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Mom’s the word
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
I hope everyone knows that this Sunday is Mother’s Day. When I think of my fabulous mother, the ORIGINAL Wise Diva, I can’t help but remember all the wonderful advice, insight, and support she has given me about life, love, and relationships. She certainly understands that it’s a completely different era than when she was single. I wish I could list everything she has taught me about dating, but that would be an endless list! So, I will chime in during the day to share the gems of wisdom my mother has given me. I want to hear from you guys what your mothers have taught you too.
What advice or tips did your mother, or mother figure tell you about dating, relationships, or love?
Did you listen to her advice? How has it helped you?
Has your mother ever given you “tough love” when it comes to your dating experiences?
What is your favorite memory of you and your mother?
What are your plans for Mother’s Day?
Happy Mother’s Day to ALL the mothers!
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By SlimOne
May 11, 2007 8:22 AM | Link to this
Good Morning ALl
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 8:25 AM | Link to this
Morning All…Happy Friday!!! TGIF!!! Thanks Diva!!! Also Happy Mother’s Day to All the Blog Mommies too from your truly!!!:) Everyone enjoy your day and weekend!!!
By Sexione
May 11, 2007 8:32 AM | Link to this
Happy Friday ALL!!!!
And Happy Mother’s Day to all the “mommies”!!
By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert
May 11, 2007 8:33 AM | Link to this
Happy Mother’s Day to all the Moms out there..
My mama passed away (it will be three years this Augus)t…but it was not really until I didn’t have her anymore that I realized how much her legacy had taught me.
1.Unconditional love given even through unbelievable trials.
Always wear a smile even on your bad days.
Better out than in…
Regarding dating she said…Men or like buses there will be another one along after while.
Favorite Memories of my mama are watching her with her grandkids and her dog. An the way she greeted everyone she met saying…Hey Whatcha Know Good?
I am always get all warm inside when people who knew her tell me how sweet and loving she was…That’s my Mama.
By T-Mango
May 11, 2007 8:37 AM | Link to this
Good morning all-
I’m an only child. My mother and I share a very close relationship. So, she’s a good friend to me as well. She’s never given me tough love with regard to dating. Instead, she gives me room to make my own decisions (right or wrong), but she is always there for me-loving me unconditionally.
As I date, she continues to reassure me that I am a beautiful, intelligent, driven, and grounded woman that the right man will value, want to build something with and be proud of. Hearing this helps to ‘keep pushin’ at those times when I’m frustrated, or had my heart broken…and rolled over on I-285 (LOL). Moreover, she taught me to always stay true to myself/my values and to always face my fears.
I will be spending the day with my mom since she only lives 15 minutes away from me. We always enjoy each others company. I don’t have any children. But, I do have a 105lb ‘canine son’…so he’ll be rolling out with me on Sunday:-)
Happy Mother’s Day
By Raqi
May 11, 2007 8:45 AM | Link to this
My mother was the most compassionate person I have ever met but at the same time she was straight forward and blunt tongued. She taught me a lot about life. She was there during those most trying times that I faced in my relationships. She held my hand when I needed it and she slapped my hand when I deserved it.
I use to say I want to be like my mother but one day she told me live your life, be who you are, I will love you no matter what. I wish so many times that she was still here because I just need to talk to her so bad sometimes. I get so scared sometimes I just really don’t know what to do and I know she would tell me the right thing. Whether I liked what she had to say or not, but…now I am weeping just little bit.
The day she died I remember thinking what am I going to do now, then I remember back to when I found out I was pregnant with my second son and what she told me. She said “Life will not put more on you than you can bear. You have got to find the strength to endure. It’s there but you have to find it.”
I can’t do this right now. I’ll be back.
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 8:54 AM | Link to this
Sorry I meant to type to you from yours truly!!! Again, Happy Mothers Day to All!!!:) Now going away peacefully!:)
Peace
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
May 11, 2007 8:57 AM | Link to this
Morning ALL and Happy Mother’s Day to all Moms, God-Mothers and Grandmoms (and to all the dads that serve as both parents)!!
My mom always had things she would say that I found amusing but that was great advice as well:
Marry a man that is good with his hands (handy around the house).
Always pay attention to the way he treats his mother/aunt/sister/grandmother.
Always act like you got some sense, I will NOT have people think you were raised by a pack of wolves!
Keep God first and you always deserve to be happy, no matter what.
There are many more but those were the ones that crossed my mind this morning. My mom lives here as well (about 10 mins away from me) so I will be hanging out with her this weekend!
By kinderbabe
May 11, 2007 8:59 AM | Link to this
dr.kym it is good to read that you have such good memories of your mother. she sounds like a wonderful lady.:)
raqi know that your mother’s spirit lives on eternally and is w/you always. her love is everlasting.
t-mango i have a feline baby…lol. so i’m w/you in that regard. i’m not expecting a mother’s day gift from her though…lol.
to all the women who are influential in the life of a child whether it be through birth, adoption, marriage, teaching or volunteering, happy mother’s day!!
By SlimOne
May 11, 2007 9:00 AM | Link to this
Looks Like it’s going to be a Sappy Friday
Well my mom had me when she was fairly young so I believe that led to us being so close. It was almost as if we both experienced life and learned together. I did go through a tough period after my parents got divorced and had to deal with ole ‘step-daddy’ and temporarily strained our relationship. As i got older i began to understand things a little more. She has always taught me to do the best I can, remain faithful and to prepare for what God has for us.
She never really gave me tough love in regards to relationships. She pretty much allowed me to live my life and do what i felt was best for me. If i asked for advice, she would give it but not try to impose it.
I don’t have just one memory that stands out that we’ve shared because there are many. We’ve laughed a whole lot together and cried. But i love making her laugh. I guess you can call me the comedian of the family because there’s no telling what will come out of my mouth. I’m sure the regular bloggers know this already.
By MusingLee
May 11, 2007 9:02 AM | Link to this
Morn’in All,
Is it Mother’s Day already???
Now searching Walgreens for the perfect gift
By GA.man
May 11, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this
Good Morning to all the ladies
My Mom was the best…she is gone but not forgotten..She always said treat any lady like you want someone to treat me or your sisters…and remember to just be you never words were better spoken…I know she is up there listening and Mom just know that I love you and miss you everyday
It is soooo funny how we take little things for granite, and never miss them until they are gone…this applies to dating as well…
Oh well….gotta run will be back this afternoon..but to all the blog Moms you are the best no matter what anyone says or does…i respect for all that you do
By Brit_girl
May 11, 2007 9:04 AM | Link to this
Growing up my Mother and I didn’t always have the best relationship, she had me when she was 39. So when I was going through puberty and teenage angst, she was going through menopause. I look back and feel for my Father at the time. LOL
Also being the daughter of immigrants was not easy (my parents are Jamaican) in a western world. But now that I’m in my 30s’ I appreciate all that my Mother did for me and my siblings. I’ve reconciled the things she was not so good at by understanding what she was going through at the time.
The best thing my Mother did for me was to teach me not to live my life by anyone elses standards. To do what was best for me and to understand that as a woman I don’t have to be defined by the traditional roles that society has defined for females. But she also taught me that as a female in a relationship your responsibility is to uplift and take care of your man, that’s what I saw her do every day with my Father until the day he died. That was priceless it makes my marraige so much stronger.
By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert
May 11, 2007 9:14 AM | Link to this
Kinder Thanks she was.
You know even though my mom and I didnt spend alot of time together until I got much older my aunties all played apart in raising me and my sister.
My Aunties are the strongest women I know. They taught me to….
Believe in myself…and always do my best.
Book sense is great…common sense is essential.
God Blesses the child who has his own.
You will be respectful…of yourself and others.
Dont shame me more importantly dont shame yourself.
Do not leave the house looking rough dry…always present the best you to the world.
About dating and relationship…well there is not enough space for all the advice they gave me.
However, as a single mom my auntie always reminded me that my son’s father(while he may have been a jackass) he was still his dad and that my son had ever right to know him and his people.
She says..”Children need to learn people for themselves.” I still apply that wisdom in dealing with his father’s family.
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 9:18 AM | Link to this
Now that was a great post and the truth@9:14…Those words are all true even down to the fathers of our chidren during the tough times!!! Wise words!:)
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
May 11, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this
On dating: My mom never really gave me advice on dating but when certain relationships were over she ran dudes through the ringer!! I laugh just thinking about how she clowned me about some of my choices saying “I wasnt gonna say anything, YOU had to deal with him, I’m married!” LOL
Dr Kym I have to remind myself of that everyday, my son’s father(while he may have been a jackass) he was still his dad and that my son had ever right to know him and his people. Now my ex isnt always a jackazz but there are times when I wish I could twinkle my nose and make him go away. Yet my mother has been reminding me that I know my family so I have to give my child that same experience (at least as much as I can). Its hard sometimes but it is true…
By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert
May 11, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this
Mo My son’s father passed away 4 years ago. So his family is my son’s only link to him…they can be jackasses…but they are still his family.
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
May 11, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this
Dr Kym sorry to hear about your son’s father.
I guess right now even in the midst of a divorce my mom has a point. No matter how much he (father) gets on my nerves I would never dream of trying to keep my son away from him. I wont punish my child b/c me and his dad couldnt get it right. However I dont expect other folks to be acting crazy either! LOL
By Jake.
May 11, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this
Good morning Ovulaters, head nod MLB
Happy Mother’s Day to those who have blossoming seeds!
My mom has given me a few nuggets over the years. Here are my favorites.
Keep God first in all that you do!
Give God some of your time!
Put it in the Lord’s hands!
Mom is somewhat of a spiritual fanatic, gave me the foundation, and showed me the way!
On the relationship side:
Always wear good shoes, a man who won’t take care of his shoes, won’t take care of a woman. Women watch that!
Make sure she makes you happy!
Ask yourself what does she do for you? not cook and clean type of stuff, but do for you on the inside, how does she make your heart feel?
And last but not least, (high school)Keep that lil peeta in your pants because I ain’t raising yours!
By T-Mango
May 11, 2007 9:41 AM | Link to this
Do not leave the house looking rough dry…always present the best you to the world.
Dr. Kym-I laughed when I saw this. My mom says ‘don’t go out lookin’ like a BUMP…put a little makeup on’. The sayings are endless.
Kinderbabe-lol. I feel ya on the ‘pet parenting’ front.
By SlimOne
May 11, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this
For Future holidays a neat gift would be this
By Raqi
May 11, 2007 9:46 AM | Link to this
My favorite most memorable times, as far as my relationships are concerned, with my mother are:
When I told her I was getting married to my first husband, she said “You can’t hide a pregnancy with a quickie marriage”. I said “I am not pregnant”, then she said “But you think you might be.” LOL How did she know that. Turned out I wasn’t but she was sharp just the same.
About a year I guess after I married my first husband I thought everything was just heavenly. I was telling her how happy I was and how well we were doing. She laughed and said “Little girl life has sooo many surprises in store for you, you can’t even begin to imagine what to expect.” She wasn’t lying.
When I first told her about Whitebread she said “If that’s what you want to do I can’t stop you but I’ll be here when it’s all over.” That statement made me kind of mad but she could see what I couldn’t.
The one and only time I ever cussed her to her face she said with the sternest look I have ever seen her have, “I understand that you are going through a bad time right now but if you ever use that tone and that language with me again…”
I went to my parent’s house to pick up my oldest son, after having an encounter with Whitebread. She to took one look at me and said “You better keep that man out of your bed.” I was like, “What are you talking about he just came by to see his son.” She said “I can see and smell him all over you.” She was lying she couldn’t smell him, but she sure could see something because she right.
When she was in hospital before she died, Mason dropped me off to visit her. After he left she said, “That’s the one.” I laughed and said I am not trying to get tied up in no serious relationship with that man.
There are a ton of non-relationship moments that I treasure so dearly, but since this is a relationship forum…
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
May 11, 2007 9:46 AM | Link to this
Happy Mother Day Ladies!!
Me and my mom is so close— She had me on her birthday!! We shop together and talk on the phone everyday people say i look just like her. She never really gave me any relationship tips. But if nothing else stuck in my head these words did ” work, don’t wait on no man to pay your bill, cook, clean, and take care of yourself”
My heart goes out to you guys who mom has pass. It’s a thought that just scrares me to tears— A few time my mom got ill and i felt like i would hurt forever nonstop if she pass.. My mom is my best friend- i can always depend on her when everyhing else fail.. You guys are super, i have nothing but respect for you guys— to be able to endure such a storm and to continue ….
Blog roses for everyone…
By kir
May 11, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this
buenos dias blog fam. had to check in for the mother’s day blog. happy mother’s day to all the moms! hey wise!
i have come to appreciate my mom even more the older i get. when i was a kid, she was just my mom, but now i see her as a woman, and i can’t imagine how she raised us as a single parent, worked, had little time for herself and kept her sanity. i respect and admire her so much for all she did for us. now i’m hoping that since my sister is almost grown she will have a chance to enjoy her life more and do the things she always wanted to do.
as far as advice goes…my grandmother is especially known for her quotables. here are a couple of them…
-don’t leave your drink unattended at a party. don’t let anybody bring you a drink if you didn’t see them fix it. you can’t trust everybody.
-never let your right hand know what your left hand is doing.
-lock your doors! and always look in your backseat before you drive off.
-i don’t want you marrying a man that has an earring.
LOL my people are here in town so i will get the chance to spend some quality time with them. i lost two family members in the last several months so it is even more important to me to enjoy the time i have with my family.
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
May 11, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this
Happy Friday Everyone!!
This weekend brings such mixed emotions for me because my mom is no longer with me. I feel like the odd man out because in my circle of friends EVERYONE still has their mother so they’re planning and celebrating. I know it’s wrong…but I can’t help feel a tinge of jealousy.
Okay, best advice my mom gave me was when I was in high school about my first boyfriend. My boyfriend and I had gotten into some sort of dispute and I was really upset…my mother said…Oh, Lady Dark, there will be many more Chris(es) in your life I was devastated at those words, but I quickly learned when I went to college that she was absolutely right!
Mother ALWAYS affirmed, confirmed, and reassured us…she would tell us ALL the time that we are beautiful and she would say, How come someone hasn’t discovered you yet. To her, no one was more beautiful than her 2 baby girls who went off to college in Atlanta.
When she passed away I thought to myself…now, who is going to tell me that I’m beautiful (and believe it!). But what I found out was all the years of her love taught me that I’m beautiful. At her funeral, sooooo many people showed up. You would have thought she was a celebrity in Cincinnati.
My biggest disappointment is that my husband, nor my kids would ever get to meet her!!
Okay, last thing, she was so sentimental and emotional. When my college boyfriend and I broke up she cried right there with me.
By abc
May 11, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this
My Mom told me that it might be true love if I’m shaving in the morning and the girl comes in the bathroom with her hair in curlers and puffy eyes, sits down to take a pee and a crap and I’m not completely grossed out. Gotta love Mom.
She told me that I should never divulge personal details about myself at work, because people are so judgemental, they’ll judge you on those instead of the quality of your work. That’s a golden nugget there, I’ve always found that to be true.
By Twindivamomma
May 11, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this
I share the same mother as Wise Diva. Although I am married now, I do think my mother prepared me for being a strong woman in 2007. It is my desire to enstill the same strong woman mentality in my twin daughters. I hope each of you will mentor or assist another young lady to be a strong female in the future.
By Raqi
May 11, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this
I am so busy remembering my mom I forgot to say HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY to my fellow moms.
By SlimOne
May 11, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this
Question anybody ever been to 300 bowling lanes? I was thinking about going there for my birthday in 3 weeks. I heard IT was very nice and I believe this is the same place Ryan Cameron holds his celebrity bowling competition.
By demi
May 11, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this
Happy Mother’s Day To All The Sexy Mothers Out There!!!!!
And hey to all my “Iaintgotnokids” ladies as well!!
By demi
May 11, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this
MusingLee you so cheap!! LOL
By Raqi
May 11, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this
kir “i have come to appreciate my mom even more the older i get.”
I could not agree more. My mom told my sister and I both when we were young that there will come a time we won’t like her too well but we will soon find out that she is our friend. As kids our parents try to teach us and guide us in the best way to go but we only see it as them not letting us to do this, that and the other. But to look back and say she knew what she was talking about is an understatement. Even the times I didn’t listen and got into some undesirable messes I can appreciate that she did tell me before it even happened. These last several years I have come to realize that I took in more of her teaching than I thought and that makes me be that much more unwavering and patient with my kids. It is seeping in whether they know it or not.
By kir
May 11, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this
hey slimone i’ve never been but i’ve heard it is a good look. i think it’s worth a try. i plan on going to something up there next week. if i go i’ll let you know how it is.
By Dr. Kym Relationship Expert
May 11, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this
Slim I have been to 300 and it is a really nice place to go for bowling. The food is great…not any of those tired chicken wings and greasy fries.
By SlimOne
May 11, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this
kir I’d really appreciate it. I’m thinking about doing Pappadeaux’s then working off that good food at 300 bowling
Check it out here
By SlimOne
May 11, 2007 10:55 AM | Link to this
Dr Kym do you remember what day of the week you went there? I’m looking the Saturday after my b-day. I just wanted to know what type of crowd was there when you went.
By For Real
May 11, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this
Happy Mother’s Day
Musing pick up a rose, card, and some blue knee highs. Good looking out bruh…
By The Truth
May 11, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this
Good morning bloggers. Reading some of your posts made my eyes water. Yeah, I said it, the truth has feelings too. LOL
I have always been blessed in regards to women (by that I mean I’ve always had the perfect woman for that moment) and my mother was no exception. We grew up in a tough enviroment and poor but moms was always up to the task. She passed a year and half ago but she went out on her shield. A warrior till the end, it was her decision. I hope I have her guts when my day comes. My overriding memories are of her holding me by my cheeks and looking me in my eyes and telling me ” you are special, you can do anything you want in life”. She told me that so many times I still can see her eyes when I think of it. We also read alot together. She would lay on the couch and I would lay behind her and we would read for hours. I also remember having a fight with a guy that was bigger than me and I came home crying and she said either go wup his a* or shut up. Losing hurt so bad. It took a year to get that guy back but I got him. Momma didn’t raise no punks. LOL I have never lost a fight since then, thats the gods honest truth. She also single handedly got me through my first puppylove. She told me what to do and I would do it and it worked like a charm. It was so cool. She even got me some “Brut by Faberge”. Whats funny is I was riding with my sister a few months ago and sharing these same thoughts with my sister and she didn’t have the same memories, hers weren’t as loving. Maybe because I was the baby of a a large family and she had learned on the previous children and had more mental time for me, I don’t know.
When I was 15 I had gotten in trouble and she tried to scold me and I just looked at her, neither one of said a word. A year later I left and have been gone ever since. The day before she died we were talking on the phone saying our last goodbyes and talked about that day. She said it tore her heart because that day she lost her baby. We cried together and said goodbye and she passed the next day. My family was mad at my mother for choosing not to have an operation that would of kept her alive but not able to function as normal. She made the final deciosion. The greatest gift she gave me was the ability to make a decision, it may not always be the right one but I will make a decision. Mom, I don’t know if you read AJC blogs but if you do I miss you.
I think the reason I am so hard on women is because I know what its like to be loved, and I know when it doesn’t feel like love.
By SlimOne
May 11, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this
Musing Don’t feel bad, I haven’t picked up anything yet either. I thought my mom was coming up here from Montgomery but i guess she changed her mind.
By For Real
May 11, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this
Awww Nawww Hellllll Nawwww Truth?? Have you been drinking with Wise again????
By SlimOne
May 11, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this
Truth WOW! Need I say more?
By Raqi
May 11, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this
I will be spending this Mother’s Day without my sons. My oldest is flying to Seattle tomorrow to get the grandbabe. His return flight doesn’t get in until Sunday late evening. My youngest will be with father whose mother flew in this week. This is probably good because this will be The Man’s first mother’s day without his mother and it has not been two months since she died. We will probably go to the earliest church service on Sunday, leave there and go put flowers on my mom’s grave and then spend the rest of the day at home.
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this
Now Truth, Lady J has shed two tears…Wow, when we think are battles are overwhelming the next one makes you realize how bless we are through it all the god, bad, and ugly!:)
Thanks for sharing!!!:) HAve a great weekend despite all!
By kinderbabe
May 11, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this
there’s nobody like momma to bring us all together. how sweet.:) ((((((blog hug))))))
i went on ftd and sent my mom some flowers. they will be delivered on sat or sunday. i hope she likes them:)
anybody going to check out sweet auburn this weekend?
By Dr. Kym- Mom
May 11, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this
Slim When I go it is usually on a Saturday. On a Saturday afternoon we were there until around 7:00.
I have gone on a late evening and been there until past 11:00pm.
The crowd in the afternoon is mixed..alot of families, a few couples on dates..etc.
The evening hours the crowd is still a good mixture but as the night progress it gets a bit to clubby for my taste. They turn off the lights, giant screens show videos and the lanes take on that whole cosmic bowling…but still it is a great place to have fun and mix with other singles.
By Raqi
May 11, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this
Truthy when you say it was her decision what do you mean, if you don’t mind saying.
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this
Now Truth, Lady J has shed two tears…Wow, when we think our battles are overwhelming the next one makes you realize how bless we are through it all the good, bad, and ugly!:)
Thanks for sharing!!!:) Have a great weekend despite all!
Sorry for the typos…Again Thanks for sharing Truth!:)
By SeanJohnson
May 11, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this
Sup Blog…Happy Mothers Day to all of the mothers…
Good Blog..yall hve me wanting to gas up the truck and drive to FLA and see my ole girl…My moms sound JUST like Jakes mom…drop the same exact nuggets…and always on my about going to church and finding a church home..and making sure my son knows the Lord..My moms is my angel…thats the only person i can say i can count on that has my back no matter what…Being that she was a single mom..she taught me how to clean, iron and cook …told me i would have to know these things so i can be independent..We call each other every saturday..but these days…its not so much about me..she wants to know what my son is doing.and talk to him.i tell her all the time..i aint her baby anymore…he is…and she just laughs and tell me i will always be her baby..
By Wise Diva
May 11, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this
Oh goodness, we need a tissue alert on these comments!
Just beautiful
By SlimOne
May 11, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this
Dr Kym GREAT! Sounds like where I need to be for my birthday. I love some cosmic, tipsy bowling. hehehehe But don’t worry, I won’t be driving.
By kir
May 11, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this
this might be corny…but one thing i would like to do for my mom is set her up on a date with a really nice guy around her age. my mom spends so much time taking care of other people that she deserves to go out and have some fun herself. i wish there was a dating site where i could fill out a profile for her and pick some potentials. :D maybe i could convince her to go on e-harmony or something.
By kinderbabe
May 11, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this
msU that’s so cool that you and your mother have the same birthday!
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this
@SeanJohnson…As always great post!!!! She did a wonderful job!:)
By T-Mango
May 11, 2007 11:35 AM | Link to this
Truth-Nice post.
No tickets for blog length will be given out today due to Mother’s Day recollections…
By Jake.
May 11, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this
Truth
Great post bruh.
Kinder Sweet Auburn is a definite on my calendar, love the atmosphere, probably hit it Sat. evening for the good time, late Sunday when the vendors drop the prices..lol
LadyJ I saw something about IEP’s yesterday, do you teach the Special ones?
By MusingLee
May 11, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this
demi & For Real Man, I can’t help it…LOLOLOLOL
Musing: Happy Mothers day Mom.
Mom: WTH is this Musing?
Musing: It’s a bar of soap/thief deterrent.
Mom: M/F this is “Soap on a Rope”…You act JUST like yo’Daddy!
Musing now spending real Mother’s Day money on himself
By kimmie
May 11, 2007 11:40 AM | Link to this
Truth, that was very nice. I could not stand you when you first started blogging, but I am begining to understand you better. I totally get what you mean by knowing what love feels like. September ‘06 was ten years since I lost my wonderful mother. The Olympics were in town and we went to see synchronized swimming at GA tech. That was the last outing we had together. A month later she was gone, had cancer. She was one of the most clean-living, health conscious people I knew, so when cancer took her it was a shock to all. I felt horrible for my dad because this was the 2nd wife he had lost to cancer. Anyway, she was glamorous, smart, humble and a GREAT mother. When it came to us kids, she had this saying “No stone left unturned”, meaning she cut no corners with us and there was nothing she would not do for us. She insisted on excellence from us all. She and my father made a great TEAM. Truth, I can be a little hard on men, too, because I fashion myself after my mother, a woman worthy of a great man like my father. If I could have even a fraction of what they had, I would be grateful.
I remember going off to see a guy I was dating at Cornell. The trip did not go well; he did not seem happy to have me there even though we had not seen each other in a while. I came back home in tears. She had warned me I probably should not go, but I just had to go and try to FIX things. She let me make my own mistake. When I came to her on my return, she said very little, but what she did say was profound. She said he should have welcomed me with open arms if he truly loved me. You are a beautiful, smart lady and this should be the best time of both your lives, young, in love and with bright futures ahead. You should not be so miserable and you are just dating. Love asks no questions.
I have never forgotten those words. She was an incredible role model and when people that knew her tell me I look like her and take after her, I consider it the ultimate compliment. I miss her dearly. I am spending the weekend with her mother, my grandmother in south GA. Her spirit will be all around us. I love you, Mom!
By Dr. Kym- Mom
May 11, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this
Talking mama always me think of my mommy moments with my son and what will he reflect on in our relationship. One of the things he loves to do is get his baby book look at the pictures and say “Mama why was I crying here…and what was I doing here. I give him another year of this memory lane stuff before he forgets he has a baby book.
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
May 11, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this
Kinderbabe I want to go to Sweet Auburn this weekend, I havent been in a couple of years. I need to become social again!! LOL
SlimOne you should enjoy 300 Atlanta!
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this
Yeah Jake I do…I have a small caseload but they are a handfull.. It is an Interelated Class with a content teacher and a Special Ed Teacher since the NCLB Act has been incoperated…I am praying for self contain classes to come back but oh well!!!:)
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 11:47 AM | Link to this
Kinderbabe thanks for informing about the Aburn Festival…That is something me and lil Lady J can do and enjoy!! I always kid I am not the mom who you will catch at the mall with the stroller and million things but I am going to start although she has been walking the stroller will come in handy!:) Thanks for sharing!:)
By NCgirlfromATL
May 11, 2007 11:47 AM | Link to this
Musing pick up a rose, card, and some blue knee highs. Good looking out bruh…
For Real and Musing on a rocket (aka, the Civic) in gasoline drawers heading waaaaaaaaay down South:
Musing (fanning the booty area) Aye mayne, why is it so hot in here? These black vinyl seats in the Civic sure are hot!
For Real (sweating profusely, riding shotgun) I dunno, mayne…OUCH! Whattha….OOOOOOUCH! AYE!
Musing For Real, man, whatchu hollerin about?…(thump upside his head) DAYUM! Whotha…
Musing and For Real’s mama’s stopping the rocket to h3ll long enough to use their custom-made Jewel purse to beat the crap outta their boys for the blue hose for Mother’s Day.
Mama’s in unison Ooooooooh, y’all thought that was funny, huh? I got yo funny! Blue hose!?! I bet next time yo azzez will be at the Tiffany store hookin’ a sista up! Blue hose indeed. The only blue hose we ever want to see are some alien girls gone wild, and you bet not have any of that goin’s on either!*
LMAO! Y’all wrong for that!
By Raqi
May 11, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this
kir Sorry to tell you this but your mom will be getting the second nicest greatest guy out there because my dad is already taken. In fact he is getting married this September. I have only met the lady he is marrying only once but she is coming down with him for my son’s graduation. If I see something in her that I don’t like I will most def get her out of the picture and give a blog holla to let you know what’s up.
He is from the Dominican, dark skinned, a full head of hair like silk, around 5’11” I think, a retired aerospace engineer, loves to travel. An absolute great catch. Oh and he is 72 yrs old. Don’t think I am kidding because I am not. My dad deserves another good woman and I will do what I can to help him find her.
If you pull up the blog one day and see Hey kir hit me up on this email #####@##### then you will know what it is all about.
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
May 11, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this
Hi Kinderbabe!!
Hey SeanJohnson— after reading your post, now i know why i like u!!!— Your mom install some good ingredient in you ^5 to your mommy!!
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
May 11, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this
SJ your post earlier about always being your mom’s baby made me think of something Bill Cosby said about his son, Ennis, after Ennis was killed. When on Oprah’s how talking about his son he said that Ennis was his son but that he was Camille’s baby. I thought that was soo cute how he referenced that, never taking away any love that either parent had for their child. So yes, you will always be your mom’s baby! :0)
By SeanJohnson
May 11, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this
@ Truth..i feel you about feeling like moms was closer to me being that i was the baby..and my mom bought me that “Brut” cologne too..the one in dark race car bottle…and that statement about knowing what being loved feels like…i can remember as a kid asking my mom….”gimme some” knowing it was her fav dish she was eating and she would give me a fork full….and till this day..if a female is eating something she love and i ask to taste..little do she know..i am testing her love for me…
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
May 11, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this
@ Dr.Kym-mom My kids does the same thing— my son be like momma i used to be a baby- i’m like you sure did- he be like- is that me right there, what was i doing— oh and don’t let me bring out the videos of them- they just go on and on
By MusingLee
May 11, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this
NCgirl the civic has non-stick seats…LOLOLOL..and Jewel Bet-Not give my Mama her purse to beat me with…hahahahahaha.
Musing: Mama is that Jewel’s purse you gonna beat me with?
Mom: Yeah…You know you a bad’azz lil’boy.
Musing now handing Mom his newly purchased “Vicky’s Icky Sticky” Water bottle and Dog Show ticket set…..
Musing still on a slow ride to hellz blasting Atomic Dog
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
May 11, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this
Musing!! saying it while pointing to the corner..
By T-Mango
May 11, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this
SJ…here’s a non-church blog hug for ya… Nice post.
By Alvin
May 11, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this
her and I were never close while I was growing up…Because I thought she was soooooo weak…Lil Demi force me to see the unbelievable strength she has as a mother. Baby boi drove me dayum near crazy last weekend with his tantrums, my mom simply handle it all with grace and some how got that that devil child to calm down. So I ask her,”Ma how ya do tha?” She replied all lady like and ish, “Oh, he acts the same way you once did. You know the old saying, ‘Like father like son.’”
Y’all know I was standing there with a WTF look on my face right.
So I told her, “You one Baad AZZ Mamma!!!”
After which I give her a hug and a kiss on the cheek…Along with a few pairs of shoes…Just because.
By Jake.
May 11, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this
SeanJ
My moms can turn any conversation into a sermon. Used to take us to church 3 times a week. Sun., wd for bible study, and then friday at this lil store front church. Mama loves church, I used to hate going when I was young, but I am glad I went so much.
That how I know where real strength come from.
LadyJ I had a severe class for a few years, I hated writing them IEP’s, some of the goals can be unrealistic.
By SlimOne
May 11, 2007 12:06 PM | Link to this
SeanJ wasn’t that ‘last bite test’ done in one of those movies? I think it had Gabrielle Union and Morris Chestnut in it….help me out here, my memory isn’t that great. I use to do my mom that way to though.
By Tim
May 11, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this
So I will try and lighten the mood. The best advice my mother gave me was when I was 18 years old and we were on the subject of pre-marital sex. It was a practical discussion and lively, but the best line (and the conversation ender) was when my mom said “You wouldn’t buy a car without test-driving it, would you?” Pure genius!!
By Raqi
May 11, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this
Dr.Kym the hardest thing about boys is that transition going from the most important woman in their lives to being the last woman they want to be talking to about anything. That’s where I am with my oldest. I remember when I could do no wrong as far as he was concerned. Then the day came when his nose became wide open and he started sniffing around trying to find a different type of love for a woman. He talks to Mase more than he does me now. That’s good because he needs a male POV but there was a time when my word was gospel in his ears. Now it’s just blah, blah, blah because I don’t understand. Cherish those moments while you can.
By NCgirlfromATL
May 11, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this
Oh, and Happy Mother’s Day!!
My mom and I are real cool! LOL! She always had (has) little nuggets for me too:
Put on a coat. You’re going to catch pnuemonia!
Always wear clean underwear…and make sure they don’t have holes!
When going on a date, make sure you take enough money to pay for yourself, and have a way to get home…in case he can’t pay the bill! (Can’t tell you how many times I’ve put that advice into practice!)
Always act like a lady.
My parents are still parents to me. I don’t think I’ll ever get to a point where they are my friends. And that is totally fine with me! I’ve got lots of friends, but only 2 parents. Now, if I could figure out how to get them to only be a little in my koolaid, rather than all up in it I’d be great! LMAO!! Guess you can’t have it both ways, eh?
By SlimOne
May 11, 2007 12:12 PM | Link to this
I’ll never forget I believe it was right before Christmas of ‘93/94. My sister, mom and aunt were decorating the house. After we were done, we all put on some makeshift daisy dukes, tied our t-shirts up, turn on Toostie Roll, pulled out the camcorder and made us a fun silly video dancing around the house. I was behind the camera. I recall saying “Welcome to the Stage: The Country Girls. We have Hamhock, Conebread (spelled how i pronounced it,lol) and Neckbone Then the music came on and we had a greeeaatttt time. Matter of fact my cousin pulled this video out a few weeks ago. It was hilarious!
By kinderbabe
May 11, 2007 12:12 PM | Link to this
jake i know that’s right…lol nothing like catching the bargins.
mo i might swing down there on saturday evening. it depends on how hot it is. i’m sure there will be some good entertainment.
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 12:14 PM | Link to this
I know the feeling Jake…Unrealistic is an understatement!
By Raqi
May 11, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this
Alvin what she is not telling you is she done whacked his behind and he knows she means business. He is not going to ever forget that, so when he sees her approaching he knows to straighten up.
I can only imagine how rotten my grandson is now. He is going to be with us the entire summer. I can predict it is going to be a looong hot summer. But I have a solution for that.
By engelaugen
May 11, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this
My mom always told me to never date a man you would not marry, because you never know what will happen. I found out the hard way she was right. But, I have a beautiful 16 year old daughter from that 5 year marriage that makes it all worth it!
By The Truth
May 11, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this
For Real I’m sorry, I had a weak moment. I’m going to chew on nails and pound my chest to make up for it. LMAO Truth is I’m my mommas baby and I can’t deny her.
Raqi she could have had an operation that would have prolonged her life but she wouldn’t have been able to get around. She would have been bedridden. She decided not to have the procedure even though the doctor said she would make it no more than 6 days. We talked for an hour and a half and the last thing she said to me was I’m tired. I took that to mean she had no more fight in her, she was ready to go.
T-Mango thanks for the warning. I apologize but this is the mommy stuff, you understand, right? LOL
Kimmie dam baby, I just got my eyes dried and you got me going again. Seems like we have alot more in common than just this blogs. I guess if I ever have kids I want them to look at their mother and think the way we think about our moms. That job ain’t for everyone. I’m glad you still have your grandma. Sounds like your bloodlines run deep, your going to be a great mom, 100%. I feel you on the “if I could have fraction of what they had”.
SJ you may be one of the richest guys on this blog. Tell your mom “The Truth” said hi and she did a great job. LOL
Ok, enough of this emotional stuff. Let me say something mean. Y’all…All of you…You chicks… I can’t even get it out. I gotta go wipe my eyes. Sorry For Real.
By Jake.
May 11, 2007 12:31 PM | Link to this
LadyJ
More like…Ms. so and so, your child ain’t gotta chance in hellz of meeting this goal by next year, but we’ll try…lol.
Kinder You got work them vendors or they’ll work you, last year I slid off with a 2 for 1 on some artwork.
By MusingLee
May 11, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this
Now passing the fk out after seeing Truth cry for Mother’s Day…slumped over the steering wheel still bound for hellz
By Ladylike
May 11, 2007 12:37 PM | Link to this
Happy Mother’s Day
Momma always says things like this: Girl, ain’t nothin for free; Keep God first; Clean up your own mess. Today I can hear even when she’s not around.
I will never forget the time I spent my car savings clubbing & partying with friends, of course I thought my Mom would give me the money. Nope. She had something much more memoriable in mind, instead she made me walk and catch the bus for over a year. It was so hot outside. Today she’s a sweet little lady, and I love her dearly. She use tough love often, and she’s a pretty tough cookie herself, I admire her. I am all the more blessed because Momma pointed me in the right direction. Okay I gotta stop this, I’m starting to tear up. Happy Friday
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 12:40 PM | Link to this
Jake if you knew what a male student and a mother told me within this month alone you would understand why I blog! I am like am I going to do this the rest of my life but on a lighter note when I came in this morning a note was in my box from an unknown student saying Ms J you rock! Don’t change your ways…Oh and I like the outfit you had on yesterday! I could not stop smiling so I have learned in my short 27 1/2 years to take the good with the bad and roll and rock with it during the storm!
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
May 11, 2007 12:40 PM | Link to this
@ NC Girl
LOL @ Always wear clean underwear…and make sure they don’t have holes!
Put on a coat. You’re going to catch pnuemonia!
MY MOMMA SAME WORDS ALSO!!!
By Raqi
May 11, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this
Now Truthy that’s where I would have had my mother declared incompetent. Ain’t no way I would have let my mom just leave when I could have kept her here a few more years. Ain’t no way. Yes, that is a very selfish attitude but that’s just how strongly I feel about wishing I had my mother here. With me. Now. And that is the truth.
Now on the logical side I would have let her go because I loved my mother too much to see her suffer.
Fortunately I did not have to go through that decision making process because my mom died of cancer in the uterus. By the time it was discovered there was nothing that could be done for it. Nine months.
The one good thing that came from having to see my mother go through that is I met my friend Doc. She was her oncologist.
By Wise Diva
May 11, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this
Mom taught me that it’s perfectly alright to have standards and qualities that you want to have in a man, but make sure I have the same to offer him, to complement him.
Never take gas money from a man. LOL, I can’t remember how that even came up.
Learn to change a tire and always carry extra cash, especially on a date where I am not driving.
By SlimOne
May 11, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this
Slim putting money in jukebox…dedication to mothers*
Thank You Mama by Sizzla
Thank you Mama for the nine months you carry me through
all those pain and suffering
no one knows the pressure you bear just only you
give you all my love again
Thank you Mama for the nine months you carry me through…
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
May 11, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this
@ Wise Diva
Girl you did your job this week— we all were up in here barking and then you wrap it up all nice and sweet for us today!!
Dang- The TRUTH is even showing his softer side
By Wise Diva
May 11, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this
oh, and never forget the importance of me time, you must be able to feel comfortable on your own before you can be with somebody else.
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 12:53 PM | Link to this
@Wise Diva…That gas money thing is serious!!! Don’t do it! No explanation! Just Don’t Do It!!!:) Too Funny!
By SeanJohnson
May 11, 2007 12:54 PM | Link to this
@ MsU @ Moeisha….Now dont get me wrong..just bacause..I and some of the other dudes were the baby..we were not babied.it was just the opposite.Me and my brother actually had to be the “man’ of the house..I can remember holding the flash light when it was dark outside so my mom could hang clothes on the line…or standing on a latter outside pouring kerosene in during the winter..So its like a mutual love and respect for mom and me..So when we guys have a certain standard for women…and u think its on some she gotta be miss “fine fine”…For me she its not about that …it has to be on some unconditional love down for what ever stuff..
By Alvin
May 11, 2007 12:55 PM | Link to this
Raqi LOL, that and I think Li’Demi has a strange type of respect for my mom, who is a whole lot stronger now, thank to us (my bruh’n’sis).
Hell I’ve pull a few 9’s in her presences, when family members (you dayum right I pull a gun on her daddy, Alvin doesn’t like that dude no way) step out of line and disrespected her.
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 12:58 PM | Link to this
@SeanJohnson…With the “pouring kerosene”, you brought some painful memories for me!!! I hate KEOSENE!!! Wew those were the days but We made it through!!! Wow!
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 12:59 PM | Link to this
@WiseDiva…Your 12:52 post is correct and I am painfully learning that the hard way!!! Wow again!:)
By Raqi
May 11, 2007 1:03 PM | Link to this
You all know what I would love to see sitting my driveway for mother’s day? A new car. My car is a piece of crap. It still looks good but it runs like crap. Every since I got hit from behind it hasn’t run right. It’s just in and out of the shop now. The transmission is giving me trouble. Jimmy says that because when the guy hit me he forced the car to move and that affected the transmission. I have never heard of that before but it sure could be the case. When you have an accident the insurance pay for the damages the exist then but you catch hell on the damages that do/could result from it in the future.
Fairy God Mother of Mother’s Day please send me a new car. Please with sugar on top.
By Wise Diva
May 11, 2007 1:06 PM | Link to this
LOL @ Lady J! Girl, guys always look at me crazy because I nearly flip out when they try to give me gas money! It’s hilarious, that one stuck with me!
By The Truth
May 11, 2007 1:13 PM | Link to this
SJ you do that too? That and opening a ladies car door and you go around to get in and your door is closed. Its like, this chick didn’t care enough to reach over and open the door. Game over.
WD I have a bone to pick with you. These are unfair tactics your using and they must stop now. I’m running out of tissue. LMAO Naw really its cool. I’m going through a little crisis and this gives me an opportunity to concentrate on whats really important.
Raqi thats how the rest of my family felt too. For me its not about quantity anymore, its about quality. I would rather have 1 good year than a lifetime of misery, just me. Also, could you please call me the truth. Its hard being a villian when you call me “truthy”. Thank you.
Musing come on, there’s 365 days in the year, can’t I have one where I embrace my inner child? LMAO
By Cletus Snow
May 11, 2007 1:21 PM | Link to this
Keep in mind that sooner or later She’ll leave you,Then you’ll discover how important she really was.My mom ‘s been gone almost 20 years and I think about her everyday, I miss her.
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 1:22 PM | Link to this
Wow, I was just thinking and had a mommie moment…In the future on this weekend lil lady j may be graduating from college!!!! Wow that is priceless and a gift like no other!!! I just remeber when I graduated 5 years ago!!! Wow…been weeping all day!!!:)
By Wise Diva
May 11, 2007 1:29 PM | Link to this
awww, The Truth…I am sure you broke some kind of blog record of going from most raw, to most touching in one week. LOL Thanks for your candor, it really is nice to see a gentle side :)
By Island Girl
May 11, 2007 1:33 PM | Link to this
Happy Friday Everybody and Happy MOTHER’S Day to all the moms. God bless the FATHERS that are moms/dad as well.
You guys have me teary eyed with all the great stories.
@Truth, I loved hearing your story. I’m sure your mother heard what you said. She knows how much you love her.*
My mom is the greatest. She has taught me so much about life. She had an austere work ethic and heart of gold. She would always stress the importance of going to school and earning an education. She regretted never completing high school and had to work hard most of her life. As a result, she motivated me to strive for my best and never settle for less than I deserve. She lived and demonstrated the maxim, “a little goes a long way”. We did not have a lot of material goods, but she made sure my brothers and I always had what we needed.
Regarding dating, she allowed me to make my mistakes (good or bad). When I became pregnant (at the start of college) she was so visibly disappointed. I would never forget the day I told her I was pregnant because I knew the last thing she wanted was for me to be an unwed mother. That experience made us even closer. It is during trying times you realized that it is best to have those you love draw closer rather than further away.
Everyone have a great weekend. I will chat with you guys on Monday
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
May 11, 2007 1:36 PM | Link to this
@ The Truth
See if it was me by the time you reach to the driver side your door would have been open.
@ SJ I agree with you— that what makes you unique, I would appreciate a brother like you.
@ Alvin You are funny..
@ Raqi reading your post a few days ago i would have never guessed you were a grandmommy!!
@ Lady J My daughter is 4 and she does everything i do. She is so much fun.. I hate when she gets into bath& body work lotion though. Kids are good to have because when you down and out she can always count on you kid to come-give you a hug and say I LOVE U MA!!
By Raqi
May 11, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this
MissU Why is that? Would it be because I still have a life? Would it be because I am young enough to still have fun? Why do you say that? My grandson is my son’s mistake. Please enlighten me on your thoughts.
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 1:49 PM | Link to this
@MsUnderstood aka MsU…I am getting to that point…I was the chick in the group who always said I did not want kids but as a new wife when he mentioned he wanted kids I felt the need to produce regardless of what we were going through…So God did see fit to be a mom and know I am and will become a great mom is just a huge fear I may fail sometimes because of the things in life I failed at…So I am slowly incoperating her into my world meaning I am more okay doing things with her and enjoying it and like wow we did that…We did Wed Wind together about two weeks aga and had a blast at the water area!!! Just is just like me a demanding sister!!! I took off and we a a mommie daughter day and so on so I am learning!!! I was so against having children I looked at it as negative but it is not!!! Trust I enjoy being her mom and Glad God chose me as a mother bc so many can’t even do what I do!!!! I am blessed!!! Crying more!!!:)
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
May 11, 2007 1:52 PM | Link to this
@ Raqi I percieved you to be in your early thrity’s— that’s all..
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 1:53 PM | Link to this
I must say the lil one is my silver lining….I could not imagine being divorce without her!!! I would be dead or in jail!!! That is the truth!!! She keeps me grounded!!!!:)
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 2:05 PM | Link to this
I am talking out loud now but I just won’t do this really to another child!!! I know I am not the creator but this mommie and daddy house is driving me bonkers…It’s so unfair to the innocent child and my soul cracks daily bc of this!!!
Raqi touched on it yesterday we just don’t know the impact it have on all in a family from wrong decisions!!! Wow again!!!
By For Real
May 11, 2007 2:05 PM | Link to this
Musing - Now passing the fk out after seeing Truth cry for Mother’s Day…slumped over the steering wheel still bound for hellz
MUSING, MUSING wake the f/k up and unlock the hatch.. MUSING, MUSING UNLOCK THE F/KING HATCH!!!!!
By Raqi
May 11, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this
MissU I am 39 years young. Full of life and most of the time energy. I got married when I was 19 and had my first son when I was 21. He became a father at 17. Unfortunate but…
40 is the new 20 and I am looking forward to turning 20 again. My husband whom I have been married to for 18 months will be turning the new 20 in 4 months and we are going to have a nice celebration. But when I turn 40, I pray to God I make it, we are going to have a blast.
Yes I am a young grandmother.
By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream
May 11, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this
Hey Kinder I want to go to the Auburnfest!!! :) Haven’t been in years. Link up with me on email and maybe we can meet up if you are going.
Sup Blog Sorry guys, been super busy, still trying to catch up on the blog from this morning. My mom is super special!! We really just became tight in my mid 20’s. But since we’ve gotten it together we’ve been an inseperable team. She only lives 15 mins down the road. The only sadness that we share is the fact that her mom, my Nana passed in 2001. She actually died a few days before her birthday and a few days before Mother’s Day. For the past few years it’s been the saddest day in the world for my fam. She was the glue that kept the family air-tight. I miss her terribly and I shed a tear everytime I think of the day we buried her. My mom is doing well this year, which is a first. I called her on my Nana’s birthday and she wasn’t crying for the first time in years. I hope she holds up as well on Sunday. I’ll be there for her though, through good and bad. She is my rock! And just like Slim1, I am the comedian of the fam. She says I’m the craziest.
So to all the Blog Mommies and Soon to be Blog Mommies - Have a very Happy Blog Mommy’s Day!
By For Real
May 11, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this
Awwwww Dayummm Truth aint a killa no mo. He is now Truthy or Truthie or Trudy.
MLB I think we need to do an interventing…
Grandma Raqi here is your new car. 1972 Grand Station Wagon with wood paneling. Comes with 4 baby seats already installed.
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
May 11, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this
On a lighter note I can remember being a kid and my mom saying to us (her three children) “Dont call my name anymore today!!” Now at the time I used to think that was pretty mean, how else were we supposed to get her attention. Well my mom is an educator and at the time she was a teacher, my brother was actually one of her students. So on top of being at home with us, she also was at work with us! I now understand what she meant in saying that…she just needed a break for a second, not that she didnt love us or anything!
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this
@For Real…Too funny…We had a wagon!!! I was so ashamed of it but everybody meaning friends was always posted up for a ride to a football game or home from school!!! Too funny!!!
By Diane Tavegia
May 11, 2007 2:20 PM | Link to this
As a mom of four, ages 12-36, I’ll share some advice I’ve given our children over the years.
NEVER date someone you wouldn’t consider ‘marriage material’.
NEVER date anyone outside your religious beliefs. Christians should never date a non-believer!
Get to know the person in a group setting before your first date.
If you can’t be best friends with a person, your marriage won’t last. When lust and excitement fade, marriages that don’t include friendship will surely fail.
Jim and I have been happily married 37 years.
Happy Mother’s Day to all! Diane
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
May 11, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this
@ Raqi
Hey sometime we start young— I did also!!
Everybody have a great weekend!! I’m Out.
@ Lady J Everything is going to be alright dry them tears and enjoy your weekend Girl
ONE LAsT SHOUT OUT MOMs, GRANDMOMS, GODMOMS, STEP MOMS, SON-TO-BE MOMS
By Raqi
May 11, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this
ForReal Make it a red 1970 Hemi and I will take it. I lost my innocence in the back seat of one of those.
SHUT UP don’t act like I am the only one that lost it in the back seat of a car.
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this
this cheerleading stuff is driving me bonkers too!!! I am ready to go!!! lol
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
May 11, 2007 2:29 PM | Link to this
Lady J when I read your posts I hear myself talking!! I, too, was always like “I wont have kids” but God had a different plan for me!! I wouldnt trade my son for anything!!! He is so funny to me and he makes my day. It amazes my family that I rough-and-tough with him b/c I have a family full of *chicas”. I try to keep hin tough and still let him be my baby at the same time (you know, not crying at everything, definitely no whining, etc). And even though my marriae didnt work I couldnt have asked for a better father for my son. He and I arent great together but we made something great with our union.
By The Truth
May 11, 2007 2:30 PM | Link to this
Ok, I need all the ladies of blogsville to huddle with me for a sec. We’re gonna make a pact. Everyone, together. We’re not gonna throw this up in truths face in the future. Remember, even superman had kryptonite. LOL
This was a special day because I had an opportunity to remember a great lady in my life, there have been others but she is the queen, the model, the standard. I hope all you moms and dads go out and breath life into your children. Pass what you’ve got to the next genereation. If you’ve done your job in 20 yrs or so your children will be on the blog of their day saying my mom (fill in the blank with your name) was the greatest the world ever knew, and they’ll have tears in their eye too.
HAPPY MOTHERS (AND SOME GREAT DADS) DAY
Kimme you gave me hope.
Do your thang ladies. I’m out, gotta go some some more tissues. LOL
By For Real
May 11, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this
Musing Do you know of anyone that would be interest in some classic leather bench back seats with a small stain?
For Real now scratching the stain and using the two finger smelling technique to identify the substance…
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 2:38 PM | Link to this
I promise Truth but truly it is okay to expressyour self!!!!! My word is my bond!!!!:)
By S
May 11, 2007 2:40 PM | Link to this
Well, I will have a late Mothers Day with my Mom when I fly in from Baghdad next week. The one thing that stands out for me about my Mom is that no matter what I pursued in my life or even when I put myself in harms way she never once did not support my decision. Over the course of my life, I watched her become empowered to leave a bad marriage and go on to become a successful interior designer. I believe my mother to be the epitome of the strong southern woman.I learned alot by watching her actions and how she treated people. Thanks Mom!
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this
@Mo…I invited you for drinks one weekend but you could not make it but we will meet in time!!! Trust!!! I feel you!!! I do for me equaled my Angel!!! Soory God for breaking the marriage!!!:)
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
May 11, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this
Truth You wont hear about any of todays blog from me. I can respect a man that is sentimental about mom but I would never use it against him…that’s grounds for a beatdown!! LOL
By SmileyC
May 11, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this
Good Afternoon ALL
Happy Mothers day to all
My mom wasn’t a great mom growing up, mainly because she was a young mom she had all four of her children by the time she was 21 yrs of age. She did not know how to be a mom and how to handle the responsibility-same goes for my father! Now that my siblings and I are all adults now (the youngest will be 19 this yr), now they want to be parents…
My grandma & my grandpa (are divorce) however, they were the ones we went to when we had problems, when we were sick, when we wanted to know about sex, etc. They try to make sure we understood life and how to handle certain situations.
My mom was an example for me of what I did not want to be in life. I want to be a better Mom then she was…my siblings look up to me as their mother because I was the one who cooked, clean, gave them advice, made sure they had things, etc besides my grandparents. I’m the second to the oldest child…23yrs old….my mom will be 40yrs old this year
Anyhow, I have a 16 months old son…he is my world…he amazes me everyday!! I try to make sure I am the best mom that I can be to him. Lately he kisses me and gives me a hug…I’m like your learning how to show affection…it’s the sweetest thing…and at night when I lay him down in his crib he waves bye to tell me goodnight…it’s just so sweet. This past weekend he used his potty for the first time, I was so PROUD of him…the other day I told him to go to his room and get a book for us to read…and he went and got a book off of his bookshelf for us to read…I was like he understood me (I told him to do that but I didn’t really think he understood me). My son is my blessing!!! He’s the reason I smile everyday!!
His father and I are not together… I write and send pics to his father and his father’s mother once a month…when I moved and I changed my phone number I let them know. Most people say I shouldn’t do it b/c he doesn’t do anything to help me. However, I feel if I can do anything to help my son and his father to have a relationship I’m going to do that. I want my child to be able to know his father and his father’s people despite the situation.
One thing about my mom I can say I am very proud of her for is of her stepping up to help me when I had my son. I had to have a C-section, so she moved here to help me with him…she also watches him now Mon-Fri during the day while I am at work. So, she is becoming a better parent as she gets older….
To all the single MOMMIES out there, try to get some relaxation this weekend!!!
Again Happy Mothers day to all
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
May 11, 2007 2:51 PM | Link to this
Lady J You are right, we will get together to hang out soon. And God wouldnt have wanted you to hang in a relationship where you werent happy. Plus you have a child, it no longer is about you and the SO when you have a child. You have to be careful with what you do and what kind of environment you provide for your child! Got to love the babies!!
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this
Wise it has been a great blog week!!!:) Thanks for the great topics!!! Thanks to all of you for being my stranger friends!!lolol Corny right!!! Again, have a great weekend all!!! Off to plan a cookout for mom dukes!!!
Peace!:)
By Lady J
May 11, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this
You are right Mo!!!! A self invovled chick like myself is learning that daily!!!!:) Thanks Mo!!!:)
By OldSchool
May 11, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this
Mother always said there are two kinds of girls: the kind boys want to date and the kind they want to marry. Pretty good advice.
By SlimOne
May 11, 2007 3:07 PM | Link to this
My mom used to always say, You better get right before i knock you into next week. So if i made her real mad, do yall think she’ll be able to knock me back into last week so i’ll have more time to find her a gift?
By NCgirlfromATL
May 11, 2007 3:11 PM | Link to this
For Real You stoopid! Stop sniffing things you don’t know where they came from. You might burn out your nose hairs!
passing the smelling salts under Musing’s nose so that he can let For Real out before he really burns up
For Real’s Mama Boy, you’ve got one more chance to get it right…the mall is still open, so get ta shoppin’! And you bet-not bring back no FingerHut mess!
Ms. U My mom is the Diva, Jr., her mom being the Diva, Sr. Mom once told me, if I ever get so sick that you need to put me in a nursing home, that’s ok…just make sure you get my hair done every week! LOLOL!!!
By Wise Diva
May 11, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this
Thanks, I enjoyed it too Lady J, and we like corny here, LOL. Have fun!
By Raqi
May 11, 2007 3:25 PM | Link to this
Do any you remember being young and you didn’t have a pool but it would be like 95 degrees outside and your father would get the water hose and spray you and your sibs for like an hour? Man I miss that. Or after my brother had bagged the leaves we would pile them and run and jump in them until there were leaves and torn plastic bag all over the yard again. These kids today just don’t know how unfortunate they are.
By QueDogTeaching
May 11, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this
What up blog Said while speed blogging and listening to 2pac’s dear momma.
I have two mothers (Dad got married when I was 2, so she has always been mom) My birth mother is the business stern one, and my other mother is the loving nourishing one. If I need an “everythings going to be o.k.” I call the nourishing mom. If I need a “work harder” I call the business one. I love them both but in a protective you better not mess with my momma way.
I have been told every thing from I’ll kill you myself before I let you go out in the streets and get killed over foolishness to Nothing beats a failure but a try They have always gotten along (as far as I know) They both sat on the first pew when my brother got married. At all the graduations for me and my brother they are on either side of us. So for me there is nothing greater than motherhood.
I know I am about to get a citation for this but I have to tell it. When I was in the 5th grade I liked this girl a lot. So one day when she was on her bike I grabbed her between her legs and licked her neck. She went to my house and told my mom. My mom walked me down the street with a belt in her hand knocked on the girls door and asked for her mother, when the mother came and invited us in, my mother whipped my butt in front of both of them. What up (EE)! She said no boy of hers was going to be a rapist in training. To this day when I see (E) I am scared to touch her. True story.
By kir
May 11, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this
raqi LOL at your 11:48 comment. my mom hasn’t reached the big 50 yet so the age difference might be too great. but should he become available…holla at me! :D
By NCgirlfromATL
May 11, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this
Slim How about Stop all that crying before I give you something to cry about! and Shut up when I’m talking to you! LMAO! I got those on a regular!
By Raqi
May 11, 2007 3:33 PM | Link to this
I am sitting here thinking about what I want to cook for dinner tonight. I think Fruit Loops with a hint of skim milk and a side order of Cracker Jacks will do. A glass of WalMart brand apple juice to wash it down and for dessert we will have Double Stuffed Oreo cookies. I will eat the cream out of the inside and The Man will eat the cookie. That sounds just splendid.
By For Real
May 11, 2007 3:35 PM | Link to this
Saturday night/Sunday morning around 3:30 am at Quick Trip…
For Real: Man she is going to love this combo greatest hit CD by James Brown and Manudo. Oh and I know she need some oil.
By SlimOne
May 11, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this
NC don’t forget…”Don’t you huh me!”
By For Real
May 11, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this
Hey who else heard this one.
Be quiet when I am talking to you boy. Why you so hard headed? Boy didn’t you hear me just ask you a question? You thank I’m talking to myself? But you said POW to the back of the head
By QueDogTeaching
May 11, 2007 3:44 PM | Link to this
That last story was about business mom this one is about nourishing mom.
One night when I was still too young to hang out, my brother came home and was looking crazy, about twenty minutes later the phone rang and it was the mother of a girl whose house my brother had just left. Apparently the mother had caught my brother and the girl in the act. She was cussing, call my brother no good and he ain’t ish, he will never be ish, and he was raised wrong, immediately my mother said in the most calm words “you don’t have to call names, but let me tell you this, you control your Bytch and I’ll control my dog, because it dosen’t sound like she was getting attacked” And with that she said good night and hung up the phone. Then she cam in the back and cussed out me and my brother. My brother for doing it that night and me for what I would soon be doing. Dang back in the time I never thought I’d see her face, ain’t a woman alive that can take my mommas place, suspended from school, scared to go home, I was a fool, hanging with the big boys breakin all the rules. Dang blog
By Alvin
May 11, 2007 3:44 PM | Link to this
…she is becoming a better parent as she gets older….
SmileyC thanks for your post!!!
And Raqi, when you first mention your grandchild…I was shock as ATL-Gawja. You Go Gurrrl!!
Demi is now hunting for a sexy 40ish woman, throughout Atlanta
By QueDogTeaching
May 11, 2007 3:47 PM | Link to this
Slim and NC
What about “If you can Huh you can hear”
By Raqi
May 11, 2007 3:47 PM | Link to this
kir the woman that he is suppose to marry is 55 so there must be something about that man. So…
EEEWWW Did I just think of my dad as a man? Now I feel gross. shudder
Alright good people I need to pull it together here before 5pm so that I will ready when my Knight in Shining Armor rolls up in his silver Audi.
You all have a great weekend and Mother’s Day.
WiseDiva Thanks for much entertainment. Until next week…
By kir
May 11, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this
Wise i’m still catching up but please school me on the no taking gas money thing. i am obviously in violation. :O
By SlimOne
May 11, 2007 3:53 PM | Link to this
Que & NC Look here, we’re about to go in this store. Don’t ask me for nothing, don’t touch nothing and don’t make me have to show out in here! If i so much as to have to look at you sideways, I’m gonna getcha.
By QC's Birthday Weekend
May 11, 2007 3:53 PM | Link to this
Happy Mother’s Day to all the Bloggers, Lurkers, Newbies
have a great weekend everyone*
By Alvin
May 11, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this
QC Happy Birthday sis!!!! And may God bless you with many more…
By Jake.
May 11, 2007 4:00 PM | Link to this
Am I the only one who used to have to get bucknakked when it was beatin time, I think I got my last all natural beatin at 11.
Mom used to say, Boy you ain’t got nothing I ain’t see before and commence to wearing my azz out.
I would rather get 5 beatins from Pap, than one from Mom, she used to talk her way through them, which basically meant about 30 more strikes for my lil bad azz…LOL
By For Real
May 11, 2007 4:01 PM | Link to this
Slim I finally put that game of yours up last night. And yes I was going off on at first but then EWWWWWWW you nasty.
By SeanJohnson
May 11, 2007 4:03 PM | Link to this
Good Blog Week Folks…have a good weekend..i am sure i will pass some of yall at the Auburn Fest and not even know it..
By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream
May 11, 2007 4:08 PM | Link to this
I’m sure you will SJ. Have a great weekend Bloggers!!
And Happy Mommie’s Day to all of the mommies, god-mommies, grand-mommies, step-mommies, dual role parents and mentor-mommies!
Holla!
By Dr. Kym- Mom
May 11, 2007 4:08 PM | Link to this
Are we talking beatings by Mom? Last spanking I can remember from my Mama was in a KMart store…I use to hide in the clothes and move from rack to rack hiding. The Bluelight special went off and my Mama went one way and I went the other still hiding in the racks. I popped out from under the rack and my mama was gone. I started screaming and basically showing my tail. Then the service people called my mama’s name over the intercom to say she had a lost child. My mother came to the front of the store whipped me right there in front of the store. Lesson One on “Staying with the people you came with.”
Gone are the days of beating your children in public.
By SlimOne
May 11, 2007 4:11 PM | Link to this
For Real LOL! I also have a photo of that you can add to your portfolio. I think that would make for a great cover page. hehehehe
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
May 11, 2007 4:11 PM | Link to this
Que, SlimOne and NC how about my mother would yell for us and when we yelled back she wouldnt answer. We would have to go where she was and find out what she wanted! And it was usually something like “turn that light off for me on your way out” or “bring me a glass of water” (when you just came from downstairs only to find out what she wanted then had to go back downstairs…
By SlimOne
May 11, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this
Jake I never had to get naked prior to a beat down but I did have to go take a bath afterwards. Talk about after burn. My last one was at the age of 16. I think i told you all about it before. It was the last and worst one ever for coming home with a hickey on my neck by a 20/21 year old when i was only 16.
By Ladylike
May 11, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this
If you lie you will steal, if you steal you will go to jail. Once while we were living in St. Louis Mo., Mom and I were at the grocery store. Well, she would not buy me a pack of Juicy Fruit Gum, I was 5 and was hurt that she said no, so I slipped the pack of gum into my pocket. Momma looked at me with a really killer look, and then she called the police. Told the Police that I was stealing, take her to jail. I was like, I can’t believe you just told on me, she said give him the gum I know you took that gum. I was crying and ask the Officer was he going to take me to jail, he said no, not this time. I betcha I rolled my eyes at Momma the whole walk home, she said I betcha you won’t still nothing else. That is so funny now when I think about it!
By SlimOne
May 11, 2007 4:21 PM | Link to this
LadyLike my mom didn’t play that stealing ish either. I remember one time my little sister stole some colored chalk from school. My mom noticed it and knew she didn’t buy it. When she found out my sister took it, she got it bad. Plus she had to take the chalk back and apologize to the teacher.
QDT,NC,MO we had to make sure our homework and all the cleaning was done before she got home too. On the weekends or holidays when school was out, she would let us stay up a little later. BUT there betta not had been one dish left in the sink. She didn’t care if it was 4 in the morning, we had to get up right then and there to wash them if we did.
By Wise Diva
May 11, 2007 4:22 PM | Link to this
kir, it’s kind of skirting around the issue of using men for your basic needs, wants, and wishes. She was always telling me that I should be a HELPMATE to a man, not his liability, not his downfall. If I know I am broke, stay my broke tale at home, don’t seek out a sponsor, LOL. annnd she also said, never go broke where you don’t have gas money, because that means you aren’t self-sufficient. SO, I guess it was part of her being independent speech, LOL
By Wise Diva
May 11, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this
oh and kir she also warned me that if a man gives you gas money, he could possibly feel like he can control where your car goes, LOL. So, it’s better not to even get into the gas money from a man, as a general rule.
By kir
May 11, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this
wise never thought about it like that. thank you for this educational moment. :)
have a great weekend everyone!
By Hot Sauce
May 11, 2007 4:27 PM | Link to this
HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY LADIES
Hey Musing, Demi, SJ, For Real
By Ladylike
May 11, 2007 4:35 PM | Link to this
You’re right Wise, my Momma use to say if you don’t have no money then you should’nt be out spending! Dang, it took me a while to catch on to that one.
By Dr. Kym- Mom
May 11, 2007 4:40 PM | Link to this
Wisey She sounds just like my Auntie…God Bless the Child that got his own…if you dont have it…then you dont have it..period. No need of putting on airs..or begging someone for it so you can keep up with the Joneses. Hell you dont know what all the Joneses had to do to get theirs.
By Wise Diva
May 11, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this
oh Happy Birthday to our resident Queen, Ms. QC!
By Alvin
May 11, 2007 4:58 PM | Link to this
Hey Hot Sauce!!