By suzangrace

February 28, 2009 3:09 PM | Link to this

returning to a battering, abusive boyfried is not acceptable. she is sending the wrong message to other battered women. she needs to get away from him and think about this and realize what kind of danger she is putting herself in. this is a bad situation that will oonly get worse!

By SharonH

February 28, 2009 3:09 PM | Link to this

Rihanna is merely typical of many victims of abuse; they tend to give the abuser many, many chances. They blame themselves and wonder if they aren’t overreacting. I also wonder how much pressure she has received from both friend and foe to get over it because she is the cause of his career woes. It must be awful. So let’s not put pressure on her to be an example for teen girls because really who is being an example for her? Maybe Tina Turner can give her a call?

By Keisha

February 28, 2009 3:13 PM | Link to this

I don’t blame her…he deserve a secondd chances. CB I know he get mad sometime but it ok…he has made up for it.

By A fan of Chris and Rihanna

February 28, 2009 3:14 PM | Link to this

First of all, Rihanna is not a teenager. She is 21 years old. Secondly, hopefully, you realize that what you think is not important in their relationship. Thirdly, what they sell the public is an image and their image is not necessarily reality. They are in love. They both need counseling. They may not even be together a year from now. Hopefully, your teenage daughters AND sons will never hit a woman or a man and never allow someone a woman or a man hit them either. Leave them alone and mind your own business.

By ELLE

February 28, 2009 3:19 PM | Link to this

I think they should stay away from each other for awhile and both seek counseling…unlike alot of people i refuse to blame Chris Brown for all that has happened WE DON’T KNOW THE TRUE ENTIRE STORY none the less i think they should stay away from one another to give each other time so see if the relationship is something really worth all that is at stake their careers and so forth I will continue to listen and enjoy music from them both they are human and humans make mistakes its just must of us dont have to play out our BS infront of the world SO STOP JUDGING THEM.

By Don

February 28, 2009 3:24 PM | Link to this

Keisha is a great example of stupid..he get mad sometime he deserve a second chance..did you even go to school?.probably graduated with honors at these great institutions of schools that get so many millions in tax payer dollars every year ,no wonder we have a society that has no clue to right and wrong,otherwise we’d never have a President that wants socilism and one that was beat down like a dog that kept us safe for the last 8 yrs..people just dont have a clue anymore and she says give a woman beater another chance to beat her?????? wake the hell up you dumb ended folks you.Stalin was right when he said he’d take America and never fire a shot.You figure it out

By AtlDiva

February 28, 2009 3:24 PM | Link to this

Most importantly examples need to be set at home. It is important for us to learn to forgive. If Chris is truly sorry for his actions and seeks help, I think Rihanna should give him a second chance. I think they have both learned a valuable lesson from this.

By Stephanie

February 28, 2009 3:28 PM | Link to this

We need to stay out of their business. I do not agree with what has happened to Rhianna, but again we only know the media’s side of the story and until we are made aware of all the facts of the situation, it is not out place to judge.

By Eric

February 28, 2009 3:28 PM | Link to this

PIMPS UP HO’S DOWN

By AJC reader

February 28, 2009 3:30 PM | Link to this

I think this is a private matter and should not be judged since we know not what occurred. We can however talk to our children about this kind of thing.

By no way

February 28, 2009 3:30 PM | Link to this

that is a no go for me…on hit and I split…but I have never been in an abusive relationship…but it is not acceptable…the trust has been violated.

By Nay

February 28, 2009 3:34 PM | Link to this

Nope. Young girls should look at the women in their family for guidance and leadership not Rihanna.

By kmin2meuc

February 28, 2009 3:35 PM | Link to this

Rihanna and Chris Brown are caught up in the cycle of domestic violence: the angers builds, the abuser blows up, she calls the police, he says he’s sorry and they start the cycle all over again. Of course Rihanna is a bad example for any woman involved in an abusive relationship. Celebrities are not exempt from social issues, and typically the violence escalates. Stay tuned fans of both -it will only get worse.

By SharonH

February 28, 2009 3:50 PM | Link to this

Theresa, do you see what I mean? Look at the responses from Keisha, Elle and AtlDiva who think that Rihanna probably bears some of the blame for being attacked and that Chris should be given a second chance to do it again. Now imagine this type of stupidity and pressure bearing down on poor Rihanna 100-fold and you have an idea of the reason she is probably giving him another chance to assault her.

By Homeboy

February 28, 2009 4:03 PM | Link to this

Beech stepped out of line and got slapped back into it. Tha’ts how it goes down sisters.

By Michelle

February 28, 2009 4:06 PM | Link to this

No I dont think so. The only bad example that is going on is George Bush that is way our economy is so bad. We are worrying about our jobs more than Chris and Rihanna.

By kdc

February 28, 2009 4:08 PM | Link to this

When someone tries to KILL YOU—there should be no 2nd chances….yes, there are two sides to every relationship, but obviously these two are a toxic mix!

By what

February 28, 2009 4:16 PM | Link to this

rhianna is absolutely wrong for getting back together with chris brown.

it is unfortunate that they are public figures, and in a heated moment, their private lives became very public.

however, rhianna HAD - because she no longer has - the opportunity to demonstrate that LOVE has NOTHING to do with making

By Master of Reality

February 28, 2009 4:16 PM | Link to this

Michelle, you’re stupidity outshines all on the board here today. You’re just the stupid, ignorant type that would let a man beat the hell out of you, and then go back.

By what's love got to do with it

February 28, 2009 4:19 PM | Link to this

rhianna is absolutely wrong for getting back together with chris brown.

it is unfortunate that they are public figures, and in a heated moment, their private lives became very public.

however, rhianna HAD - because she no longer has - the opportunity to demonstrate that LOVE or any other emotion/feeling is not a reason to stay in a relationship. she HAD the opportunity to show that abuse in an intimiate relationship detroys more than it could ever rekindle. to quote shirly manson: “stupid girl! al you had you wasted it!”

think about all those idiot women on maury povich and jerry springer that are angry at their cheating and/or abusive men. and when maury/jerry asks “why are you stil with him” those women say “i love him!”

rhianna looks equally as stupid. she is unable to make a decision to protect her own well being. who will be her conservator? she needs one.

By Master of Reality

February 28, 2009 4:21 PM | Link to this

AtlDiva, are you retarded or just stupid?

By Black Eye

February 28, 2009 4:22 PM | Link to this

Rihanna must not have gotten a chance to see how pitifully horrible she looked on those pics published on TMZ after this late-night, battery fiasco. I think they serve as a consummate reminder of what not to go back to after an event like this…any questions?

By Black Eye

February 28, 2009 4:23 PM | Link to this

Rihanna must not have gotten a chance to see how pitifully horrible she looked on those pics published on TMZ after this late-night, battery fiasco. I think they serve as a consummate reminder of what not to go back to after an event like this…any questions?

By nurse&mother

February 28, 2009 4:31 PM | Link to this

Have some respect for yourself, Rhianna!

If you respect yourself and are true to yourself, this would only happen once (if at all)! I’ve never been in an abusive relationship and I’m willing to bet it is because I can spot a loser a mile away.

I certainly realize that not every woman is so strong, but I have a hard time understanding not taking up for yourself.

By Debby22

February 28, 2009 4:35 PM | Link to this

Women, especially today let men do what they want to them. Public figure or regular folks. Men will only do what you allow them to do. If you allow them to beat you, and you come back to them, you must want more of the abuse- emotionally or physically. If you allow your husband to sleep out some nights, and you let him back in you must like it and/or so desperate just to have a piece of a man. I’m pretty sure if my man beat me or slept around and tried to get back in my bed, he would either wake up in heaven or hell.

By Dave

February 28, 2009 4:40 PM | Link to this

Sad state of affairs all the way around. Chris Brown never even said he was sorry for what he did, only that he was sorry about “what happened.” Going back to him is the classic behavior of an abuse victim. The only bright side is that celebrity relationships don’t tend to last much longer than disposable razors. The reality is, statistics say that a guy who hits a woman once will do it again. A woman who goes back to her abuser will either keep going back to him, or move on to other abusers. Let’s hope this can at least be a lesson for kids that they shouldn’t admire or aspire be like either one of these troubled people.

By Joe

February 28, 2009 4:47 PM | Link to this

Typical behavior in African American Women. Their culture has embraced the idea that it’s okay to keep your “b***” in line. He’s probably got her convinced that it’s her fault too. What an idiot.

By Joe

February 28, 2009 4:48 PM | Link to this

Typical behavior in African American Women. Their culture has embraced the idea that it’s okay to keep your “b***” in line. He’s probably got her convinced that it’s her fault too. What an idiot.

By Cactus

February 28, 2009 5:10 PM | Link to this

You can’t fix stupid….

By Abused B4

February 28, 2009 5:23 PM | Link to this

I have been abused before when 19 (now 38). Lessons learned from an abuser * the abuse starts small ~ aggressive conversations * escalates to physical abuse * Once it starts it’s easier the next time for the abuser * A person that’s being abused does not get out until they are ready or kill or be killed. Other peoples plea for their safety doesn’t matter when they are in love or think they are in love. By the grace of God I got safely however, I am scarred relationship wise from all the trumoil I went through at 19.

I can’t and will not pass judgement on Chris nor Rhianna. However, I will pray for them that they find peace and forgiveness within each other and themselves.

By Abused B4

February 28, 2009 5:24 PM | Link to this

I have been abused before when 19 (now 38). Lessons learned from an abuser * the abuse starts small ~ aggressive conversations * escalates to physical abuse * Once it starts it’s easier the next time for the abuser * A person that’s being abused does not get out until they are ready or kill or be killed. Other peoples plea for their safety doesn’t matter when they are in love or think they are in love. By the grace of God I got safely however, I am scarred relationship wise from all the trumoil I went through at 19.

I can’t and will not pass judgement on Chris nor Rhianna. However, I will pray for them that they find peace and forgiveness within each other and themselves.

By SCOTT

February 28, 2009 5:37 PM | Link to this

I’m just saying that no real man would ever hit a woman , yes i believe both have made big career mistake Rhianna for not standing up against abuse women in this country something she could have champion and her fans would have love her for it . But Chris Brown is done his music mostly cater to young women at his concert i don’t see him making a come back . Usher is back

By Tameka

February 28, 2009 5:38 PM | Link to this

Joe, let me set the record straight for you, sweetheart. The role of the abused partner IS NOT typical of African-American women. Such victims ARE USUALLY CAUCASIAN. As a former police officer here in the Atlanta area, I can tell you that the majority of domestic violence situations involve white women being abused. As a general rule, black women typically have a low tolerance for domestic violence and will normally retaliate in these situations and black men are more than aware of this fact.

By duluth

February 28, 2009 5:40 PM | Link to this

this totally disgust me, how could she lower herself to this.

I wish people would get as upset about a man beating a woman as they did michael vick hurting dogs.

but then in this world its been made very apparent that abuse of woman and children rates lower than dogs.

so sickening of her. and what does this tell our children, oh do not worry son you can hit your girl and she should still love you, oh do not worry dear your boyfriend hit you but you should still love him.

this makes me so so so angry.

By KDMack

February 28, 2009 6:00 PM | Link to this

Tameka “THANKS”! First, Do any of you know Chris Brown or Rhianna so back off and let them seek counseling and stay away from the media. I don’t think anyone should be placing hands on anyone. I attended a large college and for the most part it was the little white sorority girls getting their butt kicked by frat guys. Again, most black women want stand for that. Why do you think they are all single mothers. I have to admit the Atlanta motto sucks “Too busy to hate” what a lie. I never seen a group of people that turn every blog imaginable into race baiting. Stop throwing every black person under the bus and then get angry when we retaliate.

By KDMack

February 28, 2009 6:01 PM | Link to this

Tameka “THANKS”! First, Do any of you know Chris Brown or Rhianna so back off and let them seek counseling and stay away from the media. I don’t think anyone should be placing hands on anyone. I attended a large college and for the most part it was the little white sorority girls getting their butt kicked by frat guys. Again, most black women want stand for that. Why do you think they are all single mothers. I have to admit the Atlanta motto sucks “Too busy to hate” what a lie. I never seen a group of people that turn every blog imaginable into race baiting. Stop throwing every black person under the bus and then get angry when we retaliate.

By Theresa

February 28, 2009 6:03 PM | Link to this

Hey you guys need to watch the language. I’ve had to delete several comments, and I will shut it down if it continues. Using racial slurs is not acceptable!

By DivaGlam

February 28, 2009 6:09 PM | Link to this

There are so many ‘regular’ people that this happens to right in our community. Let’s focus on them and not people we can’t help!

By Dee

February 28, 2009 6:13 PM | Link to this

Like most people, rather they want to admit it or not, I am the general public do not have enough information to comment on her/their decision.

By Luci

February 28, 2009 6:13 PM | Link to this

Of course she is setting a bad example. When he does it again (and I belive he will), she has only her own stupidy to blame!!!!

By Rob

February 28, 2009 6:19 PM | Link to this

Rhiannas’ decision to resume her relationship with Chris is not a good idea. Because of the proven volatility displayed, the more the odds are stacked against a successful future together. But I want everyone to ‘pump the brakes… Chris is just a kid. Rhianna is just a kid. A lot of you jerks are acting as if Chris is some middle aged abusive person and that he has some big history of abuse towards women… PLEASE!!!! In todays’ world of “media-knows-no-boundaries”, we all know that if Chris ever did this before to any previous girlfriends, it would’ve already been in the news. I’m sure Rhianna pushed some buttons that he was unable to turn off. I’m sure he wished that he could’ve. I’m sure this is his first time he’s probably every did anything like this. So for that, I cannot call him abusive because he has no history of it. I’m glad that abuse towards women is no part of my past… but to all of you women who have had the misfortune of being abused by a man you loved, I’m sorry for that…. but get the EFF over it! In the end, I’m sure that Chris will become a man for this.

By Lane Lee

February 28, 2009 6:29 PM | Link to this

The ignorant comments from African-Americans are pathetic and disturbing. I’m really speechless with the amount of stupidity. You all need to get an education and learn how to speak. Beating a woman is not acceptable EVER! I am willing to bet this was not the first time he beat her either. She is setting a horrible example. I hope people boycott both of their music.

By Showboy

February 28, 2009 6:33 PM | Link to this

How do yall no this is the first inciden this may only be the first time it was made public sad to say but aloy of women equate this behavaior with love and would’ny have it any other way they may have been listening to break up to make up when this happen we all no the love IS better or Should I say SEX.

By Tonya

February 28, 2009 6:41 PM | Link to this

We should not judge Rhianna or Chris. This is their personal business. Once they have asked forgiveness from GOD, we (the public) should butt out. I don’t condone domestic violence in anyway, but we don’t know the whole story. As for setting an example for young girls and teenagers, that starts at home. If they are taught high self-esteem at home, then we (as parents) don’t have to worry about some person out in the sreets trying to make our daughters feel validated.

By The Real Girl

February 28, 2009 6:45 PM | Link to this

Why is THIS story even on the NEWS. The REAL NEWS is our Savior Obama and our 1st Girl Michelle. What do they think of this - thats what I want to know, then I will tell you what I think. Go Obama! They are wonderful, even they dog is cute! Our country is saved.

By Allexis

February 28, 2009 6:47 PM | Link to this

honestly im a little confused by Rhianna taking him back. so now if im in a abusive relationship do i take him back if i really love him or do i let it go. i think Rhianna is in denial of true love because love is blind and you cant settle for what you think is love.

By Angela

February 28, 2009 6:51 PM | Link to this

What I think about Rihanna and Chris Brown? Nothing! There are serious problems in any relationship when abuse becomes a part of it to this degree. It is never LOVE; and it never will be. Read the Bible’s definition of Love. Now, on to more important topics…Have you spent quality time with your child today? How about playing a good old fashioned board game or something? The youth of today; need more quality time with their parents; then they won’t be so wrapped up into what is going on in Hollywood’s “fake” and “unrealistic” world.

By purpleone

February 28, 2009 7:12 PM | Link to this

Wow, this is so sad, the way some women think. It would never be an option once a man put his hands on me, to consider getting back with him…My standards are way too high for that non-sense. I don’t care what the reason is, no one should be putting their hands on anyone, male or female. Those are self-esteem issues and they both need to get counseling to address why it was done and why it would be acceptable.

By Babs Dooley

February 28, 2009 7:21 PM | Link to this

sew whut if he done been gettin up in her face adn evrything. He dun toll her he be sorry adn by her dimunds adn stuff. If he was white nun of yall be sayin nothin, no what im sayin?

By notsurpised

February 28, 2009 7:23 PM | Link to this

Why are people surprised that she went back. Most women who have been abused go back. I also question why people feel like this is setting a bad example for our teen girls?? our children should not be looking up to stars there role models should be there parents. My daughter knows that is a man hits her that she should leave , and never look back. The problem is that even though I have taught her that a man hitting you is not love, how would I feel if she went back to an abuser. I would be mad as hell, and want to have my on justice. The simple issue is that we are human, an Rihanna might leave him in the end, however just not yet. Rihanna has to handle the situation herself. I do however find it funny that so many people are sitting in judgment of their relationship, because what would happen if we flashed a spotlight on your personal relationships. many people have also been in relationships that we should have left at the when we got that first sign, however we stayed. I repeat this is Rihanna’s battle to fight and not ours. The one thing that parents can keep doing is to teach their daughters was is acceptable behavior in relationships.

By not surprised

February 28, 2009 7:24 PM | Link to this

Why are people surprised that she went back. Most women who have been abused go back. I also question why people feel like this is setting a bad example for our teen girls?? our children should not be looking up to stars there role models should be there parents. My daughter knows that is a man hits her that she should leave , and never look back. The problem is that even though I have taught her that a man hitting you is not love, how would I feel if she went back to an abuser. I would be mad as hell, and want to have my on justice. The simple issue is that we are human, an Rihanna might leave him in the end, however just not yet. Rihanna has to handle the situation herself. I do however find it funny that so many people are sitting in judgment of their relationship, because what would happen if we flashed a spotlight on your personal relationships. many people have also been in relationships that we should have left at the when we got that first sign, however we stayed. I repeat this is Rihanna’s battle to fight and not ours. The one thing that parents can keep doing is to teach their daughters was is acceptable behavior in relationships.

By JohnD

February 28, 2009 7:31 PM | Link to this

Men that abuse women don’t deserve a second chance. She should dump him right now and press charges.

By elainer7

February 28, 2009 7:43 PM | Link to this

Maybe she likes it.

By Theo

February 28, 2009 7:45 PM | Link to this

Just like a black women,“Drama”- thats what she and many others of her kind like “Losers” (abuser,thugsta, broke man, wannabe’s, dumb man, bitch made man,)*

By and another thing

February 28, 2009 7:45 PM | Link to this

to the “former police officer” i think it’s more common knowledge that blacks don’t trust police and their silly little women are more willing to get abused than turn their man over and face scorn from their community. don’t try to condone abuse and pass it off on STRONG WHITE WOMEN. clown.

By nurse&mother

February 28, 2009 8:00 PM | Link to this

Rob- you make me sick. You try to disguise your true feelings regarding women. Your type is the most dangerous. I’m sure if Rhianna “pushed” Chris’s buttons then she clearly deserved to have the sh*t beat out of her. You are really disgusting!

Kids or no kids, even teenagers know right from wrong MORON!

Angela- I agree with you. We as parents need to do our best to influence our children in a positive way (although this doesn’t guarantee anything-just improves the odds).

I think we as parents need to use this as example of what NOT to do (girl or guy).

By single mother of toddler

February 28, 2009 8:00 PM | Link to this

1 - if she were white, charges would have been pressed 2 - if he were white, rev. al sharpton would be all over this 3 - we have to be mindful that we only know what the media wants us to know 4 - no one knows what really happened 5 - ignorance is color blind 6 - how are we to judge when we don’t know what happened 7 - many women stay with abusers until it’s too late but that doesn’t make it right 8 - if he hits you once, he just might hit you again 9 - you should set an example for your own children and explain the ugliness of the situation to them 10 - people should be quick to listen and slow to speak 11 - Obama and Bush have nothing…should have nothing to do with this blog. 12 - Thanks Tameka for putting Joe in line. His comment should have been deleted 13 - right or wrong, good or bad…it’s a decision with rewards and/or consquences; all of which is based on the truth and this is a truth no one but those involved know

abuse is a real thing. this isn’t a joke. women have been set on fire. women have been paralyzed. women have died. we are daughters, sisters, friends, and mothers.

By nurse&mother

February 28, 2009 8:03 PM | Link to this

I would like to add that abuse crosses all socioeconomic boundaries.

By Babs Dooley

February 28, 2009 8:14 PM | Link to this

Puke……Puke and Puke some more

By disgusted by it all

February 28, 2009 8:17 PM | Link to this

I am disgusted by this whole thing…from the poor behavior of Chris Brown that got him into this mess in the first place to how the media has taken it and ran with it—as usual. If we didn’t allow our children to idolize movie stars, music stars, or sport stars, then we wouldn’t have to worry about the impact on our children when they act badly. And maybe, just maybe, they would learn to behave if we stopped idolizing them; instead, we have have put them on a pedstel and allowed them to get away with accting like spoiled brats. Shame on all of us for allowing them so much power that we have to worry about how they impact our children. Take responsibilty for your children and encourage POSTIVE role models instead of these spoiled brats that we have created.

By nurse&mother

February 28, 2009 8:26 PM | Link to this

Amen Disgusted!

By Dustin

February 28, 2009 8:35 PM | Link to this

It’s her business. If her man made a mistake and she forgives him, then good for her. I wish them both the best. STAND BY YOUR MAN!!! I bet whites would be happier if Rhinna became a lesbian or dated some white guy.

By TJ

February 28, 2009 8:37 PM | Link to this

How is Chris Brown an abuser? Because he hit someone who most likely hit him first? Give me a break! He is a 18 or 19 year old kid who messed up. He was unable to control his emotions or actions after being provoked.

By notaracist

February 28, 2009 8:39 PM | Link to this

I am not surprised that people always bring race into every thing. It is a proven fact that battered women have a tendency to sympathise with their abuser. It has nothing to do with race age religion or other wise, it is simply psychological. They both obiviously need counseling And quite frankly from reading some of these blogs some of you could use some counseling as well.

By WestSider

February 28, 2009 8:39 PM | Link to this

I love all the people on here saying “We shouldn’t be quick to judge” and “We only got one side of the story”

Since when is it ok to assault someone? Ever?

What side of the story do we need to get when it is obvious to anyone with more than a brain-stem that she was beaten to a pulp?

Single mother with a toddler…your post is contradictory drivel. If she were White charges would have been pressed? I think that charges are still possible, but Rhianna is probably not cooperating.

By Lynne

February 28, 2009 8:40 PM | Link to this

Joe and Theo, shouldn’t you be on Stormfront spewing that bull? Or better yet, defending that tramp Pam Anderson who has been hit more times than a baseball at the All-star HR Derby by the likes of Tommie Lee.

By Because It Matters

February 28, 2009 8:44 PM | Link to this

Unless she came at him with a deadly weapon, or he was trying to save a life and she was physically preventing him from doing so, there is no excuse for him to beat her.

Period.

We weren’t there, but I feel fairly certain that neither of these situations arose that night.

People don’t hit each other. Men especially. Real men, no matter race or background, don’t beat and bruise the heck out of women and children. And if you don’t get that you are an enabler.

Chris Brown showed a lack of humanity the same as Vick did in abusing those animals. To me, what Brown did was worse.Brown should go to jail and lose his career. Abusers don’t stop until they are made to stop.

Wife/girlfriend beaters are in the same class as child molesters and rapists.

Those of you who don’t have the character to stand up and say what he did was wrong and are treating this as if all that happened was a bad argument, and a break up only to get back together… Shame On You.

By Rob

February 28, 2009 8:44 PM | Link to this

to JOE…. you’re a friggin’ idiot. To say it is typical behavior of AA’s is about as dumb as your mother and father who probably attended their prom together when they were brother & sister. As a law enforcement official, I’ve been dispatched to numerous dom. violence calls and they were about even. So shut up and continue beating your wife…. I’m sorry…. your sister.

By RainJa

February 28, 2009 8:55 PM | Link to this

Sometimes you just have to break out the Pimp Hand on the b*h. That fact that she’s back with him means she deservered the smacking.

By sapelodawg

February 28, 2009 8:59 PM | Link to this

what is a rihanna?

By Dustin

February 28, 2009 9:00 PM | Link to this

Anyone who has ever dated a Black Woman knows how SOME of them can be. Loud, arrogant, aggressive, etc. I’m sure she provoked him. It was not like she showed up at the door, wearing a thong, smiling, etc. When you hit a man, he may react and hit you back. I’ve smacked a few in my time, and trust me, they deserved it.

By Because It Matters

February 28, 2009 9:01 PM | Link to this

You can tell the people for whom this issue is a joke. If you’ve ever had the occasion to work with, or go to school with, or live next to an abusive household, then I guess this is funny to you.

Joe is obviously a child, no real man fails to take this issue seriously, so stop replying to him. Pray that he matures and that he himself is not an abuser already which would also explain his comments.

By Tiffany

February 28, 2009 9:11 PM | Link to this

This story has really hit home with my family. My daughter is a really big fan of Rhianna and Chris…we are all fans of their music. We were as shocked as anybody to hear that Chris was capable of this. I know, allegedly…but come on - we’ve all seen the pictures, and he is in anger management classes, ect.I have tried to keep most of the bad parts from my daughter, but some stuff she got from seeing it on tv, so I was forced to talk about it with her. I am sorry to hear that Rhianna is going back with Chris…she is a very young woman, and at that age we don’t have the best judgment. It would be in the best interest of Rhianna and Chris to stay away from each other. What I tell my own kids is that if this ever happened to you- to please get out and get way from this person. Someone who would get so violent and lose their self control like that is very likely to do it again. If Rhianna were my daughter I would definitely try to get her out of the relationship. Ultimately she has to make her own decision, and learn for herself…I just pray that she stays safe. I hope Chris is taking the anger management classes seriously, but only time will tell. I will never feel the same way about Chris Brown or his music again.

By Rob

February 28, 2009 9:11 PM | Link to this

I know I’m asking for it when I say this… but here it goes…. You want to know why most women return to the man that may have hit them? It is because she knows that she pushed his buttons.

For the advocates against domestic disputes, this one is for you…. I DON’T CONDONE VIOLENCE IN ANY FORM… real talk!

Back to my point… In most cases, a womans’ strongest asset is her brain. She can recall things at a moments notice. Not to say that a mans mind is not as strong, but c’mon… that is what women always rely on…. Usually during an argument they will recall unrelated stuff and they will use it against him. Most men tend to stick to the subject of the issue at hand… Women are not only capable of that, but they also bring in things that totally have nothing to do with situation at hand.

The reason Rhianna went back to Chris and just like so many other women go back to those guys, is because they know they crossed the line somewhere.

By RainJa

February 28, 2009 9:22 PM | Link to this

Chris will learn not to hit her in the face anymore. He’ll probably learn that putting out cigarettes in her underarm is a more effective way to control the b*h. Also the marks aren’t public.

By Rob

February 28, 2009 9:23 PM | Link to this

I know I’m asking for it when I say this… but here it goes…. You want to know why most women return to the man that may have hit them? It is because she knows that she pushed his buttons. For the advocates against domestic disputes, this one is for you…. I DON’T CONDONE VIOLENCE IN ANY FORM… real talk! Back to my point… In most cases, a womans’ strongest asset is her brain. She can recall things at a moments notice. Not to say that a mans mind is not as strong, but c’mon… that is what women always rely on…. Usually during an argument they will recall unrelated stuff and they will use it against him. Most men tend to stick to the subject of the issue at hand… Women are not only capable of that, but they also bring in things that totally have nothing to do with situation at hand. The reason Rhianna went back to Chris and just like so many other women go back to those guys, is because they know they crossed the line somewhere, and it is their way of apologizing..

By Shaquondia Old Fourth Ward

February 28, 2009 9:25 PM | Link to this

Chris Brown it ok I Shaquondia you’re biggest fan . She get back wit you and you just ignor all the iggnorant haters this is a racist state youll half to excuse everybody. It ok he make up for it and nobody was there and nobody know what happen and nobody cant judge. He be in anger management and the law doesn’t even said he has to yet.

By Tiffany

February 28, 2009 9:34 PM | Link to this

Sorry Rob, but I believe that Rhianna is in love with this man and she has accepted his apology. She really believes him when he tells her it will never happen again. Women are so ready to hope and believe that the man will change his abusive behavior. She thinks everything will be ok once again. For you to make it seem like she was at fault here is total nonsense. Too many abused women are made to feel like they “pushed the wrong button” or “crossed the line” somewhere. To blame the victim is extremely insulting and pathetic.

By mamaj

February 28, 2009 9:34 PM | Link to this

What is disturbing and pathetic is that the AJC would even approve a blog about something that has not even been substantiated in the first place, and cause all of these racist rantings. Ms Giarusso asks, if it is proven that Chris Brown hurt Rhianna, is she setting a bad example for women, and is she sending the wrong message, then has the nerve to say(because it is alleged). Just saying that, was enough to send some of you hate filled people off the edge.Obviously it takes more than just a brain stem to know that photos can be doctored and what you see on just ANY media, is not necessarily what happened. Even if it was proven that what we heard wasn’t true, some of you will still believe it because you want to—sad!

By nurse&mother

February 28, 2009 9:40 PM | Link to this

Theresa- I am a little disappointed that you have allowed some of the comments to stand. Now I know why I haven’t visited the blog for a while now.

Rob, you are not worth my comments. I think you know I’m right, though.

By Rob

February 28, 2009 9:47 PM | Link to this

to TIFFANY… You missed my point. I’m not blaming Rhianna. I’m just pointing out that women are in abundance when this arises. They instantly call themselves the victims. I am merely pointing out through experience as a cop, that both parties typically are culpable. Though they exist, most dom violence cases are not like the movie Sleeping with the Enemy.
All I’m going to do is just respect your POV. We will agree to disagree.

to Nurse&mother…. go fall on something

By Tiffany

February 28, 2009 10:00 PM | Link to this

Rob, yes we will agree to disagree. I think that’s what this blog is for. Yes, there are always two sides to the story if that’s what you mean by your comments.

By Interesting

February 28, 2009 10:01 PM | Link to this

I think that everyone needs to remember that this is an alleged altercation has yet to be proven and he has yet to be charged with anything related to hitting her. I personally think that they were arguing in the car. She continued to nag him and put her hands on him. Her seatbelt wasn’t on. He speed up and then slammed the breaks and SLAM goes Ri Ri and her face into the dashboard. I think that everyone has been so quick to jump on this he abused her bandwagon. Ironically enough I doubt that those of you claiming that he abused her and she was the victim would not be quick to state how WRONG you were when the truth comes out. Thus, he doesn’t need to give an apology for hitting her (he probably is sorry for what happened and that is what he apologized for.) and yes he needed to go to anger management because his anger caused him to slam the breaks and her head/face to meet the dashboard. So I personally don’t feel like they should be together because they are WAY to young to be in such a serious relationship. However, I do believe that thing’s get out of hand sometimes and believe it or not there is always more to the story. Also, I’m sure if they had of waited for her to wash the smeared make-up off her face it wouldn’t of looked so bad in the pictures…but then you guys wouldn’t have anything to Oh my god about then would you?

By Marky

February 28, 2009 10:04 PM | Link to this

If a woman slaps you, you should call the police and have her a* locked up instead of hitting back

By catlady

February 28, 2009 10:05 PM | Link to this

Who are these people and why on earth would anyone care? Folks, your daughter needs to have REAL LIVE examples of the way to live her life, not the cheap, tawdry stories of “celebrities”. Get her involved in real activities and away from whatever medium peddles this (stuff).

And, you adults, good grief! You are keeping up with and debating this couple as though they were really importants. To debate the subject of abuse is one thing; to go on and on about which one of the couple is right or wrong suggests you need to realign your priorities.

You understand, this is just my opinion.

By Interesting

February 28, 2009 10:05 PM | Link to this

I think that everyone needs to remember that this is an alleged altercation has yet to be proven and he has yet to be charged with anything related to hitting her. I personally think that they were arguing in the car. She continued to nag him and put her hands on him. Her seatbelt wasn’t on. He speed up and then slammed the breaks and SLAM goes Ri Ri and her face into the dashboard. I think that everyone has been so quick to jump on this he abused her bandwagon. Ironically enough I doubt that those of you claiming that he abused her and she was the victim would not be quick to state how WRONG you were when the truth comes out. Thus, he doesn’t need to give an apology for hitting her (he probably is sorry for what happened and that is what he apologized for.) and yes he needed to go to anger management because his anger caused him to slam the breaks and her head/face to meet the dashboard. So I personally don’t feel like they should be together because they are WAY to young to be in such a serious relationship. However, I do believe that thing’s get out of hand sometimes and believe it or not there is always more to the story. Also, I’m sure if they had of waited for her to wash the smeared make-up off her face it wouldn’t of looked so bad in the pictures…but then you guys wouldn’t have anything to Oh my god about then would you?

By John Rocker Fan

February 28, 2009 10:08 PM | Link to this

of course the blacks will defend the guy who whipped her butt. they have to “keeps it real” and defend their own… what a sad mindset you people have.

By Tiffany

February 28, 2009 10:17 PM | Link to this

It was reported in the news that there were witnesses to this…those witnesses called the police. They claimed to see CB punching Rhianna in the face, ect.

By Judith

February 28, 2009 10:40 PM | Link to this

Love does mean you can bite someone’s face and beat them up! Get a grip people. What a SHAME!

By atlantapril

February 28, 2009 10:49 PM | Link to this

A bad example - misspelling reconciliation in the title.

By Malika S. Flowers

February 28, 2009 10:59 PM | Link to this

I’d just like to say that first off, I don’t think they got into the major physical fight that many people claim it was. I also think that’s why she took him back, because she knows in her heart that he didn’t really do anything to her. I’m not advocating violence in relationships (quite the opposite actually), but I think people should realize that a situation like their’s is not black and white. Anyway, parents need to talk to their daughters early on to explain what a healthy relationship looks like. I was in a relationship for 10 years that was extremely mentally and emotionally abusive and I didn’t know that until I was out of it and able to reflect on it. When I have a daughter I plan to let her know that a man is not supposed to call her names or put her down in front of her friends or ANY time. Instead of people looking at Rihanna as some time of hero or idol, how about parents talking to their own children to explain what is expected when dating. Rihanna is only a human and I don’t want my children looking up to her or any other celebs, I want to be the one to show and tell her what a healthy relationship is. And when was the last time we saw a celeb couple that was really worth copying? Parents do your own work and stop expecting celebrities to say and do what you’re afraid to say and do.

By Been There

February 28, 2009 11:07 PM | Link to this

This does not go away with a simple I’m sorry. There is a “rush” to the brain that occurs with violence that is like the rush one gets from exercise. It requires a long time to undo that with counseling. He may be “ok” for a while but the cycle will start again. She needs to stay away from him and she needs help and support

By Theresa

February 28, 2009 11:09 PM | Link to this

Hey Nurse and Mother — It’s a hard call on some of the comments to remove them. The AJC wants to let people express their opinions. There are not hard and fast rules and things that I find personally insulting or things that insult friends of mine (which I do consider you a friend) may not necessarily qualify to be removed. I had a few posts that were on the line. I will go back and re-read again to see about pulling some more.

to alantapril — thank you for catching — there’s not a spell check in the headline function and I can’t cut and paste it in because it makes weird marks — thank you for correcting!!

By Cammi317

February 28, 2009 11:11 PM | Link to this

Wow, some really sick and sad individuals posted on this blog today. Domestic violence is nothing to joke about, if someone is getting on your nerves get your butt up and walk away, has nothing to do with color or economic status and nothing to do with Bush or Obama. Yes it’s sad to see someone go back to an abuser (and based on what the media has told us, this seems to be the situation), and I hope that they both get help. However, if your children are looking to “celebrities” as their role models, you have bigger problems than Rhianna and Chris Brown. I have never been in a violent situation, but I know people who have. It’s and ugly cycle and a sad thing to watch. I learned the hard way to just stay out of it, and to only help if and when asked. I don’t ever again want to be accused of being jealous and just wanting to break someone up. They have to leave because they want to and not because you told them. they should.