By kinderbabe

March 30, 2007 8:28 AM | Link to this

good morning mochatreat, ladydarkw/dimples, demi, diva and all of blogville

my last boyfriend is someone that i met while on vacation. for the time that we dated, i found it to be a pretty cool situation compared to the guys i was meeting here in atlanta. i would definitely be up for another long distance relationship if the opportunity arose. i think that as long as the plane ride to visit isn’t more than 2 hours, i’m game..lol

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 8:37 AM | Link to this

Morning Sorry if not too upbeat right now, I feel a possible migraine coming on.

No It doesn’t surprise me that Atlanta wasn’t in the top 10.

No I haven’t used online dating to mingle with singles in other cities because i’d much rather date someone that I could see on a regular basis….not just on holidays or every 3 to months.

No I’ve never met anyone on vacation that turned into a relationship or great date. What happens on the ship stays on the ship

Slim walking over to Blog Pharmacy looking for anything with 800mg after it’s name

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 30, 2007 9:02 AM | Link to this

Morning Kinderbabe & SlimOne!! To all those that will join us, Happy Friday!!

I am not surprised that Atlanta was not in the top ten cities for Singles. Like you WD, I have experienced being approached while out of town or leaving town.

I think that you can meet anyone, anywhere. I dont necessarily think you have to be in a certain city to met people. But I also am just getting back into the dating game. Maybe that opinion will change..

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 30, 2007 9:07 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone!! hey Kinderbabe

No, it doesn’t surprise me that Altanta is not high on the list. All of my girlfriends who are NOT in Atlanta are married. There is so much temptation in Atlanta that guys don’t want to settle down like they do in other cities.

I have an EX who had a hard time committing in Atlanta. We broke up and he moved to Omaha and all he could talk about is settling down and how he wanted to be married. There weren’t many options in Omaha and he wanted someone in his life….in Atlanta…he had too many in his life

By Tazzee

March 30, 2007 9:07 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks!

I do seem to attract more men when I’m on vacation, but that’s moreso because I’m in a vacation mood. I flirt more (with anybody) and am generally more relaxed than when I am home.

While I didn’t move to Houston to meet anyone, I have met more men here than in Atlanta. I’ve been on more dates in my one year here than in my 8 years in Atlanta. And while I would be open to a LDR - I wouldn’t seek it online because we would need that initial time to really get to know one another before I would put forth the effort to maintain the relationship. Therefore I think the only way a LDR would work for me is if I met a guy, we hit it off and one of us moved.

By Sexione

March 30, 2007 9:07 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday Everybody!!!!

Way to go Wise!! I am one of the spring breakers….and I’m sure all the protection I’ll need will be SPF…lol

I don’t care for the LDR, like Slim (hope you feel better soon, gurl!!), I’d rather be involved with someone I can see more often.

By landsaf

March 30, 2007 9:07 AM | Link to this

I met my husband online 7 years ago, back when yahoo personals were free! We were both living in Arkansas at the time. We dated for 4 mos before we were married. It was one of those things that “you just know”. We have a great relationship, rarely argue, best friends, and LOVE being childless!

Now, we have since moved around the country due to my husband’s job and have finally settled in ATL for a bit. We have had the HARDEST time finding couples our age (mid thirties) to hang with. Not sure what the deal is. We are certainly not boring people, yet we are also beyond the partying stage of our lives. Oh well. Good thing we enjoy each others company!

By PK

March 30, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this

I think that Forbes article is a bit skewed because of the sprawl that we all know exists here. While ITP probably doesn’t have the numbers to even make the list, I’d bet it would garner higher rankings across the board - except cost of living, of course.

As for your experience while heading out of town I think the answer is simple. Happy people are more attractive and more approachable.

By Chocolate Peach

March 30, 2007 9:13 AM | Link to this

Yeah Baby, it’s a high pollen count & cool, breezy FRIDAY!!!!

Moaning Bloggers, Yes, I have always wanted to move to Houston. My uncle tells me the men would absolutely LOVE me there however I havent really had the balls to do it.

Yes, I met a nice, nice sexi dude in Argentina last July & we kept in touch only for a lil while. Guess, we both knew it wasn’t gonna work out. But he was nice while it lasted.

I can’t wait to go to Jamaica in July to get my Groove back!!! I’m definitely looking to have a ball just like Stella.

Atlanta has gotten a bit too over rated in my opinion. I dont think people here are looking to be in serious or long term relationships anymore. I think everyone seems to think it’s the city just like JD say’s

“WHERE THE PLAYA’S PLAY”!!!

I hate what the A has become.

By Raqi

March 30, 2007 9:17 AM | Link to this

Good Morning.

I have never met anyone promising while on vacation because I usually would have those darn kids with me or I was already in a rather serious relationship.

Off topic somewhat, I am leaving “Atlanta” tomorrow morning. I was not going to do anything special for my birthday, which is on Tuesday, this year but my marido wants to get away for a few days. My friend Doc and her husband have a yacht (nothing extravagant however pretty nice) and he has made plans for us to join them for a Break at Lake Lanier Island. We are going to sleep on the boat Saturday and Sunday but we will stay at the resort Monday and Tuesday. Doc and I are going to spend a day at the spa while the men are off playing golf. We’ll all hang out at the beach one day and the rest of the time we’ll just wing it. My brother told me that my marido needs diversion, release and restoration to get pass the grieving stage for his mother. He seems to have come to terms with it but it won’t hurt to get away for a while. A besides it will be fun.

By kinderbabe

March 30, 2007 9:17 AM | Link to this

hey mo:)

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 9:20 AM | Link to this

Chocolate Peach when in July are you going to Jamaica because I’ll be there that first week and I can’t wait!

Also, I agree that ATL has become an adult playground for single life. I know of at least 2 couples that were happily married living in other cities, but moved here due to potential job oppurtunity and they ended up having some much trouble fidelity wise. One of the couples got too involved in the nightlife scene and all the 31 flavors of women here. I’m sure other cities have just as many issues as we do here. I wouldn’t even want to attempt to know how dating in California would be

By Sexione

March 30, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this

Chocolate I’ve lived here all my life…and I have to agree with you…I hate what the A has become. Play on playas….but you’ll do it without me!! And as for Jamaica and getting your groove back….good luck! While I was there I never saw a hottie that I would even have considered getting down with. I kept thinking “daaayyuumm, where are the fine Jamaican men?”….oh well…hope you ‘ll have fun!! But they were falling all over themselves to approach us…and in Mexico and in the Dominican…etc.

By SeanJohnson

March 30, 2007 9:35 AM | Link to this

@ Sup Blog..TGIF…I think the forbes list is not that accurate..Being that ATL has a slew of HBC’s ..its know for job opportuniities, even known for music,videos and even movies being filmed here on top of all the conventions held here because of it being one of the top two cities for adult strip clubs…ALL men know ATL is known for having an abundance of attractive single women..Numbers dont lie..for a black man..its the land of milk and honey…Anyone listening in on Steve “platypus” Harvey?

By Chocolate Peach

March 30, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this

Slim, I leave July 5th-16th Can’t wait!!!!

Ocho Rios is my destination. R U going w/a group?

By kinderbabe

March 30, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this

hey sj

By Jewel

March 30, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this

Good morning Everyone!

Is anyone listening to Steve Harvey’s Dram Radio Show this morning???!!! HILARIOUS!!!

Be back to comment on topic later…

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 9:39 AM | Link to this

SeanJ you may have hit the nail on the head as far as the list not being accurate.. for a black man..its the land of milk and honey

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 30, 2007 9:39 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All

Peach I am in agreement with you as a Atlanta native I have a love hate relationship with the lifestyle changes the city has gone through. So I was surprised somewhat at the article listing Atlanta below the top 10…but then I thought about my own dating experiences here and the fact that most of the men I dated in the city were not actually Atlanta natives(my son’s father was from Cincy).

Thanks to cable and movies the only images you get of men in Atlanta are gay players on the down-low who are all about slinging dope and wearing gold grills. Sad. Even sadder is running into the guy going broke paying for “rent and roll rims” trying to keep that image up.

I have dated online and met a guy as far away as Canada.(too far)

I havent met anyone while on vacation but that is because vacationing is a new thing for me(last year was my first in 10 years)

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 30, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this

I am listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show….complete MESS!

These 2 men have got to be the dumbest men on the planet earth! I mean to be 36, married with kids and get caught up with a 24 yr old. And to make matters worst….she is sleeping with your friend who works at the same place and who is married as well. She definitely got game! She outright told these men that she’s not going to choose…and they’re still willing to get with her…

The wife wrote in saying she wants a divorce….

I mean really….how does a man get strung that far out? Now, he’s going to lose his family and the 24yr old don’t want him like that…

By Sexione

March 30, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this

I missed the part of the show about the office romance. I tried to stream once I got into the office, but that ish never works for 102.5. I’m sure it was hilarious though. Somebody share the details….

SJ You know you wrong…Steve “platypus” Harvey….why you hating on Steve? LMAO

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

Chocolate Peach I’ll be in Ochos Rios also but will be leaving the day after you get down there. Yeah we have a huge group going and i’m not exactly sure what the total is as of right now since it’s still growing. I plan on hanging out in Miami the weekend before I leave too. So it’s going to be a real true vacation for me.

SeanJ what is Steve talking about on there? I can’t pick him up at my office.

Dr. Kym You have a point there regarding the grill wearing undercover brothas that are portrayed as the culture here. They don’t necessarily portray the women to be all that great either….take BAPS for instance.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 30, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this

While I agree the article can be skewed I think that in terms of dating for black women Atlanta would rank pretty low. One reason is education which was one of the catagories. While Atlanta may have a slew of HBCU’s and other Atlanta universities. Atlanta does not have a slew of eligible well educated Black men walking around. While on the other side of the scale black women out number black men on the education scale. but we have beaten this dead horse before.

By SeanJohnson

March 30, 2007 9:50 AM | Link to this

@ KB…wassup Ms Teacher….are u ready for your spring break?

@ Slim…i can only speak from my perspective…but i am sure the demographics Forbes covered was diverse but not really accurate.

By demi

March 30, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this

I mean really….how does a man get strung that far out?

Young…New booty…Make you feel like a king…Do you really need to ask?

I do feel sorry for the wife.

By Sexione

March 30, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

I think that all of these statistics and ratios and whatnot are changing the mindset of the women who would otherwise be interested in having a monogamous relationship. I’m sure a lot of us feel that since we’re in a lose-lose situation when it comes to finding a truly single man, who’s not looking to date multiple women and play games and tell lies, we may as well play too….date multiple men, have one for every need, etc….basically date like a man! Anyone agree?

By Chocolate Peach

March 30, 2007 9:59 AM | Link to this

Sexi, Awwww…NO!! Sexi men? Why am I even going then. Geesh!!!

@Slim, How ironic is that? Wow!!! Yes mam, anytime you go to the M-I-A-Yo!! It’s a vacation. I’m going with my 3 sisters & 2 have the reputation of being lame so we’ll see.

Dr, Kym…Okkk couldnt have said it better that was one reason why I went from bootleg cable to legal cable & have rejoined Blockbuster Total Access. It’s gonna be one hellava summer for us singles.

By Lady J

March 30, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this

TGIF and TGFSB!!!!!! I am staying in town but glad to be off!!! Never did the online dating…I like face to face on thing…I cam to ATL in 02 with my ex-husband also and straight overdose!!! Should have moved here without him to see people do date and have fun and then decided to marry or not but anyway HAPY FRIDAY ALL!!! Peace!!!

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this

Chocolate Peach Girrrrlll LMAO I’m going with my 3 sisters & 2 have the reputation of being lame so we’ll see Ha ha ha….Don’t you just hate going on vacation with folks that don’t know how to create their own fun in any situation? I’m so glad that the people i’m going with love to have a good time.

By QC

March 30, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers

have a great day all

By Lady J

March 30, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this

TGIF and TGFSB!!!!!! I am staying in town but glad to be off!!! Never did the online dating…I like face to face on thing…I cam to ATL in 02 with my ex-husband also and straight overdose!!! Should have moved here without him to see people do date and have fun and then decided to marry or not but anyway HAPY FRIDAY ALL!!! Peace!!!

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All

Have you ever considered moving to another city to increase your likelihood of meeting someone? No

Have you ever met someone on your vacation that turned out to be a great date or long-term relationship? *No

Dr. Kym, our resident relationship expert, sent me a Forbes article that listed the best places for singles. Atlanta is not exactly in the top 10. We landed the 14th slot. Does this surprise you? Depends on what criteria they used to make that designation, not really though.

For all you single people, are you fairly confident that you can find someone in Atlanta? Yes

Have you used online dating to mingle with single people in other cities or countries? How far is too far for you? Out of State is too far

Did you relocate to Atlanta in hopes to find someone? If so, how’s that working out for you? Any regrets or plans to hit the next best city for singles? Nope, I missed my sister so I moved here to be near her and her children

Raqi Happy early B-day you Aries Woman. My B-day is Good Friday.

By kinderbabe

March 30, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

@SJ…yes i’m ready for spring break!! can’t wait til 2:30!! lol i’m getting plans together now. i know i will get out as much as possible considering how horrible my allergies are. i wanted to go see ll cool j at centennial park sunday but that’s out. i would be so broke down after standing in that grass…whew! it wouldn’t even be funny.

hey justme

By DuShawn

March 30, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

I’ve lived in Atlanta a little over two years now. Even before I moved here, it was common knowledge among brothas from other cities that it’s something about the ATL that makes women get flyer. I’ve seen average looking chicks move to Atlanta, then when you see them again they look like stars. The way they wear their hair, their skin and nails all improve. This city transforms females. I think there are so many beautiful women here that they hook each other up on beauty tips or maybe it’s something in the water. Whatever it is, keep up the good work ladies

By Winston

March 30, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

I meet lovely ladies at church. They are my good friends. I don’t hang out with because I want to date them, but because these are some awesome women that I just like being around. Of course, one day, I am gonna find a girl I like. That is fo show, fo show. (That is for sure.)

By Lady J

March 30, 2007 10:15 AM | Link to this

@DuShawn…You are so right it is more women here and we have to mantain at all times…I don’t mean be superficial but the tempo is up to be together at all times!!!

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 10:15 AM | Link to this

Sexione Dating like a man is waaayy overrated. When I moved here I had enough men friends to cover everyday of the week. A man for every need and a need for every man. It was fun but ultimately unfulfilling. It seemed to me that after playing the same game for a while, the men were all to game to play along and it/they was never what I really wanted, just an end to justify the means. Besides if it were so great, would the men be in this blog complaining about how wishy-washy women can be?

By Jewel

March 30, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

Have you ever considered moving to another city to increase your likelihood of meeting someone? No. I would never move to another city simply to meet someone.

Have you ever met someone on your vacation that turned out to be a great date or long-term relationship? No I have not. I was approached by a handsome Latino last October while I was in West Palm Beach. It was a business trip, but he was smitten. I proudly told him that I was already in a “satisfying, committed relationship.” He said, “He is a lucky man.” Hummph. I find out a few months later that during this time, the “lucky man” was getting “lucky” with another woman. LOL!

Dr. Kym, our resident relationship expert, sent me a Forbes article that listed the best places for singles. Atlanta is not exactly in the top 10. We landed the 14th slot. Does this surprise you? Not at all.

Have you used online dating to mingle with single people in other cities or countries? No. But, I wonder about Atlanta’s reputation in other cities. You know, do women in other cities think all the men are on the down-low?; do the men think there are a bunch of desperately single women?

Have a Powerful, Productive, Prosperous and Positive Day!!!

By Alvin

March 30, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this

Atlanta does not have a slew of eligible well educated Black men walking around…looking to settle down or stay with one woman.

To me, it’s more of a morality problem…In the A, there are plenty intelligent non-educated brothers who have their own businesses, great careers, and handling theirs.

But, let’s face it…We aren’t trying to make any effort to marry a “Hoopz” or Melyssa Ford look alike…Just F/K them for a few hours and then move on to Buffie the body.

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this

Hey Kinder

JustMe has to spend her SB and BDay in a new gray foam padded plastic boot with crutches……. not exactly my sharpest boot! gggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!

By MusingLee

March 30, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

Musing now singing in his Wycliff Jean voice

For all my people who off of work, tgif…For all my folks that gett’in paid, tgif….For the chicks wit the big’ole booty, everyday is Frrrriiiday….

Musing dances in his office to imaginary music…..outsiders thinking he’s lost it

By demi

March 30, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this

Winston it sounds like, fo sho fo sho…Ive been chilling in bankhead area the pass few days…Folk around here seems to drop the R’s and W’s from their wordings.

By Jewel

March 30, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

WOW! Great comments!

changing the mindset of the women who would otherwise be interested in having a monogamous relationship. I’m sure a lot of us feel that since we’re in a lose-lose situation when it comes to finding a truly single man, who’s not looking to date multiple women and play games and tell lies, we may as well play too Sexione I agree and disagree. LOL! I briefly considered dating like a man after the demise of my last relationship. Even considered having a sex-only-when-I-need-it fling. But, I realized (1) my hormones were raging at that moment; (2) That is not what I truly desire. I refuse to allow my values to be swayed by popular opinion. I must believe that there is at least one man, somewhere, who still honors fidelity and honesty. I am somebody’s rib. I guess for the others, I was their “rib tip sandwich.” LOL! I know that was corny…

By kinderbabe

March 30, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

oh no justme what happened to your foot?

By Sexione

March 30, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this

JustMe I’m not down with it either, but it seems that a lot of women have decided that’s the way to go….ya know, if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em!!

demi What you doin’ on B-head? That’s my old neighborhood, well part of it anyway…lol

By Jake

March 30, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this

What up A-town haters:

To that I say FILA- “Forever I love Atlanta”

Atlanta is not overrated in anyway, Ladies, granted there are a lot of cats who are enjoying the variety of women, but to be honest, most of us are good men looking for good ladies, but enjoying the sluts until.
Just being honest

As for the city being saturated with people trying hold up an image, I do agree. I went to the Velvet Room recently and realized that I was at a video shoot…LOL It is amazing how many people get their style directly from BET. Shades in the nightclub, crazy, but hey, that is not as bad as the cat who wears his shades at church, I am being totally honest, every freakin Sunday, this fugger has sunglasses on in church…LOL

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 30, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this

Wisey I am looking for new musical artist…is Amy Winehouse worth the 8.00 bucks to download?

By demi

March 30, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this

justme I told you about kicking short dudes out of your way!!!

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

Kinder the jury is still out on the real problem. I had it x-rayed yesterday. The results were inconclusive, I have to have a CT Scan next week. Until, I can not walk on and I have to wear this enormous, ugly boot. This darn thing pumps up too. I slipped in my house slippers Monday evening. I thought it was a sprain, but after going back to work Wednesday, I realized it was worse than I thought.

By Jewel

March 30, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

Lady Dark Steve’s show was outrageous this morning! Both of those men are complete fools! I thought he was older than 36. And what about that R. Kelly song he played along with the story?! Too funny!

Jake LOL! That reminds me of a song I wear my sunglasses at night. Why? LOL!

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 30, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

JustMe I’m sorry to hear that….I hope it heals quickly!

By kinderbabe

March 30, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

wow that’s something justme. i hope that you’re able to get some answers soon. the human body is so complex…maybe you pulled something. whatever it is, i hope that you recover quickly.:) the warm weather has just started so you’ll have plenty of time to enjoy sandals season…lol.

By Lady from Decatur

March 30, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this

Sexione- I agree with your comment because, “Date like a man”, LOL!! I”ve told several of my girlfriends that same thing…especially if you want to keep your options open and not settle for the first man the comes along….I say go for it…I certainly have dated more than one man @ a time and as long as I enjoy their company and they enjoy my company, I’m cool wit it.

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this

Sexione It just sort of happened for me. I was just getting here and meeting new friends. It lasted for about a year before I woke up and realized that I was not being JustMe

Jake I guess y’all need to be patient like us ladies. You can’t find Mrs. Right while you knockin’ off Ms. Right Now!

Demi His adams apple got in the way, I was going for his chin - LOL

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 30, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this

Dr Kym Amy Winehouse is worth that and then some!!

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this

LDD Thanks. I do too! all my new spring shoes are collecting dust!

By Chocolate Peach

March 30, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this

Slim, I wish I could sell their tixs, are they just happen to back out at the last minute. I always make sure I have a good time where ever I go!!

@Demi, Enuff said….. Prime EX: My step brother & his wife was here visiting this past week. They actually just left Thurs evening. They’re from South Fla a little small town. Population 10k. Anyway, they arrived here Sun am. I promise you I may have seen him twice. SERIOUSLY!! Dude rented that car w/a navigation & I’m almost positive he wore that sucker out.

He’s one of those I can get enough dudes. Love women,I mean love women & I can just imagine what he got himself into this past week. I’m just awaiting!! In the next 8-9 mos some chic will be calling me saying she’s preganant with his kid. Dude is 32 & have a minor league baseball team. The sad thing about it was his wife, wife since we were in HS was there at the hosue doing nothing. I felt so bad for her. OMG!! He would sneak out thru the guess bathroom & return before day that am.

While packing Thurs he’s just a cheezing & say’s sis I’ll be back with all our things in approx 2 months. I promise you that man was like a kid in Toys R us. He seen booty for days here. And if they move here together I see divorce papers from a mile away.

That’s what the A will do to ya.

By SexyLeggs

March 30, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. WiseDiva you had your glow on when you departed for your trip. I’ve never dated anyone online, never even looked at an online profile of anyone. Never moved anywhere for a man and doubt that I ever would. Men meet me, and I meet them during everyday circumstances.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 30, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

Jewel did you hear when the 24yr old called into the show? The sad thing about it…these are real stories. She threatened to call their wives if the men kept putting her blast. Carla/Shirley was both like don’t do it. Question Would you want the other women to call you and tell you that she’s having an affair with your hubby? Or would you rather just remain clueless?

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

Lady from da Dec My issue was when the ones I wasn’t sleeping with wanted to sleep with me. That usually put an end to the “ship”. They were cool with being just friends, but not cool with not cuttin’.

By SeanJohnson

March 30, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

@ Jake…i feel you the video shoot comment..thats why i dont like to go out…and have start dealing with older females..most women complain about elgible men..but thats another way of saying they want a knock off of some actor, rapper or pro athlete look alike…even educated women want to live or appear to live an industry video life…Yeah ..we will knock you off but men prefer down to earth chicks that we can talk to…

By Sexione

March 30, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this

JustMe Trust, I do understand. I went thru that phase too…none of them had enough going to satisfy all my areas of interest. But now, that is just not my preference. One good one will do! I hope that foot gets better really soon!

You can’t find Mrs. Right while you knockin’ off Ms. Right Now! Where can I co-sign with my platinum pen?!!!!! Mrs. Right may pass right on by knowing you’re just sticking it in every willing hole. Seriously, for me, that is the biggest turnoff. But don’t get me wrong, I’ll appreciate knowing the truth…..just will no longer be interested once I know it. It is what it is!!

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this

LDD I would want the woman to call me preferably at 8 AM so I could have his ish packed up and on the porch when he got home! Men can be so stupid esp over a peice of coota!

By demi

March 30, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this

Sexione I still go there by myself time to time…to relax, chill, and mingle with a few folks.

JustMe Just be honest. You were going for your famous Standing Over Head Leg Chop…But fail to realize demi was wearing a motorcycle spycam helmet…For Real I would like to upload a few pics.

By Wise Diva

March 30, 2007 10:59 AM | Link to this

I don’t know Kym, I like her older stuff better, I would suggest doing a few tracks, but I rarely download an entire album on itunes, anyway.

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this

SJ how long does that preference last. It seems to me that even when guys have a good girl at home, they still stray towards the video look-a-likes just to knock’em off. JustAskin’

By ImAPeach404

March 30, 2007 11:04 AM | Link to this

chocolate & Sexi I am from Atlanta as well, and I must agree… I don’t like it as much as I use to. Growing up, this place was so much fun, and the “boys” were plentiful and more willing to be in a relationship. (Remember Lenox mall before the remodel & the “others” took over) I don’t know if we were just younger and didn’t expect as much or if it really was easier to date, but whatever it was… it’s gone! Atlanta has gotten so flashy and fake - anyone born and raised here will probably agree that it’s just not the same. This is my home and I doubt I’d ever live anywhere else, but i’ve often thought about moving b/c dating here is the worst!

Guys have no reason to settle down because they don’t have too. Guys don’t have to take you out anymore, because there are 5 chicks in his cell phone who would be happy to sit at the house and watch a movie - that SHE rented. They don’t have to wait on sex because the chick he met last night at QuickTrip is going to give it up the first time he tries her. There are too many woman here and nobody respects relationships/marriage any longer. Even the broke dudes who don’t have anything have chicks fighting over them!

My homegirl wants to move to Houston because she feels like she has a better chance of getting married. Who knows???

I feel sorry for young couples that move here and have to maintain their relationship in this city…

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 11:04 AM | Link to this

Demi Was that you in that pschyadelic helmet. I’ll be doggone! Now I going to hire me an attorney to get me some professional pole technician workers comp benefits. I’ll need a copy of those pics as evidence that I was workin’ it and workin it well!

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

Hey I’m A 404 long time no blog! Even the seemingly nice guys are turning to dawgs! It’s no wonder the way these ladies are giving up the goods for nuttin in return!

By demi

March 30, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

Chocolate Peach The dude married too young, you can’t really blame him.

Heeeeey Lady j, SexyLeggs, and QC

By Chocolate Peach

March 30, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

Jake, I’m guilty of that one. I’m forever w/the loaks on in the club. Have been doing that for years now.

Yes, at funerals but not a regular sunday service.

Dr.Kym, Funny you ask that. I just got her CD from a cowrker of mine yesterday & No!! personally I wouldn’t buy it or download it. But Hey, we could have different taste in music. She’s on that Lauryn Hill edge. She looks nothing like she sounds. She has that voice like she could resemble a small version of Macy Grey but she looks like a P*** Cat doll. It’s ok!! Just ok.

By Lady from Decatur

March 30, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

Of course JustMe- Yeah, I agree with you on that one. Most men will try want to be physical at some point, but if I’m not feeling him on that level and I’m very upfront about that because I have herpes for one and I’m not trying to infect anyone. I’m still surprised @ the men who want to be intimate and not use protection and they know about my situation….that’s a big turn off for me. So it’s important for me to know about a man before I decide to spend time, anytime kind of time with him, be it on platonic or physical level.

By Lady J

March 30, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

Hey Demi!!!!!! Hey QC!!!! Hey Kinderbabe!!!

By SeanJohnson

March 30, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

@ JustMe…just making an observation about how the nite life is in ATL now…

By DuShawn

March 30, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this

I’m with Jake, I love Atlanta. If I were a bachelor in this city, I would be one helluvamuggfugga. All the dimes I see on the daily, with green, no swagger, scrub azz dudes its ridiculous. But I can’t hate. It’s this one cat, me and the rest of the played-out playas in my development had to recognize. This female on my block is doing her thing, beautiful home, 745i, career and of course no man. This young brotha came up here with no job, dated her, moved in with her, Now he drives the beemer and she drives the other car. It’s too easy in the “A”.

By Lady J

March 30, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this

Hey Demi!!!!!! Hey QC!!!! Hey Kinderbabe!!!

By Wise Diva

March 30, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

that’s good point PK Honestly, I think the fact that MEN where the last thing on my mind (ok, 98% of the time!) made me kind of irresistible. I was the mysterious girl who appeared to have a secret or something. It was quite fun to be that girl. It made me wonder if I should leave Atlanta more often!

By kinderbabe

March 30, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

hey ladyj

sj it’s sad to hear that a lot of women are trying to live the video life. i guess that’s what i equate with our all time of materialism. men say they want down to earth women but i’m not feeling that. i’m very down to earth, not homely…lol…down to earth and i find that guys shy away from my type, drama free, confident, independent thinker, etc. i think that a lot of men are so shallow that they enjoy being w/a women from whom they know what to expect. women who are highly materialistic will require little emotionally or spiritually…they just want the duckets…lol. a lot of men are cool w/that b/c that’s easier than making an emotional investment. what do you think?

By Jewel

March 30, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

Lady Dark I was not listening when she called in. I heard the discussion afterwards. I would not want the other woman to call me. But if she did, I would not have a long discussion with her. I would thank her for the call, and confront my husband. Infidelity is not something between the two women. It is literally between the husband and wife. Remain clueless? From my own experience, I do not believe wives are totally clueless. We choose to ignore the signs. We ask, he lies, and we choose to believe him.

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

SJ aiight!

Dec Lady Even if I find a guy physically appealling does not mean I want to be intimate with him. I finally figured out that guys don’t really want female friends, the want cut buddy’s.

Blog Question Guys when you meet an attractive lady, does it ever cross your minds that she won’t be faithful because she is attractive?

By Hot Sauce

March 30, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

What’s up Bloggers!!! It’s friday; how’s everybody doing? good i’m sure i wanna give a shout to my #1 Baby Daddy Musing hey boo! I just wanted to stop in to say hello, since i’m leaving early hopefully to find me a date to tghe Final Four games this weekend working for the Po-Po does have some great advantages

you all have a good day/weekend i’ll pop in another time - hey Demi SJ

Go G-TOWN, all the way baby

By Lady J

March 30, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

Now DuShawn…That is crazy but I must say looking at my fellow co-workers getting advance degrees and doing their tings but without a man or some one questionable but geish do we settle like that?

By Tazzee

March 30, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this

Wow - 2 folks have mentioned Houston. I will say this, there are plenty of men here - big dudes. Most of the guys I’ve met have been over 6 feet. So the city is great for women that won’t date short dudes.

By SexyLeggs

March 30, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

Hey Demi…for all of you who say it’s too easy for man here in the A you’re right. Women are settling for these brokea$$, wannabe players all the time. I’ve watched many of my girlfriends settle. No dyck is that good (and I had some good stuff) for me to settle.

By Jake

March 30, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this

JustMe/Sexione You can’t find Mrs. Right while you knockin’ off Ms. Right Now!

Now get ya’ll pens and sign this. This way of thinking, though it sounds nice, is so out of touch with reality. You are really are cluless about the male psyche, it may not work in all settings, but I can assure you that every man is capable of having a purely sexual relationship a woman and remain tuned into the search for Ms. Right. No matter who he is, before you got him and got close to him, “HE HAD TO CUT SOME PUDDY OFF TO BE EXCLUSIVE WITH YOU”, but thats how it goes when you meet a woman you want to be yours.

SeanJ I guess you’ve seen it too…LOL Women are notorious for claiming they can’t find anybody, a lot of my friends are not in professional arenas, but they work everyday, and make good livings, but on paper they are non-educated so they have do a little more to get Ms. Thang.

By Lady J

March 30, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this

Now DuShawn…That is crazy but I must say looking at my fellow co-workers getting advance degrees and doing their tings but without a man or some one questionable but geish do we settle like that?

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

Jewel *I do not believe wives are totally clueless. We choose to ignore the signs. We ask, he lies, and we choose to believe him.

Is it so much that you choose to believe him or that you start thinking about how many things in your world and just rather not deal with his possible infidelity? I hear way too often how spouses say they know or suspect their SO is cheating but then go on and on about the kids, or the house, or the money and how hard it would be to part….Just asking

By kinderbabe

March 30, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

tazzee i too have met quite a few tall brothas…i’m talking 6’5, 6’6. that has been nice.:) i actually just talked to an old high school friend of mine who is getting married and lives in..HOUSTON. she met her husband there and they became engaged after 9 months of dating. she’s lived in new york, new orleans and l.a. before moving to houston. i guess there is something going on in houston…lol.

By SexyLeggs

March 30, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

Hey Demi…for all of you who say it’s too easy for man here in the A you’re right. Women are settling for these brokea$$, wannabe players all the time. I’ve watched many of my girlfriends settle. No dyck is that good (and I had some good stuff) for me to settle. BTW, for those who listened to Steve Harvey this morning can we say SERIOUS DRAMA…OMG!!!

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 30, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this

SJ Well since I am the one that brought up the education factor, I can say for me I am not looking for anyone’s knock off. But education doesnt have to be formal. How about starting small like knowing the name of the mayor of your city? Expand yoru conversation pass “Rims and Timbs.”

If that is too deep how about just reading a book? Any book..hell even a comic book will do. All of the women in my tribe (that are single) will take a bookworm over a baller any day.

By demi

March 30, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this

JustMe LOL

By William

March 30, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this

I find that the dating scene in Atlanta is dead. For the most part, i find it difficult to find a woman who is interesting at all. I mean everyone seems to be carbon copies of some music celebrity or video vixon. I’ve had more success meeting women from other cities, like Seattle, Denver, and New York who are more interesting, well rounded, individualistic, and realistic about what they want and who they are. In my experience, i would agree that it’s better to get out of the city to find someone interesting. I’d rather pay for the plane ticket than be bored to death or deal with unnecessary drama.

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this

Tazzee Here I come Here I come!

By ImAPeach404

March 30, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

Jewel ” I must believe that there is at least one man, somewhere, who still honors fidelity and honesty” I couldn’t agree more!!! I have to believe this or else I would be on a 285 overpass somewhere contemplating…

Would you want the other women to call you and tell you that she’s having an affair with your hubby? Or would you rather just remain clueless? LadyDark I’ll take clueless… I wish I was a dumb chick who just didn’t know anybetter,lol. Dating & relationships would be so much easier…

I think that Stever Harvey situation is an April Fools joke…

waves at JustMe, hey girl

By William

March 30, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

I find that the dating scene in Atlanta is dead. For the most part, i find it difficult to find a woman who is interesting at all. I mean everyone seems to be carbon copies of some music celebrity or video vixon. I’ve had more success meeting women from other cities, like Seattle, Denver, and New York who are more interesting, well rounded, individualistic, and realistic about what they want and who they are. In my experience, i would agree that it’s better to get out of the city to find someone interesting. I’d rather pay for the plane ticket than be bored to death or deal with unnecessary drama.

By William

March 30, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

I find that the dating scene in Atlanta is dead. For the most part, i find it difficult to find a woman who is interesting at all. I mean everyone seems to be carbon copies of some music celebrity or video vixon. I’ve had more success meeting women from other cities, like Seattle, Denver, and New York who are more interesting, well rounded, individualistic, and realistic about what they want and who they are. In my experience, i would agree that it’s better to get out of the city to find someone interesting. I’d rather pay for the plane ticket than be bored to death or deal with unnecessary drama.

By ImAPeach404

March 30, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

Jewel ” I must believe that there is at least one man, somewhere, who still honors fidelity and honesty” I couldn’t agree more!!! I have to believe this or else I would be on a 285 overpass somewhere contemplating…

Would you want the other women to call you and tell you that she’s having an affair with your hubby? Or would you rather just remain clueless? LadyDark I’ll take clueless… I wish I was a dumb chick who just didn’t know anybetter,lol. Dating & relationships would be so much easier…

I think that Stever Harvey situation is an April Fools joke…

waves at JustMe, hey girl

By William

March 30, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

I find that the dating scene in Atlanta is dead. For the most part, i find it difficult to find a woman who is interesting at all. I mean everyone seems to be carbon copies of some music celebrity or video vixon. I’ve had more success meeting women from other cities, like Seattle, Denver, and New York who are more interesting, well rounded, individualistic, and realistic about what they want and who they are. In my experience, i would agree that it’s better to get out of the city to find someone interesting. I’d rather pay for the plane ticket than be bored to death or deal with unnecessary drama.

By QC

March 30, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

Hey LadyJ, JustMe, Demi, Musing

By ImAPeach404

March 30, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

Jewel ” I must believe that there is at least one man, somewhere, who still honors fidelity and honesty” I couldn’t agree more!!! I have to believe this or else I would be on a 285 overpass somewhere contemplating…

Would you want the other women to call you and tell you that she’s having an affair with your hubby? Or would you rather just remain clueless? LadyDark I’ll take clueless… I wish I was a dumb chick who just didn’t know anybetter,lol. Dating & relationships would be so much easier…

I think that Stever Harvey situation is an April Fools joke…

waves at JustMe, hey girl

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this

Jake I was not speaking on a mental level. I was thinking if you are in Bed #11 and MRs. Right is at the mall, you can’t be in two places at one time. Everybody has somebody for something.

By Lady J

March 30, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this

Yes for the rain!!!! lol

By lovelyliz

March 30, 2007 11:42 AM | Link to this

I usually find them at work. I’ve been a magnet for men who are looking for a sure thing and I am not that easy, desperate or stupid.

The guys at work have gotten to know me and realize that the inside matters too. That and they have to be decent because we have to face each other at the office. We may not end up together forever, but there’s usually some amount of respect left over.

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this

Hey * I’m A 404 and QC*

By DuShawn

March 30, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

I have a hard time believing that the dating scene in the “A” is as dismal as most of today’s post would lead one to believe. There is a vast amount of things to do and an abundance of intelligent, beautiful people to do them with. How could you not have a good time dating in this city? Stop looking for love and have some fun.

By ImAPeach404

March 30, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this

I have a hard time believing that the dating scene in the “A” is as dismal as most of today’s post would lead one to believe. There is a vast amount of things to do and an abundance of intelligent, beautiful people to do them with. How could you not have a good time dating in this city? Stop looking for love and have some fun.

Spoken like a true married person

By SWMarietta

March 30, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

Long-time lurker, first time poster.

Have you ever considered moving to another city to increase your likelihood of meeting someone? Yes, I moved to Atlanta. It has been a resounding thud.

Have you ever met someone on your vacation that turned out to be a great date or long-term relationship? I normally vacation with my family since I don’t get to see them that much.

Dr. Kym, our resident relationship expert, sent me a Forbes article that listed the best places for singles. Atlanta is not exactly in the top 10. We landed the 14th slot. Does this surprise you? I think 14 is awful high.

Have you used online dating to mingle with single people in other cities or countries? Everyone talks about how many single girls there are here, but my experience has been that they are single because they have unrealistic expectations or have been treated so poorly in the past that they are almost impossible to really connect with.

I like reading this blog/comments since most of my friends are hooked up.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 30, 2007 11:51 AM | Link to this

Thank you all for the info on Amy I will go ahead and get it I like 5 of the songs on the album so I might as well get the album.

By demi

March 30, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

ImAPeach404 LOL how are ya…You need to come over to my building, we got that going on now!!

Heeeeeeeeeeey Hot Sauce!!!

Jake I don’t think Kim is speaking about non-college educated brothers who make good living and handling theirs…But the brothers who have no game about themselves (no job and no plan for their futures)…We have too many brothers who aren’t trying to accomplish anything in life.

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

ImAPeach404 Spoken like a true married person My thoughts exactly.

By SeanJohnson

March 30, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

@ KB…trust me..women like you do get noticed. when you are a quality female u dont have to wear a t shirt saying it ..it comes through in your actions and how u carry yourself. are u sure guys shy away from you? explain your idea of an emotional spiritual investment please..

@ Jake..i am a fly under the radar type..and i like women who are the same..Funny thing is…chicks are like appraisers…they are sizing up your net worth on first glance..they can say men are no good liars all day….but to me..women themselves are their worst enemy as far as dating is concerned

By Sexione

March 30, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

Every day this blog reminds me of why I am not interested in being on the scene. Maybe one day I’ll meet the one and maybe not, but two thing’s are for sure….I will not hold my breath and I WILL NOT SETTLE!!!

Dayum I’m ready to call it a day!!!

By cool breeze

March 30, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this

I have/had considered going back to home to meet a girl and bring her back to Georgia with me. Someone that fits my mentality more cause these Atlanta ones are something else. I have met girls a couple times while in other cities but didn’t think about trying to date them or flying all over the country to get something started. Would rather find someone more local/convenient to spend time with. It’s a lot to ask someone to up and move in case things don’t work out and then they blame you for having them move and all that drama. Atlanta is a great place for singles. I don’t have a problem meeting girls when out and most are nice, sweet and educated. I think I can find a woman in Atlanta, I am pretty optimistic. I tried the online thing for a bit but I do so much better in person meeting women and getting dates so that’s what I concentrate on. Guess my charm and personality come across better in person. I moved her after college cause I needed a job. Thought I would have much better time dating here than where I’m from which I have so it’s all good.

By Jewel

March 30, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this

SlimOne Yes. You choose to believe because you do not want your world disrupted. And, it is not as simple as the house, kids, money. A good attorney will secure those things for you. LOL! Sorry Justin Seriously, it is about the commitment you made; the hope that he will stop; and hoisting your self-esteem out of the toilet. We discuss the sexual part of infidelity. That’s the easy part. The hard part is dealing with the reasons why and the decisions you have to make.

By Qsgirl

March 30, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this

Hey WD and *gang!

I’m late reading…today. It’s payday and I hand out the checks, therefore I have to correct all the mistakes with the payroll company. I hate this part of my Friday… I LOVE 5 o’clock though!

This has never happened to me personally, but my SO’s bf, met his (now) wife in Daytona about 14 yrs ago. She came up for “Freak Nik” shortly after the Daytona trip, and the rest is history. Funny, she almost got her head knocked off because she opened the door to my SO’s room, while visiting her hook-up. I’m not the same mild-mannered mom I am today. Thank goodness for her my SO, was walking up the hallway in my direction.

By MusingLee

March 30, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this

Musing now pretends to kick SO to the curb for Final Four tickets

Hey HotSauce, can I just touch those “tickets” to see if they are real???

Musing now handing hand fulls of “tix”….

They sure feel real. I’ll have to blow on them to check.

By Jake

March 30, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this

JustMe

Well in that case, I must tellyou I’m a believer in fate, which is why I do not do online dating. If she is meant for me, I’ll meet her.

QC/404 What up, I was wondering where my hometown sweetie was.

By ImAPeach404

March 30, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

Hey Demi!!! What it do? Lol… (sorry, Decatur slipped out just then)

We moved to Midtown… you’re over by Northlake, right?

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 30, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

An if I hear one more man who tells me any of the following phases:

The man has his foot on my neck… If you can look up get up…

School is not for everyone. The fastest growing in demand jobs next to the medical field is Mechanic..be that auto or airplane after that it is trucking driver.

I am just keeping it real…. Yes keeping it really, really, really, dumb.

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 12:04 PM | Link to this

LOL the police are searching the squad car of the husband of the missing 911 worker! I guess they read yesterday’s blog :-)

By Wise Diva

March 30, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

wait, why is the blog reminding you why you aren’t on the scene?

By Patrick

March 30, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

I moved to Atlanta 3 years ago from New Jersey, and I must say to the ladies that if you’re a single man or a man with a girlfriend(for that matter) Atlanta is a haven. I once went to a Superbowl Party in the Southwest area, and when i pulled up, the driveway was full of luxury cars, so i thought the party was going to be upscale. When I got inside, the women were AMAZING. Beautiful, sophisticated(seemingly), and intelligent. The kind of women i go for. The party progressed and mingling was great; good conversations, nice personalities; hey good food, good music, good company, what could be better? Right? Well about half-time, the mood changed and all of a sudden i was at an orgy. I mean to see these sophisticated, intelligent women subject themselves to what I witnessed was well beyond me. One young lady said she was on her way to pick her husband up at the airport when she heard about the party. She was VERY involved in the “festivities”. Another young lady stated that she didn’t mind being filmed if her wedding ring did not appear in the shot. Hmmmmm.. I’ve resolved myself to dating outside the city just because I hope to find someone who is a genuine lady; not looking the part, sounding the part, acting the part, but being an all out wh!#. I can’t blame the sistahs exclusively because there were guys that enjoy and participate in these festivities. The shocking thing was, one of the fellaz said when I was leaving “aaahhh man don’t be scared, it’s only p$$!, and this is nothing, the part last weekend was bigger than this one! H… were walking around putting d..ks in their mouths”! WHOA!!!!! I’m not a monk, but that was too much for me. When i hear of statistics that state 65% of all young women between the ages of 16 and 26 in Atlanta who have an AIDS test, test positive for HIV, i understand why. Am i going to settle down with a woman I meet in ATL? HELL NO!!!!

To the wholesome women out there, you have my sympathies. I understand why it’s so hard to find a man here, they’re all “tricking off”. To the others, I’ve seen what you do, so remember when you point the finger, the are three more pointing back at you.

By Jewel

March 30, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this

Ladies, I have to agree with DuShawn today. I am in the 40+ group and it seems like the men were waiting in the bushes for the day my ex-SO would do something stupid…like let me go.

By The truth

March 30, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this

Ok, here comes the bad news. Dating is dying and on its last leg. Ladies, you have to decide if you want to be a great lay or someones wife. Rarely do the 2 go together. While everyone wants and needs to have experience, some of you have gone over the deep end. Thats why you cant get a guy to date you. He doesn’t want to pay for something you’ve obviously been giving away for free. And yes, we can smell the D**k on you. Its in everything you say, do, and think. Your no longer fresh. And as far as uneducated bm’s in atlanta, thats a farce. Its like the all guys are on the dl thing. Their not all on the dl and most have educations. They just don’t want to be with you. My sisters, and I say this with pure love in my heart, you are becoming obsolete. How you have taken a previously beautiful thing like womanhood and screwed it up in the last 20 years is a beyond me. Don’t get me wrong, even previous generations sought experience, but they did so with tact and and discretion. Finally, animals in the wild only run after fresh game. They trot up to leftovers. What you are experiencing is guys trotting up to you and taking a sniff and then keep on moving. There’s not enough meat for a full course meal.

By Wise Diva

March 30, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this

Welcome Winston, SWMarietta, all new commenters. Good to see you chime in!

Can someone send over a cocktail for me? I am starting my mental vacation NOW!

By Landa

March 30, 2007 12:12 PM | Link to this

I agree that moving to the A can be difficult for young married couples. My marriage is over partly because of the nightlife/dating scene/abundance of women here. It is a lot of temptation for someone who is not strong and very disciplined.

By Just Me

March 30, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this

Any single man in Atlanta that says he cannot find a quality interesting woman is either a buster or a switch shooter. On almost a weekly basis my girls and I go out and the men are scarce. As a matter of fact, I was wondering where the straight men hung out….CAN YOU HELP ME OUT?!???!!!

By JOEY

March 30, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

No one keep anything forever. I mean you don’t’ own one car forever, you don’t’ keep friends forever, women can’t even keep friends for a decade. So it’s unrealistic for you to think that you should remain with one partner forever… I’m just being realistic. There are exceptions to the rule (couples married for 2 or three decades) but those are anomalies and not the norm… Reality is that most marriages/relationships won’t make it simply because of the ME and ONLY ME pressure put on it……

By SexyLeggs

March 30, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this

ImaPeach you have a point there (April Fool’s stunt)

By Sexione

March 30, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this

Wise reminds me of why I’m not interested in being on the scene…..you’ve read the comments, heard the mentalities, factor in the disease rate and BAMM!!!! No thank you…..hellz I may as well become a nun…LMSAO!!!

the truth we can smell the Dk on you please remember, that’s a two way street….we can smell the p-dussy on y’all too!!

By For Real

March 30, 2007 12:21 PM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!!!

Hey I am from the A as well and it has changed with all the wannabees but it’s not as bad as the blog ladies think. I believe the women in the A are just tired of competing. Women aren’t use to competing and working for men like men are use to competing and working for women. It use to be a time when a women could sit back, look pretty, and wait on the man to come to her. So, that’s why the blog ladies and most other ladies complaining that there are no good men in Atlanta. So, like my coach use to say:

Coach: (Screaming and spitting) Do you want to win??

For Real: (Trying not to think about the spit in my eyes) yes

Coach: *(while spitting even more) I said do you want to win???

For Real: (disgusted by the spit that just flew onto my lips) YES!! YES SIR (while returning the luggy)

Coach: (real calm) Then get your azz back in the game and play harder.

For Real: (back in the huddle) What did coach say?? KILL EVERYBODY!!!

By kinderbabe

March 30, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

truth you need to do some further examination. “we” as women have not “screwed” things up. there are many variables that go into the oversexed and hypersexed presence that dominates today’s dating scene. we, as women and men, need to know and recognize that our worth is not routed in the quality of our sex or the amount of money in our bank account.

By JOEY

March 30, 2007 12:23 PM | Link to this

No one keep anything forever. I mean you don’t’ own one car forever, you don’t’ keep friends forever, women can’t even keep friends for a decade. So it’s unrealistic for you to think that you should remain with one partner forever… I’m just being realistic. There are exceptions to the rule (couples married for 2 or three decades) but those are anomalies and not the norm… Reality is that most marriages/relationships won’t make it simply because of the ME and ONLY ME pressure put on it…

By Lady J

March 30, 2007 12:24 PM | Link to this

@JOEY…I think I lost my best friend of 10 years and I am sad…Our relationship have changed bc of different perceptions on how a situation was handled…Oh well we grow up and disagree but I thought we could agree to disagree and still be friends but I guess that is only in the sitcom Girlfriends…Anyway I do miss her!!!

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

Patrick You sure you weren’t at a swingers party or that the drinks weren’t laces with X pills? That just sounds so unbelievable to me because i’ve never been to a party that turned into a scene from Eyes Wide Shut. Call me naive i guess buy Dayum!

By Jake

March 30, 2007 12:26 PM | Link to this

The Truth

Hey go look in that closet, you’ll find the bulletproof vests, and some extra ammo, I’ll call for the reinforcements, because this may be a war…LOL

I’m going to lunch and I can’t wait to get back…LOL

By Jewel

March 30, 2007 12:28 PM | Link to this

I am just keeping it real…. Yes keeping it really, really, really, dumb. LOL! Kym

You know, I too wondered if Steve Harvey was testing a movie script or something…but, just read some of the posts on this blog…think of some of the secrets revealed in your local church…

By Wise Diva

March 30, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this

ummmmmmmm Patrick and The Truth’s comments just knocked me out of my chair. WOW!

(OK make my cocktail a double)

By SexyLeggs

March 30, 2007 12:31 PM | Link to this

Jewel I’m cracking up over here. Man there were guys waiting in the wing for me to give divorce…too funny.

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this

Partick You said a mouthful and I think you were on point.

Just Me How about using the name This is Me Please change your name for the umpteenth time! We are not even remotely alike.

By demi

March 30, 2007 12:35 PM | Link to this

ImAPeach404 Yes I am, there is talks of moving our center over to Lindbergh.

LOL@Kim

Sexione sweetie, the dating scene is no where near that bad.

Spoken like a true married person

Nope, spoken like a human being, who enjoys life, married or not.

Honestly, would most of you ladies marry yourself?

By For Real

March 30, 2007 12:38 PM | Link to this

@ the truth here take this invisible cloak all you will have do is put the hood on your head blam you are invisible. Now don’t say anything else until come back from lunch… MLB can you hide the truth for a hour until i get back??? Hell who am I kidding it’s friday hide him for a hour and 45 minutes…

By DuShawn

March 30, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this

* How many of you ladies would date a brotha with only a GED, no desire for additional education, and employed as a janitor?* I was in Spondivits yesterday after work. The sista that was serving me was being flirtatious. Initially, I thought she was working up her tip, but then I realized she was trying to holla (I accidentally forgot to wear my ring again). I told her she was flirting, she said I was. My response was “actually, I’m trying not to flirt with you.” She said, “why…… I’m not on your level?” Her words made me think. Because I was suited and booted and eating lobster and crab, she felt I was above dating a waitress. In reality, nothing could be further from the truth. I never cared much about a female’s educational background, employment status, credit score, etc. Granted, all of these things can give insight to one’s level of responsibility and quality of life, but I’ve always been more concerned with do they make me happy. Do they respect and treat me well. I think if more women used this criteria as the litmus test for potential suitors they would have much more success

By Sexione

March 30, 2007 12:40 PM | Link to this

I’m sure Steve’s show sounded like a stunt, but even if it was they figured it would be believed b/c ish like that happens all the time. Back when I used to listen to V-103 in the mornings, I was sure Frank was making up 99% of the drama he was a allegedly getting via email…..too much drama, evem for radio.

By SWMarietta

March 30, 2007 12:40 PM | Link to this

Oh yeah, those parties exist, I’ve even been invited to a couple. But that is WAY, WAY beyond my comfort level and rule #1 is know thyself.

And I’ve got too many good friends to pull up stakes now. Like Picard said, “The line must be drawn here!”

I would recommend avoiding Craigslist to meet women. (even though they were probably good people).

buster (throwing an Alabama Slammer down Wise Diva’s way)

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 12:44 PM | Link to this

Demi Honestly, would most of you ladies marry yourself? Um…can this actually be done? lol To be honest, yes i would. Would YOU?

By Sexione

March 30, 2007 12:46 PM | Link to this

demi I know, sweetie, but at the ripe, young, sexi age of almost 38 I don’t have the time or patience for the mounds of bullshyt that are out there……no lies, no games, no multiple partners!!! My weeding out process is lethal!!!

By lovelyliz

March 30, 2007 12:46 PM | Link to this

Dating in Atlanta: quantity vs. quality

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

JOEY go kick rocks! and for the record, my best friend and I have been best friend since 1977 count the years dude 30 and counting…….. You are sadly mistaken!

Lady J <<<<>>>> you guys will be friends again. Can you think of a way to make her laugh? Send her a stupid E-card. You two have not been friends for that long for no reason.

By Sexione

March 30, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this

Joke…

George Bush goes to a primary school to talk to the kids to get a little PR. After his talk he offers question time. One little boy puts up his hand and George asks him his name.

“Stanley,” responds the little boy.

“And what is your question, Stanley?”

“I have 3 questions. First, why did the USA invade Iraq without the support of the UN? Second, why are you President when Al Gore got more votes? And third, whatever happened to Osama Bin Laden?”

Just then, the bell rings for recess. George Bush informs the kiddies that they will continue after recess.

When they resume George says, “OK, where were we? Oh, that’s right question time. Who has a question?” Another little boy puts up his hand. George points him out and asks him his name.

“Steve! ,” he responds.

“And what is your question, Steve?”

“Actually , I have 5 questions. First, why did the USA invade Iraq without the support of the UN? Second, why are you President when Al Gore got more votes? Third, whatever happened to Osama Bin Laden? Fourth, why did the recess bell go off 20 minutes early? And fifth, what the hell happened to Stanley?”

By Got that?

March 30, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this

Patrick, the same thing happened to me when I first moved here from St. Louis. I was at a party in Buckhead and then people just started having sex everywhere and with anyone. I was stuck. I didn’t have my car because I went to the party with some people I’d met and hung out with. I had no clue about their lifestyle until that night. That taught me 2 things about Atlanta: (1) always have your own car and (2) be super selective about who you’re going to be intimate with unless you like going to the pharmacist . I’ve seen some strange, freaky things in the 6 years I’ve lived here. Another thing, you have to be wary of the “quiet, shy” type of women here. They’re only quiet and shy in public. Can you say Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde?

By kinderbabe

March 30, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this

…I’ve always been more concerned with do they make me happy. Do they respect and treat me well. I think if more women used this criteria as the litmus test for potential suitors they would have much more success. hellz, i don’t know what other criteria there is. i don’t interview brothas to be my man, checking their credit, credentials and such. i look at character first. that’s the most important thing to me. there is a generalization that all women are looking for a wall street type and that simply isn’t true. i wouldn’t want a jacka** in my life on any level whether it be a janitor or a power attorney…lol. being in a healthy and successful relationship is my goal.

By SeanJohnson

March 30, 2007 12:51 PM | Link to this

@ DuShawn…that the MAJOR difference in how men date and women date. And why we are more successful at it..Women look at all those things…looks, education, credit, status of employment,bank account, height, length…and then on top of that..after u passed the check list…u go under a tighter scrutiny to for them to allow you to date them..they just need to face it..they are picky and its hurting their chances in dating.

By Linguist

March 30, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this

@TheTruth: ummm, not sure what you mean by “smell the d**k” on you?? Care to qualify that statement? That’s a pretty interesting perspective that you have …

@Joey: okaaaaaaaaaaay…. I’m not sure where to begin. It’s people that share your same sentiment that trouble me so. You can not .. No.. You may not equate cars to marriage… nope, can’t do it. Ummmm, most women do have friends from childhood, high school, college, etc.. Our friendships evolve over time, but the sanctity of our friendships generally stay for a lifetime. Marriage is something very different from even friendships and ummmm… really different from cars… Many women would like to have an exclusive relationship.. Some want to get married, others may just want a long time partner - there’s nothing wrong with that. What’s wrong with wanting what you want? I get a little ticked when people — no, make that men - who are probably single, misguided, hurt, recovering from a bad breakup - talk about the catastrophic expectations of a lasting, loving committed relationship. Who is anyone to discourage a woman from having what she wants? You know the type of people that always go around talking about “this won’t work”? They are called naysayers. Marriage is hard work, plain and simple, take it from someone who is presently there. It takes mustering up energy and insight, open and honest communication, talking candidly about your feeling and needs, it requires intimacy, trust, closeness and understanding. If a person can ascribe to a few of these things, a marriage can work and yep, even last a lifetime.. Will it be easy? Nope… but neither is going to work everyday, feeding your children, cleaning the house, cooking dinner maintaining friendships, etc ..
Ling, stepping off of soapbox, opens it up, scoops out the required amount and commences with laundry.

By Awwwwww...Dayum

March 30, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this

Awwwwww…Dayum, The truth!!! You sound lika bitter Bysh…Why are you putting yourself down like that?

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this

JOEY me and my best friend have been doing this thing since 1991….I believe that’s more than a decade my friend. Could it be…that…oh no it couldn’t be…why yes…I believe we maybe going for a record….almost a whopping 20years. OOPS

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 30, 2007 12:54 PM | Link to this

Dushawn I dated a guy who drove a truck (daily route through the city), I was a full time student, out of all the people I know formally educated or not he was the most well read guy ever. He kept up with politics, the arts, everything. He was respectful to me and we had alot of things in common. We had issues only because he was about 8 years older than me at the time and recently divorced(but I digress). It is like my aunt says you can have all the book sense in the world but little common sense. An common sense says this world is vast and you have to know more than your little corner of it. So yes I would date a guy with a GED..because I have but while he had the “good enough diploma” he also had insight into world issues.

By Lady J

March 30, 2007 12:56 PM | Link to this

@JustMe…Thanks for that…We have spoken here and there briefly but not intense and when she came to town about a month aga she was suppose to spend the weekend with me but chose not but but I respected her wishes without argument and gave her her space but that a great idea!!! Thanks again!

By demi

March 30, 2007 12:56 PM | Link to this

SlimOne No I wouldn’t, I am not a marriage worthy time…I don’t lie to myself.

Linguist she is calling dudes gay.

By kinderbabe

March 30, 2007 12:56 PM | Link to this

linguist well said…women/marriage cannot be equated with cars.

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 12:57 PM | Link to this

Demi Yes, I would marry me in a heart beat. I look for men who exude the same qualities that I do. I am a fun person, I look for that in a mate. I earn everything that comes to me, I look for that in a mate, I am loyal and honest, I look for that in a mate, I am capable of holding great conversations, I look for that in a mate. I love to kiss, I look for that in a mate….. the list goes on, but those are some of the things that matter to me. We don’t have to be twins, but we must both employ the same or very similar values.

By Sexione

March 30, 2007 12:58 PM | Link to this

And before the men get even higher on the woman bashing horse, this joke is for entertainment purposes ONLY!!!

A young couple got married and left on their honeymoon.

When they got back, the bride immediately called her mother.

“Well, how was the honeymoon?” asked the mother.

“Oh mamma!” she exclaimed. “The honeymoon was wonderful! So romantic!”

No sooner had she spoken the words than she burst out crying. “But mamma … as soon as we returned, Sam started using the most horrible language. He’s been saying things I’ve never heard before! All these awful 4-letter words! You’ve got to come get me and take me home… please mamma!”

“Now Sarah …” her mother answered. “Calm down! Tell me, what could be so awful? What 4-letter words has he been using?”

“Please don’t make me tell you, mamma.” wept the daughter.

“I’m so embarrassed! They’re just too awful! You’ve got to come get me and take me home… please mamma!”

“Darling, baby, you must tell me what has you so upset … Tell your mother these horrible 4-letter words!”

Still sobbing, the bride replied, “Oh, mamma … words like dust, wash, iron, and cook!”

By Lady J

March 30, 2007 12:59 PM | Link to this

@Linguist…Well said and Hello!!!! Marriage is hard work!!!

By ImAPeach404

March 30, 2007 1:01 PM | Link to this

Demi, I would marry myself because i’m a beast in the kitchen, i’m funny, and I love football! And, since I love to cook, i’m pretty funny, and I live for football season… I think we’d get along just fine because we have so much in common :)

DuShawn, I have a friend who is a gold digger… she doesn’t play! She would never date my ex because he doesn’t have much and he’s a very regular guy. She and I are completly differnt with our taste in men, but at the end of the day, we are both single. Regardless if you go for the guy who shines or the guy who doesn’t have much, unfortunatley, it sometimes doesn’t work out for whatever reason. More important than where you are… its where you’re going. If he doesn’t want to be anything more in his life than a janitor, then I may date him (you never know what type of influence you may have on someones outlook on life), but could I see myself spending the rest of my life with him, probably not. But, if I dated him and found myself falling in love and he was everything I ever needed… well, I guess I’d have to change my mind about being wtih him forever. You cannot control who you love.

(ps - The only way I’d know what he did for a living or how far he’d gone is school is if he told me because I don’t ask those kinds of questions)

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 1:04 PM | Link to this

Ling I’m sure your throat is dry after that, go check out the new stash I have for us. You deserve it!

demi dang, so what is it about yourself that would make you put yourself in the non-marriage bin?

Slim turns radio down, grabs cup and sits at attention

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 1:04 PM | Link to this

SJ / DuShawn I will be the first to say (as I have said before) I AM PICKY AS HE!!. A woman has to be especially in a town like this one. Maybe not all the brother are on the DL about their sexual orientation, but they are on the DL about their marital status and their relationship status in general. Not to mention there are hords of women who cater to the wh0rish lifestlye that men want to participate in until they decide to settle down!. Dayum Skippy I am picky, and if it is hurting my chances of finding my SO then so be it, at least I will be alive and healthy when we meet!

By Lady J

March 30, 2007 1:04 PM | Link to this

@Linguist…Well said and Hello!!!! Marriage is hard work!!!

By Deeva4Life

March 30, 2007 1:06 PM | Link to this

@DuShawn I think the problem here in Atlanta is that too many men just want to “have fun”. What’s wrong with looking for love if that’s what you desire in your life? I believe that fun has it’s place…but finding love and being in love equals fun to me.

I agree with most comments made by the women today, guys here in Atlanta are superficial and they are all looking for women with video faces and bodies. If/when they do meet a “good girl” they pass her up. I’ve been single for 5 years and for some reason I seem to attract married men, who all ask me the same question, “Why are you single?” They all tell me I’m fine, I’m smart, I’m independent, I have no children and just an all around great person and I’d make someone a great wifey (or as one guy told me, I’m definitely wifey material). However, because I have standards and don’t allow myself to just give my body away or accept anything less than what I deserve, I remain single.

I’ve thought many times about moving to another city (coincidentally Houston was my number one choice; Charlotte was second)because dating in Atlanta sucks. People here (men and women) are so fake until it’s sickening. I’m originally from Mississippi and I’ve often thought about hooking up with someone back home and suggesting he relocate here, but when you bring gentlmen from small towns to Atlanta they straight lose their minds. Needless to say I never put any effort into that idea.

By Jewel

March 30, 2007 1:06 PM | Link to this

I did not read Patrick and The Truth’s entire posts. I caught Musingitis… And, I have stated on here before. Atlanta is a buffet for the men who are looking for quantity. Quality is a totally different level that none of them can attain while mired in the quantity.

By SeanJohnson

March 30, 2007 1:06 PM | Link to this

@ 404Peach…were you engaged to be married?…just asking

By Sexione

March 30, 2007 1:07 PM | Link to this

“Mike meets John at a bar. “Hey John!” he yells. John greets him back and says, ” Hey you know that girl at work? the one that damn near everytime I see her i get hard?” “Yeah the fine thick one, what about her?” says Mike. “I got a date with her.” “REALLY!” Mike replies in excitement. “Yeah It was earlier on today ” John says. “Well, what happened?” “Well, before I left the house I taped my tool to my leg so i wouldn’t get hard and I headed 2 her house and so when I get there she comes out in this short skirt with some pumps and ALL of her cleavage showing and… “Yeah and what” Mike says. ” I kicked her in the face.””

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 1:13 PM | Link to this

Lady J If you two are really ggod frinds which I suspect yu are, then she will know when you are playing games……..

Call her and be like wassup Boo, you know I miss you baby, we been together too long to let some BS break us up, wassup Boo you miss me too She will be so caught off gaurd all she can do is laugh. I get calls like that for not talking to my BF for a week - LOL but then her family invented the Booty Case and Booty Shine, so they may be a little touched - LMAO!

By Reality Check

March 30, 2007 1:18 PM | Link to this

Amen, Just Me, Amen!

nodding in agreement…

By Linguist

March 30, 2007 1:19 PM | Link to this

@SJ 12:51 This was going to be the day that I got a lot done, checking up on past emails, laundry, cleaning up, launching blog missiles but …noooooooooooooo, you had to go a pull that knarly rabbit out the hat …..they are picky and its hurting their chances in dating…

Can you just break it down, plain and simple like, as to why a woman can not have a certain criteria with what she wants in a mate??? Why do we always have to be labeled as “picky”.. Uh… can a women get a man that maybe has a j-o-b??? Can he not be “fug ugly”, Oh, I don’t know.. If I’m 5’6, can a sister ask for a man to be at least her height, whatever her height is??? If he doesn’t have a car, can he at least have a Marta or bus pass???

Is this what you would deem “too picky”????

By Lady J

March 30, 2007 1:19 PM | Link to this

Ok will do she is my heart!!! That is my baby!!! I love her but I had to do what I had to do and she disagreed but I will do!!!! She misses me too bc I did call her off guard last wk to ask a quick question and we chatted but still ended the conversation like ole times just a little weird…She stated during the disagreement she didn’t think we will ever be the same but oh well time will tell!!!

By ImAPeach404

March 30, 2007 1:20 PM | Link to this

@SJ… No, never. My ex and I talked about it quite frequently and I assumed that we were going to get married if it worked out, but it didn’t. Why do you ask?

By Reality Check

March 30, 2007 1:21 PM | Link to this

Amen, Just Me, Amen!

nodding in agreement…

By Bre'

March 30, 2007 1:21 PM | Link to this

WOW, I’m glad I dropped in today. I haven’t lived in ATL in little over 10 years. Much has changed since my dating days and running around the Dec…. Each time I come back and hear the stories of dating life. The more I’m thankful that I meet a man from Georgia(there is nothing like a southern man) that like me really has no desire to move back to fast. I don’t mind long distance relationship or right next door. Its not that big of deal if you really have a true intrest in someone.

I meet men everytime I come home and its just a blimp of time and wasted energy. Non are serious, they are just about the meet/greet and how they can get in some skin.

You can ask a single man or woman from any part of the States about there dating life and there will be pros and con’s period. Sistas in MN will say brotha’s don’t even look at them anymore; ones in LA will be like brotha’s have no get up and go; ones in NYC will say too many trying to live the Hip Hop life; in the Chi they will say brotha’s got too much going on corporate but can’t let the thug life go. So geography is what is as the dating life will be. Until I started traveling outside of the States did I understand how much dating in America is so different from other countries and cultures. We really having taking the humf(if that is a word) out of real courtship. I want to one day be able to tell my children children like my great aunts told me of how there husbands woed them, and courted them. This world is forever evolving so hopefully one day we will get back to the good stuff between men and women.

By Jewel

March 30, 2007 1:23 PM | Link to this

DuShawn and SeanJ Men can be picky, too. The gentleman I am talking to now said he almost let me “get away.” He said one look, and he assumed I was high-maintenance…expensive meals, Chastain Park, etc. Jewel’s Rule: Keep your money in your pocket and show me character.

Men and women need to look deeper than the surface. Atlanta’s shallow, greed, image-conscious, disease-ridden dating scene has nothing to offer anyone seeking quality.

By TC

March 30, 2007 1:24 PM | Link to this

You know being born and raised here, things certainly have changed as I’ve gotten older. Its is very hard now to find anyone here in my own state, also dating? No one dates anymore. Then what do they do, the get to know that person and all. I have found myself to meet men from other states, that do want a serious relationship and marriage. Here at my own home base! The new phrase is “I’m Cool”!? I cannot see myself being the person who’s second. Atlanta has changed a lot, everyone wants to be on top but they’re not.

By Jake

March 30, 2007 1:24 PM | Link to this

Ling I believe the smell the dyck on you comment was intened to explain the phenomenom of hoe/housewife syndrome.

Thatwhen the chick obviously has garden tool tendencies and then wants kickto you like she is so wholesome. Dudes with any level of experience can through that ish with so easily. So as the truth stated, we can smell the dyck on you.

By SexyLeggs

March 30, 2007 1:24 PM | Link to this

The Truth I read your post 3x. That was very, very deep and probably on the money.

Would I marry myself - In a NY minute. I’m fierce in the kitchen, I have great character, I love people and I love life.

By Lady J

March 30, 2007 1:24 PM | Link to this

Ok will do she is my heart!!! That is my baby!!! I love her but I had to do what I had to do and she disagreed but I will do!!!! She misses me too bc I did call her off guard last wk to ask a quick question and we chatted but still ended the conversation like ole times just a little weird…She stated during the disagreement she didn’t think we will ever be the same but oh well time will tell!!!

By TC

March 30, 2007 1:26 PM | Link to this

You know being born and raised here, things certainly have changed as I’ve gotten older. Its is very hard now to find anyone here in my own state, also dating? No one dates anymore. Then what do they do, the get to know that person and all. I have found myself to meet men from other states, that do want a serious relationship and marriage. Here at my own home base! The new phrase is “I’m Cool”!? I cannot see myself being the person who’s second. Atlanta has changed a lot, everyone wants to be on top but they’re not.

By HOW YOU LIKE ME NOW?

March 30, 2007 1:26 PM | Link to this

How can people make judgements on an entire region of people based upon their own little one or two bad experiences? I think you all just need to get a life and stop repaeating these same self defeating negative words that you allow to come out of your mouth. Grow up and realize that YOU ARE THE PROBLEM!!!!

By QC

March 30, 2007 1:26 PM | Link to this

Hey Jake what’s up baby!!!!

By Jewel

March 30, 2007 1:30 PM | Link to this

Sexione LOLOLOLOL!!!

By SeanJohnson

March 30, 2007 1:32 PM | Link to this

@ Linquist…reason i say that..is because yall will look a gift horse in the mouf…and STILL find something wrong with him…the things u listed is a given ..or atleast i hope it is..

@ 404Peach…i just remembered it was a female that use to post a lot that was engaged…coulda swore it was you…guess i was wrong..

By Wise Diva

March 30, 2007 1:32 PM | Link to this

LOL @ men losing their minds after moving here!

umm No comment.

By Patrick

March 30, 2007 1:33 PM | Link to this

To Slim One,

Swingers party? Perhaps. It was promoted as a SuperBowl Party, and I know some of the guys (married), and if they’re swingers, then i’m SURE their wives don’t know. That’s their business! You role the dice every time you meet someone new, but if i know that the tables in Vegas are “fixed” and my chances of truly winning are scarce, then I’m going to do my gambling somewhere else. Swingers party or not, AIDS is real!

By Jake

March 30, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this

Dayumn there were plenty of typos in my last posts…LOL

By ImAPeach404

March 30, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this

SJ I use to post a lot on here, but kind of got away from it. But no, I wasn’t engaged… I guess its kind of hard to keep up with the Peaches, Mochas, and Sexy’s :)

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 1:41 PM | Link to this

SJ Somethings in life are given SOP…… That’s where this woman starts, I’m sure there are many others who would concur. If a man can not provide the basic SOP’s for himself, why in the world would you expect that a woman the weaker sex, by the MLB standards

to accept that?

Check out Jewel gem below

Jewel

Men and women need to look deeper than the surface. Atlanta’s shallow, greed, image-conscious, disease-ridden dating scene has nothing to offer anyone seeking quality.

Let the Blog say AMEN!

but we still keep the faith!

and that’s why we are picky!

unnastand?

By kinderbabe

March 30, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this

peach404 i guess this is a good time to be the only “kinder” lol

By Linguist

March 30, 2007 1:44 PM | Link to this

what’s up blog ladies

Slim already there sis, found the stash earlier.. WD asked for one too, In my quest to quell an un-nerving feeling in the pit of my stomach with some of these comments, I inadvertantly poured myself a triple courvy.. hope you don’t mind!

Jake for some reason that comment “smell the Dk” chapped my hide! *I hate that comment.. it’s *vulgar, nasty and disrespectful… I Don’t know why “men” would think so dishearteningly about women .. I don’t care if she is a “gardening tool” or not..

Ling, reaching into the secret compartment (past the alcohol, pet food, Q paraphenlia.. oh, wait , that’s where I hid those new shoes!) …. Wait a minute Ling.. focus.. Oh yes, found blog glock, donning vest and helmet

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 1:48 PM | Link to this

Patrick you are 100% absolutely right about the diseases out there. So what is your current status, single, engaged, involed, etc…?

By kinderbabe

March 30, 2007 1:51 PM | Link to this

linguist i’m not gonna even respond deeply to anything else, i’ll jut co-sign your posts…lol. i too thought that the wording was quite “ill” to say the least. like the old saying goes, “it’s not what you say, it’s the way you say it.”

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 1:52 PM | Link to this

Jake sometimes we need it elementary too. - LOL

Lady J Don’t let it faze y’all, keep it real with her. I bet you have all these years. That’s what real friends do.

HYLMN How long have you been lurking? - LOL

You are crystal clear now It’s yo time to shine. Pick a real name and kick some blog wit us………

reaching for a bottle of water

By ImAPeach404

March 30, 2007 1:52 PM | Link to this

lol @ kinderbabe

Maybe I’ll change my nic to JustKinder_SexxiMocha-Peach404Me and really mess everybody up!

By Cayman

March 30, 2007 1:54 PM | Link to this

Me and a friend(who moved to the north)both joined eHarmony and I have at least 10x the matches, but neither of us has still found a steady.

I dunno about all this quality vs quantity stuff.

By SeanJohnson

March 30, 2007 1:58 PM | Link to this

@ JustMe…i look deeper than surface…any real man will…beauty is skin deep…i may look and even double take and approach a nice chic with a phat azz…but all the while during the feeding of ear candy..i am seeing where her head is…and if its any substance under the pretty shell.

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 1:59 PM | Link to this

Ling I figured something was going on with the stash since it was already opened when I got in. But its cool though if it was just you. I might take a Henny w/o the rocks cause they freezing little ole SlimOne in the office today.

By kinderbabe

March 30, 2007 1:59 PM | Link to this

peach404 chile, you had me cracking up over here..lmao. now that would mess everybody up. i’ll change mine to KinderSexiCaramelTreat_ThicknotSlimBabe lol

By T-Mango

March 30, 2007 2:02 PM | Link to this

@JustMe…You were definitely on point with your 1:04PM comment.

Back to Lurksville

By Linguist

March 30, 2007 2:05 PM | Link to this

SJ 1:32 because yall will look a gift horse in the mouf…and STILL find something wrong with him…

Sounds like you have a story behind this.. do tell? Are you espousing to the “nice guys finish last” theory?

Kinder Girl, so true, so true.. it’s the way things are said, the phrasing, etc. that get’s me sometimes too. I’m trying to get off this soap box of mine, but it seems to be cemented to my feet! LOL

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 2:06 PM | Link to this

Ling I’m vested and ready to Roll!

By Raqi

March 30, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this

The funny thing is I have a single brother that lives in Michigan, a single male cousin that lives in Sacramento and a single female cousin that lives South Dakota and all once lived here in Atlanta. They have dating dilemmas that sound very much like what most say about Atlanta. I have a friend that moved to Arkansas and her marriage dissolved because her husband started running around with his new work buddies and he got tied up with another woman. This is not just an Atlanta thang.

By Jewel

March 30, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this

ImaPeach & Kinderbabe LOL!!! I can’t even compete! Guess I could be JewelDiamondGemMarquisEmeraldOnyxSapphireRubyLOLOLOL!

By Alvin

March 30, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this

SlimOne I play too much. After paying my bills, taking stupid online course (time to move onto management), and being a good father…I don’t take life serious at all…now I do make a great friend, listener, a ball to be around in any city bullets flying or not, and lover…but as a husband, Heeeeeeeelllllllllllllllll NAW!!!!

I ain’t no good…she better marry Jesus!!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 30, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this

Kinderbabe I’m with you, now is a good time to be Mo (with all the names sounds the same in here).

Linguist since you have taken over the blog bar how bout a caramel apple martini?

I leave for little while and come back and the bottom falls out

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this

Ling you might need to visit MusingLee’s Everything Depot to see if they have something there to get that dayum soap box off your feet.

By Chocolate Peach

March 30, 2007 2:10 PM | Link to this

Okkkk, I’m bak and the A bashing I see is still goin on which is cool with me.

Also add the fact that every Darn store in the mall sells the same thing!!

MAN……I’m so moving back to Fla when my dude finish his 15 year murder bid.

By kinderbabe

March 30, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

linguist girl, stay on your box…lol. somebody has to be the voice of reason.:) people can say so many foolish, inconsiderate things but when someone gives them that same energy back, their feelings are suddenly hurt. people need to think before they speak. it teach the little ones so i’m always mindful of that. spring break starts in 15 minutes!! woo hoo!!!

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 2:13 PM | Link to this

SJ Try passing on the PhatAzz and focusing on the UgleeBetty or the AvgAmy. You never know what you might find inside a So-so sistah!

JustSayin

Raqi it’s errrrdayumwhere!

how does the old saying go?

Same ish different city?

By Jewel

March 30, 2007 2:13 PM | Link to this

And, since SeanJ loves to change people’s names, I christen him SeanJohnRonVaughnDonJuan LOL!

By Raqi

March 30, 2007 2:14 PM | Link to this

kinderbabe are you a school teacher? And if so what county or city do you teach in?

By John

March 30, 2007 2:14 PM | Link to this

I used to pick up chicks at Motel 6 on Old Dixie Highway in Clayton County, but suddenly that doesn’t seem like such a good idea anymore.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 30, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

My goodness so many different topics are going on….

I like what truth had to say…I think it’s a good analogy he made…

Finally, animals in the wild only run after fresh game. They trot up to leftovers. What you are experiencing is guys trotting up to you and taking a sniff and then keep on moving. There’s not enough meat for a full course meal.

I don’t think any female would classify themselves as leftover….but you got to ask yourself how are you being perceived by the opposite sex

I also agree with JustMe, women have to have standards and men shouldn’t care about how much money we make,career, etc…we’re not suppose to be the Main Providers. You guys don’t look to us for security….we look to you for security. I know with the feminine movement we say we don’t need a man…and that’s true to a point. But God hasn’t changed the role that the man is the head of the household…therefore he is ultimately responsible for the success of the household….EVERYONE ISN’T QUALIFIED FOR THIS CEO POSITION….and you would teach your daughters the same thing!

By SeanJohnson

March 30, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

@ Linquist…no story behind that comment from me personally…i actually do ok in the dating debt..but a lot of the females i know…are picky and i try to school em…they have dudes that like them…that are nice guys..safe bets..and they find things they dont like about them…yet…will be steady pushing up on a dude that “aint studden” them..dodging them and only see them for a convenient session…then they have the nerve to say ALL men aint ish and want something new…lol

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this

Alvin That’s deep and insecure…. you have just come to the realization that your past did not dictate your future……… About Face Soldier! Man Up! You’ll be ready one day!

CP huh?

By kinderbabe

March 30, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this

raqi yes i am a teacher in atlanta

By Jewel

March 30, 2007 2:20 PM | Link to this

An Inspirational Moment

To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk disappointment. To try is to risk failure, but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.” –from ‘The Dilemma’

“The tragedy of life is not found in failure but complacency. Not in you doing too much, but doing too little. Not in you living above your means, but below your capacity. It’s not failure but aiming too low, that is life’s greatest tragedy.” –Benjamin E. Mayes

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

March 30, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

SeanJohnRonVaughnDonJuan You bring up a good point…safe bet versus chemistry…What do you do when the good guys are boring or there’s simply no attraction there? Do you force yourself to be with them for the sake of having someone?

By kinderbabe

March 30, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

jewel you crazy!! lol

By Raqi

March 30, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

kinderbabe WOW! Are you a fulltime teacher?

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 30, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

I know we have spoken Tier system time and time again on here…but I am begining to think the men have the system jacked up. I mean in Patrick’s story he described a party in a upscale community I will assume with married Tier 1 women (lawd this may bring Justin out of the woodwork) yet they were there playing video vixen. Yet these are the women those Tier 1 (or so they say they are tier 1) men choose to marry. I mean guys you give us grief for the choices we make call us selfish, spoiled, picky, naive, blind, and I am sure a few other choice names. Yet it seems you make the same mistakes in your dating decisions. Then when you feel like getting righteous you pull out the All I ever wanted was Laura from Little house to settle down and cook my meals and birth my babies card.

By Linguist

March 30, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

Ling, multi-tasking as usual, slids one caramel apple martini towards Mo, flips through MsuingLee’s Everything Depot catalog trying to locate some kind of cleaning material to extricate herself from the soapbox, and simultaneously looking for really cute matching blog vests and helmets..

JustMe what color are we going to wear??

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this

John This is not a good place either……. keep it movin’

Jewel - LOLOLOL

By ImAPeach404

March 30, 2007 2:25 PM | Link to this

Lol @ kinder & jewel, yall are a mess!

and, was ChochPeach serious??? Lol…

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 2:27 PM | Link to this

Dr. Kym ^5 Pure Knowledge!!

Ling Pink and gray - LOL anything that will macth this gray plastic boot - LOL,, oh yeah and I’ll need a matching crutch.

By SeanJohnson

March 30, 2007 2:28 PM | Link to this

@JustMe…believe or not..i will talk to a so so sister…mentally and emotionally i will have her believing in her self worth and beauty…and then phsyically dress/make her into what i like in a female..one thing though…if she has a flat butt…Houston.we have a problem…clothes wont fit right

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 2:28 PM | Link to this

Alvin I ain’t no good…she better marry Jesus!! dayum dog LMAO….at least you know your limit but you have me cracking up over here. I guess it would be more convenient if we stated all of our faults when meeting new people as apposed to trying to convince them how great we are.

Chick sitting at the bar exchanging smiles at gentleman at the other end. He gets the hint and walks over to meet this cute thang

Dude: Hi there, you sure have a beautiful smile. Do you mind if i sit?

Chick: Likewise thank you. It’s all yours.

Dude: So tell me about yourself

Chick: well, I have 4 kids. (yes they all have different fathers)

Dude: Really? I would’ve never guessed it. I actually have 3 kids too. I have two baby mommas though so you have me beat on that one (they both laugh flirtingly)

Chick: Let’s see, oh I finally got my section 8 housing approved so I should be moving in two weeks from now. One of my baby daddy’s will probably drop by from time to time, but not to worry, he’ll never come over unless it’s after 12. What’s your living status?

Dude: actually i just recently moved back in with my mom. I’m currently separated from my wife of…get this…only 7 months! Yeah, we moved up here from Waycross,Ga and i got up here and just got bukked wild.

Chick: wow! 7 months! I can’t believe i’ve met someone that’s been married for that long. You must really love her. How did she find out?

Dude: well what had happened was i got invited to this Superbowl party. My wife wasn’t able to come with me so i went with one of my homeboyz. Well next thing you know everrbody getting loose doing all kinda freaky things. Long story short…when i got home…she could smell the p-dussy on me and wha-lah! that led to our separation.

chick and dude continure chatting it up and eventually exchanges numbers. 3 weeks later Dude moves out of moms house and moves in with Chick since moms was tripping bout eating her lunch meat and CHick’s rent is only $60

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 30, 2007 2:31 PM | Link to this

Thanks Ling!!

*Is anyone else glad that it rained?!

SlimOne maybe those of us with horrible allergies will get SOME relief!!

Jewel nice new name for SJ!!

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 30, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

SJ I will now take your comments and reverse them because I have seen this before said of men on the blog…

Your comments to Just Me: @JustMe…believe or not..i will talk to a so so sister…mentally and emotionally i will have her believing in her self worth and beauty…and then phsyically dress/make her into what i like in a female..one thing though…if she has a flat butt…Houston.we have a problem…clothes wont fit right

Now lets flip it and have it come from a woman about a man…

SJ I would love to find a average brother and lift him up mentally and remind him daily that he is a man and that he has worth …I will work with him in the effort to make him the type of man I like…now if he is short well then there may have to be some smoke in the city cause I am out.

Now the blog brothers will say why you trying to change that man..see that is the problem with you women always trying to change and mold some guy. Clean him up…..

So I say unto you brother….what is wrong with that So-So sister see that is the problem with you men always trying to change someone.

By SeanJohnson

March 30, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

@ DarkDimples…thing is..its not a safe bet or boring guy versus chemistry….its more like…nice safe bet likes you…is showing you attention…trying to do be the type of man women say they want…versus someone not calling or returning calls..not actually taking u on dates..and there in only chemistry when your thongs are around your ankles..which means its no chemistry…in all honesty..i think its a psychological thing in women…a lot of women have gotten or have been given or even earn everything in their lives and when a man u want pay you no attention u make it a point to get him….no matter what…u feel me…KBwhats your take on this?

By VenomBolt

March 30, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this

Barf, you people sound like pages straight out of the self help book. Love and relationships is only for the weak. I straddle the battlefield of life like a mighty Colossus and will not lower myself to hinder my future that I built and have earned.

All who try to be apart of that future are considered threats to that future. In all honesty, why, oh why, would I ever let someone sit on the hood of my efforts and yoke the benefits that they have not earned.

Sorry I just don’t see the point of taking care of a Freeloader. If I were ever to change, I pray that God would strike me down for being a fool.

By youngATL

March 30, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

Ok, so I’ve been lurking for a little while and I must say this is a depressing blog day. I think I’m probably one of the youngest people here and all of ya’ll make it sound like I’ll never find anyone in ATL. I’ve lived here all my life and I plan on staying here after graduation but he!! I still want the possiblity of finding a lifelong SO. Any good news about the ATL dating scene?

By Linguist

March 30, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

Dr.Kym ^5^5^5 ding ding ding ding ding… you are the winner for the quote of the day: “Then when you feel like getting righteous you pull out the All I ever wanted was Laura from Little house to settle down and cook my meals and birth my babies card”…

Please come to the end of the blog bar, and select your custom made (in America) personalized Blog Vest and Helmet. We’ve got them in many different colors, textures, etc. Quiet as it’s kept, they not only repel blog bullets, but mis-informed un-educated blog comments bounce right off of them!

disclaimer, we do not.. repeat.. do not authorize or condone violence in any manner here at the blog bar… but feel free to see SLim out back in the alley, she’ll hook you up with any “accessories” to go with your vest and helmet..

By SexyLeggs

March 30, 2007 2:45 PM | Link to this

SlimOne you are a bonafide nut. Keep it up. Jewel I absolutely love the Benjamin E. Mays quote. It’s been taped to my computer for years, along with this quote from Katherin Hepburn If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun.

By Jewel

March 30, 2007 2:46 PM | Link to this

Kym You are 100%, absolutely correct!

By VenomBolt

March 30, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

Barf, you people sound like pages straight out of the self help book. Love and relationships is only for the weak. I straddle the battlefield of life like a mighty Colossus and will not lower myself to hinder my future that I built and have earned.

All who try to be apart of that future are considered threats to that future. In all honesty, why, oh why, would I ever let someone sit on the hood of my efforts and yoke the benefits that they have not earned.

Sorry I just don’t see the point of taking care of a Freeloader. If I were ever to change, I pray that God would strike me down for being a fool.

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 2:48 PM | Link to this

Mo (now known as Moeisha) I can tell the little rain we did get helped some. I wish we got a better rain so I couldn’t even tell we ever had pollen…but greatful nonetheless.

Dr Kym You are right but another difference in them fixing a so-so woman up compared to us fixing up a so-so man is that man would start to get the confidence boost and eventually feel he’s outgrown YOU because now he’s being noticed by other women.

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this

SJ You are s stone cold trip. She MAY not need you to make her believe in herself…. You think her lack of natural beauty has jacksquat to what with her self esteem and emotional well being? And so what if her azz is flat…….. Y’all have y’all’s standards and we have ours - WOW!

SlimMusingSexi

Look above and speak loudly for he no heareeeee youuuuuu!

By Elisa

March 30, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

I’ve always met men at work. I never dated anyone that worked in my department or was my supervisor. That was WAY too close for comfort. But if you worked on another floor, department, nearby building or if I met you at the office lunch counter, you were fair game. My husband and I met at work, but it was over the phone because we worked in separate states. It wasn’t until I quit that job that he upped his pursuit and we were married.

By SeanJohnson

March 30, 2007 2:52 PM | Link to this

@ Kym…i am just saying i may have to patch up some emotional scars some irresponsble brother may have caused…and slap a fresh candy paint job on the chevy with a couple of clear coats…then ride her around and show her off..make her feel good..

By Chocolate Peach

March 30, 2007 2:52 PM | Link to this

@jewel 12:04 post, Ha!!! Lmao…Big Tyme!! U think I tipped em off. Dawg………

For me it’s not so much the dating scene here in the A that disgust me. It’s Atlanta period. We are too big of a city to have a sorry Football team, Basketball (Hawks better season this yr) Dont even get me started on the Braves, Our past & present city mayors. I luv Mrs. Franklin though. Our police brutality of a department we have.

Every other dude you meet here have or about to record a album (My bros too). Every chic swear she’s a model. Our major HBCU’s are all in hott water. Man is there a need to cont? I luv the A but it has really truly took a spin for the WORSE!!

What’s even WORSE!! 85% Of the people that live were NOT born & raised here.

The best thing that the A has going right now is Rap & Hip Hop (psssssh) & or was GA Tech.

Everybody that has moved here was looking for a quick come up & they were told the A is the city to make it happen.

Yes, this stuff happens in every city but were talkin bout home & that is Hotlanta!! And I am a true Ga breed. My name isn’t Chocolate Peach for nothing!!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 30, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this

youngATL People are voicing their opinions. Dont get discouraged! I am about to jump into the dating pool again and I doubt seriously that I will be moving anywhere (though if I could…Charlotte, NC would be my spot). You just have to experience it for yourself.

By Alvin

March 30, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this

JustMe, I was not voicing insecurities at all…I’ve been at the highest of highs and lowest of lows…I just know what I am capable of in relationships…I don’t lie to myself sis…I know were I stand…

By SeanJohnson

March 30, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this

@ JustMe…i am just saying..if she needs it down…dang…dont make me come put ya azz in the figure 4 and mess up the one good leg u have left..lol…as far as having a standard for a nice azz…it doesnt have be that big..just a nice proportionate one for her size…having to wear a belt when you wear a skirt aint cute

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 30, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

@SJ Well then how does that analogy differ from say me find a lost stray on the street, beaten and worn down by too many late night dogfights, covered in GA red clay and in need of all his shots. I can just win his trust with a few homecooked meals, a nice bath, a trip to the vet to get him his shots and neutered. An then keep him well fed and dry so he will guard the house, provide treats so he will not bark at the neighbors, and rub his belly so he will fall asleep at the foot of the bed. An I can say to all look at how I made a well trained guard dog out of a three-legged stray.

By youngATL

March 30, 2007 3:01 PM | Link to this

Thanks Mo! I know I shouldn’t get discouraged, but it’s hard not to today. Ya’ll have had some amazing and funny stories in the past, but now it seems to be bash the A day. I’ve never lived anywhere else (besides college and that’s not far away from home) and I’ve grown to love this city so much. I guess I’m just nervous about starting the dating experience outside of college, especially after just ending a long and messed up relationship.

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 3:02 PM | Link to this

SJ What other way is there to get it if we don’t earn it or receive it? Help a sistah out cuz ish don’t come free…

SJ **Dr. Kym got dat azz on blast - LOL as a matter of fact, yo azz gettin’ blasted from errry angle. Where ya BlogBoys?

YoungATL8 Good News indeed *Dr. Kym is kickin down for real today….. much knowledge is flowin. SJ step out with a 6 shooter about the issues women have in dating and shot himself in the foot! SJ is trying to keep his head above water and his boys and now where to be found!

Good News girl…. Pick a real name and kick some blog with us for a minute - LOL VBolt It’s this thing called love……. it’s very unslefish, and its complex by design, but it is so very essential to the soul…… for to receive unconditional love, you must first give it…. Ye who wants, lacks from asking - JustMe

By Blasian

March 30, 2007 3:02 PM | Link to this

The bad dating situation should not be blamed on the city. The problem is lack of morals and people (men and women) not truly understanding what love, commitment and marriage mean.

By kinderbabe

March 30, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this

it’s official…i’m free!!! spring break has started. have a great weekend everyone. check ya later jewel, peach404, mo, sj

By For Real

March 30, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this

Ling before you remove the soapbox can you look towards the sky for me. Ok, got it. Now lift the helmet high above your head. Perfect.

Slim You made a funny… Do you have some Remy in that stash??

Dr.Kym good point but on average men know who they are and are honest enough with themselves to admit it (See Alvin’s post) but women typically do not know who they really are until they are much older and even then they may not know. Now, I am not saying women are the only ones but most dudes know if they ain’t about ish because we as men tell each other about our true self. Where women always lying to each in there face but will tell someone else the truth about her BFF.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

March 30, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

Hi Everyone!!

Back today because I could not stay away. Well enough with the Dr. Seuss. The topic that WD brought up was one that I was thinking about before I got here. It is amazing how the dating scene is one big game! I think that we are all pawns in the middle of it. I know I feel like a chess piece. I have 2 kids and I try to get out as much as possible to see if I can meet Mr. Right and not Mr. Right Now, but they seem to be one in the same. I might meet a guy that I like and that seems to like me but I guess my chess piece is really all the are after. I get tired of the lame lines and the dates that want to turn into last minute booty calls. I met a guy that actually tried to hold me hostage at his house because he figured he was entitled to a little bootay!!! I was having such a Theresa Randall moment from Sugar Hill!! It’s crazy. I love Atlanta, don’t want to move because my family is here, but the population or straight, honest, monogamous, sexy men is definitely on the decline…

By Chocolate Peach

March 30, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this

Nah, Man…. I was just kidding. I needed to make myself laugh cause this topic today reminds me why I hate it here.

However I have kids & they have their dad that’s here not to forget my entire family who I’m SUPER close with. I wouldnt know what to do If I couldn’t go over my sister house & drink up all her wine, or go to my mom’s eat whatever is on the stove & leave or not to go sit in the studio & hear one of my brothers put it down. To keep a balance & the village I need to help raise my kids. I’m force to stay here & deal with this madness.

And some like to call me selfish, Selfish would have been dipped & never look back.

HOUSTON or BOCA I’m coming!!

By ImAPeach404

March 30, 2007 3:11 PM | Link to this

Kyr & Slim The other difference about them fixing us up is, after they do so, we stick around. After we fix them up, they leave us and the next chick reaps the benefits

By Alvin

March 30, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

SlimOne Up front no, it depend on how the relationship is progessing. Afer date #3 or #4, you kind of know what type of person you are dealing with.

I am able to get most women to open up after date #1 and phone time…Be like, this girl is crazy.

And Funny Funny Slim!!!!

SJ I am not too too big on big asset, ish sag after age 40 any how(unless she works out), all I ask for is a gap of an a$$.

By Alvin

March 30, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

SlimOne Up front no, it depend on how the relationship is progessing. Afer date #3 or #4, you kind of know what type of person you are dealing with.

I am able to get most women to open up after date #1 and phone time…Be like, this girl is crazy.

And Funny Funny Slim!!!!

SJ I am not too too big on big asset, ish sag after age 40 any how(unless she works out), all I ask for is a gap of an a$$.

By youngATL

March 30, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

Thanks Mo! I know I shouldn’t get discouraged but it seems like it’s just bash the A day. I’ve lived in Atlanta my entire life (besides college but that’s incredibly close) and I’ve grown to love this city so much. I guess I’m just really worried about the dating scene after college. It’s something I know nothing about. I guess I’ll find out soon enough.

By Raqi

March 30, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

The only advice I will give to any young upstart, don’t be like that dumb chick on the Capital One commercial. Don’t keep standing there kissing the same damn frog expecting a better outcome. Go to the other side of the pond or even a different pond for that matter.

When you go to a sports arena you will find players, when you go to the army base you will find soldiers…so know what you are looking for and search accordingly.

If you don’t understand what I am saying…well you will have to ask me a week from Monday because I am out.

Good night everyone. Have a safe weekend and a fun spring break. Thanks for the birthday wish JustMe and back at cha.

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

Alvin Ok, but don’t lose the faith….. you never never know how you will be moved.

SJ You think making her feel good is riding her around in a shiny car….. then what go home and be an azzhole with a shiny car. Dude you making my foot hurt!

hint you should have more character than your car.

SJ ummmhmmmm ok SJVersace, and having to pay all the bills don’t make a woman feel sexy. But ima leave yo azz alone for a sec, you got, your hands full with Dr. Kym and errrbody else too - LOL

CP saawwweee

By SeanJohnson

March 30, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

@justme…Kym isnt putting me on blast..just trying to flip my comment..and actually she has the same opinion in doing it to a man..if i read and interpeted correctly…she is just playing devils advocate…and i dont need a posse..i stand alone..and can hold my own..bssically some women are spoiled and expect to get any and every thing they want…do u feel me now? probably not..

By Jewel

March 30, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

Kym I am laughing at your 2:59 post! Are you describing a dog or a boyfriend? LOL!

By "Longtime Lurker"

March 30, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

Ya boy got some sleep and this dayum blog is addictive!

Who the h e double ll is SWMarietta holerin my name???

Y’all want the real, here it is…

If you a sangle male, why the h e double ll you want to sadle up to one female in Atlanta, when you got chicks fallin out the trees for ya!

Most cat’s like havin options and with options,you can get rid of that chick at any time, if she act the f** up!

Chick get rowdy, get rid of her azz, chick beg too much, get rid of her azz, chick get too demanding, get rid of her azz! Chick ask for too much ish, you know the drill!

I see cat’s walking round all the time, with that look like damn, I wish I was you! Cat’s be wanting to live through other single dudes…Who trying to be one of those dudes!

It’s like this, I cannot honestly say I am going to like yo azz five years from now, let alone for life, so let’s be common law and roll with it from year to year!

If after a few years you been through some wars with me and shed blood for me, proven you got my back, suffered when I suffered,fought, smacked a few chicks that were outta line, then we will talk!

I am sorry yall. I keeps it real, and the new 30’s is the new keepin it real. Ain’t no body gonna earn a marriage title without going through some things, I am sorry…ya heard!

Them days of being cute and getting a prize are ova!!!! You gotta earn some stripes nowa days, pay some taxes and earn yo due!

Here it is, there you go!

By BusinessMan MusingLee

March 30, 2007 3:21 PM | Link to this

Strolling into the blog wearing a Hugo Boss suit and shell toe Addidas

For anyone interested in finding a quality mate here in Atlanta, step into my booth…

Musing turns to the camera and reveals the “Musings ATL Love Capture Institute”….

I will go out and kidnap the Man or Woman of your dreams if need be…I offer 24hr brainwashings, Old Chick/Dude Beat Downs, and Rent-a-Baller Program for those empty stomached Women…..Call today and sign up for my Musing West “Workout Plan”,… “If the booty ain’t tight, Musing didn’t hit it right!”

By Frank

March 30, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this

meet most of mine at rap concerts and kfc restaurants

holla

By SeanJohnson

March 30, 2007 3:23 PM | Link to this

@JustMe….i am going to have to write this with one of my lil sj’s thick crayons on corn bread paper so u can get it…the car thing was an analogy…she was actually the car and the paint job was her exterior u shouldnt be over there taking pain pills drink alcohol..its states that clear as day on the bottle…

By Frank

March 30, 2007 3:24 PM | Link to this

meet most of mine at rap concerts and kfc restaurants

holla

By For Real

March 30, 2007 3:24 PM | Link to this

Ok blog ladies lets be real about this so called “fixing up” thang. Men are the ones who do the majority of the “fixing up” because we will take a women minus the standard description all women have for their dream man. Besides how many women are stepping to the table with watch you are looking for? As I have said before learn to compete and work for a man like men have learned to compete and work for a lady.

Chocolate P I agree with you about the 85% not being from the “A” and I am willing to bet that majority of the ladies dating problem come from men not born and raised in the “A”.

Question Blog ladies - What the last two men that you dated from the “A”?

By Frank

March 30, 2007 3:24 PM | Link to this

meet most of mine at rap concerts and kfc restaurants

holla

By Lucky

March 30, 2007 3:24 PM | Link to this

Well!! I think one of the reason men notice you when you leave town is because the town you’re venturing to doesn’t have beautiful women like Atlanta.

By ImAPeach404

March 30, 2007 3:25 PM | Link to this

Well said Blasian I agree. I often think I was born in the wrong era b/c I value commitment, honesty, morals, the courting process, repect for each other, and the man truely being the head of the household… all that 1950’s stuff that doesn’t seem to apply anymore.

People have come to accept infideltiy in relationships and chalked it up to ‘a man will be a man’ and ‘you’re not supposed to be wtih one person forever’

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this

For Real* if ya lookin for phatazzes you get phatazzes…… look for a good soul and you just might find one, and she may not have aphaazz. Then what? is a Phatazz (using SJ’s lieteral analogy a non-negotiable?

Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream Bless ya child…. welcome back! - LOL

By Lucky

March 30, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this

Well!! I think one of the reason men notice you when you leave town is because the town you’re venturing to doesn’t have beautiful women like Atlanta.

By Lucky

March 30, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this

Well!! I think one of the reason men notice you when you leave town is because the town you’re venturing to doesn’t have beautiful women like Atlanta.

By Deeva4Life

March 30, 2007 3:28 PM | Link to this

@Longtime Lurkeryou are the prime example of why women have such a hard time finding a GOOD mate. “Keepin it real…tellin it like it is…whatever!” Men need to grow up…ok marriage isn’t the thing for everybody, but stating that a woman has to “go through some wars” with you doesn’t sound like a prize. The prize isn’t for her…the prize is for you. I’m all for standing by my man and handling “our” business, but I’m not out to prove to a man that I have his back…he should know that during our courting period. You finding a wife is the good thing…not her going through ish with you.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 30, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

Jewel I guess both…my only point is that the guys do a whole lot of finger pointing and how did you get with that dude yet when you listen to the story about their Tier 1, dime pieces…it seems like the Pot is calling the kettle black. * I am not blasting anyone as it is still the Lent season.*

By Alvin

March 30, 2007 3:32 PM | Link to this

you never never know how you will be moved…

To marry? I don’t think faith is needed for that, just dishonestly.

JustMe there is no need to defend bottom dwelling dudes. Most of the dudes on here seem to be Men, not looking for hand outs.

Sup For Real

I agree with you LDD

LL Sup Bruh!!!

By NCgirlfromATL

March 30, 2007 3:33 PM | Link to this

Dang, y’all have been off the chain today! Since I don’t live in the ATL anymore, I can’t relate to the dating scene. I’ve said here before that the scene here in NC isn’t terrible, but it ain’t great either! LOL! The biggest problem isn’t the lack of men or women, but the lack of things to do. One has to be very creative, and very open to doing things that might not seem obviously fun to have a good time. The night life isn’t as plentiful as it is down there. One of my biggest complaints. I’m not a club hopper, but I do like to go places where people my age can go to hang out and meet each other.

I guess I need to make a trip to Atlanta soon! LOL!

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

March 30, 2007 3:33 PM | Link to this

I’m with you Peach404!! Old Skool needs to be in session now. What ever happened to that “Leave it to Beaver” dude with the good old fashioned values? I just want a man to commit and be honest about it for a change. If you are looking for a Taco Bell Girl then let me know, but if you ask is it all good, I’m going to tell you that I’m not looking for a Fast Food Kind of Guy

By SexyLeggs

March 30, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

LongtimeLurker great to hear your thoughts. You are absolutely correct!

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 3:38 PM | Link to this

LL I feel you, but while y’all want us to be earning our stripes, y’all wanna be out there giving a lady a reason to fighting mad and smackin’ up chicks you drug into the mix. Can y’all be faithful soldiers too!

SJ Whatever…. your point was you had to fix her up! How about loving her the way you found her?

By "Longtime Lurker"

March 30, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this

@Deeva4life You just showed your slip and proved my point!

Back in the day, women showed they were down for they men! My mom and grandma showed that!

This comment right here proves my point…but I’m not out to prove to a man that I have his back

WTF… but you want me to marry you fo life…shiiiid!

Come on girl, I got the most to loose, if it don’t work out and you want me to put my life on the line for the rest of my life, if don’t truly show that you got my back…puleeese!

Girl, any man who has self worth is going to put a chick through a few wars and some battles, to truly see if she is the one! If he is a true man, he wants a true woman!

Just cause you fine and you can speak decent, only a sucker is gonna take you on that alone!

If you want to go the distance, you gotta prove your worth, let alone show that you are in it for the long-term!

You can’t come into the company as the president! What happened to gradually moving up?

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this

My Bad Good Dr. Kym No blastin’ atl all :-)

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 3:44 PM | Link to this

SeanJ u shouldnt be over there taking pain pills drink alcohol..its states that clear as day on the bottle LMAO!!!!!

For Real I use to pick you up some Remy until you started putting them pics you took of me and my girls Mo,Ling, and Sexi1 and plasting them on your myspace page. But i haven’t totally forgotten about ya. There should be some MD 20/20 in the back and a little bit of Sysco left.

Dang is seems hectic in here. I’m going ta have to blow the whistle up in here in a minute.

By Jewel

March 30, 2007 3:44 PM | Link to this

Kym Yeah, I checked the calendar before I hit post…I figured you were revving up the engine. LOL!

By "Longtime Lurker"

March 30, 2007 3:44 PM | Link to this

@Deeva4life You just showed your slip and proved my point!

Back in the day, women showed they were down for they men! My mom and grandma showed that!

This comment right here proves my point…but I’m not out to prove to a man that I have his back

WTF… but you want me to marry you fo life…shiiiid!

Come on girl, I got the most to loose, if it don’t work out and you want me to put my life on the line for the rest of my life, if don’t truly show that you got my back…puleeese!

Girl, any man who has self worth is going to put a chick through a few wars and some battles, to truly see if she is the one! If he is a true man, he wants a true woman!

Just cause you fine and you can speak decent, only a sucker is gonna take you on that alone!

If you want to go the distance, you gotta prove your worth, let alone show that you are in it for the long-term!

You can’t come into the company as the president! What happened to gradually moving up?

By For Real

March 30, 2007 3:45 PM | Link to this

Hit em up LL… See yall don’t underestimate the power of a good nap..

By "Longtime Lurker"

March 30, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

@Deeva4life You just showed your slip and proved my point!

Back in the day, women showed they were down for they men! My mom and grandma showed that!

This comment right here proves my point…but I’m not out to prove to a man that I have his back

WTF… but you want me to marry you fo life…shiiiid!

Come on girl, I got the most to loose, if it don’t work out and you want me to put my life on the line for the rest of my life, if don’t truly show that you got my back…puleeese!

Girl, any man who has self worth is going to put a chick through a few wars and some battles, to truly see if she is the one! If he is a true man, he wants a true woman!

Just cause you fine and you can speak decent, only a sucker is gonna take you on that alone!

If you want to go the distance, you gotta prove your worth, let alone show that you are in it for the long-term!

You can’t come into the company as the president! What happened to gradually moving up?

By DuShawn

March 30, 2007 3:47 PM | Link to this

@Chocolatpeach My view of the “A” is totally different than yours. I haven’t lived here very long, but I’m still enamored with the city. I’ve visited no other city that’s quite like it. I’m from Miami. There, the Hispanic community dominates the scene both politically and economically. Only in Atlanta have I been to a mall and the majority of the merchants and patrons were of African decent. I enjoy fine dining. In most cities, my party would be the only black folks in the restaurant. Here, dayum near every table is us. Never have I seen so many palatial, manicured neighborhoods and every person you see checking the mail box looks like me. Additionally, I’m a people watcher. I often hang out and listen to what others are talking about. The conversations that a lot of our people are having in this city are not drivel. People are discussing pertinent matters of political empowerment, financial security and economic advancement. In this very forum alone, you have the privilege daily of communicating with some of the most well read, intelligent, opinionated folks I have seen in a minute. (Not to mention the many pretty faces and cornbread fed azzes everywhere you go.) All of these facets are unique to this city. Sometimes I think native ATLiens take them for granted.

By UniquelyK

March 30, 2007 3:47 PM | Link to this

^5 @By ImAPeach404

The other difference about them fixing us up is, after they do so, we stick around. After we fix them up, they leave us and the next chick reaps the benefits

I AM NOT IN THE FIXING UP BIZ ANYMORE…AND I WILL NOT SETTLE!

By Deeva4Life

March 30, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this

@Longtime Lurkeryou obviously missed the part that I typed that stated he should know that during our courting period meaning he should’ve been able to spend some time with me to know my real character and know that I’d have his back. I’m all for having my man’s back (which I stated) but I’m not about to show my azz by “slapping a few chicks” and waste years of my life only for you to decide you’d rather be with somebody else. I’ll prove who I am as we get to know each other (courting period) and would hope that you’d make your decision about marrying me based off my character and who I am…not how many chicks I slapped. That’s all I’m saying. I still believe in those days that you stand by your man, but when are the days coming that your man sticks by you (and only you)?

By QC

March 30, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this

They are towing cars left & right downtown…so if you’re coming down this weekend “do not park your car in an unlegal zone” they towed this beautiful midnight blue mercedes…well have a great weekend bloggers…hey Jake

HOLLA, QC has left the building

By For Real

March 30, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this

Awww come now Slim I didn’t hold the vomit against you did I???? Beside, I don’t fool with MySpace. I use my pictures to make flyers promoting upscale strip clubs…

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this

LL I do understand your point, all I am saying is can men give it to the woman the same way you want to receive it? Must we suffer thru infedelity, verbal, emotional, psychologial torture to prove where we stand with you. How about letting a woman show you her loyalty in an environment where loyalty is nutured and appreciated NOW as opposed to when we have paid sufficient dues, taxes and stipens. I know time is a factor, but better times make staying so much easier and desirable an environment where one would want to progress not use for self gain.

By Alvin

March 30, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this

What ever happened to that “Leave it to Beaver” dude with the good old fashioned values? I just want a man to commit and be honest about it for a change.

They’re called boring non-player type dude…

I just realize why most women dislike boring dudes…Once you get him to open up and explore the wild side…Dude leaves and go explore others, LOL

Sounded stupid, I know…Sorry

By MusingLee

March 30, 2007 3:53 PM | Link to this

Musing grabs Jewel by the arm and holds her closely gazing into her eyes like Cool Moe Dee…Smacking her hips as if riding a stallion

That should cure any Musingitis you may have.

Musing now waking up w/lump on his head

By DuShawn

March 30, 2007 3:54 PM | Link to this

@Chocolatpeach My view of the “A” is totally different than yours. I haven’t lived here very long, but I’m still enamored with the city. I’ve visited no other city that’s quite like it. I’m from Miami. There, the Hispanic community dominates the scene both politically and economically. Only in Atlanta have I been to a mall and the majority of the merchants and patrons were of African decent. I enjoy fine dining. In most cities, my party would be the only black folks in the restaurant. Here, dayum near every table is us. Never have I seen so many palatial, manicured neighborhoods and every person you see checking the mail box looks like me. Additionally, I’m a people watcher. I often hang out and listen to what others are talking about. The conversations that a lot of our people are having in this city are not drivel. People are discussing pertinent matters of political empowerment, financial security and economic advancement. In this very forum alone, you have the privilege daily of communicating with some of the most well read, intelligent, opinionated folks I have seen in a minute. (Not to mention the many pretty faces and cornbread fed azzes everywhere you go.) All of these facets are unique to this city. Sometimes I think native ATLiens take them for granted.

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 3:54 PM | Link to this

Deeva ^5

By Deeva4Life

March 30, 2007 3:55 PM | Link to this

@Longtime Lurkeryou obviously missed the part that I typed that stated he should know that during our courting period meaning he should’ve been able to spend some time with me to know my real character and know that I’d have his back. I’m all for having my man’s back (which I stated) but I’m not about to show my azz by “slapping a few chicks” and waste years of my life only for you to decide you’d rather be with somebody else. I’ll prove who I am as we get to know each other (courting period) and would hope that you’d make your decision about marrying me based off my character and who I am…not how many chicks I slapped. That’s all I’m saying. I still believe in those days that you stand by your man, but when are the days coming that your man sticks by you (and only you)?

By NCgirlfromATL

March 30, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this

(after speed reading thru the blog) Co-signing on IamPeach’s (whassup girl!?!) 3:11 post. I can’t help but wonder why women feel the need to fix up a man in the first place? When are we going to realize that while our check book might change him physically, our love won’t change him mentally. If he wasn’t the man we wanted when we met him, all the new clothes, fixed teeth (thinking of Bobby Brown’s character in “Two Can Play that Game”) and other material things will only make him into the man another woman will want. Psychologically, if a man felt like he had to fix me up, I’d know that I wasn’t the woman he wanted in the first place. Why stick around for that?

Whassup SJ?

By SexyLeggs

March 30, 2007 3:59 PM | Link to this

I believe it was LongtimeLurker who said he was going to tell us ladies something about a man. He asked us to listen up to this one tip he was going to share: A man wants to know and believe his woman has his back. Was it you LL?

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 4:01 PM | Link to this

Alvin Where exactly can a sistah find a boring non-playa type dude? I’m gonna hobble my azz down there and see if any of themlike handicapped women? - LOL

By Jewel

March 30, 2007 4:01 PM | Link to this

LOL! Musing Now, if you were DelRoy Lindo, you would not have a lump on your head! Anyway, I do not want to be cured. Long Post Lurker is back and I might accidentally read one of his posts!

By "Longtime Lurker"

March 30, 2007 4:02 PM | Link to this

@JustMe There we go again, y’all puttin too much emphasis on the sucka’s!

Let’s talk about real men for a minute, somethin most of y’all ain’t used too!

A cat that is handlin his, ain’t gonna make it easy on y’all, because you got an hour glass shape!

He used to that, hell, he around that erry day and they are throwin him more options than a hooker on 10th street!

In order to be his “one” you gotta prove your worth, cause you are just a number until you show that you are above them other chicks!

I could go into great detail, but Imma let you figure it out!

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 4:05 PM | Link to this

For Real Upscale huh? Well either way you didn’t get written permission to advertise or promote with photos of me….besides, who is going to pay to go to a strip club with dancers as small as i am?

By MusingLee

March 30, 2007 4:08 PM | Link to this

AhhhhhLOLOLOLOL…Jewel Girl, youssss stupid..hahahahahaha…LongPost Lurker…..Hahahaha

LL the girl has got jokes

By Deeva4Life

March 30, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this

JustMe^5 to you too! Great point.

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this

LL Your analogy was one of a struggle. But according to your 4:02 post Let’s talk about real men for a minute, somethin most of y’all ain’t used too! I thought that was a given, we cleared that up this morning……

It’s still the same games just different playas…… why play games at all. Why not recognize a good woman and give her the benefit of the doubt and for once say, you know what I’m gonna chill on the other ladies for a minute and give it love up the same way you want to receive it. Y’all wanna test women, but y’all really need to test yaselves first!

A woman that handlin hers is not gonna let some game playin azzhole test her when he is not living up to the same standards he is setting! WTFE!

By Peachezz

March 30, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this

Alvin i love leave it to beaver and it still comes on cable

By Alvin

March 30, 2007 4:16 PM | Link to this

JustMe LOL

By MusingLee

March 30, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this

Musing now pushing JustMe’s wheelchair down the steepest hill in San Francisco for that last post

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 30, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

Let’s talk about real men for a minute, somethin most of y’all ain’t used too!

LL Dont get it twisted I have dated “quite a few keeping it real brothers* and I am not basing anyone except the suckas as you call them. An they are suckas because they will go broke trying to keep up a image or be down for the flash and glam when they barely have a pot to p** in nor a window to throw it out of. So before you throw your tail on your shoulders and start bashing the women on this blog take into account that a majority of the women and men are atleast on this blog willing to discuss and learn hopefully from each other about relationships. That takes character to sit and gleam knowledge from the other sex and admit that guess what we really dont know that much about how men think anymore than men know all there is to know about how women think. Maybe you are sleep deprived because you are living in a fantasy world if you think you have ever woman black or white figured out and can lump us all into one group.

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

It done turned into Frantic Friday up in here!

JustMe LOL @ WTFE

MusingLee where were you on the afternoon of March 30th around 4:20pm? We have reason to believe you may have aided in the attack on a foot-challenged female that was found at the bottom of a hill all the way in dayum San Fran. Matter of fact, we need to take you down to the station for questioning.

By For Real

March 30, 2007 4:25 PM | Link to this

Musing a wheelchair with no front wheels..

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 4:27 PM | Link to this

Musing i’m just asking. Seriously though, men wan to know that a woman has his back, I get that. Women want to know the same thing too. So if a woman is to stand by her man through thick and thin before til death do us part, can a man give a woman a reason to HAVE his back. If y’all start out with the indescresions errry now and then, is that really having a womans back or is that having your cake and eating it too? Or is it playing the game with the good girl on ya side until YOU get ready to act right and have HER back. How long is she supposed to wait for that to happen?

By Chocolate Peach

March 30, 2007 4:29 PM | Link to this

AwwwwwwwDayummm, Where R U?

U said U would tell me why were the women gettin their grills ready to hear LL post today.

I don’t think that’s the case today.

I’m out guys B E Z this PLAYA’s PLAY weekend!!

Peace^ Chocolate Out.

By MusingLee

March 30, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

Slim Ohhh, you will take me into custody for the Rolling of JustMe, but no one can seem to prosecute Jewel for hitting me over the head…Talk about double standard…Anyway I heard JustMe was too tall for a wheelchair and had to use two Huffy bikes wielded together.

By Alvin

March 30, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

Peachezz I remember watching that show while living in roach infested Scotts Project in Liberty City…I remember thinking how far away that show is from reality even at age 10.

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 4:34 PM | Link to this

JustMe that’s how it was with my last ex. You couldnt tell me I didn’t have his back cause I held down the household when his azz was out of work for dayum near 4 months….he wanted his cake and be able to eat it too which is why this dude don’t want me to ‘fall’ or allow myself to have feelings for anyone else now.

Oh so you want me back now huh? Well tell it to the hand Slim rolling her eyes and head and smacking the hellz outta some gum

By MusingLee

March 30, 2007 4:34 PM | Link to this

JustMe stop asking valid questions…Dang Girl. LOLOLOLOL

Musing hands JustMe $5 to keep her mouth closed and stop spoiling the Pimp Game

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this

Musing Ha Ha very funny…. You keep getting kocked upside the head cuz you actin like a knuckle head. Don’t hate on me today cuz I’m askin why men want it one way but give it out another way.

By Awwwwwww...Dayum

March 30, 2007 4:37 PM | Link to this

Chocolate Peach Had LL posted two hours ago…Bullet toys by Foots would have been thrown at the dude.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

March 30, 2007 4:37 PM | Link to this

JustMe Great point now lets see if you will get a straight answer before 5.

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 4:38 PM | Link to this

Musing Make it a stack of $100’s and I’ll stop

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 4:39 PM | Link to this

Musing we have no knowledge or any report on an assault taking place upside your head…obviously there were no witnesses. All i can advise you to do is file a report down at the precint while you’re there. However, YOU on the other hand pushed an injured women down several hills in broad daylight. You have the right to remain silent, anything you say may be held against you unless it’s really funny….But before I finish reading you your rights please turn around and spread em. I need to ensure you aren’t carrying any hard…oops i meant dangerous weapons.

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 4:40 PM | Link to this

Dr. Kym LOL we’ll see….. I ‘m starting to hear crickets already….

By MusingLee

March 30, 2007 4:44 PM | Link to this

Musing turns to spread’em as Officer Slimone searches……Slim now inspects a conceiled object, feeling on Musing’s inner left thigh…all the way down to his kneecap

By "Longtime Lurker"

March 30, 2007 4:46 PM | Link to this

Not enough time today! I will finish my sermon to the chicks that don’t want a thump on the head and are out of reality next week, when I am back in the US!

y’all have a good week and get ya minds right for next week!

Ya boy is out!

By SlimOne

March 30, 2007 4:50 PM | Link to this

MusingLee Do you have a license to carry such a..large weapon? I don’t even think that’s regulation. We’ll need to stop by the clinic to make sure you don’t have some type of alien virus.

Slim walks back to Musing with results from the lab

Musing thank goodness the doctor said everything is alright. You forgot to remove this sticker. Slim hands him the sticker and it reads: Objects may appear larger than they really are

By JustMe

March 30, 2007 4:52 PM | Link to this

Slim LOL LOL LOL

By MusingLee

March 30, 2007 4:54 PM | Link to this

Slim Shutup…LOLOLOL

Have a good weekend all,

Musing Out.

By The truth

March 30, 2007 5:28 PM | Link to this

Seems like I kicked up a little dirt. Lets clarify. First, for the most part, ladies you are no longer a prize ( see note below). I know thats hard to grasp but its true. Times have changed and some of you are officially trash. Ask a close honest friend and they’ll tell you. Please sit down first. For so many years it has been the guys who were called dogs. Ladies, you must have figured that if you cant “beat em join em”. The difference between us is that you are giving away your essence. When a man sleeps with you he doesn’t roll over and feel used or less than he should feel. He doesn’t have incesurity issues that the next lady is going to spend 3 years working on (I hope at least). He has just conquered the world at your expense. If he’s smart for 95% of you he’ll clean up and say goodbye, forever. Now ladies, your response will be that some of you can play the screw game and it doesn’t bother you. If you were going to type that you’ve already lost. STOP. No matter how complex life seems to get it really is simple. Ladies, you are measured by how much care you give. We are measured by how well we can provide. Big boobs, stunning looks, they all help but a gorgeous non-caring woman is called LONELY. A brother who can’t provide(on whatever level he sees fit) should be.

When I say “smell ___” I mean the fun you had today will be paid for by the unlucky chap that has to deal with all the issues that that fun cost you. And it does cost. You think its fun today but you do pay. Most of you create elaborate lies to cover up your past but it is obvious to “EVERY” brother you meet. Thats why he sniffs and moves on. He may act like he doesn’t know but truth be told he doesn’t care. He has classified you as a good lay at best. You are never going to be cherished because you didn’t cherish yourself first. As a matter of fact, if he does give you more than a few moments “YOU” start thinking “he” must be a loser for not seeing whats obvious. NOTE: Some ladies will read this and instantly know this doesn’t apply to them.

My recommendation, close your legs and open your mind. Preserve your essence and dole it out like its gold. Remember, if its not gold to you its not to me either. Nobody gets excited about buying a used car, and yes, we all see the mileage. Quit thinking your gonna smooth over your past and that some dream guy is going to accept you with all with all those bones in your closet. Try replacing bones with skills (skills are tools that aide you in achieving your desired goals). Develope yourself where a guy you meet will think of you as something more than the next notch. Also learn that not everyone should have your gold. You can’t give it away and keep it too. And if you think its going to better in another city your fooling yourself. It was never the city, its you. The guys have finally figured out they no longer have to pay top dollar for low budget chicks. KFC will do just fine. Dating has just flatlined.

By SlimOne

April 2, 2007 8:52 AM | Link to this

Looks like another BLB Day (boot-leg blogging day)

By Lady J

April 2, 2007 8:56 AM | Link to this

SlimOne what do you think about what the Truth said in that last post?

By SlimOne

April 2, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this

Lady J I actually thought it was pretty much the truth. I didn’t take it as a bashing to women because ultimately he did provide a suggestion to how to move forward positively and not just hoe this or hoe that. What did you think?

By QC

April 2, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this

Morning SlimOne & Lady J

Yep seems this will be another one of our BLB Monday’s have a good one!

By Lady J

April 2, 2007 9:33 AM | Link to this

Hey QC…Slim I sent a reply and it did not go through however what he said was the truth…I often feel I can play the man’s game and get caught up bc I can’t…

By Got that?

April 2, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this

The truth, while I agree with 99% of what you said, I disagree on one point. You mention that men don’t have insecurity issues that the next woman won’t have to deal with. That’s not true. It’s their inherent insecurity that leads them to the player lifestyle. Men, too, give away their essence. While we do a better job of hiding our insecurities, it doesn’t mean they don’t exist. We act like we can go out and do our thing and it doesn’t bother us. However, when it’s just guys talking honestly, they’ll admit that they really do want to find a good woman and settle down. The problem? They’ve played so much, they don’t know how to be real for one woman. The cycle can only be broken by them following the same advice you gave to the women.

By Jake

April 2, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this

What up Bootleggers:

The truth was on a tear wasn’t he…I’m glad to see that there are women takin the comments for its merit, instead of going ballistic. I don’t think its that bad, but its bad. If you look closely though, you can see some of dude’s scars.

By Lady J

April 2, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this

@Got that…That means that men do hurt from their lifestyle and cry in the dark perse?

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

April 2, 2007 10:06 AM | Link to this

Morning ALL Guess we are a select few over here in the BLB!!

On topic, men don’t have insecurity issues that the next woman won’t have to deal with so not true! My ex-SO had big insecurity issues that he brought into our relationship. I was so tired of having to do things (justify things, be readily available all the time) when I hadnt done anything! We all have issues it just depends on how well you deal with them.

By Lady J

April 2, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

Hey Jake…No he did not offend me he just told the truth for I mean the truth and it it home for me…Did not take it personal to go off…I like to here and see the man perspective of a women…

By Got that?

April 2, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

Lady J, when it comes down to brothas that you’re cool with, yeah men talk. Now they don’t talk feelings and stuff like that, but they talk about their lifestyle and muse about what the other side must be like. They talk about stuff that they’d never admit to a woman. Except, of course, if they’re coming out. That remains in the dark. I don’t know about white guys, but among brothas, that’s one thing that is never discussed.

By Jake

April 2, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

Got that?

I got that,sshhhh…don’t tell on us bruh…the ladies are watching and taking notes…LOL

I agree, most cats would love for the search for the one to end, but as I stated before, we’re looking for a “needle in a hoestack”.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

April 2, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone!!

I think truth was spittin some real truth…I often say that you have to be the type of woman that will attract the type of man that you desire. I know that I want a successful, Christian, family-oriented, funny, loving man…and I had to ask myself what type of woman will not only attract him…but keep him. So I had to sharpen my weaknesses…like cooking and nurturing a man. But it didn’t take a desire to want a good man to make me want to be a better person…that starts and ends with God

My pastor has always taught that the the secret weapon that a woman has is her femininity. It is what has brought kings to their knees and render them defenseless. Over the years that has been replaced by hoochieness and I think that’s what truth is referring to. I don’t think it’s any great revelation to say keep your legs closed. We as women have been taught that ever since we were young girls. Some of us just think that we can negotiate sex for something bigger…commitment,ring,love,…or temporary pleasure! I know it’s men out there who say they won’t wait…and that’s cool too, because there are plenty who will….See when the guys on this blog are talking about a real man I don’t hear them talking about how real mean have standards and won’t just lay with anyone…

By SlimOne

April 2, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

Jake ooohh needle in a HOEstack?!!! You all are a trip. So let me ask you this. If guys are really wanting that one-in-a-million good chick, then why do you all come off wanting to hit the skins all the time. Did you ever wonder how/if things would change if you all changed how you came at a woman?

By QC

April 2, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

What up Jake ;)

By SeanJohnson

April 2, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this

Sup Boot-Leggers….

By Jake

April 2, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this

Lady J

Just to piggy back Got that?, men talk about more than women would think. Of course it done in typical male fashion, short, precise, to the point. The thing that we don’t do is, advise, grown men don’t really tell each other men what to do, you might give your take on the subject if asked, but its not the “catty” kind of talk women have. Typically, men talk this way with only their best friends, 10-15 years or better. Every now and then you have to have a conversation about life and real ish for balance, the rest of time its cars, booze, a women…LOL (no particular order)

By SlimOne

April 2, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

Bootlegg Bloggers…BLB no more. Today’s topic is now open so come on over!

By Jake

April 2, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

What up QC

Slim So let me ask you this. If guys are really wanting that one-in-a-million good chick, then why do you all come off wanting to hit the skins all the time.

Let answer this for you. From the time that a man has his first piece of “puddy”, he is forever changed. We love “puddy” and will make an attempt if we feel the possibility. The thing is, over time, many of us have had a variety experiences with women that has tailored our approach toward trying to get the cooch. We are like this because our experience has taught us that we can be.

The way to find out if she is one-in-a-milion is to treat her the same as all the rest and she’ll let you know if she’s different. Finding out whether a woman is great catch really isn’t up to us, its up to the lady in question.