Misadventures in Atlanta

By test

October 15, 2008 12:50 PM | Link to this

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By kelly

October 15, 2008 12:51 PM | Link to this

I learned from school and friends. All my mom told me was “you can’t mess with boys.” Had no clue was “mess” was. Big help, ma.

By Beautiful

October 15, 2008 12:54 PM | Link to this

good morning blanca, bloggers!

my mom did me a big favor last summer when my 14 yr old (now 6’1) visited her. she enrolled him in a sex program for teens at the planned parenthood clinic. he loved it and won’t share any info with me or his grandma. lol. hmmm, i wonder why?

i talk to him every week about girls and how he should keep his hands to himself. he was suspended from school last year for writing a love letter to a girl in his class. we both learned a valuable lesson. the principal called it sexual harassment. oh well. times have changed.

how are you guys doing this morning?

By DasVenus

October 15, 2008 1:20 PM | Link to this

beautiful what are we doing… pretending that its morning and that this thing was up on time. i dont usually blog these days, but i still enjoy lurking from time to time. today was one of those ‘times’…. LOL but then again i guess ajc had something else planned for me… which i didnt like: i actually worked.

im doing well. how are you this fine “morning”?

By RELL - 10/15/72

October 15, 2008 1:29 PM | Link to this

my intitial education in sex…was with porn…ya know vanessa del rio…and all the starlets to follow….then i learned the ways of love making from my first my international taste test…lisa…half japanese/filipino…she showed me what a women can do when she says i am hear to please….wow…..but my first sexual experience was from a nursing major..we both were 13 in the city library in the mens room…me standind she is kneeling…lol

By Blue_Kolla

October 15, 2008 1:30 PM | Link to this

Hey what’s up DasV?

Blanca …but they were uncomfortable, I was uncomfortable, and the conversation really didn’t go anywhere.

So where your parents trying to tell you how to position your legs… arch your back… what? Or were they asking questions to see if you had already engaged?

By MLL

October 15, 2008 1:35 PM | Link to this

My parents always told me not to “mess” with boys and stay away don’t even look at em…LOL but as I got older the only thing they were concerned with was me getting pregnant so off to the nearest clinic to get on the pill. That was their answer/lesson to sex and relating to boys when I was younger, as I got older I read books, had great cousins who guided me down the right path umm their path, after that it was trial and error and it’s still trial and error

Hey Angie

By No Name

October 15, 2008 1:37 PM | Link to this

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By AmazonRed

October 15, 2008 1:42 PM | Link to this

Good afternoon, blog family.

I really credit my parents and school for a comprehensive sex education. It’s probably saved my life, cuz a lot young girls in L.A. are fast and there is a lot of tempation!

From my household I was taught abstinance. Sex was supposed to be saved til marriage. Though that didn’t happen, we were taught to respect ourselves and our bodies and to take our time in matters in love.

Sex education in school was all that. You got it twice in 7th and 10th grade. You learned how to protect yourself, how to satisfy yourself (whoa!) and about diseases, complete with pics! One thing I really appreciated about my sex ed teacher was how you could ask her any question and she gave you straight up answers with no shame.

By RELL - 10/15/72

October 15, 2008 1:45 PM | Link to this

So where your parents trying to tell you how to position your legs… arch your back… what?

LMAO

By Blue_Kolla

October 15, 2008 1:50 PM | Link to this

Ared Sex education in school was all that. You got it twice in 7th and 10th grade. You learned how to protect yourself, how to satisfy yourself (whoa!) and about diseases, complete with pics!

That’s exactly what I was getting at. I believe that the vast majority of folks get the moral side of the education; and I don’t see that part of it causing feelings of apprehension. It’s the rest of the game that brings on the jitters.

By RELL - 10/15/72

October 15, 2008 1:55 PM | Link to this

Are you saying that women aren’t naturally monogamous? Yes, that’s exactly what I’m saying. On some level you must realize that we teach girls this myth in order to control their sexual behavior. I guess maybe we do that, but I kind of thought it was true. You didn’t have to teach your daughters to pee, did you? You only had to teach them where you wanted them to pee. We don’t have to teach people inherent behavior. We wouldn’t spend so much time telling girls that they’re naturally monogamous if they really were.

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2008 1:56 PM | Link to this

Yeah BK, I was actually fortunate to grow up in such a liberal place in regards to sex ed. Some parents DID pull their kids out of the class, but for the most part parents were grateful that their kids got a comprehensive education without having to actually do it themselves.

I’ve watched that MTV show, “Sex with Mom and Dad” and it’s scary how much these kids do not know about sex or even their bodies!

By RELL - 10/15/72

October 15, 2008 1:59 PM | Link to this

In order to ease their insecurity and ensure the perpetuation of their genes, men claimed women as property and demanded their fidelity. Female survival was contingent upon marriage, but marriage was contingent upon virginity.3 Female infidelity was unacceptable to the degree that incidents of infidelity could be punishable by death. Surely you are aware that even today in some countries little girls are circumcised to curtail their sexual desire and females can be punished or killed for having premarital or extramarital sex. Hasn’t it ever occurred to you that we spend a lot of energy attempting to keep females from having sex? If you think women are naturally monogamous, hasn’t it ever seemed odd to you, or at the very least like a big waste of time to resort to such drastic measures if females are not likely to be unfaithful anyway?

By Cemeeli

October 15, 2008 2:00 PM | Link to this

Hey folks.

How did you learn about sex and relationships?

Health/Sex Ed. was offered at my high school, AND we had a Day Care on campus. Guess that’s one subject the students applied what they had learned…

I learned about sex/womans body from momma. I was a late bloomer so alot she thought i was gonna get/have came looonng after those talks.

By RELL - 10/15/72

October 15, 2008 2:01 PM | Link to this

Because young females are conditioned to believe that they are naturally monogamous and they carry this belief with them throughout their lifetimes. So when women experience feelings that deviate from this belief, particularly after they are married, 8 Women’s Infidelity those feelings can cause enormous internal conflict. Many women resolve the dilemma by dissolving their marriages. Some women find it easier to think they married the wrong guy than to see themselves as some sort of shameful freak of nature. Their erroneous belief in a monogamous predisposition prevents them from becoming aware of their natural sexual tendencies in the first place.

By Cemeeli

October 15, 2008 2:14 PM | Link to this

….and then my hormonal older cousins let me see a sex tape waaaay to early. And after that, I was straight!…momma didn’t even hav’ta ask me if i care or wanted to have sex for a long time.

By Foots

October 15, 2008 2:23 PM | Link to this

My mother is a nurse and she had a LOT of medical books around the house. So I learned from reading. I knew more by the time I was 6 about my body, menstruation, sex, pregnancy, birth, diseases, etc. than most high school students. I’ll never forget the book she had which had pictures of a live birth. OMG!! I was like, I’m not doing that!

Thinking back, I’m amazed that I never asked her any questions about what I read. I probably thought I’d get in trouble for knowing so much. We never had “the talk”, though she did warn us that we bet not come round there with no babies. I guess she assumed I knew how babies got here already.

While I wasn’t on BC the first time I had sex, I knew about condoms (and contraceptive foam as a backup method). A year after that, I took myself to the Health Dept and got on the Pill for free.

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2008 2:25 PM | Link to this

Uh, I guess from the subtle reminder RELL - 10/15/72, it’s your birthday.

Happy Birthday, man. LOL

By RELL - 10/15/72

October 15, 2008 2:33 PM | Link to this

@ared…thanks for the bday wish and the sarcasm…;-)

By Foots

October 15, 2008 2:33 PM | Link to this

Yeah, it is the 15th! Happy Birthday Rell! 36 years old. Wow!

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2008 2:42 PM | Link to this

thanks for the bday wish and the sarcasm…;-)

Rell, Well, I had to get you a gift. LOL!

By Blue_Kolla

October 15, 2008 2:43 PM | Link to this

Question For The Ladies: Is a lack of parental education an excuse for ho-type or loose behavior behavior? And, from personal experience and knowledge, does parental sex education have any effect on a person’s tendency to engage in risky behavior?

By Cemeeli

October 15, 2008 2:48 PM | Link to this

oh sorry,

Happy Birthday Mr. Rell!

Blue remember that ques. i asked about if short boy maybe had seen a “looka see” on already at his age. I got my answer…well; he’d seen a naked femme strolled on a Dub car on the Myspace. That’d be what the 16 year old cousin has on his page. Then he laughed.

By RELL - 10/15/72

October 15, 2008 2:49 PM | Link to this

@foots…thanks lady…yep 36 and still going strong….

@ared..thanx for the gift…a picture would have been better

By MELO

October 15, 2008 2:51 PM | Link to this

slow today hah,all the regular baby mamas dont wanna comment for fear of being called sexually ignorant.

By Foots

October 15, 2008 2:52 PM | Link to this

Blue I wouldn’t think so. Most of the guys I grew up with use the fact that society expects them to be loose and ho-ish to excuse their bad behavior. Society gives its cues that boys are supposed to sow their wild oats. I think that parental guidance can help the guy protect himself from diseases and unwanted fatherhood and maybe postpone the ho-ish-ness. But don’t most dads encourage sluttiness in their sons and praise them for being popular with the girls?

By MELO

October 15, 2008 2:54 PM | Link to this

Is a lack of parental education an excuse for ho-type or loose behavior behavior? like i just said BK Some afrcan bros have told me sme facts they have observed as they date their afrc-american girls as compared to other races.I wont share the intimates but its fascinating.

By Cemeeli

October 15, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

Blue Is a lack of parental education an excuse for ho-type or loose behavior behavior? hhhmmm, I’ll answer this one after this meeting.

“from personal experience and knowledge, does parental sex education have any effect on a person’s tendency to engage in risky behavior?” For me, yes. If my mom wasn’t so straight forward about the sex business i’d probably wanna experiment/explore to find out myself. Which i did explore it eventually, but i was much more mature.

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

from personal experience and knowledge, does parental sex education have any effect on a person’s tendency to engage in risky behavior?

As with anything, it depends on the person.

But since you asked from my own personal experience, I had parents that I wanted to make proud and not disappoint. Everything they taught me made sense from my perspective so I didn’t feel the need to try to get away with stuff on my own.

In addition, they set a good example so I didn’t feel they talked one thing and did another. I think that’s where the problem comes in especially when you have single parents who still have a life and want to date too.

By RELL - 10/15/72

October 15, 2008 2:56 PM | Link to this

its a bird…its a plane….no its MELO…what it do pay scale…how is the payroll today…lol

By Bre'

October 15, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

BK Q1 No. Q2 No. I was never given a “talk” from my parents or legal guardian. I had enough sense of self to know my body was mine and not to be used by others until I was ready. My education was seeing everyone on the block and a huge part of my family spitting out kids by 10th grade like babies were free. So all I had to keep in my mind was a world map. I knew that if I had a child its was a huge chance I was never going anywhere. I guess it was pretty simple for me. I did not need to have athe talk all I needed to see was babies having babies….equaled my legs shut until I was ready.

By RELL - 10/15/72

October 15, 2008 3:01 PM | Link to this

@cemelli..thanks love

By MELO

October 15, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this

its ur brthday..mayne spare me! Why u so protective of what i own?

By Blue_Kolla

October 15, 2008 3:10 PM | Link to this

Foots But don’t most dads encourage sluttiness in their sons and praise them for being popular with the girls?

I wouldn’t say that I encourage sluttiness, but I was dayum sure proud when my lil youngin’ came in with his first number.

And when my nephew showed me the pic of his new girl with the big azz t!tties, I was like, “My Man!” LOL

But I’m also telling him not to be mistreating these chicks, trying to be a playa - shuffling multiple broads, AND that he doesn’t need to be out here sexin’.

By Chink

October 15, 2008 3:16 PM | Link to this

Afternoon!…late opening today huh?

Nope never got the talk from my mom. I dont recall sex ed class ..I remember looking at books with bodies and organs. I had no clue.

I don’t know how things would of been different for me since I dealt with abuse issues.

I am glad I didn’t become someone who gave her body away to everyone….I just know how it is so important to have someone to talk to about “the talk”.

I was 23 when I had my 1st and only child I was still young but I was an adult and thank goodness it worked out for me …my life didnt stop but increased by folds. The Talk is part of my parenting plan.

By Chink

October 15, 2008 3:22 PM | Link to this

Happy B day Rell and many more

By Foots

October 15, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

Blue At least you’re trying to do the right thing by them. My 37 year old cousin has a 15 year old son, and he’s trying to talk to him too. He told him that he doesn’t want him to end up like his Daddy, with two children out of wedlock (he has a 15-year old daughter too), and having to work two jobs to pay child support. And the boy happens to be very handsome with a deep voice, so the little girls be all over him.

I told him, from listening to the parents on this blog, that he really needs to worry about the fast azz little girls, because they are searching for acceptance out there. Back in the day, you could say the girl was searching for love. Now, she just want to be added to your MySpace page as one of 278 friends.

By Kym

October 15, 2008 3:25 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon All,

My mother is a nurse and she had a LOT of medical books around the house. So I learned from reading. I knew more by the time I was 6 about my body, menstruation, sex, pregnancy, birth, diseases, etc. than most high school students. I’ll never forget the book she had which had pictures of a live birth. OMG!! I was like, I’m not doing that!

That was pretty much my house(ever thing accept that last part) my aunt was not a nurse but she was a avid reader and health nut so she pretty open to discuss sex with me. She and my dad were of the belief “learn it at home so you dont learn silly stuff in the street”. If you are going to do it atleast have some knowledge of what the heck you are doing and getting into. I think that is why me and a few of my other cousins didn’t go out and become teen mom stats. My aunt had the book “Our Bodies Ourselves” and one Chirstmas another aunt gave all the girls “Dear Abby’s Guide to Sex” not because they wanted to encourge the behavior but because they wanted us to be aware of what sex was all about. Reading helps but did not prepare for the actually act. In high school we had the “permission only” sex class and my dad had no problem letting me attend, the teacher had a nurses aid come to the school from the health clinic and talk the the students about sex. She brought birth control to the show us sponges, condoms, pills etc. This woman was the coolest because she answered ever dumb question she was asked. From can you catch crabs on the toliet seat? To can a penis that is too big stretch you out of shape?(a dude ask that one).

By mqew

October 15, 2008 3:28 PM | Link to this

Aftanoon all. No, never received the “talk”… but I was raised in a Pentacostal church and they generally don’t do that.

Happy B day RELL!!

I will say that my SO was de-sensationalized (is that a word) from sex by his Mother who spoke about it whenever given the opportunity… I do mean whenever. He lost his at a later age than most…….

By RELL - 10/15/72

October 15, 2008 3:34 PM | Link to this

@chink/mqew..thank you guys

@melo….i am just messing with you mayne…you tender about that i see

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2008 3:36 PM | Link to this

By the way, in school our sex education class was 10 or 12 weeks. It wasn’t just one big assembly in the auditorium where you forgot everything you learned the next day and were too afraid to ask questions in front of 1200 people. LOL

By DasVenus

October 15, 2008 3:39 PM | Link to this

whats up bluK? life treatin you well??

By mqew

October 15, 2008 3:39 PM | Link to this

Actually, Mom did say somethin else… “Don’t bring no babies home cause I ain’t takin care of them.”

That was enough for me cause I wasn’t about to take care of anyone else either…

By The Truth

October 15, 2008 3:43 PM | Link to this

Happy Birthday Rell.

Never got a talk. Only thing my mom told me about women was take your time and never hit a woman, but a real woman will never put herself in that situation. Unload on the rest. LMAO

Rell first porn I ever saw had Vanessa in it. I had to have one of those. She was off the chain for real.

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2008 3:43 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ Rell and melo. Y’all are some evil bastids. LOL

By Jamoca

October 15, 2008 3:46 PM | Link to this

Afternoon all…

Is a lack of parental education an excuse for ho-type or loose behavior behavior?

(While standing out front) Straight up answer to that question: No, it does not.

However, I can ONLY speak for myself through personal experience and in no way I am excusing MY past actions, for I am fully aware; BEEN aware and accountable for quiet sometime now (as expected); as each day I am constantly reminded of what I allowed to happen (despite various and unfortunate incidents that began to take their toll from a very early childhood – from molestation to simply coming to the realization that BOTH of my parents had no real intentions in supporting my very existence, even though they were married ….for a child who seeks to be loved by the two people who contributed to her very existence, can drive one mad. So she goes elsewhere to search it out.

But I will say, the above results are prevalent on an unwanted child without proper guidance and direction and no love ….so it’s no surprise she learns much later in life than those who were more fortunate than she.

So therefore, despite what others may assume, think or have to say about past and/or present circumstances: BOTTOM-LINE at the end of the day, it’s all about how I view and feel about myself. I have no time to worry about how others may perceive me or MY PAST….too much is at stake and I have a shyt load of experience with “long winding roads that never turn” until “you” change up on your own direction in life.

Been having plenty of talks with my little ones (since pre-K). Does this protect them from making mistakes? NO. But they know a whole lot more about their bodies and the importance of good self esteem…along with a few other good pointers from a few positive male role models in the fam to the extended fam. And one of the things I’m so grateful for: they are not afraid to come to me with these issues as well, although I do not soley depend on their “upfront communication”.

So do not mistake it….no woest me going on up in this camp. Besides, through personal achievements, I am also constantly reminded that even though I’ve fallen and busted my a$$ a few times along the way, even still I have yet to be broken by it .

…and I can not say that I apologize for the long one.

By Beautiful

October 15, 2008 3:49 PM | Link to this

DasV i’m in Cali! lol.

By RELL - 10/15/72

October 15, 2008 3:54 PM | Link to this

@ared…evil?

By MELO

October 15, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

you tender about that i see A Lil…why u make fun of smeone when they down,that girl needs help for real.Im a good person but i see uall dont believe it,u think im just a pudsy addict!!

By Beautiful

October 15, 2008 3:57 PM | Link to this

happy birthday Rell!

a female being a ho or acting like a ho … that might be all that she knows. my nieces aunts had a lot of babies while being teenagers. it’s because their mother and her sisters did the same thing. that’s all they knew. it was the norm for them.

hey MLL!

By Foots

October 15, 2008 3:57 PM | Link to this

Speaking of learning silly stuff in the streets, I’m good and grown, but unmarried, and good and grown random folks are STILL asking me “Why don’t you have any kids? What are you waiting on?” I need to start telling them that I still remember the live birth pictures in one of my mama’s books.

We had a sex education chapter in our health book, I think this was 6th grade. If I remember correctly, they brought a banana to put a condom on. LOL!

When I do have children, I want to be straight with them about the good, the bad and the ugly. I want to be able to answer questions very honestly and share my experiences (in an age-appropriate way) by explaining what I did and why I felt that I should have waited until I was a bit older.

By Blue_Kolla

October 15, 2008 3:58 PM | Link to this

DasV I’m livin’ swell with no complaints. ;)

By MLL

October 15, 2008 3:59 PM | Link to this

awwwww Jamoca girl you are one true sistah, much love and a big ol’hug to you, I can truly relate to what you’re saying.

By Leggs

October 15, 2008 4:00 PM | Link to this

WOW, you guys are up and running.

Happy B-day Rell

I talk to my daughter regularly on sex, the tingling she’ll get, the many lines of the boys, and how she is not to have sex until her wedded night. A wish of mine, not sure if it will happen. I am teaching her to respect herself and her body even if a silly, horny boy won’t.

By Willie Dynamite

October 15, 2008 4:00 PM | Link to this

Happy B-day Rell enjoy it bruh.

On Topic- Never had the talk with my parents until they already knew what was up. I did get the straight talk from an Aunt who started giving us condoms at 12. Other than that I learned from the Game.

does parental sex education have any effect on a person’s tendency to engage in risky behavior? This is also a two way street. We all seem to know about the preacher daughters and sheltered kids that wild out as soon as they get a chance.

By Dan

October 15, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

Happy C-Day Rell

Sexuality is natural, it manifests itself differently in each person.

Sex (the act) is usually learned via some hodgepdge of socialization, imagery (from pop culture) and practice.

Women are trained to be chaste, only in America (becuase of the inherent Puritan value system). Boys are not constricted (becuase of the paternal hegemony of the Puritan value system).

The sexual acts between one man and one woman are as natural as breathing, placing any varying values on it is to one’s own detriment.

By DasVenus

October 15, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

beautiful oh. so for you the blog was up on time….LOL

bluMAYNE cool!…and good to hear. you watchin the debate tonight?? i wanna blog about cnn-style….but wit a different point of view… you know, minus all the pc and vanilla. you have a gmail account by chance??

By Foots

October 15, 2008 4:06 PM | Link to this

Kym Speaking of reading, when I felt I was ready, I did so much research from books and interviews from my friends who had beat me to it, you would have thought I was writing a thesis! I had a boyfriend of a year, who was previously known as a bit of a ho, but he never pressured me. Most likely because he was being serviced by others, but for whatever reason, he was content to wait until I was ready. I think I was lucky in the sense that I was able to make my own decision based on how I felt and the research I did, and that it wasn’t something forced on me or that I got talked into.

That’s a good position for a child to be in these days. To have enough knowledge to make a good (enough) decision. Plenty of folks are out there giving all kinds of misinformation and people “perish from lack of knowledge”.

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2008 4:07 PM | Link to this

good and grown random folks are STILL asking me “Why don’t you have any kids? What are you waiting on?”

Foots, I always give the same answer. “I’m not married yet.” Because I love it when grown azz folks try to tell me “you don’t have to be married to have a kid” so I can reply “well I do” and give em the gatdamn GAS FACE!!!

T

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2008 4:09 PM | Link to this

and how she is not to have sex until her wedded night. A wish of mine, not sure if it will happen. I am teaching her to respect herself and her body even if a silly, horny boy won’t.

Leggs, just wanted to tell you that you are on the right track. Your daughter should be fine. It’s been over a decade since I was a teen but that sense of self respect is priceless.

Now I didn’t wait til I was married, and neither did my sisters, but we ALL waited til we were out of school and had someone who really cared about us. One of my sisters was 23.

By RELL - 10/15/72

October 15, 2008 4:10 PM | Link to this

@angie/leggs…..thanks ladies

why not teach your girls to understand why they feel that way and explain the impact of having sex when you not emotionally ready to handle it…dont make it seem so taboo….teenagers love information so give it to them…dont just show the bad of what can happen if….because there is opposite to bad

By Leggs

October 15, 2008 4:11 PM | Link to this

Jamoca, excellent post. Yes, self-esteem plays an important part in impressionable teenage girls and boys for that matter. Glad you sought your own validation for your existence as you maneuvered in life. No doubt my child will learn from the streets, but she’s going to have a head start from ME!

By QC

October 15, 2008 4:15 PM | Link to this

Hey everyone hope all is well; i’m doing great i just wanted to pop in to speak..i’ve been so busy lately…hope you all have a great evening!

Hey BK ;)

By Leggs

October 15, 2008 4:16 PM | Link to this

And ARed, that is what I wish. If she makes it to her wedded bed, great! If not, at least in her college years where experiences are made, and you supposedly will have a more mature outlook on schemes, deceit, and pure d foolishness!

By MELO

October 15, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

DasV and Beautiful speaking of debate, i waz messing with this jamaican bro this afternoon and i said,are u voting for Mccain? and he said why? and i said, well,u need a tried and tested person in the white house coz u see what happened with the current untested one.He said well,No,Clinton was same as Bush,so whats ur point maaayne(jamacain accent) I saidtrue,but see what he did to us,bringing all those whooorrres to the white house.We had a good laugh.

By Cemeeli

October 15, 2008 4:21 PM | Link to this

No, never received the “talk”… but I was raised in a Pentacostal church and they generally don’t do that.

mqewif that ^^ ain’t the truth! But some of the Pentacostal’s were some behind the door, yup, yup, YUP.

What’s up?

Hey Moca. Nooo ma, you don’t get a citation. But if the po’po comes through and give you one anyway, i’ll pay it if you find out why the lil guy say his peanuts hurt and don’t mind if i come in his bathroom to look see if anything is different about it.

By Kym

October 15, 2008 4:27 PM | Link to this

Jamoca I loved your post..one phrase came to mind when I was reading it was..”I wouldnt trade nothing for my journey now.”

Does parental sex education have any effect on a person’s tendency to engage in risky behavior?

HMMM I am trying to figure this question out.

When I decided to have sex. It was not because my parent was so upfront with it. I was just flat out and out curious about what was the big deal. My dad had porn that I found.

My older cousins were always talking about some dude or dudette,my friend who was so shy she barely spoke done “the nasty” and what put me over the edge was my friend the Tomboy, had actually had sex, and with a guy!!

I just knew there had to be something to this sex stuff. First time was horrible, I called all my friends together the next day to let them know they were insane to keep participating in such a ritual. Tomboy had the nerve to say well then that means he didnt do it right. So if anything it was peer pressure.

By Cemeeli

October 15, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

“Don’t bring no babies home cause I ain’t takin care of them.”

mqew After reading this statement, i remember this. And i have to tell you to, and partly because of Pentacostal upbringing for them. I have 2, <— count ‘em, 2 girlfriends that are virgins today, okay.

One is getting married. The other is just uptight!

By DasVenus

October 15, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this

melo i crown you the man who can make anything sexual. LOL

By MLL

October 15, 2008 4:31 PM | Link to this

melo step away from the keyboard—————————->you’re always saying sometin stoopid

By MELO

October 15, 2008 4:40 PM | Link to this

MLL i thoght u and i dnt communicate anymore…

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2008 4:43 PM | Link to this

If not, at least in her college years where experiences are made, and you supposedly will have a more mature outlook on schemes, deceit, and pure d foolishness!

Leggs, yeah, it really will boil down to self esteem. Because if it’s there, no amount of peer pressure will deter you from what you think is right. I did lose my virginity in college, but once my boyfriend and I broke up, I didn’t have sex again until my senior year when I had a boyfriend again. Sure there were girls who seemed to have all the “fun” with random sex and there were dudes who “tried” to make me feel bad about holding out.

But much like on here, I wouldn’t allow anyone to make ME feel bad about myself. And it turns out folks actually respected that.

I’m so proud of your daughter. :-)

By Leggs

October 15, 2008 4:43 PM | Link to this

Rell, * talk to my daughter regularly on sex, the tingling she’ll get,* That emcompasses the emotions, the euphoria, etc. When teaching self-respect [**dont just show the bad of what can happen if….] “bad” isn’t part of the equation.

By Kym

October 15, 2008 4:43 PM | Link to this

Foots Talk about information overload I know what you mean. I read about lambskin condoms, latex, flavored, what could give you a yeast infection. Me and a friend actually took the bus to the clinic because my friend said can’t expect the guy to have condoms so we got condoms, and foam along with a stop at the drug store for KY jelly(I saw it in my aunt’s room) by the time we had finish our “mission impossible” I had a whole “sex kit”.

By MLL

October 15, 2008 4:44 PM | Link to this

see what happens when I’m bored-I start paying melo some attention

By Blue_Kolla

October 15, 2008 4:45 PM | Link to this

Naah DasV, no gmail - blue_kolla@yahoo

QC What up slim. ;)

Jamoca ‘Sup…

Ared Now I didn’t wait til I was married, and neither did my sisters, but we ALL waited til we were out of school and had someone who really cared about us. One of my sisters was 23.

Hayo, I’m proud of your parents.

By Blanca

October 15, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

Hey All Sorry about the continued blog problems - I know it’s a pain! I’m told we’re soon switching to a new system that should hopefully eliminate the recurring malfunction. Fingers crossed!

By MELO

October 15, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

MLL,bored not exactly but itchy,yes.Its a while since u had a good lay…..

god nite folks..

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

Hayo, I’m proud of your parents.

Thank you BK. My parents really did raise some vanilla azz kids tho. We never really gave them any real cause for alarm growing up. Again, I really credit that for them practicing what they preached.

By Jamoca

October 15, 2008 5:01 PM | Link to this

Thanks Leggs !! and MLL back at chu’ ma!

Kym much appreciation…yes, you can tell I got M. Angelo on the brain…

ClassCee Gal don’t do my bowaay like that…just buss’ through the “bathooom” doh’ and say: chile, lemme see! and whatcha scurred of? yo’ mama gave you them thangs! LOL!!!

Blue head knod

By Cemeeli

October 15, 2008 5:07 PM | Link to this

Jaaamooocaaa i’m still waiting on you to come through ‘n check that out? Lol…

I’m in here still meeting…working late and mad!

By Cemeeli

October 15, 2008 5:10 PM | Link to this

Moca

Okay gurl, You know i’m looking at Tim still talking to me crazzy!!!

[[[[[O]]]]] [[[[[0]]]]]

I know you get to have that conversation about why, coulda, shoulda, woulda but didn’t wait, way to much.

~Ciao

By DasVenus

October 15, 2008 8:49 PM | Link to this

came back to the blog to get bluK’s contact info and the blog is still open… must be on nee-kay time

By Beautiful

October 15, 2008 10:38 PM | Link to this

lmao at DasV!

By Beautiful

October 15, 2008 10:38 PM | Link to this

lmao at DasV!

By DasVenus

October 16, 2008 8:44 AM | Link to this

i dont know why this blogs technical difficulties amuse me so much… i mean how deep can it be…really? i think its something simple… major faux pas usually are. the bottomline of this one i suspect is someone needs a watch, and a schedule with checkboxes.