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The voice of reason
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Good morning, blog!
Last night my girlfriends and I were talking about relationships we’ve been in that were completely — I mean completely — wrong for us that we wished someone would have talked us out of earlier. The thing, is, we each noted friends who had tried to warn us about our stupidity, and we had simply been too — fill in the blank here — stubborn, stupid, obsessed, ignorant — to listen to them.
Most of the times the relationship was not actually dangerous (read: abusive) in our situations, but simply a matter of someone who an objective observer could see was not a good fit for us. And, ultimately, we all ended these relationships for the very reasons people had warned us about.
They say love is blind, but is this type of blindness something we grow out of as we age? I would like to think that I am older and wiser now, but I see other women who are making the same type of dating mistakes I made 10 years ago, and I wonder, maybe it’s not an issue of how much you’ve dated but a question of maturity.
For those of you who’ve never been in this situation, congratulations! You’re amazing! But for the rest of us, have you ever been warned by a friend about the person you’re dating? Did that person turn out to be right later? Did it hurt your friendship when you weren’t receptive to this person’s advice?
Have you had multiple relationships like this? What was it that made you finally start looking at your relationships a little more objectively? Does it matter whether the person giving you advice is male or female? Is there advice about this issue you wish someone had given you before you ever started dating? What advice would you give to people entering the dating realm?
Have you ever been the friend trying to give the advice? Are your friends ever receptive if you point out that the person they’re dating is not marriage material, but a time-waster?
I want to end today by saying thanks for letting me read, write and laugh out loud with you this week! We have so many different perspectives and backgrounds on this blog that it broadens everyone’s horizons, including mine. Have a great weekend!
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By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 8:40 AM | Link to this
Dayuum I’m glad it’s Friday
Slim now preparing food for Friday BlogBar Cookout
By Mo
March 23, 2007 8:43 AM | Link to this
Morning All Mo gets off at noon today so its a great friday!!
SlimOne need anything for the cookout?
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 8:52 AM | Link to this
Mo Yes, I won’t be able to prepare all this crap alone. Bring what you can.
On-Topic
Fortunately, i’ve never been in a situation that seriously warranted a warning from friends or family members. Yes, I’ve been given advice on particular situations that have risen but nothing more to that extent. If with my last long term, my mom and pop only told me (after 3/4 yrs of me and him together) that they saw me with a more mature guy. They loved my ex but they felt he needed to be more mature due to his behavior. Most of my ex’s have been decent guys. (not counting that thug love crush from back in the day but i burried that deep in the closet)
Make sure you bring a dish to the cookout today
By binford
March 23, 2007 8:56 AM | Link to this
Happy Friday peeps!
Luckily, I’ve never had anyone tell me someone was not good for me or a bad fit. In time it became apparent if it wasn’t a good fit, and we went our seperate ways.
Tends to shake out that I’m the one that doles out the advice to my friends. But regardless if you put up the equivalent of 5 billboards of warning, people tend to have to learn for themselves. And I’ll tell you what - it takes about every ounce of effort NOT to pull the “I told you so” card.
Seems to me that a lot of people are so wanting to be loved and love that they lose objectivity towards the things they need to have a successful relationship. It leads to a very shortsighted approach just born to fail.
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 23, 2007 8:56 AM | Link to this
Good Morning Everyone
have you ever been warned by a friend about the person you’re dating?
Yes, after the fact. I’ve never been warned in advance…but if a guy does something that friends and family come out of the woods with…well, I never really thought you guys were right for each other NEway. I didn’t like his 6th toe or something….
Have you ever been the friend trying to give the advice? Are your friends ever receptive if you point out that the person they’re dating is not marriage material, but a time-waster?
Yes, if I see something I will tell them about and say…you be better be careful about XYZ…but I never tell them not to date him…that’s pointless because they want listen to that. So, I just try to bring the issue up so that they’ll be aware of a potential danger…like a wife, or that fact that the dude has communicated no relationship, or his absenteeism.
It’s never ruined a friendship…I’d back off before I let that happen. It’s their life with their own lessons to learn….
By GA.man
March 23, 2007 9:02 AM | Link to this
Its friday…its firday…last day of the week and best day of the week…i’m gonna get my basketball on..and i’m gonna get my sleep on..and i’m gonna get my church on alllll weekend long
hey everybody..Slim justme qc raqi mo mocha chocop musing seanj sexione sexyleggs
On topic i do listen to my friends and take thier advice but with a grain of salt..i make up my own mind**
Slim get the drinks from the bar and write it down..so i can take it off the inventory…But please please dont tell LING LING
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 23, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this
Slim I’m bringing some mac-n-cheese and peach cobbler!
By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)
March 23, 2007 9:05 AM | Link to this
Hi Bella and All
Don’t beat yuorself up too badly Bella, all of make mistakes and all of us have gone into relationships against the advice of others. There is one little variable in a relationship that tends to overrule all logic and reason, and that is ‘chemistry’. Last year I was dating a lady who, to use my best friend’s description, was a ‘flake’, a ‘Runaway Bride Wannabe’, by her own description, a ‘nutcase’…and I still jumped in with both feet.
Bella, I KNEW it was trainwreck just waiting to happen, and I still jumped in with both feet. Why? Because I enjoyed every minute that I would be talking to her, enjoyed every minute I was touching her, and I saw that thing that is the ultimate cause of so many bad experiences…I saw POTENTIAL. Going for what has POTENTIAL rather than going for what is already proven will cause you to shoot yourself in the foot nine times out of ten.
In addition to a closet full of t-shirts, I have multiple bullet holes in both feet.
I almost Never listen to good advice. Now I am in a really good relationship with a lady all of my friends, children, etc., like and approve of, who is ALREADY what I want, rather than ‘could be’ what I want if she works on it…but the draw is still strong to the “dark side”.
By QC
March 23, 2007 9:08 AM | Link to this
Morning Bloggers!
Hey Slim1 & Mo i’ll make some of my famous “pasta salad” for the cookout
have a great day all
GA.man did you ever get back with LingLing yesterday????
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 9:09 AM | Link to this
Also, when it comes to ‘warning’ a friend I’m just like Lady D. I never tell someone who not to date. I may point out some red flags that I see from the outside looking in that they may haven’t noticed from being too far into lust to notice or care. For instance my cousin has been dealing with this dude that disrespects her, talks to her any kind of way, and by my observation is a little bit of a schizo. He’ll tell her he doesn’t want to talk to her anymore then turn right back around and tell her he loves her and wants to get married. WTF! I told her to weigh her pros and cons, positives and negatives and let me know what she came up with. The negatives far outweighed the good but i told her she’ll have to reach that point for herself. I figured that when she went to his house, saw he had another chick over there and the fact that he wouldn’t let her in would’ve been a wake up call. I guess she just hit the snooze button on that one.
By Sexione
March 23, 2007 9:12 AM | Link to this
Happy Friday!!!!!!! one more week and I get a break!!!
I’ve never really had a friend that knew my business well enough to give me this type of advice. I have had my mom to say “I don’t think he’s right for you”, but then she’s also tried to encourage me to date someone I knew wasn’t right for me (my type) because she thought he was. And my extremely jealous sister will try to find something wrong with anyone that she even thinks I’m dating (that’s why she never knows, and even if she does, I completely disregard anything she says…but I luv her though..lol)
My focus at this point is my teenage daughter who is almost old enough to date. I can just feel the gray hairs coming when I think about it!! I’m trying to open her eyes to all that’s out there….good and bad! Y’all pray for me!!!!
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this
Lady D I loooovvvee Peach Cobbler so I hope you brought lots.
QC You can put the Pasta salad on that table over there next to the potato salad.
GA.man are you going to be able to run the grill or is Musing the better cook? Oh yeah, I’m way ahead of ya on the drinks. You see that tent over there….that’s where we’re setting up the CASH BAR. I knew you’d appreciate that.
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 9:17 AM | Link to this
Morning Rockstars,
ink me in for my Famous Bakebeans w/groundturkey!!
& I’ll also throw in Chicken & veggie chikabobs (think I spelled that right)
Hmmmmm………
By GA.man
March 23, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this
Slim naw girl…..we bring in Musing’s UNcle George to do the cooking…he will be here soon
By Sexione
March 23, 2007 9:24 AM | Link to this
Oh, and I’ll be bringing my childs’ soon-to-be famous Chocolate Sinsation cake! maybe two…..
I agree with Slim & LadyD, I’m not one to say don’t date that person. I may try to point out certain actions, or say watch your back, but I’m not interested in being all up in any grown persons business beyond that.
By Mo
March 23, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this
SlimOne Since I dont like to cook to well and everything I can cook has been taken, I’ll do the EASY thing: I will bring all the necessities. Plates, cups, forks/knives/spoons, dessert bowls, condiments, cook utensils, tableclothes, insect repellent, a couple of folding chairs and tables….did I leave anything? Also dont forget to get the ice from the bar, its okay GAMan got a hook up on the ice!!
On topic I have had my parents tell me after the fact that someone wasnt right for me: too controlling, not mature enough, wasnt bringing enough to the table, too insecure, etc. I wish they had told me sooner b/c a lot of times those issues were the reason the relationship ended…
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this
Morning all, I will bring the corona and miller lite…Nothing like a cold one after a long week!!!! TGIF…On topic I was advise not to marry and in the back of my mind I knew it was wrong but so caaught up in the day and event I continued…I was like people gonna talk about me if I cancel and damn they talked about me ater the divorce…Go figure…Lesson learned to live for me and be true to thy own self!!!!! Happy Friday QC and others!!! SPring break then May…Summer school will be a breeze though…
By SeanJohnson
March 23, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this
Sup Blog…TGIF…I think you really have to be careful warning a friend about their SO…since the dynamics of your friendship and their relationship are different…So i tend to keep my mouth closed…and let them find out on their own…experience is the best teacher…But warning blood is different..I warned/begged my brother not to marry his ex chief…and he paid me no mind..and married her..6 years later divorced her..I have come to the conclusion that people are going to do what they are going to do no matter what when it comes to the opposite sx..so you can warned them or advise them…still its a good chance it wont even matter..Just be careful…u try to be a good friend and get bit in the azz in the process..
By QC
March 23, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this
Musing are you feeling better? If not i’ll bring some turkey burgers & turkey hot dogs just in case aight!
By GA.man
March 23, 2007 9:33 AM | Link to this
Ladyj bring something else i got the bar bringing the drinks…..**
Bring a stale cake from Krogers so i can joke on you….lol
By NCgirlfromATL
March 23, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this
Bella Great job this week!
In my last relationship my friends waited until the ish had hit the fan in a relationship to act like they’d been trying to tell me all along that they didn’t like dude! LOL! Not a single one of those heffas ever said a word, and in fact were all caught up in the fact that he had it going on, etc. LMAO!! Even when I ask, I get “oh yeah, he’s cool!” or “yeah girl, keep him…he’s a keeper!” Then, when things go bad it’s “guuuurl, I knew he was trouble!” Heffas! LOLOLOL! (Kidding, I love my friends!)
By contrast, one of these same friends was about to marry a man 15 yrs her senior when we first got out of college, and the only thing they had in common was that they worked in the same place. This man had no personality, while she was (and is) the life of the party. He was a home-body, while she was (and is) never at home, always at a sporting event, coaching a team, or just out having a good time. She thought he was going to change when they got married (he acted like this when they dated) and he thought she’d become Susie Homemaker. Of course, I saw this coming miles away, and I and another friend actually tried to talk her out of marrying him. On her wedding day, her dad offered to stop the ceremony for her. She stubbornly refused, and shortly thereafter, the marriage ended in divorce. Althought it took a few years, she now admits that we tried to talk her out of it, and we were right to do so, but she was too stubborn to listen.
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this
Mo dang I think the only thing you left off was the kitchen sink LOL ‘Preciate cha
BLOG You have to be careful when telling someone that they shouldn’t date said person or giving them too much of you .02. I say that because the person you’re trying to help, may get an attitude or start a beef with you for even saying anything. It’s just like if you see an SO of one of your friends out cheating and you go back and tell them, for some reason YOU become the bad guy. It’s simply a matter of displacement when they hoard those bad emotions onto everyone else than the actual one causing the issue.
Randyt I saw POTENTIAL. Going for what has POTENTIAL rather than going for what is already proven will cause you to shoot yourself in the foot nine times out of ten You again are so right. I am so guilty of doing that when a person won’t act or build on their potential willingly, there is nothing you can do. It’s like throwing your efforts into a bottomless pit.
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this
GA Man you are so right but I can bring desserts and mom dukes can handle that no jokes there!!! That sista can bake her buns off but not me just eat to expand my buns!!!! I know that was korney but I am hype this morning!!!! OK five flavor pound cake and potatoe pie oh and the strawberry cheesecake!!!! Any more request??? Oh the Mayfield icream oh my dad Ms Smith Aplle pie…
By Linguist
March 23, 2007 9:39 AM | Link to this
Hey E’rybody It’s been a tough week at the office, but it’s Friday so…..Gotta grab a cup of coffee, head to another dayum meeting and then its back to the blog fam…
What’s up Mo & Slim, GA.Man, Randy, ChocP, Sexione, SJ and LadyJ and er’ybody else
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this
GA Man you are so right but I can bring desserts and mom dukes can handle that no jokes there!!! That sista can bake her buns off but not me just eat to expand my buns!!!! I know that was korney but I am hype this morning!!!! OK five flavor pound cake and potatoe pie oh and the strawberry cheesecake!!!! Any more request??? Oh the Mayfield icream oh my dad Ms Smith Aplle pie…
By GA.man
March 23, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this
LIng ling walks in and see all the food on the table and starts to eat..and eat..and eat..and eat
Dang who told her..now the potatoe salad is gone with the cakes Ladyj brought and aaauuuyyymm dayuum she got the peach cobbler too…ish
Ling ling makes a mad dash for the Port-A-pottie that Musing had delivered for the bbq…(Ling Ling is wearing a lime green and orange sun dress 2 sizes tooooo small and her assets are shown while she tries to walk with cruthes
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 9:47 AM | Link to this
@Linguist…What is the deal….Happy Friday!!!
By GA.man
March 23, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this
Slim and Gaman hears some strange noises coming from the Port-a-pottie and go closer to find out if Ling Ling is ok
Slim “Girl you ok?”
Just as Slim asked the question **Ling Ling lets out a massive amount of back-up gas from eating hotlinks on yesterday…ffrrrrrrooooaaaammmmmmmppppp Slim being so close gets anose fill and passes out…Gaman grabs Slim by the collar of her shirt trying no to inhale…..
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this
ANYBODY, Can we get some Ghetto Kool Aid plz? Red or purple would be good. Yes, Red!!!
By QC
March 23, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this
Allright Slim1 i’m also bringing some honey mustard chicken strips, shishkabobs, veggie & fruit tray, & some to go plates for those who have to eat & run or get food to go
“i gotta hook up at Publix”
By QC
March 23, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this
CPeach girl i makes da bomb diggidy bomb gangsta ghetto kool-aid i’ll bring 2 gallons or red & purple
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this
@Linguist…What is the deal….Happy Friday!!!
By Sexione
March 23, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this
LadyJ mom dukes…are you referring to your mother? I ask because I recently found out that’s what my daughter and her friends refer to their moms as….and I was like WTF???? I told her she made me sound like I was a Beverly Hillbilly…too funny!! I had never heard that one til then.
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this
Slim is still not waking up but as soon as Choco Peach mentions red kool aid Slim perks up as if nothing happened. As Slim walks away, the Port-a-Pottie falls over on top of him while Ling Ling is still in it, causing a massive hazardous material spill.
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this
@Sexione yeah my mother!!!!! She can bake and mom dukes just went with that sentence but she is mama and everything else!!!
By NCgirlfromATL
March 23, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this
Slim I’ll bring the insulin, cuz clearly once everyone finishes eating all of Lady J’s and Lady D’s desserts, and QC’s Koolaid, there is going to be some sugar shock! LMAO!
I’ve got the fish for the non-meat eaters, or the Catholics (like me!). Tipalia, flounder or catfish?
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 10:06 AM | Link to this
@Sexione yeah my mother!!!!! She can bake and mom dukes just went with that sentence but she is mama and everything else!!!
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this
@QC, Good lookin…..
Gotta have that kool Aid while eating a meal like this….
Slim we got 2 jugs we need to put them on LOCK!
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 10:08 AM | Link to this
Oh everyone we need music….Can’t wait to Wed Wind down starts…Eating and jazz does me great but for a cookout bring out the old school and urban beats…
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this
We are definitely going to need some fun and games.
Slim begins setting up yellow Slip-n-Slide on the lawn and adding a little bit of baby oil for extra slipperyness.
By kinderbabe
March 23, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this
good morning everyone!!:)
hey sj how are you?
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this
Oh everyone we need music….Can’t wait to Wed Wind down starts…Eating and jazz does me great but for a cookout bring out the old school and urban beats…
By abc
March 23, 2007 10:15 AM | Link to this
You can not only date the huge mistakes, you can marry them. Then you have hell on wheels, believe me.
I dated an evil one last year, seriously crazy chick. My friend told me she thought it wouldn’t last, and that she just hoped I wouldn’t get shot. I stuck it out for awhile anyway. No, it didn’t damage our friendship — that girl is my friend for life, I’m lucky to have such a friend.
By QC
March 23, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this
lol @ NC
no need for stale cake GA.man i’m making (once again)3 dozens of my famous swanging miniature cheese cake cup cakes half w/frosting & half w/strawberries & peaches
dayum i need a good husband to enjoy all this cooking i do jeesh!
Mom’s sending her famous home made sour cream pound cake
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this
Ok I see I am the only one who have ADAD with my hands and posting…I swear I am clicking once then I exit the site…Not doing it on purpose no Blog Bullets to kill my joy today!!! Take in love!!!
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this
Ok I see I am the only one who have ADHD with my hands and posting…I swear I am clicking once then I exit the site…Not doing it on purpose no Blog Bullets to kill my joy today!!! Take in love!!!
By LawDemagodda
March 23, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this
“i gotta hook up at Publix”
I am not even going to ask…QC please leave the meatman alone
Climbing down the ladder…Out of a Ford F350…Wearing a O/W/G Famu track suit…Wit a large mean looking rattle snake on the back of track suit…below captions reads: “F/K WIT IT!!!!”
After placing ladder back in Mr.F350…LawDemagodda walks real slooooowwwwww like over to the rib pit
Good morning To All!!!
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this
Ok I see I am the only one who have ADAD with my hands and posting…I swear I am clicking once then I exit the site…Not doing it on purpose no Blog Bullets to kill my joy today!!! Take in love!!!
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this
Ok I see I am the only one who have ADHD with my hands and posting…I swear I am clicking once then I exit the site…Not doing it on purpose no Blog Bullets to kill my joy today!!! Take in love!!!
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this
NOT the slip & Slide!!! Auh…Shucks now…..
What a way to kick off the SPRING
LADIES: We got that Gillette on dec if needed & we got Kym Su Cho in the tent next door doing waxes for the low!!
WARNING: DO not SLIDE W/your stilettos on. Thank U!! lol………
By abc
March 23, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this
You can not only date the huge mistakes, you can marry them. Then you have hell on wheels, believe me.
I dated an evil one last year, seriously crazy chick. My friend told me she thought it wouldn’t last, and that she just hoped I wouldn’t get shot. I stuck it out for awhile anyway. No, it didn’t damage our friendship — that girl is my friend for life, I’m lucky to have such a friend.
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this
NOT the slip & Slide!!! Auh…Shucks now…..
What a way to kick off the SPRING
LADIES: We got that Gillette on dec if needed & we got Kym Su Cho in the tent next door doing waxes for the low!!
WARNING: DO not SLIDE W/your stilettos or Tims on. Thank U!! lol………
By kinderbabe
March 23, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this
heeyy demi
lol at ladyj i’m w/you…can’t wait til wed wind down starts too. i love those concerts.
By Blue_Kolla
March 23, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this
What up Pee-po?!
Man it is nice as hayo outside! Looks like a good day for the long azz lunch.
QC, NC How are you ladies today?! ;)
On Topic: When it comes to giving up the advice, my motto is “Mind your own business.” Relationships are too involved, and unless you’re the fly on the wall with the bird’s eye view, you’re not qualified to advise - simple as that.
By cool breeze
March 23, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this
Alot of these things aren’t mistakes but situations people particulary women walk into with their eyes wide open. I have 3 sisters and female friends and you can’t tell a woman anything. If she has her mind made up to do something she’s going to it no matter how detrimental it is. Then after the fact she’s going to blame every man alive for the actions of one and get mad when you remind why you told her why not to pursue a particular type of guy. I have a guy friend that I rely on to give me feedback on a girl I am interested in from the outside looking in to keep me honest and offer advice which is great and I actually listen and think about what he says. At imes he like yeah, she’s kool or mmmmmm, mayyyybe. I am also a guy who gives advice to guys/girls about their dating habits and gibe my opinion on what to look out for or potentially do which is fun.it doesn’t matter where the advice comes from male/female. Good advice is good advice and something to think about.
By Sexione
March 23, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this
Slim I hear ya! I’m glad to hear someone else say that because I thought my child (and her friends) had lost their minds….only they say ma dukes….lol
Well my mommie is sending her famous Sweet Potato Pies y’all!!!
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this
Choco Peach LMAO at your public service announcement
MEN: Kym Su Cho also has clean speedos selling for the low low. No homemade cutoff jean shorts are allowed on the slip-n-slide and for GOODNESS SAKES get them long azz toenails clipped. There is a toe nail length maxiumum and 3 inches is just too dayum long!
On field two, we’ll start our game of hide-n-go-get…OOPS wrong bbq I meant flag football.
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this
@Blue_Kola, U aint never lied about that longggggg a$$ lunch cause I’m sure gon have one TODAY!!!!
Going shopping for some short pants. YEAH!!!
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 23, 2007 10:36 AM | Link to this
The best time to give advice about a person is at the beginning….before the emotions are involved. After that, I think it’s more for me than for them. Somehow I feel that if I don’t say anythingt then I am being negligent as a friend.
By SeanJohnson
March 23, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this
@ KB…i am good…zoning out with my ipod…yall making me hungry talking about BBQ
@Blog Cyber Drinkers…I Dare yall to go have a drink on yall lunch break…..a realone..
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this
*@SeanJohnson…I dare you to pay my bills with real money…LOLOLOL
By SexyLeggs
March 23, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this
Good morning GaMa, SJ, ChocolatePeach, Musing,SlimOne, Demi, LadyJ and the rest To warn a friend that a person isn’t any good for them is asking for trouble. I’m with SlimOne and others in that mentioning obvious red flags in the hope that they’ll also see them is the safest way to go. People will do what people want to do…good or bad. I think Huey Lews said this “come on baby make it hurt so bad…sometimes love doesn’t feel like it should, you make it hurt so bad..I know the words mean something else, but if you flip it to bad relationship, the meaning is there and somehow that’s the charm for most knuckleheads.
Now, I am an excellent cook and will bring another batch of Peach Cobbler (since LingLing opted to be a pig and eat it all) and my infamous lemon pound cake.
By Mo
March 23, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this
Hey All I’m making a store run, anybody need anything? GAMan stop trying to spray water everywhere!!! still trying to get that wet t-shirt thang going!
QC I’ll have a cheesecake cupcake with peaches pleeze!!
By Sexione
March 23, 2007 10:43 AM | Link to this
SJ I double-dog dare ya lol You must not know…I do this quite often..please believe it!!!!
LadyJ Good one!!
By GA.man
March 23, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this
MO sssshhhhhhhhh stop telling
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this
*@SeanJohnson…I dare you to pay my bills with real money…LOLOLOL
By For Real
March 23, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this
After getting out of the burn unit at Grady, For Real shows up at the blog BBQ with box of rolaids and kaopectate. When a bright green and orange light catches his attention OMG it’s Ling-Ling in a two piece running for the slip-n-slide For Real is once again rushed to Grady burn unit..
By SeanJohnson
March 23, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this
@ Lady J…unless you working using heavy equipment.crane,backho,forklift……it’s common to have an alcoholic beverage with your lunch…its not against company policy…trust me…not telling u to get slizzard…just enjoy the nice weather with something frozen.
By QC
March 23, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this
Demi i’m not messing with da meat man…my hook up works in the fruit & veggie department
hey BK where you been? it’s good to read ya, i guess Musing is out sick today, maybe we should save him a plate??? hey kinderb
By QC
March 23, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this
U got it Mo take 2
the last time we had drinks for lunch and came back to work was so funny….
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this
@SeanJohnson…I don’t think I can either around high school students or my Principal…Not have a drink and come back to work now you would not suggest that would you? I can wait til 4 playa!!!
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this
@SeanJohnson…I don’t think I can either around high school students or my Principal…Not have a drink and come back to work now you would not suggest that would you? I can wait til 4 playa!!!
By Peachezz
March 23, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this
For Real oh my! you need to get back to the barbque cause i just showed up with a case of pork ribs, chicken, hamburgers & hot dogs
I got my tennis skirt on with my air force one’s and i am ready to PARTAY!
By Blue_Kolla
March 23, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this
What up Pee-po?!
Man it is nice as hayo outside! Looks like a good day for the long azz lunch.
QC, NC How are you ladies today?! ;)
On Topic: When it comes to giving up the advice, my motto is “Mind your own business.” Relationships are too involved, and unless you’re the fly on the wall with the bird’s eye view, you’re not qualified to advise - simple as that.
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this
@SexyLeggs…How are you on the sunny day?????
By LawDemagodda
March 23, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this
LawDemagodda spots KB and waves with one hand, while pouring GG into QC’s ghetto fab Kool Aid
Hey Dj Slim, Play some Rick James!!!
By Blue_Kolla
March 23, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this
What up Pee-po?!
Man it is nice as hayo outside! Looks like a good day for the long azz lunch.
QC, NC How are you ladies today?! ;)
On Topic: When it comes to giving up the advice, my motto is “Mind your own business.” Relationships are too involved, and unless you’re the fly on the wall with the bird’s eye view, you’re not qualified to advise - simple as that.
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this
@SeanJohnson…I don’t think I can either around high school students or my Principal…Not have a drink and come back to work now you would not suggest that would you? I can wait til 4 playa!!!
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this
@SeanJohnson…I don’t think I can either around high school students or my Principal…Not have a drink and come back to work now you would not suggest that would you? I can wait til 4 playa!!!
By SeanJohnson
March 23, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this
@ LadyJ…nah..that wouldnt be setting a good example…Didnt know u was a teacher..but lol..i can remember a few of my teachers that KEPT vodka in their coffee muggs…prolly was the best way to deal with me and the crew back in the day…when i was a lower case g…i was a mess..lol
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this
Hey…Sexi 1 & slim, I say Ma Dukes too. I never did call my mom “MOM”
Slim, Yall killin me….lmao..cutt off jean shorts. Them use to be the $hiit back in the day. Dudes, plz wear the speedos don’t be like my dad & try to bring the racing shorts or cut off jean shorts back in style.
Let that THROWBACK GO!!!!!
SJ, Up in this camp that’s all these oldies do. We got 1 lady that come in faithfully every am & get her a $1.10 coke out the machine (chaser) Catch her by noon she whispering to everybody like we in the library. She stay drunk. They also actually caught 1 in the act.They wrote him up but his retention is off the chain so I knew they wasn’t gon fire him.
I get wayyyyy to lazy after drinking if I aint partying. I wouldn’t be good for NATHAN.
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 10:59 AM | Link to this
As Slim refills her red cup with hunch punch she notices Ling Ling with a yellow train behind her…Its not a train, it’s a Slip-n-Slide Wedgie stuck in her butt and For Real is still on it! Slim goes and grabs camera for this perfect photo op
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 11:02 AM | Link to this
@SexyLeggs…How are you on the sunny day?????
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 11:02 AM | Link to this
@SeanJohnson…I know some who pack more than that to get through the day…Blogging is my outlit til I click on oneday and can’t do it anymore but I am handling my business in the classroom believe that…We are on block schedule which gives room for many different ways to learn vs straight lecturing…Anyway back to the cookout!!! @SJ…I will take a double ggw/lime for the troubles!!!:)
By kinderbabe
March 23, 2007 11:02 AM | Link to this
@sj i’m sure folks will be having bbq since the weather’s so nice. none for me, unless it’s veggie burgers..lol
hey ladyj a fellow teacher.:) i don’t see how you deal w/those older kids. i would’ve been on the local news, dateline and CNN working w/those jokers…lol
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this
@SeanJohnson…I know some who pack more than that to get through the day…Blogging is my outlit til I click on oneday and can’t do it anymore but I am handling my business in the classroom believe that…We are on block schedule which gives room for many different ways to learn vs straight lecturing…Anyway back to the cookout!!! @SJ…I will take a double ggw/lime for the troubles!!!:)
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this
RickJames-Mary Jane Booming over the loud speakers Followed by Fresh Princes Summertime
Gaman What’s up wit the grill? I haven’t seen Musing’s uncle in a minute and a slim chick like me ready to get down with the grub get down.
By SeanJohnson
March 23, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this
@ Peachezz…STOP…go back to the car and put on some sandals…i got some baby wipes in the glove compartment ..wipe ya ankles off and put on the sandals…gotta keep it sxy 24/7.
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this
@kinderbabe…I only deal with the olders but I was picked to teach summer school this summer at a middle school…Those cats are like wow!!! Freshmans work my nerves but it is a wonderful thing to see them grow when SOME attempt to change…Can’t save them all…I learned that quick!!!
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this
Peachezz while you’re in there grab some bug repellent because SJ keep attracting rolly polly’s to his chest for some reason…OOPS my bad, that’s his chest hair.
SeanJ Kym Su Cho has a special going on. With every chest waxing she’ll throw in the back and shoulders for free.
By Sexione
March 23, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this
Chocolate Catch her by noon she whispering to everybody like we in the library. Now that is funny as haayyooo!! What’s even funnier is that my daughter doesn’t call me that when she’s talking to me or about me (she always says “mommie” like a big baby), she only says that when she’s talking to her friends……Ma Dukes…lol
Slim Not the hunch punch…it’s on now!!!
Sexi now stripping down to her sexy two-piece, ready to hit the slip and slide if Ling Ling hasn’t broken it!!
By kinderbabe
March 23, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this
@lady j…i teach the little bitty ones. actually they’re back walking back in from lunch now.:( i agree that is wonderful to see students grow when they change. unfortunately, some have so many outside circumstances that make it difficult to motivate and affect their learning.
can’t WAIT til spring break!
By For Real
March 23, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this
sj I had an asst. principal that stayed drunk. On top of that for some reason he like to talk to me and tell me about his problems. Dude be so drunk he would sweat the whole day.
slim thank ain’t right as For Real screams SOMEBODY SAVE ME!!!! GET ME OFF THIS RIDE!! as the box of rolaids and kaopectate spill out all over the park
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this
@kinderbabe…I only deal with the olders but I was picked to teach summer school this summer at a middle school…Those cats are like wow!!! Freshmans work my nerves but it is a wonderful thing to see them grow when SOME attempt to change…Can’t save them all…I learned that quick!!!
By Peachezz
March 23, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this
SJ thanks for the wipes, so how do my legs look now with my sandals??
somebody need to play my favorite song>>>> FLASH LIGHT
owwww, red light, yeah baby, stop light; now i lay me downnnn to sleep hey! go P, go P, go P! don’t make me break into my “sexy robot”
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this
As For Real finally rolls of top of Slip-n-Side everyone notices huge grass and mud stain on the back of his white speedos. Slim again hones in for another photo op.
By Brit_girl
March 23, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this
In my youth I made the mistake of being the friend who tried to tell my friends about awful SOs’…but realized that only created resentment towards me. Now I look back, I can see why my friends thought I was a nosy busy body. I hadn’t always made the best choices relationship wise, so who was I to tell them what to do in theirs LOL
Now I love and support unconditionally, even if I think the SO is an idiot. As long as they are not hurting my friend physically, I say nothing. We all have to learn from our mistakes.
By SeanJohnson
March 23, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this
@ Slim…..lol..u got jokes?…my chest hair has never scratched the side of any ones face ..can you say the same about yours? lol..just kidding..By the way… i like those Daisy Flukes..lol..bout 10-15lbs in the azz and hips area…u can graduate them to Dukes..lol
By Blue_Kolla
March 23, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this
QC Stone cold chillin’. Thinking about going down to either city hall or peachtree center for lunch. There’s a plethora of fine women at both locations. See…?! You oughta join me.
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this
Question: TEACHERS, How do yall find the time to blog while teaching?
I ask cause from what I understand teachers nor students are not allowed to use the school board PC.
Hope I’m not ratting yall out. I also when there’s a will WE will find a way……….
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this
SeanJ I keep my chest hair laid with that Jam Hair Gel….It’s not only silky smooth but smells hella good too. But I don’t do the Daisy Flukes as you like to call them. I’m rocking them black and lime green biking shorts with a matching lime green tank top today and looking fly as ever…lol
By Dont worrie about my name
March 23, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this
Umm yall r lame im confused
By LawDemagdda
March 23, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this
QC shaking head do your thang sexy momma…I refuse to shop at that Publix.
LawDemagdda spots some SexyLeggs in the crowd… BishaSlap…POW!!! LawDemagdda was not badly injured while attempting to grind on SexyLeggs’s legs
By QC
March 23, 2007 11:42 AM | Link to this
Thanks BK but i’m filling in for someone in our “oval office” while all the big wheels & admin assts. go out for a big celebration, but thanks for the invite, can i get a rain check?
For Real is off da chain! Somebody needs to let LingLing join us on the blog sometimes at least to say hello, i’ll check with y’all after 3pm
By abc
March 23, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this
You can not only date the huge mistakes, you can marry them. Then you have hell on wheels, believe me.
I dated an evil one last year, seriously crazy chick. My friend told me she thought it wouldn’t last, and that she just hoped I wouldn’t get shot. I stuck it out for awhile anyway. No, it didn’t damage our friendship — that girl is my friend for life, I’m lucky to have such a friend.
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this
Dont worrie about my name Maybe your name should be No Name Lame….but since you’re here, let me introduce you to Ling Ling She’ll catch you up to speed and she loves Newbies.
By MochaTreat
March 23, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this
Good afternoon GAman, Slim, MO, QC, RAqi, Foots, Sexione, Kinder, NC, SeanJ, Randy, Demi, Musing, Lady J , CP and crew
Its friday…its firday…last day of the week and best day of the week…i’m gonna get my spa on… i’m gonna get my book club on..and I ‘m going to get my basketball on…and i’m gonna get my church on alllll weekend long
@MO Enjoy the rest of your day off and your weekend!
I had a busy morning…I have to read and catch up….I do listen to what my friends have to say but I follow my own advice.
By abc
March 23, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this
Man, this blog app is SO EFFED UP! I can’t believe that it reposted aft 2 hours. I’d think the AJC would be so embarrassed that they’d do something about it, but apparently they just don’t care. Now to press post, wait a few seconds and then F5, since the thing is so damn broken.
By Ling-Ling
March 23, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this
Ummm look at Dont worrie looking like a two piece strap to a pole.
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 11:47 AM | Link to this
Handle it SlimOne….I have your back and I know you don’t need it but hommie need to go somewhere else…Be like the homeless people who just won’t go away at a tailgate after you gave them everything…lol just thought about a moment when Dallas played the falcons here this year on a sat…lol He was almost in Grady for a night…
By Blue_Kolla
March 23, 2007 11:47 AM | Link to this
QC Stone cold chillin’. Thinking about going down to either city hall or peachtree center for lunch. There’s a plethora of fine women at both locations. See…?! You oughta join me.
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this
Ha!!! “NO NAME LAME”….Lol!!!
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this
Was sup MochaTreat…Happy, Happy, Happy Friday!!!!
By QC
March 23, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this
Y’all enjoy the food and somebody please put Musing up a plate
By Blue_Kolla
March 23, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this
QC Of course you can.
ABC Come on mann… now you know that this blog has been jacked for years now. I think that this one is just an ongoing testbed for AJC. I’ve been on those soccer mom blogs and have never seen them messed up.
By Peachezz
March 23, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this
Hey LingLing welcome aboard, if you’re still going with me this weekend let me know so i can leave your check with Slim One aight!!
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this
@MochaTreat…What is the club reading….Maybe I can read it from afar…
By LawDemagdda
March 23, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this
Chocolate Peach ATT workers shouldn’t be taking about innanet uses, during company time…Unless you work from home
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this
Here we go…Have a great weekend everyone!!!! Peace!!!!
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this
I think I’m gon go ahead & step out get me a nice chill margarita. Come on back to work about 2:30ish & laugh like h3ll!!
I’m really lmao…@abc, He writes like he’s SUPER mad at the AJC. HA!! I’m bout to fall out of my chair. HILARIOUS!!!!!
By MochaTreat
March 23, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this
@ Lady J We just got finished reading It’s no Secret by Carmen Bryan, Vanessa Satten.
By Lady J
March 23, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this
Here we go…Have a great weekend everyone!!!! Peace!!!!
By SexyLeggs
March 23, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this
Blue Kolla how’s it going? Hey, did the blog bar stock NaVan yet?
By Linguist
March 23, 2007 12:12 PM | Link to this
Ling, preparing Carmel Cake to take to blog party, sees her cousin LingLing looking depressed because GA.man doesn’t like the dress she has on.. she thought he liked them tight! Ling, knowing that Family comes first, passes her the cake to help anesthetize her emtional pain
By kinderbabe
March 23, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this
chocopeach i don’t blog while teaching. only during specials, lunch or any other time when the students are gone. btw students and teachers have access to the internet. most schools are very much technology driven.
By abc
March 23, 2007 12:14 PM | Link to this
Oh, it’s not as if I’m mad at them… but, bad work is offensive.
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 12:21 PM | Link to this
Hey, Watch it!! I’m a soccer mom too. A sexy One…..at that!
Lady J, I was just about to ask that same question. I love to read. I once was in a book club petty much older women like in their 30’s (my sister click) & ALL they did was eat. I noticed after like the 3rd meeting. All them heffas wanted to do was just get together & Eat. The book club was an Xcuse for them to get together & eat. And to make matters worse they ate 1st. Not discuss the book, When the time came around to discuss the book them heffas was sleepy U know that “ITIS”. I couldnt cont. to participate in that.
I’ve read all Zane books, Eric Jerome, Michael Baisden, I’v eread 2 of the Campbell girl , JL King, I read 2 of ELynn Harris books but that 3rd one he describes a scene/scenario about the love in his life, he gets into great detail I’m thining he talking bout a woman & he’s talking about a MAN. I STOPPED!! hat book righ there hadnt picked up another one since & I really did like his books but I’m NOT about to read that gay stuff.
OK, I’m gone for a min or 2 & I’m talkin Black Folk minute or two (CP time)
L8tr ATLaliens…….
By NCgirlfromATL
March 23, 2007 12:23 PM | Link to this
Heeeey BK!
Y’all are killing me with this blog cookout! LOL! Where is DrunkUncleMusing to man the bbq grill?
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 12:32 PM | Link to this
@Kinder, Ok!! Just curious cause I had to go to the school in ref to my nephew & they made that school PC thing out of a HUGE deal. I mean really HUGE!!
My BFF is also a 2nd grade teacher in Palm Beach & she REFUSES to use the school PC. Wondering why it was such a HUGE concern if folk were still using it.
By Linguist
March 23, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this
On Topic: I’ve never been the type of friend that was an “I told you so”, and Lord only knows there have been times that I wish I was the type. I came close, one time however, when my best friend started talking about her ne’redowell husband. I just said “uh, uh.. don’t go there with me, you know how I feel about him when he makes those kinds of comments”.. I think I used the same tone as I do with my boys when I’m upset… ‘cause all I got from her was the sound of crickets…
By DrunkUncleMusingnotGA.man
March 23, 2007 12:41 PM | Link to this
Cough..cough..cough As the smoke clears everyone see UncleMusing comes in and brings in a plate of ribs..chicken..hamburgers…hotdogs..chickenbreast he then brings in the corn and other smoke done veggies…..
As he start to talk out the side of his mouth ppl are looking trying to figure out what he just said…cause he got a cigarette in his mouth
UnckleDrunkMusing Nnaw ylla aetup alal ddaa ppoood nnnejjooy tiiii
(Now ya’ll eatup all the food and enjoy)
UncleMusing stares at Ling Ling and wonders if the zoo has left the gate open..cause he just saw a running gggooorriiilllllaaaaaa
By Peachezz
March 23, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this
Where is the Sara Lee wheat bread? i don’t like white bread and need to make me a rib sandwich to go
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this
Slim goes up to DrunkUncleMusingnotGA.man helps him with all the food and slips him another Colt45. She gets the food from him just in the nic of time before his long ashes from his cigarette drops into the food. She also notices that his ballz are hanging out of his all too short shorts and one of his football socks are muddy.
Dinner is served errybody!
By DrunkUncleMusingnotGA.man
March 23, 2007 12:57 PM | Link to this
I saw you looking at my ballzz slim they sexzzy aint they…at that moment he pulls his toooo shorts to the right and flashes slim…she passes out cause of what she saw…..
By Linguist
March 23, 2007 12:57 PM | Link to this
Slim you got to hide those “to go” plates! We did not do all this cookin’ to have folks take plates home to feed their bad azz children!
By SeanJohnson
March 23, 2007 1:02 PM | Link to this
@ ChocoPeach…you can get on the net on your laptop, blackberry or cellphone these days…technology is a fool..i can only imagine how easy it is to cheat in shcool these days…bump the cheat sheet tapped under my shirt or hat…i would have the book in my phone…
By Peachezz
March 23, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this
Slim One don’t let me forget my “to go plate” in the fridge aight!
hey UncleMusing; ah where’s your nephew??? this food is fantastic, i’m going to eat inside so i can watch the Tyra Banks show
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 1:07 PM | Link to this
Ling Help me take some of these plates and put them in the cooler stash
Slims vision is blurry as she comes to. She see’s DrunkUncleMusingnotGA.man again and also notices what looks like a huge wasp between his legs. She grabs the fly swatter and “SPLAT’!!!! Kills the hellz out of the wasp/balls and doesn’t realize what she did until he falls to the ground clutching himself
By Sexione
March 23, 2007 1:13 PM | Link to this
Whew…had to catch up….I’ve been out laughing and chillin….now I’m ready to go home!!!
I see the cookout is still going…but who let the imposter in….talking ‘bout don’t worry bout my name….go bite a brick!!! lol
Somebody might need to call the paramedics for DrunkUncleMusingnotGAman….looks like he’s turning blue.
By Peachezz
March 23, 2007 1:18 PM | Link to this
i’ll check back in a hour, enjoy your food bloggers
By kinderbabe
March 23, 2007 1:22 PM | Link to this
chocopeach it depends on what your nephew was using it for. naturally for students, they encourage them to use learning based websites not bow wow’s webpage and stuff that’s entertainment related. a lot of school system’s have filters (which we do) that block access to certain sites. ajc is not a restricted website for us. i guess that’s a plus for me.:) but your nephew could have been in trouble for being on a website that is not approved by the school or school district.
i understand your friend’s concern because a lot of web administrators are more strict than others. with our school system they do monitor what websites are accessed by each employee by a huge computer that someone keeps track of.
By Linguist
March 23, 2007 1:23 PM | Link to this
On Topic: Question for the Blog Fam
Hubby and I hosted a BBQ last summer. We had about 25 people over. One of our really good male friends came up to me and said “remember me telling you about dude that was trying - with everything he could- to hook up with a group of women on that ski trip last year? Well, that’s him over there. Homeboy was off the hook!”.. Now, mind you I was knee deep on the grill, cutting the cake, u know doing e’rything (Hubby of course was chilling with his boyz).
Well, I finally had a chance to look up and see who my friend was talking about and lo and behold, it was my BFF Hubby … WTH????????? I had to really compose myself, and was able to squeakily eek out “um.. R u sure about that”. He response (and this is a direct quote) “why would I lie?” He laughed shook his head apparently at the memory and walked off to join the party..
I’d like to add that the friend who told me, didn’t know that the man in question was my BFF hubby. We had a lot of people over - you know, friends bringing their friends, and so on.. So I believed him. Was I shocked? No… Was I disappointed? You bet. Did I tell my BFF?… No.
You see, although every ounce in my body tells me that he did it.. I didn’t witness it myself.
But do you have to “see” it to “believe it”? I so desperately want to tell my BFF.. But I have to check my own rational behind such a move. While I don’t relish “I told you so”… I don’t like the idea of her being made a fool of. Truth be told, I’d want my girls to tell me if something was amiss with my own hubby…. Thoughts?
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 23, 2007 1:23 PM | Link to this
Slim you got me dying over here!!
By SeanJohnson
March 23, 2007 1:34 PM | Link to this
@ Ling…thats hear say….u have no real proof..nothing concrete..plus…i bet you anything..she wont believe it and u risk a chance of her thinking u are trying to sabatoge her shyt..not that u are…like i said before u have to becareful who u get info from…because unless i see if for myself..i woundt act on it..but i will investigate closely. and for all u know..she prolly knows..
By DrunkUncleMusingnotGA.man
March 23, 2007 1:36 PM | Link to this
ooooooouuuuuuccchhhhhh!!!!! dang dang dang dang dang dang dang…anybody got some ice…..oooohhhh isssshhhh this hurtsssssss now crying and singing nobody knows the trouble isee….nobody knows my sorroooowwww
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 23, 2007 1:36 PM | Link to this
Ling I think when people are married it’s different….the stakes are much higher and easier to walk away from a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship vs. marriage. I think I would feel guilty telling a married person about their spouse’s indiscretion. Plus, he was trying….he didn’t succeed (right?) with hooking up. So what dude saw was heavy flirting…still not good. But do I think she would take that to divorce court? No..and she shouldn’t..so need to tell! I think I would live with a little guilt of not telling in that situation…but you can’t ever tell down the road…if he screws up again…you can’t be like…well, this isn’t his first time…I just never told you about the ski trip….
But if this was the NBS ski trip…no married men or boyfriends should go without their women. It’s a meat market!
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 1:38 PM | Link to this
WHOA Ling that’s a toughy. Has your BFF ever expressed any concern to you about her marriage or does she seem very content with it?
By DuShawn
March 23, 2007 1:42 PM | Link to this
Linguist Even if you did witness it yourself, I don’t think it’s your place to get involved. If I saw my best friend’s wife leaving a hotel room with another man, I don’t think I would tell him. If the situation were reversed, I wouldn’t want him to tell me. Ignorance is bliss. I would rather not know…..until she wants me to.
By Linguist
March 23, 2007 1:52 PM | Link to this
@SJ: risk a chance of her thinking u are trying to sabatoge her shyt.. Exactly.. funny how people can think that way.. You want your friends to be successful, happy and all the earthly trappings, ‘cause that’s what friends do, but the minute you start treading into the unchartered waters of “your hubby may be a player”, you can get your teeth kicked out.
@LDD NBS.. girl, you know it was. Now apparently there are “off-shoots” to this, under the guise of a more “family friendly” trip.I think if something likes this comes up again, I mayhaveto drop a hint. It just breaks my heart though.
Slim Yes, she’s expressed concern, but you know, it has more to do with needing his help around the house more, spend more time with the kids, quality family time, you know the drill.. We’ve never really talked about this other side of him. All of us know that he is a flirt, but she and I just don’t talk about it.. you know, the “pink elephant in the middle of the room” thing.. we just ignore it, even though it’s looming in front of our faces..
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 2:00 PM | Link to this
Ling well seems like to me that you should remain blind to that huge azz pile of elephant shyt even though the smell my bother you. As already previously stated, marriage is on a whole different level and then you mentioned kids too. As much as it is a burden for you carrying this little secret, it won’t compare to what you’ll have to carry if their household is torn apart by him ‘trying’ to get some. As silly as it is, you’ll be held accountable for the breakup.
By Linguist
March 23, 2007 2:03 PM | Link to this
Ling, realizes that she has brought the tone down at the blog block party, a tad too much. She stops putting the utensils in the salad bowls, takes the “to go” plates and hides them in the cooler stash. She eye’s Peachezz to go plate and makes mental note to tell that girl and little somethin’ somethin’ when she gets back.. Ling, looking for Slim, “if that girl is behind that tree making out with Musing’s Uncle, she’s gonna get it”..
And yes, DuShawn you are probably right, I need to mind my own business.. Maybe ignorance really is bliss!
By Ling-Ling
March 23, 2007 2:03 PM | Link to this
For Real strolls back in to the Blog BBQ still high on the morphine shot he got from Grady singing
**You might not ever get rich But let me tell ya it’s better than diggin’ a ditch There ain’t no tellin’ who you might meet A movie star or maybe even an Indian chief
By NCgirlfromATL
March 23, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this
It’s funny how men seem to differ on the answer to Ling’s question from women. Personally, if it were my best friend (or the other way around), I’m quite sure she’d want me to tell her at least to be on the lookout. I don’t know how you do that without causing drama that might not be necessary. But, when I ran up on my friend’s SO w/ another woman (who turned out to be the wife of 9 yrs he neglected to tell my friend about), she was mad b/c I didn’t tell her sooner! (Told her the next day.) Unless you know for sure that he’s the guy, you should probably keep that info under your hat. But, if I were you, I’d keep my eyes peeled on him just in case I witnessed something yourself that the friend should be concerned about.
By SeanJohnson
March 23, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this
@ Linquist…one more thing…if dude is messy enough to holla at his wifes friends or even his wifes friends friends…dont worry ..you want have to tell her…he is going to tell on his own dumb azz. But then again…who knows that coulda been a swinging ski trip…
By Sexione
March 23, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this
After his exam the doctor said to the elderly man, “You appear to be in good health. Do you have any medical concerns you would like to ask me about?” “In fact, I do,” said the old man. “After I have sex I am usually hot and sweaty, and then, after I have it with her the second time, I am usually cold and chilly.”
After examining his elderly wife, the doctor said,”Everything appears to be fine. Do you have any medical concerns that you would like to discuss with me?”
The lady replied that she had no questions or concerns. The doctor then said to her: “Your husband had an unusual concern. He claims that he is usually hot and sweaty after having sex with you the first time, and then cold and chilly after the second time. Do you know why?”
“Oh that crazy old fart, she replied. “That’s because the first time is usually in August and the second time is in January.”
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 2:13 PM | Link to this
behind that tree making out with Musing’s Uncle, she’s gonna get it Ling* ohhhhhh you know you wrong for that one…but LOLOLOLOLOL!
By DrunkUncleMusingnotGA.man
March 23, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this
Comes from behind the tree with slim..singing *Aint nooooo mountaiiin higggghhh enoouugghh lights a cigarette….
By DuShawn
March 23, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this
SeanJ that’s my point, what you do in the dark will come to light. Women always want to run and tell something. Mind your own dayum business. Where I’m from snitches catch stitches.
By Linguist
March 23, 2007 2:25 PM | Link to this
Pssssssst.. NCgirl quiet as it’s kept. Her hubby was driving down our street the other day. I was outside with the kids, when he honked his horn. I looked up, and rather than wave, I held up 2 fingers, like a “V”, and made the motion from my eyes to his, back and forth. You know, the un-written, saying.. I’m watching you
lolololololol
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 2:28 PM | Link to this
Slim comes from behind the tree laughing her butt off at DrunkUncleMusingnotGA.man trying to smoke that cigarette with all that glaze around his mouth. She goes inside and takes a clorox bath.
By Peachezz
March 23, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this
Ok so what is a BFF? Now *LingLing & UncleMusingnotGA.man been going at it?
By DrunkUncleMusingnotGA.man
March 23, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this
Thats all right (as he wipes the glaze off) i had you holllaring Go uncle, go uncle..yes uncle yes uncle hahahaha i made you say uncle
By For Real
March 23, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this
A man sits at the side of his wife in her hospital bed. The wife says honey we have be married for 68yrs and I want you to know that I love you. Man replied I love you too. The wife says, honey when my time is done I want you to get my old chest. I left something in there for you but promise me you will not open the chest until I am gone. Man agreed. Visiting time was over and the kissed his wife and went home. The husband tried to sleep but he couldn’t stop thinking about what’s in that chest. So he decides to open the chest. Inside he found an ear of corn and a check for $75,000. He puts the things back in the chest and goes to sleep. The next day he confessed to his wife that he looked inside of the chest last night and asked her to forgive him. The wife did. He asked his wife what did the ear corn mean? The wife said the ear of corn represented her infidelity. The husband says well in 68 yrs you only were unfaithful once I can forgive you for that but what is the $75,000 check for? The wife said, well honey I had to do something with all those ears of corn I collected.
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 23, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this
My brother has a friend that is/was going to marry a woman after only 6mos. He was recently divorced and had lost his job as a police officer because of claims of domestic violence. My brother asked him if he was sure about what he was doing and what was the rush? Later, when I asked him how Mike was doing he didn’t know…hadn’t talked to him in a while….and that was just over him asking a question?
By Linguist
March 23, 2007 2:38 PM | Link to this
ROTFLMAO @ SLim She goes inside and takes a clorox bath.
@Peachezz… BFF = Best Friend Forever
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 2:39 PM | Link to this
DrunkUncleMusingnotGA.man Either way, you didn’t realize that was Ling Ling disquised as Slim One. I hope you enjoyed.
By SeanJohnson
March 23, 2007 2:39 PM | Link to this
@ DuShawn…TRUE…NCATLIEN is talking crazy, eratic and emotional…and if she tells her friend she is going to look like a fool…example…all dude will say is..who are you going to be believe..her or me?…baby i love you and i wouldnt risk what we have on one of them skank azz hiznoes..now come here..kiss her..give her some good D..a hour or two later..she will looking crazy fixing me a grill cheese sandwhich bucknaked…saying to her self..NC is hating cause i got something good..STOP SNITCHING
By Peachezz
March 23, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this
For Real You wanna go out sometime? Just thought i’d ask i’m not even sure if you’re single; if you’re not please excuse me - you just seem to be really cool and the equivilant of Musing hicup!
okay did somebody spike the kool aid
By DuShawn
March 23, 2007 2:45 PM | Link to this
There is an important distinction that I neglected to stress in my previous post. ”If I saw my best friend’s wife leaving a hotel room with another man, I don’t think I would tell him.” However, If that’s just his lady and he’s considering promoting her. I got to tell him so she can be properly classified. I was in a similar situation in college. I started dating this young freshmen track star chick. I started to really dig her and was considering making her my lady. The bruz noticed how much time we were spending together. One of the Que’s came up to me and said “DuShawn, I see you feeling lil black (that’s what we called her amongst ourselves, because she was short and dark skinned),” I said, ”Yeah bruh, I like her” He, without hesitation, said ”Dawg you know Curt (another Que) f&ked her. I knew then she could only go so far with me.
By Linguist
March 23, 2007 2:48 PM | Link to this
@LDD See? men trip too! It’s not an exclusive club to women! lolololol
Ling, shaking her head at the mental picture of Ling-Ling stuffing her girth into a Slim-suit, suddenly spits out the potato salad… she covers her mouth after throwing up a little bit..
By DrunkUncleMusingnotGA.man
March 23, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this
Aint no way 400 lbs…gonna fit in yo clothes so find another excuse
By Sexione
March 23, 2007 2:51 PM | Link to this
BFF Best Friend Forever
I’m outta here…..have a wonderful weekend everyone!!!
By C tha 1
March 23, 2007 2:51 PM | Link to this
@ Dushawn & SeanJohnson,
I understand snitches catch stitches but are yall serious that it your saw your best friend’s SO steppin out on him or her you wouldn’t step up and say something. Yall would really let you’re best friend play themselves with someone not worthy?
Of course its a sticky situation but there is a way around everything. At least in the world I stay in.
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this
Whew……It’s HOTT!!!! out there. I could have swore I seen the devil..lol…at my own silly joke!! Anyway, Playing catch up here…Auh let’s ee..
SJ, yeah forgot about all this new technology. I can’t stand it. I’m so old school. I refuse to give away my CD collection. Err body on MP3, I’m still on CD’s.
Kinder,Yeah, aint no tellin what porn site he was on.
Ling, Whoa Baby!!! My thing has ALWAYS been “What I dont know…won’t hurt me”
Sad as it is. Man, I think we gon bake this summer.
By Peachezz
March 23, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this
thanks guys, hiccup, hiccup, hiccup i’m taking some of this kool aid hhhome, and freeze to make me some old skool freeze pops
By SeanJohnson
March 23, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this
@ C…dawg i am speaking from experience..its best to mind your own business and stay out of the middle of your boys love affairs once its gets to a certain point….. if its meant to be he will find out…thats one of the unsaid rules to the game….all she will do is deny it until the end..give him brains..and smooth it over..its just certain things in life you have to go through and cant be told..to my friends..i am a true friend..and i will be there to pick them up when they fall…but i cant always hold their hand when they are falling.
@ ChocoPeach…u are from FLA..u should be use to the heat..just and excuse for you to wear less..
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this
On the for real if I seen my peeps SO whether it be male or female U best believe I’m going to make it known.
I won’t say nothing to the other half but let’s just say I happen to run up on them hanging out club, movie, concert, beach where ever. I will walk right up & introduce myself so they’ll (SO)know game has definitely peep game.
And if it was a situation where I was unable to speak. I would defintely be sure the next time we see each other it will be brought up among ourselves. That’ll give em something to think about!!
By DuShawn
March 23, 2007 3:17 PM | Link to this
C tha 1 If it was his wife. I would stay out of it, but I would let her know that I saw her. She would probably be so fearful of me telling her man, she’ll snitch on herself. Like I said previously, if they’re still dating, I would say something to prevent him from further investing in an inevitable failure. If there married “let no man puteth under what god has brought together..” I don’t think I would tell him and I know I wouldn’t want my potnah to approach me with something negative about my wife…..even if it is true. If I’m unaware, then I can’t worry about it. What’s the point of bringing it to my attention? Before we had that conversation I was happy. After that conversation I would be miserable. Is that what friends are for?
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 3:19 PM | Link to this
Yeah you’re right DrunkUncleMusingnotGA.man I only did it in exchange for you cooking the meat…Gaman never paid me for my bar or djing and i’m broke. I’m so ashamed.
Slim goes over to cash bar, snatches whole bottle of Henny,downs about half the bottle, takes off all her clothes and run and slides down the slip and slide
So are we ready for the water balloon relay?
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this
SJ Yes, I was partially raised in the swap however the heat here & there is different. You know the humidity/climate here is DRY & in FLA it’s sort of cool cause we have the water there (lakes, beaches, canals & etc) Then too I never did come out in the heat too tough while living down there. We all came out after 6ish w/a heep of powder all over our chest. Lol…..
Boi, those were the good ol days. I dont care for the summer to tough. I luv winter!! I get really mean in the summer time.
By C tha 1
March 23, 2007 3:24 PM | Link to this
@SJ
Maybe I have a different brand of tough love. I’m the type of brutha that’ll pull his homey over (male or female) and say: “Let me tell you something you don’t want to hear.”
It could possibly shatter theire world, but at least they will know that they have one person that won’t sugarcoat the truth for them. True, ignorance is bliss, but the truth will set you free.
I can’t hang around anybody ignorant to what is really going on … I’ll have too many jokes. In Ling’s case the victim seems to be a woman. Well, what can I say women lead with their emotions and tend to fall for the okee doke. If you were to logically break down the reality to a woman it is not gonna register because she may want to hold on to what she believes is true.
But on the other hand a dude should not be as emotional and have the ability to Man Up and accept what strong logic is showing him. I understand love can make you do blah, blah, blah, and whatever sad love song you got. But get like Michael Baisden and cry in the dark … by yo damn self, dry the tears up and go handle your business.
I’m not the type of dude to say I told you so (at least I try not to be). But damnit I told you she wasn’t shyt! I mean who wants to be the butt of jokes all the time?
By Blue_Kolla
March 23, 2007 3:25 PM | Link to this
DuShawn I said, ”Yeah bruh, I like her” He, without hesitation, said ”Dawg you know Curt (another Que) f&ked her. I knew then she could only go so far with me.
Where do I sign?
SeanJ Man I’m telling chicks about “Mind your own business” all of the time, but they just don’t get it. I’ll be at the finish line with the towel, water, and maybe a medal. What you do IN the race is on you.
By Teddy
March 23, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this
I can understand telling a friend if you (beyond doubt) witnessed something that needs to be known. But I have noticed that at times folks tend to make assumptions & speculation to what they think might be going on. I’m just saying if you dont have facts (proof) then thing might be better off kept to self.
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 23, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this
DuShawn If your boy did tell you about your wife would you be mad at him?
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this
If you have hard evidence, then by all means let your buddy know. However, if all you saw was some harmless flirting or the person simply standing next to the opposite sex then keep out of the biz.
By Peachezz
March 23, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this
Slim One ooh “water balloons” girl let me go change into my white tee shirt and put on some shorts & my air force one’s
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 23, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this
Kinda back on topic One of my male friends told me that he was going to separate from his wife. I was sorry to hear that. He told one of his boys and his boy was like..I never liked her My friend was like, how am I ever going to talk about my wife to him again knowing how he really feels about my wife. He also stated that he wouldn’t be able to bring her around if they reconciled knowing how he feels about her….I guess he may have ruined their friendship with that comment.
Ling you’re right…it’s not just a girl thing!
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 3:38 PM | Link to this
Peachezz we’re going to need to fellas in on this one. We all need to be Male, Female, Male, Female…..and whoever it was that said they were bi-curious, I guess it doesn’t matter where you stand.
When need some balloon relay music….what should we play for this one yall?
By C tha 1
March 23, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this
Dushawn & SJ I’m not married, and I understand and respect that the rules change when one jumps the broom. I live as a single man and try my best to stay true to my “homey code”. I’m sure you fellas probably do the same.
I guess what I am trying to say is that the world is made up of predators and prey. And at any given point the tables can be turned and you’re someones prey. Trust me I hate to rain on someone’s parade, but I guess in the case of marriage I could keep silent and let the chips fall where they may for the sake of peace. But if it wear my best friend or better yet my brother…F*&^ that S$%#, I’m snitchin! We can fall out and never speak again, and if he wants to cleave all the hell wants to cleave then so be it.
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this
And for all of you not participating in the balloon relay, you can check out the foam filled moonwalk over at tent #3. Only swimwear allowed.
By Peachezz
March 23, 2007 3:45 PM | Link to this
Allright SlimOne
SJ u wanna be my potnah? i don’t know where For Real is, so yes/no?
we should play a game of slip & slide football, hide & go get, red rover or something it’s too nice outside to just sit, eat & drank
By LawDemagdda
March 23, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this
We seem to have, “Mind your own business”, topic at lease twice a month…next it’s…
By SeanJohnson
March 23, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this
@ Slim…why are you hating on bi females…just asking?
By DuShawn
March 23, 2007 3:47 PM | Link to this
Lady The few men on this earth that I consider to be friends, I have known for at least twenty years. During that time, not one of those men have come to me and said they saw a SO of mine participating in any questionable behavior. For them to build up enough nerve to confront me about something they observed my WIFE doing, I’m sure required a lot of thought and they finally concluded it was in my best interest to say something. When I consider the source and their history with me, I would tend to believe them. I couldn’t be mad at him, but I wish he would have kept his mouth shut. Now I’m forced to deal with it.
By C tha 1
March 23, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this
Dushawn & SJ understand my position is guided by the fact that one has strong evidence supporting one’s claim. I just saw stop snitchin and it drew out some of my opinions about that topic.
By NCgirlfromATL
March 23, 2007 3:52 PM | Link to this
Thank you C tha 1! SJ, DuShawn & BK are smoking the crack pipe! How do you call yourself a friend and let that person end up in a potentially dangerous situation (hello! HIV people!) I understand the snitches get stitches thing, but frankly, I think the attitude that you might damage your friendship with that person is selfish. If one of my friends couldn’t handle me telling them what I saw, and wanted to blame me for the demise of their relationship, then apparently our friendship wasn’t that strong to begin with. I’m no drama queen, and I do my best to stay out of my friend’s business. But, I’m also not going to let someone I care about be played for a sucka. Sorry.
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 3:55 PM | Link to this
SeanJ how am I hating on bi females? It’s all love over here. I thought I was being nice by allowing them to have the choice of who they partner with. Right now you sound like a married dude trying to pick a fight with his wife just so he’ll have a reason to leave the house.
SJ’s wifey: hey hun, I got the mail. All you had was a Vibe magazine.
SeanJ: ALL I GOT WAS A MAGAZINE? WHAT CHU MEAN THAT’S ALL I GOT?
SJW: why are you yelling and what’s up with you?
SeanJ: OH…OH…So you Questioning me now?! You know what, i can’t take this, I’m outta here!
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 3:57 PM | Link to this
LMA all the way O @ Slim “bi curious don’t matter where U stand”.
OPTIONS…..Wow!!
By SeanJohnson
March 23, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this
@ Peaches…we cant be potnas.being that you are For Real girl and someone may see us and go back and tell him.. Just f’ing with you For Real..
@ C….i feel you dog…but man..i am telling you..u pull your boys coat to his main..and he still may play the fool…things are different now..we are not kids anymore..she is doing thing…could be financially..could be sxually that could really have dudes judgement fcked up..and until he wants to see whats going on and remove himself from that equation..u doing that could make the bond yall have not as tight due to him not wanting to look like a simp in front of you…u feel me?
By Peachezz
March 23, 2007 4:00 PM | Link to this
SJ i belongs to “no one dear” and i need a potnah!
please don’t make me ask Musings drunk uncle
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this
I’ve always wondered why men try & pick a arguement just to leave.
Dude, Just leave why dont cha. KRAZY!!!
By SexyLeggs
March 23, 2007 4:08 PM | Link to this
I wasn’t laughing at SlimOne…just being curious and not even acting upon it has caused some noses to frown up as if stink has just passed them by. I wonder what dirty, foul or exciting thoughts against the grain of society are in most minds…oh well.
By SeanJohnson
March 23, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this
@ Slim…it will go like this because being the man i am..my business will be taking care at home FIRST
SJ..babe i am about to ride out for a minute.see somebody about a horse..need anything before i go..remote…phone..bowl of icecream?
Wifey Material…baby u are so sweet..thanks Sean..but i am good..
SJ… be back later..gimme some sugah..be ready for some exxtra good loving when i get back
Wifey Material…mmmmmm…be safe babe…wake me up with it if i am sleep like u normally do…
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this
Choco Peach If you got a chance to see Chris Rock’s movie I Think I Love My Wife he picks a fight with his wife so he can go hangout….the reason he used was hilarious.
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 23, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this
DuShawn Your words are the very words that my Reverend says. He always say that you really don’t want to know because then you’re forced to act on that knowledge….
Note to Self Evaluate whether you need to tell or just want to tell…there’s a difference…hmmmm….I’ll have to think on that one.
By DuShawn
March 23, 2007 4:11 PM | Link to this
NCgirl I knew it was just a matter of time before someone raised the HIV banner. If your girl’s man is out there tricking raw and coming home, it’s already too late. Additionally, what purpose does it serve to tell your friend. Is it somehow better to receive bad news sooner as opposed to later? Inevitably, if he continues this behavior she will find out. The incident that you witnessed may have been her man’s only indiscretion. She may not ever have found out and they continue to love one another, grow old and live happily ever after. But your snitchin azz had to say something.
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this
SexyLeggs don’t sound so down or worried about the folks on here. My best friend came out to me after college. I am no less of a friend to her now as i was then and you’ll be surprised how many chicks (no matter how much they claim to frown upon it) have experimented in their day.
SeanJ whatever you say bud. So if you’re walking out the door to get in between a pair of legs and you girl tells you she needs some then…you’re prepared to give it to her, then turn right around and give it to some other chick within a matter of hours?
By Blue_Kolla
March 23, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this
NC …are smoking the crack pipe! How do you call yourself a friend and let that person end up in a potentially dangerous situation (hello! HIV people!)
Not at all. It’s just that you as an outsider are not qualified to speak on someone else’s relationship.
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 4:21 PM | Link to this
I’ll have to go check that out. When it makes it to the dollar movie.
By SeanJohnson
March 23, 2007 4:22 PM | Link to this
@ Slim…is that a question or are you assuming??? i said i was going to see a man about a horse…
By For Real
March 23, 2007 4:22 PM | Link to this
Slim Ain’t nothing better than Jerry Springer but New Jerry Springer. So, YES give her some and then go give the other one some. It’s called making your rounds..
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 23, 2007 4:22 PM | Link to this
Okay, after further consideration I would tell my girlfriend if she’s stated that she would want me to (which they all have). I think women talk about stuff like that and we let each other know if we would want to know or not and I would respect her wishes.
By For Real
March 23, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this
CP Dang the movie is that bad you wouldn’t even rent it for $2.99???
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this
Choco Peach LOL…dollar movie. Yep good idea.
By Ben
March 23, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this
Yes, I and my friend were trying to tell my ex-girlfriend to dump the guy she had started going out with. Of course she didn’t want to listen to me because I was the EX. My friend on the other hand was her best friend at work. Her, her family and most of her friends wanted her to go back with me. But this is a girl who always thinks she is right, everybody else is wrong. She is 33, I am 38. The loser she started dating was 44 bald, had a gimpy leg in her friend’s words, and looked like a circus clown with no makeup. He also had a kid and a loser job. We’ll she finally broke up with him, but if you get her talking about it she will never admit it that she was wrong, it’s always the guys fault. I still care about her and tried to rekindle something, but her mind was always somewhere else. And here’s an update, the loser is starting to come around here again. See I was the BF after this loser to begin with, we dated for 10 months, broke up and she ran back to him. She dated him 2 months again which is the longest she has ever stayed with him. Then broke up, they have been apart 1 month and now’s he’s coming back. That’s 3 times. Guess some girls can never see it when it’s screaming in their eyes that this guy is a LOSER. Also I’m 38 have a career and my hair. And I don’t look like Chester the Molester standing next to her, like I just robbed the cradle. I don’t know how me and my friends influence did anything at all. I just think some girls need to fall down or bump their head enough to realize that their friends only care about them, and wouldn’t say anything if they didn’t. It’s sorry to say the only way some people learn. They have to go thru pain.
By DuShawn
March 23, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this
Lady I don’t give a dayum. Snitch on all of them. Just Keep my name out ya mouth…;). I can’t take anymore, I gotta get out of here.
Be blessed.
By Peachezz
March 23, 2007 4:28 PM | Link to this
If we’re not going to play any games i’m going to put my jeans back on, pull my hair back into a pony tail and get ready ride out so i can:
PARTY LIKE A ROCK STAR, PARTY LIKE A ROCK STAR
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 4:29 PM | Link to this
SeanJ you must have missed the previous blog from the other day about horses and other barnyard animals. If you don’t know you might want to ask Randyt since you leave your girl to ‘see a man about a horse’ LMAO
For Real YES give her some and then go give the other one some. It’s called making your rounds so it that why you carry baby wipes around in your car?
By Ben
March 23, 2007 4:29 PM | Link to this
Yes, I and my friend were trying to tell my ex-girlfriend to dump the guy she had started going out with. Of course she didn’t want to listen to me because I was the EX. My friend on the other hand was her best friend at work. Her, her family and most of her friends wanted her to go back with me. But this is a girl who always thinks she is right, everybody else is wrong. She is 33, I am 38. The loser she started dating was 44 bald, had a gimpy leg in her friend’s words, and looked like a circus clown with no makeup. He also had a kid and a loser job. We’ll she finally broke up with him, but if you get her talking about it she will never admit it that she was wrong, it’s always the guys fault. I still care about her and tried to rekindle something, but her mind was always somewhere else. And here’s an update, the loser is starting to come around here again. See I was the BF after this loser to begin with, we dated for 10 months, broke up and she ran back to him. She dated him 2 months again which is the longest she has ever stayed with him. Then broke up, they have been apart 1 month and now’s he’s coming back. That’s 3 times. Guess some girls can never see it when it’s screaming in their eyes that this guy is a LOSER. Also I’m 38 have a career and my hair. And I don’t look like Chester the Molester standing next to her, like I just robbed the cradle. I don’t know how me and my friends influence did anything at all. I just think some girls need to fall down or bump their head enough to realize that their friends only care about them, and wouldn’t say anything if they didn’t. It’s sorry to say the only way some people learn. They have to go thru pain.
By NCgirlfromATL
March 23, 2007 4:31 PM | Link to this
BK/DuShawn I think you guys have the wrong idea about what I’m saying. I do not relish the idea of being the bearer of that kind of news. Some women loooooove to mix it up like that. I can’t stand it! But, to me it’s not about speaking on someone else’s relationship. I’m not making a judgment about the good or the bad of their relationship. The one and only time I’ve ever been in this situation, I literally told her only what I saw, and stressed the importance of her not jumping to conclusions and instead obtaining the facts. She remained calm, and it turned out that what I saw was only the tip of the iceberg. And clearly, the men of the blog seem to be of the opinion that they wouldn’t want to know if their woman was cheating. Women tend to be different. Another difference of the sexes. But, I would want to know. We’re all putting our own preferences in our responses and waving them around like they are the only logical response. There have been many times that I didn’t say a word (and regretted it later). And yes DuShawn if ole boy is hitting it raw, and contracts a disease, there is a chance my friend could already have it…or not! Bottom line for me is that it’s about caring about a friend’s well-being. Not about being nosy or snitching or dramatic. I’d much rather they find out w/o me ever being involved.
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this
Peachezz sorry girl, looks like the men folk are sccccarrrreeddd
By For Real
March 23, 2007 4:34 PM | Link to this
Slim Yep because sometime a person will throw-up on you.. lol
By SeanJohnson
March 23, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this
@ Slim..no..i didnt miss it..but um…no offence to the homey Randy…when i say see man about a horse or sheep for that matter..its a figure of speech..i dont mean literally..lol…and every one should carry baby wipes in their car…u never know when your hands or mouth will have something sticky on them..dang girl…you have an issue trusting men? we may need to take this up monday..
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 4:38 PM | Link to this
Slim changes song to Mario Winans “I don’t want to know”
Somebody said they saw you The person you were kissing wasn’t me And I would never ask you I just kept it to myself
I don’t wanna know If your playin me, keep it on the low Cause my heart can’t take it anymore And if your creepin, please don’t let it show Oh baby, I don’t wanna know
I think about it when I hold you When lookin in your eyes, I can’t believe I don’t need to know the truth Baby keep it to yourself
Did he touch you better then me (touch you better then me) Did he watch you fall asleep (watch you fall asleep) Did you show him all those things that you used to do to me (do to me baby) If your better off that way (better off that way) Baby what I like to say (all that I can say) Go on and do your thing and don’t come back to me (Stay away from me baby)
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 4:40 PM | Link to this
Ahhh HA!!! @For Real, there U go!!
U were hiding whe peachezz needed a partner. Lol….
Yeah Man, $ movie. I guess I can added to my Total Aceess from Blockbuster when it comes out but the $ movie in Gwinnett usually gets the new relases pretty fast.
All movies aren’t for the theatre in my opinion. For me it has to be off the chain like Departed, Running Scared, Who made the potato Salad & etc.
Never been a chris Rock fan.
By Peachezz
March 23, 2007 4:40 PM | Link to this
I’m leaving for the day i had sooooo much fun with all of you; we must do this again the friday before Easter. Y’all be safe and have a blessed weekend.
Sweet Peachezz is out, peace
By For Real
March 23, 2007 4:42 PM | Link to this
Alright good people yall have a good weekend. Oh Public Enemy will be at Sugar Hill on Sunday.
By Linguist
March 23, 2007 4:44 PM | Link to this
Wow, I step away for a moment and all heck breaks loose about snithing!
Well, I’m actually glad that this has sparked an amicable debate among the male blog fam…
While to a certain extent I agree with leaving well enough alone, especially as I didn’t see it with my own eyes, but I have seen other instances that I thought were “inappropriate” for a married man. I would never talk to him, that’s for his boys to do, but my allegiance is to my BFF - not him, and - not to their relatiionship.
If I decide to tell her, it would the same way I would want someone to tell me - with dignity, honestly and sincerity. No playing games, “girl, my friend, who said his friend, who said this guy…” None of that nonsense.
While it is troubling that there would be significant ramifications from this conversation, how long do I as a friend wait around for the other shoe to drop? IMHO…
by the way NCgirl… I agree with the whole HIV/STD thing..
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this
For Real I guess you aren’t going to let me live that down. I thought we were partnahs but i guess one little speck of vomit tears friendships apart.
SeanJ I was only kidding but that did sound funny though..lol u never know when your hands or mouth will have something sticky on them..dang girl…you have an issue trusting men? we may need to take this up monday Sticky? LMAO….and yeah i have some trust issues…you have a remedy for that?
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 4:53 PM | Link to this
I tell my nieces & nephews that ALL the time because they love asking grown folk where the goin.
I say, C the man about the dog.
they come back with, what dog? Aunt T U gettin a dog? Boi, I tell ya U can’t win for loosing with them kids.
Yall Hold it down…. Peace ^ Chocolate Out
By SlimOne
March 23, 2007 4:56 PM | Link to this
I see how yall folks are going just eat and leave huh? Don’t even offer to help clean up all this mess
see if i plan another blog bbq
By SexyLeggs
March 23, 2007 4:57 PM | Link to this
Good night all - have a safe and fun-filled weekened
By LawDemagdda
March 23, 2007 4:58 PM | Link to this
Ben Wow!! You sound bless in alot of areas…just not bless in the needed area
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 5:01 PM | Link to this
Slim, I gotta cleaning crew they’ll be thru there in a few. Go ahead & leave
They gave a sista the hook up.
By SexyLeggs
March 23, 2007 5:01 PM | Link to this
WOW, forgot all about the blog bbq…I’ll help clean up.
By Chocolate Peach
March 23, 2007 5:01 PM | Link to this
Slim, I gotta cleaning crew they’ll be thru there in a few. Go ahead & leave
They gave a sista the hook up.
By Teddy
March 26, 2007 8:07 AM | Link to this
Maybe I am too early for the post this morning, but I have a situation that I would love to get some insight from the fellas on the blog. First of all good Monday Morning to everyone.
I am currently engaged to be married and my fiance and I are splitting up. Reason, he sees no problem with talking to his ex’s (7 total) on the phone for hours in a day. He recently emailed one of his ex’s and stated in the email that he believes his promise was to be with her and he loves her. That is the short version, I know all of these things because I check his phone from time to time, because of past lies. The email I know about was left up on a computer that we both share. Guys please let me know if I am overreacting or am I warranted in saying that continuing a conversation with these women can possibly lead into other things.
By Sexione
March 26, 2007 8:30 AM | Link to this
Well Dayyyuuummmm….I see the blog is jacked up AGAIN!!!
Teddy I know you wanted opinions from the fellas….but I’m gonna share this quote with you….
“When people show you who they are….believe them. Maya Angelou”
Oh, and Goodmorning!
By SlimOne
March 26, 2007 8:31 AM | Link to this
Morning All I guess we have to chill out in here until someone opens up the blog for today.
By QC
March 26, 2007 8:36 AM | Link to this
Morning Well i see we’re going to do a little BLB until the system is up and running, i hope you all had a blessed weekend and have a blessed day also…
BLB
Boot Leg Blogging
By LawDemagdda
March 26, 2007 8:55 AM | Link to this
Teddy Here are my 9mm and .45 glocks, feel free to bust a cap in buddy’s behind
Good morning To All!!
BLA(ss)B
By BeenThere2
March 26, 2007 9:08 AM | Link to this
Actually Sexione, I think your quote is from Oprah, in her commencement address to Wellesley grads in ‘97.
At any rate… GREAT words to live by!
By Chullato
March 26, 2007 9:17 AM | Link to this
Teddy Break it off, Men just don’t talk to their ex’s. Unless he is the village idiot, you were meant to see that email.
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 26, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this
Good Morning Everyone
Teddy Your SO knows its wrong, but he wants to do what he wants to do! But why are you worried about him continuing a conversation when he’s already told the EX that he loves her and wants to be with her? Sounds like a deeper issue….he loves another woman. If you get him to agree to stop conversing with this other woman it won’t change the fact that he loves her and wants to be with her. if you guys get married after the first fight he’ll say he knew he should’ve married the EX….if he doesn’t leave you at the alter. What did he say to you about his feelings for this person?
By QC
March 26, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this
Teddy Let it go…the proof is in the pudding, why was the email left up on the screen??? so you could see it of course, get out of that mess while you can you’ll be glad you did and good luck to you!
Musing if you’re lurking i hope you’re feeling better; hey Demi*
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 26, 2007 9:33 AM | Link to this
This world is sick….did anyone read on the home page about the guy who killed his girlfriend, dismembered her, and then grilled her? Just because she started a new relationship….WTF???
By QC
March 26, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this
LDD I read that and could not believe it;
By SeanJohnson
March 26, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this
Sup Blog
@ Teddy..your man is still a player..and he hasnt gotten it out of him yet..maybe yall should date…and you as well should date other people…not saying u should leave him like some of the other folks have..but date other men…sometimes giving a relationship a little slack instead of breaking it up complete makes one realize what u really have and whether is worth keeping.
By MusingLee
March 26, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this
Morn’in All,
Musing struts in the blog to find a big mess left from Friday
Ahhh ishhh, I’m gonna have to clean this up.
Musing goes to the truck of his car pulls out a gas can and some matches…….
By SeanJohnson
March 26, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this
@ Dark Deep Dimples…i read about that…what i dont understand is…human flesh have a distinct smell when its burned…so somebody had to notice it.And dude did it all because she was seeing someone else..The girl was just 19…thats what young girls/boys do. People need to stop thinking they own other people and just let go.
By Teddy
March 26, 2007 9:45 AM | Link to this
lady he says that he will always love this person which I can understand but it just does not feel right for me. I am trying to get him to move but it’s like pulling teeth, he swears that he loves me but I am having a hard time believing that. His argument is I am too quick to let things go, and I don’t “sweat” him like the other women did/do. At this point I don’t want you to stop, I just want you to leave, because I don’t have time for games.
By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)
March 26, 2007 9:47 AM | Link to this
To All
What kind of ish is it that we are posting on Friday’s blog…oh well.
To Teddy
I agree completely with SJ’s last post. It might be wise to see show him that if he can do it, so can you, and that might be enough for him to get it out of his system. Truthfully, what the others suggest about ending it completely may very well be the only option, but by telling him what you know, and watching him closely for many more months before getting back into the ‘exclusive’ zone willl show if he is serious, because he will make the changes (and not just hide his activity). In the meantime, it would be total lunacy and a recipe for the biggest hurt in your life to jump the broom with a man who has not learned to ‘stay home’…and in this case that is obvious.
By MusingLee
March 26, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this
QC Thanks for the get well wishes…..I feel much better.
Musing attempts to jog around office building to show his fitness, but is tackled by the high pollen count…..Really just police covered in pollen
By QC
March 26, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this
Musing Glad you could join us today when you get a minute you should read Friday’s blog it was off da chain, sorry you miss our 1st Annual Blog Barbque 07
By LawDemagdda
March 26, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this
QC, slim, sexi heeeeeeeeeey!!!
SJ, the trust in that relationship is gone …Why even put yourself through that…If you are telling your story on this blog…Your relationship is going the way of the dinosaurs.
teddy How long have you two been dating?
By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)
March 26, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this
LDD
did anyone read on the home page about the guy who killed his girlfriend, dismembered her, and then grilled her?
I’m glad I read that AFTER BBQing this weekend. I don’t think I can look at a grill right now.
By QC
March 26, 2007 9:59 AM | Link to this
Hey Demi
By SlimOne
March 26, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this
Howdy LawDemagdda
Thanks to those that stayed to help clean up the mess that was left behind from the Blog BBQ Friday
Teddy I agree that you should most definitely not get married right now because a ceremony and ring is not going to change anything. From his statement His argument is I am too quick to let things go, and I don’t “sweat” him like the other women did/do This sounds like he is still immature. Why should you have to ‘sweat’ him like all the other women. If you all are contemplating marriage, you and him should be beyond all those types of games. Of course other folks will appear to sweat another person more that is already taken. I think he isn’t ready to give up the hunt. Just my .02
By SeanJohnson
March 26, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this
@ Demi…well i dont think their relationship was built on trust since she was going in his phone and email. So it sounds like she never trusted him.. and he can make the same claim that she isnt trust worthy also since she broke into his personals…
By Teddy
March 26, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this
QC we have been together for 2 years and like I’ve told him I don’t have another 2 years or 2 mths of my life to waste.
Slim I agree he is acting very immature and scared. Though in my opinion that is not an excuse. I have already moved on in my heart and is trying to get him to do the same thing. He lives in my home and have been living there for the past year. I think really what I needed this morning was confirmation and I got it. I already knew what I had to do I already made the decision to do it, I was looking for unbias opinions, because I thought I was being to hasty in my decisions.
By Sexione
March 26, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this
BeenThere2 Actually, that is Maya’s quote, Oprah was just borrowing it……everyone seems to love that one…me included.
Heeyyyy LawDemagdda
As for the guy that grilled his ex…..talk about some sick ish…..and tell me men aren’t emotional creatures……bullish!!! Sick fool!!!!
By MusingLee
March 26, 2007 10:18 AM | Link to this
Sexi That wasn’t emotion that was crazy and evil. Apparently he did this over a course of a few days…Meaning he went to sleep, to the store, watched TV and other ishh, all while he was doing this….I hope Texas fries his’azzz.
By SeanJohnson
March 26, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this
@ Slim and Teddy…just playing devils advocate..but by him wanting to be sweated how is that immature?? maybe bish made but not immature…I look at that as the same thing when a woman cheats becasue she isnt getting enough attention from her man…and that happens A LOT…u feel me?
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 26, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this
Teddy When I found out that a SO of mine was communicating with another female that I’m sure he was setting a stage for something more to happen…I ended the relationship. He spoke to a minister about his behavior and the minister told me that it was good to have ended the relationship. A guy has got to to know the boundaries and what is unacceptable. We didn’t stay apart…I gave him another chance. But it does concern me that dude is still in such close communication with this girl and still feels the need to express to her his feelings….something is just not right about that. I’m not sure of the best way to handle the situation but a step back to re-evaluate couldn’t hurt.
SeanJohn I knew it was a matter of time before you brought up the fact that she got to his phone. LOL. I know that you’ve mentioned that’s reason enough for dismissal.
By Sexione
March 26, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this
Teddy So basically, dude is living in your crib, claiming to love you, and still in love with an ex, while talking to various exes? WTF??? I won’t get all up in your kool-aid and ask if he’s actually paying any bills and whatnot….but sounds like there could be some dependency issues. You mentioned earlier that you’ve been trying to get him to move…correct? What is his response to this? Have you tried just packing his ish and having it ready for him….or better yet, sitting on the doorstep waiting for him? Ain’t no way in h3ll I would have anybody living in my crib that I didn’t want to be there……but thats just me.
By Teddy
March 26, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this
@SeanJohnson I agree to an extent, I trusted him until he gave me a reason not to. I am pretty much open and if he came out and said to me what the situation was I would not have a reason to go behind your back, and quite frankly it was not done behind his back, when ever I had a question and you answered it and I know you were lying I would check it in front of you, but it has been a game since then. The worst thing a person can do is lie to me and once you start lying stopping is harder because you now have to follow your lies. Giving props to our men he is a great provider I have no kids but he takes care of home financially and in every other way. and I would not have a problem with you talking to anyone if it was not such a secret. He does not spend the night out or come home late. He just have an issue with letting go, of the past. And that is even more effident now that I’m ready to move on and do me and you are still holding on.
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 26, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this
Teddy When did all this go down? How have you been able to move on so fast?
I think it’s normal that a guy wants his lady to sweat him…what he’s really saying is that I need someone to stroke my ego….and as long as he can give me what I need then I’ll give him what he needs.
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 26, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this
These lyrics from I’m Lost Without You come to mind:
Tell me how u love me more And how u think I’m sexy baby That u don’t want nobody else U don’t want this guy u don’t want that guy u wanna Touch yourself when u see me Tell me how u love my body And how I make u feel baby U wanna roll with me u wanna hold with me U wanna stay warm and get out of the cold with me I just love 2 hear u say it It makes a man feel good baby Tell me u depend on me I need 2 hear it
I really think men need to hear stuff like this…
By Teddy
March 26, 2007 10:43 AM | Link to this
Lady It all hit the ceiling about a mth ago, but the issue has been ongoing for about 1yr and back to me asking what’s going on and you lying is why it lasted this long. But as far as moving on, I love him and want more than anything for things to work out, but I refuse to be used and hurt, so when the problem originally started and mentally and emotionally started dealing with it. As far as Stroking his ego I consider my man a King and treat him as such even now. But it goes deeper than me, in my opinion you have insecurity issues that you need to deal with and I am woman enough to allow you to take care of you and still love you. I don’t have the time to sit around and feel sorry for myself.
By SlimOne
March 26, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this
SeanJohnson I feel you on the immature thing but I don’t think that’s a good reason for him to justify his behavior. To me that just doesn’t make sense to propose marriage to someone then turn around and act in that manner. BUT hey, what do i know?
Teddy Sexione does bring up an interesting issue about him still living there after trying to boot him out for a year. Sounds like you need to give him that 30 day notice to vacate the premises no if/ands or buts. If after 30 days he hasn’t moved out, then put his stuff out. He hasn’t moved out because he probably doesn’t take you seriously.
By Sexione
March 26, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this
Off topic…
Wednesday Wind Down is back..starting April 11th!! If you dare brave the pollen rain….I may have to wait for awhile, I can’t stand to be outdoors that long right now.
By QC
March 26, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this
Follow your mind & your heart Teddy only you know what’s best for U and you along with us all deserve the best
By Teddy
March 26, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this
I agree Slim and I have given him 30days, but right he does not take me seriously because I have not gotten to the point where I don’t care. And I beleive he is using that to his advantage.
By SeanJohnson
March 26, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this
@ DarkDimples…yeah thats a deal breaker for me…
@ Teddy….how old are you and your soon to be ex?
By Chullato
March 26, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this
I have a commment/question for the blog.
A former friend of mine could not stay faithful. He was bad. So bad that he would cheat on his mistress. There was a couple of guys in our group like that, and I was always the one to clean-up their mess (we were roommates, so if they busted up his stuff, my stuff might be collateral).
Eventually, it got out that they were cheaters and somehow I was grouped with them using the phrase ‘Birds of a Feather Flock Together’.
in general terms with friends and associates, Does the statement hold weight?
By Teddy
March 26, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this
Sean I am 26 and he is 33 soon to be 34
By Sexione
March 26, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this
Chullato I have to agree to a point. I know that for most men there’s this Man Law, but from a realistic standpoint…I would not group myself with people (male or female) that constantly did things that I didn’t agree with or participate in. Not to say that I would discontinue the friendship, but they would not be my bosom buddies, and I definitely wouldn’t cover for them. My .02 cents…
By abc
March 26, 2007 11:41 AM | Link to this
30 days notice my azz. Kick the bum out now. That’s just plain ridiculous. Are you not offended to be so played?
By SeanJohnson
March 26, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this
@ ABC…its the law ..u have to give someone 30 days before u kick them out..
@ Teddy…at 33…he doesnt have his own place..and is living with you..nah..dude isnt ready to get married…plus u are 26..enjoy your youth…i know u have the getting married and start a family bug…but it will pass…
By abc
March 26, 2007 12:04 PM | Link to this
Questionable legality without a signed lease agreement. Otherwise, nothing more than a squatter.
By Sexione
March 26, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this
The law my azz….he would drive up to find his ish packed and waiting outside the door. What is he gonna do? Go and file a report against her like a lil $itch!! A real man (or woman)would not stay anywhere that he’s/she’s not wanted!!!
By SlimOne
March 26, 2007 12:16 PM | Link to this
Sexione you said a key thing here A real man (or woman)would not stay anywhere that he’s/she’s not wanted!!! well she must still kind of want him around. I’ve never met anyone that allowed someone to continue staying at their residence when they didn’t want them there. He is there because she allows him to stay. He is totally disrespecting her and whatever relationship that they have.
By Teddy
March 26, 2007 12:16 PM | Link to this
sean I actually did not want to get married. I was fine with the way things were. He felt like I had committment issues as to why I did not want to marry him. But marriage and a family, nuh I’m cool. and ABC your right we are not roommates so according to Georgia law unless he can prove that he has some interest in my property he is considered a Squatter..
* I really appreciate everyone keeping real, I can always count on you guys* Even though I have been lurking from the background for a while.
By Sexione
March 26, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this
Just wondering….does that law only apply if there is a signed rental agreement in place?
An why in h3ll are we still posting on Fridays blog and it’s Monday? Just ridiculous!!!
By LawDemagdda
March 26, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this
Sexione dude is a lil ‘itch, I can’t be 33 and not have my own place, Teddy, not to hate on dude…But dude needed to man up…Get yourself a gun…Just in case… REMEMBER THE GRILL!!
I ain’t trying to read yo a$$ in AJC the next day.
By Sexione
March 26, 2007 12:23 PM | Link to this
i just noticed this posted at the top…
Blog closed Monday and Tuesday Wise Diva is still out of town — she will be back Wednesday and hopes to see you all then!
So that means we’ll be BLB’ing on this same page til then…….awwwwwww….dayyyyuuuummmm!!
By SlimOne
March 26, 2007 12:26 PM | Link to this
Maybe we should nominate someone to be the acting Blog Topic Creator, in WD’s absence until Wednesday
By Teddy
March 26, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this
LOL @ lAW That was hilarious..
By LawDemagodda
March 26, 2007 12:32 PM | Link to this
A 2-year-old girl, celebrating her mother’s wedding, was killed in Newnan Saturday when children playing in a bus knocked it out of gear and it ran over her, authorities said.
Folks got some baaaad kids!!
By QC
March 26, 2007 12:32 PM | Link to this
lol @ SexieOne
aaaaawwwwwww ddddaaayyyyuuummmmm
where is Awwww Dayuumm?
By Sexione
March 26, 2007 12:37 PM | Link to this
Maybe we should boycott…lol
So who’s monitoring this thang? Nobody? So we can just post whateva we want? Watch out nah!!!!
By Awwwwwww...Dayum
March 26, 2007 12:38 PM | Link to this
Awwwwwwwwww…Dayum, AJC!!! U got folks calling out my name for all the wrong reasons!!!!
Sexione sounds like I’ve hit the sweet spot…wink and wave
hey QC KB Slim
By Sexione
March 26, 2007 12:40 PM | Link to this
Awwwwwww…Dayum There you are!!!! Hit that thang then!!!! awwwwwwwwww……daayyyyyuummmmmmmm!!
By LawDemagodda
March 26, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this
I nominate abc, dude is wise beyond his 120 years of living!!!
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 26, 2007 12:51 PM | Link to this
Sexi That law applies whether you have a lease or not…
By QC
March 26, 2007 12:57 PM | Link to this
Hey Awwwwww Dayum where you been? we had a great Blog Barbque on friday i was hoping you would stop by, have a great day!!!!!
By SlimOne
March 26, 2007 12:59 PM | Link to this
Uh-Oh…looks like this thang is about to be OFF DA CHAIIINNNN We can ramshack the bar, turnt he music up loud, and get krunk.
ABC you’ve been the only nomination so far, so would you like to take over until WD gets back?
By Sexione
March 26, 2007 1:01 PM | Link to this
There was a cop on his horse waiting to cross the road when a little boy on his new shiny bike stopped beside him. ”Nice bike,” the cop said, ”did Santa bring it to you?”
”Yep,” the little boy said, ”he sure did!”
The cop looked at the bike and while handing the boy a $20 ticket he said, ”Next year, tell Santa to put a license plate on the back of it.”
To go along with the cop, the little boy said, ”Nice horse you got there sir, did Santa bring it to you?” ”Yes, He sure did,” said the cop.
The little boy looked up at the cop and said, ”Next year tell Santa to put the dyck underneath the horse instead of on top.”
By Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-shirts)
March 26, 2007 1:03 PM | Link to this
Off subject, some really strange ish
According to the AJC homepage, a woman was stopped at a border crossing in Israel because she looked weirdly fat. When they investigated, she was found to have THREE LIVE CROCODILES ATTACHED AROUND HER WAIST. Scared the ‘haile’ out of the policewoman at the crossing. That is some strange ish.
By SlimOne
March 26, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this
Technoloy for Country Folk
Log On Makin the stove hotter
Log Off Coolin er down
Monitor Keepin an eye on er
Download Gitten the farwood off’n the truck
Mega Hertz When yer not keerfull gitten the farwood
Floppy Disk Whutchu git from tryin ta tote too much farwood
By SlimOne
March 26, 2007 1:14 PM | Link to this
RAM That thar thang what splits the farwood
Hard Drive Gitten home in the winter time
Windows Whut ta shut when its cold outside
Screen Whut ta shut when its black fly season
Byte Whut dem dang flys do
Chip Munchies fer the TV
Micro-Chip Whuts in the bottom of the munchie bag
Modem Whutcha do ta the hay fields
Dot Matrix Dot Coms name after she got hitched ta Dan Matrix
Laptop Whar the kittie naps
Keyboard What ya hang the dang truck keys
Software Them thar plastic forks n’knifes
Mouse Whut eats the grain in the barn
Mouse Pad Thats jes hippie talk fer where the mouse lives
Mainframe Holds up the barn roof
Port Fancy schmantcie flatlander wine
Enter Duh! How ya git in the house
Click Whut ya hear when ya c** yer gun
Double Click Whut ya hear when ya REALLY mean bizness
Reboot Whut ya have ta do right befer bedtime when ya have ta go ta the outhouse
By Sexione
March 26, 2007 1:26 PM | Link to this
69 Things to do in Wal-Mart
Take shopping carts for the express purpose of filling them and stranding them at strategic locations.
Ride those little electronic cars at the front of the store.
Set all the alarm clocks to go off at ten minute intervals throughout the day.
Start playing football — see how many people you can get to join in.
Run up to an employee (preferably a male) while squeezing your legs together and yell, ”I need some tampons!!”
Try on bras over top of your clothes.
Make a trail of orange juice on the ground, leading to the restrooms.
While walking around the store, sing in your loudest voice possible ”Sex and Candy”
Walk up to an employee and tell him in an official tone, ”I think we’ve got a Code 3 in Housewares,” and see what happens.
Tune all the radios to a polka station, then turn them all off and turn the volumes to ”10.”
Play with the automatic doors.
Walk up to complete strangers and say, ”Hi! I haven’t seen you in so long!…” etc. See if they play along to avoid embarrassment.
While walking through the clothing department, ask yourself loud enough for all to hear, ”Who BUYS this s**, anyway?”
Repeat Number 14 in the jewelry department.
Put pairs of women’s panties on your head and walk around the store casually.
Leave small sacrifices or gifts in the hands of the mannequins.
Play soccer with a group of friends, using the entire store as your playing field.
As the cashier runs your purchases over the scanner, look mesmerized and say, ”Wow. Magic!”
Put M&M’s on layaway.
Move ”Caution: Wet Floor” signs to carpeted areas.
Set up a tent in the camping department; tell others you’ll only invite them in if they bring pillows from Bed and Bath.
Contaminate the entire auto department by sampling all the spray air fresheners.
By SeanJohnson
March 26, 2007 1:36 PM | Link to this
WHERE IS JUSTME?
By Sexione
March 26, 2007 1:47 PM | Link to this
Nonchalantly ”test” the brushes and combs in Cosmetics.
Drape a blanket around your shoulders and run around saying,”…I’m Batman. Come, Robin — to the Batcave!”
TP as much of the store as possible.
Randomly throw things over into neighboring aisles.
Play with the calculators so that they all spell ”hello” upside down. (01134)
When someone asks if you need help, begin to cry and ask, ”Why won’t you people just leave me alone?”
When two or three people are walking ahead of you, run between them, yelling, ”Red Rover!”
Look right into the security camera, and use it as a mirror while you pick your nose.
Take up an entire aisle in Toys by setting up a full-scale battlefield with G.I. Joes vs. the X-Men.
Take bets on the battle described above.
Set up another battlefield with G.I. Joes vs. Barbie. (Red lipstick might give an interesting effect…)
While handling guns in the hunting department, suddenly ask the clerk if he knows where the anti-depressants are. Act as spastic as possible.
While no one’s watching, quickly switch the men’s and women’s signs on the doors of the restrooms.
Dart around suspiciously while humming the theme from ”Mission: Impossible.’
Attempt to fit into very large gym bags.
Attempt to fit others into very large gym bags.
Fill an entire cart with boxes of condoms, and watch everyone’s jaws drop when you attempt to buy them.
Set up a ”Valet Parking” sign in front of the store.
Two words: ”Marco Polo.’
Leave Cheerios in Lawn and Garden, pillows in the pet food aisle, etc.
”Re-alphabetize” the CDs in Electronics.
In the auto department, practice your ”Madonna” look with various funnels.
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 26, 2007 1:53 PM | Link to this
Where is FOOTS! Just thinking abut you…sorry if this was posted before
At first I was afraid, I was petrified. When you said you had 10 inches, Lord I almost died!
But I’d spent so many years just waiting for a man that long, that I grew strong, and I knew that I could take you on…
But there you are, another lie, I was ready for a Big Mac and you’ve brought me a French fry! I should have known that it was bulls* t, just a sad pathetic dream
Should have known there was no Anaconda lurking in those Jeans!
Go on now - go! , Walk out the door,
Don’t you promise me 10 inches, then turn up with only 4!
Weren’t you a brat to think I wouldn’t find you out!?
Don’t you know we’re only joking when we say size don’t count??!!
I will survive! I will survive!
Cuz as long as I have batteries, My sex life’s gonna thrive!
I will always have good sex, With a handful of latex!
I will survive! I will sur vive! Hey! Hey!
It took all my self control not to laugh out loud,
When I saw your little weiner standing tall and proud! But to hell with your ego and to hell with all your needs, Now I’m saving all my lovin’ for a cordless multi-speed!
I will survive! I will survive!
By MusingLee
March 26, 2007 1:54 PM | Link to this
LOLOLOLOLOL @ Slim & Sexi.
By Sexione
March 26, 2007 1:55 PM | Link to this
LMSAO @ LadyD
By Sexione
March 26, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this
A guy walks into the psychiatrist wearing only shorts made from Gladwrap.
The psychiatrist says, ”Well, I can clearly see you’re nuts.” ’
By Sexione
March 26, 2007 1:59 PM | Link to this
In the human body, which organ is in charge?
All the organs of the body were having a meeting, trying to decide who was in charge.
The brain said: “I should be in charge, because I run all the body’s systems, so without me nothing would happen.”
“I should be in charge,” said the heart, “because I pump the blood and circulate oxygen all over the body, so without me you’d all waste away.”
“I should be in charge,” said the stomach, “because I process food and give all of you energy.”
“I should be in charge,” said the rectum, “because I’m responsible for waste removal.”
All the other body parts laughed at the rectum and insulted him, so in a huff, he shut down tight. Within a few days, the brain had a terrible headache, the stomach was bloated, and the blood was toxic. Eventually the other organs gave in. They all agreed that the rectum should be the boss.
The moral of the story?
You don’t have to be smart or important to be in charge… just an *sshole.
By SeanJohnson
March 26, 2007 2:00 PM | Link to this
@ DarkDeepCooch…we would appreciate it if you and Ms Footlong be a little more discreet.
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 26, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this
Oh no SeanJ didn’t!!! LOL
By Sexione
March 26, 2007 2:19 PM | Link to this
A man walked into an ice cream shop… Man: I’d like some chocolate ice cream.
Scooper: I’m sorry sir, but we’re out of chocolate. Would you like something else?
Man: Yes, I’d like some chocolate ice cream.
Scooper: I’m sorry, but we don’t have that. Would you like to try a different flavor?
Man: Um… yes. I’d like some chocolate ice cream.
Scooper: We don’t have that. How about a different kind of ice cream?
Man: I’ll have some chocolate ice cream.
Scooper: Look, Mister, can you spell the “van” in vanilla?
Man: V-A-N. Scooper: Can you spell the “straw” in strawberry?
Man: S-T-R-A-W.
Scooper: Can you spell the “f^ck” in chocolate?
Man: But there is no “f^ck” in chocolate!
Scooper: That’s what I’ve been trying to tell you!
By NCgirlfromATL
March 26, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this
Lawd, no blog monitor, and y’all let SJ, Musing & Demi play unsupervised! LOL!
Whaddup blogfam?!? It was a great weekend…until last night. pushing aside my black lace veil I’m in mourning. Who died, you ask? My beloved Tar Heels. They perished to the Hoyas (what the h3llz a #%@#$ing Hoya?!?) G’town is a good team, but we should have beaten them. Oh well, maybe next year. GO BRUINS!!
On Teddy’s post, I agree with SJ’s 9:37 post. If you don’t want to completely end the relationship, then maybe you should drop back and just date.
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 26, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this
NCGirl I’m in morning with you! I can’t believe how UNC dominated the second half with rebounds and free throws…got the Hoyas in foul trouble…and then couldn’t hold off their push in the final minutes. I was devastated to watch how that game ended!!
By LawDemagodda
March 26, 2007 3:19 PM | Link to this
NC I am sorry your team loss…Go Florida…Last hope of the southeast
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 26, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this
NCGirl I’m in morning with you! I can’t believe how UNC dominated the second half with rebounds and free throws…got the Hoyas in foul trouble…and then couldn’t hold off their push in the final minutes. I was devastated to watch how that game ended!!
By SeanJohnson
March 26, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this
@ DarkDimples& NCATLIEN…yall get over it..i am long time Hoya and Gator fan…They were giving the Tarheels calls are day…they just choked …We ran 14 straight points in the OT…I am going to pull for the home team Gators..
By QC
March 26, 2007 3:42 PM | Link to this
GO FLORIDA, GO GEORGETOWN
hopefully they’re not playing against each other :(
have a pleasant evening bloggers
By NCgirlfromATL
March 26, 2007 3:42 PM | Link to this
SJ :-PPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP!! LOL! As I said, we should have won, but shouldawouldacoulda…didn’t. I still wear my 2007 ACC Champs t-shirt with pride. Plus, both Dook and NCSU were at home watching us play yesterday. There is GREAT satisfaction in that! LOL!
But, our mascot was hit by a car before the USC game, and he died. A real tragedy! He was to graduate this May, but was hit while walking back to his hotel from getting something to eat at a convenience store. A tragic accident.
By the way, Teddy, you should check with a GA lawyer (like GaMan) before you decide to put ole boy out. In NC, if he’s not on the lease, he’d be a$$-out (no notice needed).
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 26, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this
I think it’s going to be a great game between Ohio St/Florida. I’m not sure who I’m rooting for just yet…but you’re right SeanJ…they beat UNC fair and square. Ohio State is my home team, so I’m currently torn. Is the championship game-viewing party at your house SeanJ?
Slim are you going to organize the party at SeanJ’s crib? You did such a good job with the bbq on friday?
By SeanJohnson
March 26, 2007 3:52 PM | Link to this
@ DarkDeepDimples….i was thinking of volunteering..do something to get in the building..thats why i was asking where justme was..i know she works events i think…..but i will host one of those all girl adult toy parties yall have…
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 26, 2007 4:04 PM | Link to this
SeanJ they’re all girl parties because the male ego couldn’t take it! Plus, you’ll try to trap us in your pseudo doctor’s office trying to give home pap tests….ain’t gonna happen!
By SeanJohnson
March 26, 2007 4:12 PM | Link to this
@ LadyintheStreets…Have you had your yearly?
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 26, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this
SeanJ LOL…yes, damn near daily!
By SeanJohnson
March 26, 2007 4:31 PM | Link to this
@ LadyintheStreet…HMO network dont count….doctors are garbarge.
By SlimOne
March 26, 2007 4:32 PM | Link to this
LadyD It sounds like SeanJ has something more in mind than just a game viewing party. I think i might need to put and him in timeout…yearly? LOL
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
March 26, 2007 4:39 PM | Link to this
Slim SeanJ* definitely deserves to be in timeout!
SeanJ But I don’t need insurance for my doctor! LOL
By QC
March 27, 2007 8:32 AM | Link to this
Morning
Anybody doing some BLB today besides me??
By SlimOne
March 27, 2007 8:38 AM | Link to this
Hello hello hello
Is anybody in here? in here, in here (echoes)
By QC
March 27, 2007 8:46 AM | Link to this
Hey Slim1 i’m here, here, here….
By Scorned
March 27, 2007 8:49 AM | Link to this
You ladies do realize you can post comments on the “Blog closed” entry. There is a nice clean empty board over there.
By SlimOne
March 27, 2007 8:52 AM | Link to this
Well morning to ya QC. I guess that banner at the top of the blog is keeping folks from BLBing. I tried to nominate someone to take over with a new blog topic yesterday and i was told abc should do it.
By Sexione
March 27, 2007 9:09 AM | Link to this
Goodmorning Folks!!!
Let’s go over to the fresh, clean board….under “Recent Entries” select “Blog Closed Monday and Tuesday”…..and we can talk about whateva we want!! See ya there…..
By SlimOne
March 27, 2007 9:13 AM | Link to this
Late comers, meet us under RECENT ENTRIES and select BLOG CLOSED MONDAY AND TUESDAY fresh clean blog over there….
By QC
March 27, 2007 9:18 AM | Link to this
I’m over on the “clean, fresh board”