Misadventures in Atlanta

By 6'1 & Luvin it (Don Dada)=Playin both sides

May 1, 2008 8:21 AM | Link to this

I am really on a roll here lately brb!

By Dan

May 1, 2008 8:21 AM | Link to this

Morning,

While I wouldn’t want someone to parrot my every word or be so enamored of the things I say or do, I also wouldn’t mind them not liking to do some things I consider fun.

I believe that would be the best part of getting to know one another. Learning to love what the other person enjoys, despite a willingness to do so.

If she could learn chess, script writing, politics and finance; I’d be happy to go horseback riding, whitewater rafting, or play tennis. Becuase I’d what to see these things through her eyes as I would try to let her see my passion through mine.

So while it’s not a prerequisite that we, like “Oh My Gawd, I love that!”. As long as we’re compatible with open hearts and minds, we’ll be good.

By Dan

May 1, 2008 8:21 AM | Link to this

Morning,

While I wouldn’t want someone to parrot my every word or be so enamored of the things I say or do, I also wouldn’t mind them not liking to do some things I consider fun.

I believe that would be the best part of getting to know one another. Learning to love what the other person enjoys, despite a willingness to do so.

If she could learn chess, script writing, politics and finance; I’d be happy to go horseback riding, whitewater rafting, or play tennis. Becuase I’d what to see these things through her eyes as I would try to let her see my passion through mine.

So while it’s not a prerequisite that we, like “Oh My Gawd, I love that!”. As long as we’re compatible with open hearts and minds, we’ll be good.

By Raqi

May 1, 2008 8:42 AM | Link to this

I do agree that there has to be common interest in order to maintain a healthy amicable relationship. And yes as stated last week you must have a like or fondness for each other after that initial chemical attraction. Even in sharing like passions you still have like your mate. When I speak of like I am talking about liking the person beyond those quirky and somewhat annoying behaviors. We can share a fondness for music, which we do, but if his singing along with every song or humming to every tune annoys me, then that common interest means nothing.

We share a common passion for getting away every so often, but if we are not good company to each other I would rather stay home or go off by myself.

You know there are people in our lives that you just like having around. You know…that person that just gets you. That person that you enjoy to nothing with.

One of my passions is simple pleasures. And I appreciate that my mate is willing to join me in experiencing those pleasures.

But believe it or not the things that we don’t share interest in also makes us that much more interesting to one another.

By I am Legend

May 1, 2008 8:43 AM | Link to this

umm my partner has to love the strip club - i am passionate about T & A…bukkkinekked….lol

but on the real i like to compete..so i do alot of sports/games..i would love a partner that shared the same passion to compete win..etc

i can see a topic change soon

By Lady J

May 1, 2008 8:43 AM | Link to this

Morning Everyone!!! Great Topic!!! Bella I am with you with that Beach concept!!! That is why I love quick romantic beach getaways…Myrtle Beach, Savannah, and HHI!!! Planning two getaways as we speak…However I have the burning passion and my SO doestn’t…He is down to travel do things but that burning fire to do it well it is not there…It that a man thing with expressing emotions??? Who knows but we are going…J

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 9:03 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone.

Well, I guess my passion is for life and world travel. I just aim to be happy in all I do and hope my guy is the same. In terms of activities, I’m into snowboarding, tennis, golf and of course the pole. LOL He doesn’t have to like any of that though since I’m not die hard about any of it (maybe pole soon, we’ll see). I do hope when I retire that my hubby and I will make it a goal to really get out there and see the world.

I seem to meet guys who are really passionate about something. Comic books, computers, sports. Because I feed off other people’s passion, I always like to get to know what drives you better. As long as it’s a healthy outlet. LOL

By kinderbabe

May 1, 2008 9:06 AM | Link to this

okay ladyj. i see you girl…lol. glad to hear that you are traveling w/someone of interest. that always makes for good trips.:) i know that you will have a great time…

on topic: i am a passion driven person…almost to junkie status…lol. it’s extremely important that i am involved w/someone who has a fire in their life, something that drives them. for instance, i LOVE music. couldn’t see myself w/someone who was interested in it at all. artistic expression is a big part of my life (plays, novels, songs, poetry, movies, etc.) discussing these type things w/my SO provides some stimulating discussion and interaction. it sets the stage for my love. i have been involved w/someone before who wasn’t as passionate about life period. it was about the day to day grind for him….and that was BORING and a short-lived relationship for me.

By I am Legend

May 1, 2008 9:09 AM | Link to this

http://www.imeem.com/souljah75305/playlist/Pj9CYbvY/originooolskoolgsmusic_playlist/

By Black Girl

May 1, 2008 9:13 AM | Link to this

2CPTG

I would like to evoke such a passion in you it’d leave us both BREATHLESS!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 1, 2008 9:14 AM | Link to this

Morning, all. :-)

I encountered a situation once where a woman I was seeing didn’t feel, in her estimation, that I was applying the same amount of support and encouragement to her educational aspirations as I was to her career opportunities. Long story short, after “discussing” this little matter over the phone one night (which I knew was a mistake when she first brought it up) her last words to me were “F—k you, Darrell!”

I only mention this to say that if there is something you’re passionate about, give your mate room to get on board with that passion, but to do so in their own way. He or she will support you best as you allow them to be themselves as they do so.

By Dan

May 1, 2008 9:14 AM | Link to this

@Kinder

You took the words right out of my mouth.

I could be with a woman that loves to watch donkey shows (those from the west coast know of what I speak). As long as she’s passionate about her interests I’m with it.

There is nothing better than seeing an adult’s eyes light up like a child’s when what brings them joy, what sparks their passion is presented before them.

Greatest feeling in the world.

BTW: Red I’m passionate about seeing you on the pole, come on….present me with my dream! We can go to Strockers, I got an in at the Flame too…two words…Amaetur Night!!!!

By Kym

May 1, 2008 9:18 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

I agree Legend this one may die a slow death.

Okay my passion-hmmmm I dont know if I am defining this right but when I think passion I think of something I can’t live without and frankly there is nothing I have found other than my child I would die if I didnt have. So passion may not be the word for me. I enjoy a variety of things and I am actually okay in dating someone who may not enjoy what I like. Because I am not going to enjoy all that they like. Doesn’t make the relationship dead. Actually it gives it more life because you have a opportunity to learn something new..or see your SO in their natural state..meaning when they are enjoying themselves to the fullest then the real person shines through. For me that is watching a football game, old movies, volunteering, camping..etc.

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 9:23 AM | Link to this

Darrell - I definitely understand your point about giving your mate time to get on board, but what was it about her educational persuits that needed time? Sounds like that’s not a difficult passion to understand. Just curious.

Dan - LOL. Funny thing, I have no interest or desire to go to a strip club in real life. There is a difference in doing it for fun and doing it to pay rent or put yourself thru school. LOL

PS. What the heck is a donkey show? I’m from the west coast and have never heard of such a thing. LOL

By Lady J

May 1, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

Hey KB you are funny!!!! You know it has been a long 180 days and now it is time to play in the sand!!!!

By I am Legend

May 1, 2008 9:30 AM | Link to this

@kinder

I got you on the music…trust me..thats why i am posting all these playlist..hell i use to bond with my interest thru music…i can match the current pulse of the relationship with music….so i do alot of music sharing and cd making…i remember one time i totally seduced this one women with the cds i would make…they all had a flow/vibe that would remind her of me..and just how i flow…that was the craziest….i am at most creative when i am upset….

By Dan

May 1, 2008 9:34 AM | Link to this

@ARed

Don’t tell me you never been to Tijuana?!

I’m from SW Atlanta and I’ve been to Tijuana. You the the donkey show.

By Raqi

May 1, 2008 9:36 AM | Link to this

Darrell I disagree with that. There are something, like what you mentioned, that you should not require that your mate share a passion for. In the situation that you gave supporting your mate in their decision or passion should be enough. There are things that my husband has set out to do that I don’t have a passion for and probably never will, but I support him in his efforts and achievements. He does the same for me. As long the person is not fighting against or making it difficult for you that should be enough.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 1, 2008 9:38 AM | Link to this

Amazon The issue wasn’t one of my “understanding” her passion for education. It was her expectation of how I should express that support that was at issue. This is my whole point around giving your mate the freedom to support you in a way that is conducive to the type of person they are.

For example, my demeanor is not the “rah-rah cheerleader” type. I’m very matter-of-fact in my approach to life. A personal passion of mine is leadership and what I call “life management”. I thoroughly enjoy helping people develop the skills they need to discover and fulfill their God-given potential in life. That said, however, it would be wrong for me to establish for you an expectation of how you should support a particular passion of mine.

In other words, yes, support me in what I’m passionate about; I need and want that. But how you show that support is completely up to you. I have absolutely no right to establish my own expectation of how your support of me should manifest itself. Your decision to support my passion is one you’ve made of your own volition and I should happy with that.

To know you’re in my corner to begin with should be enough. Whether you’re standing or sitting while in that corner is irrelevant.

Make sense? :-)

By I am Legend

May 1, 2008 9:38 AM | Link to this

@dan….tijuana is the wild wild west…i got rob by the cops in tj, camera stolen in tj..and jumped by some mexicans…all in one night across the border….fun times!!!..i rode the bull in tj….helped a fellow marine out of the “pink houses”….i could go on..but you get the picture…lol

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 9:38 AM | Link to this

My mother advised me years ago to think about the things I could live and live without and consider that when chosing a mate. She loved to go out dancing in my youth and my dad doesn’t dance at all. (I mean at all, it was a big deal when it came time for the father-daughter dance at my debutante ball, lol)

So in 31 years her man has never taken her out dancing. Clearly this is something she could live without, but since I love to dance, she wanted me to think about stuff like that, all things considered. I couldn’t imagine getting hitched and then never dancing again (with my man) at a friends wedding or something.

By Cemeeli

May 1, 2008 9:42 AM | Link to this

Hey in here!

There is zeal in me for many things. What i wonder is if my passions would be so flamboyant in a relationship to the point where it becomes appealing and fasinating to my SO. At least that’s what i would hope. He doesn’t have to be game for all but at least 1 or 2 hobbies we’d both enjoy.

BRB

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this

Dan - No, actually I’ve never been to TJ. I heard about the dangers and then went up north to school so never went. I actually will be in San Diego in the near future and have been thinking about finally being old enough to make the trek.

I’ve just been gun shy about it because all my friends who go usually come back with a record. LOL!

By Michelle

May 1, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers…1 more day til friday…yipee! I hope you all have a great day…i’ll check back in later..D i truly understand your 9:38 post, it makes a lot of sense to me :)

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 1, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

Raqi “In the situation that you gave supporting your mate in their decision or passion should be enough.”

One would think so, right? I guess I was just wasn’t supporting her the “right” way. (“Right” meaning the way she wanted me to express it.) And, in that context, yes, she was making it “difficult” for me.

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 9:49 AM | Link to this

How much do I love the AJC for posting the daily pollen count. Today’s is 75. Whoo hoo.

Darrell - Makes sense. Thanks for the follow up.

By 6'1 & Luvin it (Don Dada)=Playin both sides

May 1, 2008 9:52 AM | Link to this

Did somebody say “Blue Flame” brb. Thats one of my passions. brbfr

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 1, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

You’re welcome, Amazon and, by the way, my heart goes out to all of you who suffer from all that pollen and stuff. I’m blessed to not have to deal with that, but I’ve seen the problems is causes for those who do. So, ya’ll hang in there. :-)

Good morning, Michelle and Cemeeli. :-)

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

May 1, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

Hey everyone!!

Kinderbabe you and I are one in the same!! I have a love for the arts but MUSIC is my love! My ex was not a lover of music and I look back now like how did I end up with you? LOL I defeinitely need someone that can go to concerts (he hated live music) and just enjoy a night listening to good music.

I hear you IamLegend, co-signing your music post as well. Hey are you going to check out Lalah Hathaway and Rasaan Patterso?

Hey Lady J, how are you chica?

By For Real

May 1, 2008 10:05 AM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam! Passion, not sure I understand the context in which it is being used here today. I think we take certain words and give them a different definition based on ones own personal experience instead of using the actual definition of the word. Instead of using passion to define an activity one should state what the important things in your life are and then rank them. I believe those passions that one claim would rank low in your life. Thus, using those things you describe as passions as reasons to end a relationship is irrational.

Passion Defined: (i) the sufferings of Christ between the night of the Last Supper and his death; (ii) the state or capacity of being acted on by external agents or forces; (iii) the emotions as distinguished from reason; (iv) intense, driving, or overmastering feeling or conviction; (v) a strong liking or desire for or devotion to some activity, object, or concept; (vi) sexual desire; (vii) an object of desire or deep interest

Now, can you live without those passion? Well, it only takes Food, water and shelter to live. Everything else is just a matter of opinion.

By For Real

May 1, 2008 10:08 AM | Link to this

Darrell You are on point with your post.

Again, your passion is a matter of opinion and is not a fact.

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 10:09 AM | Link to this

One passion I hope my mate will not have is video games. It was annoying enough in high school. In fact, I learned Tekken just so I could whip my bf’s azz in it. LOL.

As an adult, it hasn’t been a problem at all, but I know there are plenty of grown men who can’t put the joystick down. LOL

By Lady J

May 1, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this

Hey Mo!!! I am present and accounted for!!!! LOL Still trying to find out you got killed @ Da Bomb last night!!! Hope it is noone I know! Girl I was blowing people up this morning sayinga are you ok???

By Michelle

May 1, 2008 10:14 AM | Link to this

Morning For Real, Cee-me-me, Demi, Kinderb, erry’body

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 1, 2008 10:14 AM | Link to this

Amazon “One passion I hope my mate will not have is video games.”

LOL!

By Lurker

May 1, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

Actually it takes bread (food) and water to maintain life.

By Lurker

May 1, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

Actually it only takes bread (food) and water to maintain life.

By Raqi

May 1, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

ForReal it has become evident that you have a passion (a strong liking or desire for or devotion to some activity, object, or concept) to dissect and over analyze every Gosh Darn entry. LOL

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 10:22 AM | Link to this

Darrell - What’s funny? Are you a gamer?

By SexyLeggs

May 1, 2008 10:23 AM | Link to this

ForReal your recap yesterday was funny. I’m swapped..everyone have a great day!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 1, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

Amazon Nope, not a gamer. I could almost hear you saying those words and it just seemed funny to me, that’s all. I can imagine you asking a dude on a first date, “So, um, what’s that cast on your left thumb for?” LOL!

By Dan

May 1, 2008 10:27 AM | Link to this

Oh now Come On ARed,

Nothing wrong with being a gamer, when I have the free time I love to play video games. With a background in programming I love to watch the codes (and the backdoors) unfold.

I actually find it quite fun!

By Cemeeli

May 1, 2008 10:28 AM | Link to this

For Real i know 6’1’ is happy as a clam to see you in here so early?

LadyJ where are your passions taking you? Beach get-a-way…

Hi Darrell.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 1, 2008 10:29 AM | Link to this

For Real I gotta agree with SexyLeggs, man. That recap from yesterday was hilarious! LOL!

By Just 4 u Darrell

May 1, 2008 10:29 AM | Link to this

I see you just can’t let it go. Stop LYING on this blog. You hated to hear me talk about school. But you wanted me to stroke your ego when it came to your website, your job and your position you held at church!! If you ask me whatI thought about your monthly newsletter and I respond ” it was okay” you would get upset and talk about how hard you worked on it. I will not apologize for wanting to further my career and yes it is my passion!!!!

By The Truth

May 1, 2008 10:30 AM | Link to this

The Truth taps the mike, is this thing on?

On topic: I love training my dogs, my online bowling league, shooting pool, and most things competitive. Of those the only one that would be mandatory is the dog training. My dogs are protection trained so any woman that’s going to be hanging around has to know how to handle them. I cant have any accidents.

If she’ll handle the dogs I’ll travel, cook, clean, all the other mandatories. LOL

Ared you snow board? I saw those cats so that and was like wtf?? You should join the Southern Snow Seekers. They take trips quite regular but they also do other local events during the summer. BTW, a donkey show has a woman and a donkey. Nuff said.

Rell isn’t it a ball negotiating with those cats in TJ? They cuss you out and call you names and finally sell it to you at whatever you’ve offered. Ared if you go don’t drink the water. LOL

By For Real

May 1, 2008 10:30 AM | Link to this

For Real now slapping the ish out of Raqi with passion.

Just kidding Raqi (unless you like it) but when I read these post people are placing toooooooo much importance on these so called passions.

At the beach…..

Bella: Oh how I just love the beach. I love to feel the sun on my face.

Dude: It’s 105 degrees out here and I am sweating like inner thighs on a big gurl.

Bella: Stop complaining it is not hot out here.

Dude: Okay, but when we get back to the car you better not fix your lips to ask me to turn on the A/C.

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 10:31 AM | Link to this

Nothing wrong with being a gamer, when I have the free time I love to play video games

Dan - I stand by my statement. LOL

There is a difference between doing it in your free time and playing from the minute you walk in the door from work though. LOL

By Cemeeli

May 1, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

Hi Lurker i really enjoyed reading you and Kym yesturday. Oh, just thought i tell you that…wont cost you nothing.

Breakfast?

By 6'1 & Luvin it (Don Dada)=Playin both sides

May 1, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

6’1 smiling like a cheshire cat “Hey 4Real”

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

Darrell - I knew you were talking about Angie/Beautiful when you posted that educational pursuit thing. I just let it go until Just 4 u Darrell posted.

Wow…a bloggers (ex) lovers quarrell. LMAO.

By Lurker

May 1, 2008 10:38 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli - Thanks. I believe I will (breakfast).

By I am Legend

May 1, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

@ladyj…i am with you on the who got shot at the bomb…..i am also hoping it is no one i know…i got there from time to time

By mytwocents

May 1, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

We should all feel passionately about at least a few things for ourselves and still be open enough to simply appreciate the passions of another w/o morphing them into our own.

Prof. Real Can one be passionate about well-rounded-ness(<-prob not be a word)? Gotta luv your recaps but enjoy your philosophical stylings too.

Mama Cee Hope the lil lecture w/ lotsa luv on the side went smoothly. Lil Cee sorry.

By Lady J

May 1, 2008 10:40 AM | Link to this

CeeCee always Myrtle Beach Mid Late Aug and Savannah…I want to do Hilton Head at the start of Fall talking about beautiful place to be away with someone you truly vibe with!!!! I will wear some1 down with my passion wheather they wanted or not!!! LOL I will do Fla more in 09…

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 10:41 AM | Link to this

you snow board? I saw those cats so that and was like wtf?? You should join the Southern Snow Seekers.

Truth - Thank you! I haven’t boarded since I left New England. Everytime I ask folks if they’re up to go they say “I don’t do cold weather.” LOL.

I will definitely check out the Southern Snow Seekers. If I can just go twice a year, I’d be straight.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 1, 2008 10:42 AM | Link to this

Amazon I will not name names, but it wasn’t Angie.

By Raqi

May 1, 2008 10:43 AM | Link to this

But ForReal why must we be so technical and exact? You know what she means. She even said for example. sigh LOL

Oh yeah, watch out for that fireball that is about to slap you in the back of the head. I told you the next time you slapped me I was gonna get you dealt with.

Now more on the topic:

I just cannot imagine being with someone who I share no common interest with. I mean really, how does one become to be with such a mate?

You meet. Some unknown chemical element draw you together. You consummate that attraction. Then what??? You go your separate ways?? Each retire to his/her wing of the abode?? I mean really.

If we cannot enjoy time and interest together a man is no more that a walking dizzle in my book. If a 45 second or-ga-sm is all you have to offer, hell I can get that via an apparatus kept in the night stand drawer and not have to deal with having someone hogging my side of the bed, leaving empty juice bottles in refrigerator, having to cook extra food, wash extra clothing, etc… Not exactly, but you know what I mean.

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

Darrell - Okay.

Sorry Angie!

By Lady J

May 1, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

@I am Legend…The WINGS are DA BOMB for real!!! I haven’t been in a long while but I know folk who frequent it on a regular so my thought and prayers are with the ones you were not affected and to the deceased and his family!!!!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 1, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this

Raqi “I just cannot imagine being with someone who I share no common interest with.”

Question for you: How do you distinguish between what is a “common interest” and what is a “passion”?

By Dan

May 1, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

Speaking of passion…

Just4U…would you like to reveal your true identity.

Dan now having violent flashbacks of the stalker poppin up in mid conversation….*

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this

I can’t believe our sweet mild mannered Darrell has been getting his bloggy mack on. LOL.

By For Real

May 1, 2008 11:03 AM | Link to this

Hey Six-One now go put your clothes back on before they fire your crazy azz. Wait hold on…. got it. Can I get an action shot too?

Two-pennies Here have a seat on my lap. No not that side this side. Yeah there you go. Now put your right arm around my neck and place your left hand on your hip then arc your back. Perfect! Ummm what did you ask me again?

Raqi technical and exact = Clarity, No Misspokeness, No Grey Area

Oh and which one are you talking about Commonality or Passion?

For Real now noticing Raqi’s unshave armpit as she attempts to hit For Real.

By For Real

May 1, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

For Real now handing Darrell his special “Slapping the ish out of” glove. The glove automatically secretes a mixture of baby powder and lotion.

By I am Legend

May 1, 2008 11:09 AM | Link to this

@ared..you messy for trying to figure out “Just 4 u darrell”…who cares….i mean it is clear he did not close the deal with that…and he is his own biggest fan when it comes to all things darrell…again i can see why some cats are having a hard time….and truth be told..i can get excited about anything all i want my mate to do is respect my passions not join or expect to learn!

i play video games often..hell keeps me out the strip clubs….lol

@ladyj…yes the wings are bomb..and i am with you on the other parts

@truth…yea i tried to haggle with the cops when they caught me p** in the alley..he was like how much money you got in your pocket..i said 100..he said give it to me and get he hell out of my country…peace…lol…and lets not forget the lil kids that sang la bama and tap with bottle caps on there shows…hilarious!!!…yea dont drink the water or eat anything from off a cart…lol

By Cemeeli

May 1, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this

mytwocents…hook’n you with a scientist or philisophical dude. I bring to Lil Baby Cents baby shower a chinese basin burner, a scapel and the book “A System of Logic/Wisdom”.

After convo with Lil Cee, he says to me;…Mom sometimes dudes have to just gone and fight and get it over with. Me: what do i say to that? nuthin’ Just glad the ‘Lily Field’ did not got there about my brown child. It was the best oppurtunity to share with him on what Truth touched on yesturday about not killing his spirit and allow that warrior to come out when needed.

6’1’ lol…cheesy cat. Chester?

LadyJ don’t sleep on the get-a-ways to the FLA beaches. I resided in Savannah and it has that hip, historic and southern heartbeat. Good food too.

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 11:15 AM | Link to this

you messy for trying to figure out “Just 4 u darrell”

Rell - YAWN. The messy one is the one who has their jilted lover posting a counter attack on the blog.

You talk about “who cares” and then proceed to analyze Darrell and his supposed situation.

You’re a trip buddy. LMAO.

By Angie

May 1, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

What are you passionate about? Are there things you simply HAVE to be able to share with a long-term partner?

vacationing every six months. anywhere. seeing him in a different environment is sexy, and watching him relax and say ooooh awwww would be fun.

By Willie Dynamite

May 1, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

Similac Great Job wit lil man yesterday. For a Mother with a Son sometimes doing nothing is the best thing you can do. Please believe that he learned a whole lot more before,during and after the altercation than you could ever teach him. Also, BTW do you get the feeling that he’s done that before? I betcha he gets that extra choc milk today from some lil cutie. Lil Man been handling his business on his own for a minute now ya think.

By Dan

May 1, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

@Legend

Imma have to gone and disagree with that. When a woman is still mad after you broke up, you had to have:

Slept with her sister/cousin/close friend;

Put it on her.

Since we’re talking about passion, postbreak up: apathy is the lack of passion. Anger is its horny cousin.

By I am Legend

May 1, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this

You’re a trip buddy. LMAO

no more than you my lil cum quat!

and the breakdown..i cant help it..because the ish is not hard…and this is no BF..

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

and the breakdown..i cant help it..

Rell - This we know. But lo and behold…it could be perceived as “caring.”

I get entertainment reading cowards who can’t post under their blog name on internet blogs. You get entertainment doing your armchair psychology. To each his own. Doesn’t = caring tho.

By mamalongleggs

May 1, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this

Good day All, Bella take me along with you to the beach! I love the beach, it’s so calming and refreshing, it’s not a must have but, it would be nice for my SO to take delight in it..

Are there things you simply HAVE to be able to share with a long-term partner? A spiritual belief, an interest in giving back, and financial accountibilty.

By mytwocents

May 1, 2008 11:39 AM | Link to this

tee hee hee hee… Why,Professor, I’m not quite sure this kinda tutorial is “appropriate”…Is THAT really in the syllabus? Hmm. Well, ok… Betta not end up in a skit, later tho!

Cee Yup you can be my Thousandaire Macthmaker. Wonder when that show comes back on. Criteria: Must possess & use brain power to best of ability… Aww. Lil boy is learnin to be a lil man and you should not hinder.

By Cemeeli

May 1, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

Lil Man been handling his business on his own for a minute now ya think.

WillieD after listening to this dudes comment…yeah. He holdin’ his own…LOL

By I am Legend

May 1, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

@ared….you just love getting in your lil digs…guess it makes you feel a lil better about yourself..

armchair huh..well hon i am on the other side of the game…i am where you trying to be…so its not armchair but somewhat of a blueprint i spit..you dont have to agree

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 1, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

Morning all!

Legend I’ll do to the T&A club with ya! Just know I dance better than they do! Sing it with me now…You should tip me..you should top me! LOL

Truth sorry bruh but I am allergic to dogs! LOL What…you don’t love me no mo? LOL

Cemeeli when I went to savannah for St. Patty’s day weekend (after my booty healed from being bitten) and ventured out to Tybee Island and the cemetery and the historic house with Ghost tours…I loved Savannh. In fact my friends and I are planning to go out there for a weekend in July. I love it there. I have family in Myrtle Beach so I have spent plenty of summers there.

On topic I a, very passionate about laot of things. I also have a big sense of adventure. Traveling and trying new things make my face light up like a child. Now, I dove off a 30 ft cliff in Jamaica, I do NOT recommend that! As a performer I love anything that has to do with that..although I am not much of concert person. Thy only thing I like to be a spectator of is sports. I’d rather be on stage than watching it. But I love music of all types (except a lot of the new so called hip hop). I love the great outdoors…summer sports being my favs like jet-skis, para-sailing, etc. As far as winter sports..I tried skiing, just not for me..but I ice skate very well. Ahhhh…the Central Park memories! So any guy I date has to like or ad least try my passions. I will try his as long as its no too outrageous! Even I have limits! LOL

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 11:55 AM | Link to this

Rell - You really are a trip. You call me “messy” and want to get offended that I call your analogies “armchair psychology?” Are you kidding me? You don’t know Darrell..or anyone else here, so I hope you don’t think your opinion or assessments of anyone is actually something anyone should take seriously.

Where you are is nowhere CLOSE to where I want to be. Sorry to break it to you. If there is a blueprint you leave it’s what not to do.

So yeah, don’t agree.

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

Staceye - I first read of Tybee Island in a Pearl Cleage novel. I haven’t made the trip there yet, but I really want to go!

By I am Legend

May 1, 2008 12:00 PM | Link to this

@ared…no i dont take this stuff seriously but i see you do….so what do you want to do…you need some attention today…continue to trash my name or whatever you do…i am done….

By Tazzee

May 1, 2008 12:00 PM | Link to this

Morning Folks!

The word ‘beach’ drew me into today’s discussion. I LOVE THE BEACH! I have to go at least once a year, preferably around my birthday. Although I love the beach, it’s not a requirement that my mate love it, as long as he doesn’t try to stop me from going. Last year I went to the beach by myself and thoroughly enjoyed it.

I’m like kinderbabe in that I love artistic expression. It would be very difficult for me to be with a man that doesn’t like music and other forms of art. I guess I could go to plays without him, but I listen to music all day, every day.

By Satoria Lynn

May 1, 2008 12:04 PM | Link to this

Hi All,

mamalongleggs - Can a sista roll with you to the beach? My boo will love it!

melo - Yo momma so poor, burglars break into yo momma’s home and leave money. LOL

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this

you need some attention today…continue to trash my name or whatever you do

Rell - That doesn’t even make any sense. Here’s a tip, if you don’t want me to reply to you, don’t even bring my name up. I don’t remember bring YOU into my posts directed to Darrell.

Another tip: Don’t call me names and you won’t be called names.

Seems pretty simple to me.

By Raqi

May 1, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

Darrell I recognize a passion as an interest. I hold passion for everything interest that I have. A mate for me must share some of those interests.

By Cemeeli

May 1, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

Stac speaking of..i missed my ice-cream outing yesturday! I went winter boot shopping. Yes, i did. Got a nice pair…can’t wait to rock ‘em.

My only trip to Myrtle Beach was canceled midway the travel there. family emergency :(.

By 2CPTG©

May 1, 2008 12:08 PM | Link to this

‘sup…..well damn, Black Girl, let’s make it happen then!!!!!

Darrell, maybe if you quit trolling folks who visit your site, you wouldn’t have them prollems!!! Told ya, The Melo was right about dude……

By Cemeeli

May 1, 2008 12:10 PM | Link to this

The beach and kids laughter are my absolute FAVORITE!

By Michelle

May 1, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

OK, THEY JAMMIN ON V-103

By 6'1 & Luvin it (Don Dada)=Playin both sides

May 1, 2008 12:23 PM | Link to this

Okay, It seems to me that I really shouldn’t have any problem with my male counterparts because I have some of the same passions as them such as, Motorcycles, American Muscle cars, Sports, and of course da skrip club. But I am very artsy and I love politics so I would love to be able to have someone who would not only participate with me on those things but would find a love for them also. Okay thats enough of my soft side. Back to regular schedule programming!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 1, 2008 12:27 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli I thought of you yesterday when I had to go work out to fight the urge of going to partake in the eating of the sinful $.31 ice cream! Let me remind you…YOU ARE THE DEVIL! LOL Trying to tempt a sista’s and make her break her diet!

Michelle Girl I know. I am shaking my booty in my chair like I am in Miami already! Shake whatcha mama gave ya!! LOL

**The beach is my favorite. I love to get to them a few times in the summer. Since I moved here I have not been half as much as I used to. I used to xdrive down to the Jesey shore all the time. Now its Florida, Savannah, Myrtle, and Caribbean beaches all the way..except when I got homew to NY for the 4th as I always do.

By Kym

May 1, 2008 12:36 PM | Link to this

Are we still on passion? Or are we having another episode of as the blog spins? Lawd-Where is Jerry when you need him.

I know people married many moons and they may not have all the same interests and ideas..but some how they made it work. I wouldnt discount a guy if he didn’t have an interest in the things I like.

Cemeeli I didnt see your post until this morning.sorry. Glad to know things worked out with your son. He along with Truth is right sometimes you have to fight and if that fight means a suspension well then you suffer..but like I tell my son I am there for you right or wrong and if someone pushes you to the limit and you have to go high and to the left..then so be it.

Could be worse you could be this kid’s mom..

7-year old steals car

By Unknown

May 1, 2008 12:39 PM | Link to this

WHEN WE POST, CAN WE JUST STICK TO THE SUBJECT? THIS BLOG IS GETTING TO BE UNHEALTHY!!!

By Michelle

May 1, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this

Staceye girl that’s what’s up!

By Cemeeli

May 1, 2008 12:44 PM | Link to this

having a salad right now

Stac okay…okay…we in dis here thang together! I got chu’ making a memo to keep ice cream out my mouf when Stac is around. But you know i have a tendacy to slip. Spring Break I at ALL that restort food…they were “selling” it well. AND…since you mentioned the dress ystrdy i think 2C has agreed to us a spa day with all this workin’ out going on. Be ready.

The Carribeans, hellz yes. & are you telling me the north beaches are bomb too? Dang i wish i could hang with mamma right now.

I’m gonna be on fiya come July for the family reunion in Miami. Bittersweet bout that one….oh. Walking that beach EARLY in the morning.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 1, 2008 12:45 PM | Link to this

Unknown the blog would go dead in less than 2 hours if every kept to the topic. It would be like picking a scab..maybe it will bleed..maybe it won’t! LOL I like the chnage of topics..a lot of times the opinion of someone on the topic creates a spin off!

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 12:49 PM | Link to this

What’s unhealthy is letting blog comments affect your health.

What’s also unhealthy is being too chicken to post under your regular blog name. (I really don’t get what folks are so afraid of).

By Raqi

May 1, 2008 12:52 PM | Link to this

61 your comment made me think back to something my husband was telling his cousin. He was saying women are trying to become the new homeboy and the new (insert term of affection n-word that men use). He said that it started with us talking about what women can do like and/or better than a man and now we are trying f. like a man.

I had to call him an azzhole for one of his statements…he said ”why don’t yall just stay in your place?” I know what he means by that but still it is an azzhole statement. I told him to just go somewhere and go to sleep when said “yall done took everything we had. Our sport, our jobs, our right to lead and now you want to take our women?!?! B.F.S.”.

I love that man but you know…LOL

By Cherry Blow Pop

May 1, 2008 12:53 PM | Link to this

Unknown there’s always someone on here who thinks they know every thang. Switching the topic can be good sometimes; unhealthy things are said a lot on here.

By mamalongleggs

May 1, 2008 12:58 PM | Link to this

Hey Satoria c’mon, girl I got the sunscreen and ready to roll, I plan on visiting the gulf shore again in this summer.

By IslandGirl

May 1, 2008 12:58 PM | Link to this

Good day Folks

Stacye I dove off a 30 ft cliff in Jamaica OMG What did that feel like? I wish I had to courage to do something like that.

Darrell I agree with your earlier post.

I’m passionate about a lot of things, but I am no thrill seeker. I recently got over my fear of roller coasters. Anyhoo, I enjoy the arts (galleries, performing arts, etc) traveling, and education/learning. I am also passionate about my volunteer work. I’m deeply committed in helping organizations that take care of abused children. My favorite local program is the Bridge.

Real I forgot to return the dvd player I borrowed from you 2 years ago….yesterday’s synopsis was hilarious.

Truth Hi there handsome. Hope you’re having a pleasant day. It is so nice outside.

By Cemeeli

May 1, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

K-Y-M or is it KEM as i read this i thought….snap, snap, snap @ the lyrical of that!

But at the end of the day..who cares? Give up defining yourself-to yourself or to others. You won’t die. You will come to life. And don’t be concerned with how others define you. When they define you, they are limiting themselves, so its their problem.

I went an pulled that ^^^…now i’m half intrigued to post that in my office. But i wonder if it would OFFEND my colleagues. LOL …even with my contentment of this logic…some are not the type.

By Kym

May 1, 2008 1:04 PM | Link to this

Raqi LOL first what is B.F.S? second..my son’s dad was like that normally when he would get into some male domination tirade I would just grab his hand and put it on my breast and say here hold this for me. Calmed him right down.

By The Truth

May 1, 2008 1:08 PM | Link to this

Similac I’m proud of you. Willie has it right. Sometimes the best thing you can do is let it be. And remember, a child that knows how to fight is less likely to do so. He doesn’t have anything to prove. I’m glad your son made it through this thing and hopefully will never have to fight again. But we know he will if he needs to. Kudos.

Staceye you know I got wicked love for ya always. (The Truth now puts his hand on her behind and braces for a slap)

Ared I’m sure they do at least that many trips. I used to participate in a few events but I don’t like the large crowds and the politics that go with them. I’m a loner so I have to take little bites of the whole “meet and greet” thing.

Folks, don’t get to incredibly excited about Tybee Island. I think Hilton Head or Brunswick/St Simons is a better deal but to each his own.

Some of the things I’ve enjoyed doing just happens to be things women love so in some senses it’s not that hard. Travelling, home shopping, set up a nice home. I just try to enjoy everything I do.

Ared and Rell weren’t you to just signing a truce yesterday? LOL What a difference a day makes. BTw, has anyone else noticed that their aren’t as many blog fights as in the past? Is that good or bad?

By Cemeeli

May 1, 2008 1:21 PM | Link to this

Now Hilton Head Island is nice golf country. St. Simmons nice…

Where is everyone? lunch

By For Real

May 1, 2008 1:22 PM | Link to this

http://www.foxnews.com/video2/video08.html?videoId=1fd1c0cf-5c80-4d75-996f-bd53b2461ae0&sMPlaylistID

interesting……..

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 1:23 PM | Link to this

but I am no thrill seeker. I recently got over my fear of roller coasters.

Island Girl - I’m with you here! I couldn’t ride them either until I hit 18.

I met this guy who does that acrobatic flying. You know the loops and twist and turns. I let him know I’d be happy to show up and support. From the ground. No way am I getting in that little plane and looping around. LOL

By Raqi

May 1, 2008 1:26 PM | Link to this

Kym BFS = bullf* s*. His equivalence for somebody done told you wrong. LOL

Yeah it is funny how sometimes he’ll be rambling on and just soft kiss on the cheek or lips along with a yes baby I know will extinguish the fury so quick. Sometimes after I calm him down he’ll say but you know I am right. LOL Men…you got to love them.

By I am Legend

May 1, 2008 1:27 PM | Link to this

@truth……there is always a truce homie….shes a female…and legend loves the females…lol

plus i have a tender spot for ared..lol

By Demi

May 1, 2008 1:27 PM | Link to this

Kym that is true…LOL

By Kym

May 1, 2008 1:28 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli I cant take credit for that statement.. that is from the book I recommended last week to Angie. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. Say what you want about Oprah..For Real stop holding your ears and humming* Darryl Don even think it. But this book club selection really hit home with me. That statement is highlighted in my book..and I was thinking of making a little card for my desk as well.

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 1:29 PM | Link to this

has anyone else noticed that their aren’t as many blog fights as in the past? Is that good or bad?

Truth - Are you keeping blog fight stats? How many have I won? LOL

Thanks for the other options to Tybee Island. I really want to start exploring more stuff in my own backyard. I’m always on a plane when there is plenty of good stuff here.

As for the Snow Seekers, I really only need one or two trips. Most of those groups go monthly. I’m not a diehard. I just want to go enough to not forget all I’ve learned. (and make it down some trails without falling, lol)

By mamalongleggs

May 1, 2008 1:29 PM | Link to this

Hey Cee I used to live in HH, HH high graduate, I don’t know how the beaches are now in HH but back then it was rocky and not as pleasant.

By SlimOne

May 1, 2008 1:30 PM | Link to this

2008 Tax Code

The only thing that the IRS has not taxed yet is the male penis.This is due to the fact that 69% of the time it is hanging around unemployed, 10% of the time it is hard up, 20% of the time it is p** off, and 1% of the time it is in the hole. On top of that, it has two dependents, and they are both nuts!

HOWEVER, effective January 1st, 2008, the penis will now be taxed according to size.

The brackets are as follows:

PLEASE DO NOT ASK FOR AN EXTENSION

By Demi

May 1, 2008 1:30 PM | Link to this

Kym that is true…LOL

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 1:31 PM | Link to this

I would just grab his hand and put it on my breast and say here hold this for me. Calmed him right down.

That is hilarious.

By IslandGirl

May 1, 2008 1:32 PM | Link to this

Ared I know- thats not my cup of tea. I will have a great time supporting you from the ground. Those roller coasters are crazy. One day I plan to give parasailing a try.

By Blow Me a.k.a ROOKIE Cookie

May 1, 2008 1:34 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon Yall

ATTENTION BLOG: I think we should make a topic change rule. When changing a topic….BOLD it please!!

So when my late a$$ comes strolling in I’ll know what to post to. I knew this topic was going to change.

ARED You are a nut too! Crazy girl!

Truth Go kill yo’self!

By Raqo

May 1, 2008 1:39 PM | Link to this

IslandG Although I am not a thrill seeker either I did go parasailing and snorkeling this last b-day. It was fun but it is not something I would have just decided to do on my own. The marido planned the entire trip and I followed. But like I said it was fun.

By QC

May 1, 2008 1:43 PM | Link to this

Hey Demi how are you?

By Cemeeli

May 1, 2008 1:45 PM | Link to this

…okay i gotta start adding these book recommends to a list…My bookclub is tryin to go left with the love novels turn raunchy…I told dem lightskinned chics they gots no more times to offend me….I am the only single and the darkest in the group.

QC do you know the song “In the Beauty of His Holiness”? I want to hear the a song right now, so bad.

kimmie i wanted to add about your sister’s new addition to the family. Everytime i hear the birth of a child I feel a small desire to have another child so that I may take part in the beauty of growth in a child…but i’m good with being a “auntie” in the village. ;-)

By The Truth

May 1, 2008 1:48 PM | Link to this

Ared actually you’re undefeated because most folks just stop fighting when they realize you’re not going to stop. There’s a whole group of people that just throw their hands up in the air. LOL

There’s alot of things to do in the area. It’s a shame more folks don’t hit the road and see what’s out there. Most folks don’t even kno there’s a musuem in the city. LMAO

Kym I would just grab his hand and put it on my breast and say here hold this for me. Calmed him right down. that calmed me down and I wasn’t even hyped. I’ll be getting real upset about 10 tonight, can you volunteer the other one? LOL Btw, that book is our selection for this month. I’m looking forward to reading it.

IG me and you could hang. I’m through with the risky stuff myself. Let’s kick back with a drink and watch other people mess themselves up. LOL

Lurker have you decide if you’re going to join us permanently or you just passing through?

By Raqi

May 1, 2008 1:50 PM | Link to this

So ForReal I guess the way husband expresses his opinions would be considered passion. Or this fight that I am having with my best friend girl is fueled by my passion for what I believe. Correct??

By Demi

May 1, 2008 1:50 PM | Link to this

SlimOne What about the tongue? My tongue has put in some work over the years, LOL.

QC/LadyJ/Mo/A.red/Mamma/cee/Raqi/Angie/6’1’n’ms.eye

Good Afternoon!!!

I am slave working today…will post when I can.

And the real Storm says Hi!!

By SeanJohnson3000

May 1, 2008 1:56 PM | Link to this

@ Sup Blog…lil lunch time observance…i KNOW gas is higher than a mofo…but if you are gonna wear sandals please keep the toes in order..even if you gotta get some nail polish remover and get some clear polish and some white out….i dont know if i just seen some toes or a clinched knuckled up fist

By AmazonRed

May 1, 2008 1:56 PM | Link to this

actually you’re undefeated because most folks just stop fighting when they realize you’re not going to stop. There’s a whole group of people that just throw their hands up in the air

Truth - ROTFLMAO. No argument there. LOL. Somehow you’ve been able to read me somewhat accurately. Maybe because you focus on content