By Lady J

May 9, 2007 8:15 AM | Link to this

Great topic…I started yesterday…I love to listen to a man who truly has something to say…Got that? has one thatfor me…That brotha comes with good convo…HAve a fun fight free day folks!!!

Demi you are a sweetie too!:)

By Biff

May 9, 2007 8:23 AM | Link to this

Just wondering, how many dudes have you seduced in the past year alone?

By SlimOne

May 9, 2007 8:25 AM | Link to this

Morning I will lurk for now.

By kinderbabe

May 9, 2007 8:27 AM | Link to this

great question diva. the last person i met w/the “wow” factor is the guy i’m seeing now.:) he puts the W, O and W in wow…lol. fine and down to earth, a great combo. i’m feelin it.:)

i think the best way to wow someone is by being yourself. there’s somebody for everybody. everyone is bound to wow at least one other person. it’s all about chemistry.

hey ladyj! good morning all.:)

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 8:28 AM | Link to this

Biff I know you are not talking to me, so please be gone and try to seduce someone on your mental level!!!

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 8:32 AM | Link to this

Sorry Wise I will follow the rules…Why would I entertain a weird stranger? My bad! Again I won’t fight or entertain the entertainer!:)

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 8:33 AM | Link to this

Hey Kinderbabe!!! Have a great day!

By Got that?

May 9, 2007 8:50 AM | Link to this

Lady J, thank you for the opportunity to express myself and your generous compliment.

By Got that?

May 9, 2007 8:56 AM | Link to this

I’d say that my wow factor would have to be a gorgeous woman who is comfortable with herself and does not try to impress me. Atlanta is all about impressing people with clothes, cars, jobs, houses, etc. It never ends. It’s comforting to actually meet someone who has her act together, her head on straight, and knows what’s really important.

By Suga&Spice

May 9, 2007 8:56 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks.

For me the wow factor in a dude is always quite confidence. When a man has a quite confidence about himself yet is cognizent enough to pay attention to the little details about the people around him I am Wowed. I just think it gives a good insight into his character.

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 8:56 AM | Link to this

Anytime Got that?…I just feel you are fair that is all! Not unrealistic or a jerk just fair!

By QC

May 9, 2007 9:01 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Bloggers….i’m haging out in lurkesville today…i think we all have a little “wow in us that shows when we meet someone…have a great day everyone!

By MusingLee

May 9, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

Hmmmm, a wow factor you say???

What about a Woman that can do a chinese split.

How’s that Wise?

By IslandGirl

May 9, 2007 9:27 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Blog Family

I agree with QC, “we all have a little “wow in us that shows when we meet someone”. That is usually what attracts us to each other.

For me, I love a “confident” man. This walk exudes his confidence (not arrogance). He is not trying to impress anyone, Like “Got That” indicated.

By Deeva4Life

May 9, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Bloggers…I’m not a regular blogger but I do lurk here from time to time and let me just say that this blog provides so many things for me throughout the day…laughs, tears, insight, and as Cassie said yesterday…therapy. It truly is the best. Thanks Wise Diva!

I’m lurking again today and I know I’m a day late for this comment but after going back and reading yesterdays post I noticed SlimOne’s poem. SlimOne you don’t know me and I don’t know you but those words spoke volumes to me. It so reflected how I feel about me and my life. I know for a fact that fear is my biggest obstacle but to read it laid out like that was so touching (I’m going through my hormonal dysfunction this week, lol…so I’m extra sensitive) but it was amazing. Thank you so much for allowing yourself to be transparent and sharing such a wonderful piece with us.

I know I’m all off the subject for today but I had to make that comment.

I hope everybody has a GREAT Wednesday!!

By cool breeze

May 9, 2007 9:45 AM | Link to this

A woman that can talk about art some, likes sports a little and knows what is going in the world and keeps up with current events instead of just concerned about her own little world WOWS me. A girl that appreciates the little romantic things I do WOWS me.

By IslandGirl

May 9, 2007 9:46 AM | Link to this

* Slim* Kudos to you (regarding Deeva4Life’s comment). Don’t change…your jokes and poems are appreciated. The things we do in life always affect someone’s life directly or indirectly. You never know who is watching.

Just had to add my pinch of spice in the pot of good thoughts.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 9, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this

Morning All!! Happy Hump Day!!

On topic Wow factor….there could be so many but I think the one that sticks out for me is just a great personality (outgoing, down to earth, sense of humor, etc).

QC I agree with your post about us all having some wow in us. And since everyone has their own definition of a wow factor you could possess many wows!

By T-Mango

May 9, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this

Good morning all-

The WOW factor…I think it is a man that exudes confidence. There is just that something in his swagger that draws me to him. He’s not superficial, but humble. Intelligent and atttractive inside and out. He could be working construction or making his way back to his office on Peachtree St. Doesn’t matter…if he’s got it…he’s got it. That does it for me-

By Cassie

May 9, 2007 9:50 AM | Link to this

Man! Single dads! I saw the hottest man I’ve ever seen at Village Pizza on Holcomb Bridge, with his three year old son and no wedding ring or other woman present. Grrrr!

Anyway, I talked to his little boy while we stood in line and got a couple of approving glances from daddy. I love kids anyone, so that’s a natural….

By Cassie

May 9, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

CB - I like art and the symphony and the theater and the opera, I like football and soccer, and regularly subscribe to and read The Economist :-)

By SexyCool

May 9, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this

i don’t go out looking to “wow” a guy…i’m confident enough that who i strive to be on a daily basis during my interactions wth all people is enough…instead, i love the pleasant surprise that i get when i am “wow”ed…it’s like you said…there are many beautiful people in this city….but sadly, there are few that can really ‘wow’ me past a quite superficial level…

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this

@cool breeze, I have found that being well rounded does hold attention spans and intrest longer…I am huge sports fan and when I talk the talk guys are like wow you know what you are saying and I am like sure do…Politics too…Great Post!

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 9, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this

@Wise Lurker I will say it again (good morning by the way all)…

You cannot apply a certain behavior or method to all situations and all men!

Meaning, flirting does not work for all men! Personally, I hate it!

I respect a woman more if she was direct and said….

Hello, I just wanted to compliment you on your suit and/or your demeanor. You appear to be a brother who has your ish together and I respect that!

I think this speaks volumes for this sista’s maturity and her approach and she will definitely get my respect, whether I find her attractive or not!

A chick that flirts with me shows me that she is afraid to takes risks and has no backbone! That is not attractive to me and we are far too old to play games!

Flirting is a safe way to get dudes attention and it may get him to approach you, but it will not keep his interest long-term, in most cases! Remember, most men form an opinion of you, by your approach or how you carry yourself. You never get a second chance to make a good first impression!

Walking by me 5-10 times, switching or trying to get noticed is very tired, immature and tells me a lot about who you are, without you ever saying another to me! That is like a dude laying his BMW or Mercedes keys on the table, to show you what he drives, it is weak!

Originality is a thing of the past and very few women in Atlanta impress real men enough, that they want them for anything more than a romp session! Dating has gotten boring, because of this!

By Wise Diva

May 9, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

Good morning!

Musinglee, I guess that works, LOL.

WOW factor is definitely not related to money/looks, so it’s great you guys are wow’ed by the good stuff.

WOW @ Deeva4life, thanks for your great comment this morning!

By MusingLee

May 9, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

Ohhh, how about a Woman with “The Walk”?!?! MLB you know what I’m talking about.

Dannggggg look at that Stallion stride

By T-Mango

May 9, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this

Ohhh…I have to give a ‘shout out’ to all of the beautiful brothers riding motorcycles throughout the city leaning over those handle bars, doing wheelies with tattoos and brands nestled somewhere on nicely built bodies…I love watchin’ y’all… (wink)

T-Mango regains her composure

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 10:18 AM | Link to this

@LL What do you think about brotha’s who flirt…I know you aren’t attracted to them just your thoughs on their process of flirting bc men truly flirt also…Just want your opinion..Thanks

By kinderbabe

May 9, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

lol *t-mango nothing like biker boys ;) somebody also mentioned the swagger that men have. was that you t-mango? umph, nothing like that slightly bow-legged walk…lol.

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 9, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this

@Lady J I think it is a tired approach,regardless of who does it!

There may be times when it is suitable to flirt, but I would say that should happen AFTER you have met the person!

Flirting should not be an initial think to attract someone,because it is an easy way out and most folks (male or female) don’t really respect it!

By SlimOne

May 9, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

Only have time to peek in for a hot second

Deeva4Life & IslandGirl Thank you. Your compliment is very heartfelt. I’m glad i was able to touch you with my words. I needed that today and you’re right, you never know how you can indirectly affect someone.

It’s one of those days but will try to catch up and peek in again soon

By Jake

May 9, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

What up folks:

As being asked out by a woman, its a turn on and impressive. For one its an ego stroke, but secondly its a suprise, this happen so rarely to men that I would think most would be impressed, I know I am. As for whether that pursuit would make him think its going to be an easy screw, that depends on the approach, look at LL’s description (9:55) I think that would do it ladies.

As for standing out, i think the quiet confidence *SugaSpice spoke of would be my WOW. I know who I was, who I am, and who I strive to become.

I always believed in “cool”. Not too loud, well groomed/dressed/ and smelling nice. I like to tell my folks that I’m keeping it going for the smooth brothers. I’ll let the youngins play thug, while I rebirth cool.

where did that breeze come from…LOL

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this

Thanks LL that is a great way to view it I feel as one becomes wise I think…Great point!

By SlimOne

May 9, 2007 10:43 AM | Link to this

Musing I see you referred to the MLB about that stallion stride. What does the MLB say about a women’s gap? I’ve heard guys mumble this to themselves. I guess it’s that space in the southern region where the thighs don’t necessarily touch but it’s almost in the shape of a tear-drop…anything on this guys?

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this

Slim or whoever what does MLB mean…Slow am I…Sorry…I just don’t know what it stands for or mean…Thanks

By Jokester

May 9, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this

A young couple got married and went on their honeymoon. When they got back, the bride immediately called her mother. “Well,” said the mother, “so how was the honeymoon?”

“oh, mama,” she replied, “the honeymoon was wonderful! so romantic….” suddenly she burst out crying. “But, momma, as soon as we returned, Sam started using the most horrible language - things I’d never heard before! I mean all those awful 4-letter words! You’ve got to take me home…. please mama!”

“Sarah,Sarah” her mother said “calm down! You need to stay with your husband and work this out. Now, tell me, what could be so awful? What 4-letter words?”

“Please don’t make me tell you, mama,” wept the daughter, “I’m so embarrassed, they’re just too awful! Come and get me please!!”

“Darling, baby, you must tell me what has you so upset. Tell your mother these horrible 4-letter words!”

Sobbing, the bride said, “Oh mama…, he used words like: dust, wash, iron, cook….”

“I’ll pick you up in twenty minutes.” said the mother.

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 9, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

If I had to say one thing to the men and the women, it would be “be origninal”

The majority of people flirt to get someone’s attention it is sooo played out,like a jheri curl!

Someone who goes to the left, when everyone else is going to the right will in most cases catch my attention!

I don’t ever want “average” I want a leader and take charge chick a chick that is not affraid to take risks!

That is the definition of ‘Wow” or umph factor to me!

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

@Jokester…Too funny…I wish that was our beef in our failed year! LOL

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 9, 2007 11:05 AM | Link to this

Sorry folks, my spelling is really off this mornin. I am mult-taskin as usual. When is the AJC blog going to get spell check?

By T-Mango

May 9, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this

Kinderbabe-Yes, that was me. The BL(bow leg) brothers…girl that’s another chapter in the peepin’ ya guide. I feel you-(lol)

By For Real

May 9, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!!!

I was wowed once. My sons and I were out eating dinner and very attractive lady paid for our meals. I was like wow.

By QueDogTeaching

May 9, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

What up Blog

For me, in this city. If a woman will simply have a smile on her face that is a wow factor for me.

Guys, when was the last time you were really impressed by a woman?

The last time that I had a wow factor was this past Saturday at a fight party that I attended. This party was full of bruhs. One of my frat brothers female cousin came over with a friend. She was extremely attractive. She was genuinely nice, and was speaking to everyone. But one thing that I noticed was that she was confident, smiling, and was kind of working the room in a respectful manner. She had no pre-tense or game about herself, and she wasn’t playing the look at me but don’t say anything to me game. She was actually cool. But the WoW factor was that when she left, she had taken no ones business card or phone number, and no one had gotten hers. She left the room as a respected female. She left the conversation where it started, in the basement where we were watching the fight. Sure things were said after she left, but to be honest no one said anything about bending her over (Another WoW). She had gained the respect of a room full of grown men as a knock out of a woman.

By SlimOne

May 9, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this

Lady J MLB=Man Law Book

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 9, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

Speaking of WOW factor Last week i invited a guy friend to join me to this art show i was invited to- he picked me up at my house and we went to the show after the show i treated him to dinner- after the dinner i ask him to stop by my mom house so i could get my kids- he agreed after picking up my kids and bringing me back home he told me he had a good time but he was most impress at how well behave my kids were and how clean and put together they looked— he was WOW- thinking to myself i was like dang that impressed him- he is treating me to skating next week- that was easy!!

By BlatinoBrutha -

May 9, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

Mornin! lurking for the moment…..

By For Real

May 9, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

Oh and the 19 year old lady on dancing with the stars that did the 7-point split and then raise it up to a You Standing I’m Standing too split. Now that was WOW!!!!

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 9, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this

@QueDogTeaching You speakin real talk dawg. Thanks for breaking it down!

I think every woman on here now has it in black and white and it is definitely hard to impress the bruh’s and despite her doing her thing,no bruh still spoke about bending her over, esp. during a fight, where alcohol was consumed…priceless!

By Jake

May 9, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

LadyJ Slim was corect in her response about the MLB, the secondary meaning is the collective group of gentlemen ourselves are the MLB.

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

Thanks Slim!

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this

Thanks Jake:)

By kinderbabe

May 9, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this

t-mango chile, we could talk about that all day…lol. that is super sexy to me (a BL brotha). have you been to chastain lately? i’m going next weekend and trying to figure out if the terrace section (single seats) have small tables in front of them. do you happen to know? (that was all of topic, i know…lol)

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

So it is not attrative to flirt and get numbers anymore… Just curious was this chick in the 30s…I am just curious to know is it something about being 30…I know I just had about enough of 20s and have 2 more years but anyway not going to start venting/complaining…

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this

I guess the older folks are right be seen and not heard…Is this what the men are implying today let them chase and we not seek…I am sorta aggressive and a natural flirt so just curious as to thoughts…

By T-Mango

May 9, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

kinderbabe Actually, I have never been to Chastain. So, unfortunately I can’t help you with your question…I’m sure somebody on here knows though-

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 9, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

My Wow factor in a gentleman is comfort in his own skin. This screams unique to me.

I look for the odd man out in the crowd. He is the guy that is quietly observing the goings on and is not breaking his neck to be apart of the convo. Doesn’t mean he is antisocial just a quiet presence about himself. Not overly zealous to be seen as the next big idiot in the room. When he is asked to participate then he will.

He is relaxed and enjoying the atmosphere around him. Be it a social gathering or a formal one he is always comfortable.

By haha

May 9, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this

The last date I had was like WOW your breath is bad and WOW thats a lot of kids. And wow I cant belive I climbed out the bathroom window OF THE REASTURANT 2 escape!

By Jay

May 9, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

I’ll roll down all the windows in my car and play bassy music really loudly. It says, “Yeah, I read at a fourth grade level and work at Foot Locker, but I make my own rules and answer to no one—except for the assistant store manager and store manager at Foot Locker.” Works every time.

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 9, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this

@Lady J What I am saying is be assertive,but not aggressive and throw in a small flirt in the middle.

You should not use a flirt as solely a way to get attention from a man, because he will in most cases he will not respect you for anything other than putting you in a parallel position!

A woman who is not afraid to step up to the plate and take one on the chin if she has to will win everytime!

If we can do it day in and day out, females can do it!

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 9, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this

@Dr. Kym That could be Mr. Stalker or Mr.Insane or a brother that forgot to put on his deodorant that night!

By Linguist

May 9, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

Hey Blog Fam

By kinderbabe

May 9, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

thanks t-mango i’ll pose the question to everyone…

does anyone know if small tables are provided in the terrace section of chastain i know that there is “table seating” for six. i am unsure of the set up for single seating in the terrace section. i am trying to decide if i need to bring a small table or not. thanks for your comments!

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 9, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this

@ Dr.Kym hmmm that a good one i can invision that type brother. that is a WOW

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this

Okay LL Assertive…So clean it up…Got you!…Love the male point of view!

Are you an Omega Man too?

By T-Mango

May 9, 2007 12:12 PM | Link to this

Lady J I’m curious to see the response to your question as well. I’m in my 30’s. I’ve learned that if a man wants you, he will pursue you. However, if you make the first move, be a lady, show your interest and then let things take its course without forcing it. Don’t pressure him. If it is meant to happen, it will. Also, I think it’s ok to be somewhat assertive, but leave aggressive to the men.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 9, 2007 12:14 PM | Link to this

@ Lady Jay

Since you brought up the age factor with flirting— when i was at the art show with my friend this lady who looked to be in her forty (and too much alcohol in her) walked up to my guy friend as if she was about to eat him and she just started flirting with him and he was looking at her like WTH and me trying to keep it lady like was also looking at her like dam old lady don’t you see he is with me.

By Eyez

May 9, 2007 12:15 PM | Link to this

The WOW factor is something that I missed until I meet the lovely lady I have been dating. We meet at a Starbuck’s of all things b/c I don’t usually drink coffee. She was ordering as I strolled up behind her in line. I took notice of her immediately for some reason and I got caught looking red handed. To my surprise, she was flattered and gave me this gleaming smile. She got her coffee, sat down at a table and after I did the same, I asked to join her. We sat and talked until they kicked us out. Here’s the WOW part of it…once I had shown her I was of no threat, it was like every wall had fallen. She was confident, witty, did not judge, kept me intent and was attentive, all while taking me by surprise showing me. I knew she had brains from the moment she opened her mouth though and that gets any geek excited. Good looks will only get you so far. It’s been almost four months and she still gives me butterflies in my stomach.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 9, 2007 12:15 PM | Link to this

@ LL you are too funny - why u had to mess it up….. That could be Mr. Stalker or Mr.Insane or a brother that forgot to put on his deodorant that night!

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 9, 2007 12:16 PM | Link to this

@LadyJ “Q” til the day I die!

By Linguist

May 9, 2007 12:16 PM | Link to this

LL 9:55… “Hello, I just wanted to compliment you on your suit and/or your demeanor.”… I’ve actually done that on a few occassions…I love men that are well put together.. you know, great tie/shirt combination.. pants (that fit) shoes shined, etc.. You should see the look on their faces!… So instead of me Wowing them… they are WOWed at the compliment..

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 9, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this

LL Crazy, and insane do not wear labels it doesnt say ” Hello, I just wanted to compliment you on your suit and/or your demeanor. You appear to be a brother who has your ish together and I respect that! An after I become intimate with you I will cut off your balls and boil them like that rabbit in Fatal Attraction. So any of the women you described could have that tendency.

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this

Thanks T-Mango that was great advice…Seriously…I don’t know why I think I need to play the man role sometimes…Is it bc I am a Leo??? lol But seriously I am going to cut that part for sure…It is a bit old and the results are getting beyond tired…Time to change it up and practice so when I turn 30 it will not be a power struggle!!! Thanks T-Mango!

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 9, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this

@MsU 40 year chick are the new 20!

Most are in their prime, raised they kids in most situations,divorced,etc. and they ain’t concerned about what others think! They go for theirs and they are fun to be with and they WILL take your man,if you slack up!

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 9, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this

A WOW moment could also be a handsome brother who is intelligent, funny, and knows what he want in a women—how to treat a women—has his own crib without a room-mate,car,job and pay all his bill on time … So hard to find all that in one brother I am standing firm waiting for the attacks

By Atl Lady

May 9, 2007 12:23 PM | Link to this

Hello Everyone QueDogTeaching Jake You guys give a sistah hope. lol lol lol I was still lurking in lurksville. I enjoyed both of your blogs. I can enjoy a good fight party, drink with the fellas and be respected in the end.

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 12:23 PM | Link to this

Oh MsUnderstood aka MsU…I ment to tell you your date souded fun…I am having a hard time allowing a date or men period in my child’s life meaning just going to the park or something simple we all can do…I don’t know where to start…She has a great father and I feel it is just too confusing bringing another man in her face but at the same time whomever I am with I feel if I invited them too dinner with me and my child should be apart without me feeling like he does not want to or I am going to lose him bc I am a single mother…don’t know…As everyone can tell it is my emotional pity day today…I am ready to Lion’s Den and chill out…

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 9, 2007 12:24 PM | Link to this

@Linguist Exactly!

Please remember that dudes love compliments too! If your delivery is on point and you pay that dude a nice compliment,with a smile,style and wit,it will do wonders for your dateless weekends!

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

Okay LL…Got you!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 9, 2007 12:28 PM | Link to this

Lady J I am in my early 30’s and have found that (as **T-Mango stated) when approaching a man, keep it simple and pleasant. If you come across too strong you can almost see them getting that “dannnng back up off me” look or the “I could sop you up with a biscuit” look!! LOL Most men respond best to the “less is more” theory when they are being approached.

Blog men feel free to correct me if I’m wrong..

* Hey Kinderbabe, Ling and Jake!! What’s up QDT!*

For Real what’s my song for the day babe?

By kinderbabe

May 9, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this

t-mango we’re on the same page.:) assertiveness is fine, aggressive is altogether different.

eyez loving your story…i hope the butterflies continue for a long time.:)

By T-Mango

May 9, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this

*Lady J-Let the men tell you what they think. That’s just my experience. I don’t there is not that big of a difference between 28 and 30. What matters is the maturity level of the person? Gotta take that on a case by case basis…Plenty of 30 somethings out here trying to act like they are 20-

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 12:33 PM | Link to this

Thanks T-MAngo and Mo….If I learn to keep my mouth closed and ears open….Wow wonder what will I come across!!! Thanks you guys are the best!

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 9, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this

@MsU You gotta stop hanging out at D&B and Club 1 tweezy!

There are mannnnny brothers that have all the things you named you want in a man, you just gotta upsize your landscape and go with a broader approach,which means adding the High Museum,some professional networking mixers,church and some 30 and up afterwork spots to your rotation of social options.

Also,I would suggest not riding through downtown blasting “Go Getta” by young Jeezy, while scoping the side walk for young business exec’s!

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 9, 2007 12:35 PM | Link to this

@ Lady J

There are tons of us(good single moms) a real man won’t be concern about you being a single mom— he will respect you and like you even more because you handle your business as a mother and a young lady— things happen beyond our control sometime— no offsense to anybody but there are a lot of single women who don’t have kids becuase they aborted/miscarriage but we chose to do the right thing and be that mom so don’t look at being a single mom as a bad thing…

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 12:35 PM | Link to this

Mo you are rigt sis…I was simple wth this one dudebc I was not attracted to him at first but he did come back with great convo and I was like Wow for real bc I really judged him too early…

By Will C.

May 9, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this

I prefer when women ask me out. It takes the pressure off of me. No need to speculate if she’s interested.If there’s a mutual attraction i’ll make a date immediately. Sometimes I like to pursue sometimes I don’t.

RICH GUYS TROPHY WIFE SPEED DATING

By Dawn

May 9, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this

I was dating this guy for about seven weeks not too long ago. We were having a good time, he treated me well and we hadn’t slept together yet. I could tell he wanted to but he didn’t force the issue. One afternoon he called me at work and told me that he had just run into an old friend, a woman, that he hadn’t seen in a few years and he was going to have drinks with her that evening and he’d call me when he got home. We didn’t have plans that night so I think the only reason he called was to put her in my face. I didn’t answer the phone that night. I didn’t take his calls for over a week and when I did, I lied to him. I told him that I had met a really great guy the night he went out with his friend. I implied that me and this guy had slept together a few nights later and would be spending more time together. I just told him that because I was mad. He didn’t seem angry or hurt, but he did stop calling and coming around. That was two months ago. I want to call him and tell him the truth. I’m miserable without him. I just don’t know what to do. What do you think?

By lee

May 9, 2007 12:40 PM | Link to this

I discovered a WOW guy at work in March. There wasn’t anything particular about him that caught my attention- he walked past me and that was it for me. I saw him the next day and to get his attention I smiled and greeted him and we have frequently talked since that day.

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 9, 2007 12:41 PM | Link to this

@Mo Actually the term is “Less is Best” The less you say, that better your result will be, but that applies only to men!

Dudes got a way of talking themselves out of a deal everytime,with a broad!

With chicks,I agree, keep it simple and direct! If you simply come from the heart and speak your mind, in most cases that dude will be impressed and you one up on the competition!

While them other chicks are burning a track in the floor,trying to look good, in most cases,if you use the direct approach,you will win!

By The Truth

May 9, 2007 12:41 PM | Link to this

I’m late but I’m kicking in the door.

Quedogteaching that was nice. What she did is nothing short of an art form.

The last wow I had was my old barbers wife. Fellas, she had a smile that could light up a city. I’m not joking either. It was more than her teeth (which were perfect by the way) but she seemed to smile from her heart. Now this woman had alot of t & a but she was so much more than that. Their were men and women working there and you all know how beauty shop talk can get, but when she came in everyone toned it down. Anyway, one day I took a quick nap while waiting for my turn and she came and touched my arm to wake me and had that smile (actually she may have been laughing at me) on and I thought heavens not gonna be bad at all. LOL I was joking with my barber one day while he trimmed up the stach and goatee and I told him about the way his wife carries herself (in a respectful way) and he put his hand on my shoulder and said, “thats why she’s MY wife”. We both had a good good laugh.

Slim1 the gap is more of a sexual attraction than a wow attraction. I don’t think, and it sounds like alot of the fellas are saying, that it will catch your eye but not your heart. Just my .02 To catch the heart it takes pure chenistry.

Jokester to funny.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 9, 2007 12:44 PM | Link to this

@ LL

You are too much— I don’t do the clubs as a matter of fact i have a date to the high museum in two weeks- actually we got a few dates pending and i network babbby.. It’s a lot of undercover got it together —not brothers LOL !! It’s like looking for te next AMERICAN IDOL

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

May 9, 2007 12:45 PM | Link to this

Holla back @ T-Mango’s 10:14am post.

Morning Blog!!! I have been humpin for real for the past few days. Haven’t been able to read the entire blog yet, but so far so good! Great Topic WD!

On Topic: I’m just “WOW’d” when a guy can actually have an interesting conversation that starts above my mid-section! LOL!!! Then we go from there! They say you better really like the person that you marry, because looks fade. I’m impressed with a guy who can wow me with a great conversation, it’s key to getting to know the person. No convo, no chance.

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 9, 2007 12:46 PM | Link to this

@MsU Nothing personal, but we don’t want to inherit a whole football team either!

Regardless of the checks you are receiving from the ex or exe’s, your kids still affect our overall bottom line!

Nothing wrong with being a single mom and I think most cat’s respect your struggle,but we do not want to be step dad to a starting 5!

By kinderbabe

May 9, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

hey mo

dawn unfortunately, i think that your situation is pretty much over. you hadn’t been dating long and furthermore you lied to him. it’s difficult to backtrack from that type of situation. you can use this situation as a lesson of how to express your emotions differently next time. it sounds like you behaved that way out of jealously and just wanted to make him feel how you were feeling. i would take it as a learning experience and move on.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 9, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this

@ Dawn WTH was you thinking LOL!! If you call him back and tell him the truth he may look at you as being immature. just my 2 cents

By Ladylike

May 9, 2007 12:51 PM | Link to this

I have found that guys are get a big “wow” out you being straight-up with them without putting yourself on display, and guys appreciate chicks who can ask them out or invite them to a gathering.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 9, 2007 12:51 PM | Link to this

Dawn Wow. I dont want to pour anymore salt into your wound but I will ask this: what is it you hope to gain by telling him the truth? I ask b/c you have to be prepared that after telling him, you may receive the same treatment you are getting now. Now true enough he may feel empathetic and you guys can start over. But you have to be real as well and consider that he may have harsh feelings about what you did, to the point that he would decide not to deal with you anymore. It seems like you really like him so I wish you nothing but the best. After all that I say call him but only after really thinking about the possibilites of outcomes.

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 9, 2007 12:51 PM | Link to this

@Dawn I think you got what you deserve!

If I was that dude, I would loose even more respect for ya, if you called me with more foolishness and tryin to explain yourself!

Why lie? and why hit that dude where it hurts? He move on, based on what you told him and he should have!

Count your loss as a learning lession and charge it to the game!

By kinderbabe

May 9, 2007 12:56 PM | Link to this

hey mochalatte how have you been??

nobody answered my chastain post yet…:(

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 9, 2007 12:56 PM | Link to this

@LL Just curious, if you met a well together woman and she had 3 kids would you date her— and how old are you..

By SeanJohnson

May 9, 2007 12:59 PM | Link to this

@ MsU…what u are asking for is the standard for being a grown azz man..

@ Moeisha…less is more…just make it know u are interested…he can/should take it from there..if he doesnt….move on…he may be gaming

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 9, 2007 1:00 PM | Link to this

@ Mo dang i’m glad your post hit the blog before LL cause he didn’t hold nothing back LOL!!

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 9, 2007 1:02 PM | Link to this

@MissUNo,35!

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 1:04 PM | Link to this

Now LL…I don’t have 5 nd don’t aspire for another but that is a sensitve issue…You will never know the feeling of being a single mom no matter if you had it going on in all area…And is not a bad thing but I will not do this to another child…

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 9, 2007 1:06 PM | Link to this

@ Ladylike I know that to be the true..especially when there are a lot of hot female dogs out there messing us things for us good women

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 9, 2007 1:09 PM | Link to this

Ms. U now placing LL in the headlock while lady J kid and MsU kids beats him with belts buckles

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 9, 2007 1:10 PM | Link to this

@LL You didn’t answer the other part of the question

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 9, 2007 1:12 PM | Link to this

@Lady J I support the single mom’s stuggle, but I personally don’t want to date someone with more than one kid!

Other dudes may not have a problem in this area,esp.older dudes!

I am 35,single,with no kids and if I do hook up with a chick with a kid, I prefer her to have only one, preferably a teenager (14-17).

Other dudes may have a different aganda and that is kewl!

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 1:13 PM | Link to this

I know that is right I teared up LL and trust I know I gets no pity from you but please be gentle…What if God sends Miss Right with 5 and trust God has a ways of making things we thought we would never do happen!!! The theme is be kind and of course have standards but good grief brotha!

By kinderbabe

May 9, 2007 1:14 PM | Link to this

ms.u lol too funny!

hey is ling around?

By Wise Diva

May 9, 2007 1:15 PM | Link to this

Dawn, how old are you? You remind me of someone I know.

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 1:17 PM | Link to this

LL I feel you and you have a right for a fresh start but just be kind…There are some good single moms out there with 5…I just try not to judge…I am emotional today but oh well…Life does go on!!!

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 9, 2007 1:20 PM | Link to this

^5 lady J

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 9, 2007 1:25 PM | Link to this

@Lady J There are many men out there,that cannot have kids and would welcome a great woman and great kids. There are also men that don’t mind hooking up with an established fam and going for the long haul!

There are also many dudes that do not want to date/marry women,with more than one kid.

There are also many women,that do not want to date men who have two or more kids!

It is not personal,it is a matter of preference!

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 1:27 PM | Link to this

@MsUnderstood aka MsU…That was my first high five!!!! You made my day and me smile…Silly me!!!lolol:)

By kinderbabe

May 9, 2007 1:29 PM | Link to this

ladyj i feel your point. you never know how your good will come to you. it is good for men and women to have an open mind when it comes to that.

ll i understand your point also. i am in my early thirties and have it going on like you…lol. i used to say that i wanted a man w/no kids or old kids. my reasons were mostly based on working w/kids all day and needing a break at home…lol.

By Linguist

May 9, 2007 1:31 PM | Link to this

Whatcha know Mo!

Hey Kinder I’m here - in and around Lurksville.. how are you?

By Island Girl

May 9, 2007 1:31 PM | Link to this

Blog Fam What about a meet & greet this summer? It would be great for all the ladies to gang up on LL..lolololol

Just kidding, LL.

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 1:33 PM | Link to this

LL if youread my post I said you have a right to chose…I just said be KIND!!! You are entilted to what you want trust I am all for that…Anyway..Your point is well taken once again!!!

By Jake

May 9, 2007 1:36 PM | Link to this

Dawn, Dawn, Dawn

Dawn, you are helping to create a monster. Let that be a lesson to all. See what happened when this man was open and honest with a woman. It sounds like he followed through and was treated terribly. You may have blew this one sweetie.

As for what to do:

Call the dude to see, but be fully advised that you are in an uphill fight, and if he is nasty/vengeful cat you might get the hit&run payback for actin like a beeyotch.

(hey, don’t look like that ladies, I’m just being honest…lol)

By melo

May 9, 2007 1:38 PM | Link to this

If I learn to keep my mouth closed-LayJ

Maybe if you keep “my mouth and legs closed… and ears open” Don’t be too agressive!!! Men dont’ mind sampling the potato salad though!!

By kinderbabe

May 9, 2007 1:39 PM | Link to this

hey ling i’m doing fine. ready for the weekend. have you been to chastain this season? do you know if the terrace seating has small tables? i am going next weekend and wondering if i need to take a small serving table.

By Linguist

May 9, 2007 1:47 PM | Link to this

Kinder I’m not sure… try this link and see if it helps.. http://www.classicchastain.com/seating.aspx

By melo

May 9, 2007 1:48 PM | Link to this

^5 lady J-Miss U

Miss U,u got 3 children, right?!!No wonder the ^5.

But I am with LL 1 Kid is good.

By GA.man

May 9, 2007 1:50 PM | Link to this

Hello All Well i am little late but, better late than not at all. I think i have to agree LL on this one show your Stuff and let it talk for you….dont get it twisted..i mean show me that you are cool and bold enough to say something to me without going thru all the crazy ish…..

I mean there is no Ms. Perfect but show me that your confidence is cool and that you are not looking for a bruh to ride…but also that you have your own ride and we can do it together

By For Real

May 9, 2007 1:50 PM | Link to this

Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream I am hurt. You said you don’t kiss and tell.

“Morning Blog!!! I have been humpin for real for the past few days.”

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 1:52 PM | Link to this

@melo…Point well taken…You are right…You did not even offend me!!! Thanks!:)

By Demi

May 9, 2007 1:56 PM | Link to this

said while accepting “Sweet Guy” award trophy from Lady J and QC…Only to have trophy removed by MLB, a few seconds later.

Oh well, win some lose some…Good Afternoon to All!!!

By kimmie

May 9, 2007 2:01 PM | Link to this

Kinderbabe - I used to do Chastain a lot. Unless your tickets say Terrace Table, I am pretty sure there are no small tables. There is plenty of room in front of the seats for a small “TV” tray-sized table, so bring it. Who are you going to see?

By kinderbabe

May 9, 2007 2:01 PM | Link to this

thanks ling

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 2:02 PM | Link to this

Hey Demi!!!:) Glad you made it!

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 9, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this

@ Melon yes 2boys 1 girl 11,6,4

By kinderbabe

May 9, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this

hey demi:)

kimmie you are fabulous! just the info i was looking for. i was thinking that i’d bring one of those wooden folding t.v. tables. i thought that would be the perfect size. i’m going to see brian mcknight/joe. i think it’ll be a great show. i’m very excited!

By Southern Bella

May 9, 2007 2:10 PM | Link to this

A faint hint of great-smelling cologne or aftershave on a man always makes me say “wow”!

A heavy dose of either makes me say “whoa”!

By Linguist

May 9, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

Hey For Real ((winks))

By help me understand

May 9, 2007 2:13 PM | Link to this

To the guys: It seems that on most if not all subject, lessons are handed out to the ladies on keeping legs closed in an effort to enhance, pro-long or seal the deal. But I also hear the contradiction that if no goodies at all involved, men aren’t then interested. I’ve never been one for dishing out the good…rationed only and I mean rationed but what gives? What’s a good mix? Never makes a man leave and too quick too often carries the same effect. Just want someone to seriously clue me in.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 9, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

Hey, LL, LJ, Mo, KB,SJ, WD and anyone i miss enjoy your day—enjoyed the chat now leaving the office.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 9, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

MsU I am glad I posted before LL too! I was trying to be nice but answer Dawn and be truthful at the same time.

Hey Ling!!

Jake I agree with your last post to Dawn. You are telling the truth on that one. Unfortunately he may not be so honest with the next woman he meets. We hope so but…

Island Girl I am with the meet & greet just let Mo know!!

LL In line with your post about dating a person w/kids…I used to say (b4 marriage) that I wouldnt date a man with a child/children period. Now being divorced with a child, I dont want to date anyone that doesnt have at least one. My reason, I dont want to be pressured to have another one b/c he doesnt have any. Selfish-yes but its how I feel. I dont feel like I have much more time on my biological clock so I’m being fair to that potential child, just IMHO.

By melo

May 9, 2007 2:20 PM | Link to this

@MissU,@ Melon yes 2boys 1 girl 11,6,4 you angry? for what? It is what it is,most men like them ladies fresher, with no den of little ones!!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 9, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

Southern Bella I agree 100% about a good smelling man!! You get a man that looks nice (well dressed be it jeans and a shirt or a suit), confident, great personality, lovely smile AND he smells good!!! Mo is steadily fanning herself at the thought..

I’ll be back ya’ll, a girl has got to get herself together!! LMAO!

By melo

May 9, 2007 2:25 PM | Link to this

@help me understand, just let the relationship flow. No time limits here.When u comfortable, thats when u give it up. Its a judgement call and u call the shorts. But as a man, i would not give too much stock to the one giving it up on our very 1st date!

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this

Trust I am not doing every man in ATL and beyond. It just hurts to know when the eggs are put in one basket and I thought I was doing right and it turns out to be a flop it hurts…Please I know most have been where I am at so please don’t judge…That is why I can respect to change my approach for better results…

By Linguist

May 9, 2007 2:31 PM | Link to this

Melo This was a nice, light topic… and so far so good.. until you you had to add: you angry? for what? It is what it is,most men like them ladies fresher, with no den of little ones!!

I know you weren’t responding to me — but - I couldn’t let it go.. What the hayo does “fresher” mean? A woman with kids ain’t fresh?

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 9, 2007 2:34 PM | Link to this

@help me understand It is a case by case basis,with each dude!

You should never feel that you obligated to have sex with a dude to keep him, you should only do the do, when you feel it is right for you!

If he is truly down for you, he will understand and not pressure you! If that dude is pressuring you for the goods, get to steppin!

It boils down to this, most dudes know within the first 30 days, if you are the one or not!

I say put that dude in a situation, after about 3 week’s to test whether he is truly down for you or not.One way to do it is to get one of your attractive girlfriends to be at a place that you have scheduled your dude to be at.

Invite your dude to dinner, but purposely be 30 minutes late and ask your girlfriend to casually be there and pick up on him. Depending on how he responds, you will know.

By Ladylike

May 9, 2007 2:36 PM | Link to this

Okay, I sensing tension here. It’s still a good conversation guys.

By browneyedbeauty

May 9, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

@LongtimeLurker I thought you were against playing games????? I’m disappointed with that piece of advice you gave hmu. shakin my head.

By Island Girl

May 9, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

Mo and SouternBell,

I’m with you ladies on a good smelling man. If he has a neat appearance, good smell, and a confident stride ….that’s a WOW. umh, umh, umh

By melo

May 9, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this

@Linguist,..and so far so good.. until you you had to add** see how she called me Melon I did not start it, she did. And “”fresher”” in this sense means’without kids’. Its my expression, i got to define it.

By The06

May 9, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this

LOL @ LL’s 12:34 post.

I find it sexy (not sure about WOW) when a woman invites me into a situation as an aside. For instance, for her to say, “I’ll be going to Apache to listen to live music Wednesday night, feel free to come thru.”

That’s much better than the I-can’t-find-a-man/dependency approach to asking me out. It takes the pressure off and makes for an “easier” connection/first engagement.

The sexiness in it for me is that the woman apparently has her own plans, and is going to execute them whether I join her or not. So, you know I’m going… :)

By Linguist

May 9, 2007 2:48 PM | Link to this

I’m not trying to change the vibe of the posts.. just wanted clarification.. It’s a little disturbing to think that women (single) that have children are pushed down the wrung of the “single and looking ladder”. I agree that everyone is entitled to their opinion, and that we all have our “preferences”, but I don’t agree that a woman that has children shouldn’t be considered date worthy. What about those women who are divorced with children.. or widowed? I think it’s close to my heart - although I am married, many, many of my friends have children and are single. Great women, good kids, good careers… don’t they deserve a fighting chance as well?

By DuShawn

May 9, 2007 2:48 PM | Link to this

”ask your girlfriend to casually be there and pick up on him. Depending on how he responds, you will know.” LL Bruh!?!! What the hell are you telling these females? Your fatherly advice is wrecking a lot of jitterbugs game plan. You doin too much Dawg. Fall back with game give away. Let them learn on their own.

By Linguist

May 9, 2007 2:53 PM | Link to this

@Melo…. see how she called me Melon I did not start it, she did. And “”fresher”” in this sense means’without kids’. Its my expression, i got to define it.

Thank you, you’ve been taking courses on how to answer Ling I see from Truth!! Thanks for clarifying..

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 2:53 PM | Link to this

Thanks Ling…I am divorced with 1 no matter if it was only a year married together…I was still married and will never drop this last name bc we have a daughter…Thanks Ling!!!

By melo

May 9, 2007 2:56 PM | Link to this

@Linguist, there are men in a similar predicament, with 1,2 or more kids. And they are pushed to the kerb as well by some, not all women.

LL said it best earlier. There is always someone for somebody out there.You just have to be aware as a man or woman, what options or pools you are better off swimmming in. Older men(40+) typically are not as disciminating when it comes to women with kids, as the younger guys are. Same as the women. Just my 2pound sense.

By SlimOne

May 9, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this

Uh-Oh Looks like someone slipped a page out of the MLB into the ladies locker room…lol

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 9, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

Lady J believe it or not I am dropping my married name. My ex-so requested that!! LOL But its okay b/c my son has my maiden name as his middle name. So it wont be a big deal…

By Wise Diva

May 9, 2007 3:01 PM | Link to this

i don’t think it’s about date worthiness, I really think it is about what you think is best for you. IF a guy doesn’t think he would be a good father figure to another man’s child, or prefers not to step into that role, it just means he knows what he wants in terms of potential, I really don’t think having a child or NOT makes one “Better” than another single. It’s about individual preference, as others said.

I have guys that don’t want to date me because I DON’T have kids.

By GA.man

May 9, 2007 3:02 PM | Link to this

Dushawn i have to agree with you on that last post…we catch enough hellllzzz from the women now….LL trust me they dont need any more amonition to shot at us

By Cee

May 9, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this

Hey LadyJ I’m a single parent also and although I’m a single parent I have a preference to date men without children. Infact my second husband didn’t have any children. I don’t know if that makes much sense for a single mom or dad’s preference to date childless people but that’s my preference and each of us are entitled to it. Right now I’m dating a guy who has no children and I’ll sit back and see where it goes.

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this

Mo I feel you and trust if baby girl was not in the picture I will drop it so fast…but anyway not venting or complaining…lolol

By Linguist

May 9, 2007 3:04 PM | Link to this

You are right Melo, men are included in that as well. I didn’t specifically mention men b/c I don’t have single - male w/kids - friends.

You are welcome Lady J..

By For Real

May 9, 2007 3:06 PM | Link to this

LL (Whistle Blowing loudly) Flag tossed:

Referree: We have unsportsman like conduct on LL for his 2:34. MLB Commissioner GA.Man has summoned LL Pac-Man Jones to the commissioner’s office to discuss a pending suspension from the MLB

By DuShawn

May 9, 2007 3:06 PM | Link to this

Melo I agree. The older you get the higher the likelihood that the women you meet will have kids. For me, it was never an issue.

By Linguist

May 9, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this

Mo I know, I know, I’m all over the place.. just trying to get a few points in since I’m about to leave the office in a few minutes.. Here you are keeping your married name, and are divorced.. and I’m married and have kept my maiden name all this time..go figure! lolololol

By Jake

May 9, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this

LMAO@LL

Sir, you have won the “bullshyt post of the day award” with that 2:34. Games are terrible, if its inside of thirty days and they have not had “the talk” you know a dude is gonna accept the flirtation.

By Linguist

May 9, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

WiseDiva.. I wasn’t specifically referencing the type of men you described.. I was talking about the “other” type.. The ones that want (if I can so bluntly say) “fresh meat”.. I do believe that there are men out there that don’t think they make good father figures, but I think there are more - that aren’t that deep - that just don’t want to deal with kids.. period.. know what I mean?

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

My ending point is I am not less of women for what I am going hrough now, being a single mom or a divorcee…It happens, it is life just was a blue day today!!! Thanks for a great blog day everyone!

Peace

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

My ending point is I am not less of woman for what I am going through now, being a single mom or a divorcee…It happens, it is life just was a blue day today!!! Thanks for a great blog day everyone!

Peace

By SlimOne

May 9, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this

For Real Did you ever check out that link at home that your firewall blocked a few days ago?

By Lady J

May 9, 2007 3:15 PM | Link to this

I know my typing is horrible and spelling is KRAZY!!! Take in love…Be blessed…Talk to everyone in the morning!

Great topic Diva!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 9, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

Ling you are all over the place!! I am dropping my married name per ex’s request, its Lady J that kept hers. Like I said, my son’s middle name is my maiden name so I’m straight!! LOL

By For Real

May 9, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

Hey Ling You have got to tell how you are able to draw you conclusion about me from my writing.

By Linguist

May 9, 2007 3:17 PM | Link to this

Hey Slim

By Island Girl

May 9, 2007 3:20 PM | Link to this

LL, I’m taking notes…keep it coming. DuShawn don’t hate. LOL.

On the real, I’m not into setting folks up like that.

Like the old folks would say, “I’ll give you a rope long enough to hang yourself”.

The reality is, a guy with me will eventually meet my girlfriends (who are all very attractive). So brother man has to be able to swim with the sharks and not get bit.

By SlimOne

May 9, 2007 3:25 PM | Link to this

Ling Howdy Doodie You aren’t up in here inciting a riot are you?

By Wise Diva

May 9, 2007 3:25 PM | Link to this

yea, I know what you mean Lady J., and thanks!

I am SHOCKED the fellas are calling LL to the carpet. I am over here trying to figure out who THAT dude is, doesn’t even sound like something he would suggest.

LL, is that really you? LOL

By help me understand

May 9, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this

@LL Thanks for the giveaway! If your advice brought Dushawn out and caused fellow members of the MLB to call foul on you, it must be advice worthy enough to consider. However, I don’t think any situation would deem me playing games..not my style. I tend to be quite intuitive or at least I’ve been told (oh, and by an elite MLB member….a QUE!)which is really all a woman need….pay close attention at all times! As I stated, I have always “rationed” the goodies (only a select elite small bunch can vouch). I just wanted to know what you men were thinking as it’s quite amazing how often, no matter the topic we see “close the legs” quoted. By the way, without reading back up, I believe a member of the MLB mentioned a thirty-day rule….truthfully, no such thing for me, nothing happening in such a small frame of time. I was just curious.

By Linguist

May 9, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this

Oops! Sorry Moeisha… Maybe if I stopped speed reading, I’d have caught that!

For real… ah ha! I was wondering when you were going to ask that question..hahaha.. Hmmm, since we are keeping it “clean” today, and I’m leaving in 5 minutes, you’ll have to wait for my response.. But I’ll add this before I go.. There are many of you on this blog that I swear I know, have seen before.. maybe even “heard”.. It gets a little scary at times! WD knows what I’m talking about. She’s always asking the newbies, how old they are, or other “telling” questions b/c it’s all in the writing style, punctuation, exclamation usage, tone, etc… (SJ and I use many many periods throughout our posts!)

I also have to be careful…’cause I’m such a flirt.. I own up to it - doesn’t mean anything is gonna happen.. just being honest! .. I think DuShawn gets my point.. dont cha.. hahahahaha.. I’m off.. see ya’ll tomorrow.

By For Real

May 9, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

Hey Mo here is your song for today.

Whoa, whoa…ho…

You made me happy This you can bet You split right beside me, yeah And I won’t forget

And I really love you You should know I wanna make sure I’m right, girl Before I let go

Now we’ve had our good time That’s what they say We’ve hurtin’ each other Girl, it’s a shame

I won’t be foolish, no, no I wanna know I wanna make sure I’m right, girl, oh Before I let go, yeah, uh

By Wise Diva

May 9, 2007 3:32 PM | Link to this

“help me understand”, that was a great question you posed, I appreciate how you worded it too. Good job, and come back more!

By Linguist

May 9, 2007 3:32 PM | Link to this

Slim I’m leaving you to carry on in my absence!….hahahaha.. If Truth starts that nonsense of his.. let ‘em have it..

see you later.

By Jake

May 9, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this

Honestly, if you have the CD ladies, listen to the cut that you used to skip from Lyfe Jennings first album, “She got Kids” its a lot of truth in the song.

As i have matured I have backed off my stance against dating women with kids, its just most men want the original experience of Fatherhood, not I met you so I have a 6yr old.

Conversely, I do think the strength of a single mom is admirable, but I have found that it can be difficult to cultivate that friendship/relationship around the childs schedule. One of sexiest things I heard was a few weeks back when a lady told me. ” I date, my child doesn’t”. Her priorities made her sexier!

By QC

May 9, 2007 3:36 PM | Link to this

Hey Demi

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 9, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this

For Real I am over here jamming!! Thanks for the Frankie B and Maze hookup!!

Jake * “I date, my child doesn’t”*..girlfriend spoke for many a single mom when she said that!! My sentiments exactly!!

By SlimOne

May 9, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this

Jake I totally get the wanting of that original experience of having kids together. I’m probably one of the few women that prefer to date a guy without kids.

Ling I will attempt to keep the torch going in your absence.

By For Real

May 9, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this

Slim No I keep forgetting to pull it up at home.

By SeanJohnson

May 9, 2007 3:45 PM | Link to this

As far as dating females with kids…I have Never had a problem as long as it she is a good mother. I have dated females that preferred to date men with out kids and even before i had my son i didnt like women who preferred men with out kids..It was like they deemed you a good catch and have plans for just because u dont have kids..These days..i am a little over 30..one son..I am the same dude i have always been just more responsible..i even have a little more respect for single mothers now than i did before…and a female with one or two kids is cool…wouldnt give it a second thought…you can actually tell how good of a peron a female is….by looking how her kids behave and their appearance.

By For Real

May 9, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

Awwww Ling you need to add tease after flirt. lol.. So you think you may know me huh????

For Real now pulling out old photos…

By SlimOne

May 9, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this

For Real just come swing by and pick me up on your way home. I’ll make sure you get it done. (evil laugh)

By MusingLee

May 9, 2007 3:53 PM | Link to this

Slim did I read you right???? Did you say something about “the Gap”?!?!?

Hmmmmmm, “Gaps” are as valuable as gold…Anything 1 inch or larger is dayum near like finding a 4kt diamond on the ground.

By For Real

May 9, 2007 3:54 PM | Link to this

HMU what type of bunch are you talking about? Bananas????

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 9, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this

@browneyedbeauty Ain’t no games on my last post, just setting up a net that hopefully dude won’t fall in!

I knew I was breakin a ML, but I figured I give the chicks one to go on! I am done fellas, I won’t let no mo secrets out the bag..LOL

By SlimOne

May 9, 2007 4:00 PM | Link to this

Musing I didn’t get too many responses to that so I assumed i must’ve heard it wrong. Yeah I was speaking of “Gap”.

“Ohh dawg, look at the gap on that chick!” (man watching chick walk by holding his kibbles-n-bits)

So is that right, the little space in the crouch area which sometimes is followed by a camel toe?

By For Real

May 9, 2007 4:02 PM | Link to this

For Real looking thru old photos..

Me and Asian chick.. Naw

Me and Gymnast… Naw

Me and Midget… Dayum forgot about that but Naw

By The Truth

May 9, 2007 4:04 PM | Link to this

Ling I’ve just been lurking today. Giving you all a day off. Smooches

LL that was some lame advice you gave man. I’m dissapointed.

By Island Girl

May 9, 2007 4:05 PM | Link to this

What…I’m lost

Slim, is it the gap b/w the two front teeth or the “cowboy stance” kinda gap?

I’ve been told guys like both….

The chick with a smile revealing a gap and the chick with the wicked kinda of walk that makes her look like shes been riding horses all day. ..

By For Real

May 9, 2007 4:08 PM | Link to this

For Real speeding down 85 on his chromed out Huffy with dual breaking system to pick up Slim.

By Awwwwwwww...Dayum

May 9, 2007 4:10 PM | Link to this

Awwwwwwww…Dayum, MLB!!! How you fellas are gonna up and callout our boy LL like that??!!

Mayne y’all cold.

Hey QC

By Island Girl

May 9, 2007 4:11 PM | Link to this

Truth Come with the goodies…since LL’s advice was lame. I have my notebook in hand….. :-)

By SeanJohnson

May 9, 2007 4:11 PM | Link to this

@ Slim…that “gap” thing was hot back in the day/high school…most slims have a gap..its a given..its impressive when a female have a lil thickness with a gap..the gap thing has been replace by the “camel toe”…the actual visual of how phat the cooch is through clothes/panties..

By help me understand

May 9, 2007 4:16 PM | Link to this

Thanks Wise. I mean really, that small tidbit of advice is bound to make it’s way in one of the dudes blogging post…daily
@For Real - bunch? translation: an handful (if that of men). Let’s say we can count on one hand. The last I checked was five fingers….with me now?

By SlimOne

May 9, 2007 4:16 PM | Link to this

Island Girl LOLOLOL! I learn something new everyday. I knew guys liked chicks not having tonsils but i didn’t know they like the no-two-front teeth gap. I was referring to the horse-stance gap but not necessarily bow-legged.

For Real You might want to slow down buddy. It’s hot out and you don’t want to blow a tire. I’m not sure the HERO truck will assist a dude on a huffy. How about I throw on my in-line skates and meet you half-way? I got D’s on ‘em, so hate

By MusingLee

May 9, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

Slim in piggybacking off of SeanJ’s post…The “gap” is wonderful…But the “camel toe” is where it’s at…3+ centimeters is optimal with a hint of phatness to top it off….It should resemble a pair of waxed bubble gum lips stuff into the pants.

By haha

May 9, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

Ok I got one that totally off topic but I was dating this girl who has”friends” that helps her with anything she doesnt want to pay for even though she can afford it for instance painting her bed room etc. She says Im insecure but I say its rare that a man does anything for a woman just becasue there has to be some payment or consequenses..They Call at 9am and she talks and texts them when Im not around is that just a friend or is that more?

By SlimOne

May 9, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

SeanJ well dang! From Gap to Camel Toe….what’s could possibly be next after that? So let me guess, Guys dig chicks with oversized-camel toes?

Slim thinking, I would assume a phat teetee would make the weewee look smaller..Hmmm?

By sandysprings07

May 9, 2007 4:21 PM | Link to this

one of the best compliments i have had when dating is that i am down to earth and unassuming and that i am just myself. now thats cool!

By MusingLee

May 9, 2007 4:21 PM | Link to this

IslandG if you’re from the islands you probably aren’t wanting in any of those departments.

By help me understand

May 9, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this

I posted this/similiar post a few minutes ago but I guess the MLB confiscated.

Thanks Wise..just amazing that we see

A For Real - bunch? translation: a handful of men. Handful being 5 or less (equivalent to the number of fingers on one hand).

By SlimOne

May 9, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this

Musing so when you were single and a chick tried to get your digits, it was only on the basis that they met the regulation camel toe measurements?

Ladies we are too far behind. I guess we shouldn’t give up the digits until we ensure the ‘peter’ fulfills the minimun length and girth.

Yall are nasty.

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 9, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

@haha Can’t make a call on the scenario you presented, because we don’t have enough info. You presented a lot of grey areas dawg!

By MusingLee

May 9, 2007 4:25 PM | Link to this

haha If you’re seriously dating a Woman and she still gets her emotional needs meet by some other dude…Then kick her to the curb, cause she stills has feelings for them..Or she playing them for some cash…Either way, when dude comes to collect you don’t wanna be around.

By SlimOne

May 9, 2007 4:25 PM | Link to this

hahaha I would say go home and measure her camel-toe first. then tomorrow according to her size we’ll be able to further assist you. If she doesn’t meet regulation, then it’s probably just a friend. But wait, does she have tonsils or not?

By The Truth

May 9, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this

Island girl no games, no tricks, no set ups. None of that is necessary when your keeping it real. LL set it straight in a later post. Its all good.

By melo

May 9, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this

@SJ,the actual visual of how phat the cooch is through clothes/panties..”

I need lessons on that one bro. No wonder all my dates suck in bed?!!! I wish GOD had all this stuff on the forehead!!! Life would be eaaaaaaaasy. Just me venting!!

By demi

May 9, 2007 4:27 PM | Link to this

SeanJohnson/Musing fellas stop playing nice!! Ladies with gaps make you think of nothing but, head down tail up and let the screaming began.

For some reason, the “Magic Stick” is playing in my head.

By haha

May 9, 2007 4:28 PM | Link to this

LL what else u need to know?

By MusingLee

May 9, 2007 4:29 PM | Link to this

Slim Within 25 secs of SEEing a Woman we are interested in a dude has already taken mental measurements of ittis, camels, gaps, more gaps, booty, and forehead size…All that’s left is getting to know you.

Musing now being beat down by MLB..

By Wise Diva

May 9, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

lol @ Slimone, I can’t even talk about the fellas, I know good and WELL that I check on a guy’s imprint, I can’t help it! LOL

that’s why I don’t like those blasted baggy jeans all the time, LOL

By SeanJohnson

May 9, 2007 4:34 PM | Link to this

@ Slim…depends on the guy i guess…but i say the same thing..what next….women are so creative these days..all you can do is sit back in enjoy sometimes…literally…as far as the over sized camel toe..this is still ATL..gotta make sure its a female.

By SlimOne

May 9, 2007 4:34 PM | Link to this

Musing I call the full body mental assessment the “Terminator”. We women have something similar. On a good day, you can even read said persons body temperature. lol

Matter of fact Musing i’m sensing that you didn’t change your tighty whities today. Here, take these boxer briefs instead.

By MusingLee

May 9, 2007 4:34 PM | Link to this

Slim When I was out on the scene my powers were always used for good and never evil….Except for that one time I wore my black spidey suit.

Musing not giving a fk

Musing: hmmmmmm, that’s about 5centimeters w/a 2.3sec jiggle time

Musing now using powers for evil, just this one time for the 3rd time

By Island Girl

May 9, 2007 4:35 PM | Link to this

Musing

No, I don’t do cameltoe….yurk!

and

I’ve not measured my “gap” lately…LOLOLOL

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 9, 2007 4:35 PM | Link to this

@haha I guess I am strugglin with the texting part and the mae friends?

How many male friends does she have and how many help out and how often?

Also, has she thrown any 52 fakes on you,in regards to hooking up with her and how often. Based on that,I will give you feedback.

She does sound highly suspect thou, but let me gather the info and go from there..

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 9, 2007 4:35 PM | Link to this

Wow! I see I am missing out on some valuable info being given in here today. Mo now pulls out notepad and pen for note-taking purposes.

Musing you’se a fool for that last post!! Within 25 secs of SEEing a Woman we are interested in a dude has already taken mental measurements of ittis, camels, gaps, more gaps, booty, and forehead size

By Red Khezu

May 9, 2007 4:35 PM | Link to this

How to Wow a man? Easy find the one you like, approach him with a club and say me Jane, you man, your coming with me and clonk him over him head……

No but seriously, I’d be very impressed if lady picked up on me. As far as what to say to a guy, I know for me it would be showing interest in me asking me what I like to do or complementing on something i’m wearing (basicly same stuff guys say to girls) just as long as you get the point accross (some guys are thick headed). I have dated ladies with children before too, nothing wrong with that, as long as they know I want a child too, one that is a part of me. I have always dreamed of having my own child too, so as long as the lady is willing to have another child for me, I’d be happy and all our children would be treated equally and fairly.

Hey WD sorry I was out for weekend, but I’m back on track, so don’t forget about me please :)

By Dr. Jake.. OBgyn

May 9, 2007 4:38 PM | Link to this

Slim I meant to speak on that earlier, but got side tracked.

“The Gap”- Visually stimulating, instantly makes a man think about intercourse, an automatic reaction. The curvature itself leads one to believe that interaction with that particular “puddy” would be extremely satisfying because of the the womb’s natural cup, therefore allowing for deeper penetration. It has not yet been proven that there is an actual benefit to “the Gap”, my research in on-going.

I’m not really a doctor, but I stayed at a Holiday Inn Express last night…LOL

By MusingLee

May 9, 2007 4:39 PM | Link to this

Slim LOLOLOLOL…yeah, that “Terminator” stare….

Chick: WTF are you staring at?

Dude now moving on after failing to find a significant source of camel toe

By SlimOne

May 9, 2007 4:40 PM | Link to this

Wise Gurrll don’t feel bad. I’ve been known to check it out. Sometimes i don’t even know I’m doing it. lol

SeanJ you have a point there. Don’t be surprised but even some of the butchier (made it up) lesbians wear a ‘toy’ on them all day long. Gotta watch out for them too.

Musing You are a mess….Musing now using powers for evil, just this one time for the 3rd time LOLOL

Slim now sneaking out early to go find a black spidey suit

By kinderbabe

May 9, 2007 4:40 PM | Link to this

slim you are hilarious!! you also are going to get poor haha confused w/all the tonsil talk…lmao. he’s probably thinking, wtf??

By Awwwwwwwww...Dayum

May 9, 2007 4:42 PM | Link to this

Awwwwwwwww…Dayum Wise Diva!!! You just miss the 70’s and 80’s by 10 years. Dayum near every dude were wearing huggers of some type…Even our boy Goldie kept “socks” in his pants.

By SlimOne

May 9, 2007 4:46 PM | Link to this

Dr. Jake.. OBgyn LMAO!!! I’m not really a doctor, but I stayed at a Holiday Inn Express last night Let me know when you need more participants for your research. I believe Ling Ling might qualify.

Island Girl I’m sure Dr. Jake would be happy to provide a one time measuring session. lol

Musing Ha ha ha! We have to be careful because that bulge on guys could very well be all ballz. LOL!

By Island Girl

May 9, 2007 4:47 PM | Link to this

Jake,MD and Musing You guys are nuts…

By MusingLee

May 9, 2007 4:48 PM | Link to this

Jake hahahahaha..dang

IslandG You should measure the Gap er’six months..It’s important to have that kind of paperwork handy incase you need to fill out a “Mr Good Bar” application.

By demi

May 9, 2007 4:48 PM | Link to this

Musing can you do a quick skit of you measuring IG camel toe?

By SlimOne

May 9, 2007 4:49 PM | Link to this

Awwwwwwwww…Dayum I’m glad the (n)ut hugger shorts are out of style. I was traumatized once as a child when my dad had some on with no drawlz….Awwwww dayum dad you let the snake slip out!!!!

By The Truth

May 9, 2007 4:49 PM | Link to this

Melo you might want to take a look at yourself my freind. If all the women you sleep with suck remember, you play a big part of it too. Don’t take this to personal but something to think about.

By Wise Diva

May 9, 2007 4:50 PM | Link to this

LOL @ huggers, yea.. I guess I did miss that era, I wasn’t boy crazy until I hit my 20s. LOL

Hey there Red Khezu! NO worries, I gotchu!

By GA.man

May 9, 2007 4:50 PM | Link to this

Musing…you a fooooool

Ok i think all is cool with MLB now……

By SlimOne

May 9, 2007 4:53 PM | Link to this

Truth dang buddy. You just put it to melo didn’t you. Buddy gonna go home and try his best to tear the frame off some unsuspecting chick.

By MusingLee

May 9, 2007 4:55 PM | Link to this

IslandG coming in for toe measurements

Musing: When was the last time you were measured?

IG: A few years ago I guess….Can you help me?

Musing: Sure..Stand up let me see you walk…..Hmmmmmmmm…Hmm yep, just what I thought…..You have a Baby Red Snapper.

IG: What’s that!?!

Musing: That means if a dude saw your gap…he’d throw it back..Don’t worry, with treatment you’ll be full size in no time.

By demi

May 9, 2007 4:55 PM | Link to this

Melo I agree with Truth, it has to be you bruh…How old are you anyway?

By GA.man

May 9, 2007 4:56 PM | Link to this

Jake you the man….lolololol

By Island Girl

May 9, 2007 4:57 PM | Link to this

Slim I’m sure I can’t afford Dr. Jake’s service. My insurance deductable is already is too high…LOLOLOLOL

By Island Girl

May 9, 2007 4:59 PM | Link to this

Ok, Truth is back

Man, go easy on Melo….LOLOLO

By demi

May 9, 2007 4:59 PM | Link to this

Slim LOL, Night All!!

By Wise Diva

May 9, 2007 5:00 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Slimone, you are cracking me up today, as usual.

Good job on keeping it light and easy, I KNEW you could do it!!

Have a great evening everyone

By Southern Bella

May 9, 2007 5:04 PM | Link to this

Slim, it’s c-r-o-t-c-h, not “crouch”!

Waving ruler…