as a wine-o, so my boy drove me from Buckhead to Clayton Co. to see this broad, of course your boy was sleep the whole time!

I get over to her house and my boy get’s me out the car and sits me on the step of her apt. never ringing the doorbell or knocking on the door, so I am slumped over against the wall from 3:30am til 7:25am, until one of her neighbors finds me and wakes me up.

I wake up and I got like 20 missed calls from ole girl. I knock on her door and she is thinking I just got there.

I try to explain that I had been there since 3 somethin and she just threw water on me and closed the door.

On top of all that, I had to find a way back to East Point, where I was staying at the time. Things were never the same after that!

By Becca

October 13, 2006 02:06 PM | Link to this

I once was involved with a man that had a serious cocaine addiction. The relationship failed. I cared a great deal for this man, but I knew that he was too involved in his addiction and had to let him go. I did try several times to get him help. but you can’t help someone who isn’t willing to help themselves. I will NEVER EVER get involved with anyone with an addiction ever again. It was a waste of time.

By Lah Lah

October 13, 2006 02:07 PM | Link to this

foots you a trip girl with the bagel post to musing

By MusingLee

October 13, 2006 02:07 PM | Link to this

Foots Ewww, get your head out of the gutter…LOL..hahahahha

That bagel and whipped cream could be turned into a wonderful snack….Or two bagels and whipped cream could be placed stratigecally over a Womans’ body!!!

Now handing Foots a bag of cheetos, some riding boots, and a cheap cell phone

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 02:07 PM | Link to this

Well dang. I go off to lunch and y’all got WWF going on in here.

Different strokes for different folks. If you don’t like a post or a topic or whatever, use your freedom of choice and just ignore until a topic of your liking comes up. That simple. Unless somebody personally talking to you.

By Foots

October 13, 2006 02:11 PM | Link to this

LL Now that’s funny!

By Lah Lah

October 13, 2006 02:12 PM | Link to this

LL you gotta stop! You are going to get me in trouble. LMAO.

By SeanJohnson

October 13, 2006 02:17 PM | Link to this

@ Bre…how is the weather??? heard yall are snowed in…literally…

@ DeepDimples …when did u go to ga tech?

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 02:20 PM | Link to this

LL Boy, you stupid! SHE POURED WATER ON YOU AND CLOSED THE DOOR!!! LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I remember when I was about 20/21, I used to date this FINE dude from Bermuda that, OF COURSE, had a weed smoking problem. Said he used it for medicinal purposes. Yeah right. I tell you, because of that, he kept me having to use freakin Monistat!!!! (I know, TMI) So I had to let him go because he was bad for my health……..

By Say What?

October 13, 2006 02:20 PM | Link to this

Let it be known that the lurker that usually blogs under Say What? did not type that msg to or about Kym. This lurker is p**. Can’t you come up with your own distinct moniker? However, I did find Kym’s comment to be inappropriate and irrational.

By Bre'

October 13, 2006 02:22 PM | Link to this

LL now that’s some funny ish.

By Bre'

October 13, 2006 02:23 PM | Link to this

SJ No snow for the Manhattan area, further up north in Buffalo is where it all came down. Sunny and a little chilly here.

By Foots

October 13, 2006 02:25 PM | Link to this

Musing and Lah I tried that with pineapple slices once. I was SO glad that the hole was too small. LOL!!

What are my accessories for? Is this MacGuyver?

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 13, 2006 02:32 PM | Link to this

Foots

Can you turn it on and off depending on the situation?

Sure I can, it depends on the person the situation and other factors. None of us are the same with everyone we meet. I debate, I defend my position and I rarely back down, doesnt mean that I am incapable of back down when necessary.

By Lah Lah

October 13, 2006 02:37 PM | Link to this

4 call me slow but um am I missing something? What did him smokin weed have to do with you having to use Monistat. Help a sista out.

By Sidelines

October 13, 2006 02:37 PM | Link to this

Afternoon Everyone, I know the topis has changed by now…

Musing, I see you’ve gotten started…This is a classic example of when people drink too much…. Somebody always wants to fight…LOLOLOL…you so silly, but your right!

ON TOPIC: I’ve lost two uncles to alcoholism as well. And, I believe as a result of that, my family has come to the conclusion that drinking too much will kill you, eventually. Me personally, I am a social drinker…if I go out amongst friends, I’ll have a drink or two (usually cognac) early in the evening to give my body enough time to absorb the alcohol and then switch over to cranberry/lemon or water afterwards, so that I can drive home. Ok, so that may take the fun out of just relaxing and enjoying yourself (and I do), but losing my job is not an option and it would be dang embarrassing if I had to come before folks I work with on a DUI, so that’s out! Now, if I’m at home and hosting/entertaining I might have a third martini or so, but even then I have to be cognizant of those leaving my home and getting home safe themselves….

I was once in a relationship with someone who i thought drank a bit too much as well, he had to have a beer when he came in from work. Now, honestly, I don’t know that that is considered a drinking problem, but after two beers or so, his attitude would change, but it’s like I think someone said earlier, it enhanced his personality, if he had an attitude, he became ugly and if he was in a happy mood, he became a happy drunk, i guess you could say. But, mixed with smoking and his neediness, it became too much for me and I eventually left. Said to myself…whew, lesson learned, never again!

By Raqi

October 13, 2006 02:39 PM | Link to this

Gosh Darn Useless Information:

By Blue_Kolla

October 13, 2006 02:39 PM | Link to this

aye yoll turn on Ryan Cameron!!

By Chink

October 13, 2006 02:43 PM | Link to this

4the

Does weed cause yeast infections?

By Raqi

October 13, 2006 02:45 PM | Link to this

That should read “body ART” markers?

By SeanJohnson

October 13, 2006 02:46 PM | Link to this

@ LahLah and 4th….i am not slow ..but i wanted to ask too…so i just used my imagination ….i guess he was blowing smoke up your azz…literally

By QC

October 13, 2006 02:46 PM | Link to this

BK i sent you another game

By Chink

October 13, 2006 02:46 PM | Link to this

BK

What happened ..no radio…

By aggressively witty

October 13, 2006 02:46 PM | Link to this

Maybe he was shotgunning the poon

By Tazzee

October 13, 2006 02:51 PM | Link to this

Foots I have to ‘one-up’ you, I still have a bottle of ‘wine’ from my first home closing - July 1999. I think its called Cristalino or something like that. LOL.

By Lah Lah

October 13, 2006 02:53 PM | Link to this

OK Raqi i was just about to ask that. About the body art.

By Cinderella

October 13, 2006 02:53 PM | Link to this

@Raqi-nobody ever “loses” weight…somebody always finds it.

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 02:55 PM | Link to this

YALL ARE STUPID AND STRAIGHT CLOWNING ME!!!!! hahahahahaha!!! OK, now that y’all got a good laugh at my expense, seriously, at that time, he and I were having unprotected sex often. And I guess the weed was in his bloodstream and therefore…..in his body fluids. And his body fluids and my body didn’t agree when they connected. So it kept giving me yeast infections. Never had them before him and never had them after him. So I just associated it with his weed smoking.

No blowing smoke nowhere brother!!!!

By Royal Chic

October 13, 2006 02:55 PM | Link to this

LOL@ agg…..

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 02:56 PM | Link to this

Raqi GIRL! Ain’t you supposed to be packing! LOL!

By Foots

October 13, 2006 02:56 PM | Link to this

Blue I don’t have a radio at work and they blocked us from streaming. What’s going on??

By melo

October 13, 2006 02:57 PM | Link to this

This topic is so close to me bacause my friend, now ‘friend” is an alcoholic. I have asked him to stop or seek help. He won’t. One time when i was on my job,he came over and ordered from the bar but did not pay.After he had told everybody around that he was my friend, they had to summon me to pay the bill, which i did. But it embarrased me so much. My boss told me to lose him. I thought then. that my boss was crazy. The last straw was when i had my daughter’s 8 th birthday at my house. I invited my friend because my daughter dots on ‘uncle”, my friend. He ended up peeing in my bathroom, on the floor and my wife had to clean the mess. A lot of my other friends as well as other parents were there too. We had to evacuate him from my house. Later that week, i told him i wont be anywhere near him untill he gets treatment. We have’nt spoken since.

By MusingLee

October 13, 2006 02:57 PM | Link to this

4th Did dude have the “cooch” funky like “Hot Fire”?!?!? (Said in my jamaican voice)

Singing

Like Hot Fire, you know me don wan da kat till it be like Hot Fire….It’s like dat if kair about de HOT FIREEEEEEE…Buk, buk, buk, buk

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 03:05 PM | Link to this

Musing Boy shut up. And he’d take offense to you referencing Jamaican..He’s BERMUDAN! What’s funny is that was like 1995/1996! He since moved back to Bermuda but STILL from time to time, when he’s in the ATL, he will call me up! Ha! Yep, I’ve only had one cell phone # since the late 90s. So guess it was FIYA!!!! But HE was toooo hot for me! Shoot. In fact…never mind…another topic for another day….how do you respond when you ‘catch’ something from your man AND find the medicine for it in his bathroom drawer…. LORD HAVE MERCY!

By Blue_Kolla

October 13, 2006 03:06 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ LL It woulda been cool if ol’ girl had opened the door and seen you sleep…

LahLah Naah slim I had just left from GP paying a bill. But I was wondering if they were gonna let me get to the counter to put in my bid though. LOL

By Foots

October 13, 2006 03:09 PM | Link to this

Tazzee No, girl! Why do I still have a bottle of GoldSchlager from my junior year of college??? (1998) Gold? It’s probably BronzeSchlager by now!! I need to clean out my pantry. LOL!!!

By MusingLee Marley

October 13, 2006 03:10 PM | Link to this

I shot de nanni, but I did not make it funky, Ahhh No No….It was I who shot de nanniiiiiiiii

Now swaying side to side with a red knit cap 3 feet tall, and carrying a to go order of plantains in a styrofoam container

“Ha, Haaaaaaaa, Rahhhhh, Rahhhhhh, Rahhhhhh, Rahhhhhhh”

Waving hand in the air in a circular motion like a helicopter

By melo

October 13, 2006 03:10 PM | Link to this

Lets have the Lord’s prayer for Kym, e’body.

In Jesus’ name Amen.

By Hot Sauce

October 13, 2006 03:11 PM | Link to this

Yeah SJ where you been Boo?

sitting back sipping on a coke and waiting for an answer hmmmm, six hours late for work and he was’nt with me - go figure

Musing, we’re coming to pick you up

By NCgirlfromATL

October 13, 2006 03:13 PM | Link to this

Bringing the cherry slurpies for me and Musings Aye man, pass the popcorn.

Foots This is very off-topic, but I’m just curious… This is a good trait to have as a lawyer, but how does this fare for your personal relationships? Stop making all us lawyers out to be HOT HEADED, OBSTREPOROUS, OBNOXIOUS, ARGUMENTATIVE TWITS! lololol!!

By i'm swiss

October 13, 2006 03:16 PM | Link to this

I’m not a doctor or anything… but I don’t think it was the weed. Unless, somehow, it gave your kitty the munchies & it decided to bake a loaf…

By Chink

October 13, 2006 03:16 PM | Link to this

RFLAMO @ Musing YOU A FOOL

By Hot Sauce

October 13, 2006 03:19 PM | Link to this

Weed+2 Different Body Fluids= Yeast Infec

Now calling DrKnowItAll in his lab to get correct information, and be sure to clear all “weed” out of the evidence room

By Thick

October 13, 2006 03:20 PM | Link to this

Trying to earn this money, I missed alot. Oh well, guess I better start scrolling up.

@Raqi, Did you know? Nah girl, I did not know, you are too funny!

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 03:24 PM | Link to this

i’m swiss Now THAT was funny. Stupid. Heck! It was something! Shoot! The weed was only thing I can explain because it never happened with anyone else I’ve been with in my life. And he was the ONLY person I’ve ever been with that took any kind of illegal substance. So that’s my story and I’m sticking to it! That dude smoked weed like it was AIR!

By Foots

October 13, 2006 03:24 PM | Link to this

NCgirl Girl, that was a good one…obstreperous. I had to look that one up!! LOL!!

By Chink

October 13, 2006 03:25 PM | Link to this

4th

Sounds like it was not a yeast infection but something else…

By Tazzee

October 13, 2006 03:26 PM | Link to this

OK Foots you got me with that one, LOL.

NCgirl OK, you know you had me looking up that word - its spelled ostreperous, but thanks for giving me a new word to use. Now I just gotta get the pronunciation right. I can’t wait to yell ‘QUIT BEING OBSTREPEROUS’ to the crazy guy in my section at the game Sunday, LOL.

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 03:26 PM | Link to this

Shoot. Maybe his thang thang was dirty or Bermudans had some kind of pre-sex ritual for their thang thang that I didn’t know about or something. All I know is, when we had sex, I got yeast infections! Maybe they dip it in plantain juice prior to ‘mating’. Hee hee!

By Professor MusingLee

October 13, 2006 03:26 PM | Link to this

Now combining mixture of weed and female secretions….

Hmmmm, Interesting! Nothing happened except for “nanni” smelling weed when you burn it!

My final analysis says that dude merely had a funky wang…Funky wang can be cured by utilized a 50/50 solution of soap and water…If left untreated Funky Wang can spread and cause Funky Punanni!

By abc

October 13, 2006 03:28 PM | Link to this

4th, it didn’t have anything to do with weed. It had to do with other hygiene issues, and ahem something to do with an irritation or other tissue damage ahem.

By Tazzee

October 13, 2006 03:28 PM | Link to this

LOL@i’m swiss

By Lah Lah

October 13, 2006 03:31 PM | Link to this

Hotsauce he might not have been with you but 6 hours late for work sounds like he was making somebody happy. Guess that sauce not as hot as you thought it was. LMAO.

I need somebody to have me 6 hours late for work.

By Chink

October 13, 2006 03:35 PM | Link to this

This is Hilarious ….Musing you CRAZY

By Lah Lah

October 13, 2006 03:35 PM | Link to this

4 this is just the mama in me so please excuse me for this one but….. yo azz shoulda been wearing a condom anyway!!!

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 03:36 PM | Link to this

It definitely was a Y.I. Hey that was long time ago. So I really don’t care but thanks for all the BlogMDs for letting me know it was a good thing to go in the other direction from dude before MY thang fell off!! LOL!

By Chink

October 13, 2006 03:37 PM | Link to this

Shoot. In fact…never mind…another topic for another day….how do you respond when you ‘catch’ something from your man AND find the medicine for it in his bathroom drawer…. LORD HAVE MERCY!…..

4th was that a topic or a personal story..maybe I am reading you wrong

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 03:38 PM | Link to this

abc Boy you crazy. Wasn’t no irritation or tissue damage. He wasn’t packing like that and I had no problem with being lubed….! OK Wise. They started. Don’t want no warning shots fired at me…

By Raqi

October 13, 2006 03:39 PM | Link to this

Gosh Darn EVEN MORE Useless Information

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 03:41 PM | Link to this

AND I MIGHT ADD the final straw was when he DID pass something else along to me! Hence my reference earlier to finding some meds in his bathroom drawer. NO, NOTHING with a three or four letter acronym. Something that, thank goodness, I was able to get rid of.

OK, here’s some real convo here…..has ANYONE on this blog ever been given an ‘unwanted gift’ from a prior flame? And if so, HOW do you deal with it? Oh gosh….I can’t wait to hear from the unfortunate honest ones.

By i'm swiss

October 13, 2006 03:41 PM | Link to this

*@ 4the — * Believe it or not, my original though was even more vulgar, but I didn’t think it would make it past the blog police.

But seriously, I’m thinking it was just something w/ the dude & the weed thing was just coincidence. I’ve had — ahem — a little experience w/ weed & have never encountered that phenomenon.

Of course, maybe I’m just not smoking enough.

By Bre'

October 13, 2006 03:42 PM | Link to this

LahLah I second that, or at least make me a hour or two late….goshhhh it seems so far in the past. Calling in sick or late due to being stuck.

By SeanJohnson

October 13, 2006 03:42 PM | Link to this

@ HotSauce….had a late nite..dont shoot me…..and that is not a weapon in my pants..dont shoot..i am just getting my idenification..lol

@LahLah…um…thought all u needed was 45 minutes with multiples included..

By NCgirlfromATL

October 13, 2006 03:42 PM | Link to this

Tazzee good lookin’ out on the spell check!

Musing Now I’m gonna be wondering if every guy I see this weekend has Funky Wang!!! Professor, is there a way to tell w/o getting nekkid?

By Wise Diva

October 13, 2006 03:43 PM | Link to this

OMG, I can’t take it, ya’ll are too much. That is by far THE most random thing I have read all week, 4th, LOL ,LOL!!

whew, man!

LL, you have me speechless with your Ques Gone Wild stories!!

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 03:45 PM | Link to this

Lah Lah Yes honey, I know. Yet another thing that got filed in my “young/dumb/stupid/risky behavior file drawer of a past life. Thank God….oops, thank GOODNESS for grace and mercy….oops, I mean for ‘good luck’. hee hee.

Raqi YOU are crazy! Got me cracking up laughing…(while I got yall cracking up at my stupidity!) Totally agree with the raindrops. LOVE IT. And why are you clowning your sons!!! LOL!

By Hot Sauce

October 13, 2006 03:49 PM | Link to this

LahLah Girl i guess i won’t be dipping my sauce with SJ, you right if somebody can make me 6 hours late for work, oh please trust i “will not be showing up that day”

Professor Musing you are sick! and we need you to fill in tonight cause our Doctor called in and won’t be able to make it

By Raqi

October 13, 2006 03:51 PM | Link to this

Longhaul were there not any signs or red flags to signal that that guy wasn’t exactly April Fresh Clean?

By i'm swiss

October 13, 2006 03:53 PM | Link to this

Now I’m gonna be wondering if every guy I see this weekend has Funky Wang!!! Professor, is there a way to tell w/o getting nekkid?

Well, without getting naked, that’s a tough call — unless there’s obviously too much scratching going on.

But you could use what we dudes have used for years to guage the funk factor — the trusty belly-button test. Start slowly, work your way down to the belly button, take in a couple deep breaths & if you choke on the fumes, ABORT!

By Teddy

October 13, 2006 03:53 PM | Link to this

Did I read you still had some Goose Tazzee?…lol…

Whats up Tazzee, Wise, and the rest of my folks!

By Professor MusingLee

October 13, 2006 03:56 PM | Link to this

NCgirl glad you asked…There is one way to tell a Funky Wang before getting naked…A Male with Funky Wang will often scratch his balzz…Funky Wang is most prevalent in Men who wear too tight pants. Funky Wang can also be identified if the Male has visibly sweaty armpits…Funky Wang can sometimes be misidentified and confused with Spongy Ballz…But the two are not the same, yet having one can lead to the other!

By Hot Sauce

October 13, 2006 03:56 PM | Link to this

Aight SJ cause after 6 hours with me you won’t be no where but to sleep! It’s all good though

By Lah Lah

October 13, 2006 03:56 PM | Link to this

sean you have a great memory. 45min w/multiples is wonderful but 6 hours late for work is even better.

Bre you crazy girl (being stuck)

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 03:58 PM | Link to this

Raqi Not at all. And that’s why I just came to the resolve that it was the weed. This guy was very clean cut. Always smelled good. BATHED, all of that! So he wasn’t a dirty guy by no means. I guess it was just bad body chemistry. Maybe God’s way…oops, maybe it was just ‘a higher power’s way of telling me I had no business sleeping with him in the first place. Who knows. One of those things that’ll always have me scratching my head…..saying WTH?

By Raqi

October 13, 2006 03:58 PM | Link to this

Alright people I am about to be out. Got to prepare dinner for 8 tonight and then pack. Got to be up at 3:30am and ready to leave at 4:30am to head to the mountains. We are renting a Surburban so I will be taking the very back seat, putting on the Ipod and enjoying the scenery during the loooong 2 hour ride.

I will hopefully read yall on Tuesday. Be safe, be strong and keep the faith. LOL

By Thick

October 13, 2006 03:59 PM | Link to this

Nah 4th no unwanted gifts here, thank goodness. I don’t know, maybe that weed gave him a bad chemical imbalance.

LOL @LahLah use a condom, haha, some of us do slip up sometime.

hehehehehe Raqi, just keep it coming Raqi I feel more knowledgable already!

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 04:00 PM | Link to this

i’m swiss OMG!!! The belly button test! hahahaha! But if her stuff tart, you won’t need to even do all that because once the air hits it, it will start singing I would think!!!

By Lah Lah

October 13, 2006 04:00 PM | Link to this

hotsauce you can still get your double hotsauce dipping on with SJ I’m not giving up on the two of you just like I’m not giving up on Blue and QC. I just think you need to change your approach. You need to just strait up ask him for what you want.

By Lah Lah

October 13, 2006 04:03 PM | Link to this

thick Oh I’m not being holier than thou. I’m quite familiar with the slip up.

By NCgirlfromATL

October 13, 2006 04:03 PM | Link to this

4th Nope, never had any unwanted leftovers from a guy. But, a guy I went to college with and was a drummajor w/ in the band (yes, I was a band geek…and also the 1st Black female drummajor for my very large, predominantly White school) had been dating this girl who gave him chlamydia not once, but twice. He was still…ummmm….snacking down there on a regular. Somehow, it got around the band of 350 members, and at one of the games he’d done something dumb, and a collective thought came over the band…at the same time, in a stadium of 50,000 people we all said “Chlaaaaaah” to him (with me directing the cut-off, of course.) Needless to say, he was mortified that the entire band (directors and all) knew about the “chla” part deux.

By i'm swiss

October 13, 2006 04:04 PM | Link to this

One of those things that’ll always have me scratching my head…

Among other places, apparently…

;^)

By Bre'

October 13, 2006 04:07 PM | Link to this

LahLah I’m dead serious. If only you knew the conversation….shaking head its some whack stuff out these days. Or like the comedian said I have to figure out what I’m doing to get with these slack dudes. They come in different sizes, looks, shapes, job backgrounds, countries, everything…but whack is whack.

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 04:09 PM | Link to this

i’m swiss You’re good. I left myself open for that one. I was thinking the same thing after I hit “submit”. dang, why did I say that! I know somebody gonna say, “yeah, you were probably scratching something else too!”

See, I’m a good sport. I can take it. I can laugh at that crazy crap now.

NC ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!! No y’all DIDN’T clown that boy like that!!!! I would’ve had to transfer to another school after that!

By Blue_Kolla

October 13, 2006 04:09 PM | Link to this

Foots/Chink Ryan was talking about Monica Kaufman getting married and not changing up the name Kaufman, which happens to belong to her ex-husband, that she married in 67. (dayum, I aint know she was that old)

By Chink

October 13, 2006 04:12 PM | Link to this

LOL at Swiss

When is the time right to remove the condom…or slip up alot?

By Wise Diva

October 13, 2006 04:12 PM | Link to this

you just couldn’t resist that one, right i’m swiss? LOL! maaaaan, I swear I have a laugh headache coming on!!

By i'm swiss

October 13, 2006 04:13 PM | Link to this

4thelonghaul - Sorry, I couldn’t resist. You should be flattered, though. Such is the power of your kitty — it has completely taken over the blog. lol

By Thick

October 13, 2006 04:15 PM | Link to this

LahLah the slip is so real but that is a position that I would not readily put myself in today, LOL, might catch somethin I can’t get rid of.

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 04:16 PM | Link to this

BK 67!!!!! Yeah, I’m an avid Channel 2 News watcher and she came on at 6pm yesterday and said, “This is Monica Pearson”. I just thought she slipped up and called herself something else. Then about 15 minutes later, Glenn Burns came on to do the weather and said, “I’m sure some of you thought you were hearing wrong when Moni said Monica Pearson, but in actuality, that is now her name. Then she explained that she got married about a year and a half ago and decided to go ahead and change her name now, blah, blah, blah. I’m really shocked that she didnt’ keep it as her professional name (Kaufman) since she’s had it over 20+ years. So good for her! I made that mistake when I got divorced. Decided to keep my married name since so many people in my ‘music arena’ knew me by my married name. Then after 3-1/2 years, it no longer was important and most people I now am around knew me by maiden name. Cost me $160 to get it changed when I could’ve done it for free at the time of my divorce!!! But I certainly don’t regret spending the money to officially go back to my maiden name becaus I want NO TRACES of ex!

By SeanJohnson

October 13, 2006 04:21 PM | Link to this

@ HotSauce…i cant even argue that i wouldnt be…but i doubt u would up doing any daily activities either..

@ LahLah…the memory is good…like i said before i remember the small things..i can be very attentive…to the right person

By Lah Lah

October 13, 2006 04:24 PM | Link to this

thick yea I caught two things I can’t get rid of… they are 9 and 4 now.

By abc

October 13, 2006 04:25 PM | Link to this

Yo mama so nasty she bring that fish smell TO the beach. She got more crabs than Red Lobster.

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 04:28 PM | Link to this

i’m swiss Man! Where did you come from!!! You are HILARIOUS!!!!!!

You should be flattered, though. Such is the power of your kitty — it has completely taken over the blog. lol

HAAAAAAAAAAAa!!!!!!!!!

By i'm swiss

October 13, 2006 04:34 PM | Link to this

i’m swiss Man! Where did you come from!!!

I magically appear anytime poon & pot are discussed in the same blog.

;^)

By Lah Lah

October 13, 2006 04:37 PM | Link to this

poon and pot Hilarious!!!

By Thick

October 13, 2006 04:39 PM | Link to this

Haha, stop LahLah, I love the babies, but like *i’m swiss said some of these dudes need checking. *File belly button sniff check in mental rolodex for all possible future bump&grinds.

By Lah Lah

October 13, 2006 04:40 PM | Link to this

I bet you can be attentive to the right personSean now I’ll ask this question for my girl hotsauce have you found that right person? Are you looking?

By Wise Diva

October 13, 2006 04:40 PM | Link to this

now this is really sad, talk about being BUSTED.

By i'm swiss

October 13, 2006 04:41 PM | Link to this

So, you can always make me appear by discussing any of the following topics simultaneously:

blunts & c__ts

bongs & thongs

Or, in this case: pot & crotch rot

By Lah Lah

October 13, 2006 04:41 PM | Link to this

BTW hotsauce I don’t know if I mentioned before but mama is a part of the DCP, if I find out you’re my mama bloggin as Hotsauce you gonna have some serious splaining to do!

By MusingLee

October 13, 2006 04:41 PM | Link to this

PooF

Out of a puff a weed smoke im swiss appears!!!

hehehehehehe

By i'm swiss

October 13, 2006 04:43 PM | Link to this

And on that note, I’m out. Have a good weekend, everybody.

By NCgirlfromATL

October 13, 2006 04:44 PM | Link to this

Lah Lah NC ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!! No y’all DIDN’T clown that boy like that!!!! I would’ve had to transfer to another school after that!

Once you’ve been called out in front of 50,000 people, does it really matter? lololol!! My friends and I still talk about that day! And how did the second time happen, you might ask? After a night of drunken debauchery! If he’d been sober, he probably would have suited up his previously contaminated wang, and avoided a second bout.

Prof. Musing/i’m swiss Well…learn something new everyday! I will look out for the tell-tale itchy bozacs, and keep my nose open for other mursty-ness. Good looking out!

By Foots

October 13, 2006 04:45 PM | Link to this

Y’all were just ri-dayum-diculous today!!

Have a good weekend everybody. No drinking and driving, okay?

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 13, 2006 04:46 PM | Link to this

Oh Divine Creator, of technology thanks for the minds of the geeks who created the idea of blogs to allow sheep like me to blog all day at work and avoid boredom

Divine Creator of Football in the name of Terry Bradshaw, please go ahead of my Steelers this weekend give them the strength to knock the hell out of the Chiefs this weekend but not to much as I am starting Huard in Fantasy and need the points.

Divine Creator of Traffic TieUps please remove any traffic ties going 85 south as I want to get home in one piece.

By Hot Sauce

October 13, 2006 04:46 PM | Link to this

SJ

action speaks louder than words and i don’t talk much, so we’ll have to figure out something

GOOD NIGHT EVERYONE, have a safe weekend

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 04:51 PM | Link to this

And no buzz & fuzz!!! LOLOL!!!!!!!!!!!

that was for you SWISS

By abc

October 13, 2006 04:52 PM | Link to this

It’s Friday the 13th today, y’know. Watch out for black cats and don’t walk under any ladders.

By Hot Sauce

October 13, 2006 04:53 PM | Link to this

LahLah

I might just know your Mom better than you think ;) night night “SweetPea”

p.s. I do remember you saying that

By Wise Diva

October 13, 2006 04:53 PM | Link to this

I guess you are praying to Priest Doogie Howser MD, he was doing the online journal on that TV show, which evolved into weblogs.

or shall I say, some credit that as the spark, anyway.

By MusingLee

October 13, 2006 04:55 PM | Link to this

Goodnite and happy weekend er’body!

Jumping into blog Trans-Am, MusingLee drives into the sunset…stopping only to look at two bums fight over a blanket

By Hot Sauce

October 13, 2006 04:57 PM | Link to this

LahLah, no i’m not your Mom

By Wise Diva

October 13, 2006 04:57 PM | Link to this

Thanks for the great week everyone! If you see a chick wearing a diva shirt at Atlantic Station’s TOS come say hello. LOL

Have a wonderful weekend blog friends

(Diva OUT)

By 4theLongHaul

October 13, 2006 04:58 PM | Link to this

Have great and safe weekends everyone!!!!!