By Raqi

February 24, 2009 8:30 AM | Link to this

Double Duty is just too much work for me. And is void of commitment toward either. The only I am able to commit to the one I love is to forsake all others.

And yes I do think that practicing an open dating method can be the prelude to an open marriage. Whether both parties agree after the nuptials or not in others words infidelity. I believe that we set the parameters of the marriage during the time of dating.

By NYCUTIE-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com

February 24, 2009 8:34 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All!!

Having two boyfriends is ok if one of them knows about the other.. All that open dating s*it is WACK cause I don’t like to share!! If I considered having two, best believe I am nt blzing bth of them..

By DreamsMaterialize

February 24, 2009 8:44 AM | Link to this

Morning I’ve known two great women who were appealing to me in two completely different ways. Used to think, damn if I could put them together… I think most people have gone through this. Generally, no one person has EVERYTHING you want, but two (or more), possibly. lol I don’t think open dating is the precursor to open marriage. I think open dating is the precursor to NO MARRIAGE.

By AmazonRed

February 24, 2009 9:09 AM | Link to this

Good morning bloggers. :-)

I have a good friend, who didn’t know she was in an open relationship until his wife called her. Turns out he’s separated, that’s how she was able to be at his house all the time and even had his car for a full week!

And I’ve already told you about my friend who didn’t know she was sharing her man until she heard he was getting married to someone else.

In any case, knowing or not knowing, I’m in no way interested in an open relationship. Unlike most women, I’m not hard to satisfy, so one guy can take care of most of my needs! lol And if the guy needs more than one girl in rotation, I will gracefully bow out and let him find someone who’s down for that.

By Sassy Me

February 24, 2009 9:12 AM | Link to this

Mornting and hellerr Double duty with regards to dating is ok, however, I think that ultimately it depends on the people involved in the situation. For a noncommittall individual that sounds great b/c you really can have your cake and eat it,too. But it’s alot of work. I wouldn’t do it b/c I don’t like to share and whomever I’m with has all of me and that’s what I require in return. I find it impossible to give all or yourself to two people. Someone is bound to get the short end of the stick (no pun intended):o)

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 24, 2009 9:15 AM | Link to this

I practiced double duty consistently until my last relationship. Don’t know what happened then.

I dated a chick that brought her gf in for some of the fun. We really had a great time together. No jealousy or arguments. The chick I was dating actually got off on it, like so many women I’ve known since then. And I know there are a good deal of women on this blog that not only dont mind but would enjoy a situation like that. It’s ok if you dont want to say so in public. Wink Wink

Also, I knocked off my ex wife for 5 years while she was remarried so the whole dating another thing isn’t a big deal. Actually while I was dating the ex wife I dated another chick for 2 years and it all worked like clockwork, at least for me. LOL

After you grasp the fact that someone isn’t a virgin anymore this is just a few more mental steps down the road.

Some folks are wired to be monogamous and some aren’t.

Dreams I disagree. A chick that wants to get down with you is defintely wify material. At a certain point you get tired of the lying and this way you can bring a chick in and get her tested and do ish the clean way.

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 24, 2009 9:20 AM | Link to this

Truth so were you “dating” the ex-wife or just beating her back out? I don’t think they are the same.

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 24, 2009 9:25 AM | Link to this

Bit my bad. Just beating her back out. LMAO That was some of the most reliable puddy I’ve ever had. Just call and wait for a knock on the door.

By DreamsMaterialize

February 24, 2009 9:27 AM | Link to this

Truth If you already have an open relationship, then it’s not “lying”. So, what’s the benefit of being married?

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 9:27 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. Hmmm, double dating. I’d rather not. Isn’t that akin to friends w/benefits???

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 24, 2009 9:31 AM | Link to this

Interesting topic b/c I recently had a conversation with a girlfriend who was trying to rationalize the actions of her “jump-off” or J-O because he has told her in no uncertain terms that he’s not looking for a relationship but he enjoys what they do when they’re together. This is messing her up bad mentally. She has feelings for this dude and he flat out told her that he still has feelings for his ex. He put all the cards out, trump tight and she still wants to play the hand out. I don’t understand.

She has signed on for second place at best? Why would anyone agree to this? I overstand that the dyck is PHI, but still y’all…..

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 24, 2009 9:33 AM | Link to this

Dreams in the past they were open on one side, mine. LMAO In this enviroment full disclosure is best. Now on the the benefit of being married, I say that in general there’s no benefit except for the kids and to pass on wealth/assets. My point is I wouldn’t rule out a wife because she had a kink in her. Dam near everyone does.

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 9:41 AM | Link to this

Bit, it’s so hard to disengage oneself when the heart is full. In time, she will get out of this. Apparently, she wants to play the handout cuz she’s banking on a “full house” in the end and she can trump his feelings he has for his ex.

By DreamsMaterialize

February 24, 2009 9:43 AM | Link to this

Bit-O For some people, playing second fiddle is better than not playing at all. See, if you’re second fiddle, then first chair is right within your grasp, and you can rationalize to yourself all sorts of scenarios where you would eventually get promoted to first chair. Now, if you leave outright, then you have no position to play. Some people just need a position to play.

By mytwocents

February 24, 2009 9:43 AM | Link to this

Truth Would you wax just as poetical about the ex-girl if she brought her homeboy in on the fun? Or still have as fond memories if the ex-wife nonchalantly mentioned twisting the sheets with a few others along the way? Would you even admit it? Chuckles

Most guys that claim to want an open relationship really want the door left ajar. Just enough for them to get out and play, yet keep her firmly in place…

By mytwocents

February 24, 2009 9:44 AM | Link to this

Truth Would you wax just as poetical about the ex-girl if she brought her homeboy in on the fun? Or still have as fond memories if the ex-wife nonchalantly mentioned twisting the sheets with a few others along the way? Would you even admit it? Chuckles

Most guys that claim to want an open relationship really want the door left ajar. Just enough for them to get out and play, yet keep her firmly in place…

By Sassy Me

February 24, 2009 9:48 AM | Link to this

She has signed on for second place at best? Why would anyone agree to this? I overstand that the dyck is PHI, but still y’all…..

BIT

Unfortunately some women get dk matized and can’t see or think straight. Maybe your girl is one of the countless women who will settle for a piece of a man than no man at all.

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 24, 2009 9:51 AM | Link to this

Dreams I think you’ve got her pegged. She so doesn’t have to do this. There are plenty of men sweating her all the time. I guess its true, “We always want what we can’t have.”

By Kym

February 24, 2009 9:58 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

Since in another life I dated married dudes I can say this whole concept is alot of work..and while lively at times gets boring after awhile.

Besides to pull it off you have to deal with people who understand the limits and can roll with. I dated a guy who was married…but clearly didnt mind if I dated another guy as long as he was number two. Dated a guy not married who didnt mind if I date other guys as long as he was number one. Dated guy who didnt mind if I dated other guys so long as I slept with only him.

I swear this topic reminds me of a blues song.

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 24, 2009 10:04 AM | Link to this

Tatas the true joy of life is accepting people as they are and not expecting more than they can give you. If my girl wants to get done she does so not because of anything I’ve done but its in her and whats in her will be served. The question is did you find out before or after you got with her.

So to answer the question, if she said up front she likes to get knocked off by 3 guys at a time I can decide to go with that or just join in on the bang and call it a wrap. I’ve passed around chicks before so once again thats not a big mental leap.

As for the ex wife I knew she was getting knocked off by her hubby, or maybe not, but your job when hoing is to stay focused on the mission. You came for azz so whatever happens get that azz and bounce. Like Bit was saying about her gf’s feeling jumping in, thats a major violation and cause for expulsion.

If I met you and you said you were into xyz then I just decide if thats something I want to do with YOU and go forward. Either way I dont take it personal because YOU like doing something.

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 24, 2009 10:05 AM | Link to this

On topic I have yet to see an “open” relationship work. Someone is bound to be hurt. I think it sounds like a win-win in theory, but in practice it bombs!

By kimmie

February 24, 2009 10:07 AM | Link to this

Morning Blog Fam

Just popped in to speak. Yall have fun with this, I have absolutely no interest in this topic. Should be fun for the guys though - most are turned on by 2 women.LOL!!

H to the Naw at double dipping or double dating, or double duty or open dating or open season or whatever this is all about - LOL!!

By Sassy Me

February 24, 2009 10:09 AM | Link to this

mytwo

That 9:44 was soo on point. Some men scream that open relationship sht but if it really was to swing the other way in regards to bringing in another man versus a woman most would opt for the latter….and bring in the chick. You do have some that really can handle it but I think the #s are far and few in between ‘cause eventually someone catches feelings and sht get jacked up.

Most guys that claim to want an open relationship really want the door left ajar. Just enough for them to get out and play, yet keep her firmly in place…

I’ve been in situations where I’ve been propositioned but I always ask the question “If you want to bring in another woman then can I bring in another man and the answer was always “he!! naw”. I understand that men can be territorial but you get to play then why can’t I……

By mytwocents

February 24, 2009 10:13 AM | Link to this

Truth I meant if you found out in the midst… just as you forgot to mention it to her. An undisclosed signing bonus. If she were still your wife. And why would you (need to) consider a chick servicing that many pumps your girlfriend? Seems unnecessary.

By mytwocents

February 24, 2009 10:14 AM | Link to this

Truth I meant if you found out in the midst… just as you forgot to mention it to her. An undisclosed signing bonus. If she were still your wife. And why would you (need to) consider a chick servicing that many pumps your girlfriend? Seems unnecessary.

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 24, 2009 10:17 AM | Link to this

Bit then again how many relationships period do you see working period.

Tatas when I was stationed at Ft Stewart a co worker invited me to his home for a little party. I walk in and his wife is on fours with guys on each end and cats waiting in line. I’m sitting around talking to this dude while his wife is getting straight done without condoms (this was in 84 before we knew what aids and herpes was). Personally I’d of jumped in but his wife looked like a troll and I honestly couldn’t see me doing that chick. The cool thing is he knew what his wife liked and obliged her. It works for some. LOL

And there’s always a cat that’ll lay with a woman after a gang bang. Never fails one dude will pull mop up duty. It’s the dude that forgot what he came to the party for. LOL

By Elijah makes it Happen!

February 24, 2009 10:22 AM | Link to this

Good Morning beautiful people!

The truth is like a book written on business,

Keep it practically and put in the hard work with some common and boooya! Peace of mind!

Dating 2 people is only good when you are open and honest. I believe it takes a lot of time before anyone should make the decision that a relationship has developed and I only want to see you exclusively.

One of the biggest problem today is our ego that wants to keep everyone to ourselves even though we are not treating that person VERY GOOD!

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 24, 2009 10:25 AM | Link to this

Truth I personally know quite a few successful relationships, mine included. When more people learn to either accept people where they are, and for who they are or leave them be, people will find themselves happier. Being delusional and trying to change people who are not open to change/growth is such a waste of energy.

In other words, when people stop fronting and give their reps a sabbatical, they might find success in a relationship.

By AmazonRed

February 24, 2009 10:26 AM | Link to this

I walk in and his wife is on fours with guys on each end and cats waiting in line. I’m sitting around talking to this dude while his wife is getting straight done without condoms

That is so freakin’ wild. smh

By Atltwen

February 24, 2009 10:26 AM | Link to this

I tried this when I first started dating, some (10+) years ago.

I had my girlfriend and two other females on side. They each had 3 personalities and lifestyles that represented a part of me: spiritual & committed side (girlfriend), playful & entertaining (side female # A), and sophisticated & serious (side female # B). I enjoyed my time with each one of them in my special and unique way.

The benefits were obvious: flexibility and plenty of intimacy.

However, it was very taxing. I spending plenty of doe on dates, even after they partially contributed to the expense. Countless hours on the phone; ohh, the nagging sometimes. And the most costly, my time. Committing to 3, or even 2 women simultaneously is a clock killer! I was working and in college full-time at the time; and women want that time, not the money, not the sex, not the all the things, neccessarily; that time gets your hired and fired!By the way, this showed me women will suck the life (literally and figuratively) out you if they let them.

E.G., I went to see “Titanic”, an almost 3 hour movie, 3 times; in a week and half period - had to fake the last two. My a* was numb!

After about 6 months, I exhausted. I couldn’t keep up, so I quit. I promised myself I’d never do it again; it shaped my philosophy about dating, which is “one girl at time.”

It is difficult to develop a serious relationship with someone when being pulled in one or two other directions.

6:24 No man can serve two masters. He cannot give his heart to two services at the same time.

By Elijah makes it Happen!

February 24, 2009 10:44 AM | Link to this

Truth: Question for you! Did you seek the ex-wifes sexual attention or did she come desire your sexual attention?

I know just about everyone has come back and hit the ex for a certain peroid of time! Why is that?

By THE MELO

February 24, 2009 10:48 AM | Link to this

Im missing out on some of the commune os forgive me plz

I am nt blzing bth of them..meaning what Michelle?

I overstand that the dyck is PHI what this hood lingo means,O-Honey??

women get dk matized and can’t see or think straight cming from a woman,that admission is very refreshing Sassy…..

I wld gladly be in a 3 play as long as its 2 ladies and me solo.No other dude allowed. That is a dream for most dudes tho.

Open relationship as in my queen being boned by another dude??,and I know of it?..hell NO!!

Another side puddy,No problem as long as im getting my share!

By Leslie

February 24, 2009 10:49 AM | Link to this

I went to Atlanta a few weeks ago and I saw plenty of couples. Mostly average and overweight women with their men and children (it made me think of the conversations on this blog) .

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 10:50 AM | Link to this

Elijah, you already know the answer to your question. Of course, the ex came looking for Sir Truth’s sexual prowess. It’s rare for him to backtrack…don’t you get that from him (I’m cracking up over here)!

By Rell - Since 1972

February 24, 2009 10:52 AM | Link to this

to my point yesterday

http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/pedestaling-the-p-the-most-common-dating-mistake-that-women-make/

By THE MELO

February 24, 2009 10:53 AM | Link to this

Atltwen u are a trooper.Tyhats the beauty of lyfe.U gotta experience things so u can learn from it.Every real man has done what u did. Ur membership to the MLB is hereby approved!

By Halfrican

February 24, 2009 10:54 AM | Link to this

Women come here and are all up in Buckhead & Downtown Atlanta and other seedy areas trying to find Mr. Right and get mad when they get dogged out. Honey I’m sorry YES it is something in your personality that draws men with those personality types to you whether you’d like to admit it or not.

You can’t find ole boy in the club or where you think the yuppies reside.

By Cemeeli

February 24, 2009 11:00 AM | Link to this

Morning

Would an open dating relationship be the first step towards an open marriage?

Nah, I wouldn’t say that an open relationship is antecedent to your marriage being “open”. I think when you are gonna be serious with one person you should decide that dating two or more people at the same time is “old game”, and make the adjustments to be monogamous with * The One*.

So, DD grown folks, the question is; Are the relationships fulfilling? Or, are we just doing the trend to have gloating rights? Or, we tryna see if “I still got it”? Or, internally unhappy so we’d play ‘the game’ with two or three individuals and it’s us that’s incompatible…I could go on

We’re talking about trust! Be honest about it!…To piggyback on an earlier commenter someone said that they didn’t find out the guy was seriously dating someone until the dude got married. Really? Please Who is really that mislead “today”? Oh some do know, and just go along with it anyway.

By Beautiful

February 24, 2009 11:01 AM | Link to this

what is your goal at this moment? is it to bang, meet friends and have a good time, or marriage?

what message are you giving him when you announce or agree to an open relationship? i see no ring in your future. ladies, he’s testing you if he asks you this question. duh!

and where is fee fee?! how you gon visit for one week and jet? and under a microscrope you remain.

By NYCUTIE-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com

February 24, 2009 11:07 AM | Link to this

Halfrican, you are on POINT with your comment!!

Melo, I can only sex one man at a time and I don’t mean, one man on Sunday and the next on Tuesday.. I mean for the duration of my relationship. Point, blank, PERIOD!!!

By Atltwen

February 24, 2009 11:08 AM | Link to this

Thanks, MELO.

If I meet that old me today, he would pimp slap me in the face and call me a ‘ish!

By AmazonRed

February 24, 2009 11:10 AM | Link to this

I’ve wondered about the guys who ask their girlfriends to partake in threesomes. Some say they would never ask their wives to do it, which is why they ask on the girlfriend level. But then if she does it, does it knock her out of wife contention?

By THE MELO

February 24, 2009 11:10 AM | Link to this

ok,Cam

By Beautiful

February 24, 2009 11:11 AM | Link to this

there’s a new reality show coming on just for single women. i forget the name of it. i think we should all watch and discuss.

wise, blanca what y’all think?

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 11:14 AM | Link to this

Yeah, where is Fee Fee

Halfrican, first off I like your nme. Second off, you’re absolutely right!

By Beautiful

February 24, 2009 11:15 AM | Link to this

But then if she does it, does it knock her out of wife contention? i believe so.

NYCUTIE i read you guys the other nite. funny stuff!

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 24, 2009 11:15 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli folks are greedy! There’s no rhyme or reason to it. They have what they like but then are always curious about “what might be” or “could have been” as if they’re missing out…a faux relationship!

By Halfrican

February 24, 2009 11:18 AM | Link to this

Leggs n’ Nycutie…I was just venting because i’m tired of hearing women complain about their situation in ATL. Either get tight or move! That will be less traffic we have to deal with! lmao

By NYCUTIE-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com

February 24, 2009 11:22 AM | Link to this

Beautiful, come share your thoughts!! LMAO

By abc

February 24, 2009 11:24 AM | Link to this

Open relationships are a mystery to me. I think that if you don’t mind someone else doing your partner, then you don’t care for them that much, or at least, not in ways that make a difference between a friend and your mate.

Open relationships don’t make sense to me, almost an oxymoron.

By Beautiful

February 24, 2009 11:30 AM | Link to this

cutie now do you really think that’s a good idea? lol. naw, i’ll just lurk every now and then. but thanks anyways!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

February 24, 2009 11:30 AM | Link to this

Honey Your friend needs to have her head examined! I mean dude was up front from the beginning. She should have walked away if she knew she could not deal with his terms. I blame her not him and she needs to stop settling….no d*ck is that good to spit on your own self respect! In the end he is the winner and she is the only one losing! Let me guess…she thought she could make him change his feelign and fall for her. Poor misguided chick! Women…you can not make a man do anything but respect you. And sometimes that means knowing when to cut your losses and walk away! It may hurt….but it hurts a lot less than settling and feeling stupid years later when the lightbulb finally comes on and you go, “duh….why was I stuck on stupid for this azzhole”?

As far as the topic…I have had 3 dates in one day….breakfast..lunch and dinner. My legs stayed shut but my mind was open as I listen and observed the men in there habitats like animals! LOL The old me woudl be snowed by how cute he was or the sweet nothings coming form his lips. Now I realized that the nothings really are that sweet and that they are just that…NOTHINGS! LOL The same ole crap being spoken to me that they probably just used on some chick last night to gain azz access! Sorry…access denied buddy! But I had fun! LOL Now if we are just hanging out…I really do not give a rat’s azz about what or who you do. If we are in a relationship…I do NOT share knowingly. That is better left for the desperate chicks with no self esteem or respect. If I am in a relationship…I am not lying down or kissing another man out of respect for myself and the man I made a promise too, and I expect and only accept the same in return. If you can’t do that. Goodbye! I can be alone and be happy…something some women can NOT do and leads them to the settling for 2nd and less place!

By THE MELO

February 24, 2009 11:30 AM | Link to this

But then if she does it, does it knock her out of wife contention?

I will speak about me Ared.When i used to date,if i liked a chic,one of the things i used to do was introduce some outlandish subject,sexx related during one of our very early on dates.Then,i didnt know nothing about open relationships and such coz of my cultural background but still,there are other subjects that were kinda taboo from an upright,culturally mannered person perspective.(if u catch my drift here) If the girl kinda giggled her way out but was not forthright in her dismay etc,it signalled to me that we can do some things.Once i pigeon hole her like that and i go on to wrap it up with her,yeah,shes now on tier 2 category.She is the one girl I call on for that off-da-wall party thats happening at Tyrone’s house or for the outa town wild parties.Shes proly thinking that im a fun guy and cool to hang with.Im thinking the same thing about her but there is no intention to wife her.

By lurker

February 24, 2009 11:33 AM | Link to this

E.G., I went to see “Titanic”, an almost 3 hour movie, 3 times; in a week and half period - had to fake the last two. My a* was numb!

LOL….

Somebody said it earlier, don’t do doubling, double dipping, double takes, it takes too…paraphrasing but I concur.

By NYCUTIE-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com

February 24, 2009 11:33 AM | Link to this

* I just HAD to post this link* http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,499189,00.html LMAO

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 11:37 AM | Link to this

Melo, you make a good point there. Halfrican, that’s exactly why I don’t complain about the dating scene. I have to do me first before I can do anyone else. Staceye, I grew up listening to “sweet nothings” and that’s exactly what they are “nothings”. Words don’t mean shyt, let me see your actions backing up those “sweet nothings.”

By Atltwen

February 24, 2009 11:37 AM | Link to this

Staceye AKA Black Mamba, tell us how you really feel!

By Rell - Since 1972

February 24, 2009 11:39 AM | Link to this

know just about everyone has come back and hit the ex for a certain peroid of time! Why is that?

not me when i am done…thats it you are dead to me….

By NYCUTIE-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com

February 24, 2009 11:42 AM | Link to this

*I tried to get in my ex’s pants last night and he ALWAYS preached the “once I am done, I am done” sht too but he was DAMN sure willing last night.. Unfortunate for him, the urge came & left **

By Rell - Since 1972

February 24, 2009 11:44 AM | Link to this

I’ve wondered about the guys who ask their girlfriends to partake in threesomes. Some say they would never ask their wives to do it, which is why they ask on the girlfriend level. But then if she does it, does it knock her out of wife contention

noooooooooooooooooooo

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 11:44 AM | Link to this

NYCutie that is laughable at best and sad all the way around. Unbelieveable!

By lurker

February 24, 2009 11:45 AM | Link to this

Rell - not me when i am done…thats it you are dead to me….

Agreed. IMO, the other person is reaping the benefits. If I’m good enough to screw, then I’m good enough to do a relationship with. If we didn’t see eye to eye or for whatever reasons parted ways, the physical ends right there.

By i'm swiss

February 24, 2009 11:52 AM | Link to this

As far as open relationships go, whatever floats your boat, I suppose. My best friend & his ex used to be quite open & it seemed that everything was cool with them, but as it turns out, not so much. (Side note — it’s pretty funny after the split to see how much of a bible-thumper the ex has become. Makes me chuckle now, remembering all the times she climbed the Matterhorn while my friend — her hubby — watched. LOL).

I tried it myself in my younger days, and it was fun, I won’t lie, but ultimately it doesn’t work for me. At least not when I really like the girl. I couldn’t ever share swiss miss with anyone & I would actually be disappointed if she were okay w/ the idea of sharing me.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

February 24, 2009 11:53 AM | Link to this

Atltwen Sweetie…I always do! LOL

By Atltwen

February 24, 2009 11:55 AM | Link to this

“If I’m good enough to screw, then I’m good enough to do a relationship with.”

Lurker, my, one and only, ex-friend w/benefits told me the same thing before she left me. But I’m sorry, I just isn’t true sometimes.

I told her: Yeah the sex is great, however, your anger management issues and your inability to get over your ex-boyfriend, whom she spoke with on the phone about everyday and even occasionally went to visit while we were kicking, keep me from viewing you as anything but such!

By THE MELO

February 24, 2009 11:56 AM | Link to this

So those kids running a prostitution ring dont have parents,the parents are pros too or what? At 17,they have been broght up really rough to know about such.

By THE MELO

February 24, 2009 11:56 AM | Link to this

So those kids running a prostitution ring dont have parents,the parents are pros too or what? At 17,they have been broght up really rough to know about such.

By AmazonRed

February 24, 2009 12:00 PM | Link to this

I haven’t done the ex sex thing, primarily because of ego. We’re broken up, yet I can be your cut buddy? No thanks.

I allowed an ex back because he was trying to reconcile, but he had to take on more than just the physical. That would probably only be the exception to the “ex sex” rule.

By i'm swiss

February 24, 2009 12:09 PM | Link to this

RE: ex sex.

Actually, some of the best sex I ever had w/ my ex was after we had split. It was a combination of “see what you’re ‘bout to be missing?” and “won’t be no puddy here for anyone else when I’m done!” LOL Never knew that angry, semi-spiteful sex could be so good. LOL And apparently she dug it, too, ‘cos she kept popping in for more.

By Cumfortable

February 24, 2009 12:15 PM | Link to this

This has nothing to do with anything you all are talking about but I have to pose this question to the fellas. My man and I have a healthy sex drive and I love giving him throat, but when he’s about to release he never wants to do so in my mouth. I asked him about it and he said, he just doesn’t want to.Why do you think the reason is?

Isn’t this strange?

By AmazonRed

February 24, 2009 12:20 PM | Link to this

Funky spunk!!! lol

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 12:25 PM | Link to this

Ex + Sex = NOT!

By Beautiful

February 24, 2009 12:27 PM | Link to this

cum ummm … nrr’mind. goodness

By lurker

February 24, 2009 12:29 PM | Link to this

Lurker, my, one and only, ex-friend w/benefits told me the same thing before she left me. But I’m sorry, I just isn’t true sometimes. I told her: Yeah the sex is great, however, your anger management issues and your inability to get over your ex-boyfriend, whom she spoke with on the phone about everyday and even occasionally went to visit while we were kicking, keep me from viewing you as anything but such!

See I think you aided in that situation. Why would you hang around and do a chick, knowing she’s hung up on some other dude? Why when she wants another? Even so, for the sake of argument, if I’m hung up on another dude or if I have anger management issues or whatever the issue, if we aren’t together or you opt to leave because it’s not a situation that works for you or if you only see me good enough for sex because of such, still not giving you any…it’s only a freebie for you. What would I be getting out of it? Obviously a relationship is either not going to happen or is past. I don’t think you should have hung in there while a chick gets over another or in hopes of, buuuut, for me and my individual standards, no freebies. Wouldn’t you rather walk altogether than to take or view her only good enough for sex? Seriously, you’d do a chick that’s looking and hoping for someone else?

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 12:35 PM | Link to this

…Seriously, you’d do a chick that’s looking and hoping for someone else? Why do you sound surprise lurker? Puddy has no face and no emotions. A lot of guys just care about getting to the puddy. The parameters surrounding it is of little consequence to some!

By NYCUTIE-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com

February 24, 2009 12:37 PM | Link to this

Cumfortable, hold that azz down til he erupts Also, mnake sure he eats the necessary fruits first

By Sassy Me

February 24, 2009 12:45 PM | Link to this

swiss I’ve had ex sex but there was no hidden get back, see what u gone miss agenda…..just good azz wood plain and simple. I feel tingly………

Cumfortable Wow maybe your man thinks that only loose women do that…there’s some type of hang up he has with it or maybe he’s done it in the past with women whom he didn’t think highly of BUT he thinks of highly you. I’ve seen that if a dude feels a certain way about you there are some things he might do to/with a jump off that he wouldn’t do with his woman.

But I aint mad atcha girl… I likes your fervor and enthusiasm.

By Cumfortable

February 24, 2009 12:47 PM | Link to this

NYCUTIE he always takes care of me, that is not my concern. I thought all men wanted to release in the mouth? He pulls out and up just moments before be releases. I don’t want to force the issue, just trying to understand. Why do I almost feel insulted?

By Beautiful

February 24, 2009 12:48 PM | Link to this

Cumfortable, hold that azz down til he erupts

RAPE! lmao.

By THE MELO

February 24, 2009 12:48 PM | Link to this

NYCUTIE i think she has the technique wrong.U wanna school her on da blog? I be listening…..u like to swallow Cumfortable?

By C tha 1

February 24, 2009 12:51 PM | Link to this

I tell ya, if you really want a brutha to come out of lurksville all you gotta do is mention some good throat action Cumfortable. LOL But to answer your question…yes, that’s strange. He simply needs to get over preconceived notions that only skanks and sluts do things like that and not his main lady. Trust me its on him…its all in his mind.

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 12:54 PM | Link to this

Cumfortable, you have me cracking up over here…you almost feel insulted. That is funny. A lot of women would love to be in your place, meaning not having to swallow. But, I too thought majority of men wants their subject/woman/jumpoff/pro to swallow!

NYCutie, curious. What “nececessary fruits” you talking about? I need to educate some folk (lol).

By Beautiful

February 24, 2009 12:54 PM | Link to this

Why do I almost feel insulted? what? are you serious right now?

By lurker

February 24, 2009 12:54 PM | Link to this

Leggs - Why do you sound surprise lurker

Not surprised over him viewing her as a means for just sex…surprised that he hung in there while she’s honing and calling another. Which read to me like he resorted to feeling like. Oh, I’m aware lines have become blurred on so many things today but for a dude to stick around while a chick hopes for another is rare…from what I’ve seen. The tone of his post didn’t come off as he viewed her like that initially but only after her issues surfaced or would not go away, I should say. Which was my point. If we’re done, then um, no you need to take that up with someone else. I just feel, no matter the issues, if it’s too much for you to work through, and that could be valid for the other person, then we pull the kill switch on all of it. IMO

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 12:55 PM | Link to this

Cumfortable, you have me cracking up over here…you almost feel insulted. That is funny. A lot of women would love to be in your place, meaning not having to swallow. But, I too thought majority of men wants their subject/woman/jumpoff/pro to swallow!

NYCutie, curious. What “nececessary fruits” you talking about? I need to educate some folk (lol). Melo, why you ask that crazy question…she would have posed the question here if she didn’t. First rule of law, never ask a question you know the answer to!

By Atltwen

February 24, 2009 12:55 PM | Link to this

Lurker, honestly, she had been my best female friend for about 3 years prior; so I was used to hearing about this guy.

I wasn’t in it for the “sex”. Hell, she was asking me for the sex; once, after one of our relationship evaluations, she told me “I want more sex with you”. I told her a couples times week was enough for me.

And to be truthful, she *uck’d up a good thing for herself b/c she had a friend w/benefits who knew and understood her situation and didn’t mind her conversing and seeing her ex. I promised her, I was going to be seeing anyone on the side.

Now she getting ‘*ick from a committed, in shape, attractive man who does mind what she is doing on the side w/her ex. Who would want that??

By ATLborn

February 24, 2009 12:57 PM | Link to this

Noon folks! Good topic today Wise.

I think open dating is something that er dude should try at least in his youth. This will help him decide what he wants in a chick when he’s ready for a long term relationship and will give him much needed experience. Can’t tell you how many horror stories I’ve heard of dudes not being able to recognize the w******* they’ve tried or was successful in turning in to a housewife cuz they weren’t experienced with different women.
A lotta folks out here think that they have to be in a relationship with er person they meet and go out with.

From the posts on this topic it seems some of yall ladies think that open relationships simply mean a man wanting a 3 some with 2 women. That’s a form of an open relationship but doesn’t mean a dude is adverse to another dude having the chick. Most dudes ain’t in to 2 (or more) dudes on 1 chick cuz they ain’t in to sword fighting. If a dude alright with the prospect of his even being remotely close to touching another chicks while rotating her orifices then that dude ain’t suspect, he just gay.

With that being said, I still disagree with some of yalls statements that dudes wouldn’t be alright with sharing a chick. Hell a good amount of dudes, if not most, have trained a chick before, or shared her with the homies.

By Beautiful

February 24, 2009 12:58 PM | Link to this

C tha 1 lol. good to read you and co-sign.

By Blow Me

February 24, 2009 1:00 PM | Link to this

ARED Girl you already know….Jumpoff material. 2 words! If a man even approaches with 3 some it’s very clear on where you stand. You are definitely not wifey material in a stand man’s eyes. You are setting yourself up for failure if you end up marrying a woman who is down for those freaky sex games.

Don’t get mad when she’s out there ho-ing. smh!

By AmazonRed

February 24, 2009 1:00 PM | Link to this

Why do you think the reason is?

Cumfortable - Sounds like he has a negative image associated with that act. You can go ahead and make him finish, but he’ll probably look at you differently.

Either that, or he has tainted jizz. lol

By lurker

February 24, 2009 1:05 PM | Link to this

Atltwen Yeen say all that at first**…LOL

So, while she’s confiding about the men in her life you didn’t think to forego getting caught into that? I would think there would be residual stuff I’d have to deal with before walking into that. Heck residual, current stuff. Or did you think things would take a different turn for the two of since you’d established a friendship? So she wanted the sex? Why didn’t you pass? I mean I know you’re a man but seriously, why didn’t you pass knowing all that she was dealing with?

You did the right thing but just wondered why walk into that situation knowing she was sort of all over the place.

By NYCUTIE-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com

February 24, 2009 1:06 PM | Link to this

Leggs I have heard that Bananas & Pineapples make the man juice taste better than normal.. LMAO!!

By Atltwen

February 24, 2009 1:08 PM | Link to this

Why do you sound surprise lurker? Puddy has no face and no emotions. A lot of guys just care about getting to the puddy

Leggs, it wasn’t like that at all. I had known her for almost 13 years; the last 3 a best friend. We both helped each other through the same circumstance with our ex’s and it bonded us together like nothing before even though we were already good friends.

I loved her and still do.

By ATLborn

February 24, 2009 1:11 PM | Link to this

NYCutie - Good article. Those chicks getting an early start. Sad how they were able to wrangle so many other lil girls in to that line of work. Guess just a sign of the times. The saddest part for me is that I’m not surprised by it.
Not one bit.

Nowadays when they have careerday speakers at a lotta urban schools u get a good amount of the lil chicks standing proudly to respond to the “what do you wanna be when you grow up” question with “I’m going to be a stripper”.

By NYCUTIE-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com

February 24, 2009 1:16 PM | Link to this

LOL ATLborn My question is, how in the heck were they able to get an apartment?

By Atltwen

February 24, 2009 1:21 PM | Link to this

Lurker, yeah, I knew the whole story before we added benefits to our “title”.

I knew I could handle it, all of it, and I did.

But when she had a change of heart about our type of relationship and wanted to be the “girlfriend”; I was like whoa, wait a minute. Boy, sheen even like that!

Man, she told me she hated, literally the word, hated, me to face my several times on different occasions. And wouldn’t talk me for year! I would be over twin sisters house - I was real good friends with her too - and she would look and talk straight through me like I wasn’t even there! And when I tried to speak, she would say, “why are you even talking me!”

By ATLborn

February 24, 2009 1:22 PM | Link to this

NYCutie - LOL, yeah that is a trip. Some folks don’t care who they rent to so long as the rent is paid when its due. Lil tricks prolly were greasing some palms at the apartment complex too (and prolly giving the mgr free samples. lol)

By Rell - Since 1972

February 24, 2009 1:31 PM | Link to this

Mostly average and overweight women with their men and children (it made me think of the conversations on this blog) .

I SAY THIS ALL THE TIME…personal health is slipping

By DreamsMaterialize

February 24, 2009 1:33 PM | Link to this

Whew Never ceases to amaze me how I can come back from lunch and find the topic to be drastically different from when I left. lol

By Atltwen

February 24, 2009 1:36 PM | Link to this

Whew Never ceases to amaze me how I can come back from lunch and find the topic to be drastically different from when I left.

Ain’t that the truth!!

By MusingLee

February 24, 2009 1:52 PM | Link to this

Musing now passing the fk out and right leg shaking a lil’bit after reading Cumfortable’s post.

By NYCUTIE-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com

February 24, 2009 1:55 PM | Link to this

Crazy azz foilks in this country!! http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,499186,00.html

By lurker

February 24, 2009 2:05 PM | Link to this

Atltwen-I loved her and still do.

sounds like it

Man, she told me she hated, literally the word, hated, me to face my several times on different occasions. And wouldn’t talk me for year! I would be over twin sisters house - I was real good friends with her too - and she would look and talk straight through me like I wasn’t even there! And when I tried to speak, she would say, “why are you even talking me!”

She does too….yeen know that did you?

But do what’s right and peaceful for you. Sometimes drama carries a high price tag.

By Cumfortable

February 24, 2009 2:12 PM | Link to this

Beautiful please tell me that you’re not a prude. You can handle adult conversation right?

C tha 1you could be right. It’s kinda along the lines of what I was thinking but I guess needed it confirmed from a male perspective.

ARed I doubt his jizz is funky. He’s more healthy than I am. I think its more a mental block.

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 2:17 PM | Link to this

Ok, glad to know that Atltwen.

That’s a crying shame C tha 1 can only fall off his perch when someone’s talking about where the skeet, skeet should fall (roflmao).

By THE MELO

February 24, 2009 2:21 PM | Link to this

Cumfortable If hes prudish or not comfortable with off da wall stuff,ask him to hit in the pudsy

By THE MELO

February 24, 2009 2:26 PM | Link to this

ask him to hit u in the azz,i meant that wl wake him up a bit.

By Cumfortable

February 24, 2009 2:28 PM | Link to this

The Melo no sir, I’m not trying to have babies.

By THE MELO

February 24, 2009 2:34 PM | Link to this

Do church ladies do the throat action…stormy,FEE,CEE,mytwo..all u church goody goody ladies?? Does Jesus allow it for ur man’s and urs happiness??

Now, i dont wanna hear none of u say,ah,lo,behold,i neva said iam a church lady just becoz u see other non-church ladies licking sweets on the other side…stay in ya lane, at least untill ur signed subscription date is pass…

By THE MELO

February 24, 2009 2:37 PM | Link to this

He’s more healthy than I am so u prefer he hits the mouth coz ur pudsy aint healthy enough……what is it,warts,yeast,gono,syphylis,what?

hw about the azz then…..(im trying to wrk with uall..wrk with me now)!!

By For Real

February 24, 2009 2:43 PM | Link to this

One night at Cumfortable house…..

Cumfortable: cough, cough, gag, smack, smack I love giving you throat!

Dude: ugh, ugh… ummmmmm…… mmmmmm….. fugg, ish

Cumfortable: cough, cough, cough, gag, gag, smack, smack, smackie-smack I want you to release in my mouph!

Dude: Got Dayummmmm!!! Ugh, ugh, ugh, mmmmmmmmmm fuggggggggggggg…. Hold me…

Cumfortable: HOLD YOU??!? What da fugg are you doing? I told you to release in my mouph!!

Crashing thru Cumfortable’s window in the nick of time is Musing Man!!!

Musing Man: In his superhero voice I’ll fill your throat!!!!!

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

February 24, 2009 2:51 PM | Link to this

For Real you brought me out of Lurksville with that skit!! ROTLMAO!!!! Oh gosh I almost spit tea all over my computer! Ya’ll are off da dayum chain!!

By Sassy Me

February 24, 2009 2:53 PM | Link to this

Musing man Interesting super hero….what type of costume would you wear?

Is there a way that a man can release even though he may try to fight it? Is it possible?

Cumfortable have you ever at least gotten close to him reaching his peak?

By Cumfortable

February 24, 2009 2:54 PM | Link to this

*so u prefer he hits the mouth coz ur pudsy aint healthy enough……what is it,warts,yeast,gono,syphylis,what?

hw about the azz then…..(im trying to wrk with uall..wrk with me now)!!*

The Melo none of the above. He is more health conscious than I am (i.e fitness, food, etc.) He licks, laps and taps my goodies all the time so, as previously stated, that is not my concern. Thanks for asking though…LOL

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

February 24, 2009 2:54 PM | Link to this

Sorry..I am not swallowing babies. UGH! Ok I think I just vomited! LOL

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 2:57 PM | Link to this

ForReal, OMG, you have lost your mind, but that was FUNNY!

By Cumfortable

February 24, 2009 3:00 PM | Link to this

For Real that was sooo funny!! LOL

Sassy Me he gets to his peak every single time I give him throat its just that he doesn’t release in my mouth. He has done so on my breasts and stomach but will not on my face or in my mouth. Weird.

Staceye Don’t be afraid, think of it as a protein smoothie! LOL

By MusingLee

February 24, 2009 3:01 PM | Link to this

Melo dang man…ROTFLMAOOoooooo

Musing passing the fk out again behind the wheel of his blog hatchback…plowing through six lanes of traffic and crashing through the home of Cumfortable and her dude just as they about to get it on

By Le Siren

February 24, 2009 3:06 PM | Link to this

Staceye

Sorry..I am not swallowing babies. UGH! Ok I think I just vomited! LOL

Hilarious! I know ALOT of women who feel exactly the same way you do! I think it’s something that should only be done in a safe and monogamous relationship. Afterall, you expect your man to enjoy your sweet nectar, right? Gotta return the favor chica;)

By MusingLee

February 24, 2009 3:07 PM | Link to this

Musing is revived by the arriving ambulance…Passing the fk out again after hearing the sexy ambulance driver Staceye talk about swallowing babies…Musing now crossing over to the other side..complete with angel wings, a Kangol hat, and a “New to Heaven” handbook!

By Sassy Me

February 24, 2009 3:07 PM | Link to this

Cumfortable Is there a way to take it from him?……

By Le Siren

February 24, 2009 3:08 PM | Link to this

Staceye

Sorry..I am not swallowing babies. UGH! Ok I think I just vomited! LOL

Hilarious! I know ALOT of women who feel exactly the same way you do! I think it’s something that should only be done in a safe and monogamous relationship. Afterall, you expect your man to enjoy your sweet nectar, right? Gotta return the favor chica;)

By Le Siren

February 24, 2009 3:10 PM | Link to this

Staceye

Sorry..I am not swallowing babies. UGH! Ok I think I just vomited! LOL

Hilarious! I know ALOT of women who feel exactly the same way you do! I think it’s something that should only be done in a safe and monogamous relationship. Afterall, you expect your man to enjoy your sweet nectar, right? Gotta return the favor chica;)

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 3:12 PM | Link to this

Can’t you put a tight grab on the shaft so he can’t yank away from your mouth. If you do, he will be so damn mad at you. May even cause him to tear up! Never mind!!

I just found out my cousin has never done it a day in her life…she’s been married for 16 years now. WOW!

By i'm swiss

February 24, 2009 3:14 PM | Link to this

“Afterall, you expect your man to enjoy your sweet nectar, right? Gotta return the favor chica;)”

Le Siren — I salute you! May I offer you a pineapple and banana shake? :-) LOL (kidding — well, unless you’d actually like one)

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 24, 2009 3:17 PM | Link to this

Staceye come swallow some babies. LMAO

Elijah of course she came back. As much as these chicks talk shyt some love to get that hair pulled and that azz slapped. 50% of the ish these chicks say they know they’re lying when they say it. Now for her hubby he prolly did the ol missionary thing but I like it a little different. LOL

By AmazonRed

February 24, 2009 3:18 PM | Link to this

LOL. Now we’re encouraging her to force it?

If he doesn’t want to finish in her mouth…that’s okay and his right. There are bigger things to worry about than that.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

February 24, 2009 3:30 PM | Link to this

Cumfortable As a person who works out and drinks protein shakes…cumshakes are not one I’d like to consume thanks! EWWWW!

LeSiren I do not shoot out thick stuff like a man does. UGH! The though of swallowing that makes me sick to my stomach. Relationship or not there are 3 things that are a no no with me….anal sex, swallowing and 3somes! If a guy wants me to swallow his babies I will ask to see him do it first..after all it’s his! LOL Most likely he will say no!

By THE MELO

February 24, 2009 3:31 PM | Link to this

she’s been married for 16 years now. WOW I bet u dont respect the husband that much Leggs,he seems lame,right??

Did ur cousin feel differently after she found out from u that this thing is mainstream??

Can’t you put a tight grab a tighter grab makes it even more fun,so she needs to go that route..good call Leggs,u said it like a veteran…what?? are u europe or spain now,based on the geography of ur body and wheteher columbus,marko polo,napoleon etc have all travesed there? I think u more like africa,those leggs dont show no wear and tear at all,unlike some young ones in this camp.Their Ages says africa,but the wear and tearon pudsy,anus and ta tas says afghanistan,with all the bombs that have been left by russia,the mullahas,pakistan,india and usa messed up indeed!!!!….

By Beautiful

February 24, 2009 3:32 PM | Link to this

cum not a prude at all. it’s just that your question shows ignorance. of course he didn’t release in your mouth because he doesn’t see you as a whor3 or a lady who does wwhorish thangs. he respects you. everyone on here knew this BUT you!!!

and it’s obvious he doesn’t want a freak in the sheets like every other man, WHICH brings up another question …

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 3:33 PM | Link to this

You’re right ARed. I take back my post on grabbing the shaft and making him stay tightly in your mouth. I’m slapping my own wrist. Also, yes it’s his right, but she seems to really want to swallow(lol). (I’m not laughing at you cumfortable)!

By Cumfortable

February 24, 2009 3:34 PM | Link to this

Sassy Me I would not go that far. Really, it’s not even that serious I simply trying to understand the psyche of my man. I thought all men wanted to finish that way.

Le Siren Absolutely!!

By THE MELO

February 24, 2009 3:36 PM | Link to this

3 things that are a no no with me….anal sex, swallowing and 3somes

when u get licked good dwn there,u wont even notice if its in the pudsy or anal..ull just enjoy the moment!! Hw u gonna get the energy to say,STOP when u in the middle of calling out all the dead folks in ur fam who been dead a long time?

By mytwocents

February 24, 2009 3:40 PM | Link to this

Wait I coulda sworn I hit Post hours ago. It’s the cracks…

That’s an effin mess, Truth. Well if sumthin goes horribly wrong in Kuwait… and the chick you just meant to get your jollies with convinces you to marry, at least their culture would seamlessly accept the multiplicity of it all. Whether they’ll accept you, my brother is a different issue.

altwen did u say the word intimacy like it’s iterchangeable w/ the word @zz? Hilarious.

Dudes kill me saying it wouldn’t reduce her chances. I bet some other unnamed factors would bring chances to nil. And FYI to those who still missin it: you can be willing to transport him and his boys to ecstacy and you’re still disposable. Make your choices for your own entertainment purposes only.

By NYCUTIE-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com

February 24, 2009 3:41 PM | Link to this

MELO STOP IT LMAO!!! Anal sex is a No No for me too

Cumfort * Your man doesn’t want you to turn his monkey azz OUT*

By mytwocents

February 24, 2009 3:42 PM | Link to this

Wait I coulda sworn I hit Post hours ago. It’s the cracks…

That’s an effin mess, Truth. Well if sumthin goes horribly wrong in Kuwait… and the chick you just meant to get your jollies with convinces you to marry, at least their culture would seamlessly accept the multiplicity of it all. Whether they’ll accept you, my brother is a different issue.

altwen did u say the word intimacy like it’s iterchangeable w/ the word @zz? Hilarious.

Dudes kill me saying it wouldn’t reduce her chances. I bet some other unnamed factors would bring chances to nil. And FYI to those who still missin it: you can be willing to transport him and his boys to ecstacy and you’re still disposable. Make your choices for your own entertainment purposes only.

By abc

February 24, 2009 3:42 PM | Link to this

Yall should change the blog’s title to ‘Cheap Sex’. Hard to believe AJC allows it to remain posted. Family paper, my foot.

By AmazonRed

February 24, 2009 3:42 PM | Link to this

Also, yes it’s his right, but she seems to really want to swallow(lol).

Leggs, LOL! And to that I say “so what?” Your man could really WANT to lick your booty hole, but doesn’t mean he gets to. LOL

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 3:43 PM | Link to this

Melo, I know there was a compliment in there, but that was a difficult read (ROFL). And, I like her husband very much. He’s real cool. I Was surprised when she told me that cuz I remember her sexual appetite back in the day. Goes to show you never really know. Back in the day, no one talked about oral sex as openly as we do now.

Again, Melo, couldn’t you come up with something else other than “dead folks?” UGGH!!! The moment has been deflated.

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 24, 2009 3:44 PM | Link to this

Cum I like to and dont have a problem with it. You may have to hold me up though because I’ve fallen over before while a chick was finishing me off. We laughed later but thats some serious stuff.

By For Real

February 24, 2009 3:45 PM | Link to this

Truth I sent you an email. check it out.

By Cumfortable

February 24, 2009 3:47 PM | Link to this

Beautiful so tell me how you really feel? LOL. Ignorant, really? You’re entitled to your opinion but I don’t think my question was ignorant. So do you finish in your man’s mouth? Or I guess, I should ask if you reach orgasm at all? Wait…let me back up even further, is there anyone even remotely interested in what’s festering between your thighs?

You are definitely a prude if you think orgasm in the mouth is whorish.

By Atltwen

February 24, 2009 3:51 PM | Link to this

**Mytwocents, I used the word “intimacy” on purpose, I never had any sex with the women I listed. No sex, No “jobs”, just cuddling and kissing.

I was way too young for that grown folk stuff. At 19, I was still two years away from losing my virginity.

By AmazonRed

February 24, 2009 3:51 PM | Link to this

Wait…let me back up even further, is there anyone even remotely interested in what’s festering between your thighs?

HOLLERS WITH LAUGHTER Ah ha ha ha ha!!!

By THE MELO

February 24, 2009 3:52 PM | Link to this

Ared,NYCutie i lick the booty hole.Its good prep! So when Staceye says she not allowing me to hit in der,im jus saying,she aint tched right,yet The moment im done wit u,ur behind wl be so wet like cereal,it wont make a diff what hole im in.

By Jamoca

February 24, 2009 3:53 PM | Link to this

…busy day, but had to cumm on in…heheheh…(and if there are any youngins reading this, take ya’lls butts on somewhere and tune yourselves into something on discovery channel)

LMAO @ For Real

Truth you just had to put it out there didn’t chu! You’s a tellin’ muhfugga, ain’t cha?! LMAO

Le Siren yeah girl, I hear you on that 3:10…a little do me and I’ll do you back with that special someone; and it’s not necessarily “the act” that should be under the microscope, but simply her desire to please him in the many ways he’s given/shown her in return.

Tatas it seems like Miss CumIn’s little situation puts a nice spin on your analogy of Becky vs Ebony, don’t you think? But somehow once again brings everything full circle of what puts you in the category of being labeled loosed or just “that devoted”.

By AmazonRed

February 24, 2009 3:54 PM | Link to this

I’m sorry, I’m still laughing at that ish. I’ma have to close my office door.

By NYCUTIE-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com

February 24, 2009 3:54 PM | Link to this

Cumfort I don’t think that *Beau is being prude at all when she referenced the act being hoish to your man cause a lot of dudes I know have said that..**

By THE MELO

February 24, 2009 3:54 PM | Link to this

mail call

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 3:55 PM | Link to this

abc, it is a family paper. This is cyberspace. Curious, why do you come to this forum if you’re uncomfortable with the shennigans going on in here. This is an adult forum discussing dating issues…that involves, sex, kissing, fighting, arguing, cheap dates, who’s on top, who’s on bottom, 3somes, beads, vibrators, etc…Perhaps I’m wrong and I need to leave!!!

By Kym

February 24, 2009 3:55 PM | Link to this

abc Let us remember the moderators only raise the flag about banning/censorship when people are calling them out. Everything else is a go.

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 3:56 PM | Link to this

Bad example, ARed, cuz if my man wanted to do that, I would definitely let him (LOL). Yep!

By AmazonRed

February 24, 2009 3:56 PM | Link to this

gasping for air Okay, okay, I’m over it now. Whoo wee, that was a good one.

Anyway, Cumfortable, in Angie’s defense, she’s not saying that finishing in the mouth is wh0rish, but she’s saying that if your man is really uncomfortable about allowing it, that he probably sees it that way… like something only “bad” girls do. And he doesn’t think of you in that context.

By AmazonRed

February 24, 2009 3:58 PM | Link to this

You got my point though, Leggs.

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 3:59 PM | Link to this

Dayyuumm Cumfortable! Here you go, next time put these steel-toed boots on!

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 24, 2009 4:00 PM | Link to this

For Real I like that alot but my challenge is these chicks that aren’t asking a dude if he wants to have a child/family but decides for herself whats going to happen. The vast majority of those absent fathers didnt have the choice, and the children pay the cost.

They can say what they like but a dude isnt staying with a chick that trapped him. Still I hope this problem gets corrected. Way to many fatherless children.

Beautiful you’d swallow whatever I tell you to swallow. what the hell does that have to do with being a w*******? Secret: WHATEVER you and your mate agree to is ok. It’s your world and you can do whatever you like.

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 4:01 PM | Link to this

Of course, I got your point. Your example made me laugh!

By THE MELO

February 24, 2009 4:05 PM | Link to this

Cumfortable cme again tmrw.

Good nite yall!

By For Real

February 24, 2009 4:06 PM | Link to this

Cumfortable hit me up at for_real730@yaho.com. I want tilt over like Truth but my toenail will scratch a hole in carpet.

By For Real

February 24, 2009 4:08 PM | Link to this

Truth Okay, see what you are saying, I got one for you check your email.

By Jamoca

February 24, 2009 4:08 PM | Link to this

Damn! posted too late!

Tatas And see how I’m not the first to recognize the incosistency of protocol? How convenient but with some of us, it’s funny how we never miss a beat.

By Cumfortable

February 24, 2009 4:15 PM | Link to this

Truth and For Real y’all have me cracking up in this piece. There is so much power and pleasure in that deed! I luvs it! Really, its the key to world peace…LOL

abc I understand if you’re offended by my bluntness but hey, I thought this was a dating blog? This can’t be the first time something like this has come up. Especially not with The Melo in here. LMAO

To all that may be offended GET OVER IT and YOURSELVES!! LOL

By NYCUTIE-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com

February 24, 2009 4:18 PM | Link to this

Cumfort & the rest of you open minded ladies, come over to Atlantasfinest.yuku.com.. You would LOVE it!

By Poppa Grande

February 24, 2009 4:20 PM | Link to this

Wow!. Too much to read, but for a quick scan, it seems that you guys took this Mardi Gras thing to the blog and said lets get it all out today…lol

Darn, even Leggs & Amazon Red talking about salad tossing…lol.

Cumfortable….from the brief description of your issue, it sounds like the Madonna-W******* complex may play some role in your husband’s mind. Therefore, it could very well be what Amazon Red stated. He may have a preconceived notion what “good” girls don’t do, even if it is subconsciously. It might just be that one thing.

Staceye Those smoothies have only 6 calories…you’ll get to your desired size without the medical bills associated with booty reduction.

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 4:21 PM | Link to this

Truth, I just got back from under my desk visualizing you falling over. That was funny…thanks for the laugh!

By Cumfortable

February 24, 2009 4:22 PM | Link to this

NYCUTIE your site is blocked at my job. I’ll check you out when I get home.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

February 24, 2009 4:26 PM | Link to this

Truth Kiss my azz! LOL

Melo when u get licked good dwn there,u wont even notice if its in the pudsy or anal..ull just enjoy the moment! That’s a lie…I do nto have a lose booty hole so I know if a dude is going remotely close even in the moments of the best sex…I will jump back an let him know he is trying to go to the No no zone. I htink anal sex is like being raped…NASTY! I do not even allow licking that area. I had it happen once and it felt so nasty that my reflex made me me knee him in the mouth. Talk about a mood killer! Bu I told him to stay away from the dookie chute!

* Leggs* I am cracking up at your 3:55…but it is so right. If kids are on here reading it then they shoudn’t be. If you do not like what is being talked about..then there are others blogs…by all means…be out! LOL

!!

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 24, 2009 4:27 PM | Link to this

Cum I applaud you for opening your mouth on this topic (LMAO). I know whatever ol boys name is he’ll appreciate your interest in this very sensitive subject.

And if not me and For Real will be by at 8. Wink

By Cumfortable

February 24, 2009 4:31 PM | Link to this

Poppa Grande I like your name. Yeah, I think you menfolk could be on to something. I have accepted it, just wanted to know what the male perspective was.

By Poppa Grande

February 24, 2009 4:31 PM | Link to this

Staceye

Even though I forgot the lol, I was just kidding of course.

AR

My wife said that a recent rush with her chapter had about 400 people to attend. That is alot of interested folks.

By mytwocents

February 24, 2009 4:32 PM | Link to this

I bet Comfy has a dude like I described last week. And he wouldn’t wanna penalize her for her efforts, so it’s a tug of jaw. War. I meant war.

By Poppa Grande

February 24, 2009 4:32 PM | Link to this

Staceye

Even though I forgot the lol, I was just kidding of course. Not about the six calories though.

AR

My wife said that a recent rush with her chapter had about 400 people to attend. That is alot of interested folks.

By mytwocents

February 24, 2009 4:33 PM | Link to this

I bet Comfy has a dude like I described last week. And he wouldn’t wanna penalize her for her efforts, so it’s a tug of jaw. War. I meant war.

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 24, 2009 4:37 PM | Link to this

Leggs my left leg was shaking so bad and my knees wouldn’t lock out. I lost power and toppled over. The chick was rolling but I needed her to be more understanding. I was in a weak state. LOL

Staceye you need to be in a caring loving relationship for about 3 years to get you right. Sex is a wonderful thing to enjoy for the experience and the pleasure. As napolean Hill said “for medicinal purposes it has no equal”. There’s nothing wrong with sex, unless your mate has bigger balls than you. LMAO

And you chicks want to be in a relationship but the one thing your supposed to do with your mate and nobody else and you want to put stipulations on it. Wow, no wonder you’re single. SMH and blank stare (Thats for you Ared)LOL

By Poppa Grande

February 24, 2009 4:38 PM | Link to this

Comfy

Thanks for the compliment.

It is just a guess from what is posted. It is actually more common than people are willing to admit. Alot of guys have that issue when children come into play. (You didn’t mention children so I am not assuming any). Some guys just don’t want the same mouth that kisses their children to do some of the other things….Not most men, but it is out there.

By abc

February 24, 2009 4:40 PM | Link to this

The apparent willingness of the crowd to slip into simple-minded sexual conversation doesn’t necessarily condone it. ‘Dating’ doesn’t necessarily include descriptions and how-to’s about sex. Your lack of propriety is showing; but you’re right, it’s not that unusual on this blog.

But, it does detract from it, rather than constructively contribute, IMHO.

By AmazonRed

February 24, 2009 4:42 PM | Link to this

PG, just 400??? LOL. Yeah, the local chapter I’m in had 900 show up. 166 crossed over. I’m sure some of the rejects just hit up the next rush in town. Madness. LOL

By NYCUTIE-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com

February 24, 2009 4:42 PM | Link to this

Giving brain is ONLY for well behaved men.. No brain if the dude is acting a fool.. That is my philosophy

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

February 24, 2009 4:43 PM | Link to this

Poppa I guess I would get to my desired size because I’d be vomitting all the way. Sorry..been there done that (bulimia) it’s not fun!

Truth being in a “loving” relationship has nothing to do with it. I will not do ANYTHING I do not want to do or that I find is disguisting. If a guy really loves me he woudl understand and respect that. If not…again…goodbye!

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 4:44 PM | Link to this

Ok, some vital information was just given. When Truth’s left leg gets to shaking, put some pillows under him (preferrably king size pillows cuz they’re longer).

By i'm swiss

February 24, 2009 4:45 PM | Link to this

“And you chicks want to be in a relationship but the one thing your supposed to do with your mate and nobody else and you want to put stipulations on it. Wow, no wonder you’re single.”

Truth — You are one aptly named mofo. And ladies, you will be amazed what most dudes will do for you when you happily meet his needs under the covers. Swiss miss can get any d@mn thing she wants from me, I’ll tell you that. :-) LOL

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 24, 2009 4:45 PM | Link to this

ABC you’re right. Sex should be missionary only and no more than three strokes and then never mentioned until next month when we do it again. SMH

Btw, how did your kids come about, immaculate conception?

For Real didnt get the 2nd one. Wake up.

By Poppa Grande

February 24, 2009 4:47 PM | Link to this

AR

*PG, just 400??? *

I think that the fact that it was on a Friday at 5PM probably limited the number to just 400.

By NYCUTIE-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com

February 24, 2009 4:48 PM | Link to this

ABC needs love and a good head job.. That’s all!

By Cumfortable

February 24, 2009 4:50 PM | Link to this

Truth My pleasure Boo! LOL

mytwocents I’m new to this blog, please enlighten me on what you are referring to if you would be so kind (batting eyes…wink)

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 4:52 PM | Link to this

It must be “condoned” by ajc since they’re haven’t shut this wayward site down. Right now you sound like “Father John.” As is the case with anything in life, if you don’t condone a particular act or conversation, don’t contribute to it. There are things discussed on here that I’m not privy to or want to so I stay quiet. I don’t walk the straight and narrow. Never have, never will.

By abc

February 24, 2009 4:54 PM | Link to this

Certainly, I place more value on such things than to be so simple as to idly discuss them on a public blog that’s supposed to be a family newspaper.

It’s as if you’re children, giggling about talking about naughty things, while at the same time couching it in terms of ‘adult talk’. It’s far from adult behavior.

Just my opinion.

By Poppa Grande

February 24, 2009 4:55 PM | Link to this

Staceye

Sorry to hear about bulimia. I dated a female that was bulimic. I didn’t know right away, but I figured it out. I talked her into going the Charter…dang, I am old. She was in there at the same time as Lisa Lopes. Of course, Lisa was in there for something else. It is good that it is in the past.

I still see booty reduction as unnecessary surgery though. Just be happy with you. Everyone has something that they consider an imperfection.

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 24, 2009 4:55 PM | Link to this

Meeting of world leaders that haven’t had sex in the previous six months.

US Prez: Fugg You

Russian Prez::We’ll nuke your azzes.

China leader: Kiss my slanted azz

Meeting of world leaders after a good night of lovin

US Prez: Wow, nice suit and haircut

Russian Prez: You too, really good to see you guys

China leader: Kiss my slanted azz

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 4:57 PM | Link to this

Goodnight!

Pick up the phone this evening and call someone who has made a positive impact on who you are today and say “Thank You!”

Peace~

By Leggs

February 24, 2009 5:00 PM | Link to this

Okay!!!

By Cumfortable

February 24, 2009 5:05 PM | Link to this

abc lighten up please! There are greater issues to be fart face about. Those who can do, those who can’t Bytch…I’m just saying…LOL

Truth exactly…LOL

By Jamoca

February 24, 2009 5:18 PM | Link to this

mytwocents I’m new to this blog, please enlighten me on what you are referring to if you would be so kind (batting eyes…wink)

Cumfy Chick Okay, as a courtesy to a new blogger, I’ll go ahead and post what she was referencing regarding last week’s discussion.

Oh and btw, just a little fyi before you start cuttin’ those eyes : Ms. Mytwo izza gurl. hehehe…

Here goes….

By mytwotatas February 20, 2009 10:06 AM | Link to this

Kiddies cuttin’ school don’t read this do they? Good. Regarding the crass descriptions of the sexual acts and those who paint them that way… That’s a huge part of the issue with Black women who would partake in certain acts or making it be known that they do. So many of you speak of anything beyond basics in a derrogatory and manner and about those who have done it in the same vein. Stop. It’s not gonna help you relive those sensations in the future b/c . This is a convo that amazes me how much Black men are in denial about. And I don’t think most things are cultural — but please note how Swiss’ cousins nem are congratulatory when making a reference. They speak of missing Suzie. She was a good girl who gave the best snow jobs b/c she left no evidence. She was a real trooper cuz she took it this way, that way and the other. But Stiff Donkey and his boys nem? Nope. It’s “Damn Ebony” (sorry Ebonys). She was a nasty bleep who drank his baby batter. Oh and she real nasty cuz that one time I plugged her up and she had liked-ed it. Trick. Now gentlemen, swallow that.

Hope this helps.

You all be good.