By Dan

November 25, 2008 9:07 AM | Link to this

Disclaimer: the opinions reflected here are those of Dan, not to be confused with the male species as a whole or the MLB specifically

At 20, it was just the action, numbers and types….(what would it be like with a 7ft woman?);

At 25, things began to change as specific women (i.e. the look) only caught my eye;

At 30, having travailed the dating world, specific characteristics (like how she cares for her man) has come more into focus.

As possibly one of the more self-aware generation, we can chart our dating history through the prism of our understanding of self.

The more you know who you are, the more you know who you want to add value to your life.

By Cemeeli

November 25, 2008 9:17 AM | Link to this

….strolling in Blogsville eating a cheese eggs and sausage, and awaiting my guest’s arrival….

What is the No. 1 thing a man in his 20s wants from a woman?

To look good in jeans and wear a t-shirt that says “I’m with him”.

What about a man in his 30s?

For her to look good in jeans and wear a t-shirt that says “He’s dating a 20 year old”.

What does a 20 or 30-something woman seek in a man?

Spontaneity and him to wear a t-shirt that says “$0.25 per hour”.

Does it change in the decades thereafter?

Yes. T-shirt now has the middle finger on it.

lemme go and beat this chile in ATV Unleashed

By lurker

November 25, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

Honesty. No matter the what nor the circumstances. Even if, let’s just say you aren’t any good, honesty and respect goes a long way. Whatever choices a man makes in how he lives, be it right or wrong I can so respect a man that’s forthcoming with it. I cannot deal nor grasp lying and dishonesty. Don’t front or change hats as often as you change drawers.

By QC's Vacation starts @ 5pm

November 25, 2008 9:34 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers

I hope you all have a great day and also a HAPPY THANKSGIVING remember not only to give thanks for the good meal you’ll get on Thursday…GIVE THANKS FOR LIFE, GOOD HEALTH, YOUR JOB, FAMILY, & FRIENDS

By AmazonRed

November 25, 2008 9:38 AM | Link to this

Good morning all. I suspect it will be dead today.

Blanca, I agree women are looking for stability. I think consistancy is also what we are looking for. My list didn’t really change from my 20s to 30s. I didn’t experience that lost period or wild period where I had to experiment or find myself. I’ve been pretty comfortable with who I am since high school.

By Poppa Grande

November 25, 2008 9:54 AM | Link to this

Good Morning to all

Dan

Mine was pretty similar

I just simplified my early 20s (truthfully beginning at 15) as being considered as my “experimentation and acquiring experience and knowledge”. I’ve stated my 7 continent goal during that period.

I got bored with that by 25 and wanted another challenge. I can honestly say marriage has been a challenge. Not bad, but still a challenge to get two minds to work together for a command goal. That has pretty much been my goal ever since the “I do” to make this relationship thing work.

Cee

It seems that you have an admirer that posted at the end of yesterdays blog.

For the record, I checked in yesterday morning and it seemed that no one unlocked the door and turned the lights on in the blog place so I moved on.

By Dan

November 25, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

@PG

You are a couple of steps ahead of me.

I’m just getting back to the “girlfreind” phase, marriage is a far shot from where I’m at now.

“7 continents”? Interesting.

I think every man had some arbitrary goal at some point in the acquisition of sex.

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 25, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

Morning All! I suspect today will be light but thats cool.

I am expecting a busy weekend since my big brother & family will be here and my college roommate. Now if I can just get out of cooking a lil for Turkey Day I will be set!

On topic: Stability is what I look for and that hasnt changed from my 20’s to my 30’s

By Leggs

November 25, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. Let me start by saying I woke up on the right side of the bed this morning. I’m in a FABULOUS mood.

Ok, w/me turning 50 in 2 weeks I can honestly say in a nutshell I am seeking the type of relationship Mr. and Mrs. PoppaG has, along with the relationship of Mr. and Mrs. Raqi. Even their ups and downs are met w/love and understanding. Can’t ask for more. Yep, that will do it for me (LOL).

By M.

November 25, 2008 10:10 AM | Link to this

Great topic Blanca.

Though I am the young one on the blog, I will attempt to convey what I learned/heard from my friends and siblings that are older and just people I know.

What is the No. 1 thing a man in his 20s wants from a woman?

He wants excitement. He wants to gush with that feeling like she is hot and she is with me.Also as many different types or looks as possible. The funny thing is that is shallow because there will come a point when you cant see past her looks and cant stand the sight of her! He wants to constantly upgrade.

What about a man in his 30s?

I have friends around this age and I think they really want a good stable woman but balanced with that same zest and attractiveness, i.e., they really want to feel like they are always dating someone new **For women, I think a new outfit, hairstyle or color, and continuing to work out and not let themselves go goes a LONG way for a guy. It tricks them into thinking they are dating someone new rather than straying to go find it.

What does a 20 or 30-something woman seek in a man?

20’s-She wants excitement, a story to tell and everything she thinks she wants 30’s something to make her girlfriends jealous….

By Poppa Grande

November 25, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this

Dan

7 continents”? Interesting.

Yeah, got 5 of the 7 continents..um…”un”covered.

I got bored before Australia, and Anarctica was just unrealistic. There are nothing there but penguins. (I ain’t goin’ there!)

I was, the old saying goes, young, dumb & full of __.

By SexyCool

November 25, 2008 10:18 AM | Link to this

when i was 20…i thought that all relationships were supposed to be the stuff that fairy tales were made of and that every relationship that did not end in happily ever after was a miserable failure…and i thought that because i was having sex with a man that it meant that he should be committed to me…

as i moved into my 30’s, i began to realize that not every one that you sleep with is meant to be in your life forever…and that sleeping with a man more often than not means more to you than it does to him…

having just turned 36…i realize that i still have a lot to learn about relationships and that sometimes, what i need from coach is different things on different days…but the most important things that he gives me and that i expect is to know that we are in this 100%…to know that having a stable relationship can sometimes be more important than having a ring and a slip of paper…and maybe bigger than all of that…is that he allows me to be me…he accepts my faults and imperfections for what they are…together, we realize that a stable relationship doesn’t just happen, we can’t just wish for it…we both have to do the work that keeps us in the middle of the road…

we are moving into a place where our love is almost unconditional and more and more every day…i rest confident in the knowledge that no matter what curve balls life throws…he’s right there to help me swing the bat and run the bases…he won’t turn his back…i won’t walk away…we are us…

By M.

November 25, 2008 10:20 AM | Link to this

In her 40’s? She is saying…Im single again and dating a 25 year old….

By Leggs

November 25, 2008 10:28 AM | Link to this

Damn SexyCool, your last paragraph is beautiful. I’m mushy today!

By abc

November 25, 2008 10:33 AM | Link to this

Everyone has different preferences of appearance, requirements of intelligence, flexibility or humor, and so on.

But, what women want, at any age, is security. Stability is another way to put it, but I take it to mean about the same thing. A woman wants to feel secure in her chosen mate’s fidelity, stable life conditions i.e. steady employment or independence from the need for salaries and wages, absence of volatility in general, someone who represents ideal fatherhood for their children/future children.

What men want, at any age, is someone they can trust, someone who will share or at least allow them their interests, someone to make a home (for the most part, men can’t make the joint be homey), someone who represents ideal motherhood for their children/future children.

Women want stability, men want trustworthiness. Put God in the middle.

By Hot Mamma

November 25, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

DAN

I did not know guys ova “30” still say “girlfriend.” LOL

By Leggs

November 25, 2008 10:38 AM | Link to this

BTW, I’m thankful foreclosure is not knocking on my door.

I’m thankful that I have water, lights, gas and food.

I’m thankful that although my daughter seems to be smelling herself more and more each day, she’s mine.

I’m thankful that I am no longer married (sorry, but I am)!

By MELO

November 25, 2008 10:41 AM | Link to this

am expecting a busy weekend since my big brother & family will be here and my college roommate

Hey Mo jus a personal qstion..do u check ur family in a hotel when they visit like they doing now or they stay at ur house.Whats ur custom….pple?? (sorry for interrupting ur discourse)

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 25, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

Leggs picking up on your lead…

I am thankful for my Lil Mo, who has made me see that I am a better mother/person than I gave myself credit for and that God truly knows best

Thankful that I have my family to share the holidays with.

Thankful for my ex, though we arent together, I couldnt have grown/matured without going through ish with him

Thankful that I still have a roof over my head, lights/heat, clothing, food, a job and my health

And lastly, thankful to all my friends in Blogsville! You guys just dont know how much you have brightened some truy dismal days

By Dan

November 25, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

@Hot Mamma

They do.

It’s a common sign of “not marriage ready” language.

Similar to the lack of 3rd person plural adjectives: we, us, and our.

People give clues to their capacity and intentions by the language that they use.

@PG

Was that Jung or Freud on the polemics of language?

By AmazonRed

November 25, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

I’m thankful for friends who love to cook, so that I don’t have to.

As always, I’m thankful for the blog that keeps me entertained during working hours.

By GeeGirl

November 25, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

@ MIn her 40’s? She is saying…Im single again and dating a 25 year old….

Haha! I hear ya!

I skipped the excitement thing in my early 20s and went for the guy I thought would bring security, both emotional and financial. Turns out I was wrong. So here I am, late 30s and looking for some excitement. However, I hope I will eventually find someone who can meet both the need for security AND excitement. Hey, a girl can always dream. In the meantime, I am extremely grateful for my family and my friends, and all the lessons I have learned, especially those I learned the hard way.

By Leggs

November 25, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

Yes, I’m thankful for all of you in blogsville as well. WD and Blanca, you guys truly make a person ponder with your topics. It’s also nice when we change topics at our leisure much to your chagrin!

Yes, MO, my ex taught me quite a few things as well, and I have to acknowledge his contribution in creating Lil Leggs!

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 25, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

MELO My family (parents) live here so I normally dont have to put anyone up! But b/w my folks, myself and my sister we could house some folks for a few days if we needed to

By Poppa Grande

November 25, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

SexyCool

that he allows me to be me…he accepts my faults and imperfections for what they are…together, we realize that a stable relationship doesn’t just happen, we can’t just wish for it…we both have to do the work that keeps us in the middle of the road

That right there is pretty much the key. There has to be mutual respect for each others differences and how those differences contribute to “us”.

Dan

Was that Jung or Freud on the polemics of language?

Both kind of contributed to the subject. If I remember correctly, Freud started it, but left some holes in his theories. Jung came through and tried to fill those holes.

So, I guess that answer to your question is both. Unless you have something more specific that I overlooked.

Leggs

Thanks for the kind words. It truly is a daily challenge, though.

They say “love will see you through”. I say that statement only goes so far. Both people involved really have to put work into it.

As Teddy Pendergrass says…60-40 and 70-30 don’t work…it has to be 50-50.

By MELO

November 25, 2008 11:03 AM | Link to this

I did not know guys ova “30” still say “girlfriend what wld they say if not married? What is the No. 1 thing a man in his 20s wants from a woman? What about a man in his 30s? Does it change in the decades thereafter?

Melo evolving choices: 20s,nice booty,body and a an agreable face.A good chic allround but slutty in bed.

30s,Smart chic with a good education,nice booty,body and an agreable face.Somebody my mother wld luv to see as her daughter in law.No drama.Somebody who values her home and dignituy of her household and family. 40s-90s, a slew,over the years, of slutty side kicks!

By The Truth

November 25, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone.

In my 20’s I wanted azz.

In my 30’s I wanted something a little more stable but not marriage and the like. A few years at best.

In my 40’s I want azz with a woman I can date for 2-3 years before I can trade her in for a newer model.

Looking at it everything has come together just fine. LOL

Looking back I’ve never thought of women as a forever type of thing. I simply wait until they ask that question that signifies the end of our run together.

The Truth now turns over the sand clock on Roland and Blanca’s relationship. I give it 3 months, max.

Abc Women want stability, men want trustworthiness. Put God in the middle. In other words women want money and men want azz they can enter without fears of past remnants. And leave god out of this, if he existed he wouldn’t want to have anything to do with these fugged up relationships. LOL

By Cemeeli

November 25, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Hi PoppaG.

Admirer? hmmm…

So you started your 8-9 hour studies? You got like a day & 1/2 before that food gets you slowed down.

Melo My friends and family usually stay with me. They like that family “wake up call” and i cook big breakfast. Otherwise they opt for using our family and friends rate at the Marriott Group hotels.

By Poppa Grande

November 25, 2008 11:15 AM | Link to this

Cee

So you started your 8-9 hour studies? You got like a day & 1/2 before that food gets you slowed down.

Yeah, With the exception of going to see Quantum of Solace, I was hunkered down this weekend. I pulled about 8-9 hours over the weekend.

I was up yesterday and today at 4 am to study. I was at really hard this weekend.

Not tomorrow though. We head out to the Carolina coast for Turkey day. So, I must get some rest for the drive.

Next week I will pull the 8-9 hour days before my finals which are at the week’s end (Dec.5) and the week after (Dec. 11)

By Blanca

November 25, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

The Truth The Truth now turns over the sand clock on Roland and Blanca’s relationship. I give it 3 months, max. Ha! I’ll take that bet. Fo sho! But to be clear, three months from now or three months total? We’re one month down… ;)

By For Real

November 25, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!

In my 20’s - sex, food, career, family, sports, hanging w/the boys

In my 30’s - sex, food, family, college, retirement, sports, hanging w/the boys

In my 40’s - sex, food, family, college, picking place to retire, sports, hanging w/the boys

In my 50’s - sex, food, family, living on an island, part-time job, sports, hanging w/the boys

In my 60’s - viagra, food, sleep, family, remembering where my teeth are, burying one of the boys

In my 70’s - looking at young women on the beach trying to remember what it was like, sleep, food, remembering my kids names, depends, scared to go to one of my boys funeral, picking lent out of my navel

By Cemeeli

November 25, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this

PoppaG so how was J. Bond? if you had a kid…well, even that you don’t have a kid, we went to see Bolt 3D, it was good.

I’ll be headed down south with the girlies tomorrow.

The folks say, Hi blog world. hahaha…I got haters in here wanna take my video rocker with them back home.

By MELO

November 25, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this

thanx Cee,Mo.I luv the holidays,xmas,thanksgiven(even tho i hate the foul turkey with a passion) etc and waking up in the morning to smell the aroma from the kitchen.Even tho i have reduced my food intake greatly due to my ailment(i mean, i hardly eat,its a joke hw im breathing), i luv to see my extended family hunkered over the table,enjoying food and jus having fun,talking etc. Truth,congrats on the win over the weekend! Blanca, when my kids go to college and independent,maybe in my 60s,and i have wrked enough, i think me and queen are going to live in seperate houses.I can go to the main house over the weekend and check the family.Then 60s, being the new 50, i will re-tool and get a lil more pudsy b4 i retire from the game.America is so blessed with pudsy, i want to live my mark and not regret later!

By For Real

November 25, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

PG After Africa I’m done. I plan on spend 30 days there.

Truth I got 5 $2 gas cards on it ending before V-day. After the new year Blanca will have the ladies epiphany “Another year I don’t have a man and I am not married and I want, no deserve to have kids, and I deserve to be happy, so either you marry me or we are thru” Then ole Roland will start humming On My Own. Then Blanca will be on yet another manbatical or whatever the new ladies catch pharse will be next year. Then she will either quit MIA or back for her master’s.

Blog men do you find it odd that whenever women end a relationship they all either turn to God or a Master Program or both!

By M.

November 25, 2008 11:44 AM | Link to this

@GeeGirl

Was I wrong? I work with this lady and she is like late 30’s early 40’s…but she will shut any 25 year old in Atlanta DOWN!!! I will gladly parade her around 285 as my girl lol….

@The Truth

My friend’s mom had a rule. It goes for everyone-Men/Women are like cars, every couple of years, you kind of want a new one

By Poppa Grande

November 25, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

Cee

It was good. It was typical bond. Everything seems to fall right into place for him. I wish that I had his luck. Superman has nothing on James Bond…lol.

I love animated films. Whether it is Anime’ or Disney, I love them. Akira is one of my favorite films, and so is Toy Story. (I liked the first one the best.) My Godson loves Shrek. His birthday party (he turned 6) was Shrek themed. So, I’ve seen all of them, and liked them.

I typed all that to say, you don’t have to be a kid to like animation.

Boomerang is saved as one of my favorite on my Comcast remote. I ain’t shamed to admit it.

By M.

November 25, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

@GeeGirl

Was I wrong? I work with this lady and she is like late 30’s early 40’s…but she will shut any 25 year old in Atlanta DOWN!!! I will gladly parade her around 285 as my girl lol….

@The Truth

My friend’s mom had a rule. It goes for everyone-Men/Women are like cars, every couple of years, you kind of want a new one

By M.

November 25, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

@GeeGirl

Was I wrong? I work with this lady and she is like late 30’s early 40’s…but she will shut any 25 year old in Atlanta DOWN!!! I will gladly parade her around 285 as my girl lol….

@The Truth

My friend’s mom had a rule. It goes for everyone-Men/Women are like cars, every couple of years, you kind of want a new one

By MELO

November 25, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

whenever women end a relationship they all either turn to God or a Master Program or both! All women luv dyckk more than they luv God or books! Check this: 1) most uneducated women with men and are possibly housewives are happy 2) most chics who are educated but have no man are either unhappy or unhappy and angry but pretend otherwise(eg) Condi) 3)Most educated but financially inependent women will still seek a mate b4 they eventually give up to revert to (2) above. 4)An educated man is unlikely to seek a woman for financial reasons. 5)An educated and financially stable man with no perm woman simply shruggs that off.Its no big deal.

conclusion: woman luvs man and dyckk more than anything else but they dont publicly express that frustration and angst that they feel if they dont have it!

By Dan

November 25, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

Blog men do you find it odd that whenever women end a relationship they all either turn to God or a Master Program or both!

Not a all For Real,

Both are affirming situations.

Distractions, and a way ultimately back to the immature line of thinking “it wasn’t my fault, it was his”

To go a get a Master’s, during that time, is an affirmation that “I’m smart, I can accomplish what I want” and thereby rejecting culpability in the demise of the relationship.

God, and the preacher are both unattainable male figures, but they love [her], so it’s positive “male” attention.

So, your question is: post breakup do women find things to distract themselves from the pain and culpability (that they one day will hopefully accept) in a breakup?

Noooot really.

By Poppa Grande

November 25, 2008 12:00 PM | Link to this

For Real

PG After Africa I’m done. I plan on spend 30 days there.

My goal was to not only go there, but to “get” a chick from each continent while there. I got five continents. However, I have been to Sydney, Australia. I just didn’t get the other part of the equation.

Honestly, I was such a long flight to Australia that I was exhausted from traveling. I saw the sights and stayed clear of any koalas (they may look cute, but those claws will cut ya) and kangaroos (I saw what that kangaroo did to Tom in the Tom & Jerry Cartoons-so I know that they are no joke…lol)

As for you….where are you going? I wanted to see the pyramids and that was simply amazing. Sphinx is just something to behold. I read somewhere that if you divide the height of the Great Pyramid by the base you get 3.142. That is pi and gives an indication that they used circles for measurement. This was done with the TI-81 that I relied upon in HS and college.

I want to go visit Lake Victoria or Victoria Lake (I’m not sure which way it is called) and Mt. Kilamanjaro , but I don’t want to climb it. (I saw Ann Curry’s attempt last week.)

The wife wants to see the pyramids. I’ve seen them…phooey…lol.

By AmazonRed

November 25, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

Blog men do you find it odd that whenever women end a relationship they all either turn to God or a Master Program or both!

All…huh? Foolish statement. smh

By The Truth

November 25, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this

Bootlegging has come a long way folks. I watched bootleg Quantum of Solace and it was good quality. Not like in the day when you could see people standing up in the front of the theatre.

PG this Bond is way more violent than past guys. This dude wupps azz.

For Real lmao at that timeline. Not the lent.

Melo Raiders to the playoffs baby! Ok, that may be a bit much but I can hope.

By Leggs

November 25, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this

BriteEyez, if you’re lurking, send your email addy to my cell. Tks!

By Dan

November 25, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

@PG

I keep telling you about the kingdom of Kush.

It was a central trade route for most of (then) Mesopotamia.

Geometry, calculus, and math were invented in the area now known as Egypt.

By MELO

November 25, 2008 12:10 PM | Link to this

Lake Victoria it is..I suggest u visit the serengeti whislt u there and possibly the zambezi valley(victoria falls in there).If u fly over the zambezi valley by helicopter,ull be pleasantly amazed,dazed and exhilerated 4ever.

By MELO

November 25, 2008 12:13 PM | Link to this

Leggs happy 50 baby!! im right behind u in a cple of yrs. I see,u seem to be assembling a group of cougers for the party! Way to go!!!!

By Tiff

November 25, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

Hi all! Totallly off topic but I need to know some places to take some friends that are visiting for the holiday. They are mostly into lounges/clubs and I have no idea where they should go since I haven’t been out in ages. Any ideas?

By Poppa Grande

November 25, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

Truth

PG this Bond is way more violent than past guys. This dude wupps azz.

Yeah, that is probably why I liked it..lol. Actually, I would stay away from him. It seemed that this Bond had a way with those he encountered that would always lead to a “dead end” for those who got in his way.

Dan

Geometry, calculus, and math were invented in the area now known as Egypt.

I know. I just find it amazing to get those measurements without a TI-81 or even a Commodore Vic-20….lol.

By GeeGirl

November 25, 2008 12:16 PM | Link to this

@ M

You are dead right! Seems lately all date offers I get are from guys under 30. Love it!

By LHE

November 25, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

Any male insight into why men in their 30’s go after women in their early 20’s? Just wondering what the motive is when they are 10+ years older…

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 25, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

ARed SMDH with you on this one Blog men do you find it odd that whenever women end a relationship they all either turn to God or a Master Program or both! I have ended relationships (or vice versa) and done neither of those things! So much for having a good time with self after a breakup

PoppaG* I love Boomerang too, Im a cartoon buff as well. Family Guy/Boondocks are my favorites but I love Smurfs, Superfriends, X-Men, Top Cat…I could go on! I took Lil Mo to see Madagascar 2 and I think I liked it more!

By Dan

November 25, 2008 12:23 PM | Link to this

@PG

You can write an algebraic equation that graphs to a geometric shape.

Circle, square, rectangles all have mathematical equations that, when graphed form these shapes.

That was about the last interesting thing I learned studying math.

By Leggs

November 25, 2008 12:23 PM | Link to this

Isn’t it Victoria Falls in Zimbawee (sp?)

By The Truth

November 25, 2008 12:26 PM | Link to this

Poppa if I make it over to Kuwait I plan on hitting Egypt. I missed a chance when I was in germany but won’t miss this one.

SexyCool have you been over to visit your parents? How long do they plan on staying?

By MELO

November 25, 2008 12:36 PM | Link to this

men in their 30’s go after women in their early 20’s? 20sh women are naive,they give up pudsy way easily,thats why. sexxycool said of 20s,and i thought that because i was having sex with a man that it meant that he should be committed to me…for the 30s men,pudsy is pudsy,it dont mean a thang.

By M.

November 25, 2008 12:36 PM | Link to this

@GeeGirl

So is it just boosting your ego or have you actually been giving them a shot? You can maybe relive some of your days of youth or just for a little bit….Stella put that whole idea on the map….

By MELO

November 25, 2008 12:38 PM | Link to this

Victoria Falls in Zimbabwe yes,part of the zambezi valley and shared ‘twem zimbabwe and zambia.

By SexyCool

November 25, 2008 12:38 PM | Link to this

truth…they are planning to come back in the spring…that would conclude 2years for them…

i have not been to visit because i would want to be gone for at least 3weeks, if not a month…i know from my past travels abroad that jet lag is a KILLER for me…i, presently, don’t have the luxury of taking off work for that long…

By M.

November 25, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this

@GeeGirl

So is it just boosting your ego or have you actually been giving them a shot? You can maybe relive some of your days of youth or just for a little bit….Stella put that whole idea on the map….

By GeeGirl

November 25, 2008 12:47 PM | Link to this

@ M

You are dead right! Seems lately all date offers I get are from guys under 30. Love it!

By GeeGirl

November 25, 2008 12:55 PM | Link to this

@ M

Actually gave one a shot and for a while things went much better than I expected, but eventually his 20 something side surfaced and so I had to walk away. And yes, the ego boost is for real. It’s a bittersweet irony that when I was in my early 20s I lacked the self-confidence that now seems so appealing to the younger guys. Who knew?!

By Angie

November 25, 2008 1:09 PM | Link to this

And for those of you in your 40s and 50s, is what you’re seeking in a partner now dramatically different than your goals years ago?

no! im determined to get back what i had … and more. am i ready for that responsibility right now? not yet. maybe in another two years or so.

i want guy’s job! lucky b*******.

By M.

November 25, 2008 1:10 PM | Link to this

@GeeGirl

So what do you mean lacked the self confidence?

I think I may be in that boat sometimes. My buddy always says, M. every chick is a possibility, plus I heard a quote What is worst, uncertainty or rejection? Think about it people..

By Poppa Grande

November 25, 2008 1:11 PM | Link to this

Melo

Thanx. At least, I know that Africa is a continent not a country.

I’ve seen pics from friends that visited Lake Victoria and that area. It is beautiful.

Truth

It is just awesome. I suggest it.

I’ve been all over the world, but that is one place that I will remember forever.

Venice, Italy, was interesting but Egypt is amazing.

By Tiff

November 25, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

Hey Demi/QC/Jewel..can you guys help me out with my question at 12:14 if you’re still around? I guess since I don’t blog as much as I used to its hard to get a response as I am now a non-regular! :-)

Hey NC if you’re lurking.

By M.

November 25, 2008 1:14 PM | Link to this

@GeeGirl

So what do you mean lacked the self confidence?

I think I may be in that boat sometimes. My buddy always says, M. every chick is a possibility, plus I heard a quote What is worst, uncertainty or rejection? Think about it people..

By SexyCool

November 25, 2008 1:17 PM | Link to this

pg…i’m a big fan of the animated films…especially those from pixar…boomerang is cool…but…it ain’t got nothing on that black fairy tale…coming to america…oh…and can i admit to secretly liking baps?

By The Truth

November 25, 2008 1:22 PM | Link to this

Have any of you heard about the “2 girls 1 cup” thing? I saw the vid last night and its wild. Wild I say.

Cool that jet lag is powerful. Somethings wrong when the whole world is getting up and you feel like its bedtime. LOL

LHE having dated nothing but 20 somethings for the last 10 years I’d say they’re fresher than older chicks. They haven’t built up all the pain and resentment that I’ll help them accumulate. LOL

By Angie

November 25, 2008 1:28 PM | Link to this

happy thanksgiving to rell, raqi, cee, mll, alvin not demi, bigd, 2c, sexycool, mytwo, qc, truth, blanca, ev1!!!

i started cooking last night. can’t wait to dig in.

see ya monday

By GeeGirl

November 25, 2008 1:30 PM | Link to this

@ M

It’s hard to explain, but in my early 20s I was just filled with uncertainties about myself. Just wasn’t comfortable in my own skin I guess, and relied to heavily on the opinions of others. And I think uncertainty is definitely worse than rejection.

By Dan

November 25, 2008 1:37 PM | Link to this

@Truth

20 somethings for the last 10 years I’d say they’re fresher than older chicks. They haven’t built up all the pain and resentment that I’ll help them accumulate.

All I can say is…

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Funny and true

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

By SexyCool

November 25, 2008 1:37 PM | Link to this

truth…i spent two weeks in korea a few years back visiting a ‘friend’…i was wiped out the entire time…it took about 10 days for my body to sync with that time zone…

needless to say…it was a memorable trip, but not for the reasons that i thought it would be…the extreme jet lag, the typhoon that killed nearly a hundred people while i was there…the extremely average sex, the smell of kimchi, flying a regional korean airline where NO ONE on the plane spoke english…and i could go on…

By Dan

November 25, 2008 1:43 PM | Link to this

@SexyCool

the extremely average sex

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

A ten hour flight for average?

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

By SexyCool

November 25, 2008 1:49 PM | Link to this

actually, dan…it was more like a 17 hours of flight…i flew to san diego and left from there…

and no, the sex was nothing to write home about or to tell my gf’s…in fact, it falls into the category of not even being counted in my total numbers…lol…

By The Truth

November 25, 2008 1:50 PM | Link to this

Cool funny you’d bring up korea. I was offered a job there last week. Well, let me rephrase. I would have to train in Korea for 3 months but the job was here. I’m kind of geeked about hitting the road again so I passed. Plus the Koreans that interviewed me were real uptight. I’d hate to have to deal with that everyday. 2 guys typing out everything I said (1 english and 1 korean) and then an interviewer.

Lmao at the average sex.

The jet lag reminds me of getting to germany and them waking me up to run pt at 6 am. I was deep down bone tired and that just wasn’t happening. LOL

By MELO

November 25, 2008 1:55 PM | Link to this

the extremely average sex if the guy was korean or japanese,i understand.

By MELO

November 25, 2008 1:57 PM | Link to this

Wait a minute SexxyCool,…u tell me smebody actually phlucked u? Ur stock in my eyes just went down!!

By Dan

November 25, 2008 2:00 PM | Link to this

@SexyCool

I KNEW IT!!!!!

I know that women had “encounters” that they didn’t consider “encounters”.

Thank you for telling me that.

Blaaack soommaamaa

But 17 hours….for average?

Did he reimburse you for the ticket and the time?

By SexyCool

November 25, 2008 2:02 PM | Link to this

whatever, melo…(complete with eye roll)…

By For Real

November 25, 2008 2:04 PM | Link to this

Dan I agree with you. It’s seems to be a primal instinct. Victim

PG Yes to the chick thang. I am shocked you didn’t get anything in Australia. But I’m spending 30 days Africa so I see as much as I can. I have been reading up on the African Mystery System for years and I kinda what to trace those steps. Ironicaly or maybe not, they all lead to the areas that you mentioned.

By mytwocents

November 25, 2008 2:09 PM | Link to this

For the most part, ain’t too much changed. BUT in the early part of my 20s I looked for someone to love and in the latter years and into my 30s I’ve looked for someone to love who will let me love him. I’m prepared to work & fight for the sustaining of a relationship but will not be the only one expressing interest in and breaking a sweat to build it.

Cemeeli Upon what are the haters hatin’? Have only seen shout of admiration mentioned. PS I know u cain’t be serrus bout wantin no advertising clown up in ya zone.

BREAKING NEWS Every one of a woman’s actions are not reactive. Furthermore, of those that may be, not every one of those are a reaction to some bs that transpired with her ex. God forbid a lil girl dare to dream, “when I grow up, I’ma do such n such…’

Amber alert for 2C. Or maybe that’s a Levi’s call cuz yous a boy.

By mytwocents

November 25, 2008 2:11 PM | Link to this

For the most part, ain’t too much changed. BUT in the early part of my 20s I looked for someone to love and in the latter years and into my 30s I’ve looked for someone to love who will let me love him. I’m prepared to work & fight for the sustaining of a relationship but will not be the only one expressing interest in and breaking a sweat to build it.

Cemeeli Upon what are the haters hatin’? Have only seen shout of admiration mentioned. PS I know u cain’t be serrus bout wantin no advertising clown up in ya zone.

BREAKING NEWS Every one of a woman’s actions are not reactive. Furthermore, of those that may be, not every one of those are a reaction to some bs that transpired with her ex. God forbid a lil girl dare to dream, “when I grow up, I’ma do such n such…’

Amber alert for 2C. Or maybe that’s a Levi’s call cuz yous a boy.

By Satoria Lynn

November 25, 2008 2:13 PM | Link to this

Average will not do! I would be mad too.

By Dan

November 25, 2008 2:15 PM | Link to this

@For Real

You’re right, there is a victimhood mentality among a sect of ladies (and men too).

But I swear to God the sexies thing I’ve ever heard was (from a woman I dated a while back):

“I know I was wrong, I can admit my mistakes…”

Shiiiiidddd!

By AmazonRed

November 25, 2008 2:17 PM | Link to this

Truth, I didn’t know you dated 20 somethings. I’m not surprised, but I didn’t think you did. Cool.

By Dan

November 25, 2008 2:24 PM | Link to this

@My2

No one is saying behavior is reactionary.

I’m speaking of reactions to certain stimuli.

I believe that anyone can achieve what they put their minds to, but diving headfirst into work or Jesus after a breakup is a typical female response.

As previously stated, men get over it, by getting under the New-new

By Leggs

November 25, 2008 2:42 PM | Link to this

He posted a long time ago that he dates late 20’s to mid 30’s. He don’t like old, onery, shriveled up women (ROFL).

By The Truth

November 25, 2008 2:48 PM | Link to this

Ared yep, my last 3 were fresh off the nipple. I like em young and impressionable. That way they appreciate the things I do to corrupt them.

cool could it have been the jet lag that lowered the excitement level? Travelling 17 hours then rolling in the hay is asking for alot.

so nobodies heard about 2 girls and 1 cup?

By Satoria Lynn

November 25, 2008 2:50 PM | Link to this

TallOne, why would you praise that? You come off as a kiss a$$ sometimes. I’m just sayin. First Dushawn, now the Gigolo.

By AmazonRed

November 25, 2008 2:51 PM | Link to this

He posted a long time ago that he dates late 20’s to mid 30’s. He don’t like old, onery, shriveled up women (ROFL).

Leggs - LMAO!!! I so don’t remember that, but I will from here on.

I can understand why guys date women 15 years younger. In theory, they look better and are more fun and willing to try new things.

Leggs still got that young tenda look though. And that’s why the young guys are after you!

By For Real

November 25, 2008 2:52 PM | Link to this

2pennies I agree with you but i find suspect that some females dreams tend to material after LaDarrelle (pronounced like its spelled) has broken her heart, forgot to pay make two car payments, and is now wearing that special outfit with a 20 yr old name Kitty Kat (It’s short for April)

By AmazonRed

November 25, 2008 2:54 PM | Link to this

That way they appreciate the things I do to corrupt them.

LMAO Truth. Those tricks don’t work on the old birds, eh? I figured you could tame most anyone. LOL

By MELO

November 25, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

For the most part, ain’t too much changed for a start,u now oh..oh,so curvy tantalizing and filled up, compared to ur 19 sh/20 days.U more of a lady now.But u got a lil hurt from ur unger days.

By For Real

November 25, 2008 2:56 PM | Link to this

LHE To answer your question, you just can’t beat youth. 20 yr old women are soft, firm, and flexable. Oh and they tend to believe my stories about the AA Dolphin that needs mouth to mouth once a day in the parking garage in order to sustain life. Do you believe?

By Dan

November 25, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this

@Truth

Yes. I saw 2 girls, 1 cup

I’m still mentally trying to block the image from my mind.

I’ll thank you to leave the subject alone.

By Leggs

November 25, 2008 2:58 PM | Link to this

I like your “in theory”!

Yeah, younger men to elderly. No in between whatsoever. (LOL).

By Leggs

November 25, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

I like your “in theory”!

Yeah, younger men to elderly. No in between whatsoever. (LOL).

By Leggs

November 25, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

I’m sorry, where are my manners….thank you ARed!

By AmazonRed

November 25, 2008 3:02 PM | Link to this

You come off as a kiss a$$ sometimes.

Satoria Lynn So what?

Maybe you’re bothered because you are a shrew. Tell me, do you ever post something positive on here?

By Dan

November 25, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

Sophie sighs and sips her Pinot gris. “It’s getting harder and harder to find a good man,” she says. “Everyone is looking for handsome, rich and charming men but there are less and less of them to go around.” Since the financial markets started collapsing back in March, wealthy Prince Charmings, already an endangered species on the nightlife scene, have become almost completely extinct. The handsome ones aren’t charming, the charming ones aren’t handsome and many of the rich ones are now poor….

But if you’re handsome, why be charming?

If you’re charming, it’s usually because you’re not handsome;

And if you’re rich, you need not be either, just a Paymaster.

By AmazonRed

November 25, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

Yeah, younger men to elderly. No in between whatsoever. (LOL).

LOL Leggs, I’m over here trying to hook my blog homies up with young ladies, I forgot about my girls. LOL. I just happen to know more single women tho. But I’ll keep an eye out for a good “in between” for ya.

Maybe you’d like that 47 year old pilot I know. He’s a Sagittarius too.

By For Real

November 25, 2008 3:14 PM | Link to this

Ared I’m over here trying to hook my blog homies up with young ladies - So list out the blog men that you think would be good matches for your female friends.

By The Truth

November 25, 2008 3:15 PM | Link to this

Ared they can all be tamed. The thing is an older chick is set on locking down some long term security, which goes against my 1st law of power. Younger women just want to have fun until their feelings kick in. They’ll ride along hoping things change, but they never do. LOL

Satoria if you were referring to me I’m not a gigolo. Far from it. I’m really very laid back. I just appreciate younger women. Call me wrong. LOL

Dan I saw a vid like that when I was in germany and dam near threw up. This time it didn’t gross me out. Those chicks are way off the reservation. LOL That chit can kill you. most cats in here would do the darker one though.

Also, if you’re rich booty is actually cheaper than for a poor guy. A nice ride tells most chicks ALL they need to know about you. Ifthe house is on point she’s dam near there without much convo. A dude in a 98 Accord must have mucho game and drop loot to get the same result. LOL Women are as intrigued by money as dudes are about azz. Just wave some around like shark bait and watch the great whites come out from lurking. LOL

By AmazonRed

November 25, 2008 3:20 PM | Link to this

For Real I would never match someone up based on blog personality alone. That would be unwise.

There are a couple of bloggers I communicate offline, so I keep an eye out for em. I did a pretty good job with my last match, I think. I guess time will tell!

By MELO

November 25, 2008 3:23 PM | Link to this

A nice ride tells most chicks ALL they need to know about you funny but that trick works 99%,no matter where u are on the planet! All women are easy,once u understand how their mind works.

By Dan

November 25, 2008 3:28 PM | Link to this

@Truth

My point exactly.

The same goes for women.

If they got bank, don’t need much (who wouldn’t do Oprah?);

If they cute, don’t really have to have a personality;

And if they have a personality, they not cute.

So it cuts both ways.

Makes sense of my blunt tactics

By AmazonRed

November 25, 2008 3:29 PM | Link to this

A nice ride tells most chicks ALL they need to know about you.

Like what? You have a nice ride but live in your mama’s basement? Used to be a Cali thing, but I see it more and more in ATL.

By Leggs

November 25, 2008 3:34 PM | Link to this

Dan, I’m cute and have a nice personality…who told me this? ME!

A nice ride doesn’t tell me much about a man!

By AmazonRed

November 25, 2008 3:39 PM | Link to this

A nice ride doesn’t tell me much about a man!

Leggs, they are talking about young chicks. Remember we’re old jaded birds now and no longer easily impressed.

And you’re right, some folks are simply blessed with it all. Looks and personality. No need to settle for one over the other when you can have both!

By The Truth

November 25, 2008 3:40 PM | Link to this

Ared You have a nice ride but live in your mama’s basement? That’s just not the kind of guys I’ve known as an adult. With that being said I bet it’s alot of folks looking to move back in with moms. LOL 2 of my female neighbors, with kids, are talking about moving back in with the parents. And they’re in their 40’s.

Melo EVERY woman has a certain level of HO in her, and my female family members aren’t exempt. They look for someone to provide for them and that is their weakness. Properly exploiting that weakness has been wittled down to an art. LOL

Women want to be able to tell their gf’s how well her man takes care of her and how well he produces. Just use that knowledge against her. LOL

By MELO

November 25, 2008 3:46 PM | Link to this

simply blessed with it all. Looks and personality. No need to settle for one over the other when you can have both! =MELO

God Discriminates 4 sure!

By LHE

November 25, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

People can absolutely be both attractive and have a good personality… Just not everyone!

By The Truth

November 25, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

Leggs A nice ride doesn’t tell me much about a man! Lets keep it real in this camp. It tells you at the least he knows how to go about acquiring something. 2 identical twins pull up, one in a porsche and one in a Hyundai Sonata. Which one do you look at first? You don’t need to answer because we already know.

You may be older but your genes still pull towards the best provider. You’ve just learned over time to temper that urge with a cautious approach.

By MELO

November 25, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

EVERY woman has a certain level of HO in her to be honest and unapolegetic,evry woman is a HOE unless she aint yours.Coz the tactics men use are all the same and money is in that equation,in some form,shape or fashion. That want u to have a nice,decent and regular job(nothing aint going up but the rent),nice ride,crib or plans to buy one.If not but u are an up and coming dealer in the hood,u get the flyest chic(s).A man is supposed to have a programe and once the woman is convinced,she is sold.The only difference with street hoes is that u negotiate price and AZZ in more str8 forward terms.No complexity in the lexicon!

By Blow Me

November 25, 2008 3:56 PM | Link to this

**Good Afternoon ALl you beautiful southern….(let the “thern” ride a bit!)

Ared yep, my last 3 were fresh off the nipple. I like em young and impressionable

Wow that’s how men view young women….Easy fuggin gullible targets? SO it becomes easier to be a woman when you hit your 30’s?

Interesting…..

By Poppa Grande

November 25, 2008 3:58 PM | Link to this

For Real

I am pretty resilient to the trips. I took that trip to Japan like a champ.

However, I guess have to deal with both a time change and season change got to me. I went during the summer here, and in Australia, its winter there when its summer here. It was a little shock for my body or something. I was sick and tired for about 4 days while there.

It was like a 30 hour trip from NYC (one-way), and it made the trip to Japan seem like a day trip. I was there for three weeks, and lost 1/2 of the first week being sick.

By MELO

November 25, 2008 4:00 PM | Link to this

every woman is a HOE unless she is urs sorry about that..

By LHE

November 25, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

@ For Real Do you believe? Nope… I might be young but I am by no mean stupid or particularly naive. Although it does amuse me that men always assume that being young and blond = stupid.

By MELO

November 25, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

Easy fuggin gullible targets? and they arent complicated..u take them to Mickydee,no problem.no fussing!

By Dan

November 25, 2008 4:05 PM | Link to this

@Blow

30 and up are easier.

20 and under what they can get out of you (as far as money);.

30+ want committment and want they believe is honesty;

But either way, the proper showmanship makes either group an easy target.

Which is why I like older women no BS necessary…it will be whatever it is

By AmazonRed

November 25, 2008 4:06 PM | Link to this

2 identical twins pull up, one in a porsche and one in a Hyundai Sonata. Which one do you look at first?

Truth I may LOOK at the Porsche but I’m going out with the one in the Hyundai.

The one time I dated a guy with a Lexus truck, I found out he was leasing. :-/ His home also went into foreclosure a few years later.

The guys in the Hyundai’s usually have better assets. Besides, it’s always personally irked me to see folks putting money into depreciating assets like cars!

But I know I’m a little different than most women in that respect.

By MELO

November 25, 2008 4:11 PM | Link to this

The one time I dated a guy with a Lexus truck, I found out he was leasing. :-/ His home also went into foreclosure a few years later. but u still were interested in knowing,which validates the point.If he was a hyundai owner and loser,he is forgotten,u dont even remotely care what he does with his ride.

By Leggs

November 25, 2008 4:12 PM | Link to this

Truth, I was keeping it real by using the word “much”. I didn’t say it doesn’t tell me “nothing”. But, I’m with you.

Well, depending on the color of the car, I dunno (LOL).

By Blow Me

November 25, 2008 4:13 PM | Link to this

Truth Younger women just want to have fun until their feelings kick in. They’ll ride along hoping things change, but they never do. LOL

Sad but I think you have a point. At least that’s how I feel sometimes. But now I am realizing that $hit is not the way to go. Stop riding out the waves!! Cement something first to see if you are on the same page. But on the flip side, some woman play that role because ALOT of men truly don’t know what the hell they want. That’s why it’s oh so common for men to end up with the wrong one and wonder what really happen…Easy…you said you didn’t want a relationship…But here you are 3 kids later and a marriage that completely snuck up on you. Lol!!

I never understood the saying…. I think Ms. Sexyleggs said…”If a person shows you who they are believe em!” That $hit is so true…Next time someone mentions “I’m just dating I’m not ready for a relationship” Translation: I just want to fugg and I want my cake and eat it too! I am RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNINGGGGGGG like two straving hungry pit bulls are behind..oh no you wont’ get me! Fun time is over I’m about to be 30!!

lmao!

By AmazonRed

November 25, 2008 4:16 PM | Link to this

but u still were interested in knowing,which validates the point.

melo Actually it doesn’t as I had NO CLUE as to what he drove when I met him. I don’t care about stuff like that.

He HAPPENED to have a Lexus, and I would have gone out with him if he had a hoopty.

Out of all the guys I’ve dated, most of them don’t have nice cars. And I don’t go out with the ones that “happen” to slip their rides into casual conversation. Reeks of insecurity.

By Leggs

November 25, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

A woman always cares what the man did w/his ride because she doesn’t want him asking to borrow hers.

By The Truth

November 25, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

Ared you havent been watching the market. Everything is a depreciating asset. And the guy that had loot stashed away is now as broke as the guy who bought the nice car, the thing is the guy with the car at least had some fun while the saver is wondering if and when the market is coming back.

I understand what you’re saying but your logic comes from the media. Alot of folks bought nice things simply because they could afford them after their 401k contribution or SEP or rental income or whatever investment floated their boat.

Sure we only hear about the ones that were over living there means but thats how it always is.

By Leggs

November 25, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this

BlowMe, so many of us have said that in so many different ways so I can’t take the credit for it. However, most ppl hear what’s being said but decide to turn a deaf ear and wind up wondering why they’re in the corner licking their wounds.

By AmazonRed

November 25, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this

Truth, I know what the market is doing. But I also know that bull or bear, your car is not going to EVER be worth more than you paid for it unless it’s a classic and that’s not who we’re talking about here.

Not everyone goes out and buys shiny new toys just because they can. My logic comes from people who’d rather sock money away for a rainy day then have the hottest ride or iphone.

Then again, I haven’t bought a new cell either since 2004. shrugs

By Blow Me

November 25, 2008 4:25 PM | Link to this

Ared That’s some real BS…Really it sounds nice and humbling and I imagined you smiling with a halo and with a white glow behind you..lol …But truthfully that is not the correct answer. There is some truth to what Truth is saying. You do want the guy that can provide for you …or at least has the ability to bring something to the table. It’s only natural for the nicer ride to catch your eye instead of a ole beat up kia sephia…Fugg that I’m sorry..Lets keep it real. That’s like saying to twins walk by one is scantily clad and the other one has on a long grandma dress…which one do you think men would SEE first? It’s only natural…Who is the better one….probably the dude with the Kia Sephia…lmao! Material things do not mean everything..But I do need to know you can sit a the TABLE. That’s just the bottomline…You don’t have to have the BEST car..but you need to have a decent car and you finances and beacon score in order. Cuz I know my beacon score is fugged up…..But hey u gotta have what I DON’T….I’m working on it…he aint’ done with me yet..

By MELO

November 25, 2008 4:27 PM | Link to this

because ALOT of men truly don’t know what the hell they want thats a common LINE WITH WOMEN,to assume, they instead know what men want. ALL Men want free side AZZ.The next time u catch ur man in a compromising situation with the neighborhood HOE,dont say,ahhh,he didnt want her,she seduced him When a woman brings more than AZZ and has something additional that captures a man’s attn and imagination,he stays on that chic longer.She cant bring the other stuff 1st,then AZZ later,that wont work.

By For Real

November 25, 2008 4:27 PM | Link to this

Ared I understand but I tend to believe the longer you post more your personality comes out. Like when you first came on you read like you got to your back pocket by reaching over your shoulder but the more you posted the more your personality came out. Now you read like you have to reach up under arm pit to get to your back pocket. j/k..

Truth Why is it smart enconmics for a chick to move in with her folks but lame as hellz for a dude to?

Blow SO it becomes easier to be a woman when you hit your 30’s? NO! Because women are ruled by their emotions there are alot of how did you say it “Easy fuggin gullible targets” no matter what their age is. Now come on here and sit on my lap while I tell you the story about the AA Dolphin that could…

PG I know what you mean about being sick on a trip. I was in S.America on trip freezing. Walking around in long sleeve shirts and ish.

LHE Noooo all men do not believe that being young and blond = stupid but I do find it odd that all the letter of stupid can be found in young and blond. Hey do you like Black Cake? It’s very popular dessert around the holidays.

The twin in the porsche is now running of Ared’s toe screaming I’m rich…..

By Dan

November 25, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

@Blow

But remember when he tells you that, you have a choice: stay or leave.

Whichever choice you make at that point (regardless of the justifications of later), that choice is yours - OWN IT.

@Truth

Similar to the aforementioned choice dilemma, I worked in banking and saw people leveraging their primary residence to buy investment property.

They also (the majority) has DTI over 50% and OD/NSF out the yang.

But these same people sported ice, Benz’es and all the accoutremonts of fast living.

As a banker, when I presented them with saving as as option, they were either unwilling or unable to do so.

So I have no sympathy for those that spent like money was coming forever, it was their choice.

By Sidelines

November 25, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

Then again, I haven’t bought a new cell either since 2004. shrugs

Girl, I was with you until you got to this part, lmao!!! Too funny…

By Sidelines

November 25, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

Ared, Then again, I haven’t bought a new cell either since 2004. shrugs

Girl, I was with you until you got to this part, lmao!!! Too funny…

By MELO

November 25, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this

and I would have gone out with him if he had a hoopty u got the most exciting 20/20 lines on the blog Ared

By AmazonRed

November 25, 2008 4:32 PM | Link to this

Blow, who said anything about providing? Of course I want a guy who can provide for me.

Do you think a guy who drives a Hyndai can’t provide for his family? Because a dude has a nicer car, that’s a guage of a better provider?

Now that’s some BS. LOL

I already said I might LOOK at the guy in a Porsche, but I’m also not going to be fooled into thinking he’s a better man or a more successful one either.

By mytwocents

November 25, 2008 4:35 PM | Link to this

LHE, it seems they start out with good sense cuz lotsa men in their 20s are angling for the ‘dirty thirties’… Well maybe that phrase explains it all. Pssst Never look directly into the Dolphin’s eye.

AA Dolphin So you admit LaDarrell ain’t bout ish then?

The D You’re not serious about the charming/handsomeness ratio! LIGHTBULB - maybe you are… So a dude can be “cute” n charming but nothing more? At least I can go with you on the capacity thing.

By Blow Me

November 25, 2008 4:36 PM | Link to this

Ared You need to get yourself together 2004…My grandma has newer phone than you…and Iphone…I mean is that something you can really brag on or is it worth bragging on? Does it say what “SOCIAL CLASS” you are in? Now that is wack a$$ fugg! But ALOT of insecure ppl do feel like they made it and in the incrowd….It’s alot of cowards out there…Let’s get it together ppl!

Leggs Ok let me at least lick my wounds in peace..But I think I got it…just a young damsel trying to get it right…I pray I don’t run into the pitbull of menz on the blog!! lol!

By Poppa Grande

November 25, 2008 4:37 PM | Link to this

Dan

Similar to the aforementioned choice dilemma, I worked in banking and saw people leveraging their primary residence to buy investment property.

I used to be a foreclosure paralegal.

I don’t know if you remember Carey Paul. He had a couple of dealerships around town. Malcolm Cunningham bought him out on I-20 and Wesley Chapel.

Anyways, he used his primary residence as capital and his name came across my desk more times than I care to remember. That was during early 2000s. I bet that he is glad that Malcolm Cunningham bought him out in that one spot because cars just ain’t selling right now, especially American cars.

By Dan

November 25, 2008 4:43 PM | Link to this

@My2

Think about it like this:

It’s an evolutionary process, the attractive people have never needed much of a personality, we get by with little to none on looks alone.

Unattractive people have had to learn different skillsets to standout in the world and show their value.

It’s also the people with the lowest self-esteem (be they unattractive or not) that often succeed for fear of having nothing in life (see: Bill Gates).

So as we age, we either acquire new skills or we die off in the process.

By AmazonRed

November 25, 2008 4:44 PM | Link to this

Blow Me, I am together. Wanna compare Fico scores?

Yup, I got an old azz phone because it works and I really don’t care what others think about it. Sounds pretty together to me.

By Leggs

November 25, 2008 4:46 PM | Link to this

Sorry that you’re over there licking your wounds. Really, I am. Even in the darkest of times, there’s a silver lining. If you dig deep enuf you’ll always find it. Then you can smile, acknowledge what transpired and keep it moving!!!! Most lessons learned are learned the hard way!

By Blow Me

November 25, 2008 4:47 PM | Link to this

Dan Please…

For Real Please…I have read the story AA dolphin who could…lol!

Ared Really…Not necessarily..but sweetheart lets’ be real…I am 28 with a decent ride and I damn sure will not have a fuggin hyundai sonata fool coming to pick me up. I just hate hyundais. I mean a decent nice ride….a maybe a Chevorlet Malibu…something decent. Not a cheap ride. And as far as providing…that’s basically was his whole point. You are gonna pick who you think is gonna be a better provider/father/husband. A guy with a hyundai can not….for 1. He has fugged up credit…2. He has a fugged up taste in cars..lmao!..3. His money is completely fugged up. 4. I aint’ fuggin with no one who is buying unreliable cheap a* cars. It says alot. Although, cars are not an asset. At the same time it’s an investment…and lets me know if you are wise with your money. Why buy a cheap a$$ car and it only last for 3 yrs. Let’s be reasonable. Now a porsche that’s just unreasonable. That’s far fetched

By LHE

November 25, 2008 4:48 PM | Link to this

* For Real* I do find it odd that all the letter of stupid can be found in young and blond. That would be odd if it were true.

By For Real

November 25, 2008 4:48 PM | Link to this

Dan Yet more examples of a women’s primal behavior:

By MELO

November 25, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

I pray I don’t run into the pitbull of menz on the blog!! lol! are u cming to the partey? im with ared on the cell4ne issue,well at least im told,im only getting my Iphone this xmas.So im late too!

By Blow Me

November 25, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

ARED Do you really want to? My fico score is fugged up and I aint ashame to tell the world! We can compare all day..But lets compare debt to income ratio that’s a better analysis…Don’t play with me.

By Leggs

November 25, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

ARed, I can identify w/you and the phone. Just got off the phone w/my child who needs another phone. DO NOT BUY SAMSUNG BLAST! Crap of a phone! Anyway, I’m still using the one I purchased in 2005. No camera. Just an ole fashioned cell phone enabling me to speak w/others. Don’t need that fancy stuff.

BTW BlowMe, I didn’t mean to come across as insensitive. I read your post, but for some reason I thought you were merely making an observation. You read the men on this blog enuf to recognize if you run into their pitbull mentality up close and personal.

By AmazonRed

November 25, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

Blow Me, if you say so.

You’re 28 with a “decent ride.” Do you own a house sweetheart?

The guy in the Huyndai does. He’s pushing the PAID OFF car he has from college because he found an asset that’s more important.

It’s sad you don’t see anything more than what he drives. shrugs

By mytwocents

November 25, 2008 4:55 PM | Link to this

Melo I left my zulu decoder ring somewhere. But I think earlier you may have given me a compliment so thanks. Also, I think it may have been a veiled insult, so I’m outraged! Enjoy chicken day…

The D Just cuz there’s not necessarily a need to… know what, I’m gonna chalk this up to visions of turkey legs dancing in your head. Enjoy turkey day…

B Angie B Hope you have a sunny and lovely Thanksgiving.

Lurkers, Posters, Mofos, Moniker Thieves and Moderators hope that your holiday is safe and satisfying. Toodles!

By For Real

November 25, 2008 4:57 PM | Link to this

Blow Okay so you have read that story. How about you still come and sit on my lap no not that side there you go and we can look at these Honda magazines.

LHE It certainly would be but you didn’t answer my question about Black Cake.

All female blogger that tried to spell stupid using young and blond letters please send me an email at for_real730@yahoo.com I want to help.

By Leggs

November 25, 2008 4:58 PM | Link to this

Ok, back to giving thanks:

I’m thankful that I have a job.

I’m thankful for my freedom.

I’m thankful that I have a kind heart and love people.

I’m thankful that I, for the most part, recognize sincerity.

Anyway, for those of you off tomorrow have a Happy Thanksgiving.

**Self-awareness is the key to successful living (my own quote)!

Peace!

By Blow Me

November 25, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

Ared YOu are off! You do not want to get into personal assets…we can definitely do it. This is the biggest city with foreclosure….The next question your a$$ should ask…is the mofo current? How far is the sucker behind? Is this fix mortgage or a adjustable rate…Come on chick…don’t get it twisted. Owning a house does not mean $hit now a days plenty off ppl thought they could but filing bankrupty left and right….Come with a good point..I had more faith in you! lmao!

By MELO

November 25, 2008 5:00 PM | Link to this

women’s primal behavior primal as in animal and eating stuff Real and Dan u guys are being mean,so blow jobs are typical primal activities??

By Blow Me

November 25, 2008 5:02 PM | Link to this

Leggs I love to read you. You are always positive…I like your 4:46…I needed that. SO on point!!

By Poppa Grande

November 25, 2008 5:03 PM | Link to this

Blow

Don’t try to judge a persons potential based on their car. You set yourself up to be played.

I know attorneys that drive Hyundais every work day, and keep that Merceded, Lexus, Range Rover, etc in the garage at home.

This summer’s gas prices lead some of them to get a car that was better on gas than their “luxury” vehicles, most of which require premium unleaded over regular unleaded.

Everyone had to make changes due to this economy. Only the smart survives.

By The Truth

November 25, 2008 5:03 PM | Link to this

Ared the asset thats more important has just become his biggest liability and one he’s overpaying for, and will for at least the next 5 years. The whole american dream was all smoke and mirrors to get us to step in line. Now the govenrment is saying everyone go out and spend or we’re through. home values have fallen farther than Dolly Partons fakeuns and 401k’s have dropped through the floor. While you were being responsible your government wasnt and you’re going to pay with higher taxes and infaltion, which should be coming in the near future. LOL

By AmazonRed

November 25, 2008 5:04 PM | Link to this

Blow Me, you are over here summing up a guys entire existance over the type of car he drives…

Yet I’m off.

Thanks for my laugh of the day!!!

By mytwocents

November 25, 2008 5:05 PM | Link to this

AA Dolphin Primal is better exemplified by your generosity w/ your black cake and flipper. You also have visions of hmm probably turkey breasts dancing in your head. Enjoy your Thanksgiving…

By Cemeeli

November 26, 2008 8:50 AM | Link to this

…is this thing open?

Pookie ‘n ‘em stayed up late again?

Ya’ll stop playin’ Pook. Get this thing open….