By kinderbabe

May 10, 2007 8:15 AM | Link to this

good morning all! wow, this is going to be a racey one today..lol. i will follow my grandma’s advice and keep my mouth shut.:) whatever happened in my past can not be found in any adult film store or adult magazine on the planet. in other words, i didn’t make whatever happened public information…lol. you never tell everything. a woman has to have some secrets.

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 8:17 AM | Link to this

Good Morning. Thank Goodness it’s almost Friday. Get my citation ready

I think guys want to know but don’t want to know all at the same time, especially if you’re the good girl in their eyes. Not too long ago ex-SO violated my privacy and checked out my email. He saw old correspondance between an old friend of mine. He told me he’ll never look at me the same and any thoughts about us ever getting back together were done in his mind.

A guy friend told me this: “to be honest guys dont like other dudes touching what we think is ours.As men we think that women should be honored and pleased to have just us. We think that we satisfy and complete women and to find out someone else has taking our place just for one moment is devastating. And to be honest we act like that to cover up our wrong doings.”

By Biff

May 10, 2007 8:18 AM | Link to this

These types are low grade trash. I know a dude who actually married a stripper and its been nothing but trouble, her wires are messed up and the dude pays for it every day.

Stay away.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 10, 2007 8:22 AM | Link to this

Good Morninig Everybody!! Another great topic WD.. I know a lot of guys that is dating or have dated a female stripper— I have a guy friend who met this girl whom i happen to know also— they fell in love, she stop dancing and he propose to her— so we just never know In reference to the skeleton in the closet- we all have something in our past that we did that we regret— i try to not dwell on the past because it just that “the past”— it would be like trying to drive a car while you looking out the rearview mirror.

@ Melo my bag didn’t mean to add the “n” to your name it was a typo OK!

By kinderbabe

May 10, 2007 8:22 AM | Link to this

hey slimone

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 8:24 AM | Link to this

Morning all!!! It is about to be on and popping today crew…Well as all know I cheated a year before the marriage and apologized and we thought we would get through the difficult time…Okay this person pretend to forgive me and went on to propose to me…We married then he comes back with I thought I forgave you but I didn’t and I feel out of love with you six months after the I do and our 1 month of prenancy…Okay I am like why are you trying to use what I did to justify your cheating currently bc of course he was cheating with an co-worker with a similar story…He went on and on on I am trying to forgive you but can’t…My mom said what do you want her to do wear the “A” on her shirt meaning me…Mind you this was before we said I do but he comes back with that bs bc he is doing the same thing I did….Cheating is cheating…MAn or women…It happens…I am not saying stay with a chronic cheater but things do occur…Looking back as I said on this blog before I did realize our seasoned ended a while back and I was too scared to let lo and through that I cheated bc at the end of the day he was not the one for me…But the thing is when women cheat we are looked at as scum, the h-worrd and beyond…It’s not right…men cheat all the time and women deal and tolerrate and move on…We all have skeletons and should not be judge by it…They are learning experiences that make us better people if we truly learn and not become chronic out of control bad decision makers…So that is my tid bit for now…

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 8:25 AM | Link to this

Hey Kinder,Gaman,Demi,Musing,For Real,Ling,Mo,NC,SeanJ,Jake,Island Girl,Dr Kym…everyone

By Big Fan

May 10, 2007 8:26 AM | Link to this

It has been scientifically proven that strippers and those in the porn industry are mentally ill, drug addicts or otherwise mentally defective.

One should eject themselves from such a relationship….or deal with having tires slashed or your pet bunny ending up in a pot of boiling water.

OK, now I am gonna get my coffee on.

Peace Y’all….

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 8:30 AM | Link to this

Ok this should wind up going crrazyyy for the day….i dont know about that though Wise hhhhmmmm i know we all make mistakes..but dang a pornstar….i really got to think on this one

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 8:30 AM | Link to this

Lady J you’re right, when or if a women cheats it’s as if she killed the guy’s mom or something. I couldn’t believe how my ex-SO acted in regards to what he saw in my email after all the crap he had done through the years. I understand his hurt and/or disappointment but it was 2 years ago and we were off and on anyway. I told him Now you really have a first hand view of how the things you did all that time hurt me. But i forgave and moved on….forgave but didn’t forget.

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 8:32 AM | Link to this

Oh BTW…I watched Something New last night which really helped me understand some new approaches with dating and going through this current thing I am dealing with…IT is a great movie!!! Sanna did her thing!!!

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 8:42 AM | Link to this

Hey SlimOne and thanks for seeing my point…Girl you would have thought I murder him and I cheating is wrong and it hurts and I have learned not to hurt a SO like that ever again bc KARMA is a b***!!!! Trust I learned I touched the stove and it burned but this negro tried to play me…Now if he had cheated firt I would have tried to ride it out bc I saw my mom do it and I would have done the woman thing to try to save my marriage…It would not hjave been easy but I would not have pulled that dump s**…I am too direct with my stuff…Note I also stated why I cheated…It had nothing to do with him…It was my insecurites that caused this bs and I payed for it and still paying…So lesson learned..Thanks SlimOne!!!

By kinderbabe

May 10, 2007 8:43 AM | Link to this

hey ladyj:) how’s it going?

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 8:47 AM | Link to this

Hey Kinderbabe…It is much better today…Thanks…Some me time really did the trick last night!!! I was so glad to be home alone!!! It really is not that bad and trust I will do more often!!! Thanks for being there for me!!!

By Wise Diva

May 10, 2007 8:48 AM | Link to this

Hey guys! Big thanks to Red Khezu for helping me with my first ever She Said/He Said entry.

IF any of the fellas are interested in doing this with me, PLEASE let me know, email me: wise.diva@gmail.com. I don’t care if you are single, married, divorced, or whatever. As long as you are a man, :).. I won’t ask for proof though, LOL

By Big Fan

May 10, 2007 8:50 AM | Link to this

Lady J, it sounds like we have had the same experiences…Girl, it ain’t all wine and roses out there!! LOL!!

I finally got my coffee on and I am feelin’ fine!

Y’all have a good Thursday, I have to go to the clinic and get my test results, cross y’alls fingers for me. If they are negative, I will be hittin’ the clubs again this weekend….latah.

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 8:58 AM | Link to this

Lord have Mercy Diva…I did not realize it was more to this…Okay I must re-read this topic and then weigh in!!! Great way of switching things up Diva!!!

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 8:59 AM | Link to this

@Big Fan I told my mom yesterday..”You did not tell me life was this tough and she laughed” It is hard out there for a pimp!!! lolol Not a pimp though…LOLOL

By C tha 1

May 10, 2007 9:04 AM | Link to this

Good topic WD, my kinda stuff.lol But in dealing with a woman with a past it really depends on how deep the rabbit hole goes. I’ll try to be brief, but here it goes.

What happens when you have more skeletons than a cemetery in there?!

All things being equal everyone has a past, so you have to be careful with broad sweeping judgements. Still in the STD age you just got to be careful.

My best friend works at Starship in ATL, and has been killin’ me with the stories from that store. Basically, Starship serves EVERYBODY so never judge a book by its cover. Plus, you just don’t know what really gets a person off … it will surprise you.

I’ve dated strippers in the past, I’ve had some good experiences and some not so good experiences. Dating strippers envolves more variables,more issues, and generally more grey areas in dealing with each. First of all, a stripper’s hours are simply too jacked up. Its the same as anyone who has worked a graveyard shift. Furthermore, I need to know at what point is a girl at in her strippin’ career (do actually plan on making this a career?) What are your plans? Are you actively persuing them? Are you on dope? What kind?

More importantly, has ol’ girl been turned out? This is very important because it can really impact her emotional state as she may or may not be entirely comfortable with who she is as a person. At the end of the day, if its something a dude wants to tackle, he has to remember to use proper tackling technique: Always keep your head up, lead w/ your shoulder, and drive, drive, drive. If you tackle a stripper’s issues in another way you may just hurt yourself.

By abc

May 10, 2007 9:08 AM | Link to this

Actions which are indicative of low morals and low self-image such as being a stripper, hooker, etc. are character issues which aren’t likely to go away. Automatic disqualification. If kept secret, extra yards on the penalty, no excuse for that.

Regarding ‘Too Many Partners’, how many is that, is there a timeframe within which that arbitrary number must fall? It’s more difficult to call. Once up into triple digits I suppose it would be difficult to ignore.

By Atl Lady

May 10, 2007 9:09 AM | Link to this

Good morning I agree with Slim One. Guys really don’t want to know. Like the songs says, If loving you is wrong I don’t wanna be right. It touches on a lot of what we are going to be discussing today. In the end, he is thinking about how his loved ones and peers would view not only his woman, but him as a person for being in a relationship with her. It’s a catch 22 because everyone is not squeaky clean. Even if the person was in jail or something, they deserve an opportunity to prove that was the old me and now I’m someone else.

By Wise Diva

May 10, 2007 9:11 AM | Link to this

is it just me, or are all the comments showing up in italic print?

C tha 1, thanks for sharing your experience. That sounds like good advice, too. So, I take it if she was no longer in the industry, you wouldn’t have a problem dating her either?

By NoNonsense

May 10, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this

I think those past secrets will only affect your potential mate depending on what he/she cares about. My hub always knew he would one day get married and have a team of kids and that’s what he set out to do. When we became friends I told him about different guys that I dated and whatnot and he never had issue with any of it. When we started trying to have kids it was only after my third failed pregnancy that I told him about the abortion that I had when I was in college. That caused a rift in our relationship and to me that seemed pretty hypocritical when he had already said he would never judge me for my past. We did get over that hurdle but he said that he would have like to have known that before we were married. I asked him would he not have married me had he known and he said that he did not say that but he just would like to have known. That was eights years and four babies ago and I am glad I did not tell him before getting married.

By T-Mango

May 10, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

Good morning all.

Ouch… This is a hot topic.

Everyone has a past. Some folks subscribe very strongly to ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ as a personal policy. To me…all this means is “I have a secret”. I wouldn’t want anyone telling me negative things about my SO’s past when I visit his hometown or interact in different social circles. If he’s got a secret, then he should tell me if I’m his SO and we’re very serious. 1.) If I find out from another source (especially another woman) 2.) Depending on what it is…it could be a dealbreaker for he & I.

I’m in Lurksville, GA…

By Cee

May 10, 2007 9:20 AM | Link to this

Good Thursday morning I dated a guy who was a stripper/dancer. He told me he did it when he was younger-in his early 20’s when he was going thru some hard times. I was shocked since I know there are male strippers for females and male strippers for men. to my relief it was females he danced for but it didn’t change the fact that I just couldn’t look at him the same. I couldn’t see past him being an erotic dancer undressing infront of a room full of women. He said he made a lot of money since males strippers was a big demand.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 10, 2007 9:20 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

I think that should be a she/he has a past. There are some men with past too. While it maybe acceptable in society for a man to have dated and had sex with the entire population of Tonga. It is still a health concern..well for me anyway.

But since we are talking about your friend Wisey…here is my say…

Dr Kym Says: If that person is comfortable enough with their past life..meaning…they can take personal responsiblity for the choices they made and are willing to live with them and they are no longer practicing that lifestyle..then why shouldnt they be afforded a opportunity to find Mr. Right?

Now, on the other hand if they are currently in that lifestyle (stripper, porn star) and they are comfortable with their career choice…then the problem is not really with them…the problem lies in the lap of the person they are dating. That person has to say yes…I accept your life choice or nawwwwwwwwwwwww I can’t deal with this.

By Cassie

May 10, 2007 9:21 AM | Link to this

Of course I have to add to this one.

The numbers game, eh? Some men seem to think that high numbers are a cool thing and a symbol of their studliness.

However, if they meet a guy with high numbers they are repulsed. Why?

I mean, if I’m in the hay with someone I don’t stop and start to get all paranoid wondering whom they learned that particular trick from. Heck no! I’m merely glad that they learned!!

Anyway, I’ve slept with both genders and I DO NOT TELL people unless I am especially close to them. Some men find the bi thing to be completely fascinating, and spend lots o time trying to hook you up with all their female friends.

Yes, I will freely admit that I’ve slept with lots of people - more women than men. And most of my men were one time things (as in, not ever invited back for a repeat performance - I lost my virginity at seventeen and that was so bad and painful I didn’t do “it” again for a year!) So somehow I don’t ever buy the argument that my high people low occurence count is nearly as bad as your high people high occurrence.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 10, 2007 9:33 AM | Link to this

Morning ALL!! Hey Kinderbabe, Lady J, SlimOne, SJ, Jake, abc, QC, GAMan and the rest of the crew.

Lady J I feel your pain. You and I have a lot in common. I often ask people “why didnt ya’ll tell me this about marriage?” And I tell my mom on a regular that being a grown up sucks sometimes!! LOL I notice than when you get engaged most people give you the “happy” advice (communicate, be best friends, dont go to be angry, etc). Nobody tells you what to do when you are ready to throw someone under a bus!! LOL In other words its like most people provide the fairy tale but no real life (at least for me). I felt completely blindsided by a lot of things, but you live and learn. The next go round will be much better..

On topic…everybody has a past, its just whether you can deal with knowing or not. We all have to remember that everyone has their “dealbreakers”. You are not wrong for admitting that some things you cant deal with.

By C tha 1

May 10, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this

WD don’t get me wrong, I’ll date a stripper now, I don’t discriminate. But dating a stripper is a little different than dating a woman who doesn’t strip for apparent reasons. At the same time, I’ve dated women who were off the chain, and looked down on strippers (I didn’t get thier logic, but oh well).

By SeanJohnson

May 10, 2007 9:47 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog..regarding the topic…EVERYBODY has skeletons..not just adult enterainers….with todays technology …camera video phones..camcorders.web cams…some of us may be adult entertainers and NOT even know it…its best to go into a friendship being non judgemental of someones sxual past. Like C1.. i dealt with a few strippers..wouldnt call it dating..what i learned is..they are going/been through the same trials and tribulations as any other female its just the profession they chose may be linked to how they deal with the situation. its always best to be straight up and honest and give someone the option to choose whether they wanna stay in your life..A LOT of men like to put their main lady on a pedestal and think she shouldnt do certain acts yet he will do/have a side piece those things…I agree with women ..some men cant always handle some females real desires so females keep them as skeletons..so its best to find the person u are most compatible with…u have to communicate..

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this

ATL Lady I think an even better song would be Mario Winan’s I Don’t Wanna Know

I don’t wanna know

If your playin me, keep it on the low

Cause my heart can’t take it anymore

And if your creepin, please don’t let it show

Oh baby, I don’t wanna know

By For Real

May 10, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!!!

This ITALIC ish is giving me a headache..

On Topic: I have a confession to make. I made a mistake in my 20’s. I slipped up and made 3,802 adult movies.

Wise I would like to volunteer next time and I don’t mind if you varify that I am a man so long as I get to verify my sources about you.

Big Fan Ummm never, ever, ever mention clinic, test, and positive or negative in the same sentence. You gonna have the MLB running for cover…

Oh and BTW, STRIPPER ARE CRAZY!!!!!

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

@C tha 1…That is the thing, I don’t look down on a stripper…I don’t judge them…They are working…I just chose to do another profession…Am I better than her bc I teach and she strip…No, not at all…But when choices are made beyond stripping that is where it is complicated especially the experimenting thing…Men want the cake and to eat it to…They want the good girl and the bad one behind close doors…Women are just looked at differently when they attempt to play the man’s game and do what they do…It’s life and I sure can’t change it…My thoughts…

By Island Girl

May 10, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this

Morning Errrrybordy

This topic will definitely bring out the flames today.

A scene from the movie “Titanic” comes to my mind….when the old lady throws the diamond necklace overboard into the sea and lets out a faint gasp…like “oh well”- and says “woman’s heart /past can be as deep as the ocean”(at least it with something like that).

I think out of love and respect for you’re SO there are certain things you should share especially if your past will have adverse affects on your present relationship. Things like a past occupation (ie drug dealer, prostitute), traumatic experiences (ie been assaulted or abused) should be discussed.

You have to decide if sharing some of your experiences with your SO is the right thing to do. Personally I don’t think I need to write a resume of my past experiences and hand that over to my SO, but there are certain things in my past he must know in order to really understand me as the person I am today.

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this

@SeanJohnson…So true!!! Great Post!!!

By The Truth

May 10, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this

Good morning bloggers. This one is going to be fun.

First, I’ve dated women that stripped (the typical I stripped in college thing) and it was cool, but I also knew it wasn’t going anywhere. I just wouldn’t make long term plans with someone like that. Past performance is a great indicator of future potential. Ladies, how would you feel if your man said he had slept with a guy in the past, but only once. You’d know that was a part of his makeup. Its just not something that I want in my life.

On the multiple partners tip, once again a major flaw. She may say its in the past but when she’s married up and times get rough, and they will, she’s going right back to what she knows. 100% Now if your comfortable with your girl boning other fellas then she’s a keeper. I personally like a woman that has at least tried to preserve themselves. Not virginlike but not a seasoned veteran of the sex wars either.

Biff summed it up well in that you’re gonna pay for it everyday. Can you imagine the emotional rollercoaster a chick would be on after a few years of being passed around and then trying to settle into life a Mr/Mrs? I’m not a therapist.

By melo

May 10, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

Pasts are deal breakers for the most part.Both men and women must be able to ‘hide’ their past or at least ensure that we do not hear about it. That means vene those people who knew you from long ago, your family and friends must honor the silent code of conduct.

As for me, I am too sensitive to hear about your erotic past that if I were to get wind of it, its done!!Same to my skeletons…they have been buried in some deep 6ft ravines and nobody in my family dares bring that shyt up at ALL!!

By MusingLee

May 10, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

Wise We all have a past…But if you have a fk up past…I really need to know…I don’t want you hanging out with me a I get blindsided.

Musing out with friends

Musing: Hey all this is Ebony.

Gang: Hey Ebony what’s up.

Dude that always watching porn: Ahhhhhhhh, Dayummmm Musing you neva told me you were dating “Chocolate Diva”!!!

Musing: WTF

Dude: Yeah she won the “Movie Freak Award” in 2006…I beat my ishh all the time to that broad!!!

Musing: WTFFFFFF

Musing now passing the fk out

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this

You men are a trip…You can bone all day but when she tells you she is a boner you don’t want her…What gives…It takes two to act..How are men the judgement call decision makers…Wow! I know I need 4 blog vest but anyway…YALL AIGN”T RIGHT!!!

By Cassie

May 10, 2007 10:06 AM | Link to this

The italics are doing my head in.

By For Real

May 10, 2007 10:06 AM | Link to this

Look if I am serious with a lady I want to know. It is my decision just like it is your decision to choose to whom you will be with. No-nonsense I would have been mad at you as well. As GA.Man has said a 1,000 times don’t lie own up to past. Tell the truth and stop being so selfish.

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

SeanJ Your post was on point. I personally don’t see why a dude wouldn’t want to be able to explore his fantasies with his main SO as apposed to the side piece. I think that’s where some folks begin to have problems. If you can get down like that with each other, there shouldn’t be any reason to go elsewhere. And I learned a long time ago not to put my SO on a pedestal because it’s a long way down. I want to be totally comfortable telling my SO that i like my ankles licked, batman turns me on, or whatever the case maybe.

disclaimer: the above turn-ons aren’t necessarily the turn-ons of SlimOne.

By Cassie

May 10, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

I think my final comment for today might be (since a girl’s gotta work)….

If you cheated in the past (and I don’t mean once but repeatedly), I’m not sure I want to know. Honestly? I’d never, ever trust you and each time I called and you didn’t answer the phone….I’d be wondering whose vagina you’d fallen into (thanks to Q100 this am)! And that’s a horrid feeling.

By C tha 1

May 10, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

As I mentioned earlier, my best friend works at Starship, and what I’ve come to find out is that the store unintentionally serves as a gateway to the porn industry, and that alot of porn movies are shot in the A. I guess that shouldn’t be a surprise, but the funny thing that happens is the double life some people live.

Nowadays you have to be concerned about if your SO’s past resurfaces on the internet through a Myspace pic or something like that. That leads to my question for the blog: What would you do if a past compromising pic of your SO(that you didn’t know existed) surfaced on the internet? Pending on the severity, could you stomach it?

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 10, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this

Based on today’s topic I couldnt resist posting this….

Oral Sex linked to throat cancer.

A virus contracted through oral sex is the cause of some throat cancers, say US scientists. HPV infection was found to be a much stronger risk factor than tobacco or alcohol use, the Johns Hopkins University study of 300 people found.

The New England Journal of Medicine study said the risk was almost nine times higher for people who reported oral sex with more than six partners.

The John Hopkins study took blood and saliva from 100 men and women newly diagnosed with oropharyngeal cancer which affects the throat, tonsils and back of the tongue. They also asked questions about sex practices and other risk factors for the disease, such as family history. Those who had evidence of prior oral HPV infection had a 32-fold increased risk of throat cancer.

HPV infection is the cause of the majority of cervical cancers, and 80% of sexually active women can expect to have an HPV infection at some point in their lives.

Most HPV infections clear with little or no symptoms but a small percentage of people who acquired high-risk strains may develop a cancer, the researchers added.

By Wise Diva

May 10, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this

I am checking on the italic invasion with the blog master. Bear with us, THANKS!

By abc

May 10, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this

You can bone all day but when she tells you she is a boner you don’t want her and you think that’s ‘not right’? How about promisucity being wrong no matter who’s involved? This from the chick who thinks there’s nothing wrong with being a stripper. Go figure.

By For Real

May 10, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this

Ebony: Musing you ok… here let me help you up.. baby he lying that wasn’t me that was R. Kelley

Musing: WTF, passes out again……

By BlatinoBrutha -

May 10, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this

Sup, BlogFam!! What’s with all the italics???

I’m diving in head first on this one. As the resident Captain Save-a-h** of this Blog, I gotta just be honest n say it really depends on how and when you find out. I have been and am currently involved with a girl with a past, but I knew it going in, and I’m ok with it. We as men just have to be honest and admit that if we find ourselves lady/freak combo, chances are she was a freak before we met. And I know a lot of men like the concept of having a good girl and wouldn’t want to think of their woman as a past freak, but I look at it like this: Which takes a bigger man, making a good girl fall in love, or taming the wild beast, and because you’re that much better than all the rest, making her say she wants to stick with you????

By Cassie

May 10, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this

Dr Kym I wonder if Gardasil protects against throat cancer too?

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this

@abc…What is the point you are making again?

By For Real

May 10, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this

Lady J Heyyyy. Now, it’s a matter of choice. It’s not about judging. The question is, Is it right or wrong for a person to have multiple sex partners?

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this

My pooint it it is a double standard (meaning women sleeping aroound) abc and whoever else…It is not right and what is wrong with stripping? It has been around before I even entered this world and not going anywhere…so again what are you saying?

By For Real

May 10, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

Slim In your disclaimer you said “aren’t necessarily” that mean one of those turn-ons are real. I hope its Batman please, please, please….

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 10, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this

People can change— i’m sure all of us have done something in our past whether once or a mulitple time but wouldn’t dare do it now. I agree certain thing should be reval about your past only if they will have an outlook on your future with potential SO but something are best left alone because some people can’t see pass somethings.it’s almost like “what i don’t know can’t hurt me”

@ Sean Johnson great post!!- not sure of your age but your are very mentally mature— i like that!!

By SeanJohnson

May 10, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this

@ Slim..females are guilty of that also…trust me… as a man..females are WAAAAAAAY more sxually adventurous and experimental than men…but u would be surprised of how their men dont know or have brought it out. A lot of women are afraid of how their man would view them if they just be themselves sxually…even on the blog..a lot of the women will say something that some may deem as risque but will do it under a different name….

By The Truth

May 10, 2007 10:27 AM | Link to this

Lady J relax babe, the rules aren’t fair. What we know, and man has know from the dawn of time, is that a woman who will give herself away to every dude out there is just that, a woman that will give herself to every dude out there. Don’t despair, there are guys out there that will allow you to bone other guys, some even while your married, they too have low self esteem. Its all about what you want in life. Check ot this scenario: Your wife comes home and tells you she’s pregnant. This should be a happy moment but in the back of your head your thinking because of her past I’m going to need to test and make sure its mine. Thats screwed up but we are our past.

Slim1 I have Batman Begins on DVD. Just throwing that out there. LOL Also, if your girl has already done everything there’s nothing left to try together, except being apart.

Melo did you catch the end of yesterdays topic? Spend a moment and read through that please. Demi that was my very next question. How old are you?

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 10:27 AM | Link to this

BlatinoBrutha Which takes a bigger man, making a good girl fall in love, or taming the wild beast, and because you’re that much better than all the rest, making her say she wants to stick with you??? Didn’t you just say something yesterday that gave the impression you might not be able to tame a beast in bed saying all of your past conquests sucked in bed or was that someone else?

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

I know For Real it is a choice but you can’t ignore that women are judge by these actions when they step out the box…We can’t pretend that does not occur and again it is not right!!!! That is my point!

By For Real

May 10, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this

MsU but something are best left alone because some people can’t see pass somethings. That’s the point. You made a choice to do the things in your past. Now let the person make the choice if he wants to be with you like that or not. No took your choice away when you made your decision in the past. So don’t take away your SO’s choice now.

By abc

May 10, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

I’d think my points are rather plain, but just the same, I’ll spell it out.

By Atl Lady

May 10, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

Slim One I agree, but he was still in denial. He knows what he’s dealing, don’t like it, and don’t want to let go either. Blatino So glad you took up the save-a-** cause. lol lol. Where’s your partner in crime Jake?

By Island Girl

May 10, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

Cassie

You should “want to know if your SO is a cheater”. Cheaters are the most manipulative people out there…and they lie about everything…not just the relationship.

I dated a cheater and it was terrible. He slept with a colleague of a close friend of mine. My friend came back and told me what was going on and I confronted him about it. I dropped him like a bad habit.

The worst part of the situation is…although the chick he cheated with was not my friend, but she was not a complete stranger to me. We were often in the same circle, meaning we hung out together…that is just nasty and disrespectful to me.

By QueDogTeaching

May 10, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

Said while getting up off of the floor after reading Musing’s post.

I agree that everyone has a past, but I also agree that you should be able to talk about your past. Not just for the sake of someone being in your business, but it should let the other person know that you have grown the h3ll up. Should any of us really still be doing the exact same things that we did in our late teens – early twenty’s? (Heck no) So there has to be some form of parity in every relationship.

I do agree that you should not have to write a book about your life, but I do feel that if you are on a topic and that topic relates directly to you then you should speak up. For me its not what I find out, it’s when I find out (Ex. Musing’s post) . A lot of times women, if you and your mate are having a conversation if you just say yes that has happened to me, and get it off your chest then things would go easier.

@ Dr. Kym God bless chemo.

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

Okay Truth, thanks I will but hey it’s not right but anyway…Will go back to writing my IEPs…LOL

By For Real

May 10, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this

LadyJ I don’t believe it is judging. Everyone has the right to decide what will or will not accept. Like you said you don’t judge stripper but it’s not something you would do.

It’s like women who don’t date short men. Are women judging Demi or are they trying to figure out how in the hell am I going to be able to get into the passenger side of a civic sitting on 26’s?

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this

@abc, It is not a problem but an opinion and I respect yours…My point is to each their own whatever they chose to do in life…Everything you sated is your opinion not facts…So again I respect that! End of conversation!

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 10:43 AM | Link to this

You know it all boils down to what you want and can put up with…..ladies there are men her in the A who would love you to death…and some who would love you to death(SEE OJ) no matter what you have done….

it might hit them as a surprise to hear some of the things you have done…but would you rather them hear it from you or get caught off guard

EBONY: MUsing….wake up…Musing

Musing wakes up hearing R Kelly’s (Trapped in the closet song)

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 10, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

For Real I agree with you, we all have a right to decide what we will or wont accept. We would be lying to ourselves if we didnt, thus causing unecessary drama later on in a relationship.

QDT I am co-signing your post with my gold feather tipped pen!! You said exactly what I was thinking….but it should let the other person know that you have grown the h3ll up…

By The Truth

May 10, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

Slim1 that was Melo that said that.

Blat aka Capt save a ho your not going to save a ho, we’re gonna lose a good bruh. I don’t know how deep that thing is but I wish you luck with it, your gonna need it.

By kinderbabe

May 10, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this

nice post sj.:)

as far as the high horse that some are choosing to ride (no names mentioned), people who are/were prostitutes or adult entertainers, true enough, may have had difficulty w/moral compass and self-esteem. however, it should be considered that there are many scenarios that lead to people making those types of choices in their life. every woman in the adult entertainment industry is not a money hungry b*tch. there are many who have had experiences which skewed their perception on where their worth lies. anyone who can get over that hump and move on to a more fulfilling life deserves a second chance and respect. i have worked with women (through volunteering) who are former prostitutes. they’ve been through a lot! judgment and name calling is the last thing they need. i know that it’s all about preference…i’m not advocating everyone put themselves in a situation w/a woman who has that kind of past..i’m just saying that we need to be more understanding of people and their circumstances. even jesus didn’t go around calling folks out of their name. he met people where they were and encouraged them to live from the highest part of themselves. have a heart.:)

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

SeanJ Some women very well maybe be a little more risque than the guy. Women aren’t always forthcoming with things they’ve done for fear of the Scarlett letter brand or being outcast into exile. I don’t think a person should be characterized as a ho or freak just because she’s sexually open-minded…UNLESS She’s into beastiality or something gross like that.

Question How do men prefer a women suggest or bring up something new to try in the bedroom without the man getting all paranoid about her being a ‘freak’ or wondering who all she did that with before? Men I really can’t wait to see the response on that

For Real I only have 2 questions. 1. Do you own a batman suit?

If so,

The Truth um…just having the dvd ain’t enough dawg. lol

QUE I agree that you can’t make a total character assessment just going on all the things you’ve done in the past. Growing up entails experimenting, messing up, making dumb decisions, letting 68 dudes run a train on you (only kidding!!!) but hey, you were young and dumb….you went through it and hopefully matured since then. Now if you’re STILL acting like you’re 16 then that definitely is a problem i wouldn’t want to deal with.

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

Musing jumps off the ground and runs toward his Super Honda Civic crying all the way….”I knew she was tooooo good to be true” (now he is beating the sterring wheel) and turns the radio on and hears Chris Brown

Never a right time to say goodbye… But we know we gotta go our separate wayyyyyss..it it’s and it’s killing never a right time a right time to say goooooddbbyyyyeee but i gotta make the first move cause if i dont you gonna start hating…..

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

Truth oops my bad. Sorry Blatino disregard.

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this

Great Post Kinderbabe!

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 10:59 AM | Link to this

Slim she should tell dude like ol girl did Martin in **Thin line between love and hate

Crazy a** ladyy:While climbing on top of dude

Dude: Baby you said you wanted to talk

CAL: shhh..wait a minute aaahhh now what i was going to say was that i am a stripper and i love doing it

Dude:(Eyes rolled to back of his head)Ok

CAL:You ok with this then

Dude: Yes !!!! yES!!!!!

By For Real

May 10, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

Slim Why yes I do and I look like a SUPERHERO.

How do men prefer a women suggest or bring up something new to try in the bedroom without the man getting all paranoid about her being a ‘freak’ or wondering who all she did that with before?

Well if you have been conservative in the bedroom throughout the duration of your relationship, I wouldn’t suggest you all of sudden breakout your Catwoman suit (including the mask and whip) without warning him first. That’s assuming you have a Catwoman suit with the mask and whip. You do have a Catwomen suit with the mask and whip don’t you? don’t you???

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

GA.man So basically you’re saying to go ahead and bring it up as you’re doing it?

CAL: ooohh baby, you’re gonna love me today.

Dude: yes! i’m lovin you already.Mmmm

CAL: no babe, i have a treat for you.You ain’t felt nothing yet. I got this idea from Sue Johansen on Oxygen Channel.

Dude: (feels a cool liquid run down his back to the crack of his azz) WTF are you doing?

CAL: baby just relax. You won’t be disappointed.

Dude: (now hears loud buzzing) You done lost your dayum mind!

(dude hops up and runs towards front door but liqiud causes his to slip and falls on hardwood floor knocking himself unconcious. He wakes up feeling highly relaxed but can’tunderstand why his azz is sore. He looks up at CAL and she’s smiling ear-to-ear)

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

For Real You have me cracking up over here. Well I started looking for one around last Halloween but i couldnt find one small enought to fit my frame but that had extra room for my camel toe. LOLOLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So unfortunately all i have is the mask, whip and stilettos. lol

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

LOLOLOL you a fool slim

By kinderbabe

May 10, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

blatino just read your 10:17 post…good points.:)

By Raqi

May 10, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

SlimOne if you have something you are desiring to do with your guy or maybe just to see what he is into, the next time you are with him make a joke about what it is you want to do. You’ll know from his reaction whether or not it’s safe to move forward.

(Now you know I have an example, but I won’t go there.)

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

Dude now singing that song from UNCLE SAM: i dont ever wanna see you again…….

By For Real

May 10, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

Slim For the record… I AM EXIT ONLY

For Real now looking for his Bat Boots with the Super Grip…

By DuShawn

May 10, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

slim “How do men prefer a women suggest or bring up something new to try in the bedroom”. Just say it!! As long as it does not involve my azz hole, I’m with it. On topic I never cared much about a females past. If she has not been with any of my friends, she has a clean slate with me. Personally, I prefer females with a little hood in them. The green, goodie two shoes types bore the hell out of me. I have been close friends with several strippers. I used to take them to work, watch them move work, take them to the crib and split the proceeds. But that’s part of my own sordid past.

By Cassie

May 10, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

Island Girl

Sometimes though it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. If you expect someone to cheat and are constantly monitoring them so you can “catch” them - you end up driving them away.

Now that I’m older, I’d rather know than not….unfortunately at this point in my life I’ve developed great instincts…

Also…lots of talk about ho’s and strippers…..

I gotta ask, though…if they are so morally objectionable, what does that say about their CLIENTELE????

By kinderbabe

May 10, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

slim hilarious!!! lol

By SeanJohnson

May 10, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

@ Slim..depends ..i think the best way to get a good response ….is to set the mood…dim lights..maybe candles..a lil lingerie..wine..get a zane book or some type of erotica book and read a story to the dude ..and make sure the story describes what u want to try in detail…then after u read the story …if its not obvious…just tell me thats what u want to try..

By Jake...Captain Cool

May 10, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

dunt, dunta, duuuuunnn

What up ya’ll.
Hey ATL Lady, here I am, and Save-a-h@E and me don’t belong in the same sentence…LOL.

On the past issues, tell me whats happening. I have nothin against strippers, adult entertainers, or freaks in general, but I don’t want one on my arm. I was pickin through and SeanJ sent a good point, but follow it with with some crazy ish, I’ll paste the good part.

A LOT of men like to put their main lady on a pedestal and think she shouldnt do certain acts

Your lady deserves a pedestal, and should be freakin you how you like, but you don’t want to know that she has done this for any and everybody.

Truth Be told:

I do not want a woman who has had as many partners as I have, I am nowhere near Wilt Chamberlain numbers, but I ain’t no novice either. I have had what I consider a fair share.

Hypocritical, yes, but so what? ( I’m ready for the backlash too…lol)

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 10, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

@ For real aka no mercy

I wonder what kind of skeleton you have in your closet???

@ The Truth We are not our past… Well maybe you but you can’t speak for everyone..

By BlatinoBrutha -

May 10, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

Truth, mane, i feel ya. I still do me just enough to not be completely caught up.

By The Truth

May 10, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

Dr Kym just read your 1013. this thing is getting real scary. You know they also have a super strain of syphillis or gonorhea (spelled wrong).

Slim1 the truth is running out to costume store for a batman suit (extra tight in the crotch area to enhance the bulge). The best way to bring up something is just say its something you’ve thought about and would like to try it with them. Simple.

Ok, for the ladies that feel guys should overlook there past indiscretions, would you overlook a guys past if he had 4 children that he didn’t take care of when he was young and didn’t know better but is now a better person for having gone through that? I didn’t think so. This is all about personal choices. If you are ok with your girl being a jump off or the only chick at a gangbang, have at it. If your ok with your guy having slept with ALL of your girlfriends, cool. Its just not something I want in my life. But then again I don’t want, HPV, HIV, illegitimate kids, and a whole lotta of other things too. This is all about choices.

By b.o.o.h.o.o.

May 10, 2007 11:24 AM | Link to this

“Actions which are indicative of low morals and low self-image such as being a stripper, hooker, etc. are character issues which aren’t likely to go away.” Does this mean that WATCHING

“I personally like a woman that has at least tried to preserve themselves. Not virginlike but not a seasoned veteran of the sex wars either.” and I guess you are the one to make that very personal discrimination of where the line is drawn? Are you applying the same standards to yourself?

“the emotional rollercoaster a chick would be on after a few years of being passed around” passed around? I hope she is choosing her partners…what it did for me was make it clear that good sex doesn’t equal a good partner, and helped me know what it is I want! smoothed things out rather than the opposite. Are you on an emotional roller coaster after passing yourself around???

By b.o.o.h.o.o.

May 10, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

you guys and your double standards…

“Actions which are indicative of low morals and low self-image such as being a stripper, hooker, etc. are character issues which aren’t likely to go away.” does this apply to WATCHING porn, paying strippers, and going to prostitutes? Must be a lot of men out there with low morals and a low self-image (big surprise) More likely other character issues which aren’t likely to go away.

“I personally like a woman that has at least tried to preserve themselves. Not virginlike but not a seasoned veteran of the sex wars either.” and who exactly determines this very fine line? You? are you up to such a scrutiny from your woman?

“the emotional rollercoaster a chick would be on after a few years of being passed around” passed around? I hope these women are making the choice of who they are sleeping with. Are you on a rollercoaster after passing yourself around? Personally, “sleeping around” gave me insight into what I want and who I want it from; cleared some things up, rather than the opposite.

By abc

May 10, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this

boohoo, I would definitely say that to participate as clientele of strippers, porn, and prostitution is similarly indicative of character problems as the strippers, porn stars and hookers have.

By Island Girl

May 10, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

Slim Your a mess… why is his butt hurting??

Did you give him a wedgy or did you let his butt say “hello” to your little bullet head friend? …lololol

By abc

May 10, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this

..and I daresay we certainly ARE our past. We are defined not so much by our thoughts as by our actions.

By DuShawn

May 10, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this

abc Man……loosen up…dayum!

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

Storms will comeee …this we know for sureeee..can you stand the rain….love unconditionalllll…i’m not asking just of you…girl to make it last..i’ll do whatevr needs to be done…..

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

Raqi that would be a great suggestion. I personally don’t have a problem expressing my wants but in a society where men seem to look down on sexually open women, i just wanted opinions on how would they like their lady to suggest things. After all they claim they want a freak in the bedroom. You definitely have my interest peaked with your example though LOLOLOL!

For Real that’s good to know. I don’t want to make it an entrance…LOL! But you know sometimes a big engine, speed, and skills on the road can turn a potential Cat Woman on. So do you have a batmobile to go with those Bat boots?

@DuShawn with his lady in the store

D: I just don’t know why i had to come to the store with you. I thought you had to tell me something.

DL: I do babe but i’m not sure how you’ll take it. I’m thinking salad tonight.

D: okay?

DL: ooh baby check out how big these cucumbers are.

D: why you holding it like that?

DL: well that’s what i’m trying to tell you. I think we need to keep our sex life fresh.

D: babe, are you kidding me? I’m all for keeping it fresh but dayum, fresh vegetables?!!!

DL: but baby it’s organic. I was thinking fresh fruit/vegetables…organic would lead to Orgasmic! So what cha think, you down?

(Dushawn faints….heard over the loudspeaker): We have a code red in produce, code red in produce.

By Pharress_Beuller

May 10, 2007 11:40 AM | Link to this

What’s up BLOG FAM??!!

Long time, no Blog…I see it’s still on up in here. This topic is crazy, p0rn star! Me personally…couldn’t do it. Too many possibilities of this coming up. I know we all have past, but just in my experiences (as well as friends of mine) women with backgrounds like this have a LOT of issues when it comes to men that will only get worse down the line. Having a past is to be expected, but having an extreme past as this is a hard pill to swallow. I take my hat off to any guy that can deal with it, but just because he can deal with it today…how will he deal with it down the line…or if kids get involved, how will they deal with it, if it ever comes to light about mommy’s past.

It’s 2021 and little Billy’s friend gives him a old DVD from the early 2000’s and little Billy watches it and low and behold…mommy’s starring in Brain Nurses of ATL. Now, little Billy’s traumatized and has issues with women.

Not saying this will happen, but they say your past can come back and bite…well that would be like JAWS taking a bite out of ya azz.

By Ladylike

May 10, 2007 11:42 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All, Great Topic Wise and Red Khezu.

Some things you never want to tell, but I’ve learn from experience that he will found out that sooner or later, it will be known. You can’t keep a secret no matter how hard you try. So I’m open, I can talk about myself better than another person can talk about me. The skeletons in my closet can be my best experiences or my worst nightmares. And I’m sure any guy I meet will also have some secrets to share.

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 11:42 AM | Link to this

Now GA.man…That is my joint!!! That song says it all!!!

By Cassie

May 10, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

BooHoo Dead on, my friend, dead on.

Those of you who want your women to remain somewhat pure…the next time you are getting bad h*ad or she won’t get off her back, remind yourself of what you just said!

And watching strippers, or watching/reading porn, or visiting a prostitute is JUST as bad as being one. I actually think that women are the smarter ones there - men are dumb enough to pay to watch or pay to touch what they normally can get for free!

Girl Power!

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 10, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

@ The truth How you gon ask a questiona and answer it.. When you are a child you think, act like a child.

thank GOD you are NOT GOD.. Give it a break!! But for every woman you laid down with she took a part of you and you took a part of her so that would make yall both F-up…

I am 28yrs old and i have made plenty of mistakes and they are behind me now. and that where they will stay.

never dance or sold my body —for inquiry minds..

NExt… NOW WHAT!!!

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this

Whatever abc that is a lie I am not my past I am a better person from it. It did not make me it taught me so whatever my dear ANGEL!!!!

By Tater

May 10, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this

Ladylike… Thank you for the wisest posting so far.

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this

* it says alot doesnt it*

Too many people give up on things or relationships too fast now a days..back in the day grandma and grandpa would work it out..it was just that simple..now you mess up one time you gotta go kick bricks

By b.o.o.h.o.o.

May 10, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this

@DuShawn: very creativecute, and clean - you oughta write for tv or movies!

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

your hairrrr the perfume ..brings back memories of you and me….you look so fineeeee you blow my mind all over againnnnn…so muchhhhhhh has happened in my life since we parted…what about you…now i got myself together and i know what i wanttttt….rock meeee tonightttt for old timeessss sakeee…would you babyyyyyy….rooollll with me tonight for old timessss sake

By The Truth

May 10, 2007 11:51 AM | Link to this

BOOHOO come out from behind the curtains. That venom your spitting sounds familiar. Yes, I determine where that line is in regards to me. And yes I do apply that same standard to me. I’m trying to preserve my product so when I do meet smeone I find to be specail I can offer her more than some broke down dude with a bunch of horror stories and kids all over town. You sound like you’ve come out the other end of your sexscapades a little more bitter. Don’t be upset because after you’ve given up the skins to ev1 in the end your all lonely and chit. Are you doubting your worth now? I’m going to explain this for the last time. A guy can bone 10 women and go bowling. It can be totally physical, like working out. If you can do that then go ahead, but you wouldn’t be feeling like its obvious you do.

MsU every little thing you’ve ever done in your life has brought you to this moment so yes you are a sum of your past. You might not like some of it but its you.

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

Preach it GA.man…Long haul is out the door…Instant gratification is in…I am guilty of that!!!:)

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 10, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

@ Cassie

^5 —men are dumb enough to pay to watch or pay to touch what they normally can get for free!

another point made

By Pharress_Beuller

May 10, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this

Slim1,

Sound like you’ve come across some conservative types. To me it all depends on the type of person you’re dealing with and their personality. He may be thinking the same thing, but if you don’t bring it up, he may think you would think the same about him. It’s a dice roll…but true freaks recognize true freaks (and that’s not always a bad thing). So as the MLB said…just ask when it’s appropriate.

Now thinking of Halle Berry in Catwoman…I see I’m not alone after all

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 10, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this

@ Lady Like There are some things that people take to the grave with them — trust me you will never know everything a person has done in their past good or bad

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

Instant coffee(Mcdonalds) 1.15

instant grits Kroger 2.45

Kool-aid packs Singles 2.65

finding that someone to love you till the end, no matter what Priceless

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

Truth is is not all of you mistakes will happen you lear and grow…Chronic is the key not to become..S** happens…and that post to BooHoo is not fair I think…I don’t think you know this person how can you come at her or him like that? Just wondering…Don’t blow me away either!!! LOL

By DuShawn

May 10, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this

abc I have to disagree with that “You are your past” statement as well. I’m of the opinion that one’s personality is a compilation of their past experiences. You learn far more from mistakes and failures than from successes and accomplishments.

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

Old school (Hi-Five)

we’ll turn the lights down low….i know that we dont know each other wellllll but i cant believe i’m wasting your time……cause i been holding back what i feel ..but i cant wait another minute…cant wait another minute for your love….yourrr loveeee nnooooooo

sweet lady dont you look away…i dont mean to make you shy…tonight i know just what to sayyyy…i’ll love your cares away….you know that there’s possiblity that we will never get another chance..tell me what to do……

By kinderbabe

May 10, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this

A guy can bone 10 women and go bowling. It can be totally physical, like working out. are you for real?? men are just as much conscious beings as women. we have the same responsibilities to our bodies and spirits. anybody who is sexing on a purely physical level is doing or has done themselves more harm than good. it’s not healthy regardless of who’s doing. i’m not buying the men are machines story.

By b.o.o.h.o.o.

May 10, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this

The truth: I’m not lonely, I’m not interested in just boning, but at this point in life I can do that more easily than ever, especially since I know how men are now. And I know my worth. Glad to hear you’re protecting yourself and your partners from unwanted pregnancies (and diseases, I hope). btw, a woman is better equipped to “do” ten men than vice versa; up for female harems!

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 10, 2007 12:04 PM | Link to this

@ The Truth

BOY stop… Your opinion is like an A$$ everyone has one..

By For Real

May 10, 2007 12:06 PM | Link to this

Slim Well you already know about the chromed out Huffy (a.k.a the Batmotorcycle) but yes I happen to have a Batmobile. It’s disgused as 2000 Mazda Protégée. That way I can maintain my secret identity. Maybe I will take you for a spin in it one day. Let me know when you want to take ride b/c I keep it parked in my mother’s garage and I have to have get permission from my mom in order to go into her garage.

By QueDogTeaching

May 10, 2007 12:06 PM | Link to this

Ladies I know you want to keep secrets, but secrets become lies real fast. If you messed up one night and had a train ran on you, and then one day you and your man were talking and trains came up in conversation. That is the perfect time to tell him that once, twice, or three times you were smoking, drinking, or had passed out and was asleep and had a train ran on you. The perfect time is not when you have him at homecoming, holding hands walking through the tailgate area, and guys start yelling choo-choo and moving their arms like a locomotive.

@ Slim Bring it up in conversation, just say there is something that you want to try. Have him help you with the set up. But also be ready to help him with his wanting to try new things. The more he is involved the better he will feel about it. A man just can’t walk into the house and the floor and all the furniture is covered in plastic, and a midget is in the corner holding a fire hose. And you jump out screaming fire and then stop, drop, and roll on the floor.

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this

SeanJ that was a great idea. Slim now online to order books by ZANE..but wait Slim don’t have a man.

Truth you don’t want the crotch area too tight. Slim is totally turned off by stank ballz.LOLOL! I’m sorry i couldn’t help myself.

Island he got introduced to Mr. Bullet. lol

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

@GA.man…Keep the songs coming…:)

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 10, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this

^5 kinderbabe

By MusingLee

May 10, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this

Musing coming to grips with his freaky g/f

Musing (crying): So baby did you enjoy all that baby batter on your face from those 4 dudes?

Chick: Nooooo, baby I only like your baby love…Anyone those 4 dudes are just my homeys we only fk on the weekend.

Musing now passing the fk out again while walking down a flight of steps

By The Truth

May 10, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this

Cassie I am in no way saying be pure, thats not even a reasonable thought. The question is how far is to far. Thats a individual question. We are all adults here and grown people can do what they want. But lets not be fooled into believing our deeds don’t have ramifications. They do.

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 12:12 PM | Link to this

Co-Sign Kinderbabe!!!!

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 12:12 PM | Link to this

Pharress_Beuller welcome back buddy! However, my question wasn’t for myself as i’ve never had a problem with voicing what i like and don’t like. See also my 11:37 post. btw…puuurrrrrr

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 12:14 PM | Link to this

every body talking all ish about me why wont they just live….nnnoooooo i dont need permission that my progative…they say i’m crazy…they say i’m nasty getting girls is i live

so ask the ?? why am so reallllll

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this

Bobby Brown will now sue Gaman i just jacked that song all up…ooppsssss lolololool

By WD

May 10, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this

I read this blog all the time and I never respond to any of the topics. I prefer to read the hilarious entires, but today I couldn’t just read it and keep it moving. Hmm…men say they “accept” a woman’s past until they are actually confronted with it. I dated a guy for two years and he threw my past in my face every chance he could get…eventually I broke up with him when the blinders of love came off of my eyes and I decided he was in no position to judge me for who I USED TO BE and I deserved more than his BS judgments. The reality is I wasn’t comfortable with myself, so I let him get to me. Even though I am comfortable with the things I have done in the past and I don’t believe my past is any muddier than the next, I must admit I am very cautious about who I open up to and have adopted a policy of “you don’t need to know everything…only what I tell you”.

By Jokester

May 10, 2007 12:21 PM | Link to this

A woman stopped by unannounced at her son’s house.

She knocked on the door then immediately walked in. She was shocked to see her daughter-in-law laying on the couch, totally naked.

Soft music was playing, and the aroma of perfume filled the room. ” What are you doing?” she asked. “I’m waiting for John to come home from work,” the daughter-in-law answered.

“But you’re naked!” the mother-in-law exclaimed.

‘This is my love dress,” the daughter-in-law explained.

“Love dress? But you’re naked!”

“John loves me to wear this dress,” she explained. “It excites him to no end. Every time he sees me in this dress, he instantly becomes romantic and ravages me for hours. He can’t get enough of me”.

The mother-in-law left. When she got home she undressed, showered, put on her best perfume, dimmed the lights, put on a romantic CD, and laid on the couch waiting for her husband to arrive.

Finally, her husband came home. He walked in and saw her laying there so provocatively.

“What are you doing?” he asked.
“This is my love dress,” she whispered, sensually.

“Needs ironing, ” he said, “What’s for dinner?”

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 12:21 PM | Link to this

I am ready for loveeeeeeee…..why are you hiding from meeeeeeee….i quickly give my freedom…to be held in your captivative….i am ready for loveeeeeeeee aaaalll of the joy and the painnnnnn

and all the time that it takessssss…just to stay in your gooodd gacceeeeeee

lately i been thinking your not ready for meeeeee…maybe you think i need to learn for maturatity…but if you ask me tomorrow..i will say the sameeee

i am readyyyy for love..would you pleasee lend me your earrrr… i promise i wont complainnnnn..i just need you to see i ammm hereeeee

if you give me half a chance i will proovveee it yoouuuuuu

By DuShawn

May 10, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

QUE Would you really want to know if your girl had been trickin like that in the past? Some things, in my opinion, are better left unsaid. If she has carried herself in a righteous manner in all her dealings with me, I don’t need to know everything. If I’m forced to face it, I would prefer to deal with it then. That day may never come, so why snitch on herself.

By Jake.

May 10, 2007 12:23 PM | Link to this

MsU you forgot this part.

BOY stop… Your opinion is like an A$$ everyone has one..and its shytty…LOL

Kinder on that 12:03…I think when dudes are younger, they are more likely to be on a purely physical trip, that boning/bowling statement is true, it might not be right, but true.

Truth Welcome back, you were telling the ladies whatever they wanted to hear, now you running they blood pressure up everyday.

The ” MLB Comeback Player of The Year” award goes to, The Truuuuttttthhhhh!!!…LOL

By For Real

May 10, 2007 12:23 PM | Link to this

GA.man You not over there in your biker tight doing the Kid-n-Play are you????

MsU You are right one may never know all about their SO but can you tell me some things your past that you might want to do again??? Oh and everyone doesn’t have an azz. An azzhole yes but not an azz.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 10, 2007 12:23 PM | Link to this

@ WD well said…

By kinderbabe

May 10, 2007 12:24 PM | Link to this

thanks miss u and ladyj :)

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

dig it you the picutre of you and i engaged in a kiss…can you picture…

oceans and violets bloom…animals strike curious poses….

maybe i’m just like my mother…..why do scream at each other…this is what it sounds like when doves cryyyyyy

touch if you my stomach …fell how it trembles inside….

dont make me chase ya…..

maybe i am tooo demanding…maybe i’m just like my father too demandinggggggg

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 12:26 PM | Link to this

Oh, I Bet you’re wondering how I knew… About you’re plans to make me blue… With some other guy that you knew before… Between the two of us guys you know I love you more… It took me by surprise I must say, When I found out yesterday.

Don’t you know I heard it through the grapevine/ Not much longer would you be mine./ Oh I heard it through the grapevine, And I’m just about to lose my mind

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 10, 2007 12:27 PM | Link to this

Musing go sit in timeout LOL!!

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 12:27 PM | Link to this

I feel you WD and welcome!!!! Me ex thought he was God trying to judge me like his s** don’t stank!!! I told him I am clear with God so who are you you can’t judge me…You don’t have to forgive me and can leave me but not judge me!!! A sin is a sin and in no order still a sin!!!!

Great post to you!

By Island Girl

May 10, 2007 12:28 PM | Link to this

Alright GA man

having a bobby brown moment…..

By melo

May 10, 2007 12:28 PM | Link to this

@Raqi(Now you know I have an example, but I won’t go there) Hey, i dont’ know u and i’m curious so plz let it out. I got somebody i wanna please!!!

By Pharress_Beuller

May 10, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

Slim,

Point taken and sorry for the mistake, but my advice is the same for any that are dealing with that problem.

Puurrr???? Hhhmmm, now remembering she has no tonsils…quickly ordering a Batman suit online…dang! For Real got the last one! They only have Aquaman left?!…awwwwwww, no dice.

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

oooooolllalalallala rolling and rolling kid and play

By kinderbabe

May 10, 2007 12:32 PM | Link to this

jake i feel what you’re saying. and you’re right, that is typical of juvenile behavior…you live and you learn. however, there are some buttholes that are still out here using that as an excuse to hit everything moving. that type of behavior is not becoming of mature man or wo-man. men are not machines. you are spirit in a physical body just like i am.

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 12:32 PM | Link to this

Girl i been watching you..from so far across the floor…thasts nothing new..i have watch you before…i see that look in your eyes…and you know that girl i am not shy……you in minddddddd …..girl i wanna shake you down…i can give you all the loving you need…we’ll go all the way to paridse…..and the way you make me feel inside…i can tell you now….

come to me..let me ease your mind…i got the remedy now just givee me just alittle timeeeeeeeeeee

By Island Girl

May 10, 2007 12:32 PM | Link to this

*Jokester * LOLOLOLOLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 10, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this

@ Jake thanks LOL

@ For real Are u asking is there anything in my past i would or wouldn’t want to do again?? Everyone got an azz-hole— okay okayLOL!!

By Incognito

May 10, 2007 12:35 PM | Link to this

Now why would someone who “reads” this blog all the time come on here and use the initials that the moderator is frequently addressed as? You know this. Leave WD to the lady in red and get your own identity.

And yes I am in diguise also.

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this

some people live for the fortune..some live for the power…some for the game….sooommmeeee think physical definessss what within….i have been there before…. some people want it all…i dont want nothing at all…if i aint got you some people want diamond ringsssss…but it means nothing if i aint got you….some people need the dozens rosssesssss..cause that the only way to prove you lovvvveee themmmmm

By kinderbabe

May 10, 2007 12:37 PM | Link to this

GAman what are you the jukebox today?? lol

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 12:40 PM | Link to this

lol wew lol…

By MusingLee

May 10, 2007 12:41 PM | Link to this

Musing going to sit in corner…But not before giving MsU the Terminator stare.

Toe: 2.1 centimeters

Booty: 34inch

Boob: 30C

Forehead: Tyra Banks

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this

sometimes a love wont let gooooo hard as i try i know it showsssssss

everybodys telling me you will be over her eventually..how am i so suppose to

when i keep wondering whooooo’s holdinnng donna right now…..

and i keep wondering who’s holding donna noww….

the letter started with goodbyeeeee….i read it half a million timessssssss

tell me this is just a dreammmmm..when i wake up she will be here next to meeeee oooooohhhhhhh i keep wondering whhhhooooooooo’s holldding donna now…theres nothing i wouldnt do to be in his shoesssss nowwwww

By Island Girl

May 10, 2007 12:44 PM | Link to this

Where’s Ling and LL today?

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 12:44 PM | Link to this

Yeah KinderBabe he is and I am enjoying the songs…lol

By Will C.

May 10, 2007 12:45 PM | Link to this

Let her actions speak for herself. The past is the past and there is nothing you can do about it. Just make sure that she’s being honest and forthright about it and not trying to hide it. Honesty is the key to a situation like that.

RICH GUYS TROPHY WIFE SPEED DATING

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 12:45 PM | Link to this

Pharress Good advice nonetheless. I would’ve suggested the Riddler but he reminds me too much of Magic Don Juan…uugghhh!!!! It’s just something about that dark suit batman wears, can’t beat it…unless you can fit in the black spidey suit but For Real probably have that on lock too.

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 12:46 PM | Link to this

Kicking it live at Ajc blogs

i’m your host with most.. Gaman just trying to keep the spirits alive and freshhhhh

give me call..get your requst on…hey i might have or not..but keep yo eyes and ears plugged in and you might hear yo jam today…..dont forget today is the day we give away that block of Gov’t cheese caller 109 you win cheese for the month…hahahahha

By The Truth

May 10, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

Jake your like the little court jester, you run in, make a few reamrks then dash out. Stay for the war. And I’ve never told these women what they wanted to hear. Man, I’m one of the most hated dude in this spot. Thats not to say that I haven’t worked out a truce with the a few of my opponents (Hi Ling and Slim1, LOL)

Ladies, I don’t think anyone wants mother Teresa. I think the threshold line should be activities that cause YOU mental anguish. If you’ve been dating and doing what you do nobody can hold that against you. If you’ve been doing things that you still have problems dealing with then chances are the guy is going to have problems dealing with them too. The blog question is would you be willing to deal with certain skeletons? Some yes and some no. Personally, if you’ve had a string of short term failed relationships, cool. Life happens. If you’ve been out there slinging a* like a gunfighter and now want somewhere to rest your aching head from being banged on so many headboards, no. Thats me. The next guy may think the world of you.

MsU thats all everyone has in here is their opinion. And before you go talking about other peoples asses you should clean up your own. Sometime you ladies aren’t as fresh as you could be.

Slim1 the crotch is always clean. Unless you catch me after a workout.

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 12:48 PM | Link to this

@MusingLee stop it I just screemed laughing!!!! Stop it!!! Time Out!!! lolol

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this

we are family…i got my sisters…heyyyey heheyyyy heyeyeyey

coming back from the break that was the pointer sisters……….after the break maybe some babyface and Luther……(snap yo fingers)

have faith in yo do hehhheyyyy heheyyyy we are family…get up everybodyyyyyyy i got my sisters everybody hhhey hhheyeyy heyyy get up and sing it……aaaawwwwwww hehehhheyyy we having funnnnnnn

By Incognito

May 10, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this

(That’s my new name for today so people won’t know who I am. LOL)

SlimOne and Melo since you twisted my arm, check this out: (I was not desiring to do this first one but I found out something about my S/O, who shall remain nameless, LOL)

One evening I was putting the moves on him, he was game but wanted to watch something on CNN first. I didn’t want to wait so I became a little more aggressive. He still was saying “hold on a minute just let me see this”. That’s when I told him “I’ll just go do it myself.” Also being cynical I said “I can give myself a better “O” anyway and I’m gonna do it right here ‘cause I want you to see how it should be done.” That got his attention quick. He was like “Really? You gonna do that…right here?” with a grin as big as the Cheshire cat on his face.

If you are in the kitchen take a sugary condiment from the fridge and ask (but make sure you have your joke tone on) “What would you do if I poured this caramel / whip cream / chocolate syrup on you?” If they say don’t do that then oh well. But if they say “Make you lick off.” Then bingo.

Those are some PG-rated examples. I will leave it at that.

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this

Musing oohh you wrong for that one Forehead: Tyra Banks….GOT DAYUM THAT’S HUGE! LOL

By Incognito

May 10, 2007 12:51 PM | Link to this

Okay one last one, while play fighting tell your man “Alright if you don’t stop I am going to sit on your head.”

You all figure that one out. I am gone to lunch.

By NewDay

May 10, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this

Don’t usually post but here goes…

The key word to me “past” and as it has already been mentioned, we all have one. One of the biggest things we miss in realationships are the opportunities that are presented to us to develop deep bonds with our partners. Those bonds are developed by going through deep trials or from having to extend deep understanding or forgiveness. We say that we want significant relationships but we really don’t usually want to extend ourselves to someone in significant ways (both males and females). We only want to deal with surface type things but have something significant with someone. What led a person to that space could happen to any of us. Life happens. Being open and upfront about it with a SO is the key. It would take a great deal of courage and trust to allow someone into your space like that. THose are the kind of qualities that serve as the foundation of a great relationship.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 10, 2007 12:54 PM | Link to this

@ Musing

Stop making me laugh now— you are on punishment — go do what i said and stop looking at me like that before i whack you lol!!

By b.o.o.h.o.o.

May 10, 2007 12:54 PM | Link to this

We ladies aren’t clean? You guys don’t even wipe after you pee! then you want a quick bj! p.s. thanks cassie have a great day

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 12:57 PM | Link to this

Hmmm, I wonder who Incognito is? lol I’ve done that before and it seems to be highly effective.

Hey All have any of you ever caught a SO, g/f, b/f whatever, in the act of pleasing themselves or doing anything else weird/crazy?

By Wise Diva

May 10, 2007 12:58 PM | Link to this

My apologies, it appears yours truly jacked up the blog and made the italics attack! OOPS! (LOL) Thanks for bearing with us!

Thanks Blogmasters

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 12:58 PM | Link to this

i am dooinng just fineeeeeee….getting along with you inmy life……wwahhhhh

you were my earth my number one prioity..anything you ask of me i would do…somewhere down the road you told me you had to journey…..now yo saying you made amistake..you no longer have my heart…i’m doing just fine..getting along just well without you in my life….time made me stronger…your no longger in my mind…when you said goodbye baby asfter all the pain you put me through..so unfair to me..your no longer in my worllllddd…i aint messinnnnng you …i’mmmmm doing finneeeeee..say i’m doingggg just finneeeee time made me stronger …oooh ohhho ohhh

By SexyLeggs

May 10, 2007 12:59 PM | Link to this

Hello everybody…can’t blog today, too busy. Just wanted to say hello. Going to lunch and then back to work.

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 1:00 PM | Link to this

Ok that was Boy to Men with “Doing Just Fine” we have a caller on the line …”thanks for calling…qwho is this..

It’s me CAL…play something nice for me ok

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 1:03 PM | Link to this

Take a look at me …..tell me do like what you seeeeee…do you think you can doooooo meeeeee

kisss me pretty baby..touch me all over..girl what me you think you can do dodooooooooo me

do me baby?…..do me babyyyyyyy doooo dooooo me aaahhhhh girl let your hair…take off your clothes and leave on your shoeeessss

back stage ahhhhh like do the wild thang heyy dont forget the jammie aaaahhhh you can do me when you wannnna do meeeeeeee uuuuhhhh huhhuuuu doooo dooo i like it in the morninggggg i love in the eveninggggggg can you do me alllll ovfverrrr

By Pharress_Beuller

May 10, 2007 1:07 PM | Link to this

Ok, Slim…I just found this on Ebay!

Pharress orders it and thanks the UPS dude for the quick delivery and changes into…

THE BROWN HORNET(Yep, from the Fat Albert show…hey, it was $5.99 with free delivery & a Rudy T-shirt!)

Ok…ok, it’s no Spiderman, but it did come with a brown Cameo cup to match my cape and boots! Ooooowwwww!

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 1:09 PM | Link to this

last chance for romance..i need you by me byside me to guide me…..to hold me…to scollllll me…cause when i am bad i am soooo sooo bad…so lets dance the last dance….tonnnnnniggghhhhhtttttttt last dance …for love…yes it’s my last dance for romance…tonight…i need you by me to guide to hold me to scooooollll cause when i am bad……lets dance ..lets dance….the last dance tonigghhhhhtttttt……wooooooooooooo……….aaahhhhhhhhh ooooooo i need youuuuu by me to holdd meeeeeee so come on baby….lets dance come on babbbyyyy lets dannnncceeeee tonnnnighhhhtttt heeyeyehhhhyye

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 1:13 PM | Link to this

Thanks for listening…hey we have another caller on the line

Gaman Who this?

Musing Gaman, i need a ride my civic stopped running again….

Gaman hey your caller 109 so you won the chhese also…lololol

ok back to the show that was Donna Summer with Last dance…we will be right back after we pay some bills

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 10, 2007 1:14 PM | Link to this

@ THE TRUTH Ms. U is now Slapping the truth all up side his big A$$ mouth.. LOOk i never said i didn’t have any issue, you the one trying to act like you anit never did no crazy SHyte.. Brother melt that iron off your heart and lighten up…

For the record i don’t hate you- i don’t agree with what you are saying but hey so what i don’t have to sleep with your cold hearted A$$$$$!!!

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 10, 2007 1:18 PM | Link to this

@ Lady J Tell musing he can come out the corner now

By Island Girl

May 10, 2007 1:18 PM | Link to this

SLIM I used to ask my SO to please himself while I watch. It is a turn on. Let him start…and you finish…

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 1:18 PM | Link to this

Welcome back here is some Silk for the Ladies

oooohhh ooohhhhhhhh last night we an argument..you told me you love me….all the things i said i didnt meant i didnt to make you say bye bye bye…baby wont you let me look inside your soul….let me make you lose control

let me be the one you need..baby just come to meeeeeeee……

now tell me girl what you want from me..what ever it is i wanna give mmmyy babyyyyy

i wanna feel your body yearnnnnnn all your softest spotssss i wannaaaaa i will make you spin you around and arounddddddddd if you dont mindddddd let me spendddd the nightttttt let me help you lose controllllll

ooooohhhhhhhhhhh oooohhhh baby let me kiss you downnnnnnn

i wanna me you lose i wanna make you lose controlllll if you dont mind…

can i turn you can i turn on…till the break of dawn babbbyyy

can i turn you on can i trun onnnnn till the breakkk of dawwnnnn oooooooo oooooo

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 1:21 PM | Link to this

Pharress NOOOOO!!! If you came out with that ish on, you would see Slim do a quick change into my OOMPA LOOMPA costume strapped with the standard huge lollipop.

By Jake.

May 10, 2007 1:23 PM | Link to this

Truth Touchy, touchy…lay off the coffee dude.

It is funny you would say “little court jester” as its painfully obvious that you consider yourself to be the Elvis of the blog.

My bad, I didn’t mean to step on dem Blue Suede Shoes..lol.

No dashing out here buddy, “I ride with no tint so dem mudderfuggers know its me.”

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 1:24 PM | Link to this

Island Girl OMG! I love to watch that. I’m not sure what it is about it that does it for me…especially if he has some nice arms and hands.

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 1:24 PM | Link to this

@Musing…Come out and play…Get us through therest of the day!!!! It has been good though…Can’t complain!

@Truth…Kisses!!!!:)lolol

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 1:24 PM | Link to this

you and iiiii have differenceess on that we can agreeeeeee

but the thingsss that reallyy hangs me up is that your touch setss me freeee

cant understand…the way that i am with youuuuuuuu you go your wayyyyyy i bettter not stayyyyyy agaiiinnn nnnooo not aggainn girlll you know i cant resist

hereeeeee i gooooooo agaiiinnnnnnnn with youuuuuuuuu here i go agaiiiinnnnnnnn with you

that look in your eyesssss its no suprise to meeee nnnooo not to meeeeeee been thru it beforreee stilll i wanntttt moreeee of youuuuuu yeas i dooooooooooo girl you i cant resist no mattere how much you insisttttttt

cant we be friends…..does it reallyyyyyy have to end wonnnt you telll me whhhyyy the looveeeee we share set me frereeeeeeeeeee ogoooooohoohohohohoo here i go her i go here i gooooo againnnnn here i goooooo againnnnnnnn ooohhhh that look in your eyesssss its no supriseeeeeeeeeeeeee

By QueDogTeaching

May 10, 2007 1:27 PM | Link to this

WD

That’s the problem, a lot of times women will do things, feel bad about them, and then become defensive. Why weren’t you defensive when you were giving it away on the first day you met the guy. Then you have never said you have had a one night stand even though you and your mate have talked about it, and now you wonder why he looks at you crazy when you say you would never do something. Because once a secret comes out you are looked at as a liar.

Now if during conversation at the beginning you told him straight up, and he still trips then o.k. But it seems to rarely happen like that. It usually happens where he finds out later and is like dayum, you did what, I thought you said freaks were nasty.

And by the way WD I have said this before and I will say it again: “Your sexual past dictates your social future.”

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 1:27 PM | Link to this

For Real & Pharess Looks like you all might need to order Island Girl a Storm costume.

Hey wouldn’t it be fun if we had our blog get together dressed in costumes? That way we would still have our anonimity. I know it’s far fetched and i’m sure folks would find it highly weird to see a Batman, Superman, etc driving around the A in 90 degree heat in the middle of the summer.

By MusingLee

May 10, 2007 1:31 PM | Link to this

Slim I wish I would catch my girl self pleasing when I get home.

Musing enters house and heads up stairs…flings open door

Musing: Dangggggggg

Chick: Ahhhh, I’m sooo embarassed baby…sorry

Musing: Sorry for what?!?! You’d better finish, it’s get’in cold….Here let me help.

Musing now learning to “play the banjo” down below

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 1:34 PM | Link to this

@QueDogTeaching…How is admitting and talking about your past being defensive?

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 1:35 PM | Link to this

aaaahh she is a briccckk hooouuseeee like lady stack aint holding nothing back……will we’re together and everybody knows

36-24-36 what winning hand….she’s might mighttthhhttyyyy aaaaaaaaaawwwww

she’s brick built like amazon…make a old man wish for younger dayssss……shu noff can knock a strong man off his kneeessssssss

shackkkddaaaad shacchhddaadada nonon shadddaaddcchhh ooooh brickk houseeee she mightttyyyy aaaaawwwa a brick house

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 1:35 PM | Link to this

A Blog Party would be fun but I would hope the dynamics of blogging would not change after the party…lol I am down though!:)

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 10, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this

Wow!! I step out for a while and I come back to talk of costumes!! LOL

SlimOne Yes, people would be shocked to see Batman, Superman and Storm riding around in the summer heat!! I am laughing at the thought!

QDT REGRET! In regards to your last post..* lot of times women will do things, feel bad about them, and then become defensive.* That is people in general and sometimes you dont feel bad about something right away. Sometimes it takes for the outcome to happen before your regret sets in (relationship ends or whatever).

You cant blame a chick for wanting to forget that horrible one-night stand that left her totally unsatisfied.. LOL

By Island Girl

May 10, 2007 1:39 PM | Link to this

Slim Storm is my favorite character.lolololo

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 1:39 PM | Link to this

i’ll give you the sun the moon the stars and the mountainssss.. i’ll give you the world and all that you wish for…girl i love you more than you can know

i’d climd the highest hills cross the widest seasssss …. ready or not

all that i got i’ll give you everything

i’d give you my heart my soul and all that you yearn for my love is pureeeeeee

ready or not dont you dont you knowwwwww i’ll give you everything and moreeeee all that i gotttt it;s your little girlllll

everything isnot anything if your not here to share my love

i dedicate my love my soul my heartbeat forrrr youuu reaady or notttttt i’llllll give you everythingggggg you got to knowww it babyyyyyyyy

By For Real

May 10, 2007 1:40 PM | Link to this

So IG hear you looking to become a superhero. Well you have to demonstrate the qualities of a superhero and be cleaned in Lake Menatonga. Then I will have to thoroughly dry that camel toe. After your camel toe has been desiccated, then only then will you become a superhero.

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 1:41 PM | Link to this

Musing Well once you get the banjo under you belt, I’d say you’d better upgrade to learning to play the banjo and the harmonica all at the same time. WHEW! Talk about multi-tasking.

By Island Girl

May 10, 2007 1:44 PM | Link to this

Que Can you expound on your statement, “Your sexual past dictates your social future”?

By The Truth

May 10, 2007 1:44 PM | Link to this

MsU I’ve done crazy s**, but nothing I regret or have emotional issues over. I did it so it must have been the thing to do at that moment. You can ask me about my past and I’ll tell you all about it. Also, if you want to we can set up a night of wild passionate lovemaking and you can see what its like to sleep with a coldhearted bastard.

By Jake.

May 10, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this

Slim/Island Girl

I’m a pretty freaky cat as referenced by my fondness for Earmuffs, but I would be trying to get to that “good puddy”, and a monkey choke with some good womb right there would seem odd. I have never done it so, who knows, but its an interesting concept.

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this

Mo I’d hate the heat to get to For Real’s Batman suit. LOL!

Island Girl How did i know? lol Sounds like the beginning of a Marvel Comics Orgy. lol

By G

May 10, 2007 1:47 PM | Link to this

It’s “relationship-suicide” to diverge everything from your past. Some things need to be kept in the past. Especially, if you are presently far removed from your past.

If my current S.O. had a “shady” past in the adult industry, I would understand them keeping it a secret. No, I wouldn’t like the fact that it happened, but that was b4 me and she (hopefully) leads a different lifestyle now.

Simply put………..”I don’t need to know.”

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 1:49 PM | Link to this

thought i heard your voice yesterday..then i turned around to say i love you..i realized it was just my mind playing tricks on me…it seems all we done latley is fight…everytime the phone rings i pray to God its you

I misssssss youuuuuu i miss youuuuuu theres no other way to say it…i cant deny it…it so easy to see i misss youuu and meeeeeeee

is it done over this timeeeeeee….have we really changed our minds all the feeling that we use to share

i refuse to belive that you dont careeeee… i miissss youuuu thereesss no otherrrr way to say ittttt i miiissssss youuuu its so eassyyyy to seee

i got to gather my sense getherrrrrr i’b been thru worst kind of weatgher…ifs its over nooowww be stttrroongnnggg i gottt to carrryyy onnnnnnn nooooo ottherrrr way ttooooo sayyy it

By QueDogTeaching

May 10, 2007 1:50 PM | Link to this

Dushawn

Personally I don’t like surprises. I can almost deal with anything, just as most real men do. But I don’t want to have to deal with a woman who can’t at the very least give enough respect to be honest in her dealings. Example Say you are out and the fellas are talking about women in the past. And some one says yeah I used get down with Laqutanika not knowing she is the new Mrs. Dushawn Well if she had already mentioned something along those lines, then you would be cool and you love her more for being honest. But if she had never said anything even though you two had talked about the subject you will feel like dayum why was she hiding something so insignificant? Is there more to be afraid of?

And I say this because I believe that sex is all relative. I don’t believe in freaks and hoes. (I do believe in w*******). Women want it just like men, so why lie about it?

By Wise Diva

May 10, 2007 1:51 PM | Link to this

The Truth, you really need to chill out, everyday we read/hear your diatribes of your perception about manhood, and it’s starting to sound a little contrived. You have nothing to prove to ANY one on this blog, we don’t even KNOW you. It’s not personal, it’s all love as Ms. Sexycool used to say. Stop making everything you read here personal.

and I know the topic is racy, but let’s clean up our discussion a bit, especially the language, and BTW, misspelling curse words is STILL profanity.

So, pretend this is NETWORK TV, if you don’t hear it there, don’t type it here. Thanks! (and yes, this includes me!)

By SeanJohnson

May 10, 2007 1:51 PM | Link to this

@ Slim..u are trip…i KNEW u was like that…

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 1:52 PM | Link to this

Truth we can set up a night of wild passionate lovemaking and you can see what its like to sleep with a coldhearted bastard Dang dude! what’s up with that?! Ccan you say harsh.

Slim now humming

He’s a cold-hearted snake.

Look into his eyes

Oh oh oh He’s been tellin’ lies

He’s a lover boy at play

He don’t play by the rules Oh oh oh Girl don’t play the fool—no

By melo

May 10, 2007 1:55 PM | Link to this

@night of wild passionate lovemaking and you can see what its like to sleep with a coldhearted bastard.

How can lovemaking be wild and passionate, yet coldhearted at the same time.It could be wild and coldhearted but not passionate.

Those words mean something, dont they?!!! Anyway, English is not my first lingo, so i stand corrected!

By dyoung

May 10, 2007 1:55 PM | Link to this

real quick, i just wanted to chime in with to help some of the ladies understand how we (men) generally look at a promiscuous women. from my experience, we tend to get more caught up in numbers (“how many she’s been with”) while women are more concerned with actual acts.

question for the women who think that a womens sexual past should be kept in the past if she’s “changed her ways”: how willing would you be to accept a guy who had a couple homosexual experiences in the past…even if he said it was completely out of his system and in the past?

im asking because although most guys would have an issue with a female theyre interested in having a promiscuous past, i bet that most of us would probably overlook it if the woman told us that her and a female friend had drunk spring break sex 10 years ago in cancun.

my point is that theres definitely double standards in this regard…but they go both ways (no pun intended)

By Incognito

May 10, 2007 1:55 PM | Link to this

SlimOne here is one you have got to try. If you and your S/O are walking down the produce aisle and you see a…tap, tap…”hey Raqi this is a family show, remember?” Oh yeah, I forget.

Never mind SlimOne ixnay the eggievay.

If for some strange reason I decide to show up at a blog costume party which would be against my better judgment since I done put all my freakin business all over this here screen, I will be the one dressed as Eve in the garden of Eden before she sinned.

Now Imma go home acting all silly and The Man will be asking “Woman!! what the hell is wrong with you today.”

I am done for the day…I think. Maybe?

Everyone have a good one if I am.

By Raqi

May 10, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this

Sorry WiseDiva I posted that last one before I read your warning. Sorry.

By old timer

May 10, 2007 1:59 PM | Link to this

LadyJ the original bloggers of MIA used to meet all the time.

By Island Girl

May 10, 2007 1:59 PM | Link to this

Real I already earned my strips. You’re a mess.

Lake Menatonga…ha, ha, lol, lol, camel toe..lololol

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 1:59 PM | Link to this

SeanJ in my little girl voice Whatever do you mean my dear, you knew I was like what?

By kinderbabe

May 10, 2007 2:00 PM | Link to this

thanks diva for your statement.

By Island Girl

May 10, 2007 2:03 PM | Link to this

@Jake, M.D.**,

When I stepped in your office for my examination (gap measurement), I couldn’t help noticing your accomplished medical training

By The Truth

May 10, 2007 2:03 PM | Link to this

Jake alright, i’m putting the coffee down. And the suede shoes are brown and not blue. Now I must admit, in a perverse way, to enjoying kicking up some dust, but thats as far as this thing goes. I don’t know about the Elvis thing.

Maybe, ladies, you need a guy like me so you can say all those things you didn’t say to the fella that caused the pain. I am your therapy. Just a thought. I may have to start charging you for these sessions. LOL

Victims never heal but survivors do.

By MusingLee

May 10, 2007 2:03 PM | Link to this

Musing now headed back to the corner

All I know is that I don’t want to hook up with a girl and 4 years after we’ve been together I see her video box on the adult film channel…

Chick: Ohhh, yeah I forgot to mention that…I did that back in 98 baby…It was just one time.

Musing: WTH, they’ve showed this three times this week already.

Musing now passing out after realizing the name of the video is “Doing it to you in the ear hole”

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 2:04 PM | Link to this

Thanks Old Timer…Maybe I will get an invite one day when my time is in…lolol!

By Icognito Gent

May 10, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this

@Incognito, never mind WD, u are free to email the titbits to kumhiri17@yahoo.com

I wanna keep this one, and i know u are fulfilled at home, so ur secrets will be much help!!

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

Question for All Now someone on here mentioned that it could be possible you could be in a porn and don’t know. So how many of you still have old nekked pics or XXX home videos with past ex’s, given it back, or simply destroyed it? What do you do with that kind of stuff that’s left behind?

By old timer

May 10, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

LadyJ I dont think they meet anymore, which is a shame, cause some of them wimmens was HAWT!!

By Bebe

May 10, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon Everyone, just wanted to say that today’s topic, reponses and tangents as a result of, have been both insightful and extremely hilarious. I’ve lurked for 2 days, and can’t wait for tomorrow’s subject.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

May 10, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this

Well folks my time is up @ Wise Diva— please forgive me (misspell profanity).

@ The Truth— no thanks baby

@ Musing — behave yourself

Everyone have a great day!!

@ Lady J— Longtime lurker is on baby sitting duties today

By WD

May 10, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this

QDT: You are exactly the type of man I am talking about…you are drawing conclusions based on your own assumptions. To correct you: I didn’t sleep with the guy I dated for years on the first date..not saying I never have, but this was not the case (and yes, now I am being defensive)

By Pharress_Beuller

May 10, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

Pharress now sells the Brown Hornet suit to Demi (but keeps the Rudy T-shirt…ok and the Cameo cup).

Catwoman…Storm…Halle…I see a trend here.

By For Real

May 10, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

FCC: We have been monitoring your blog and we have found some issues we would like to discuss with..

Wise: Musing stop playing.

FCC: Ok boys.. its seems she wants to do this the hard way. Nabber

Wise: WTF.. Put me down, hey stop, that tickles, OOO…

FCC: Throw her into the room with Truth, LL and Biff. Tie her hands and feet to the chair. Alright boys explain to her what’s wrong women. Tape her mouth. I don’t want to give her chance to speak.

Wise: No,no,no,no. Not that please, please,…. Somebody help me.. mmmmmmm

FCC: No sense in crying now Wise. Musing I will leave in charge of the Ostrich feather. Do as you see fit.

By SeanJohnson

May 10, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

@ Slim…very little limits….no telling what kinda tricks u will pull out of your utility belt.

@ Raqi…u think your SO will let you come to a party like that?

By Cassie

May 10, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

WD Girl, do you consider FX network TV? Cause the crap I’ve heard on Rescue Me was enough to fry my ears!

I can’t believe I’m saying this BUT The Truth did have a point, way back when. He said something like “ladies, don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable”….and that is the best thing he might have ever said.

I have a past. I’m not ashamed of it, and there’s nothing that I would take back (well, perhaps my marriage but that’s for another day). I’ve been to titty bars, I have been (unwillingly) in an open relationship and to a swingers club (ditto). The things I AM ashamed of are the things I did to please my man that went against my moral fiber.

That’s where the danger lies. Numbers don’t mean shoot - watch out for your health, and don’t do anything that endangers yourself physically or mentally. Other than that, all’s fair in love and war, so why point fingers and call names?

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

okay old timer…got you!!! We are hot too…lol Let me stop! I think Ga.man or somebody will put something together…

By Wise Diva

May 10, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this

hey welcome, Bebe, you should join in more, you are over there laughing at the commenter’s antics too? LOL

Slimone, you know the cell phone with video capability has landed many unsuspecting females on xtube, females should really pay more attention! LOL

By Wise Diva

May 10, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this

lol @ Cassie, good point! F/X gets outrageous! umm I meant ABC, CBS, NBC network, and thanks for asking.

By For Real

May 10, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this

Slim I keep all my XXX pictures. I put in a stack and then flip thru them real fast so that I can see how was in the past.

BTW, my Batman Suit is 100% cotton so it breaths.

By Island Girl

May 10, 2007 2:27 PM | Link to this

Slim, Thats where you’ll lose me….

I don’t/won’t do naked pics, movies, slides shows, etc….no no no. What’s done in the bedroom stays in the bedroom….or the elevator …..lolololololol

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 2:27 PM | Link to this

SeanJ not little ole me…I lost my utility belt so if you come across it be careful with how you handle it. It’s sort of like a box of chocolates, you never know what you gonna get.

By Dr..Jake..OBgyn

May 10, 2007 2:29 PM | Link to this

Island Girl

Why yes, I have had and I’m currently in the midst of quite a distiguished career. As previously stated in the Journal of Human Bloganatomy and Medicine, I am continiuing my research at various laboratories.

I am currently providing free “Gapsmears” at the Stone Mountain location. I am quite passionate about my work, please ask for Slim* at the front desk she give you all the necessary information.

Be prepared to stay for some time, the standard session involves three examinations, each increasing in duration as the exams take place.

Do Not Eat or Drink anything in the 2 hours prior to your appointment.

By abc

May 10, 2007 2:30 PM | Link to this

Deny it to yourselves if you wish, but we are all certainly the representation of all of our past acts, positive and negative. That is what shapes our character. It behooves one to think of it in those terms before one acts. Just as certainly, one learns from one’s mistakes, and hopefully will then endeavor to not repeat them, but to me that brings to mind once a _ always a __. If they’ll cheat with you they’ll cheat on you, and so on — things like that are axiomatic.

Am I perfect? Nope. All you have to do is read my drivel here, you can easily tell. Have I ever been promiscuous? Yes, indeed. I believe I know from whence I speak. Did I learn from it? Sure did. Does that make the behavior acceptable, something that should be forgiven and forgotten? Probably not, even to me. God will forgive me, people aren’t so inclined nor obligated. It was me, it happened, I did it, I own it, you can’t undo the past, it is me. Would I blame anyone who would choose to back off from me on account of my past? Not at all. I wouldn’t like it, but I wouldn’t blame them.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 10, 2007 2:30 PM | Link to this

The Truth kudos for this one..Victims never heal but survivors do. I couldnt agree more!

On topic, initially I wasnt ashamed of anything I had done, but I didnt share anything with my ex-so. I do have a policy that while you can share some things, you cant share everything. Everything aint for everybody and most people cant handle the truth. My ex-so went lookin through my stuff and found out. At that point I was still cool b/c I felt like “you snooped so you found”. It became an issue when I started being judged and called names. At that point I expected him to dip but he didnt, he just decided to hold it over my head. I had to be the “bad guy” and call it quits b/c he couldnt/didnt/wouldnt. Now aint that some ishh..

By Cassie

May 10, 2007 2:30 PM | Link to this

Blog at large…

Seen it a lot today…

How do you define promiscuous then?

By SeanJohnson

May 10, 2007 2:31 PM | Link to this

@ Wise Diva…its a proven fact..u put a camera and or a camcorder in front of a woman she turns into a differnt person…must be the attention women crave..but they love a camera and will willingly do things in front of one…

By The Truth

May 10, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

Melo you must have went back and read my post from yesterday. Now do me a favor and go reread the earlier remarks. She called me coldhearted and said she doesn’t have to sleep with me. I said if she’d like we can set it up. I guess the english as a second language aren’t as good as they used to be. If you’d like to dicuss my remarks from yesterday let me know.

WD what are you referring to? I didn’t beat my chest about anything. I simply replied to remarks that were made towards me. If everyone here is free to say whatever they like, and they do, then I won’t ask for permission to say what I want. Now you are always free to ask me to leave blogsville, and I will do that, but outside of that my comments are as valid as anyone that posts here.

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this

Wise That is scary to know you might be in your birthday suit somewhere on the internet. Let’s not forget about the pervs that have been in someones house and placed mini cameras in their bathroom. I think Montell did a show on that. Peeping Toms. To me what would be devastating is if you found out accidentally that the guy you’ve been dealing with was secretly recording you.

I bet For Real has signs all over his car and house. Beware: Beyond this point you are subject to being video taped and/or posted on the internet.

By MusingLee

May 10, 2007 2:36 PM | Link to this

Musing sips cold water from chick’s hand, like a man dying in the desert….speaking very softly

Musing: Baby tell me one thing.

Chick: What baby, anything!

Musing: Do you still do girl on girl.

Chick: I would for you.

Musing now falling in reverse

By For Real

May 10, 2007 2:36 PM | Link to this

Jake Running around the A trying to sell his Gapsmears-omatic machines like Wil Smith in the Pursuit of Happyness.

By SeanJohnson

May 10, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

@ Moeishsa….what did he find??

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

Okay we are coming together chior singing the same tune! How nice!:)

By Island Girl

May 10, 2007 2:38 PM | Link to this

Cassie I like that you keep it real.

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 2:38 PM | Link to this

Here i lay all alone…so i can thank you for the tender love you given to me….tender love….love so tender…holding me close to you……baby i surrenderrrrrrrr

candles they light the dark now i see how lovely your feelings areeeeee

now i want you more and more…..more when i feel your touch tender loveee…love me str8 from your heart….please let me be apart of yourrrr tender lovveeeee love ssoooo tendder holddding me cllossee to youuuu i suurrreenderrrr alllllll

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 2:40 PM | Link to this

Island was only joking about the orgy…not into them myself. BUT elevators? lol Um…you might want to check with security at all the building elevators you messed around in. They have cameras too. I know because i use to do security….a hilarious job i tell ya.

Slim doing commercial

So come on down to Dr..Jakes..OBgyn. Not only am i an employee but i’m also a patient.

By Raqi

May 10, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this

You know very few people consider how their past will affect their kids and family and I say this to say: (Yall know I always have an experience behind my statements)

My youngest son’s father told him that he and I are divorced and I left him. Now did he tell him this to make himself look good or did he tell him this to protect my honor and not have our son know that his mother was with a married man?

You know I never really thought that much about it until my son made the statement of “being divorced”. I am going to tell him the truth sooner than later because he deserves to know that we were not married. I believe when I tell him he will be mature enough to deal with it. The only thing is it would have seemed less tainted, although it wasn’t, if his father had not given him a false hope up front. But hey, I made my bed and I have become adjusted to sleeping in it.

So not on direct topic but those are my thoughts.

You think a woman’s husband/bf may become disturbed if he sees his wife’s picture on a video box just imagine what will happen if her 15 year old son got hold of it.

By Island Girl

May 10, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

Dr. Jake

The examination sounds intense…I almost feel the need to write my last will and testiment….lololololol.

Ok, I’ll call and make an appointment today….but will look Dr. Jake up on the web to make sure he is board ceritied first….

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 10, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

SJ old yearbooks, notes/letters and stuff (proof of some conquests). Things from college and whatnot, nothing that would have me up in arms but again everythang aint for everybody. What you can deal with may be the straw to break the camel’s back for someone else.

By C tha 1

May 10, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

^^5 SJ on your 2:31 post. WOMEN ACT DIFFERENT IN FRONT OF A CAMERA!!! They either shun it (for different reasons) or flock to it with the potential to do something outrageous.

By Wise Diva

May 10, 2007 2:48 PM | Link to this

Oh goodness, I was just offering my opinion on how you come across, not firing any directive towards you, maybe I should have prefaced my comment with “as a commenter and member of the community in my opinion..”

at any rate, I don’t think you are the most “hated” on here, but you may be the most ignored, which you probably don’t really mind either, you still could chill out though, you are intelligent enough to make comments without the jabs. Personally, I’m the type that likes to get my “message across” so I pay attention to how I deliver it, but that’s just me. “Tactful, thy name is Diva”

By Island Girl

May 10, 2007 2:48 PM | Link to this

ABC Point well made.

By melo

May 10, 2007 2:48 PM | Link to this

@Island Girl,Cassie I like that you keep it real. Are u hitting on Cassie?I am jealous!!!!

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 2:51 PM | Link to this

Island girl he is board certified…short board…long board…curved board.. so go and get yo self checked……he shares an office with Dr. Musing

By abc

May 10, 2007 2:52 PM | Link to this

definition of promiscuous

By Island Girl

May 10, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this

Raqi

That is a good point. Our past experiences can affect others as well. I wish you the best on telling your son about his father and you. I’m sure he will understand why his father did not tell him the truth, at first.

By Island Girl

May 10, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this

Melo

No, my anthem goes, “stickly dickly”. I don’t go that way. I was merely letting Cassie know that I support her point of view.

By DuShawn

May 10, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

G “Simply put………..I don’t need to know.” That’s my position on the matter as well. QUE Your sexual past dictates your social future”? I don’t understand your logic there Bruh. Are you saying if a chick danced at Magic City, she could never be Secretary of State? (Well, that’s a bad analogy because she couldn’t). Additionally Bruh, I want to address your statement ”…….give enough respect to be honest in her dealings.” Being honest in her dealings doesn’t mean she needs to reveal every sordid detail of her sexual history. That’s a double edged sword. You want her to be forthcoming about her past, but if what she tells you is too foul, the relationship will go no further. For me there are certain exceptions. If she used to dance or sell her body, I need to know. If she’s in a flick somewhere, I need to know. If she’s dated someone I know, she should tell me. Other than that, what she did before me is of little interest. Regarding the scenario you mentioned about the fellas talking and her name came up. Personally, (and I know you were speaking hypothetically) that’s highly unlikely. I’ve been a QUE for two decades. The circles I run in are very small and very tight. If any one of those men had any disparaging information to share about a female I was dating, they would’ve brought it to my attention immediately. It would be there duty to let me know what I’m dealing with before things went too far. If it’s some outside cat with something negative to say about her, I couldn’t care less, but he better not disrespect her in my presence. True enough, you can’t turn a ho into a housewife, but I don’t think people are doomed by there past. I believe it’s possible to learn from it grow and evolve.

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

Was that a jab again my fellow blog buddy…Once a _ always a _ and once a cheater one will always cheat…Wow my bad every chior I have been on does fuss and fight…Anyway I do and will alwasy respect your opinion!

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 10, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

Sorry Ladies,

Can I ask a serious question..not trying to be funny…(well of course I am) but why is everyone so touchy about information in your past..we all have it and seriously who on this blog can really throw stones?

I mean gentleman you come here daily with what you call your best “advice” to present to us the “weaker” sex…yet I wonder if the ladies really consider the source.

I mean so far I have read folks getting heated by the comments by…

So why pray tell wouldnt you take their “advice” with anything less than a grain of salt?

By Island Girl

May 10, 2007 3:00 PM | Link to this

@GAman

LOLOLOLOLOLOL…toooo funny!!!

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 3:00 PM | Link to this

We all have done some things in our lives we wished we would not have done, this is the learning curve you go thru to becoming a Man or a Woman. It doesnt mean you are not a good person it just means you have made some mistakes

In the end we are all looking for the same thing, someone to love us. Love us for the flaws we had before, love us for the mistakes i will make while we are together. For none of us are Perfect and the sooner we all realize this the happier you will be

NOONE WANTS TO GROW AND BE ALONE…THERE ARE NO DO OVERS ONCE LIFE PASSES YOU BY

Ok back to silly ol’ me

By QueDogTeaching

May 10, 2007 3:00 PM | Link to this

Lady J The problem is most women don’t discuss. They just become defensive after the truth comes to light. And that is the problem.

Mo I understand that some things are painful but if we are talking about, let it out. Most conversations go like this:

Man: Yeah I have had a one nighter but that was the past.

Female: WoW I wouldn’t believe women would do that.

Male: yeah it happens.

5 months later. Man and woman are at a party drinking and a dude walks up and hugs her extra long.

Male: What’s up with the extra long hug and lick to the ear.

Woman: Oh that’s just my friend

Woman’s friend: She should have never given him some, and in one night.

Male: Lying Micki Ficki.

By Wise Diva

May 10, 2007 3:07 PM | Link to this

oh snap, let me go grab a bullet proof blog vest as I stand next to Dr. Kym, LOL

Ducking

By For Real

May 10, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

Slim I am a professional Picture Taker. And besides no one uses video tape anymore you silly billy.

Mo It’s a good thing I kept the photos huh… Whew!!

Island Girl If I am not mistaken.. I believe.. hold on.. yep I do have a picture of you. Here we go. OOOPs my bad that’s picture of Wise and Truth after drinking some of QDT’s Que Juice singing Reunited.

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

@QueDogTeaching….You are right, good point…I am more of the direct in your face chick so I was like who is being defensive…Thanks!:)

By SeanJohnson

May 10, 2007 3:11 PM | Link to this

@ Mo..thats why i am so anti snooping…be prepared to be able to handle what u find…and as related to todays topic…what u ask…most dude cant handle the fact that most females have been with more than 5 men…or the fact u may not be the best she had…so dont ask a dumb question like that…or u didnt teach her that little trick she does that have u hooked..Just sit back and enjoy her..One thing i have noticed from todays blog ..that i already knew…when men are judgemental or are not exactly open with women…they close up..and that can make the sx NOT be as enjoyable as it could be..But to each his/her own…

By Ladylike

May 10, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this

Dr. Kym, ^5 on that 2:59 post.

By Raqi

May 10, 2007 3:15 PM | Link to this

tap

I think I just heard a pin hit the floor.

By Lady J

May 10, 2007 3:18 PM | Link to this

Peace out!!

By Batman

May 10, 2007 3:18 PM | Link to this

Reaches into his utility belt and throws a sleeping pellet at kym. Whew that was close. Batman saves another of the weaker sex.

umm looks there looks like Dr. Kym likes boy shorts. Click and flash. Gotcha itch (in my Dave Chappel voice)

By Cassie

May 10, 2007 3:18 PM | Link to this

Thanks IslandGirl…

So - don’t do anything you would be embarassed to tell your mama.

And to the official definition of promiscuous provided above by abc…”characterized by or involving indiscriminate mingling or association, esp. having sexual relations with a number of partners on a casual basis. ” (http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/promiscuous)

Since I have had sex with only seven people more than once, I guess that makes me promiscuous!

In the interests of being fair and keeping the dialog moving, I can tell you my numbers. Ten men. Fifteen Women. Of that 25 - only seven were any kind of repeats.

By kinderbabe

May 10, 2007 3:18 PM | Link to this

dr.kym as far as my past is concerned, i’ve dealt w/it, grown from it and am better for it. so i’m not particularly touchy about it. the one annoying thing on this blog, as any other day, (lol) is when people comment from a place of hypocrisy and self-righteousness. as you know, a lot of that goes on here. like everybody else’s comments, that’s just my opinion.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 10, 2007 3:20 PM | Link to this

Wisey Honey no need for a vest..I dont hide behind a fake ID and I am too old to mince words. Tack they name is not Kym

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 3:24 PM | Link to this

For Real video tape…schmideo tape….you say tomatoe and i say tomotto. It’s all the same you Picture Taker you. LOL@picture of Wise and Truth singing Reunited.

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this

Holy rusted pieces of Metal! Batman’s gone bad!!

By Wise Diva

May 10, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this

girl, the vest was for ME, LOL. I am agreeing with what you said, I KNOW you can handle whatever goes down here, but, I have to be all nice and stuff, well the week that I am moderating, anyway, LOL.

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 10, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

Kinder of course we have all had our indignant moments on the blog(hell I may hold the record for that) but like you said take my indignations with a grain of salt. I am only words on a screen typed a person who doesn’t know you and could care less what you do.(well I wouldn’t want some of you hit by a bus)

By Dr..Jake..OBgyn

May 10, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

Island Girl

It can be intense, but its necessary to be checked, so call ahead of time, and we’ll get you set-up.

Actually, we are head board certified also. We have added additional padding to examination beds for your comfort.

Many of my clients say they have been examined before, but never so thouroughly.

Customer Satisfaction is a priority for this practice….LOL

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

Cassie I believe half things people do they wouldn’t want to tell their momma about it. Can you imagine sitting around talking to your mom….”Mom there was this time in band camp…” lol Or to admit to your mom that you coined the term Comditioner? lmao

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

I think(My 2cents)the way to avoid all of this drama is to be by yourself after you have been hurt or in a relationship..understand that you are hurting and no sex is going to heal that….this goes for men and women

if more of us would do this then less hurt would be found around town

this helps me be the Best Man i can be if you are going thru it fine, get out of the house do some things but dont jump into something with someone else it is not fair to you or them….then when your inner peace comes back go for what you know

By QueDogTeaching

May 10, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this

Island girl

Have you ever been around old friends, and you are talking about the past and someone brings up and name, and the first thing you do or say is “she was so fast, or she was a B——, or she was a door knob (every body gets a turn)” That girl could be a loving mom, or a minister. But first and formost, she was that girl who used to do the whole basketball team.

That is her sexual past dictating her social future.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 10, 2007 3:35 PM | Link to this

SJ I was anti-snooping b4 and I really am now!! Like I said, everything aint for everybody…

QDT I hear ya, boo. But we never had conversations about any of that. If we had, I would have told b/c it wasnt anything that harsh to me.

For Real ssshhh!! Nobody was supposed to know about those pics! LOL See what happens when you let For Real serenade you?! LOL

By Raqi

May 10, 2007 3:38 PM | Link to this

Dr.Kym You can use Incognito if you want, LOL, since we have found ourselves agreeing lately.

Actually I have agreed with you more than you realize, but I being the narcissistic byotch that I am…

WiseDiva I know you said no profanity but I had to flaunt a dramatic effect. LOL Sorry (snickering)

I must on some weird blog juice today. I am about to me out for real.

Everyone have a good one. And until tomorrow…

By The Truth

May 10, 2007 3:38 PM | Link to this

Now, since I haven’t been booted by WD. WEW

Cassie(and btw I like Cassie too because she does keep it real) your not promiscuos when you do it. You are promiscous when you try to kick it to the fella that you want like your a nun. Because thats the totally disrectful part. If I met you after 10 years of being with men and acted like I’m new off the bus that is deceiptful. How can we have a life together full of trust and all that good stuff when the largest part of me I’ve lied about. Remember, forever is a long time to be hiding bones. So, while I wouldn’t go into grahic details, I would let you know what I had done and let you make a decision on our future together. Thats the tough part, setting yourself up for rejection.

Diclaimer: I have not been sleeping with men for the last 10 yrs.LOL

By carib dude

May 10, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

Putting on my blog bullet proof.

Most of the women in here COULD never be a stripper. I respect a woman who knows she has something that needs to be shared!

*I respect and would date a woman that can be honest like a real man would. *

That is hard to find because of some womens percepetion of how they would be viewed.

If you jumped off in one day with some dude and you want to wait with me because you think I am the one… YOU ARE NOT THE ONE.

I was approached by a porn star on south beach last year and she was a cool chick. www.kisspromise.com

I found out she was in the bizz but it did not change she is a cool chick. (especially cause she chose me)

I had to stop counting when my list looked like

Tanya Tanya Tanya Tanya Tanya Tanya Tasha Tasha Tasha Tasha Kim Kim Kim Kim Kim Kim Kim Kym Toya Toya Toya Toya Toya Toya Toya

Who am I to judge. God knows your heart before you even commit the act.

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this

QUE well according to that scenario it is a result of her past that has given her that reputation. We all know you’ll remember something wrong about somebody before you remember the good. Or if you remember both, the bad is more fun to talk about. It would definitely be hard to get rid of that stigma if a person was that lose back in the day. Basically it’s Reap what you sow, or you have to lie in the bed you made

By Dr..Jake..OBgyn

May 10, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

Dr. K.Y.M. You made a powerful statement there, dayum gurl, you trying shut it all the way down, but NOT!

sticks and stone may break my bones, but names will never hurt me…LOL

On the real, we could flip it by gender and it be the same accept for the group sex part, which BTW, does not occur in that way, I have never stood around a bunch of naked dudes nowhere. Your tone was somewhat dismissive, but valid…

We have an opening at the Stone Mountain office, we may have to get in for an emergency exam..LOL

By Wise Diva

May 10, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

LOL @ For Real! You have been clowning me all day, man. That’s not right shaking my head

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

My mind is telling noooooooooo but ..but my bodyyyy is telling me yyeesssss

i dont see nothing wronggggggg with alitttlle bump and grrrinnddddddd

see i know just what you want ….i know just what you neeeeddddd

i’m nottt fooolling around with youuuuuuu

with you is where i want to beeeeeeee

girl you need someoneeeeee someone likeee meeee

i dont see nothinggg wrongggg with alittle bumppp anf]d grinnnddddddd

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

Truth Would you tell your girl that you participated in 4 gang bangs, 3 Threesomes, and put GHB in one chicks drink back in college?

By abc

May 10, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this

As far as God knowing your heart before you even commit the act goes, the Bible is clear about how any sex outside of marriage is a sin. I don’t think anyone can cop to ‘real love’ being justification in that regard.

By Island Girl

May 10, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this

@Dr. Jake,

LOLOLOLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By QueDogTeaching

May 10, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this

Dushawn

Even as you posted everyone has limits, yours (Dancer, Prostitute, Friends ex girl) You would want to know so that you can make your own decision. Not that anything should change once you start liking someone, But in my humble (for your 20 years of service) opinion if everything is up front there are no surprises. Like at the end of every G.I. Joe cartoon, “Knowing is half the battle.”

By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert

May 10, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this

Jake That was not my intention to shut anything down. I guess my tone is dismissive but then again “I am in the grain of salt frame of mind.” I like debate it is healthy..we all past judgements we are human…but in the end it is not my opinion of you or anyone else that counts.

By Cassie

May 10, 2007 3:59 PM | Link to this

Slim Oddly, I talk to my momma about everything. We were just talking last week about how I lost my virginity and how incredibly terrible I thought it was. She got a big laugh out of the fact that I made the dude get dressed and drove him home!

TheTruth I do not perpetrate like I’m a born again virgin when I meet a man (or woman). I’m upfront, and believe in full disclosure if I’m interested in a relationship. Truth is, I’m friends or at least stay in touch with all my ex’s so it becomes imperative that I be honest.

And yeah, I have had some dudes say “dayummmm!” and pull the ho routine and run away. Screw them and their double standards! If it’s good for the goose, it’s good for the gander…

By DuShawn

May 10, 2007 4:02 PM | Link to this

“she was that girl who used to do the whole basketball team……..That is her sexual past dictating her social future” QUE, there’s some truth to that statement….but very little. Some of the biggest freaks I know are now high powered executive socialites. This one female comes to mind that is currently a bank president. She’s appeared in the paper shaking hands with the mayor on several occasions. Yet I remember her from giving my homeboy neck on the park almost every lunch break. Her “sexual past didn’t dictate her social future” She’s still very successful and respected in the community. Bruh, that’s just my opinion. It’s not my intention to dissect your words. I believe my own perverted conditioning and checkered past allows me to be much more tolerable of women that share a similar history.

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 4:04 PM | Link to this

For Real would you please get QDT a mighty dog costume?

By The Truth

May 10, 2007 4:08 PM | Link to this

Slim do you deserve anything less than “the truth”? Pun intended. LOL I would say that I’ve participated in group sex on more than 1 occasion. You need to know. If we are going to spend the rest of our lives together you better know who you partner is, not just the pretty parts either. Over time we’ll be joking or talking and its going to slip anyway, now I’m worse that a perv, I’m a liar. I tell women I have a bad temper, they need to know so when this thing goes south they’ll whats coming at them. Full disclosure.

Cassie you get a pass on your past because the majority of it was with women. LMAO The real question is are you cool with it? In all honesty hun in this day and age I don’t know if that would make you promiscous. You figure a 35 yo woman who had 1 bf or 2 a yr since 18 would dam near have you caught. I don’t know how many gets you to that point but I’ll petition god on your behalf for a total do over. LOL now the frequency of the one timers may be an issue of concern. Do you just get a thrill out of 1 timers or is some emotional need thats being met? That could definitely come back and bite some unsupsecting bruh, or sista.

By Batman

May 10, 2007 4:10 PM | Link to this

QDT with the kong fu grip in the house.

Man we about to form the Justice league up in here

By BlatinoBrutha -

May 10, 2007 4:13 PM | Link to this

….soon as i see you walk in the club ima flirt

….winkin eyes at me when i rollup on dem dubs ima flirt

….sometimes when i’m wit my chick on the lowww ima flirt

….and when she’s wit her man lookin at me damn riiight ima flirt

….so homey don’t bring ur girl to meet me cuz ima flirt

….and baby don’t bring your girlfriend to eat cuz ima flirt

….please believe it unless your game is TIGHT n you trust herrr, don’t bringer round me becuz ima flirt

By Jake.

May 10, 2007 4:13 PM | Link to this

I’m out early today ya’ll,

Kym, I like a good debate myself, but that was big shot you landed with the 2;59, score one for ya’ll.

Truth I’m dashing, keep’em under control…LOL

Yall be cool!!

By Cassie

May 10, 2007 4:18 PM | Link to this

The Truth Most of the one timers were from my misspent youth where neither myself nor my partner knew enough about female anatomy to make it satisfactory! If I were looking for some emotional need, no way would I look at a one time thing for it. That one time thing is less satisfying than taking a sh(* (not to be crude).

I’m 33, and ya know, I could care less about it except that I find the whole thing funny.

It’s like telling me you used to steal stuff from Record Bar when you were a kid/teenager. So what? Do you steal now? No? Ok, then….you aren’t always a thief because you enjoyed some mischief in your salad days, and you aren’t always forever going to be a ho or a player if you got a good bit when you were younger :-)

By BlatinoBrutha -

May 10, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this

Ok, so I know it’s late in the day, but i have to bring in something slightly off topic. I’m real tired of hearing girls i know, both ones that I’m tryin to tap, and friends of mine, about how they worry if they give it up too soon, dude won’t respect ‘em.

Listen up girls… Most of us make that determination about you pretty darn quick after meeting you. You are expeditiously put into one of two categories, and you know what they are. Once you’re there, you’re there, and timelines won’t mean a D@mn thing. If you’re in Cat1, then you’re just a hit, and even if you make us wait 30-60-90 days, we’ll still think you’re a quick hit. If you’re in Cat2 and you give it up on the first night and we really like you, you’ll end up as shorty anyway. There, i said it. Fellas, feel free to cosign or throw me under the bus.

By Atl Lady

May 10, 2007 4:25 PM | Link to this

Dr. Jake That’ll be 50 lashes with a wet noodle. Bad boy. Bad boy.

GaMan I agree with your 3:30 blog message. Healing is key for personal growth.

By For Real

May 10, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this

Dang yall still at huh???

Let me see starting at 3:27 post:

Slim Batman hasn’t gone bad. He is a detective. He just looking for clues.

Kym As Jesse likes to say You are Somebody and Keep Hope Alive

Dr..Jake..OBgyn Over 1 million served

Slim Comditioner? Is that for your hair or skin?

GA.Man Dusty Dyck Award 2007

QDT I gotcha bruh. Once freak always just with a different job.

Mo May I have this dance? Darlin’, it appears 2 me That U could use a date tonight A body that’ll do U right Tell me — Am I qualified? [I say?] Baby, I know it’s hard 2 believe But this body here is free tonight

Raqi You are married. You can’t be expecting For Real to turn you out. “I am about to me out for real)

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 4:32 PM | Link to this

Blatino so if a chick is in CAT2 that gives it up the first night, she must have that THY-OW for you like her enough after only knowing her one night.

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 10, 2007 4:34 PM | Link to this

Mannn.. y’all been busy today! 300 plus posts!

I am in Detroit,at the airport headed back to Atlanta, so I decided to jump on for a minute and see what was going on and I am sorry I did not get a chance to read all the posts.

Interesting that Wise Lurker posted this today, as I just had this convo last night with a broad I met last week! Great postWise LL!

Long story short,I informed the chick in a phone convo last night,that I am upfront and honest with all chicks I meet and with complete strangers like y’all.

After going through all the basic questions most women ask dudes, when they first meet them, I asked her did she have any other questions and she said yes I do….

I said what you want to know else and she said have you ever been wit a dude and how many sexual partners you think you have been with all your life?

Ya boy had to sit up strait on those last two questions and I answered no to dude bashin and rough estimate on the sexual partners about 250-400 lifetime average.

She got real quiet and I said don’t ask a question, if you don’t want to hear the truth!

She balked at my figures on the sex partners and I explained that most dudes that have had a rotation for more than 15 years would prolly fall in my major league average of homeruns!

Long story short again,the chick respected my honesty and said that she had never talked with a dude so honest! I said to her, why lie to a stranger!

She agreed, but said that most dudes are not strait forward and I said to her, most dudes have not figured out that when you lay all your cards on the table with a chick, you usually win!

Moral of the story is that the chick is picking me up from the airport tonight, so who knows….

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this

For Real Comdictioner is for the hair but i believe Dr Jake might have a few bottles of the Jezebell facial mask if you know someone interested.

By C tha 1

May 10, 2007 4:38 PM | Link to this

Cosign **BlatinoBrutha!! Timelines are highly overrated, I base my judgements off of demeanor and character if a chic is gonna be considered for main lady status.

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 4:39 PM | Link to this

Thank you By For Real for Dusty Award it is a honor to recieve from a 10 time past winner….naw you got me twisted

i just call it like i see it

By BlatinoBrutha -

May 10, 2007 4:39 PM | Link to this

Slim1, not necessarily. The point is if we like you and want to investigate a further possibility, giving it up that first night won’t usually change that. If a dude loses respect for you after one night, he didn’t respect you much in the first place.

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 4:41 PM | Link to this

LL Look at cha, do your thang buddy. We or I can’t even hate on you. BUT, what if you asked her those questions and she gave you the response you gave her regarding the numbers?

By For Real

May 10, 2007 4:41 PM | Link to this

*continuing recapping….

Truth Just tell Truth the dayum truth up front and let his cold hearted azz decide. How about that Truth did I get right?

carib dude umm K???

Slim You have reap alot and sowed in your bed. Gotcha!

Dr..Jake..OBgyn 1 million and one served. Go ahead dog. Do yo thang boi!

Wise You and Truth remind me of Refus and Cee-Cee. Yall look good together.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

May 10, 2007 4:41 PM | Link to this

For Real You know I am checkin for the cameras you prolly have hidden everywhere on you!! LOL Luckily this time I have on jeans instead of a mini skirt and I am sporting a nicely fitted t-shirt! :0)

Mo is getting her groove on while pattin For Real down..This boy probably got a camera on his left earlobe!

By Wise Diva

May 10, 2007 4:42 PM | Link to this

did that LL dude type 250-400, as in different partners?

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 4:43 PM | Link to this

Blatino I guess you have a point but i’m still not sure how one can respect or not respect you based off one night of hanging out unless that person acted in a certain way. Either way I’ve never had a one-night stand nor plan on it. I just haven’t met anyone that i was so intrigued by in a matter of hours to hop in the sack with them.

By SeanJohnson

May 10, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this

@ LL..good post..thats the bottom line..honesty..as much as possible..a female cant help but respect the truth…since they dont get to hear it from a dude too often..TOO many dudes telling a female what they want to hear to get in the panties..and she is gonna give them to you if wants to or not..another think..that comment u made yesterday about how a female should approach a dude…complimenting and all…thats the same way a dude should approach a female…lay it all on the table…either she is game or not..no need of cat and mouse..

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 10, 2007 4:47 PM | Link to this

@SlimOne If these chick would be honest, they ML average would be near most of these dudes, but they ain’t gonna tell it right!

By Linguist

May 10, 2007 4:48 PM | Link to this

Hey Blog Fam … Just pop’n in, all late… It’s been busy here at work today to say the least. I look forward to reading all the posts - given the great topic and all… wish I could’ve joined in at the onset.. but oh well.. The family and I are going on vacation for a few days - so be good everyone - and have a great weekend.

By Island Girl

May 10, 2007 4:49 PM | Link to this

LL, WTF….250-400!

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 4:52 PM | Link to this

LL I’m surprised you still have any skin left on your dizzic!! nothing but grissle. Are YOU a porn star?

By Wise Diva

May 10, 2007 4:53 PM | Link to this

Well, the She Said/He Said format was a great success. Red Khezu, thanks again sir!

I have a few good men signing up for the next one, so thanks to all the gents who contacted me.

Have a wonderful evening, folks

DIVA OUT

By SlimOne

May 10, 2007 4:54 PM | Link to this

SeanJ if you keep it real and lay the truth on the table, then how are you a dog?

By "Longtime Lurker"

May 10, 2007 4:54 PM | Link to this

@Island Girl I have always been international babe! I love running around them bases! But best believe ya boy is always in safety mode, with the regular check ups! Can’t be loosin weight and ish!

I am out y’all, you can find me in the “A”

By For Real

May 10, 2007 4:56 PM | Link to this

Keep looking Mo. While I keep singing and I like dem jeans gurl.

*Your very own first class flight My plane’s parked right outside, baby Don’t U wanna go 4 a ride? (yeah) I’m an international lover, yeah that’s right Let me take U ‘round the world I’ll buy U diamonds and pearls Only if you’re good girl

Darlin’, I know it’s been a long time Since you’ve been satisfied I can tell by the look in your eyes U need it real bad (real bad), U need it so bad, so bad (real bad)Baby, maybe if you’re good girl I’ll introduce U 2 my ride Don’t U wanna come inside? C’mon baby, I won’t fly 2 fast, I’ve got so—(C’mon baby, I won’t fly 2 fast, I’ve got so much class)*

By For Real

May 10, 2007 4:57 PM | Link to this

Slim “Either way I’ve never had a one-night stand nor plan on it. I just haven’t met anyone that i was so intrigued by in a matter of hours to hop in the sack with them.”

You ain’t seen me in my Batman suit yet. Oh don’t forget about my utility belt.

By GA.man

May 10, 2007 4:59 PM | Link to this

We would like thank you for tuning in to our show…we hope that you learned something and alwayssssss

love peace and hair grease

Remember if you put God in it your outcome will be better than you thought it would be…keep smiling and we will see ya’ll next time

(Cue music)

By Red Khezu

May 10, 2007 6:43 PM | Link to this

eh, to each his or/ her opinion. I know who I am, and I know what I do and don’t like. I have this “Pie” I only want to share with the most deserving Lady out there and from reading alot of these posts, there is alot of things on here I would give an immediate pink slip (Dropping the girl like a hot rock) for if it were hidden from me even if we were just married or had been a few years. Because 1. I would have covered all those questions before hand, which would mean she would had lied to me for X amount of time. 2. with me, once the trust has been broken its almost impossible to gain back. 3. I have been betrayed before, almost 10 years of being betrayed by one person which I try not to dwell on even after 3 years and it was my fault for being too Trusting and dem-witted and I’ll be damned (sorry) if I ever find that my partner is a compulsive Lier / Cheater or wants to play the Secerts game.

Ladies I honestly do not understand why some of you would ever forgive a cheater, they should not be imo. As being a person who has been cheated on, I would never tolerate it again. There are other things I’d like to to touch on, but I do not want to put anyone on the spot, so I will let yall guess. Now I’m not saying I’m a saint but I can say with Confidence I have never cheated, tried mess with someone else’s mate, been man-w*******, and gotten my sexual partners into the double digits. My number is 5 and even then I am ashamed its that many, I wish it could just be 1. Believe it or not, I’m not even a religious person (I hate Labeled Relgions), I just have some values and No One will change that.

By julie

May 11, 2007 8:49 AM | Link to this

it was my ex husband that had the checkered past, I told him all of my faults but he failed to tell me he was a CROSS DRESSER and wore his moms panties as a kid!! I kicked him to the curb and now he is remarried and has not told her of his panty wearing life style.. but hey I dont have a dog in this fight any more!