By QC

May 4, 2007 8:24 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers enjoy your day!!!

By Atl Lady

May 4, 2007 8:34 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All I’m lurking again today. I’ll be back. Need more Starbucks.

By kinderbabe

May 4, 2007 8:43 AM | Link to this

good morning bella, qc, atllady

can’t wait to read the comments on this one. i guess it’ll be another war of the sexes type day…lol. i’ll be lurking…

By MusingLee

May 4, 2007 9:04 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

Bella as long as Women are in the club, someone is going to try picking them up…It’s what guys do. The “Nagging Dude” role works, that’s why some dudes still use it…If it didn’t work for them, they’d eventually find a new system…LOLOLOLOL…It’s not about recognizing your signals, these dudes “just don’t give a fk.”

Said in my Nola voice

By T-Mango

May 4, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this

Good morning all.

I’m sure this will be an interesting conversation this morning… I’m in Lurksville, GA today.

Have a great day!

By BlatinoBrutha - aka u ain't me so why try???

May 4, 2007 9:13 AM | Link to this

….cleaning the krusties of his eyelashes… ‘Sup, Blog!!! Hey NCGirl, RandyT, Musing, LL, SJ, Lordemi, TRUTH(u sick, fool)

Ok, I was just gonna lurk on this one, but I might as well be true to form and start the XX vs XY.

First off, if you’re just gonna dance until you’re sweaty n nasty, and you don’t wanna drink that much, why not bring the girls over to the house, have a bottle, and dance til the sun comes up? Cuz you wanna be SEEN, that’s why! If you don’t wanna get hit on, don’t get all jazzed up and go to a spot where you KNOW good n d@mm well it’s gonna happen…. Which brings me to my next point: all this talk is BS anyway. Ya’ll were just salty cuz you were gettin game from a bunch of losers, because if that ONE finnnne brutha would have come and scooped any one of ya’ll up, you know what was goin down.

And on the persistance tip, I can’t speak for them, cuz I’m firmly in the “one-n-done” camp on that one, but lets just say it’s a strategy that’s been known to work, especially after a few drinks, or a rejection from another dude, or, dare I say, seein your man at the club with some hoochy.

By BlatinoBrutha - aka u ain't me so why try???

May 4, 2007 9:13 AM | Link to this

Musing, you dastardly dawg. beatin me to the punch like that.

By SeanJohnson

May 4, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog…TGIF…Fight Weekend…Cinco De Mayo is tomorrow..

Bella I dont condone a man being disrespectful if a female shoot down his advances..Thats crazy immature..Its America you are free to go and dance in peace anywhere u want…but you really have to expect that to happen..even if you went to all girl club…

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this

Good Morning.

Men are guiltier of misinterpretation of signals more than women. Smiling and speaking is common courtesy but it seems as if a lot of men take it to be a come and hit on me indicator. An alarming amount of men are starting to think although you clearly inform them that you are not available (look wedding ring), the fact that you smile at them or engage in menial you must be looking for some side action. Ah no…I am just being nice and friendly.

Guys constantly accuse women of mean mugging but just flashing a smile runs the risk of jerk following you around like a sick little puppy.

Last weekend while we were at the casino we were going to Seven Sisters and I was waiting for one of my friends while she went to get something out of the truck. This guy was walking by looked over at me and I smiled and said Hi. That prompted him to come over and start talking. Cool, I am a fairly freely person. I told him I was there with friends and we were getting ready to go eat and then go to the casino. You know just friendly conversation to answer his questions. Why did this guy seek me out when we got to the casino? When I looked up and saw him heading my way I was like OMG. He comes over start chatting it up again, this all four of us was there. He kept trying to get me walk off with him and I had to straight out tell the guy Look Dude I am married. This jerk turns right around and ask my friends if one of them would be interested in having a drink with him. I mean really…dude go take a hike.

I was at Wal-Mart with my youngest son. When we went in there was a male employee standing there by the carts so I spoke like my mom taught me to. When leaving we went out the same door and everyone that shops at WalMart knows you have to show your receipt. So when I walk up the guy I asked him “do you need to see my receipt?” The man says “You’re fine.” They I asked “so you don’t need to see my receipt?” This azzhole says “Yes I do need to see you receipt. I was just stating that you are fine.” Excuse me…12 year old in the midst!!! Dumbass. I should have never spoke to him.

By Got that?

May 4, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this

Bella, when you go out into the public arena, you have to expect that. To expect any less would be like going out for a drive in Atlanta during rush hour and expecting there to be little to no traffic. That would be crazy. If you don’t want that kind of element around you, why put yourself in a situation where it would affect you? You’re out in a public place and what happens happens. If you want to control what happens, stay home. Have a party and dance all you want, because there no one will mess with you. However, if attention is what you crave, which is probably why you go out anyway, you’ll get it — positive and negative.

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this

Blatino so it’s the women’s fault.

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this

Got That So once a woman tells a man no he continues to hit on her because…?????

I think Bella’s issue is with the guys that will not go away after being rejected.

By Got that?

May 4, 2007 9:50 AM | Link to this

Raqi, here’s the thing. Sad to say, it’s going to happen. Everyone knows that when you go to a club, things are going to happen that you have no control over. In her situation, it’s guys. For a guy, it’s girls that won’t go away, or even other guys, for that matter. Everyone goes through it. It’s not going to go away because some people (of both sexes) relent and give in and the people get what they want. That emboldens them to do it again. Therefore, you can do one of two things. Either stay home or gird your mind for the inevitable when you go out into public and be pleasantly surprised when it doesn’t happen.

By BlatinoBrutha - aka u ain't me so why try???

May 4, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

@Raqi, not sayin it’s their fault, ma. Allz I’m saying is that to express shock and dismay at it happening is really silly, because that is what those places are designed for. Does anyone really think “Ladies Nite” is really for the ladies??? Hell no. They’re meet markets. Why do most places let girls in free for a longer period than the guys, and why do they have free stuff for them to drink? It’s to loosen ‘em up for the guys who are there to hit on ‘em and spend all their money.

Cuz that’s what clubs are alll about. $$$$. And the bulk of that money sure as he!! ain’t comin from ya’ll.

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 4, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

What up folks!

You know what is so strange about what Bella put out there in this adventure with her girls,is the fact that they went out to dance with each other,no dudes all night???

Maybe I am missing something,but do women now leave home,go meet their girls and dance with each other all night,alone???

I have seen a few episodes of this and just thought the chicks were gay, but is this the new thing to do with women and what’s up with the holding hands all of a sudden??

You will never see dudes call up their boys…

Hey man,what ya doing? Nothin man, hey,how about we go dancing with each other at the club, sure let’s do it! No girls man,just the two us,kewl,I am really lookin forward to it!

At the club,the dudes are dancing with each other,sweating and all…

*Hey man,I am having a great time dancing with you, me too dude,girls approach,dudes react,no,we don’t want to dance with you,go away!

Girls look at each other and walk off.While they walk off,they say to themselves,girl, I told you there were too many DL dudes in this town.

@Truth Dawg, I had some madness going on in the office yesterday and had to bolt, but when I came back and saw that you had officially took my place in having knives thrown at you, I was amazed!

Dawg, did you bend over this morning and was able to see right through your azz from the front of your body, because I swear they tore you a new hole yesterday!

By SeanJohnson

May 4, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

Bottom line is…women KNOW men are going to try to holla at them when they leave the house…you knew when u put wore those shorts your but jiggles in it…you know when you bought that top…it shows too much of your cleavage..you KNEW when you tried those low hip rider jeans on that either your thong is going to show and expose your lower back tatto…”tramp stamp” or not wear any underwear period..so its not all about men misinterpretation on our part more of….females wanting the select men to read and respond to what message they are sendiing..

By DancePartner

May 4, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

I asked this chick to dance once, and she said no. That was fine, but it was her attitude, which projected “how dare you approach me standing next to a dance floor in a bar with music and people dancing and drinking and having a great time in a really open atmosphere of wine women and song and ask me to dance? HOW DARE YOU!!”

Well, I said, “Then why are you here?”

Her face contorted in aggravation and hatred, then she reacted to my question. “Get lost, fool.”

I had to persist, after all, she was one of the Barbie Bandits, and I could tell she was casing the joint and planning to pickpocket the dancers who had abandoned their purses. “Look, either dance with me, or I’m calling the bartender over and he’ll have you thrown out.”

The Barbie bandit turned towards me and pointed two .38’s at me. Then she pulled a gun. She fired at my feet and yelled, “DANCE…DANCE….DANCE”.

I hated that night.

By Island Girl

May 4, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this

Morning Blog

I think this issue occurs a lot with guys. I’ve gotten to the point where I gracefully accept whatever compliment is being given and gracefully decline the invitation (for a dance, phone number, etc if I’m not interested). I often have to say that I’m with someone and I’m not interested to flat out get guys to back off. I don’t know why it is so hard for some folks to not comprehend when someone is not interested.

Recently, I was taking care of some business and an extremely handsome marshal approached me. We talked for a minute and ended up exchanging phone numbers.

He did not call first

I got around to calling him, about two days later. Left a voice message, but did not hear back from him. I simply take that as “not interested”… moving on….

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 4, 2007 10:06 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

We all know there is verbal and non-verbal communication. I think Raqi and Belle are simply trying to point out that

One because a woman looks at you doesnt mean she wants you to come over and offer her some dyck.

and

Two because she traveling in a group doesnt mean she or the other ladies in the group are interested in hooking up…it could very well Ladies night out….nothing gay about it.

Now I dont go clubbing so I can’t speak to the dancing until dawn in a collective group…but I will plan a Ladies day out event…like for jazzfest. When we meet at the park we are there to enjoy the music and the sights and sounds, not to pick up anyone.

By BlatinoBrutha - aka u ain't me so why try???

May 4, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this

Hey, Bella. Bet you didn’t think it was gonna go down like this, huh? The bruhs came out on the offensive today!!!!

By Island Girl

May 4, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this

LL, Yes, some ladies enjoy going out and having fun with “just the girls” (a la “girls night out”). There are times we get together and go dancing…just to dance and have a good time. When I’m in that type of mood, I don’t particularly want a dance partner.

DancePartner

I hate when “girls” not women act like that. Like I said before it helps to be polite. I’m so used to being approached and I don’t let it get me bent out of shape. Sometimes it is annoying, but still flattering. There was only one time a guy really got mad at me for telling him “no” (for a dance). He acted like he wanted to hit me. Well, my brother was in town visiting and he was in there -ready to rumble.

By BlatinoBrutha - aka u ain't me so why try???

May 4, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

Yo, DancePartner! I’m puttin my signature on the cosign for ya. If you don’t like me n don’t wanna dance with me, that’s cool, but don’t act like i broke one of the physical laws of the universe for just asking! If you really don’t even want to be asked, then stay your little @$$ home.

By Dave

May 4, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

Men are not taught the same social skills that women seem to know at birth. Especially men who had more interaction with the TV, computer and not a real person.

A huge part of this is lack of parenting skils. When a child is told NO, then that should mean NO. But many parents “teach” their children than if you keep pestering mom, she will give in. I see my GF doing this all the time with her kids and it drives me up a wall.
So this is what you get from Dr. Spock’s ruined generations of children who were never disciplined and grow up to be children with an adult’s body. It also makes more self-centered men who are 2 steps away from being a predator.

By abc

May 4, 2007 10:27 AM | Link to this

This topic is pretty warped.

So let’s get this straight: you went to a nightclub to dance, but specifically take exception to men asking you to dance. What is dancing if not a joyful display of yourself? How can you possibly think that men would not respond? I’m a musician and I play a lot of dancing engagements. Everyone dances with everyone, little girl, it’s just dancing.

I think that you and your girls must have had an agenda of mocking men from the onset. I would think that you would have been pegged as such and left alone. Pretty warped all the way ‘round.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 4, 2007 10:27 AM | Link to this

Raqi I hate when someone approaches me and I am with my son. Nothing personal but if I am with my kid I am not interested in finding a date, I am shopping or enjoying a day in the park.

Example, my son loves jazz music and likes Ken Ford. So when he came to Wednesday Winddown, I took the boy.

So there we are with our chair, blankets, basket and cooler arms loaded and some guy walks over and says…your cute, got a man?

Now one lets get pass the fact that I am in family mode and your approach leaves something to be desired…lets focus on I have two armloads of stuff and we are looking for a place to set it up. I said Thank you and No.

Now if he was reading my body language it was saying… move the hell out of the damn way jackass this basket is heavy. But noooooo then it is Well can I get your number so I can call you sometime?… *No thank you I am not interested in making any new friends at this time. Apparently this was the wrong answer as well because then I get all the reasons why I should give him my number.. Never once did he ask me if I needed help with the basket I was carrying.

Finally because I had given him two polite No thank you’s I have to resort to the You are in my way. and move around him…when we finally reach a clear spot…my son said mom what was that all about…I told him just someone without manners and home training.

By Got that?

May 4, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

The point is this is not a perfect world. Things are going to happen, deal with it. Expecting anything less would be immature. I go out a lot and talk to people. I’ve had women treat me like I was trying to pick them up and all I was trying to do was have a conversation. They carry a chip on their shoulder like every man who says something to them wants to get into their panties. That’s simply not true and a very disrespectful view of men in general. What kind of a world do we live in where people are afraid to someone their standing next to, whether it’s at a bar, the grocery store, etc.? Have we gotten to the point that everyone has an ulterior motive and there is no one who is good, decent, and honest because it’s the humane way to be?

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 4, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this

@Island Girl and Kym I guess it is safe to say the next time we see a beavy of broads in a social circle, we should go up and tap them on the shoulder and ask “Ladies Night,Gay or both??

By lawgirl

May 4, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

Island Girl depending on what type of work the marshal does, he is probably busy…i.e. flying…working 12 hrs, even where I work I never see the marshals casually on their cell phones, etc.

It could be just his line of work.

By kinderbabe

May 4, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

dave good points. you have started a whole new topic about the lack of social skills and why. boy oh boy…

islandgirl as you stated, it’s about being polite. all the rude eye-rolling and such is uncalled for when approached at a club. it is expected b/c it’s a dance club…lol there is a tasteful way to say “no.” most often, the man gets it but then there’s always an occasional bugaboo…lol

By Charisma

May 4, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All! Interesting topic and I would like to chime in because I really would like to know why men do this. I am looking at you sideways after the first polite “thanks, but I’m not interested or I’m in a relationship”.

Dave you are so on point and just to add to that, I’m curious how these same “persistent” men would feel if it were their daughter, sister, SO, being harrassed in these situations.

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

It is a very common practice for women to go out together and not be looking to get entangled with the male species. And yes dancing together is very common among us. When we say no we mean no.

Guys if a woman tells you no and never look in your direction again, she means no. Now there are women that will tell you no but proceed to continually glance in your direction and walk in your path…those women you more than likely have a chance of catching with some persistence.

Woman saying no either means she is just out to have fun with her girls and is not interested in dealing with men at this time; or she is just out to have fun and if she wants to ride a dizzle later on she’s got one attached to the man at home or in the bag under the bed or she knows where to get one, but if not she’ll be sure to let you know on her way out but for now she just wants to dance and have some fun.

By T-Mango

May 4, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

Maybe I am missing something,but do women now leave home,go meet their girls and dance with each other all night,alone??? (LOL)

For me, I don’t club very often because I’ve outgrown it. But, on the rare occasions that I went to a club I thought this type of behavior was more of a cultural thing. For example, if went to a club where there was more diverse clientele I see alot more of the ‘happy with my girlz’ stuff…(drinking, huggin’, and dancing with each other.)

I know in my circle of sistah friends, we’ll go to the club together. Once we get there, we’ll get a spot for us to meet back up periodically throughout the night. Then, our group breaks up to scope out the club/its patrons and get drinks. We catch up with each other at the ‘meet spot’ to rest from dancing in our heels, debrief on the nights happs, and reassemble when it’s time to go home. They only time when you may see us together as a clique is when they are playing that one cut that we know is our shyyt at the time. Then, we disband-

By Dave

May 4, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

Got that? I used to wonder why so many women really did have a chip on their shoulder. The more attractive, the worse it gets. Its related to my earlier point. Men really don’t have the problem of being approached much unless its a guy who really stands out.

Its like this: if everytime you went over to a friend’s house, their dog would start humping your leg when you enter, you start looking for that dog when you come over and take evasive action. Now imagine that friend had 100 dogs all with the same problem, just lining up…

By BlatinoBrutha - aka u ain't me so why try???

May 4, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this

Dr. Kym, I totally understand where you’re coming from, really. There are many times when a romantic approach is bad timing, especially if you get approached as you did. I think I can speak for the men on this blog, who by all accounts, are generally gentlemen, when I say we roll a little differently. I for one would have offered to help carry some of your stuff, and if you accepted, taken it to where you wanted, knowing full well that a) if you had any interest, you might start conversation along the way, or b) at least i’d know where you were so i could maybe come back and try to talk to you at a better time. It’s about picking your spots.

BUT………………..we ain’t talkin about that here!!!! We’re talking about a group of women that got all gussied up, went to a CLUB, and then got all bent outta shape when they got pestered by the dudes! What else can you expect there???

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

Dr. Kym I hate that. Talk about disrespectful. At least have some respect for the kid. I went out with only one guy that approached me when my son was with me and that is because his daughter was with him. He was extremely tactful and respectful in his approach. Other than that any man that tried to push up on me with my kids around got an automatic boot. I didn’t care how fine he was.

By Got that?

May 4, 2007 10:43 AM | Link to this

Dave, you’re right on the money. It always comes back to parental training. If people never learn at a young age that no means no, they’ll never get it as an adult. I see it all the time. A parent will say no to their child and, instead of standing firm, they relent and give in to the child after persistence. What does that teach the child? That no only means that I have to ask again and again. Fast forward to adulthood and you have the situation described. The thing is, say no and keep saying no. If it bothers you, then leave. Otherwise, suck it up and deal with the good, the bad, and the ugly.

By Island Girl

May 4, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

LL

I’m going to pray for you. You’re not stealing my joy today. LOL..you’re a mess.

asking the hot chick if its “Ladies Night,Gay or both

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 4, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

LL How about asking them to dance and if they say No take it for what it is a No. *All of the guys on here say women read to much into stuff, but you are some analytical creatures too. *

And it is so idiotic to think that a group of women are gay because they are just hanging out. Ever resort, cruise line, and spa offer Girls Getaway weekends. I know I am in the process of finding one now for me and my sisters to go and relax…hopefully next month. Why? Because we want too. We work hard as mothers and professionals in our jobs. So we need a break too. For the record they also offer Men Getaway weekends as well. There is some ranch (out west I think) that offers all the things men could want…poker, beer, big tv’s for sports etc… A time for men to get away and scratch your balls, leave the seat up, fart, belch and get away from it all.

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

I told my oldest son once ‘Sometimes when a woman (girl) is asking you for the time on your watch, she really do only want to know the time. Not what time it is in your pants.’

By Cee

May 4, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this

Hey allMy girlfiend loves to go out dancing, will turn a guy down for a dance but will accept a drink. She does this all the time. A guy will ask her for a dance and she tells him she will but first he has to buy her a drink. It works for her often than not.

By SlimOne

May 4, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this

Slim easing in with her shades on even though there’s no sun out

By Bella

May 4, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

Good morning, blog!

If you go out in Atlanta, you have to be prepared to be approached. And if that offended me, I would stay holed up in my crib.

And I agree with Island Girl about being graceful, even when you’re turning someone down. No need to be snooty about it!

What’s interesting to me is the people who simply can’t read body language that says “Closed for business.” I mean, if I’m going to chat someone up, he better look like he’s at least mildly interested in what I’m saying! Otherwise I’m not wasting my time!

By Got that?

May 4, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

Dave, in reference to your 10:39 post, good point. However, one must ask if they don’t like their friend’s dog humping their leg, why to their friend’s house? It’s not going to affect the friendship to go somewhere else to hang out. Why would you knowingly put yourself in a situation where you won’t be happy? I’m sure that there are other places they could go where the men aren’t that aggressive. But they continue to go where they go and complain about it. That’s the part that makes no sense. If there’s something you don’t like about a place, either don’t go there or go somewhere else. Otherwise, you’re bringing it upon yourself. It comes down to choice and taking responsibility for the choices we make.

By Island Girl

May 4, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

Kym

LOL….By the way, were you referring to the Bunny Ranch?

By Dave

May 4, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

Got that? Very true about setting your expectations to your environment. We can get back to the childhood experiences with this one. If a girl is not given enough attention as a child from her father. She craves acceptance and attention from others much more.

My GF’s 8 yr old girl was abandoned by her father when she was 4 and she wants to be a princess and requires popularity and acceptance in an almost obsessive manner. Most women who were this little girl are not even aware of why they want the attention, but they do. Plus women are hard wired to be more social than men.

At the same time, there are men who look for this kind of woman, also unaware of why.

By We wonder

May 4, 2007 11:04 AM | Link to this

Many people can’t even speak the English language properly yet you expect them to understand body language?? Please…. I don’t think most people pay attention enough to understand the basics of body language. Many can’t even respect the 3 foot radius rule that is customary for most Americans. Some even will try to pick you up after you tell them to F-off. If someone doesnt’ get that one they are worthless to any other bodily cues.

By kinderbabe

May 4, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

also, just for the record…it doesn’t have to be a club for a woman/man to be aggressively approached. like the example kym gave, it could be the park, the movies, the grocery store where ever. i understand what your saying about choices gotthat but it’s not that simple. i don’t think anyone’s willing to restrict themselves based on the actions of others. if i enjoy going out, i go. would i chose to be around a bunch of idiots? no. if idiots show up and attempt to bust my groove, am i leaving? no. it’s just one of those things.

hey slim:)

By jazzyone

May 4, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

I think its pretty simple if you are out and about you may possibly get approached and it may not be in the manner in which you prefer, but its all about your response. its not that big of deal say no maybe more than once and keep it moving.

If you weren’t getting hit on then you would be here complaining about that so be glad that someone is approaching and don’t let it ruin your time if you are not interested. Gee wiz….

By Tazzee

May 4, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this

Morning all!

haven’t read the responses - but I don’t understand the concept of going to a club to dance with each other only. I understand not wanting to be picked up - but a dance is just that - a dance. When my girls and I go out - we may get on the dance floor together, but our intention is that a few fellas will come join us. We don’t have exchange names or numbers because we’re just dancing. No buying drinks or anything like that. And when we’re really in a dancing mood - we stay on the floor all night. A guy will come up and dance, then he gets tired and we dance together until another guy shows up.

More often than not, if a guy goes to get a drink he’ll offer to buy me one but that’s usually the extent of our ‘non-dance’ interaction.

This is all new to me, going out to a co-ed spot to just dance with each other.

And for the guys that watched you turn down other guys but still approached - they probably thought you turned the other guys down due to attraction and perhaps they had a chance.

Hmmm - going to the club, with my girls, to JUST dance with each other… I can’t even comprehend it.

Happy Friday folks!

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

Yeah jazzy but the persistence is the turn-off. That’s what Bella is stating I think. There is a time and place for everything and once you have been rejected one should take that to mean ‘this is not the time nor the place nor am I the one.’ Period. Don’t keep running into the same brick wall. You are not going to move it.

By Got that?

May 4, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

Kinderbabe, I get your point. However, I was restating the point that in public you have to deal with anything and everything. Complaining about what happens in public is rather foolish, because one must anticipate anything and everything. Going out and expecting anything would be setting oneself up for the inevitable upset. That is what is happening. Everyone is not going to conduct themselves as a mature, respectful adult. Some, due to failures of proper parenting, have a distinct disadvantage. Others are just being stupid, because they know better, but do it because it works. We all have to deal with people like that. So, it’s not just one way. Instead of talking about the negative, how about talking about all the times you go out and nothing happens? If bad things happen to you all the time, then there’s something you’re doing to attract that type of attention. I’m sure you have to admit that this happens on a few occasions. Most times you go out, nothing happens. I’m using the term “go out” loosely. This could be the club, the grocery store, Wal-mart, etc.

By kinderbabe

May 4, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

tazzee that sounds like me and my girlfriends’ system..lol. happy friday to you too!:)

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 4, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

IslandGirl Nawww but I am sure the Bunny Ranch has a hoochie and hoes getaway for menfolks. No, this was a article that I saw on CNN. They are call them Mancations Google it and see guys…you too can get away with the guys.. hunting trips, fishing,car-racing.etc…No Women Allowed

The travel industry has a huge push going with these “No Men Allowed” weekends. Hotels offer them. I got a blurb from Lake Lanier about a Girls Getaway weekend including a overnight stay, breakfast, and one hour massage.

I am sure the mention of Oprah will cause most of the guys on here to break into hives…but she does something like this annual.

By kinderbabe

May 4, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this

gotthat we are saying the same thing. people will be people, in the meanwhile, enjoy your life. is that what we’re saying?? lol i think so. i understand where you’re coming from.

By jazzyone

May 4, 2007 11:24 AM | Link to this

Hi TAZZ!!…I hear Raqi, but if you are out everyone does not have the mindset and its going to happen you can’t let it spoil your mood..I would be irritated as well but you are at a frekin club. Its happened time and time again with me also, but once I tell a guy no thanks and he comes back I advise him Im not interested and please don’t ask again its that simple if he continues to come back again and again then maybe a response of more than just no is appropriate but you don’t have to be nasty about it. It is what it is.

By SlimOne

May 4, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this

kinder what’s happenin? I got here late so i’m catching up on work then hopefully I’ll be able to catch up on all the post. it’s not 5 yet i see, dayum!

By Ladylike

May 4, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this

Sometimes I say yes to a dance, and other times I say no. It just depends on if I feel like dancing or not, maybe I don’t like the song or maybe I’m sitting there chatting it up with my girlfriends. Although you do run into these guys who are rude and annoying I still try to be considerate in my response. I’m out and being seen, so I just have a good time and enjoy the attention.

By Jewel

May 4, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

Good morning and Happy Friday Everyone!

I know this is lonnng…just wanted to share. May comment on topic later.

Those Born 1930-1979

TO ALL THE KIDS WHO SURVIVED the 1930’s, 40’s, 50’s, 60’s and 70’s!! First, we survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank while they were pregnant.

They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, tuna from a can, and didn’t get tested for diabetes.

Then after that trauma, we were put to sleep on our tummies in baby cribs covered with bright colored lead-based paints.

We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, doors or cabinets and when we rode our bikes, we had no helmets, not to mention, the risks we took hitchhiking.

As infants & children, we would ride in cars with no car seats, booster seats, seat belts or air bags.

Riding in the back of a pick up on a warm day was always a special treat.

We drank water from the garden hose and NOT from a bottle.

We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle and NO ONE actually died from this.

We ate cupcakes, white bread and real butter and drank Kool-aid made with sugar, but we weren’t overweight because, WE WERE ALWAYS OUTSIDE PLAYING!

We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on.

No one was able to reach us all day. And we were O.K.

We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps and then ride down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes. After running into the bushes a few times, we learned to solve the problem.

We did not have Playstations, Nintendo’s, X-boxes, no video games at all, no 150 channels on cable, no video movies or DVD’s, no surround-sound or CD’s, no cell phones, no personal computer! s, no Internet or chat rooms……. WE HAD FRIENDS and we went outside and found them!

We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there were no lawsuits from these accidents.

We ate worms and mud pies made from dirt, and the worms did not live in us forever.

We were given BB guns for our 10th birthdays, made up games with sticks and tennis balls and, although we were told it would happen, we did not put out very many eyes.

We rode bikes or walked to a friend’s house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just walked in and talked to them!

Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who didn’t had to learn to deal with disappointment. Imagine that!!

The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of. They actually sided with the law!

These generations have produced some of the best risk-takers, problem solvers and inventors ever!

The past 50 years have been an explosion of innovation and new ideas. We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned HOW TO DEAL WITH IT ALL!

If YOU are one of them…CONGRATULATIONS!

Kind of makes you want to run through the house with scissors, doesn’t it?!

By Hot Sauce

May 4, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

Hey Bloggers, i’m trying to catch up on the comments, hey Musing, Demi, SJ

anyone having a “fight party”?

By Tazzee

May 4, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this

Hey Jazzy

By Bugger

May 4, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this

The guys who didn’t take no for an answer were buzzed. Or you turned them on so much they just HAD to have you.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 4, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

Jewel Hey there…yes it was long but too funny and insightful. Me and my sisters were talking about something similar to this last night. Actually it was my son who brought up the question. He is reading the book NightJohn in class and he asked me a question that took me back…Why back in olden days were we so willing to help each other..but now all we want to do is kill each other? Profound question for a 11 year old.

By Mackin a$$ Rell

May 4, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this

wtf…..chicks dancing with chicks..not wanting “good game” at the club….what is the world coming too. I am thinking a few of you stuffy types may be non-dimes..because all the pretty successful women do not have these types of hangups. I find this behavior in booger wolf looking females…shout out to all my dime sisters…meaning the ones that have there mental together along with the life…geesh

By Jewel

May 4, 2007 12:04 PM | Link to this

I do not need to comment much. Raqi, your 9:31 was pretty much sums it up and your responses to Blatino and Got That were 100% on point. I do not know where the conversation went after that…haven’t caught up yet. Men, being polite is not permission for you to become a pest.To blame the woman who kindly, politely, or otherwise if forced is your own rejection in denial response. Just my humble opinion.

By Southern Bella

May 4, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this

Sigh… I’ve often found that it takes a few no’s to get a guy to back off. I know guys like the “thrill of the chase”, but for crying out loud, why do we women have to get to the point of being irritated in order to convey “not interested”?

A pesky guy can put a damper on a good time!

By kinderbabe

May 4, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this

hey jewel:)

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 4, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this

Anybody notice all the mixed signals that women give off, but think we as males are supposed to understand???

In reading these posts, I am even more confused than 4 hours ago, when I started.

Nobody answered my “girls holding hands” questions, so I am going to charge that to the game,I honestly think that about 90 plus percent of what women do makes sense only to them and other females!

I mostly agree with Rell The more successful type chicks and the more attractive chicks don’t quite have as many hangups and I have never seen them dancing with other broads, so there may be a connection there…

I need a beer!

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 4, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this

@Southern Bella But then you guys get salty, when no dude gives you any attention..what is the deal!

By The Truth

May 4, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this

Good morning bloggers.

Jazzy1 I’m co-signing your 1107. If nobody hit on you you’b be p** at that too. If no guys hit on you then there a bunch of f*. Your on a dating blog and get upset upset when you get a possible suitor. Does this stuff ever end?

LL these chicks are helpless and hopeless. They couldn’t hurt a flea. Most are just scratching at any man they can out of frustration. I used to feel for them until I realized they bring this stuff on themselves. Like todays topic should actually read, ” I want to go out whenever I want to but I’ll let you know when I want to be approached and when I don’t, and you should understand the signs”.

Fellas, if you want it go ask. She took the time to get all dolled and now she doesn’t want the attention? If she didn’t want the attention she could always put on a potatoe sack or better yet stay at home with her girls, guarunteed no hassles.

Ladies, no guy on the face of this earth is sitting at home trying to tune into your emotional state. They simply go out there and take pot shots and yes the bull rush works alot of the time.

Cee on your 1047 post, if your girl wouldn’t dance but asked me for a drink I’d ask her for some a* since we’re both throwing out our ace of spades.

By jazzyone

May 4, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

^5 LL and Rell!!!!..Im just not seeing the problem….holding hands with a chick…um no i guess that I am at the age where myself and my girlfriends aren’t holding hands going anywhere…nawww…not because of any special reason but we just don’t…

By Linguist

May 4, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

Hey Blog Fam Long time, no post.. well, more like a couple of days, but it feels like forever!! I’ll go back and read the posts… got a few ‘xamples I’d like to share about this topic…

Ling waving at Blog Ladies…Slim, Raqi, T-Mango, Kym, Jewel, Kinder…

By ImAPeach404

May 4, 2007 12:28 PM | Link to this

Hey all… Ummmm… is NC here today? I have a real simple legal question I can’t find the answer too…

By The Truth

May 4, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

Jewel that 1144 post dam near brought tears to my eyes. I remember doing so many of those things, and having a great time at it. Especially the being gone all day and coming back before the street lights.

By Linguist

May 4, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

Okay, LL, I’m not sure about the holding hands thing you mentioned earlier… Now, granted there are some women out there that do that, but … hate to offend anyone out there.. this may be more of a cultural expression than anything else..

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

I think the issue is just a male persistence thing. I think most men don’t want to take no for answer and/or they cannot phantom a woman not wanting to get with what they are working with. They want what they want.

Example: (I know for a fact)

Woman name Iraq married to Jason. Iraq goes to bed, turns away from Jason. Nothing personal. Just tired and needs to get to sleep. They have this understanding. Jason asks if she wants to mate she says no. Jason reaches over to touch Iraq but she moves away. She said no. Jason asks are you sure? She says she is sure. Jason asks are you sure that you are sure or do you think you are sure? She says she is sure that she doesn’t want to. Jason says how can you pass up all of this? while moving closer to let her feel what she is passing up. She says Jason please. Okay? Jason says well think about it for a minute. Iraq says Jason. No. 30 minutes pass Jason asks Iraq are you asleep?

At this point she realizes he is not going away, so she does one of two things:

1) She says, If I do will you make it quick and then leave me alone? or

2) She pysses him off by saying, Jason will you leave me the fnck alone. I am tired.

To get the first response Jason’s persistence pays off and he wins.

Second response Jason is pyssed, turns over and goes to sleep. 5am alarms goes off, Jason goes to shower alone. 5:30 alarm sounds Iraq awakes and goes to shower. Comes out of shower, Jason is waiting and says, What about now? Iraq finds his persistence to be cute and somewhat humorous. She gives it up and Jason wins.

And yeah that’s the truth however meant as a joke.

By Mackin a$$ Rell

May 4, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

the whole getting doll’d up and then saying no to every dude, is typically attention whorin. NO gentleman needs to feed into those types. You see the types the one in the clubs half naked but has the ice grill on her face….those types are for simps only. She will bring you zero value if you are a man of means or have your ish together.

By jazzyone

May 4, 2007 12:31 PM | Link to this

Asking a man to buy you a drink is a dead give away that you came early for ladies night and shouldn’t be up in the club because you have no money…buy your own drink you may get the attention you are seeking from a man on the same page as you…its nice to have a man buy a drink but dayum asking him to buy you one is classless to me…but just my opinion…we all are in different places and stages in life so no need to throw shade about my comments…period…

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 4, 2007 12:33 PM | Link to this

LL I dont know much about women holding hands because one I have never seen it and two never done it…if you are grown you can walk..so why would I need to hold your hand? As I cleared stated I don’t go to clubs but I do go to other events with my sisterfriends and that is for us to socialize..not to meet and greet guys. It would appear to me there are awhole lot of “my shyt don’t stank guys on this blog who can’t phamtom the idea why any woman wouldn’t fall for your tired lines or game…so therefore she must be ugly, unattractive, gay, or just crazy. Because after all you have the best game in town. How dare any woman turn your advances down? The ignorance of men amazes me daily.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 4, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this

I don’t do the clubs— but just like a lot of you have mention being approach in the club by someone who you have said”no” to constantly is expected. When i am out i get tons of compliments from guys attractive/ non-attractive— and i proudly say thankyou. Sorry i am a female and i don’t believe in dancing with my friends unless it’s a guy friend.

By Bella

May 4, 2007 12:38 PM | Link to this

lol. Ladies, I think we threw them with this blog.

To everyone: Ok, when was the last time you were somewhere (grocery story, library, etc. that is not the typical meeting place) and someone misread your body language?

By Linguist

May 4, 2007 12:40 PM | Link to this

Dang Mackin, were you scorned by a “dime” or what?? (insert sarcasm here)I am thinking a few of you stuffy types may be non-dimes..because all the pretty successful women do not have these types of hangups…. Here, take this… a t-shirt with the caption “I only dance with Dimes”… You know what? With those types of sweeping generalizations, you’ll end up with pennies… gee whiz!

By T-Mango

May 4, 2007 12:41 PM | Link to this

Hi,Ling

Waving peace sign in the air…

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 12:41 PM | Link to this

FATHOM Danggit.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 4, 2007 12:43 PM | Link to this

I must admit it does sound like a few DLL on here DOWN LOW LADIES— Why would you be holding another female hand or dancing all up on another female— If men did that he would be cast in the GAY section for me. My opinion.

By T-Mango

May 4, 2007 12:46 PM | Link to this

hate to offend anyone out there.. this may be more of a cultural expression than anything else..

@Ling, Yep… I thought the same thing (see 10:39AM post).

By Cee

May 4, 2007 12:46 PM | Link to this

The Truth GF is simply having fun. I’ve seen her in action and she gets the drink and they get a dance. Both come out winners. Men do it all the time-buy women drinks so the can get their mack on.

Back when I used to go clubbin’ I never danced with a female. My intentions was solely to dance with a man not a woman. I never saw the concept of a bunch of women dancing together when ther are men holding up the wall. I just don’t understand.

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 12:46 PM | Link to this

I must have read to fast through the comments. Who said anything about women holding hands?

By Jewel

May 4, 2007 12:46 PM | Link to this

Kym You have a very insightful and intelligent young man. I know he makes you proud and am sure he appreciates you as his mother.

By jazzyone

May 4, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

*Bella all the time my body language gets misread, but I don’t let it upset me if im not interested I advise of that and keep walking or moving and sometimes after Ive stated my intent i may not respond again and you can keep walking and talking behind me or whatever and i continue on my path as if you don’t exist. heyal Im glad someone is looking or trying to holla so I don’t get mad about it.

By Mackin a$$ Rell

May 4, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this

shot recieved Kim….ummm when i was in the game i did not care if a chick turned me down..i would thank them..they maybe saving me some headache in the future..no harm no foul…everybody is not going to be cut for you..what i dont get is folks getting tender behind comments…from my POV mostly ugly chics..and yes i mean 4’s and 5’s run around like they are dimes…this is do to the simp problem..but they cant help it..hell when you have simp proganda songs on the radio..it tends to brainwash the weak minded…ex T-pains “bartender” and the infamous “buy u a drink”…you can mingle with your girls and not talk to men..but lets call out the bs..if a REAL dude step to your crew, ladies would be choosin up real fast.

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 12:51 PM | Link to this

Yes Bella. A smile. You can’t even smile these days without somebody thinking you are trying to pick them up.

The funny thing is you smile at one guy he thinks you want him so he comes with his game. You smile at another guy he thinks you want him but quickly lets you know he is spoken for and how dare you hit on a married man. Dudes it’s just a friendly happy smile. That’s aaaalll.

By Jewel

May 4, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this

Men, here’s a line for you from one of my all-time favorite movies:

YOU CAN’T HANDLE THE TRUTH!!! LOL! If she does not want you…she does not want you. Accept it and move on!

By Mackin a$$ Rell

May 4, 2007 12:53 PM | Link to this

@ling….are you serious. Nope no emotional baggage here lady. I stand on my comment….lets take a poll. For the men that have dated an attractive/stable female post your xperience..and then post your xperience with a chick you settle with just to past the time that was not attractive…i.e a jumpoff…lets see the difference.

By Linguist

May 4, 2007 12:54 PM | Link to this

Mack are you and Truth related??? Cousins perhaps?? lolololol

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 4, 2007 12:55 PM | Link to this

Jewel Thanks…he does. My sister is the one who gave him the answer last night. But for me I looked at it as the ended of his innocence and seeing the world for what it really is…he however was pretty mad. He said “Mom there are just some ungrateful people.”

By cool breeze

May 4, 2007 12:56 PM | Link to this

hmmm, so I can’t approach a cute single mom when out now? interesting……

By Jewel

May 4, 2007 12:59 PM | Link to this

Hello Kinderbabe!

The Truth I know. My Mother would say don’t let the sun beat you home. Funny how many have tried to give their children what they did not have, yet forget to give them what they did have. Those were the days. My daughter is a child of the 80s. I remember trying to interest her with the things I enjoyed as a child…little red wagon, Easy Bake oven, reading, etc. Hmmmph. She was interested for a hot second!

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 12:59 PM | Link to this

Women hanging out and dancing together is no different than two female friends meeting or departing and placing a faux kiss on each other’s cheek. No you don’t see men do this. But it is acceptable for women every where. Two sisters or female friends share a bed they sleep head to head, toe to toe. Two men share a bed, one sleep on the bed and the other on the floor. That’s just the way it is. Somethings are acceptable for women. Nothing suspect about it.

By Linguist

May 4, 2007 1:00 PM | Link to this

My girlfriends and I went out a few weeks ago. There were about 6 of us. Most of us danced - with men - and had a great time. One of my friends didn’t dance the entire evening. When we asked her why, she said she had simply come to “people watch” and enjoy the music… Now… I can relate …. to a certain extent.. but that would be more of an exception than the rule. If a woman wants to get dressed up, people watch, have a few drinks, you know.. just hang out.. What’s wrong with that MLB?

By Jewel

May 4, 2007 1:07 PM | Link to this

I have a question for all of the manly men who cannot comprehend women going places together…why do men go out together? Clubs, sports bars, sporting events, hiking, golf…

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 4, 2007 1:08 PM | Link to this

Rell I dont know about T-pain or any of those other songs on the radio…I dont frequent those stations.

My point is that the natural progression on this blog and I guess in life is that if a woman turns you down…she is

1.Gay 2.Married 3.Ugly 4.Bitter

I am sure this list could go on and on… None of the following is ever considered…

This list too could go on and on. I am not “tender” as you say because frankly I dont know you and you dont know me so like water on a duck…it just rolls right off.

By Teddy

May 4, 2007 1:08 PM | Link to this

@ Raqi… Did you like it when The Man appoached (hit on)you?

Ladies is there a sign or something that the guys are not seeing that lets us know when its alright to speak?

By Mackin a$$ Rell

May 4, 2007 1:09 PM | Link to this

@ling…funnn e…dont know the gentleman. Ladies again if you dont like the broad strokes the same applies for the men. Not all men are going to step just because you pop a grin…pulllllease. Again you are confusing simps with real men. I mean what makes you qualified to even be in my circle like that…what are you bringing to the table. Can you follow instruction….etc etc etc…pulllllease. Yes gentleman, the simps have really ruined it for the real…geesh

By jazzyone

May 4, 2007 1:11 PM | Link to this

There isn’t anything wrong with it Ling, but she can’t get mad when a man approaches or continues to approach if she doesn’t give him the response necessary to make him stop hawkin’

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 1:12 PM | Link to this

Dr. Kym I think it’s hard for some men to believe that they are not our every waking moment thought. We can function without them.

By Linguist

May 4, 2007 1:12 PM | Link to this

Wow Mack 12:53 how is it possible that you are equating a woman’s body language with how she looks?… The two can be and are mutually exclusive of each other…So, let me see if I get this right… If a woman is pretty, then you treat her differently than someone that isn’t?… (I’m laughing to keep from being completely appalled!)… Isn’t that… How do I say..ummm… shallow… Guess it’s not about a person’s character anymore… only looks… Hey, did you ever see the movie “Logan’s Run”???

By BlatinoBrutha - aka u ain't me so why try???

May 4, 2007 1:12 PM | Link to this

Speaking of culturally related…. it’s funny how at the latin clubs we don’t seem to have as much of this problem. We still get groups of girls out with just girls, but nearly all of latin dance requires a partner. And a dance is just that, a dance. I find that when I’m at american style clubs, I ask a lot fewer girls to dance, because of the connotation, and because I’m picking my spots. Most of the time I’ll try to make eye contact with a few of the women there at first, and maybe approach later. The funny thing about this topic is that I really think none of they guys on here really do the whole pestering thing, but we’re defending our boys’ right to do so!!! LOL!

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 4, 2007 1:14 PM | Link to this

Coobreeze you can approach them all you like..I dont go out with my child in tow to meet men. I look at that as an interruption on our family time. We are in this store to shop…or in the park to relax and enjoy the day.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 4, 2007 1:14 PM | Link to this

Hey Raqi; everything isn’t acceptable and normal to everybody. the only female cheek i’m kissing is my little girl the only bed i will share is my mom or my daughter hanging out with your girlfriends and dancing all up on your girlfriend is two different things. And if i just had to share a bed with a female friend one of us gonna be at the bottom but side by side gurlll stop!!!Just mix signals & lesbians tendecies

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 1:15 PM | Link to this

Teddy When you say The Man (capital T capital M) I need to know who you are referring to. I refer to my husband as “The Man” when I am talking about him on here. I will answer when you verify.

By Linguist

May 4, 2007 1:19 PM | Link to this

I mean what makes you qualified to even be in my circle like that…Mack You are quite simply amazing… I assume this is a “circle of one”… Are you serious” or are you just yanking my chain?.. I’m going to believe that you are kidding, as a matter of fact, here… take this… ((((blog hugs & kisses))) I think you need it… Now, keep it moving man… keep it moving.. otherwise I’m going to have to consult with Dr. Kym on how to best *exorcize this chip of yours…

:)

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 1:22 PM | Link to this

coolbreeze It’s all in the approach. Don’t straight out disrespect her kid like he/she is not there. Be tactful and discreet. At a certain age kids don’t understand their mother, especially, hanging out with a man that is not their father, even when the father is nowhere around.

By jazzyone

May 4, 2007 1:23 PM | Link to this

No Teddy there isn’t a sign you just have to go with it and if a woman says no , just keep it moving. If people didn’t approach each other half of us wouldn’t even be here today…but i think the point most of the women here are making is men that continue to approach them in the clubs..but there are a multitude of reasons men continuously approach in clubs..being that it is a club…out on the street most men arent going to continue to run up over and over again when you say no..or maybe its just me cause i don’t have a problem with any man getting my drift when I tell him Im not interested.

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 1:25 PM | Link to this

MissU I said “faux” kiss or better example cheek to cheek hug…but…uh

By i'm swiss

May 4, 2007 1:25 PM | Link to this

@Jazzy1 — I was just about to say the same thing — I wonder how p!$$ed off the ladies would be if they got all dressed up & shook their tailfeathers all night & not a single guy tried to approach them?

Honestly, it’s just part of the male dna. It’s what we’ve been trained to do since the day we were born — we are hunters, period. If we weren’t persistent (sometimes annoyingly so), the species would have died off long ago.

A wildebeest may not like it when the lion tries to eat it — but I doubt it’s surprised. That’s what lions do. So, if you’re not prepared to be chased, stay clear of the lion.

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 4, 2007 1:26 PM | Link to this

@Dr, Kym You sure do make a lot of generalizations! My comments are based on experience and what I see and hear everyday! I am on the scene, regularly, so I report from the streets!

I don’t do clubs,but I do experience quite a bit around Atlanta,the US and in many foriegn countries!

I am sure,including me that many of the men on here have no problems in the picking up females,we are making references are to chicks who mislead us and it happens more than you think!

I could give a damz about a broad that is not interested in me and I am sure many of the other dudes feel the same!

Why would we sweat a few broads, when there are millions in this town,world, that are down for the struggle?

You don’t do clubs, you don’t do urban radio, you don’t do meeting dudes with your kid, my question is what do you do?

I am not making this personal, but jeez, you seem a little uptight!

This blog is for entertainment and a little bit of learning,so why make it into a personal assault on strangers, that you have never met?

What ever works for each and every one on this blog,so be it!

By Mackin a$$ Rell

May 4, 2007 1:28 PM | Link to this

@ling…you are adoreable…you must be a boogie..j/k. I am just speakin real lady. Ask your male friends how they would act/treat what i stated above. ALERT - most dudes are shallow…but so are women..lol. We all like what we like. A circle of one…lol. Yea i must be speaking out of turn if you are not feeling me. I mean do you not quailify your men…or do you spread for every dude…dont think so. So yes a man of means or a dude that has is ish together is not going to jump or seem impressed just because you have smiled/talked/dance with him..he maybe interested and give you his number with instructions to call him at a certain time..but i get it this is where you girls gang up on me to discredit me or make me look silly…you doing a good job…keep it up

By Linguist

May 4, 2007 1:28 PM | Link to this

Teddy Ladies is there a sign or something that the guys are not seeing that lets us know when its alright to speak? That’s a tough one. Now, this is just my opinion.. but it’s always okay to hello especially if it’s coupled with a genuine smile.. Nothing like a great smile! (contrary to what Mack thinks). Are you talking about at a social setting.. or is this a general question?

By Jewel

May 4, 2007 1:30 PM | Link to this

Teddy My Mother taught me that it is polite to speak. She would say “it doesn’t cost you anything to speak. You can be nice to anybody. Whether you know them or not.” The message is not, “don’t say hello.” The message is if a woman tells you no thank you…believe that she really means no thank you. Really, men do not see anything but the possibility and hope when he sees a beautiful woman he wants to know. He’s probably thinking it’s possible if I keep nagging her, she will say yes. Hopefully. LOL!

By The Truth

May 4, 2007 1:31 PM | Link to this

Mack I feel you 100% on your 1249 post. Charge all no’s to the game.

I think alot of this has to do with where you were raised also. I’ve been to places where if a chick came out of her mouth wrong she would get slapped down. Everyone had incentive to play nice.

CEE I understand what your saying but those fellas haven’t read the latest broadcast email. She’s having fun on their dime. They’re running up the cost of a* by buying every chick a drink. Its not necessary in this market. Not only that but the one’s who can afford it the least buy the most drinks, thats there hook. If you meet someone you’d like to pursue its cool to make a small investment to see where this is going. Other than that leave your money in your wallet. The chick out there asking you for drinks so smoothly can do so because she’s practiced it, meaning she’s sucked down alot of idiots money and hadn’t done a thing to earn it. Her company is not so dazzling that I’d pay to spend time with her. On the flip side, if you find a sucker milk him.

Thinking back to jewels post about growing up, I thought about my 1st gf, (not sexual but she was my girl in a 14ish kind of way). After we spent all day at the pool she would buy a soda and i’d buy the chips and we’d share all the way home. Then she’d braid my fro and grease my scalp and we’d just talk and have fun. It was so simple.

By kinderbabe

May 4, 2007 1:33 PM | Link to this

i knew it was coming soon…lol. it’s in full effect now…hold it down, ling, dr.kym

By i'm swiss

May 4, 2007 1:34 PM | Link to this

*”My point is that the natural progression on this blog and I guess in life is that if a woman turns you down…she is

1.Gay 2.Married 3.Ugly 4.Bitter”*

@Dr. Kym — You’re right, a lot of guys do try to rationalize rejection as such. But, come on, now… we both know just as many women do the exact same thing when a dude rejects them.

;-)

Actually, from what I’ve seen most guys seen to handle rejection a lot better than women — if for no other reason than we have more experience dealing with it.

By BlatinoBrutha - aka u ain't me so why try???

May 4, 2007 1:36 PM | Link to this

Dayum, LL!!! preach it!

By T-Mango

May 4, 2007 1:38 PM | Link to this

@Raqi…* But it is acceptable for women every where.*

It may be more acceptable for women to behave this way than for a man to do the same. However, this behavior is suspect at times. Dancing, (depending on how it is done) can be very sensual. So, why wouldn’t a man’s radar go up if he saw a group of same sex people groovin’ with each other and blocking male advances? Morever, everyone has their own boundaries/comfort level as it relates to those interactions.

Me and my female friends have never shared a bed, or danced with each other all night long. We like testosterone around us. So, while guys may be able to see that we came to the place together. We keep enough distance to show that we ain’t together…No blockin’ allowed-

By jazzyone

May 4, 2007 1:38 PM | Link to this

Gang up on Rell??..baybeh naw..you got back up in here today….trust it..

By Teddy

May 4, 2007 1:40 PM | Link to this

Ling I was talking about in clubs or everyday streets. It just sounds like a bunch of complaining about something that cant be controled. If someone want to speak in public then who is to say they cant? If you are not feeling social one particilar days then that fine. Should I assume you are not social everyday?

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 1:40 PM | Link to this

It alright to speak at anytime, but if she says she’s not interested then let it be.

By Tired of Raqi

May 4, 2007 1:40 PM | Link to this

Raqi, let me make it simple for you. I’ve dated many beautiful women. Some were content to dress and act in a way that wasn’t particularly provocative, and never seemed to have the “problem” of guys hitting on them constantly. The others had some type of need for attention and dressed and acted in a way that drew the attention.

SO, quit BSing yourself.

P.S. Dr.Kym is an idiot. I pray she is not a true health care professional.

By Mackin a$$ Rell

May 4, 2007 1:41 PM | Link to this

@truth….speak on it…thats what i am sayin…ladies can you honestly say you respect a man that will try and buy your affection when you have not done anything to earn it…that is what i mean by simps..and all those dayum brownnosin comments because you may show a lil skin or t & a…feel me now.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 4, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this

@ i’m Swiss

You left out #5 or she may just don’t find you attractive

By The Truth

May 4, 2007 1:44 PM | Link to this

REll your not alone dude. We got your back. We’ve all been the point man on this chit, ask LL and Blat and the others.

By Got that?

May 4, 2007 1:44 PM | Link to this

What I find ironic is the fact that women will go out and when no one hits on them they complain as loudly as those who go out and get hit on. Now, there’s a mixed signal. I’ve also seen women say no, but their body language says yes. Who’s confused, the man or the woman? I’ve seen women flirt with men at a distance, but when they approach, they get shot down. Women, what’s up with that? Is there anything that’ll make you happy? We leave you alone, you wonder if we’re on the DL. We try to talk to you, then we’re being too aggressive. The real problem is that you’ve overgeneralized men. Each one is different, like each woman is different. There are some women who are classless, tactless, and tasteless enough to ask a man she doesn’t know to buy her a drink. How do you account for those of your own sex who do things like that before becoming accusatory of men? Men, like women, respond to their environment. If there’s something about men/women you don’t like, you can believe there’s a man/woman somewhere creating that atmosphere.

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 1:47 PM | Link to this

And T-Mango you must understand that I am married, my friend Doc is married, another friend lives with her guy and last one she’s just starting to get pretty serious with the guy she is with. I am stating my issue (unfairly) from that standpoint. When we choose to go out, leaving our husband’s at home, it’s to have fun among ourselves. So yes on the few occasions that we go dancing it is in a group to a fast upbeat tune. If a guy approaches and we state that neither of us is interested in dancing with him, we mean that.

By Southern Bella

May 4, 2007 1:47 PM | Link to this

Hi,LL, help me out! I try to be cordial to guys that I’m not interested in, but they seem to take that as encouragement and turn into gnats. On the other hand, guys that I do want to get to know fail to take the bait, so I usually end up having to make the first approach!

What gives?

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 1:49 PM | Link to this

Tired just skip right on over my comments. Okay. It’s not that hard.

By Tired of Raqi

May 4, 2007 1:49 PM | Link to this

If you’re really looking for healthy relationships, Kym, Raqi and Bella, you might start by respecting yourself and the other people wherever you go. But, I understand. You’d rather feel the power of being a hot B than to grow up and be an adult. No problem. Just spare us all the whining, ok?

By i'm swiss

May 4, 2007 1:50 PM | Link to this

@MsU —

That would actually be #1 on my list of assumptions if a lady wasn’t interested. That other list I was quoting from an earlier post by another blogger — the italics just didn’t come across…

By Mackin a$$ Rell

May 4, 2007 1:50 PM | Link to this

@all…all that mixed signal crap is the sign of a flaky attention w*******..pay them no mind..and i agree with Tired of Raqi comments….i have seen the same thing..speak on it

The others had some type of need for attention and dressed and acted in a way that drew the attention.

SO, quit BSing yourself.

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 1:52 PM | Link to this

Tired you win. ‘Kay?

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 1:53 PM | Link to this

And MissU I know that’s you.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 4, 2007 1:54 PM | Link to this

@ T-mango

^5 your 1:38 post. Well said

By Jewel

May 4, 2007 1:56 PM | Link to this

You know, it is better to be thought of as a fool than to open your mouth (or hit ‘Post’ on this blog) and remove all doubt…

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 1:58 PM | Link to this

It looks like some toes have been stepped on and they are crying ouch loud and clear.

Must we always revert back to this when we don’t agree. And get real f*** name or use the one that you use on here everyday when I am obviously agreeing with you.

By kinderbabe

May 4, 2007 2:03 PM | Link to this

i’m w/you on that jewel. what a mess!

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 4, 2007 2:06 PM | Link to this

@ Raqi

Don’t make any assumption; i speak my mind but i’m not rude. I know how to agree/disagree and that is exactly what i’m doing

By SmileyC

May 4, 2007 2:06 PM | Link to this

I haven’t read all the responses I’m just saying my piece for today…

I haven’t been to the club in about 2years or so. I get hit on going to the grocery store, library, convenience store, the gym, at the red light, I mean it goes on and on…guys are just guys…some take your not interested and move on then you have the ones that will follow you somewhere like some Psycho…or they blow their horn like crazy when they are next to you in traffic…they don’t understand if I’m not turning my head to you obviously I’m not interested!! If I do take your number is only to be polite…don’t expect me to call you! I remember when I was in Vegas with my ex-SO a couple yrs back…guys would wait until my ex-SO would go to do something like use the restroom or just left me for a second and then they would approach me or what not. I’m like I know you seen me with my guy…their response normally are well I don’t see a ring on your finger…

SJ *you knew when u put wore those shorts your but jiggles in it…you know when you bought that top…it shows too much of your cleavage..so its not all about men misinterpretation on our part more of….females wanting the select men to read and respond to what message they are sendiing..

SJ In response to your comment about how we dress… You do not have to dress all scanty for guys to approach you like such. I don’t dress like you are describing and I get hit on…If you are a very attractive woman just expect to be hit on…on a regular basis…You eventually get use to it…I’m hardly ever snotty with people…I am very nice when I turn them away…I usually thank them for saying that I’m beautiful or what not and kindly say, I’m not interested…but you do have a good day or whatever with a smile! Normally that works and they respect that and go on their merrily way…..

Yall have a good time discussing this topic today

By Jewel

May 4, 2007 2:06 PM | Link to this

Ladies, obviously this joke was written by a man. So the next time you are approach by someone, just say “Maybe.”

Joke: Women’s English

“Yes” = No “No” = Yes “Maybe” = No “I’m sorry” = You’ll be sorry “We need” = I want

By BlatinoBrutha - aka u ain't me so why try???

May 4, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this

*On the other hand, guys that I do want to get to know fail to take the bait, so I usually end up having to make the first approach!

What gives? * Well, SouthernBella, lemme help you out if I may. It’s probably because most dudes of any caliber won’t chase, and few even approach like they used to because of all the monkey @$$ s#!t that we’re reading about today. Many of us are content to sit back until we get a clear green light. I’ll guarantee your “signals” aren’t strong enough; you’re pride probly to strong for that. Rather they’re probly subtle “hints” that may be easy to confuse with the BS we men encounter at the club.

PS…… OK, something I just need to get off my chest, along these same lines. Speaking of mixed signals, how come no one’s mentioned the girls that will play like they may have an interest, maybe cuz they’re bored or just want to get a drink, go so far as to give you the number - a REAL number - then never take your call????

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 4, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this

LL Generalizations…. this from a man who has developed a system to neatly fit ever woman into a neat box?

You think I’m making generalizations?

Check the board…Rell is the one that said these women must be boogers because they have too many hangups. So what would you call that?

If you would go back and check the board again you would see my responses to Rell. Gleem what you like from them.

Also because I have certain way of doing things does not mean I am uptight….but I have no desire to get into a p** contest with you to prove—-“I get’s mine” I will leave that ego building exercise to you.

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 2:10 PM | Link to this

Dr. Kym The problem is you and I finally agreed on something. LOL

Look at the outcome. We can’t let that happen again.

By Jewel

May 4, 2007 2:10 PM | Link to this

Double Entendres

There was a boss who was told by his boss that he had to get rid of at least one employee. So he narrowed the decision to one of two new employees, Jack or Mary.

He then decided to speak to each one privately, and let their reactions help guide his decision. So he called in Jack, explained the situation and, of course, Jack said he didn’t want to lose his job, but he understood the boss’s situation.

Then he called in Mary, and said, ‘Mary, I’ve got a problem; By the end of the day, I’ve got to lay you or Jack off…’ And Mary says, ‘Then you’re gonna have to jack off, buster, I’ve got a headache!’

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 4, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

@ Raqi

Wrong assumption— i may speak my mind- but i try not to be rude. I have no reason to be mean i understand the concept of agree/disagree— and that what i doing….

By Linguist

May 4, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

Oh Mack 1:28… Let me break this down for you quite simply… without casting too many aspersions… The words you are reading are coming from a .. Let’s see.. How do I put it in your vernacular … a “million piece” happily married, so thankfully I don’t have to “go to the club” and encounter the likes of young gents that have an imminence chips on their shoulders … So yes a man of means or a dude that has is ish together is not going to jump or seem impressed just because you have smiled/talked/dance with him.. And that statement has to do with what .. Exactly???… ummm… who asked anybody to jump b/c a woman spoke/ smiled at a man in the club??… You see me, I see you, we smile at each other and we keep it moving… Just b/c I smile at you in the club, doesn’t mean that I am expecting you to dance with me, or by me a drink, or… come home with me, or buy me a house.. I mean… what the heck kind of places are you going to that you run into these un-attractive, dour faced, money hungry, hoochie momma types… huh??? … Perhaps… hold it now… perhaps… Women aren’t always trying to impress men when we smile at you, when we greet you.. When we acknowledge you… maybe some of us are just doing what our mother’s taught us… using proper social etiquette… I’ll give you that last line as a free gift into knowing some of the societal secrets of women…

By T-Mango

May 4, 2007 2:14 PM | Link to this

@Raqi Don’t take it personal. I made a comment based on my viewpoint and related it to my own experiences.

Have a great weekend all. I’m out-

By kinderbabe

May 4, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this

well, well, well….

By SlimOne

May 4, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

There’s no way in hellz I can catch up with you all today. Slim is drowning at work. ‘gulp’..cough-cough’

By Mackin a$$ Rell

May 4, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

@Men…..her is a simple test to see if the women is in to you. Give her your number with a time to call you. IF she calls when you ask, then you MIGHT be working with something…if she does not then you know what it is. Never come out of your pocket befoe you come out your mouth. If hello cant you somewhere…keep it moving. If her vibe is stank or scream of attention wwhorin/liqour pimpin…keep it moving.

By The Truth

May 4, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

Ok fellas, is it just me or are Tired of Raqi and Mackin a welcome addition to the squad. Arribas grande (is that right blat?) to you fellas. LOL Guys we’re gonna run em like Golden State ran Dallas last night.

By Mackin a$$ Rell

May 4, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

@linguist…you are adorable i like you…but you still missing it, but continue to hate….i am lovin it..

By Cee

May 4, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this

The Truth I’m not knocking anyone who goes for what they want and get it. Like I said before, the men must not have a problem with it because she gets what she wants and I’ve heard men even say “Wow a woman who knows what she wants”.

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this

Where is RandyT today? Hmmmm

By Mackin a$$ Rell

May 4, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this

@Truth…i am not going to back down..and i am a vet of this blog…i just come back when i feel like it. But i am spittin the real…

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 4, 2007 2:27 PM | Link to this

Raqi Is that what it is? We will just let this day be known as… The day Hell froze over and the Devil wore ice skates. I mean good grief… ohh and Tired ..why bother..it would be like shoot a unarmed man.

By Linguist

May 4, 2007 2:28 PM | Link to this

Teddy 1:40

It just sounds like a bunch of complaining about something that cant be controled. Sorry for my delayed response, I got caught up in all the drama being thrown… can you provide a little more clarity?

By Tired of Raqi AND Dr. Kym

May 4, 2007 2:28 PM | Link to this

I’m just “passin thru”, The Truth. No time for long-term harrassment for me.

Question for the good Dr. Kym: If you don’t like to participate in “peeing contests”, then why do you feel the need to identify yourself as a Dr. and a “Relationship Expert” on an anonymous blog. Shouldn’t the gravity of your comments speak for themselves without the window dressing? Just curious.

By C tha 1

May 4, 2007 2:30 PM | Link to this

I rarely go to a club to check out dancin’ … unless of course they’re modeling clear shoes;) Strange enough, women at the strip club are far more up front, it’s pretty basic cause what you see is what you get.

But women do have the right to say No. Still, a group of women getting there groove on and payin’ the fellas no mind rather defeats the purpose of enjoying a singles night out on the town. Most of the women on here claim to be romantic, but when you go out to let your hair down, your guard is still up? What gives?

I understand women have to deal with men hitting on them constantly. At the grocery store, at the Quick Trip, at the mall, at church, etc. But what happens when you’re out dancing and you notice a guy before he notices you? After you finish giving him a couple of once overs, it dude approaches you appropriately your gonna give him your nicest rejection?

People watching is cool, but the dance club is obvious hunting territory that has a year round license. If you want to just dance why not stay at home and do it alone rather than get all dolled up w/ your F’em Dress on.

It just sounds a bit childish to me. I can take no for an answer, but its still childish.

By Tired of Dr. Kym

May 4, 2007 2:31 PM | Link to this

The bottom line, Dr. Kym, is that you are teaching your son crap. I hope he has at least one sensible, non-game playing male in his life to emulate.

By Linguist

May 4, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

Blatino play like they may have an interest, maybe cuz they’re bored or just want to get a drink, go so far as to give you the number - a REAL number - then never take your call????… Well, there’s probably a thousand reasons, some that can be explained and many that can’t… Here’s another free friday giveaway for the fellas… (ladies, don’t hurt me!)… She’s just not into you.. Sometimes we don’t want to hurt your feelings, and it can be easier for some to just not answer their phone or give a wrong number…

By For Real

May 4, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this

Here is my 2 cents:

Ladies All these things that you are saying you don’t like are your personal feelings. You can’t speak for all women because a smile did mean I like you, saying hello did mean come talk to me, a man has met a lady out with her child, a lady does like it when a man is persistent and doesn’t take no for an answer.

So are men confused as to when, where and what to say to a women? Yes! So a man is left with a choice. Do I speak or not speak based on generalization or do I say f/k it and go for it?

Men

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 4, 2007 2:34 PM | Link to this

If you all took the time to really look deep we are all saying essentially the same thing just in a different way.

Women are simply saying—-Look before you leap…If we said No the first time it was really No. Same as Rell’s simp theory.

However it seems we are doom to this bashing game… all I can say is “Let the beatings begin.”

By mark

May 4, 2007 2:36 PM | Link to this

Re: A guy will ask her for a dance and she tells him she will but first he has to buy her a drink. It works for her often than not.

I would walk away in an instance from a girl like that - I don’t pay for a woman’s time.

By SeanJohnson

May 4, 2007 2:36 PM | Link to this

@ SmileyC…you are right…u handle that attention well it seems..but i was referring to women who dress provacatively..and get upset when they get hit on….my earlier post was made because of convo a female coworker had…she told me that she didnt want to stop to get gas because as soon as she gets out of the car she will get “harrassed”…and i just thought in my head she new when she put the outfit on that morning what kinda attention it would draw..i LOVE women to dress sxy..i prefer it…but your club clothes are just that..club clothes..when u act, present and dress like a lady…u get treated as such….thats the point i was trying to make..So dotn get made when you have your azz and tts out and we look..we assume thats why u have them out anyway

By The Truth

May 4, 2007 2:39 PM | Link to this

On second thought. Fellas, we are all some insensitive bastards. This was a place these women (and a few dudes who feel just like, hmmmm) could come to and bash us and tell of their horrors in dealing with sorry assed men. How dare we come and tell them their chit and always fresh and clean. This just ain’t right.

CEE look at mackins definition of simp. As I said, if you see a sucker milk him. I have no desire to pay for some bar rats attention.

Ling women no longer have social secrets, you revealed those shortly after you cracked your legs for every guy that needed to drop a load. (Not you personally, but alot of chicks just like you)

By Linguist

May 4, 2007 2:40 PM | Link to this

Mack Yes, I am adorable… lolololol.. and no “hate”… Just keepin’ it simple.. I’m also woman enough to agree to disagree.. (as I have told Truth on many an occassion).. I’d ask that you take what is written by some of us and not cast it off into the “women don’t know ishh abyss”… The challenge for some of us is that it’s easier to disagree, especially if you have completely different idealogies about women/men realtionships, than it is too agree… We seem to be very quick to point out the flaw in someone else’s post (usually men versus women) than to take heed in what someone is saying..I have been a little quick and dismissive with many on the board, so trust me, I will be more careful when I cast stones out of my own glass house..

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 4, 2007 2:40 PM | Link to this

Tired since you are just passing through…and for those who need a explanation… one day everyone was talking about all these so called experts and doctors of life (Michael Baisden said this…Dr. Phil said that.) so I figured if all you needed to be an expert was an opinion and audience then heck we should all be doctors. Hence I started going by Dr. Kym.

By Mackin a$$ Rell

May 4, 2007 2:40 PM | Link to this

@Tired of Dr Kym…that was some real sucker arse ish to say. Her kid has nothing to do with this convo. Now you just turning all this healthy communication into some type of personal attack…pull your thong up or leave…just real low class with that shot…that was not needed…

By Tired of Dr. Kym

May 4, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this

Women are simply saying—-Look before you leap…If we said No the first time it was really No. Same as Rell’s simp theory.

That’s the problem, Dr. Kym. We looked, felt an attractive force, and then leaped. But, according to your worldview, men are basically pigs, so that our boorish behaviors couldn’t possibly have anything to do with your boorish behaviors. It’s a two way street no matter how you look at it. The problem is, you don’t want to take responsibility for your half of the interaction.

By Tired of Dr. Kym

May 4, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this

But, sorry to not bow in your presence, Dr. Kym. I mean, you ARE the “expert” here, no?

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

ForReal No one said you can’t step to a woman. No one said you can’t speak. Bella stated that the issue for her was when the same guys kept coming back just to be rejected again and again. That’s the only point I was making. You know. That’s all. How all this other miss got started I don’t know. (I have an idea but I don’t know)

Now does anyone have anything positive or uplifting to talk about?

By mark

May 4, 2007 2:46 PM | Link to this

Cee, once a girl asked me to buy her a drink before should would dance with me. I asked her “How much for a BJ?”

There is a name for women who want men to pay them for their time.

By C tha 1

May 4, 2007 2:48 PM | Link to this

I have a question: Why are there so many so calle “married” women blogging on a “singles” blog? Same question for the dudes? Thought when you’re out the game, you’re out the game. Are the married people just trying to keep their ears open to what’s going on the the singles world if the shyt hits the fan?

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this

(2:40 posts) Now that’s the real Rell I am use to reading.

By Mackin a$$ Rell

May 4, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this

ok…the tired of hiding is low class..either revel yourself or leave. Why continue the cyber-stalking…YOU HAVE A SERIOUS PROBLEM — SEEK HELP. And i hope you are not a MAN…because that would be a real violation….dude you are lookin real simpish and sweet right now with all the attacks….

By SeanJohnson

May 4, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

@ ForReal..to add to your last post..women do send mixed signals and are fickled creatures….and of the things u mention…i really think only we as black men go through this with our women…to counter the attitudes..mean mugs…and females who think they are too good…I go about life doing me..constantly working on self..and what i have learned is when you do that..they come to you ..they get the vibe that you have business about yourself.

By Teddy

May 4, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

@ Ling… I just see no point in investing energy into something that I cant control. The topic today is about mixed signals. The biggest mixed signal is a bunch of chicks at the club that get upset if a few guys ask to dance with them.

By Linguist

May 4, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

Truth That was mean , crass, rude, vulgar and quite revealing..”you revealed those shortly after you cracked your legs for every guy that needed to drop a load. (Not you personally, but alot of chicks just like you)” It’s quite apparent that you (or your alter ego) have issues with women, and quite frankly I’m beginning to think that you actually don’t like them…or respect them (oh wait, save for your female relatives.. right?).. Talk about “hater-aid”.. I think you’ve confused many a woman on here with skanks that you must have encountered in the real world and transferred your dislike of that ilk to any person with a v@gina.. keep it movin’ bro.. keep it movin’ …

By Mackin a$$ Rell

May 4, 2007 2:52 PM | Link to this

I do lets discuss “Penis Power/Vagina Power ” by Alexyss Tylor. If you not hip to it..go to youtube and search for it….trust me you will enjoy.

By Making Progress

May 4, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this

Ok, “Dr.” Kym, I accept that explanation. Maybe now we can talk a little.

Question: DO you believe in the concept of “shared responsibility”?

Do you believe that we’re all basically good folks, that some go awry due to life’s circumstances, bad chemistry, etc.?

By Island Girl

May 4, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this

*By C tha 1 *

After you finish giving him a couple of once overs, it dude approaches you appropriately your gonna give him your nicest rejection?

I get what you’re saying. If I’m out with my girls having a good time and I get a approached by a brother that I could/would be interested in..I would not turn him down. Hell no! If I’m vibing with him, we can dance. No proble.

Some of the men on the blog

Guys, are getting hyped up and agitated for no reason today. What some of the ladies are saying, is that there’s times when they just don’t feel like being bothered…whether it is at the grocery store, a club, church, out in the yard, at a wedding or funeral. Dayum….

Stop acting like it is only women that feel this way. Guys have their moments they don’t feel like being bothered. Most of you may decide to stay at home, but some of us will get dressed up and go out. We find our release in different ways. We are all grown here..so do you.

By BlatinoBrutha - aka u ain't me so why try???

May 4, 2007 2:56 PM | Link to this

@Linguist….. Then if that’s the case n you’re not interested, then don’t give me the number, n don’t talk to me at all. I’m a grown a** man, one who will take no for an answer, cuss you out under my breath, n move on to the next like you never existed. All that ‘tryin to be nice’ crap is some bu!! ish.

By jazzyone

May 4, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this

Doc Kym is taking the high road and ignoring him…she has back up in here also so back up …only us can abuse us…well ya’ know what I mean!

By C tha 1

May 4, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this

What’s up Ling? I see you got your glasses on today.;)

By jazzyone

May 4, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this

* Sean* I agree with you on that…if you focus on doing you everything else will fall in to place and you will be ready when they show up!

By Teddy

May 4, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

Bella you knew damn well this wasnt a good “Happy Friday” topic…lol.

By Mackin a$$ Rell

May 4, 2007 3:00 PM | Link to this

@SJ…speak on it…that is my point. Fellas it is not the ladies..it is YOU, work on you and stop bellyachin over these non-dimes…PERIOD. Have some integrity about yourself. Qualify these females before you start heaping praise or even attention on them. Yes step to them with good game but if the vibe is funny or forced just keep it moving..no need to waste time. Now if she is down for some good game..be a man about yours and lead her right. Play the game fair..let her know what it is…feel me.

By Making Progress

May 4, 2007 3:00 PM | Link to this

Mackin—Let me tell you about the REAL DEAL of a book, that all folks should read: “Nice Guys and Players” by Rom Wills. He pegs all the games played by guys, and the way out. It’s written by a “brotha” if race is an issue to you.

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 3:02 PM | Link to this

Ctha1 I can only answer for myself. Not that I am obligated to. (Free world free will)

But..ah..I was not married when I first started blogging. Second it’s fun to talk to and hear the opinions of others on different issues because not all issues posted here are strictly about “dating”. Third it makes the day go by super fast. Fourth just because I can.

By Teddy

May 4, 2007 3:02 PM | Link to this

Agg Wit if you lurking around I have a few invites to some good fight parties tomorrow night.

That Mayweather/De La Hoya 24/7 is hilarious!

By Linguist

May 4, 2007 3:06 PM | Link to this

C…What’s going on?.. No glasses today hon! Imma wearing contacts! I’ll be back to answer your question about being on here and married…

By Incognito

May 4, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this

Jazzyone I think that really is one of us.

By Making Progress

May 4, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this

Ok, Mackin—You’re right. You said that well with your last post. I’m going with that, man. Thanks.

And keep it shakin ladies!

By jazzyone

May 4, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

cog you think so..thats just ugly.

By For Real

May 4, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

Raqi I agree with you and the other ladies here about when you say no. Dude should have more respect for themselves but it must have worked for him before so he keep using it.

By jazzyone

May 4, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this

Holla ya’ Im out ya’ have a great weekend….

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 4, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this

Afternoon All!! Well, I see the blog bullets have been flying since early this a.m.!! I’ll just continue to lurk on this one since it seems to be such a touchy subject!

What’s up Ling, Kinderbabe, SJ, Raqi and Jazzyone!!

By ATLborn

May 4, 2007 3:15 PM | Link to this

Dayuum! Yall on it in here today.

Relly Rell givin it to Tired.

Tired I know u ain gon take that mess from him are u?

By Cee

May 4, 2007 3:21 PM | Link to this

Truth you say that now…..LOL BTW I never said I agree with her techniques. I wouldn’t do that. If my money is funny I”ll decline an inviation from my girls and stay home or do something that would not dig too deep in my pocket. Dating in Atlanta has been quiet an experience and I enjoy reading everyone’s posts, I’ve learned somethings and have put them into practice.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 4, 2007 3:21 PM | Link to this

Rell Jazzy is right I am ignoring the ignorance of the phamtom blogger.. what is the point…I know the type of mother I am and have no need to prove that to anyone.

By Truth Seeker

May 4, 2007 3:23 PM | Link to this

The Truth and the men of his ilk need to write a book: The Making of a Woman Hater

you can put all your views and “drop a load” topics in one place. Best seller on your hands for sure!

By Truth Seeker

May 4, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this

Some of the men are embarrassing themselves daily on here, thankfully it’s cyber space and people are inflicted with your ignorance face to face.

Then again, I think it helps illustrate exactly the character that some people tend to avoid. You keep stomping loud and saying your piece, though, at least it gives us insight on the grounds on which the losers are fighting the good male fight

Entertaining and sad at the same time

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this

I am putting T-Bones on the grill for dinner. Should I make bake potatoes, steak fries, or mashed potatoes?

(Dang I must be bored to death right about now.)

By C tha 1

May 4, 2007 3:28 PM | Link to this

A funny part about reading this blog is that most of the women come off as super confident!! Beautiful, smart, funny, independent, gainfully employed, own money, can cook and break you off proper. It seems like beyond this blog you all generally intimidate men (hell I could be wrong it ain’t that serious)and can’t find one on your level. And oddly enough, you still need a little advice on men?

Ladies you probably already know this, especially after reading this blog and paying attention to the news. Men have a particular bone to pick with you all.

Hey, it is what it is. Why?! Well, I won’t go as far as to say we’re bitter, but usually what women say, do, and believe don’t add up! (broad brush statement courtesy of Home Depot)

You go out to dance but don’t want to be bothered.

You want a man to take charge, but not be aggressive.

You want a man to be persistant, and claim what he wants in life, but No means No.

You want a man to be consistant in his decision makeing, as long as it meets your approval

You want a man to be a friend, and understand you and genuinely listen, and make you laugh, but if he’s too good at it ain’t no way in hell you sleeping with him.

I gotta million of them, but if you were wondering why the dudes been coming down on yall all week, its because some of the ladies posts have implied some pretty inconsistant stuff this week.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 4, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

Whoever asked these questions are you speaking in terms of dating.

Question: DO you believe in the concept of “shared responsibility”?

Do you believe that we’re all basically good folks, that some go awry due to life’s circumstances, bad chemistry, etc.?

By Got that?

May 4, 2007 3:38 PM | Link to this

Raqi, I wanted to say that I don’t have any argument with you. I just had a few observations that I wanted to address. Nothing against you or anyone else on this blog.

By BlatinoBrutha - aka u ain't me so why try???

May 4, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

written while framing C’s 3:28 post n putting up on a wall….

So, TruthSeeker, are we then to assume you feel anytime a man steps up for the men and refuses to accept a woman’s viewpoint as law, hell, maybe even checks some less than logical comment, that he’s then a LOSER, who’s entertaining and sad at the same time???

By The Truth

May 4, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this

Ling I didn’t mean to come off that way. I just remember when womanhood was a thing of honor (yes, there was some skanks then too), the women had tools to work with. They did so many things that the fact that they did or didn’t sleep with you was irrelevant. They were the softness in your world. Now, for the most part, guys don’t see women in that light, they’re simply a place to hit and move on. They just don’t have the tools. They’re trying to be hard as men and I think the consensus is its failing miserably. I’ve even had women tell me sex is the only thing they had to offer. Like I said, I don’t have a problem with women but I’m not rushing out to pick up some chick that will ultimately be my demise either. Thank goodness, I have a woman.

So let me reword it like this. If your out throwing your innermost self around then your not going to really care about trade secrets. Is that better hun? LOL Smooches

By Island Girl

May 4, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this

Everybody have a great weekend

Guys, put the guns away and pass around some hugs. The ladies love you (Truth, LL, SJ, Musing, Randy,By C tha 1 , Mackin and Balinto).

Don’t party to hard at those fight partys.

Peace

By For Real

May 4, 2007 3:45 PM | Link to this

SJ 4sho on your last post bruh. That’s where it’s at. I’m flowing thru life like I am in a Spike Lee movie. You moving without walking

By DuShawn

May 4, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

C tha 1 ”Why are there so many so called “married” women blogging on a “singles” blog? Same question for the dudes?” As one of the few married brothas, I’ll address that. My participation in this forum is strictly for entertainment and to help the day go by faster. Occasionally, someone will write something of substance and it will provoke thought (today is not one of those days). Often, when the topic of the day is focused on current dating situations, I can’t relate. My sources of reference are my dating experiences nearly a decade ago. Honestly, I couldn’t possibly care any less about what’s happening on the singles scene. My dyme is at the Mac Mansion and rejection is never an issue. However, I do enjoy the exchange of opinions, heated debates and shared experiences of the blog participants, but I think the personal attacks are childish and cowardly. On topic: I have never subscribed to the old adage persistence beats resistance If a female showed the slightest bit of disinterest or indicated in any way that my presence was not appreciated, I would leave her azz alone immediately and forget the entire experience before I got three steps away, but I didn’t go through that a lot. Most of my advances were well received. But I have seen some dudes that are just gluttons for punishment.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 4, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this

C1 I will only answer for me to your list…

You go out to dance but don’t want to be bothered. Ala Cyndi Lauper Girls just want to have fun.. no one is questioning..men on their…cigar bar smoking, poker night having, shoe model watching..get togethers

You want a man to take charge, but not be aggressive. *Yes sweetie take charge, but don’t abuse your power..ie caveman behavior.

You want a man to be persistant, and claim what he wants in life, but No means No.

Yes go for the goal, but there is know there is a balance to everything. If we say No thank you..take it for what it is No…but thank you.

You want a man to be consistant in his decision makeing, as long as it meets your approval This is just the pot calling the kettle black. Do as I say not as I do talk.

You want a man to be a friend, and understand you and genuinely listen, and make you laugh, but if he’s too good at it ain’t no way in hell you sleeping with him.

Who said this? I must have missed this convo.

By Raqi

May 4, 2007 3:57 PM | Link to this

Ctha1 I am an ordinary woman and proud of it. I had to scrape the bottom of the barrel many days just to feed my kids. I only have a high school education so my job opportunities are pretty limited but I landed a decent job and have worked here 17 years and now make a pretty good living. I live in a pretty nice house but I had to rent it from my father’s friend before I could buy it. And I could only do that with the help of my father. I learned to save and budget and we came out pretty good. I was doing tolerably well and then The Man came along and just made it that much better. Now you know the rest of the story. (Don’t ask me why I just told you all of that)

I was talking to my husband about the topic that Wise posted about being men being intimidated by a certain type of woman that put herself on a higher plain and his response was “I have dated my share of those type of women and most of them aren’t as great of a catch as they think they are.”

I found that to be interesting.

On that note I am out. Everyone have a good evening.

By Mackin a$$ Rell

May 4, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this

LMAO….i dont see how my comments come across as bitter. I address the one thing that makes men not recongize a real women..which is simp behavior and non-dimes..then i later gave a mandate to my brothers to step there game up. How is that bitter. Simps and non-dimes are killing the game. Ladies do you not shake your head when you see a man you would date leading around a demon dog/hoochie…that is sassy loud and openly disrespectful to her man…..Do you not shake your head. I am spitting today from my cliff notes on the game so my fellas then weekend..can step to a female with some boldness…give her his number and give instruction when to call…not to come out of your wallet before you open your mouth…do not lavish unwarrented attention or comments on women….simple things that works wonders when you carry yourself like you about something. Fellas STEP YA GAME UP THIS WEEKEND…no more non-dimes or chickheads

By MusingLee

May 4, 2007 4:02 PM | Link to this

Back from my meeting…

Musing slips and slides through the blog lobby after stepping in a puddle of Haterade….

Hey Island Girl.

Hey QC

By The Truth

May 4, 2007 4:05 PM | Link to this

Seeker and Blat this really is a viscous game we’re playing. On the one hand guys can get with these chicks, do what you do and move on. In this case the guy is crap. On the other hand we can get with a chick, spend some time with her, finance some of her fantasies, have children, and she drains you for the rest of your life. Oh yeah, your still crap. I’d personally rather be the first piece of crap but either way there’s no winners.

Seeker would I be less of a loser if I let you dictate my life (regardless of the fact you cant run your own)? Whats sad is you are convinced you know whats best for a man and you don’t even know whats best for you. Hence your decision making process. Stay out there looking for some poor dude who’s been waiting his whole life for you to give him direction and make the sun shine. You chicks act like this is some civilized game we’re all playing and only you dictate when the gloves come off. Guys are now taking pre-emptive measures to protect themselves from all of you innocent lambs. We’ve peeped your game. Also, the only thing worse than a woman hater is the unfortunate dude who actually listens to what you say.

By Southern Bella

May 4, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this

C tha 1, thanks for the 3:28 post! It gives me a better understanding of the male perspective. I see how signals can be mixed, but if I’m shutting the door at jump street, it should mean “game over”.

If I’m saying “no” all coy-like and I’m smiling at you and am talking to you, then yeah, shame on me for throwing you a bone.

Linquist, I’ve enjoyed what you’ve had to say!

By Alvin

May 4, 2007 4:07 PM | Link to this

Sup all!!!

By SeanJohnson

May 4, 2007 4:08 PM | Link to this

@ Raqi..nice post…nothing like a female keeping it real for once..

By MusingLee

May 4, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this

demi I’m hella late, and seem to have missed all of the fireworks…LOLOLOL

I guess I’ll kick these rocks around.

By Alvin

May 4, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this

You want a man to be a friend, and understand you and genuinely listen, and make you laugh, but if he’s too good at it ain’t no way in hell you sleeping with him.

LOL, this was sooooooo me, 7 years ago…no woman will ever see that side of me again

By For Real

May 4, 2007 4:17 PM | Link to this

Raqi I like your honesty. Keep doing you.

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 4, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

@Southern Bella I will just keep it simple on you 1:47.

Do you and if a dude is the one for you, you will know it, if he is not you will know it.

Always be cordial to to every dude you meet.If he acts a fool and does not understand plain english, meaning you are interested, then step!

By DuShawn

May 4, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

Raqi that was insightful. You never know a persons journey. Only a fool would come to a conclusion about one’s character based solely on a few passages written on an insignificant blog. It amazes me how some could be so passionate about their opinion of others when in reality they have no idea. Through hardship comes strength. Thanks for sharing.

By Alvin

May 4, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this

MusingLee dude I spent 20mins reading all the posts, I am just catching up, LOL

By cool breeze

May 4, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this

No doesn’t really mean no and it’s good for guys to persist at times. My dad married my momz cause his words he chased her down. My aunt married a guy who persisted after she had given up on guys as just players and no good. He persisted she saw he was good, nice man and that was that. If you don’t want anyone to ask to dance with you then stay home. If you don’t want anyone to talk to you at all that day/weekend stay home. Whatever you have going on doesn’t have anything to do with a guy that sees you and think you’re cute. All these women that complain about there not being enough goo men are passing them by and not giving them a shot everyday. mixed signals abound from women. Men also have to stop being punks and be out doing anything to try and have a woman and cow-tow to her wishes and demands. Since guys are leaders men need to find women who fit their program not trying to fit a woman’s program. The script has been flipped where women think we men were made for them when they were made for us to help us out.If a girl came up to talk to me and I didn’t want to be bothered I would talk to her because if anyone is going to “bother” me I prefer the female kind of bothering. Not too busy/occupied ever to stop and say hello to/respond to a girl saying what’s up? Life’s too short to be wasting with bitterness/bad attitudes/being jaded/trying to prove how hard you are/etc. Every day passed is a day if you’re single that your hand isn’t being held, no picnics, flowers bought for you, planning a chill friday night with someone. All the time passed and being mad, mean-mugging isn’t werth it.

By ATLborn

May 4, 2007 4:22 PM | Link to this

Rell u tellin ‘em right but some still gon hear it wrong.

By SlimOne

May 4, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

Musing don’t feel bad. I too am in the dark on this topic today. Been too busy to read pretty much any of it. Did i miss the haterade give away?

By Linguist

May 4, 2007 4:25 PM | Link to this

Truth… Thanks for re-phrasing… See… I knew you could do it!! … ((Hugs))…

Ling, no handing Truth red carnations..

By cool breeze

May 4, 2007 4:28 PM | Link to this

I’ve encountered women out at the bookstore or target and their body language said they weren’t friendly at all (frowning, looking mean) but when I passed them and said hello they brightened up and stopped and talked and had some nice conversations. I didn’t get a date from all these instances but some I did but what I found out is people in general and women pariculaury (since they’re my favorite kind of people)are looking for someone to talk to and most are friendly and cool. Body language can be a clue but not the only one. Sometimes you just talk to people and see what happens. Just might be surprised what happens. But I guess you have to be open to surprises too at all times.

By MusingLee

May 4, 2007 4:28 PM | Link to this

Musing hands Slim two shiny rocks…one for each toe…LOLOLOLOLOLOL

By AnchorMan MusingLee

May 4, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this

In a feud that has spanned more than 4 years….Today the Mad Hatter finally took it upon himself to call Queen Elizabeth and ask for his hat back.

By Ladylike

May 4, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this

Entertaingin reading today, and full of fire as usual.

You guys Have a Great Weekend, read’cha on Monday!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 4, 2007 4:37 PM | Link to this

I am speed blogging here but I wanted to add my 2 cents on what I have been able to gather so far…

On topic Bottomline, different strokes for different folks. I have gone out with my girls to just chill with my girls but if a guy approaches it doesnt tick me off or anything. I politely tell them its ladies night and if I’m interested we exchange info, talk later or whatever. If I’m not interested, I dont give fake numbers and I dont accept his (knowing I wont call). There are some guys that make it bad for most but I personally dont let those few bad apples spoil the bunch. The guy that gets p** cause I said “no thanks” is just that: the guy that got p** cause I said no thanks! I wont treat every guy like that guy b/c that’s not fair.

On the flip, I dont condone women turning their noses up at every man to approach and thinking that a man should buy them a drink to speak to them. If a guy buys a drink, cool and if he doesnt that’s cool as well.

Bottomline: do you. There will always be someone that disagrees with how you handle a situation. Remember though that in all you do, its not always other folks that are the issue.

By SlimOne

May 4, 2007 4:39 PM | Link to this

Musing Thanks buddy. I knew wearing sandals today would pay off.

Slim happily starts kicking rocks…Dayum, I chipped my toe nail poiish!

By The Truth

May 4, 2007 4:40 PM | Link to this

Hey ev1, I got flowers from Ling. This is going to be a good weekend. TY Ling. LOL

It seems that everyone that does not want to get married tomorrow, have children, and live happily ever after is considered bitter. Whats that about? If you don’t think that every woman that ever graced mother earth is the greatest than your a woman hater. But its ok to say all men are dogs. Go figure.

By Alvin

May 4, 2007 4:40 PM | Link to this

cool breeze I agree with your 428pm post, being a deaf cat, I grew up mostly friendless and sometimes lonely as hell (I was a poor communicator, LOL). Now that God bless me with the ability to speak well (not new yorkish well, LOL I am killing myself), I make an effort to speak positive to someone, regardless of my mood. I realize at age 25, positive thinking attract positive people 98.9999% of the time, LOL

By Linguist

May 4, 2007 4:44 PM | Link to this

Ctha1.. okay, it’s been a busy day..sorry for the delay in responding.. You asked why those of us that are married post here.. I travel from Cali to GA for my job and was looking for a “lay of the land” in Atlanta.. While Purusing AJC, I stumbled upon MIA. I was a lurker for a long time.. amused, entertained, etc.. by all of the comments and finally one day I couldn’t contain myself and had to comment.. if I remember correctly, I made my first post in response to something inane by SJ…had to school GA.man! and next thing I knew I was a bartender with Slim and Mo..and was wearing short skirts and high heels to boot!

It’s also fun and I take most comments with a grain of salt, except when truth & Will C and now Mack spout something so off the wall that I am jerked out of Lurksville and into the blog.

By MusingLee

May 4, 2007 4:51 PM | Link to this

I’m out, Er’one have a nice weekend.

By SlimOne

May 4, 2007 4:53 PM | Link to this

Ling Ever since Musing & Gaman remodeled the bar with all these crazy buttons, folks have been scared to go in there.

By Linguist

May 4, 2007 4:55 PM | Link to this

Mack One man’s non-dime is another man’s dollar … Chickenhead?… well, I have no comment on that one! :)

By Alvin

May 4, 2007 5:00 PM | Link to this

SlimOne yeah, it’s now like a bar with a BMW i-Drive.

By Linguist

May 4, 2007 5:00 PM | Link to this

Slim Yes, I know.. said while shaking my head How about making it a bit more masculine inside..let the guys smoke their bigfat cigars, grunt, talk their “crazy men talk”.. they can re-write, and re-write their MLB handbook and think they are doing something! While they do all of that - we’ll be picking their pockets! hehehehe…

See… MLB…just keepin’ it simple.. real simple!

By J

May 4, 2007 5:02 PM | Link to this

“When was the last time you were hit on or chatted up by someone who clearly misread your body language?”

“Who do you think is guiltier of misinterpretation — men or women? And why can’t we read each other better?”

All of these are great questions/thinking points, but I would argue it would be more valuable consider the flipside.

Are your signals truly what you believe them to be. For example if I wrote a sentence and the majority of the people read the sentence with a meaning I did not intend, I don’t believe I would focus on their reading comprehension skills - I would probably focus on my writing skills…