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Does size matter?
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Last week, Bella wrote that qualities such as “laziness, lack of leadership, lack of discipline, lack of energy or effort” were the qualities she associated with people who don’t work. I think these are also qualities that are associated with people who are overweight and obese. Many people who struggle with their weight, also find it challenging to get a date.
My friend Andrea turned a chubby guy down because she didn’t think he was healthy. She said that if she met a larger guy who was healthy, she would be willing to date him, but she referenced lazy as one of her concerns.
Have you ever had problems finding a date because of your weight? How did you handle it?
Do you think single people should lose weight in order to land a mate? How can you navigate dating while you are trying to lose weight?
Ladies, would you date a guy who was chubby or overweight? If that was the only thing about him that bothered you, would you be willing to overlook the weight?
Man are such visual creatures so the “don’t date fat chicks” rule is pretty much in their heads while they are still in the sandbox. Does this mentality change as guys get older?
What happens when you date someone and they gain weight after you have been in a long term relationship? Would you dump them?
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By Lady J
November 5, 2007 8:22 AM | Link to this
Good Morning Everyone!!
By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert
November 5, 2007 8:41 AM | Link to this
Good Morning All,
Oh Wisey, you know this one will bring out the morons.
Have you ever had problems finding a date because of your weight? No. I have had people say silly things to me like my stock would go up if I lost a few pounds. How did you handle it? Well, he is still breathing so that is a plus. Seriously, just because he was not interested in making a investment in my company, doesnt mean my stock is low or worthless.
Do you think single people should lose weight in order to land a mate? NO!!! You are who you are. If you want to lose weight do it for you,not because you hope to land a man or woman. How can you navigate dating while you are trying to lose weight? Just be yourself, focus on you. Please note againthat you are losing the weight to better you physical, emotional..etc. Not, to land some guy or gal.
Ladies, would you date a guy who was chubby or overweight? Been there done that. If that was the only thing about him that bothered you, would you be willing to overlook the weight? Never been a problem for me before.
By SlimOne
November 5, 2007 8:46 AM | Link to this
Morning ALL WLBers & MLBers
Have you ever had problems finding a date because of your weight? Um…nope. However, I have had guys say, “Girl, if you gain about 15lbs you’ll be FYNE!”
Do you think single people should lose weight in order to land a mate? I think a person should do whatever it is they feel they need to do for themselve to be healthy. You shouldn’t do things like that for the sake of someone else whether it’s about losing weight or trying to quit smoking. Same difference.
Ladies, would you date a guy who was chubby or overweight? If that was the only thing about him that bothered you, would you be willing to overlook the weight? Um, I personally am not into chubby guys. Folks are naturally attracted to appearance so how would i know that weight was that persons only thing that bothered me unless it was someone i already knew? Even then, I highly doubt that I’d consider dating that person. Yeah it sounds shallow…so shoot me for being honest. I wouldn’t want to have kids with that person because its very likely that weight gene could be passed on to them.
What happens when you date someone and they gain weight after you have been in a long term relationship? My ex did gain a little weight at the midsection. I didn’t do anything. Every now and then we’d both joke about it. His mom tried to encourage him to workout but he just wasnt feeling it. So like i mentioned before, you have to want to do it for yourself. Me or his mom saying Go workout, is not going to matter unless he had it inside of himself to Want to do it.
By binford
November 5, 2007 8:55 AM | Link to this
Morning Everyone!
Weight absolutely matters for a few reasons:
1)In most cases, it does show a lack of activity and bad eating habits - which will affect her future health profile.
2)Might be an indicator of self esteem issues or an addictive personality.
The reasons above are obviously not aesthetic , but are very important.
I know that I would not date someone that would be considered obese because it is contrary to my fitness philosophy. Not to mention I most likely be able to do some things (like run or swim) that I envision me doing with a woman I’m dating. My philosophy is eat to live not live to eat and someone I am with HAS to have that same view (not that I don’t enjoy food mind you).
Would I dump a girl who gained weight? Not as long as she was eating responsibly and exercising. Otherwise, I may to be quite honest.
I look at it this way… The more someone stays in shape, the healthier they will be and the higher probability I will be attracted to them. Because of that, we will bond physically more often and later in to life. That would most likely lead to better health and a better marriage. A circle of life if you will!
By Beautiful
November 5, 2007 8:58 AM | Link to this
that’s a hard one. i don’t think i would date the biggee smalls size. i always say that my limit is around 250 lbs. i’m like 118lbs. and i dont date guys thinner than me.
missy: “gurl, did u sleep with santa?”
nina: “yes i did”.
missy: “ho ho ho”.
lol. i can’t wait to see “this xmas”.
By Dan
November 5, 2007 9:05 AM | Link to this
Good morning,
According to the AMA I am a medical oxymoron. The charts say that I am obese. At 6’4” my 260pds make me obese. However my routine six month physical lists me in top shape with an 17% body fat ratio.
Doing research, I found that the “size” scales are driven around a certain body type (check the AMA website if you don’t believe me). A person of my dimensions (height, weight)is not even listed on there for consideration. So while I still stay in good shape, I’ve concluded that trying to conform to a society that wasn’t made for me, is not something I’m willing to starve myself for.
Two things and I’m out. 1)Anyone over 6ft can relate to this statement:”the world is not made for tall people.” And 2)the AMA charts and indeed medical science has not taken into account the change in height ratios in this country since the “standard” body type scale was written.
By AmazonRed 2.0
November 5, 2007 9:05 AM | Link to this
Never had problems finding a date because of my weight. Most guys are eager because they feel that even if I gain weight after kids, I’d still look good with more weight on me.
I don’t date fat guys. First of all, I don’t need to be crushed. The closest I came was dating a big guy was an OL on the football team in college. Lo and behold, I saw a pic of him years later and he blew up after his playing days were over.
If I were big, I’d date big people. But since I’m not, I don’t.
By 2CPTG©
November 5, 2007 9:06 AM | Link to this
Morning all……
never had a weight problem; and I try to stay healthy, so naturally I want a female who’s into personal fitness like myself. She doesn’t have to be a Buffy the Body type, but at least be toned, and height/weight proportionate…
By Dan
November 5, 2007 9:07 AM | Link to this
PS I like big butts and I cannot lie, you other brothers can’t deny…..
By QC
November 5, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this
Morning Bloggers
By AmazonRed 2.0
November 5, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this
Slim said: I wouldn’t want to have kids with that person because its very likely that weight gene could be passed on to them.
This happened in my family. Both my mother and my uncle married tall, slender people like them and had tall, slender kids.
My aunt went outside “the norm” and married a short, stocky guy. My cousins are all short and fat. Needless to say, they are each coping with inadequacy issues.
By MzLadyDiamond
November 5, 2007 9:12 AM | Link to this
Morning All…
Like men, I too am a visual person and must have some sort of attraction to a man, does his size play a part in that attraction, yes it does. I don’t have a problem with a few extra pounds or a little chubby, especially since I’m not a size 2, but it really comes down to how he carries the weight (isn’t that what they tell us ladies?). Now truth be told, I would rather date a man with extra pounds than a man who is a stick.
Back to lurking…
By me 2(formally purple lace)
November 5, 2007 9:13 AM | Link to this
Good morning Evrybody, Ladies, would you date a guy who was chubby or overweight? It depends on how much weight he’s carrying and how he carries it. If he’s sloppy about it then no. If he’s like the cashier at walmart then yeah, I wouldn’t have a problem.
By lady j
November 5, 2007 9:15 AM | Link to this
does a big butt make a woman fat or over weight?
By Hotlanta
November 5, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this
The way I be tossing/flipping men in bed a fat boy will have a heart attack for sure. I don’t need nobody coughing/weezing and going on. I hate it when I be getting my exercise on and homeboy look as if he is about to give birth and all up in my face. I use the method when I meet a man. When he stands up naked and you can’t see it and he gotta lift up his stomach. He’s tooooo fat.
By John Shaft
November 5, 2007 9:17 AM | Link to this
A thin girl with fake boobs will look better during a stroll through Lenox Square, but fat chicks are 10 times better when it comes to sex. Not only are they well-equipped to take a pounding, they welcome it.
By Dave
November 5, 2007 9:21 AM | Link to this
I am a guy who is overweight. I prefer women who have some weight on them but I don’t like it when they have a large belly. Big thighs and bottom are a turn on but since my belly is big it makes sex uncomfortable if she has a large belly too.
Skinny girls are not appealing, and they typically do not find me appealing.
By Foots
November 5, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this
Good morning!!
Have you ever had problems finding a date because of your weight? How did you handle it?
Not really. I was very skinny growing up and some guys had a problem with it, but there’s somebody for everybody, and I was never without a boyfriend for long. Shoot, I’ve GAINED 40 POUNDS since high school and now I wear a size 6. I was dayum near invisible back in the day.
Ladies, would you date a guy who was chubby or overweight? If that was the only thing about him that bothered you, would you be willing to overlook the weight?
I’ve dated guys who were a little overweight in my younger days, but I know that I would prefer someone more toned (doesn’t have to be cut, but toned, no bouncy flab). Health reasons, yeah, but mainly because I am a very visual woman and I want to be physically attracted to my man. If I’m not attracted, this party ain’t getting started.
Now if he gained weight during the relationship, what can you do? At that point, there would obviously be something keeping me there outside of the physical. I guess if I saw dude blowing up, we’d have to talk about it to see if there is a medical or emotional reason behind it. I would do everything I can to help us both eat more healthily and stay active physically.
By me 2(formally purple lace)
November 5, 2007 9:33 AM | Link to this
C’mon out G, I know you’ve got something to say….
I am very weight conscience. I”ve cut meat out of my diet 3 days a week to give my body a rest, I begin on Monday thru Wednesday. The end result is wonderful. My stomach feels so light and I have a buch of energy. At the end of my no meat for 3 days I introduce fish for two days and chicken breast or a turkey dish on the weekend. I plan to go for 4 days of veggie/salad and 3 days of light meat as time go by. No soda, only pomagrante juice and water.
By SlimDiva
November 5, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this
Good morning!
Recently a guy stated that he’s afraid that he may break me. I’m a size 3/4. I’ve never had a problem with getting a date. But like SlimONe, I have had guys say, “Girl, if you gain about 15lbs you’ll be FYNE!”
WHATEVER…take me as I am or have nothing at all. I prefer dating athletic built men. Nothing personal, I just don’t like stocky men or men with large bellies. That’s unattractive to me.
By Pat
November 5, 2007 9:35 AM | Link to this
Let’s see, weight problems seem to be a family fact of life but hubby and I made a deal when we were first married: I wouldn’t get fat and he wouldn’t go bald. Well, damn, we both lied. But after 30 years of marriage -we don’t even notice it.
By Dan
November 5, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this
@Lady J
There are two trains of thought on the glutious maximus: The first thought (and it varies by preference) is that thick thighs and a nice buttocks is good, meaning she’s thick. The second train of thought is that a small waist and nice rear is eye popping.
By Anon
November 5, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this
Ya’ll are a bunch of whiney snobs. Can’t accept a person for WHO they are? Looks really do matter here don’t they? I bet everyone of you is ugly in some way, just read your uppity comments. What a shame……look inside, that’s where you find the REAL person. What’s that about judging a book by it’s cover??
Some people can’t help that they are overweight, some are happy with themselves, some have very happy, active lives…….too bad you are missing that point.
No wonder ya’ll are single……sad, sad, sad…….
By lady j
November 5, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this
@Dan…Now I am feeling you…butt and thighs here…lol
By binford
November 5, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this
Anon
Welcome to how this world we live in works! We all judge books by their cover - at one point or another. How many people with minimal talent get by on looks? There is a reason for that! Is it pleasant to think of that? No. But facts are facts.
Would you prefer we lie? And if you read my post earlier, there are very valid reasons not to want to be with someone who is obese. It doesn’t make me happy to say those things because I do know lots of nice people who are big. And I’ll be happy to be friends with anyone.
Now someone I may marry and have kids with …I’m infinitely pickier with that.
I may be ugly on the inside and shallow - but at least I won’t lie to myself and someone else :)
By T-Mango
November 5, 2007 9:50 AM | Link to this
Well, the title of today’s topic grabbed my attention. Now I realize that we are talking about weight…ahem
Luckily, I have not had to deal with weight issues on my end. I do light exercise and try to eat right to maintain it.
Yes. I have dated men that were on the larger side. But, there is a difference between being larger and in shape versus being large and out of shape. The guys that I have in mind started out being larger and in shape and eventually became out of shape due to partaking in various libations on the regular, eating too many Checker’s burgers and not being active. Honestly, I just could not get over the weight gain-especially in the midsection. It was a turn-off to me. The rest is history…
Have a great day-
By AmazonRed 2.0
November 5, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this
Anon, your points are valid but so what. There are REAL people of all shapes and sizes, there are HAPPY people of all shapes and sizes, so I just prefer to go after one built like me. Nothing wrong with that.
By Jazzyone
November 5, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this
Morning ya!..I am tall and thick, not fat not skinny just right. I am happy with this. Im more into my health and diet not so much because I want to be appealing to another but want to be happy with what i see in the mirror. keeping my weight in control makes me feel sexy and I can wear the clothing that I do tend to spend a good amount of money on last so much longer.
This works for me because of the new house those dayum stairs I never wanted, keeping busy, the horses and my other busy active lifestyle and I clean my own home. I tend to prefer a man with height and some healthy weight on him because I am not for the faint at heart. Anything under 200 pds im really not into and anything over 250 means im restirciting your diet if im cooking wihtout you even knowing it…
By John in Tampa, FLA
November 5, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this
Word of the day: SHALLOW
By AmazonRed 2.0
November 5, 2007 9:59 AM | Link to this
Pat, I loved your post. Best of luck to you and your hubby!
By Foots
November 5, 2007 9:59 AM | Link to this
Anon Chemistry and attraction are funny things. People like what they like. Does that make them wrong? Nope. They just need to find what is attractive to them. What makes them wrong is when they deny what they like and instead try to change the person that they chose into what they think they ought to be, when that person was like that when they met them.
If I met a guy at school, work, or any other place where we could get to know each other under natural circumstances without dating pressure and I found that I liked him as more than a friend, I would pursue that regardless of his size. In those instances, you find out over time what the pages say and the cover doesn’t really matter.
But as it happens, most of the time, I am approached by a stranger who I know nothing about and he knows nothing about me. How do you know what’s inside the book then? You don’t; the “cover” invites you to read the pages inside.
By SexyCool
November 5, 2007 9:59 AM | Link to this
prefer that my mate be in shape…nuff said…however…i have dated guys that were not…
coach takes pretty good care of himself and we’re both physically active…so right now…it’s not an issue at my house…
By Beautiful
November 5, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this
binford good comment.
By Jazzyone
November 5, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this
Anon personal pref is just that if you prefer something different well then be happy with it..but don’t knock others if they know what they like and are attracted to. I prefer a man that is of a helathy weight and tall becasue thats just me. I have dated men that have had a few extra pounds and they don’t fit my lifestyle, energy and so forth, I don’t want to deal with the medical and health issues that come with obesity so there you have it.
What kills me is when you have fat mack who says he doesn’t want t fatty girl..Hilarious to me…how you going to ask for something that you can’t even be to another…LOL
By RELL
November 5, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this
I have dated them in all shapes and sizes..so does size matter….sometimes, but i go with it like this
You dont return a BMW because of a dent…you fix it….same with weight…you fix it….feel me
By For Real
November 5, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this
For Real now opening Slim’s pop-up book.
By ThirdWheel Shortie
November 5, 2007 10:18 AM | Link to this
Good Morning Everyone!! Here are my answers down below….. Have you ever had problems finding a date because of your weight? How did you handle it? * Yes, I have that problem all the time. I am 5’5’ and 250lbs and I suffer from an insulin resistant disease. The way I handle it is I just don’t date. I don’t look at guys in the eye and I stay to myself.* Do you think single people should lose weight in order to land a mate? How can you navigate dating while you are trying to lose weight? No, people should not lose weight just to get a date. They should lose it because they want to or for health reasons. I tried losing weight and it worked at first and the guys were a calling but they ended up being jerks!! Ladies, would you date a guy who was chubby or overweight? If that was the only thing about him that bothered you, would you be willing to overlook the weight? Yes, I would be willing to date an overweight man because I know he can lose the weight. But what I have discovered is that overweight men do not want to date overweight women. They want their women thin… I have come across a lot of these on eharmony.com.
By BLAT
November 5, 2007 10:18 AM | Link to this
Morning Blog!!!
Actually, the blatino has made the most of his return to teddy bear status… Many of ya’ll have seen pics, so you know I looks good, but I still have my gut. I’m sure there are women who feel I’m too big for them, but I’m getting so much more play now, heavier than I was last summer when i was quite fit, that i hardly even notice.
By binford
November 5, 2007 10:18 AM | Link to this
RELL
You analogy is off. And this discussion, to me, is not about a few extra pounds.
If someone has a fundamental way of doing things that is contrary to your way OR a widely considered “healthy way”, the impetus for change has to come from WITHIN!
You can’t change anyone. You can only hope to tweak someone.
They can fix their own dent, get a tune up and I’d be happy to ride!
By Jazzyone
November 5, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this
Dushawn If you are here, i visit Miami Florida at least 2wice a year but have never been to the infamous Alturo Sandavals jazz club have you and if so details??
By SexyCool
November 5, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this
also…i’ve read that size does affect size…that overweight men who lose weight report gaining inches in their, um…you know…
laughing…but i really did read this somewhere…
By Jazzyone
November 5, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this
Tp keep it really really real?!..I prefer men that carry their weight well under 200 or over 200. it doesn’t matter as long as his other criteria fit the bill i’m down and will cutcha’ bout my man..j’k..LOL…
By SlimOne
November 5, 2007 10:36 AM | Link to this
For Real That must be the bootleg copy of my pop-up book…..PRE-surgery hehehehehe
By For Real
November 5, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this
The problem with fat, overweight, slightly overweight, thick or any other term of description, is that everyone has a different definition.
Weight is also in the eye of the beholder
By Hotlanta
November 5, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this
Anon what do you mean that is why we are single and saying sad. Please I feel sorry for you if you married sometimes and you didn’t have any kind of standards. That is sad. First of all Biggy Smalls made it bad for the fat/obese men. When Gladys called Ruben the Velvet Teddy Bear it made it worse. When Madesa was on American Idol everyone kept talking about her weight but no one mentioned FAT Ruben. Why are men cute fat but a woman looks ridiculous. I love the show the Biggest Loser and you notice the men weight 300 and up and wives are skinny. Women are more accepting of fat men than men are accepting of fat women. I ain’t gonna marry a fat,obese man because when one marries some people gain weight and I ain’t gonna sit there and wait for him to get so big he starts floating like the Goodyear Blimp. Then if I was to complain about it you will be the first one to say” well he was fat when you met him stop complaining about it now”. I look at men the way a gay men looks at another man. If you ain’t fine, just keep on a stepping.
By RELL
November 5, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this
@bin….thats fine if you dont agree..but dig this homie…there is a difference between being fit and healthy..you can be fit and unhealthy at the same time…ya dig..check family genes.
By Hotlanta
November 5, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this
Anon what do you mean that is why we are single and saying sad. Please I feel sorry for you if you married sometimes and you didn’t have any kind of standards. That is sad. First of all Biggy Smalls made it bad for the fat/obese men. When Gladys called Ruben the Velvet Teddy Bear it made it worse. When Madesa was on American Idol everyone kept talking about her weight but no one mentioned FAT Ruben. Why are men cute fat but a woman looks ridiculous. I love the show the Biggest Loser and you notice the men weight 300 and up and wives are skinny. Women are more accepting of fat men than men are accepting of fat women. I ain’t gonna marry a fat,obese man because when one marries some people gain weight and I ain’t gonna sit there and wait for him to get so big he starts floating like the Goodyear Blimp. Then if I was to complain about it you will be the first one to say” well he was fat when you met him stop complaining about it now”. I look at men the way a gay men looks at another man. If you ain’t fine, just keep on a stepping.
By Hotlanta
November 5, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this
Anon what do you mean that is why we are single and saying sad. Please I feel sorry for you if you married sometimes and you didn’t have any kind of standards. That is sad. First of all Biggy Smalls made it bad for the fat/obese men. When Gladys called Ruben the Velvet Teddy Bear it made it worse. When Madesa was on American Idol everyone kept talking about her weight but no one mentioned FAT Ruben. Why are men cute fat but a woman looks ridiculous. I love the show the Biggest Loser and you notice the men weight 300 and up and wives are skinny. Women are more accepting of fat men than men are accepting of fat women. I ain’t gonna marry a fat,obese man because when one marries some people gain weight and I ain’t gonna sit there and wait for him to get so big he starts floating like the Goodyear Blimp. Then if I was to complain about it you will be the first one to say” well he was fat when you met him stop complaining about it now”. I look at men the way a gay men looks at another man. If you ain’t fine, just keep on a stepping.
By Jazzyone
November 5, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this
Thick to me means, small waist, ample bust..phat a* that doesn’t look like a elephant on your back….
By binford
November 5, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this
RELL
Think of someone you date as a mutual fund: You gonna pick a Morningstar one star or a five star?
While past performance does not predict future earnings; I’d rather put my money in the fund that consistency performs.
Genes I can do nothing about. But I’m willing to wager on the one who I see makes the effort I need. Results may vary.
By Dan
November 5, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this
And for the record the D still runs a 6:30 mile. Anyone wan test me, bring ya raskas!
By SexyLeggs
November 5, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this
Good morning, everyone. Size matters to me. I can’t do skinny men. The visual of bones clanking against bones is too much for me…LOL I need some meat on my man. I do not like the big belly thing. And because I don’t eat junk food, wouldn’t be able to date someone who did the junk food on a regular. Foots, I too was practically invisible growing up. Reading that made me laugh. My mother put rocks in my coat pockets so the wind wouldn’t carry me away…LOL. I’ve gained 25 pounds in the past 30 years. Very hyper thyroid. Anyway, as long as the man took great care of me with respect, appreciation and did the same for himself, we can do some things together.
By Staceye
November 5, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this
Dan are yu really muscular? You know muscle weighs a lot more than fat. I found that out the hard way. I was starving myself and working out excessively (including weight lifting) and wondered why everyone said I looked smaller but that scale was not budging. Then I my trainer let me in on that bit of info.
I tend to love guys that are tall with some mass to them…not fat. I am not really into skinny guys..I think he can’t withstand a strong wind if it blew. LOL But I have dated a guy who had a bit of a gut. I was really into him…but I did try to help change his diet and get him to work out with me to lose it because it was not attractive to me. Men’s clothing can hide so much! But really I love a man who is in shape because it makes me think he cares more to keep himself healthy can actually cares about his appearance. The same way men are visual…so am I. I have to be physically attracted to a guy (as I stated in my pass postings)for anything to really manifest. I think everyone has their own preference…some guys like skinny, some like thick and some like BBWs. I won’t knock someone for their preference…so why do women got knocked if they can’t see passed a man’s outer appearance, but it’s ok for men to say I won’t date a fattie?
By melo
November 5, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this
Oh Wisey, you know this one will bring out the morons I know how she looks based on this! Size matters(even of that one too) Most fat women have low self esteem anyway.And i notice that the chubby go with the chubby. If u fat u not atractive to the eye and no matter how good a person u are, potential dates will pass u by. Average guys think fat girls are easy(maybe its a perception)but hey, perception is reality!
By RELL
November 5, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this
@BINFOLD…lol, at you dawg..i see your point, but i have dated women that started out size 4 but ballooned to size 14….sickness…i have also dated the reverse 16-8…did the size affect the person..not really, they were still the same….most of the women i have dated have all been eazy on the eyes…some had a lil more meat..some did not…weight does not affect me one way or the other….just know they all are going to be dymes and they will bring more to the table other than looks and some arse..feel me…..
By me 2(formally purple lace)
November 5, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this
Melo Average guys think fat girls are easy(maybe its a perception)but hey, perception is reality! I’ve heard that statement several times and it holds true to my observation. The same men who say they don’t find fat women attrative are the same ones who’s sneaking thru the back door for s@x. My ex told me if I get fat he would leave me, fast forward 15 years later he married a big girl with 4 kids, go figure! IMO men love big woman but society won’t let them since you can’t be big and beautiful at the same time.
By NICK
November 5, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this
BOTTOM LINE….
FAT is DISGUSTING!
That is the reason fat girls have to be sluts, if they’re not, then NO ONE will give them the time of day (unless it is a fat white girl, blacks and browns just love anything white).
If you are fat, change your lifestyle.
Stop eating all the crap you like to stuff your face with and get to the gym.
Once you start seeing the results, you will work that much harder, but you have got to change your diet and exercise. It does no good if you do cardio for an hour and then pick up MickyD’s on your way home from the gym.
By health
November 5, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this
For me, it’s not looks so much as health. As we all know, 60% of people in this country are supposedly obese (not to mention how many are somewhat overweight). Many, many people who are not particularly slim and trim have normal, happy lives and relationships. I know someone who is recovering from an eating disorder and their spouse eats constantly, and it makes it really hard for them to maintain their recovery and peace of mind to live with someone who’s eating constantly. Plus, it would be hard to live with a person who is blatantly eating (or smoking or anything else) in an unhealthy way, overweight or not, and the writing’s on the wall as far as significant life-threatening health problems down the road. I for one would not like to watch my spouse die in a painful, miserable way if they could possibly avoid it by changing their diet and exercising.
By SexyCool
November 5, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this
another thing…fat and sloppy is different than a person with extra pounds…
also…when i look at bigger people…my immediate thought goes to their level of health moreso than their body shape…
although…i do look at some shapes and think, Dayum, didn’t you see that coming?
By The Truth
November 5, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this
Good morning blogsville.
Dan I read your post earlier and it brought back a thought I used to have. You fit in that group of cats at the pen that I worried about most. A cat your size is hard as hell to fight. To big to throw around and still fast enough to cause problems. For a dude like you I called in the goon squad. LOL Now Dan if we ever have to fight I gotta put that hot led in ya. LOL Really, dudes your size ruled the joint. Thats not a bad mile time either.
In the 10th grade I wrestled 127 lbs. When I went in the army the next yr I weighed 135 with a 28 inch waist. When I fought in local/battle of atlanta karate tournaments in the early nineties I weighed 190 lbs with a 31/32 inch waist of pure kickass muffaga. Cut and chiseled. (Self promotions are still allowed aren’t they?) That is my ideal weight. I now have a 34/35/36 (depending on how much I ate, literally lol) waist but I can still get back to a 32 inch waist with a little/lot of work. I am 5’11. Not to bad for a guy my age but even i can do better. I have to stop letting my weight fluctuate in the winter when I hibernate (hate cold) and stay on my schedule. Every year it gets harder to drop those pounds and get the metabolism going again.
My point is I don’t want a big girl and like women that are healthy and active. Now at 44 I don’t need a woman with a 6 pack but she shouldn’t be breathing hard and weezing if we’re out walking either. A good size range is 6-10 ( 10 only if she’s taller). Girls who are size 14-20 are unhealthy and its only going to get worse as she ages or after kids. I cant even imagine the mental issues weight like that causes.
Size matters, brain capacity matters, everything matters when your talking about a potential mate.
For the fellas: Stomach out, wood in. Not only do you lose wood but it stops functioning correctly if it works at all.
Anon is there something you want to talk about? LOL
BTW, American Gangster was the bomb diggity. Take a peek.
TC, ev1. Have a great day.
By RELL
November 5, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this
ya know what i really hate..is a skinny chick that smokes but will talk about a bigger person who may look unhealthy..feel me, that is what i am talking about binfold..RELL DOES NOT DO SMOKERS…dont care how fine you are..er time i see a smoking lady, i think about lil rudy on the cosby show…if you smoke it makes your breath stink..then you die…classic….appereance does not always = health….thats all i am saying
By health
November 5, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this
SexyLeggs says: “And because I don’t eat junk food, wouldn’t be able to date someone who did the junk food on a regular.” Ditto, for me this is the crux of the matter. I am a healthy eater and it’s depressing for me to live with my significant other who eats junk food and opens soda cans constantly. For me it’s not so much the aesthetics because lots of people with a heavier build eat healthy and exercise.
By John in Tampa, FLA
November 5, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this
I work and bring home good money
I split the household chores
I am loyal to my wife
I never turn her down when she wants sex
I treat her family with respect and never embarrass her in front of them
I compliment her often
I listen when she speaks and never ridicule or condescend
We travel often (Europe twice this year) and enjoy each other’s company immensely.
Oh yeah, I am overweight but for some reason she doesn’t seem to mind. Go figure, huh.
By Staceye
November 5, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this
SexyCool although…i do look at some shapes and think, Dayum, didn’t you see that coming? I think the same thing.I can tell if I gain 2 lbs and I do a little something extra to get that off…so how people sit around and let 20+ lbs creep up on them is shocking. Now of course when I go away on vacation I tend to drink and eat a little more than usual, but trust me when I say I hit the gym with a vengence while either on vacation or as soon as I get back.
Health I can identify with your friend that is recovering from an eating disorder..it is very hard to be around someone who eats constantly and in an unhealthy way.
By Vee
November 5, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this
NICK you need therapy! i know you could’ve said that better than that
By 72inches225lbs
November 5, 2007 11:35 AM | Link to this
@ Purple lace the way i see it, it’s not so much as fat women having low self esteem because they do, as much as the average man having low self esteem and afraid to approach women who are deemed as very attractive. Sit back and take note. Very in shape fine women seldom get approached. Men may undress them with their eyes and stare but never step. Then you take a female with a little weight on her from slightly overweight to obese and dudes holla with the confidence of a gladiator.
By Dan
November 5, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this
@Staceye
Yeah I still have my shape from high school (all-state)and college. I might just put on a few pounds here and there, but that’s what the Doc and a trainer told me too.
She was just as surprised as anyone that all my blood levels and things were in line, but we don’t really talk about it anymore.
A trainer friend of mine described it as body typing endo-,ecto, meso- morphic body types. Each body type has to do with fat distribution, caloric intake, even muscle mass. I happen to be mesomorphic so no matter what I do I’ma be a “big” guy, I just do enough not to get gut-over-the-belt big. Stay in the “damn, he must drink a little bit” big area.
By lady j
November 5, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this
great p.o.v. RELL…
By binford
November 5, 2007 11:41 AM | Link to this
PEOPLE! Please be respectful. Regardless if you believe its a lifestyle choice or genetics, no one wants to be referenced with a derogatory term such as disgusting - because they are not.
Doesn’t mean you have to be buddy-buddy with anybody or share a root beer float - just you wouldn’t want anyone cutting you whatever you are self-conscious about.
By AmazonRed 2.0
November 5, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this
I love junk food. I eat it everyday!
By The Truth
November 5, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this
I’m thin/skinny and always have been. I don’t date fat women…flame retardant suit on. If she’s larger than a size 12 um passing on her. I can’t get the visual of an ant on an elephant outta my mind. Granted there are some beautiful and sexy “thick” sisters. Hey, we all know what thick means…
By binford
November 5, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this
RELL Smoking is a HUGE deal breaker. They might as well take a bath in a porta-potty!
NO DEAL!
By AmazonRed 2.0
November 5, 2007 11:47 AM | Link to this
Okay..for the overweight folks on this blog, your childhood demons are coming back. John in Tampa, good for you. You sound like a good guy with a good wife. Keep on doing what you do and you won’t have to worry about hitting the singles scene again.
By lovelyliz
November 5, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this
Weight is much more of an issue for women. Perhaps it’s because women can’t lay claim to that whole football player body image.
For women to be skinny the assumption is that she works hard and eats a healthy diet. That she could be anorexic is as alien a thought as is that an overweight woman could be rather athletic and a hard worker.
Sticking a finger down your throat is acceptable but actual food is not.
By Kara
November 5, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this
Nick doesn’t know what the word tactful means, but he makes a good point. Black women aren’t usually held to the same physical standards as other races because we are shaped differently. Black men are more forgiving of shapely, curvaceous women then other races.
By lady j
November 5, 2007 11:51 AM | Link to this
good post binford and Truth you are so stuck in your ways…lol
By BennyB
November 5, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this
Obesity is not sexy or healthy. If one cannot take care of the self, then one does not have love for the self perhaps not lovable. I guess, if one has some weight on, it will be fair to look for a mate with the same package.
Some brothers out here are so packed up that I wonder if there are some hidden for rent rooms on back of fast food restaurants. The other day I saw a cousin of mine at a wedding, she was one of the bride maids; she was in all white; from distance she looked like a FedEx delivery truck without the company logo on it. I was like damn girl, you look like buy one and get one for free and she said I’m not fat, just thick…………I got to say that when I see those sisters that make Paris Hilton look obese, I can’t help but wonder if they live in the condo complex near the cemetery.
Personally, I see both obesity and slenderness as disorders that can be caused by stress, anxiety, negligence or ignorance. If you have a balanced life and you are successful at balancing your body mass, there is a strong possibility that you may be successful in others areas of life…….if you try.
By lovelyliz
November 5, 2007 11:53 AM | Link to this
Of course there are several rather large men I work with who have admitted they would never date an overweight woman.
Double standards exist.
By RELL
November 5, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this
@Lady J….thanks….waving at you lady
@72in….cosign your post…
By Ken Roberts
November 5, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this
Look people, your weight doesn’t define “who you are”. If you lost 20 lbs, you would still be you. Just healthier (probably). It is absolutely acceptable to not date someone because of their weight, unless they are physically fit individuals who just have a bad body type.
I would not date a fat woman, ever. First of it is physically repulsing. There’s nothing worse than getting a woman naked and seeing it all fall down. Secondly it shows a lack of self discipline and willingness to work towards self-improvement.
Fat people are not only unhealthy, but also tend to be less happy and have less energy. They also die earlier and are much more likely to catch disease. There are many other drawbacks as well, and zero positives. Why date a fat person unless you have to?
If you’re fat, get in shape. Don’t get too thin, but be a healthy weight (this does not mean only a little obese). Otherwise you’ll never get a worthwhile girlfriend or boyfriend, regardless of what these jokers say.
By John Law
November 5, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this
The Truth @11:27 Apologize for hi-jacking your name with my 11:44 post. I’ll use John Law in the future.
By RELL
November 5, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this
Lets not ignore the fact that our community could use a shot of health awarness….we all could be a lil more active or say no to that third piece of pie…or maybe it is time to do away with grandma bake mac and cheese…lol..again you can still be fit but live unhealthy…
By Staceye
November 5, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this
Fellas…what does thick really mean? I have seen fat girls call themselves thick…but I see a guy call a girl thick and she just has a coke bottle shape (not fat, just curvy). Which is it? I also hear fat girls call themselves voluptous and cury as well. So as a woman that is neother skinny nor fat…what is she considered? Just asking?
By Ken
November 5, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this
And yes, I would break up with someone if they gained a large amount of weight. I would even divorce a woman if that were the case, except during pregnancy menopause. That’s one of my big fears about getting married, since woman getting fat is such a common trend these days. I’ll probably marry an overly thin woman just to avoid the possibility of her ballooning.
By lady j
November 5, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this
waving back rell….:)
By AmazonRed 2.0
November 5, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this
It’s funny…when big girls get upset they eat. When thin girls get upset they stop eating. BennyB is right when both sides of the coin can be brought on by stress. In 2004, I had surgery and was laid up for 2 weeks. I dropped to 119 pounds! (I’m 5’11”). It was all bad. It’s took me over a year to get back to my “normal” size. I just got weighed on Friday, and I’m the heaviest I’ve ever been…a whooping 138 pounds. I always have to watch myself when I get stressed…because the weight will just fall off. So I have very little stress in my life!
By Sybil
November 5, 2007 12:06 PM | Link to this
I can remember the first time i had sex with a guy who had a fat belly.
I laughed with my girlfriends about the fact that his stomach rested on the top of my a ss while he was hitting it from the back. LOL!!!
By Hotlanta
November 5, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this
I don’t date men when I put my bras on he needs to wear one also. Ain’t nothing worse than see a naked man with sagging droopy breasts. Makes you feel like you are on a farm. AUGGGGG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.
By RELL
November 5, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this
Secondly it shows a lack of self discipline and willingness to work towards self-improvement.
^^that has nothing to do with weight
Fat people are not only unhealthy, but also tend to be less happy and have less energy. They also die earlier and are much more likely to catch disease. There are many other drawbacks as well, and zero positives. Why date a fat person unless you have to?
^^again most of this does not equate to wieght…anyone can suffer from what you listed
By who cares
November 5, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this
hey Nick- always wondered-what is up with the fat white girls-why are they like a magnet for these loser black guys? don’t they know that their families will disown them and why can’t they thin down and be more acceptable. they just seem to to be hooker mama’s for down and out black guys.
By SexyCool
November 5, 2007 12:12 PM | Link to this
when i weighed a helluva lot more than i should have…i refused to call myself fat…
admitting to being fat just did not feel good…
for most chicks…thick is the word that they use to keep from calling themselves fat…
now that i am a size 10/12 at 5’10…i still have such a warped body image that i still feel fat…but mostly it’s because i’ve lost all this dayum weight and still don’t have a flat, flat tummy…i have that tummy that looks flat in clothes…but when unclothed…it’s a little bump…
and yes…technically…i could stand to lose another 10 pounds to get to that flat tummy…but the reality of it is…i’m terrified that i’ll lose what little a ss that i have left…
and i’m laughing as i type this…but i’m serious…
By Julia
November 5, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this
TMI Sybil. Yuk
By SexyLeggs
November 5, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this
ARed2.0, you really eat junk food on a regular basis?
Hello Truth!
By AmazonRed
November 5, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this
LOL @ some of your fat guy sex stories. I’ve never seen a fat guy naked, let alone had sex with one. Same goes for men under 5’10.” LOL
By Dan
November 5, 2007 12:14 PM | Link to this
Psychology is such a wonderful field.
People that are comfortable with themselves (i.e. their development, their physical appearance, the mental/emotional stability) usually don’t take the time to pass judgement on another person.
And people that make personal attacks (i.e. anybody having the gall to insult overwieght people) usually lash out as a defensive mechanism for their own insecurities.
In laymans terms: “fat people are disgusting” can be translated to “I’m afraid of getting fat [usu again]”. So your attacks speak volumes about your insecurities.…..just an FYI from your friendly neighborhood armchair psychologist.
By texmex
November 5, 2007 12:14 PM | Link to this
I once dated a woman that was so fat, that I would send her outside with spikes on and have her walk around my front lawn to aerate it.
By AmazonRed 2.0
November 5, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this
SexyLeggs - Yup. I have a bucket of halloween candy still on my desk. Along with Doritos, Skittles, gummy worms, Red Hots and Lays potato chips in my drawer. I usually snack a little bit all day.
By Kara
November 5, 2007 12:21 PM | Link to this
I can tell the writers are on strike, texmex must be missing his joke writer.
By RELL
November 5, 2007 12:23 PM | Link to this
@ar…dayum your wieght…how is your skin with all that junk food….lol..
By Atlanta Pearl Girl
November 5, 2007 12:24 PM | Link to this
I like guys with a little bit of huskiness to them…… they are more like teddy bears.
I dated a skinny guy who had no butt and it was….. :::::gritting teeth::::: sad….he had nothing to hang on to so to speak.
Atlanta Pearl Girl
By elmaricona
November 5, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this
you confounded, moronic,self-centered, vanity-blinded atlantans need to get a life.
By depends..
November 5, 2007 12:26 PM | Link to this
If the bride-to-be is proud of the fact she’s just lost 20 pounds to fit into the wedding dress, chances are she has a heavy past and will have a heavy future. Also, a person can be on the heavy side but have a healthy lifestyle, or else they can be one of those folks you never see eat but they do it in secret, consuming entire pizzas and a dozen donuts on the way to/from work or after the family’s gone to bed. That’s trouble and not a good situation to live with. They have an addictive problem over and above extra weight.
By Ken
November 5, 2007 12:26 PM | Link to this
Rell, those things are correlated with weight. It’s all very well documented in medical studies. Even if a person is just awesome and is fat, undoubtedly he/she would be even better if they were a more healthy weight.
We need to quit accepting fat people as “just being who they are”. It is this acceptance that has caused this country to become the laughing stock of the world when it comes to weight. Some people cannot help it and they certainly should be accepted, but people who can help it should be ridiculed and encouraged to get better.
I pay more for health insurance because the average person is fat and costs more money to insure, I pay more for an airline ticket because the average person is fat and takes a larger seat, I pay more for theater tickets for the same reason, I have a hard time finding clothes in my size because the average person is fat, I pay more money for food because healthy foods are in lower demand, etc. Lets stop tolerating this insanity!
By Low self imager (not demi)
November 5, 2007 12:28 PM | Link to this
I told this to a trainer in Lafitness:
I am 5’4 and 180lbs and 9 or 13 percent body fat, depending on the time of the year…I realize I am out of shape and need to lose weight…
SO MY GOAL IS TO LOSE 25 OR 30 POUNDS OVER THE NEXT 3MONTHS
In truth, I’ve had a strippa body, porno body, mini c** diesel body, mini running back class body…and now I want to lose all this dayum muscles and look like a short skinny b-ball player!!!
Mayne!!! Lafitness trainers and clients fell out when they heard that ish, LOL
One of their client said to me,” Dude, half of us are trying to gain your body type (I thought to myself, what short and stumpy) and you’re try your hardest to lose it!!”
I am like those fool are trip’n, I am like do YOU!!
If you love the way you look, Amen!! If you are bored with the way your body looks or hate the way you look…do something about it…I know I am, LOL
Lady J you know you fine…Thats why you wear them sweat pants, LOL
By AmazonRed 2.0
November 5, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this
LOL..Rell, remember I believe anything is okay in MODERATION! All that stuff last for over 2-3 weeks then I throw away what I didn’t finish and get new stuff. Ironically, I don’t keep any of it in my house. I may have Sun Chips or Fritos, but that’s about it. Oh ice cream too. I love ice cream but it usually just freezes over in my fridge and I throw that away too.
I also cut down eating out to about once a week.
The only thing I have to consistantly stay on myself about is drinkng water. We have a soda fountain here in the office, so it makes it difficult. But I limit myself to one soda a day.
By AmazonRed
November 5, 2007 12:31 PM | Link to this
Rell, forgot to add that my skin is really clear. I get compliments on it all the time.
By john
November 5, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this
Before you give fat people a hard time for being lazy, put an extra 100 pounds on you shoulders and walk up and down some stairs or around the block. It is not that they don’t want to do the work, it is just that they are doing extra work just to move like a normal person. So why should you be suprised when they tire easily from their weight. It is not laziness.
Now having defended overweight people let me say this. Next time you are in the grocery store, check out the contents of peoples shopping carts when you are in line. Now check out some ones cart that you consider majorly obese. I bet the cart isn’t full of fruits, vegetables, whole grain products and lean meats. In fact, I bet you will see soda, chips, desserts, processed meats and fried foods.
Good luck to all whom wish to lose weight, a good and easy start is to stop drinking soda and to bump up your fiber intake through whole grains. Find some exercise that you enjoy - walking, weightlifting, aerobics, yoga, swimming, etc. Don’t overdo it when just starting an exercise program when you haven’t done anything in years. Ease into it and just start to feel connected with you body again over a few weeks. The thing you want to do is just to get you self active and concentrate on breathing. The right exercise program and diet will give you more energy, not make you more tired.
good luck and stay healthy for yourself and family.
By Staceye
November 5, 2007 12:41 PM | Link to this
Dan In laymans terms: “fat people are disgusting” can be translated to “I’m afraid of getting fat. I admit..I have a phobia of Fat.
By Beautiful
November 5, 2007 12:41 PM | Link to this
AmazonRed 2.0 one soda per day is alot!
By kj
November 5, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this
There are so many reasons why people weigh what they do. It could be genetics, it could be poor eating habits. You should never judge someone you don’t know. I know people who can eat & eat and never gain a pound. I am unfortunately not one of those people! I hit almost 220 lbs before I finally dropped almost 70. I did it for me so that I would be happier with myself. Losing weight is one of the hardest things a person can do! When you go to work every day and people are ordering take-out or it’s someone’s birthday & there’s cake, will power is a not always your friend! But if you really love someone, size will not matter. And it is personal preference- but you shouldn’t count somone out who could potentially a great person! I like cuddly guys, but have dated skinny guys & muscular guys. My boyfriend has seen pictures of me before I lost weight and has told me I still looked good.
By texmex
November 5, 2007 12:43 PM | Link to this
I know a chick that is so fat, that one day she was at the airport wearing a yellow dress. When she bent over to pick up her luggage, two guys hopped in.
By Lurker - Kia
November 5, 2007 12:44 PM | Link to this
I’m not enjoying the blog today, i knew a topic like this would come along soon; i love the way i look and i could probably stand to lose maybe 5-10 pounds. Just think of the people lurking or responding who are having problems with their weight, we should encourage them while making a comment I’m sure those on here who do not have a weight issue have other issues they need to deal with, hell we all do!
By lady j
November 5, 2007 12:44 PM | Link to this
lol Demi you are funny…lol
By Staceye
November 5, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this
John I agree with you about the shopping carts. I look too and I am like, “Hello…put down the donut THICKEY LAKE, and you can lose weight”! I am not fat, but I workout Mon-Fri. I do like Junk food like ARED…but I don’t just consume it and sit on my butt. I burn it off. I’ve got a heart rate monitor that tells me how many calories I’ve burned. I eat cake while I watch a show..best believe the IPOD is strapped to my arm and I dance for an hour to burn it off.
By Brooklyn
November 5, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this
Hey Wise, Ladies, would you date a guy who was chubby or overweight? If that was the only thing about him that bothered you, would you be willing to overlook the weight? I’ve actually dated a guy who was a little overweight when I was 20. I had no problem with overlooking that fact because I don’t consider myself the type pf person that judge people solely on their physical appearance. However, he used to make these little comments all the time like “Why are you with me? You can have any man you want…I am so fat” And I tried to convince him that I didnt care about that because there was so much more to him like his charm, intelligence, honesty and maturity. But eventually I had to call it off cuz I got tired of his negative attitude and him doubting my reason for being with him. We are still friends to this day though…
By Lady
November 5, 2007 12:51 PM | Link to this
Lurker - Kia
I agree. I have ugly toes. GUYS, WOULD YOU DATE ME IF I AM A DIME PIECE WITH UGLY TOES?
By Demi
November 5, 2007 12:53 PM | Link to this
I really feel you ladies on folk staring at your a$$…I am up in the strip club trying to out run ladies hands…I am with the ladies…Is there any way to lose it?
By Lurker - Kia
November 5, 2007 12:56 PM | Link to this
Good point kj & John
Staceye you have a “fat phobia”? so what if you just woke up 100 lbs heavier oh my what in the world would you do?
By Healthy Lady
November 5, 2007 1:04 PM | Link to this
I wake up at 5am every morning to work out, not only because it keeps me healthy, but also because I would be horrified to be fat. I don’t really care what guys think, but I could never even consider getting naked in front of another person, let alone have sex if I were fat. I feel lucky that my mom taught me how to eat right and that I have the motivation to work out daily. I don’t care what you guys say…being more than 20-30lbs overweight is just gross.
By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert
November 5, 2007 1:07 PM | Link to this
Oh Wisey, you know this one will bring out the morons Melo, I said this because this convo has been beaten to death 20times over on the blog…hence the limited number of responses at 1:00pm. How can you determine anything about me from that one line? My dear you would be truly surprised by how I look. Not ever large size woman is walking around with self-esteem issues or easy to get with because she feels like she is unattractive and some tired a* buster is the best she can do. Please..you have the game twisted. I know quite a few women who didnt need Monique to come out with her books and videos to motivate them to greatness. I know larger size women who have men stopping in traffic…pulling over..just to say hello. Not,because they have anything hanging out or falling over. It is about the grace at which they carry themselves. A lady, with grace, no matter what her size can capture a man’s attention in a heartbeat. ( a real man anyway…puppy dogs are happy to hump any old leg in a storm.)
By RELL
November 5, 2007 1:09 PM | Link to this
@lady…does a bear take a crap in the woods and wipe his arse with a fluffy white rabbit…lol
By SexyCool
November 5, 2007 1:11 PM | Link to this
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By Lady
November 5, 2007 1:15 PM | Link to this
WHEN YOU HAVE A MOMENT, GUYS PLEASE ANSWER:
GUYS, WOULD YOU DATE ME IF I AM A DIME PIECE WITH UGLY TOES?
By Lurker - Kia
November 5, 2007 1:16 PM | Link to this
You people on here who are just horrified being fat or have a fat phobia just need to eat some 1 dozen of krispy kreme donuts and call it a day, lol
By Demi
November 5, 2007 1:18 PM | Link to this
Brooklyn I feel you…I me some thick-wit-its and then some (Part of the reason I jump to 180lb), but I cant take the negative outlook on life all the time..so I am shying away from them.
Lady Heck No!!!! LOL hehehehehe…Someone had to say it…Ish for 400 dollar, you can get them toes fix!!!
AmazonRed you and my ex are the same height, but she was built lika 5’5 miami mama…5’10 and 170 nice
By RELL
November 5, 2007 1:20 PM | Link to this
read..
http://www.cnn.com/2007/LIVING/personal/11/05/o.get.a.man/index.html
By SexyCool
November 5, 2007 1:22 PM | Link to this
i will agree with a point that john made…since the summer…i have lost about 25 pounds…for me, not for coach, trust me…he doesn’t care about my weight…his youngest son’s mother is nearly 300 pounds…was when he met and still is today…
at any rate…about a week ago…i had to bring in some ice for a work function…i carried three 10 pound bags of ice from my truck to my office…i dayum near died…when i compared it to the weight that i’d just lost…i could easily understand why i am able to get around easier now, have more energy at the end of the day and i get thrown out at first base a lot less often…lol…
By Demi
November 5, 2007 1:24 PM | Link to this
Lurker - Kia you sound tense, how about we set some goals and work towards them…in truth I just need to lose 10lbs…25 or 30 pound weightloss…I’ll be fight to keep crazy iggas off me..this is ATL
By Lady
November 5, 2007 1:25 PM | Link to this
Demi
WHAT WILL $400 BUY ME?
By aaa
November 5, 2007 1:34 PM | Link to this
Size doesnt matter, Its about the heart, but for people who are self conscience about themselves, then they would say yeah, those are the closed minded idiots, who dont love themselves.
By Lurker - Kia
November 5, 2007 1:39 PM | Link to this
I’m not tensed, Demi i’m just very sensitive toward other people that’s all
By AmazonRed 2.0
November 5, 2007 1:39 PM | Link to this
Demi, I think 170 is about normal for 5’10”, no chick who is 5’5 should be 170!
Beautiful, If you say so.
I also have a bit of a phobia of being fat. No one I know who is fat ever wants to be that way.
By Demi
November 5, 2007 1:42 PM | Link to this
Lady a toes job…Like in the movie Boomerang…ugly toes is workable..a ugly personality is unworkable, LOL
I have a foot fetish…I love pouring henny on some pretty feet and licking it right off…well, not right off..I just nabble’n’suck a bit, here and there, hehehehehe
By Corbin
November 5, 2007 1:45 PM | Link to this
Some of the prettiest people do the ugliest things on the road to riches and diamond rings - Kanye West
By aaa
November 5, 2007 1:45 PM | Link to this
@Amazon Red, you had a gastric bypass. DR Kym is a idiot from the last post, Size is not the issue, its the health of the person. A skinny person can have high blood pressure. A fat person might not. And Fat people dont all have low self esteem. Thats a Myth. Get a life.
By texmex
November 5, 2007 1:45 PM | Link to this
I know this chick that is so fat, her husband has to hire a rodeo clown just to get the groceries into the house.
By BLAT
November 5, 2007 1:48 PM | Link to this
@Lady……. Mama, a dime piece ain’t enough… if u gotz busted azz feet, you better be at least a 12 everywhere else….
By AmazonRed 2.0
November 5, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this
aaa, what’s wrong boo? A lot of bass in those keystokes. It will be okay. ;-)
By melo
November 5, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this
A lady, with grace, no matter what her size can capture a man’s attention in a heartbeat, DR-Kym true dat, although fat chicks dont usually fall in this category. If they do, its the exception rather than the rule. Consider this, nice,good/fine looking females with college degrees and good character are having a hard time finding dudes in America.What chance does a fat,thick chick with fat falling all over her azz,have against these nice looking chicks.Granted, some will always find other fat dudes with similar low esteem issues to gravitate to.But what happens to the majority of them. Then i got talk about the health issues others have mentioned. As a man, and a real man, i know a fat chic can dress sexy and look appealing, but i never took serious consideration. And most of my male friends/acquantainces feel the same way. Those who like them, its all about the AZZ.
By Demi
November 5, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this
AmazonRed 2.0 no 5’5 130lb-150lb are thick wit it…the miami girl look…thick legs, nice-nice butt..small waist..nice bitties..cute face…went we met, she was 220lb…after training…170 or 180 and tone…build like a super hero, but crazy as the devil..
5’5 and 170 is fat, LOL…hell i am 180 and 5’4 with a damn near 6 pack…aint that some ish…off to the gym for the second time
By SlimOne
November 5, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this
Well according to the height to weight ratio chart, at 5’6” I should be at least 120lbs on the low end, 140 as target wt, and no more than 160 on the high end. Yall know I told yall i recently started working out to get in shape and tone up. The first day at the gym i was getting crazy looks. One larger chick said to me, “if i were you, this would be the last place I’d be.” Slim chicks can heart disease or other disorders too. Anyway, I’m up from 107lb to 110.5lb Yippeee! But some years ago I was getting a physical and the doctor asked me if i ever experienced vomitting after I ate. I was like WTF! I’m not bullimic. Both of my parents are slim, so it’s all a matter of genetics and high metabolism. I’ve never weighed more than 155lb in my whole life.
By For Real
November 5, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this
Trainer: Ok For Real it’s time for you to weight in.
For Real: No problem let me take off my shoes. Oh and let me get these keys out my pocket. Hold on, I almost forgot about this Hubba Bubba in my back pocket. Wait let take off the belt with this big azz buckle. Dayumm I forgot that I am wearing my thick socks today.
Trainer: Come on you just stalling now.
For Real: Ok hold on, l just cashed my check let me take my wallet out. Oh and I just had a big Gulp. I got a lot on my mind. I got a heavy heart. I just ate some Krystal.
Trainer: Get yo azz on the scale!!!
For Real: Hey man you ain’t got to talk to me like that now you got my pressure up on top of all that ain’t no way I hit the target. Dayummm did you see that fine azz right there? Awwww dayumm I got a semi. Let do this tomorrow
By Shallow Hal
November 5, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this
I like a woman with meat on her bones. This is Big girl season. It will be 36 degrees tomorrow morning.
By melo
November 5, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this
A fat guy has no penetration….ladies consider that. Because the dem thing is usually undersized.He has to include his forefinger in there for u to feel right.
By Dan
November 5, 2007 2:27 PM | Link to this
@Lady
You know what they say, if a woman is cute, she doesn’t even need to know how to cook. But an ugly woman has to be able to change a tire, wash, iron, pull a transmission, change a tire, and slay a dragon and all with a smile.
By SlimOne
November 5, 2007 2:30 PM | Link to this
melo As gross as that sounds, you are right….Big guys with little weenies were the Original FallOUT Boys lmao
By SexyLeggs
November 5, 2007 2:30 PM | Link to this
ARed2.0, dayuum girl. Whew. To each his own. I had a soda w/lunch today. I haven’t had a soda in about 5 months. It was really, really good. Thank goodness I don’t drink them on a regular basis, but I was craving one this morning.
Size doesn’t matter. Have to laugh at myself because I’m lying….can’t swing with skinny men. They say never say never, but if you’re skinny and caught my eye I’d remember what Blat said you better be at least a 12 everywhere else…. That’s funny!
By AmazonRed
November 5, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this
Demi, are you really 5’4”?
By Staceye
November 5, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this
Lurker-Kia Staceye you have a “fat phobia”? so what if you just woke up 100 lbs heavier oh my what in the world would you do get off my fat azz and lose weight…or get gastic by-pass and work out. Not sit there and wallow in the, “woe is me…I’m so fat. Boo hoo hoo (as a stuff a twinkie in my mouth)”. When I gain my monthly 5 during that time of month…I freak and do a few extra minutes on the treadmill or eliptical.
Dr. Kym I aprreciated Monique’s love yourself attitude. But to promote obesity acceptance is what is contributing to the obesity rate in the US. That is saying that being fat is ok. No it is not ok…its deathly. Now on the other hand I have a really skinny friend (5ft/90 lbs) and she eats a lot of salty foods. then she complains of headaches..I told her she probably has hypertension. So being skinny does not ensure good health. Its about what you eat and staying active.
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By 72inches225lbs
November 5, 2007 2:34 PM | Link to this
@Melo bruh sounds like you have homosxual tendacies or penis envy or something. Do YOU you should never worry or think about another mans penis. What part of the game is that?
By Staceye
November 5, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this
Slim what does that chart say about 5’8 at 145?
By RELL
November 5, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this
@staceye…it means no more cheddar biscuits for you…lol
By Lurker - Kia
November 5, 2007 2:45 PM | Link to this
Staceye it was just a question my dear, you did’nt have to answer in such a “harsh way” geesh!
For Real thanks for making me smile
By melo
November 5, 2007 2:46 PM | Link to this
72inches-ur reply,melo As gross as that sounds, you are right….Big guys with little weenies were the Original FallOUT Boys lmao That reply is coming from a woman-go figure!If i have homo tendencies, are u saying it invalidates the point?
By aaa
November 5, 2007 2:46 PM | Link to this
@Amazon Red, you wish you were as much woman as myself. You need education, not junk food!! k
By SlimOne
November 5, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this
Staceye
small frame: 126-136 Medium frame: 136-150 Large frame: 146-147
By aaa
November 5, 2007 2:48 PM | Link to this
@72 inches, thats funny!! LOL.
By ThirdWheelShortie
November 5, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this
No wonder Atlanta sucks when it comes to dating. Almost everyone is freaking shallow on this board. I saw the movie Phat Girlz yesterday on cable. Maybe all of us big girls should pack up and move to Africa. I am sure the men would treat us 100 times better than the sorry excuses for men that they have here….. Geezz… Alright Fat looks gross. How many times do I have to see that displayed on this page? First of all not all skinny people are healthy. All of my friends that are sick or have recently died have been healthy and are skinny as sin. So being heathly and skinny means nothing. God forbid you get hit by a bus while running your 10.5 miles then BOOM that’s it… your life is over….
By AmazonRed
November 5, 2007 2:52 PM | Link to this
My problem with Mo’Nique is that she feels the need to cut skinny women down during her empowerment message. So many fat girls claimed to have been teased and hurt, she should not wish to inflict that same negativity on thin women. Fat women and thin women can co-exist without cutting each other down.
SexyLeggs, I could hang with a thin man, since I’m thin myself. Anything otherwise would be self-hate. LOL
By me 2(formally purple lace)
November 5, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this
72inches225lbs most men do worry about another man’s penile LOL you may not tell it but you know deep down inside you wonder if the last man was hung or not. That’s why size does matter to most women.
By Dan
November 5, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this
@Slim
Check the stats for males. How far does the height go?
By AmazonRed
November 5, 2007 2:56 PM | Link to this
aaa, Whatever you say, bitter betty.
By Staceye
November 5, 2007 2:56 PM | Link to this
*Rell for your info..I work out 5 days a week and that includes 3 days of weight lifting and running. Check them quads boy! LOL Ask For Real…I look smaller than what I weigh…
Slim I am right in the middle for my body frame. Its funny though..I have child sized hands, wrist and ankles…but I have a medium frame. All of those are smaller on me than my 90lbs. friend. Even stranger huh? LOL
By Dan
November 5, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this
@ARed
Dag. Thought I had a chance! ;)
By NCGirlfromATL
November 5, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this
Wow…just when I thought I’d seen it all. I have never seen such blatant discrimination and spewing of BS and hatred as I have seen today (and by many of the regulars, not the occasional trolls.) “Fat girls are sluts.” “Fat girls have no self-esteem.” “Fat guys have no penetration.” It must be really nice for all of you so-called skinny people, sitting on your flabby, out of shape @zzes to sit there and pass judgment on other people based solely on their physical appearance. Like who you like. Date whomever you want to date. But to stand in judgment of someone just b/c they don’t fit what is attractive to you?!? Wow!!
I am a thick girl. I’ve said it since my first day on this blog. I do not suffer from low self-esteem. I am FLY! I am NOT easy, but I also don’t have problems getting a date. It’s funny that you would judge what kind of person an overweight person is by how much sex they are getting. Either their too fat, and no one wants them, or too fat and happy to give it up whenever it is offered. Hmmm…who’s the one that is really sex-obsessed here?
I’ve been lurking a lot more recently, but frankly, I think I’m out on this one. For those of you who clearly think you’re better than someone who doesn’t wear single digit pants, I hope you never have to struggle for anything in life, b/c clearly you couldn’t handle it. And for those of you who battle with weight loss everyday of your life, by working out, eating right and making those so-called in shape skinny people look like fools in the gym and the work place, ROCK ON!
Peace
By melo
November 5, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this
72INCHES, Me is another woman. Iam not saying anything to defend my point(the blog females will do it), all i can tell u is my woman says she is content with gyrations& my length, how about yu?
By 72inches225lbs
November 5, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this
@ Melo not looking to validate or invaliidate your point BUT it was a female that co signed your post. Wondering do you sit with the females when they have “girl” talk and discuss sizes. Or do you dyck watch at bathroom stalls. Either way potna you are looking real splenda right about now.
By me 2(formally purple lace)
November 5, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this
ThirdWheelShortie sweetie everybody have their preference. Whether they like them big, small, short, tall. Well endowed or underendowed (is that a word?) I’m small breasted and most men don’t date women with small boobs. I don’t let that get me down. I work with what I have and take it from there. If you show your insecurities people will pick up on that and use it against you. Hold your head up and be happy and thank God for being your creator and not man.
By AmazonRed
November 5, 2007 3:04 PM | Link to this
Dan, I have to admit the 260 sounds worse than it is. I’d maybe still give you a shot. LOL
I dated a guy who was like 245, but he was also 6’10”
By SlimOne
November 5, 2007 3:06 PM | Link to this
Dan the height on the chart i’m using goes to 6’4”
Staceye Yeah your weight is listed at the target weight for your height.
By For Real
November 5, 2007 3:06 PM | Link to this
2E’s You ain’t no 5’8” well maybe in heels or standing on your e’s.
By 2CPTG©
November 5, 2007 3:07 PM | Link to this
personal preference IS discrimanatory!
By Charlie
November 5, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this
Sup Blogger,
Off-Topic Thanks guys for Friday. Me and my girl had a couples weekend and it was therapeutic. She’s been going through a lot internally and emotionally, stuff I did not know about. At least we have started to work on it, not quite where we should be but better than we were.
On Topic Size does matter to me. If I do my best to be healthy, so should she. Health is a lifestyle.
By AmazonRed 2.0
November 5, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this
Good grief. As a friend of mine used to say…
“If it applies to you, remain offended” If it doesn’t keep it moving.
By RELL
November 5, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this
@staceye…lol, joking lady..i am sure you killing em…
By abc
November 5, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this
People tend to gravitate toward those that are physically complementary, along with other ways. Someone who’s in extremely good shape will want to be next to someone else who is similar. A thin person next to an obese person looks odd. I’ve dated fat girls, and it was a little disconcerting to see our reflections in a window while walking along.
Everyone wants healthy. Unhealthy will tend to die early on you. Everyone wants attractive. The measure of attractiveness will vary. Nobody is a very good judge of their own appearance.
By Lurker - Kia
November 5, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this
^5 NCgirl
By RELL
November 5, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this
@me 2…..i like small breast….lol…
By AmazonRed 2.0
November 5, 2007 3:14 PM | Link to this
abc, good post.
By melo
November 5, 2007 3:14 PM | Link to this
NCGirlfromATL,Rock On! U do not suffer from low self esteem, others do though.And its not hate, its just stating observations based on interactions with other people for many years. I do not hate somebody because of how they look.I choose a date, mate, marriage partner etc though, based in part on how they look, before i even contemplate talking to them. Its a fact of lyfe and most males do that.That initial attraction has to be there and our society has these ‘shallow’ perceptions of beauty. It is what it is!
By Teresa
November 5, 2007 3:15 PM | Link to this
10 inches or more no toddlers here
By Dan
November 5, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this
@ARed
It’s all good. Trust the 260 is solid.
@ThirdWheel and NC While I’ve never shied away from my height/weight or whatever, you have to let people say what they say. Your esteem is self-esteem and you neither have to justify yourself to anyone or let comments affect you in any way.
Oh and NC and me…slim, thick, fat whatever, there’s some of us that it don’t matter. To paraphrase Aaliyah “[it] ain’t nothing but a number, going down ain’t nothing but a thang.”
;)
By me 2(formally purple lace)
November 5, 2007 3:18 PM | Link to this
wink wink Rell
By For Real
November 5, 2007 3:19 PM | Link to this
I weigh 220 - 225 pounds (dayum Oktoberfest) so my pref is for thick women as such (especially if you run/ran track):
5’4” - 5’5” = 132 - 146
5’6” - 5’8” = 135 - 152
5’9” - 6’ = 155 - 164
Disclaimer: Due to the size of Slim’s CT she is hereby excluded from the aforementioned.
By Wise Diva
November 5, 2007 3:21 PM | Link to this
I really hope my horrible topic selection won’t drive away any readers. Although, this is a real issue on the dating scene, it definitely strikes a nerve for people across the board.
By Dan
November 5, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this
@Slim
Gimmie it. The info I mean
By AmazonRed 2.0
November 5, 2007 3:23 PM | Link to this
Oh Dan, I trust ya! I believe you… ;-)
Besides, the 6’4” meets my height requirement anyway. You’d at least get a 2nd glance for that alone. LOL
By melo
November 5, 2007 3:24 PM | Link to this
Either way potna you are looking real splenda right about now.72inches225lbs i dont know what that ebonic garbage means but if it makes u happy,them my azz is splenda,come sniff it!
By Staceye
November 5, 2007 3:25 PM | Link to this
For Real are you disputing my Dr and my license as to my height? LOL
By me 2(formally purple lace)
November 5, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this
Dayum For Real you excluded me too! I’m 5’2’ 135 lbs
Me2 and Slimone sitting on the sidebar while For Real zooms by with his Fly Girls
By NCGirlfromATL
November 5, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this
And its not hate, its just stating observations based on interactions with other people for many years.
Whatever helps you sleep at night, melo. But at the end of the day, you’ve made it clear that you and many others here think you are better than someone else simply b/c you don’t consider yourself to be overweight. It’s funny how people forget all of their other flaws and personality disorders when it comes to weight. You act like only overweight people suffer from low self esteem. Like they’ve cornered the market on it. Nevermind all of the otherwise supposedly unattractive people, the disabled, the men w/ small members and general population w/ horrible breath. You can overlook that, but a FAT person. Lawd, they aren’t worth the skin they are in. But as I said, whatever helps you all sleep at night.
By 2CPTG©
November 5, 2007 3:33 PM | Link to this
Fret none, Diva Darling…..we know you gon’ come with that fiyah, tomorrow! look at today like a……Monday….where you just just throw sum’in on, and go to work…
By RELL
November 5, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this
@melo/72inchs…i think you guys should just cross swords and be done with it….the internet bickering is for the females….players…come on now…smh
By Demi
November 5, 2007 3:36 PM | Link to this
Kia cool, so am I…and WELCOME To The Mad House
3rd hey bay, chill with that negative attitude of yours…I wuv yo a$$ anyway, LOL
NC hey you..how are ya??!! If you over look my height, i’ll holla…I am not even joking
Charlie told you so!! And thanks for working on your marriage, give us single guys hope
Teresa Dayum!! LOL
me 2 along as they’re suckable, I don’t care…I am get tired of strange women wanting to squeeze my chest, ish getting old
A.Red Stepping on Blog crate Yeah I’m like 5’4…Why do you think I pull this crate out, for show??!!…Hellz Naw!!!!! LOL
By AmazonRed
November 5, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this
WiseDiva, your topic is not horrible at all. Like you said, this is a situation many encounter while dating. It’s not your fault that some people can’t handle the discussion.
NCGirl, do your really think folks are saying they are better than other folks? Or are you just being sensitive and reading into it that way?
For Real, how tall are you?
By Blow Me
November 5, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this
Hell yeah size matters!
7 or better …
Small wood is horrible!
Who doesn’t want the biggest boat!!
Damn the motions!
By lady j
November 5, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this
LOL 2 you are Crazy!!!! Diva it is an interesting topic and as always keep them coming!!!:)
By 72inches225lbs
November 5, 2007 3:42 PM | Link to this
@ Rell no cyber thug here..just messing with Melo seeing if he can take it like he dish it.
By melo
November 5, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this
you’ve made it clear that you and many others here think you are better than someone else simply b/c you don’t consider yourself to be overweight.NCG, I did not say i am better. U are letting ur self esteem issues creep in! I have a preference just as u rightly pick men that u or dont like to date.Why do u see that as a problem for someone to execise their choice based on their prefs. Its not the only criteria, but its one of them. Today’s topic is about size, tmorrow it will be something else and who knows, ur stats in that area may reflect positively on some. Nobody’s got it ALL. NOW DOES THAT MAKE U HAPPY?
By Wise Diva
November 5, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this
Thanks Mr. 2 sugar, and you are right, I have loaded up a great entry for tomorrow! You guys have to love me, though, even when I miss the mark! LOL
Thank you AmazonRed!
By 2CPTG©
November 5, 2007 3:54 PM | Link to this
lady J, it takes work, sweetie, to come up with something hot EVERY other week; especially something grown folks can relate to……
with that said, Lady in Red, keep ya eyes and ears open…..got some stuff you may be able to use.
By SlimOne
November 5, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this
Height (Feet Inches) Small Frame Medium Frame Large Frame 5’ 2” 128-134 131-141 138-150
5’ 3” 130-136 133-143 140-153
5” 4” 132-138 135-145 142-156
5’ 5” 134-140 137-148 144-160
5’ 6” 136-142 139-151 146-164
5’ 7” 138-145 142-154 149-168
5’ 8” 140-148 145-157 152-172
5’ 9” 142-151 148-160 155-176
5’ 10” 144-154 151-163 158-180
5’ 11” 146-157 154-166 161-184
6’ 0” 149-160 157-170 164-188
6’ 1” 152-164 160-174 168-192
6’ 2” 155-168 164-178 172-197
6’ 3” 158-172 167-182 176-202
6’ 4” 162-176 171-187 181-207
Dan Hope it posts correctly
By me 2(formally purple lace)
November 5, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this
@Demi well get to sucking then!! LOL
By For Real
November 5, 2007 4:00 PM | Link to this
A-Red I’m 5’11”. Just think if I had one more E in my name I would be 6ft ain’t that right 2E’s?
By E
November 5, 2007 4:01 PM | Link to this
I’ve been lurking on here all day and I felt the need to finally comment. To a certain extent size does matter, because we ALL have preferences. I prefer a woman with a more petite build, some would call them “sexy slim”. With that being said, I’ve been attracted to women of all sizes. I’ve dated slim women, thick women, tall women,short women and women who are considered “plump”. So even though I may have a type of body I prefer, ultimately I just love women period…to me if you’re sexy, you’re sexy, period.
By SlimOne
November 5, 2007 4:02 PM | Link to this
For Real Disclaimer: Due to the size of Slim’s CT she is hereby excluded from the aforementioned. So does that mean I still have a chance as long as the CT weighs 6lbs all by itself?
By Wise Diva
November 5, 2007 4:02 PM | Link to this
ok, I missed something, Demi, what in the deuce are you talking about, as long as what are suckable?! uhh actually, never mind, I don’t want to know. LOL
By Dan
November 5, 2007 4:03 PM | Link to this
Thanks ARed
Guess it’s like I said. I’m an extra large guy!
And still cute
By Charlie
November 5, 2007 4:04 PM | Link to this
Demi
Yo dude, you shole was on it from the beginning. Big up’s to you.
By NCGirlfromATL
November 5, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this
Is it a sensitive issue? What do you think? Do you think you would be sensitive if the subject were dating someone of your race, whom the world had discriminated against and thought for centuries was less than a person? Of course it’s a sensitive issue.
And YES melo you and many others have come off as “I’m better than fat people b/c I’m skinny!” Eeeewww fat is grooooooooooss! How childish!
What trips me out the most is that the same folks talking about how gross being overweight is are the same people who are still out there wondering why they don’t have a mate, can’t keep a mate or are looking for good man/woman. Ever thought that maybe you are the ones with the issues?
Melo, Puuuhlease! I’ve read your posts. Trust me, I don’t need validation from you or anyone else on this blog. I get my validation everyday when I wake up and thank God that I have lived to see another day. I get it everytime I walk through the doors of MY business. I get it everyday after I’ve sweated out my perm in the gym. I don’t think I’m better than anyone but the person I was the day before…b/c I make it my goal to be a better person today than I was yesterday.
As I said, I am appalled at the crap that has been spewed today. Like I said, you are free to be attracted to whomever you are attracted to. But, when you make some of the statements that have been made here today, it is clear that you hold a segment of the population (that crosses all racial and gender lines) to be 2nd or maybe even 3rd class citizens.
love you Demi!!
By AmazonRed
November 5, 2007 4:07 PM | Link to this
Dan, I say prove it!
By SexyLeggs
November 5, 2007 4:11 PM | Link to this
Damn, I’m not even on the chart!
By Foots
November 5, 2007 4:11 PM | Link to this
Slim Does that chart combine men and women? It looks a little light when you factor in dudes. A dude would blow away if he was 6’4” and weighed 180 lbs. LOL!
By For Real
November 5, 2007 4:13 PM | Link to this
Slim Dayummmm!!!!! I knew you were special!!!!!
For Real now rubbing up against female co-worker. Excuse me! Oh I’m sorry excuse me. Excuse me! Excuse me
By Dan
November 5, 2007 4:15 PM | Link to this
@ARed
Shoot me an email address and I got you.
Or….
I’ll be in the A for the holiday.
the choice is yours
By Wise Diva
November 5, 2007 4:18 PM | Link to this
Thank you for that E. I agree, with you, we do have preferences. I love men, and goodness knows, I have seen sexy in many forms. It’s that sex appeal that can transcend all physical descriptions and sizes!
By Demi
November 5, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this
Wise see Me 2 3:03pm post…
So even though I may have a type of body I prefer, ultimately I just love women period…to me if you’re sexy, you’re sexy, period.
I Second,First, and third That!!!!
Charlie I know first hand what it like to be going through and not having some one to turn to…Love ones will see you fall apart and will not know what’s going..but if you look at when it all first started (the crazyness), you will find your answers.
By For Real
November 5, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this
BIG UP’S TO CHARLIE!!
Slim Are those stats for men or women or both?
Pee-Pee Is that you? Awwww hell gurl you know I can’t leave you out.
For Real now squatting to rub up against Pee-Pee oh, I mean Me2.
By AmazonRed
November 5, 2007 4:22 PM | Link to this
asking as nice as can be* * **NCGirl are you sure you are secure about your size?
By AmazonRed
November 5, 2007 4:25 PM | Link to this
Dan, can you shoot me your email addy instead? *smiling sweetly *
By SexyLeggs
November 5, 2007 4:27 PM | Link to this
Glad you’re on the right path Charlie. Keep the lines of communication open.
By Foots
November 5, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this
Wise It’s that sex appeal that can transcend all physical descriptions and sizes!
Now that’s true. Like I said earlier, chemistry and attraction are funny things. My last boyfriend was probably 5’7” standing on a brick and VERY stocky. But when he walked into a room, I couldn’t take my eyes off of him. Part of the attraction was our shared background (we met 10 years ago in school) and the other part was how he carried himself. He was intelligent, active, confident, interesting, romantic, well-educated, a great father to his child, and very much a man in every sense of the word. Oh, he was a FallOut Boy too, but even now, when I need “help”, I recall the times I was with him.
So, yep, attraction is funny….and love makes no sense.
By NCGirlfromATL
November 5, 2007 4:40 PM | Link to this
asking as nice as can be * *NCGirl are you sure you are secure about your size?
Amazon Please put your arm-chair psychologist book away. I am not even going to respond to this. I’ve said it twice already.
By Dan
November 5, 2007 4:41 PM | Link to this
@ARed
Danbynight@netzero.com Holla at cha boy
Oh…@WD. I must concur, this is the first/only blog I participate in and I started by lurking and found interesting comments and topics.
By John Law formerly The Truth
November 5, 2007 4:41 PM | Link to this
Sexy Leggs Not sure if you experience this, but as a thin/skinny man I find it mind boggling how comfortable people are to comment on my small frame — to include people who are overweight! By the way gang, as for as size goes, this thin man has no problem going “deep.” :)
By me 2(formally purple lace)
November 5, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this
Hey For Real Yep it’s me..wink wink
By Staceye
November 5, 2007 4:46 PM | Link to this
Foots Fall-Out Boy? LMAO That is just too funny. You loved him depsite he uh…short comings? LOL I had a fall out boy and it took everything in me (which at that moment, it wasn’t much) not to laugh at him.
Oh..I emailed you something that may make you laugh!
By AmazonRed
November 5, 2007 4:46 PM | Link to this
Foots, you guys were friends for 10 years first, then you fell in love with him? Or did you always have a thing for him? Just curious.
By SlimOne
November 5, 2007 4:50 PM | Link to this
It’s shows for men. The womens only goes to 6’
By Ken
November 5, 2007 4:51 PM | Link to this
Once again people are comparing discrimination based on weight to discrimination based on race, sex, or other factors. It is NOT the same. You can get your fat but to the gym and work it off. Even if you don’t work out at all, just eating healthy should bring you down a few sizes.
Lets review: people cannot change their race, people cannot change their penis size, people cannot change their height, people cannot change their intelligence, etc etc. People CAN change their level of fitness!!
We should absolutely not accept people who are fat merely from eating unhealthy and not exercising. If you have a real health problem that prevents you from losing weight, then you have all the sympathy I can offer. However if you are just really fat and continue to act in a way that we keep you fat, you deserve our contempt.
It has to be realized that the vast number of overweight people in our society has HUGE repercussions for all of us. Does anyone here not have health insurance because overweight people have dramatically driven up the costs? Has anyone had to spend dramatically more money on food, or travel far out of your way, just to get food that is reasonably healthy? Has anyone gone to the clothing store and found an item that you really like, and found only size XL’s?
For god sakes people, obesity effects us all. Everything you buy is larger now, and costs more, because the average buyer is fat. Your car costs thousands of dollars more to make room for the bigger seats, and your airline tickets and movie tickets cost more for the same reason. Its hard to find sidewalks or bicycle lanes in the city because most people are so fat that they’d prefer to drive. There are many more examples. Think about it!
Lets encourage people to improve and lose weight, rather than just accepting them “for who they are.” Yes some people cannot help it and should be accepted regardless of weight, but 90% of people can help it. As fit people, lets motivate them to do better and show them how to achieve it!
By me 2(formally purple lace)
November 5, 2007 4:51 PM | Link to this
I’m out, Everybody be safe..Peace out…meow!
By Foots
November 5, 2007 4:52 PM | Link to this
John Law That’s interesting. My mom says that everyday at work, people feel free to comment on how skinny she is for a woman her age, but that if she felt free to comment on how overweight they were, they’d have a problem. When I was overly skinny, people made little comments about it ALL DAY LONG, and it affected me because I was self-conscious about it. But nobody thought that anything was wrong with it. I guess that overweight people may feel more comfortable making comments about skinny people because they assume that they won’t take offense. It’s a double-standard society, because if a skinny person made the same types of “observations”, they would be villified.
Good night all!
By AmazonRed 2.0
November 5, 2007 4:53 PM | Link to this
NCGirl, okay. You said it twice. Too bad it wasn’t convincing.
By AmazonRed 2.0
November 5, 2007 4:54 PM | Link to this
Thanks Dan, I won’t be a stranger!
By Foots
November 5, 2007 4:56 PM | Link to this
Amazon I had a thing for him in college, but I never told him. We were friends only, then lost touch as we became upperclassmen. We found each other again ten years later by accident. It was perfect while it lasted.
Staceye Good thing I felt the way I did about him. Surprisingly, he was one of the best in my whole life…when it was actually in there, of course…the whole experience was just sublime. Do I miss him or what?? ;-)
By Tazzee
November 5, 2007 5:02 PM | Link to this
Ken I’m all for encouraging, but this “You can get your fat but to the gym and work it off.” is not encouragement to anyone.
And I think it’s comments like these and others that come off as if some folks think they are better than everyone else.
With that said - we see these types of comments on this board all the time, regarding things that folks can’t fix. Things like Ken stated (penis size, height, skin color) etc. So I don’t understand the uproar regarding opinions on weight.
By Kara
November 5, 2007 5:03 PM | Link to this
Oh please, detract your claws Amazon, you are sounding so catty. No need to be condescending.
By abc
November 5, 2007 5:06 PM | Link to this
I’ll admit, I hate it, and I mean hate it, when a fat person sits next to me on the plane. Half into my seat as well as their own, I think they should be required to buy 2 tickets. Seriously.
By AmazonRed 2.0
November 5, 2007 5:08 PM | Link to this
Oh please Kara, like the psychologist dig was necessary. Get over it.
Good night all!
By melo
November 5, 2007 5:09 PM | Link to this
Tmorrow,lets talk about my height!!