By Confused

February 14, 2007 8:14 AM | Link to this

Morning,

I am hating a little and kind of bitter for no apparent reason…It’s the red that is driving me to be mean and that is not right!!! I am with you today too Diva…No date or the other stuff but anyway this too shall pass and we will be seeing green shortly!!!!:)

By Confused

February 14, 2007 8:17 AM | Link to this

I recieved a text this morning from a previous partner saying HVD and I just refuse to answer it but I know that is not right but I just want more and know there truly is nothing more to give…It is what is is and false expectations will just lead into crazy mode for one day and a lost of friendship so less is more today I just will be unavailable as much as possible to the text and calls…

By Confused

February 14, 2007 8:21 AM | Link to this

My boss did bring me breakfast and that was not expected so I am just going to bear through this day and not be evil and rude bc I am single…still growing though…

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

February 14, 2007 8:25 AM | Link to this

I have run into so many women who HATE this day. One of them called it “National Singles Awareness Day” (I bought her flowers and promptly got sent to the FZ, dayum I hate the FZ).

One of those times it is GOOD to be a man is Valentines Day. There are four possible conditions, three of which are good.

1) You are in a meaningful relationship and excited about trying to please the woman (and all that one gets from pleasing a woman ;-)))

2) You have a chance to make a major play for someone you have been watching from afar. Can work well if one doesn’t get relegated to that hateful “Friendship Zone’.

3) If you don’t have a lady in your life you can take the money you saved by not being in a relationship and would have blown on her and go drink beer with the guys…always fun.

4) Okay the downer…if you are in a relationship or marriage with someone who has been busting your chops for months, you STILL have to buy a card and flowers, etc., and hating every minute of it.

For me, I stick with the top three so it is always good for me.

By GA.man

February 14, 2007 8:30 AM | Link to this

Good morning all I just simply go about my day…alot of times i get calls from my ex’s asking what am i doing….This is the moment they realize the trash(oops) they dumped me for(lol) or the stupid reason we broke….was not good anymore…so i always smile and refuse to answer(this is my 2nd V-day alone..but i go to the movies and dinner…and i will go to mall of Ga and buy me something..have a good day all..will be leaving to see Daddy’s Little girls soon….to all of you..Love yourself first or noone can love you at all**

By MochaTreat

February 14, 2007 8:31 AM | Link to this

Good morning Wise, Justme, Foots, Sexione, QC, Slim, Demi, GAman, Musing, Raqi, Kinder, Randy and crew

After work I am going to Bible Study and then home to cook for me and my children…Outside of those two things I don’t have anything planned. I also don’t expect much today…my dad usually buys something for my mom and me and my 2 sisters.

Have a Wonderful day everyone!!!

By kinderbabe

February 14, 2007 8:33 AM | Link to this

confused take this day to love yourself and appreciate all the wonderful things you have in your life. if you focus on what’s going wrong or what went wrong, you will continue to draw more of that to you. this is a great time to focus on self-acceptance. love is all around you and it’s not just in the hallmark, syrupy, “i love you sooooo much” kind of way. love is what’s sustaining you right now. love can also be your healing source. choose love.

have a great love day everybody.:) be good to yourself!

By Sexione

February 14, 2007 8:34 AM | Link to this

Happy Hump Day!!! (and Happy Valentines too!!)

I guess being by myself for so long has helped me to be nonchalant about this alleged holiday. It really doesn’t matter to me one way or the other….as long as I can pay the bills, put gas in the car (which I had to do this morning in the strong azz winds, whew!!), and there’s food in the fridge, I’m good. Oh, and let me not forget….the family is safe and healthy. Unfortunately, everyone’s not fairing as well….I was talking to a buddy in another dept. the other day and happened to mention this day and his plans for his wife. Poor thing almost had hot flashes because he felt that he was under a lot of pressure to deliver….I felt sorry for him. Most important for any husband/wife, SO, whatever…..is not what you do for this day, but what you do all year to show your love/desire/commitment, etc……365, baby, 365!!!

It’s been a busy week, but I had to throw in my .02 cents. Hopefully I’ll get to chime in from time to time today.

By kinderbabe

February 14, 2007 8:35 AM | Link to this

Life is short, Break the rules, Forgive quickly, Kiss slowly, Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably, And never regret anything that made you smile.

By Confused

February 14, 2007 8:40 AM | Link to this

@kinderbabe….Thanks for that and I am loving myself more it is just easy to fall into this I need a man to be happy syndrome when I have advance so much when red is everywhere but I will be ok…Trust I am loving me more and looking at me more…

By Justin

February 14, 2007 8:42 AM | Link to this

Valentine’s Day is a commercialized holiday set up to make women have high expectations from a man. If he doesn’t deliver, then she gets mad and evil. She wants all the other women to be envious that she has a good man. It is all show and women fall for the hype. It is a day when the female vampires of the world try to suck a man dry. It would be more practical to have a “Happy Divorce Day” and the “I’m happy the B—ch is out of my life” almost until the children turn 18.

By Confused

February 14, 2007 8:46 AM | Link to this

And yes I do have much in my life to love and adore I have an angel from God whom I am thankful for a Valentine like no other but the hype meaning media is thick and almost worst than peer pressure….It is like fight off Valentine demons to not be cruel but I will start being more positive this morning…I can get negative and just run with it it is a flaw I am working on!!!! I will be fine…

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

February 14, 2007 8:48 AM | Link to this

@Kinderbabe

Life is short, Break the rules, Forgive quickly, Kiss slowly, Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably, And never regret anything that made you smile.

Loved the quote…it is right on it and should be everyone’s mantra. Copying that for future use.

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 8:50 AM | Link to this

Morning and Happy Middle of the week

Um, I don’t have any valentine plans or really wanted any honestly. However, me and my cousin were thinking about catching Daddy’s Little Girls when i get off work. I had offers to go to dinner but I’m not in love with them, we just met so what’s the point? I said, lets postpone to another day. :-)

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

February 14, 2007 8:53 AM | Link to this

Good Morning WD

Are you aware that the sponsor of your blog, Kroger, has a big changing advertisement for Valentine’s gifts on the right side of the page? Kroger has Valentine fragrances for 25% off!!!! LOL

Okay, VD (interesting initials now that I ponder it) is terribly commercial, but a smile, a laugh, a great night…hey its worth it.

By Raqi

February 14, 2007 8:56 AM | Link to this

Good Morning.

Diva talk about avoiding the stores. Last night while at Doc’s house my youngest called me to tell me he has to carry some sugary snacks to school today so I went up to Walmart on Howell Mill. OMG the chaos. I stood in line for over 30 minutes. The lines were ridiculous. Every person had something relating to V-Day in their basket. All I needed was some heart shaped sugar laden cookies and I was out, but no. I tell you. I don’t think I would even want a gift that was purchased at the last minute and has been thrown around by I don’t how many people. Very impersonal if you ask me.

But anyway, Who wants to help me figure out what I am receiving for V-Day? I have received two envelopes from the man with stuff in them that I cannot quite make any sense of just yet. If you are interested let me know I will tell you what the items are. (I also received a nice email from him but that has nothing to do with what he says he is giving me.)

As far what I plan to do today, I will be having lunch with my girlfriends and I will be spending the evening with Barack Obama. My sister sent me “The Audacity of Hope” and I will be reading that after I settle in. The man is with his mother on the other side of the country so I have all the time in the world.

By MochaTreat

February 14, 2007 8:56 AM | Link to this

@ Kinder I am with Randy…that was a wonderful quote!!

By Confused

February 14, 2007 8:57 AM | Link to this

Justin I can celebrate Happy Divorce Day and have a ball too!!!! I returned the text being nice keeping it simple saying “Same to You”…See I am checking myself quick it will be many vday’s alone and I am too young to be in bitter mode….

By Raqi

February 14, 2007 8:58 AM | Link to this

Hey Mocha.

By Tater

February 14, 2007 9:00 AM | Link to this

Kinderbabe Your quote goes in my AJC Blog Folder. It is wonderful…

By kinderbabe

February 14, 2007 9:01 AM | Link to this

confused you’re welcome. embrace yourself regardless of what’s going on right now. treat yourself how you would want someone to treat you…not w/a critical eye but w/love. see yourself as perfect just as you are. you don’t need anyone or anything to make you complete. you are complete.

randy you’re also welcome. my friend katherine sent me that quote this morning. thought it would be good to pass on a positive word.:)

By black coffee

February 14, 2007 9:01 AM | Link to this

@Justin- I can understand that you have been hurt…but I think if you were to just go out and just have some really good sex you would loosen up a bit and let that go

By G

February 14, 2007 9:02 AM | Link to this

Overrated day. Whether you have someone or not, capitalism has taken control of this day.

Just another day for me. Most of my V-days have been alone so I’m used to it by now. When I was with someone, there was a whole lot of pressure trying to please, and that’s no fun. Saving money and watching the NBA on TNT as usual.

If you’re doing what you’re supposed to in a relationship on the regular, why feed into the commercialism of VD?

By QC

February 14, 2007 9:04 AM | Link to this

Happy Valentine’s Day Bloggers

By NCgirlfromATL

February 14, 2007 9:04 AM | Link to this

As a fellow single gal, I treated myself to a massage and foot reflexology this past weekend. Tonight, I’m going to the gym. It’s a regular day for me. Now, if I make some money today, it’ll be a great one! LOLOL!!

By QC

February 14, 2007 9:06 AM | Link to this

Hey Mocha, kinderB, Raqi, GaMan

don’t have any special plans for today i’m just glad to be in my right mind, have my family & good health

By Tater

February 14, 2007 9:07 AM | Link to this

Confused

Funny, I just received an email from my ex: “Today, as every day, I wish you hope & happiness for your future. Happy Valentine’s Day.”

Keep in mind this is the same woman who refuses to provide pictures of the kids, their report cards and visitation, etc.

Sooooo. Do I send something back?

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

February 14, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

Awww Valentine’s Day romance, candy, cheap cards, and balloons.

Okay Wisey I agree with you on the commercializing of Valentine’s Day and that past high school it hasnt really meant much. In high school it meant a teddy bear, or a carnation on my homeroom desk (our SGA use to sell them on Valentine’s Day) It also meant a fight in the hall because surely some guy bought a gift for one girlfriend and not the other or forgot about buying something at all.

What I think makes this holiday so tragic for single people(women especially) is all the hype about being one with someone, couple up, married off, get that ring and do the damn thing. The pressure to fit into societies molds can cause some folks to go over the edge.

Maybe we single people should start checking in with reality and forget about romance for just a moment. Nope you are not paired up..you are single so what? Embrace it for the time you have it, Enjoy it, if this be the day of love then get to loving on…YOU. No one is every going to love you better than you love yourself.

By Li'Demi

February 14, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this

Valentine’s Roses to All My Beautiful Single but Happy Sistas!!!!

Wise Today is a good excuse as any to go out and purchase candy at crack head prices…

Fellas, remember to restart your dating engine two days after Valentine…Don’t wanna get caught in the backlash!!!

By Bold & Beautiful

February 14, 2007 9:14 AM | Link to this

Good Morning bloggers and a Happy New Year. I am celebrating my singlehood, no drama, no expectations, no questioning. Valentine’s day like so many of the other holidays have become commercialized, the true meaning of these holidays have been trampled on. Therefore i have choosen to celebrate inspite of my singlehood and just be happy with whatever status i am in.

By C tha 1

February 14, 2007 9:14 AM | Link to this

@ Confused, you could’ve sent a better response than that:( Even if you don’t dig buddy that much, canned responses are too cliche’.

By Li'Demi

February 14, 2007 9:15 AM | Link to this

GA.man Sup!!

RandyT the FZ thingy happens for a reason, often does you more good than bad…

By SeanJohnson

February 14, 2007 9:15 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog…For those who dont have dates…its a concert tonite…put on something sxy and check it out..should be a gang of single people there…I never really have gotten into VD…like the other folks have said…its commercial…and men get short changed as always..For women who dont have valentines…maybe yall should ask a dude u are sweet on out…Yall Say yall are independent…if you are a go getta in all aspects of your life…why not be the same in your love life…especially if you arent completely happy with it..

By Confused

February 14, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

@Tater be kind…Kill the drama with kindness…Keep it simple and pray for peace with the situation…I can’t let hate or past mistakes control me or my past!!!! Be Kind and blessings will flow!!!!

By Awwwwwww....Dayum

February 14, 2007 9:21 AM | Link to this

Awwwwwwww…Dayum Justin!!!! Did you spend all 14days of February thinking that shyt up? LOL

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

February 14, 2007 9:23 AM | Link to this

Tater

I say send her a ‘nice’ response (even if in the back of your mind you are thinking “you cold hearted byitch”). There are several outcomes. One, she might thaw a little, and that is good for your children. Two, it might screw with her mind a little (which may be what she is doing). Three, talk is the cheapest form of communications (until you say the wrong thing at least).

As has been said here before, the best revenge in a divorce is to “live well” and “be well”, show them that you are “healed’ and YOU control your life, and are doing well…it really screws them up. I have that t-shirt and like it.

By Wise Diva

February 14, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this

Good morning!

Hey MochaTreat! That’s sweet of your dad to do that for his daughters.

@Randyt - now see? I have to adjust my browser to avoid the red, LOL. They should have used a Trojan ad for us or something, giggle

This is the Superbowl of Relationships, my father went to the Superbowl and came back with every Tshirt, sweatshirt, cheesy souvenir they sold, I mean, the man even copped Superbowl sneakers (who does that!?).. If he even slightly drops the ball with my mom today, I fear for his life, LOL!

By Tater

February 14, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this

Confused Kill the drama with kindness Suggestions on the appropriate response??

By NCgirlfromATL

February 14, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this

Tater don’t do it, Lamant! Leave that one alone!! Let the ex revel in her cesspool of crazy. Don’t let her drag you into it! LOL!

Welcome back GA.Man!

By Awwwwwww....Dayum

February 14, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this

black coffee M/F?

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

February 14, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this

SeanJ I didnt see anyone say they are independent or start waving rally rags, I am listening close and I don’t hear any Beyonce theme music. I just read women saying they were pretty content in their singlehood.

By Confused

February 14, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this

@Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

You are so right about that my ex and friends are in amazement on how gracefully I came when I was hurricane…How I apologize for past hurts my hurts to them and they tried to use it against me like I handle it wrong but I was tactful and not the old person so I they see my growth and I will continue…

By Georgia

February 14, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this

I heard a lady at Publix the other day, whining about what her husband was going to get her for Valentine’s day. She said - “If he doesn’t get me something real nice and expensive, I’m going to be very upset”. I thought, wow, what a selfish person. Then I asked her, well what did you get him for Valentine’s Day? She said Nothing, it was the man’s responsibility to give the woman presents, not the other way around. I felt so sad for her.
I don’t have a valentine, unless you count my beautiful daughter. She and I are going over to a friend’s house for dinner and decadent desset tonight. All of us are cooking together, two moms and two little girls. I can’t think of a better way to spend the Day of Love…….oh yea, and I had balloons delivered to my daughter at school today……

By Li'Demi

February 14, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this

Ummmmmmm…just had some sweet Mocha coffee this morning, so I am good!!!

QC, I am think of braving the cold and fly into your office playing some ol’skool on my 1983 sony “Big A$$” boom box…Just for you sweetie.

And where is…JustMe??…Don’t that woman know it’s too cold to be waiting on blog’s Marta

By Confused

February 14, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this

@Tater…start small by saying I am not sure what the kids grades were but I want to reward them with a gift card somewhere send through mail with a letter enclosed for the kids….I really don’t know this siuation I don’t have issues with me and my ex do right by our daughter he has her just as much as me and we both provide and she sees us daily and we stay apart so I don’t know…I did not want to battle this so I did right by her bc she does have a great dad…I don’t know just think out the box and start small and simple…

By Sexione

February 14, 2007 9:42 AM | Link to this

Welcome back, GAman

kinder loved the quote!!!

here’s one for y’all…..

The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases, his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is thy faithfulness. (Lam. 3:22 & 23)

Thank You, Father, for Your example of love. Your steadfastness, mercy, and faithfulness is such a model for me. Give me Your strength to love others as You have loved me. Amen.

Remember, JESUS is the greatest lover of all!!!

Have a blessed “Valentine’s Day”!!!!

By Tater

February 14, 2007 9:46 AM | Link to this

Randyt

As has been said here before, the best revenge in a divorce is to “live well” and “be well”, show them that you are “healed’ and YOU control your life, and are doing well…it really screws them up.

I think this is the part that she despises about me. I am living well and for the first time in 20 years am doing the things that “I” like to do. She knows the kind of life that I have and it irks her to no end.

Sounds to me from her email that she wants to get back together. This isn’t the first time she’s indicated this with previous emails and notes. Despite my seldom statments of bloodsucking worm, I have put her out of my head and enjoy each day as if it were my last.. ( Could be, watching out for MARTA bus ).

GA.man This is the moment they realize the trash(oops) they dumped me for(lol) No kidding…

By T-Mango

February 14, 2007 9:47 AM | Link to this

Good morning all!

I do believe that V-Day is highly commercialized. It can be depressing to folks who want to have that ‘special someone’ but have not found him/her yet. I’ve been there-

I don’t have a man, but I am ‘talking’ to someone who is in the process of moving to GA. He is fond of the holiday and did do a few very thoughtful things for me in the spirit of the holiday on Sunday when he came to town. We also exchanged gifts. His efforts made me feel very special.

Historically, it had been rare that I had someone to share time with on V-Day. I will be at home this evening. Probably watching a movie and talking to him real nice on the phone.

By MusingLee

February 14, 2007 9:47 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

I have really grown to dislike V. day…I think because it’s such a commercialized thing that I really hate it…I get my SO things 365, so what’s the big deal if I decide not to get something today?!? Dayummm I hate commercialism.

By Lil Jon (not a regular blogger)

February 14, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this

*She said - “If he doesn’t get me something real nice and expensive, I’m going to be very upset”. I thought…AIN’T THAT A Bish!!!

Yeeeeeaahhhhhaa!!!

Get low get low…Get low get low…Get low get low…Wwooooooo…

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 9:50 AM | Link to this

Slim is having a wacky azz Wednesday (on loud speaker) All this dayum love in this place and a sistah can’t get a f’ing drink?! BARTENDA! make me something strong, sexy and quickfast

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

February 14, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

Tater and Justin and those with ex’s. (Randy steps up on to his soapbox).

IMHO (Big capital letters) handling divorce and relationship endings is the relational equivalent of the old deodorant campaign. Never let them see you sweat. NEVER,NEVER, NEVER.

Always, as much as humanly possible, be courteous, be polite, be gracious, always. Never let them know when you are dying inside, always show them that you have moved on, that life is great and that everything that happened just made your life better. Fake it until you make it.

There is a story in the Bible about Joseph, who was sold into slavery by his brothers. Thirteen years or so later he had worked his way to the top in counsel to the Egyptian Pharoah. One day his brothers came to him, not knowing it was him, asking for help for a famine in their land. His quote is exactly how we all should try to feel and embrace in these situations. He said “what you meant for evil, God meant for good”. It will be GOOD,if you just let it.

Tater and Justin, you will rise out of the dark, and life can be better than ever with your kids, with your life. It is a matter of making the conscious decision that you will not let the past ruin your future. To once again restate what I have said before, “the best revenge of all is to live well and be well, and NEVER let them see you sweat”.

(Randy steps off of his soapbox and leaves the stage).

By C tha 1

February 14, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this

How about this one: If you suck my soul I’ll lick your funky emotions;)Happy V-Day That text oughtta at least make a woman crack a smirk. Have a good one yall.

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

February 14, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this

Tater

Just saw your 9:46 post. It sounds like you are truly on the right path (IMHO). Keep it up dude, it works.

By Awwwwwww...Dayum

February 14, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

Awwwwwww…Dayum, Lil Jon!!! your lil short A$$ can’t get any lower…can it???!!!

By GA.man

February 14, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

thanks sexione Ncgirl and lildemi i had too much fun but i did miss my blog family….but yes they all have call and it isn’t even noon yet…i am very romantic…and one even told me the guy she was with told her this morning he doesn’t do v-day..and that made her think of me..ohhhh well she lost out on it and me FOREVER…but i will move on and just smile….Hey DrKym

By Jewel

February 14, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this

Good morning and Happy Valentine’s Day Everyone!

so why not create a new meaning for the holiday and be happy about what I do have! Diva Why feel obligated to match the holiday with your own version? Do you really need a holiday to celebrate you? Self-love and self-care should be 24/7! You are worth celebrating every day!

Do we really need a scheduled day devoted to couples and romance? The operative word is scheduled. I am not impressed if a man feels obligated only because it is Valentine’s Day, but never shows me he cares the remaining 364 days. Show me you love me every day.

I do not have plans for today. However, a very nice gentleman friend is taking me to the Valentine’s Day Celebration concert this Saturday… he purchased front row seats. Ole skool music! The O’Jays, Jeffrey Osborne, The Whispers…I have to admit, I am excited!

Have a Powerful, Productive, Prosperous and Positive Day!!!

By Tater

February 14, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this

Randyt Send her the following response: Same to you…

By Confused

February 14, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

@Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)…You are preaching the word today!!!! Focus on you obtain short term goals for self and other things will fall in place!!!!! Wow I think I want to shout!!!!!:)

By Wise Diva

February 14, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

Someone emailed me this today:

The following are 10 important things men wish women knew. No, not just knew. Understood. Accepted. Believed. But more than anything, acted on. Not just on Valentine’s Day. Every day.

1. Men love to be complimented. Sincerely, however, not artificially. You can’t, for instance, say “I love what you’ve done with your apartment” if it looks like a dorm room. In a frat house.

2. Sunday equals sports. Not one game. Not two games. All the games.

3. Say what you think/want/feel. Straight up. No hints, no insinuations, no clever allusions. Men don’t do subtle. They’re just not hard-wired that way. (See yesterday’s post)

4. When it comes to makeup, less is more.

5. When it comes to making love, more is more.

6. Frequent compliments about his talents/abilities/allures coupled with regular disregard of his shortcomings/ limitations/faults are to a man what diamonds are to a woman: remarkable, extraordinary, incomparable treasures.

7. Honest, open, undisguised desire (read: making him feel as though you want him so badly that you can hardly remember your name) is the ultimate aphrodisiac.

8. A TV screen can never be too big. It’s the room that’s too small.

9. Flirting is sexy. Teasing is cruel. Do not confuse the two or serious, long-lasting hard feelings could ensue.

10. When in doubt, about what to give him for any special occasion — birthday, anniversary, just-because-it’s-Tuesday- and-I-want-to-I-love-you,Remember what F. Scott Fitzgerald said: “The greatest gift you can give anyone is to see them exactly as they wish to be seen.”

Thanks BC for sending this to me

By Confused

February 14, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

Jewel enjoy I wish I could be there but will be at another function in the area!!!! And always great response!!!

By Wise Diva

February 14, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this

@Jewel, you are right, you don’t need to feel obligated, it’s just my inner rebel is “reacting” to the message that the day is for couples, that’s all.

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

February 14, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this

A cheap tip for the other 364 days of the year, for the men in here. ALDI (those little stores in old Walgreens stores) often (not always) have a half dozen roses for $2.99. There is one enar my SO’s house. I try to buy a bundle (sometimes two), tear off the price tag, and take them with me for no apparent reason. I can safely assure you, that that $3.15 after tax pays awesome dividends…especially if it seems you did it for no apparent reason at all (okay you might want to get laid, but that is not a national holiday yet…hmmm, probably should be).

By Jewel

February 14, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

RandyT Love that 8:25 post!

GA Man, Demi, SeanJ I thought “y’all” were in the Players’ Protection Program for today! LOL! Compliments of Tom Joyner

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this

I guess the bartender is out with his/her valentines. SO Slim will make her own dayum drink

By Raqi

February 14, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this

Aside from the gloomy sky I see out my window, you people are making me freakin’ depressed. LOL

I’m out. I am taking an early lunch. Maybe there will be some funny past V-Day disaster story when I return.

“Love is what love does”.

By SexyLeggs

February 14, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone…I refuse to get bogged down with the commercialism of this day. It’s another day. Society has brainwashed us to thing that WE HAVE TO GET FLOWERS, CANDY, DIAMONDS on this day. I’m going to enjoy the day as I did yesterday (well not as quiet - it was a biatch at the office). Anyway, I’m not waiting on any to show me love. I love myself. I don’t need a man to tell me my self-worth. Sure, kind words of endearment are great to hear, but if you can’t hear any, why sulk. Man, enjoy life and keep on trucking….

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this

Valentines Love Poem

Collards is green, my dog’s name is Blue And I’m so lucky to have a sweet thang like you. Yore hair is like corn silk a-flapping in the breeze. Softer than Blue’s and without all them fleas.

You move like the bass, which excite me in May. You ain’t got no scales but I luv you anyway. Yo’re as satisfy’n as okry jist a-fry’n in the pan. Yo’re as fragrant as “snuff” right out of the can….

By QC

February 14, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

Demi That’s very sweet of you but wrap up good cause the wind downtown ain’t friendly today at all…

^5 SlimOne we need a really good

skrong, skraight drank

All the Men in my office gave all the ladies a “single long stem rose” awww now ain’t that sweet ;)

By Jewel

February 14, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this

Kinderbabe AWESOME QUOTE!!!

Justin Happy Valentine’s Day! Do you own a lemon farm?

By Patrick

February 14, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this

Valentine’s Day….BAH HUMBUG!

By Li'Demi

February 14, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

Jewel not far from the truth…LOL

GA.man I am glad you’ve enjoyed yourself…Too bad the temps are in the 40’s upon your return.

By Free

February 14, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

I love VDay. While I don’t have a significant other and havent really for more than 13 years, I still have great love in my life. This morning my 13 year old son came and sat on my bed and said he was not in a good mood. I hugged him and told him how wonderful he was and how much he was loved by me, his grandma, grandad, aunties and cousins. When I was done, I turned my back to do something, and when I turned around he had placed a homemade card on my bed. I realized at that moment that I was one of the most blessed people in the world. My son is developing into a thoughtful and kind young man who knows how to love. I was so touched and proud.

I take this day to love on myself and my son and others. I take this day to tell those I love that I do. There’s so much pain in this world. Kids in foster care, the homeless. I choose not to dwell in the don’t haves, but to focus on what I’ve got. If we all do that, we’d realize that we have more love than we imagined. I take this day to be more outwardly focused than inward.

I’ve been divorced since my son was an infant and after trying for years to fill that space, I’m now thanking God for this time alone that I’ve come to really know me. As a result of this quiet time, I’ve come to realize that what i thought I wanted, I’m not so sure I do anymore.

So on this day, I wear my red and I call my friends male and female a few days in advance to do a romance check (ask about plans, give ideas, etc.). I know it isn’t all about what you get, but for some women/men this day is special. It’s the only time they’re acknowledged. Most of the time, they are underappreciated. I even take it one step further by offering to babysit for my couple friends/neighbors who barely have any time alone…I make cupcakes and order pizza for the kids until their parents come home. So I’ll be babysitting again this year. Sorry for the long first-ever post, but i felt compelled to write because I am happy today and I love this day. Always have. I pray for all those in relationships who are really trying because it’s hard work. Personally, I’m a punk and don’t think I have the heart to ever do it again. But I support and encourage love today and everyday!

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

February 14, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this

SlimOne

What a moving poem. I am very sentimental. I haven’t had my eyes mist up like that since the last time I watched Roller Derby and WWE wrestling both. LOL.

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

Slim drinking Hen straight out the bottle, stepping up on bar, continually reciting her VD poem.

You have some’a yore teeth, for which I am proud; I hold my head high when we’re in a crowd. On special occasions, when you shave under yore arms, Well, I’m in hawg heaven, and awed by yore charms

Still them fellers at work, they all want to know, What I did to deserve such a purdy, young doe. Like a good roll of duct tape, yo’re there fer yore man, To patch up life’s troubles and fix what you can

By SexyLeggs

February 14, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

Free well said…well said!

By Jen

February 14, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

I’ve been married for 10 years. I have to say that I HATE Valentine’s Day. It’s a trumped up, falsified, Hallmark holiday. A day when people run out and spend money in some attempt (from the half-hearted CVS stop to all-out sky writing) to show an overabundance of some romance-novel idea of love.

Bah Humbug!

Here’s what I want from my husband to show me he loves me…and I want it frequently:

And here are things I’d like randomly and not too infrequently but not too often, either:

And those are things I want to give to him, too.

By Confused

February 14, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

@ Free that was very moving and inspiring…I too am divorced with a baby in tow but it is all good…I am looking ahead adn wont be sucked in by the hype what did Betty Wright say about Roses and trust everything that glitters aight gold I will just keep it real with me!!! That was a great post!!!!!

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 10:36 AM | Link to this

Randy You’ve given me my first laugh of the day.LOL Glad I could add to your valentine but there’s more to come…to be continued

By Jewel

February 14, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this

Special Roses to the Blog

One Rose for Long Friendship

One Rose for Unconditional Love

One Rose For Financial Wealth

One for Everlasting Happiness

One for Success

One for Knowledge

One for Beauty, inner and outer

One for Family

One for Honesty

And the last one for a long and healthily life!

By Li'Demi

February 14, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

I’ll be alright, got QC on the brain,LOL

Heeeeey SexyLeggs!!!

SlimOne, the hellz was that, Rednecks do valentine thingy too??!!

The world is coming to a end fo reel fo reel y’all!!!

By Jewel

February 14, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

Tater Your response should be…wanna attached some pictures of my children to this email???

By Luvah

February 14, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

Too bad there are so many folks out there that fall for the stupid holiday commercialization. I’m not one of them. Last night I bought the stuff for a romantic dinner by the fire. We don’t exchange flowers, gifts or candy. We get each other cards and do what the day was meant for…romance one another. But we have date night every week anyway, so it’s just another day in Paradise for us.

Sorry to the singles and V-Day Haters. I’m gonna go have fun, fun, fun!

By Sexy Shaft (not demi)

February 14, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

Jen, what is your husband’s name and work location…I have ways…of opening his eyes.

By T-Mango

February 14, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

@SlimOne…And the Poet Laureate of GA is (your name here)…

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this

Yo’re as cute as a junebug a-buzzin’ overhead. You ain’t mean like those far ants I found in my bed. Cut from the best cloth like a plaid flannel shirt, You spark up my life more than a fresh load of dirt.

When you hold me real tight like a padded gunrack, My life is complete; Ain’t nuttin’ I lack. Yore complexion, it’s perfection, like the best vinyl sidin’. Despite all the years, yore age, it keeps hidin’.

By Awwwwwwww...Dayum

February 14, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this

Awwwwwwwww…Dayum, Free!! U move Awwwwwwwww…Dayum, to tears with the long a$$ post,LOL

may you have a bless day

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this

Progressively more drunk, Slim almost falls off bartop still reciting her VD poem dedication

Lil’Demi everrybody needs luvvv! Now here, take a swig of this Hen but remember you can’t drink and fly buddy.

By Sexione

February 14, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

Slim that poem is hella funny….now pass me that bottle of Hen, it’s cold in here!!! LMAO

By kinderbabe

February 14, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

thanks for the roses jewel :)

By RUChinaDoll

February 14, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

There’s a reason Cupid rhymes with Stupid!

By Lil'Demi

February 14, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this

You must not know who I is!!!

Quickly draining double shot of Hen…Leap…glided…then clash head first into Fulton jail building

This ain’t no Magic City!!!

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 10:59 AM | Link to this

Slim passing half empty bottle over to Sexione

Me ‘n’ you’s like a Moon Pie with a RC cold drank, We go together like a skunk goes with stank. Some men, they buy chocolate for Valentine’s Day; They git it at Wal-Mart, it’s romantic that way

Some men git roses on that special day

From the cooler at Kroger. That’s impressive,” I say. Some men buy fine diamonds from a flea market booth. “Diamonds are forever,” they explain, suave and couth.

But for this man, honey, these won’t do. Cause yor’e too special, you sweet thang you. I got you a gift, without taste nor odor, More useful than diamonds……IT’S A NEW TROLL’N M OTOR

Slim now proceeds to take a whiz behind the bar

By SexyLeggs

February 14, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this

Heeeey Li’Demi…just seeing your greeting to me put a smile on my face. I’m waiting for this blog to veer of it’s course as it always does. Seems like most are tired of the commercialism of the day. However, Jen summed it up It’s a trumped up, falsified, Hallmark holiday…

By SexyLeggs

February 14, 2007 11:02 AM | Link to this

Hey, that bottle of Hen is just about empty. I have a bottle of NaVan that will truly warm all of you up…

By Tazzee

February 14, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

Morning all!

I use Valentines Day as an excuse to buy myself what I’ve termed my TO gift (“I LOVE ME SOME ME!”). I was planning to go last night but I worked too late, so I’ll be hitting up a jewelry store this evening to get my TO gift.

I also just realized that this marks my 1 year anniversary here in Houston. Well it was Feb. 12 but I remember V-Day last year I worked late and went to dinner with my boss and his boss. We ended up at this nasty Mexican restaurant because the nice places were full. So I’m also going to treat myself to a nice meal tonight - but I’m ordering take-out since I know the restaurants will be packed.

I’ll be checking out Tyler’s new movie this weekend.

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this

Sexyleggs grabs Slims attention at the sight of the fresh new bottle. “Oohh, that bottle looks Niiiiccccee!”

By SexyLeggs

February 14, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this

@SlimOne you’re a hot mess. Too funny. Slim’s staggers toward me, but trips….OMG, I can’t lift him up, he’s too heavy. Musing, I need your help.

By NCgirlfromATL

February 14, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

For those of you who think V-Day originated with Hallmark…

http://www.catholic.org/saints/saint.php?saint_id=159

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

February 14, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

Good grief I agree with Raqi..it is getting rather depressing.

Today is just Wednesday February 14, 2007 just because Hallmark and other retailers say it is Valentines Day is no reason to get broke up or broke down. Heck in other countries they consider this mess a western holiday and could give a rats tail about it.

Hey GAMan

By Alabama

February 14, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

Happy Valentine’s Day to everyone.

@Slimone, you have got to stop I am lol and everyone is coming into my office to see what’s wrong (I am about to laugh my contacts out).

Have Good Day All!

By Ann

February 14, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this

Hey WiseDiva,

I agree that this holiday is the worst if you’re single. It just reminds you in BRIGHT RED that you are single. But that all entails how you make the day go.

I know yesterday me and my best friend took off work to celebrate out ‘Singleness’ and we had spa pedicures and manicures and went out to eat. So I think, by doing activities like that, you can make the day feel a little bit better and sort of cheer yourself up. But it does still stink not to have a Valentine. But life goes on!

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

Slim gets up, climbs in a chair and flashes everyone her itty bitty’s I’m a girl, a real girl!

By Tiff

February 14, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this

Hey all!! Doesn’t bother me not to have someone on Vday at all. Too happy being me to be mad about being without someone. I feel like I’ve received a get out of jail free card today. No waiting expectantly for gifts and no reason to walk the aisles of every department store trying to find the perfect gift for someone!! Yea!!! LOL

Have a good day all..QC, Demi, SJ, Foots, etc. !! I’m planning on checking out the concert this weekend myself..all by myself and I’m sure to have a great time.

By Jewel

February 14, 2007 11:35 AM | Link to this

Pssst Guess what? On February 15, you will still be single…

Single: a separate, unique WHOLE…UNBROKEN…UNDIVIDED…having no equal or like.

By Jewel

February 14, 2007 11:38 AM | Link to this

Georgia That is a wonderful way to show your daughter to love herself!

By Awwwwww...Dayum

February 14, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

Awwwwwwwww…Dayum, C tha 1!!! I sent that text and ended up agreeing to a date for tonight…Hy in the Atllll that could of happ’n!!!???

By LM

February 14, 2007 11:47 AM | Link to this

I am not happy today. I got my man a card and packed it in his suitcase before we left for his work related trip, gave my teenager a card and a box of chocolates. I don’t want much from either of them, I just would like them to acknoleged me also.

Oh, I also get to pick up my man’s new dog and give him a bath, today was the only day I could pick up the dog b/c the breeder is traveling to a show this weekend. Which means I get to pay for the dog also. Don’t get me wrong the dog is very sweet and I am looking forward to having him, but it would have been nice had either the child or man remember me.

By SexyLeggs

February 14, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

SlimOne I’m sorry for the gender faux paus….now, button up your blouse.

By Erin

February 14, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

It’s nice to see, but kinda depressing - that I’m not the only one who despises Valentine’s Day.

While everyone else in my office is wearing red or pink or whatever, I’m wearing head-to-toe black. It matches my mood to a T.

By Lil'Demi

February 14, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs I was good until I decided to have a few drinks with Slim…now tossing dollars slim way…

This is better than MC!!!

now flying dranken over to Tiff place…Lawd, I promise No more drinks on a empty tummy!…Now take me to the Promise Land.

By abc

February 14, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

My Valentine lives out-of-state, I sent a box of presents and had flowers and balloons delivered… I’m glad for the opportunity to demonstrate my affection in that way. Valentine’s Days past where I didn’t have a Valentine, I just ignored the day. No biggie.

By crimson esq.

February 14, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this

morning everyone

Valentine’s Day really is just another day of the yr.. but the day is a bit sweeter if you’re involved.. I can honestly say that this is my first V Day ‘attached’ since high school so even though it’s commercial it is a bit special for me..

and I definitely don’t believe in the day being all about the woman.. I have some things lined up for him this evening after work.. I have to admit..there’s nothing like having some flowers hand delivered to your j-o-b by your SO that actually lives in another state…

By Lil'Demi

February 14, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this

LM sounds to me, your SO is setting you up…smile pretty lady

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

Thanks SexyLeggs I was starting to get frostbite on my….so I guess that means I was getting NipBite…lmao!

By Lil'Demi

February 14, 2007 12:06 PM | Link to this

now playing Thugz Holiday by Trick Daddy

Erin chill and enjoy the pretty ladies bruh…Come Friday, things will go your way!!

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this

Slim hopping off chair picking up dollar bills thrown by Demi and heading back to the bar

By Rell @>->--

February 14, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this

HAPPY V-DAY WISE!!!!!

By SexyLeggs

February 14, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this

Dang, ROFLMAO @Slim. You are crazy. Anybody else care for some NaVan? Because I relly like NaVan, this is my blog drink to all of you…Happy V-day…gulp, gulf, oh so sorry, daintly, sip sip sip….

By C tha 1

February 14, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this

^5 Awwww… Dayum! Good work, now if you actually get your sould sucked and lick her funky emotion then it really did the trick.

By happily single

February 14, 2007 12:12 PM | Link to this

Police: Kendall man hacked wife with machete BY DAVID OVALLE dovalle@MiamiHerald.com

A husband attacked his wife Tuesday night in Kendall with a machete, leaving her in critical condition, Miami-Dade police said.

The man has been taken into custody. Police did not reveal the charges against him, though he could be charged with murder if she dies.

VD cause the poor guy to lose it, signed: happily single

By Jo

February 14, 2007 12:16 PM | Link to this

Wise Diva, how about a cocktail called the Lorena Bobbit?!? I haven’t been without a Valentine’s Day date since 1994 (I met my ex husband late Feb. of 94 & am in a new relationship now)but it didn’t used to be like that for me; I was always one of those shy, ugly, flirting-challenged bookworms who couldn’t get a date to save her life & trust me, those emotional scars last forever so to this very day, I “see red” on 2/14. I’ve always felt it’s a holiday designed for the benefit of retailers AND to promote forced heterosexulity & breeding (OK, in all fairness, no one ever had to force ME to indulge in hetero acts; I CHOOSE to. Whooo whooo!)& to make unattractive people feel like freaks. My boyfriend & I are celebrating very simply. We emailed each other e-cards during the day & tonight after work we’re going out to dinner; not one of those trendy places where you need reservations but one of our usual places, either a Chinese buffet, Golden Corral, Mexican, Vietnamese or Ethiopian. Any celebration is more so for his benefit than mine because as wonderful as he is & oh is he ever, that poor guy has had an even worse romantic past than me.

By Jewel

February 14, 2007 12:16 PM | Link to this

ABC I can just hear you crooning “‘Cause I Loooove You” Lenny Williams style…LOL!

By Rell @>->--

February 14, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this

HAPPY V-DAY TAZZEE…YA ALREADY KNOW LADY…

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

LOL @SexyLeggs I see how you changed that gulp into a ladylike sip…hehehehe.

Slim stumbles over to Blaffle House for some eggs and hashbrowns

By Justin

February 14, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

Randyt, I have moved on but she continues to try to make my life miserable by manipulating the children.

Jewel, Yep, I own a lemon, lime, and sour grape farm…

By Justin

February 14, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this

Confused, Happy Valentine’s Day!

By Tazzee

February 14, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this

Hey Rell! Happy V-Day!

By Confused

February 14, 2007 12:38 PM | Link to this

Thanks Justin same to you!!!! You will always be in my thoughts…

By Jewel

February 14, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this

Now planning my business strategy for a hostile takeover of Justin’s lemon, lime and sour grape farm…

By becca

February 14, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this

What did any of you ladies do for your men or SO this Valentines Day? Just curious because I was stressing big time on what to get for my husband. It seems all the cutesy stuff is designed for women and I feel men deserve a Valentine too.

By JustMe

February 14, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon and Happy Valentines Day QC (I always forget U :-)), SlimOne, Moccha, Randy, Demi, Musing, Jewel, Rell, Justin, C tha 1, Hey Crim, Tazee, SexyLeggs and anyone I missed

What are your plans for today? Lunch with a Ex-So that won’t stay in his own town

Do you have any Valentine’s Day dilemmas you need advice on? Maybe our wonderful readers could help!

*Yes as a matter of fact, I do…….. This dude drove all the way from Augusta to take me to lunch after I went str8 Bit@hy on him yesterday to keep him away. He calls me and announces he is waiting for JustMe outside (at my old office building; we moved last March) After I asked him to drive back to his town, he replied, I’ll be waiting for you at home then, can I come get your house key. No again…. What on earth can I do to get this man to go away. I know it’s V-Day, but I don’t want to be his Valentine, and the Bit@h mode doesn’t work at all with him, being str8 up with him doesn’t work, squeaking bed and moans didn’t work (thanks blog), pretending to be dating another man doesn’t work. What can I do to make him go away! *Is this stalker behavior?

What’s your best or worst Valentine’s experience? Today will probably be the worst. Being alone is not as bad as this is going to be

or even if you just have someone trying to get in your pants on a regular basis (don’t even think about complaining about this),

Wisey baby, sorry to be a whiner, but it’s not all it’s cracked up to be - trust and beleive, it can be very annoying

By Justin

February 14, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

Great Valentine’s Present for the men…get us this copy of the magazine!

Beyonce in Bikini is Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Cover Girl

By RUChinaDoll

February 14, 2007 12:48 PM | Link to this

Becca I bought toys, dinosaurs to be exact. I think it should be fun! Forget the crazy cheesiness. Have a good time!

By Rell @>->--

February 14, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this

What is going on notorious one….miss you guys on TOS….we need to really crank that back up..i miss the debates we use to have…i have another site for you..i bet you could go in and change the attitudes of those simps…hit me up and i will give it to you…ya know how to reach me tazz..luv ya lady

By Jewel

February 14, 2007 1:02 PM | Link to this

Becca Last year I gave my ex-SO a personalized basket…filled with the things he likes, including a full body photo of ME! *Yes, I was fully clothed in a sexy little black dress. He loved it! Hmmmm…you are asking this question TODAY! LOL! Really, be creative with his interests in mind.

By JustMe

February 14, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this

Becca I gave my son a teddy bear that said “Only You” on a heart the bear is holding….. He’s my Valentine this year.

By Rell @>->--

February 14, 2007 1:07 PM | Link to this

@JUST

Show up with the police..lol. Other than that you have got hook up mr crazy nugga…he will not leave you alone..something drastic has to happen. I tell you brothers are really making me mad with this SIMP behavior..tell him you going to get DOOKIE and MONSTER to F him up…lol, tell him you have friends in low places..here is another good one..tell him you are pregnant by the next dude..tell him you have an orgie scheduled for 9pm..i could do this all day..lol

By Confused

February 14, 2007 1:14 PM | Link to this

My co-worker just said a crazy statement that I should do in the future…”Send flowers to myself” I am to frugal for that and it is not that serious but any way I gues couples have some pity for the single ones in a office or group…just my opinion…I told her I was fine though!!!:)

By Rell @>->--

February 14, 2007 1:16 PM | Link to this

Ladies if you ever want to go down in the hall of fame of all valentine day memories with your man..do a threesome…he will really love that…lol

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

February 14, 2007 1:17 PM | Link to this

How about not entertaining his phone calls or advances at all? JustMe if this guy is really someone you dont want as a part of your life, why talk to him when he calls, or agree to lunch with him when you dont want to?

By Rell @>->--

February 14, 2007 1:21 PM | Link to this

stop bellyachin over valentines day..this day sucks even for those that do without a calendar date…i hate it..cause my love extends beyond the 14th of Feb..feel me….it is just too much pressure on some bs…flowers do not say i love…chocolates do not say it..and stuff bears nope…what says love is doing without expecting it in return…feel me

By Confused

February 14, 2007 1:24 PM | Link to this

I think a great date tonight if I was seeing someone like that is to go to the strip club…It’s kind of fun and more socail than one thinks…

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 1:27 PM | Link to this

JustMe Instead of lunch with the stalker-like ex, maybe you should suggest touring the Fulton Co Jail. That will probably be more enjoyable than lunch.

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

February 14, 2007 1:27 PM | Link to this

JustMe and Rell

LMAOROTF tell him you are pregnant by the next dude.…and add, “if we go out, we are going to have to tell everyone it is yours”.

That would work for me. The next thing you would see is my a$$ running toward the sunset. Now dude might say, “Hey Baby, that’s cool, what’s another slice off of a broken loaf”?

You might need to think before you use this. LOL

By Becca

February 14, 2007 1:28 PM | Link to this

No peeps I did get him something already, some Ps2 games and a card but it was hard. I ended up with the games because I thought to get him something he likes. Justin I’m sure sexy Beyonce would be his thing, thanks!

By JustMe

February 14, 2007 1:29 PM | Link to this

Rell I don’t think those things would phase him, the Orgy would make him rise and ask for an invite. He know’s I’m not birthing anymore babies, so that line would make him laugh till it hurts.

Kym If I don’t answer my cell phone, he call the toll free # at my job and he’s a talker, I don’t need anyone in my office knowing that this nutjob knows me……

He knows that I am moving this w/e and he desperately want to know where I am moving too, so he’s trying to weasel his way in for the weekend to help a sistah out…. I thought today would be a good day to tell his azz to take a long walk off of a short pier, that should make his day.

By Raqi

February 14, 2007 1:29 PM | Link to this

Yes Rell we feel you.

By kinderbabe

February 14, 2007 1:29 PM | Link to this

jewel now that’s cute.:) i’m gonna keep that in my memory so i can make up a little basket, hopefully in the near future…lol.

By Justin

February 14, 2007 1:30 PM | Link to this

Justme, Happy Valentine’s Day!

By becca's Husband

February 14, 2007 1:31 PM | Link to this

Baby just kept it simple, give me a few hawks ticket(with a good team playing them), while wearing my favorite team’s jersey and nothing else.

By becca

February 14, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this

becca’s Husband LOL! Thanks you are a trip! Gives me an idea tho….

By Sexy Shaft (not demi)

February 14, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this

JustMe what is buddy’s name and info…I could kindly pay him a visit.

Free of Charge…because you are…JustMe

Ladies if your man or Xman isn’t acting right…Jump on my VD special for 1995.95

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 1:41 PM | Link to this

Sexy Shaft (not demi) what does the VD special consist of?

By Lil'Demi

February 14, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this

Rell sup Bruh!!

How r you doing Tazz

JustMe feel free to borrow my sexy twin sistas..Ms.9mm and Ms.45cal

By SexyLeggs

February 14, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this

Confused I’m with you on the strip club. I think all women should keep an open mind and try the strip clubs at least once. It’s rather fun inside.

By For Real

February 14, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!!!

JustMe Where are yall going for dinner. Your Blog Fam will show up and stand behind you all night just like that sprint commercial. Then when he ask Who are all those people? You can say it’s my network

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 1:48 PM | Link to this

Hey For Real I like that idea but I have a question for you: WHERE’S MY DAYUM FLOWERS,CANDY AND COOKIE CAKE?? If you would’ve been on your job, I wouldn’t have had to flash my itty bitty’s while reciting poetry on top of the BlogBar earlier. lol

By Rell @>->--

February 14, 2007 1:56 PM | Link to this

whats up demi..long time

Kym..she likes the attention…thats the reason why..lol…but i feel for here…she still like him, but maybe he messed up so she going to send him thru hell..lol…typical…

By For Real

February 14, 2007 1:56 PM | Link to this

Slim Why you think I trying to get us to go on the date with JustMe and Narls Barkley? After we freak him out you can have the flowers, candy, cookies and cake Narls bought for JustMe.

Have you been drinking again? You know your poetry sucks when you have been drinking. BTW they itty bitty to me

By SunnyZwei

February 14, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this

I guess I’m one of those sappy, romantic fools….I would LOVE to get flowers or chocolates for VD. It’s been over 10 yrs since I’ve gotten anything…it would mean a lot to me. I truly hate being single on VD…actually I hate being single on any holiday, they are just so much more fun to celebrate with that special someone. IMO.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

February 14, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this

Rell it sounds like it. JustMe From your story it sounds like you enjoy the attention…if not then why not answer the phone, tell the folks at work he is harrassing you companies have policies in place to deal with harrassing phone calls, if he shows up at your home call 911. If you have said No thank you to his advances then a visit from the people in blue will make it clear for him without you having to ever say a word.

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this

See look at me jumping the gun when For Real already had a plan. I’ll wait patiently until Narls Barkley gets to stepping and I’ll finally have my V-Day gifts.

Yeah I had been drinking earlier but I sobered up at Blaffle House. What’s for desert?

By Rell @>->--

February 14, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this

kym..folks need to wake up and stop with the ghetto mess…the whole situation is ghetto..he driving 2hrs for abuse…i don’t get it..you have no respect for the man at this point and he has none for himself to simp out like this….you need to fall back on your attention crazy ways before somebody get hurt…it is not worth it JUST ME..feel me

By For Real

February 14, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

@Slim A shot of Remy.. you something to cut the grease in your system from Blaffle House.

By Sexione

February 14, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this

I think a great date tonight if I was seeing someone like that is to go to the strip club…It’s kind of fun and more socail than one thinks

Fun ONLY if said club has both male and female dancers…..those are the best IMO. Male eye candy for the ladies, and female eye candy for the men. Is it just me that gets no enjoyment from watching another broad strip? (ick!!) I be like, hellz I wanna see something I ain’t got - I got t** and azz…show me the big bananas!!! lol

By JustMe

February 14, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this

Justin Happy Valentines Day to you too.

Sexy Shaft (not Demi) HIs name is pestaholic!

Demi Those twins could get a girl like me in a lot of trouble.

For Real I have to work the Circus tonight, I hope he doesn’t buy a ticket - LOL

Rell He “F’d” up over a year ago, and I’ve been the same bit@hy way since then. I mentioned to a lady friend of mines that he hadn’t called me in over a week (that was a record) and lo and behold here his azz is calling again.

For Real / SlimOne I would not trust anything than man has to offer. I have treated him in a p!ss poor way for a long time, he might be trying to get revenge. Give that stuff to Justin.

SunnyZ I wish I had a SO to spend it with too.

By Wise Diva

February 14, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

Thanks Rell, same to you!

LOL @ Lorena Bobbit cocktail, JO, I totally love it. I am sure some bartender could come up with some kind of mix for it too!

By Raqi

February 14, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

@Sunny I choose to believe that most people would like to receive those things also whether they are willing to admit it or not. However since the present chances are that they won’t they accept that it is okay that they don’t.

By Rell @>->--

February 14, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this

JUST ME..but if it is a year ago..why you still talking to the dead..you a medium or something.This whole thing should have died a year ago..not that he has not called in a week..that means you still dissing out your abuse to him for a mistake from a year ago…umm who is the crazy one…i say shake this ghetto melodrama..cause i cram to understand why would you keep up contact for a year…the only thing that i can come up with is attention..and that is not right

By JustMe

February 14, 2007 2:31 PM | Link to this

I think I p!ssed him off good this time (I hope it lasts). When he asked where my new office was, I told him to meet me at the Underground because it was close enough for me to walk to meet him. Then I told him he could not wait for me to get off work tonight at my house, then I told him I didn’t care what we ate for lunch, he was paying for it so he might as well enjoy it. LOL I hope he heads back East this afternoon, that fool might be waiting at my house when I get home.

Kym Think whatever you want. I don’t need the folks at my job all up in my kool-aid like that. If he shows up at my house, I will leave his azz outside all night if that’s how long he wants to wait, it’ll be a cold night tonight, so I would think he would take his azz somewhere warm……. JustMe is HOT not WARM!

If I enjoyed the attention, I would spend time with him, I would accept his gifts, I would let him spend the night, I’d let him wash my truck in the cold, I’d do a lot of things……. this goes back to my post yesterday……. treat’em like ish and they love ya panties, treat them like a good man and they think hey, shes a nice girl, she’ll never figure out I am a dawg.

Well I was his nice girl 2 years ago. When his game got busted open to the white meat, I became this bit@h I do not enjoy being, hoping that he would say hey, this is not the lady I met in late ‘04, this one is crazy, I’ll just leave her crazy tail alone, but not this dude….. nooooooooo he wants to change my mind…..

I would really hate to call the boys in blue on him, but if Iever feel threatened by him (not annoyed) then I will make that call…….. OR I could just take the blog fam to dinner tonight and have him buy dinner for everyone - LOL…….. Maybe I need to change into a gold digger, maybe that would make him head for the hills……… Naw, he’d think I still liked him. WTF

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this

Slim sitting back with a big cheese grin on her face pouring her a glass of Remy and handing Candy, chocolates and flowers over to Justin

By Confused

February 14, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

@SlimOne….lololol

By Raqi

February 14, 2007 2:40 PM | Link to this

JustMe call the cops and file a report then let him know that you did so. That way if he shows up at your house then you could have him arrested. I think he will get the hint when he finds himself in the back of a police car.

By Jewel

February 14, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

Justin Seriously…you need to continue positive reinforcements with your children for the greater good: maintaining a relationship with them. Not for retaliation against your ex-wife. They will notice the difference in what she says and does, compared to what you say and do. One of the things I will always admire about my ex-SO is his resolve to ensure his sons know he is their father, despite the picture his ex-wife attempts to paint. They have been divorced for 12 years. His sons adore him and seek his advice constantly. God gave children a mother and a father b/c both are needed for the healthy growth of the children. A mother who loves her child(ren) will understand this.

With that said, I am still taking your farm!

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 2:45 PM | Link to this

Slim pulls out a pad and paper and begins writing another one of her infamous poems but in the form of a singing telegram

Hey mister your sex ain’t hitting on sh*t.

I was sent here to say (insert name here) don’t like your dyck.

The problem maybe your moves or the size of your wang.

But either way, your sex don’t do a dayum thang.

You don’t make her holla, you don’t make her come.

If you didn’t know she was faking then you must be really dumb.

So get it together and get some better moves.

Or she’ll let someone else get up in her groove.

By crimson esq.

February 14, 2007 2:46 PM | Link to this

folks need to wake up and stop with the ghetto mess…

LOL hi 5 @ Rell that was classic

By JustMe

February 14, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

Rell You would be right if I were the one doing the calling and what not. I stopped answering his calls when all the drama went down, that’s when he started calling my job looking for me, and if by chance he got my office VM, he’d hang up and call right back. When one of the other Admins told me that some guy had called looking for me 5-6 times in one hour while I was in a meeting, I knew who it was (no guessing required). I refuse to see him, I do try not to answer his calls, but when I have my bluetooth on, I don’t get the special ringtones in my ear, just a beeping sound. I don’t look at my phone everytime it rings if I have my earpeice in……… Why can’t dude just step the “F” off and let it go?

I’m assuming he has a girlfriend in his town, that was the molehill that became our mountain. He could come spend time here, but when I decided it was time for me to pay a visit to his crib (before things got too serious), it was 1 excuse after another, so I finally told him Get Lost! Well he hasn’t heard a word I have said. Oh yeah here is the kicker…… Him/Her cell #’s are 1 digit off from each other so the night my son came home from vacation for the X-mas holiday, I was talking with him and did not answer my phone, it was in my bedroom…… guess who it was calling…….. her. She didn’t leave a message, and I did not call her back. He calls 1/2 hour later wanting to know if I had gotten a phone call. I told him I did and that if she ever called my number again, I’d tell her everything she wanted to know, so it would be in his best interest not to call me anymore….. yeah right that worked :-( I keep telling him the 3rd times the charm, if she ever calls me again, I’d probably not be busy and actually answer it and tell her everything! I hoped that would work……. but so far no good!

By Linguist

February 14, 2007 2:48 PM | Link to this

Hey E’rybody… Happy Hump Day! (and VD for those that celebrate)

Hubby and I are going through a rough patch right now, and we woke up this morning and didn’t say anything to each other. Our oldest son, came crashing into the room booming “Happy Valentines Day!” with a big hug for both of us. I was disappointed that Hubby didn’t say “Happy VD”. We both left for work with the requisite “I’ll call you later”… I thought better of it later on and called him. I was thinking about the topic that was posed the other day about mixed signals women send sometimes (I actually read most of the posts!) and thought “why don’t I call him and just tell him straight out what I want to say?” So, I did.. I won’t go into detail (I know Musing hates long posts!) but needless to say the conversation went well and I ended it with…..”I’ll wear my 4” red stilletto’s when I see you tonight” :)

By crimson esq.

February 14, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this

@ Justme I’m not going to pretend like I read the entire thread cause I haven’t but… did you simply tell him to stop contacting you? did you say— listen..we may have had some good times in the past but I’m really not interested in you at all anymore? it would be in your best interest and mine to sever ties? if you haven’t said that.. and i mean that specifically then the question is- what’s stoping you? people are only going to act as crazy as you allow them to be these days especially if they feel that they’re acting out of care. if there’s any way that you are sending any mixed signals at all (ie telling him to meet you here (even if it was a trick) ) then you have to claim some of the blame for the situation as well..

By JustMe

February 14, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this

Raqi I’m moving Saturday. I have no intention whatsoever of telling him where I am moving too. Now if by chance the fool follows the Movers to my new home, then I would feel threatened (not annoyed) and you best believe I’d be making a call to the Law!

By QC

February 14, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

Hey Tiff Hey JustMe

By Raqi

February 14, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this

Does any on her watch Gilmore Girls? No. Neither do I, however, has anyone noticed the advertising of the next upcoming episode where the woman is telling the guy that he is “the man she wants to want”? She doesn’t want him but she wants to want him.

WiseDiva you should do a topic on that. “Desiring To Want but It Just Ain’t There.” Yeah you can go ahead and use that, I don’t mind. LOL Just Kidding. But for real though every time I hear her say that I am like hmmm.

By Wise Diva

February 14, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this

aww Linguist, I hope you guys get back to sweetness tonight! Glad you read through the blog post, I think we have a few gems in the comments!

and don’t worry about Musing, he secretly enjoys reading the long posts, LOL

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

February 14, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

JustMe So far everything you have said sounds a awful lot like justification for his behavior. You talk to him so he wont call the job…okay so tell him if you call my job I will report you.

How would he know you are moving unless you told him. I mean if you have mutual friends then fine maybe one of them let it out but even then for you not to want the attention you sure are entertaining him. Your first response to Wisey’s question was you were spending V-Day having lunch with an ex from out of town. Why eat with him if you are annoyed by him? I mean time is precious…if he is that annoying then in the words of Barney Fife—NIP IT IN THE BUD.

By SexyLeggs

February 14, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

JustMe I think you’re headed toward trouble. Everybody snaps at some point. Your b*** ways may be catching up to you. A hit dog will holler, but a hurt dog will bite….be careful.

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

February 14, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

Good Job Linguist

Well done.

By SexyLeggs

February 14, 2007 3:05 PM | Link to this

JustMe the poem says it all. However, let me point out that you’r giving this dude too much information. Why tell him to meet at Underground because it’s within walking distance to your job. Man I cringed when I read that. Also, you made one interesting note. You said you’ll call the boys in blue when you no longer felt “ANNOYED”. Girlfriend, you may not have any time to transition from being “ANNOYED” to “THREATENED”…

By Sexione

February 14, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this

Ive just been skimming over….but to be quite honest, JustMe, sounds like dude is border line stalker. Calling my job, OH HELLZ NO!!! Can you imagine what men say about women that do this ish!!! OMG!!! I can’t believe you haven’t checked this dude….along the lines of a restraining order!!! I know you don’t honestly think that moving (and yes, he WILL follow the movers) is going to get rid of him. All BS aside, once he began calling your job, that goes from annoying to just PLAIN CRAZY, make me F you up kinda behavior!!!! If that’s not a sign, well…………………….good luck. Daaayyyyyuuummmmmm!!

By Raqi

February 14, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

Linquist it’s nice to see that I am not the only that doesn’t Hate to Love.

Crimson Would you not suggest JustMe should at least file a report just to have it on record? I mean if she really feels threatened by this guy.

By Rell @>->--

February 14, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

Like i said JUST ME…ghetto and weak..he only does all the this cause he knows you like it…he know your character flaw….you need to find it and fix it fast..because it will happen again

By MusingLee

February 14, 2007 3:11 PM | Link to this

Linguist

Here is a blog chocolate for you and keeping that post within reason…

Musing hands over piece of shiny dark goodness

By MusingLee

February 14, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this

Now handing Wise a piece of chocolate that fell on the dusty floor

By Rell @>->--

February 14, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this

Just me

in the words of the Spirit of Truth

Cut that beyootch off!!!!!!!

By JustMe

February 14, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this

Hey QC

Crim Nope you didn’t read it all - LOL I promise I do not call him, I do not promise to meet him here or there. I did tell I would have lunch today so he would stop calling me. But since he wanted to keep me on the phone, I slipped back into B-mode and gave him another round of What the F do youwant with JustMe You have a SO in your town, give her my gifts yada, yada, blahzaysplee………. guess what his last message was……… I’m in town til tomorrow, how bout I meet youat PA when you get off tonight and follow you home. WTF!

I have told him in so many different ways, using word like you wrote and some not quite that nice………. Dude is oblivious to my pleas to let me be. I tell him I don’t love him, heck, I tell him I don’t even like him, but that does not sway him in the least. I even tried the moaning on the phine when he called one night thinking another man would run him off……… that Ba$tard told me “He’ll never make love to you the way I did.”

By Jake

February 14, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

What up Blog:

Happy Valentines Day to all the Ladies, whether your celebrating or not.

Fellas, Happy Spend It For Nothin Day…LOL

JustMe Call the folks on that azzwipe unless you like that ish…Anybody driving from Augusta to see somebody who is telling them otherwise IS Dangerous! No ?’s…Keep playin and dude will have you on at 5,6,10,and 11.

On Topic: Glad I’m single right now and my “friends” are not expecting anything. Today is commercial for the same reason everything else is. Capatalism is Alive and Well

Be cool ya’ll

By SexyLeggs

February 14, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

Linquist glad you made the 1st move and called your husband…now go put those CFMPs on and have a grand o time.

By crimson esq.

February 14, 2007 3:19 PM | Link to this

@ Raqi if she really feels threatened then she needs to file a report.. but if she’s just annoyed by this guy and still giving him information (like Sexy Leggs said above) then what’s the point? personally if I don’t want to see your @$$ and I’m done.. you won’t be able to reach me at all.. and I would notify my job not to let certain individuals get through to my work #… one of my exes wouldn’t let go for months but when he realizes that you didn’t change your phone # or your address..but you made yourself unavailable to him.. he’ll leave you alone…

we need to have less time for bs people…and examine the role that we play in the bull as well… a person is not going to keep contacting you if they know there’s no hope.. crush the man’s dreams by cutting him off completely and he’ll leave you alone.. the moment that you converse with him you will re-ignite that little bit of hope that he may have..

By Wise Diva

February 14, 2007 3:21 PM | Link to this

ha ha, very funny MusingLee, LOL! dusting off the chocolate - using the 5 second rule

@Raqi (hey there!), I know what you are referring to, I like that topic idea, actually - I think it happens often too.

By SeanJohnson

February 14, 2007 3:21 PM | Link to this

@ JustMe…I cant do nothing but shake my head at the drama u get in and out in your misadventures of dating in atlanta..detroit and augusta…as i sit back in my chair..dozing in and out from a sugar over dose

By MusingLee

February 14, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this

that Ba$tard told me “He’ll never make love to you the way I did.”

JustMe Unless the old dude was putting it in your ear or sticking it under your arm…I beleive the new dude should at least have a good shot at loving you the way he did.

By JustMe

February 14, 2007 3:23 PM | Link to this

As I sit and type about all this madness I have to say I do agree that he could snap at any point. I just can’t imagine why after all of the crap I have spewn his way he would still come back for more. I’m thinking about changing my cell number that would put a stop to a lot of it, but I can not change the number at my job, and I have no plans on changing jobs. Now granted I do work for the gubment, so if I were to file a complaint, it would really cause a stink because of the nature of my at work, and I would also bring attention to the fact that our toll-free number (albeit in the yellow pages) was given for personal use, and I am not the only one who does it. I would not want to have folks scanning the bills to see where the calls are coming from because like I said there are more people than JustMe who have friends and family that call LD into that phone #

This whole situation sucks………

By Linguist

February 14, 2007 3:24 PM | Link to this

Thanks for the Chocolate Musing!

@SlimOne are you still in the bar? If so, can you ask the bartender to make me a chocolate martini to go with my chocolate from Musing? Actually, make that two please… Justin and I are about to enter a heated discussion on the virtues of happiness and the ability to enter into a state of nirvana anytime one wishes to do so… :~)

By For Real

February 14, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this

There you go Linquist that’s how you resolve your issues with your husband.

Slim pour Linquist a shot of that Remy and take one of those boxes cookies and give it to her as well. BTW see how much better your poems are before the liquor kicks in

JustMe Watch yourself girl… you can’t see trouble sometimes.

By QC

February 14, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this

Linquist You better represent with those 4” heels on Lady enjoy yourself and welcome to the blog

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this

drunkenly Slim puts pen and paper down and goes behind bar Linguist I’m right on top of it. Two chocolate martini’s coming up.

By lovelyliz

February 14, 2007 3:32 PM | Link to this

I used to work with a man who never had a date on Valentines Day except for his Mother. He always broke up with his girl at the moment. He saw the holiday a waste of $$$.

What got me was that the women never seemed to catch on and many came back to this guy.

By JustMe

February 14, 2007 3:36 PM | Link to this

You know what, I could call the boys, but I don’t enve know his address in Augusta (Our Mountain), so all I could do is give them his name his phone number and the description of the different cars he drives. Dude is crazy, I admit that.

For those of you who want to know why I don’t know his address………. becaue I never made it to Augusta. In the begining it didn’t matter because I had no intention of having LDR with him. He made it a point to come to Atlanta on a regular basis, so after 4-5 months I started digging him and that’s when I figured I’d better go check out his spot just to make sure he wasn’t trying to move from sh!t to sugar on the sly. Again I never made it, I have the home and cell phone #’s. No info available on 411.com - LOL. When I told dude it was a wrap, he was cool at first, but then he started calling again, and offering to do this and that for me and my son all of which I declined……. My friend says “I’ll give him credit, he’s persistent as he!!” that is an understatement. I can not see how y’all could think I enjoy this at all….. That’s weak!

If he show up at PA tonight, I’m calling the cops cause this really is getting on my nerves.

Crim What can I use as a possible threat? He has never threatened me in any way whatsoever, he is just really very persistant and annoying. Is that enough to get a PPO/TPO or whatever you call it?

By SexyLeggs

February 14, 2007 3:36 PM | Link to this

JustMe your friend is what I’d term “a diehard”. Will never give up on you. You’re right, the nastier and crazier you act the more it turns him on. WHY, simply put = you’re putting too much energy in being mean that it can only mean you care. That’s how a person like this processes rejection. I’m hear to tell you, you better get this in writing. BTW, if your toll free number is in the phone book how would your job know you gave it out for personal reasons. Pretty sure your friend is savvy enough to find the number in the phone book. Girl, you better stop making excuses about your guberment job and handle your LIFE ON EARTH…

By MusingLee

February 14, 2007 3:38 PM | Link to this

Sipping melon martini out of Lady Wise’s 6inch pumps….Now falling down drunk cause she wears a size 11 shoe

By Raqi

February 14, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

JustMe I only have one other thing to say on that situation: (This is copied and pasted)

A crime of passion, in popular usage, refers to a crime in which the perpetrator commits a crime, especially assault or murder, against a spouse or other loved one because of sudden strong impulse such as a jealous rage or heartbreak rather than as a premeditated crime.

Now I

By Raqi

February 14, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

JustMe I only have one other thing to say on that situation: (This is copied and pasted)

A crime of passion, in popular usage, refers to a crime in which the perpetrator commits a crime, especially assault or murder, against a spouse or other loved one because of sudden strong impulse such as a jealous rage or heartbreak rather than as a premeditated crime.

Now I am

By Raqi

February 14, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

JustMe I only have one other thing to say on that situation: (This is copied and pasted)

A crime of passion, in popular usage, refers to a crime in which the perpetrator commits a crime, especially assault or murder, against a spouse or other loved one because of sudden strong impulse such as a jealous rage or heartbreak rather than as a premeditated crime.

Now I am done

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

For Real I write some of my best after a shot or two. Maybe I’ll let you check out the playbook one day. BTW here’s your empty Remy bottle back

By Linguist

February 14, 2007 3:40 PM | Link to this

…Waking up from OD on Chocolate and realizing that SeanJohn is also just waking up right next to me.. Shook the haze off and went back to reading the posts… What?? What’s going on? All the posts longer than 1 sentence are gone???? Daayum you Musing! WTH was in that chocolate you gave me??

WiseDiva.. guurl, Musing put some of his magic dust on that chocolate. Throw it away while you still have time!

By Justin

February 14, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this

Jewel, I am going to see “Daddy’s Little Girls” tonight. I wish the Fulton County Family Law judges would go see it. Finally, a movie that reflects more of what really goes on from a male point of view. The courts see good fathers as disposable, but if little girls don’t have a positive role model in their lives, they will fall for anything. I pray the time I have them, I can give them peace that they don’t know with her.

By Raqi

February 14, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this

Dang, why the triple post? Sorry.

By SexyLeggs

February 14, 2007 3:44 PM | Link to this

SlimOne any NaVan left? Pour me adouble…I need a drink now. JustMe has me worried!!!

By crimson esq.

February 14, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

JustMe persistence and annoyance don’t qualify for an order of protection..

By purplepassion

February 14, 2007 3:50 PM | Link to this

Justme if he has the number to your job then he already knows where you work so telling him to meet you minutes from the Underground will not work. At this point it doesn’t matter if you change your cell number, house number or home address because as long as he has your work number he knows where to locate you.

By Sexy Shaft (not demi)

February 14, 2007 3:53 PM | Link to this

SlimOne I do not service another man’s woman…but the fellas are greeted with bats, ice pick, chain saws, and pliers

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

February 14, 2007 3:55 PM | Link to this

Justin where in SW Atlanta do you live? I ask because are you going over to Greenbriar or some other place…I dont want to hear about you on the news because you left the movie with vengence on your mind. Better yet dont go anywhere near SW Atlanta this evening. Leave the movies get some to mellow you out(I hear Xanax is good) and go home and work on the book idea. You seem like a smart guy…make it a fiction based book but have some factual overtones to it. Get it ready by the next bookfest in Decatur or before the Natl Black Art fest that way you can market them properly and you will be working on healing.

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 3:55 PM | Link to this

SexLegg there’s just a wee bit NaVan left but by the time a throw a cube of ice in it, you won’t know the difference. Drink up and yes I do accept tips

By Linguist

February 14, 2007 3:57 PM | Link to this

@QC Oh you know I’ll be representing! Thanks for the welcome.

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 4:03 PM | Link to this

SexyShaft(not demi) so if you don’t service another man’s woman, will you service another woman’s woman? lol

By JustMe

February 14, 2007 4:04 PM | Link to this

Raqi LOL it took you a minute to get that out - LOL

You are right though.

SexyLeggs The number is public knowlege and pasted in more places than you could imagine….. JustMe don’t want the folks at her job all in her Kool-aid though.

You hit this on the head though…. you’re putting too much energy in being mean I am really not this mean to anyone else

that it can only mean you care.Not true - more like I could not care less

That’s how a person like this processes rejection.

He must be eating it up

He’s been at this for well over a year now……. it is time to put a stop to this!

We met in Dec ‘04 and by Aug ‘05 it was a wrap for me, it’s now 2007……. that’s long enough

I’ll tell dude I got a TPO/PPO or whatever it is and if he keeps on calling, then I guess I’ll just have to go and ge one. I’m guessing the local PD is the place I need to go??

By Sexione

February 14, 2007 4:05 PM | Link to this

JustMe purplepassion has a point!!! He can always locate you there, then follow you anywhere. If you seriously want to get rid of his crazy azz, you need to involve the law….restraining order!!!! Be safe, domestic violence ain’t no joke.

Sexi’s out…..everybody be good!!!

By Jewel

February 14, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this

JustMe Gurrrlll…I kept my peace since the other blog Ladies were advising you well. STOP making excuses for his behavior. He has never threatened you???! The fact that he does not respect your requests is a threat.

Justin That is wonderful! Are your daughters old enough to enjoy the movie with you? I think “The Pursuit of Happyness” is another awesome movie for fathers to see with their sons. Yep. He shared with me in tears his court battles (in another GA city) even with visitation rights in the divorce decree.

By Justin

February 14, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this

Dr. Kym, The Cascade Road/Campbellton Road area…I am not going to the Magic Johnson Theatres because my ex and many of my friends exes will probably be there. I am either heading to the theatre close by in Cobb Co. or Douglas Co. to see the movie. I may just get started on that book. Oh, I almost forgot, my ex and her friends wouldn’t be caught going to see a Tyler Perry movie because that is beneath their stature in the community as upper income snooty women who really owe their standard of living to their marriages and subsequent divorces.

By Sexy Shaft (not demi)

February 14, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this

SlimOne sure as long as I am invited…you and who else will be join the party

…persistence and annoyance don’t qualify for an order of protection…

Yes, once it becomes safety issue…

By Raqi

February 14, 2007 4:16 PM | Link to this

It’s a wrap good people.

I’m about to head home, tell my boys if they plan on eating they better make it themselves, run a nice bath, light some aromatherapy candles, grab my book and call it a day.

Happy Valentine’s to all and to all a good night.

By Wise Diva

February 14, 2007 4:18 PM | Link to this

does anybody have any recommendations for new artists or great music I should check out? I like all genres and my ipod is in dire need of more songs.

By MusingLee

February 14, 2007 4:18 PM | Link to this

JustMe Don’t take any more calls or emails from this dude…Start keeping a log of everytime he contacts you or you spot him…This way if you ever need proof of anything you have a record of it happening. Needless to say, warn your kid not to go anywhere with this dude EVER(that’s if your son knows him).

By JustMe

February 14, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this

Crim I’m not surprised to hear that. That was why I said if it ever gets to be threatening vs annoying,

But if dude is waiting at my car tonight I might be scared as he!!. I can’t lie, I’d forget the lie I told within a few days if not hours, and karma is a big “B” when it’s coming back at you….. but that does sound like stalking, and there are laws against stalking…….

Purple There are so many building surrounding the Underground Area that he would have no idea which one I came from. Honestly my office is as secure as Fort Knox, and the building is crawling with police and security guards (not that any of that matters) but even if he knew which building, he would have to be McGyver turned 007 turned MI II to get to the area where I work…. i think

Y’all are really making me paranoid with all these possibilities, I appreciate the concern and the truth, but I can not live my life afraid he is going to jump out of the shadows. thinking I’m glad I carry mace

By Justin

February 14, 2007 4:21 PM | Link to this

Jewel, I am going to see the movie first and if it doesn’t have anything that they don’t need to see (i.e., certain scenes, language, innuendos), I will take them. They are in early elementary school. Anything I do or plan, I have to be ultra-careful because their mother looks for every nit-picky thing to try to blame me. You would think she would’ve moved on by now but she still tries to run my house too. She relentlessly questions them about what happens at my house, what they eat, who came to visit, who called, on and on, until she has them in tears. She pushes them away if they don’t cave into her wishes. Have you ever seen the pain on a child’s face when her own mother pushes her away because the child doesn’t adhere to the mother’s selfish wishes? I try to shield them from it as much as possible. However, it hurts…that is what makes me so mad and she has the courts behind her because the courts just slap a mother’s wrists and say “Don’t do that again”!

By Rell @>->--

February 14, 2007 4:22 PM | Link to this

a wrap by aug 05…..WHAT THE FLUCK….it is Feb 07 a full year and half later he still after you….lady you must have that killer “star kitty”….dayum…..lmao

By MochaTreat

February 14, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this

@ Justme Do you know any of the cops that work at PA? Maybe you could talk to one of them and they could give you some advice.

By Wise Diva

February 14, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this

wait a minute, according to itunes, Korn (featuring Amy Lee) has a song called, Freak on a leash?! ha ha ! oh my, goodness. I wonder who was the muse for that song.

By purplepassion

February 14, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

JustMe take it from a women who has survived domestic violence. What’s going on with you is just an appetizer to the full course meal. He is only preparing you for what is worst to come. Please don’t take him lightly. His stalking may seem cute because that’s what i though at first but then he became more constistent and persistent with his calls and show ups. So please don’t take this situation lightly get help fast.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

February 14, 2007 4:25 PM | Link to this

Wisey,

Amos Lee and Elisabeth Withers if you like Boney James I like his new one Shine.

By Alvin

February 14, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this

Justin I treated myself to the “Stip” and a movie at the Atlantic Station. A pretty cool place to chill and relax.

JustMe you know what to do. I very good friend of mine was killed last year over the same BS…A true H0’ know when to cut his losses and move on.

By Rell @>->--

February 14, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this

AMY WINEHOUSE FOR ALL YOU LADY WITH ANGST….DOWNLOAD HER ALBUM FRANK..TRUST ME, HER LYRICS ARE HONEST AND CLEAR…

STRONGER THAN ME

LOVE IS BLIND…SHOULD RAISE AND EYEBROW

SENT ME FLYING WAS IN ROTATION A YEAR AGO..STILL A FAV OF MINE..BUT THE GIRL IS DOPE

By Justin

February 14, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this

Wise Diva, check out some of the artists at www.neosoulcafe.com. If you get the Colours network, they show videos of some of the latest artists. You don’t see most of these videos on the regular music channels…these are the true musicians and singers. It’s cool…

By Justin

February 14, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

Justme, heed the words you read here. It’s no joke. Take it from a man who has dealt with it in his family, from men and women. You will also endanger the people in your life, family and friends, who may come to your aid. I have a partner now who is dead because he was trying to avenge the beating of his sister and the sister’s husband shot him.

By Alvin

February 14, 2007 4:32 PM | Link to this

Ms.Wise - Korn’s Lead singer Jonathan Davis confirmed that the lyrics address forms of exploitation by the music industry…one of my favorite bands

By Tater

February 14, 2007 4:32 PM | Link to this

Jewel Sorry to respond so late, had two meetings and just got back to the cube. Regarding your 10:42 AM post:

Your response should be…wanna attached some pictures of my children to this email???

Funny you should mention that. I’ve sent her so many emails that she doesn’t respond to that I’ve had to resort to calling the studio directly and getting duplicates. This year she won’t even tell me which studios did the pictures!! Ah, the life of a divorced dad… Randyt I’m doing better, don’t beat me up!

By MusingLee

February 14, 2007 4:32 PM | Link to this

Rell I agree, JustMe must have a “Blue Label” across that p-dussy…Dude, can’t shake that loving feeling…LOLOLOLOL…He probably wakes up in a cold sweat at night. hahahahaha

By Alvin

February 14, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this

Justin the Strip…sorry

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this

Sexy Shaft (not demi) I’ll show up at the party once everyone is occupied and eat up all the food, then dip by the time its over. Slim in Stealth mode

By Jo

February 14, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this

JustMe, he is STALKING you. He is disrespecting your wishes to not have anything to do with him. This may sound sexist, but next time he calls you where there are other men around, i.e. at your job, put one of those men on the phone with him & have that dude PUT THE FEAR OF GOD in that loser! If that doesn’t work; THE MEN IN BLUE!!!

By Wise Diva

February 14, 2007 4:34 PM | Link to this

Thanks so much Rell, Justin, Dr.Kym! I’m on it…I can’t wait to download!

By Justin

February 14, 2007 4:34 PM | Link to this

Alvin, I may head to Atlantic Station. Check out how many single women are out tonight…

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this

WD I seem to like Corinne Bailey Rae. maybe your ears will like her too.

By purplepassion

February 14, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this

JustMe ever heard of mapquest? Nadar?? Google Earth? Hon, you can find location with the stroke of a key and you don’t need much info either. We are just showing our consern and giving you sound advice, in the end it’s left up to you how you handle it.

Be safe Everyone and have a BLESS DAY!

By JustMe

February 14, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this

Wise The flava of the month for me is Jazz Grover Washington Jr., Dave Koz, Brian Culbertson, Gerald Veasley and a few others. My female friends are strung out on Robin Thicke for the moment…….

Musing he calls or tries to come see me. He’s never just showed up somewhere he knew I’d be or anything like that, he just will not go away. He has never even cursed at me, or made mention of hurting me in any way. I am not defending him, but the truth is the truth. I’m just not into him and I want him to go away forever….. I’m not gonna make up a bunch of stuff to lie to the cops about either. That not JustMe now humming Kem……. You reap what you sow, so be true where ever you go, you will have what you say…….

How would you guys like it if someone made up lies about you? All I can tell the police at this point is that he is very, very, very persistent about wanting to see me.

Y’all have a good night…….. I’m going to the Circus YAYYYYYY!!! I can already hear the music :-)

By Larry

February 14, 2007 4:38 PM | Link to this

Red makes me think of blood and blood makes me think of Jesus who’s blood was spildt for us all which makes me think of Heaven and all the pretty angels which makes me think your going to Hell for trashing St. Valentines day. You blasphemer!

By Wise Diva

February 14, 2007 4:38 PM | Link to this

ahh, I see! Thanks Alvin! wow - way to make a statement, right?

By Alvin

February 14, 2007 4:39 PM | Link to this

Wise Diva try Orgy’s Album called Candy A$$. Release back in 1998.

By JustMe

February 14, 2007 4:42 PM | Link to this

Jo I had another SO answer my phone one day we were chillin……. He told my SO he was my cousin - No kidding, I swear on a stack of Bibles. I have tried everything except the law my options are getting slim…….

Musing shame on you and Rell but you might be right - LOL

By SexyLeggs

February 14, 2007 4:43 PM | Link to this

JustMe girl, don’t be paranoid, just be alert CONSTANTLY….handle your business. Your building may be protected as is mine, just remember anything is possible. Remember the bank robber a few months back that rob the bank INSIDE POLICE HEADQUARTERS….

By Alvin

February 14, 2007 4:43 PM | Link to this

Justin you would be surpise bruh, LOL

By NCgirlfromATL

February 14, 2007 4:43 PM | Link to this

You would think she would’ve moved on by now but she still tries to run my house too.

WOW!! Now there’s an ironic statement if I ever heard one! Why should she have moved on when you clearly haven’t? I’m not going to play armchair therapist with you, Justin. I’ll just say, the universe gives back to you what you put out into it.

JustMe Girl, keep your eyes open when you’re leaving your home and office, and let your co-workers (the ones you trust) know to be on the look-out for you. It never hurts to be cautious when someone won’t take no for an answer. Persistence is cute until it turns into obsession…and not the one by Calvin Klein! Be careful!!

By SexyLeggs

February 14, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this

WiseDiva trying deeper by Pete Belasco….nice, I mean nice….

By Wise Diva

February 14, 2007 4:46 PM | Link to this

Slimone, you know I like her voice a lot, they had a free itune download for her months ago. My friend told me that her other songs are really great too, thanks for the remind.

@Justme, ok…the mellow stuff is fantastic for winter nights. I admit, Alan had me screaming like a teenage girl at the John Legend concert, LOL.

ALVIN - hmm, 1998 was a good year for me, Imma check that out, LOL.

Thanks again everyone

By MusingLee

February 14, 2007 4:46 PM | Link to this

Goodnight All,

Be safe people….

Wise Checkout some of the ITune’s Essentials…I like finding old 80’s songs that bring back fond memories.

By Alvin

February 14, 2007 4:52 PM | Link to this

Ms.Wise I agree!!! Back in the 90’s the music industry were pimp’n new artist badly and ruining young lives left and right. If you like bits of Korn, Orgy and limpbizit (first album) will keep you rolling, LOL.

By SexyLeggs

February 14, 2007 4:52 PM | Link to this

WiseDiva have you heard Smokey Robinson’s “Timeless Love?” It give you the feeling he’s singing in a small jazz club. The songs are beautiful and each and every one gets under my skin. Especically cut #7 (If Only You Knew)

By Jake

February 14, 2007 4:53 PM | Link to this

Wise

Go down to Lil Five Points and go to MoodsMusic, if you are not familiar, turn on Euclid from Moreland, the store is on the corner at your right at the first light. They have all the best in cool/neosoul music. Ask for the DJ Jamad folder if you want variety, they’ll put you on somethin.

By SlimOne

February 14, 2007 4:54 PM | Link to this

WD You’re very welcome.

Have a good night all…Me and Mr. Bullet have a date tonight

By Justin

February 14, 2007 4:58 PM | Link to this

NCgirlfromATL, I don’t try to run her house and I live my life without interferring with hers. She is the one trying to mess up my life. If it doesn’t concern the girls, I don’t speak to her. See, she grew up in a home where her mother ruled her father who is a passive man. I’m not the one. I tried to make things work and not say anything, but she drove me up the wall. I never should’ve married her. Now, that was my fault!

By Wise Diva

February 14, 2007 5:06 PM | Link to this

GOOD NIGHT EVERYONE!

By Justin

February 15, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this

I saw the movie “Daddy’s Little Girls” and enjoyed it. Custody battles go on like this all the time, with the mother usually winning regardless of the physical or emotional distress in which she is placing the children. Many mothers in Atlanta, who might not be dealers but maintain a sense of normalcy to the outside world, are emotionally damaging their children. My ex is doing it and the courts are allowing it. Ladies, if there is anything you can pass on to your fellow females, it is the fact that even if the marriage didn’t work out, that is no reason to try to punish a man through the children. The children lose and end up with the scars. Also, women need to look at their part in the demise of a marriage. My ex and I tried counseling and even the counselors suggested that we end the marriage. However, my ex kept looking for a counselor that would agree with her. She failed. Until the scales of justice are balanced in family court, you will have women who will take advantage of their power. You will constantly see more and more children who are being kept from their fathers. The women have the attitude, “They are my children except when I need financial assistance and then they are the father’s children.” My ex has nothing to complain about when it comes to the children. I am a dedicated father, pay my child support, exercise all my parenting time and then some, attend their school functions, physician appointments, etc. Her only complaint is that I didn’t want to be married to an overbearing, control addicted, tyrant of a wife.

By Justin

February 15, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

Many of the women out there, especially in the upper income neighborhoods, will say, “I have nothing in common with the mother in the film.” However, take away the neighborhood, the clothes, and the outer appearance, the same attitude against the father and towards the children is there.