Misadventures in Atlanta

By SlimOne

September 4, 2008 8:26 AM | Link to this

Good Morning

I haven’t dated a friends ex so I guess I’ll sit back and read everyone elses experiences.

I can’t wait till Saturday. Anybody else going to the UFC at Phillips this weekend?

By East Point's Own

September 4, 2008 8:43 AM | Link to this

Well I would not care if one of my friends dated an ex of mine, but I would have to question his sanity if he wants a chick with known defects… LoL ( there is a good reason she is my ex )

By M'Karyl

September 4, 2008 8:48 AM | Link to this

@East P

I with you on that one…if the person is a designated “ex”, then there must be a very good reason…lol…only a fool would throw away gold…but pyrite can hit the trash…lol

By HoneyBun

September 4, 2008 8:48 AM | Link to this

Morning, i never dated a friend’s ex but i’ve had sex with an ex of 2 friends.

By China Doll

September 4, 2008 8:57 AM | Link to this

My friends ex’s, sibling ex’s, relatives ex’s, etc. are NEVER an option for me in the dating/sex realm.

By East Point's Own

September 4, 2008 9:01 AM | Link to this

I can say that one time and one time only a very close friend hooked me up with his ex because he thought that she and I were better for each other, and it was clear that they broke up on good terms for a very specific reason. And it was not a negative reason per se.

By Sasha Two Pistols

September 4, 2008 9:22 AM | Link to this

I’ve never dated a friend’s ex, and I don’t think I will either. Me and my friends have different tastes when it comes to men, so I wouldn’t even be attracted to a guy that they like in the first place.

And about getting older, I know back in highschool times this was a stern no-no. And I think it still sticks, but you do find a lot of older people who tend to bend this rule. I know I met a couple who were in their 80s and got married just a few years ago. He was actually the brother of his new wife’s deceased husband, go figure! So I definitely think when you get older the rule becomes more relaxed.

By Sasha Two Pistols

September 4, 2008 9:23 AM | Link to this

I’ve never dated a friend’s ex, and I don’t think I will either. Me and my friends have different tastes when it comes to men, so I wouldn’t even be attracted to a guy that they like in the first place.

And about getting older, I know back in highschool times this was a stern no-no. And I think it still sticks, but you do find a lot of older people who tend to bend this rule. I know I met a couple who were in their 80s and got married just a few years ago. He was actually the brother of his new wife’s deceased husband, go figure! So I definitely think when you get older the rule becomes more relaxed.

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By Foots

September 4, 2008 9:34 AM | Link to this

I dated a friend’s ex in high school, 11th grade. Terrible experience and it nearly broke up our friendship. I did ask her if it was okay and she told me it was, I took her word for it, but she lied. It took us about three years to get back on track as friends.

Another friend dated a guy I used to date in college. She asked me how I felt about it when he asked her out and I honestly didn’t care. I was happy that she was happy. They lasted a good two years. I thought they would have ended up married.

There are a few exes of mine that are off limits and same for my friends. If I went out with a guy a few times and thought he might be better suited for my friend, I’ll try to hook it up. But men with whom we’ve had long-term relationships? No, those are off-limits. There’ll never be a shortage that would require me dating a friend’s long-term ex.

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

September 4, 2008 9:41 AM | Link to this

Good morning, I’ve never dated a friends ex, there are certian lines you just don’t cross.

By Blue_Kolla

September 4, 2008 9:42 AM | Link to this

Date my boy’s ex?! Hayo Naah! LMAO We all know that our women have been hit by at least one other dude and have performed f****** on at least one other dude, we just don’t want to know that dude; at least me anyway. That’s how fights get started. Check these scenarios:

I’m at a cookout with my potna, my girl (which is his ex-girl), and some other peeps… I don’t want him thinking, “Yeah I used to hit that,” all with a snide grin on his face; ‘cause personally if the situation were reversed I might be thinking the same thing.

Conclusion: Dating your friend’s ex, big NO-GO!

By Dan

September 4, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this

I’ve had friends that knocked my garbage bin.

But I don’t play that route (with actual girlfriends) now cut buddies are fair game.

But Man Law #73: the homeboy must be notified prior to the act (even if it’s immediately prior).

By AmazonRed

September 4, 2008 9:52 AM | Link to this

Morning everyone. I enjoyed the RNC last night and Palin and Gulianni’s “yo mama” jokes. LOL

I’ve never dated a friend’s ex. Heck most of my non married friends have terrible taste in men.

I had a friend date my ex, wait, actually I was still dating him, so yeah, that one didn’t end well.

By ATL Guy

September 4, 2008 9:54 AM | Link to this

My first g/f when I was in 8th grade…seeing this girl and I played Select Soccer so would travel all the time for tournaments when I was younger. We broke up cause I was gone every weekend. My bestfriend starts seeing her, remember we’re like 13 at the time! We got in this fight over it. At that point, he’s like “I was wrong, you’re my boy, I ditched her…Bros before Hos”

Learned early, Man Law should never let you go after your Boyz ex. Too many women out there anyways!

By Blue_Kolla

September 4, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

HoneyBun Morning, i never dated a friend’s ex but i’ve had sex with an ex of 2 friends.

You ain’t the only female walking around with these credentials. LOL

Dan But Man Law #73: the homeboy must be notified prior to the act (even if it’s immediately prior).

Notice how far down the list that is? Long-term, short-term, sidepiece, booty-call, don’t matta… I don’t go behind dudes that I know.

By Atl Lady

September 4, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All I think this is going to be one of those topics that almost everyone is going to say it wasn’t me. I’m like everyone else so far. I’ve always gone by the you’re my girl’s ex and we tight so no rule. Every incident that I know of that it has happened, the trust from the friendship/relationship was diminished.

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

September 4, 2008 10:02 AM | Link to this

BK It has to be an odd feeling smashing a female that your buddy used to smash, and what does that say about the lady?

By Dan

September 4, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

@BK

You trying to tell me that you’ve never had that one night, that one girl, with all the homies….

Plus, realistically, you’ve probably gone behind some dude you know anyway…The A ain’t that big…

By kimmie

September 4, 2008 10:05 AM | Link to this

Good morning Blog Fam

I would not WANT any of my friend’s exes! Yuck, they have TOTALLY different taste in men and yeah, they are EXES for a reason anyway! Goodness, when I think of some of them now I want to puke - so no! Would not do it anyway, and none of my friends have done it to me (that I know of).

Blue Kolla - You are hilarious, I was picturing in my head everything you wrote! Loved your post!

By iMISSu

September 4, 2008 10:08 AM | Link to this

mood today giddy and all. ;-)

there’s a rule, no ex’s! i thought ev1 knew that.

MLL, atl lady, errbody … morning.

By SlimOne

September 4, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this

Blue_K I’ve always heard that’s how it goes with dudes. I’m sure you know chicks can be real freak-a-lics, so having flashbacks of when the chick did a triple aixle off the balconey onto his dizzle is reason to fight…especially if ole dude start laughing to himself or saying shyt like, “Yeah me and ole girl definitely had some good times. She a wild girl.”

Dan Man Law #73: the homeboy must be notified prior to the act (even if it’s immediately prior).

Friends Ex Girl: Ohhh, I always wondered how endowed you were, even when me and yo boy was kickin it.

Dudes Friend: Dayum girl. You sexy as hayo…and that cat is lookin right and ready for me.

ExGirl: I can’t wait to just li, li, li, lick you like a lollipop.

Chick now proceeding to get on her knees

DF: I knew you was a freak. But I got something to do first tho. I gotta make this call.

ExGirl: you gotta make a call now?! well don’t mind me, I’ll jus be down here.

DF: mmmm…ohhhh Hello? Eh mayne.

ExBestFriend: What up dude?

DF:……

EBF: Hello? You aight ova there man?

DF: Oh, my bad dawg. Jus callin u cuz we go way back…ooohhh dayum girl

EBF: Yeah we do go way back. What’s this about and why it sound like you running water or something?

DF: mmmm shyt, you got the wetmouf girl! Oh, yeah. thats what i was callin u bout. You know that chick you were wit for about 3 years that had you all wide open?

EBF: Yeah?

DF: Well, since we cool like dat…aaaaahhhhh…Oh my bad. Um…well you over all dat right?

EBF: Yeah? Man whaddaflugg you tombout?

DF: I’m glad you finally ova dat shyt dawg. but um…..Sshhhh, girl you gonna make me buss fore I get a chance to get the ok….What was I sayin? Oh! Well I’m bout to get with ole girl. I see why you were so fugged up over her. Dis girl is da shyt! So we still cool, right?

EBF: Still cool?..You must got me fugged up dude

DF: aight baby, I’m bout to tear dat azz up… (DF just hears “still cool” and hangs up)

EBF: Hello? Hello?

ExGirl: So what he say?

DF: oh he said it was cool and to fugg you up good. Now were we?

By AmazonRed

September 4, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

so having flashbacks of when the chick did a triple aixle off the balconey onto his dizzle is reason to fight

I hate SlimOne with every fiber of my being. LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!

By Blue_Kolla

September 4, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

Dan You trying to tell me that you’ve never had that one night, that one girl, with all the homies….

Nope, ain’t neva been the kind of dude to be in on runnin’ no trains. I don’t like ho’s and I ain’t hardly tryin’ to see some other dudes dyck.

Plus, realistically, you’ve probably gone behind some dude you know anyway…

Now that’s a real possibility, however, a small one. First b/c I don’t keep a gang of friends; secondly, like I said I’m traveling for my broads. Most cats are lazy, they want the broad down the street.

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

September 4, 2008 10:20 AM | Link to this

hey there iMISSu, what/who’s got you all giddy and all?

By jazzyone

September 4, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

Dan All the women in ATL don’t lay up and fugg everything that walks with 3 leggs..stop it….not all of us have a million miles on us with contributions from you or ya boys. Seriously….

By Blue_Kolla

September 4, 2008 10:28 AM | Link to this

Slim *so having flashbacks of when the chick did a triple aixle off the balconey onto his dizzle is reason to fight

See…? You know exactly what I’m talkin’ ‘bout; especially with this part right here ===> …especially if ole dude start laughing to himself or saying shyt like, “Yeah me and ole girl definitely had some good times. She a wild girl,” ‘cause you know that a clown is trying to be slick. LOL

By Atl Lady

September 4, 2008 10:30 AM | Link to this

Morning imissu

By Cemeeli

September 4, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

Morning All!

Atl Lady…:)…wun me either. Not dating a friend’s ex. But for some reason i’ve had a few inappropriate passes made from a friend’s man, AND a really bad move/pass from my (ex) guy’s cousin. had to do some snapping that wasn’t nice.

Alot of my friends are 5-10 years older than i, 1-2 of them are 12 years older. Their husbands or SO remind me of my uncles…and i don’t want anything close to Uncle Frank’s age. Lol they would kill me if they saw my post.

mytwocents/Blue

Morning Observation:

As i was driving in this morning, the car in front of me windows had some written painted. On the back window it read: Andrew -n- Carol “JUST MARRIED”, and on the bottom part of the trunk was “MOTEL or HOTEL BOUND”. I got over to the side of the car, and her window written smaller than what was on back was “getting incar service NOW!!”.

hmmm…did Cee almost pass out when i finally figure out what that meant? LOL I called a gf to find out what it meant!!! I ain’t never seen it like that before.

By iMISSu

September 4, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

slim that was your best right there gurllllll!!! too funny. lol.

MLL i received a e-mail last night. why they do that? dang.

By Cemeeli

September 4, 2008 10:35 AM | Link to this

Kimmie Hey sis.

imissu…giddy r u…Who’s getting a rose?

just sayin

By SlimOne

September 4, 2008 10:36 AM | Link to this

Blue_K I’ve been a witness to a dude doing that…especially at a party or something where dudes getting their drank & schmoke on.

By AmazonRed

September 4, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

Dan All the women in ATL don’t lay up and fugg everything that walks with 3 leggs..stop it….not all of us have a million miles on us with contributions from you or ya boys. Seriously….

LMAO. Good one, jazzyone.

By AmazonRed

September 4, 2008 10:48 AM | Link to this

Kwame Kilpatrick pleads guity and resigns. Another leader falls due to inability to stop chasing skirts. Pity.

By Foots

September 4, 2008 10:48 AM | Link to this

Blue Nope, ain’t neva been the kind of dude to be in on runnin’ no trains.

Good for you! That has GOT to be the nastiest, low-class, no-budget thing folks can do.

Dan So you trying to tell us that you have?

By kimmie

September 4, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

Hey Cee!

But for some reason i’ve had a few inappropriate passes made from a friend’s man - I’ve had this happen too and it is totally disgusting! One guy tried it twice with me, even after I cussed him out AND told my friend. She like a fool forgave him, even after he had the nerve to try it with her SISTER too! Since she had such a flip attitude about it, I didn’t tell her about the 2nd time until years later after she finally dumped him. Here I was all concerned, almost crying because I was so offended by his advance! That nut almost cost us our friendship. The Christian in me forgave her, especially after SHE ended up apologizing to ME.

By Dan

September 4, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

@Jazzy

Say what you will be every woman on here has that one dude in her past that she wishes she could take back, doesn’t count, or chooses not to remember.

The difference between men and women is that the guys don’t have those regrets.

@BK

Whatever dude.

Whether she from your town or outside of it, same rule as above applies. She done got down with some dude, somewhere, and did something like when the chick did a triple aixle off the balconey onto his dizzle that with somebody.

Whether you know him or not.

As far as the TT, I was never the in the room with any other cat, and was never the last cat in the door neither. But you know, we all grew up differently.

Some us more exposed to it than others

By Atl Lady

September 4, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

Cee ^5 that one. Why do old a$$ men you’ve known all your life think they have a chance to get you in bed?? Do they not know my dad and some of my uncles pack specific heat for just those occassions???

By Blue_Kolla

September 4, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

Cee “getting incar service NOW!!”.

Ohhh dayum. LOL Hey, well at least they starting off right. That’s what I’m talkin’ ‘bout.

Slim I’ve been a witness…

Funny thing about the truth, ain’t nothing funnier, nothing stings as much, and it’s the best game in the world.

By Dan

September 4, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this

@Foots

I learned a few things about women a long time ago:

You can’t get them to do anything that they don’t want to,

Each and every one has a freak in her, it just takes the right dude to get at it,

She gone do something nasty and blame it on the time, the alcohol, or the guy (even when it was full participation on her part).

So you can miss me with the judgement, dearheart, becuase the D apologizes not for consensual sex.

By AmazonRed

September 4, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this

Say what you will be every woman on here has that one dude in her past that she wishes she could take back, doesn’t count, or chooses not to remember.

Dan, I don’t. Never have.

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

September 4, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

imissu fill me in on the email.

Question: why do people say that they don’t have any expectations when they’re dating someone? Isn’t that the purpose of dating, expecting something to come out of it?

By Leggs

September 4, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

Good day everyone! Glad you’re giddy today, cuz I’m sleepy!

I’ve never dated any of my friends ex’s.

By SlimOne

September 4, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

On Trains And what happens if the first dude to go is Mandingo Dizzle, then here you come…just like trying to mix up bubble bath in a garden tub with a coffee stirrer. Just ain’t effective.

By Foots

September 4, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

Dan So you can miss me with the judgement, dearheart, becuase the D apologizes not for consensual sex.

Okay, then, how about you miss the ladies with your judgements also? They shouldn’t have to apologize for being freaks if that’s what they are, since it was consensual freakiness, right? And don’t matter what you say, trains are still gross.

By Dan

September 4, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this

@ARed

Sorry you and Foots only had the first and the last.

My fault for forgetting your sainted status…

By Blue_Kolla

September 4, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

Amazon Another leader falls due to inability to stop chasing skirts. Pity.

I always say, if you gon’ be dumb, don’t be stupid. When they asked him about it, he should’ve said what all the other smart, usually white criminals say, “I plead the 5th. Where’s my lawyer?” His only criminal offense is lying, the idiot.

By iMISSu

September 4, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

getting incar service NOW!!”

well … what ya gurl say?

By Leggs

September 4, 2008 11:04 AM | Link to this

Ok, help me out here. I always thought “running a train” was in no way consensual. You mean to tell me young idiotic girls want this? Tell me it ain’t so! Any dude who participates in such a thing is scum!!!

By AmazonRed

September 4, 2008 11:09 AM | Link to this

Dan, I don’t know what “only had the first and last” means. Please clarify.

And hardly “sainted status”, I guess on the flip you’re a w******* then? I’m not going for sainthood, I simply believe that sex shouldn’t be given freely and therefore always acted accordingly. How silly is it to criticize folks who just try to live their life right, in however way they deem “right” to be.

By Foots

September 4, 2008 11:09 AM | Link to this

Dan And what does “what you learned about women” have anything to do with your own actions? You saying that because some women are freaks, it justifies the things you choose to do? Why not do it just because you want to, without looking for the justification because of what some woman did?

By the way, I’m no saint, never said I was. I’m going to need you to miss me with the sarcastic judgement. Trains are gross to me They are not to you…so what? I can’t have an opinion? Like you said, we might not have been exposed to that growing up. But as you know, there is PLENTY of distance between sainthood and that.

By Atl Lady

September 4, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

Foots I thought the same thing. I have known that more than one girl was the resident hos for a particular fraternity. I have known girls to be targeted by frat boys only to be embarassed and outed immediately after the deed.

By m'karyl

September 4, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

Oh some of these comments are funny…Dan and BK…lmao…garbage bin…uh-huh…lol..and BK… true, convo might be like that…ARed…so did the friend become an ex too…lol.

By AmazonRed

September 4, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

Ok, help me out here. I always thought “running a train” was in no way consensual. You mean to tell me young idiotic girls want this?

Leggs - A train is consentual, if not, it’s gang rape. “Want” is reletive. I’d suspect any girl that consented to a train has either been abused or lacking some kind of acceptance in their lives to want to participate in these things. The guys promise popularity or being “down” with them, and some girls may crave this.

I had one acquaintence admit she’d been run train on and that she wanted it. But I know she’s had a history of sexual abuse as well.

By Poppa Grande

September 4, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

Good Morning to all…

I have no sympathy for Kwame…it goes back to the power and money thing in politicians. He had both and didn’t think about the people that he was supposed to represent. He can take that long walk off a short pier….

On topic

No. I concur with BK’s post including hypos…I’ve actually seen a couple of those happen scenarios.

Remember the movie Soulfood, and how Bird’s ex treated Bird’s husband in the job thing.

By Chink

September 4, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

Morning All

Dan

Say what you want but being a freak doesn’t mean to have the willingness to be have a train ran on you….

There is something wrong with that picture …no matter if you think its normal its not ..that girl needs help…. by playing your part you have just become part of the problem.

Because I bet we talking about kids “teenagers” cause I doubt you can get a grown adult to fall for a train theory…unless she getting paid for it.

Unbelievable to think that sort of behavior is ok!

By East Point's Own

September 4, 2008 11:15 AM | Link to this

Leggs Well I guess most guys walking around are scum by your book… LoL

And the girls… well there are a few types of trains: there is the drunken half passed out chick who gets down with a dude in a house full of dudes and after guy #1 leaves the room guy #2 enters.. and so on… she may on ocassion think that all the dudes were the same guy if she is drunk/high enough.

THen there is the freak who gets down with one dude, and asks for more.. if dude is done for the moment she will ask for his friends on the other room to come finish her off…

Then there is the chick who for whatever reason will do anything you ask her to do, so once guy #1 finishes he tells her to go do his friends and she does so.

Then there is the chick who might not be drunk or high but is just a freak and if its a room full of guys with nothing better to do she just goes to work.

Oh and lets not forget the chicks who have always secretly had a fantasy of being with multiple dudes at once,

And these are only the scenarios that don’t involve financial transactions… LoL

By iMISSu

September 4, 2008 11:15 AM | Link to this

ummmm dan, you just got hit in both! you ok?

By ATL Guy

September 4, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this

This Detroit Mayor is extremely stupid. I mean why jeapordize your career and everything you worked for!? He should have learned from Bill Clinton a thing or two about lying under oath. If clinton came forward straight away, he could have put it to rest. Also, Bill Campbell lying under oath as well and got nailed.

These people think they are above the system. I can’t understand how people can be stupid…

By jazzyone

September 4, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this

Dan not being a tripe w******* or permiscuous (sp?) does not equate to saint hood, Its called values and being raised in a way that deters that type of behavior. Selecting someone and learning thaey may not be the one for you is not a regret for me it was and is a learning experience and a part of growth. Not w*******-ish-tripe t**-ish shyt.

By Dan

September 4, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

@Foots

I’ve never placed value judgements on anyones sexual decision, except when they decide to take that choice from someone else.

Must have me confused with someone else.

By Chink

September 4, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

Leggs

Uh I have equated trains with rape ..because there is no way that sort of behavior is wanted as a “child”.

Don’t mistake consent with intimidation…

I am so against this stuff it hurts my heart …I know what its like to have no voice while I am being abused…

By Cemeeli

September 4, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

I’ve had this happen too and it is totally disgusting! One guy tried it twice with me, even after I cussed him out AND told my friend.

Kimmie you know what’s sadder is when you are leaving a gf home and your walking out of the garage and the guy rolls up and say sumthin ‘jacked up’ and here you’re thinking what made him think it is okay to approach and say such? A compliment is okay when said appropriatly and while ALL are in company. But if you rolling shiesty and fowl..imma call out your MESS!! never lost a friend over the foolishness.

Atl Lady gurl, my uncles friends have said how “nice” of a lady i’ve become, more inappropriate that just “good gurl”. Then when my uncle come around i’ll say: Booker T what you said ‘bout 3 minutes ago? yea, cause my uncle with they selves can bring alot of expression to a sentence by the time they finish cussin him out. When i was a teenager my aunt dated this guy after her divorce for years, i’ll never forget how he was so nice to us 3 amigos (me and my 2 cuzs that grew up like sisters) we are 1-2yrs apart in age. As teenagers we would babysit the lil cousins…when we would sit for this one paticular aunt, her bf was always extremely nice to us. After having just so happen convo…we found out our aunt’s bf was trying to hit on all of us. The oldest cuz, when she turned 17 he bought her alclhol (Wine Coolers and Boones Farm) for her, she had a sneaky party at their house. To make a long story short, he was a pervert and wanted to see t** from my cuz. Luckily i was here in Atl. and only visited them over summer breaks. I told them he made a pass twice. I told them once i told him a few words he go it right. the older cuz actually was about to fight him during one of the remarks he made.

For what he did to us and some other mess he did to our aunt. My uncles ended up beating him in the long run. i’ll never forget that fight

By East Point's Own

September 4, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

Chink Not true my friend I have beet witness to grown women (over the age of 25) having trains run on them without the use of money or drugs…Some women don’t even become freaks until they hit 30… LOL

By m'karyl

September 4, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

Oh wow…so they finally jailed the mayor of Detroit…and he resigned…another one bites the dust…dayummm….I hope the nookie was good and such…since it was a very expensive piece and all…lol

By iMISSu

September 4, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

poppa, from yesterday:

What is a man to do, if the woman has acted as if he is doing ok? Open up your mouf, and tell dude.

i believe i said that in my post to you.

she should step up today and say what needs to be said. don’t want her to wait until after the wedding to say what’s up.

as i was reading your comment last evening (catching up), i received an e-mail from J. I’ve missed you for a long time Angie. It seemed like you wanted to be distant from me. I had no choice but to comply.Kiss how weird is that that your reply to me goes with his e-mail. i went to him on many occasions and told him what I wanted and how i felt. and many times i would let him go so he may come back when he’s ready for a relationship. after all that back and forth, nothing. that’s why i stayed distant … no booty, no calls, no IM. i broke it off 100%. sometimes it’s hard for women to see that there is really nothing there even with all of the lovey dovey feelings movin’ thru the body. that’s why we wait. sharon 2 years, me 18 months, and there’s another blogger who’s been waiting for sometime too. it’s hard because men are the ones who say when we marry. so we wait.

By m'karyl

September 4, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this

Poppa G

Do you know anything about Castle Domain Law in GA?? Someone I interact with on a website lives in Ambrose, GA and he is dealing with a situation where a man trepassed his property, the man was shot and the dude was arrested and charge with assault…but he mentioned something about the law and I did not know what it entailed…thanks.

By Dan

September 4, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this

@Foots, Jazzy, and ARed

You all can think whatever you want, doesn’t bother me. Remember we are each adults living our own lives, some with experiences the others do not have.

By freak, I freaky. I’m not placing a moral value on anything anyone has done that is not my place to judge others.

But since today, you all want to say that anyone that doesn’t fit into your idea of sexual intimacy is somehow wrong. You go ahead and feel that way.

Live your lives ladies in the manner(s) you see fit, I wish that you are each as happy and santified in your decisions as you seem to be.

But for me, I have never taken anything that wasn’t offered, and I am comfortable with my decisions in life.

There is only One that can judge me…and it nobody on this board…

By big O

September 4, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this

Ex’s of friends are off limits for long-term dating that is..I mean I think its fair game to have sex with someone’s ex, especially if the chemistry was always there to begin with.

I would not flaunt my friend’s ex in her face and then expect her to be all cool with it. I have had sex with my friend’s ex and she knew about it, in fact, she endorsed it. She is one of those one-in-a-million type of friends. Nothing aint’ coming between us (pun intended). She’s been my girl since 3rd grade. Ain’t no dyck, old or new gonna put an end to that.

By m'karyl

September 4, 2008 11:29 AM | Link to this

Funny…when I read BK’s post I thought about that scene from Soul Food also…cause it gets like that…and remember the scene in another flick when the sister told another chick that every time you kiss that man it’s my poonie you tasting…uh-huh…something to think about…one thing to not know the previous engagements, it’s another to be face to face with them.

By mytwocents

September 4, 2008 11:31 AM | Link to this

Don’t think I’ve ever heard of the same circle seduction when it wasn’t an unfortunate & misguided attempt for a woman to ‘show him’, incite jealousy or bring to his senses. Always unsuccesful in achieving any of those goals. Me-I believe in six degrees of separation so let’s keep it as close to the sixth as possible.

Since I miss the word skeezer… What kind of accommplishment is it to get a skeez to open up shop for you when she’s open to doing business w/ everyone else? Cuz when you know she ain’t discriminating bout her clientele that speaks volumes bout you too.

Cemeeli, Convicted VOYEUR They had to beat uhh beat traffic some kinda way. And be careful who you ask explanations from… You’ll end up w/ a live demo!

By Cemeeli

September 4, 2008 11:31 AM | Link to this

imissu getting incar service NOW!!”

well … what ya gurl say?..Chantell said it meant somebody getting or giving some oral.

By Dan

September 4, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this

@Angie

I got hit in what, and by whom?

I know better than to studin some “holier than everybody” people.

It’s whatever to me.

@Chink

No, mean NO. Always has.

So when the woman says “more” or “come here, Dan”. She’s given consent in my opinion.

By AmazonRed

September 4, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

you all want to say that anyone that doesn’t fit into your idea of sexual intimacy is somehow wrong. You go ahead and feel that way.

Dan, I absolutely DON’T feel that way. How is me saying “hey, I don’t have any guys I regret sexing” imposing MY views on anyone else?

It’s only when you fixed YOUR keyboard to say that “sainthood” nonsense is where I compare you to being a “wh0re” in return? You dished it, now you can’t take it? You wanna talk about judging, look in the mirror and miss me with the “saint” talk. Loser.

Do what makes you happy. If running trains and bringing out the “freak” in the ladies does it for you, enjoy! Especially since I don’t ever have to have sex with you. Guess my weeding out process works as intended.

By AmazonRed

September 4, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

not being a tripe wh)re or permiscuous (sp?) does not equate to saint hood, Its called values and being raised in a way that deters that type of behavior. Selecting someone and learning thaey may not be the one for you is not a regret for me it was and is a learning experience and a part of growth

And by the way, A-freakin-men, to this jazzyone.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

September 4, 2008 11:37 AM | Link to this

First of all..I don’t do sloppy seconds…why would I want to kiss or do a man that my frend has done? EWWWWW! It would be like doing her! No thanks! I have no desire to know what freaky things she did! How men have no problem going where his friend has been is beyond me!

Second, if a friend dated my ex…then she was and never will be a friend to me! She is cut from life! That is a deserate move. I know there is a lack of men…but is it worth destroying a real friendship over? My motto…bros over h0es! Menaing my true friends over a dude any day! Men come and go but real friends are until the grave.

Sasha the older couple you speak of have a different way of thinking. Back in the day during the war, buddies that were serving sometimes mad a pack with each other that if one of them did not make it home and the other was single that he is to marry the widow and take care of her. Plus at 80…trying toget to know someone new is more energy that they may have. And they only have a few more years of life anyway..why spend it alone. You’re old…I’m old…let’s see who dies first!

By Foots

September 4, 2008 11:39 AM | Link to this

Dan Regarding your whole 11:27

WOW! You really took offense to people saying that trains were gross, huh? Quite a well thought out and detailed response that clearly shows how comfortable you are in your decisions.

Also, thanks for the permission to have my own opinion about sexual matters and how I choose to live my life. But still, lay off the judgement. I see you threw another sanctified comment in there (Was that what you meant? I think you left out the c if it was).

Cee Not Boones Farm!!!! Boy, did I used to keep a bottle of that in the refrigerator my last two years of college! LOL!!

By Leggs

September 4, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

Ok, ok! Forget about wanting it. Poor choice of words. Yes, I was of the closed mind that “running a train” meant being raped. Thanks so very much for clearing those cobwebs from my brain EastPoint. WOW!

Chink, it hurts my heart as well. Sorry for you went through. It hurts that females actually disrespect themselves and ask for this type of behavior. This isn’t even low self-esteem. It cuts deeper than that!

By AmazonRed

September 4, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this

ARed…so did the friend become an ex too…lol.

M’Karyl - She certainly did. Not only that, but the guy only wanted her for recreation. She got rode hard and put away wet and in addition took a career hit. She was dipping in her work circle.

Messy trollop! LOL

By Poppa Grande

September 4, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

Angie

so we wait.

You don’t have to wait. You move on to get what you want even if it means that you get it from someone else.

I’m not saying that it is easy, but many things life that are worth having aren’t easy to come by.

Life is too short to waste it waiting on somebody else.

Sharon has lost 2 year of her life that she will never get back waiting on dude to comply with request that even she isn’t reinforcing. She can’t control other people, but she should have control over her actions.

Time is the only thing in life that we cannot replenish. Tummy tucks, lift and such just hides things, but it doesn’t give you more time.

You can lose money and then earn more. Once time is gone, it is gone. Since none of us know our “check out” time, we need to make most of the time that we have. Life is meant for living.

I tried that in and out stuff once with an old flame (a long time ago). She blocked my number on the phone and my e-mail address. There was no doubting where she stood. She said what she meant, and meant what she said. I learnt a lesson from that one.

By Dan

September 4, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

@ARed

I refer to you as a saint, you call me a wh0re.

Maybe considering that I’ve had sex with more than 5 people…guess I am

@Foots

Really, you hitting my spelling way to obfuscate the point….deflection as a tactic…I love it

By Foots

September 4, 2008 11:49 AM | Link to this

Dan I know better than to studin some “holier than everybody” people.

The judgements just keep coming from you. LOL!! And it’s funny how you never included Blue in your sainthood diatribe. Wasn’t it him who first gave the indication that he wasn’t the type of dude to run a train because he didn’t like w******* or like looking at other man’s privates, thereby implying that there was a type who did?? He doesn’t agree with them either. So why didn’t that make him a saint?

It’s whatever to me.

Yeah, hence your 11:27.

By Foots

September 4, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

Dan Really, you hitting my spelling way to obfuscate the point….deflection as a tactic…I love it

Actually, I wasn’t. I wanted to make sure I understood what you meant. You so senstive. So you did mean to judge me as sanctified??

By AmazonRed

September 4, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

I refer to you as a saint, you call me a wh0re

Actually Dan, reading is fundamental! YOU refered to me as a saint and I ASKED if you were a wh0re in comparison then. See the difference? Since it seems to be a slow day for you today. Probably not.

I can make my argument without judgement. Did you? Who brought up the “sainthood” in the first place? (you). Who refuted it? (me).

Step away from the keyboard until you are ready to read and COMPREHEND today. Thanks.

By East Point's Own

September 4, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

OK, OK let’s take rape, past abuse, and teenagers out of the equation. If a grown woman wants to get her freak on with more than 2 guys in one night why must she have low self esteem, no morals, etc, etc. Can’t folks just be freaks no more? What about swingers or people who participate in orgies? I mean you don’t know who participates in these activities I gurantee that some of the people we love and respect personally or on TV or in Govt. participate in such activities. Why do go to the extreme of calling folks all sorts of names if they have a more colorful sexual history that we do? its just sex people.

There are more important character attributes that people have which might in fact affect you. For example this is why Bush in in office now cause he campaigned on an anti gay marriage position.. how on earth was that the most important issue in America back in 2004?

By Dan

September 4, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

@ARed

I refer to you as a saint, you call me a wh0re.

Maybe considering that I’ve had sex with more than 5 people…guess I am

@Foots

Really, you hitting my spelling way to obfuscate the point….deflection as a tactic…I love it

By Chanel

September 4, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

I think this applies to a lot of people who get into shatty relationships cause they are thirsty/pressed for a man or a woman.

By mytwocents

September 4, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

Having known the women I know, it’s sad that bringing their dude’s antics to their attention has a 50/50 chance of backfiring, so in the couple of times a comment was a bit much, I just addressed it directly & limited contact.

Atl Lady Yeah, fam is real Squeeze 1st, ask questions last types so if a situation surpasses my realm of calm & reasoning, sorry for you…

By Poppa Grande

September 4, 2008 11:55 AM | Link to this

Mkaryl

Castle Doctrine…really revolves around self-defense in one’s own property.

“Self defense” being the most important part of it. You just mentioned a trespassing. Trespassing is a non-violence crime. Once you start talking about assault, battery, etc, then violence may be appropriate.

The main question will be revolve around who was the initial aggressor.

By AmazonRed

September 4, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

Quite a well thought out and detailed response that clearly shows how comfortable you are in your decisions.

The judgements just keep coming from you. LOL!!

Foot - Great points. Well stated and I agree.

Hypocricy abound today. smh

By m'karyl

September 4, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

@ARed Can we say Classified Skank*…what is the saying about not crapping where you eat, so to speak…I have always preferred to keep my personal activities out of the work place…period…especially if it is, to quote Right Rev. James Brown…”can we just hit it and quit”…lol…ppl, like her, get a dose of self in their Karma cereal…and still be stupid enough to fill up another bowl and then finish the box…lol

By Dan

September 4, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

@Foots

Considering that you judge everyone’s sexual life experiences that differ from your own as somehow less than. Then yeah, you’re extremely judgemental and sanctimonious.

You don’t see that?

Wow? Tells me a little more about you…

By jazzyone

September 4, 2008 11:59 AM | Link to this

Dan not judging you just speaking from the voice of a woman who yes Im a freak with my man, not anyone elses or all of ATL, dayum right. But im not loose a sleazy or tripe.

Since we were speaking of w******* and skeezah’s (yes the meories of that term) i wanted to stand up and raise my hand and speak from the non skeezah’ pleaser section thats all. Do you i don’t hate on your techniques with the chicks, your observations of trains or anything like that do you..just responding to your post becasue this is a BLOG.

AMRED we are <> I2I

By Foots

September 4, 2008 12:00 PM | Link to this

E. Pernt In the same vein, why do people go to the extreme of calling folks all sorts of heavenly names if they have a less colorful sexual history than they do?

By m'karyl

September 4, 2008 12:01 PM | Link to this

Poppa G

Thanks…I know that this is the defense he is using…but he did not make it clear whether or not he had been threatened by the man who trepassed his property…thanks, that helps me to better understand how it works…so if he was the agressor then he may well not have a case…got it.

By Dan

September 4, 2008 12:01 PM | Link to this

@ARed

I’m sorry, but when the topic turns to sex and you post I do kinda gloss over yours….

I mean really, how many ways can you say “not me”?

Why should I read them?

By East Point's Own

September 4, 2008 12:06 PM | Link to this

Foots Don’t try to bring me into this.. LoL We all know that in our society anybody who does anything different sexually than we are accustomed to are labeled as something “negative” until we try it and see how great it is.. then its ok… but you just can’t tell nobody about that, it was just that one time in Jamaica… LoL

By Foots

September 4, 2008 12:08 PM | Link to this

Dan You don’t know ish about me, so don’t claim that you do. You got all sensitive early this morning cause Blue pulled your card. When some stated their opinion, as is their right to do so, you started throwing out judgements of your own right and left to the women, while saying that you’d never do such a thing. Stating for the record, I could care less what you think of me. Your desire to explain yourself and your behaviors in your 11:27 shows that you feel the exact opposite way about us.

And with that, I’m done.

By AmazonRed

September 4, 2008 12:09 PM | Link to this

Why should I read them?

Dan - You shouldn’t, then! Hooray! Is that all it takes?

But then PLEASE don’t fix your keyboard to type a RESPONSE to me if you haven’t read the post! Just say, I’m ignorant and I want to demonstrate just how silly I can look to the entire blog and call it a day! Please save your sanctified judgements, hypocritical assesments and erroneous conclusions for posts you actually READ then!

I guess common sense ain’t so common. LOL

By Leggs

September 4, 2008 12:10 PM | Link to this

If you take those factors away then yes, a woman can get her freak on anyway she deems fit. What bothered me is: never mind. I’m done w/commenting on “trains.”

By Chink

September 4, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

East

I am dropping it after this..but on the outside looking in this could very well be addictive behavior (if we are talking about grown adults) alot of people go seek help for these very issues.

By Foots

September 4, 2008 12:16 PM | Link to this

E. Pernt Don’t try to bring me into this.. LoL

You brought yourself into it!! Don’t blame me! LOL!!

You’re right. There are plenty of people that believe that “missionary style” or monogamy is insanely boring and they wouldn’t even be bothered to slow down if that was all that’s offered to them. They are free to have their opinion too. Goes both ways like that.

Big Poppa Great post to Angie. That’s one for the wall.

By Dan

September 4, 2008 12:18 PM | Link to this

@Foots

Blue ain’t pulled nothing…nada. He was raised in a different environment than I, so to him I guess the TT is “gross”. Cool.

But really? You don’t ish about me… Who’s salty now..I know that I don’t know anything about you and likewise you don’t know me. But hasn’t that point been made ad naseum?..

That said, I’m stating my opinion on the slant and tenor of most of your posts, and while that’s how they read to me, again I don’t know you so why even respond? Just say that’s your opinion and you’re entitled to it.

Here, I’ll show you how…

@ARed

Ignorant? Moi?

I raise my points to share my life’s perspective concerning different topics. When they apply I post, when they don’t, I’m usually silent.

Again, like Foots, I don’t know you as a person, these are my opinions concerning your posts…that’s all.

Take ‘em or not, I don’t really care..

By East Point's Own

September 4, 2008 12:23 PM | Link to this

That is understandable, but if we are talking about adults again its our choice to decide that our actions/ addictions need to be treated. And again there are some people who just like that lifestyle. Unless you get to really know a person you will never know if they are just a freak or if they have under lying issues that need to be treated. But everyone who is into freaky stuff was not mistreated, abused, or otherwise harmed. Basically all that was said to say that we should not rush to label and or judge folks if we don’t know the whole story (which we often never will).

By AmazonRed

September 4, 2008 12:27 PM | Link to this

Dan - Gosh, you really are slow today. Now you’ve forgotten what ignorance means? I’ll get a few community service points today and help you out.

ignorance: displaying lack of education or knowledge.

When attempted to respond to a post you haven’t read, you are ignorant on the subject matter. Common sense would dictate that you’d read the post and then respond, therefore not being ignorant on the posted subject, but I guess that be too much like right.

In addition, if you ever fix your keyboard to state something that every woman does, like you know every woman (and you don’t) that’s also ignorance. Next time you speak on something every woman does, don’t. Stick to the women you know cuz clearly you only deal with certain types with low standards.

So keep doing ignorant thinks and yes, you could be ignorant.

Capiche?

By AmazonRed

September 4, 2008 12:27 PM | Link to this

Dan - Gosh, you really are slow today. Now you’ve forgotten what ignorance means? I’ll get a few community service points today and help you out.

ignorance: displaying lack of education or knowledge.

When attempted to respond to a post you haven’t read, you are ignorant on the subject matter. Common sense would dictate that you’d read the post and then respond, therefore not being ignorant on the posted subject, but I guess that be too much like right.

In addition, if you ever fix your keyboard to state something that every woman does, like you know every woman (and you don’t) that’s also ignorance. Next time you speak on something every woman does, don’t. Stick to the women you know cuz clearly you only deal with certain types with low standards.

So keep doing ignorant things and yes, you could be ignorant.

Capiche?

By Blue_Kolla

September 4, 2008 12:30 PM | Link to this

Dan …Whether you know him or not.

That’s exactly what I said with the caveat being that I don’t want to know him.

As far as the TT, I was never the in the room with any other cat, and was never the last cat in the door neither. But you know, we all grew up differently.

I’m an ace on the mound Joe, which means that I start and pitch a complete game… or I don’t play. I ain’t neva comin’ in to relieve no other dude. And you’re right about that growing up thing, diff’rent time, diff’rent place, and diff’rent people.

Foots And it’s funny how you never included Blue in your sainthood diatribe.

That’s ‘cause Blue for (1) aint’ no saint and (2) ain’t said jack about Dan-0’s personal exploits. I just commented on me and what I do/don’t do.