By C tha 1

February 11, 2009 8:23 AM | Link to this

Anytime a person says anything they must back it up with corresponding action in order for their words to carry weight with me. Now there are some exceptions to my personal rule. For the sake of argument, if I were to begin dating a woman who has done a tour (or two) in Iraq, and she explained she has killed in order to protect company and herself. In this case I will take her word. There’s no need pressing an automatic kill switch in a person who’s done it before.

By ImAPeach404

February 11, 2009 8:32 AM | Link to this

The only thing I actually believe when a man says it is: “I’m not really looking for a relationship right now”.

By Sugar

February 11, 2009 8:45 AM | Link to this

Actions speak louder than words.

By Sassy Me

February 11, 2009 8:46 AM | Link to this

ImAPeach LOL at that for real.

Upon initially meeting someone I take their word but with a grain of salt b/c we all put our best forward in the beginning. That being said, I believe that a man’s word is his bond and if he does/doesn’t go against it then I know what to expect and make my decision based upon that.

We all want it to work in the beginning but when it doesn’t …well it is what it is. People change when they’re ready.

By laceitup

February 11, 2009 8:53 AM | Link to this

Words must line up with action for me, the simpliest thing as “I’ll call you right back as soon as I finish such and such” and he doesn’t call back for days. #1 deal breaker for me. If you keep your words in the begining you’re building a foundation of trust.

Wise a guy looking at other woman is so disrepectful. I would feel insecure if I’m out with a guy and he’s eyeballing women in front of me too.

By Le Siren

February 11, 2009 9:02 AM | Link to this

Any woman who expects her man to not look at other women is setting herself up for disappointment! Everyone enjoys seeing beautiful/attractive people. It’s human nature to look…

By Raqi

February 11, 2009 9:07 AM | Link to this

…and mean what you say.

After running up on so much bull crap I adopted the approach of “guilty until you show me otherwise”. That just made me out to be an evil bytch. So I had to grow into “give a man a chance”.

As far as changing an individual, slim chance of that happening. (There are actually two different topics in the entry, but it could just be me). But uh, as for hoping someone will change or trying to change them is like beating a dead horse. That’s why I came up with my own personal 3:4:3 system. Deciding what’s most important and what I could and could not live with. While change may desired is not likely nor is it reality.

Now on to what a person says. Consistency is the key first of. Honesty trumps all. When younger we kinda go for what sounds good. But if you learn anything from life experiences it’s the truth saves time and create less headaches. If someone openly lays out their flaws and faults before you, count yourself lucky.

By Le Siren

February 11, 2009 9:14 AM | Link to this

Ladies, if you really like someone, do you tend to want to hang in there with the hope of the guy changing?

Seriously? One thing I’ve learned in my 31 yrs is that hoping/wishing/waiting for a man to change is a total waste of time and energy. It’s NOT gonna happen. That being said, actions definitely speak louder than words. Men need to be consistent and back up what they say. If you’re not that into a woman, tell her! Don’t just stop calling…If you’re dating other people, tell her! Stop playing these high school games.

By DreamsMaterialize

February 11, 2009 9:14 AM | Link to this

Morning I don’t think it’s as much believing what someone IS telling you as much as it is wondering what they’re NOT telling you.

ImAPeach It’s funny how many women still kick it with us, even after we’ve said that…hoping we will change our mind.

By The Truth

February 11, 2009 9:24 AM | Link to this

If your not hell bent on being in a relationship you can go in with a clear head. Take note of what is and isnt said and proceed accordingly.

On unwanted behavior, check it immediately. A woman does things because others have allowed them to do it. Let her know that isnt happening and if she continues she does so because she doesn’t have enough incentive to stop . Bounce or deal with it.

Peach take a moment and think about why a guy would not be willing to rush headlong into a relationship. There really isnt much upside to it. Tell me in your words what a guy gets out of settling down with you vs floating?

Lace sounds like you may need to let a few things go.

Question: As one of our bloggers constantly states and I think everyone agrees, women falsfy the truth as a survival technique. Why is it that they turn around and demand that a guy be a man of his word. Hell, you lied, why can’t I? LOL

By Keep It Real!

February 11, 2009 9:29 AM | Link to this

A good morning to all the Ladies!

Ladies we men have been given the eye of attraction for physicality of the female body! ooh, la,la

The Good Lord has endowed some here in the ATL with some very eye catching body parts!

It is our nature to look at the opposite sex! Now we can cut back on the staring with our mouth open! LOL

By Stormy

February 11, 2009 9:33 AM | Link to this

Hey Everybody

I tend to hear what is said but listen for not’s said. For me actions are way more stronger than words.

By DreamsMaterialize

February 11, 2009 9:35 AM | Link to this

Le Siren If a woman just stops calling me, I need her tell me she’s not that into me. I figured that out when I didn’t hear from her. I don’t have time to wonder WHY a woman is doing things. If she doesn’t tell me, then I draw my own conclusions and keep moving.

By kimmie

February 11, 2009 9:35 AM | Link to this

Mornting All

A discreet glance at another woman is one thing, outright oogling is another matter. The first is to be expected because men(and women) are going to look if they are not blind. Undressing someone and drooling is totally disrespectful.

Peach - That’s one of those statements you take to the bank and act accordingly.

It’s funny how many women still kick it with us, even after we’ve said that…hoping we will change our mind. Dreams - That used to be me. Never again!!

Raqi - When I joined the give him a chance club, that’s when my problems started, I must say. I tore up the card, cancelled my membership. I learned to trust my instincts and I’ve had better results. I won’t run because of small things, but I’m sure not sticking around hoping a dude will CHANGE or trying to WORK WITH a dude either if it’s something I really just can’t deal with.

By Deeva4Life

February 11, 2009 9:35 AM | Link to this

After running up on so much bull crap I adopted the approach of “guilty until you show me otherwise”. That just made me out to be an evil bytch. So I had to grow into “give a man a chance”.

Raqi ^^that’s so defines my approach as well. However in my experience, even after giving the man a chance their actions line up with my intution and then comes the other side of me (I don’t want to refer to myself as evil…although that’s probably a great way to describe it)…lol What can I say, I’m a Gemini to my heart…when I love you, I love you, but when you cross me it’s another set of events…lol

On Topic Life has taught me to listen to what one says but watch what one does. In my experience, it doesn’t take long for the representative to dissipate and the real person to come forth.

By lurker

February 11, 2009 9:39 AM | Link to this

How important is someone’s word to you in the beginning. Very. Good bad or indifferent, there’s never a reason to lie or to not live up to your word. Be truthful and forthcoming.

Do you believe everything that they say, even if it is a bad thing? I believe you until the truth comes out. Meaning, I may not quite get the “you’re telling the truth” vibes but I won’t call you on it because it’s all speculative at that point…even though my gut tell me different. A person’s actions are who they are and just a matter of time is what will bring that to the forefront. Theeeeen, I’m calling a spade a spade.

Ladies, if you really like someone, do you tend to want to hang in there with the hope of the guy changing? Heck no. Whether I’m really digging someone or not, is never an excuse for rose colored glasses. That tends to prolong the inevitable and cause more stress than necessary. Take it for what it is and do the needful.

By abc

February 11, 2009 9:39 AM | Link to this

To think that a woman is insecure because she would take issue with her date looking at other women is the opinion of an idiot. Give me a freakin break… certainly, nobody really buys that, do they?

People will not change in significant ways over the short term. Such wishful thinking is counter-productive. At the same time, nobody’s perfect, and you’re extremely unlikely to find someone who is exactly what you imagine. They’re just people, after all, just like you and me, good things, bad things, and in-between.

By ImAPeach404

February 11, 2009 9:40 AM | Link to this

If you’re not that into a woman, tell her! Don’t just stop calling…If you’re dating other people, tell her! Stop playing these high school games.

Word!!!

Dreams - I figured out a while ago that when a man tells you that, he truly means it. No matter how much you’re sexing, what you’re cooking, how much you’re cakin’, what you’re talking about, how funny you are, how cool you are, what type of job or assets you have… if isn’t ready, that kneegrow aint ready!

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 9:45 AM | Link to this

Words from back in the day: “my word is my bond.” Then followed by my actions to further solidify what I said!

By ImAPeach404

February 11, 2009 9:47 AM | Link to this

If you’re not that into a woman, tell her! Don’t just stop calling…If you’re dating other people, tell her! Stop playing these high school games.

Word!!!

Dreams - I figured out a while ago that when a man tells you that, he truly means it. No matter how much you’re sexing, what you’re cooking, how much you’re cakin’, what you’re talking about, how funny you are, how cool you are, what type of job or assets you have… if isn’t ready, that kneegrow aint ready!

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 9:50 AM | Link to this

Words from back in the day: “my word is my bond.” Then followed by my actions to further solidify what I said!

By Sassy Me

February 11, 2009 9:52 AM | Link to this

A discreet glance at another woman is one thing, outright oogling is another matter. The first is to be expected because men(and women) are going to look if they are not blind.

I totally agree b/c it’s human nature to look but there is a point where it can become disrespectful to the S.O. as well as the person being ogled.

It’s funny how many women still kick it with us, even after we’ve said that…hoping we will change our mind No not I said the cat. When a man sees that you’ll stay even after saying that then he pretty much has a free ride to do what he wants and of course he will. That’s his out b/c after all is said and done that’s the first thing he’ll throw in your face. I’ve seen female friends go round and round and all end with the same result. NATHIN but anger and hurt feelings.

Depending on what I want(eh hem) a noncommittal situation may work out perfectly. It’s all about decisions..decisions..decisions.

By laceitup

February 11, 2009 9:54 AM | Link to this

Truth what makes you think I have things to let go? hmmm I was with you until that point.

By Le Siren

February 11, 2009 9:55 AM | Link to this

DreamsMaterialize

You shouldn’t have to assume anything about someone else’s feelings. Like I said before, if you’re not really feeling a person, then don’t take her phone number. If you lose interest later on, don’t just stop calling, tell her you don’t think its going to work out for whatever reason. Stop using the excuse that you “don’t want to hurt her feelings”. That’s just a punk move and you’re taking the “easy” way out.

By The Truth

February 11, 2009 9:56 AM | Link to this

Ladies, when your with a guy he doesn’t want to talk about half the ish you bring up, and he cares for you. Why would he want to tell a chick he obviously doesnt care about that he doesnt care about you? LOL

You all sound like some real upstanding folks with all this “word is bond” and be honest ish. All of you are honest and upright, until it behooves you to be otherwise. But keep lying to yourselves if it makes you feel better. SMH

By kimmie

February 11, 2009 9:56 AM | Link to this

Peach - They’ll kick it with you for months, even years, but if you start wanting a more serious commitment, they pull out the ole disclaimer. They told you upfront, you can’t deny it!

When I got hip after being burned a few times, I bounced immediately with a particular dude who made the statement. I told him I appreciated his honesty. I went about my life and did not let him take up much more of my time. I dated others, saw my friends, lived my life. If he called, I was friendly but did not talk long. He would ask what I was doing or what my plans were and I always had a full plate. It was killing him. Finally he got p** because I was not giving him the attention. I reminded him of his disclaimer and told him I was looking for more. He begged and we started back dating, but it just did not work out. I felt he was forcing something he really did not want, but he did not want to let me go either. I had to put an end to it.

It would be better for a guy to just meet someone, date and get to know them and see how it goes before making such proclamations, IMO, but hey, I’m not a guy.

By laceitup

February 11, 2009 10:00 AM | Link to this

abc you’re saying that you wouldn’t feel the least bit insecure if your date is eyeballing another man? C’mon now. I’ve witness countless ppl go off because their date/SO was eyeing other people. Stop fooling yourself.

By ImAPeach404

February 11, 2009 10:04 AM | Link to this

If you’re not that into a woman, tell her! Don’t just stop calling…If you’re dating other people, tell her! Stop playing these high school games.

Word!!!

Dreams - I figured out a while ago that when a man tells you that, he truly means it. No matter how much you’re sexing, what you’re cooking, how much you’re cakin’, what you’re talking about, how funny you are, how cool you are, what type of job or assets you have… if isn’t ready, that kneegrow aint ready!

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 10:05 AM | Link to this

Morning everyone.

Yes, what you say is important. I am a “go with the flow” type person, so I felt I could handle a guy at whatever station he was in life. If he didn’t want a relationship, we could date and I would keep my options open. Had to learn that it simply doesn’t work for me and to not be afraid to state and go after what I want.

So now, it’s my way or the highway.

By DreamsMaterialize

February 11, 2009 10:06 AM | Link to this

Kimmie you’re a wise woman. if you decide to still kick it with someone after they’ve told you that they don’t want what you want, then you deserve whatever you get after that.

ImAPeach you’re exactly right. doesn’t matter if you’re superwoman, catwoman, whatever. Not ready means not ready.

LeSiren I didn’t say it was the right thing to do, I just said it doesn’t bother me because I don’t have to wait around for someone to tell me how they feel in order for me to keep living my life. My life goes on whether she tells me she’s into me or not. And it’s not just dudes who make the punk moves. Women do it all the time. They will have already decided that they don’t want to be with you, but they’ll still take your calls, still go out with you, but never say they aren’t interested. You say ending all calls is a punk move. I say continuing to accept calls and dates is a punk move.

By Kym-no aka just Kym

February 11, 2009 10:07 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All, I will lurk today cause I am not sure where the sam hell this topic is going..it seems a bit of a repeat from yesterday anywhoo..marinate on this.

“The only measure of what you believe is what you do. If you want to know what people believe, don’t read what they write, don’t ask them what they believe, just observe what they do.”-Ashley Montagu, 1905

By Le Siren

February 11, 2009 10:09 AM | Link to this

Truth

You all sound like some real upstanding folks with all this “word is bond” and be honest ish. All of you are honest and upright, until it behooves you to be otherwise. But keep lying to yourselves if it makes you feel better.

I can only speak for myself, but I am honest and upfront with men that I date. I will and have rejected phone numbers from men and told them that I’m not interested and won’t call, so why take it? I also make it clear that I am dating…meaning that you are not the only man that I’m seeing. Being clear with people gives them the option to accept you and deal or move on.

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 10:14 AM | Link to this

Truth, I am honest and upstanding!

By MELO

February 11, 2009 10:16 AM | Link to this

personal 3:4:3 system Raqi,thats a soccer system they use in that other better football.. LOL.I think that baby is gonna be a soccer luver.. Don’t just stop calling this is a preferred method of communicating most men use.I used it too.I dont see that changing Les,sorry.Btw, i like ur photo!!

Any woman who expects her man to not look at other women is setting herself up for disappointment u have a good one here, Siren.There are so many fly looking women in the city,its hard for guys.The technic i developed(i will have to patent it guys,sorry) is, if u are with a luved one and u see sme chic with a nice package,look at her and lavish but after u turn away ur head,say smething real negative about her and her looks, like uggh,ugh wee,(curse wrd)hw cld she wear that, and i dont like her fat leggs! Women like to hear negativity on and about other competing women and when a man does that in her presence,its like affirming the beauty of the woman u with as better or best.That brings ur luved one’s blood pressure down! Psychology guys,phsychology!! To date successfully,u gotta have a woman’s mind and brains in ur palms,otherwise u lose them.

By ImAPeach404

February 11, 2009 10:17 AM | Link to this

…take a moment and think about why a guy would not be willing to rush headlong into a relationship. There really isnt much upside to it. Tell me in your words what a guy gets out of settling down with you vs floating?

Truth I’ll pass. If thats your train of thought, nothing I say will satisfy you.

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 10:19 AM | Link to this

Truth, I am honest and upstanding!

By ImAPeach404

February 11, 2009 10:23 AM | Link to this

…take a moment and think about why a guy would not be willing to rush headlong into a relationship. There really isnt much upside to it. Tell me in your words what a guy gets out of settling down with you vs floating?

Truth I’ll pass. If thats your train of thought, nothing I say will satisfy you.

By kimmie

February 11, 2009 10:25 AM | Link to this

I think the whole I’m not ready for a relationship statement is just another way of saying he’s just not that into you.

By laceitup

February 11, 2009 10:27 AM | Link to this

melo that is a dead give away…I say scan the room upon entering, you’re sure to see what’s what and keep it moving. Less conspicuous.

By M'Karyl

February 11, 2009 10:27 AM | Link to this

Communication is a key ingredient in being able to define how well we want to get to know another person or in how well we do get to know another person…or in whether or not we do want to know another person…so listening is important…because I have learned that if given an uninterrupted thread of conversation, most ppl will tell you what they want you to know…implicitly or explicitly, about themselves…and I have also learned to “listen” to how another person responds/reacts to what I say as well…given that I do not stutter, utter or mutter…lol…right straight forward I am.

My boundaries define what I allow to abut, meld or mix in my life…and if a person communicates anything to me that is indicative of a not so savory or desirable interaction, then I do not put any stock into the exchange developing to any great degree.

By The Truth

February 11, 2009 10:29 AM | Link to this

Peach If thats your train of thought, nothing I say will satisfy you. It’s not me your trying to satisfy. The masses are saying fugg it.LOL

Leggs your as honest and upstanding as your options. To hear most tell it whatever is said is law. Thats bs. Most relationships are built on lies and deception. The reason it doesnt seem obvious is because the person lying actually believes the shyt they say.

There’s a wildcard whenever you’re dealing with humans. Its called emotions. The seemingly honest person will lie when it preserves their well being by doing so.

And all the folks that were saying “word is bond” were lying and cheating just like the rest. They just hadn’t gotten caught yet.

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 10:33 AM | Link to this

Truth, I disagree. I’m honest and upstanding due to the principles I’ve incorporated for myself as I co-exist w/the human race. The options at my lap don’t define who I am.

One of the most important words in the dictionary to ME is promise. If I give you my word, I stick by it. Therefore, in MY case, my word is my bond.

By ImAPeach404

February 11, 2009 10:33 AM | Link to this

…take a moment and think about why a guy would not be willing to rush headlong into a relationship. There really isnt much upside to it. Tell me in your words what a guy gets out of settling down with you vs floating?

Truth I’ll pass. If thats your train of thought, nothing I say will satisfy you.

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 10:35 AM | Link to this

Truth, I disagree. I’m honest and upstanding due to the principles I’ve incorporated for myself as I co-exist w/the human race. The options at my lap don’t define who I am.

One of the most important words in the dictionary to ME is promise. If I give you my word, I stick by it. Therefore, in MY case, my word is my bond.

By MELO

February 11, 2009 10:37 AM | Link to this

Guys, what do you do when a woman is great, but there are a couple of issues that you aren’t thrilled about in the beginning Good morning!!

Too bad u did not give examples so i will go with my on.If her sexx is greeeeaaaaat,but she is bad where?,say in smething not really harmful/tame, like time keeping,shes a catch! She has to be a pilferer for me to dumb her.

One thing i have known and done in my past is break all women’s chastity claims.When u 1st meet,most women want to be regarded as chaste,morally upstanding,not one night standers nor easy lays.Thats a facade most women play and dsiplay.Guys take note:Any woman can be hit on the 1st date.Everything depends on ur style the man.A lot of women think we define them by how soon we bed them afetr meeting.Thats a lie.What defines you is how u carry urself and relate to me henceforth.If our romp on the 1st meeting nite was off da da chain,im gonna be back BUT,ur communication with and to me better be romantic,show me u worship me,breathe in the carbo I breathe out and that u are a fly girl,worthy of my attn.U are not a whrre becoz we slept on 1st date,unless i say so and u convince me of it. So ladies,dont worry too much about words etc or ur past.Be what u are from today henceforth and stick with it,no matter what ur ex whrre friends or anybody else says! Ur wrds about ur past dont carry much weight.

By The Truth

February 11, 2009 10:45 AM | Link to this

Leggs as all soldiers know there’s a point where everyone breaks. Apparently you think yours doesnt exist, or you just forgot when it did.

Your principles can be compromised in a new york minute, and have been. Your promises are about as solid as the conditions upon which they were made. Your mouth is always free to say things that your mind cant support. But way to go with the pep rally.

By lurker

February 11, 2009 10:47 AM | Link to this

Leggs word is bond cosing. My dad is an old man now and he chats about a time when people did business on verbal contracts and a handshakes. No paper signing as people were upstanding and honest for the most part. Just because people have alluded to dishonesty and deceit as a means of engaging and interacting does not mean word is bond has become extinct. Neither will we believe a person standing behind their word as a person of integrity is far fetched or the going fairy tale.

By ImAPeach404

February 11, 2009 10:47 AM | Link to this

Can someone please decode Melos 10:37 post???

Truth I realize the masses are saying fugg it which is why I didn’t bother to provide you with an answer - It’s pointless.

By Cemeeli

February 11, 2009 10:47 AM | Link to this

…hey in here…

You gotta be able to flip the script with a person in those kinds of scenario. When things like, ogling other attractive people, popoff (not speaking of a ‘glance’)… little as during “the dating game”. Be cool at first, secure ones, but if he keeps it up, ask ‘em if he’d date such and such chic? no pun intended…He’s probably gonna do 2 things. 1. Stop with the laser eyes, and won’t do anything that seems to diminish you. 2. be defensive.

How important is someone’s word to you in the beginning.

It’s important to me in the beginning, the middle, February, yesterday, today, Jesus’ Birthday, his birthday….period.

By M'Karyl

February 11, 2009 10:54 AM | Link to this

Well, Truth…some ppl have actually reached the point where there is nothing to hide, nothing to lie about and no need to say what we think someone else wants/needs to hear…bottom line…so what they say it what they mean…word as bond it is.

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 10:58 AM | Link to this

Truth, of course everyone breaks at a point. Hell, I’ve been broken. You’re veering off original statement. My options don’t define me. Yes, my principles can be compromised and they have been in the past. However, it is up to me to buckle or stand strong. I opt for the latter. And, sometimes a pep talk is all one need to get the ball rolling. Hell, you pep talked yourself all the way to Iraq for $$ because the options weren’t ripe here anymore. A pep talk goes a long way!

By Rell - LOL

February 11, 2009 10:59 AM | Link to this

This again…lol

folks its not real until the person states i choose you..until then everyone is fair came…LTR was made up by man..

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 11:03 AM | Link to this

Truth, of course everyone breaks at a point. Hell, I’ve been broken. You’re veering off original statement. My options don’t define me. Yes, my principles can be compromised and they have been in the past. However, it is up to me to buckle or stand strong. I opt for the latter. And, sometimes a pep talk is all one need to get the ball rolling. Hell, you pep talked yourself all the way to Iraq for $$ because the options weren’t ripe here anymore. A pep talk goes a long way!

By abc

February 11, 2009 11:07 AM | Link to this

Laceit, I’m saying that if your date is eyeballing the opposite sex to the extent you notice it, then they’re a total clod. If I were with a woman and she did that, it’d probably be our last date, but that’s not due to an insecurity on my part. I’d consider it disrespectful, and rude.

By Stormy

February 11, 2009 11:08 AM | Link to this

Peach

Girl, you need a decoder ring to decipher that….I’d think there are any left. Seems like they give them out at the end of the mouth. I think AMRED distributes them. LOL

By Dan

February 11, 2009 11:22 AM | Link to this

Didn’t really want nothing but to say

Roland Martin for President:

http://www.cnn.com/2009/POLITICS/02/11/martin.valentine/index.html

By The Truth

February 11, 2009 11:25 AM | Link to this

Leggs no pep talk needed for that. It’s just the best option at this point. If I had another option that was better I’d consider that. Thats what i do. I make a desion, then if I found I made the wrong one or the situation changes I make another decision. I’m not locked into a course of action past its usefulness.

By Demi

February 11, 2009 11:30 AM | Link to this

ImAPeach404 HEY BEY!!!

I’m sorry Ms. Jackson [OOOH] I am for real Never meant to make your daughter cry I apoligize a trillion times I’m sorry Ms. Jackson [OOOH] I am for real Never meant to make your daughter cry I apoligize a trillion times

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 11:30 AM | Link to this

* All of you are honest and upright, until it behooves you to be otherwise. But keep lying to yourselves if it makes you feel better. SMH*

I agree with you here and there is always some exceptions. I mean have I ALWAYS been completely honest and vulnerable to ALL the guys I have dated….NO. I think it’s fair to say no one really has. If I am following you correctly I do agree.

Most ppl will lie if they feel the truth will hurt the other person. and MOST have done it…a time or two.

By M'Karyl

February 11, 2009 11:31 AM | Link to this

@SassyMe

you got mail…sent the docx file…thanks

By Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

February 11, 2009 11:34 AM | Link to this

Raqi stated: Deciding what’s most important and what I could and could not live with.

It is that simple. 1) You decide what you are willing to live or not live with, 2) set and communicate boundaries, 3) and just like any contract negotiation, be willing to just walk away. If you abide by this, you will be much less likely to be performing “damage control” down the road.

Notice that nowhere above did I even once suggest trying to change another…not once. That is almost always not an option.

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 11:40 AM | Link to this

Truth, let me ask you this. When you decided to go overseas you didn’t have to talk yourself into knowing this is the “best course” for you. I mean was it a no-brainer that this is what needs to be done when the idea first came to you?

I’m not locked into a course of action past its usefulness. Sounds good!

By M'Karyl

February 11, 2009 11:41 AM | Link to this

@Blow

Most ppl will lie if they feel the truth will hurt the other person. and MOST have done it…a time or two.

This is something I have learned is a useless thing to do…in the ned game, we will wind up on the otherside of the truth anyway…so why not just tell it at the frontend…if the intention is not to hurt another person with maliciousness or vindictiveness, then I do believe upfront honesty is the most expedient means to an end…also, we are not responsible for the emotional well being of others, therefore if our intentions are not geared towards that “hurtful” end…we will do more harm by lying to someone.

I am not obligated to tell a person what they want to hear…I am obligated to be honest…so if my honesty is not what a person wants to hear or it leads them to have “hurt” feelings…then it is already decided what is not about to continue from there.

By DreamsMaterialize

February 11, 2009 11:43 AM | Link to this

Rell Funny stuff man. Been making that argument for years.

Truth We can’t ever get at the real dating issues because we portray the game in an unrealistic way. This morning on V103 they had a panel of chicks “representing” the dating scene in Atlanta. They portrayed the game as a bunch of independent woman who all have their sh_t together, and men who are all intimidated by their perfection because the chicks set the bar too high. This sooooooooooooooo far off what the real situation is like that it’s not worth discussing.

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 11:46 AM | Link to this

Truth, let me ask you this. When you decided to go overseas you didn’t have to talk yourself into knowing this is the “best course” for you. I mean was it a no-brainer that this is what needs to be done when the idea first came to you?

I’m not locked into a course of action past its usefulness. Sounds good!

By Wise Diva

February 11, 2009 11:47 AM | Link to this

I caught a little of that too Dreams Materialize, I was rolling my eyes at some of the attitudes. Ick! I suppose that is part of the representation of women in Atlanta, though sigh

By Stormy

February 11, 2009 11:48 AM | Link to this

Rell

You said a truthful mouthful.

By Demi

February 11, 2009 11:48 AM | Link to this

Yea yea yea yeah yah yo Baby did you hear that yea baby I heard it too Look out the window golly the sky is electric blue Mamma Earth is dyin and cryin because of you Rainin cats and jackles all shackles disintegrate, to residue Silly mortals haven’t a clue as to what the f/k is goin on I’m on the telephone, dialin the Dungeon “Hello?” This Dre, bring the MP and the SP Meet me at the center of the earth and travel carefully Baby grab the baby cause baby it ain’t much time Mamma Earth is tossin and turnin and that’s our sign Omega ‘igga IFO’s are landin in Decatur Hope I’m not over your head but if so you will catch on later Play the track, guess she could not take it anymo’ Rapin her heavenly body like a h’e, coochie so’ from ‘iggaz constantly f/kin her never lovin her never showin appreciation bustin nuts in her face when they done (done done)

{sung in a low voice over and over} All’s well, nothing’s well

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 11:51 AM | Link to this

The blog ate my post. Let’s see if I can paraphrase:

DreamsM, when V103 started having their “relationship panel” it was a joke at best. These well educated women, great jobs, great homes, $$ in the bank but w/out a man are completely clueless when they discuss their reasons for not having a man. Men aren’t intimidated by their position in life. Probably more intimidated by their lack of brains. You’re right, not worth discussing, but surely worth turning the channel.

By M.

February 11, 2009 11:52 AM | Link to this

@Dreams, Wise

I caught some of that today and they will have the guys on tomorrow. What gets me is that they are talking to people who are probably going off irrelevant experiences. They probably have not been on a date since we got a new president elected Nov. 4

My coworker just sent this and I know it may upset some of yall but enjoy a good laugh on me!

**FIVE RULES FOR MEN TO FOLLOW TO A HAPPY LIFE:

By The Truth

February 11, 2009 11:52 AM | Link to this

Leggs its not that major a decision. I’ve been overseas before and done the exact thing I’m going over there to do. So for me its not a big thing. It may be to you but its in me to do this so I do.

Didn’t you make a promise/vow to stay with your ex hubbie/babies father? That only lasted as long as the good times rolled. When you received different information you made a different choice, which will always be the case. Your promise wasnt that important in the end, your happiness was. Dont worry, it wont be the last time. Your “code” was written with eraseable ink.

By Deeva4Life

February 11, 2009 11:53 AM | Link to this

This morning on V103 they had a panel of chicks “representing” the dating scene in Atlanta. They portrayed the game as a bunch of independent woman who all have their sh_t together, and men who are all intimidated by their perfection because the chicks set the bar too high. This sooooooooooooooo far off what the real situation is like that it’s not worth discussing.

Dreams so will you feel the same way tomorrow (or whenever)they have a panel of men “representing” the dating scene in Atlanta portraying the game as a bunch of stable, honest, reliable, trusthworthy men being over looked by easy, gold-digging, crazy women? LOL I’m just asking because although I haven’t listened to a full show all week I think everyone is speaking from “their” experience and not the masses. Should we continue to talk about it even if we feel the situations presented are so far off? Because someone can relate to the examples being made. Just curious.

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 11:56 AM | Link to this

Dreams Yeah it is that time…When they do the whole week of battle of the sexes. Dang I missed it. I can only imagine what is been said..probably a bunch of women Frank ski has slepted with on there. lol!

Oh yeah what do YOU think the real dating issue DREAMZ?

By DreamsMaterialize

February 11, 2009 11:57 AM | Link to this

WiseDiva I see you thought like I thought. I don’t mind discussing the dating game, but let’s just all be genuine so the most realistic picture gets portrayed. We don’t all have our sh_t together. And why is it that when talking about a non-“professional”, he always has to be a micky d’s worker or a garbage man? A Sales Rep Supervisor is blue collar. So is a Collections Manager, Customer Service Rep., etc. We make is seem like either you’re an Investment Banker on wall street or you’re taking orders at Burger King.

By M'Karyl

February 11, 2009 11:57 AM | Link to this

Off Topic

Moms is home and everything went fine…so now she is in the post-operative recuperation process…so may her healing and well being be complete by the mercy and grace of the Most Divine God…peace…and give thanks again for all of your well wishes, prayers and support…my father was very grateful and thankful to hear that so many sent intercessory prayers on my mother’s behalf…and he says thank you too.

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 11:57 AM | Link to this

The blog ate my post. Let’s see if I can paraphrase:

DreamsM, when V103 started having their “relationship panel” it was a joke at best. These well educated women, great jobs, great homes, $$ in the bank but w/out a man are completely clueless when they discuss their reasons for not having a man. Men aren’t intimidated by their position in life. Probably more intimidated by their lack of brains. You’re right, not worth discussing, but surely worth turning the channel.

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 12:03 PM | Link to this

Leggs You funny I love to read you!

Ladies Have you guys read “Act like a LADY, Think like a MAN”?

That’s a must quick read. It will definitely change the game for you. I love the book. Go get it!

I hate I missed him at Stonecrest on Monday..I live right in the area! I am p**!

By Demi

February 11, 2009 12:05 PM | Link to this

Wise Diva in truth…most people just need to focus on themselves and worry about relationship later. I know quite a few men and women who are straight banking, but inner shelves are a hot mess.

I think only Satin can hung out with Bishes (men/women).

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

February 11, 2009 12:09 PM | Link to this

The only thing I actually believe when a man says it is: “I’m not really looking for a relationship right now”.* **Peach I 100% agree with you! I am not a trusting person of ANYONE…but more so of guys! I take everything with a, “yeah right buddy” approach. If he happens to be telling the truth at that moment..great! If not….oh well.

As far as looking at other women…I don’t care. I sure will eb looking at other men. Now there is a way to do it so that neither party feels disrespected. Oggling is a no-no…a glimpse is fine. I have been out and a guy will be with a girl and stares me down. That makes me double uncomfortable. That is just down right rude!

It’s funny how many women still kick it with us, even after we’ve said that…hoping we will change our mind. Dreams I thank God I have never been that dumb! There is no way I am going to try to convince you that you want to be with me. If you don’t see what you could have in me….your lost dude! Dueces!

They’ll kick it with you for months, even years, but if you start wanting a more serious commitment, they pull out the ole disclaimer. They told you upfront, you can’t deny it! Kimmie I have done that on dudes before. They thought that they could change my mind! Hey don’t get mad at me…I was honest upfront. But if you decided that you were up for a challenge…don’t hate me because you set yourself up for failure.

Sassy When a man sees that you’ll stay even after saying that then he pretty much has a free ride to do what he wants and of course he will. I have been trying to tell my homegirl this for 2 years. She has been acting as a g/f for that long and this dude strung her along. Now she realizes it. I guess the house finally fell on her head…the lightbulb came on. I mean the girl is very educated but went straight dumb azz mode over a dude. I told her to her face that she is being a stupid b*tch and spitting in her own face and stomping on her pride by allowing this dude to get over on her. I told her that I gotta hand it to him, he made out like a bandit and she was the only one who lost. While she was chasing him like a lovesick puppy she probably missed out on one of the rare decent guys that exist. She is very attractive so it is not like guys were not hitting her up. It was hard seeing my friend like this. I told her I did not want to hear anything about him and her! And not to expect sympathy or a shoulder when he hurts her. You deserve what you get when you act stupidly!

By M'Karyl

February 11, 2009 12:09 PM | Link to this

LMAO at the V103 panel of “female dating experts”…what a hoot of shyte…mayne, ain’t no way…the games go both ways in the ATL mix…men and women…lies, lies, lies…all lies…lol…mayne, I listen to so much c** and bull from the warring factions about those ishes for years…the dudes never got it, cause I did not have a hidden agenda game…what you see it what you get or don’t get…lol…and the chicks felt like I had something undercover too…hating heffers…playa’s play and the played just get played…Welcome to the ATL dating scene.

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 12:10 PM | Link to this

Demi PlEASE NO MORE SONGS!!

What makes a person a HOT MESS in reference to dating that is?

Answer this please.

By Demi

February 11, 2009 12:13 PM | Link to this

It’s very, very important that these four women do not know each other.

Oh Helllz Yeah!!

Deeva4Life nah, I am quite sure the dudes won’t be as high’n’mighty on the piece…

And another thing, some of y’all ladies need more gay men in your lives.

Demi has learned much about woman by having lesbians friends.

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 12:16 PM | Link to this

I also caught a brief listen to the V103 panel this morning.

One guy called in and said nothing the women were saying were memorable and made him want to know more. So Wanda asked them to say something memorable. Like sheep they did.

I would have told him that maybe I’m not supposed to be memorable for HIM. It’s like chruch. I bet half of us can’t even remember Sunday’s sermon. But I be you can remember memorable message if that’s what was intended for you at the time.

And that’s exactly what one of the problems is here in dating in ATL. The guys ask “what can you do for me or bring to the table?” and women all start jockeying to prove how they are better than the next.

I don’t have to prove anything to anyone. The one I’m intended for will get it and the rest can sit back and figure out why, if they wanna. LOL

By Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

February 11, 2009 12:17 PM | Link to this

This morning on V103 they had a panel of chicks “representing” the dating scene in Atlanta. They portrayed the game as a bunch of independent woman who all have their sh_t together, and men who are all intimidated by their perfection because the chicks set the bar too high. This sooooooooooooooo far off what the real situation is like that it’s not worth discussing.

That is hilarious. It is amazing what people can believe when they watch too many (un)reality shows, and make the mistake of listening to their own BS.

By The Truth

February 11, 2009 12:24 PM | Link to this

Dreams I talk alot to an ex that fits into that panel. Her and her girls always have an assorted list of why dudes ain’t ish and how intimidated they are of said chicks. They throw around their job title as a measure of who they are. Thing is they’ve been losing jobs like 20 going west and this is causing a major problem with their belief system. Now they’ll have to come up with different reasons why nobody wants them. LOL

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 12:27 PM | Link to this

Ared I agree…110%. It’s finally good to read you ;0. I agree totally. I was just discussing this topic the other day. You truly only meant for one. Everyone will not (as truth says) BUY what you are selling…You only need one INVESTOR to seal the deal.

What’s for you is just that FOR YOU!

By M'Karyl

February 11, 2009 12:27 PM | Link to this

@Blow

Funny you mentioned that book…I was in the grocery store about two weeks ago…and two other sisters came up behind me, the book was sitting with the mag checkout stand items…one of them turned and read the title out loud…and we all just busted into laughter…of course, we all oldheads…but it got a good…so hoot…the othere sister picked up the book, flipped through it and said “who don’t know this shyte”

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 12:39 PM | Link to this

MKARYL Yeah I guess being ole school sometimes gives you foot ahead in the game ;). But there are TONS of mofo that don’t know that. PLENTY. If THEY knew and it was all simple math most ppl would not be on here blogging and some would not be single.

But I guess the new thing is …

“I want to be SINGLE by choice!”

The game is lame and it’s gettin screwed up by the day…nah matter fact by the hour. So yeah that field can definitely be a CASH COW…because as said yesterday..Alot of these ppl don’t have DIRECTIONS! No hope for the future…it’s bomb out and depleted out THERE! A fuggin MAN DOWN SITUATION!

By Sassy Me

February 11, 2009 12:39 PM | Link to this

Staceye AKA Black Mamba Yeah it makes you mad and sad at the same time…mad at your girl for being desperate and sad for her at the same time b/c she is soo desperate. You’d be surprised that someone who seemingly has it together is so lonely that they would put up with that.

The guys ask “what can you do for me or bring to the table?” and women all start jockeying to prove how they are better than the next.

I’ve seen that happen and could never figure it out. The women start competing so they can “out do” the next and all the while the dude is just sitting back chillin’ watching them make fools of themselves. My ego wouldn’t allow me to make such an a$$ of myself. It makes my chest tight even thinking about it. I’M ALL VERKLEMPT!!

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 12:41 PM | Link to this

Blow, I don’t believe you are only meant for one. What a limiting viewpoint. But I do believe you aren’t meant for everyone.

By Deeva4Life

February 11, 2009 12:42 PM | Link to this

I don’t have to prove anything to anyone. The one I’m intended for will get it and the rest can sit back and figure out why, if they wanna. LOL

Amen!

By For Real

February 11, 2009 12:45 PM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!

For Real walks in with some accelerant and sits next to Wise.

I think everyone is missing Truth’s point. Which is, nothing on this planet is 100% and neither is your word. The Human Prerogative always trumps any promise.

the real dating issue

I know I wasn’t asked the question but gather around good people and I will tell. First, let me set the mood with some music from that great poet Kilo Ali. Okay, now here is the real dating issue

By Raqi

February 11, 2009 12:46 PM | Link to this

You know what Dreams our garbage collector makes $22/hr. There was an over turned can one day in the yard across the street from us and the guy was cleaning up the mess. I was checking the mailbox and said over at him “messy job” or something like that. He said at $22/hr I’ll do it all day long. $22/hr is a lot better than the average every day blue collar Joe or Jolene makes. And he had to be no older than 25-30 years old. Add in the benefits that he gets and a possible second income from a wife they are doing okay.

My husband has said it and brother still says it, all that independent, man intimidating hogwash is just a feel good mechanism. My brother just said this past Christmas that the only thing that irritates, not intimidates, him about women these days is that janky arse attitude. Mase says most men do not care about the very things that a “inde” woman thinks makes her all that.

By Wise Diva

February 11, 2009 12:48 PM | Link to this

LOL @ verklempt, I soo love that word! Sassy Me, I know my ego has its drawbacks sometimes, but I think it prevents some foolish behavior a lot of the times!

By Alvin

February 11, 2009 12:52 PM | Link to this

Blow Me a lot of blacks are growing up in broken homes…We have the monies, cars, phat crib, and ideal jobs…but no one is spending time builting their inner shelves up…too many people are jumping from one relationship to the next…just destroying one life after the next.

Anyway…email me if you can, demigod33@yahoo.com…some things are to personal to post in the blog…

But I will say this. My pappie have dang near 9 or more kids. Talking to my sister on the pappie side, made me realize how selfish we black men can be.

All I can say is wow, glad I’ve stop dating these past 5 month.

By For Real

February 11, 2009 12:52 PM | Link to this

Raqi Your brother is right and have you looked at the dudes singing all of the “indie” songs? in the words of Arsenio HMMMMMMMM!!

By fee

February 11, 2009 12:52 PM | Link to this

I had to comment on this, because I just went through this with someone. Men word is your bond. that is the #1 reason to say. I need to move on! If your mouth says a whole bunch, and your actions says nothing, you might as well saved your breath. Time is the one thing you cant get back so why waste your time, and the other persons time if you know in your heart of hearts that you are not there. I am learning that, I am the kind of person that can tolerate a lot, but I will entertain very little. Men be honest up front. I dont get mad because you dont want the same thing (commitment) as I want, I get upset when you lie and say you do.

By M'Karyl

February 11, 2009 12:52 PM | Link to this

@Blow

Well, I knew by the time the I was 26 that I was single for life…and it is not about the other, but rather about me and my choices…I have learned that I am an emotionally selfish person…while I can have an affectionate, fond or romantic interest in someone on a certain level…when it comes down to it…I do not want to compromise me and my life for anyone else…if the choice is me and what I want vs the other and what he wants, then I am goin to choose me…I prefer to not the the cumbersome responsibilty or obligation to be concerned for someone else’s best interest when it comes to making decisions about my life…I only want to be concerned with me and what makes me happy…and in that context, a person needs to realize that remaining single is the best option…as I do want to be responsible for causing anyone else to be the recipient of any emotionally negative consequences because of who I know I am and how I make my decisions…that is not fair.

By Cemeeli

February 11, 2009 12:53 PM | Link to this

Superstar Tazzee Safe travels back home sis! ….waitin to hear the stories of your rendevous, oh and my hula lamp ;)

By Poppa Grande

February 11, 2009 12:54 PM | Link to this

AR

You wouldn’t have been a candidate for the panel.

I don’t think that they were sheep (totally). If they went on radio, they must understand that radio is a form of entertainment. Those panels have to be entertaining too. This is just a form of reality radio.

I’ve actually been listening to the 107.5. It doesn’t have DJs and I can listen to music without much interruption (except for this “woman to woman” sounding fibroid commercial that they seem to play over and over).

By fee

February 11, 2009 12:54 PM | Link to this

I had to comment on this, because I just went through this with someone. Men word is your bond. that is the #1 reason to say. I need to move on! If your mouth says a whole bunch, and your actions says nothing, you might as well saved your breath. Time is the one thing you cant get back so why waste your time, and the other persons time if you know in your heart of hearts that you are not there. I am learning that, I am the kind of person that can tolerate a lot, but I will entertain very little. Men be honest up front. I dont get mad because you dont want the same thing (commitment) as I want, I get upset when you lie and say you do.

By fee

February 11, 2009 12:54 PM | Link to this

I had to comment on this, because I just went through this with someone. Men word is your bond. that is the #1 reason to say. I need to move on! If your mouth says a whole bunch, and your actions says nothing, you might as well saved your breath. Time is the one thing you cant get back so why waste your time, and the other persons time if you know in your heart of hearts that you are not there. I am learning that, I am the kind of person that can tolerate a lot, but I will entertain very little. Men be honest up front. I dont get mad because you dont want the same thing (commitment) as I want, I get upset when you lie and say you do.

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 12:55 PM | Link to this

Ared Here we go… eyeroll I do think so. I mean unless you are going into the marriage planning it to fell. I believe marriage should be a one time thing. Ok I know things don’t turn out that way…but thats the way you should plan. So no I do not think it’s a “limiting viewpoint” If you feel like there is a better option why even get married? lol

By Demi

February 11, 2009 12:57 PM | Link to this

Now they’ll have to come up with different reasons why nobody wants them. LOL

Dayum!!

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 1:00 PM | Link to this

PG, sure I could have been a candidate for the panel. Each woman was to give an answer, and my answer would have been, “I don’t have to be memerable to you, buddy” and if I heard that I’d find it quite entertaining.

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 1:01 PM | Link to this

Ladies, if you really like someone, do you tend to want to hang in there with the hope of the guy changing?

See that’s the problem with most of you broads, always trying to change a dude, instead of just blending. Take a dude as he is and if you can’t accept it, realize that he ain’t the dude for you, no matter how good his dyck is. Lord knows that I’ve had to very reluctantly set some good azz poosey back on the shelf, all because she just wasn’t The One.

Guys, what do you do when a woman is great, but there are a couple of issues that you aren’t thrilled about in the beginning? Do you stick around and hope things will get better?

Like I alluded to earlier ^^^, I decide if I can live with the not-so-goods, and if not, I get on down the line.

Truth You all sound like some real upstanding folks with all this “word is bond” and be honest ish. All of you are honest and upright, until it behooves you to be otherwise. But keep lying to yourselves if it makes you feel better. SMH

Mayne, you know most of these broads on this joint be lying their azzes off, I don’t care what they type onto the screen.

Dreams They portrayed the game as a bunch of independent woman who all have their sh_t together, and men who are all intimidated by their perfection because the chicks set the bar too high. This sooooooooooooooo far off what the real situation is like that it’s not worth discussing.

Hahaha. I noticed that it took a dude to intro this after almost half a day in here. And why? Because after all the hype from all them broads about how they got their sh!t together, one dude called in and put out all the fires with one comment about how NONE of them said anything that would make him remember them. What an Ego-Killer that dude was.

I, and many dudes just like me, don’t give a dizzam about your job, crib, cash, or career. Bow down, submit, play your position, whatever you want to call it… act right or get passed over. Simple as that ladies.

By Demi

February 11, 2009 1:03 PM | Link to this

Yo, what about them bishes on “I love Ray J” show.

I remember sitting on the couch thinking, “Mayne, non of these ladies are worth man hood rising to the occasion”.

By C tha 1

February 11, 2009 1:05 PM | Link to this

I’ve said it on here before and I’ll say it again. My lady makes considerably more than I do, but I am in no way shape or form intimidated by her. I believe any man who has a fully functioning pair shouldn’t be intimidated by a woman’s success or sex appeal. Honestly, I believe there are a number of women simply stuck up on their own accomplishments that it makes them very hard to basically relate to. It’s cool to be accomplished and a over achiever, and attractive at the same time, but don’t let it all go to your head.

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 1:06 PM | Link to this

Blog announcement, if I end up getting into a blog scuffle today, just know that once again, it didn’t start with me.

Blow, first of all, check your attitude. The whole “it’s finally good to read you” (12:27) was petty and unnessary. And I was willing to let that go up until now.

Then you respond to ME (cuz I wasn’t talking to you) and when you didn’t like the answer, you give the eyeroll (12:55)…again petty and unnessary. There was nothing in my 12:41 that required your getting an attitude.

We can have a differing viewpoint without all that.

I feel that if my spouse were to pass away, I could find love again and be happy. I don’t belive that there is only ONE out there for me and that A-F*CKING OKAY!

So yeah, “here we go” if you can’t even stand to read an opinion different than yours. Just read opinions for what they are. There are no right or wrong answers here.

eyeroll

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 1:09 PM | Link to this

Demi Can we have Alvin back. please.

Mkaryl It’s good that you figured yourself and situation out early enough to know…You can’t be part of a union. Because you aren’t willing to compromise.

Sometimes I sit back and think if ppl found the RIGHT ones for them at the RIGHT situation…Would their answer be the same on dating/marriage?

Most would say yeah. But REALLY is that the truth. First you would have to envision having the RIGHT one..and most cannot because they think it’s not possible or that they are not able to obtain it. Random thoughts.

It’s funny to notice the new breed of women. Where in both sides of my family ALL the women are married with maybe a exception of 2 One’s a lesbo and the other one is just a crazy Betsey bug….it just makes me wonder sometimes. Something to ponder.

By fee

February 11, 2009 1:10 PM | Link to this

Blue-kolla that remark says alot about you… You dont really think much of yourself or your body… You keep getting “poosey” as you would say it from girls, you know aint the one, instead of keeping yourself for the girl that is the one. You nasty!

By For Real

February 11, 2009 1:11 PM | Link to this

Fee What’s the difference between Entertain and Tolerate? Don’t they both mean You Let Something Happen?

MK You one self absorbed lady but at least you know it. Much Respect! You know the secret of life.

By fee

February 11, 2009 1:12 PM | Link to this

Blue-kolla that remark says alot about you… You dont really think much of yourself or your body… You keep getting “poosey” as you would say it from girls, you know aint the one, instead of keeping yourself for the girl that is the one. You nasty!

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 1:13 PM | Link to this

I’m gon’ tell all the fellas one mo’ time, if you want to see what’cho bish is made of, act like you ain’t got no cash and make her feel that you ain’t gon’ have none no time soon. When that broad gets to trippin’ then you know.

But on the other hand, you don’t need your broad trying to buy you up out of your position either. That broad has some other motives that you’re sure to hear about later on down the line.

What you want is the broad that’s gon’ sit on the couch, and tough it out wit’chu letting you know that she’s down for you and can take a little discomfort without heading for the hills. She might even through in a massage or the like. <=== That’s the broad that you better be partial to.

Read and heed brothers.

By Poppa Grande

February 11, 2009 1:16 PM | Link to this

AR

I said that not because of you but because the station itself has an agenda and that is ratings. It wasn’t a reflection of you as much as the business entity.

There is reason that the females chosen were indeed chosen. Just like there were certain qualities that made NBC/Bravo choose women for the “Real Housewives”.

By Le Siren

February 11, 2009 1:16 PM | Link to this

Raqi

My husband has said it and brother still says it, all that independent, man intimidating hogwash is just a feel good mechanism.

I have to agree with this! This whole “independent woman” attitude for most women is a front to protect fragile egos and feelings of inadequacy. I know, because I’ve dealt with these feelings in the past. Now, I’ll be the first to admit that I want and need a man in my life. Yes, I can live and function without one, however, I want love, affection, emotional/physical intimacy, support, and stability. All women want these things, some of us are just scared to put it out there for fear that we’ll be taken as weak or fall prey to some man who may try to take advantage.

By Raqi

February 11, 2009 1:17 PM | Link to this

ForReal please enlighten me on the “dudes singing the inde songs”.

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 1:17 PM | Link to this

if you want to see what’cho bish is made of, act like you ain’t got no cash and make her feel that you ain’t gon’ have none no time soon.

Lawd, here we go with the silly character tests again. Why can’t folks just live their life? The bad will eventually come out in the wash.

By M'Karyl

February 11, 2009 1:18 PM | Link to this

@For Real

Yep…on an emotional level I am very self absorbed…by choice…and not with relationships with another person, but with family too…I just have some very clearly defined boundaries with my emotional space…yet, I do not mistreat, disrepect or otherwise impose selfish behaviors on others…I encurage all ppl to live by a honest code of self-actualization with self and others…keep the rules fain and upfront…the emotional well being a another person is not something to violate and disregard…that is inhumane.

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 1:20 PM | Link to this

fee Blue-kolla that remark says alot about you… You dont really think much of yourself or your body… You keep getting “poosey” as you would say it from girls, you know aint the one, instead of keeping yourself for the girl that is the one. You nasty!

What it says, is that I ain’t celibate. So GTFOH with that.

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 1:21 PM | Link to this

Well PG, they chose women who were boring and saying the same thing from what I could gather.

By For Real

February 11, 2009 1:22 PM | Link to this

Blow Ain’t no such thing as a new breed of women. Woman are no matter their race, creed, education, skill set, phyiscal appearance or life experience

1. IRRATIONAL

2. UNACCOUNTABLE

Now on the other hand there is a new breed of men that no matter their race, creed, education, skill set, phyiscal appearance or life experience

1. IRRATIONAL

2. UNACCOUNTABLE

Now find the lowest common denominator.

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 1:23 PM | Link to this

Ared WHOAAAAAAAAA!! Slow down killer! Geez you went to get the times of my statements…impressive. Loving it. We are having a convo I am not fighting. We can agree to disagree..its you STARTIN or trying to start a BF..I want no parts GEEZ..STOP it with your BF!! Seriously!

We can have a differing viewpoint without all that I did YOU are the one who said HOW limiting when I was. I never disagreed with anything you said. So what is your font really about? You are arguing with yourself about nothing. I just address how I came to my conclusion since it was “limiting”. No one is saying your answer is wrong…You stated MINES was limiting…take your own advice chic. You stay hung up about this wrong or right thing. Get a grip and take some of the bark outcha font! Girl you better get you SOME because that’s not a good look! Chill out!

BLOG There will be no fight I will not give into the I HATE VALENTINE’S DAY ANGRY WOMAN RANT! I’m not.

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 1:27 PM | Link to this

Lawd, here we go with the silly character tests again. Why can’t folks just live their life? The bad will eventually come out in the wash.

Ared, don’t respond with that BS today. Life is all about tests. The only person that has ever protested any test was the one that felt a fear of failure. When have you ever heard anyone confident and well-prepared complain about any test? That’s right, me either.

What do you think this whole existence on earth is all about anyway? That’s right a test to see who’s worthy to stand in Heaven. Just my opinion though…

By Wise Diva

February 11, 2009 1:27 PM | Link to this

well, if you are drawn to the type that demand high salaries, then yeah, you probably would need to test her. I believe the women who don’t require your W-2 to date you would be far more trust worthy. Her ass-to-waist ratio may not be what you want though.

As was stated yesterday, finding quality people is key, being a quality person is the first step.

By fee

February 11, 2009 1:30 PM | Link to this

blue kolla! why I have to GTFOH. When I am just telling you how I read your comment. You wrote it, not me. You refer to woman as broads, and bish, also tell me your frame of mind and how you respect them as well. Then on the other hand maybe that is all you are attracted to or come in contact with. and you have not a female of quality that you can call her a woman. Dont be mad at me, Im not trying to fight. just being real.

By fee

February 11, 2009 1:30 PM | Link to this

blue kolla! why I have to GTFOH. When I am just telling you how I read your comment. You wrote it, not me. You refer to woman as broads, and bish, also tell me your frame of mind and how you respect them as well. Then on the other hand maybe that is all you are attracted to or come in contact with. and you have not a female of quality that you can call her a woman. Dont be mad at me, Im not trying to fight. just being real.

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 1:31 PM | Link to this

Blow, I feel the “there is only one person” viewpoint is limiting. That was not an attack or diss on you. So again, the eyerolling and “here we go” is unnecessary. Period. If you can’t respond to a viewpoint without eyerolling and throwing out all the extra nonsense, like someone needing to get some, then you really need to look in the mirror and ask yourself what your purpose is.

Or maybe you just need to get some. shrugs Either way, build a bridge and get over it.

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 1:31 PM | Link to this

For Real So let me get this straight…What is there to say about MEN who was raised in a single mother home? That they too will be IRRATIONAL AND UNACCOUNTABLE?

I don’t even want to go into about the famous irrational debate..lol. Neither of those traits are gender specific.

By The Truth

February 11, 2009 1:31 PM | Link to this

Blu welcome back. My boy has a woman that has carried him for a minute now. She didnt bring him up but she’s held him up. He was doing real well before the economy change but she shored up the ship and has him steaming full speed ahead. The thing is she doesnt blink and still gives it all she has, which is considerable. Y’all know how I feel about marriage but that chick needs to be wifed up in a big way. I’m glad he’s going to do the right thing with that one. She may be the baddest chick I’v met.

ARED welcome back. lmao

Le Siren standing ovation.

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 1:33 PM | Link to this

BlueK 1:27 is true! COSIGN.

By kimmie

February 11, 2009 1:34 PM | Link to this

I heard that mess on V103. It was good for a laugh. I’m with you Amred, when dude called talking about none of them being memorable, I would have asked him what made HIM memorable and ALL THAT!

And I’m sorry, call me shallow or whatever, but I was with those ladies that called in about stereotyping the dudes that carry man purses, do women’s makeup and design women’s clothes, etc. A girl can’t be too careful here in the DL capital of the US! Plus, I like manly men! Ain’t nobody carrying a purse in my relationship but ME! And Wanda doing all that talk, she knows she wouldn’t have it from her MAN either!LOL!

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 1:34 PM | Link to this

BlueK 1:27 is true! COSIGN.

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 1:34 PM | Link to this

Just my opinion though…

BK, so noted. Okay, so on the flipside, I want your lady to come to you one day and tell you that not only has she been laid off, but that she’s pregnant, just to see how YOU react and if your’e really down for her.

And when you find out that she made the whole thing up, I want you to tell me how much you’ll respect her for that test.

Yes, life will test you. REAL life. Which is why I don’t need some dude making stuff up or putting on an “act.” Just to see if I meet his standards. I’m gonna need grown folks to have a better warning system than that.

By Wise Diva

February 11, 2009 1:34 PM | Link to this

Ya’ll keep in mind..a lot of the things that are posted here would NEVER be said to a person’s face. Many of us benefit from the anonymity, clearly, LOL

I doubt Blue/Alvin/Demi goes around calling females bishes/broads to their faces.

By M'Karyl

February 11, 2009 1:38 PM | Link to this

@WD

Why wouldn’t they…I do…if the situation calls for it…lol…j/k!!

By Poppa Grande

February 11, 2009 1:38 PM | Link to this

AR

Sure, they chose what they wanted to put out there. They may have thought that it would have been more exciting, but they don’t get the benefit to edit out the boring parts like TV show editors can do. I imagine that the “Real Housewives had plenty of boring parts, too”.

I’m just saying that I am certain that more women requested to be on the panel than the ones that were picked. Many folks want their William Hung “She-Bang” moment or whatever gives them their 15 minutes of airtime. Yet, they chose ones that were similar.

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 1:38 PM | Link to this

ARED welcome back. lmao

Truth, I tried. I love how folks have the nerve to get insulted when they flapped their gums at you crazy first. I’m just following your lead. LOL

By C tha 1

February 11, 2009 1:38 PM | Link to this

So WD based off your 1:27 post women who don’t scan your W-2 are plump around the waist?? Really? Is that your final statement regarding that?

By Beautiful

February 11, 2009 1:40 PM | Link to this

Didn’t you make a promise/vow to stay with your ex hubbie/babies father? That only lasted as long as the good times rolled. When you received different information you made a different choice, which will always be the case. Your promise wasnt that important in the end, your happiness was. Dont worry, it wont be the last time. Your “code” was written with eraseable ink.

this is what i wanted to respond with yesterday. just couldn’t lay it out right. we failed, even though we did what we THOUGHT WAS BEST. we were selfish, period dot.

poppabear where you at? v day doesn’t have to cost much. pls buy your wife a card, even if it has to come from the dollar store. and a flower/rose, even if you have to pick it. if she told you that she doesn’t like v day, she’s a liar and she’s just trying to please you by not making it a big deal! a card plus a flower you picked equals $1.

whaddaya say?

By fee

February 11, 2009 1:40 PM | Link to this

Amazon Red… love the comment, it had me cracking up….. and Wise Diva you hit it on the head… 1st time on here, and this can become addictive.

By fee

February 11, 2009 1:41 PM | Link to this

Amazon Red… love the comment, it had me cracking up….. and Wise Diva you hit it on the head… 1st time on here, and this can become addictive.

By Raqi

February 11, 2009 1:41 PM | Link to this

Her a*-to-waist ratio may not be what you want though.

ECK-ZAC-LY. That is what I sort of said yesterday. Not saying all are the same however some looks in certain places just become obvious after a while.

By fee

February 11, 2009 1:43 PM | Link to this

Amazon ,,, luv the comment.. funny.. true… balled up in one.

Wise Diva… you hit in on the head…

1st time on here, its crackin me up for real. could come addictive.

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 1:44 PM | Link to this

I’m just saying that I am certain that more women requested to be on the panel than the ones that were picked.

PG, there is your duh comment for the day. Good job! ;-)

And it’s my opinion that I still could have been picked for the panel. Though the responses were typical, being a single black woman in Atlanta, I can’t say I disagreed.

By Wise Diva

February 11, 2009 1:46 PM | Link to this

C tha 1 um humm yes, that’s exactly what I meant

welcome aboard fee! I know, we should stick a warning on the blog, LOL you get hooked

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 1:47 PM | Link to this

Amazon ,,, luv the comment.. funny.. true… balled up in one.

fee, thank you. And welcome. I don’t know if you are pushing the post button more than once, but give it a few minutes, refresh your screen, and your comment will come through. All your posts are coming up two or three times.

By M'Karyl

February 11, 2009 1:49 PM | Link to this

Yeah…MIA is the ajc crack blog…lmao

By Demi

February 11, 2009 1:49 PM | Link to this

Blow ? deer in the headlight stare ?….ummmmmmm, who is Alvin?

Blue K sup Dude…I am filing adoption papers now…li’Demi’s mom has no choice.

My President is black, so I am stepping my game up, LOL

I said, “Sign him over or……”

By Poppa Grande

February 11, 2009 1:51 PM | Link to this

Angie I am right here.

I know that it doesn’t have to cost much. We’ve done the wish sandwich thing lunch for V-day in the past as well. However, that not what I see when I turn on the TV. Vermont Teddy Bears, A Dozen of Roses cost double that they will on February 15th., Chocolate/Candy in heart shaped boxes in Walgreens etc. They aren’t marketing love. They are marketing goods & services.

I give my wife stuff any day. As I posted yesterday, I gave her a Spa Sydell gift certificate, not because it was Christmas, not because it was her birthday…..She got it because was Thursday and it came from the heart. Not because I felt obligated to do so.

By Demi

February 11, 2009 1:52 PM | Link to this

What is there to say about MEN who was raised in a single mother home?

He will either become a PIMP or a BISH (IRRATIONAL AND UNACCOUNTABLE)

Wise D you need to meet me sweetie…I am the same on and off the dump.

By Sassy Me

February 11, 2009 1:52 PM | Link to this

M’Karyl I agree with alot of what you said in your 12:50 and your 1:18 b/c I feel that I’m single for life,too, for alot of the same reasons you listed. BUT there is one time that I thought that maybe I was being selfish but then I thought “To whom am I being selfish” and realized that I wasn’t being that way to anyone b/c I treat the people I’m involved with quite well.
Amazon your 1:06 was serious.

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 1:53 PM | Link to this

I believe the women who don’t require your W-2 to date you would be far more trust worthy. Her a*-to-waist ratio may not be what you want though.

As was stated yesterday, finding quality people is key, being a quality person is the first step.

Wise, I’m gon’ have to agree with you on both points. ^^^

fee You refer to woman as broads, and bish, also tell me your frame of mind and how you respect them as well. Then on the other hand maybe that is all you are attracted to or come in contact with. and you have not a female of quality that you can call her a woman.

Concentrate on the message and not the vernacular there slick. You have no real rebuttal for the heart of my argument so you attack the foot.

By The Truth

February 11, 2009 1:55 PM | Link to this

Beautiful wtf are you talking about?

Kimmie there arent more dl bruhs in atlanta than anywhere alse. Stop the madness.

By Kym-no aka just Kym

February 11, 2009 1:55 PM | Link to this

Wisey Let me say here and now.. blogging and social networking are old news to me. So most of what I say here I would say face to face.Most of the people who know me, know tact is not one of my strong suits. I am working on it..but err it is a long walk. Actually I have a complied a list of people who I wouldn’t mind meeting. and a list of people who well lets just say if I met them I still wouldn’t like them. Hell like I said it is all about perception.

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 1:56 PM | Link to this

Ared Stick to the no blog fight rule..You like drama. I think I can finally tell now. You fester in the mere thought of it. Chill chic…chill out!

By M'Karyl

February 11, 2009 2:00 PM | Link to this

@Sassy

Exactly…when I evaluated relationships that I had been involved in…and when I looked at opportunities that I did not want to consider…when I engaged in a thorough examination of all objective and subjective factors…it really all boiled down to me and what I did not want to committ to with someone else…and I am okay with that…and yes, I treat anyone that I am involved with well too…some ppl seem to believe that being emotionally selfish means that others suffer for your choice of emotional centeredness…no, this is not the trade off at all.

By Demi

February 11, 2009 2:03 PM | Link to this

WD that word is for both men and women…also you can tell I hang with lesbians waaaaaaay too much.

Issssh, hang with me for a minute, LOL.

By kimmie

February 11, 2009 2:03 PM | Link to this

Truth - You may be right, but I still don’t want no man carrying a purse. And I have that right. I know you feel you gotta take up for every man on the face of the earth, especially when I say something about them. But then, last I checked you did not date dudes, so YOU stop the madness, LOL!!!

The thing that first attracted me to you was your manliness, LOL!!!

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 2:07 PM | Link to this

Kimmie when dude called talking about none of them being memorable, I would have asked him what made HIM memorable and ALL THAT!

See, while you’re over there being all confrontational, you missed the whole point. These broads are on the radio acting as if dudes should be fighting the get in the door to buy what they were selling; and dude simply said that he wasn’t interested, as most dudes aren’t. Don’t get mad at the truth slim. All’at crib, job, ed simply doesn’t move a dude like it moves a woman. You see women look at a mate for security in the form of having shyt and being able to make their lives comfortable , whereas men look for loyalty, looks, and yes real love.

And to prove my point, what are the two things that dude puts in his car when he leaves yo azz?

That’s right… the BIG SCREEN TV, and the Dog! You can have all’at ova shyt. Tell me I’m lyin’.

Demi Dawg?! What up Joe.

By M'Karyl

February 11, 2009 2:07 PM | Link to this

@Demi

also you can tell I hang with lesbians waaaaaaay too much.

LMAO…oh yeah…you think?

By Beautiful

February 11, 2009 2:09 PM | Link to this

Ya’ll keep in mind..a lot of the things that are posted here would NEVER be said to a person’s face

is there a echo in here here here? this is the third time today i’m reading my own words that i posted months ago. kudos to me. giggle

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 2:10 PM | Link to this

Demi Your 1:52 was a pretty strong statement. WOW!

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 2:12 PM | Link to this

Blow, bottom line, check your attitude when addressing me. It’s not about drama or blog fighting. I told you what I took issue with. If you don’t want attitude, don’t come at me with it. Like I illustrated earlier, there’s proof you started it.

Real simple.

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 11, 2009 2:12 PM | Link to this

I believe the women who don’t require your W-2 to date you would be far more trust worthy. Her a*-to-waist ratio may not be what you want though.

WD that was one ignorant @ss comment you made. I’m glad C tha 1 mentioned it. So where exactly do you fall on this comment and what does one have to do with the other?

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 2:13 PM | Link to this

Alright Ared, since you want to play with semantics, I’ll tell the fellas this: Don’t wife any broad until she proves that she can be loyal in times of adversity, discomfort, and displeasure.

Now if you don’t believe that, then you should tell every frat, soro, club, gang, clique, or organized group to go on out of business, because that’s how 95% of them measure the mettle of all would-be candidates.

By Demi

February 11, 2009 2:13 PM | Link to this

Her a-to-waist ratio may not be what you want though.*

Nah, there are a lot of great ladies in Atlanta who are really down to earth.

Soon as I find one with 1 or 2 kids and doesn’t want any more…I’ll wife her.

Too bad they seem to change their mind down the line.

By Beautiful

February 11, 2009 2:14 PM | Link to this

boo boo keep up! that was directed at leggs.

By The Truth

February 11, 2009 2:16 PM | Link to this

Kimmie i dont take the defense of all men. Actually I dont think much of alot of cats out there, not that they care. We have dropped off in a major way but then again society has in general. /we live in the wild wild west of the dating times. Anything goes, and often does.

Blow that no fight rule was overturned in a private vote. She’s free to go off on your azz. LOL

By Poppa Grande

February 11, 2009 2:18 PM | Link to this

AR

PG, there is your duh comment for the day. Good job! ;-)

Well, first, I’d like to thank God who allowed said comment to come into my head. Next, I’d like to thank my mom for rearing and raising me to have the physical capability to state the “duh comment of the day”. Next, I’d like to thank my dad for making me read, write and do arithmetic so that I would have vocabulary and reasoning skills to make the duh comment of the day……..

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 2:19 PM | Link to this

Honey WD that was one ignorant @ss comment you made.

As much as I hate to agree with Wise, statistically speaking, she’s probably very correct.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

February 11, 2009 2:19 PM | Link to this

Sassy * My ego wouldn’t allow me to make such an a$$ of myself. It makes my chest tight even thinking about it. I’M ALL VERKLEMPT!!* Girl you and I are a lot alike. LOL

Fee I co-sign your 12:52!

M’Karyl * have learned that I am an emotionally selfish person…while I can have an affectionate, fond or romantic interest in someone on a certain level…when it comes down to it…I do not want to compromise me and my life for anyone else…if the choice is me and what I want vs the other and what he wants, then I am goin to choose me…I prefer to not the the cumbersome responsibilty or obligation to be concerned for someone else’s best interest when it comes to making decisions about my life…I only want to be concerned with me and what makes me happy…and in that context, a person needs to realize that remaining single is the best option* girl you are speaking from my brain and heart!

I, and many dudes just like me, don’t give a dizzam about your job, crib, cash, or career. Bow down, submit, play your position, whatever you want to call it… act right or get passed over. Simple as that ladies I find it funny when men say that. It shows just how pitiful they are. They can not co-exist. They have to have someone “Under” them. The ego is a powerful thing and so is insecurity. Sorry I am NOT the one to lie down and play dead or sit & roll over when the “massa” says to. I am grown woman and any man that can not realize that I walk beside him and not behind him is So not the man for me. So the raggedy man who makes a statement like that and actually believes it is a pathetic being who needs to be put in a woman’s body for a while and see how he would feel being told to be mature, deal with the BS of a man, go to school and get educated, get a job and work just as many hours as her man, pay equal bills in the household, have the babies..now take care of them pretty much by yourself, clean the house, cook dinner, do the laundry, be a lady in the street but a h0 in the bed (but you must be a virgin and be born with the skills to phuck his brains out…since thats should come naturally), be independent…but now I want you to throw all that away and submit and play a second class citizen because a “man” tells you to. GTFOH son! That man would would kill himself or be just as any self respected woman would be and say hell no!

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 2:20 PM | Link to this

Kimmie & Truth I don’t know..Gays ARE widely and openly armed accepted here! I think there is an easy azzcess here. I mean they have their own communities and clubs.

QUICK STORY:

Me and my friend went to the inserections on I think it was W.Peachtree and we were goofing off and wanted to check the video booths. So we go back there and it’s NOTHING but guys and they had this strange look on their face..Like “what are you Guys…A hetero couple doing here?” It was the most slimey feeling! And then they were in a line as if they were waiting to get in this one BOOTH…Come to find out guys go there to have sex with other MEN! And that’s what the clerk told us inside. That really freaked me out! I was just wondering what type of men go there..I am sure married and all types. It was scary and sad. And the guys there looked like straight men! I had a real scummy feeling. Oh I don’t let me tell you time about how my friend went to BULLDOGS just to see…what it was like. Men in there was STILL hittin on her!!! Lets not talk about this I don’t even want to talk about that anymore…wow.

By Cemeeli

February 11, 2009 2:22 PM | Link to this

PoppaG so you like 107.5 station too. Good speed…it right up my alley when I’m driving in Atl. traffic.

I am laughing at fee’s banter…

Demi Your Pres. Is black too? Dang, we need some lambos.

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 2:24 PM | Link to this

Don’t wife any broad until she proves that she can be loyal in times of adversity, discomfort, and displeasure.

BK, of course I can agree with that. It wasn’t about “playing” with semantics. Your post was loud and clear with the word “act,” which is an action word.

By Poppa Grande

February 11, 2009 2:24 PM | Link to this

BK

That’s right… the BIG SCREEN TV, and the Dog! You can have all’at ova shyt. Tell me I’m lyin’.

I still have friends that work in the family law arena. There is this one case that they have where the only thing that they are fight over is the the King Charles Spaniel. They were able to divide everything else and agreed to joint custody with alternate weekend for each parent. However, neither party wants to part with Lucky….

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 2:25 PM | Link to this

PG, BWA HA HA HA HA @ your acceptance speech. Love it. You have a great attitude.

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 11, 2009 2:25 PM | Link to this

Blue comments like that made by women (no less) are sad. It simply perpetuates the myth. Nevertheless, I’m still unclear as to WTF a W-2 has to do with dating?

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 2:26 PM | Link to this

Pop Well, first, I’d like to thank God who allowed said comment to come into my head. Next, I’d like to thank my mom for rearing and raising me to have the physical capability to state the “duh comment of the day”. Next, I’d like to thank my dad for making me read, write and do arithmetic so that I would have vocabulary and reasoning skills to make the duh comment of the day……..

That whole post shows me that you have some serious potential as a politician.

Fee Remember what I said earlier about concentrating on the message and not the lingo. Take a look up here. ^^^ Ared takes a jab at Pop who in turn responds by thanking all of the influences in his life, never once addressing Ared. But the bottom line is that he very well could have been telling Ared to go dunk her head in the toilette, or STF up.

…not that that’s what he was saying, but it could easily be so.

By Sassy Me

February 11, 2009 2:27 PM | Link to this

M’Karyl

Okaay?…I’ve been called spoiled b/c I’ve been single for long but it’s a result of the same type of relationship and overall life inventory that I’ve taken as well.Actually whenever I would hear that term I would think hell how am I soiled when I take care of myself? Being single works for me and thats what I’m gonna go with. I think that as long as your honest with yourself first and then others its all to the good.

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 2:32 PM | Link to this

Truth Of course you would co sign with her. lol

Ared Come on really. Go somewhere. I’ll say what I need to say to you HOWEVER I see fit. I read your undertone. You bust…I bust back. Deal with it and move on.

Blue Kolla I have to disagree..lol!! That lcd tv is mine…get your crummy hands off and go get your soiled drawers in the corner…Cause thats the only thing you tote’in out this camp!! This here ain’t you playa! lol!

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 11, 2009 2:32 PM | Link to this

WD what say you?

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 2:33 PM | Link to this

never once addressing Ared.

BK, he addressed me and quoted me. He didn’t need to come at me crazy, the “duh comment of the day” was a joke we shared a while back.

Stop trying to Dr. Phil something that ain’t that serious dude.

By Cemeeli

February 11, 2009 2:33 PM | Link to this

spaniels are adorable…

By Sassy Me

February 11, 2009 2:34 PM | Link to this

OMG at soiled….my bad shoulda been spoiled but y’all get the jist.

By Le Siren

February 11, 2009 2:34 PM | Link to this

Staceye

Sorry I am NOT the one to lie down and play dead or sit & roll over when the “massa” says to. I am grown woman and any man that can not realize that I walk beside him and not behind him is So not the man for me.

So many women think like this for a multitude of reasons, mostly because they have never observed in their own family the traditional dynamics between a man and a woman. It’s not about walking “behind” a man, it’s about being behind him to hold him up when he needs the support of his woman! For all intents and purposes, I am an “independant” woman in the sense that I own my own house, car, have a career and fully finance my life. Despite all that, I would happily “submit” to a man who proves himself to be worthy of my love and respect.

By lurker

February 11, 2009 2:34 PM | Link to this

Actually I dont think much of alot of cats out there, not that they care. We have dropped off in a major way And there you have it and out of a man’s mouth. Forget all that testing and lemme see whatchu made of stuff, heck whatchu bringing? How faithful are you when the bottom falls out? Can you hold up under pressure? Rhetorically speaking that is…

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 2:35 PM | Link to this

Honey Nevertheless, I’m still unclear as to WTF a W-2 has to do with dating?

If you are that confused then maybe it’s because you are the exception, and simply don’t understand. For instance, a person who doesn’t lie has no comprehension or understanding of the person who lies about the fake azz business on the card that they just handed you.

Anyway, for many, the bigger the W-2, the more desirable one is for copulation, mating, and proliferation of one’s family and thus it’s survival.

By MELO

February 11, 2009 2:35 PM | Link to this

The thing that first attracted me to you was your manliness LOL…thats a good one KIMMIE,Truth are u softening up for the arab chics??

Blow, bottom line, check your attitude when addressing me so we are guranteed for a fight this afternoon with that kind of challenge,right.I dont see Blow ignoring that…Looks like Iran and USA are at it again! Bring it own Blow,like Bush said…lol

I have complied a list…. and a list of people who well lets just say if I met them I still wouldn’t like them really?? A list…uall are busy out there Kym? So my head may be on the wanted chop list.??.thats scary……

If uall send me ur nice pics, i think i will develop my own list of potentials,whatchua’ll think….thanx for the nice hanging breastess Stormy takpat78@gmail.com

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 2:35 PM | Link to this

Blow, naw chile, you busted, and I busted back. Come at me how you like and I’ll respond in turn, but don’t sit here and decry drama and ish, when you show that’s what you’re about.

By SlimOne aka Co-parent

February 11, 2009 2:36 PM | Link to this

yo yo yo wzuuuuuuupppp!

Okay about the whole deal about men being intimadated by chicks with houses, jobs, two arms and two legs those are all just masks. Everybody has multiple ‘roles’ that they play and don’t mean jack ish for the person left behind once stripped of all those things. I wrote this shortly after I got laid off in September:

So Exposed

You stripped away all my masks and exposed my nakedness to the world.

Standing alone, uncovered insecurites, thoughts, gifted capabilites.

Removed all of what i thought was me

Left with what you actually made of me,

No where to hide, no where to seek

Having to navigate so blindedly.

Stumbling upon a puddle, I know not this stranger staring back at me

So confused and lost, desperate for direction at all cost

Tears violently streaming

Craving even just a taste of old comfortbility

But turning around is no option for me

Convinced you haven’t forsaken thee

Grasping for your unchanging hand,

But still feeling alone and alone I stand,

So Exposed

As TRuth stated before, life is about tests and I believe that these tests are basically to hit at the root of who you actually are as a person. In this world today we are so quick to pick up masks of cars, house, materialistics things and wear them as badges to reflect who we WISH we were. Cuz all this ish don’t mean jack. Look at all the folks that had those houses, cars, rims, big jobs who are now laid off and left to get back to the core of who they were to survive. Some will, and some will crumble because frankly their minds have been weighed down and compromised by all the BS they thought was important, that they’ve crippled themselves with how to function simply as themselves. If you’re a good-hearted person, you should be that regardless of your circumstances. If you are truly an azzhole, then you’ll always be an azzhole despite the situation. That’s how it works folks. Two dead folks buried in graves side by side are just skull & bones right?

By Poppa Grande

February 11, 2009 2:38 PM | Link to this

Cee

I admit that I miss some of the “smooth jazz” (most of which were really instrumentals to R& B songs..that doesn’t make it jazz). However, I did like it for the most part.

I like 107.5 mostly because it has no DJ talking over the songs. But, I must really be getting old if Jodeci’s “Forever My Lady” is an oldie but goodie. Seriously, I am hearing that eventually 102.5 will move there because 107.5 has a stronger signal than 102.5. They are both Radio one Station and they are currently competing against each other.

What I’d really like is an old school rap station that plays stuff from the Sugar Hill Gang, LL Cool J, Run DMC, Fat Boys, EPMD, etc.

By Wise Diva

February 11, 2009 2:39 PM | Link to this

yeah, I was broad stroking a bit, intentionally, in the comment I made. You may not have cared for the sarcasm but I disagree that it was an “ignorant ass” comment.

My point was that since men are attracted to beauty (body, face), women who have perceived beauty that many men want on their arm (i.e. trophy women, super models, etc.) know that they can “demand” a powerful, wealthy man because their beauty affords them that. So I said yes to Blue’s comment in that context. That would be the type that you probably want to test, to see if they are only with you for the payola. When C tha 1 made his comment, I responded with sarcasm, mainly because I think he was taking the comment out of context, and he knew it.

as far as me personally, I believe that the right man for me would not have to test me. I believe my character would show him that I am not seeking him for sponsorship but…if his insecurities about why I am with him surface, and he wants to test me, I would question if we are right for one another.

By kimmie

February 11, 2009 2:39 PM | Link to this

BK - I get what you are saying, but you missed the crucial point of my post - I said the show was good for a LAUGH!! The women on the panel & the folks calling in. I recalled myself thinking “Who gives a sh— what HE finds memorable?” I don’t care enough about the stupid show or what was said to get CONFRONTAIONAL! And I could really care less about what moves any other dude, just MY MAN, and we’re doing just fine, thank you! Those chicks on the show have to work things out for themselves and obviously what they’ve been doing ain’t working for them! But Ski, Wanda and none of them are paying my bills!!

By Cemeeli

February 11, 2009 2:41 PM | Link to this

PoppaGhehehe….you silly with the speech. good though

creative

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 2:42 PM | Link to this

if his insecurities about why I am with him surface, and he wants to test me, I would question if we are right for one another.

WiseDiva, I agree. He may test you and you may pass the test. But trust would be broken on my end, so really, no one wins.

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 2:43 PM | Link to this

Siren So many women think like this for a multitude of reasons, mostly because they have never observed in their own family the traditional dynamics between a man and a woman. It’s not about walking “behind” a man, it’s about being behind him to hold him up when he needs the support of his woman! For all intents and purposes, I am an “independant” woman in the sense that I own my own house, car, have a career and fully finance my life. Despite all that, I would happily “submit” to a man who proves himself to be worthy of my love and respect.

I had to bold that whole post because that is the real and I’m glad that a woman said it. Dudes say it all the time on here, but the women get selective in reading when we say it.

…and you even got “intents and purposes” correct. Most MoFos on here don’t know and write “intensive purposes”. LOL

You go’ead slim, you’ve got my respect.

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 2:43 PM | Link to this

SASSY it’s soiled…as in soiled diapers…stop it. Don’t ruin the joke. lol! spoiled drawers would be incorrect…Soiled drawers are CORRECT. Don’t be WRONG when you are TRYING to correct someone! Come on sweetie! lol!

By Cemeeli

February 11, 2009 2:45 PM | Link to this

Auntie Slim 1. Welcome back. 2. Stop sucking all on the baby, she tied, k? She’s gotta eat and sleep too.

the whole deal about men being intimadated by chicks with houses, jobs, two arms and two legs those are all just masks.

“two legs”, chic? You silly too, dag. But the “mask-up”, is true.

By Poppa Grande

February 11, 2009 2:48 PM | Link to this

BK

Well, AR & I have this running joke about the duh statement of the day.

If I get enough “Duh Statement” points, I can get the top prize which is a $20 sack of endo and a $35 gift certificate to the Compton Swap Meet.

By Wise Diva

February 11, 2009 2:49 PM | Link to this

and “Honey”, I am not making an indictment on any side of the discussion. Some things fall under “it is what it is”.

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 2:50 PM | Link to this

Goodness, internet down for over an hour. You guys talk too much!

By Wise Diva

February 11, 2009 2:52 PM | Link to this

the women get selective in reading when we say it <== don’t THEY? I mean why can’t they just skip OVER the bishes/broads and see the GREAT MESSAGE

By The Truth

February 11, 2009 2:52 PM | Link to this

Lurker quit taking blips of my post to make your point. Here’s the whole line. We have dropped off in a major way but then again society has in general. /we live in the wild wild west of the dating times. Anything goes, and often does. Sure some dudes aren’t ish, but what does that say about the chick that gets under him?

By kimmie

February 11, 2009 2:53 PM | Link to this

Blow - Your 2:20, that’s what I’m talking about. Like I said, you can’t be too careful!

Truth - Wild Wild West is exactly right. Seriously, if I had not just stumbled up on my man, I’d be out of the whole dating scene. Just not up for the gunfight!LOL!!

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 2:55 PM | Link to this

Melo ….thanx for the nice hanging breastess Stormy

I’m wondering if you’re joking or treating ol’ girl like Dagmus and feeding her steak and potatoes off of a trash can top. Dayum. LOL

Slim, Pass me some mutha-f******* ti-shues… That was beautiful… sniff sniff

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 2:55 PM | Link to this

Goodness, internet down for over an hour. You guys talk too much!

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 2:56 PM | Link to this

PG, you have already won a paper bag to wear over your head for the Raiders games. Go “rebuilding year.” LOL

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 11, 2009 2:57 PM | Link to this

BLOG QUESTION Is there a such thing a “unconditional love”? I had this discussion with someone and I will share my views momentarily….what say you?

By Rell - I love slimone!!!

February 11, 2009 2:59 PM | Link to this

if I had not just stumbled up on my man, I’d be out of the whole dating scene. Just not up for the gunfight!LOL!!

typical players most of these women out here are SHELL SHOCKED, RUN THRU…they are afraid to try again

@slim…thats some real ish there love….i have been there several times on both sides of the fence…thought i was the ish with all my trappings until it went away!!!

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 3:00 PM | Link to this

Truth, apparently, the blog ate another post of mine—->Didn’t you make a promise/vow to stay with your ex hubbie/babies father? That only lasted as long as the good times rolled. NOPE. The good times never rolled yet I stayed for 12.5 years. Dumba$$ me, Yes! But I had my reasons. Your ideologies don’t mesh w/mine and I’m cool w/that. But, my “code” isn’t written withg invisible ink.” My word will always be my “bond” until abuse sets him then I’m gone.. Ha…as long as the good times rolled…that’s rich!

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 3:02 PM | Link to this

Truth, apparently, the blog ate another post of mine—->Didn’t you make a promise/vow to stay with your ex hubbie/babies father? That only lasted as long as the good times rolled. NOPE. The good times never rolled yet I stayed for 12.5 years. Dumba$$ me, Yes! But I had my reasons. Your ideologies don’t mesh w/mine and I’m cool w/that. But, my “code” isn’t written withg invisible ink.” My word will always be my “bond” until abuse sets him then I’m gone.. Ha…as long as the good times rolled…that’s rich!

By Le Siren

February 11, 2009 3:02 PM | Link to this

Blue

…and you even got “intents and purposes” correct. Most MoFos on here don’t know and write “intensive purposes”. LOL

Incorrect grammar usage is a pet peeve of mine! It drives me crazy that there isn’t a spell check on the blog:) LOL

By Sassy Me

February 11, 2009 3:03 PM | Link to this

Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT WTF…it was MY ORGINAL POST I made the typo on or did you read back that far?…don’t do me boo boo…check yo self

By MELO

February 11, 2009 3:03 PM | Link to this

I’m wondering if you’re joking or treating ol’ girl like Dagmus and she said silicon was so out of fashion,an 80sh fade,she said, and waz promoting a newer version(cant rember the name).I think she knows what shes talking about and am kinda challenging her to send me the new version to see if shes spotting the new new look for real..,Blue..im patient….Will share it with u when it comes …LOL

By Sassy Me

February 11, 2009 3:04 PM | Link to this

Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT WTF…it was MY ORGINAL POST I made the typo on or did you read back that far?…don’t do me boo boo…check yo self

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 3:05 PM | Link to this

Pop/Ared Not even singling you two out. I know how you two get down. That was just the perfect example of how sometimes, particular words have nothing to do with the intent if the message; just depends on the situation and the individuals involved.

Wise I type bish one time in 3 years and now it’s a big azz deal… whateva. The truth only hurts those that it’s true about. So, go buzz around in somebody else’s ear.

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 3:06 PM | Link to this

WD Hey they did’nt edit your a*..lol!

Bit of HOney I hate to pull the Truth card but I have to agree..There is always conditions on love. ALWAYS.

Leggs You might need the cliff notes. I was wondering where you were.

Slim Go change those diapers and stop coming on here making ppl cry. I love it! It was deep and true. Keep ya head up girl. He’s going to bless you with so MUCH MORE! It’s a character building process…sometimes it stops you in life and prepare you for better. He does it with all his kids. It’s all a test but I know you can pass it. Dang girl that was deep I LOVED IT!

By The Truth

February 11, 2009 3:07 PM | Link to this

Hunny unconditional love is something they sell in a Harlequin novel. Everything comes with conditions.

Leggs here you go with that live by the sword ish. Sounds good til you get stabbed. Here, have an eraser. You aint that tight.

By Poppa Grande

February 11, 2009 3:08 PM | Link to this

AR

PG, you have already won a paper bag to wear over your head for the Raiders games. Go “rebuilding year.” LOL

Great!. I am so glad that I didn’t win the plastic bag.

Go Tom Cable…no really he should go. I don’t know what they were thinking, hiring him. He is a band-aid to the real problem. They will be looking for another coach next year. When 4 coaches in 4 years the problem isn’t the coach…

Tazzee

How was the pro bowl? I am sure that you have heard by now that it won’t be in Hawaii next year.

It will be played the week BEFORE the Superbowl in Miami. So, selected players from the Superbowl participants won’t be allowed to play.

By SlimOne aka Co-parent

February 11, 2009 3:09 PM | Link to this

*Cee that baby greedy as hayo too. Everytime I hold her she try sucking on my arm or whatever she can get her mouth on. I’m like look here, all I got is two pacifiers fo ya cuz shole betnot be no milk coming outta my breastessesss.

Blue Thanks, and just for that I’m going to give you a full body hug but wait, let me take this fake water bra off….oh and let me take this butt pad off, that thang is shole heavy. Oh and let me get these 4 tracks of herrr weave out and my hazel contacts and these acryllic nails. Blue now dozing off

I’m ready for that hug now.

By Wise Diva

February 11, 2009 3:09 PM | Link to this

I’m responding to your comment, is that buzzing? My bad. MY point was, that a lot of the female readers appreciate and acknowledge the male comments, pretty much all day. Especially ones that are respectful in tone, the ones that aren’t usually are b/c they are mired in d-bag comments.

By MELO

February 11, 2009 3:12 PM | Link to this

Is there a such thing a “unconditional love”? i think so.I see more of it displyaed by women than men……

If you are truly an azzhole, then you’ll always be an azzhole despite the situation Slim,this depression is making u really think deep like Bob Marley,right! U got some real mfugga thinking cap right there…U proly be engaged by the end of this recession.

folks that had those houses, cars, rims, big jobs who are now laid off and left to get back to the core of who they were to survive i hear talk of being independent coz of cars,etc today.I wonder too,how these chics are goona define themesleves once that ish is repo.Serioius talk Slim.Hw da baby doing??????

By kimmie

February 11, 2009 3:13 PM | Link to this

Rell - Just skip over my posts, please. Thank you!

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 3:15 PM | Link to this

Sassy Sorry..but chill. Don’t get yourself on the hit list. My BAD I missed it sweetie. But I got it.

By M'Karyl

February 11, 2009 3:17 PM | Link to this

@Staceye & Sassy

What I find interesting is that I have male buds who, like me, have never been married and are also committed to being single for life…yet, they do not get the same type of scrutiny and attitudes as me because there still seems to be some sort of gender-based double standard about why a person would choose to remain single…WTF!!!…and usually I get the “Well, you can’t shut yourself off from relationships because someone hurt you in the past”…or “You can not judge all men by what someone else did to you”…or ” Why don’t you jus admit that you do not like men”…or “You just are not meeting the right ppl”…lol…and in all honesty, it has nothing to do with the other…it is all about me…lol.

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 3:17 PM | Link to this

Siren Incorrect grammar usage is a pet peeve of mine! It drives me crazy that there isn’t a spell check on the blog:) LOL

OH! I must be killing you then. LOL But trust me, I know better.

…everytime I say, “I be”, I think of Ms. Bodie. She hated that and would always say, “You don’t BE! You do something, but you don’t be!”

SlimImposta ….oh and let me take this butt pad off, that thang is shole heavy. Oh and let me get these 4 tracks of herrr weave out and my hazel contacts and these acryllic nails.

Yeah right, the Slim that I remember reading didn’t wear none’a dat, I mean… any of that, um… stuff. LOL

By Sassy Me

February 11, 2009 3:20 PM | Link to this

Is there a such thing a “unconditional love”? i think so.I see more of it displyaed by women than men……

MELO why do you think that is?

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 3:22 PM | Link to this

Wise My bad. MY point was, that a lot of the female readers appreciate and acknowledge the male comments, pretty much all day. Especially ones that are respectful in tone, the ones that aren’t usually are b/c they are mired in d-bag comments.

And my point was that these same broads that are taking offense are the same ones sitting front row at the Kat Williams concert or on here on Friday when it gets real raunchy, talkin’ ‘bout some dudes dyck size. And yes Ms. Not-a-Diva, I’ve seen you slip hangin’ a time or two as well.

By Rell - I love slimone!!!

February 11, 2009 3:26 PM | Link to this

@kimmie….that was not a slick take on your post….i have ALOT of female friends that say the same thing you said WORD FOR WORD..and this morning on V103…SAME SH IT WORD FOR WORD…

you need to calm down karate kid….i have nothing against a dayum blog persona…plus YOU MIGHT SEE ME ON THIS BLOG BUT YA DONT KNOW ME…PERIOD….feel me….

By Poppa Grande

February 11, 2009 3:27 PM | Link to this

Bit O Honey

The closest thing to unconditional love is probably parent’s love to a child, but I think that even that has its limits.

Other than that, all love is conditional.

By Wise Diva

February 11, 2009 3:27 PM | Link to this

yeah, but you commented on the women, so that is what I responded to..and Of course it works both ways, figured that was understood

By Kym-no aka just Kym

February 11, 2009 3:27 PM | Link to this

Leggs Hold up you stayed with a man for 12.5 years and none of them were good? Okay so was it for the Social Security benefits..you get those after 10 years I mean why stay that long?

By MELO

February 11, 2009 3:27 PM | Link to this

typical players most of these women out here are SHELL SHOCKED, RUN THRU

Rell/Kimmie/Blog,why is that when a guy is a playa,its a badge of honor but a woman playa,a run thru,like Rell says,is a sign of diss,even when its actually true.By 40yrs of age,ur average girl has been spun a couple of times by diffrent dudes and her bed head board/wall is proly darkened by her frontal thrusts.I think it wld be nice if chics were honest and just said,u knw,i been run thru a lot but i wanna try u and i hope we make itThats refreshing….

By SlimOne aka Co-parent

February 11, 2009 3:27 PM | Link to this

Rell thought i was the ish with all my trappings until it went away!!! Yeah life has a way of humbling even the most cockiest of them all. Does the mountains not connect by the valley’s? (rhetorical question of course ha ha ha)

Blow preciate the kinds words but my head is not down. I went through that stage of panick at first and now I’m chillin like a villain. This has given me the opportunity to spend LOTS of time down here in the GUMP with my sister and my new niece/co-daughter. As far as the job front goes, the economy will get way worse before it gets any better. If all else fails, I’ll hit up For Real to see if he’ll let me live in his mailbox free of charge for a while.

Melo I wonder too,how these chics are goona define themesleves once that ish is repo Yep my wheels got repoed too and guess what? Now I’m driving a vehicle with no car note, over 186,000 miles and All I pay is insurance $55 a month. Can’t beat that with a stick. LOL! Some of those mask wearing chicks better watch out though because I’d hate to see those lovely newly built subdivisions with all those expensive homes have tumbleweeds rolling though the yards. Just like Jamie Fox said on his HBO special years ago, “You betta blow that ish ouuuutt”

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 11, 2009 3:27 PM | Link to this

Blow we agree. As far as I can see, there are “conditions” on everything.Here I go…deep breath Even to get to heaven there is a condition…right?

Melo There is no such thing as unconditional. Everything has a condition, many of which are unwritten and simply understood. If at any given time a “perceived” condition is violated it immediately negates any idea of “unconditional”…would you agree? If not, please provide an example of where I am wrong.

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 3:27 PM | Link to this

PG. The Raiders are the only football team I’ve known my whole life. I grew up in L.A, and they left in 1994. I followed em to the Bay in 1996. But I’m really thinking of not claiming them until Al Davis is gone. I mean, really, how much abuse can a Raider fan take? Especally since we have to watch the Cards go from zero to hero.

By Sassy Me

February 11, 2009 3:29 PM | Link to this

M’KARYL I’ve been asked those same questions and I stick to my guns everytime b/c I have to be true to me. I do think that there is a double standard when it comes to men/women being single…it’s like if a man is single then he’s a stud but if a woman is of a certaing age and single then she’s a spinster and something must be wrong with her. I disagree but you know what they say an opinion is just like an a*******hole…we all have one
Holla :-)

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 3:30 PM | Link to this

Truth, may not be that “tight” for you, yet “tight” enuf for the one presently interested me. And, my good friend, that’s all that matters right about now.

Beautiful, you never said anything close to that yesterday. But, glad someone said it for you. Too funny.

Blow, you got cliff notes??

By SeanJohnson3000

February 11, 2009 3:31 PM | Link to this

Sup Thugga??? I like the poem …you got naked on that one

By MELO

February 11, 2009 3:33 PM | Link to this

MELO why do you think that is? in my zulu culture,they say a home is a woman.Men’s eyes wonder a lot and they are bound to flip and flee but women stay and they are what makes a home.Even when the challenges are great,it is usually the women that makes the man stand and be strong.And women, a lot of times take the ultimate sacrifice for their men for the good of the family.History has shown that.So i think women have been proven to show unconditional luv more than men have.

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 11, 2009 3:33 PM | Link to this

PG All things are conditional. Everything concerning life and the afterlife is conditional. The word unconditional is a fallacy.

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 3:34 PM | Link to this

Blue Kolla You are off the chain I see.. I missed that this whole time. wow!

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 3:35 PM | Link to this

Truth, may not be that “tight” for you, yet “tight” enuf for the one presently interested me. And, my good friend, that’s all that matters right about now.

Beautiful, you never said anything close to that yesterday. But, glad someone said it for you. Too funny.

Blow, you got cliff notes??

By Rell - I love slimone!!!

February 11, 2009 3:39 PM | Link to this

Yeah life has a way of humbling even the most cockiest of them all.

i am real humble on alot of things…i just pop ish on here to get some of the heat off my chest….but trust i feel your pain love…

By Poppa Grande

February 11, 2009 3:39 PM | Link to this

Bit-O-Honey

Death is unconditional. You can eat right, exercise, be kind to children and bunnies, and you will still die.

You can be an azzhole, kick dogs and children as they walk by you, and you will still die.

Death is the one absolute when dealing with humans.

By Cemeeli

February 11, 2009 3:39 PM | Link to this

Slim that “mountains and valley” comment is the business, chic!

Sat that!

By M'Karyl

February 11, 2009 3:39 PM | Link to this

@Sassy

yes…I know…I have been asked if I am contaminated…lol…I have told that I must just like to have men run through, otherwise why would I be single…I have heard so many reasons and accusations…like you, I just stick to my guns…I do not feel the need to justify myself to anyone…I am not unhappy about my choices…and that is fine by me.

By M'Karyl

February 11, 2009 3:41 PM | Link to this

Honey

The is such a thins as unconditional love…agape…it does exist…one can not mix apples with oranges when using the term unconditional…the context of use determines that meaning of the term.

By MELO

February 11, 2009 3:41 PM | Link to this

Everything has a condition, many of which are unwritten and simply understood so u saying that what we mostly see is conditional luv??? right..?

its hard for me to answer u coz this is a personal qstion.Are u in a longterm relationship yet??Unconditional luv,a lot of times is not randomly verbalised.It just happens and u know when it happens.I will prove it when im tested in my relationship and i overcome the conditions and soldier on in it.When u find urself qstioning ur luv for a person that u think u luv,u’re not in luv yet.Keep looking!!

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 11, 2009 3:42 PM | Link to this

Melo your example is a beautiful one but there is still a condition present. Anybody else see it?

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 3:44 PM | Link to this

I’m not into material things, never have been, so you take em away and I’m still secure in myeself. Love how that works.

Growing up, I was on path to being one of those “Super Sweet 16” chicks. I was already to get my car and party. Then the fam went from riches to rags and we didn’t have much else but we had each other. Probably the best thing that could have happened.

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 3:45 PM | Link to this

Slim Yeah life has a way of humbling even the most cockiest of them all. Does the mountains not connect by the valley’s?

You’re singing that same tune that I was singing years ago when I first stumbled across this blog, when the subliminally delivered mantra of this blog was ‘if you weren’t big time, then you didn’t count’.

No one was sticking up for Regula Joe. So in I came, kickin’ in the door, trying to tell mofos that this little shyt that they think makes them a big shot can get gone in a New Yawk minute.

By SlimOne aka Co-parent

February 11, 2009 3:46 PM | Link to this

Blue Yeah right, the Slim that I remember reading didn’t wear none’a dat, I mean… any of that, um… stuff. I stand corrected, your memory be serving you right…or serves you right or something like that. lol

Slim now singing “I love her cause she got her own”

Melo I think it wld be nice if chics were honest and just said,u knw,i been run thru a lot but i wanna try u and i hope we make itThats refreshing… Ha ha ha I seriously laughed out loud on that one. I think even for you that you would be looking at the chick like a dog watching two monkey’s get their groove on, With the words “Run-thru” replaying over and over in your head visualizing her trying to break the worlds largest gang bang record.

SJ Long time no hear from!! Yeah I’m still almost fully naked from that one. I’m only sporting some football socks and the dreaded black womens hair rag looking like Erykah Badu playing arena football. lol

Here here folks! EVERYBODY lies, embellishes, leaves out certain disturbing details etc. Hayo I just lied yesterday. Ain’t no saints living here….except that one time in band camp I went on a dizzick fast….I wanted to see how fast I could get the dizzle. jk

By kimmie

February 11, 2009 3:46 PM | Link to this

Rell - I am completely calm. And yes, you’re right I don’t know you and you don’t know me. The thing is I use the blog for entertainment. Entertainment is supposed to make you feel good. You seem to have something against me though, because anytime you comment on my posts it is always negetive, gutter. You have a right to your opinion, just as I have mine, but geesh!! Lighten up a little and back up off me. RUN THRU is just ugly to me, but if you did not mean it to be ugly, okay.

The main point of that post to Truth was to say I agreed with his asessment that it’s crazy out there in the dating world. I took myself out of it quite a few years ago because I’m just not good at the game and don’t have the patience. I’ve met folks I dated thru the course of daily life - work, grad school, friends. The club scene was played with me a year or 2 out of college.

I read you the other day that you’re going thru divorce and I’m truly sorry. I’ve never been thru it before, but the end of any relationship that you thought had promise is sad. And you must have thought it had promise if you decided to marry. I wish you the best.

By Cemeeli

February 11, 2009 3:48 PM | Link to this

I meant to say:

Say that!

By Poppa Grande

February 11, 2009 3:49 PM | Link to this

AR

I am not the biggest NFL fan, but I liked the Raiders the best as a kid. As a matter of fact, my mom says that my nephew is wearing my old Raiders Starter jacket from high school. I am less of an NFL fan after my playing days in it.

I was a fan of Marcus Allen, Bo Jackson, Ronnie Lott, and the Tim Brown Raiders. I stumbled across them in a Superbowl against the Eagles many years ago. There was no way that I was rooting for Philly. Even as a 6 year old, I could tell that those Philly folks weren’t quite right in the head.

By Jamoca

February 11, 2009 3:50 PM | Link to this

Hey ya’ll…

LOL @ Slim and I really liked that poem, btw.

Yeah life has a way of humbling even the most cockiest of them all.

Heck yeah, it does!

Speaking of unconditional love, while I will agree that the closest anyone will come to actually witnessing this, is a parent’s love for their child. However, I’ve come to believe that you can also geniunely and unconditional love someone else and no longer trust them in the same breath.

So while the code between the two of you has been broken, and you may even decide to go your seperate ways, but whatever the betrayal, it was not strong enough to stop loving the individual…you just learn to love them from afar.

All that to say, the conditions were not honored, and the consequences of those decisions will follow, but the love you had for them remains. just a thought…

By Raqi

February 11, 2009 3:51 PM | Link to this

Unconditional Love??? Yes I believe in it. I am capable of loving someone unconditionally, however certain circumstances may call for me to love them from afar.

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 3:52 PM | Link to this

Slim You are crazy girl..Where is the Gump?

Leggs Nope most of it or some of it was junk wasn’t worth keepin!

Honey Yes ma’am that has conditions too….sigh. I have to work on my golden ticket. lol

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 11, 2009 3:53 PM | Link to this

PG I would even argue that even death is conditional in that it happens at different times, for varying reasons. You can exercise your butt off but if you have a pre-existing heart condition does it matter? You could be a “patron saint” and walk out into the street and be killed by a bus.

M’Karyl I’m familiar with the word agape love. But where exactly has it been shown as unconditional? If you’re going the biblical route, Jesus’ death was ‘sacrificial’ but there was a condition. There was a reason behind his death, right?

By Demi

February 11, 2009 3:55 PM | Link to this

I’d hate to see those lovely newly built subdivisions with all those expensive homes have tumbleweeds rolling though the yards

Maynnnnne…Slim, I was downtown looking at a lot of vacant condos…this ish is serious!!

By Kym-no aka just Kym

February 11, 2009 3:55 PM | Link to this

Nothing irrates me more than for a person to email me, I respond, and they get up and walk to my desk and say did you get my email? If you look at your email you will see I did respond. Read it damn!

By The Truth

February 11, 2009 3:56 PM | Link to this

Leggs Enjoy the moment. We’ll see what you have to say next week.

Rihanna got her azz tore out the frame. Dayuumm Bet she wont be grabbing anyones keys out of their car. The pics are fierce.

Slim glad its working out for you.

Who dat talking bout them Raiders. Oaktown in the 09. Woohoo

Ared I like you more today than I did yesterday.

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 3:56 PM | Link to this

Kym, it wasn’t bad in the beginning. We were both struggling to get on our feet. That struggle helped to mask some of the obvious prohblems. However, as our child grew and the problems grew even more, I found myself stuck on so many different levels. I finally got up the nerve to do what was best for the entire family (yes, IMHO). Also, I didn’t have any clear picture of what “marriage” was so i worked at mine. However, as years went by, I found out what “marriage WAS NOT. Divorce or catch a case was on the horizon and I, me alone, opted for the former!

By MELO

February 11, 2009 3:57 PM | Link to this

but there is still a condition present thats why i asked if u are in a relationship yet.Unconditional luv is not a general statement.It is specific to the one u luv unconditionally.U fall in luv first,u get sucked in deeper,a severe condition arises and tests u and/but u still get sucked in deeper and deeper,unconditionally.It takes one in luv to understand the context.

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 11, 2009 3:58 PM | Link to this

PG I would even argue that even death is conditional in that it happens at different times, for varying reasons. You can exercise your butt off but if you have a pre-existing heart condition does it matter? You could be a “patron saint” and walk out into the street and be killed by a bus.

M’Karyl I’m familiar with the word agape love. But where exactly has it been shown as unconditional? If you’re going the biblical route, Jesus’ death was ‘sacrificial’ but there was a condition. There was a reason behind his death, right?

By MELO

February 11, 2009 3:59 PM | Link to this

send me the pic,Truth thanx

By Jenna

February 11, 2009 4:00 PM | Link to this

there are no pics of her, those are bogus

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 4:00 PM | Link to this

backing up a little bit

Leggs, you didn’t take the “for better or worse” oath in your wedding vows? I think that’s what Truth was saying in his post to you earlier. Divorce is acknowledgement that you’re breaking your word, your “bond.”

Ared I like you more today than I did yesterday.

Truth - LOL. Cuz you like your AmazonRed with 11 herbs and spices. lol

By Poppa Grande

February 11, 2009 4:01 PM | Link to this

BOH

What does reason matter? You still gonna die. When it is your checkout time, you will checkout. Period. I doubt Sonny Bono expected to die the way that he did….skiing into a tree. I doubt that the lady in the news expected that her daughter would set her on fire and that would lead to her death.

The end result is still death. I just believe that you don’t die before your time. I’ve had relatives that suffered from Alheimers and while the mind was mushy, the rest of the health was good. One aunt lived almost 15 years not knowing her daughter from one day to the next.

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 4:02 PM | Link to this

Kym, it wasn’t bad in the beginning. We were both struggling to get on our feet. That struggle helped to mask some of the obvious prohblems. However, as our child grew and the problems grew even more, I found myself stuck on so many different levels. I finally got up the nerve to do what was best for the entire family (yes, IMHO). Also, I didn’t have any clear picture of what “marriage” was so i worked at mine. However, as years went by, I found out what “marriage WAS NOT. Divorce or catch a case was on the horizon and I, me alone, opted for the former!

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 4:03 PM | Link to this

LOL…thanks Blow.

By MELO

February 11, 2009 4:03 PM | Link to this

Ha ha ha I seriously laughed u see hw sensitive these chics are?? U the only stripper here that laughed,publicly.Most just sneered,even tho the statement is true about them…LOL

By Jenna

February 11, 2009 4:03 PM | Link to this

MELO you can hit up TMZ’s site to see the photoshop job

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 4:03 PM | Link to this

Demi I was downtown looking at a lot of vacant condos…this ish is serious!!

How about all those condos with the attached parking decks are going to end up as the new and improved, way more dangerous, state-owned housing projects. Put your Way-Back Machine in reverse and throttle up 20 years and have a good look-see.

By Jamoca

February 11, 2009 4:04 PM | Link to this

however certain circumstances may call for me to love them from afar.

That right there ^^^ is all I meant. I guess that I just find myself having lots to say. LOL But yeah, my thoughts exactly.

Bottomline: We’re talkin’ about love…unconditional love. We didn’t say from where that love would come from. Just simply put: does it still exist…..and now this has got me singin’…

after the morning after…after the night before, when all of the parties over, will you want me anymore

…loves some Mase w/ Frankie B…

By SlimOne aka Co-parent

February 11, 2009 4:05 PM | Link to this

Cee Cee Music Factory Yeah I knew what you meant chica cuz we here…Slim now taking 2 fangas in a V shape, pointing them at her own eyes then towards the puter screen lol

Jamoca thanks!

Blow The Gump is Montgomery, Alabama.

Demi It really is serious out there. In my cousins neighborhood, all building has deceased. So there are lots that only has the sewage pipes sticking up out the ground with weeds taller than the completed houses and four people on her street lost their homes. But i’m waiting for those 250k and up condos downtown & midtown to come down to apartment prices, then I’m in. LMAO!

By lurker

February 11, 2009 4:06 PM | Link to this

Truth * Sure some dudes aren’t ish, but what does that say about the chick that gets under him?*

Not much…she’s running a distant second to nothingness.

By MELO

February 11, 2009 4:06 PM | Link to this

u’re a sweetie Jenna!! u female right?

By Kym-no aka just Kym

February 11, 2009 4:06 PM | Link to this

Demi There is alot of vacant everywhere. I have just taken a glance at looking at homes and I am shocked,pleasantly surprised and sadden at the prices.

Leggs okay just being nosy..I would like not to go to class tonight..but might as well get it over with.

By Rell - I love slimone!!!

February 11, 2009 4:07 PM | Link to this

@kimmie..love is not that deep…its just taken wrong..again i dont have sh it against you or any other lady on here..well i do have something with ared…but thats just black love…and i prolly wife staceye in my third life…lol…but the point is my life is cool, i am cool…aiight….thanks for you concern but RELL going to be aiight…always have always will…peace to you danielle-son…wax a on….wax a off….wax a on….wax a off

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 4:08 PM | Link to this

LOL…thanks Blow.

By M'Karyl

February 11, 2009 4:08 PM | Link to this

Again, Honey…it is in the contextual usage that the meaning exist for application…not in the nit pickiness of it…lol…if you choose not to believe that is exist in a contextual definition and existence…so be it…lol…that is like asking if charcoal gray is really gray or is it really a lighter shade of black…lol

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 4:09 PM | Link to this

Truth, ok, see you next week. My stance doesn’t change much on this blog.

ARed, I understand the oath. I had only bad times that I couldn’t take anymore in hopes of the good times coming along. Respect is gone, love is gone, no need for me to stay anymore. I realize a lot don’t feel the same way but for the survival of all of us, one had to walk. That was me. I could no longer live w/a dope addict. OKAY. How long should one wallow in the bad???

By Poppa Grande

February 11, 2009 4:11 PM | Link to this

Demi/Slim

But i’m waiting for those 250k and up condos downtown & midtown to come down to apartment prices, then I’m in. LMAO!

The condos at Atlantic Station are going to be auctioned. The starting bid is 90K.

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 4:13 PM | Link to this

Melo send me the pic,Truth thanx

I’ve read the reports/news stories, and I don’t think I want to see the pics. When peeps talk about traveling a great distance to retrieve their family member, you know THEY ARE FUGGED UP. Matter of fact Chris Brown might be about to get fugged up himself by one of them island Zulus. Feel me?

‘Ey, Lil Cuba, what up slim?! LOL

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 4:14 PM | Link to this

Truth, ok, see you next week. My stance doesn’t change much on this blog.

ARed, I understand the oath. I had only bad times that I couldn’t take anymore in hopes of the good times coming along. Respect is gone, love is gone, no need for me to stay anymore. I realize a lot don’t feel the same way but for the survival of all of us, one had to walk. That was me. I could no longer live w/a dope addict. OKAY. How long should one wallow in the bad???

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 11, 2009 4:14 PM | Link to this

Jamoca Huh?

MeloMy point is that “unconditional” is a fallacy that does not exist. Especially unconditional love. In my opinion of course. And yes, I am in a relationship and we live that expression of love daily in various ways. However, do I love him unconditionally? No, there are absolutely things he could say,do,and become that would negate my love for him absolutely.

PG reason matters a great deal. Its the difference in living long or living short, quality vs. living miserably. Futhermore, the condition of your health determines whether or not you even determine your life well-lived or “good”

And finally, if you’re a Christian, you don’t really “die” anyway, you just leave this world…right? So that’s more like a transformance of realms.

By Raqi

February 11, 2009 4:14 PM | Link to this

I think a lot of people misinterpret unconditional love as to mean one should accept and tolerate whatever in the name of love. That is so far from the truth. Love itself has no conditions however the state of the relationship may and most of the time do.

To love a person because of what they have and/or what they can continue to give is not loving them but loving the “what”. But to love the person for the person you can continue to love them when all is gone. The situations surrounding the relationship can and may change but the love doesn’t have to end.

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 4:15 PM | Link to this

Leggs, I understand that you did what you had to do to save yourself, but it still proves Truth’s theory correct that we will all lie when it works better for us.

Most of us would never steal either, but there are situations where you do what you gotta do to survive.

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 4:16 PM | Link to this

Lurker I got your 4:06 in more ways than you believe. lmao! You are one funny chick!

Leggs Honey child is all I have to say. But you know she was gonna back that up. lol! This ish is fuggin hiliarious…

Slim wow! It’s citified though. There now isnt’ it? But the best thing about a niece..I love my bad niece dearly…You can give those Pants Poopers back! lol!

Truth Those are photo shopped pics..Don’t believe everything. Do you realize how the lapd can get they a* sewed so fast they would all be Flash lights no pants wearing cops?…Come on now I thought you claim to be smarter than that!

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 4:17 PM | Link to this

well i do have something with ared…but thats just black love

Huh???? blank stare

By SlimOne aka Co-parent

February 11, 2009 4:21 PM | Link to this

Melo U the only stripper here that laughed Mayne I wish I did have some skripper skills. I would’ve tried out for “For the Love of Ray J” if I did.

Blue all those condos with the attached parking decks are going to end up as the new and improved, way more dangerous, state-owned housing projects Dayum shawty I didn’t even think about that. I, however, have wondered what the consequences of all the government intervention will be. But speaking of those condos turning into projects that means real hood folks will be living one door down from folks effed by the corporate world too. dayum gina!

By Cemeeli

February 11, 2009 4:23 PM | Link to this

Slim bish we going back to playin Jacks at my crib. Aint no games, draws, or koolaid being bought lately. Since my recently acquired family of 4 has been residing with me, since some recent turn of events….So yea, its family reunion like a mugg in my spot.

Btw - Welcome to the “I own my hu-ride” Club. Where I’m not only a member but president.

We are >< here.

By Cemeeli

February 11, 2009 4:23 PM | Link to this

Slim bish we going back to playin Jacks at my crib. Aint no games, draws, or koolaid being bought lately. Since my recently acquired family of 4 has been residing with me, since some recent turn of events….So yea, its family reunion like a mugg in my spot.

Btw - Welcome to the “I own my hu-ride” Club. Where I’m not only a member but president.

We are >< here.

By Poppa Grande

February 11, 2009 4:24 PM | Link to this

BOH

I believe that your time is predetermined so that reason doesn’t matter. We just don’t know when.

I am Christian and know the difference between the soul (or our essence of being) and the flesh.

Death does occur. Human flesh dies and eventually turns to dust, just like plants die. Death is death. Living miserably involves living flesh and you can change the miserableness. However, you can’t change the fact that you will die.

As I mentioned my aunt with Alzheimers, she left this world years before she died. After the illness set in, she was not the person that I knew. Her flesh was alive, but the mind was gone.

By Beautiful

February 11, 2009 4:24 PM | Link to this

How important is someone’s word to you in the beginning

not important to me one bit. show me something. show me that you enjoy spending time with me by asking to see me again, for example.

leggs all i’m sayin’ is that it’s not about us anymore. it stopped being about us when our babies were born. we let them down.

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 11, 2009 4:26 PM | Link to this

M’Karyl not so much….but will agree to not agree.

Raqi love is a choice. Thereby making it a condition. There are certain “things” that could change that would negate your love for a person. It happens all day everyday. For the record, I’m not speaking of the things that people have, I’m talking purely people and the choices they make, the things that they do or allow that negates love.

Can we think about this in a deeper context? Forget things and stuff. I’m talking purely people here.

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 4:27 PM | Link to this

Leggs I understand the oath. I had only bad times that I couldn’t take anymore in hopes of the good times coming along. Respect is gone, love is gone, no need for me to stay anymore.

Ared I understand that you did what you had to do to save yourself, but it still proves Truth’s theory correct that we will all lie when it works better for us.

Ared Get out of my subconscious. I was thinking the same thing. Yeah Leggs, while I would’ve done the same thing, that situation that you described above would fit into the “worse” category in For Better Or For Worse. I mean that’s what you signed up for, not “For Better Or For Better”.

By MELO

February 11, 2009 4:27 PM | Link to this

am in a relationship and we live that expression of love daily in various ways. However, do I love him unconditionally? No

There u go.That right there is true about ur current relatioship.If i knew u better, I cld have explained and extrapolated. But i wont hazard. there are absolutely things he could say,do,and become that would negate my love for him absolutely give examples so we can opine.If not today,tmrw…

By Poppa Grande

February 11, 2009 4:27 PM | Link to this

BOH

Health only tells you so much about how “Well or good” that a person lived their life.

Dr. King died at 39, but reports are that his heart had the wear and tear comparable to a 60 year old ( it was enlarged as well). Stress took its toll on his body. But, many would argue that he lived his life well, and for the most part was a good person.

By Jamoca

February 11, 2009 4:29 PM | Link to this

‘Ey, Lil Cuba, what up slim

Hey Papi chulo, cómo estás? Picante, como de costumbre. LOL

BOH Regarding my posts, yes, I meant that. I’ve witnessed it and have also exp’d it. And this has even been professed from many a man. I did not agree nor did I understand, until I took the journey myself. Seeing is truly believing. But hey, that just my own opinion. …Whatdo’ I know, huh? My reply: Plenty.

By ATLborn

February 11, 2009 4:30 PM | Link to this

Wow! Good topic again today Wise and some great responses. I’ve been tripping out over ‘em while catching up.

I wish I had heard those chicks on V-103 this morning, woulda been good for some laughs.
Back in my dating days I ran across a lotta chicks that thru that “men are intimidated by me” around referring to their job, career success, money they make, etc whatever. Truth be told I, like a lotta fellas have said on here already, most dudes can care less what a woman does for a living, the loot she makes.

In fact, I’ve seen just the opposite with those typa chicks, for all their talk they tend to be the ones intimidated or even angered at men they encounter that equal or have surpassed their level of education, income earned, career status/position title. Plenty of times I’ve encountered women like that when they first met and talked with me I was ignorant and didn’t know any better cuz I was uneducated, was broke and of course was intimidated by a successful woman. And as soon as they found out I had obtained higher educational degrees their own, earned as much or more money, and had a decent white collar gig then I was a know it all that thought he was better than them.
LOL go figure.

By Stormy

February 11, 2009 4:32 PM | Link to this

Melo

Whateva!!! LOL

By lurker

February 11, 2009 4:34 PM | Link to this

Blow Lurker I got your 4:06 in more ways than you believe.lmao! You are one funny chick! Heck I agree with him, although, he didn’t think I would.

By MELO

February 11, 2009 4:34 PM | Link to this

Blue i doubt Rihanna will be dating in a long time.Chris maybe but the boy is traumatized.At 19 and with herpes,that must have angered him so bad for him to whip a slut so bad!!I awlayz thoght she carried herslef a lil on the whrre side, i think im close with that call.

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 4:35 PM | Link to this

Ared Get out of my subconscious. I was thinking the same thing.

BK, as much as I try to live my life honest and upfront, it’s just natural that I’m going to fall short from time to time. And I’ll certainly protect myself when faced with someone who can do me harm.

Heck, since I’m in the dating world, I’ve even found myself telling these dudes, I’ll call you back at XYZ times. Well, things happen and get in the way and I realize that I didn’t do what I was supposed to. All you can do is admit your mistakes, ask for forgiveness and try to do better in the future.

By M'Karyl

February 11, 2009 4:35 PM | Link to this

@Honey

That is somewhat the point…your contextual usage, POV of the term and experiences…all contribut to how you see the overall context of the term unconditional love…and for some ppl it just not exist, just as for some ppl there is no question about its existence…and at the end of the day…it is that we live what we believe that matters.

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 4:37 PM | Link to this

Slim But speaking of those condos turning into projects that means real hood folks will be living one door down from folks effed by the corporate world too.

That ain’t nothing new, there have always been projects around the corner from the White House too. LOL See, in a way, you need some low-rent to off-set the high-rent. Same program in every city. Study regentrification.

Jamoca Hey Papi chulo, cómo estás? Picante, como de costumbre. LOL

Yo no hablo Espanol. :P

By Kara

February 11, 2009 4:37 PM | Link to this

At 19 and with herpes,that must have angered him so bad for him to whip a slut so bad!!I awlayz thoght she carried herslef a lil on the whrre side <== so women (with stds) who carry themselves like a whrre deserve to be beaten.

Does that include your mother, wife, daughter? Would you say that to them too?

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 4:38 PM | Link to this

Leggs You are honorable to sit here and go back and forth with a petty argument. I would not call that a lie. But when you are pushed to the limit no one would stand for that. I don’t think that YOUR bond was broken HIS bond was…which ultimately ended the union. It’s funny how ppl play on words. These folks can talk you in circles all day if you let em… which came first the chicken or the egg? GTFOH!! Seriously. Don’t go into further info about your marriage Leggs thats’ a personal experience and it should not be on the table to proof a petty point. It’s so FUGGIN easy to talk when you haven’t not FOOTED the walk.

I’m sorry I get sensitive about Ms Leggs

By The Truth

February 11, 2009 4:38 PM | Link to this

Leggs thats just one incident. You’ve done an assortment of things to break your own code and you’ll do it again. Thats the beauty of being human. This thing doesnt come with a manual. We’re all just winging it. Some just do it better than others.

Growing up in the 70’s with Bruce Lee and martial arts I fancied the samurai warriors. They were fierce barbarians that just happened to be educated. They had a helluva code to live by. When I grew up I learned when their masters die they rent themselves out as ronin, swords for hire. When things went bad they committed sepuku, ritual suicide. WTF??? The same thing applies to the Pope (marriages and kids) jesus christ (rumor was he and Mary were very chummy) MLK ( he had a dream alright, and a few chicks were in it) and anyone else you can think of.

Your code is in place until something, anything really, comes along and challenges it. Your code will melt around your ankles next week if the guy of the hour brings you flowers for vday. The only certainty is your uncertainty. Welcome to the human race.

Blow I saw the pics and ran with it. My bad. But let me be the first to say she does not look good wearing an azzwuppin. LOL

Melo Chris has herpes, Dwanyne Wade too. Everyone has herpes. Where can you go to eat a nice clean puddy tat? LOL

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 11, 2009 4:41 PM | Link to this

PG totally got that external conditions (i.e the environment and those in it) contributes, but many would also argue that Dr.King “died before his time”. We also know there are certain behaviors, habits, etc. that we can engage in that seemingly,puts us closer to our expiration, yes?

Melo There are far too many items to list that would negate my love for a person. Allbeit extreme, they do exist. I know you personally have a threshold of allowance and then you’re done right? There are certain things that your wife could do/become that would negate your love for her correct? Think about those things b/c thats what I mean when I say that unconditional if a fallacy b/c I believe that all things have a condition.

By Demi

February 11, 2009 4:41 PM | Link to this

Rihanna got her azz tore out the frame. Dayuumm Bet she wont be grabbing anyones keys out of their car. The pics are fierce.

I have a feeling she push chris to the limit…had he been whipping her a$$, the key tossing wouldn’t have happened

Blue_Kolla I knew them fools were over building, dumb a*******es

By MELO

February 11, 2009 4:44 PM | Link to this

Kara a woman that knowingly gives me that gift will be lucky to escape with an intact head! If we say raw,its raw if u agree.No disclaimers in fine print.

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 4:44 PM | Link to this

Chris has herpes, Dwanyne Wade too. Everyone has herpes. Where can you go to eat a nice clean puddy tat? LOL

Truth - Janet Jackson is rumored as well. Folks need to get over the stigma, it’s said that nearly 50% of black folks have it now, even if they don’t physically experience it.

And even more folks have cold sores.

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 4:45 PM | Link to this

Kara At 19 and with herpes,that must have angered him so bad for him to whip a slut so bad!!I awlayz thoght she carried herslef a lil on the whrre side <== so women (with stds) who carry themselves like a whrre deserve to be beaten.

Now I ain’t the dude to beat down a chick, but if this dude has been Mr. Good Guy throughout their relationship and this broad brings him some shyt that he can’t get rid of, then Hayo Yeah, she deserves an azz whoopin’. Where’s accountability? So what, she gets a pass just because she’s a female? Get the fugg outta here with that dumb shyt!

By Demi

February 11, 2009 4:45 PM | Link to this

But i’m waiting for those 250k and up condos downtown & midtown to come down to apartment prices, then I’m in.

Thats no dream, Slim. A lot of builders are hurting right now…one of my cousin sored a 240s at the low 150s in cobb area

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 4:47 PM | Link to this

I am having severe internet problems. You know, I must apology. When I posted “my word is my bond” I was operating on telling someone I would do something and making sure it gets done. Not one time did I take it to my wedding vows. In that respect, I give it to you guys that you’re right. Not trying to use convenience in my corner, just wasn’t thinking about the vows.

By Poppa Grande

February 11, 2009 4:48 PM | Link to this

BOH

We also know there are certain behaviors, habits, etc. that we can engage in that seemingly,puts us closer to our expiration, yes?

No. I know people who have drank, smoked, sexed up the town and lived near 100 years old.

Actor George Burns & Milton Burle smoked cigars like crazy and lived to see the century mark or close to it. Yet, there are who didn’t see their first birthday.

I just believe that your time is predetermined. And we don’t know our appointed time or place. Therefore, it is good to act as if today is our last day.

By For Real

February 11, 2009 4:49 PM | Link to this

Lets see what’s happin..

By Demi

February 11, 2009 4:50 PM | Link to this

Kym/Poppa that is why I am cleaning my credit…the next three years are going to be sweet for me.

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 4:51 PM | Link to this

Not one time did I take it to my wedding vows

Leggs, if your word is your bond, that includes things like your wedding vows. You don’t have to explicitly state it for it to be applicable.

If your word is your bond, it’s your bond in all you do. You told your husband you’d love, honor, cherish etc, til death and eventually you didn’t.

By M'Karyl

February 11, 2009 4:51 PM | Link to this

Well you peeps be on easy…and let’s get our MIA groove on in the manana…peace out.

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 11, 2009 4:51 PM | Link to this

Lurker Girl that one slipped through the cracks. But I got it! lol!

By MELO

February 11, 2009 4:51 PM | Link to this

Folks need to get over the stigma hahaha,hahaha okay Janet,Dwayyne,Rihanna and Chris plus 50 % black so no stigma?? I dont think so,no matter who has it.Its not curable(in Ryna Cameron stress tone) thats the think that bugs…beat down is good…

By Blue_Kolla

February 11, 2009 4:52 PM | Link to this

I am having severe internet problems.

Naah Leggs, what you need to do is hit “back” and not “refresh”.

By Jamoca

February 11, 2009 4:53 PM | Link to this

and at the end of the day…it is that we live what we believe that matters.

Yes ma’am to that ^^^ there.

And Blue shaddup and quit playin’! We both know you went to google for translation. lol …and while you explore into other cultures, you better invest ya’self into some Rosetta, señor.

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 4:53 PM | Link to this

Ok Truth. Not one time was I talking about yesteryear. Of course, I have broken my word on something. Should have stated this upfront when I first posted “my word is my bond.” If I gave you my word from the person I’ve become since my divorce, you got my word. I’d like to believe that irrevocably nothing would change this. Meaning, I don’t promise much, but when I do, it’s a done deal. You guys have a point on the vows, I wasn’t leaning that way, but I gotcha!

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 4:56 PM | Link to this

Thanks for having my back Blow. I appreciate it.

Bye!

Be kind, it truly helps the heart~~~

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 4:58 PM | Link to this

Ok Truth. Not one time was I talking about yesteryear. Of course, I have broken my word on something. Should have stated this upfront when I first posted “my word is my bond.” If I gave you my word from the person I’ve become since my divorce, you got my word. I’d like to believe that irrevocably nothing would change this. Meaning, I don’t promise much, but when I do, it’s a done deal. You guys have a point on the vows, I wasn’t leaning that way, but I gotcha!

By Wise Diva

February 11, 2009 4:58 PM | Link to this

Have a wonderful night everyone :)

By AmazonRed

February 11, 2009 4:59 PM | Link to this

melo, for all you know, you could have it. They don’t test for it unless you ask and I know your azz ain’t asking.

By The Truth

February 11, 2009 4:59 PM | Link to this

kym if your goingto be looking for real estate have your realtor get real aggressive.

Listing price $150-offer $110 and let them tell you no. It doesnt hurt.

All closing costs and prepaids (Make sure your loan officer gives you that whole amount)

Home warranty

Have the home inspected and ask for repairs. As-is doesnt mean as-is unless you want it to.

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 4:59 PM | Link to this

BlueK, meant company having internet trouble.

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 11, 2009 5:00 PM | Link to this

M’Karyl I think that people have been conditioned to believe certain things. That’s our culture and that’s how it is. I just try to challenge myself to think on things a little deeper than their presentation, that’s all. I would love for you to present a different context and I am certain I can counter with a condition.

PG came close with the death example, but I still see that as conditional. So, I welcome all takers on this. I need this mental exercise today.

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 5:01 PM | Link to this

Thanks for having my back Blow. I appreciate it.

Bye!

Be kind, it truly helps the heart~~~

By Wise Diva

February 11, 2009 5:03 PM | Link to this

For Real, in a situation where a solid/good woman has been with a man and shown him her good character, to question that would be rooted in insecurity. Why wouldn’t I be with you with/without a boatload of cash? If you are secure about the woman and the relationship, the testing should not come in to play

By Leggs

February 11, 2009 5:05 PM | Link to this

BlueK, meant company having internet trouble.

By Poppa Grande

February 11, 2009 5:08 PM | Link to this

BOH

For mental exercise, I go the this site called “mental floss”. It has all types of mental exercises.

You see death as conditional, and I see it as an absolute because it will happen no matter what you do.

If God is all powerful and all knowing, how hard is it to believe that he put us here for a purpose and we don’t leave until that purpose done. In my mind, it has less to do with us than him.

We are at a stand off.

By lurker

February 11, 2009 5:13 PM | Link to this

BK but if this dude has been Mr.Good Guy throughout their relationship and this broad brings him some shyt that he can’t get rid of, then Hayo Yeah,she deserves an azz whoopin.Where’s accountability? In abstaining. Guess he gets the Ike Turner pass cause he’s Mr Good Guy Consenting adults is more than you good doing it? Yeah I’m good. Accountability for each own individual self.

By Rich

February 12, 2009 8:04 AM | Link to this

This kind of question makes me all the happier that I am Gay.

By Michelle-www.atlantasfinest.yuku.com

February 12, 2009 8:10 AM | Link to this

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