By Sexione

June 12, 2007 8:19 AM | Link to this

Goodmorning Everybody!

Sexi hair flip to the WLB, non-church hugs to the MLB

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 8:28 AM | Link to this

A morning hair flip to the WLB and a wave to the MLB

Is this a uniquely female thing? Who out there saves mementos from past and present relationships? What types of things have you saved over the years? What have you done with them? No, i don’t think it just pertains to women. I also save all kinds of things from past relationships, everything from movie ticket stubs to dried roses to cards, to letters to pictures. I actually made a scrapbook with things from my ex before last. We were together about 3 years. I have yet to make one for my most recent ex because frankly i’ve accumulated so much stuff during the course of our on and off again 8 year relationship.

On the flipside, have you ever had a symbolic trashing or destroying of stuff? The most i’ve ever done was rip up naked photos of them or written some harsh words on the back of a picture or something. I’ve never burned any momentos or shot darts at their picture.

How would you feel if you knew an ex had saved things that reminded them of you? Or how would you feel knowing an ex had gotten rid of all mementos? Of course i’d feel flattered knowing they felt enough of me to want to keep whatever it was. As far as an ex getting rid of it, depending on who it was and what it was would determine how i felt about it. I mean i really can’t expect someone to keep a whole shrine to me. Plus i pretty much are cool with all of my ex’s except one that is married now.

By GA.man

June 12, 2007 8:37 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Head nods to the All Powerful MLB…Winks,Hugs, and Kisses to the Sexy Ladies of the WLB

By Peyton

June 12, 2007 8:45 AM | Link to this

morning y’all.. longtime lurker, first time poster.. figured i’d holler at y’all and say what’s up.

i have a few trinkets and things from my past two major relationships.. all over the last year i’d say i’ve picked this stuff up.. but the collection is mostly comprised of old pictures, little notes and stuff they’d write me and leave on the island at the apartment.. one of my posts on my bed has about seven hair ties from the last ex.. and i always kick myself when i see them and say they need to be thrown out, but i never really get around to it.

to me, it’s not necessarily the material stuff i wanna get rid of from them.. y’all know all too well it’s some of the OTHER baggage they left.

obviously though.. you’re hoping your old homegirl is thinking about you all the time in her post-partum misery.. so you’re probably hoping that she isn’t burning all those old pictures of you two, you know, just in case certain feelings come rushing back for more. ;)

cheers, y’all. happy overcast tuesday. :/

By The Truth

June 12, 2007 8:55 AM | Link to this

Hellz to the naw. First thing you do is trash all of their possessions. After I got divorced I threw away everything that was hers, period. Its the first step to recovery. Delete pics, trash letters, everything. My ex told me she still has some of my things, then again, she still hasn’t let it go either. Bury that thing and go on with life. .02

By the way, good morning bloggers. Lets make it a good one. Azz slap to the WLB and motorcycle waves to the MLB.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

June 12, 2007 8:58 AM | Link to this

Morning ALL!! Hair flip to the WLB and soft kisses to the MLB!!

On topic I save items too but only from certain relationships. Of course my latest one presents a whole different kind of “momento”: wedding stuff. Dont know how I will deal with all that stuff. I most assuredly will keep the pictures (since I was so gorgeous anyway) but there are some other things I probably will get rid of, just dont know how to determine what goes and what stays. Any suggestions anyone? :0( But of other items that I have kept, its mostly flowers, pictures, a couple of cards.

How would you feel if you knew an ex had saved things that reminded them of you? Or how would you feel knowing an ex had gotten rid of all mementos?

If they saved things, I would be flattered of course! If they got rid of things I would just chalk it up to the relationship being over anyway…

By The NSG

June 12, 2007 8:58 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone.

I’m feeling really direct today, so here goes: I’ve kept some stuff and thrown out memories of others. There are some people I want to keep a piece of and others I’d rather forget…

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 9:07 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

I think this is more of a chick thing…Usually Men just throw stuff away…After my ex’s and I broke up, I got rid of anything dealing with them. It’s not healthy for future relationships to hold on to those things for sentimental reasons…I have memories and that’s enough for me.

Musing now singing Icebox from Omarion

By Sexione

June 12, 2007 9:08 AM | Link to this

lmsao @ TheTruth

See, I’m pretty much this way too. It’s not out of spite, or misery, or disappointment. I feel like when you move on, you move on. And I can’t stand clutter, so I’m always cleaning and clearing……out with the old, in with the new. And for those that tend to carry around the baggage of old relationships, this is a great way to clear your mind and your life.

By abc

June 12, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this

I save nothing. Not a pack rat am I; I don’t save souvenirs, momentos of anything. Live not for the past, say I, now is the time, the future is upon us.

Compulsion led me to contact my girlfriend from H.S. a couple years ago, and again last year. She had saved a football jersey of mine for almost 30 years. She had Christmas cards I gave her when I was 16, 17 and 18 years old, a poem I had wrote for her. I hadn’t seen her since I was 20, though I’d thought of her almost daily, and I was quite touched.

Since then I’ve saved every ticket to a play, every program to a concert, souvenir from a museum that we’ve been to. Every card, every picture. Talk about a compulsion.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

June 12, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this

Truth dont catch the beatdown for that azz slap!! LOL ;0)

By NCGirlfromATL

June 12, 2007 9:17 AM | Link to this

Morning…

I guess it’s a woman thing, but I’m more like a guy in this regard. Out with the bad and in with the good! No need to keep a bunch of reminders of a relationship gone bad. I delete email addresses, phone numbers from the cell and home phone. Poof pow, be gooooooone! LOLOL!!

By Blatino aka BMW aka BLT

June 12, 2007 9:20 AM | Link to this

Daps n Hugs to mah Blog Bruhs of the MLB!!!…. Sexy winks to my WLB huneez. Thanks for the love yesterday….

BMW’s gonna be lurking today. Gotta earn it.

By Dark Brown

June 12, 2007 9:21 AM | Link to this

Shortly after I was married, my ex-husband was sent to Korea for a yer. He and I made a pact that we would write each other a letter every day. So, now, I have nearly 700 letters in a box in my storage unit that I never open, but cannot throw away. Why? Not for the sentimental relationship associated feelings, but because those 700 letters represent a year of my life. And you don’t just throw away your life like that.

By Sexione

June 12, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this

lol @ abc Sounds like she turned you around!! hehehehe

Mo I’ll bet he’s hoping we’ll respond with a slap of our own……..and we’re not reaching for yo azzez lol

By Purplepassion

June 12, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone-I guess I’m not as much a sentimental person since I don’t hold on to anything from my past relationships. Whether it ended on my behalf or his I’d rather not have any reminders lingering around. I don’t need anything delaying the healing process. My ex on the other hand held on to every peice of lint that was given to him from his relationships. One time when he was on vacation I was going thru a box in the garage and found all kinds of pictures and letters from women from his past. I was shocked to see that he held on to all these sruff and them to bring them in the home we shared. Those letters and pictures really but a big rip in our relationship.

By Purplepassion

June 12, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone-I guess I’m not as much a sentimental person since I don’t hold on to anything from my past relationships. Whether it ended on my behalf or his I’d rather not have any reminders lingering around. I don’t need anything delaying the healing process. My ex on the other hand held on to every peice of lint that was given to him from his relationships. One time when he was on vacation I was going thru a box in the garage and found all kinds of pictures and letters from women from his past. I was shocked to see that he held on to all these sruff and them to bring them in the home we shared. Those letters and pictures really but a big rip in our marriage.

By T-Mango

June 12, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this

Hair flip to the WLB and a shoulder lean to the MLB. Good morning all-

Historically, I have been guilty of saving special things from past relationships(cards, pictures, etc.) However, as I come across those items I throw them away. However…in my last relationship, I actually shipped a 20lb box via UPS to his home with a note (ok, it was a nastygram…) so that he could get rid of the sentimental remnants of our relationship. That made my clean-up job easier…anyhoo.

…Memories can only be erased or blocked under extinuating mental/physical circumstances. So since the memories exist in my mind, I no longer feel the need to keep the tangible item associated with those memories. I just cherish the memories mentally and move forward with the present.

By Purplepassion

June 12, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone-I guess I’m not as much a sentimental person since I don’t hold on to anything from my past relationships. Whether it ended on my behalf or his I’d rather not have any reminders lingering around. I don’t need anything delaying the healing process. My ex on the other hand held on to every peice of lint that was given to him from his relationships. One time when he was on vacation I was going thru some boxes in the garage and found all kinds of pictures and letters from women from his past. I was shocked to see that he held on to all these sruff and then to bring them in the home we shared. One of the letters was from a women in the town he went to vacation at. When I looked at the post mark on some of the letters they were posted marked during the time we were dating. Those letters and pictures really but a big rip in our marriage.

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 9:32 AM | Link to this

NCgirl that sounds like me…LOLOLOL

DarkBrown How long have you been divorced? Sounds like you still have a thing for your ex.

By SeanJohnson

June 12, 2007 9:33 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog…regarding the topic…i have an old shoe box of pictures of a few females a dated and a few female friends…I kept them..not to hold on to something that has dissolved…but to keep them to remind me of good memories of that person..I have also have learned to keep this shoe box tucked deep in the closet because it could cause problems some folks dont understand its possible to have let go of someone but still have a place in your heart for someone u onced dated..doesnt mean u have to or want to contact them either..

By abc

June 12, 2007 9:39 AM | Link to this

Mind you, should the girl go breaking my heart, all that stuff goes straight into the big trash tub on wheels out back. I save nothing. I consider reminders of the past a hindrance in the present, I’d just wind up beating myself up with them.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

June 12, 2007 9:42 AM | Link to this

Sexione you are right about Truth!! LOL

SJ some folks dont understand its possible to have let go of someone but still have a place in your heart for someone u onced dated..doesnt mean u have to or want to contact them either.. ^5^5^5^5^5!! I am cosigning that one with the feather gold-tipped pen!

By SeanJohnson

June 12, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this

Blog Females…what do you do with rings and other jewelry? and what about expensive gifts…

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this

Sean J I have about 3 shoe boxes of memories i keep deep in my closet too. Every once in a tourqoise moon when i’m having an alone time kind of day, i’ll pull them out, have me a drink and listen to some old jams. It’s so crazy looking at old pictures or reading old poems you and that person may have given each other. I even found little scraps of paper that I wrote on when i put my ex on a scavenger hunt inside the house. Each piece of paper was a clue to what he had to do next. It also reminds of me how creative love can make you be at times.

By Purplepassion

June 12, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this

Sorry for the quad of comments. See what going down memeory lane does to me. AAARRRGGGG I’m still mad

By Dark Brown

June 12, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

Musing - I have been divorced for 13 years. To see exactly how I feel about him read [here)(http://sjeaspeaks.blogspot.com/2006/06/happy-birthday-sswipe.html)

Note - I am so not good at the text linking thing - it may not turn out right.

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this

Sean J Any jewelry i’ve received i pretty much kept. There was only once when I returned a bracelet but that was because I had given him diamond stud earrings and he felt guilty about accepting it because of what he was doing on the side. I really didn’t care for the bracelet and later on I found out he ended up giving it to the other girl…he had also given me a poem he supposedly wrote for me and framed it….Yep you guessed it, he got her the same poem! Is this the part where I say, “I got punked?”

By T-Mango

June 12, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this

SJ

What do you do with rings and other jewelry?..Gifts?

Well, I think that depends on whether the breakup was amicable or not. If it is you can mutually discuss what to do with those items. There is also less of a burn associated with items if you still respect the person after the relationship ends.

I’ve only had one situation where expensive gifts were involved (hence the UPS box).That was not an amicable situation. So, I gave them back. Regaredless of how pricey the item was, having it in my home or on my person was a reminder of him. I no longer needed it.

By Dark Brown

June 12, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this

testing

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

June 12, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone

There is a week’s grace period just to make sure that I don’t change my mind…after that…it all goes in the garbage. If someone came by my house you wouldn’t know that I ever had a man or that I do now for that fact…now, I just don’t do the pictures and letters thing anymore. All my pictures are on my computer…easily deletable.

SeanJ Now, that’s one thing I do keep…jewelry. For some reason I don’t even think about the EX when I’m putting on jewelry…at some point…the 2 are mutually exclusive!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

June 12, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this

SJ Jewelry I have pretty much kept. I did give an engagement ring back (why not), but otherwise I have kept the jewelry.

By Dark Brown

June 12, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this

Did I say 13 years? I meant 10.

By The Truth

June 12, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this

Under threat of the beat down form MO, I am modifying her azz slap to a smash and grab and furhter adding the massaging fingers technique. (**The Truth now prepares for a long and painful beat down)

Give all old relationships their proper mourning time (as short as possible) and then bury them. Keep a few memeories (usually sex or something freaky) to reflect on and go forward in life. Who gives jewelry away nowadays? If I I’m not asking for her hand she gets no jewelry from me.

By Cinderella

June 12, 2007 10:06 AM | Link to this

Morning All!

I throw away everything. After my divorce I sold my ring and put the money in the boys savings. If I came across clothes he left behind- I threw them away. I’m not bitter people, it was just taking up valuable space. :)

By Cassie

June 12, 2007 10:08 AM | Link to this

What’s up with all the hair flipping?

I had a MASSIVE purge upon the finalization of the divorce. I gave him all the jointly acquired posessions, and when he was finally out of my hair, I threw away our wedding photos and dumped gravy on them just to make sure I couldn’t change my mind.

That isn’t to say I don’t have momentos from other folks squirrelled away….

By kinderbabe

June 12, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

good morning all!

darkbrown read your blog…wow! that is quite a situation. i wonder if holding on to the letters is delaying the completion of the healing process for you. there’s a difference between being over it, and really over it. you know?

on topic: i had a ton of stuff from my high school first romance. we were together 3 years so of course i had a boat load of stuff. it was around my 2nd year in college when i finally threw everything out. i had garbage bags full of letters, teddy bears, cards, etc. i felt that it was best to get rid of it so that i could completely move on. the most valuable thing i have from the relationship is the memories…and you can’t throw those away. the other stuff was just baggage…lol.

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

DarkBrown You should throw that stuff out…Why hold onto it?!?! You can’t throw out years of your life because you have lived them…Those are just letters…But, everyone is different. Inorder for me to move on, I throw ishh away and forget numbers and emails.

I am in a mode of moving forward. I learn my lessons from the past and kick rocks…I don’t turn around.

Musing’s Motto: “fk that ishh.”

By abc

June 12, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

I often give gifts of jewelry. I often give the girl gifts, period. Compulsive, man!

By Sexione

June 12, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this

I’ve had a few pieces of jewelry many years ago that I kept after the b/u. I also kept the furniture from where we lived together for a few years. When he decided he would abandon me and his child, hellz yeah, I kept everything he left, pawned his jewelry to help pay the bills, and tossed his clothes in the dumpster. Woooo, ,I used to be mean as hellz!!!! lololol But that was a looonnnggg time ago. Eventually the furniture was replaced with new after I moved, but I still have one (of two) big screen tvs that works like a charm….the other stopped working and couldn’t be repaired, so I tossed it too. Wow, that was over a decade ago!!!

By Dark Brown

June 12, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this

Musing - every time I visit my storage to clean and re-organize (which isn’t often), I look over at that box that takes up less than a cubic foot of space. And for 2 seconds, I consider throwing it out. I feel no compulsion to take the box down from the shelf, find a spot to be comfortable and tiptoe through memories that are nearly a decade old.

Instead, I look up at that box and I am reminded of the rather naive young woman that I was at the time. More important, I am reminded of the lessons learned during that period of my life.

So - rather than a tribute to a failed relationship, I tell myself that my little box of letters are a tangible reminder of who I used to be and how I got to who I am.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

June 12, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this

See Truth I thought you learned a lesson from the UPS man last week!! Now I got to act up once again! LOL But for you, I wont even try to keep it civil, Ima have to get the hair pinned up and break out my Nikes!! I finally get to try out some kickboxing moves… :0)

So guys should I throw away my old wedding pictures? Just want to get an opinion or two.

By Jewel

June 12, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

Good morning Everyone!

Save mementos from past relationships?! I save them long enough to have a campfire, ala Angela Bassett style in Waiting to Exhale! LOL! The ring from my ex…I gave it to our daughter when she turned 16. Now, I will save ticket stubs, souvenir programs, etc. from functions we have attended. But, that is because the event alone was enjoyable to me. I have enough “I remember when” mental moments after a breakup. I do not need (or want) visible reminders.

Quote of the Day Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?

By SeanJohnson

June 12, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

Blog Ladies & Moeiehsa…i was specifically asking about engangement rings…i know the appropiate thing would be to give the ring back…but i know it doenst always work out that way..so is it to be given back…or kepted…or pawned???

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

DarkBrown Well whatever works for you. Let your haters be your motivaters.

But, Musing would take that box outside and football kick that itchh.

By ricannkutiee

June 12, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

hola good morning peeps

when my ex and broke up, wow i had a field day with thrown stuff away. dont get me started on the pics i wanted to save some but i didnt want to get rid of ( i was lookin fabolous in them) i think my sis has one tho. anywayz i just couldnt look at a pic of someone that had took me thrur sooooooooooo much! but i kept the shoes and sandals he brought me hehehe. hope yall have a wondeful day and rest of the week!

By ricannkutiee

June 12, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

hola good morning peeps

when my ex and broke up, wow i had a field day with thrown stuff away. dont get me started on the pics i wanted to save some but i didnt want to get rid of ( i was lookin fabolous in them) i think my sis has one tho. anywayz i just couldnt look at a pic of someone that had took me thrur sooooooooooo much! but i kept the shoes and sandals he brought me hehehe. hope yall have a wondeful day and rest of the week!

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

June 12, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

SeanJ Well, why didn’t you say that in the first place….I would give the engagement ring back out of anger…probably throw it at him in anger or something…then regret that I gave it back!!

By Sexione

June 12, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this

SJ I think the protocol on that is to give it back if she breaks the engagement, but if he does, then she can choose to keep it or not or pawn it. Is that right ladies?

lmsao @ Jewel not the Angela Basset, Waiting to Exhale, kinda campfire?!!! HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

Sexi now setting up concession stand in preparation for the throwdown between Mo and Truth…..let’s see, we have peanuts, popcorn and beer!!!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

June 12, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this

SJ engagement rings I say give it back. My reason: I wouldnt ever wear it! Yeah I could pawn it but its easier for me to just give it back and keep it moving. I remember having that ring for a while after the break-up and I kept thinking “I will never wear this” so I gave it back. Now if he wont take it, you cant get in touch with him or whatever you do what you do.

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

Sean J well count me out, I’ve never had an engagement ring. But isn’t the ring given with the intention on getting married? So if you’re no longer going to be wed or get married, why hold on to it. ??? I’ll let the other ones answer that.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

June 12, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this

Sexi save me a Heineken please!! A girl is gonna be thirsty cause I know Truth aint going down easy! LOL

NCGirl We gon need a referee and since GAMan would be biased can you step in! ;0)

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this

SeanJ, My SO says that if we ever breakup, she would keep the ring…I told her if that’s the case, she’s gonna wakeup one morning with an open window, a sheet tied to the bed post, and a missing ring.

Now replacing actual ring with knockoff replica to avoid the above scenario

By T-Mango

June 12, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this

Musing’s Motto: “fk that ishh.”

Now that’s a motto…shawt & to the pernt(lol)

By Cassie

June 12, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this

SJ My engagement and wedding rings were one and the same. I wanted the divorce, but I ended up paying off the ring, so I kept it. I sold the sapphire, and chucked the band in the Chattahoochee.

But it is true that if the woman breaks off the engagement she should give the ring back. And if the ring is an heirloom, she should ALWAYS give it back.

By MissUnderstood

June 12, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this

Hey ALL!!!!! It has been a long time since I’ve been here. I see there are a lot of new people in here. I just stopped in to say wassup! Hopefully I will be able to talk later.

SJ I agree, I have an engagement ring that I will be giving back today.

If it’s not working, don’t accept the ring, it’s not going to make it work. If you do accept the ring, just give it back.

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this

Blog Ladies How would you feel if after you accepted a guys proposal you found out the ring he gave you, he used in asking a prior gf?

By Jewel

June 12, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

This blog song dedication goes out to all of the sappy bloggers who will need a tissue box after today:

Memory Lane by Minnie Riperton

I stumbled on this photograph It kinda made me laugh It took me way back Back down memory lane I see the happiness… I see the pain Where am I… back down memory lane

I see us standing there Such a happy happy pair Love beyond compare look-a-there look-a-there

The way you held me…no one could tell me That love would die… why oh why Did I have to find this photograph Thought I had forgot the past But now I’m slippin’ fast Back down memory lane

I feel the happiness…I feel the pain Here am I… back down memory lane I’m in the sunshine…I’m in the rain I don’t wanna go traveling down Faster than the speed of sound Back down memory lane

Be still my foolish heart Don’t let this feelin’ start Back down memory lane I don’t wanna go… save me save me

By Biff

June 12, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

Ol Biff is a sentimental fool at heart despite his callous exterior.

But you need to throw it away if you are intelligent. You will relive bad times over and over if you keep stuff to remind you.

By Laney

June 12, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

good morning everyone! I think I see some new faces in here — welcome!

By purplepassion

June 12, 2007 10:55 AM | Link to this

SJ I would give the engagement ring back. If he doesn’t take it back then I will pawn it and use the money to get my nails or a new hair do. Most guys will want the ring back though(I guess). But what will the guy do with the ring if he accepts it back? Does he give it to the next fiance’?

By Sexione

June 12, 2007 10:55 AM | Link to this

Slim OH HELLZ NAW!!!! Any gift, any gift at all, that belonged to a prior is a NO!!! That’s the quickest way to a breakup!! My .02….

Mo gurl, I got you!! A special one is chilling on the side just for ya!!! And an ice pack for Truth cause he’s gonna need it!!! lol

Musing gets caught replacing the real for a fake, gets hit in the head with a hammer and passes the f/k out!!

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

Slim See why are you starting trouble…What about a dude wearing the tuxedo he bought to marry another Woman?!?! As long as she ends up with the ring, it shouldn’t matter…Word of importance: Shouldn’t!

Searching for blog riot gear

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

June 12, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this

Slim Hmmmm, depends on how I found out…if the Ex-girl stepped to me and said that ring looks just like the one he gave me….then I would probably lose it. But if he told me I would tell him that it would mean more to me if he would take this back and get another one….meant just for me, with thoughts just of me. I can understand the financial implications…but I would be willing to wait for something special and exclusive for me.

By NCGirlfromATL

June 12, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

NCGirl We gon need a referee and since GAMan would be biased can you step in! ;0)

And mess up my fresh pedi…sorry! Besides, I want to see Mo break open a can of whoop @$$ on Truth. Ask WrestlingAnnouncerMusing…he likes to say Rrrrrrrrrrrumbleeeeeeeeeeee!!

By T-Mango

June 12, 2007 11:04 AM | Link to this

SlimOne…Not sure how one would find that out. But, a sister would be a little warm about a recycled ring. A ring that he specially selected for another woman in the past. I’d talk to him about it and wouldn’t wear it. I’m sure it happens though…

Now…, if it’s a family heirloom that he used in a previous engagement and he has the ring back, I would not be upset about that because of its importance and sentimental value.

By Sexione

June 12, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

Musing now watching as tux that he planned on wearing for wedding bursts into flames. He thinks about the valuable real ring hidden in the pocket and passes the f/k out….AGAIN!!!

LDD good answer!!

By Cinderella

June 12, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

Eyecandy was engaged for about a month and she gave him the ring back. I asked to see it out of curiosity but mostly I wanted to make sure that I wouldn’t end up with the same ring. LOL! But he said he’s kept it cause he would have that ring go towards the purchase of another when that time came…and that’s fine with me.

By Cinderella

June 12, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this

Now I do know of this guy that was engaged for about 4 years to this very petite, conservative lady. Well, their engagement went to pieces and about 6 years later he proposed to another with the same ring. His current had no idea it was someone else’s ring but the ring looked totally awkward on her finger. The current is a pretty thick woman and very modern and you can tell the ring is totally not her style. I always thought he was soooo wrong for that.

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

Sexione I agree, I would not want anything given to an ex that he received back from them.

Musing Ain’t nobody trying to start any trouble. I mean what do the guys do with engagement rings that the ex has given back to them…recycle? But what i want to know from you is when do you plan on telling your fiance that you found her ring in Value City’s parking lot? Hmmm?

Slim throws a can of tear gas over Musing’s way while he’s in the closet searching for riot gear

Lady D Do you know any dude that would come off the bat telling his current SO that the ring he gave her belonged to his ex? If they were that forthcoming I guess you’d have to give buddy some brownie points for jumping into that flame. Just like you, I’d want something that was special and particular to only me.

BLog Ladies Someone mentioned heirlooms. So what about if the guy proposed to you with a ring from his family that you felt was kind of hideous do to style of a different error. Do you accept and wear it with pride or find a way to tell him you just don’t think it fits you?

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

Sexie I’m just saying simply because it’s a ring, the Women are tripping there are alot of things that the ex had before you came along, and you deal with that fine and dandy…Let’s change Slim’s question and see how it effects the outcome.

How would you feel if after you accepted a guys proposal you found out the dizzle he gave you, he used in asking a prior gf?

See, WTH you gonna do now?!?!

By Sexione

June 12, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

But he said he’s kept it cause he would have that ring go towards the purchase of another when that time came…and that’s fine with me See now, I can see this….it makes sense. OR, take the stones, have them reset, and then give it to the next woman. But the exact same ring…….no!

By Jewel

June 12, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

Now replacing actual ring with knockoff replica to avoid the above scenario

Actually, Musing, a smart woman will have the diamond replaced with a diamite, invite you to dinner, and hand it over with a sparkling white, toothpaste commercial smile. LOL!

The preceding comment was for entertainment purposes only. Any similarities to the experience of a member of the MLB are purely coincidental.

By abc

June 12, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

There’s no reason to hang onto a rejected engagement ring, just sell the diamond. It’s not as if they become worth less money, especially if you get a quality gem. Man, I’ve been pricing… $20K minimum! The band might be mostly a loss, so don’t get platinum. Or, unless you’re both absolutely certain, don’t get engaged.

By Tazzee

June 12, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

Morning folks!

I don’t keep anything from past relationships. I usually start with deleting the phone number from my cell, then all the email communication. I haven’t received many gifts from guys - so that’s not much of an issue. But I don’t think I’ve thrown away any gifts, especially since none of my past relationships have gotten to the point where the gifts reached a real intimate level.

Any needed memories remain in my brain - if I don’t remember, it must not be worth brain space.

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

Cinderella I asked to see it out of curiosity but mostly I wanted to make sure that I wouldn’t end up with the same ring Slick move. lololol

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

Signing papers to officially call new 2006 ring an “heirloom”…now any chick presented with said ring has to accept its prior usages

By Sexione

June 12, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this

Slim Would it be wrong to change the setting of an heirloom, as long as you keep the stones? I’m not so sure about this one……..hmmmmmmmm

Blog Men What if your woman had an heirloom ring from her family that she had used in a previous wedding/engagement, and got back, and she wanted it to be your wedding ring? Would you (gladly) accept/wear it?

By Tazzee

June 12, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

Slim I would wear the heirloom ring with pride. But that’s just me, the ring isn’t that important to me. If I love a man enough to want to be his wife AND he thought enough of me to want to carry on tradition by placing that ring on my finger - I would wear that thing like it was a 2 carat princess cut VVS stone set in platinum!

By Sexione

June 12, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this

See Musing, now you cutting up!!! Well first of all, unless you can go and trade that sucka in for another one, then its a non-issue. What about the puddy that she gave the prior fiance’, would you be accepting it as she gave it to you? Of course you would!! Because that’s not something that’s interchangeable…….unless you’re a Transformer…lmsao Why not just use the stones in another setting that was picked especially for her?

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

Jewel this revalation really sheds light on your blog name…U’s a dirty motorscooter!!!!

Dude returning ring to store

Dude: Yeah I need to return this…The engagement is off.

Ring Clerk: Sure let’s just examine the stones and get you on your way.

3 minutes later clerk comes from the backroom

RC: Sir, this ring is worthless…This stone is simply a baby tooth, and the ring ain’t even gold, it’s a lugnut from an 88’ Gremlin.

Dude: Ahhh ishh, she got me dog!

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

Jewel this revelation really sheds light on your blog name…U’s a dirty motorscooter!!!!

Dude returning ring to store

Dude: Yeah I need to return this…The engagement is off.

Ring Clerk: Sure let’s just examine the stones and get you on your way.

3 minutes later clerk comes from the backroom

RC: Sir, this ring is worthless…This stone is simply a baby tooth, and the ring ain’t even gold, it’s a lugnut from an 88’ Gremlin.

Dude: Ahhh ishh, she got me dog!

By Cinderella

June 12, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

SlimOne-Then I told him it was a very pretty ring but not something I would pick out. Of course he took the bait and asked what I liked…

By Zazu

June 12, 2007 11:35 AM | Link to this

I save some letters and gifts from past relationships; I think that’s fairly normal. But that stuff isn’t on display in any way — partly because some of it brings up old emotions and partly out of respect for whoever I’m dating.

My current fella, though, kept a photo of his ex (whom he’d broken up with) in his living room for about the first year we dated. When I finally asked him to take it down, he acted surprised that it would bother me — that it was old times with nothing to do with me. So he took it down and put it in a box, which I think is the right place for stuff like that.

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this

Musing How would you feel if after you accepted a guys proposal you found out the dizzle he gave you, he used in asking a prior gf? Well, i believe we shed thousands of skins cells daily, so just like a snake shedding it’s overall skin, that would lead me to believe that the dizzle he used then is no longer that same dizzle now. What now?

Sexi Would it be wrong to change the setting of an heirloom um, i’m not sure but i would think it might be because then it’s really no longer the same ring. So i guess if you took an heirloom to that antique roadshow and asked for an apraisal, would it ruin the integretiy of the piece being that the stones had been changed?

Musing Yous a skaight fool! lol

By SeanJohnson

June 12, 2007 11:41 AM | Link to this

@ Slim….i would wear it with no problem…its an heirloom and thats what its for…besides it just a ring….too much is put on rings..sizes..carats..prices.etc..the heirloom ring is mine temporarily..should be passed down to the son or daughter…hard thing is making sure the love/marriage lasts as long as it did for the original owners of the ring…

By BeBe KID

June 12, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

How would you feel if you knew an ex had saved things that reminded them of you? Or how would you feel knowing an ex had gotten rid of all mementos?

If the relationship ended badly I expect the ex to get rid of all momentos; because, I will purge all momentos of her producing negative emotions. If the breakup was amicable then keeping some momentos I would consider normal, but creating a shrine to another human is a sign of obsession…….. A good example of obsession is Monica Lewinski and the semen stained dress. In her mind she’ll always be the first lady!

By T-Mango

June 12, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this

Sexione…How many men wear their wedding band consistently these days anyway? They know they made the committment and they are not going anywhere… They don’t seem to need the ring as validation like we do.

I think the ring is more important to us than them because it shows the world through a symbol that we now have the highest form of committment and have achieved a milestone in our lives. Alot of emphasis is placed on the ring as a symbol in our society. Men oblige us by giving it to us because they know how we view it-as an outward expression of how serious they are about us committment-wise. If your girlfriend says that she is engaged, what is the first thing you ask to see?…the ring. My .02 cents.

Question Would you be upset with your spouse if he chose not wear his wedding band after the wedding day?

By 4theLongHaul - She's alive!!!

June 12, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this

Hey y’all!!!! Lord….some things just don’t change.

Musing…I see you still a fool! How is everyone else!

Interesting topic. When I got divorced, I did one of those “Oh what a feeling…Toyota”, ankle kicks in the air!! Woo hoo!! Bye Sucka!!!! Wasn’t nothing to keep cause he left me with nothing but bills anyway! Ha ha ha! Any old pictures, which were VERY few, and letters from the ‘joint’ were IMMEDIATELY disposed of!

Just thought I’d drop in. I saw the top on AJC’s homepage and thought I’d take a peek in to see what y’all were up to!

By Demi

June 12, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this

Heeey Aun-T 4th, I miss ya!! Still dropping in like it’s hot, huh?

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this

T-Mango Yes I would have an issue with my husband not wearing a ring. Unless he was allergic to it or had a job that would put him at risk wearing it then he should have it on. How could a man expect you to wear one if he won’t uphold the same request? True a ring is not going to stop anyone from trying to holla at them or vice versa but it’s something that would be important to me.

By Purplepassion

June 12, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this

Mango It would really bother me if my husband choose not to wear his wedding band after we were married. Reason being he took the vow to say “with this ring I do wed” he would break the vow if he was to toss the ring after the wedding. The ring sembolizes the vow we made.

By 2CPTG

June 12, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this

let it go, Dark…..what’s coach gonna think?

By Sexione

June 12, 2007 12:15 PM | Link to this

T-Mango I wouldn’t even marry a man that felt that way about the ring…..so there would be nothing to be mad about. The ring is a symbol….the finger that it is worn on is directly linked to your heart. I don’t care about outward appearances, but more important is what it symbolizes for our union. And of course, if a man is a bow wow, wearing a ring will not change that. But again, for me, it is not about what it would prevent him from doing (we know that is a joke), but more about our union. My .02….

By Purplepassion

June 12, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this

I know that a person wears their wedding ring on the right finger if the spouse pass away but these days does it still mean the same thing? My sister met a guy who wears a wedding band on his right ring finger is that another sign of a commited relationship between the same sex? I remember hearing that somewhere.

By Purplepassion

June 12, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this

I know that a person wears their wedding ring on the right finger if the spouse pass away but these days does it still mean the same thing? My sister met a guy who wears a wedding band on his right ring finger is that another sign of a commited relationship between the same sex? I remember hearing that somewhere.

By Purplepassion

June 12, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this

I know that a person wears their wedding ring on the right finger if the spouse pass away but these days does it still mean the same thing? My sister met a guy who wears a wedding band on his right ring finger is that another sign of a commited relationship between the same sex? I remember hearing that somewhere.

By 4theLongHaul - She's alive!!!

June 12, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this

Demi What up dawg!!! I felt the love in that!!!! Yeah, I’m still droppin it!

SlimOne Co-signing on your comment girl. Shawty betta wear his ring unless he wants to be short one finger.

And on that keeping the jewelry thing….the funny thing with me is that I took my ‘wedding’ ring to the pawn shop…how bout I barely got $35!!! Wasn’t NOTHING real! Dang!!! I had to laugh at that on myself. I just said well, this definitely represented that sham of a marriage. You love and learn.

Oh, I did want to comment on the sista who didn’t want to throw away the 700 letters….honey, life lessons are never forgotten. You have a memory that, although sometimes I wish you really could forget stuff…will hold those memories for you far better than a piece of paper. Like somebody else said, those letters might symbolize something deeper than you’re willing to admit.

By 4theLongHaul - She's alive!!!

June 12, 2007 12:24 PM | Link to this

Demi What up dawg!!! I felt the love in that!!!! Yeah, I’m still droppin it!

SlimOne Co-signing on your comment girl. Shawty betta wear his ring unless he wants to be short one finger.

And on that keeping the jewelry thing….the funny thing with me is that I took my ‘wedding’ ring to the pawn shop…how bout I barely got $35!!! Wasn’t NOTHING real! Dang!!! I had to laugh at that on myself. I just said well, this definitely represented that sham of a marriage. You love and learn.

Oh, I did want to comment on the sista who didn’t want to throw away the 700 letters….honey, life lessons are never forgotten. You have a memory that, although sometimes I wish you really could forget stuff…will hold those memories for you far better than a piece of paper. Like somebody else said, those letters might symbolize something deeper than you’re willing to admit.

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 12:31 PM | Link to this

Purple P My grandmother wears a wedding band but has never been married. I’m not sure what the hell that symbolizes. LOL But I believe in other countries such as Germany they wear their ring on the right hand…at least that’s what this dude told me when i asked him about that. I’ve never heard of that in regards to same-sex relatioships though.

T & Sexi I wasn’t saying that i’d want him to wear the ring for the basis of preventing him from cheating. The ring is supposed to be a symbol of that committment and vow to one another…so that’s why it would bother me.

By Jane

June 12, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this

Question Would you be upset with your spouse if he chose not wear his wedding band after the wedding day?

I had a coworker who said at first he did not wear his wedding ring because more women approached him when he was wearing it. He said women were direct and blunt with him when they saw he had a ring on.

By Sexione

June 12, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this

Slim I know that’s what you meant. I just had to add that because I knew someone would throw it in after reading my post. I remember the last time we discussed the ring issue, it got a little heated up in here! lol

I’ve never heard of the right hand meaning anything. I thought that all people wore their wedding ring on the left ring finger. Live and learn…..

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this

4TLH Shawty betta wear his ring unless he wants to be short one finger. Gurl it’s so funny that you said that because my aunts current husband has a knub for a ring finger so he doesn’t/can’t wear a wedding ring. I always wondered what ex of his cut that bad boy off. I guess that’s a story he wasn’t willing to tell. I knew he was one of those old skool playas back in the day

By T-Mango

June 12, 2007 12:40 PM | Link to this

Question to the MLB…

How would you feel if your wife stopped wearing her ring & band?

By Hotlanta

June 12, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this

Yall remember Monica Lewinsky. Yall better hope your ex’s get rid of stuff. It will come back to haunt you.

By Purplepassion

June 12, 2007 12:44 PM | Link to this

Slime My sister nor her husband wears a ring. Heck my dad doesn’t even wear a ring but you better dayum skippy know that me and my hubby will wear a wedding ring 24/7. LOL

By 4theLongHaul - She's alive!!!

June 12, 2007 12:45 PM | Link to this

Slim LOL!!! Not a real knub!!! Say it ain’t so! Well, in his case, he better wear his ring on the middle finger with an arrow pointing to his ring finger! Or get some velcro to go on the inside if the ring, with the sticky side stuck to the knub so it can stay on…..LOL!

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

Sexi well i looked it up and here is what wikipedia says about the ring on the right hand

By Dark Brown

June 12, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this

2 - Coach Brown is never going to see the damn things. Besides, her knows better than anyone that before we met, I had a past.

Next, y’all are going to tell me that not changing back to my maiden name makes me still in love with the @sswipe and that I am hopelessly pining after him. I am not holding onto anything except myself.

and with that, I am going to the corner to commence with some Yosemite Sam type cursing…rackum, mackum, smackum, filth, flam, flarth…lol…

By River Rat

June 12, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this

When they’re gone they’re gone and so is their baggage, if it’s junk throw it away, if by chance it was expensive sell it, and enjoy the money.

To the ring believers, the ring is a piece of jewelry, commitment is in the heart, not on the finger.

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 1:01 PM | Link to this

4TLH LOLOLOL not velcroe..lol

Dark Brown fricka frata fruta mugga! LMAO!

By LOCA

June 12, 2007 1:01 PM | Link to this

I used to save soiled female panties in my youth.

By kinderbabe

June 12, 2007 1:04 PM | Link to this

hey demi, slimone, t-mango:) about the ring thing…i definitely wouldn’t feel comfortable w/my husband choosing not to where his, short of medical reasons, lol. sounds like a player move to me. i don’t see the point of me not wearing mine either.

By Dark Brown

June 12, 2007 1:06 PM | Link to this

on second thought…i give in…making a special trip down to public storage today to retrieve the offending letters and use them to light a bonfire…

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 1:13 PM | Link to this

Is is allowable for a Man to wear his old wedding band into the new marriage???

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 1:14 PM | Link to this

LOCA That definitely sounds LOCO! I wouldn’t even want to imagine coming across some other chicks panties at a SO’s crib. I think i’d rather see a naked pic than panties…blech

By T-Mango

June 12, 2007 1:14 PM | Link to this

Hey KB:-)

For some reason, I’m hearing crickets on my 12:40 from the MLB. C’mon out fellas. I know you’re in Lurksville. Not looking for a debate, just your viewpoint.

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 1:15 PM | Link to this

DarkBrown how about you put them in a plastic bag, throw them away…And if after 5-6 hours you feel terrible about it, go and retrieve them.

I can almost bet that you’ll feel a weight off your shoulders.

By Demi

June 12, 2007 1:16 PM | Link to this

4th you get nothing but love from me. As always, you simply pop up, jump into the flame, toss a flew daggers, all while slipping on that kool aid. LOl

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

June 12, 2007 1:17 PM | Link to this

Back on topic…I was going through a photo album (not mine) and saw the following pictures: a girl giving a dude lollipop licks, same girl sitting on the toilet, a different girl bearing breasts….that’s just a few. The moral of the story is NOT to take these kind of pixs unless it’s on YOUR camera and if your EX doesn’t discard these pictures…you need to break in and get them yourself (NC and GAMan didn’t read that)!! The man you once loved will have you on display AZZ-OUT!!

By 4theLongHaul - She's alive!!!

June 12, 2007 1:19 PM | Link to this

Musing Hayyyo naw!

By Sexione

June 12, 2007 1:21 PM | Link to this

Musing why don’t you just wear the same tux and ring, give her the old ring and the old dress (and accessories), sleep on the same sheets, go to the same honeymoon spot and request the same room, re-wrap the old gifts, lemme see if I can think of anything else equally ridiculous…..oh yeah, and instead of new pics, just glue a head shot of her on top of the old pics……hmmmmmmm!! You r craazzyyyy!!!! lmsao

By NCGirlfromATL

June 12, 2007 1:24 PM | Link to this

Is is allowable for a Man to wear his old wedding band into the new marriage???

Only if he’s marrying the old wife! LOLOL! You must be quazy!! New wife, new life, new ring (or no ring at all).

Heeeeeeeeey 4THLH!!!

By The Truth

June 12, 2007 1:26 PM | Link to this

The Truth is forced to blog from behind a big azz tree to avoid getting a beat down from MO. Dam, how am I gonna explain this to the MLB?

ABC go to the apparel mart before buying that high end stuff. You save a ton and they have EVERYTHING you’d want in one place. Finally, don’t give em diamonds. Alot of these chicks will settle for a bag of crunchy cheetos. Save your cash man.

Ladies, do you have a price limit on what you’d pay for your futures ring? I ask because I’m a hard dude to please and Helzberg ain’t gonna get it for me. Zales either. LOL I need real rocks.

Dark Brown my ex asked me if she could keep the name and I said HELLZ NAW. We didn’t have kids so all she was gonna do is mess up my good name. LOL Plus people would have met her and asked if we were related. Give him his name back.

Y’all need a course in burying the past.

Ok, The Truth* is going to find another hiding place. This one is getting hot. Let me know if you see Mo looking for me in those old azz nikes and to small sweat suit. LOL

By melo

June 12, 2007 1:28 PM | Link to this

abc, ur almost 50 WOW!!

By SeanJohnson

June 12, 2007 1:28 PM | Link to this

@ DarkBrown…nice blogspot…good read…i use to see that Miss Janice lady too…and that dude at the CNN center…sounds like a dude i use to give food to too…

By NCGirlfromATL

June 12, 2007 1:29 PM | Link to this

Ignoring Lady DD’s felony I tell my clients and friends regularly…Don’t take pictures you don’t want to have as evidence in court! Cuz that’s exactly where naked pics and videos end up!

I’ve seen parts of perfect strangers that I never needed to see. Needed a complete brain scrubbing after that.

By 4theLongHaul - She's alive!!!

June 12, 2007 1:29 PM | Link to this

LadyDark I KNOWWWWWW that’s right!!! In this day and age that we live in, your “old..i love my baby and will anything for him” pics will show up on a YOUTUBE photo montage or www.stupidchicks.com website, etc. I know I used to do that stuff for my ex-hubby but POLAROIDS only and I kept inventory of them bad boys!! LOL!!!! I ain’t bout to be the next Paris Hilton! No suh!!!!! LOL!!! Any videotapings…I KEEP! hee hee!

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 1:30 PM | Link to this

LOLOL @ 4the….You sure said that without hesitation.

T-Mango that ain’t happening, cause Women love to wear that ring and show that she’s got her dude…Lets just say a Woman doesn’t wear her ring, it wouldn’t bother me unless she made a habit of doing it in places that are predominatly single…That would make me wonder why is she hanging out in the “Pool Palace” but not wearing her ring.

By LOCA

June 12, 2007 1:34 PM | Link to this

@Slim,I think i’d rather see a naked pic than panties U can play ur lesbian fantasies alright, just not on my watch, in my DEN.When u come in its all about u and me, no multisome!!!

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this

Ok Peanut Heads (NCgirl, Sexie, and 4the)…Can a dude keep his old haircut?!?!? Or does he need to change that too? Dayummm what can a dude keep??? Y’all some bossy chicks.

Lady w/2 D’s Did you take all of your photos out, and can I see them for research purposes???

By abc

June 12, 2007 1:41 PM | Link to this

Now Truth, I don’t want to get her things that she’ll be ‘settling’ for. I get her things she wants and likes. Else, it’s no fun to get anything at all! I’m not getting any diamonds unless it’s the diamond though.

By 4theLongHaul - She's alive!!!

June 12, 2007 1:42 PM | Link to this

What up NCGirl!!! Yeah, ever since my company firewalls allowed us to access MySpace, that’s where I’ve been. But decided to see what y’all were doing over yonder. And as usual, y’all got me LMAO over here!!!

Demi Boy, why I gotta be slipping on Kool Aid instead of sipping on it? Dang!

Sexi1 Now THAT is funny. Yeah, photoshop the old pics of you and ole girl…and make sure you do a REAL sloppy job too….LOL! That reminds me of a story I heard on Q-100. Yo…for y’all that listen to morning radio,I turned in my V-103/Kiss 104/Hot 107.9 cards in around December of last year and got hooked on Q-100. LOVE Bert and the crew! They are some fools and rarely play music which is perfect for me.

But anyway, they had a show on during Professional Support day and this caller called in and said that if her boss didn’t do her right, she was gonna go on his computer and ‘accidentally’ send some pics this FOOL photoshopped the face of another co-worker onto that he had a crush on. The took old photos of him on the beach with other women, etc and superimposed her face on them!!! hahahahaha!!!! Didn’t even try to make it match or nothing.

By NCGirlfromATL

June 12, 2007 1:45 PM | Link to this

Sure Musing you can keep you old hair cut…if I’m marrying you and you’re wearing you old haircut, then I must be ok w/ it. But, why would you want to wear a ring from a previous relationship? That’s like wearing last week’s dirty underwear…skids and all. Eeeeeeewww and get a new pair, mayne!

Not bossy, but you asked a question and got an answer. No promises that you’re going like the answer! LOLOL!

By Sexione

June 12, 2007 1:45 PM | Link to this

Musing Dayummm what can a dude keep??? You can keep your internal organs ONLY!!!!! lmsao Now strip down so we can scrub those old skin cells off, and you’ll be a new man!!! Musing enjoys scrubbing until it gets to his wang……..then he passes the f/k out!!

By 4theLongHaul - She's alive!!!

June 12, 2007 1:48 PM | Link to this

Musing Awwww shudd it up! You know good and well if ole girl was wearing something that you KNOW was repping her ex, you’d pull rank in a heartbeat…but I’m sure in a very clever way. Yes, you can keep your old haircut….just make sure you change which side you part though. LOL!

By The Truth

June 12, 2007 1:50 PM | Link to this

Dam Loca, you didn’t have to go there. I think I’d rather see a pic v. my so keeping an ex’s old, nasty undies too. take a chill pill. None of the ladies are trying to jump in bed with you. Are you?

Dark Brown your blog is perfect illustration of how women internalize things that most men could give a fug about. That is way to deep for a shallow dude like me. I don’t even live on that level.

T-Mango, on your 1240, if she doesn’t want to wear the ring let me beforehand and I won’t buy one. I’ll make some little trinket out of tin foil. If I buy your azz a ring you better wear it.

Ok, gotta run. Mo is on my trail again.

By Laney

June 12, 2007 1:53 PM | Link to this

VERY GOOD point — it is not smart to capture anything you might not want haunting you later on film, video or anything else! just ask Paris Hilton (Paris 1.0, the sex tape Paris, not Paris 2.0, the insane convict! LOL)

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 1:53 PM | Link to this

Two gentleman dressed in black speedos and dark sunglasses approach NC holding up a memory neuralizer attempting to erase the dreadful naked pictures of past clients

Loca no lesbian fantasies here buddy. And you wouldn’t have to worry about me playing anything in your nasty den of dried discharge anyway. Wouldn’t be a one-on-one let alone a multisome. Keep it moving before i pull my black light out and put you to shame. By the way, I believe For Real has some pics in his portfolio of you wearing those worn panties and heels. Would you like to take this time for Show-n-Tell?

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 2:00 PM | Link to this

4TLH Gurl I heard that segment on the Bert Show and that was some crazy ish! Isn’t that the same chick that ended up getting like a $1000 gift card from the boss but was still disgruntled?

Sexione lol you’re on fire today. When Musing finally wakes up, he looks down to see he now has a Michael Jackson stick looking sadly back at him and passes back out again

Musing If old girl had some lingerie she wore for an ex, would you have an issue with her wearing it for you?

By LOCA

June 12, 2007 2:02 PM | Link to this

@Slim,I believe *Slim has some pics in her portfolio of you wearing those worn panties and heels* Yes, u been in my Den, why u letting the cat outa the bag?!!!Didnt know ur sleeky self took pics.Ur jealousy and spiteful streak haunting me!!hehehe.

By abc

June 12, 2007 2:02 PM | Link to this

That tape is the only reason Paris Hilton has any celebrity status at all. Before that, she was just a rich nobody.

By The Truth

June 12, 2007 2:06 PM | Link to this

ABC this no settling. The stores go to the apparel mart to shop. Their jewelry is 1st class. Pic your diamond from their vualts. Has anyone been to the apparel mart or is this the Zales crew? LMAO

Slim take a deep breath. Calm down hun. (The truth rubs slims back, then allows his hand to drop)

By NCGirlfromATL

June 12, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this

Yes, you can keep your old haircut….just make sure you change which side you part though.

LMAO!!! Musing looks in the mirror at his Duke’s Magic, parted on the left-hand-side ‘fro…contemplating whether or not to move the part, or slick it all back, Billy Dee-style.

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this

NCgirl Dude doesn’t even have to tell anyone that its an old ring…He could just be sporting it…LOLOLOL

Sexie I wouldn’t be passing out until after the wang did its thang.

4the I bet-not see any old shirts and pants cause immo get skrait ignant.

By Sexione

June 12, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this

Slim GOOD question!!! Fellas?

That tape is the only reason Paris Hilton has any celebrity status at all. Before that, she was just a rich nobody. Now, she’s a rich hobody!!! lmsao I think I’d just rather not be known!!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

June 12, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

Obviously Truth has spotted the Fake Mo in the old nikes and too small sweatsuit!! Even though Mo is ready to commence to kickin azz she is still fly, shorts and sleeveless t-shirt with fresh white Air Max on. Might as well be cute! LOL

Truth!! Now you know that lil inklin of a tree was not gonna hide you!!

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

Slim in the words of 4the “Hayyyo naw!**…It’s coming off in 2 minutes anyway.

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

Slim now stuffing exceptionally large soiled Granny Panties in LOCA’s mailbox and drives off throwing up on herself Vrooommm!

abc i only saw a snipet of her tape and it was nothing impressive going on if you asked me. I know you all had to hear about from Saved By The Bell leaking one out to pay his bills. lol

By Sexione

June 12, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

Slim let’s kick that one up a notch………fellas What if your new bride wore the same wedding night lingerie for your wedding night that she wore for the previous husband on their wedding night?

By GA.man

June 12, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

Just for the record you all are very very crazy!!!!

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this

Truth I’m not riled up one bit but thanks for the bottom rub. Be careful though because that move tends to put me to sleep leaving you awake, standing at attention all by your lonesome.

NC you are on a roll got me bout to choke on my lunch. For some reason when you mentioned the Duke’s, I immediately thought about that Magic Cream Shave…That’s got to be one of the worst smelling things ever!

By abc

June 12, 2007 2:19 PM | Link to this

Ya know, I googled apparel mart atlanta, and that looks very interesting! Open to the general public?

By 4theLongHaul - She's alive!!!

June 12, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

Oh Lord….Y’all got crying over here…. Musing, I could hear you saying that line in your very best Michael Baisden voice! LOL!! “you bet NOT!”

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this

Truth I’ve never bought stuff from the Apparel Mart…But I literally wouldn’t be caught dead in a Zales.

Robbery in Zales

Robber: If anybody moves, er’body is gonna get it.

Musing: Well, If someone does move, can I “get it” outside the Zales. I don’t want anyone thinking I bought something.

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

Musing finally wakes up, he looks down to see he now has a Michael Jackson stick looking sadly back at him

(Musing with son)

M: come on boy, shower time.

MS: ohh daddy i get to shower with you today? Yippee

M: you’re so silly son

MS: um…daddy?

M: yes son

MS: why is your wee-wee a different color from the rest of your body?

Musing passes out again at the flashback of getting his johnson skin cell scrub

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this

Sexie Can the Woman still fit into this figurative lingerie?

By abc

June 12, 2007 2:27 PM | Link to this

That joint is friggin enormous. Thanks for the ref, Truth.

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 2:30 PM | Link to this

Slim…LOLOLOLOL…I’m gonna thump you on the head.

Can you please sit Mo down…She’s walking around looking like an 1985 Andre Agassi!!! Shorts pulled all the way up to her overies.

By 4theLongHaul - She's alive!!!

June 12, 2007 2:31 PM | Link to this

ABC Apparel Mart not open to the general pub. OH by the way y’all, I’m downtown now! Yea!!! Apparel Mart is one block down. Anyway, you used to could just get in with any old business license but now, it’s like trying to get across the border!!! And I just happen to have the particulars right here:

For Wholesale/Retail Businesses Have to have ALL of the following: 1) Current Retail business license or Federal Resale Tax Certificate 2) Imprinted Business Check 3) Corporate Credit Card or proof of merchant credit card ID# 4) Photo ID (one per buyer) or Passport 5) Personalized Business ID (business card or cancelled payroll check)

PLUS one of the following: 1) White or Yellow Page business phone listing 2) Current Year Executed Sales Tax Return or Sales Tax Coupon Book 3) Lease Agreement for commercial space 4) Photo or Retail Store Front w/ Company Name/Logo/Signage clearly displayed 5) Current Invoices showing you purchase Mart related merchandise in quantity for resale.

GUEST POLICY 1) Cash only non-refundable guest fee of $50 per badge during all Gift/Rug Shows incuding IDS shows. A limit of 2 guest badges per business 2) A limit of 2 guests per business w/ no guest fee during all Women’s, Children’s and Men’s Apparel Shows.

etc, etc, etc. Was that enough info for you?

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

Ga.man I saw Knocked Up yesterday and I really enjoyed it. lots of laughs What did you think about Hostel, didn’t you see it yesterday?

By Sexione

June 12, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this

Slim Oh my!!! I’m glad I didn’t have a mouthful of water when I read that!!! That was ggooooddddddd!!! lmsao

Musing now looking for a nude beach where he can let his wang get a tan without getting arrested.

By 4theLongHaul - She's alive!!!

June 12, 2007 2:34 PM | Link to this

Slim I ALMOST GOT FIRED READING YOUR SKIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOLOLOL!!!!

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 2:36 PM | Link to this

Truth, is that place open to the public? I don’t want to catch a beat down for trying to get in.

By Sexione

June 12, 2007 2:40 PM | Link to this

Musing oh yeah, it still fits perfectly!!!

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this

4the So in otherwords it will be a cold day in hellz before I can get in?…hahahahahaha

I’m surprized they don’t ask you to pee in a cup.

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

Musing sorry I had to do it lol

She’s walking around looking like an 1985 Andre Agassi!!! Shorts pulled all the way up to her overies Hey I saw this woman this past weekend with shorts on like that. I swear it looked like her camel toe got hungry and tried to devour what was left of the shorts. LOL!

Sexi I think Randy-t has a t-shirt that Musing can wear: Hang out with my wang out! hehehehehe

By NCGirlfromATL

June 12, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

Slim/Sexie Better question for Musing would you be ok if your woman had a tattoo on her lower back (or worse, just above the pdussy) that was the name of her previous husband?

Musing grabs a brillo pad and starts scrubing new wife’s parts to change “Tyrone” to “Oscar”…notice, no letters in common! LOLOL!!

Slim That Magic Shave stuff is disgusting!! I had a boyfriend who used that stuff. We didn’t make it. Bleech! LOL!

Laney My first court case (while I was in law school practicing under the 3rd yr practice rule) was in domestic violence court. My client said her boyfriend threatened to kill her. But, what I found out was that she really just wanted to show the naked pics she found of him on her computer that he’d put on the internet. I was questioning her about the pics (which I knew wouldn’t get entered into evidence, but I had to try), and when I asked her what one pic was she yelled, in her most indignant voice “It’s HIM…spewing…semen all over my mother’s good sofa!” I thought the judge was going to literally fall of the bench she was laughing so hard! The other attorney weakly objected when I tried to move them into evidence…his face was purple from trying not to burst out laughing.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

June 12, 2007 2:45 PM | Link to this

Musing She’s walking around looking like an 1985 Andre Agassi!!! Shorts pulled all the way up to her overies You’se a fool!!! I almost spit Pepsi all over my computer!!! LOL

Truth stop avoiding the beatdown, you got it comin boo!! The azz slaps are a priviledge to be earned!! LOL

By Sexione

June 12, 2007 2:45 PM | Link to this

4TLH Dang!!! Is that to get into the apparel mart or Ft. Knox?!!!! Geesh…….lol After all that, they better have some darned good deals!!

By The Truth

June 12, 2007 2:45 PM | Link to this

The Truth quickly removes his hand from Slim’s bottom, then notices that she’s sleeping with her butt in the air. Should I? HMMMMMMMMMMMM

Musing describe your immediate surroundings. Are there padded walls anywhere near you? LMAO

ABC if you want 3, 4,5, or more carats go to the mart. You can get in on Fridays and then establish a relationship with someone who can get you a pass whenever you want to get in. Tell me what you think after you go. Thats where all the athletes and stars go. I saw Shawn Marrions wife there last time I was there. You won’t believe that place. Call and see if that friday thing is in effect.

Mo (talking while bent over winded) can we call a truce? I’m tired as hell of running. Plus you do look good in that outfit. All thugged out and ish. What you doing tonight?

Paris Hilton is not a star. She cant act, sing, and she’s to thin to have good azz. (Sorry slim) Her claim to fame is her fathers baby batter.

By Blatino aka BMW aka BLT

June 12, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

I see the MLB is in good hands today…. back to lurkesville.

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 2:52 PM | Link to this

Slim My Woman Bet-Not! have some dude’s name tatted on her dussy, unless it’s in a fold where I can’t see…LOLOLOLOL

By The Truth

June 12, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

4th your right on that admission policy, unless you know me. LOL I can get you in contact with a company I have bought from and they will leave you a guest pass. Don’t say you know me. LOL Just call and say you were in looking around and wanted to see a watch you saw before. A rolex sub mariner.Once your in you can visit all the shops. The jewelry is on the 6th floor. let me know if you want the info.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

June 12, 2007 2:56 PM | Link to this

All right Truth (Mo now sippin the cold Heiney Sexione saved for her), we can call a truce. I aint got time to be hounding you man!! Let me explain sumthin, you didnt do the slap right! We could have avoided all this if you had done it correctly! I was gonna beat you down cause you mistreated the azz. Next time, no drive-by swipes, I prefer a nice “pat” after my blog hug! ;0) LMAO!! But only from YOU Truth!!

Mo can now put away her “eastside” for the day and go back to sportin her cute do’, nice sundress and sandals

By Sexione

June 12, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this

I’m out…….peace!!

By Maliava

June 12, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

I just got rid of nearly all my mementos from exes, and it felt So Good. Like getting ready for a new chapter. I did keep photos, however. Those fall under a different category, I think.

By 4theLongHaul - She's alive!!!

June 12, 2007 3:00 PM | Link to this

Truth I will definitely keep that in mind!

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 3:01 PM | Link to this

NC knowing Musing he’d ‘accidentally’ spill Hydrochloric acid on the tattoo talking about he tripped and fell. lol I thought Nair had a funny smell to it but anything that smells like Magic Cream Shave is probably removing more than just hair. Ugghhh!!! And btw, that court case…BLECH!

As Truth contemplates if he should go for it or not, an electroni voice comes out of no where; ‘Stand back, You are too close to the azz (beep beep), Stand back, You are too close to the azz… then a HUMONGOUS Cloud of smoke escapes her bottom knocking him out instantly!

Truth no offense taken because that doesn’t apply to me.

By NCGirlfromATL

June 12, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this

Oops…I forgot the O! LOL! Lemme lone For Real! LOLOLOL!

By abc

June 12, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

That’d rock, Truth. Even at 2 carats, E-F-G color and VVS1/2 clarity can go up to $45K. Dang diamonds get expensive in a hurry.

By The Truth

June 12, 2007 3:15 PM | Link to this

Mo thank you sweety. I couldn’t run any further. Lets hug and make up. (The Truth drops his hand and “pats” Mo’s azz) Dammm that felt good. Now lets kiss and make up. (The Truth turns his head, closes his eyes, opens his mouth, sticks his toungue way out and prepares for Mo’s kiss) I wish I had a tic tac.

The jewelry is probably the best in the city. They have pics of all the famous folk in the spot. Vick, Regina Bell, Ryan cameron. The prices are about half of what you’d pay on the street. I bought a watch I was looking at on the street and saved $3500.00. ABC your right, that plce is huge. you’ve probably drove past it 100 times and never known it. Its actually 3 large building. One does household furnishings and that one is even harder to get. I also bought 2 gator belts for $100 each. The place is the bomb. Glad to help4thelh.

Slim I drove by 300 a few hours ago. I thought about you (not that way). I may have to try it. Did yousay it was nice?

By Dark Brown

June 12, 2007 3:17 PM | Link to this

truth…my ex’s last name is so common that when i say it, people think i made it up…as to the depth of the post…if you read it in the tone that i wrote it (and most of my posts)…it would have been obvious to you that it was part smart-a*-tongue-in-cheek and part come-to-j3sus…and i will contest your assertion that i am deep…it is common knowledge that i wade only in the kiddie pool of intellect…

seanJ…i was really sad about miss janice…i even stopped by the vigil that they had for her behind the gas station…as to the guy in the cnn center…there’s just something not right about a man having to lower himself to beg for another person’s scraps…

By mrg

June 12, 2007 3:19 PM | Link to this

Please help! I thought I’d found Mr. Right. We were together for 2 1/2 years and all of sudden it’s over. What do I need to do to get over this? We’d planned a life together and now I feel like he’s taken all of that away from me.

P.S.- I’m keeping all of the stuff.

By NCGirlfromATL

June 12, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this

Slim LOL @ Musing tripping w/ the acid. That’s one way to ensure he’d never get any more pdussy! LOLOL! Might wanna learn to live w/ the tat! And no Erasermate pens also don’t work to remove a tat! LOLOL!

Truth One of my old clients is a vendor at the mart, and she was supposed to bring me the catalog so I could get some stuff the next time she went down. Oh well. Maybe next time. LOL!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

June 12, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this

Mo draws back and slaps Truth across the face for tryin to “tongue her down”! LOL Cant give’em nuthin, they try to “take” errthang!! Yo breath is kickin like Bruce Lee man!! LOL

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 3:28 PM | Link to this

Truth I had a blast when I went there but keep in mind I went on a Saturday night. I have no idea how it is during the week though.

mrg what was the reason for the break-up?

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

mrg the first thing you should do is realize…”Ishh happens”….then you can decide either you will be miserable forever, or you can live your life happily, as you did before you met this dude…upon which you can use my motto “fk that ishh”.

That’s life…Pick up your confidence and get back into the world.

By mrg

June 12, 2007 3:40 PM | Link to this

He said he was not the man I thought he was and he had some issues that needed to be taken care of. I asked if he had lied about anything during our relationship and he said yes. To make a long story short he had a meddling ex. My woman sense tells me that maybe she’s not an ex after all.

By The Truth

June 12, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this

MGR your looking at it wrong already. Its not the end but the beginning. What did “you” do to cause that good man to leave? LOL

Dam Mo I cant do jack with you without getting slapped around. LOL

Slim which one, slim or bad sex? LMAO

By mrg

June 12, 2007 3:50 PM | Link to this

Thanks MusingLee. I like your motto. Think I’ll go to gym tonight and work out some stress!

Still hurts though.

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 3:55 PM | Link to this

How about a Woman officer shot herself in the wrist, while sleeping with a gun under her pillow….WTH..LOLOLOL

Who sleeps with a gun under their pillow?!

Girl Cop: You better give me an’O or imma blow your brains out…..NO really!

By SeanJohnson

June 12, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this

@ DarkBrown…the dude in cnn always sat with a folded newspaper…its humbling to see a grown man do that..something i wouldnt do..i dont mind working..but i would take before i begged…

By abc

June 12, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this

He made the choice between her and you, mrg. My condolences. I wouldn’t give back anything either. I’d probably pitch it all in the trash, though.

By IslandGirl

June 12, 2007 4:04 PM | Link to this

Hey Guys…just dropping in to say hello

Still working hard….not like Kizzy though. Everybody be easy.

Peace

By SeanJohnson

June 12, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this

@ mrg…sounds like he broke up with you softly…and from the way it sounds….its good he did if he had an ex that was still around…no way u can plan a life together with a 3rd wheel…as far as what u can do to get over him…best way to get over a breakup…is to find a new friend or friends…nothing serious..just have fun..u will hurt less..

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 4:13 PM | Link to this

Truth in the voice of David Chappelle I plead the 5th! with voice getting high pitched on 5th lolol

Musing my bf in high school use to sleep with a gun under his pillow and he didn’t even live in the hood. He thought he was O-dawg from Menace II Society for real.

Mrg just be thankful that he came to you and let you know sumin’ ain’t right bout him. So chalk it up and move on. With it being so fresh, it might be a good idea to either throw all the momentos away or at least lock them away out of immediate reach and try to stay occupied.

By THE INFAMOUS DK

June 12, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

I save cute panties in one of my guest rooms. If they were stinky or grandma-ish they went home with said owner. The stinkies got put back on immediately without a flogging, grandmas might have still gotten properly flogged but went home with the owners nonetheless..

By MusingLee

June 12, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this

mrg just don’t fall for the Okey Doke, and try to bargain with dude to come back…Hellz, it might even help to go out with some girls and get your flirt on…There are bound to be more guys that think you are worth getting to know….Someone may come along and put ol’boy to shame.

By THE INFAMOUS DK

June 12, 2007 4:22 PM | Link to this

Oh yeah whassup people hadnt been in for a minute..

By mrg

June 12, 2007 4:25 PM | Link to this

Thanks for the advice peeps!

By SlimOne

June 12, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

Infamous You’ve been gone for a few but come busting in while bustin grandmas too….LOL! what a way to make an entrance.

By Purplepassion

June 12, 2007 4:47 PM | Link to this

MGR When my ex told me he cheated on me I was miserable. After taking some time to refresh myself I began to respect him for being honest and not lying to me making me out to be a fool not that I was alright with his cheating habit but the fact that he told me the truth made it easier to go forward.