By SlimOne

September 8, 2008 8:27 AM | Link to this

Good Morning…the countdown begins (5 days left)

As far as the whole top city for singles go, being single is the easy part. Finding a compatible mate is the more difficult deal. In a place saturated with single folks, married but still single folks it can be a huge distraction for those who are in r’ships. I’ve known a few couples that moved here from smaller towns, to only get up here and fall apart due to infidelity. It can be easier to remain faithful in a small town where everyone knows your name or knows everybody…but up here it’s like taking a kid to Willy Wonka’s Chocolate Factory and not expecting the person to taste any of the tasty appealing treats. (I think I just gave myself the urge to eat some Now & laters)

Just like an ex told me, that even though he loves me dearly, enjoys having a life together with me, blah blah blah…he still enjoys being single too…and that’s the sitatutions we’re starting to see more of in our FastFoodWantItNow society. Less commitments being made but more fence straddling going on. Just like On BMR last night…dude said men are like little kids…they love their toys but when they get bored or tired of playing with it, they put it to the side…But they don’t want no one else to play with it.

By QC

September 8, 2008 8:30 AM | Link to this

Morning All..do have a great day!!!

By Tazzee

September 8, 2008 8:34 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks!

I’m on the plane headed back to H-town. First let me say:

GO FALCONS!!

Personally I think the A is a great place for singles. The nightlife and cultural events keep me coming back. For my skillset, the job market is great. I guess the COL alone is good compared to other cities on the list that I didn’t read but I must admit it’s cheaper to live in Houston.

My weekend report. Registered folks to vote on Cleveland ave. Saturday. Then christened my friend’s Wii Saturday night. That Wii fit is no joke. I’ll be buying mine this week

Sunday was great watching my team win.

By Teresa

September 8, 2008 8:50 AM | Link to this

Should we be celebrating the title of best city for singles? OR is Atlanta full of SERIAL DATERS?

By BLOW ME u BIZZIES

September 8, 2008 9:00 AM | Link to this

Good Morning all…..

UMM…Being the best city for SINGLES???

GTFOH!!!

Yeah because we ARE the best city for SINGLES…Because NO one wants to COMMIT!! Which to me is not a good thing. Secondly, the man to woman ratio…has another thing to do with it. Gives the men a chance to taste every flavor, (cute ones, ugly ones, thick ones, fat ones, rich ones, hood ones….etc etc.)

Not just men…But a lot of these women ain’t hittin on Sh!t! A lot of em’ don’t clean , cook or work. Yeah you got your undergraduate, masters and doctors but that don’t mean sh!t if and when you can APPLY your education to REAL life…..You can not get by on your assets…..Alot of the women or looking like “Why can’t I get a man?”…..Like my grandma told me….”Aint no need of sitting at the table if you can’t bring nothing to it!!” Bring more than the craft of applying your MAC makeup….Let’s start out with some substance. Atlanta is SUPERFICIAL as hEll…Everyone wants to look like that got it and it’s under control. When damn well their s** is BUSTING right out at the seams! Black phuckin HOLLYWOOD!! This place is not what it use to be.

Atlanta is an HO3 OASIS!!

For anyone claiming they want to be in a REVOLVING DOOR dating type of relationship …has got to be out of their mind. There COMES a time and point where the games and the revolving door needs to stop! That s** gets tired….Different dude or chick every day of the WEEK should drain you. Yeah you right that’s another problem….Married men/women don’t want to commit, because we have such a BIG playing field when it comes to dating….anything goes! That’s why married men go out just as much as the single ones do! There are no checks and boundaries when it comes to dating in Atlanta.

So I say H3LL I’m not celebrating a big city with a bunch of sexed out adults waiting for the next lay. Having the best SINGLE city is not a pro..is the biggest CON since..Don King…

Oh yeah and I’m back!

By AmazonRed

September 8, 2008 9:02 AM | Link to this

Happy Monday everyone! WiseDiva, thanks for posting your weekend roundup! Good luck with your newest dating rotation!

Having lived (and dated) on the west coast, midwest, south and northeast, I can definitely say that Atlanta is a great place for singles! The city attracts people from all areas of the country due to it’s low cost of living and decent weather. So if you can’t enjoy dating here, with all it has to offer, you probably won’t have much success anywhere else.

By marvelous man

September 8, 2008 9:02 AM | Link to this

ATL is loaded with hoes

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

September 8, 2008 9:07 AM | Link to this

Good morning Good People, show me a list with cities who have a high rate in matrimony, this list does nothing for me except confirms that Atlanta is full of habitual daters.

By SuperStud

September 8, 2008 9:09 AM | Link to this

As a heterosexual male, I love metro Atlanta and all the various ladies it has to offer. Its a regular smorgasbord.

I feel for the ladies. Most guys they seem attracted to are usually gay.

By BLOW ME u BIZZIES

September 8, 2008 9:11 AM | Link to this

Right on SlimONE

Less commitments being made but more fence straddling going on

And that’s the whole BOTTOMLINE I’m trying to make…A bunch of PLAY TIME!!!

I love BMR that show is really enlightening…..Plus the awards were wack!

By G O

September 8, 2008 9:17 AM | Link to this

Yeah - the best city for singles if you are black or mexican. Where are the single white women at???

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 9:19 AM | Link to this

@Blow Me*

Uh-huh…same way I felt about the dating scene in the ATL for the 24 years I lived there…totally turned me off to active dating…games, cons, bull manure, pretentiousness, etc…everybody had a hidden agenda, so to speak…women and men…I saw it all…with a crooked eye, of course…stepped out…found another scene to encounter ppl of interest without dating…why go outif you are not able to have a good time…did not have one with that scene.

By go

September 8, 2008 9:23 AM | Link to this

Yeah - best city for singles if you are black or mexican. Where are all the single white women??

By Teresa

September 8, 2008 9:29 AM | Link to this

@GO Not tru!

By NEW-MELO

September 8, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

I hear online is the best place for singles and dating tho…i hear desperate and not so desperate chics in Atlanta are going online and giving it up within the 1st 24 hrs.My wife got that from afr/american cowrker singles at wher job.Yeah,they are saying that is the new hot flash….. Anybody know about that???????

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

September 8, 2008 9:32 AM | Link to this

M’Karyl 24 years!?! jeeze I’ve been sinlge in this city for 2 years and it’s already taken a toll on me, I had to learn fast and from the best playas that’s it’s not fair game out there.

By MARCEL MARCEAU

September 8, 2008 9:37 AM | Link to this

, , “” > < . ? !!!!!

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this

@MML Well fortunately for me, I have alwyas enjoyed going out by myself…being doing it since I was 17…and on occassion I would kick with other friends hanging out places…I enjoyed my social life in the ATL…I had a blast…met, mingled and partied with some cool ppl throughout the ATL metro…my social scene just did not include dating by the book sort of thing…I met ppl…if I met someone with a mutual interest to know eachother better…cool…never was alick of good times on my social scene…lol…just no dating drama.

By AmazonRed

September 8, 2008 9:48 AM | Link to this

Both men and women take advantage of their single time. Yes, there are more to chose from here in ATL and I’ll be the first to admit that it may take longer for a man to want to settle down with as many options as there are here in ATL.

But at the end of the day, when a guy wants to commit, they commit…period. And that happens whether they are here in Atlanta or in Fargo, ND.

Do your thing and eventually your time will come.

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

September 8, 2008 9:53 AM | Link to this

melo NEWS FLASH ppl give it up within the 1st to 24 hours online and offline so that doesn’t hold true. Dating online has it’s up and down just as any other form of dating.

M’Karyl I’ve met some cool ppl in Atlanta to as well as a bunch of wackos. LOL

By DivaGlam

September 8, 2008 9:54 AM | Link to this

SlimOne and BIZZIES - I could NOT have said it better. How is it that I have been in ATL for 9 years and have not gone out on a date with someone from HERE in all that time? I travel and date more with people NOT from ATL. What sense does that make??? Serial Dating CITY!!!

By Teresa

September 8, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this

Lets come with the real!!!!! ATL is full of serial daters, hoes and man w*******, no one really wants to commit

By BLOW ME u BIZZIES

September 8, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed

But at the end of the day, when a guy wants to commit, they commit…period. And that happens whether they are here in Atlanta or in Fargo, ND.

Whatever!! ARED Let’s have a truthfully and realistic discussion. I bet if you were in FARGO….there would be no room for SERIAL dating. It’s the big city with the offset ratio…Where all the game playing will be done. For you to sit here and say Guys here don’t have a problem committing would be ABSURD!! They guys here are not doing so…period. I bet you nickels….to cheese doodles…You would more likely be in a committed relationship in Fargo, ND….The list speaks for itself! We are NUMBER IN SINGLES!!!

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 10:07 AM | Link to this

@MLL

Uh-huh…could fill an encyclopedia size voluem with the nut jobs I encountered…but being a pubilc transit…I encountered them everywhere because I spent more time in a mix of ppl out in public…I had one dude sit next to me on MARTA enroute to Agnes Scott…he begin talking all about himself and what he was looking for in a woman…lol…I was studying my French because I had a test that day..anyway, he kep gabbing…I kept ignoring…and suddenly he just snatched my book out of my hands and demanded that I pay attention to him…another guy follow me home from teh bus…when I lived in B’head he stalked me for theentire 4 years…still do not know his name to this day…all I talked to him about was 70’s music for the ride length…lol…but on a strictly party and good time scene I met cool ppl…I can fill an set with those stories too…oh yeah, there are some ppl missin Miss M on the ATL social scene…lol

By Leggs

September 8, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

I don’t know what to say! I concur a lot w/what Blow said. There are too many married men playing single. There are too many ppl trying to score and not get into a lasting relationship. There’s so much DL going on here in Atlanta that dating is a bit scary. Lies and deceit everywhere I turn.

By Teresa

September 8, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

http://www.soulcast.com/post/show/152503/Will-You-Shut-the-F-UP~

By BLOW ME u BIZZIES

September 8, 2008 10:14 AM | Link to this

Ared On second thoughts I can get what you are saying…When they do want to settle down thats’ just that. But it sounds…DOUBLE TALKISH…..yeah that’s not a word. lol.

By abc

September 8, 2008 10:21 AM | Link to this

Nightlife consists of what, bars and nightclubs? This is a preference of singles, or is it more demographically attuned to people in their 20’s?

Culture is submittable. Atlanta has one of the top 10 symphony orchestras in the world, excellent museums, intact 150 year old battlefields, but is best known for hip-hop. Whatever. Even for the good stuff, you have to go into the city, which is mostly a pain in the rear.

Cost of living alone doesn’t seem to make sense, unless in combination with other things. Certainly, rents in little towns everywhere would be less, and would follow the real estate market in general, as far as that goes.

Job growth, well now, Atlanta does have the jobs. It’s what Atlanta is really good for, is abundant work.

Online dating activity, WTF.

Coolness is too obviously subjective. What’s cool about it? The nightclubs, again? Movies in the park? They show movies in the park in my subdivision, and I still prefer my home theater. I mean, come on — coolness?!

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 10:23 AM | Link to this

@Leggs

Yes indeedy…when I worked at V’s on P’Tree…I saw it all…there were so many married men in there chasing tail and such…and so many women jumping at them…I never saw any of these men with their wives…they would be in V’s from the time they left work until the timed it closed Mon-Fri…and there from the time it opened on Sat and Sun until close…every single day without their SO’s…not my scene…but the pimped chicks in the joint thought it was all good…for some drinks…a dress…but never no committment…I would not want to be the poonie of those wives for anything…lol…20 years later when I ran into many of these same women…no husband…no boyrfriend or SO…nothing…not even the married men the were sleeping with…not one thing…WTF!!

By Yikes

September 8, 2008 10:30 AM | Link to this

So basically a lot of people who can neither commit to a relationship nor find anybody who will date them live here.

By Beautiful

September 8, 2008 10:31 AM | Link to this

Yeah because we ARE the best city for SINGLES…Because NO one wants to COMMIT!!

this sums it up for me!

y’all got it all wrong. lol. this is not a compliment.

By Beautiful

September 8, 2008 10:35 AM | Link to this

MARCEL whatchu tryin’ to say? lol.

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

September 8, 2008 10:36 AM | Link to this

Yikes sad, but it seems that way.

By joe

September 8, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

It may be the best city of you are single and want to stay that way, but if you are looking for something more substantial then it’s a joke. I don’t know about the guys, but the women are shallow and don’t bring any skills to the table (unless you count shopping and laughing). I suspect we will be the best city for singles for many years to come (and with my attitude and luck I will be right there with ya!).

By OverIt

September 8, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this

Best for single WHAT, exactly? I’ve lived here for 24 years, all of those years a single female, and the only guys I truly love are all gay; the rest of those ‘available’ are no catch. There’s a REASON they are single… like someone already else said, either they won’t commit, or they are not worth trying to get to commit. As a woman, if you have a decent job, the men think they are off the hook for having to pick up the tab most of the time. Yes, I’m single in Atlanta, but by choice, having decided that it’s better to be alone because I decided to be, not because I was left behind.

By Beautiful

September 8, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

wise i’m with MLL! bust out the list of cities where every1 is married and happy leading a laid back family style life making traditions, etc. i’m not giving up on finding that. if i’m still single at 50 … oh mf well!

By Nothing New Under The Sun

September 8, 2008 10:52 AM | Link to this

Contributing anything thoughtful to this discussion is pointless. Carry on.

By AmazonRed

September 8, 2008 10:52 AM | Link to this

Let’s have a truthfully and realistic discussion. I bet if you were in FARGO….there would be no room for SERIAL dating.

Hey Blow, yes there might not be a lot of serial dating in Fargo, but if the guy you are dating either here or there doesn’t want you, he won’t commit, period.

And I never said guys here don’t have a problem with commiting. But having dated elsewhere too, it’s not just an Atlanta specific problem.

Now a guy may be able to run through all the ladies in Fargo faster than ATL, but for the one he picks there will be several that he doesn’t.

By M.

September 8, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

I think Atlanta is a dating city. Obviously people complain about the lack of single and eligible people, but its great to be a bachelor here. The only problem is that alot of people are here from other cities so they have brought their dating habits (good and bad) here so you have to feel out the dating scene for a while to find out where you fit in. Its ok for me, but I have met a few flakes girls you meet, go out with and everything seems cool or they just disappear like guys do sometime. I saw a good text message that said dont waste time dating people whose words dont match their actions.

@SlimOne

True that about committment. Question, how can somebody date someone for a long time, like 3-5 years, and never get married, but then date someone for a year or less and get engaged?

By gwinnett educator

September 8, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

I have never posted here, however, I can most def. agree with the majority of the statements. I am a 35 yr old single woman and I feel that if I truly want a chance at getting married, I need to MOVE.

By AmazonRed

September 8, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

That’s weird, the 2nd and 3rd paragraph in my 10:52 should have been switched. That’s the way I wrote it.

By kimmie

September 8, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

Good morning Blog Fam

go - If Forbes took the survey, it’s a safe bet the results are geared to what you are looking for.

I would take all of these little magazine surveys with a grain of salt. They base their results on a lot of quantitative things, like cost of living, job availability, number of single men and women - stuff you can put a number on. I’ve never seen a study that actually peeled back the layers and was able to survey how many are on the DL, how many are single but presenting themselves as married, etc. And mean, it’s a fun topic, but nothing you can really base anything on.

I grew up here and all of my fellow natives I know that are married (90% of my friends) met their spouses at school or work, whether they went to school/work here or somewhere else. Sure there’s superficialness(is that a word?!) in the ATL like any other large city where there are people doing well,but, I usually chalk that up to certain folks “not used to anything”! That was what I grew up hearing about people who made too much of a big deal about their fancy things, and those are usually folks that came from other places. The people I know that really have “wealth” are low-key, easy with it, no need to show off. Their life speaks for itself. All us natives mostly get from the transplants are people looking down their noses. I usually just say to myself “poor thing, must not be used to anything”! Us natives can be a close-knit group too. A lot of my friends have come back to the old neighborhood with their own families and continue the traditions. A great group of people to belong to.

By Wise Diva

September 8, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this

So, it’s a blessing and a curse, depending on what you ultimately want, marriage or an active dating life?

By gwinnett educator

September 8, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

I have never posted here, however, I can most def. agree with the majority of the statements. I am a 35 yr old single woman and I feel that if I truly want a chance at getting married, I need to MOVE.

By thynk4urself (formerly the name of a luxurious car)

September 8, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

Y’all need to read THIS blogpost by a local pick-up artist who (perhaps appropriately) quips that Atlanta is basically a buyer’s market for pu$$Y.

YES. You read correctly! An entertaining read for SURE, I guarantee it. I do suggest, however, you skip the first two paragraphs and get to the material where he cites “Doc Roc.”

As for my own personal experience with dating in the city, Atlanta women are…interesting.

There aren’t too many places in this country where women get DRESSED to do something as simple as going to Publix! For men who are either bored or just very enticed by pretty faces in skirts, Atlanta can be a curse for them.

In my younger (read: stupid) days, I was out there “doin’ my thing” “puttin’ it down” like Usher during his “8701” days. That was, until, I got caught LIKE USHER and went through my “Confessions” days!! (and BOY those were some tough days.)

But, in retrospect, my mindset was reflective of the attitudes of MANY 20 something year old men (I’m still 20 something BTW) in the city. With so much out there reminiscent of Buffie the Body and Mercedes Hawkins (with a more toned-down sexual aura, of course), men are often tempted to play the field for as long as possible. Why wouldn’t they? We are generally motivated by the immediate pay-off of sexual intimacy. The will to raise a child and develop a family identity don’t come until a man has reached a certain maturity (notice I didn’t say age). For that reason, Atlanta is NOT good for couples if one or both of the partners don’t have their mind right.

The last ACCURATE report I heard of the ex (who had me playin’ Usher’s “Burn” on HEAVY rotation, lol) was that the guy she started seeing after our break-up (in late 2007) was hesitant to commit for a while (funny it wasn’t until THEN she decided it was a good time to hit me up and “see how life’s going”; and without the curt remarks, at that!!), and that was back in like July. That isn’t a swipe to any man who isn’t ready for that step (you’d have to commend anyone whose at least open and honest about it), but the city’s single culture is just a lot for someone who has a desire to experience other people.

In case the link I posted above doesn’t work, here is it again: http://www.completeurbanpickup.com/?p=49

…HOLLA!

By Poppa Grande

September 8, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

Good Morning…

First good post Kimmie. I am also a native and see most of my friends from home and school are married. There is a common ground from the get-go that transient people don’t have.

*Topic

I tend to agree that it isn’t necessarily a good thing. However, I see it a problem with people more than the city itself.

IMO there are various reasons that committment is an issue. Both genders are responsible for it. One, females, when you say ” I don’t need a man.”, you are gonna attract playas and married men right away. That gives the impression that a man is optional. Therefore, those who are married don’t have much time to invest are chompin’ at the bit. Playas who aren’t ready to settle down with one don’t have time to spend with you make you just as optional as you make a man. (Playas have a number of women, and one being mad at him is no big deal.)

Guys that want to settle down want to be needed. They don’t want to be considered optional. Then from a guy stand point we have to weed through all the desparate women, the golddiggers, etc.

Its the people not the place. I know people in NYC that complain about committment. You want to talk Superficial?..Have you been to the Land of the Pretty People East..aka Miami or Land of the Pretty People West aka…LA.

From Society of that promote Crystal, Ciroc, Grey Goose, Air Force Ones, BMW, Massarati’s etc, It is superifical everywhere. You need to find a better excuse.

By BLOW ME u BIZZIES

September 8, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this

Ared I gotcha…But still a bit double talkish. I am not debating the fact of how and why a guy is going to commit. That’s not the point. My statement are the fact that these guys are prolonging it, because they are able to play and do whatever they want. They are dragging their feet much long and harder than need be.

This place is bombed out and depeleted!!

By Leggs

September 8, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

When I arrived here in 1979 the same dang issues were spewing. Atlanta is a great place for dating, but not for marriage. If you’re already married, don’t move to Atlanta. That was 1979. Not one thing has changed! There are still a lot of women here. Pretty women who take care of themselves. Whoever said Atlanta was a smorgasboard coined it appropriately.

By The Truth

September 8, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone.

Atlanta is great city to live in but not for the single life. The cost of living is low compared to other major cities, you can live in the burbs and still be in midtown in 15-20 minutes, and you can live at whatever pace you choose from fast to turtlish (I made that up). For those complaining nobody wants to commit you won’t have it any better anywhere else, except Alaska. If your product doesn’t sell in this market it won’t sell in many others either. I’d say look at what you’re offering and start working on that. To work on oneself is the hardest thing you’ll do but reaps the greatest rewards.

Also, they are having major aids and std problems in small towns too, actually worse than in some larger areas. They just hide it better because “Eveyone knows your name”.

Despite all we read there are some great women, and I suppose men too, out there. You won’t find them in a club or hotspot but they’re just enjoying their lives the best they can.

Finally, we aren’t socialized to commit anymore. Men and women are trained to do whatever they want in life and that’s good. The flip side is when you’re ready to jump off the train there aren’t many people jumping with you. They’re still doing their thing. And if you’re out there sexing and balling you’re contributing to the problem just like the next person.

BTW, the guys I know now running the most women are married, by far. I was talking with a good friend saturday and he’s married with kids but can’t wait for the kids to get older so he can bolt. He’s already told his wife it’s a wrap. In the meantime he’s out doing him.

Total disclosure is a beatiful thing. LOL

And you attract what you are. If you keep meeting hood rats and skanks then look at your own product.

By AmazonRed

September 8, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

My statement are the fact that these guys are prolonging it, because they are able to play and do whatever they want.

Blow - Um yeah, I basically said the same thing two hours ago.

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 11:37 AM | Link to this

@Poppa Grande

Last week I asked you about Castle Doctrine…well, I have been emailing the brother in Ambrose, GA about his situation…I emphasized what you said about who was the agressor, etc…well, long/short…he sent me an email detailing the incident…he even sent me the link re:Castle Doctrine…but I do not know if he can disprove himself as the alleged agressor…anyhoo…I was wondering if you could give him some guidance…I think tht he needs this explained against the particulars of his circumstances and its probable application to his case…it has been his dream fro the last 20 years to return home to GA…only to find out that the New South is just like the Old South…for some anyway…I have his contact info.

By lurker

September 8, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

Dont believe for a moment that every time someone doesn’t commit it’s your fault. Thats crazy thinking right there!

By BLOW ME u BIZZIES

September 8, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

thynk4urself lmao! @ women gettin dressed to go to Publix.

but the city’s single culture is just a lot for someone who has a desire to experience other people

Exactly!! This place is the pits…basically!

kimmie I have noticed that long ago. Most ppl do get married with someone they went to school with or work with. Because you have time to understand the core and the thought process besided…assesing them off of what they look like or drive. You learn them..and not that fake a$$ facade.

By Sidelines

September 8, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

And you attract what you are. If you keep meeting hood rats and skanks then look at your own product.

OMGoodness, Truth…I was thinking the exact same thing as I was reading some of the comments!!!! I totally agree with your post…

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

@Blow

But it is true about women getting dressed to go shopping…the amount of emphasis put on how well or how badly a person dresses is unreal in the ATL…wardrobing should be a go with your life flow vibe…but I learned the ATL is where they apparently have talking clothes because they tell ppl who you are and such…lol

By AmazonRed

September 8, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

For those complaining nobody wants to commit you won’t have it any better anywhere else, except Alaska. If your product doesn’t sell in this market it won’t sell in many others either.

Truth, I feel you on this. At least Atlanta offers variety. There is so much of the “same type” in other cities.

PG, thanks for the viewpoint of a native. I have friends coming to town all the time for weddings of couples that live in Atlanta. Folks are finding love and getting married here. Don’t blame the city. LOL

By Poppa Grande

September 8, 2008 11:49 AM | Link to this

MK

In the state of Georgia, you are supposed to retreat to prevent altercations.

The Castle doctrine comes into play due to the fact that once you are home there is no where else you can retreat.

That is the basics rationale behind the castle doctrine’s existence. It isn’t meant for protecting one’s property.

*There is a somewhat funny case where a storeowner wired his store with dynamite to prevent someone from stealing cigarettes at night. Long stoy short, store owner is currently in jail for life and the cigarette thief is dead. Deadly force to protect property is a no no.

I’d love to help, but I can give only general information. Kinda like I did Foots. But I can’t guide him yet. I don’t have a bar number yet, and don’t want to get caught up in unauthorized practice of law. I already got one classmate that has gotten in trouble for that and that info gets sent to the State Bar’s office. Ol’ boy can’t sit for the Bar exam at least not right out of law school. biggpoppa@lycos.com

By A.K.s

September 8, 2008 11:49 AM | Link to this

100% true but here’s the real question for all of us: How in the world is everyone (including me) complaining about no one wants to commit in this city, which means we all want to commit but cannot find anyone? I mean Blow Me u Bizzies, I loved what you wrote and I agree with every single letter you typed. I just started dating again after a long break (4 months to be exact) and every single man I have dated was lame. 1- They mostly lie about their economic/job status 2- Have no culture/world knowledge 3- All wanna hit it 4- Not funny 5- Religious freaks 6- Racist 7- Sexist 8- Already have 2 babymommas

…the list can go on for days.

I hear the same things from my guy friends who are dating women but in a different order. They say: 1- Most women are golddiggers 2- Pretend like they’ve got it, but don’t 3- Don’t cook 4- Want their bills paid 5- Have kids already 6- Not interesting 7- Hate sports

…this list can go on too.

Now, as a woman I can say that I’m an equal opportunity provider, white black latin doesn’t really matter. As long as men have their life together and smart I’m cool with them. Yes, jobs do matter, and I won’t date anyone who doesn’t make the right choices such as if you’re living in an apartment and your car costs more than your rent.

Ok I think I have solved the problem with this city’s dating life. All women want the rich men and all men want the hot women. So the “have nots” end up pretending like they are hot and rich to get the dates who would normally not have a chance. And that is the bottomline. It looks like I’ll be single for a good number of years… as I dry my tears

By Cemeeli

September 8, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

Atlanta’s Dating Scene = Meat Market for sure. The pickings for the femme persuasion are plentiful. Are they quality??? most of us know how this one goes.

again, “quality people in this city” brings me to this point/comment….

Are we singled, satisfied, and fabulous? = (WHO we are attract the realist or the superficial as we are?!)… OR, Are we single, seasonal, and bitter = (going with the “grain” to say I will not get anywhere seriously on the dating/commitment scene in ATLANTA b/c it is superficial/gay/w******* town)?! Now, of all the shady, infidel, and sorry single and married folks we know that are out there doing the WRONG THANG!…if everyone buys into the Buckhead Monopoly Meatmarket for example, the pickings are definetly smaller! sadly the market gets smaller and smaller when “statistics” tells us “there is no way ppl here can meet be happy and blissfully together, b/c the masses/peanut gallery of Atlanta make up the city…

..i digress here…

Tazzee Hi lady. Yes, it was good seeing the hopeful Falcon’s win yesturday.

Registered folks to vote on Cleveland ave. Saturday. Then christened my friend’s Wii Saturday night. That Wii fit is no joke.*

Thanks for getting ppl registred to vote!!! Hopefully you were passing those Obama pencils, stickers and calenders jus cause …

By Beautiful

September 8, 2008 11:57 AM | Link to this

M’Karyl i’ve never gotten dressed for publix or the mall. a cute ponytail, t-shirt, my fav nike’s … ready in 5 mins. i’ve always continued to be real and stay that way. i’ve noticed the dress up too and thought how superficial is that? i don’t want to pretend and then he finds out the real me later.

thanks for that post poppa. no excuses here.

By kimmie

September 8, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

Thanks Poppa - And you always offer great words of wisdom on your posts as well.

Another thing I’ve noticed is that a lot of people that come here have unrealistic expectations. They are looking for small-town hospitality, super-cheap cost of living, yet all the perks of a big city. It doesn’t roll that way. With growth and progress come bigger challenges. A lot of us natives whine that things have changed so much and not for the better and the older transplants whine that things are not like they used to be when they first moved here and act like they just arrived when they’ve been here 20 years.

Blow One of my friends from college pointed out, not too long after we graduated, that we will never again be in a situation where there will be a bigger pool of available, straight, educated men than in college. She was so, so right. That was not my mindset at the time, but I know plenty who got their MRS, along with the BA, BS, JD, MBA, etc!

By BLOW ME u BIZZIES

September 8, 2008 12:00 PM | Link to this

Wow…I see some things NEVER change…..We still have The dyck riding section for Truth Wow! This place is funny as phuck! Hiliarious!

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 12:00 PM | Link to this

@Poppa G

Well, i think that is waht he needs…it does not seem to me that he understands the application of the doctrine in its intent…I think his interpretation is skewed and that someone like yourself amy be albe to take the “theory” of the doctrine and explain its application so he can see whether or not his case is a “ggod-fit” for this law…I am beginning to think it may not be the case based upon what he said to me about the situation and how you explained its application to me…you made it so clear to me and that is why I am questioning his hope of using this statute…I was just hoping you could give hime the same reasonable interpretation as you gave me…that is what he needs.

By Nothing New Under The Sun

September 8, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

Now we are getting to the heart of things!

I’m a transplant (from a neighboring state) who’s been here just under 10 years, and clothing is not the only thing used to judge a person’s “worthiness.” I can’t recall the number of people I’ve met and the first few questions they ask are to gather my status:

What do you do for a living? What part of town do you live in? Where did you go to school…Bachelors or Masters?

My thinking is all you need to know is I’ve done well enough to be in the same place at the same time as you…

Of course that’s info we’ll eventually get around to, and I have nothing to be ashamed of in any of those areas, but it’s a drag. I try to look beyond it but it is discouraging when you see the pattern repeat itself.

Atlanta’s not perfect, but I d@mn sure wouldn’t give it up for Fargo, LOL. For instance, I would like to pass a black woman on the street and actually have her speak back to me when I say hello. That’s like winning the lottery here! And it would be nice to not get the cold shoulder at church either.

By Poppa Grande

September 8, 2008 12:04 PM | Link to this

AR

I know guys that come here to find a mate. They do and then they go back to their home city. 2 were from Chicago (they were actually Chicago Bears football players), one was from LA, and there was even a Miami dude.

It is not the city.

You gotta know what you want. You gotta know what you aren’t gonna take from people.

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

@Beautiful

I feel ya…even after 24 years, I foudn that there was no escaping the mentality of what you convey by how you dress…Comments I heard over the years:

“I only wear (insert Shoe Brand Name: Ralph Lauren, Nine West, etc)because it tells ppl what I can affrod to spend on my clothes..”

“I wear these type of clothes because it tells ppl that I am bourgie…”

“The way I dress tells ppl I GOT money because of the brands I wear”

WTF!!!!

By AmazonRed

September 8, 2008 12:08 PM | Link to this

Another thing I’ve noticed is that a lot of people that come here have unrealistic expectations. They are looking for small-town hospitality, super-cheap cost of living, yet all the perks of a big city. It doesn’t roll that way. With growth and progress come bigger challenges.

kimmie, excellent point. And since I’m not from a small town, this type of big city behavior is normal for me. Atlanta is what L.A. is 10 years ago.

Both my mother and grandmother told me to get my MRS degree when I went off to college! One thing I noticed is that there were so few black men to chose from, that they were recycled to death! No thanks. I went all 4 years without sleeping with a single guy I went to school with. LOL. But for all of my 20s, the only friends of mine who did marry, married guys we went to school with.

By jazzyone

September 8, 2008 12:09 PM | Link to this

Blow bisszies I have met more men in Georgia that have nothing to bring to the table. More than any place or country i have ever lived in so i think it goes both ways…Everyone is looking for a come up. Does that negate the attractiveness of the single life in ATL nope. Just have to be caustious and not ready to jump head first into anything..Due dilligence is the key…mad much??

By jazzyone

September 8, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

Blow bisszies I have met more men in Georgia that have nothing to bring to the table. More than any place or country i have ever lived in so i think it goes both ways…Everyone is looking for a come up. Does that negate the attractiveness of the single life in ATL nope. Just have to be caustious and not ready to jump head first into anything..Due dilligence is the key…mad much??

By ATLWorldwide

September 8, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this

Atlanta is a great place to be single, if you want to be single forever. If you actually would like to get married, or date for relationships, good luck.

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this

@Poppa G

I will copy and paste the email that he sent me on jango.com (my fav internet radio station, btw)and send it along with his email address to you…I think once you read his account you may understand what I mean…and you, more so than I, can eloquently articulate the exactness of the law based upon the events stated…I just don’t want the brother banking his eggs in a basket that got a hole in the bottom…thanks…I do not even know him…but I believe he needs our help…at least he can structure a new strategy if he is not properly interpreting the statute.

By jazzyone

September 8, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this

Based on some of the responses sounds liek allot of folks need an attitude adjustment and leave the hate at the door. Then you might be able to get a date. WOW…

By AmazonRed

September 8, 2008 12:13 PM | Link to this

You gotta know what you want. You gotta know what you aren’t gonna take from people.

PG, you are on point as usual. Before I blame the city, I’d blame my fellow sisters for the dating problems in Atlanta. So many of them will take any type of treatment and guys simply take advantage of that.

For the ones, like me, who know what they want and what they will and will not allow, that’s where the problem comes in. If you aren’t willing to do XYZ, there are dozens of women who will take your place and be treated any old way.

So the key for me is finding the guy who is either over that game or never played that way in the first place.

By ATLWorldwide

September 8, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

Atlanta is a great place to be single, if you want to be single forever. If you actually would like to get married, or date for relationships, good luck.

By jazzyone

September 8, 2008 12:15 PM | Link to this

If ATL is full of w*******..um what does that say about those servicing the whoes?? it works both ways, i don’t think women have the market cornerred on that..

By Yeah Right

September 8, 2008 12:15 PM | Link to this

Define “singles” in Atlanta !!!

By The Truth

September 8, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

Blow We still have The dyck riding section for Truth Wow! didn’t you meet some cat and stepped off to do some dating. I guess that blew up in your face. LOL You’re madder than ever. Get over yourself.

Tazzee we both have hope this year. The RAIDERS have some new talent and I’m looking for good things from. Maybe we can meet in the Superbowl.

MK instead of going the Castle Domain route I’d pursue the “I feared for my life” defense. You can get away with anything if you can SHOW your life was put in danger. Planting an unregisterd gun next to the guy would help, but its to late now. LOL

I wish oneday that someone would come on here and take responsibilty for what goes on in their life. Everyone says “other people, married people, someone else, dl brothers” but ultimately it’s what you do that matters the most. Nobody could screw you over if you didn’t bend over and self lube.

Sidelines OMGoodness, Truth…I was thinking the exact same thing as I was reading some of the comments!!!! I was reading your mind and thought I’d post what I found. LOL

By Sidelines

September 8, 2008 12:18 PM | Link to this

Just because someone agrees with a blogger they gotta be ridin’ them, Wow, now thats phuckin’ HILARIOUS…! I don’t even know the dude, it’s amazing how simple words move obvious jealous m/f’s!!! WTF…

I’m definitely not in the mood for BS today…

Have a nice day all!!!

By Beautiful

September 8, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

Another thing I’ve noticed is that a lot of people that come here have unrealistic expectations.

that was me. i have no shame is saying so. but i learned and have definitely moved on. due to the past three years, my blinders are off.

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

@Nothing New

*I can’t recall the number of people I’ve met and the first few questions they ask are to gather my status:

What do you do for a living? What part of town do you live in? Where did you go to school…Bachelors or Masters?*

I foudn that to be so true also..because the attitudes I received sans degree were different post-degree…in essence, I was the same person..but the perception of me changed based up whether or not the other person in question valued or devalued the paper…I was like WTF.

By BLOW ME u BIZZIES

September 8, 2008 12:22 PM | Link to this

Truth Whatever….Glad to see you homie. But NO! Still in la la land…We are still big kickin it! This does not waver whether I’m in a relationship or not. It’s the TRUTH…and more importantly it’s my OPINION! But come on you know it’s true! lol!

By Nothing New Under The Sun

September 8, 2008 12:26 PM | Link to this

I take issue with this statement:

For the ones, like me, who know what they want and what they will and will not allow, that’s where the problem comes in. If you aren’t willing to do XYZ, there are dozens of women who will take your place and be treated any old way.

Is XYZ (what you’re obviously not willing to do) always unreasonable or are you just stubborn? I guess, since the “dozens” are OK with it…

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 12:26 PM | Link to this

@Truth

Yeah but the case revolves around trespassing, approaching the brother’s threshold and some verbal assaults and threats to my understanding…and according to Poppa G* that may qualify him to use teh Castle Domain statute as his defense…I do not know if he can prove that his life was threatened by the man’s (white neighbor) actions…he may have needed to retreat and call the authorities before he shot the man.

By AmazonRed

September 8, 2008 12:28 PM | Link to this

Nobody could screw you over if you didn’t bend over and self lube.

Truth, LMAO! That’s certainly one way to put it.

Trust, there are folks out there who have no other purpose than to try to screw you over, but we also have the responsibility to ask the questions, follow the signs, do the investigative work and at the end of the day, trust our instincts.

It’s no coincidence that folks like Star Jones and Terry McMillon got screwed over. Everyone on the outside could see their guys were shady and they couldn’t? They just chose to ignore the signs cuz they wanted to be married!

By Beautiful

September 8, 2008 12:29 PM | Link to this

Nothing New Under The Sun i was always asked that first. i’m more into whether we vibed or not. they were into how successful in life i was. it really didn’t sit with me well.

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 12:30 PM | Link to this

Well, there is one thing about coming to the ATL and not having a clear perception re:cost of living, wages, low-cost living…but it is another thing to come to the ATL (like me) from blue collar mid-west and act like you are a big league player and you have never even been to a ball park…I encountered so much of that there…ppl pretending to be something else in Never, Never Land…lol

By BLOW ME u BIZZIES

September 8, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

Sidelines Please continue to stay there…It would be much appreciated. Chill out anyway….I wasnt’ talking to you! Enjoy your day though! BIG hug!

By AmazonRed

September 8, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

Is XYZ (what you’re obviously not willing to do) always unreasonable or are you just stubborn?

Nothing New, it’s probably a little of both. I was at a bbq and this newlywed guy actually advised us single women to get knocked up first, because that’s the only way that many of the guys today would marry us. He married his wife after getting her pregnant w/ baby #2. Before then he told her he was 1) not in love with her and 2) didn’t want to be with her. But after he got her pregnant twice, he figured he should finally do the right thing.

Uh yeah, if that’s what I have to do to be married, I’m straight with being single. LOL.

But even without that extreme example, there are many women who are tolerating cheating, etc, because that’s what they figure men just “do.”

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

@TRuth May not qualify him to use the Castle Domain statute…oops…lol

By abc

September 8, 2008 12:34 PM | Link to this

While I would tend to refute aspects of Atlanta’s publicized greatness, I would also tend to disagree with the concensus that nobody can find somebody worthwhile in Atlanta.

I would suggest that if you can’t find someone in a place like this, with all the diversity and variety that the city and metro area encompasses, then you may not be able to find anyone, anywhere.

By Sidelines

September 8, 2008 12:35 PM | Link to this

Truth…Great minds think alike, I see!!!! lol…

Need to go find my Eckert Tolle and reread…man, I’m just sayin’!!!

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this

@abc

While I would tend to refute aspects of Atlanta’s publicized greatness, I would also tend to disagree with the concensus that nobody can find somebody worthwhile in Atlanta.

This is true to a degree…ppl have to look at areas outside of the beaten paths…I met some very interesting ppl going to a lot of local festivals in the ATL…as opposed to churh, the bar scene, social networks, etc…just encounters with ppl who shared similiar interest to my own…the library…galleries…stuff and such like that…but I did not go with the intention of meeting anyone…just to have a good time…volunteer opportunities are good to because ppl with similiar interest tend to congregate around the same volunteer organizations, etc.

By Nothing New Under The Sun

September 8, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this

M’Karyl/Beautiful: I brought up the status thing because I had it done to me, then I found myself doing it. It was done innocently to get a conversation started, but the overtone was “am I good enough for her?” or vice versa. Who wants to be sized up like that? I didn’t, so I stopped, and now I allow that information to be volunteered.

By jazzyone

September 8, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this

Im noticing the tone of some folks and If i were single i wouldn’t want to date you becasue of the attitude..LOl just a thought not saying thats always the case but who are you going to attract with all that madness…..

Blow Im not here that often but let me just say you walked back up in here talking about Truth and he hasn’t even been up in here and I think someone mentioned he hasn’t been up in here regular like in a while…

By A.K.s

September 8, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this

here’s the real question for all of us: How in the world is everyone (including me) complaining about no one wants to commit in this city, which means we all want to commit but cannot find anyone? I mean Blow Me u Bizzies, I loved what you wrote and I agree with every single letter you typed. I just started dating again after a long break (4 months to be exact) and every single man I have dated was lame. 1- They mostly lie about their economic/job status 2- Have no culture/world knowledge 3- All wanna hit it 4- Not funny 5- Religious freaks 6- Racist 7- Sexist 8- Already have 2 babymommas

…the list can go on for days.

I hear the same things from my guy friends who are dating women but in a different order. They say: 1- Most women are golddiggers 2- Pretend like they’ve got it, but don’t 3- Don’t cook 4- Want their bills paid 5- Have kids already 6- Not interesting 7- Hate sports

…this list can go on too.

Now, as a woman I can say that I’m an equal opportunity provider, white black latin doesn’t really matter. As long as men have their life together and smart I’m cool with them. Yes, jobs do matter, and I won’t date anyone who doesn’t make the right choices such as if you’re living in an apartment and your car costs more than your rent.

Ok I think I have solved the problem with this city’s dating life. All women want the rich men and all men want the hot women. So the “have nots” end up pretending like they are hot and rich to get the dates who would normally not have a chance. And that is the bottomline. It looks like I’ll be single for a good number of years… as I dry my tears

By Dan

September 8, 2008 12:43 PM | Link to this

I’mma walk in if for nothing else than to agree with Truth’s 12:17pm.

Personal responsibility…first step to finding out who you are (self actualization)….

By a daily lurker

September 8, 2008 12:45 PM | Link to this

ARed For the ones, like me, who know what they want and what they will and will not allow, that’s where the problem comes in. If you aren’t willing to do XYZ, there are dozens of women who will take your place and be treated any old way.

I’m going to have to agree with this statement. I know it’s cliche nowadays but the meaning still as effective as ever. No one can do more than what you’re willing to accept and tolerate. I’d much rather any given day be on the shallow (as in small in numbers) end of the dating pool than the crowded deep end where any and everything goes. It’s so funny to me too because when you chop a dude at the knees for a deal breaker that he was made aware of from the jump (as being a deal breaker), you can’t turn for him trying to get back in. Know why? Because you’re of that small minority that actually have self worth and value instilled and willing to walk than deal. Ahhh. Just seeing a brotha sweat trying to prove he knows your a woman of substance and a good catch is just soooo refreshing and support the ideal that hanging on to doing the right thing for oneself isn’t always futile. I’ll be skipping all day today.

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 12:47 PM | Link to this

@Poppa G

You got mail!!!

By Dan

September 8, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

I’mma walk in if for nothing else than to agree with Truth’s 12:17pm.

Personal responsibility…first step to finding out who you are (self actualization)….

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

@Dan

got an email address?

By Nothing New Under The Sun

September 8, 2008 12:52 PM | Link to this

ARed: Yeah, the get knocked up advice is poor. A lot of brothers don’t even cut their own grass nowadays, so putting a check in the mail is no big deal…don’t believe that hype!

Anybody want to help me with this one: how do you meet a woman who admires your drive, your ambition, your community involvement, etc, but then all she wants you to do is be up under her as soon as you get off work? Any advice would be helpful…

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 12:53 PM | Link to this

@Nothing New

It becomes such a common convo game and it is hard to not get caught up in the same shyte…but when you realize what you are doing…makes you almost want to cut your tongue out…lol

By China Doll

September 8, 2008 12:54 PM | Link to this

In dating you attract what you are, for the most part. If you are not happy with what who you are attracting look at yourself.

Yes, the dating scene is often very pretentious and you have to navigate your way through that. if that’s not your scene.

Personally, I have found some OK guys. Most of whom are* “works in progress.”* Not to say that there is anything wrong with that…for me, not really interested in “construction jobs” so I keep it moving.

But I have come to the resolve that I may not find MR. CHINA DOLL and I’m OK with too. I don’t live my life around the whether or not I find him or not. I just enjoy myself, have fun with friends and family and JUST BE.

By Chink

September 8, 2008 12:55 PM | Link to this

Afternoon

Well I agree with Poppa and Abc.

While I have had many misadventures in atlanta I realize I can’t be bitter about it ..I meet new people everyday and I just put a huge smile on and be happy..he will find me eventually…just know when you arent compatible and dont settle.

There has been this misconception about the “ratio” formula going around …while I dont see it …don’t feed the notion by “believing it”. It breeds insecurity and desperation! There is someone for you and only you and dont believe otherwise…..

By melvinowens

September 8, 2008 1:02 PM | Link to this

there are so many singles in atlanta, because you have so many gay folks

By Dan

September 8, 2008 1:03 PM | Link to this

@Mk

Danbynight@netzero.com

By Atl Lady

September 8, 2008 1:08 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon Blog Family!!! Just peeping in for a few minutes. Agree with a lot that’s been said. Got a question for all. How do you shake the churchlady persona?? People can tell I’m a Christian almost as soon as I walk into a room and I don’t always like it.

By Tazzee

September 8, 2008 1:09 PM | Link to this

This is the thing, I’ve always said that if my goal were to find a husband then Atlanta would not be my first choice in a city. But as someone who is single - the city offerings are great. I meet all kinds of men in Atlanta. Sure, they may not be ready to commit, but I’m not sure if I’m ready to commit either - so it’s cool with me.

But as a single woman, I never have to worry about finding something to do or someone to do it with. And with the COL, I can afford to do it.

Cemeeli Hey Lady. The voter registration is supposed to be bipartisan, but my friends and I had on our Obama t-shirts. One funny:

There were a lot of Latinos in the area and I don’t think a lot of them spoke much English, so when I would ask if they wanted to register to vote, they would just smile and keep going. Well this one couple approached and she spoke English and wanted to register. He asked her what she was doing and she told him in Spanish. He said something back in Spanish and said Obama. So I said ‘Si Se Puede’ and he turned to me and started speaking Spanish. I was like ‘sorry, that’s all I got’ LOL.

Overall it was a great experience but it was one of those times that I wish I would have continued with my Spanish classes.

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 1:09 PM | Link to this

@Dan

You got mail!!!

By BLOW ME u BIZZIES

September 8, 2008 1:09 PM | Link to this

This is funny….lol. I am enjoying it though.

By BLOW ME u BIZZIES

September 8, 2008 1:10 PM | Link to this

This is funny….lol. I am enjoying it though. This blog is a GREAT glimpse of what’s going on in the A…A bunch of fake b.s.

By Beautiful

September 8, 2008 1:10 PM | Link to this

i’m torn, but not really. truth i got you telling me it’s my fault and then there’s mr telling me it’s their fault. i’m going with mr. lol.

good comments thus far!

By AmazonRed

September 8, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

Nothing New, yes the knocked up advice was poor, but even sadder there were a couple of girls in the group who considered the advice because “they wanted to have children anyway” smh

As for your dilemma, I’m torn between telling you that everyone has their issues so you gotta figure out what’s a deal breaker. But I also want to say that if the clinginess is a problem now, it always will be and maybe you should look elsewhere. I guess I need more information!

By they way, how tall are you? LOL

By China Doll

September 8, 2008 1:15 PM | Link to this

True Story

My friend, lets say her name is Monica. She has always been attracted to the jet set lifestyle, designer this and that, money/power. Monica met this guy, they dated for bout a year. He had a good job, nice house, seemed to have it all.

She was very impressed. Put the marriage pressure on him….they got married, brought the dream house, nice cars, had two kids. Fast forward to now, he lost his corp. job at Home Depot, now doing contract work. She finds out recently (8 years) later that he owes the IRS approx. $75K in back taxes (could be more). When they were dating, they traveled, ate good, he dressed her and himself…living fabulous. He was able to do this because he was selling off his HD stock, however he never paid the taxes/penalties on the stock. He has not filed taxes in at least 15 years. He also was only making 40K at HD instead of the six figures he told her, she was attracted to the glitz.

Moral of the story: She got what was she was attracted too. She says she is staying because of the kids…but is misable.

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 1:16 PM | Link to this

@ATL Lady

Well, is that really a bad thing…????…would you rather not simply wear it in your persona…and ppl know it than it open your mouth not back it up??? You be you and if GOD is what ppl see in you then hallelujah…uh-huh and amen…nothing wrong with that at all.

By Beautiful

September 8, 2008 1:16 PM | Link to this

but then all she wants you to do is be up under her as soon as you get off work?

y’allsa trip! don’t get married, get a dog.

By Nothing New Under The Sun

September 8, 2008 1:19 PM | Link to this

Atl Lady: Let a p*rn video stick up out of your purse. Tell us how that goes.

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 1:19 PM | Link to this

@Tazee

Git back on the horse and pick up some fluency…you got smarts…not get some gumpstion to back it up…you did not forget what you learned…you just weren’t paying attention…lol..me entiendes??

By The Truth

September 8, 2008 1:20 PM | Link to this

Ared I’m just saying these same folks keep throwing themselves against the wall and wondering why it hurts so much. Always looking for the next piece of happiness to come. Someone in here summed it up one day and the word is joy. If someone doesn’t have it they can’t get it from another person. Alof of folks don’t date, they LAND on some unsuspecting soul and then wonder why that person bolts so fast. To much to soon is so not sexy. LMAO

Sides I’ve been thinking about going back and rereading that one agin myself. I need to get my chakras aligned. LOL You know of any other good ones for recommended reading?

Blow I’m offering you my peace pipe which is laced with some higly illegal substances. Smoke and be easy. LOL

Chink 100% cosign. The best thing a chick could do is quit reading the headlines and just be who she is. If dudes read the headlines we’d think most are gay or in jail. Sorry, that one is true. LOL

By AmazonRed

September 8, 2008 1:21 PM | Link to this

Chink - Good attitude. I feel the same way.

China Doll - Good story.

By Dan

September 8, 2008 1:25 PM | Link to this

@China doll

Thanks classic “okey-doke”

By Nothing New Under The Sun

September 8, 2008 1:28 PM | Link to this

ARed: I am 6’2”. And no, I can’t do a clingbat. I’ve always enjoyed my own space, but am seeing now that it could be a problem for women I meet.

By AmazonRed

September 8, 2008 1:30 PM | Link to this

Always looking for the next piece of happiness to come. Someone in here summed it up one day and the word is joy. If someone doesn’t have it they can’t get it from another person.

Truth, you are spot on. I was having an in-depth convo with Beau, in between our marathon watching of football games and CNN. He’s had a pretty rough year and he said something to the effect of “I don’t want to make you miserable” because of his gloomy attitude.

I had to remind him that he couldn’t MAKE me anything. Just like I can’t make him happy. It all comes from within.

By Tazzee

September 8, 2008 1:30 PM | Link to this

M’Karyl I just got through 2 semesters in college (almost 20 years ago), so no I didn’t forget what I learned, I can always catch a word or two, but that’s it. I can piece together a few sentences in case of emergency but an actual conversation - never got that far.

Been saying I was going to take classes for a while, just never put it high on my list of priorities.

By Leggs

September 8, 2008 1:34 PM | Link to this

China Doll, sorry, but you’re friend got exactly what she wanted. So engrossed in the lifestyle didn’t ask enough pertinent questions to sustain her happiness level. Now, he’s doing contract work and she’s miserable cuz the glitz is gone. Now, that’s shallow!

AtlLady, hey chica. Do you wear only ankle length skirts and button up to the neck blouses? Naw, I’m kidding.

By AmazonRed

September 8, 2008 1:34 PM | Link to this

I am 6’2”. And no, I can’t do a clingbat. I’ve always enjoyed my own space

Nothing New - Hmm…tall AND a man who enjoys his own space? Well hello sexy! LOL

By Nobody Knows

September 8, 2008 1:35 PM | Link to this

Forbes is insane. This is the second worst city I’ve lived in for singles compared to L.A.

New York, Chicago, Ft. Lauderdale, Charleston are all better for singles in my opinion.

Forbes writers are on crack.

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 1:36 PM | Link to this

@Tazee

Fluency in a language is more accessible when one thinks in it…some words, phrases to translate in your head…when you see something or hear something, etc…say to yourself, how would I say that in Spanish…see how well it works to pull more from your recognition…look by 2050 ppl of color will not be the minority in this country anymore…get wid it…lol

By SlimOne

September 8, 2008 1:38 PM | Link to this

ARed My ex told me he even though he couldn’t find it within himself to be the man he wanted to be for me, he did say if i wanted to go ahead and have a kid that he’d do that much. WTF! To me committing to a child is far more intense than committing to a mate. I didn’t want that lifelong tie.

By Cemeeli

September 8, 2008 1:39 PM | Link to this

Tazzee again, I’m glad to hear you and others were out there getting the communities registered to vote. The Latin community does need some more influence. rockin’ the Obama T, good deal.

How do you shake the churchlady persona?? People can tell I’m a Christian almost as soon as I walk into a room and I don’t always like it.

Atl Lady if that’s a part of your M.O. how about you roll with?! Don’t change anything that comes naturally as Atl Lady.

By Nobody Knows

September 8, 2008 1:41 PM | Link to this

You are correct go this is the place for the african americans and mexican americans

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 1:42 PM | Link to this

So let’s sur Forbes for false something or another…now the population is really gonna jump withregard to the number of single ppl…oh lawd, more womens…in the ATL…lol…they are going to have to bring back single only apartment complexes…lol…anyone remember those???

By China Doll

September 8, 2008 1:42 PM | Link to this

Leggs

That’s the point…she got want she wanted, DUH

By Sidelines

September 8, 2008 1:43 PM | Link to this

Truth, I hear yah…, but no I can’t think of any right now, but if I come across anything, I’ll be sure to let you know. :)

Blow…my bad!

By AmazonRed

September 8, 2008 1:44 PM | Link to this

SlimOne - WTF?!? That is crazy. Yeah, thanks, but no thanks. LOL.

Not all of us women are itching to be mothers so much that’s we’d willingly do it w/out husbands!

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 1:46 PM | Link to this

SlimOne

he did say if i wanted to go ahead and have a kid that he’d do that much. WTF!

Me too…WTF X 3…that reminds me of the so-called Rasta brother who told me that he was go grateful for this sister who helped to take care of him in his time of need…so he gave her the gidt of two sons by him…lol

By BLOW ME u BIZZIES

September 8, 2008 1:51 PM | Link to this

Please Truth no illegal substance for me. I am just fine. I am easy…Just speaking the truth…and I see most ppl as usual CAN NOT handle the real real….TRUTH that is.

nothing new Lol! What you told chuch lady!

By Teresa

September 8, 2008 1:53 PM | Link to this

TO ATL Lady-change persona by changing your ORA.

By Beautiful

September 8, 2008 1:54 PM | Link to this

cee it’s good to see you all excited about voting. i can’t wait for him to make the changes he is promising. i can’t lie though, i’m praying it’s not all talk. he’s gonna win … hands down, but the real win is when the troops come home.

i still don’t know why we’re over there.

By For Real

September 8, 2008 1:54 PM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!!!

Why folks mad cause nobody wants to marry them? Question Why does it always have to be the other person, why can’t it be you sometimes?

Ared I will knock you up. For Real now shredding vasectomy documents.

Blow I see you found a workaround on your register. Glad to see you back but what’s your definition of fake? You know some people are just phoney for real.

Tazee Por for vor bangte uno we be in.

By Nothing New Under The Sun

September 8, 2008 1:55 PM | Link to this

ARed: Thanks, LOL.

OK, dating sucks here for the women. Is anyone trying to meet brothers in other cities? How’s that going?

By Leggs

September 8, 2008 1:55 PM | Link to this

No she didn’t…doubt she planned nor wanted to wind up miserable.

By NEW-MELO

September 8, 2008 1:57 PM | Link to this

Do you wear only ankle length skirts and button up to the neck blouses? Naw, I’m kidding

well,its the two of us kidding then sexxyLcoz i wanted to ask same qstion.Wear smthing with a hip length slit Atllady and see what eyez & attn u get…..

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

September 8, 2008 1:59 PM | Link to this

Afternoon Blog Familia!! Hope everyone is doing well!

Go Falcons

BLOW ME u BIZZIES I know you posted this hella early about BMR, I love that show!

Not much to post on topic, just wanted to drop in!

By AmazonRed

September 8, 2008 2:00 PM | Link to this

Ared I will knock you up. For Real now shredding vasectomy documents.

LOL For Real, no thanks. I’m not seeking to be a baby mama!

By Cemeeli

September 8, 2008 2:03 PM | Link to this

Hi Beautiful. Chile, i cain’t wait til November! My kiddo ask if he can do the voting when we go to the poll? I allowed him that experience during the primaries so he’s excited about this Nov. election.

. i can’t lie though, i’m praying it’s not all talk.

This goes with either party. No one knows whos/when the change or if it will come seriously. Hey but surely your voice doesn’t count if you don’t make it count.

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 2:03 PM | Link to this

@Nothing New

I have been in South Hampton for a year…nope…not here..I will admit that the brothers are a lot less demeaning and such…but hey-ale…most of them are convicted felons…lol…but I have not really been checking the scene too tough… a lot of older women and younger men here…young heads love their older babes..I gotta check id’s…lol…

By For Real

September 8, 2008 2:12 PM | Link to this

McCain vs Obama Economy:

Tax Cuts:

McCain:

Would keep tax rates low for higher-income taxpayers and slash rates for corporations, arguing that this is the way to jump-start a lethargic economy and create more jobs.

Obama:

He would retain all of the Bush tax cuts for families making less than $250,000 a year, but would do away with Bush’s cuts for people making more than that.

Obama

The wealthiest 1 percent of taxpayers, those making roughly $600,000 or more, would see their taxes go up on average by $93,709 in 2009, according to an analysis done by the Tax Policy Center, because Obama would begin implementing his tax changes even before the scheduled expiration of the Bush cuts.

McCain

Those same taxpayers would see an average reduction of $48,860, reflecting in part additional cuts he is proposing.

By KJ

September 8, 2008 2:14 PM | Link to this

Yeah, “best for singles” is way too broad. It needs to be broken down by age, gender, ethnicity, etc.

For white 30+ men, it’s a virtual wasteland here.

By For Real

September 8, 2008 2:14 PM | Link to this

McCain vs Obama Ecomony:

continued….

The bottom 20 percent of taxpayers, those with taxable income of roughly $19,000 per year or less, would see their taxes cut by an average of $567 under Obama’s program and $21 under McCain’s plan, the tax center estimates.

For the 20 percent of taxpayers right in the middle of the income scale, making roughly between $37,600 and $66,400, the tax break would be $1,118 under the Obama plan and $325 under the McCain plan in 2009, according to the analysis done by the tax center, a joint venture of the Urban Institute and the Brookings Institution, two Washington think tanks.

Some Facts to Consider

By Atl Lady

September 8, 2008 2:15 PM | Link to this

Melo If I could wear it to work, I’d probably do it on occassion since I spend a lot of my waking hours in this place.

For Real Why did you think I asked the question?? I know it’s my fault. :-)

By SlimOne

September 8, 2008 2:15 PM | Link to this

For Real Why folks mad cause nobody wants to marry them? How about you answer, Why folks get mad cause chicks don’t wanna fluck them?

By Beautiful

September 8, 2008 2:17 PM | Link to this

cee when they announce him winner, you can take shelter with me if you like. lol. j/k, but not really.

cee, mytwo, qc, uk … y’all have a good day, ya hear! lol.

By For Real

September 8, 2008 2:17 PM | Link to this

Oh and I forgot to add this as well:

The government’s debt would go up sharply — by $3.5 trillion under the Obama plan and by $5 trillion over the next decade under McCain’s plan, the tax center estimates.

By For Real

September 8, 2008 2:23 PM | Link to this

Slim Why folks get mad cause chicks don’t wanna fluck them? I’ll answer your question if you answer this one: What is a dude to do when his wang is hard enough to cut diamonds?

Atl Lady Here sit next AAD and let’s talk about what you did right and what you did wrong. Do mind if I sway up and down while we chat?

By Tazzee

September 8, 2008 2:23 PM | Link to this

Tazee Por for vor bangte uno we be in.

For Real you are a straight up NUT! Thanks for the Monday laugh.

By Atl Lady

September 8, 2008 2:26 PM | Link to this

For Real Do these plans include the true x-factor which is unemployment? Part of the sizable debt has been because of the increasing unemployment numbers. No jobs mean the system’s resources are drained and there is no taxable income to replinish. Are they going to do away with the taxing of unemployment checks (which is crazy and deranged on the government’s part)?

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 2:28 PM | Link to this

@KJ

uh-huh…but still that only serves to exacerbate the situation…because e’erbody in the ATL can tell you why their particular demographic catch hades on the dating scene…the ATL is the city sitting on seven hills and such..you know, the w******* of Bablyon in Revelations…lol…so what kind of things do you experience…do you date outside of your race…do you have preferences…what makes you a good catch…and what do you think ppl do not get about you????

By Nothing New Under The Sun

September 8, 2008 2:31 PM | Link to this

MKaryl: Southampton, NY?

Well, I’ve spent a little time in two other cities (Memphis and Phoenix), and the pool of folks working day jobs and looking to enjoy themselves after work doing something legal was way smaller in both places. For different reasons of course. I like that in Atlanta all the people who enjoy the same lifestyle as me don’t have to be in one place. We have variety here, a diversity of pleasures if you will, and I find no fault in that.

By Tired

September 8, 2008 2:33 PM | Link to this

What is a dude to do when his wang is hard enough to cut diamonds?

Bloggettes, why is this issue always our problem? boy you better talk to the hand!!!

By abc

September 8, 2008 2:33 PM | Link to this

For the average American with average household income of around $48K, with a mortgage and 2 kids, they’re already not paying any taxes. They get it all back in their tax return.

If people making under $20K pay any taxes, regardless of filing status, pay any taxes, it’s due to negligence on their own part in not claiming what they’re due.

The people who make $90K and up pay pretty much all the taxes in this country, anyway — anyone making less isn’t going to see much of a tax difference because the amount represented by the percentage is so small. I don’t see as how everyone else has much of a complaint. It’s not as if tax reform will lower Social Security and Medicare deductions.

By NEW-MELO

September 8, 2008 2:35 PM | Link to this

Atllady wear ur church body wrappers to wrk alright but mix it up over the weekend when u go to publix etc..ull be pleasantly surprised.

By For Real

September 8, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

Atl Lady Great question, you mind putting your arm around my neck and arcing your back? Although unemployment is a factor it is not yet at the level percentage wise to have that much of an impact on the country’s debt. Spending is the big problem (ie wars, homeland security, IRS, Medicare, Social Security, NAFTA…) I have a plan to cut all of the above but I don’t want to bore everyone.

By SlimOne

September 8, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

For Real What is a dude to do when his wang is hard enough to cut diamonds? Well you take your hard wang, go cut me a 2 to 3 carat ring, come back to me on bended knee, and say these little 6 words: I WANNA BUSS!…Will You marry me?

By Hot Mamma

September 8, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

Since dating has gotten so hard these days, a purple bandit named “Big Jimmy” keeps me sane. “Big Jimmy” does not complain, he is always happy and always ready to give me what I need. All I have do is keep him powered with AA batteries. I aint met no one who can do like “Big Jimmy”, long and strong.

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 2:40 PM | Link to this

@nothing new

No…think Virginia Beach…Norfolk…Portsmouth…Chesapeake…the VA…coastal…mostly quaint…lots of military…a good, solid area of growth for the most part…lots of educational and enterprenurial ops…intense amount of violence though for the size of the area…competes with the Windy City and NYC for homocide numbers…the South with some Northern chili thrown in…lots of ppl from here still here.

By For Real

September 8, 2008 2:40 PM | Link to this

Thanks Tired, For Real now putting vasoline, Aloe lotion, and KY warming sensation into Tired’s hands while think to himself, Tired ain’t gonna be able to write ish for 3 weeks.

By tucansam

September 8, 2008 2:41 PM | Link to this

Yeah, it’s great if you’re single and gay. I spent a year-and-a-half there and had to get out. It was not for me. Loved the city itself, but finding a mate was waaaay, too tricky. Too many down-low brothas. Parties with women were weird, too. It was nothing to go out and get invited to hang out at someone’s house, and find yourself being interrogated by a lesbian. I have nothing against gays, I’m just not one of them. Anyway, it’s been 18 years since I left, and I don’t miss it. And from what I hear, not much has changed. I just celebrated my 15th wedding anniversary to the love of my life, and we have two beautiful kids. Yeah, a cookie-cutter lifestyle, or whatever you want to call it, but it’s what I wanted and what I was blessed with. Happy hunting, y’all.

By AmazonRed

September 8, 2008 2:41 PM | Link to this

Bloggettes, why is this issue always our problem? boy you better talk to the hand!!!

Ah ha ha ha ha!!! Good one.

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 2:42 PM | Link to this

@Hot Mamma

Stop…lol…see you know that it a truism…do the work without the jerk.

By SlimOne

September 8, 2008 2:43 PM | Link to this

oops, I mean 7 words. I was distracted by your wang.

By Nothing New Under The Sun

September 8, 2008 2:43 PM | Link to this

Hot Mamma: Wrong blog.

By Dan

September 8, 2008 2:44 PM | Link to this

@Angie

I don’t know how you do it, this west coast time is killing my head and my stomach. Hungry to Deaf, up in here.

@Slim

So dude mad cuz you won’t give ‘em none, huh?

Here’s what you do:

You grab him there rubbing it ever so slightly..then, ask for your rent money.

If he any kinda guy one of two things will happen,

either he gone to get the money or

you wake up with the sticky face…

(Skeeeeett)

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 2:46 PM | Link to this

@tucansam

uh-huh…you have a very typical story about the ATL scene and post-ATL scene…madness…same for a couple of my home-boys too…go figure…as a Social Historian, I look at so many factors to explain some very interesting differences in the ATL vs. other places…history of a culture could tell you a lot…and the ATL is one of those places.

By Wise Diva

September 8, 2008 2:47 PM | Link to this

my, my what a jaded bunch we are becoming. LOL

By Atl Lady

September 8, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

Wise Diva I wouldn’t say jaded. I think just frustrated. Jade is a beautiful stone. :-)

By Leggs

September 8, 2008 2:54 PM | Link to this

Nothing New Hot Mamma: Wrong blog. Not necessarily so. We talk about the power of silver bullets and other devices quite often here!. That was funny!

By AmazonRed

September 8, 2008 2:54 PM | Link to this

my, my what a jaded bunch we are becoming. LOL

WiseDiva, and this is what we have to deal with out there in the dating world!!!

By Hot Mamma

September 8, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

Big Jimmy is just what I need after a sorry azz date with Mr. Neva Gone Get It. “Big Jimmy” make everythang alright. “He is my good time in between times.”

You’ll betta get you one.

By For Real

September 8, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

abc Your 1st point is incorrect they don’t get it all back because salaries are not keeping pace with inflation plus the cost of medical, food, gas, daycare but they did choose to have kids so. Your 2nd point is partly true but what are they to do about medicare, social security, and inflation? Your 3rd point i agree with totally. The 1% made over 22% of the money in this country but doesn’t pay it’s share in taxes.

Slim If I cut 2 to 3 carat why don’t I just sell the carats and get a $100 prostitute and keep the rest of the money for myself? No need to threaten me with marriage.

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 2:56 PM | Link to this

@WD Jaded my arse…done growed up and see the light…lol…we did not make the ATL dating scene…we stepped into a steeping pot of foolishness…lol…hey…when in Rome.

By Nothing New Under The Sun

September 8, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

MKaryl: Got your 20.

Leggs: OK, I hear ya. So where’s the next simulation? I’d love to observe, for research purposes of course…

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

September 8, 2008 3:02 PM | Link to this

and this is what we have to deal with out there in the dating world!!! @Ared I piggyback that!

By Leggs

September 8, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this

ForReal, cuz those $100 prostitutes can have you paying with your life. SlimOne done had her testing and have papers to show you she’s one clean blogette!

By For Real

September 8, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

An evening with Big Jimmy and Hot Mamma…..

Hot Mamma: Oh dayummmmm i just love you Big Jimmy.

Big Jimmy: Buzz

HM: You know how to treat me.

BJ: Buzz Vibrate

HM: I had a ver stressful day at work today. This heffer decided to wear the same outfit I wore today.

BJ: Vibrate Buzz Buzz

HM: On top of that all my so called friends ain’t no time for me cause they got trifflin men in their lives.

BJ: Vibrate Vibrate Buzz Buzz Buzz Buzz

Hot Mamma mad as hellz now bc she forgot to turn off Big Jimmy and it’s 2am and she is ready for another round.

By Leggs

September 8, 2008 3:07 PM | Link to this

Now, now, now we are abt to enter voyerism….you sure you want to know! JK, really!

By Jassie

September 8, 2008 3:09 PM | Link to this

Happy Monday to everyone

Real lol!!!!!!!!!!! no need to threaten me with marriage

KJ It is a wasteland out here…

Now you guys have me cracking up!

Melo what’s up with the new moniker? I’ve been busy and off the blog, so I missed the assumingly self imposed change.

By Hot Mamma

September 8, 2008 3:10 PM | Link to this

Has anybody tried the vibrating panties? I think that they run on batteries.

Won’t that be cool to have on a work? Bust one in the department meeting?

By For Real

September 8, 2008 3:12 PM | Link to this

leggs Everything is 50/50:

By Leggs

September 8, 2008 3:12 PM | Link to this

That’s too much damn talking 4Real. Only sounds being made are those sexual grunts along with the buzzing of the device. Next sound will be the reshaping of the pillow and zzzzzzzzzzzzzz!!!

By Nothing New Under The Sun

September 8, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

Leggs: Just thought I’d ask. Don’t be shy now!

By Leggs

September 8, 2008 3:20 PM | Link to this

HotMamma, did you hear about the woman in England who passed out while wearing those vibrating panties? The panties were still vibrating when the paramedics arrived. Now, that was a funny story!

By AmazonRed

September 8, 2008 3:22 PM | Link to this

Leggs - TMI. LOL

By The Blogger fomerly known as Kym

September 8, 2008 3:26 PM | Link to this

Just stopping by to say hello..I am going to assume the topic is all over the place as usually and some how it involves sex,politics or flying monkeys from the Wizard of OZ.

By Leggs

September 8, 2008 3:28 PM | Link to this

You know what NothingNew, I’m definitely in the mood for experimentation. Here’s my address:

348 Dumbfluck Blvd. Tittyway, PA.

By Scott

September 8, 2008 3:30 PM | Link to this

I assume this is for straight people. Typical AJC to ignore gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered persons.

By SlimOne

September 8, 2008 3:30 PM | Link to this

Leggs You must’ve been tapping my phone. I have a Puddy Doc appointment today. Gotta use up this insurance while I got it.

For Real Why spend $100 on a prostitute when all you gotta do is take me to Cracka Barrel, then take me to the crib and make me an apple martini? I’ll even let you put the head in rawdawg LMAO, j/k!

By Nothing New Under The Sun

September 8, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

Leggs: Come on now, play fair…it’s just a blog dear. Don’t get your buzzing panties in a wad.

By Atl Lady

September 8, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

Scott Being single usually does include all of what you just mentioned. Why would you think any different?

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

September 8, 2008 3:39 PM | Link to this

Hey Kym, sex and politics yes but flying monkeys - wait one just flew over my head LOL

By Leggs

September 8, 2008 3:41 PM | Link to this

ok ok ok…here’s the address. I expect you knocking at 10:45p.

1353 Brockett Road!

By Poppa Grande

September 8, 2008 3:44 PM | Link to this

MK

I responded to your e-mail. He seems to be headed in the right direction already given the info provided. It would be up to the Judge (bench trial) or jury to decide if he was appropriate.

I’ve been in class most of the day. I responded during class.

By MLL

September 8, 2008 3:44 PM | Link to this

Leggs are you staying out of trouble? look like you wanna be starting somethin……How was your weekend?

By SlimOne

September 8, 2008 3:46 PM | Link to this

For Real Personally, I wouldn’t want a tute making me an aftersex sammich. Ain’t no telling how many ballz she done juggled at work.

Question blog dudes: Ya’ll ever had a chick go get you a warm towel to clean up with…but when she come back in the room, she using it to clean herself up, then gives it to you? LOL!

By Nothing New Under The Sun

September 8, 2008 3:49 PM | Link to this

Leggs: I didn’t know Strokers was a halfway house, LOL!! Are you serving time for sex addiction?

By Atl Lady

September 8, 2008 3:49 PM | Link to this

Slimone EEWWWWW!!!!

By NEW-MELO

September 8, 2008 3:51 PM | Link to this

Melo what’s up with the new moniker? I’ve been busy and off the blog, so I missed the assumingly self imposed change

im newly divorced honey,hungry as hell coz havent seen the v-shape in weeks……!! can we talk….

By Poppa Grande

September 8, 2008 3:51 PM | Link to this

AR

*So many of them will take any type of treatment and guys simply take advantage of that. *

That’s why I stand by my statement.

I remember my dating days, and I remember how many females just seemed desparate. Some I left alone just for that reason.

By Poppa Grande

September 8, 2008 3:54 PM | Link to this

Question blog dudes: Ya’ll ever had a chick go get you a warm towel to clean up with…but when she come back in the room, she using it to clean herself up, then gives it to you? LOL!

Yeah….Or course I used it and got another one as well.

By NEW-MELO

September 8, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

she using it to clean herself up, then gives it to you i suspect u prefer a warm towel Slim..try a cold one instead,keeps that rubber tight..a warmed up pudsy wl get inflated and sooner or later,becomes a wide tru-road with lots of seepage…..only good for truckers with industrial size wangs….

By Leggs

September 8, 2008 3:59 PM | Link to this

MLL*, still staying out of trouble. Went to the beach with lil leggs (track banquet) and the only trouble I stirred were the women say whatever you do don’t stand next to me. Had to laugh w/them.

NothingNew, no sex addiction over here (unfortunately). How’d I know you would recognize that address! Seems like every male blogger here knows that address.

You are not divorced Melo!

By Hot Mamma

September 8, 2008 3:59 PM | Link to this

LEGGS

Neva heard that!!! Gotta explore that a little more.

By lurker

September 8, 2008 4:00 PM | Link to this

Ya’ll ain’t neva lied about DL men. I met this dude and HE GAVE ME HIS NUMBER I call him after a couple of weeks. Well, his mouth is saying one thing but I’m getting this strange weird vibe. Nothing overt, just a subtle hmmm, nudging at me. I ran into again but this time coming from the same place we had our lunch date but with a dude. The look of glee was more than something to be ignored. He was more giddy than a chick on her wedding day. Uh Uh. Honestly I got “that feeling” while eating lunch with him. Not so much feminity but by a couple a questions he asked that no 100% hetero would ever ask. Ummm, no thanks buddie

By i'm swiss

September 8, 2008 4:01 PM | Link to this

“Question blog dudes: Ya’ll ever had a chick go get you a warm towel to clean up with…but when she come back in the room, she using it to clean herself up, then gives it to you?”

@Slim — That’s when you just wipe yourself off on the chick. Problem solved. ;-)

By The Blogger fomerly known as Kym

September 8, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

Poppa G

I remember my dating days, and I remember how many females just seemed desparate. Some I left alone just for that reason.

Okay I am going to raise my hand and ask a question because I have been told by 3 different people(including a female) that I do not look single. (Granted they can’t tell me what single looks like ) but apparently I am not wearing the look of singlehood. So does single mean desperate? And since I maybe out of the loop what exactly does single look like?

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

@Poppa G

I saw your email to me…thanks…I can forward that info to him if you want…I just wondered about the he say/she say…I just do not want him to get caught in court with his drawers down…so to speak…I know that ordinances and statutes msut have an appropriate interpretation for the application to be effective…thank you…again…I do not know him…but hey…he ain’t heavy, truly he is my brother…so may I say to you:

May Jah bless the giver. May Jah bless the receiver. May it be returned unto the giver tenfold…peace.

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

@Poppa G

I saw your email to me…thanks…I can forward that info to him if you want…I just wondered about the he say/she say…I just do not want him to get caught in court with his drawers down…so to speak…I know that ordinances and statutes msut have an appropriate interpretation for the application to be effective…thank you…again…I do not know him…but hey…he ain’t heavy, truly he is my brother…so may I say to you:

May Jah bless the giver. May Jah bless the receiver. May it be returned unto the giver tenfold…peace.

By NEW-MELO

September 8, 2008 4:05 PM | Link to this

ill call u auntie leggs from now on coz u take her side all the time..so what a man to do to get side play……………

By Nothing New Under The Sun

September 8, 2008 4:05 PM | Link to this

Enjoyed the diversion today. See ya’ll in 09, LOL.

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 4:06 PM | Link to this

$100 prostitutes like shoes from Payless…serve the purpose…but the cheap shyte fall apart and give you bad feet…lol

By MLL

September 8, 2008 4:14 PM | Link to this

LOL You are not divorced Melo! too funny…..

By Poppa Grande

September 8, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

Kym

Single doesn’t equal desparate. Desparate chicks let you do just about anything to them. They just want attention. They don’t even ask for affection.

It kinda like that Robin Harris skit.

“RH:I am going to the moon, bytch. Lady:Don’t call me bytch in front of the kids.
RH: Alright ho3.”

Desparate has no respect for themselves. They get used over and over because people know that they can get away with it.

As far as what single looks like, I have no idea.

By MLL

September 8, 2008 4:20 PM | Link to this

melo why do you always have to go there…..you read like a man who gets NONE at all….only wishing…LOL

By Wise Diva

September 8, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

single chicks show cleavage, it’s supposed to be part of the single girl uniform

By AmazonRed

September 8, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

I remember my dating days, and I remember how many females just seemed desparate. Some I left alone just for that reason.

PG, you’ve always posted like you have some standards and commons sense! Lawd knows with you being an athlete you could have made these chicks do darn near anything, if you were that type of guy.

That’s why you’ve got yourself a good woman!

By Poppa Grande

September 8, 2008 4:30 PM | Link to this

MK

I would suggest that he get an attorney though.

There could possibly be other defenses that could cover him or technicalities that could get the case thrown out (i.e. miranda rights)

Also, pro se defendants are more likely to lose. They even tell this to attorneys: He who represents himself has a fool for a client.

So there are attorneys who solely base their practices on representing attorneys.

By MLL

September 8, 2008 4:30 PM | Link to this

PG I get the opposite ppl tell me I look married all the time….

By NEW-MELO

September 8, 2008 4:31 PM | Link to this

mll one is noone in my book,i wish 10 were legal…my apetite is quad-gigantic…

By MLL

September 8, 2008 4:33 PM | Link to this

single chicks show cleavage, it’s supposed to be part of the single girl uniform I don’t know bout that WD I’ve seen plenty of married women showing just as much cleavage as the single ones.

By Poppa Grande

September 8, 2008 4:34 PM | Link to this

single chicks show cleavage, it’s supposed to be part of the single girl uniform

I guess that I have to throw away Mrs. PG’s whole wardrobe. She loves lowcut dresses, blouses, shirts, etc.

No more low cut!! All turtle necks all the time…even in the summer.

lol

By Atl Lady

September 8, 2008 4:34 PM | Link to this

Kym This is kinda why I asked the question earlier.

Wise Diva Maybe that’s my problem? I thought because my chest is already big that giving a peek was just an unfair advantage to others around me. LOL

By The Blogger fomerly known as Kym

September 8, 2008 4:35 PM | Link to this

Wisey So if I don’t have at least one nipple showing then that means I am attached? tell me you are kidding.

By KP (http://chatkafe.blogspot.com)

September 8, 2008 4:36 PM | Link to this

Greetings blog family! I’ve been observing in Lurkersville. Some interesting stuff taking place on MIA recently. Congrats ATL for taking the number 1 spot for singles. I don’t think the rating will do anything more than add to the amount of frustration currently being experienced by ATL daters.

WiseDiva, when women display their assets for men to see, should they get upset after a hit and run experience? Meaning…women want to be respected, seen as more than a sex objects, but display more assets and cleavage than their intelligence. It’s difficult for a man to focus on a woman’s inside character with a pair of C’s or D’s in their face.

By MLL

September 8, 2008 4:39 PM | Link to this

PG why does desparate have to be linked to only women? There are just as many desparate men out there too.

By Poppa Grande

September 8, 2008 4:40 PM | Link to this

*Lawd knows with you being an athlete you could have made these chicks do darn near anything, if you were that type of guy. *

Trust, I met my share of wierd, disgusting women that weren’t “desparate”, but wanted to try crazy ish with me. So, I didn’t have to get a desparate girl for that kind of stuff.

I’ll spare you the stories. But yeah, I still got to experience all kinds of stuff. Some of it even surprised me. I can’t even listen to the opening of Biggie “Nasty Girl” w/o a flashback.

I’m far from a boyscout, but I’ve been blessed anyway.

By NEW-MELO

September 8, 2008 4:41 PM | Link to this

single chicks show cleavage, it’s supposed to be part of the single girl uniform there u go……..i think u have matstered/solved the scoring equation for single women in the A.Cleavage wl get u laid pronto…..

By Wise Diva

September 8, 2008 4:42 PM | Link to this

ohh I was just joking, about the cleavage! Forgot “LOL”

By chakra7

September 8, 2008 4:45 PM | Link to this

Poppa Grande what is the middle ground between demanding and desparate, as a woman? On the one hand, a woman can’t make demands/have expectations but on the other you’re desparate to not have any? - so what is appropriate or reasonable? For ex.- I find a delay in responding to txt messages questionable, almost unbearable, considering it is the least inconvenient way of communicating when getting to know someone. However, when pointing this out to said person, I get/got no real explanation as to why there was a delay except, “I need to do better.” How much effort or better do you need to be in order to respond to a txt message when you’re never w/o your blackberry. A woman challenging this would be which - demanding? or not challenging - desparate?

Look forward to your response.

By AmazonRed

September 8, 2008 4:47 PM | Link to this

If I had cleavage, I’d show it. So instead I focus on the legs and stomach. LOL

By Tazzee

September 8, 2008 4:50 PM | Link to this

Wise Diva you would think that after all this time you could post that without the ‘LOL’ and folks would know you’re kidding…

By Poppa Grande

September 8, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

PG why does desparate have to be linked to only women? There are just as many desparate men out there too.

I would imagine that desparate dudes exists, but I don’t date dudes and cannot speak to that.

By KP (http://chatkafe.blogspot.com)

September 8, 2008 4:58 PM | Link to this

Tazzee, I know WiseDiva was kidding :). However, there are many who believe they can’t progress in the dating process without displaying the underlying ‘goodies’ in their treasure chest.

By Poppa Grande

September 8, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

Chakra7

I’m sure that there is middle ground. That is why a tell folks to know themselves and what they will not take.

I didn’t want someone that I do any kind of way. There would be no respect there. I imagine females don’t want a guy that they can walk over as well.

IMO the middle ground is mutual respect. One that can give and take criticism without taking it too personal. Some people are just too soft, others are too uptight.

So middle ground become relative to what you want.

By MLL

September 8, 2008 5:01 PM | Link to this

I would imagine that desparate dudes exists, but I don’t date dudes and cannot speak to that.PG nor do you date every women on this planet either..btw men who always view women as desparate must have low self esteem thinking to themselves that a woman must be desparate since she’s giving him any of her time.

By Leggs

September 8, 2008 5:02 PM | Link to this

Good night everyone!

By Chink

September 8, 2008 5:03 PM | Link to this

^5 ARED

I do show what I do have in the proper setting and contrary to popular belief (KP) I have never experienced a so called hit and run … maybe I am lucky but just wanted to eliminate the idea that was brought forth…

You can look but you cant touch…

By Beautiful

September 8, 2008 5:03 PM | Link to this

dan where are you?

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 5:06 PM | Link to this

@WD

I ove my cleavage…it shows itself…lol…hey, I am the reason that God made a girl…and girls got it like that.

By M'Karyl

September 8, 2008 5:07 PM | Link to this

@PG

Thanks…I will give him your feedback and advice…I thinkit will help clrify his case as he goes forward…peace

By Luvin GA

September 8, 2008 5:08 PM | Link to this

I’m a 44 year-old single male, never married, and I find Atlanta women to be the easiest lays of anyplace I’ve ever lived. Its almost TOO easy, sometimes. I thought this was the Bible Belt !

By Dan

September 8, 2008 5:09 PM | Link to this

In Vegas baby!

By Tazzee

September 8, 2008 5:09 PM | Link to this

Morning Folks!

I’m on the plane headed back to H-town. First let me say:

GO FALCONS!!

Personally I think the A is a great place for singles. The nightlife and cultural events keep me coming back. For my skillset, the job market is great. I guess the COL alone is good compared to other cities on the list that I didn’t read but I must admit it’s cheaper to live in Houston.

My weekend report. Registered folks to vote on Cleveland ave. Saturday. Then christened my friend’s Wii Saturday night. That Wii fit is no joke. I’ll be buying mine this week

Sunday was great watching my team win.

By Miss A

September 9, 2008 8:28 AM | Link to this

@Gwinnett educator

I totally agree with you! I am currently in school to get my degree and as SOON as I walk across the stage next year, I will go home, pack my stuff and get the HELL out of Atl! This is not the place for a single woman that wants to get married. I truly believe that I have to go to another city where the men have fewer options and distractions. True, Atlanta is the best city for singles, and if you want to stay that way, then by all means, make this hellhole your home. But, if you want to avoid the lying married men and serial daters that never commit, MOVE!