By MochaTreat

July 16, 2007 8:18 AM | Link to this

Good morning Wise, Sexione, Kinder, Slim, QC, MO, GAman, Musing, Demi, LadyJ, NC, and crew I hope everyone had a wonderful weekend!!!

Ladies, do you like a challenge when it comes to dating guys? yes, a mental challenge…or should I say he must be able to stimulate me mentally. Is Mr. Emotionally Unavailable really appealing to you? No, not in the least! Do you sometimes wish you can change the bad boy into the nice guy, in hopes that he will change for you? I wouldn’t want a guy to change for me…in order for it to have long lasting effect…he would need to change for him. I wouldn’t want a man trying to change me. I am who I am! My expereinces have help mold and shape me into the person that I am!

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 8:20 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Errybody

Why do so many people think that nice is not sexy? Well as shallow as it may seem, most folks don’t want to be with someone they can walk all over & use as their doormat. It’s kind of hard to maintain respect for someone that allows you to treat them any kind of way.

Are single men and women conditioned to chase the bad girl or guy? I’m not sure if we’re conditioned perse, but it is possible. I guess the fact that most videos have some dude that looks like all he does is workout, wearing jeans and a ‘wife beater’ covered in tattoos might have a little bearing on it. Men are taught to be tough and not to show weakness so I guess the natural flow of things would be for a woman to try to find that strong man that will be able to protect her & the family at any given moment…not someone that will shun at confrontation when needed.

Ladies, do you like a challenge when it comes to dating guys? Is Mr. Emotionally Unavailable really appealing to you? Do you sometimes wish you can change the bad boy into the nice guy, in hopes that he will change for you? Um, haven’t been in the dating world for very long but I simply am not into azzholes. I don’t want someone scared to open up and show emotion either. And the idea of changing someone into something else is childish. For the most part, folks change on their own accord.

I really didn’t think this thru before I had my coffee so we’ll see what everyone else thinks

Today’s blog breakfast consists of pancakes, french toast, turkey bacon, turkey sausage, bacon, eggs, toast, english muffins and fruit.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 8:24 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everybody!!

T-mango I like what you do for the community. When I get some free time i would like to volunteer.. Truth Did you get your pix?? On topics I prefer a combination of both GOOD/BAD. You know how SJ started off before he became x-rated. I must be honest i don’t won’t a guy to senistive and nice cause then i might question wether he is gay or not. I don’t want a thug either but he got to know when and how to put his foot down cause i am a handful myself and being the independent woman that I am i can and will become the dominant one if he is to passive.

By Sexione

July 16, 2007 8:34 AM | Link to this

Goodmorning Everybody!!

I think society is playing mind games on this one (like so many others). Nice is sexy (if he is otherwise sexy). No, nice alone doesn’t guarantee sexy (thats a whole ‘nother thing), but nice is attractive. Not many women want a rude dude, not for keeps anyway, thats just for the thrill of the moment (and even that doesn’t do it or me personally). Yes, I like a challenge, but not in a rude way….challenge me, or as Mocha said, stimulate me mentally. Mr. Unavailable is not appealing at all. And no, I definitely wouldn’t want to change a man…..he is who he is. I don’t know why men tend to think women want bad boys, I think its a combo of things……I’ll list them later.

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 8:34 AM | Link to this

Church hugs to WLB & Butt grabs to the MLB….hello
Mocha,Mo,Sexi1,GA.man,Musing,SeanJ,For
Real,NC,Mochalatte,QCF,Demi,Foots,Truth…anyone I missed.

By Sexione

July 16, 2007 8:42 AM | Link to this

After reading Slim and MsUs (hey Ladies)posts, I remembered something, there’s a thin line between nice and wimpy.

Nice - good to me (and others), kind, understanding, not degrading or demeaning.

Wimpy - will not stand up, no willpower, no backbone, scary.

Did I miss anything?

By QC

July 16, 2007 8:48 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers

Hey Mocha, Mo, Slim1, SexyOne, MsU, GA.man, Demi, Musing, Sir Truth, Kinder, SJ3000, ForReal, err’body

Have a great day!!!!!

By G

July 16, 2007 8:49 AM | Link to this

I’m not sure of the exact reason of why we go for the bad guys/gals….maybe we’re conditioned to what we see on tv, or what society has battered us over the head with for generations.

On Flavor of Love/Charm School, the women were challenged to find the “renaissance man”. The renaissance man was a “quality-datable” guy, and the other guys were on parole, player, pushover, and professional (the 4ps’). None of the girls chose the renaissance man. All of them lost. Yeah, they’re Flavor-gals, but I don’t think non-flavor gals are that much different.

Choosing bad mates is like choosing bad food. You know it’s bad for you in the long run, but it tastes so good.

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 8:51 AM | Link to this

Sexione That’s about right. Life is all about balance.

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 8:56 AM | Link to this

G I saw that episode of Flava of Charm School. Woman may miss out on the ‘good guy’ because he may not be as forward as all the other P’s. Often times women are initially attracted to the ‘swagger’ that the other dudes have.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this

Hello Sexione yep you sum it up, Hey Slim,QC,Mocha* & *G

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 16, 2007 9:05 AM | Link to this

Good morning QC,Slim,Sexione,Mocha,Ms.U how is everyone….doing

I hope you all had a grreatttt weekend….Blog Roses for the ladies of the WLB

Handdap…To the ALL Powerful MLB

need coffee..stayed up late watching tv…walking in all late…..then i got court today…i should know better…lol will be back in reference to the subject…Hey WISE

By Sexione

July 16, 2007 9:05 AM | Link to this

Slim thanks for the breakfast girl!! You’re right, balance is key….like MsU said, a combo of good and bad. That’s like the book sense vs. common (and street) sense. All of just one will not do, we need a balance of those things.

Ladies, why do you all think men think that we all want some bad boy, to treat us like dirt and run around in the streets? I’m sure part of it is prior experience, having seen or been with some misguided woman who kept going back to the abusive jerk, but we all know that doesn’t mean we all make those choices. So what is it really?

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 16, 2007 9:06 AM | Link to this

Morning Ya’ll Mo dragging in, trying to hold it together..folks are already conspiring to get on my bad side this morning. Bear with me ya’ll WOO-SAH

SlimOne thanks for breakfast.

Hair flip to the WLB and one arm hugs to the MLB

I’ll comment on topic later. Let me get it together and calm down first.

By Raqi

July 16, 2007 9:08 AM | Link to this

First of all we must stop assuming that “Nice” equates to “Pushover” or “Doormats”, because it doesn’t.

It is sad that some women say that they want to be treated right…like a woman should be treated…but when a guy is respectful and considerate he is labeled as a pushover rather than being nice. Make up your mind already.

I like having a nice guy who stands his ground as a man but still knows how to be caring.

By Foots

July 16, 2007 9:13 AM | Link to this

Good morning all. Hope everyone had a good weekend. What’s up Slim?

Often times women are initially attracted to the ‘swagger’ that the other dudes have.

Maybe it’s their confidence that women are attracted to. If you walk in the room like “I’m the ish”, half of the room will think you’re the ish without you even saying a word. If a man has that AND has it under control (meaning that he doesn’t use his power for evil), he can get very far with women.

By T-Mango

July 16, 2007 9:15 AM | Link to this

Good morning to the WLB and MLB

@MsU Thank you for your message. I can pass you some information if you’d like. Let me know.

On Topic:

Ladies, do you like a challenge when it comes to dating guys? No, I like a man that is intriguing and pleasant to be around. I do not like a person that is being bullheaded (I mean challenging) just because…Is Mr. Emotionally Unavailable really appealing to you? No, not at all… because he is in that place emotionally, he would be unable to meet my needs. Do you sometimes wish you can change the bad boy into the nice guy, in hopes that he will change for you? Being a bad boy doesn’t mean that he can’t be a nice guy. There are some guys that are thrill seekers that fall into the bad boy bucket based on their physical appearance and social connections. But, on the inside they are really nice people. However, if it has been confirmed by word & deed that a cat is “bad” in the sense that he doesn’t care about others or the world then my response is the following: you cannot change a man. He has to change himself and his life in his own time and on his own terms.

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 9:17 AM | Link to this

Women are drawn to “Bad Boys” because they precieve these dudes as being able to Man up and protect them (having balls) and not being a pushover…However many Women fall for any ol’dude doing this. And in reality the dude could give a dayum about that particular chick…The “Nice Guy” has to learn there is a difference in being nice and a chump/pushover…..Sure I consider myself a nice guy but I don’t take ishh from anyone…Especially some know it all WLB….LOLOLOLOLOLOL

By Sexione

July 16, 2007 9:27 AM | Link to this

Foots good point!! When they have the power and know how/when to use it, it’s a beautiful thing! lol

Raqi yes, that’s that thin line I was talking about! How’ve you been?

Mo guurrrl, neva let ‘em see you sweat! woosaaahhhh

Hey GAman thanks for the rose…..my favorite flower.

By C tha 1

July 16, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this

Morning everybody,once again I’m reading the WLB comments and shaking my head because its not that cut and dry with a woman. Basically, what women say and do tend to be completely different things.

Speaking from my POV women are attracted to bad boys … when they’re young. Its funny how women perceive arrogance as strength sometimes, or even a false bravado as strength. At the end of the day some women have a hard time judging the true character of a man. Ironically, men tend to pick up on what women judge as admirable male qualities and end up fronting and becoming something they are not…a fake thug.

O.K. I could go further, but I got a meeting.

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this

WLB You can thank the MLB for breakfast this morning. I paid for it using their petty cash. lol

Foots/MisU What’s happeninininin? :-D

Mo It’s only Monday so don’t let them get to you. Roll your eyes and keep it moving.

By abc

July 16, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this

A friend of mine used to always go for ‘bad boys’. Lately she tells me she’d be interested in blue collar, likes to drink beer and hang out, not as smart as she is, easy to entertain types. That aren’t losers. I say, what?! She’s 43 and never married, in spite of being gorgeous. Go figure; I think her own perspective on who and what she wants will make her an old maid, if she’s not already.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this

@T-Mango Sure swshmk@gmail.com

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this

Gaman mail call

C tha 1 Are you bitter towards women right now?

By SeanJohnson3000

July 16, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog….regarding the topic…kinda glad the young cats Chris Brown and NeYo..although i think he has sugar in his tank and looks like a gay baby from cash money…are successful in their music careers..gives the young and very impressionable girls an alternative to gold and platinum fronts and dreads and the whole badboy thug image….it helps the young cats too…showing them its okay to dress clean from the norm of big t shirts and baggy jeans and to be respectful to women. Its so many grown women never really been treated like a lady and with respect so when i nice guy comes along…they dont know how to take it or find it attractive..

@MsU..i try to be balanced..sometimes its profanity ..adult situations and nudity..and sometimes i am pg 13….you are a grown woman..dont act like u cant handle both..

By Sexione

July 16, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this

Okay, so what about the men that always seem to pick the bad girl vs. the good woman? this topic is really one-sided so far

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 16, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this

Ok this goes back to knowing your self worth

If a woman only sees you as a pushover then you have to blame yourself…oooh wait..i was being to nice

or maybe if i just treat you like i dont give a blip….No thats being mean…or am i a bad boy..cause i wont listen or care….

What it all boils down to is beinging the man my Grandfather raised me to be…warm caring articulate smart and about my business….now if this is what ladies want then i will be a great catch i know i dont match every ladies vision of what she might want in a man..but i do know that looks and the money(might) go away…But my heart is still there…and as long as God gives me breath i can replace the money…but when you let one get away that loves you for you…then you regret..you may never admit but it is true…..How many times have you let one go….then think about it….my heart and good sense to run my house keep the bills paid and show her that i *Will Love her until my last breath is *PRICELESS the same goes for raising my son not to conform but to be himself….ish happens..get yo butt up and start again

By kinderbabe

July 16, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this

good morning everyone!! hope your weekend was great.:)

i think one of the reasons people are attracted to the bad boy/bad girl b/c of their beliefs about love. a lot of folks have bought into the “love is pain” theory. if you’re dating some inconsiderate, bad girl/boy a-hole, that’s just what you’ll get…pain, stress, drama and lots of it, lol. i would much rather deal w/someone who’s considerate, not a pushover, but genuinely sweet. every man that’s nice isn’t wimpy. if i’m looking for a challenge, i will go to playdate and play a couple rounds of chess, hungry hungry hippo, etc….lol. an emotionally available man is NOT a challenge. i get plenty of exercise at the gym and don’t want any more chasing somebody…lol.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 9:50 AM | Link to this

Hey ABC

Okay , i’ve dated a few Mr. Nice guys.. well that how they aappeared to be in the beginning. Long story short they ended up being some HAM’s (HOT AZZ MESS)so again it take a while to know what you really are getting.

As for as white collar/ Blue Collar. I have dated both. There are cons/pro in both.

By Ladylike

July 16, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Blogmates

Ladies, do you like a challenge when it comes to dating guys? I do like a challenge but Mr. Participative & Available needs to show up for the relationship. I tried to work with a bad boy years ago, trust me, they just look good from afar.

Why do some people think nice is not sexy. Nice is not main stream. Sadly the images around don’t or very seldom are images of nice men treating women like ladies. The Hardcore image is ever popular now.*

What is your definition of a nice guy? A nice guy is patient, intelligent, introspective, not a push over, but is straight foward about what he believes in and stands his ground.

By crazydiamond

July 16, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this

Hello again WLB and the MLB. I had a crazy week last week and will be off the rest of this week, so I will only be chiming in today. Nice guys on the subject today, well here I am.

Raqi I think you are dead on accurate that many women percieve nice as weak.

I think what many women fail to realize is that sometimes the men that act like the bad boy act this way because they are insecure in parts of their lives.

By cemeeli

July 16, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this

Keep it real…. Women like bad boys because we sometimes want the drama! Nice guys think that it’s about his being very sensitive to her but if you are ‘too sensitive’ then women tend to lean the other way. Maybe it the security issue, looking for a bit more masculinity or it could be just some women are confused about what they want and they like the idea of a bad boy to ‘show’ them what they want. Guys IMO date the good grl first…then crush her….go to the bad girl, get crushed…and then try and date a good girl and still dunno how to treat her… get caught trying to creep with the bad girl and lose again! See there agian that ‘confused species’. ;-)

By SeanJohnson3000

July 16, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this

@ Sexione…kinda dangerous being a bady girl these days…they turn up missing or a dude puts a “bullet” in her…and not kind makes u cum…the kind that makes u go…lol..

@ kb…to add to your love in pain theory…women like drama in the relationship..ex..my man is crazy…my man got girls calling his cell…my man on the run from the feds…women gotta have somethng juicy to tell their friends about the relationship…if things are good…they think its boring…lol..yall have a need to relate to keisha cole or mary j

By kinderbabe

July 16, 2007 9:59 AM | Link to this

on w/u MsU on the HAM’s lol. i gotta use that one.:) it does take a while to know what you’re getting. there are a lot of “representatives” out there as chris rock said, lmao.

hey SJ:)

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 9:59 AM | Link to this

SJ You know i love ya o!!LOL Hey Kinderbabe GA Man What a wonderful post. Sexione It does seem one-sided.. I have heard guys say oh she is nice and sweet but she is not agrresive

By Gorilla O aka "Tha Code Cracka"

July 16, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this

women love men with a backbone. and regardless of if they’ll admit or not, they love a man that can “put them in their place”. and they get that out of a thug. its hard for them to find a man that has a good balance (fortunately i do). when i say a good balance i mean one who can be nice, thoughtful, sensitive to your needs, good in bed, and when you try him the wrong way, can drop his nuts and handle the situation, speaks his mind and doesnt mind telling you about yourself. because we all know women like to try men to see how much they can get away with.

and i also feel a woman will meet a thug and will see “potential” in him and feel she can change him…havent figured that one out yet.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 16, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone

Why do men think women only want the bad guys? A guy will look for any excuse to explain why we’re NOT attracted to him. LOL

Ladies, do you like a challenge when it comes to dating guys? Absolutely not, I’m a grown azz woman who don’t need to play these games. I need someone who will stimulate me intellectually and socially and that I can freely give my love to…. not make it difficult to love him. There are so many obstacles that we face outside the home, can my man be a source of peace and happiness please???

What is your definition of a nice guy or girl, anyway? A nice guy is someone who is considerate..not only of my feelings, but of others as well. A nice guy is selfless…but only to a point. He knows how to take care of himself as well as his loved ones. A nice guy is someone who has a strong foundation of what is right and wrong…and lives by it!

By BlueMoon

July 16, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this

Well, coming from a guy who is identified as the nice guy…

even though men are the ones that are deemed to be shallow and only worried about looks women are AT LEAST just as bad on that front. The bad boys appeal to them for that reason and it makes them feel enboldened.

The problem with that is this, it comes down to the old “don’t judge a book by it’s cover” mantra. I come across as a boy scout at first because I know how to treat people. BUT, I’m also a former professional baseball player so I’ve seen my share of, well, just about everything. I’ve been known to double the speed limit on major interstates (in cars and on bikes), take 40 mile hikes through some unreal national forests, and those are just a few of the things that have been a part of my life. I just don’t have to show it off at first meeting to make myself into something I’m not. The good stuff comes later and I mean the really good stuff. Cocky/arrogant guys generally have short mans disease (height or otherwise) women just aren’t insightful enough when it comes to guys to figure that out.

As for guys looking for women who are “vixens”….

Well, they are either just looking for a score (not looking for a serious relationship at all) or again, short mans disease. They think they have to put up with it. No REAL man ever would.

By crazydiamond

July 16, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this

Sexione

I will give you my answer. I personally don’t want the bad girl that I can tell is bad before I get to know her. I like the Nice girl who likes to play bad, meaning just for me. The bad girl might be fun for a weekend, but in the end, she isn’t what I want in my life. It can be fun for a minute, but in the end, it ends up feeling empty. In my twenties, yeah it made things interesting, but the more I become interested in the total package and not just the wrapping, then the more I become disinterested in the bad girl.

By T-Mango

July 16, 2007 10:06 AM | Link to this

@MsU…mail call.

By Gorilla O aka "Tha Code Cracka"

July 16, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

@ MS U

could you please elaborate on the pros/cons of dating blue/white collar. i would just like to know if its not too much trouble.

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this

Sexi A dude will date a “Bad Girl” because the red snappa is HOT FYRE!!! LOLOLOLOLOL….Honestly, that’s why a dude puts up with a bad girl. She puts it down in the bedroom and er’time he thinks about leaving she rolls his eyes back and it’s a wrap. hahahahahahaha

Dude: Baby I’m leaving you.

Chick: Oh really!?!?

15 minutes later

Dude: Girlllll, I’on’even’know why I be trippin like that!

By BlueMoon

July 16, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this

Being a guy that’s generally considered the “nice” guy…

let me just say this, Kindness does not equal weakness. If a woman wants a real man, she’ll get herself a real man. If she wants show, she’ll get herself a cocky, arrogant nobody with short mans disease (height or otherwise) because 95% of bad boys are just wannabe’s anyway.

It’s basically the same thing with guys chasing “vixens”. They are either looking for a score becuase they don’t want anything serious or (note above) they have short mans disease and think they have to put up with it. No REAL man would ever put up with the crap that a supposed “vixen” dishes out because we know we don’t have to.

The best thing women can do is get a little under the surface. I don’t have a bad cover at all, but I’m an even better read. All real men are.

By crazydiamond

July 16, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

Co-Sign Blue Moon

I couldn’t have said it better.

*I just don’t have to show it off at first meeting to make myself into something I’m not. *

read it again people, this bares repeating

By G

July 16, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this

@Kinderbabe: Playdate is a fun event. A woman is less likely to find a “bad boy” (in the traditional sense) at one of those events. I tend to make those on the regular. If I don’t make a connection, I at least have the chance to get in a good game of dominoes or pacman.

Bad girls? It all depends on who/what you define as a bad girl. It’s really not that far removed from bad boys. Bad girls can be found from the church to the street. They come in Ps also (prostitutes, players, professionals, and pushovers). I think guys take the bad rap for choosing/or even approaching “hoochie-types” over a more conservative chick. What can I say? A fine woman looks good in whatever she wears. However, the more mature men become, we tend to seek for additional things she brings to the table.

How many bad boys/girls do we have to go through before we run out?

By Cinderella

July 16, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

Ya’ll ever notice how those romance novels start off with the virginal woman and the bad boy pirate that cant stand each other, at first, then halfway into the book they’re getting it on and all in love then something happens and they’re back apart but somehow it works out in the end, happily ever after, into the sunsent? I think alot of people buy into that fantasy that they can reform a “bad guy” and once he’s reformed he would be the ultimate partner. He’s rugged, passionate, will defend you, but that’s all it is….fantasy and drama. Passion and excitment can be found with the nice person.

If people would put as much effort into good relationships as they do into bad ones their would be alot more happier relationships/marriages and a lot less divorce.

By Raqi

July 16, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

The line really isn’t that thin, it’s the warped view that many have that throws the entire thing out of whack.

I was raised by a nice guy. A man that was generally quiet but ruled his house. He didn’t have to be loud and demanding to get the respect that he deserved as a man, husband and father. He just handled his business in his own quiet nice way and the respect came…naturally. And guess what, people didn’t try to run over him because they knew he wouldn’t let them.

See that’s what I like living with now in my house. I don’t need all the added drama. I get enough of that raising two boys. I like living in peace and harmony. Every day is not Sunday but it is good overall.

And to say that a nice guy is not a challenge is just misleading.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

July 16, 2007 10:18 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Blog

I had that same issue this weekend with a friend of mine’s daughter. She is dating a loser and has this great guy looking at her and wanting to be with her since high school (both older now, she’s in her last year of college). And when I asked her about dude she was like “he’s too nice”. I’m like WTF!!???!!! What is too nice? I’ve been dreaming about “too nice” since I left “too evil”!!

I tell you, some people truly have a weird perception of a good relationship and what makes a good mate.

By MusingLee (not shortman, just saying)

July 16, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this

Blue Moon the blog does contain short men….One in particular doesn’t like people talking badly about short folks…You’ve been warned…hahahahahahahaha

Blue Moon awakening to 15 short dudes in gold speedos, tying him to the bed like in Gullivers Travels

By kinderbabe

July 16, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

SJ i agree that there are a lot of people who do get a kick out of negative excitement. personally, i don’t think it’s cute to have all that drama. what’s the point? when it comes down to it, who you keep around in your dating circle is a reflection of what you think about yourself.

MsU i must have been sleep when i typed that last post…lol. i meant to say “i’m w/u…”” lol sorry about that:)

By Sexione

July 16, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this

good points G

BlueMoon you are sooo right! and quite funny……95% of bad boys are just wannabes anyway! How old are you? sounding all mature and whatnot lol

Musing yep, so true, that will turn y’all around every time……..knuckleheads hehehehe

SJ sounds like you’re describing the very young, immature females. Real women don’t get down like that……..my man this and my man that That is top secret info, you don’t share that kinda info…..at least not in my world.

By kinderbabe

July 16, 2007 10:27 AM | Link to this

G playdate is a fun event.:) i’ve been several times and had a ball. i love the selection of games they have. you’re right, there are a lot of nice people there too. good guys and good women looking to get out onto a different scene. i missed the one this past weekend. did you go?

By The Truth

July 16, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

Good morning blogsville. Had a late night and just now dragging into the office. Fresh flowers with balloons for the WLB and and a shot of tequilla for the MLB.

Hey MSU, I got it. Thank you. I want that pretty smile. LOL

Musin 100% cosign bruh.

I guess my vision of a bad boy/girl is different. I don’t know about the azzhole part but when you first meet someone and your getting to know them and you correct them (for women at least) it seems to turn them on. I can’t wait for that moment. If the chick liked you before she gets gaga. Women to me are alot like kids, they like structure (JMHO WLB) and if they care for you they want you to give it to them. This thing is about gears. Life requires alot gears. There are times to be nice, have fun, enjoy, and there are times to get your message across. If your girl has more gears than you then she controls the relationship because you can’t keep up. I think men can aquire gears through exposure, doing things that expand your beliefs, gaining confidence, living life to its fullest. This gives you a better perspective on life and makes routine, day to day decisions alot easier.

NOTE: The Truth will not be responding to any posts from QC or MO because promised packages were not in the mailbox. Let it be written, let it be law.

Crazy most women know the difference between an insecure guy and a confident one. Its hard to fake the funk for a long time.

By T-Mango

July 16, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

On the blue collar man versus the white collar man…

Whether he is a doctor, lawyer, construction worker, or an auto technician that is his job. That is what he as a man does as a profession and not who he is. Regardless of his profession, the content of his character is what matters…I think you have to look at the individual and evaluate the pros & cons of dealing with that specific person. Some people have stereotyped the white collar vs. the blue collar man. Moreover, there are women that think that dating a blue collar man is dating down.

I don’t think whether a man is blue or white color is a reflection of the type of man that he is. There are good guys, as well as, azzes that work in every profession. Just my .02.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

Just by reading all the post. I noticed that we all have our own definition of nice/bad —guy/girl. I don’t believe anyone on this blog want someone who will treat tem like ish. Of course some of us relate to one another post because of life experience in the field of dating. We all want what we want. Yep i said it!!

By Happy in Conyers

July 16, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

Nice is one thing. Spineless, OEDIPUS complex jellyfish is another! It also depends on what you consider to be a “Bad Boy”. I have always like what we called back in the day “Ruff Neck or Hood Boy”. I got one. I married a Hood Boy who is God fearing, respectful of women, hard working, affectionate and NICE. But takes no crap. His mother raised him well.

You can have both.

By Demi

July 16, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

Cocky/arrogant guys generally have short mans disease (height or otherwise) women just aren’t insightful enough when it comes to guys to figure that out.

I agree.

Good Morning to All

By Blatino aka BMW aka BLT

July 16, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this

Morning, Blog!!! * …. now taking Slim off my myspace friends for not sayin hey to the Blat this morning… JK*

BlueMoon, that’s some deep ish you spittin, bruh. I’ll take CrazyD’s co-sign n raise that to a full blown MLB seal of approval.

Ok, I got a different spin on BlueMoon’s post…. Sometimes also, your “nice guy” ain’t so nice. A lot of us former true Nice Guys have slowly been transformed, so that we still know how to play the role, but we’ll play it with you and several other women at one time.

By C tha 1

July 16, 2007 10:43 AM | Link to this

Slim of course I have my set of issues as everyone on the blog, but bitterness towards women … naah. Why do you ask?

By Staceye

July 16, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

SlimOne I agree with you on the Flava-Girls…the swagger is what captures a woman’s attention first. It’s almost hypnotizing. You are pulled into him even though you know he is no good or only out for one thing. As for as the Renaissace Man of that episode..perhaps if they found one that was more attractive then someone would have chosen him. Honestly my first choice based off the physical would have been the guy that Leilene was with the whole night…but instincts would have told me the quiet and kept one was the right one. They do not have to put it all out there and that is how they find the woman that is interested in them for reasons that are not unsavory. I must admit I love a good boy…with Bad Boy Tendencies! It’s a turn on! I am definitely a Good Girl with Bad Girl tendencies so that is why I look for that a in guy. But I can’t seem to find that balance….it’s always too much Bad Boy. But I have to say I enjoy the ride…but I hate the fall! OUCH!!!! Now I’ve got scars!

By QC

July 16, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

Hey TMango, Lady J, Crazy D, Raqi, Mochalatte have a great day!

QC’s in lurkesville

By cemeeli

July 16, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

Blue moon im w/u as i mentioned in my earlier post. Women that choose the bad boy could very well be confused. In addition to dating a ‘wanna be’. BUT OH!!! this happens so often that it’s crzy. Bad boy meets good girl and crush her with his short man syndrome. She realizes this fool is crzy and all i was trying to do was be nice. HELLO - date a nice guy chick!!!

WOW all this time i thought guys dated bad girls because they liked domineering attitudes and they thought i need to stay here b/c she just may do something crazy. Interesting to know it’s SMS.

By Stace

July 16, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this

I’m married to a somewhat reformed bad boy so I can tell you what attracted me to him. His self confidence. He knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to speak up about it…he lets me speak my mind and doesn’t run when I do. He is brassy and rough on the exterior and covered in tattoos and anyone seeing him would think he just got out of prison (and he has been there too). But I think that his past experiences have made him the man he is and he is great to me..he works hard, he takes care of me, I feel secure for the first time in my life, and he has manners-which I credit his mom for. He holds open doors for me, I haven’t carried my own groceries in the 2 years that I have been with him, he treats me like a princess….this is my 2nd marriage and my “nice guy” white collar professional that everyone loved and thought was so great was a self centered, spoiled mama’s boy that didn’t think my opinions mattered since he was paying the bills…and I don’t once remember him holding a door for me…sure my bad boy blares loud music and has some rude manners at times, but it is for better or worse…he is rough around the edges which is always a draw to women…you are liars if you say it isn’t. I think tho he has had a rowdy past, we always grow as individuals and he will mellow as time goes on…or if he doesn’t..I can take it cause the trade-off for being treated the way I am is worth putting up with rowdiness once in a while. and By the way…everyone thinks I am a nice sweet innocent girl too…and maybe I am…but not all the time since he is 26 and I am 42!

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

@Gorilla O You ASK! This is my dating experience with white/blue collar.. White Collar- Pros Knows how to treat ladies & intelligent Conssometimes to caught up in themselves(they measure their worth by what they got).. Blue Collar— Pros Fun and knows hot to treat a woman.. Down to earth..Has a lot skills in How to fix.. Cons sometime to ghetto..

It doesn’t matter if you are blue/white i would date either as long as we are compatible

By Demi

July 16, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

Musin the MoonBat(LOL) is cool I feel the same way about some of these dude walking around…tall or short, those dude have issues

By Staceye

July 16, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

T-Mango…I am not mad at a blue collar man! He can fix our cars, build our house, etc…at least he has a good job. It’s strange I only attract white collar men…but when a blue collar guy does approach me he always comments that I am not what he expected. I was told I have a mean look like I am unapproachable, whatever that means. So my question to you is do Blue collar men have a different type of esteem than that of a white collar man?

By Gorilla O aka "Tha Code Cracka"

July 16, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

@ MsU

its crazy but a lot of women do want a man to treat them like ish. it makes them feel loved.

the topic of blue vs white collar

ive said it before and ill say it again, women are just too damn superficial. they want a white collar worker who makes a ton of money and has met 3 out of his 4 life goals. then you ask them what they do and they’re an office manager (cute title for secretary) with bad credit…WHAT PART OF THE GAME IS THAT!!!

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 16, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

there are women that think that dating a blue collar man is dating down well said. Most people judge a man by his profession. I’ve had friends who say they will never date a man outside of the coporate office. Blue collar guys are considered under- educated and have a lack of mannerism-non sophisticated. They are considered the bad boy type b/c they don’t wear a shirt and a tie. I’ve dated blue collar men and have never encountered any “bad boy”” mannerism, for me it’s been quite the opposite they’ve displayed far more nicness than the so called white collar guys.

Hey Slim1,Sex1, Musing, Truth, SJ and errbody else.

By Bre

July 16, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

This will sound like one of those I saw the light comments. But I was for a very long time the Bad Girl to guys. The one common thing they all said was it was never boring with me, that it was always a certain edge to me. I would say it straight from the hip matter of fact, did what I wanted too behind closed doors, and walked with much attitude. Fire always draws heat but be careful it can burn you. I can say I was attracted at those times to “bad boys” the ones that could give right back to me, the ballers, the corporate hustlers, men that other men were afraid of…etc.

Ok now roll the clock 13 years later and its the total opposite for me. I’ve matured and let most of that stuff go and turned into a more grounded sit back and chill person. And believe it or not at the end of the day that’s who I am attracted to now. I like that neither of us club(anymore), we enjoy weekends in or just browsing Best Buy for new gadgets. I never imagined growing older in wisdom and self knowledge would be so eye opening. So what you think you might like in your 20’s might just turn to be so different in your 30’s and 40’s. Then again I know some people that have never changed there stripes in what they like even at age 41.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 16, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this

Truth sorry about not sending said photo. It was not a good weekend for Mo and its not a good Monday so far either. I’ll get it to you…just got a lot going on.

QCF I see that Truth is trying to throw a tantrum on us!

Hey Kinderbabe, MochaTreat, Sexione, Raqi, T-Mango, MsU, Lady J, SJ3000, Foots and Demi

On topic: for me the bad boy is only a temporary high. Its intriguing at first then the novelty wears off and you have someone that you feel is just immature and gets on your last nerve. You have vey little if anything in common and then you wonder “what did I see in you”. JMHO, I know everyone has had their own experience.

By For Real

July 16, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this

For Real walking thru the blog cafe in slow motion explosing his swagga to all of the ladies of the WLB and then the Alli kicks in

On topic: Women don’t know what they want thus reason for all these various definitions of nice guy and bad boy.

I am not sure what a bad girl is. Wise can you define bad girl for and then fix me a sandwich and find my blue shirt while you are at it.

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 10:59 AM | Link to this

Stace Just admit, you like the way that young dude is “buttering the hotdog bun”…LOLOLOLOL….Thinking you all in love and ishh…LOLOLOLOLOL….j/k

Good for you girl.

By Staceye

July 16, 2007 10:59 AM | Link to this

Stace I think people are going to think we are the same person if they are not reading carefully!!! Anyway…my dad is a reformed bad boy. My mom tamed him and he loves it. He takes good care of her..and me when I need it. She is older than him by 10 years….so best of luck to you Stace!

By SeanJohnson3000

July 16, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

@ Slim and Staceye…i saw that episode of Charm School…and to me it wasnt about the swagger of the men there…in all honesty..i look at it as the quality and type of women on the show played a big part of how they chose who they thought the renaissance man was..and if they even knew what a renaissance man is…they made their choices based on personal preference of looks imo…

By crazydiamond

July 16, 2007 11:02 AM | Link to this

truth

I’ll take a double shot if you make it Patron…hold the lime, hold the salt and no I don’t need a chaser

By Awwww...dayum

July 16, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

Women to me are a lot like kids WTF???????? Women want security, yes, but does that make them like kids? Hellz no!!! Kids don’t want or like structure, the need structure!

SJ beng a bad girl does not get them killed……those are usually the good girls that end up with psychotic dudes. The bad girls are the ones running around letting you think you da man, and all the while she’s getting her fixes all over town (and not just with you). The good girls are the ones trying to leave and get killed. Just sayin…….

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

Blat Oh boy, I’m soooo sorry honey. Slim now giving Blat a 20 second shoulder massage and a peck on the neck to show just how sorry she is.

C tha 1 I asked because often times your post come off in a voice that seems to put men in a superior position as women. Of course that is all in my interpretation but was just curious. So do you not believe men are just a guilty of not being able to truly decipher a female’s true character? Anyhoo, if i’m totally off base, my apologies.

Staceye I agree about them having a more attractive ‘nice-guy’. I’m curious to see what kind of change the outcome may have been had they chosen a more physically asthetic man. “Swagger” or confidence or whatever term you want to put on it, does have more of a bearing on the initial attraction to a person. However, that isn’t going to carry the relationship or dating period for long unless you’re extremely superficial.

Personally, physical attributes only attract me for a very short period of time. After that, I’m more interested in personality. Ladies are you all too ashamed to admit you ever dealing with that super nice guy with killer personality that wasn’t that so great looking? You know the one you only tell your closest girlfriend about but never bring him around to functions…. LOL

By SexyLeggs

July 16, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

Good morning. I have a lot to read.

By Ladylike

July 16, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this

It does not matter if the guy is a white collar or blue collar worker, if he’s going to be a bum, then he’s just a bum. Stereotypes is what further drives us men/women towards the wrong characteristics. All men I meet including the nice guys have some rough edges about them, they come with challenges. A man could have been hurt in past relationships or grown up in a broken home, that to can contribute to him having some challenges in relationships, as far as guarding himself. But he’s still a nice guy willing to participate and be available in a real relationship.

By crazydiamond

July 16, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

I didn’t have any time to post last week, but I think i remember someone saying something on Monday, i think, about me playing the mandolin. I can’t remember who it was, but figured I would ask and it is too late to look it up…

By For Real

July 16, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

For Real now sewing a blue and white collar on all his shirts. That will show em.

By Demi

July 16, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this

A lot of us former true Nice Guys have slowly been transformed, so that we still know how to play the role, but we’ll play it with you and several other women at one time.

You Dayum Right!! LOL

Sup B!!!

By Sexione

July 16, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this

ForReal what you smoking this morning? lmsao Women don’t know what they want thus reason for all these various definitions of nice guy and bad boy.I am not sure what a bad girl is. Hello Mr. Pot, this is Mr. Kettle..lmsao

Bre thats usually how it goes………good for you…getting all older and wiser!

MsU very good points!

perhaps if they found one that was more attractive then someone would have chosen him. Darned good point Staceye!! I don’t care how nice or bad you are, unattractive is unattractive. But I do believe there is someone who will be attracted and think he/she is beautiful! The trick is in finding that person.

By The Truth

July 16, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

Its not about being bad its about being a man of your word. I saw a pimp show and one spoke the truth. He said if you tell a chick your gonna kill her azz if she does something and she does it, you gotta beat her to within a breath of their life. While thats extreme the principle apllies. If you tell a woman something and she tests you there’s a consequence. No matter what you have to go thru she has to know that is not allowed. If you do allow it, after you’ve said no, you have just handed over the reins to the woman. You should now be happy being the biotch you are. Some of these cats out here just haven’t gotten in touch with the fact that life throws alot of things at you and if you sit there and take it nobody respects you, including yourself. A bad guy is simply someone that can hand it out as well as take it.

Golden Rule: Domination creates submission and submission creates domination.

Also, what is emotionally unavailable? I’ve heard that term and it sounds like it applies to me. LMAO

By Lady J

July 16, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

Hello Good People!!! Great topic with great comments…I am taking notes!:)

Enjoy your day!

By cemeeli

July 16, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this

This right here…this righ here…this righ here…is some crzy stuff. Why on earth would a good guy not show his REAL-ness from jump!!! As much as guys say …baby i like to keep it real…This is what psss me off!!! I can’t remember who post the comment. But i call that dude/guy a punk!!! come ‘on…so instead of being real…you show us that you Dude/Male/Man/Nice Guy are TRYING to be a ‘bad boy’. urrggghhh if i ain’t never seen a … that has to be the fakest…whoa. That dude!!

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

Musing you like the way that young dude is “buttering the hotdog bun You know that was the first thing I thought when I read the age difference. Why do we automatically assume that in cases where the women is older than that guy?

Blog Men I would like to know what category you would consider yourselves to be in, Bad Boy, Good Boy, Bad boy exterior Good Boy interior, vice versa, or Just plain crazy

By Foots

July 16, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

SJ3G yall have a need to relate to keisha cole or mary j

Not me, man! I want to relate to Stephanie Mills: “I Need the Comfort of a MAN” who can make me “Feel Good All Over”. And for that matter, when I get “Home”, I want to “FEEL THE FIRE” cause there’s “Something in the Way He Makes Me Feel”!!! LOL!!

Hey Mo. What’s up QC, LDD, kinderbabe? Where’s Lady J?

By BlueMoon

July 16, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

Sorry Musing Lee- I was just using the term as a general reference. It’s usually the other “short” that gets most guys anyway. LOL :)

Sexione - that would be 35. So the tires have a little tread, they’re just not worn out.

By For Real

July 16, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this

All these labels and titles that are given out are very subjective. What is Bad Boy to one lady will be a Nice Guy to another lady. Who hellz knows??? I have been called a Bad Boy and a Nice Guy. It’s all up to the person you are dating.

Sexi go help Wise find my blue shirt and bring me some Fruitloops back.

By Foots

July 16, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this

Lady J Girl, I was just looking for you!! LOL!!

LMAO @ 4Real and all his collars!

By SeanJohnson3000

July 16, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this

@Slim…regular dude…no more ..no less…more blue collar than anything else

By Lady J

July 16, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this

Here I am FOOTS…

By abc

July 16, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

Actually, the Golden Rule is ‘Do unto others as you would have them do unto you’. Kinda sounds like ‘What goes around comes around’ to me. Treat people badly, get treated badly by people.

The whole concept of a supposed preference for somewhat anti-social males and manipulative, slutty females is more than a little weird, to me. Bad behavior equates to lack of boredom? I think I’d rather be bored.

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

if you tell a chick your gonna kill her azz if she does something and she does it, you gotta beat her to within a breath of their life.

Truth, while this is extreme…I’m gonna have to cosign…If you tell a chick “I can’t deal with BLANK, so don’t pull that ishh with me” and she does it…You have to stand on your word and do your thing…Cause she’s gonna keep trying you…(Real Example) I don’t like braids, it doesn’t matter who does them, how much they cost, what they look like…My SO knows this, she keeps asking “What if I get braids, I bet you like them then?!?”…Er’time she brings it up she gets the same response from me “Hellz Naw, I hate braids..I don’t care what you say they will look like”…How about she’s been talking about braids for nearly 2 years and she has yet to set foot into the house with the them…That’s cause she knows I’m dead’azz serious about not liking braids.

By For Real

July 16, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

Slim Like I said how can we know what type a man we are when no matter what you do a woman will label you base upon her feelings. Again, what is a bad boy or a nice guy?

By Ladylike

July 16, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this

You are right Truth your post do sound like you are emotionally unavailable, and non participative.hahaha,LOL And there is a way to make yourself clear without all that consequences to your action stuff, as if you raising children, WTH! Some woman you are dealing with needs to tell you that she’s grown and you are not in charge. But it sounds like all the women you date are not adults.

And stop that Golden Rule bs, you not at the jailhouse keeping cell prisoners. gosh

By SexyLeggs

July 16, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this

Too mean, nice is very sexy. Nice is showing concern, care and appreciation for your mate. Nice does not and never has in my book equated to being wimpy. Wimpy simply means “you’re a punk.” Bad boys can be sexy to a point, if he can use his brain as well as his brawn. Not many can do both.

Hey Melo I was @Bell Bottoms and had a ball. I even went and danced in the cage. What happened to you?

By Staceye

July 16, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this

SlimOne I too have had an “Only Behind Closed Doors Man”. Except I wanted to be in public so he would not try anything physical with me! He was not cute at all but he treated me like a princess…opened doors, gave me his Black Card, attended my pageants in and out of the U.S…..just a nice guy. But my God, when the time came to get physical…I almost barfed! So physical, whether we care to admit it, is number one. We are not going to approach the ugliest guy because we think he’s nice. We go for the fine one and pray he is nice. The personality is what makes us stay…but the physical is what lures us there in the first place.

By For Real

July 16, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

Musing’s SO: Hey bunny bear. I was thinking about getting me some braids.

Musing: If I raise up there is going to be trouble, trouble…

MSO: But they will

Musing: trouble, trouble, trouble

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

Slim at 46 dating a 26 year old dude…That Woman has bragging rights over any of her girls…At 26 dude should be able to “Karate Chop” the p-diddy and her girls know she’s getting it worked out.

By cemeeli

July 16, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

@ 4real…Fruitloops??? u are not 12? That was the ‘it’ back in tha day for real. A bowl of fruitloops and a side of who change the channel from Judge Mathis…

looking for the remote barely raising your head from the sofa.

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 11:38 AM | Link to this

SJ3000 Boxers, boxer briefs or tighty whities?

Foots I loved your montage. lol

Musing So if she comes home that day rocking a head full of braids, what are you going to do?

For Real No need to answer. I already know you’re just plain crazy. LOL By the way, it’s time for your meds.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this

Hello to everybody that chime in after 10am. @ Forreal you and your collars.. too funny Musing Hmmm i am wondering if i’ve met you and your girl at the beauty suupply store. About 2 weeks ago i went in to get some beads for my daughter hair and it was this dude going off on his girl because she wanted to but some fake hair. I was trying to act like i was not listening but hell he was so loud i couldn’t help but listen and look. Was that you??

By NCGirlfromATL vacationing

July 16, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this

SJ Stop dodging the question, mayne! We wanna know…good boy, bad boy, wolf in sheep’s clothing? LOL! There is no such thing as a regular dude these days.

Oh, and morning all…including Blatino who is deleting folks from myspace and stuff! Dang, Cletus! LOL!

Slim good lookin’ out on the breakfast! It was good! Not Biscuitville good, but it’ll do in a pinch!

I admit to having bad boy-itis. I like to think I’m reformed, or at least savvy enough to recognize one when I see him and act accordingly.

By Bre

July 16, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

Hey Demi I hope that things are going very good for you Demi I really do.

Sexione I’m trying and praying(sometimes) that I’m being a better person. Relationships are hard, but you have to know when to let one thing go and another one grow. Women are the intuition of a relationship and the more you learn to listen to it the better you are too yourself and the person you are with or the one you are learning yourself to be with in the future.

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

For Real You are gonna get a bill for making me spit cola on my pants….You are stoopid Man…dayummm..LOLOLOL

Musing now wiping the soda stains off of his red crushed velvet pimp suit pants…laying his cape and Paris Hilton sunglasses off to the side allowing his finger waves to breath…pimp hand weighing about 50lbs

By Demi

July 16, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

Stace a blog rose to you sweetie…Mature ladies like yourselves keep me from getting my dumb a$$ killed, I was self destructive lika M/Fer…LOL

Sometimes I wake up thinking: Dayum, I am still alive.

LOL

By Sexione

July 16, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

cemeeli But i call that dude/guy a punk!!! come ‘on…so instead of being real…you show us that you Dude/Male/Man/Nice Guy are TRYING to be a ‘bad boy’. Yea, that is funny and ridiculous!! But what about this one……Basically, what women say and do tend to be completely different things. AND A lot of us former true Nice Guys have slowly been transformed, so that we still know how to play the role, but we’ll play it with you and several other women at one time. WTF???

Slim I have been there, and done that. I have dated the not so attractive (dayumed near ugly) guy with a great attitude and the extremely attractive with the good attitude. I’ve never just gone for an azzhole (no matter what he looked like), cause that never appealed to me. I’ve done the bad boy that could handle his own and knew how to treat a lady, and the alleged straight-laced dude that never did bad things (or so he wanted people to think). I say all this to say, an azzhole will be an azzhole, no matter what image he tries to project. I’ve met good and bad, both in nice looking and not so nice looking packages. I know what I want, and it has to be a combo………nice looking and knows how to treat me! Now my nice looking will vary from some others nice looking, but I am a firm believer that without physical attraction, there is no starting point………..then he has to have the other gentleman-like qualities…….that is the combo pack. My .02!

By "Longtime Lurker"

July 16, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this

What it do folks?

As usual, I have to give it to you direct, with no chaser on this issue!

Not to bash the women, I will start off with the men…

The majority of men who seek and date the vixen types do it because it strokes their ego and it makes them feel better about themselves to be seen, wanted and loved (supposedly) by these types of chicks. There is no longtime in this picture, it is usually a situation where both people are using each other for specific purposes, for a specific timeframe!

On the topic of women, I am convinced that the majority of single females in the world do not truly know what they want in a man, because they do not truly know themselves enough to know what compliments them, so they go through the “baller” to “badboy” to “mr. professional” to “nice guy” to “mr. if you are breathing, I want you”

In today’s society, the thought of having “Mr. Right” is defined by material, success, education and security, not being nice!

Security is the number one thing that women look for in a man, so being nice will often get you put in the “FZ” or as a guidance counselor, when mr. badboy screws her over!

In today’s society, in most cases nice men finish last, so now it is harder now to find one for most women, because many men know that they can not come out the gate being santa claus and expect a decent result in the end.

It is sad that it is like this, but it is reality! Most men want to be that nice guy and give the girl the world, but it is not respected until that woman respects herself to give that nice guy a chance to truly show her who he really is, which in most cases never happens, because she is too impatient, thinking that that man does not exist!

Negativity dealing with men and especially black men sells 15-1 vs. the positive and that is what many women buy into!

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

So if she comes home that day rocking a head full of braids, what are you going to do?

Slim If she comes home with them, I’m gonna do what I’ve always done.

SO: Baby, how you like my braids?!?!

Musing: It looks like your scalp ishh-ed on itself.

Musing face now blasted over Fox5 tv as a missing person

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 11:51 AM | Link to this

Staceye You have me cracking up gurl! lol

By cemeeli

July 16, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

MusingLee um pimpin’…why are you wearing a red crushed velvet suit in JULY, in GA? for reals…

By Sexione

July 16, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

Y’all are craaazzzyyy!!! But I’m sure we already knew that!! lmsao

ForReal I got yo Fruit Loops!! lol

abc yes, you are right on!! Do unto others………you get what you give!

BlueMoon Okay, you’re just getting there. At 38 (and looking 25) I’m aging like a fine wine! hehehehe And the really fun thing is that I haven’t even hit my prime yet.

By For Real

July 16, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

Slim Naw I’m not crazy a person I just play one on TV. lol… I think I am a regular dude that can fit in no matter the place or the people.

cemeeli Just like on Coming to America huh… But you ain’t ever too old for some FruitLoops or my favorite AppleJacks. And yeah I know they don’t taste like apples.

Musing Oh hellz naw. I can’t afford to clean that much velvet.

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this

MsU Nope that wasn’t me…I don’t get loud at all. I just “look” and she can read my face…I call it my “Oh hellz naw you ain’t” face…LOLOLOL

cemeeli it’s actually a crushed velvet short set, with short sleeve velvet jacket and knee high white socks…Kind’of like a pimp version of a Spanish bullfighter.

By TRAVIS SMITH

July 16, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this

TRAVIS SMITH says Hi to the room!!! Very interesting Blog going on today!!! I think women want a THUG/BLUE COLLAR to lay it down in the bed!!! and they want a NICE GUY/WHITE COLLAR to take to they momma house!!!!

By cemeeli

July 16, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this

@Sexione see is these dude-fronts are playing games. That’s why women keep it real with the nice guys and the a-hole or bad boy end up losing in the end.

I know what i want!!! But it is informative to entertain both the bad boy and nice guy just to see why you don’t want man x or man z. Just my thoughts wont cost u nothing.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 12:04 PM | Link to this

@LL Hey I miss u honey!! . Okay i got that over with. Now after reading what you said about women —get real you won’t even consider dating a woman with more than one kid so what kind of conclusion can we draw from you?huh?

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

NewsAnchorSlimOne We interrupt your regularly scheduled program for this breaking news story. A man that appears to be a broke down pimp was found today near little five points. The oddity of this story is he was found bound, gagged and tied to the back of a Marta bus with what appears to be snips of hair braids. He is now at Grady Hospital listed in critical condition due to a very bad allergic reaction to the synthetic weave. We’ll have more on this at 6. This is AnchorSlimOne reporting live from Blogsville Action News.

By For Real

July 16, 2007 12:06 PM | Link to this

Thanks Sexi now where is my shirt with the blue and white collar?

By T-Mango

July 16, 2007 12:06 PM | Link to this

So my question to you is do Blue collar men have a different type of esteem than that of a white collar man?

Stayceye I think esteem is an individual thing. It is not based on professional group. As the saying goes Everyone has a testimony. So, a person’s experiences are directly tied to their self-image and esteem. For example, I’ve met some white collar men that have pedigree and great jobs, but are insecure, arrogant and/or depressed. Yet, they are the ones who stereotypically are supposed to have it all based on profession. There are a number of reasons why people are the way they are…

Nevertheless, in the case of Black men, I will say this…it takes a strong man to develop & maintain his confidence, integrity, faith, focus and esteem while continuing to strive, survive & produce in a ethnocentric society that often views him as 3/4 of a man.

Like you, most of the men that I come in contact with are white collar because that’s who I work with and those are the men that are involved in the social activies/organizations that I am in. But, if I came in contact with a man that worked in a blue collar profession and we determined that our values/beliefs, wants/needs, outlook on life, vision, etc. were in sync then I’d welcome him. I always thought it was wrong to consider blue collar men a date down. They not only have the skills to “fix things”, but they protect us (ex: police officers, firefighters) and they are creative (ex: landscapers). Not to mention some of them build their own thriving businesses and provide services that we need.

I think what stops some of them from approaching some of us is that some of us may give the aire of being out of their league. However, I think a confident man (white or blue collar) will get past what he perceives on the the surface, and step to you to see what the real is if he’s interested in you. As my mother says “beauty is as beauty does.” Just my .02.

I’ll take my blog post citation now. How much is it this time? LOL

By Charles

July 16, 2007 12:06 PM | Link to this

While in grade school, we really had childish fun with our friend Shelton Johnson and several others during the physical education period. We would tell them to jump. They answered, how high? We insisted that they run. How fast, they replied. Some of us would use harsh words in their presence, and they would respond by crying.

A similar phenomenon was occurring with the girls. This natural social ordering is evident early in life. That’s how it was then and at this present hour.

When the physical education period had expired and classes resumed, our teacher Mrs. Yancey enthusiastically returned our papers. They had been graded during our hour at play. I am so proud of you all today, she said. Everyone did well on the test, especially Shelton. He should be commended for being one of the nicest and smartest students at W. Elementary and High School.

We looked at each other with a twinkle in our eyes and gasped, nice, smart! Obviously her definition of nice and smart differed from ours. Today, we are struggling with what is artificially contrived as nice, bad, and smart as apposed to the reality.

We can artificially alter the social order via education, employment, fame, status, etc. Yet, reality, and natural social ordering among individuals remains constant.

By Alvin

July 16, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this

SlimOne the girl I am dating now is 40. I just text her: DO YOU THINK THAT I AM JUST A NICE GUY…her reply: F/K NO!!…YOU ARE AN A*******HOLE/MEANNIE/HARDHEADED/JUSTDON’TGIVEADAMN…But you treat me like a QUEEN at all times, except for in the bedroom. And very respectful of others, until they cross you the wrong way. (you turn into the above)

I am like Awwwwwwwwwwwwww…Dayum, that’s cold!!!

By For Real

July 16, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this

This just in from Fox5 News. The body of Musing Lee was found at the intersection of what used to be Hightower and Bankhead road. Mr. Lee’s body had well over 1200 lacerations on it. It appears the weapon of choice was one single braid.

By "Longtime Lurker"

July 16, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this

@MsUnderstood aka MsU Children have nothing to do with the topic at hand!

My preference is just that, a preference! There are men out there, that will date women with more than one child, so that is what should be important to you!

I have no children,nor do I want to help support any at this point in my life!

I don’t knock single mothers,I love em and appreciate them, but it does not work for my program!

By Sexione

July 16, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this

cemeeli thanks for the free info, lol, and I agree, when you’ve seen both, it helps to make the picture clearer.

Travis kinda like a man wanting a lady in the street and a freak in the bed lmsao

Musing the pimp patrol has been looking for you. They say you’re wanted for stealing HuggyBears pimp suit! I am laughing waaayyy too loud in here whew!!

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 12:16 PM | Link to this

Slim I’m gonna send you the bill for my velvet jacket along with some “Yakky #5”…hahahahahaha

By C tha 1

July 16, 2007 12:16 PM | Link to this

Slim , I can see how I may come off as having a superior complex, trust me I don’t. Although I am confident in my own opinions, it is not to the point to where I cannot be reasoned with. I have my own perfect imperfections.

Of course men can ill perceive a woman’s character. I finally had to admit to myself that the exceptionately pretty women I’ve dated and even gorgeous women I am attracted to do some of the ugliest things. At 31 I can honestly laugh at it, and it is rather perplexing.

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this

For Real Boxers, boxer briefs or tighty whities?

By cemeeli

July 16, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this

Musinglee Dang you betta not be old dude from Oxford Street!

For real I dont’ know why the Jacks taste like sugar cane to me. But FL’s was whats up.

By Tazzee

July 16, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this

Afternoon Folks!

I commented on the nice guy issue with CrazyD a while back so I won’t reiterate all that. I will say that there are men that live for drama too. I have learned that if a guy was in a LTR with drama in the past, he is NOT the one for me. I dated a guy that needed me to get angry and yell before he realized that I actually ‘meant it’.

Then more recently this guy that’s going through a divorce from a drama queen was around me when I was simply hell on wheels concerning men. He just happened to be around when I was going off about this dude I was dating - I mean I had made it to Pure Witch mode. Next thing I know - he’s trying to holla. WTH!!! Well first of all, dude is not legally divorced so he gets no play. But second of all - I’m thinking that after my rant about men being stupid, relationships aren’t worth it, etc (yeah, I was in rare forme that night) - why would he try to date me? Conclusion - he is a drama king and I am not the one for him.

SJ3000 I thought about you this weekend - went to see Beyonce’ in San Antonio last night and thought about your comments last week. I don’t care what anyone says - Bey is the baddest one in the game right now. If she were in concert tomorrow I would pay to see her again.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

@T-mango ^5 on your last post.. I wanted to say that also in my earilier post but you sum it up well.Thanks for coming in and adding more. See Musing for your fee.LOL

By SexyLeggs

July 16, 2007 12:24 PM | Link to this

Slim1 your 12:05 post was funny as hell.

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 12:26 PM | Link to this

Alvin Dat shole iz coldblooded but sweet at the same time….Dayum am I schizophrenic too? WTF!

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

@LL Whatever dear!! You are so contradicting!! It may not be the topics at hand but it still sterotyped.

By Alvin

July 16, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

Bre Life is treating me very well…but after my girl sent me that text…I am thinking of showing up on her job wearing: flip-flops, shorts, fake tats, clean cut/w split shine bald head…hitting her with a mean look, while holding links of gold condom wrappers, LOL

How are things with you sista Fine fine?

By Staceye

July 16, 2007 12:31 PM | Link to this

Slim & For Real you guys are foul!!! LOL Musing getting wacked by synthetic braids! Oh my gosh I am cracking up over hear. Let me guess…the person ushering him into the afterlife will be a sista’ with colored cornrows! Glad I am alone in the office today! Alvin* OUCH DUDE! Your girl gave to you raw with no vaseline…straight with no chaser! LMAO!!! Luker I ain’t mad at you. I prefer my man has no kids either (I have none)…but finding one these days is like our rian situation here…SCARCE!

By Officer Musirello

July 16, 2007 12:33 PM | Link to this

Now taking T-Mango into custody…leading her passed the cell block into a dark cubicle

By SeanJohnson3000

July 16, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this

@ Slim…boxers…dont like nothing tight on my azz…..what about u…thong..boy shorts or french cut panties?

@ NCATLIEN…u know i am a good dude…

@ Tango..nice post…most women dont understand or take the time to understand and view things from our pov…its not easy being a BM…wouldnt trade it for the world nor do i think any other men would want to trade places

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 12:35 PM | Link to this

Slim Gurrl you are too funny!! Musing You need helpLOL.yaky #5 i know it that hair that suppose to look real but what color is that,i can’t remember, i haven’t worn weave since high school 11 years ago.

By QC

July 16, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this

Hey Foots y’all are off da chain 2day

I’m started at the bottom and work my way up to read all these comments…

QC pops a bag of mini popcorcn to munch on while she reads all these dayummmm comments

By Dave

July 16, 2007 12:38 PM | Link to this

The problem here is with terminlolgy. I learned the hard way that it has NOTHING to do with bad boy vs. nice guy. It has everything to do with Self-confident vs. insecurity.

I didn’t change who I was all I changed was my self-esteem and I had no problems after that.

Sadly the nice guys end up being a doormat (this used to be me) and its just not appealing. So if you have a good self-esteem and also happen to be a man with good values and kindness, no dating problems.

By The Truth

July 16, 2007 12:40 PM | Link to this

Ladylike I was giving an example. Also, you are wrong, I am in charge. The women I date act according to the way I allow them to act. And next time you want to come back at the The Truth, stop, think about, then don’t.

Really what we are talking about is confidence. Alot of these dudes that lack it have never experienced life and are unsure of their abilities. If they go to an upscale restaurant their like a fish outta water. If they meet a chicks father they take a submissive role. They submit to their boss, their girl, everyone. Its hard to then come home and run your home.

For a bad girl the first thought is she is some easy azz than she can be gone. Who wants to be around a chick thats gonna (100%) force you to slap her teeth down her throat.

T-Mango the world only treats you like your 3/4 of a man if you give them reason to believe you are. This is simple domination/submission.

By Wise Diva

July 16, 2007 12:45 PM | Link to this

HEY everyone!

@For Real, I can’t define bad girl because i might incriminate myself,I am still outgrowing my bad girl traits :)

@Dave, EXCELLENT comment!

By Staceye

July 16, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

SeanJohnson3000 Boxers huh….you like to be free!!! LOL I myself like thongs and boy shorts (lace of course). I would love to go without any…but I don’t want any impurities entering the kingdom if you know what I mean!

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

Nice guys finish last is nothing more than a cliche.

By Alvin

July 16, 2007 12:48 PM | Link to this

Security is the number one thing that women look for in a man, so being nice will often get you put in the “FZ” or as a guidance counselor…

Or a b*** a$$ igga…I am learning that it’s better to be an a*******hole…at lease you feel repected and not like a piece of shyt.

By cemeeli

July 16, 2007 12:48 PM | Link to this

Musing lee …gone on with that Yak? i just need for u to keep it pimpin’.

For real Bankhead n Hightower is where Amazing Beauty Supply is loc. no wonder Musing said his ‘kit’ was short sleeve. I figured….

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 12:48 PM | Link to this

MsU now you know that you remember what number Yakey hair you are…Er’Woman knows her hair number…LOLOLOLOLOL…I’m sure you and er’Woman on the blog still have at least one photo with your hair in and poising with your booty turned towards the camera and your hand on your rump.

By Alvin

July 16, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this

BUT IT IS ABOUT BALANCE…

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 12:53 PM | Link to this

C tha 1 I’m glad to hear you aren’t unreasonable. And don’t we all have ‘perfect imperfections’…lol. I’ve experienced folks that look good on the outside being really nasty and ugly on the inside. It’s like God’s way of creating some sort of balance in His own way. Those with really good balance are probably rare breeds.

I wore this Got Attitude shirt this past weekend to this party. One guy asked how much attitude I had. Another asked the same thing of which I told them both that my attitude level was really low at the time. Yeah I know they only used that as a reason to talk to me Anyway, I joked back with the second guy on whether or not I needed to up my level. He joked back and said he likes a women whose a little fiesty. Slim now wondering what the hellz her point in sharing that story was

Alvin I am thinking of showing up on her job wearing: flip-flops, shorts, fake tats, clean cut/w split shine bald head…hitting her with a mean look, while holding links of gold condom wrappers Your post reminds me of that African Comedian who always says MuthaSucka. Anyway, he had this joke talking about how in the African household they punish their wives with the mandingo dzik and give them bladder infections.

African husband comes home and wife didn’t cook dinner

AH: woman why don’t i smell any food cooking in that kitchen. Have you lost your mind?

AW: I’m so sorry. I wasn’t expecting you home so soon.

AH: Go upstairs and get ready for your punishment. A bladder infection is waiting for you…You muthasucka!

SJ3000 Thongs, boy shorts and bikini cut panties. Depends on my mood or what the outfit I’m wearing calls for. I love lounging around the house in my boy shorts, wife beater and one houseshoe. lol

Hmmm boxers huh? I’d say I guess you are a good guy. hehehehehe If you said Tighty whities I’d think you were stuck up and arrogant. lol

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 12:53 PM | Link to this

I can’t define bad girl because i might incriminate myself,I am still outgrowing my bad girl traits

Wise hmmmmmm, so are you admitting to having the “Bad Girl Snappa”???

Musing now trying to back trace the location of Wise’s computer using an old Speak & Spell, a record player, and an old ET video

By Ladylike

July 16, 2007 12:54 PM | Link to this

I am not going to argue with Truth but what I said is true. Just because you like being in control should not make you ant to control. Confident men don’t try to control people.

Oh, and please forgive me I thought and then I pressed Post at the bottom. Afterwards I smiled, what a relief that was. I don’t mind being wrong, and put that billy club down.* Domination, submission what’eva that mess is! LOL, you so funny.

By Tazzee

July 16, 2007 12:55 PM | Link to this

Dave you hit the nail on the head.

Oh and I would love to date a blue collar man - I’ve enough of the white collar. So now I flirt with every electrician, construction worker, police officer, and truck driver I see. ;-)

By T-Mango

July 16, 2007 12:56 PM | Link to this

the world only treats you like your 3/4 of a man if you give them reason to believe you are. This is simple domination/submission.

Truth…Tell me…What did Black men do or what actions did they display to the dominant culture to give them reason to treat you like you were not entitled to the same rights, liberties and treatment that we are supposed to have not only as Americans, but as human beings?

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 12:59 PM | Link to this

Musing I’m mad you got the weave down to the color number. LOL Sounds like you may have had a bad experience with weaving before. So lay down on this here couch, relax and take me to that awfully braided…oops I meant dreaded day.

Dave You mentioned being a reformed doormat. Care to share what all you had to do to get outta that doormat rut?

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this

now you know that you remember what number Yakey hair you are…Er’Woman knows her hair number…LOLOLOLOLOL…I’m sure you and er’Woman on the blog still have at least one photo with your hair in and poising with your booty turned towards the camera and your hand on your rump. Musing boy you cracks me up!!LOL I guess i am #1(jet black). Oh yeah I don’t do briad it hurts to bad and it takes to long. I know one thing my guy must have a sense of humor he got to be able to make me laugh…

By The Truth

July 16, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this

Confident men force everyone to control themselves. Thats the magic. You would never come off to MJ like you would Randy. Also, domination/submission happens everyday in every situation. If you didn’t recognize there was a battle you probably lost. If you continue to lose then eventually you become a loser. Thats what happens to a mans spirit, he loses so much it becomes second nature and he doesn’t even realize he’s lost anymore. He’d be a good gf for you. LOL

By Wise Diva

July 16, 2007 1:06 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Musinglee..uhhh I plead the fiff!

By Sexione

July 16, 2007 1:07 PM | Link to this

Sounds like some of us have been sneaking to the bar for drinks!! lmsao

Confident men don’t try to control people. I like that!!!!

Musing a Speak & Spell, dang!!! You old!!!!! lmsao And no, every woman does not! Here I go again breaking the mold Believe it or not, I have never had a weave of any sort. I do have a few old pics of the booty shot though. hehehehe

cemeeli what you know about b-head? lmsao

Alvin so being nice will often get you put in the “FZ” or as a guidance counselor… No, that is just what you’re told. Men are rarely put in the “FZ” for being nice, it is almost always for another reason, trust!

By Raqi

July 16, 2007 1:08 PM | Link to this

Since both labels have been taken to the extreme, what would some of you say is between the two?

If a guy is not a “bad boy” (rough neck) and he is not a “nice guy” (wimp) then what are you all calling the middle guy?

By SeanJohnson3000

July 16, 2007 1:11 PM | Link to this

@ Slim…so u ask questions to get answers that pertain to something else?

@ Staceye…for some reason…no panties is good..but nothing like seeing a female in thong or boy shorts…its the visual…and the thought of them coming off..sort of like a the presentation of a good meal..

By chris

July 16, 2007 1:12 PM | Link to this

Well most girls may say the want a good guy in the long run.

But, they should remember guys are resentful of damaged goods. Do not have your wild flings, and then think you are going to marry a guy with a bright future, who is a schmuck.

Most women wear their, “I dated a bad boy,” badge with honor and even brag about it.

If a girl is proud of her “bad boy” dating style, or has done a lot of “bad boy” dating the past drop her like a hot potato. She is trouble and if you get serious you will eventually be in divorce court.

I have a “bad boy” reputation and guys you will not believe what you sweet wife has done with me, reconciling her behavior by saying she will change when she is married. Yeah she will change and you sir will be the recipient of the frigid benefit.

By melo

July 16, 2007 1:13 PM | Link to this

@SexyLeggs,sorry could not make it to my event and Bells. I’ll will party big time next three weeks, so let me know where u at this weekend!! Busy today,will read tho.

By Brit_girl

July 16, 2007 1:13 PM | Link to this

What do you mean by someone who’s a pushover? Are women looking for a partner or a Daddy? Because only your Father when you were a child should be putting anyone or anything in ‘check. If you feel the need to ‘test’ your mate or push them over then that say’s something about you. Most ‘grown’ men whether ‘good’ ‘bad’ or blue/white collar are going to just let a immature, insecure women who feels the need to be ‘checked’ act a fool, while they move on to a fully realized adult who doesn’t have a ‘Daddy’ complex.

So to me there is no such thing as ‘nice’ or ‘bad’ just a bunch of folks who have self esteem problems and issues with knowing what a truly adult man or woman is all about.

By Wise Diva

July 16, 2007 1:15 PM | Link to this

honestly, I don’t think any of us are NICE 100% of the time, we have our bad guy/girl moments. Just admit it! LOL

By For Real

July 16, 2007 1:17 PM | Link to this

Slim Boxer briefs but at home I am free balling.

cemeeli AppleJacks is the original Red Bull. One bowl has 5lbs of sugar in it.

Staceye is the eye silent

By cemeeli

July 16, 2007 1:18 PM | Link to this

@ Sexione I know it hard for you to believe as also my co-workers, Cali friends and plp i met on the GP. i will confess. I’M A NATIVE Atlanta is my zen.

Btt the B-head ^tower comment was because i was trying to give plp in Blogsville here location on where to get the hook-up on those crush velvet kits. Thats all…i might need to shut my mouth…

By For Real

July 16, 2007 1:22 PM | Link to this

For Real is now putting on his toolbelt and pulling his pants down to the crack and smiling at Tazzee.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 1:25 PM | Link to this

SJ Do you have a fever?

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 1:27 PM | Link to this

SJ3000 so u ask questions to get answers that pertain to something else? Um….not necessarily. I just thought that would be fun to judge you based on your underwear. lol You should know by now you can’t take me seriously all the time. I actually like to wear men’s thongs to give me that much needed room for my camel toe in the front. KIDDING!

For Real what was your address again? Slim will now think of For Real every time that song comes on BALLIN!

By Sexione

July 16, 2007 1:27 PM | Link to this

cemeeli It’s all good, I’m a native too (actually there’s a few of us on the blog). And I know exactly where you’re talking about. Did you go to school in that area too?

Wise you’re right, none of us are nice 100% of the time, for varioous reasons. I’m a Taurus, so if given probable cause, well……..I think it’s time to plead dat fiff myself! hehehehe

By For Real

July 16, 2007 1:28 PM | Link to this

Raqi Regular Dude…

Staceye Women that don’t wear pants turns me on. Especially when they are with me. It’s like I know a secret.

MSU Here is a dirty joke for you.

Two white horses fell in the mud. Ohhh, I am here all week Thank you!!

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 1:29 PM | Link to this

@ Wise Diva honestly, I don’t think any of us are NICE 100% of the time, we have our bad guy/girl moments. Just admit it! So true, i was thnking that when i read Raqi post.. I know i do.

By SeanJohnson3000

July 16, 2007 1:29 PM | Link to this

@Msu..i take it..u wear your hair in a wrap…if so…what do you do be sassy?

By Raqi

July 16, 2007 1:31 PM | Link to this

That’s true we all have our good and bad…because I have no problem being a bytch when I have been forced to be…but the people who know me well would say I am genuinely a nice person.

Is tamed bytch an oxymoron?

By Huh?

July 16, 2007 1:32 PM | Link to this

I have a “bad boy” reputation and guys you will not believe what you sweet wife has done with me, reconciling her behavior by saying she will change when she is married. Yeah she will change and you sir will be the recipient of the frigid benefit. HUH???????? Did I misread?????

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 1:34 PM | Link to this

Lunchtime Observations How about I just saw a pimp buying his chick a meal at the Subway….Ol girl was about 19-21 dressed in straight booty short gear, dude was about 25 going on 65 wearing a dingy T’shirt some beatup pants and needed to shampoo….WTFF. She was trying to tell the subway dude what she wanted on her sandwich and the pimp said “Hold up, Hold up..You know you don’t order ishh round here” took her by the arm and stepped in front of her, then fixed the sandwich…the whole time I’m thinking “Dang, if you gonna have a pimp at least can you get a clean pimp”.

By Raqi

July 16, 2007 1:39 PM | Link to this

ForReal you know what I would call him? A Man.

Not a XY chromosome carrier and not a certified member of the male species but a man. Someone who doesn’t need to lean either way to get what he wants and needs.

There is a saying my brother uses all the time “Just be a man about it.” No need to drop your pants and bend over a barrel for anyone and no need to play Jesse James. Just be a man and handle your business.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 1:41 PM | Link to this

SJ* you funny! Are you trying to put together a image of me in your head. i can shoot you a pix if you like.

By Alvin

July 16, 2007 1:41 PM | Link to this

Sexione you are soooooooo right…I dating real women ages 33 - 45, who appreciated those special treatments of mine…girl you know you boy is wild…LOL

By Sexione

July 16, 2007 1:44 PM | Link to this

Musing You need to stop!!!! lmsao A dirty pimp? Say it ain’t so!! I can’t understand why any woman would fall for that okey doke……….pimp, shyyyytt, I’m the pimp if I’m selling my goods!! That’s a whole ‘nother convo…whew!

Raqi a tamed bytch I guess that’s a little contradictory, but it’s possible. And yes, we can be forced to be one………like mess with my child and see what happens!!! I’m sure you mothers feel me on that!

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 1:44 PM | Link to this

Musing What are do you work in?

By cemeeli

July 16, 2007 1:44 PM | Link to this

Sexione…i did attend grammer/high school here in the city. i moved away for the higher edu. ive been back 10+ yrs. Still adjusting to the transplants way of thinking atl. is preceived.

Blogs (good ones) like this make me wonder and know about some of the issues that have become our trade. uchum..not that any of ‘em are the trnsplts fault. I just like to comment b/c folks don’t keep it real.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 1:48 PM | Link to this

@Forreal huh? You lost me…

By kinderbabe

July 16, 2007 1:51 PM | Link to this

musing remind me not to go to that subway..lmao. what an odd sighting in the middle of the day.

i agree w/the comments focusing on balance. balance is something that’s achieved then maintained. not just automatically given. i would think that’s what most of us strive for. like raqi and WD have mentioned, no one is a %100 percent anything all the time. modifications in our behavior is made too many times to count.

By cemeeli

July 16, 2007 1:53 PM | Link to this

Flks Since i’ve just been made to know that we (Atl-lians) dominate this blog room. I wanna know, just for GP purposes who is from the ATL? Cause i know Sexione, Musinglee and For real understand b-head and ^tower termonology. Which btw i found my first badboy that was living westside…who turned out to be the most dependable car keep guy for some time. He was a car-detail guy we were only 19-21 yrs old. So u know i was always riding clean. Never ws direspectful. So I guess i can date a badboy cause i remember they were always was respectful to me.

By NCGirlfromATL

July 16, 2007 1:54 PM | Link to this

Musing Not a dirty pimp!!! LMAO!!!

Pimp: Beyotch, where’s my money?

Hizzo: Right next to that bar of Lava soap you won’t use.

Pimp stomps off to get his money.

Hizzo: (yelling) AND USE HOT WATER THIS TIME!

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 1:54 PM | Link to this

Sexi I’m dead serious..Dude was as dirty as a dirt road.

MsU the short version is I work in an entertainment field. (No stripping or nekked folks involved)

By Foots

July 16, 2007 1:55 PM | Link to this

Alvin/Demi learning that it’s better to be an a*hole…at lease you feel repected and not like a piece of shyt

You may feel respected, but that’s not respect. That’s fear. It takes a while to learn the difference. Read Raqi’s 10:16 post. That’s respect.

Sexione Men are rarely put in the “FZ” for being nice, it is almost always for another reason, trust! ^5 on that one!! LOL!!

By Lady J

July 16, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this

Diva Admitting I am a BAD GIRL many times and sometimes enjoy it and got caught up isn some stuff but just chilling for the moment!:) lolol

By Sexione

July 16, 2007 1:59 PM | Link to this

cemeeli I did too! And I feel ya on the transplants…..wow our city has changed! lol My favorite is when people say, “these Atlanta folks don’t know how to drive!”, and I’m like, well hellz, most of the so-called Atlanta folks are from somewhere else! But it’s all good! How old are you? And are you from the Bankhead area or somewhere else in the city?

Raqi Just be a man about it that reminds me of the tv show Living Single, that’s what Max used to tell Kyle all the time! funny..

By SeanJohnson3000

July 16, 2007 1:59 PM | Link to this

@ Slim..i know u are not serious most of the time..i was just curious…but u aint kidding about that phat camel toe print…lol..thats were all of your meat is…lmao

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 2:01 PM | Link to this

Musing It should have readwhat area do you work in Sexione You taking me back girl. about a year ago my 6year old son was outside playing, i believe i walked in the house to get something, well anyway i heard my child crying, i flew out there this 12yr old was out there jumping on my son girl i almost went into child mode on that boy. I went off then i went to his house girl i was barking up a storm.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

@Cemeeli Born and raised in the A — The old Summer Hill Community. I have family from Bankhead.

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

MsU I work near the WholeFoods area off of Ponce.

By Ladylike

July 16, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

Yes Wise Diva, I like being a bad girl, won’t go into detail though. What’s interesting is what I considered being a bad girl most men call logical dating, or at least some did. LOL

By SeanJohnson3000

July 16, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this

@MsU…i wasnt just putting a visual to you…just wondered…since dont wear weave..nor braids….either u got some indian in you…or you walking around here looking like a 12yr girl on summer break..lol….regarding your fever comment…do you have something i can take for it?

By The Truth

July 16, 2007 2:19 PM | Link to this

T-Mango fight. Black men had 2 great opprtunities to fight for their freedom, self respect, people. They failed to do so both times. The first was when we came over as slaves (different from when we 1st came over)and the second was in the 60’s. MLK was saying turn a cheek but where I come from (Cali) the Black Panthers were saying turn guns on these dudes. If you aren’t ready to fight for what you want anyone can and should take what you have. Remember, at best we are sophisticated animals. Its survival of the fittest. But thats another blog.

WD your 100% true. Actually we’re all just puttin on an act to get what we want. As I said before, we’re selfish bastards masquerading as nice people.

By Ann

July 16, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

What do you all really think about the so-called “Friend Zone”? Ladies, have you ever realized that a guy you put in the “FZ” didn’t even deserve that? I have a situation where this guy really liked me (he said), and I liked him as a person, but not as a mate (or potential mate), just no chemistry. Well, although he tried to play it off like it was all good, I kinda get the feeling that he’s just in the “FZ” to try and show me at some later date that I made a mistake by passing him by (so to speak), you know, the “wait til I lose a few pounds and she sees me with some other chick, then she’ll regret it” type. I mean there really is no attempt to be a real friend there, so what’s the point? Are your “friend zone” attendees really true blue friends, or just rejects, or both? Just curious………

By cemeeli

July 16, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

@ Sexione…i am honor to say that i do love the divesity our city has. But can’t stand it when the new res. speak neg. of it when they r around other transplants. And yes we have always driven our cars crazy but THIS ‘traffic thang’ is a whole nother issue…I remeber when i lived in E-point and worked at Lenox and could get to the entrance of the mall in 22min from my apt. Yes it was b4 9am b/c. N-E-way that was of old.

Age? I turned 20-12 last Tues. Where i grew up? right here in the city yes i am and ole SWATS girl from Pryor Rd to Campbellton…B4 it became no mans land. And U?

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this

MsU I grew up in Summerhill too…Hmmmmmmm…What’s your old elementary school and class????LOLOLOL

By Foots

July 16, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

Ladylike Logical dating? What did they mean by that?

cemeeli I’m from GA, but not ATL. South Georgia, over yonder by the swamp. LOL!!

By Page1908

July 16, 2007 2:25 PM | Link to this

Musing! LOL now walking in slinging dookey braids from side-to-side

LOL @ SJ

By Jake

July 16, 2007 2:25 PM | Link to this

What it do peeps:

Can’t catch it all, but I’ll answer Slim’s ?. Nice Guy, bad/nice guy exterior(smooth and cool is alive) lot of bad tedencies. Boxers, boxer briefs on occassion if she likes.

Combo Carolina Blue Collar- I’ve been paid to Landscape, haul trees, and make concrete blocks. Currently I write reports, play with statistics and work in advocacy.

Any ladies looking for a Sampler Platter…lol

By For Real

July 16, 2007 2:27 PM | Link to this

Raqi I agree with you. My Paw-Paw use to say “A man doesn’t ask for respect he commands it by his behavior.”

MSU It’s a dirty joke.

For Real now fantasying about Slim’s Camel Toe and her one houseshoe.

By kinderbabe

July 16, 2007 2:28 PM | Link to this

well musing i guess that means that you either work for the city or you’re a tatoo artist…lol. b/c that’s all that’s over there by whole foods on ponce…lol.

By Foots

July 16, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

Truth If you are always putting on an act, how do you know who you REALLY are? In your case though, I believe you: you must be putting on a heck of an act to get the play that you do. ;-)

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 16, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

@ Musing Ralph McGill Elementary You work down the street from me!! @ SJ I have fine hair; I get baby perms though (PCJ) lol

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

SJ3000 That’s where all my weight is. When I go for a physical, they don’t even make me stand on the scale…they make me sit on it. LMAO!

Truth As I said before, we’re selfish bastards masquerading as nice people Thanks to you I will now shed my good-girl image and nurture the inner Bip that I am. Slim now ripping off her shirt to reveal the Good Girl Gone Fishing…Bad Girl left Bytching

By Aggressively witty

July 16, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this

For the most part the dudes that cry and moan about women only wanting bad buys are

1) not bad boys 2) not nice guys 3) have a terrible time getting chics who really are out of their league

This isnt about bad boys vs nice guys. This is about dudes chasing a “dream girl” who really aint for them because they

1) got crust in they eyes and in dire need of a mint 2) cannot approach a broad the right way 3) allowed too many broads to p** on they head and tell them its raining 4) just some lame dudes with no kind of appeal to females

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 2:35 PM | Link to this

Musing now showing kinder his gold plated Rick James Tattoo complete with Jerri Curl

By Alvin

July 16, 2007 2:35 PM | Link to this

Foots I just know from personal experience, there is nothing cool about being known as a nice guy…even if you are not a pushover…F/K’n fighting wording in my book

Time have change.

By cemeeli

July 16, 2007 2:36 PM | Link to this

Guys and Gals Sorry for my gram in my 2:21 post. The barn friends started asking y ??? and i posted as i had to get off.

But n-e-way. Ms. U, Foot and Musinglee what do ya’ll know ‘bout them there SWATS. I would get my Friday’s on with Big Boi and Andre 3000 at the spot. Campbellton Rd. and G-briar Pkwy when i was just a btl of Pedialyte. Actually i would just say hi to the bad boys and be bout my business. B/c of course i looked like i just came home from college… as it was…

By Staceye

July 16, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

Wise Diva my name is pronounced just as Stacy….but I just have a few extra vowels….THANKS MOMMY! LOL I always forgot the “e” when I was learning to spell my name in school as a little kid. It was torture.

By Wise Diva

July 16, 2007 2:39 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Agg Witt, wow, way to come back!

By Alvin

July 16, 2007 2:39 PM | Link to this

Page1908 sup!!

Musing Funny!!!

By Sexione

July 16, 2007 2:40 PM | Link to this

Hey Jake sampler platter Sounds like Red Lobster……and I luvs me some seafood!! lol You ready to shoot me a pic? I’ll give you my email if so.

kinder meybe Musing does tattoos for the city! lmsao

cemeeli I’m from Bankhead (well we lived on a street off of Bankhead), not far from Hollywood Rd. We sold the family house about 5 yrs ago. I’m 38, and before someone says it, no, I’m not a Grady baby (although there’s nothing wrong with being one).

By Tazzee

July 16, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this

Jake I like that - a sampler platter, LOL.

Ann I wish I could help you, but I don’t have any FZ men. I don’t know if it’s because I’m dealing with older men now - but the men I meet want to date or nothing at all. I can’t help but respect them though - I appreciate that over a guy trying to hang in there for the kill.

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this

MsU I went to Ralph McGill too…Do you remember principle Johnson? What about the crazy Man that worked in the lunchroom…James? I think…He was nice, but crazy…hahahahaha

By Jake

July 16, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

cemeeli

Born-N-raised, Decatur side of thangs Gresham/Candler Rd area.

By SeanJohnson3000

July 16, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

@MsU…Just for Meeeeeeeeeeeeeee

@Slim…lol…i may need to do the thumb forefinger phatness test…

By cemeeli

July 16, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

@ Aggressively Witty That’s funny…you may be on to ‘em. U have big bros don’t you? hahahaha

By Page1908

July 16, 2007 2:45 PM | Link to this

Hey Alvin!

By Tazzee

July 16, 2007 2:45 PM | Link to this

Hey AggWitt - thanks for putting it all in perspective for us.

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 2:46 PM | Link to this

Page Where have you been? I saved you some blog wings in the corner.

Musing now dusting the fuzz off of 3 week old wings

By Alvin

July 16, 2007 2:48 PM | Link to this

Agg Witt long time no read…being a former 0e, I much say I agree

By SexyLeggs

July 16, 2007 2:48 PM | Link to this

cemeeli I’m from The Bronx and have been in Atlanta 28 years. I know what b-head and other things are. No, I’m not a peach, I will always be a NYer (down to earth and real).

By Staceye

July 16, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

SlimOne* Girl you need some help! I am over hear cracking up at you! LMAO

Ann I have someone or a few someones that are in the FZ. They are nice & attractive but the chemistry is zilch. I may get a little jealous if I see them with someone else…but not because I want them…I’m just stingy and it’s my ego at stake! LOL I’m an only child, sue me!!!

By The Truth

July 16, 2007 2:51 PM | Link to this

Foots I get play because I can flat out perform.

Who you are changes depending on the situation. You may be cool now but when circumstances change you’d be surprised what you’d do to survive. Triple that for a mom with kids. They’d sell azz outta a van to feed their kids.

Slim you ripped your shirt to show us your chest. Quit playing with us. (The Truth now putting his mouth up to the screen to suck Slims nipples)

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 2:53 PM | Link to this

SJ3000 i may need to do the thumb forefinger phatness test I’ve heard of checking for percentage of body fat but never heard of the thumb forefinger phatness test. Is that the female equivalent to the male firstfinger thumb length test? lol

By kinderbabe

July 16, 2007 2:53 PM | Link to this

aggwit may the church say, amen! lol

musing you’re hilarious! a gold-plated tatoo?? now that’s a first. lol the tatoo along w/the curl definitely means you’re in the ponce pimp district stretching from north highland to peachtree…lol. i used to live around there about a block from whole foods. wish it would’ve been there before i moved. i love that place!

By QC

July 16, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

Hey Jake

By Aggressively witty

July 16, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

nah, I am someone else’s big brother.

sup Tazz Y wise Y musing Y the rest of yall.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 16, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli I am like Jake, 20 side of thangs, wesley chapel

Afternoon Bloggers!! I am better now, and I see ya’ll are still off da chain!

By Page1908

July 16, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this

LOL Musing! What kinda wings are they? lol….I been out here in this hot azz desert! I’ll probably be out there next month if this heat doesn’t get me first…lol

Hey QC!

By kinderbabe

July 16, 2007 2:56 PM | Link to this

sexione lol now, that would be a trip! a tatoo artist for the city, lmao.

By Foots

July 16, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this

Ann Are your “friend zone” attendees really true blue friends, or just rejects, or both?

Mine are mostly rejects. They try to stay in the loop, but fade away fairly quickly when they realize that it’s not happening. I do have one that ended up becoming a very good friend, but I think that our proximity and the fact that we had mutual friends had a lot of do with it. There wasn’t a way for him to fade, so he just reprogrammed himself to think of me as just a friend.

Truth Reading your post about the 2 missed opportunities… I can’t help but to think that some of these men choose to fight the battle against what’s in their locus of control, their women. These are the ones with the “you gone respect me, woman!” attitude and the ones who mistake fear for respect.

Alvin Yeah, I guess that is your experience. And you’re still experiencing that now, dating women who can admit that you’re an a-hole and want to stick around. Some women do like that kind of attitude, as others have said.

By Alvin

July 16, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this

Ann I cut off just about all my female friends two years ago. I feeling guys need to stop hanging around for a cut…If a woman put you in the F/Z it is what it is, don’t try to change it…Just move on to the next one, who wants what you wants.

It save you a lot of trouble

By Jake

July 16, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this

Sexione I am always ready for you.

Tazzee

You can give me a Pen and Paper, or a Hammer and Nail, bottom line is, you gotta work if you gonna eat.

Cemeeli You wouldn’t be talkin about “MBK”,”Illusions”…lol.

By cemeeli

July 16, 2007 3:05 PM | Link to this

@ Jake Bra what are you saying???… “MBK” “Illusions”???

B4 i come back …answer back…

By Jake

July 16, 2007 3:06 PM | Link to this

Hey QC, how are you pretty lady?

By abc

July 16, 2007 3:07 PM | Link to this

Now, what is Bankhead other than an area of town to avoid? What’s noteable about East Point other than stagnant real estate values? Shoot, I’d buy/renovate/flip some Craftsmans down there if I thought they’d go up in value a bit.

I think that what Atlanta has to offer that’s of any value (to me) doesn’t depend on one being native to the area, which is good, because I’m not. Other than museums, history centers, galleries, the symphony, a few restaurants, some other things like that, I avoid going into Atlanta unless paid. Why go to a city park instead of the mountains? Unless it’s Fogo de Chao or something, why bother with the restaurants? Who in their right mind would choose to shop downtown, unless they were unfortunate enough to have to live there themselves? That said, I think I appreciate Atlanta appropriately for what it is.

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this

Page We all know you like lemon pepper..hahahaha…Hold it down out there and drink plenty of kool-aid. LOLOLOL

kinder I figure you would like WholeFoods…I have co-workers taking out loans just to shop there…LOLOLOL…I’ve heard them call it “Whole Paycheck”.

By Staceye

July 16, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs I too am an Apple for life. I’ve been here 3 years and just now got rid of my NY plates (hurt my heart too…still got my license though). But when I go home (as I did last week) I love it…but I am also reminded of why I moved. That parking and having to move my car early in the morning for the so called street sweeping is a royal pain in the AZZ!No to mention I got tired of paying a “G” for a little studio just because I’m from Manhattan and I did not want to share my place with roaches, rats and the occassional crack-head named Pookie that would break in to steal my stuff to sell for his next fix. Miami was my first choice but I don’t do hurricanes. So here I’m is!!!! LOL

By The Truth

July 16, 2007 3:14 PM | Link to this

Foots your right. The rage has turned inward and now we do things to hurt ourselves. Alot of times theres not much difference between fear and respect. Thats a really thin line.

Its funny you say your FZ guys are rejects. We blogged on that a few weeks ago and everyone said I was crazy for thinking the fz status was for losers. Come to find out I was right.

Any Cali folks in blogsville? Oaktown here. Home of the Raiders, Golden State Warriors, A’s, The Truth and the Black Panthers.

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 3:15 PM | Link to this

Does anyone else find that Bed song by J Holiday to be equally as annoying as Rihanna’s Umbrella song? Uggghhh! Bed bed bed, Ima put you to bed bed bed. You can stand under my umbrella ella eh eh ella eh….cough cough ella ella UGGHHH!

Truth Slim now wondering why she feels the sudden urge to remove her screen cover and put her boobs on the monitor. In walks her boss panicks trying to come up with a way to explain this compromising situation. “um….there weren’t anymore paper towels in the bathroom and my screen was dirty…yeah that’s what happened.’ Slim now being escorted out by security with her shirt still open revealing her mini-me’s

By MochaTreat

July 16, 2007 3:15 PM | Link to this

@Sexione You wouldn’t happen to have been born at Holy Family would you?

@Jake what high school did you go to? I am not sure how old you are so hear are a few…Walker, Gordon, McNair…was any of those correct?

@MO Where did you go to high school?

By Foots

July 16, 2007 3:15 PM | Link to this

Truth I get play because I can flat out perform.

Perform how? I may be wrong, but wouldn’t you want a woman to want you based on something other than your “abilities”? That may be enough for some females, but a real woman requires that her man be something other than a walking O.

I am who I am regardless of the situation, the total “me”, not an act. I make sure that whoever I deal with knows every woman I can be, so he can make his decision about what he wants to deal with. And I can’t say what I will never do, but I’d like to think that my character will dictate how far I will go to survive, not the circumstances.

But on a lighter note, Slim can I have some of those meds? All these women in here have my head hurting! LOL!!

By Page1908

July 16, 2007 3:18 PM | Link to this

LOL Musing yeah, you right about the lemon pepper wangs. Runnin used to always like those too…lol sigh

By QC

July 16, 2007 3:21 PM | Link to this

I’m good Jake thanks for asking baby…hey PAGE girl what’s up? I’ve been enjoying all your emails…where is Storm

By Page1908

July 16, 2007 3:24 PM | Link to this

The Truth…So Cal here…LA/San Diego!

By Demi

July 16, 2007 3:24 PM | Link to this

Foots not with my mature sisters…I am myself with them, stupid I know

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 3:25 PM | Link to this

Musing now at Slim’s job going through security tapes to add to his Whitewater boob slip footage.

By kinderbabe

July 16, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this

musing what do you mean, “you figured i’d like whole foods”? lol you got a problem w/vegetarians…lol. i do happen to be an earth girl.:)

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this

For Real Please be so kind as to share your meds with Foots. If you’re a good boy I’ll turn the web cam on and let you get a private viewing of my big toe with chipped pink toenail polish & 3 strands of toeknuckle hair.

By SexyLeggs

July 16, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this

Staceye, I’m going home next week for 7 days. I haven’t been home in 5 years. I telling everybody here that I can’t wait to get back to the “sounds of NY” although while relishing in why I originally left. I was telling a co-worker here about having to move your car early in the morning and she couldn’t fanthom it. Hope your adjust won’t be as bad as mine. When I arrived here there were only buses. Lordy, lordy, lordy!!!! LOL

By Gorilla O aka "Tha Code Cracka"

July 16, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this

@ MsU

thanks for the response.

@ ALL OF THE WOMEN ON THIS BOARD

Quick question…why is it that when you meet a nice/good dude, you dont appreciate him and end up running him off?

By cemeeli

July 16, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this

@abc - why the hate? why? If you didn’t grow up here of course u wouldn’t understand the lingo of old. These are places most of us on this blog grew up and loved but then, we NOW live in all different areas in metro.I myself miss the old Atlanta.

Okay so if you don’t know what’s the nostalgia of those noteable areas don’t say things that would make u look like a professional Atlanta hater. But then later on today i’ll get stab by you at Bankhead Seafood b/c i tried to order all your favs b4 they ran out. Come on…

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this

Truth I’m from CA too. Country Alabama that is. lol

By Blatino aka BMW aka BLT

July 16, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

Sorry, they got me workin again today…

I think most bloggers can figure Blat out, but I would describe myself as a Bad Boy exterior barely hiding a Good Boy interior that’s not all that good….

How’s about some feedback, WLB?

By Blatino aka BMW aka BLT

July 16, 2007 3:31 PM | Link to this

Sorry, they got me workin again today…

I think most bloggers can figure Blat out, but I would describe myself as a Bad Boy exterior barely hiding a Good Boy interior that’s not all that good….

How’s about some feedback, WLB?

By FlabredTxrasied

July 16, 2007 3:33 PM | Link to this

We are the only race of people still chasing our tails about BS!

I can see why the most powerful black women in televison gave a show to a white man!

And Mike, yeah I got a few pair of Jordans but damn when are you going to start your own company, im sure Phil Knight has enough black dollars!

To whom WE GIVE OUR DOLLARS is WHO HAS THE POWER! Remeber that the next time your are in lennox mall poppin tags!

By Demi

July 16, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this

LOL@SlimOne I love you babe, LOL

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 16, 2007 3:35 PM | Link to this

MochaTreat The best high school: SWD!!! Panther forever! What about you?

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 3:36 PM | Link to this

cemeeli did you say something about Lakewood Stadium on Friday nights??? Hahahahahaha…Football Yeahhhh!

MsU Did you ever go to the grocery store on the corner in Summerhill?

By The Truth

July 16, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

When I say I can perform that means I handle my business, and I can handle yours too. Once again, every woman wants you for some perceived benefit. Whether thats a provider, sex , companionship, wtfever.

Ok, so you say you are real. Do you tell a guy that you want him so you can have children and if it doesn’t work out you want him to pay you so you are comfortable raising the child you wanted or do you think he’s supposed to read between the lines? None of us are that real. We package things to get what we want. As I said, selfish bastards.

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

Musing Musing now at Slim’s job going through security tapes to add to his Whitewater boob slip footage Now why you gotta bring up old stuff? lol

By SexyLeggs

July 16, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

Who remembers San Susi (sp?). When I first arrived it was country as all get out to me, but I adjusted. Had some good times up in that juke joint (so to speak). How about Babe’s on Candler Road? Now, that’s were the party was.

By Page1908

July 16, 2007 3:38 PM | Link to this

QC Hey girl! Girl, it’s been sooo HOT here in Phx, I can’t even think straight…lol. Oh yeah, remember that email with the couple witht he dude who proposed to the girl? Lawd, luckily I was able to see it, but when other people I sent it to tried to open it, the website was down. I read the article on ajc the other day about how the website had 1 million hits so the server crashed. Send me more emails!

I have not seen Storm in a while! I hope she is doing well.

By abc

July 16, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

I don’t feel any hate for different places, that’s a little silly. They’re just places. I don’t see any reason to visit slums, projects, and areas of obvious decay either. The city is what it is; while I consider myself a student of history, I’m not into nostalgia much.

Besides, getting around town, parking, stuff like that are a hassle. I have to really want to see or do something in the city, or like I said, be getting paid.

By 3 Dollar Bill

July 16, 2007 3:40 PM | Link to this

Well, being of the Gay Community any of the types women are not appealing to me. As for men, I like them just for who they are. If they want to play rough, I can be rough too or gentle depending on their demeanor. Really if I were looking for a guy, I’d look for someone who has just as much fun and laugh as I do with whatever we do, just like my fruit-daddy.

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this

Demi Slim does a LL Cool J lip lick & then attempts the infamous water bottle pour over herself dayumm near drowning in 16 fluid ounces of water. You knows I lub ya back. lol

By MochaTreat

July 16, 2007 3:44 PM | Link to this

@MO Stop playing….that is where I went to high school…what year did you graduate?

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 16, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

Page 1908 I am trying my hardest to get to Phoenix but I know better than to come right now. When is the best time and what are some things to do out there?

As far as the email about the couple with the nice proposal, luckily I got that email 2wks ago b4 it really hit. It was nice and AJC did a nice article on them as well. Cute love story

By Alvin

July 16, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

I left miami with a bag of clothes and nothing else

I’ve been nothing but bless, since moving to Atlanta…

QC after the Sexual Storm got herself a good/nice guy…she left me..I mean us, LOL

By The Truth

July 16, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

Page I went to job corp in imperial beach as a yungin. How you liking the atl? This spot is nice, after you get used to it.

True story locals. I had more of a culture shock coming to ga than I did going to germany. This was something different. Anyway, I love it now.

Flat I see your point. We’re in a world of hurt as a people.

By Dave

July 16, 2007 3:47 PM | Link to this

Slimone Dave You mentioned being a reformed doormat. Care to share what all you had to do to get outta that doormat rut?

I found religion. I realized that I needed to reorganize what was important for me and God was what helped me respect myself and gain the self esteem I never had properly developed.

By C tha 1

July 16, 2007 3:47 PM | Link to this

I can’t front I got love for downtown ATL, regardless of the parking situation or anything else. It has its own distinct vibe. Plus, Friedman’s is the few places where a brotha like me can get a decent pair of kicks in my size.

By Foots

July 16, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this

Slim Toeknuckle hair???? Girl, you almost got me fired with that one!! LOLOLOL!!

Truth I was using Ann’s terminology. I wouldn’t say they were losers at all. It’s just the simple fact that everybody is not for you. I don’t have to give my time and attention to everything breathing.

Gorilla See above. Just because you are nice doesn’t mean that you mesh with that PARTICULAR girl. Every man is NOT attracted to me and there’s nothing wrong with that. That’s why I try not to take it personally when a man decides I’m not for him. We just were not what the other was looking for or it could be “bad timing”. Who knows? But while you are single, there’s nothing wrong with continuing to look for what you want if what’s in front of you ain’t it. Unless you’re going for the fantasy…even then, it’s fine to look for it, you’ll just end up disappointed.

You gotta be real enough with yourself to realize that sometimes, “you ain’t it”.

By Jake

July 16, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this

Mocha I’m 30…McNair Grad.

ABC I tend to think your comments are rather insightful, but that ATL bash was downright ignorant and insulting. There may not be many things that interest you in the metro area, but to others it is an oasis of opportunity and culture, (and I saw that you put “to me” in there.)

I like this part though,

Other than museums, history centers, galleries, the symphony, a few restaurants, some other things like that

Well dayummmm, if you were trying to see who would bite that apple, crunch. Atlanta’s my hometown, and I am proud of what it means to African Americans (Civil Rights, prestigious HBCU’s, some best and brightest the world has seen were nutured in my town) what it means to Whites(Confederacy, Dixie, and whatever else, I dont have first hand knowledge) and all shades in between.

It won’t change your opinion, but show a little respect for the town that you get paid in, better yet, read up on the city and visit the Varsity and really look at the board.

Atlanta was and is the capital of South and remains the most influential city south of the Mason Dixon. Thanks for reminding me!!

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this

Mo I went to SWD from 94-96. Go Panthers!

By Staceye

July 16, 2007 3:52 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs I had a car in NY so the adjustment to ATL was not that bad on that note. But everything else…i was shell shocked. I am still trying to adjust. I need some of For Real’s meds!

By Foots

July 16, 2007 3:53 PM | Link to this

Truth Do you tell a guy that you want him so you can have children and if it doesn’t work out you want him to pay you so you are comfortable raising the child you wanted or do you think he’s supposed to read between the lines?

Now WHERE did THAT come from?? You need some of these meds? Slim We need more meds on Aisle 5.

By SeanJohnson3000

July 16, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this

@ Foots You gotta be real enough with yourself to realize that sometimes, “you ain’t it”.…i like that comment…thats the problem with a lot of dudes…even if a chick gases your head up like u hitting ever spot and corner..or u the a dream guy…doesnt mean u are the only man she will ever like or be with…How you deal with a loss shows/builds true character..part of being young is about dating different people.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 16, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this

MochaTreat MAIL CALL!!

By cemeeli

July 16, 2007 3:59 PM | Link to this

@Musing…u better stop playing with me. U talking about a good game between South Atlanta and Doug or something simular. When i say…all i wanted to do was change out my dance uniform and sit with my folks!!! It was all i could do not to!…I was a Lakewood Stadium junkie, even when we didn’t have games i went to other h-school’s games. Those were the best for me. Then college ended up being even better…no curfew.

By MochaTreat

July 16, 2007 3:59 PM | Link to this

@Slim I see you are an alum too!! Go Panthers!!

By Page1908

July 16, 2007 4:01 PM | Link to this

The Truth- oh my gosh, that is scarey! I used to live on the same street as the job corp in imperial beach. On Iris Ave.! I used to hate those “job corps kids”…lol. Wow, what a small world. I actually don’t live in ATL. I am just there quite often!

Mo- Girllllllll just know it is really hot out here! But, I actually don’t mind it as much because it’s a “dry heat” and not humid like it is in Atl. If you don’t want to come when it is hot, then…lol girl, it is pretty much hot from May through Thanksgiving. So, you may just have to bite the bullet! With regards to things to do, there is a LOT. It depends on what your interests are. Email me at pageantgirl_1908@yahoo.com and I can fill you in with more info.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 16, 2007 4:02 PM | Link to this

Jake even though you went to McNair I wont hold it against you!! LMAO!! Just teasing! got luv 4 ya boo!

SlimOne Panther Pride baby! I even call my child a baby panther, even though his father went to another h.s in dekalb county! :0)

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 4:05 PM | Link to this

Dave I never tought about religion being an aid in getting rid of the doormat mentality. You learn something new everyday. Glad you found your inner value. Keep up the good work & remain humble!

By abc

July 16, 2007 4:05 PM | Link to this

I’ll testify that Atlanta’s been good to me in many ways, but.

The Varsity? I volunteer with a group of mentally and physically handicapped adults. We took them to the Varsity once, and the other customers elbowed and shoved them out of the line. That ‘food’ is toxic. It might be a landmark and all, but so is the Big Chicken, and I’m not eating that junk either!

Civil Rights? Atlanta’s role back then is well documented and preserved in museums, such as Atlanta History Center. The city itself, as it is today, doesn’t speak to me much about that topic.

The Confederacy as heritage?! Now, that’s a laugh. You can’t really expect a Yankee to take that crap seriously. Atlanta’s fascinating in that the whole area is a huge historic battlefield, some of which is still intact, but other than such historical interest, the war’s been over a long time and guess who lost.

But like I said, I consider myself a student of history, but nostalgia, not so much.

By QC

July 16, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this

Yes girl that was a beautiful proposal i’m glad you were able to see it…they were talking about on V103 this morning they gave the website out www.photosbyknight.com/gray I tried to pull it up but it’s really slow so maybe i’ll try later on tonight. so when are you coming to the ATL

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this

I went to SWD from 94-96. Go Panthers!!!

Slim your camel toe is showing.

By QC

July 16, 2007 4:10 PM | Link to this

I graduated from Washington HS aka BTW home of the Mighty Bulldogs

have a great evening bloggers!

By Sexione in the urban hang suite

July 16, 2007 4:11 PM | Link to this

Mocha Nope, McClendon Hospital.

Jake Good! lol cagross10@yahoo.com

By abc

July 16, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this

Dave, could you please elucidate how God improved your self-esteem? Not to troll or bash, actually just curious.

By For Real

July 16, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this

I went to the High.

By Jake

July 16, 2007 4:15 PM | Link to this

Mo

I was thinking the same thing, you can’t help where your folks lived. What’s better that a MHS vs. SWD football game at Memorial Stadium, not much…LOL

By SexyLeggs

July 16, 2007 4:16 PM | Link to this

@abc I have never understood The Varsity. Ate there once in the 28 years I’ve been here. I not into fast food and I’m certainly not into, as you say, toxic food. That’s why at my age I am a healthy, sexy size 4.

By The Truth

July 16, 2007 4:16 PM | Link to this

Dam small world page. I got my ged there when I was 16. I got kicked out 3 days later for fighting. They said jail or home so I took it home. Is that place still there? You know that was like a pre-jail, don’t you? Is that flea market still there? How do you like phoenix?

Foots I was giving an example of what it would sound like if you were really keeping it real.

*ABC where are you from dude? I must say I’ve been alot of places but atlanta is a great place to call home. Also, what part of town do you live in?

By Page1908

July 16, 2007 4:16 PM | Link to this

QC I will be there the last weekend of the month, through Labor Day for a week or so…about 8 days actually.

By cemeeli

July 16, 2007 4:17 PM | Link to this

@Musing Carver High ‘93 - Go Panthers.

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 4:18 PM | Link to this

MusingLee Hey I was thinking about taking my invention on that show American Inventer. You think you can help me perfect what I like to call the Camel Toe Cover? I believe this can change the world and end embarassing camel toe moments.

By Ann

July 16, 2007 4:21 PM | Link to this

Truth I didn’t mean it like that. The guys in the “FZ” aren’t considered losers until they act like it (or if), I shouldn’t have said rejects, either. I meant that is gets looked at as rejection if he wants you, but you don’t want him. “FZ” guys can be good dudes, I was just trying to get some feedback on why some seem to act funny at that point, but still hang around in that so-called zone.

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 16, 2007 4:21 PM | Link to this

Hey Musing i remember the boob job for Slim at the waterpark

Foots what part of south Ga you from?…i am from down that way

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 16, 2007 4:22 PM | Link to this

Hey Page Are you near Scottsdale, Arizona?

By QC

July 16, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this

Allright Page be sure to hit me up, i’ll send you my phone #’s

hey For Real

night night all……..

By Foots

July 16, 2007 4:25 PM | Link to this

Slim To comment on what Dave said, the guy that sits next to me at work has talked to me at length about what finding out more about God did for his personal life. He says that it got him out of the streets and taught him about love, friendship, forgiveness, how a man should treat a woman, what to look for in a woman, and how to respect himself and his body. A bunch of good stuff in there!

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 4:27 PM | Link to this

Slim I prefer the “Camel Toe Convertible”.

Mays High where you at!

By Staceye

July 16, 2007 4:29 PM | Link to this

SlimOne Try borrowing the red cup that ole boy from Cameo used to rock….that is a staright up camel toe cover!

By MusingLee

July 16, 2007 4:29 PM | Link to this

Ga.Man yeah, Slim is always hoping folks forget stuff…But i’m like an elephant, I remember er’dayum thing…LOLOLOLOL…unless it’s something I don’t wanna do…hehehehehe

By Foots

July 16, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

Slim Camel toe cover? Like Larry Blackmon’s red cup?? That’s quite a visual.

Truth That ain’t called keeping it real, that’s called needing your meds. 4Real Slim is off inventing Camel Toe Covers. Can I borrow some of your meds until she gets back? LOL!!

By SexyLeggs

July 16, 2007 4:31 PM | Link to this

Staceye, I’m going to hook up with classmates from my H.S. that I haven’t seen in over 30 years. I went to Central Commerical H.S. later named changed to Norman Thomas H.S. For Commercial Education.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 16, 2007 4:32 PM | Link to this

Jake you got that right about the SWD vs McNair game!! LOL Nothing better except a McNair vs SWD basketball game! :o)

QC & For Real my father went to “The High” (talk about pride).

By Sexione

July 16, 2007 4:34 PM | Link to this

Jake ^5 on that 3:51!

Did somebody say Doug……. ‘87 Astro in the house!! And yes, Lakewood games were off da chain, esp. if you had a good band! And we did!

lmsao @ Slim

By Page1908

July 16, 2007 4:35 PM | Link to this

Truth- Wow, yeah small world. Yes, I knew that was like pre-jail. I used to hate seeing those kids on the weekends roaming the streets. The flea market is still there…FYI, we call it “swap meet” here on the west coast…lol. But which one are you talking about? There are several. I actually love Phx…gots to love my SUNS!! I go back home to San Diego often, so it’s kinda like I never left. I just got back last week from being there for a week.

QC-Ok girl, I will keep you posted!

Lady- Hey girl, yes I live in Paradise Valley/Scottsdale.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 16, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this

Page 1908 Thanks! I will email you about that info. I know the weather is always hot, I’ve been to Vegas so I have an idea of what Phoenix may hold. But I can deal with dry heat much better than heat and humidity (even if that is all I am accustomed to, being from GA).

By For Real

July 16, 2007 4:39 PM | Link to this

abc You are usually very logical in your post but that post about Atlanta made no sense. Where in the metro do you live?

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 16, 2007 4:41 PM | Link to this

Page I’m going to be there for a week on business from 7/29 to 8/4…maybe we can hook up?? I’ll be staying at the Towne Suites of Marriott on North 90th St. I’m going to keep your email addy that you posted.

By SlimOne

July 16, 2007 4:41 PM | Link to this

Foots/Dave I’ve often heard testimonies about folks changing their life due to religion but it never crossed my mind that it could help something such as being too passive.

Musing Camel toe convertible? I’m trying to cover up the camel toe, not let the top down. lol

Stacye If my camel toe was big enough to fit into a Cameo cup, I need surgery. LOL! We’ll have to modify that to conform to a more sleek & feminine model.

By For Real

July 16, 2007 4:43 PM | Link to this

Sexi Did you go to the softball game?

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 16, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this

Sexione you graduated with a cousin of mine! He went to Doug too!!

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 16, 2007 4:46 PM | Link to this

Ok all i am out …..remember if you got problems put GOD in them ..he can fix anything and you can take that to the bank….

Peace one love

MLB for LIFE

By cemeeli

July 16, 2007 4:47 PM | Link to this

Sexione Were u a Lakewood Stadium junkie too? I can smell the popcorn and hotwings now.dancing in the stands as my h-school band plays all the latest jams Can’t wait ‘til halftime!!!* Talking to my neighbor dancer.. psss Mika walk with me to the ladies room i need to fix my hair b4 the half*…Those were the days.

Jake to say the least your 3:51 post explained it. ATL has long been the capitol of the south. And we have our share of HBC’s i love it!

By Staceye

July 16, 2007 4:47 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs I went to King. You guys were our rivals. I was supposed to go to Laguardia but ended up at King to study performing arts! Go figure!It’s a hell zone now!

Good Night all…blog with you tomorrow!

By jraw

July 16, 2007 4:48 PM | Link to this

@jake What’s up man? I am a McNair grad also but I came out in 89. It’s good to see some of the ATL native on the blog.

By Page1908

July 16, 2007 4:49 PM | Link to this

Mo- Ok, cool. You will have a blast here! Yes, the weather is similar to Vegas, however, it’s probably about 5 degrees hotter here in Phoenix, but it’s all hot, so, to me, anything over 100 is all the same! sigh

By For Real

July 16, 2007 4:49 PM | Link to this

Phoots I can give you some of my meds but I will have to come over in order for me to prescribe you the correct dosage.

Slim I need to inspect your invention thoroughly. What would be a good time. Oh and I will bring something to fix those chipped toes of yours.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 16, 2007 4:50 PM | Link to this

Slim My faith helps me to Man Up. When I’m nervous about something or feeling inadequate then I rely on God to help me get through it….I just pray and know that the outcome is in His hands…You feel me, he gives me the strength and the balls to do what I don’t think I’m capable of doing on my own.

By Foots

July 16, 2007 4:51 PM | Link to this

GA.man I’m from Waycross. Deep down in the cut.

Did y’all look at that Dave Chappelle Baltimore Mix on youtube? That thing is off da chain!! LOL!!

By Sexione

July 16, 2007 4:53 PM | Link to this

ForReal I didn’t make it, did you go?

By Foots

July 16, 2007 4:54 PM | Link to this

4Real LOL!

Slim Yeah, I guess when folks get into that “more than conquerors” mood, watch out deh now!!

By Page1908

July 16, 2007 4:55 PM | Link to this

Lady that sounds great. I know exactly where that is. Yes, keep me posted and we can definitely hook and do something. Let me know what you might like to do so I can check into some things, since you will be in here in a couple of weeks.

By abc

July 16, 2007 4:55 PM | Link to this

I’m an Air Force brat, I can’t really claim anyplace as ‘where I’m from’. We moved a lot, lived all over the world. These days I live in a McMansion in the northern ‘burbs, in Woodstock. Other than the commute, it’s great!

What makes no sense about my take on Atlanta? Makes sense to me. I don’t do clubs, there is no jazz scene anyway; Bones or Hal’s for steaks are occasional; many museums and whatnot for day trips. The city has things like that to offer, the job market is strong and has treated me well, but overall, I don’t dig it that much other than those kinds of specific things.

By MHam

July 16, 2007 4:57 PM | Link to this

I am feeling the sincerity of the people posting in this blog. I am a nice guy myself and I struggle with the self confidence. That in itself is a deadly combination that tends to get exposed when I am really feeling a woman. I am also sensitive so I might as well say that I have the “trifecta” working to my disadvantage. I say this to aide in the growth of my fellow man that may share similar traits: There is nothing wrong with being a nice man. Just be able to look yourself in the mirror and love that person whose looking back at you. Be comfortable within yourself and NEVER allow anyone, especially a woman who may have dated thuggish guys before you, to manipulate you into deviating from your nice guy personna. I have failed myself in that department far too many times. I’m only 27 and have the looks of a younger Morris Chesnut (Yes ladies I did say Morris Chesnut… WTH I got to lie for now lol)so I still have time to work on myself before I date successfully. If these words can encourage someone before he stumble down my self induced rocky road, then I will find great joy within that. Remember to be satisfied for what GOD has made you as. The right one will see that and gravitate towards you for it. Yall pray for ya brotha alrite!! PEACE!

By Alvin

July 16, 2007 4:58 PM | Link to this

Ann in FZ you learn first hand the type of guys most (no all) women choose to date. I’ve had some awsome lady friends in the past, but the guys they dated…

Good Night to All

By For Real

July 16, 2007 5:03 PM | Link to this

Sexi Yep I went and the real black and glod won 12-7.. Harper even practiced before the game. And you know Mays didn’t show up…

By Alvin

July 16, 2007 5:07 PM | Link to this

(Not All) sorry!!

By tony

July 17, 2007 8:35 AM | Link to this

im from the suburbs of atlanta, im from albany, ga

By katie

July 17, 2007 8:52 AM | Link to this

Good Morning,

I would like to say that sexy first of all is a energy that you feel from a person, and anyone can be sexy, it is a state of mind. Two I think that some women or men date bad boys or girls because they simply want to and they have a natural curiousty. However when they are ready to settle down and give up the wild life they will look for someone who will love them for who they are and that person who will give them companionship. The most important women or men need to search for someone who is spirtually growing with wisdom and knowledge of the Lord, and trust me they will know how to love them.

By DBB

July 17, 2007 9:32 AM | Link to this

women seem to be attracted to the bad boys/rich boys when there young and stupid. its only later, after theyve become emotionally damaged goods do they decide to give nice guys a try.

i think alot of this has to do with tv. for some reason, girls of the past generation or so cant seem to distinguish tv from reality.

By Dave

July 17, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this

abc & * Slimone*

So to answer your questions about how knowledge of God changed me from a insecure doormat to a man with self-esteem.

One of the factors leading to insecurity is the “bottomless hole” many people feel when they feel lonley, depressed or generally worthless. It is a common feeling for many people who have no faith.

The emotion of fear and the loss of hope show to everyone you meet. Women are specially able to see into a person’s emotions (its what helps them protect thier children). When you fill that hole with faith and the Holy Spirit, you glow from inside and not only does your health improve, but that inner glow is attractive to others. People feel more at ease around someone who feels whole (aka holy).

So by fixing the pain inside I have more to give and this is easy to see.

By Justice

July 17, 2007 10:43 AM | Link to this

For some reason I keep thinking of how a tatto on the edge of a young ladies boob will at her naval in 15 years.

By SlimOne

July 17, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this

Dave Well when you put it that way, it totally makes sense….By the way, were you aware that we are on a new blog topic today?

By Staceye

July 17, 2007 12:45 PM | Link to this

SlimOne I can’t see the new blog topic…must be something with my computer. What’s up?

By abc

July 17, 2007 4:10 PM | Link to this

Interesting, Dave. I guess I feel similarly, but actually quite differently. My experience of being In The Spirit is more along the lines of giving it over to God such that he lives in me as me, thus my personality traits are more what He wants them to be. I think trying to conciously or concientiously change one’s own personality traits would be a purely fleshly pursuit, and as such limited in effectiveness.

That way of living is an ideal I strive for, at least.

By mark

July 23, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this

triple murders of chris ,nancy, and daniels benoits, want some more evidence??? i have some adledigeially with the kevin sullivan possible connection. bighoskins@yahoo.com or myspace.com/BIGMARK6