By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 7, 2008 8:10 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All and Welcome Blanca!

I think we all have a internal warning systemthat screams DANGER(INSERT YOUR NAME HERE)DANGER!! But sometimes we are so caught up in the good time of it all that we failed to see the flashing lights and railway warning signal lights. I know I have some heavy…heavy..heavy regrets about dating and or having sex with some guys but I believe everything happens for a reason…if nothing else but to serve as a warning to others. See what can happen if you don’t pay attention. We live, love, laugh and learn.

By AmazonRed

July 7, 2008 8:10 AM | Link to this

Welcome Blanca!!!. You are already off to a good start. The blog opened on time! I hope we don’t run you off screaming.

This part, however, may pose a problem: It seems the more I date, the less I know, and that’s where you all come in. I’m hoping you can give me the wisdom I’ll surely need as I continue on the quest for the proverbial true love. Except for a very select few of us, it’s the blind leading the blind on here! :-P

I’m getting blog topic deja vu. Oh yeah, we talked about this in November http://www.accessatlanta.com/blogs/content/shared-blogs/ajc/dating/entries/2007/11/27/unfinished.html But I guess enough time has passed to talk about this again!

Tough room yes, but welcome. Stick to your guns and you’ll be fine!

Good morning to the rest of the blog! I hope everyone had a fabulous holiday!

By Raqi

July 7, 2008 8:19 AM | Link to this

Welcome Blanca

By GaMan

July 7, 2008 8:23 AM | Link to this

Good Morning and Welcome Blanca

By SexyLeggs

July 7, 2008 8:44 AM | Link to this

Good morning Blogsville.

Welcome Blanca. Looking forward to your topics.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, TERESA. Hope you have a great and glorious day!

By SlimOne

July 7, 2008 9:06 AM | Link to this

Welcome Blanca

Blogsville, we’re getting off to a slow start I see. Will smell ya’ll later

By GaMan

July 7, 2008 9:08 AM | Link to this

GaMan looks around….trying to see where all of the regulars are

Truth…Mo…ForReal…Stayece(sp)…QC…RandyT(just joking)

Hey A-Red,Raqi,Sexyleggs

By Blow Me......PLEASE blow me!!

July 7, 2008 9:09 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All

BLOW is back in the hizouse!!

Happy Birthday Teresa a.k.a T-Money!! Truth owes you your birthday licks…I hear he is the best in the business…Oh yeah can’t forget about Alvin/Demi

Woman do not need red flags..When tend to over think and analzye things too much. Men usually UNDERthink alot of situations..That’s why they get into relationships that never should have been and women ruin relationships for thinking too much. Just fuggin relax and get a shot of this CIROC…Drink and be merry..it’s really time out for the B.S.

OH yea!! BLANCA (welcome to THE JUNGLE…..now playing in the back ground)

Blanca You are in for a serious…bumpy, crazy, deranged….off the chain ride…Enjoy yo self…Ppl on here on opinionated and sweet at the same time. We fight, We cuss, we hug, we drink together, some of us are probably sleepin together..lol..But we still iz together…..BLOG HUG EVERYONE…oh yeah Truth don’t go so hard on her the first day…..Guys be soft on her for the first week.

One last thing Blanca word of advice…..If you plan on making this a smooth copasetic. Whatever you do..Open the Blog on time….These ppl will rip you a new a*******hole if you don’t…including me. But go get em TIGER!!! lol!

By SexyLeggs

July 7, 2008 9:11 AM | Link to this

As far as the “red flag” theory goes, we have all had that gut feeling that we ignored. It’s certainly a part of dating. When this is done, hopefully something was learned. I did something my gut told me not to do. I asked a guy out for drinks and a bite to eat. By doing this I was going to pay since I initiated the date. Well, he was glad I called and said yes. We had a set time. He was to meet me at my place. I waited for awhile then resigned that this date would not take place. He called me 3 hrs. later to see what I was doing and if I wanted company….CLICK! My gut told me when I first made the phone call, not to do it!!!!

By 2CPTG©

July 7, 2008 9:15 AM | Link to this

morning y’all…….

ya know, while we’re (y’all) welcoming the new moderator and all….methinks it’s kinda unfair to Diva…she’s gotta keep coming up with fresh shyt, while they replace theirs periodically, and it’s the same stuff all over again…….Red Flags?

By AmazonRed

July 7, 2008 9:16 AM | Link to this

Good morning GaMan.. Thanks for the shout.

Happy Birthday Teresa.

LOL @ Blow Me’s post.

By SexyLeggs

July 7, 2008 9:21 AM | Link to this

Good morning GAMan. How’s it hanging…oops, how are things going (LOL)?

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

July 7, 2008 9:23 AM | Link to this

Morning All! Welcome Blanca

Hope everyone had a great holiday!

BRB need to get a pepsi

By M.

July 7, 2008 9:32 AM | Link to this

@SexyLeggs

I waited for awhile then resigned that this date would not take place

What made you decide this?

I think the gut feeling situation I had was meeting a girl at a bar and then heading to the next spot with her. Something told me that I should just relax, but I felt like partying and had no one to hang with so we jump in the car, head out to Flambeaux to hang out and everything was cool….so I thought…The next thing I know she goes to the bathroom and comes back sayin…I just got a text message from my ex boyfriend and he is coming up here. You need to LEAVE! He is crazy and Im like why did I know this would happen…Drama…

By Bit-O-Hunny

July 7, 2008 9:34 AM | Link to this

Morning Blogsville and welcome BLANCA!! I think we all see the flags, but stick around b/c we falsely assume that we can “change” a person, and/or because there is no one else to entertain the needyness.

By M.

July 7, 2008 9:37 AM | Link to this

@SexyLeggs

I waited for awhile then resigned that this date would not take place

What made you decide this?

I think the gut feeling situation I had was meeting a girl at a bar and then heading to the next spot with her. Something told me that I should just relax, but I felt like partying and had no one to hang with so we jump in the car, head out to Flambeaux to hang out and everything was cool….so I thought…The next thing I know she goes to the bathroom and comes back sayin…I just got a text message from my ex boyfriend and he is coming up here. You need to LEAVE! He is crazy and Im like why did I know this would happen…Drama…

By Raqi

July 7, 2008 9:40 AM | Link to this

While seemingly unfair, it is a task Diva continues to choose to take on. When Bella announced her departure I already assumed that we would get mostly repeats. There are only so many different dating happenings that can take place. It’s all in how it is presented. Diva’s entries chime about 10 years more mature than all the past moderators. So even if she doubles back on one of theirs it comes off with a different perspective.

But yeah…

By GaMan

July 7, 2008 9:40 AM | Link to this

Sexyleggs it’s hanging…lolol how have you ma….

2C you are right…I come back and Bam new person….I was like where is Bella

I hope you all had a great 4th

By The Truth

July 7, 2008 9:44 AM | Link to this

Happy Birthday Teresa. I’d love to put you over my knee and tear that azz up. If you like it rough drop me a line.

Blanca Welcome to blog hell. My advice, try to have fun because you won’t be learning much in this camp about dating. The same dsyfuncional folks you meet on the street are in here blogging. LMAO

Don’t take this personal but AJC is fuggin up. I can see why their circulation is dropping. We didn’t need another female moderator, we needed a dude, then we can get new topics like “My girlfriend just told me she’s pregnant and I was about to tell her it’s over. Should I move to Montana or Idaho?” or “Am I justified for slapping the shyt out of this chick for mentioning marriage AGAIN?” Those would be priceless.

On a sad note, I had to bury a long term eating utensil this weekend. I dropped and cracked my favorite blue Dino Bowl. This bowl was triple sized and could hold anything short of a whole watermelon. I’ve had it for about 7 years and I’ll defintely miss it. I haven’t been this devastated since I melted down my favorite microwave plate a few years back. Now this hurts.

Good morning blogsville. Everyone wake the hellz up.

By Raqi

July 7, 2008 9:48 AM | Link to this

The ideal change would be to match Diva with a 30+ male moderator. Preferably Caucasian to add some real variance to the blend.

By AmazonRed

July 7, 2008 9:51 AM | Link to this

I guess I should get on topic today:

What do you think about my “red flag” theory? Are there times you had a gut feeling you ignored, and later regretted?

Well, I can’t say I’ve ignored red flags for too long. This is one reason that I haven’t had long term relationships. Once the red flag goes up, it’s hard for me to ignore. I break it up before the red flag turns into a train wreck of a relationship.

Some of my friends argue that I’m cutting off potential great relationships by not giving them a chance. The only chance I see is for me to kick myself later for not listening to myself earlier.

In efforts to be more tolerant, I’ve kept a guy in the picture for a few more dates than I intended. All it does is solidify my decision to get out before it gets worse.

By SlimOne

July 7, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

I agree with Truth. I feel it would be a GREAT welcome change to, if not everyday, but every other day, to have a male moderator on with male-related issues.

Truth Why don’t you be responsible for posting our daily blog topic change from male perspective? If you can’t take it on full time, would you be willing to do it a few times a week like today when we are sort of burned out on this topic of RED FLAGS????

By Foots

July 7, 2008 9:56 AM | Link to this

M. What made you decide this?

Shoot, I may be in the minority on this, but if me and a guy had a date set up and he agreed to meet me at my house, I waited for hours and he didn’t show up, I’d decide that the date wasn’t happening either.

SexyLeggs That’s jacked up. I’ve heard of forgetful, but dang. Something similar has happened to me before, so I understand. A dude that was on the outs called me and begged me to spend some time with him, whatever I wanted to do. I made the date against my better judgement, or rather, we set the date for when he would be back in town and available. That day comes and goes and he calls me like three days later. I answered the phone because I was curious about what he would say. He was like, “So, what’s up? How are you?” When I told him that he missed the date he asked me for, he was like, “Well, I was still out of town. But I promise that I’ll make it up to you.” It was funny how his phone worked while he was out of town to ask me out, but it didn’t work to cancel or acknowledge anything.

Needless to say, I never answered his calls or texts again. He sent the requisite “I never meant for things to turn out like this…I wish we could just start over” back to back novel-length texts about a month later, with no response from me. I should have remembered that he was on the outs for not keeping his word to begin with.

By kimmie

July 7, 2008 10:00 AM | Link to this

Morning blog fam! Hope everyone had a safe & happy 4th weekend.

Welcome Blanca! Do you really want to do this?

By 2CPTG©

July 7, 2008 10:00 AM | Link to this

The real shyt is happening over at the Woman to Woman blog…..”Should prostitution be legalized outside of Nevada”……

By The Melo

July 7, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

Diva’s entries chime about 10 years more mature than all the past moderators she is about 45 years in real age,but 31 or sme as Diva on blog. Hey Blayoungernca, u started bad but hopefully ull grow in the position.

By SexyLeggs

July 7, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

M, we agreed to meet at my place around 9:30-9:45. At 10:45 I mentally called it a wrap. I wasn’t dressed yet so no problem changing clothes. (I don’t put my clothes on until I’m ready to leave - don’t believe in sitting around trying not to get my clothes wrinkled). Anyway, when he called 3 hrs. later nothing needed to be said. Yes, I had to pick up the phone simply to get the satisfaction of hanging up!

BTW M, she was a fool to even tell her ex where she was (being that he’s crazy). She only did that because she wanted to be with him and not you. Sorry!

By Foots

July 7, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

Amazon Some of my friends argue that I’m cutting off potential great relationships by not giving them a chance.

This made me laugh because this weekend at the two cookouts I went to, all of my friends (and one of my girl’s mama) were like, “So, how long you gonna keep this one? You know you keep it moving if he ain’t right.” After hearing that 6 times from 6 different people, I couldn’t do anything but shake my head at myself.

It got to the point one time when I’d tell my old boss about somebody and he’d pull out his calendar to schedule the End-of-Dude Debriefing Session. He only gave me about 7 weeks each time. When my row started taking bets on how long I would keep a new guy around, I stopped telling them shyt. LOL!!

So I’m with you. I’ve had some things go wrong in the early stages, red flags I knew I couldn’t deal with, and gotten out before they became worse.

By The Truth

July 7, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

M aka The Cabbie I just got a text message from my ex boyfriend and he is coming up here. You need to LEAVE! He is crazy and Im like why did I know this would happen…Drama…

How does it feel to be a taxi cab? That chick didn’t have a boyfriend, she just saw some other cats she wanted to talk with and was trying to get rid of you. And if he did come what the fugg was he gonna do? His girl is out driving around with perfect strangers. Please tell me you didn’t leave. Even if you have to lie.

By Raqi

July 7, 2008 10:07 AM | Link to this

In Blanca’s situation that is definitely a Red Flagger. But I have found sometimes, and still do listening to others, that not all red flags are what they seem. Sometimes people tend to mentally fabricate a RF for fear of getting too deep into the relationship. Some people have gone thru so many bad relationships that they see something that is not there in a new one therefore justifying their early departure. Some people are just too darn picky and refuse to grasp the notion that no one is perfect. Not all red flags are such.

(Just trying to throw in a something different)

By KP (http://chatkafe.blogspot.com)

July 7, 2008 10:10 AM | Link to this

SlimOne, Truth cannot be the male moderator because he’ll have everyone on the blog disappointed, unhappy based on his pessimistic view of life and relationships. You know Truth thinks hope is lost for happiness in relationships.

Sup Truth :)!

By GaMan

July 7, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this

Truth another good male topic would be

Why are Church women crazy as Hellz

Why DO women want you to have ABC when she doesnt

I am pretty sure we could get a different feel of things it the topics would come from a Man’s point of view

To any one that might have been offened well….I just dont care..lololollolol

Hey Slim

By mytwocents

July 7, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this

Hi Blanca. I ignore red flags when I have too much free time and decide to entertain some foolishness w/ only a dim hope of being proven wrong. But yeah, it’s usually some b.s.

You’ve already made me chuckle cuz yous a tired, weary, yet hopeful 20-something woman. Unless you started waaay early, I’m gonna say you’ve gotta remain “hopeful” at least another ten years, tho I will allow tiny doses of bitterness every 6-9 mos. Hmmm I was expecting a dude too. Like maybe KP had been layin low to get ready to stir it up or sumthin. But at least we got a healthy baby. ;)

Cee If ya peekin in, I been thinking bout you & your girl. I know it’s hard to cope w/. Hugs…

By The Melo

July 7, 2008 10:14 AM | Link to this

Should prostitution be legalized outside of Nevada thats a good topic 2CPTG Congressman and other big politicians already have their own brothels in Washington, i dnt understand why that benefit is not being extended to the rest of the popn.

By IslandGirl

July 7, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

Morning All! Welcome Blanca

I agree with Blow’s post ^5. Hope everyone had a great holiday weekend.

I’m in vacation mode.

By 2CPTG©

July 7, 2008 10:18 AM | Link to this

Raqi…they tried that with a caucasian, male blog moderator….you prolly forgot, ‘cause you were Scorned back then.

By the game

July 7, 2008 10:20 AM | Link to this

It’s all a GAME, learn how to play it. When a man is into you, you’ll know it by his actions, you won’t have to wait and wonder why he hasn’t called or call you back, all the why’s will not be in the equation. I’ve learn to be a good player and not be offensive when it doesn’t play in my favor. I’m playing the game with a fellow as I blog. He started it and now I will finish it. In the meantime I will not lay all my cards on the table for one man. This weekend I went to two cookout with two different players, one called yesterday but I declined the invitation, but bet we will be going out this coming weekend. I see it as this, until he says the word commitment I will NOT commit any of my energy with one man. I will NOT sit and wait for his calls or invitation for a date, as for the red flags, if he displays then he’ll be put on the far back burner, it’s a wrap.

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 7, 2008 10:23 AM | Link to this

I agree with Raqi because I am a overthinker..sometimes what is nothing can become something really quick..because I am referencing the behavior of some other guy from long ago to a situation that I am dealing with right now.

Truth sorry to hear about your loss..I can truly understand the loss of kitchen utensils..my son..broke my blender and the piece to replace it was no longer available..just the horror of it all.

By Foots

July 7, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

KP You know Truth thinks hope is lost for happiness in relationships.

Now, that’s not entirely true. He believes that there is no hope for marriage and fidelity. Relationship happiness is still on the table for him, shoot, he’s probably had some of the longest relationships out of all of us…

And for the record, I was actually hoping that our new person was a dude too. I thought that’s why it was such a big secret who the new moderator was.

But Blanca, welcome and I hope you do well. Take note though, please read the blog and interact with us throughout the day. If you’d like to get advice from some bloggers, you have to check back in from time and time and mix it up with us. Just don’t post your topic in the morning and let us have it, be a blogger too.

By Binford2K8

July 7, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

Welcome Blanca

You know, eventually a weakness or vulnerable moment comes up for everyone. It’s just gives one a case of heebs and jeebs if it is right away.

I, like most folks, look to establish a pattern of consistency from someone I am dating. For example: If I am dating someone for a year and she trusts me enough to let out something that was bothering her (like mommy and daddy issues) - that would be ok. But as long as she moved on and she wanted to share her innermost with me is cool.

I’m just not a live-in therapist; nor do I want someone who has strong moments in between a daily vulnerable.

But in time, something always comes out and makes someone vulnerable. That’s bound to happen as long as it’s not one of many in a laundry list of maladies.

By SlimOne

July 7, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

KP You might have a point about Truth but we need to come up with a male blogger that’s willing to step up that’s going to give us real life issues to discuss, male-wise. Truth maybe a little harsh at times but to him the things he speaks about is real to him. If nothing else, he’ll give us something to fight about. LOL!

Blogsville Anyone have a nominee for the Male-Blogger-Perspective??? Or any men willing to step up to the challenge? If the thought of having to come up with a topic too often is deterring you all to accept the challenge, maybe we can delegate it out to a different person day-to-day. What’ll ya say?

By The Truth

July 7, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

KP I’m not pessimistic about relationships. Hell I’ve spent more time in them than dam near anyone on this blog. I’ve got more time in relationships than you do in that bible. I counted 19 out of the last 25 years I’ve been in relationships. And I’VE been happy all 19 years, although I don’t know about my mates (It’s my job to make sure I’m always happy). My amazement is that the folks that claim to want to be in relationships the most know absolutely nothing about them.

Personally I take a practical view of relationships. They’re not the end all be all. They’re just a phase of your life that you share with someone else.

I do have a problem with marriage and the legalities involved with it. It’s a lose/lose situation for a dude.

BTW, for the ladies that stated last week that a chick was deserving of a guys cash when they split, do you feel she should have to take some of his debt too?

By Raqi

July 7, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

2CPTG I remember. I don’t think that was really a guy first of all. And secondly I think he needs to be older. Or more mature for that matter. 35-40ish range maybe.

But then what does my opinion matter? I am not even dating. LOL

By SexyLeggs

July 7, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

Truth, didn’t think of the cabbie route, but you just might be right.

By Cinderella

July 7, 2008 10:31 AM | Link to this

Bienvenido Blanca! And Good Morning Bloggers…

In the past I had been guilty of seeing the blaring, flashing red flags and totally ignored them. I regretted it every time. My mom always said I have to do everything the hard way! How right she is. Now I listen to my instincts and move with caution. It’s the best way to avoid regrets.

By 2CPTG©

July 7, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

KP sound like he hatin’!

By SexyLeggs

July 7, 2008 10:42 AM | Link to this

thegame, I thoroughly understand what you’re saying. Since I’m new on the dating scene I’ve been watching and taking notes. I will not put all my cards on the table. I will be upfront and honest and enjoy your company and see how things unfold. As for my weekend fiasco, I know this guy really, really likes me. But, more importantly, I know he has no concept of time and sees nothing wrong with calling 3-4 hours after designated outing was to occur. I won’t tolerate this so I resigned early into the waiting for him to call that this wasn’t going to happen. And if it did happen it would be on me accepting how he blatantly disrespects others time. I wasn’t going to allow this to happen.

By Sidelines

July 7, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

Good Morning, All…hopefully everyone had a wonderful 4th.

Welcome Blanca, you poor thing, this blog is pretty tough, huh??? Cause your watching the fate of your very existence right before your eyes…lmao! Unfortunately for you…the blog is voting on who the next moderator should be. Hang in there young lady…

On topic…But I have found sometimes, and still do listening to others, that not all red flags are what they seem. Sometimes people tend to mentally fabricate a RF for fear of getting too deep into the relationship. Some people have gone thru so many bad relationships that they see something that is not there in a new one therefore justifying their early departure. Some people are just too darn picky and refuse to grasp the notion that no one is perfect. Not all red flags are such.…Raqi, I totally agree, I was just digging my bestfriends behind about that.

I’m like how is dude going to know that this bothers you, if your on the phone telling me about it and not letting him in on the secret…hello??? I’m like what is he suppose to be psychic…smh.

By Cemeeli

July 7, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

Hey in here. …It’s Monday again!? hhhuuum

mytwocents I know you were a real “hot-mamma-ice-cream” this past holiday. Thanks for the shout out. I am well and so is my girl she has been exceptionally well and they hung w/ me @ the Tank this w/e the hubby and kids we’re sooo thankful to enjoy that with all that has been going on with the morther passing. *Initially I wasn’t going to invite but it worked out for the best.

Thanks *QC for your famous “Holla”. Glad you are feeling better and hope your reunion was a blast…if your folks are anywhere as wild as mine, I’m sure you punctured some stomach muscle this w/e.

Where is that belt girl kimmie? Hey up to ya!…Did you spend your July 4th with Ginseng and the lil tea bags? Okay so, now chica you have inspired me to prompt ‘Big Foot’ 2 think about re-trying the karate arts this summer. He has finished his bgnr fencing classes, so we’ll see.

Hi Bahia Blanca!…that’s a neat moniker Is that resemblance to the Spanish word blanco?

By Jason

July 7, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

Blogging about dating and/or sex is a red flag. Seriously.

By IslandGirl

July 7, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

Truth you make an interesting argument when you say it is a lose/lose situation for a dude in a relationship. You’ve made this comment several times in the past. It would seem to me if that is how you feel and is a summation of your past relationships then you really have not been happy in all of your relationships (19 years). Now go easy on me…..I’m just sharing my thoughts here.

For anyone (male or female) to share their full existence with another person is a gamble. We all come into relationships with different personalities and life experiences; and expects those things (baggage) to blend without disturbance. Heck if that was the case; we would all have perfect relationships. Folks are so lost in regards to expectations. We are expecting too much from each other especially when we don’t have our own house in order. Just my two cent.

Foots that was some good advice you gave to Blanca.

I nominate the following guys: KP, ABC, GaMan, Poppa Grande, Darrell, Truth, Demi, Real, 2CPTG©, and Blue to contribute topics for the blog. Topics from these guys would be a good mix. Some days would be off the chain!

By Raqi

July 7, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

Kym immediately following my disaster with whitebread every man that approached me was an azzhole. No matter what he said that sound legitimate, he had an ulterior motive that I knew was going to leave me hurt and broken. I know I probably ticked off and passed on some good ones for that reason. And a few times I did do or say things to get the dreaded outcome that I just knew was bound to happen. I made it happen. So yeah those RF are sometimes our imagination and/or constructing.

By SexyLeggs

July 7, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

BTW Truth, I feel you for your loss. There’s nothing like losing a good cooking utensil or mixing bowl. I would be devastated if I broke the glass pan I make my mac/cheese in or the mixing bowl I use to mix the ingredients…those two go hand in hand! Well, hopefully you’ll break the new bowl in real soon!

By Foots

July 7, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

Truth SEE?? I had your back at 10:24. I understand you so thoroughly. LOL!! Do I get a cookie? Chocolate chip, please… ;-)

Slim we need to come up with a male blogger that’s willing to step up that’s going to give us real life issues to discuss, male-wise

I vote for the alternating entry method, different dudes posting, with the blog topic change at noon. We really need somebody who won’t back down from a discussion, we’ve seen some of these dudes run when folks disagreed with them or when they were challenged. Don’t need that. Some of the dudes that I don’t believe have ever backed down from a good blog discussion are 2C, Truth, BlueK and SeanJ. Even Binford hangs in there tough. LOL! That’s five right there, one for each day of the week.

By kimmie

July 7, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this

I have on a long-sleeved cardigan sweater over my sundress. I have a heating pad and a fleece blanket that I keep on my chair. I am still freezing my butt off in this office! I know they must have had the AC on over the weekend, but dang!

Amred - Did you watch Army Wives yesterday?

By the game

July 7, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this

Good for you SexyLeggs I’ve been the one with a low self esteem and no I’n not ashame to say it, but after being played time and time again I learn to either play fire with fire or get burned. Don’t get me wrong, I do desire to be in a commited relationship, but to sit back and take the mess that most men dish out just to see how far they can drag me is not an option for me. I’ve never been a dater, always in a commited relationship. What I dreaded I’m actually liking since it gives me the power to chose who I date rather than sit and take what is given to me.

By The Truth

July 7, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

Ig I said the legalities in marriage, not dating. Dating is cool. Marriage is fugged up.

Foots thanks for the support. LOL 1 order of cookies coming up.

By LorDemi

July 7, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

*Death is on the tip of her tongue and dangers at the tip of her fingers Streets Are On Fire To- Night

Death is on the tip of her tongue and dangers at the tip of her fingers Streets Are On Fire To- Night*

….The scientists said it only infects the mind The little boy said it only infects the girls The preacher man said it’s gonna kill off the soul A bum said it’s gonna kill the whole wide world

Blanca HEY BEY…

A.Red WTF!?!…You actually keep track of the shyt???? LOL

Now heading back to slave row W78

By the game

July 7, 2008 11:00 AM | Link to this

It’s my job to make sure I’m always happy). Well said Truth I used to let others be responsible for my happiness but those were the days that’s long gone. I’m having a ball and I am finally loving life….

By 2CPTG©

July 7, 2008 11:00 AM | Link to this

“Hi Bahia Blanca!…that’s a neat moniker Is that resemblance to the Spanish word blanco?”

I wuddn’t gon’ say nuttin….but, if my Spanglish serves me correctly, blanco means white…and the use of the “a” at the end connotes the feminine persuasion…….White Girl???

By M.

July 7, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this

@SexyLeggs

I didnt know you had to wait that long…Do you think he changed his mind or was just being late?

@The Truth

I dont think you read the whole message.. I met her that night at the bar…She had her own car. We just followed each other to Flambeaux. And no I didnt leave because I saw my old coworkers there and we all were chillin anyways. I dont know if he ever showed up, but it got so crowded we didnt notice. Funny thing is she text me that her car didnt start. Funny how things work out..

By Foots

July 7, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

IslandG Thanks, but this young lady will need all the help she can get. We are a straight crazy bunch. LOL!!

you make an interesting argument when you say it is a lose/lose situation for a dude in a relationship.

He just thinks that marriage is lose-lose for men. Relationships are fine, just don’t let it become a marriage. LOL

Jason The AJC hosts about 60 blogs, speaking on every topic under the sun. You’re saying that dating and relationships shouldn’t be one of them?

By Utopia

July 7, 2008 11:04 AM | Link to this

I nomimate 1)Dushawn 2)Truth minus being jaded 3)SJ3000

By AmazonRed

July 7, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

kimmie - I watched.

LorDemi - The AJC keeps track. All you have to do is click the link on the left.

By Cemeeli

July 7, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

Hope everyone had a blessed w/e…waving to all

Glad to see you all made it back safely to your individual “posting portals”…

By DasV

July 7, 2008 11:07 AM | Link to this

good morning err’body

as usual my two favorite male bloggers got me smiling this morning. dropping grin to be serious sorry ‘bout yo dish, Truth. gladware is pretty good, by way of suggestion… and they dont break. you know that wasnt the first time you’d dropped that bowl… :)

touCAN where is the woman to woman blog?? been lookin for that since your post. and even though hijacking isnt p.c…. wheneva you did back in the day, we always had enlightening discussions. some of the best days was just lurking and “listening in” on what you blog bruthas had to say.

and i aint mad at jason for stating the obvious. honestly, i was thinking that anyone who ignores what their gut tells them reeks of desperation …. wanting what you want just cause you want it. thats an immature approach that probably isnt confined to dating. never mind finding someone good enough to date… you need to take yourself on some dates and get good enough.

IslandGirl some days… with that line up every day would be…. cause they would be trynna out do each other. :)

By kimmie

July 7, 2008 11:09 AM | Link to this

Cee - Excuse me if I’m late, and I must have missed if it came out on the blog, but did you lose your mother? If so, I am so very sorry for you & your family. You’ll definitely be in my prayers - nothing like Mama.

We’ll be going for the yellow belt in a few weeks! It’s going great! I need to be doing the green tea & ginseng, instead of the OD on coffee I do everyday!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 7, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

A tired good mornging to you all…I am running on fumes after my flight back to ATL got in at fter 1:30am when it was suppoed to get here at 10:15 last night! UGH!!!

Welcome Blanca!!! I have had some dates end with me wanting to call the looney bin to pick the loco up and put him in a padded room. Let’s see…I had Bipolar Bill, Manic Depressive Mike, Crazy Cal, Loco Louis, Nutso Nathan & Psycho Phil. I think I have a magnent for anything crazy…hence my stalkers. I think we tend to ignore the red flags because we are blinded by the physical and then next thing we are so into the perosn we start to make excuses for the irratic behavior and tolerate things that would normally get somebody kicked to the curb or cut!

GA Man How dare you mispell my name! LOL

Blow I think we are related…I love Guns & Roses, Welcome to the Jungle!

2C I believ prostitutuion should be legal. I mean why not get paid for the booty? LOL The H0es got it right….don’t be a free h0…be a paid h0! LMAO Force prostitution is a different story. Not to mention, the jails should be reserved for real criminals (Rapists, drug dealers and murderers).

By 2CPTG©

July 7, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

“IslandGirl some days… with that line up every day would be…. cause they would be trynna out do each other. :)”

With that line-up, we’d be the Celtics of the blog….don’t matta who comes with the funk, as long as we win!

By SexyLeggs

July 7, 2008 11:19 AM | Link to this

Too funny, home page of msn.com has “divorced women dreading the ups and down of dating.”

M, no he didn’t change his mind. He simply doesn’t care what time he calls you back or arrives after agreeing to a specified time. To be totally honest, I just put the carrot out there to see if he would bite. In my heart of hearts I knew the date wouldn’t occur, but wanted to see if he would make a concerted effort to show me he is trying to get with me and keep his word. Wanted to see if he would stop talking about the side of his mouth. I had no doubt he would call hours later to see if I was still up. Was hoping it didn’t go that route, but I knew it would. I was p** at myself because I was right.

That’s rich M, her car wouldn’t stop. Did you give her the number to a towing company (LOL).

By Foots

July 7, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

Raqi I must agree with your 10:07. I can definitely say that I have manufactured some flags of the red variety in my day. Especially when I was just starting out in my relationship career. I did have to ask myself if I was cutting them out because I truly felt that this wasn’t the right person for me or because I wanted them to be perfect (or even more like me).

The older I get, the more sure I am that I’m cutting folks for the right reasons and I can better identify things that I can’t live with, versus things that just make that dude unique. I’m more tolerant of differences in people, at the same time, keeping my low tolerance for BS.

By Cemeeli

July 7, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

Lol @ 2C hey dude, how was your holiday w/e? …speaking of blanco (which is white.). If i remember from the translation, my spanish name is Delores.

Hey, you are one of the nominees along w/ some other cats i see. Why isn’t a vote for Jason?

By 2CPTG©

July 7, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

“Not to mention, the jails should be reserved for real criminals (Rapists, drug dealers and murderers).”

A drug dealer is a “real” criminal??? Or, is he following the basic principle of business….supply and demand? I’m not advocating it, I’m just sayin…..

By BINFORD2K

July 7, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

Staceye*

George Carlin opened many of his shows with this about prostitution: Why is it illegal to sell something that you can give away for free?

Always better to deal with the Devil you know!

By IslandGirl

July 7, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

Staceye a woman after my own heart. lol!!! Why not get paid.

2CPTG© goooo Celtics..lol! I hated the Celtics when they were beating the white meat out of the Hawks, but I was so happy when they whooped the Lakers. Thanks for the flashback….

By M.

July 7, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

@SexyLeggs

WOW. Though he likes you, I dont think he thinks you are a priority if he keeps doing this. Its a sign of no respect. Do you think you may look to available to him and thats why he just picks over your time and takes what works for him?

No I didnt even respond ;)

By mytwocents

July 7, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli That’s good that you got em out n about. Fresh air helps ya not to be a dweller on things which we cannot control. And I was quite well behaved, thank you.

The Prosti topic is under the Opinions section.

By SlimOne

July 7, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this

Foots Yeah it would interesting to get in different blog brothers to pose a noon change of topic on days when we are burnt out on the subject. But it doesn’t appear to be any takers….Hmmmm?

By Texmex

July 7, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this

A new w*******…..Welcome.

By 2CPTG©

July 7, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

Cee, ‘sup lil mama….to be honest, my w/e was lame as hell!

By 2CPTG©

July 7, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

Slim, it’s not tha there aren’t any takkers, but any time you attept a rebellion, you have to get organized….I’m sure none of the brothers have a problem with y’all suggestions, try to somehwat formalize it, and we can make it happen….Then, maybe the AJC will take heed to their constituents…..

By DasV

July 7, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

CEEmee i mustve missed some things too… sorry for that. my heart and thoughts are with you and yours.

I dont think truth is half as jaded as Darrell…. why come we cant get him to bring us fresh and interesting topics. i think yall done kilt that mans spirit cause he aint been back in a minute

By Blow Me......PLEASE blow me!!

July 7, 2008 11:35 AM | Link to this

Staceye Hey girl how was your trip back home? I know you had a blast…..RECAP please…lol..

Girl don’t tell me you know PYSCHO Phil too…lol. Lawd ham mercy.

By SexyLeggs

July 7, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

M, of course I’m not a priority. He can like me all he wants, but if I don’t have your respect of my time, then liking me is nil and void. I simply thought I’ll ask him out this weekend in an attempt to let him know he doesn’t always have to ask. He’s simply one of those individuals who doesn’t care about time. I can’t adjust my respect for time to co-exist with him.

By AmazonRed

July 7, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

Nicole Kidman gives birth and names her daughter “Sunday.”

Soon to be performing on the main stage.

sigh

By Cemeeli

July 7, 2008 11:37 AM | Link to this

Excuse me if I’m late, and I must have missed if it came out on the blog, but did you lose your mother? If so, I am so very sorry for you & your family. You’ll definitely be in my prayers - nothing like Mama.

kimmie no sweetie I have not lost my moms. She’s fine!

We lost my girl friend’s mother a week ago. Growing up she was like a chaperoning mother to me. She was a big part of the middle then high school years and was around during our high school events alot, she did more than enough sharing driving/taxing us to and from our football games, HS events, and when we were late for school she’d “cover us”, lol….A real sweetheart missed.

By SexyLeggs

July 7, 2008 11:39 AM | Link to this

M, on the contrary. I’m not available to him yet he keeps picking me to see if I’ll crack at the way he likes to operate. I haven’t and I won’t. I just thought I mix things up a little and go down a different avenue. The dead end was still there.

By M.

July 7, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

@SexyLeggs

So whats next? Will you guys continue to play cat and mouse or will you just cut your losses?

By Cemeeli

July 7, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

…to be honest, my w/e was lame as hell!

…miss me…please. I’m sure you have something that was eventful.

Gleaning woman so have you taken up your ‘hap’ and allowed yourself to be the head of the madiens? you read a lil different j/s. Sometimes that means there’s a pheromone somewhere nearby.

moms is well, see my lst post to kimmie

By kimmie

July 7, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

Cee - Okay, thanks for setting me straight. I knew I had not seen you blogging for awhile so it seemed logical.

Sounds like your friend’s mother was another one of those “mamas” we have that come into our lives, just like a real blood mother. I have a few of those. I know you’ll miss her.

By Foots

July 7, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

Slim But it doesn’t appear to be any takers….Hmmmm?

You’d think that we’d have male volunteers who would like to be about it rather than talk about it, since the complaint is often about these being “chick topics”. Oh well…sign of the times…

2C I was talking to my dude about the song “New Jack Hustler” by IceT the other day. A whole book on a drug dealer’s psyche can be written based on the contents of that song, because it taps into the mindset of someone who makes the capitalist decision to sell something that is obviously in demand. Not getting into the right and wrong of it all, but that song is absolutely fascinating if you really listen to what it’s saying with an open mind.

By Blue Kolla

July 7, 2008 11:49 AM | Link to this

Mornin’ yoll…

It’s wind-down Monday for me. sigh

2 With that line-up, we’d be the Celtics of the blog….don’t matta who comes with the funk, as long as we win!

Tell’em agin.

(On Topic) And I don’t even know what to say about this Red Flag thing. Some dude layin’ on the floor whining, crying’ and all’at? I can’t even compute this scene.

Let me guess… this was that debonair, crisp cat that was being way too generous at the bar? Or was it that dude showering you with compliments at that trendy spot up town? Tell your boy that you’ve some real important tasks to catch up on around the house… like drying the rain off of your driveway.

By Cemeeli

July 7, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

And I was quite well behaved, thank you.

mytwocents yea, i’m sure you were sunshine. So what events kept you behaved?

hhmmmm…i gotta get you to the Tank

By Tazzee

July 7, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

Morning folks!

Kym thanks for the recommendation - my friend and I were at American Roadhouse watching the Williams sisters Saturday morning. And the food was pretty good too.

On-topic - I’ve had my regrettable moments in the area of dating, but it’s been a while since I’ve ignored any red flags, real or perceived. In Blanca’s example, I would have cancelled that fourth date. That crying on the floor is some crazy stuff right there.

By 2CPTG©

July 7, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

Foots….I hear ya…it just kills me to hear folks speak on something they obviously know nothing about….I mean look at the former Moonshine runners…..they have their own sport now, and it’s called NASCAR! (yeah, do your research on the origins of Nascar!)

By Sabra

July 7, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

My friend has been married for 11 years now. She is deeply in love with her husband i mean we always thought they were the perfect couple. sure they had up’s and down’s but every relationship does. But about eight years ago her husband had an afair on her. he told her about it, she forgave him and they moved on. Now years later and two miscarriages she gets a letter in the mail. The woman whom her husband had a affair with was suing for child support. Her husband didn’t know that he had got the woman pregnant until the papers came for him to take the paternity test. The little boy turned out to be his. so now he had a 8 year old son that spends every weekend, holiday, and summer at their home. My friend said everytime she looks at the little boy her heart breaks all over again. they have tried counselling, she even moved out of their home so she would not have to see the little boy. her husband is hurting because he want his marriage to work, and she does to but she don’t want the little boy to be apart of their family. She said that before she ask her husband to choose she would just leave him all together.

I know they love and want to be with each other, and she forgave him but now that the little boy is here she don’t want any part of it… Since i’m not married i decided not to give her advice, but i know this form has a lot of married people on here so i’m asking them what would you do in this situation. She said that they can be happy if the little boy wasn’t around but she refuse to tell him that is why she won’t move back in. Even last Christmas she choose not to call him, or let him come around because she was afraid that the little boy would be around, she was scared to call him because she didn’t want to hear the little boy’s voice in the background. It hurts me seeing my friend like this… what words can i say to her to help her through this time?

By DasV

July 7, 2008 12:04 PM | Link to this

fellowGleaner translate, please. i had a long and eventful weekend… im slow this morning….

By abc

July 7, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

Crazy is as crazy does. Sometimes it takes time for them to act out and demonstrate their craziness. Like everything, you won’t know about it until you find out about it.

By SexyLeggs

July 7, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

Sabra, I can go into many dynamics of this case, but there’s only one thing that’s important to me. If she really loves her husband and wants to work at her marriage, she’ll accept his child. I realize mentally/emotinally it will be hard to get over the fact that she had 2 miscarriages and yearns for a child of their own. The little boy should not feel “not wanted” because he’s here. It’s a hard pill to swallow, yet a pill she needs to swallow if she wants to remain married. She needs to stay in counseling until she can accept this child. If not, then she needs to divorce because she will only make the entire household unhabitable. Hate, regret, scorn will fester in the walls of that marriage and will only lead to doom! She forgave the affair, now she needs to find a way to forgive the seed that sprouted as a result of this affair. She needs to accept the entire package. I know this is easier said than done.

By WOW

July 7, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

Sabra Your friend’s husband needs to give her the divorce. If he really loved her, he wouldn’t try to force her to deal with his mistakes when they are so very hurtful to her. But, men don’t think that way. Even tho’ he probably wouldn’t deal with the situation if it were reversed, he thinks nothing of trying to force her to deal with it.

btw, he doesn’t have to accept service of divorce papers. She can publish those bad boys in the newspaper & proceed!

By 2CPTG©

July 7, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

damn! unfortunately, Sabra, yo friend gon’ have to either get over the fact, cause the child is here now, or move on….when she said she forgave him, it was obviously only to a certain extent….and to her, the child is a constant reminder; You cain’t tell nobody to leave their spouse, but you can tell her, she’s gotta come to grips with her feelings!

By The Truth

July 7, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this

Staceye * I believ prostitutuion should be legal. I mean why not get paid for the booty?* Hypothetically, how much would it cost me for some generic (bj, doggie, azz slapping) azz from you? Then, how much if I wanted to tie you up and do some kinky shyt? I already have the cuffs. Just wondering.

Folks, i’m not jaded about relationships. I think they’re great if the dude is running them and the chick follows happily. Marriage on the other hand is just a crappy deal. If I said lets start a business where the wash out rate is 50-70% and most likely one of the partners is gonna cheat and eventually you’ll both get tired of that business, would you do it? Not to mention that the main purpose of the union will become a financial drain both during and after the breakup. Just wondering who’d want to go in business under those terms?

By DasV

July 7, 2008 12:13 PM | Link to this

Sabra if she cannot stand to look at the little boy or hear his voice, then she really has NOT forgiven him. she is projecting her anger at him on a defenseless, innocent child. for the time that she stayed with him before the child was introduced she was just pretending it didnt happen and there was nothing to block that ‘cleaned up’ version of the reality. this child blows that pretense to … (well, you know).

she needs to admit that infidelity is a deal-breaker for her and move on. period.

By Sidelines

July 7, 2008 12:15 PM | Link to this

Sabra…WOW, that is a tough one right there. It’s a catch 22, because she wants to be with her husband, but seeing the little boy reminds her of losing the children she could not have and not to mention that she did not give him (and of the affair itself). And, you I’d find it hard to advise her that in order to truly forgive him, would be to accept the little boy, afterall he did not ask to come here. And, this pregnancy took place DURING the marriage, not during a breakup or something. That’s a tough one…I’d be interested in seeing what the other ladies have to say.

By SlimOne

July 7, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

2C it’s not tha there aren’t any takkers, but any time you attept a rebellion, you have to get organized Um…I thought that’s what we were trying to do….We can’t go any further with it unless some of yall menfolk at least say “Hey, I’d be interested in taking the reigns one day..blah blah blah”…feel me? I figured somebody would have spoken up by now being that you all tend to complain any other day…even you yourself said this morning that the RED FLAGS deal was redundant. So ONCE we have a few mens (yeah i said menS) that are willing to try it, this idea is going to self-destruct in 30, 29, 28, 27, 26……seconds. lol

By Blue Kolla

July 7, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

Leggs I can go into many dynamics of this case,…

…now sending you in the mail the same doctorate paperwork that No-Dr. Phil sent off.

You sound just as qualified to give advice as that clown, so you might as well get paid too.

By Sabra

July 7, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

@SexyLeggs Her husband is confused because on his birthday she mailed his gift to him instead of coming to see him. When we asked her why she said she’s scared to see the little boy. She never disrespected the little boy. When everything first happened she took the little boy shopping, introduced him to her nephews and neices as her stepson, she never disrespected him or his mother. I think the situation is to much for her right now.

By Cemeeli

July 7, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

lol my gurl Das. Okay cool.

…so have you taken up your ‘hap’ and allowed yourself to be the head of the madiens? Last i read you, you went back in the field. I thought now maybe you took to surrendering your “hap” (a covering for women in the field)…and if you ARE uncovered you are someone’s Ruth.

…you read a lil different j/s (just saying). Sometimes that means there’s a pheromone somewhere nearby. Pheromones scent( engaging you off this here blog.

…Cee didn’t want 2 put u on blst.

Pheromone

By SlimOne

July 7, 2008 12:22 PM | Link to this

2C it’s not tha there aren’t any takkers, but any time you attept a rebellion, you have to get organized Um…I thought that’s what we were trying to do….We can’t go any further with it unless some of yall menfolk at least say “Hey, I’d be interested in taking the reigns one day..blah blah blah”…feel me? I figured somebody would have spoken up by now being that you all tend to complain any other day…even you yourself said this morning that the RED FLAGS deal was redundant. So ONCE we have a few mens (yeah i said menS) that are willing to try it, this idea is going to self-destruct in 30, 29, 28, 27, 26……seconds. lol

By IslandGirl

July 7, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this

Sabra I have to agree with what most folks have already said. If she forgave him for cheating, then she will find it in her heart to forgive him for conceiving a child outside the marriage. That is a very hard thing to deal with (especially considering her ordeals with miscarriages). No one can tell her how to feel about this, but if she loves her husband then she will accept what is his.

This one is right off of the TV screen on LifeTime…dayum.

By Utopia

July 7, 2008 12:25 PM | Link to this

Sabra Wow…that’s a toughie. Catch 22…I’d say if she can dig deep and find forgiveness take that route. If she cannot, just so the child won’t feel trickle down effect of resentment as they’re quite intuitive creatures, move on. I agree, the child is innocent.

By BINFORD2K

July 7, 2008 12:25 PM | Link to this

Alright, Alright

I can take a day here and there.

My Lord.

Happy now Slim?

By SlimOne

July 7, 2008 12:27 PM | Link to this

2C it’s not tha there aren’t any takkers, but any time you attept a rebellion, you have to get organized Um…I thought that’s what we were trying to do….We can’t go any further with it unless some of yall menfolk at least say “Hey, I’d be interested in taking the reigns one day..blah blah blah”…feel me? I figured somebody would have spoken up by now being that you all tend to complain any other day…even you yourself said this morning that the RED FLAGS deal was redundant. So ONCE we have a few mens (yeah i said menS) that are willing to try it, this idea is going to self-destruct in 30, 29, 28, 27, 26……seconds. lol

By The Truth

July 7, 2008 12:28 PM | Link to this

Sabra that one is easy. Your friend should leave. Not for the cheating but for the kid. If i signed up to be with a chick and she thought she was going to add another party to it I’d say bye. You chicks with that if she loved him shyt are wild. what’s love got to do with it?

By ONYOBACKLIKEKWAMEKILPAT

July 7, 2008 12:28 PM | Link to this

It’s tough to say that she has forgiven her husband if she cant fully accept the son. Her forgivness was conditional……meaning that as long as she could ignore that it happened, she was fine.

She is a straight up idiot and fool to forgive the husband but not accept the kid. I don’t care if you found out about the kid 20 years later, it don’t matter

By The Melo

July 7, 2008 12:28 PM | Link to this

Sabra 1) ur friend needs to contact this blog herself 2) tell her,this aint a big deal,she needs to focus on whats important to her and then move on.If she wants hubby,a loving female can easlily forgive the man and then take the kid as a blessing from God,she can luv him like hers.If she wants to move on coz of this simple issue,thats on her but i can tell u she will be more torn and messed up than if she stays and fixes this problem in her mind.All she has is a mental bloc that she can easliy fix but which most women are afflicted by.The type of women that $$$$$ and Long prey on.Messed for lyfe!!

By mytwocents

July 7, 2008 12:36 PM | Link to this

Cee What events? Twas the lack thereof. Mostly quality time w/ my DVR (King of Queens, Flip This House, everything HGTV.) Spice up My Kitchen ain’t nearly as risque as it sounds. Did you get in any grilling or reap the benefits?

Yeah lotsa action goin on under the sea I need to look into. Oooh was the 4th the sleepover???

By SpelmanChica

July 7, 2008 12:37 PM | Link to this

The majority of black men do not seek over weight women all the time, size 12 & UP

Yes I’ve seen some out in public, but they aren’t the type of men the women in my circle would be attracted too. The men in my circle are upwardly mobile. I was at my SO’s corporate dinner and none of the women were a size 12&up. I think the smaller you are the more options you have in a QUALITY dating pool.

I’m sure that there are men who are exclusively attracted to over weight women :( but if you put the biggum woman and a slim shapely woman in a bikini, I’m sure that the “majority” of men would find the slim/curvy woman to be more attractive.

Ladies please try to get healthy b/c this ish is an epidemic with “us”

By Foots

July 7, 2008 12:38 PM | Link to this

Slim

Psssttt….Slim, let me whisper at cha for a sex….They want the women to organize it for them, so all they have to do is show up…They aren’t going to petition the AJC for changes, even though they don’t like the status quo…Leadership is a mug when it’s about actually doing instead of talking about doing…

Sabra What a predicament! I can’t even pretend to know what emotions are running through her. But I agree with SexyLeggs and 2C, she either has to accept it and completely forgive or move on with her life. With this one, there is no fence sitting, because of the innocent child’s feelings.

I know older adults that have gone through something like this, and it’s a tall order for a wife to accept something like this, but she won’t be the first and won’t be the last either. What’s done is done…his affair could have resulted in A.) A disease B.) A child C.) A child and a disease D.) None of the above. With any of the options, the affair still happened, whether she has evidence of it in her face or not. If she really forgave the original event, the affair, no matter how it hurts, she’d have to forgive the outcome of the event.

In the end, she has to do whatever makes her able to sleep at night, either get with the program or proceed to cancel. No matter how wrong he was, when he begins to love that child, he is going to resent her for rejecting his baby.

By The Melo

July 7, 2008 12:42 PM | Link to this

If i signed up to be with a chick and she thought she was going to add another party to it I’d say bye i thoght u of all pple wld know the rules better.Women are from where and Men from where…fill the blanks.Thats to say,this partnership is not equal,sme rules are for females and the man will have his own. Do u and ur dogs have the same rules in the house?

By Foots

July 7, 2008 12:43 PM | Link to this

Slim Slim, let me whisper at cha for a sex…

LOL!! You can tell I didn’t get much this weekend. I meant sec… Good grief!! Dude is gonna get it when I get home! LMAO!!

By Amina

July 7, 2008 12:43 PM | Link to this

Foots No matter how wrong he was, when he begins to love that child, he is going to resent her for rejecting his baby.

^^agree & believe this for sure, but I don’t care what anyone says I think it’s wrong on so many levels.

By The Truth

July 7, 2008 12:44 PM | Link to this

Slimmy with a 5 lb ct what about a he said /she said kinda blog? It would be point/counterpoint. I think that would work well. Btw, I saw some 9mil pistols this week that would of been great for you. Run about $350-425 bucks. I was going to pick you one up but um…I forgot my wallet. (The Truth knows she’s not believing this story)

By mytwocents

July 7, 2008 12:45 PM | Link to this

ONYOBACKLIKEKWAMEKILPAT

Tee hee hee! Your name tickled me like a Church Lady’s anecdotes. Speaking of which, the Deacon had to do sumthin crazy @ the Church picnic this weekend. At least I hope.

By AmazonRed

July 7, 2008 12:47 PM | Link to this

Okay Blanca, you should have checked in with us by now. Come on in, the water is fine. You’ve got to mingle with your bloggers!

By SexyLeggs

July 7, 2008 12:47 PM | Link to this

BK, you’re funny as usual.

Sabra, it’s obvious the situation is too much for her. Because of if it is and she can’t find herself getting past all the hurt, then I agree w/WOW @ 11:21.

But, let me ask you this. You say When everything first happened she took the little boy shopping, introduced him to her nephews and neices as her stepson Ok, when did the fluffy cloud of her existence disperse. Are you saying she was happy as a lark in the beginning, but when she made a mental note that this is will be a permanent family fixture her heart got heavy. How did the “no tolerance to see or hear him” come about? Not only that, how long before she accepted him and introduced him as stepson that she found herself backing away. Really curious!

By The Melo

July 7, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

and it’s a tall order for a wife to accept something like this STOP!! its not. Its a tall order to accept if a dear relative dies,We talking about another lyfe and its a tall order to accept a lyfe/child in ur family? U pple are crazy!!! U find it okay to import some emaciated and starving kid from China/India/Africa under the guise of adoption,becoz u get a financial incentive,but not to acceptone of ur own and another fellow human being from within the US.WHAT BULLCRAP…….

By Blue Kolla

July 7, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

WOW/Hata Chicks All of yoll talkin’ ‘bout “Get the Big D, get the Big D”. For what, so she can be like yoll - no man, no regula D, nobody to fix up around the crib, no dude to cook for, no shoulder to cry on, no real friend to talk to… and running into dudes that are crying on the floor? Sabra you need to reread Legg’s post and let that be the advice that you give.

By Dan

July 7, 2008 12:51 PM | Link to this

Spelman haha

agree with ya

and I’m tired of all these Lane Bryant chics thinking they are “thick”. No ma, you are fat. If you can’ fit clothes in the single digits then you prolly need to lose pounds asap.

You are right about the AA community..primarily AA women being too COMPLACENT with this Monique mentality.

By 2CPTG©

July 7, 2008 12:53 PM | Link to this

Foots….nope, that ain’t it…bout men wanting y’all to organize stuff for us….it’s simple, we know how the AJC works….They ain’t heard us in 4 years, what makes you think they gon’ listen now? Hell, they knew eons ago that Bella was on her way out the door….If Diva ain’t got a voice in her compadre, what makes you think they gon’ give us one????

Then….you also gotta take into account, WHO gon have the say-so to do the electing; Are we gon’ stick to it? So many variables to iron out.

By Cemeeli

July 7, 2008 12:53 PM | Link to this

mytwo

Spice up My Kitchen ain’t nearly as risque as it sounds.

hahaha yea, you ‘sits’ with me…:).

Did you get in any grilling or reap the benefits? I was not the grillgirl this time. I was a guest but didn’t make it…It was an eventful w/e - Hancock, WALL-E and the likes of Tank n’ guest, and park event. yea, Saturday was the sleepover. Results = I think i’ve master repeating facts on the Weedy focal: 1)The seahorses eats on $70/a day meal/diet (our most expensive to feed) and 2) The pregnant male is not floating cuase he is dying. He’s perched b/c of the likes of the large larva growing on him tail, which can weigh any man down, Lol. The females just frolic along in their best lies and hula dances…off to the side, hahaha…po weedy

By 2CPTG©

July 7, 2008 12:57 PM | Link to this

“Okay Blanca, you should have checked in with us by now. Come on in, the water is fine. You’ve got to mingle with your bloggers!”

‘nuff said!

By Foots

July 7, 2008 12:59 PM | Link to this

Melo It’s a big deal, and it doesn’t make it any less so because you don’t understand it. You yourself can’t deal with infidelity and you sure wouldn’t raise another man’s child conceived with your wife while she was your wife.

This is NOT adoption, this is not a surrogacy, this is the child of a woman whom her husband slept with and got pregnant, when she herself has not been successful in maintaining a viable pregnancy. So not only does she have to deal with the infidelity, she has to deal with the fact that this outside woman gave her man something that she couldn’t.

So the question is: If you were shooting blanks, and your wife got pregnant by another man, could YOU raise another man’s child as your own, and accept him into your family and still say it’s no big deal? If not, why would you expect a woman to be stronger than you?

Blue I think that the women are all on “forgive completely or leave”. Truth is the only one who is on the “leave” tip.

By IslandGirl

July 7, 2008 1:00 PM | Link to this

Truthie Love has everything to do with it…. if she wants to remain married. If she is done with the marriage, then the decision is easy (as you’ve put it).

In and outside marriage, folks betray each other all the time. Whether the betrayal is big or small, at the end of the day when the truth comes out…it is your love for the person that will determine your action(s).

By AmazonRed

July 7, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

and I’m tired of all these Lane Bryant chics thinking they are “thick”. No ma, you are fat. If you can’ fit clothes in the single digits then you prolly need to lose pounds asap

Dan - Didn’t you state before on the blog that you are pushing 260+ pounds? Oh that’s right, you carry it well. LOL.

By Foots

July 7, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

2C Okay, then. Status quo it is. That was easy. Just like Staples.

By SlimOne

July 7, 2008 1:02 PM | Link to this

Foots LMAO@ “let me holla at cha for a sex…..LOL! I knew what you meant but at first I had to go back and re-read it just to make sure.

You can tell I didn’t get much this weekend Girl! you and me both. If I hadn’t fell asleep in time, I would’ve taken matters into my own hands. lol And on the guys waiting for us to just tell them where to show up, you’re right. So i guess we’ll just keep recycling the same ole chick topics and complaining about it. If push comes to shove, I’ll dress in drag as a dude for a few days and blog about my experiences. lol Truth Can I borrow your Toupe?

Truth w/100 lies I’m up for a male POV or a he said/she said but either way WHO THE HELL WILL VOLUNTEER TO DO IT? Where did you see the pistols at so i can check into it?

By Blue Kolla

July 7, 2008 1:03 PM | Link to this

Dan and I’m tired of all these Lane Bryant chics thinking they are “thick”. No ma, you are fat. If you can’ fit clothes in the single digits then you prolly need to lose pounds asap.

I’m glad that there are brothers like you and my potna out here; get them 0 thru 8’s out my way. I likes mine 10 - 14!!

By Foots

July 7, 2008 1:03 PM | Link to this

2C Actually, no one really cares if it’s official or not. We have a blog topic change just about every day. We’ve been doing that on our own. So why can’t it be something deliberate that the guys work out and come to a consensus on? Binford is down…

By Sabra

July 7, 2008 1:07 PM | Link to this

Sexy sounds cheesy but she had been practicing LOA principles. Things had been going very well for her up to the point of finding about the boy. She was feeling they would have a baby blessing soon. But when she learned of the son she decided to just get over it (like maybe she couldn’t bear kids so this would be a blessing in some way). Then her hubby started to be really into the parenting thing, the kid was always coming around. They started bonding and she felt left out, like she couldn’t give her husband this one thing (which he got as a result from the affair).

I think she just chickened out and couldn’t take seeing/hearing the boy so she had to get her own place. She has not physically seen her husband in 2 mos. Like I wrote earlier she won’t even accept calls for fear of hearing the boy in the background. Her husband even tried to see her at my BBQ on the 4th.

I don’t know what to do..but I’m going to let her read all of the responses, esp. yours SexyLeggs

By IslandGirl

July 7, 2008 1:12 PM | Link to this

BK LOL!! Well, you definitely have no problems with the pickings….there’s plenty of women in the 10-14 size range.

I have a friend like that. He only dates full figure women. Everybody deserves some loving. lol

By AmazonRed

July 7, 2008 1:12 PM | Link to this

You yourself can’t deal with infidelity and you sure wouldn’t raise another man’s child conceived with your wife while she was your wife

I mean really, melo. Go head and get it said, Foots!

By Chief Wiggum

July 7, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

Well, Blanca, welcome to a ttoal freaking disaster. I was hoping that with a new columnist, that the load of people who only desire to post about themselves, and read their own bloviations, would subside. Of course, it hasn’t.

Nobody here understands that wrigint too much makes it a pain in the backside to follow anything. Add in all the idiotic “shout outs” to everybody here, and you have a board full of dysfunctional narcissists.

I tried to come here to learn, as my own dating life is pretty dysfunctional, but I can’t decipher much of anything through all the idiotic yapping here.

By SpelmanChica

July 7, 2008 1:14 PM | Link to this

BlueKolla I likes mine 10 - 14!! you must be a fat dude or just not of a certain caliber of men. I guess you really are what your name implies.

By The Melo

July 7, 2008 1:14 PM | Link to this

If you were shooting blanks, and your wife got pregnant by another man, could YOU raise another man’s coz im smarter than most men,yes…i wld let my brother slide in there and do the damn thing and accept that kid coz he/she wld have my blood…. (thank god tho i dont fire blank,evry pudsy i fck raw,there is gona be sme long term stretch marks on that wman…) not been successful in maintaining a viable pregnancy take that baby as a blessing and not focus on her’s inadequacies.If my house got blown away and i had no home insuarnce,whats the point in getting distraught about what cld,shlda when all u have to do is pick ur pieces,learn from it and move on………

By AmazonRed

July 7, 2008 1:20 PM | Link to this

(thank god tho i dont fire blank,evry pudsy i fck raw,there is gona be sme long term stretch marks on that wman…)

Kara, please tell me you are reading today. hurl at that post.

And yeah melo, in cases of infidelity you can pick who your wive dips out with. YEAH RIGHT. You wouldn’t put up with infidelity in the first place. Come on now…!

By The Melo

July 7, 2008 1:21 PM | Link to this

I tried to come here to learn, as my own dating life is pretty dysfunctional, we can tell ur blogging is dysfunctional too…so well……..

By Melissa

July 7, 2008 1:23 PM | Link to this

melo You would let your brother have an ongoing affair with your wife? WOW!! Now that’s dysfunctional. So you’re saying that you can accept watching your wife walk around getting bigger every week with your brother’s child growing inside of her (instead of just getting artificially inseminated, and knowing that they both enjoyed each other more than once), but you couldn’t accept her having an affair with and being pregnant by a man who was not your blood relative? Just trying to see where you are coming from on this…

And yes, you have said in the past that you would leave your wife if she had an affair. I would think that if she went for your brother, you’d really get out of there.

By DasV

July 7, 2008 1:26 PM | Link to this

LOL@ me reading differently. Cee i am in the fields but no im no one’s ruth. i was going to say “sadly, im no one’s ruth” but really its all good. this hiatus is being put to good use.

By Cemeeli

July 7, 2008 1:27 PM | Link to this

Chief Wiggum will you please post your dating misadventures or comment.

I’m sure there are no probs. with staying on topic.

Nobody here understands that wrigint too much makes it a pain in the backside to follow anything.

…’back n forth writing’ yea, it’s going to happen, it’s inevitable. Quit frankly i know other lurkers that enjoy the banter on here and learn alot.

By Foots

July 7, 2008 1:30 PM | Link to this

Didn’t mean to change my name, this blog does the craziest things sometimes…

kimmie Are you still on? Have you heard about the Black UGA alumni site?

By The Melo

July 7, 2008 1:32 PM | Link to this

You wouldn’t put up with infidelity in the first place all im saying ared is that type of reverse infedility happens to weak dudes,not my type coz we set the rules upfront,monitor and enforce them and we have structures set up right.I fck my wman good and give her all she needs,the only man she wanna fck and can stomach and have stamina for is me,but if i was misfortunate not to fire good rounds,my backups solution wld be in the famly.If ure a fcked up dude and enter into a marriage relanship from a weak point,u cme out of it on the weak end as well and if ure in it, u be the weaker party.

By SlimOne

July 7, 2008 1:34 PM | Link to this

2C it’s simple, we know how the AJC works….They ain’t heard us in 4 years, what makes you think they gon’ listen now? I was thinking more of an informal type deal where the elected male topic changer for the day would simply post his issue on the regularly scheduled blog….not necessarily have it be all formal with an OK from AJC….Hell Blanca ain’t even made an appearance today yet, so she wouldn’t know if the topics changed by now or not. Binford said he’d do it one day.

Binford Will you be prepared tomorrow to change the topic if we have a redundant issue? (you have till noon 7/8 if you’re up for it.

ARed Didn’t you state before on the blog that you are pushing 260+ pounds? Oh that’s right, you carry it well OMG—->seems sort of wrong but i’m LMAO

By DasV

July 7, 2008 1:34 PM | Link to this

amazonRed re your 101 post… you lyin that cannot be right!

By AmazonRed

July 7, 2008 1:37 PM | Link to this

I fck my wman good and give her all she needs,the only man she wanna fck and can stomach and have stamina for is me

Hmm…didn’t Lance have that same cocky confidence in the movie “The Best Man.”

But hey, it’s your marriage melo. I’ll take your word for it. Plenty of women never step out, so uh yeah, kudos to you I guess.

By Blue Kolla

July 7, 2008 1:38 PM | Link to this

Spelman I likes mine 10 - 14!! you must be a fat dude or just not of a certain caliber of men. I guess you really are what your name implies.

Hahaha. I had to put my sandwich down on that one.

Naah slim, I’m actually a slim dude. Bony, upwardly mobile, read bourgeois, chicks such as yourself interest me not. I won’t even engage you in any real dialogue concerning your idiotic comment on the caliber of man that I am, because I’ve seen your kind before. The thing is, youngin’, that you haven’t even grown into her yet. Now return to class, and leave grown muthafukkas like me alone.

By SlimOne

July 7, 2008 1:39 PM | Link to this

2C it’s simple, we know how the AJC works….They ain’t heard us in 4 years, what makes you think they gon’ listen now? I was thinking more of an informal type deal where the elected male topic changer for the day would simply post his issue on the regularly scheduled blog….not necessarily have it be all formal with an OK from AJC….Hell Blanca ain’t even made an appearance today yet, so she wouldn’t know if the topics changed by now or not. Binford said he’d do it one day.

Binford Will you be prepared tomorrow to change the topic if we have a redundant issue? (you have till noon 7/8 if you’re up for it.

ARed Didn’t you state before on the blog that you are pushing 260+ pounds? Oh that’s right, you carry it well OMG—->seems sort of wrong but i’m LMAO

By The Melo

July 7, 2008 1:39 PM | Link to this

Melissa,let me hold ur hand and walk with u on this… Those things u explain happen to weak dudes…i aint one of them(see my explanation to ared)However, if i were blank on substance,i explore all possibilities of having my own kid,thats obvious, but if everything else failed and i still cant have mu own ,my blood brother can fck that wman and i knw the kid will have my last name(not everybody has to knw what transpired).All options have been explored and failed..thats where im coming from. And yes if i were lame to the extent that she cheats on me,she gone.I dnt enter into relationships where im the female, i enter relationships where the game is scewed in my favor, im the stronger party…most succesful traditional relationships are like that anyway,im just saying it a crude way that riles some of these salad females.

By AmazonRed

July 7, 2008 1:40 PM | Link to this

LOL @ SlimOne and DasV. I tells you the truth! What…are you saying you ain’t drawn to the more cushion for the pushins? LOL

I did date a guy who was 245 or so. He was also 6’10”. LOL

By AmazonRed

July 7, 2008 1:44 PM | Link to this

Bony, upwardly mobile, read bourgeois, chicks such as yourself interest me not.

Well, SpelmanChica, come on over here and have a seat next to me then. Bon bon? LOL

By SexyCool

July 7, 2008 1:46 PM | Link to this

2can…you lead…i’ll follow…

By mytwocents

July 7, 2008 1:49 PM | Link to this

Melo You’re speaking mostly from the p.o.v. of one who opts for this arrangement. Sabra’s friend only opted into the marriage, the situation was by default. Also, are you thinkin in zulu w/ salad female? Please define.

By Foots

July 7, 2008 1:56 PM | Link to this

melo Like Amazon said, it’s your marriage, and that’s your opinion. For the record though, any man who would accept his brother continually sexing his wife, whether in his face or behind his back, qualifies as lame to me, but then again, that’s my opinion.

Amazon I think that Dan is like 6’10” too. Let me see if I can find his picture…

By 2CPTG©

July 7, 2008 1:59 PM | Link to this

“2can…you lead…i’ll follow…”

see, that’s what I’m tombout!!! right thurr!!! Gal, you need help wit’ a bill or some’n….cause I got you! But fa real, if y’all want, I’d be willing to be a bootleg moderator….

By Fatty

July 7, 2008 2:00 PM | Link to this

Amazon’s 1:01 lololol

By Joe

July 7, 2008 2:00 PM | Link to this

A dating blogger? What a waste of space. Nothing personal, but this is a stupid idea.

By Cemeeli

July 7, 2008 2:01 PM | Link to this

mytwo…Dangit!…Retract arsenal!

…see now Chief is gonna read a whole new/diff dialouge with that comment?

By AmazonRed

July 7, 2008 2:02 PM | Link to this

I think that Dan is like 6’10” too. Let me see if I can find his picture

Foots - He’s not that tall. I would have remembered that! He might be like 6’3 or something.

By Hotlanta

July 7, 2008 2:03 PM | Link to this

AmazonRed from the way you are talking are you sure you are not called “RED” because you got a rash or something which requires pink Calamine lotion from all of that grinding. Please advise. I got burn marks on my eyes from reading about your adventures.

By Hotlanta

July 7, 2008 2:03 PM | Link to this

AmazonRed from the way you are talking are you sure you are not called “RED” because you got a rash or something which requires pink Calamine lotion from all of that grinding. Please advise. I got burn marks on my eyes from reading about your adventures.

By The Melo

July 7, 2008 2:03 PM | Link to this

mytwocents on Sabrina i explained she can leave or stay,but better to stay coz she will be a better person all round by staying even if u put God in the mix..he talks of forgiveness etc.If Jesus forgave,what about her.If she walks becoz she is distraught chances are she will get fcked with the next man too and worse if she goes the bible thumbing route,coz most fcked up wmen end there and church is the vlub where all fcked up wmen congregate to commiserate and remind each other while being sucked off $$$$. are you thinkin in zulu w/ salad female? salad female is ur NEW age female.. fake independent woman if u like the black american thing.I used the term they use back there so they wont talk about u next time u hear them speak in ur presence.Truth is,no woman is trul independent of dyck,they have it or are missing it….no in between.

By AmazonRed

July 7, 2008 2:08 PM | Link to this

Hotlanta - I have no clue as you what you are talking about buddy. But feel free to skip my posts then. Easy solution.

Looks like the blog made the front page today, bloggers. Watch out for trolls. LOL

By kimmie

July 7, 2008 2:11 PM | Link to this

Foots - Girl no, I have not heard about that website, but I was just telling someone not too long ago that we ought to have one! Do you have the link to it, or should I just try to google it!

By SeanJohnson3000

July 7, 2008 2:12 PM | Link to this

Sup Blog…

@ Blue..lol..i like the way you handled the spelman chic..its a shame her folks spent all the change on an education…

By The Melo

July 7, 2008 2:13 PM | Link to this

why do uall like to say hey,its ur opinion when we already knw we are on opinion blog….?

By batchamamakoodles

July 7, 2008 2:16 PM | Link to this

Dark Lady, in answer to your question of more than a year ago, no, it’s not an open marriage. She hasn’t given or gotten any anywhere else and neither have I.

By DasV

July 7, 2008 2:16 PM | Link to this

Toucan you know you got my vote for bootleg moderator. especially now you know what nice is…. if i recall correctly, back in the day that was not the case. and you still aint, but least you know what nice is… LOL you know i lubb you

ARed 6’10??? dang….

By SlimOne

July 7, 2008 2:16 PM | Link to this

Foots sidebar Let me tell you bout your cwazy cuz! lmao…hit me up on yahoo.

By SexyCool

July 7, 2008 2:17 PM | Link to this

joe…you should have come in with that gem of wisdom four years ago…

By Blue Kolla

July 7, 2008 2:18 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ Melo Truth is,no woman is trul independent of dyck,they have it or are missing it….no in between.

…now waiting on all the females to throw up posts about how they don’t need D.

By MyOpinion

July 7, 2008 2:18 PM | Link to this

does your name have to end with A to be a moderator here?

let’s see, MIA, DIVA, BELLA, BLANCA, can NEGRA be far off?

By Foots

July 7, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this

kimmie http://blackugaalumni.ning.com/?xgi=5P6Ii3t

I hope the link works…

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 7, 2008 2:23 PM | Link to this

What in the world happen here?

By mytwocents

July 7, 2008 2:23 PM | Link to this

OK, Melo. I wasn’t debating your advice, just thought your outlook was thru the rose colored glasses of what you’d allow to occur, as if she could’ve been proactive. If your mate has an affair, you as the one cheated upon can only be reactive. Cee thought I was actin up, but thanks for the definition. I’m sure you’ll keep us posted on other catch phrases to listen for.

As for your theory on Independence, I won’t really argue that either, tho for the most part, it’s not worth having “just any” just to say you “have some.” Which is where a lotta ladies get it twisted.

By AmazonRed

July 7, 2008 2:24 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ Negra.

By 2CPTG©

July 7, 2008 2:24 PM | Link to this

“does your name have to end with A to be a moderator here? let’s see, MIA, DIVA, BELLA, BLANCA, can NEGRA be far off?”

I shouldn’t laught at that, but dammit, it is funny!

By kimmie

July 7, 2008 2:25 PM | Link to this

Foots - Thanks, I emailed it to my home because there’s a firewall here. Can’t wait to try it out!

By Just saying

July 7, 2008 2:26 PM | Link to this

MyOpinion are you tryna slide in a racist remark on the sly?

Well, while you’re tryna be funny, I was told about 10 years ago that most black women name ends with “A” and is a dead give away on any resume, resulting in those resumes being overlooked. I was advised to use the initial(s) and last name. The friend that pointed that out did the same and ended the rejection of resumes within no time of adopting the new name layout

By The Truth

July 7, 2008 2:29 PM | Link to this

Slim I’ll do it, but they gotta pay me. Other than that this is entertainment and a way for me to go off on folks without taking a charge. LOL

The pawn shop was Army/Navy in Stockbridge, right down from Wal Mart on 138. Another chick was telling me she wanted to take classes and get a pistol. It’s gonna be the wild wild west in here soon. LOL

IG my little love muffin. When I make a decision I take my feelings out of it and gather as much info as I can. Then I make the decision based on my research. So love has absolutley nothing to do with it. Every time I’ve made a decision based on feelings it turned out to be a stupid one.

Melo sometimes just the fact that she’s going thru so much grief is enough to think starting over would be better. And if I was married to a chick and found out she had a child before that was staying with fam that child wouldn’t be welcome in my house. My heart isn’t like that and my doors are always opened. Children aren’t always a blessing, as a matter of fact most of the time they are unwanted and the start of a long downward spiral. I babysat my nephew this weekend and I was like “this is some bullshyt”. He’s 7 but always asking questions and needing something. I had to tell his azz to chill out. That isn’t for me.

Chief you want to get something off of your chest? Feel free. LMAO It’s like you came in here saying “I have something to say and everyone is talking”. Go ahead, the floor is yours. Hold on, Slim is calling me. LOL

By Atl Lady

July 7, 2008 2:31 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon Blog Fam Sorry I’m late I’m having a busy Monday. Hope everyone had a good weekend.

Sabra I pretty much agree with what everyone has said in the blog. Except I’m going to get a little personal. I was in a similar situation (can’t have kids) and my SO came to me with similar news. The child wasn’t really the issue IMO. He changed towards me. The child was the catalyst of unspoken issues already lying underneath the surface. Don’t get me wrong, I was devastated when I found out and me and God and Bacardi did a whole lot of crying together. I would encourage your friend to not so much look at the child as looking at how her husband has changed since the child came into the picture. (I can’t lie. I’m mad at baby mama waiting 8 damn years to drop the news. How’s baby mama working herself into the picture?)

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 7, 2008 2:31 PM | Link to this

myopinion Raqi is that you?…either way I am cracking up at that comment..

By 2CPTG©

July 7, 2008 2:31 PM | Link to this

and DasV…ain’t nuttin changed lil mama….the rhetoric is still the same…..maybe you’re reading me differently? Didn’t you see 2 weeks ago, Thick 6 called me an azzhole?

By Beautiful

July 7, 2008 2:34 PM | Link to this

mood today: busy. i wish i can stay and play!

welcome blanca! sorry i’m late. and yes, you will learn a great deal logging on everyday and paying attention. i have successfully used the advice from MIA and it has worked in my favor. no man yet, but that wasn’t my goal. you’ll know what i mean soon enough.

and about those red flags … if his behavior has you questioning your judgment or you feel uncomfortable being with him, then bounce. and why would you let a nicca … wait … a redneck talk about yo momma like that? stop that craziness right now! all the shyt your parents did for you. girl, take care of the nonsense today.

gotta go … waving.

By Blow Me......PLEASE blow me!!

July 7, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

Blue Kolla She is lying if she tells you she does not need it.

Women without da wood are like bears coming out of habiation…..Hungry, disgruntle and ready to tear a hole into someones a$$.

Women do need it. They are b*** and irritable when they are not regularly tuned up. A woman who is not gettin one is easy to spot. She is the most b*** and meanest chick you could ever lay eyes on. However we can go awhile without but it makes a huge difference. You dont’ need it for surivival but you do need it for a mood regulator.

That’s my 2 cents on the chunked out hilshires…..lol!

By 2CPTG©

July 7, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

“Well, while you’re tryna be funny, I was told about 10 years ago that most black women name ends with “A” and is a dead give away on any resume, resulting in those resumes being overlooked.”

A Red, this caused me to chuckle, and think about you…..like I said, I had a lame w/e, and found a Zane novel, Afterburn, lying around, that I hadn’t read…..why did I laugh out loud when I saw the name Boomqueesha…I said, that’s where A Red gets that from….cause ain’t no way one can just come up with a name like Boomqueesha outta the blue….

By AmazonRed

July 7, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

Oh wait, we had “Laney.” That didn’t end in an “a.” LOL

By Foots

July 7, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

Truth It’s like you came in here saying “I have something to say and everyone is talking

LMAO!! He should be upfront with it, like how ATLGuy gets to yelling at everybody when nobody has noticed him. He went off last week in bold caps like “Y’all don’t see me, I’m in here and nobody said anything to me…” That ish was funny!!

By Demigod33

July 7, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

Blue K yeah, 10-14 was my thing was I was at 200lb at 7 or 9 percent body fat…Im down to a buck 75…can’t handle that class more…I’ll take 5-9s off your platter…Ladies: I will work with 0-4s as time permits.

Demigod is a muthafugga…I like the extra weight

By Cemeeli

July 7, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

mytwo i’m just sitting over here in the gap, for uhm, Chief. Now Melo and i have already established a rapport on here and i’m sure he & you know/read when i feel like “hearing more”.

I won’t really argue that either, tho for the most part, it’s not worth having “just any” just to say you “have some.” Which is where a lotta ladies get it twisted.

…uh..nevermind…

By The Melo

July 7, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

Which is where a lotta ladies get it twisted i understand and i think ur perspective is right….Another thingtwo,dnt knw if u married,but when u eneter in a marriage,a man can do that suff.Every wman gotta protect and defend own so chics who just sit at home and bake cookies,but not paying attention to the nuances of their marriage are stupid smetime.U ot to serve ur mate and do everything to plz him,be it cook,clean,s3xxing up etc.I can tell u that friend of Sabrina waz probably short on a lot of that….u knw the * me,i dnt cook brigade*…man will wh0re on ur lame azz….

By SexyLeggs

July 7, 2008 2:41 PM | Link to this

*Chief Wiggum *, just curious, isn’t this blog about “yapping” back and forth. Apparently you’ve been around long enough to know how this blog works. Change back to your original moniker and continue to join in.

Sabra, I hope your friend can sit down with herself and honestly map out what she needs to do. This may be best done w/her husband by her side.**

Foots, you nailed it. Nothing left to be said —-> This is NOT adoption, this is not a surrogacy, this is the child of a woman whom her husband slept with and got pregnant, when she herself has not been successful in maintaining a viable pregnancy. So not only does she have to deal with the infidelity, she has to deal with the fact that this outside woman gave her man something that she couldn’t.

By AmazonRed

July 7, 2008 2:44 PM | Link to this

2CPTG - Sorry, I hate Zane. I think I just came up with Boomquisha on the fly. I’ve never read Afterburn.

I’m thinking about this “a” thing. I have 2 sisters. None of our first or middle names end in “a.” I wonder if my parents conciously thought of that. Probably not, none of their names in end “a” either.

I have 5 cousins. None of their names end an an “a” either. What is this?!? LOL

By Blanca

July 7, 2008 2:46 PM | Link to this

Sorry for the delayed check-in everyone - I’ve been out on assignment all day (still am) and away from my computer. Not the best way to start my first blog!

So here’s what I’ve learned thus far: Open the blog on time! Will do, my new friends. Does 6 a.m or 7 a.m. work for everyone?

• Blanca

By The Melo

July 7, 2008 2:47 PM | Link to this

He’s 7 but always asking questions and needing something. I had to tell his azz to chill out. That isn’t for me haha,thats funny Truth..i waz with my 3yr old son yesterday whilst my other folks were at church and waz watching the men’s tennis.Son called me to his side of the house eve time to watch spongebob and lil bill and wld cry if i went back to tennis. So i took my forbes mag,slept on the couch reading, with him beside me.But he wld continously laugh at what he was watching on his show and say dadddy,waaaatch,put that mag dwn here Parenthood is no joke,u got be ready for it….

By SlimOne

July 7, 2008 2:48 PM | Link to this

Truth Yeah it is about to be wild wild west…I had sort of put looking for a piece on the back burner due to all my out-of-town weekends…but after hearing about someone getting shot at the Waffle House off Salem Rd in Conyers near my house, and the shooting/robbery at the Krystals in Stockbridge (where I get my scramblers) the thought came back quick and in a hurry. LMAO@you giving Chief the floor then leaving before he could get a word in edgewise. LOL!

Sex is a good stress reliever and also reduces sickness.

By SexyLeggs

July 7, 2008 2:49 PM | Link to this

Whichever you MLBs said women are lying when they say they don’t need d….is lying. We need d….just as much as you guys need the honey pot. Maybe not as much as you guys (LOL)!

By AmazonRed

July 7, 2008 2:50 PM | Link to this

Hey Blanca. The posted blog hours are 8 - 5. That’s all we care about. We’ve had the blog open at 4:55 pm one day. Madness! LOL

By 2CPTG©

July 7, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

“Sorry, I hate Zane. I think I just came up with Boomquisha on the fly. I’ve never read Afterburn.”

wow! you’re good then, cause that’s definitely one of her characters in the novel….

By Blue_Kolla

July 7, 2008 2:56 PM | Link to this

SeanJ ..its a shame her folks spent all the change on an education…

Mayne, I don’t even know what to say about these brainy, light-headed chicks sometimes.

2 …ain’t nuttin changed lil mama….the rhetoric is still the same…..maybe you’re reading me differently?

Naah bruh, a whole lots done changed. This blog now is for Tenderfoots. Go back and read those blogs from three and four years ago. Whewww…

Now everyone’s all mellowed out and taking the high road, whereas before it was straight street and gutter in here.

By Tazzee

July 7, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this

Foots and kimmie those ning sites are the debil! I’m active on 3, high school and both universities.

By Atl Lady

July 7, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this

Blanca Excuse my rudeness. Welcome to the party. On topic:What prompted him to say that about your parents? I know my mom and dad can trip if they don’t like you but generally they tend to be civil until they can get you alone.

By just sayin

July 7, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this

Let’s see, looking around me. There’s Lisa, Wanda, Kenya, Tara, Tameka, Tonya, Kila, Barbara, Erma, Aneisia, Sharonda, Mila, Kia, Regina, Fatima, Shanta, Tamara, Pamela, Angela, Donna, Debra, Priscilla, Donita, Kendra, Anissa, Paula, Ira, Yolanda, Linda, Leticia, Sheila, Alexandra

I could go on

By AmazonRed

July 7, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this

2CPTG - I’m sure I heard it somewhere. LOL

By the way, what are you doing reading her smut? She’s awful.

By star1

July 7, 2008 2:58 PM | Link to this

@TRUTH 9:44. LOL I agree they should of gotten a MAN.

By SlimOne

July 7, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

Ryan Cameron is discussing an article by menshealth

Things a Grown man Shouldn’t have

By IslandGirl

July 7, 2008 3:01 PM | Link to this

Demi and BK you guys are cracking me!!!! No love for the skinny girls…

Truthie ok, my love.

Melo your last post is really the best post I’ve read from you. ^5

By The Truth

July 7, 2008 3:02 PM | Link to this

slim you eat at the Krystals on 138. thats about 1.5 miles from me. Was you involved in the 7 folks that got shot in Conyers? It’s about to get wild. LOL

Poots I remember that. It was hilarious. These folks need someone to talk to but don’t know how to be social, even on a blog. Total dsyfunctionals. LOL I think they get mad when we’re having fun talking crazy.

Melo has your new job put new pressure on you because you’ve been off the chain since you switched? It’s ok to say the word pressure. LOL

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

July 7, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this

Welcome Blanca Hope everybody had a great 4th of July weekend. I’m speed reading the blog, keep em coming….:)

By Hotlanta

July 7, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

Speak for the truth Leggs. I am horny right now. SOME women act as if they don’t wanna give it up and get mad at the man if he act as if he doesn’t want. Hell I love getting caught.

By Hotlanta

July 7, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

Speak for the truth Leggs. I am horny right now. SOME women act as if they don’t wanna give it up and get mad at the man if he act as if he doesn’t want. Hell I love getting caught.

By Cemeeli

July 7, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

@ You-in-the-cut.

…happy feet…happy feet…Goooo sit. Lol. *have a manwhich

@ Atl lady.

Hope you hooked yourself up with some bbq and bakebeans this w/e.

By Wise Diva

July 7, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

welcome Blanca! Just dropping in to say hello :), Good luck this week!

BUENES TARDES!

By Cemeeli

July 7, 2008 3:08 PM | Link to this

…and Condoleezza.

By Atl Lady

July 7, 2008 3:08 PM | Link to this

Truth Are you going to be a consultant for that new show on TVOne? I can’t recall the exact name, but the previews that I saw this weekend were pretty harsh towards the sistahs.

By Blue_Kolla

July 7, 2008 3:14 PM | Link to this

Blow Women without da wood are like bears coming out of habiation…..Hungry, disgruntle and ready to tear a hole into someones a$$.

Serious note though, I saw that a long time ago. Ol’ girl would be all funky-mooded and all and as soon as we’d mix it up, her whole attitude would change. I think that it releases some type of chemical element into the blood stream that rushes to the brain. Holdup, where is ABC?

…now looking around for ABC with the scientific explanation.

Just Sayin Let’s see, looking around me. There’s Lisa, Wanda, Kenya, Tara, Tameka, Tonya, Kila, Barbara, Erma, Aneisia, Sharonda, Mila, Kia, Regina, Fatima, Shanta, etc.

You must be working at Nikki’s New VIP over on Monroe.

LMAO @ the brothers that’re about to ask my if that’s true. ^^^

By SlimOne

July 7, 2008 3:15 PM | Link to this

Truth Naw I wasn’t involved in that shootout but that Waffle House is about 1 mile from my spot too. Just recognizing two spots that I go to is a lil too close for comfort for me. It’s illegal to walk around wearing a bullet proof vest isn’t it?? LOL!

Did anyone happen to see that Reno 911 episode where the chicks got their new bullet-proof vests….and their boobs were dayum near popping outta em? lol I think i’ll send mine off to 2e’s to spice mine up a bit fashion wise.

By Atl Lady

July 7, 2008 3:16 PM | Link to this

Cemee If I never see another barbequed anything until September or October I’ll be ok. I’m talking ‘bout bbq EVERYWHERE I went like it was going out of style and charcoal was a $1 a bag. I’ve got leftovers that should last me until this weekend.

By 2CPTG©

July 7, 2008 3:19 PM | Link to this

looka Diva, prolly laughin her azz off!!! Yeen gotta admit it….

A Red….I read somma e’rythang!!! I wouldn’t know it was garbage til after the fact….

and ummm, am I a negra cause I know of females with damn near all the names Just Sayin’ mentioned?

By SexyCool

July 7, 2008 3:21 PM | Link to this

oh…forgot…welcome, blanca…figured i’d act like i have some home training…

ain’t got nothing against you…but you did come up in this piece with a topic that’s been re-worked, re-vised, re-activated, re-vived, re-done, re-worded, re-lived, re-hashed, re-juvenated, re-every-d@mn-thing…

but i’ma withhold judgement…and while doing so offer a suggestion…perhaps a bit of research on past topics would be good…

By mytwocents

July 7, 2008 3:22 PM | Link to this

Just Sayin I’m a statistic! My name ends with the letter A :( But wait, if I divide the # of letters by the # of syllables… Whew, I’m safe now.

Cemeeli You know Chief gonna allow ya ‘bloviations’ bout bein I-N-D-E-P… in honor of Independence Day, but just this once. Why are they still playin that song?!? I mean whose clothes match their phone?

Melo So what I’m hearing you say is if I take a husband, Serve him well in every room of the house. Okay. Then turn a blind eye if he attempts to service others. So Not Okay. Even if she cooked a 5 course meal every nite, at the end of the day, cheating was a choice he made mentally & allowed his peeni to carry out physically, and since there’s a child coulda been w/o barriers as well. Who knows, she mighta been open to swingin. But even that doesn’t mean he still wouldn’t pursue or seek other warm, welcoming places. If she wasn’t meeting his needs, no interaction outside of his home was gonna change what was missing inside of it.

By The Melo

July 7, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

IslandG,thnx, i thoght this one wld be the best,Truth is,no woman is truly independent of dyck,they either have it or are missing it….no in between. but i see u got a young one so i can concede the fact coz u popped one already…… TRUTH yeah pressure is there but i told my boss to slow the damn down coz everybody in company got to pull together as well,we cant just slave for the other 2000 pple……….

By Atl Lady

July 7, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

Blue Kolla Not trying to take ABC’s place, but there are a couple of studies that show that frequent sex is a key factor in longevity and overall good health. If you can get it at least 3-5 times a week, you’ll add 7-10 years to your life. ALLEGEDLY. I say allegedly because if you mess with the wrong somebody, your life can end suddenly (bullets or poison) or not so suddenly (AIDS).

By BigWords

July 7, 2008 3:25 PM | Link to this

2CPTG©

I’ve read all of Zane’s books including AfterBurn. Good stuff!

By AmazonRed

July 7, 2008 3:27 PM | Link to this

LOL 2CPTG, please tell me you don’t know an Erma or Ira, unless you play bingo with them on Wednesday nights!

(AmazonRed loves bingo but does not play)

By Cemeeli

July 7, 2008 3:29 PM | Link to this

I’ve got leftovers that should last me until this weekend.

Atl Lady Please share your leftovers. We had the likes of Savvy Aquaria and 2) Overpriced ‘movie concession stand junk’<—-amount spent was equivalent to that a child’s seafood entree…sa shame.

Speaking of summer delights…I want some preserves.

By SexyLeggs

July 7, 2008 3:31 PM | Link to this

Curious, I was watching tv over the weekend and caught an episode of Law & Order. The woman murdered her husband because “he called me a cougar and worst!” I found myself laughing. For those cougars on this blog, do you find the term offensive. I look at it as a compliment.

By 2CPTG©

July 7, 2008 3:32 PM | Link to this

no, no Ira, or Mila, but all the rest, yep….just know of them, no particular dealings, tho.

By Demigod33

July 7, 2008 3:33 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl it’s funny. A brother loses 20 lbs and all I am suck with is dating women in their late 30’s and 40’s sporting mean a$$ 6-packs…I am thinking of adding some size to my 5’3 frame, LOL

I can’t be on a diet forever!!! LOL

Speaking of thick girls…small waist, phat booty and thunder thighs…

Jamoca where you be?

By The Truth

July 7, 2008 3:34 PM | Link to this

Slim i saw that episode. If you want to see something funny check out Reno 911 Miami. That was hilarious.

AtlLady I didn’t see that one. what is it about? BTW, Even Napolean Hill in his great book Think and Grow Rich had a chapter on sex and it’s power. The woman or man that overlooks that activity is missing out on their overall well being.

Look at that prostitution blog. It died a slow painful death. 39 posts in 2 days. At least we can talk about absolutely nothing all day. LOL

I had some watermelon and i have a case of the bubbleguts. LAWD I’m rumbling like Poots* over here. LOL

By Atl Lady

July 7, 2008 3:39 PM | Link to this

Cemee I feel your pain on concession stand prices. I’m fixing up a picnic basket and on my way. I’m bringing you a slab of ribs alone. My dad gave me 2 slabs to take home as if I live with 5 other people and that’s not the half of stuff I took from other folks houses trying to be nice. You struck a nerve with the prerserves. My Aunt was complaining about the size and prices of peaches because that’s what she was doing this weekend. (I love my relatives) I’m going to have to smuggle you a jar.

By The Melo

July 7, 2008 3:42 PM | Link to this

If she wasn’t meeting his needs, no interaction outside of his home was gonna change what was missing inside of it. yep,true…but that behaviour, u equate it to snapping,like getting a release.U knw if its that time of the month 4 u,sme of u get f******* up and get tigrish like u ready to fight and if somebody gets in ur way,u give them a tongue lashing..that dnt cure the blood dripping on the honey pot but u just doing it anyway coz u releasing pressure..thats same with men who stray when they dnt get licks and cooking at home.Its no excuse but im saying to u my sis,if u get ur man,pay attention to his needs.If he strays anyway but u cook,clean,give him his props in bed and u get urs. and u not argumentative and talking blablah all the time at home,He is the dogg,leave his azz alone coz u were champ. Nver turn a bling eye,no,pay him VIP treatment and no reasonable man will stray,i guarantee u that..treat him in bed like the wh0re will and make his day at home comfy,full etc and u be straight,laughing at sme of these saying im independent but with tension and pressure coz they cant have dyck in their bed for a full night…….

By Demi

July 7, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

So what I’m hearing you say is if I take a husband, Serve him well in every room of the house….

MYC That’s what I am talking about!!

SEXY great question

Demi is now sitting with a laptop with Microsoft speadsheet open, to help keep track of all the cougars on this blog

By Atl Lady

July 7, 2008 3:47 PM | Link to this

Truth LMAO @ the bubbleguts. I feel your pain! It’s a relationship show hosted by two brothers. The previews show a roundtable of all Black men discussing issues and a sistah supposedly watching the program throw her TV set off the roof. The clip they showed was of a brother saying why he doesn’t date Black women.

By Binford2K8

July 7, 2008 3:47 PM | Link to this

SlimOne

A Nerf hoop in his living room Never had one of those

A Futon See no problem with this in a spare room - good for company

Name for his penis (even if its witty) My manhood just is - no name required

Less than $20 in his wallet I use credit most of the time, so this happens now and again

Unstamped passport The Gov’t was slow in getting me mine (I went to the Carribean) and they don’t stamp it driving in to Canada - so oh well

Lucky Shirt If I had one, it’d be burned by now

Key chain with a bottle opener I have one that looks like a shark - not a big drinker, but it comes in handy

Empty Fridge Not applicable to me

Witty email signature Not applicable for personal - work is standard

Black eye I get bruises everywhere BUT my face

SILM

I do have some topic ideas, we’ll play it by ear tomorrow.

By Foots (aka Poots)

July 7, 2008 3:48 PM | Link to this

Truth Did somebody summon me? I heard bubble guts, and had to chime in. LOL!! I’ve been eating watermelon for the past week and have been getting quite the bladder workout. No other adverse effects as of yet…

By the way, my dad and I built two 3’ x 6’ raised garden beds in April and my goodness, I have a big haul now. I have cucumbers, squash, jalapenos, okra, and 10 little tomatoes that are coming in. I had so much doggone squash, I had to give it away. Now the darn things are starting over! My mom is growing watermelon vines in her garden and they are the cutest little things. Nothing like organic food that you cultivate yourself.

By Foots (aka Poots)

July 7, 2008 3:48 PM | Link to this

Truth Did somebody summon me? I heard bubble guts, and had to chime in. LOL!! I’ve been eating watermelon for the past week and have been getting quite the bladder workout. No other adverse effects as of yet…

By the way, my dad and I built two 3’ x 6’ raised garden beds in April and my goodness, I have a big haul now. I have cucumbers, squash, jalapenos, okra, and 10 little tomatoes that are coming in. I had so much doggone squash, I had to give it away. Now the darn things are starting over! My mom is growing watermelon vines in her garden and they are the cutest little things. Nothing like organic food that you cultivate yourself.

By Blue_Kolla

July 7, 2008 3:48 PM | Link to this

Slim I broke or skitted around over half of those rules. LOL

Demi/Island Girl I’m not going to disqualify my 0 - 8 sisters, but whenever I fill out my Dream Girl Want List, BIG t1tties and BIG azz are on it. Disclaimer ===> Those two items can be substituted for super-cool personality, B cups, and regular-sized azz. LOL

By Cemeeli

July 7, 2008 3:51 PM | Link to this

Atl Lady Please ask Auntie ‘The Best’ to jar up some blackberry preserves for your gurl Cee. :) I promise i’ll tell everyone that try some that they can only get that good of a preserve from Auntie B.

Concession stand…You know i always have in the back of my mind to go ahead and stuff the purse with goods to keep from buying the $6 nachos and $4 drinks. But a sis can’t set that example for the lil one. inquisitive child helps you see the bigger picture

By SlimOne

July 7, 2008 3:54 PM | Link to this

Speaking of leftovers…my bestfriend fixed me a plate since I didn’t go to any bbq’s this weekend. We hit up UPTOWN Lounge, drank a whole hellvua lot and ended up leaving my shyt in the car all freakin night! When leftovers go bad… SMH @ myself.

By AGirlfromDC

July 7, 2008 3:56 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs my last three beaus have each been ten years younger (i’m 43, soon to be 44); it’s not been an issue for me, most likely because by looking at me and any one of them together, you can’t tell they’re younger than me; but when i met men that i’m interested in getting to know, my girlfriends’ first question is “how old is he? regarding that episode of law & order, the lady/wife had deep-rooted issues.

By kimmie

July 7, 2008 3:58 PM | Link to this

Cee - I understand about the example for the little ones, but those movie concessions are killer! We saw Wall-E with the kids. Me & SO can’t even share popcorn because he likes butter on it & I don’t. Girl, I used to smuggle all kinda food up in the movies, especially in the winter - fill up purse & coat pockets. Not just candy & sodas, but subs, chesecake, burgers, chicken, you name it! I know, a little ghetto, but I ate good!

By The Melo

July 7, 2008 3:59 PM | Link to this

A Nerf hoop in his living room A Futon translate for me Slim or anyone out there,whats that…?

Name for his penis a colleague in my class in my undergrad(back when young and more vibrant) used to call his by a local zulu name..translation in engl long ranger meaning he cld thrw bombs to wmen from across the river.. He used to boast that evey wman who came to his lil aprtmnt wld leave their panties in there,not being territorial but cause they cldnt wait to get out in a hurry, after getting their azz torn,battered and aged. he fcked like a gorrilla………..

By The Truth

July 7, 2008 4:01 PM | Link to this

Poots did you see the article on watermelon being like viagra for men? You may want to save ol boy some? I have cucumbers, squash, jalapenos, okra, and 10 little tomatoes that are coming in. that sound like a recipe for a huge explosion for me. You WOULD NOT want to be around me after eating that healthy. LOL

Atl most bruhs that don’t date black women just don’t have the backbone for it. I’ve seen the kind of cat thats macking on some philipino chick thinking he’s tight. If he only knew how bad sista’s wanna be tame too. LOL It just takes more muscle.

By Blow Me......PLEASE blow me!!

July 7, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

Blue Kolla What are you gonna do with those big t** and azz? lol!! Probably would’nt know what to do. lol!

By Atl Lady

July 7, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

Cemee We’ll see about the blackberries. She wants us (really me and a couple of cousins) to go out to my grandparernts old house and pick wild blackberries out of the thickets downthere. I don’t know about all that and after her weekend in the farmer’s market. We’ll see.

By DasV

July 7, 2008 4:07 PM | Link to this

Toucan reading you wrong? naw. reading you the same but factoring in what i know ‘boutcha.

LOL@ Blue sayin we tender-footin it these days. mayne, back in the day there was blood erry’day. but you know, some days i dont even lurk cause i get tired of reading ‘meanness’…. deal wit enuff of that on the ride home. j/s

By The Melo

July 7, 2008 4:07 PM | Link to this

Okay,im in the market for a pick up truck 2008 and double cab.Any hustlers out there or dealership that can sell to me for $19,000.00 max incl title and taxes,u get my money.Tell ur commissioned and car sales reps friends out there. I got fin lined up. Those damn things arent selling so i aint paying no top dollar above $20,000 for a truck, no matter its 2009 or 2010 futuristic.$19,000 max pref toyota or titan.. Or else i wait until the prices fall further,crude goes up some more,those things fall in price sme more..easy…

By The Melo

July 7, 2008 4:10 PM | Link to this

Blue_Kolla small tities are the worst,its torture when u doing missionary coz u got nowhere to tch coz in most instances,the azz is bony too……..

By Cemeeli

July 7, 2008 4:12 PM | Link to this

kimmie…i hear ya. I have the kids watchin’ ma. Real tip - NO, i ain’t saying i’ve never done the such. Trust, i have. But now i have to find myself thinking in mommy/parent frame of mind. I am and mayber the only light that my son looks unto for guidance. remember we are training the child in the way they should go. So ergo…can’t fly off and snap on McDonalds chic like i wanna sometimes. dunno how they get the change wrong twice then look at me sideways when my son laughs. He can count better than, sometimes.

By SlimOne

July 7, 2008 4:13 PM | Link to this

Melo A nerf basketball hoop set…you know its made out of that soft foam material that you can squeeze? Little kids tend to have one of these inside the house as to not tear up shyt.

A futon…you should google it. It’s a couch-like piece of furniture that folds out into a bed. College students tend to have these in their off-campus apartments.

BlueK I guess what matters if how many of those things you STILL have. LOL! A futon you’ve had since college and screwed 9million chicks on? A habitat of too much dna. Ewwwww

By kimmie

July 7, 2008 4:14 PM | Link to this

Atl & Truth - That show is not new, it was on last year. They would have this panel of dudes, maybe 2 might have some sense, the others would be wack. For example, they had a discussion one time about dating older/younger women. There was this old dude on there(50-plus or older) who was going on about how he only liked younger, cute women and anyone over 30 need not apply. That’s fine, to each his own, but why did ole dude look like he was 10 months pregnant, with salt & pepper hair that he claim he got HIGHLIGHTED! I was LMAO! But you couldn’t tell him he wasn’t the sh—! I think they have some guys on there to just stir up stuff and have contraversy. It was a little weak to me, I’m surprised it’s coming back. Anyway, when I did tune in, I took the “advice” offered with a grain of salt, much like I do that that is offered by most of the dudes on this blog.LOL

By Demi

July 7, 2008 4:15 PM | Link to this

The Melo some things should be left unsaid, LOL.

IG also I am a legg dude…So if babe has some track star or shapely legs and no a$$…I am cool.

Bump that..I need a gap of a$$..something to grab while Baby Boy riding her a$$ around the room

By Blue Kolla

July 7, 2008 4:15 PM | Link to this

Blow What are you gonna do with those big t* and azz? lol!! Probably would’nt know what to do. lol!*

Well if you possess those, meet me outside of room 109 @ the Hilton, off 85 @ 10:28 tonight.

By SlimOne

July 7, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

Melo A nerf basketball hoop set…you know its made out of that soft foam material that you can squeeze? Little kids tend to have one of these inside the house as to not tear up shyt.

A futon…you should google it. It’s a couch-like piece of furniture that folds out into a bed. College students tend to have these in their off-campus apartments.

BlueK I guess what matters if how many of those things you STILL have. LOL! A futon you’ve had since college and screwed 9million chicks on? A habitat of too much dna. Ewwwww

By Jamoca

July 7, 2008 4:19 PM | Link to this

Hey Everybody…..

On Topic:

Here goes the “resurrection” of red flags…which depending on the urgency of the matter, I’ve either disregarded them or handled the situation accordingly…speaking of this w/kend, I totally disregarded the “red flags” and had myself a ball (courteousy of good ole’ “Ybo Citeh”…

…and I believe IslandG, gave all of us the “lo-down” of 12 outta 75 reasons folks need to make sex part of their daily lives…which to me seems parallel to the Daily Food Guide Pyramid, right up there next to oils, fats, and other “good to you’, but if not used sparingly or excessive amounts will have yo’ butt “woe out” and “loosed” ….uggghhh, got a visual.

…and Baybeh Blue, I’m almost sure most women would not argue w/ you regarding “gettin’ sum” on the regular, but unfortunately it ONLY serves temporary relief, like Tylenol…taken on an as needed basis. (wink)…for real, how are ya’?…thought bout’ cha this wkend down in Ybo, when I saw all dem fine black menfolk posted up on their bikes…

(now all of a sudden hearing Della Reese to Mr. Calhoun say: “I’m uh honest ho3…and all my ho3s is honest”)…regarding legalized prostitution…you can frickazee, fry it, sautee it all ya’ like, but I still can only smdh…

Hey, nah will ya’ looka here…Ms. Nonchalant huh’ self…(whistlin’ while lookin’ roun’ the blog lounge)…LOL!!!…din’ I tell ya’…gon’ head n’ bite the bait if you won’t 2…HA!!(saw dat?)…hehehe

Mytwo:….sup chic!…hey Troof!…where’s that Demigawd?!

By mytwocents

July 7, 2008 4:20 PM | Link to this

like getting a release? I guess they are two types of releases. Often done with a cavalier attitude, can’t take neither one of ‘em back and both can have long-lasting effects. So we gotta think about our actions, but not overthink… that’s how we make it too complicated.

By just sayin

July 7, 2008 4:20 PM | Link to this

ya’ll killing me bout dem names.

No BK we’re all in cubicles. No Nikki’s here. Some days though, whew!

By Demi

July 7, 2008 4:21 PM | Link to this

Blue/Melo dudes please, y’all just like the way them bitties be bouncing when she’s cowgurling y’all a$$…I will admit, that shyt is addictive and the clapping sound from the bouncing, LOL.

By Foots (aka Poots)

July 7, 2008 4:21 PM | Link to this

kimmie It’s not that Black Men Revealed show, is it? If so, I hated the format, too much talking over the other and no resolutions.

Truth That dude is 29 and is as solid as a Mack truck. Watermelon-flavored Viagra is the last thing he needs. Please lawd, no Viagra, pleeeessssseeeee…. LMAO!!

By Cemeeli

July 7, 2008 4:22 PM | Link to this

mytwo how about turning the Jelly Fishes red, white and blue in honor of Independance Day? yep… told you we do too much

kimmie WALL-E was cute. did Lil Tea bags get there WALL-E watch? My son keep gettin mad ‘cause the time keep going out. I’m like dude…You got it for FREE!

Hancock was cool too. i wont be going to moviehouse for another several weeks

By Blue_Kolla

July 7, 2008 4:22 PM | Link to this

Melo small tities are the worst,its torture when u doing missionary coz u got nowhere to tch coz in most instances,the azz is bony too……..

I can’t even co-sign that because the 2 B’s that I’ve rolled with both had some very nice azzes, one in particular, I believe to have been a transplanted donkey azz for real, that joint was so phat and round. I swear that girl could compete with ANY woman in the A for best azz. Dayum…

By SlimOne

July 7, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this

Melo A nerf basketball hoop set…you know its made out of that soft foam material that you can squeeze? Little kids tend to have one of these inside the house as to not tear up shyt.

A futon…you should google it. It’s a couch-like piece of furniture that folds out into a bed. College students tend to have these in their off-campus apartments.

BlueK I guess what matters if how many of those things you STILL have. LOL! A futon you’ve had since college and screwed 9million chicks on? A habitat of too much dna. Ewwwww

By Lurker

July 7, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this

Horacio is fine!

By kimmie

July 7, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this

Cee - I totally feel ya, and SO’s kids do not miss a beat. We have to constantly be on our toes, but that’s good! Yes, I’m always saying that quote “raise a child in the way that he should go” to folks who think bad kids are cute and it’s okay that they aren’t raising their kid! They become SOCIETY’S problem!

By The Melo-sexx DOC

July 7, 2008 4:24 PM | Link to this

If you can get it at least 3-5 times a week, you’ll add 7-10 years to your life. they are not talking about the fly by night,booty call.They mean the overnight,where u romance after,hold each other and kiss softly thru out the night.Its more holistic,fulfilling and healing and has the effect on the genes and blood flow.

By Blue_Kolla

July 7, 2008 4:25 PM | Link to this

Melo small tities are the worst,its torture when u doing missionary coz u got nowhere to tch coz in most instances,the azz is bony too……..

I can’t even co-sign that because the 2 B’s that I’ve rolled with both had some very nice azzes, one in particular, I believe to have been a transplanted donkey azz for real, that joint was so phat and round. I swear that girl could compete with ANY woman in the A for best azz. Dayum…

By IslandGirl

July 7, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

Demi and Blue not trying to sound stereotypical, but it seems that black men are into booty and white men are into breasts. I don’t hear much about legs tho.

By The Melo-sexx DOC

July 7, 2008 4:27 PM | Link to this

SLIM thnx…ignore that offensive tities post of mine.mustnt make u feel bad..lol

By Demi

July 7, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

Jamoca you can’t miss my black a$$…i am on slave W78…now gang signing it out

By kimmie

July 7, 2008 4:32 PM | Link to this

Foots - Yeah, that’s the show! I hate it too, plus it used to come on the same time as something else I liked to watch. It definitely needed some tweeking!

Cee - We didn’t get a watch and boy, they would have cut up if they knew they missed out!LOL The little man is turning 8 next month and wants a watch, so I’m trying to find him a cool one. Little lady turned 6 last Tuesday and we had her party at the martial arts school. Fun was had by all.

By The Melo-sexx DOC

July 7, 2008 4:33 PM | Link to this

Ryan Cameron has been frank skied,he plays gospel at 4.30 pm crazyy.the man now knows Jesus…

By SexyLeggs

July 7, 2008 4:34 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli, went to see Wanted this past weeked (loved the stunts) and I too thought this …in the back of my mind to go ahead and stuff the purse with goods to keep from buying the $6 nachos and $4 drinks. But a sis can’t set that example for the lil one. inquisitive child helps you see the bigger picture Yep yep, but the temptation was strong!

By The Melo-sexx DOC

July 7, 2008 4:36 PM | Link to this

Demi and Blue not trying to sound stereotypical, but it seems that black men are into booty and white men are into breasts Island,i dnt appreciate u just asking these 2,my opinion on this dnt matter to u girl…??? lol

By JRock

July 7, 2008 4:38 PM | Link to this

My first date with my latest disaster SHOULD HAVE had all kinds of red flags. When he went through the list (and I mean over 10) girls he had lived with in the last 10 years, I told myself this guy is a mooch. Whatever you do, don’t let him move in you. So, of course, I over-rid that little voice and when the situation presented itself that he needed a place to stay “just for a while” in order for his credit card company to straighten out their mistakes, blah-blah. Well, that turned out he lost his job, and the little while turned into me paying for everything for three years (and five jobs he got fired from). During this time, he ran up $400 porno charges on my cable bill, was having online and phone sex with girls from online dating sites, oh and it just goes on and on… Moral of the story: listen to that little voice. It knows what it is talking about!

By Jamoca

July 7, 2008 4:38 PM | Link to this

@ Blue: “…one in particular, I believe to have been a transplanted donkey azz for real, that joint was so phat and round. I swear that girl could compete with ANY woman in the A for best azz. Dayum…..”

….I couldn’t not have written a betta autobiograhy even if I had written it myself…’you memba dat?”…back at cha, mayne…LOL!!!

@ Demi:

now diggin’ up ole booteh music from the 80’s….

” gimme dat donkeh butt an’ nem’ big ole’ legs, I ain’t too proud to beg…ain’t no shame in dis thang…..lemme ride dat donkeh, donkehhh, lemme ride dat donkeh, donkeh….pleeeeasssse?…pleeeaasse?…pleeeaaassse?…..LOL LOL!!!!

By Blue Kolla

July 7, 2008 4:39 PM | Link to this

Slim A futon you’ve had since college and screwed 9million chicks on?

That’s messed up but do you see what you just wrote? That could be any dude’s mattress on his king/queen sized bed… and you thought this fool just had a nice bedroom suite. LOL

Slim: So how long have you had this mattress.

Random Dude: Yeah baby, I’ve had this suite for about 5/6 years now, but you know I buy a new mattress every year. I have to keep up with the new technology. You know, I’m an athlete and I’ve got to keep my back in tip-top condition.

…thinking to himself - “YR, I’ve hit 3 broads on this mofo, THIS week.”

RD: So what’d you want to sip on. I’ve got some Martini mixers in here, some Patron…

…just as the festivities are kickin’ off.

Slim: thinking to self… I wonder if I’m the first or second on THIS mattress?

By SlimOne

July 7, 2008 4:39 PM | Link to this

mellow mushroom ur itty bitty posts don’t offend me….no need to apologize…anything more is just plain greedy. lol

By Jamoca

July 7, 2008 4:41 PM | Link to this

….naw that was the 90’s….

By Beautiful

July 7, 2008 4:41 PM | Link to this

Blanca one question before this thing closes. what have you learned today and will you actually use the advice coming from this blog? ok, that’s two questions.

i know you’ve been lurkin’. who are your favorite bloggers and the worst? and why. ok, three …

By Demi

July 7, 2008 4:42 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl thats true, more white women do that breasts implant thingly and quite a few black female strippers do that a$$ implant thingy.

I be like naw boo…that a$$ to thigh ratio ain’t working for you, LOL

But, I love a set of nice legs and a cute face…breast’n’a$$ sagged in the long run…legs rarely do.

By Dan

July 7, 2008 4:43 PM | Link to this

@IG

Booty, breast, smile, split end, snaggle teeth, etc.

Whatever it is that a man finds attractive about a woman he will concentrate his attention there.

But these days the booty and breastes be out…a lot

By Cemeeli

July 7, 2008 4:45 PM | Link to this

The little man is turning 8 next month and wants a watch, so I’m trying to find him a cool one.

kimmie party at the studio? That’ s cool as heck.

…Lets’ see; Lil C got his first nice watch @ 6 years old (some character) in 1-2 weeks lost it. Now at 9y/o he has a nice Amitron Digital waterresitant sports watch. Keeps up with it. Got it at Target polly

IslandG…I don’t hear much about legs tho. I know you can’t be serious!? as a TRUE island girl i know you of all have gotten the “beautiful hams” compliments from your fellow bretheren.

Jamoca what you say ‘bout it?

By Blow Me......PLEASE blow me!!

July 7, 2008 4:47 PM | Link to this

Please….men just like women period….anything with a snatch. lol! Big azz, lil t**, nice legs, no a*, big t**….a woman would just be good enough.

By Atl Lady

July 7, 2008 4:48 PM | Link to this

Dan So is that a good thing or is like Dave Chappelle says, “Women have flooded the market?” lol lol

By The Melo-sexx DOC

July 7, 2008 4:49 PM | Link to this

ur itty bitty posts don’t offend me….no need to apologize…anything more is just plain greedy. lol are u all wondering hw i know about Slim’s GOOD!!

By mytwocents

July 7, 2008 4:49 PM | Link to this

Jamoca You breezin in on this note, missy? I heard an ignorant song the other day & tried to switch station, only for my girl to inform me it’s her new fave - “She Got A Donk” LOL I swear I’m gonna drop a record!

By Blow Me......PLEASE blow me!!

July 7, 2008 4:51 PM | Link to this

lol @ Beautiful Good Post. Yeah…Blanca Who are your favorites?

By Blow Me......PLEASE blow me!!

July 7, 2008 4:51 PM | Link to this

lol @ Beautiful Good Post. Yeah…Blanca Who are your favorites?

By Blue Kolla

July 7, 2008 4:54 PM | Link to this

Island not trying to sound stereotypical, but it seems that black men are into booty and white men are into breasts. I don’t hear much about legs tho.

Don’t believe that! Brothers love BIG t!tties too. Why do you think sisters always got ‘em out and in our faces, all up in Kroger?

And watch the White boys when the sisters with the fat azzes walk by. And if you don’t believe that, look in the back corner, where it’s nice and dark at the strip. But don’t choke when you see it’s a White boy droppin’ major cash on the donkey butt in his face. I’ve probably been to a strip joint on 4/5 occassions(sp) and I’ve seen this phenomenon twice.

By 2CPTG©

July 7, 2008 4:55 PM | Link to this

Jamoca…..I gotta secret, too, nye, what!!! I caught that, too….yeen funny!

btw, I think you got me beat in the slang dept…..but I can “hear” e’ry word!

By Demi

July 7, 2008 4:55 PM | Link to this

Blow Me Dayum…Dayum, I can’t argue her 447 at all.

Don’t stop, getty getty, let me see that pdussy doo doo brown

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 7, 2008 4:58 PM | Link to this

I’m actually working today guys! LOL

Binford Why is it illegal to sell something that you can give away for free yeah…if I can give my kidney away for free….why the hell can’t I sell it? It’s mine! I loved George Carlin…he kept it real while making you laugh as he mocked the stupidity in the world! He will be missed.

Cemeeli Delores (Dolor in Spanish means pain). You giving it to ‘em huh? LOL

Blow I hung out with my girls and my ex. That man is still so sexy he makes my teeth sweat! LMAO I had a ball. It was hotter than a fat man’s ball in hell…but I stuck it out! I have to go back home in September.

Sabra your story is part of why I could never forgive a man who cheated on me. With or without a child i would be reminded of his infidelity whenever I’d look at him. Not to mention the child would be a reminder of the fact that he did it raw dog with another woman and put my life at risk by possibly bringing me home a disease.

Truth You freak! LOL I am not saying I am in that industry. I’m just saying get paid for what you do well! LOL

Spellman I work out 2 times a day. Being fat is my biggest fear! I’m keeping it in check!I feel ya!

Dan I think the reason I hate the word thick is because the chicks you speak of use it. So if a guy says that to me I go off! LOL

Melo I refuse to accept MY HUSBAND’S b*stard child that he fathered while cheating on me! If the child was there before we got together, then that is fine.

People in the US adopt overseas because they make is so hard for you to adopt here. Any fool can have a baby but to adopt you had better be Jesus Christ or at least a Halo wearing angel with deep pockets.

Slim You know I’d hook your vest up girl.

By Demi

July 7, 2008 4:58 PM | Link to this

Mr. Mixx and Marquis Pump, pump, pump, get it, get it Shake, shake, shake, shake a lil’ somethin’ That’s the way (Yeaaaah) That’s the way (You go girl!)

By Blue Kolla

July 7, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

Jamo what up slim. you’re late, we’re out. :)

By Foots (aka Poots)

July 7, 2008 5:00 PM | Link to this

Congrats on your first day Blanca!! You made it, and with 300 posts too! Not bad…

LOL @ myself for counting posts like box office dollars!

By SexyLeggs

July 7, 2008 5:00 PM | Link to this

Good night everyone!

Blanca, again welcome aboard. Blog bar now open. First 2 drinks on me.

The 4th of July is over; however, please stay aleert

By Jamoca

July 7, 2008 5:00 PM | Link to this

@ Mytwo:

“…Jamoca You breezin in on this note, missy?…”

I missed all ya’ll, I just had to peep in for a moment, you know…

“…I heard an ignorant song the other day & tried to switch station, only for my girl to inform me it’s her new fave…”

sometimes, gurl…it’s really just all in fun, really….matta fact - I got into a lil’ sumthin’ this wkend…they made me “drop and give em’ “fithy” ….LOL!!!…had a BALL!

@ Cee aka “Ms. Nonchanchilla”

You know we down like fo’ flat ones, don’t make nuttin’ of it, but did I not tell ya’?…LOL!!!

By Cemeeli

July 7, 2008 5:03 PM | Link to this

Stac Pain huh…i guess my instructor took me to that…Lol. I can not help Spanish was not my choice of an elective and they forced me to take it to graduate. I wanted French soooo bad.

By mytwocents

July 7, 2008 5:03 PM | Link to this

Blanca may not come back tomorrow now that she knows the last hour is like the last day of school. But I guess Wise warned you bout that before she started poppin Tequila shots in Mexico. Don’t eat the worm

By Cemeeli

July 7, 2008 5:05 PM | Link to this

Jamoca What you told me was, i stay whistiling…:) SO!

By Jamoca

July 7, 2008 5:22 PM | Link to this

“Jamoca…..I gotta secret, too, nye, what!!! I caught that, too….yeen funny!

btw, I think you got me beat in the slang dept…..but I can “hear” e’ry word!…”

LMAO!!!LOL!!!….I think you’re my biggest competition yet in the slang dept….just tryna keep up witcha’ll…LOL!!!…

…btw, I figured you’d catch that one, laid that one down privly just fo’ ya’too…LOL!!!…cuz I saw all dis’ fo’ it even went down n’ all a gal can do is give a head knod to ya’; b/c reassurance like the one you just gave, speaks a milli, a milli, a millian. (that’s alright, right there, can’t help but smile bout it all…)

btw…folk(s) in particular mentioned wantin’ us to chop it up in the lounge (of course, just for spitz and giggles)…hope “they” enjoyed the show, tho…(Mocha’s just glad she could be of “some service)….

Say!….Baybeh Blue…Mocha makin’her presence felt in the “afta”, should not be of surprise to you, me or we. “She puts in work (first), in order to make time for play LATER”….this is “her” norm, no need to adjust, sweetie, but for you I’ll make an exception.

Night People(s)…..