By Lady J

February 20, 2008 8:35 AM | Link to this

Dating does not equal meeting children at all…Date and enjoy and leave family and kids out of it…

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 20, 2008 8:36 AM | Link to this

Morning, all. :-)

Being the non-custodial parent of two, for purposes of dating it’s almost as if I don’t have children because I live alone and visit with them only on certain weekends and holidays.

On the surface, a woman with children isn’t really a show-stopper for me. In fact, more often than not, it can be a bridge to building a great relationship becuase of that particular commonailty. I’ve dated only three (3) women in the 10 years I’ve been divorced and two of them have had children. However, there is an age threshhold that comes into play for me as it relates to women with “young” children (i.e. infants, toddlers, etc.) because I’ve “been there” and “done that” already. Again, it wouldn’t necessarily mean “do not pass go” but, depending on the woman, I would have to give serious consideration to the prospects of dating her long-term.

I would be hesitant to introduce my children to someone I was dating, unless and until we were exclusive and headed toward marriage. The last thing I want my children to think is that their father’s personal life is like that of a revolving door, with women coming in and out all the time.

By Dan

February 20, 2008 8:37 AM | Link to this

Good morning,

While not having children (just practicing making them), I have dated single mothers before.

Sometimes meeting the kids are as simple as coming to pick her up and the kids are all over the house (like kids do) and it’s a brief introduction.

For me, it one got serious only once. And while I’d rather not go into it, let me just say that leaving that little boy behind broke my heart.

That’s all from me for a while, have a good discussion.

By Lady J

February 20, 2008 8:37 AM | Link to this

Dating does not equal meeting children at all…Date and enjoy and leave family and kids out of it…

By Lady J

February 20, 2008 8:39 AM | Link to this

Dating does not equal meeting children at all…Date and enjoy and leave family and kids out of it…

By Rell

February 20, 2008 8:47 AM | Link to this

@lady j….cosign…that post alones deads the rest…i see a topic change coming…lol

By Raqi

February 20, 2008 8:49 AM | Link to this

I wish more guys would give single mothers a fighting chance. Some tend to react as if kids are a plague of some sort. Like if the date or marry a woman with a kid their manhood is going to shrivel up and fall off.

Single mothers are still live breathing warm blooded women in need of love and companionship just like any other unattached woman.

Having kids means you have to be a little more creative in date scheduling and may call from some last minute unexpected changes in plans, but they don’t make the mother less of a quality date. We still know how to have fun. Well that is “knew” for me.

But please guys don’t skimp on the single mothers.

Now the baby mamas…that’s a whole different subject there.

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

February 20, 2008 8:50 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All

I don’t have any rugrats….so I don’t want a dude to have em.

No let me stop…Kids are a blessing from God. I do not have any kids…yet. But I will date a guy who has one child. I honestly prefer none…because of the simply fact I don’t’ have any. I would want our first experience together be OUR first child. But if God decides to bring a man with my life with child and he is doing the right things by me…….Well “Kids meet ya other MAMIE”. But real talk, the max for me is 1….2 and 3…that is too much for me. At my age now..it’s hard to met men without kids. Although lately I have met some dudes though that haven’t. But fact still reminds…it’s quite common to meet a men with kids…especially after you pass the 25 mark.

By 2CPTG©

February 20, 2008 8:53 AM | Link to this

yep, Lady J, that’s about it…..hell, it takes longer than normal just to really get to know me - so we’re talking eons ‘fo you meet my shorties…..then, when you meet ‘em, baby-girl gon’ take over from there - Ain’t that right Auntie……

By Nurse - QC

February 20, 2008 8:57 AM | Link to this

Morning I’ve dated several men with kids..it’s aight, and i’ve been introduce to their kids too soon, on several occassions did’nt feel very comfortable but i handled it very well of course…have a great day Bloggers, Darrell, Easter Bunny, Demi…e’rrybody…yep, i’ve had cup of energy this morning…half of the office is out sick…i went around spraying my green apple breeze scent Lysol yes i did..i was like keep coughing cause i’mma keep spraying towards the sick/shut in ..lol, i can’t afford to get sick honey…i gots too much to do! anyway….i’ll HOLLA - PEACE

By Teresa

February 20, 2008 9:01 AM | Link to this

touchy subject…

By Cemeeli

February 20, 2008 9:03 AM | Link to this

Good morning!

Breakfast: Hot pancakes and sausage for everyone! Juice and water for all.

LadyJ please say that in the mic again!!!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

February 20, 2008 9:03 AM | Link to this

Hey Everybody!!

Lady J I am co-signing your post. I plan to really lurk on this topic and see what folks have to say. I dont have a time period set b4 someone meets my kid but you can best believe it will be a while.

By melo

February 20, 2008 9:04 AM | Link to this

I don’t have any rugrats….so I don’t want a dude to have em i feel u,its annoying when u trying to sex and the rugrat is holding on to mummy’s breast for milk!!

By Willie Dynamite

February 20, 2008 9:05 AM | Link to this

Morning All,

In my past experiencs Single Mothers (not Baby mama) were more level headed and mature. I didn’t shy away from it but at the same time I didn’t want to be thrust into a kids life all of a sudden.

I had a kid before I was married and the present wifey didn’t meet My Son until we had been together for almost 6mos.

By Rell

February 20, 2008 9:06 AM | Link to this

@RAQI..i feel you, single mothers have feelings too..where here is a list of why men shun or simply abuse the situation with single mothers/baby mamma

1.) She is clingy or has a damage self-esteem

2.) Sex with single mothers come quick/easy

3.) Usually looking for fill-in or replacement (NEW DADDY)

4.) Baby Daddy drama

5.) Multiply kids by different men, screams of poor decision making

By Cemeeli

February 20, 2008 9:07 AM | Link to this

Hey Mo!

By Page1908

February 20, 2008 9:09 AM | Link to this

The older you get, the more likely it is to meet someone who has kids already. Plus, with so many people having kids either from being married, or not being married, chances are there are going to be kids around somewhere.

I actually don’t have a preference regarding dating men with or without kids. What it actually comes down to is not the kids, per se, but what the dude’s limitations (if any) are because of the kids.

I have come across a few dudes who had kids and didn’t prefer to date me because I don’t. They felt that because I didn’t have kids, I would be very “needy” and would want to spend a lot of time with them, which they wouldn’t be able to do. It’s not a big deal, I completely understand. It’s funny when I hear these kind of assumptions because I’m not that way at all. I’m an only child, so spending time alone is nice to me, and I sometimes prefer it.

By SexyCool

February 20, 2008 9:10 AM | Link to this

okay, rell…show your softer side…list some (serious) positives about single mothers…

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 9:11 AM | Link to this

Off-topic: Is it fate? So the guy I dismissed a few weeks back because he used text messages as primary means of communication was at my church on Sunday. Out of all the churches in Atlanta. He saw me but I didn’t see him. But that’s wild.

Also, kudos to the state of Georgia for processing my refund in less than a week. Go GA! LOL

On-topic - It’s easier for women in the dating world on this topic because usually the guy doesn’t have primary custody. However, I don’t have kids, and I’d prefer the guy I date not have any. That being said, I’ve dated a couple of guys who had kids and it was a non-issue as we never got far enough in the process for me to meet the child. However, when I tried on-line dating, I rejected all interested parties with kids. I feel the point of having a pool of men to pick at my leisure is to go after ones that meet most of my desired requirements.

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 9:13 AM | Link to this

By the way Bella, I LOVE this: “I told him that she was either the woman he wanted to spend the rest of his life with or she wasn’t — and if he didn’t want to marry her and help her raise her daughter, someone else would. It was simply up to him decide.”

That was great advice and I’m so glad your friend followed it and is happy.

By Dan

February 20, 2008 9:13 AM | Link to this

That last point was it Rell.

You got kids plural..by different dudes…again plural…how does that make me think about you.

I mean fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. Fool me 3,4 , 5 times and…..

By Beautiful - YeaI'mSensitiveSoWhat!!!

February 20, 2008 9:14 AM | Link to this

no guy that i date meets my boys, sorry. there MUST be a commitment between us. it would break their hearts if i decided not to see you again. since i’ve been in ATL, my sons have not had the opportunity to see anyone.

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 9:22 AM | Link to this

Darell - You spoke about being wary of single moms with young kids because you’ve “been there, done that.”

Does this mean that if you get married again, having kids with your new wife is out of the question?

By IslandGirl

February 20, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

Morning All

I don’t involve my son in my dating life until later in a relationship. In my last relationship, my SO and I dated for about 7 to 8 months before I introduced my son to him.

As a single mom, I’ve not encountered problems meeting guys. I think men tend to feel more re-assured that I am “a good woman” because I take care of myself, my child, and home. I can be wrong, but that is the impression I get.

On the other hand, I have no problem with dating a single dad or a guy with children. After spending time with the individual you realize whether or not he is a dependable and dedicated parent to his children (which is expected, but still impresses me).

By Rell

February 20, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

@SEXYCOOL….dayum sis was the list that bad?. Actually the list was not my personal POV..a single mother to me is still a women not a seperate species…lol. But to some of the men out here….and trust i hear the stories er day….they will use and abuse these women as if they dont really count….so yes i was posting that list for some of the ladies to stick in there mind at the motivation as to why a single man that has alot going for him will cling so hard to you and your children without really knowing you…there is a reason, majority of the time it is tied to SEX or he gets the satification of saving someone..or lets say feel like he is upgrading you…it is a dirty game out there and when you throw the emotions of raising a family on your own…well the game get serious…and where the mother is playing chess providing and trying to become a wife….she will run into a boy/man that is thinking part of that list

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

Darrell, I don’t know why I keep leaving that extra “r” off of your name. My apologies.

By Rell

February 20, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

@SEXYCOOL….dayum sis was the list that bad?. Actually the list was not my personal POV..a single mother to me is still a women not a seperate species…lol. But to some of the men out here….and trust i hear the stories er day….they will use and abuse these women as if they dont really count….so yes i was posting that list for some of the ladies to stick in there mind at the motivation as to why a single man that has alot going for him will cling so hard to you and your children without really knowing you…there is a reason, majority of the time it is tied to SEX or he gets the satification of saving someone..or lets say feel like he is upgrading you…it is a dirty game out there and when you throw the emotions of raising a family on your own…well the game get serious…and where the mother is playing chess providing and trying to become a wife….she will run into a boy/man that is thinking part of that list

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

February 20, 2008 9:28 AM | Link to this

Hey Cemeeli!!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 20, 2008 9:28 AM | Link to this

Dan/Rell Though I completely understand the point you’re making about women who have multiple children by multiple men, I would respectfully argue that although one could definitely categorize those as being poor decisions (at that time), I wouldn’t necessarily take that to mean the woman’s character isn’t better now.

Case in point, there’s one woman I know who particularly fits that description, but who has realized her mistakes and is determined not to repeat them. She’s very intelligent, works during the day and goes to school pursuing a degree in accounting. I have the utmost respect and admiration for her and what she’s now doing for herself and her children.

I guess all I’m saying is that while I understand how a woman such as you described might cause you to raise an eyebrow or two, I wouldn’t completely write her off without considering the person as a whole.

By Cemeeli

February 20, 2008 9:30 AM | Link to this

Science are you gonna come in here and breakdown “Dating…with children”? please

WillieD one of my married and new mommmy girlfriend, mentioned how NOW she understands the level headed and mature stance i had the last 8 years. She finally got it! So yea i guess we are.

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

February 20, 2008 9:30 AM | Link to this

@ Rell….she has no idea…lol

By BennyB

February 20, 2008 9:37 AM | Link to this

Off topic Guys, I want to comment on yesterday stomach-butterflies related posts. This is will be long and deep for some……….

Have you seen how thrilled a baby get when daddy comes home from work and play with her? On her first daycare journey: she’ll likely cry all day but when her parents show up to pick her up, she will be excited to even forgot what happened all day. As she grows up; her parents play less and less with her, she get less attention from them and start to seek attention from exterior. She becomes friend with cousins and makes friends at church. Weekends become exciting because it is time to see friends or perhaps time to get desired attention and excitement. She learns to negotiate to spend nights at friend’s house and get heart broken when the parents refuse to honor her requests. Sooner or later she learns to be patient and to anticipate the excitation for next weekend gathering. At school age, she will have practiced enough and learned what excite her, what trigger the same childhood feelings of excitements in her and she will look for that feeling in all places, all times at any cost. Have you heard that women like men who resemble or behave like their fathers? The truth is that they just want to recreate those childhood feelings, that excitement. The reality is that longing for childhood feelings is insecurity, is refusing to grow up, refusing to learn about the self, refusing to become an adult.

Insecure women will worship a man who stands up to them just like their parents did but as soon as a man sweeten a little (become a wimp) they will lose all interest and wonder where all that passion went. Those women are immature; they don’t have any idea about how one can control his own feelings. Honestly, women like this are not the kind to settle down with (unless you want to play daddy), they are the kind to experience with. Soon or later, those women will find out that you are not their parents, cheat on you or just lose interest in you.

The west is becoming notorious to raise insecure women like this. The proof is that people like Mystery are getting very rich just by teaching men how to sleep with this kind of women by tapping on their known insecurities. The sad thing is that this type of woman don’t believe (denial) that the same feeling they are looking for can be created just by playing with their mind and trigger their childhood feelings (Mystery method). This is a win now-lose later situation for men because while they will mate with many girls than their grand parents dreamed of, it will be very hard to find one secure undamaged woman to settle with.

On men side, this same phenomenon explains how nice guys are created. They think that women will respond to their niceness as their mothers responded when they obeyed their rules. They get excited just to see a woman of their dreams just like they did when their mother picked them up from daycare decades before. Just like stomach-butterflies seeking women, nice guys don’t want to think, they are only interested in re-creating childhood feelings. The sad news for them is that once you learn about the self; know what make you tick and re-program your mind, stomach-butterflies disappears for good.

Love start by the self. Is anyone had butterflies before just to be him/her self? Then you should have butterflies all the time because you are what you are no matter what. Guys USE YOUR BRAIN, USE YOUR MIND (that why god give it to you), Love is not a feeling, Love is not passion, love is not excitement. Love implies commitments and the exercise of wisdom; I’ll describe it as a PURE CALM DELIGHT.

By SexyCool

February 20, 2008 9:39 AM | Link to this

rell…the list wasn’t that bad…i just know that some seem to think that you have only negative views of woman when i know better…you are a big fan of all sensible woman who have themselves together…

i just read your post and saw the attacks coming…LOL

By IslandGirl

February 20, 2008 9:42 AM | Link to this

@Rell,

*they will use and abuse these women as if they dont really count….the motivation as to why a single man that has alot going for him will cling so hard to you *

This can be a true statement…age and life experiences would dictate whether a guy would behave like this. A young man who is playing the field and not ready for a family would have this mindset.

I’ve really not experience this type of negativity becuase of being a single mom. First off, most guys are very shocked when I tell them I have a teenage son…most responses are you don’t look old enough, you don’t look like someone that has a child, etc. It seems to be a non-issue.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 20, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this

Amazon “Darell - You spoke about being wary of single moms with young kids because you’ve “been there, done that.” Does this mean that if you get married again, having kids with your new wife is out of the question?”

In a word, yes, having more children (biologically) is out of the question for me. (By the way, ARed, no problem about the ‘r’. People either leave that or an ‘l’ out all the time.) :-)

By Cemeeli

February 20, 2008 9:45 AM | Link to this

Rell …interesting…

…majority of the time it is tied to SEX or he gets the satification of saving someone…

By SexyLeggs

February 20, 2008 9:45 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone.

**If you have children, how soon do you introduce them to whomever you’re dating? First date? Two weeks? Two months? Not until you’re exclusive? At least until you’re exclusive and at least over a year (depending on if you’re going through a divorce). There are a lot of variable factors that should be considered when introducing a love interest to your child(ren). The age of the child, the maturity level of the child and the emotional state of the child after divorce.

By 2CPTG©

February 20, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

Truth be told, I prefer ladies with kids…(no more than 2)..

somma y’all single ladies don’t understand the challenges of parent hood, and thus, at times can be quite selfish….

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 9:53 AM | Link to this

somma y’all single ladies don’t understand the challenges of parent hood, and thus, at times can be quite selfish…

As a single lady with no kids I say AMEN! I’m completely basking in this “selfish” time for me. I’ll have plenty of time to be a wife and mother when that time comes. My mother has been taking care of everyone before herself for the past 31 years. She’s always encouraged me to enjoy these “selfish” years the best I can because once they’re gone, they’re gone! I won’t even get a puppy. Too much responsibility. LOL

By Rell

February 20, 2008 9:56 AM | Link to this

@bennyb….ya know i was just speaking on that same thing yesterday…i cosign your post..i see you are knee deep in the PUA scene…lol

@cemelli….interesting…how so

By Mocha Latte'

February 20, 2008 9:56 AM | Link to this

Rell I think your list is just fine

By IslandGirl

February 20, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

Have you guys heard about this….I know Truth mentioned this last week, but I did not believe it was true.

Ku Klux Klan Endorses Obama February 7th, 2008 by James R. Crowe

KENTUCKY - USA - Imperial Wizard, Ronald Edwards has stated that, “anything is better than Hillary Clinton.”

White Christian Supremacist group the Ku Klux Klan has endorsed Barack Obama to be the next President of the United States of America.

Speaking from his Kentucky office in Dawson Springs, the Imperial Wizard exclaimed that anything or anyone is better than having that “crazy a* #*tch” as President.

This is the first time in Klan history that any member of the KKK has ever publicly supported an African American candidate for the presidency. KKK lodges all over America have been gathering and holding rallies supporting the black presidential candidate.

Grand Turk Cletus Monroe has also been very vocal about the election and has donated thousands of dollars to Obama’s election fund.

“The boy’s gonna do it. My Klan group has donated up to $250,000 to the Obama fund. Anything is better than Hillary Clinton. Hell I’ll even adopt a black kid from Africa before I vote for Hillary.”

“A few years back we were lynching negroes. Now we’re gonna vote for one to be president of the US of motherfu**ing A, damn it! Anyone or anything is better than Hillary Clinton - anything!!”

Placards for Barack Obama have been put up around the Klan’s Headquarters and the KKK have announced a television ad campaign to support the African American candidate.

By pisces08

February 20, 2008 9:59 AM | Link to this

Morning All…. I’m getting my lurk on.

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 9:59 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs - Very good point about the emotion state of the child. There is only one divorce in my family, and my cousins were really hit hard. My aunt went out and got into a serious relationship soon after and it really messed her kids up. That relationship was really detrimental for her family.

The MOMania blog had a “stepmother” topic a few weeks ago and let me just tell you the stories have scarred me for life. There were way more “don’t do it!” stories than any positives.

By sky

February 20, 2008 10:02 AM | Link to this

Good morning..I dont have any but I have been in a couple of relationships where the guy did & I eventually broke it off because I knew I would never be first…sad but true….luckily the guy Im involved with now has a teenager 18…so thats a little better… but small kids are a nono….I know Im not the only one that feel this way either.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 20, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

IslandGirl “The boy’s gonna do it.”

They still managed to slip “boy” in there. I guess some things never change. :-/

By 2CPTG©

February 20, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

and A Red, that’s not a knock on y’all at all. Y’all have every right to be selfish; BUT, if you get with a dude with kids, ya gon’ hafta compromise…’specially if dude is heavily involved in his kids’ lives;

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

February 20, 2008 10:05 AM | Link to this

Island Girl No it’s not true. You actually listen to Truth wow! lol…

http://www.snopes.com/politics/obama/kkk.asp

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

sky - I say once you and your husband have kids of your own, you’ll never put him first so I’d say give a guy with a younger kid a chance anyway since eventually he’ll be insignificant. LOL.

By Cemeeli

February 20, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

Rell hold your guns ddarlin’…interesting in a good way.

It provoked me to think about…

• grown @ unsecure men seeking single moms to get the goods. And the other species of that kind that’s looking to SAVE a single mom is simply sad too. for me the only man that can save Cee owns everything…. gthoh.

By IslandGirl

February 20, 2008 10:09 AM | Link to this

@Blow…the artilce was forwarded to me, that is why I asked if anyone else heard about it. Don’t dog Truth out like that.

By The Truth

February 20, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

On topic: “and if he didn’t want to marry her and help her raise her daughter, someone else would. It was simply up to him decide. (They are now happily married and have a second daughter!)”

Is that not the stupidest shyt ever printed on ajc? Is that a threat or promise?

Lets get back to reality:

Pro: Women with children are definetly more grounded and realistic becuase they’re forced to be. They understand their situation and appreciate what a man can bring to them, for the most part.

Con: A woman with kids never really wants you for you. Her strongest desire is to provide for her children. You are just a means to getting that done. Not saying she won’t love you but you go into the game a 2nd stringer. In most cases there is also a father somewhere that wants to pop his head in and thats a problem. I don’t fugg dudes and I don’t discuss my decisions with some cat because his child lives in my home. So in the end he’s not welcome to visit and he can pick up the child at the curb. Also, whatever I do in my home is not open for discussion so if ol girl cant get with that program its a wrap. Finally, and this is cruel, but no matter what happens that child will never be mine. I wasnt there when it went down and no matter what I do that child can be taken away without a second thought from the mom. (one of my boys raised a little boy since he was 6 mos and the boys mom left and forbid him from seeing the boy)

Conclusion: There are more than enough single women out there without kids for me to seriously consider marrying a woman with kids. Also, when I have kids I want for me and my wife to sit around and read books and learn about the process and be excited vs some chick saying “this is my third, I got this, chill out”. Also, if I have to make compromises I want it to be for my blood, not some other dude.

Finally, the last gf I had was a prime candidate for wifey material but she had a son I disliked(I hate bad azz kids). I couldn’t see living with someone I disliked just to be with someone I liked.

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

2CPTG - I didn’t take it as a knock at all. That’s why I said “Amen.” It’s a given that once you are responsible for other people (spouse, kids) that you will become less selfish, unless you’re just a bad person. I don’t know any good parent or spouse that can say they’ve become MORE selfish since they’ve gotten married or had a kid.

You learn to adapt and when my time comes, I will, whether it’s my kids or kids he brings into the relationship. Until then, I will sleep til 10 am, stay out late and go where the wind takes me. LOL

By DreamsMaterialize

February 20, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Children should have minimal or NO exposure to your dating life.

Moms got divorced when I was 4 and re-married when I was fourteen, and in the 10 years in between I can’t remember any guys ever coming around. If Moms was out there doing her thing, we never knew it. The only guy I met was the one she married and consider my dad to this day.

By Blue_Kolla

February 20, 2008 10:14 AM | Link to this

Mornin’ Peeps

Since I live in reality and want my kid to know reality, setting time periods for me is out the window. I’m going to determine your merit and make the decision on when/if you get to meet The Prince, not just because we’re dating.

Lady J Dating does not equal meeting children at all…Date and enjoy and leave family and kids out of it…

I don’t have a problem with that at all. That’s probably better for me. But be advised that as long as we’re just dating and funnin’, that’s all that you’ll be to me is just a fun date, with some “sport fuggin” (<=== gotta cite Jazzy for that one) thrown in.

Bennie Just come on down and turn yourself in. There’s a warrant with your name on it being typed up right now.

Ben..nie..B Of..fen..ce:.. Lo..ng..Azz..Post.

Cee I thought about you yesterday on the train ride home, so this is just for you… If yo’ tracked up weave looks worse than your own hair, just say fahgitit and get’chu a wig.

By SlimOne

February 20, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

Hi All

Um, I don’t have any kids and I prefer to date men without kids.

BennyB I have blog ADD so if i can find my meds, I’ll think about trying to read that long azz post. lol

Dan-E boy What’s up amigo?

By Rell

February 20, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

@cemelli..respect

By IslandGirl

February 20, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

JOKE:

The FBI had an opening for an assassin.

After all the background checks, interviews and testing were done, there were 3 finalists; two men and a woman.

For the final test, the FBI agents took one of the men to a large metal door and handed him a gun.

“We must know that you will follow your instructions no matter what the circumstances. Inside the room you will find your wife sitting in a chair … Kill her!!”

The man said, “You can’t be serious. I could never shoot my wife. The agent said, “Then you’re not the right man for this job. Take your wife and go home.”

The second man was given the same instructions. He took the gun and went into the room. All was quiet for about 5 minutes. The man came out with tears in his eyes, “I tried, but I can’t kill my wife.” The agent said, “You don’t have what it takes. Take your wife and go home.”

Finally, it was the woman’s turn. She was given the same instructions, to kill her husband. She took the gun and went into the room. Shots were heard, one after another. There was screaming, crashing, banging on the walls. After a few minutes, all was quiet.

The door opened slowly and there stood the woman, wiping the sweat from her brow. “This gun is loaded with blanks” she said. “I had to beat him to death with the chair.”

MORAL: Women are crazy. Don’t mess with them.

By Wow

February 20, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this

NOT TRUE….Ku Klux Klan Endorses Obama CHECK OUT THE LINK

http://www.snopes.com/politics/obama/kkk.asp

By Dan

February 20, 2008 10:18 AM | Link to this

The D ain’t looking to save nobody, talk to Jesus about that…

As far as your comment Darrell, I’m talking on a different timeline, it’s not just the intial bad decisions with the men that produced the children. I go further with mine to the regret the feel at losing significant portions of their lives. These women, in some cases, have missed substantive portions of their lives (and time they could have used to better/find themselves) taking care of someone else.

I refer to ARed’s story about her friend yesterday. Perhaps had she not acted on impulse so long ago, she would not be staring at the problem that she herself created. In that she never took the time to be alone, get to know herself, what have you. She jumped into a relationship she nigh prepared for and the consequences of those actions are baring out now.

Same thing with “some” single mothers, whether they blame themselves or are irrationally upset with the father, makes no never mind. The fact is that admitted openly or not, there is a sense of loss that bubbles inside of them. That loss will be express, and I personally don’t wish to be within miles of babe, or have any responibilities with/for/to her when she blows.

Because blow she will.

By Auntie

February 20, 2008 10:18 AM | Link to this

2can The truth you know this Uncle 2…LMAOFF!

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

February 20, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

Island Girl Uh Sweetheart, it’s a joke…please fall back. Oh yeah make it a great day!

By SlimOne

February 20, 2008 10:21 AM | Link to this

Hi All

Um, I don’t have any kids and I prefer to date men without kids.

BennyB I have blog ADD so if i can find my meds, I’ll think about trying to read that long azz post. lol

Dan-E boy What’s up amigo?

By Page1908

February 20, 2008 10:22 AM | Link to this

Truth that was nice.

By Joy Monique

February 20, 2008 10:22 AM | Link to this

On topic, I usually lurk, but I’ll give my 2 cents today. As a 34 year old woman, my preference has been to date men, who like me, don’t have any children. I’ve come to realize the most men will have children, the older we become, especially if a man is divorced, widowed, or a single parent. In my opinion, it’s good practice to meet the children after a period of time once you know you’ll be in a long term relationship. I’ve become more open to the fact that my ideal mate will have fathered children and I have been willing to accept that fact. That’s a decision he’ll need to make, as a parent, when he’s ready for me to meet his child or children.

By Cemeeli

February 20, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

Hey Blue! ;)

said while tuckin’ my own hair behind the ear’ Lol.

Well it’s the truth…If yo’ tracked up weave looks worse than your own hair, just say fahgitit and get’chu a wig.

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

Dan - You’re a little off base with your conclusion of my friend, but it’s okay. Bottom line, and to your point, she did need to take time to live a little more before marriage. However, her decision to marry was not an impulsive one.

By Staceye

February 20, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

Blow Me I swear we are related! LOL I feel the same way. Except I usually pull a Jackie Joyner Kersy and run away from the dude with the kid(s). I don’t want to deal with the mama, nor do I wish to have to plan our outings or trips based on kids. Now I’m a big kid who still loves Disney World. If a guy told me he wouldnt take me there because of his kids getting mad he would be getting the shifty treatment! LOL

somma y’all single ladies don’t understand the challenges of parent hood, and thus, at times can be quite selfish… I think selfish is when people have children without thinking of all the stuff that comes with them. They are still trying to go out and party or shop like all they have is them..or make stuppid decisions, never taking in the effects of their actions on the life of the kid(s). I know I like to shop, travel and get up and go when I am ready. I like knowing after bills and tithes..my money is mine and I never have to decide on getting new boots for me or new clothes for the kid! If that makes me selfish..oh well then…put an “S” on my chest and I will wear it proudly! Not to mention the look and interest a guy would give when they find out I have No kids..almost like my stock price goes up 30 points! My guy friends that have no kids say they do date women with kids on a serious level because they are not trying to be daddy to some other dude’s kid. Not to mention just as I feel, I have the right to be selective because I have none so…

By SeanJohnson3000

February 20, 2008 10:27 AM | Link to this

…regarding the post..i prefer to date single mothers..nothing like seeing a female handling her biz and responsibilities.. it can indicate how mature the female is and her mind set depending how good of a parent she is….now i have ran across a few single mothers that dont like to date men with a kid (s)..for selfish reasons.

By Lady J

February 20, 2008 10:30 AM | Link to this

Hey Joy Monique Welcome!

By IslandGirl

February 20, 2008 10:31 AM | Link to this

Truth…I can respect what you’re saying. The issue of discplining a child that is not yours, dealing with the other parent, and having rude azz kids are some of the biggest challenges of having an integrated family.

BennyB…cosign on your post

Blow…it all good….I got your joke…no worries sis.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 20, 2008 10:31 AM | Link to this

Hey, Cemeeli, just wanted you to know that I was flipping channels yesterday and came cross this cooking show on Fit TV where some dude was making something using soy flour. (Of course, I changed the channel.) :-)

By Page1908

February 20, 2008 10:31 AM | Link to this

LOL Blow Me @ fall back! lmfao..ctfu

LOL @ Dan

By Blue_Kolla

February 20, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

And even though I have a kid, it’s probably better to not get too involved with a woman with kids until they are grown and gone. Step-Poppin’ is the hardest, most thankless job in the world. So Truth, I’m feeling you all day on your post.

By Lady J

February 20, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

Hey Joy Monique Welcome!

By Wow

February 20, 2008 10:33 AM | Link to this

Now that we are over the KKK…..Good morning all! Passing out bongs and incenses to all! lol lmao

On topic I don’t have kids so I don’t know the protocol on introducing kids…. As for me dating a guy with ONE kid cool….

By Jazzyone

February 20, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

I Tend to date men with children as it takes the preassure off me. Ive met the kids before we ended up in the exclusive lane, didn’t mind it, the reasoning has always been the positivity influence to a child or young adult, not necessarily as his woman but as a woman period…I tend to bond very very well with kids when I was younger and now.

If myself and that guy don’t make it I have and still am in touch with some of the kids as a mentor or someone they can talk to or follow their thought to reason if their parents p** them off or what have you.

I live it never complained about it and what led me to become a mentor at metrocasa,org to helo the kids….Kids need unconditional love and support and direction not drama..if their parents are drama i tend to back off anyway and we don’t even get to the kids part int he ‘lationship…

By Lady J

February 20, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

Hey Joy Monique Welcome!

By Lady J

February 20, 2008 10:35 AM | Link to this

BK, as dating for the last 3 yrs I have come to learn it is not exclusive which means to me kids are not apart which me i wouldn’t ask my date to pick up lil lady from grandma’s or cook dinner for her or read a book to her…It is what it is and not what is is not I J does not twist the two..since I am not looking for an exclusive relationship or a husband I am dating and doing J without lil lady or mom dukes in my business…J

By Lady J

February 20, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

BK, as dating for the last 3 yrs I have come to learn it is not exclusive which means to me kids are not apart which me i wouldn’t ask my date to pick up lil lady from grandma’s or cook dinner for her or read a book to her…It is what it is and not what is is not I J does not twist the two..since I am not looking for an exclusive relationship or a husband I am dating and doing J without lil lady or mom dukes in my business…J

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

February 20, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

STACEYE Hey what’s up? Yo a* has been M.I.A lately. lol! I will wear that S too!

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

putting on my blog vest - Isn’t part of one’s “responsibilities” is to make sure you don’t get pregnant outside of marriage? For most of the folks I know that are single moms (the ones who’ve never married) being irresponsible is what got them in the situation in the first place. So yes, it’s good that once you find yourself in the situation, you handle it accordingly.

However, I would venture to say that like many women, like me, who own their own house, their own car and pay their bills are just as responsible as the women who do the same, yet do it with a kid.

By Lady J

February 20, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

BK, as dating for the last 3 yrs I have come to learn it is not exclusive which means to me kids are not apart which me i wouldn’t ask my date to pick up lil lady from grandma’s or cook dinner for her or read a book to her…It is what it is and not what is is not I J does not twist the two..since I am not looking for an exclusive relationship or a husband I am dating and doing J without lil lady or mom dukes in my business…J

By SlimOne

February 20, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

I honestly think it appears to be easier for women with kids to get dates than it is for a totally single chick. Not sure why though. I have all too often seen chicks with 2 or more kids still getting a slew of dates. I don’t know if the men are just sharking off her section 8 & food stamps, just like feeling needed, or just plain like them enough to stick with her and the ready made family.

By 2CPTG©

February 20, 2008 10:40 AM | Link to this

Staceye….you took my quote entirely out of context….yeah it’s selfish to have kids and you can’t even feed your damn self, but I was talking about it from a dating standpoint - single women with no kids dating a guy with kids….

But I wish you much luck, Ms Lady…..

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 10:43 AM | Link to this

Truth - That’s some real talk right there.

I’m mad you said they can “pick the child up at the curb.” You stink. LOL

By kimmie

February 20, 2008 10:43 AM | Link to this

I actually prefer to date guys with kids. At my age, most men I meet have them anyway. I am getting older and I don’t want a guy to be upset that he missed out if I can’t have any. Also, I get to observe the maturity level. I’ve met a few that loved their kids, but never made the time for them (before you ask, there was no baby mama keeping them from the kids either). Kids need more than a check every month. I truly love kids and they seem to love me. You would think my nieces & nephews & goddaughter belonged to me at times. The man I am seeing now is a widow, so he does it all. There is nothing sexier to me than seeing him play with his kids.

By Cemeeli

February 20, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

SeanJ3000 i’m appreciating you for saying that.

I have said before but i’ll reiterate:

• A lot of us single mothers are not looking for a guy to SAVE, be-daddy or babysit our kid or us for that matter. We are wanting a mate for the same principles as single women.

I thank God for a child that does not long for lst love and validity outside of our pod.

By Dan

February 20, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

@Slim

Well having babies does change the profile of a woman’s body in significant ways.

By Blue_Kolla

February 20, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

Jazzy Ive met the kids before we ended up in the exclusive lane, didn’t mind it, the reasoning has always been the positivity influence to a child or young adult, not necessarily as his woman but as a woman period…

Upper level maturity right there. ^^^

J since I am not looking for an exclusive relationship or a husband I am dating and doing J without lil lady or mom dukes in my business…

That’s exactly what I said. We’re in total agreement here.

By Jazzyone

February 20, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

I beg to differ slim, Im single and no children. most of th men i date tell me they prefer to date a woman without the kids or the drama, effects or what have you that comes with them…I didn’t say it they do say it…Im not saying sally plus three isn’t getting dates…but me minus three are getting her dates and my own…LMAOFF…no hate to the motha’s our there..just stating my expreience.

By Lady J

February 20, 2008 10:47 AM | Link to this

Great Post Cemeeli!!:)

By Rell

February 20, 2008 10:48 AM | Link to this

@bk

Step-Poppin’ is the hardest, most thankless job in the world

word!!!!

By The Truth

February 20, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

Slim I watched that Millionaire dating show last night with an open mind and her service has a place for some of those cats. In pursuit of loot some of those guys were social hang nails. They didn’t have a clue.Still I question a woman that can’t get a guy she’s been dating 3 year to marry her on giving advice on marriage. That bruh Xander was a total waste. All he said was “you are so beautiful all day.” I felt bad for ol girl.

BK being a step dad is a thankless job. If shyt goes right its the moms doing. If shyt goes south its the evil step dad.

We’re not even going to bring up the older daughter/son making problems and doing inappropriate shyt. Then when you tear their azz out the frame you gotta take a charge. Sorry, I don’t need that kind of frustration.

“somma y’all single ladies don’t understand the challenges of parent hood, and thus, at times can be quite selfish… I think selfish is when people have children without thinking of all the stuff that comes with them.”

Isn’t that saying a mouthful.

By Lady J

February 20, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

Great Post Cemeeli!!:)

By Lady J

February 20, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

Got you BK!

By Lady J

February 20, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this

Got you BK!

By Lady J

February 20, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

Got you BK!

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

February 20, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

Ared I think your comment is a bit much and judgemental. If you are not a virgin you are ALWAYS at risk for having a child. Maybe it was not your turn. I don’t have kids.But I know Nothing is 100% proof. If you call having protect, birth sex responsible then you are wrong. Nothing is 100%.

I am willing to step out there and say you are NOT a virgin AND probably was not married when you decided to have sex. So what you are saying is irrevelant…You were just blessed for your life to not have kids. And another woman was blessed in her life to have a bundle of joy.

Irresponsible is 3 kids later and not married and looking up wondering why?????!?!?

By SlimOne

February 20, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

Dan Well having babies does change the profile of a woman’s body in significant ways. So basically I need to pop out some twins so i can gain some azz-n-itties and a side of hips?

Jazz I’m not saying that single chicks aren’t getting dates, nor am I saying I don’t get any either…but it’s just an observation of mine. Been seeing this a lot lately. Matter of fact, the more recent was a chick with 5 kids! I’m not sure if it was 3 different baby daddy’s or 4 but WOW! is all i could say when I heard another dude (didn’t father any of the kids) had proposed to her.

By IslandGirl

February 20, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this

Cameeli.. I CO-SIGN…..how true..

By Cemeeli

February 20, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

Darrell! IF’N U R GNG THR ABT MY AFFAIR W/SOY I’MA CHOP YO NECK! K?

trying to take a stab at the Soy on the sly

I see you.

(((((o))))) (((((o))))).

By BINFORD2K

February 20, 2008 11:00 AM | Link to this

On topic At this point in my life, I do not want to date a woman with children. But I do realize the longer the game goes I may have to revise that plan. But here is my reasoning.

1) The child is the woman’s #1 priority (as it should be), and the man will walk in the door playing second fiddle. I don’t want to walk in the door knowing I am second fiddle no matter what I do. I see enough men treated that way AFTER they created a baby.

2) Resource grab. Face it, it is hard paying for something you didn’t create. Plenty of guys are generous and kind - but I frankly can’t see me doing this.

3) Building a foundation. My logic is that you build a foundation and relationship and THEN have children. If they have them already it will always be about the child first.

4) This is gonna sound heinously wrong, but when a woman has a kid, it’s like she was marked by another man. Yea, I know most everyone has multiple sex partners before they get married. But a child is the most obvious sign of that and a turnoff for some.

My vision always was to meet a girl, date for a while and then marry. Travel for a few years and then start a family - it’s really hard to let that go. But it is 2008.

By Dan

February 20, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

@Slim

Naw, I’m pretty sure you’re fine as is.

What I was talking about was the physical and psychological changes in a woman. Take the 5 kid babe. Dude at her, might be thinking jump-off. I know I would. Think about 5 kids, unless all by one guy. She’s a giver.

By Staceye

February 20, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

Dan I have seen the single mom that you speak of. She had had never got to do anything that young adults get to do and then she a had a kid now she gets mad when she can’t go out or never have any money to shop. But she still does then gets mad at the dead beat baby daddy when her lights get cut off. Granted I told her, yes he is trife…but you know this, so its YOUR fault that you try to live like a non-parent and get bit in the azz for it. But she gets on the phone and curses him out…like that is going to change anything. If you want to still have YOUR life…don’t have kids! Plain and simple. Its your decision whether to bring them into the world or not. If you are a single woman and find out your are pregnant you have 3 choices, abortion, adoption, have it and don’t b!tch about it. If a guy tells you he doesn’t want it the moment you tell him…you already know that type of father you will have. The final decision is yours!

Blow Me I was off on Mondy for President’s day but I was out sick with a stomach virus yesterday. You know you are sick when you just curl up on the floor by the toilet because the floor is cool and you don’t have far to go whne you have to lose your guts! visual is NOT pretty! LOL

By mytwocents

February 20, 2008 11:03 AM | Link to this

Someone my age may be a dad or even the younguns who think I’m their age have those odds - no prob I’ve always wanted to adopt. Now if dude’s willing to put the tot(s) on hold for a chick RED LIGHT. If she’d allow or worse expects it - STOP sign.

Regarding multiple babies w/ multiple donors - let’s not forget this makes women do a double take as well. In a Timespan of 5 secs: My first thought is this muhhfuh is too damn fertile, quickly followed by Oh AND he likes to raw dawg all willy nilly (why do so many have overlapping ages!?!) —> This cat could accidentally leave me with a lot more than a kid…

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 20, 2008 11:03 AM | Link to this

LOL! @ Rell “step-poppin’” ROFL!!!

By Dan

February 20, 2008 11:04 AM | Link to this

Plus which, it’s tax season!

Can you imagine the kinda refund she got with all them kids. Shiiiiiiddd, I might be going out to lunch to find me a single mother! lol/bnr

By Page1908

February 20, 2008 11:04 AM | Link to this

Slim I can give you some of my hips and t**! LOL lawd please relieve me.

By SlimOne

February 20, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

Truth I actually had ever intention on watching it last night but I guess that Tylenol Cold got the best of me. I think i got past the opening credits. But I was talking to a friend about that show. Having millions sho doesn’t make you a social butterfly. I can see a lot of those cats being the nerds of yesteryear…now trying to be cool even though they do have millions.

So what happened witht he black dude’s date? Did he end up fugging the chick or something?

By kimmie

February 20, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

Slim - That’s been my observation too! It seems like all of the ladies I know with kids have either gotten rings in no time flat or have dates out the ying-yang! Good for them though, I’m not mad at them. A few guys have run the line that my stock value is higher because I don’t have kids, but that never translated into any extra action on their part to pursue me. Either way, we all have a right to decide what we can deal with, or not.

By The Truth

February 20, 2008 11:07 AM | Link to this

Ared whats the problem with that? We’ll never have one of those situations where me and ol boy sit at the table and discuss whats gonna go down. I’ll tell the dude straight out he’s not allowed in my house and anyone who lets him in is getting booted the fug out. As I said i don’t date dudes and don’t consider them in my thought process. If the baby’s mom wants to listen to ol boy then she should go back and be with him. My .02 Oh yeah, I’m hella co-signing your 1037. Now thats the whole truth.

Some of y’all are shooting from the hip on this one. I thought it was gonna be a politically correct blog day with e1 saying that little “Chucky” is welcome in my house but you folks are keeping it real.

Joy i keep re-reading your post. I guess it just doesn’t sit well with me. I mean why settle for a cat with kids if thats not what you really want? Like someone said earlier most people will have children at a certain age and while thats true I’m not dating most people, i’m looking for the one and I know she’s out there and doesn’t have kids. My .02

I say go for what you want in life because it costs the same as 2nd best.

By Jazzyone

February 20, 2008 11:07 AM | Link to this

Slim Not hating that and applause to them both for creating a union to take care of them dayum kids..thats totally auesome!

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

Blow - You’re right, you are always at risk. But I’ll tell you this. The girls I know who have gotten pregnant have got that way because they got “caught up in the moment.” The condom didn’t break, the pill didn’t fail. They missed a pill, or stopped taking it all together and didnt’ use a condom.

Yes, I know condoms break and pills fail, but in reality, the chance is very low if you use them correctly.

As for me, no I am not a virgin, but I do go above and beyond the call of duty to make sure I don’t get pregnant when I decide to have sex. That means being on the pill and using a condom. There are the times I’ve made it all the way to work and turn around and go back when I’ve forgotten to take a pill. There is the time I was a broke college student paying $50 a month for birth control and wasn’t even sleeping with anyone. The times I chose not to have sex, even though I was on the pill AND using a condom because it was the “fertile” time if all other methods fail.

Yes, I’ve chosen to not have kids at this time but I’ve also made the choice to do whatever it takes to stack the odds in my favor as well. So if it comes off as “a bit much” so be it. One thing I’m NOT is irresponsible, tho.

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this

Truth - No problem. You’re just a bully and you KNOW it!

By Staceye

February 20, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

Slim I do not have much hips..but I can spare some booty! LOL I think I can spare a cup of boobs and still be ok. LOL

Binford put your blog vest and head gear on boo! LOL I feel you though!

By SexyLeggs

February 20, 2008 11:15 AM | Link to this

I remember my ex telling me (while still married) that no one would want me if I divorced him becuase I have a child. The tone he used was as if I was fat, ugly and had 10 chillin’s hanging from t** to ankle.

Anyway, sure the dynamics of dating w/children can be burdensome if you let it. Open communication and both child and dating partner respecting each other can help smooth things along. I know this is easier said then done. What I’m trying to say is don’t negate a potential dating partner just because they have children.

By cinnabun

February 20, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

I’ve dated single fathers and it wasn’t all that bad. He had his stuff together, good job making good money. Beautiful house and luxury car underneath all that he had a great mind. There were a few set backs for instance him having to cut dates short b/c the little one kept blowing up his phone, I took it in stride I can’t say I’ll never date a single father again though.

Not all single mothers/fathers are on food stamps and live on section 8. There are some very strong sinlge parents out there working everyday, holding down a job, house, car and making ends meet, some doing better than folks without kids, this I’ve seen for myself. Sterotyping single parents as foodstamp and section 8 receiptant or an easy lay is the same as sterotyping black women as easy and black men as thugs and lazy jail baits.

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

February 20, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this

ARED If God decides to bless you with a child it’s nothing you can do. I know someone who got prego…condom broke and she took her pills faithfully. So what you are saying sounds good but…..baby girl if it’s you time and GOD blesses you with a child there is nothing you can do a bout it. MAN made pills & condoms. Yes it’s good you are responsible….I have been too. But I won’t get on my high horse and get beside myself and talk all this big talk on high I am saved sanctified and filled with the holy ghost….when all along I am doing the same thing Keisha was doing. But was blessed enough not have a life long decision.

But yeah it does come off as a “bit much”….. a lil “SELF RIGHTEOUS”..if you ask me. When all along it wasn’t just NOT you to decide you are not ready for a child.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 20, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this

Staceye “You know you are sick when you just curl up on the floor by the toilet because the floor is cool and you don’t have far to go whne you have to lose your guts!”

But you were still rockin’ them stilletos, weren’t you? LOL!

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs - I think I dislike your ex more than you do. What a tool!

By pisces08

February 20, 2008 11:19 AM | Link to this

I’m ok with dating women with children. When I started dating my ex, she had an 8mo old. He’s 16 now and still calls me dad, visits in the summer, and makes it a point to include me. His mom and I broke up 8 yrs ago. In this case, step poppin is very rewarding.

By Dan

February 20, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

Discipline is another factor for me. These kids these days be like 4 and jazzy bout the mouth. I’m from the old school, ain’t no talking to grown folk like that! Smack the shyt outta kid (mine or someone elses).

But these day, folk either act like they didn’t hear it or want to explain to kid why it was hurtful. Nope.

Where I come from it was, and is, yes sir, no sir. Yes ma’am no ma’am. wasn’t no “yeah or naw”. Man please, if I dating a woman with a bad moufed kid, that speaks more to her than to the kid…either way, I’m split fingered outta that sit.

By Rell

February 20, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

@slim/kimmie…those men who do that, are settling or going with the path of less resistance….the single mother in THERE mind well accept them as is….were the single women will poke and prod into the background to see who you really are..most single mothers in the A are looking for help with the bills and kids..or a way to consildate funds so she can get back onto the scene

By cinnabun

February 20, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

I’ve dated single fathers and it wasn’t all that bad. He had his stuff together, good job making good money. Beautiful house and luxury car underneath all that he had a great mind. There were a few set backs for instance him having to cut dates short b/c the little one kept blowing up his phone, I took it in stride I can’t say I’ll never date a single father again though.

Not all single mothers/fathers are on food stamps and live on section 8. There are some very strong sinlge parents out there working everyday, holding down a job, house, car and making ends meet, some doing better than folks without kids, this I’ve seen for myself. Sterotyping single parents as foodstamp and section 8 receiptant or an easy lay is the same as sterotyping black women as easy and black men as thugs and lazy jail baits.

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

Blow - If you feel I’m on my “high horse” so be it. I’m not, you’ve chose to take it that way. I’m not going to argue with you over it.

Everyone has a “friend” who was doing everything right and ended up with a kid. I’m not talking about those folks then. I’m talking about the friends we all have that just got “caught up” which is extremely more common.

Anyway, let’s agree to disagree.

By SlimOne

February 20, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

Dan There are so many women to chose from that are ready and willing to be that jump-off. However, if i were a dude, I’d be scared to have a mother of 5 as a jump-off. If i ate off her fork, by dinner’s end, she’d be telling me her period is late. OH HAYO NAW, whatchu talkin bout you late?! All I did was taste your chicken!

Page & Staceye I sort of like my itty bitty’s. However, can yall just send me a few CC’s of boob so I can even up the left to match the right. LMAO As far as hips & backside go once I get knocked up, I think I’ll be alright. But I will keep yall on deck for emergency purposes only. lol

kimmie Yeah, I’m not sure what it is. Maybe the mother’s are more apt to cater to the men as apposed to the single ladies. As you may know, they say men are just little boys trapped in grown men bodies anyway…baby can you please cut up my hotdog like you did lil man?

By The Truth

February 20, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

Slim he took out this cutie and just kept saying how beautiful she was. He wanted to see her a again but she said no, he was kinda creepy. I laughed my azz off. Then i thought back to when I was in germany and we had all that azz out there and those cats couldn’t get any. Social misfits. I hit europe on wednesday and friday night I was in some azz. And that ain’t no bullshyt. LOL

Binkford 3) Building a foundation. My logic is that you build a foundation and relationship and THEN have children. If they have them already it will always be about the child first.

Dam, how could I have left that out. Great post. Lets get our teamwork down before we go scouting new rookies. LOL

Ared my second cosign of the day for the 1108. All the dudes should be giving you a standing ovation for that one. (The Truth slaps the fellas on the back of the head to wake em up and stand em up.) I am feeling your azz today however this is my last cosign becuase I cant be giving them out all willy nilly.

Slim a chick with kids will give you azz way before a single chick will. Thats why they get dates while your at home watching tv with your butterfly. LOL She has limited time so she’s gotta get it done. You figure it can wait till next week cause you gotta be at 300 by 6. LOL

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

February 20, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this

Dan I am with you on that. I hate bad azz kids. Control those rugrats and stop giving them OPTIONS. They are kids you make the decision. That’s why when I do have my bundles of joys…I am headed to the country where I hope things are the same down there. This new age parenting alot of ppl are gettin really lazy!!

By IslandGirl

February 20, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this

Blow…I agree with you. On top of that…I know some of the single women with no kids that use abortion as an option of birth control.

I’m not knocking anyone directly, but some women without kids are proud to say they do not have kids and are responsible but would not talk about the decision they made back in highschool or college (to have that abortion).

Many of us made the decision to handle the responsibility of raising a child on our own after having sex out of wedlock. God has forgiven me,so I don’t need anyone else’s forgiveness.

Secondly, why do some men think that all single mothers are out there looking for a replacement “dad” for their kid(s). There are plenty of mentorship programs available to single moms. Anyway, this is just my .2cents.

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 11:29 AM | Link to this

binford - My vision always was to meet a girl, date for a while and then marry. Travel for a few years and then start a family - it’s really hard to let that go. But it is 2008.

I feel you dude.

Dan - That “she’s a giver” comment had me WEAK. ROTFLMAO!

By Page1908

February 20, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

Slim LOL at your mosquito bites! Girl, I could give you a few CC’s of boob and still have some. Problem is my back is kinda small, so it’s hard to carry around FF’s when your back is only a 38! I actually like my hips, so if you do need some, I may consider sparing some for a small price, of course lol.

By SeanJohnson3000

February 20, 2008 11:31 AM | Link to this

@ Binford…your post shows that you are dude with A LOT of insecurities…had you have said that you wanna experience having a child with some one that never had that experience then i could see your point…but you and a few others have to understand that a child comes first…and in a true real marriage ..if you are in one…the man and woman come together as ONE so its NO competition…further more..u dont even see or meet a females kid….and lastly …to think that a female that is “marked’ for having a kid is lil boyish…if anything it will make the sweet potatoe pie a lil bit sweeter..

By BINFORD2K

February 20, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this

Staceye

The truth is the truth and if that makes me the bad guy - so be it. I’m willing to jump on ugly grenade of truth for the sake of man.

By 2CPTG©

February 20, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

just outta curiosity, and aimed at no one in particular, but when your fellow bloggers “call you out on something” like an attitude they perceive, or anything, does any of y’all ever do any introspection? meaning taking a look at yourself and seeing if there’s any validity in what others are saying? or do you just chalk it up to these are nameless, faceless personas, and you could care less?

By Rell

February 20, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

@Fishman…I think the thankless part comes from the mothers and not the kid…hell all children remember who was nice or instrumental in there development…ask shaq who is father is…feel me

it is the mother who does not display a air of thankfullness that you came in to there life….you are just a place holder until the next simp comes along with a better a* kissing game

By For Real

February 20, 2008 11:35 AM | Link to this

First yall definding chasing Butterflies now bragging about being Selfish. And then have the nerve to talk about Quality and Character.

SMH!!!

By cinnabun

February 20, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

5^ IslandGirl

By DreamsMaterialize

February 20, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

Slimmie & Kimmie If a guy was raised by a single mom, then he may have a soft spot for women with kids when he’s old enough to date. Lots of boys see their moms dogged growing up. So, maybe they made it a point to show love to the single moms, love that their mom had such a hard time getting.

Blow & ARed It’s true that no contraceptive is 100%. And although the chances of getting pregnant while using a contraceptive is low, it’s not as low as it seems. Studies show that the probability of a woman getting pregnant is 2% if the condom is used PERFECTLY. So, if I stay on the conservative side and say that there are 50 million sexually active women in the US, then 1 million will still get pregnant, even if they use a condom EVERY time the “right” way. Now, if the condom is used improperly or breaks, then that number increases drastically.

By SexyLeggs

February 20, 2008 11:37 AM | Link to this

Dan, I am definitely old school and I refuse to raise a child that disrespects me, or one that I’m afraid to go to sleep with in the house w/me. Hell NO! These parents who let their children talk back to them w/attitude are point blank STUPID. A child should be able to plead its case, but not with attitude. As Bill Cosby (and many other parents) said, I’ll brought you into this world, I’ll smack the living shyt out of you while taking you out!

Now, my child comes before me because it’s my responsiblity to raise her to the best of my ability. However, I cannot forget about my own existence and my own needs. There’s nothing worse than a parent living in the shadow of the child w/no life of their own!

ARed, girl, I don’t even like to hear the sound of his voice! The key to this is nobody knows it but me.

By Dan

February 20, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

@Page Double FF’s! DAMN!

@Binford: I’m with you all the way on that post.

@ARed & Truth

I was looking at Blow’s response, but yeah, I was in the office with the Arsenio bark, LOUDLY.

But for real though, single women/men with no kids should be respected. Like the Matrix, it takes a lot skill to avoid them bullets.

And to not have had the bug! or his cousins! shiiiiddd! You off the chart with that one. Grade A, prime rib, Blue chip.

There is no spoon! Matter of fact call me Neo.

By The Truth

February 20, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

SJ your a little off base on that one. Once a chick has a kid with a dude she’ll ALWAYS have a deep tie to him. That same tie is not there with a childless woman. Also, he always has access to her. He can insert himself into your life at will. Its hard captaining a ship when the old crew keeps popping in.

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this

Island Girl - My post was speaking the ones who got caught up in the moment whether they kept the kid or not. So it does include the ones that chose to terminate pregnancy.

Another disclaimer, just because one has made an irresponsible decision, does not mean I’m saying they are an irresponsible person. We’re all guilty of making bad decisions.

By kimmie

February 20, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this

Truth - I watch that show and it’s a trip! The matchmaker chick, the dudes & the dates are all trainwrecks if you ask me! Very entertaining, though. Did you see the one where the dude lived in the hood because he didn’t want ladies to want him for his money? But yet, he went to a matchmaking service that specializes in MILLIONAIRES! Hello! But the show illustrates how having money can’t buy love! And I know you’re a dude & might not notice this, but what’s with the black lip liner on the pale lips of the Matchmaker? She looks a hot mess, kinda like a man sometimes to me. While she sends some of the dudes for makeovers, she needs one herself. And the brotha was sort of a dunce - I wanted to jump through the TV and snatch off some of those stupid hats!

By Dan/Neo

February 20, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

@2C

I would think you’d have to have some introspection, if what you say is how you feel. Chances are, someone else somewhere in your life has told you the same thing.

So for faceless, nameless, words to confirm what someone you know has said about you…that would give me some pause.

But I get enough criticism from friends and family anyway. At almost 30, I’m confident enough to not GAF!

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

Dan, Truth - Thanks for the response. At the end of the day, I was really just wondering why single women w/out kids can’t be praised for “handling their biz” like single mothers are. I mean damn, if you’re a responsible person, you’re a responsible person. I KNOW raising kids is a challenge, and when a person is called to it, the cream will rise to the top. Period.

By melo

February 20, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

but when a woman has a kid, it’s like she was marked by another man. But a child is the most obvious sign of that and a turnoff for some. cosign single moms are the most user friendly for jump offs, like some said.Very easy to please and they dont set the bar too high and besides, a wman with a kid or kids tatses a little better(on the pudsy) and comes with sme good fcking experience.Most of them have very liberal sex opinions and not as prudish. Every human being is valuable, u knw…Problem with the Staceye* and Ared* types is they want to talk & mouth too much before sex,after and during that smetimes u fulfil the sex act just for the stats part and not the pleasure aspect.Too many hoop jumping exercises before the delivery just to feign that they dont come easy!Thats why guys gravitate to mothers.

By Willie Dynamite

February 20, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

First yall definding chasing Butterflies now bragging about being Selfish. And then have the nerve to talk about Quality and Character

Bruh connect the dots and thus you have the single woman. It is a good thing that some don’t have kids. Then again a kid may just humble a few of em.

By Page1908

February 20, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

Dan Yep. It sounds good, because you’re a man, but trust me, it’s not all that great, lol.

By SlimOne

February 20, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

Truth That dude probably whacks off a lot & is overly excited about the possibility to have an actual live warm body to whack off to. LOL!

She has limited time so she’s gotta get it done. You figure it can wait till next week cause you gotta be at 300 by 6. Hardy har har…LOL BTW, I don’t own a butterfly or a rabbit and I haven’t touched my bullet in months.

Slim now sadden by the realization of her sad sx life, grabs the electric pencil sharpener & 4 boxes of unsharpened pencils into the bathroom no one ever uses

By Rell

February 20, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

@2CAN…ya know i think the same thing..i bet you will get the crickets and hook on that post….

@slim…..ummmm hon you dont need anything..you fine just the way you are….you will appeal to the subset of men that like that tight gnat booty…feel me

@ared…you can come across a lil self absorbed and high and mighty…

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

February 20, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

@ Slim Girl stop, I know plenty of women that is your size and they have kids.

Just because you have kids don’t neccessarily mean you will always gain weight (hips/ butt). I mean you have a lot of women that do but it’s not always the case.

By The Truth

February 20, 2008 11:49 AM | Link to this

Page can you meet me in the lobby please? Dayuum woman, you could feed a nation. LOL

slim I have a foolproof way of getting your left and right proprtional again.

More important than the effectiveness of birth control is the person has the mentality and responsibility to try and prevent an accident. We all know that most of these kids come from some lonely azz chick who finally met some dude that was acceptable and now she had an accident. Shyt, you didn’t have an accident went you let Ray Ray hit it because you knew his azz wasn’t working. LOL

By Blue_Kolla

February 20, 2008 11:50 AM | Link to this

2 but when your fellow bloggers “call you out on something” like an attitude they perceive, or anything, does any of y’all ever do any introspection? meaning taking a look at yourself and seeing if there’s any validity in what others are saying? or do you just chalk it up to these are nameless, faceless personas, and you could care less?

Mayne you know what it is, the second one. Your presentation was smooth, so maybe they’ll take a look-see.

For Real First yall definding chasing Butterflies now bragging about being Selfish. And then have the nerve to talk about Quality and Character.

That’s why you gotta keep a monocular on that 3rd eye ‘cause the true diamond is gonna be hard to spot amongst all this fluff.

By pisces08

February 20, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

@ Rell. True, hell, she just figured out how important the relationship is to the young bruh. As men, we have to show the young bruhs the way, if not, they get lost

By BINFORD2K

February 20, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

SJ3000

There’s no insecurity here friend. It’s knowing what I want and what I am willing to accept in the relationship realm.

Your comment is a tad idealistic in nature in regards to the lack of “competition” - see, I just walked around my office and you know how many women just have pics of just their kids and NOT their spouses? Venture to take a guess? I saw ONE women who had a pic of her hubby - ONE. In relation, the majority of men had family pics. Experience tells me what “should be” and what “IS” are quite different. Biblically speaking, I believe (and someone correct me if I am wrong), but isn’t your spouse your #1 Earthly focus (besides God, of course)? Not your child?

A girl is “marked” per say. Most likely a woman’s hips will shift and have stretch marks and her womanly part alters a little bit. It’s pretty much a fact for most chief. Now, if it’s my parter with my child, that’s not even a thought - but otherwise it is. I know for a fact many men feel this way. If someone is a bigger, better, more mature person for thinking otherwise - that is their prerogative …it just isn’t mine.

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

melo - Problem with the Staceye and Ared* types is they want to talk & mouth too much before sex,after and during that smetimes u fulfil the sex act just for the stats part and not the pleasure aspect.*

Very true! You hit that nail on the head. Sex will never be casual and carefree for me until I’m married.

Rell - you can come across a lil self absorbed and high and mighty…

Oh well. So be it. I’m happy and at peace with myself and I hope all of you on here can say the same.

By Blue_Kolla

February 20, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

Correction: “monocle”

By mytwocents

February 20, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

Slim Re ur 10:39 SPEAK! But I’ve already got the baby makin’ hips so I can donate some to u (shout out to grandma!) It’s amusing that in my 20s men seemed surprised & delighted that I had no kids. Fast fwd early 30s and they seem a lil suspicious lolol. So Jazz You’s a lucky ducky :)

Binford That was my plan too! I’ll consider readjusting in next 3 yrs. It’s that or I’ll be pushing a stroller thru the jungles of South America…

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

Truth - More important than the effectiveness of birth control is the person has the mentality and responsibility to try and prevent an accident. We all know that most of these kids come from some lonely azz chick who finally met some dude that was acceptable and now she had an accident. Shyt, you didn’t have an accident went you let Ray Ray hit it because you knew his azz wasn’t working. LOL

Maybe this will come across better since it’s coming from you. :-)

By melo

February 20, 2008 11:57 AM | Link to this

Once a chick has a kid with a dude she’ll ALWAYS have a deep tie to him. cosing..i wld extend that to every wman i have sexed real good.I can always get into her mind if i wanted to.Damn, i have had good sexing in my bachelor dayz but all the wmen are all over the globe now!!

By Rell

February 20, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

@ared…you know what really p** me off…

Rell- hey lady how you doing

Her - fine

(insert game/small talk/etc)

Her - so do you have any children

Rell - no

Her - how old are you

Rell - 32

Her - dayum….i know you have at least one you not claiming

….now what kind of s** is that to say….and i have more…what you use to be gay…ummm you shooting blanks…you just now getting women…and i have heard all these from some of those corporate type women…so single men that handle there biz GETS NO LOVE!!!…

By IslandGirl

February 20, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

Truth….that bullish That decision is left up to the woman to decide how involved she will allow her child’s father into her personal life (if at all). My son’s father only concern is for the welfare of our son -not me. I had to chop him off at the knees years ago, when he wanted to know my every move in regards to dating and my personal life. I told him to never ask me about my personal life because It is none of his business. All he needs to be concerned with is whether or not I’m taking care of our son. Besides, that should not be a concern because he knows I am responsible and there is no need for concern. If women decide to continue having sex with their ex SO that is their call. When you cut those ties they should remain cut.

By SlimOne

February 20, 2008 11:59 AM | Link to this

Rell lmao at gnat booty! Dayum, I know i’m small but I’d like to think it’s a little more back there to be called gnat booty. Let’s just say I got that grapebooty bump.

MisU Yeah I know because I’ve seen plenty of chicks that maintain small frames after kids. I was only going by my mom. She has hips but is still small. Everyone say I resemble her so just going off possible genetics.

By The Truth

February 20, 2008 12:02 PM | Link to this

Kimmie I agree ol girl is a little “mannish”. My thing is with that kind of loot why pay $10000 minimum for a chick to set you up with a woman you could meet at The Cheesecake. None of those chicks are overly educated or have anything much to offer but azz. She’s not asking for harvard grads. I’d pull into the cheesecake on a sunny saturday afternoon in a Bentley and at least 10 chicks would jock my azz to death. However, those cats are social misfits and need all the help they can get. LOL

Slim whats wrong with whacking off?

Ared in this victim society your not special until you get yourself into some shyt that messes you up for life. If your reponsible and avoid the trouble alltogether your not a victim so noone claps for you. however, I’m clapping for you bigtime today. I’m liking your posts alot. BTW, you know I’m a scrub so can you take me out for lunch? I’ll get you back when I get right. You can pick me up around 12 and I like nice places. LOL

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 12:04 PM | Link to this

Rell - That sucks but you know the women get it too. Along with offers to go “half on a baby” with us. Uh…NO THANKS! :-/

By Blue_Kolla

February 20, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this

Binford but isn’t your spouse your #1 Earthly focus (besides God, of course)? Not your child?

Oh ish! Dude?! You just dropped a helluva truth bomb. But the real is that many females will now hold you in contempt for even speaking on that. But I’ma help you out - take this Damascus Chain Mail, Rising Shield, and Sword of Truth… and get ready, ‘cause they comin’ at’cha.

By melo

February 20, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this

I had to chop him off at the knees years ago, when he wanted to know my every move in regards to dating and my personal life thats only becoz he dropped ur azz and u still mad..otherwise if u were on good spking terms,he wld sample that ones in a while.

By Dan

February 20, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this

@Rell

Cosign to that 1158!

“I know you got one or two kids stashed somewhere, stop lying!”

I be like “trick get off me!”

So many conversations ruined by my complete lack of suffrage of fools.

By Staceye

February 20, 2008 12:06 PM | Link to this

Darrell But you were still rockin’ them stilletos, weren’t you I had to get up and go out to get something to try to eat…so yes I was rocking my stillettos! LOL

Page Dayyyyum girl….You better handle that so you don’t end up with back problems in your old years. OUCH!

Slim you are a nut! LOL

Melo So I like to say more than just hello before being cocked up like a bloody acrobat! LOL

By Page1908

February 20, 2008 12:06 PM | Link to this

Truth LOL, ok.

Slim lol at dudes whacking off. Dang, I need some sausage lol.

By SeanJohnson3000

February 20, 2008 12:08 PM | Link to this

@ Truth..true enough have ties being they had a kid together…but i am speaking about the mature female/males that have come to an understanding and have moved on and give each other blessings to date. everyone’s situation is different and not all of them are able to jump the fence and come through the unlocked back door..example..you dont have kids…but you have been married…so thats like saying you are damaged goods because you are divorced…experince makes you wiser and stronger…feel me?

@ Page1980…them THANGS sitting on 26’s

@ Blog females and dudes…would you sleep with a person with a kid? if so…why arent they good enough for a serious relationship?

By E

February 20, 2008 12:08 PM | Link to this

I hate to say it, but its kinda true. Most of the “cut buddies” or “friends with benefits” that I’ve had were single moms, including a couple of older women who were MILF’s. I don’t know why it worked out like it did.

By melo

February 20, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this

Sex will never be casual and carefree for me until I’m married. c’mon Ared, dnt be too uptight nd prudish..u need to get that pudsy moist and burrowed by good hard dizzle once evry so often and get sme stuffing out and get good training.Do u hate sex? I thoght u said smtme last week..u want it there and then, when u want it.So do u trol the sex with no strings attached websites? I used to find chics like u and staceye a good fcking challenge..damn i’m old and creaky!!lol

By sky

February 20, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this

@AMazonBy AmazonRed

@AMAZON-(sky - I say once you and your husband have kids of your own, you’ll never put him first so I’d say give a guy with a younger kid a chance anyway since eventually he’ll be insignificant. LOL.) ….thats funny…but NO Thanks - I can do without the baby mama drama since I am drama free…I dont think thats asking too much….

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

February 20, 2008 12:13 PM | Link to this

Truth wow @ If your reponsible and avoid the trouble alltogether your not a victim so noone claps for you. however, I’m clapping for you bigtime today….Wow is this how it goes….You guys are comical!! Pure comedy!

By The Truth

February 20, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

IG I wasn’t even talking about sexually. I’m talking about emotionally you’ll always have a tie. Really emotionally is more trouble than sexually. He calls and you entertain his discussion because of that tie. A childless chick will tell the dude kiss her azz if she’s into the new dude.

By Beautiful - YeaI'mSensitiveSoWhat!!!

February 20, 2008 12:16 PM | Link to this

2C it stays with me throughout the week, negative/positive comments made to me. but i need to read them since i’m new to dating. i’ve learned a lot and that’s why i’m here daily (plus i’m addicted and i have a crush on one of the bloggers). i appreciate what is being posted here. i take about 40% of the information and process it in a way to better my relationship with my next honey.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

February 20, 2008 12:16 PM | Link to this

Well I see the double standard is alive and kickin to day. Can someone answer me this: Why is it that most of the blog is about the women with children? Very little has been said about the men

So I guess I can summarize the blog so far:

women with kids are ‘spoiled’ a la Color Purple

women with kids have overly invasive baby daddys and those baby daddys can always get some just cause they are baby’s daddy

women with kids = ill mannered children

Women with kids are suckers for companionship and will take any nucca with a d$#k

women with kids are looking to be ‘kept’

women without kids are selfish

Someone correct me if I am wrong….. sigh

It sucks when you are a woman with a child and none of the above characterstics fits you…said with much sarcasm

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

Truth - Thank you for your 12:02. I know the Lord has been good to me and I KNOW there will be trials and tribulations that will bring me to my knees. I KNOW this is coming, so why do I need to apologize for having gotten off lucky so far?

This blog is for us to share our opinions and experiences and these are mine. They’re not wild and reckless and carefree. Some of y’all will go to your grave with stories for DAYS. I’ll probably go to mine thinking of the days with rich, chocolate Ovaltine. LOL. But like I said, I have inner peace and I wish all of you the same. If my testimony rubs folks the wrong way, that’s your problem not mine. I’ve never been one for the herd mentality and I certainly won’t change who I am (which takes a lot of work and internal fortitude) to please other people.

gets on her high horse and gallops off into the sunset

By Page1908

February 20, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

SJ LOL shuttup

Staceye Yeah, I know. I cheered in HS and it was very challenging. My back is usually ok, it’s the shoulders that sometimes give me problems. Plus, I really can’t sleep on my stomach, so yes, there are some adjustments I have to make often. I found this place in Alpharetta called Lengerie Mart, so I am gonna check them out this sat to look for some stuff that fits because I always need more.

By melo

February 20, 2008 12:18 PM | Link to this

@ Blog females and dudes…would you sleep with a person with a kid? if so…why arent they good enough for a serious relationship? i’m selfish on this.The drama aspect is one reason and also the fact that baby daddy knws ur anatomy that much.Mentally i kinda feel like she has be sexually abused,used,tossed and turned.But then selfishly, i expect her to accept me and my baggage.Its just the selfish human(man) nature!!

By IslandGirl

February 20, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

Melo…sweetie…dropped my azzz. Sweetheart if you only knew…He still begging for forgiveness today. Anyway, like I said…it is up to the women to decide how involved they would allow their ex SO in their personal life.

I don’t understand how you talk out of both sides of your mouth..women get bet up for sleeping with their ex SO and now we get bet up when we decide to not disrepect ourselves by sleeping with someone we once had a relationship with? Plz…..

By Beautiful - YeaI'mSensitiveSoWhat!!!

February 20, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

SJ3000 those are the best kind, men with kids. it’s a good possibility that they don’t want anymore.

By 2CPTG©

February 20, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

who you got a crush on, Beautiful…..I won’t tell…

By Dan

February 20, 2008 12:22 PM | Link to this

@SJ

Quite simply, she’s might not be wifey material, that’ll be assessed case by case.

But in general, she has other thing (the health, education, saftey) of her and her child come first. And I’m good with that. As a man in that situation, you can take on the ready made family or choose to simply mind the physical needs of the mother.

Either way its a hard road to hoe, becuase you’ll never get in or out without the kids knowing (trust that), and the odds that if there’s no one to watch them and you’re invited over (and dogg enough to go) while they are there, you’re going to meet them. Lastly, what happens when she finds a man to fill that role (shout out to any man capable of doing it. You have my unconditional respect), do you just become “other daddy” or the “guy mom used to mess with”. It just provides for some real psychic trauma that I personally, karmically want nothing to do with.

By SlimOne

February 20, 2008 12:22 PM | Link to this

Truth There is absolutely nothing wrong with whacking off, BUT I think the key is ‘in moderation’. It appears to be more excessive master-bation with social misfits going on, than those of the IN-crowd. Not to be funny but even people with mental disorders tend to play with themselves a lot to, whether it be by themselves or in front of others. Plus, not only am I the Whack-off club President, I am also a member. LOL! Have me rolling over talking bout, Dayum girl you so good to yourself!

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this

melo - I love sex. I’m good at it too and when I’m in a committed relationship we’ll go at it a LOT! But this ain’t the 70s do. Free love is over. Sex today will give you a kid, a disease or will KILL your arse! I take that very seriously and find it so disheartening that others don’t feel the same.

And I don’t think I’ll ever truly rest. Married women are one of the highest growing groups of women getting AIDS out there today. Their husbands are bringing that ish home!

I’m a woman of FAITH, but it still doesn’t mean I’ll ever develop a cavalier attitude about sex. I still think of it of an act that of true intimacy that should be shared with only those you deem as very special.

So sue me. LOL

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

February 20, 2008 12:25 PM | Link to this

SJ cosigning your 12:08 post!

@ Blog females and dudes…would you sleep with a person with a kid? if so…why arent they good enough for a serious relationship? At this point I dont want a dude that doesnt have a kid. I am not having anymore. The way I see it, any dude I deal with is potential for a real relationship, if he doesnt have kids he may want one/some. It would be selfish of me to go forward with relationship knowing that my baby shop is closed for good.

By IslandGirl

February 20, 2008 12:29 PM | Link to this

Truth…that is true, but a chick with a child can do the same. I think it is easier with having only one child though… luv you Truthie…

By Dan

February 20, 2008 12:29 PM | Link to this

@Beautiful

I gotta know who you have a crush on!

BTW, I’ve saved that entry in Word, until you spill, I’ll be copying that for the next 2 days, right after you post an entry!

By Blue_Kolla

February 20, 2008 12:30 PM | Link to this

Mo …here you go now passing the single mom’s handbook that another single mom left in my car

Island Sweetheart if you only knew…He still begging for forgiveness today.

I hear a lot of women say this. What’s that about?

By Dan

February 20, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

DAMN!

I gotta call the IT guy. I just fugged up my computer with a spit take.

Did ARed post a modernday negro spiritual about the single woman one minute, and then hit back with the

“I like sex. And I’m good at it too!”

Damn! Damn! Damn! Two sides to a coin, eh Red?

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 20, 2008 12:33 PM | Link to this

Amazon “I still think of it of an act that of true intimacy that should be shared with only those you deem as very special.”

Okay, was that really you or did you just type that from a Hallmark® card? I’ve never seen you so mushy. LOL!

By Tazzee

February 20, 2008 12:33 PM | Link to this

afternoon folks - don’t have kids would prefer to date a man without kids but I was always open to it because I don’t want kids.

I have to agree with ARed in that most of the folks I know that are single mothers aren’t single mothers because some contraception failed, they are single mothers because they did not use contraception. I’ve always been a ‘planner’ I was on birth control a full year before I even lost my virginity because I was at the age where ‘statistically’ most girls started having sex. After witnessing my sister get pregnant as a teen, I tried to do all I could to avoid that.

With that said, I admire single parents who handle their business.

By Beautiful - YeaI'mSensitiveSoWhat!!!

February 20, 2008 12:33 PM | Link to this

Mo co-sign. i wouldn’t date a very nice guy because he didn’t have kids and very much wanted at least one. he is young and i’m not going to take away his opportunity to find someone who can give him what he so desires one day. he is still tryin’ me to this day. it’s awful. he tried to make up lies about not wanting them and it not being important. i won’t do. :(

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 12:35 PM | Link to this

Dan - Her crush is so obvious. I don’t notice a lot of things but I did notice that.

Beautiful - You gonna stick around the A and wait for him then? LOL

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 20, 2008 12:36 PM | Link to this

Dan “@Beautiful I gotta know who you have a crush on!”

Personally, I think it’s Binford.

By SlimOne

February 20, 2008 12:37 PM | Link to this

Blog Females Are any of you going to check out Luscious this Saturday? I’ll be there with 5 single dollar bills…betcha I’ll end up leaving with at least $4. MUAH HA HA HA

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

February 20, 2008 12:40 PM | Link to this

BK you are a mess for the single mom handbook! I am handling it man but thanks anyway. Now in reference to I hear a lot of women say this. What’s that about? Dudes in the wrong or feeling they are in the wrong.

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this

Darrell - Yes, that was me. I don’t say more because it’s overkill. Folks get it. But yeah, I’m annoying myself right now. I’ll cut out the mushy stuff. LOL

Dan - I mean, I do like to have fun. It’s LIFE you gotta live it, but you gotta watch your back too. Ain’t no one else gonna do it.

shaking my fist at you for that negro spiritual comment. LMAO!

By Blue_Kolla

February 20, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this

Dan Did ARed post a modernday negro spiritual about the single woman one minute, and then hit back with the “I like sex. And I’m good at it too!”

Darrell Okay, was that really you or did you just type that from a Hallmark® card?

Yoll gunslingers are fast!

By The Truth

February 20, 2008 12:43 PM | Link to this

SJ you bring up a good point. While I’m not damaged goods my perception of marriage is altered. I don’t see it as the end all that some do. Its just what you make it. However, a woman will always let the baby’s father occupy mental space. She can’t help it. Especially nowadys when its tough staying together anyway and now you’ve got some 3rd party jumping in the fray now and then. Thats gas on a burning fire. And why when I can go find a single chick without kids and have my own child and enjoy the whole process vs just funding it? Also, I remember the old heads telling me to stay away from the big mistakes. We all make mistakes but some consume your entire life. Kids are that kind of mistake and there not always a precious gift from god either.

Page if you need your back or shoulders rubbed let me know hun. I must admit upfront tho I have wandering hands and I can’t be responsible for where they may end up. I’m working on it tho. Hey, you can talk to me in spanish while I rub your, uh, shoulders. LOL

Ared I really don’t understand whats going on in here. you come and say you want to do things in a responsible way and folks are telling you to go out and throw your shyt to the wind. WTF????????????? Then when e1 has gone through you and you have 2 kids by 2 dudes everybody wonders what happened because you used to be such a reponsible girl. WTF?????????????

Slim I justed wanted to know if something was wrong with me. LOL

By Dan

February 20, 2008 12:43 PM | Link to this

@ BK

It’s like driving on a road everyday to work, play, whatever. You know every nook and cranny on that road. You could drive it with the “drunk one-eye” you know that road so well. When you’re in a hurry, there’s no traffic, and when you’re not, even then the traffic is not bad.

But one day the road is closed for construction, forcing you to take another route. It makes you mad at first, but you accept it as a necessary evil. Then out of nowhere the city shuts the road off completely for a new housing development.

You get angry, depressed, proactive, all that until finally you accept it. Even then, any new route you take, you miss the old days. It’s never like the road you used to ride, even for fun.

That’s how it feels Personal analogy

By Blue_Kolla

February 20, 2008 12:44 PM | Link to this

Mo Dudes in the wrong or feeling they are in the wrong.

No… chicks actin’ like dudes are ready to jump off the bridge if they don’t get back.

By Jazzyone

February 20, 2008 12:46 PM | Link to this

Mytwocents Nope not lucky always made sure I took measures sp o would not be a single parent. My sister had children very very young and I learned from her that it would not be my thing..If i never marry i will adopt a child and have wanted to since i was younger..My neice called me mama when my sister ran out on her. I cared for her for 2 years..scarred me straight…

By IslandGirl

February 20, 2008 12:46 PM | Link to this

Blue…just like any relationship you ‘ve been in that had great potential, but because either party did something stupid to mess it up…now that person has a lot of regret. My son’s father told me he regretted messing up and has asked for reconciliation many times. If I had to make the decision to go back to him, it would not be best “solely” on the fact that we have a child together. My decision would be based on what I know….his character, being faithful, and being reliable, and his love for us (me and our son).

Don’t get me wrong, my son’s father and I have a great relationship, but it took him a long time to get over the fact that we would not be a family. He lost my respect and trust.

In the interim, I had to let him know in order for us to be friends and good parents; he must not cross the boundary I’ve set in terms of my personal life. It took some time, but it’s all good. I don’t like drama because nothing good comes from it.

By Staceye

February 20, 2008 12:47 PM | Link to this

Page My dad used to work for a hosiery company and they had lots of vendors that had nice supportive bras for the Rack Abundant Female! LOL They had stuff like Wacoal, Olga and Warner. I can give you the website if you want.

Slim girl you going to strip show Saturday night..You will see me there. It’s my girl’s B-day and I will be there with her! Sausage everywhere! Just ‘cause I ain;t getting any doesn’t mean I don;t want to look at it! LOL

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 20, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

Amazon “I’ll cut out the mushy stuff. LOL”

Thank you! I can’t speak for anyone else, but as for me, I prefer the “old” Amazon Red. You know, the mean-spirited, smart-azz, arrogant, consdescending, diva we all know and love (to hate.) LOL!!!

By 2CPTG©

February 20, 2008 12:50 PM | Link to this

who is it, then, Amazon……’fo you gallop off into the sunset, spill the beans!

By Tazzee

February 20, 2008 12:50 PM | Link to this

Yeah we women get the ‘no-kids’ surprise questions too. My last encounter was this dude who said ‘I can’t believe ain’t nobody pumped no baby in you yet’

I get that all the time and when I finally convince them I don’t have kids they wanna know how many abortions I’ve had (none) - it’s pitiful!

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 12:52 PM | Link to this

Darrell - There are many sides to AmazonRed. Feel free to hate them all! LOL

By kimmie

February 20, 2008 12:52 PM | Link to this

Truth - Just curious, suppose you meet the ONE and get married. After you are married, you guys find out she’s infertile. What would you do & are you open to adoption?

By Jazzyone

February 20, 2008 12:54 PM | Link to this

Island Girl that post you posted is a fake it started on a joke website in the UK months ago…

By melo

February 20, 2008 12:56 PM | Link to this

There is absolutely nothing wrong with whacking off what?!!

By Dan

February 20, 2008 12:58 PM | Link to this

@ARed

I’m with 2C, tell us.

@Beautiful, I gotta know who you have a crush on.

By IslandGirl

February 20, 2008 12:58 PM | Link to this

Jazzy…yeah couple folks told me so earlier. I thought that was crazy…if it was true I can imagine they being the first ones to take a shot at Barck.

By melo

February 20, 2008 1:00 PM | Link to this

plus i’m addicted and i have a crush on one of the bloggers i hpe i wont disappoint u, but i have a crush on staceye myself!!

By Cemeeli

February 20, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

Blue/MO wth is going on in here?!?

…lurkers come on out… please.

SeanJ3000 your 12:08 on point.

Hey Page!

By The Truth

February 20, 2008 1:02 PM | Link to this

Kimmie for the ONE everything is possible. You see I don’t think the child is more important than my wife. We’ll love it and take care of it but it will leave us oneday. My wife will be my partner after the child has moved on. So, yes we’ll adopt or we’ll look at other options. As long as we do whats best for us.

By SexySlim

February 20, 2008 1:04 PM | Link to this

I tell you, there are some really limited sighted people on this board. Don’t you realize that those single people with kids weren’t always single. They most likely were in relationships, marriages and anticipated living the rest of their life with this other person and things did not work out-thus the single with kids senerio.

Don’t you realize that although right now you are single and childless, that doesn’t mean that after marriage or whatever and you have a kid that you can’t end back up single (through divorce, death)but with a child. Stupid. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that you cannot predict the future and you have no definitive way of knowing how things will end up for you. So please stop the judgment.

And yes, I was a single mom with two kids. Thankfully my fiance had enough character to not let that fact deter him from being with me. And thank YOU for giving me one more reason to appreciate and love him (as if I need it).

Good day.

I said Good Day!

By Blue_Kolla

February 20, 2008 1:05 PM | Link to this

Island/Mo …just like any relationship you ‘ve been in that had great potential, but because either party did something stupid to mess it up…now that person has a lot of regret.

Yeah I’ve made a bad move or two, and have even asked for some reconsideration, but I ain’t never been about callin’ up over and over beggin’ to get back, and really don’t understand someone who would. I just notice that I often hear women speak on these individuals and wonder if they really exist.

By melo

February 20, 2008 1:09 PM | Link to this

@Beautiful, I gotta know who you have a crush on Truth is sleeping on ole girl.ive seen that 4 a while..and rell still has ared in sight..dnt no if she can take a thug tho coz i feel rell has a tech 9 on belt.Ple need to sex each other on blog..why u all sleeping on the girlz mayne?!!

By Jazzyone

February 20, 2008 1:11 PM | Link to this

Ummm Rell…man…dude, don’t make us TOS you overboard..you need to see the dean!

By The Truth

February 20, 2008 1:12 PM | Link to this

Sexyslim if I find myself in that situation i’ll address it then. Until then there’s to many good single women to have to choose otherwise. Right now I don’t have herpes or Aids either so I don’t have to include those items in my thought process either. If i get them tomorrow I’ll adjust my thought process accordingly. Life is about options. I wonder if you’ll be so open minded and understanding if ol boy sleeps with another woman, or man.

By melo

February 20, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

I said Good Day! ok coward..is ur mind in a harness that u only see an issue in one dimension..and then u have to go so we cant pick ur brain apart in ur presence!

By Blue_Kolla

February 20, 2008 1:16 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ Tazzee My last encounter was this dude who said ‘I can’t believe ain’t nobody pumped no baby in you yet’

Now I can hear a dude sayin’ that down at the tailgate.

Cee I couldn’t tell you for real.

By 2CPTG©

February 20, 2008 1:16 PM | Link to this

Am I the only who keeps hitting F5 (refresh) to see if Beautiful gon tell us….only to say, damn that, when you see she ain’t posted yet…..

By SlimOne

February 20, 2008 1:21 PM | Link to this

Dan That was a great analogy. You couldn’t have painted a clearer picture. ^5

Staceye Yeah I’ll be there with my CT hanging out to see if i catch a bite. LOL Just kidding! Now if you see me in the corner talking about Ewwww, that means my mom decided to show up. LOL!

By Cemeeli

February 20, 2008 1:21 PM | Link to this

SexySlim comeback…when i said lurkers come on out i wasn’t snappin’ my fingers…but DANG!

Are you sayiing you have 2 kids, but your fiance has none? Reminds me of one of the regulars that post and she and hubby seem to be happy enjoy in their marriage the kids too. I wish you well.

By Rell

February 20, 2008 1:22 PM | Link to this

@sexslim…why you tender ma, you got ya man….chillaxe…fa real…i mean something must have struck a nerve..what was it

@ared….i hate all sides of you..feel me…me and you like omar and stansfield(marlo)…

@slim..girl keep your five and i go show you my old routine for free….lol..

and i have a crush on - me…lol…

By Yaz

February 20, 2008 1:27 PM | Link to this

LADIES

If you’re on the pill, you might want to change to Yaz. I have only been taking them for three weeks and my breast grew a 1/2 cup size. Just thought you might want to know.

Back to lurksville.

By Sexyslim

February 20, 2008 1:27 PM | Link to this

@Melo What do you want to pick my brain apart for, I’m not trying to pick yours. Because based on what I’ve read from you, there doesn’t seem to be much worthy of picking apart. You state a point of view, I state mine.

@Truth Almost a decent point but not really, because you might not know off the bat if someone you are dating has herpes or AIDS, but I doubt if people are hiding the fact that they have kids as if having children equates to having a transmittable disease.

By melo

February 20, 2008 1:27 PM | Link to this

Blue_Kolla its a just feel good talk..u knw so the next guy listening will be persuaded to think she all that!! Mind games in this dating jungle.

By QueDogTeaching

February 20, 2008 1:28 PM | Link to this

What up Blog Said while calling Randy-T to borrow a t-shirt from him.

My last long term relationship was with a lady with a child. I was with “Them” from the time he was 7 until he tuned 11. For a person with no kids he was in that role. And although he knows his father, his father lives out of town, that made me the primary man in his life. So as of right now I don’t want to date a woman with a child, I want my own. And I did put “Them” in quotations.

The one thing I found was that when we broke up it was harder for me and her son than it was for me and her. Since I took him everywhere with me, even around my friends, after we broke up my boys would still ask where is Future Que, and I would just give the look. Even to the point where my mother and father would ask if he will be able to go on the family trips. When you break up you really don’t get to give the “I will always be there for you” speech, because that is on how the mother wants things to go. Because lets be real, in the words of Maury, You Are Not The Father. So the break up with the children are sometimes harder than with the adult.

Slim See you got plenty of sleep last night, you are off the chain today. Mo the baby shop is closed for good dang. But what about the candy shop? Where is Das?

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 20, 2008 1:32 PM | Link to this

*”…I have only been taking them for three weeks and my breast grew a 1/2 cup size…”

In that case, they oughta change the name from Yaz to Yowzah!

By SexySlim

February 20, 2008 1:35 PM | Link to this

@Rell

I’m tender because I’m seeing too many people who see single people with children as second class citizens. Also, have you taken a look at your own comments and still ask that question? And yes I have my man, BUT I was a single parent once.

By SlimOne

February 20, 2008 1:36 PM | Link to this

Que Well, last night i was feeling pretty good off that tylenol cold pm & 2 miller high life. Shidd had me feeling good and knocked out!

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

February 20, 2008 1:38 PM | Link to this

Hello all, Off topic thanks amazon, I just check my account and they processed my refund last week and i didn’t even realize it. Thanks chica! Now back to our regularly scheduled programming!

By BINFORD2K

February 20, 2008 1:39 PM | Link to this

Darrell I highly doubt I’d be the object of anyone’s affection around here with my nice soap box and huge mega-phone ;p

Btw, how’s the Toto working for ya! :)

By Page1908

February 20, 2008 1:41 PM | Link to this

Staceye Yes, send me the info, please: pageantgirl_1908 at yahoo dot com.

By Cemeeli

February 20, 2008 1:41 PM | Link to this

lol @ Darrell can’t be changing the womens birthcontrol name Sit down!

QDT you got a sis all caaught up in that story guy. I’m with your parents…bring him to the family functions. He obviously became family. Was it ‘cut off’ - cold turkey?

By Dan

February 20, 2008 1:42 PM | Link to this

@SexySlim

Like Rell said, there are different perspectives.

Having been raised by a single mother, I never saw but one man outside my father in that house. He was the man I think of as dad. That said, it’s an incredible responsibilty (I knew it then, but understand it now), to raise the child(ren) of other men.

It something to not be taken lightly, becuase the relationship with the mother of those children are at once seperate and apart, and intertwined from the relationship with the children.

Like I said before, I (and others feel like this, I’m sure) am not ready for that responisibility and not prepared to be even partly responsible for the potential damage to the children.

By Willie Dynamite

February 20, 2008 1:42 PM | Link to this

Rell i know you got that OnDemand so you up on whats going down in the next episode?

By melo

February 20, 2008 1:43 PM | Link to this

Sexyslim glad u back and is it wonderful u have 2 kids and are married now.But dont u agree not having kids, if u have that option, wld be a better route to go, before marriage?Nobody is condeming those who have then or have been divorecd,had deceased husbands etc.There are exceptions to every rule..right. U knw, i’m actually liking u& ur kids and my wife and kids and then we have one good happy blended family(the way mormons do) watch u think?

By SlimOne

February 20, 2008 1:45 PM | Link to this

Yaz

About 2 years ago I talked to my doc about getting back on BC…don’t you know I felt scolded after she asked me did I NOT want kids. She was like, I don’t get too many women asking for hormones(bc) at your age. She would’ve taken my woman card if she could, i’m sure.

By mqew

February 20, 2008 1:46 PM | Link to this

What it do good people?

So, lemme see. The single parents on the blog would date another single parent. Most single men/women w/o child would not(?) date single parent. The rest of single peeps would if a b and c was aligned with the solar system and universe(s). But most single parents don’t have a prob with getting dates. Sounds a lil single minded on the single peep side. After all, isn’t this the blog that has alot to say about “keeping options open” when dating and the “quality man/woman” is what really matters???? RIIIIGGGGHHHHHT! Full Disclaimer when younger, dating a man with a child was a “he11 to the naw”. Now? Maturity has kicked in…

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 20, 2008 1:48 PM | Link to this

Binford “Btw, how’s the Toto working for ya! :)”

Workin’ just fine, thanks. In fact, I’m thinking about flying over to Tokyo the end of March to see ‘em in concert. :-)

By Rell

February 20, 2008 1:50 PM | Link to this

@sexyslim..did you read..take some air out your chest love..did i not post it was not my POV….did i not also post i dont see a difference..lets see i was raised by a single mother…i was first generation latch key kid…had to sit with the principle after school because someone claiming to be my father tried to kidnap me and baby bro…had to take martial arts for it…and growing up in the hood…everyone wants to test bruce leroy..lets see got beat down for trying to help my mother fight off a crazy bf…i was 10…married a single mother and now i am the step daddy…so bench again chillax you dont sheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeet about anyoone you taking sheeeeeeeeeeet to personal…i was simply stating what some of these boys 2 men think out here…you dont like…log the f off…and i could go on…but why bother…ms perfect!!!!

By QueDogTeaching

February 20, 2008 1:54 PM | Link to this

Dang Slim way to multi-task. Knocking out any germs, getting a serious buzz on, and getting some much needed rest.

SexySlim everyone has different paths that they take in life. Does that make anyone right or wrong? No. So don’t jump on people for their opinions.

I hope you are making that man feel incredible everyday, because he is doing something that some men won’t. But please take into consideration not only how you feel, and your relationship with your husband, but also his relationship with your kids.

Because truth be told you will always be their mother, he will be the Daddy (which is much harder than being a father) only as long as you allow him there. There is a lot of power that can be misused in that role. So go ahead and call him now and say thank you.

Like someone said, it’s hard Step-Poppin (Was it Truth, of 2CPTG)

Just my thoughts.

By BINFORD2K

February 20, 2008 1:59 PM | Link to this

mqew

As I responded to SJ earlier - I don’t see this as a maturity issue. If you have clear cut deal-breakers (some for me are smoking, unfit, and children), why would you date someone who you knew had something you didn’t want?

I also said I’d be willing to re-evaluate the children position, but that it would be really tough.

If I call a spade a spade and don’t lie to myself or compromise what I am confident will make me happy - I think that is fairly mature.

By Cemeeli

February 20, 2008 2:00 PM | Link to this

mqew 2 days in a row…I thought you were going to say: When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became an adult, I put an end to… …replace ‘child’ with ‘single no kid’.

By IslandGirl

February 20, 2008 2:02 PM | Link to this

Que…great posts…I enjoy reading your posts today. I had a similar experience, but for me the guy I dated also had a son. Our boys really connected throughout our relationship. When we decided to end the relationship after a few years, it was hard on the boys. You seem to be a good hearted person.

By mqew

February 20, 2008 2:04 PM | Link to this

Oh and I missed that, some single parent would also not date single peeps because they’re usually selfish. Which was agreeable by ev1, I think Okay sooooo WTH is it just to each his dam own? Or are most single people usually just selfish and most single parents not?

Soooo it’s just the two sides of the fence, no one’s crossin over…

By Lady J

February 20, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this

dag BINFORD2K…I was looking forward to taking you to Atlanta Seafood…lol…j/k…I respect your deal breakers…J

By QueDogTeaching

February 20, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this

Ceemli it was very much cold turkey. So there was no lets sit down and talk moment. I have only seen him once since then. And we both looked at each other like long lost friends. But my niece who is his age still asks about him. Oh well, life goes on.

Que now putting on gold boots and a frat shirt and handing Rell a bottle of Hennessy, a 12 of Corona, and a room with a couch, 50” Plama T.V., a plate of wings, and a waitress in full uniform to serve you. I will escort SexySlim out of the building. She is now on the phone with her husband saying thank you. You cool?

By cinnabun

February 20, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this

Rell calm down! I get what you’re saying and it is true. Most men don’t value single mothers but thank God there are some men out there who value a woman for who she is not what she is. You nailed it on the head with your list. As for single fathers some of them suffer the same fate too.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

February 20, 2008 2:06 PM | Link to this

Hey QDT! I wont have another child unless I get married again and I dont want to have anymore kids after 35. That being said (and I am not at nor over 35, and I do plan to remarry) the baby shop is closed. Now the candy shop is open, but it aint a free for all!

What’s up Cemeeli!

By Lady J

February 20, 2008 2:07 PM | Link to this

dag BINFORD2K…I was looking forward to taking you to Atlanta Seafood…lol…j/k…I respect your deal breakers…J

By Page1908

February 20, 2008 2:07 PM | Link to this

QDT Great points for today.

By Blue_Kolla

February 20, 2008 2:09 PM | Link to this

Women’s Handbook Excerp

By See what I'm sayin

February 20, 2008 2:09 PM | Link to this

From Rell’s 9:27 post…..”and trust i hear the stories er day….they will use and abuse these women as if they dont really count….so yes i was posting that list for some of the ladies to stick in there mind at the motivation as to why a single man that has alot going for him will cling so hard to you and your children without really knowing you…” See this is what I don’t get?! Men will sit back (on here, everday) and tell women how they’re missing the knowledge dropped but it’s you men that take women through the ringer, trash them over and then sit back and say she’ll never have anybody because of poor choices. Well, it seems to me, most women in such state got like that trying to please a man. I just don’t understand that. It’s like you men talk out of the sides of your neck. Ya’ll have all this advise on what’s a woman to do but will brag and chuck it up on how women are ran through and gamed to the hilt.

On topic: One teen daughter, met only 3 men over the last 12 - 15 years of which only one I consumated with. Very selective in this process. Must be exclusive and about 6 mos into the deal.

By Lady J

February 20, 2008 2:09 PM | Link to this

dag BINFORD2K…I was looking forward to taking you to Atlanta Seafood…lol…j/k…I respect your deal breakers…J

By cinnabun

February 20, 2008 2:10 PM | Link to this

Has anyone taken in consideration with the high stats of divorce chances are very high you will meet a man/woman who has kid/s? I don’t know about anyone of you, but if I’m in a room with 10 men, 8 of them are single with children.

By SlimOne

February 20, 2008 2:12 PM | Link to this

This topic brings 2 songs to mind. Do yall remember that song by Hitman Sammy Sam Stepdaddy & B Rock and The Bizz That’s Just my Baby Daddy LOL!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 20, 2008 2:12 PM | Link to this

Cinnabun “Most men don’t value single mothers but thank God there are some men out there who value a woman for who she is not what she is.”

Good post. ^5! I’ve developed a special place in my heart for single-mothers through the single-parents class I help teach at my church. Been doing it for 3 years now, so I’ve got somewhat of an affinity for the challenges they face, which is another reason why I have on my Web site some links to resources specific to single-parenting.

By Jazzyone

February 20, 2008 2:12 PM | Link to this

Who a woman is can be compromised by what she is trust that.LMAOFF

Quedog An Omega man puttin’ on them colors makes me weak sigh

By melo

February 20, 2008 2:14 PM | Link to this

will escort SexySlim out of the building. She is now on the phone with her husband saying thank you. You cool? so sexyslim got sexed by rell..who staying at the motel 6, but she now thnanking hubby.Is rell the real babdaddy?!..i suspected it.

By SexyLeggs

February 20, 2008 2:15 PM | Link to this

Mo, your entire post @12:17 is wrong!

By Wow

February 20, 2008 2:15 PM | Link to this

hey @ BLOW whats going on….why is everyone gang banging slim?

By Demarcus

February 20, 2008 2:16 PM | Link to this

BLOG QUESTION

Is it possible for natural dd’s to ddd’s to sit pretty? This new chick I’m dealing with has triple d’s and they point downward…..everything else about her is on point and she aint even big. I dig her, she’s the total package (brains/beauty) but I cant get past her chest. Should I suggest a breast reduction/lift for her?? I’ll pay for it.

By Rell

February 20, 2008 2:17 PM | Link to this

single mothers is a sensitive spot for me…i was that kid..feel me…i am just speaking on the sheeet i hear….and i check those cats with that sheeet as welll…i was raised by one and i seen all the sheeet she went thru just to get me somewhere

By Page1908

February 20, 2008 2:18 PM | Link to this

Hey Cee

By Foots

February 20, 2008 2:19 PM | Link to this

Truth You’re putting it down today. I agree about the “victim society” comment.

If you don’t have children, how soon are you usually comfortable with meeting someone else’s kids? Have you ever had someone introduce you too quickly?

I’m not that big on timelines. I’d rather for it to not be some drumroll event where the kid is waiting behind curtain number 3 and there’s some big reveal after 3.5 months. If he feels it’s okay to introduce me to his child, it’s cool with me. It doesn’t mean that I’m a permanent fixture, nor do I take it to mean that. I’m just daddy’s friend and in the normal course of things, I saw you. Same as I feel about the “meet the parents” thing.

One guy, I met his daughter the day after we met. He had planned to take her and some cousins to D&B and asked me if I wanted to come. We had a nice time, I didn’t interact with the girl too much, but I kept her dad company while the kids played. That’s the basic reason why he asked me there anyway. It was pleasant.

I don’t have a major problem with dating a man with children, unless it gets into that “I have 3 kids by 3 different women” situation. The majority of the men I’ve met in the last several years don’t have kids, so I haven’t had to deal with it too much. But for my single, childless friends who have been in relationships with men with kids, because their experiences with the baby mamas, they say “Just Say No!” to men with kids.

By mqew

February 20, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this

Dog on the curb hit, hollin I mean Binford dude. Life is tough. Beauty that it is…

Somebody say somethin yesterday about how life is very humbling. I think it needs to be said again, by that same person so they can remember their own words.

Ceemee Chica! We right here! Imitating Martin with his two fingers pointin to ur and my eyes

By Cemeeli

February 20, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this

Well QDT i’m not gonna press b/c some things are better said AND left alone. My heart just goes to Future Que though.

Blue if you don’t EAT that article!

Blog I respect everyones position in this Dating with/without…kids. Orange Ganache Malibu chocolates for everyone!

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

February 20, 2008 2:25 PM | Link to this

DEMARCUS If they are real big..as you say. They are going to sag..if they are real & big. It’s nothing you can do…she is carrying around 10lbs of course.

Wow I dont’ think so?

By cinnabun

February 20, 2008 2:25 PM | Link to this

Thanks Darrell single parents get a bad rap when society rememers us. I’m not a single parent by choice. I don’t think a man or woman wake up saying today I aim to be a single parent, lemme see who’s gonna be my baby daddy/mamma. Granted there are sperm banks out there for woman/men who choose that route. My question is how do you handle someone who had a child thru that method?

By mytwocents

February 20, 2008 2:27 PM | Link to this

Oh, Jazz Was referencing the enthused suitors when you say you have no kids. Not jumpin into the fray bout that other bs.

By Jazzyone

February 20, 2008 2:29 PM | Link to this

Invest in a correct bra for her …cost you less..she is not wearing the proper brazzy honey…lift them thangs’ up to her chin…

By Foots

February 20, 2008 2:31 PM | Link to this

Blue You should have posted that yesterday when dudes were talking about what they wanted in a woman.

Darrell How often do you have your children?

Demarcus You don’t know her well enough to make suggestions that she change her appearance to suit you. What do you think it would be saying to her if you asked her something like that?

By SexyLeggs

February 20, 2008 2:31 PM | Link to this

Truth, reiterate what you said about life being humbling yesterday. It was on the mark!

Cemeeli, may I have a shot of NaVan instead of chocolate (LOL)?

By cinnabun

February 20, 2008 2:31 PM | Link to this

Correction sperm bank is for men who want to donate sperm not get impregnated…..WOW Fairy Odd baby is stuck on my brain…

By Jazzyone

February 20, 2008 2:33 PM | Link to this

Gotcha mytwocents Gotcha! Wasn’t trying to send you there either..seriously..

By Blue_Kolla

February 20, 2008 2:33 PM | Link to this

Demascus This new chick I’m dealing with has triple d’s and they point downward…..

Naah dude, if they’re real, they ain’t gon’ sit up. That’s a lot of weight. Trust me on this, I’m a for real fan of the large breasticups.

Second, just met her. You ain’t been there long enough be talkin’ ‘bout no change. Smart money says that yoll won’t even be an item come Spring. What’s this chicks name?

By IslandGirl

February 20, 2008 2:33 PM | Link to this

Demarcus…if they are naturally big, they will likely sag over time- especially if she has had changes in weight gain and/or weight loss. Over time the skin loses elasticity. Anyway, you should ask her if she experiences any discomfort..like back pains etc, which could help you introduce the idea of her getting them lefted or reduced to relieve the discomfort….

By Dan

February 20, 2008 2:34 PM | Link to this

@Demarcus

From A’s to K’s I love ‘em all. The shape the feel, the look of the unveil, when the are let loose of their confinement.

So enjoy them! Play with them love them, cause unless she’s the One, that chance may never be yours again.

By QueDogTeaching

February 20, 2008 2:35 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl I try, but I am a life long learner so I am still working hard.

Mo nice to know you haven’t shut the whole building down and put wood over the windows.

O.K. Slim Not step daddy. And Augusta’s own Sammy Sam. Yep Augusta not ATL. Came to SSU and did a concert. I wonder what he is doing now? Where are the 69 boys, what about 95 south. What about Boss?

Que now setting out a hop just for Jazzy High Knee, Hip Grind, Dogg Face. Now breathing hard Slim can I get a Miller High Life?

Cee its nothing now, its been over a year. It just taught me that I can be a great dad one day. But I only want that for my child. Every other child gets the teacher/mentor version.

By The Truth

February 20, 2008 2:35 PM | Link to this

Ok, lets put it in other terms so e1 can digest it. Who would overlook look it if I liked sleeping with men or just got out of jail after 20 yrs or refused to get a job? All of those were my decisions just like its yours to have children. That doesn’t mean the rest of the world will welcome you with open arms. We’re all prejudice against everyones situation but our own.

Off topic: I just went to the gym expecting a good workout but when I started pushing weight (today was chest and triceps) my shoulder was killing me. I had a bytch azz workout and brought it back home. Bah humbug.

Cinn are statistics a good excuse for accepting less than you want in life?

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 20, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

Cinnabun asked: “…how do you handle someone who had a child thru that method?”

I wouldn’t treat her any differently than a woman who’d had a child naturally or obtained one through adoption. (That is, assuming she’s not one of these tree-hugging, hairy-legged, man-hating types who went the test-tube route simply out of spite for the male species. i.e. “all men are dogs!”)

By BennyB

February 20, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

Sometimes I wonder if the modern society that we helped to create is good for us. How one can takes care of self, raises kid(s), works a full time job and still manages to find time for family and time to date men? I’m very unknowledgeable on subject about dating single parents but I wonder what I will do if I get myself into such undesirable situation. I will have to give my life a second look and get my priorities rearranged and somewhere a sacrifice will have to be made. What I don’t know is what I will take away between me, my kid(s), my family, my job and my dating adventures. My view on dating a single parent is like trading with China: no matter how good the business is, you always will accumulate insurmountable trade deficit.

Rell, not I’m not a PUA. I know well that when you sleep with a dog, you smell like one in morning.

By Blue_Kolla

February 20, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

Foots If he feels it’s okay to introduce me to his child, it’s cool with me. It doesn’t mean that I’m a permanent fixture, nor do I take it to mean that. I’m just daddy’s friend and in the normal course of things, I saw you. Same as I feel about the “meet the parents” thing.

Sounds like we’ve been sharing brains lately.

By melo

February 20, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

most women in such state got like that trying to please a man. I just don’t understand that why dont they please themselves instead and do whats right for them? se what i’m saying? then they wdnt be in such an inferior position in dating,becoz the honest truth is, it is, no matter hw pple like darrell will sugar coat. When dating, single pple will never be the choice cuts, if we were to talk in meat terms, they wlb be the options..u knw like the offals or insides of cow that u buy just to test and see hw they like.

By BINFORD2K

February 20, 2008 2:40 PM | Link to this

mqew

Can you reiterate your point to make it a tad clearer? Can’t say I really understood what exactly you were saying there.

By Rell

February 20, 2008 2:41 PM | Link to this

@demarcus..you bull* homie..lol, how you going to big her up and neg her in the same post…lol. Be real you just want to hit that but the breast are messing with you…dont paint it like this is your lady, because i am sure she can find things you could change..like someone said you want to see something different then you have to normalice the behavior..meaning buy her custom made bras so you can see what you want..thats one nice way to do it..take her for a custom bra fitting for a gift…this is after follwing the advice of island girl…but you funny..lol

By Cemeeli

February 20, 2008 2:41 PM | Link to this

Sexyleggs not unless you’re makin’ lemon pepper wangs.

cinnabun that reminded me…I watched that “Odd baby” show with my guy Monday night.

By Demarcus

February 20, 2008 2:44 PM | Link to this

appreciate the comments…this is just a dealbreaker for me…even though she is an amazing person. I don’t think the attraction is too strong anymore. I don’t think 26 yr olds should have big breasts that sag. She should have told me about them before we did the deed. I really want her to get them lifted.

By Jazzyone

February 20, 2008 2:44 PM | Link to this

Que now setting out a hop just for Jazzy High Knee, Hip Grind, Dogg Face. Now breathing hard Slim can I get a Miller High Life?

The hotness yeah just what I needed I wanna THANKYA! sigh

By Page1908

February 20, 2008 2:45 PM | Link to this

Demarcus A good bra is really the key. Every woman has some degree of sagging whether she is big or not. You said her nipps point towards the ground, so I don’t know about that. Maybe you should just take her bra shopping where she can get properly fitted for the right size.

By Cemeeli

February 20, 2008 2:51 PM | Link to this

QDT after reading you over a few i think this maybe —-> Every other child gets the teacher/mentor version. your ministry in life. You seem to carry a selfless stance when interacting with the chirren. I’on now you by long but let me know if i am totally wrong.

By Dan

February 20, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

Damarcus

How did you not know or notice that she had DD’s? If they were that big on her body, what did you think would happen when they were loosed?

Be for real man. Of course they gone sag.

Dan now requesting the best breat rookies out of the room.

Fake post. Fake post.

There is no way a man don’t know how gravity responds to the various forms and positions to sexual congress. Hell! I choose based on it!

By Blue_Kolla

February 20, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

Foots You should have posted that yesterday when dudes were talking about what they wanted in a woman.

Mailwoman was runnin’ late, but an article like that is timeless. (notice the 1955) In particular, I really find favor with the last line, although I would substitute “role” for “place”.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

February 20, 2008 2:54 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs about my 12:17 post…yeah it was wrong but that was what the consensus seemed to be among the men of Blogsville at first.

QDT Now I am a single mom but I am still too young & cute to be shuttin errthang down!! And thanks for settin that hop out!

By Staceye

February 20, 2008 2:56 PM | Link to this

Melo awwwww…smooches baby! LOL

Slim I will see you there girl!

Paige You have mail.

Darrell In fact, I’m thinking about flying over to Tokyo the end of March to see ‘em in concert Dude..I am trying hard fro them NOT to pull your card! LOL

By Rell

February 20, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this

@demarcus

She should have told me about them before we did the deed. I really want her to get them lifted.

that is unmackish homie…that reads to me that you dont value your seed or our time…you going to lay down with her then complain….you worse than a female with that….next time choose quality..ie something you like…seems like you still on that fun f* .you need to upgrade your mind on that one…very low budget homie

By Jazzyone

February 20, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this

Beauty I knwo you told me not to talk to you anymore..but anywho…Are you sweet on 2can?? is he your blog crush?? hunh ?? cause’ ima say go with that ..go with that..if it is cozy up gal hes a serious one..don’t mess round and fall in love cause my family is the hotness…

By cinnabun

February 20, 2008 2:58 PM | Link to this

Truth are statistics a good excuse for accepting less than you want in life? I wasn’t using stats as an excuse for anything, I was simply stating the facts, single parents are full throttle now. I don’s see where dating a single parent as a step down or settling.

There are commercials and tv shows honoring single parents. 2 examples: KFC commercial, The sweet life of Zac and Cody, Meet the Paynes, Soap opera and list goes on and on.

Cee I didn’t see the show only the preview.

By Demarcus

February 20, 2008 2:59 PM | Link to this

Dan was being serious….just not a fan of sag bags. end of story. When some women let loose, the breasts don’t point all the way south. I was shocked is all.

By Sidelines....

February 20, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

@Mo…Co-signing your 12:16 posts. I am no where near none of what was described here as a single mother and my experiences have been nothing like what I have heard here today.

Rediculous…and like someone said earlier everyone is entitled to their own opinions, so be it…but with that being said, it all sounds ludicris.

By The Truth

February 20, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

Demarcus some things you don’t debate you just suck on.

I know a 40 something slimmy with triple ddd’s for real. She is a freak of nature. Tight body, mind and the most beautiful pacifiers on earth. My mouth waters talking about her. Sex with her is putting that thing in my mouth and going to sleep. I am thoroughly satisfied and well rested. LOL

Where’s 6’1 and Das they havent chimed in in a minute.

BennyB you bring up a good point. In previous generations rules were in place that made the opposite sex digestable. Now there’s no rules and nobody gives a dam about anybody else. Its a free for all and ev1 is free to make shytty decisions and expect ev1 else to overlook them. Luckily there are a few in blogsville that I love or I’d be a callous b******* myself. LOL

By melo

February 20, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

I really want her to get them lifted are u sure she aint suckling a little ‘un? she may have sme milk in there bro..try sqeezing them a little & see if sme cme out.

By SexyLeggs

February 20, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

WOW, I’m cracking up over the “sagging breasts* at age 26. I use to tell my mother all she gave me from her gene pool was a sassy mouth and half a breast. Meaning they’re weren’t as round and plump as I would have liked them to be. However, at my age, becuase I started out small I don’t have to worry about sagging just yet..WOO HOO (LOL).

Cemeel, lemon pepper wings for ya anytime of the day. You have a permanently reserved spot in line.

By Wow

February 20, 2008 3:02 PM | Link to this

@ Demarcus….you seam to be how can I say this um some what shallow…..if her boobs are big they are NOT going to look like A cups or ant bites even if she gets the best bra when you guys bang she is going to have to take it off….and don’t you think her feelings will be hurt if you tell her she is the woman of your dreams but you want to by her new breast!

Relax let those things run wild…..You should be too busy trying to PUT HER TO SLEEP then to analyze how her breast hang when they are unleashed.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 20, 2008 3:02 PM | Link to this

Staceye LOL! I can’t win with my boys, can I? LOL!

By Blue_Kolla

February 20, 2008 3:02 PM | Link to this

even though she is an amazing person. I don’t think the attraction is too strong anymore. I don’t think 26 yr olds should have big breasts that sag. She should have told me about them before we did the deed. I really want her to get them lifted.

Mo Aight aight. I see what’chu sayin now. ‘Cause this dude ===> Demarcus just showed me that there are some serious idiot-azz dudes out here. WTF was she supposed to tell him ‘bout some big azz triple D’s?!

By SeanJohnson3000

February 20, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

@ Page..u are right..on top of that..u would be surprised how many women havent been “fitted” for the right size..that goes for bra and panteez…bra’s fitting like too small football shoulder pads…and thongs sitting right…if its uncomfortable..its NOT the right size.

By Page1908

February 20, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

Staceye Thanks, mija! I just responded to you!

Truth No se nada!

Rell lol quit being mean! email me now, dude

By mqew

February 20, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

Truth I really don’t like t** for tatting because I’m sure mine are bigger, but, earlier it sounded like you didn’t want to date single parents 1. because you didn’t have to as the pool of single women is quite nice 2. because you want to be able to take part in the process 3. didn’t want to deal with “real” dad. Those reasons are not on the same tier as convicts, gay or jobless. But I hear you, just wanted to point that out.

By IslandGirl

February 20, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

Wearing a properly fitted bra will give a better fit or appearance under her clothing, but that will not correct the issue of having sagging breasts. It is what it is….sagging breasts…If he is doing to do the nasty while she keeps her bra on…then the problem is solved…take her to “Intimacy” at Phipps Plaza….she will love it…the bras are not cheap so be prepared to spend some stacks.

By Cemeeli

February 20, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

‘Breast lifts and single with kids’…hmmm…New topic?!?

Blue you betnot post another article like that…Lol…If you feel compelled again thereafter you can only post by the 2nd part of your moniker. around that be where you’ll feel the most pressure ;)

By Pussycat

February 20, 2008 3:07 PM | Link to this

@ Dan 11:20 LOL…that was fuuuny. That’s how I was raised and passing it on.

@Truth 11:40 and Melo 11:57 I disagree. I have a kid headed for teen years and I have nothing to do with the father…by choice. Heck, he’s just “getting” it. Years back he’d show up unannounced, question my child, go through my stuff and so on. An idiot. Why in the heck would I let him “back in?” I believe I’ve almost gotten him trained. He only shows up now every so many months. He used to hang around, knocking, begging and pleading EVERYDAY! When my child was born, he didn’t see the need or urgency to man up. Guess what? He’s out. Didn’t take years to figure it out either. Didn’t take me letting him hit just for the sake of it. For me, once you’re out you’re out. No getting back in, the mind or the goods. I had a kid to raise and just didn’t see the need to tolerate such foolishness as even entertaining conversation. He pays child support but that’s about all he’s ever been good for. Even he knows he don’t want jack when he comes aknocking. He use to get offended but he just keeps it moving. If and when he knocks and I lift the blinds to see it’s him and resume whatever it is I’m doing.

@IG 11:58 I agree

By Dan

February 20, 2008 3:07 PM | Link to this

I’m just saying homie,

I my mind I get around the saggy breast argument..don’t really matter to me.

But I still don’t get how you didn’t know?

If she was properly bra’d then you’d see the enormity of the situation, and before she let them loose you should have been able to deduce that there would be sag.

If she were improperly bra’d, like Dog the Bounty Hunter’s wife, were you couldn’t see her chin…that I’d give you.

But on average I can spot the cup size and know what I’m dealing with when they’re out.

By SexyLeggs

February 20, 2008 3:08 PM | Link to this

Ok Mo. Just got back from lunch and did a quick read. Should have known you had to recapping what the men were saying and not your own personal views.

I was told I wasn’t being my old self, so I’ve shaken the cobwebs off and here I am….(LOL)

By Wow

February 20, 2008 3:09 PM | Link to this

@ truth keep your sex stories to your self and take your hands out of you boxers…….

By SexyLeggs

February 20, 2008 3:14 PM | Link to this

I don’t know much about big boobs, but isn’t her boobs sitting on her stomach when she’s wearing a bra. It only stands to reason that they would reach her “honey pot” when released from its slingshot..No!??

By Page1908

February 20, 2008 3:15 PM | Link to this

SJ Exactly. I have to get fitted every so often to make sure my bras are the right size. Now with thongs, I am very particular about those too, because I can’t stand the ones that stick out of my jeans. Thongs are the most comfortable for me, besides my boy shorts, but yes, they all have to fit properly. Also, proper undergarments for big breasts, wide hips, such as mine are essential. Well, for any woman, really no matter what you have. I love my Spanx, too!

By The Truth

February 20, 2008 3:16 PM | Link to this

MQEW I’ m trying to point out that whatever the excuse we elimidate people from our pool based on whatever is important at the moment. Kids are as viable an excuse as jail or joblessness. Now tomorrow I may have a child and all of a sudden I can’t stand talking with chicks that don’t see what I like so much. such is life.

Public Service Annoncement: Due to the bad fitting bra posts the MLB, under my able hands, will be having a bra fitting seminar at my place tonight at 6. Please don’t wear bras as they will be provided, or at least dicussed. Feel comfortable knowing that nobody will be talking about nipples not standing up or breast reductions. I’ll, um, we’ll spend more time massaging the subject matter into exctasy. Attendance is mandatory and strong azz drinks will be provided.

Back to your normal blogging.

By Blue_Kolla

February 20, 2008 3:16 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ melo are u sure she aint suckling a little ‘un? she may have sme milk in there bro..try sqeezing them a little & see if sme cme out.

Mayne you stoopid!!

Wow That whole 3:02 was dead on.

By SeanJohnson3000

February 20, 2008 3:17 PM | Link to this

@wOw….cosign….maybe he “bit” off more than he can chew…but its kinda too late…not like they grew over nite..well..not last nite anyway…some of these young dudes are intimidated and freeze up when its time to put in work…kinda like the look you had when your mom fixed your plate and you didnt like what she cooked

By melo

February 20, 2008 3:17 PM | Link to this

Pussycat u the 2nd to respond negative on that point.On average, based on quietness of other single moms, the point is affirmed tho.Glad to knw u lost the feelings for him coz who knws, we may meet in the streets.Wlndt want to be tricked.

By Staceye

February 20, 2008 3:17 PM | Link to this

Demarcus I really want her to get them lifted are you paying for this dude? That is not a $25 operation. Did she have the rack before you met her? If so then that is hypocritical of you dude. Does big ones run in her family? That is genetic! If you have a daughter with her..chance are your daughter might have a shelf full of books! LOL I agree with Paige..bra shopping might turn you on. You can do a fan effect between her hooters! LOL

By Wow

February 20, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

cosigning for Cemeeli…..lol @‘Breast lifts and single with kids’…hmmm…New topic?!?

By The Truth

February 20, 2008 3:21 PM | Link to this

wow you caught me. LOL

By IslandGirl

February 20, 2008 3:21 PM | Link to this

@Truth….lol!!!!!!!!

By Cemeeli

February 20, 2008 3:21 PM | Link to this

Page Boy shorts rock! Ooh sorry. But the dooo…

By Rell

February 20, 2008 3:22 PM | Link to this

@PHXgurl…..Check your mail

By Blue_Kolla

February 20, 2008 3:22 PM | Link to this

Page Also, proper undergarments for big breasts, wide hips, such as mine…

Quit all’at self-promoting and hire an agent.

By Red Duchess

February 20, 2008 3:22 PM | Link to this

Demarcus you are a dumbazz. Grow up and let her go so she can be with someone who appreciates all of her. If you haven’t already, don’t mention your qualms….even worse don’t do it during the nasty, it may be detrimental to her psyche. I can’t believe I’m even entertaining your tomfoolery.

By 2CPTG©

February 20, 2008 3:25 PM | Link to this

say Blue, do tripe D’s really need an introduction….dude tombout she didn’t tell him til after the deed….niqqa quit lyin!

Bout to get Steve Harvey-ish on ya….

First off, how can you miss ‘em? What, y’all met while blindfolded? and what da hell you mean “you’ll pay for it?” dude, you’re a chump, you just wanted some air time….yo 15 seconds in the spotlight is over! Comin in here with that dumb azz question; you couldn’t think of no other way to jump in the discussion ‘cept with that????

By melo

February 20, 2008 3:26 PM | Link to this

It only stands to reason that they would reach her “honey pot” when released from its slingsho good point sexxyL, beside Demarcus needs to take those big boobs as a good asset. When girl gives birth, she can put baby on her back and then sling over those boobs over her shlder, to her back for baby to suckle.Tiny boobs like slim’s wont be so flixible…see

By Foots

February 20, 2008 3:27 PM | Link to this

Blue Quit all’at self-promoting and hire an agent.

I guess I can’t say that I’m proud of my 36C’s that look absolutely the same whether I have a bra on or not without proper representation? LOL

By Blue_Kolla

February 20, 2008 3:28 PM | Link to this

Cee Chick that sent me the article was saying that it didn’t matter what year that article came out, sistas ain’t neva lived like that. LOL

By mqew

February 20, 2008 3:29 PM | Link to this

Binford Im jus saying… there are plenty of guns to stick too, and I guess I don’t understand why people in there old age, stick to ones that don’t equate to this huge world wide that we live in or even ones that really don’t work for them.. but I digress. Just do you!

By Page1908

February 20, 2008 3:30 PM | Link to this

Cee yeah they do rock, I love them!

BK dude, it’s not about self promoting, its about making a point. There is enough of that on the blog on the regular. You do it all the time.

By Cemeeli

February 20, 2008 3:31 PM | Link to this

Wow i’m just trying to make sure i’m in the right board LOL!

Sexyleggs speaking of chicken…don’t you hate when you forgot to defrost something for dinner and you realize after make it to the office? The kid loves it cause i usually pick-up take out OR he gets taco night…ugh..i do not want that.

By Blue_Kolla

February 20, 2008 3:37 PM | Link to this

2 say Blue, do tripe D’s really need an introduction….dude tombout she didn’t tell him til after the deed….niqqa quit lyin!

Not in my movie they don’t, ‘cause me and the tripple D’s have already exchanged “Hello’s” while I was on my way over to tell babygurl how much I love her hair.

By SexyLeggs

February 20, 2008 3:40 PM | Link to this

Yes, I hate that. What I hate now is taking something out of the freezer to be defrosted when I come home only to find that my dang cat has chewed it’s way through the wrapping and I have to throw it away (happened only once with meat) only to walk in the living room and find an entire loaf of bread scattered on my living room floor. WTH type of animal to I have = catdog! So, now take it out at night and put back in fridge before leaving in the morning.

My daughter wishes I would forget more often so she can have some type of fast food. Cemeeli you can still defrost something when you get home in a sink full of water. Takes about 30 mins. (if you have time)

By melo

February 20, 2008 3:41 PM | Link to this

Foots ur 36C’s are just fine…u knw…i wld have cuped them in my palm were it not for this wify thing….damn…damn!!!!

By QueDogTeaching

February 20, 2008 3:41 PM | Link to this

Cee That is what got me into teaching. I love teaching and coaching, but I have a lot of knowledge that I am saving for my own.

Que now coming back onto the blog with Gold boots and Purple cape to open hand slap Damarcus for that post. If you don’t like it stay in your lane.

Personally I like little girls, but I would never post negatively about what my girl had. Especially if she had what a lot of women pay for. The next time you open your mouth don’t let sound come out. Use that open mouth to pleasure your girl. If you don’t Jody will.

By BINFORD2K

February 20, 2008 3:43 PM | Link to this

I cosign ya @ 3:16 TRUTH

Does this mean we call you “TRUTH 3:16”? …it does have a ring to it.

By SlimOne

February 20, 2008 3:44 PM | Link to this

melo dang dude, why I gotta be the example. I know fa sho I’m not the only member of the itty bitty up in this piece.

Yelling out loud ALL ITTY BITTY’S UNITE!!!!

Slim now handing out “B-Cups are Enough to Suck” t-shirts

I like my B cups.

By melo

February 20, 2008 3:46 PM | Link to this

Page1908 dnt worry about BK, i can be ur agent but i got sample ur tight body and boobs to see if its as good as the tv commercials im gona make.

Blog fam..im out luv u much!!

By Blue_Kolla

February 20, 2008 3:47 PM | Link to this

Foots I guess I can’t say that I’m proud of my 36C’s that look absolutely the same whether I have a bra on or not without proper representation? LOL

Ok, that’ll be your one-time allowance for the day.

Page Look I’m just throwing a bug your way. I’m pretty sure that an agent’s network is way more extensive than this here blog. You know he specializes in gettin’ your D’s/E’s and hips to the right people. That’s all…

By Wow

February 20, 2008 3:49 PM | Link to this

@ Blue_Kolla thanks for the cosign i thought i was going to have to give a lesson on how grown men should deal with big breast…..lmao

@ SeanJohnson3000…i think some of these younger guys don’t now anything about hard work…you can’t be scared…you have to get in there and stand your ground….lmfao

@ truth i always catch you!

@ Cemeeli let me know when you find the right blog so i can get on!

By mqew

February 20, 2008 3:50 PM | Link to this

Truth Cool! I guess we’re sayin the same thing…

2C I’on know. The real shyt you can’t make up!

By SexyLeggs

February 20, 2008 3:56 PM | Link to this

Love your slogan SlimOne.

Pumping my hand in the air shouting “I’m an itty bitty and I love it!” Come on ladies, unite!

By 2CPTG©

February 20, 2008 3:57 PM | Link to this

damn that……Beautiful spill the beans gal…..or I’mma start makin shyt up!!! (I see ya mqew)

By Page's Agent not BK

February 20, 2008 4:00 PM | Link to this

…ring …ring

Page’s Agent: Yo J, what up mayne?!

Jermaine Dupree: Slick Willie, whas hap’nin shoudy…?!

PA: Lookie here folk, they tell me that you been lookin’ for a new face, you know shoudy… wit Big D’s an’ baby-makin’ hips, azz n all’at.

JD: Yeah KuZ. You got somebody in mind?!

PA: Got one fo ya, nikka. Girl got dat fiya too!

JD: Aight look, take down this address 5239 Waverly Ct. That’s 2 Short’s crib ova dere in Colle Pock. Make sure you tell that chick to go round the back. Thas where Ying Yang ‘n dem in the club at.

Agent back on phone to Page …ring …ring

Agent: Yo babygurl, I GOT’chu. We gon’ git PAID!!!

By mqew

February 20, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

• 2C meant to say the stoopid shyt you can’t make up*

By Page1908

February 20, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

LOL BK dude, you are bananas! ctfu

By SeanJohnson3000

February 20, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

@ Que…Personally I like little girls, but I would never post negatively about what my girl had….bruh..i was looking crazy after i read this…lol…then i finished the rest of your post….knwing u are a teacher ..i was like wtf?…

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 4:08 PM | Link to this

Gosh, a lot of good stuff to respond to.

Binford - Regarding your 11:52, you’re right about the spouse being your earthly focus. I’m not a mom but I bet I’m going to struggle with this when the time comes. But if it came down to it, I’d rather have a life partner (husband) than a kid if I had to choose only one. They did this topic on the MOMania blog and the women who chose the hubby over their kids got creamed. (I like that blog because it gets real interesting when you give desperate housewives an anonymous place to vent, lol)

SJ3000 - Anyone I lay with I consider “good enough for a serious relationship.” I will date a single dad, it’s just not my preference.

Truth - Regarding your 12:43. Everyone looks forward to the fall. That’s why they tempt you.

Yaz - When I was on stronger BC my boobs grew and I loved it. However, I got symptoms of a blood clot so I had to lower the dosage.

cinnabun - For some reason, all I meet are guys with no kids. And I date guys who are pushing 40. They are out there!

As for the single moms that get knocked up by a sperm bank, I think it’s a selfish move. Why would you willingly chose to raise your kid without a dad? (Different than getting divorced or left by a deadbeat) They had sperm bank babies on Oprah crying about how they felt incomplete. Why knowingly do that to your kid?

Well, looks like the rest of the convo has turned to big tatas. I definitely can not relate to those, so I guess I’ll just lurk from here on in!

By Page's Agent not BK

February 20, 2008 4:11 PM | Link to this

Page You know I’m messing with you. LOL

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 4:13 PM | Link to this

Oh but I will shout out my itty bitties before I go. I see ya SlimOne and SexyLeggs!

By Cemeeli

February 20, 2008 4:14 PM | Link to this

Sexyleggs…ergo…Taco night. Time at my spot is already squezzed. Defrost THEN cook?…another language. Or i’ll be quick to pick-up ‘steam specials’ at the Publix spot.

Wow you in the right spot… just remember to check your sanity. Lol

Blue nah the sisters ain’t never lived like that…Never…ever..ever eva!

2C in ya Steve Harvey i can still hear you. :)

By 2CPTG©

February 20, 2008 4:15 PM | Link to this

soror, I need you to go on a recon mission for me……gather some intel, then hit my up this afternoon…

cinnabun…are you aware theres a porn star with the same name? she spells hers Cinnabunz…is that you? If so, I gotta tell ya, you and that chic Roxy Reynolds are the shyt!!!!

By mytwocents

February 20, 2008 4:16 PM | Link to this

Sean I thought I was the only one who stays on Child Predator alert 8) But I’m sure Que didn’t mean it that way. Sounds Que luv da kids!In a healthy way tho…

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

February 20, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

Blue Kolla That was some b.s….@ 2:09pm. I actually clicked on that link…That is ridiculious! This is not 1955….

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

February 20, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

I am here everybody, Damn, I am catching up. I am doing the work of an entire team. Dayuum HD!!!!!!!!!!! A.B. just trying to cover the expenses of some of his other endeavors (Can u say Falcons) and I am paying the freaking price!!!!!!!!!!!

By cinnabun

February 20, 2008 4:19 PM | Link to this

I’m an ity bity and I LOVE IT and so does HE!!!

By QueDogTeaching

February 20, 2008 4:19 PM | Link to this

Whoa SJ my bad. That statement was lost in translation. I ment to say small in stature grown women. Not young in age girls. I love my good government check. And I dang sho’ aint bout to lose my head over a little piece of tail. With that being said, think 5’5” 125 and over the age of 25.

And if I happen to mention B’s and C’s I am not talking about grades.

By Page1908

February 20, 2008 4:20 PM | Link to this

LOL BK dude, of course I know. We have been blog friends for what, like 2 years now, lol. mean muggin

By Staceye

February 20, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this

I think Que meant he like short skinny girls! At least I Hope….

By Page1908

February 20, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

frat ok gotcha!

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

February 20, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

Slim I am a part of the itty bitty committee also and I am a big girl but I am what my family called bottom heavy. I like my little things too, because I have my nips pierced and I hardly ever wear a bra. Can’t do that with those big ones.

By cinnabun

February 20, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

Ared I’ve met a few men w/o children also, I know they’re out there.

2 no porn movies out there, they’re all locked away in the bat cave. LOL

By mqew

February 20, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this

Dagg QDT 125lbs? I haven’t seen that since HS. I’m 15 over that now okay 20 (inclusive of 5 for winter coat) I graduated HS 10lbs over your standard… I could not see being 20 lighter, 10 absofreakinlutely.

This is bs, I have to stay late 2 night

By 2CPTG©

February 20, 2008 4:33 PM | Link to this

btw, fellas if you ain’t seen Roxy Reynolds in action yet, check her out! And, she’s a local……but doin big thangs in the porn industry…

By Staceye

February 20, 2008 4:34 PM | Link to this

6’1 she’s a very kiny girl… LOL

By Wow

February 20, 2008 4:38 PM | Link to this

all this itty bitty love is making me a bit sick……just kidding lol

By SeanJohnson3000

February 20, 2008 4:39 PM | Link to this

@ 6’1…ok.. you have the nips and the little man in the boat all with earrings…what kinda sensation is that?…and what size are you being 6’1 194lbs….10 on top…14 on the bottom?

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

February 20, 2008 4:39 PM | Link to this

Staceye, 6’1 & 194, stop laughing out loud, I can hear you all the way over here!!!!

By 2CPTG©

February 20, 2008 4:39 PM | Link to this

Cee….can I have your email addy? Need to holla at you….

By SexyLeggs

February 20, 2008 4:39 PM | Link to this

6’1 need to ask you some things about piercing…sharmynk@bellsouth.net

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

February 20, 2008 4:41 PM | Link to this

Staceye, u left out the (k) and I just stepped off the short bus, sorry.

By Beautiful - YeaI'mSensitiveSoWhat!!!

February 20, 2008 4:42 PM | Link to this

Truthbaby can i bring a friend? lol. due to the bad fitting bra posts the MLB, under my able hands, will be having a bra fitting seminar at my place tonight at 6.

Jazzy1 what’s up? i can’t say, it would ruin things.

2C come here! closer. closer. i ain’t sayin’.

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 4:43 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs - Questions about piercings…LOL! You go you freaky deaky mama! LOL

By Wrong....

February 20, 2008 4:45 PM | Link to this

@6’1…because I have my nips pierced and I hardly ever wear a bra. Can’t do that with those big ones.….I beg to differ and I don’t droop either, they stand at attention and I’ve had 2 children.

By Cemeeli

February 20, 2008 4:45 PM | Link to this

mqew massa always want the best gleaner fo’ his field work!

Yall be easy!

By cinnabun

February 20, 2008 4:47 PM | Link to this

like my little things too, because I have my nips pierced and I hardly ever wear a bra. you go gurl!!

By SeanJohnson3000

February 20, 2008 4:47 PM | Link to this

@ 2…roxy IZ that chic…total package…b cups too

By The Truth

February 20, 2008 4:47 PM | Link to this

footsy your making my tongue hard.

Single moms. I’m not trying to say in any way that your less a woman for your situation. I would just prefer someone closer to my situation. If it makes you feel better I wouldn’t date a smoker either. LOL

Page would you tutor me a little on the espanol? I’d appreciate it. Let em know.

By Staceye

February 20, 2008 4:48 PM | Link to this

6’1 I caught it after I sent it…you know what I meant girl! ok…hand me my helmet and I will go to the back of the bus! LOL

Sexyleggslet me find out you about go get something pierced? LOL I stopped after the navel and my 2 tats..although I am about to get my 3rd.

By Cemeeli

February 20, 2008 4:50 PM | Link to this

2 see soror.

By QueDogTeaching

February 20, 2008 4:51 PM | Link to this

Staceye Exactly, But I am still a black man. So I do like the look of a nice Gluteus Maximums.

Mqew it doesn’t stop at 125, I was just trying to make a point. I have dated everything from 5’0, 100, to 6’0, 170. So I don’t discriminate. But I like the more athletic build woman. Think track, or the girl’s basketball squad. My grandfather always taught me that we are all the same size lying down. And if her legs are long, put them on your shoulders.

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

February 20, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this

Let me just say that it is indeed a sensation, An enjoyable one at that. I am like a 8 on top and 10/12 bottom.

By SexyLeggs

February 20, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

ARed, you have me hollering over here. Was hoping that would pass through w/o comment and if it didn’t knew you or Staceye would say something and here you are! (LOL)

By Page1908

February 20, 2008 4:54 PM | Link to this

Truth Sure, I’m at pageantgirl_1908 at yahoo dot com.

By cinnabun

February 20, 2008 4:54 PM | Link to this

I reread Ques post and what I understand he’s saying is he likes little girls as in small boob women, I guess in his world a small boob woman is just like a litte girl, undeveloped? Help me out with this one Que

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

February 20, 2008 4:54 PM | Link to this

Staceye I think I am addicted to all this dayuum pain. I am getting my ears pierced this weekend and another tattoo. Sexyleggs ask right here, ain’t no shame in my game.

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

February 20, 2008 4:56 PM | Link to this

Thats right QDT!!!!!!!!!

By SexyLeggs

February 20, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

And there goes lil sis Staceye!

Good night everyone!

This deserves a second go around…give a loved one a big ole BEAR HUG. Didn’t it feel good when you did it last night?

Get some rest and remain AWARE of your surroundings!

By AmazonRed

February 20, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs - You are getting to know me too well. You KNOW I wasn’t gonna let that one go.

You know I wanna be a hot girl mama like you. I’m watching and taking notes!

By mqew

February 20, 2008 5:00 PM | Link to this

Late is actually till five

Be good!

By Beautiful - YeaI'mSensitiveSoWhat!!!

February 20, 2008 5:03 PM | Link to this

and i don’t think he would like it if i said who i adored openly on this blog (that’s a guess).

what’s for dinner you asked? whole catfish with smothered potatos. yum.

By Wondering

February 21, 2008 9:28 AM | Link to this

Has anybody else noticed that the blog in down?

By feenin

February 21, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

yep, i’m ova here scratchin’ my neck too. lol.

By TO ANYONE READING THE ENTRIES

February 21, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

THE PERMALINK IS BAD AND NEEDS TO BE MOVED TO THE 2/21 TOPIC.

THANK YOU

By 2CPTG©

February 21, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

Wondering, and Feenin…..are you all lurkers, waiting for the show to start? Bear with us for a few moments, the show will start shortly, as soon as we work the kinks out of the new system we’re working on…

yours truly,

2 Can Play That Game©

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

February 21, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

AHHHHHHH DAYUUUUUUUUM!!!!!!!!!!

By Dan

February 21, 2008 10:23 AM | Link to this

2Can works for the Man? The AJC man?

Wow, I thought you were too militant.

By Brianna's mom

February 22, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this

I’m a single mother to a 7-year-old girl. I adopted her from foster care because she needed a mother and I knew I could do it. She came from a terribly abusive and neglectful home, but with a lot of love and patience, she’s now doing really well. So, guys, are you really turned off by that? I gave up my free and easy “single/childless” lifestyle so that I could make a difference in the life of a child who needed help. If that’s a dealbreaker for some guy, well, too bad. He’s not the kind of guy I’d want to have around anyway.