Misadventures in Atlanta

By PornStar* in da Building (**6'1**)

June 26, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

Sounding like Robin Williams in Good Morning Blog Fam Can I get a smoothie or something Cee, a Pepsi Mo, some tunes Alvin/Demi. I need something to help this day pass by.

By Gemini

June 26, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

I have a friend who met a guy and they went out on dates and it took him weeks to even kiss her. Of course she wondered if he even really liked her at all, but eventually it happened and she learned that he was just a cautious guy. They have now been together almost a year and are still going strong. So I think my point is that in such a rushed society, we’ve been sort of trained by these quickie celebrity marriages and hook ups that things are supposed to happen at lightning speed. But if we just take the time to let things marinate and have a plain old good time with the person, great things might develop.

I think I would rather be with someone who took their time to get to know me and really have fun, than someone who was all about rushing and being fast paced.

By AmazonRed

June 26, 2008 10:08 AM | Link to this

Well good morning again everyone!

Everything in life has expiration dates. None of us are getting out this thing alive. LOL

Cemeeli - Thanks for the benadryl. The hives got cured because I realized that I’m not the only one who feels that way. LOL.

But good looking out!

By SexyLeggs

June 26, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this

Just wanted to pop in and say hello. See you guys tomorrow!

By 2CPTG©

June 26, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this

yeah, g’morning, again……

By QC

June 26, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this

FINALLY

Morning Bloggers….i thought i’d have to take that 10am Blog Therapy Class have a great day all…

By Foots

June 26, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

Gemini In your friend’s case, they were going out on dates regularly. In Bella’s case, they don’t even have that. Your friend knew he was interested because he made an effort to continue to see her and get to know her. But that’s not Bella’s situation. So I think that’s different.

So to answer the question she posed is there a reasonable amount of time during which you both must start putting minimal (if not more) effort into the relationship?, my answer is that it starts in the beginning. You don’t have to spend every waking and sleeping moment together, but if it’s actually going somewhere, there won’t be a question about it. You can feel it moving and growing.

In my own experience, if I was scheduling a long time between dates, it meant that I was still out there looking for someone who really interested me, because that guy wasn’t it. If I WAS interested, I’d be looking forward to the next time we met up and it wouldn’t be able to get there fast enough.

By The Melo

June 26, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

we need change at ajc……YES WE CAN

By pisces 08

June 26, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

Morning All

LOL!! @ Mr. Frog.

By 2CPTG©

June 26, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

Cee…how you gon get any work done with me sitting beside you? You know I have perverted tendencies!

By The Truth

June 26, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

Gemini as much as I hate to admit it slower is better, to a certain degree. When you meet a chick that’s just real cool to hang with you’re not in as much of a hurry to sleep with her. Just hanging is cool. However, one day you look at that azz and nature kicks in again. How long that takes varies.

2C you get the joke of the day award. Still lmao.

By Atl Lady

June 26, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

Good Morning I agree with Gemini. I’ve had that instant attraction fiery chemistry thing too only to find out he was still seeing someone else and was bored with her.

Ared What are we listening to this morning? DMX Party UP or something more mellow?

By Foots

June 26, 2008 10:20 AM | Link to this

Have you ever grown bored with someone because they didn’t seem as excited about getting to know you as you did them?

Shoot yeah! I don’t expect “Nascar”, but I also can’t deal with “Driving Miss Daisy”. I know what it feels like when a guy is really interested in me and when a guy is just passing time with me. If I’m looking for something more than just to pass time, and dude is cool, but I realize that he only calls me when he has nothing else to do, I keep it moving.

By SlimOne

June 26, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

I agree with Foots. I was in a situation where it appeared ole dude was interested, we did have fun whenever we hung out…which wasn’t often…and due to his nonspecific vibe I moved on to later find out he was interested. I don’t expect things to happen at lightning speed but dayum I do need to know or feel we are even dating or trying to go that route. Otherwise, my interest in dating someone will go to another…and my interest in gaining a cool friend to hang out with will be reserved for you. lol

By Cemeeli

June 26, 2008 10:27 AM | Link to this

mytwocents…stop pushing me…okay, okay dang!…alright Stac give me back that glass I put some Benadryl in there case you fell asleep, I was gonna take your shoes, outfit, accessories and bag the go and hop on the plane with Bre’….sowwy.

By Foots

June 26, 2008 10:27 AM | Link to this

Truth When you meet a chick that’s just real cool to hang with you’re not in as much of a hurry to sleep with her.

Now, are we saying slower is better, as in scheduling dates three weeks apart, OR as in not rushing the intimacy but still seeing each other often? Gemini spoke of the latter, while Bella spoke of the former.

I usually give church hugs on the first date, and maybe a deeper hug on the second date, and I may be like Gemini’s friend in that we actually don’t kiss until we’ve been out a few times, which depending on schedules, can be a few weeks. That’s cool, because I don’t want some dude trying to tongue me down and I don’t know his last name yet. But he’s still making an effort to spend time together.

But if a dude is only calling every three weeks to try to “hang out”, he just ain’t that into me.

2C You went off on the other blog. You might have to copy that one over here…

By Bre'

June 26, 2008 10:27 AM | Link to this

Ok I see you back there Cee.

By Kym aka Contessa of Rapturous Delights

June 26, 2008 10:28 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

Off Topic Did anyone catch the show The Baby Borrowers last night? I was actually wondering how some of the blog men folks would analyze that show in terms of relationships.. if you haven’t checked out the show..here is a link..Baby Borrowers

On Topic—Yes I think two people who are dating can reach a point where they are on the train to nowhere land…but I also think all relationships are not developed at the same rate. While some people just know right off, others need more time. And yes, I have been into someone more than they were into me..and in the end I had to accept that and move forward.

By SlimOne

June 26, 2008 10:29 AM | Link to this

I agree with Foots. I was in a situation where it appeared ole dude was interested, we did have fun whenever we hung out…which wasn’t often…and due to his nonspecific vibe I moved on to later find out he was interested. I don’t expect things to happen at lightning speed but dayum I do need to know or feel we are even dating or trying to go that route. Otherwise, my interest in dating someone will go to another…and my interest in gaining a cool friend to hang out with will be reserved for you. lol

By Cemeeli

June 26, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

how you gon get any work done with me sitting beside you?

Please…that’s what you want me to do is continue to be “productive”.

By 2CPTG©

June 26, 2008 10:36 AM | Link to this

naw Foots, I’mma leave that alone….

By SlimOne

June 26, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

Kym I checked out the show last night and I think that’s even better than highschool kids just doing the computerized baby experiment. However, I’m not sure I’d be one of the mothers allowing their baby to be used. In watching it, it totally exposes how immature you are at that age to be responsible for something so precious, time consuming, and expensive. Young girls are often looking for something to love…a sense of being needed/wanted. But what they fail to realize is all the giving they have to put out whether their tired or night. Many of them expressed how drained they were only after a few hours. And the chick that cried and refused to wear the pregnant suit got on my last nerves. UGGGGHHHHH!

By M.

June 26, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

I think it is a huge mixed signal when things are going slow, but also when only one party seems to show interest. I have kinda dealt with that with this girl who is cool, but its like I am the one who comes up with ideas to do, plans things, and she is cool and goes along with it. Its like no one wants to put themselves out there, but nobody is a mind reader regarding knowing whats going on and where we are going. Therefore, I think alot of people may get frustrated and cut their loses.

By The Truth

June 26, 2008 10:40 AM | Link to this

Foots I meant taking time to just get to know someone. I’ve met chicks that were just interesting and it took awhile to come back to that sex thing. However, it’s coming back. The more I like you the more I want to be in you. It’s that simple.

On the frequency of dates, that’s self explanatory. No date equals no interest.

Blogsville, we need to strike a truce on that Beautiful situation. It is what it is. While you all know I love a good battle that one doesn’t qualify for obvious reasons. Let’s try to rise above that situation. Not to far but above that.

Here, I’ll get another blog fight started.

Staceye go make me some eggs and bacon. Now woman!!!

By 2CPTG©

June 26, 2008 10:41 AM | Link to this

“Please…that’s what you want me to do is continue to be “productive”.”

damn sho…..keep puttin’ out, babeh!!!

By nothing clever

June 26, 2008 10:42 AM | Link to this

I’m in both situations right now. I’m dating 2 guys. 1 for 2 months. The other for 3 weeks.

the first one i want to dump because i’m just not that into him. he only calls me; i never call him and we go out once or twice a week. the dates are to great places but i’m just not feeling him. last week, we made out for the first time (because i was tipsy) and he’s a decent guy, but i don’t feel chemistry. (well i felt chemistry during the makeout session but that could’ve been just the liquor).

the 2nd guy on the other hand got the goodgood on date 2 and i’m hooked already. we’re on high speed and I want to slow it down and stop having sex and develop the friendship more, but he’s like “no we’ve already started sexing; we cant stop now.” is it silly of me to want to slow down now?

By nothing clever

June 26, 2008 10:43 AM | Link to this

I’m in both situations right now. I’m dating 2 guys. 1 for 2 months. The other for 3 weeks.

the first one i want to dump because i’m just not that into him. he only calls me; i never call him and we go out once or twice a week. the dates are to great places but i’m just not feeling him. last week, we made out for the first time (because i was tipsy) and he’s a decent guy, but i don’t feel chemistry. (well i felt chemistry during the makeout session but that could’ve been just the liquor).

the 2nd guy on the other hand got the goodgood on date 2 and i’m hooked already. we’re on high speed and I want to slow it down and stop having sex and develop the friendship more, but he’s like “no we’ve already started sexing; we cant stop now.” is it silly of me to want to slow down now?

By New Poster.........(not demi)

June 26, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

My girlfriend has left me and I miss her a lot…I really don’t understand why. I have a lot going for myself…I have the Benz, house, great career, and A-1-A credit.

I’ve only slept with her mom and a few cousins, so I really don’t see what the problem was…I was just being a man and I am sooooooooooooooooooooooo sorry to have hurt at woman.

Now I really miss her….

I promise Imma stay out of these streets I promise You’ll never be hurt by me I promise To be the n-i-g Cause all along you can get at me I promise That wasn’t in my head I promise You ain’t gotta worry about me No more, no more Girl just believes, I promise…

=======>>>Note: We will only tolerate 1 dumb a$$ new blogger today and that is ME!!!

By AmazonRed

June 26, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

As for me personally, let’s see. I did get hit by the thunderbolt last year and had a whirlwind romance. But it did fizzle out. I do wonder had we moved slower if it would have stuck.

So I’ve slowed it down and man of the hour and I are moving like molasses. I can’t really complain because I feel this is the way it should be, and I’m able to see him for what he is without sex clouding my judgement.

Atl Lady - All I’ve got is silence over here! LOL

By Kym aka Contessa of Rapturous Delights

June 26, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this

SlimA few of the volunteer parents were actually couples who were teen parents themselves I would volunteer my baby..the setup is well supervisors and there are cameras watching them. Was the one crying about the belly. the one from Houston or San Diego?..I missed the first half but those two girls right there need all the birth control they can find. What got me was the one girl who really, really, wanted a baby and her boyfriend didn’t from New Hampshire-I think. She was upset because the baby was responding more to him than her. But Houston took the cake when she told the baby fine..don’t eat then. Like you said it shows they are not mature enough to handle a baby.

By Blue Kolla

June 26, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

What up Peeps?!

2C mano y mano You ain’t have to call the chick a dumb bytch though.

Staceye I’ll play the Man role, cop role, masked-bandit role, pick-you-up-at-the-bar role, cat-burglar climb-in-your-window-at-night role, and a host of others, but I ain’t hardly ‘bout to get dominated NO broad.

…now LMAO at Mr. 260 on all fours, all leashed up as Staceye smacks him with a whip. Them the dudes that yoll females need to suspect for the DL. SMH

Cee I’m starving. Send your runner over with to my spot with a large plate of your finest breakfast. And tell him there’s an extra $5 if he can make it by 10:55.

On Topic:

Gemini *I think I would rather be with someone who took their time to get to know me and really have fun, than someone who was all about rushing and being fast paced.

Truth When you meet a chick that’s just real cool to hang with you’re not in as much of a hurry to sleep with her.

I heard this same thing that Gemini is talking about, and since I was digging the chick I was on that chill mode that Truth talks about. But then came all of the questions and basically slim wanted me to commit to a full-on, we-are-one relationship… after not even a month. Needless to say I was a bit confused. All of that want a friend, taking-my-time talk is like parsley on the side of the steak - looks good, tastes bad, and doesn’t do sh!t for the steak.

By A. Nony Mouse.

June 26, 2008 10:52 AM | Link to this

New Poster, maybe you should get a Jag. I bet that would do it for you.

By Cemeeli

June 26, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this

Lol @ 2C imma have to watch you sitting over here with me today i see.

I can’t really complain because I feel this is the way it should be, and I’m able to see him for what he is.

…slower is better…yep…

By The Truth

June 26, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this

Nothing clever sex is like working, once you start it you can’t stop. Don’t try to get him off the booty. Just incorporate more out of bed activities. Try spending a day on the city and then bring him home and gap those legs. LOL BTW, if you try to pull back the booty and he’s a stand up fella he’s going to bolt, as he should. Whatever’s going on in your head can’t overrule your performance. Punks listen to your words, stand up cats look at your production.

By AmazonRed

June 26, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

Blogsville, we need to strike a truce on that XXXXXXX situation. It is what it is.

Now that we know what it feeds on, we can defeat it. Maybe with no attention it will go away. Free to stalk unsuspecting inmates and small animals. LOL

By Bre'

June 26, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

On topic

Even when you think you know what direction things are headed its not always so. Men and women have such different ways of communicating, even being up front at the start can change down the road. Slow or fast I just think two people really just have to be in the same lane on the same highway from the jump.

By SlimOne

June 26, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

Kym Yeah I know they are highly supervised w/ In-house nanny’s too but it would be hard to watch as a parent. The chick that was like Fine don’t eat then, seems to have given up ever since the mother came over there. The mother just told her to be patient, she didn’t call her a dumb bytch..she just took it too personally. The one doing all the crying over wearing the suit, i have no idea where she’s from.

By Foots

June 26, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

Nothing Clever So, do you actually go out or does every encounter lead to sex because you’re always in the house? What’s wrong with scheduling a date outside of the house and having him pick you up, drop you off, and not stay overnight? That would slow it down some…

So you actually feel like the development of friendship stops once you have sex? As far as I’m concerned, sometimes, it clears the tension out of the way so that the focus isn’t on just THAT anymore, the focus can be on enjoying each other’s company. Maybe that’s the 30s talking…

By Beautiful

June 26, 2008 11:03 AM | Link to this

slower is better yes it is.

By Cemeeli

June 26, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Blue sorry all Miss Cee got on her truck from this morning are some woom Krispy Kremes, milk, coffee and smoothies.

Now if you wait like 30min or so, we got these sausage dogs and chicken wings coming hot off the grill for lunch. Now I showed my girl QC how to hook them bakedbeans with syrup, onion and bbq sauce…gotta check on that and get this slaw and cake on the table.

mytwo…now I know you didn’t just get the Dang Thang started coming in her with the brown bag.

By Foots

June 26, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

Bre Slow or fast I just think two people really just have to be in the same lane on the same highway from the jump.

Agreed. I have definitely been in situations where I’ve known that we were not on the same page and tried to go along to get along anyway. Which deprives both people of having what they really want. I don’t think there is anything wrong with determining what someone is looking for when you first meet them, so you know what you’re dealing with. If it doesn’t suit you, you can move on with no problems.

By The Melo

June 26, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

Blogsville, we need to strike a truce on that Beautiful situation u right about that..some crazyies have committed suicide coz of blog fights,this is a tragedy waiting to happen. nothing clever u are more into 2nd guy coz of the goodgood,ur head is spinning, thats why,typical women phenomena after sex…. On topic,slow is always good.A lot of times the one who wants things to move quick is watching their own biological clock and not really cognizant of how they are destroying a potentially good relationship in the process by trying to rush stuff.If he approached u initialy, and he seems to be a good guy, let him lead and just observe to see how and where he wants to take this.The moment u start fretting and try to rush and claim before he has said so, he will bolt.At least that was my stance when i dated.The other reason some end up trying to speed things is becoz of that knack to quickly want to impress by giving it up……Once he tastes it, believe me, u are more likely to want to mover faster than he does,and yet u hardly know each other.When i had the fortune to get that early, i took that ofcourse,but i never wanted to be rushed based on that. I have never wanted to enter into a relationship that seemed like somebody had set an agenda,that read TRAP.

By The Truth

June 26, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

foots As far as I’m concerned, sometimes, it clears the tension out of the way so that the focus isn’t on just THAT anymore, the focus can be on enjoying each other’s company. I’ve been feeling alot of tension between us. I’ll be over at 8 to take care of that. LOL

By Gemini

June 26, 2008 11:07 AM | Link to this

Foots I agree with you that my friend at least did have indication that he was interested because they talked regularly and went out at least once a week. I do believe there is a thing as too slow, but a lot of the times in the beginning I think its just because we’re just trying to get to know a person better before we anticipate that next move.

Truth you might be on to something. I think its great when you meet someone and have a good time hanging out with them without having that feeling that all they want to do is get you naked, lol. You can tell if someone is interested on just a friend level or if they’re intersted romantically and just taking their time to get to know you better as a person.

By Kym aka Contessa of Rapturous Delights

June 26, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this

Slim I know right? She went upstairs and fell on the bed crying. Then when they got the baby mail about going to work..her boyfriend said so what do you want to do..she was like I’m going to work..I don’t want to deal with the baby anymore because of the mother. The boyfriend looked so sad..he is really trying to make it work but he has a alley bat for a girlfriend. They were all so hyped about growing up. Now I will give the young black couple props. The guy said I will put the crib up you go rest to his girlfriend I thought that was very manly of him.

By New Poster.........(not demi)

June 26, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this

A. Nony Mouse Jags are for Bishes’n’f*…Me no do no Jags…No nana no no no no nooooooo

By mytwocents

June 26, 2008 11:11 AM | Link to this

My enthusiasm will grow or taper based on the level of energy I get back. Indifference is only a few lackluster convos - texts - interactions away.

Bre Let’s us start bonding NOW! Then next time I’m in the city we’ll have a slumber party n pick our spas, hotels, historical sites…You wanna take the lead on identifying Int’l Retail Therapy locations?

Cee Uncle Jitterbug & Aunt Betty Jean luv u enuff to keep that growing boy for another 3 wks while we gone next Spring? After having to feed him while you go traipsin round the nudie beach this Fall???

By Atl Lady

June 26, 2008 11:12 AM | Link to this

Cee I’ll be over there ‘round 11 for the bbq and beans. I’ve got some tupperware instead of a brown bag. Is that ok? How much I owe ya?

By Cherry

June 26, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

Hello all..oh this is so me but not in dating. I dont plan it but most my relationships(committed ones at that) seems to never last past a year. It seems like Im ready to move on the closer it gets to that 1 year mark. Anyone else experience this. I almost to a year with my SO now & I dont see us making it lol.

By SeanJohnson3000

June 26, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

@ Never Clever…thanks for keeping it real in your post…most females are in situations like yours where they are dating 2 mean at one time yet wont admit it…Truth gave you some sound advise..but be careful….in situations like yours when you all of a sudden cut the honey off…it messes things up….and you have to wonder when and if the dudes start doing the things you like him to ..such as getting to know you ..and actual dating…whether he is doing it because he really likes you…or is doing it to continue getting the sx

By QC

June 26, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this

Cee-me-me, i got the beans on a slow simmer…they’re gonna be great…now who’s making the dranks?

By SeanJohnson3000

June 26, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

@ Never Clever…thanks for keeping it real in your post…most females are in situations like yours where they are dating 2 mean at one time yet wont admit it…Truth gave you some sound advise..but be careful….in situations like yours when you all of a sudden cut the honey off…it messes things up….and you have to wonder when and if the dudes start doing the things you like him to ..such as getting to know you ..and actual dating…whether he is doing it because he really likes you…or is doing it to continue getting the sx

By Cemeeli

June 26, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

2C oh this brown bag from mytwo was brought in especially for the ppl in the Lounge area, says it’s top shelf. wonder where that came from

mytwo okay traipsin*. I’m trying to make sure we have enough room for my extra large carry on.

AtlLady of course you can have some bakedbeans and q. I always make enough.

By QC

June 26, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

Slower is always better…what’s the rush…why rush into something they might just last FOREVER

Make it last forever..everrr..ooooooooo ohhh just make it…Ok now i have that Keith Sweat song in my head

By AmazonRed

June 26, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

When you meet a chick that’s just real cool to hang with you’re not in as much of a hurry to sleep with her. Just hanging is cool. However, one day you look at that azz and nature kicks in again. How long that takes varies.

Truth - That is good to know. I hope this is the case in my current situation. I do know that we tease each other a lot. I upped the anti by sending him a racy pic via text message the other night. Now I no longer can go over there after dark unless I am prepared to be mauled. LOL

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

June 26, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this

PornStar 6’1 here is ya Pepsi chica, sorry I am so late…..this training ish is a mess

Dont know what the topic is but I did manage to skim and see that some of you all watched the show with the teens taking over for parents. I couldnt believe some of what I saw but they are teenagers. Some were more mature and concerned than others. I didnt think I would watch but it was interesting

Hello to all of Blogsville, I normally speak to everyone first but I’m rushing so forgive me. I’ll pop in later

By Foots

June 26, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this

Truth You stoopid!! LOL!

Gemini I think its great when you meet someone and have a good time hanging out with them without having that feeling that all they want to do is get you naked, lol.

You definitely don’t want to feel like that’s ALL he wants to do. But I certainly want to feel like he is attracted enough to want to do that, among other things. Shoot, when I meet somebody, being the human that I am, I’m thinking along both of those lines: It would be so much fun to go to the park, watch movies, go to the beach, museum, have picnics, just sit and talk, etc. with this person/I wonder what he’s working with… I think that’s pretty natural. I hope it is, anyway…

By Alvin

June 26, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

@6’1

Permecito, senorita, mamacita Mira mira, what’s your name? Maria Same as mi tia, de Colombia I don’t, in Atlanta, Georgia And you don’t think I got nuttin for ya? You must be crazy I’m out here tryin to feed my baby Lil Bre, can’t you see? Sheeyit Do it one more time, sheeyit

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

June 26, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

Oh so you guys are here huh? I wa stsill posting on the old one…oh well…

Truth go make your own d*mn food! LOL

On Topic I have been caught up in the new fast paced romance. It was great…we had so much in common and spent about 4 days a week together (I am usually a once a week dater)..the flying by the seat of my pants thing. Then all of a sudden…somebody cut my parachute and I felt like I was falling rapidly, and as an asthmatic I could not catch my breath. And then suddenly…I hit the ground! But instead of dying…I lived and had to feel the pain of all my injuries with NO PAINKILLERS! So, that was the final performance in the relationship’s theatrical venue. I bowed out…let the curtains close and the lights go out! Staceye has left the building!

By Alvin

June 26, 2008 11:29 AM | Link to this

I almost to a year with my SO now & I dont see us making it lol.

Wow, such negative thoughts…

By Blue Kolla

June 26, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

Cee Now if you wait like 30min or so, we got these sausage dogs and chicken wings…

Just tell me that you don’t pronounce that, sow-shis dow-gh. The first time I heard that I was like, “WTF, is a sow-shis dow-gh?!” That still cracks me up. LMAO

By Bre'

June 26, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

Sounds like a plan 2cents. I think I can do most of the planning in 6 months..and be ready to go. I need a no drama type person to travel with. I seem to always pick the friends that are low on funds, start to be like I want to go to changing there mind at the last minute type crap. I went all the way to Australia the first time alone and had a blast. I have zero issue with going around the world by myself. Life is meant to live and I be darn if I miss out….because someone else can’t do something. IS that selfish?

By Atl Lady

June 26, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

QC I’ll bring Sweet tea with lemons on the side. Some Lemon-limeade (special recipe) and some Fantas.

Cherry It’s not going to last because you’re already looking forward to it ending. The calendar is written on your heart and mind so it’s keeping track. If you want it last longer than a year, you’re going to change your actions.

By Raqi

June 26, 2008 11:31 AM | Link to this

I guess expiration dates depends on why the two are together in the first place.

My dad raised us according to the “you date to marry” law book, so for someone with those beliefs I would say they would have an idea of how long they are willing to wait for marriage to happen before the relationship expires.

Then you have those of us who date seeking an exclusive life companion. And in that you also would eventually stumble upon an expected deadline.

But for someone who dates just to date then no, no expiration dates. The nature of that relationship can carry on as is indefinitely.

That’s why it is extremely important to know who you are dating and they are looking for.

By The Melo

June 26, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this

As far as I’m concerned, sometimes, it clears the tension out of the way so that the focus isn’t on just THAT anymore, i dont know how u can rally rationalize on that point.Im thinking if u see somebody attrative,hot etc and u’re interested in them and they are into u too,u both want to get into bed right away.There will always be sexxual tension…hw do u get that outa the way but still be able rationalze that he/she wants u for the long haul and they will still be equally interested after sex……

By QC

June 26, 2008 11:33 AM | Link to this

Thanks Atl Lady

We need some, i’m gonna go upstairs and get some “crushed ice” it’s easier to swallow :)

By Alvin

June 26, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

QC I’ve been out all night, I will be more than happy to fix all the drinks.

Now watering down all the drinks, while marking up the prices.

By 2CPTG©

June 26, 2008 11:35 AM | Link to this

*”2C mano y mano You ain’t have to call the chick a dumb bytch though.”8

And you absolutely right, kinfolk! Here I am telling folks to maintain, and what not, and I’m trippin’!!! Shyt just got me riled cause lil mama tried to make some’n outta absolutely othin’, know what I’m tombout!…like I really tried to come at her….but you right, and for that I was wrong……but lil mama, I cain’t even fvck wit you no mo!…….you on some bullshyt fa real!

By Bre'

June 26, 2008 11:39 AM | Link to this

Hello Alvin I hope all is well…

By Kym aka Contessa of Rapturous Delights

June 26, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

Truth you will be happy to know the SCOTUS ruled in favor of the 2nd amendment..so your right to bare arms is security my friend.

By QC

June 26, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

Thanks Demi can you make me a Mojito?

By Kym aka Contessa of Rapturous Delights

June 26, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this

lawd that should have read “Right to bare arms is secure.”

I need a nap

By The Melo

June 26, 2008 11:44 AM | Link to this

Staceye hw old are u..?

By 2CPTG©

June 26, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

and to the lil lady tombout she got two dudes…..and she in a dilemma and all’at….nah!!!….fellas, y’all know what it is….every female got two niqqas, one named, dyck, and one named money!…notice, ‘ol girl said she and dude #1 go out to nice spots on the regular….while dude number two beat it up on date #2!! prolly after Dave & Buster’s, or some’n small change like that……….ain’t no dilemma….gal, you know what’s up!

By Not So Interested

June 26, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this

Once upon a time I was a relationship counselor but had to give it up because too many times the obvious wasn’t so obvious to my clients. Right now I know of three people whose relationships have been moving ssllloooowwwww, and I’ve told them all to move on, or as the old folk say ….. or get off of the pot. The first have been dating for five years, how do you date for five years? The second for four and the last one for a year and a half. I’m not saying that they need to speed things up, but there has to be some commitment to either a life long friendship or a permanent relationship. Two of the three have not been totally honest with their partners and have “tipped out”, while the other says he hasn’t, but I think he has. What ever happened to marriage? I know people take their time to “figure” each other out, but if tiy haven’t learned in 5 years whether or not tiy want to make it permanent then something is wrong. Yes there are other factors that might come into play as to why there has been no commitment, but of course no one cares to admit them because from my experience, most are just plain old excuses. Remember what our grandmother’s used to say, “Why by the cow if you can get the milk for free?”

By Blue Kolla

June 26, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this

Ared I upped the anti by sending him a racy pic via text message the other night. Now I no longer can go over there after dark unless I am prepared to be mauled. LOL

What’d I tell you about being cocky and arrogant? LOL But for real though. Now if this dude has any smoothness, he won’t even make a play for the p@ssy; and your mind is going to be fugged up. Believe that.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

June 26, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

I think its great when you meet someone and have a good time hanging out with them without having that feeling that all they want to do is get you naked To bad that never happens for me. I must attract horndogs! UGH!

By Raqi

June 26, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

Kym you need a nap??? I’m the one. It was after 1:30 when those folks left my house last night…this morning…you know what I mean. And then I had to be to work at 6:30 this morning. Thankfully my friend Doc and her hubby were one of the couples there so they helped clean up afterwards. But I still didn’t get to bed until almost 3am. Talk about needing a nap.

I need to adopt a new dinner party rule. “The expiration date of this party will be 7 hours before the time I have to be in to work the following morning.” Yeah I think I put that on my front door.

By Alvin

June 26, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

Bre’ Imma done bey, out all night with folks from out of town…I am fighting to stay awake.

QC they make Mojo drinks now?

Awwwwwwwwww skeet skeet skeet got dayum

By Beautiful

June 26, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

as i stated yesterday, (thanks Raqi and Foots for your reply) i am excited about the future, but what’s most important is us connecting together harmoniously on life issues: family, god, money, etc. and of course, we both will see if we’re right for each other over time, courting. i can wait … waiting.

if you don’t know, now you know … i’m a big friendly blog flirt. whoever chooses to play will get caught, but why regret? it’s all innocent and on a blog for christ sake! i’m way in CA now. it’s all in fun only. i don’t want to marry you! i don’t know you.

lurkin’

By Alvin

June 26, 2008 12:02 PM | Link to this

2CPTG© but it’s dude number one who is disrepecting himself the most in the whole deal…She knows there is no relationship chance with dude number two.

By Raqi

June 26, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

“I’m not saying that they need to speed things up,…”

Speed things up to where? Have either expressed where they are trying to get to, if any where. That’s what I said in my first post, not every one date to marry or even to have an exclusive relationship. So maybe at least on of those couples are where they want to be. In a long term not committed relationship. It’s the times we are living in.

That’s why I said earlier you need to know the expectations of the person you are dating.

By Blue Kolla

June 26, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

2 …notice, ‘ol girl said she and dude #1 go out to nice spots on the regular….while dude number two beat it up on date #2!! prolly after Dave & Buster’s, or some’n small change like that……….ain’t no dilemma….gal, you know what’s up!

dapps When I was reading that all I could think about was Raheem the Dream talkin’ ‘bout “Hell Naah…” …that means I do the cut-tin, you let him do the spen-din…

New Blogger with the Benz, crib, cashflow, and all’at Man you might want to pick that joint up and study it. ^^^

By 2CPTG©

June 26, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

Confession:…..I’m friends with the Mormons…..but dammit, I’m tired or their azzes! Raqi, I feel ya ‘bout folks don’t wanna leave……mayne, I messed around and let ‘em in the house one time, and they ain’t stopped comin since….we chopped it up about the bible and their beliefs and stuff, but man, them cats just pop up….they did that shyt last night…..and how ‘bout I went to the door with a beer and was like, nah….this ain’t even the time…..“well, brother 2, can we plan to come back next week…”

By The Melo

June 26, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this

Now I no longer can go over there after dark unless I am prepared to be mauled Was that just an innocent thing or u were sending him a message that hes being slow in exploring that route….

By Beautiful

June 26, 2008 12:06 PM | Link to this

and russ, dude Beautiful means what’s on the inside.

By Thick 6

June 26, 2008 12:06 PM | Link to this

2CPTG

What’s the beef? There has got to be away i can get you back to your pre-Beautiful self. I know her “infatuation for attention” makes you go back to your Sixth Street days, but don’t let the irksome get to you.

Beautiful next time think about who you’re dealing with before you go on your attention hunt.

By Raqi

June 26, 2008 12:09 PM | Link to this

LOL 2CPTG. I didn’t know the Mormons did that. Now the Jehovah Witnesses. Man, now those folks don’t take no for an answer. If you don’t answer the door they be looking all in your window like “i can see hiding behind that wall.”

By 2CPTG©

June 26, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this

Alvin….I already know….dude #1, fell for her attractiveness, and tryin to buy the goods, while dude #2, just came straight at her, and she fell for it, and he put it on her azz….whle dude #1 got the coochie offa happenstance…..

By Cherry

June 26, 2008 12:13 PM | Link to this

@Atl Lady (Cherry It’s not going to last because you’re already looking forward to it ending. The calendar is written on your heart and mind so it’s keeping track. If you want it last longer than a year, you’re going to change your actions.) LOL

By Blue Kolla

June 26, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

To bad that never happens for me. I must attract horndogs! UGH!

Same ol’ Staceye… sigh

Thick 6 Demask, unmask, take off that hood, gimme dat wig. LMAO

By Kym aka Contessa of Rapturous Delights

June 26, 2008 12:16 PM | Link to this

Raqi/2C I always open the door and say yes? then I smile and say no thank you. Well let us leave you with this pamphlet. No thank you. Have a nice day. And then close the door. May sound rude but I said No Thank you twice.

By Cemeeli

June 26, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

Atl Lady n QC, what is the deal? Yall got skills.

Atl - If you want it last longer than a year, you’re going to change your actions. I’m cold stamping that one.

@Blue stop talking about my family. Took me a minute to figure out what you were saying. Lol

It is funny how folks say that. But nah…it’s Bratwursts and fixins today.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

June 26, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

melo a lady never reveals her age! LOL

Blue* you know me man….

By Alvin

June 26, 2008 12:22 PM | Link to this

2CPTG© yeah. If she was real honest, she will admit she has little or no respect for dude #1 who was simply buying her pdussy…she just need to hit dude#1 up for mortage payments, LOL…his dumb a$$

Blue K. you did see…New Blogger….(not demi) right? LOL.

By PornStar* in da Building (**6'1**)

June 26, 2008 12:22 PM | Link to this

Staceye that is what I am currently experiencing and I must say ol’ dude had me on such a high, now that I have fell. I am having Ray Charles type of withdrawal symptoms.

By Alvin

June 26, 2008 12:28 PM | Link to this

Raqi/2C when I was young and dumb, I just opened the door while loading a clip…I am so glad I’ve wisin up!!

STUPID!!!

By Cemeeli

June 26, 2008 12:29 PM | Link to this

2C uhm…you can not sit in here talking like that. I’on know if the Mormons are Dude #1 and Dude #2…stop asking me if i saw them leave her house. Lol

Blue you’re eating now. Where’s my $5?…Lol @ Demask…does that correlates w/ Deplane? dang!

By Foots

June 26, 2008 12:30 PM | Link to this

melo I’m talking about somebody who you want to BE with versus somebody you just want to DO. If all you want is sex, you want that on day 1 and day 150, if you haven’t gotten it yet. But I’m not talking about sex-only FWB situations. I’m talking about relationships in which sex is a part.

If you have NOT had sex yet, and the couple is sexually attracted to each other, the focus is on sex. Focusing on NOT having sex is still focusing on sex. Trying to hold off is still focusing on sex. Planning every last date away from home so that sex doesn’t happen is still focusing on sex. It’s like white noise in the background of everything else going on if that chemistry is there.

That’s why I say that, sometimes, clearing up that sexual tension so that the focus can be elsewhere is good (for mature audiences only though).

By Willie Dynamite

June 26, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

Afternoon All,

On-Topic: As a dude if you feeling a chick its very important to pay attention. Adjust your game to the situation. Some chicks need/want to be pursued and have that time delay built in. Some chicks are Azz Is. Pay attention on the first few drink dates or whatever and you can get a feel for what she likes. For the most part if you are in tune with whats going on the chick will let you know if you too slow or too fast. At that point its up to you depending on how much you digging her to go with the flow or throw a change-up at her.

2C 11:35 was real Grown Man of you.

Good call BK on the 11:47. Thats the curveball that’ll have the knees buckling. Most chicks arent prepared for that. You giving the game up.

By C tha 1

June 26, 2008 12:36 PM | Link to this

Nothing Clever’s situation is the reason you can’t be nice … you either go hard or go home … or simply end up like dude #1.

By Blue Kolla

June 26, 2008 12:39 PM | Link to this

Demi Blue K. you did see…New Blogger….(not demi) right? LOL.

Man I saw it, but by the time I got around to posting I had forgotten that it was you saying that.

But check it, according to Wise, there are 100k lurkers reading this, so out of those there are at least 20 <=== (being real conservative there) Steak Dinner Daddy’s reading who need that tip.

By nothing clever

June 26, 2008 12:42 PM | Link to this

2c actually both of my guys have money and they both take me on fab dates. they’re both “spending” but only one’s “cutting”. i should drop dude 1 but i feel like i should give him a reason for the breakup. at this point my only reason would be that i can’t see myself married to him. how do you breakup with someone after you’ve had an awesome makeout session and nothing else has gone wrong?

By The Melo

June 26, 2008 12:44 PM | Link to this

I’m talking about somebody who you want to BE with versus somebody you just want to DO i understand that part….my qs is how do u know that the other part is in it with u like that and not merely hoodwinking u to get the goods.A real player will not want to hold on for a long time but if he gets it on the 2nd date for example, he will simply call it quits and move on to the next girl, do 2 dates and move on again. Unless have some platinum sexcual package that ensures they stick around……hmmm,Foots whats up ur sleave……

By Binford2K

June 26, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

My policy is always the longer you can hold out the better.

All my long term relationships started out as friendships and morphed in to a romance. And I wouldn’t have it any other way. I knew I liked them for them and they liked me for me. Sex, while always on my brain didn’t seem to matter so much.

If I have sex right away, I’ll never know if I like them for them. At that point, I’ve morphed in to Pavlov’s Dog and I’ll just be waiting for my trough feeding.

Besides, anticipation and tension can up the ante.

If I want sex, I got numbers for that. Anything else, I’ll take the slow and steady road for.

By The Truth

June 26, 2008 12:49 PM | Link to this

Kym I read that. Really they were only debating if the victims could carry a gun because the crooks can whether it’s legal or not. The laws have really been shifting to give joe blow more freedom to protect himself. In five years we’ll be able to call a cat out for a gunfight like in the old days.

Bre I have zero issue with going around the world by myself. Life is meant to live and I be darn if I miss out….because someone else can’t do something. IS that selfish? I like you. Nah, it’s not selfish. BTW, my passport is good till 2010 so let me know whats up. LOL

By 2CPTG©

June 26, 2008 12:49 PM | Link to this

“how do you breakup with someone after you’ve had an awesome makeout session and nothing else has gone wrong?”

Gal……read what you just wrote! nothing has gone wrong??? Gal, you fvckin another dude! Hell, what’s so right, about you and dude #1…..why ain’t you tombout leavin’ dude#2? Good dyck is a helluva drug, ain’t it????

By Blue Kolla

June 26, 2008 12:51 PM | Link to this

clever Whateva. To get rid of dude #1, all you gotta do is tell that dude that while you’ve been all up in his money sack, you’ve also had some other dude’s nutz on your chin.

I can’t believe chicks are still coming up in here acting like they are so confused, when they know they’re running game and hoe’n. LOL

By Journee

June 26, 2008 12:51 PM | Link to this

“Shaniqua” pretty black girl is that non threatening attractive in a black girl way type. Ya’ll know, that according to WW - we are all suppose to be loud, heavy-set, no figure, weave-wearing, short haired, loud, bossy, “ghetto” types.

But the “Tiffany” pretty black girl defies the look & personality that they’ve stereotyped you to be, you may be more slender/fit, healthy/ longer hair, well dressed, educated, articulate, and able to catch the eye of WM.

I don’t necessarily think that its all about euro-esque features either, its just about not being the stereotype that they feel comfy around.

That confuses and intimidates them. At least from what I’ve seen and experienced.

Black men experience it as well with their WM counterparts.

By The Melo

June 26, 2008 12:53 PM | Link to this

the Dow is on crack again today..this Bush economy is really phucked up..may be better taking that 401k mney out and stuff it in a mattress smewhere untill we get the next prezz….

By Raqi

June 26, 2008 12:54 PM | Link to this

how do you breakup with someone after you’ve had an awesome makeout session and nothing else has gone wrong?

Nothin’ Like this: *”…i can’t see myself married to him (you).”

By RuffRyda

June 26, 2008 12:57 PM | Link to this

MELO I bet when you walk at night your feet glow in the dark and leave rainbow trails

Your farts probably smell like skittles and lube

By 2CPTG©

June 26, 2008 12:57 PM | Link to this

“My policy is always the longer you can hold out the better”

…..and this is why you are called, binford!….

By The Melo

June 26, 2008 12:57 PM | Link to this

also had some other dude’s nutz on your chin

By Foots

June 26, 2008 12:58 PM | Link to this

melo Let’s go back to what Bre said earlier: Slow or fast I just think two people really just have to be in the same lane on the same highway from the jump. And what Raqi said earlier: That’s why it is extremely important to know who you are dating and they are looking for. And what I said earlier: I don’t think there is anything wrong with determining what someone is looking for when you first meet them, so you know what you’re dealing with.

I’m talking about two people who agree that they want something real and are trying for it together.

Real players don’t have to lie. They can say straight up, I’m not looking for anything serious right now. Actually, not only players say that, regular dudes say it too, if that’s not what they want. They’ve already let you know what they want.

Again, I’m talking about two mature people who want a relationship with each other. You’re talking about folks scheming, only out for azz, and leaving when they get it. We’re on two different pages.

By The Truth

June 26, 2008 12:58 PM | Link to this

2C and BK you 2 mf’ers got me rolling over here. That is the common I fell on his dizznyck act which has been thrown out in courts all over the country. She should be on that black hoe truck down in Miami (take a look at those pics). Thing is a chick that slings azz like John Wayne slings pistols gets offended when you call her a hoe, or worse yet, treat her like one. SMH

By SlimOne

June 26, 2008 12:59 PM | Link to this

Never Clever If you aren’t feeling dude #1, why are you continuing to go out with him, making out with him etc? Honestly.

By Bre'

June 26, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

People please trust in the truth we are in a recession…its going to get worse before it gets better. Don’t believe me holla at Warren Buffet…

Truth I’m ready to go trust me, this is no just talking going on. I get 8 weeks of vacation every year..taking 3 off to fly around the world is about to be on and popping.(im getting old, did i just say on and popping)

By Willie Dynamite

June 26, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

Clever Ion think you really want to tell Sponsor #1. Obviously if he hadnt figured it out yet, when you do tell him he’ll prolly just want to go out and buy you sumthin nice (typical). Sad part is that dude #2 already know the deal and will be out after a few more hits. The same shyt you doing to Sponsor #1 is being done to you. Then in a month you’ll be hollering bout dude #2 a dog. This game dont suffer no fools!!!

By Jamoca

June 26, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

Wassup, you ALL!

This topic sure does bring back some memories….even where there may have been (at least) two scenarios that I wish I would have used my better judgment (but “shudda, cudda, wudda…”).

I can’t say that I have ever grown “bored” w/ a man because he didn’t seem as excited about getting to know me and vice versa, so that was not the case (in most situations, but not all). Usually it boiled down to something that was done or said, that I just “wasn’t with”, PERIOD….and gradually I was turned off or dulled-out….OR…(in reference to a relationship that moved too quickly - we simply “exhausted the possibilities” (physically)…yeah, I took that one….found no better way to describe it.

It all depends on what the both of you are “in it” for – which is best to be put out there up front. Too fast – is a negative, too slow – is a negative….just as long as things are moving thorough and steady (for the BOTH of us) when it comes to a relationship that I seek to be of substance, does this guarantee it’ll work? Nope, but I’ll take my chances…jmo.

By lurker

June 26, 2008 1:04 PM | Link to this

ain’t nothing wrong with running game and hoe’n if that’s who you are and w