By Deep Dimples formerly aka Darkbuty

October 23, 2006 08:13 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone!!

How about dem Falcons!!

Do you think Kym is going to show up today?

By Not a football fan (not Demi)

October 23, 2006 08:17 AM | Link to this

I can’t tell you what a half-back is or what he does…But I do know that the Steelers have lost…To the Falcon…Of all teams!!!

Morning All

By kinderbabe

October 23, 2006 08:24 AM | Link to this

that’s a tough one…i agree w/you wisediva that it’s necessary to go out and about as much as possible in the beginning to avoid being trapped in the semi-shackin up mode. when u start off w/the blockbuster scenario usually the dinner,coffee and movie dates slim down to zero. if a person disappears after not being able to get you to the crib then they weren’t trying to have a relationship anyway. alone and private time will come about naturally.

By Deep Dimples formerly aka Darkbuty

October 23, 2006 08:27 AM | Link to this

I think timing is everything in the beginning…My BF doesn’t agree and he thinks it’s a game that females play. I’ve tried explaining to him that we need to determine your intentions with us before things move to fast. But he doesn’t see anything wrong with sleepting with someone on the first date and don’t see that as an impact to a relationship developing.

Now, you do have to be strategic when you introduce the home dates. It took me 3 mos to visit his house and he didn’t come to my house until about a month of dating. We met out at restaurants, etc…he probably wouldn’t have made it to my house in a month, but he insisted on following me home to make sure that I made it safely. I knew what he had in mind, but it wasn’t happening. He tried and tried…and pleaded and pleaded to stay that night to no avail. It is true that once you introduce the home dates there is a steep decline in going out. My BF and I just had this discussion and he said he had to make his investment early and now sit back and watch it pay off…

He didn’t trip about not staying the night…and he definitely respected my need to feel assured, secured, and comfortable in the relationship.

I can’t get enough of spending time with my BF now…but there was a guy I dated that I had to tell that I think we spent too much time together. His feelings were hurt…but I felt relieved.

By Suga&Spice

October 23, 2006 08:37 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks,

House dating isnt something I do a lot of anymore. I am very territorial and am very aggitated when someone is in my space for too long. That being the case it is typically a while before I invite a guy to my home. And by a while I mean several months. I dont however have a problem with house dating/spending time at his place once we have reached a comfort level. And on occassion I have probably overstayed my welcome. But hey I have thick skin just tell me…’Babe, go home.’

By Falcon Fan 4 Life

October 23, 2006 08:43 AM | Link to this

Morning -I’m a true Falcon Fan

I just wanted to stop by this morning and let Kym know they’re serving some hot humble pie in lurkesville today at noon topped with vanilla ice cream & chocolate syrup, we’ll have a special seat waiting for her. I’ve never seen someone talk about the Falcons all the time, they don’t live in Atlanta and claims she does’nt like them? Oh well enjoy your fresh pie & ice cream Kym

By G

October 23, 2006 08:46 AM | Link to this

For all of those Steeler fans who wasted money on a ticket……..”Ya’ll come back, ya here? The Vick-Experience will be waiting.”LOL!!!

On topic: Typically, I hold the Blockbuster thing after the third date. I don’t believe in bringing just anybody in the crib too soon. Besides, I wouldn’t do a Blockbuster after a date. Blockbuster would be the “get-together”. That way, you don’t have to go through pains to prepare yourself to go out. Just come as you are, and let me set everything up.

By Wise Diva

October 23, 2006 08:49 AM | Link to this

Good morning!

Now you know Kym isn’t afraid to check in over here, she can handle hers! Come on and get the verbal smackdown Kym, your Steelers got STOLE on! LOL! I think I almost fainted a couple of times. It was a great game to watch. There were a couple of great games that were good to watch this weekend. I can’t wait to catch the Texas showdown tonight!

By Falcon Fan 4 Life

October 23, 2006 08:55 AM | Link to this

Yes tonight’s game should be a good one as well, and yes Kym can hold her own i just want her to come have a nice little dessert with us. My coworker enjoys reading her comments and said she would make a great Public Defender

By C tha 1

October 23, 2006 09:05 AM | Link to this

Do men have trouble respecting the women they sleep with or is it that they have trouble sleeping with women they respect?

I don’t have a problem respecting a woman I have slept with. If I didn’t respect a woman on some level I wouldn’t do it at all. By that I do have to go into a situation knowing a woman is clean. But that is simple common sense nowadays. I think women harp on the issue of going to a dudes house knowing they’re walking into a lion’s den. And this is very true, however it does not necessarily mean the lion is going to disrespect you and let something happen that you obviously don’t want to happen. At the end of the day women are a product of their experiences, and sometimes they are so hard line on the respect issue that they can’t see the forest from the trees.

By Rell

October 23, 2006 09:11 AM | Link to this

Not to get remedial up in here…but…a man’s intentions if he is “dating” you…is…drumroll please……is to get him some “panties”….now that we have that great unsolved mystery out of the way, lets get to the topic. Yes timing is everything…i applaud you diva for the decline..no reason to boo-hugg with a dude you just on date 2 with….if you guys are in the slow lane. Now for the folks in the hot sex on a platter stage….date 2 and 3 should be for testing the sexual waters. But ladies from here on out…lets not have a whole month of worrying about his intentions. If he is into you like that or chasing you….then his intentions are to bed you…

By Wise Diva

October 23, 2006 09:13 AM | Link to this

great points C tha 1, could you elaborate on the last sentence? At the end of the day women are a product of their experiences, and sometimes they are so hard line on the respect issue that they can’t see the forest from the trees

By Thick

October 23, 2006 09:18 AM | Link to this

The newbies in my life are kept at a distance. All the home activities don’t come into play until later when we are sure that we want to develope a relationship. Homedates set such a casual and comfortable environment, especially if him and I just started dating. I think I need a little more structure. I’ve dated a guy that wanted us to hurry and move in together. Now that stunk to me, and really turned me off from him.

Those Falcons not the Fakecons kick some butttttttt on yesterday. GOOOOOOOOO Falcons! Where are all of those Steeler fans today, come on out, I know you READING, don’t be scared.
Hey Kym, waving at’cha, goin, have you a moment of silence for the Steelers. sniff, sniff

By itsmorenamorena

October 23, 2006 09:19 AM | Link to this

Buen dia everybody ((waving))…

I really just popped in to see how the Steelers fan are reacting to that game. Got my popcorn early this morning.

On topic — be more creative, please? If “blockbuster” nights is what he has to offer up as a date, particularly in the early stages, it’s not likely we’ll make it. I’ve got to know him/feel comfy with him to spend time at his place or he at mine, and rarely will that happen at the second date.

Oh, and GO COWBOYS!!!

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 23, 2006 09:21 AM | Link to this

Good morning. This is funny because I have a cousin of mine who met her current boyfriend about 5 weeks ago. He was here on business in the A when they met, but now he’s been working on a contract here, so he’s been here for a minute now. He has corporate housing here, but has he stayed there one night since he met her? Nope. He been literally staying in her house since the night they met. I haven’t asked her if anything physical has gone down yet, cause I don’t really want to know, but he was hollering “I love you” about 9 days in. I’m suspicious.

Anyway, she’s feeling VERY crowded since he’s there all the time, and feeling rushed, as they have not gotten a chance to date (i.e. we meet/you pick me up/I pick you up, we have fun, we go to separate homes). I think she just wants her house back along with the chance to get to know him on a more normal basis. I don’t know how you put the worms back in that can though.

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 23, 2006 09:21 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

Wise you are correct I am anything but afraid to check in here. Yes my beloved Steelers lost but played a incredible game non the less. The Fakecons got lucky on some terrible mistakes by our rookie Holmes, Ben, and lawd Willie P had a moment of Walter Peyton greatness that back fired. But let me clear the air for the no nothing Falcon for life fan.

* I am a Georgia native born and raised not a transplant but a good ole Georgia clay country girl, I have never in my 34 years… 15plus as a football fan ever ever ever like the Fakecons, dont ask me why I just dont.* An no need for humble pie I am true fan of the Steelers need I remind you that when the cameras pan the crowd we were there in droves at the game.

Terrible towels fly win, lose, or die.

* Now On Topic* When you are dating someone new, do you think being in their space, staying over, and acting like a couple is a good idea?

No it is not a good idea. Until the decision is made to become a couple everything should be kept on a casual basis. Going out, meeting at a designated spot etc..

My home is my personal space and while in the getting to know you process I may invite you over know that in the end you are going home.

By alpha female

October 23, 2006 09:23 AM | Link to this

I dated a dude that I could only see during the week because of our schedules. I would see him around 8 or 9 most nights. There was a problem with him not leaving the my house. I would get up from the sofa and tell him it was time for him to go. He would leave and we would repeat the same scenario the following night. This went on for months (six) and we have been together ever since. He said the way I handled him and the situation made him have a great deal of respect for me and my mind.

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 23, 2006 09:24 AM | Link to this

Oh and Fakecon for life fan I plan to practice public interest law. So my interest is to be on the other side of the aisle in the DA’s office.

By aggressively witty

October 23, 2006 09:24 AM | Link to this

Wise good topic. I gotta say, second date invite to the crib to “watch movies” is most def an invite to “black head nurses 45” or even some chick flick like “sweet home alabama” whatever the case the end hope is just like the hope at the end of a massage, play wrasslin, or any other faux foreplay, dude was tryna smash.

Now his whole spiel about how much of a gentleman he is and how he felt some kind of way because you didnt feel safe was a damn warning sign. Run from this dude cause he doing commercials for his genteel nature and the fact that his spot is the OSHA approved.

Falcons fans…good game by vick, terrible game by the defense. Good win, surprised the hell outta me. I honestly do hope this can continue for yall cause a superbowl is a beautiful thing (being a redskins fan I have seen my team win 3 and play in 4). I still doubt that vick is the dude to do it, but still good game by him

By Rell

October 23, 2006 09:26 AM | Link to this

Be creative???…..ummmmmm. It is interesting that a women abandons what she likes during this dating phase. I think if both parties would create dates the process would go better…the way you start is the way you end. I am thinking on the second date the lady can suggest something. That way you get a gauge of the interest of your “man”.

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 23, 2006 09:31 AM | Link to this

Rell Where have you been?? Anyway, your point is well-taken. We all know that is the goal, whether implied or stated outright. Timing is the key though, and also the approach.

Any guy that I date, I know whether or not I would be interested in getting to know him physically from nearly day one, but his method of approach and his sense of timing can throw the whole thing off. So even if I know I might want him in that way eventually, if he starts trying to make it to the house too quickly or begs to stay over, it’s a wrap for me.

By Rell

October 23, 2006 09:32 AM | Link to this

i agree agg….dude is a drama pill away from giving you a bad day diva….get cool on my man quick. He needs to retrieve his nuts from the female that last took them away. I swear cats are remedial now-a-days with the whole come to my spot stuff. He should have read you day one….i mean if he was up on things he would have known you would have no parts in the early pantie program…lol

By Hot Sauce

October 23, 2006 09:32 AM | Link to this

Morning All Yes that was a great game by the Falcons yesterday had me sitting on pins & needles. My weekend was great i went to my youngest God Child’s Kamryn aka Special K birthday party at Chuck E Cheese. Now, i have a problem with old boy ChuckE, we were there from 6pm until 10:15pm and he only came out 1 time And when did they start serving “beer”???? But all in all i had a great time, she turns 3 yrs old today the child got so many gifts & there is “no need” to get her anything for Christmas. Have a nice day bloggers! Hey Musing, Demi, SJ :)

By Rell

October 23, 2006 09:37 AM | Link to this

@foots….chilling playin the sideline for a moment….reflecting…etc. And i agree, again timing is everything. So the lesson today is fella’s it is time to man up on the ladies and represent. Let them know from the door what program you on…if they can roll with that fine….if not “charge her to the game” and keep it moving. No need to waste anyone time.

By CobbCounty

October 23, 2006 09:37 AM | Link to this

The whole “Blockbuster night” thing after a date is a little odd. However, I do not see a problem with mixing other activities in with actually going out on the town. I agree that you shouldn’t try to do the home visit thing too early, but if you are progressing through dating and there is a mutual attraction it shouldn’t always have to be about dinner-and-a-movie. I have actually learned more about some of the women that I have dealt with through activities that some may view as mundane (i.e. going to a bookstore) than I have when we did the whole Friday or Saturday night “date” thing. Nothing is wrong with going on dates and I enjoy the dinner-and-a-movie thing as well, but that shouldn’t be the only time that you spend with that person if you are actually interested in them.

I always felt that if a woman had a genuine interest in me, she would want to spend time with me outside of restaurants or movie theatres. No, that doesn’t mean that she has to come over to my place. However, if the only time that she wants to see me is when I am paying for a meal, I may start to question what she is really after. If a person doesn’t just want a free meal here-and-there, then they will tend to not object to other activities.

By Wise Diva

October 23, 2006 09:37 AM | Link to this

Thanks Rell & Agg Witt, I was kind of irritated with him trying to plead his case. I was thinking, if you are a gentleman, do you really need to say that? Wouldn’t I be able to tell? So now I am like, umm, I don’t believe you - you need more people. I should ask for references. LOL

By Rell

October 23, 2006 09:38 AM | Link to this

only one thing to say about the falcons “championship”….if you guys notice we are already playing playoffs games…the falcons have a very tough schedule….next up the bengals…need i say more…..

By C tha 1

October 23, 2006 09:40 AM | Link to this

@ Wise Diva:

At the end of the day women are a product of their experiences, and sometimes they are so hard line on the respect issue that they can’t see the forest from the trees.

The first part of the statement is true for both men and women, we all are a product of our experiences. But women who truly demand respect DEMAND!! respect. Sometimes a woman’s past experience may make her unnecessarily callous to men in general, and if she is dealing with a dude like me she doesn’t have to try very hard to earn my respect. All she has to do is be herself, and I can discern for myself through her actions if she is respectable or not. All in all, what I’m trying to say is some women try too hard to earn the respect of most men, when its not that hard at all.

By jeremy

October 23, 2006 09:40 AM | Link to this

I always get made fun of for leaving a party early or leaving a date early. For me, it is important not to over stay my welcome. I’d rather have a lady saying she wished I would have hung out longer than be thought of as someone who couldn’t take the hint.

In regards to the house thing. I have had women over for dinner & a movie fairly early and never had a problem. Then again, I mean dinner and a movie (in the early stages anyway). I’ve fortunately never had a girl in all these years that came over with a few changes of clothes who planned on staying a long time, and ummm, I’m ok with that.

By aggressively witty

October 23, 2006 09:42 AM | Link to this

Rell, you know though some dudes just still be on the “I know she ‘SAYS’ aint no panties popping off, but I am that DUDE” he prolly knew what the story was he just figured he could do a rewrite of pages 6 and 9.

By Rell

October 23, 2006 09:43 AM | Link to this

yep diva “charge him to the game”…keep it moving…..i am a gentleman don’t you see…can’t you see i am a good man. Sounds like dude has a high case of low self-esteem…

By SeanJohnson

October 23, 2006 09:46 AM | Link to this

Morning Blog..

i dont see anything wrong with blockbuster dates..now 1st or 2nd date..maybe not..but if you are feeling a person ..and you are enjoying the company…nothing wrong with having a blockbuster date..you should be able to enjoy each other doing nothing ..it always shouldbnt be about going to the latest trend spot or being creative…thats how i can deterime if a female is a keeper…if we can had fun with no game plan..and if we have the same taste in movies..thats a major plus

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 23, 2006 09:51 AM | Link to this

Hey guys, I’m wondering how much of this applies to long-distance dating from the start. When I met the Big Joker, he was here for the weekend. We met on Friday and had a date on Saturday afternoon. Our date was cut short because my mom got sick, but then he got back together later that night. We spent most of the rest of the night talking, with a couple hours of sleep thrown in for good measure. Nothing physical happened (I kind of laid down the law about that) and we really enjoyed being together.

That being said, it was not the best thing to do since we had just met, but I was glad that I did it because we didn’t have much time together before he had to go home. And I did tell my mom about the evening, so I didn’t regret anything. In my case, the distance is a good thing, it keeps things from moving too fast while we are getting to know each other. (I’m sure that’s what my cousin thought too about her man…before he moved in, that is.)

When we get a chance to visit each other, it will get interesting. He does have someplace to stay here, as his uncle lives in South Fulton, but when I go there, I probably will be shacking for the weekend…

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 23, 2006 09:55 AM | Link to this

Rell I have to agree with you and agg wit on that “I’m a good man, I’m a gentleman” mess. Unless you are Ralph Tresvant, you shouldn’t have to sing about how you are a Stone Cold Gentleman or about how you are such a good man. It should show through like Diva says. I always let that kind of talk be a red flag for me. And because of how that looks to me, I never give a dude the “I’m a good woman” speech either.

By Rell

October 23, 2006 09:55 AM | Link to this

When i did the blockbuster thing it was with my main squeeze…and i mean after awhile of dating and smashing…dating and smashing….blockbuster is for those lazy afternoons when you both want to shut out the world…not for ummmm i am not trying to spend anymore money…or i have already places a good down payment on the booty…it is lame and tired. I would have called the night and invited her over sunday to watch the game with my friends…feel me. I bet she would have not said no

By Rell

October 23, 2006 09:59 AM | Link to this

why do you have to lay the law down. To me back in my day..when you started with i am not doing this and that…..it really meant you would do this and that. Really lady from this point. Enough of laying the law down. If you a women about yours he will respect game……no need to demand or lay the law down. on the low that is FREAK SPEAK…feel me

By Bre'

October 23, 2006 10:03 AM | Link to this

Greetings this morning to all….

I totally cosign SJ comment. I guess I’m more old school my intial screening factors let me know right away if he is a person I could bring to my house or not. I wish I could type exactly what I want to say…its just not coming out right this morning. Overall use common sense when dating you will always run into a few crazies once in awhile. But on a general rule be mindful of safety. Just like he could knock you in the head in your apt and take advantage of you. Is the same if you leave the table while on a date go to the ladies room and he slips something in your drink.

Respect is what it is you give it you should recieve it.

By 4theLongHaul

October 23, 2006 10:04 AM | Link to this

I think it depends on how well you know the person. If it’s somebody you are freshly meeting, then yeah, you do need to air on the side of caution. But if it’s somebody you been knowing for a long time and the ‘romance’part is new, I don’t see anything wrong with home dates. I think my SO came to my house in less than a month of us ‘dating’ but we’d been knowing eachother for well over 10 years by then. So I knew he wasn’t a serial killer or anything. Although I loved being ‘taken out’, I moreso enjoyed picking up something and staying in for the night, cuddled up watching TV or talking.

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 23, 2006 10:06 AM | Link to this

Rell To me, it’s always better to have a discussion about expectations when the scenario can be read a couple of different ways. Better than, “ooohhh, stop, no, wait, don’t touch that” later on in the evening. My desire for him in that way was not in place at the time, although I know that he wouldn’t have minded if it went down right then. So it wasn’t a demand, just a clearing of the air before we had a misunderstanding.

By THE INFAMOUS DK

October 23, 2006 10:09 AM | Link to this

Good Morning

We all grown right? Do people still trip on when they have sex? Now heres the truth.. He was trying to smash simply because he tried to explain it away the next day and make you Wise feel bad for not coming over.. Simple Jedi mind trick, but he misused it because he did not thoroughly understand his prey.. He also cut the date short cause he had some back burner waiting and if you werent coming home, no sense keeping the back burner waiting.. He just tried you like he tries every female.. Big Mistake.. That’ll be $59.95 for the first minute and the price varies from here according to what else you need to know

By MusingLee "Steeler Killer"

October 23, 2006 10:09 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

Said while shoveling the remains of the Steelers into a ditch and patting the dirt down with my shovel

“Yeppp!, that should just about do it…I don’t think anyone will find them here?!?!?”

Wise Your dude did have a great time…So good that he thought he could get you over for movies and play a little “Slap dap!”….Hey, that’s our nature, but he should have played it cool at breakfast and left it alone…And, guys don’t lose respect if they sleep with you on a first date unless, they didn’t respect you anyway…You just have to figure out which one he is!

By Raqi

October 23, 2006 10:16 AM | Link to this

Being one that I am very particular about my space, I didn’t do the Blockbusters nights for a long time while dating. Inviting you to my house meant that inviting you into my heart wasn’t too far behind.

I think it does fast forward things. There are just some unspoken assumptions that take place when you allow folks into your personal space.

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 23, 2006 10:18 AM | Link to this

Musing dig a little deeper and make room for your Dolphins.

By THE INFAMOUS DK

October 23, 2006 10:20 AM | Link to this

quick question did anyone read the was Jesus rich piece on the front of the living page? Interesting..

Oh and do ya’ll still here the Squealers squealing like a Pig.. I know Kym does..

By Jake

October 23, 2006 10:20 AM | Link to this

Wise It is good that you had such a good time..you said you didn’t want it end. So you wanted more…you guys were obviously feeling each other so dude made a simple suggestion and the the “Anti-lock Pantie Guards” kicked in. I can’t blame you for wanting to be safe, but sometimes you have to feel your way through instead of holding to the patterns that you’ve always used.

Of course he was offended…you pee-peed on the party for both of you. Now you described it as: great conversation and the chemistry was bananas!

Too bad you slipped on that peel while creating uncertainty about what you thought of each oher.

He probably would have made an attempt progress with you physically, but if he did not try to show some respectful affection; What would you really think of him?

By kinderbabe

October 23, 2006 10:21 AM | Link to this

i’m tending to agree w/the men on this one. it does seem like the guys i’ve known who weren’t about ish were gonna be that regardless of when we did/didn’t have sex. the thing about waiting can work both ways. it can either drag out the process of finding out he’s not ish…or can get it over in the beginning b/c he’ll let his fool cards show quick…lol. i guess it’s one of those age old gambles. there’s no guarantee of how it’ll turn out…

By Lah Lah

October 23, 2006 10:22 AM | Link to this

Hey Wise your date sounded just like mine this weekend but that was our first date! He took me to a Thrashers game and my favorite mexican resturant in Buckhead and we were really having a nice time. Then he breaks out with I just rented this movie called Hard Candy would you like to go to back to my place and check it out? WTF!!!! First off it was 1am secondly Hard Candy?? Sounds like a flick right? Was he serious?!?!?! I told him that it wasn’t going down and he took me back to my car in silence. The next day (yesterday) he calls and asks if I would like to join him for a movie at the actual theatre. I told him that was much better. Afterwards, we went to dinner since I was craving a Lobster burger like a big dog. At dinner he mentioned the same thing about not wanting to take advantage of me and just wanting to watch a movie.

But it was our first time going out. I didn’t even want to hold his hand and definantly didn’t want to find myself alone in his house. The only reason I rode in the same car as him was because I had known him from months through friends. After 3 or 4 dates maybe but unfortunately he won’t get that far….

By Sweet Tea

October 23, 2006 10:25 AM | Link to this

Now going behind Musing to investigate missing Steeler’s Fans after family members called our office stating they did not make there 7:05 am flight this morning and they’re now worried

By MusingLee

October 23, 2006 10:27 AM | Link to this

Kym I’m not a Dolphins Fan, even though I lived in Miami for a while…But, I was seriously mistaken when I thought they could whoop up on the Stinky Steelers….LOLOLOLOL

“You know you’re gonna get ribbed all day, right?!?!?!?”

Now handing Kym the blog riot helment and bullet proof vest and cape

By Not a football fan (not Demi)

October 23, 2006 10:31 AM | Link to this

Hey Hot Sauce I am glad you were able to survive the “Rat House” (too many Dayum kids in one place!!)

Kym the Dolphin are a GREAT team this year…they rank #4 in the Little League

By SeanJohnson

October 23, 2006 10:31 AM | Link to this

@ LahLah…Hard Candy..is not a skin flick..its a regular movie lol..

By MusingLee

October 23, 2006 10:33 AM | Link to this

Now standing over Steelers’ grave and watering freshly planted grass and flowers as dem Sauces and Sweet T drive by…….Giving the head nod and friendly wave, so as to not spark suspicion.

By Rell

October 23, 2006 10:35 AM | Link to this

Fellas from lahlah above example…this is how you get placed in the trick bag….lol. He tried her once, she gamed him…then the next day he calls again to take her out and try again…she gamed him again..then she wants a lobster burger and again he takes her for lobster and she games him again….lol. Good job lah, i see you have some game under your belt. Fellas stop tricking…cause once you start it is hard to stop. She now knows his goal…and the price keeps going up er time he opens his trick mouth…lol, lah i will POP MY COLLAR to you player…lol. I love it…..

By Lil Demi

October 23, 2006 10:35 AM | Link to this

Ms. Lah, buddy was trying to buy his way into your good huh?…I bet he’s at home p!ss right now!!!,LOL

By Sweet Tea

October 23, 2006 10:41 AM | Link to this

Ok, let’s see “roses & tulips” blooming in October, fresh cut grass still damp from Musing watering the lawn/flowers. I think this case is closed there seems to be “no signs” of buried Steelers fans here, let’s go back to the office and finish this report. Girl, Musing know he looks so good in those jeans and his black sweater - he is “Oh so sexxxxy”

By Lil Demi

October 23, 2006 10:41 AM | Link to this

SeanJohnson I actually google for info on Hard Candy…Now I am upset that it’s a real movie…LOL

By kinderbabe

October 23, 2006 10:42 AM | Link to this

lahlah where do you get a lobster burger?? that sounds good! post the info please :)

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 23, 2006 10:47 AM | Link to this

kinderbabe I agree to a point. The longer you wait before making it do what it do, the more chance you have to find out he ain’t about ish in other ways before you add another notch to your belt. But that’s not a good indicator either, I guess. Folks can hide crazy for a good bit of time. :-( You are right, there are no guarantees…

Kym That place that you mentioned last week, where you could mix your own fragrances, did you think of the name?

By Lil Demi

October 23, 2006 10:48 AM | Link to this

Fellas from lahlah above example…this is how you get placed in the trick bag

Rell, yep this only happen if YOU allow it to happen…ole girl from two years ago called out of the blue asking for 5 dollars to freed her kids, I said, “HELL to the NO!!” and hung up the phone

By Wise Diva

October 23, 2006 10:49 AM | Link to this

naw, I wouldn’t say I created uncertainty at all. He went from being interested in continuing our date - to it’s getting late, after I declined his home invitation. Let’s just say, if he truly wanted to spend time, he would have offered up another suggestion, which is why I kept quiet on what other things we could do. Personally, I prefer to let the guy know when I am ready to see his place and do the at home courting thing. I don’t spell it out, but I hint at what I am cool with in other ways.

By abc

October 23, 2006 10:50 AM | Link to this

A gentleman wouldn’t suggest a date in the home theater for a 2nd date. I agree with Rell and Aggwit — not only does he display poor form in the proposition, he really shows his azz in trying to defend making the proposition. On the other hand, I don’t blame a dude for trying to get laid. Just sayin.

Personally, I wouldn’t have a chick over to the home theater early on primarily because I have teens in the house, and that makes everything a matter of record, if you catch my drift. If the girl doesn’t have legs (I mean in terms of LTR potential) then she won’t be invited. Likewise, I’m not showing up to her place for that early on either… well, probably not… I have kids at home, and my dog for that matter, I can’t just up and stay out all night. Responsibilities like that can be seen as an inconvenience, or as a motivator to stay closer to the straight and narrow, depending on one’s perspective.

By trina

October 23, 2006 10:52 AM | Link to this

where are some good places to go for dates around here anyway?

By MusingLee

October 23, 2006 10:52 AM | Link to this

Now placing my signature on that Rell post…

LahLah You my girl…But you are a skrait Playa, son!!! Blam, Blam!! (said in my Jamaican voice)

By THE INFAMOUS DK

October 23, 2006 10:54 AM | Link to this

PSA Public Sucka Announcement Two Bulls sat on the hill looking down on some hefers.. The young bull said I’m gonna run down and get me one of those hefers.. The older Bull says why run down and catch one when you can walk down and catch em all.. It seems alot of these dudes need to remember they should walk down the hill instead of running..

By ImAPeach404

October 23, 2006 10:55 AM | Link to this

Morning all

Sorry, I don’t have to much to comment on this topic b/c I think you have to take each situation and apply it to each guy.

That being said, I have something off topic that I would like to ask of the men, but ladies, feel free…… Ok, when you introduce a woman to your mother… do you consider that a big step? Would you let a woman meet your mother if your intentions weren’t to be with her and only her?

Thanks.

And oh yea… just like I say EVERY Monday, win or lose: GO FALCONS!!!!

By Raqi

October 23, 2006 11:00 AM | Link to this

The third time I went to whitebread’s house (his fixer-upper) to help him do some work, the only work got done was the work that he did on me. Damn that house. Had I known him helping me hold a roller to show me how to properly paint a wall would lead to him rolling on me I would have stayed far, far away from that place. LOL (But I do love my son.)

By Wise Diva

October 23, 2006 11:00 AM | Link to this

Hi Trina, you can get a few creative date ideas here.

By THE INFAMOUS DK

October 23, 2006 11:01 AM | Link to this

And oh yeah ladies you must remember… Most of these cats were nerds back in the day and had no game but now they got money to take you out for Lobster Biscuits and such.. They are just trying to catch up on the lovin they missed out on so give em a break..

By Raqi

October 23, 2006 11:03 AM | Link to this

I agree with you Diva, his only goal had to be to get you to his place. If not he would have said, “That’s cool. Then let’s go do…..”

By Lah Lah

October 23, 2006 11:04 AM | Link to this

Kinder I got the Lobster burger from Strip in Atlantic Station it’s delish.

By kinderbabe

October 23, 2006 11:06 AM | Link to this

you’re right foots there are some undercover fools out here..lol. if they’re dedicated to faking it for as long as possible just to get some, then that’s what they’ll do. it’s a sad reality but true.

By kinderbabe

October 23, 2006 11:07 AM | Link to this

thanks lah that’s where my next date will be!!! LOL

By SeanJohnson

October 23, 2006 11:07 AM | Link to this

@ Peaches404..depends on the dude..some dudes let every chick they date meet moms..thats just how they do it..some dudes reserve meeting moms for females they are serious with…me…i only let moms meet 2 females i have dated…one my mom really liked…but i had to let moms know..just because she is good for you..doenst mean she is good for me..but that was just to let her know..i respect her judge of character..but who i am gonna be with is ultimately my decision.

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 23, 2006 11:08 AM | Link to this

Foots no I didnt but my friend said it is in Virgina-Highlands. It will come to me in a dream or at 4 in the morning. She wanted us to go there for a outing.

By MusingLee

October 23, 2006 11:09 AM | Link to this

Peach404 That can be a tricky one…I don’t introduce people to my Mother or Family unless I am extremely interested in them….However, I had a friend who was really ho’ish, his Moms knew it too, so if he brought someone over his Mom knew she wouldn’t be around long…You have to first find out what kind of guy he is! And even the kind of relationship he has with his Mom…Ask him how many Women have met his mother!!!

By ImAPeach404

October 23, 2006 11:15 AM | Link to this

Foots & Kinder do you guys remember that day on here when that girl said she waited a year to be with this guy, then when she finally gave it up, he still dumped her?!

Thats why you *never know. It’s rough out there!

By Lah Lah

October 23, 2006 11:16 AM | Link to this

Rell I wasn’t really trying to game him although I didn’t spend a dime all weekend….I’m just interested in someone else (not him)and attempting to sit back and patiently wait for him to lead and set the tone for what happens next. Ole dude was just around to occupy my time momentarily. gosh,that sounds mean…

By gavi1126

October 23, 2006 11:20 AM | Link to this

Good morning

Hey ya’ll. Sup Lah!! I like u’re style cause its a lot like mine!! But it did end on a good note right? I mean, he can try to see what kind of a lady u r?? And he found out, so why not give him more chances??

Now i’ve been a victim of agreeing to one house date right from the beginning and i never got actual dates cause the dude got too comfortable with me. Never again!! I learned to not have a “house dates” until 8-9 real dates! And it had worked good so far.

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 23, 2006 11:21 AM | Link to this

Wise dont tell me you got your cronies at the ajc. Censoring my comments about the Fakecons? Fair and balance? Oh wait that is Fox news, this is Dixie like the Dew over here-my bag.

By ImAPeach404

October 23, 2006 11:22 AM | Link to this

SJ & Musing thanks! I guess the key is to find out how many females he’s introduced to his mother. I would only let someone im 100% serious about meet my mom & my son, so to me, that is a significant move. But, im just a little cautious b/c it happened so fast. Like, before we decided to be together, I met her. I was thinking that maybe he knew I was the one for him, so meeting his family & being so open about everything just came naturally. But theres always that thought in the back of my mind that he might just be full of it.

Hell, I don’t know. I think tonight I’ll try to come up with ask about the number of women he introduced w/out seeming like thats what im trying to ask.

Thanks guys!!!

By Raqi

October 23, 2006 11:23 AM | Link to this

Peach404 my sister had a crazy way of getting RID of guys she wasn’t feeling but couldn’t quite shake loose. She would tell them, “I want you to meet my dad.” Most of them would go running for the hills, but that few that was brave enough to tread those rapid waters were in for a rude awakening. After my father finished with them they left there whimpering wimps. She never had to worry about them calling her again.

By gavi1126

October 23, 2006 11:23 AM | Link to this

Oh Lah - Ok i gotcha.. He just does not have that “IT” factor!! Well, and no it doesn’t sound mean to what u said bout time! High five.. and sorry if I sound mean agreeing ! lol

By ImAPeach404

October 23, 2006 11:24 AM | Link to this

Ole dude was just around to occupy my time momentarily.

Oooh LahLah, thats wrong as hell!

By Rell

October 23, 2006 11:26 AM | Link to this

Like i said Lah, i will POP my collar to you….and once again fella’s take notes. She is waiting to be lead…you can’t get a women to submit with out a mission…feel me sub-mission…..like burger and fries…kool-aid and suga. But please stop tricking in 06. I mean hockey and dinner…what the 8 dollar buger at phillips was not enough….lol. He gave a new meaning to being a simp-azz. But i am not hating lah, do you….lol.

By Pharress_Beuller

October 23, 2006 11:27 AM | Link to this

Morning All,

This is a no-brainer to me. I think you have to watch who you bring to your house on both sides of the coin. Yes ladies, dude could be a serial killer or whatever heinous psychological problems that may exist. As a man, I too would wonder why a female is trying to get over to my spot too quickly…(i.e. 1st or 2nd date) who knows what’s up her sleeve. As in all things in relation to dating, you must get to know a person mentally before physically unless a relationship is not the goal. There are no guarantees in this game…was dude looking to smash WD , maybe. The fact that he is saying how he’s a “good man” makes him suspect…no different than when women claim to be a “good woman”. I’ve always believed that there’s no need to tell me what you are, because “A true king recognizes a true queen” and vice versa. Like others have stated, I’m very territorial of my space and I’m respectful of others spaces.

Time apart makes the heart grow fonder.

By Rell

October 23, 2006 11:28 AM | Link to this

lah you are not wrong…say what it is…he was a trick…you need to make a website…girlhetrick.com..or freelunch.com…we need to expose the simps..so they can stop corrupting the game. For real

By kinderbabe

October 23, 2006 11:29 AM | Link to this

imapeach404 yeah!! i remember that!! that was a total trip. just like you said, you never know. it definitely can be rough out here in the dating jungle. :)

By Raqi

October 23, 2006 11:29 AM | Link to this

There you go again LahLah leading men on without any real intentions for something meaningful.

By Lil Demi

October 23, 2006 11:31 AM | Link to this

Ok, when you introduce a woman to your mother… do you consider that a big step?

Yes, only 3 women out of 100+ have met my mom

Would you let a woman meet your mother if your intentions weren’t to be with her and only her?

Not I would not…I have no time for: What happen to so’n’so…And I have to dig in my poor memory bank to recall said female…

By Wise Diva

October 23, 2006 11:33 AM | Link to this

what in the deuce are you talking about Kym?

By ImAPeach404

October 23, 2006 11:35 AM | Link to this

Lol @ Raqi, cute story!

By Lil Demi

October 23, 2006 11:36 AM | Link to this

Raqi in Ms.Lah defense, said buddy played himself. He should have been honest from the jump…

By Rell

October 23, 2006 11:37 AM | Link to this

Raqi, please…..dude was a simp period.

By abc

October 23, 2006 11:37 AM | Link to this

Not intending to offend, Lah, but a behavior of using men for your (ergo platonic) entertainment would certainly encourage, if not justify, a man misrepresenting himself to you for his own purposes. I’d say what you’re talking about is pretty common behavior, common to both genders. Beware karma and all that.

By Lah Lah

October 23, 2006 11:38 AM | Link to this

Raqi you’re right. I feel bad… It doesn’t help when you have friends like Gavi encourgaing you to do so. LOL No excuses.

Rell actually it was an $18 burger not $8.

By Chink

October 23, 2006 11:39 AM | Link to this

LOL

You see how it is ok for guys to sleep with numerous women without expectations of a relationship….but when a women goes out on casual dates instead of casual sex …there is a problem……DOUBLE STANDARD

Go Lah Lah I would do it to ..but it eventually becomes a headache for me ….

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 23, 2006 11:39 AM | Link to this

Wise I posted a comment that mysteriously went into cyberland. It didnt contain any cursing and was not something that the sportscaster havent been saying already and yet like magic it disappeared. So I figured someone sat their coffee or behind on the censor button. It is cool I had to remind myself of where I was. “Covering Dixie like the Dew.”

By ImAPeach404

October 23, 2006 11:41 AM | Link to this

Rell you sound so jaded! (I swear im not tyring to be funny here) But have you found youself in this situation before? If so, are you now applying your thought process on LahLahs situation to women that you date now? If so, does this work for you? At what point do you feel its ok to actually spend money on a woman in the name of dating?

By trina

October 23, 2006 11:43 AM | Link to this

Thanx Wise Diva,

I tried your link, but it said that it was no longer available. Where were you linking me to?

By gavi1126

October 23, 2006 11:46 AM | Link to this

Lol.. thanks Lah.. I mean, its like having a plutonic friend who just enjoys your company.& being seen with U. U can’t blame them for wanting too!!

By abc

October 23, 2006 11:49 AM | Link to this

…on the other hand, I can see Rell’s point, sort of… shoot, I took a friend of mine out a couple weeks ago and spent $125 on her, and we’re just friends. If anything, my only goal was to demonstrate to her that the losers she dates should be willing to drop a couple bucks just to do something nice for her, make her happy for awhile, and just be her friend. Losers!

By gavi1126

October 23, 2006 11:50 AM | Link to this

ttyl!!

a good tip - # 1 - If U do end up going over the guy’s house eventually, please pay attention of little things! EX: feminine products, cloths, things around the house, his room etc etc. lol..

Ladies/Gents - ne other tips for those situations?

By 4theLongHaul

October 23, 2006 11:53 AM | Link to this

you can’t get a women to submit with out a mission…feel me sub-mission PREACH RELL!!! PREACH!!

By Wise Diva

October 23, 2006 11:53 AM | Link to this

I thought I was a conspiracy theorist, girl you can post it again, I don’t think it was blocked though. I have lost comments myself a couple of times.

Trina, it was this linkon ajc about Creative dates. I may not have done it right, so Try pasting this in your browser: http://www.accessatlanta.com/events/content/events/dating/index.html

By ImAPeach404

October 23, 2006 11:54 AM | Link to this

Rell

Why does LahLah’s date have to be a simp???? Just because he took her on a nice date two nights in a row? From the story she told right here… I don’t see how you can equate that to being a simp. I believe he wanted to get to know her and spend some time. She already said dude was a time filler, so we know she doesn’t really like this guy. If his intentions are to date her seriously, she’s setting this dude up for failure. Regardless if he’s a simp or not, if she isn’t interested, stop making him spend his $ and go dutch. Thats how dudes go from being the nice guy to an a*******hole.

I don’t agree with sympothy dates.

By Raqi

October 23, 2006 11:59 AM | Link to this

Relly Unreal Why is game playing always deserving of a dap of approval? He could just as well be a nice guy who really wants to get to know her and is making an effort to do so, however, she is leading him on knowing that she ain’t trying to get to know him. She owed him the decency to tell him when he called asking for a second date. We women are always complaining about guys with suspicious motives but then we do the same thing to unsuspecting victims. After the age of 30 (25 in my opinion) you are too old to be playing games.

Furthermore, she knows why I said what I said. We have talked about this one other time on here.

By Lil Demi

October 23, 2006 11:59 AM | Link to this

…if she isn’t interested, stop making him spend his $ and go dutch

This would be soooooo unlike LahLah, LOL

By Bre'

October 23, 2006 12:01 PM | Link to this

hmmmm

Dudes and moms….To be honest unless we have been dating about a year or so I have no interest in meeting any family members. Esp not moms. But some men love to take me home to the family. My ex’s mom right now still calls me even though he is about to marry some other chick. My moms and pops have only meet two guys since high school and now I’m in my mid thirties. If its not serious I just don’t see getting there hopes up high.

By Sweet Tea

October 23, 2006 12:04 PM | Link to this

Kudos to U abc

By Rell

October 23, 2006 12:04 PM | Link to this

must we cover this again. ok let me sing the song again. There is nothing wrong with taking women out…or dropping coin. But a man knows when a women is luke warm on him…now in abc case if we “drinking buddies” no problem. I am sure they do nice things for each other. Dude was trying to show off by catering to her every need like he is in. I mean the hockey game was cool..but dinner afterward was a no-no…they have plenty of food at phillips arean..now if she bucking on eating the food there…then go hungry….the next day lobster meal was a bit much…umm we just kicked the last night…and unless you telling me something good i will catch you next weekend….no need to wine and dine someone luke warm on me…and trust he knows…so again peach404 there is nothing wrong with spending…but tricking is!!

By ImAPeach404

October 23, 2006 12:06 PM | Link to this

Why is game playing always deserving of a dap of approval?

I agree Raqi

By Sweet Tea

October 23, 2006 12:08 PM | Link to this

I know not to take any Man to meet my fantastic Mom unless he’s my fiance’ or we’re already married. That’s just not me

By ImAPeach404

October 23, 2006 12:09 PM | Link to this

If its not serious I just don’t see getting there hopes up high.

Bre My mom hasn’t met a guy since high shcool, so this is my thought process as well and I’m hoping his too. I guess only time will really tell.

By Rell

October 23, 2006 12:10 PM | Link to this

Nice guys….here is what i think, we are nice guys before sex…lol…..puleeeeeese spare me the rebuttal about this dude. He was running game and Lah caught him. Trust me you see them at the club wallet in one hand cell phone in other….dreams of bedding beauties after spending enough money to pay half the rent…i am not hating i am just saying….lets call it what it is….it is a trick mentality…he is barking up the wrong three…if lah can’t see the light in him, why he trying to convice her….like hey over here look at me…puleeese it should be her priviledge to be in his company not the other way around…that means he has no plan no misson beyond placing a down payment and hoping she will like him..thats not how a mans does the dayum thing….we coming to lay our program…you see us….check your office bldg..the cat you checking for…you trying to see whats up him…throwing hints of interest….not your lunch buddy who things if he keeps campaigning you will pick him over generals chao chicken…..do you feel me or must we continue the cycle of simpin…..

By Lil Demi

October 23, 2006 12:11 PM | Link to this

Raqi but said buddy is playing games from the jump. If I’m totally interested in a young lady, date 2 thru 9 will not be at my house…if all I need are the panties, date 1 should do…if young lady is down.

By Miss SexyCool (emphasis on sexy)

October 23, 2006 12:14 PM | Link to this

great topic, wise…i remember doing a MAJOR rant on about house dating on my blog awhile back…

now that my sweetie and i live together, we make it a point to get OUT of the house together at least once a week…

because even though we have gotten past those initial stages of getting to know each other, we are still learning each other…and we still need to be dating each other…and now, for us…that means an activity away from the domicile…

(officically declaring my 2cptg boycott over…missed you guys…lol)

By ImAPeach404

October 23, 2006 12:19 PM | Link to this

Rell I can agree you can tell when someone is luke warm with you, but what if they aren’t acting luke warm… what if they are so full of games that they are making you believe they are all into you while their thoughts are of somone else? What if dude wasn’t showing off, what if he was trying to have a nice time. What if he really wanted to go to the Thrashers game b/c he (or she) has never been? She said the Mexican restaurant was her favorite, so why not take her. Hell, how much is mexican food anyway???? For all we know he could have gotten the hockey tickets for free, so going to dinner after… to a Mexican spot… wasn’t a big deal. We don’t know this mans pockets, so these dates might have been a starting point.

Point is… you don’t have enough info to judge dude or his intentions. Being a playa, using people, and running game is not to be commended by either sex.

And im gone….

By Rell

October 23, 2006 12:21 PM | Link to this

and i pop my collar to you sexycool

By Rell

October 23, 2006 12:23 PM | Link to this

ok 404 i see you digging real deep to discredit what i am saying. So we will call it even since you are not here anymore

By Lah Lah

October 23, 2006 12:23 PM | Link to this

Missed you too Sexy Cool (emphasis on sexy) LOL.

That’s good that you all make it a habit to get out and “date” each other. Now that you all live together do you still make time to get out with your other friends?

By Wise Diva

October 23, 2006 12:24 PM | Link to this

Hey Miss SexyCool with an emphasis on sexy - LOL. Happy Belated Birthday! I hope it was nice!

By Miss SexyCool (emphasis on sexy)

October 23, 2006 12:32 PM | Link to this

(emphasis on sexy)…everytime i read that…i too laugh…OUT LOUD…

actual birthday was cool…TP and i celebrated my birthday by going to dinner and then dancing friday night…

for those of you who know me…y’all know i NEVER drink…sweetie ordered me this little cutesy drink that came with a take home glass…i tasted it and it was actually pretty good…so…i had another…and i started feeling warm…(i learned later that i was drinking a version of the long island iced tea)…when we got to the club…one our friends ordered another long island…

needless to say…after drinking all of that…i was sideways…all i remember is dancing a lot, laughing a lot and talking a lot…i don’t remember leaving the club…getting home…getting undressed or getting in the bed…

sweetie tells me that i said that i was going to take up drinking as my new hobby…

By 2 Busy 2 Blog (not QC)

October 23, 2006 12:36 PM | Link to this

MissCSC I was thinking about you the other day when i was reading a poem, it took me back to all the great poetry you would share with us every now & then..i’m glad you’re doing well :)

Take Miss Sexy aka #1 Original Blogger

hopefully i can catch up later, if not have a grand Monday bloggers

By 45 ATL Man

October 23, 2006 12:38 PM | Link to this

Rules are so different when you are a woman or man. If you have kids in the house then there are more rules. First of all, I’m on my best behaivor when I invite a women over. I know she has giving out my address and tag number out to her girlfriend or mother before she enters the house. Why would you do something stupid when you have given the address of where they can find you the quickest? Know if you meet someone that wants to get married after the third date then, yes by all means “RUN”. If a brother just wanted you as a quick lay then he would invite you to a hotel rather then his home. Before you give you’re heart out. Not all relationship end in a committed relationship. Try just finding friends first. If you want to play games and go on 10 to 9 dates before you trust someone. Then you may be alone for a long time. Most people will give up by then.

By Thick

October 23, 2006 12:55 PM | Link to this

Hey Miss SexyCool it’s good to hear from you today! Glad you had a good time for your birthday.

By Lil Demi

October 23, 2006 01:13 PM | Link to this

Rell you and I both know said buddy was running game, but instead ended being a trick off of.

By Lil Demi

October 23, 2006 01:15 PM | Link to this

I know she has giving out my address and tag number out to her girlfriend or mother before she enters the house. Why would you do something stupid when you have given the address of where they can find you the quickest?

Now signing post with my $1000.00 blog pen!

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 23, 2006 01:22 PM | Link to this

Thanks Kym. I bet I can go down there and ask around.

Peach and kinderbabe Yeah, that was jacked up in her case.

y’all have been busy posting, i need to go catch up!! :-)

By QC

October 23, 2006 01:24 PM | Link to this

What’s up Demi

By Rell

October 23, 2006 01:25 PM | Link to this

thats why i am cool on the constant rebuttal demi…..i say get it how you live….if you can get it do it

By Hot Sauce

October 23, 2006 01:27 PM | Link to this

Demi did you still want to file a report of theft of assorted virtual capes let us know :)

(lunch time)

By ImAPeach404

October 23, 2006 01:31 PM | Link to this

Im good for giving my girl friend dudes phone number, what kind of car he drives, his name, and where we met juuuuust in case. I also leave a Word document up on my computer with my dates name, phone #, car make & model, where we met, and any other information that might lead to his arrest!

By ImAPeach404

October 23, 2006 01:34 PM | Link to this

Oh yea Rell, im back if you want to keep the convo going… :)

By kinderbabe

October 23, 2006 01:34 PM | Link to this

peach and foots what do you think is a suitable time to wait before becoming physically intimate? i’ve been turning around this question w/my girls forever!! we can’t seem to agree on it…do you have a general rule of thumb?

By Raqi

October 23, 2006 01:39 PM | Link to this

Riddle: How many plumbers does it take to re-pipe one bathroom?

Answer: Obviously none, because that’s how many that are at my house right now and all the rough-in is supposed to be finished by the end of the day.

Riddle: How much incompetence from a contractor does it take to make Raqi blow her stack?

Answer: Very, very little.

Riddle: How many “I’ll handle it” s from The Man does it take to prevent her from doing so?

Answer: Hundreds.

By Lil Demi

October 23, 2006 01:43 PM | Link to this

Hot Sauce while I do miss my virtual cape, my great mind can create more if needed…Have a good lunch

Heeeeeyyyy QC!! how is your day going?

By ImAPeach404

October 23, 2006 01:44 PM | Link to this

Kinder well, it just depends on the guy and how much im feeling him. I don’t believe that waiting X amount of days/weeks/months/till marriage really matters. If you want to do him up, go for it… just be prepared for the concequences, good or bad. I think we’ve all been in situations where you meet somone and all you want is to take them home and have your way with them.

Personally, if I’m really interested in a guy, I don’t want to sleep with him too soon… but not because I feel like he wont be interested anymore, but more like I won’t be intrested anymore. If we have sex to quickly, I lose interest.

My general rule of thumb is: If its supposed to work out, it will.

By FyreStarrter™ (yeah I know it's been awile...)

October 23, 2006 01:45 PM | Link to this

ok you know I HAD to chime in & say something to all the Falcon & #7 haters on here This was the kind of game that the Falcons should have been coached to play ALL ALONG. This is the game we are capable of playing (but I still miss my baby TJ!). Also what do you call a man who gets away with calling a time out AFTER the snap & it comes back to bite you in the a$$ layta? One Half-A*******ed Steelers Coach! HA!

On Topic Lah the dude was trying to run game & you flipped the script. I see no problems with that. In fact if we women did more of that the game would seriously change in our favour, but oh well.

Wise, you were right to put the man in his place. And the fact that he turned into a Mr. Hyde after it just solidifies the fact that not only is he NOT a gentlemen, but he is CLEARLY foul & has some seriously bad cruel intentions. A Blockbuster Night on date #2 is dudespeak for I took you out on your compulsory date & either I hit it now or smell ya layta lol. If he was genuinely interested he would have not even suggested such a thing at such an early stage in the courtship (yes there is such a thing as courtship even though most of you all today have NO idea how to spell the word let alone the dayum definition lol). I am sorry but there are some things that are just better of left in the latter stages of getting to know each other & you coming into my space or me coming into yours is just ONE of those. Everydate does NOT have to be all about the most expensive things or money. But it does need to be creative and comfortable for ALL involved.

By Raqi

October 23, 2006 01:46 PM | Link to this

kinderbabe that’s a question only you can answer for yourself. Only you know when you are feeling the guy in that way.

By Raqi

October 23, 2006 01:47 PM | Link to this

LOL Peach404 it seems like we are on the same page today.

By Lil Demi

October 23, 2006 01:47 PM | Link to this

sweetie tells me that i said that i was going to take up drinking as my new hobby…

LOL, please dont or you will need a new sceen name…

By Miss SexyCool (emphasis on sexy)

October 23, 2006 01:49 PM | Link to this

kinderbabe…go with the flow…if you’re not a loose woman…it will show…if you are a loose woman…that will show too…

but regardless…you should know yourself well enough to trust your instincts about a person to determine where the relationship will go and how fast it should get there…

By FyreStarrter™ (yeah I know it's been awile...)

October 23, 2006 01:51 PM | Link to this

Kinder I really think it needs to be at minimum 2-3 months. You REALLY need to get to know a person at all angles as much as possible before you share something as precious as your body with them. If a person is going to change their stripes & flip out on you or they have a hidden agenda, you need time to figure that out. All women make this mistake because we feel that it is going to make dude stay around if we do. But the truth is indeed the exact opposite. Think about it, if you did it what makes dude think that the next chick won’t be just as eager? I don’t blame a man for wanting to get his freak on…just remember that in the process the person you hurt will not forget that & bad karma, is a beyotch!

By FyreStarrter™ (yeah I know it's been awile...)

October 23, 2006 01:54 PM | Link to this

ImaPeach404 great minds think alike lol. I text message the date time location license plate #, restuarant, playhouse etc to all my gyrls if a date is picking a lady up! A lady can NEVER be too careful lol!

By MusingLee

October 23, 2006 01:56 PM | Link to this

Now waving at Fyre, and handing her a blog Falcons pin

By kinderbabe

October 23, 2006 01:59 PM | Link to this

thanks for your comments ladies! i’m feelin what you said 404 everybody’s comments reinforced my original thoughts of there being no exact science to when the appropriate time to get busy is. i think someone commented on knowing yourself well enough to know when it’s right. that makes sense. i’ll present your points of view to my girls at our next meeting. thanks!

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 23, 2006 01:59 PM | Link to this

Kinder I don’t have a set amount of time, just when I feel comfortable. It has to be a situation where it is what I really want to do, nobody can talk me out of the draws. I don’t really do the casual thing, so it has to be with someone that I consider more than “just dating”. That’s why I’m on the Bullet right now (SeanJ thinks I’m going to go blind)! LOL!!

I agree with Peach that you have to be prepared for the consequences, good or bad, and to be honest about what your expectations are. Oh, and ask questions about how they feel about the act itself as you’re getting to know them. I’ve found that attitudes about that mean a whole lot. If he just feels like it’s something fun to do and I feel like it should be meaningful, then that’s not the right situation for either of us.

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 23, 2006 02:07 PM | Link to this

Dome Stadium-Millons of dollars, but the convention money helps

Weak Fakecons team-Cost few million dollars

Overhyped Quaterback working on 6years of promises of taking your bootleg team to the Superbowl-35 million dollars.

Closest the Fakecons team will ever get to a Superbowl ring-Beating last years champs and drooling over the ones on their hands.

By Rell

October 23, 2006 02:09 PM | Link to this

yep you guys are crazy…..lol. But i feel you there are some fools out here today….but dayum. Time frame, ummm when you feel like it….trust me time does not matter, people change all the time…even if you wait 3 months….he could change up 18 months later and who says change needs to be bad all the time…geesh. Ladies please stop wrapping your self-worth into your sex game…it is tired….the i am going to make him wait…or go get with a chick that will…thats tired too. IF that is the only thing you have going on in your life at this point…then you need to wake the hell up.

By Wise Diva

October 23, 2006 02:11 PM | Link to this

some guys really need to wait because if they suck in bed, that could kill the interest for the women. If you have at least have shown her you have a good heart, nice character, the women would probably overlook the lack of skills (well, it’s possible)

By FyreStarrter™ (yeah I know it's been awile...)

October 23, 2006 02:12 PM | Link to this

Hi MUSING! Thank you for the Falcons Blog Pin Sweetie! I will cherish it always! —muah!!

Kinder there is a lot of truth to it being about when YOU feel comfortable. But I think that oftentimes we put ourselves into situations that CLEARLY are not conducive to us saying no (aka Wise’ Friends Blockbuster Night lol). But Peach is right though about if you make the decision & it is indeed premature that you have to be prepared for the consequences. That’s the issue, most of the time as women we aren’t really looking past that moment when we get there because we are so caught up. There’s emotions, & hormones, & senses that are raging all over the place. And we like to THINK that our potential partner is rolling in that same direction. A lady can HOPE can’t she?

By Rell

October 23, 2006 02:17 PM | Link to this

kym, are you serious….how long did it take cowher to win one for the bus…..riiiight. I use to ride with the steelers until they made kordell the scapegoat of that front office/coach crap from back in the day….i was done with them after that….the steelers will not make it to the playoffs this year..bee lee dat…the falcons on the other hand will be going down to miami…book ya room….you know you see it…..

By SeanJohnson

October 23, 2006 02:18 PM | Link to this

@kindercare/ Peaches404 and SugarFoots/aka/Toysrus i am feeling your response..its not set time period on how soon..if you are feeling each other and want to take to there….do it..we are all adults and do adult things..BUT if a female think that i am gonna wait 60-90 days on her when she knew the first the 1st day what was gonna happened is crazy. she might as well bit the bullet…litterally because i would be finding a mature female able to handle herself in adult situations.

By FyreStarrter™ (yeah I know it's been awile...)

October 23, 2006 02:19 PM | Link to this

Rell Boo I agree with you, that if you think all you have going on in your life is your S.E.X then that is a sick sad world. BUT at the sametime that is unfortunately how a LOT of cats define the importance of a woman to them. They don’t have any positive relationship role models & they think that the way men talk to women in Hip Hop Videos is the way to treat a lady. And unfortunately as women because we don’t want to be alone, we buy into those same sterotypes too & allow ourselves to be disrespected in all ways possible. AND still we go looking for MORE punishment lol.

By Wise Diva

October 23, 2006 02:19 PM | Link to this

overhyped Quarterback? Kym, please!

ok, so Big Ben isn’t overhyped? At least Vick isn’t speeding down Peachtree on a motorcycle! LOL!

By melo

October 23, 2006 02:22 PM | Link to this

lah i will POP MY COLLAR to you player…lol. I love it…..-Rell

I was about to say the same, thanks for saying it.How can you have a ‘bananas’ date with some dude and not expect him to ‘test’ you on the physical side? Big ups Lahlah, but it looks like you play games like that.

By kinderbabe

October 23, 2006 02:25 PM | Link to this

wow! such great comments. i too like what peach said fyrestarrter about being prepared for the consequences either way. personally, i really suck at the bad consequences…lol. like you said that sense emotions, hormones and all types of senses are involved, it makes it hard to accept whent hings go wrong after the sex…especially when you don’t perceive sex as just a physical thang.

on a different note, everybody should try to check out a movie called emmanuel’s gift tonite at woodruff arts center. the movie is free. doors open at 7. movie starts at 8. it’s a great story about a man who lives in ghana that’s disabled. oprah is narrating the story. i’ve heard great things about it. check it out if you can!

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 23, 2006 02:25 PM | Link to this

Rell… Cowher has been there what 14 years? Fakecons have had 14 coaches in that time frame. An come on the Fakecons couldnt get past the Saints you really think they are going to Miami. Don’t put your money in that egg basket.

Wise…. the only place Ron Mexico is speeding to is the Clinic pick up those anti-itch anit-burn meds.

By Lil Demi

October 23, 2006 02:26 PM | Link to this

some guys really need to wait because if they suck in bed, that could kill the interest for the women.

The COLD-NESS!!! LOL

By QC

October 23, 2006 02:27 PM | Link to this

What’s up Miss Fyrre?

Hey Demi

By Rell

October 23, 2006 02:27 PM | Link to this

your right fyre…that is why it is time for us all to step our ish up…stop all the belly aching and just step up ya game…Alone….news flash…you will never be alone in atlanta…..true you have to pick thru the rift raft…but thats life…no need to worry bout dat….i say this to you sister, step up your game and the rift raft will not even think to look ya way..trust folks now who they can step to..and maybe your vibe is coming off as hittable….not hatin just sayin…switch up your game and you switch up the man….period

By Wise Diva

October 23, 2006 02:30 PM | Link to this

I am not shocked or awed that he invited me to his place, are you kiddin? I have dated long enough to see stuff like this coming, but seriously, this dude was talking one thing and his actions were saying another- THAT is what set my spidy senses off. I actually have a LOT of guy friends, some that I date, some that will stay in the friend zone because they are manwhores, and I know that. The only thing I want to do is spend time with someone who is wanting the same thing I want, at the same pace, or who is at least willing to agree on a pace that works for both of us.

By Lil Demi

October 23, 2006 02:31 PM | Link to this

she might as well bit the bullet…litterally because i would be finding a mature female able to handle herself in adult situations.

Amen…said while milking the blog cow

I am gonna make me some government’s cheese!!!

By melo

October 23, 2006 02:31 PM | Link to this

Ole dude was just around to occupy my time momentarily. gosh,that sounds mean-lahlah

This is good..from a playa perspective.Guys do this too and Lahlah is just like SOME ladies in the A.

By Rell

October 23, 2006 02:31 PM | Link to this

and the champs could not beat the falcons…cowher has been there 14yrs, true..but his track record at Pitt has been shaky, he just recently became the media darling again don’t trip. And big ben got his clock cleaned yesterday…i was screaming….come get ya clock, you know what time it is…..laying there like cube knock debo out…..

By FyreStarrter™ (yeah I know it's been awile...)

October 23, 2006 02:34 PM | Link to this

Wise You have a sista OVER HERE ROLLING ON THE FLOOR! MY SIDE HURT ON THAT ONE!!!

SeanJohnson bruh I’m confused, do you want a Mature woman or do you want a woman who does whatever she feels without consequences or regard for her actions? You can’t have it both ways sweetheart. Just because a woman is feeling you & does what YOU think she should do & gives it up, does not make it the right thing to do for her, OR YOU for that matter.

Ladies I used to be that one that I am talking about. The one that confused my S.E.X with LOVE. They are NOT the same thing & it takes a mature person(man or woman) to really know the difference.

By Wise Diva

October 23, 2006 02:35 PM | Link to this

wait a minute RELL, any chick breathing is hittable to some dudes, you JUST said yourself @ 9:11: man’s intentions if he is “dating” you…is…drumroll please……is to get him some “panties”……so ummm, don’t even try to make it seem as if women put out some vibe that we keep it low. A lot of guys just have wishful thinking..and shoot, if we DO decide WE want to hit, we will work that out, sometimes dudes mess it up for themselves yappin at the mouth trying to be a playa…pleeze

By G

October 23, 2006 02:36 PM | Link to this

I guess the “Squeeler” fans are feeling like Dennis Green today….”The FALCONS are who we thought they were; and we let them off the hook!”LOL!

On topic: If a man has a roster, he can afford to take his time and be a bit more patient. By roster, I mean a guy who is exploring dating options; dating around, but hasn’t found a S.O. yet.

By What?

October 23, 2006 02:39 PM | Link to this

kym do you bore the blog with your non-sports knowledge for basketball season?

• i sure hope the h3ll not -

how come you never “try” to stay on the blog topics daily, do you require that much attention from people you don’t see on daily basis?

Where is Musing & abc please share some laughter with us!!!!!

By ImAPeach404

October 23, 2006 02:39 PM | Link to this

Lol, I noticed that too Raqi!

Frye ummmm hmmmm girl, you can never be too careful. But I also like the Word document, b/c my girl might forget or the txt might not make it. Whenever I watch CSI, I always seem them checking the computer so….

Glad we could help Kinder :)

Oh, and ask questions about how they feel about the act itself as you’re getting to know them

Foots do you think you can get an honest answer to this question.

By Deep Dimples formerly aka Darkbuty

October 23, 2006 02:39 PM | Link to this

Kinder I like what Sexy/Raqi stated….it really boils down to you knowing yourself and being able to trust your instincts. You’ll know when the time is right and you feel secure and comfortable. If not, then you wait..and you wait…and you wait some more until it feels right for you (or your friends). You’re the one who will live with the decision and the consequences so it only needs to feel right to you and for you! I would tell a dude to bounce in a heartbeat if I knew he wouldn’t wait 60-90 days for me…he better make me think he’d wait a lifetime…even if he didn’t have to! But a gentleman wouldn’t put you on a timeline…and let you know the clock is ticking!

By FyreStarrter™ (yeah I know it's been awile...)

October 23, 2006 02:42 PM | Link to this

my Rell Something else that you & I actually agree on. Man are the pigs flying today or what? Just kidding boo. You KNOW I see it…

Hey Miss QC How are you sweetheart?

Oh yeah And the Saints game, was FIXED (h3ll I don’t even have a problem with it being fixed the people of the N.O deserved it & needed the lift-Watch something else besides videos Check out Spike Lee’s Katrtina). AND the coaching for that game WAS TERRIBLE as well. Hence a HUGE part of the Falcons problem, (personally I think some of the Vick Haters should get paid to do it because they do it so well lol) are COACHING related. NOT player related. Your players (for the most part-See my baby T.O. & Randy Moss lol) do what YOU TELL THEM TO DO. If what you are telling them to do ISN’T working, maybe it’s time for a new instruction manual, or h3ll even a new instructor!

By Lil Demi

October 23, 2006 02:42 PM | Link to this

Rell regarding your 2:27pm post, then why are most women still falling for the same trap?

By MusingLee

October 23, 2006 02:44 PM | Link to this

Now entering the blog with a Falcons uniform on showing my “tight end”, holding a lobster sandwich, a personal police report, and an HIV test….

“Ladies, come and get it!!!”

By Wise Diva

October 23, 2006 02:46 PM | Link to this

you could at least use your regular screen name if you want to clown somebody, LOL.

By Rell

October 23, 2006 02:46 PM | Link to this

i stand correct diva….your right. I use to be the master of the over-sale….i would campaign too hard…..i was so use to losing that i did not realized when i won….

By FyreStarrter™ (yeah I know it's been awile...)

October 23, 2006 02:47 PM | Link to this

ImAPeach404 OOh I watch CSI too, I definitely got to start doing that too. said as I also think about ways to hide my “Mature” Vids Collection from prying eyes if something DOES happen to me LOL

By SeanJohnson

October 23, 2006 02:48 PM | Link to this

@ WheretheresmoketheresaFYRE…all i am saying if you have to wait 90 days to decide to hve sx with someone maybe you are not ready mentally or emotionally to even be having sx let alone dating..after a certain age u should be in tune with your body and know and understand the emotional part with having sx and that men and women both have needs…know i will give you a pass if you are under 23..but we are all adults…thats unfair and sounds too much like you are dictacting the flow of the friendship.

By Lil Demi

October 23, 2006 02:48 PM | Link to this

And big ben got his clock cleaned yesterday…i was screaming….come get ya clock, you know what time it is…..laying there like cube knock debo out…..

The MEAN-NESS of the blog.

By FyreStarrter™ (yeah I know it's been awile...)

October 23, 2006 02:50 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ Musing Now that’s an image I would LOVE to see for myself lol.

By Rell

October 23, 2006 02:51 PM | Link to this

Demi i could get on my soap box with that one and ruffle a few feathers along the way..but i will lay the blame on the brothers…we need to step up the game…start respecting ourselves alittle more and the women will follow. And as men we still don’t see it. We still hanging on mama and big mama breast….We need to start taking control and let these females know about a man..not a boy. That means keeping your dyck in your pocket and focus on correcting our shortcomings so when we step to these females we step without flaw or spec…..feel me….

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 23, 2006 02:52 PM | Link to this

Peach Hopefully so, but at least you get to put what you feel out there on the table, you were honest about your expectations, and clear about what sex means to you. Granted, the conversation about that shouldn’t be held while you are naked, then he’d be liable to say anything. LOL!!

I haven’t always done this in the past, but lately, it’s brought the discrepancies in the thinking out in the open before anything happens. You may not even have to ask a direct question, just listen to what he says vs. his actions and you might get a hint.

By QC

October 23, 2006 02:53 PM | Link to this

I well Fyrre i was thinking about you the other day since you had’nt been around lately. I’m leaving at 3pm so you all have a nice warm evening

By ImAPeach404

October 23, 2006 02:55 PM | Link to this

I agree 100% with WD about men waiting. Id be more willing to deal with a limp peter if we had some substance behind our courtship/relationship. If I find out right off the bat that the sex is a disaster… theres no foundation built to make me want to stay.

on a different note, everybody should try to check out a movie called emmanuel’s gift…

My first thought: I know they aren’t still showing those Emmanuel movies that used to come on Cinnamax

• An come on the Fakecons couldnt get past the Saints*

Kym the whole world knows that was a charity game! See what them Saints lookin’ like when they come to Atlanta.

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 23, 2006 02:56 PM | Link to this

Wise most of the times those comments are some no name wannabe video hoe who is only looking at sports in the hopes of catching some baller with a fat roll. Hopeless hefer here’s a tip.. Men actually appreciate discussing sports with women when they know more than the team colors.

By FyreStarrter™ (yeah I know it's been awile...)

October 23, 2006 02:57 PM | Link to this

SeanJohnson All that sounds like to me is a simple ROLE REVERSAL. One sex has been dictating the flow of friendships forever & now that a few ladies are trying to stand up & turn things around for the BETTER, there’s a problem with someone dictating the friendship. No one here is denying that a person has needs (present company included). But I think that too often we put OUR needs in front of others & we step on more toes than there were shoes in Imelda Marcos’ closet. And sweetie, we are HUMAN BEINGS & I am sorry but whilst after a certain age we should be able to recognize our emotions for what they are, that does NOT make them any easier to ignore. They are there & after so long a time of training ourselves to ignore them, yes they do go away, But the SHELLS we have become in the process unfortunately, REMAIN.

By Sidelines

October 23, 2006 02:58 PM | Link to this

Musing/Demi, ROTFLMAO….lol! Fun neee…whhhooo!

Sheer amusement alone, is worth the lurking…lol!

By kinderbabe

October 23, 2006 02:58 PM | Link to this

seanjohnson i think the opposite of your statement. waiting for a person just means that they know that’s a good enough observation period for them to feel comfortable about doing the do. i don’t think it’s necessarily a sign of “maturity” when a person separates love from sex and chalks it up to just “keeping it real.” i know that as i get older, i shy away from those hit it and quit it situations (regardless of what my body’s telling me) and gauge whether dude is somebody i can have something meaningful with. that’s why we have dates and dating situation b/c everybody’s not meant to get all up in the mix with. if he/she is not the one or even looking like potential, keep it light…

By Wise Diva

October 23, 2006 02:59 PM | Link to this

RELL. Both men and women need to work on that inner game, seriously..it’s really tough to get to a deeper connection when you meet people who are in a different place than you are. I don’t knock the stick and move folks (boi, i miss those days sometimes) but when you want to get a handle on who the person is, at least past 2 dates, you have to let the person know what you are about and STICK to it, don’t just be sayin stuff cuz it sounds good!

By MusingLee

October 23, 2006 02:59 PM | Link to this

Yo’Mama so stupid…She made a right turn onto Freedom Parkway and thought she was on her way to Freedom!

By Tazzee

October 23, 2006 03:00 PM | Link to this

Afternoon folks!

GO FALCONS!!!! I knew Vick was going to show off yesterday.

And quite frankly, I’m surprised at you Kym you usually take your losses like a champ. and since you’ve had to experience 4…well, by now your concession speech should be memorized

Seriously though - that was an excellent game yesterday. THANKS FALCONS!!!

On topic - can’t even speak on it. Lately, I haven’t dated enough to get to the home dates. If I get to a second date - I’m surprised.

By Hot Sauce

October 23, 2006 03:01 PM | Link to this

Musing what does your Police Report say??

By Rell

October 23, 2006 03:02 PM | Link to this

@demi, football is a mean sport…and trust if they would have broke up vick you would have heard all manner of crap this morning….big ben just took one on the chin thats all….he will be cool…..but in the spirit of the game..the goal of any d-line men…is to kill the quarterback…period

By Tazzee

October 23, 2006 03:11 PM | Link to this

Oh and I went to see For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow is Enuf while in Atlanta this past weekend. I can’t recall who was saying that we don’t support good theatre, but that place was sold out and it was 99% of us. If you are a female and you haven’t seen this play - please make it a point to see it. Excellent!

By Lil Demi

October 23, 2006 03:11 PM | Link to this

Rell you have me reflecting on my past right about now…I became a dog just to get laid more often…I am glad I’ve pulled myself out of that negative and dangerous mind set

By Dee-Lish

October 23, 2006 03:12 PM | Link to this

* RELL* - I feel you!!! That is the MOST real thing said today. Brothers have got to step there game up… I don’t see why the wonder why their actions are so often viewd as suspect.

By ImAPeach404

October 23, 2006 03:12 PM | Link to this

Lol @ Foots… you forgot the ‘talk before naked’ disclaimer in your first post!

Oh yea… that question I had earlier about meeting the mom… he mentioned that very topic while we were talking on my lunch break. I didn’t even have to think of a smooth way to phrase my question :)

By MusingLee

October 23, 2006 03:14 PM | Link to this

HotSauce My Police Report says “Now F/k wit It!!!”….LOLOLOLOL…hahahaha

By FyreStarrter™ (yeah I know it's been awile...)

October 23, 2006 03:15 PM | Link to this

Rell Yeah I was even worried a bit about Big Ben when it took more than one of the chin yesterday. But truth be told that is what happens to Vick all the time. So lets just say when it happens to an opposing quarterback (AFTER they walk away from it of course) that it’s a consolation for all the dirty pool QB’s with a sorry offensive line have to endure. there I said it lol

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

October 23, 2006 03:18 PM | Link to this

Interesting topic. My comment is that the ‘video’ thing on the second date is a touch lame. If the object is just ‘hit it and get it’, then why not just go to her place or yours with the comment, “I have a bottle of really nice wine chilling at my place I have been saving for someone special like you. Want to just go to my place, relax, chill out and just talk”.

For me, it is farther into a relationship before I want her in my place. That is my space, and I guard it. Maybe after I am three or four dates in, I will do dinner and wine at my place, but not before. Until I know a lady isn’t a throwback to “Play Misty for Me” or “Fatal Attraction”, I don’t want my space invaded. I may go to her place and chill if she invites me, but until I am past the “two dates behind us and I still want to see you again” thing…no way.

Re the respect issue. I would not sleep with a lady unless I respected her (have, but not in a long time). If she isn’t interesting outside of bed, she isn’t interesting in bed either.

By ImAPeach404

October 23, 2006 03:18 PM | Link to this

Hey Tazzee, I’ve been waiting on you girl…. GO FALCONS!!!!!!

By Lil Demi

October 23, 2006 03:20 PM | Link to this

Rell I have a feeling that Big Ben’s career may be cut short…One to many black outs is never a good thing…Ask mike Tyson

And another thing GO Dolphins!!!

By jraw

October 23, 2006 03:21 PM | Link to this

@KYM I guess you have taken you lumps today, so I won’t kick you while you down :)! I like the way you stand tall even in defeat, so I will let you slide today, but as a true Falcons fan I wonder what we will do next week. P.S. I know you will be cheering for the Falcons next week because the Bengals are a divisonal foe of the Squeelers. Jump on the Bandwagon.

@Tazzee You must be doing something wrong not to get a 2nd date. Wow!

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 23, 2006 03:21 PM | Link to this

@Tazzee I made my comment earlier this morning and I was nice. It is when the lone lurking potshot artist start that I normally react. An dont be funny my dear because you know the Fakecons wrote the book on What had happen was.

By SeanJohnson

October 23, 2006 03:22 PM | Link to this

@ Fyre…everybody is not in the same stage of life that you are..earlier u were saying “you was that woman” who had sx and feelings mixed up..that means YOU not every female..its okay for you to be the spokesperson and u sound well doing it…but the stage u are in..a few years from now u wont be saying that same speach. trust me

@ Kinder….time is something we cannot get back..and it waits for no man..or woman for that matter..so how would u feel that while u sing that janet jackson lets wait a while song…dude was like ok…but getting his for else where on the low…

By NCgirlfromATL

October 23, 2006 03:23 PM | Link to this

SJ all i am saying if you have to wait 90 days to decide to hve sx with someone maybe you are not ready mentally or emotionally to even be having sx let alone dating.

Delurking for a minute…

To a point, I agree with you. I don’t think a specific time limit is the best course of action. But, I do believe that if you are looking for a relationship, and not just a one-night stand or a sex-only interaction, that you should take some time to get to know someone before you sleep with them. Besides telling me “always act like a lady” my mama also always told me not to lay down with anyone I wouldn’t want to have kids with. While birth control has vastly improved since 1971 when I was born, I think the sentiment still holds.

On the Blockbuster thing, I don’t have any problems w/a BB night. I would prefer it be after we’ve been out a few times, so I can gauge whether or not I feel safe enough to be alone w/ you. But, I don’t have any other problems with it, and often suggest it myself. And it means just that, a Blockbuster night. If more is going to happen, he’ll know loooong before the movie starts. lololol!! Otherwise, sit back, prop your feet up and pass the popcorn.

By Rell

October 23, 2006 03:24 PM | Link to this

yep stepping the game up starts with your lookin the mirror in the morning…..you decide your attitude….i was telling my friend the other day…he was complaining about the quality of his women…i am like switch up your fishing hole dude…..i said there are alot of top-notch females at the gym…you want some to respect, find somebody that respects there body enough to keep it fit….that one avenue….and i am not saying you have to be all ms fit usa..but at least try to limit the combo meals to friday night…lol

By Hot Sauce

October 23, 2006 03:24 PM | Link to this

Now searching for police report # for said Musing Lee, there seems to be a “big mistake” on his report….

By Deep Dimples formerly aka Darkbuty

October 23, 2006 03:34 PM | Link to this

@SeanJ: Are you willing to commit solely to one female within 60-90days of getting to know her? I mean…if she’s giving it up to you within that timeframe…are you ready to be committed to her and only her?

By MusingLee

October 23, 2006 03:34 PM | Link to this

Now doing the “Dirty Bird” dance outside of Atlantic Station trying to earn a free Lobster Sandwich as the first one has seemingly vanished….punching passer by in the nose for noticing Lobster crumbs hanging from lips

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 23, 2006 03:35 PM | Link to this

so how would u feel that while u sing that janet jackson lets wait a while song…dude was like ok…but getting his for else where on the low…

I’d feel like he’s really into meaningless sex. If dude thinks that way, then I guess he better not tell me or else he can keep looking for his cheap thrills out on the scene.

And man…you so wrong for the ToysRUs name you gave me!! LOL!!

By Kym aka Southern Girl

October 23, 2006 03:37 PM | Link to this

JRaw What kind of loser fair weather fakecons fan would I be if I gave up on my team even with a loss?

Seriously it was a good game. We made some mistakes that the Fakecons captialized on. Now we play the Raiders next week who I dont care win lose are die their fans are just wild. An lawd they won yesterday so they are on a roll… let me stop Raiders fans will cut you.

I cant cheer for either one of them next week. Booo Bungals and Fakecons. Boooo!!!

By FyreStarrter™ (yeah I know it's been awile...)

October 23, 2006 03:38 PM | Link to this

SJ Aww boo, you DO care lol. You know what they say, somethings change, AND somethings stay the same. I chose to not to regress. Only forward progress, just trying to motivate my fellow sisters to keep ya heads up. It’s rough out here for real. I still say being yourself BY YOURSELF is way better then being by yourself mixed up in someone else’ sick & twisted agenda.

NCGirlfromATL You & I had the same Momma just different Postal Codes! LOL

By SeanJohnson

October 23, 2006 03:40 PM | Link to this

@ NCATLIEN….so how long does it take to get to know someone? i am a thorough comunicator..i ask questions..i pry…u can even call me nosey…so females that i want to get involved with..i try my best to get to know them and it doenst months to do it..

By JustMe

October 23, 2006 03:40 PM | Link to this

Hello All I know this is late, proollyy beeeennnnn said repeatedly, but the Falcons tapped up on dem Steelants yesterday!!!

Wooooooo hoooooooo

musing come do dat dance on my window ledge I got a lil sum’n sum’n for ya :-)

By Thick

October 23, 2006 03:40 PM | Link to this

I obviously am working to hard today and need to be blogging.

By FyreStarrter™ (yeah I know it's been awile...)

October 23, 2006 03:41 PM | Link to this

Musing I see you from my home office window! Stop that mess & go inside before one of these crazy people calls the Po-Po on you!

By abc

October 23, 2006 03:41 PM | Link to this

@Tazzee, emphasis on the being female to dig that play… right up there with ‘Vagina Monologues’! ladies, puhLEEZE don’t make your guys take you to those for a date, guaranteed he won’t suffer through that unless he thinks something’s happenin afterwards! One of those plays is worth at least 5 ‘Blockbusters at my house’, ha.

By kinderbabe

October 23, 2006 03:42 PM | Link to this

seanjohnson is i waited 60-90 days and dude was getting his groove on elsewhere, then he was thinking about w/the wrong head anyway. i mean for real, that’s not a long time to wait in the grand scheme of things. that doesn’t sound like a very mature person that can’t go w/out gettin any. sounds like some 18 year old ish.

By Chink

October 23, 2006 03:43 PM | Link to this

* Wanda Sykes*

They say men are dogs ……hell no dogs are loyal

Sorry thought it was funny …

By Rell

October 23, 2006 03:45 PM | Link to this

funniest moment yesterday is seeing the steelers recieving corps..”walking it out” after the touchdown…then the ref flagging them for celebrating…..lol

By ImAPeach404

October 23, 2006 03:47 PM | Link to this

…so I can gauge whether or not I feel safe enough to be alone w/ you.

You know, this reminds me: I met this guy and he worked weird hours. We met up for pizza about 11pm on Saturday night… stayed there for about an hour, then we decided to call it a night. He asked if I wanted to stop by BB and get a movie, and watch it at my house. I told him no, and kept it moving.

So, the next week he gets fired from his job. He’s all down and out and not and extra mad about the whole situation. He’s talking about his car note, bills, and whatnot. I ask him if he had any money save? No… So, I’m like “well, what are you going to do?”. He was like “I guess I’ll have to do what I have to do. I’ve had to rob people in the past so I can eat… aint nothing different about this time.”

Man, I was SOOOO glad I didn’t invite dude back to my house after pizza night. His mind could have started flashing back to all the nice things in my apt and hit me up while I was at work one day!!!

When I think of all the crazy stuff I use to do in my teens & early 20’s… I probably could have been murdered about 5 times now!

By SeanJohnson

October 23, 2006 03:49 PM | Link to this

@ Dark Deep…i am an honest dude so i will answer as best i can….you dont plan on love or even know when it happens..you just wake up and you are in love…no time frames..no warning..no nothing..so its possible…3 things i dont play with and respect…GOD..,my lil SJ and love..

By FyreStarrter™ (yeah I know it's been awile...)

October 23, 2006 03:51 PM | Link to this

chink gyrl that dayumn Wanfa Sykes hit on the head with that one! Thanks for the laugh!

By Lil Demi

October 23, 2006 03:52 PM | Link to this

They say men are dogs ……hell no dogs are loyal

Dogs are loyal to their owner, never to some female…

Hey Chink

By JustMe

October 23, 2006 03:52 PM | Link to this

Kym I tried like hayo te get hold of a terrible towel………. I guess alls well that ends well cause y’all needed them to dry those weeping eyes - LOL tee hee hee

Fyre Long time no read! How’ve you been?

By Lil Demi

October 23, 2006 03:55 PM | Link to this

Yo mamee so dumb, she thought it was ok to strip at the Strip(Atlantic Station)

By Rell

October 23, 2006 03:57 PM | Link to this

chink i use to say that all the time…..how you been lady

By FyreStarrter™ (yeah I know it's been awile...)

October 23, 2006 03:58 PM | Link to this

JustMe Hey luv what’s up? Fyre has been on the grind & in the abyss. Trying to come up now…. How’s things with you?

By MusingLee

October 23, 2006 03:59 PM | Link to this

Now doing a full groin stretch for Fyre as she peers through her home office window….Legs spread apart and “tight end” glistening in the sunlight….Now doing squats and toe touches

By FyreStarrter™ (yeah I know it's been awile...)

October 23, 2006 04:05 PM | Link to this

Musing you are killing me here! I am trying to study & it’s like Robin Hood, Men in Tights outside!! I like the show but cut it out or I ‘ll never get anything done! lol

By Chink

October 23, 2006 04:07 PM | Link to this

Hey All

Hey Rell I am good and u? I hope all is good at the Home.

By aggressively witty

October 23, 2006 04:10 PM | Link to this

I swear to god I am going to start my company that does singing slapograms to people that I work with that I hate. These muh fuggas might be the dumbest people on earth.

By Lah Lah

October 23, 2006 04:11 PM | Link to this

sean but what if it hasen’t gotten to the love part. You say you are inquisitive and on the verge of being nosey, you ask a lot of questions in order to get to know someone. But why are you trying to get to know them? Just so you can then try and hit or because you are interested in possibly making a connection and developing something with that person?

By abc

October 23, 2006 04:13 PM | Link to this

Yo mama so ugly she had to tie a steak around her neck to get the dog to play with her. That dog loyal to her now, though.

By aggressively witty

October 23, 2006 04:14 PM | Link to this

That shyt was geigh

By NCgirlfromATL

October 23, 2006 04:16 PM | Link to this

so how long does it take to get to know someone? i am a thorough comunicator..i ask questions..i pry…u can even call me nosey…so females that i want to get involved with..i try my best to get to know them and it doenst months to do it..

SJ I don’t know. It’s different for every couple. Some couples click right away, and have such good communication that they feel very comfortable with each other relatively quickly. Others have to work at it a little more. Working at it doesn’t mean that it’s a bad match, it just means they have to put some effort into it. Anything worth having is worth working for, right?

Here’s a question for you. What if, during your nosey prying (which, by the way, is a quality I love in a guy when I first meet him…again, it’s all about the effort) she tells you something you didn’t expect to hear, such as she’s a virgin or has been cellibate for several years? Would that stop you in your tracks? If not, how would you adjust? This is supposing that you and she have had the best time together. You are really clicking, and you are both really digging each other.

By Hot Sauce

October 23, 2006 04:17 PM | Link to this

Musing you are too much!

Have a nice evening everyone, wrap up tonight it’s going to be a cold night & morning

Note to self pull out my 2 favorite blankets out of hall closet, cause that’s all i have to keep me warm :(

By JustMe

October 23, 2006 04:17 PM | Link to this

Fyre THings are good with me. Looks like Musing missed u the most.

By FyreStarrter™ (yeah I know it's been awile...)

October 23, 2006 04:22 PM | Link to this

Agg lol boo that’s funny for real & a sorely needed service. Some people will go broke paying for all those dayuum slapograms!

By Lil Demi

October 23, 2006 04:22 PM | Link to this

How about some, “Yo Daddy” joke?

By Sweet Tea

October 23, 2006 04:22 PM | Link to this

Musing you’re gonna get locked up acting like that outside of Fyre’s office showing all yo taco meat i know yo azz is cold lolololololololol!!! :-0

By cool breeze

October 23, 2006 04:24 PM | Link to this

I think this is a case of someone wise diva who is doing the thinking for their date and putting what is in their mind and actions something that isn’t there. Why not just take the man at his word that all he wanted to do was spend more time with you watching movies rather than like aloit of folk being skeptical, scared and thinking too much about what COULD happen instyead of what IS happening and being in the moment and having a good time. You seem to be thinking about each and every action and thing he says and putting YOUR interpretation on it and complicating a situation and thinking of future complications instead of enjoying your time with dude.

By FyreStarrter™ (yeah I know it's been awile...)

October 23, 2006 04:25 PM | Link to this

NCGirlFromATL That’s a GOOD question that I think we should POLL all the mens of the blog with? Guys what would happen if a lady you are clicking with told you such things? asking my my pinky finger turned up & my Dr. Evil Smirk on my face

By Rell

October 23, 2006 04:26 PM | Link to this

chink everything is good…lol

By MusingLee

October 23, 2006 04:29 PM | Link to this

Demi That’s cause you can’t start a fight with a “Yo’Daddy” joke…”Unless it’s Yo Daddy, so Ugly I thought he was Yo’Mama!!!”

By Wise Diva

October 23, 2006 04:29 PM | Link to this

naw, it’s not really that deep cool breeze, I actually enjoy being in a guy’s company without even monitoring what it MEANS every given moment. When HE talks up the relationship talk, then follows up with something else, I just take notice. That’s all. If our date ended at the comedy night, I wouldn’t even have this entry written. It’s all good for me to be on the wait and see program, because I like the wait part, it’s the best part. If I wanted to hit that, believe me, what he said or did to change my mind would have been on him. straight up.

By Sweet Tea

October 23, 2006 04:31 PM | Link to this

Night night all!

By FyreStarrter™ (yeah I know it's been awile...)

October 23, 2006 04:32 PM | Link to this

Sweet Tea is right Musing Put on a heavy coat ok sweetie(or even some dayuum long johns lol), I wouldn’t want you to catch pneumonnia out here!

Cool Breeze Past events are many times indicative of future results. I think Wise has been through enough to know game when it presents itself. It’s just up to her whether or not she’s interested in playing. That getting caught up in the moment stuff is what kills us in the long run. If you don’t have anymore cards how are you supposed to stack the deak?

By abc

October 23, 2006 04:33 PM | Link to this

I told yo daddy he I knew he was DL, and he hit me with his purse.

By aggressively witty

October 23, 2006 04:34 PM | Link to this

yo daddy so dumb he thought a monkey wrench was something they used at the zoo.

yo daddy got a boyfriend/chevy rainbowed like he brights twin/you sad cause ya pops a shem

yo daddy so fat he uses the eqautor as a belt.

yo daddy look like shabba ranks

yo daddy so lazy he declined work release

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 23, 2006 04:35 PM | Link to this

Interesting counterpoint, cool breeze. That might be a good topic for another day: Do we spend too much time overanalyzing over “what could happen”, rather than enjoying “what is”? Do our experiences cause us to throw up red flags too early and do we really do this out of experience (because all situations are different) or out of fear (being afraid that it will end up like the previous experience)? Hmmmm…. I know I’m SO guilty of that.

By Rell

October 23, 2006 04:36 PM | Link to this

i am out folks…..it’s been real

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 23, 2006 04:38 PM | Link to this

Agg Wit Shabba Ranks?!? No, no…Craig Mack!!! LOL!!!

By MusingLee

October 23, 2006 04:39 PM | Link to this

JustMe Yo’Mama so old, that she has the original ticket stub she used to get into the Parting the Red Sea afterparty!

By Wise Diva

October 23, 2006 04:41 PM | Link to this

guys kill me when they think women spazz out and wait with bated breath, to be chosen as their life mate..good grief, if you men only knew. A lot of women are just taking dating with a grain of salt, like me…it takes me quite a while to take a guy seriously, and that’s because what I am looking for, what I want is not going to happen overnight, and I have no expectations that it should happen only when I think it should - but I am looking for a mutual vibe, and he knows I didn’t give him a second date, yea..we hitting the sheets vibe, umm, not even. The Sunday date was the best part of it because we were acting silly and laughing, and relaxed, and before ya’ll tag me as a gold digger, he bought breakfast, I tipped the table, and copped him a Starbucks coffee.

By Deep Dimples formerly aka Darkbuty

October 23, 2006 04:42 PM | Link to this

@NC…SeanJ has said before that he doesn’t do the virgin thing…and if my memory recalls…he doesn’t really think a woman will hold to that celibacy thingy she proclaiming…but if she does…then that’s not the woman for him…

I think I got it right SeanJ…that’s what you said before…

By SeanJohnson

October 23, 2006 04:48 PM | Link to this

@ LahLah…time is valuable and time is money..I dont like my time wasted nor to i like to waste peoples time..so in my gettin to know you stage i am trying to see the compatibility me and a female are in and/or out of the bedroom…plus i do my homework…like everyone should..off the rip if its just physical i am always straight up

@ NCATLIEN…believe or not..i kicked with a so called virgin recently…she was cool…and i made sure told and showed her i respected her staying innocent for so long..but u know its a twist to this story..while she had never been penetrated ..she was a head nurse…now i could have questioned that fact that she was into orl sx and that is sx..and technically she wasnt a virgin..but i left well enough alone..on the flip side i have dates females that have the same mentality about sx that men have..and i respect that too because they tend to be more honest and upfront..and thats importantant..knwoing wht u get or what u are getting into..

By Lil Demi

October 23, 2006 04:51 PM | Link to this

yo daddy look like shabba ranks

followed by…yo mama so dumb for f/k’n him

By FyreStarrter™ (yeah I know it's been awile...)

October 23, 2006 04:51 PM | Link to this

One more thing before I go… GP ARE YOU WIT ME!!! OH YEAH!!! What’s up ladies!!!! Guess who’s back ha ha ha ha!

By NCgirlfromATL

October 23, 2006 04:54 PM | Link to this

Dark The virgin thing was just and example of an answer he might not expect. It could also be that she was the victim of domestic abuse, or had a child that died. My point is, how well do men/women take their mate “as is?” We all want some level of no-drama, no-baggage-ness, but that’s impossible. But, if you’re really clicking with someone, and find out something that might be jaw-dropping, but doesn’t necessarily reflect badly on that person, are you going to let the relationship take its course, or bail out? I guess the Blog-Train hadn’t made it to my stop when the virgin convo happened, so I didn’t see SJ’s answer.

But, since it’s almost 5:00…I guess this is a question for another day.

Good night all!*

By Foots (aka SugarFoots)

October 23, 2006 04:54 PM | Link to this

SeanJ That chick uses the Bill Clinton definition of sex. LOL!!

same mentality about sx that men have..

Which is what? Can you answer that tomorrow if time runs out today?

By Tazzee

October 23, 2006 04:55 PM | Link to this

been in meetings.

Kym you’re right, I apologize - you didn’t get gully with it until after that lurker post.

jraw actually, I’m the one that won’t let it get past the first date. Just not that interested in putting forth the effort unless a man REALLY knocks me off my feet and since that hasn’t happened I move on. Guess you can say I’m not the type to use a guy as a distraction until something better comes along.

By Thick

October 23, 2006 04:55 PM | Link to this

Good Nite All check in tomorrow. Have a great evening.

By Deep Dimples formerly aka Darkbuty

October 23, 2006 04:56 PM | Link to this

@SeanJ: Changing your MO these days….that’s good to know

By Wise Diva

October 23, 2006 04:57 PM | Link to this

Have a good evening!

By FyreStarrter™ (yeah I know it's been awile...)

October 23, 2006 04:59 PM | Link to this

Now SugarFoots sweetie you KNOW we do NOT have time to start that train today! sigh lol

Night Everyone!

By Lah Lah

October 23, 2006 05:01 PM | Link to this

What up Fyre