Misadventures in Atlanta

By SlimOne

July 17, 2007 8:13 AM | Link to this

Hey WLB/MLB’ers

Wise Diva How long had your friend been dating this guy and when is the baby due?

By Sexione

July 17, 2007 8:19 AM | Link to this

Goodmorning!!

Wise Sounds like this “new guy” was not her guy after all. Had they ever had the talk? Were they supposed to be exclusive? Never make assumptions, always communicate, communicate, communicate! And if they were supposedly “exclusive” and this happened, then what was the question? Shyt, I’d already be gone!

“When people show you who they are, believe them!” Maya Angelou

By MochaTreat

July 17, 2007 8:19 AM | Link to this

Good morning Wise, Slim, GAman, SJ300, Foots, Raqi, Kinder, QC, MO, LadyJ, Sexione, Musing, Jake, Demi,and crew

So now her dilemma is, should she stick with him and watch him have a child with another woman? No, the relationship is fairly new…cut your ties and move on.

How would you handle it? I would move on…if he was still sleeping witht the pervious girlfriend, then he wasn’t that into her in the begining. If he was so understanding about her wanting to wait..then he would have waited, not find someone else to slepp with. Kick that B@%*# to the curb!!

When you are dating someone new, is it really that hard to “wrap up” (no pun intended) the other options you have? No, not if you are really into that person.

Have you ever dated someone that dropped a bomb on you in the early stages? How did you handle it - did you stay or go? No.

By Jay

July 17, 2007 8:20 AM | Link to this

Wow. Anna has a sticky situation, but this has happened to me before. I was dating this guy T. He already had one little boy and said he was done with his mom. Next thing I know she’s 3 months pregnant and he admits that he’s the father. Mind you we dated for about 6 months at this point. So obviously he was never really done with her like he said. I let him go because I felt like he wasn’t honest with himself about his feelings towards her. I believed there would always be some sort of sexual tension and they’d just keep going back and forth. It was too much drama for this diva here. I was comforted in the fact that we never consummated the relationship so I didn’t have to worry about STDs, pregancy or becoming too emotionally involved. It was much easier to separate myself from the situation and move on with my life. I don’t believe it should be hard to wrap up things. Just tell folks the truth.

By Princess

July 17, 2007 8:29 AM | Link to this

Please tell your friend to let this relationship go!! Believe me, she does not want the drama that’s about to begin in this man’s life. If he is any kind of man at all, he’s going to want to be very active in his child’s life. (And if he doesn’t, he’s not the kind of man she’d want to be with anyway!) While this is a good thing, it’s most likely going to have a negative impact on their relationship and take his time and energy away from her. She does not have enough time invested into this relationship to have to put up with this man’s drama!

By SlimOne

July 17, 2007 8:34 AM | Link to this

Either way it goes, I personally would not want to stick around for the festivities. With having a new baby, his attention is going to be needed frequently and that may also have a bearing on him and the child’s mother. Obviously since they were still sleeping together, there is a very high chance they may want to give it another try. It just seems like a situation that has too many risk factors and possible dead ends. Minus well dip before any more hurt or ‘unexpected’ twists come up leaving you feeling stupid in the end.

if he was still sleeping witht the pervious girlfriend, then he wasn’t that into her in the begining. If he was so understanding about her wanting to wait..then he would have waited, not find someone else to sleep with

Well haven’t the guys basically told us that’s the way it goes when YOU want to wait? I think it was Blat that dated a chick that didn’t want to have sex so he chose to get his fix elsewhere in the meantime. According to the MLB, just because the women wants to wait doesn’t mean He wants to wait, right?

By Twindivamomma

July 17, 2007 8:35 AM | Link to this

GIRL PLEASE HOW FAST CAN SHE DIAL UP TO DUMP HIM.

SlimOne…I can confirm this ain’t about Wise Diva. Trust me on that one.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 17, 2007 8:37 AM | Link to this

Good Morning SlimOne,Sexione, Wise& MochaTreat.. Hmmm… I would leave him in the wind. If she stays i beleive she will cause herself more emotional stress then she would if she just left and not look back. I can only imagine how she feel, I have had it to happen to me. After the anger sat in i was then turned off which made it easy for me to leave. @Musing i left blogville early yesterday but i did got back and read. Yep i remember crazy Jame from the cafeteria. I stayed on Little st. right behind the school rock-n-roll. There were two candy ladies on the corner. I used to love to go the grocery store called the neighbor, i can’t even remeber how may time i hit that store up. We could watch the football game at China Stadium from my grandmother porch. My mom and dad family grew up in Summerhill so there is no doubt we have cross path. Sadly when my grandmother passed in 89 right after that her house burned down and that when the spilt of the family occured. Grad.96 SouthAtlanta High a.k.a George High..

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 17, 2007 8:41 AM | Link to this

Good morning Everyone! Good topic Wise Diva. Since I’ve been practicing celibacy (it doesn’t hurt Truth) I have to keep my head in the real world also knowing that said guy could be intimate with someone else while we are dating. In that factor I have to remind myself that we are dating and until it becomes a relationship I have no control on who he gives his body to, If he reveals to me he is having sx with someone then I have a decision to make, whether to end it or proceed with extreme caution. Just because you are dating doesn’t mean you have to give up your goodies b/c most of the time that’s all men are in it for anyway. Just b/c you’re having sx does not constitute a relationship/dating.

By Sexione

July 17, 2007 8:42 AM | Link to this

Slim yes, that is what they have said. Personally, if I chose to wait, it would have to be with a man that was waiting also (I know, like finding a needle in a haystack! lol). Otherwise, don’t fool yourself, you’d be better off single.

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. Dr. Suess

By MusingLee

July 17, 2007 8:44 AM | Link to this

Guys, what if you met a great new woman and began dating her; a few weeks later, she reveals that she is expecting another man’s baby - what would you do?

Wise That’s when dudes pull the escape hatch and get the hellz on!

Musing and Chick taking a ride downtown

Chick: Musing I need to tell you something.

Musing: What baby?

Chick: I’m pregnant with another Man’s child.

Musing presses eject button, chick flys through the T-top like on NightRider.

By Wise Diva

July 17, 2007 8:49 AM | Link to this

Good morning! Slimone - Anna has known the guy for a year, they started dating 4 months ago, he told her the woman was about 2 months pregnant, but she just informed him about recently.

By SeanJohnson3000

July 17, 2007 8:53 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog…Regarding the topic… on the flip side..i know two dudes that actually dated and eventually married females that were pregnant at the time or had a brand new.. new born..so it does happen. One friend i grew up with so i was able to ask him about it being that thats not something most men would do…He broke it down how she was always there for him and was his ride or die chic…during a split she got pregnant…and they got back together during her pregnancy……But when u look at it…its not a big difference than if u are dating a female with kid under 2 or 3..

By MusingLee

July 17, 2007 8:53 AM | Link to this

MsU It is a small world…I grew up in the other direction. Reed St, that’s the street behind Azar’s Package Store…LOLOLOLOL…And No Slim I was not drinking at that age.

By SlimOne

July 17, 2007 8:58 AM | Link to this

Twindiva I didn’t think it was about Wise. I was only asking her for the details regarding the timing of the chicks dating relationship with him and how far along the mother was.

Wise So with the timing, yep buddy was sleeping with old girl when her and the guy recently started dating. I would still advise her to dip out on the situation even though they had just started dating when he got ex-girl pregnant. I can’t really expect him to have stopped having sx with whomever that early in a dating situation unless they discuss exclusivity. Your friend just have to be thankful that she hadn’t given up her goodies to him.

By SeanJohnson3000

July 17, 2007 9:01 AM | Link to this

@ WD…they known each other for 365 days…dated for 120 days and she STILL havent given dude any?? i am sorry but that is crazy…has she been celibate for that whole year? what does she expect dude to do during that time…work out and do yoga?

By G

July 17, 2007 9:02 AM | Link to this

First of all, I hate it when a buddy totally abandons the group for a new piece of tail. That is so high school. All they have to do is graciously incorporate the new with the existing.

Second, women need to have a clear understanding of the possible repercussion/reality that exists when you ask a man to abstain in a relationship. For a person that is used to routine “activity” in a relationship, you can’t just expect for them to convert and understand abstinence overnight. If they do, it’s a blatant lie. You are naive for believing it. All you can do is have open communication with that person when those desires arise, and try to work it out. Abstinence is a definite relationship “stickler” that both partners have to share……….not just one.

Last, if that person has knocked someone up during your relationship, its out in the open that person has cheated on you. Once a cheat, always a cheat. They just try to do a better job at not getting caught. Your relationship can never be the same. There is nothing convoluted about this situation.

If my girl (so called) comes up pregnant, that’s automatic kick rocks. There’s no reason in the world of why I should try to make it work. Yeah I would be hurt, but the sooner I drop her butt, the sooner I’ll recover.

By SlimOne

July 17, 2007 9:04 AM | Link to this

Genuine Church hugs for Musing,Demi,SJ3000, Gaman,For Real,Sexione,Mocha,Mo,Foots,Truth,MisU,Lacey,Mochalatte, and all

Musing And No Slim I was not drinking at that age. Hey you ain’t gotta lie to kick it.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 17, 2007 9:04 AM | Link to this

@ Musing On your way from school you would stop at that church’s on the corner get some chicken and head on to Azar.LOL Boy them folk know they stayed drunk up there…LOL

@SJ Put your bi-focals on baby and read the text clearly.LOL there is a big different. Your boy and his girl was not together when she got pregant right. okay. acording to Wise her girlfriend and ole boy were together when ole girl got pregant by him. Now a child 2 or 3 year old child is a different scenario we are talking about a baby who is not even develop…

By Jay

July 17, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this

Yes, I would say at 4 months a couple should still be in the “honeymoon” phase and not tackling issues like this. When in a new relationship, you MUST pay attention to the signs.

By SlimOne

July 17, 2007 9:13 AM | Link to this

Kind of on topic but not really On Q100 this morning, they asked folks to call in to see how many folks could’ve been the father of their child at any given moment. This guy called in and said a chick he messed with called saying he could very well be the father but he was #11 on her list! Not sure she ever found out who it was. WOW! Are women really allowing that many guys in their rotation to raw dawg her guts like that?

By MusingLee

July 17, 2007 9:14 AM | Link to this

MsU I would stop at the Churchs for the limited edition chicken sandwich…hahahahahaha….There was also this little restaurant in the back of a convience store next to the Churchs, that place had the best hotlinks….Do you remember TastyDog and Stadium Burgers?

By T-Mango

July 17, 2007 9:14 AM | Link to this

Good morning to the WLB and the MLB

On topic: One thing I can’t deal with is baby’s mama drama. Relationships are hard enough as it is. I already have a “1 child cap” with the men that I’ll date. Sure.. some brothers have gotten a little warm because I’ve said this, but it is what it is.

In this situation, it’s the man that she’s dating that is in the pickle. This is a new baby. So, if he’s going to step up to his responsibilities then his life and focus is going to change. He may even get back with the other woman.

Your friend doesn’t appear to be involved too deeply. She’s given her time, but not her body. It’s easier to break ties that way…So, her best bet may be to keep it movin’.

By Sexione

July 17, 2007 9:17 AM | Link to this

For breakfast this morning…..assorted fruits, juices, Mimosas, bagels, muffins, turkey sausage and bacon. Enjoy!

Air kisses to the WLB, non-church hugs to the MLB!

SJ I agree with MsU, a child that is already conceived or 2-3 yrs. old is a big difference than one that is conceived while dating. However, that’s a serious “choice” too!

By NCGirlfromATL

July 17, 2007 9:17 AM | Link to this

Sup blog.

they known each other for 365 days…dated for 120 days and she STILL havent given dude any?? i am sorry but that is crazy

I have to agree w/ SJ on this one. And I admit to being slow in this area. But dang! I also realize that if I’m not giving him any, he’s getting it somewhere. But, he was reckless. He should have been using protection, and got caught out there. That’s the main reason I would leave, quick, fast and in a hurry from this relationship. This guy was dating more than 1 woman, got 1 of them preggers (that we know of!), and I’m sure was hoping/planning to get up with your friend too? This is not the mark of a mature and responsible man. Now, if she doesn’t care about his maturity, etc., then she can stay w/ him. If he’s just “a date for all seasons”…in other words, he’s the guy you take to the office Christmas party, and home for family events, but not someone you’re going to get serious with, then no harm, no foul. But, if she’s looking for a lasting relationship with this guy, I just don’t see it happening. He’s got a little too much got my cake and I’m gonna eat it, dammit! in him.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 17, 2007 9:17 AM | Link to this

@ MLB How long will a guy wait to decide that he has had eough of waiting to have sex with a women and decide it time to get some..1 week 2 week What??

By Wise Diva

July 17, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

You know Anna didn’t seem all that shocked that he was sleeping with someone else, but she was hurt he didn’t tell her, disappointed he wasn’t using protection, and she REALLY didn’t want to date someone with children. She says she really likes this guy.

By melo

July 17, 2007 9:20 AM | Link to this

Where has all the common sense gone young adults? This aint complicated at all, i’m sorry! She is not married to him, no attachement except emotional(but can be overcome).Goodness. If she wants to lay the foundation for a disastrous,drama-filled life, she can sure have a go at him.Good luck.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 17, 2007 9:23 AM | Link to this

@ Musing Whatcha talkin bout! Do I. That was where my cousin dad Nookie Baby get drunk clic would be. I think it was a little wash-house right there also.

By SeanJohnson3000

July 17, 2007 9:24 AM | Link to this

@ MsU…i have 20/20 missy…all i am saying is ..its not a big difference..and lot of pregnancies happen at the very end of relationships…

By Ladylike

July 17, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this

Merning Blog

I had a girlfriend to through the same thing, needless to say they are no longer together. When we make a decision to wait often times our male counterparts are not waiting with us, mostly never. Some would call this cheating but logically he was doing what he thought worked, he just got caught. hehehe, LOL It’s a tough lesson but at least she’s not the one having a baby. The ogligations of being a father are demanding so I would probably not date him exclusively anymore. When the baby arrives he will need to devote much of his time to his child, and consequently communicating with the mother regularly. So, it would definitely be good for her to keep her options open and let him know, hey this is what’s up.

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 17, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this

@Slim Are women really allowing that many guys in their rotation to raw dawg her guts like that? that’s why preternity tests on court shows and the Maury Povich show are so popular. Even Judge Mathis does preternity test on his show now.

Hey Mushing, Sex1, Truth, For Real, Lady J, T-Mango, Mo, SJ3000, G & Everyone else

By SlimOne

July 17, 2007 9:33 AM | Link to this

WIse Even though you say your friend wasn’t surprised about the situation you say that she Likes the guy. Is she thinking about the road ahead? Let’s just say she does suck it up to stay with him,

what will she do when he decides he wants to make his family work and try it again with the baby momma?

What does she plan to do if he still sleeps with her when he goes to visit his child?

What does she plan to do when she realizes she can’t trust he’s just visiting the child and not working on baby #2?

Then don’t let her end up sleeping with him, that’ll only give her false hope that things will be alright. In the words of Ludacris….ROLL OUT!

She shouldn’t have a hard time merely liking someone else. She these are the red flags that we often discuss on this blog but choose to ignore. Times like this make women look bad. Sad to say but it’s true.

By MusingLee

July 17, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this

MsU How long a dude will wait depends on when he last had some….If he’s had some p-diddy recently then he MAY be able to hold out for 2weeks…However if a chick gives the dude a little boob action, he may last longer…Also you must take into account how often he gets it…If he’s accustomed to getting it every other day, you might need to do something sooner to keep up his standard of living.

Hey Lacey.

By SeanJohnson3000

July 17, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this

@ MsU…to add to my last post..look at Kim Porter and P Combs…things couldve have been peaches and cream..yet she has newborn twins…u think she is gonna stay on the market that long if she doenst want to?

By melo

July 17, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this

@MissUwill a guy wait to decide that he has had eough of waiting to have sex with a women and decide it time to get some For a good,marriage-type, girl(in my judgement), no time limit.But for the average girl(who may turn out to be super good anyway), maybe a month or two!The reason is there are plenty waiting in the wings to give u some anyway, so why torture urself.

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 17, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this

Good Morning….hugs and Kisses to all the ladies of the WLB

Head nod to the MLB

GaMan walks in shocked to hear this going on so early…slips and trips over Musing’s shoe…..

Wow is the only words i can say about this…not that i admire a guy that keeps some on the side, but come on i have to agree with SJ3000…(GaMan Puts on Blog Vest) If she had been giving him some, he would not have to go outside to get it…if he is your man do have him with Blueballs

By SlimOne

July 17, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this

Lacey I know that Maury only has one show now…You are NOT the father show. But I guess I just don’t want to believe that chicks are still being that careless. Okay true enough I can see a chick letting a long time ex or something hit it raw but to even let the bench warmers feel the sticky icky too is asinine. One minus well walk around with crotchless panties on and a ‘Free Sample’ sign on her stomach. Then dudes to skeet up in errythang with no second thought is equally as careless.

By kinderbabe

July 17, 2007 9:42 AM | Link to this

good morning all!! haven’t read everyone’s comments but i have to say…WiseDiva that i was in a similar scenario in my twenties. i began dating a guy that i had been friends with for a year or so. well, six months into the relationship, he told me his ex was pregnant. ironically, we had just started being physically intimate about a month before that. he claimed that she got pregnant before we got together then finally confessed that it happened before we had sex (since he knew the dates weren’t adding up). we are stil friends to this day but we did break up over that. i left him to live w/his decision b/c i couldn’t.

By QC

July 17, 2007 9:45 AM | Link to this

Morning everybody

Musing, you are crazy…i use to watch Night Rider “faithfully”

Have a great day all!

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 17, 2007 9:46 AM | Link to this

@ Wise Okay she knew him 8 months before they started to date. Did she not see any red flags then? We know men can’t front that long LOL. One other things what took so long for them to decide they wanted to date and who initiated the relationship?

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 17, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

MsU it really depends..just like Musing said…what else can be done…instead….i mean doing the JOAN from Girlfriends is crazy…haveing a time limit might work out in your favor..but it might backfire

By Sexione

July 17, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

Slim Apparently, there are plenty of women out there doing just that….now I didn’t say quality women, just women. And yes, they are making us look reaaallll bad! All I can say is I’m not one of them.

So basically, Ladies, if you are celibate, it’s best to be single and celibate, or you’ll more than likely end up dating some dude who’s putting his unwrapped hot dog in other buns. But we must make the choice! BUT, if you look hard enough, you may luck up and find a dude who’s actually celibate too……..they do exist….just not many! lol

By Ladylike

July 17, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

That’s real talk kinderbabe, bringing a baby into the equation changes the situation. Being a father has it’s challenges especially when there are two women making demands. My sister can relate.

By Demi

July 17, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this

Since I can’t have kids nor want any kids of my own, I will continue dating her…if she’s the woman for me.

But I’ll take things real sloooooooooooooooooow like.

Good Morning All!!!

By Wise Diva

July 17, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this

she was dating someone else when they first met, Miss U. They had mutual friends and would see each other from time to time.

So how long does it usually take to shut down the rotation you have when you decide to focus on that special someone, exclusively.

After you have “the talk”, what do you normally do to let people know you are off the market, so to speak?

By Foots

July 17, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone!! What’s up Slim and Mocha? Air kisses to kinderbabe, QC, LDD, Lady J, Sexione, T-Mango, Lacey and other esteemed members of the WLB. Sexy winks to the handsome men of the MLB.

This is a hot topic, Wise. I’ve been in this situation before when I was around 18, sort of the one that SJ3G describes, where I was dating a guy for about two months, then he had to tell me that his ex-girl/baby mama was three months pregnant. I broke it off because I didn’t want the drama, then I got back with him because I wanted him and from the information I had, he didn’t do anything wrong to me. But by the time that the baby was born, his loyalties were so split that I couldn’t deal with it. He obviously still had feelings for her in addition to his feelings for me. So I left them to be together.

We definitely went back and forth for a few more years, but ended it for good because of their ties to each other. Fast forward 10 years and another kid and they are still together. I know that I did the right thing in getting out of their way.

By MusingLee

July 17, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

Sexi & MsU Ok you don’t have to give dude the snacks until you wanna but at least “jangle the bells” er’now and then to let dude know “I know what you wanna do, but here you go”…jangle, jangle, jangle

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 17, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this

@MLB Thanks for that insight! SJ i must confess i cheated on you two weeks ago with The Truth I think I am pregant by him.. Do you and I still have a chance.LOL

By Foots

July 17, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this

Wise Would she be having the same questions if she found out that he was still sleeping with his ex two months into their relationship, but there was no pregnancy?

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 17, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this

Morning All!! Hey Kinderbabe, SJ3000, Sexione, T-Mango, MsU, Lady J, Jake, MochaTreat, Truth, QCF and errbody else!!

On topic: your girl should dip out WD. Dating a dude with a child on the way is a hassle she sure doesnt want. You would have to be stronger than most to deal with all that is to come in the pregnancy as well as the 1st yr after the child gets here. I saw where SJ said this is similar to dating someone with a 2-3yr old. I disagree. I have a 2 yr old and even though I am not dating now, there is no way I would have even considered dating someone when I was pregnant or withing my child’s first year of life. JMHO…

Also I am not sure how I would really take someone I have been dating, telling me they are expecting a child (not have one but awaiting the arrival of one). >:0(

By C tha 1

July 17, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

SJ3000 usually you make sense, but I’m having trouble with your 9:37 post. Help me out bruh, I’m kinda slow this morning.

By Foots

July 17, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

Wait a minute!! Is this going to turn into a “she shouldn’t have made him wait, that’s why he did what he did” topic, instead of focusing on his personal irresponsibility? A few posts touched on it, but the question is, what is she going to do now because of the decisions that he has made?

Oh, and just for the record, she probably gave him some already. She’s just not going to say it because she regrets it in light of this new information.

By abc

July 17, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

How much of a no-brainer can you get? Yes, she should dump the guy. What a loser, knocks up one chick and dates others? Total loser. Run like your hair is on fire.

Likewise, if I was dating a woman and she got pregnant by another man, I’d dump her, but quick. That’s just crazy.

By Bre

July 17, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

Wise Diva I did not realize I had shut down the rotation until I woke up one day and realized my phone had stopped ringing not even a voicemail. One evening at home the subject came up about ex’s and dating; and we were just like lets just keep this between us. WE were comfortable in being in “the relationship” before either of us was aware of it. It was not planned that way but its what happened in my life.

On topic I really don’t play when it comes to children even if he wanted to keep it going I would cut him off. I feel he needs to put as much positive energy and time into preparing for that child than a relationship. If he was really into Anna on a very serious tip with/out the physical he would have at least talked to her about being physical with other people.

Communication is key

Melo I totally agree with your 9:20am post She can keep it moving at this point.

By For Real

July 17, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

On Topic: Wise your friend can’t be mad at him for having sex but she should dump him bc he was having unprotected sex.

MSU How long will a guy wait to decide that he has had eough of waiting to have sex with a women and decide it time to get some..1 week 2 week What?? I don’t stop having sex just bc I just met a new lady. Why would I stop? I have no idea where this new friendship will go. Beside “A bird in hand is better than one in the bush”.

Slim Slim Are women really allowing that many guys in their rotation to raw dawg her guts like that? Must be true if 75% of all new HIV cases are women.

Sexi So we are classmates huh… Can you drop me some hints to help me figure out who you are?

By Sexione

July 17, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

lmsao @ MsU

Musing jangle, jangle that is funny!! But seriously, would jangling that thang make it worse (make him want it more) or better? That sounds like borderline teasing to me…….jangle, jangle lmsao

By SeanJohnson3000

July 17, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this

@ C-murda…point i was trying to make was that during the very end of relationships..its common for a pregnancy to occur..maybe one party thinking thats going to make it work..but it normally doesnt work…is dude wrong..no..neither is the female..shyt happens..neither persons life is going to stop… the dude will holla at something else…the chick may or may not even want to see another man..but she may need someone to hold her down…emotionally..its not uncommon for her to find friend..some dudes have a strong attraction to pregnant women and they say pregnant pssy is the best..believe or not the so called glow and beauty of pregnant women attracts men that and they stay in heat..

By For Real

July 17, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this

Guys, what if you met a great new woman and began dating her; a few weeks later, she reveals that she is expecting another man’s baby - what would you do? Stay friends with her until her baby situation is settled and then re-evaluate her at a later date.

By kinderbabe

July 17, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this

hey QC, foots, demi:) how goes it??

ladylike yeah, that situation taught me a lot about myself. i was 21 at the time and the guy was 14 years older. i thought then, why would he wait so long to do something so stupid? lol don’t you know that after we broke up and he moved the pregnant ex in, she mysteriously had a miscarriage…hmmmm ain’t that something.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 17, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this

OMG! That why i kinda cling to being single cause she never know what will come your way in the dating game. But it so funny because when i get in my forget a man mode,

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 17, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this

OMG! That why i kinda cling to being single cause you never know what will come your way in the dating game. But it so funny because when i get in my forget a man mode, i always meet one that catches my attention.lol

By Sexione

July 17, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this

ForReal Wait a minute, you’re an Astro too? 87? Okay, then, lets see……any hints for me?

By TRAVIS SMITH

July 17, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

GOOD MORNING ROOM It is my personal opinion that a woman will not stay with a man that is expecting a baby from another woman!! REASON: most women are selfish and think the world is centered around them. It is so hard to get a woman to date a man with kids let alone date a man with one on the way!!! On the other side of the hand WOMEN expect you to take them and their FIVE kids but if a man has one “they got baby mama drama” Me personally i would date a woman thats expecting a child from another man but if i list my main reason it will stir up this blog like no other “MEN KNOW MY MAIN REASON” At the end of the day women want the opposite of what they dont have!!! LET ME THINK LIKE A WOMAN FOR A SECOND…..I want a man with his own house because I STAY WITH MY MOM….I want a man with his own car because IM STILL ON THE BUS AND MAYBE HE CAN PICK ME UP….I want a man with no kids because I NEED HELP WITH MY TWO….I want a man with a JOB/CAREER because WENDYS JUST ISNT PAYING ENOUGH….let me sum this up women have problems with a man’s baggage/negatives but expect us to deal with theirs!!! I have on my hater,bullet,female vest on so go ahead and shoot your shots!!!!

By MusingLee

July 17, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this

Sexi A ten minute jangle session should ease any tension he may have…It may require you to wash up afterwards though.

By The Truth

July 17, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

Good morning all. Prison azz stare to the WLB and military drill team type salute to the MLB.

On topic: WTF???? Its amazing that she would even call it a relationship if they weren’t boning. In relationships you take care of your partners needs. All of these situations fall under the predetermined exit clause. If she’s not fuggin me she shouldn’t worry about who is. On the baby tip, if she accepts that deal ol boy has no reason to stop tapping the ex, your girl already accepted it so keep it going. On that celibate thing, any dude that goes with that oki doke is setting himself up for a sexless life. From my view the reason a woman does that is because she either doesn’t like sex or has some type of mental/emotional/physical problem (Sorry PP). Neither of those are acceptable. If you do opt in to that situation at any time she can reinstate that policy and your left high and dry. don’t accept anything less than all that chick has to offer because she expects that from you. If someone breaks in the house do I have the option of not shooting the dude? Hell naw. Take care of your responsibilities or don’t be mad when someone else does.

I don’t want to date a woman with kids or care for another mans seed let alone help nurture an undeveloped one. That is some low self esteem shyt but its out there.

Also, for the record, even after marriage or whatever if I don’t get some azz this things heads to a grinding halt. There’s nothing more disgusting than a chick that won’t bone you, but still expects everything from you. Usually by the time you get to this point the thing is over anyway.

For the ladies, anytime theres a prolonged break in the puddy your setting yourself up for some old time action. You want to provide a continous flow of azz or put on your vest and be prepared to be the topic of this blog. Really, sex shouldn’t be a topic because its always there.

By Ladylike

July 17, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

Wise Diva

Now you know good & well, shutting down rotation does not really take very long. “Like Andre: said send a text message & cc: everybody that you cc’d round town.” hahahahaha,LOL, I couldn’t resist that one. None of this happens until you are serious, “after the talk”, some honest instropect of one self. So really you can like someone but to come to the conclusion of exclusitivity is a individual decision. Just like deciding to wait before having sex in a relationship, you both have to be on the same page.

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 17, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

GaMan hands Travis extra ammo…etra clips…and a blog cup to protect you know what

Musing we got any more smoke bombs…we need an evak…..quick

By MusingLee

July 17, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

LMAO @ TRAVIS…LOLOLOL…Man he doesn’t pull any punches with you Ladies.

Now handing TRAVIS a rubberband and some paper clips to defend himself

By SlimOne

July 17, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

Foots Oh, and just for the record, she probably gave him some already. She’s just not going to say it because she regrets it in light of this new information You know the same thought crossed my mind too. I mean why else would she still be contemplating on staying or leaving unless she gave him a little taste of her sweet potato pie?

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 17, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

Dannnnnnnng Truth…….did you have to step on all of theri toes….lolololololololol boyyyyyyyy stoppppp

hahahahaahah heheheheeh

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 17, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this

Foots i saw yesterday you said you were from South Ga..I spilt time between here and albany..was born in albany though…i went to Therrel high here in atlanta and Dougherty high in albany

By QC

July 17, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

Hey kinderB

By Tazzee

July 17, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

Morning All!

Interesting topic - this happened to me recently (sort of). Anyway I have to co-sign what Lacey said in that I fully expect a guy to get some elsewhere while we are just dating. Unless the guy was already practicing abstinence, I’m not going to expect him to do it for me. But once we get to the point of exclusivity, he is saying that I am worth the wait and I expect him to be faithful to me. So like For Real said, Anna should be mad that dude was stupid enough to have unprotected sex, not that he had sex.

Musing LOL, you have me dying over here with your jangle jangle comments.

By MusingLee

July 17, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

Ga.Man all I can say is Travis bet-Not show up at the blog party cause the Ladies are gonna whoop his tail.

Chick: Hey are you Travis

T: Yea?! And???

Chick: Get’em girls

Travis waking up in the year 2150 after the azz whooping he took can finally be cured by science.

By For Real

July 17, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

Sexi Yep.. that’s why I asked if you went to the softball game. Have you bought your ticket yet? I am going to JR Crickets on Friday to pay for mines. Hints??? You first…

By Wise Diva

July 17, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

I think Travis’ comments says alot about the type of women he deals with. Of course his sweeping generalizations are entertaining (I guess?) but, really.. with so many classy, attractive, self-sufficient women in Atlanta, I can’t imagine that these issues are commonplace for the equally attractive, classy, self-sufficient man. So, Travis, I encourage you to broaden your dating options and realize all single women are not like you describe.

By TRAVIS SMITH

July 17, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

@ GA MAN and MUSINGLEE preshate all the ammo im going to need it!!!! PLUS I HAVE ALREADY CALLED BOR BACK UP!!!!

By Demi

July 17, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

TRAVIS SMITH LOL you are funny!!!

KB/QC a wild night…little demi kick me off the bed into the floor and some how off the floor back into the bed, LOL*

Bre hey you!!

and where’s JustMe??!!

By C tha 1

July 17, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this

O.K. thanks for enlightening me SJ. I can understand that logic even if I don’t practice it. You kind of through me for a loop with the Kim Porter and P. Diddy deal. I think ole girl got played like an old Play Station. I mean it took her 10 years … 10 YEARS and 3 or 4 kids to finally figure out she was being played. Damn shame.

By DivaMae

July 17, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this

I have dated a wonderful guy, thought I was in 7th heaven….I mean he was an absolute dream come true and then he drops the bomb that he’s MARRIED and he lives with his wife and is only there for the children. I tell you, it was a good thing we were in public when he told me………..Needless to say I was crushed and hurt and felt deceived.

By Raqi

July 17, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this

The way I see it is if there was not agreement up front of him waiting for her he was free to do what he pleased. Just because one party chooses to hold off doesn’t automatically put the burden on the other party to do the same, unless they both agree to it.

I say if she likes him then stick with it. Just be prepared to share his time with his new arrival.

By aa

July 17, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this

she needs to leave him alone, dont be desperate.. its not cute.. let him be the father besides it will not work out anyways.. baby momma drama

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 17, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this

@ Travis Smith HAHAH You are too funny! I can’t do nothing but laugh at you cause i don’t fit in that description at all. But it was hella funny though! I have kids, i will date a dude with or without kids. I don’t buy into that everybody with kids has baby momma/ baby daddy drama. I am friends with my kids dad other child mom. I hate drama true but handle your business and you won’t have to worry. If anybody wondering why we are friends, well for one when i meet him yaeh i said meet him i know that she will become part of their caretaker because they live together so hey i need to have a casual freindship with her.

By Sexione

July 17, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

lmsao @ Musing

Travis sounds like you gots some issues!! Me personally i would date a woman thats expecting a child from another man but if i list my main reason it will stir up this blog like no other “MEN KNOW MY MAIN REASON” So why don’t you share that with the ladies? We ain’t scared!

And this is no news break…..let me sum this up women have problems with a man’s baggage/negatives but expect us to deal with theirs!!! We can say the same about you guys! Right?!

Now what about celibacy for religious reasons? I know there is a man somewhere on this earth that can relate to that! even if they are scared to admit it to other dudes

By MochaTreat

July 17, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

@Wise Diva ^5 on your 10:44 post. I couldn’t have said it better myself!

By Sexione

July 17, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

Wise well said!! ^5

ForReal Nope, I haven’t yet. I was thinking about going by on Friday as well. Who was the best dressed female in the class? Your turn……

By Tazzee

July 17, 2007 10:55 AM | Link to this

The Truth trust me, I’ve been wearing my vest for quite some time regarding my choice to practice abstinence. I LOVE SEX and I have no mental, physical, emotional or spiritual problems. What amazes me is that you can be so narrow minded to think that because someone has chosen to abstain from sex until marriage something must be wrong with them. Just because sexing freely is the norm, doesn’t make it necessarily right. I have no problem with you or anyone else that view sex as a necessary part of just dating - and I would never attempt to date anyone with that viewpoint.

So fire away buddy - I’ve been taking the shots for years, you won’t say anything that I haven’t heard before.

By Deeva4Life

July 17, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

Travis Smith I actually agree with you. I’ve said it to my girlfriends many times, some women in the ATL are a trip…they want a guy to come to the table with everything while they bring little or nothing. I do think when an man is ready to marry a woman he should be in a position to take care of her, but I think it’s unfair for some women to think that men shouldn’t expect them to bring something to the table as well. So no bullets from this female…I agree with your views on that point.

Truth so what if I woman is choosing to abstain because of religious reasons…does that constitute as a mental/emotional/physical problem?

By TRAVIS SMITH

July 17, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this

@ WISE DIVA I really have to disagree with you. That says nothing about who I deal with. Why dont you be real with yourself and ask…Do me and my girlfriends look for all the above mention things that TRAVIS talked about? Check out any personal ads and you will see that 99.9 percent of women on there are looking for what i mention!!!! It was not directed at any og the women blogging because we all know the women blogging are PERFECT and yall have a man and KNOW HOW TO KEEP ONE!!! (yea right)

By Tazzee

July 17, 2007 10:59 AM | Link to this

Oh and Anna should leave this guy alone - if for no other reason than the fact that his grown azz is out here having unprotected sex.

After a certain age - I don’t believe in folks getting pregnant ‘by mistake’. By stupidity, yes - not by mistake.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 17, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

MsU cosigning with your 10:49 post!! I was laughing at TRAVIS too!! He must have dealt with some crazies in his time. I dont have nor do I create drama with my ex, dont look for a man to take care of me and never have. I feel better being able to take care of me b/c you may not always be around to do it for me!! As for dating a man with a child, dont have a problem with that either. At this point I have contemplated whether I should date a man w/o a kid(s). I know that he wasnt talking about every woman but just had to make it known like MsU that there are some that dont fit the mold TRAVIS described.

Also on Truth’s post, I must agree. Unless you make it known upfront that you are celibate and plan to stay that way (and they agree), there is no need to hold out. Once you have established the relationship everything should be a go…

By For Real

July 17, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

Dayummm Travis gets tagged jumps into the ring and comes in with a flying Wrestler #2 Elbow straight to the throat.

For Real now plotting Travis’s escape but all For Real has is an Canadian nickle, two pennies dated 1702 and some by product from Slim’s Camel Toe invention. Think For Real, Think!!!

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 17, 2007 11:02 AM | Link to this

**GaMan…decides he needs to help Travis out alittle more…..he now goes and twist the wires of half of the blog ladies WLB computer so that cant find out when the beat down of Travis will take place…now it reads like this…..

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By The Truth

July 17, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

Sexi1 if she’s celibate for religous reasons she should be dating the preacher. She might as well anyway, she’s sending him her money.

By Bre

July 17, 2007 11:05 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Demi

By For Real

July 17, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

I think ole girl got played like an old Play Station. Cthat1 WTF… played???? She probably will be collecting 100k per month in child support. PLAYED??? Hellz naw she should write a how to child support book.

By Aggressively witty

July 17, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

Tell her to get the hell on. Babies are drama, baby mammas are even MORE drama. How old is this dude? I would imagine if the broad is a friend of yours they are both in their late 20’s at the youngest. Too old to be just having babies willy nilly.

Plus if you got a baby on the way your a* dont need to be dating. You need to be SAVING. you need to be planning you need to be getting your mind right for how to be the best damn daddy you can. You cant do that if you taking chics to Nan and weekend trips to savannah.

I wouldnt date a broad with a baby on the way, why should a broad be held to a different standard if I got a baby on the way. Stop complaining and go be a damn daddy.

By TRAVIS SMITH

July 17, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

@ musing Im not scared to say that the sex from a pregnant woman is the best sex ever and thats why ill date a woman thats expecting!!!! Call me shallow or a dog but all the fellows know what it is!!! I guess im the only real man that will say it!!!

By SlimOne

July 17, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

For the sake of TRAVIS

Please Blog Women how many of these apply to you, BE HONEST:

*I want a man with his own house because I STAY WITH MY MOM….

I want a man with his own car because IM STILL ON THE BUS AND MAYBE HE CAN PICK ME UP….

I want a man with no kids because I NEED HELP WITH MY TWO….

I want a man with a JOB/CAREER because WENDYS JUST ISNT PAYING ENOUGH

I’ll go first, NONE of these apply to me. Next…

By Wise Diva

July 17, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this

I didn’t say that the women you describe don’t exist, I am sure they do, but I also realize that there are smart women, who want the same things they offer, and some even relax their standards because they don’t NEED or WANT a man to pay for everything. A lot of women are willing to be a helpmate to the men they date, and don’t mind building with him.

and, personally..I don’t claim to be perfect, I know i have issues, I know why I am single, and I also know that I am quite content with my life, and my reality. Fortunately, I am one of those smart women that figured out how you can be happy with or without a man

By T-Mango

July 17, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

Hey Foots, QC, Slim, MsU, Mo, Lacey, KB and everbody.

Interesting comments. But, I have a bone to pick with Officer Musirello…

Where is Truth’s blog citation for his 10:28PM post??

Back to Lurksville, GA…

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 17, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

For Real…back up the URANG and lets get Travis out of there he needs some medical attention then he can go back in…….Musing watch the front….Truth ruun point….Man down…man down…man down

By NCGirlfromATL

July 17, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

It was not directed at any og the women blogging because we all know the women blogging are PERFECT and yall have a man and KNOW HOW TO KEEP ONE!!! (yea right)

Attention all WLB members!! Do not respond to this! It is a trap! Please refer to Section 1.1.1a entitled “Can’t Win for Losing” in the WLB manual. I repeat, this is a trap!

Now back to regularly scheduled programming…watching Travis and Truth try to load the defective rubber bands that Musing passed out. Slim pass the popcorn, girl. LOL!

Tazzee You’re the bomb! Tell me, how do you handle your celibacy when you date? Has any man ever deceived you about his willingness to wait, and then he didn’t? This is an area that men and women will never agree on, b/c sex has a lot more implications for women than it does for men. (And somehow, the fact that we tie it to an emotion is a bad thing…WTF?!?)

By For Real

July 17, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

Mo At this point I have contemplated whether I should date a man w/o a kid(s). I agree with you on that. Women w/o kids don’t understand the boundries between me as man and me as a father. If you are not my wife then you get no intro to my kids

By Gorilla O aka " Tha Code Cracka"

July 17, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

@ Travis

whats up my brotha. i read your comment and you hit the hammer on the nail! women always have high expectations for men and dont have them for themselves. they want the perfect relationship, and in reality it could be the closet thing to perfection if they would get their ish together and contribute more to the relationship than just pleasing lil gorilla O. ive dated many women with kids…hell im almost convinced that all women have at least two. it wasnt a problem for me even before i had my daughter. but i get the screw face a lot when i tell them that i have a child….as if they dont want to deal with my baggage. but im supposed to deal with their lights that happen to keep getting cut off on the 5th, or that 26.9% interest rate they have on their e320 benz, or that pink sheet of paper thats on their door every other month from towers garden apartments on covington hwy saying they need to pay their rent or they have 7 days to get out. ive said it before and ill say it again, women are the most unrealistic creatures on earth!

@ Wise Diva

commenting on your comment to travis i can say that ive dated many different women in atl. classy to trashy, dependent to independent, attractive to not-so-cute…same outcome. you all still have the same superficial mentality. wake up ladies before you’re 60 years old and ALONE. not because you never ran across a good dude in your time, but because your “i need a perfect man and i refuse to lower my standards attitude” you missed out. take heed or look forward to lonely nights of “THE LIFEFIME NETWORK” and “SNAPPED”!

By abc

July 17, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

‘Sexing freely’, ‘rotations’, just appalling. And you wonder why you are repeatedly disappointed in the quality of people you attract. Just look at the behaviors you consider acceptable!

I do not believe that is representative of the population at large. Yall are either kidding, liars, or reprentative of a rather narrow in-town demographic.

By MusingLee

July 17, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

LMAO @ myself….Why am I already eating lunch…LOLOLOLOLOL…dang I was hungry.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 17, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

If we don’t give it up soon something is wrong with us. If we give it up quickly we are w*******. I think the MLB has members with Mental Problems…

By Officer Musirello

July 17, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

T-Mango Thats about enough out of you….

Musing leads T-Mango Back into the dark cubicle

I’ve come to think you like resisting arrest and abstructing justice…Maybe I should change the penalty from “Sweating out the Perm” to something more serious???

By TRAVIS SMITH

July 17, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this

WISE DIVA can i ask you one question? you seem to be keeping it real!!! You mention the classy women you know and that doesnt need a man to validate them. QUESTION How many women do you know that will take a man an UPGRADE HIM? I really dont know many. QUESTION How many men you know that HAVE UPGRADED A WOMAN?

By The Truth

July 17, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this

Gaman I ain’t runnin point, its a bunch of mad azz chicks out there with bats and ish. I gotta meeting to attend. C Ya later. LOL (Recommendation to the MLB: Slowly walk away from Travis, chalk him up as a casualty of war.)

T-Mango why you want to bust me out like that? You know I got friends in low places.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 17, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this

@Aggressively witty Please clarify beacuse…. Babies aren’t drama they are blessing..

By Gorilla O aka "Tha Code Cracka"

July 17, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

oh yea TRAVIS…pregnant sex is the best sex known to man!!!

By Wise Diva

July 17, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

are you kidding me!? some men get twitchy if we try to suggest a new tie color! LOL

Why don’t you ask..How many MEN will LET a woman “upgrade” him without making him feel emasculated?

and let’s not forget “don’t try to change a man, accept him as he is”..you aren’t going to date someone for their potential are you? What happens if they don’t live up to THEIR OWN potential?

and as for upgrading a woman, it seems to me that men don’t feel like a real man unless they are the breadwinner, decisionmaker, power player in the relationship, if/when a woman tells him, no, I don’t want you to do that for me, then we don’t know how to “let a man be a man”, LOL

so really, it’s not even about blame, if you ask me. You just have to find someone with the same belief system, values, and morals that you have..and THAT can be really hard to find. Trust me.

By For Real

July 17, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this