Misadventures in Atlanta

By Ms. Michelle

August 23, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this

Morning!

I’ll be in lurkesville, ga

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 23, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this

Bella what is up with the Blog being late to open the last few days?? You and WD been partying too hard?? LOL

By M.

August 23, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this

Bella

This is perfect timing because I am going to meet the parents tomorrow. I already met her mom and I heard she really likes me alot but Im not sure about the dad. She did tell me that her dad LOVED her ex boyfriend. I hope he dosent come up with all these comparisons for me and him. Stay tuned….

By QC

August 23, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

Good Merting I’ll sit this one out until the subject changes or a comments catches my attention, i hope you all have a wonderful day!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY KOBE BRYANT

By SlimOne

August 23, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

Haven’t had an issue with an SO’s parents disliking me, that i know of. I have however, had an SO’s mother probably like me a little too much. Whenever me and him would get in huge argument and not talk, she’d always ensure she’d remain in contact to do damage control so that i would never fully give up on her son. She was even secretly making wedding plans when we weren’t even engaged. LOL! She is a sweet person and I guess just like me for him.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

August 23, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this

In this situation, I think the ultimate response to such arrogance and condescension would be to intentionally and deliberately move forward with the relationship as if the offending parent(s) never existed because, in the long-term, the happiness of you and your mate far outweighs the short-term “buy-in” of the offending parent(s).

Now, someone might refer to that old cliche’ of “when you marry the person, you also marry their family” and to that, I would respectfully disagree. One might marry “into” a family, but they don’t marry “to” that family. That’s a key distinction that we need to understand.

Your relationship/marriage must always take precedent over and above the unfounded objections of an obnoxious and arrogant family member, who, for no other reason than they themselves are insecure, refuses to receive you into the fold.

Just my two cents. ;-)

By SexyLeggs

August 23, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. When my ex’s mother first met she kept lavishing me with compliments. She kept commenting on my long legs. Me being from The Bronx and they being from Long Island, my radar was instinctively up. Too many compliments in too short of a time. She said over and over again how I “was the pepper to his salt.” I knew she was trying to figure who and what I was about. However, I knew she wasn’t genuine in her quest because I overheard her telling another family member that I was too skinny and too outspoken. She smiled and smiled at me and I smiled back. Yes, it’s true you marry the family by default, but you can be nice and still ignore them for the most part. Thank goodness we lived in ATL and they lived in Long Island.

By Binford

August 23, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

I’ve actually had the converse problem where the parents like me too much and the girl thinks I’m not on her side. Nothing worse than that! When my gf at the time moved away for a while, I was invited to the family functions. At first she insisted I go and then slowly got resentful I went.

I believe that is what you call a “NO WIN” situation :)

By Jan

August 23, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this

Years ago, went to visit a boyfriend’s parents in New Jersey and at some point during the visit the mother said “I’m sure you will meet a lot of nice boys before you settle down”. I took that to mean “because there isn’t a snowball’s chance in hell it will be my son”.

By MzLadyDiamond

August 23, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

Good Morning all!

Just lurking today. Back from my West Coast Trip!

By Bella

August 23, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this

Good morning, everyone!

Hi, Mo! Actually, the blog is usually in the system the day before, but the technology we’re using has a few quirks that we’re going to have to find a way around. Thanks for your patience while we come up with the best solution!

By Raqi

August 23, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

Good Topic.

But unforturnately I cannot relate. 8}

By Island Girl

August 23, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

Good Morning everybody

Hope you guys have a great day!

By Island Girl

August 23, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this

@Darrell…great post.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 23, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this

I have never had a problem with any of my boyfriends parents. However one of my siblings had the worst mother-in-law ever!!! That woman was not afraid to ask anything and I do mean anything. When I met the woman, my first thought was “dayum she is nosey as heck”. Then she got really ridiculous and I was like “okay you need to get ya girl befo I have to snap!!” Come to find out my sibling wouldnt answer all those questions so she thought she would try me….wrong again, but I was not as nice about it. Before the night was out she and I were cuttin eyes at each other!! LOL Now I dont wish bad on anyone but I was so glad when my sibling didnt have to put up with her anymore!!

By Staceye

August 23, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this

Sexyleggs that is where you messed up….you got with a dude from Long Island. They are not from one of the 5 bouroughs! LOL JK

But I have been in that situation where the mom was all smiles & compliments and of course calling me deceitful behind my back. Girl it was like the movie Monster-In-Law when I called her on her phoneiness! I do not bite my tongue!

My thing is..I am dating the man..not his family. And if he can’t make up his own mind and live his life for him…then I do not need him. He is too weak in the mind for me. I need a man..not a mommy’s boy or papi’s puppet!

By Hotlanta

August 23, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

I don’t do the parent thing while dating. Unless we are engaged then I will meet them. Been there done that. If mom’s ain’t had none since Moses parted the Red Sea she ain’t gonna like any female that is getting some and she ain’t. If dad ain’t had none as well he is gonna make sure that son don’t get none as well. I am 50 and the parents that I meet at this point in my life should be almost dead.

By SexyLeggs

August 23, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this

LOL @Staceye. You’re right, when you leave the 5 boroughs you are asking for trouble. Too funny!

By 2CPTG

August 23, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

morning y’all…..

topic? what topic….

what is the world coming to? Juanita Bynum gettin beat up, old folks still trynna have sex(AJC.com front page), ATL City Council banning sagging clothes, what next……..James Brown had kids we didn’t know about?

By Momma Nem's On The Corner Of Memorial Dr. and S. Hairston Is Off Tha Chain!!! aka Gorilla O

August 23, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this

GoodMorning Er’body!! You need to tighten up Bella, lol on topic Have you ever met someone’s parents who were truly horrible to you? not truly horrible, but me and my daughter’s grandmother would bump heads on occasion. she was cool, but she was bitter as hell towards men. so if i did the littlest thing wrong, she would make a big issue of it and always compare it to a similar situation that she had dealt with in the past. i think she was bipolar too. cause one minute im her son-in-law, and the next im boogie, the guy that did her wrong back in ‘76. i still like her though.

By melo

August 23, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

Bella,he seemed to question her IQ and education possibly because she’s from the South? You know some about the south that i already dont know? I am not from here(Derty,Derty,south), so plz excuse my ignorance!!

I hope southerners will take that as a compliment and participate(smirk).

By 2CPTG

August 23, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

so, Hotlanta, that study about elderly folks still doin’ it, does indeed have merit……interesting!

By SexyLeggs

August 23, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

I’m glad Juanita Bynum fought back. This is what bothers me about men and women. How can all the love and respect for each other fly out the window and a beat down occurs. I have never been able to wrap my mind around physical abuse. I remember so clearly the day I picked up a lamp to bash over my ex’s head. I have never, ever been that frustrated in my life. Mind you now my divorce was final, but he wouldn’t leave the house. After a few months, it became unbearable. I was spewing verbal fire after he told me what he told me. Thank God that there remained a tiny voice of reason far back in the recesses of my mind. Thank God I heard this voice. I knew if I hit him with this lamp I was going to jail for domestic violence, and I couldn’t put my daughter through that. You see, my daughter is always front and center and all parents should have their children front and center. An opinion of mine I would never, ever alter!

By QC

August 23, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

Hey 2cptg that’s so sad about Juanita B. i’d been hearing bits & peices they were having trouble…they even showed her bruises on tv…sad, sad, sad

By 2CPTG

August 23, 2007 11:35 AM | Link to this

Hey Queenie (QC), methinks buddy got mad cause one of them ‘ol perverted Deacons was trynna holla at Juanita, and he got upset…I mean she is still hot…and was prolly the breadwinner for his ministry; Prolly told that fool, “No More Sheets” for you!

By Twindivamomma

August 23, 2007 11:41 AM | Link to this

I could write a book, but won’t. All I got to say is this “Move far away”. And hope his parents keep their health. I need sanity miles from my mother in law. I dare say She is better than she use to be.

By SlimOne

August 23, 2007 11:41 AM | Link to this

Yawwwwwwn

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 23, 2007 11:42 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs I am co-signing your last post with my solid gold pen!! Even though there were days when I could’ve easily pushed my ex down a flight of stairs I wouldnt do it b/c of my baby. And believe me that was hard. Even now, there are certain times when the ex will have me ready to go so eastside on him but I remember my child and I calm down. And like you said, I have never been so frustrated as I was in the last days (almost year) of my marriage.

By Ms. Michelle

August 23, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this

I don’t see anything wrong with the elderly having sex; there’s not a law saying you have to stop doing the do @ 82 I’m sure when we all get into our 70’s & older we’ll still be gettin our freak on Kids are starting at a very early age, hellz why not stop when you’re older :)

By ATL Pearl Girl

August 23, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

Well…considering I married a much older man…who happened to be jewish…. I’m a southern gal….born and bred… educated and bright….. let’s just say my mother in law was a hurdle to overcome. But she eventually learned to love me……

It’s a matter of really not caring and showing your best side….

Anyone can be won over eventually.

By melo

August 23, 2007 11:47 AM | Link to this

Hotlanta,u funnythis point in my life should be almost dead. 2 Qs for u, if u dont mind:are u as Hot as ur name suggests and u plan on dating until u what age?

By Staceye

August 23, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

2CPTG LOL I know…the old folks getting their freak on too. I heard about Juanita Bynum’s hubby assaulting her…he is a Pastor. The world is going to hell in a zip-lock bag! Oh you wrong about the No More Sheets! LOL Ooh, maybe that is why brother was frustrated.

Gorilla that is a long azz name! LOL That is funny as hell about your bipolar Mom-in-law! Don’t eat anything that she cooks. She pull the Japanese trick of dying the poisonous puffer fish to make it appear to be salmon. Then you croak! She shows up at your funeral saying, “I’m just here to make sure he’s dead…d@mn you Vern. That’s for hurting me in 1976”!

SexyLeggs you are better than me…he would have to had to shyt that lamp out after I shoved it down his throat! Does that mean I’m violent? LOL

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By Ms. Michelle

August 23, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

2 you still got it! and you’re probably right; now all their business is in the streets

By 2CPTG

August 23, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

oh no, Ms. Michelle, ain’t nothing wrong with it, it’s just…….I’on know, kinda gross visualizing it…….

By Momma Nem's On The Corner Of Memorial Dr. and S. Hairston Is Off Tha Chain!!! aka Gorilla O

August 23, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this

MO, my fellow eastsider, please dont go ham and end up on SNAPPED. everyone has a dream of making it on TV, but i dont think thats the right way to do it, lol.

By SexyLeggs

August 23, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this

@Hotlanta shoot 50 is the new 40. Pretty sure you don’t look 50 and guurrll keep your swerve swerving…ha ha ha!

By Old School Preacher not MusingLee

August 23, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this

Ok, at 4am in the morning a preacher should be asleep dreaming about the word not having a perm/jerri curl sweated out in the funky sheets of sin….It behooves us all to learn that the gates of good dussduss lead to temptation of another nation…Can the church give a “Amen”….(Amen Brotha)….Now I don’t know what yall came ta do but Iiiiiiiiiiiii Came to Preach!! (alright dere now! Come on rev.)

By Ms. Michelle

August 23, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

2CPTG Now the visuals - yuck i don’t even know anyone that old, what are they doing next - go to the club

By SexyLeggs

August 23, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this

Staceye you say that only because you don’t have any children. Your mindset changes with children (or at least it should). I just read the article about the puffer fish. It would take you to put it with this blog…very funny! Also you say “the old folks getting their freak on too”. Goodness 50 is no where near old (that is unless you’re 19 or 25).

By Old School Preacher not MusingLee

August 23, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this

Let the purple gators of righteousness Stomp, Stomp, Stomp….(Stomping three times)…The sin out of your hearts my people…Let us all ride in that 72’ Cadillac of love into the land of home grown Purp for Justice and Equality.

By T-Mango

August 23, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

How can all the love and respect for each other fly out the window and a beat down occurs?

SexyLeggsI have asked myself a similar question in the past. I’ve mentioned on the blog before that I work with domestic violence victims on a volunteer basis. In my training, I was told the following: A woman is beaten in the United States every 9 seconds. That information alone floored me.

What is going to be interesting in JB’s situation is how it is handled. Religion is a very powerful dynamic. I’ve found that many women feel guilty about leaving their husbands if they are highly religious. The church often preaches “stay, pray, forgive, and work it out.” Not the best approach. Besides…how many churches really openly deal with domestic violence from the pulpit? Not many. Why? Because Bishop Weeks is not the only church official laying hands on his wife in an unloving way.

If he put his hands on you once, he will do it again.

Have a great day y’all-

By SexyLeggs

August 23, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

2CPTG “kinda gross visualizing it - don’t you know there are way sexier 50 year old with tight bodies than some of the 28-45 year olds I’ve seen lately.

By Momma Nem's On The Corner Of Memorial Dr. and S. Hairston Is Off Tha Chain!!! aka Gorilla O

August 23, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this

Old School Preacher not MusingLee, PREACH, MY BROTHA, PREACH!

By 2CPTG

August 23, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this

Ms Michelle……is that you? initials MJ? ‘sup girl…..me, bored, and got a lil time on my hands, so I figured I’d break bread with y’all for a week or so…..

By SexyLeggs

August 23, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this

Ms. Michele, if you don’t know anyone that old perhaps you should. They’re full of wisdom and sound advice.

By Hotlanta

August 23, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

Excuse don’t yall plan on still getting some when you get 50. Since when did folks stop having sex at 30. I will be a good ole girl when I am a dead ole girl. I am doing pretty good I haven’t sex with a man over 40 yet and I don’t plan to. Don’t wanna see nuthin droopy and all wrinkled thinking I was looking at a prune. I plan on dating and getting it until I can’t do it no mo. Wheelchair, walker, inhaler, oxygen it don’t matter. I will still be loving me some men. Juanita better write another book called “No More Fists” and take that Bible and whack him upside his head.

By SexyLeggs

August 23, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

@T-Mango, it’ great that you volunteer in this capacity. It must be very difficult remaining objective. My hat’s off to you. Kudos!

By QC

August 23, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon Rev Musing

By Momma Nem's On The Corner Of Memorial Dr. and S. Hairston Is Off Tha Chain!!! aka Gorilla O

August 23, 2007 12:23 PM | Link to this

Staceye, ill be damn if she dont love to cook. and what i love about her cooking is that its always something different. she be like come try this, this is my first time making this. ima have to do a perform a toxicology before i eat her food again. and the long name came from this restaurant that i went to the other night. just off the name i thought it was a soul food buffet or whatnot. come to find out the place is laid out. its a nice spot to take a date. i had just finished putting a radiator in my truck, so i was dirty as hell and didnt have any business being in there. but like i said, i thought they were on some buffet type ish. fooled the hell out of me. i had the barbecue baked chicken, candy yams, macaroni and cheese, cornbread, and sweet tea….boy, my mama lucky she wasnt there, she wouldve got the shyt slapped out of her!

By melo

August 23, 2007 12:24 PM | Link to this

A lot of these so called Bishops,Rev and Churches are not authentic! They are mere business people and Busineses out to make money, not to minister, but constituted as Churches and preach just to ensure smooth cash raising. The older traditional churches and ministers(except the Roman C) are not typically tainted by such scandals!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 23, 2007 12:24 PM | Link to this

Gorilla O The ex just dont know how close I was to showing my real eastside ways!! LOL I keep it under wraps pretty good most times but there were a few times when I could have really scared old dude!! ;0)

Hey T-Mango I agree with you post! I really want to see how the JBynum things turns out as well!

By Ms. Michelle

August 23, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

No 2CPTG we don’t know each other, but you seem to be really kool!

By SexyLeggs

August 23, 2007 12:27 PM | Link to this

Hotlanta, you have me cracking up over here. Girl I hear you loudly and clearly.

By Ms. Michelle

August 23, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

I’ve known people that old, i just don’t know of any now.

By Momma Nem's On The Corner Of Memorial Dr. and S. Hairston Is Off Tha Chain!!! aka Gorilla O

August 23, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

2CPTG, oldies but goldies is where its at! i guarantee if you go to stone mountain park you’ll see more fine older women than younger. i dont know if they get to a certain age and decide its time to take care of themselves or what. but im bout to the point where ill take an oldskool and throw rocks at a youngin!

By 2CPTG

August 23, 2007 12:38 PM | Link to this

my bad, Ms Michelle….I’m aiiiiight, I just like to have a good time and enjoy life….ain’t takin NOTHING too serious anymore….that thing called life tends to do that to you…..

so ummmmm, Hotlanta, you’re 50, and ain’t sexxed up a dude over 40? You must have that Eartha Kitt, Lena Horne thang goin’ on…..go on with ya bad self….

and Melo, you’re right, church is big business these days….no oversight on a preacher’s income! Ask ‘ol Eddie Long (sorry New Birth folks) and Creflo, shoot, even T.D……

By T-Mango

August 23, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs Thank you. Yes, it is a challenge for me sometimes…Some of the stories demonstrating the magnitude of violence against women and children is enough to make your stomach turn. That makes me angry. But, I also understand my position & role. I empower the victim by giving her information that she can use to restore safety within her life and those of her children. Through that process I also empower myself. My .02 for the day…

By T-Mango

August 23, 2007 12:41 PM | Link to this

Hey Mo

By 2CPTG

August 23, 2007 12:45 PM | Link to this

yeah, I’m bout to tell these young gals to kick rocks, too….can’t even make biscuits from scratch, and too lazy to make gravy when they make mashed potatoes (outta the box, no less);

I’m like ‘ol dude in that song, I’mma need Coretta Scott if I’m gon’ be King!

By Staceye

August 23, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs my mind wonders to weird places…so I can find ways of linking two things together that has no apparent link.

I never said 50 was old. When I say old folks..I am thinking of my grandparents who are in their late 70’s. Now that is not a visual I want EVER! I know my parents still do it.

T-Mango I feel what you are saying..the church will tell you stay and work it out. But if he hit you once…he can and will do it again. So the only working out will be him working out his anger on your face. And that is not a good situation for anyone. I do not care what religion says. It’s sad that domestic violence is even occurring.

Hotlanta you are a hot mess! LOL I feel you girl. I don’t want no old man when I am older. His pubes look like Christmas tinsel and UGH! LOL Now when my twins start to sag…best believe I will be that the plastic surgeon lifting them back up.

Melo the old school preachers did just as much dirt and been under just as many skirts as the current ones…they just brainwashed the congregation to not put the dirty laundry of the church out in the public. Everyone knew who the Pastor’s mistress was.

By Hotlanta

August 23, 2007 12:56 PM | Link to this

Yes 2CPTG I don’t do so bad with the younger men. I guess I will stroll over to the high school on my lunchbreak to see what the younguns look like. They are gonna ban them from showing their draws so that I can’t look at their butts no more. I better go and also look at the young merchandise at Grady before they close it down. I almost passed out when they say Eddie Wrong I mean Long was compared to Dr. Martin Luther King. I said lawd they waited until Coretta and Yolanda died to make that statement. You can’t compare Eddie to Martin. Martin walked in the hot son protesting for justice. Eddie rides in his air-conditioned Macbach. Martin had a nice haircut while Eddie has a baby Jeri curl. Stop the madness please.

By Just Me

August 23, 2007 1:00 PM | Link to this

I’m a longtime lurker of this blog…You guys are funny…My problem is why is it in some cases the parents are sweet as pie, but their child turns out to be rotten..Case and point being my son’s father.

By melo

August 23, 2007 1:02 PM | Link to this

Staceye, u right, the only difference is the older churches and ministers were driven by the luv of God. So diferences and problems within the Church were treated in a Godly and confidentila way. Nowadays, its about money not God*!! and so they do not know how to solve their problems with decorum and dignity coz God aint there in the 1st place. I bet u that argument between Bynam and hubby is about the money and independence she is having coz of that.

By SexyLeggs

August 23, 2007 1:03 PM | Link to this

Gorilla O your 12:30 post was very accurate = cougars vs. kittens. Cougars are in the lead.

By Momma Nem's On The Corner Of Memorial Dr. and S. Hairston Is Off Tha Chain!!! aka Gorilla O

August 23, 2007 1:03 PM | Link to this

speaking of church, the other day i was kind of listening to 102.5 (kind of because i was working at the same time), and there was an author on there that is writing a series of books talking about pastors and the secret lives they live. dont quote me on this but i think most if not all of the pastors are from georgia. but i clearly heard him say that his next book will be about Bishop Eddie Long and the secret homosexual life he lives. he was already suspect to me anyway. but i dont think his book will change anyone’s perception of him, or any other pastor since most people who go to those churches are brain washed, JMO.

By SexyLeggs

August 23, 2007 1:06 PM | Link to this

T-Mango, remember there’s a “silver lining” in everything negative. It’s up to you to figure out what it is and it’s meaning for you. By doing the work you do it helps you to empower yourself. That’s huge!

By BlueMoon

August 23, 2007 1:10 PM | Link to this

It depends on who you’re dating. If they dont’ stand up for you why in the world would you want to marry them?

Whoever has the rude parents needs to tell them they aren’t coming back until they are both treated fairly and with respect.

That’ll stop most of the pettiness.

By 2CPTG

August 23, 2007 1:11 PM | Link to this

Hotlanta, “Martin had a nice haircut while Eddie has a baby Jeri curl.“…….don’t forget about them muscle shirts he wears, too!

By Hotlanta

August 23, 2007 1:15 PM | Link to this

I am a Lioness because I am a Leo and we are always in the lead. Cougars come in second place compared to us. Please it ain’t hard to find out about Eddie Long alleged homosexual life. All you gotta do is follow the drip, follow the drip, follow the drip.

By Cinderella

August 23, 2007 1:19 PM | Link to this

Regarding Coretta Scott King, I always felt for her as a woman cause I knew she would have had it harder than most women if she was to ever remarry. Maybe she never had dreams of remarrying and was satisfied carrying MLK’s legend but surely she most of had womanly urges.

By Momma Nem's On The Corner Of Memorial Dr. and S. Hairston Is Off Tha Chain!!! aka Gorilla O

August 23, 2007 1:21 PM | Link to this

@ SexyLeggs, ive been telling a lot of these younger around my age to step their game up. these older women are proving that you can still be 50 and fly!

By Page1908

August 23, 2007 1:24 PM | Link to this

WOW! A 50 year-old woman checking out high school kids? Please tell me I read that wrong.

By Cinderella

August 23, 2007 1:24 PM | Link to this

must of had womanly urges…sorry ya’ll eating a subway and typing :)

By SexyLeggs

August 23, 2007 1:24 PM | Link to this

Cinderella do you honestly believe that Mrs. Coretta Scott King ignored her womany urges. Hell to da naw! There was enough respect for her to keep it hush hush.

By Hotlanta

August 23, 2007 1:25 PM | Link to this

2 sho you right. Martin would not have never,ever marched for civil rights wearing Hammer pants.

By melo

August 23, 2007 1:34 PM | Link to this

50 is not old at all, ya’ll!!Old is a mindset,u can be as old as u wanna be, physically.

By Rev. MusingLee

August 23, 2007 1:35 PM | Link to this

Brothas, Sistas, Lovers, Misters all listen up…Let us not wallow in the lustyness of a busty chest…Let us not salivate over fresh “Black Cake”….We must remain strong and stir clear from wrong…Our faith and resolve must be strong if we plan to ride with the sunroof top, diamond in the back, diggin in the scene, with a gangsta lean….Can I get an “Amen”…(Amen, brotha).

Rev. Musing reaches over for a cold glass of water

By SexyLeggs

August 23, 2007 1:40 PM | Link to this

Gorilla O not trying to come off conceited, but much like Hotlanta I am fierce at 49 (with a smoking body - size 4). To all you kittens out there, believe in yourself and keep yourself looking good first for yourself and that in itself will attract the opposite sex. An aura of confidence is such an aphrodisiac!

By mqew

August 23, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this

Aftanoon all…

I actually have a problem with the whole family and not the mom (father is dead). I wouldn’t let his mother live with us so I became the bich. The thing is we’ve tried it… 3 frickn times! It didn’t work! The last time it caused a major riff. I didn’t want her there and so I never wanted to be there. I left, went to work, and did my ‘thing’ until I could go home just to go to sleep. We were miserable… everyone. She eventually felt uncomfortable enough to leave… but the damage was done.

By Rev. MusingLee

August 23, 2007 1:55 PM | Link to this

Gorilla O Would you please pull out the metal chairs?…Anyone needing healing come forward please…

Musing now healing two boobs from being to firm

By SlimOne

August 23, 2007 2:00 PM | Link to this

Sis SlimOne Sitting in the front pew letting Rev. MusingLee get an all to open view of her granny panties as she rocks her legs slowly…open…close….open…close like Sharon Stone on crack. She starts to feel the spirit as she notices the beads of sweat glistening all over his forehead.

By SlimOne

August 23, 2007 2:03 PM | Link to this

Unable to contain herself, Sis SlimOne suddenly jumps up and takes a dive in the baptismal pool right in the middle of the sermon…..

By DuShawn

August 23, 2007 2:05 PM | Link to this

Gorrila O I heard that dude (author of Snakes in the Pulpit) on Al Sharpton’s show yesterday. To me, he sounded like an idiot. Unfortunately he was provided a nationally syndicated forum to spew his venomous, unfounded, allegations. What convinced me of the guys stupidity was when asked why he thought Creflo Dollar was leading his congregation to hell, he responded “Because Creflo was in the Welcome to Atlanta video with Ludacris and JD”. WTF!!! There are many valid points he could have chosen to support his opinion, and this fool chose the fact that the man was in a rap video.

By melo

August 23, 2007 2:10 PM | Link to this

mqew Is Mum in law in a desperate situation because she is old,sick or both and cannot provide for self or what?If ur husband is the only one in the family able to look after Mum, there is no choice but to accept situation. This is the selfshishness in America i dont like.

I luv my Mum to death and if i were in that situation were my Mum cannot fend for self, I would gladly take her in(she conceived and raised me). Same with my Mum in law..no question, if tables were turned. Yu may be the beatch, who knows, and deserve it!

By SexyLeggs

August 23, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

Page 1908 I believe she was being a little facetious about the high school boys.

By Rev. MusingLee

August 23, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

Activating the strobe light and fog machines

People get up off you feet and let us lift our hearts and sing for glory on high…

“Wipe me down for glory, Wipe me down for peace, Wipe me downnnnNnnnNNNNNnn…Ohhhhh Ahhhhhh…DOwn, DoWN, down…and wiggle it lil’mama like you shaken off the Pharrohs….”

By Momma Nem's On The Corner Of Memorial Dr. and S. Hairston Is Off Tha Chain!!! aka Gorilla O

August 23, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this

@ SexyLeggs, i believe it. aint nothing like a woman thats grown and sexy! and with a name like SexyLeggs, i can just imagine. give me a sec Rev MusingLee, im trying to do some healing over here of my own.

Gorilla O slightly lifting SexyLeggs’ skirt to find out exactly why they call her ‘SexyLeggs’. rev. musinglee, you may want to call deacon johnson to pull out the chairs!

By Island Girl

August 23, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this

Gorilla O…I attend New Birth and I’m not “brain washed”. You are entitled to your opinion, but let your opinions make sense. I wouldn’t ask you how it feels to give birth to a child…”no” because you would be clueless, just like your remake.

Juanita Bynum and her husband had a domestic fight in public view. That is sad, but I don’t think it makes way to chastise all preachers. Give me a break…… It is ashamed that they marital woes succumbed to violence; it only goes to show that they too have problems. Preachers are human beings first, then teachers. They pray and allow their faith to guide them through every day struggles, which is what most believers and nonbelievers struggle with.

Just my five cents and a quarter.

By SexyLeggs

August 23, 2007 2:35 PM | Link to this

Gorilla O no need to slighly lift my skirt. I wear a lot of minis. All you’d have to do is look in my direction and you will see my name fits me.

By mqew

August 23, 2007 2:39 PM | Link to this

In-law has M.S. Six siblings with much to say. But nothing to do. They could have done what they wanted my husband to do.

By DuShawn

August 23, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this

I remember the first time I met my wife’s father. His reputation preceded him. He was an old school heroin dealer and respected hustler that was in and out of prison the majority of her life. His name still rung out in the streets of Opa Locka for some of the wild things he had done in the past. While she and I were dating, he had completed his last bid and she introduced me. I’ll never forget it. I extended my hand to the man and said: “How you doing sir, I’m DuShawn”. He shook my hand, pulled her aside and said “Where you get this funny looking mutha fugga from. Curly azz hair, funny lookin skin, what he is, a Cuban Arab” no bullshyt, those were his exact words. I’m like “Sir, I’m standing right her. I can here you.” As the years passed we became real cool. One thing I respected about the man, whenever his daughter called him, he would come, regardless of what she needed. He didn’t get a chance to see her walk down the aisle. He passed away a few months before the wedding. Her mother died a few years later. Now my parents are her parents….. and they treat her that way.

By aa

August 23, 2007 2:51 PM | Link to this

Me and my other come from two different cultures, and I will say its a road, they dont like me. not because I am american and he is nigerian, I think because, the mom wants him to marry a nigerian and the dad wants him to marry a muslim. Which my background is, but as I say to them I love him, I dont care what you think, when you love someone it doenst matter how other people feel. My family is not a huge fan of his either, but thats okay, like I tell them , he’s here, hes not going anywhere deal with it, its my relationship not you alls.

By aa

August 23, 2007 2:51 PM | Link to this

Me and my other come from two different cultures, and I will say its a road, they dont like me. not because I am american and he is nigerian, I think because, the mom wants him to marry a nigerian and the dad wants him to marry a muslim. Which my background is, but as I say to them I love him, I dont care what you think, when you love someone it doenst matter how other people feel. My family is not a huge fan of his either, but thats okay, like I tell them , he’s here, hes not going anywhere deal with it, its my relationship not you alls.

By QC

August 23, 2007 2:56 PM | Link to this

Rev Musing lolololololol!

Slim diving in da church pool lolololololol!

Where is Demi he should be an Usher helping with the offering, lol

By Staceye

August 23, 2007 3:00 PM | Link to this

Gorilla I think that author you are talking about is named Jihad. The book is called Preacher Man Blues.

Musing You are dead wrong for the wipe me down! LMAO

Dushawn you should pitch that into a movie man or atleast a book.

By melo

August 23, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this

mqew, I be on ur case 4 a minute!They could have done what they wanted my husband to do… what is it about her that u were not able to tolerate nor accomodate?He(ur hubby) is his Mum’s child too and explain that part and whetther u could not live to agree to that in ur combined home. Are u parents better off and cant possibly be in a similar circumsatance somewhat at some point?Is it inconceivable to even think of it(unless they are deceased) How would u handle ur own parent or parents, in a similar situation?

By Momma Nem's On The Corner Of Memorial Dr. and S. Hairston Is Off Tha Chain!!! aka Gorilla O

August 23, 2007 3:07 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl, regardless of if you feel MY OPINION doesn’t make sense or is clueless, it’s still MY OPINION! and i have my reasons for forming MY OPINION, and if you don’t agree with MY OPINION that’s fine, because you’re entitled to YOUR OPINION also. get the concept?

By melo

August 23, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this

SexxyL, when is ur party and is the guest list still Open ????

By Momma Nem's On The Corner Of Memorial Dr. and S. Hairston Is Off Tha Chain!!! aka Gorilla O

August 23, 2007 3:11 PM | Link to this

thats whats up SexyLeggs! so what’s your secret? a mean diet, an intense workout plan, a combination of both, or genetics?

By MusingLee

August 23, 2007 3:15 PM | Link to this

Hey QC and Staceye

By Page1908

August 23, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

WOW! A 50 year-old woman checking out high school kids? Please tell me I read that wrong.

By Hotlanta

August 23, 2007 3:18 PM | Link to this

Gorilla the key to looking good in your older years baby is GOOD SEX. Believe it baby. Best fountain of youth ever.

By SexyLeggs

August 23, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this

Melo party is at Bell Bottoms Saturday, 8/25. Get there b4 10:00 and receive free admission and 2 free “call” drinks. Guest list is still open. I’ll have on Jean Bermuda shorts and a halter top with maroon & white squares. If you aren’t afraid, come ask me to dance.

By SexyLeggs

August 23, 2007 3:23 PM | Link to this

**All of you are invited to my party if you dare to come…225 Pharr Road, Atl.

By SexyLeggs

August 23, 2007 3:25 PM | Link to this

Gorilla O must admit mine is good genetics, along with all the track and cross county biclycing I did back in the day.

By mqew

August 23, 2007 3:25 PM | Link to this

Melo - I thought I could do it. I thought both of us could do it. When I found out that she wanted to leave the husband that she dogged out to her son. I was estatic! Cool. She’s actually gonna do somethin about her bichn. Her son was elated as well. His father had always been there (literally just lived there). Mildly provided (lost a house or two, a business or two, an apartment or two… gambling..) and midly abusive, mostly when his son was to young to do anything about it. He was a cop and intimidating even in his slim build. Needless to say when my hubby grew up and bigger, playd ball, the abuse ended. I digress… His mom talked about how she wanted to leave. We welcomed her. Converted our office into a haven for her. It didn’t work! She’s wheelchair bound for the most part, but with the strength some days to do for herself (go to the bath room). We were bamboozled! She wasn’t as strong as we thought. I would come home and she would be on the floor, cause she fell goin to the bathroom. I’m not pickin her up! We’d both be on the floor with my small frame. Or.. try one day she was on the toilet called my name cause she needed help off. I had to pull up her draws… while she was on her…eeeewwwwwwwwww!!! That was when I knew. She needed professional help. GA Health systems was no help. We were trying to find housing but, she didn’t want to go. Told her husband whom she was speaking on the phone like she was 16 giggling and ish. He and my husband had a fall out. He came to get her. We were playd! AND THAT WAS ONLY THE FIRST TIME!!! I COULD GO ON! But I believe there are citation issues…

By melo

August 23, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this

I attend New Birth and I’m not “brain washedIsland Girl.Good for u gal but are ur(NBirth) finances there an open book?When was the last time u saw and asked qs about ur Church finances. Are u okay with everything that they use ur money 4..Pvt jet,maybach and other luxuries. U dont mind ur pastor leaving the life of the rich and famous, like all these Hollywood celebrities, it seems?Would u then be comfortable if we gave him the same amount(if not more) of attention into their personal lives, since they use Public money(tithes) to fund some of their trinkets? U basically believe ur pastor got it together(from God presumably) and money cannot corrupt him? I cannot reconcile opulence of that magnitude, with heavenliness,iam sorry i do judge!Especially when u have SW atlanta, in some places, which looks like Rwanda.

By Jake

August 23, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this

What up peeps: let me scan some of this stuff, just hello. How are you lovely ladies today…what up MLB.

By SexyLeggs

August 23, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this

We could try this as another “meet-n-greet. This time you could stay in lurksville right at club if you didn’t want to be known but wanted to watch. CHICKEN!!!

By Island Girl

August 23, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this

Gorilla O…Of course I get the concept….but if I see you walking along 285 in your birthday suite…I will look. Same as your comments….much love to you though…each one teach one.

By melo

August 23, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

Hotlanta and SexxyL,will see u there both!!If you aren’t afraid,girl, me scared.Are u serious??!!

By Hotlanta

August 23, 2007 3:33 PM | Link to this

Chile I look like an embryo the sex is so good.

By NCGirlfromATL

August 23, 2007 3:35 PM | Link to this

New Word O’ the Day: Separatize!

Using it in a sentence: (ahem) “My wife and I realize our marriage is over, and we are ready to…(wait for it)…”separatize”!

Just dropping in for a sec. Crazy busy week!

By QC

August 23, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

Hey Page

By DuShawn

August 23, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this

I remember another parental meeting that didn’t go so well. When I was a teenager, I dated this superfine little chick from the neighborhood. Her mother was very protective of her, so we had to find creative ways to get together. I would get out of bed and literally run to this girl’s house late night. She would sneak me into her bedroom while her parents were asleep. Often I would intercept her from choir practice, knock her off and drop her back off to the church before her mother came to pick her up. Young and dumb, I hit her raw and got her pregnant. A few days after she told me about the baby, I came through to take her to the movies, she wasn’t quite ready and asked me to come in for a minute. She disappeared to go finished getting dressed and her Mom comes out and says ”So you’re DuShawn…..you’re the one that has gotten my daughter pregnant. This is like a nightmare come true!” My face dropped and I immediately started sweatin bullets. The girl’s mama verbally ripped me a new azzhole. I thought she was gonna cut me. She insulted me, my mama, my grand mama and everyone else that had anything to do with me being on the face of this earth. I respectfully endured the deserved abuse for as long as I could and left. The next day, I put that abortion money in their mailbox as requested. Needless to say, her mother was never too fond of me. Ironically, The girl and I remained friends and occasional lovers for the next decade.

By Momma Nem's On The Corner Of Memorial Dr. and S. Hairston Is Off Tha Chain!!! aka Gorilla O

August 23, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this

its all good IslandGirl, i aint trippin. i just have an aunt thats too deep in the church. i feel you shouldnt give your last to the church and your lights are about to get cut off just ‘cause the pastor said leave it in the hands of the good lord and he’ll take care of it.

SexyLeggs, whats the dress code for your party?

By Page1908

August 23, 2007 3:53 PM | Link to this

Hey QC

By SexyLeggs

August 23, 2007 3:55 PM | Link to this

Comfortable..no jeans or sneakers or white tees (summer casual)…oops I need to check on wearing Jean Bermuda shorts…aww man!

By Momma Nem's On The Corner Of Memorial Dr. and S. Hairston Is Off Tha Chain!!! aka Gorilla O

August 23, 2007 3:57 PM | Link to this

damn DuShawn, sound like a setup to me, lol. and i understand having respect for ma duke’s, but i would’ve went ham if she would’ve insulted my folks like that. but i bet you and the trojan man were tighter than two best friends after that.

By melo

August 23, 2007 3:57 PM | Link to this

mqew,bless ur heart!i hpe it ends well, seems u being tryng ur very best.

By Island Girl

August 23, 2007 3:59 PM | Link to this

Melo…actually yes. Bishop long is not on salary at New Birth. Most pastors today receive a salary. He gets compensation from offerings, book writings, private speechs etc. I see my contributions go to good works. Like helping single mothers purchase cars, help the struggling working class purchase homes (giving cash money for a down payment, helping the homeless get hair cuts, clothes for work, food, money for gas, etc. I’ve volunteered countless times to see where my money is being spent.

Since you asked, I can tell you it takes money to help people in need. When the hundreds come to Atlanta after Katrina, many came to the church for help. Now lets look at the church expenses. Like the light and water bill, the salary for staff. You guys don’t bicker about paying taxes the government take from you, but you complain about giving money that can help others. Any way…I can go on, but it really does not matter…does it.

By SexyLeggs

August 23, 2007 4:00 PM | Link to this

Dushawn I know she cussed you OUT!! I know it wasn’t funny then, but a little funny reading it now, except about the girl getting knocked up.

By Island Girl

August 23, 2007 4:03 PM | Link to this

Melo I just saw your comments about SW ATL looking like Rowanda….now who is to blame? Look the reality is, we all try to do what we can to help others, but there are some people that do not appreciate the help. They maintain a self-defenting attitude and do not take pride in community and society as a whole. just my two cents.

By Island Girl

August 23, 2007 4:10 PM | Link to this

*Gorilla O *…I agree with you. That is a personal decision. I don’t think I’ve ever heard Bishop tell the congregation to put themselves in harms way or in a position where they can not take care of themselves or family. That is why I respect him. If you don’t have money to give, give your time…volunteer, help others. That is what teacing is about.

By mqew

August 23, 2007 4:10 PM | Link to this

thanx melo, but my point was, you jus can’t please errbody… parents, fam, whomever. So efem

By melo

August 23, 2007 4:12 PM | Link to this

Island Girl,u doing good things, we see that. But the Bishop has excess fat!! He dont need all that around him for sustenance.!! I used SW as an example, to say for every maybach that a pastor(supposedly man of God) has, there is a wailing child going hungry. Look at urself and see if u not deceiving God thru ur lyfestyle.That opulence is distasteful!! A pastor cannot live just like anybody else.No

By Deeva4Life

August 23, 2007 4:15 PM | Link to this

Island Girl from one NewBirthian to another…as long as you know then that’s all that matters. Some people are determined they are going to view Bishop in a negative light therefore let them…as long as you are getting fed and you can see the blessings of your attendance at New Birth manifesting in your life…then that’s the real testimony right there.

By Tazzee

August 23, 2007 4:18 PM | Link to this

Island Girl as a former New Birth member myself, I can only say you are fighting a losing battle. Most of the folks that complain about the mega churches and their finances don’t give to ANY church on a regular basis. Most don’t believe in tithes and offerings and use the mega church as their excuse NOT to give their money to any church. And most don’t give a decent amount of their finances to any charitable organization, cause on a regular basis. So even if they didn’t have Bishop Long, Pastor Dollar or Bishop Jakes as an excuse to give to the church - they would have another target.

I admire your effort, and hang in there Lady!

By Hotlanta

August 23, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

Juanita ain’t playing. He has left up to God alright she has taken out a warrant.

By Momma Nem's On The Corner Of Memorial Dr. and S. Hairston Is Off Tha Chain!!! aka Gorilla O

August 23, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl, i try not to get into the religion discussions, but i do agree with Melo. Please tell me why any preacher needs to be driving a $300,000 car, have a million dollar home, where expensive jewelry, etc. regardless of where the money comes from, a pastor should make sure he’s living comfortable and put the rest back into the church and the community. instead of a $300,000 car, buy a $300,000 home, purchase a modest car (they have plenty for under $300,000), and leave the expensive jewelry alone. the $20,000 he spends on jewelry can go a long way to help people in need!

By melo

August 23, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this

And Island, the last time the AJC wanted to take a pick at Bishops’ inner finances with his charity foundations etc, he declined.I read stuff and i know, there are skeletons in that NBirth thing of urs.

By DuShawn

August 23, 2007 4:22 PM | Link to this

Melo I once read an analogy regarding one’s chosen place of worship. To paraphrase, it said: “Some flowers flourish more in bigger pots, others grow and flourish better in smaller pots. The size of the pot is not important, as long as the flower continues to grow.” I’ve attended New Birth several times. Frankly, I found the sermons that emphasized financial gains and debt elimination informative but redundant. However in the midst of all that prosperity preaching, I was often able to grasp a word that fed my spirit. I’m not overly concerned with the pastor’s opulence. From Dushawn and family, you get thirty dollars a Sunday, (if I go by myself its ten dollars.) What I take issue with, is that most televangelist that have reached that level of success have similar material trappings. I’m sure Billy Graham has a Jet and a Benz, but nobody mentions that. Additionally, Most of these Mega Church pastors are published authors, compensated motivational speakers, and have other investments that provide substantial revenues. All of their bread doesn’t come from the offerings. Last Sunday I went to Salem Bible Church. I enjoyed it a lot. The Physical facility is smaller, but just as nice as New Birth. The pastor was less flamboyant and more of a teacher of the word. More importantly, it didn’t take an hour and a half to get out of the parking lot after the service.

By Jake

August 23, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

I won’t get to far into the church money issue, but I’ll give my two.

The church finances report should be readily available to anybody who asks for them, no church should ever ask for your w-2’s, and no paster should preach prosperity every Sunday. You should talk about saving souls occassionally.

Dushawn Left the money in the mailbox…dayumm Cuban Arabs..lol. On another topic, hip-hop, I don’t know if you up on Little Brother (if not, you should