Misadventures in Atlanta

By SlimOne

May 12, 2008 8:23 AM | Link to this

Morning All

By Unknown

May 12, 2008 8:31 AM | Link to this

The Truth

Can I ask you a question? Hi Slim!

By Teresa

May 12, 2008 8:31 AM | Link to this

Morning all

By SlimOne

May 12, 2008 8:33 AM | Link to this

Unknown Hi there to the person behind the curtain. lol

By Unknown

May 12, 2008 8:46 AM | Link to this

Slimone

What are you talking about? lol.

By QC

May 12, 2008 8:59 AM | Link to this

Morning everyone…i hope you all have a great Monday…

By AmazonRed

May 12, 2008 9:03 AM | Link to this

Happy Monday everyone. I hope everyone had a fabulous weekend. :-)

I think the whole “intimidation” argument was a blog hijack topic not too long ago. I’ve heard that “you might be intimidating” from guys as well, but I don’t take it to heart. Though I can understand why it may be tough to approach, I don’t use it as an excuse if a guy doesn’t chose to approach me. There are plenty of guys that DO approach to worry about the reasons why someone would not.

I figure, if he’s into you, he’ll step to you. Anything more is just over complicating things.

By 6'1 & Luvin it (Dayuumit Man)

May 12, 2008 9:05 AM | Link to this

Bella I hear that crock of shyt all the time. It pizzes me off. That is just a scaredy cat. Btw Good Morning good people.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 12, 2008 9:06 AM | Link to this

Morning, everyone and, on a side note, prayers to those who suffered damage or injury during the storms from over the weekend.

Simply put, yes, I think the “intimidation factor” is definitely real. I don’t speak from personal experience, nevertheless, I think there are men (and women) who let people get to them in that way simply because they’ve allowed themselves to develop a certain image of the person which is totally undeserved.

The fact is that we’re all just people. We’re all just finite human beings with frailties, faults and shortcomings, regardless of the physical stature, material wealth or social status we might convey. If more of us took the time to realize that about one another, the issue of an intimidation factor would be a lot less of an issue, because we’d be able see the person first from the inside and realize that from that vantage point, they’re just as imperfect as I am.

There’s not a woman on earth who has her ish so together that I should be intimidated by her. Not one.

By Cemeeli

May 12, 2008 9:07 AM | Link to this

Morning People!

QC thanks chica for the flowers (got it 2day).

I’m so cold, n sleepy.

BRB

By iknowitall

May 12, 2008 9:08 AM | Link to this

The “intimidation factor” is simply a myth. Created by rejected women, it provides a self deluding excuse when the man is just not into them.

By I am Legend

May 12, 2008 9:09 AM | Link to this

NO NO NO NO NO…NEVER SCARED TO APPROACH A WOMEN….ONLY THING SHE CAN SAY IS NO THINK YOU…and after watching the SNAPPED marathon this weekend..she might have done you a favor….the most interesting part about the show was the recurring theme of the psych of women….missing father figure, security, boredom, emotional affairs, jealous…all types of stuff..but alot of the stuff was eye opening and making sense…

By The Truth

May 12, 2008 9:09 AM | Link to this

Good morning e1.

On topic: I can’s see disgarding someone because they’re to intimidating. Something else is going on.

I reserve the right to take any dude saying he was intimidated by a chick out behind MLB hq’s and shooting him execution style.

Unknown feel free to ask me any questions you desire. Do you need to do it here or in private? atlred01@yahoo.com

Ared are you hip to See’s candy? My sis just got back from Cali sat morning and brought me some. That is some good candy.

By AmazonRed

May 12, 2008 9:14 AM | Link to this

Ared are you hip to See’s candy?

Truth - Sure am. My dad has been buying his wife and daughters candy from there for about 20 years.

Everyone raves about it. I’m kind of over it, but I do have a list of people I buy candy for everytime I go home. LOL

By QC

May 12, 2008 9:15 AM | Link to this

You’re welcome Cee-me-me

By Raqi

May 12, 2008 9:18 AM | Link to this

Being a skank-arse bytch or an egotistical jerk does not make you intimidating. It just makes you an unapproachable jackarse that folks would rather not be bothered with.

How can you sit there and talk to someone long enough to learn their life achievements then determine that they are too good for you? Is that all that you think of yourself?

I think that arrogance and a bytchy attitude are the biggest deterrents if anything. Some folks wear it so thick you can spot it from across the room.

By pisces 08

May 12, 2008 9:21 AM | Link to this

Morning All. I’ve heard about “The Intimidation Factor”. We are all people, with different experiences. The qualities listed above shouldn’t be a deterrent for a happy life.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 12, 2008 9:22 AM | Link to this

Morning, QC, Cemeeli.

Raqi “How can you sit there and talk to someone long enough to learn their life achievements then determine that they are too good for you? Is that all that you think of yourself?”

^5! My point exactly.

By Unknown

May 12, 2008 9:23 AM | Link to this

The Truth

If she comes only by oral, is that bad?

By The Truth

May 12, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

Ared My dad has been buying his wife and daughters candy from there for about 20 years. Odd you phrase it that way. You mean your mom and sisters right? And it’s a treat now that I can’t get it all the time. It was delicous. Same packaging, candies and all. It made me feel like a little kid again. LOL

Legend anything that gives a cat insight into a woman’s psyche is good viewing. It’s like wtf?????

By SlimOne

May 12, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

Yeah, i think we had this topic not too long ago. I’ll lurk for now until the blog sharks show up.

By Cemeeli

May 12, 2008 9:29 AM | Link to this

Is intimidating really a synonym for undesirable?

Truthfully, why would anyone want to be/seem intimidating if they are open to date/relationship. Being intimidating is an emotional “wall” that we want to uphold so not to seem “vunerable” to others. It is the that whole factor of being a ‘rejector’ before someone rejects you. When being a intimidator is common for an individual it is the risk of being pathetic.

By Cemeeli

May 12, 2008 9:32 AM | Link to this

Hi Darrell.

By AmazonRed

May 12, 2008 9:33 AM | Link to this

Odd you phrase it that way. You mean your mom and sisters right?

Truth Yeah. LOL. I just figured putting mom and sisters would leave me out. I actually have an unopened box of Sees in my closet from the last time my dad sent me treats.

By The Truth

May 12, 2008 9:35 AM | Link to this

Unknown in my eyes no. It’s a start, gives you something to work with. THe question is does she enjoy the part that isn’t “oral” or does she just endure?

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 12, 2008 9:35 AM | Link to this

Truth

A side note on See’s is that it’s one of Warren Buffet’s largest holdings for Berkshire Hathaway. (That ought to tell you something, right there.) For the most part, I think See’s is big mostly on the West coast and in the Northeast, but people order that stuff from all around the world.

By flabredtxraised

May 12, 2008 9:37 AM | Link to this

Morning blog, intimidation is a pretty strong word, the funniest thing I deal with when meeting *Superwoman (beautiful, she has her home paid for, great job, great personality) * is that all of the women here have a great deal to offer as well.

The man she craves is out there but he has so many options to choose from that if she cant weather the storm (juggling multiple women whether serious or not) I doubt if they can make it through there first initial meetings, which she might see as him being intimidated.

Yes, there are Supermen available but when he has so many options to choose from its hard meeting that Superwoman and committing to a serious relationship and jumping out of the Olympic size dating pool!

By BriteEyez

May 12, 2008 9:42 AM | Link to this

Good Morning all

I would agree that the “intimidations factor” is real for some. However, I would also agree with those that have stated that we are all just people. All flawed and imperfect in some way and if someone chooses to feel intimidated by another that is an indicator of one of that persons shortcomings.

By M.

May 12, 2008 9:45 AM | Link to this

@ Raqi

You have a very good point and I agree with you.

I think the intimidation factor somewhat exist, but as I was thinking this weekend, if someone is overly attractive, successful, etc. I just wonder what do they want, is it that they are always getting hit on that they just want a regular dating scenario?

I think it is also funny how the intimidation factor can go both ways…You can be a guy thats doing well in life but be intimidated by a woman with kids, divorced, bad credit, anything and the same goes for women also

By I am Legend

May 12, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

@truth…mayne i was like dayum…all were looking for love and found someone to give it…then because the security was there..the boredome set in and out comes the real person or let me say underdeveloped adult…and on the other hand you had women marrying up with crazy dudes and not leaving them….and then all the cheating an plots to kill said husband comes into play…just like wow..wow wow..specially the part about women getting bored once thye get what they want…WOW

By Cemeeli

May 12, 2008 9:49 AM | Link to this

Darrell since you asked…they are called Godiva Chocolate take it from one Go-“Diva” for those chocolate rocher’! Are you saying you’re up to replinishing?

By Unknown

May 12, 2008 9:50 AM | Link to this

The Truth

THe question is does she enjoy the part that isn’t “oral” or does she just endure?

I love making love, sex. It’s just difficult for me to come any other way. It gets there … and nothing. I’m not complaining about the way I can get there, it’s just that he feels like he hasn’t did his job well.

What can I tell him that will make him feel ok?

By Raqi

May 12, 2008 9:51 AM | Link to this

Darrell My husband and I were having a discussion on evening on a topic that WiseDiva did and it was pretty much on the same that is being discussed today. He said he found that most women that have that “I am intimidating” attitude were the ones who turned out to be not so great a catch. He said that was mostly due to that attitude being self injected. It is something that they label themselves rather than the world around them.

He said his dating motto was when a woman can come up with something that no other woman is capable of achieving then that will be a woman that he will not approach. But only for the reason of her cojones being as big or bigger than his.

By abc

May 12, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

“Maybe you’re too intimidating” is code for “maybe you’re too high maintenance”, “maybe your haughty/immature/self-centered attitude overcomes your positives”, etc. etc. A man doesn’t care about your job, your house, your car, your clothes, or lack thereof. Okay, maybe a man will notice your lack of clothes. If he thinks you’re pretty, it doesn’t necessarily have that much to do with your actual physical appearance, at least not in ways that women realize.

Now, I’ve known men who were afraid to approach women, but that’s not due to anything in particular about her. It’s because they’re afraid of being rejected, period, by anyone.

By SeanJohnson3000

May 12, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog..some men are intimidated by certain women…be it very successful women or very attractive women..and its about them having low self esteem and or lack of self confidence….some dudes feel some women are just out of their “league”..thats why your teens and early dating years set the tone….but on the flip side…some women think that they are just to fine or pretty for men to step to..but in reality they give off the vibes that they dont wont to be approach…some women dont know how display the kind of body language that tells men they single and a pringle..which is a sort of lack of confidence on their part in disquise…its a know fact pretty women have the lowest sefl esteem..

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 12, 2008 10:05 AM | Link to this

M “You can be a guy thats doing well in life but be intimidated by a woman with kids, divorced, bad credit, anything and the same goes for women also…”

Interesting point. As I think about it, I wouldn’t necessarily call it “intimidation” as much as I’d call it “hesistancy” over how she might respond to my raising certain concerns I might have relative to her and the areas you mentioned.

The fact of the matter is that even in the context of a relationship, a lot of women like to play “Little Miss Bad Azz” when it comes to their kids in that they “ain’t gon’ let NO man tell me how to raise my children!” It’s the same when it comes to finances. Her credit can be ripped to shreds, and yet, she’s defiant in that she won’t even consider changing her mindset about money, spending, saving, etc. (I actually counsel people, at times, about budgeting and personal finance, so the whole “money issue” would be a big one for me.)

Your point is also a good example of why it takes more than just love to make a successful relationship. You also have to be of like mind philosophically.

By Binford2K8

May 12, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

A lot of the time you have NO idea if the person at a random place is anything but an attractive woman in front of you.

Secondly, if the woman has a sour puss on her face and won’t at least make eye contact with me - it doesn’t make me want to go up and introduce myself. Unless you are a dude who loves the impossible challenge (which I am not), I’m not going up to a woman who seems disinterested where she is.

A lot of women think because they show up somewhere they are inviting suitors and that isn’t the case at all. You have to at least look inviting for a lot of guys to come up to you.

And as a new-age kind of guy, why can’t these girl walk up to men? Why is that never an option? Guys can take a look and a smile as a sign to approach a woman …really isn’t that complicated.

By QC

May 12, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

Sup Darrell

By Angie - Meet & Greet at Dugan's Friday

May 12, 2008 10:14 AM | Link to this

morning!

cee thanks for the support on friday! preciate cha.

By M.

May 12, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

@Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

Hesistancy is a better way to put it as you said. It’s like when you meet someone who is conceded or arrogant, then you talk to them and wonder what are they arrogant about? Material things, your looks, your ego, your degrees? Most people who are conceded/arrogant really dont have a reason to be if you think about it. So why are we intimidated? I would say fear of rejection.

By M.

May 12, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

@Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

Hesistancy is a better way to put it as you said. It’s like when you meet someone who is conceded or arrogant, then you talk to them and wonder what are they arrogant about? Material things, your looks, your ego, your degrees? Most people who are conceded/arrogant really dont have a reason to be if you think about it. So why are we intimidated? I would say fear of rejection.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 12, 2008 10:23 AM | Link to this

Raqi “He said that was mostly due to that attitude being self injected. It is something that they label themselves rather than the world around them.”

And your husband would be 100% correct in that assessment!

Kinda reminds me of a question I posed to the blog females last week on why it is that some women see it as a compliment to be deemed a “B!TCH”. Someone even went so far as to quote an acronym someone made up to say it stands for: Babe In Total Control of Herself. I was like, “WTH?!” Next thing you know someone will be saying “H-O-E” stands for a woman who is self-employed and, thus, has Her Own Enterprise.

smh

By M.

May 12, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

@Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

Hesistancy is a better way to put it as you said. It’s like when you meet someone who is conceded or arrogant, then you talk to them and wonder what are they arrogant about? Material things, your looks, your ego, your degrees? Most people who are conceded/arrogant really dont have a reason to be if you think about it. So why are we intimidated? I would say fear of rejection.

By Cemeeli

May 12, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

Beautiful - In all the busy dblhdr games and night out, I thought about you on Sat. w/The storms and all (God help those who loss)

Was Mom’s day & w/e a blessed 1?

By abc

May 12, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

As Binford says, any guy that’s attracted to you won’t take much encouragement to make the approach, a look and a smile is more than sufficient. If you want him to approach you and he likes what he sees, he will.

I’m not so sure about women approaching men though. While once upon a time I thought that was fine, I find it a turnoff these days.

By The Truth

May 12, 2008 10:28 AM | Link to this

Unknown you really can’t “tell” him anything. Its something he has to deal with. He’s processing it wrong in my eyes. I’d use that as bridge to get you off in other ways. The thing is there’s nothing wrong with you so don’t take his insecurity and make it yours. MY .02

I think to many cats try to strong arm the booty “before” they’ve figured out what makes that chick tick. Conquer the head and the body will follow.

SJ that self esteem thing is a bear. Probably the biggest problem out there today. Everything flows from your self esteem. It’s your filter on the world.

Ared * I actually have an unopened box of Sees in my closet from the last time my dad sent me treats.* Do you still live at 107 West Blog Drive? (The Truth now searching for his old black ski mask)

ABC If he thinks you’re pretty, it doesn’t necessarily have that much to do with your actual physical appearance, at least not in ways that women realize. Now you’ve said a mouthful there. Sometimes you just see a chick and have an immediate attraction to what and who she is. It has nothing to do with her hair, makeup, clothes, or anything else. It’s just her.

By mqew

May 12, 2008 10:36 AM | Link to this

Happy Monday to all!

I think intimidation factor is very real. I TRY and use it oft times when I can get a min at a sport’s bar and jus wanna chill… wit a stiff drink. I def keep all smiles to a min. I’m not available(though I don’t wear a wedding ring) but being at a bar lends some/most to think that ur fair game. Not true, so the stare at the tv/talk on the cell/reading Creative Loafing is going on… Sometimes it works… others… well, once i got a piece of paper wit the word “smile” on it followed by me looking up wit a duh dumazz on my face, didn’t even respond

HAPPY BELATED MOMMY’S DAY TO ALL :->

By Cemeeli

May 12, 2008 10:38 AM | Link to this

Where is everyone? …regulars & lurkers join in…

By Angie - Meet & Greet at Dugan's Friday

May 12, 2008 10:40 AM | Link to this

cee yes!!!, it was. my cell blew the h3ll up. lol. i felt so much luv. i received calls from guys i used to date. it was amazing.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 12, 2008 10:41 AM | Link to this

M “It’s like when you meet someone who is conceded or arrogant, then you talk to them and wonder what are they arrogant about?”

Exactly. And, when you think about it, the women who do come across that way base such an attitude on what you or I don’t have. It’s never about their own deficiencies because, in their warped way of thinking, they don’t have any. (Or, if they do, theirs aren’t nearly as bad as yours.)

Women like that always want to position themselves so that the man is the one who has to come up to their level, not the other way around. As far as I’m concerned, she and I are already at eye-level long before we ever meet face-to-face, because the same God that made her also made me. So, I should be intimidated why, again?

By SexyLeggs

May 12, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone.

Have to laugh at Truth & Unknown’s side conversation.

I’ve never met anyone that intimidated me. I’ve met some that scared the heeby jeebies out of me. I’m a people person and I’ll talk to anyone. Life is full of interesting people so whatever jitters I may initially feel I quickly squash.

By Cemeeli

May 12, 2008 10:52 AM | Link to this

mqew hey ma! happy belated moms day. Lil Frankenstein was he a sweetie for mommy?

Beautiful okay, keep that up. Remember what you said. Much luv was showen towards YOU. Now, settle down..it’s not summer yet. lol.

By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON

May 12, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Good Ppl

Blow now lighting incenses and listen to Goapele “Closer”

I am feeling great today. I hope for the same for everyone else.

On topic: Be you. PPl put on to many airs to cover up for their insecurities and short comings…So don’t believe the hype. Don’t be scared..if she does think she is all of that. She probably was put down early in life and trying to prove a point NOW with you. Most and alot of ppl are FOLLOWERS..they do not have the courage to be themselves and let the world deal with it. Again ..it goes back to INSECURITIES. Everyone has them…best thing to do is know how to mask yours and not let them show. Because that’s your krypotnite and ppl will play on that if they see you can be easily shooked.

Toughen up that skin ppl.

By I am Legend

May 12, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this

we got to do better people - Suge Knight K.T.F.O over the weekend….the end is near now..lol

By Unknown

May 12, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

Thanks The Truth! I love you. :)

19 Things Men Wish You Knew

We love you even more because you know we need to go out with the guys once in a while.

No, I don’t remember what he said next. Or she. Or anyone, for that matter. I’m a guy, not a tape recorder.

Anytime you cook for us, we’re happy.

You can pick the movie, but have a reason.

A woman who solves her own problem while we watch, instant erection.

Make us laugh and we’ll want to hang around you.

Being good in bed means 1) enthusiasm ( 2 a sense of humor (3 patience.

The first time? We’re as nervous as you are.

When you call us at work to chat, we’re not really listening; we’re checking our e-mail.

I just may lie to make you feel good. Don’t be angry about this. You really weren’t looking for the truth anyway.

When you get angry over some pointless stupid little thing, I question your intelligence.

Masturbation is merely practice for the big game.

We crave hugs and holding hands too. And no, it doesn’t always have to lead to sex.

You can have sex with us anytime you want.

Don’t be afraid to ditch the makeup. Natural is sexier.

Leave the eyebrows alone. Plucked ain’t pretty.

When the game is on, we’ll pay attention to you if you’re nice about it.

Shopping is a chore, not an activity.

When I screw up, go ahead and tell me – once.

By M.

May 12, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

@Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

True that. Funny you mention warped thinking because I think some women who have trouble in dating sometimes because they may think as you said that guys have to get on my level. Its like you may think you are the best looking woman out here to you because you never leave your 4 walls of your house, so you are the best looking woman to YOU but if you go out and see the competition, alot of women would be greatly humbled. Im not saying dont have confidence in yourself but dont go overboard.

By M.

May 12, 2008 11:03 AM | Link to this

@Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

True that. Funny you mention warped thinking because I think some women who have trouble in dating sometimes because they may think as you said that guys have to get on my level. Its like you may think you are the best looking woman out here to you because you never leave your 4 walls of your house, so you are the best looking woman to YOU but if you go out and see the competition, alot of women would be greatly humbled. Im not saying dont have confidence in yourself but dont go overboard.

By QC

May 12, 2008 11:04 AM | Link to this

I saw that on Mediatakeout.com about Suge Knight…yep, somebody tagged his a$$ serves him right…he’s a Rick Ross wanna be..

By SeanJohnson3000

May 12, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Off topic…the young chick on marta got locked up…..according to her sister and kid’s father..she is bi polar and wasnt on her meds…

By DreamsMaterialize

May 12, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

Morning Intimidation has nothing to do with the other person, but everything to do with YOU. No one can itimidate you unless you FEEL intimidated. If a chick intimidates you, it’s because YOU somehow feel inadequate.

By Cemeeli

May 12, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

Blue if you’re peeking. Remember that fight’n energy i had Friday. Why was there a real brawl-out at the baseball park Friday. It was big girl vs. lil sassy mouth mamma. Action right around the children/during game. I was shaking my head the whole time. The warmer it get, the more folks act a fool.

By mqew

May 12, 2008 11:09 AM | Link to this

Hey Ceemee We went ova grandma’s (I cooked a fantastico meal yeah I no it aint a word) and had fun we even forgot toys and he was manageable (sp?) The older he’s gettin… les jus say whew… it was a lil shaky. What’d you and your guy do?

Blow That song just went off Pandora.

By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON

May 12, 2008 11:11 AM | Link to this

SeanJohnson Where is the link to that story? Yeah that was really bizarre and crazy. Someone slepted with that and had a baby by her? She seems like she was drugged with some PCP in her younger days.

Legend Why is the end near? Cause suge knight got knocked out? When did he become a heavy weight champ? No the end is near when KIMBO gets knocked out. He is the beast!

By Cemeeli

May 12, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

Dreams i thought the stilts were not adjustable. come in here walking over the topic Good post!

mqew cooking…wow, you’re good. The lil guy treated me to some overcooked eggs, toast, lumpy smoothie and a ‘don’t bother’ day yesturday. I actually did more on Saturday than yesturday.

By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON

May 12, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

mquew Pandora? That’s the movie or Trios. That’s the joint though….That song makes you want to get high!! Just joking…I don’t do drugs…I have a nature high!!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 12, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this

M “I think some women who have trouble in dating sometimes because they may think as you said that guys have to get on my level.”

Yep. And the truth is that oftentimes even when a guy is seen as being “on their level”, it never stops there because more than likely there’ll be something else he’ll have to live up to down the road.

It’s as if the positive attributes you initially brought into the relationship (which you thought were a blessing to her), have now become a curse, because all of a sudden she’s wanting you to use attribute ‘a’, ‘b’, ‘c’ to become man ‘x’, ‘y’, ‘z’(influenced, in part, either by her girlfriends or some movie or talk show or reality show she’s into.)

Again, I’m speaking specifically of women who fall into that “self-injected” category that Raqi mentioned previously. I’m not generalizing by any means.

By SeanJohnson3000

May 12, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

@ Blow…it was on a site i cant access at work…but apparently her folk was on Lame-o Ryan Camerons show friday..and her kid’s father broke it down somewhat…and i feel sorry for her..on the train and walking to work from the train i encounter ALOT of young folks that are mentallly sick…and trust me…a third of the folks u work with are on prozac or paxil….KImbo got beat a few months ago…some white dude bussed him up…look it up on youtube..cant remember his name though…you get those dookie braids out? you prolly at work looking like mary mccloud bethune by the head at work

By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON

May 12, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this

Sj3000 Wow…yeah it’s alot of mildly retarded kids now a days. It’s sad. Yes I did get my braids out. Oh yeah thanks for the help. I am looking eazy breezy beautiful covergirl…My hair is blowing in the wind. It has gotten really long too. Another prop during our bang sessions aye?!?! yay!!! lmao!

By Angie - Meet & Greet at Dugan's Friday

May 12, 2008 11:33 AM | Link to this

i have met and are friends with a beautiful, talented and successful man. i was intimidated, but i didn’t let him see me sweat. even after several conversations with him, i still think he’s too good for me. but i won’t stop!

Ever let an amazing man pass though or walk out of your life without making your feelings known, simply because you were “intimidated?”

i will never ever let a man i’m feelin’ walk outta my life w/o letting him know that i would like to get to know him better. never! i’ve done this before, and it sucks.

By THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK

May 12, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

Most women with high post careers are not intimidating their just BEOTCHES.. Plain and simple.. They stand on the fact that they make X amount of dollars and I’m this, I’m that Blah blah blah.. Ladies Dudes dont care about how powerful you are at the office.. Just know how to turn it off when you get home and be a woman.. But again nowadays most women think they have a EGO so you know that situation goes…

By mqew

May 12, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

CeeMee All I wanted from my SO was a no bother day… didn’t happen. I guess he’s too young. It worked early in the day, but afta a while I just felt sorry for him so of course I helped out.

Blow/SJ I heard there peeps on v103 and couldn’t figure out wtw they were talking about. Blow the guy blamed the “State” saying that they don’t help her out. But the chic was sayin it ain’t that it’s she doesn’t want to take them because how they make her feel. Ryan’s response was why don’t they change the meds then.. thas when the guy was like, because it’s State assistance.

Pandora.com is a free music internet site.

By Brookyln

May 12, 2008 11:44 AM | Link to this

I’ve heard the comments from men that I can be intimidating and I think it is somewhat true because I can be pretty blunt and straightforward. Some men aren’t used to that but I can’t say I’ve ever been intimidated by a man…I like the thrill of the chase and a man that has it really goin’ on will be desirable to me…not make me run and hide. LOL. I also think it has something to do with how confident a person is, too. If you can get easily intimidated by a person that’s prob a measure of how you see yourself…

By THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK

May 12, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

By the way the most attractive chicks are the most insecure..

By The Truth

May 12, 2008 11:50 AM | Link to this

Blow Kimbo getting knocked out.

http://www.metacafe.com/watch/388745/kimbovsgannonfightkimbo_loses/

That cat has alot of fight tho. Even when he was exhausted he still kept coming.

Did anyone see the little kid threatening to kill bush. Articualte little guy but somewhere that kid lost it.

By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON

May 12, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

mqew Oh yeah…Pandora.com…is that like LIMEWIRE? I have to check that out.

By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON

May 12, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

mqew Thanks….for Pandora..I am liking it already. I had to crank that Goapele.

By Unknown

May 12, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

50 Things Women Wish Men Knew

By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON

May 12, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

Truth/SJ3000 Truth stop trying to sabotage me….That is not work friendly…ole girl had on thongs on that site.

That is a OLD fight. I seen this one last yr. To me he techinically did not get knocked out. They both were really tired. It was his strengthen that wore down. I want to a real KO blow. Not because he was gettin tired KO.

By SexyLeggs

May 12, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

ForReal, went back and read Friday’s blog. Thank you for the Mother’s Day gift (bubble over head saying “if only this wasn’t the blog”). My daughter wanted to take me to Red Lobster (her father gave her $$), but the wait was 40 mins long. So I went to the store and got some ribs, cabbage and made potatoe salad w/kook aid. It was a great day even though I had to cook for myself (LOL).

OK, on topic: I agree with all of you who says if you’re intimidated by anyone it’ss merely a testament as to how you see yourself. I’m intimidated by one person only = MAMA!

By Dr. Kym

May 12, 2008 11:59 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

Okay I have heard the intimidation thing before..but frankly I have never thought I intimidated a guy by what I have or didnt have.. . I may have over-expressed my opinions(putting it mildly) but that is because I am pretty passionate about what I believe. What I know now..is that my passion for a issue may not always match up with someone elses passion and that is ok.

As for the lady on Marta I watched the video on YouTube I can see now that she was mental ill..however the fact that she is going to Grady and cant get her meds adjusted is a crock. I would recommend her caregivers(and in her condition she needs them) should become more informed about different medications and treatments. Depending on how long she has been off her meds she may have to take a stronger dose in order to get her to required level but even on Medicaid she would have a assign psych(overloaded but assigned all the same) who if she sees regularly can help her adjust her meds. Sorry but Grady cant be the cause of all her troubles..some of it lies at the feet of her caregivers as well.

By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON

May 12, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

mqew I made a Goapele station….oh man. I am loving it..it added in Alicia Keys, Leela James, Jill Scott, Erykah Badu. It’s hot I like it.

By mqew

May 12, 2008 12:06 PM | Link to this

Unknown Booooo! Stop I say! I’m not readin that mess.

By AmazonRed

May 12, 2008 12:06 PM | Link to this

Kinda reminds me of a question I posed to the blog females last week on why it is that some women see it as a compliment to be deemed a “B!TCH”. Someone even went so far as to quote an acronym someone made up to say it stands for: Babe In Total Control of Herself. I was like, “WTH?!”

Lawd Darrell. Can you keep things in context please? It’s a book. A book. If the book had been entiled “Why men love women who are not basketcases” the sentiment of the BOOK would have been the same.

I don’t go around calling myself a “b!tch” no matter what the context. However, the DEEPER issue was to encourage women to become better at checking their emotions.

Those who can’t see the forest through the trees got caught up in the words instead of the action. Geesh.

Understand now?

By Angie - Meet & Greet at Dugan's Friday

May 12, 2008 12:10 PM | Link to this

whew i thought i was the only female who loved porn. lol.

By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON

May 12, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

Ared Silly Willy. Hey girlie how was your weekend?

Those who can’t see the forest through the trees got caught up in the words instead of the action. Geesh

By Kara

May 12, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

By the way the most attractive chicks are the most insecure, and ditto for dudes. Believe me

By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON

May 12, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

Angie I like it too. I have to be in that mood. Who is your favorite p star? male & female?

By Binford2K8

May 12, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

Unknown

Women love porn?

Uh, that’s the right side of the bell curve. Small percentage at best.

There’s one thing that men want women to know… BE DIRECT because we don’t pick up on hints!

By Chuck Lurker

May 12, 2008 12:16 PM | Link to this

Mental note to self, no Sagittarius women!

By AmazonRed

May 12, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

Hey Blow! My weekend was fabulous. I got out and did a lot of fun things, ate a lot of GOOD food and didn’t use a drop of my own gas. Works for me. LOL

How was yours? Did you do anything fun?

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 12, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

Amazon “Someone even went so far as to quote an acronym someone made up…”

Uh-oh. Here we go… shm

What is it about the word “quote” that you don’t understand? After all, that is what you did on Friday, right, quote something from a book? That’s exactly what I said in my post at 10:23 - that “someone” quoted something from a book - so what’s your problem? I neither inferred nor implied that it applied to you personally, so stand down alright?

By SexyLeggs

May 12, 2008 12:23 PM | Link to this

Love your list Unknown. The emotion behind I love it when you hug me from behind and whisper in my ear is intense.

I too like porn…I definitely learned something from Superhead’s video (and no, it’s not the obvious).

By Angie - Meet & Greet at Dugan's Friday

May 12, 2008 12:23 PM | Link to this

blow sup girlie?

heather hunter is the freakin’ bomb! lol.

By Tiffany

May 12, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this

Hold up Darrell & Amazon let me get my popcorn first. LOL

By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON

May 12, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this

Ared Were you here? I hate I did not get to go to Sweet Auburn fest. I did not do anything but take out my braids. That took all of Saturday….Sunday was mommy and grandma time. Partying and you did not spend any gas…that was a great weekend.

By 2CPTG©

May 12, 2008 12:25 PM | Link to this

I ain’t no hater, but T.I., damn that shyt you were talkin’ last night!

By The Truth

May 12, 2008 12:26 PM | Link to this

Binford that’s not true. Alot of chicks enjoy porn. They just have to feel comfy with a guy. Prolly most enjoy the light/girl porn but do just the same. There are alot of dudes that don’t like it too. They don’t want their girl to know there’s a cat out there with a johnson that large. LOL

By mqew

May 12, 2008 12:27 PM | Link to this

Blow Glad I could help! Actually, I heard about it here.. I think it was QC. Laurann is on now

Kara So true.

Hey Ared when I read Darrell I was thinking that he’s the one usually advising people to keep what he says in context…

By SexyLeggs

May 12, 2008 12:27 PM | Link to this

Chuck Lurker, why the ban on Sag. women???

By SlimOne

May 12, 2008 12:27 PM | Link to this

I shot a gun for the first time this weekend. Went to a free gun safety class. I was Soooo nervous beforehand but after attending the class and actually getting over the fear after shooting, i’m ready to make going to the range a monthly event. lol

Slim now wondering if background check will come back null and void…haven’t gotten arrested but there was that one time in band camp….

By AmazonRed

May 12, 2008 12:27 PM | Link to this

Darrell - “Problem?” Boy please. My point was to keep it in CONTEXT. So there was no need for you to go “WTH!” if you understood the sentiment. Clearly you did not because you wouldn’t have used such an example to make your point.

By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON

May 12, 2008 12:30 PM | Link to this

TRUTH Are you intimidated by LARGE johnson’s? Wow…

Angie Angie I like it too. I have to be in that mood. Who is your favorite p star? male & female?

By AmazonRed

May 12, 2008 12:31 PM | Link to this

Blow* - I was here and the weather was nice. I’m looking forward to the next couple of weekends because I’ll be here in the city. No partying actually, more like some quality time! LOL I debated Sweet Auburn, but went last year and probably don’t need to go again for a couple more! LOL

So how does your hair look now?

LOL @ Tiffany. No beef, just hate to see folks twist the point.

By QC

May 12, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

Which Dugans Angie?

By SexyLeggs

May 12, 2008 12:34 PM | Link to this

Tiffany, you have enough popcorn for me????

By SeanJohnson3000

May 12, 2008 12:39 PM | Link to this

@ Truth & Binkford….in fact…since the topic is intimdation….the average man would be intimdated from the real sxual nature of the average woman..what she is into …what she is willing to try….her limits and her appetite…women sand bag all the time

By The Truth

May 12, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this

2C what was he talking about last night?

Slimmy where was the class? Did you say free? Isn’t shooting some fun shyt? You know with the new gun laws you’ll be able to carry your gun into restaurants, parks, marta. What gun did you shoot? 22, 9mm, 45

Darrell/Ared can you 2 start calling the other out of their name? I need some good entertainment. LOL Also, a blog slap would be cool.

Blow comprehension is a great skill to have.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 12, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this

Good Day all

Kara..I have met some very good loking men but they seem to be dogs…not insecure…so I thought. I came to the realization that they need validation to assure themselves that they are hot, so they bait and play and many women as possible to feed their little egos.

Question: So because I hate to be stared at…does that make me insecure? Ok, when I am performing, I love it. It’s like I’m a different person. But when I am just wlaking and linding my own business, I feel weird and I want to hide. So,I just want to know what makes a guy call a woman insecure.

By Angie - Meet & Greet at Dugan's Friday

May 12, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this

QC you know, i really don’t know. the one that everyone goes to. i was gonna find out later in the week. my last day in the south is on the 30th. wanted to see what all the rukus was about. if no one shows up, i’m just gonna chill and have some fun!

kp i see you!

By Tiffany

May 12, 2008 12:44 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs Yep. LOL

Amazon you keep me laughing!!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 12, 2008 12:44 PM | Link to this

Amazon

What point was there to “twist” to begin with? I could see if your panties were in a wad because I’d attributed the quote to YOU, but I didn’t, so, again I ask, what is your beef? I mean, it’s not like I said, “Amazon came up with some crazy-azz acronym about…” (Not that I’d put it past you, but that’s not the CONTEXT in which I made the comment.)

You give yourself way too much credit. Sure, that acronym was stupid as hell, even for an author, but I never said it came from you nor did I say it applied to you. From where I sit, you’re the one taking all this out of context, because the only reason I brought it up at all was in contrast to an earlier comment made by M.

M did you get the point I was trying to make? *(Besides, it was you I was speaking to anyway, now Amazon comes in here like a cowboy bustin’ through a pair of saloon doors talkin’ bout “Who dat in here said I said dis about dat?!”

Good grief!

By mqew

May 12, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

Slim LOL at one time in band camp

Ared I read some of Friday’s blog. Did you ever find more sushi joints? Jus let me know if you need more… Self appointed Queen of Sushi

By Sunshine

May 12, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK

By the way the most attractive chicks are the most insecure..

I wouldn’t say that we are insecure per se…I just think that we tend to put a lot more stock into our physical appearance because its something that’s so noticable to others. A woman who’s known for her beauty will strive to maintain it at all costs.

By Lady J SPR2K81922

May 12, 2008 12:50 PM | Link to this

Hey good folks!!!

By Tiffany

May 12, 2008 12:58 PM | Link to this

Amazon I think Darrell is challenging you to a match. Get’em girl. LOL

Truth LOL

By Kym

May 12, 2008 12:58 PM | Link to this

DK I agree with the insecure beauty part. When a person is known for only how pretty they are then they become hyper sensitive to protecting that beauty..to the point they cant really see themselves any other way and get offended if others dont see them that way. Those who are insecure be it about looks, intelligence, etc.(including myself at times) look for validation from the rest of the world rather than accepting ourselves as is.

By SlimOne

May 12, 2008 1:00 PM | Link to this

Truth It was held at Newton Co Sheriff’s Dept. They have this class twice a year. I rocked at 38 special(revolver). We got to keep our targets too. I was thinking about using it to put on my dash as a sunvisor for my car whenever I’m out. LOL! It seems the permit doesnt really give you much more allowances than not having one but the judge said the laws are ever-changing. I guess if something goes down, it’ll be best to have had a permit than not.

By AmazonRed

May 12, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

Darrell - To refresh your selective memory. I suggested the book to another blogger and other folks got their panties in a bunch because “b!tch” was in the title. Then you asked the question why the term was a “compliment” and got crickets cuz no one was saying all of that. So since NO ONE was talking about it being a compliment, your entire 10:23 was moot. So no one “went so far as to” do ANYTHING.

Give myself too much credit? For clearing up something attributed to me? I didn’t say I made the acronym up, but I DID suggest the book and you’re up in here using that suggestion to make your irrelevant point.

To futher clarify…there is no “beef,” no “problem,” and I’m not in here trying to “cowboy up” (dramatic much?) Good grief.

So why the acronym? To sell books! Trust me, had she used some other word we wouldn’t be having this discussion right now. Sounds like marketing savvy to me.

By Cemeeli

May 12, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

Lunch was SALTY!

What up LadyJ?

By AmazonRed

May 12, 2008 1:05 PM | Link to this

Hey Ared when I read Darrell I was thinking that he’s the one usually advising people to keep what he says in context

mqew - Funny how that works huh? LOL! Tell me your good sushi spots! Have you been to Thrive? That’s where my date wanted to go but I wanted a japanese steakhouse so that is where went (they had sushi). WiseDiva emailed me some places on Friday so I have a list going.

Amazon you keep me laughing!!

Well Tiffany at the end of the day that’s the plan. ;-) Glad you gotten a chuckle.

By Cemeeli

May 12, 2008 1:08 PM | Link to this

Hello Mr. 2C. I read something this w/e that reminded me of your ratio post from Friday.

@Truth…you have any key lime truffles over there? I’m running on a low insulin tank right now

By Tiffany

May 12, 2008 1:10 PM | Link to this

Amazon

I know lady,it no more than a debate to me. The comments come across funny as hell, people be reading like they are coming through the monitor at one another. FAS.

By Lady J

May 12, 2008 1:11 PM | Link to this

Hey CeeCee, I am stll laughing about your shower girl!!! LOL

By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON

May 12, 2008 1:12 PM | Link to this

Truth So I take that as a yes. Don’t be intimidated..try to do you. lol

By 2CPTG©

May 12, 2008 1:14 PM | Link to this

Hey, Cee…….care to share?

Truth, in reference to T.I., he wasn’t hittin’ on shyt in my book….’cept sayin only what he was supposed to say, in light of the situation….

By AmazonRed

May 12, 2008 1:18 PM | Link to this

I know lady,it no more than a debate to me. The comments come across funny as hell, people be reading like they are coming through the monitor at one another. FAS.

Tiffany - I know right? You should have been here the day the trolls were talking about slapping people and putting a cap in someone’s azz for their comments. I mean, really? LOL.

Hope to see you contribute more here on the blog. :-)

By QC

May 12, 2008 1:18 PM | Link to this

Angie you’re leaving???? why, where you going? :(

By Kym