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Recession - Good for dating?
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
In a recent New York Times article, it was reported that there was a recent increase in online dating and even matchmaking services. Apparently, when things are economically unstable single people focus on romance!
So how can recession be good for dating? According to Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman, a psychologist in New York, ‘If the recession results in a desire for a relationship that is not based on one’s personal finances, then it may actually be a boon for love. There’s so many aspects of a person. “It’s kind of sick that we only focus on jobs or money.
How do you think the recession will impact your own dating experiences? Have you already noticed changes? I have seen a lot more couples in my favorite coffee houses and wine bars. While the restaurants seem more filled with larger groups of friends and families. There are even couples going to the gym for dates!
I suppose the opportunists and golddiggers will have to take a recession hiatus. There is even a group of women who started Dating a Banker Anonymous, a website aimed at the poor women who are forced to watch their men lose jobs and stability. They help each other deal with the loss of “luxury” and the perks they are forced to sacrifice. I didn’t take it seriously when I first read about it on Gawker, but apparently the buzz is real.
Well, talk about when the going gets tough, the tough get going! What are you doing to weather the times? Are you looking into dating online more?
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Recruit & Retain
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
On Monday’s post, I facetiously said that if relationships came with a manual, we probably wouldn’t read it anyway. Perhaps that is true - but let’s say wanted to draft a manual about building and maintaining relationships. I think it could be divided into the basics : recruiting the right person and retaining them. Easier said then done, I know!
Which do you think is harder: finding a mate (recruitment) or keeping a mate (retention)? If we aren’t getting the results we want, it seems as if we have a hard time switching things up. What is the best way to improve the way you recruit potential dates?
If you are in a new relationship, what made you take it to the next level? Did you have a talk or did it evolve more organically through consistency?
Why do we leave a relationship that we worked so hard to have? Do you think it is challenging for women to love men the way they want to be loved? Are we too focused on our mates being flawless?
Do you think that relationships today focus too much on what the other person brings to the table instead of what we each bring to a relationship?
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Love & Magic
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
I think that many of us have found ourselves in the “friends with benefits” arrangement at some point. Some times you stumble into it, some times it’s premeditated. There can be pros and cons to it, undoubtedly. I know a lot of people who usually end up regretting it, for whatever reason but the casual thing works for others too.
When you are in a relationship, it can feel magical to connect with your mate both physically and emotionally. I don’t think the connection is the same in a casual arrangement. Or is it? Do you think this is where people get hung up in casual flings?
I know that men and women can view intimacy differently, but do you think that sex is better in a relationship? Does it depend on where you are emotionally? In your experience, did things get hotter the closer you became in your relationships?
If the chemistry is lacking in the bedroom, is that really a sign of incompatibility? How do you know if you just have to work a little harder at it - (dirty pun intended) or if you are simply not a good fit? Does “intimacy” have to be magical to be love?
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Double Duty
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
If you think double booking dates is tacky, what do you feel about a full fledged relationship with two people? I hesitate to call it a new dating trend, but sharing a mate with another person happens more often then we think.
The idea is that when you get tired of juggling multiple dates, you narrow it down to two great people. I know, some of us are lucky to meet one that doesn’t drive us nuts after ten minutes! So what is so appealing about sharing a man or woman with another?
If you are fully informed and not being lied to, are their actual benefits from having an “open” dating relationship? Have you ever dated two people for a long period of time with full disclosure?
I am not advocating man/woman-sharing. I just wonder if single people will simply stop trying to force exclusive relationships that don’t work and turn to pulling double duty. If the needs are met for all parties involved, could it actually work for you?
Would an open dating relationship be the first step towards an open marriage?
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Standard Operating Procedures
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Relationships don’t come with manuals. There are no clear instructions on how to build a relationship. If there were, many of us wouldn’t read them anyway! It amazes me when I hear people rule out a potential over some minor thing that, in their mind, is a deal breaker. Why all the rules? Have they ever really worked for you? If we just went with the flow, what is the worst that could happen?
I am a firm believer in having standards when it comes to dating. I just think that we get too hung up on “standard operating procedures” when we first meet someone. Do you think that your dating standards are realistic? Could it be that some of your standards are ruining your chances with new people?
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