By Dan

November 17, 2008 8:42 AM | Link to this

While I don’t sweat the small stuff, I am of the belief that where problems exist, wanting to address them or not, they still exist.

I hate the elephant in the room, so I talk to/about it whenever it exists. I wouldn’t call it confilct resolution, I would call it avoiding long term foolishness.

So “silent” or not, if there is something wrong, might as well talk about it. That way, if it’s a really big issue we can make our informed decisions and proceed accordingly.

By Tim

November 17, 2008 8:52 AM | Link to this

The best advise I can give, is to not over think the problems. If they are small, then you will get by them as long as you both want to, and If they are big, one party or the other will speak on it and then you can address them. Either way, constantly dwelling on them will send you to splitsville, so exhale, when the right person comes along, you will know it, and then you will fight to the end to make it work.

By Sassette aka Kym

November 17, 2008 9:09 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

Have you ever dated someone who was emotionally guarded? Yes.

What do you do when the person you are dating is the strong, silent type?

Because I have an expressive nature. Someone is going to have to talk. Strong is fine. Silent…silent is annoying as hell. Sorry but like the old song says..”Lets just straighten it out.” Talk to me..and tell me what the problem is. I find that (run away or avoiding the issue) behavior extremely cowardly on a woman and a man. All discussions don’t have to end in fights or breakups. Better out than in.

By Michelle

November 17, 2008 9:20 AM | Link to this

Happy Monday All :) I COMPLETELY agree with Kym! Most men that I have encountered tend to keep things to themselves until they get to their breaking point and I am the complete opposite.. I talk about anything because like Dan said, the problem doesn’t go away..

By Tim

November 17, 2008 9:29 AM | Link to this

Michelle,

I hope this does not come out wrong, but… does the constant out pouring of what you are feeling ever come out as nagging? Like I said, I am not trying to be ugly, but men understand that its ok to ” let it ride”. We understand that dating is HARD WORK! The excess complications can make them unbearable :)

By AmazonRed

November 17, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

Happy Monday Blog Family.

My mother was a chatty patty, my dad the strong silent type. I’ve never seen him cry, I’ve never seen him yell. I didn’t grow up seeing my parents argue, like ever. Though I know they had their disagreements.

I’m my mothers daughter and I’m a chatty patty, who attract men like my dad, strong and silent. It’s all good when that type is needed in a sticky situation. I’ve found that it’s not always good when you just want to clear the air. There are pros and cons to everything!

What do I do? I “chose my battles.” I’ve let go of having the need to know answers “right away.” Not everyone is on your schedule when YOU want to talk, so I’m mindful of that. When there are issues I can’t let go of, I let my guy know and we set up a time that works best for us. That way he’s ready to talk and doesn’t feel blindsided that I’ve brought something up out of the blue.

By QC

November 17, 2008 9:48 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers…stay warm and have a great day!

By Dan

November 17, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

“choosing [sic] battles”

A very important statement. Becuase there is a marked difference in arguing about leaving the toilet seat up/down and suspected infidelity.

There’s also a difference in commenting about a lack of trust concerning someone’s whereabouts and concerning lost funds.

In the end though, your battles must reflect the true importance of the issues that matter.

By Sassette aka Kym

November 17, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

PoppaG It’s official I hate Family law. GA’s custody laws suck big time. I have spent a week looking for a case that would prove that a man who was not the father of a child at the time of the marriage can a sue for divorce on those grounds and get a total divorce and b if he will have to pay child support. So far its not looking good for this dude. I am going to find a nice bankruptcy attorney to work for. This crap is just too messy.

By Poppa Grande

November 17, 2008 10:23 AM | Link to this

Good morning to all…

Most people here know my stance on this issue. I’ve been described as a strong silent type.

Most men are not trained to show emotions. Honestly, most men are pretty much trained to think that people really don’t care how we feel. Growing up in sports, most of my coaches has always said get up and walk it off when we feel some hurts us. After a while it just become second nature.

However, when he did speak, I think that it had more impact. You knew that if he talked about it, it must be something significant, and he is not just “crying wolf”.

In my household, this has also limited arguments because if I’m willing to bring something to her on my own it must be something important to me.

I truly feel that it is unfair to ask us to change that mindset that has been put in us throughout how life up to that point. Y’all don’t like it when we ask y’all to stop paying attention to your intuition or how things “feel”. Why do you expect some of us to change all of a sudden?

God made us different for a reason. Sometimes for me, it boils down to figuring out how to express it so that it doesn’t come off as whining.

No women likes a whining azz man, period.

By Dan

November 17, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

@Kym

He might be in the wrong court.

If his reason for marriage was that he “is the father”, then he may have a case for fraud. Specifically, theft by deception.

By Poppa Grande

November 17, 2008 10:35 AM | Link to this

Kym

Keep looking because I have yet to find a case that favors the dude in that situation. Men have little to no rights in Georgia.

It is one the the reason that Men’s rights family law is one of the fastest few areas in law that is actually growing right now. Cordell and Cordell is one of the pioneers in that area of law.

I am actually intrigued by that area of law.

I’ve done bankruptcy, and know that it is all about volume. So, the bankruptcy work is pretty repetitive.

“debtor: I can’t a pay

Creditor: I want my money

Debtor: I don’t have money, so I can’t pay

Creditor: I don’t care, I want my money or it will be on your credit report…..

Debtor: I don’t have money

It can go own for quite some time like this

By Sassette aka Kym

November 17, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

PopG It is not about being whinny or changing the nature of a man. Its about if there is a issue-a real issue..not toliet seats or leaving underwear out of the wash, but issues important to the survival of the relationship then yes those must be addressed. Turning a blind eye and letting sleeping dogs lie do not solve the problem. I would never want to change the strong, slient man..but I wouldn want him to sit there stewing in his own juices until he explodes…and leaves his entrails on the walls.

By AmazonRed

November 17, 2008 10:38 AM | Link to this

I’m willing to bring something to her on my own it must be something important to me

PG, that doesn’t go unnoticed either. If he’s gonna bring something to the table, I will most certainly listen because it’s extremely rare when something bothers him enough to call me out on it first. Even if I feel his issue is minor/minute, I’ll work on resolution just because he felt it important to address it with me.

By Poppa Grande

November 17, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

Dan

It doesn’t really matter what court in these matters.

The Georgia Supreme Court has a number of cases in similar situations. It seems that if he starts taking care of the kid, he will lose (no matter if it is a case of fraud). The Georgia Supreme court has used various theories, including contract law, to justify their position.

They may say divorce is ok, but the man is usually still ordered to pay child support if he ever supported the child.

The court sees the kid as an innocent third party and as such he/she should not suffer.

By Sassette aka Kym

November 17, 2008 10:47 AM | Link to this

PoppaG Believe me I have been looking. Between last week and this weekend there is not one case. This is just a made up situation for class but I am sitting here going well damn..if this were real life(and believe me it could be) this guy would possible be granted the total divorce..but the court could very well rule that he is responsible for paying child support for a kid that is not biological his kid. That is jacked up.(and believe me I am no fan of letting dudes off the hook when they wrong) but fair is fair.

By Leggs

November 17, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. Now that I’ve had my Shredded Wheat, I can blog…carry on!

By Poppa Grande

November 17, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this

Kym

If it is important to the relationship, I stated that I do come forward. However, every single thing should not be relationship threatening. If it is, then you are probably not in the right relationship.

The little things like the toilet seat being up and such usually are things that show a bigger problem. For example, the toilet seat issue can be an example of the bigger issue of selfishness. (Why not think about her in something as simple as that?)

By Dan

November 17, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

@PG

That’s my argument, though.

Until someone is willing to take this to the Supreme Court, the lower courts won’t resolve it.

In any other circumstance not involving a life (and some that do) if I get you to do something for someone else (Aunt Ruby) and the justification for you doing it is fraudulent, you have a right to sue for compensation up to the value of your investment.

There is no difference in my eyes to the aformentioned situation, and fradulent child support payments (or marriages) based on a lie.

It has to a case extreme enough to make it to the Supreme Court, becuase it is fraud.

By For Real

November 17, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!

Kym The big problem between men and women is determining What is or isn’t a problem or issue. Women tend to believe minor things are problems/issues and men just don’t sweat the small stuff.

Here is a list of problems/issues for men:

By kimmie

November 17, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

Morning Blog Fam

I agree with Poppa, cannot take a whining man. I dated one once, it was not pretty. It turned me off. I have also dated an ice man too, and that was a lesson in frustration. Never knowing how he felt about anything or not knowing what the problem was until he blew up and of course everything was my fault.

I mentioned on Friday that I was raised not to be this “typical emotional woman” and use hormones as an excuse for bad behavior. In a way I was sort of raised like a boy in that respect - suck it up, brush yourself off and show emotion at appropriate times. Being overly emotional female loses respect from others, my mother used to preach. It is great advice that has served me well in my career. So while I can be a bit of a crybaby, it’s done behind closed doors. Other than responding to death of loved ones, none of my boyfriends have ever seen me cry. I do believe in getting things out in the open, but by no means am I a nag. In fact, I’ve been told I don’t speak up enough on things. Yeah, that is something I probably need to work on.

By Poppa Grande

November 17, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this

Kym

if this were real life(and believe me it could be) this guy would possible be granted the total divorce..but the court could very well rule that he is responsible for paying child support for a kid that is not biological his kid.

It happens more often that you think. Imagines if he remarries, and the new wife has is affected because the court does not readjust child support just because the man starts another family. So, it would affect her household finances as well.

I see both sides. No kid asks to be born. But, dude was tricked into supporting kid. It is just a jacked up situation all around. The closest thing to a winner is the decptive woman, who benefits from the child support if the money isn’t order into a trust of some sort that prevents her from using it.

By For Real

November 17, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

Dan Family Court only has three laws Best Interest of the Child, Best Interest of the State and Best Interest of the BAR. It is the only court in the land where the judge is not bound by written law. There was a case in NJ where a married couple had a child and the Husband didn’t believe the child was his. He found out that in fact the child was not his but one of his ex’s “play brothers” (btw the play brother was named the godfather too by the women). They went to court she admitted in court that she intentionally deceived her ex husband but the judge ruled that he could not sue her for fraud (he was paying child support during their separation) but that he could sue the “Play Brother/Godfather”. And no the Supreme Court will not do anything either.

Kym You should continue in Family Law. You will learn what will happen to your son. I wish more women were exposed to the unfair treatment.

By Sassette aka Kym

November 17, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this

For Real LMAO…@ you.

Poppa G and Dan I was not trying to change the subject with the law stuff just venting about what I am reading and thinking okay I understand the intent of these laws but this is foul. Before the law would have declared the child illegitmate but now as PopG said under civil rule the kid is legit. So that means dude has to pay up. In this case it is really not fair.

By Dan

November 17, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

@PG

The “child support trust” isn’t usually an option unless you ask for it. Even then there are the added costs of the administrator, tax consequences, etc. It’s a great idea if you have the money for it.

The court also considers the working habits/history of the mother as well. If she can’t/doesn’t show an income history, part of that money is allocated as her income as well. “Best for the child” my azz!

By For Real

November 17, 2008 11:15 AM | Link to this

Other than responding to death of loved ones, none of my boyfriends have ever seen me cry.

For Real now pulling a hair in Kimmie’s nose.

PG What about “default dads” that is some really fugged up ish there. If you don’t respond to a notice within 30 days you become the father of a child regardless of the fact if you are the father or not.

By Dan

November 17, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this

@Kym

It happens everyday.

@For Real

I don’t know the NJ laws like that, but a Federal law for theft by deception is on every book. The problem is getting it past a judge in either civil or criminal court.

In criminal court, if you can show a) intent; b) malice aforethought; c) the financial impact of the fraud, I think you could get by. The problem is no one is willing to challenge the law on principal as it is written.

By Wise Diva

November 17, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this

Hey folks! crazy in my office today, I love taking days off, but coming back, ugh not so much

Being overly emotional female loses respect from others, my mother used to preach, wow Kimmie, my mother didn’t come out and say this to me, but I think i learned it from her, she was not prone to get hysterical or highly emotive, hmm.

I realize that I have to work on things because I want a good balance.

By MELO

November 17, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this

mail call 4 u For Real

By MELO

November 17, 2008 11:31 AM | Link to this

He can’t find his underwear because you keep putting them in a different dayumm drawer!!!

And socks too,For Real. Good job, tho!

By Sassette aka Kym

November 17, 2008 11:35 AM | Link to this

For Real I swear I am sitting thinking how screwed up is this whole thing is and the real daddy- who knows he is the daddy- gets off scot free.

By MELO

November 17, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

What do you do when the person you are dating is the strong, silent type?

The strong but silent type dude proly is paying child support for a child who aint his…lol.He is not strong after all,just some lame dude who is ailing on the inside and not revealing reasons for his anger. Sassette,u didnt change the subject,it fits perfectly with Diva’s topic!! The law is fine in my view coz somebody got to pay for that kids’ upkeep.If the biological drug dealer dad without regular income cannot do it,at least there is the lame dude with no brains but a good income who can fill in.Why make the kid suffer?Let the adults sort that among themselves…lol

By Sassette aka Kym

November 17, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

Wanda Sykes is gay.. some how this doesn’t surprise me.

By Laura

November 17, 2008 11:55 AM | Link to this

The law may be extremely un-fair in that respect. But what about the rights of that man if he wants to continue to be a part of the child’s life? If he has been raising the kid as his own for years one would hope that the fact that he isn’t the biological father wouldn’t mean that he simply walks out on the kid.

By MLL

November 17, 2008 12:01 PM | Link to this

I call it the calm before the storm syndrom, I stay clear of men who are iceburgs, the ones who don’t show any kind of emotions…they’re usually the ones who have outburst of anger when they are pushed and you might not be the one pushing…..that’s when all kinds of things come to surface that’s been eating at him for a while, all kinds of things just adding up and “pop” you’re sitting looking like WTF just happened???….. I used to keep my emotions at bay, holding everything in, it’s not good for the soul…but I’ve learned to talk things out. No I tell it, I tell you just how I feel.

By Leggs

November 17, 2008 12:02 PM | Link to this

Wanda Sykes is gay…NO!!!!!!

If he has been raising the kid as his own for years one would hope that the fact that he isn’t the biological father wouldn’t mean that he simply walks out on the kid. Main reason why the courts oftentimes make the guy pay child support.

By kimmie

November 17, 2008 12:02 PM | Link to this

For Real - Man, don’t mention my nose! How about I was playing with SO’s daughter and she accidentally bumped her head up against my nose and it started bleeding. I’ve never had a nose bleed before and it scared us all to death!

Wise Diva - You are right, you need a balance. Can’t have both of you being all hard! But I think I’ve worked out a nice balance emotion-wise. I think though I have always been too concerned with rocking the boat. I chose my battles, but maybe not the right ones? Or, I’ve kept things bottled until it boiled over, and that’s not only in romantic relaionships too. When I do explode (or expound may be a better word for me), I don’t scream or yell but I’m trying to get so much out that has built up and things get twisted. People look at me like, “what are you talking about?”. Maybe if I had just spoken up in the beginning and not let things fester! I’m definitely working on it!

By Poppa Grande

November 17, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

Dan

I was just giving the GA Supreme Court’s rule

Family law is NOT allowed under Federal law. There are separation of power (aka subject matter jurisdiction) under the US Constitution, Article III, Section 2. It limits what Federal Court can hear. There must be a Federal Question (something arising out of the US Constitution, Diversity (involving plaintiff and defendants from different states) or through supplemental jurisdiction (attached to a federal question) in order for the Federal Court to have jurisdiction.

Therefore, family is only something governed by the state law. It would be a very strange case that would make it to the US Constitution and probably not applicable to most cases.

I understand your fraud claim. However, the GA Supreme court has ruled time and time again they rule in favor of continuing child support if a guy starts paying. It makes a compelling legal argument for men to not start paying child support until he is sure.

By Just Say'n

November 17, 2008 12:09 PM | Link to this

If you do the right thang by yo baby mama’s and yo kids u should have no problem paying what is due. Right, stop look’n for a way out of paying. Dumb Arse

By Dan

November 17, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

@PG

I feel you. I know what you were doing.

I was speaking of a hypothetical “future” case that could be the foundation for the legal argument.

If you argue fraud, before the “goood of the child” and take the case Federal, I think one would have an argument and a good case.

@Laura

No one, at least not me, is arguing that child support should cease after 17 years with repayment as an option.

I’m speaking on the moment the court issues the decision. If the woman is standing there, knowing that the man is not the father, she is committing fraud. Not just against the man, but the court as well.

What the court, or opponents of this line of thinking argue is that it is incumbent on the man to raise the question of paternity prior to the court hearing.

If this been your kid for 12 years, it’s your kid, regardless of DNA. My argument is with the fradulent actions of the biological parent (in this case the mother) and that punitive damages should be assessed for the years of deception.

By Sassette aka Kym

November 17, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

I understand your fraud claim. However, the GA Supreme court has ruled time and time again they rule in favor of continuing child support if a guy starts paying. It makes a compelling legal argument for men to not start paying child support until he is sure.

Poppa G so help me I thought I was going nuts this weekend. I kept thinking there is no way this is right. But stare decisis rules the day.

I have read so many jacked up cases they are all running together now.

By Poppa Grande

November 17, 2008 12:22 PM | Link to this

Just say’n

If you do the right thang by yo baby mama’s and yo kids u should have no problem paying what is due. Right, stop look’n for a way out of paying. Dumb Arse

If person isn’t ready to accept the responsibility that may arise as a result of the rabbit dance, then a person is probably better “relating” to Rosy Palm and her five friends.

Reality is there are some shady people out there, BOTH male AND female. Children don’t ask to come.

By Poppa Grande

November 17, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

Kym

Map out you facts…just about every detail. Each case turns on its facts. Some cases look the same, there may be something that you might have overlooked in your facts that can lead you to a case that can help you. Teachers usually give you everything that you need. You just have to analyze your facts.

Family law case is kind of tough to get in the first semester. However, it could be worse….you could have constitutional law.

By Sassette aka Kym

November 17, 2008 12:35 PM | Link to this

I tell you this case law, the tie in the Bungals/Eagles game and the Steelers winning with a history making 11-10 score did me in this weekend.

By Sassette aka Kym

November 17, 2008 12:47 PM | Link to this

PoppaG This is for my legal research class. I have my facts. I am just annoyed I couldnt find one case to justify this dude not having to pay support for this kid.

By Angie

November 17, 2008 12:59 PM | Link to this

hi ev1! it’s gonna be a great day. ;-)

By Leggs

November 17, 2008 1:14 PM | Link to this

FYI….Went to the new spot on Memorial Drive (AmbianceLounge). Nice, very nice. More restaurant style until about 10:00 when they put the music on. Food looked and smelled delicious. Free before 9:00, $10 after and crowded by 11:30! Small parking lot and there’s an attendant in the restroom (don’t know if this applies for the men’s room (LOL))!

By AmazonRed

November 17, 2008 1:35 PM | Link to this

I think it speaks to the triflingness of some women. First of all, I could never let a man raise my child involuntarily if I knew it wasn’t his.

Even if the courts ruled that he should, I’d be willing to let him off the hook. The kid isn’t his! I need to find a way to deal with the mess I made, without making someone pay who isn’t responsible.

By Michelle

November 17, 2008 1:40 PM | Link to this

@ Tim

I don’t nag PERIOD!!! There is a difference between nagging and having a discussion.. Also, I don’t like to constantly repeat myself and if I feel as though that is the case, then it is time for me to move on and find somene who can comprehend what I am saying..

By MLL

November 17, 2008 1:44 PM | Link to this

@ 1:40 Michelle I agree

By MELO

November 17, 2008 1:53 PM | Link to this

Memorial Drive AmbianceLounge).whereabout on memorial Leggs??

By Leggs

November 17, 2008 1:57 PM | Link to this

AmbianceLounge’s schedule:

Monday-Sports night ˝ price pitchers & wing specials

Tuesday- $2.00 Martinis and live jazz

Wednesday-looks like they got rid of the comedy and they said business as usual-live dj at 5 pm

Thursday-Kareoke-drink specials

Friday-Jazz 7-10pm-$5.00 Top Shelf drink specials

Saturday - free b4 9:00

By SexyCool

November 17, 2008 1:59 PM | Link to this

i’ve learned that i can sometimes be TOO CALM with coach because most things don’t faze me…

so, er’ now and then…i have to “acKcrazy” to get his attention…lol…(i’m laughing, but i’m serious…)

By China Doll

November 17, 2008 2:01 PM | Link to this

Speaking of new spots…I went to Michon’s in Hapeville. Nice spot too, jazz and the food looked good. Nice bar.

By MELO

November 17, 2008 2:06 PM | Link to this

checked ur mail lately? Is Michon’s on main street China,thats where i live.

By Leggs

November 17, 2008 2:06 PM | Link to this

Melo where 20 Grand use to be. It has been completely revamped. Drinks $7.00 and up. Beer is $4.00, and a pitcher is $10. Passed Rays Road, near a car dealership on your left if you’re coming from 285.

By MELO

November 17, 2008 2:12 PM | Link to this

thanks Leggs.I knw where that is.I hosted an african concert there once about 2 yrs ago.

By Cemeeli

November 17, 2008 2:15 PM | Link to this

Hey Folks….

Realized 2 more things I hate about this world:

• People who say they don’t wanna get in your business and do ANYWAY.

• Miniature hats

1:53 pm Decide that enough is enough and break for lunch. Lunch today consists of a heap of mac n’ cheese, which Cafe’ workers know is my new favorite cheese love affair, with a ready salted crisps chaser = cornbread.

Hope all had a great weekend.

By Leggs

November 17, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

What’s a minature hat??? Who wears these, clowns??? Really, trying to picture teeny tiny hat on someone’s head!

Cemeeli, I realized that I don’t like fat dudes w/3 teeth in their mouf hitting on me. I knew this, but it is now etched in stone!

By Cemeeli

November 17, 2008 2:25 PM | Link to this

Leggs you know those hats the old women be wearing (usually at church). They sit right on top of the head. Lol…those are a minature hat. I can’t stand ‘em.

By MELO

November 17, 2008 2:34 PM | Link to this

I realized that I don’t like fat dudes w/3 teeth in their mouf hitting on me they arent as heavy as they seem Leggs.Its just a perception problem that they have.Thing is,if a heavy fat dude lays with u,the ist thing they do once atop u is fart.That takes most of the weight off!

By lurker

November 17, 2008 2:35 PM | Link to this

Why, Why, Why?

Why do we press harder on a remote control when we know the batteries are almost dead?

Why do banks charge a fee on ‘insufficient funds’ when they already know there is not enough money?

Why does someone believe you when you say there are four billion stars; but have to check when you say the paint is still wet?

Why doesn’t Tarzan have a beard?

Why does Superman stop bullets with his chest, but ducks when you throw a revolver at him?

Why do Kamikaze pilots wear helmets?

If people evolved from apes, why are there still apes?

Why is it that no matter what color bubble bath you use the bubbles are always white?

Is there ever a day that mattresses are not on sale?

Why do people constantly return to the refrigerator with hopes that something new to eat will have materialized?

Why do people keep running over a string a dozen times with their vacuum cleaner, then reach down, pick it up, examine it, then put it down to give the vacuum one more chance?

Why is it that no plastic bag will open from the end on your first try?

How do those dead bugs get into those enclosed light fixtures?

When we are in the supermarket and someone rams our ankle with a shopping cart then apologizes for doing so, why do we say, ‘It’s all right?’ Well, it isn’t all right, so why don’t we say, ‘That really hurt, why don’t you watch where you’re going?’

Why is it that whenever you attempt to catch something that’s falling off the table you always manage to knock something else over?

In winter why do we try to keep the house as warm as it was in summer when we complained about the heat?

How come you never hear father-in-law jokes?

And my FAVORITE…… The statistics on sanity is that one out of every four persons is suffering from some sort of mental illness. Think of your three best friends — if they’re okay, then it’s you.

By MELO

November 17, 2008 2:38 PM | Link to this

People who say they don’t wanna get in your business and do ANYWAY thats just a strategy.Just like guys who say u beautiful to a lady.Nine times outa 10,they dont mean it!! Its just a foot-in-the-door strategy!

By Leggs

November 17, 2008 2:40 PM | Link to this

Oh, Ok. Gotcha on the hat thing.

Lurker, those are ALL head scratchers! Especially, the insuffienct funds!

By Hot Mamma

November 17, 2008 2:40 PM | Link to this

**Hey er’body!!!

Imma try to be on my best behavior today!! K

By Blow Me

November 17, 2008 2:44 PM | Link to this

Melo lol @ african concert…( a bunch of OOOH YA LE OHHH!!)

Sexy Leggs 20 GRAND..WALMART IS THAT NOW ON OLD NAT?!??!

By Dan

November 17, 2008 2:45 PM | Link to this

NSF charge

A punitive penalty used to prevent reoccurence.

By Leggs

November 17, 2008 2:49 PM | Link to this

What are you asking me BlowMe. I’m having one of those days where I should have stayed home taking a “mental health day.” I’m not comprehending things very well today.

By MELO

November 17, 2008 2:51 PM | Link to this

OOOH YA LE OHHH how did u know they are from french speaking africa Blow?? Where u there??

SexxyCool u arent being nice…..

By Cemeeli

November 17, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

“foot-in-the-door”

Melo why would anyone stratagize asking questions about another persons business?

“How do those dead bugs get into those enclosed light fixtures?”

I ain’t figured out how those slick suckers get in there either…

By Michelle

November 17, 2008 3:05 PM | Link to this

LMAO!! Yall are a bunch of NUTS!!!

I love it :)

By MELO

November 17, 2008 3:05 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli,they do a pre-emptive strike on u 1st,winning u over by seemingly agreeing with ur stance but in essence they are trying to do the damn same thing,getting info from u.

By Cemeeli

November 17, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

“How do those dead bugs get into those enclosed light fixtures?”

• they are small enough to fit through the cracks.

• they aren’t dead until they get in there and the heat/light kills ‘em

• them slick suckers have not clue that when they get in there they are gonna deep fry to their deaths.

By Jamoca

November 17, 2008 3:15 PM | Link to this

Hey you all…

Regarding earlier this morning… Kym’s 9:09, Kimmie’s 10:59, and MLL’s 12:01 were all up in my subconscious…

Cee You talkin’ about what we call “Whimpy hats” (you know the little stumpy man always eating hamburgers on Popeye). Well that may be better than sitting behind “Sis. Jenkins” with the center-piece on top of her head, blocking your view of the chior as they sing an old hymn. LOL! That’s irritating too!

…and how about baby girl thought since mama was on time today, she could test the waters this morning, thinkin’ I won’t risk being late b/c I had to give her a good lickin’ courteousy of Mr. Do-Right. Humpf! I’m rushing while taking a shower and trying to brush my teeth at the same time. Btw, remind to never try that again, let’s just say I felt a gust of cool breeze in the wrong area. Like the feeling of Eucalyptus or worse ——> Icy Hot!!! …not a good feeling. I mean, I wanted to feel refreshed, not minty fresh! Gurl, you should have saw me…it was a kinda funny! LOL! …my daughter was like: “Ma, u alright?…need some help? LMAOFFF!

By SexyCool

November 17, 2008 3:19 PM | Link to this

melo…lol…i’m always nice…that’s the problem…

and actually more than being nice…it speaks to something someone posted earlier about not always nagging…

everything that rubs me the wrong way doesn’t have to be addressed (at least not immediately and definitely, not all the time)…some things are just a part of who he is…

By Poppa Grande

November 17, 2008 3:23 PM | Link to this

Lurker

Why do we press harder on a remote control when we know the batteries are almost dead?

I feel you on that one.

However, how come people, who are looking for the misplaced remote control, walk by the TV multiple times and still not change it?

Another one:

Why do we park on a driveway and drive on a parkway?

By Cemeeli

November 17, 2008 3:30 PM | Link to this

Breezy…slow down over there testing that IcyHot. po thang

“However, how come people, who are looking for the misplaced remote control, walk by the TV multiple times and still not change it?”

Lol…once you find the remote it’s like a sigh of relief that you found your companion. Personally, i’m only turning that channel button on the TV, one or two times…then i’m turning all sofas and tables over looking for that lil gadget.

By MELO

November 17, 2008 3:30 PM | Link to this

i’m always nice u looking good today in that suit SexxyCool

By Poppa Grande

November 17, 2008 3:31 PM | Link to this

Cee

Miniature hats aren’t that irritating to me.

However, the ones that look like a rooster is sitting on Sister Odell’s head that are huge and have feathers and all kinds of stuff coming out of it kinda irritate me.

By Jamoca

November 17, 2008 3:41 PM | Link to this

Cee actually I don’t particularly care for icy hot, matta fact… I cain’t stand the feeling, which was my point. So of course, there was a do over, b/c there was no way that I was going to sit through the entire day feeling like that!

By Cemeeli

November 17, 2008 3:59 PM | Link to this

PoppaG

That’d be a lil pet peeve when i see a live animal or small space ship sitting on a little old womens head. Oh wow, there is a Sister/Mother Odell at my church…lol. She does not wear hats but she is a taaaaalll woman.

By Shaw-T Lo

November 17, 2008 4:01 PM | Link to this

jamoca

gurl, you shole sound good to me!! i likes that name makes yah boy thnk bout that shake at arby’s, how cool and lushous it is. is that you cool and lushous. holla at yah boy!!

By Sassette aka Kym

November 17, 2008 4:05 PM | Link to this

Mark Cuban-insider trading?

Michael Jackson sued by a Bahrainian sheik who gave him millions?

What in the sam hell is really going on?

By Jamoca

November 17, 2008 4:08 PM | Link to this

PoppaG that’s what I’m sayin’. LOl! I tell ya’ they’re like art projects, but then, there are some that look really nice, even if it’s a bit much …but what’s kind of weird is how folks actually feel they need to see the pastor preaching or the choir singing in order to actually hear either of them. I wonder what that stems from?

…and Lurker I’ve often wondered about Why is it that no matter what color bubble bath you use the bubbles are always white?

Self-made Blog Mofo this is when we know it’s definitely time to get out of the house —-> Why do people constantly return to the refrigerator with hopes that something new to eat will have materialized? Btw, you ain’t calling 1-800 ASK GARY are you? LOL! B/C you know sometimes it takes a min for our bodies to react, but I’m glad you’re alright, chick. :-)

Mqew Lady if you’re out there please check ya’ email.

By Cemeeli

November 17, 2008 4:08 PM | Link to this

When a baby starts crying in church, why does everyone turn around in a squence looking at the baby? And then the baby gets even louder.

By Jamoca

November 17, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

What in the sam hell is really going on?

Kym Just like we predicted awhile back (in a non-joke, yet jokey kind of way) a lot of folks will be stealin’ bread ($$) around here. Literally.

Shaw-T-Lo thnk bout that shake at arby’s

LOL! Maynnne…quit playin’! That is actually my favorite flavored milk shake, but I believe it was Baskin’Robbins 31 Flavs who came up with “Jamoca” ( as a flavored ice cream)…which ended up being my favorite since they long ago discontinued one of the international flavors Kahlua n’ Cream.

By Poppa Grande

November 17, 2008 4:19 PM | Link to this

Kym

Michael Jackson is really having money problems. Two things have happened in the last few of years:

(1) He is selling parts of the Beatles catalog that he owned.

(2) Janet had to spend money to save Joe and Katherine Jackson’s house/property from foreclosure.

I guess I would have financial problems too if I was always paying lawyers for some case filed against me every other year.

When was the last time that someone bought a Michael Jackson CD filled with NEW material

Even another sign of being desparate, Michael Jackson is turning to Kanye West for songs to his next CD. MJ going the Kanye…..think about that for sec.

MJ’s biggest problem was that he was a performer and not a real writer. Quincy Jones wrote Off The Wall, Thriller, and Bad. Thus, Quincy will be paid forever for his work. Michael will get whatever is left.

The money is in the writing….Butterflies was written by Floetry, what hit did Michael write?

Intellectual property rights go to the person(s) who created the idea, thoughts, words, expressions. Not the person who performed them.

By Cemeeli

November 17, 2008 4:25 PM | Link to this

Kahlua comes in a delightful candy. So does Malibu Carribean Rum, and Bailey’s. Don’t ask me when/where i enjoyed it.

By Jamoca

November 17, 2008 4:25 PM | Link to this

When a baby starts crying in church, why does everyone turn around in a squence looking at the baby? And then the baby gets even louder.

LoL!…I know. But it’s a good thing our church has a sound proof baby room, so with the speaker built in, they can still enjoy the service… somewhat. :-/

By Shaw-T Lo

November 17, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

moca baby

got head, lil mama u’s on my radar, really. loves yo smooth silky style. might just have to buy you a beef and cheddar sam-mich and some curly fries when you let me take u to arby’s.

By MELO

November 17, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

Janet had to spend money to save Joe and Katherine Jackson’s house/property from foreclosure that can’t be a whole lot of money Poppe(im thinking) compared to how much she got.What kind of house do they live in?

By Cemeeli

November 17, 2008 4:30 PM | Link to this

I remember i had a lifesize poster of black Micheal J. hanging over my dresser. That glitter glove seemed like it would twinkle in the night.

I also had The Fat Boys, Salt n’ Peppa and of course New Addition….

By Sassette aka Kym

November 17, 2008 4:33 PM | Link to this

PoppG Damn shame. MJ working with Kanye..damn shame. Mom and Pops about to be set out..well I guess not anymore. Brothers are not worth two quarters. I think the only sane one in that bunch was the oldest one Rebe(sp). Shame…The Jacksons..black folks answers to The Adams family.

By Shaw-T Lo

November 17, 2008 4:34 PM | Link to this

poppa

mayne u is the “great who know it” cause u be knowing everythang.

By Leggs

November 17, 2008 4:35 PM | Link to this

If you like Kahula & Cream, you’ll love Cask & Cream.

By Poppa Grande

November 17, 2008 4:35 PM | Link to this

Melo

They were behind at least 4 months in payments maybe even more.

You can bet that they weren’t living in the ‘hood either.

I heard that it was a close to 30 K to get them current (not paid off). but current.

That Beatles catalog is worth millions, but MJ has had to part with some of it to stay afloat.

By Sassette aka Kym

November 17, 2008 4:41 PM | Link to this

Thats New Edition..Ronnie, Bobby, Ricky, Mike and Ralph.

The 80’s where wearing green neon socks, penny loafers, and a Wham T-shirt made you so fresh! Shout out to Kool and the Gang.

The 80’s where Madonna was like a

virgin, and Michael Jackson was still black.

The 80’s where everyone had a jeri curl…and stains on their pillowcases and sofas to prove it.

I didnt have a jeri curl-I got my hair pressed.

Good Times.. Good Times.

By MELO

November 17, 2008 4:42 PM | Link to this

30K,Wldnt that be chump change for a person like Janet.U tell me she dont have smething like a million sitting in a fixed depost account just to earn 6 or so percent interest on a yrly basis and take care of daily stuff? How do these guys invest their money??

By Wise Diva

November 17, 2008 4:43 PM | Link to this

ok, um who is Shaw-t Lo? LOL

By MELO

November 17, 2008 4:45 PM | Link to this

sexxyCool u jus dont waana talk tday hah??

By Jamoca

November 17, 2008 4:45 PM | Link to this

Kahlua comes in a delightful candy. So does Malibu Carribean Rum, and Bailey’s. Don’t ask me when/where i enjoyed it.

HA! That’s funny missy… but somebody say ——> I’oun drank! Don’t worry, I won’t ask. Heyal, gal, you grown ain’t cha? keekeekee-ing You know I have tried those too and they are good. I brought a Valentine’s Day candy box my daughter’s and I make every year together with different material and fabrics from old cookie cannisters that may have been collected over the holidays and fill them with candy, valentine’s day cards and such. The girls took theirs to school and I took the candy box to work and folks were acting all shy and afraid to come over to my desk and grab a sachet of chocolates (for fear of looking greedy since we know they would make more than a few trips over), but once I left for lunch and came back, it was half empty. Would’ve called ‘em greedy, but that’s what it was for anyway…just wish folks would quit actin’ ;-)

Leggs what’s Cask n’ Cream? …and btw, is your birthday near Thanksgiving wkend? just askin’

Shaw-T-Lo see now…all I mentioned was the commonality of my moniker with a shake and now you wanna offer me a piece ‘o ya beef/cheedar sammich? ;-/ I’d rather hit up an old hood spot. But I bet that Mofo Gal and that 2 Piece Chick has got that all covered. Folks will go all the way to The Bluff/Bankhead area and risk their lives for some good fried fish. Better be worth it. LOL!

By Jamoca

November 17, 2008 4:47 PM | Link to this

WiseD I’m over here scratching my head too… sounds regular to me …hmmmm.

By Poppa Grande

November 17, 2008 4:48 PM | Link to this

T-Lo

I used to be a foreclosure paralegal that represented lenders (banks). I heard about this one from one of our clients.

AS far as the music part of this thing, I love music. I could care less if terrorist attacked the TV companies and ended TV. But as LL Cool J says ” I can’t live without my radio.”

I am really waiting for Dr. Dre’s “Detox” CD, which he keeps postponing.

By Cemeeli

November 17, 2008 4:48 PM | Link to this

…almost drift into a coma but manage to pull myself back into the light*

The 80’s…o yea, New Edition, and Nintendos, passion-marks, colored Levi’s, the movie “Stand By Me”…yea…yea…all that stuff.

By Leggs

November 17, 2008 4:50 PM | Link to this

Melo, I was thinking the same thing.

Shaw-T Low showed up a week and a half ago. May be that old dried up shrivel a$$ pimp from back in the day. Who really knows (LOL). No offense Shaw-T Lo!

By abc

November 17, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this

The money isn’t in the writing, it’s in publishing rights. Composers get relatively little.

By Poppa Grande

November 17, 2008 4:54 PM | Link to this

Melo

I don’t consider 30K chump change.

It is not like her parents now own the property free and clear. Her money is in jeopardy if they get behind again, and if they come to her again. Then she may have to put more with it so that 30K is just wasted money. If it gets foreclosed, that 30K was wasted because they could have let it go before she gave the 30K.

By Velonese

November 17, 2008 4:54 PM | Link to this

Honestly people who talk too much unnerve me. I usally calm and complacent, sometimes disant from others. People these days get wrapped in thier own consensus, I think they forget how to live. Always setting some unruly standards for others just so they can go (makes retarded pitiful sound Eahhhghgh) look how bad so n’ so is.

When people or (a “cough” Lady) doesn’t like me, I take it like grain of sand. I have no interest being in being in the public eye, nor do I really want people to “know” me. Most people (even a majority of you) tend to use what they know about someone against them if you don’t get what you want out of them.

When comes to women, their only usefulness Imo is to look at them, about it. So, if someone has a problem with me be Silent and guarded, thats their problem and here is the door. I’d rather be a mysterious person than being someone everybody knows. That way I do not get sucked into having to live a certain way just people might like me. I like being me, and when I’m not having a good I can show it, instead of having to front about it.

Disclaimer: This was brought to you by the Letters F and U.

By Leggs

November 17, 2008 4:56 PM | Link to this

Cask & Cream is the name of the liquor. It is truly, truly DELICIOUS. My b-day is 12/9.

Personally, I think Shaw-T Lo is 2C.

By Cemeeli

November 17, 2008 4:57 PM | Link to this

That’s funny missy… but somebody say ——> I’oun drank!

she’s so cute. They come in non-alcoholic flavors. I’m guessing they enhance the chocolate with other rich ingredients…Anyway why would eating a laced chocolate be considered “drinking”?

see if this works…

[(http://cgi.ebay.com/32-MALIBU-RUM-FLAVORED-PREMIUM-CHOCOLATES-BRAND-NEW_W0QQitemZ220291667659QQcmdZViewItem)]

You had the ones with liqiuer?

By MELO

November 17, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

Poppa Grande i dont knw when those 2 boght the house but at their age,they must ne done with a mortgage.When they were at their peak in earnings,thats when they shld have boght the house outright. It dumb for pple in their 70s to be still talking of mortgages,like that McMahon guy.What happened to ur money when u were young?? Good nite ppls….

By Wise Diva

November 17, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

wow Velonese, way to end the day, LOL!

Have a great evening everyone, sorry for being so distracted sigh, thankfully I survived

By Leggs

November 17, 2008 5:00 PM | Link to this

OMG, Had to laugh out loud at the disclaimer.

By Cemeeli

November 17, 2008 5:00 PM | Link to this

[http://cgi.ebay.com/32-MALIBU-RUM-FLAVORED-PREMIUM-CHOCOLATES-BRAND-NEW_W0QQitemZ220291667659QQcmdZViewItem]

last try…

By Shaw-T Lo

November 17, 2008 5:01 PM | Link to this

diva

most delighted to met yah acquintance.

By Poppa Grande

November 17, 2008 5:11 PM | Link to this

Melo

Many folks put their houses up for collateral to get loans for other things.

I saw alot of that on the Westside of ATL like my area. Granny used her paid off house as collateral to borrow money so that their grandchildren can go to college. The banks were greedy and wanted to give the loans because they were high risk and would garner higher interest rates.

AS you see how the housing market has turned out.

I would imagine that the Jacksons may have done something similar for themselves or their children to start a business or something.

By Jamoca

November 17, 2008 5:12 PM | Link to this

Cee I don’t believe there is a such thing as non alcoholic Kahlua, deary, I mean the last time I inquired. I’ll do a re-check, heyal, if I’m wrong, I am wrong. Howeverrr…eating candy with the flavor of any liquor; it would be safe to say that you don’t or wouldn’t mind the flavor of the beverage itself… (at least somewhat)…Fuddy duddy today, aren’t cha? I think I’ll prescribe to you some Ledisi… calm down, chick. Breathe in, breathe out… and the link didn’t work either :-(

Personally, I think Shaw-T Lo is 2C.

Oooops! LOL! I was actually thinking of someone else, but hey, doesn’t matter, I guess …keeps it entertaining… and as it shows, I really could use it today, so it did not go to waste.

…You all have a good one.

By Velonese

November 17, 2008 5:13 PM | Link to this

Honestly people who talk too much unnerve me. I usally calm and complacent, sometimes disant from others. People these days get wrapped in thier own consensus, I think they forget how to live. Always setting some unruly standards for others just so they can go (makes retarded pitiful sound Eahhhghgh) look how bad so n’ so is.

When people or (a “cough” Lady) doesn’t like me, I take it like grain of sand. I have no interest being in being in the public eye, nor do I really want people to “know” me. Most people (even a majority of you) tend to use what they know about someone against them if you don’t get what you want out of them.

When comes to women, their only usefulness Imo is to look at them, about it. So, if someone has a problem with me be Silent and guarded, thats their problem and here is the door. I’d rather be a mysterious person than being someone everybody knows. That way I do not get sucked into having to live a certain way just people might like me. I like being me, and when I’m not having a good I can show it, instead of having to front about it.

Disclaimer: This was brought to you by the Letters F and U.