By Kym aka Rested and Relax

December 1, 2006 08:46 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

I think it is important to discuss the spread of AIDS and to encourage people to gain awareness of all STDs.

I would not dating someone who I knew up front had HIV or AIDS..not because I feel that they are unloveable or outcast but because I know the risks up front and frankly dont feel that I would be secure enough to deal with the responsiblity.

However if I was already in a committed relationship (marriage, living together etc..) and my partner contracted HIV then I cant say that is a death sentence for the relationship..there are alot of factors to consider..how did he contract it was it because he was out “wildcatting” and got trapped then yes it is over because the trust level is gone. Did he have it before and never told me? That too is a trust issue. For me I have to know the how and why if there is a serious committment going on before I say I can no longer continue the relationship.

By Storm

December 1, 2006 09:17 AM | Link to this

What up blog!!

Had my annual on Tuesday and I am proud to announce I am HIV negative. DO get tested!

ON TOPIC: I agree with Kym - I don’t know that I’d be capable of handling the responsibility off the top. However, if I were in a loving relationship and down the road my SO received a diagnosis, I might feel differently about it. My SO was speaking of marriage before my labs returned and I said perhaps we should wait on that. He said that the level of commitment was beyond that, that at this point, we would be figuring out how we could live with whatever. My heart melted! And we haven’t even slept together. It’s beautiful! sigh

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 09:20 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

I wouldn’t look to date someone HIV positive…But, depending on the circumstances I’m sure it’s possible to fall for someone that has it…But, that wouldn’t be ideal for me….I feel the same about other STD’s also…Yet, a large portion of people do have herpes, I would prefer someone just as virus free as I am…I’m sure I’ve gone out with someone that has had something…But I don’t stick my wang in er’thang walking either.

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 09:24 AM | Link to this

Storm That was beautiful this serenade is for you.

Singing

Pour the wine, light the fire, girl your wish is my command….I’ll make love to you, like you want me tooooooo

Now take that man by the hand and lead him to the smash couch.

By Slim

December 1, 2006 09:28 AM | Link to this

Storm You’ve got a keeper. Hold on tight!!!!

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 09:29 AM | Link to this

Heeeeeeeey Storm How are you doing?

By Storm

December 1, 2006 09:32 AM | Link to this

I’d like to add that I’ve been referred to a breast surgeon because of a lump that was diagnosed as a cyst, but dispite having been drained has not dissipated. Question: Would the possibility of cancer send any of you running??

By Storm

December 1, 2006 09:38 AM | Link to this

Thanks, Musing. I’ma pour soma that wine out for you ‘cause some woman somewhere is kicking herself right now for letting you get away! LOL How are the wedding plans coming?

Yes, Slim, he is a keeper! I’ma squeeze da hellz outta him! LMAO

Demi, I’m wandaful! hehehe! How are you?? How’s skydiver chick?? :P

By QC

December 1, 2006 09:42 AM | Link to this

Hey Storm What’s up Bloggers!!!!

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 09:44 AM | Link to this

Nope, Breasts or no breasts you are still the one and only Sexual, but Classy Lady Storm

By Storm

December 1, 2006 09:57 AM | Link to this

Good morning QC*!

I’ma pour soma that wine out for you, too, Demi!

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 09:58 AM | Link to this

Storm The wedding plans are going slowly. We’ve both been busy, but it’s definatly going by November of 07…I’m sure a few girls are kicking themselves right now…Hellz some of my coworkers saw her ring and I’m sure there kicking too…LOLOLOLOLOL

Coworker chick: Did you see that ring girl?!?! Ishhh, I should’a been his Buttahead.

hahahahahahaha..Thanks

By read this

December 1, 2006 10:00 AM | Link to this

A book recommendation that is on topic:

Faith Under Fire:Betrayed by a Thing Called Love by Lajoyce Brookshire

I can’t find a summary online, but it is basically a true story about the author Lajoyce’s relationship to her husband. She married a man that was HIV positive and new it when they meet but married her anyway. His whole family knew and was in on it. Basically she tells how she dealt with it from a “What would Jesus do?” standpoint and how she overlooked things in the beginning of their relationship. It was a great read and really demonstrated how to walk by faith and believe in God no matter what you circumstances look like.

By Bre'

December 1, 2006 10:03 AM | Link to this

Greetings this morning to all….ahhh its Friday!

Awareness is key and getting tested…the fact we have to look at is according to new stats AIDS will be the number 3 killer in American soon. That’s huge…and sista’s are moving fast to the top of that list.

I’ve had a few relatives pass from AIDS and some alive and doing well with HIV. I’ve never dated anyone that carried the virus. If I was deep into the relationship it would be alot to take on, but I don’t think its impossible to handle. Some people run away from things that they have no knowledge of or which carries a stigma. You have to educate yourself and your partner when dealing with it all STD, HIV, Cancer or whatever it is.

By Storm

December 1, 2006 10:04 AM | Link to this

You crazy Musing! Have you guys picked colors, number of bridesmaids, location?

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 10:05 AM | Link to this

Storm Oh skydiver chick dumped me last night…my 1 and a half months of walking cloud 9 is over, back to reality

By Laney

December 1, 2006 10:07 AM | Link to this

that’s a great question, Storm. I had a friend who was diagnosed with cancer at age 25…thankfully she survived with flying colors, but it did end up putting the kibosh on the relationship she was in at the time, mostly because she felt too sick to go out on dates and needed to focus on her own health rather than the energy of maintaining a relationship. Would be interested to hear others’ experience with serious illness in relationships, etc….

By runninatl

December 1, 2006 10:09 AM | Link to this

Morning folk. It’s all serious on Friday, dang…lol.

HIV/STD awareness is important. I don’t think I could date someone with HIV nor would I want to date someone if I knew I had it. I’m not disagreeing with the fact that you can have a fulfilling life with HIV or other STDs, but if I had it, I wouldn’t want to worry about the potential risks of passing it on to the woman I love or vice versa. I guess I think knowing that I gave it to someone else would be worse than finding out I had it myself. I would be content to just live the rest of my life single and just chill. A lot of that has to do with the fact that I was married before and I have children. I’m not saying I would disappear to a log cabin in the mountains somewhere and whither away either….lol.

I remember the first time I got tested after they changed the consent rules and made you sign that form that said you agree to come back in if your HIV test is positive for counseling and treatment and all that. But if you did not acknowledge your positive tests results at all, then the CDC will come find your azz! That hit home with me but I’m glad that they are taking that stance with the testing. I wonder how that rule works with anonymous testing though?

I can admit that I don’t like going to the doctor or even the dentist for that matter. I also don’t like the process for waiting for my tests results to come back and the anxiety, but you gotta do it!

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 10:10 AM | Link to this

SexyStorm She is probably picking all three as I type…LOLOLOLOL

No colors, but there will be coloreds..hahahaha….Bridesmaids will be plentiful cause she can’t tell her friends NO…and I hope the location is affordable…LOL…We have about 3 places in mind…We’re actually leaning towards a Disney wedding…Less work more money!

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

December 1, 2006 10:13 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone!!

I would not date anyone with AIDS or any other incurable STD if I knew in advance. I would only stay with a fiance or husband if he contracted the disease. That level of commitment would strictly be reserved for those who I have decided to spend a lifetime with.

I think everyone should do their part to get tested and go even further to get educated. I hope people don’t have a narrow view that this is only a gay disease or a drug users’ disease. Education is key

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 10:19 AM | Link to this

runnin With the CDC being right here in town, anyone ever wonder why Atlanta has such a high ratio of HIV/AIDS in blacks here? I’m not saying conspiracy, I just find it interesting…Maybe the higher priority is studying the area instead of halting the spread here.

By DuShawn

December 1, 2006 10:20 AM | Link to this

My wife’s father died of AIDS on October 31, 2004. I watched him go from a loud, boisterous, intimidating brotha to a weak, feeble old man in two years. A few days before he past away, my wife and I went to see him. He barely had enough strength to speak. He called me to his bed side and made me promise to take care of his little girl. To this day, I have been doing just that. Every Halloween my wife is sad. This disease has profoundly affected our family.

By Storm

December 1, 2006 10:25 AM | Link to this

I can understand your friend needing to focus on recovery/remission, Laney, and I understand why she would withdraw from a relationship. It’s an aweful lot to ask of someone. On the other hand, life happens. Can’t run from every challenge. I’m happy to hear she kicked hellz outta it.

I wonder how that rule works with anonymous testing though?

Good question.

I’m so sorry Demi. You seemed so happy. May I ask what happened??

By Got the package

December 1, 2006 10:27 AM | Link to this

I’m out there dating and living with HIV. Realistically, it does lead to some brutal smackdowns, but I know many friends who have gotten married, or settled down in long term relationships after they tested HIV positive. I’ve also been in relationships with HIV negative partners too.

It isn’t as rare as some people think. Most folks don’t give the possibility a thought, unless they run across it on a blog like this, then they go back to a life where “other people” have that, and it’s someone else’s problem.

By hazel

December 1, 2006 10:27 AM | Link to this

Hai Everybody Hai Storm—hugss - its gavi Im luving what u said!! too nice..

Personally i am joining the boat with all who said that currently they would not date someone who is HIV/AIDS positive! This is soemthing very serious and i take is that seriously as well. I will ask my guy to get tested before getting physical for sure. U just don’t know now a days.

By Tiff

December 1, 2006 10:29 AM | Link to this

Mornin’All,

Storm That man of yours sounds like a really great guy. Congrats and hold on tight girl!!

On topic: I think that I would be ok dating someone with HIV. A lot of questions would have to be asked about how they got it, how are they protecting themselves and potential partners, etc. Would how they got it be a factor in whether I would date them? Yes..drug use/same gender sexual activities would exclude him.

I know a 16 year old girl that was born with HIV that has slept with 10+ guys her age and older. She know she has it (like I stated she was born with it) however the guys she gets involved with don’t. Her foster mom has tried to stop her but her response is that if she can live with it so can they. She sounds hard but she’s hurting and this is how she’s dealing with it. Scary, I know.

To date I am HIV/STD free (last tested in October ‘06..and yes, when I get my annual I get tested for everything) but that can change in a moment whether I’ve had sex every day for the past 6 months or haven’t had sex in 6 years (protected or not since nothing is 100% foolproof).

Knowing friends in college with various STDs I’ve had the opportunity to seriously think about whether I would date someone with an STD. As Musing stated herpes is common, I don’t want it but I can certainly live with it and I have friends that are happily married for 12 years with it (she has it, he doesn’t). Its all about awareness and protecting those you love and care about.

By hazel

December 1, 2006 10:31 AM | Link to this

Also, people who get in relationships, don’t inform the other person of their situation and somehow, don’t see nothing wrong in spreading the disease.

By Tiff

December 1, 2006 10:34 AM | Link to this

For those that haven’t been tested for a while and hate to wait anxiously for results for 2+ days, I want to make you aware that their is rapid HIV testing. Meaning that you get your results in 20 minutes or less. Your PCP (primary care physician) should be able to do this for you if you don’t desire to go to the clinic.

By 1Gig

December 1, 2006 10:35 AM | Link to this

Laney on the subject you mentioned about any sickness affecting a relationship.

One of my mother’s old coworkers and her husband decided to have a child. She gets pregnant and has the baby. The baby was born with a disease (i can’t remember what). While they are dealing with that, the wife is diaganosed with cancer. The husband left her and the child saying that all of that was too much for him to deal with.

*That is definite the wrong way to handle the situation. *

I’ve always wondered about her, but my mom changed jobs and lost contact.

Also, I had a neighbor who was diagnosed with brain cancer (they found a tumor) and her husband left her and her son. We still keep in contact with her and she still struggling through her fight with cancer.

What ever happened to in sickness and in health?

By Attention06

December 1, 2006 10:35 AM | Link to this

I had a friend once that dated a girl and she was diagnosted with Breast Cancer. Being guys we were kind of stuck as to what that meant. I mean we had both heard of lots of peoeple survivng and although we knew BC was serious is it a death sentence?

We came to the conclusion that if this diagnosis meant life without her breast he would stay in the relationship, but if BC was the killer that we thought and she would be gone in two years then he would have to do the hard thing and walk away.

I don’t think I could begin a relationship knowing I would someday soon be hurt because of it.

By runninatl

December 1, 2006 10:36 AM | Link to this

Ya’ll are making me depressed, it’s Friday people…lol.

Storm Cancer is no joke and I pray it will never be the diagnosis for you. It takes a strong person to stand by someone and helplessly watch them pass from a serious illness. I don’t like to see people in pain or people suffering but I like to think I will be strong enough to be there for the people I love. But at the same time, it’s a helpless and frustrating feeling for me to watch someone sick or in pain and not able to help or comfort them. I still call my mom for advice when my kids get sick or else I would rush them to the ER every time…lol. But that is why I want to go quickly, sudden heart attack, quietly in my sleep or even a car accident with no pain or suffering for me or my family at all.

“Maybe the higher priority is studying the area instead of halting the spread here.”

Musing You are real wrong for that bruh. I’m a closet conspiracy theorist so don’t get me started with the CDC or anything with our government for that matter.

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 10:38 AM | Link to this

Tiff I know ol’girl is hurting, but having sex with HIV/AIDS and not informing your partners is also a felony…If she won’t slow down out of respect then call the law…We can’t beat the disease when people stop being responsible for their actions.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

December 1, 2006 10:38 AM | Link to this

Hi

I met this nice attractive guy a few years back. We went out a couple of time, we became really good friends. Well one day we was talking about our outlook on STD’s HIV/AIDS and that when he reveal to me that he was HIV positive. I felt so sorry for him. I was thinking how could someone be so attractive and healthy and be sick, then i was thankful that we were only friends and not lovers cuz he would have died early if i would have laid with him. But to be honest cancer & heart disease kills faster. I had a girlfriend that died at the age of 25, 6 mos after she was diagnose with ovarian cancer. ( Papsmears are also important) My aunt died six months after being diagnose with collon cancer. Stay healthy. Get your yearly examine peoples.

By Jake

December 1, 2006 10:44 AM | Link to this

what up blog:

I must be honest. If I know that you are HIV+ before hand, we will not be developing a loving relationship. It may not be a death sentence, but its life with no chance of parole…LOL.

Okay, bad joke, but its too heavy today

Other STD’s are dangerous too, but HIV, thats a road I have no desire to travel. Ley me piggy backRunninFirst time I got tested I was Para-Noid, not that I thought I high risk or nothing, but the “what ifs” were kickin my azz. Now its no big deal because I know where Mr. Wang has been, and he always wears an overcoat, even in the summer…HEHEHEHe

By Tiff

December 1, 2006 10:46 AM | Link to this

Musing The problem is none of the guys she has slept with are getting tested or if they are they aren’t telling that they tested positive so it doesn’t seem as if there is anything her foster mom or anyone can do. I’ve only met the girl once (she lives in another state) and one of my sisters talks to her foster mom occasionally but my sis won’t give me her info because I told her I would call social services and the police. If someone has advice on what to do I would appreciate it because I hate the idea of someone’s kid getting this at any age but particularly such a young age.

By Storm

December 1, 2006 10:51 AM | Link to this

FYI - paps won’t detect ovarian cancer and when it is diagnosed, in 70 percent of cases, it’s already too far advanced.

Tif, that’s foul! The 16 yr old needs to be stopped! What Musing said - turn her azz in!

runnin, I tried to bring a cheerful note. I asked Musing about his wedding plans. Oh, well. You’re right, though, it would be a horrible thing to watch helplessly as someone you care for and love dies, but they don’t get the choice to walk away. They need support. How much harder is it to walk the path of a teminally ill person?

By runninatl

December 1, 2006 10:55 AM | Link to this

Musing You are right about that being a felony. After that college basketball player was going around knowingly spreading HIV a few years back, they decided to change that consent rule. But it’s still difficult to enforce because even if the CDC does come looking for you, they can’t make you tell everyone you meet or your previous partners….crazy dilemma.

Tiff I get tested on the regular but that rapid results thing is too much for me. I need some time to deal with the anxiety over a bottle of goose and a few games of Madden on Xbox, and that’s regardless of whether it’s an HIV test or just strep throat…lol.

Got the package I’m curious about when and how you bring it up with people you meet. I mean, does every person you meet have the right to know? Oh, I have thick skin so if I’m being too nosey feel free to tell me to shut up, it’s cool…lol.

By Storm

December 1, 2006 10:56 AM | Link to this

Hai Gavi/hazel! huuggss back atcha! How are you?

By Laney

December 1, 2006 10:57 AM | Link to this

Runnin, about anonymous testing: There is a shockingly high percentage of people who go in for tests and never collect their results. And if they turn out to be positive, the agency has no way to track them down — so they know there are people out there who are positive and don’t know it. It’s scary. But the rapid (20 min) tests are helping with this a little, at least…

It will be interesting to see how the new CDC guidelines affect testing. They recommend that normal bloodwork (like when you go to a doctor for an annual checkup) should include an HIV test even without you explicitly specifying it. In that case, I think your doctor would be required to inform you? Not sure.

By Got the package

December 1, 2006 10:57 AM | Link to this

Tiff, the laws vary from state to state as to what’s legal as far as sex and HIV.

Here in Georgia, you don’t have to infect anyone to be prosecuted, you just have to have sex (even if it’s protected) without telling the other person.

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 10:58 AM | Link to this

Storm she was White/Asian…after loving/beating/slapping each other down to the point of exhausting…we were meant to be…in our little world, I doubt her family would be too please with our relationship…My folks don’t give a Dayum, as long as new chick isn’t too too crazy

I am walking around with a mean strut and sexy devil may care grin on this chocolate face…WHO’S IS THE NEXT VICTIM!!!???

I mean,” Who’s my next lover gonna be and of what race???!!!”

SMILES!!!

By Thirdwheelisback

December 1, 2006 11:01 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday everyone!!! I just wanted to pop in and say hi. This topic is depressing for an Friday…. but I believe in being safe and everyone should be tested every 6 months if you are active. As far as dating someone with the disease I’m desperate right now so anyone with a pulse would be fine with me :o)

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

December 1, 2006 11:02 AM | Link to this

@ storm

When you get your pep if there are cancerous cells they will cause your pepsmear to be abnormal which your doc can perform a procedure ( can’t remeber the name) that will tell if you have cancerous cells. Also i have had a few girlfriends that found out and had outpatient surgery to remove the cancer cells in time because of getting their paptest done yearly.

By QC

December 1, 2006 11:03 AM | Link to this

Hey Tiff

By hazel

December 1, 2006 11:04 AM | Link to this

Hai Storm! Doing great thanks! i feel soo out of connection with you cause i can’t email u no more.. lol.. send me your other email please!!

By Kym aka Rested and Relax

December 1, 2006 11:05 AM | Link to this

Tiff Alot of the campaigning is aimed at the youth of today because they live life as if they are too young to die…they think it is something gay people get, or if they are white upper class yes I said it they think it is something poor ethinic people get, but the real is that AIDS doesnt care about your social status, or your race(although I too am a closet conspiracy theorist) I think this young lady needs to get help and sorry to say this but your sister is just as bad if she has full knowledge that someone is passing a deadly diease on to others and is not willing to share information with the proper authorities.

By hazel

December 1, 2006 11:06 AM | Link to this

OMG Hai 3rd .. hugging u tightly.. how r u ??

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

December 1, 2006 11:09 AM | Link to this

Did anybody see the movie One Week? It was a black film about a guy who was getting married in one week and he found out that a girl he had slept with was HIV+.

By runninatl

December 1, 2006 11:10 AM | Link to this

storm For me, I’d rather be the terminally ill person than watch someone I love pass away. That helpless feeling is too much and too frustrating for me. I remember when my grandmother was deteriorating from alzheimer’s, my dad didn’t cope with it well so my mom was busy trying to comfort him, and my sister comforting my mom, and I felt isolated to deal with watching her fade away. I felt guilty for not visiting her and bringing my kids to see her enough when she was well and guilty about not seeing her enough in the hospice. My dad still doesn’t deal with it well, he walked outside at the family reunion when we did a dedication for her and we have yet to talk about it. I don’t want to go through all those emotions ever again.

Point being, I hate that feeling of no control. Granted, I realize that we really have control of very little in life, but the illusion we have gives us that swagger and confidence we need sometimes. I also don’t want to be a burden to anyone so I’m cool with passing on solo. I just don’t want to suffer or be in a great deal of pain. The military taught me about life insurance and I maintain a living will so I can leave my children a little something. The funeral will be fast and cheap, just send my ashes off somewhere, enjoy all the food, say a few good things about me, and keep it moving…lol. But that’s just me.

By Got the package

December 1, 2006 11:10 AM | Link to this

Storm I do spend a lot of time figuring out who I should tell, and who I shouldn’t. You’re right, not every person I meet has the right to know. It becomes very tricky when I meet someone who seems interested in dating me, then I have to balance a lot of things out as far as when I tell them I’m HIV positive.

And ask me anything you want. If I think you’re being too nosy, trust me, I’ll let you know.But considering some of the questions I’ve heard, you’d have to go pretty far to get there. :)

By 2day

December 1, 2006 11:13 AM | Link to this

We say we won’t date anyone who is HIV positive but being realistic no one walks around with test results. Even if you meet someone who say or show a negative test result who is to say that the stats hasn’t changed within 30 60 90 days? Unless you are with that person 24/7 you just don’t know. This is real and the only way to be safe is to be celibate until marriage. Even if you practice safe sex condoms can break.

I have a test done once a year advise by my doctor b/c I had a blood transfusion 9 years ago. In my last relationship we both was tested every year b/c of our medical history. Now that relationship is over I hope and pray I will find someone who is conscience about their health as he was because since I’ve been single I’ve met some men who want to have sex the first night and I’m like Dude I don’t know you and you don’t even know me or who I’ve been with do you care about yourself? These are corporate guys. Men with status and very educated but lacking sense when it comes to protecting themselves. I’ve met alot of other females saying the same thing. Some men want to jump the bones on the first night raw. It is very scary out there. Everyone please be careful.

By Storm

December 1, 2006 11:13 AM | Link to this

@MsU - I thought pap smears detected cervical cancer. I was of the impression that there is only a blood test to detect ovarian cancer. My bad.

Hey 3rd!

Aw, Demi! I’m sorry it didn’t work out, but I like your attitude, dude! Stay in the game!

By Foots

December 1, 2006 11:14 AM | Link to this

When you get your pep if there are cancerous cells they will cause your pepsmear to be abnormal which your doc can perform a procedure

That is to test for cervical cancer.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

December 1, 2006 11:16 AM | Link to this

The fastest growing segment of the population contracting HIV is African American women.

By kinderbabe

December 1, 2006 11:20 AM | Link to this

good morning all! interesting topic. i think that i probably would not date someone who was hiv positive because of two reasons. first reason is i would be concerned about the likelihood of the virus being transmitted to me…secondly, i would be afraid of losing the person. i’m not sure how i would react if he became really ill and wound up dying due to aids complications. i think i would be devistated.

i have had some challenges w/my health that could affect someone’s interest in dating me seriously so i can relate somewhat. i know that a lot of men want children and i’m unable to have any. sometimes i wonder how much that affects my chances of getting serious w/someone. hmmmm??? meanwhile….

storm i know that things will go fine w/your visit to the specialist. keep picturing yourself healthy, whole and complete. keep the faith, girl.:) everything will go just fine.

By Tiff

December 1, 2006 11:22 AM | Link to this

Hey QC

Kym Don’t be sorry, I agree with you. In this instance my sis is an idiot and I told her so. She’s the type to not make waves unless it effects her personally which I would normally understand and agree with but not in this case.

I’m also wondering how many parents take their kids to get tested? I know the females will get tested if they get pregnant but are parents testing their sons/daughters when they know they are sexually active? Some parents put their girls on the pill at 13 but do they ever take their kids to get tested unless they are burning/itching? Just a thought..

On a lighter note..runnin I’m looking for a refund LOL

By DuShawn

December 1, 2006 11:25 AM | Link to this

This discussion is necessary but depressing. Off Topic I had an annual performance review this morning and received a phat azz raise. I want to take my lady out on the town tonight to celebrate. Any suggestions? We don’t do the big clubs. Preferably an intimate spot with some live Neo soul/jazz.

By SeanJohnson

December 1, 2006 11:26 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog…i got tested two weeks ago…ya boy is Hiv Neg/Std free…Keeping it real..this disease/virus affects people from all walks of life and people shouldnt look down or see people with it as an outkast. You never know when it could affect you or someone close to you. Std and forms herpes is common..statistics say almost have of adults have it in one form or another. Its scary out there folks..so strap up and take care of yourself..

By kinderbabe

December 1, 2006 11:27 AM | Link to this

lady dark yes i saw that movie. it was deep. i remember the agony he was going through when he was waiting on the results. and, he had to tell his fiancee…wait, didn’t they both wind up having it?? i think that’s how it went. they still got married too.

By Thirdwheelisback

December 1, 2006 11:29 AM | Link to this

Hey Gavi!!! What’s shakkin!!! Hey Wanda!! Miss talking to you!! I’m doing well. Love the new job! Still in school and checking out nunnery convents :o) Speaking of cancer my friend just passed away from cancer in October. She was first diagnosed in 2004 had surgery everything was fine. Went to her checkup in January 2005 and 2006 told that everything is fine. March 2006 she falls sick and October 2006 she died. I’m still in shock and mourning but I have to give props to her husband. He could have left in 2004 and kept going. He stayed with her till the very end. Even at her funeral and wake he was strong while the rest of us were breaking down. He even managed to tell us a funny story of how they met and fell in love. They had true love and I hope to find that one day. I feel for her kids as well but they were very strong too. A real relationship is sticking with someone through the good times and bad times. Watching someone you love die is a painful and humble experience. I just hope to die quick….

By Jake

December 1, 2006 11:31 AM | Link to this

TifF someone needs to lock ol gurl up,if she has slept wit 10+, and each them 10 more, ding,ding=100 with As I Die Slow Kym As for teenagers living invincible…what do you expect…Sex on TV at all times, Jeezy got Magic City in the FOX on National TV at hip-hop awards. Grey’s Ant got the chick fuggin two Dr’s, sex sells; and its portrayed irresponsibly at all levels. The underlying reason why they just don’t give a fugg is because they ain’t stupid…the world does not have much to offer them, they see the educated homeless, the folks who got they degree, but can’t find a job. U.S. fightin wars, but fugg the N.O. Real jobs(the kind that you can live off of) are being lost with every merger.

If I was 15-16, I probably would be a lil fugg up too…They just goin wit the flow.

By Storm

December 1, 2006 11:31 AM | Link to this

Thanks for sharing package, although it was runnin making the inquiry, I was curious, as well.

gavi/hazel-sent you a text.

Thanks kinder. I’m not worried, yet. I’ll see the specialists and go from there. Appreciate the positive thoughts, though.

By runninatl

December 1, 2006 11:34 AM | Link to this

Laney So what’s the point of even offering anonymous testing? Just to have statistics? Maybe they need to do away with anonymous testing.

I like the idea of having tests done with normal, routine bloodwork and then your physician being required to let you know the results and I think that would not have a problem going over legally but I think people being required to know the test is being done would be the issue there.

Got the package From what I understand, HIV is the virus that leads to the AIDS disease and AIDS is the disease itself that causes your immune system to break down and leads to death, is that correct? Also, from what I understand, this is how Magic Johnson remains in good health, he takes the medication to suppress the virus thus actually keeping the AIDS disease dormant and from breaking down his immune system. I could be way off, though, no time to google all of this right now. So do you have to continue to get tested for the actual AIDS disease itself?

By Storm

December 1, 2006 11:34 AM | Link to this

runnin, sweetie, you aren’t being realistic and you know it. You can not avoid the pain that comes with everyday life. Do you, though. LOL

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

December 1, 2006 11:35 AM | Link to this

@ Storm & foots

I am so sorry i meant cervical cancer not ovarian cancer;dang it is so many different types.LOL Thanks for correcting a sister

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

December 1, 2006 11:39 AM | Link to this

Question: I know in the past you were required to be tested for HIV/AID before you could obtain a marriage license here in GA but someone told me that it’s not required anymore, is that true?

By Laney

December 1, 2006 11:42 AM | Link to this

runnin, the point of anonymous testing is so that people can find out if they have it without having to disclose info. some people would not go into a clinic if they knew that someone would be able to link their name/info to a diagnosis - it may not be a particularly rational fear, but it is a deterrent. anonymous testing means that only the person being tested knows who they are and if they are positive or negative.

this is different from confidential testing, where you have to provide your information to a medical provider, who is not allowed by law to disclose it beyond privacy regulations. they know who you are, though.

as far as the difference between HIV and AIDS - you are correct that HIV is the virus that causes the classification of AIDS. there is no “test” for AIDS exactly - someone is considered to have full-blown AIDS when a) their T-cell count (a measure in your white blood cells) falls below 200 or b) they contract one of a specific list of so-called opportunistic infections, which are unusual in people who have normal immune systems. PCP (a certain type of pneumonia) and Kaposi’s sarcoma are examples of these infections.

By Sexione

December 1, 2006 11:43 AM | Link to this

Hello Everyone!!

running…this is making me sad too!! And I’m with you and Musing on that possible conspiracy thing. Hmmmmmm…

MsU…great point about the papsmears. There are many women walking around with HPV (which can cause cervical cancer), and what I find interesting is that until a couple of years ago they never tested women for it.

I, too, would not be able to do the HIV/AIDS relationship, not knowing that going in.

By Jewel

December 1, 2006 11:43 AM | Link to this

Good morning Everyone!

This is a sobering topic for a Friday and planned weekend “fun.” Know your status and have s3x responsibly. I agree with others’ comments about knowingly dating someone with HIV/AIDS or any STD. I couldn’t do it. I have too much life to live and putting my life and health at risk is not part of the plan. Les Brown made a comment a few years ago related to the unhealthy foods we eat: “Nothing tastes as good as health feels.” I think it is apropos to the topic, that nothing feels as good as a healthy, strong temple. Now, if I find out that my SO has HIV, how he contracted it will determine my personal response.

Demi How’s your little man?

By QC

December 1, 2006 11:45 AM | Link to this

Hey Gavi, 3rd, Hazel

By Got the package

December 1, 2006 11:50 AM | Link to this

Runninatl, you’re a lot more informed than many people. Yes, HIV is what causes AIDS. It uses a certain cell that’s important to your immune sytem to reproduce itself, which leads to breakdown and eventual death.

Medications (like Magic Johnson takes) interfere with the HIV reproducing itself, so it’s not that the disease is “dormant”, but it can slow the progression to AIDS. HIV is still very active in the body, even when you’re on the meds.

I get regular bloodwork that tells me how many CD4 cells I have, those are the immune system cells that HIV uses to reproduce. When your CD4 cells drop to low levels, you start getting sick because your immune system can’t function against stuff that it would otherwise handle easily. That’s when you have AIDS. I also get a viral load test, which gives an idea how much HIV is present in my blood. The lower amount, the better. You can even be “undetectable” which means they can’t even find enough to measure.

But HIV is still present in my body, so I don’t get tested for HIV, since I will always be HIV positive, given what we know now. No one who has ever tested positive has ever gone back to testing negative.

And sorry for mixing you and Storm up, my eyes ran your posts together.

By runninatl

December 1, 2006 11:50 AM | Link to this

Jake I feel your last post, TV and entertainers sell an image that quite different from reality. But, just going with the flow just because you are young is not helping because right now, the flow, has our negative statistics going through the roof.

DuShawn I have no idea if Funk Jazz is still going on at Apache Cafe or if it’s still open but you could look it up. Verve is pretty chill and you could go upstairs and chill with your drinks or buy an inexpensive VIP table. There is a new spot somewhere behind the jail, near capitol avenue I think, but I can’t remember the name or exact location. They have blue lighting, cigar bar, and a small VIP room and it’s next a couple of doors down from a popular pizza and happy hour spot over there. Congrats bruh.

By Laney

December 1, 2006 11:51 AM | Link to this

I know this is a sobering topic for a Friday, but World AIDS Day it is! Maybe it’ll keep us all from doing anything dumb this weekend, though.

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 11:58 AM | Link to this

runnin I’m with you on anonymous testing…Hellz, if people don’t come back for test and understand the disease, it makes no sense to make it unidentifiable…When you walk into that pharmacy, er’body working there will know what those pills are for. The culture has become so dang sensitive, sometimes people need to be told…”Look you have HIV, lets deal with it, and here’s how.”…Don’t give folks the option of remaining ignorant, take their info and get the results to them.

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 12:03 PM | Link to this

DuShawn Try Sambucca on Piedmont towards Peachtree….It’s not a funk jazz spot, but they do have live jazz…The crowd is pretty upscale, if that’s your thing…I’d make a reservation to ensure you don’t have a long wait.

By crimson esq

December 1, 2006 12:04 PM | Link to this

good afternoon everyone

I’ve never dated anyone with HIV or any other STD and it is something that I am opposed to doing..there are too many risks involved and regardless of how much of a “sweetheart” someone may be it just isn’t something that I’m willing to do…

as far as a terminal illness like cancer.. I have dated someone in the past that battled the disease for a couple of years… we grew up together and were great friends before the diagnoses and I refused to let that deter me from dating him…

and to get a little personal for a second.. I’ll just say that I’ve been on both sides of that coin.. in my opinion there are two critical points that a person needs to know when they are dating someone with an illness…

respect the boundaries— if an individual is having a rough period (relapse) and wants/needs to handle some things separate from you.. respect that and know that it isn’t a reflection on you personally… rather it’s a matter of the person wanting to keep their dignity for one and secondly there are times that they just “don’t want to be bothered”.. it’s hard to entertain or give of yourself when you’re battling…many different emotions are formed and sometimes folks need to deal with that alone…

secondly (and this is key) just because someone has been diagnosed with cancer doesn’t mean that they are going to die.. a person is only as weak as they allow themselves to be.. no matter how rough things may seem.. try to remain positive for your mate.. as they’re dealing with critical news and bouts of depression— your kind words and deeds can be uplifting..

Storm I am praying for you.. if the doctor determines that the growth is a tumor.. there’s a huge chance that it will be benign.. or can be removed…

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 12:04 PM | Link to this

Jewel baby boy is back to his usual self…in time out…Heck, his big bro miss his little bro sooooo much, he’s in time out with him, LOL

Storm thanks…just tell buddy to treating you as a queen, will keep Sexy Shaft away LOL

Knock knock

Storm’SO WTF??!! Who’s that knocking on my door at 330am???!!!

By runninatl

December 1, 2006 12:04 PM | Link to this

Tiff My company, bloghookups.com, is undergoing needed organizational restructuring to improve it’s executive level and upper management leadership and decision-making processes. We are not liquid right now (thanks to **Jewel aka I drop dimes) but your free JackRabbitt360 with built in mp3 player will be shipped today and you will be provided with a tracking number. Thank you for your business….;-)

Sexione Yeah, there is too much nonsense out there for some things not to be a conspiracy.

Laney So basically, this anonymous test bull is some hot garbage that we need to do away with because all it’s doing is collecting statistics. If people are refusing to see their results and be informed of what options are out there then it’s a waste of time and resources that could be used elsewhere. Okay, I need you need to elaborate more on this confidential testing though, what are the privacy regulations that doctors cannot disclose beyond? Ya’ll got me started, it’s 20 questions time now…lol.

By DuShawn

December 1, 2006 12:04 PM | Link to this

Jewel It’s ironic that you mentioned a quote by Les Brown. When I was 16 my mother forced me to attend a free leadership seminar that Les Brown was sponsoring for at risk youths. It had a positive affect on me and made me aspire for higher education and other goals. That brother does a lot of good work in our communities that often goes unpublicized.

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 12:06 PM | Link to this

Oh, Heeeeeeey 3rd, QC, and Hazel(eyes?)

By Thirdwheelisback

December 1, 2006 12:07 PM | Link to this

Hey QC What’s up??

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

December 1, 2006 12:10 PM | Link to this

Hey Sexione, whatzup Girl!!

where is BK, NC Girl & 4th???

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 12:21 PM | Link to this

We say we won’t date anyone who is HIV positive but being realistic no one walks around with test results

U best tooooo B’LEVE I walk around with my F/K WIT IT papers! Nothing feels better than producing my paper…Miraculously out of thin air.

Alvin as you see, New Babe once you look past all that medical rubbish. I am HIV/STD free; I will pick you for lunch at 12:00 noon tomorrow!

New Babe oh…Okay.

By Laney

December 1, 2006 12:23 PM | Link to this

Runnin, I think the testing issue is really one of personal responsibility. It’s great that people go in and get tested, but they need to follow through for themselves and get their results and act accordingly! I think it’s okay to do whatever is necessary to get people in and tested - but it does mean we need some education so that people WANT to hear their results and act on them, know what I mean?

Confidential tests are reported to the state department of health. You can also sign a yes/no form to have your personal physician notified. Once it becomes part of your medical record, ie if your personal doctor puts it in your charts, it can be seen by insurance or employers.

By runninatl

December 1, 2006 12:27 PM | Link to this

Got the package It’s cool, I get mixed up on here too. Thanks for answering my questions. Okay, these next two questions may sound dumb or be too in-depth for anyone to answer on here but I’m at work and again, too lazy to google…lol. 1. These CD4 cells, does HIV stop the reproduction of these CD4 cells, slow them down or what? Or does the medication that keeps HIV from reproducing itself/slow it down provide a person with more CD4 cells or what? 2. Is having children basically not an option for someone who has HIV and doesn’t want to pass it on to their child?

Musing I feel you on your post. People deal with Hepatitis and other diseases but we attach a negative stigma to things we don’t understand, I do it too.

By ronmexico

December 1, 2006 12:30 PM | Link to this

I’ve got some itchy scabs going on down there, but I’ve also got enough bling that the ladies don’t mind it.

By Kym aka Rested and Relax

December 1, 2006 12:33 PM | Link to this

I am with u runnin..it seems to me that the confidential testing is a way to gather stats. What good does it to the state health department to know of HIV cases and yet these people walk around and have no clue they are infected because they will not pick up their stats?

By Laney

December 1, 2006 12:33 PM | Link to this

I’m not sure about the technicalities with CD4 cells, I’ll let someone else take that one =)

But I do know the answer about having kids if you have HIV! If a pregnant woman takes a drug called nevirapine (or one like it), the odds of transmitting via the bloodstream to the fetus can be made very low, as possible as below 5 percent. However, women with HIV cannot breast feed (breast milk is one of the four bodily fluids that transmits the virus) and often are encouraged to have C-section births.

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 12:38 PM | Link to this

ronmexico Holy cow manure!!! He has just revealed his As-holyness, LOL

By kinderbabe

December 1, 2006 12:38 PM | Link to this

dushawn i wouldn’t go to sambuca. don’t know how much their managment/ownership has changed in the past couple of years but they are not partial to treating “us” right up in there. i have had two bad experiences w/being treated less than respectfully by the staff there. if you’re into jazz, churchill grounds right next to the fox is great. it’s super intimate and low key.

By Jewel

December 1, 2006 12:40 PM | Link to this

Demi Timeout is what you, the parent, should take after a spanking…LOL!

DuShawn Another influential, intelligent, powerful, and any other adjective African-American Man not featured on the 6 o’clock news.

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 12:41 PM | Link to this

runnin the HIV virus takes a healthy CD4 cell (white blood cell/lymphocyte) and makes that cell his &tich…Forcing that cell to replicate other HIV viruses…which go out and do the same….The HIV drugs cause CD4 cells to slow done reproduction of that virus and create a barrier against the virus altogether…People don’t die per say from AIDS, but from complications of AIDS (opportunistic diseases, ie: pneumonia, tuberculosis, etc…)

By Kym aka Rested and Relax

December 1, 2006 12:43 PM | Link to this

I am sorry if this offends anyone.. but I think if you are infected with a virus that can harm you why would u even think of risking passing that on to your child. Not only that does anyone really know the effect that drug would have on a unborn baby? A baby recieves their nutrients from their mother and if the mother is infected then all that lower than 5 percent is just crap and you are putting the life of someone else at risk.

By Hot Sauce

December 1, 2006 12:43 PM | Link to this

Afternoon Bloggers: This topic is so sureal, i hope you all are having a great day. Musing you wanna come to my office Christmas Party tonight??

By Got the package

December 1, 2006 12:46 PM | Link to this

runnin, I often advise people not to google, there is a lot of confusion and misinformation out there.

HIV locks onto CD4 cells and pushes inside them. It then uses parts of the CD4 cell to make more HIV. At the end, the CD4 cell is destroyed, and the copies of the HIV are released. They go looking for more CD4 cells to lock onto, etc. etc. That’s a basic explanation.

The anti-HIV medications basically get into the CD4 cells and do things that stop the HIV reproduction. So the meds help keep the HIV from increasing, and that keeps your CD4 cells from being attacked by HIV.

I hope that makes sense.

Having a child while HIV positive is quite possible, and many women have children nowadays without passing along the HIV to their babies. I personally will not let the fact that I have HIV stop me from having kids, if I want to have them. But proper treatment while you’re pregnant is how you prevent the baby from being infected, and that’s why you see a push for testing women at prenatal visits.

By Eleanor

December 1, 2006 12:47 PM | Link to this

I would knowingly date someone with an STD. My beloved sister has herpes and she is happily married; her husband does not have herpes.

Honestly, it depends on the person, his qualities, his honesty and responsibility. It means things would have to go a lot slower in the intimacy department—but then again, that’s probably a good thing.

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 12:47 PM | Link to this

kinderbabe Church Hill may be a better fit for DuShawn…You’re right, Sambucca can be a little sketchy. I’ve been once, thought the place was pretty cool…I figured it was just one night of subpar service…I guess it was just me…LOLOL

By runninatl

December 1, 2006 12:53 PM | Link to this

Thanks Laney, I honestly didn’t know that about medical records. I got two of the four fluids, blood and breast milk. What are the other two?

Musing Thanks for breaking it down in real terms…lol.

Kym I understand where you are coming from but my thought process for the children question was what if a girl is born HIV positive and she wants to have children herself as an adult without transmitting her disease. Can she do it, what are the risks, etc.

By 2day

December 1, 2006 12:59 PM | Link to this

Alvin LOL! I don’t walk around with my papers but I can produce if need be. Can everyone else say the same thing? Stats show that black male don’t go to get a yearly check up less more take the time out to get an HIV test.

By Got the package

December 1, 2006 12:59 PM | Link to this

Kym I think you’re just saying what a lot of people are thinking. I’m personally not offended, I’ve heard what you’ve said before.

Let me put it this way: women over a certain age are more prone to have babies with problems, would it be okay to say they shouldn’t think of having children?

Also, some people have genes for different conditions that can be passed onto children, should they not have kids? What if the chance is 5%? 2%? 50%? Does that make a difference? And is it wrong to get pregnant without getting screened for those genes that could be passed on to a child?

By 2day

December 1, 2006 01:01 PM | Link to this

Blacks make up 13% of the US population and 50% of HIV population. Somebody aint telling the truth about their status.

By Hot Sauce

December 1, 2006 01:07 PM | Link to this

Musing are you ignoring me??? If so that’s not nice :(

Hey Demi

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 01:09 PM | Link to this

runnin No problem man…For $29.95 I can send you the “Ebonics Medical Dictionary”…

Excerpt from Ch. 3

Symptoms that you ishh ain’t right. 1. Dat ishhh stank. 2. Yo joint has got something growing on it. 3. If you look at it and say “WTF!!!”. 4. Yo gf/bf looks at it and says “WTF!!!”.

By Kym aka Rested and Relax

December 1, 2006 01:12 PM | Link to this

Package Women over a certain age are advised of the risk of having children do they do it yes..should they that is between them and their spouse and their value or belief system. If they are willing to take that risk fine go for it. If a person has a genetic condition that can be passed on to a child and they knowingly have a child and know the risks again that is between them their spouse and their value or belief system. My value/belief systems is that children are innocent and if I knowing had a condition that I could pass on to my child I cant say that I would play craps with my kids life and hope that the HIV that is attached to my DNA doesnt make it to theirs. My understanding is that while people take a cocktail of different drugs HIV is a retrovirus and that it mutates as it grows which means there is a greater risk that the virus can become resistant to the drugs a mother would be taking. So why risk it at all?

By Thirdwheelisback

December 1, 2006 01:13 PM | Link to this

Hey Alvin What’s up?

By runninatl

December 1, 2006 01:13 PM | Link to this

Musing & Laney

My conspiracy theory spider senses are going off now…lol. With this confidential testing and medical records info, I now understand why they ask you so many dumb azz questions when you go to the doctor, like: “so why are you getting an HIV test today?” I wanted to tell the nurse it sure ain’t because I’ve been celibate…lol. But no matter what answer you give, after you’re done they tell you what you what you need to be tested for in the future and what you don’t have to worry about testing, and how often to get tested. Now if you come back in a month later for another test they are going to flag your azz as high risk, report that to your insurance company, who could also label you high risk and deny future coverage or payments or even drop you from coverage. I can see clearly now.

Got the package Thanks, that all makes sense.

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 01:13 PM | Link to this

Hey HotSauce, where is said party??? Have me showing up to an abandoned building and try to rape me.

Off topic: My SO tried to tell me Women can’t rape Men…I said “the hellz you say, if three fine sistas hold me down, get naked, and keep jumping on the wood, it’s gonna grow.”…LOLOLOLOLOL

By Laney

December 1, 2006 01:18 PM | Link to this

the other two bodily fluids are male and female sexual fluids (nicely put, no?)

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 01:19 PM | Link to this

2day I AGREE!! These sorry brothers need to get off their behinds and get tested. In my opinion, we are the most responsible for the spread of diseases in our communities! Yes the white man help But we can slow the spread of HIV/STD, by getting tested.

By Hot Sauce

December 1, 2006 01:24 PM | Link to this

Musing lololololol, i would never do that to you sweet pea; i do respect that you have a SO, the party is going to be in College Park; and yes Men sometimes do get raped by Women a few have even filed reports with DC

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 01:27 PM | Link to this

Jewel it’s tap tap on them little hands, followed by time out, LOL

By runninatl

December 1, 2006 01:31 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ Musing’s Ebonics dictionary….hahahaha.

Got the package Again, thanks for your answers. I’m a little embarrassed to say that most of my HIV info has come from tv (real world san fran with Pedro, magic johnson story, commercials) and a little googling based on something I saw on tv.

Laney Dang, I will go ahead and wear the dunce cap at my desk for the rest of the day after realizing what the other 2 fluids are…LOL.

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 01:34 PM | Link to this

runnin It’s all connected Man.. said while smoking stanky weed

See Man, you get that prescription for any HIV…It’s added to the master pharmacy database…Now the Man knows you or your partner practices unsafe sex…Your life insurance company reads the database, you get a call your coverage is going up…You get pevved…Drop your coverage…Now you wonder why no one will cover you…Cause they know already…You seek out the extra help programs to cover health cost…Equifax knows the company trying to cover you…Now any job trying to hire you sees this company for AIDs research on your report…No one hires you…Now you’re homeless..and become another statistic.

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 01:35 PM | Link to this

Another Beautiful day in the A huh, 3rd

Heeeeeyyyy Legendary Hot Sauce, how’s your day going?

By 2day

December 1, 2006 01:38 PM | Link to this

runnin Is that a good enough reason not to take a test because of dumb azz questions and fear of what the insurance company may do because you want to take care of yourself? Sad but that’s the excuses many Black men are using to avoid getting tested.

By Got the package

December 1, 2006 01:39 PM | Link to this

But Kym, I guess my point is that many people like you—-and I don’t want you to take that wrong, I admire you for speaking your mind—- don’t hesitate to say whether or not I should have children.

If I said I was pregnant, most people, instead of wishing me well, would feel free to make a judgment about it, and tell me so. I doubt many people if a friend told them they were expecting, would start asking “How old are you?” “Aren’t you afraid your child will have some defect, since you don’t know what’s in your genes?” “How could you do such a thing?”

My experience living (and dating) with HIV can pretty much be summed up like that. Because it’s HIV, the rules are different. People don’t really know the risks of having a child when you’re HIV positive, but they have an opinion anyway.

It’s interesting that for the other women in your example it’s about their belief system. For those of us with HIV, it’s about other people’s belief systems. The risk of having a child with HIV is very, very low, if I’m properly treated. I’d be more worried about all the other things that can go wrong with a baby.

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 01:42 PM | Link to this

HotSauce I just realized what you asked…

wanna come to my office Christmas Party tonight??

Aren’t you working for the Feds now?!?! That would mean coming down to the Feds Atl. office…Hanging out with a load of pistol tot’in cops…Ahhhhh, Hellz naw….I’m not saying I’m wanted…But, I don’t want to find out either…LOLOL…HotSauce you almost got me…Kept messing with fire, and I almost got burned.

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 01:42 PM | Link to this

Blacks make up 13% of the US population and 50% of HIV population. Somebody aint telling the truth about their status

Also: 75% of the prison system, 85% of the drop out, 65% of underage pregnancies, 79% of the nations poor, 57% of welfare, 88% of NBA and 85% of the NFL…All this from 13% of the US pop.

Again these numbers aint adding up!!!

By 2day

December 1, 2006 01:46 PM | Link to this

Musing that is called DICRIMINATION. It’s comments like that that keeps people from getting tested for anything not just HIV.

By Got the package

December 1, 2006 01:53 PM | Link to this

Oh, and Kym HIV doesn’t attach itself to your DNA…there isn’t any more risk of becoming resistant to HIV medications because you’re pregnant.

Though you are right that people can become resistant (in general) to their HIV medications. But that’s by the usually by the same process that people get resistant to antibiotics—-everything changes to overcome the environment, and HIV can mutate to overcome the medications.

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 01:53 PM | Link to this

yes Men sometimes do get raped by Women a few have even filed reports with DC

Dayum, must have been by ugly women or them dudes were gay…I was force to feel her wet juices and lick it up at gun point…How sad

By 2day

December 1, 2006 01:55 PM | Link to this

Alvin you’re right.

By msteven

December 1, 2006 01:56 PM | Link to this

What gets me is everyone of us who have had sex took a risk. Those of us who have had sex with a condom probably will never know that they just slept with someone carring the virus. The only comfort in that for me is, the sexual one night stands I did had. I surely UsED a condom. and I thank God I did as many folks I slept with were indeed one night stands but atleast i did not have to worry whether they left me with Unwanted extra Baggage. Now at 50 I am not near as sexually active(thank god. damn those young hormones out of control from 15-32)still the mere suggestion of having sex without a condom is enough to make me run screaming or call the POLICE! I am mortified on the behavior of some people. especially the youth. Also folks who dont protest you not wearing a condom may already be infected. If its too eazy to get,its probably something wrong with it. Wear a condom folks. I dont care how good she or he Looks.

By Jake

December 1, 2006 01:56 PM | Link to this

I know the blogis anonymous, but Package I tip my hat for your honesty and education bruh. Dushawn you could hit the Chit Chat on Candler Rd…LOL Nah bruh, I’m bullskitten, Churchill might be the bet…even though I’m partial to the Apache myself..another is Endenu, but sometimes they don’t keep a regular schedule.

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 02:00 PM | Link to this

Also: 75% of the prison system, 85% of the drop out, 65% of underage pregnancies, 79% of the nations poor, 57% of welfare, 88% of NBA and 85% of the NFL…All this from 13% of the US pop.

demi Man, it’s seems that this American system just isn’t working for us. We need to go back to doing things like once in the motherland…LOL…If you stole something, they’d cut your hand off…Dudes ain’t loosing they hands for stealing your Jordans…then they couldn’t make it in the NFL & NBA…If you drop out of school, you are immediately introduced to your flock of sheep…Er’day you’d have to collect sheep ishh, and keep your flock safe cause that’s your food for life (make it last)…And if you’re caught having underage sex, then you have to go to that girls father and take the mans right of passage early…They’ll leave yo’azz in the jungle for a month…hopefully you’re still alive when they come back.

By runninatl

December 1, 2006 02:02 PM | Link to this

2day I was being a smart azz about the doctor’s questions, and yes, I did look at the nurse crazy the first time she asked me why I was getting tested but I sincerely hope men are not using that as a lame excuse not to get tested. I can admit it, my fear comes from knowing that I’ve used poor judgment in the past. I think I sweated off 15-20lbs waiting for the results of the first test I took. But it has gotten much easier because I have been more careful. Now I have been caught slippin on occasion and then I start thinking about the degrees a separation, who the women I have slept with, have slept with, and the anxiety builds. But it’s routine now, twice a year, just on GP. I still don’t like going to the doctor and dentist for anything regardless, they always find something wrong…lol.

“It’s interesting that for the other women in your example it’s about their belief system. For those of us with HIV, it’s about other people’s belief systems.”

Got the package, that was a deep statement right there.

By Jake

December 1, 2006 02:04 PM | Link to this

Musing that 1:34, you musta been a National Connect the Dots Champ or somethin…LOL

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 02:06 PM | Link to this

2day Well, my little theory there may be a little extreme…But, I’m sure there are files on us all. Heck, anytime you use a credit card…Somebody just found out you need more toilet paper…hahahahaha

By MnGyrl

December 1, 2006 02:11 PM | Link to this

Been lurking, finding this blog to be very educational today. Have a question for either Laney or Package …What about saliva as far as bodily fluids go for transmission of HIV?

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 02:11 PM | Link to this

Jake Dude I’ve got so much rattling around in my head it’s no wonder I’m functional…LOLOLOLOL

By Got the package

December 1, 2006 02:20 PM | Link to this

runnin, I gotta say, HIV is all about beliefs. Now living with HIV/AIDS from the medical standpoint, is no fun. But really, the biggest challeges I’ve faced have been those from other people’s fear and ignorance.

After all, this blog is full of people who are probably in need of an HIV test. I bet you they will pull out every excuse in the book not to get that test, because “it couldn’t possibly be me!”. And because they can’t think of anything worse than being HIV positive.

These same people will leave work and drive home in the insane ATL traffic with a latte in one hand and a cellphone in the other. But if one of their friends was dating me, they’d say to them, “what, you want to die? Are you crazy?”

Guess it makes sense in their world.

By Chicago

December 1, 2006 02:27 PM | Link to this

I know that I wouldn’t continue to date someone what had an STD. Off the bate none of us really know what the other is or is not infected with. Should it come up , I know that I wouldn’t be able to deal with the responsibility of it. It’s like your asking the other person to commit slow suicide.

By Laney

December 1, 2006 02:28 PM | Link to this

MnGyrl, saliva is generally not considered a risky fluid because the concentration of the virus in it is so low. You would literally need to drink GALLONS of saliva to be exposed on the same level as a single drop of blood.

By runninatl

December 1, 2006 02:33 PM | Link to this

Musing you are a fool, bruh….lol.

Got the package It’s sad but true. Beliefs, fear, and ignorance can divide and conquer almost anything, churches, families, countries, and it’s what we fight wars over and people die over. I’m just as guilty as the next person. Maybe your openess and honesty will reach someone today, maybe not, but you did your part. I am more convinced today that I must continue to get tested, be safe, and do my part. Thanks for sharing today and I wish you the best.

Kym good luck in fantasy ball this weekend, I’m hoping to expand my lead.

I’m out, ya’ll be easy and have a blessed, safe weekend.

By Hot Sauce

December 1, 2006 02:34 PM | Link to this

Musing you are too funny :) the party is not going to be downtown, it’s at a hotel in College Park; it’ll be good for you to be amongst some of the best pistol tottin’ people, including me you really make my day cause you are fast on your feet, you would do very well working with us. I’ll just think about you when i’m putting on my little RED Dress i’ll go solo, dayum shame i don’t have a decent “male friend” to call on for a date that i don’t have to worry about him trying to get some of my goodies

WHERE ARE ALL THE GOOD SINGLE MEN, WHO WANT A GOOD SINGLE WOMAN?

Demi, my day is going well sweetie i just wish i had a date for tonite :(

By DuShawn

December 1, 2006 02:37 PM | Link to this

Jake I’ve been taught to “Walk with Kings but never loose the common touch” Me and my folk are not above going to Chit Chat. We’re hood soldiers at heart. We might hit Sambucca, Endenu, Apache and Church Hill. Then fall in the Blue Flame for a night cap. That’s how we get down. I’m equally respected in all circles, from the boardrooms to the back alleys. Thanks for the suggestions.

By Wise Diva

December 1, 2006 02:38 PM | Link to this

hey Laney, excellent topic! I am trying to catch up on the comments, but I just had to stop and let you know that this is a very important topic, and I personally think FRIDAY is the best day for it. Before the weekend hits, and the booty calls start. Something to keep in mind!

By Kym aka Rested and Relax

December 1, 2006 02:39 PM | Link to this

Runnin and others if interested The BBC.com has a whole area devoted on their site to World AIDS Day with information on the virus..the origins..and they have broken down the growth of the HIV/AIDS epidemic into regions of the world. Also there is an area where people are posting their comments on is HIV/AIDS a forgotten crisis? It is interesting to read the opinions of people in other areas of the world on HIV/AIDS. You are right Package alot of people are saying it is not me..not in my universe but it is important that (and I admire your courage to discuss your particular situation) people know that the universe is not as vast as they think it is.

By Sexione

December 1, 2006 02:39 PM | Link to this

Musing….get out of my head. We know they are tracking us on many levels….lol at the toilet paper!!!

GotthePackage…..What are the chances of a condom protecting against HIV/AIDS? I have heard several stories on this, both pro and con, maybe you can share some “informed” info for us. Thanks for your honesty about all of this!!

By Storm

December 1, 2006 02:40 PM | Link to this

Laney, package and others who have contributed, thanks for educating my ingnant azz. Seriously, I pride myself in being a wealth of medical knowledge, but I truly am behind with the HIV/AIDS info. Super appreciate the sharing, package.

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 02:41 PM | Link to this

HotSauce Do you carry your pistol in a leg garter around your thigh under your red dress…LOLOLOL…now that is sexy…I wish I would be somewhere and see a foxy chick with a pistol garter…hahahaha

By Foots

December 1, 2006 02:42 PM | Link to this

Hot Sauce Just do what I do when I go out alone to movies, lunch, dinner, whatever… Look as good as you can possibly look, until it makes you jealous to even look at yourself, and go out with your head high and a smile on your face. All the men will think, “dayum, why is she out by herself? there must be some stupid brothas out there…” and all the women will think “dayum, she is by herself, I sure wish I could do that. wait a minute, is my man staring at her?? i’m bout to beat his azz.” LOL!! Have fun, girl!

By Jake

December 1, 2006 02:42 PM | Link to this

Runnin you right, the flow has got us in bad shape. I just wanted to point out what is obvious, but we try not to see. I’m 30, 15yrs ago I was ready to get my edu. get to the real world and make a mark. Today is very different, on the radio, Shawnna had a hit single titled “Gettin Some Head”, in daily rotation. They droppin out of school like flies, and every one of them lil bastards can rap. A generation of Rappers and Video Vixens. The future looks bleek, and when I say that I mean Memphis Bleek, it sucks…LOL

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 02:50 PM | Link to this

Jake Man you are stooopid…LOLOLOL….It does seem like er’dayum kid wants to be a freak’in rapper…If I see one more group of kids doing the dang “chicken sandwich” or whatever that dayum dance is…I’m gonna drive off an overpass.

By NCgirlfromATL

December 1, 2006 02:50 PM | Link to this

WHERE ARE ALL THE GOOD SINGLE MEN, WHO WANT A GOOD SINGLE WOMAN?

breaking out the blog binoculars, sending up flares, and turning on the blog search light w/ the SBW (super black woman) logo in the middle

AMEN!!

Ok, on topic. I don’t think I could have a complete romantic relationship with someone who was HIV positive or had AIDs. I hate to sound selfish, but there is a level of worry that would constantly surround the relationship. I worry enough as it is! lol! I’d drive my SO nutz if that was already a factor in the relationship.

Since my age group and race are the fastest growing group of new HIV patients, I plan to get my test this month, in honor of World AIDs Day.

Heeeeey demi/alvin!!

By DuShawn

December 1, 2006 02:52 PM | Link to this

I think this was an informative discussion. I was never totally clear on the HIV transmission through saliva issue. Does that mean brothas can go raw dog on the neck work? (excuse my frivolity, but it is Friday)

By Sexione

December 1, 2006 02:52 PM | Link to this

Foots….VERY good advice to HotSauce. I do this all the time. If my child isn’t with me, then I’m by myself, and guys will ask ALL the time, “Pretty Lady, you out by yourself? I know your man didn’t let, haha @ let, you come out looking this good all by yourself.” I have to laugh everytime, because I am genuinely enjoying myself doing whatever. Yes, it would be nice to have the “right” one to enjoy some things with, but that won’t stop me from enjoying myself until then.

HotSauce….kick it up a notch, have fun, and leave it at that…..the rest will come in due time!!! Enjoy the party.

By crimson esq

December 1, 2006 02:56 PM | Link to this

@ Jake we are living at a time where kids could care less about their futures… even though our generation had some rough ones out there.. I’d say that now more often than not kids are simply not eager to learn… they have no qualms about being held back a grade.. and is it just me or are kids losing their virginity earlier these days ?

By Got the package

December 1, 2006 02:56 PM | Link to this

Condoms are, to quote the CDC, “highly effective” in preventing HIV transmission. I wouldn’t give a statistic (like 99% or whatever) because it depends on them being used consistantly and correctly. That’s up to whoever is using them.

I will say, from a personal viewpoint, I don’t want to infect anyone else with HIV. I am comfortable, by using the proper protection, that I won’t do that. And trust me, I’ve given it a lot of thought, and done a lot of homework. It’s not a theoretical discussion for myself and my partners.

I do not personally know of any couple that has practiced safer sex consistantly (apparently we can include Shawn and Gwenn!) where the negative partner has been infected.

Most people think HIV is much more easily spread than it really is. It doesn’t really take much to stop it.

By Kym aka Rested and Relax

December 1, 2006 03:02 PM | Link to this

HIV cannot be caught: 1. through the air, or by coughing and sneezing

3.by sharing crockery or cutlery

4.through contact with toilet seats

5.through insect or animal bites

6.through swimming pools

7.by eating food prepared by someone with HIV

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 03:02 PM | Link to this

Hot Sauce take Foots advice, go out and have some fun, there is no telling who you will meet.

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 03:04 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ DuShawn for that post…Yeah saliva has a low transmission rate, however since the mouth can frequently carry cuts or abrasions, blood can get into the saliva and cause infection…Although this is a rare occurrence, it is still an occurrence…And I’m sure even the most careful Head’docta could cause a little gum bleed just by flossing.

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 03:04 PM | Link to this

Hot Sauce take Foots advice, go out and have some fun, there is no telling who you will meet.

By Jake

December 1, 2006 03:07 PM | Link to this

Dushawn I feel you on that 2:37 bruh. No matter what kind of success I acheive, when suit is back on the rack, I’m just cat from the Dec. At the house its “Flip-Flops and Socks”. I’ll never lose my “hood pass”, you can never forget where you come from.

Laney Before the weekend hits, and the booty calls start. Something to keep in mind! HaHA..who waits til the weekends

By Sexione

December 1, 2006 03:07 PM | Link to this

GotthePackage…..thanks, again, for all of your honest information. Keep your head up, I pray all goes well for you and yours!!!

DuShawn….you sooo silly!! I would think any sane woman would be like h3lll nawwww on the raw deal, unless you’re tried and true. While you (not YOU) may not be at risk, she may be. None of that unless you pass many, many ,many tests!!!

NCGirl/HotSauce…WHERE ARE ALL THE GOOD SINGLE MEN, WHO WANT A GOOD SINGLE WOMAN?

breaking out the blog binoculars, sending up flares, and turning on the blog search light w/ the SBW (super black woman) logo in the middle

AMEN!!

^5^5^5 That’s on the real!!!! One of these days…….lol

I’m out. Everyone have a safe, and protected weekend!! wink wink

By Laney

December 1, 2006 03:08 PM | Link to this

Got the package, your comments today have been incredibly informative, honest and interesting — THANK YOU SO MUCH!

By Hot Sauce

December 1, 2006 03:09 PM | Link to this

Foots You are sooooo right on time with that advice girl, thank you and i will do just that tonight! If it’s cold outside i’m gonna break out my fur coat, put on my best cologne, my hair/make up will be on point, nails/feet are just lovely and i’m going to have a great time all by myself; looking good, smelling good, and of course “riding good”

Musing lawd have mercy you come up with the best questions, i have’nt had the chance to do that yet, but with the line of work i’m in now i’m sure i’ll get a chance to somewhere down the line, when i do i’ll save a picture just for you ;)

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 03:16 PM | Link to this

NCgirlfromATL hey sista! Please take your power puff girl uniform, you man is coming…pointing up into space, “He’s out there, some where.”

By 2day

December 1, 2006 03:16 PM | Link to this

runnin * I still don’t like going to the doctor and dentist for anything regardless, they always find something wrong…lol*. I feel the same way and so far they haven’t.

By Hot Sauce

December 1, 2006 03:16 PM | Link to this

LOL @Sexieone girl put the spot light on them good single men when you find them please let me know :)

By DuShawn

December 1, 2006 03:19 PM | Link to this

Excuse my ignorance, but I have often wondered about HIV transmission through insect bites. If mosquitoes can transmit malaria and west Nile disease why not HIV? These insects do ingest blood and they puncture the skin of person after person. Just curious.

By Kym aka Rested and Relax

December 1, 2006 03:25 PM | Link to this

Dushawn according to the CDC… and this is their info…

*Some people fear that HIV might be transmitted in other ways; however, no scientific evidence to support any of these fears has been found. If HIV were being transmitted through other routes (such as through air, water, or insects), the pattern of reported AIDS cases would be much different from what has been observed. For example, if mosquitoes could transmit HIV infection, many more young children and preadolescents would have been diagnosed with AIDS.

All reported cases suggesting new or potentially unknown routes of transmission are thoroughly investigated by state and local health departments with the assistance, guidance, and laboratory support from CDC. No additional routes of transmission have been recorded, despite a national sentinel system designed to detect just such an occurrence.*

By Got the package

December 1, 2006 03:26 PM | Link to this

Laney, you’re welcome. And thank you for providing a place for discussion. Though it pains me to say thanks to a yankee. :)

And thank you everyone, for your openess and questions, and good wishes. Many times I have been in a group of people who didn’t know I am HIV positive, and heard some really harsh and factually incorrect things. Educate yourselves. AID Atlanta has a hotline/ e-mail listed on their website for questions (linked below, I hope), if there’s something you want to know later. Don’t end up on my side of the road out of ignorance. And that’s the only way to get there.

Oh, and there are lots of places to get tested, so y’all have no excuse for not knowing your status. For real.

http://www.aidatlanta.org/comments/index.shtml

By Hot Sauce

December 1, 2006 03:26 PM | Link to this

Alvin you know you wrong for that comment, lololol

By insane

December 1, 2006 03:29 PM | Link to this

The fastest growing segment of the population contracting HIV is African American women. ….this is true because so many AA women thinks it’s OK to be the mistress, side piece or the fk on the side. DEMAND RESPECT AND PROTECT YOURSELF

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 03:29 PM | Link to this

DuShawn we’re from Mia,Fl da Bottom, I am happy as hell mosquitoes are unable to carry the virus.

By Jake

December 1, 2006 03:30 PM | Link to this

crimson They doing evrything younger, I used to teach, these young girls be given head startin at 13,14. Some of them would rather do that than actually let the boy stick it. Its weird teen preg. is down, but cold sores are up tremendously..LOL

As for being underacheivers, they don’t care because they don’t want to be “anything.” It hard to focus when you been smokin, drinkin, and doing X since you was 13. How does that happen? Momma is 29-32 and datin or workin her azz off cause papa is a deadbeat. Youngin is 14-17 and supposed to be “responsible”. Both goin out on the weekends gettin fugged up, doing what they do…and keepin secrets from each other.

By Foots

December 1, 2006 03:36 PM | Link to this

DuShawn

Near the bottom of this page, http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/resources/factsheets/transmission.htm, there is a section on Insects.

By Kym aka Rested and Relax

December 1, 2006 03:37 PM | Link to this

Here is the other info on the insect thing Dushawn…

There is also no reason to fear that a biting or bloodsucking insect, such as a mosquito, could transmit HIV from one person to another through HIV-infected blood left on its mouth parts. Two factors serve to explain why this is so—first, infected people do not have constant, high levels of HIV in their bloodstreams and, second, insect mouth parts do not retain large amounts of blood on their surfaces. Further, scientists who study insects have determined that biting insects normally do not travel from one person to the next immediately after ingesting blood. Rather, they fly to a resting place to digest this blood meal.

By DuShawn

December 1, 2006 03:40 PM | Link to this

Alvin we’re from Mia,Fl da Bottom, I am happy as hell mosquitoes are unable to carry the virus. You right about that.

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 03:45 PM | Link to this

Hot Sauce LOL, but there is no point in sitting home on this wonder friday night…I will hit each upscale joint, in search of a young-got-it-going-on cutie such as yourself

See, there is no shame in my game…

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 03:49 PM | Link to this

LOL…HotSauce yeah, come talk to me after you get that thigh holster. I don’t know where they sell them, but that’s the only way I want to see a Woman carrying a gun…hehehehehe

Sliding aside the red slitted dress revealing a cleverly tucked sidearm just below the V-shape of the….

Well, you know what I’m thinking of…LOLOLOLOL

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 03:53 PM | Link to this

Jake my cousin’s 16 year son is a very disrespectful young dude…poor parenting

I’ve had to stop myself from flooring him a few time…

By Jo

December 1, 2006 03:54 PM | Link to this

First of all, best of luck to you, Got The Package & to you too Storm. Y’all look after yourselves. Kym, I agree, having a baby is one of the most important life decisions anyone can make, you are playing with the life of an innocent child if you ignore the risks. Well, I’m sorry to say, if I was single & I met a man with a STD or really, anything terminal, that would be a deal-breaker. My first live-in boyfriend had Miocardiopathy, a fatal heart disease. He got sick & was diagnosed about 2 years after we started dating & I stuck with him. I’d never wish that kind of stress that I had to go through on anyone, knowing he was going to die (he did, 5 months after diagnosis) & living in fear that any given morning I’d wake up next to a corpse cause I was warned that’s how it would probably happen. (Actually he had a fatal heart attack while watching tv in the early evening). So, no, this was not a good thing to go through & this wasn’t even a transmittable disease. Now, if my SO was disnosed with HIV while we were together? Uh, I’d want to know who’d he’d been ceeping with! I’d definately still be his friend, though, until, um, the story played out to it’s unhappy conclusion…

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 03:58 PM | Link to this

the newest Bonds chick: Agent HotSauce

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 04:02 PM | Link to this

Off Topic: It seems that Eddie Murphy is set to start filming Beverly Hills Cop IV…How long has it been since III?!?!?!?…and can anyone find the 4 people that watched it?!?!?!

By Hot Sauce

December 1, 2006 04:10 PM | Link to this

Musing i’ll do just that, and while you’re down there peeping just take a picture it’ll last longer ;)

By Jake

December 1, 2006 04:15 PM | Link to this

Alvin Go ahead and knock his azz out one time…you will feel better and he will learn a valuable lesson about respect…Thats the problem, nobody is checkin them lil busters.

By Living Proof

December 1, 2006 04:22 PM | Link to this

I have herpes and have had it since a month into my marriage in 2000. I never had any symptoms prior and neither did my dear husband. Doctor’s don’t know if I contracted it years ago and it lied dormant or even if my husband had it and didn’t show symptoms. As far as we know, I’m the only one who has it (my husband shows no symptoms). My husband from the beginning was and is VERY loving and we have a very NORMAL love life. Unfortunately, too many people have it and I was soo ashamed when I contracted this “mystery” virus. We still don’t know where it came from. It affects people differently and I have to stay on suppression meds monthly. However, since herpes is very manageable you can have a loving, normal relationship. But, we were married when this happened. I don’t know if we’d still be together if we were just dating, but knowing my husband, we would :-)

By Kym aka Rested and Relax

December 1, 2006 04:24 PM | Link to this

Relationship News courtesy of wsbtv.com

Clayton County police are looking for the gunman who fired on a car in Forest Park early today — killing a pregnant woman and her male passenger and injuring another woman.

The pregnant woman — identified as 19-year-old Jitain Hornsby — was shot in the head and emergency rescue workers later were able to find vital signs. She was put on life support but passed away hours later.

He identifies the man killed as 24-year-old Adam Rodriguez of Stockbridge.

The two women work at the Crazy Horse Saloon, a strip club. He says authorities are trying to determine whether the shooter knew the driver.

A witness told police the shooter — who was driving a green car — cut off a white Ford driven by the pregnant woman. Authorities say the shooter fired on the woman and then the man in the front seat.

Not a relationship story but funny as hell…

A fired CIA employee has pleaded guilty to charges that he burglarized 10 homes near the agency’s headquarters.

George C. Dalmas III, 48, admitted in Fairfax County Circuit Court that he broke into the homes from October 2005 to January of this year. He was charged with taking items that included valuable jewelry, collectibles such as Camp David cuff links and 1,074 pairs of women’s underwear.

His lawyer said mental health issues, rather than greed, motivated Dalmas, whom he described as a pack rat.

Dalmas was tracked down after a woman reported an intruder in January and gave police information from the license plates of the intruder’s getaway car.

CIA is not only tracking your information on toilet paper purchases apparently they are stealing your underwear too. LMAO!!

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 04:24 PM | Link to this

Hope

http://www.miami.com/mld/miamiherald/16142230.htm

By DuShawn

December 1, 2006 04:28 PM | Link to this

Hot Sauce you are a little hot flirt. I couldn’t imagine myself dating a police officer. I could see my potnahs inviting me to the cook outs now. “DuShawn, the boys havin a Bar-b-que on the park, come thu! But dog, don’t bring your lady, she be makin everybody nervous. All us got warrants”

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 04:29 PM | Link to this

Jake can’t, I would have to kill his dad…My cousin can put fear in lawyer, doctors, and george bush. But way too too easy on her child

By Hot Sauce

December 1, 2006 04:29 PM | Link to this

I’m out bloggers i hope you all have a nice weekend, and be safe; Musing i really wish you were going with me tonight cause i’m not wearing any panties or thongs under my dress, haha

By MusingLee

December 1, 2006 04:33 PM | Link to this

Kym Hahahahahaha…Dang, he stole 1074 pairs of panties?!?!?! LOLOLOLOL…I really feel for the guy that had to count those panties. hehehe

I’m out..Everyone have a safe weekend.

By Storm

December 1, 2006 04:35 PM | Link to this

Thanks Jo!

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 04:36 PM | Link to this

He wears similar clothing at each bank he robs — blue jeans, T-shirt, work boots and bandanna. Three times, he even sported the same head wrap, dark blue with white dots.

Now investigators are asking for help finding the man they’re calling “the bandanna bandit.”

The man has robbed six banks, mostly in Southeast Broward, since September of last year, Hallandale Beach police Detective Ron Beukers said. All the banks except the first were Wachovias, Beukers said.

The latest robbery was his first outside Broward, in Miami Beach on Nov. 18.

”The guy is brazen enough he is now coming forward again,” Beukers said.

Police believe the man is a construction worker who likes to strike during his lunch break. In the Miami Beach robbery, the man carried a reflective traffic vest, Beukers said.

The robberies started in September 2005, when he robbed a City National Bank of Florida in Hallandale Beach, Beukers said.

Then he switched to Wachovias, robbing banks in West Park, Hollywood and Fort Lauderdale.

He also struck one bank twice, in Hallandale Beach, Beukers said, first in March and again in August.

The second time, a teller recognized the man from a police flier but didn’t hit the alarm because she wasn’t sure it was him, Beuker said.

He is described as in his late 20s or early 30s, short hair, medium build and about 6 feet tall.

By Kym aka Rested and Relax

December 1, 2006 04:38 PM | Link to this

Now you know what happens to those missing socks and underwear after you wash clothes.

I know I had two pairs of silk drawers in here..dang CIA at it again.

By Foots

December 1, 2006 04:39 PM | Link to this

and can anyone find the 4 people that watched it?!?!?!

I did. But then again, I liked Pootie Tang.

By Hot Sauce

December 1, 2006 04:48 PM | Link to this

DuShawn that’s so sweet of you but i’m not like this when i’m in a relationship, i’ve always been a little flirty but i’m sweet as pie! :)

By Alvin

December 1, 2006 04:54 PM | Link to this

Night All