By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

September 7, 2007 8:42 AM | Link to this

Bella remember a saying that my grandfather used to tell me

God gives the best students, the hardest test

Sometimes in life we all must take chances, the fact that your girlfriend was willing to move showed she had faith in thier relationship….i am sure by talking he made her feel comfortable enough to make this move

In this Dog e Dog world we are in everyone wants the other person to jump first….if we all waited then no one would jump….Love is a beautiful thing…and i wish them all the success

We only need to look back at our grandparents to see alot of the stuff we jump ship for they ignored…now i am not saying they didnt get hurt, but they stuck it out and for the most part….they are happy

By AmazonRed

September 7, 2007 8:51 AM | Link to this

Maybe I’m just different, but I don’t think you necessarily move just for a man. You move for situation. No one blinks an eye or questions someone when they move for a job. And often time, you don’t even know if you’d like the job when you move! What is the big deal in moving to a city where you know there is someone you DO like?

I came to Atlanta for several reasons, one of them being a guy I was dating, (and not even in a relationship with). When I took inventory of my life, I was ready for a change, I wanted to buy a home, I wanted a better singles scene and I was looking to try something new in my career. So moving just made sense. If I ended up hating Atlanta, I could always go back home.

Sure enough, the guy and I didn’t work out (and I kinda figured we wouldn’t when I moved) but so what. Life and love is a gamble.

Life is too short and the world is too big for you to stay in one place for too long anyway. I feel more sorry for those who never step out of their comfort zone and really LIVE.

By AmazonRed

September 7, 2007 8:54 AM | Link to this

Amen “Mr. Entertainment on your post! Especially regarding the grandparents part.

Cheers to jumping!

By DeDe

September 7, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this

Most of us will agree that introducing children to a new significant other should be handled with care. The thinking being, they will be negatively impacted by a stream of partners in and out of the scene.

The same could be said for ourselves. Yes, there is benefit to meeting and getting to know a variety of people as we date. It helps sharpen our concept of what/who we really want. But do we really need to engage in “relationships” with every person that comes along? Maybe we should consider more carefully those we meet and put off serious involvement until we’ve established basic understandings, mutual respect being one of them. In other words, maybe we should strive for LESS of a “high volume dating culture,” as you put it.

To answer the question, yes, I’ve dated someone who didn’t respect boundaries, and I think it’s far too common. In fact, a married woman I know recently advised me on this. She said that from the beginning of her dating life, her now-husband badgered her routinely, mainly for sex. She stated that if she could do anything over again, it would be to “nip that in the bud,” not necessarily re: sex, but in that the dynamic carries over into many areas of their marriage. He pushes her to drink (she rarely does), and basically has no respect for her boundaries about plans, schedules, child discipline decisions, etc. If someone won’t honor your boundaries at the beginning of a relationship, and you let them, you’re setting yourself up for failure…..or a marriage of misery.

By pumpkin

September 7, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

Hey all..Ive been lurking for a while & I look forward to reading the comments…

Sorry….OFF TOPIC…where can I go to learn how to church….thanks

By pumpkin

September 7, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

Hey all..Ive been lurking for a while & I look forward to reading the comments…

Sorry….OFF TOPIC…where can I go to learn how to cook….thanks

By Foots

September 7, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this

I am simply at the point in my life where I would need a ring on my finger to start making major life decisions based on another person.

One experience I have with this was around buying my first house. I had been in a relationship with a man for about three months (I was 23, he was 27) and I knew that he was interested in long term. I had found a house that I wanted to buy, which he was not excited about AT ALL. He told me that I shouldn’t buy it, that he wanted me to wait until he built his house and that I could move in with him then. Basically, he felt that he should have his house first.

I can remember talking to one of my wise friends about it and she didn’t tell me what to do. But she told me that I could only make a decision based off of the information I had right now. (Oftentimes, when I have a decision to make about future stuff, I go back to this one statement - THANKS Lady Dark!!)

So, with the decision being either to provide for myself or wait to see if he would provide for me, I chose to provide for myself. We didn’t work out, of course, and I have never regretted that decision. Not because of the fact that we didn’t make it, but because I did what was right for me.

Would I move to a different city for a man? As much as I believe in Never Say Never, unless we were married or planning to marry, I’ll go with Never. Would I be cool with a man moving for me? He would do so at his own risk, meaning that I don’t want to take the blame if he moves expressly for me and our relationship goes south.

By Dan

September 7, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this

@GA MAN

Ditto on the jumping.

Along those lines, we men and women of the Atlanta dating scene have become so cautious of our emotions with regard to “putting yourself out there” that in a lot of ways, we’ve stunted our own growth.

I hear my sister say stuff like “I’m not doing this or that for anybody but my man.” My question to her then is, how can he get to be your man if he has all these preconditions to overcome.

I understand standards, we all have them, but to let “the dream” stop you from living in reality, is to me not bright.

I’ll say this and end my long post. Every new man/woman is not him/her. Be open to seeing not what you don’t want, but things you didn’t know you wanted.

By Foots

September 7, 2007 9:35 AM | Link to this

Great post DeDe!! I’m so over the high volume dating culture. And you’re right, getting to know different types of people has its purpose. But at my age, I know what I want and the type of person I want it with. And unless that someone comes along, I’ll be still warming this bench.

Have you ever dated someone who didn’t respect the boundaries you’ve set for yourself?

Of course. Instead of battling about it, if someone can’t respect me and what I’m about, I keeps it movin. Those types of things manifest themselves early in a relationship. Some people ignore them, thinking that they are small things, but it’s really indicative of how that person will behave in bigger and more important situations.

By Cemeeli

September 7, 2007 9:41 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers Regular Season Football in 3,2,1…yes, yes.

On Topic: What do you do to preserve your heart or your dignity in our high-volume dating culture? Set your boundaries, stick to them, only compromise when you feel your SO is willing to do the same for you. There will be times when you will have to change for the relationship to flourish. Who’s to say what those changes are b/c every relationship is different. As an adult you have to be able to know in your heart what you will or willnot do for the relationship. But you’ve gotta protect your heart as best.

By Sassy

September 7, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this

To Jump or Not Jump, that is the question. Personally I follow 4 rules in all areas of my life.

and finally …

Dating, regardless of where you live, is a challenge. Keep the faith and never give up!

By Foots

September 7, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this

Welcome Sassy, great comment also!

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. @Pumpkin, try “Church In The Now” in Conyers. However, if you’re looking for a regimented church service, this is not the place to go. Worshipping at Church In The Now leaves me with a wonderful feeling.

On topic - Mr. Entertainment said it all.

Off topic - I tried to watch a little of football last night, but I was extremely tired (which is unusual at that time of night) and couldn’t concentrate on the game.

By Cemeeli

September 7, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday Everyone.

Good post Sassy!!!

Hey Foots Wuz up?…i’m tryin to get in on a quick workshop or casual this weekend.

By The Truth

September 7, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

Good morning bloggers and bloggetttes. Wattup MLB. Wup Wup.

On topic: Great post Dede. High volumn usually means low quality. As I grow older quality is more important than quantity, unless we’re talking about a 3sum. LOL I don’t have preset markers because when I fall in love with a woman 10 minutes after we meet I feel like I’ve known her all my life. We were meant to be.

Welcome Sassy. Hi * Foots, Similac, Amazon. Wattup *Thunder Dan and Gaman?

On a sad note. I was watching the NO/Colts game last night and realized how much of a man I’m not. LOL Those dudes are huge and move like air. Was it just me or did those guys seem like they were lighnting bolts, and they hit like freight trains.

Pumpkin, I can teach you how to cook. My classes are held in the nude tho. WElcome.

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

Excellent post Sassy.

By Cemeeli

September 7, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this

Hey Sexyleggs Thanks for the Chrisette Michele recommendation i downloaded her CD lastnight. I listened to Golden and If I Have My Way about 800 times. Now all i need to do is sync it to my playlist…I have been sooo lazy lately. I feel ya on the going to bed straaaiight tied. I felt the same way lastnight. I may be hibernation time for me…LOL!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 7, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this

Morning all!! Happy Friday!! TGIF!!

As far as the boundaries go, my ex had boundaries that changed too much for my taste. I know we are all constantly changing but give me a break! I felt like I was always on eggshells cause I didnt know if what was good last night is all of a sudden the worst thing ever in the morning! LOL

I’ll be lurkin mostly on this one, taking notes as usual!

Truth you are funny about the game!

By Foots

September 7, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli Why don’t we try one of the new Risque Ballet classes? I wanna get my plie on! They also have a new Exotic Yoga class that I’m interested in. I think I’m going to the Open Pole on Sunday too.

Hey Truth.

By Cemeeli

September 7, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

Hey Truth. Sooo you got to see the game lastnight too. I thought the guys seemed kinda soft myself. I must have been real tired not to notice ‘freight trians’ on the field. I’m just glad the Colts won.

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

Cemeeliwoo hoo!! Knew you would love it. As I have always stated “If I Had My Way” is a beautiful, beautifully sung love song. Something must have been in the air last night for me to be in the bed at 8:45. Had my child shut down the internet and go read a book. I knew I was going to crash early.

MLB you’ll garner some brownie points if you bought Chrisette’s CD for your woman..yep yep!

By Foots

September 7, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

Mo Girl, dude was schizophrenic! I have an ex-boyfriend like that. I didn’t know who he would be the next time I saw him. It was rough!

Cemeeli You know what? I was so tired last night, I was in the bed at 10. I’ve just been so tired out lately. Is something going around?

By AmazonRed

September 7, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this

Shout out to The Truth, you are the first to give me a shout out on the board like I’m a regular.

And I have to give it up to the male responses this morning. Y’all are doing it right now. I wish there were more of you who’d step out out on faith.

By Cemeeli

September 7, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this

@Foots I read the notes on Risque Ballet lastnight i may do that class. Seems like it will be fun and very aerobic. One of the benifits i look for in these classes is will it give me a good workout. Cool…i’ll decided by tonight.

@Sexyleggs…your right if a dude would have purchased that CD for me he’d earn himself brownie points.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 7, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

Foots LMAO! I know that everyone goes through a phase of finding oneself however I was like you need to be able to stick to something for a while before you change it. Or be able to stick to your change. It was interesting to say the least…

As far as being tired, ya’ll know short weeks do that, especially when it starts off with an off day. It takes the rest of the week to get back on track!! LOL

By The Truth

September 7, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

Similac those are 300+ pound cats out there chasing down Reggie Bush. When I was growing up we’d tease those dude and run away. I couldn’t run from those guys last night. Dayumm.

Have you all seen the churc fight? Check this out: youtube.com/watch?v=P-QN5BeQC2Y

Ladies tell me what you think.

Foots if times are getting so hard you have to start working the pole let us know. We love you in blogsville and i’m sure an offering plate can be had in your name. We’re here for ya. LOL (Whispers) Let me know where you’ll be dancing on sunday. Wink.

Hey Sexxy. I’m going to get that cd today based on your recommendation. But for me. If its not good you have to clean my house in an apron. And nothing else. LOL

By Cemeeli

September 7, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

@ Foots and Sexyleggs Could it be because the Fall season is approaching us? With the reading up on harvest and body/seasonal change. I truly think we subconsiously hibernated with the seasons.

By Jake aka Sweet Peeda Jeeda the Womb Beater

September 7, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

What up Lovelies, head nod MLB.

I don’t believe in the boundaries theory. I usually go with what works in the relationship. I can respect anyone’s boundaries if they are realistic. As for high volume dating, never been my style, takes too much energy and you cheat yourself when you fill your plate; the Atlanta is just like Thanksgiving. You know you can’t eat all that stuff on your plate, you just end up wasting good food that somebody else could have enjoyed. Even if you manage to eat it all, you just end up feeling miserable because you are stuffed.

By Bella

September 7, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday everyone!

Great posts this morning!

By Foots

September 7, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

Truth LOL!! You crazy!! You know that I take the classes at PoleLaTeaz. Strength, fitness, flexibility, fun…too much to love about it. :-) I do want to teach lower level classes and I’ll earn my money that way, hopefully they’ll choose me to teach once I perfect a few of my inverted moves. That’s why I need to practice at the studio on Sunday, house #2 bills are a beeyotch! I can’t even shop like I wanna and it’s REALLY cooking my last grit! LOL!

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

TheTruth, as usual you have me cracking up over here. Honey, that’s one bet I’ll take because I only bet on what I know for sure…my mother taught me this at an early age. BTW, my legs would look a helluva lot better in some heels. Now, if you love it, or simply like the CD, you’ll have to clean my house wearing nothing but a tool belt filled with syrup, chocolate, whip cream and fruit…LOL

By IslandGirl

September 7, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

Hail to the Blog Hope everyone is doing well.

GAman…great post..thanks for sharing imparting some wisdom from the elders…God gives the best students, the hardest test.

Truth…you’re something else..3cum…I meant 3some…he he

On Topic

I’m not afraid of taking a chance that directly affects me, but if my actions affect my son…that’s a different scenario. As a mother, I will not move to another state to be with a man I’m not engaged too. I believe in faith and love, but when that faith rests in someone else’s hands…then that is a gamble.

* What do you do to preserve your heart or your dignity *….Besides holding out on the goodies until I’m ready. I don’t allow dates to meet my son. I think single parents have to be very careful about the people that come around their child (ren).

As a matter of fact I did not date for several years after his father and I broke up. I wanted to wait until he was older and more independent. By that time, I had more freedom to date and not feel guilty about it. I’m not saying every parent should do this, but this is my story and it works for me.

By Jewel

September 7, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

Good morning Everyone and Happy Friday!

Great comments!

Moving to a different city is a possibility I may have to consider…a colleague has offered my sweetie his position in D.C. once he retires next year. This will be a professional and financial promotion for him and I would not want him to turn it down because his lady lives in Atlanta. However, I will not make that move without a solid commitment, i.e. engagement or marriage. We have discussed this and if he decides to accept it, flying back and forth is where we will start.

but they stuck it out and for the most part….they are happy Absolutely true, GaMan. There is a lot we can learn about the “good ole days.” Also liked that comment about having faith in the relationship. Patience, faith, commitment, sacrifice, respect. All necessary ingredients for a successful relationship.

Off topic: Football, Schmootball I told my sweetie that I will stand between him and the TV in my birthday suit, with a football in my hand…Wanna play? LOL!

Have a Powerful, Productive, Prosperous and Positive Day!!!

By Foots

September 7, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli Good point, it could be the seasonal changes and shorter days, even though it’s still hot.

Truth Keep in mind that I was NOT, I repeat, NOT refusing the collection plate! LOL!!

By Cemeeli

September 7, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this

@ Truth…ur silly. Yes those dudes are big.

Check this: I have been invited to attend dinner AND Flag Football at my friends for Thanksgiving Holiday. Reason I added the FFB is b/c he thinks since i WHOOOP his tail at the Painball field last Laborday weekend that I wanna play him in f-football. * secretly…i do think it will be fun* wink, wink. But tell me what does a guy really thinks of a woman that has a tid bit of tom-boy in her? Is that taboo to guys when they date someone who is a lil more into that kind of stuff than most ladies?….

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 11:02 AM | Link to this

@IslandGirl, I definitely feel you on not letting anyone meet your son. I’m not ready for anybody to meet my daugther. It’s only been a year, not enough time has passed by. She asked me if I missed getting hugged, and I said I get all the hugs I need right from you. That put a smile on her face as she walked out of my room and a smile on my heart.

By BlatinoBrutha aka BLAT aka "Where the HE!_!_ have you been???"

September 7, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

Yo, GAMan, you need to holla atcha boi!!! bidnazz..

By Foots

September 7, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

GA.man God gives the best students, the hardest test

Well, good grief! Can he let a sista peek at a few of the answers???

By Jake aka Sweet Peeda Jeeda the Womb Beater

September 7, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

typo: the dating scene in Atlanta

By pumpkin

September 7, 2007 11:05 AM | Link to this

I meant COOK….Thanks Truth…u r so kind

By Staceye

September 7, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

Foots as a former ballet/modern dancer..I am trying to figure how they could make it Risque? I really gotta come to Pole-tease. I heard they are opening a second location is that true?

On topic: I moved to ATL for the reason of wanting new surroundings. I will always love my NYC I go home often but I had to move. Miami was my first choice but Staceye don’t do hurricanes! So here I am. I had a guy I used to date ask me if I wanted him to move here. I told him to do it because he is tired of NY and wants to do it for him. I also let him know I would help him find a crib so he would have a place to live when he got here. Basically letting him know he was NOT shacking up with me. That means you need a job before you get here. I will not take care of no grown azz man!

A few years back I was thinking of moving to NC for this guy I was with…but quickly came to my senses. I would have to be getting married to move for a man. It would have to be that he has more established in his city than I before I would make that move.

By AmazonRed

September 7, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

Jake, I’m soooo gonna use that Thanksgiving analogy. You’ve got ATL pegged correctly! Great post.

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this

@Cemelli, that’s a great question and I am so looking forward to the answer.

By The Truth

September 7, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

Foots you know I’m just messin. I love to hear that you have something you really enjoy in her life. It makes a woman more exciting. Do your thang girl.

Sexxy thats a bet. And the high heels are a must. You know you have to dust the TOP of my cabinets. Stretch girl stretch. LOL (The Truth now loading his tool belt with chocolate syrup, whipping cream, strwberries, champagne, some candles, a rose or 2, a furry little stuffed bear, some soft music, his deep jacuzzi tub, various body oils that taste good, those shower gloves that feel great, fur lined handcuffs, a towel to dry my mouth when I finish, and that Chrisette Michele cd) The Truth reports for work as ordered. LOL

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

@Foots, girl that has got to be the best answer I’ve ever read to God gives the best students the hardest test. Great answer!

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this

@Foots, sorry, answer wasn’t the best word to use. Great comeback question to statement….

By Jewel

September 7, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

As I grow older quality is more important than quantity, Now, that is the truth, Truth! LOL! The law of supply and demand…increased availability of supply, cheaper value. Why do some men think higher numbers gives them an advantage?

By Cemeeli

September 7, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

Jake Good analogy. Okay i can realte….hmmmm. Food for thought.

Foot if u start to teach a Level One class are you going to use better music selections? The classes i’ve attened the music has been blah, i’ve wanted to hand over my playlist. The flow of music is kinda what keeps me going.

By Dan

September 7, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

While I have no kids, I understand the impetus for not letting your child meet someone you’re “just dating”. I has and can create some serious issues for that child later on in life.

@Truth. To be honest those guys are not that big. I know pro ball players and I got a couple inches on those dudes. The difference is that they are solid. Even the 330pd dudes are like 10% fat. So while we play around, I don’t let them hit me. For I am litigous.

By IslandGirl

September 7, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs….that was sweet. Your daughter will remember that.

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 11:24 AM | Link to this

*@TheTruth I am actually laughing out loud. You even thought of the Jacuzzi…it’s on and popping. We are going to have a blast. Too funny!

Thanks IslandGirl

By Cemeeli

September 7, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this

Sexyleggs You and daughter have a great understanding i’m sure. That’s so sweet what you told her.

Islandgirl I have a son too. And keeping none potential men out of his space is what i keep in mind if i date. I will not have my son confused or wondering what is mom doing with THIS dude. Okay!

Staceye/Foots We just might need to meet up and take a class together. It may be fun to meet each other and get our work out on at the same time.

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

September 7, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

Foots you know that would be cheating

All you got to do is review like a test in school….if you pay attention half the time you will be ok for the test..you just have to review those things, that give you fits and learn from them

By Foots

September 7, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this

Staceye I don’t know either, but I wanna see. Since ballet is the base form of a lot of dance, it will probably help with our core strength/stabilization, balance, grace, and flexibility. Let me know if you wanna sign up too. We’ll kick down the door blog-style!

They do some mobile classes at different locations now, but I haven’t heard yet about a new studio opening. Could be though, they are really growing.

SexyLeggs Wouldn’t it be great to get just a few of them?? I’ve been on the same question for a minute! LOL!!

Cemeeli Now, if I Had My Way (plug for Chrisette), we’d be listening to Silk, Guy, Bobby Brown, Prince, Luke and Splack Pack the whole class. I think they want a little diversity in there! LOL!!

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

**Staceye, Foots, Cemeeli, I want to dance too…don’t forget me.

Thanks Cemeeli. Yeah my daughter and I get along fine. However, she is a teenager and school and her silly friends really occupy her for now. But it’s ok, I’m going to keep giving her life lessons as she matures.

By Tazzee

September 7, 2007 11:41 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks!

Haven’t read the comments - thought I’d first respond:

What do you do to preserve your heart or your dignity in our high-volume dating culture? When someone shows me who they are - I believe them. Meaning, as soon as someone does something off - I move on. It’s been a while since my heart has gotten involved with anyone, most of my dates have been ‘one and done’. But like LadyDark advised last week - from now I’m going to be more picky on the front end with accepting dates. Hopefully that will weed out the one and dones.

Have you ever dated someone who didn’t respect the boundaries you’ve set for yourself? I’m pretty sure I have when I was younger, but in the past 5 or so years I have to say no. Once they showed me that they didn’t want to respect my boundaries it was done. One guy - the first time we talked on the phone, I told him that I’m usually in bed by 10pm. I wasn’t laying down the rules or anything - but in conversation he found out that I don’t like to be called after 10pm. The very next night he called me after midnight. And I didn’t answer any of his subsequent calls. I asked another guy to give me at least a day’s notice if he wanted to go out (it was one of those ‘when are we going to get together’ conversations). He would call me the day of and ask me if I could go out that night. Each time I would tell him no - ask him to give me more notice the next time. This happened about 3 or 4 times before I just stopped taking his calls.

Have you ever dated someone whose boundaries you couldn’t put up with? I have to say no here also. I found out that the guy I was interested in had the boundaries before we made it to ‘dating’ - so we never made it to that stage.

Off topic - I am SO glad football season is here! Keith Brooking just called me!

By Cemeeli

September 7, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

GaMan You are about to preach up some real deal Holifeld with this;

All you got to do is review like a test in school….if you pay attention half the time you will be ok for the test..you just have to review those things, that give you fits and learn from them. If that ain’t the truth!!!

By Cemeeli

September 7, 2007 11:53 AM | Link to this

Tazzee Keith Brookings called you!?! Okay sure, i will be the one to ask! What K. Brookings calling Ms. Tazzee for? What was that conversation about? Can you or Keith get a sista’s Dunn’s cell#?

By Sassy

September 7, 2007 11:53 AM | Link to this

WOW!!!! Y’all are awesome, thanks so much for the welcome!

Everybody make it a great Friday and even better weekend!

Off Topic - Yeah Fall! Football season has begun … gotta love, tight men in tight pants! LOL Gooooooo Dawgs! Sic ‘Em!

By The Truth

September 7, 2007 11:53 AM | Link to this

Dam IG, that may be the answer for those of us without children too. If you wouldn’t bring them around your kids, if you had them, why let them into your life period. IG has solved all of our problems.

Thunder Dan lmao at “I am litigous”.

Sexy do you like lavender bath oil because thats all I have. LOL

The Truths softer side. My family is in town this week and much to my surprise I’m really enjoying them. They’re all grown adults now and we’re having a great time. I’m finding that in all the things I did to CONQUER the world I lost touch with what is really important. Family. So tomorrow before my sister leaves I’ll tell her how much I’ve missed her, give her a big hug and make sure its not another 14 yrs before I see them again. Being grown is so much fun. I even like her husband. Gotta step out for awhile. ITS FAMILY TIME.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 7, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs, Staceye, Foots, Cemeeli I want to dance too!! Somebody give all the details! Ya’ll know its friday so my mind is really in chill-bring-me-a-large-texas-margarita mode!!

Truth that is a helluva tool belt you got there! lol

IG I have a son as well and he will meet NO ONE til I say so and not a moment sooner.

By Cemeeli

September 7, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

Truth That’s good. It’s been a long time coming guy. I’m glad to hear you are really enjoying the fellowship and your showing love. That’s wonderful, much love. I am such a family person myself so i know how you are feeling to enjoy what you missed so many years. That’s cool as heck. Holla back later. Peace.

By Tazzee

September 7, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli LOL, it was the annual ‘we appreciate you’ call made to STHs. But NO, even if I did have access to Dunn’s # I wouldn’t be giving it up! every season I gotta fight some blogchic over my Falcon husband…

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 12:12 PM | Link to this

Ok, we have two groups here. One that will come over to my house and watch football with me (hopefully), and another that wants to dance, dance, dance…let’s make something happen.

Truth I love all oils.

By Cemeeli

September 7, 2007 12:15 PM | Link to this

Mo come on i’m down for it.

Look on their website and let us know whats a good day for you. That goes for SexyLeggs, Staceye and Foots lets synchronize ladies.

By AmazonRed

September 7, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

staceye and foots Thanks for discussing the Pole LaTeaz classes. My realtor referred me to Dance411 but Pole LaTeaz is much closer. You’ll be catching me in a class real soon!

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

September 7, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this

Sexy can i come and just watch ya’ll watch Football….lolololol

You know i am kidding….heck please dont forget the wings

By Cemeeli

September 7, 2007 12:21 PM | Link to this

Tazzee Stop! Girl that is my future babydaddy…lol.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 7, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

Jake sorry I missed you boo! What’s up! ;-)

SexyLeggs did you decide on a game or sunday yet! And I fall into both groups: I love football and I love to dance!! LMAO!

Tazzee you are funny for your Five Heartbeats moment!!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 7, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

Jake I missed you boo! What’s up! ;-)

SexyLeggs did you decide on a game or sunday yet! And I fall into both groups: I love football and I love to dance!! LMAO!

Tazzee you are funny for your Five Heartbeats moment!!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 7, 2007 12:31 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli Even though he totally against my Falcons code of ethics I would love to get my hands on Reggie Bush!! He’s a youngun so I wouldnt keep’em…..not too long, just enough to get him strung out on Mo!! LOL But on my team, I’ll take D.Hall

By Tazzee

September 7, 2007 12:55 PM | Link to this

Mo you know I was envisioning that scene when I typed that, LOL. Isn’t D.Hall the same age as Reggie Bush? I think D.Hall is only 23 or something like that. But I try not to lay claim on the married ones - if that were the case, I’d be ALL OVER Lawyer Milloy!!!

SexyLeggs See we women football lovers get a dual benefit because I’m always checking out the players while watching the game, LOL.

By AmazonRed

September 7, 2007 12:57 PM | Link to this

Ladies, you don’t have to worry about me going after your Falcon boyfriends. My Falcon boo is safety Lawyer Milloy #36! I’ve lusted after him since his days as a Pat.

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 12:57 PM | Link to this

**Mo, figured we can all get together and watch a game after Staceye comes back from hanging out of town for her b-day next week. Hey, you guys know I don’t know the schedule let alone who’s playing so I don’t know what Sunday would be a good game Sunday. You guys pick. I’m hosting a dinner for my daughter’s track team coaches on the 22nd as my way of saying thank you for all they do. I love to cook.

Cemeeli give me the website please.

By Bre'

September 7, 2007 1:04 PM | Link to this

Greetings to all, I hope that your Friday is going well.

“Golden” is a good wedding song.

**On topic” I’m in a long distance relations where the discussion has come up that he would not want me to move for him. And I could do nothing but respect that choice. I’ve always given up so much for others and he knows this. He is like if a dream job comes up in his city then that makes it worth the move then let that be the reason. But not for the relationship because we have been doing great with it being the way it is. Now maybe a year or year and half from now we will revisit the topic. But we are both open to maybe moving to a new city where we both get good jobs. So next year after our trips it might be on the agenda.

Life is full of choices you just have to make sure you are making them for the right reason. I’m all for taking the plunge with faith, with a side of good before thought.

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 1:07 PM | Link to this

Tazzee and AmazonRed has the same man…LOL

By Tazzee

September 7, 2007 1:14 PM | Link to this

Bre that’s some good stuff right there. While I’ve never been presented with the situation - if a guy I was seeing lived in a decent city and we were talking marriage - I would be open to moving. In my field I can find a job almost anywhere, and I would much rather experience the relationship while living in the same city BEFORE marriage than after. My motto is the same as when I’ve made each of my moves - I can always move back.

AmazonRed I was soooo glad we got Milloy! Then when I found out he was married with a gazillion chirren my fantasy was crushed, LOL. But I do have a black Milloy jersey for the games.

By QueDogTeaching

September 7, 2007 1:29 PM | Link to this

What up blog Said while speed blogging.

To me if you hold back you will never get all that you can out of a relationship. So I have no set timetables on anything. wait a minute, there is a timetable on when you can cut the fool But I would move if a good enough opportunity presented itself. And I am a real man.

As I have gotten older to preserve my dignity I have become ultra picky. I find myself cutting off talking to females for the smallest things. Saying off the wall things Why that Byotch cross the room on the other side of the dark restaurant looking at me (cut), Crazy baby daddy drama My baby daddy trippin he won’t bring ray ray home (cut), undisciplined kids Shut up momma (cut), talking on the phone too much when we are out Oooh that’s my girl let me get that (cut), Long toe nail on the big toe have to wear open toes shoes in December (cut), Too much weave can tell the difference between your hair and the bought hair (cut), Nasty house and bathroom enough said (cut), you change when your girls come around either get to uppity, or get to ghetto (cut). Used to date everybody, or everybody has your phone number every place you go either the bartender has her number or someone patronizing the place has her number (cut). It sounds harsh, but to me just grow up and do better.

By Jake aka Sweet Peeda Jeeda the Womb Beater

September 7, 2007 1:30 PM | Link to this

Hey Mo, how you doing sweetcheeks.

By NCGirlfromATL

September 7, 2007 1:41 PM | Link to this

Long toe nail on the big toe have to wear open toes shoes in December (cut),

QDT You are cracking me up!! I used to be a lot less, shall we say, discriminating when it came to cutting a fool. But now….talk about yourself all the time (cut), interrupts me when I’m talking…all the time (cut), hair looks like it hasn’t seen a brush since parachute pants were in style (cut), nasty house/bathroom (cut and breaking out the Purrell!), tries to talk in code about me to your boys when I’m sitting right next to you, like I’m too stupid to figure that one out (cuuuuuut), immaturity (cut), asking for sex on the first date, when we weren’t vibing like that (cut and put that thing away before it gets cut!), wearing Debos and white sock in public (cut), spends more time in the mirror than me (cut and sashay, Shante!), ghetto (cut), even more bousgie than me (dang, Cletus! cut!) lives w/ Mom (cut), not taking care of his kids (cut cut and cuuuuuut), got rims that are more expensive than the car (snip snip), RENTS rims (cut), and my favorite only calls me for legal advice and when he’s trying to “roll thru” (it’s a wrap!)

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 1:42 PM | Link to this

QueDog, man that doesn’t sound harsh at all. I think every example you gave deserved a justifiable CUT…LOL

By Foots

September 7, 2007 1:54 PM | Link to this

QDT and NCGirl Both of y’all have me over here rolling!! ROTFLMAO!!! Give me a minute, I can think of some…

SexyLeggs, Staceye, Mo, Cemeeli, AmazonRed, and anyone else The site is www.polelateaz.com. You can contact me offline at footswalker77@yahoo.com with your email addresses. We can decide on a casual class and all sign up together. I’m so excited about meeting up with y’all!!

By Cemeeli

September 7, 2007 1:54 PM | Link to this

Well looks like;

Tazzee has not understood that Dunn belongs to me.

AmazonRed is Milloy’s babymama.

Sexyleggs can’t wait to see big dudes in tight pants. & here’s that webby; [polelateaz.com].

Mo is robbing the cradle of D. Hall.

back to regular scheduled blogging.

By Dan

September 7, 2007 1:56 PM | Link to this

My time on this blog has been truly enlightening, from time to time I will check in, more looking than anything. But should I have the opportunity to speak with you all again, I will.

In the meantime, hold down the A, until my return.

The D

By Foots

September 7, 2007 2:02 PM | Link to this

QDT/NCGirl Ooohhh, what about nasty car that smells like feet (not Foots) (cut), not doing what you say you will do (cut), asking me if my job is hiring (cut), asking me for money after just bragging about your loot (CUT and a sliding scale coupon to nearest therapist), jealously asking me if I know the strange dude who happened to look at me (Edward Scissorhands up in this camp)…

By AmazonRed

September 7, 2007 2:04 PM | Link to this

Tazee Glad you feel me. The wife and kiddies killed that dream for me too. Unfortunately, I didn’t know about all of that until I read it in the program at a Falcons game. Talk about interception. LOL

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 7, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs Its me with the birthday next weekend! Now I am a season ticket holder for the Falcons so if you guys pick a home game I will have to miss, otherwise I am all for watching one of the away games if you guys should meet up for one.

QDT I am still laughing too hard at you but I agree with your post and NCGirl’s

Cemeeli well you know my ex was younger than me… LOL

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

Thanks Ladies. @Foots, just sent you my email address. Come with your “cut” scenarios. I know it will be a hoot!

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this

Off topic ladies, went to the site and beginning classes are all sold out. Why don’t you guys take a look at wwww.itdiva.com and “www.artofexoticdancing.com.”

By Cemeeli

September 7, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

Foots your additions to NC n QDT are hilarious. o-my! Dude asking if your job is hiring might have some hope. But then I would inform him if you get hired don’t think we can date. …JMW of thinking.

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

Thanks Mo. Ladies, you guys will have to pick a game that’s not at home so Mo can be there. You guys let me know.

By Cemeeli

September 7, 2007 2:27 PM | Link to this

Sexy We are meeting for a Casual Class or a Workshop if i’m not mistaken. As of lastnight those classes are still open for reg.

By SlimOne

September 7, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

Massa, I jus wen fo a drank a whaota. Isa promise i ain’t slackin awf!

By Cemeeli

September 7, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

…shoot Slim dun been gives a brek round here lets us gone din na’ to dat riva n’ sang us some freedom sungs’

*Cemeeli walking in by the riverside singing…. Iiiii, Iiii know i been changed…Oooohh Iiii, Iiii I know i been changed. Iiiii know i been change, da angles in heaven done changed my naaaame.

By IslandGirl

September 7, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

Ohhhh dayummm…NC and Que..you guys are on a roll

Now ladies, I’ve been busy with work all week, but not too busy to catch up on all the talk about pole dancing. I went to the website and saw the class are not available. I definitely would join in with you guys. Let island know about the game as well. I’ll definitely bring an island dish.

By Staceye

September 7, 2007 2:53 PM | Link to this

Foots,Sexxyleggs,Cemeeli & Amazon Red so let’s make a class day meet up. I ready to get my pole dance on! I got a lot of stillettos! I used to do it for my ex….chair dancing anyway.

Sexyleggs I think you got me mixed up with someone else. My b-day is in Deember.

By SlimOne

September 7, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli GIVE US FREE! GIVE US FREE! okay, gotta go spuuuuuuunnnnn slim scurries off into the woods never to be seen again….well okay, not to be seen again until Monday-a day off

By JustMe

September 7, 2007 3:02 PM | Link to this

Hey Y’all, long time no blog, hope everyone is doing well.

By AmazonRed

September 7, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this

Oh, I’m definitely signing up, whether you guys can agree on a date or not. I was going to go for the series, but I travel so much during football season, I would hate to miss so many. The monday classes were my best bet, but I’m trying to do Bible study! I guess that should take precident over the pole! LOL

I think I’m in town until the last week of September so any day that is good for the group is good for me.

By Cemeeli

September 7, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

run Slim run…theys got dem dogs taday…wes not been freed yet.

Hey Staceye the chair classes are what i’m doing. If you have tips, do share. I really can’t wait to see what the other classes are about.

By For Real

September 7, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this

QDT i am with you 100% on that one. My patience ain’t big as a knat. I cut a chick once bc I didn’t like the way she ate her food. Oh and I cut another chick bc after every sentence she would say “see what I’m saying”. Then there was another I cut bc she drags her feet. Lazy mf pick you feet up. I cut one chick bc she walked a 7 month old child. Her walk could throw porn stars off rhythm.

After reading what he wrote, For Real is wondering if its him with the problem? Hmmmm… Nawwww it’s them.. NEXT!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 7, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this

Hey JustMe!! How are you?

By Cemeeli

September 7, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

In Honor of the MIA Musing here are some lnchtme obsvs.

Lunchtime Observations:

• If you have to change lanes on a 4 lane road why you turn your blinker on after you almost ran my car over?

• Why have three different types of “private” restaurants in one plaza strip but no-one knows what they serve? Not even the employees.

• What is Wasabi? Isn’t that the green mustard stuff at the Asian Cuisine restaurants?

• Why does Wasabi make you cry when you eat it? Why would anyone make that a snack?

• If one more old lady smile at me and ask me if I think she should by the green sweater with orange sunflowers OR the purple sweater with the blue raindrops. I’m going to explode!

By Foots

September 7, 2007 3:14 PM | Link to this

I just checked and I don’t see any of the casual classes sold out for September. I think you can still get into Level 1 pole, but I recommend just trying out the studio with a casual class first, before making the $200 commitment for the program.

Here is the link to the class calendar: http://www.polelateaz.com/calendar.php

And here are the casual classes ($15 per): http://www.polelateaz.com/classes_casual.php

Are Saturdays good for everyone? I know that it’s hard for a lot of folks to go during the week…

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this

Saturdays are good for me.

Staceye, yeah Mo told me I was referring to the wrong b-day girl. What day is your b-day?

By Tazzee

September 7, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this

Hey JustMe - where you been? Are you working the dome this year?

By Cemeeli

September 7, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this

@Foots… i perfer Saturday Or I can work in a weekday if that’s what majority rule. Let me know.

Forreal lol at your cuts. Funny i knew a guy that would end his sentences with see what i’m saying. Draaab.

By JustMe

September 7, 2007 3:47 PM | Link to this

Hiya Mo I’m doing much better these days.

Hey Tazzee Yep Yep, I’ll be at the Dome this year, but if luck is on my side, I’ll be working in the Suites at the Dome rather than as a Concessions Supv. I won’t get to interact with the crowd on the lower level, I hope gratuities in th suites make up for the loss of fan interaction! Did you hang on to your season tickets?

By Foots

September 7, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this

Hey JustMe! I was JustThinking about you earlier…

For Real I don’t blame you about the eating and the dragging. I hate it when a dude is overly loud while eating (smacking sounds make me want to smack a brotha) and I hate when these women scuff up the ground with their shoes. I’m thinking, if you have to do all of that to keep your shoes on, get some shoes with a heel strap and pick your dayum feet up!

By Foots

September 7, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this

Three for Saturdays so far (Foots, Cemeeli, SexyLeggs). What say you Island, Mo, Amazon?

By JustMe

September 7, 2007 3:52 PM | Link to this

Hi Foots I’m back in action for the most part……

I wish I could sign up for the pole classes with you all, but I’m not quite ready yet…….

By Tazzee

September 7, 2007 3:54 PM | Link to this

JustMe yes - the only game I’m not going to is the Monday night Giants game. I’m pretty sure you’ll rack in the bucks in the suites - make that money!

By JustMe

September 7, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this

Tazzee That’s What’s up!!

Mo Money, Mo Money, Mo Money!

I’ll just have to get over ragging on the opposing team fans!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 7, 2007 3:59 PM | Link to this

Foots Saturday is great for me as well, I get off too late for weekday play! LOL

By NCGirlfromATL

September 7, 2007 4:12 PM | Link to this

Ok, done w/ my meetings…

Foots LMAO!! “Yo job got jobs?” No fool! We only hire illerate people! UGH! And I agree: no corn chips smell in the car, unless you are actually eating corn chips…which I can’t stand anyway! Wash yo feet mayne! I have a few more:

Volunteering a lie (cut), starting your latest lie with, “See, what had happened was…” (Dear Lord, please forgive me for this CUT!), telling me all about your baby mama drama (cut), your check card gets declined at dinner…at Mrs. Winner’s…AGAIN! (cut, and roll up your sleeves, cuz you’re about to get sudzy), your grown, nearly 40yr old butt is still wearing cornrows and hollerin’ Aye Bay Bay! (cut, and learn some Earth Wind & Fire, please!), Jhery Curls (cut and RIP).

Ok, I’m done for now! Have a great weekend!

Hold it in the road, now!

By Foots

September 7, 2007 4:15 PM | Link to this

Okay Ladies… For Saturdays (classes for $15), we have:

Sept 15 - 11:45a-12:45p - Chair

Sept 22 - 12:00p-1:00p - Risque Ballet

Oct 20 - 12p-1:00p - Exotic Yoga

What cha like, ladies?

By Foots

September 7, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this

NCGirl Girl, I almost spit out my tea!! LOL!!

And if I have to hear a dude complaining about his ex-wife and every little thing she ever did to make his life miserable or telling me all the ways I remind him of his ex I will cut HIM literally!! WHY do they think that we want another woman’s name constantly in our conversations? Dude, if you’re not over her, PLEASE don’t date!!

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

Staceye, are you a Capricorn or a Sagitarrian? I peg you for a Sag. Just curious.

By What you always wanted to know, but was afraid to ask!

September 7, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this

Whatever happened to Vick’s cousin, the one who started the whole mess?

why will the Democratic Convention be to the Preseidential election what the Western Conference Finals is to the NBA finals?

Why can’t the ‘publicans find a viable candidate?

why did that Senator resign if he really didn’t do it?

Is Arthur Blank more ticked that Vick can’t fill his stands, or that he got caught up?

Why didn’t Oprah invite Juanita Bynum to her Barack party til she got beat up? (bout like Biggie, when he said “you’re nobody til somebody kills you”)

why do y’all have to post that you’re going to a meeting? or you’ll be lurking for the day?

Why can’t the AJC find a dude worth moderatin’?

why does Usher’s new bride Tameka Foster come off as a gold digger?

what happened to the days of actually hooking up on the blog?

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this

I’ll take Chair.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 7, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this

What you always wanted to know, but was afraid to ask! We actually hook up here in the blog daily!! LOL Just teasing!

Foots Risque Ballet or Exotic Yoga works for me!

I am out ya’ll! Have a good weekend and I will holla atcha’ll on Monday!!

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this

Bella/WiseDiva, you are invited to join us in the football game when we finalize which date.

By Foots

September 7, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this

What you always wanted to know Tameka Foster is a woman?? LOL!

Ladies Since we are split on which classes, how about this? I plan to sign up for all of them, so once you sign up for the class (or classes) of your choice, let me know and I’ll be looking for you there. I figure that at least 2 of us will end up in each one. I’m just so happy that y’all are interested!! :-)

By SexyLeggs

September 7, 2007 4:54 PM | Link to this

Sounds good Foots.

Everybody have a fun, safe and relaxing weekend!