By SlimOne

March 14, 2007 8:04 AM | Link to this

Morning All Had a busy day yesterday so hopefully I’ll be able to keep up today. We’ll see

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

March 14, 2007 8:19 AM | Link to this

Have a GREATTTTT Trip WD

Have you ever been in a situation where you constantly compare your dates to someone you are still hung up on? How did you handle it?

Nope…with the exception of Debbie M. in my high school freshman English class, I never dated anyone (at least until recently) who I thought ‘had it all’, so I’ve pretty much evaluated all on their own merits. (Speaking of Debbie…wonder where she is now???).

If you met the “epitome of everything you look for in a human being” are you really prepared for what that actually means? Be honest!

Good question. I am in a relationship like that now, and frankly it is hard to relax and just enjoy it. It is oddly challenging to accept someone really caring for you that is pretty much all you prayed for. It is safe to say that no relationship I have been in has worked or I wouldn’t be here now would I? I think it is really easy to be outside of one’s comfort zone when finally in a good relationship (so used to rejection and drama that when something good comes along, you don’t know how to handle it), that one is subconsciously tempted to sabotage it. I know that I did with the first relationship I entered after my divorce. Things would be going so good I felt uncomfortable and I would do something to (fill in the blank) it up.

I’m not pretending this makes ANY sense, I just know that I am guilty of it, and many others I have seen do it also.

By MochaTreat

March 14, 2007 8:29 AM | Link to this

Good morning Wise, Slim, Randy, QC, MO, Demi, Musing, GAman, SeanJ, Sexione, Kinder, Raqi, NC, Foots, Justme and crew

Have a safe trip Wise!!

I have never even heard of the movie Chasing Amy..but nevertheless…I can’t say I compare my new prospects with my ex…but I do know what I don’t want….and if he possess those same qualities…I run for the hills.

If you met the “epitome of everything you look for in a human being” are you really prepared for what that actually means? No, I don’t think so….because I know no one person holds all the attributes I look for…if I met some one sho did I wold probably faint. I know that no one is perfect (including me) so I would probably be afraid if I did find the “epitome everything I look for in a man”!

By JustMe

March 14, 2007 8:36 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Wise, SlimOne, Randy, QC, Kinder, Mo, Ling, Musing, Demi, abc, SexyLeggs, CP, Mocha newbies, lurkers and friends

We are gathered here today Oops wrong blog - LOL

Have you ever been in a situation where you constantly compare your dates to someone you are still hung up on? How did you handle it?

I wouldn’t necessarily say I was hung up on on the guy after all these years, but I do remember that I was very happy during our season. I long to feel that way again…

How do you cope with those lingering regrets you may have about the way you treated someone you dated? Do you make amends? Send them muffins? Offer to pay for the smashed dvds?

No regrets here, I go out of my way not to treat people bad (unless they just beg for some abuse). If I do accidentally hurt someone’s feelings, if I am aware of it and it was unintentional I will apologize immediately. I might buy luch, but I don’t bake muffins - LOL. I do not destroy other peoples property, so no replacing any dvd’s, cd, tires, windows, clothes…… nada, zero, zip zilch..

If you met the “epitome of everything you look for in a human being” are you really prepared for what that actually means? Be honest!

I would welcome the emotional excitment, I think I am ready

By JustMe

March 14, 2007 8:36 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Wise, SlimOne, Randy, QC, Kinder, Mo, Ling, Musing, Demi, abc, SexyLeggs, CP, Mocha newbies, lurkers and friends

We are gathered here today Oops wrong blog - LOL

Have you ever been in a situation where you constantly compare your dates to someone you are still hung up on? How did you handle it?

I wouldn’t necessarily say I was hung up on on the guy after all these years, but I do remember that I was very happy during our season. I long to feel that way again…

How do you cope with those lingering regrets you may have about the way you treated someone you dated? Do you make amends? Send them muffins? Offer to pay for the smashed dvds?

No regrets here, I go out of my way not to treat people bad (unless they just beg for some abuse). If I do accidentally hurt someone’s feelings, if I am aware of it and it was unintentional I will apologize immediately. I might buy luch, but I don’t bake muffins - LOL. I do not destroy other peoples property, so no replacing any dvd’s, cd, tires, windows, clothes…… nada, zero, zip zilch..

If you met the “epitome of everything you look for in a human being” are you really prepared for what that actually means? Be honest!

I would welcome the emotional excitment, I think I am ready

By JustMe

March 14, 2007 8:37 AM | Link to this

Wise Remember the rules……… B Safe and Have fun! That’s all!

By GA.man

March 14, 2007 8:37 AM | Link to this

Have a safe trip

hhhmmm mmmmmmm now i wouldnt say my epitome of everything is real…we are talking about a mixture of Pam Grier with two shots of Angela Basette and a dose of Michelle Williams….sooooo hey if that came i am cool…but i know she doesn’t exist sooo i am just looking for that person thats for me

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 8:38 AM | Link to this

Wow, South Africa. Buena suerte and Tenga un viaje seguro.

Now on topic, Being a single mother with two kids with two different fathers I knew that it would take a really special guy to accept this. While being with Whitebread I learned a lot about men and relationships. I learned what I liked and didn’t like. I learned what it was like to be with a man that went out of his way to fulfill my needs and wants. Although he hurt me, how he treated me while we were together was/is unforgettable. After then I knew what I wanted in a man. Seven years down the road I got what I wanted and then some. The only problem is, the very things that I strongly desire in my mate are the things that drive me nuts sometimes. I love his take charge attitude but dang, let me handle it sometimes. I love his overpowering affection, but sometimes I just need a little space to think things out. I love that he is a go getter, but sometimes he just scares me with his throw caution to the wind innovative concepts. I always believed if a man loved his mother he will love his wife…(sigh).

By GA.man

March 14, 2007 8:40 AM | Link to this

Hey Justme sexylegs slim Raqi Randyt Musing Qc Mo Mocha Ling(Ling ling’ cousin) Chocopeach and anyone else i forgot

By abc

March 14, 2007 8:49 AM | Link to this

My girl IS my prototype, she was my girl in high school. Man, I hope I don’t blow it.

By Sexione

March 14, 2007 8:53 AM | Link to this

Happy Hump Day Everybody!!!

Have a fun & safe trip Wise!

I tried to go back and read the posts from yesterday, but with all the double and triple postings, I gave up! lol I got some good points for future reference from the ones I did read, though.

Mocha I’m with you….never heard of this movie….definitely don’t try to replicate any of the exes…and if I see like traits…..run, Sexi, run…I definitely know what I don’t want…..and I can thank my exes for that (certainly not for anything else)!

By JustMe

March 14, 2007 8:54 AM | Link to this

abc Good Morning……. I see yiu are love struck this morning and yesterday, and last week…… That beautiful baby! Congratulations, don’t F this up for yourself - LOL

By kinderbabe

March 14, 2007 8:56 AM | Link to this

hey everybody!:) have a great day today.

By GA.man

March 14, 2007 9:18 AM | Link to this

Gotta run brutha got meetings this morning will check back later….

By T-Mango

March 14, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this

Good morning all-

Wise-Have a great, safe trip.

On topic: There is no one that I have dated in the past which I constantly compare the next man to. So, no regrets.

If you met the “epitome of everything you look for in a human being” are you really prepared for what that actually means? Be honest!

Uh-oh. You got me here. As I look at my current relationship, I can say that there is something very different about the “tone” of our togetherness(not sure if that makes sense, but I could not think of another word). We connect to each other in a way that I have not experienced with anyone else. He embodies the majority of the qualities that I’ve been looking for in someone. He says the same about me. So, as we grow as a couple with time it is a possibility that our relationship could go to the next level. I’m ready for that if it happens-

By MusingLee

March 14, 2007 9:24 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

Wise Have a great trip. And return safely…Don’t get your groove back and start bringing dudes to the States though.

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this

WiseD We all wish for a replica of the perfect mate, but here is something that I recently have begun to learn (Within the last 5 years or so). And no I don’t claim to know everything but I have had my fair share of experiences that has taught me a lot.

Love just like laughing and crying is a Universal Emotion. Every man, woman and child experience it. Laughter is brought on by different circumstances: being happy, being nervous and sometimes just being cynical. The same with crying. People cry when they are sad, some cry when they are happy, others cry when they are scared and some when they are angry. Love is no different. There are five acts or some say languages of love.

While we look for certain characterizations to signal love or the perfect mate, not all people perceive or present it the same way. They say that everyone require at least two acts of love to make a relationship what it is. The key is to find the giver that perceive love the same as you. But then you can learn to accept the way love is being given and one may be surprised to discover something about themselves that they didn’t know. Where I required physical touch and receiving of gifts as a show of affection, I have learned that quality time and words of affirmation touch me way deeper than I could have imagined. I love living and I love learning.

I hope this makes sense. I was trying not to write a narrative but still express my thoughts. Maybe I am having a day of musing.

By Got that?

March 14, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this

I hope you have fun on your trip! Right now, I’m in Ostrava, Czech Republic. I’ve been gone for almost 2 weeks. I can’t wait to get back to Atlanta.

In one scene, Ben Affleck’s character tells his love interest: “You’re the epitome of everything I look for in a human being.” Can you imagine meeting that kind of person? Would you let them know they were your prototype?

Everyone expresses themselves differently. Treat your significant like they’re the most important person in your life and you’ll not have to use useless words. People can often talk a good game, but it takes a lot more to actually make it so.

Have you ever been in a situation where you constantly compare your dates to someone you are still hung up on?

No, because I wouldn’t want her constantly comparing me to one of her ex-es. That has happened and I bolted. If someone is that hung up on the past, then they are not over the relationship and definitely not ready for a new one.

Trying to find someone like your ex is crazy. They are an ex for a reason. There was something fundamentally wrong that caused the breakup. Going after the same thing is only going to cause more breakups in the future. You have to know yourself well enough to know what works for you and what doesn’t work. Sometimes, going after the person you don’t think you have a lot in common with might actually be the perfect person for you.

By JustMe

March 14, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this

Raqi Good Morning……. great post!

By T-Mango

March 14, 2007 9:33 AM | Link to this

Raqi-Nice post. We read that book “The Five Love Languages” in our book club. Our partners do perceive extensions of love differently.

By itsmorenamorena

March 14, 2007 9:41 AM | Link to this

Oooooohhhh, how exciting Wise Diva I will be in Capetown in December! Have a GREAT time!!!

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 14, 2007 9:45 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

Have a blast in South Africa, Wisey take lots of pictures and then post them on Flicker or Snapfish for us to see.

If you met the “epitome of everything you look for in a human being” are you really prepared for what that actually means? Be honest!

I dont think there is an epitome of everything in any one person. We are all imperfect beings..and I would be completely taken back and run for the hills from someone who was my ever dream come true

I dont want perfect..I am not perfect..When I am ready to share my life again with someone it will not be because they are fitting the dream or model I have of the perfect man..it will be because frankly he is the person that touched my heart and that despite his quirks and irks, my quirks and irks..we can be in the same space and not want to maim each other.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 14, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone!!

Have you ever been in a situation where you constantly compare your dates to someone you are still hung up on? How did you handle it?

This has always been one of my biggest fears…always thinking about the one that got away and looking at the one I’m with like yesterday’s leftovers. I did go through a phase where I compared one guy with the last guy. That made me realize that I wasn’t completely over the last…my new guy would know it to. He would tell me….sometimes you just blank out and you have that distant look on your face. It was those times that I would be thinking…man, it’s a nice day and if me and Mr. Ex was still together we would take the dog and walk through the park.

What did I do about it? I chose to let go of the dream and get on with my life. When the thoughts would come…I refused to linger too long on them.

Now, I still do compare my current guy to aspects of things that I like about past Exs…is that wrong? I mean, when you experienced something you like…don’t you try to duplicate it?

By Jake

March 14, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Blog:

You WD, have a great trip.

ON topic: Don’t really compare women, but I take my inventory of likes and dislikes, to many checks in the dislike boxes which were formed by previous women I dated and I’m gone in the wind.

And frankly, Chiquita, I don’t give a dayum…LOL

Got meetings, check back later.

By Chullato

March 14, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

Good Morning,

*If you met the “epitome of everything you look for in a human being” are you really prepared for what that actually means? *

I personally don’t feel like I would be able to handle meeting this woman. My mind is too feeble. Everytime I achieved or received what I wanted, it was never enough. I see it like the Calculus idea of approaching infinity, you can only get close but you can never reach it. I prefer to be in a relationship where we can grow into my epitome of a relationship.

By itsmorenamorena

March 14, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this

Oooooohhhh, how exciting Wise Diva I will be in Capetown in December! Have a GREAT time!!!

By Foots

March 14, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this

Good morning all!!

Have you ever been in a situation where you constantly compare your dates to someone you are still hung up on? How did you handle it?

Well, I certainly have been in this position with my on/off relationship with T. I held him so high on a pedestal that no one else could come close. Until we actually got together in our real relationship, that is. I think we had to be together for me to put everything about him into perspective. It actually helped me get over him quicker when I saw how he operated in that relationship with me. I still remember how it felt when I was with him and I doubt I’d ever feel that way again with anyone else, and I don’t really want to.

If I found the epitome of everything I was looking for in another person, I’d probably be nervous, because what if I’m not everything he’s looking for? And I’m not talking about perfection; a person can be perfect for another person without being perfect in every way. I do have a lot of what I was looking for in my current SO. But I’m with RandyT and abc in hoping that I don’t F it up.

By SeanJohnson

March 14, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this

Have you ever been in a situation where you constantly compare your dates to someone you are still hung up on? How did you handle it? …Kinda hard not to compare new women to the woman you really liked/loved…thats where the bar is set…not to say that something just as good hasnt came along or will come along..each person have different qualities that are attracts you…and as you grow..your idea of what you want in a woman should grow with you..good memories are just that..good memories..priceless..untainted..and i prefer to keep them like that..As far as being ready for “THE” one..I dont know..i gotta think on that one..

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this

Perfect does not mean without flaws but instead it means having a sense of gratification while with someone. At least to me it does.

By Chocolate Peach

March 14, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this

Hey there peeps,

BEZ on em over there Wise…. Nope, DEFINITELY don’t do the comparison thing. For one I think it’s rude & it’s a reason their an X in the 1st place.

Yep, I got some regrets about the way I treated a few guys I dated. MAN…..We just had to go there. I still feel guilty to this day. That’s why I dont feel bad when I get played or something dont go my way cause KARMA is definitely in motion. Full Speed!!! might I add. I admit I was worng, I apologize & kept it moving also made sure it didnt happen again to any other dude I date in the near.

I finally retired from my “CHASING SHELDON” phase sometime last year.

U can’t catch A person that dont wanna be caught!!!!
Honestly, I wouldn’t know what to do if I met a guy that was EVERYTHING I wanted. That’s gotta B nice though!! A natural high I would have every single day. U couldnt get me off those clouds if U wanted too. LMAO!!!!

By Chocolate Peach

March 14, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this

Wow!! @Chullato 9:52 post.

“We can grow into MY epitome of a relationship”

I like…………

By Lady J

March 14, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this

Hello All!!! Have Fun Wise!!! @Chocolate Peach…Great Post!!!

By Demi

March 14, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

Y’all are mucking killing me…Wise, please do not bring any more Akons to the state, one is all we need…him and his whinny mass voice working my last nerves…

Compare ex to new lady, no. But I will hunt for women with certain body types or looks of the moment or for what I am in a mood for.

By Sexione

March 14, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this

“We can grow into MY epitome of a relationship”

I like that too!!

Heyyyy Jake

By THE INFAMOUS DK

March 14, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this

Good Morning

WISE Enjoy your trip! South Africa is beautiful. I’m assuming you’ll be going to Capetown

Here are few activities done in Capetown:

Robben Island Table Mountain - My fav Waterfront (Shopping Mall) Tour of the peninsula Eat at Spier restaurant (ask for seating in the trees) Boulders beach (see thousands of penguins)

Also go of the beaten path and do a safari.. It’ll be about $200 but its worth it..

Where will you be staying?

By QC

March 14, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this

Morning everyone, i just wanted to pop in to speak i’m leaving early going back home; been out sick for the past 2 days and i should’ve stayed in today…so have a great day all, nice post WD

By Mo

March 14, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

* Morning All** Happy Hump Day!!

WD have a great and safe trip!

I will comment later, got to get a Pepsi first…

By Foots

March 14, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

How do you cope with those lingering regrets you may have about the way you treated someone you dated?

I don’t really have any regrets. The people that I broke up with know exactly why I did it; I communicated and let them know what I needed first and waited for the result, which was…no changes. So I kept it moving. I haven’t done anything consciously to hurt a dude. If I did inadvertently hurt someone, I apologized then and still kept it moving.

I like chullato’s honesty. I see his point about infinity…sometimes when you get most of what you’re looking for, you have to learn to stop right there instead of looking elsewhere for more or trying to change the things in that person that aren’t quite up to your “standards”.

By Got that?

March 14, 2007 10:43 AM | Link to this

If you met the “epitome of everything you look for in a human being” are you really prepared for what that actually means?

Nobody is ever or can every really be ready. That’s why hindsight is 20/20. If you could meet the perfect person for you, that doesn’t necessarily mean you’d be the perfect person for them. That’s an even worse situation. As you mature, your likes and dislikes change. What you’re willing to put up with changes, as well. In the moment, it may seem like the person is everything you’re looking for in a person, but it’s only in that moment. As you change, they change. In relationships, what got you there will rarely keep you there.

By T-Mango

March 14, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

Off Topic: The new Musiq Soulchild “Luvanmusiq’ CD is really nice. Something to play when you’re spending time with your prototype with the lights low…

By Mo

March 14, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

T-Mango I agree about the new Musiq CD! Bangin!

By THE INFAMOUS DK

March 14, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

On topic..

Yeah you always miss somethings about an EX but in general its not good to get caught up in it because they are an EX for a reason.. You’ll never go forward thinking about the past.. Gotta let it burn in order to heal and be open for the next exciting adventure of dating among the stars.

By Tazzee

March 14, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks!

Never dated someone I was hung up on after the fact, but I do admit to comparing the good things of a bad relationship to the next guy. I went through a phase where I was looking for a guy that was the combination of 3 different guys I had been involved with. It was like ‘I want some who loves Christ like Joe, adores me like Jim and looks like John…’

I think as we increase our dating experiences we discover more and more what we like. If a guy has a certain characteristic that I desire in my lifemate - then I will look for that in the next guy.

Hope you feel better QC

I know you’ll have an awesome trip Wise Diva!

By SlimOne

March 14, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

Help! Your Advice

Okay folks this is kind of a wishy washy deal. How in sam hill do you go about letting a co-worker know that their…B.O (body oder)is offensive to others? I’ll say at least 5 other co-workers have spoken amoung themselves regarding the scent of one particular female. To make matters worse, she is in the same room as myself and 5 other people which force themselves to make it through each day. Since the weathers gotten a little warmer, the scent seems to grow. What do we do?

By THE INFAMOUS DK

March 14, 2007 10:59 AM | Link to this

Wise The Party district is on Long Street.. The tour of Capetown will show you the ropes..

By QC

March 14, 2007 10:59 AM | Link to this

thanks Tazzee

have a grand trip WD bring us all something back

QC.out…..HOLLA

By Mo

March 14, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

Okay everybody, I can comment now, after downing half an ice cold Pepsi.

On topic, Wishing you can find someone just like him, have done this before b/c it wasnt a bitter breakup. I still care about this guy and we are good friends. I havent compared others to him but just wished I could have the ex again! I guess it is only natural that you would compare to a certain degree. Now when it gets out of hand (ie you start saying stupid issh like “why cant you do this, my ex did …etc) then you need to get a grip!

By Foots

March 14, 2007 11:02 AM | Link to this

SlimOne That’s a tough one. Can’t somebody just leave a botttle of Tussy in her chair??

By THE INFAMOUS DK

March 14, 2007 11:05 AM | Link to this

Slim Make a basket of scents and soaps and sit it on her desk. Leave it there late that afternoon when everyone is gone so youre the only one that knows you did it.. That way you wont be snitched on and she will get the hint that massengale will sell in the neighborhood..

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

SlimOne Type up a letter and mail to her house. That way you don’t have to see the expression on her face when she reads it. If you leave a message or something on her desk she will look around the room when she reads it and will definitely make eye contact with the one who put it there.

By Mo

March 14, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

SlimOne we had that problem in our office and our manager took care of it. Kind of hard to do without really offending the person! LOL But maybe one of you can pull him/her to the side and let them know.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 14, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

Slim Two examples but first how friendly are you with this woman? Does she report directly to you. If yes, then you may have to be cruel to be kind and say..to her that while she is a valued employee her personal apperance is causing a distraction. If no, then you may have to show some concern or interest maybe she has something medical going on or personally going on and it is affecting her appearance(BO is apart of your appearance.) But I dont suggest the follow:

Believe it or not I have seen it all done.

By Foots

March 14, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

SlimOne It’s not a cultural thing, is it? Some cultures don’t find BO offensive. Now if she’s just stank, I like Raqi’s idea if you can get her home address/home email address. If you send her an email though, make up a fake name on Gmail or something.

By MochaTreat

March 14, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this

@Slim Are any of ya’ll friends with her? If so, pull her to the side and let them know. If not, I agree with MO have a supervisor or manager or someone in HR (if they are on site) tell her.

By SeanJohnson

March 14, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this

@ Slim…all yall have to do is go in together and get her a basket..with a whole of of feminine products..soaps…body sprays..deordorants and a towel and wash cloth…she will get the hint…make it a big green basket and tell her it a stank patricks day gift basket..lol

By Got that?

March 14, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this

SlimOne If it’s that bad, someone needs to sit down with her and politely inform her that her personal hygiene is offending the noses of her coworkers. She may be unaware of it.

By Sexione

March 14, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

OMG!! Slim I used to work with a woman (just me and her in the same office) that had the WORST smell all year ‘round. And to top it off, she had a stank attitude most of the time. I finally left the job before anything was done (or said) about it. I’m sure she still smells to this day.

Now, to your situation, I like the letter mailed to her home suggestion…or maybe involving someone in HR. The soap thing is funny, but most times doesn’t work (she’ll just think someone is trying to be funny).

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 14, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

Dang for got the examples

One is to let Management handle it.(That has been said)

Two If you are friendly with her and if this smell is fairly new for her..”Say I notice there has been a change in your appearance the last few weeks is there something going on? She can either say yes, no, or none of your beeswax. Yes you found out, No draws a changes for open convo, none of your beeswax means go to management.

I know those baskets are great ideas but believe it or not if the person takes it in a hostile manner that can be looked at as a form of harrassment.(We live in different times)

By THE INFAMOUS DK

March 14, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

Slim Or you can say Hey Chick!! Dont you know your a$$ Stinks. You cant come in here smelling like Badussy!! With one tear like that Indian in the dont pollute commercial.

Or put a sticker on her desk that says Give a Hoot, dont pollute

Its all kinds of ways you can rectify the situation..

By NCgirlfromATL

March 14, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

SJ You wrong for that! LOLOL!

Mo We had the same problem with an old co-worker in my office, and we finally got her supervisor (a woman) to talk to her about it. It really helped. The co-worker was from another country, whose custom truly was to bathe only once per week. So by Friday, we were all dying! But on Monday, she was so fresh and so clean clean!

As far as comparing, I’ve done it too. But, I realized that the things I was comparing were all of the bad things. I hope he’s not as trifflin’ as so-and-so was…I hope he doesn’t flake out like so-and-so did…etc I was missing out on all of the good things that made that guy who he was b/c I was so busy waiting for him to act like the last loser. I think I’m much more positive now than I was before.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 14, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this

Slim I like Raqi’s suggestion best. The basket will be offensive and humilating and would make her think that everyone is in on it. An anonymous letter/email will bring it to her attention without making her feel that everyone is in on it.

By SlimOne

March 14, 2007 11:24 AM | Link to this

Foots I can’t even explain the smell but it isn’t merely a matter of deo. It’s kind of a musty, closed up attic/basement, dusty smell. I feel like someone took their welcome mat from outside and shook it out in our office.

THE INFAMOUS DK we’re two steps ahead of you. In our office for the month of Feb. we have a weekly happy Monday gift that would go to an unsuspecting recipient to boost morale here. Well because of all the complaints we asked if we could nominate this person for the Monday gift and we did. It was a basket of lotions, soaps, and various smell good items. I’m not sure if she has it at home for decorations or a centerpiece but she was kind of dry when we gave it to her.

Mo that’s what we don’t want to do is embarass or hurt her feelings. She is a sweet person and good worker but I fear as the heat gets turned up that it will be more unbearable.

Dr Kym You are too late…in the same room as me is a woman with OCD, shee constantly cleans things. She recently confided in me that everyday after the culprit leaves, she sprays her area down with Lysol and air freshner. Yesterday we discussed putting plug-ins and or stick-ups in here. So that is NOT the things to do?

P.S. they are all waiting to here you alls responses.. :-(

By Jewel

March 14, 2007 11:24 AM | Link to this

Good morning and Happy National Potato Chips Day Everyone!

Wise Diva Enjoy your vacation!

Have you ever been in a situation where you constantly compare your dates to someone you are still hung up on? I have not been in this situation. However, I run a great risk of doing this if I am not careful and dive head first into another relationship presently. My healing allows me to embrace the good, accept the bad, and learn from the ugly.

If you met the “epitome of everything you look for in a human being” are you really prepared for what that actually means? If I may dip my profession into the discussion, hiring the “perfect employee” is always a challenge. One has to steer managers and supervisors away from their emotions and towards long-term benefits for the company to ensure the best-qualified is hired (or not hired). Some people are well polished during an interview, but never make it through the first 90 days. They appeared to epitomize the position, but failed at living up to the expectations. There are critical traits needed in a top-performer and one must establish a benchmark for measuring each applicant. After reviewing thousands of resumes and interviewing numerous applicants, it is possible to have maybe only two or three to choose from…and they only have six or seven out of the top ten skills/traits. The question becomes: Do I make an offer, or continue to interview? Well, that all depends on which traits the candidate matches. Hopefully, they have the traits most critical to success. The others you can massage and mold…or find out those traits were not needed in the first place. If an offer is made, one can only hope the salary, benefits, location, growth potential, etc. is the “epitome” of what the applicant is looking for in a company. Wow, I hope this makes sense…

Have a Powerful, Productive, Prosperous and Positive Day!!!

By Tazzee

March 14, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

SeanJ - LOL @ Stank Patrick’s Day gift basket

By kinderbabe

March 14, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

wow slim that’s somethin…hmm… i like raqi’s idea about sending a letter. that’s a good way for it to be anonymous. she’ll have to know that it’s more than an office joke too if she gets an anonymous letter at home. then again…dr.kym did raise a good point about the harrassment issue. does your co-worker strike you as one that would take it there??

By SeanJohnson

March 14, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

@ Slim…that smell is in her house…u tend to smell like your house and not know it because you are accustomed to the smell…bottom line is this…yall can tell her in any method u see fit..but 9/10 she is going to get beter for maybe a week…and then turn back into a stinky azz woman…hygeine is something that is your choice when you become grown…u was made to take baths and have clean clothes as a child..when u get grown…its a choice…unless u are homeless

By Sexione

March 14, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

Joke….

Mary went to the doctor complaining of body odor. “Do you wash?” the doctor asked the smelly young girl. “Oh, yes,” Mary answered. “Each morning, I start at my head and wash down as far as possible. Then I start at my feet and I wash up as far as possible.” “Well,” the doctor concluded, “Go home and wash ‘possible’!!!”

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 14, 2007 11:35 AM | Link to this

It’s not always hygiene…sometimes it’s genetics and your diet. I was reading an article on a woman who had a severe BO issue and it took her doctor to analyze her blood to find the cause. The only cure was too severely restrict her diet. There wasn’t enough scrubbing, scraping, or perfuming she could to rid herself of the smell…

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 14, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

Slim I think you and your co-workers need to let management take over and maybe they can call her in and have a conference with her. SJ is right there could be a mold and mildrew issue at her home, heck it could be quite a few factors but if you guys go to her area and say “This looks like a good place for a stick-up.” Then well a very sweet person can become truly offended and hurt and lash back.

By kinderbabe

March 14, 2007 11:38 AM | Link to this

lol sexione

By Sexione

March 14, 2007 11:41 AM | Link to this

LMSAO @ Stank Patricks Day u no u wrong!!! But you are right about her smelling like her house. I realized this waayy back in elementary school. There were some people that just smelled like their homes….and it was always that stale, musty, doormat kind of smell. Now what do you do in this case? It’s not about soap/water, deodorant or perfume….it her house!!

By SlimOne

March 14, 2007 11:41 AM | Link to this

Foots Nope it’s not a cultural thing. If it were i guess we’d be a little more understanding. We may just have to go to mgmt on this one.

Mocha nah, no one is really friends with her. She’s sort of a loner type chick. I don’t even think she’s ever had a man or anything like that. This lady asked me if a woman never has sexual relations, does that area go bad or sour if nothing’s ever been in there? I couldn’t help but laugh!

SeanJ stank patricks day gift basket you are a mess LMAO!

INFAMOUS put a sticker on her desk that says Give a Hoot, dont pollute Now that would be just plain wrong.

By Mo

March 14, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

SlimOne the person on my office knew that she occassionally stunk b/c she would ask from time to time “can you smell me” (hello, if you have to ask, then yes). She just didnt give a da….err-umm darn!

But I like the letter to the house method or have HR speak with her. If you can find a way to place stick-ups in your office without it seeming like they are all placed around her, then go for it.

By Sexione

March 14, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

Here’s a sample letter Slim..it sounds a little cruel, but….

This Letter is being sent to you by someone who has important information concerning an issue you should give total, uninterrupted attention.

I (we) have been trying to find a way to tell you something very important, in a manner as not to embarrass you in public. I (we) certainly don’t wish to cause you any more public humiliation than you are already are experiencing.

I (we) want to tell you that I (we) have been putting up with your extremely repulsive body odor on a daily basis for some time now. It has reached a point where I (we) can no longer stand to be in the same room with you, not to mention being next to you.

I (we) would encourage you to take care of this body hygiene issue as soon as possible.

I’m (we are) sorry for having to tell you in this manner, but it seems a fair and reasonable method to resolve this issue.

Regards

By Just Wondering

March 14, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

Slim, Raqi has give you the best solution. You said your co-worker is a sweet girl, so you wouldn’t want to embarass her. The anonymous letter seems like the most gentle method. No one wants to work in an environment that they feel to be hostile. You don’t want to create that type of environment. If you don’t feel comfortable sending a letter, then contact HR. Believe or not, they’ve heard it all and probably have a procedure set in place to approach an issue such as your’s.

By NCgirlfromATL

March 14, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

Oh, by the way, have a GREAT TRIP Wise!! I’m jealous! I soooo want to go to South Africa! Take lots of pictures!!!

Lady Dark I’m glad you pointed that out. There are lots of medical reasons why someone might have body odor that have nothing to do with hygiene. Certain medicines can make a person emit a foul odor, and of course other medical conditions. We always assume it’s something as simple as taking a bath. (Always makes me think of the old feminine products commericals…Are you having one of those…not so fresh days?) And it might not be the cuddy that is causing the problem. Underarm odor could be the culprit. I went to school with a guy who had breath so bad that you could smell it 3 seats away (which is where I sat) with his mouth closed. We tried giving him mints and Big Red gum whenever we had it, and he took it. And it was like putting cologne on funk. UGH! He was a great guy, but it was hard to get past that breath. My suspicion was that he had some serious gum disease. That’s not just a matter of brushing your teeth everyday, but also flossing and having your teeth cleaned on a regular basis. Lysterine doesn’t kill ALL of the germs that cause bad breath. LOL!

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 14, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this

Sexione An that letter would be all the proof she needs especially if it comes to her house to say…Harrassment. If she is a loner maybe this is a cry for help or friends, maybe she hasn’t had anyone to teach her how to wash properly.

By Just Wondering

March 14, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

Slim, Raqi has give you the best solution. You said your co-worker is a sweet girl, so you wouldn’t want to embarass her. The anonymous letter seems like the most gentle method. No one wants to work in an environment that they feel to be hostile. You don’t want to create that type of environment. If you don’t feel comfortable sending a letter, then contact HR. Believe or not, they’ve heard it all and probably have a procedure set in place to approach an issue such as your’s.

By SlimOne

March 14, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

Sexione dang that letter is really harsh. What is she turned around and committed suicide or something, we wouldnt be able to live with ourselves.

By Demi

March 14, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

Slim LOL I know that smell…As SJ said, the problem most likely originated from her house…Sounds like spring cleaning is in order.

By kinderbabe

March 14, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

hey demi

By Jones

March 14, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

So you are going to South Africa. What are these poor bloggers going to do all day long? I guess they will have to actually work for their paychecks.
At least this “X-rated chat room” will close down for a few days. Ya’ll are boring….same stuff, different day……same 10 posters.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 14, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this

Slim or she could turn around and bump the office off. Okay I will turn off the horror stories, we all know the human mind is tricky to predict.

By Jewel

March 14, 2007 12:04 PM | Link to this

RandyT I am in a relationship like that now, and frankly it is hard to relax and just enjoy it. It is oddly challenging to accept someone really caring for you that is pretty much all you prayed for. That is the trepidation of moving forward. The subconscious “what if”, considering that you may have felt the same way in a previous relationship.

By Demi

March 14, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this

Hey KB

Maybe our boy Dr.Musing can shed light on young lady’s problem.

By SlimOne

March 14, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

Demi & SeanJ actually a couple of months ago her bathroom caught on fire in her house. So her and her mom are staying in an apartment until their house is repaired. But I think the smell was an issue before that even happend.

Another thing I noticed is she wears these black loafers everyday without any stockings, trouser socks…just bare. So she takes her shoes off and you can see the bottom of her feet. There is so much dead skin on the bottom of her feet and it’s a light green color to it. It’s enough to make you want to vomit

By SlimOne

March 14, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this

Straight from a co-workers email

Hey they have the same ideas as us and we have tried the basket…no go

we have sprayed the chair now the mixture is

Funk-ta-fide!

what is next soap on a rope (around the neck)

By Sexione

March 14, 2007 12:16 PM | Link to this

Slim Yeah, I know that was a bit harsh….I didn’t compose it! Maybe a softer version of the letter could be used….take out a few words, tone down a few. And if it’s sent to her home anonymously, she would have no way of knowing it came from anyone in the office. Just a thought…

By Chocolate Peach

March 14, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

C-A-L-L-I-N-G…All MEN!!! Where…R U?

I’m thinking they do more comparison than anything.

“My last girl had Beyonce thighs, Butt like Trina, face like Gabby & this new chic hair isn’t as wavy as Mya’s but she do have a good job”. I can just hear it now!!!

And they’re regrets on dating. I betcha that file is HUGE!!!

I step away to come back & find someone is STANK!!! Oh Goodness…..That has got to be the WORSE. I hate bad smells of anykind let along a woman Geesh!!

By Jewel

March 14, 2007 12:21 PM | Link to this

You’ll never go forward thinking about the past. Good point DK.

Slimone If you report to the same manager, tell him/her. They, along with HR, can handle that situation appropriately. She might have other personal issues that management is aware of…and you cannot predict her reaction.

By worried

March 14, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

hey guys, great posts! Have a great trip WD!! I have met and married my “souls counterpart” so i am perfectly happy with that. It was a love at first sight kind of thing. As far as your problem Slim I would go with Raqi’s idea. That seems to be the best, or the HR one. Everything else seems mean and it would be something out of her control. That is awful though, I feel for you. I am around a lot of smelly people daily and being pregnant makes it worse ;)

By Sexione

March 14, 2007 12:24 PM | Link to this

The woman I spoke of earlier that I worked with smelled like she was on her cycle AALLLLL the time………..so it could be worse!!

By SlimOne

March 14, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

worried Um…you’re around a lot of smelly people? what kind of work do you do?

By Chullato

March 14, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

Another thing I noticed is she wears these black loafers everyday without any stockings, trouser socks…just bare. So she takes her shoes off and you can see the bottom of her feet. There is so much dead skin on the bottom of her feet and it’s a light green color to it. It’s enough to make you want to vomit

I just threw up in my mouth!!

By worried

March 14, 2007 12:27 PM | Link to this

hahaha that did sound kind of bad didnt it? Well I work at an apartment complex and by no fault of their own certain people eat a lot of a spice that seems to soak into their skin and clothes and the apartment, etc.

By worried

March 14, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this

Slim another thought since you mentioned the foot thing… you could all pitch in and get her a gift certificate to a spa and have already signed her up for all kinds of different services, esp a pedicure…

By Jewel

March 14, 2007 12:32 PM | Link to this

Good points Lady Dark, NCGirl and Kym. That is why management should handle the situation. Unless you know her personally, you should not have her home address to mail a letter. Harrassment, divulging an employee’s personal info…not a bright idea.

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 12:33 PM | Link to this

As of 12:30 pm I nominate today to officially be “Smack-Your-Husband” Day. When you get home just walk up in the house and slap the crap out of him. Man I just hate men sometimes.

By SlimOne

March 14, 2007 12:33 PM | Link to this

Sorry Chullato but i can just imagine her going to get a pedicure and the foreign lady really cussing her out and talking about her in their native language….I need to take a walk outside.

worried okay, I gotcha now. I was a little worried when I read that. I was thinking you were a mortician or something. lol

By worried

March 14, 2007 12:38 PM | Link to this

haha no!! although I think that sometimes the dead people can smell better than some people who are still living ;)

By Chocolate Peach

March 14, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this

Okkkkk I just fell out my chair @ Raqui 12:30 post.

4 the singles: Can we just slap ALL men we come in contatct with today?

Slim, Invite on the blog so she could read it for herself HA!!! Lol……

I cant stand STANK women Ewwww….. There’s NO!! Xcuse 4 it NOT 1.

By Jewel

March 14, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this

Sacramento Jury Awards $19 Million To Terminated Employee Who Was Harassed Because Of Body Odor A jury in Sacramento recently awarded $19 million, including $15 million in punitive damages, to an employee who was harassed because of severe body odor that was a symptom of her panic attacks, and who was terminated for using vacation days to take time off for her illness. Charlene Roby, who worked at a McKesson Corporation distribution center in Sacramento, claimed she was extremely embarrassed on several occasions when she would arrive at work to find shampoos, deodorants and bath soaps on her desk, in apparent reference to her body odor problem that was associated with her medical condition.

Guess who gets terminated if the company has to shell out money for a lawsuit, not to mention damage control of the company image…

By Chullato

March 14, 2007 12:53 PM | Link to this

Raqi, whooaaa, take it easy. Smack Your Husband day!! What’s next a kick in b*s day!! We suck, yes, but we do have some redeeming qualities.

By Wise Diva

March 14, 2007 12:54 PM | Link to this

Thanks everyone!

I will definitely take pictures!

By Chullato

March 14, 2007 12:56 PM | Link to this

$19 mil!!! My last shower was this morning.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 14, 2007 12:58 PM | Link to this

Jewel 19million that can buy alot of Bath and Body Works products.

By SlimOne

March 14, 2007 12:59 PM | Link to this

Jewel* wow! B.O is some serious ISH!

By Jake

March 14, 2007 1:01 PM | Link to this

wOw Slim

She and her feet stank, thats awful. Okay, this young lady obviously has not been give the “kit” that some of you others have. The “how to be a lady kit”. The stink is one thing, but now the feet thing, same shoes, no socks and what not.

The girl probably has not been taught as I read earlier and to top it off, she probably dealing with some whole other struggle. Let her know in the most suttle way possible, but sounds like shawty might be having hard times on the real.

I just came out of a sensitivity and cultural awareness training session…it was a good one ,huh…LOL

By Linguist

March 14, 2007 1:01 PM | Link to this

Hey E’rybody Haven’t read anything yet, been a busy morning here at the physical office… I’ll read the posts and respond later.

By Jewel

March 14, 2007 1:02 PM | Link to this

Chullato And, HR was asleep at the switch. I guess they were in a rush to please management rather than find a compromising solution.

By worried

March 14, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this

I wonder if anyone could turn around and sue her b/c her smell caused them “emotional distress” or something crazy like that. But seriously, sometimes you just cannot concentrate or breathe even when someone smells really bad. It is nasal harrassment haha, that was a bad one wasnt it

By JustMe

March 14, 2007 1:27 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon Errrbody

I see we are off topic……. - LOL

About the smelly coworker:

Keep in mind that any half decent attorney can have the mail traced back to it’s point of origination, so mail it from way across town or a mail box near her home, wear gloves in case they dust for prints.

I had a similar situation with a really nice IT guy I used to work with, His was an ethical thing……. A coworker took him to lunch and told him that he could be smelled before he reached the room. He took care of it immediately and was grateful that she was kind enough to tell him

If the problem is medical, drinking large amounts of water could flush the impurities from her body thereby reducing the BO.

It would be really nice if someone would just woman/man up and tell her that her BO is very noticable and that it is disturbing to others around her.

The green feet…. sound like a foot fungus. Suggest some anti fungal cream or a visit to a podiatrist.

That’s my $0.02. I hope you all find a way to tell her gently……. I know I would! But the hey that’s JustMe.

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

March 14, 2007 1:33 PM | Link to this

Dang Raqi (cleaning up my writing per WD’s request, so substitute the appropriate word)

As of 12:30 pm I nominate today to officially be “Smack-Your-Husband” Day. When you get home just walk up in the house and slap the crap out of him. Man I just hate men sometimes.

For a moment I thought I was married again, and remembering my ex-wife’s PMS. That woman was EVIL for about 5 (it seemed like 10 or so) days per month (and pretty mean, the rest of the time too). I’m thinking that somewhere in Genesis there is something referencing PMS as another way to punish Adam and his decendents.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 14, 2007 1:33 PM | Link to this

Wise are you going with a travel group/organization or did you plan the trip yourself? South Africa is always on the short list, but I would like to see a couple of cities and it seems like a logistical nightmare to plan it myself.

By MusingLee

March 14, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this

So who’s stank’in up the office?

Is it an oniony BO or a ishty BO?

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 1:39 PM | Link to this

$19 Million???!!! I swear. What in the hell is this country coming to?

People get on my damn nerves walking around here thinking their crap don’t stink. And when you tell them it does they get paid for it. Well pay me for having to smell it all day long.

You smoke for 40 years and can sue the tobacco companies.

You are clumsy and spell hot coffee on yourself and you can sue the establishment that sold it to you.

WTF???

By Chullato

March 14, 2007 1:40 PM | Link to this

Jewel Have to love the American Tort system

By Linguist

March 14, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this

“You want to know what’s worse than pining away for your ex? Wishing you can find someone just like him. Comparing every poor guy you date to him. LOSE-LOSE”

When hubby and I broke up for about a year prior to getting married, I went hog wild. I dated a whole lotta of men (note: I said “dated” not “slept with”) I noticed that I would subconciously dismiss them after a while, even when there wasn’t anything wrong.. It was like .. NEXT! While I enjoyed seeing different types of men, there was something that I was looking for, but at the time I didn’t know it. The men I dated varied: from corporate attorneys, stock brokers, customer service reps, mechanics, even unemployed… Most of them were attractive, attentive, etc.. The one thing that they weren’t - of course - was hubby. While hubby had some of the same physical characteristics as these men, he had something else.. and that was my heart. He’s the one whose eyes I’d look in and see our history, our mutual passion and general like for one another, our shared secrets and sincerety for each other… I’d look in his eyes and remember seeing me….

I know, I know, this is a long post even for me but I couldn’t help respond It’s a little sappy and sentimental, but it’s very true. I really regret that we had broken up, but I’m so thankful that we are together now. While not “perfect” he is the epitome of the man I want to spend the rest of my life with..

Ling… mulit-tasking as usual.. called hubby while posting, just to say in her best stereotypical Brooklyn NY accent .. “Yo, what up B?… just callin’ 2 say luv u”

By JustMe

March 14, 2007 1:49 PM | Link to this

Raqi The lady was awarded the $$ becaue she was harrassed……… had the appropriate measures been taken proactively, she could have been the one dismissed from her job, but since the insensitive route was taken and she was repeatedly harrassed rather than spoken to like an adult. It not always what you do or say, but moreso HOW you do what you do or SAY what you say that get’s the reaction you are seeking.

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 1:52 PM | Link to this

You know what Randy. If I am acting b!tchy because of PMS I have a reason. If you are acting like an A$$ because you can then that’s just YOU acting like an dumb A$$.

By SlimOne

March 14, 2007 1:54 PM | Link to this

Musing the smell isn’t really an oniony or itty smell. It’s more of a musk that’s kind of dry. To me it smells like her body was locked up in a hot humid attic then taken down to the basement. Then it smells like someone took their outdoor welcome mat and shook it off all over her body. Does that help. What would Dr Musing suggest.

By Wise Diva

March 14, 2007 1:54 PM | Link to this

@ Infamous, thanks for the tips! We are going to hit different areas, there will be 3 hotels and a lodge, dang, the names escape me, and I just read it last night. LOL

Lady Dark (hey there!) a group of us booked the trip through a travel company that specializes in S Africa. I think someone told me it’s the same company that booked V103’s trip to S Africa

By Demi

March 14, 2007 2:00 PM | Link to this

Raqi It is what it is…If dem white folks said I can sue yo mass, then Imma sue yo mass…Does it make it right no!! But that the American’s way of doing things.

*Now suing Trojan for still making regular condoms.

By SlimOne

March 14, 2007 2:02 PM | Link to this

Raqi I agree with you too that this world is so crazy. It teaches us how to get through the system and loop holes. So I wonder how much I can get if I sue Bounty Paper Towel Company because their motto is the Quicker Picker Upper…but when I spilled red (yeah thats a flavor) koolaid on my white carpet and bounty didn’t pick it up quick enough it let a huge arse stain on my carpet?

By Sir Dr. MusingLee PhD. Obi-one-kenobi

March 14, 2007 2:06 PM | Link to this

Slim I suggest you all bum rush her’azz with some soap and water.

By Mo

March 14, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this

Wow I see we have a double topic thing going today! LOL

19 million?!?! I agree w/some of the earlier posts, no way she should have gotten 19 mil but since the proper channels werent taken…

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 2:10 PM | Link to this

I think I told you all already about the neighbor that wanted to sue me because when my son was playing at her house he tripped and fell and when his head hit her car it put a small dent in it. My sister is an attorney and told me to tell her if she tried it, I would sue her for allowing kids to play in an unsafe environment due to my son tripping on the edge of her driveway and falling. And then she didn’t even inform me of his injury nor the dent until I confronted her a week later after he started have convulsions. That bitc..I mean woman better be glad I still don’t sue her. My son still has convulsion at least once every few months.

It is easy to get a law suit.

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

March 14, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

Raqi

If I am acting b!tchy because of PMS I have a reason. If you are acting like an A$$ because you can then that’s just YOU acting like an dumb A$$.

True, but my wife’s evaluation of when I was acting like an A$$ seemed to often (usually) coincide with her PMS. Actually almost every major fight we ever had seemed to coincide with the dreaded ‘initials’. She would be mean and ‘bychy’ for several days and I would hold my tongue for awhile, but sooner or later I would make some reference to PMS and the waste matter would definitely hit the GE. For any male out there who is still single and has not experienced this phenomenon, women do not take kindly to being reminded, in spite of your best intentions…so keep your (fill in the blank) mouth shut, and never, never, never, use the term if you want to stay married!!!

So is your husband acting like a dumb a$$ or just me? LOL…just playing with ya.

By SlimOne

March 14, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

MusingLee So i should do her like the players would after a winning game, but instead of Gatorade it’ll be clorox,ammonia, Mr Clean, and some body wash concoction?

By jones

March 14, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

I’m sorry did I enter stinkey BO blog? I thought this was a dating blog. Silly me……. Can we please move on? 2 hours blogging about a stinky co-worker. You all really don’t have lives do you?

By Awwwwwwwww...fISH

March 14, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

Awwwwwwwww…fISH, Demi!! It’s all about profit. Magnums moves less volume, when compare to the normal size brands.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 14, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

Raqi I didnt say it was right..just that we live in different times, politically correct times. If you have not noticed now when you go to cook foods tells you to properly wash your hands before handling the food. Why? Because someone who didn’t know that(Duh) Sued for samonella poisoning and you mention the Caution Hot coffee on cups and lids now (Duh).

By PAM

March 14, 2007 2:14 PM | Link to this

Guilty………….. and yes I miss my ex-friend… and I hate it because I wished I could’ve been really cavalier about the whole thing and just move on and be friends but I cant, I had to end it.. no phone call, emails, drivebys or booty calls.. and its hard as hell to do because we used to be really cool with each other, you know if I get a really funny email I want to forward it and if I hear or see something on tv or the radio I wanna call him and share what I heard but!!!!!!!!!! hey some days are better than others but the only thing that keeps me strong is thinking about how is he not thinking about me.

By Linguist

March 14, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this

Hey Slim Guurrl, I feel for ya! I had a co-worker, while she didn’t have BO, she had bad breath! I have a pothos plant at my desk, that I lovingly water e’ryday. It’s tall green and beautiful. I swear, when she’d come around my desk, the darn thing would start turning yellow! No, seriously, it would start wilting b4 my very eyes…

Ling, recalling this very bad breath memory, subconsciously moves “little Ling” over to the window for some vitamin D.. poor ittle baby, mommie’s sorry!

By JustMe

March 14, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this

Gone to brush my teeth, I don’t want the purple onions from my salad to make a coworker rich; If I have to come to work errrday they do too

By Mo

March 14, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

Ummmm Jones * you can always leave the blog if we bore you. I’m *sure you have some other form of entertainment since we here on the blog dont have lives. Umm ba-bye!!

By PAM

March 14, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

Guilty………….. and yes I miss my ex-friend… and I hate it because I wished I could’ve been really cavalier about the whole thing and just move on and be friends but I cant, I had to end it.. no phone call, emails, drivebys or booty calls.. and its hard as hell to do because we used to be really cool with each other, you know if I get a really funny email I want to forward it and if I hear or see something on tv or the radio I wanna call him and share what I heard but!!!!!!!!!! hey some days are better than others but the only thing that keeps me strong is thinking about how is he not thinking about me.

By MusingLee

March 14, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

SlimOne That might work too!

jones what would you like to talk about??? What’s your dating question?

By PAM

March 14, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

Guilty………….. and yes I miss my ex-friend… and I hate it because I wished I could’ve been really cavalier about the whole thing and just move on and be friends but I cant, I had to end it.. no phone call, emails, drivebys or booty calls.. and its hard as hell to do because we used to be really cool with each other, you know if I get a really funny email I want to forward it and if I hear or see something on tv or the radio I wanna call him and share what I heard but!!!!!!!!!! hey some days are better than others but the only thing that keeps me strong is thinking about how is he not thinking about me.

By PAM

March 14, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

Guilty………….. and yes I miss my ex-friend… and I hate it because I wished I could’ve been really cavalier about the whole thing and just move on and be friends but I cant, I had to end it.. no phone call, emails, drivebys or booty calls.. and its hard as hell to do because we used to be really cool with each other, you know if I get a really funny email I want to forward it and if I hear or see something on tv or the radio I wanna call him and share what I heard but!!!!!!!!!! hey some days are better than others but the only thing that keeps me strong is thinking about how is he not thinking about me.

By PAM

March 14, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

Guilty………….. and yes I miss my ex-friend… and I hate it because I wished I could’ve been really cavalier about the whole thing and just move on and be friends but I cant, I had to end it.. no phone call, emails, drivebys or booty calls.. and its hard as hell to do because we used to be really cool with each other, you know if I get a really funny email I want to forward it and if I hear or see something on tv or the radio I wanna call him and share what I heard but!!!!!!!!!! hey some days are better than others but the only thing that keeps me strong is thinking about how is he not thinking about me.

By MusingLee

March 14, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

SlimOne That might work too!

jones WTH would you like to talk about??? What’s your dating question?

By batchamamakoodles

March 14, 2007 2:19 PM | Link to this

I miss the sex my ex and I used to have every single day. At least once. And the fact I haven’t had sex with my wife in seven _ count ‘em _ seven years.

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

Epitome of… I wonder if a man or woman “change” after marriage can they be sued for false advertisement or marriage by deception? HMMMM

By SlimOne

March 14, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

Raqi I’m sorry to hear about your son and that was mighty insensitive of her to threaten filing a suit. I’m surprised you didn’t put a dent in her head.

jones um…I apologize if you feel we’ve come to your computer and forced you to read about stinky blogs for the last two hours. If I recall, the blog subject tends to stray off-topic often. Another thing, she hasn’t stopped smelling these last two hours either so take a chill pill or add to the ON-TOPIC issue.

Slim hops off soapbox, returns to desk, reapplies more smelling salts above her nose and continues working

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 14, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this

Ohh yeah and if you buy shoes they have the silicon packet that says “Dont eat this.” (Duh)

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 14, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this

Raqi Didnt Renee Z sue Kenny Chesney for divorce on those grounds?..Fraud.

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 2:25 PM | Link to this

Yes Randy he is acting like an A$$. I am going to treat him like one.

My sister suffers from PMDD. That is supposedly why she was so hateful growing up. I say she was just mean. But what do I know?

By Linguist

March 14, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this

WD Sorry, with reading and responding to some of the posts, I forgot to mention have a great, great and safe trip!

Isn’t Oprah’s school in S.Africa? Boy, I’d love to go see it…

By JustMe

March 14, 2007 2:27 PM | Link to this

Raqi A friend of mines divorced his wife on the grounds that she did not want to have kids after they married. According to him, they had extensive convos about it prior to their marriage and the fact that she did not want to have his children was grounds for an anullment……

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 14, 2007 2:27 PM | Link to this

batch no sex one year, no sex 2 years, cost of lawyer fee 3 years, alimony/child support 3.5years….I can’t count that high!

Seven years no sex….no sex turns into like doggie years…1 year really equals like 7 years…so you’ve really gone 49 doggie years w/o sex!!!

By Awwwwwwwww...fISH

March 14, 2007 2:29 PM | Link to this

Awwwwwwwww…fISH, Slim!!! We (of a colorful race), all know “Brite” red anything and “White” whatever doesn’t mix!!! If you are going to sue, sue you!!!

By SlimOne

March 14, 2007 2:29 PM | Link to this

Ling Oh my goodness you have me crying over here with the plant deal. I can’t say i’ve ever seen that with my own two eyes but I guess it’s good we don’t have any plants in this room. I use to have a boss with halitosis and he knew he had it because he constantly walked around with peppermints in his pocket. It was the worst thing ever. I recall a time I kissed this dude and was totally sick because he left his dragon breath on my lip UGGGhhhh!

JustMe ha ha ha…we aren’t even allowed to heat up seafood in the microwave by our bosses office. She has a sign posted and you best believe she’ll find out who did it, if someone slips up.

By PAM

March 14, 2007 2:31 PM | Link to this

Guilty………….. and yes I miss my ex-friend… and I hate it because I wished I could’ve been really cavalier about the whole thing and just move on and be friends but I cant, I had to end it.. no phone call, emails, drivebys or booty calls.. and its hard as hell to do because we used to be really cool with each other, you know if I get a really funny email I want to forward it and if I hear or see something on tv or the radio I wanna call him and share what I heard but!!!!!!!!!! hey some days are better than others but the only thing that keeps me strong is thinking about how is he not thinking about me.

By MusingLee

March 14, 2007 2:31 PM | Link to this

SlimOne Try telling her pastor.

Pastor is ending the Sunday sermon

Pastor: Yes Brothers and Sisters, to close our service we will be calling folks to come to Christ….Let the cool waters cleanse your body, mind, and soul.

Just then 2 dudes pick up smelly Woman and throw her into the healing waters

Pastor: Sister you have been chosen for a cleansing…and be sure to use that holy soap.

Smelly lady surrounded by four old ladies with 10ft brushes

By GA.man

March 14, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

dang….to court..come back and we got BO going on…gotta read to really catch up

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 14, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

Wise I’ll have to look into that for next year….a girlfriend got me excited about SA this year and then backed out of it….LOL

wink

By Linguist

March 14, 2007 2:36 PM | Link to this

JustMe 2:15 “Gone to brush my teeth, I don’t want the purple onions from my salad to make a coworker rich; If I have to come to work errrday they do too”

I am c-r-a-c-k-i-n-g up over here! I swear you guys are going to get me fired - for laughing and not working on the job!

Hey Mo!

By PAM

March 14, 2007 2:36 PM | Link to this

Guilty………….. and yes I miss my ex-friend… and I hate it because I wished I could’ve been really cavalier about the whole thing and just move on and be friends but I cant, I had to end it.. no phone call, emails, drivebys or booty calls.. and its hard as hell to do because we used to be really cool with each other, you know if I get a really funny email I want to forward it and if I hear or see something on tv or the radio I wanna call him and share what I heard but!!!!!!!!!! hey some days are better than others but the only thing that keeps me strong is thinking about how is he not thinking about me.

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

SlimOne You better believe I wanted to. One Sunday just a couple of months ago my husband’s friend was bringing him home and when they passed this same neighbor house my son and her son were out in the yard playing soccer in the RAIN. Yeah it was just drizzling, but it was cold out. The Man says he was angry he wanted to punch her in the mouth when she said “that little rain won’t hurt them”. LOL He told the boy to get in the car and then called her a stupid bi… Then he yelled at me when he got home for letting him be there.

I will say that it was my fault for letting him play there again. But that kid is his best friend and they are on the same soccer team and are classmates. Now they can only play together at my house, at school or while playing soccer. You better believe I make sure nothing happens to that little boy while he is at my house. They are only allowed to watch TV when he is there. No roughhousing what so ever.

By SlimOne

March 14, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

MusingLee we could kidnap her in her sleep, shoot her up with tranquilizer gun, strap her to the car and ride thru one of those $3 car washes. lmao

By Mo

March 14, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this

Hey Linguist!

GAMan yeah its been off da chain today! Go on and open the blog bar!

SlimOne, JustMe who’s got bar duty today? Or should I get the step stool and get to servin? LOL

Musing you are a FOOL for your last post!!!

By Alvin

March 14, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this

jones chill. If you like, we can talk aout how I boned your mom in the back of Wayfield a few years back…well maybe not yours, but I am sure she was someones mom.

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this

Pam please stop pressing the post/please wait or refresh button. Just exit out the window and start over again.

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

March 14, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

@ batch…

I haven’t had sex with my wife in seven _ count ‘em _ seven years.

You and I have it reversed. My love life (okay, maybe I should say sex life, love was not always present) picked up dramatically when I got a divorce. I see my ex (because of my kids, not socially) frequently, and there have been times I have thought about making a run at it for old times sake…then I slap myself up the side of my head and come back to my senses.

By MusingLee

March 14, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

When she enters the room ask her if she smells something funny?

Smelly chick enters the room

Slim: Ohhh, do you smell that?

SC: Ahh, No!?!

Smelly chick leaves the room

Slim: Ohh, now it’s gone.

Smelly chick enters the room

Slim: Ohhh, it smells again.

Smelly chick leaves the room

Slim: Ohh, now it’s gone again.

This goes on for 15mins

By Twinangeldiva

March 14, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this

Hey Wise Diva! Hope you have a safe and fun trip. We love you!

Love, Sis

By SlimOne

March 14, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this

Raqi yeah I wouldn’t allow him to play at her house either. I mean if something else happens I’d be on guard wondering if she’s scheming to find another way to sue me. So that’s was a good decision to only allow them to play under your supervision. You don’t want to bring you and her issues into your sons friendship.

Musing hey then again maybe DavidMusingfield could take stank woman as a volunteer and make the funk disappear.

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

Yes Kym she did. I think if someone is knowingly gay and fail to reveal that info, should be sued. Or like JustMe stated when you have an agreement up front and you reveal your true desires after marriage that is deception.

By worried

March 14, 2007 2:45 PM | Link to this

on the whole PMS topic- I swear that men also get PMS type symptoms each month. My husband has a period where he will just get sooooo moody. It’s hilarious.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 14, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

batch do you guys have an open marriage? I noticed you said that you haven’t had sex with your wife in 7 years…but not that you haven’t had sex in 7 years….is she getting it from somewhere? are you?

you don’t have to answer, but you did put it out there

By Musing Cop-a-feel-Lee

March 14, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

Musing: For my next trick I will make a funky audience member disappear…any volunteers?

Smelly Chick: Ohhh, yes me…I’ve been trying to lose this funk for 2 years.

Musing: Just step into the box, and count to ten.

Chick climbs into box closes her eyes and begins counting

Musing: In ten seconds the funk will be gone. Audience arE YOU READYYYY?

Audience: YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Musing pours gasoline onto box and sets it on fire

Musing: FUNK AWAYYYYYYYYY

Musing now doing 10 to 20 in the state pen

By worried

March 14, 2007 2:51 PM | Link to this

i will now change my name to Prego for i am no longer worried

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

batch have you discussed what the problem could be with her? Did this happen after she gave birth and never recovered from post pardum depression? Did the sex you were having become boring? Did she have added responsibilites inserted into her day that could be taking away her energy? Do you smell? LOL (Sorry had to throw that in.)

If she once enjoyed having sex with you and now she doesn’t…something had to change.

By Linguist

March 14, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

Raqi Just read one of your previous posts about your son.. Girl, I can not believe that ishhh! I’m in the Insurance biz, and we get these types of claims/lawsuits all the time… While I don’t have all the information, it certainly sounds like there is some negligence on her part. At the very least, if you pursued a claim against her homeowner’s policy, you’d (your son) would get medical payments coverage (MPC). Some people have $5k or $10k coverage limits. This is mutually exclusive of her being negligent.

By SlimOne

March 14, 2007 2:56 PM | Link to this

Alvin behind a Wayfields? lol Dang you could’ve at least used the back of a Publix or Kroger, they might be a little cleaner….LOL

Musing I swear I had to go outside because I’m in serious tears right now laughing at you! I’m delirious. ROTFLMOA

By SeanJohsnon

March 14, 2007 2:56 PM | Link to this

@ Musing…i know ALL men have ran up on a smelly stinky chick…once….and once a female gets that repuation..its for life…

By Linguist

March 14, 2007 3:01 PM | Link to this

Raqi How old is your son? Thinking about what happened to your son, just makes my heart ache (I got 3 young boys 9, 7 and 4)

By Alvin

March 14, 2007 3:01 PM | Link to this

batch…Been 7 years huh? And you are still married…Why?

Slim We were in her Yukon…She was newly divorcee and wanted to walk on the wild side a bit…And that we did!!!

By Alvin

March 14, 2007 3:05 PM | Link to this

SJ yeah we all have. Thinking: How can a chick be this fine, yet smells so bad…

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

Linguist I have no desire to sue that woman. That would only create hostility between us that would affect our kids. Kids will be kids and I know that. Just don’t try to turn something back on me when confronted about something you should have informed me about.

By Jones

March 14, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

One hour later, still discussing stinky co-worker.

Alvin I like the Wayfields comment, very mature. Typical mentality on this blog. What are you like 12 years old?

B.L.O.G. - Black’s Log - On-Going.

By Jake

March 14, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

SeanJ

You right, once you have a rep for the “stinky kitty”, its with you for life…LOL

Just last week, I brought up the name of this chick from high school. First thing my potnah said was, “didn’t they say her cat used to stank”.

That was almost 12 years ago…LOL

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 14, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

My SO said that he was dating a girl and after they had sex she left skid marks on his sheet….he was like oh h3ll nah, that $%%%!!! is nasty In other words, he decided never to see her again!

By Foots

March 14, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

Lady Dark I saw that!! LOL!!

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

March 14, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this

I used to have to work with a lady of what I think was Indian, or Pakistani or somewhere in that region. You could smell her across the room, and this was an educated engineer. It was putrid. I had to work directly with her for several days and that was torture to the nth degree. Apparently it had to do with some aspect of her religious practices, but I could never understand how taking a bath and washing one’s clothes could insult anybody’s God. Ever since that time, I have been reluctant to be around someone from that part of the world.

I worked for awhile with a lady who got on a garlic kick. She had heard it prevented illness and took a bunch of pills or ate it straight perhaps. The people used to seriously complain. One day I was across a bookcase from her, maybe 6 feet away and I got a whiff of that and thought I would start retching right there. Apparently garlic does not get just in your breath, but in your pores also.

By Chullato

March 14, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this

SJ I got a story for you.

I was pursuing this woman off and on for like 9 months. Beautiful woman, smart, funny, the total package. We could just never seem to get together. Well, there was stretch of about a month where we did see each other and talk regularly.

One night we went out and then it was back to her place. I discussed what would happen afterwards, so as I man, I acted like I was enjoying dinner, but I really was simply waiting. All throughout dinner, she kept getting up an going to the bathroom. I thought she may have been on the phone or something, but I wasn’t bothered to much by it.

We reach her apartment and one thing is leading to another, I start to pull clothes off and I got a whiff of the foulest smell. So I give her this look, like you smell that? She gives me a look like why are you stopping, so I continue, hoping it’s just a fart. I moveback down to the lower regions again, and the smells there again. I’m thinking that can’t be you. So I give her another look, this time it looks like trouble in her eyes. That was all I needed to see. Down goes Frazier. I couldn’t believe it. I was out of there 30 minutes later. I think she might have had mud butt or something.

I apologize for long post

By Jewel

March 14, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this

MUSING COP-A-FEEL-LEE YOU ARE CRAZY!!!!!!!!

By Wise Diva

March 14, 2007 3:14 PM | Link to this

hey there JONESY, FALL BACK! This blog is DIVERSE, just because it’s not one dimensional doesn’t mean it’s black!

I will let that jab slide since I am in such a good mood, but don’t make me take my red off to address you next time! LOL

By Chocolate Peach

March 14, 2007 3:17 PM | Link to this

OMG!!!! Dying lauging @ Alvin…. Wayfield dude?

Guess Publix was too far down the road. LMAO!!!!

Yes, Men do have their menses.

By Jewel

March 14, 2007 3:17 PM | Link to this

Raqi RE your 1:39 post. Don’t forget that you can eat fast food 24/7 and sue the restaurant for weight gain! And, thanks! I almost had Pam’s post memorized!

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 3:18 PM | Link to this

DarkDimples Uhh…usually where there is dirt there is odor. So either he was “congested” in his pursuit to get the panties or…I don’t have another explanation.

There are clues to an unkept body.

I always find a reason to not participate in office parties or gathering that are catered by our employees. I have seen people walk out of the bathroom without washing their hands. I don’t touch anything on their desk and I do everything I can to prevent them from touching my stuff.

By Alvin

March 14, 2007 3:21 PM | Link to this

Jones I am not on this blog to think and I’m actually 10 years old on here…Why are you even blogging with us today?

You sound bored with life, why? Committing suicide is easy, I’ll supply the gun.

By NCgirlfromATL

March 14, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this

My SO said that he was dating a girl and after they had sex she left skid marks on his sheet

Ok, I just threw up in my mouth! NAAAAAASTY! See what you started Slim!!

chullato Please pass the Scope. Bleeech!

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 3:23 PM | Link to this

WiseDiva You know what amazes me? People will continue to read this blog everyday and then complain about it’s content. How in the hell do you know what we are talking about if you are not continuing to read the boring stuff that you don’t like?

Check it out, if you don’t like what you see, log off. No brainer.

By SeanJohsnon

March 14, 2007 3:23 PM | Link to this

@Jake & Alvin…it always be the pretty super fine ones you have been wantitng to hit for a minute…and u dont get a wiff of it until the panties come off…and you immediately..back off….and she is saying…whats wrong..lol…

I was at the mall monday with my lil SJ and i was sitting down trying to help him try on some shoes…and this lil young hottie walked by..and my head was at her waist level…and her young butt smelled like sour spoiled fish mixed with garbage truck juice..and i just got that smell out of my noise today..ladies..a stank cat lingers in our nose and memory…

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 3:24 PM | Link to this

Linguist he was 10 at the time.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 14, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this

Wisey jones appears to have escaped from the Wooten blog. You know every now and then one of them gets loose. Wooten one of your “sheets” has hit the wind.

Dang it Easter is 25 days away

By Chullato

March 14, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this

Passing NCGIRL Vanilla Mint Scope

It takes two washes to get the taste completely out.

By Tazzee

March 14, 2007 3:28 PM | Link to this

Musing I swear you are going to get me fired! wait, I’m the most senior person on my floor today - so that ain’t gonna happen

Anyway - you are cracking me up over here.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 14, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this

Raqi Like with every other egotistical male…he likes to joke…I f’d the shyyt out of her

I’m sorry Wise….I know I violated a rule or 2 there!!

By jones

March 14, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

What are you going to do, kick me off the blog? Oh I’m scared……

Your posters are almost as mature as my dog. I am sure you are all being paid to be at work, but you are loafing off, discussing a stranger’s stinky co-worker, instead of doing what you are paid to do. This is all you do all day long……”oh, I just can’t wait to get to work and see who’s blogging….” Now get off your lazy butts and EARN YOUR PAY!!!!! And you wonder why you are held down/supressed?

Just reading the posts, looking at the spelling…..I’m just saying……If the shoe fits…….and apparently it fits real good here.

Ya’ll enjoy your chat room. I am going to go outside and enjoy life.

By the way, I’m self-employed, and make more money than you will ever see in your lifetime…….but don’t be hatin……

By jones

March 14, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

What are you going to do, kick me off the blog? Oh I’m scared……

Your posters are almost as mature as my dog. I am sure you are all being paid to be at work, but you are loafing off, discussing a stranger’s stinky co-worker, instead of doing what you are paid to do. This is all you do all day long……”oh, I just can’t wait to get to work and see who’s blogging….” Now get off your lazy butts and EARN YOUR PAY!!!!! And you wonder why you are held down/supressed?

Just reading the posts, looking at the spelling…..I’m just saying……If the shoe fits…….and apparently it fits real good here.

Ya’ll enjoy your chat room. I am going to go outside and enjoy life.

By the way, I’m self-employed, and make more money than you will ever see in your lifetime…….but don’t be hatin……

By jones

March 14, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

What are you going to do, kick me off the blog? Oh I’m scared……

Your posters are almost as mature as my dog. I am sure you are all being paid to be at work, but you are loafing off, discussing a stranger’s stinky co-worker, instead of doing what you are paid to do. This is all you do all day long……”oh, I just can’t wait to get to work and see who’s blogging….” Now get off your lazy butts and EARN YOUR PAY!!!!! And you wonder why you are held down/supressed?

Just reading the posts, looking at the spelling…..I’m just saying……If the shoe fits…….and apparently it fits real good here.

Ya’ll enjoy your chat room. I am going to go outside and enjoy life.

By the way, I’m self-employed, and make more money than you will ever see in your lifetime…….but don’t be hatin……

By jones

March 14, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

What are you going to do, kick me off the blog? Oh I’m scared……

Your posters are almost as mature as my dog. I am sure you are all being paid to be at work, but you are loafing off, discussing a stranger’s stinky co-worker, instead of doing what you are paid to do. This is all you do all day long……”oh, I just can’t wait to get to work and see who’s blogging….” Now get off your lazy butts and EARN YOUR PAY!!!!! And you wonder why you are held down/supressed?

Just reading the posts, looking at the spelling…..I’m just saying……If the shoe fits…….and apparently it fits real good here.

Ya’ll enjoy your chat room. I am going to go outside and enjoy life.

By the way, I’m self-employed, and make more money than you will ever see in your lifetime…….but don’t be hatin……

By jones

March 14, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

What are you going to do, kick me off the blog? Oh I’m scared……

Your posters are almost as mature as my dog. I am sure you are all being paid to be at work, but you are loafing off, discussing a stranger’s stinky co-worker, instead of doing what you are paid to do. This is all you do all day long……”oh, I just can’t wait to get to work and see who’s blogging….” Now get off your lazy butts and EARN YOUR PAY!!!!! And you wonder why you are held down/supressed?

Just reading the posts, looking at the spelling…..I’m just saying……If the shoe fits…….and apparently it fits real good here.

Ya’ll enjoy your chat room. I am going to go outside and enjoy life.

By the way, I’m self-employed, and make more money than you will ever see in your lifetime…….but don’t be hatin……

By SeanJohsnon

March 14, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

@ Chullupa…a female friend of mine told me that comes from walking around all day on your cycle not changing your pad…its some nasty heffas walking around..

By Wise Diva

March 14, 2007 3:31 PM | Link to this

hey sis! - love ya’ll too!

ummm, ok ew, seriously, let’s change the icky subject! LOL

(Jonesy, you are still in my penalty box, though!)

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this

DarkDimples I have had it hard, I have had it long, and I have had it deep, but I have never…never mind. ROTFLMAO.

You got my head hurting now. That was pretty good.

By SlimOne

March 14, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this

Raqi/Wise ^5 on that. Looks like Jones is trying to bring his dark cloud to our happy corner. I’m sure he wouldn’t like it if MusingBlogGuardDog got a hold of him. lol

NC I didn’t know that it would snowball into sour b-dussy stories…Yuck!

SeanJ smelled like sour spoiled fish mixed with garbage truck juice pass me the pepto bismol please!

I guess the blog bar is self-serve today

By Mo

March 14, 2007 3:36 PM | Link to this

Okay I am seriously getting a kick out of Jones!! Why the post 4xs?! LOL! And making so much money that you could afford to be on the blog all day with us…those you seem to loathe!!

This is too funny! Thanks for the laugh Jones!

By Alvin

March 14, 2007 3:36 PM | Link to this

All we need is 3rd and her stories of dudes with funky wangs…But on the real, I nearly loss the tuna salad I had for lunch. The smell is now getting to me.

By MusingLee

March 14, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

I wish jones would invest some of his money and purchase a new computer. His enter key is sticky.

By Jewel

March 14, 2007 3:38 PM | Link to this

Actually Jones I have clients who pay me to reduce their overhead cost by getting rid of slackers. In fact, I just finished a meeting with your CEO about terminating an employee named Simple Minded Jones.

By Prego

March 14, 2007 3:38 PM | Link to this

Well Jones you are the only one complaining and you seem to have a generally bad attitude so it would seem that you are the one who isn’t satisfied with their life. Maybe you should take a good look at yourself instead of judging other people and what we do with our time. It also seems that if you do in fact make more money that all of us it certainly isn’t doing any good for you. Chill out and maybe you will enjoy your life… * but dont be hatin*

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 14, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

jones LOL self-employed? Common Phrase for…. I live in my parent’s basement and play video games all day…my name is labeled on all the food that I buy. I haven’t had a date or smelled a cooch since I hid in the locker room and spied on all the cheerleaders.

By SlimOne

March 14, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

PastorMusingLee concludes his sermon with a prayer

PML: lets all bow our heads and let us pray. Lord I know you say cleaniness is next to godliness but right now smelliness is next to me and lord I pray that you will shower her with soap and water, and if you could please put her down wind from me. Aaaaaammmmeeeen!

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 3:44 PM | Link to this

Okay back to the topic…sort of:

What about people who unconsciously seek out parental figures in their search for a mate? Like a woman that grew up without a father and seeks out older men not realizing she is seeking a father figure. Or a man that was spoiled and pampered by his mother that is only drawn to women who are looking for a man to “take care of”?

By Wise Diva

March 14, 2007 3:44 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Dr. Kym!

Jones? WOOOW DUDE, like seriously, totally, oh gosh, your post just screamed insecurity honey, you should get a life coach, LOL. We embrace all kinds here, so keep reading, we appreciate you!

enjoy your day sugar! pie wink

By Pastor MusingLee

March 14, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

Get thee behind me smelly….

Now throwing holy water on smelly lady like Aunt Ester

By GA.man

March 14, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this

Hey now you all know we all know Jones…he is the one selling Oranges at the exit mon and weds…and begging for food thurs. and fridays…we alll have given him a dollar..with his broke azz…..sitting there paying for the internet by the hour

2 bags of Oranges = 4 hours of internet

By C

March 14, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this

What happens when your soulmate — the epitome of the man you’ve always wanted passes away unexpectedly? He was my everything — my living, breathing dream of a man come true! How will I ever manage to date without comparing others to him?

By MusingLee

March 14, 2007 3:50 PM | Link to this

LOLOLOLOLOLOL…hahahahahahha….Dangg GA.man…that’s messed up. hahahaha

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 3:55 PM | Link to this

HMMM question here: When the man that you have had a few foul words with since lunch calls and asks if you want to eat out tonight…does that mean he realizes he will probably be having fried Alpo for dinner if the woman he has angered is cooking?

By DuShawn

March 14, 2007 3:55 PM | Link to this

I think I may have shared the story of this one female , former coworker, with the body odor issues. This girl was intelligent, articulate, Howard grad, and cool as shyt. She was my female work potnah. I liked how she handled herself professionally and her ability to speak articulately without sacrificing her ethnic tone. The other chicks in the office had beef for the girl, but she was mad cool with me. One day she came in my office stanka than a mufugga. I’m like dayum! When she left, I started sniffin my own under arms, thinking is that me? It can’t be lil mama. Sure enuf, it was her. Later that afternoon, I see her socializing with the other females in the office and not one of them pulled her coat. A few days later the same thing happened again. I wanted to tell her, but I couldn’t find the words without hurting her feelings or embarrassing her. I decided I would take her to lunch let her know that she was sharp in every area, but seriously slippin on her hygiene. While at lunch I chickened out and couldn’t bring myself to tell her. She was married. Her man should be the one to straighten that. If I had an opportunity to face that situation again, I would’ve given her a $250.00 gift certificate to Bath & Body Works, and told her “sweetheart, no offense, you know you my girl, but you need to use that gift certificate immediately. And put some of your own bread with it so you can get some extra soaps, lotions, deodorants and shyt.” I really liked that girl, I hope she got that together by now.

By Prego

March 14, 2007 3:57 PM | Link to this

Raqi either that or he wants to take you out to a nice dinner to apologize— I would give him the benefit of the doubt

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

March 14, 2007 4:00 PM | Link to this

Y’all are being too hard on Jonesy. he has enlightened me. Until 20 minutes ago, I thought I was part Irish, part Indian. Dayum, now I wonder what else my momma lied to me about?

By SlimOne

March 14, 2007 4:00 PM | Link to this

Good one Dr Kym Looks like you’re letting your hair down today….and it’s looking good might i add. lol

Gaman So that was Jones that was begging to wash my windows the other day with what looked like pee in a bottle?!! And to think, I even gave that crook the crust off the sandwich I was eating.

By Jewel

March 14, 2007 4:03 PM | Link to this

C I am very sorry to hear that. If it was a break up or divorce, you can hope for the possibility of getting back together. I am sure that is harder because death is final. Just do not let anyone place a time limit on your grief.

By GA.man

March 14, 2007 4:03 PM | Link to this

Well you now he was in the class in school you remember the ones that couldnt change classes when the bell rung…they only changed desks…worn the football helmets and had Jello with fruit every day

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 4:12 PM | Link to this

Okay I have read several comments such as this “This girl was intelligent, articulate, Howard grad, and cool as shyt” about women with body odor and just wanted to state this…Just because you can spell supercalifragilistticexpailidoceous and look like Hayle Berry does not mean your hygiene is supreme.

Now as per moderators request I am off the smelly comments.

WiseDiva is Laney going to moderate tomorrow and Friday?

By Wise Diva

March 14, 2007 4:16 PM | Link to this

LOL@ Randyt!

you know we are all mixed with something, even though that may deeply disturb some people, LOL.

@Raqi, I hope so! Maybe we should get Jones! ha ha! Now, I wonder if Laney knows she has been “jones’ed” into being a black blogger, LOL.

seriously though, we don’t like to see comments that bait people into a racial, derogatory discussion. it’s sooooo pointless!

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

Prego Yeah maybe or maybe not. We will see.

Bonne nuit everyone.

Again WiseDiva have a safe enjoyable trip.

By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)

March 14, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this

@C

I feel for you and know that must be tough.

My father died when he was 29 (I was seven). Last weekend, I took my current lady home to meet my Mom in upper East Tennessee. My Mom has been married now to my stepfather for many, many years. I walked into the room as she was speaking to my ladyfriend with an uncharacteristic honesty about how she was devastated when my father died so suddenly, but had been blessed to find another husband, different but equally great. Since my divorce, I have met so many wonderful ladies, all different and all special, with their own different qualities. I wondered how they would stack up, and instead discovered that they were each special in their own way.

My point is that when you can look forward at the new doors that open, instead of behind you at the doors that have been closed, you may be amazed at how many wonderful people there are, all different, and all with their own special qualities.

By Prego

March 14, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this

AMEN Wise it’s stupid to even mention— WHO CARES what anyone is!? We could all be purple for all I care. What is the difference

By Foots

March 14, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

C We are very sorry for your loss. Don’t even think about anyone else right now, that’s thinking far ahead in the future. Right now, it’s probably just hard to get through today and the next day. Focus on your healing and letting yourself feel your full range of emotions. And don’t let go of those good memories that the two of you shared. As long as you have them, you’ll have him in your heart.

By Lah Lah

March 14, 2007 4:25 PM | Link to this

Hey Miss Wise Diva

Enjoy your trip, be safe and post some pics.

Hey erbody else.

Raqi I loved your 9:25am post. And the answer to your 3:55pm question is YES!!! LOL

SJ “Stank Patrick’s Day”

Ya killin me!

By Foots

March 14, 2007 4:31 PM | Link to this

Raqi Why is it that male SOs can have words with you, then act like nothing is wrong 10 minutes later? I have to tell my dude to give me some time, I can’t reset from “Angry Mode” that fast. LOL!

By Prego

March 14, 2007 4:35 PM | Link to this

Foots My husband is the same way.. I am like.. WHAT? I thought we were fighting? And then you feel stupid

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this

Damn I forgot the arsehole is picking me up today, LOL. So I am at his mercy right now or else I will be riding MARTA. So you all get me for 15 more minutes.

By Mo

March 14, 2007 4:40 PM | Link to this

Foots I agree as well, I am the same way!! Cannot switch moods that quickly! I need a cool off period and that means that you are out of my face til I feel like being bothered with you.

By MusingLee

March 14, 2007 4:47 PM | Link to this

Night All.

Wise Have a great trip!

By Raqi

March 14, 2007 4:48 PM | Link to this

Honestly??? Because most woman are catty and resentful and just don’t know how to let it go unless we get our way.

We live to make men feel the error of their ways.

Now my sweetie is calling me from downstairs. I am out.

Again good night everyone.

By Prego

March 14, 2007 4:50 PM | Link to this

Haha Raqi is right. We are sometimes like that. Men though are very stubborn and hate to admit wrongdoing— IMO

By Foots

March 14, 2007 4:52 PM | Link to this

Raqi went from “arsehole” to “sweetie” in 12 minutes! She’s my hero!! LOL!!