Misadventures in Atlanta

By MochaTreat

April 25, 2007 8:18 AM | Link to this

Good morning Slim, MO, QC, Raqi, Wise, Demi, Musing, GAman, Randy, Jake, SeanJ, Kinder, Foots, Sexione, Justme, ans NC

I hope everyone has a wonderful day…I am off to my classroom!!

By Biff

April 25, 2007 8:26 AM | Link to this

Well I asked out this hot chick who works at my accountant’s office. She is hot and very young and wears a nostril ring, I hate those things but can overlook it with a hot body.

I usually ask them to lunch and then invite them over for dinner and see if I can bed them.Chicks are either sexed up or frigid and you find out real fast if you know what you are doing.

By GA.man

April 25, 2007 8:27 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Justme,Slim,Wise,Kinder,NC,LDD,Mo,Mocha,Sexione,Raqi, and to all others

By Atl Lady

April 25, 2007 8:35 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All It’s early and I have a couple of stories that I want to think about before I tell one or two. I’ll be back.

By Sexione

April 25, 2007 8:38 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks!!

Good one Wise…this should be interesting…..

By SlimOne

April 25, 2007 8:42 AM | Link to this

I guess my post was sent to blog heaven or something Good morning ALL

By Raqi

April 25, 2007 8:47 AM | Link to this

Good Morning.

My intial thought when I first laid eyes on my current mate was OMG what a geek. I use to ask my then high school boyfriend Chuck “Why does he have to drink three cartons of milk? What’s with that?” He would always have a milk mustache…eww.

Then the years passed and he grew up but I didn’t notice it until one day it was like BAM will you take a look at that. I know I have told this before but I would only see him occasionally when he would drop by to check on my oldest son or we would be invited to the same events by mutual friends. My son use to take karate at a center that was owned by a gym that was next door to it. After I moved to where I live now I still allowed him to take the class despite the fact that it was somewhat out of the way now. One day I was stuck in traffic and I was trying to get to the gym to pick up my son and I was trying to call but they were closed. I was distraught thinking my son was there alone waiting for me. When I finally got there Mason was there waiting with him. He was a member of the gym and just happened to see my son when the class let out. I was going to remove him from the class but the man said that he would bring him home for me, which would only be twice a week. This went on for a year and we began to playfully flirt with each other when he would drop my son off. We have been married now for one year, 5 months and 27 days.

To keep this post from being any longer than what it is I will comment on what I like about being part of a couple in a different post.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

April 25, 2007 8:50 AM | Link to this

Morning ALL!! I am in a training class so I will be lurkin today for real!

I will say something nice later, even though I have no current SO (except the ex-so). Ya’ll be good and cannot wait to see some of your stories

By Cassie

April 25, 2007 8:55 AM | Link to this

Ah, this is hard!

I’d have to go back to my high school years (not much of a dater).

I was working at (ok, go on and laugh) PoFolks as a hostess. Say it with me “Howdeee and wellllcome to PoFolks!! Can I help ye with that?”

Anyway, one day in walked this beautiful, tall, blond, blue eyed, GORGEOUS young man. I wasn’t really anything worth looking at - who is at 17? - but he kept calling me back over to his table for drinks, or another napkin, or more drinks, or just to say hello. He gave me his number, and asked me to call.

Of course I did. We weren’t together very long (my mother considered a real relationship a big no no at seventeen) but he was the kindest, most gentle, nicest person I have ever been with.

I do wonder what would have become of us if my mother hadn’t forced us to stop dating.

Is it dorky to tell you that I still have his Swatch watch? :-)

By Chullato

April 25, 2007 8:55 AM | Link to this

The first time I saw my wife, I was walking down Newbury Street (Boston) on a Saturday afternoon. We were all nursing hangovers from the night before and decided to out and enjoy the weather. While walking, she passed by and we made eye contact. I told my friends there is no way I am letting her pass without at least saying hello. Hello turned into a late lunch with her friends and mine.

After a few nights of amazing chemistry, we decided to go to dinner. I left my car in Atlanta when I moved to Boston, so she picked me up for our date. When I got in the car, she had the most god-awful brown-rimmed glasses on that I had ever seen. When I saw those glasses, it was hook, line sinker. I was a gonner.

By Wise Diva

April 25, 2007 9:00 AM | Link to this

hey everyone! I had a little difficulty loading my entry earlier, so there have been slight edits made.

Have a wonderful day!

By ImAPeach404

April 25, 2007 9:11 AM | Link to this

Good morning all

I must be psychic!!! I knew this type of blog was coming, and I must say that I’m glad! I came back and read most of the blog from yesterday, and after reading a few post, I had planned on saying something nice to two people in particular anyway, so…

Randyt, you are fantastic and always seem so positive. Your obvservant and positive post towards the end of the day yesterday was a breath of fresh air. I feel a lot of people on here have that “I don’t love them (nappy headed) h03s” attitude and feel that women should always “prove” themselves worthy of the attention of a man. It’s all about prespective… you obviously view women you run across as ladies (unless they prove themselves otherwise) while others view women as less than that. You seem level headed and mature and I always love reading what your post because they are so positive. Thank you.

DuShawn, I also read what you said about being married and about your children. That was so wonderful to read as well. I have never been the type to dream of weddings and skim through Bride magazine, but I do dream of finding a man for a long term commited relationship. Reading through all the negative posts doesn’t get me discouraged, but that one post from you let me know that I am right when I tell myself over and over that there are guys out there who truly value relationships, family, and love. Thank you.

By Sexione

April 25, 2007 9:14 AM | Link to this

I like the “newness” of getting to know someone….that initial wow! The real treat is when it never really wears off….just grows and turns into a bigger wow!

By Island Girl

April 25, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this

Goodmorning everyone

Wise great post…today’s blog should be nice and inspiring.

I will post later about the topic.

By kinderbabe

April 25, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this

good morning to all!:) hope you’re having a great morning. i must say that i am very satisfied w/my current dating experience. i have met some nice gentlemen that are showing “boo” potential…lol. we’ll see how it goes. i’m keeping it fun and positive. i’ll check in later for some more good stories.:)

By MusingLee

April 25, 2007 9:23 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

Even though I’m a grown’azz Man…When my SO and I first met we would talk on the phone er’night..and most of the time we had nothing to say…LOLOLOLOLOL…We were like teenagers again…hahahahaha…I guess I’ll never get that experience again.

By T-Mango

April 25, 2007 9:23 AM | Link to this

Good morning all-

A day of positivity is great for ‘hump day’ especially since it is so beautiful outside. I don’t have an SO at the current time. So, I will answer another question.

What do I enjoy about dating and romancing someone? I like the excitement of it, trying new things with him and experiencing his response to what I do or say. I don’t know too many guys that will say it outright…but men loved to be romanced too. They like to feel special just as much as we do. I’m a one man woman. So, I like to do sweet things for the man that I’m relating to when we’re dating.

Since I’m a creative person my ‘romancing’ could be as simple as putting a perfumed handwritten note in his briefcase for him to discover when he gets to work,…setting aside time away from all the hustle and bustle of our daily lives and creating a romantic environment where we can refocus on each other and just be…or other things. My actions depend on how close he is becoming to me, what I believe he is bringing to my life, and what we are striving for. Therefore, the deeper it is between us, the greater the passion behind my actions.

Have a great day-

By SlimOne

April 25, 2007 9:24 AM | Link to this

I too like the ‘newness’ of a new relationship and/or dating situation. You’re always anticipating the next time you meet or looking forward to their calls and enjoying lots of laughs together.

By ImAPeach404

April 25, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this

Share a story of when you first laid eyes on your current mate. What did you say, feel, think? With my ex, when I met him, it was like a movie… you know, the two people lock eyes, eveybody else around disappears, the birds start singing and the hearts floating in our eyes. It was like that… for both of us, lol. He remembered every detail about that day just as I did. He could tell me what I had on, what I was doing, and exactly what we said. It was really really nice. Then when we talked, it was nice and easy. It was great. He as super attentive, fun to be around, loved spending time with me, liked going out, was open to new things, and just a great guy. That was really nice :)

I want to know what you actually enjoy about dating and romancing someone? I feel that I am a romatic female. I love writing letters, giving cards, and buying my guy single roses. I do them out of the blue and for no particular reason at all besides the fact that I care. I love giving the simple, small signs of affection… and I love surprises!!!

What is the best part of dating? Like Sexi said, getting to know someone knew is the best part to me. I love learning about a guy, what he likes to do, learning what makes them smile, hearing their stories. I love to meet people in general, but when you mix that with someone you’re attracted to, it can be an amazing feeling.

By ImAPeach404

April 25, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this

One more thing, when dating someone new, the first kiss is very exciting for me!

By Cassie

April 25, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this

Hey, now! There isn’t anything wrong with flipping through bridal magazines. I have no desire to be married again but even I look….and what’s up with all the darn sleeveless dresses? I look at the announcements section of the Sunday paper and see women in there wearing sleeveless dresses who have no business in that style of dress!

By IslandGirl

April 25, 2007 9:35 AM | Link to this

Raqi Great post…..that is a great man you have!

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

April 25, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone

randyt so you and your lady got back together??? I saw how you dropped that at the end of the day yesterday. I’m happy for you!!

By Mason (Not Awwwwwwww...Dayum)

April 25, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this

We have been married now for one year, 5 months and 27 days.

Awwwwwwwww…Dayum, Raqi!!! I thought we’ve been been married a lot longer then that!!!

LOL, how are you today sis? It’s always good to read you

Warning: Awww…D is not Raqi’s husband, so don’t get it twisted

By Sexione

April 25, 2007 9:47 AM | Link to this

It is a beautiful day outside….makes me want to take an extra long lunch…..or cut out early and go sit in my yard!

Peach I’m with you on that first kiss. I’m a kisser, so that is very exciting to me! Good one!!

Musing Now that the newness has worn off, do you all not talk on the phone like that anymore? Just wondering….

lol @ Chullato the most god-awful brown-rimmed glasses on that I had ever seen

By The Truth

April 25, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this

(((((((((((((LL))))))))))))this is an attempt to silence us. LMAO

For me the best part of dating is when you really get to know someone, and right before they start that lets get married stuff. LOL

By Sexione

April 25, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

Yes, LDD, I saw that too!! Is that right, Randyt? If so, I’m happy for the two of you!!

Cassie No, there’s nothing wrong with looking. And don’t you know it, those chicks in the sleeveless dresses will have a man who feels he’s the luckiest man in the world to be with them. there truly is someone for everyone

lmsao @ Awwwwwwww…Dayum

By ImAPeach404

April 25, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this

Musing, I know this is soooo lame, but me and my ex use to go to sleep on the phone together every night - so ‘high school’. Lol…

T-Mango isn’t it amazingly easy to do things (espcially things you never imagined doing) for someone you truly care about?

Lol @ Cassie. So, why do you look? If I ever get married, I’m wearing jeans and a nice top… I know I have no business in a sleeveless white dress!

Everyone have a nice day!!! I look fwd to reading all the nice post later on :)

By Wise Diva

April 25, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this

yea, The Truth, because it is always about YOU, why don’t you talk about the adoration and love you have for all your material stuff that you hold so dear! I bet you can write a really moving poem, “Ode to my ride”. LOL

just kidding

By MusingLee

April 25, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this

Sexi We live together now, so we don’t go hours on the phone together anymore…LOLOLOL…Although sometimes if I’m upstairs and she is downstairs we will call to bug eachother: “Whatcha doing?”..hahahaha…And we talk er’day if either of us is out of town too…But our days of “teenage love 3 hour phone silence” seems to be over…LOLOLOL

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

April 25, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

When I first met my current SO my thoughts were: Will you stop staring at me? Will you please stop touching me? Who is this drunk guy? And I like his freckles, he’s kinda cute

What I like about dating I like knowing that there is someone in my corner. When I’m dating someone I feel empowered and motivated to take on the world because I know if I fail there’s at least one person rooting in my corner! I also like the hour and a half phone calls airynight. He hates them, but I love them. When we’re not together I talk until I’m ready to pass out and go to sleep.

What is the best part of dating? The best part of dating is trying to bring something new and different to the table. I want a guy who dates me to be like WOW! I’ve never done that before. So trying to be creative and innovative is challenging in a good way to me!

By Sexione

April 25, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this

lmsao @ Wise “Ode to my ride” hahahaha

Musing That is tooooo sweet!! Have you found that living together before the wedding has brought you all closer than if you still lived seperately? I happen to think it’s a good thing to do, but I’m sure everyone would not agree. Sounds like you both have hit the “jackpot of love”!! Very nice…

By Demi

April 25, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this

Ms.Wise thank you for today’s topic…I feel we are way too negative toward each other at times.

Hey Raqi great post!!!

404 how’s life under ATT and the Hell is runninatl?

Musing I’ve just applied sun-block 9000 on the civic…it now glows in the dark

Demi is now directing QC over to the new and improved “Darken Cubicle.”

Yep, for you, I may even pull out the old cape’n’tights for the special effects…

By Raqi

April 25, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this

I enjoy the comfort of being in a “committed” relationship. Not to the point where I don’t feel the must to keep the fire burning, but just a feeling of being relaxed and at ease.

SexiOne the thing is most people tend to believe that it will wear off but it does not always have to. I know I have only been married for a little over a year but I have been with this man for 5 years and have learned to ignore what others say is the norm or standard. We just do our thing. Forget about who ever thinks it is corny or lame. This union is about me and him. The only thing that matters is what he and I want from each other and do for each other. We keep it “new”.

At the end of every quarter we have a management meeting here at work. We were late having it and didn’t have it until Monday. While sitting in the meeting I get an email alert. I ignore the alert because I am in a conference. A few minutes pass and I get another “You have mail” message. This time I discreetly check the email and it says “Do tell what you are wearing underneath that jet black suit.” I want to respond because this is not something he normally does, but I don’t want to because the time is not appropriate. So I don’t. A few minutes later another email alert. I decide that I will send him a short message letting him know I will get back with him and I tell why. I then get another email and this one let’s just say made me blush hard and made me excuse myself for a quick recap.

What ever works…

Oh yeah…Aww..D…SMACK!!!

By abc

April 25, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this

She was my high school girlfriend. After a couple of decades without any form of contact (well, almost 3), the combination of ‘high school’ with our maturity is sweet, sweet, sweet! I sure never thought I’d feel like this again.

By Cassie

April 25, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

Peach & Sexi One -

I did the married on the beach in a dress thing…so if I ever do get married again, that’s nixed (think it was bad luck anyway).

I admit it, I’m a sucker for dresses. Wedding dresses, evening gowns, sun dresses, etc. I think it’s cause I never went to prom…I’m dress deprived! LOL

By T-Mango

April 25, 2007 10:08 AM | Link to this

@ImAPeach404-I agree…it is easy to do when you like or truly care for someone.

Sidebar: Isn’t it funny that the blog has not jumped off the hook with nice stories, but it would be wide open if we were fussing at each other? Come on people, it ain’t all bad is it?

By Jake

April 25, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

What up Folks:

Here’s my nice story…(let me get the vomit back down)

My college sweetie: The first time I saw my college sweetie was after a day at band practice. She had on a dusty white t-shirt, and some black shorts. I was in the car with some of the fellas getting slizzard and those legs passed by. She was the cutest tall glass of chocalate I had ever seen, so I decided I was going to get her…Got her, held on to it for a good minute, she was a sweet girl, intelligent, and just right. Youth lost that one, so she became my good woman measuring stick…lol

By Sitting Pretty

April 25, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

Good Morning and Great Topic

I think the best part about dating in discovering things about each other. When you first meet someone, you may be drawn to them by their looks, confidence, swagger, or all of the above. As you begin really getting to know someone, that’s when you determine whether they’re right for you. It’s great to discover that you’re connected on more levels than you ever imagined. That’s when their looks, confidence, swagger, or all of the above just becomes icing on the cake. :-)

By MusingLee

April 25, 2007 10:18 AM | Link to this

Sexi I for one suggest it..People need to see how their mates live so they can decide if it’s something they can deal with…We’ve found out lots about each other that we otherwise might not know….I already think of us as married, we just don’t have the paperwork yet…hahahahahaha…She’s a definately come up for me. She stands head and shoulders over any other chick I’ve dealt with.

By Wise Diva

April 25, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this

I have to say, I am loving these comments, I don’t care if there are fewer people sharing, I can read this stuff all day, especially from men!

awww, Jake, that’s sweeet, do you wonder where she is today?

By Sexione

April 25, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this

T-Mango yes, it is funny and sad at the same time….and this isn’t the first time I’ve noticed that the negative back and forth gets waaayyy more posts. I like less confusion and confrontation!! Life is hard enough…..

Cassie You sound like a lot of us about shoes. When/if I get married, I’ll probably pick the shoes first!! lol

Raqi I agree, it doesn’t have to end. Do you two and ignore the “norm”…..I ain’t mad atcha!!! y’all so bad!!!

By MusingLee

April 25, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this

demi stop damaging the Civic Man…You know you’re gonna want to borrow it over the weekend after I have the ejecter seat put in…That way you don’t have to stop to put out your “buttaheads”.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

April 25, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Blog:

Well I must say that my current dating experience is quite a change from the ones I had been having. I actually did the “stay-in” date. I cooked, made my famous lasagna, a nice salad, french loaf and carrot cake. As an appetizer I fed him strawberries and cool whip while he was spinning old-skool hip-hop. We watched two of the games on Saturday evening and ended the night with a movie on HBO. It was really a nice quiet evening at home. I hope we can do it again real soon. Could you make it real soon!

I hope the stint on cloud nine will last long enough to see where this might lead to…

By Cassie

April 25, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this

I sure as heck wonder where mine is today! The tragedy is that I can’t remember his last name, so I can’t Google him!

By Atl Lady

April 25, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this

I’m back good people. I remember this so vividly. Years ago when the final tag renewal day in Georgia was the first week of May (I’m telling my age a little), I procrastinated until the last day and had to stand in line. Please understand that the line was wrapped around the block from Pryor street up MLK to the back of the building. I was in a sweat top and jeans no make-up. A good looking well dressed guy got in line behind me. I thought to myself I would look like this today of all days! We talked and stood in line from that morning until well into the evening. By the time we got inside the building we were all (everyone in line with us) like we need a drink. I didn’t participate because I just wanted to go home at that point. We didn’t exchange numbers or anything just parted almost as strangers do in that situation. Two years later, my job at the time lost its contract with the airport and I lost my job. I decided to go back to school to complete my degree or at least kill some time constructively. The first day of class he was standing there as my instructor. We recognized each other almost instantly. We spent the next year just into each other. The relationship didn’t work out, but it was one of the fews times that I felt that fate dealt me a kind hand in the dating department. I miss him at times because he truly cared about me as a person from the start. I didn’t have to guess about his feelings for me. I didn’t have to wonder or worry about other women and I felt secure. I do wonder sometimes (like now) what he’s doing these days.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

April 25, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

Jake That story brought back memories of my EX. He wrote me a letter recently talking about how I taught him what love really means…I know that I became his measuring stick….I wonder how many women end up being the measuring stick or the one that got away?

By Leroy

April 25, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

Lets talk about somethin fo real today:

which one?

By NCgirlfromATL

April 25, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

Mawning good bloggers!

I don’t have a current SO, but when I first met the ex, I wasn’t checking for him at all! LOL! Don’t get me wrong, he’s a finefine brotha, but I was interested in his friend. Plus, he was in a relationship at the time, and I’m not a home wrecker. A few months later, his relationship ended (apparently, it was on the skids when we first met, but I didn’t know it). Then, he put the full-court press on me. Still, I was more interested in his friend. LOL! But, on Valentines Day (one of my most loathed holidays!), we talked for hours…and it was one of the best conversations I’ve ever had with a man. By this time I knew his relationship had ended, but I was trying to give him a little room to get past it. He wasn’t trying to hear that, and within about a month, our relationship changed to a more romantic one. Sadly, it didn’t last…probably b/c I was the epitome of the rebound girl, but it was fun while it lasted. Even after a really nasty break up, we’ve managed to carve out a pretty good friendship.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

April 25, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this

It’s something to be said about dating, the long looks (aka stares), sweet kisses and passionate talks. Doesn’t matter who’s around or who might see, you are just into the person that you are with. It’s totally sweet!

WD This is a great topic!! I’m in blog heaven. We should do this more often. I just feel like cutting out early and really making it do what it do!

Kinderbabe I feel you on the “boo” material. If the new guy keeps it up, he could be my “boo” too! :-)

By Laney

April 25, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

hi everyone — just wanted to stop in and say hello, though I am at home recovering from surgery and still feeling pretty out of it (yay for pain meds!) Wise, I love today’s topic. it’s so important to stay positive!!

By QC

April 25, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers I’m soooo sleepy today and counting the days till my birthday & 1 week off i can’t wait!…………hey Mason, not Awwwww Dayuuumm* have a great day all!

By Chullato

April 25, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this

Reread my post and sorry for all the errors, it read like a 3rd graders story.

I also have another comment that may seem bad about my wife.

I remember thinking that my wife was a call girl. Not for the reasons you might think, though. After our first two amazing phone conversations, I was thinking to myself, ‘there is no way a woman this beautiful can be this nice’. I told her this a few months later and luckily she just laughed.

By MusingLee

April 25, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this

Lady w/2D’s That’s actually a great statement….

I wonder how many women end up being the measuring stick or the one that got away?

What if the Woman knows she could have been “the One.”…I went through this with my last LTR Ex…She saw me about a year after we’d broken up and immediately started with the “Ohhh, you look so nice”…”That’s a great suit”….”Hmmm, is this your new ride?!?!”…I received an email from her months back saying that she will never forget me, and she wished that she had realized how special I was when she had her chance…..Thus proving LL’s good dude theory!!!……..J/K…LOLOLOLOLOL..dang I’m gonna bring LL out of lurk mode.

By Jake

April 25, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this

@Wise

I don’t wonder where she is because I already know. We still talk (once/twice a month), but its nothing romantic, no discussions of the past or anything. We have remained friends over the years.

By Sexione

April 25, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

Get better Laney!!!

Jake that was sweet!! now come and get these hugs and kisses lol

lol @ Musing & Demi

By MusingLee

April 25, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

Laney with this surgery complete, your stock just rose 35%…LOLOLOLOLOLOL

Hope you get well soon…And no practicing before you’re completely healed.

By Kathleen "Kathy" Werstein

April 25, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

A Memoir of My True Love:

Since age three, I have been hearing voices in my mind; have dreams of personal, future events and had a Near Death Experience. Through these experiences, I have had my life saved numerous times, and had been guided through hints, to meet and marry my true love; soul mate, Rob.

As wonderful as all this may seem so far, Rob and I did not meet each other until we both had two marriages behind us, and were in our forties!

Here’s how we met: In 1994, I placed an ad in the Personals section of a newspaper, in Las Vegas, Nevada. Although many men (including Rob) responded, Rob was the only man I wanted to be with. During one of Rob’s and my first few dates together, was when I realized that all the paranormal-type messages I had received during my life, brought me to that very moment in time; that Rob was the man I had been in search of, for all those years. The knowing was so overwhelming for me, that I could never explain any of it to Rob.

After two months of our dating, I moved in with him at his house. A year later, we married. While we were still newlyweds, Rob passed. However, I’ve really never been apart from Rob. Since Rob’s passing, he’s come to me in several different paranormal forms: As being a mist by my side; talking to me in his same, familiar voice; as being a big, bright star in the sky; appearing to me with wearing new clothes, and in so many other ways. He somehow manages to have our wedding song be playing on the radio station I’d be listening to at the exact same time of when I’d also be feeling the most distressed.

On Easter Sunday, 1998-seven months since Rob had passed, while I was at his house (that I abandoned, due to its location in the desert), and inserting the key into the lock on the front door (to check on things, inside), a strong, sweet floral scent caught my full attention to notice some Lily of the Valley flowers that had bloomed in one of the flower beds that Rob had built. Although I had planted several different types of flower seeds in both Rob’s flower beds during the summer of 1997, it was only those flowers that grew, on that day, and without having been watered since Rob’s passing-over seven months!

The alarm on the wrist watch Rob wore for work, still sounds off at the same time, every day, over nine years since his passing, with the same, original battery Rob had put in his watch!

Rob had given me a special, precious gift-an imprint of his soul on my bedroom window’s screen as proof of his visiting me one very early morning, when he then touched my body the way I had touched his, immediately after he passed.

Like the words to the wedding song Rob and I left to fate to choose for us implies, the love Rob and I feel for each other, will surely last forever.

Thank you for allowing me to share this part of my story with you.

Kathleen “Kathy” Werstein

By abc

April 25, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

My girl was my measuring stick and the really good one that got away. I have her back. I’m a happy guy. Lucky, too!

By kinderbabe

April 25, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

hey laney

everyone, i’m definitely feeling the love today.:) how refreshing!!

mochalatte i know that’s right, girl!:) the brothas are springing right into action this spring…lol. your evening sounded very sweet and romantic. i have a “park and poetry” date scheduled this weekend.;-)

By Jake

April 25, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this

LDD

I know I have said it before, but this is common. Very seldom does a dude get right from the jump, experience is the best teacher. In order to truly know how to navigate relationship pitfalls, you have to have had the opportunity to fugg one up, hence the measuring stick theory, most men marry the second woman that they truly love if the timing is right, because they are now more aware of how to avoid the mistakes that they made the first time around.

Most have a fish that got off the hook and fell back in the water.

By SlimOne

April 25, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

Laney uh-oh, you know the boyz are going to be on you hard today about your surgery….I’m sure Dr.MusingLee wouldn’t mind doing a checkup house call to see how well the healing is going. lol

By NCgirlfromATL

April 25, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

Sort of off topic Ok, you guys know I’m a divorce lawyer. So, the other day my business partner got this random voicemail from a 74 yr old man. It went something like this:

I know you don’t really do this kind of work, but I’m a 74 year old man, and I was wondering if you happened to come across a nice, African American woman in her mid to late 40s, who liked to stay at home, could you give her my phone number? Now, I want someone who is lean, and doesn’t go out much. She’s got to want to be a home-body, like me. If you come across someone like that in your line of work, please give her my phone number. Thank you very much and have a nice day.

Talk about looking for love in all the wrong places!!!

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

April 25, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

Kinder I know the fellas are steeping out in their best and they should know that the ladies are appreciating all the “love”. Good luck with the “park and poetry” date. It sounds like it will be hot! I’ll be working in the yard this weekend! Have fun, with any luck I can get him over to help ;-)

By Indy

April 25, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

I have a serious issue with someone that I’m absolutely crazy about and want some feedback…PLEASE HELP!

OK, met current gal at a bar on St. Pattys. We went out 10 straight nights and things were moving fast and very well. She invited me to a party where I saw her kissing some guy. I tried to end it but she talked me out of it. As we’ve continued dating and I’ve found out more about her I find her to be REALLY amazing. A great fit for me as a person, and a potential mate in many many ways. However regarding the above experience I’ve also found out that she has been around the block with better than 40 guys. She’s also been on Adult Friend Finder which is a swinger website (which makes me think that the 40 number could be a small estimate). It absolutely kills me that she’s been with that many guys and though the sex is good I can’t imagine being able to truely make love to her, because sex is nothing but a handshake to her. I just don’t know what to do because this will always be a source of pain for me if I continue with her, but we are an AMAZING match otherwise. I can’t believe I’m asking a group of strangers for help, but I need some opinions PLEASE!!!

By Raqi

April 25, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

abc I must say I have been noticing your comments are lot more giddy lately. Ain’t nothing wrong with that.

By kinderbabe

April 25, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

mochalatte thanks for the well wishes. i’m going to bring a few poetry books for us to flip through and discuss. i thought it would be different, ya know? meanwhile, i hope you get some help w/the yard..lol. it’ll be good to see if he minds getting dirty.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

April 25, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this

NC That is just a little scary and little creepy. 1) Who would leave that kind of message for someone? And 2) Why a divorce lawyers office? Please tell me that no one has responded to his psychotic message?

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

April 25, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this

NCGirl That is too funny….but I guess he wanted to make sure he found someone with a good job!

By Wise Diva

April 25, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this

aww, (tissue alert)Thanks for sharing your story Kathleen “Kathy” Werstein!

Hey LANEY!

By MusingLee

April 25, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this

NCgirl Now that is toooo funny…LOLOLOLOLOLOL…What better way to find a single Woman than go to the source…Hellz he may have stumbled onto and “untapped” resource…hehehehehe

By SlimOne

April 25, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

I can’t really pull out a particular story right now but this is something that I wrote that should give you an idea of how excited I was about this particular person:

You penetrated my world with a smile. Caught me with no defenses around. I felt you feeling me. I let you feel me feeling you. The chemistry so amazing. Could’ve thought it was voodoo. Spellbound….fences down…lustful mounds

Anxiously longing to be near you. Anticipating your next move. So entranced by your stare. Too timid to return your glare. Your touch so paralyzing. I think I’m running out of air. It’s too much….feel my clutch….about to erupt!

Wanting to explode with you

Shattering everything I thought I knew

Desiring you to let me inside your mind

Just to get closer to your soul

So passionate and blazing

To steal my heart is not your goal

Falling deeper….falling hard….back on guard!

By Sexione

April 25, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

LMSAO @ NCgirl I guess he figured it doesn’t hurt to try!!!

Mochalatte & Kinder Yes, we definitely appreciate the bruthas bringing their best!! we like candy too!!

I’m hungry, what’s really good in Marietta for lunch?

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

April 25, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

I enjoy the newest of a relationship and I also the point at which you have that first physical connect. Wrote a poem about it…

Kiss Me

Kiss Me…like you did when innocence was new, hold my hand, damn your palms are sweaty too.

Kiss Me…like in eighth grade when kissing was all so new. Where do our noses go? Sorry didn’t mean to bite you.

Kiss Me…. I want the butterflies in my stomach and my heart in my throat. I want that feeling of anticipation, that desire to explore what is unknown.

Kiss Me…make me wet with just the touch of your soft lips to mine. I want to be soaked with the desire of being one with you body and soul.

Kiss Me…let me feel naked even with our clothes on, your kiss offers me promises of more to come.

Kiss Me… Touch Me… Feel Me… tonight let us become one.

Lady_k72 January 2007

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

April 25, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

Kinder That sounds like it should do it in the “interesting and different” department. He should appreciate the time it took to really think outside the box. You get mad snaps my sista! I hope he wants to get dirty too! Have the fun is getting KLEAN again! I’ll keep you posted!

By Jake

April 25, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this

sexione

Thanks for that baby, how are you.

By T-Mango

April 25, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

@Kathleen “Kathy” Werstein…very deep posting. Thanks for sharing. I guess it’s true that true love never dies, it just transforms itself.

By bluedoll ink

April 25, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

Goodmorning.Love is a beautiful thing.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

April 25, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

Sexione Ok!!! What part of Marietta? I heard about the diner on Windy Hill being pretty good. You know the one across the Chick-fil-a.

By MusingLee

April 25, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

Indy Step back and take a deep breath…Concerning her kissing some other dude…At that point you have no claim to her, and she is free to kiss whomever she wanted…You had gone out a few times and that’s it!….Now, you have what’s called a “Golden Goose”…You have a certified freak on your hands…How do you think she learned all that stuff in bed to blow your mind?!?! Look, don’t “clap the skins” and then complain that they’re too good…Just realize that you have a good thing and don’t blow it…Especially if she feels the same for you as you do for her…You don’t see her complaining about how many “snap dragons” your wang has seen do you????

By Wise Diva

April 25, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

Indy, darling, if you can’t deal with it now, you definitely won’t be able to handle it later. It just sounds as if she isn’t the one for you, unless you want to become a swinger?

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

April 25, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

slim Angelou that was really nice….do you write poetry as a hobby or only when inspired?

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

April 25, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this

Okay, I may be the only one, but I’m glad Rosie is leaving the View…even though I don’t get to watch the show…she gets on my nerves!

By Sexione

April 25, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

Jake I’m fine sweetie, how are you today? I’m goofing off right now, trying to think of something tasty for lunch, and something fun for my birthday (only 25 days away!). Any suggestions?

Kym nice poem!

By SeanJohnson

April 25, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog….guess i will share one of my ex SO stories…when i first moved here…me and my room mate at the time was just enjoying the ATL scene and trying to holla at everything in site…well.. he met a female and invited her over..she brought along a friend who was cute and had on a “blossom” hat..well soon after they got there i had to leave…my job as the wingman was done and since she was a “good” girl i didnt really pursue her..well a week later..they came over on a friday nite..and she has gotten her hair done that day and was wearing a baby doll sun dress and once i saw her she her…all pretty ..golden skin..sandy red hair..toned thighs.i was GONE..since i thought i was cool…i had to step outside of my apt and look at the stars and said something like ” i gotta have this girl”..i wasnt use to good girls…so she was like the first female i had to actually date..since the feelings were so strong..i actually learned how to be romantic dating her.i use to write her letters..filled with words i got from old r&b songs scented my cologne and would mail them from east point to smyrna. i learned alot about ATL during that time….actually put my playa card on hold..nose was wide open for a minute

By Cassie

April 25, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

Man, you guys are making me think that my love life sucks!

Seriously, though…I’m reading the comments posted by both genders, and it makes me think that we aren’t as far apart (as men and women) as we like to think.

Y’all like that first rush of giddiness, the butterflies, the tenderness of courtship - you just wrap it in different packages.

Now I have a question: first time “intimate” encounter with the Love of Your Live (LOYL) - good or bad? Awkward or suprisingly pleasant?

Just taking a little poll here…

By kinderbabe

April 25, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

snap, snap ladies, slim, kym nice poetry.:) thanks for sharing, i’m feeling it.

mochalatte thanks, i’m trying to let more of my creative side show. please keep me posted and i’ll do the same. love is in the air!

By abc

April 25, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

Indy, all that’s important is who she chooses now. You shouldn’t think about her past all that much. I mean, what, count them all up and compare totals? Would you prefer 50 guys twice each or 5 guys 1000 times each? Oh, neither, you say? I repeat, all that matters is who she chooses now.

By Sexione

April 25, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this

LDD She’s leaving already? I don’t watch it either, but I don’t like her attitude……not surprised she didn’t last long.

Slim nice poem, too!

Mochalatte I’m on Paces Ferry. Are you talking about near the Popeyes?

By SlimOne

April 25, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

LDD Thank You. I mostly write when inspired. I’ve been putting off getting all my poems together and making it into a book. Not sure what I’m waiting on. lol

By SlimOne

April 25, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this

MusingLee snap dragons? LOL

By Raqi

April 25, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

A bit of humor in Raqi’s World:

I have a mixed CD of my favorite songs that I made for myself that I listen to while taking a bath or doing whatever around the house. On this CD I have ‘Your Smile’ by Rene and Angela.

This song just happens to be the song that was playing the first time my first husband and I fumbled with the act of making love. We were both “pure” so that probably would have made an excellent Funniest Home Video moment. But anyway, that song is on my CD. Not so long ago I was listening to the CD while relaxing in a hot bath and the man decides he would join me. This song started playing and I suddenly caught a mental glimpse of that night 20 years ago. I kept wanting to laugh and I was trying hard not to but it kept seeping out. The man was like “What?” and all I would say is “Nothing”. While my turned over giggle box turned him off completely it brought make some nice memories just at the wrong time. I will never tell him what was so funny that evening but it was. Oh man those days of innocence.

By The Truth

April 25, 2007 11:35 AM | Link to this

Isn’t anyone going to address Indy’s situation? 11:06

Wise what you fail to realize is I make the rides, they don’t make me.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

April 25, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

SlimOne I am snapping my fingers in applause a la Love Jones for that spoken word!! Great!

You guys are doing well today…somebody pass me a tissue….

By Poet/Playwright MusingLee

April 25, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

I call this “The Episode”

Bych betta have my money,through rain, sleet, or snow…Cause if she don’t imma kick her’azz right out the dow.

Bych betta have my ride cleaned, washed, and waxed…Cause if she don’t her’azz gonna get taxed.

Bych where the hellz are my gator skin pants, shoes, and tie….Ohhh No you don’t, don’t even try to lie.

I’m a playa, a king, m/f O-G how many times have you been told…Bych get outta my face before I take it to the next Episode.

Musing struts off the stage to confetti tape and byches screaming and is crowned “Pimp of the Year”…now taking photos with Ice Tea

By Jake

April 25, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

Indy

Get out, she may be amazing, but you are feeling an insecurity that is warranted. She is something like a nympho, so you got a couple of choices. Swing with her, (which is not likely because you aren’t cool with what you know, so actually being there while she fugging somebody else is probably out). Or two, get with her and wonder if she cheating, or be question your performances for the rest of your life.

From this vantage point: Keep having fun with her, but kill the attachment, she is an experience not a future!!

How old are you bruh?

By Cassie

April 25, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

Indy -

Not to mention that having multiple partners increases your chances of exposure to STD’s.

My ex is/was into that lifestyle. Big reason we got divorced. I wasn’t cool with it, and I didn’t think I should be “forced” into it to stay with the ex.

Run for the hills!

By Raqi

April 25, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

Indy even if you choose to deal with it, it sounds like it will always be lingering in the back of your mind. And that will more than likely put a strain on the relationship and prevent it from blooming. If it means that much to you don’t waste your or her time.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

April 25, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

indy She invited me to a party where I saw her kissing some guy. I think that was down right disrespectful and insightful as to what she thinks of you and it says alot about her maturity. I wouldn’t mess with her if I were you….Now, I’ve visited that website and it’s just plain tacky! Most of the people who post on there are posting nude pics of themselves…..I mean, forget about her past, it sounds like it’s still her present!

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

April 25, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

Sexione Yeah, near the Popeyes. Heard it was pretty good, but hey not everyone is into the diner thing and it may be jumpin at lunch time. But dang, Popeyes sounds good too. I’m having Moe’s today. I work over by Cumberland so that’s what the co-workers decided on for lunch! Good luck!

By Sexione

April 25, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this

LMSAO @ Poet/Playwright MusingLee You are skraight stoopid!!!!

By SlimOne

April 25, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

Thanks ALL

Poet/Playwright MusingLee Boy you are a slap fool. Is your fiance as witty as you?

HoSlimOne now recites her poem at the talent portion of the PimpsUPHoesDownBall

I’m more than just a puzzy

This puzzy has a mind

It holds the key to the puzzy you seek

For those that put in time

I’m more than just a pretty face

I’m more than just a smile

I’m more than just t!ts and @ss

I’m more than “Dayum Girl, you fine!”

Slim drops mic, walks off stage but twist her ankle in her 8 inch platform stripper shoes. As she falls to the ground her baggy thong snags on the podium and exposes her back. The Dj starts to plays Bubba Sparx: I found you Miss No Booty, Get it together and bring it back to me

By Demi

April 25, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

Musing how can you blame me? Think of all the gas I am saving…Plus if chick says something I don’t like… Poof She’s now sight seeing Atlanta…Via air.

Demi is now installing T-top on busted civic…I knew I forgot something.

By Sexione

April 25, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

Indy I hope you’re paying attention, you’re getting some good advice!

Mochalatte I feel like treating myself to something extra good….maybe I’ll do Pappadeaux…thanks!

By For Real

April 25, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!!!

It’s cool to hear all the stories. I like to see happy couples and the “A” is filled with them contrary to popular belief.

Slim “Giovanni” One Go ahead girl.. I liked the poem. You made my camera phone take a picture in my pocket.

By Kathleen "Kathy" Werstein

April 25, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this

WISE DIVA: I thank you, in return, for allowing me to be able to share my story with you and your readers. You have a WONDERFUL web site, here!

T-Mango: You’re most welcome. VERY nicely stated! :-D

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

April 25, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this

LMSAO @ Poet/Playwright MusingLee also!! Just straight crazy!!!

Indy Just let it go bruh and walk away! I mean striaght up. If someone invited me to a party and had they lips wrapped around some other chick I’d have to break out the “Junkyard Dog” theme music… Another one bites the dust. You can’t be seriously entertaining a relationship when you are already questioning her motives. It’s time to take off the rose colored glasses and see this episode of the “OC” for what it really is…

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

April 25, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this

Thanks @Sexi and kinder

Wisey nice change

By Wise Diva

April 25, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this

it was just a joke, The Truth. We already know your stance, no need to start another diatribe about it today, really

By MusingLee

April 25, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this

Slim….Awwwww Dayummm that was freak’in hilarious…hahahahahaha…

demi I knew you’d like that…Since you’re adding a T-top, can you install those “NightRider” eyes on the Civic?

By SlimOne

April 25, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

For Real glad i was able to…um…make you want to take a picture of the lent in your pocket. lol

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

April 25, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

Sexione Good deal, I heard Pappadeux’s was all that and bucket of fried chicken, but I’m allergic to most seafood so it’s pointless for me to go. But go head, do your thang! Maybe I’ll take some benadryl to the head and run up in there and try some stuff!

Mochalatte sits back after taking the Benadryl bottle to the head and thinks “Maybe this wasn’t such a good idea”

By Tazzee

April 25, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

Morning folks!

This is a great topic Wise! I am currently getting to know a really nice guy. I know I’m feeling him because I have broken a few of my ‘rules’ in dealing with him. I let him call me after 10pm, I haven’t told him how much I HATE text msgs (but if he starts approaching my 50 plan limit, I will say something) and more importantly, I haven’t told him that I have no desire to have children. This is mainly because I still think my position on children might change if I fall in love with the right guy.

But right now, I’m just enjoying the time together and getting to know one another. He’s made a few comments about us really being coupled up, but I’ve managed to dodge them thus far.

By Wise Diva

April 25, 2007 12:06 PM | Link to this

LOL @ episode of the OC, ok you are wrong for that Mochalatte. Seriously though, yu would be shocked at the large number of African American and Latino couples who are “swinging” in Atlanta, I am talking folks from the suburbs, SWATS, Midtown, you name it, they’re swinging..

it’s more common than I thought!

By Indy

April 25, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

All, I am paying a lot of attention to your comments and very much appreciate all the input. Jake asked my age…I’m 31, she is 32. Please continue with the opinions because there have been some very good points made…food for thought on both sides of the issue. I can’t tell you all how much I appreciate this…

By SlimOne

April 25, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this

Sexione ooh girl, now why you had to go and bring up one of my favorite places to eat, Pappadeaux’s. I don’t get to go too often because it’s on the other side of town.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

April 25, 2007 12:15 PM | Link to this

Actually WD, my friend from another city came up recently and said she attend one of those swinger clubs. I was quite shocked at the fact that she would even go there, but of course told her to her thang and let me know how it went. She had just turned 42 (24, for those who are young at heart) and I think she just needed to experience something new. Her husband died around this time last year and she was totally devoted to him. I think she just needed something different to do.

By MusingLee

April 25, 2007 12:15 PM | Link to this

Wise they are even on the blog…Don’t forget demi does have an “All Access” pass…LOLOLOLOL

Indy I really don’t think you can hang with ol’girl…I think that her “bomb’azz cooch” got you daydreaming…hahahaha…just enjoy the good times and don’t look back…It happens to the best of us.

By Alvin

April 25, 2007 12:15 PM | Link to this

Indy, if doesn’t work out between the two of you…Can I get her email addy?

By Wise Diva

April 25, 2007 12:20 PM |