By Kym

November 6, 2008 8:40 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

Ladies, is there someone from your past that pops up every now and then to see if you are still single, open to a rendezvous, or ready to try again?

Yep, regularly like a bad pennies.

How did you handle it? Depends on the mood I am in when they pop up, if I am bored, lonely, need the itch scratch sure why not? If the mood is one of self-reflection I have remind myself of why this person is/was bad for me in the first place.

By Teresa

November 6, 2008 8:56 AM | Link to this

I bang them let them remember what they missed and send them home…WHAT UP BLOW!!!! See you at the party this weekend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By MELO

November 6, 2008 8:59 AM | Link to this

Did you ever love me?

What kind of a man asks that question??Thats a taboo!If its over,its over.The only time yu get back like that is if u want to angle for booty,yeah, i could ask u that when not fully clothed and trying to get u to slide the panty lower. Man,what are these men turning out to be.Crying over a failed relationship on the phone…..lame,lame,lame!!

Truth,im a soccer guy,not american footbal,but i cldnt help laugh when i read about the Oakland raiders cutting of Hall and that the team practices man to man defence.I Lol real hard!!

By Sweet Mango

November 6, 2008 9:04 AM | Link to this

Morning blogsville I rec’d a text from an ex fling a couple weeks ago. He does sporadically send texts and/or emails. I’m not sure why b/c all we had was great sex. I’m ok with reading from him occasionally, it’s just that he comes at me with this “why don’t you ever text/call/email me?” I’m like dude, we moved on many months ago, you should do the same.

To counter that, there is an ex whom I have many regrets over. I would love to just run into him just to see if there is any chemistry remaining. The breakup was not a good one and he took it very hard. I could very well get stoned at this chance encounter, but I’m willing to risk it b/c I always, always wonder what if with him…..sigh

By Foots

November 6, 2008 9:09 AM | Link to this

Good morning!

Ladies, is there someone from your past that pops up every now and then to see if you are still single, open to a rendezvous, or ready to try again? How did you handle it?

Most every woman has this happen. There were two guys in particular that I met during the fall/winter last year. One never progressed into anything other than friendship when I realized that I wasn’t attracted to him in that way. I left the other alone because I was ready for more substance and he wasn’t on the same page, so I went to go find that. Turns out that after three weeks apart, he was ready for something substantial, but I had already met my current SO by then and more interested in seeing where that led.

They both sent me “How are you?” messages a few weeks ago. I answered politely that I was doing well, wished them well and that was that.

By Chelle

November 6, 2008 9:13 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers: It seems right when the holiday season starts i get calls from the Men from my past They all have the same questions but it’s all good. Have a nice day bloggers.

By tweenty

November 6, 2008 9:15 AM | Link to this

I get this all the time. Every few months or so an ex will call to see what I been up. One just called me this week that I haven’t seen in over 5 years, he may have call me a few times during that time, anyway he states he will be in GA in a few weeks & wants to see me. He had sent me a text a few months back asking did I ever love him, Im thinking if you have to ask. Now I am still friends with a former ex, really great guy, it was just too bad I didn’t feel the same way for him as he did me, but we cannot help how we feel about someone. I think he still has hope, all I can do is not lead him onto thinking he does. Im no good for him & would never play with his emotions or cause him to hurt all over again, I cant stand me sometimes.

By Foots

November 6, 2008 9:18 AM | Link to this

And then there’s the dude who sends me holiday text messages (what dude other than him will actually text to say “Happy Easter”). We never really got anything off the ground (no sex, Melo), but we’re still cordial. Mainly because we’re good people and his cousin married one of my best friends, so we still see each other from time to time.

I do have an ex that used to pop up almost like clockwork after we broke up our year-long relationship. That led to another total 18 months in that relationship. We’re still friends after our last and final breakup four years ago, and we both have relationships, but every now and then, he’ll bring up something small about our relationship. We both usually just laugh off the good (and bad) old times with no thoughts at all about getting back together.

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 9:20 AM | Link to this

I have never had an ex resurface looking to rekindle a flame…other than that man that I have to talk to every two weeks or so. But he doesn’t count. I am connected with him for life.

There is one other that I see quite often but there is no awkwardness between us. I think mainly because we didn’t get the chance to see each other nekkid and it was a may the best, boldest man win type of closing. He has a made a joke or two about us not ending up together, but nothing more than that.

The only other incident with a former love interest, he is not ex because we never even went out on a date, is the one that called my house since I have married. Mase answered the phone and I heard him say as if he was answering a question, “this is her husband, who is this?” . That when I walked over and took phone from him. Thomas is his name, said that he had heard that I got married and was calling to see if it was true. The call lasted about 2 minutes.

Other than that no former drama.

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2008 9:24 AM | Link to this

Good morning blogsville.

I usually burn bridges with my exes. They always come back one last time, and when it doesn’t work, we’re finished for good. Any “check ins” are probably just to see if I’d sleep with them again (and I never do).

But if an ex ever contacted me for closure, I’d oblige, I guess. Usually the relationship stalled on his part, and so I went ahead and ended it.

There are a couple of guys I’ve gone out with but never slept with who keep the lines of communication open. If they ever came at me seriously, maybe, but until then, we’ll remain “friends.”

By Kym

November 6, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

Wisey I frankly think questions like do you ever think of me? Did you ever love me? And my favorite classic opening line..Remember that time when…

All are just ways for men to get their egos and or penis stroked. For example, that call of Do you ever think about me? Comes from a dude I had a fling with who has been married for what 6 years now? I chalk it up to he just wants his ego stroked and tell him just that. At which he replied nawww I was just thinking about that time when.. at which time I now know he wants his penis stroked. * In the case of some dudes penis and ego are one in the same*

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

Melo Contrary to popular belief some dudes and (gals) asks Did you ever love me? when they find an ex truly over them, and not pinning to revist the relationship.

I’m not saying it looks good on them when asked.

Kym Yep, regularly like a bad pennies. That’s a funny but good analogy.

Good Morning Obama-americans!

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2008 9:35 AM | Link to this

My mother was engaged to another guy when she was in college. They were the power couple in school, he a top basketball player, she the “Miss Black College” something or the other. He got drafted into the NBA, bought her a ring and a brand new car.

She couldn’t go through with it and dropped him. She ran into him years later and he still wanted closure. He asked if she still thought of him and she admitted she didn’t.

He had a lot going for him, but at the end of the day, she simply didn’t love him.

His loss, my gain. Thanks Mom! LOL

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 9:35 AM | Link to this

It seems right when the holiday season starts i get calls from the Men from my past

Chelle that’s because they all are looking a warm place to lay their…uh…heads during the colder months.

By Beautiful

November 6, 2008 9:37 AM | Link to this

morning cee, chelle, raqi, bloggers!

Did you ever love me? sounds like a simp to me. what a turn off. where’s rell?

By The Truth

November 6, 2008 9:39 AM | Link to this

Good morning blogsville.

On topic: I stay in touch with just about all my exes, including my ex wife who called this morning, but it’s nothing I would rekindle. The best thing to do after reading a chapter is close the book and put it on the shelf.

Melo to be truthful my team has become something of a joke. If this keeps on the way it is I’m defecting over to your football. LOL

Bailout update: The largest withdrawals from the bailout money have come from the largest, and healthiest banks(Citicorp, WF). These just happen to be the banks that have major stock in the Federal REserve and are owned, either directly or indirectly, by the rich banking families. Once again Bush finding ways to pay off his buddies before leaving office. This whole thing is a scam at our expense.

By abc

November 6, 2008 9:40 AM | Link to this

not going to say, not going to say…

Okay, just sayin.

Why is it so difficult for you to simply tell the truth? They deserve it. Given that, why do they expect to hear the truth out of you? Youthful naivete, perhaps?

I know, you can’t help it. The comparison is rather obvious, though: a man would simply tell you the truth, a woman will go to great lengths to avoid the truth in the interest of supposedly sparing feelings, keeping the peace — but the intended net result is to maintain their own appearances somehow. So, you screwed over some guy, you suck. Fess up, own it, learn from it, tell the truth and move on.

By Beautiful

November 6, 2008 9:45 AM | Link to this

Fess up, own it, learn from it, tell the truth and move on.

nope! won’t do it. it’s not my problem anymore.

why should i give you the benefit of knowing?

By mqew

November 6, 2008 9:48 AM | Link to this

Morning!

There is this one. A bf that asked me to marry him as he was going off to the military (I was in college). That wasn’t going to work. We tried the long distance thing but that didn’t work. We would always keep in touch and I think he assumed I’d wait for him not sure if I told him I would Well, I met MY love got married and he was devestated.

I was young and dumb enough to believe that we could be friends. WRONG!!! He would always find his way to ask, what happened. I always had a very simple answer. I MET THE ONE! Mind you we weren’t close friends but Holiday, Bday, I go home to the Chi we’ll meet for A drink type friends. Biggest mistake. It took me a minute, but he eventually made it easy for me by turning psycho.. which is kinna why I was able to move on with ease as I knew we would never be… even in h.s. he had a slight crazy about him, it had to do with his fam…

But, I never told him how I really felt cause I didn’t know how he’d take it. NOT proud!

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 9:49 AM | Link to this

Hey Beautiful.

I had a dream last night and woke up to an Obama-gasm.

i’ll tell ya what that means when you get old enough to hanldle it.

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2008 9:50 AM | Link to this

abc, I was about to play the violin for your swan song, then I saw the next reply and realized that clearly you have a point. sigh

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 9:52 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Beautiful.

By Beautiful

November 6, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

i’m not saying! you should have caught a clue and listened while we were arguing or having a disagreements.

By Foots

November 6, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

abc a man would simply tell you the truth

Maybe you would tell the truth in a “breakup and callback” and that’s great. But most men, not so much. The whole “I wanted to see if you were okay” call or email is really a lie for “Um, I’m lonely, I don’t have anything else going on so I thought I’d bother you”. That’s their way of avoiding the truth and trying to backdoor their true purpose for calling in the first place.

So to your point of men telling the truth, I don’t think many women have ever heard an ex-man call and say, “Hey, I just wanted to know if I could hit it one last time”. That’s the truth for many of them, however, they know that if they told the truth, they’d likely be speaking to the dial tone.

These are things you don’t exactly encounter in your life though, so I can understand your viewpoint as a man who dates women only. But as a woman who dates men only, the lies flow freely from your gender too.

By Wise Diva

November 6, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

Good morning! I got some sleep finally, went to be extra early, feeling great today!

I forgot to add that this dude is married now, with a child, so why am I still relevant??

I have a guy that I should have proposed to in my past, I was a dumb broad back in the day man, it’s kind of sad, LOL. It wasn’t meant to be I guess, but I sure did a lot to make sure it wasn’t sigh

By Barack Obama

November 6, 2008 9:59 AM | Link to this

@ ARED

Barack says your mother is a FOOL!!

She is a BIG IDIOT!! That’s a dumb AZZ story..I see you are a lot like your crazy azz mamie!!

Damn idiots!

By Beautiful

November 6, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

lol. you funny chile! i may not have had a good one in awhile, but i can imagine you and the ROCK saying together YES WE CAN, YES WE CAN!

lmao.

By RELL - This buds for you

November 6, 2008 10:02 AM | Link to this

HERE I IS BOOTIFUL!!!!!

did you ever love me….LMAO….he was just trying to play on the emotional side of women….trust be told he was testing to see if he could have some poo see…dudes are straight funny…..

ummm my ex are x for a reason and i dont go back….is there one in general i wish i could have gotten with….NOPE…if so i would have been with them…i remember the relationships but i also remember the ish that drove us apart….but there is one chick i dropped for my current situation that i wish….WELL YOU KNOW..real switch chick and for some reason i flip that inner freak switch for her..but she was always talking you going to make me lose control so she would tease…i played along for a minute then i dropped because she was not giving me any…and mw at the time was…see how simple we think….and this chick was overqualified for the job but i did not have patients!!!!…….funny things i just ran into three weeks ago and the spark was still there….but ya know how life goes….

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

Hey, I just wanted to know if I could hit it one last time.

LOL Foots I mean really. Sometimes abc just goes over the top. Whitebread used to try to find every and any excuse to get in my house or next to me. Hell even Mason did it during one of the times we broke up. A man is a man is a man.

By Blow me...is the birthday girl come party with me this weekend..Celebrate the new black pres...

November 6, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

Teresa See you this weeekend…

All Studio 72 is where this birthday girl is partying…

Come one come all!!

By mqew

November 6, 2008 10:08 AM | Link to this

In my case I wished I’d told him.

By abc

November 6, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

I’d venture to say, Foots, that if the boys give you lines like that, it should be rather straightforward for you to tell them the truth, along the lines of *”I’m pretty glad to be rid of your mendacity, if not borderline misogyny.” If he doesn’t get that, date up, first of all — but translate for him, your lyin’ azz and hatin’ on me by thinking I’m that stupid gets on my last nerve, azzhole, goodbye, click!

I’d consider that to be simply telling the truth.

WD, people don’t always marry their first choice. Will the one you sabotaged yourself with not always be a ‘what if’ in your mind, even if you marry another?

By Foots

November 6, 2008 10:14 AM | Link to this

Raqi Whitebread used to try to find every and any excuse to get in my house or next to me

Girl! I had one married ex try to look for houses in my neighborhood when he and his wife were talking about moving. This was the one who popped up months AFTER his wedding to tell me that I was the only question he had about his life and that he talks about me with his family, wondering if he did the right thing. abc doesn’t know because he doesn’t date guys. If he did, he’d understand quickly the depths of deception a man will go through, against his family and his target, to get what he thinks he wants at the time.

I ain’t saying it’s right, I’m just sayin that no one gender has the lock on lies.

By M'Karyl

November 6, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

I believe that it is best to let sleeping dogs lie…and stay that way…I found it interesting that several men from past relationships managed to manifest again in my life…but, it was like WTF! was the deal in the first place????…what spark or flame was initially ignited is exstinguised and gone…which is why the relationship became defunct in the first place…not a loss worth lamentating, nor one worth reigniting.

By The Truth

November 6, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

After I got divorced I didn’t speak with the ex for years. When we started talking again we negotiated a deal where she would be my private puddy. Really. She was married with kids but that didn’t matter to her so I didn’t let it get in the way of progress. Anyway, for 5 years she was old reliable. The thing was every once in awhile she would ask if I missed her and talk about had we worked out. I told her that was in the past and was over. She’d get mad and not call for a week or so and the cycle would go on. Finally I got tired of it and put an end to it.

The thing is I really didn’t even remember her, let alone still love her. What we had was cool for that time but life goes on. Thats why I’m amazed at people that hold on for so long. Let go.

And I can’t think of one woman that I should have married but didn’t. This thing went down exactly the way it should have.

By mqew

November 6, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

Is that an invite Blow

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CHICA!

By Beautiful

November 6, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

mqew why? what would you have accomplished? you have guilt?

By RELL - This buds for you

November 6, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

@DIVA

I forgot to add that this dude is married now, with a child, so why am I still relevant??

Here you go from my POV…once married, most men stick it on auto pilot…todays black man does not have a point of reference after the club/whoring is over which brings me to this lil story….and it parallels my life and many other men out there…its a lil long but good…btw…him being married and calling with that brain mcknight ish just proves my point..he looking for some side action…but here is the story

Claudius, the step-grandson of the great Roman emperor Augustus, was considered something of an imbecile as a young man, and was treated badly by almost everyone in his family. His nephew Caligula, who became em¬ peror in A.D. 37, made it a sport to torture him, making him run around the palace at top speed as penance for his stupidity, having soiled sandals tied to his hands at supper, and so on. As Claudius grew older, he seemed to become even more slow-witted, and while all of his relatives lived under the constant threat of assassination, he was left alone. So it came as a great surprise to everyone, including Claudius himself, that when, in A.D. 41, a cabal of soldiers assassinated Caligula, they also proclaimed Claudius em¬ peror. Having no desire to rule, he delegated most of the governing to confidantes (a group of freed slaves) and spent his time doing what he loved best: eating, drinking, gambling, and whoring.

Claudius’s wife, Valeria Messalina, was one of the most beautiful women in Rome. Although he seemed fond of her, Claudius paid her no attention, and she started to have affairs. At first she was discreet, but over the years, provoked by her husband’s neglect, she became more and more debauched. She had a room built for her in the palace where she enter¬ tained scores of men, doing her best to imitate the most notorious prosti¬ tute in Rome, whose name was written on the door. Any man who refused her advances was put to death. Almost everyone in Rome knew about these frolics, but Claudius said nothing; he seemed oblivious. So great was Messalina’s passion for her favorite lover, Gaius Silius, that she decided to marry him, although both of them were married already. While Claudius was away, they held a wedding ceremony, authorized by a marriage contract that Claudius himself had been tricked into signing. Af¬ ter the ceremony, Gaius moved into the palace. Now the shock and disgust of the whole city finally forced Claudius into action, and he ordered the execution of Gaius and of Messalina’s other lovers—but not of Messalina herself. Nevertheless, a gang of soldiers, inflamed by the scandal, hunted her down and stabbed her to death. When this was reported to the em¬ peror, he merely ordered more wine and continued his meal. Several nights later, to the amazement of his slaves, he asked why the empress was not joining him for dinner.

By RELL - This buds for you

November 6, 2008 10:18 AM | Link to this

Nothing is more infuriating than being paid no attention. In the process of seduction, you may have to pull back at times, subjecting your target to moments of doubt. But prolonged inattention will not only break the se¬ ductive spell, it can create hatred. Claudius was an extreme of this behavior. His insensitivity was created by necessity: in acting like an imbecile, he hid his ambition and protected himself among dangerous competitors. But the insensitivity became second nature. Claudius grew slovenly, and no longer noticed what was going on around him. His inattentiveness had a profound effect on his wife: How, she wondered, can a man, especially a physically unappealing man like Claudius, not notice me, or care about my affairs with other men? But nothing she did seemed to matter to him. Claudius marks the extreme, but the spectrum of inattention is wide. A lot of people pay too little attention to the details, the signals another per¬ son gives. Their senses are dulled by work, by hardship, by self-absorption. We often see this turning off the seductive charge between two people, no¬ tably between couples who have been together for years. Carried further, it will stir angry, bitter feelings. Often, the one who has been cheated on by a partner started the dynamic by patterns of inattention.

By Foots

November 6, 2008 10:20 AM | Link to this

abc I’m sure you tell the girls the same thing. Even the one you say lies to you on a daily basis.

If a man really wants to know why we broke up months later, then he didn’t listen to what I was saying before we broke up. I don’t leave doubts about why things ended. So when he calls back, I answer what is asked, we chat and that’s that. I don’t really need to decipher his lies or cuss him out, or insult him.

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 10:20 AM | Link to this

PSA*

I was going to order a cake from Sam’s for the party using a magazine clipping to have Obama’s portrait airbrushed on it. Legally they can’t, you must obtain rights to use their publication – I understand this… However, I was informed that they already had something (pre-designed), the woman went to make sure they still have it and was informed that management made them throw it away after the results. –

By abc

November 6, 2008 10:23 AM | Link to this

I don’t get it with your assumptions about men and lying, either. Me and most of my friends would cut loose a chick if it became apparent our only interest in them was sex. It’s not fair to a woman who’d want more than that. Getting laid is not so difficult as to have to lie; no woman has it all over another, as far as just sex goes.

Lie with the dogs, you’ll get fleas. Where do you dig up guys like that?

By Foots

November 6, 2008 10:30 AM | Link to this

Rell Often, the one who has been cheated on by a partner started the dynamic by patterns of inattention.

Interesting story. You could bring that to present day and quote any Jerry Springer episode where the woman says she cheated because her man was always out working and never paid attention to her.

Or in the case of your story, the woman cheated because the man was out whoring around, so she thought she’d get hers too.

By Dan

November 6, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

@abc

Mendacity….I love it!

@Foots

The condition of calling and asking for that last shot indicates: a drought and desperation.

Those times have you wondering about old g/f and cutbuddies and all.

But like Truth, once the “thrill” is gone, the number is deleted, old emails deleted, there is nothing but the memory of what happened.

I’m like the CIA wit mine…no traces - prevents blowback

By Foots

November 6, 2008 10:36 AM | Link to this

abc I could ask you the same thing. You’re still finding women who lie to you constantly.

Let me break this down: People often lie to get what they want. Period. It may be sex, it may be money, it may be the Presidency or a seat in Congress, it may simply just be peace. How many guys do you know that will say “Nothing” if their woman asks them what’s on their mind? They lie and say nothing because they don’t want to discuss it at that time.

People of all genders, races, creeds, religious affiliations, shapes, sizes, heights, etc. lie. You have to make peace with that yourself.

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 10:36 AM | Link to this

Foots exactly. He needs to be on the receiving end to see what we women have to go thru. He, (I’m talking to you *abc), is forever generalizing us women and our deceptive ways but then try to tell us that men are not the way we are experiencing them. Man…LOL.

The funny thing is although we become familiar with their antics there is always one that manages to slip in. One day Mase came by and I told him that I hate him…so we had sex. LOL

By Foots

November 6, 2008 10:40 AM | Link to this

Dan You’re a good one to hold to that. I wish more men would just let go like that and keep it moving. Shoot, even the ones who said they wouldn’t call back still do, some out of genuine concern, some to try to see what they can get.

Truth actually said that he stays in touch with just about all of his exes. I’m the same way, but like him, I don’t go back to sample the goods.

By abc

November 6, 2008 10:43 AM | Link to this

I’ve never said my girl lies to me on a daily basis. She keeps secrets and avoids subjects, and I allow it, because she’s going to do it anyway — as do all women, IMHO — and I either deal with it, or don’t deal with it. Pretty simple.

By mqew

November 6, 2008 10:43 AM | Link to this

Hey Beautiful

Why Telling him the truth would have, more likely than not, precipated his removal out of my world forthwith. I was trying to be a friend as that’s what he was in the beginning. He had issues and I thought he needed a friend. He did, but just not me! Guilt? Maybe a little. I should not have “let” him stay around as a friend.

By Dan

November 6, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

@Foots

If I run into you though….

I’m at that azz like we both in heat

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this

Jamoca Okay yea I see the inspire.

Blow How da hayo are you gonna post your b’day ‘party spot’ but then, don’t tell Melo what, day, time, or what your gonna be wearing? hahahaha.

By Beautiful

November 6, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this

mqew precipated his removal out of my world forthwith. i can see that. i can also see how it would be difficult to tell dude he suck and get ta packin’! cause for one, we don’t want to hurt his feelings i know i don’t … the cancer in me, two how will he react?

i believe it’s not our responsibility to let em’ know. what’s it called when your job can let you go without a reason … * i can’t remember what’s its called, but i look at it the same*.

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this

Ah Barack Obama, you think my mother is a fool for not marrying a guy she didn’t love?

She’ll be dat then. :-D

Thanks for taking a break from your busy day to give us a shout out.

By Foots

November 6, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this

Dan I ran into the ex that really had me broken up when he ended things three years ago, actually he was visiting my work location for an interview and called me down to the lobby to say hello. He was just as gorgeous as he was when we parted, he even still had that “Last Dragon Glow”. But after we spoke for a few minutes, I realized that I felt blank. It was good for both of us to get to the point of being able to see each other in person and not wanting to run to the nearest semi-private location.

By Blow me...is the birthday girl come party with me this weekend..Celebrate the new black pres...

November 6, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli

OH yeah….SATURDAY…10pm, Studio 72…

I have not officially decided on what I am gonna wear. I may wear…

“My president is BLACK” shirt…or something else.lol!

I am excited!

Oh yeah Cemeeli pick me up a plate from Bankhead seafood..I am gonna need some grease to keep the liquor down!! lmao!

Truth Don’t forget your BLACK American Express….I have nominated you as my DRINK sponsor. LMAO!

mqew Sure is!

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

I can see why do many folks claim to have skeleton’s in their closet. They don’t want to accept the truth about themselves, so they damn sure don’t want anyone else to know the truth.

Yeah, the fact that you got run train on at the NBA All Star game may not be anyone’s buisness but yours (and those in the room), but when your issues involve another person, like an ex you claimed to love or at least LIKED, why wouldn’t you aim to help them if they asked? That’s one of the first things addicts do in recovery. If they go seeking truth, they’ve got to deal with what they find. Let em have it.

One of my goals in life (other than just being happy) is to leave this world with no unfinished business. If I can help someone else achieve that in their life, I would, as I’d hope they’d do the same for me.

By Foots

November 6, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

Blow I have not officially decided on what I am gonna wear. I may wear…“My president is BLACK” shirt…or something else.lol!

I thought about getting a t-shirt made, with Barack on the front wearing a Rick James wig, saying Hail to the Chief, Bytch!!

I didn’t think that would go over too well though. LOL!

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

Blow…that’s JD’s spot. From what i hear that place is a blast. cool Now, how young will you be? if you don’t mind me asking

“My president is BLACK” shirt…or something else.lol!

Do that ^, and you might have an “experience” like i mentioned earlier.

By The Truth

November 6, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this

Blow Don’t forget your BLACK American Express….I have nominated you as my DRINK sponsor. LMAO! I got that Blow. Everything thats swallowed or chewed is on me. Btw, where do you want this Merc…I mean your gift delivered?

Rell man you’re getting straight historical with your references. LOL Do ya thang man. Was that from 48 laws also?

Foots But as a woman who dates men only, the lies flow freely from your gender too. The difference is we only lie for personal gain whereas you ladies lie just because. LOL

By Beautiful

November 6, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this

ared i like the attitude of helping others … i’m giving everyday of my life, BUT he knows what he did wrong. he knows because i’ve told his butt more than once.

so now that i’ve kicked you to da curb, you wanna listen. please. seek help somewhere else.

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 11:19 AM | Link to this

i can imagine you and the ROCK saying together YES WE CAN, YES WE CAN!

Ah, Beautiful get out my subconcious.

By mqew

November 6, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

Beaut LOL It’s called ‘at will’.

Ceemee Can I add to Blow’s order?

Foots Not the “Last Dragon Glow”

By MLL

November 6, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

Ladies, is there someone from your past that pops up every now and then to see if you are still single, open to a rendezvous, or ready to try again? There was one guy who would either text me or call with his opening line of “what’s up Ms Single” well the last time we spoke I told him that he have to come up with a different title since Ms Single is now hatched!

A couple of years ago I was the one who made the calls to the ex asking him if he still loved me and what went wrong blah blah blah. I was very reluctant in moving on without complete closure b/c of the way the relationship ended. Thinking back it was needed for me to move on, complete closure…

Hey Angie

By Beautiful

November 6, 2008 11:33 AM | Link to this

MLL hey mami!

what’s up Ms Single lol. that’s fun-knee cause i can see bruh waiting patiently for your reply.

what he wants to see … yea, i’m single. you comin’ ova or what? ha.

dream on bish!

By Foots

November 6, 2008 11:35 AM | Link to this

mqew Yes, girl. He was glowing like Taimak himself.

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

mqew whenever I make the run for fish n’ chips there’s always a gang of it.

sigh i can’t “go-out” Harpo beats me. Lol

Blow What’s ironic is that my gf’s husband’s b-day party is at a spot in downtown too, and at the same time. And his birthday is Monday the 10th, he will be 31.

By mqew

November 6, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

Ared Sometimes helping others is not always the best thing for yourself. Speaking from experience. I tried to help dude and it by all means backfired.

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

Today, November 6, 2008 is such a beautiful I nominate it to be the official “Hug Day”. I don’t mean a church lady hug, I mean go out and really take hold of somebody and embrace them. It can be your child, your parent, your significant other, the one you want to be your S/O, your best friend or a total stranger. Just hug somebody. If you don’t automatically exhale that sigh of relief you didn’t do it right. Hug until you feel content.

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2008 11:50 AM | Link to this

you ladies lie just because. LOL

:-|

By abc

November 6, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

It’s “employed at will” and “terminated without cause”. Georgia is a right-to-work state (having to do with unions blah blah blah)and so an employer doesn’t have to show cause for termination of those employed at will. If an employer does show cause, they have to prove it, and that leaves them open to litigation.

Kind of an un-funny analogy. A chick that gets terminated without cause will typically raise all kinds of hayell about it! It comes down to what is justifiable cause, I suppose. For a chick, it could be dough, position, upward mobility, physical sexual attributes; for a man, it’s likely to be that she’s not that pretty and likes to argue.

On the one hand, depending on the ‘court’, all or none of that could be justfiable cause. On the other hand, people want what they want from another, and that’s that.

The lucky few have emotional bonds that transcend such trivia. Very few!

By RELL - This buds for you

November 6, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

@truth…nope art of seduction…book is deep mayne…there is nothing new under the sun….those cats back in the day had it down because there were no distractions..they laid the game down that we have remixed and fugged up today

By mqew

November 6, 2008 11:55 AM | Link to this

Talking about “Last Dragon Glow”

Roy Jones is fighting this w/e?! Now that boy got that “Glow” Foots Taimak was a hottie ;-)

By MELO

November 6, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

mqew whenever I make the run for fish n’ chips there’s always a gang of it hey u qwew and Cee,who makes the best fish and fries in town,i miss some cod and good fries.Ever since the British pub on piedmont prk closed,im really lost.HELP PLEASE anyone!!

By Kym

November 6, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

I just got one of those..”Hey you IMs”

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

mqew Roy Jones is fighting this w/e?! Now that boy got that “Glow”

Did you notice his vigor too?

By Kym

November 6, 2008 12:00 PM | Link to this

They are remaking the movie “Last Dragon”- Samuel L. Jackson will be the bad guy Sho Nuf.

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2008 12:02 PM | Link to this

Sometimes helping others is not always the best thing for yourself.

mqew, of course I agree with that. You know what I meant.

By mqew

November 6, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

Melo Don’t ask me as I only know of the commercial joints like Supreme Fish which sucks

Ceemee I only like fights as it’s another reason to entertain so I don’t pay attention to them… except when that specimen is in the ring. I’m all over it.

Kym Don’t do it!

abc and truth get the gas face… or maybe they just need a dang hug Raqi

By The IM Police

November 6, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

Kym In keeping with the spirit of conversation, you didn’t IM yourself right? Just asking.

By Kym

November 6, 2008 12:08 PM | Link to this

Apparently Taimak still has the glow, maybe he will be Bruce Leroy again..

Taimak

By Kym

November 6, 2008 12:15 PM | Link to this

mqew Nawww but the responses are just Classic.

By The Truth aka SHO NUFF

November 6, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

Roy Jones has a glass chin and is going to get knocked the fugg out. Now we know why he boxed the way he did for all those years. He knew one half decent blow would send him to lala land. LOL

Mqew come and hug me woman. We’re gonna do it my way though. You turn around and I’ll come up from the back. OHHHH that feels good.

By MELO

November 6, 2008 12:18 PM | Link to this

Prince of Wales on piedmont,by the park, was the best at it.Havent seen any other out there.

By Kym

November 6, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

IM Police Honey I don’t have to lie about a IM. Like Chris Rock says “Women get offered dyck daily.”

By MELO

November 6, 2008 12:23 PM | Link to this

its stupid for either males or females to ask did u luv me.I am a very blunt and honest person so if i say coz ur bed moves suck,we bound to close that discussion with more antagonism,defensiveness and hate.When i move u move,remember that Luda song….keep it that way!!

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 12:30 PM | Link to this

melo what’s wrong with wanting to know if someone loved or love you?

Take sex out of the picture and tell me why is it wrong to want to know. Somebody express their love openly so you don’t have to ask. Some people say it freely. No need to ask. But some people…you just have to ask.

By Kym

November 6, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

Praise white jesus!!! THURSDAY NIGHT FOOTBALL Denver and Cleveland

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 12:36 PM | Link to this

And furthermore melo what does sex, whether good, bad or nonexistent, have to do with love?

By mqew

November 6, 2008 12:40 PM | Link to this

Kym OMG Taimak looks even better if that’s possible.

Taimak…. Roy Jones… Taimak.. Roy Jones…

said while holding hands in the balance scale position

Truth Back up buddy. I don’t have a booty, let’s see… Maybe an acution? The bidding starts at a pack of pineapple Now n Laters. Any takers?

By MELO

November 6, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this

what’s wrong with wanting to know if someone loved or love you? if u been with smebody for a period and they never said they luv u,they proly dont and are just using u.If there is any need to know,you need to ask them during that period when u together.If they move on,why ask that question unless if u had a major falling over over sme thing and then u went ur seperate ways.I wld think at the point u parted,he or she explained u cannot continue coz of abc. If the break up is coz smebody did a hoodini,then thats what it is,he oe she is not interested anymore.A person who luves u wil be with u!Why ask that question?

By The Truth aka SHO NUFF

November 6, 2008 12:47 PM | Link to this

Raqi And furthermore melo what does sex, whether good, bad or nonexistent, have to do with love? Alot. Just like most women would feel unloved if your man didn’t hug you, a guy feels unloved if he can’t get between those legs. Don’t get this twisted, for guys no sex is no love. I know for me it is. LOL If at ANY point in our relationship I look up and realize I can’t get some azz we’re through. Fugg the kids and house. I refuse to provide for a chick that can’t get down on all fours. And, btw, fugg the reasons why. She can tell those to the next guy.

Also, people that need closure do so because they missed the signs that slapped them in the face during the ending process. Ex: The reason he stopped calling to say he would be late is because HE JUST STOPPED CARING.

By MELO

November 6, 2008 12:52 PM | Link to this

melo what does sex, whether good, bad or nonexistent, have to do with love? a lot of times,females dnt ask the luv qstion if the sexx is good and the guy is around.If he aint uttered the luv wrd but he hitting it and doing everything right, possibly, a wman will assume things are fine and he luvs her.Nope.It just means he is in a comfortable situation,thats all.U better asking the luv qstion then so u knw ur position.That may still not help!A man who luvs u will say so occassionally without being asked. Sexx,to answer ur question,clouds judgement.Its better than marijuana as far as mood/behavior altering is concerned.Thats why if i were a lady, i wld with hold it untill i knw how the guy is progressing anf his intentions.But i do undertsnd u females dilemna,when u see me, u feel like ripping my balls aprt right there and then.Its just the way it is!

By Chelle

November 6, 2008 12:58 PM | Link to this

HeyMs Beautiful hope you’re having a great day!

Kym thursday night football! Ooo, Denver is one of my favorite teams

By MELO

November 6, 2008 12:58 PM | Link to this

because they missed the signs that slapped them in the face during the ending process exactly.They are the ones holding on to the rag,and u want that qstion answered just to boost ur ego and improve ur immune system.In reality,that does not bring the relatioship back.A lot of females,once the guy says he did not luv her will say,outa anger, * so why u kept sleeping with me*..oh dah!!……(as ared wld say)

By Blow me...is the birthday girl come party with me this weekend..Celebrate the new black pres...

November 6, 2008 1:06 PM | Link to this

Wow…that’s ironic Cemeeli that’s my birthday…November 10TH…I will be 28 …I am gettin old..I am almost past the threshold according to Truth…I better do become a wife quick..

Truth Everything thats swallowed or chewed is on me lol…Wow this is an easy set up! So…when I’m I gonna get my 28 licks..lol!! lmao!!!

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 1:14 PM | Link to this

So Truth do you measure the depth of love by the quality and/or willingness of the sex?

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 1:16 PM | Link to this

melo Are you saying from a man’s POV if he never says he doesn’t feel it? What happened to actions speak louder than words?

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 1:18 PM | Link to this

…that’s ironic Cemeeli that’s my birthday…November 10TH…I will be 28 …I am gettin old..I am almost past the threshold according to Truth…I better do become a wife quick..

Blow don’t let Truth fool you into the BlackHollywood marrige biz. It ain’t all it’s cracked up to be.

You only 28y/o? Y, chile you’re a baby! I’m now renaming you Isomil.

By The Truth aka SHO NUFF

November 6, 2008 1:21 PM | Link to this

Raqi no sex is no relationship. I’ve heard chicks on here talking about not having sex with a guy she’s in a relationship with. Ask the guy because I’d bet dollars he’d kindly disagree. Let me put this in terms that you can relate to. A chick that won’t fugg is as useless as a dude that can’t produce. The only difference is alot of chicks will keep dude while fellas will out process or at least find a replacement for said chick.

Blow if I ever started licking on you you’d need a week off of work. You don’t want to mess with this. LOL

chelle denver sucks as bad as the Raiders. :(

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 1:31 PM | Link to this

Truth that is not what I asked. I asked do you base the depth of a woman’s love for you on the quality or willingness (meaning what she is willing to do) of the sex? Do you ever say or feel, “if you don’t do this, that or the other you don’t love me”?

What about the woman who will desire to be with you and love you by way of sex, but don’t quite measure up to your standards of good sex?

If she gives you sex she loves you right? Or is it if she gives you good sex by your standards she loves you?

Don’t get me wrong I believe sex plays a huge part in a relationship. I am just asking based on your response and other responses you have made before.

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 1:32 PM | Link to this

Melo Have you been payin’ attention?!!? Some good fish joints (hole n’ the wall in the hoods, - more upscale establishments) are:

Bankhead Fish Boston Fish Supreme Da Bomb Wings Taste of Florida Oyster Cafe Six Feet Under Pappadaeux The Oceanaire

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2008 1:35 PM | Link to this

The blog has bored me today. But Raqi you are asking thought provoking questions!

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 1:39 PM | Link to this

melo

-Bankhead Fish -Boston Fish Supreme -Da Bomb Wings -Taste of Florida -Oyster Cafe -Six Feet Under -Pappadaeux -The Oceanaire

By Jamoca

November 6, 2008 1:41 PM | Link to this

So Cee, you think you’ve justed spotted the one who truly inspires you? Naah… him not here yet…wink. Besides, Harpo say you need a lil’ more fight in you, so ya’ll both can tag team and put the ish down on Ms. Millie…just say, heyalll nooo! Cee now running in place doing the windmill Lmao!!

…btw, I know you ain’t talkin’ Similac! In the words of Lil’ Bit, “you’s a baby yo’self, youngin’! hahahaha…. But you may be over-do for a name change tho’, how ‘bout that ‘ol skool Carnation or PET (evaporated milk)? hehehehe

By Beautiful

November 6, 2008 1:42 PM | Link to this

i know i’m late … happy birthday blow! you’re in your twenties right?

my twenties were the bomb! memories.

sho nuff! lol.

By MELO

November 6, 2008 1:45 PM | Link to this

What happened to actions speak louder than words? a man’s mind is very hard to unlock untill and unless he says excactly whats on his mind.A man can hit the pudsy each nite,buy groceries,pay the utilities and take u to the movies eve weekend.All good stuff that a lady will read as smeone who is happy and luvs her.But he may be doing that whilst talking to another wman on the side that he truly luvs but he is just waiting for the right time to bolt and leave ur azz alone wondering what happened.That happens a lot of times.Ive knwn and heard of men who were married for long periods but had kids with other wmen elsewhere and this wman here was not even on the will and only found out after the death of the man. All im saying is its better for u to really hear a man say it without any prompting when u together than to prompt a man to say i luv u in ur face coz u asked.They will never ever say they dont,in ur face.Nor will they want to show doubt,especially when they knw u are doing a lot for them at that point.Thats a huge dilemna that females face.But as a female, u just have to do ur best and let the chips fall where ever they will.

By The Truth aka SHO NUFF

November 6, 2008 1:52 PM | Link to this

Raqi despite what you may read on this blog I never give ultimatums to a woman. I simply watch her work. When production slows down I ask about it and if it doesn’t pick up I make alternate plans. I refuse to become disgruntled because wify doesn’t like sex WITH ME anymore. LOL My neighbor counts his encounters by the months. I won’t do that.

to answer your question directly. When a woman gives you her heart everything goes with it. If I don’t have something I can feel I don’t associate love with it. Friendship maybe but not love.

On part 2 of your question I know when a woman is fugging for a ring. I’m more comfortable with that than a woman that says she loves me but won’t fugg me.

Finally sex is the greatest indicator you have of where your relationship because no matter where the problem is it shows up in the bedroom.

By abc

November 6, 2008 1:54 PM | Link to this

Raqi, everyone has their own way of showing and recognizing love.

For some, it’s acts of service — men care for cars and the yard, women cook, clean and do laundry, not because it’s expected or desired by the other, but because they want to do things that take care of the other.

For some it’s giving gifts, some it’s massage, some it’s helping them with tasks they find difficult. For everyone it’s different. I daresay for all, sex is a manifestation of love.

Unless the sex is only for sex and nothing else about them matters.

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 1:56 PM | Link to this

melo love is action. There are men out there that will tell a woman he loves her to get what he wants whether it’s sex, money, or a place to sleep at night. So to say a man doesn’t love you until he says it is a fallacy.

There are men that take care of their woman, family and house because he loves that woman. And he never has to say it because he shows it.

I do know that some women assume that a man loves them because he fulfills certain deeds. But all in all I believe a man shows his love, not just speaks it.

I LOL at the number of times I have heard a woman tell a man, “you don’t act like it” as a response to him saying he loves her.

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 1:58 PM | Link to this

abc shhhh!!!! Why did you have to come and bring my point out? I wanted to do that. LOL

By Beautiful

November 6, 2008 2:00 PM | Link to this

When production slows down I ask about it and if it doesn’t pick up I make alternate plans.

^5.

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 2:01 PM | Link to this

…btw, I know you ain’t talkin’ Similac! In the words of Lil’ Bit, “you’s a baby yo’self, youngin’!

Moca You know what chic? Just because you’re 12 years old don’t give you NO-WAY liberty to be calling someone else a baby.

Harpo say you need a lil’ more fight in you, so ya’ll both can tag team and put the ish down on Ms. Millie…

Now you’re in grown’folks bidnes. Lemme go over here and tell Harpo his ism has personified.

By Dan

November 6, 2008 2:01 PM | Link to this

@Raqi

I’mma stand with Truth on this part a little.

If a woman gives me her heart…everything else goes with it.

It has to. Can’t be saying the words “I love you” and not mean it. And the sex is not just “mean[ing] it” but it’s how far she willing to go.

Love is a strong word, with strong emotions tied to it. And if you use such a loaded word, you have to be willing to fire that ammunition.

I love you, but I won’t be around your family

I love you, but I hate the dog you’ve had for 15 years;

for me, at least, love means sacrificing for that person, and if you’re not willing to go outside that box - you have to live there by yourself, becuase Love doesn’t

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 2:02 PM | Link to this

Truth I didn’t say ultimatums, I said do you measure how much a woman loves you on what she will do for you sexually, since men equate sex to love?

Does the missionary maid love you less than the freak of the week?

By MELO

November 6, 2008 2:04 PM | Link to this

But all in all I believe a man shows his love, not just speaks it But there is the difference.He acts it and says it,consistently,that wld be the ideal.I prefer that he acts his luv and says it.Coz the truth is, he may buy and provide u with money to pay for stuff,but u will cook him a good meal and give him good sexx.He appreciates it if he caps that by expressing his appreciation and luv to u by confirming that with his mouth.Dont just assume.Its a COMBO

By The Truth aka SHO NUFF

November 6, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this

Raqi yeah, what ABC said.

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 2:06 PM | Link to this

When a woman gives you her heart everything goes with it.

Sorry Truth I missed that sentence. That is very soft of you. (Soft as in feely touchy.) You try to hide but we all can read it in you. LOL

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 2:10 PM | Link to this

Did the topic just change to Darrell’s favorite subject/book: “The Five Languages of Love”? hehehe

Where is Sexycool…she used to put down some phat poetry in here.

Somma ya’ll fallin’ off in here…is that what’s happen when you get a “sweet-thang” in ya’ life? Dayum, if it’s like that then i’ll take my tea unsweetened. wait a minute did i just blasphemy?!? WTH!

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 2:15 PM | Link to this

but it’s how far she willing to go.

Dan you know what my dad taught me as teenager, if he a boy tells you “if you love me you would do it”, tell him “if you loved me you would not continue to ask.” I know that’s high schoolish but your statement gave me a flashback.

Your statement implies that a woman should act against her better judgements and desires just to prove her love for you. If you love the woman you wouldn’t ask her to go that far (“how far she is willing to go”) if it’s not what she is about.

By MELO

November 6, 2008 2:15 PM | Link to this

more upscale establishments prince of wales was upscale and their made good cod.Hood establishements,nah,i wont go there but where do they make the best fish of those places u listed.I live on the east side Lithonia,any near me? I dnt eat out much,in fact mostly never unless im picking up sme fries at Mickydee or we going to a sit dwn restearant thats decent,so ima need sme help on good fish places near my nick of woods.

By The Truth aka SHO NUFF

November 6, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

Raqi thats another topic. A woman that loves you gives her body and everything else. It’s my job to nurture that gift and take her to the next level, if I’m able. I say that because I’m very physical and if a woman likes it soft I’m not going to be her guy. My last ex wasn’t the most open intially but we got into some straight heated stuff. My point is if you care for me I’m going to get the best out of you, period. And I’m not basing this on one or two women. I’m pushing the envelope as far it’ll go, then I go a little further. LOL

Missionary maid = earlier in relationship

freak of the week = after a few weeks or months lol

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

LOL Truth yeah the alphabet man nipped it in the bud.

What else can we talk about now?

melo whatcha got?

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 2:29 PM | Link to this

Melo I live on the east side Lithonia,any near me?

Cod? not sure

When i’m out that way i go to Arizonia’s as Stonecrest. I’m not sure if they have cod on their menu. But they have a great trout and salmon dish. Flambeaux (also a hangout) is more like cajun/Louisiana menu.

You’re gonna have to travel in the city limits for something better.

By MELO

November 6, 2008 2:30 PM | Link to this

See you at the party this weekend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! so everone else knws where the party at except me Blow? not fair..

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 2:31 PM | Link to this

I say that because I’m very physical and if a woman likes it soft I’m not going to be her guy.

Truth Really? Never? Even if it’s to add to the love that you are already showing her?

By Jamoca

November 6, 2008 2:33 PM | Link to this

You know what chic? Just because you’re 12 years old don’t give you NO-WAY liberty to be calling someone else a baby.

-and-

Now you’re in grown’folks bidnes. Lemme go over here and tell Harpo his ism has personified.

HA! …now she wanna get crunk, when I say it, but give passes when other folks proclaim it, in the schoolyard. Likewise missy…and yeah prance yo’ lil’ self back to your pride and run n’ tell all ‘at! Apparently, you were mistaken, as you’ve seem to come to the interesting conclusion that all was forgotten?…ha!

Chick, I been gathering, so expect many more from where that comes from. So fortunate for you, by the time we’re done, you’ll have plen-tey of fight in ya’… *hope him ready, cuz’ the cat has been let out from the bag, naah!

Dayum,if it’s like that then i’ll take my tea unsweetened. wait a minute did i just blasphemy?!?

Ya’ dayum skippy… lmao! …and you’re a little late turning down that sweet tea, like a self-made connoisseur of fine wines, except its been replaced with a plethora of sugary thangs…hehehehe Now quit actin’.

By Dan

November 6, 2008 2:33 PM | Link to this

@Raqi

If we already fuggin or she says “I love you”, that indicates no need for asking for the puddy (so to speak).

What I’m saying is that love is a two way street, you both are going to do uncomfortable things, but you still do it, becuase you “love” that person.

You don’t do uncomfortable stuff for love, you do it becuase of love

Does that make sense?

By Beautiful

November 6, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

cee The Five Languages of Love. haven’t read it and don’t think i will. what more do a woman need to know. lol. i’m good!

also, my employer doesn’t allow political conversation in the building anymore. hmmmm, i wonder why? lol. is it that we opened a can of wuppazz on the brotha?

By Beautiful

November 6, 2008 2:47 PM | Link to this

dan makes sense to me and i’m guilty of it!

going broke over something a cruise instead of allowing us to manage our money better … yep was cwazy in love.

By SEXLESS IN SEATTLE

November 6, 2008 2:49 PM | Link to this

@ Truth & Dan

If I provide everything for my man…but I am not up to his sexual standards…How can I be? Otherwise, I am there mind body and spirit. I can’t seem to get the sex part of it down.

Help!!

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 2:50 PM | Link to this

Cee is now re-naming Moca back Jamocamecrazy!!

I’m so done with you!

Cee now pretending to not know what ‘sweettea’ is…thumb suck….I want my mommy!

By Dan

November 6, 2008 2:51 PM | Link to this

@Raqi

If we already fuggin or she says “I love you”, that indicates no need for asking for the puddy (so to speak).

What I’m saying is that love is a two way street, you both are going to do uncomfortable things, but you still do it, becuase you “love” that person.

You don’t do uncomfortable stuff for love, you do it becuase of love

Does that make sense?

By kimmie

November 6, 2008 2:54 PM | Link to this

Amred - I’m with you, it’s a bit boring in this blog today. I still can’t keep off the political blogs. By the way, NC just officially went blue. I was disappointed with the GA, but the last count I saw was 1.8 million for Obama vs 2.0 million for McCain, and suppossedly a lot of early votes are still being counted. I figured we would be red, but those early numbers they were showing were crazy - me & SO knew something had to be going on. I’m glad it tightened up some though. For all those stuck in the past, the train is moving on whether they like it or not!

Barak has set up a new website www.change.gov, but I hear it’s been crashing because everyone is trying to get on it! Barak is already handling business! Exciting times!

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

This time two years ago I would have scrolled out a list of Raqi Randoms.

Like just like it’s wise to make sure the seat is down before you sit, it is wiser to make sure the lid is up before you sit.

Or better yet turn the light on before you do any.

By Dan

November 6, 2008 2:56 PM | Link to this

@Sexless

You didn’t learn to ride a bike sitting on it, you fell a couple times, right?

2 things, ask your man for help and do what he asks.

That’s communication in action

By The Truth

November 6, 2008 3:01 PM | Link to this

Raqi I’m not some hard clod.I’m actually very laid back. I simply set the standard and enforce it.

On the soft love thing, we can start off that way but it’s going to get ruff. Hair pulling and azz slapping, and I’m bald. lol

Seattle** if you’re just not into sex either find him a replacement or part ways. Honestly if I weren’t into chick that’s what i’d do.

Why aren’t you there sexually?

Cnn issaying that Oprah got Barack about a million votes.

By MELO

November 6, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this

melo whatcha got? Lets talk about Barack babies Is any of u singles prepared to sire any in his image??

By Beautiful

November 6, 2008 3:05 PM | Link to this

sexless i could be wrong, just my opinion. but what he is not getting from you, he’s getting somewhere else. he’s a man. you can’t really be mad at him about that. it is your responsibility to satisfy him. talk to him. ask him what he wants out of you regarding sex.

open up more. are you embarrassed when you are nekkid if front of him? i went thru this. when we were at home alone, i would walk around the house nekkid to get me out of the funk i was in about him looking at me. and it worked. no more making love with the lights off. i wanted them on so i can see. hehe. as soon as i got comfortable, it was on till the break of dawn. the best sex ever! he finally met his match.

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

2 things, ask your man for help and do what he asks. Dan

Are you serious?! If that mofo ask me to do sumthin’ taboo, like a threesome w/ some trick, I’d have that negro barking like a dog by the time i finish squeezing mr. zagnut.

Kimmie thanks for the info.

By Jamoca

November 6, 2008 3:07 PM | Link to this

LMAOFF! @ Sim-Simma!!

Why so surprised? Consistency is always preferred. As I recall, I was given a different alias from week to week, yet I remained my (level) of crazy self, as this particular trait was indicated by my original moniker…just shortened it up for all the complainin’ folks. lol!

By MELO

November 6, 2008 3:09 PM | Link to this

I can’t seem to get the sex part of it down were u molested/abused in ur youth?

By MELO

November 6, 2008 3:13 PM | Link to this

the best sex ever! he finally met his match i dnt believe u….

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 3:13 PM | Link to this

When I sleep alone I do not have make the entire bed. Just that little area where I laid.

I had gotten used to being home alone, then my in-laws were there then they left, then I was home alone again, and then I walked out of my room looking down at a book I was taking to my son’s room and Mase walked up the stairs unexpectedly and scared the crap out of me.

I drink out of the same coffee mug every morning. And have so for the past 5 years. It is starting to crack from the heat and looks like spider veins.

I wear socks to bed when I sleep alone.

I think my best friend and my sister are both crazy. Loony.

My grandson gives the best hugs. He says “I love you mommy dearest”. It’s a not so cute joke that his mother taught him but he sounds so cute saying.

My grandson’s mother doesn’t think that I will slap the crap out of her. But she is died wrong.

By Dan

November 6, 2008 3:16 PM | Link to this

@CeeMee

What’s adding a midget, 3 pennies, some peanut butter, and a ceiling fan…

When you’re in love?

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2008 3:17 PM | Link to this

sigh smh

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

Kimmie i’m in! This webby has a blog too…cool.

This is that real fiya!

75 Days Until Inauguration!

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

How can I be

There is only one person that can answer that for you.

The reason Starbucks and Caribou Coffee are doing so well, everybody has their preference of how they like theirs.

By MELO

November 6, 2008 3:23 PM | Link to this

Arizonia’s as Stonecrest i had their fish be4,its aaight,looking for another around there.

By SEXLESS IN SEATTLE

November 6, 2008 3:26 PM | Link to this

@ Melo…DO you think that has something to do it? I do remember a few incidents that were not right.

@ Truth…I guess it’s him. He is not affectionate…He’s kind of a bore. He just wants me to BANG him.

@ Dan..If it was only that easy. LOL!

By kimmie

November 6, 2008 3:26 PM | Link to this

Cee - Cool! I have not tried yet. I was listening to the radio and Tom Joyner brought up that Inauguration Day is around King weekend - King Day is the 19th, Inaug Day is the 20th! Is that going to be the bomb or what?!

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 3:28 PM | Link to this

I think I will celebrate Kwanzaa this year and give all of my friends and family a rock and bag of dirt from my backyard. That way I don’t have to pay for gifts neither do I have to pay to have the soil and rocks hauled away. I win twice.

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2008 3:32 PM | Link to this

Raqi has throughly entertained me today. LMAO

By The Truth

November 6, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

It’s coming out that Palin and McCains run was a train wreck. She really messed up some things behind the scenes. They sent her to buy 3 outfits and she spent $150k. LMAO

Seattl why would you want to stay with a guy thats a bore? I say dump him or get another man and let him know you won’t be needing his boring services anymore.

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 3:37 PM | Link to this

One of my co-workers was saying she hate watching tv these days because the premise of all the program airing now is women with man trouble. I told her “girl it’s a given, if you got a man you got troubles. LOL

Dang that’s a good one. WiseDiva there you go…a blog topic. “If you got a man you got troubles.” You don’t even have to write an entry for it. Just post a topic.

By MELO

November 6, 2008 3:39 PM | Link to this

sexxless why are u with him?,* everything for my man* like what…. he finally met his match thats not true beautiful.Unlike boxing,where u run away from ur advesary,a man wont run away nor cheat a woman who is bringing it in bed,hardly ever…..he will seek more of it.Im sure u bring it,but maybe not to the level he wanted it nor enough to quench his thirst.

By Blow Me

November 6, 2008 3:46 PM | Link to this

Fellas Is that really true??

Truth, Dan, ABC?

a man wont run away nor cheat a woman who is bringing it in bed,hardly ever…..he will seek more of it.

How true is this? Speak on BLOG fAM!

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 3:47 PM | Link to this

kimmie Barack is the sexiest president we’ve ever had. Really, he has a beautiful smile, and dignified demeanor. Black men do something special to a suit!!!

By Predictable

November 6, 2008 3:47 PM | Link to this

AmazonRed nice attempt at changing the blog topic, but the name Sexless in Seattle was reaching a bit…eh?

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 3:48 PM | Link to this

Have you have noticed how some words just sound sexy?

Mac and Cheese

Repertoire

Guava

Almond

Caramel

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2008 3:53 PM | Link to this

Predicable, I guess I would be your best bet at some blog fireworks, but sorry, no dice.

I post under my own blog name ALWAYS. Do you? LMAO.

Besides, I wish I had a problem getting laid. LOL

By Marcella

November 6, 2008 3:54 PM | Link to this

This is an interesting topic…

@ Sexless

I have a similar dilemma, my fiance of 14mos needs some help in the bedroom. The experience is simply unfulfilling and although I do love him a lot, I worry how this will affect us later on.

And to top it off, while I lie there in our bed, he’s on top struggling, grunting and cursing to himself out of frustration at his own stumpy limp-dyck @ss…

I’m on the other hand thinking about and longing for my ex, who is tall, dark, bald, ambitious, demanding in the bedroom and fully loaded! Everytime I’m in the produce section or at the farmer’s market and I see those really over-sized cucumbers, I get the chills, but p!ssed off at the same time! This is so frustrating!

I’ve been patient and I’m overdue. So, SexLess may be you both can practice on or with each other. I figure a few obstacle courses wouldn’t hurt. Call me when he’s good and ready because I’m at wits end with this madness!!!

By kimmie

November 6, 2008 3:57 PM | Link to this

Cee Girl, Yeah!!!! There is absolutely nothing like a black man in a well-fitting suit and smelling good!! Even if he does not have the greatest body, a suit just does something! Since Barack is tall and lean, OMG, can he rock one or what!

My SO has a really nice HD big screen. Barack was looking dead clean giving his victory speech - his hair was laid(got a little color on the gray) and his skin looked like velvet! I was like da—!

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 3:58 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli I beg to differ. The right suit does something special to a man. Any man.

By RELL - This buds for you

November 6, 2008 4:00 PM | Link to this

a man wont run away nor cheat a woman who is bringing it in bed,hardly ever…..he will seek more of it.

FALSE

human nature for men to want what they feel they cant have - if attached there will always be and object of his obession/affection that he will want and slowly persuse….thats why married men are better at the seduction game…..at that point you get it and there is no need to rush…plus most people are so vain any type of attention to a person who is missing something or seeking adventure is bound to get seduced….the things i again men stick relationships on autopilot and women dont know how to take there men out of the trick bag..roll up the sleeves and work there half of the relationship…alot of women like to turn the whole relationship into a flucking all about ME relationship…but it only happens when the poo see is king in the relationship…meaning the women uses the poo see like the stock market with the fluctation in availablity……

By Foots

November 6, 2008 4:00 PM | Link to this

kimmie!!! Is that going to be the bomb or what?!

Don’t be giving any crazy people any more ideas!!!! Some people are still mad that we even have a King National Holiday. Compound that with the inauguration, then it might really be the bomb, or a few of them going off in strategic locations. Is it possible to LOL and pray at the same time??

Seattle I’m with the guys on this one. It sounds like you don’t have a connection with this dude. If you did, he’d be after more than just BANG, BANG, BANG! and it would flow more easily on your side, pun intended. You seem to be worried about finding it within yourself to please somebody who may not even be a good match for you.

There are men out there who can give you what you are looking for. I’m guessing, but maybe if you found someone who was more attentive to your needs inside and outside of the bedroom, you’d find ways to please him both inside and outside of the bedroom. Nobody is perfect and like somebody said yesterday, sometimes a precise elbow to the throat may be in order. But in general, there should be more good than bad, more flow than hustle. When you find that, pleasing him will be very natural to you.

By MELO

November 6, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

Marcella u defntly come to the right place.Holla!I apoligize for the come wrd in this communication.

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

Everytime I’m in the produce section or at the farmer’s market and I see those really over-sized cucumbers, I get the chills,

LMAO! Okay, finally, something interesting!

So Marcella, what did you do to scare off this perfect ex of yours?

By RELL - This buds for you

November 6, 2008 4:05 PM | Link to this

@marcella…so why you with him…he must have a nice bank account or lets you run ish like your mama told you to do with him….he should just turn you over and push in your rosebud…dirty freaks like you…like that stuff….straight arse to mouth treatment…..this is why i say fellas smut them out….all women like to be smutted out on the regular…have not meet one yet that has not

By Foots

November 6, 2008 4:06 PM | Link to this

Marcella I’m not sure if your post was meant to be funny or what. If it wasn’t, then I’m crying along with you.

Don’t let the smooth taste fool ya: Sex is extremely important in a relationship and it’s okay to admit that it is. It is the ultimate physical, emotional and spiritual connection.

Unless you can imagine giving that up til death do you part, you guys need some professional help. Does he know that you’re unsatisfied and is he willing to talk about it?

Blow That’s not true. Many a man will tell you that his woman could be doing everything right, even in the bedroom, but his taste for variety might cause him to step out.

By Blow Me a.k.a. I LOVE CUCUMBERS!!!

November 6, 2008 4:08 PM | Link to this

Damn that ARED Lets get back to how huge his CUCUMBER was….

I love Cucumbers!!

By MELO

November 6, 2008 4:09 PM | Link to this

RELL,BLOW a woman who is bringing it in the bedroom to the level we talking about is either 1) overpowering the man in the bedroom such that his energy is most proly expended consistently and frquently OR 2)they are matching each other in intensity, energy and combinations such that they are both spend by the time they over.Noone of them has time nor energy to seek outside coz its a trick every time they have it and the energy to pursue addtional liasons is not there.There is interesting enough.

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 4:10 PM | Link to this

Kimmie I saw Barack’s speech on the HD too. (you can see err’thang on it). Yes, you are correct about how he wears suits, and the hair color on point, and beautiful sun kissed skin like honey. ahhh my sweetthang’s skin is that color

Now lemme calm down…”us” don’ got a lil caught-up in the man’s swag.

By Predictable

November 6, 2008 4:13 PM | Link to this

Yeah, you always were a easy target.

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2008 4:13 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ Blow, it’s still your birfday celebration, so cucumber talk it is. LOL

Have a blast at your party.

By Foots

November 6, 2008 4:14 PM | Link to this

melo That spent energy thing is a myth. The more you have sex, the more your body is primed for sex.

Anyway, nobody wants someone to stay faithful to them just because they are too tired to go elsewhere. The only thing that keeps people faithful is their own desire to be faithful.

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 4:15 PM | Link to this

Rell I am a firm believer of when a person wants to stray, man or woman, there is nothing their partner can do to make them stay. Fidelity is a choice we all make. Free will. However I do believe one can contribute to the demise of their relationship. Don’t give them a reason to go sniffing out the new new but still again if they want to go it’s what they will do. Sometimes it really is not you, but me.

By RELL - This buds for you

November 6, 2008 4:15 PM | Link to this

ya know i hope OBZ can practice that dizzle control…because the groupies already angling to get at him….i mean folks acting like he da black jesus or something…i am happy but now its time to work….lets not get too high in the honeymoon stage…

By kimmie

November 6, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

Foots - Didn’t even think about that, yeah let’s not give anyone ideas!

But, like I said, the train is moving on whether some people like it or not. You either get on board or get left!

By Foots

November 6, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

Rell Why she gotta be a dirty freak because her man can’t satisfy her with a limp, stumpy dyck? Not many women could be satisfied with someone who couldn’t get or keep it up and if they did, it really didn’t seem like it.

You don’t have to be a dirty freak just because you want to enjoy the sex you have with somebody you love, do you?

By Raqi

November 6, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

Don’t yall forget, hug somebody today.

I am out.

By Brunson

November 6, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

first time posting, but long time reader. i need some feedback. my girl and i have been having a few talks about moving in together. we’ve been together for almost 3 yrs, going strong. the sex is compatible, the money mgt is on point but now i’m not so sure i should do this. cold feet or warning signs?

By Marcella

November 6, 2008 4:20 PM | Link to this

@ Melo

Its okay, I’ve been holding on this long.

@ Rell- This buds for you

I’m STILL with him because I do love him and we have a lot in common. But honestly, I’m mostly with him to please my parents, so I’m really trying to give things a chance and not let sex be the end all for this relationship, but I know this will sound selfish and a tad bit foolish but I fear one day looking at him less than a man, but he tries really hard. And yes, although I like it slow and easy I am not ashamed to say I like it rough! I like getting thrown around a bit. Just loosing total control of myself and would like him to totally run the entire show while I follow his lead FOR A CHANGE! My ex had this totally mastered, but my family disapproved of him.

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 4:21 PM | Link to this

…just sayin’.

A black man (including all browns) standing in front of me, bebonair, smiling, leaning all his weight slightly to one side (THAT stance), and smelling good.

vs.

What? Any other man.

Alex, i’ll take what’s behind door Number 1.

By MELO

November 6, 2008 4:21 PM | Link to this

Have a blast at your party u not invited also??

By The Truth aka SHO NUFF

November 6, 2008 4:24 PM | Link to this

Blow I didn’t cheat on last gf because I needed that time to recover. Ol girl, after she got cranked up, was a bear. Sometimes I’d dam near overheat. LOL Nah, wasn’t cheating on her. I was too busy taking salt baths and working on my cardio.

Marcella why are you going to marry the guy? This is what i’m talking about a woman marrying choice number 5. You’re going to give that dude grief for the whole 3 months you’re married. SMH

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2008 4:25 PM | Link to this

Brunson, why aren’t you so sure. You’re post mentioned no “warning signs.”

And after 3 years, you should be looking to marry, not just shack up. My opinion of course.

By MELO

November 6, 2008 4:25 PM | Link to this

The more you have sex, the more your body is primed for sex u have never declined additional sexx from ur man coz u were tired Foots? If so,good for u,u gor such enduring stamina.But i knw, when i was single,there were females who cld handle me and others who just cldnt.

By Foots

November 6, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

Brunson If you’ve been with her for 3 strong years, and are only now thinking about moving in together, and you didn’t mention marriage, you’re not ready. Most men know fairly quickly whether they have met The One, most married men I know knew within a year. They knew that even with her faults and the inevitable bumps in the road, that was the woman they were willing to travel that road with.

If you’re not sure you feel that way about her at this point, really reconsider moving in together. Just keep dating until you’re sure either way.

By Wise Diva

November 6, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

WOW, welcome new readers!

Raqi, that’s hilarious, I want to hear about happy relationships to, they exist right?

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

melo, you missed the invitation apparently. LOL

By RELL - This buds for you

November 6, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

@foots…read her response to me….i did not mean dirty freak in a bad way…she longs to be dominated…like most women….its not always something bad….she is only with him to please her parents…issue one that will crop up when she meets someone that will turn her on….i could go on..but why bother…no one is listening….chick just backed what i said….but i still get the side eye …..and marcella thats not love…but obligation you feel toward him…never invest in a lie, it will not pay off

By Foots

November 6, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this

Marcella Just so RELL won’t have to say it, and this is truly coming from my heart: FLUCK YO FAMILY!!! What do YOU want to do? Who do YOU want to spend the rest of YOUR life with? Are YOU grown enough to make YOUR OWN decisions and live with their consequences?

By Poppa Grande

November 6, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this

Foots

Back in da day, I did make a Freddie Jackson “one more time for old times sake” calls. In many cases, I found that being upfront was more successful. We already knew each others quirks, likes, and dislikes in that area. So, it was kinda like Truth’s deal with his ex-wife.

As far as Taimak goes, he is now a celebrity trainer or something like that, and has a website. He looks pretty close to the same.

I have friends that saw him in martial arts competition years ago. He really got his azz whipped in one competition, and my friends said that the spectators started yelling “Who’s the Master?” each time that he got hit or kicked.

By Brunson

November 6, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this

amazonred there are no real warning signs, i suppose, just a little apprehension. she and i are not hung up on marriage, we both feel that it changes people and have witnessed as much. i guess i’m worried that moving in will change our relationship dynamic which, right now, is perfect.

By Blow Me a.k.a. I LOVE CUCUMBERS!!!

November 6, 2008 4:30 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ Truth 3 months.

So then you are not a cheat…?

MELO I said STUDIO 72 for the 50th time!!!Saturday…lol

By Marcella

November 6, 2008 4:31 PM | Link to this

@ AmazonRed

Like I mentioned before, my family did not approve of us because he’s black. I’m Cuban/Italian. It was too much for us and unbearable for him especially since I just wasn’t ready to turn my back on my family because we’re so close. But I miss him so much.

@ Foots

He knows this and I feel kind of bad for him. He does try very hard. I would just rather walk away eventually, instead of cheating on him. I feel bad enough thinking about my ex all of the damn time. Hopefully if my ex is still available and interested, there may be a chance. I just can’t get into it with my fiance. But I fear what my father and brothers will do when they learn my reasons for wanting to back out of this.

By MELO

November 6, 2008 4:32 PM | Link to this

But honestly, I’m mostly with him to please my parents even tho u seem to be in a crner, u wanna give this a chance.Try to introduce other things in the bedrom to see if he is open to that.Communicate ur desires and what u feel u want and see if he opens up.Talk dirty during luv making and in the heat of it,tell him lovingly,hw u want it and what u want him to do.He may not be understanding what u want coz he only knws what he knws but communication will make things better for u. If evrything else fails,then maybe Melo maybe ur best course of action.Good luck in the meantime.

By Brunson

November 6, 2008 4:37 PM | Link to this

foots marriage is a non-issue for us. we have had that “talk” and neither of us are gunning for marriage. if we ended up being life partners i think it would work for us both. weird, i know, but you’d really have to know us.

she initiated the conversation b/c we spend so much time at one another’s place and/or traveling together. my biggest fear is that once we both sell our condos and get a place together things will change.

By MELO

November 6, 2008 4:37 PM | Link to this

about moving in together for what objective????? moving tgether is not marriage,so whats ur plan,to share expenses??

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2008 4:39 PM | Link to this

i guess i’m worried that moving in will change our relationship dynamic which, right now, is perfect.

Brunson, it’s natural to be worried but don’t let that worry keep you from moving forward. If moving in together ruins your relationship, so be it. But it could enhance it. You never know unless you try.

Marcella, even if you don’t get back with your ex, you should let the current guy go if you really aren’t feeling him. You deserve the love you’ve had before. And you’re keeping your current guy from finding it too.

LOL @ Blow maybe melo just doesn’t know what Studio 72 is. LOL I enjoyed him posting with his lip all poked out tho. LOL

By MELO

November 6, 2008 4:39 PM | Link to this

MELO I said STUDIO 72 for the 50th time!!!Saturday…lol

okay.

By MELO

November 6, 2008 4:42 PM | Link to this

my family did not approve of us because he’s black. I’m Cuban/Italian

u better off getting sme from the black man on the side.Only GOD will judge u!!

By Foots

November 6, 2008 4:43 PM | Link to this

melo u have never declined additional sexx from ur man coz u were tired Foots?

No, because he’s usually asleep. Women have a much shorter refractory period than men do.

But I’m speaking in general. After you haven’t had any for a good while, your desire runs low. If you are getting it on the regular, you can’t stop thinking about it. It affects your hormone levels.

All I’m saying is that good sex doesn’t keep people from cheating. Their desire to remain faithful does.

Brunson Of course it will change your dynamic. Real commitmment and living a shared life together should change something. It can be great, or it can be terrible, but it’s what you make it based off your expectations.

If you don’t feel confident about your relationship, not other people’s, but YOURS, then don’t do it. Keep things perfect. Lord knows you don’t want to mess up perfect.

Marcella They already know something is up. You’ve been engaged for over a year and you didn’t mention a date for the wedding.

If you are not capable of making your own decisions and living with the consequences, are you really ready for marriage anyway? From what I hear, it’s not for the faint of heart or the feeble of mind. It’s for the fully grown. It’s an everyday challenge to those who are completely in love and totally connected. Now imagine how hard it would be if you didn’t even have that?

By abc

November 6, 2008 4:44 PM | Link to this

Brunson, living together will change things, inevitably, obviously. Whether the changes are good or bad depends on what they are — but the changes will be pronounced. Chances are, you can take a step back already, examine the dynamic between you and your partner, and predict what at least some of those changes could be.

By MELO

November 6, 2008 4:45 PM | Link to this

Studio 72 was there with my wife once ared.Fcked up Jermaine Dupri club.Very cheap!!

By The Truth aka SHO NUFF

November 6, 2008 4:45 PM | Link to this

Marcella are you on the southside of town? Really. do you live in Riverdale?

Blow I couldn’t cheat. I was trying to space our sessoins out so I could recuperate. It was real physical and sometimes I wasn’t sure who won. LMAO Luckily I knew her spots and used them against her, in a good way.

Brunson if shyt is good and noones pressed stay where you are. No need in messing up a good thing because of flase expectations.

Rell you know what, I expect every woman I meet to be submissive and they are. They may not submit to me or you but they’re damn sure looking for the one they can submit too.

Marcella if you need some hair pulling and azz slapping I can help you and you can stay with ol boy. There will be mornings you’ll wake up handcuffed to the bed and it’s gonna be some name calling but if you’re down I am. LMAO

I loves me a freaky azz chick. LOL

Foots I agree on the family thing 100% but watch your language young lady. This is a family newspaper.

By Brunson

November 6, 2008 4:47 PM | Link to this

melo we would be moving together to share expenses and have that quality time and bonding experience that any good relationship experiences.

amazonred you are right. i am hopeful that it enhances what we have, but fearful that it will compromise it. hope or fear? hmm.

i asked her if she had any reservations about giving up her spot to share one with me and she said none. i’m not even really sure why this doubt has even come about all of a sudden. we’ve already discussed how we’d manage the finances, there is no other woman that i’m interested in. i guess i’m just self analyzing.

we both have a lot on our plate right now career wise and given how much time we spend at one another’s place (5-6 days together, overnight) it just seems to make sense to merge into one household to maintain. i believe she has more things in my closet than i do at present. i don’t require much.smile.

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2008 4:48 PM | Link to this

LOL. Well then, pay attention next time, melo

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 4:50 PM | Link to this

about moving in together for what objective????? moving tgether is not marriage,so whats ur plan,to share expenses??

If they are already spending weekends/nightcaps/weeks/holiday breaks/etcetra etcetra…folks are doing that. So, what’s the difference? He/she is no different than the folks in the list example.

Shacking partime vs. shacking fulltime.

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

i asked her if she had any reservations about giving up her spot to share one with me and she said none

Brunson, good sign. Means she trusts and respects you and loves you to pieces.

Also means she’s content being with you and isn’t looking for someone better.

Unless she’s lying (that one was for abc)

By MELO

November 6, 2008 4:54 PM | Link to this

Brunson, living together will change things, inevitably, obviously i am glad Brunson that abc chimed in.He is a master at these things but i guess, u need to let her cme to ur spot,thats the abc model. good nite pple

By Foots

November 6, 2008 4:54 PM | Link to this

Rell I do get what you’re saying and I agree for the most part. I’ve had to take two Aleve AND three Advil after my man made it do what it do. It’s not that way all the time, or else I’d be in a wheelchair cause sometimes my legs don’t work right afterwards.

Truth And I agree with you 100% on the moving in together thing. Why mess up perfect? People move in together to enhance what they have, they get married to further express their love. If it’s already perfect as is, what’s the point? Saving money is not worth messing up perfection.

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2008 4:55 PM | Link to this

Oh and by the way, Brunson…

i’m not even really sure why this doubt has even come about all of a sudden.

I think that’s natural. I often think about how blessed I am and how drama free my life is and I have doubts. Because life can’t be good all the time. So I wonder what will come along to mess it up.

It’s fleeting. The fact of the matter is, moving in COULD destroy your relationship. But you can’t live in fear.

If it makes sense and you want to do it, go for it.

By Poppa Grande

November 6, 2008 4:58 PM | Link to this

Truth aka Sho’ Nuff

LOL…Truth .. trying to look like Rick James.

That is one of my favorite movies. Although, it is pretty simple and low budget (and the debut of Keisha Knight Pulliam..aka Rudy Huxtable). It has a message of self confidence.

I watch it right before my law school finals.

“There is one place, that you have not looked and it is there, only there, where you will find the golden glow”

Vanity: “You sure look like a master to me!”

…

As far as the Raiders go, they started declining when Bruce Allen left for Tampa with Gruden. There was no one to stand up to Al Davis.

Good news, though, they are looking to hire (a coach), and help the economy. Why not hire, Rex Ryan, he already runs the defense? Why Tom Cable as interim. He was horrible as a coach at Idaho!

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 4:58 PM | Link to this

Breezy Before you go there, lemme answer your coded post. Yes, i shacked.

By The Truth aka SHO NUFF

November 6, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

Brunson before you let her move in do a little research on landlord/tenant laws in georgia. You can’t just throw her out if it goes sideways. And chicks always like coming together so take blog woman advise with a grain of salt. If it goes bad they’ll blame you for messing up a good thing by moving her in. LOL

By Wise Diva

November 6, 2008 5:00 PM | Link to this

Have a great evening everyone!

By Foots

November 6, 2008 5:00 PM | Link to this

Brunson i asked her if she had any reservations about giving up her spot to share one with me and she said none

She has no doubts. Good. Wait until YOU have no doubts.

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2008 5:05 PM | Link to this

PoppaG you come in with the sports topic, late. …thought you had fallen off too.

Take care.

By Brunson

November 6, 2008 5:08 PM | Link to this

i appreciate all your feedback. i’m going to raise my concerns with her tonight. we’re having dinner at rathburns, any good?

By Foots

November 6, 2008 5:09 PM | Link to this

Marcella Before you go, think about this: YOU are Cuban/Italian, which means that one or more of your grandparents was probably unhappy that your parents got together. Italy is nowhere near Cuba, and I imagine that your grandparents were not all for the mixed race couple. But you’re here, so they apparently did what they wanted to do to be together. Do what YOU want to do.

By Marcella

November 6, 2008 5:12 PM | Link to this

@ The Truth aka SHO NUFF

LOL! So do I sound familiar to you? How’s that since I’ve said very little about myself? Actually I’ve been living in Sandy Springs for about 3 years now. And I sorry but only my ex could have me in that way. Never met a man like him. I’ll tell you something else, I used to have all these requirements in the past on this ridiculous list of must haves and he changed all of that. Those things just went totally out of the door without much struggle. I knew right then that there was something truly significant and specail about THIS man.

@ Foots and AmazonRed

Thanks a lot for your input and your both absolutely right. There is no date set in stone because I’m not truly wanting to go through with this with my fiance, but I know I would be more than willing hands down whenever the time came if it were my ex. He’s just the kind of man that makes you want to join him for the ride, you know?

I just always pictured my all of my family being present on my wedding day and truly having their blessings. I think I’ll be okay. As a matter of fact, I know it! May be I’ll check back in sometime down the road and give you all updates, it should be interesting. I’m determined to find this man that I let walk out of my life but he definitely still has my heart for sure. Now I’m in the mood for a cucumber salad. LOL! only joking. Thanks everyone.