Misadventures in Atlanta

By SlimOne

September 2, 2008 8:29 AM | Link to this

Hope everyone enjoyed their weekend

I have dated someone and they were a little too touchy feely for me. So I sort of agree on that being weird when I dude is acting like we’ve been together for some months off the rip.

By Miss A

September 2, 2008 8:34 AM | Link to this

I have to agree with you! It’s funny, most women want a man thats sincere, affectionate, tender, etc., but if he shows those emotions too soon, it kinda makes us leery. I am kinda in the same situation somewhat with the guy I am dating. The first date was very nice, but no sparks. But, he was not affectionate, and very much a gentleman, which I liked. It has been about 3-4 months, and we just recently shared a kiss - nothing too intimate, but nice. He did the forehead thing, but still no had holding in public. He still hasn’t tried to take it too far, and I am finding myself liking him more and more.

By Miss A

September 2, 2008 8:37 AM | Link to this

I have to agree with you! It’s funny, most women want a man thats sincere, affectionate, tender, etc., but if he shows those emotions too soon, it kinda makes us leery. I am kinda in the same situation somewhat with the guy I am dating. The first date was very nice, but no sparks. But, he was not affectionate, and very much a gentleman, which I liked. It has been about 3-4 months, and we just recently shared a kiss - nothing too intimate, but nice. He did the forehead thing, but still no had holding in public. He still hasn’t tried to take it too far, and I am finding myself liking him more and more.

By C tha 1

September 2, 2008 8:43 AM | Link to this

This is funny!! Because I’m going through the same thing … the difference is that I’m a dude and a little bit older and more mature to handle an affectionate woman.

Are you being fickle? Well sorta … just tell dude to fall back with the affection, he means well, but you’re not there yet. You’ve been on five or six dates so you keep him around for something other than holding hands.

Personally I have realized that people simply communicate thier affection differently. Sometimes public displays of affection are cool … sometimes if feels like eeewwww. The girl I’m dating now is very affectionate and I’ve accepted it as apart of her personality.

We recently had a conversation about this where I told her that I wanted her to simply be herself, and if that included all the booed up affection giving I’m cool with it. But she has to understand that I do have my limits when it comes to excessive PDA.

At the end of the day my girl is a Giver … and I’m cool with that because I consider myself a Giver also, and it feels damn good to be on the receiving end this time.

Blanca, as I said before just let dude know that you’re not on the exact page that he’s on as far as giving affection. If he’s a reasonable dude he will understand and respond in kind. If you want to continue dating him and he still over does it with the affection without informing him then you’re simply leading him on.

By SlimOne

September 2, 2008 8:48 AM | Link to this

Matter of fact, the last dude I went out on a date with gently placed his hand on my arm and asked If it would be okay if he held me….I said no. LOL! So he retreated and stated he respected that.

C tha 1 So what would be too much as far as PDA goes in your opinion?

By AmazonRed

September 2, 2008 9:03 AM | Link to this

Happy Tuesday Gang. Let’s hear some weekend roundups!

I have to agree with you! It’s funny, most women want a man thats sincere, affectionate, tender, etc., but if he shows those emotions too soon, it kinda makes us leery.

I’ve gotta agree with this! This hasn’t happend too soon to often, but when it has, it does creep me out. Also, when the pet names are applied too early (1st - 2nd date range) it can come off as condescending.

By Foots

September 2, 2008 9:07 AM | Link to this

Blanca I enjoy spending time with him, but I can’t say I look at him and see my unborn children.

Just ask yourself this: Would you be weirded out if this was the man you could see having your children with? Would it freak you out that this man wants a relationship if you were itching to be in a relationship with him?

If you can answer that honestly, you’ll know whether or not it’s the extra affection or the wrong guy. And you’ll know whether to either tell him to back up or keep it moving until you find someone who you feel a chemistry with.

By Leggs

September 2, 2008 9:16 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. Personally, I think holding hands is sweet even on the first date. However, pet names, forehead kisses, etc. shouldn’t appear on the first few dates.

Weekend roundup = boring a$$ bbq on Saturday. Left after 45 mins. Sunday went to a b-day party where the collards and cabbage were horrible. The fact that both were equally bad had me smdh! I made Monkey bread which was delicious. Monday consisted of relaxing and doing household chores.

By Foots

September 2, 2008 9:22 AM | Link to this

Amazon Let’s hear some weekend roundups!

Well, let’s see… We had a Girl’s Night Out Friday night at Straits. We didn’t do anything on Saturday, except make a Costco run and Target run and do a location switch back to my place. On Sunday, we rented a party boat on Lake Allatoona with our friends (I actually got in the water, which was surprisingly clean and warm); we’ll definitely have to do that again next year. On Monday, we just chilled out, alternating between eating, napping, watching TV and some other activities. ;-)

By abc

September 2, 2008 9:22 AM | Link to this

There’s nothing wrong with a guy that’s affectionate, but if you’re not feeling it too, then go with your gut.

By MELO

September 2, 2008 9:25 AM | Link to this

weekend round up: went to Indiana for social soccer with the boys,was back home monday morning at 7.30 am,had a family grill last nite with fam and my 2 brothers,then send the kids to bed and yes, i did the dishes and the clean up after they were gone,for a change! Great weekend allround. I will be back later when topic changes,hopefully then, we can talk about the trailer trash thats possibly coming to ur nearest white house. Go Mccain!!

By Leggs

September 2, 2008 9:25 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. Personally, I think holding hands is sweet even on the first date. However, pet names, forehead kisses, etc. shouldn’t appear on the first few dates.

Weekend roundup = boring a$$ bbq on Saturday. Left after 45 mins. Sunday went to a b-day party where the collards and cabbage were horrible. The fact that both were equally bad had me smdh! I made Monkey bread which was delicious. Monday consisted of relaxing and doing household chores.

By AmazonRed

September 2, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

Foots, I see you and all your “we’s.” Glad things are going well!

By ATL Guy

September 2, 2008 9:29 AM | Link to this

This One is a tough call. I mean from a guy’s perspective how affectionate do you want to be on the early dates!? Some girls are more reserved than others. I’m not really forward on first date. Just taking it easy, enjoying company, etc. People that really try hard by being soooo affectionate comes across as either smothering, needy, or maybe a bit desperate. Something valued in the chase

By Dan

September 2, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

@Blanca

I’ve sooner made out with a guy than hold his hand…

Really, so intimate contact that could pass along any number of STD’s is okay, but, someone holding your hand gives you the creeps?

Wow.

This is the state of dating these days?

That statement right there…

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

September 2, 2008 9:33 AM | Link to this

Morning All! Hope everyone had a great weekend!!

Weekend Roundup: Had a blast all weekend! Chilled out yesterday cause Lil Mo wasnt feeling too swift but otherwise all was well.

On topic: being one that is not big on being smothered with affection too soon, I would have to tell old dude to slow his roll. It makes me uncomfortable when someone gets too affectionate too soon.

By MELO

September 2, 2008 9:37 AM | Link to this

On topic: holding hands or better yet,even stealing that 1st kiss on 1st date wld be cool.Im havinbg a date with you for a reason,im attracted and so if u are feeling me like that too,great.Getting laid on the 1ts date is the ultimate experience.But girls want to hold out longer,its in one of the laws in your secret black books! Guys will follow a wman’s lead and go with ur flow to a point,but we like instantaneous delights,preferably!

By Cemeeli

September 2, 2008 9:42 AM | Link to this

Good Day Everyone!

Blanca maybe this guy you do not want all this affection from is because your simply not “feeling” him. For me, someone i vibe with and chemistry is there i wouldn’t uncomfortable with those gestures. In fact i’d bubble with anxiousness when he does take may hand in that way. hmmmm Lol @ you not even THINKING that he could possibly be your future “baby daddy”.

and that brings me to Melo’s point…Mrs. Palin and her 17 year old daughter, have gotta be going through some high level of embarrasment right now. Some have stated the daughter was prego before. …but anyway…

Leggs NOT the bad tough collard greens and cabbage!!! Sorry you had to fix your palate for some “good good” and after tasting i’m sure you were like wth? monkey bread??? I’ve had some sweetpotato bread, but not monkey bread.

By Foots

September 2, 2008 9:47 AM | Link to this

Blanca I’ve sooner made out with a guy than hold his hand, which seems terribly tender and romantic and the stuff of coupledom, which we certainly weren’t after just one date.

I think that Dan has a valid observation. So the question for you is: Why is holding hands the “stuff of coupledom” for you, but making out is not? How could kissing and groping someone seem normal, but a man wanting to be sweet and tender by just holding your hand has you with all these question marks?? Could you define what Making Out involves and say why it doesn’t carry as much weight as hand holding with you?

Amazon LOL!! “We” is genderless!! But yeah, things are good. I was so proud of him on Sunday. He had to drive the boat and he never had done so before. (The guy that was supposed to drive bailed on us day of.) He was a complete natural and even the dudes on board were calling him “Cap’n”. I made sure to tell him all about what everybody was saying about how he came through for us and how we might have still be sitting at the marina if he hadn’t been there. LOL!! I think he could have died and went to Heaven satisfied at that moment because he got to be a real Hero.

By MELO

September 2, 2008 9:49 AM | Link to this

masturbation,peanut butter trick and dogss in one sentence.Is that beastiality? Grossssssssss!

By abc

September 2, 2008 9:52 AM | Link to this

I have to agree, melo, that the press on Mrs. Palin is pretty dismal. One must recall, though, that Obama himself was born to an 18 year old.

Just the same, I suspect the McCain campaign is lying about knowing about the teen pregnancy in advance. Palin’s quotes from 2 years or so ago about not knowing anything about Iraq due to concentrating on state politics is pretty stupid, too. I start to call McCain’s judgment into question, picking a potential successor of these qualities.

Besides, if her home plate is so full with a pregnant teen, a 5 month old Down’s Syndrome baby, and a young son headed for Iraq, what the heck is she doing running for VP? This is family values?

By Cemeeli

September 2, 2008 9:52 AM | Link to this

Im havinbg a date with you for a reason,im attracted and so if u are feeling me like that too,great.Getting laid on the 1ts date is the ultimate experience.

MELO I refute all that mess you say. Due diligence…stop, i say!

By AmazonRed

September 2, 2008 9:54 AM | Link to this

We” is genderless!!

Foots, sure it is, but you aren’t fooling anyone with it! ;-)

Go Cap’n!

By Blanca

September 2, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

Dan Really, so intimate contact that could pass along any number of STD’s is okay, but, someone holding your hand gives you the creeps?Wow.This is the state of dating these days?

Oh please, Dan. You’ve caught me on a bad day. I’m saying I have sooner shared a first kiss with someone than hold their hand. That’s right. To me, holding hands when you walk down the street or from place to place is indicative of a relationship and a truly intimate experience. This isn’t a hard and fast rule, but most commonly, I hold hands with a boyfriend - not just someone I go on one date with. I didn’t say I jump in the sack first, nor did I say I’m irresponsible when it comes to intimate contact. But thanks for your thoughts, just the same.

I’m inclined to agree with some others on the blog - this probably just means I’m not that into him.

By AmazonRed

September 2, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this

I start to call McCain’s judgment into question, picking a potential successor of these qualities.

Well hey abc, at least she’s cute. I’m sure you’ll be kinder about her physical qualities than you were about Mrs. Obama. LOL

And the McCain camp had no clue about this pregnancy thing. Damage control to the max!

By C tha 1

September 2, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

Too much PDA differs from person to person. Personally, I’ve gotten better if ol’ girl wants to hold hands, or kiss in public … that’s nothing. It’s a matter of meeting a person half way on some things. When I warm up to the idea of PDA then I’m cool, but not straight off the rip! Slow down Tito Dayum!

By Leggs

September 2, 2008 9:59 AM | Link to this

Could you define what Making Out involves and say why it doesn’t carry as much weight as hand holding with you? Thanks to you and to Dan!

By ATL Guy

September 2, 2008 9:59 AM | Link to this

Ceemeli everyone is blasting Palin’s Daughter for being Preganant, but how does this affect her abilities!? I mean, Obama had a DWI in his earliest 20’s…who cares!

By Leggs

September 2, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

What I find quite funny is before announcing this pregnancy, her daughter was only seen holding the baby (probably a ploy to hide her pregnancy) during her acceptance of the nomination.

By RG in the SAV

September 2, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

A man who is overly pushy on the PDA early in the relationship, especially after you have said to him that it makes you feel uncomfortable, is doing it for HIM not for you. This can be the beginning of a pattern or trying to control you, especially if he doesn’t want to hang out with other people besides you, and if he wants to give you “suggestions” on what to wear, say, etc. that are veiled criticisms. Pay attention. If he doesn’t understand the awkwardness of PDA, he probably isn’t mature enough for an adult relationship regardless of whether he is trying to be controlling or not.

By abc

September 2, 2008 10:05 AM | Link to this

I’m familiar with the hand-holding phobia. Probably from being a parent, I’ve instinctively grabbed the hand of even just a female friend while crossing the street and gotten some negative feedback, if only body language. Course, I hold my girl’s hand all the time. I just like to.

Mrs. Palin does have a kind of naughty schoolteacher vibe going on, with the glasses and hair. Just think, if McCain drops dead after a year or so in office, the new President could be Miss Congeniality from 1984! Cracks me up.

By Blanca

September 2, 2008 10:05 AM | Link to this

Foots In my view making out means some healthy kissing action, and no, I don’t think I need (or want) to be in a relationship with someone to have a kiss fest. Obviously it’s great if the two go hand in hand (pun intended!), but that hasn’t always been a priority for me.

Holding hands, as I said in an earlier post, has historically meant something else for me and the people I’ve dated. It’s a sense of togetherness, a sweet gesture of care that for me goes beyond the simple lust involved in a kissing session. If we’re breaking this down to a micro-level, I’m not weirded out by someone touching my hand or gently holding it at dinner or something; I’m referring to (in this case) hand-holding all the time. Down the street. From table to table. From restaurant to car. In this case it seemed a little much, but that’s just me.

By Blue_Kolla

September 2, 2008 10:05 AM | Link to this

What Up Peepo?!

Just ask yourself this: Would you be weirded out if this was the man you could see having your children with? Would it freak you out that this man wants a relationship if you were itching to be in a relationship with him?

If you can answer that honestly, you’ll know whether or not it’s the extra affection or the wrong guy.

Thanks Foots

All you women with teen-aged daughters. Date some dude in your neighborhood. That way you can stay yo azz at home, and attend to your hot-in-the-pants-azz little angel.

My lil nephew’s been to school a grand total of 1 and 1/2 days and he’s already got two broads trying to get him over to YOUR cribs so that he can flat-back thei’ azz. So right about now, that’s two sets of parents that probably don’t even realize that they owe me a, “Thank You.”

…but I ain’t gon’ be able to hold him off for long.

By Blanca

September 2, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed And the McCain camp had no clue about this pregnancy thing. Damage control to the max! You really think so? My friends and I wondered about that, as well. I can’t imagine they didn’t know…what a gaffe if not!

By Dan

September 2, 2008 10:07 AM | Link to this

@Blanca

I think this is more indicative of a phobia of committment.

I dig that on a first date intimate gestures are a little creepy, but to me so is kissing. I don’t know you well enough to kiss you - no matter the chemistry.

But a man showing you affection somehow sends you running for the hills, while a man that is after the puddy is ok? Isn’t that the function of holding hands versus making out on a first date?

And while you “may not be feeling him” why keep going out with the dude without telling him how you feel/don’t feel?

I mean this whole post sounds like maybe you need to figure out want you want right now and go for it.

By MELO

September 2, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this

Cee,due diligence is for longterm purposes….if the pudsy is given now,it should be taken!If the chic stays with you longer and you like her,that 1st date indulgence will be factored in the decision and may be forgiven.Usually happens if the girl is way better than the pudsy escapade on 1st date suggests.

By Cemeeli

September 2, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

A Guy…Right, who cares? ‘Cuase i don’t give a flip about Palin daughter’s joy riding…she can have ten more and it wouldn’t bother me one way or the other.

Wow..Blue…Alright! Get to what’s really going on ‘round the way!

By AmazonRed

September 2, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

And the McCain camp had no clue about this pregnancy thing. Damage control to the max! You really think so? My friends and I wondered about that, as well. I can’t imagine they didn’t know…what a gaffe if not

Blanca, they couldn’t have known. The whole unwed teen mother thing flies right into the face with the whole family values thing. Jamie Lynn Spears got FRIED. You don’t want that kind of PR nightmare.

In addition, had they known, Bristol should have been married off at the courthouse by the time the VP announcement was made. That girl had no immediate plans to marry! She’s already 5-6 months along, plenty of time to do it if she really wanted to.

The Thinking Right blog is jumping today!

By Johnny Neptune

September 2, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

It’s all about communication, tell the guy what makes you comfortable and what doesn’t.

It’s cool to have your guard up, but at the same time, you don’t want the guy to emotionally shut down on you. There aren’t too many men who believe in chivalry, but in your case, he’s somewhat over the top with it. Just tell him what makes you feel comfortable and what doesn’t.

By Blanca

September 2, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

Dan And while you “may not be feeling him” why keep going out with the dude without telling him how you feel/don’t feel? Now that’s a point I agree with. The thing is, I’ve enjoyed spending time with him, though admittedly I haven’t had my socks knocked off. You are right - I should tell him how I feel about the uber-affection. My previous kiss fests aside, I’m trying to take relationships slow these days, and all that affection has me wondering if he’s not on the same page. I’m not a commitment phobe, but I am if I’m not sure it’s the right person. And that’s where I am with this guy.

By Poppa Grande

September 2, 2008 10:28 AM | Link to this

ATL

People aren’t blasting her for having a pregnant teenage daugther. They are blasting her more for trying to hide it. Why not lay all of the cards out on the table from day one? Palin should have known that it would be found out eventually.

In reality, it speaks more to McCain than her and HIS judgment.

After reading more about him, I changed my mind about it being a good pick. It just looks like he made a hasty decision.

He had a recent physical, as all presidential candidates have, and his report is that he is expected to have 9 more healthy years to live. He turned just turned 72 last week, and has have to fight cancer multiple times. 9 years is just one more year than the max that he could be in office. He should have picked someone with more experience period.

He wanted to shore up the conservatives that didn’t think that he was conservative enough (there were many).

The only thing that makes me question her is the whole getting involved with her sister divorce stuff. (Trying to get her brother in law fired, but firing his boss for not firing the brother in law). It comes off as vindictive, and women have a rep of being as such. It doesn’t look good. Keep personal business out of the state’s business.

By MELO

September 2, 2008 10:28 AM | Link to this

abc,ared and bloggers are speculating that the little baby that is Palin’s cld be the daughter’s too.She had a long abscence from school last year, i believe, that is being questioned.Wonder if they wld be prepared to do a DNA.What more about them is out there?.This cld be a train wreck! The publicity will be unrelenting….

By SlimOne

September 2, 2008 10:30 AM | Link to this

The ajc ate my weekend recap.

By Foots

September 2, 2008 10:30 AM | Link to this

Blanca It’s a sense of togetherness, a sweet gesture of care that for me goes beyond the simple lust involved in a kissing session.

Okay, so simple lust is fine, but sweet togetherness and caring is a problem?

Where I come from, a kiss is intimate. It is touching your lips, and maybe tongues, with someone else’s. You don’t do that with just anybody. And when you kiss somebody deeply and lustfully, hands will naturally roam. It’s lust, right? So what you’re saying is that you don’t have a problem with or wouldn’t even question a man who wants to kiss you deeply with lust in his eyes and run his hands up and down your body, but you are afraid to have a man hold your hand, call you pet names and kiss your forehead. In other words, show some investment in you beyond just lust.

But if this was really a case of too much affection too fast, then EVERYTHING would be too much for you. What the other ladies are basically saying is that if it’s too soon for affection or if they aren’t feeling a dude, kissing the dude would be the next to last thing they would do, and letting his hands roam their bodies would be the last.

If you are okay with kissing and rubbing, but not sweetness and caring, maybe Dan has it right. Again.

By East Point's Own

September 2, 2008 10:33 AM | Link to this

This topic mirrors is right on time… Just this morning I was wondering if I made the right decision over the weekend. I had a very long first date on Sunday, I mean everything went well and we ended up spending the entire afternoon and night out bar hopping and eating. We were definitely feeling each other, but there were a couple of moments when I got the idea that she wanted to hold hands or do other things that to me were a little too “couple-ish” for me at the time… Now I am all for the PDA or holding hands but not on the first date… But the night continued to go well and I made it clear that I enjoyed her company and we spoke on the phone later that evening (morning actually) and all was good… But 2 days later and I have not heard a peep from her, So I am wondering if perhaps she thought I was not interested since I did not follow her queues to show more affection.

By AmazonRed

September 2, 2008 10:35 AM | Link to this

abc,ared and bloggers are speculating that the little baby that is Palin’s cld be the daughter’s too

melo, that was last weeks rumor that led to this announcement. However, I think the math doesn’t quite work out for the girl to be pregnant again. Though it’s all fishy as hell.

By Poppa Grande

September 2, 2008 10:38 AM | Link to this

Blanca

From my perspective, it looks like you have unconsciously put him in the friend zone. You keep mentioning the lack of sparks. So apparently that is important to you. It is missing and you doubt your romantic interest in him, but not a relationship interest. Friendship is still a relationship.

Communication is key. Simply put, you guys aren’t on the same page.

Neither of you can read minds. The two you need to talk and each of you need access and then make the decision that is right for each of you.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

September 2, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

ARED weekend round up..let’s see…found out that somebody I “thought” was my friend is really a selfish b*tch! Oh and yeah..I am now on crutchces! I knew I should have gone to Paris….but no I decided to postpone it! *&^%$# How was yours? LOL

*Leggs May I ask what Monkey bread is? Its doe not sounds edible! LOL

Just think, if McCain drops dead after a year or so in office, the new President could be Miss Congeniality from 1984! Cracks me up. Good on ABC!!! LOL

Blanca I am so not the affectionate person anymore. I used to be…but now any type of touch and a guy immediately thinks you want to have sex. So I don’t even want to kiss or hold hands or do anything more than the church hug with a dude unless I am ready to get busy! It is sad that it had come to that!

Ared Did you hera that Palin’s last baby, who had down syndrome may actually be her grandson and not her son! She did not annouce her pregnancy until she was “7 months” along. But it just so happened that her then 15 year old daughter Bristol was home from school for 5 months for “mono”. Mono lasts 2 months tops! How convenient! Sounds like she can’t control her hot in the azz daughter but she wants to be 2nd in command for our country?!? Hellz no!

By Cemeeli

September 2, 2008 10:43 AM | Link to this

It comes off as vindictive, and women have a rep of being as such. It doesn’t look good.

well, well PoppaG imma give you a chance to disclaim this statment to say that ‘some’ women are vindictive. I think you missed breakfast before posting….i’m just starting my breakfast too.

Keep personal business out of the state’s business.

I agree.

If the chic stays with you longer and you like her, that 1st date indulgence will be factored in the decision and may be forgiven.

Melo hmmm, i’m still tryna find a rebuttal…but i just may let this ride as is. which is wierd because i dunno why lately i’ve been corresponding with your thinking Dang!!! …btw soccor has a place in my heart, inlaw would play @ Piedmont alot, and my lil guy quit after 2 seasons… Did family attend the Indiana trip with u? Was this trip a tournament?

By AmazonRed

September 2, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

Staceye - What did you do to get on crutches? Get well soon!

My roundup: 1. Saturday - Went to a friends pool party. Topped off the night playing adult versions of games like truth or dare. 2. Sunday - Flew to one of my college FB games. Flew home in time to head to a party at one of the hot spots in town. 3. Monday - Went to a friends bbq. Watched football games w/ Beau and ate ice cream!

By Poppa Grande

September 2, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this

Cee

well, well PoppaG imma give you a chance to disclaim this statment to say that ‘some’ women are vindictive.

I will amend my statement. ALL women are vindictive: hence the woman’s scorn saying…lol

Is that better?

By ATL Guy

September 2, 2008 10:52 AM | Link to this

I’m really amazed so many people are blasting Palin on her daughter having a baby! Why drag her personal family into Politics anyways, its just smear tactics. The fact Obama’s dad left him and he was raised by an 18 year old single mom, will not make me hold that against him. Nor, would I care about his wife or kids.

Easy move would be to Abort the child…but speaking of family values, this is a commendable move to care for the child and her daughter will marry the guy.

What I do like about Palin is how she is a hardliner against special interest republican groups. McCain has a history of going against the grain of Republicans as well. I can respect that.

Her daughter having a baby is irrelevant

By Cemeeli

September 2, 2008 10:52 AM | Link to this

Blanca so far, do you think it’s the chemistry/vibe with this guy or have you come to realize, you are overwhelmed with this/his over affection?

By AmazonRed

September 2, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

I’m really amazed so many people are blasting Palin on her daughter having a baby!

They are getting blasted because Republican’s are pretty good at blasting girls in similar situations.

Had they taken this “no big deal” stance from the beginning, there’d probably be a different outcome.

It’s just desserts.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

September 2, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

Ared As adventourous as I am you would think I’d end up on crutches from a motorcycle, a cliff dive, etc…no. Atlanta’s notorious broken sidewalks and I my heel had a meeting and did not like each other. Staceye went down, foot rocked over to the left and ligaments were torn. But I did not know how bad it was until after I got home and took my shoes off and tried to walk flat. I fell on my face (no damage there though) LOL. I am going home to NY on Thursday for a my girl’s bachelorette. I am still going to dance at each club….even if I can rock my new heels. I can wrap my foot and wear my sexy ankle boots to cover it and still get my party on. As long as I keep my vicodin with me…I will be pain free. Who says you can’t drink while on Vicodin. I did and I am just fine! LOL Hey at least I know not to take my Ambien with it! I am not trying to be the next Heath Ledger…have my work come out after I die! No thanks!

By Poppa Grande

September 2, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

ATL

There is a double standard though. Obama’s dad leaving is one thing. However, conservative base could see Palin as being too busy to even control her teenage daughter.

It isn’t the right thing to do, but that is how politics go. It is a dirty game. Unfortunately, family gets dragged into also.

One of the current President’s twin girls tried to get alcohol while they were underage? Didn’t work, but the word got out. Most kids do that kind of stuff but it got out because of who that daddy was.

By ATL Guy

September 2, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

ARED where did you fly to?? Who’s your team!?

By MELO

September 2, 2008 11:00 AM | Link to this

Did family attend the Indiana trip with u? Was this trip a tournament? No and Yes. Boys just wanna have fun too,but there were no naughty escapades,Indianapolis is so full of ghetto girlz and rednecks anyway.lol But wify did ask to go when i told her about trip and i told her NO!(she is alwayz looking out to ward off competitors) I took her to dallas three weeks back so she had no ammo…..

By Blue_Kolla

September 2, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

Foots If you are okay with kissing and rubbing, but not sweetness and caring, maybe Dan has it right. Again.

Yeap, looks like ol’ Dan-0 called that strike.

Blog Ladies - How many of you are throwing tongue down some dude’s throat that you know ain’t feelin’ like that?

Political Tip: What about the knucklehead boyfriend dude and the myspace page where dude says that he doesn’t want the baby and wants old girl to get rid of it. What does that do for the Republicans and their anti-abortion rhetoric?

By AmazonRed

September 2, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

ARED where did you fly to?? Who’s your team!?

My team is the California Golden Bears. But I work in sports marketing and part of my job involves flying to college football games throughout the season on behalf of my clients.

By Poppa Grande

September 2, 2008 11:03 AM | Link to this

Staceye

I feel for ya. I’ve had the crutch life many times. My junior year of high school was spent on crutches. I was on them for 8 1/2 months. So, keep ya head up.

By t-man

September 2, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

What a tough crowd…If you can’t even score a hand hold…give up!

By MLL

September 2, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Good moring Good People, Being affectionate on the first date for me would be too overwhelming. I’ve had dates that dayum near shoved his tongue down my throat and I’ve had others that was very slick about their affection getting a quick feel of my butt and hugging close to feel my boobs. Men are men and some will try. I like affection and I’m an affectionate person but there is a time a place for that and on a first date should not be one of them. I feel like this if you can hug and kiss me behind close doors than you shouldn’t have a problem doing it in the open.

On Palin: I think the baby is Willow’s the 14 year old daughter. Although it’s possible for it to be Bristols we can’t over look the other daughter, I don’t believe it’s Palin’s baby for the fact she knew she had a high risk pregnancy, here water broke and she continued to give her 30min speech, got on a plane for an 11 hour flight from Texas to Alaska, admit herself in the hospital, had the baby and back on the job in 3 days…no way is that possible.

By Cemeeli

September 2, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

got dangit, PoppaG, i and some other women are not vindictive!

Lol, If i venture to say All men are dogs. would i be lying?

Sidenote: I just got a memo on 2008 SAT Scores by race and ethnicity, Indian, Caucasians, and Asians scored the highest followed by African American then Hispanic.

By MELO

September 2, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

Her daughter having a baby is irrelevant yeah,may be it speaks volumes about how she manages her family bizness.I wld interpret that to mean she is too busy chasing power and influence and has no time to impart so called family values to her kids;her son has a DUI by the way. Wld Republicans have said No big deal if this were Chelsea Clinton pregnant at 17.Think Not,a 1000 x!

By ATL Guy

September 2, 2008 11:07 AM | Link to this

Its COLD in Alaska…gotta stay warm somehow!

By SlimOne

September 2, 2008 11:12 AM | Link to this

Blanca Long story short, I just don’t think you’re really into this guy. He’s a time waster for you…he’s a Tweenie for you—> just something to occupy some time & give you something to do.

Weekend re-recap

Went to Bama to visit folks. Sister’s belly is growing bigger..saw all the baby stuff she’s bought already and it let me know at that moment that I’m still not ready for all this. Sunday hung out with a buddy at Atlantic station dranking wine all night…Monday chilled at the crib being a Orny couch potato

By Atl Lady

September 2, 2008 11:12 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All Weekend round up. Let’s just say I sinned. I ate too much and drank even more. I hadn’t had so much fun in a long time. Father’s side of the family had their reunion this week and just enjoyed myself immensely. Went to Selma, Alabama for a day to spend time with relatives on my mom’s side. Ate and drank there too. Got my brother to drive me home.

On Topic I don’t mind hand holding on the first date, but after we’ve spent more time together some acts of affection are welcome. It depends on where we are in the relationship.

Off Topic @ Atl Guy. The reason why it’s such a big deal to some is the hypocrisy factor. One of the platforms that a lot of Republican leaders love to run for office on is being morally correct and sound. They claim to be against a lot of things because it’s against the Bible and Christianity and there’s no room for too much else. However, they have the same problems that everyone else has with their kids. Cheney’s daughter is openly gay. Bush’s kids got busted multiple times for under-aged drinking. Throwing rocks at Clinton and the Democrats, but has skeletons in their own closets. Frankly speaking, I believe the rumor that Palin’s youngest child is really her daughter’s. It’s not the first time in history that a mother tried to cover for her daughter.

By Leggs

September 2, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

First, GMA reported that McCain was very aware of her daughter’s pregnancy. Think about it. How could he not have been. Of course, Mrs. Palin told him!

Funny you post that BK. My daughter’s b-day was this past Friday (14) and yesterday the boy next door comes over to wish her a happy b-day. Later on that evening all the kids are playing in the cul-de-sac and he rings my bell asking is she can come out. She quickly changes clothes and goes outside. He’s the one I’m gonna watch!

Monkey Bread is a pastry. This is how I made it:

1 Bundt pan 4 cans of 10 mini biscuits (40) (although I only used 30 yesterday) 1 cup of brown sugar 1 cup of white sugar 1/2 cup of cinnamon 1/2 stick of butter

Cut biscuits into four. Mix cinnamon and sugar in plastic bag. Place biscuit pieces in bag and shake (not all at the same time). Stack entirely around bundt pan.

In small pot put butter and brown sugar. Stir until sugar and butter hs melted. Pour over your cinnamon/sugar coated biscuits and bake for at 350 degrees for 45 mins. Viola Monkey Bread!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

September 2, 2008 11:15 AM | Link to this

ABC You know if Obama’s daughters were old enough to get pregnant they would have a field day with it and call her a Baby Mama. But because it’ not his daughter being hot in the azz, its a personal matter and should not effect the political life of her mom. Sounds like a white wash to me! LOl

Poppa 8 1/2 months of this..I would shoot myself! LOL

By Poppa Grande

September 2, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this

Cee

got dangit, PoppaG, i and some other women are not vindictive!

LOL, that’s why I said some to begin with. However, it is a stereotype of women just as men being dogs is…lol

ATL

Rush and O’Reilly have said things similar to Melo’s 11:06 post. If she is getting blasted by them.

By Barbara

September 2, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

I had a first date last weekend and it was wonderful. He was so respectful and kind, when entering his SUV, he held my hand to help me enter and exit the vehicle and as we walked he kept his hand in the small of my back. It was sweet and I didn’t mind the tounch and feel of this man. When you’re attracted to a person and they feel the same, hand holding and polite touching is the icing on the cake. On the other hand, when you’re not really into a person and its just a going through the motion situation, then its creepy and unwanted.

By Poppa Grande

September 2, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

Poppa 8 1/2 months of this..I would shoot myself! LOL

First I tore some ligament in one ankle (really bad..I still have screws in it) and then I torn an ACL of the other leg. It really stunk.

On the good side of it, my biceps and triceps got very big and defined from the use of the crutches.

By ATL Guy

September 2, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

ARED thats awesome! Sports Marketing is way cool. My degree is Business Marketing and work for a tech company right now. You have any positions in Sports Marketing!?!? Haha, I would do amazing in that field!

By MELO

September 2, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

when entering his SUV, he held my hand to help me enter and exit the vehicle and as we walked he kept his hand in the small of my back. HAHAHA….dont be flattered,if i were you.You small back is sensitive and he’s working his way,slowly..to ur inner thighs…he smart!

By AmazonRed

September 2, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

You have any positions in Sports Marketing!?!? Haha, I would do amazing in that field!

ATL Guy, remember, my field is a lot of fun and a lot of perks, but not a lot of pay! I don’t think you could maintain the lifestyle you are currently accustomed to on my salary. LOL

But yeah, it’s cool. I get to go to the NCAA Tournament/Final Fours and go to a lot of bowl games. I went to the Orange Bowl in January and froze my arse off!

By Chelle

September 2, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

The same thing just happened to me! After dinner (our first date) he held my hand in the car on the way home. I was also thrown, but I thought it was nice. The question is, is he doing this because he likes YOU or because he’s very affectionate with everybody?

By Blue_Kolla

September 2, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

Cee got dangit, PoppaG, i and some other women are not vindictive!

Yeah right.

Leggs …and he rings my bell asking is she can come out. She quickly changes clothes and goes outside. He’s the one I’m gonna watch!

I’ve had a couple of chicks tell me that it’s the teen females that are the aggressors, but I hadn’t really paid it much attention. So I see my boy can’t put that damn phone down all weekend, so I’m like, “Pass it over.” …thinking to myself: good time for a check-up, see what my man is up to.

So I’m reading the texts and I’m like dayum youngin’. I gotta admit, I was a little surprised at some of the things that these little girls were saying to dude. So I ask him who all these broads are. So he’s like a couple from home, and the rest from here. So then I’m like, “Well dayum yo, you ain’t been in this camp long enough to be rollin’ like that!”

So I told him, “You don’t need to be out here sexin’, but if you gon’ be dumb, don’t be stupid,” at which point, I proceeded to cut into my condom stash, and told him to make sure that he stays prepared.

My only question now is do I do the responsible parent thing and call up the parents and tell them how much of a freak their little babygirl really is? …’cause I know that she’s gon’ lie and they ain’t gon’ believe me.

By Chelle

September 2, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this

The same thing just happened to me! After dinner (our first date) he held my hand in the car on the way home. I was also thrown, but I thought it was nice. The question is, is he doing this because he likes YOU or because he’s very affectionate with everybody?

By Last Word

September 2, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this

MAKE UP YOUR MINDS!

By Chelle

September 2, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this

The same thing just happened to me! After dinner (our first date) he held my hand in the car on the way home. I was also thrown, but I thought it was nice. The question is, is he doing this because he likes YOU or because he’s very affectionate with everybody?

By Poppa Grande

September 2, 2008 11:44 AM | Link to this

Leggs

I remember my grandma used to make monkey bread and tea cakes quite often. Moreso in the winter with her tea or coffee but she made them alot.

By ATL Guy

September 2, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

ARED I hear ya. VP of my company dropped of the NCAA Basketball tickets to me last year for the Semi Finals in the Dome and Finals in the Dome. It was Awesome! So I’m drinking crown and coke cola with my friend before jumping on MARTA. The train stops right before N. Ave station. We’re waiting there for like 20 mins. At this point I really need to take a p** (because of all the crown and coke I drank) so I’m looking around like “where on this crowded MARTA will I take a P**!?” Haha! Desperate times! Held out long enough then stopped by a Hotel to let it flow! Rough situation though, not knowing how long you’ll be waiting for!

By abc

September 2, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

Regarding speculation that Mrs. Palin’s Downs baby is also her daughters, melo: the baby is 5 months old, her daughter is 5 months pregnant. Do the math.

ATL_Guy, not aborting the baby would be a Christian moral issue for the Palins, they’re Pentecostal, Assembly of God, I think. Family Values would have more to do with being there for the family rather than becoming consumed by a job such as Vice President.

Mind you, I’ve been pretty sure I was voting for McCain. His VP choice is giving me pause. She’s also the one who wanted to go banning books in the Public Library when she was mayor due to language in them. The press on Palin is getting pretty thick.

By Leggs

September 2, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

I went to the Orange Bowl in January and froze my arse off! Was it worth it???? I can’t get with cold weather!

By Cemeeli

September 2, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

Cee now attempting to lash out at PoppaG, because she does not want to be a work today!

…today im the chic @ Burger King that really don’t wanna be there.

PoppaG nah bruh, you said all women are vindictive? Why would you say that?

sneaky grin

By Poppa Grande

September 2, 2008 11:49 AM | Link to this

BK

I’e heard that too from some of the Little Bros. The girls are aggressive and competing for the guya and each girl ups the ante.

Meanwhile, the boy sits back and takes it as it comes. No real pursuit has to take place for the boys.

AS one little bro told me “it little comes to me…”

By AmazonRed

September 2, 2008 11:49 AM | Link to this

My only question now is do I do the responsible parent thing and call up the parents and tell them how much of a freak their little babygirl really is? …’cause I know that she’s gon’ lie and they ain’t gon’ believe me.

BK, it really depends on the mama. I’d want to know, but then again, I’d be snooping thru my kids stuff with no shame. So hopefully I’d know I had a hot to trot kid!

How old is your son?

By Dan

September 2, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

As the gentleman that I am, I will hold a woman’s hand in situations that are necessary (crossing the street, walking in a really crowded place, as she gets out of the car, etc.).

When doing this, the refrain is “why’d [you] let go so quickly?” And Blanca post is the reason. While it’s my duty while in my presence to protect you (to a certain degree), to avoid being “that dude” I’ll forgo any other contact once the protection is no longer necessary.

But in an effort to avoid further confusion, I’ll send out the warning to the brothers that are still dating, that physical contact is to be intiated by the woman. Let her reach for your hand while the car is coming, so you don’t end up as “that guy”

By Dan

September 2, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

@PG

And where do you suppose the little ladies are getting those habits from?

By Poppa Grande

September 2, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

AR

Even though the Orange Bowl is in Miami, it was still January and there is the potential for a chilly snap.

I’ve spent a number of New Years Eve/Days on South Beach & some have been warmer than others. You just gotta be prepared. One was as warm as 87 degrees and another was as chilly as 55 degrees.

By Leggs

September 2, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

BK, I check my child’s text msgs every couple of days. Her phone stays in my room at night, every night. I’m on her myspace page regularly. What I’ve done with these fast a$$ girls is call them on their text msgs and their behavior. Told them first time is a warning from me, next time it will be chastisement from their parents. Oh don’t get me wrong, I’m watching my little one as well.

By MELO

September 2, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

the baby is 5 months old, her daughter is 5 months pregnant. Do the math. Assuming that is true….. I luv the press she is getting tho…the convention might just get drowned out by this Plin trash……and with that,Mccain’s message.

By mytwocents

September 2, 2008 11:55 AM | Link to this

Blanca, sweetie, if you can’t verbalize a desire to hold off on the hand-holding, how do you deter them from breast grazing, hip holding or panty peeling? It’s okay to be vocal bout your boundaries and in fact, much more courteous. That way you’re vindicated (PG, that’s for you) should you be forced to take further measures to get your point across. As for me - I. Need. My. Space. But welcome those who make me not want it.

BK There really need not be a tongue related exchange of any kind when you ain’t quite or are pretty damnn sure there ain’ no fire in that hearth. At least I’m foolish enough to believe so… But I got some faulty thinkin folk who say otherwise when I’m stuck. Thinkin and why come there was a taste test if s/he ain’t excite yo palate in the first place?

MamaL Are you part of the couple in front of me that I wanna go ahead & book the honeymoon suite for? Lawd!

It’s suspect of them to stress how far along the girl is supposed to be. Clearly to dispel the previous rumor…and even if both camps take ‘the high road’, our beloved media will not & the saga will continue.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

September 2, 2008 11:55 AM | Link to this

Poppa You knwo I am sitting here trying to figure out how to work out while injured. I got it now..I can do weights, no squats or cardio. But at least I can get something done. That fear of fat got a sista’ going nuts over here! LOL

By AmazonRed

September 2, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

Was it worth it???? I can’t get with cold weather!

Leggs, it’s my job. I had to go. Besides, the Orange Bowl is in Miami. Who knew it would be 32 degrees that day? LOL.

It’s all worth it. I’ve seen some amazing and historic games in my lifetime. The energy in the crowd and on the field is one of the best feelings in the world.

By ATL Guy

September 2, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

ABC you are right, this is an interesting choice. From what I know about her, she does seem very pro-active and would be interested in enhancing the country rather than cap on her own interests. Truth will come out about this D.S. 5 month old child. I mean you can’t really cover that up, people would know if you were pregnant or not. Regardless, its hard to judge her by saying she’s too involved with her job to care for her family. Doubt thats the case. Obama will be consumed with his job and be away from his young daughters all the time!

Truth is…we won’t be talking about this next month. Its really not that relevant. I personally care more about the issues that will affect the country rather than her daughters actions with her b/f.

By Leggs

September 2, 2008 12:01 PM | Link to this

Staceye, why at the b-day party the first thing the host said to me when se saw me was “damn your a$$ is finally growing!” Oh boy!

BK, why did some boy tell my child she’s the prettiest girl in the subdivision. When she told me that I said don’t believe him. For one thing he doesn’t know every girl in the subdivision and for another, he’s flattering you for the kill. She and I both laughed. After laughing told her I was serious!!!

By Cemeeli

September 2, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

Blue…Lol. Bruh, you say we’re all malicious?

Cee now looking around the back of her moniter all funnyfaced…It caint be Blue going the way of a Bitter Bish…

lemme reboot my joint. when my joint comes back up imma be looking for you to bring me sumthin’ top shelf and restating that mess.

By Leggs

September 2, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this

Never been to a football game, but I hear about the “energy of the crowd” a lot.

By Dan

September 2, 2008 12:06 PM | Link to this

I will ask you ATL Guy and ABC the same question that I asked Jim Wooten (that somehow got lost):

If this were Barack Obama’s daughter would your “privacy concerns” prevent you from attacking him as a lackluster parent, not fit to lead as he can’t control his own family?

Or is it just Republicans that have kids out of wedlock, gay trysts, and flings with prostitutes.

By outahere

September 2, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

Look, it does not take that long to know if you like someone or not. If it takes you weeks to figure out whether or not you want him to hold your hand, you should ditch the relationship and look for one where you KNOW you like the guy. Maybe you are looking lifestyle things he possesses first? Car, job, etc? Just find someone you like. Otherwise you will be 47 before you get married. Don’t laugh, many women are getting married at 40 these days.

By abc

September 2, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

I don’t know Atl_Guy, now this story about wanting to ban books while mayor, the McCain campaign is about to lose my vote.

This is the worst Presidential election season, as far as the candidates are concerned, that I can recall.

By Cemeeli

September 2, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this

My only question now is do I do the responsible parent thing and call up the parents and tell them how much of a freak their little babygirl really is?

Blue Now you know first when you mention any of the freakness the child has said/text to your nephew, the parents are going to be in denial about their Angel. But regardless of that, the right thing for you to do is go ahead and tell the parent. If later on down the line baby girl is pregnant then they can never say they didn’t have prior warning.

whew…i have a fast one in my family and she learned her lesson with that sassy foolishness

mytwo How the heck are ya?

By AmazonRed

September 2, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

Never been to a football game, but I hear about the “energy of the crowd” a lot.

Leggs, I probably get hyped about it because I never played organized sports and probably should have! Being a freshman and going to the football games in college were some of the most exciting times of my college career. I’m sure your daughter gets a rush hearing the roar of the crowd when she zooms around the track.

I bet Poppa Grande can speak on that euphoria when they are in the tunnel and rush out onto the field. That was my absolute FAVORITE part of all the Falcon games I went to when I used to work with the team. I wonder what it’s like to actually do it, instead of just watching it.

By Bit-O-Hunny

September 2, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

Weekend recap went home (B’ham, AL) to spend time with family and friends who were also home for the holiday. Drank more Merlot than I probably should have and totally indulged in pizza of all things, but had a wonderful time. No regrets whatsoever.

On Palin the 5-month old is her daughter’s child. That’s obvious. Is it material to her candidacy for VP? Yes and No. It sounds like there is a whole hella lot going on at home, can she afford to run the country and loose her family? For those supporting the McCain/Palin ticket can you sincerely say that you have no doubts about her leadership abilities? I mean, you can pretty much count McCain dead in the next 4-7 years and she’s the leader? If that’s what people w