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What’s your thing?
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Do you have a thing? You know, a thing. I’m not talking about that kind of thing, you naughty kids. I am referring to the kind of thing you do when you are all alone. That really outrageous thing that you do to relax, or perhaps it brings you immense joy, yet you prefer not to have a witness?
One of the perks of living alone is being able to do your weird or quirky “thing” without fear of judgment, ridicule, or threat of being institutionalized. I remember Sex and the City once coined this Secret Single Behavior (SSB), but before the show, my friends and I simply called it our “thing”.
I’ll share a few of mine:
Acting out the final scene of Love Jones in my underwear (um, including the guy’s part); working on my laptop while in the bathtub, usually with Lenny Kravitz blaring; eating Ben and Jerry’s Chunky Monkey at 3 am after a date…in the shower; doing the latest hip hop dances in my pajamas. These are just the ones I will publicly cop to!
Do you have a “thing”? Are you afraid of showing someone you are dating now? Do you think it would change their opinion of you?
Flaws, idiosyncrasies, or quirky behavior are part of what makes us unique. In her song, Flaws and All, Beyonce sings:
I’m a train wreck in the morning
I’m a B* in the afternoon
Every now and then without warning
I can be really mean towards you
I’m a puzzle yes in deed
Ever complex in every way
And all the pieces aren’t even in the box
And yet, you see the picture clear as day
Ultimately, single people just want to have someone that accepts us as we are. When you are dating someone new, you try really hard not to reveal your freakishly weird (human?) thing (s) as not to run the poor guy or girl off! But if a guy can’t accept me on my bloated and cranky, messy hair days, then is he really worth all my energy?
So how soon can you handle seeing the not-so stellar side of someone you are dating?
We put our best foot forward in the intial stages of dating but when do you relax a bit?
Would you rather see their “thing” sooner or later?
What bad habits do you have that you think would cause a problem with someone you are dating? Any plans to change it?
Have you ever dated someone that had a “thing” that made you uneasy? How did you handle it?
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By early riser
June 21, 2007 8:15 AM | Link to this
Good morning. I see MLB and WLB in the comments for this column every morning yet have no idea what the mean. Please help.
By Jokester
June 21, 2007 8:23 AM | Link to this
A married businessman meets a beautiful girl and Agrees to spend the night with her for $500.
He spends the night with her but before he leaves, He tells her that he does not have any cash with him, But he will have his secretary write a check and mail it to her, Calling the payment “RENT FOR APARTMENT.”
On the way to the office he regrets what he has done, Realizing that the whole event was not worth the price. So he has his secretary send a check for $250 and enclosed the following typed note:
Dear Madam: :
Enclosed you will find a check in the amount of $250 for rent of your Apartment. I am not sending the amount agreed upon, because when I Rented the apartment, I was under the impression that;
1) it had never been occupied; 2) that there was plenty of heat; and 3) that it was small enough to make me feel cozy and at home. However, I found out that it had been previously occupied, That there wasn’t any heat, and that it was entirely too large
Upon receipt of the note,
The girl immediately returned the check for $250
With the following note:
Dear Sir,
First of all, I cannot understand how you expect a Beautiful apartment to remain unoccupied indefinitely. As for the heat, there is plenty of it, If you know how to turn it on. Regarding the space, the apartment is indeed of regular size, But if you don’t have enough furniture to fill it, Please don’t blame the landlady.
Send the rent in full or we will be forced to Contact your present landlady
By SlimOne
June 21, 2007 8:35 AM | Link to this
La,la,laaaaa I lost some money yesterday at work and pretty much thought I wouldn’t see it again. I get to work and something tells me to check where I parked yesterday. It was still there blown all over the parking lot but all was accounted for!!!!!!
On-Topic Well when i’m home alone I like to dance around (sometimes naked). I’ll imagine that I’m dancing for someone else though. On rare occassions, I like to do nothing more than lay up on the couch watching tv all day, and only get up to either eat, use the bathroom, or bathe. Sometimes I just don’t want to be bothered nor do i want anyone asking me if i’m okay. Yes i’m okay now leave me alone.
By Lady J
June 21, 2007 8:44 AM | Link to this
Morning Good People…
Sexione guess what lil lady recieved her first full head of corn rows!!! What a mommie moment but you know I did not do it…Gots to learn hjow to braid but at the end she brought a bow to me to put in her head!!! She is growing away!
By Lady J
June 21, 2007 8:54 AM | Link to this
Yeah I do have several things I like to do just because I live alone and love it…When I walk drop the bag and it can sit there til I get it up…Sit in hot water maybe three to four times from getting home to going asleep…Hot water soothes my soul, of course walk around in the shorts I would never wear in public, listen to what I want watch what I want and so on…Not clean up ntil I feel like it and everything in between…I am loving it…But the thing is will I become to set in my ways to become accomadating if and when someone enters my life…Time will tell that!
By MusingLee
June 21, 2007 8:59 AM | Link to this
Morn’in All,
early riser
MLB:Man Law Board WLB:Women Law Board
Wise this should be a funny topic…I guess I have a few things I do…I don’t even have to be alone…I walk around naked to air dry when I get out the shower, like in Jerry Mcguire…LOLOLOL
By Lady J
June 21, 2007 9:01 AM | Link to this
Would you rather see their “thing” sooner or later? *8I would rather see in in the start…My ex husband showed me his good side for the longest and when the real J came out I was blown awy bc I know if I had a peek of that from the start we would not have even made it to the alter…I know put your best foot forward but the real person should come out early on. *
What bad habits do you have that you think would cause a problem with someone you are dating? Any plans to change it? Not cleaning up right after myself…I clean up when I am good and ready staying alone but it is a terrible habit that is a turn off to most but of course if I am entertaing or doing dinner that night you would think I am Mrs. Clean…I guess practice makes perfect but oh well I am doing me right now and it whatever I want to do when I want to do it.
By Wise Diva
June 21, 2007 9:05 AM | Link to this
LOL @ Musing chillaxin in the buff! I am going to start putting WLB and MLB explanations in my daily entries, LOL! It confuses our newcomers!
By SlimOne
June 21, 2007 9:07 AM | Link to this
Musing So let me ask you this. Do you, like so many other guys, do that infamous Wang Dance in front of your lady? Don’t act like you don’t know what I’m talking about either. I like to call it Sock-on-my-Wang dance. LOL! You guys seem so into your members. LMAO
By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment
June 21, 2007 9:09 AM | Link to this
GaMan thinks about Wise in the bathtub….now she drops her laptop and is given a newHairdo
But the movie A Few Good Men Demi, Jack and Tom I would state the words of their courtroom battle..i have plenty others i will share….
Headnod to the MLB(For Life) hugs angs and flowers to the WLB…i went back and read what you ladies threw out yesterday…was very nice..but my bruhs held their own
By SlimOne
June 21, 2007 9:15 AM | Link to this
Lady J I too enjoy the soothing benefits from sitting in some hot water. For some reason whenever I’m sick, I’ll get in some 4 or 5 times a day. I don’t know what it is.
By QC
June 21, 2007 9:15 AM | Link to this
Morning Bloggers…
Musing, i got a “visual” after reading your post ;) ooh la la
Have a great day all….
By MusingLee
June 21, 2007 9:17 AM | Link to this
Slim No I don’t do that…hahahahaha…but I do know what you are talking about…LOLOLOL….If anything she thinks it’s hilarious when I walk downstairs to the fridge and I’m not wearing anything. She always says “What if someone rings the doorbell?”…LOLOLOL
Ohhhhh wait….Do jumping jacks count?
By NCGirlfromATL
June 21, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this
Morning (yawn) bloggers…I’m still tired from yesterday! LOL!
One of the weird things I do is I don’t turn on lights. At night, the only light on in my house is one table lamp, across the room from where I usually sit, and the light from the tv. I have lots of other lamps in my living room…I just don’t use them. LOL! I also practice my songs from my voice lessons…as if I’m on stage at the Grammy’s. LMAO! A remote control is my microphone, and I have choreography and er’rything! Oh yeah, and in the semi-dark too. Ambience, people! All I need is some smoke, a bartender and a career waitress, and I’ve got Club NC.
NC wondering if they still make that Life Alert thing for when she falls trying to do that backbend Beyonce and Ciara do, and she can’t get up.
By QC
June 21, 2007 9:21 AM | Link to this
www.blackthen.com
This is a nice website created by my brother, when you all have a minute please check it out…thanks!
By abc
June 21, 2007 9:23 AM | Link to this
I really don’t have a thing like that. I suppose it sounds kind of cute, but I can’t relate much.
“Infamous wang dance in front of your lady”?! Not as if I’m Joe Boxer, but I suppose that could be, ahem, descriptive of some activities.
By T-Mango
June 21, 2007 9:24 AM | Link to this
Hair flip to the WLB and waves to the MLB
Good morning. Yes, there are things I do because I live alone. I’ll give up one…I have a small two drawer chest in my closet that houses hair care products, wigs, and assorted hair pieces. Sometimes I’ll pull out one of the wigs…I’ll put on music(the Starkitty’s Revenge cd by Joi is one of my staples), and pretend I’m a rock star or exotic dancer. That’s normally when my dog looks at me and walks out of the room (lol).
By SlimOne
June 21, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this
Musing YES jumping jacks do count. LOLOLOL Have you ever seen Jack@ss 2?
Musing now checking the mail doing Pop-Lock-Drop it but gets carried away and mistakenly closes his frank & beans up in the mailbox.
By MusingLee
June 21, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this
NCgirl I also walk around in the dark…LOLOLOL…Up and down stairs, jumping over ishh..LOLOLOL
SO coming home to a dark house
SO: MUSINGGGG! Why are all these lights off
Musing: WHAT?!?! I’M UPSTAIRS.
SO: Why are these lights off??? And why are you naked???
Musing now beaten for being naked and sitting on SO’s pillow
By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment
June 21, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this
Hahahahah at NC….do yo backbend…heheheh…but yeah i have walked around my house nakked….and it so funny sometimes the dang doorbell will ring…..will one time my grandmother was in town…and she came over with my sister….well my nephew decided he was going to turn my doornob…would it be the time i didnt lock the door…so they all came in and *BAM!!! i was in my kitchen butt nakked…………..it was hard trying to get to my room..my sister was cracking uplaughing cause i was trying to get her to distract grandma….but she was laughing so hard..that my gradma turned to see what she was laughing about and caught a glimpse of me running to the room…….My grandma yelled ” you should be running round nakked @$$ around the house when you got company……my sister still jokes on me about that to this day!!!
By Lady J
June 21, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this
Slim…It takes me to higher heights!!! I love it I know I got in about 4 times yesterday..I was on the phone with mom dukes and she said ddn’t you just get in the tube…Crazy me! lol
By SlimOne
June 21, 2007 9:32 AM | Link to this
abc I suppose that could be, ahem, descriptive of some activities. You definitely, ahem, have my interest peaked. LOL My ex use to do things on the sly. He’d do something like walk right in front of me, open the fridge, then walk past me again but the whole time he’d have it peaking out of that little front pocket. Crazy I tell ya!
By Lady J
June 21, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this
QC…Thanks for sharing that website it is great and I needed that this morning!:) Have a great Day!
By MusingLee
June 21, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this
GA.man dang…LOLOLOLOL…See that’s why I do my naked lounging upstairs…hahahahahaha
By Jewel
June 21, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this
Good morning Everyone!
One of the best things about being in a relationship is to know that you are accepted…the good, the bad, and the ugly. And, the strange…I will be serious for a moment to say that most women need to feel emotionally secure in a relationship. I am not referring to those who are the “can’t breathe without you” types. I am referring to the mature lady who understands herself and her needs. If she shares something with her man, she does not want to be judged harshly, whether or not it is odd or quirky behavior. Certainly, he should not throw it in her face during an argument.
Now for the fun stuff…I have previously confessed on the blog that I cannot sing! Can you believe it, a flawed Jewel?! LOL! But, I love to pretend that I really can. I do my best stuff in the shower. But, similar to you Diva, I like to sing the lead part, complete with the dance moves to “Giving Him Something He Can Feel” from the scene in “Sparkle.” Don’t tell anybody…
Have a Powerful, Productive (not with this topic), Prosperous and Positive Day!!!
By NCGirlfromATL
June 21, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this
Yeah, that walking around in the dark thing is all well and good when the electric bill comes, but not so good when I stump my toe on the corner of yet another wall! I’ve broken my little toe on my left foot 5 times. UGH!! Weird how it still looks cute!
GA I won’t tell you how many times I’ve tried that backbend. But, my 36 years told me not to be stoopid about halfway down. LOL!
Musing you stoopid! Musing’s SO wonders why the kitchen counter smells funny. Eeeewwww!!
By SlimOne
June 21, 2007 9:42 AM | Link to this
Ga.man That’s funny. I got embarrassed just 2 weekends ago when I went to Two Urban Licks….a dude walked in the bathroom while I was in there. I guess I didn’t turn the lock all the way.
Musing Musing now beaten for being naked and sitting on SO’s pillow You almost made me choke on my coffee. You stooopid! lol
By Jewel
June 21, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this
Oh, here’s another…when I come home, before I even remove my shoes, I unhook my bra…unless I want to get some work done. I guess mentally I think leaving my bra on will keep me from becoming too relaxed and unproductive. Is that quirky? LOL!
By Biff
June 21, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this
Yeah, I like to get out my pistol, unloaded of course, and pretend to shoot the bad guys on T.V.
Al Sharpton must have a thousand holes in him by now.
By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment
June 21, 2007 9:46 AM | Link to this
See i have shown the world Gaman aint perfect….whew!!! i still catch hell cause of that one….my grandma acts like she dont remember…lolol which is cool with me..but my sister…..
By itsmorenamorena
June 21, 2007 9:46 AM | Link to this
Buenas Dias, Wise Diva! waving to all
I dunno, are these considered “things”?
I stay nekkid when I’m at home. Clothes are soo restrictive, and the bra is the first thing that comes off everyday I when I get home. I’m just at my most comfy sans clothing.
I sleep with a mask, can’t rest well without one.
I HAVE fried chicken wings at 3 in the morning. That doesn’t happen much anymore. Just had a taste for that at the time.
One thing I am guilty of is doing the Little Miss Sunshine dance when I hear “SuperFreak.” I haven’t been bold enough to do it in public, but a few of my friends have. But I can’t listen to that song without slapping my own arse….LOL
By SeanJohnson3000
June 21, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this
Sup Blog…regarding the topic…like Slim…i will sometimes chill the entire weekend…in the house…watching movies..web surving..ps3..working out..i wont even answer my phone.. i have a proble leaving cabinet doors open.. i dont lock my door..i think a locked door is overrated.. all of my neighbors are single women..and i make a note of the traffic they have in and out…they prolly do the same thing to me…
By Ms Writer
June 21, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this
ok ok I’ll admit it, I cut on a Cranberries track called “Pretty” or some Nina Simone and dance around my house like I am in a full blown Alvin Ailey production…lol..sad…but very true..
By Ladylike
June 21, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this
Buenas dias Everybody,
My “thing”
Well, when I’m alone I like to sit in a bathtub of bubbles and read/look at magazines, then eat ice cream in my birthday suit, while watching something funny on tv. Dang, so embarrassing to admit, even on the blog. Sometimes I just enjoy painting my toe nails some neutral color and applying clear rhinestones to the tips of my toes. Little Ghetto, behavior…I know, but I enjoy it!
By Sexione
June 21, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this
Goodmorning Crew…..Sexi hair flip to the WLB and non-church hugs to the MLB……Sexi is lurking from training class
By MusingLee
June 21, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this
So Jewel, you like to let “the girls” run loose, huh?!? LOLOLOL
Between NCgirl and Slim doing naked backbends, LadyJ holding her breath under water, and Wise and Jewel’s bad singing…We have a nice little Cirque de Blog’a happening.
By Jewel
June 21, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this
GaMan A Few Good Men is one of my all-time favorites! I am on the edge of my seat from the breakfast scene at Guatanimo (sp) to the courtroom finale! Even though I have watched it a million times!
By SeanJohnson3000
June 21, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this
@ LadyJ and Slim…if you like hot baths….start putting Epsom Salt in the water…its like a High…thank me later Blog Females…not complaining..i actually like it…but every female i have been around..only wear t shirts and panties when they are around the house..is that some ritual a female must do when they get home from work to get comfortable?
By Lady J
June 21, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this
@MusingLee…Too Funny!!! And you know I can’t swim a tad brotha but love the water!!! LOL
By The Truth
June 21, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this
Good morning bloggers. Old style 70’s bumps with the WLB and straight gentlemans handshake with the MLB.
Does phone sex with my ex gf count? LOL
Glad you found your money Slim. Lunch is on you hun. Also, could you leave your curtains open a little wider so a bruh can get his peep on?
T-Mango next time you do the erotic dancer thing let me know so I can have some 1’s ready for you. (Actually it will be Slims refound money LMAO) MLB strip party at T’s house. Woohoo. BYOB
Now picturing NC in a dark azz house waving to a Grammy’s audience. LOL
Good morning QC. Smooches
By Lady J
June 21, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this
Thanks SJ!!:)
By SlimOne
June 21, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this
SeanJohnson3000 i have a proble leaving cabinet doors open I have a problem with them being open. I can’t stand cabinets and drawers that are left open. Just this morning I had to close 2 cabinets and one drawer before I could leave the house. Arrgggghh!
I have to sleep with the closet door and my bedroom door closed. It can’t even be cracked a little bit.
I have to sleep with a pillow between my knees. I hate when my knees touch, plus the pillow helps give better support to my back.
I can sleep with a t-shirt and no underwear on but I have a hard time sleeping totally nude. WTF?
I always tear my gum in half. I NEVER eat a whole piece of gum, even chewing gum.
I like the shower curtain closed at all times, even when no one is in there.
I often perform and talk to my cat Blue. Sometimes I think he wonders what planet I came from
By Staceye
June 21, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this
I sing and dance for hours in full costume…including wig. Hey…I’m an only child…that is what entertained me as a kid. I never did drugs, drink or have sex, then. Now is a different story…minus the drugs of course! I’m nuts enough without the added enhancement of drugs! Oh, I make a few margaritas and play Jimmy Buffet’s “Margaritaville” and imagine I am back on one of my many beach vacations in the Caribbean or South Beach. If I am out of Tequila I just suck on a lime with some salt and again…let my imagination run free.
By Blatino aka BMW aka BLT
June 21, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this
…..$1 for gas??? Truth is straight trippin….
@itsmorenamorena. Hello. dee Blatino’s phone number is 678-555-1212. I’m a fan of home-based nekkedness. www.myspace.com/atlien78. LOL
Much love to all the BlogFam.
By Cassie
June 21, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this
I’m with the other bloggettes on the whole bathtub and wine thing, although I do sit and blog while in the tub.
I save the by myself time for things like mud masks, hair treatments. Not too crazy, right? Also like to toss on the Winnie the Pooh pajamas and crank up the stereo and howl at the dogs….
By Ladylike
June 21, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this
Oh ya, I also like to dance to music like Kelis, MJB, “B”, Lenny, Amy Winehous, that’s during the day. You know what’s really good, the indian cd’s of spiritual songs, I can hear myself think.
By SlimOne
June 21, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this
SJ3000 It’s been a while since I used Epsom Salt but i might need to pick some up. I also used baking soda and put it in the water too.
Truth You know I’ve always thought to myself that if some gross peeping tom ever put a camera in my house that he’d she helluva show. He’d probably think I was more looney than he was.
Ladies How come when we dance around at home in skimpy clothes, do we have to look at our behinds in the mirror? For the life of me I have no idea why i do that. I always try to do that shaking move the strippers do in the club.
By Staceye
June 21, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this
Oh yes…I forgot, I too do the stripper thing at home. I am about to get a retractable pole to complete my dancing and entertaining imaginary men fantasy! I got wigs of all styles and colors! If my mom only knew all my years of formal dance training that she paid for is now being used for this…she might smack me toothless!
By Wise Diva
June 21, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this
ahh Stacyeye, you just reminded me of my Jamaica vacation! Maybe I can have a pina colada and let my imagination take me back to the beach!
By melo
June 21, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this
@Biff,and pretend to shoot the bad guys on T.V. Al Sharpton must have a thousand holes in him by now. Strange coincidence, I do that too. Only difference is I have killed the Dumb Prez couple of times!!
By jones
June 21, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this
Roll a fatty and have a cocktail, turn the lights out and watch tv.
By Cassie
June 21, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this
Slim I’m with you on the pillow between the knees, and the cracked window.
I like to drink pickle juice. Only sour pickles, though…no sweet pickles. Vlasic gerkins….yum!
By Lady J
June 21, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this
MELO you are CRAZY!!!!!!!lol
By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment
June 21, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this
Word to wise(no pun intended)…you guys that shoot at the T.V should tell who you shoot at..you never know when Big Brother is watching
Melo and Biff now being booked in Fulton County lock-up…both with roommates 6’2 350lbs
By Jewel
June 21, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this
Hahaha! Musing LOL!
Slim My ex-SO slept with a pillow between his legs for the same reason, unless I was in the bed with him. Then, he had his legs wrapped around me. One question: I NEVER eat a whole piece of gum, even chewing gum. Maybe I am slow, but is there any kind of gum other than the chewing kind?
By Staceye
June 21, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this
Wise Diva…I put a station on at work when someone gets on my nerves that plays Margaritaville and suck limes with salt and remeber my vacations.I pretend I am not here but there. It works for those 4 minutes the son si on..but afterwards it all comes crashing down like a downward spiral high! (Not that I’d know…never done drugs)So I am just guessing!
By NCGirlfromATL
June 21, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this
Ok Slim I think we were separated at birth. I am just the opposite on the sleeping in clothes thing tho. Gotta have underwear, anything else is optional. But, I close closet doors before I got to sleep…I think that’s a boogey man thing from my childhood. And the shower curtain is always pulled…again, some kind of Psycho flashback. LOL!
NC walks into the dark kitchen and slams her forehead into one of SJ’s open cabinet doors…#$@##^%, Sean!!!*
By SlimOne
June 21, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this
Cassie Sometimes if i don’t feel like making a sandwich but i just want a quick snack, I’ll take some lunch meat and wrap it around a pickle and it eat it that way….WEIRD I KNOW!
By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment
June 21, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this
Pickle Juice……Said in my Geico Caveman voice…uuuuuuuhhhhhhh WHAT!!!
By Lady J
June 21, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this
Oh drink my Reisling out of the bottle!!! LOL
By SeanJohnson3000
June 21, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this
@ Slim..the epsom salt/hot bath is serious..just be careful…you can get too relaxed…i almost drowned several times…
another thing…a lot of females like dancing around the house naked or in something skimpy…try putting on 6 inch heels…for 4-8 hours..then u would appreciate and respect strippers..
By T-Mango
June 21, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this
Truth.I knew I had that coming-:) LMAO
Blatino. A “self-promo” already this morning? Carpe diem lol
By Ladylike
June 21, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this
I would really like to know his “thing” within a month but since I am so embarrased about my “things” it’s hard not to want to hide them. Some folks would answer this with “the let things flow” response but that’s difficult when you are accustom to being private and being alone. I truly would rather see his “thing” sooner. When I’m doing my “thing” nothin else matters, I’m screening calls, not answering the door. I really don’t want to be bothered. The problem with my “thing” is everybody can’t be around people who spend prefereable time in their birthday suit. How can I tell a man look but don’t touch me, and don’t do much talking either. Which brings me to another question. Can or could you met someone whom I/you like so much, that sharing my/your “thing” with them wouldn’t be a problem?
By Sexione
June 21, 2007 10:36 AM | Link to this
Y’all got me laughing out loud in class………..whew!!
By The Truth
June 21, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this
GAman and Jewel a little known fact, in the line “You can’t handle The Truth” they were actually talking about me. LOL
SJ I’m the exact opposite when it comes to doors. They must be locked. Actually my boys trip because I have a big azz mean looking dog and a gun and still lock the doors. It comes from growing up in the projects bruh. I’m with you on the cabinets tho, and that includes the microwave. Everything must be closed. And I do that whole camp out over the weekend thing too. It bothers me when someone wants to go somewhere and I’m chillin’.
Slim wtf is up with the pillow between the knees thing? LOL Unlike you, I have to have all the doors in the house open when I’m sleeping so if we get married we’ll have to compromise and leave all the doors open. LOL
By Cassie
June 21, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this
LadyJ Right there with you. I drink EVERYTHING out of the bottle. The joy of living alone!
Slim You know, I never thought of that. I’ll have to try it!! Are you a cheese fan? Try Pub Cheese on those Water Crackers for a quick snack. Addictive!
By Lady J
June 21, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this
SJ I can’t even hang or compete with the strippers…It takes a special lady to do what they do!:) lolol
They would gladly escort me out of Pin Ups with the Quickness!! Too Funny!
By Lady J
June 21, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this
Cassie Me too…My ex friend saw me one time and then after everytime he asked for something to drink at my home he is like I hpe you didn’t drink out of that and I looked at him like you lips be EVERYWHERE!!! This bottle is not going to hurt you!!! LOL Cassie I do too honey!!
By Tazzee
June 21, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this
Morning Bloggers!
I share a lot of ‘things’ with other bloggers:
First thing I do when I get home from work is take off my bra and my shoes.
My favorite home attire is a t-shirt and panties.
I don’t close the door when I use the bathroom.
I leave cabinet doors open, my friend said my kitchen reminds her of that scene in The Sixth Sense.
I have spent entire weekends in my house. Well, not entire weekends because I usually get that notion after traveling a lot, so I don’t have groceries. So I’ll leave to get some grub. Oh and I’ll always get up and go to church.
I work out in just my spandex shorts and the sports bra (would never do that in public)
I leave my ironing board up at all times in my laundry room. My cleaning lady puts it away when she comes, that’s the only time its down.
I think that’s it for now.
By i'm swiss
June 21, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this
“I’ll take some lunch meat and wrap it around a pickle and it eat it that way….WEIRD I KNOW!”
I don’t know, Slim — I’m pretty sure there are other ladies who like their pickles w/ a little meat on them.
;-)
By The Truth
June 21, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this
SJ* are you speaking from experience on the 6inch heels thing? **AN emergency MLB membership meeting is being called on SJ’s behalf
Ok, I forgot my wackiest thing. In the last 20 years I have probably slept under the sheets 10 times. I just jump on my comforter and go to sleep. I am very warm blooded and overheat easily so its just easier to lay on top of the comforter. At first my ex thought it was odd but now she just jumps in and we cuddle up and go to sleep, until I get to hot and move away to cool off. Its also great for cheating. A woman will come in and check the sheets not knowing the evidence is on the comforter. LOL
NEWSFLASH Y’all are some strange azz people. LMAO
By Cassie
June 21, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this
Lady J Girl, I’m glad I have company! LOL!
Now I will tell you the most embarassing thing of all.
I can seriously only go to the bathroom (and I don’t mean pee) if I am totally in the house by myself.
By 2CPTG
June 21, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this
nice break from the norm….
my quirks include: workingon my laptop in odd places as well; i.e the shytter, bathtub….working out crazy math models and formulas, writing, reading…trynna sing, sippin’ on ‘yak and coke while trynna analyze issues…weirdness….
By Wise Diva
June 21, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this
ohh, I totally love it! Let your freak flags fly high, people! IT’s too funny!
By DuShawn
June 21, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this
peeping tom ever put a camera in my house that he’d see helluva show. That’s funny. I have a female neighbor that has a tendency to leave her blinds open in her bedroom. One evening, I’m in my back yard and glance up and she’s naked, dancing and doing alot of the things you women have described. I’m no pervert, but dayum it was hard to look away. This has happened on several occasions. A potnah of mine came to visit me. We sittin in the back sippin some yac and I mentioned it to him. Sure enuf, she appeared at the window doing her thing. She was pop, lock and droppin, and using a brush like a microphone, the whole nine. The last time I saw the show I turned my back porch light on and off a few times, hoping she would notice she was being watched. I think she got message. Her blinds have been closed lately.
By Jewel
June 21, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this
Ummm The Truth That line was spoken by a man, to a man, not to mention Tom Cruise says, I WANT THE TRUTH!…is this your way of confessing your “Thing?” Jewel leans toward The Truth with her reporter’s pad and pen… LOL!
By QC
June 21, 2007 10:55 AM | Link to this
You’re welcome Lady J i’m glad you enjoyed it :)
By SlimOne
June 21, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this
Truth It bothers me when someone wants to go somewhere and I’m chillin’ You know what, that really irritates me too but it’s not like they know i’m in chill mode. What I hate even worse is asking me to do something or go somewhere before i’ve even made it home to unwind. If you want to treat me to dinner, tell me ahead of time so i can be mentally prepared to be around you. LOL! Sometimes my phone will ring and i’ll be like WHAAAATTTTTT before i answer the phone.
And what kind of compromise is that when it’s your way? I can deal with the bedroom door being open but not the closet.
By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment
June 21, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this
Isnt it funny how we all have our little things we do..and some are quite funny…..then as we get in the relationship of things…most change or grow and then your So starts doing the same things
I.e. nakked twister with Musing and his So
NC and her So…singing nekked broken toes and all
Truth’s So getting samiches and grape soda
SeanJ…trapping women with the epson salt
Demi/Alvin’s So not knowing which one will come out
Blat and his So getting crunk juice in his BMW
GaMan and Jewel watching “A Few Good Men nekked stating the lines
Slim and Truth argueing over pillows sleeping in the same bed
By Lady J
June 21, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this
This is not gross either bc my ex circle of close friends use to do the samething…If I know I am not doing anything on a particular weekend mening not even going to Kroger or Walley World I do not even hit the Shower…I just watch movies and eat st in water and do it for 48hours and on Sunday it is the best cleaning coming…This also applies when I clean my system!!! Total Relaxation for me!! LOL
By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment
June 21, 2007 11:02 AM | Link to this
Jewel youuuuu are crazyyy girl…..and the world awaits the Truths answer to this one……
reporting live from Lawrencville,Ga
dang i hate my city’s name is sooooo crazy to spell..lololol
By SeanJohnson3000
June 21, 2007 11:02 AM | Link to this
@ Truth…lol..you got jokes? bruh..i spent a major part of the 90’s in strip clubs and messed with a few…and the blog females with “pole” dreams will have a new found respect for the females who actually strip if they knew how it really is…i have heard PLENTY of females say…”i could do that” thats easy..shake my azz..and get paid..thinking its easy…takes stamina to dance 8 hours in heels..and still look sxy and frky….for the record on the MLB…i am as real as they come…
By JJ
June 21, 2007 11:02 AM | Link to this
I sleep in a tee shirt, bedroom door open, closet and cabinets closed, kitchen stove hood light on and the light on the fish tank, stereo on in the living room (at all times, 24/7). But I cannot have any part of me hanging off the bed, like a foot or hand, or sleep with my back to a window (very strange nightmares as a child, carried into adulthood).
A ceiling fan must be on at all times, and now I have an oscillating fan directly on me too. No sheets either. Menopause……hot flashes, night sweats.
In the winter, flannel sheets!!!! Love me some flannel sheets…..
Oh, I like pickle juice too.
By Tazzee
June 21, 2007 11:04 AM | Link to this
A good workout for me is trying to do some of those video dances. Sometimes at the end of my workout I’ll put on ‘Shake Ya Money Maker’ and work it out.
By SlimOne
June 21, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this
Truth I can’t stand sleeping on top of the covers. When I sleep I like it to be cold so I can sleep all wrapped up in the sheet and comforter… A woman will come in and check the sheets not knowing the evidence is on the comforter. LOL Do I know you? Sounds like someone else I know….you wouldn’t happen to drive a BMW would you?
Du Watching folks when they don’t know you’re looking can be very entertaining. I like to people watch when i’m in public. I’ll never forget a time I got up in the middle of the night to find that my SO at the time wasn’t in bed. So i’m walking around the house and catch a glimmer of light. I peek around the corner to see him being ‘one’ with himself watching a special movie. LOL It was so funny!!!
By NCGirlfromATL
June 21, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this
Ok, a lot of women have mentioned that they take off their bras as soon as they get home…when I come home from the gym, I strip as soon as the door shuts…I mean that literally. LOL! I can’t stand to be in sweaty clothes, and my stairs are right in front of my front door. Door shuts, shirt, sports bra, shorts, and panties by the time I reach the top of the stairs…all gone!
Tazzee the staying in the house the whole weekend thing isn’t so weird to me. I do it when I’ve been working really hard. I look forward to those weekends. In fact, b/c I like it dark so much, I often won’t open the curtains or blinds until late in the afternoon. Nice and cool and dark in the room. Does that make me part vampire?
By Island Girl
June 21, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this
Morning Everybody. One more day till the weekend. Thank you God. A college cheer (hip hip hoorayyyyy) to the WLB…especially for holding it down yesterday and a soft kiss to the MLB
Like Lauren Hill sang, “That thing, that thing, that thiinngg”. My thing is being naked! I love being in my birthday suit especially when I’m home alone. Nothing feels better that taking nice bath/shower and going straight to bed with nothing but a soft sheet against my body……well another human body will also do. lol
Like that lady that walked the streets of NY with her girls hainging out….now that is freedom! Well, she was arrested….(just kidding)
Chat with later….got to get some work done, but will be lurking.
By Jewel
June 21, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this
Another quirk: If you heat up something in my microwave and take it out before the time completes…please clear the time. If not, I become Joan Crawford in “Mommie Dearest.” Yeah, no more wire hangers either. Dry cleaners really need to kick it up a notch. LOL!
By Ladylike
June 21, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this
I love my pajamas/lounge wear, in winter it’s cotton long sleve with pants and matching slippers in most cases, in summer it’s cotton boy shorts and matching tank top. In the morning when I’m alone I like to cook breakfast and watch HGTV or Foodtv while drinking memosas.
By SeanJohnson3000
June 21, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this
@ Slim…u are single because u wanna be..
By Tazzee
June 21, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this
Jewel Bubble gum
Thanks Wise Diva for this topic. I’m not as weird as I thought I was, LOL.
I too hate when someone wants to do something and I’ve planned to just chill. As a matter of fact, I hate when my phone rings when I’m in chill mode.
By SlimOne
June 21, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this
SJ I can believe how hard it is to be a stripper. I know i don’t like coming to work everday but to have to go strip all night in heels putting and taking off your undies every 3rd song has to be miserable at times. Plus every person you dance for is not going to be asthetically pleasing to the eye either.
Does anyone else here try to do the dances on So you Think You Can Dance? I do hehehe
By itsmorenamorena
June 21, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this
Smiles at Blatino — gotta luv the self-promotion!
@Slim — Last wedding I was in, I had to practice dancing in the shoes, the heels were like 4.5 inches or so. Ever since then, yes, from time to time I will break those “come hithers” out and get my boogie on, stripper moves and all, sans clothes, of course LOL
A couple folks mentioned baths, well I take showers in the dark, particularly if it’s warm weather. I’ll light candles in my bedroom and the bath and shower in the dark. I usually reserve baths in the dark for company.
By Kirk
June 21, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this
What’s with all of the action phrases in posts? Is that neccessary to make a point?
By SlimOne
June 21, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this
Jewel I hate leaving the time on the microwave too. Okay folks with an automatic icemaker…If a piece of ice falls on the floor, by gosh, pick it up. One of my pet peeves is walking in the kitchen and stepping in a puddle of wetness, regardless if i have socks on or barefoot. WIPE IT UP.
Sean J Why you say I’m single cause I want to be?
By T-Mango
June 21, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this
SeanJohnson3000…Chill(lol)…We know stripping is hard work. Doing it at home doesn’t mean we have “pole dreams” or don’t respect women who are in the profession. Imitation is the best form of flattery. We’re just tapping into another side of ourselves. Besides, the present or future SO is the person who benefits from our practice sessions.
By Tazzee
June 21, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this
NCGirl I NEVER open my blinds, LOL. I don’t know why that is.
Jewel I hate the remaining time on the microwave too. We have 3 in our breakroom at work and I find myself clearing those too.
By Sexione
June 21, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this
Okay, let me add a few of mine before this break is over……..
I LOVE candles, so I will light them throughout the house (or the rooms I’m in), I too like minimal clothing…so my thong and a tank top is my favorite, wrap my hair (with no do-rag)…okay brb…..
By Jewel
June 21, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this
Thanks Tazzee! Guess I was slow on that one! LOL! Even though, technically, you still have to chew it! LOL!
I agree with NC Spending an entire weekend at home alone is not weird…it can be a great rejuvenating period. Quality ME time.
By The Truth
June 21, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this
The Truth confesses. I must come out of the closet today…with some fresh azz linen on. LOL Hell no I’m not catching anything but MARTA (Its Smarta) LMAO Unless Slim wants to scoop a bruh up in that Gremlin. The Truth now retracts the beginning of his 1038 post.
SJ I was j/k bruh, your solid as Sears. I had a neighbor that danced at Magic City years ago and she would come over all the time with like panties on or overalls with nothing on underneath. She would go to Buffalo or Miami to dance and call me 2 days later to feed her dog and let him out. She’d just throw food on the kitchen floor and leave. That dog loved to see me coming. That was one chick i never thought about banging.
LadyJ I must admit sometimes when i’m on chill status I skip a shower or 2 also but when I do get in there it feels so good. Usually its just me being lazy as hell.
DU I saw my neighbor ( A real slim married mexican chick) taking a shower one night. I was on my deck with the light on. Anyway, I turned off the light and took a seat. BTW-That is the hippiest slim chick I ever saw.
By Wise Diva
June 21, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this
KIRK yes, it’s necessary, it’s required for all posts. Try it!
LOL..just kidding. Don’t take it so seriously.
By DuShawn
June 21, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this
Slim Du Watching folks when they don’t know you’re looking can be very entertaining. it can also be addictive. I found myself going in my backyard unecessarily just to see if she was performing. When my homeboy was there and we watched her, I told him I’m about to step back inside and finish watching the game. He was so enthralled he said “Go head dawg, I’m a chill out here for a minute.”
By Princess
June 21, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this
Love this topic.
I was thinking about all the things I do when the boys are visiting their dad.
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
June 21, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this
Good Morning Everyone
Okay, slim you got me cracking up…we’re similar in the following ways:
Not only do my bedroom door have to be closed, but locked!
I just had a hot bath last night where you sweat the water is so hot…I had to take a cold shower afterwards to get clean.
I have to have the pillow or my man between my legs so that my knees don’t touch
I like to sleep with no top on, but I prefer to wear boy shorts to bed
I dance around looking in the mirror trying to perfect my stripper dance…while looking at my booty in the mirror!
Too funny when I read your posts!
By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment
June 21, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this
Ok one day i was at the gym working out on that ski machine and it was by a ladies class on the treadmill
I was blowing Karrrrmaaaa karmmmaaa chameleonnnnnnn.(Culture Club)….i was going for broke…hey it’s on my mp3 player
the ladies were laughing and singing with me…..i thought i was humming the dang gome song…but wassinging it outloud…….i wa halfway thru the song before i realized what was going on!!!!
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
June 21, 2007 11:35 AM | Link to this
Another thing that I like to do is lay on the shower floor and pray/contemplate….I vision myself laying at the feet of Jesus while the warm water is hitting my skin…great peaceful moment!
By Tazzee
June 21, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this
candlelit showers - thanks itsmorena Imma have to try that one.
By melo
June 21, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this
@Wise and yu’all bloggers, dont laugh, u asked for it! My thing is to exercise my wang wang when naked. I extend my hips forward and shake it to one side, then the other.Sometimes after undressing, i will just hold it and smile, admiring its length. At times i will tease my shy lady and say’how do u like him?’ Now my wife will, after a bath, shake her azz at me, butt nakkid, while iam just lying on the bed, looking at her. She aint that good at it(u know like how they shake it so fast in the VIDEOS on BET), the way they do it at the strip and i have been trying to cajole her to join me there so she can learn.The best she has done is to come, but sleep outside in the car! Another thing, my deepest thoughts come when iam on the dudu seat, flashing periodically and just ruminating on my possible projects!!
By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment
June 21, 2007 11:38 AM | Link to this
Kirk Dont Get So Upset we are Here to Make The Day Better
By SlimOne
June 21, 2007 11:38 AM | Link to this
Du I don’t blame your homeboy. lol You can see a game anytime, but how often do you get the chance to see someone being totally free.
I also get in the mood to model. I’ll put on different outfits and use the hallway as my runway. I’ll even move my tall mirror in the hallway so i can see myself. ANTM (America’s Next Top Model)home edition, here i come.
By The Truth
June 21, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this
Slim actually I just sold mine. 530I Black on black with a 6 pack. Do I know ya hun? Oh yeah we can compromise on the sheet thing too when we get married. We’ll sleep on top of the comforter. Smocches.
Sexi I tried that whole candle cool cat thing but it didn’t work for me. I am afaid of fire so its hard to be cool when your trembling inside. I will burn one if I’m in the room and can watch it tho.
NC exactly what is your address again and when do you prefer to work out? LOL Also, can you open your curtains a little more?
IG that lady just won 29k over that case. Moral of the story. It pays to flash your t** ladies.
By MusingLee
June 21, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this
I think I already shared my P holding game with the blog…That’s where I leave work needing to P, and I try to get home without having to pull over and P…LOLOLOL…I’m sure people look over at my face and wonder WTF I’m concentrating on…LOLOLOLOL
Musing’s face full of sweat pulling into the subdivsion…running over bikes, footballs, and yard plants to get to his bathroom.
By Ladylike
June 21, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this
Sexione I enjoy lit candles around the house, and opening the windows during a summer storm while it’s thundering & lightning outside. I have recently started thinking about installing a Mediterranean outside balcony bedroom, on the upper level of course. I got a thing for nature, beautiful flowers, plush green grass and me. Brings me to yet another thing, I like to wash and condition my hair with some good smelling whateva’ and braid my hair while it dries or allow my hair to dry naturally then just take it down. I usually do this on those weekends alone that NCgirl & Tazzee were talking about. I feel so in my own skin.
It is so nice to know that I am among other freaks as myself. LOL
By SeanJohnson3000
June 21, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this
@ Tango…i know…nothing wrong with a female dancing for their man…would u go to a strip club with someone u were dating?
@ Slim and DarkDimples…the pillow between the legs aligns your spine..allowing you to rest better..according to a chiropractor..
@ Truth…i know it was a joke bruh…lol…but word of advise…locked or unlocked…if someone is trying to run up in your spot…they arent gonna knock or use the knob..so why lock it? lol
By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment
June 21, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this
Musinglee..aka OJ running thru everything to go P….and isnt it funny how when you have to go real bad your clothes wont help you out..but when you dont have to go..you cna unfasten everything fast
Musing now feels that warm sensation like he just bit into a York Peppermint patti….aaaawwwww man i just p’ed on myself again
By Jewel
June 21, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this
LadyDark I vision myself laying at the feet of Jesus while the warm water is hitting my skin That’s nice…
By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment
June 21, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this
Update I went into Kroger the other day to get Milk…and i was blown away..I saw Randyt and his T-shirts on my Milk Jug
Randyt come out of Witness Protection…..we are here for you….
By Wise Diva
June 21, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this
Sorry Kirk, I have to!
Diva falls out of her chair laughing at Melo’s dizzle workout
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
Diva down, diva down!!
By JustMe
June 21, 2007 11:51 AM | Link to this
Good Morning Bloggers and Blogettes
Hope errrrbody is doing great……..
My thing has always been naked house work in the middle of the night.
By Island Girl
June 21, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this
*@GAMan….I can see you now sing that Boy George…I love that song…too funny. I bet you got your sweat on though…lol*
@Truth….she got paid…OK, everybody watch the 6:00 news tonight. Check IG with her girls in tow. I just might it them pierced (Janet flash back)….loL
@Slim…girl you need to stop. I’m cracking up at work!!!!
By The Truth
June 21, 2007 11:53 AM | Link to this
Princess if you could choose, which way would you have it, Solo or with boys? Be honest.
LDD I need to verify your address, for tax purposes of course. Also, could you open your curtains a little wider at night? Thank you.
The Truth is now worried as hell about GAMAN and Culture Club. Is there something you’d like to tell us GAMAN?
And the world awaits your answer…LOL
By SlimOne
June 21, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this
LDD why do you think we have to look back at it? lol
melo Props for coming out with it. I know you guys do that wang slap dance when you shake your hips left and right or up and down and the wang goes flapping. LOL!
One of the most funniest things my ex has done is do his interpretation of a stripper. It always has me cracking up!!! He’ll even demonstrate how the girls show the pink. hahahaha!
Truth If we were married and you tried to sleep on top of the covers…I’d go David Copperfield on your @ss. You’d wake up in the morning either on the floor or wake up wondering how the hell I got the sheet from up under you w/o you knowing. Wah-la. One of the most frustrating things is being cold but having some I-DOT laying on the covers and you keep pulling to no avail. Uggghh!
Musing have you ever had the rumble in your tummy, you break out in a cold sweat, you looked worried because you know a massive shyt is about to take place but you aren’t even close to home? OMG! Time to use the emergency lane. lol
By Jewel
June 21, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this
I have been wondering about RandyT and a few others, even though I have not blogged much lately.
Roll Call:
RandyT Foots Runninatl Dr. Kym JustMe
By Staceye
June 21, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this
SlimOne…I do imitate those dances from So You Think You Can Dance….
By T-Mango
June 21, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this
SeanJohnson3000…He’d have to share why he wants me to go…
I would not stop an SO from going to one though… but I expect the same courtesy when I want to go see Luscious, Hypnotize, Keanu, Outlaw and Fantasy do their thing at a show.
By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment
June 21, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this