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When his best friend is Jose…Cuervo
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
One night I met a guy, who was a friend of a friend, as a group of us were going out to a bar together. He was refreshingly conversational and had graduated from my alma mater, which gave us loads to talk about as my friend skipped off with her boyfriend. There was definitely some flirting going on, and I found myself wondering why I hadn’t met him before.
But as the night wore on, his eloquent conversation skills and charm were dwarfed by his need to drink…and drink…and drink. By the end of the night, this guy was sloshed, boring, and no longer the articulate, intelligent man I had met only a few hours earlier.
Now, it would have been one thing if I had been matching this guy, drink for drink, on my way to becoming an uninhibited wreck. But I only had one drink that night and gave no indication that this was going to be a group hammering.
The impression I got from him was not that this was an isolated event, but rather the way he conducted himself every time he went to a bar. It was unfortunate, because up until then this guy had a lot of potential, but who wants to date an alcoholic? Especially if you know this information up front, and that you would never be able to take him anywhere alcohol was served.
Have you ever imbibed a little too much while on a date or when you first met someone? What were the consequences of your choices? Do you ever feel like your first impression on someone was tainted by a poor, isolated decision you made when you met them?
Have you ever gone out with or met someone who got drunk on your first encounter (without your participation)? What about someone who became a completely different person when they drank? How did you handle it? For those of you who have been in relationships with alcoholics, your expert testimony is valuable today!
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By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)
May 13, 2008 8:06 AM | Link to this
Morning, all. :-)
I don’t drink (never have) and will not date a woman who does. The same applies to smoking. I’ve never smoked and will not date a woman who does.
By SlimOne
May 13, 2008 8:12 AM | Link to this
Morning All Thinking about Jose Cuervo this early in the morning makes my head hurt. lol
I can’t say I recall right now meeting a dude for the first time and seeing his drunken progression. I also can’t recall meeting someone when I was doing the wobble wobble, that wasn’t drinking with me. However, in my experimental days…me and another individual met for the first time and were wayyyy too wasted. I probably set a world record for calling on earl that night and the next day. Blech!
By Angie aka Benched
May 13, 2008 8:20 AM | Link to this
i don’t drink unfortunately, but would love to make love drunk at least once! i heard it makes it better. is this true?
blow did you see my answer from yesterday?
By Lady J
May 13, 2008 8:24 AM | Link to this
Morning Everyone,
I haven’t met this dude yet and hope not too…I had my days of drinking to much and that is not apart of me anymore and hopefully I won’t attract that…It is nothing wrong with social drinking or occasion drinking but drinking to get wasted and early on is not a great start and in my opinion men can get away with this more than women…It is not attractive at all…J
By 6'1 & Luvin it (Dayuumit Man)
May 13, 2008 8:30 AM | Link to this
Good morning, Good people! Bella this happened to me once. I met this guy who had great potential and while we were out at his brother’s party which was like our second date, he got Slizzard. He was so drunk that he ended up fighting and getting kicked out of the club. I thought this was a one time incident until we went on a lunch date one day when I was fortunate enough to have half days and after lunch he stopped at a gas station and got a 6 pack of Bud. I was like wtf smh! Dayuumit man!
By SlimOne
May 13, 2008 8:31 AM | Link to this
Angie I think if a person does partake of some adult spirits, that you should experience, at least once, some drunk sloppy freaky deaky lovin’…I’ll tell you one thing, that’s some good sleepin afterwards. I guess folks would say it’s better only because you are a little less guarded when you’re buzzed. So those normal little uh, uh, uh’s…will probably be more like, “Is that all you got captain! Mama bout to bring this ship home tonight! Woo hoo hoo…you betta not drop dat anchor, YOU BETTA NOT….” ok i think you get the picture….
Slim now sneaking in co-workers desk for a baby wipe
By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)
May 13, 2008 8:32 AM | Link to this
Hey, Angie. :-)
I can’t speak from experience, but I’m thinking that if you’re drunk, how would you even know how good the sex was? LOL! From what I’ve heard, a drunk person can barely remember their own name when they sober up, not to mention what might have happened the night before. Matter of fact, I’ll bet some bruthas be lying their azzes off about how they “put it DOWN last night, shawty!”. LOL!
By kinderbabe
May 13, 2008 8:42 AM | Link to this
good morning, all! hope that this tuesday morning is progressing fabulously for everyone.:)
i have had the experience of dating someone who drank too much. it’s funny b/c when we were friends and not romantically involved, i didn’t notice how much he drank. once we began to date, i noticed how 3 or 4 beers was never enough…in the afternoon it was a six pack, later that night another…six pack. he drank beers and liquor like water and never appeared to be stumbling drunk. this let me know that his tolerance was high and developed over time. he is definitely an alcoholic. that was 3 years ago, i’m hoping that by now he has gotten the help he needs.
By Angie aka Benched
May 13, 2008 8:44 AM | Link to this
slim so what i heard was true! dayum! i can always hold my nose as i gulp it down. lol.
bigd sup babe? i don’t think i mean that drunk. alittle tipsy, feelin’ good type of drunk.
the screaming orgasm, i heard it makes you horny as a mutha! 2c where you at! lol.
By QC
May 13, 2008 8:54 AM | Link to this
Morning Bloggers, hey kinderB, Angie, Slim, Darrell, 6”1, lurkers, erry’body
I hope you all have a wonderful, fantastic, successful day
Morning BK ;)
By SlimOne
May 13, 2008 8:57 AM | Link to this
Angie If you don’t like to drink then don’t. All alcohol doesn’t taste like turpentine, why not start off with some coolers or a strawberry daiquiri..something with a more fruity taste. But i’ll forewarn you..those sweet/fruity drinks can catch up with you quick if it taste too smooth. Next thing you’ll know you’ll be doing a Coyote Ugly on the salad bar at Ci Ci’s Pizza and I don’t even think they sell likka up in that camp. lol
By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)
May 13, 2008 9:02 AM | Link to this
Morning, QC. Already on the first of my 5 meetings today, so it’s business as usual over here. :-)
By SlimOne
May 13, 2008 9:10 AM | Link to this
QC what up chica.
By Raqi
May 13, 2008 9:12 AM | Link to this
LOL Darrell I was thinking the same thing. I don’t know about good sex while drunk but I can imagine it could forgotten sex.
Now a glass of wine or something to relax before hand is something totally different.
I never dated anyone that got sloppy drunk but I was always weary of the ones who I witnessed consuming 3 or more glasses of whatever alcoholic beverage it was.
Especially when I was a passenger in their car. But that’s a topic for another day because I am M.A.D.D.
By AmazonRed
May 13, 2008 9:13 AM | Link to this
Whoo hoo! Drunkin slut stories today. getting popcorn ready LOL.
Morning all.
By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON
May 13, 2008 9:19 AM | Link to this
Good Morning All
shots of 1800 for all, LET’S GET LOOSE!!
On topic: What a great topic. I come from a family of occasional drinkers. My grandmother had a 4ft tall bartenders bottle of Hennessy with a pump. And she KEPTED it full. Til this day I have never SEEN any bar even carry a hennessy bottle that big. So drinking is in my blood. Eventhough, my dad’s family were casual drinkers…there were no alcoholics. I learned at an early age I had a high tolerance for liquor. As I got older I started to monitor my intakes. I got enough of being the center of attention when I was village drunk. Boy, those were the days. I learned that drunk women were not sexy women. At least not in public. But for a guy to not know how to control his liquor is a major TURN off. Wait til we fully know each other before you get stupid intoxicated. But I could not date a alcoholic..not someone who depends and needs liquor to function. Or any other drug for that matter…yeah even W33D. It slows down the ambition and motivation too much for me.
Darrell- Remember- A drunken body speaks a sober mind.
Angie- No I did not see them yesterday
To All What kind of drunk are you? Lover, fighter, emotional, crying, hurling, sleepy Drunk
Slimone Those are best times. You guard is completely let down. A full blown p-star! Lol!
By AmazonRed
May 13, 2008 9:19 AM | Link to this
i don’t drink unfortunately, but would love to make love drunk at least once! i heard it makes it better. is this true?
Angie - If you’re sloppy drunk you probably wont remember the next morning.
However, I do know that if you’ve had a couple to give you a nice “buzz,” it can be cool! Some folks get horny when they are drunk, so there are heightened sensations to “areas.” In addition, your muscles are relaxed in other areas making you way more flexible than you’d normally be (image why folks who are drunk get tattoos, you feel less pain. Well, until the next day). LOL
By THE MELO
May 13, 2008 9:19 AM | Link to this
Hey yall,miss u!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
By SexyLeggs
May 13, 2008 9:20 AM | Link to this
Good morning.
By QC
May 13, 2008 9:20 AM | Link to this
5 meetings? hope you’ve had your cheerios…
hey Raqi
By Cemeeli
May 13, 2008 9:20 AM | Link to this
Lol @ 6’1’s story.
kinderteach You were dating a “functioning alcoholic”!
Good morning everyone!
By 6'1 & Luvin it (Dayuumit Man)
May 13, 2008 9:21 AM | Link to this
On my twenty sixth b-day, I had a party at Magic City. I got so slizzard I had alcohol poisoning. I promised myself that I would never drink again after that. I had people talking about my party and the things that I did for a year after that. Till this day people still ask me when am I going to do it like that again.
By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON
May 13, 2008 9:21 AM | Link to this
ARED
Whoo hoo! Drunkin slut stories today.
Get cho a* right now it da got damn corna!! Don’t move til I tell you too!! lmaoooooooooooo!!! Crazy A$$!!!
By The Truth
May 13, 2008 9:24 AM | Link to this
Good morning everyone.
On topic: I have known women that are walking drunks. Not cool.
On sex while drunk, the one time I did it I blew a flat and dam near thru up on the chick. BTW, I was like 20 and a walking hard-on. Not pretty.
Like Raqi said, a drink or 2 is nice then get down to business. Any more than that and you’ll wake up with your face in somebddies azz. And you may not know who they are. LOL
Similac/Kym I’ve been saved. This audio version is real nice. It’s actually Tolle reading the book word for word to you. I’ll be done by the end of the week. LMAO
By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)
May 13, 2008 9:25 AM | Link to this
Blow “Remember- A drunken body speaks a sober mind.”
Huh?
By Raqi
May 13, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this
Hey QC. How are you?
By QC
May 13, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this
What up Melo hey Cee-me-me If i were too ever get drunk, i would probably be an Emotional Drunk cause i’m so damn sensitive about everything/body…i’d cry myself to sleep with a bottle in my hand, lol
By 6'1 & Luvin it (Partying like a porn*)
May 13, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this
Those are best times. You guard is completely let down. A full blown p-star! Lol! I agree with you TOTALLY DUDETTE
By Binford2K8
May 13, 2008 9:29 AM | Link to this
Nothing says it’s over then the potential Mrs. Binford2K on the second date on all fours chuckin’ up on the grass. She was cute until then …really.
Getting drunk early on just shows a lack of responsibility as well as a lack of respect for the person you are with (and yourself).
I’m not inclined to stay with that when the relationship is brand new, but after a while I could forgive a night of a little excess.
By I am Legend
May 13, 2008 9:30 AM | Link to this
dayum this post reads like me a couple of years back…and er now and then when D-ONE come out i will be this guy….never knew that it was viewed like this on the other end…i have been told that it could be percieved that way but never in print….I WAS THIS GUY!!!!….now i am boring…lol…
By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)
May 13, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this
QC
Trust me - 5 meetings is a good day. I usually have 7-9 meetings scheduled, so I ain’t complaining. :-)
By kinderbabe
May 13, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this
cemeeli yep, pretty much…he went to work everyday when i knew him…and had the nerve to work out! how does drinking and working out mix?
By Angie aka Benched
May 13, 2008 9:32 AM | Link to this
ared see my 8:44a.
blow my fav p star is heather hunter.
morning QC!
By M.
May 13, 2008 9:37 AM | Link to this
First, how does the blog define alcholic? I personally think if you wake up in the morning and make drinks or drink everyday when there is no reason or event to drink, then you may be an alcoholic.
Ill admit..My biggest issue was with drink specials. Atlanta dosent really have happy hour i.e., drink specials like Dallas, Miami, Chicago, New York, so when I come across one in Atlanta….It may get ugly but I learned to pace myself. This girl from college lived with my friend for a month, gorgeous girl, actually an AKA from Houston, but we had no idea she was an alcoholic…She was up blending grey goose smoothies at like 7:30 AM….LOL
@SlimOne
wobble wobble lol
By QC
May 13, 2008 9:37 AM | Link to this
I’m good Raqi how are you?
Hey Sir Truth
By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON
May 13, 2008 9:38 AM | Link to this
Darrell Something told me you would not get that…lol!! Google it!
Angie You like the old school ones. I thought you would say that sexy Mr. Marcus…with the chunked out hilshire! lol.
By 6'1 & Luvin it (Partying like a porn*)
May 13, 2008 9:39 AM | Link to this
I had this one friend that I ended up going to college with, her mother grew up with mines so we kinda move around together, she is the most hilarious emotional drunk that you ever seen. In fact when we use to go out I would buy her drinks so she could get drunk because it would be so funny. One time I almost wrecked because she had me laughing so hard that tears were in my eyes and I couldn’t see while I was driving. She get drunk and apologizes for stealing your pencil in the first grade. She cries and everything. One night she called everybody in her phone apologizing for shyt they didn’t even know she had done. I was crying laughing.
By SlimOne
May 13, 2008 9:39 AM | Link to this
Blow I’m a happy social drunk. But I’m not really into getting drunk these days because as you get older, your recovery time get’s longer.
6’1” When I was in school it was funny to hear about all the crazy shyt you did or said from friends the next day…but now..not so much. I’m just glad I never experienced throwing up in my sleep as my college roomie did. Ewwwww.
Truth You got me ROTFLMAO at you already. a drink or 2 is nice then get down to business. Any more than that and you’ll wake up with your face in somebddies azz. And you may not know who they are.
By Cemeeli
May 13, 2008 9:39 AM | Link to this
he went to work everyday when i knew him…and had the nerve to work out! how does drinking and working out mix?
kinderteach Do you still have his number? just sayin’
Truth shut that up!…while i’m over here trying to cipher through I did check that site…i just might. I plug the earbuds in here @ work/gym often enough to go with it.
You got $7.49?
QC…head nod
By AmazonRed
May 13, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this
Angie - See my 9:19. I can still answer even if you’ve gotten an answer.
By I am Legend
May 13, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this
Drunk story
I remember one time i was dating this extremely attractive female…in my SIMP mind she was all that so i stuck her arse on a high..well one day i told her to meet me at dugans downtown…i had to work a lil late so she was out there by herself for a minute..so i expected to walk in and have to debo my attention back from the hounds at that bar…when i get there she is sitting alone..waiting on me..so ya know my ego was like cheaaaaaa….moving on we get slobby drunk and my teenage mind started to take over — like i am going to lay her pretty hair down tonight…on the way home we stop for some of that ga dome…i was asking for it..she said cool…so when i stop i said — i am going over to the woods and pee…she said good because i have to go as well….so i am thinking ok hold until we get up the block…no this nut comes in the wooded area with me squats and p**…i am looking like dayum thats alot of water coming out of you…i am also thinking…)so i am suppose to want to hit that now…she says do you have a condom we can do it right here…..lol…we did not do she started crying getting all emotional on me…so i followed her home, then i went home…drunk all by myself!
By SlimOne
May 13, 2008 9:51 AM | Link to this
M. (said in the voice of Homer Simpson) Mmmmm, grey goose smoothies. lol
BTW, You know you’re an alcoholic when you drink coffee out of a flask.
By SexyLeggs
May 13, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this
I’ve been drunk before and I’ve done some crazy shyt behind liquor. Sometimes you just have to learn lessons of life the hard way. Then, you know not to repeat it.
By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON
May 13, 2008 9:56 AM | Link to this
* I am legend* So she should want to hit that after you pi$$, but you can’t hit it after she pi$$es..I don’t get it.
By I am Legend
May 13, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this
@Slim..i am with you..my recover time is not what it use to be
When i get drunk i think of off the wall ish to do…like i will get in moods for certain things…so if i go to the club i may want to only talk to thick chicks or petite..or i may only want to talk with the non-black women in the clubs….lol…or i will only eat celery..things like that…i am also the happy drunk..on that white…get ready for comedy central…because i am quick of wit at those times..i dont drink dark..for some reason it gets me in an overly hyper aggressive mode…like when i first moved here i did not have a car…and coming out of the military i was use to running..so i would drink be drunk and get up and run up to the KFC for some dinner and run back…my friends would laugh like dude your crazy..how you going to be drunk and high and want to run somewhere..but i did it everyday…lol…or i would start cleaning and or recleaning stuff i did the previous day..i cant keep still when i am drinking…lol,…i have been know to bust into a one man electric slide line…to anytype of music!!!
By AmazonRed
May 13, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this
So she should want to hit that after you pi$$, but you can’t hit it after she pi$$es..I don’t get it.
LMAO!!! Blow I mean, I know that they don’t have wipes in the woods, but maybe you have some Kleenex in the car or something. LOL
By SexyLeggs
May 13, 2008 10:07 AM | Link to this
Thank you Blow, I was thinking the exact same thing!
By kinderbabe
May 13, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this
cemeeli nope, we dated for a couple of months (very brief) and the friendship went downhill from there once i had a closer look at his drinking habits. we’re not at the same gym anymore either so i have no clue how he is.
By M.
May 13, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this
@SlimOne
You are crazy…LOL but sometimes, if I get gas at QT, I am always tempted to stop and get their frozen drinks and throw some goose in there for that Wet Willies affect but then I come back to reality and just get a cherry coke…
@Guys
Would your opinion change of a woman who got wasted on your first date together or would you just charge it as a mistake on her part?
OR
What if its a setting like Bella stated when you meet someone in a group setting and they get wasted, Guys would you still like her?
By Raqi
May 13, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this
M I tell my friend Denise that she is borderline alcoholic. She manages to “celebrate” every occasion and holiday known to man. She drinks on New Year, MLK, Presidents’ Day, Easter, Passover, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, 4th of July, Labor Day, Yom Kippur, Roshashana, Chinese NewYear, Columbus Day, Thanksgiving, Christmas. You name it she has a drink for it.
By I am Legend
May 13, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this
@ared/blow….i have never until that moment seen how p** comes out of a women…that ish was not sexy….she squats and that ish runs out like a water facuet…fast an hard…lol….i am visual..so in my mind i had a movie running…we on a side street downtown she giving me some courtsey for a minute then we stop build up some tension and go home we finish each other off…NOT her p** beside me and asking me do i have a condom so i can hit it with p** still drippn from it
By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON
May 13, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this
Iamlegend Yes it’s disgusting. For both of you. Your p** is no betta than hers.
By AmazonRed
May 13, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this
Raqi - From your stories it seems you have a very colorful collection of friends!
Rell - Whatever floats your boat. I was just having a good chuckle.
By Cemeeli
May 13, 2008 10:27 AM | Link to this
kinderteach I’m sure you was looking sideways like wth? as he transformed into Mr. Drink ‘em up. yea that over drinking will get a quick duece.
By Raqi
May 13, 2008 10:29 AM | Link to this
And you know what…I have taken more sips of alcohol since knowing her than I had ever before. She is always making a drink and telling me and/or my friend Doc, “hey taste this”. My friend Marissa would usually drink more with her but since she has been pregnant for the past year and a half she cannot do so now.
By mamalongleggs
May 13, 2008 10:38 AM | Link to this
Have you ever imbibed a little too much while on a date or when you first met someone? Only if the date is turning sour.
What about men who thrust drinks on women to take advantage of her? That has happen to me before, I didn’t automatically pick up on what dude was trying to do until it dawned on me that he was trying his hardest to get me drunk so he can have way with me. It didn’t work though since I know what I can and can’t handle in public.
By Cemeeli
May 13, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this
Mo while i know you like a Mojito every so often. Please pass something for us Malibu wannabes. That Barbados drink is so delicious, yep, even the non-rum frozen.
What’s your story?
By Kym
May 13, 2008 10:40 AM | Link to this
Good Morning All,
I am not a drinker at all..I drink on occassion(like once every quarter) and then it is one drink at the most. I have a three things I will drink..Fuzzy Navel winecoolers, Frozen Frost Drinks (Mango, Peach or Strawberry) and Blueberry Lemonade served at Six Feet Under.
I usually avoid men folks that are two-sheets in the wind when you meet them..but I have had to chase off a guy years ago who was a true weed head. I mean he was great when we talked on the phone. Great on the first date..but man date two was a movie at his house. He was high when he came to pick me up..high at his house..and I had to put up with him feeling me up, chasing me around the bed and kissing me with his weedy breath. I finally told him I was just ready to go home. All that chasing and sweating. good grief. He did call the next day and apologize..but next time we went out he was high again. So that was that.
Off-Topic Total For all of you astrology fans(I am one as well) I figured I would give you all some traits of each sign. As taken from Thelma Balfour’s Black Sun Signs(so that no one goes why just black..astrology is universal the author wrote the book from the African American perspective.)
Aries-The Ram Positive Traits: Optimistic, energetic, courageous, innovative, assertive,entusiastic, adventuresome, free-spririted
Negative Traits: Selfish, quick-tempered, impatient, tactless, impulsive, self-centered, accident-prone, give to procrastination
Taurus-The Bull Positive Traits: Strong-Willed, reiable, persistent, solid, affectionate, practical, warmhearted, trustworthy
Negative Traits: Stubborn, greedy, possessive, lazy, resistant to change, inflexible, resentful, violent
Gemini-The Twins Positive Traits: Versatile, energetic, a communicator, adaptable,logical, witty, intellectual, spontaneous
Negative Traits: Superficial, cunning, inconsistent, restless, secretive, flighty, nosey devious
By Jonny
May 13, 2008 10:41 AM | Link to this
Getting hammered on a first date is a bad move because first dates imbue themselves with best behavior. If your 1st date behavior involves getting blotto, what does date 10 look like?
Gentlemen, do not drink at all on the first date. You’ll have plenty of time on later dates to look like a fool. Drink on the first date and there may not be later dates.
By Sybil
May 13, 2008 10:42 AM | Link to this
Dang, Legend - and they say Sybil has multiple personalities.
By Raqi
May 13, 2008 10:42 AM | Link to this
AmazonR
My friend Denise (38) is an interior designer, newly engaged, very outspoken and as you just heard likes her liquor. Has a 19 year old sister that likes my son and is greener than the Giant himself.
Doc (42) is an oncologist that I met when my mother was dying. We became really good friends. Married 13 years. I get a lot of relationship advice from her.
Marissa (39) is an attorney. Married 1 year. Has a 7 month old and is now 6 months pregnant with second child.
Lacy/Erica (38) is a pharmacist that works part-time at Victoria Secret (Lacy). I met her thru Doc. She is single and confused.
By The Truth
May 13, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this
QC How are you doing woman?
Similac yeah, it’s 7.49 for the first 3 months and you get 1 credit or basically 1 book. It’s a bargain. Check your phone or Ipod first to make sure it’s compatible. Most are. Also, if you do it through customer service and ask they’ll usually give you a few free credits or something. And you can cancel anytime your like.
M yes, it would change. At least put A good foot forward before you show me your azz.
Drunk story: Not me drunk though
A neighbor of mine brought his 21 yo niece over for xmas year before last. He told me she liked me but anyway one night she shows up at my door wanting to wait for her uncle to get home. I’ said sure. Ol girl started knocking off my tequila and got straight lit. She layed down and fell asleep and I got on my puter. I hear her moving around and go in the great room and she’s totally nude and taking the covers off my couch pillows. The chick had p** on herself and my couch and was trying to clean it up. I sent her to the shower and when she came back she offered me some azz. I’m like “no thanks” p**. I had to take off my pillow covers and send them to the cleaners the next morning. Actually thats not the end of the story but it was the end of the p**/liquor part. WTF???
Legend I feel you on the watching personal matters thing. There’s a reason there’s a door on the bathroom. Use it. LMAO Sometimes ignorance is bliss.
Blow so you come from a family of drunks and you aspire to be shift supervisor at McD’s. You’re a real winner. LMAO
Kara you should chime in with your drunk at the “feminist parties” stories. We would love to hear how a bunch of disgruntled chicks with dycks get drunk and slap each other around.
By Cemeeli
May 13, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this
@Kym
You’re an ‘Six Feet Under’ patron? That’s the debate spot…Lol. Grant Park area brings out the most diverse to that one eatery.
All that chasing and sweating. good grief.
Mr. Weedhead wasn’t gonna munch on you hunh? that story was funny
By SexyLeggs
May 13, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this
Raqi did you and your friend ever talk about her leaving her sister at your house w/your son?
By Kym
May 13, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this
Truth I subscribed to Audible too. I think my subscription is running out soon. Need to check. But they are great about credits to keep you around. I have alot of audio books and I have a thing for old time radio mysteries and I can get them there for like 60cents a pop.
By mytwocents
May 13, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this
Hmm…pondering…Crab legs boiled in beer, consumed with beer. Nightly. Was he a borderline alkie or a straight up alkie?
Libations n’ Relations…that’s a dangerous cocktail. I’ll self diagnose as a semi-emotional, touchy-feely kinda lush. And reserve ocassional extreme lushiness for secure locations, where Stranger Danger not an issue —> friend’s house party, my living room.
Can’t believe no fightin’ drunk admissions! As confrontational as it gets up in here…
By Kym
May 13, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this
Cemeeli I am so hooked on that place. I try to go at least once a month. I havent been during a debate but I do like the Grant Park area. Tons of cops hang around that area..so you always feel safe. And the food is great too.
By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON
May 13, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this
Truth Don’t address me UNTIL I address you first. Family of drunks? That’s a bit much don’t you think. Better than coming from a family of a history of MENTAL retardation. Everyone knows you SICK. You confused last week you would kill your mother under the right circumstance. That statement right there confirmed you are mentally ill. Enough with the MCD’s jokes….that $hit is beyond PLAYED!
By Unknown
May 13, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this
Yea, Kara’s tude stinks!
His cell phone rings during dinner. What is his best move?
1% He checks to see who’s calling, and excuses himself from the table to answer the call
3% He lets it ring, and continues the conversation
38% He checks to see who’s calling and lets it go to voicemail
58% He turns the phone off without looking at it
By Raqi
May 13, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this
That should be Doc has been married for a total of 18 years. She and her husband divorced after 5 years and then remarried one year later.
By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON
May 13, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this
Truth CORRECTIONS Don’t address me UNTIL I address you first. Family of drunks? That’s a bit much don’t you think? Better than coming from a family of a history of MENTAL retardation. Everyone knows you are SICK. You confessed last week you would kill your mother under the right circumstances. That statement right there confirmed you are mentally ill. Enough with the MCD’s jokes….that $hit is beyond PLAYED!
By Unknown
May 13, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this
He accidentally forgets his wallet. What’s his best move?
25% He acts like it’s not a huge deal and promises to pay me back if I can spot him
34% He apologizes profusely and asks for me to pay instead
41% He sneaks off and asks to make other arrangements with the manager
By Cemeeli
May 13, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this
Truth Now if i would have brung my card to work w/me on this slow day, I could start/reg and listen right now. Thanks for the tip shorty.
mamalongleggs you know that’s more common that not. Especially during the youngin/college years. The stories…wow. Good you peep the “show” and got a refund.
By SeanJohnson3000
May 13, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this
@ Kym…being a gemini….that post described me…to a tee…but i dont belive in horoscopes..but i DO buy those horoscope lottery books..
By SexyLeggs
May 13, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this
Here’s a drunken story. I was at a girlfriend’s house in the apartment complex I was living at. We got p** poor drunk off margaritas until very late in the night. While walking home I soon realized I wasn’t very steady on my feet. I must have fallen into every ditch or bush on my way to my apartment. Woke up the next morning on my couch with red dirt everywhere. Took my pants off and had a huge bruise on the back of my leg.
By Unknown
May 13, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this
The bill comes and you reach for your purse. He should:
19% Insist on paying once, but if I offer a second time, then he should let me do my part
33% Suggest I pick up the next one
48% Insist on paying, no matter what effort I make to chip in
By AmazonRed
May 13, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this
Kara - I’m a big fan of your work.
By Unknown
May 13, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this
Dinner is winding down. Things are going well, and he’s hoping the date will continue. He should:
1% Ask to see my place
11% Invite me to his place
34% Bring me to a bar or club for some entertainment
54% Suggest we check out this great dessert place nearby
By QC
May 13, 2008 11:07 AM | Link to this
SirTruth i’m doing well just trying to finish up some projects…i’m taking a few days off..how are you Sir?
By Cemeeli
May 13, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this
Kym Yes. That place is the most ‘colorful’ it has been the best spot to just slapped a pair jeans on a top and go for diversity and network. That, i now miss living out of the city limits. Now one night i meet a couple that was bent on the “not vote” He: a writer, She: an artist. They were newly engaged and tell’n us (me & the gals). Voting is overated! I politely got closer to them as to find out wth? Trish and Jason talking about sumthin’ to the point of a dang Green Peace! <—-auuuww hayo!…So, I first asked where were they from. That convo lasted about 1 1/2.
By kinderbabe
May 13, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this
hey mo:)
kym/cemeeli i love six feet under also…was just there on sunday night. the food is great and so are the drinks.:)
By The Truth
May 13, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this
Blow calm down my little troll like friend. McD’s isn’t played, you are. And you know I don’t need permission to post to you.
Similac/Kym I hope you like it. I read/listened to alot of self help books using audible. I can do it while I walk my dogs in the morning. Their library has everything.
Ared did you just turn on me?
QC you staying local or hitting the road?
Unknown thanks for the support. LOL
By kinderbabe
May 13, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this
hey mo:)
kym/cemeeli i love six feet under also…was just there on sunday night. the food is great and so are the drinks.:)
By AmazonRed
May 13, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this
She and her husband divorced after 5 years and then remarried one year later.
Raqi - I had a friend whose parents remarried after being divorced 10 years. That would be a good topic, “Second Time Around.” It could work for dating.
I used to be of that whole “don’t go backwards” mindset. But once you get older, you make better choices about the people you date (or at least you should). Giving it another shot is not as bad as I thought it would be, at least from my limited experience.
By Unknown
May 13, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this
You make it back to his place. Once you’re in the door, he should:
4% Lean in for a kiss
18% Crack a joke to put me at ease
38% Offer to give me a tour of his place
40% Offer me a seat in the living room, then fetch us drinks or some dessert
By Staceye AKA Black Mamba
May 13, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this
Good Day all
My family has plenty of functioning alcoholics! LOL I too have a tolerance for it. I do not sit home and drink. If I go out I will have a few..but not to where I am drunk and can’t drive msyelf home or think rationally. When I wa shome in NY for the holiday last year I went to aparty in the middel of nowhere in NJ! Well I think the cop was just anxious to get a jump on his ticket writing and finally saw a car on that dark road. Well…he pulled me and my girls over and told me to get out. I had on a mini dress and 4 inch heeled thigh high boots! He made me stand on one foot and count one 1 thousand all the way to 31. Then made me walk the line to and fro. He couldn’t get me on DUI…He had to let me go….oh yeah..I had more drinks then everybody! I just have a high tolerance. But I also know when to stop or when I can not drive.I have only be drunk once…that was in Mexico last year! UGH…Jose wasn’t my friend that day! I have never met a guy who got sloppy drunk on date…thank God!
By Cemeeli
May 13, 2008 11:19 AM | Link to this
Crab legs boiled in beer, consumed with beer. Nightly. Was he a borderline alkie or a straight up alkie?
Enjoyed the beer cooked crab legs that’s all.
By Unknown
May 13, 2008 11:19 AM | Link to this
He gives you a tour of his home. Which of the following is the most critical area of judgment when checking out a guy’s place for the first time?
13% His book and movie collection
20% His decorating taste
67% The cleanliness of his bathroom
By Raqi
May 13, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this
Yes we did. (She was probably drinking at the time). We both agree that I am probably overreacting and she was irresponsible knowing how I would feel about this. We left it right there…until it comes up again…because it will.
By AmazonRed
May 13, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this
Another Six Feet Under fan right here! Though I’ve been going to the one of Howell Mill now. I love places with rooftop seating in the warm weather!
By Kym
May 13, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this
Cancer-The Crab(My sign by the way)
Positive traits: Receptive, sensitive, sympathetic, kind, shrewd, intuitive, thrify, emotional
Negative traits: Moody, changable, hypersensitive, messy, unforgiving, unstable, overly emotional, overindulgent in self pity
Leo-The Lion Positive traits: Generous, dramatic, enthusiastic, broad-minded, crative, organized, powerful, optimistic
Negative traits: Intolerant, patronizing, conceited, egotistical, snobbish, extravagant, attention-seeking, dogmatic
Virgo-The Virgin
Positive traits: Practical, analytical, industrious, conscientious, neat, hypercritical, meticulous, perfectionist
Negative traits: Hypercritical, fussy, a worrier, cranky, pessimistic, prudish, workaholic, grouchy
By Unknown
May 13, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this
When visiting his home for the first time, which of the following would make you most attracted to him?
5% Home exercise equipment
13% A musical instrument
27% A cute dog
55% Photos of family
By Unknown
May 13, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this
A roommate comes home, and the romantic vibe diffuses. What should he propose?
17% Move in for the kill: “Let’s head to the bedroom for some privacy”
37% Stick it out: “Hey, Jim, want to watch this flick with us?”
46% Chalk it up to bad luck, and just try to have fun: “Let’s blow this popsicle stand—the bar is still open.”
By Cemeeli
May 13, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this
kinderteach/Kym Let’s just say the fried green tomatos, shrimp boil and bbq salmon are my fav there…i’ve had better but still good for a local eatery!
Thanks for making me crave seafood, kinder.
By Raqi
May 13, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this
AmazonR Actually that topic has come across the screen several times. The majority of the responses were once and ex, always an ex.
By Unknown
May 13, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this
He puts on some music. What should he play?
5% Atmospheric electronica tracks that you’d hear in the lobby of a cool hotel
12% Something fun and energetic, like 60’s funk and soul
14% Some up-tempo Indie rock or hip hop
17% A romantic standby like Marvin Gaye, Barry White, or John Legend
52% A mellow singer or group like Jack Johnson or Coldplay
By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON
May 13, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this
Truth What’s you sign?
SJ3000 I knew you were crazy!! A crazy a$$ gemini!!
By AmazonRed
May 13, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this
Ared did you just turn on me?
LOL Truth. Nah, I just personally think that Kara’s assessments are on point. But mainly because she’s been so kind to not have turned the spotlight on me. LOL.
Maybe if she did I wouldn’t “like” her either, LOL. But I don’t think anything she’s said has been totally off base!
By Mo (aka Moeisha)
May 13, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this
What’s up Party People! Drunken stories….wow.
Cemeeli I do love a good Mojita! LOL What kinda drink you lookin for chica?
Hey Kinderbabe, how are you?
Congrats Lady J, do ya thang chica!
On topic: never had a guy get blitzed while we were out and never gotten blitzed on a date. Its been a long time since I have gotten drunk though, like that college drunk! WHEW! I get queasy just thinking about it! Mad Dog 20/20, Zima, Cisco…..UGH!! :0)
By mytwocents
May 13, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this
Yeah, Cee, that was my initial, but a six pack to wash it down every time? At least 4 out of 7 days. I don’t know. Anyway, hope your day is sunshiney!
By KP (http:chatkafe.blogspot.com)
May 13, 2008 11:31 AM | Link to this
Good morning people! KP has entered the building. I promise to remain quiet today :)
By Staceye AKA Black Mamba
May 13, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this
Sexyleggs ummm..wow…OUCH! LMAO..I am imagining you the next morning waking up saying…WTF????
ARED I don’t black slide..I refuse to do revisiting! Why go backwards in life? I dont see how people make and an break up all the time. Just let the dead dog go! LOL Now there are instance were timing playe d a huge part in the demise of a relationship..then maybe….if not on bad terms.
By Mo (aka Moeisha)
May 13, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this
*Virgo-The Virgin
Positive traits: Practical, analytical, industrious, conscientious, neat, hypercritical, meticulous, perfectionist
Negative traits: Hypercritical, fussy, a worrier, cranky, pessimistic, prudish, workaholic, grouchy*
I dont agree with all of this but its close! :0)
By QC
May 13, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this
I would love to hit the road Truth, but i’ve got too much going on this weekend…maybe i’ll get around to it in June…..i’m going to Nashville, TN in August for a week it’s for GMWA so i’m looking forward to a get away..I might hang out for a night or 2 this weekend, we’ll see ;)
By Cemeeli
May 13, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this
Mo a virgin Malibu! I am a fan. Bahamian lady looked at me and saw that i was serious about no-rum and she hook it. It was fantastic! Since, i have purchased Malibu chocolates to take me back to it. The coconut and dark chocolate are great with a simple Sangria. rplc wine w/sprlking cider
By Angie aka Benched
May 13, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this
The vibe is strong and you’ve decided to head back to his place. If he’s going to make a move, when’s the best time for him to make it?
8% As soon as we’re inside; in the elevator or once we get in the door
22% Before we get to his house—something spontaneous at the bar, or outside the restaurant, or on his steps just to set the tone
70% After we’ve had a chance to talk and relax a bit inside, and he’s had time to seduce me a bit verbally
By Unknown
May 13, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this
What’s the best kind of first kiss?
15% Playful and brief
24% Passionate, confident, and seductive
61% Short, tender and sweet
By QC
May 13, 2008 11:39 AM | Link to this
I’m a Taurus the Positive is all true…but the negative i don’t dwell in none of those traits..i’m the nicest, sweetest person you will ever meet in your life very caring, loving & will help you out in any way possible (long as it’s legal)
By Unknown
May 13, 2008 11:39 AM | Link to this
You’ve kissed, and now things are heating up. How do you signal to him that it’s time to move on to something more serious?
6% I’ll just tell him: I’m not afraid to ask for what I want
44% My body language should tell him everything he needs to know. I’m not going to spell it out
50% He should follow my lead: If I move my hands from safe places like his face and arms to underneath his shirt, he should feel free to do the same
By Cemeeli
May 13, 2008 11:39 AM | Link to this
Kym So ‘tomorrow’ you may feel like being going to Six Feet & crowd, but you’d cry ‘cause for some reason you want a steak?
Lol @ Moody, changable, hypersensitive, messy, unforgiving, unstable, overly emotional, overindulgent in self pity
j/k
By Jason
May 13, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this
A few months ago I went on a date with a woman who clearly had a goal to be drunk by 8 p.m. I enjoy an adult beverage as much as the next person but when my date throws down 8 beers in 2 1/2 hours and then suggests we grab a 12 pack and head back to her place, I think we have a problem. This on top of the fact that I wasn’t attracted to her. (it was a blind date) But I did agree to go back to her place for a little while. No sooner did we close the door to her house and her clothes were flying off. I made up some excuse about having to work early the next day (even though the next day was Sunday) and got the heck out of there. Needless to say that was our one and only date.
By Unknown - Yea, I seen that too, lol
May 13, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this
How should he react if you slow down the pace, or push his hand away?
13% He should try again later—I’m just not warmed up enough yet
14% He should stop immediately
73% He should keep kissing me, but let me make the next move forward
By Cemeeli
May 13, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this
Who else is going to see Prince Caspian this w/e? I love Chronicles.
By mamalongleggs
May 13, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this
Hey Kym I am Aries where are my Arian sistah’s and brotha’s at!?!
By The Truth
May 13, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this
Roflmao at Unknown/Angie you exposed yourself Angie. Now that’s some funny stuff.
By Unknown
May 13, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this
You’ve been kissing and he’s ready for more. How should he transition from the living room/kitchen/porch into the bedroom?
23% Just ask me if I’d like to move to the bedroom
31% Pick me up and carry me, or steadily move that way without breaking liplock. Anything that keeps the passion high
46% Lead me by the hand without saying a word
By Kym
May 13, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this
Libra-The Scales
Positive traits: Diplomatic, refined, charming, romantic, easy going, seeker of harmony, idealistic, orderly
Negative traits: Indecisive, gullible, changeable, frivolous, resentful, flirtatious, extravagant, vacillates between two extremes.
Scorpio-The Scorpion
Positive traits: Passionate, emotional, independent, energetic, determined, creative, persistent, intuitive
Negative traits: Jealous, stubborn, secretive, vengeful, manipulative, violent
Sagittarius-The Archer
Positive traits: Energetic, free-spirited, ambitious, generous, optimistic, sincere, frank, dependable
Negative traits: Tactless, irresponsible, restless, careless, erratic, prone to exaggeration, frivolous, undisciplined
By Unknown
May 13, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this
During foreplay, do you prefer:
3% To undress yourself: I enjoy putting on a show
23% To let him undress you: I like a man who can be nimble with his hands
74% A spontaneous mix. Every item of clothing is different: I might want him to take off my top, but I’ll handle my shoes
By AmazonRed
May 13, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this
I don’t black slide..I refuse to do revisiting!
Staceye - Your vigor on this response is radiating thru the screen. LOL.
I’m just saying, I’m realizing that there are SOME instances where a break may have been needed. Not every break up is over a deal breaker. I realized in a past relationship that the guy was taking me for granted. So I left. I think we’re all guilty of taking others for granted from time to time.
Anywhoo, when I finally started answering his calls half a year later, a new man was on the line. Someone who appreciated what he had and what he lost. With stuff like that, maybe a 2nd chance is warranted.
By Unknown - Yea, it was fun while it lasted, lol
May 13, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this
What’s his best approach during foreplay?
11% Passionately ripping off my clothes
21% Giving me a massage
68% Spending at least ten minutes kissing before undressing me
By Get a life
May 13, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this
Unknown, get a life and stop posting that mess, if we wanted to read that article, survey, vapid drivel we would do it on our own.
By Cemeeli
May 13, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this
QC you’re a bull. j/p
Happy Birthday Eve chica!
By mytwocents
May 13, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this
Now that’s a hot mess, Beauty. LOL =)
By Kym
May 13, 2008 11:49 AM | Link to this
Cemeeli I dont like the one about unstable..because cancers seek and love stablitity but the moody changable…yep like the tides.
By Lady J
May 13, 2008 11:49 AM | Link to this
THANKS MO You know a chick doesn’t a have with that problem!!!
Leo-The Lion Positive traits: Generous, dramatic, enthusiastic, broad-minded, crative, organized, powerful, optimistic (This is me all day long honey) I would say an Alpha Female also!!! Sista Kym thanks!!!
By Unknown
May 13, 2008 11:50 AM | Link to this
Assuming you’re willing to have sex, how should he bring up protection?
2% Ask if I’m on the pill
2% Wait for me to bring up birth control or suggest a condom
25% He should ask me if I want him to grab a condom
71% He should get a condom from his dresser without asking
By I am Legend
May 13, 2008 11:50 AM | Link to this
i see no love for Libra’s in this piece
By AmazonRed
May 13, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this
Sagittarius-The Archer
Positive traits: Energetic, free-spirited, ambitious, generous, optimistic, sincere, frank, dependable
Negative traits: Tactless, irresponsible, restless, careless, erratic, prone to exaggeration, frivolous, undisciplined
This is accurate for me except that I’m not irresponsible. And because I’m not irresponsible, I’m not very generous either! LOL
By Unknown
May 13, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this
What’s most important about your first sexual experience?
13% The more intense the better: I want it to be an unforgettable, over-the-top experience
42% Establishing sexual compatibility: I want him to show me he knows how to make me feel good
45% The feeling of closeness: Building that emotional bridge
By SexyLeggs
May 13, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this
Staceye, that’s exactly what I said when I woke up. I had to shake my head at myself remembering how many times I fell. I made it home in one piece, a little bruised vowing not to do that again.
By Unknown
May 13, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this
You wake up the next morning in his bed. What should he do to put you at ease?
12% Direct you to the bathroom to freshen up and make himself scarce
24% Make you breakfast in bed
64% Cuddle
By Cemeeli
May 13, 2008 11:57 AM | Link to this
Lol @ mytwo Must be on the beer crablegs.
Kym/QC Cee, July 11 / 7-11 (my dad has gotten the $$$ for playing my birthday.
By Kym
May 13, 2008 11:57 AM | Link to this
Capricorn-The Goat
Positive traits: Prudent, reserved, patient, determined, reliable, ambitious, organized, has a sense of humor
Negative traits: Opportunistic, mean, rigid, overly conventional, won’t leave well enough alone, miserly, social climber
Aquarius-The Water Bearer
Positive traits: Charismatic, Intelligent, independent, friendly, inventive, idealistic, intuitive, humane
Negative traits: Unpredictable, perverse, eccentric, tactless, disorganized, impulsive, rebellious
Pisces-Two fish swimming in opposite directions (Fish)
Positive traits: Emotional, intuitive,