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Cursed
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
You would think that metro Atlanta is large enough so that I could co-exist without having to run into an ex-boyfriend. I mean, I don’t even have that many ex-boyfriends, for one; and for two, with all the places to live from ITP to OTP, I really expect that ex-boyfriend sightings should be rare, if not non-existent.
Oh, but it’s not. Not for me, anyway because my ex-boyfriend - the one boyfriend who was the headaches, heartaches, and regret - not only works nearby, his parents recently purchased a home 2 city blocks away. That’s right, they are practically my neighbors! This has been my neighborhood all this time, I was here first!
So now, I see him all the time. During my jog, on my way to Starbucks - there he is taunting me, making my life miserable - again. Except this time, we aren’t breaking up and making up. We are just two people who used to — be. It’s so weird.
The only reason I have issues with still seeing “Mr. Ex” is because he is the first (and here’s hoping, the LAST time) I have ever felt “cursed” by love; or whatever that was I felt with him. I actually refer to that time as my temporary loss of common sense.
Why did I feel cursed? Because I was the only one in “love”. He was having fun and I was his “just for now” relationship. Yeah, it hurt, and the emotion I have now is more about me then our actual relationship. But I digress.
Now I get a reminder every, ohh about 2 weeks or so, of how I was stupidly in love, for way too long. A 6’2, ridiculously sexy reminder of the unrequited love experience that I don’t really like remembering. Sucks to be me!
Have you ever experienced “cursed love”? The kind that makes you regret even falling so hard? How did you handle it?
When you are the ONLY one falling in love, it seems like you are stuck there until you will yourself out of the misery! How do you snap out of it? Shouldn’t it be simple when the feelings aren’t returned? Why is it NEVER that simple!?
I know ladies aren’t the only ones that go through this. Guys, how do you really cope with your feelings for someone who doesn’t feel the same as you? Do you act macho and pretend it doesn’t bother you? Does that really work?
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By Oohhh
June 4, 2007 8:27 AM | Link to this
Oohhh Wise, you’ve had something stronger than coffee this morning….based on all the typos Now pass it around so we can get this party started!!! lol
By Wise Diva
June 4, 2007 8:50 AM | Link to this
oh cut me some slack, I hit publish by accident as I was proofreading. LOL
By PK
June 4, 2007 8:57 AM | Link to this
I always think of the Atlanta singles scene is amazingly closed. About the only way to keep from running into an ex is to date outside your age group. :)
As for how to handle it, it’s not about acting macho, it’s about realizing that most relationships don’t work and there’s nothing wrong about it. Learn from it and move on. You know you’ll be over him as soon as you meet that next person so you might as well just be happy now. Happy people are more attractive.
By Sexione
June 4, 2007 9:01 AM | Link to this
Goodmorning!
Sexi now looking around trying to figure out why she’s alone in the blog room……hello, hheelloo, hheelloo…
Let me add my .02 cents while I can..
Wise Don’t you dare let this man (I don’t care how sexy he is) get under your skin after all this time. You know the motto….neva let ‘em see you sweat!. Look good, live well, be happy and healthy, and every time you see him hold your head high, and let him see what he’s missing out on. I haven’t had the experience of running into too many exes, but the few times I have, I could always see the regret in their eyes. I could see them giving me the once over, while saying “you looking good!”. Some have even tried to reconnect….no thank you!! And whether it was a good or not so good break up, I always feel good, knowing that I’m content and looking fly, and he’s no doubt wondering how/why he let me get away. It’s all good gurl, and if you have to, fake it til you make it!!!
Sexi now sending out an SOS for all of her blogmates
By QC
June 4, 2007 9:02 AM | Link to this
Morning have a great day all!
By T-Mango
June 4, 2007 9:02 AM | Link to this
…T-Mango arrives singing Love & Happiness by Al “Hot Grits” Green…
Hair flip to the WLB and non-church hugs to the MLB.
Well, so far this has only happend once in my life (thank goodness). No question…I LOVED this man with all my heart & soul. Based on his actions and words I thought that he felt the same… Until, one day I said “I love you” and he gave me that look followed by the I just don’t feel that way about you. Ouch! That broke my heart.
We stayed in the relationship for a little while longer and he eventually broke up with me. It was very hard knowing that he did not feel the same, but my feelings weren’t going anywhere. So, for those few months after I shared my feelings I actually preferred having him in my life and deal with that reality rather than not having him in my life at all. That’s what I felt at the time.
I never kicked myself for feeling the way that I did for him because I know that my feelings were honest and pure. He just wasn’t in a place in his life where he was ready to receive it.
I’m not sure if he is still living in Atlanta or not, he was a year ago. If I were to see him I’d just be cordial, wish him the best…and keep it movin’.
By GA.man
June 4, 2007 9:09 AM | Link to this
Laney gets a one-day pass….for doing good for so many other days…..
Head nod to the ALL Powerful MLB
Winks and Spring hugs to the WLB
By RanneyLou
June 4, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this
Sister, say no more … went thru the same thing, got DUMPED by this guy I was falling for in a serious way. You’ve got to change your way of looking at him … I’m married now, have a new life, new baby … being dumped was the best thing he could have done for me!
By MusingLee
June 4, 2007 9:12 AM | Link to this
Morn’in All,
Wise when and if I encounter an ex, I just keep it moving…I say hello and good bye, with a little “nice to see you’re doing well” tossed in…Then I jet…There’s no need feeling down.
Now looking for sausage biscuit
By Cinderella
June 4, 2007 9:14 AM | Link to this
^5 Sexione!! I always say it bothers them more when you act like you dont care.
By GA.man
June 4, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this
Hey SEXIONE, Qc,Slim,Mo,Island Gurrrl,Kinder
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
June 4, 2007 9:18 AM | Link to this
Morning ALL!!
Sexione Got that SOS girl, but it is Monday!! A sistah is struggling this morning!! LOL
Mo now going to get a Pepsi and a muffin..
On topic: I will have to lurk on this one today…should be interesting though!
Fresh-new-do’ Hair flip to the WLB and kisses to the MLB!!
By Biff
June 4, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this
Goes with the territory. With women’s lib and resulting lack of morals and irresponsible behaviour comes this mess.
Although I benefit greatly from the breakdown of traditional American family values, the feminist movement has reduced the field of responsible mates by a large degree. What we are left with is a large number of dismayed females who wonder why and ask these kind of questions.
The answer is simple.
By Sexione
June 4, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this
Hair flip to The Oh-So Sexy WLB and non-church hugs to the MLB (I like that T-Mango)!!
Heeyyyy GAman
Mo gurl, I feel you, glad y’all made it! lol
Cinderella so true!
By Ladylike
June 4, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this
Good Morning Blog
Yeap, so awkward, seeing him is like hearing fingernails scratch across a chalk board. But now he is just another guy (that I would never date again), and his mom is just a nice old lady. The past times I had are not as important as they were. Well, it took about two - three years since we had dated seriously for about five years.
By Dark Brown
June 4, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this
I grew up in a small town. Everybody knew everybody and everbody hung out wiht everybody. My first love went to the same church that I did. We sang in the same choir together. So, I saw him at choir rehearsal, at church and outside of church. He cheated on me with another girl in the choir. When I found out, even as a teenager, I knew that I could not continue the relationship.
So, on Thursday nights, I got to see him leave choir rehearsal holding hands with her. On Sunday mornings, I got to see him making eyes at her. On Sunday nights, I saw him slip around the back of the church to make out with her.
Needless to say, I had to learn at a very young age to get over heartache under compounded circumstances. It was a good lesson to learn.
Yes, it hurt - like h#ll. But I learned that life still went on. The world would not end and I would not die.
I to learn to stop wanting him, change my thought patterns and focus on other things. And that is the lesson that I carry with me to this day. It is the foundation of my belief that sometimes, what we believe is love is not love at all. It is just habit, routine and patterns. And the way to move past that is develop new habits, change your routine and alter your patterns.
Wise - you know that you were not in love with that dude. You were infatuated with the thought of and caught up in the potential of what could be.
By T-Mango
June 4, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this
Hey Mo and Sexione
By The Truth
June 4, 2007 9:46 AM | Link to this
Whats up bloggers? I see some fresh new WLB hairdo’s this morning. Looking good, smelling good, Feeling good. Wattup MLB bruh’s.
Where the fug is Blat?
On topic. The world is really a small place and your bound to walk up on someone you’ve dated. I think if you did right while you were there and it was ended before things got crazy meeting shouldn’t get to hot. Its not an ego thing its just the next phase kinda thing. I think it could be a great opportunity to see how far you’ve progressed emotionally.
Off topic. I was at Piedmont park yesterday evening and its amazing to me how many flaming azz dudes are out there. Towards the end of the day they come out in packs. Has anyone one here seen this ritual? Its amazing.
By SeanJohnson
June 4, 2007 9:47 AM | Link to this
Sup Blog…regarding the topic…if it haunts you and you cant face seeing and ex..its a sign that u dont have closure in the breakup..Thing is..you have to realize that if you share love and bonds with someone is very possible that u will always have certain feelings and love for them..doenst mean u want to be with them or are still in love with them.That is normal.I am like Musing..i speak and keep it moving if they see me..if they dont see me..i may or may not speak..There are a couple of my ex’s i wouldnt mind running into…to see if they are married and or have kids…MTV has a show about ex’s……
By Jake
June 4, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this
What up ya’ll:
Wise You got it, act macho and pretend it doesn’t hurt until one day you wake up and it really doesn’t.
Hey Ladies, how are you doing this morning. BTW, ya’ll too sexy to be giving non-church hugs, I might squeeze the Charmin…lol
Head non MLB.
By Dark Brown
June 4, 2007 9:59 AM | Link to this
Truth - In the land of forced political correctness and retribution for having personal views and opinions, I probably should not touch your off-topic post. HOW-ever, my SO and I have had the occasion to be at Piedmont several times this spring and HE SAYS THE EXACT SAME THING. At which point, I patiently remind him that Midtown and Piedmont are the central Gay Zone for Atlanta so what can you expect to see but gay people?
That being said - let me go ahead and issue the apology that I am sure will be demanded so that I remain a contributing member of this blog. And in Isiah Wash.ington style, I will go ahead and commit to counseling as well.
By Jake
June 4, 2007 9:59 AM | Link to this
Truth
I’m going to let you in on a hometown secret…never go to Piedmont if there isn’t a function, the flames run the joint, its no place for a straight guy, guranteed to have your stomach turned a few times, I haven’t been to Piedmont on a regular day since “97”…LOL
By i'm swiss
June 4, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this
@Wise —
It could be worse, Wise. My ex lives just around the corner from me and she’s now a lesbian. So, I not only have to run into her, but I also see her with whatever cute chica she’s getting down with at the moment. It’s depressing and arousing at the same d@mn time. LOL
By DeDe
June 4, 2007 10:08 AM | Link to this
Would love to hear some more good responses, because this is exactly how I’m feeling after seeing an ex Saturday night. He and the girlfriend plopped down right in front of my blanket at an outdoor concert, so I can relate to the “I was here first” sensation.” While we weren’t together long enough for it to count as love, being jilted is never fun. Compounding the sting of him preferring someone else was his attempt to exit w/out responsibility by recasting our entire time together as a friendship, as if it were a figment of my imagination. Then he showed up at a function two weeks later and happily introduced me to his new girlfriend. So there’s a bit of “what was I thinking” mixed with indignation over him pulling such a crappy thing. After Saturday night I’m thinking that perhaps I need to work on some closure!!
By MusingLee
June 4, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this
Now smashing JackDaniels bottle over Truth’s head like an old western flick for being out with the “Tightshirts” on Sunday…
By Melo
June 4, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this
@Cindirellawhen you act like you dont care.
Even though yu do care! So its killing u softly, inside.Ouch!!
By BlatinoBrutha -
June 4, 2007 10:15 AM | Link to this
*Whatup whatup!!! Blat’s officially checking in. Silent nod to da MLB, and an air-mail kiss to my WLB’s….
I actually was conducting my team’s Monday morning meeting.
Alright everyone, I’ve got the doozy of the day for ya’ll….. Me n old girl are done, been done for about three weeks now. But God has shown me the light! I somehow ended up on Saturday at the club where we met, which i never go to on that day, and saw one of my boys who clued me in: She was scandalous and sleepin wit all manner of dudes while she was claiming to be so d@mned in love with me…. All i can say is what goes around comes around.
By For Real
June 4, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this
What up Blog Fam!!!
On topic:
Ole Boy: Hello Wise.
Wise: OOOOOOOH, (dayummm I need a wetnap)
Just kidding Wise. I don’t believe in running from my feelings. I believe you have to acknowledge your feelings for Ole Boy and then acknowledge him each time you see him. After a while you will come to master those feelings instead of those feelings mastering you.
By abc
June 4, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this
‘Falling in Love’ always feels like a curse. As I’ve stated several times on the blog in the past, the feelings are due to elevated levels of dopamine in the brain, and dissipate over time, thus bringing about the end of the honeymoon. Here’s some supporting information at Wikipedia.
I’m going through it now, and it is not that pleasant. I still liken it to having a mental illness. I wish the time would pass so it would go away!
By For Real
June 4, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this
*Now kicking Truth in the hamstring for hanging out with the “barefeet and wish I can get prenant” crowd on Sunday….
And was Blat with you at that time? That might explain his absence.
By QC
June 4, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this
Hey GA.man, The Truth
By Tazzee
June 4, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this
Morning folks! It’s been a long time…
Wise - what’s worse is when you think you’re totally over a relationship, only to see the dude and discover you’re not. That happened to me the last time I was in the ATL. I went to a function where I knew I was going to see this ex. So here I am, looking REAL good, dating someone else, prepared to see him, thinking I was going to just greet him and be on my merry way. Then I saw him from a distance and I realized that I just wasn’t ready. So I turned my back and acted like I didn’t see him. I don’t think he saw me. And the thing is, he wasn’t even looking good - brother was a little swole - but when its a heart issue, that doesn’t even matter.
By kinderbabe
June 4, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this
good morning blogsters!:) hope your weekend was wonderful.
By SlimOne
June 4, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this
Morning ALL Slim slowly creeping in after 4 days off work, tired, cranking and ears still ringing from the weekend
Hair-flip to WLB Just wanted to peep in and wave to all….Trying to sort through my 218 emails at work…
lurking for now
By Wise Diva
June 4, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this
ohhh goodness, i’m swiss, you are right, now that would be frustrating!
DarkBrown, you are right, I can’t even call it that. IT seemed so intense at the time though.
For Real, oh very funny! LOL good advice though.
Jake, you guys are better actors than we are in that regard, I can put up a front for about 10 minutes, though. LOL
By Sexione
June 4, 2007 10:43 AM | Link to this
Blat Ouch!!! You’re better off without that drama!!
abc how long has it been now? how long do you think it takes for the effects to wear off?
lol @ i’m swiss
By SeanJohnson
June 4, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this
@ KB….i know u are old school…the lead singer of High Five ..Tony Thompson died friday..
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
June 4, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this
SJ What happened to him? I just listened to “The Kissing Game”’ this morning on the way to work?
By abc
June 4, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this
I’ve read it takes 1 year to wear off; I’ve also read 3-5 years. I think it’s the basis of the so-called ‘7 year itch’.
It’s been going on with me for about 8 months or so. I undertook Christian counseling for it, it helps some. For me, it being a long distance relationship causes most of the angst.
By The Truth
June 4, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this
The Truth is hurting from the bottle smash to the head and hamstring kick. Ouch.
I’m sorry for those going through tough times with the so. This is a tough market. Dayuummm. Casualties on both sides.
DeeDee I think you should close that deal so you won’t miss out on the next one. I once heard a woman speak about her deceased spouse (married like 100 years) and she was selling a few homes they shared together and she said she was closing that chapter of her life so she could open another. I thought that was so cool I stole it from her. I now use it to transition to the next phase. Maybe it could help you. Either way I hope you get over it. You need to be giving that emotion to someone that deserves it.
Dark Brown you hit the nail on the head with your 930. Love is a choice. I wish we could learn to make better choices. Also, they are flaming f* (damm pc and there will be no apologies). Those chicks are nasty, loud, and have no self respect.If thats what being gay is about then I’m against homosexuality.
Jake thanks for the hella late warning. LMAO
The Truth now puts on his riot gear.
By kinderbabe
June 4, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this
SJ what???? omg, what happened? how did he die?
By SeanJohnson
June 4, 2007 11:04 AM | Link to this
@ Moeisha……OD’ed…according to the site i read it on…i just downloaded a lot of their music on my ipod last week
By For Real
June 4, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this
The first step in getting over anything but especially an ex is to determine what part of your emotion is PRIDE. Pride feels the exactly like love because they both share the same ingreidents. So ask yourself:
By NCGirlfromATL
June 4, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this
silently walking over and giving For Real the international signal for “ooh…honey, don’t say anything else…you’se about to get got.”
Sup blog. Wise been there, girl! Ties the stomach up in knots, and each day I dreaded encountering the ex. For me, it was when there was someone else to divert my attention toward, that I finally put old ex-y in his appropriate spot…ex-ville. That’s probably not the best way to move past your feelings, but when I had something else to concentrate on, I stopped being concerned about ole boy, and when I encountered him again, it was soooooo much easier. I felt like I had my power back. I think the most frustrating part for me was the notion that that fool still had some kind of hold on me, and that he knew it (I’m not sure if he did or not, but that’s what it felt like.)
Like Mariah said, you gotta shake it oooooooooooff!
By kinderbabe
June 4, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this
SJ wow, that’s something else. what site was it on? i would like to go read it. thanks.:)
By Kirk
June 4, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this
I’d like to get feedback on this
Why is it that if a female doesn’t feel the same way about a guy, the guy is usually expected to take a hint and move on, but if its the other way around, a guy is usually labeled as playing mind games. What gives??
By SeanJohnson
June 4, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this
@ KB…i think its on hiphop.com…the one i read it from…u might not be ready to enter a site like that…
By The Truth
June 4, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this
Good morning to you QC.
Welcome back Slim.
One more thing. NLP (Nuero linguistic Programming) has a technique that may help with the sorrow. The problem with the breakup is the picture in your head is so vivid. When you think of it the pic is very near to you and so are the feelings associated with it. Now think of the the person (put them in a bubble) and push the picture far away from you and the feelings instantly change. Like a family member that died 10 yrs ago. Anyway, it worked for me. It may help. Tony Robbins, Awaken the Giant Within.
By kinderbabe
June 4, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this
SJ oh boy! i’ll take your word for it…lol. thank you for filtering what comes through this school teacher’s mind…lmao.
By GA.man
June 4, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this
SeanJ she might want to read it on Bet.com….they have the nice version
By BlatinoBrutha -
June 4, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this
Kirk, the Grand Pooba is giving you foot stompin’, high-hands clappin’ Cosign, my brutha!
By For Real
June 4, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this
SLIM WELLCOME BACK!!!! HOW WAS YOUR CELEBRATION???? OH AM I SCREAMING? I’M SORRY!!!
By Wise Diva
June 4, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this
wow, Kirk, that is a great question!
WLB, what say you?!
By SeanJohnson
June 4, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this
@KB…what ever…its summer and we both know teachers wild out during the summer..i wasnt filtering your mind..i am sure u may like the site it can be very informative..just filtering the minds of the fellow ajc bloggers..
By Melo
June 4, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this
the one i read it from…u might not be ready to enter a site like that-SJ
Just spit it man..is it a gay site? I am sure she is old school enough to handle it. Mo, just speaking 4 u(without ur permisiion) coz i’m old school too.
By Deeva4Life
June 4, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this
Kirk IMO the difference is that men “usually” come with a song and dance and give you the impression that he does feel the same about you but never truly defining anything. Then once the woman buys into this notion then comes the “we’re just friends”. Now I can’t speak for the other ladies, but if I’m not feeling you “like that” my words and my actions coincide…however in my experience is something that guys don’t do.
By Deeva4Life
June 4, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this
Kirk IMO the difference is that men “usually” come with a song and dance and give you the impression that he does feel the same about you but never truly defining anything. Then once the woman buys into this notion then comes the “we’re just friends”. Now I can’t speak for the other ladies, but if I’m not feeling you “like that” my words and my actions coincide…however in my experience this is something that guys don’t do.
By SlimOne
June 4, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this
Truth Thanks hun….had a great time at 300 Atlanta. It was almost like the club in there. I’ve never been to a bowling alley that thick before. I got my eat on, my drink on, my bowl on and my dance on. Couldn’t have asked for anything more.
…well I wonder if i should mention I went to Pin Ups afterwards…hmmm….Nah, I’ll refrain
By Daylight Come
June 4, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this
Duh…. “The love that lasts the longest is the love that is never returned.” William Somerset Maugham quotes (English short-story Writer, Novelist and Playwright, 1874-1965)
By Tiff
June 4, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this
Morning QC, Demi, Jewel and all
Wise I know exactly how you feel times ten. I have to see the bane of my existence (I’m exaggerating but you get my point) on a daily basis since we work at the same company. Its been almost a year and its not as hard as it used to be but I think its more an issue of Pride for me like For Real stated instead of love. Not mad because he didn’t want me but mad because I got played and I’m old enought to know better. LOL
By kinderbabe
June 4, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this
sj boy stop!! you know i was j/k. and who you calling wild?? lol.
By SeanJohnson
June 4, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this
@ Melo…come on bruh..u know its not a punk site…far from it..just didnt want to post the name of the site on the ajc..
@ Kirk…dude the reason we get labeled as such..for one..is even if we are not really interested in the female…if she is hittable..we will hit..and females take this at times as us wanting them the same way they would want us..thats why they ask dumb questions like…”if you didnt want to be with me..why did u fck me” or..” I am good enough to fck but not be with”…females dont do it exactly like that..they just tend to use a dude for money gifts and misc things rather than fck a dude they just aint into…
By Melo
June 4, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this
if she is hittable..we will hit..and females take this at times as us wanting them the same way they would want us..thats why they ask dumb questions like SJ
True, but in addition, guys will pretend like they are into the girl also, just to get the azz.That also contributes. You can be certain to get the guys true feelings, once he has taken a test drive! Which in all fairness, and speaking as a dude, is fair.The relationship has to be based on the physical as well as the outside persona experience.
By SexyLeggs
June 4, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this
Hello everyone. Wise very interesting topic. I’ve had “cursed love” once. Everything started off great. We were very compatible and then he dropped me like a hot potatoe. I could eat, sleep or go to work. I vowed never to be that way over a man ever again. So far, so good!! I believe it would bother me as well if I had to run into an ex every 2 weeks. But, since that’s the case, I’d make damn sure I’m sharp as a tack each and every time.
By abc
June 4, 2007 12:06 PM | Link to this
“If she is hittable we will hit” is not descriptive of all men. In fact, I’d say that’s descriptive perhaps of ‘male’ but certainly not of a man. That’s childish, man!
By GA.man
June 4, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this
SeanJ how can i say this but anything like BAM!!!!!
boyyyyyyyy….stoooppppp
By The Truth
June 4, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this
SJ cosigning that 1143. Dudes get played for cash and women get played for azz. I think though alot of chicks will lure a dude on even if they don’t really care for them, and then will marry him if he doesn’t figure out the scheme. Dudes hardly ever bone a chick and then marry her, unless he’s a lonely sap. Brings me back to a rule The Truth instituted many years ago. If she stops giving up the azz this thing is over. She’s running game.
By IslandGirl
June 4, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this
Happy Monday Blog Fam (at least that’s what I want to think…)
Hi Ladies of the WLB and a sultry wink at the MLB
@Truth…I wish someone gave you the heads up about Piedmont Park….lol
@Slim…hope you enjoyed your time off. We missed your jokes last week.
Sup to GA, kinder……..anybody seen Randy with all his T-shirts?
@abc……you’re right about dopamine in the brain… as dopamine levels begin to rise we become excited and energized. The dangerous part of this chemical is when there is an imbalance….it is proven higher levels of the chemical causes paranoia. Makes you really wonder about the thin line between love and hate
@Real and Truth…you guys have given great advice. When can I make my appointment to sit on the coach?
@Wise…like Real mentioned, “acknowledge your feelings first” Once you’ve figured out what bad feeling you’re holding onto (regret, pride, etc)……you will be able to come to terms with seeing him and not have a rush of emotions. Give yourself credit for being honest about your emotions. When you see him, you should be seeing a person that lost out on a good woman….. so have confidence in knowing that. No matter how good looking he is….. represent yourself with confidence.
By Sexione
June 4, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this
Very well said abc. And in addition, most females are already thinking, “well, if that’s all he wants, then I must get something in return”. Women don’t have to scheme to get men into bed (most give it up willingly at the drop of a hat), so we hit you where it hurts most…your pockets! Again, as abc said, this is not descriptive of a man and woman, but moreso of males and females.
By kinderbabe
June 4, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this
hey IG how are you today?
By BeBe KID
June 4, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this
Ask the Lord to take this person out of your mind and your heart. It is a process. Until you are able to see him without it effecting you emotionally your demeanor should be indifferent even if it is all an act. You can never let him see you SWEAT! You got to play it cool even if it kills you inside. You got to be a PLAYA!
By Kirk
June 4, 2007 12:27 PM | Link to this
if she is hittable we will hit
Not descriptive of me at all. But let me respond with some of the recent postings to say that, first, “to with a song and dance and give you the impression that he does feel the same about you but never truly defining anything”, kinda suggests that the woman is more into the male than he is into her. Ok Ladies, how about this is it possible that you are not feeling the guy to start with, but don’t really know how to tell him you’re not interested?
I get that there are guys on here who is not trying to get to know women on any level other than, well, you know. And the actions of a few definately impact all of us—even those of us who operate differently than that. It seems like a few women want to paint all of us guys with a broad brush, but its not fair for me to do the same with the ladies.
Wise Diva, what is your take?
By The Truth
June 4, 2007 12:32 PM | Link to this
Sexyleggs whats the use of looking like a million and feeling like a penny? Heal the inside and you can wear sweats and be ok. My.02
ABC some of the greatest men to walk the face of this earth (MLK, some say Jesus, Holyfield (joke)) looked for a place to unwind. This thing is bigger than us. Hitting it has kept us moving forward for thousands of years.
IG **The Truth checks his appt book and has you scheduled for 11 pm. All my couseling is done in the nude to allow for freer communication so I’ll see you tonight. Rest up.
By The Truth
June 4, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this
Bebekid How the f**k do you get the lord and you “You got to be a playa” in the same paragraph?
By Melo
June 4, 2007 12:37 PM | Link to this
so we hit you where it hurts most…your pockets!
I am just wondering here if we are not getting half the story.
All the ladies here who have a hard time meeting your exs including Wise could enlighten us on whether these ‘hurt’ feelings are arising because u were intimate with the guys or not. Would u experience the same feelings if u were not intimate? I think ur azz is one of ur most prized possession?Right? And guys know where to hit u the hardest as wellSexi!!
By SexyLeggs
June 4, 2007 12:37 PM | Link to this
Truth I definitely agree with you. You see, I didn’t realize she was feeling so bad inside. Me, I’ll feel bad for a short spell and move right the f….on.
By Melo
June 4, 2007 12:41 PM | Link to this
ABC some of the greatest men to walk the face of this earth (MLK, some say Jesus, Holyfield (joke)) looked for a place to unwind
The Holyfield part was the most hilarious too me!!OMG.
By MochaTreat
June 4, 2007 12:41 PM | Link to this
Good afternoon Kinder, Sexione, QC, SeamJ, MO, GAman and crew
@ Kinder It’s summer time….kids are gone…until Aug 8.
@MO How are you?
@GAman What’s up?
By In Da Name o' Luv
June 4, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this
Ladies, grow the f*ck up.
You’ve gotten physically, chemically & emotionally high on some of these relationships - real quick like a drug. But those feelings are like smoke & mirrors and may not be the deeper, long-term reality you seekin’.
Hold off on takin’ the “physical drugs” and you’ll usually be spared the heartache of finding yo man ain’t what you thought. If you just want to play with the physical drugs - stop complaining.
Now go forth and grow the f*ck up!!
By IslandGirl
June 4, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this
Hey Kinder….been a busy day thus far. I’ve got several projects to get though…so I’m trying to just lurk today. How was your weekend?
By abc
June 4, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this
Now, MLK knew damn well his way was sin when he strayed from his marriage. He himself wouldn’t have condoned his own behavior in that regard. I won’t resort to blaspheme. Everyone knows that hittin’ any ol’ thing is iresponsible and wrong, but many simply choose to ignore that fact.
By JustMe
June 4, 2007 12:44 PM | Link to this
What up 2 all of Y’all
I’ll be catching up on today’s posts…. brb
By Tazzee
June 4, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this
Kirk that’s a good question. I know for me, whenever I’m not interested in a guy to start with I might go out with him just to prove to myself that I’m not that shallow. Usually when I’m not interested in a guy in the very beginning its because of something physical. So I’ll go out with him anyway and seek out his charming personality or lovely sense of humor to make up for the fact that his teeth are jacked. Then if he doesn’t have any intangibles to overcome the physical shortfall, then I’ll conclude that I am not shallow - dude just didn’t have personality.
But if my lack of interest is due to his personality/character - then I let a guy know right away.
By Sexione
June 4, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this
Melo I wasn’t speaking of me personally, dear! So you gets to hit NOTHING!!!!! unless I say so!
By SeanJohnson
June 4, 2007 12:51 PM | Link to this
@ ABC…its not childish or even immature its part of a process or faze u have… u have to realize that some of the things we know now is partly through experience..and trial and error…you cant honestly say..u are the same abc now..than u were in your 20’s and 30’s…u had to go through things to become a finish product.
By BeBe KID
June 4, 2007 12:51 PM | Link to this
Bebekid How the f**k do you get the lord and you “You got to be a playa” in the same paragraph?
Many a tears have to fall but it is all in the game. Love and dating is very much a game and no matter how you look it at or think of it you got to be a PLAYA to win. Truth, I know this concept is to deep for you!
By GA.man
June 4, 2007 12:51 PM | Link to this
Deeettrrooiiitttt bassskkkeeeetbaalllllllll
Had to get you Justme
Mo nothing much just chill’ you know how I do…enjoying the peace of it all…….
Aint that right Sexione (Wink)
By IslandGirl
June 4, 2007 12:54 PM | Link to this
@Truth….don’t you think that would be too distracting….I want my monies worth of your service……psychoanalysis in the nude at 11:00pm?? IG checking up on Truth’s credentials….hmmmmm…….lol
By Jake
June 4, 2007 12:57 PM | Link to this
Truth LMAO@that 12:36…oh yeah, sorry about the late warning..HEHEHE
Sexione Awwwwwww…Dayummmmm, I may have to watch my pockets…
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
June 4, 2007 12:59 PM | Link to this
Hey MOCHA!! What’s up!
Hey JustMe!!
We missed you guys!! LOL
By Sexione
June 4, 2007 1:00 PM | Link to this
GAman do yo thang!!
IG Yep, you better check TheUNTruths credentials…you may be surprised…or not!! lol
SJ it’s immature when you’re (not you personally) still doing that at 30, 40, etc……
By GA.man
June 4, 2007 1:04 PM | Link to this
Justme has been at Grady on the crazy watch since Prince,Billups,Webber, and rip Hamilton didnt do they thang…..lololololololololololololol
By Sexione
June 4, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this
Jake Heeeeyyyy, where have you been hiding? As for your pockets, honey, I am not the one!! That is why I am single…truly single!! No tolerance for the games and such. I pay my own bills, call my own shots, ain’t looking for nothing!! Any man that is blessed to be in my presence will not be worried about that either, he’ll be confident enough to know what time it is. On a side note, someone may end up stealing me right from under your nose……you slipping!! lmsao
By SlimOne
June 4, 2007 1:06 PM | Link to this
Island G I definitely missed you guys too. I popped in for a hot minute on Thursday but didn’t stay long.
By Pastor MusingLee
June 4, 2007 1:06 PM | Link to this
As it says in the good book…”I’m a playa till I dizz-eye Weez-eye”….Be ye not discouraged, if dude took the nookie, next dude won’t get to lookie….If she only wants the dough, that sounds like a’Oe….Backkkk the fk up off me Satan….I am a Playa for Christ sake.
Musing now catching the holy ghost to “Party Like a Rockstar”.
By JustMe
June 4, 2007 1:07 PM | Link to this
Hey GA Man Yeah my boyz are gone fishing. I guess since I don’t care for Tim Puncan and his boys, I’ll have to wish the Cavs well. (leaves a yucky taste in my mouth)
If I run in to an Ex it’s like hey how are you, good to see you, take care. It doesn’t matter how the relationship ended. I wish everyone the best in life.
By GA.man
June 4, 2007 1:09 PM | Link to this
Sexione i will …you coming over for dinner tonight
By The Truth
June 4, 2007 1:10 PM | Link to this
Bebe I’m sorry I was just trying to figure out how you start with a prayer and end with playa. Then I remembered I was in the south with some ol convenient azzed christians. The only thing thats deep is the chit your shoveling us.
IG I’m using new techniques so I don’t stop at the couch. We go to the bedroom, over the deck rail, the island in the kitchen, even the back seat of the car thats parked in the garage. The Truth now hides his fake azz diploma. See you at 11. LOL
ABC womanizing is a part of the growing process too. Thats why its done worldwide. Actually the concept of marriage is newer than the concept of hitting it.
By SeanJohnson
June 4, 2007 1:15 PM | Link to this
@ JustMe…dang..i thought the hurt ankle got the best of you…
@ Sxeone..depends…on where u are in life at that age…and your status…single or what not…we all know that females..late 30’s and 40’s that are single or newly single are very sxual creatures…right?
By Lady J
June 4, 2007 1:16 PM | Link to this
Hey JustMe!!!!!!!!!!!!:) Glad to see you and will see you Wed @ da park!!!:)
By erin
June 4, 2007 1:19 PM | Link to this
I know the feeling! I have an ex I always end up running into at the worst possible times … It’s so weird, because of the way things ended. And yet the town I live in is small enough that it happens a lot, even though we live on opposite ends of town.
For me, it’s kind of weird because HE was the one more interested in me than I was in him. So I feel bad that I just wasn’t very into him, but that’s not something I could help!
By Melo
June 4, 2007 1:24 PM | Link to this
Sexi, I was not addressing that to u personally, but to all ladies. Whether u are hit with consent or not(that illegal), when there is rejection down the road, it stil hurts.Right?
By JustMe
June 4, 2007 1:29 PM | Link to this
Y’all off da chain Still - LOL
Hiya Mo
Dr. GA Man Give me another shot of DEnyOOOO…. say it ain’t so…..
<<< @ >>> <<< @ >>>
By kinderbabe
June 4, 2007 1:32 PM | Link to this
IG my weekend was good. got some rest and hung out w/baby boo..lol. i don’t know if he would appreciate that name..lol. that’s about it. sounds like your plenty busy over there. i’ll enjoy these last few days before my schedule picks up w/school.
By JustMe
June 4, 2007 1:34 PM | Link to this
SJ You ain’t gon believe dis sih……. I’m still booted up!!! Gotta get my MRI results tomorrow.
Hey Lady J yeah I think I’ll be there. I need to check the line up.
By kinderbabe
June 4, 2007 1:34 PM | Link to this
hey justme:) back in your heels yet?
By QC
June 4, 2007 1:36 PM | Link to this
Hey Tiff, JustMe,
Have a great evening all!!!!!
By SexyLeggs
June 4, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this
Sean Johnson the answer is yes, we are! However, I would say more sensual than sexual.
By Jake
June 4, 2007 1:38 PM | Link to this
Sexi I may have slipddided already…lol. I guess you might be my “cursed love?”
By M.Ham.
June 4, 2007 1:38 PM | Link to this
You are right Wise! It’s not relegated to just women. Men feel that way as well. However it’s customary for people to assume that we don’t. I have fallen quickly for several women without sex even being involved. Maybe I am a fool for sating this, but I really don’t care: I follow my heart religiously and I do not mind placing it in the way of possibly being trampled upon. If you fear losing yourself with someone, then expect love to **NEVER come your way. Hey don’t beat yourself up over this event. Make sure to use more discretion before you allow yourself to fall with the next person. I will and you should to. You are doing the right thing as far as staying busy. You know the old saying: *An *Idol *mind *is *the *Devil’s *Workshop. And if you find yourself allowing him to see you hurt, it’s quite alright regardless of what others are saying. Just forgive yourself and make the necessary effort to be stronger in the future. Hang in there Wise… Time heals all wounds.
By MusingLee
June 4, 2007 1:41 PM | Link to this
Justme you would be cool if you stopped kicking rocks wearing flip-flops and football socks.
By JustMe
June 4, 2007 1:42 PM | Link to this
Kinder Not just yet (sniffiling).
By SeanJohnson
June 4, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this
@ JustMe…what happened??? u shoulda heeled/healed up by now..lol…i know u should keep your ankle elevated but if its across someones shoulder…thats too high..
By abc
June 4, 2007 1:44 PM | Link to this
Oh yeah, SJ, I’ve changed a lot in that regard, I did way more than my share of womanizing before I became a man. Sho nuff.
Truth, one could say that the concept of marriage goes back to at least 4000 BC, with Adam and Eve, I’d say that’s enough precedent. Biblical fact is that it’s a sin to hit it with other than your wife, and I’m still guilty of that. ‘Fornication’ is even kinda fun to say though, isn’t it. All together now! Fornication!
By JustMe
June 4, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this
Hi QC
Wise There has been some really great advice posted for you. Just know that you are the kind of person who is capable of loving. Some one famous said….. It is better to have Loved and lost than to have never Loved at all
By BeBe KID
June 4, 2007 1:51 PM | Link to this
Love begins and ends in your mind. Your love for someone who does not love you is all in your mind. You got to reprogram deprogram and get a maintenance man or woman in the interim. A “BOOTY CALL” may be therapeutic!
By IslandGirl
June 4, 2007 1:53 PM | Link to this
@Truth…I guess those techniques could help IG feel better…they seem less invasive (no shock therapy-ECT) hmmmm…So I guess I won’t be leaving your office with a prescription for Prozac or Wellbutrin……lol
By JustMe
June 4, 2007 1:54 PM | Link to this
Musing How the heck are you!
SJ initially I was diagnosed with strained ligaments and tendons; that was about 6 weeks ago. I still can’t walk on it with pains shooting through my ankle. I’ve encountered a few people who have had similar injuries and they’ve said recovery can range from a few months to over a year. As for the Heels/shoulders, I’m about to get back in the game on injured reserved and see how much sympathy dudes really have in them. :-)
By kinderbabe
June 4, 2007 1:55 PM | Link to this
justme awwh man! well, the summer has just started. you have plenty of time to strut your stuff this summer.:) how much longer do you think it’ll be?
By JustMe
June 4, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this
abc I hope I misread your earlier post…… it sounded like you and your intense flame had ceased to be…..
By The Truth
June 4, 2007 2:01 PM | Link to this
Justme just summed it up. “It is better to have Loved and lost than to have never Loved at all” And that comes from a woman with a wooden shoe.
By MusingLee
June 4, 2007 2:03 PM | Link to this
Hey JustMe, I’m good…I hope your leg gets better.
By kinderbabe
June 4, 2007 2:04 PM | Link to this
hey mochatreat i’m all late responding…lol. yes, the kids are out of the building! any big plans for your break?
By Sexione
June 4, 2007 2:10 PM | Link to this
JustMe Heeyyy gurl, someone else said it better….It is better to have loved and lost than to live with a fool for the rest of your life! lmsao
GAman I can’t come over for dinner yet, you have to go thru the interview process and pass the pre-course test first!!! lmsao
By For Real
June 4, 2007 2:10 PM | Link to this
IG Come see me first but I need a sex month excuse me I meant a six month commitment to the schedule.
Sexi No women gets my wallet because I take my clothes off in the car. quirk-quirk (that my door locking behind me)
BBK God and playa in the same thought huh??? You must be reading from the book of Pretty Tony
abc Becareful of tossing stones. Remember, your sins aren’t forgot until they have been forgiven
By MochaTreat
June 4, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this
@Kinder I am going to New Orleans next week for a wedding. At the end of the month I am going to Maryland in June for a family reunion. I am not sure what I am going to do in July…it’s my birthday month…so whatever it is it will be EXCITING!!!!
By Wise Diva
June 4, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this
Really great advice, guys. Thanks!
By abc
June 4, 2007 2:14 PM | Link to this
Nah, JustMe, the girl and I are fine.
By JustMe
June 4, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this
Kinder I was saying that in April…… here it is June and I’m still saying that. Maybe I’ll kick rocks at this boot when I can finally 86 it! I have no clue how much longer, I’ve about worn this boot out. If I have to stay in it any longer, I’m getting a new boot and a handicap parking permit!
Thanks Musing
By For Real
June 4, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this
JustMe What up Girl… Let me know when you come off the IR and get in game shape again… Then we will see about putting you back in the game. Got to play to win..
By GA.man
June 4, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this
Sexione you said as long as i didnt tellJake the other night when i came over that we could see each other again………
Why you playing hard to get..you ate my wings watching the game now you gotta see…that aint right….
made you laugh and was there when you’re feet hurt now i gotta go thru this..but hey I am a Gamer so bring it on…lol
By kinderbabe
June 4, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this
mochatreat that sounds great! you have your summer off to a good start. i won’t be traveling til july. i’ll be in school for this month til the 29th. i would LOVE to go to the bahamas or the virgin islands before school starts again.
By JustMe
June 4, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this
Sexi … and they were right - LOL
abc good news indeed! Keep up the good work :-)
By The Truth
June 4, 2007 2:25 PM | Link to this
For Real roflmao @ “book of pretty tony”.
Abc your 1052 said you were in distress. Which is it?
By NCGirlfromATL
June 4, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this
PastorMusingLee You’re looking casket clean today! If you’ll follow me to the Fellowship Hall, we have an assortment of chicken, macaroni and cheeses, and various and sundry baked goods for your eating pleasure. Slim stop putting chasing your Hen with water from the baptistmal pool.
JustMe Waddup, gurl?!?
Kirk Women hope a guy just gets the hint so we don’t have to deal w/ some stalker/crazy as hayo dude who doesn’t take rejection very well. It’s called self-preservation. LOLOL!!!
By Sexione
June 4, 2007 2:29 PM | Link to this
See GAman y’all can’t hold water!!!! You showed up with them lil hot wings thinking that would earn you some extra points, but nooooo!!! Now that you’ve tried to put me on blast, I’m no longer interested…….you and TheUnTruth must be sipping from the same bottle of Hatorade!!!
ForReal you’s a skraight fool……better watch out undressing in the car, mess around and get raped trying to get to the house. ForReal now running up the driveway, ducking behind the bushes to hide his nekked dingaling, trying to figure out why ole girl is taking her sweet time opening the door
By MochaTreat
June 4, 2007 2:30 PM | Link to this
@KinderThat sounds wonderful! I have a class to take in July. Both of those places sound wonderful.
By JustMe
June 4, 2007 2:35 PM | Link to this
For Real been there done that…. y’all ain’t in it to win it, so why should I be in it to win it :-) I’m gonna pick out a few peices of eyecandy and stay gamed up!
By GA.man
June 4, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this
Smile Sexione see you shouldnt have put me on the test waitlist…..but its cool i will see you around 8 or 830 is cool…(Hugs and kisses)
By MusingLee
June 4, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this
NCgirl Now that’s what I call a spread…Mmmmmmmmmm
For Real Just don’t forget to take your car keys out of your pants pockets…I am not driving the Urang to pick you up nekkedded ever again.
Musing spraying Febreze on the passenger seat just for thinking about that
By abc
June 4, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this
Regarding Christian counseling, I was under some anxiety about separation inherent to LDR, it’s getting better.
By GA.man
June 4, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this
Musing I need the URANG got to go pick up SEXIONE tonight…..spray the Febreeze all over…lol
By For Real
June 4, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this
For Real: Whew!!! Thank Musing
Musing: ManWTF!!! Where are you clothes and what’s that smell.
For Real: Man that heffer took too long to open the door and these Roc’s started chasing me.
Musing: Yeah but what is that smell??
For Real: When I saw the Roc’s it was like I said it and then I did it…
By For Real
June 4, 2007 2:51 PM | Link to this
Member of the MLB let it be known that membership has it privileges.
I got $20 on some cloth seat covers for the Urang.
By Wise Diva
June 4, 2007 2:52 PM | Link to this
@Kirk, I missed your earlier question for me, sorry. I think that a lot of women really like that affection, attention from guys. It’s like we try to make it deeper than it really is, in hopes that the spark and chemistry will ignite later, and when it doesn’t we end up appearing as if we are playing games. Now, there ARE women that play games, but I think that men are able to figure out what type they are dealing with these days. I think a lot of guys “test” me in that way, to see what type of character I have. It’s not a problem , for the most part because I try my best not to play those dating games. Then again, if I sense the game being played on me, I do go on the defense a little.
By JustMe
June 4, 2007 2:53 PM | Link to this
Peace all blog with ya later.
By MusingLee
June 4, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this
Ahhhhhh hahahahahahahaa….danggg…LOLOLOLOLOL
For Real boy you are wild…LOLOLOL
By GA.man
June 4, 2007 3:01 PM | Link to this
For Real i got new floor mats….and i just got us a gas card…..
By Kirk
June 4, 2007 3:14 PM | Link to this
Wise Diva, thanks for that
But NCgirl: can’t the same be said about females? Is it just guys who can be stalkers or what? I mean, the streets of ATL are filled with cars that have been keyed—and that’s rarely ever guys. But I think that if a female has been “dogged out” by a guy—its going to have a definate impact on the next guy she meets.
By Sexione
June 4, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this
GAman yeah, you’ll need that gas card trying to pick me up! lol I don’t think I want to ride in the boo-boo mobile now that ForReal has messed it up….literally…lmsao
y’all ain’t in it to win it, so why should I be in it to win it :-) I’m gonna pick out a few peices of eyecandy and stay gamed up! so many feel this way!
By Cassie
June 4, 2007 3:17 PM | Link to this
Man, there is a lot of Yosemite Sam swearing on this blog today!
Wise…I was reading a study a few weeks ago that says women who are cynical in their dating practices have a greater chance of making the correct decision when choosing a mate than women who are dreamers or even just practical.
So…put your cynical hat on, my dear, and you will never be taken for a ride like that again!
By Sexione
June 4, 2007 3:18 PM | Link to this
Kirk yes, all that has been said can go either/both ways. Sounds like you’re going thru something, care to share? We’ll be supportive…..
By Sexione
June 4, 2007 3:20 PM | Link to this
A woman is in bed with her lover who also happens to be her husband’s best friend. They make love for hours, and afterwards, while they’re just laying there, the phone rings. Since it is the woman’s house, she picks up the receiver. Her lover looks over at her and listens, only hearing her side of the conversation.
(She is speaking in a cheery voice) “Hello? Oh, hi. I’m so glad that you called. Really? That’s wonderful. I am so happy for you. That sounds terrific. Great! Thanks. Okay. Bye bye.”
She hangs up the telephone and her lover asks, “Who was that?”
“Oh” she replies, “that was my husband telling me all about the wonderful time he’s having on his fishing trip with you.”
By Red Khezu
June 4, 2007 3:21 PM | Link to this
Wise, your not the only one who feels cursed. I hear from my Ex Fiancée about once a month or so, since we have been split. She likes to let me know how many sugar Daddies she is doing at that time and rots up that I’m still single after almost 3 years of being away from her. I have dated since her just haven’t found the right one yet.
It doesn’t bother me as much as it used to, especially after I found out one of her escapades was with a registered child molester. But I do feel ya Wise, if I didn’t have to have anything to do with my Ex it sure would keep my waters calmer. She was the biggest waste of time in my life, it would be nice if I didn’t have to remember her.
But its life I guess, you live, you learn, and you grow older an hopefully smarter in some cases.
By NCGirlfromATL
June 4, 2007 3:23 PM | Link to this
Kirk Of course, women can be crazy too. But, at least men have the advantage of size and (hopefully) intimidation to keep a relatively sane woman from posting up on him. I was being a bit facetious, but the truth is that neither sex does a good job of being…how do I say it…brave when it comes to ending a relationship in the scenario you presented. We’d rather avoid the confrontation/scene/emotions and hope that the other person just gets the hint and moves on.
By In Da Name...
June 4, 2007 3:31 PM | Link to this
Cassie, I agree with your intent although I’d suggest you stay positive and “real.” Cynicism usually makes for a short date and eventually gets you left at home.
By Nononsenz
June 4, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this
I was in a relationship where I thought we were both in love, and he did tell me he loved me. We spent a lot of time together, and I bonded with his son. Next thing I know, he just stops calling, won’t take my calls, basically ignoring me. However, that is not how you break up with someone. It was last Memorial Day weekend that he did this. On Tuesday morning, I was parked outside his job. He saw me and kept going…I couldn’t believe it. I wrote him some emails and basically cussed him out. But it took me six months to get to the point where I could think about him without crying, etc. Never again, thank you.
By Sexione
June 4, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this
I’m out……everyone have a great evening!!
By NCGirlfromATL
June 4, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this
ROTFLMAO @ Sexi and the boo boo mobile!!!!
So, to mix w/ the corn-chips/foot-funk smell Musing brought w/ him from the Civic, they now have a naked booty boo boo smell too? MLB, I’m all for men being men, but how about investing in some Lava or Irish Spring or something.
Handing GA Man a gang of Lemon Lysol scented air freshener trees to hang in the Urang.
By SexyLeggs
June 4, 2007 3:47 PM | Link to this
Sexione that was funny…
By For Real
June 4, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this
Cassie Does that even make sense? Who would want a cynical person? Women please stop reading that stuff. If it worked then you wouldn’t be reading about another study or some other research. It is all bogus.
By GA.man
June 4, 2007 3:52 PM | Link to this
Thank you NC…whewww!!!!! we needed them…lololol
By GA.man
June 4, 2007 3:53 PM | Link to this
Hey SEXYLEGGS how have you been
By For Real
June 4, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this
NC & Sexi The next time either of you are in the WLB whip I suggest you take a deep breath.
For Real now installing the seats he procured from the WLB whip via the Burford Hwy Flee Market into the Urang along with 20 inch wheels Now I can remove those 20’s that look like 10’s from the Urang
By IslandGirl
June 4, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this
@NC…LOL….Lemon Lysol scented air freshener trees to hang in the Urang
By NCGirlfromATL
June 4, 2007 4:04 PM | Link to this
NC & Sexi The next time either of you are in the WLB whip I suggest you take a deep breath.
What? And hold it?
Slim quick, check the fleet…For Real’s stick fingers are at it again! I see an oil/transmission fluid slick in the driveway of the WLB headquarters, which can mean only 1 thing: the Civic was here.
By SexyLeggs
June 4, 2007 4:04 PM | Link to this
GA.man I’ve been hanging in there. I know I told you guys about thinking about taking belly dancing (no jokes). Well, round two of my exotic dance class starts this Friday…woo hoo!!!
By SlimOne
June 4, 2007 4:05 PM | Link to this
Truth I know i’m late, just now trying to catch up but in regards to your 9:46, that’s what i was amazed by during JazzFest at Piedmont.
Blat oouch that had to hurt even though it was over. Maybe ole girl wanted to change after being with you but was having a hard time letting go of all that good D.
For Real honey you know my ears are still ringing…sshhh don’t yell. Come a little closer…so…i…can….Slap you in the back of the head. ANyhoo, I had a great time. No complaints here.
By Wise Diva
June 4, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this
Cassie, do you mean, like not seeing relationships through “rose-colored” glasses, so to speak?
By For Real
June 4, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this
NC Hey, hey For Real is no thief. I told you I bought those seats and rim from the Buford Hwy. Flee Market
By MusingLee
June 4, 2007 4:11 PM | Link to this
I was parked outside his job. He saw me and kept going…I couldn’t believe it.
Nononsenz…Dude may have been wrong to breakup the way he did…but I ain’t going no where near some chick sitting outside my office….That’s some straight stalker’ishh….
Chick waiting in car
Chick: Hey…Hey….Musing m/f…Stop running…HEYYYYYYYYY…I KNOW YOU HEAR ME!! Som-moma-itch…GET yo’Azz back here….
Musing now jumping into a nearby dumpster as stalker chick runs right by
By Lyric
June 4, 2007 4:12 PM | Link to this
The same thing is happening to me. My ex from college seven years ago works directly across the street from me. We were together all through college and broke up when we graduated. It use to be a constant reminder of what was and what could have been. I no longer think about him and I remind myself I left him. Of course it can be hard sometimes since he is in a high profile position but so am I. So I like to think the curse works both ways.
By SlimOne
June 4, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this
NC I believe they have been here. I also saw a piece of the red tint that must of came unglued from the cracked passenger side window.
By For Real
June 4, 2007 4:18 PM | Link to this
Slim OUCH!!! Dang girl… What is that stain on your shirt? It looks like vaseline, baby powder, and glitter. OOOOOOOh, Slim Imma tell yo mamma…..
By SexyLeggs
June 4, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this
Diva basically you have to be honest with yourself and close the door on this “cursed relationship”. Time to move on, love yourself and so what! You guys are ex’s for a reason. Hey, this is nothing but a “pebble in the path of progress.”
By BlatinoBrutha -
June 4, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this
Slim1, I think so too, but the bottom line is you really can’t turn a h* in to a housewife.
By MusingLee
June 4, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this
Slim That couldn’t possibly be the Civic…The 10speed bike chain holding the engine in place broke on friday, and I haven’t replaced it yet.
It could be demi’s F150…
By Wise Diva
June 4, 2007 4:22 PM | Link to this
so true Sexxyleggs, it’s my ego that has to get over it the most. LOL.
By SeanJohnson
June 4, 2007 4:28 PM | Link to this
@ Slim…how was pinups??? did you enjoy your self??? who did u go with…all in ya kool laid
By NCGirlfromATL
June 4, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this
For Real problem: the WLB whip has never been to the flea market. Truth tried to get somebody to drop him off there, but since the last incident with him, the tranny lady of the late late afternoon, and the box of Popeye’s chicken, he’s been banned from the premises, and especially the WLB rides.
By kinderbabe
June 4, 2007 4:31 PM | Link to this
wow nononsenz. that was definitely terribly inconsiderate on his part (to say the least). i hope that you have taken the necessary steps for your healing so that you can have closure. know that his decision to disappear from your life is no reflection on you as a person.
By SexyLeggs
June 4, 2007 4:31 PM | Link to this
Diva now that you’ve recognized this, let IT GO! It can be easier than you think if you’d try. You said you were the only one in love. Ok, because you know this stop beating yourself up. It’s over. You have to find the silver lining in this “cursed relationship”. The first thing I get from reading what you wrote is that you realize you know how to love. You aren’t afraid to give of yourself. Ok, wrong person…move on to the right person. You’ve learned from this lesson. On to Chapter 2!!!!
By Teddy
June 4, 2007 4:31 PM | Link to this
strolling in from Lurkville
Yeah Wise I have learned the hard way that the ego/pride has got to know when to get out of the way.
By SlimOne
June 4, 2007 4:39 PM | Link to this
For Real You must have some oil in your eye. There’s no stain on my shirt. No dancer should have her budussy high enough to leave a stain on my shirt. Pants maybe be a different story though…Grooossss!
Blat yeah, that’s what they say.
By SlimOne
June 4, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this
SJ It was okay. I didn’t want any dances but being that it was my b-day and all, my friends kept them coming and gave me some $$ to make it rain. I went with two of my guy friends and a chick.
By GA.man
June 4, 2007 4:48 PM | Link to this
Hey all i am out…just remember that if you put “GOD” in it…noone can mess it up..and if they try or do..he can fix it
Peace out…one love…
MLB for life
By The Truth
June 4, 2007 4:51 PM | Link to this
Its starting to sound like dating is a mine field and the goal is to get through it without getting blown the f* up. LOL
Blat didn’t you say she was gonna be a project anyway? You had on a capn sav a h outfit on a few weeks ago if I remember correctly.
Red your ex sounds like my ex wife. She wanted to call me and tell me she was getting married to a wonderful guy. I told her to quit calling me unless she was giving up some azz. Anyway, a few years later she was still on the roster, a dependable reserve.
Wise Diva even the fellas have learned to put the ego in the closet when it comes to dating. This stuff is full contact out here. LOL