Misadventures in Atlanta

By The Truth

May 2, 2008 9:19 AM | Link to this

Am I first. That’s a first. LMAO

By For Real

May 2, 2008 9:20 AM | Link to this

Hello!?!?!

By For Real

May 2, 2008 9:20 AM | Link to this

Is this thing on??!?!?

By AmazonRed

May 2, 2008 9:21 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday all!

Ladies, do you ever feel like men are only looking for women who weigh under 100 lbs.?

Well, as a “slenda tenda,” I think slim women will always be in, but guys appreciate a woman with “some meat on her bones” much more in the south. I think different body types and images are better celebrated in the south, and that’s a good thing.

Have any of you ever felt accosted from the opposite end — people accusing you of being too skinny?

I do feel that people are more comfortable making “skinny” jokes. If the same type of jokes were made about bigger people it would be mean or cruel. Truth be told, everytime I see myself in pictures, I marvel at just how thin I am. I really have to work at keeping my weight up or I’ll just waste away. LOL Since I’ve been thin my whole life, I’m comfortable in my own skin, but I do want to make sure I stay at a healthy weight and keep the few curves I do have.

P.S. Thanks Bella for giving a shout out to the “technical issues” the blog is experiencing. Just keeping us informed will appease us, just so we know you aren’t abandoning us. :-)

By For Real

May 2, 2008 9:25 AM | Link to this

I guess I’m the only one here.

The Reasons that we are here, Can’t find the Reasons, Reasons, Reasons, Reasonsssssssssssss

By pisces 08

May 2, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

Good morning All. Dudes I know wouldn’t have one of those “I need a sandwich chicks”. Give me a red amazon woman any day. lol…

By Dave

May 2, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

Personally, I don’t think the “model look (as I call it)” is attractive at all. Since my first expperience with dating a mature woman (she was 36, I was 24), I have always admired and was a attracted to the mature woman. I loved the curves, the confidence, the experience and the conversation level. The “thin craze” exhibited in hollywood and media does nothing more than make people look emaciated and sickly. When I was 35, I dated a 50 yr. old for six months and promptly resigned myself to “I can’t keep up with her.” Presently, I am married to a beautiful 48 yr. old woman and I’m 44. When I met her, she drove me crazy with her confidence and maturity. My experiences of trying to “go with the norm” and date younger women than me just frustrated and disenchanted. They were self centered, insecure and basically had to be told when to breathe in and breathe out. Intimately, a 20 something is bringing a pocket knife to a gun fight when compared to a 40 yr. old woman. Keep your anorexics, your bulimics and the people that just stop eating when they gain 5 pounds. If I had to profile the perfect woman, she would be 42, 5’6” and 135 lbs. I thought that when I was 25 and the older I got, the older they got. That’s unfair to place that on anyone, but I’m trying to say that I wanted a WOMAN, not a GIRL.

By Dan

May 2, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

Slim with a little poot is fine..

Just like thick with the right curves is great;

But if I can see myself in you, I need you to get some biscuits. And the spine and rib showing look, makes me wanna call Sally Struthers or that bald head dude eeewwwwwww

By Cemeeli

May 2, 2008 9:32 AM | Link to this

Good Morning in these Parts!

Rosewood Hotel …hmph…

So Truth, For Real…can we get breakfast, a snack, juice…sumthin’? It is Friday…

BBL

By AmazonRed

May 2, 2008 9:41 AM | Link to this

Dave - Sounds like your issue is more with age and maturity level rather than weight.

Morning pisces, I missed you on the blog yesterday.

By Michelle

May 2, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

Finally!

Morning everyone….this should be Blog Men Friday let’s celebrate all the great blog Men we have on here..and my favorites are:======> 2cptg, BK, For Real, The Truth, Demi, Musing (i miss him) & Darrell

Have a great day bloggers!

By Dan

May 2, 2008 9:51 AM | Link to this

But theres something to be said about Dave’s point, Red.

I’ve always dated older women (and loved it). Talking to someone around my own age is like bringing a knife to a gun fight. I’ve said it before on here, there’s a calmness, a security and a greater sense of self that I enjoy in dealing with older women.

Not to say young women don’t have it, some do, but those are so few and far between the norm that statistically they don’t count.

Not to mention the other side of it, older women know themselves in a way that even fewer younger women do. I don’t know whether it’s age or experience or the calm after the storms, but give me an aged single malt over a shot any day.

By Angie

May 2, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

p08 e-mail me please. i need a huge favor. thx!

By AmazonRed

May 2, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this

But theres something to be said about Dave’s point, Red

Dan - I got his point and I think it’s great if he’s happy with it.

My point is that his response was about really more about maturity which ain’t the topic of the day (yet). LOL

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 2, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this

Morning, all. :-)

“Men, what’s your true ideal when it comes to the appearance of a woman? And what are you happy with, realistically?”

No need for me to elaborate on how I feel about the whole “physical appearance” thing. Ya’ll already know. LOL! Suffice it to say, however, she must be hygienic and carry herself in such a way that it exudes self-confidence, yes, but not so much that it comes across as her using her physical attributes to draw attention to herself.

I’m okay with someone who might be a little salubrious about herself, but I can’t stand vanity in a woman. Beauty and humility can co-exist.

By The Truth

May 2, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

On topic: A woman with good mental and physical health is a great start. I know a few women that stay sick or under pressure. Everything disrupts their system. My theory is the pressure of being alone is killing that azz.

It is a shame that folks let Hollywood determine how they should look. Without lipo, nose jobs, rib removals, azz implants, steroids and human growth hormone most of those folks wouldn’t be what they appear. Take a look at Pamela Anderson without makeup. Now I know why her hubbies all screamed fraud.

The beauty in women has never been in what the media tries to sell us anyway. The real beauty is in her spirit. What she brings to the table. Fine makeup can’t cover up a mugged up personality.

Jamo if you pop in today shoot me an email at atlred01@yahoo.com. I have something for you.

Ared what size are you anyway?

Simi for breakfast I have an assortment of danishes and rolls, omelets cooked to order, various juices and bottled water, 3 types of thinly sliced meats, french toast and waffles along with a variety of fruits. Also, for the ladies ( and some of the “softer” guys) I have a gift bag filled with varios perfumes, a card, a personalized Tiffany’s bracelet/necklace combo with matching key fob, and a dozen roses. I also have 3 massage tables set up and those services will be available until 11 am. Eat well and enjoy a day of peace.

By Dave

May 2, 2008 9:59 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed, that is a big part of it, but with a mature woman, her body fills out and she has the curves. I’ve seen some mature women in my gym that have just starved themselves skinny and that doesn’t look good at all, either. Now, I don’t like women that are overweight, but a woman with curves or even what is often called a “thick” woman is SO much more attractive than the sticks and bones that we see in the media. The SI Swimsuit issue doesn’t make me glance past the cover as they just look so malnourished and pasty. Hips are a MUST! My wife sometimes says she is overweight and has a ghetto booty, but GAWD what a booty it is! She has a thin waist, but she looks like a WOMAN. Yes, age is a big factor with me, but you need to have the curves of a woman (Cougar, anyone?). The Flockheart woman from Ali McBeal was just hio hum. Angelina Jolie is a BEAUTIFUL woman, but she has just wasted away to nothing. Her arms and legs just look like a stiff wind would break her. No thank you.

By Raqi

May 2, 2008 10:09 AM | Link to this

To every entity there is a law. The body has a law. There is such a thing as the ideal weight. There are three ideal weights for every height based the bone structure. If you don’t know what yours should be check with your doctor. Ten pounds over the text book ideal weight is healthy and still looks good. (I have a friend that’s a doctor).

A woman’s body is supposed to have a certain corpulence of curves. Those Paris Hilton types have skewed the minds of society. It ain’t pretty. If you look back on historical art you will see what a typical woman’s body should closely resemble. Now not all of us will be so gracefully proportioned but it gives you a good idea. Yes there are some born to skinnies and some born to be plumps. But you can over do it.

By kinderbabe

May 2, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

good morning all.:) shout out to:dan, iamlegend, ladyj, mo and tazzee didn’t get to respond yesterday to your comments about my one and only post. it was a crazy field trip day! whew! glad to be back in the building…lol

on topic: i have had my times when i thought all men wanted a waif. i have been curvy my whole life. it can be challenging sometimes on the dating scene being to big to be skinny but to small to be big. let’s not even talk about buying clothes…lol. at the end of the day, i continue to work on appreciating the look and the purpose of all this body. it’s a hard job but someone has to do it…lol.

i don’t have a preference of body type with men. i just like a man who’s fit and takes care of himself. not super muscular, just good solid man weight…lol. as long as there’s not a whole lot of stomach involved, i’m cool.:)

By AmazonRed

May 2, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

Now I know why her hubbies all screamed fraud.

Truth - LMAO. To answer your question tho, I’m a size 2.

Dave - Thanks for the reply.

By For Real

May 2, 2008 10:22 AM | Link to this

Truth You left out the fact that breakfast and the gift bags where compliments of Waffle House!

Waffle House, good enough to make you want to slap your mamma! If yo mamma ain’t around, feel free to slap Ared!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 2, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

Morning all! TGIF!

Wow Bella what an interesting topic. It’s funny that because I am not some size sub zero chick, when I meet people they always assume I am from the south (Miami). That annoys me because not every girl in NY is a walking skeleton! I am a size 8 and I work out now 2 times a day, 6 days a week to change that. If given the choice I would chose to be a size 2. I think skinny girls get approached/treated differently than the curvy girls. When you are skinny, there is really no body to look at so they look at your face first. With me, I think my azz gets the first look and then they look at my face. However, with the skinny girls I do not think they think as sexually based as they do with a curvy girl. Now…I HATE the word thick! I think it’s a horrible word! If you want to send me into a frenzy..call me thick and see if I do not go off on you! I have ended things wiht a guy for that! I see the really fats chicks calling themselves thick and I do NOT want to be in the same realm as fat. So of course I get offended. Heck, now they are calling themselves curvy and that word is being taken to the extreme. So now I just say..don’t describe my body at all. Just leave it alone. Along with all the BS I have dealt with from men…I think another reason I choose to be single is because I hate some over-sexed dude thinking because of your body you want to be treated like some sexpot who wants it all the time. Just because I have an azz does not mean I want to be groped! I have a mind and feelings…I’m not just a body!

In the age of Hollywood…I tell you, it can make you hate your body to the point of getting dressed in the dark so you don’t have to look at it. Sometimes..it’s not about what men want…it’s how you feel about you. I have a friend who is a 0 and said she would switch bodies with me..and I told her I’d switch with her.

By SeanJohnson3000

May 2, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog….having a debate with the coworkers..what do yall think about the police officer accused of raping his neighbor having he inviting her over to watch a movie and she asked if she could take a shower at his spot since her hot water was turn off….

By SexyLeggs

May 2, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone!

News Alert News Alert News Alert

*Child of Houston, Brown reportedly slit wrists. Web reports have it that the 15-year-old daughter of singers Whitney Houston and Bobby Brown was committed to a psych ward after a recent suicide attempt. Bobbi Kristina, who was first introduced to the public as a chubby child on the Bravo TV reality show “Being Bobby Brown,” allegedly tried to slit her own wrists. The teenager had allegedly tried to attack Houston with a razor and fought with her mother because she no longer wanted to live with the singer. Recent Web photos circulating show Bobbi Kristina and her older sister in suggestive poses, holding unidentified beverages in plastic cups.

OH MY GOODNESS!

By Raqi

May 2, 2008 10:28 AM | Link to this

My youngest son is crazy about Raven Symone but my oldest would tease and she is fat. Well to each his own. The boy likes what the boy likes.

The said part about the anorexic syndrome is these girls are not subjecting themselves to such anguish because they are afraid a boy/man doesn’t want a girl/woman with curves, but they are doing so because they believe this is what society says is perfect. Or ideal.

I exercise four days a week. I drink plenty of water. And try to eat fairly healthy. I am not stick figure nor do I want to be. I am happy with my body. And I don’t hear my husband complaining. Well he has said that my breasts are just aight. But for the most part we both are fine with it.

By For Real

May 2, 2008 10:29 AM | Link to this

Good morning Kinder you bring up a good point about what’s your preference for body type for men. Can you give an example of what type you prefer and what type you don’t. Oh and I with you on the stomach thing. When did pimp bellies become sexy?

By AmazonRed

May 2, 2008 10:31 AM | Link to this

think skinny girls get approached/treated differently than the curvy girls. When you are skinny, there is really no body to look at so they look at your face first. With me, I think my azz gets the first look and then they look at my face. However, with the skinny girls I do not think they think as sexually based as they do with a curvy girl

Staceye - Well, I am please to report that you can stop working out to get to a size 2. If you do, you will probably STILL have azz. So you’ll still get the same attention.

Also, in terms of approach, girls who are a size 2 have to hear “I’ve always wanted to sex a girl with a model shape.”

All this to say, each size has their own unique issues. So just get to a size that you’re happy with and call it a day!

By SlimOne

May 2, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

I’m so tired of hearing…You’re so skinny your ipples touch

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 2, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

Sean

That’s the kind of thing that happens when you make assumptions. Dude had no right to interpret any of that to mean she was “inviting” him to get with her like that. Rape = wrong, period!

By Cemeeli

May 2, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

sneeking in to grab some breakfast.

Truth i knew you had it in you. …serving it up in here…

I’ll have an Piedmont Omelete and one of those blue bags you got over there. THX

…a massage sounds great…uhm Kuntry!

By For Real

May 2, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

Slim Are you also tired of hearing you so skinny your jeans have only one back pocket?

By kinderbabe

May 2, 2008 10:42 AM | Link to this

forreal i think that a nice body type for a man is semi-athletic. i know that’s a funny term. i like men in the 40 zone so i realize that they may not have their high school athlete shape from back in the day….lol. as long as he didn’t let it go all the way south, i’m cool. nice strong arms/chest are a plus but i don’t need the whole body builder physique. people like that spend a whole lot of time in the gym which means less time for me…lol. i know that sounds bratty but i’m being honest. don’t want someone who is obsessed w/their workout. how was that? enough info?:)

SJ i’ve talked to my friends about that case as well. that was some skrait BS on that lady’s part. makes it bad for women who actualize are victimized. 12:30 a.m.??? a hot shower??? come on now, sounds like a hot azz gone cold when she couldn’t get what she wanted…probably a commitment from ole boy, money or both. it’s never cool to pull the rape card….her azz needs to be in jail.

By Raqi

May 2, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

LMAO at anyone who has an erroneous notion that one look is what all men like.

By ThirdWheel

May 2, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday people! Here are my answers…. Ladies, do you ever feel like men are only looking for women who weigh under 100 lbs.? Not under 100lbs but under 200lbs. If you are overweight in this city you might as well crawl under a rock and die… Your chance of getting a real man is shot down to negative 5…. * What kind of social pressures have you felt out on the dating scene?* Many which is why I don’t date anymore. Have any of you ever felt accosted from the opposite end — people accusing you of being too skinny? Maybe at birth but from then on no…. What’s your ideal body type when it comes to men? I am overweight but I do not like other overweight men. Someone with a huge belly is a turn off. Other than that I am not picky. And what are you willing to settle for? I am not… which is why I am still single….

By Dan

May 2, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

Staceye is thick

Now do something…

Thick, thin, skinny, light/dark, jiggabo/wannabe, my goodness people…

When you look at cha self in the mirror do you see flaws, yeah we all do. But for those of us that can look in the mirror and see what we like about ourselves (the smile, the hair, the curve of the trapezious muscle) live in a different world. That whole syndrome about worrying about what you look like to someone else is almost pathological. So say kcuf it and move on.

And Stace, you’re in the south, good booty down here is a tradeable commodity, like gold, silver, gas. Bet that matter of fact, you could get your gas tank filled simply by puttin on some bikin shorts, standing by the pump, pretending to look for your wallet.

Dan now requesting Staceye accompany him to the BP on Cascade, for he is runnin low….

By Angie

May 2, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

i’m skinny. 122 lbs, about 5’5ish. my dad is very thin. anyhoo, i prefer a teddy bear, football type. but don’t necessarily have to have that. i cannot, i repeat, cannot be with a man as skinny as i. i don’t hear it as much, but i do get the you’re too skinny also. you’ll be surprised at how many men adore small framed women.

if i could change me in anyway, i would want bigger boobies and a bigger booty. have thought about buying some, but no thanks. my hubby will probably not be happy.

By SexyLeggs

May 2, 2008 10:47 AM | Link to this

Growing up as thin as I was I was told my butt was MIA one too many times. I like my size and I get my share of admirers.

By ThirdWheel

May 2, 2008 10:52 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday people! Here are my answers…. Ladies, do you ever feel like men are only looking for women who weigh under 100 lbs.? Not under 100lbs but under 200lbs. If you are overweight in this city you might as well crawl under a rock and die… Your chance of getting a real man is shot down to negative 5…. * What kind of social pressures have you felt out on the dating scene?* Many which is why I don’t date anymore. Have any of you ever felt accosted from the opposite end — people accusing you of being too skinny? Maybe at birth but from then on no…. What’s your ideal body type when it comes to men? I am overweight but I do not like other overweight men. Someone with a huge belly is a turn off. Other than that I am not picky. And what are you willing to settle for? I am not… which is why I am still single….

By Vic

May 2, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this

Usually, the ones that “look like models” or have breast implants thnk they are doing YOU a favor by letting you go out with them. I’ll take the woman next door who keeps herself in shape naturally. I once dated a Hawaiin Tropic swimsuit girl for a few months. She was nice to have on my arm, but she thought every man would do back flips for her and the sex was about as vanilla as it gets. Like my uncle told me “No one likes a beautiful woman more than I do, but they’re so much dayum trouble!” I’m sure this goes equally for the guy with the Brad Pitt body. Great to look at, but once you take the wrapping off it’s like, “That’s IT?”

By SeanJohnson3000

May 2, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

@ Darrell & KB….i truly agree and share the same view as KB’s reponse…and had the same exact thoughts and comments to my buddy….old girl coulda boiled some hot water and took a bath if it was that serious…her arguement could be her gas was off….but if she got a hot place she shoulda stayed her hot azz at home…my home grip with the dude is….you DONT shyt where you eat..but he is only 27 so he might not have learned that yet…D…its ok not to politically correct all the time

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 2, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

Vic “Usually, the ones that “look like models” or have breast implants thnk they are doing YOU a favor by letting you go out with them. I’ll take the woman next door who keeps herself in shape naturally.”

^5!

By Gol-Getter

May 2, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this

I think there are eight primary body types: 1. Skinny 2. Slim 3. Average 4. Thick 5. Thicker 6. Plump 7. Obese 8. Morbidly Obese

And of course you may hyphenate. For example I am avg-thick, 5’2 138 lbs. I agree with Staceye in regards to men seeing the rear first then the face- it is annoying because it is so much more to me. I am in the processing of shedding a few pounds so we shall see if anything changes. :)

By Cemeeli

May 2, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

Dang on it!…why is there so many posts?…told you all i was gonna be out-of-pocket for a spell today…

On topic…Exactly - Rocking my body-type, style and flaws…

By Lady J

May 2, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

It is Friday, I am hungry and ready for lunch!!! Can’t wait for my wing n things ritual with a drink this evening!!! I am me like it or keep moving!!! I am becoming more cautious of my health and embracing letting beef go and drinking more water and cutting drinking Coke it is a process but I am feeling a difference with changing my eating lifestyle….

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 2, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

Dan Don’t let me see you…I may just have to cut you for that one! LOL

I don’t care what guys like…I think my body causes me more problems than I anything! They either stare at my chest or oogle my azz! I am more that T&A!

Now when it comes to the bodies I like on men: I like my men tall…starting at 6ft. I prefer a man with a little size to him. A skinny man..he had better be really cute. But on the other hand if I ever decided to marry and have a baby (yeah right) I may marry a tall skinny man to hopefully give my baby a chance at good skinny genes! LOL But I like muscles on a man. I think that is why I was so crazy from my ex back home, 6’8/260 solid muscle! OOH wee! Flash backs are a mugg!

By Angie

May 2, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

i would love for a male blogger to tell me right now if i’m slim, skinny, or avg. and whether or not he thinks there’s a difference.

By Dan

May 2, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

I don’t know how to type half of a hi-5, so I won’t try.

But, Vic, you’re half right, the sex is kinda vanilla, till you turn her out. Sex with most women can be like that until the “inner freak” is scratched and then hold on….

The other part is that a beautiful woman has insecurities too. Most women do, the choice we make as men (good vs. bad) is to exploit those insecurities for our own needs; or to try and build her up out of them. Let her know that you think the snaggletooth is sexy, etc…

But while dating my share of all stars, I can’t really say I ran into those kinds of issues, at least it never ended up that way.

By AmazonRed

May 2, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

My ideal body type on a guy is athletic-basketball player build. I like em tall, slender and muscular. Not to say I wouldn’t, or haven’t, dated other types.

By For Real

May 2, 2008 11:07 AM | Link to this

kinder I feel you but can you pick a celeb or athlete that fits your type. Just trying to get a visual.

3Stacks It sound like Mike Tyson all over again.

By Cemeeli

May 2, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

kinderbabe where was the field trip?

Nick says hi to everyone…he’s a workout bomb i got his input on this subject…1)Confidence is way more attractive than any size. 2) He likes Mo’Nique…silly

By SlimOne

May 2, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

4Real Nah, don’t know nothing about the 1 pocket unless we talking about a pocket rocket. I do have a mini curve or two..not that anyone really cares. Back to work

By Raqi

May 2, 2008 11:09 AM | Link to this

Men are visual beings programmed to look at breast and behind. It is what it is. We will never change that fact.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 2, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this

Sean

I’m probably one of the most politcally incorrect brothers you’ll ever meet. Just wait until the election rolls around. LOL! Seriously, though, I just don’t see any excuse or rationale for raping a woman. None. I don’t care how much she might have “led him on”. Dude should have had more self-control.

By Michelle

May 2, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this

My ideal body type on a guy is seeing him take his body to work and not sit at home being unemployed…Darrell, you still taking the kids to see Iron Man this weekend?

By Lady J

May 2, 2008 11:11 AM | Link to this

yep KB I would have never it took it there to even go there I would have handled my business to fix the mess and keep moving…I was thinking were they intimate before and no I am not discrediting rape victims it is just common sense as to what situations I put myself in and not!!!

By Dan

May 2, 2008 11:11 AM | Link to this

@Angie

Send that pic to: danbynight@netzero.com and I got cha.

@Staceye

You wouldn’t cut me, you’d love me. If we ever met, I’d see the tweety birds and hearts floating around you girl….

And fellas, no means no. It’s that simple.

By SexyLeggs

May 2, 2008 11:12 AM | Link to this

Dan the symbol above the #6 is the hi-five symbol.

I personally like tall muscular men. I am a sucker for strong arms and nice teeth. If your grill is messed up so is getting to know me. I will date someone my height, but I like tall men. A six-pack would be nice, but not important but no beer guts allowed!

By For Real

May 2, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

Okay ladies can you pick a dude (celeb, singer or athlete) that fits your body type as you have described.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 2, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

Gol-Getter I am 5’8 and I am 150 and I hate it! Girl I working out like a bat out of hell to lose it. I have also changed my eating habits once again!

By Angie

May 2, 2008 11:19 AM | Link to this

for real my type G. Garvin the chef. yum

dan u got mail!

By Gol-Getter

May 2, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

Staceye What are you doing to workout? How have you changed your eating habit- more frutis and veggies? I am using the elliptical 4 or 5 times a week, playing tennis, and racquetball.

By Raqi

May 2, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

QC Your 11:10 comment just got the Post of the Year award.

By AmazonRed

May 2, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

I am 5’8 and I am 150 and I hate it!

Staceye - It really saddens me to read this from you. You’ve really got it going on girl and have a great shape (from your myspace page). I really wish you could see that!

By Rob

May 2, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

How about 44 yr.s old, 6’4, 215lbs., former pro tennis player, worked out 5 days a week, runs 3 miles a day. I get told I’m skinny all the time. I like the body type that I have and have no mdesire to look like a Greek Adonis, nor will I ever let myself go. I have to keep my weight down so I can move around on the court. I’ll never be rock hard muscle at 250 lbs, but people keep telling me to put on more weight.

By kinderbabe

May 2, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

SJ exactly…i know what i said was not politically correct…especially for a woman but i’ll be gotdanged if i’m going over any igga’s house at midnight plus to take or get a hot anything unless it’s a hot piece of (you fill in the blank) lolololol. women need to stop playing these types of games. it’s so high school! and why did buddy have to use the lame azz “come over and watch a movie” line….state your intentions, it’ll save a lot of time. if that’s what he was up to…you know?

ladyj good for you giving up beef. i’m sure you’ll feel better. the meat has so much xtra stuff in it now. the less consumed, the better.:)

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 2, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

Dan sure buddy! Wait for it! LOL

For Real I would have to say Will Demps or Robert Griffith or Mike Rucker. I think I have a thing for NFL guys! LOL Now there are some NBA’ers that can get it to..Gilbert Arenas is one.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 2, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

Michelle

Yep! Can’t wait! Picking them up tomorrow morning around 10. :-D

By Michelle

May 2, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

Thanks Raqi cause it’s da truth!

By Angie

May 2, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

rob will you date a female who doesn’t work out? i hate to work out. but if he really really really wanted me to, i would.

By kinderbabe

May 2, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this

forreal i’m trying to think and no one really comes to mind….when a name pops up, i’ll be sure to post it. wait…um gabrielle union’s ex…darren something or the other, he plays football. now he’s fine!

cemeeli we went to a dairy farm.:) the kids had fun. we saw cows and goats. it was a good day to be out and about. oh and no one got left there…lol

By Michelle

May 2, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this

That’s great i’ll give them a call about 10:30 am or maybe y’all can stop by the house????

By Kym

May 2, 2008 11:29 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

Raqi I agree with the law about body types..everyone does not look the same(even twins) so what works for some will not work for others..it is what it is. You like what you like. My son loves Raven too..but I think he is going to have a thing for older women period. He also like Hannah Montana,Vaneesa Huggins(sp-the dark haired girl from HighSchool Musical) All three Cheetah girls and some little girl he saw at a volunteer project.

ThirdWheel Honey your problem may not be weight..but self. I dont mean self-esteem. I mean you may just not like yourself. Because I know my size has never, kept me from dating. EVER. I meet all kinds of men who like all kinds of women, short, tall, thick, thin…whateva. I have met men who told me all I check for is a pulse if she is breathing she can get it. But if you think bad about yourself, well then you are going to give off that vibe.

By MILFhunter

May 2, 2008 11:35 AM | Link to this

MILFs and COUGARS forever!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 2, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

Gol-Getter I work out at lunch and when I get off. In the morning I have egg whites with 3 pieces of turky bacon with green tea (no sugar). mid morning sanck is a banana. Lunch is usually a turkey with mozzorella cheese light mayo on wheat. Mid aftre noon snack is an apple or a berry fruit salad (strawberries, bluebrries & blackberries) dinner is lean meat (chicken or fish) with a veggie. more berry salad before bed. I do 30-35 minutes cardio during lunch then and hour when I get home and I weight train only 2 times a week because I do not want to gain weight. I have muscualr legs so I do lots of reps with mo more than 20 lbs of weight. Oh yeah I belly dance for 2 and a half hours on Saturday and Thursday. I used to ball room dance but I no longer have time for it.

ARED Thanks mama!

By mamalongleggs

May 2, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

Ladies, do you ever feel like men are only looking for women who weigh under 100 lbs.? I personally think 100 lbs is wafer thin but I do think guys are looking for women who are @ 160 lbs. I’ve asked a few of my male friends and all of them have said 160 lbs is an attractive weight on a woman especially when it’s in the right place like the boobs, butt and the hips.

Have any of you ever felt accosted from the opposite end — people accusing you of being too skinny? All the time, I am a small framed woman, I’m happy with my weight and I work hard to maintain my weight to height ratio. And even though I’m 143 lbs I’m still considered overweight by my nutrionist. Go figure!

* What’s your ideal body type when it comes to men?* Forget the six pack I want him to have an eight pack! Phycially fit is the way of life.

I posted earlier, it must’ve gotten lost in blogger outer space

By mytwocents

May 2, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

One great thing about this city is you can most definitely have your pick of a customized mate when it comes to height, weight, complexion, etc.

Sometimes ppl hear with a negative connotation where none was meant. Stace What are you allowing to dictate your guideline? I’ve never heard a guy call a girl ‘thick’ without admiration in his tone! True, some are in denial but it’s not always the case. I know I’m full figured and I also know I have curves. It really is possible! Clothes fit the hips, too loose at the waist, tops cut for flat chested mannequins or stocky football players… Headaches for all no matter what size when you’re shapely. And with so much variety on the market and no one size fits all mentality, just know: some dude is always gonna look at some girl as a tasty treat cuz regardless of her body type she’ll be just the type he likes. Plus, men will say they wanna try a big girl/tall girl/light skinned girl for fill in the blank reasons but it’s really just that they wanna hit… Whatever, we should all listen to Mary & Work What We Got!

Cee Hmmph, indeed! They fascinated w/ that brotha. He ain’t even the Head Butler in Charge, but shol was the highlight. P.S. Yesterday 7-11 so wrong, it’s right. They heard snickers, punishment —> Hotel.

SJ Whole scenario sounds like a recipe for disaster. We all ignore our warning signs too much.

By Raqi

May 2, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

ForReal I am not a football fan, but Jason Taylor. Tall. Tan. Tasty. He is a little bulkier than what I like but had I been given the chance I could have learned to work with it. LOL

By pisces 08

May 2, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this

@ARed you got mail.

@Beautiful… I’m back.

By AmazonRed

May 2, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

I haven’t seen those “thinspo videos” myself. But I am concerned.

My mother was very good at instilling a healthy self-esteem for her 3 daughters. We even took “self-esteem” dance classes. LOL.

I remember going thru puberty and being upset because I was too thin, or my nose and lips were too big, and having braces. My mother told me something then that changed the view of myself forever. Essentially she told me sooner I accept myself the way I am, flaws and all, the better off I’d be. No use crying over things you can’t change, so embrace it and make it work for you.

Life got so much easier and carefree for me after that.

By AmazonRed

May 2, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

Raqi - Jason Taylor…yes LAWD. That is a fine hunk-o-man.

By The Melo

May 2, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

staceye u not thick..u allright wit me!! ared thin is good too by my experience,there(thin girls) are deep dwn there..which is satisfying..u knw, u get swallowed whole…!! Cant linger long but i admire u all 4 blogging. Santoria cldnt get to u yestedy but saw ur luv and thoghts, much appreciated. mamaL stiLL luv me? Hey Truth..thnx for representing in my sabaticcal! good day all

By Raqi

May 2, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

Kym I agree 110%. Sometimes you have just keep your mouth shut and laugh to yourself but it amazes how some people are just misinformed.

One thing I am sure of if nothing else is not every man wants a Raqi. And I don’t now and have never fooled myself to believe differently. We all like what we like. And just because I don’t like what you like does not make my like less prized.

By anonymousella

May 2, 2008 11:55 AM | Link to this

Ladies, do you ever feel like men are only looking for women who weigh under 100 lbs.?

under 100? no. but certainly in the 125-145 range … depending on height. i def. got more attention at 140 than i do at 175 (i’m 5’7”).

mind you, i’m okay with my weight, although i wish my tummy would magically become flat and non jiggly, but i’m honest about the fact that if i were slimmer, i’d probably have a roster of dudes right now.

my ideal dude? talk and slim. i like a swimmer / former b-baller kind of build with manly soft muscles. min. height 5’11” swooning my FB fits the bill… now if he weren’t so trifling in other ways …

By Cemeeli

May 2, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

prdctve mtng & the they treat’n for lunch…yay!

kinderbabe was it Cagles Dairy? spkng of…i signed up to help the room parent as a field trip parent this yr. The class has only went to 3-4 trips this year :(. Is it the older they get, the less field trips? I’ve enjoyed doing it. They usually give me the rough-round boys group when we go on trps. Nah…no problems…they got left i go lft.

Parents Next week is Teacher’s Appreciation.

By Rob

May 2, 2008 11:57 AM | Link to this

Angie, sad to say, but I couldn’t date a woman that didn’t do SOMETHING to stay active. Even thin ladies that only diet have no tone to them and look like just mannaquins that hold their clothes up. It’s harsh, yes, but I need a woman that at least SHARES that lifestyle. I expect myself to do everything I can to keep myself attractive to my partner, whatever that may be (unless she gets off on fatties). It’s different lifestyles for different folks, but that’s just my take. Better health breeds better self image, breeds confidence, breeds sexuality and confidence. I include myself in that equation, too. If I just sit on my behind and say “Love me the way I am…even if I get FAT” shows little get up and go to me. In other words…laziness. But that’s just me.

By 2CPTG©

May 2, 2008 11:59 AM | Link to this

QC, you aiiight with me…..since Day 1, gal!!!

Cee……No random thought, yet, But I got this, Folks That are a trip to me:

Office Building Boppers! Those are the gals (sometimes dudes), who’re just happy to be in the psuedo-corp world, and you over hear them braggin to their firends about their job and stuff…I heard this one chick on the phone with somebody talkin bout, girl, I just got me a new Mercedes….yada, yada, yada…So I see her in the parking garage this morning….why this chic pushing one of them 20 year old Kool Moe D, Benz 190, 2.5 models…with 2 brand new, no-name tires on the front, a slightly used Cooper on left backside, and a bald headed Michelin on the other…while the sticker says she got it from Sylvan Autos!!! One of them Buy-Here-Pay-Here lots with the pawn shop interest rates……Lawd, my people!!!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 2, 2008 12:01 PM | Link to this

mytwocents I go on how I look in the mirror. I know a guy says thick with good intentions..but as I said having every girl who is fat calling herself that has turned into an ugly word for me just curvy voluptious. I the words were initially used to describe the hourglass figure but has been used and abused to the point of total insanity. Like I hard these really bug girls say that they wer curvy…but fat rolls do not count as curves! I do not think Monique is curvy, thick, voluptious, etc….I think she is fat. That booty is not round, it is wide and flat. If you got more gut than butt, ummmmm that is fat. So I think that is why I hate those words so much.

Raqi oh Lord how could I forget Jason Taylor? That is man ia fine..nice and big. OOH fan me!* I follwed his career on the Dolphins…although not fan of them…but of his…OH YES! LOL

By AmazonRed

May 2, 2008 12:02 PM | Link to this

If I just sit on my behind and say “Love me the way I am…even if I get FAT” shows little get up and go to me. In other words…laziness. But that’s just me.

Rob - You are certainly not alone. I have a few married guy friends that will state they WILL leave their wives (or have a huge problem) if they got fat. I always shake my head when they say this, HOWEVER, they are all gym rats themselves, so at least they are doing their part.

By AmazonRed

May 2, 2008 12:06 PM | Link to this

That booty is not round, it is wide and flat

Staceye - The trolls may get u today, but I did laugh at that sentence right there. LOL!

By Raqi

May 2, 2008 12:09 PM | Link to this

2Can 2 Words: Ghetto Fabulous.

By AmazonRed

May 2, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

I hate your black skin. I hate your black pants. I hate black pepper. I hate black keys on a piano. I hate my gums, because they’re black. I hate Whoopi Goldberg’s lips. I hate the back of Forrest Whittaker’s neck. Most of all, I hate that black-a* Wesley Snipes.

Staceye - Your 12:01 reminded me of this movie for some reason. LOL

By kinderbabe

May 2, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

cemeeli yes it was cagle! it was a long ride, about an hour.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 2, 2008 12:16 PM | Link to this

Melo Thanks papi.

2C you are so bad! LOL Leave that girl alone..she just happy to say she has a Benz…sh can call it vintage! LOL

ARED I got that vest ready as always girl! You know I speak my mind and do not bite my tongue. I do not make a fake monikers to do my dirty work for me! LOL If I say somehting then I I honestly feel it and mean it. So why hide from own opinions. They are just that, my opinions. Not everyone has to agree. Life will not stopd for me if they don’t! It’s funny I am readin ghtis book called Skinny B*tch…I swear I think they related to me somewhere down the line. I am blunt just as they are. LOL

By 2CPTG©

May 2, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

Raqi…..the funny thing was ol girl saw me shakin’ my head when I peeped her ride….sayin to myself, you braggin on that!

By The Truth

May 2, 2008 12:18 PM | Link to this

2C lmao. It would be sad if it weren’t true.

Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon. She must have tossed him up pretty good.

Does anyone read through the news and ask WTF? is going on? This stuff is getting crazy.

Sexy* Child of Houston, Brown reportedly slit wrists. It would have been better if she’d of slit here parents wrist. LOL

SJ that cop should get time for being wack if nothing else.

By Angie

May 2, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

rob gotcha! makes since to me. i’m getting a new membership this summer. drop my last one because of my studies. i know, i know. stop with the excuses. lol. will do.

By AmazonRed

May 2, 2008 12:23 PM | Link to this

Truth - I read that mess about Mariah and Nick. Demi and Ashton have changed up the game. Now we got dudes (even on the blog) singing the praises of the older women.

Let’s me know I can stay in the game much longer. LOL

By 2CPTG©

May 2, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this

“Does anyone read through the news and ask WTF? is going on? This stuff is getting crazy.”

hell yeah, like…..why is Barbara Walters just admitting her affair with the Senator….who gives a damn what church Obama goes to….all this “news” is dumb shyt!!!

By Michelle

May 2, 2008 12:25 PM | Link to this

Thanks 2cptg..you aight with me too Man

hey kinderB

By AmazonRed

May 2, 2008 12:25 PM | Link to this

Staceye - Your 12:16 is why you’re always good in my book, girlie! (And the whole Sagittarian thing too, lol)

I’ve heard good things about Skinny Bytch. I wanted to pick it up but isn’t it a diet book? LOL. Don’t need that. LOL

By Blow Me a.k.a Rookie Cookie

May 2, 2008 12:29 PM | Link to this

Good Morning all BLOW is in the BUILDING SNITCHES!!

I agree….Kym @ 11:29. I completely agree. It’s all in the way you keep yourself UP. Any woman at any size can be hot. Be it a 2 or 14. Honestly being and living in the south most women here are a 12 or 14. So I don’t see where is the enormous picks of 2’s or 4’s in ATLANTA. I think ppl have to expect and appreciate who they are. Yeah work it out and cut back. Trust me you will feel and eventually look better.

More importantly trying to snag the one. It’s gonna have to be more than your body! I have seen Ms. Hourglass get passed up and tossed up like spinach salad because she has NO BRAINS and sitting there wondering why she is just a JUMPOFF…LOL. Then I have seen women who have excellent mates and they are ALWAYS ghetto, bad body and getting the works. Put on pedestals by their men.

So Thirdwheel I don’t know what you are talking about. You better have you’re mind right if you want a THOROUGHBRED Man. Initially, attraction is the first thing but the connection and your mind decide if you are worth being wifed- in. I think women of all sizes can be very attractive….The slim chicks be rockin it….and the thick fluffy chicks too.. If you asked EVERY woman on this blog..PHYSICALLY what we would want our men to look like. Every one of us would have a different view. Ppl are like ice cream…everyone does not like the same flavor. I hate chocolate….but love strawberry!

Staceye You going hard on BG’s dang!

Ared I knew you were SILLY..Don’t be a menace. That is one of my favorite movies!!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 2, 2008 12:30 PM | Link to this

ARED You are a mess! LOL

And Yes Skinny B*tch is a diet book! LOL But it is funny as hell. They call you fat azz and lazy azz, etc! LOL

By Angie

May 2, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

according to dan, i’m avg. thanks dan! cheese. lol.

By SexyLeggs

May 2, 2008 12:35 PM | Link to this

Not both parents Truth, just the King of R&B = Bobby.

2C, I’m with you on that one. Why now? With a black man at that..who would da thunk it!

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

May 2, 2008 12:35 PM | Link to this

Hey Everybody! I am trying to speed read and cath up! Ya’ll got it jumping after the blog finally opened.

Hey Kinderbabe, Lady J and Cemeeli!

I am quite comfortable with self so I need a man that likes me as I am as well. If I had to change one thing….my arms. I could tone them up a lil! :0)

For Real my type of guys as far as looks (there are so many)Reggie Bush, Larenz Tate, Michael Ealy, Joe, Mike Vick, Carmelo Anthony, **Kenny Anderson, Byron Scott…I’ll stop there!!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 2, 2008 12:39 PM | Link to this

Blow Me I am not going hard on BG’s I just hate that word thick and I hate when it is used pertaining to me because to the misuse of it. Girl I fear being fat more than I fear getting cancer. It is THAT serious.

By mamalongleggs

May 2, 2008 12:40 PM | Link to this

@**Blow your on point with your 12:29 post.

By kinderbabe

May 2, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this

hey michelle and mo:)

By Lady J

May 2, 2008 12:43 PM | Link to this

Hey *Mo!!! Happy Friday!!!

By Blow Me a.k.a Rookie Cookie

May 2, 2008 12:44 PM | Link to this

Mo Yeah Michael Vick is fine…I like Carmelo too. He’s a cutie.

By AmazonRed

May 2, 2008 12:44 PM | Link to this

Blow - Good post. You kicked the door in today. LOL. I lost it in that movie after “black pepper.” LOL

Staceye - I just looked up Skinny Bytch on Amazon. Why does the back cover say [the authors] “may be be bytches, but they’re skinny bytches.” LMAO. I love it.

By Question for the MEN

May 2, 2008 12:44 PM | Link to this

If your wife gained weight after birthing a baby, etc., would you encourage her to lose by visiting the gym with her and both of you eating right or tell her she’s fat and better get back to the way she was or else?

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 2, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

Ared That is where I ordered from! LOL

By Angie

May 2, 2008 12:51 PM | Link to this

blow loved your post!!!

By Blow Me a.k.a Rookie Cookie

May 2, 2008 12:54 PM | Link to this

Ared Girl…yes. You are going to make me go home and put it on. Monday Morning I’ll be quoting the whole movie.

Mama See…I clown alot on here and talk MAJOR s**…mostly to Truth. But I have alot of SENSE…and not a DAMN fool. Alot of times I come here to cut up and blow steam. lmao!

Staceye I gotcha…you just don’t like what it has turned into.

By demi

May 2, 2008 12:58 PM | Link to this

Raqi I find Raven to be sexy as well.

I am overweight but I do not like other overweight men. Someone with a huge belly is a turn off.

WTH?!

ThirdWheel YOU’RE BACK!!! but negative as ever..lighten up

By Dan

May 2, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

@Question

I’ll offer to take her to the gym with me (some have people that’ll watch the kids). I’d subtly start eating different and ask that she does the same. Caveat- The preceeding was girlfriend/wifey/mother of my child status.

The woman that I just kicks it with: Hand her a jump rob and a diet bar and not say a word….

By mamalongleggs

May 2, 2008 1:08 PM | Link to this

Blow Keep on doing what you do girlie, since you never know what effect you may have on someone.

I enjoy reading the blog, it’s informative, combative, and comical.

By Sunshine

May 2, 2008 1:10 PM | Link to this

I personally believe that no GROWN man should weigh less than 190 lbs. I prefer men in the 200-220 lb range. I like them solid with good muscle tone! Mmmmm…lol:) I myself am a curvaceous, 5’9”, size 10. I LOVE my curves! I was a size 6 in college and at 5’9”, I was too SKINNY!

By Cemeeli

May 2, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

…meeting 1 over, waiting on #2…

Sylvan Autos!…2C you THUPID!!! My gf has been an executive for 15yrs in the corporate world and she JUST 2wks ago, purchased her E-Class. We are always telling ppl to just hold on & drive the paid for…we were both riding our paid for cars til they dont go anymore. I am a MISER to the end, forget that image mess.

Raven Simone has grown up to be such a lady…that’s how i know i’m getting older!

Hey Mo. Just got out of a budget meeting. Ready to start my Friday for real.

By Dan

May 2, 2008 1:15 PM | Link to this

Wait..wait..

Did Blow actually make a cogent and well thought argument. Did she show some tenderness and insight….?

I’m personally proud of you, for the post and apparently getting to work the register is what has put you on cloud nine, congrats! lol

By SlimOne

May 2, 2008 1:16 PM | Link to this

What chall tombout up in herr?

Slim sitting at her desk with her shuttershades on

By The Melo

May 2, 2008 1:18 PM | Link to this

@Question I wld tell her the truth,she is ur wife,dnt sugar coat,baby ur fat,u knw there are hot chics out there,ur hot when u slim dwn to ur regular body If she gets it and is teritorial like mine,she wl knw what that means or else my eyes start darting to the right and to the left!!. And when she loads up on bad stuff..chocos and piling up her plate with unhealthy stuff, with a coke on the side,tell her.

By Sunshine

May 2, 2008 1:19 PM | Link to this

I personally believe that no GROWN man should weigh less than 190 lbs! I prefer men in the 200-220 lb range. I like them solid with good muscle tone. Mmmmmm:) I myself am a curvaceous, 5’9”, size 10. I love my curves! In college, I was a size 5/6 and at 5’9”, I was too SKINNY!