Misadventures in Atlanta

By SlimOne

September 5, 2008 8:22 AM | Link to this

TGIGP Thank goodness I gotta perm LOL (What’s YOUR TGI?)

Yes, I’ve been on a manbatical before. I started to feel like I was just spinning my wheels, especially when this one dudes FIANCE called me from his phone…and NO I didn’t know he was engaged.

By light and free Friday

September 5, 2008 8:36 AM | Link to this

It’s Friday, do you need a laugh??

What Religion is Your Bra?

A man walked into the ladies department of Myer’s and shyly walked up to the woman behind the counter and said, ‘I’d like to buy a bra for my wife. ‘What type of bra?’ asked the clerk. ‘Type?’ inquires the man, ‘There’s more than one type?” Look around,’ said the saleslady, as she showed a sea of bras in every shape, size, colour and material imaginable. ‘Actually, even with all of this variety, there are really only four types of bras to choose from .’ Relieved, the man asked about the types. The saleslady replied:

‘There are the Catholic, the Salvation Army, the Presbyterian, and the Baptist types. Which one would you prefer?’ Now totally befuddled, the man asked about the differences between them. The Saleslady responded, ‘It is all really quite simple.

The Catholic type supports the masses. The Salvation Army type lifts the fallen. The Presbyterian type keeps them staunch and upright. The Baptist type makes mountains out of molehills.

Have you ever wondered why A, B, C, D, DD, E, F, G, and H are the letters used to define bra sizes? If you have wondered why, but couldn’t figure out what the letters stood for? It is about time you became informed!

(A} Almost Boobs. {B} Barely there… {C} Can’t Complain!.. {D} Dang!… {DD} Double dang!… {E} Enormous!… {F} Fake… {G} Get a Reduction… {H} Help me, I’ve fallen and I can’t get up!…

Oh, They forgot the German bra. Holtzemfromfloppen

By G

September 5, 2008 8:42 AM | Link to this

I take chibatticals all the time. Oh…….a break from chicks. It clears my head, less stressful, and it’s saves me a load of money.

By kimmie

September 5, 2008 8:43 AM | Link to this

TGIAMHOTF - Thank goodness I am home on this Friday I’m not feeling the greatest, so thought I’d take a day. Just been running around too much anyway!

Yeah, I’ve taken a break from dating before, usually after a bad breakup. I took one for a year after Dad died, just to clear my head. I got a chance to see during his illness just who was there for me and who wasn’t. My friend-friends were always down for me. The “boyfriends” -not so much. Kicked them to the curb and just took a break. Really wasn’t planning for the break to last that long, but my current SO was worth the wait. Sometimes you do need to just chill for a minute, not like you have to make a formal announcement of your dating break. Just take care of you and your well-being.

By ATL Guy

September 5, 2008 8:52 AM | Link to this

Dating like its your Job… I like that! Sometimes people will need time out for sure.

My friend in L.A. spoke with me the other day. He asked who I’m seeing currently, etc. I came back with I’m seeing Nobody. Its weird to me cause I’ve always been in relationships and when I’m not, I’m dating all over the place. This year its been very chill. I’ve been focused on work and buying a place…dating has gone by the way-side. I’m always going out, but I’m not putting myself in a position to meet a g/f or anything. If I was looking and striking out, thats one thing, but I don’t think I’ve even been looking. This weekend, I’ll have to change that.

GO FALCONS! Fiesta Friday Everyone!

By Raqi

September 5, 2008 9:00 AM | Link to this

I am taking a manbattical starting today and it will last for the entire weekend. I told my husband just this morning to leave me alone, I’m ovulating.

I know there has to be some university televising a football game to keep him occupied tomorrow so that gives me the whole day to myself to go to the salon, Costco and then Walmart.

And Sunday after church I will meet my friends for brunch and the marido and I will meet up again somewhere around the Sunday evening hour.

Sounds like a manbattical to me. LOL

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

September 5, 2008 9:04 AM | Link to this

Good morning Good People TGIF!!!!! sure I’ve taken time off from dating, got to give myself time to breath between meeting different men with different personalities. To go from the hare to the turtle can be a bit over whelming.

By ATL Guy

September 5, 2008 9:07 AM | Link to this

Dating like its your Job… I like that! Sometimes people will need time out for sure.

My friend in L.A. spoke with me the other day. He asked who I’m seeing currently, etc. I came back with I’m seeing Nobody. Its weird to me cause I’ve always been in relationships and when I’m not, I’m dating all over the place. This year its been very chill. I’ve been focused on work and buying a place…dating has gone by the way-side. I’m always going out, but I’m not putting myself in a position to meet a g/f or anything. If I was looking and striking out, thats one thing, but I don’t think I’ve even been looking. This weekend, I’ll have to change that.

GO FALCONS! Fiesta Friday Everyone!

By kimmie

September 5, 2008 9:08 AM | Link to this

I see we’ve got some visitors today, though I don’t know if this is the blog for it all!!

By Voice of Reason

September 5, 2008 9:17 AM | Link to this

First of all “frost,” if you want to write all that, submit an op-ed and see if it gets picked up! Stay on topic. Now…

I am currently on a manbattical, as you call it. I already “know” myself, so it’s not that, or that I need more time for that. I began internet dating 3 years ago and, while I’ve met some nice guys (and a few jerks), the ones I’m meeting just aren’t for me. Either guys have no conversation [nice guy, but BORING; no money [58 years old and can’t even pay their car tag!], live too far away [logistically inconvenient] or are just so jacked from the ex!

I don’t want to be without a man forever, but I just needed a break. Also, all I need right now is companionship and cuddling, I’m presently NOT in the mood for anyone pawing all over me. All my married friends wish they were me—single—and I wish I was them—married. But yes, take your break from the dating scene.

By AmazonRed

September 5, 2008 9:19 AM | Link to this

Whoo hoo! Happy Friday everyone.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with taking a break if you need it.

I personally haven’t taken a sabbatical from dating myself. I’m pretty selective as is, so I still have plenty of “me” time to know myself and listen to my inner voice.

So I guess we won’t get any good dating stories out of you anymore Blanca!

By Blanca

September 5, 2008 9:19 AM | Link to this

“Frost” Really, dude? This is a dating blog. Take your spam to the appropriate place, like our political insider blog. All I’ve been trying to figure out how to handle these types of “comments.” I am all for political discourse, but I’ve been seeing these impersonal political diatribes popping up on ajcblogs the past few days and it smacks of spam to me. I have no problem deleting crude comments, but I don’t want to censor less offensive discourse. However…I am really not loving the feeling that proponents of either presidential candidate are spamming our blogs, dropping in long enough to leave an essay on their favorite candidate and then peacing out. Ugh. Suggestions? Or should Blanca just let it go…?

And then let’s get back to topic! =)

By Raqi

September 5, 2008 9:22 AM | Link to this

And I think I’ll wait around for the guy who meets my criteria, instead of hanging out with less-than-stellar others in the interim.

Blanca Let me ask you a question. How pray tell do you suppose this will happen and you are not dating? Do you suppose he will fall from the sky and say “Hey I AM the one”?

(Although my statement may seem a bit cynical that’s not my intention. I’m just ovulating.)

By ATL Guy

September 5, 2008 9:23 AM | Link to this

Voice I can’t say I’ve ever tried Internet dating…I know many getting into it. To me, seems really hit or miss. I meet girls out in Midtown / Buckhead and as soon as we start chatting…they get all into their issues! I’m like Whoa! Then I gotta find an escape route!

Where do you meet these online dates? Coffee spots!? Figured something more casual, less awkward

By MELO

September 5, 2008 9:25 AM | Link to this

Never ever went that route b4 in my entire lyfe.Woman(e) has alwayz tasted so goooooooood to me.If i wasnt seing someone seriously(rare,coz i kept a bunch on rotation), i alwayz had a take out,evry now and then,like when i went out to a club or some women infested event.Its criminal for any guy to go on these so-called manbattical and to neglect all these ladies who are desperate!! U always see that in the eyes of lonely chics in a crowded place. Give them what they want Guys..stand up and be counted!!

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

September 5, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday Ya’ll!!!

SlimOne for me its TGIAMB Thank God Its Almost My Burfday!

I am actually on the opposite end of a manbattical, I have been seeing a guy that is pretty cool. So far so good, so I am going with the flow and see how it goes.

By Blanca

September 5, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed So I guess we won’t get any good dating stories out of you anymore Blanca! Ha! Girl I’ve got an arsenal of stories just waiting to tell - maybe I’ll have to start dating again when I run out of those! ;)

By truthfully

September 5, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

FROST wrong place for that foolery

By AmazonRed

September 5, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

Blanca, just delete it. I guarantee you it’s repeated on all the blogs on the AJC. Besides, it’s WAY too long! (and you can delete this one too after you delete the other one. LOL)

By Blanca

September 5, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

Raqi I wondered if someone would ask that. What I mean is not going out with guys that I know don’t meet my expectations. And I think I can still get to know men even if I’m not dating them, so I want to wait to meet the guy (and that doesn’t mean a date with a stranger, could be more innocent than that) that I know has the same goals and values as I, and then see if a relationship is worth it.

By Teresa

September 5, 2008 9:45 AM | Link to this

Ummmm isn’t the blog about taking a Manbattical?

By Dan

September 5, 2008 9:48 AM | Link to this

Actually frost lifted that from talkingpointsmemo.com (saw the exact same letter yesterday)

ON Topic: I think taking a break from dating is fantastic. It gives you a chance to improve yourself. You get to read classic literature, learn a new hobby/skill, a get in touch with yourself on a spiritual levl.

I think that’s a way to focus yourself on the people that you allow in your life, as well. Who’s adding value, who isn’t (like Kimmie saw).

By Raqi

September 5, 2008 9:49 AM | Link to this

Blanca your response triggered a thought. sigh

Gang, what actually counts as a date? Can a guy and a girl venture out into a social setting and it not be a date? Is not any one on one meeting a “date”? “Hanging out” is really on a date. We are just so picky with our words these days.

Have we talked about this before?

(Not really that serious, just a thought)

By Dan

September 5, 2008 9:50 AM | Link to this

@Blanca

What are you goals and values?

Not a list of do’s and don’ts, but things you would want the man in your life to add to your own.

Can’t bake a cake without knowing the recipe and ingredients needed.

By SlimOne

September 5, 2008 9:51 AM | Link to this

Mo when Is your burffday?

By abc

September 5, 2008 9:51 AM | Link to this

I don’t know if I’d characterize it as focusing on one’s self. Sometimes it’s just nice to not have to deal with all the BS. Ignoring chicks for awhile certainly has that benefit.

By AmazonRed

September 5, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

What I mean is not going out with guys that I know don’t meet my expectations. And I think I can still get to know men even if I’m not dating them

Blanca, sounds like a good plan. However, if you are getting to know one of these guys and he asks you to dinner, wouldn’t that be a date? LOL.

From some of your posts, I think you should screen a little better or longer. You said you hate talking on the phone, but maybe some substantial phone convos will do you some good.

I always say I don’t “date strangers.” If we haven’t gotten to know each other on some personal level before the date, there is a greater potential for the date to go bad due to incompatability. There have been a couple guys who have pushed to got out before we’ve had real convo and all it does in the long run is get the door shown that much quicker. LOL

By Dan

September 5, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

@abc

What I’m talking about is improving on the design. Taking that time (post breakup or even a hiatus) to work on one’s self.

For me, I’ve always wanted to read the classic book list on the back of Cliff Notes. So in the times that I’m not seriously dating, I read one of those books (War and Peace bigger that Big Oprah).

It’s not a distraction or a way to avoid anything, to me it was a means to improve myself.

By Atl Lady

September 5, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

I took a manbattical for close to two years. I was examing what was in my spirit or persona that kept drawing the wrong type of men to me. I wanted a man that added things to my life like Dan said. In my twenties, I was just looking to for someone to build a future with who was willing to do the same and had a vision of such. I’m big on family so he had to at least like family. I wanted a Christian man, etc. Nowadays, I don’t know if the dating scene has just changed drastically, but too much is placed on financials. I mean everything from where you work, how much money you make, where you live, and what you’re driving. It’s ridiculous and I’m just not that deep into it. Too many men (and women too) these days I’ve run into don’t have their own pot to p$$$ in or a window, but hold the other person to that standard. I dated blue collar, white collar, and no collar (in college at the time). After awhile, it just makes you wonder.

By Leggs

September 5, 2008 10:07 AM | Link to this

Bah humbug!

By ATL Guy

September 5, 2008 10:07 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed do you consider yourself a Catch!? Sometimes perception is reality

By AmazonRed

September 5, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

do you consider yourself a Catch!?

ATL Guy, of course I do.

By Raqi

September 5, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this

It gives you a chance to improve yourself. You get to read classic literature, learn a new hobby/skill, a get in touch with yourself on a spiritual levl.

I have yet to understand this. How is it people are not able to better themselves with a partner? What’s with this I can only do it alone mindset? There is a balance. A true balance. I, Me and We.

My reasons for leaving the nature guy was he took more from me than he added. So yeah the “chance to improve yourself” does apply there. But when you have someone that is on the same path of growth as you are, you can accomplish great things together.

“I can’t get closer to God or learn anything else in life or about life because I am with someone.” Huh?

I have actually learned some very useful things from a mate or two. And have been encouraged to venture out and experience or take hold of some things by a mate.

By Leggs

September 5, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

Don’t we all consider ourselves “catches?”

PoppaG, nice list you gave yesterday!

By Honey Bun

September 5, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

FROST go some where and MELT

By truthfully

September 5, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this

frost you clearly are in the wrong place

By Raqi

September 5, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

Atl Guy Everyone is a catch. The question is “Am I a good catch?”

And only the person baiting the hook can truly answer that as it pertains to what they are looking to catch.

If I am fishing for bass a trout will not be a good catch for me and will get thrown back.

By ATL Guy

September 5, 2008 10:21 AM | Link to this

Leggs & Amazon too often, females sell themselves short. Think they can’t compete etc. Therefore, many believe they aren’t that great of a catch. Point is, everyone has their own issues. Way you present yourself will bring that energy back from others. If I meet a female with low self-esteem. Deal Breaker

By AmazonRed

September 5, 2008 10:22 AM | Link to this

Raqi, great job on your 10:13. I agree. Not only can you do those things with someone, but they can expose you to things you never thought you’d be in to.

By Demigod33

September 5, 2008 10:22 AM | Link to this

Dan That was some B.S. Bill pulled last night…Oh well.

Just waking up in the morning gotta thank God I don’t know but today seems kinda odd No barking from the dogs no smog And momma cooked a breakfast with no hog I got my grub on but didn’t pig out Finally got a call from a girl wanna dig out Hooked it up on later as I hit the do’ Thinking will i live another twenty fo’ I gotta go cause I got me a drop top And if I hit the switch, I can make the a$$ drop…

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

September 5, 2008 10:23 AM | Link to this

SlimOne Its next friday, Sept 12th! And like you TGIGP too!! It was looking mighty rough for a minute!! LOL!

By Dan

September 5, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

@Raqi

Even if you eliminate the job, the bills, gas and everything else we deal with everyday, adding building a relationship is a task in and of itself.

Getting to know the other person, spending time, and all the other perfunctory obligations of a new relationship - where do you have time to put in the work on yourself?

When do you get the time to just sit and be/get to know you? Answer: you don’t.

So I’m talking about ditching the friends for a couple of weekends, going to a cooking class on a weeknight instead of vegging in front of the tube…the kinda of stuff that is beneficial only to you.

By AmazonRed

September 5, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

too often, females sell themselves short. Think they can’t compete etc.

Well, ATL Guy, no worries about that here. But thanks for your concern.

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

September 5, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

desparate chick!?! WOW *melo I say for every desparate chick there’s a desparate man.

By Raqi

September 5, 2008 10:29 AM | Link to this

I used to go fishing with my dad. You get your catch based on where you fish, the type of waters and the bait used.

If you want the big fish you better realize the only swimming in that shallow safe aquarium is guppies. You gotta get out there in the deep water and brave the rapids.

By Demigod33

September 5, 2008 10:31 AM | Link to this

Raqi how long where you single between nature dude and your current dude for life? If I recalled, you had stop dating for a long period of time at one point

“Ain’t nobody talkin when I’m talkin fellas so shut the f/k up!”

To G or not to G, is the question And like Smith told Wesson I’m shady with the .380 old school diploma I’ll leave that a* in a coma, so If you got a herringbone, _Welcome to the Terrordome_ Two-eleven, sorry Reverend Oh my god, gettin robbed Reach for the small, “Atomic Dog” Hard to swallow, janky as Rollo Count to ten, and don’t try to follow Cause just like Waco, I can take fo’ — — ATF, to they death Bust a left on Western, go and get a room Don’t want to be a felon like Stacey Koon Get the right bish, hit the light switch, here we go Tap that a$$ like this - really doe

By Atl Lady

September 5, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

Cee Where are you with breakfast this morning? I’m putting up the groceries for lunch right now.

By Poppa Grande

September 5, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

PoppaG, nice list you gave yesterday!

Thanx! I don’t know how accurate any of it was, but it was impressions that I got from the blog ladies.

By Raqi

September 5, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

So Dan you feel that learning to cook by yourself has a better reward than taking a cooking class with partner or love interest?

Going to a seminar with a “friend” actually gives you someone to discuss your findings with.

By China Doll

September 5, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

Hey People,

It’s always good to take a break from dating, every now and then.

By AmazonRed

September 5, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

Thanx! I don’t know how accurate any of it was

PG, I’d have to say mine was right on point. Though with that description, I’m better suited to just have a good time with. Zoinks!

By ATL Guy

September 5, 2008 10:38 AM | Link to this

Raqi you are spot on. Thats with anything…have to put yourself out there to make it happen. Take a Chance. People say luck happens so often.

Luck by definition is when Preparation meets Opportunity…Something to consider

By Raqi

September 5, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

Demi I wasn’t in a relationship for a little over 4 years when I got with my current beau. But it was not an attempt to “better” myself.

And I did go out every now and then. Just nothing serious.

By m'karyl

September 5, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

Manbatical…lolX10…mayne…I have kicked in solo for such long periods of time…and I am so cool with it… and the older I get, the more I enjoy my unencumbered single zone…but I really do not date per se since 1986…just encounter someone…like to kick more, fine…do not like it, bye…but I have so much fun by myself, that I ain’t missing what ain’t worth it…period…funny, too, I guess it is not really an issue for me either because I still get flattering attention by way a conversations and compliments without needing more to be content.

Seriously, I really do believe that ppl need to have some time to recalibrate with the self introspection mode…time to evaluate, re-evaluate, redefine or reassess one’s self is important…find the center of self and such…it is a good measure of self development that encourages maturity and self-awareness…and I really do believe that taking time out from engaging in relationship pursuits or dating activities is essential if a person has dealt with a string (so to speak) of negative experiences.

By iADOREu

September 5, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

mood this morning overwhelmed a bit.

i believe you might be looking for a mate (which makes it feel like a job) rather than just being out there having a good time and bumping into your FH. take the break that you need and yes be more selective. don’t over due it on the selective now. make sure your list reflects reality.

remember when this blog used to be fun? when leggs and truth got a blog divorce. lol. yesterday afternoon, y’all had me crackin’ up though. we are definitely a disfunctional fam.

By AmazonRed

September 5, 2008 10:40 AM | Link to this

When do you get the time to just sit and be/get to know you? Answer: you don’t.

So your S/O is akin to being a Siamese twin? You literally never have any time by yourself again?

Just asking. LOL

By QC

September 5, 2008 10:40 AM | Link to this

Morning all..have a great weekend!

Hey Demi, Page, Staceye, Cee-me-me, Beautiful, BK

HOLLA

By Mason NOT Blue_Kolla

September 5, 2008 10:40 AM | Link to this

Raqi I am taking a manbattical starting today and it will last for the entire weekend. I told my husband just this morning to leave me alone, I’m ovulating.

Thanks baby, I really appreciate that. I think I’ll take that fishing trip that I’ve been talking about.

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

September 5, 2008 10:41 AM | Link to this

hey Alvin

By Dan

September 5, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

@Raqi

I felt that taking the time to improve my skill set (if only for me) was a worthwhile activity.

I think we all spend time doing for others (work, friends, family) that the selfish moments are some of the best times there are.

Sure, going to class with someone else would be a nice activity with someone else, but for me cooking, learning to play guitar and the piano, reading, were all activities that -selfishly- were only for me. The fact that I could one day share that with someone is an added benefit, no doubt. But having that knowledge was a purely selfish enterprise.

By Blanca

September 5, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this

iAdoreyou i believe you might be looking for a mate (which makes it feel like a job) rather than just being out there having a good time and bumping into your FH. You are probably right - good call!

By Dan

September 5, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this

No Red,

What I’m talking about is the dedicated, uninterrupted, completely focused time to do something that you want to do for you outside of anyone else?

Think of it this way, if you had the leisure time to pursue any activity, what would it be?

By jazzyone

September 5, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

Nothing wrong with pulling back sometimes from dating..re-evaulate your goals, needs and the possible growth spurt you may be experiencing..I know when thoughts much like your own Blanca come at me I know its time and im growing a lil more…

Once you step back out there its like bees to Honey if done with grace..its always good to get in touch with self and spend some alone time if possible…even when im with someone i need that time to go and be healthy in the relationship.

By abc

September 5, 2008 10:52 AM | Link to this

Dan, for me, I’ll do those kinds of things or not regardless of whether I’m in a relationship or dating. As Raqi said, I’m a little baffled by why people would think they need to take a sabbatical in order to read, take a class, travel, develop a skill, pursue a hobby or whatever.

It can get pretty funny, really. My girl is like that, she expects me to somehow prevent her from doing such things. It couldn’t be farther from the truth, I want her to do things that interest her, whether or not I’m included. I’m like, go ahead and get out of town for a few days, go to the retreat! I could use the break sometimes, really.

By Raqi

September 5, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this

LOL AmazonRed. I mean really. Having a mate does not mean you are forever joined at the hip…just sometimes.

There are times when we are in the same room and but totally in two separate world. Him working on stuff he brought home from the office and me organizing a plan for something I have to do later.

Me reading a book, him watching CNN.

Despite popular belief, it is doable.

By Mase told For Real to say this to Raqi

September 5, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

THANK YOU BABY JESUS!!!! FOOTBALL BABY ALL WEEKEN LONG IN MY DRAWS!!!! SCRATCHING, FARTING, AND BURBING!!!! THANK YOU BABY JESUS!!!!!

By ATL Guy

September 5, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

Is it me or… when I’m in a relationship, girls approach me from everywhere trying to hook it up. But, when you’re single, they don’t approach you the same way. Its crazy!

Maybe its true, when you aren’t looking, thats when the quality hits

By Nikki

September 5, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

Hey, ATL Guy…call me!!

By pretty87

September 5, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

Hey, ATL Guy…call me!!

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

September 5, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

iADOREu are you using these monikers in order for us to say these things to u? LOL first beauitful, yesterday imissu and today iadoreu, girl yos a mess LOL

By AmazonRed

September 5, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

What I’m talking about is the dedicated, uninterrupted, completely focused time to do something that you want to do for you outside of anyone else?

Dan - I think the point of our question was, why can’t you do that while dating? Cuz eventually you’ll be married and in your theory (the way it comes across) personal growth stops there. So with anything in life, you have to find a balance.

I have the leisure time to do whatever I want, and therefore I do. The last activity I took up was pole dancing. While he can’t attend classes with me, I extended my hobby to my home, so that we can share in the experience together. LOL!!!

By jazzyone

September 5, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this

I know when I meet a guy for the first time ar accepting a invitation to although it may be considerred a date its just that a date, not a marriage proposal or me trying to get at a dude immediatly. I take my time to get to know a guy before I even seriously start dating. if i were not true to myself and don’t take the time to do the re-evaluate things I would be all out here nilly willy, selecting dudes without thinking of my depth, wants, desires, needs…looking at some dude like yeah I can’t wait to get him down the aisle or the like like allot of women do on the first date..automatically writing his last name attached to mine in the sky..

Heyal naw..

By Dan

September 5, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

@Raqi

How about this one?

Her watching CNN, me learning a new language

Still doable?

By jazzyone

September 5, 2008 11:03 AM | Link to this

Rawi i don’t think the point is that you can’t get to know self and grow with someone. The point is that when not dating anyone seriously stepping back to get a grasp on what you want, need and desire and to acknowledge the natural growth that a person experiences..its healthy.why not take advantage of that time while single. That is the point…

By Cemeeli

September 5, 2008 11:04 AM | Link to this

Morning Gang!

rolling eyes at myself

Yeah, it’s not hard for me to comment on this topic, I have been on Hiatus Island for a long, long, long time. My thoughts; “Sabbaticals from anything that are not productive are worth it!”

PoppaG…Lol @ pegging me as an instigator!

Correction: i do not have dolphins hanging over my bed, nor do i own a leopard babydoll yet. Hahaha

Mo and 2C are the blog Sept. chirren. What escapades will there be?

Atl Lady will fried chicken wings, fries, fried green tomatoes, spinach dip and chips, and drinks suffice?

By ATL Guy

September 5, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Haha, Nikki and Pretty

See what I’m saying, when you’re not looking…LoL

By Mason NOT Blue_Kolla

September 5, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Manbattical ??

Jazzy Nothing wrong with pulling back sometimes from dating..re-evaulate your goals, needs and the possible growth spurt you may be experiencing.

Sounds to me like some of yoll go about your social lives like it’s a job, instead of just being… and being cool.

By jazzyone

September 5, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

I know for me my man and I both enjoy our space etc..it makes it so much sweeter when we come together..even if hes at home or whatever we give each other that space, time to self, growth..etc…

By MELO

September 5, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

I say for every desperate chick there’s a desperate man. Its more like 5 desperate chicks for one, not so desperate guy.Guys going on semi-womanbatical, i wld understand but not completely coz there is alwayz sme ladies out there to entertain u in some semi-retirement capacity..and still get some fulfilment…..ahhhhhhhh.The moment guys go on womanbatical for a long time,that creates a very bad unequilibrium in society,resulting in women depression,women fights and all sorts of health problems 4 ladies.Its not recommended for guys by Dr Melo. For ladies,yes but studies have shown that when those ladies come back to the dating scene,their organs are not as strong due to lack of stamina,endurance and vitamins!

By Poppa Grande

September 5, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

I mean really.* Having a mate does not mean you are forever joined at the hip…just sometimes.**

There are times when we are in the same room and but totally in two separate world. Him working on stuff he brought home from the office and me organizing a plan for something I have to do later.

Me reading a book, him watching CNN.

Despite popular belief, it is doable.*

Exactly.

Those that get joined at the hip…lose themselves..and end up sanging that Mary J Blige song from Waitin’ to Exhale. All she had to show from the relationship was the kids? She didn’t continue doing her thang and growing as a person.

By Mike D

September 5, 2008 11:09 AM | Link to this

When I get tired of dating and need some time off, I go back to my wife and kids.

By abc

September 5, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this

Atl_Guy, it seems a curious phenomenon, but it makes sense really, somehow: nobody wants you until somebody does, and then everyone does. I think for women, it gives them a sense of empowerment to think that they could have another woman’s man if they wanted him.

Dan, if she’s watching TV and you’re learning a new language, I expect you’d have to be in different rooms, at least. You’d probably want to hang out with other people who speak that language, to practice. You might even want to take a class, in addition to the numerous self-study packages available. But, I get your point — what if she starts to pout or feel neglected, right?

By kimmie

September 5, 2008 11:11 AM | Link to this

Cee - Okay that food sounds delicious but a little too fattening! Can we have some fruit or something to cut up all that fat?! What’s up for the weekend (or is it too early for that yet?)

By Pretty87

September 5, 2008 11:12 AM | Link to this

ATL Guy - I know what you mean too…when you’re not looking . Well, I’m free this weekend and you’re free…

By Raqi

September 5, 2008 11:12 AM | Link to this

Good MasonBlue then I don’t have to deal with you mysteriously realizing or deciding that you are hungry the second I walk in the door. Then having you rummage thru all the bags opening oreos and sunchips and leaving opened turkey and mayo on the counter.

Take your behind fishing and keep your grungy hands off of me and my groceries.

By Leggs

September 5, 2008 11:12 AM | Link to this

That blog divorce was fun.

PoppaG, mine was pretty accurate. I do like feeding folk.

Side Bar - I FEEL LIKE SCREAMING AT THE TOP OF MY LUNGS. I DON’T WANT TO WORK AT ALL TODAY. I NEED A VACATION!

By iADOREu

September 5, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

MLL i like to switch it up. as long as the regulars know who i am … what’s the big deal. on the first day i blogged, i sat for a moment to think of a catchy name. it back fired on me. the hate i caught was a bytch! i personally don’t like it at all, because folks don’t know the meaning of beautiful. it has nothing to do with your appearance. and as far as monikers go, there’s no rule about changing them everyday.

it’s funny how y’all say i’m a mess almost everyday. this is me! these comments are who i am. so if i’m a hot azz mess, don’t be surprised at what i throw on here daily.

any weekend plans you got brewing?

By Chink

September 5, 2008 11:15 AM | Link to this

Morning… TGIGPT…Thank Goodness I got paid today! well its just nice to see before I pay them bills…

I think I am taking alot of time these days to have more meaningful relationships and to me it starts with my spirituality/beliefs.

I believe I am changing internally, things I used to do I dont do anymore or I am losing interest in doing. Its definitely a growing time for me with so many positive results.

I do like socializing with people and right now that’s enough for me. I know he will seek me and when he does I will know..no worries :)

By Darryl (not Demi)

September 5, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this

QC Hello you…I am currently dog paddling to keep from going under in this camp.

MLL Good Morning to you sis…Hope your day goes well.

Raqi It’s all the same to me sis, whither you are just going out now and then or taking a step back…and just doing you. Too many people aren’t taking breaks from dating and that is a problem…As a man if I don’t know who I am and what my boundaries are…I would be walking around like a bitter dude. And also keep in mind, your kids help keep your mind off the dating scene…*Trust, lil’Demi keeps me from chasing h0es and dating real women instead.

Melo you don’t count, as long as a woman is nothing more than a piece of a$$, there is no emotional involvement on your part…Think about it, soon as a crack appeared in your armor…you found a dayum ring on your finger, LOL

A. Red have you ever loved any one besides A. Red? LOL

We Republicans are Gangstas!!!

One, two, three and to the four. Snoop Doggy Dogg and Dr. Dre is at the door Ready to make an entrance, so back on up. [‘Cause you know we ‘bout to rip s** up!] Gimme the microphone first, so I can bust like a bubble. Compton and Long Beach together, now you know you in trouble.

Ain’t nothin’ but a G thang, baaaaabay! Two loced out n**** so we’re craaaaazay! Death Row is the label that paaaaays me! Unfadable, so please don’t try to fade this. [Hell yeah…]

Darryl (not Demi) is now Crip Walking over all the Dems, while throwing up John McCain’s hand signs

By Poppa Grande

September 5, 2008 11:19 AM | Link to this

Dan Her watching CNN, me learning a new language?

Why can’t that be doable?

Rosetta Stone is possible. Get some headphones/microphone and immerse yourself in the speech.

The only person who can put limitations on yourself is you. You seem like a smart dude. People don’t start growing once they say “I do”. You are still individuals. Just individuals that have decided to work towards that same goal together. You can be strong in one thing that she is not and vice versa.

My wife has taken quilting classes, knitting classes, crocheting classes, cake decorating classes, and she took them after we married. Michaels has classes for just about everyhobby.

I have taken boxing classing at Art of boxing, Kickboxing, foreign language, many a class at the Home Depot and Lowes.

We’ve used some of classes to benefit the both of us. The home improvement stuff is obvious. However, the sewing and crocheting has allowed us to spend way less for gifts. She has made baby blankets for our neices and nephews. Made the drapes & curtains in the house.

You can continue to do you. If that person doesn’t allow it, then you are probably with the wrong person.

By ATL Guy

September 5, 2008 11:19 AM | Link to this

Pretty I’m out in Buckhead / Midtown Saturday night for drinks and to live it up for sure. You should come out

Whats your email?

By Dan

September 5, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

@abc

Exactly!

There are certain activities and improvements that one has to do alone.

Who would want to live in a house while it’s being remodled.

By Leggs

September 5, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

Don’t forget m’karyl. She’s a Sept. chile (if my memory serves me correctly).

By Raqi

September 5, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

what if she starts to pout or feel neglected, right?

abc then she needs to get a life or take the class with you.

By Cemeeli

September 5, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

…and oh, when i was visiting Hiatus Island i was just being and i woke up and someone yanked my out of my sabbatical. cause i was just ‘tendin’ to mine!

Hi Kimmie Chile, Friday is my good/greasy food indulging day. I just posted a few of the things i may be having today for lunch/dinner. That spinach/artichoke dip ‘n chips are right up my ally. Now there is always fruit, yogurt and water not far from any menu of mine.

How’s martial arts coming? Have you been practicing your kicks on Ginseng?

By Poppa Grande

September 5, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

People don’t start growing once they say “I do”.

Correction: People don’t STOP growing once they say “I do”

By m'karyl

September 5, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this

@Leggs

Your memory serves you correctly…thanks:)

By Dan

September 5, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this

@PG

I understand what you’re saying, I do.

It’s just that the improvements I’m talking about should be done alone. I liken it to New Coke.

It started out as a good idea, good enough that the inventor’s goal was to replace Coke. What came from that whole experiment was Coke Classic. Same flavor, same ingredients, same taste, yet somehow different.

You’re still you at the core, just improved. And even slightest improvement drives up the value on your greatest asset - you.

By Cemeeli

September 5, 2008 11:29 AM | Link to this

Leggs ah, scream away…scream away…I feel ya.

m’karyl is a September baby? hmmm. Well, we got a whiff yesturday of what that missy does to celebrate! hot dangit for them dang boots of hers… lol

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

September 5, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

melo only you can come up with such things to say LOL

idaoreu it’s your thang do whacha wanna do! As for the weekend- nothing major outside of family, friends, and some other possibilites

ATL Guy soliticing for drinks on the blog is prohibited.

By Pretty87

September 5, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this

ATL Guy…prettynikki87@yahoo.com

By MELO

September 5, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this

You seem like a smart dude wow….thats so patronizing…

you found a dayum ring on your finger ring? for what…i paid her parents..tradtnal custom.(discounted remember?) and that was it.She been asking for a ring ever since, i told her,i opened a coolege a/c for our two dgthers.My word and hers is bond,we dont need rings to indicate we married, we arent animals that get branded on the side with a hot iron bar.Beside,that wld have been double jeorpady!!! lol Ring my azz….

By AmazonRed

September 5, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this

A. Red have you ever loved any one besides A. Red? LOL

Demi - Sure have. Love is a beautiful thing. And I’m not afraid to fall in love and be loved. A lot of scared singles out there.

Does my self-confidence somehow threaten or intimidate you or something? :-)

By Raqi

September 5, 2008 11:33 AM | Link to this

Dan in other words you would completely put off doing something to better yourself when you are in a relationship? Or you just end the relationship altogther to do it?

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

September 5, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

PG you nailed it on the head, some many people stop doing things once they say I do, for instance, they stop eating healthy, stop taking care of themselves by piling on the weight and stop saying the sweet things that makes your heart melt. What you did to get me, you have to keep doing to keep me.

By Atl Lady

September 5, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

CeeWell hell. I’ll just put away the groceries. That’s breakfast and lunch.

Kimmie I was thinking lite as well. I was thinking about some grilled chicken alfredo with sauteed green beans and salad.

Atl Guy Everyone goes through that at some point. Some more than others.

By m'karyl

September 5, 2008 11:37 AM | Link to this

@Cemeeli

hot dangit for them dang boots of hers

Uh-huh…but instead of the brown suede (since I have several pairs of brown boots) I think I am going for the camel…augment my color palette of footwear…lol…but yeah my 48th b-day is the 15th of this month…Virgo and Sapphire all rolled into one…lol

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

September 5, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

Has anyboby been to Pearls Bistro and Grill? If so, any reviews?

By kimmie

September 5, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

Cee - I gotcha bout the food - I figured that might be the case. Actually sounds like good football-watching food!

Martial arts is going great! It is getting a little harder, but we are testing for yellow belt senior next Saturday! Still loving that cool front side kick I learned. We are doing a lot of stretching in class, but I really need to be doing them on the days I don’t go to class too. Being a little more limber would really help with the skills. Losing a little weight would help too, so I am working on that.

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

September 5, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

Has anybody been to Pearls Bistro and Grill? If so, any reviews?

By Raqi

September 5, 2008 11:39 AM | Link to this

Another thing Dan.

I learned to swim really well as a child as a necessity per my father. I have no fear of pools and beaches. However, I did not get up the nerve to go snorkeling or on a cruise until my mate convinced me to do so with him. I fully enjoyed both experiences.

I guarantee you I would not have done the two under any other circumstances. I know this because I had no desire to them before he asked me to.

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

September 5, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli Dont know what Im gon do with myself fa my burfday but as long as I have fun, Im cool. However, Old School Saturday is next weekend so may have to go drop it like its hot for a few. Definitely some drinks floating starting Thursday!

And dont hog all the spinach n cheese dip and chips…pass some and a margarita please! :0)

By ATL Guy

September 5, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

Pretty dropped a message in your inbox

By iADOREu

September 5, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

What you did to get me, you have to keep doing to keep me.

i’m stealing this! ^5

By AmazonRed

September 5, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this

Poppa Grande, what kind of man turn out they got at them’s home improvement classes? LOL. I’ve been wanting to take them just because I’m handy and want to be better and doing stuff around the house (I asked my parents for a drill for Christmas when I was 23 lol).

But hey, it also may be a cool place to meet guys!

By Dan

September 5, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this

@Raqi

No. It’s just in the period “in between relationships” that’s what I do. I work on my latent talents and on skills that I want to acquire.

@PG

Don’t mind Melo, I understood. And preciate it.

By Blue_Kolla

September 5, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

Raqi Then having you rummage thru all the bags opening oreos and sunchips and leaving opened turkey and mayo on the counter.

We ain’t hungry for real. We just want to know what new snacks we have on hand for the next football game. And while we’re at, might as well get a sandwich.

(Trying to get back to the game…) Thanks babe, can you put that meat-n-mayo away, the game’s back on. Yeah baby, you know I love you. GO! GO! Awwww Dayummm… Baby…? Could you hand me a beer?

AtlGuy when I’m in a relationship, girls approach me from everywhere trying to hook it up. But, when you’re single, they don’t approach you the same way. Its crazy!

That’s ‘cause when you’re in a relationship or at least hitting something on the regular, you don’t have that I-need-some-p@ssy look in your eyes. Women, especially Staceye, hate that horndog ambience that you might come in the door with.

Also, when you’re hitting regular, your body is constantly releasing pheromones, the natural chemical mating attractant.

Which brings me to this sidenote. This might sound funny but, if you find yourself in a dryspell, jack your johnson before you go out. That pheromone release along with that “don’t go shopping hungry” thing will up your chances for a new sidepiece.

By AmazonRed

September 5, 2008 11:44 AM | Link to this

Pearls Bistro and Grill

MLL, your resident social butterfly checking in! I’ve been. They’d just opened so when I ordered my signature mojito, they made it but didn’t give it to me because it wasn’t programmed in the system yet. :-/

Food is decent. Great ambiance. You have to get there before 8 or 9 or you’ll be charged a dub just to go in.

By Poppa Grande

September 5, 2008 11:44 AM | Link to this

Dan*

I understand, I do.

However, once you get hitched, what are you gonna do? You can’t avoid her while you improve. Each day should be a growth day. Learn something new everyday, even if it is just a word of the day.

I think that dictionary.com will e-mail you a word of the day.

That’s is what me-time is all about. We aren’t joined at the hip. Yet, we work towards a common goal.

Heck, that is why we still have our trips with our friends.

Daytrips - The guys and I go out to Union Point, GA and go to the ATV ranch and ride through the mud and such with 4 wheelers and motorcycles. You can rent them and have a good time. There ain’t nothin’ out in Union Point but country.

By mytwocents

September 5, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

I think some people also just don’t wanna be alone with themselves for any period of time b/c it does lend them to examine within wherein lies some less than desireable stuff. And some of those same ppl simply don’t like themselves ao how can they expect a potential mate to do so? Lots of those folk then populate the I GOT SOMEBODY, so what if it’s JUST ANYBODY segment of society.

Mike D I believe you.

Instigator Do you believe it now cuz PG said it too? You ain’t foolin nobody but yaself ;-)

iADOREbeautiful Hugs. Just cuz…

Do have a Happy Friday all…

By SlimOne

September 5, 2008 11:49 AM | Link to this

I’m open to meeting new dudes that are cool to chill with…no manbatical for me. Although, I do hear crickets when i tell them I’m about to be out of a job in one week.

Do ya’ll think I shouldn’t tell folks that? lol

By kimmie

September 5, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

Atl Lady - Now that sounds tasty too! Got some green beans in the fridge right now that I am going to saute’!

By Angela

September 5, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

Taking a break from dating, for some people, is an excellent idea