By SlimOne

March 2, 2007 8:12 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday Folks

Have you ever cried in front of someone you are dating? Um, not someone that I was just casually dating. As Wise stated, I will cry in the dark before I am able to trust a guy with my feelings like that.

Ladies, are women really masters of emotional blackmail? Do you think we intentionally drive guys over the edge with crying and emotion? How would you react if a man you were dating cried in front of you? Not to be funny, but yes woman are able to use emotions as a bargaining tool so-to-speak. I’m not saying that I’ve necessarily done that but I have known chicks to intentionally drive guys over the edge. As far as seeing my SO cry in front of me, I’ve experienced that but not from a guy I was simply dating. It would really depend on the reason he was crying to determine what my reaction would be. If buddy is crying because of a tragedy then I would do my best to console him. BUT, if buddy starts crying simply because the restaurant carries Heinz 57 instead of A1, then Houston we have a problem.

By kinderbabe

March 2, 2007 8:32 AM | Link to this

good morning everyone. hey slimone. i can’t remember a time in the recent past that i’ve thrown a hissy fit, cried and generally acted a fool to get my way. maybe when i was 18…lol…but we’re grown now. i would like to think that i am a much better communicator and don’t need to resort to such juvenile tactics. there’s a big difference in generally being hurt and expressing that emotion and using emotions to be manipulative. the latter i think is just wrong coming from a man or woman.

By G

March 2, 2007 8:37 AM | Link to this

Typically, most of the women I’ve been involved with are hard arses, or pretend to be. One broke down on me, but there was nothing I could do. It was weird b/c I’d never seen her break down. That was the first and last time I witnessed it.

By NCgirlfromATL

March 2, 2007 8:42 AM | Link to this

Morning all,

Thought I’d check in before I take off for the Women’s ACC baskeball tournament! Aaaah, March Madness! I’m in heaven!

Anyway, I tend to only cry out of frustration (i.e., I have a problem that I can’t figure out how to solve.) Otherwise, if I’m mad at a man, he knows it. If I want him to do something, I don’t beat around the bush. I’m pretty much “straight, no chaser” when it comes to my emotions. No need for emotional blackmail. I dated a guy for a while who was fascinated by the fact that I wasn’t the type to monkey on him when I was p!ssed. I called it my “Eddie Murphy” reaction. If you’ve seen “Raw” (or maybe it was “Delirious”…I can’t remember) there was a part where Eddie talks about having made his woman mad, and she didn’t go nuts. She just told him to go sleep. Very calmly. Scared the crap out of him. Muuuuhahahahaha!!!

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 8:43 AM | Link to this

TGIF!!!!!!!!!!

…but we’re grown now. And hopefully most of us act like it!!! I’m with you Wise….never let ‘em see you sweat….crying over something other than the death of a family member (or something serious like that)….not gonna happen!

By LorDemi

March 2, 2007 8:45 AM | Link to this

now that I am back among the land of the hearings…

GODDAAAAYUM Y’ALL WORLD IS NOISY!!!!

By SlimOne

March 2, 2007 8:45 AM | Link to this

Hey Kinder

G what was the reason she broke down?

By QC

March 2, 2007 8:49 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday Bloggers

i’ll be in lurkesville serving up coffee & muffins

have a great day all

By MochaTreat

March 2, 2007 8:50 AM | Link to this

Good morning Slim, Kinder, Sexione, Foots, Musing, Demi, GAman, Randy, Raqi, QC, Mo, SeanJ and crew

TGIF!!! This has been one of those weeks…but I am glad the work week is almost over!!

Have you ever cried in front of someone you are dating? yes, but it wasn’t so I could get my way…nor was it any kind of emotional blackmail.

How would you react if a man you were dating cried in front of you? My ex BF cried in front of me…I just held him and rocked him until he finished…afterwards I put it on him and then we talked about this situation. (He had just spoken to his mother for the first time in 16 years). It was avery emotional moment for him.

By Mo

March 2, 2007 8:54 AM | Link to this

It Friday, Its Friday, its the end of the week, the last day…..I’m gonna get my sleep on, I’m gonna get my hair-do on and I’m gonna get my church on all weekend long!!

Hey Errbody! Hope everyone’s Friday is going well.

on topic I’m like you WD, my motto never let’em see you sweat so there are even some relatives who have never seen me cry. I keep my feelings to myself alot, protecting me. I believe to this day that my current SO is the only one who has ever seen me cry (in a relationship).

By Pen

March 2, 2007 8:56 AM | Link to this

I have never used tears to manipulate anyone. I have cried in front of them before, but not to get my way.

age 43

By Chocolate Peach

March 2, 2007 8:57 AM | Link to this

TGIF Bloggers,

Wow..deep topic. I myself have really NEVER been big on emotions of the sort especially when it comes to men or dating. Funerals are usually wear I let my waterguard down & it has to be someone really close for me to even attend.

Yes, some women love to play that “Waterfall” game with men. Personally I think it’s sad & a bunch of crap but hey, to each it’s own. Most men tell me I dont show enough emotion but hey just like WDiva stated I too come from the same generation of women that don’t really display such emotions.

Men, have to cry, they need to cry. Otherwise it’s unhuman (if that’s a word) however I NEVER….wanna see my dude cry unless it’s DEFINITELY needed. A death of a love one perhaps but nothing else is quite excusable for my man to be crying. Especially not in front of me. Be private.

N the voice of Ced the Ntertainer.. “I wish that nicca would”

Now my 2nd oldest sister that’s all her dayum husband do is cry & it makes me sick to my stomach. It shows a ridiculous amount of weakness if you ask me. I mean 1 or maybe 2 episodes in a 4 yr term but that’s about it. I would hate to see my man cry over or about something that’s definitely not well worth me pulling his h”O” card for…………

By SlimOne

March 2, 2007 9:04 AM | Link to this

Mocha wow, he was lucky to have you with him during that time which would bring a tear to anyone’s eyes. Just curious, does he and his mom talk regularly now?

By SeanJohnson

March 2, 2007 9:06 AM | Link to this

SupBlog….TGIF…I have never cried in front of a female or over a female…I tend to keep emotions inside…As far as women are concerned…its pretty normal for them to cry…since yall are very emotional creatures..My mom shoulda been an actress and she ruined it for other women i run into…she could go from fussing at me to crying ..so i am used to tears.and unless its something major..i will look at it as an emotional ploy..so unless you cry blood…i will hold you and kiss your cheek but after a few minutes..i will tap you on the butt and tell you to suck it up…

By Justin

March 2, 2007 9:08 AM | Link to this

Women use crocodile tears to get out of traffic tickets, to get more child support and marital property in a divorce settlement, to keep you from leaving them…Women basically use tears to get their way.

It is emotional blackmail when a woman uses tears to gain an edge in a relationship. It makes me all the more eager to get away from her. Now, if the tears are for a legitimate reason such as the loss of a loved one or a real crisis, that is a totally different reason.

As far as most men, and I state “men”, if a woman ever saw us cry, it was either due to the loss of a parent or a close friend.

By MusingLee

March 2, 2007 9:14 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

Of course Women are the Masters of emotional blackmail…You girls learn from a very early age how to manipulate…It’s actually been scientifically proven.

Now waiting on the blog bullets to fly…….vest and helmet latched up tight

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

Speaking of crying…….unfortunately, there will be a lot of crying (families) for all of the fatalities on Atlantas’ roads this morning. It has been a dreadful Friday morning for many. I am truly thankful for my safe travels and everyone elses. Many condolences for the affected families. pouring out a lil Henn for the lives lost

By cy

March 2, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

yea, i have cried in front of a boyfriend…at a funeral. i think these women are out there that do use emotions for blackmail but i also think their is an equal share of men that think that because they see this on t.v. that it is the norm.

here is one for you guys… if she uses the tears and it is not justified maybe she has insecurirties that you are just not ready for. be honest and call her bluff. if you guys can not communicate than it is hardly worth it.

as to the guy dating the “wise diva” and others that think the same….you aparently have some scars from the past. we are not all that way. congrats on asking. means that you are one step closer to being what all women want…a guy that will tell you when something is awry…when we have to guess it makes thing worse.

By QC

March 2, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

Hey Mocha, Demi, Musing, BK, GA.man, confused, Tiff, Page, Storm, erry’body

it’s friday, it’s friday, it’s the end of the week and the “last day”; i’m gone get my shopping, take Momma to go get her hair done on, get my watching some movies on, get my church, get me some rest on, alllll weekend long

By Linguist

March 2, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

Mornin’ E’rybody! Happy Friday…

I’m leaving to get coffee and then off to a meeting. This topic will give me a reason to pontificate this question during the meeting. I’ll post when I get back.

By Mo

March 2, 2007 9:21 AM | Link to this

Musing How can you say women learn emotional Blackmail? I want to know what is this learned behavior that I obviously missed out on.

Mo shooting blog bullets at Musing for calling her an Emotional Blackmail Master.

By QC

March 2, 2007 9:21 AM | Link to this

Musing, you are sooooo right

By Confused

March 2, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday!!!! Hello ALL!!! Hey QC…any luck on that item?

I am emotional but not in a blackmail way…I just read on MSN it is healthy to have conflict express it process it and move on! I have cried with some I have dated and for the most part they have embraced me…I think it ran away one but oh well it was it done to get my way or point!!!

By cy

March 2, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this

btw, justin

here is one just for you. when i was 16. i was riding with a close friend. we got caught speeding. she was turning on the waterworks, not to get out of the ticket but she was really scared. of course, i had to be the one with her…the one who gets the giggles when i am nervous. yea, you guessed it by the time the cop got to the window we were in tears laughing….the kind of laughing that is impossible to stop, ribs kill you, and if anyone asks what is so funny….well, it only gets funnier. so, not every woman can or has done the waterworks to get out of a ticket.

By G

March 2, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this

Slim Not to go into detail, but it wasn’t a blackmail issue. It was just a decision I made, that prioritized my career over our relationship.

By C tha 1

March 2, 2007 9:33 AM | Link to this

Are women really masters at emotional blackmail? Of course, any man should know that!

As a man it takess some discernment to truly understand what is bringing a woman to tears. Basically, you gotta understand the real tears from the fake ones. Why? Because any man that gives a damn doesn’t want to see a woman cry, at the same time a dude doesn’t want to be manipulated either.

For example, lately I’ve been pursuing this girl at my job, let’s call her Coca Cola Classic. In short, we flirt with eachother alot, but she is dating another dude. On one occassion she seemed to obviously be concerned with something else other than work. I asked her what was wrong, and Niagra Falls came gushing down.

Call me a sucker, but I gotta soft spot a chocolate girl who can turn red from crying. She tells me she thinks he man is cheating but can’t prove it. I give her some conseling cause I just give damn right. Right.

She continues to stay with dude while all the while confessing to me of how she wants to get with me but wants to be a good girlfriend. Months later the same situation happens again, except she trys to toughen up around me and not let the tears flow as hard.

She stays with ole dude and I quit pursuit. Eventually, she leaves for another job and just last week she calls me, but the conversation was short. She asked what was wrong, but I was honestly busy at the time. I refuse to be duped into being a male girlfriend … I think she got the message.

By MochaTreat

March 2, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this

Slim I haven’t spoken to him in over 2 years…but the last time I did talk to him they were talking about once a month. He found out that he has 2 sister and 2 brothers that he has never met.

By Lynette

March 2, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this

Just because a guy makes me cry does not mean he will see me cry.

By Raqi

March 2, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this

Good Morning.

I ain’t gonna lie I did “cry” to get my way with Whitebread and he fell for it every time. I was 25 so that says a lot. However…I honestly believe that he was well aware of my pretense but just played along for whatever reason.

I have cried before in front of the man but it wasn’t a ploy to win him over but because I was truly upset. He offered to do what he could to try and make it better, but you know…

Funny thing is I have come to learn within these past nearly 5 years that my stating “You know what Mason, whatever” moves him more than me trying to get to him via crying. I don’t use to “get” him and never plan to use it, but I have noticed that he can’t stand that.

By LorDemi

March 2, 2007 9:42 AM | Link to this

I ain’t gonna front, I Dayumed near cried at the end of Pursuit of Happiness…My homegirl wanted to slap my a$$, LOL

By Confused

March 2, 2007 9:47 AM | Link to this

My typing is horrible…Was saying I think I ran away one but for the most part I am not crying to get my way or point across…Now will be lurcking the rest of the day!!!

I feel it takes more than tears to manipulate in this day and time…

By Awwwwwww...Dayum

March 2, 2007 9:50 AM | Link to this

Awwwwwww…Dayum!!! C tha 1, that crying a$$, weak a$$…Ms. Coca Cola Classic worked at your job too???!!!!

By Jewel

March 2, 2007 9:50 AM | Link to this

Good morning Everyone!

Once in my last relationship I attempted to invoke tears…I really wanted to win! No compromise, just have my way. He gave me that don’t even think about it, I will not cave in to the tears look. I cancelled the tantrum and we continued the discussion like adults. He actually gained more respect from me by standing his ground. We were not casually dating, but in a committed LTR. I have never cried in front of someone I was casually dating.

How would you react if a man you were dating cried in front of you? I would double slap his weak behind and tell him to take it like a man!!! LOL! Seriously, it would depend on the reason he is crying. If he is crying because a loved one has died or a situation with his children, etc, I would fully support his need to express himself emotionally. A man who is not afraid to show his weaknesses is a strong man, in my humble opinion.

Why do guys get so freaked out when their woman cries or reacts emotionally? I think it is because most men do not know how to deal with their own emotions. Men are problem solvers and think they must do something if a woman cries. If they do not know what to do, they will either give her what she wants or run in the opposite direction.

Have a Powerful, Productive, Prosperous and Positive Day!!!

By Museq

March 2, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this

YES! Females are usually the emotional manipulators however, a good woman doesn’t have to resort to such nonsense and a real man won’t put up with it. In most cases, an emotion like crying shouldn’t get displayed (by either party) until a degree of comfort and trust is established between the two.

By MusingLee

March 2, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

Musing now ducks Mo’s shots like the Matrix

Mo girls learn how to form cliques earlier in life than boys do. Usually around age 4-5 they know how to banish unwanted girls from the group as well. They also learn to fear banishment from groups, and go with the crowd out of fear of being excommunicated.

Hey QC.

Now going to office meeting wearing full blog riot gear

And I did shed a tear, but not cry during Hotel Rwanda.

By Confused

March 2, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

@Jewel great post!!!!

By SusieHomeMaker

March 2, 2007 9:59 AM | Link to this

Justin, Get OVER IT already!! The divorce is final! MOVE ON!! Sheesh!! You, in your own way, cry all over these AJC blogs ever day, (“Women are cruel, women are evil, my woman done did me wrong, woe is ME!!!!”) — Just Let It Go!!!

Here’s a song dedicated to you, (An Oldie but Goodie)

Tears Of A Clown

Now if there’s a smile on my face It’s only there trying to fool the public; But when it comes down to fooling you, Now honey that’s quite a different subject

But don’t let my glad expression Give you the wrong impression ‘Cause really I’m sad, Oh I’m sadder than sad

Well I’m hurt and I want you so bad Like a clown I appear to be glad ooh yeah

Tears of a clown, when there’s no one around.

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

Wise I knew when I read the topic that this would turn into a woman bashing!!!! I know that was not your intention, but awwwwww daaayyuuuummm!!!! Whateva………

By LorDemi

March 2, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

SeanJohnson My granny had a way of talking…all proper and nice like…That left you nearly in tears and Dayum near begging for a whooping.

Granny all proper and nice like You know what you did was wrong, you are old enough to know better.*

Demi Yes Granny…Demi now beats himself with his own cherry tree branch

By Wise Diva

March 2, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

aww, man.. Sexione, LOL you are right! BUT, us fabulous women won’t take it personally, we know it’s not our steelo to manipulate men!

smiling

oh, and when a man or woman says, “if you loved me…you would insert incredibly selfish request…that is just wrong, and yes guys that includes asking for “special attention” and freaky acts!

By Confused

March 2, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this

Right on SusieHomeMaker I to 2nd your post!!!! But on the flip side everyone heals in their on time and season and way!!! I did say I was lurking today but anyway…

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this

A woman woke in the middle of the night to find her husband missing from their bed. In the stillness of the house, she could hear a muffled sound downstairs.

She went downstairs and looked around, still not finding her husband. Listening again, she could definitely hear moaning. She went down to the basement to find her husband, crouched in the corner facing the wall, sobbing.

“What’s wrong with you?” she asked him.

“Remember when your father caught us together when you were 16?” he replied. “And remember, he said, I had two choices - I could either marry you, or spend the next 20 years in prison.”

Baffled, she said, “Yes, I remember. So?”

“I would have gotten out today.”

By Mo

March 2, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this

Musing Lets go a step further. How about those that are Daddy’s Girls? Wouldnt they learn (some of them anyway) that all they have to do is have a tanrum or cry and Daddy will make it all better? Go ahead men and take credit for helping women become great emotional blackmailers! Now I do agree with your last post to a certain degree. Mo now reloading Blog gun for Musing.

In the words (laugh) of my girl SlimOne MUAH-HAHAHAHAHAH!!

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 10:18 AM | Link to this

There were women waiting in a doctor’s office. They started talking and one women said, “I’m going to have a girl because I was on the bottom last time and I had a girl. I was on the bottom again this time so I’m going to have another girl.”

One of the other ladies said, “I’m going to have a boy, I was on the top.”

The last lady started to cry. The two other ladies asked, “Why are you crying?” She replied, “I’m going to have puppies!!!”

By Tazzee

March 2, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

Morning all!

I am a very emotional person but I don’t use tears to manipulate. I have in the past, but wow - its been some years since I’ve done that.

It takes a lot for me to cry in front of a man because of something related to us but I will shed tears at a movie in a heartbeat.

By Jewel

March 2, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

an emotion like crying shouldn’t get displayed (by either party) until a degree of comfort and trust is established between the two. I agree 100% Musing.

Hello Confused How have you been? Think it’s time to change your moniker?

By Raqi

March 2, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this

And you know what I always say WiseDiva, If YOU loved ME you wouldn’t ask me to do it when you know I don’t want to.

By SlimOne

March 2, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

Sexione It’s not even lunch time and you’re pulling them out already. LOLOLOL!

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this

Oh yes, Wise, we real women know that we do not have the copyright on manipulation!! Some women may cry to get what they want, but some men do many other things to attempt to get what they want……and lets not talk about @itching and moaning…..we won’t even go there! hehehehehe

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 10:27 AM | Link to this

Slim I couldn’t resist. It’s FRIIIDDAAAYYYYY!!!!

A young girl had not been feeling well and went to her family doctor. “Young lady,” said the doctor, “you’re pregnant.” “But that can’t be. The only men I’ve been with are nudists and in our colony we practice sex only with our eyes.”

“Well my dear,” said the doctor, “someone in that colony is cockeyed.”

By Confused

March 2, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

Hey Jewel, I was thinking about that but what to? I use bubbles a lot but I think I am one on the younger women on this blog maybe to juvenile…I know anyone can give some ideas though…Thanks again for bringing that out!!!:)

By Jewel

March 2, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

Okay Sexione You got me started…This is dedicated to the men bloggers who will bash the women today…

Why are men like diapers?

They are always on my a— and full of sh!t - thank goodness they’re disposable!

By Raqi

March 2, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

You know even though I am “grown” enough not to try to manipulate the man or a man for that matter, I can’t deny that I don’t still pout sometimes when things don’t go my way. I can’t even deny that the thought to “withhold” does not come to mind sometimes when it just didn’t go my way, however, I am beyond, most of the time, giving in to childish behavior. But I can’t deny that I am not totally free from the thought of it.

Thinking something is one thing but acting on it is something totally different.

By Confused Now Lady J

March 2, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

OK I have one Lady J!!!!:) Peace

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

A young couple had been married for a couple of weeks, but the man was always after his wife to quit smoking. One afternoon, she lit up after some love making, and he said, “You really ought to quit.” She, getting tired of his nagging, said, “I really enjoy a good cigarette after sex.”

He replied, “But they stunt your growth.” She asked if he ever smoked, and he replied that he never had.

Smiling and lifting her gaze to his groin, she said, “So, what’s your excuse?”

By MusingLee

March 2, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

Go ahead men and take credit for helping women become great emotional blackmailers!

Mo that’s like blaming ice cream makers for making ice cream so delicious you can’t stop eating it and then you get fat….LOLOLOLOLOL

Hellz if you eat too much you’re making yourself big. Don’t blame the dude that gave you the two scoops you ordered….A dad is gonna want to care for his little girl. If you cry, he’s gonna jump to fix it…It’s manipulation once girls learn this and start crying WOLF.

By abc

March 2, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

Chick starts crying, I get other chicks to come in and deal with it. I don’t like to handle crying women, whether it’s a disingenuous device to get her way, or genuinely too emotional to think or react in any way but to break down.

By Cinderella

March 2, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

Sure, I’ve cried in front of my ex but not to manipulate. It was either because I was so angry that I would cry in frustration or hurt by a situation. In the ten years we were married I saw him cry once. And it was because I told him I wanted a divorce. His tears kinda freaked me out and they convinced me to stay with him….for another week.

By Raqi

March 2, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

Uh, that last post…the double negative…Hell yall know what I mean. LOL

By Jewel

March 2, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

Hellz if you eat too much you’re making yourself big. Don’t blame the dude that gave you the two scoops But Musing, what about the man who sued—and won—the fast food chain because he couldn’t stop eating burgers?

ABC RE your 10:34 post. Why is that your response?

LADY J I like that! Now, expect to be treated like a lady rather than a confused woman! LOL!

By Mo

March 2, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this

@ Musing A dad is gonna want to care for his little girl. If you cry, he’s gonna jump to fix it…It’s manipulation once girls learn this and start crying WOLF. Dont hate the player, hate the game!! LOL

Seriously I think its foolish for women who use crying as manipulation. GROW UP. There are times and places for emotional displays but when they become a norm then you have issues!

@ Sexione you are too funny! The jokes are too much!

@ Lady J formerly Confused nice name

By Lady J

March 2, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this

I know that is right Jewel!!! I feel soooo much better!!!! Thanks again!:)

By crimson esq.

March 2, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

morning everyone

I’ve never been able nor have I desired to “cry on command” so crying isn’t something that happens often for me at all.. I have cried in front of men before as it was a natural response to whatever was going on at that time…no need to bottle up emotion or feel emotionally vulnerable over a few tears here and there… withholding emotion and true feelings on a matter can lead to health problems in the future…

as far as those gut wrenching ugly cries… i’m good unless someone i’m close to dies…

I don’t use tears or withhold intimacy to “emotionally blackmail” anyone..it’s childish and the bottom line is that if you truly care for someone then you aren’t going to act like you’re no longer interested just to get what you want…

there was a guy that shed some tears in front of me in the past.. I didn’t find anything wrong with it because to me it showed that he didn’t buy into the whole real men don’t cry let me thump my chest and show you how strong i am… mentality that so many men choose to do for whatever reason… and to me it didn’t make him any less than someone who would choose not to express their emotions…

I haven’t experienced anyone using the ‘crying game’ with me.. but I did go through a situation where someone pretended to be in a certain mindset in order to gain my attention after we broke up…

By Anyone

March 2, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

I think crying if fine for either partner as long as it’s justified…However, women that turn on the water works for selfish reasons such as getting out of a ticket or getting their boyfriends, husbands to cave in to their demands gives the rest of us women a bad rep. I’m 25 and have NEVER used tears to get my way. I was raised by very strong, self-reliant women who don’t sit around waiting for others to take care of us.

My husband has always loved that I don’t use the “If you don’t know why I’m mad then I’m not telling you…” garbage. If I’m upset, you know it b/c I communicate (Not by yelling, it doesn’t work) so it doesn’t happen again.

Not to say that I’m an emotionless cyborg, I cry…just not to manipulate

By Jewel

March 2, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

Pre-Nuptial Agreements

A secretary for a foreign embassy was entertaining a wealthy foreign ambassador during lunch at a very expensive restaurant in New York. The ambassador was so enthralled by the beauty and presence of this secretary that he asked her to marry him. The secretary was startled, but remembered that her boss told her never to insult foreign dignitaries, so she decided to let him down easy.

“I’ll only marry you under three conditions.”

“Anything, anything,” said the ambassador.

“First, you must buy me a 14-karat gold wedding band with a 72 carat diamond, along with a 28 inch studded matching necklace for our engagement.”

Without hesitation, the ambassador picked up his cellular phone, called his personal accountant, told him the instructions, and said, “Yes, yes, I buy, I buy!”

The secretary thought that her first request was too easy, so she thought of a more difficult situation.

“Second, I want you to build me a 58-acre mansion in the richest part of the Hamptons along with a 40-acre summer home in the sweetest vineyards of France.”

The ambassador picked up his phone, called his personal broker in New York, then called another broker in France, and after his quick conversation, he said, “Yes, yes, I build, I build!”

The secretary was very startled, and knew she must think of a final request that would be impossible to live up to.

“Finally,” she said. “I’ll only marry you if you have a 10-inch penis.”

A sad face befell the ambassador, and he cupped his face in his hands. After weeping in his native language for a few minutes, the ambassador slowly lifted his head and said, “Ok, ok, I cut, I cut!”

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 2, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

I dont mind if a guy cries infront of me with good reason, lost of love one..etc. But if he is just whinning and showing his tail..because he wants his way..then he is going to be standing there by himself.

I am a emotional woman-I believe in better out than in. But I havent cried to get my way since middle/high school. I have cried in the presence of men but it was either due to the lost of the relationship, or the lost of a love one. If I am upset he will know it and now that I am older I have learn the art of agreeing to disagree…Which translates into FFU mode and I move forward.

Example

Me: “Can you help me put this entertainment center together?”

Guy: “Why did you buy that thing it has too many pieces.”

Me: “Here are the instructions and here is the Gorilla Glue so can you help me or not?”

Guy: “I have to go__.”(insert any place but here putting this damn thang together)

Me: “The quicker we put it together the quicker we can both go_.”(anywhere but here putting this damn thang together.)

Guy: “Naw I will help you later.”(out the door)

Me: “I swear and be damn!” FFU mode sets in…laying out all the pieces and reading the instruction book “Now watch when I get it all put together he will come back to tell me how the instruction book was all wrong and Joint B and A are backwards.”

By Awwwwwww...Dayum

March 2, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

Awwwwwww…Dayum!!! Sexione, if you are going to be Awwwwwww…Dayuming me, at lease get Awwwwwww…Dayum’s name right!!

I hate to say it but, Ms.Coke bottle I knew, has problems

By SlimOne

March 2, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

Cinderella my ex cried also when I told him I was moving out and going back to Alabama. I think as time got closer for me to leave he started liking the idea more and more.

By Lady J

March 2, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this

THanks Mo….A sis had to think on my feet quick!!!!:)

By abc

March 2, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this

Jewel, I’ve experienced women crying at work, I get other women to deal with them because I don’t want to get involved in anything personal with women at work. It’s too volatile a scenario, and chicks in the workplace are too fond of placing knives in backs. There’s no need for any personal interaction with ANYONE at work, and so I especially apply that to chicks.

If the crying woman is a friend or SO, I know there’s no comfort I can offer other than rationale, unless I want to cave in to a disingenuous ploy, or sink to their blubbering level. I’ll bring her a nice glass of ice water or something stronger and wait it out. If another woman is around to deal with it, I’ll certainly enlist their aid, because chances are they might understand what brought it all on.

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

Confused How about Enlightened or ConfusedNoMore?

Jewel I agree…and how about men that are always blaming a womans negative behavior on the absence of her father (although I don’t completely agree with that mess either)? You can blame him for one thing and not the other? Come on now!!

By Never Again

March 2, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

I dated a guy who on a road trip told me a story about how he was cheating on me sleeping with other women (even naming names), while I was driving him to meet my family. When he realized I was upset but refused to cry, he seemed a bit dissapointed. Then he tried to make the story even worse, but I still would not cry. As we neared our distination he told me it was all a joke (it was April Fools Day). I of course laughed and we had a good vaction, but he continued to comment on how I would not cry.

I found out months later, everything he said was true. He was testing me to see how I would take his unfaithfulness and to see if I would trip out if I ever found out the truth.

When we broke up I was devastated by all that he had done and said to me but I would NEVER let him see or even think I was crying over him. In some sick way, I think he got kicks out of thinking women were crying over him.

Moral of the Story…. Never let a man see you cry. It makes them think they have all the power over you and your happiness.

By cool breeze

March 2, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

Pretty bad all these women don’t understand the difference bewteen being tough and being a strong woman and seems they are fighting their natural tendencies because of fear. “don’t let them see you sweat”, and so on. Acting tough. I have cried in front of a girl because she hurt me so bad and with all the stuff I did for he she always complained and found something wrong and it was one day it just came out. When I see a man cry for whatever reason I get a little misty myself. To me if a man is crying he is REALLY hurt. Women have cried in front of me. I stopped asking as much why they’er crying. Women just do sometimes for no reason. If they tied emotional blackmail with me they wouldn’t get too far.

Guys freak out when women get emotional because we don’t really know how to deal with that. We guys fix things and sometimes all that stuff and crying is not easily fixed and we don’t know what to do and us guys are simple creatures and generally happy so crying for no reason or other emotional issues we have a hard time dealing with.

By Jake

March 2, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

What up good people:

Women are the masters of manipulation, its something learned very early, hellz, its probably intrinsic.

Yes, i have dated one of them blackmailing types, it used to work back in the day. You never want to see your lady crying, its something about it that makes you lose it. You could be mad as hell, then she pulls the tears and a nicka goes into “rescue mode” almost immediately. It works until you catch on, then its dayumn them tears, we gonna finish this ish…LOL

Since LorDemi said this,I ain’t gonna front, I Dayumed near cried at the end of Pursuit of Happiness…

Blog confession:

Last time I had an emotional outburst was after Katrina. I was taking some clothing to a displaced family, and it was 20 folks at this (3 bedroom)house, from Great Granny to a newborn. I unloaded the boxes, chatted for a minute, and left the house. Start drivin, and lost it, boo-hooing like a baby, now that ish was sad.

Other than that…Men Don’t Cry…LOL

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

Awwwwwww…Dayum Actually I wasn’t borrowing your name, just the expression….but next time I’ll try to spell it just right! lol…Awwwwwww…Dayum

Never let a man see you cry. It makes them think they have all the power over you and your happiness. Guurrrlll, you ain’t neva lied!!! That’s why women so often have the F^CK IT!!! attitude. Thanks, men.

By Cinderella

March 2, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

@SlimOne regarding your ex….I bet it wasn’t so much as he was starting to like the idea than he just said F IT he wasnt gonna show he cared anymore.

Someone crying around me whether man or woman makes me slightly uncomfortable….which I admit is hypocritical of me cause I cry when I watch silly azz movies.

By crimson esq.

March 2, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

@ Never Again

that was just that one guy..doesn’t mean that every man is going to hold your emotions over your head… but seriously.. if someone even jokes like that with you? you need to know that something is up….

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

Recently, a distraught wife went to the local police station, along with her next-door neighbor, to report that her husband was missing. The policeman asked for a description of the missing man.

The wife said, “He is 35 years old, 6-foot 4-inches, has dark eyes, dark wavy hair, an athletic build, weighs 185 pounds, is soft-spoken, and is good to the children.”

The next-door neighbor protested, “Your husband is 5-foot 8-inches, chubby, bald, has a big mouth, and is mean to your children.”

The wife replied, “Yes, but who wants HIM back?”

By no bs allowed.

March 2, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this

laughter at the start of this stops any further attempt.

By Raqi

March 2, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

abc Are you saying that you just being there has never worked as a means of comfort to any of the women that you have dated? Sometimes it’s not what you can say or do to make it better that’s important, cause sometimes there are no words or acts that can, but just being there means a lot sometimes.

By Jake

March 2, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

Slim

So you are from “Bama”, just not the Gump. I knew there had to a connection after yesterday’s comment..LOL

By Cinderella

March 2, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

dang Never Again…that’s pretty messed up. You’re right though, I think it hurts people more when you act like you don’t care.

By Lady J

March 2, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this

Thanks Sexione…Those names were great too…Lady J came and did the trick!!! I am Phenomenal Lady J

By kinderbabe

March 2, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

you all and these jokes are too much…lol

By mark

March 2, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

C tha 1, it’s great that you don’t want to me a male girlfriend.

By abc

March 2, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

Raqi, just being there? So one just sits and waits? I guess I don’t understand how one could be so overcome that they just sit and weep. Someone said earlier they think men avoid weeping women because they can’t deal with their own emotions, but to me it’s more a matter of simply not being so emotionally driven.

By Jewel

March 2, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

I know there’s no comfort I can offer other than rationale, unless I want to cave in to a disingenuous ploy, or sink to their blubbering level. Thanks ABC I wanted you to prove I was right in my earlier post…see how easy that was? I did not manipulate. I did not use my tears! LOL! Really, you do not need to have a solution for every problem. Sometimes, we just want you to listen and understand. Contrary to popular belief, tears will not leave you defenseless and out of control.

I agree. The workplace is a different animal. Rumors will label the two of you a couple.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 2, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

Before the female bashing gets into full swing. My sister sent me this email awhile ago….

THINGS A WOMAN SHOULD NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR. 1. Never apologize for pursuing what makes you happy. Always do what you really want.

20.Never apologize for making more money than your man, you work hard and you deserve to get paid.

21.Never apologize for being you!

By Jewel

March 2, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this

Never Again I read your post thinking, is there any way she could have driven off the cliff, causing no damage to herself or the car? But leave him looking like that man in “Tales From the Hood” who abused his son? You know the one where the little boy drew a picture of the man and crumpled the paper?

By SexyLeggs

March 2, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this

Good Happy Friday everyone I don’t believe in emotional blackmail. I am not a crier! I am emotional at movies and over sentimental things, but dating is not a time for a man to see me cry. I’m with most on this blog = I’d rather not let you see me sweat and save my crying for when I’m alone at night. Demi how are you doing? WiseDiva strange that your boyfriend would wonder why he hasn’t seen you cry after dating 4 months. That’s such a short period of time. Personally, I’m glad he hasn’t seen you cry. Our backbones are much stronger than yesteryear’s model of women.

By SlimOne

March 2, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this

Cinderella He is definitely a different breed of guys. He still cared and on many occasions came down to visit me. I think he started liking the idea of me not being too close and not too far (only and hour and a half away) I think his initial crying spell was the fear that I was walking out of his life indefinitely and to this day he says it’ll never happen. And I love to cry laughing at funny movies. The last time that happened to me was when I watched Wedding Crashers on the part where they are sitting around the table eating dinner and that chick was rubbing the hellz out outta Vince Vaughn’s wang and made him…’bust’!!!!

Jake yeah i’m originally from Tuskegee but I’ve been living in Georgia since the 3rd grade. So I was basically raised here.

By Jewel

March 2, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

Guys freak out when women get emotional because we don’t really know how to deal with that. We guys fix things and sometimes all that stuff and crying is not easily fixed and we don’t know what to do and us guys are simple creatures and generally happy so crying for no reason or other emotional issues we have a hard time dealing with. Thanks Cool Breeze You also proved my point.

By SlimOne

March 2, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

Sometimes you have to cry to keep from killing

By Never Again

March 2, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this

Thanks to all of you who have said my story was jacked up. I never shared that story with anyone. I guess because I should have taken Jewel’s advice and tried to crash the car without hurting myself. :-)

By Lady J

March 2, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

@Dr Kym…Great Post!!!

By LorDemi

March 2, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

Lady J sounds much sexier…

hey crimson esq.

QC, I am amaze at some of the negative things my co-workers been saying behind my back…revenge is in order

By Mo

March 2, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

@ Dr Kym I received that as well, great email!

By Awwwwwwwwww...Dayum

March 2, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this

Awwwwwwwwww…Dayum, Never Again you were slooooooow!!!

Sexione lay off the jokes…I am trying to work for a living, not laugh, LOL

By LorDemi

March 2, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs Hey you!! I am preparing to cut down a few folks, who don’t realize I am back among the hearing now.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

March 2, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this

I have cried over two guys in my past; of course not in their presence i was in my get-on and get-over it stage. I tend to cry when someone else cry, when i am over excited, and or mad as h3$$ and when someone give their life to Christ.

As for me I think men was taught not to cry ( cause it shows lack up manhood some would say) however i believe that is why some men are so confused and nonchalant about how to express themselves (thinking they would be consider weak) Men it’s ok to cry; show your feelings sometime.

I’m not gonna cry to have my way ( which is manupiation)

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

Three men stood before a judge on a charge of drunk and disorderly conduct in a public park.

Judge: What were you doing?

1st man: Oh, just throwing peanuts in the pond.

Judge: And what were you doing?

2nd man: I was throwing peanuts in the pond, too.”

Judge: Sounds harmless. And you, were you throwing peanuts in the pond as well?

3rd man: No, sir. I AM Peanuts!

By Lady J

March 2, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this

@LorDemi Thanks!!!

By LorDemi

March 2, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this

To me if a man is crying he is REALLY hurt or beyond healing.

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 12:04 PM | Link to this

Kym I liked that!!

Awwwwwwwwww…Dayum Sorry, okay, no I’m not. Laughter is healthy…plus, I’m skrait crazy for fun and having a good time!!!

Demi Get ‘em!!! That should be hilarious considering they don’t have a clue that you know the truth!!

By Lady J

March 2, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

@SlimOne you said a mouth full there!!!

By SexyLeggs

March 2, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this

LadyJ formerly Confused very nice name. When you first arrived to this blog you were sad and not much smile in your words (if you know what I mean). Glad to see that you are moving on, analyzing what needs to be analyzed and throwing away all the unnecessary BS….

By Lady J

March 2, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this

THe jokes are getting me through the day!!!

By Raqi

March 2, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this

Last year the man told me that he and his friend Jimmy were going to go sky diving and I just like froze in a state of awe. He was just going on and on about this upcoming adventure and I guess he noticed I didn’t give a verbal response. He turned and saw the expression of my face and was like “What? What ‘Raqi’?” I said “if you die, I will kill you.” He laughed and said if I die? I stated again if you die I will kill you. We went back and forth debating the dangers, safety and precautions of the whole thing and I said again IF YOU DIE I WILL KILL YOU. He then told me I was acting crazy. But I stated one last time “if you die I will kill you, Mason”. I didn’t cry to show my heartfelt concern but I believe the look in my eyes and the tone of my voice did it all for me. Now I know the statement I was making isn’t physically possible but it got the point across because he didn’t do it. Either that or he finally realized that I was saying that I wasn’t trying to bury another husband.

I don’t know why that just came back to my mind but it did. But anyhoo…

Yeah, abc just being there. But I guess it really is a “girl-friend” thing because sometimes when some of us women are going thru things having our “girls” there to go thru it with us means a lot. I guess we just carry that over into our relationships. Maybe?

Out.

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 12:14 PM | Link to this

The top 20 things not to say to a cop when he pulls you over.

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this

A policeman pulls a man over for speeding and asks him to get out of the car. After looking the man over he says, “Sir, I couldn’t help but notice your eyes are bloodshot. Have you been drinking?”

The man gets really indignant and says, “Officer, I couldn’t help but notice your eyes are glazed. Have you been eating doughnuts?”

By Lady J

March 2, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this

@SexyLeggs….Thanks so much for that positive obsevation…Life Does Go On

By Jewel

March 2, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this

Now here’s a REAL reason to cry…

Everyone in tears on ‘American Idol’

By LorDemi

March 2, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

Sexione you should have seen the look on some of their faces…They’ve forgotten how professional I can be at times…Awwwwwwww…Dayum, one of them is coming over now to redeem himself.

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 12:28 PM | Link to this

To get married you need a wedding license, right?

So, what do lesbians need? A licker license

And what about gay men? A poker license

By CP

March 2, 2007 12:32 PM | Link to this

Women are champions of emotional blackmail. My woman cries, gets angry, won’t talk, all of that to keep me guessing what the hell is going on. Most women I know are like the girls in Players Club, “Use what you got to get what you want.” What women got is a lock on this emotion crap and they use it to get what they want, which is to keep a man guessing and off balance!

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 12:35 PM | Link to this

Jesus and Satan are having a conversation…

Jesus and Satan were having an ongoing argument about who was better on his computer. They had been going at it for days, and God was tired of hearing all of the bickering. Finally God said, “Cool it. I am going to set up a test that will run two hours and I will judge who does the better job.”

So Satan and Jesus sat down at the keyboards and typed away. They moused. They did spreadsheets. They wrote reports. They sent faxes. They sent e-mail. They sent out e-mail with attachments. They downloaded. They did some genealogy reports. They made cards. They did every known job. But ten minutes before their time was up, lightning suddenly flashed across the sky, thunder rolled, the rain poured and, of course, the electricity went off.

Satan stared at his blank screen and screamed every curse word known in the underworld. Jesus just sighed. The electricity finally flickered back on and each of them restarted their computers.

Satan started searching frantically, screaming “It’s gone! It’s all gone! I lost everything when the power went out!”

Meanwhile, Jesus quietly started printing out all of his files from the past two hours. Satan observed this and became irate.

“Wait! He cheated, how did he do it?”

God shrugged and said, “Jesus saves.”

By Mo

March 2, 2007 12:37 PM | Link to this

@ Sexione I am STILL laughing on that last one!!! Poker License & Licker License!!! LMAO!!

@ LorDemi Let’em have it! That’s what they get for being triflin’!

By SlimOne

March 2, 2007 12:51 PM | Link to this

The Blog Bar Is now Open and Fully Stocked

Current drink of the hour is Bacardi 151 & Coke and Grey Goose & Pineapple Juice

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 1:03 PM | Link to this

Slim Grey Goose and juice please!!!!

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this

Joe enters the confessional and tells the priest that he has committed adultery. “Oh, no,” said the priest, thinking of the most promiscuous women in town. “Was it with Marie Brown?”

“I”d rather not say who it was.”

“Was it with Betty Smith?”

“I”d rather not say,” says Joe. So the priest gives him absoultion and Joe leaves. While leaving the church, Joe’s friend asks if he recieved absolution.

“Yes, and two very good leads!”

By Nosy Lurker

March 2, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this

I am preparing to cut down a few folks, who don’t realize I am back among the hearing now. Demi can you elaborate? Were you without your hearing aids before?

By Lady J

March 2, 2007 1:09 PM | Link to this

Double GG w/lime on the rocks!!!:) All day everyday!!!!

By Raqi

March 2, 2007 1:13 PM | Link to this

SlimOne I am MADD so make mine a Shirley Temple.

By SlimOne

March 2, 2007 1:14 PM | Link to this

Sexione Goose-n-Juice…BOOYAH! There you go, and the ladies get a complimentary umbrella and cherry just cuz.

Lady J normally if Gaman was in here, he’d kill me for giving you an extra shot BUT its Friday and just don’t tell nobody.

By JustMe

March 2, 2007 1:17 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon Bloggers and Blogettes

Ladies, are women really masters of emotional blackmail? Sometimes, when we know absolutely that it will work!

Do you think we intentionally drive guys over the edge with crying and emotion?

Sometimes if he has all of his teeth and they are straight

How would you react if a man you were dating cried in front of you?

I would be shocked to say the least if I did not know the reason. But if it were due to tragic circumstances, I would be releived to know that he is not incapable of displaying his (sad)emotions

Do men ever use the crying game with women? No reason, they have more game(s) than we can ever imagine. That would be a SIMP game as RELL is fond of saying

Now to be honest, I have cried in front of dudes before, but it usually while telling him I really cared about him but he just F’d up for good with JustMe and it’s a wrap. Those would real tears of sorrow.

I do use tears to manipulate 1 man in my life. Lil JustMe let him bring home a bad grade and I will ball like a baby - LOL My dad told me that boys/men hate to see their mothers cry even more than they hate to see their SO cry. I must say, it works!

Blog Bartender May I have a mmmmmm let me think, I’ll try something new today. How bout a Jumping Jack Flash? Can you make that?

By QC

March 2, 2007 1:21 PM | Link to this

Allright now Lady J she checked but they all had been sold already…sorry…luv your new name!

Demi i’m sure you’ll put everyone in there place

By Raqi

March 2, 2007 1:24 PM | Link to this

You know what SlimOne cancel that order. The man is picking me up from work so make that a glass of Vin Santo and throw in a piece of biscotti. Make sure it’s an almond biscotti and not hazel nut. I am allergic to most nuts.

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 1:31 PM | Link to this

Raqi Were you the one that said you don’t drink, anyway? Or is that just a MADD thing? Just wondering…..

Slim thanks a bunch!!

By SlimOne

March 2, 2007 1:36 PM | Link to this

Raqi well I already made the shirley temple so you’ll just have two drinks this nice Friday afternoon. Drink up!

JustMe Jumping Jack flash. Hmmmm? I’ll try my hand at it and you tell me if it taste anything like what’s actually in it. lol

By Lady J

March 2, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this

@QC good looking out thoungh and Thanks!!!!

@SlimOne I won’t tell if you won’t!!!!:)

By SlimOne

March 2, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this

Jumping Jack Flash BAM! Taste that…Jack Daniels and Red Bull.

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 1:39 PM | Link to this

Raqi Oh, I see…..gotcha…I need to get some info on them (MADD). I plan to join soon.

By QueDogTeaching

March 2, 2007 1:45 PM | Link to this

What up Blog Thinking of a couple of stories while I speed lurk.

I have had a few females cry in front of me. I could tell that some were just out of anger because we were arguing. I have gotten the cry while doing “it” cry, I was touched then once I finished I would ask what was up. But I have only been affected by crying twice in my life once was by a girl I was dating who was straight p** at me and punched me in my jaw, and screamed I love you too much for this “ish” while tears were running down her face. I fell in love with her right then.

The other time was my brother. This is the man who has pulled Fed time, carries a pistol to this day, that I have seen knock a dude out cold and then spit on him, that every time I have had stitches he has had something to do with it.
His wife was having his first daughter and we got to the hospital right after the birth, we walked into the room, the nurse handed him his child, the baby wasn’t crying but she was kind of whimpering, she opened her eyes looked at him and just stopped and closed her eyes and kind of took a deep breath and relaxed. I looked at him and tears were coming down his cheeks in a water fall. Then he looked straight at me and said “This some deep shyt ain’t it.” I broke in to laughter and killed the mood. But it was touching for a minute

By Raqi

March 2, 2007 1:51 PM | Link to this

Sexi my first husband was killed by a drunk driver so I swore off drinking and yes that also led to the MADD. It has been 14 years since his death. (But I really don’t want to talk about that if you don’t mind.)

Within the last 5-6 years I have had a few glasses of wine at dinner parties. Whitebread would always have Vin Santo to drink after dinner. My youngest son was also given Vin Santo to drink while in Italy.

By Cinderella

March 2, 2007 1:53 PM | Link to this

@JustMe I didn’t even think about the momma manipulating the child crying…….I’m guilty of that.

The other day my son was saying how he couldn’t wait to leave home and go to college and although that’s what parents hope for their children to do I was kinda sad thinking about him leaving and hurt about him saying “he couldn’t wait to leave”. So me being the emotional wreck that I’ve been lately to teary eyed and my baby son was like “FOOL!! look what you did….you made momma cry!!” and then his little 10 yr old self tried to fight the 16 yr old. LOL boys are so sweet :)

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 1:54 PM | Link to this

One day, a little boy wrote to Santa Clause, “Please send me a sister.” Santa Clause wrote him back, “Ok, send me your mother.”

By Raqi

March 2, 2007 1:56 PM | Link to this

Sexi the man doesn’t drink either however his friend Jimmy made a drink called “Buttery Nipple” once while we were at his place. The Man said with a name like that he couldn’t resist giving it a try. LOL That’s a man for ya.

By Linguist

March 2, 2007 1:56 PM | Link to this

CP “My woman cries, gets angry, won’t talk, all of that to keep me guessing what the hell is going on.”

ding, ding, ding, ding, ding… you win the prize with your astute observation! That’s me in a nutshell! (not that I’m proud of that! When I do this, hubby doesn’t know whether to Shyt or go blind)

@Slim Just got back from a meeting. I need a double (It’s friday!) GG with Lime just like Lady J (love the new moniker btw!)

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this

Signs You Should Join E-Mailers Anonymous

10) You wake up at 3 am to go to the bathroom, and check your e-mail on the way back to bed.

9) Your firstborn is named Dotcom.

8) You turn off your modem and are suddenly filled with a feeling of emptiness, as if you just pulled the plug on a loved one.

7) You spend half of a plane trip with your laptop on your lap, and your child in the overhead compartment.

6) You decide to stay in college for an additional year or two, just for the free Internet access.

5) You find yourself typing ”com” after every period.com.

4) You refer to going to the bathroom as downloading.

3) You move into a new house and decide to Netscape before you landscape.

2) You start tilting your head sideways to smile. : )

1) Immediately after reading this list, you e-mail it to someone.

By LorDemi

March 2, 2007 1:59 PM | Link to this

Nosy Lurker yes I was for about 10months…My nephew broke my old ones and I simply decided to go without them. Now almost a year later, I realize that I miss hearing birds singing, going to movies and knowing what is being said, hearing a sexy woman’s voice (not just lip reading) and most of all, really hearing my son’s voice when he calls me.

I am about 80% deaf and can only hear 20% of the time…LOL

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 2:02 PM | Link to this

Raqi No, we won’t go there. How old was the youngster when he drank Vin Santo in Italy?

By Raqi

March 2, 2007 2:02 PM | Link to this

Cindy you got to love ‘em. My oldest is leaving in August and it is getting harder everyday just thinking about.

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 2:04 PM | Link to this

G. W. Bush was very depressed that people were saying he is stupid. So he calls his good friend Queen Elizabeth, who says, “Now George, what you need to do is to surround yourself with smart people. Let me show you.” She conference calls Tony Blair in and asks, “Tony, your parents had a baby. It isn’t your sister and it isn’t your brother. Who is it?”

Tony Blair replies, “It’s me!” and hangs up.

G.W. Bush then calls Dick Cheney and says, “Dick, your parents had a baby. It isn’t your sister and it isn’t your brother. Who is it?”

And Cheney says, “Wow, that’s a tough one. Let me get back to you.”

So Cheney calls Colin Powell and says, “Colin, your parents had a baby. It isn’t your sister and it isn’t your brother. Who is it?”

And Colin Powell says, “It’s me!”

So Cheney calls Bush and says, “It’s Colin Powell.”

And Bush says, “No, you idiot! It’s Tony Blair!”

By QC

March 2, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this

Is the blog bar still open?????

hey JustMe

By Mo

March 2, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

@ SlimOne I need a Texas Margarita heavy on the tequila! My co-workers are about to make me lose my mind up in here!

By Raqi

March 2, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

Sexi he was 11 (just last year) and you better believe that I was high pyssed when I found out. That wine is extremely harsh for a child. IMO any and all alcoholic drinks are bad for a child, but that one is really bad.

By kinderbabe

March 2, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

hey demi how’s it going?

what’s up? justme

By tears on my pillow

March 2, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

I typically do not cry in front of anyone (casual)if I can possibly avoid it (work,strangers,and short term beaus)…..I cut my fingers bad enough to need 8 stiches and did not cry (until the doctor started stitching w/o the numbing stuff working).

It depends on the reason I am feel the need to cry as to whether I would do it in front of a long term relationship. If my grandmother passed away, I would cry in front of my current relationship. We talked about something (not a relationship thing) not long ago that really upset me for some reason, I was going to excuse myself to the restroom. He pulled me over and said, no, get it out and then lets talk about it.

He had a death in the family and cried while I held him too. This is not a whimpy type guy either.

However I would not nor would he put up with me crying as emotional blackmail. Really now who wants to keep a man that way.

There is something deeply intimate in being vulnerable enough to be crying in front of someone who will not judge or hurt you……But I am with Wise Diva it is better left to those that are proving to be long term or spousal material.

By Linguist

March 2, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

JustMe & Cinderella both of your references to your sons made me tear up thinking about my middle son (7). He was taking a bath last night and keeping the door open (he’s still scared about having the door to the bathroom closed!) he was talking to me about how he did on his spelling test. I was congratulating him when I got teary-eyed thinking about how my now deceased father would’ve have been so proud of him. He looked up at me and said “Mommy, don’t cry ‘cause I don’t like it. It makes me sad”.

I guess it was the way he said it- with such seriousness for a 7 year old that I almost lost it…

While slim is trying to make drinks for everyone else in GA.man’s absence, Ling dives head first behind the bar in a futile attempt to make her own drink. Only to find Slim furiously chuggin down the last of the GG

By Raqi

March 2, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this

Okay now yall got me thinking sad thoughts.

Is anyone doing anything exciting this weekend?

By abc

March 2, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

Oh, Vin Santo is a dessert wine, usually served in dinky little glasses, I’m sure it didn’t hurt him any.

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

Raqi I don’t blame you. It still amazes me how the kids in Italy and France grow up drinking wine. I remember when I went to Paris as a teen (and yes, we drank!!), and was told about the schools having wine in the lunchroom as if it were no big deal. I don’t know if they still do this, but we were shocked.

By SlimOne

March 2, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this

Linguist sorry it took so long. I had to go get another bottle since we’ve killed one bottle of Goose already. Here you go

BTW I DO ACCEPT TIPS

Mo It’s Friday, don’t let them stress you out. I put a little extra twist on this Texas Margarita. You know everything is big in Texas. lol

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

A preacher woke up one Sunday morning and looked outside and saw it was a beautiful day. He decided to skip church and go play golf. So he called the junior pastor at his church and told him he was sick and couldn’t give the sermon. The junior pastor told him not to worry, he would deliver the sermon. The pastor drove about 40 miles away from town to avoid being spotted. As he was setting up his first drive on the first hole, Jesus leaned over to God in heaven and asked him, “Are You going to let him get away with this?” God told Jesus not to worry, he would handle it. Right as God said that, the preacher hit the drive of his life. The ball traveled all 450 feet to the green, bounced once, and rolled in the hole. The preacher was ecstatic. Jesus asked God,”Why would you let him do that?” God said, “Because, who is he gonna tell?”

By LorDemi

March 2, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this

Sexione funny

SlimOne may I have Bacardi 151…straight.

JustMe Hey you!!!

Mo/QC my supervisor just marks my hearing range…one floor up and one floor down (cold huh?)…So I said,” Maybe if you start doing squats, your pants would say up…’Cause your belt could use some relief.”

I heard a pin drop for the first time in a long time

I know what I said was foolish, but it was funny at the time, plus I didn’t know black dudes can get so red.

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 2:25 PM | Link to this

A man goes to the doctor and gets a check up. The doctor finishes the exam and tells the man, “I have some bad news, you only have have about two weeks left to live”. The man is shocked. He asks the doctor, “Is there is any thing that he could do to make the time that I have left more tolerable?”

The doctor thinks for a moment. “There is one thing that you could do”.

“Just name it, I’ll do whatever it is”. He tells the man to take alot of mud baths, two or three a day.

The man looks at his doctor asks, “Will that help my condition”?

The doctor says, “No, but it will get you used to the dirt.”

By JustMe

March 2, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this

SlimOne coughing and gagging What did you say was in this thing?!?! It’s strong as corn liquor

Hey QC

Cinderella My dad scholled me to that game. It worked. I used in in dire situations.

Heeeeyyyyyyyy Demi

Hiiya Kinder How are babes doing today?

Mo I used to car pool to DMX “Up N Here” Had a ball doing it to - LOL

By Jake

March 2, 2007 2:29 PM | Link to this

Yo, since the bar is open. I’ll put my order in for the rest of the night…LOL Let me have the 4 hour Iron Stomach Suprise

“Look out Liver, here comes the Liquor”…LOL

One cold Corona, followed by one Couvoiser+Cran, after that, all Belvedere+Cran…but throw in a shot of Patron every hour on the hour…Thanks, and keep’em comin.

By Lady J

March 2, 2007 2:29 PM | Link to this

Oh SlimeOne, my bad I owe you big for the unauthorized double!!!! Duce baby!!! lolol!!!:)

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 2:30 PM | Link to this

This old couple is ready to go to sleep so the old man lays on the bed but the old woman lays on the floor. The old man asks, ”Why are you going to sleep on the floor?”

The old woman says, “Because I want to feel something hard for a change.”

HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

By Raqi

March 2, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

Spoken like a true man. I swear I hate all men.

abc I have had it before and it is too much for a child…at least for my child that is. Man I swear you men get on my nerves down playing everything that a mother feels is important toward her kids. Maaaann…LOL

By Mo

March 2, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

@ LorDemi That was classic!! ^5 to you on that one!!

SlimOne Thanks chica!! I tell ya..they are trying my patience. Mo leaving SlimOne a blog tip

Hey JustMe & Kinderbabe

By LorDemi

March 2, 2007 2:34 PM | Link to this

Heeeeey kinderbabe

My dad told me that boys/men hate to see their mothers cry even more than they hate to see their SO cry. I must say, it works!

Ahhhhhhhh…so that’s why my mom use to do that!!!

QUE that was straight, “go to jail and do not pass go”, EVIL…LOL

By DuShawn

March 2, 2007 2:34 PM | Link to this

I wish I could cry more. I think I may have cried twice in the last decade. Both times were during the funerals of loved ones. Although emotionally moved and awed by the experience, I didn’t shed a tear at the birth of my children. I truly believe that one’s personality is a compilation of their life experiences. The situations that I have been through have conditioned me, like most men, to suppress my emotions. Sometimes the ability to do this is a blessing, but often it’s a curse.

By Linguist

March 2, 2007 2:35 PM | Link to this

Slim thanks for the drank, oops, I meant “drink”. You made that kind of strong! Was that a triple??

Ling, looking sideways on the lookout for GA.man or Musing (BKA “the Bar police. Now slipping Slim some cash and thanking her for the blog bar hookup

By SlimOne

March 2, 2007 2:36 PM | Link to this

LorDemi I was starting to wonder is everyone was scared of the 151. Well since you’re my first request I’ll have one with you.

BlogBar bell sounds off ‘ding ding ding’

“The new drinks of the hour are Yager Bombs & Martinis”

By Tater

March 2, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

Jewel regarding your 9:50 post A man who is not afraid to show his weaknesses is a strong man, in my humble opinion.
Your opinion is dead on. Holding emotions in is not a good idea in my opinion for either the man or woman. If you’re not comfortable with the person you are with, maybe its time to rethink that relationship.

By LorDemi

March 2, 2007 2:38 PM | Link to this

Linguist GG Golden Gain 200poof?

said while tipping SlimOne a few blog dollars

By SlimOne

March 2, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this

JustMe Jack Daniels and red bull…is that not right? Here have a shot of water to clear that cough up. lol

By QueDogTeaching

March 2, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this

@blog ladies

Why cry after sex. But then want to immediatly come back over the next night?

By QC

March 2, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this

Slim1 Iz you pouring some dranks? if so can u ppuulleezzee pour me a nice (light ice) hipnotic/pineapple juice thanks!!!

By QC

March 2, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

Demi now that was funny!!!

By Cinderella

March 2, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this

@Raqi this weekend eyecandy and I are taking the boys to the $1 theater and then prolly Cee Cee’s Pizza. Talk about having a lot of fun for the low low. LOL

By Linguist

March 2, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

@LorDemi ——> Yep! it was good too!

@QueDog: Not sure how to answer that. If this is make-up s3x, than emotions can really come into play.

By Raqi

March 2, 2007 2:53 PM | Link to this

Que the times that I have cried after/during sex was not a bad thing…in fact it was a really damn good thing…so why wouldn’t I come back for more?

Could you be a little more specific in your question?

No I am not going there today.(Can you all tell I am doing absolutely nothing but blogging right now?)

By Mo

March 2, 2007 2:53 PM | Link to this

@ QueDogTeaching ummmm, never cried after sex. That is a weird one to me. But if she is coming back that means you handlin yo business man!! LOL

Seriously I’ll lurk on that question, I’m interested in anwers myself.

By abc

March 2, 2007 2:56 PM | Link to this

Well now, I’m not a cryer, but I don’t think I’m suppressing anything. I just don’t get the urge.

By QueDogTeaching

March 2, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this

@ Cinderella

I have gotten into two fights with my brother about both of our mothers. Both were when we were younger. My brother had just gotten out, so I came home for the weekend from college to see him. I was in the house probably forty minutes before he just started cussing in front of our mom. I was like man chill out, so he stopped, and my mom was just looking, kind of like she was tired and sad all at the same time. So after about 30 minutes he just started talking trash and cussing I told him to chill out and he said “F**k you, If I said something wrong then my mouth should be bleeding” so he started walking up the steps and like something out of a movie I turned him around and two pieced him in the mouth. I then pushed him into the wall and kept punching we made a huge hole in the wall. My mom started screaming to stop. We stopped my brother put his hand to his mouth and saw that it was bleeding. He said “Dayum I guess I said something wrong.” He then went upstairs, took off his clothes, got in the bed and slept until about three o’clock the next day. True Story.

By SlimOne

March 2, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this

I’m loving these tips, keep ‘em coming

Linguist nah, not a triple….well actually I don’t even know since i’m measuring by eye sight and not by an actual shot glass. hehehe

QC now hypnotic isn’t the drink of the hour BUT give me a nice tip and I’ll call it square.

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 3:04 PM | Link to this

Que don’t know about that one…..I’m not the crying during/after sex type. If I did, it would probably be ‘cause I was mad that it wasn’t good or enough……but I wouldn’t come back for more. lol

Slim hit me again shawty!!!!

By kinderbabe

March 2, 2007 3:05 PM | Link to this

hey mo

justme the babes are out of the building…lol. they were funny today as usual. always saying something new and hilarious.

By QC

March 2, 2007 3:07 PM | Link to this

Aight Slim1 here ya go

bam….now don’t spend all this in one place

so what’s the drink of the hour?

By DuShawn

March 2, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this

Tater & Jewel For most men, I don’t think it’s a matter of being afraid or not comfortable enough to show their emotions. I think it’s the consequence of conditioned behavior that has resulted in an inability to effectively communicate personal feelings. Personally, it takes a conscious effort and a few glasses of wine for me to really open up to the ones I love. The same effort and practice that is required to master the art of public speaking is needed for most men to privately discuss their innermost thoughts. At least it is for me. I’m working on it though.

By Cinderella

March 2, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

@QueDog* hilarious! I tell my older boys they better watch how they treat the baby now cause he’s gonna end up bigger and tougher than them.

By Raqi

March 2, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this

In fact I mentioned to 2Can earlier this week that I had a lot of “first” time experiences with Whitebread. The first time I “cried” during sex with him he made me feel “something” so intense and overpowering, “something” like I had never experienced before the tears just flowed. Then he said “And don’t let anybody tell you different.” LOL That arse hole thought he was the stuff.

I have “heard” that laughter is also known to be a reaction from that “experience”.

By Lady J

March 2, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this

@QDT I need a scenerio…never cried after but if one comes back then tht says it all…

By i'm swiss

March 2, 2007 3:15 PM | Link to this

“It still amazes me how the kids in Italy and France grow up drinking wine. I remember when I went to Paris as a teen (and yes, we drank!!), and was told about the schools having wine in the lunchroom as if it were no big deal. I don’t know if they still do this, but we were shocked.”

That’s precisely why most other cultures don’t have as many problems with alcohol as we do here — because they don’t make such a big deal out of it. Forbidden fruit, etc. Same thing with sex, drugs, etc. D@mn puritan influence… ;)

By Raqi

March 2, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

Cindy that sounds like fun.

I guess since I am not letting the kid go to his father’s this weekend I need to find something for him to do. LOL

SIGH Come to think of it, he is out of school next week for spring break. I need to find something for him to do for an entire week.

By Mo

March 2, 2007 3:17 PM | Link to this

SlimOne Can I get a Caramel Apple Martini please!!

leaving SlimOne another blog tip

Its been that kinda day ya’ll! OOOHHH these co-workers of mine are off da chain. Its definitely more of them (crazies) than us (those of us that are sane)

By SlimOne

March 2, 2007 3:19 PM | Link to this

Slim thinking I’m gonna have to call cabs for all these drunkerds in here. Its only 3 and they are just killing the bar

Sexione BOO-YAH! here ya go

QC the current drinks are Yager Bombs and Martini’s and DAYUM!, you must be a baller. Do you realize you gave me a bill ($100)?

By Sexione

March 2, 2007 3:20 PM | Link to this

sliding Slim a fat tip, while heading out the door*

Y’all be eazy…and have a safe weekend!!!

By DuShawn

March 2, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this

QUE I have made two women cry during sex. One shed tears of ecstasy. The other shed tears of insanity. The first woman became my wife and we started a family together. The second woman burned my wallet and put the wet remnants in a Ziploc bag, threw eggs at my car and caused me to change my contact numbers. That girl showed me the true meaning of “Fears for Tears”. Fortunately, I got rid of her without catching a case.

By i'm swiss

March 2, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this

Raqi —

Did that “something” start with “m” and end in “ultiple orgasms?” ;)

By SlimOne

March 2, 2007 3:32 PM | Link to this

DuShawn how in the world did you escape that situation w/o moving or going into the witness protection program?

Thanks Sexione hope you’re able to drive.

Mo I gave you a little extra caramel. Enjoy.

By melo

March 2, 2007 3:32 PM | Link to this

I knew girls who cried when having sex! Why are females on this blog fronting?

By Justin

March 2, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this

CP Your 12:32 PM post was on the money!

DuShawn, man you were lucky because women like that are dangerous. They are crazy and no the authorities won’t do anything. They will just cry and say they were emotionally abused or something.

By Jewel

March 2, 2007 3:35 PM | Link to this

Okay. My last post for today. It is absolutely gorgeous outside! Too beautiful to sit at this computer…

Que If you are referring to a whimper, shed tears with or w/o much verbal noise…job well done. Amazing! Standing ovation! Here’s your reward! LOL! If she is saying, “Take it out! Get off of me!”—Leave town! LOL!

DuShawn Actually, you restated what you disagree with…men are not comfortable in dealing with something they do not understand…emotions. Hence the inability to communicate what they are feeling.

All, Have a Wonderful Weekend!

By QC

March 2, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

Yes, Slim1 yes mam girl i’m

bbbbbbaaaaaaalllllliiiiinnnnn’

keep the change girl!

By Tazzee

March 2, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this

For you Raqi - tonight I’m going to Black Heritage night at the Rodeo. They are having a concert with Natalie Cole and Kem. Tomorrow I’m getting up bright and early and flying to the A to hang out with loved ones.

By Jewel

March 2, 2007 3:42 PM | Link to this

Okay. I am gone for real after this one…Men cry during sex too!

By QC

March 2, 2007 3:42 PM | Link to this

Slim1, can i have a 4 oz DAYUM please

By Raqi

March 2, 2007 3:45 PM | Link to this

I’m swiss Something more like E=VxQ m=Fxd and F=mxa…LOL.

By Big K

March 2, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

I used to cave to this sort of thing from women, used to put up with a lot of things from women when I was young and stupid. I don’t tolerate such unnecessary and manipulative emotional outbursts anymore. As soon as that starts my reaction is NEXT Don’t let the door hit you in the butt on the way out!

By DuShawn

March 2, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this

Slim I wasn’t totally innocent in that situation. I was a much younger man. I dogged the girl out and was deserving of some of that abuse. I was blessed with the gift to talk to people and make them realize the seriousness of their actions. I just had face to face conversation with her, apologized for my wrongs and told her enough is enough. I think the look in my eyes let her know to leave me alone.

By MusingLee

March 2, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this

Night All,

Have a great weekend.

By melo

March 2, 2007 3:52 PM | Link to this

SoJewel, do you? Say it!

By SlimOne

March 2, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this

QC anything for all my baller patrons.

By abc

March 2, 2007 3:57 PM | Link to this

Bogus, Jewel. Men deal with their emotions just fine. Women crying indicates that they’re not able to deal with their emotions.

By Raqi

March 2, 2007 3:57 PM | Link to this

Have fun Tazzee.

I am out. My ride is here. LOL My “ride”…yall got me thinking naughty.

Good Night everyone. Have a safe and wonderful weekend.

Excellent week once again WiseDiva.

By Linguist

March 2, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this

Oh Lawd, the ladies seem to be leaving the party! See what happens Slim when you start pouring them kind of drinks! We either get emotional, violent or start telling it like it is! Are there any martini’s left? Can I get a chocolate one?

slipping more money into the blogbar tip jar. Slim’s making a killing today!

Melo what makes u think anybody is frontin? :)

By Tater

March 2, 2007 4:11 PM | Link to this

DuShawn

I think it’s the consequence of conditioned behavior that has resulted in an inability to effectively communicate personal feelings

This is something that needs to be changed on both sides of the isle. I really don’t understand the whole “bottle it up inside” theory. We must all be strong and never let them see you sweat Bunch of BS to me. There are times when emotions overwhelm you and I do not see this a sign of weakness on either gender. Being in the delivery room when my kids were born made me cry (happy). Watching someone get baptised after turning over their life to Christ (happy). Watching someone you love suffer through an illness such as cancer (sad).

By Linguist

March 2, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this

abc ——> you are kidding.. right? “Men deal with their emotions just fine”

Guess that’s why most of the criminals and shady azz characters are men - that’s the way deal with their “emotions”!

Gotta stop this mid-day drinking! I’m beginning to think suspiciously!

By it's okay

March 2, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this

I dated a guy who cried and needless to say that didn’t last very long. How can you stand there and watch a man cry when there is nothing wrong? To me he has no manhood about him.

I also dated a guy who stopped in front of my mother’s house and just cried like a baby and you should have saw the look on my face “like what the f&%$”? That’s one didn’t last long either. He had some serious emotional problems.

By DuShawn

March 2, 2007 4:21 PM | Link to this

I have found that if you don’t care about the woman, you definitely don’t give a dayum about her tears. “Trick……cry me a river. I don’t give a f&ck about you crying.”* it must be getting close to 5:00 my corporate polish is wearing off. The street DuShawn is beginning to surface. I’m out.

By abc

March 2, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this

I don’t count criminals among those with normal behavior.

Personally, crying isn’t my thing because I’m not that overwhelmed by my emotions. I’ll talk about them, I’ll display them, but that doesn’t include crying. To me, crying displays a lack of understanding of what one is feeling.

Perhaps I’m in the minority in being that way, or maybe not. But, in my experience, men as a group don’t have a problem in expressing themselves, whether intellectually, emotionally, artistically, whatever.

By i'm swiss

March 2, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

Raqi

E=VxQ m=Fxd and F=mxa

Okay, I know I’m going to sound stupid, but I’ve been trying to figure out your formulas for the past 15 minutes & I’m stumped. What can I say…? I was an English major — you blinded me with mathematics… LOL

By Mo

March 2, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this

Melo why do we have to be “frontin” if we have never cried after/during s3x? I have never had that experience. I dont think that qualifies as frontin. Now hollering out, knees shakin…yes but never the crying! LOL

By QC

March 2, 2007 4:31 PM | Link to this

Thanks Slim1 have a great, safe, blessed, restful weekend Bloggers

HOLLA…..QC has left the building

By Mo

March 2, 2007 4:37 PM | Link to this

I’m swiss I was an english major too and Raqi’s formula has me stumped too! So you and I are gonna sound stupid together!

By SlimOne

March 2, 2007 4:38 PM | Link to this

The blog bar is now closed No last call!

By BLACK COFFEE

March 2, 2007 4:42 PM | Link to this

@que dog I have cried during sex because I realized just how much I missed my ex….sure as hellz didn’t go back the next day. I waited 3 or 4 days thinking I could force myself to get over it…..bad choice.

By LorDemi

March 2, 2007 4:49 PM | Link to this

REAL men deal with their emotions just fine, males don’t.

By Wise Diva

March 2, 2007 4:53 PM | Link to this

This bus tragedy is incredibly sad. My sincerest condolences to the families. Please have a safe weekend everyone, and tell your loved ones that you love them today.

DIVA OUT