Misadventures in Atlanta

By Angelique

May 14, 2008 8:07 AM | Link to this

hi bella!

hair flip to the ladies!

and a pinch on da azz to the fellas!

By QC - It's My Birthday

May 14, 2008 8:10 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers, i hope you all have a great day like i am today..It’s all about QC

By SlimOne

May 14, 2008 8:10 AM | Link to this

Yaaaawwwwnnn Morning (said while walking in scratching booty)

To me when you meet friends of your friends, the main benefit of that would be, it would give you a frame of reference on background and/or character. When you meet a complete stranger, they can tell you anything and unless you ran a background check, you’d have no way to know any difference. So I think that’s why it’s easier for folks to gain an SO during your school years. After school, its basically go for what you know.

However, when you meet a total stranger, you don’t have that extra pressure of hope of the courtship working out from your friends. You also don’t have them in your business.

Decaff out to be outlawed!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 14, 2008 8:11 AM | Link to this

Morning, all. :-) Just dropped by to say HAPPY BIRTHDAY to my one - and only - sister QC! Have a good one and I pray the Lord blesses you with many more! You’re a good kid and you’re always wanting the best for others, so I wish the same for you on your special day. ;-)

By Angelique

May 14, 2008 8:15 AM | Link to this

happy birthday QC!

By GaryM

May 14, 2008 8:18 AM | Link to this

I’ve done this when newly single. It was the sister of a friend at work (definite formula for disaster here). Although I’m not quite ready to say ‘don’t do this under any circumstances’, my outcome wasn’t pretty.

By QC - It's My Birthday

May 14, 2008 8:19 AM | Link to this

QC wiping small tears from her eyes…thanks Darrell that’s very nice of you to say that…Happy Birthday to my niece Naomi

By GaryM

May 14, 2008 8:19 AM | Link to this

I’ve done this when newly single. It was the sister of a friend at work (definite formula for disaster here). Although I’m not quite ready to say ‘don’t do this under any circumstances’, my outcome wasn’t pretty.

By QC - It's My Birthday

May 14, 2008 8:25 AM | Link to this

Thank you Angelique :)

By Raqi

May 14, 2008 8:28 AM | Link to this

QC

On your birthday, wishing you a handful of sunshine, a heart full of dreams and a world of happiness. Happy Birthday

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 14, 2008 8:29 AM | Link to this

QC “…thanks Darrell that’s very nice of you to say that…”

I know I don’t have a rep as an emotional or sentimental guy but, hey, I have my moments. Now get back to work!!! LOL!

By Demi

May 14, 2008 8:31 AM | Link to this

QC running of the bulls again, huh?

Happy birthday Ms.QC!!!

By Demi

May 14, 2008 8:36 AM | Link to this

Darrell I feel you bruh, them sisters will do that to you, LOL

By Bit-O-Honey

May 14, 2008 8:42 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers in honor of QC’s B’day, cupcakes all around! Enjoy. Happy B’day QC!!

On topic: In my experience it has been somewhat easier to date someone who was introduced to you via a friend. I’ve met a ton of guys at gatherings at friends homes and just out and about generally and they all seem pretty cool and there’s no pretention so you really get to see how they are in mixed company.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 14, 2008 8:42 AM | Link to this

Demi “…them sisters will do that to you…”

I know, right? LOL! And so will liitle girls. It’s also my daughter’s birthday today and we gave her her middle name after my sister’s middle name (Michelle). So, that’s like two degrees of separation, right? LOL!

By QC - It's My Birthday

May 14, 2008 8:48 AM | Link to this

Raqi* thank you for those kinds words..Demi pree-shate you sweetie, Bit-O-Honey, thank you!

By AmazonRed

May 14, 2008 8:59 AM | Link to this

yawn Good morning all. And Happy Birthday to QC!

By Unknown

May 14, 2008 9:01 AM | Link to this

There are a few areas of your life that should be ongoing works in process in preparation for your life mate:

Spiritual

Physical

Professional

Social

Mental

Financial

KP I hope it is ok if we hijack your topic. Thought it was important stuff to share. ;)

By Raqi

May 14, 2008 9:02 AM | Link to this

What would my life be like today if I would have rejected when my best friend Brian’s girlfriend told me that her brother wanted my telephone number? hmmm.

By Myla

May 14, 2008 9:03 AM | Link to this

It has always seemed weird to me that I am 25 going on 26 and I have never been in a relationship, on a real date, kissed, etc. in my entire life and I have never been in love. What am I missing? I guess I can only blame myself because I do not go out to actively meet guys (I’m in Med school now)……maybe I have been sabotaging myself all along? I would like to know if anybody else thinks this is weird because sometimes I truly fear waking up one day, 50 years old and I am still single, loveless and alone.

By The Truth

May 14, 2008 9:05 AM | Link to this

QC I hope you enjoy the Chippendale’s I sent you, The Champagne, fruit, the new S-Class Mercedes, the shopping trip to New York, the season tickets to the 14th Street Playhouse, and most of all your trip to Turks and Caicos. If those things haven’t got there yet just go ahead and enjoy your birthday. HAPPY BIRTHDAY (Confetti flying and bottles popping) LOL

On topic: A new woman should not be attached to old friends.

By Hotlanta

May 14, 2008 9:07 AM | Link to this

I will NEVER do it again because your friend will always try to be up in your business. I did it one time andthe guy decided that he didn’t want to see me anymore and my friend was taking it a little toooooo personal, talking about girl he didn’t mean that call him back and he could be your husband. I am like he doesn’t want to be my boyfriend and you want me to try to get him to be my husband. It is like they have some kind of Cinderalla image in their mind and if you get married they want to take all of the credit. NAFIZA that ain’t funny because she also said that she had been raped by someone. Never make fun of people who are sick and can’t defend themselves.

By Hotlanta

May 14, 2008 9:07 AM | Link to this

I will NEVER do it again because your friend will always try to be up in your business. I did it one time andthe guy decided that he didn’t want to see me anymore and my friend was taking it a little toooooo personal, talking about girl he didn’t mean that call him back and he could be your husband. I am like he doesn’t want to be my boyfriend and you want me to try to get him to be my husband. It is like they have some kind of Cinderalla image in their mind and if you get married they want to take all of the credit. NAFIZA that ain’t funny because she also said that she had been raped by someone. Never make fun of people who are sick and can’t defend themselves.

By Gol-Getter

May 14, 2008 9:10 AM | Link to this

Myla,

Don’t feel bad I am in the same boat as you. I have recently been trying to be matchmaker or referer for my friends and feel we all should do the same for each other because you cannot marry your books! And of course I love the motto, ” Real men marry doctors” these tshirts are sold yearly at my school— probably for a reason. :)

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 14, 2008 9:14 AM | Link to this

Myla

Hold up! You have to put all that in its proper context. As I see it, a primary reason you haven’t experienced any of those things you mentioned is because you’ve had - and continue to have - other priorities over the course of your life. It’s as simple as that.

It’s not necessarily that you’re “missing out” on anything because, truth be told, the only way you could say that definitively is if you had foreknowledge of what it is you’re actually “missing out” on and, needless to say, you don’t have that, do you? So, my totally unsolicited advice to you is to stay the course and don’t start tippin’ about what you don’t know. Your life’s journey will eventually take the course its destined to anyway, so just take it one day at a time.

Besides, you’re only 25 going on 26, which is much too young to be worrying about stuff like that anyway.

By Angelique

May 14, 2008 9:15 AM | Link to this

Myla if you’re not missing it, then it’s ok sweetie. get a life, then a man, read this book and you’ll understand whatcha gurl is talkin’ bout. :-)

By AmazonRed

May 14, 2008 9:16 AM | Link to this

Wow…we’ve already ventured into several off topic topics and convos and it’s only 9 am.

On to the topic of the day, I definitely felt the “date outside the circle” feeling in college. Being that my campus was only 7% black, there was a lot of recylcing going on. Add to the fact, that I joined a sorority, you were pretty much limited in your dating options because at least one of your sorors had already dated the guy! So you were limited to the guys who came in with you…if you got to him first. Not enough seperation at all! I ended up having a boyfriend my senior year who was from the area but went to college out of state.

Since then, I’ve never really dated in my circle. Too close for comfort. Even recently, I dated a guy who was from Vegas but new a lot of my college friends because he went to college in Virginia with a lot of folks from my hometown of Los Angeles! And we live in Atlanta.

Such a small incestuous world. LOL

By SexyLeggs

May 14, 2008 9:18 AM | Link to this

Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday QC, Happy Birthday to YOU!

Good morning everyone!

By DreamsMaterialize

May 14, 2008 9:20 AM | Link to this

Morning

QC Happy B-day. Since you’re B-day is on a Wednesday, you’re free to celebrate all the way through the weekend. Don’t hurt ‘em too bad.

Myla People in med/grad school date too. My best friend met his wife when they were both in med school. Another friend met his wife while he was in med school and his wife was in dental school. I can go down the list of people I know who met their SO in grad/professional school. True that time is limited, but not so limited that you NEVER meet anyone. You have to put yourself out there. Are you doing your rotations yet? Don’t be surprised if one of the doctors asks you out…happens all the time.

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

May 14, 2008 9:20 AM | Link to this

Morning Errbody!

HAPPY BURFDAY QC!! Have a great day chica, be blessed!

On topic: I agree with SlimOne. Thanks for posting my thoughts!! lol

By Raqi

May 14, 2008 9:20 AM | Link to this

Myla in line with today’s topic, let your friends know that you are looking to meet some one. They may have other friends that they can introduce you to.

However, I am surprised that you haven’t met any guys in school. Do you make yourself approachable? What about study groups? Maybe you can organize one and meet some one new there…Maybe??

By QC - It's My Birthday

May 14, 2008 9:23 AM | Link to this

Thank you Ared, SexyL

Sir Truth I’m sure all those gift you have for me are on the way…and i do thank you dearly…

QC now calling Jay in our mailroom informing him of several big packages being delivered to me today

By I am Legend

May 14, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

Happy Birthday Carm,

@nafiza…..now you know you wrong!!!!

By Raqi

May 14, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

Darrell personally I don’t feel she is too young. To be honest, in the world we are living in today you better get some experience under your belt before that need may kick in. I don’t disagree with putting your priorities in order but no one should direct all of their focus in one direction. You miss a lot by doing so. You need to look around and not only be aware of you surroundings but enjoy it.

By Angelique

May 14, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

myla i agree with raqi. also, take those glasses off, let your hair flow and unbutton that top button. if you’re lookin’, that’ll do it!

By The Truth

May 14, 2008 9:29 AM | Link to this

Myla dating is like working, after you do it once you’ll spend the rest of your life either looking for it or getting fired from it. Do you and congrats on fulfilling your goals. You too Gol-Getter.

On another note if you’d like to know what it’s like to get likkered up and taken advantage of drop me a line. LOL

Angie/Ared get ready for round 2. I really want to see you 2 sweating today and don’t forget to go for the clothes. Extra points for the first one to grab an article of clothing. If it starts getting out of hand I’ll send in Kym to break it up. Only stop after you rip off her shirt tho. (The Truth, For Real, and 6’1 now pulling up chairs to watch the entertainment)

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

May 14, 2008 9:29 AM | Link to this

Hey DreamsMaterialize, how is the new job?

By QC - It's My Birthday

May 14, 2008 9:29 AM | Link to this

Thank you DreamM

Thanks Mo :)

By AmazonRed

May 14, 2008 9:30 AM | Link to this

People in med/grad school date too.

LOL Dreams, fair point. I agree with Darrell that she shouldn’t worry at 25/26 but she should be aware. Life flies by fast especially if you have tunnel vision.

To bring it all back to topic, your post reminds me that a friend of mine, who I met through another friend wants me to meet his doctor friend this weekend. I had totally forgotten until this topic. Now I’m trying to decide if it’s worth it to make my first trip to Athens to attend his graduation party. The doctor friend is doing his residency at Emory, so I figure we could find a way to meet up locally! LOL

By AmazonRed

May 14, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

get ready for round 2. I really want to see you 2 sweating today and don’t forget to go for the clothes.

Lawd, get a life Truth. :-D

By Myla

May 14, 2008 9:33 AM | Link to this

RaqiI try make myself approachable, but the guys at my school are either clear, old or just non-attractive (the school is in a small town)

However, my soror is trying to match me up with someone. I guess I’m just getting nervous. I’m afraid he won’t like me because I’m inexperienced

thanks for the tips everyone :)

By Angelique

May 14, 2008 9:33 AM | Link to this

truth did you get my e-mail?

By M.

May 14, 2008 9:34 AM | Link to this

My dating stigmas are that I dont date women from Church and Work. I prefer to meet someone at a function thru someone that I already know, so that we are all mingling together. I try to avoid the friend setups because they may think they know your taste but they don’t and also if it does not work out it will always be wierd with your friends and her. Don’t forget about what that other person may say about you the the mutual friend if it doesnt work out.

By SlimOne

May 14, 2008 9:37 AM | Link to this

Mo I might have to start charging to be your ghost writer. lol

Truth Can we at least get someone to come in and clean the blood & sweat off the mat from yesterday before you go ringing the bell for round 2?..now move your chair over so i can squeeze in here wit chall. lol

By DreamsMaterialize

May 14, 2008 9:37 AM | Link to this

Mo How’s it going? Job got me extra busy, but I’m loving it. They’re sending me to Spain in two weeks, and then to Brussels this summer. Love traveling.

By AmazonRed

May 14, 2008 9:38 AM | Link to this

I’m afraid he won’t like me because I’m inexperienced

Well, Myla you can go down to Miami this coming Memorial Day, get drunk, get on the bar and scream that you’re inexperienced. You’ll come back with a past after that and won’t need to worry!

Just kidding. :-) However, don’t let your fear stop you from meeting new people. The more you go out, the more experience you get.

By Myla

May 14, 2008 9:40 AM | Link to this

Gol-getter I like that t-shirt idea, lol. It’s nice to know I’m not alone :)

By GaryM

May 14, 2008 9:40 AM | Link to this

I’ve done this when newly single. It was the sister of a friend at work (definite formula for disaster here). Although I’m not quite ready to say ‘don’t do this under any circumstances’, my outcome wasn’t pretty.

By GaryM

May 14, 2008 9:41 AM | Link to this

I’ve done this when newly single. It was the sister of a friend at work (definite formula for disaster here). Although I’m not quite ready to say ‘don’t do this under any circumstances’, my outcome wasn’t pretty.

By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON

May 14, 2008 9:41 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Good Ole Peep

This topic sucks…..

Yeah Angie/Ared Lets get some entertainment. You too are funny. I think me and Truth can retire.

By Long Time Lurker

May 14, 2008 9:41 AM | Link to this

I read this blog everyday and its responses but I have never felt an urge to share like I did today…so here it goes.

I was set up with a friends cousin and things went well for a while he was involved in a few things which made him a little unavailable on a regular basis but when we did hang out it was always fun and worth the effort of doing my hair and shaving my legs.

After about a month or two of random dating my friend decided she wanted to get involved and basically went off on her cousin who she felt was not giving me enough attention. By the way I was pretty ok with the random dating since I have a 6 year old and a life and a job.

After his tongue lashing its fair to say things went pretty down hill from there. A classic case of him thinking his cousins thoughts and actions were my own. There was nothing I could say that would change his mind so I stepped away and we haven’t spoken since.

I stick to meeting my own men in settings that do not involve my friends. I don’t want to get caught in a situation like that again. Friends many times feel obligated to take a side in relationships between their friends/family. Where I would rather my relationship be my relationship and if it works or doesn’t work it is all on the two people that are actually involved.

By AmazonRed

May 14, 2008 9:42 AM | Link to this

They’re sending me to Spain in two weeks, and then to Brussels this summer. Love traveling.

Dreams - I’m so jealous! My job only flings me around the country domestically. Maybe that will change if I join the international division of my company. Let me know if you want a companion in Spain and/or Brussels. Got enough SkyMiles to get me there. LOL.

Glad the new job is going well.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 14, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this

Raqi

I completely agree with your 9:27, but to the extent that Myla is already concerned that she might be “sabotaging” herself, I do think she’s being overly concerned at this stage of her life by couching it in such strong terms as that.

Now, constrast her with Bella’s friend from a few weeks ago, who seemed so adamant and inflexible not about only achieving her educational and life goals, but doing so in a particular order because she “only wants to do this once”. I just don’t want *Myla to get to that type of a rigid mindset. As long as she’s not so “married” (no pun intended) to her personal goals that she completely blocks out any opportunity to find and fall in love, I think she’ll be fine.

It’s just that when a person her age uses terms like “sabotage”, I picture her closed up in a small room somewhere wringing her hands while droplets of sweat fall steadily from her forehead onto the pages of her Biology textbook. LOL!

By I am Legend

May 14, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this

@M….why no church freaks…..lol..i can understand work..but church freaks…come on player…lol

By SexyLeggs

May 14, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

Myla, girl, you’re good! If you want to meet men and experience the ups and downs of relationship get yourself out there. Make yourself approachable (if you aren’t doing so). School is very demanding so keep your chin up, your brain fired up and stay focus. Men will come, that kiss will come, and when all that tingling starts from your first kiss, your first touch, you will be soaring…..proceed w/caution (LOL)!

By Amina

May 14, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

MYla Not to offend you but yes I do think it’s weird. It seems like you are scared to take a chance or some kind of lack of socialization skills with the opposite sex. A man is not going to magically fall in your bed. If you want a relationship you have to make yourself available. Not being in love I can see but never having a bf at your age tells me there is something a little strange going on.

By Cemeeli

May 14, 2008 9:47 AM | Link to this

Happy Birthday Lil Lady!

Um…reservations @ Sunset for Queen Carmen what’s up?

Remember the birthday motto: Celebrate your day for the whole quarter. :)

Morning Folks

By I am Legend

May 14, 2008 9:49 AM | Link to this

@Myla…inexperienced huh?…lol…you telling me in the internet age you have not found at least one person to send you dirty emails?

By pisces 08

May 14, 2008 9:49 AM | Link to this

Morning All…. Happy B-Day QC.

By AmazonRed

May 14, 2008 9:52 AM | Link to this

It’s just that when a person her age uses terms like “sabotage”, I picture her closed up in a small room somewhere wringing her hands while droplets of sweat fall steadily from her forehead onto the pages of her Biology textbook. LOL!

LMAO Darrell!!! You have such a flair for the dramatic. Your kids must love you at story time…I bet you don’t even need a book!

The downside could be that arguments you may have had with your ex were full of fireworks.

By QC - It's My Birthday

May 14, 2008 9:53 AM | Link to this

Thanks I am Legend

Y’all are off da chain today…church freaks…heyyyy!!!!

By QC - It's My Birthday

May 14, 2008 9:54 AM | Link to this

Thanks Cee-me-me girl i celebrate the entire month of May..

thank you Pisces ‘08

By 2CPTG©

May 14, 2008 9:59 AM | Link to this

Happy Birthday QC…..now I’m going back to bed….

By SlimOne

May 14, 2008 9:59 AM | Link to this

Myla I’m afraid he won’t like me because I’m inexperienced It’s really about confidence. Buddy doesn’t need to know you’re inexperienced. If you lack confidence and overthink things, he’ll pickup a weird vibe which may not work in your favor. Just be sure to relax, be yourself, not overdo it, and not underdo it…just need to be somewhere in the middle.

By Unknown

May 14, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

10 Ways to Heal Spiritually from a Breakup:

Tip #1: Don’t Blame God

Tip #2: Clean Up the Mess

Tip #3: Write it Out

Tip #4: Try Something New

Tip #5: Relish Your Solitude

Tip #6: Love Your Life

Tip #7: Don’t Be Afraid of Tears

Tip #8: Take Care of Yourself

Tip #9: Believe in Yourself

Tip #10: Begin Again

By SexyLeggs

May 14, 2008 10:02 AM | Link to this

DreamsMaterialize, your blog name definitely fits you.

By M.

May 14, 2008 10:02 AM | Link to this

@I am Legend

I dated a girl from Church once and it was the worst. I know all people have problems, drama, issues. Like my Pastor says, a Church is really just a hospital….Plus I dated another girl in Theology school and it was just to much drama. Plus with the ratio of women in Atlanta, I dont have to dig in my own backyard…Its enough women to go around.

By The Truth

May 14, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

Angie did you get my e-mail? Yes, i got them. You’re real flexible. I had no idea you could contort your body like that. Now send me some face shots.

Slimmy/Blow I’m taking side bets on this one. We don’t have to worry though, if not Angie ol Ared will fire it up with someone in here. She’s a walking matchstick. LOL

Dreams congrats on the job. Have fun on the road and remember, whatever happens over there doesn’t over here. LOL

What happened to Nafiza’s post?

By Cemeeli

May 14, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

packing my bags renaming the bag Cemeelian:

Dreams wit all the traveling imma have to lose 20lbs to fit in that garment bag with Mo.

smmmch, just finished off my hashbrowns.

Mo i told you CBP do not have a certain height requirement for blow up dolls.

By SexyLeggs

May 14, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

A good friend called me about 8:20 last night saying he had a Mother’s Day gift for me. I said it was cool for him to bring it by. A lovey basket of lotions, oils, candles and candy. I got a kiss last night that nearly blew my panties off me…I kept them on, but WHEW! Just wanted to share (LOL)!

By AmazonRed

May 14, 2008 10:09 AM | Link to this

She’s a walking matchstick. LOL

Truth - Thanks bud! That’s a compliment to a fire sign. LOL

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 14, 2008 10:10 AM | Link to this

Good Morning all

Happy B-Day QC…stick with me..I’ll get you paid for you day at a club!!! LOL

Myla Girl med School is so much more important that dating. Get your career together by staying focused. Don’t waste your emaotions on these guys who are only out to play games which could throw you off of yours if you happen to get emotionally caught up into one. After you become a Dr…if a guy comes along….then you will be in a better position…but we all know internship/residency will take a lot of your time and focus..so you may want to date someone who is in the same profession as you. They should have a better understanding on the demands of your time from your career and why it has to be first.

M I try to avoid the friend setups because they may think they know your taste but they don’t and also if it does not work out it will always be wierd with your friends and her I agree…I am always told they have the perfect friend for me..and I have never met on ethat was attractive to me except once. I get mad at the friend because they should know better! LOL

By M.

May 14, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

@I am Legend

Let me clarify, not women from the same Church that I go to.

By Cemeeli

May 14, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

Way to go Sexyleggs. Enjoy your goodies.

whew…it’s good to hear some of us singles are getting some special treatment

May i have some candy?

By Angelique

May 14, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

sexy i love those blew my panty off feelings.

truth you silly boi!

By I am Legend

May 14, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

@fellas…we need to start a sex bank..the ladies can pay in for any fanasty they want….go on a date/with no sex….100….foot massage and feed grapes….75…we could get paid to supply fanasties..no women should have to get her panties blown off from a kiss..when she can get them blown o so well for a small fee…lol….come players i am sure we can get the giglo game poppin just from here….who is in?

By Lady J

May 14, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

Happy Birthday QC Hey Mo and CeeCee!! Have a great day folks!

By Khalik

May 14, 2008 10:18 AM | Link to this

The point of my post and annoyance IS with this selfish attitude of women in ATL who want the best of the old and new world. You can’t be Ms. Independent, while still expecting your man to do everything for you. Maybe I just give women too much credit or expect them to be able to do for themselves, but thats how I feel.

By Raqi

May 14, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs I…uh never mind. LOL

By M.

May 14, 2008 10:21 AM | Link to this

@Staceye AKA Black Mamba

I hate when someone says, I have someone I know you are going to like, you meet her and you want to run out of the back door….Not just the looks, but the conversation, chemistry are all factors that can determine an escape lol…

By mytwocents

May 14, 2008 10:21 AM | Link to this

Happy Hump Day…

Have a LOVELY Birthday week, QC. Enjoy the Spa Day (I’m sure ;) Darrell is treating you to.

Myla pretty name… Is there a cutie in Human Physiology you can ask to tutor you? Or are your concerns tied to a particular crush? Hmmm. Good Luck!

By Dushawn

May 14, 2008 10:23 AM | Link to this

Khalik

I agree

Ok - so let me get this straight. Despite the advances of women men should open doors, pay for every date, buy flowers, call often, be interesting, be entertaining, listen intently to his woman, get something special on Valentines Day and whatever else makes the woman he is dating feel “soft and pink”. Brothas - DO NOT expect anything in return! God forbid a woman call you back - she sooo doesn’t need to. If she doesn’t it’s just a part of the test. If you fail the test - it’s just because you are a spoiled, coddled mama’s little husband - or she just might not like you which is well within her rights.

Never mind that the man can be dumped instantly at any moment. At least you tried. Always remember that a woman contributes more to a date than you - even if you pay - after all, she could be spending her time watching paint dry or better yet out with a more chivalrous suitor. Did I get the description of chivalry right? I can’t wait to try this out!!! I know it’s going to make some woman very happy and that’s what it’s all about!

By Angelique

May 14, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

Khalik shuddup! lol. i have been dealing with selfish men in atl for two yrs. you think you have it bad. lol.

By SexyLeggs

May 14, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

You can have all the candy! It’s that hard strawberry candy. Don’t like strawberries.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 14, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

Khalik

After reading your 10:18 post, I feel safe in saying you’re most likely going to need one of these now. LOL!

By I am Legend

May 14, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

@khalik….NO WOMAN BASHING TODAY..BESIDES THE WEATHER IS CHANGING!!!….what you think of my id

By AmazonRed

May 14, 2008 10:27 AM | Link to this

LOL @ khalik and Dushawn. I’m playing the world’s tiniest violin for you both and sheding a solitary tear for your “plight.” You poor poor fellas.

By SeanJohnson3000

May 14, 2008 10:29 AM | Link to this

@ Legend….people like Legz puzzle me…its clear she is a sxual person but seem afraid to indulge in the act thats going be bring about satisfaction or quench a thirst or urge. and being that she is in 40’s which is suppose to be her prime…why not enjoy yourself…you only live once…

By Cemeeli

May 14, 2008 10:31 AM | Link to this

2C just remembered….You’re sleep? as in chillin’?

By pisces 08

May 14, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

…including late fees, and interest compounded hourly. lawd knows some of deese ladies long over-due for a good fantasy.

By Dan

May 14, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

lol, someone sent me this

Remy Ma (rapper)is gonna have a crotchless orange jumpsuit for the carpetmunchers to have easy access

By SexyLeggs

May 14, 2008 10:36 AM | Link to this

…no women should have to get her panties blown off from a kiss

IamLegend, you missing a crucial point. Women love kisses like these. I’ve coined them “c* kisses”. It’s a beautiful thing. To be kissed by someone you have feelings for with all the passion, the lust, the knees buckling (to a point) is awesome! Start a sex bank for those type of kisses and you will have women lined up!!!

Raqi, bring it (LOL).

By SexyCool

May 14, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

legend…your sex bank sounds like an escort service…like you want women to pay for the BFE - BoyFriend Experience…

By The Truth

May 14, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

Khalik and Du lmao. Someone had to start it.

Darrell he’s gonna need that. (The Truth now filling out requisition forms for all MLB memebers to get their own suit.)

Ared that wasn’t a short. The truth is you can start a skirmish faster than Iraq. I thought I was a firestarter but you’ve got me beat, bad. LMAO

By Gina

May 14, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

Khalil, women have to deal with a lot too. Everything nice that a man does has an ulterior motive. And that motive is always linked to their most basic need, getting laid. If you want to stereotype, we can go back and forth all day long.

If you focus on finding the right women that share your ideals, you would not have to worry about the selfish type.

By Cool Shadow

May 14, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

Slim One’s 8:10 assessment of the topic was good. The advantage of dating a friend’s friend is that you get an easier path through the ‘security clearance’ hurdle because someone can vouch for your general character.

However, the disadvantages are when the friend is hellbent on controlling and monitoring the status of the relationship as if he/she are collecting a commission.

Also, the disadvantage can be the friend not putting any real thought into the potential matchup. Having been subjected to being introduced to a friend of a friend, it made me wonder what they were thinking when they decided to play matchmaker, i.e., no real common interests between the two parties besides their marital status and having a pulse?

By Unknown

May 14, 2008 10:40 AM | Link to this

Here are some fun, probing questions that you can ask to help you become more intimate with your date’s soul:

If someone gave you $10 million with no strings attached, what would you do with it?

If you could sit down to lunch with any three people (living or dead), who would they be?

If you only had six months to live, what would you do?

By Khalik

May 14, 2008 10:42 AM | Link to this

Ladies if you want chivalry, just do the following:

-you must wear matching underwear

-have no visible cellulite

-keep ya ta-tas sittin pretty

-cook

-clean

-lay on your back

By SlimOne

May 14, 2008 10:42 AM | Link to this

Truth I think you may want to open up the betting floor for Ared vs Khalik & Dushawn….a 3-way. Said in my obnoxious Varsity worker voice WHAD’LL YAHAVE?!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 14, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

Sexyleggs I’m glad to hear you kept your knickers on! LOL

By AmazonRed

May 14, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

that wasn’t a short. The truth is you can start a skirmish faster than Iraq. I thought I was a firestarter but you’ve got me beat, bad. LMAO

Truth - I said thank you man! LOL. I know that not everyone loves my brazen opinion, doesn’t mean I’ll stop making them though. LOL

By pisces 08

May 14, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

@Gina. What are your Ideals?

By AmazonRed

May 14, 2008 10:48 AM | Link to this

I think you may want to open up the betting floor for Ared vs Khalik & Dushawn

Don’t hold your breath Slim. Don’t care about men’s complaints about women. That’s on them and the women they chose to date.

I just count my blessings that I can’t make these sweeping negative generalizations about the men in ATL! My dating experiences here have been quite positive.

By Willie Dynamite

May 14, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

Morning all,

Happy B-day QC

Lester Hayes Count me in. From what I see on here eryday you dont need the fantasy stuff. Hayo thats bout all we read, hence the problem. Whats needed is to bring that inner slut out some of them. I personally recommend Myla be the 1st test case free of charge.lol

By SexyCool

May 14, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this

UNKNOWN…do you want your own blog? or are you campaigning to become the next contributor to this column…i mean, really, wth?

By Sho' Nuf

May 14, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

Morning All, dating overall is a tricky matter. I have found it easier to initially ask women out that you meet at gatherings, parties, etc. but then you have that strange connection afterward. At least you know that you have something/someone in common and the risk ofjust being totally dissed is lessened. In the long run though, it might be easier on the tail end of the relationship…so it just depends. BTW, Happy B’day QC!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 14, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

Gina “Everything nice that a man does has an ulterior motive. And that motive is always linked to their most basic need, getting laid.”

LOL! It’s amazing to me how women can continually generalize like this, but when a man makes a similar statement, ya’ll are ready to gang up on him like a swarm of Africanized killer bees.

I’ve taken many women out on dates and done other nice things for them without any such expectation, so I’d rather it not be presumed that I, simply by virtue of being a man, have such a mindset which, in essence, is nothing more than a form of “deferred prostitution”, which I define as the man making an assumption that his “nice” gestures are to be recompensed sexually - and only sexually - by the woman.

Contrary to popular belief, not all men are dogs. smh

By Amina

May 14, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

Dushawn I pray for your wife

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

May 14, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli you are a fool girl!! But I am with you on sneaking into Dreams bags! I need a break!

DreamsMaterialize can you bring me a souvenir or two PULEEZE!!! :0)

Hey Lady J

By Angelique

May 14, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this

there’s no problem getting dates in atl, but if you want more … .

By Hotlanta

May 14, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

Men if you want chilvary, just do the following:

Keep a clean car Keep a clean house Keep your weight down and stop looking as if you are 5 months pregnant Keep good credit Wear clean draws where white is white and beige is beige Cook Keep your yang-yang hanging pretty Lay on your back Shave that sweater off your chest

By Hotlanta

May 14, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

Men if you want chilvary, just do the following:

Keep a clean car Keep a clean house Keep your weight down and stop looking as if you are 5 months pregnant Keep good credit Wear clean draws where white is white and beige is beige Cook Keep your yang-yang hanging pretty Lay on your back Shave that sweater off your chest

By SexyLeggs

May 14, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

SJ3000, why are you puzzled? We are all sensual beings, but just because you get horny isn’t carte blanc to go handle your business. I’m not looking for just anyone’s dyck up inside of me (even if I like you). I decide when I want simply a booty call. Since I’m not in a relationship a pleasuring kiss is not enough for me to drop the drawers…you got it?!!

By Kara

May 14, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

Khalil, why don’t you have a hot bowl of STFU. You probably have all those standards and look like a troll with a jacked up grill. You probably meet the trifling type because you are the male equivalent.

By Angelique

May 14, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

sexycool sorry chica. my co-workers throw this stuff at me all day and it’s helpful stuff. don’t you think?

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 14, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

Dan

LOL!!!! I saw yesterday where Remy was sentenced to 8 years in prison. The judge referred to her as “a woman whose anger is out of control.” Heck, if that’s his criteria I know of a few more women who could use some time behind bars. LOL!

By The Truth

May 14, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this

Sexy unfortunately ol boy paid for, or at least put a down payment on, some booty he didn’t get. I must admit in theory you ladies have it good. Show some puddy, field gifts from all potential suitors, and then decide who to give the goods to. The only problem is that system worked well for virgins. And we know there aren’t many of those left. Probably as many virgins as dragons. I hope that dude, since he was out buying azz, had a car full of baskets he got on the lo lo and you was just one stop of many. SMH Can you give him my email address so I can forward him some of the menshite updates he’s obviously missed.

Gina Everything nice that a man does has an ulterior motive. And that motive is always linked to their most basic need, getting laid. That’s like saying every nice thing a woman does is in hopes of finding a sponsor.

Angie

If someone gave you $10 million with no strings attached, what would you do with it? Find 2 fine bisexual chicks that couldn’t have kids and enjoy a life of total debauchery.

If you could sit down to lunch with any three people (living or dead), who would they be? If I’m paying me, myself, and I. LOL

If you only had six months to live, what would you do? Read the 10 million dollar answer. LOL

Darrell Contrary to popular belief, not all men are dogs. smh Yes we are. Face it, some are poodles and some pits but we’re all dogs. LOL

By AmazonRed

May 14, 2008 11:04 AM | Link to this

LOL. The floodgates have opened. Anyone want to talk about the all the good that’s going on with dating in ATL?

LOL @ Kara.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 14, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

Truth

What I meant was…awww forget it…LOL!!!!

By SlimOne

May 14, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

LMAO @ Truth Probably as many virgins as dragons So is it like the lochness monster…you hear stories about it, some claim to have come across it but never really see it? lol

By 6'1 & Luvin it (Partying like a porn*)

May 14, 2008 11:09 AM | Link to this

QC, What it do shawty? HAPPY BURFDAY 2 U CHICA!!!!!

By Tazzee

May 14, 2008 11:11 AM | Link to this

Mornign folks!

Haven’t read all the comments, just wanted to say:

HAPPY BIRTHDAY QC!!! You’ve been with us since the beginning and your pleasant spirit has never changed. Thanks for being such a sweet person on this blog.

Oh and my niece’s middle name is the same as mine too. Her birthday is tomorrow - 14 days before mine but it would have been cool if we shared a b-day.

Mama and Jamoca I was joking yesterday about the gemini comment. I was in no way offended - I just think it’s funny that every time we bring up zodiac signs the women on the blog always complain about gemini men…so it’s all good ladies.

By SexyCool

May 14, 2008 11:11 AM | Link to this

angelique/unknown…perhaps if you were throwing out stuff that actually relates to the topic at hand…but you readily admit to attempting to hijack the topic of the day…

don’t mind me…do what you do, babygirl…

By Sho' Nuf

May 14, 2008 11:12 AM | Link to this

Well said Darrell. I too find that statement equally offensive. Not ALL men are geared to behave that way.

Whilst I will agree, many do, please take a moment to realize that just as all women cannot be lumped into one category…, neither can all men.

Take each of us at face value. We will “show” you what we are about at one point or another. Be it good or bad. I won’t hold it against you Gina, but look at us as individuals and we will prove our real mettle.

By Page1908

May 14, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

OMG LOL @ Kara. Hot bowl of STFU lmao.

By Sho' Nuf

May 14, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

Well said Darrell. I too find that statement equally offensive. Not ALL men are geared to behave that way.

Whilst I will agree, many do, please take a moment to realize that just as all women cannot be lumped into one category…, neither can all men.

Take each of us at face value. We will “show” you what we are about at one point or another. Be it good or bad. I won’t hold it against you Gina, but look at us as individuals and we will prove our real mettle.

By QC - It's My Birthday

May 14, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

Thank you Willie-D

By SeanJohnson3000

May 14, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this

@ Leggz….just saying ..you dont have to be in a relationship to drop the vicky secrets…we are all adults with needs..and why not get your needs met? but to each his or her own…just dont want you to end up a dirty old woman..lol

By AmazonRed

May 14, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this

Good post Sho’Nuf. Just know the whole “all men are dogs” bit is not a prevailing blog sentiment here. I think the ladies here are good at keeping it in perspective for the most part.

Some guys feel that we’re on that “all men are dogs” tip, but I think they’ve been watching Waiting to Exhale or something and think those women post on this blog. LOL

By Cemeeli

May 14, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this

Mo…a souvenir? um…2 maam!

…can’t help but Cool had me laughing…

It ain’t that serious w/all this Du and Lik on a Wednesday. shucks…it’s 2 days shy of the w/e I’m bout to lay it down with 2C…need to conserve my energy.

n’ Blackgirl calm your happy self down…Cee not seriously tryn’ ta get with a dude that it take 5 Moons to buy a sundress.

By I am Legend

May 14, 2008 11:19 AM | Link to this

@sexy leggs…we can add kissing to the menu…

@sexycool..the boyfriend experience..kinda but it could be what you want it to be…you paying for it…thats the point….in this day in age there should be a service like this for women….specially for the ones that have ADD…kinda like a male courtsean…i mean some women just want someone to talk with…maybe go out and just listen..and if they payin i can listen no problem….boyfriends dont listen..but giglos will!…feel me…

By Angelique

May 14, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

truth luv the answers you gave. thanks for playin’. lol.

sexycool i just told their azzes to pull back until after lunch. lil mama told me that she’ll try. they some googlin’ nerds. lol.

By Raqi

May 14, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

Oh come on, SexyLeggs. LOL

In SeanJohn’s defense I have to say a man that can hit you with a wet kiss, is not just any ole man. Especially the way you put it out there.

Either he don’t know his own power or he is setting his stage. From a past experience of mine the right man, knowing his own power, would have took it upon himself to check the level of wetness or is waiting to come with his next move that will have you tearing his shirt off. But this is all based on how to lead with that first statement you made.

But that’s just from my closet of experiences. LOL

By mamalongleggs

May 14, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this

I invited a GF to a social event since I knew a single supa fine fine friend of mine would be attending. I just knew this would be a match made. They had similar background/career path/values, all that good stuff. I introduced the two of them to each other and GF was immediately attracted to him, What appeared to be a terrific evening full of dancing, chatting and LOL by the both of them, it ended there, nothing blossomed from that night, he never called her nor returned any of her phone calls. I’ve been knowing fine fine for some years now, but the one thing I don’t know was his dating/hook-up/get to know a women habits, Eventually I talked to him and he said he just wasn’t interested, he had a good night and left it at that. No more mixing/mingling GF, guyfriend or any friend for me.

Happy Birthday QC

By 6'1 & Luvin it (Partying like a porn*)

May 14, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this

UNKNOWN…do you want your own blog? or are you campaigning to become the next contributor to this column…i mean, really, wth? LLAMF

By kinderbabe

May 14, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

hey everybody! hope you’re having a good day.:)

happy birthday, QC!:)

By Cemeeli

May 14, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

…uh-oh Angelique…

By QC - It's My Birthday

May 14, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this

Thanks 6’1

Tazzee you’re so sweet thanks for those kind words, you & i both have been here since day 1…along with 2cptg & sexy cool are we the only 4 Original Bloggers on here?

By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON

May 14, 2008 11:27 AM |