Misadventures in Atlanta

By SlimOne

August 22, 2008 8:15 AM | Link to this

The weekend is here, YIPPEEE!

Demi No harm no foul, you know it’s all love…and what the hayo were yall still doin up in here that late yesterday? lol btw, i have a pimple on my cheek. I need some of your ‘serume’ if you don’t mind

By Raqi

August 22, 2008 8:46 AM | Link to this

Sharing the same faith is important to me know. And actively practicing the same faith is extremely important. I believe that a family that prays together stays together.

If one partner reads and studies to live by what the faith says about marriage, family, relationships and servitude towards God it creates a lot of friction within the union when the other doesn’t.

I read the Holy Bible and the Talmud. I share and discuss with my husband my findings in what I read. We attend a few couple seminars and some are faith based. It helps to be on the same path trying to reach the same destination.

Although I was not married to my youngest son’s father, we both agreed that religious faith is important. We both agreed on the faith based private school that our son attends.

Faith is a vital element that I hold onto in my life now.

Back when it really didn’t matter and I was not attending services that often, I didn’t care too much about whether or not the person I was dating shared my faith. But once I grew up and started to take my relationship and my life more serious it mattered a great deal.

By LivedNLearned

August 22, 2008 8:48 AM | Link to this

This is simple for me, I don’t date any non-believer, non-Christian’s period. Although you may not be as involved in ministry as I, you must believe the major Christian tenets.

I tried dating a Rasta once and it was nothing but constant power struggles. There were just some things I couldn’t see myself enduring with although I loved the person dearly. It ended amicably, but it was a lesson well learned.

By QC

August 22, 2008 8:53 AM | Link to this

MORNING BLOGGERS.. HAVE A GREAT DAY/WEEKEND ;)

By sherryl

August 22, 2008 9:06 AM | Link to this

Umm…what is a “default Christian?” Being born in America doesn’t make you a default Christian anymore than being born in a garage makes you a car…..

By dd

August 22, 2008 9:10 AM | Link to this

OK, have to ask. What is a “default Christian”? I’m thinking, someone either is, or isn’t, and there’s no such thing as “default”… Are we really so stupid to think that God (any god) is going to be excited about a “default” anything?? wow.

And since she’s pretty much not, then why do you call this an interfaith relationship? it sure looks like one person with faith, and one with not much of anything.

Given that, it looks like the same as any situation where a partner gets passionate about something that the other partner doesn’t share, and can’t understand.

By Brian

August 22, 2008 9:13 AM | Link to this

Morning Guys, Never had a issue with religion and dating.. so far should I say. Got a joke to start the weekend..

There was a magical cliff where, if the wisher jumped, he became exactly what he wished for. One man jumped and wished he were a cardinal and flew away. The other wished he were an airplane and flew away. The last man tripped, stumbled, and said, “Aw, crap!” and he turned into an Falcons fan!! Packer4life

By abc

August 22, 2008 9:13 AM | Link to this

What exactly is a ‘default Christian’? I daresay way too many people don’t understand what Christian really means. And, why does the boyfriend give a flip about a bunch of stuff he doesn’t yet understand? Why has he converted to Islam if he doesn’t understand what it is? Similar to ‘default Christian’, what is a ‘quasi-practicing Muslim’? That’s all a head shaker.

People who don’t share the same religion — even if that’s no religion — are not evenly yoked. Serious tensions are certain to arise.

By Big Juicy

August 22, 2008 9:23 AM | Link to this

The bible advises that we are not to be unequally yoked with anyone. The “stronger” will inevitably have to bear the shortcomings of the weaker one which will cause major frustration.

Blanca, how does one fast (take a break) from sin? If it’s wrong, shouldn’t we not do it at all??

By Foots

August 22, 2008 9:24 AM | Link to this

I’m thinking that “default” means that it is the faith of her parents and her faith, and that she believes in the Christian principles, but that she doesn’t really do the “religious” thing, i.e. going to church.

I dated a Muslim once and although I did convince myself that the fact that we were both spiritual would be enough, it wasn’t. Of course, he knew who Jesus was, but seemed to ridicule Christian beliefs surrounding confession of sins and forgiveness. It was disturbing to hear him tease my faith like that. There was also the question of children. He said that he’d want our child to be raised Muslim. I couldn’t see that happening, no matter how much love I had for him. For those and other reasons, it didn’t last.

abc hit it on the nose. You have to be equally yoked. You won’t find someone with exactly the same amount of faith as you have, but belief in the same things goes a long way toward harmony in the home.

By Cemeeli

August 22, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

The “equally yoked” passage talks about matters just like this. Meaning; the practicing/believing christian is obliged to do stuff according to certain beliefs…

…okay, bible thump…

2 Corinthian:6

…What harmony is there between Christ and Belial[a]? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?

Default christian??? wth?

Very important to me is your belief in prayer, faith, God and his word. Period.

By Dan

August 22, 2008 9:36 AM | Link to this

Love thy neighbor as you love thyself.

Whatever you do for the least of them, you do for me.

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

It amazes me that “religious people” are sooooo intolerant of other cultures, other religious traditions.

I won’t judge becuase that’s not my place. But “evenly yoked” “and other religious traditions”, ridiculous.

Jesus dealt with Jews, Philistines, hookers, slaves, sick people and you can’t deal with “Non Christians”.

This makes me sad….

By MELO

August 22, 2008 9:38 AM | Link to this

Do you have to attend the same church also…wld that be a problem if one is Baptist and the other Methodist,for example???? I grew up Christian but attended different kinds of denominations growing up..my preference is united methodist.My wife is seventh day growing up….i think the tension issue was avoided becoz we both are not fanatics per se,very open minded and i dont mind my wife and kids going to seventh day…their sunday school for kids is what attracts my wife mostly and why she takes the kids there..even tho i dont usually go.We however attend another church on sundays and we both like it, as an alternate.

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

August 22, 2008 9:38 AM | Link to this

Blanca please explain what a christian by default means???

As for me, I don’t date outside men who don’t believe in God the Father and his Son or Savior Jesus Christ.

Have many of you have experienced interfaith dating? I met a guy I was interested in but when he tld me he was a muslim I knew that our beliefs, down to the way we prayed that it was best for us to not invest in taking it any further.

By What's the Real Question Here?

August 22, 2008 9:40 AM | Link to this

I dare say his faith is not the issue, but rather that his interest in practicing a tenet of that faith is going to impinge on her life in what she perceives will be in a negative way (no partying/sex). Sounds like neither one of them are securely grounded in any faith - she’s got no anchor and he’s not sure he buys into the anchor he’s latched onto (ie, “quasi-practicing”).

By A. Nony Mouse

August 22, 2008 9:40 AM | Link to this

There is not such thing as a default Christian. We as Christian’s have choosen to be Christains and commited to it. There is no default.

By abc

August 22, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this

I’d venture to say that disregard for what the Bible says about being evenly yoked amounts to religious intolerance on your part, Dan.

Jesus was a Jew, he didn’t just deal with them. The others you cite aren’t religions, they’re characteristics, occupations, etc.

By crownedone82

August 22, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

Interfaith dating is an accident waiting to happen. Please don’t set yourself up for failure. There will be no coming together, only a constant separation. One will be pulling east and the other will be pulling west—they’ll never meet. Besides, what will the decisions in the relationship will be based upon? Therefore, sharing the same faith is vitally important to the success of the relationship. I wouldn’t say that spirituality is higher than religion nor is it vice versa. I think that each one has its place and function and in that they are of equal importance. We are spirit beings who do things religiously or according to religion.

By SlimOne

August 22, 2008 9:50 AM | Link to this

Maybe ‘christian by default’ means she doesnt’t necessarily have a religion but does believe in some higher being, and isn’t actively praticing any particular doctrine. ???

I haven’t really dated anyone who was gungho about religion enough for it to be an issue. I would probably have more of an issue with a dude who was an atheist…but all in all, i feel as already stated, need to be more on the same page with regards to huge issues for it to work

All other things should be able to be handled w/o having too much contribution to the demise of the marriage/r’ship.

By MELO

August 22, 2008 9:51 AM | Link to this

disregard for what the Bible says about being evenly yoked amounts to religious intolerance on your part,

Dan can surely be excused on that issue……most of u so-called practicing christians apply the bible selectively any way….one moment u are praying,the very next moment u are cursing….wtf.and then come sunday,u are at the front of the church,waving ur arms in the air…just for show……..

By Cemeeli

August 22, 2008 9:52 AM | Link to this

Dan

You said: “Jesus dealt with Jews, Philistines, hookers, slaves, sick people …”.

He sure did, and he did not judge, he loved ALL. Great example!

But Jesus also taught the ‘none beliver’ they could NOT serve two masters. So while he dealt with all kinds, he spoke ONE faith.

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

August 22, 2008 9:53 AM | Link to this

Dan dealing with people and marrying a person are two different things. Yes we are to love others as we love ourselves and be tolerant of other people but we shouldn’t jump on the band wagon and ride out with them…so to speak

By SlimOne

August 22, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

Maybe ‘christian by default’ means she doesnt’t necessarily have a religion but does believe in some higher being, and isn’t actively praticing any particular doctrine. ???

I haven’t really dated anyone who was gungho about religion enough for it to be an issue. I would probably have more of an issue with a dude who was an atheist…but all in all, i feel as already stated, need to be more on the same page with regards to huge issues for it to work

All other things should be able to be handled w/o having too much contribution to the demise of the marriage/r’ship.

By abc

August 22, 2008 9:56 AM | Link to this

Slimone, your guess at what a ‘default Christian’ sounds more descriptive of a Deist. Several of the nation’s founding fathers were deist, seeming to refute people’s claims that the country was founded on Christianity — it wasn’t. It wasn’t founded on Deism either, of course.

Dan, moreover, Jesus’s dealing with people didn’t have much to do with dating them, or developing relationships that lead to marriage with them. It’s rather inapplicable. It’s not like taking the log from one’s own eye, or casting the first stone; it’s about being evenly yoked.

By Foots

August 22, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

Dan Have you dated someone from another religion and what was your result?

By crownedone82

August 22, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

Interfaith dating is an accident waiting to happen. Please don’t set yourself up for failure. There will be no coming together, only a constant separation. One will be pulling east and the other will be pulling west—they’ll never meet. Besides, what will the decisions in the relationship will be based upon? Therefore, sharing the same faith is vitally important to the success of the relationship. I wouldn’t say that spirituality is higher than religion nor is it vice versa. I think that each one has its place and function and in that they are of equal importance. We are spirit beings who do things religiously or according to religion.

By Leggs

August 22, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

Good morning. Bet she meant to type “devout” Christian.

By Dan

August 22, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

What was Mary Magdeline before she met Jesus?

And if she wasn’t about nothing, why follow him until his death. Man sniff, sniff, sniff, sniff, is that hypocracy that I smell?

By abc

August 22, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

I agree, melo, hypocrisy and Christianity seem to go hand-in-hand.

Reminds me of one of my favorite quotes lately: “I’m fine with God, it’s Christians I can’t stand!”

Not too knocked out with churches lately, either.

By Cemeeli

August 22, 2008 10:09 AM | Link to this

…hmmm…

Okay Dan i’d retreat on this subject. I never try to thrust my faith/belief on anyone…jus sayin’

..now if you wanna…let me know.

melo yep, a Philistine, pharisee, hypocrite has the tendacy to do this: apply the bible selectively any way….one moment they are praying,the very next moment they are cursing…. you are right about that.

By SlimOne

August 22, 2008 10:09 AM | Link to this

abc thanks, you gave me something to look up.

Deism is the theistic belief that a supreme God exists and created the physical universe, but shall not intervene in its normal operation. It is related to a religious philosophy and movement that claims to derive the existence and nature of God from reason. It takes no position on what God may do outside the universe. Deists typically reject most supernatural events (prophecy, miracles) and tend to assert that God does not intervene with the affairs of human life and the natural laws of the universe. What organized religions see as divine revelation and holy books, most deists see as interpretations made by other humans, rather than as authoritative sources. Deists believe that God’s greatest gift to humanity is not religion, but the ability to reason.

By Atl Lady

August 22, 2008 10:10 AM | Link to this

If she’s a default Christian and they are planning to get married, why hasn’t his or her faith issues come up sooner? What was his faith before becoming a quasi-practicing Muslim and why is he doing this now? We’ve talked about timing on this blog. I’ve heard of women abstaining the last couple of weeks prior to a wedding and the couples were of Christian faith and the men had a slight problem with it. If she loves him, she’s going to do the digging to find out what’s what. I would.

By abc

August 22, 2008 10:18 AM | Link to this

I presume you mean to say that Mary Magdalene was a prostitute, Dan, but she became a disciple; she’s never identified as a prostitute in the Bible, but she had 7 demons exorcised from her as described in Luke, and there is some etymology that ties together the name of her home town, Migdal, with the word for hairdresser, medgaddlala, which was a colloquialism for prostitute at the time — it’s completely speculative that she was a hooker. I’m not real sure how that equates to hypocrisy on my part. Maybe you just have an anti-Christian jones?

There was the adultress that washed Jesus’s feet with her hair, let he without sin cast the first stone, all of that. I think I already addressed that.

By Dan

August 22, 2008 10:21 AM | Link to this

@Raqi

I don’t impose my faith on anyone.

I simply marvel at how uber religious people going to heaben any minute practice their faiths.

By Demi

August 22, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

Slim I am a reform man. As of today, I am a wannabe quasi-practicing Muslim. I will NOT be skeet skeeting any where as of today….for one whole month.

Demi passes out at the thought of soldiers being backed up for longer than 12 hours

By Foots

August 22, 2008 10:29 AM | Link to this

melo There are no perfect Christians either. I’m not. But do I believe and have I done as Romans 10:9-10 say to do? Yes. If we make it a choice between only being Perfect and being a Hypocrite, we are all Hypocrites.

Dan Have you dated someone from another religion and what was your result?

By Cemeeli

August 22, 2008 10:33 AM | Link to this

ah…Hey Demi…why are you blasphemy all over the blog? ;)

By Tazzee

August 22, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks!

abc this Maybe you just have an anti-Christian jones made me chuckle. I’m loving your comments thus far.

As far as inter-faith dating, I’ve never done it. My problem has been with those that have the same beliefs - they just don’t follow them. All men I’ve dated have been self-proclaimed Christians, they just don’t believe in the ‘flee fornication’ part of the bible.

By SlimOne

August 22, 2008 10:36 AM | Link to this

Demi I respect your decision. You’ve inspired me as well. The CT will be put on a fast for the next 30 days….see how Fast I can get 1000 earmuffilectomy’s in 30 days…Slim now passing the f/k out that the CT might not be able to withstand all the pressure

By Dan

August 22, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

@Foots

I’ve dated women across many religious traditions, and it taught me a lot about their different faiths, their cultures that have evolved around them, and their religious customs.

This along with life events sent me on a journey to discover a lot not only about my own faith, but others as well.

I’ve spoken with clerics of different traditions, and I am at peace with my faith. That said, you all can continue to live your lives as you choose, denying the cross cultural symbolisms that all religions share.

I’ll lurk on this one and let this be yet another way that you people choose to define, deny, and exclude “others”.

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

August 22, 2008 10:38 AM | Link to this

LOL Tazzee girl you nailed it on the head!

By SlimOne

August 22, 2008 10:41 AM | Link to this

Demi I respect your decision. You’ve inspired me as well. The CT will be put on a fast for the next 30 days….see how Fast I can get 1000 earmuffilectomy’s in 30 days…Slim now passing the f/k out that the CT might not be able to withstand all the pressure

By Cemeeli

August 22, 2008 10:42 AM | Link to this

melo truly when i see “church folk” i allow myself to not get caught in there thump, if you will of scriptures cliches and religous tradition. And after observing other foolishness i am thinking “ye pharisee!” still gotta love ‘em. That’s why i keep my spiritual/faith active and be true to God and self first. Do i sin? Yes. How is it if i can speak/believe it but my practice is invalid? I consistently go to my faith belief for correction and strength.

By MELO

August 22, 2008 10:42 AM | Link to this

There are no perfect Christians either. I’m not i agree altho i have a problem with those who seem to openly disregard their faith,in full view of other pple or those who seem not to understand that which they hold so dear to their sleeves. Practice what u preach,is the doctrine i wld rather go by coz if u dnt,u take a whole slew of pple with u.If living ur faith is too hard, i prefer u are not at the fore front of public displays of christian faith.

By MELO

August 22, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

My problem has been with those that have the same beliefs - they just don’t follow them. All men I’ve dated have been self-proclaimed Christians, they just don’t believe in the ‘flee fornication’ part of the bible. i reproduced that for emphasis..with ur implied and assumed,tacit approval……..lol

By Tazzee

August 22, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

To answer the other questions:

How important is sharing the same faith when it comes to marriage? Very important - it’s number one on my list. I try my best to live my life in a way that pleases God. My main source to determine what would please Him is the Holy Bible. If my mate doesn’t share the same beliefs, we are setting ourselves up for disaster in marriage. Furthermore, because I believe in the traditional order of a marriage, I have to be secure in the fact that the head of my household is getting direction from the One I believe holds my life in His hands.

Do you think it can work, and how? I only think it can work when one or both people aren’t really devoted to their faith. In that way, one can be converted or they both can find a mutual belief system.

And for some of you, is spirituality paramount to religion and/or denomination? Denomination doesn’t really matter to me. My family is pretty much Baptist, although I wasn’t raised in the church. The first church I attended was Methodist. As long is they believe in salvation and use Christ as the example for their lives - I’m fine. Church attendance is important, but I’d rather have a man that truly knows and loves Christ and attends church occasionally, over one that goes to church all the time but does because it’s ‘the right thing to do’

By SlimOne

August 22, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

Demi I respect your decision. You’ve inspired me as well. The CT will be put on a fast for the next 30 days….see how Fast I can get 1000 earmuffilectomy’s in 30 days…Slim now passing the f/k out that the CT might not be able to withstand all the pressure

By Raqi

August 22, 2008 10:47 AM | Link to this

Dan why are you addressing that statement to me? I never said anything about imposing my faith on any one.

By For Real

August 22, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

Dude: Oh ish baby you so wet.

Chick: You make me that way baby get it.

Knock at door

Dude: WHO THE FLUCK IS IT!!!!

It is I Jesus.

Dude: Oh ish Jesus at doe. Girl put yo clothes on.

By Foots

August 22, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this

Dan That said, you all can continue to live your lives as you choose

Great!! Thanks!! I think you read way too much into what others have said. Nobody is denying anything. Even Jewish people want their children to marry other Jewish people for the continuity of their faith.

Your experiences dating any and everybody have been good, I’m sure that a woman of yours could believe that a four-leaf clover on Pluto is running things and you’d be okay with it, and that’s good for you. I admire your inclusionary dating habits and applaud you for your enlightenment. Some others have tried to date people who don’t share the same beliefs and have not had good experiences, and so they learn to choose people with whom they have more things in common with and with whom they can share beliefs. That’s not you, and that’s okay with me.

Enjoy your lurking today.

By Dan

August 22, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

@Raqi

My Fault

@Ceemeli

That first line was in response to your post

By Atl Lady

August 22, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

Dan You say define, deny, and exclude others. No one on this blog excluded anyone based soley on their belief system. We were discussing what we would do in a meaningful intimate relationship with someone we plan to spend the rest of our lives with. So far most have said that that person has to be on the SAME PAGE in almost every aspect and that includes spirituality. You started with the out and out Christian bashing. I’ve met and talked with people of other faiths and beliefs and I go by the live and let live rule. But that’s me!!! Are you going to bash other faiths for killing in the name of their God??

By SCY

August 22, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

What a phony…why is he abstaining from drinking or sex during Ramadan. If he’s a muslim shouldn’t he be doing that anyway? Either you are or you aren’t pick one and be done with it…

By Cemeeli

August 22, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

Dan…hey sweetie, i wubb you!

i’m jus sayin’

If it came to it. I would want the WORST faith believer to debate/conclude/and pray with, me than the BEST religious nut.

By Dan

August 22, 2008 11:04 AM | Link to this

@ATLlady

Lnl @ 8;48

While I understand that most of us will speak from our own religious traditions, there is something to be said for not only respecting, but examining and understanding other faiths.

Now to your comment about killing in the name of God, who do you mean Christians or Muslims or Jews? Because in the span of human history these three religions has perpetuated the most egregious act of brutality in the name of their respective God.

When really, they are all sides to the same coin.

@Foots

4 leaf clover? Really?

If someone chooses to believe that they are not alone and that a “higher power” guides them and ties them to the rest of us in love, then if it is a 4 leaf clover, yep, I’m all for it.

Can you say the same?

By Cemeeli

August 22, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Give me the WORST faith *believer to debate/conclude/and pray with, and FOR me, than the BEST religious nut any day!*

I had to repost.

multitasking

By Foots

August 22, 2008 11:11 AM | Link to this

Dan *If someone chooses to believe that they are not alone and that a “higher power” guides them and ties them to the rest of us in love, then if it is a 4 leaf clover, yep, I’m all for it.

Can you say the same?*

Of course, people can believe what they want to believe. It’s a free country in that regard.

Would I marry them? No.

Would you?

there is something to be said for not only respecting, but examining and understanding other faiths.

Is examining and understanding all other faiths an actual requirement for people to lead happy, healthy lives, Dan, or just your personal belief of how things should be?

By Demi

August 22, 2008 11:11 AM | Link to this

Deists believe that God’s greatest gift to humanity is not religion, but the ability to reason.

Yep, one of the reasons Satan fell…*Not only dude wanted to be ‘GOD’, but he had a deep hatred toward the creatures made like non other.

Cee woman please…placing a halo cap and duct taping turkey wings on each shoulder blade…I am an angel, see me fly!!

Slim I am sure we can get a few dry humps in over the next 30 days…like, why do I feel as if, Zeus is standing behind me with lighting bolt in hand?

By mel

August 22, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this

Does not work. Christians are lead by Jesus and muslims by Allah? Jesus himself said He is the only way to the father and into heaven, such discord is an uneyen yoke (Biblical term) and is not one that is recommended. Why? because one is not free to worship and serve the Lord when the other is serving satan. Lightness and darkness don’t mix well.

By Cemeeli

August 22, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

ironic:confidental mail a 34 year old guy, a friend of an associate here in the office was diagnosised with bone marrow cancer just yesturday. My co-worker sends the thread/mail and ask me to keep his pal in prayer.

Out of all the years i’ve known, spoken, and seen this person he’s never mentioned his faith or belief.

faith always prevails

By Tazzee

August 22, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

Dan one can respect, examine and understand other faiths without choosing to practice that faith or marry someone of that faith.

If I marry a man of another faith I am essentially saying that I am choosing to practice that faith. No one here is condemning someone else’s faith.

By Chink

August 22, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All

This topic is sure to be a heated one…

But I did want to address something I noticed…When you hold strong in your beliefs you are judged as being “not open to others”. When in reality it is for your own spriritual progression you choose your faith. Not to rebuke other faiths but fulfill your own life with your belief…

Its not an attempt to divide……

By mytwocents

August 22, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this

abc & melo On hypocrisy… I know a chick who is a medgaddlala - well maybe that’s too strong a word cuz she gets no pay. But breaks neck to get to Church no matter what, feels guilty when she doesn’t, denounces homosexuality as a sickness & a choice… Which is why she’s glad her family member prayed himself out of it & into a marriage complete with fatherhood. Which of course has now collapsed. WTF!?!

By For Real

August 22, 2008 11:35 AM | Link to this

I could be wrong but I think what Dan is saying is if goal is to get closer to God why leave a stone unturned? Why not study other religions to get a greater understanding? I don’t believe he is saying it’s required but that it is a logical approach to reach the goal of a closer relationship with God. It seems that some people are unwilling to question God and that is just not logical to me.

By For Real

August 22, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

Chink I agree with 100% but it just seems that some only hold strong when defending but no so much in practice? An example would be any preacher. Oh and I know we are not perfect….

By Foots

August 22, 2008 11:44 AM | Link to this

For Real It seems that some people are unwilling to question God and that is just not logical to me.

But that’s not the topic. The topic was about dating someone of another faith. It was NOT about questioning God or denying the importance of other faiths. It was about sharing our experiences with interfaith dating, which many have. For Dan’s reference, the topic questions are listed above in Blanca’s entry for today.

By SlimOne

August 22, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

Demi I think we should start a DRY HUMPING CRUSADE, where we travel all across the country trying to bring it back. I mean those were the days when you humped until you got jean burn. lol! I’m sure that would help decrease teen pregnancy & std cases.

Slim now passing out “Dry Hump, Avoid the bump” buttons.

By Binford2K

August 22, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

For Real: Good point.

What if God’s plan was for you to be with someone of a differing faith? How would you know? Why is it that most everyone’s “plan” is so safe, plain and predictable? Perhaps one’s calling is to affect one person’s life - and that is it (which may be paramount in itself).

I dated a girl who was a fundamentalist and I, as an agnostic (best label for me I suppose), I was curious to learn her faith. I went to church and asked questions and didn’t criticize - but she always kept me at bay; which I thought was a crock.

It is also amazing a lot of times, when you discuss religion that people can’t articulate what they believe or WHY they believe it. I respect someone who can explain their viewpoint and can agree to disagree. I just have a harder time respecting someone that doesn’t know.

By Foots

August 22, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this

PoppaGrande I have a legal question to ask you about illegal traffic stops. Are you around?

By Zig

August 22, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

Those who are worried about all the alleged hypocrites in church on Sunday—well, don’t let that bother you.

Having one more there won’t make that much difference. Come join us!

By Tazzee

August 22, 2008 11:49 AM | Link to this

For Real I have studied other religions, I went through a period in college when I had an “anti-Christian jones” so I was looking at other beliefs and religions.

Now that I’m rooted in the faith that I’ve chosen, I do research when I question certain things and I question God all the time - but I search for the answers from Him, not from another religion or someone else’s beliefs.

By Atl Lady

August 22, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

For Real I understand what you’re saying and I agree to a certain degree. My problem with Dan was that he started bashing Christians alone. Had he said there are hypocrites in all faiths, that would’ve sat better with most us because that’s a universal truth. Religion is a hot button topic period. Everyone’s walk with whoever their God is is different and the relationship is very personal so some make it personal and take it personal. I tried to stay on topic like a good little girl, but I got caught up in the under current. :-)

By 'KP' (http://chatkafe.blogspot.com)

August 22, 2008 11:57 AM | Link to this

Good morning bloggers!

(KP putting his soapbox away!)

By Foots

August 22, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

Binford I dated a girl who was a fundamentalist and I, as an agnostic (best label for me I suppose), I was curious to learn her faith.

If you are agnostic, that technically means you don’t know whether or not God exists right? It seems to follow that you would be particularly open to and curious to learn about any religion, especially to see if they could prove their beliefs one way or the other.

It is also amazing a lot of times, when you discuss religion that people can’t articulate what they believe or WHY they believe it. I respect someone who can explain their viewpoint and can agree to disagree.

I do too. Since I could use enlightenment, could you explain how you came to believe that you are agnostic?

By abc

August 22, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

For Real, as far as studying other religions goes, how about other kinds of supernatural phenomena as well? Religious texts are full of references to witches, people who can see the future, spirits, demons, etc. etc.

Are they not all informational on some level? ‘Course, the Bible says to avoid all that supernatural stuff.

How many people here have experienced the supernatural? Does it have any impact on your religious beliefs to have/have not experienced such things?

God is the ultimate supernatural phenomenon.

By Chink

August 22, 2008 11:59 AM | Link to this

For Real

If you know that we are not perfect then you wouldnt be worried about whether someone is a hyprocrit or not.

As for practice this does not only apply to religious folk …everyone does it. Shoot have you ever said “that aint fair” guess what thats life!

But I can be only accountable for me and what I put out …and Chink is 100% because I have to live with myself everyday.

That preacher you talking about will be held accountable too ..but I am not their maker.

By parentof4

August 22, 2008 12:02 PM | Link to this

No you should not date anyone outside of your faith. That includes denominations. Yes it does state in the Bible that you should not be unequally yoked, which means you should only date interfaith. The denominations are a big one, because there are some that believe Jesus is God in the flesh i.e. Oneness and there are others who are Trinity believers i.e. God the Father, Holy Spirit, and the Son.

Of course I have found that there are more “believers” who do not even know the difference from those two schools.

This does not mean that I am intolerant to others. Love all as Christ and pray that you are the light to lead them to Christ.

As for the hypocrates…well no one can judge anyone’s spiritual life. Also the only one that knows all is God. I understand we are all sinners saved by Grace and I choose to listen to God and follow his direction for my life. That does not mean I will not fall or sin. It just means that he will pick me up and place my feet on that solid ground.

Dan: It does not really matter if Mary was truely a prostitute or not. What matters is when she heard of the true savior, she left her old ways and allowed herself to be born again. For those who follow Christ, her sins were washed away. So she should be the one you admire. Look at how she lead her life before Christ, and now look at how she lives her life after Christ. That is how we should live. Set apart.

By Poppa Grande

August 22, 2008 12:04 PM | Link to this

Foots

I’m here just reading, and looking at the evolution of the topic. I’m packing because I am headed out of town for a funeral. Those airline folks got us good. No Bereavement discount

So what’s up?

By NY2GA

August 22, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

Her boyfriend, a quasi-practicing Muslim, informed her he’s abstaining from partying, drinking and sex during Ramadan next month.“Rachel,” who wasn’t really raised with religion but is a default Christian, was perplexed by his no-booze no-sex policy.

Huh??? I could get past those first few lines.

Maybe this isn’t really a question of faith. Maybe this dude just needs to take a step back and get his life together. And if she is perplexed by his new policy and that is her SO…then maybe she needs to get her life together too.

By Foots

August 22, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

Poppa Can I send you an email?

By Foots

August 22, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

Poppa Can I send you an email?

By The Truth

August 22, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

Basketball

USA 101 Argentina 81

Gold medal game on sunday

By MELO

August 22, 2008 12:16 PM | Link to this

worried about all the alleged hypocrites in church on Sunday for me,its not about sunday,but every day as i go about my bizzness….they dnt bother me as to affect me,but im trbled for them altho they proly bother God more…

By Demi

August 22, 2008 12:18 PM | Link to this

Slim help me pick a theme song for our tour…

I’m bringin’ HUMP’IN back(Yeah) You motha*ers watch how I attack(Yeah) If that’s your girl, better watch your back(Yeah) ‘Cause she’ll burn it up for me, and that’s a fact(Yeah) (Take em’ to the chorus!)*

or

I don’t see nothing wrong with a little hump and grind I don’t see nothing wrong with a little hump and grind

Slim we need to turn this into our own ministry…Think of all those marriage ‘christian’ couple that have no idea of how to keep the passion alive in their marriage…because they’re funding their pastor’s cars, houses and jets.

By newlurker

August 22, 2008 12:18 PM | Link to this

especially to see if they could prove their beliefs one way or the other

??? how does one go about *proving” his/her beliefs, and why would this be required?

By Tazzee

August 22, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

The Truth is that the final score? I keep refreshing my screen and it still says “in progress”

I guess I can stop refreshing now, LOL

By Atl Lady

August 22, 2008 12:23 PM | Link to this

Truth Argentina was the country that put us out last time wasn’t it? My boss isn’t here today so I’m tempted to watch the rest in his office.

By Got that?

August 22, 2008 12:26 PM | Link to this

Couples of the same religion don’t last. So, the religion isn’t the problem. It’s the person’s relationship to religion. Most use religion as a weapon, i.e. right vs. wrong or moral vs. immoral, instead of an access to spirituality, which looks for the shared commonality of all things, i.e. oneness. True faith arises only when one’s inherent spirituality guides them, irrespective of whatever religious belief they may choose to follow.

By MELO

August 22, 2008 12:26 PM | Link to this

Of course I have found that there are more “believers” who do not even know the difference from those two schools to be honest,im one of those.My lyfe guiding verses read: do unto others as u wld like them to do unto u copied and and adapted from smewhere.. honor thy father and mother be a good neighor…… charity begins at home My lyfe rules are few and simple,i dont give too much phuck about knowing what verse in the holy bible, the old testament etc…nah… i wont worry too much about all that. There is a Creator,pray to him on the regular and be a good citizen and im good…….no bible thumping,reading blah blah. When i go to church,the preacher’s read and sermon will do as far as bible ref is concerned,just to re-inforce what i proly already know…. What most of u all know about the bible and for which u think u have researched a lot and are auhtoritative on is proly what causes all confusion,makes u discriminate and is what causes so much division in our society,even among so called believers(christians) I wont have none of that and will treat all as equals..Only God will judge u and me.

By The Truth

August 22, 2008 12:26 PM | Link to this

Tazz it’s over. They should have won by more. BTW, how are you?

By Foots

August 22, 2008 12:27 PM | Link to this

newlurker how does one go about *proving” his/her beliefs, and why would this be required?

Since Binford identifies most with agnosticism, he’s a good person to ask. From what I read, agnostics aren’t convinced one way or another that there is a God and need proof to make their decisions. But Binford should be able to articulate what he believes and shore up our understanding.

By SlimOne

August 22, 2008 12:33 PM | Link to this

Demi I’m loving those songs. I think we should have this song as our opener on every tour location:

Slim and Demi’s here, and we’re in effect. Want you to hump it,babe.Coolin by day then at night humpin’ up a sweat. Cmon girls, lets go show the guys that we know, How to become number one humper in a hot hump show. Now hump it!Ah, hump it - hump it good….oooh baby baby…

We need to stock up on some 30gal collection buckets though.

By Tazzee

August 22, 2008 12:35 PM | Link to this

Truth I’m great - thanks for asking. How are you?

By Poppa Grande

August 22, 2008 12:36 PM | Link to this

sure

biggpoppa@lycos.com

By Cemeeli

August 22, 2008 12:42 PM | Link to this

Demi-son what’s on your mind bruh? Cee leaves the topic room

Atl Lady hey gurl. Religion a hot button topic? noooo…we not press that button. :)

….thanks for the score Truth.

By DasV

August 22, 2008 12:42 PM | Link to this

KP appreciated your post… specifically this ———> You should be able to tell this by their lifestyle. i hadn’t come out of lurkesville because from the outset i was perplexed at a “muslim” drinking and sexing…. obviously that is why it was termed ‘quasi-muslim’ and anything termed quasi is aka ‘almost’ and almost doesnt cut it in my world. either you is or you aint and i dont have to ask you which it is, i only have to look at how you live and (bec out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks) listen to what you say when you verbalize your thoughts.

but i am in no way judging… bec you have to start somewhere. the self-discipline needed to live a spiritual life is more than whats needed to live a religious one. no path is the same cause no two ppl are.

By The Truth

August 22, 2008 12:46 PM | Link to this

Tazz outside of a paper cut and a stubbed toe I’m fine. LOL J/K

Atl yeah, they beat US last time. This one is a wrap though.

Poppa I didn’t know lycos still existed. They are ancient. Are you blogging using a 386 computer too? We need to do a technology update for you. LMAO

By Cemeeli

August 22, 2008 12:49 PM | Link to this

DasV i agree…self-discipline needed to live a spiritual life is more than whats needed to live a religious one. then i get off this like now.

Hey where you been, and how are you? how was your summer vacation?

By Poppa Grande

August 22, 2008 12:52 PM | Link to this

Truth

I didn’t know lycos still existed. They are ancient. Are you blogging using a 386 computer too? We need to do a technology update for you. LMAO

Yeah, they are old, but it still works. This one actually hits me on the hip with my Blackjack phone.

By Atl Lady

August 22, 2008 12:53 PM | Link to this

CeeNot only pressed the button, but held it down! :-) I’m on my way out to lunch finally. I’ll be back in a little bit.

By Demigod33

August 22, 2008 12:53 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli you guess right…have a lot on the mind

Slim thanks for the laugh…I need to think for a bit, log’n off

Good Day to All!!!

By Poppa Grande

August 22, 2008 12:59 PM | Link to this

Truth

BTW, I am all for upgrading my Commodore Vic 20…lol

By MELO

August 22, 2008 1:00 PM | Link to this

How many people here have experienced the supernatural? as an african, i know a whole lot about those…true and fakes…my uncle(dnt even knew him) went to war during the liberation days..70s.typically they travelled thru the bush to another sponsoring country.Independence came and there was no word from him..many died and we presumed him dead too. About 28 years after independence,it so happened that my uncle and his comrades had been killed by the settler rulers soldiers,in a remote part of the cntry(our cntry) and had been buried in shallow mass graves by villagers(the soldiers wld typically command villagers to do that) But here cmes the supernatural aspect:my uncle possessed one of the local villagers(did not know each other),revealed his real name and explained in detail in which part of the cntry he was from and his first and last name.Asked that he be given a proper burial and for them to summon his family.In fact,coz he waz in mass graves with others,they(him and the other buried guerillas) indicated exactly what they were wearing and id marks,to guide those who went about collecting the bones. The rest is history,suffice to say we interred his bones and gave him a decent burial…… True story folks……

By Cemeeli

August 22, 2008 1:06 PM | Link to this

Demi —>have a lot on the mind.

Sweetie you said it true! There is a lot going on!…and if faith can see me too, and through…same for you.

By arkansas1

August 22, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

Hello bloggers,

This an interesting topic!

Faith,knowledge,study and committment is what allows you to have spiritual connection with your GOD.

We have put a description on religion and it is just a word too many people speak about!

We sometimes allow ourselves to follow a man or a woman for a guidance and they cannot provide that for you!

We all need to use a own mind because the creater gave each one of us a brain to use everyday to make good decisions.

So if you are using the good common sense the creator gave you the religion should never keep you from getting together in a relationship!

By the way: Truth, you are one of a kind! A predator like a lot of men who is just letting the women know what to expect when it comes to dealing with you! Keep it real Truth

By DasV

August 22, 2008 1:24 PM | Link to this

CeeCee doing well, chica. no summer break for me…. not for district ppl. been busy … but mostly the topics havent moved me to come out of lurkesville. im here most days though.

how are you?? times all around tough…. i know. keep your head up.

you in my thoughts too Demi. ‘preciate the text yesterday.

By i'm swiss

August 22, 2008 1:34 PM | Link to this

Views on religion really go to the core of one’s worldview & value system. Seems to be just asking for trouble to be with someone who’s core beliefs are not inline with your own.

Of course, that drastically reduces my dating pool, especially in the south, as not only do I not believe any of it, but I actually think religion has done more harm in the world than pretty much anything to ever spring from the mind of man. That tends not to go over very well with most around these parts.

By Foots

August 22, 2008 1:40 PM | Link to this

Swiss Of course, that drastically reduces my dating pool

You were lucky, because you found your wife-to-be out of that pool anyway. Do you and your fiancee hold the same core belief system?

By Cemeeli

August 22, 2008 1:44 PM | Link to this

DasV gurl, you been working all this time? And here i thought you’ve been frolicing all summer. :) Okay,. How are your boys? New field?

By MELO

August 22, 2008 1:48 PM | Link to this

just got a twitt from Obama..wanna knw..???????

By SlimOne

August 22, 2008 1:50 PM | Link to this

I’M SO SWEEEPY…yawn

Would seeing a ghost/spirit of sorts, count as experiencing something supernatural?

By i'm swiss

August 22, 2008 1:55 PM | Link to this

Foots — We do have very similar views, yes.

I’ve never really been with any truly gung-ho religious girls, but my ex was what I like to call a “CYA” Catholic (as in “cover your azz”). I don’t think she truly bought into it, but went through the motions, just in case it was true. Even forced me to go away to this silly “couples counseling” getaway weekend before we were married. Funny thing though — she’s the one who turned out to be gay & cheated repeatedly, so I guess she wasn’t too concerned about her religious beliefs. ;-)

By Binford2K

August 22, 2008 1:55 PM | Link to this

Agnostic:

1: a person who holds the view that any ultimate reality (as God) is unknown and probably unknowable; broadly : one who is not committed to believing in either the existence or the nonexistence of God or a god

I do believe in forces greater than humans

Foots:

The concept of God is really beyond human comprehension (as defined above, which I see as the truth)…

Let me make my answer as concise as possible… Basically, in any religion you take supernatural or implausible acts/scenarios and take them as fact because you believe in your heart they are true (Faith in Jesus both in dying for humanities sins and his resurrection). I’ve read about 85% of the Bible and you you know what - it never struck me for a second as being the divine word of God breathed in to man to record it. There’s a lot you have to take at face value. And there’s more that is geared to the supremacy of men, because at that time in the world - it was a labor-based world. And it excludes the fact that at our core, we are both animals who are just as primitive as dogs (in certain ways), but more cognitive - supposedly imaged after a creator.

There’s no problem if you see and read the Bible and take that at face value and have the faith that these supernatural things are true and that is the way that is.

But that is why it is called a leap of faith if you will.

I left out a lot - but I don’t have hours here ;p

I had a few margaritas at lunch, so this may be a bit disjointed :)

By Beautiful

August 22, 2008 1:56 PM | Link to this

waving

tazzee regarding your post yesterday, your friend was right. i believe the same.

i woke up thinking today was thurs. i’m glad i was wrong. ;-)

hi kp