Misadventures in Atlanta

By LilZ

July 11, 2008 8:23 AM | Link to this

Good morning! My biggest problem tends to be that I am too much myself! I throw a bunch of stuff at them about myself (ie, I have a zillion tattoos, I work at a haunted house, I love zombie movies, I don’t cook unless it comes out of a box) and then they run screaming. I don’t do it on purpose, these are just the things I love to do and this is who I am so they just come up in conversation. I don’t want to hide this stuff because then I feel like I’m not telling the truth so if I comes up, I say it! That being said, I just recently met a guy who seems to love all of that stuff about me… so who knows. Of course, there is probably something wrong with him, like he killed his mother and lives with her dead body.

By 2 Can Play That Game©

July 11, 2008 8:23 AM | Link to this

testing….

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 8:25 AM | Link to this

Helllllllo

GaMn look around and looks for anyone!! (‘) (‘)

By 2 Can Play That Game©

July 11, 2008 8:27 AM | Link to this

ha!!! I can say my name!!!!

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 8:43 AM | Link to this

Whooo…Happy Friday! Blanca, you made it! How does it feel? You did good this week. It’s never easy starting something new.

I’ve dated no less than half a dozen guys this year with no real luck.

Let me also say, thank goodness you are an actual dater! I hope you will continue to share your experiences and kick some of our more complacent bloggers into gear!

By QC

July 11, 2008 8:44 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers, Lurkers..it’s Friday i hope you all have a great day/weekend..i’ll be in Lurkesville, Ga chillin in da Lounge…i’ll check back later

BK smooches

By slim one

July 11, 2008 8:44 AM | Link to this

I am definitely not the problem. If my honey don’t appreciate this package, they can move on along, playa. Word.

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 8:50 AM | Link to this

I am definitely not the problem. If my honey don’t appreciate this package, they can move on along, playa. Word.

Tee hee hee…well, this may get the blog started off way early! We know how some of the male bloggers feel about women never owning up to thier dating flaws!

(I know you were being funny and I’m LMAO!)

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 8:50 AM | Link to this

Feliz Viernes Blanca!

My thing is I can be too picky somtimes. She’ll have to be the total package before I settle into a relationship with her.

Thing that turns me away most often these days is Negativity. Baby Girl…You aren’t going to bring me down with you!

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 11, 2008 9:06 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CEE!!!!!

On-Topic: My biggest problem is overthinking..which can lead to all sort problems..because when you overthink there are occassions(vast) to misread. And look for problems when there are no real problems. And if you do it to much well you can create problems.

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 9:07 AM | Link to this

My biggest problem tends to be that I am too much myself! I throw a bunch of stuff at them about myself (ie, I have a zillion tattoos, I work at a haunted house, u need to frequent the circus Liz,im sure ull have more luck with those types….magicians,snake handlers….those types…u diffrnt…etc……

By Sam Jam

July 11, 2008 9:08 AM | Link to this

Blueberry muffins and oatmeal after my morning run. Ohhhh…my hair is not cooperating today and no clean panties. TGIF.

By LilZ

July 11, 2008 9:12 AM | Link to this

Melo - you might be right! But those types of guys tend to travel an awful lot…

;)

By abc

July 11, 2008 9:19 AM | Link to this

Blanca, I’d say the things you note as flaws in your dating approach simply expose what your dating goals are. Those goals seem to be establishment of a long term, if not permanent, romantic relationship. IMHO, those are positive attributes, not negative ones — even the notion that they all have expiration dates serves only to put the onus on their continued motivation to take the same approach. Good luck!

My biggest flaw in dating is about the same as in dealing with people in general: I don’t have a lot of patience. I’ll explain things once or twice, thoroughly and succinctly, but after that I start to think they’re either not paying attention or they’re not very intelligent. I get impatient with inattentive or unintelligent people, and I wish it wasn’t so — most people aren’t that way on purpose.

By 2 Can Play That Game©

July 11, 2008 9:20 AM | Link to this

Happpy Birthday Cee…..

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

My Biggest Flaw Is That Girls Don’t Like My Jokes….

:D Its Fiesta Friday!!!!

By pisces 08

July 11, 2008 9:30 AM | Link to this

Morning All. I’m probably too picky, but how dare you suggest the folks on this Blog have flaws…

By New Attitude

July 11, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

My biggest flaw has been not putting GOD first and going past that thing that is telling me something is wrong like he is so perfect because he is so gay! LOL! This is because I want him to be Mr. Right! I know today that I’m better than that!! Ladies & Gents, when you know better hopefully you will do better.

By The Truth

July 11, 2008 9:36 AM | Link to this

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CEE

I’m on the wrong blog. I have never taken out 12 women in one year. If my shot/kill ratio was that bad I’d date dudes because something must be wrong with me.

Here’s how it goes. We meet, we’re either interested or not. If there’s a mutual interest we talk and see how deep. If it’s deep enough we get together. If not we can be occassional friends at best or I can help you get a home.

I’d rather meet 2 cool chicks in a year than go out with 12 bad ones. WOW

Flaws, I’d rather save my cash by not going out than waste it on a skittish serial dating chick. LOL

By mytwocents

July 11, 2008 9:39 AM | Link to this

abc “My biggest flaw…” You saved me some keystrokes. Though I find grown ups w/ faux ADD more irksome than those who think on a different plane.

Happy Birthday, Baby! Already got a lil icing on ya cheek, huh?

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 9:42 AM | Link to this

My Biggest Flaw Is That BLACK Girls Don’t Like My Jokes…. that sounds better smart white guy…

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

July 11, 2008 9:45 AM | Link to this

Morning All!! TGIF! Even if it is gloomy out.

Happy Birthday Cemeeli

Kym Happy Belated, sorry I missed your birthday yesterday! I’ll see if I can swipe a few gas cards for you

BRB….need to get some work done first

By Blue Kolla

July 11, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

Slim I am definitely not the problem. If my honey don’t appreciate this package, they can move on along, playa. Word.

That’s where I’m at, right there. ^^^ But also, neither do I find flaws in the other person either. E’rybody ain’t for e’rybody. Seems like some people take the “natural” out of life. Let it flow, or let it go…

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

Go Cemeeli, it’s your birfday!

Happy Birthday.

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 9:49 AM | Link to this

TheTruth Haha…yeah I’d rather hit it off with a couple of mad cool girls instead of the variety pack of females. I’ve been out with probably 5 girls this year and they have all been fun & cool etc. I travel for work so its hard to really hold down a steady g/f. Haven’t been out with any clinically insane chicks this year, so thats a PLUS!

By Bre'

July 11, 2008 9:54 AM | Link to this

So thankful for seeing another Friday, getting ready to head to GA. I hope the peaches are sweet not mention some good watermelon.

Hmmmm I don’t date anymore however when I was my biggest flaw was making it very clear, “you are not the only one and my time is mine”. A bit direct but it clears up much confusion. I dated for 8 years…no serious guy I learned alot about self, men and the world of dating. You just have to decide on how you want to apply the lessons learned.

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

Good Morning all

Happy B-day Cee

I would rather spend my time on Me, than go out with 12 women who cant see me for me

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this

Morning!

Thanks Kym i was celebrating w/ you lastnight, 2C,MO,ARed,Truth, and that, mytwocents for all the birthday wishes sweetness.

ungh…ungh…ungh…bam…bam…ba…oh, it’s not time for that?

I’m gettin’ my clothes wet tonight!

By QC

July 11, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CEE-ME-ME

Your cake is in the Blog Cafe

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

happy bithday Cee….u 19 now,the youngest blogger hah…

on topic, i dnt have flows really,im a cool guy,laid back,work,give all my money to wify,expect her to cook,clean,do laundry etc… thats why she got me and i got her…when i waz dating, i had more girlz falling over themselves to get me than the city cld provide.so u see thats my proof….dating is not hard if u knw what u want and are realistic. For ladies,aim low…for guys,get a wman who luvs u more than she luvs herself and u get all the attention and benefits…any man who cant find a decent wman to date in this multitude,sme wrong with him… If a wman is picky or too picky,she is digging her own grave….how so u ask,well,look in the mirror and ask urself if u are a success or failure in getting the one u want since u set those goals when u turned 19.Yes or No will do…Consider this,the reason why u 30 and stil talking of dates since 19 is because u have been a failure thus far.Your fault….time to change the game and adjust ur approach..there are only so many men for wmen who get it….its a competitive game……. Off to a lame duck meeting.holla,i will respond……

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

Well, no one else is listing flaws so I won’t either. LOL. Beau and I had a conversation about this a couple weeks ago. Most I knew, just wasn’t sure what the irration level of them was. But good to know that nothing was at deal breaker status and that we could talk about such things.

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

MELO Playing that Race Card again Huh?! I love being defined as that “white guy”.

Don’t be Insecure, let it go

By Blue Kolla

July 11, 2008 10:02 AM | Link to this

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CEE !

QC ;)

Melo that sounds better smart white guy…

Please don’t start that one, man.

By Foots (aka Pootie Tang)

July 11, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

I’d say the things you note as flaws in your dating approach simply expose what your dating goals are. Those goals seem to be establishment of a long term, if not permanent, romantic relationship. IMHO, those are positive attributes, not negative ones

Abc said it best, but I also don’t think that Blanca’s list are flaws if her goal is to date for long term or for marriage. The only way they become negative attributes is if she is actually dating to have fun. That requires no looking towards the future, no over-thinking, no nothing, except for doing what feels right in the moment.

Even though I date for long-term, I have occasionally met interesting and/or good-looking men who I wanted to spend some time with, but I didn’t once think about the future. I already knew I was going to get off that train at the next stop. Women put guys in categories too.

I also agree with with Blue. Everybody ain’t for everybody, sometimes it’s just not a fit. That doesn’t mean that they other person (or you) have terrible dating flaws, since they were only being themselves. You have to find the person who you can deal with them being themselves.

By Foots (aka Pootie Tang)

July 11, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

Happy Birthday CEE!!

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

Thanks GaMan,QC,melo for the birthday wishes.

By Foots (aka Pootie Tang)

July 11, 2008 10:09 AM | Link to this

melo I personally think that people should mature a little before getting married. If I would have gotten married at 19 as you suggest, it would have been a disaster. I’ve developed much more as a person since then and what I wanted at 19 is a far cry from what I want at 31. There is no such thing as too picky if you are looking to spend the rest of your life with someone. That’s a LONG time to not have what you want.

But since you bring it up, question for you: Did your wife aim low when she married you? If not, why would you advise other women to do that?

By For Real

July 11, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!

Happy Birthday CEE what time are we meeting a PF Chang? I’m buying the first round of waters.

My flaw is chicks always think I’m marriage material. which drives me crazy. I scrub my forehead twice a day but I still can’t seem to get I’m Marriage Material off of it.

Blog ladies what makes a dude look like he is marriage material? I need help quick.

By Blue Kolla

July 11, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

Foots But since you bring it up, question for you: Did your wife aim low when she married you? If not, why would you advise other women to do that?

…sittin’ back chillin’ and thinkin’, “Sometimes it’s good to see someone else under the gun.”

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

i dnt have flows really

Well, melo, I’m glad you don’t have flows, but I’m sure you have flaws.

And just because you wifed the chick you were shacking and making babies with doesn’t mean you are flaw free. Come on now.

By Foots (aka Pootie Tang)

July 11, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

I won’t call this a dating flaw because it’s just how I am, but I like solitude. It’s like “solitude” and “companionship” are on the balance, and sometimes, one outweighs the other. Luckily, I think that my boyfriend is the same way, which works for us. After spending some time alone, I can come back to the relationship refreshed and ready to be close. I have never been able to stay with a man who needed to be up under me 7 days a week. Just wouldn’t work for me for long.

By For Real

July 11, 2008 10:21 AM | Link to this

abc Does your lack of patience contradict the gentlemen in you?

Poots The only way they become negative attributes is if she is actually dating to have fun. Can you explain more? Or do you actually believe dating for fun is a flaw?

By For Real

July 11, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

Dayummmmmm Poots delivered a wick Serena Williams backhand winner to Melo

15 Love Poots

Now serving Melo

By Foots (aka Pootie Tang)

July 11, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

For Real What I mean is that if her “flaws” all involve evaluating someone for long-term potential, they aren’t flaws. They are a means to an end. In dating for fun only, fun IS the end. You are looking at that person (or multiple people) for entertainment value, not long-term value, so you shouldn’t overthink or get overly excited by their potential. Have fun, go home, rinse and repeat.

By ChurchLady

July 11, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

Mmmm…Just a closer walk with thee…Just a closer walk with thee

Rejoice Er’body

I thank my main problem is not being able to find a God Fearing Man/A Holy Vessel/Saved, Santified, Holy Ghost Filled/Fire Baptisted Gentleman. A man who can rightly divide the word of truth, a prayer warrior, evangelizing, tongue talkin’, single minded man.

Right now, He’s being prepared by the All Mighty and when he ready, The Lawd gon release him into my bussom.

I’s know that I aint perfect but the Lawd aint finished yet. He still working on me.

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 10:27 AM | Link to this

Thanks Blue and Foots.

Happy Birthday CEE what time are we meeting a PF Chang? I’m buying the first round of waters.

I thought i had myself a b-day lunch. ForReal are you for real?

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 11, 2008 10:31 AM | Link to this

Thanks Mo you are welcome..

Cee I hope you have a great day..I went to a play last night. It was great!

I love being defined as that “white guy”. Uhhh Correction: You name is Token

RandyT was The white guy..or Mr. White Man.

Swiss is Funky White Dude aka Swirl

All other white people will be renamed later after lunch.

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

Kym should I re-name you with Racial Context!?

By Blanca

July 11, 2008 10:38 AM | Link to this

Kym aka Lady Stage All other white people will be renamed later after lunch. But I get to keep my name, right? ;) Happy Friday everyone!

By Blue Kolla

July 11, 2008 10:40 AM | Link to this

ChurchLady You wouldn’t happen to be one of the Smiley clan would you? LOL

Kym I love being defined as that “white guy”. Uhhh Correction: You name is Token

That ain’t cool. You need to let that ride.

By Church Lady's husband

July 11, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

Closer to thee huh?

How ‘bout u get closer to de dishes you forgot to wash las nite!!

Told ya’ll she was crazy…us got um too chilens and she still talkin’ bout her bossum

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 10:47 AM | Link to this

Blanca who did you make mad in the IT dept…cause you still dont have no RED

lololololol

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 11, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this

I will let it ride when the two of them let it ride..since they both insist on keeping the racial floodgates flowing..I will keep riding the waves.

Frankly, I think we all take ourselves wayyy to serious most days and I am not willing to do that this Friday. Catch me next week for serious

Matter of fact I have some questions to ask the gentleman folks..

By abc

July 11, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

Yes, For Real, I suppose it does. I don’t often get rude with people like that, I tend to start to ignore them.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 11, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

Good Morning all!!

Blanca I immediately evaluate my suitor for his longterm potential. I’m not sure if this is a good or bad thing Well isn’t the point of a relationship is for possible long term/marriage? So why not find out if the person has the potential from the jump? If more people did this it would spare a lot of drama down the road. If he is flakey, clingy, crazy, broke, whatever your no-no’s are, then cut your losses. Otherwise you begin to like this person for the wrong reasons (great sex, money, etc) and then find yourself making excuses for certain behavior that you not otherwise deal with because your rationale/judgement has become clouded. If kids are in the future…woud this person make a good husband and father/wife and mother? Most do not think of that and then find themselves in too deep and left with baggage (ie:single parenthood)to dela with alone because they did not take time to see what this person was all about before the stick turned blue!

I see the end before the real beginning. Despite my excitement for new relationships, I can’t help but see them as having an expiration date. (After all, I’m single. Obviously things haven’t worked in the past; why should this be different OMG…that is me! That excitement of newness can turn into fear and anxiety real quick. It’s that euphoric feeling that makes you wonder what is going to kill it, wnd when. It’s like looking over your back and waiting for that other shoe to drop. If it seems too good to be true…IT IS! I mean people can walk around with their heads in the clouds saying you shouldn’t think like that because not every relationship/guy is the same. True enough…but that is also like saying a pile of dog poop is not dog poop if you put flowers around it. No matter what you do…it’s still poop! Don’t kid yourself! Some call me a pessimistic person but I just see things in black and white. I do not try to blur the colors together to make grey. It is what it is.

LilZ I like tattoos…got a few myself. Haunted houses ROCK! And I LOVE vampire movies! Hey my My Space page plays trip-hop music and the back ground is that of goth fairies and pictures of vampires! Nothing wrong with you. You are just different! Embrace not being “the norm”.

ATL Guy She’ll have to be the total package before I settle into a relationship with her And what might that be son?

My Biggest Flaw Is That Girls Don’t Like My Jokes… Now see I laughed at your joke! LOL

ABC I don’t have a lot of patience. I’ll explain things once or twice, thoroughly and succinctly, but after that I start to think they’re either not paying attention or they’re not very intelligent. I get impatient with inattentive or unintelligent people I feel the same way…if I have to draw you a picture to make you understand…then you are not for me.

For Real what PF’s you going to?

Foots I can not stand a man who is in enema mode. I need my personal time and space. I can get tired of a guy real quick.

Kym You renamed all the white guys? LMAO Wow! Please…I beg of you…don’t name anyone Vanilla Ice! It will just bring back memories of Jim Carey imitating him on In Living Color!

HAPPY 21ST B-DAY CEMEELI! YOU SEXY THANG! lol

By mqew

July 11, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

MY GURL

HAPPY B DAY CEE MEEMEE

Aight, so wat we doin, was popping, wat we got planned. I’m buying!! And NO we aint goin to no smoothie spot, the gotta serve licca!!!

On topic: I’m perfect! I’on no wat the he11 Blanco talkin about. It is what it is….

Oh… Welcome Blanco

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Kym what did I say this morning to open the flood gates!? Haha, are you drunk!? You are right though, its Friday, lets not be Serious.

Staceye What up!

By ChurchLady

July 11, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Squirts, what’s the squirts?

I ain’t heard of that, how do you get the squirts? Is it that like bird flu or sars, by the way what evera happened to them, ain’t hear nothing but them in years.

Lawd, these plagues and diseaes popping up like pop cone. I tells you that’s why you gotta be right, cause you never know when something like them squirts could take you clean out the land of the living. Lawd, have mercy on our souls.

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Kym It is all about the Muscle control lolololol

either you have it or you Don’t

By Church Lady's husband

July 11, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this

Baby it wat we bes doing wen all the chilens go to bed…I thank so

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 11, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

Church Lady Stay tuned one of the guys will fill you in on squirting..but I am LMAO at you anyway.

GAMan That is not a complete answer but I am going to let that one go..So you going to explain the booty club parking lot and the mirror.

By i'm swiss (aka funky white dude; aka swirl)

July 11, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

@Kym

To answer your questions:

“Why is the booty club serving a breakfast buffet and why is the parking lot full?” — Is that a rhetorical question? Breakfast is served because it’s morning. And the parking lot is full because it’s the booty club. ;-)

“What is so doggone fascinating about watching yourself have sex in the mirror? You know what you look like right?” — It’s all about the different angles — w/ mirrors you can see the booty & the face at the same time.

“What exactly is the fascination with squirting?” — It’s positive reinforcement. Squirting is like “ooooooh you got me so wet” times 10.

Swiss mocha swirl out. ;-)

By Church Lady's husband

July 11, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

Kym I am not touching that one with a 20 foot pole.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 11, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this

Churchlady I swear they are going to think I am a few fries short of a happy meal at work the way you got me laughing! LOL

Kym girl watch did you watch or dream about mami? LOL Squirts..I’m afraid to know. Now the mirror thing is just added eroticism….like watching your own p0rn live instead of making a DVD that may later come back to bite you in the azz! Literally! Now as far as the strip club being packed for breakfast…I’m not eating at a strip club! EWWW no telling what is in that food. They use alcohol to wipe the poles down but do they do that in the kitchen? HMMMM LOL

By Church Lady's husband

July 11, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

Ok everyone pic me and Church lady…on da bed with all th wrinkles showing with mirrors all ov’er

Work it BIG DADDY

By Beautiful

July 11, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

mood today: chill. me and kels are going to do absolutely nothing this w/e. yay! entertainment is getting expensive. chasten your son while there is hope, and do not set your heart on his destruction. proverbs 19:18. amen!

off topic i watched the surreal life last night and mc hammer looked … ummm … good. that bald head, the booty, his build … lawd!. i loves me a teddy bear.

Blog ladies what makes a dude look like he is marriage material? I need help quick.

for one, he has a mortgage. seriously.

happy birthday cee! singing how young are you …

flaws what flaws?!?

By Blue Kolla

July 11, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

i’m swiss (aka funky white dude; aka swirl) Dude, why am I hearing Wild Cherry right now?! LOL

Good job answering those questions. There you go Kym. Read up. ^^^

…off to lunch.

By mqew

July 11, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

Kym Ummmm what sckripp club you see thas packed in the am??? Jus curious…

By Since we still on it...

July 11, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

Not to be one to bring up ol’ shyt.. but I would like to say that after not posting some mo yesterday, reading AND laughing at ATL Guy’s “joke”, that as a single Black mother, I was not offended. Much because I am still doing the damn thang (with or) without a man. So in theory, it didn’t offend because it doesnt apply.

HOWEVER, I can say that as a mother to a young Black man, I was surprised that more men didnt see his “joke” for what it was. As MELO so eloquently put it “an assault on all Black men”. I have noticed that ATL Guy enjoys being in the mix of the conversation and often starts some ish in an effort to fit in. I’ve seen it time and time again. These are the same folks who’ll call you “my ngga” and think nothing of it.

AND, reading today’s comments, Poster Kym is doing nothing NO different (except being very forthcoming and blatant) in her race-filled attempts to goad this man. She’d shyt a brick if he called her something racially-tinged and call on EVERY black man in ATL to “beat his cracka a*”. Much like the girl at the club arguing with a man, then acts all surprised when she gets slapped to the dance floor.

The only way you can help an ignorant person is to enlighten him or her. Arguing with them only loses the point and makes you look just as ignorant.

One of the bigger questions is “why is it that us new generation negroes tend to let our women fight these battles (which we are fighting all wrong by the way: filled with emotion and screaming versus unapologetic strength and power? Does that speak to the quality of men or the quality of women?)

If you do not stand for something, you’ll fall for anything

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this

okay, what going on in here?

In honor of the off topic topic imma do the blender mixer dance.

lol @ folks changing Blanca’s name. Blanca can i add Bahia to your name for added affect?*

Thanks Staceye, yep-yep i’m forever 21, mqew hey you, thanks chica. Did you brings my fav lemon pepper today?

By Foots (aka Pootie Tang)

July 11, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this

For Real Marriage material? Hmmmm… A man who would be marriage material to me is kind, compassionate, has a great love of family and God, likes children, has a vision for his life, is committment-minded and can support himself and if needed, a family.

So what the heck do these women see in you? Just kidding!!! nr

By Beautiful

July 11, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

What is so doggone fascinating about watching yourself have sex in the mirror?

memories.

I’m not eating at a strip club! EWWW no telling what is in that food.

lmao!

what’s up chicas? happy frickin’ friday.

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

I am sitting here listening to the radio, and it hit me…

What happened to the good ol days?

Remember when everything use to be so calm, you meet someone talk on the phone…go to dinner and the movies!!

Life is so precious and we(most of us) take it for granite…we think because we are still healthy and got good jobs…that we have a lifetime to wait for everything…

It not the moments that you breathe…it is the moments that take your breath away

By ChurchLady

July 11, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

Lawdy, I did not know that the squirts had anythang to do with being BUCK NAKED. And to thank I had added that to my prayer list…#125-Prayer for those who has been aflicted with the squirts and that they would be healed from the squirts. Lawd, Lawd, Lawd.

You’ll still need to be healed from the squirts, just in a different way, so alls was not lost. Ahh Glory!!!

By i'm swiss (aka funky white dude; aka swirl)

July 11, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this

@BK — “Dude, why am I hearing Wild Cherry right now?!”

That’s my intro music. Plays every time I roll up in the blog — on my Segway. ;-)

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 11:39 AM | Link to this

Let the music take your mind..just release and you will find…your going to fly away..glad your going my way.

i love it when we are cruising together…music if fine… cruising is made for love

cruise with me baby

Smokey Robinson

*

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 11, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this

Poster with the mask on I wouldnt care what AtlGuy said about me on this blog or off. His opinion does not define who I am. Anymore than my opinions of him define who he is. So again it is really not that deep. I have been called much worse when I was around the corner and “the man didn’t hear me” and I have been told much worst to my face under the guise of tell me how well breed and trained I am. But if you want to go there..lets go all the way around the mulberry bush..and then come back to the middle. While everyone is up in arms about ATL’s statement the fact is any given day someone of the same race will make some jackleg racial sterotype comment about a member of their own race simple because well I am black so I can. If one of the known black guys on this blog had made that same statement or crack it would have not gotten a second glance. Matter of fact I am willing to bet dollars to doughnuts until el white man posted his race most of the folks on here thought he was just some young round the way brother..heck there is still debate on the race of abc..and like he said yesterday-longed winded but all the same who really gives a rats tushy what race anyone is.

Frankly unless you actually physical see who you are talking too anyone of us on here could be Asian, African, or pink with yellow polka dots.

When we decide to have a serious discussion on race then I will be serious..but if we are just going to throw out random comments and jokes on race well then I can flow with that too.

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

have your a good song and swear you can dance to it…your body can do all the moves when you sitting…then you get up and realize…dangomeit!!! I am getting older

lolololol

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this

mytwo if you are around…Creative party: 1) Everyone were wetsuits and bring bungee jumping gear. Outkast playing in the background

2C are you reinventing yourself today? 2 Can Play That Game, okay.

thinking what’s a reinventive name for Cemeeli (what da hayo is a Cemeeli anyway?)

Thanks Beautiful for the b-day wish.

i’m swiss you have intro music too? lol

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this

ared i didnt have baies until i was married,shacking we did,but no babies were frtchcoming,she wldnt have it…… foots,between 19 and 31 a lot has happened,i knw ur views at 19 were so lala,but at 31 and still loking,im sure u have tempered ur prefs somewhat..Did your wife aim low when she married you? she was 21 when we started dating but im sure i had some of the qualities she was looking for,not all and maybe not even 65% My thing is just be realistic…..

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

Yesterday’s issue probably would have stayed in yesterday if a certain poster didn’t start it up again with another ill timed joke.

Most people had moved on but sometimes all it takes is a spark to set a fire off again.

We’ve got a male attention wh0re in our ranks folks…. exiting stage left.

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

Kym uuumm you should have the DR if front of that one….

lolololol

By mqew

July 11, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

It not the moments that you breathe…it is the moments that take your breath away

Dude, say it again!!! I was at an Auto Body shop, trynna grasp $800… well the lady ended up knocking it down to $450. Ends up we’re talkin and she has a child with scoliosis (sp?) that is goin to surgery… needless to say where are those old days when ev1 appreciate evrything

By i'm swiss

July 11, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

@Cemeeli — “i’m swiss you have intro music too?”

Yup. And I’ve got a video too.

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

i didnt have baies until i was married,shacking we did,but no babies were frtchcoming,she wldnt have it

My apologies then melo. I have had gotten your story totally confused then. Maybe I mixed you up w/ someone else.

You did say that the family was pressuring you to marry her though, right?

My apologies again.

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli I always wondered what your name meant too…lololol

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 11:57 AM | Link to this

I am alive…I have food on the table…My son is healthy…I am healthy…My lights are on…I got Gas in my car..hell I got a car

Come on people we have alot to be thankful for and it is not Thanksgiving yet

YOU guys and Ladies are making a mountain out of a Mole

My advice is to be happy and live

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

Since we are Still on It Poster That was really inspirational and inspiring! The Ignorance is twisting something I clearing said with a disclaimer as I was playing right off the bat into something so racially driven, when it didn’t have to be. You are fueling this. It wasn’t even serious yet you and Kym think I’m defining people or whatever.

I’m not trying to define anyone and I’m shocked this is even something being brought up Again today! I’ve been called Cracka, Token, WhiteBoy etc today yet there is no ignorance in that being said!?

Its a double standard, I get it. But if you are going to call out Ignorance, call it out across the board. I’ve apologized yesterday if it offended anyone, I haven’t heard any apologies from anyone talking trash about my race. Surprise? Not really, I could careless

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this

ared u knw if u have been shacking with a girl for sme time or just seeing her and she has seen ur relatives and u hers,there is a pressure that cmes with it,if u are a normal person cming outa a normal family.Thats the pressure iam talking about,and the constant qstions from friends,family etc,saying when are u 2 going to do the damn thang.So eventually u say let me do it.It requires a complete mental make over tho to move from single to married……just like having a baby……too much responsilbitly cmes with that baton…..

By mqew

July 11, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

I am alive…I have food on the table…My son is healthy…I am healthy…My lights are on…I got Gas in my car..hell I got a car

Dude, believe me duly noted

CeeMee no wings, nowaday, trynna look good in a bikini….

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 12:08 PM | Link to this

Thanks melo, just asking because I was hoping I wasn’t just making up stories like some nut job. LOL

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 11, 2008 12:10 PM | Link to this

Okay Atl Guy go back and read my post..slower..where did I say you defined me? I said…your post jokes comments don’t define me or anyone else here. You can’t offended me unless I let you offend me..anymore than I can’t offend you unless you let me. But if my calling you Token was offense to your sensiblities..fine. *I apologies for offending you Atl Guy and calling you Token *

You are lucky..I only give one apology per quarter and never on Fridays

Swiss I am not apologizing to you because you went ahead and rolled with your name..so I have official adopted you as my little brother.

By Beautiful

July 11, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

melo same story here, but i just simply said no. i only deal with single mother, instead of divorced single mother. BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR OWN DESTINY!

By ChurchLady

July 11, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this

GA Man Ahhh Glory!!!, now you talkin’ my language. All praises to the ALL Mighty. Thank him brother!!

Jesus, Jesus, ohhh, how I loves to call that name. Ummm….Ummm, he’s so sweet i knows. Yes, Yes Lawd, my soul says YES!!!

I thank we need to talk to take a praise break. C’om Blue Kollars get on them drums, Cemellei I knows its your birthday, but we needs you on that washboard, Foots, give her a metal clothes hanger,Red we needs you on the tamborine. That’s right children praise him.

By "Longtime Lurker"

July 11, 2008 12:15 PM | Link to this

@Blanca Greetings!

Although I am not on here often, I have been a part of this blog almost since its humble beginnings and I wanted to say hello and welcome!

In reading your entry today, I scratched my head a bit at what I was reading. I thank you for being woman enough to acknowledge what you think you are doing wrong in your adventures in dating, but if you have actually dated / have lations with 12 people in one year, you might be a serial dater!

Let’s not mistake the actual act of being in a relationship with a person and going out on dates, there is a difference!

If I translate you right, you actually only were in a relationship with 3 different guys, at different times, but went out on dates with up to 12 guys, am I right?

If this is the case, then I guess everything is okay.

The thing is this and I see it often with a high percentage of women….Many woman “CHOOSE” or “SELECT” the wrong locations, places or men to date, based on what they “PERCEIVE” or “THINK” is the right environment to meet a mate. When you shop for a mate, the people you meet almost never works out in your favor! I think this happens more than you guys admit and when things don’t work out in your favor, you blame the men instead of yourselves!

Love should come by accident, not with a mission!

Imma give you a scenario… If you go shopping for a car at a buy here pay here lot and you don’t research or do a car fax report on the car, then buy the car and it fails on you, who’s fault is it that the car failed, yours or the car dealer?

Think about it, you get what you get, because you looking for love in all the wrong places and you are attracting what you are in most cases!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 11, 2008 12:15 PM | Link to this

Atl Guy You know I spoke of the double standard/reversed racism yesterday. I said its hypocritical! You hear Black comedians cracking jokes on white people and they are in the audience laughing at their stereotypes being made fun of. But if it were the other way around…stop the press call Al & Jesse ‘cause we have been wronged! I think if it can be dished it should be taken back! Now of course there is racism that is evel that still exisit. I know that. But stereotypical jokes should not be taken so harshly. It is just that…a joke! It makes me shake my head when folks go back to days before they were even born to condemn someone because of their race. I speak on that all around the bored for all races. I am not going say I would not date a white guy because of what the slave masters hundreds of years ago did to Blacks. That is stupid! I can see if the same dude was alive now…then of course I would not mess with him. I do not think an entire race should be judged by the actions of somebody who just happens to be that of that race. Up until the DC Sniper (thanks jackazz), when the law looked for serial killers, that was the only time Black men did NOT fit the description. Granted there are some horrible people in every race…but if a Black guy rapes a woman…does that mean every Black guy is a rapist…no! Judge the person not the color. Really their is only one race…the HUMAN RACE. The color is just a different variation of it. So d*mn it..let’s just sing John Lennon’s “Imagine”…knock back a few drinks and enjoy what’s left of life (however long it may be)..it’s still too short to take offense and be tightwads! Find humor in everything! I will miss George Carlin for that!

By Tazzee

July 11, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

Morning folks!

I know I have flaws - most of which I work on daily when dealing with others, so it’s not limited to dating. The same mess can get on my friends’ nerves. I’ll just list the big two:

• I’m selfish. Don’t get me wrong, I will give the shirt off my back for those that I love and I help others, but when I get home after work I can’t stand for my phone to ring and don’t let someone come by uninvited - I don’t go answer the door. With that, it is very difficult for me to get to know new people. Unless the guy is very persistent, I don’t do the calling or anything like that. Unfortunately, I don’t even think about the folks that aren’t cemented in my life. Every now and then I go through spurts where I’ll make an effort to get to know new folks, but most times I frown when my closest friends call (they don’t know though - I get it together before I answer).

• I’m very ‘rule’ based. This encompasses my impatient nature. I just think life would be much smoother if we all lived by the rules. If you say you’re going to be somewhere at a certain time, be there. If you ask me for some information and I give it to you - right it down or something, don’t call me again asking for it. Walk on the right side of the road, pull up to the first empty pump at the gas station, don’t ride in the far right lane if you aren’t turning or exiting, don’t ride in the far left lane if you’re going too slow, if you call and don’t leave a message - I won’t call back because I’m going to assume that you just wanted to chat at that moment and that moment is now gone….

The folks that already have a place in my heart don’t get the gas-face when they violate my ‘rules’ but new folks? They gotta be extra special or extra persistent to get to know me.

yeah, I’ll prolly be single for a long time

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

GaMan pulls out his ticket book to give out Citations

“Longtime Lurker” and Staceye AKA Black Mamba

I know its Friday and I dont do this on Friday…heck it has been a moment…but them posts were loooong as helllz….lololol

By i'm swiss

July 11, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

“Swiss I am not apologizing to you because you went ahead and rolled with your name..so I have official adopted you as my little brother.”

No apologies necessary, Kym. It’s all funny to me.

Although… exactly what do you mean by “little” brother? You trying to insinuate something?!?! ;-)

Grande swiss mocha swirl out…

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

When did half a dozen = 12?

By mqew

July 11, 2008 12:22 PM | Link to this

Love should come by accident, not with a mission!

Jus wanted it read again…

By "Longtime Lurker"

July 11, 2008 12:28 PM | Link to this

@GaMan I ain’t posted in a while, so I should get off with a warning!

By Beautiful

July 11, 2008 12:29 PM | Link to this

Love should come by accident, not with a mission!

ok … ok … i have one flaw. dayum!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 11, 2008 12:29 PM | Link to this

Tazee I’m selfish. Don’t get me wrong, I will give the shirt off my back for those that I love and I help others, but when I get home after work I can’t stand for my phone to ring and don’t let someone come by uninvited - I don’t go answer the door MY God…are we twins? LOL I am the same way. People don’t understand that after working and working out 2 times a day, that fter that I just want to be left alone to chill and unwind! Heck I have been entertaining all day…no let it just be me the ghost that visit my crib on the regular! LOL

GA Man Leave me alone! Keep messin’ with me and I will have to punish you! Now….just say, “Yes Mistress”! LOL

By THE BIG PILL DK

July 11, 2008 12:30 PM | Link to this

They say the bigger the headache the bigger the PILL

Microbiologically speaking.. I am sometimes my own worse enemy.. I may like you in the beginning but then after a while I dont like you anymore.. I can be awfully non-chalant when it comes to relationships and even when something hurts my chest plate. I will act like I’m not phased, and will have to go home and hit the heavy bag.. Oh and the number one spot I feel i could work on is.. My willingness to cut people off and never speak to them again.. Most times I dont even tell people what they did but you know. It is what it is.. I was watching the usual suspects last night and Kevin Spacey said A man can convince anyone he’s somebody else, but never himself I guess thats why I am who i am because I cant be someone else.. Hate it or love but my flaws make me who i am.. I wouldnt change who I am for anyone.. Work on a few things, well theres always room for improvement, but they also say if it aint broke dont fix it.. These cliches kill me so i just take it one day at at time and play it how it goes…

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 11, 2008 12:34 PM | Link to this

Now back to your regularly scheduled program..

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 12:35 PM | Link to this

RiiiiiiiiiP

LL Staceye AKA Black Mamba and Tazzee

*Here you go …”Have a nice weekend”

Staceye passes the fugg out when she sees her fine

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 12:36 PM | Link to this

LL your ticket is a warning Bruh….you know i got you Frat

Omega Psi Phi till the day I die

Staceye watch it…never mind Mistress

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 12:38 PM | Link to this

Best Job in the world is being a DAD

My son woke up this morning came and gave me hug and said thanks dad

I dont know what he thanked me for ….it is for those moments where i just smile

By The Truth's Wife

July 11, 2008 12:40 PM | Link to this

Where’s my husband?

By "Longtime Lurker"

July 11, 2008 12:43 PM | Link to this

@GaMan I am headed to the “clave” in a few hours, you coming up? Looking forward to some home cooking and other activities with the bamas!

By Tazzee

July 11, 2008 12:45 PM | Link to this

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CEMEELI

I meant to post that before my book about my flaws. Oh and that’s prolly my other flaw - I warn dudes about how I am in the beginning.

GaMan I think you should take that post and divide over the past month and see that, all in all, it was pretty light. I’m making up for not posting a lot in the month of June. kinda like how you really speed to make up for lost time after you pass that accident…at least I do

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 12:45 PM | Link to this

NawI wont make it this year…got a book signing plan.

Have 5..no 10 of em for me

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 12:49 PM | Link to this

Tazzee nice try…your fine is only .05

you can make monthly payments if you would like to…lolol

but then it goes up to .95

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 11, 2008 12:50 PM | Link to this

Ga Man Just as I thought. Good boy LOL

Truth’s Wife You had better love dogs, have a had a hysterectomy, and is fine with the cave man “I am master” ways honey or you will be up shyt’s creek without a paddle! LOL

By Sistah Big Bones

July 11, 2008 12:51 PM | Link to this

Church Lady You need to be dipped in the baptism pool and held down for at least 20 seconds

By IMHO

July 11, 2008 12:53 PM | Link to this

The Truth is not on here, cus he thinks he has no flaws. Everythang is our fault!

2CanPlayThatGame is this true? Is it always our fault?

By "Longtime Lurker"

July 11, 2008 12:55 PM | Link to this

@GaMan The highlight film is forthcoming! Met a couple of chicks on-line, that me and my LB are crashing with, so this should be interesting!

I might, forget might, I will have a few “war stories” on Monday,so stay tuned!

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

Met a couple of chicks on-line, that me and my LB are crashing with, so this should be interesting!

Wow…Hope you come back with your liver intact. LOL

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 1:02 PM | Link to this

Staceye I’m with you. It is interesting how the backlash can be varied due to the source.

Example: Jesse Jackson talking about Obama talking down to Black People for taking Accountability for their lives and how Jesse Jackson wants to castrate him for actually saying a positive message!?

Now, if I white person said that…there would be outrage EVERYWHERE. Its facininating really.

Stop Blaming Others, everyone should take care of their own Responsibility. Then Life is Good!

I could talk about Injustices that have happened to my family and keep bringing it up, but then I wouldn’t be progressing.

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 1:08 PM | Link to this

Is it over?

full as a phat rat and not only doing a lil more work

i’m swiss your video made me laugh.

mqew that’s okay i just had some’n even better. fried fish!

Cemeeli I always wondered what your name meant too…lololol

Gaman HUSH!

Churchlady i’m not even gonna go there..LOL you are something.

Thanks Tazzee.

By Tazzee

July 11, 2008 1:08 PM | Link to this

ATL Guy I implore you..LET.IT.GO please…

sexycool if you’re out there in cyberland please hit me up.

Anyone getting that new, cheaper iPhone - I think I’m going to get it this weekend. I’ve been thinking on it ever since they announced it was coming out today.

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 1:10 PM | Link to this